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  • Hi vicki when should i use a tampon after my first period

    When you feel ready and if your mum is happy for you to do so and you may find our Lil-lets teens tampons are an ideal choice as they are designed for first time users.

  • Any tips on getting over nerves?
    Thanks,
    ๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒž

    Why not read my blog entitled Walk Tall with Confidence and Standing Up For Yourself.

  • Hello Vicki! I am 13 nearly 14 and I have been going out with this boy for 2/3 months. We still haven't kissed yet but we are close. A while ago he texted me saying do you want me to kiss you and I wanted to put yes but that would have just been weird so I didn't reply. I have never kissed someone and I'm really nervous I'll screw everything up! I want him to kiss me not vice versa any advice? ? Love Emily x

    Emily, kissing is a very natural thing to do and when the time is right you will know, so let your boyfriend know that you would prefer for your first kiss to happen naturally rather than being planned.

  • Hi vicky is it true that you have to weigh a certain amount before you can start your period x
    From tiggs

    Hi Tiggs, no, there is no truth to this rumour.

  • Hey vicki, I'm 13 and I started my period back in May and I use pads but I've always wanted to try a tampon to see which is more comfy but I'm too scared to try them in case I put the tamp in the wrong place or I hurt myself whilst trying to put it in๐Ÿ˜ any ideas on what I should do?

    Why not watch our videos on the website they show you how to insert and remove tampons.

  • Why do my nipples go pointy when it's cold. I no this is normal I'm just wondering why it happens ?

    Nipples are very sensitive to temperature and often appear larger or harder when cold.

  • Can sleeping with a bra on affect anything or is it ok???

    This is fine and a personal choice for each of us to make.

  • Part 2:My friends are now saying he likes me and he doesn't deny it. He just goes bright red and looks down smiling.because he doesn't deny it my friends are spreading it round that he does and I have people who I don't talk to asking me about it. A) do you think he likes me? B) how do I stop these rumours?
    Riley ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

    Ignore these comments and people will soon stop when they see no reaction from you and yes this boy may like you, so give him time to work out how he wants to let you know without others pushing him into anything.

  • Hi Vicky
    Part 1: So there's this boy in my maths class. He's fun,friendly, confident and outgoing and I like him.because of seating plans me and some of my "friends" sit near him. He's always talking to me and we can have nice conversations and we've become really close. ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

    See part two.

  • How do u insert a tampon?

    Please watch our videos on the website for all you need to know about inserting and removing a tampon.

  • How much discharge shoukd i get befor my first period love yoy vick pleace awnser my queation i know ur busy but im like dieing xx thanks

    Discharge can vary in both colour, texture and the amount produced and this can vary from day to day so there really is no reason to worry about how much is too much.

  • Okay so this guy I really like is doing my homework (he's in yr 10 and I'm in yr8) I said to him do you want anything in return and me and him are trying to think of something he said it can be anything "funny stupid crazy rude or whatever" and we are really stuck I don't know what to do to repay him and I've had a look on the Internet and it isn't really helping hope you can and this guy knows I like as I told him I did he's 15 and I'm 13 hope you can help
    Starlight101 xxx

    What's wrong with a simple thank you or a chocolate bar. Surely if this boy is helping you he is doing this out of kindness and not for any personal gain.

  • Me and my boyfriend are very close and are both 14 we know we can't have sex but is there an alternative we can do like masturbate on each other? Sorry if inappropriate

    This is also not appropriate behaviour for your age group and it really would be best to be friends maybe with the occasional kiss.

  • Hi u answered a question that I asked I already have breast and the spot/lump is on my nipple part

    Little lumps on the nipple are very common and called Montgomary Glands and are nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Is it ok to put talcum powder on you vagina after a bath like actually on it not around it I thought it was ok because it is gentle and for babies but sometimes it gets a tiny bit sore if I pit too much on what can I do

    There is no need to put any products in or around this area and I would advise simply you pat this area dry with a towel instead of using talc.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 and almost 14. I have had my period for almost 2 years now, and ever since I was 11 I have had a size 32a bra. I am very tall and skinny (I have a fast metabolism). My mum is quite slim and a 36C, sometimes 36D, but she started her period at 14. I always thought that I'd get my mums breast size, but I don't think I will now?

    Breasts continue to develop into our late teens and early twenties so please try not to worry and learn to love your shape no matter what that maybe.

  • Hi
    I had discharge almost 2 years ago in June and then discharge fairly often until another year went by in June again I had 1 day of periods, it is now the March, nearly April since then I have only had regular discharge, when will my period come for sure?! Thanks

    So much help, love this site

    Hi, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is ready and not before so please try not to worry discharge is always a great sign that  your periods are not too far away.

  • i feel like my period will never come, ive had discharge for about 6,7 months now and i have pubic hair but hardly any breasts have developed? do you think it will come soon?

    A  period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8 - 18 and with discharge already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait, so ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • hi vicki, ive had discharge for over a yr now but no period. ive started puberty and all that not so great stuff. im just anxious about my period. im 4 weeks away from bieng 14. i was just wondering if this is normal and why havnt i started yet. oh i forgot. im also bieng tested for underactive thyriod. does this mean anything? thx, c

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so I am sure you will not have much longer to wait  before the arrival of your period. With regard to your thyroid this is a conversation you should have with your doctor when you next visit him.

  • Hi, I'm in year 10 so its a vital year for me and maths is my weakest subject and my class is a group of 12 and have all formed a close bond with our teacher. Now I have just found out we arnt having him anymore cos he needs to teach another group๐Ÿ˜ข we are having this other teacher who is so bad at teaching and can't control the class and we arnt getting our old teacher back! It's really upset us all. How can we get over this and still hopefully get a C grade? ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    I am sure your new teacher is more than capable of teaching you to an acceptable level and you can always ask for extra help in certain areas if you feel you need it.

  • hi Vicki I was just wondering if there was a bathroom pack of the lil lets teens liners because I like to use them everyday but it would be easier if they came un-wrapped aswell
    thankyou x

    At the moment our teens liners only come in pouches, but our adult pads come in a bathroom pack and are available in Poundland and Savers.

  • VIKI HELP i know what discharge is but i had lots of it about a mounth ago but now i dont really have any altough i get like hard bits of it in my hair downthere :/ what dose this mean xx shan

    Hi Shan, discharge often comes and goes and can change in colour and texture, often thick and attaching itself to your pubic hair. Keeping clean is very important during puberty so please ensure you wash daily.

  • My friend is so annoying! Last year me and two other people had a squabble then made up, my friend has just found out about this and not hates me! But we made up so what's her problem?

    Why not ask her why she is so upset, it may be a simple misunderstanding that you can resolve by chatting things over.

  • my period started in November and it comes every couple of weeks nearly the same date everyt ime but its now march and they still haven't came yet and its almost April should I be worried because my has been asking me and I feel embarrassed

    Periods can often be irregular for the first few years with both long and short gaps between each one, so please try not to worry this is all very normal and simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • hi Vicki is it ok to use a panty liner everyday thanks

    Yes this is perfectly acceptable.

  • Hi vicki one day at school (on a non uniform day) this boy who sits next to me said that top makes your boobs look huge you should were that top all the time. It made me feel really uncomfortable and I didn't take my jacket off for the rest of the day. Later on in the week the same boy came up to me and said take ur bra off and I said no. I ran all the way home from the bus stop and I've been avoiding school for 3 days now. Thx for the help danni x๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Danni, this boy's comments were totally inappropriate but they should not stop you from going to school. You can do one of two things; tell your parents and they will speak to the school or next time you see this boy and he makes a comment, let him know you find his comments offensive and walk away.

  • Hi vicki my mum is a bra size dd I'm only 12 and I'm an a will my bra size be around the same as hers when I'm older thx Alisha g x

    Hi Alisha, it may be as we can follow the same pattern as family members but it is not always our mothers so take a look around the rest of your family for ideas.

  • I used to go out with this boy. My best friend then started going out with him. My mum doesn't like him, as he messed me about a bit when I was with him. How could I tell my mum and best friend that I like him?
    Bumble berry xxx

    Hi, if this boy is no dating someone else he is off limits and you should try to move on. If in the future he becomes free you can always get to know him as a friend and invite him to meet your mum every now and then.

  • I'm going to a new school after Easter and I'm kinda worried about
    Finding my way around to all the different lesson blocks

    Don't worry teachers will ensure that you have someone to shadow for the first few days and will understand that all new students need some help for the first few weeks.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am going on holiday soon and will have my period when I am on holiday. Can I go to the doctors and see if try would give me anything to stop it while I am on holiday?
    Love Lola

    Hi Lola, this is a conversation for your mum and doctor but your period should not prevent you from enjoying your holiday and you will find tampons and pads are available to keep you protected whilst away.

  • Hi vicki, I want to know how big my boobs should be, I'm a 12 year old girl and have had my period since I was ten and have been going through puberty for a while, my bra size is currently 34B, is this too big or small??

    Hi, there is no right or wrong size for breasts to be no matter what your age, so please try not to worry or compare your progress to that of others,  we really are all different.

  • Hey,
    I am thinking about getting a Lil Lets Starter Pack. What is in a starter pack?
    (I want to know everything. The amount of each product etc)

    Thanks,
    BananaGaming.
    ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ

    Hi, here are the contents of our Lil-Lets teens starter pack.

    X4 teens day towels

    X2 teens night towels

    X1 teens liners pouch (4 liners)

    X2 regular teens tampons

    X2 regular teens applicator tampons

    A becoming a teen booklet

  • Hi, I'm 17 and im a 34 b. I've read that that is a small/average size but I thought mine looked quite big. But they're not high and pointy like other girls in movies etc they're quite low and my nipples are closer to the bottom so I feel like mine are saggy and im so insecure, can I do anything to make them less saggy?

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and can continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties so please try not to worry about this or compare your progress to that of others, we really are all different.

  • Hi vicky,,I know how to use a tampon but never have, I'm scared something will happen like it will get stuck or hurt, what shall I do??

    Thanks, joelie

    Xxxx

    Like anything new, using tampons can take a little practice and you should remember that millions of women use tampons every day and enjoy the freedom they bring. If inserted correctly you should not feel a tampon at all and there really is no need to worry about tampons getting lost or stuck inside you.

  • Vicki -
    I sometimes get this feeling in the top of my throat that something is stuck but there is nothing there. I don't feel unwell or have a cough. It normally happens when I get worried and when I feel uncomfortable but is that really normal???

    Hi, this is most likely your body reacting to when you feel stressed and is not uncommon, take small sips of water and this will soon stop.

  • Can I ask you this? OK so I seem to have ok self esteem but low confidence. I don't dislike myself. But you know what's odd, I have lowest of the low confidence around people I know best like my parents. It's really bugging me. I don't mind chatting about anything with someone at my work but my parents I don't wanna tell them anything! Like it takes me a HUGE HUGE amount of guts to tell them things like my plans for college.

    Hi, this is not as unusual as you would think as very often we feel people who know us best will judge us, but this should not stop you from sharing your thoughts and ideas with family and if you present enough research and information when you chat to them you will feel more confident.

  • Hey Vicki!

    It's me again! I still haven't told my Mum that I need a bra. Any tips on overcoming the nerves? It's nightime and I want to tell her ASAP so we could go bra shopping or something at the weekend.
    Thanks in advance,
    From,
    Abigail.
    ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿ‘ฉ

    Hi Abigail, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra and how she knew it was time, this should open up the conversation to you and if you now feel ready.

  • Hello ,
    I get white stuff in my pants couple of days before my period is this normally

    Yes this is discharge and nothing to be worried about, it's your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hello ,
    This might be a bit weird but how to I tell my mother I want to shave my legs because she doesn't let me and at school I get bullied for having hairy legs

    Hi, it's  a shame that someone should be unkind to another person just because they have body hair and I would hope you ignore these silly remarks. You may want to share this information with your mum who will decide how to proceed also.

  • Hi, I'm 13 and haven't started my period but I have had all the signs and had discharge for a year and a half now. Lately I have been feeling dizzy just randomly and feeling faint and sometimes shacking a little but not much could this be a sign of my first period? Thx

    Hi, have a chat to your parents as these symptoms are not generally a sign of your period arriving, but could be that you are not eating or drinking enough during the day instead.

  • I have been really struggling to sleep lately and it stresses me out when I have to get up at 4:30 for swim traing. I've only been getting like 5 hours sleep.
    Thanks xxx Mia

    Hi Mia, have a chat to your parents about your schedule and see if getting to bed a little earlier is possible. You may also find my blog entitled Too Tired for School useful too.

  • Is it inappropriate to flirt with a boy when u don't like him in that way. (He flirts with me too and we both know it's just messing about but other people have been teasing me for it)
    Thank you. Taya xxx

    Hi Taya, this really is your decision to make and if both of you understand why you act this way then what others think is unimportant.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 14 and 2 months and I haven't (I don't think) started my period yet but yesterday and today I have noticed a tiny spec of red in my knickers. It's surrounded by a really watery brownish liquid. my mum thinks this could be the start but I just wondered what you think. Is this normal? please help! xx

    Yes I agree with your mum that this may be your first period.

  • Hi so bassicly I have been doing ballet for 8 years now. I'm a bit bored of it and hate it. I want to quit but everytime I feel like approaching my parents I start to cry. I am 14 btw. One of the reasons my parents want me to stick at dancing is that I don't really do any other activity. What can I do thanks Vicky! โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ’—โ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—โ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿ‘Ž

    Hi, lots of teenagers find that their interests change as they enter puberty and I am pretty sure you parents would not want you doing something you no longer enjoy. So why not ask if you can take a break for six months, you never know in that time you may decide you actually miss ballet and want to return.

  • Hey vicki
    I've had this friend for a long time and I started to like him because he was generally sweet but not long ago he done something that really hurt me and since then we haven't been talking and it's awkward I still like him but I don't know if I like him in that way help ? Please xxx

    Why not start by getting back on track as friends, we all make mistakes and I am sure this boy understands that he has hurt your feelings and you can now move on. This will give you time to work out if you have romantic feelings for him or not.

  • Hi , I was just wondering when you are are you period should there be a constant blood flow or can there be gaps? Also when you are not on your period can you wear panty liners everyday
    Thanks xxx๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’™

    Hi, menstrual fluid is not released all in one go and often you will find there are times when no blood is released. And yes pant liners are great to wear on a daily basis and lots of women, including me do this.

  • Hi vicki. I really hate how my ribs stick out a lot more than my boobs. It makes my body look so deformed and childish and im already 13. Will my body keep developing and ever fix this or will i have this childish appearance forever? It's also weird because I have wide(ish) hips but my waist is still wide like a five year old's. It makesme feel insecure because all my friends (even the ones that are less developed) have prettier bodies than me

    Hi, you still have quite a number of years to go before you have reached your final height and shape, so please try not to worry and learn to love your body no matter what its shape.

  • Hi viki I have this spot of lump on my Breast should I tell my mum๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

    This may be your breast bud but if you have any concerns have a chat to your mum I am sure this is all very normal.

  • I'm on my period and tomorrow me and my friends (one is a boy) are going swimming, my parents disagree with me wearing tampons. If i have to cancel my plans how will i tell my friend thats a boy?
    Im 13 and started my period in August 2014 and thats why my mum doesnt want me to wear tampons.
    Please help!

    Hi, you could always tell this boy you have a little cold or upset tummy and feel it may not be wise to go swimming, you could even do something else instead.

  • Hii Vicki, I like this guy but I'm not sure if he likes me back. Everyone says he likes me back, and they tease him about me and he always says stuff like 'shut up' (he knows that I like him by the way) yet he still talks to me and tries getting my attention.. Do you think he likes me? I'm 12 and he's 12 too..
    Leah :)

    Hi Leah, I think he likes you but does not like the attention from others and this must make him feel very uncomfortable, so why not keep your chats low key and ignore any comments other people make.

  • Hi vicki
    Not really a question but oh well
    Theres loads of girls who ask how to tell their mum theyve started heres how i told mine and it was less embarrassing than having to say it:
    So I wrote her a message on my iPad and showed it to her followed by something normal like can we go shopping today and she was fine with it
    Luci

    Hi Luci, great tip.

  • So I really like this guy (G) and we share the same interests and he's really
    Lovely but I don't really talk to him very much
    Do you have any tips on getting to know G ?

    Smile when you see him and if you like the same things talk to him about these things in short conversations until you both feel more comfortable chatting.

  • Hi,
    For a while now I have been feeling really upset and down most of the time. I am very self consious about my body and I dont eat much. I was giving my friends a piggy back and she complained that my hips are very skinny compared to how they used to be. I don't know what to do, do you think I should eat more because I'm scared im getting too thin. Also what's a good way to deal with everything going on? Like I always deal with it the wrong way and I would like a better solution,
    Thankyou

    Hi, sharing your thoughts with family and friends is one of the best ways of dealing with your emotions and I am sure if you let your mum know that you have some concerns about your eating habits she will ensure you get back on track and remain healthy.

  • Hi I have a couple of questions,
    1. I am really scared of my mum, whenever I try to tell her or get anyone else to tell her she will flip at me.
    2.My first period was the first of February, when will it come next?

    Periods can often be irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one and this is very normal. And please don't worry about speaking to your mum as she was once a teenager and will completely understand how you feel.

  • Pt2
    This happens more often now and it usually happens when I'm in front of a lot of people, in a claustrophobic place with loads of people. Also I get them when I think about going on a plane because I'm going on one in the summer & I panic just thinking about it.
    Plz Help๐Ÿ˜”

    Please talk to your parents about this as you would benefit from learning some relaxation techniques.  You might also like to consider learning some yoga.  Your GP will also be able to help you.

  • Pt1
    I don't know what's wrong with me.
    I get really worried and anxious about things, and my head goes fuzzy and it feels like I'm trapped and can't breath. I get really hot & can't think straight & it takes a while to calm down. It's happened a few times before & the last 2 times I fainted.

    Response in part 2.

  • I had my first period 40 days ago and I still haven't had my
    Second one! I'm getting a bit worried...pease help! ๐Ÿ˜”
    Xx juicystar

    Hi Juicystar, try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Next week i am going to centre parks and whilst we are there we do lots of swimming. However, my period has just started to come annualy and it is due the day we arrive at centre parks. What do i do?! Xx Amyy

    Hi Amy, you might like to try using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.

  • I feel really self concious when I stand up in class because I am scared I have leaked straight through my skirt , this has already happened to me because I complete misjudged my flow and leak straight through my pad . I was using a lil lets pad as well . What can I do ?๐Ÿ’Ž

    If you are changing your pad regularly and still finding that you leak, you might like to consider changing your pads to our adult range.  Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night are more absorbent than the best-selling brand so you might like to give them a try. 

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 years old and I'm a 34 aa bra size. Is there any way u can give me a rough answer to how big they will grow to?

    I am afraid not as we re all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are so try to be patient as breast development can continue into a girl's late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi vicki
    My name is ally and I'm 12 years old. I play sports such as Gaelic football and some football. I have had about 7 periods and I really want to start wearing tampons to make it more comfy when I'm playing but my mum gets angry when I bring it up and says I must be older. But it's Soo i uncomfy playing in pads! What can I do to persuade her to let me wear them! Thank u

    Hi Ally, you have to respect your mum's decision on this until she thinks you are old enough.

  • hi Vicki I was just wondering if its normal after your first period to not have one for 2-3 months

    This is perfectly normal as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance fro your regular period.

  • when i was younger i had cancer, now i am 13/14 and have not started my period i really want. are there any aspects of my life that could be effecting the start of my period?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and it is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages.  Please talk to your mum for peace of mind.

  • Is it possible to like two guys at the same time ? Xx

    Yes absolutely.

  • i feel like like im getting lied to alot by my friends what shall i do
    from c

    I think you should ask them why they lie to you.  If they are excluding you from things, this could be considered a form of bullying so please talk to a teacher and your parents about this.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm worried that my period is too heavy. Until recently I'd use about 10-12 tampons each time, although it's not regular. For the last four months, they've suddenly become heavier. I use about 15-18 tampons. Also, I have to change my tampon every two hours or so for the first two days, which is a lot of trouble when I'm out or at school. I have no idea why my periods could have changed so much, but it's bothering me and I've been wondering if there's anything I can do about it.

    You might like to consider changing the absorbency of your tampons.  For some help with this, please take a look at my blog on Understanding tampon absorbencies.

  • How long should a period last for???

    A period usually lasts for between 2-10 days.

  • Hi viki you answered a question of mine and said you didn't know wether my hair was short or long. My hair is medium/long length I have brownish blindfish hair. Any good hairstyles btw its sping question (DBN244) thnx๐Ÿ’•

    In that case, I would stick with the big soft curls for your special night.

  • Hi Vicki OK so I used to get loads of discharge loads I'm not messing but the last 2 or 3 weeks i don't have that much a little bit I haven't had my first period so ?
    Thanks
    Becca xx

    Hi Becca, try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for discharge to vary in amount, colour and consistency.

  • Hi Vicki, im 14 years old and ive been having discharge for over 1 year now but lately when ive gone to the toilet i find brown watery discharge either on my pants or tissue when i wipe! I haven't started my period and I don't knoe what it could be x it doesn't last for long and sometimes it looks a little bit red but goes back to brown x
    Please help!
    Leyla

    Hi Leyla, this is your period so try not to worry, ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki โค
    what is too small a bra size and when do your boobs stop growing? im 17 and still a size 12Aa and im tiny! i hope my boobs grow more but they just don't want to aha and im worried that no one finds me attractive and some boys even call me flat chest and its really affecting my confidence :(
    Courtney :( xxx

    Hi Courtney, try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  Some of us have small breasts whilst others have large but this doesn't define who we are so please try to love your breasts whatever their size.  It is possible to notice breast development up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have time.  Try to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, dance or a sport would be a good place to start.

  • Hi vicki
    So I have been having pain and it makes me not want to eat. I also go white as a ghost when having pains. Would this be a sign of my first period??
    Thanx alot!
    Teigan

    Hi Teigan, it is quite normal to lose your appetite, feel weak and lose your colour with your period but you would usually have been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months beforehand too.  If this isn't the case, please talk to your mum about how you're feeling.

  • Hi vicki xx
    I haven't started my period yet, and i first started to get discharge yesterday.
    However, i was wondering how often i will get discharge (every day, etc.)
    And i was also wondering how long do you think it will be until my first period

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle and it is normal to start your period after releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki, please could you tell me what my bra size is
    Under: 27.5 inches
    On the breast: 31 inches
    P.S. I am wearing a 30B but when I sent in measurements before you said that I was a 32AA but when I try on my 32AA bras they feel too tight on the loosest hook and eye.

    Your bra size is definitely a 32AA with those measurements but when you go bra shopping, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki, what colour is your hair.. Mines dark brown. ๐Ÿ˜‰
    Is Meghan Trainor on your interview list? Can you add her?
    Xxxmuahxxxx! ๐Ÿ’•

    My hair is brown too.  Thank you for your suggestion.  I will pass it on to the team.

  • Hi vicki
    I keep getting pains down there and then I feel sick and sometimes actually be sick. Is that a sign that my period is coming?
    Thanxโค๏ธ

    These could be signs of your period coming but mention it to your mum for peace of mind.

  • Hi vicki. Yesterday my left breast was slightly burning and today it was itching.
    Whats wrong wid me vicki. I am gonna be 13 in june. Pls ans as quickly as possible.
    Thank u
    Janice

    HI Janice, it is normal to notice itchy breasts as the skin is stretched through development and you might find that applying some moisturiser will reduce the itch by keeping the skin hydrated.  Please talk to your mum about this.

  • PART2- NO INVITE ...only a few of there parents have met echother so there going out for dinner bt I wasn't even invited to that meetin so I was not invited coz she hadn't met my parents. I am really shy so I dont wanna ask to go but none of my othr friends have asked me over and I havent askd them over coz I wannna wait till my room is painted. donthey really like me? and I really wanna go, should I ask? or is tht rude? Plz anser this from Eliza

    Hi Eliza, try not to worry and allow yourself some time to settle in and get to know your new friends a little better as I am sure there will be plenty more opportunities to do this kind of thing.  Just be yourself and perhaps consider some ways of giving your self-confidence a boost - joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or sport would be a good place to start.

  • PART1- NO INVITE Im really upset coz im kinda new at school I have been there for about 8 months and one of my frends is having our group over for a sleepover. there will be girls an boys there 1 is her boyfriend but I was not invited.

    Response in part 2.

  • I'm 13 and about 2 yrs younger then the rest of the kids in my year and one of the ony dark skinned girls in the school. I have been told I am pretty beautiful even and I have a really nice personality but no gys will ask me out. I really want a boyfriend but the people are racist not to me directly though. plz help. its so unfair1 thnx for answering my question :) from Taylor

    Hi Taylor, lots of people now wait until their teens or early twenties to date so please try not to worry, some people in their early teens are happy just to be friends.

  • Hiya I've requested some samples but I have not heard anything from you or your team also what do u get in samples and how long do they take to arrive (in the uk) Charl xxxxxx๐Ÿ˜˜ you are so helpful thanks x

    Hi Charl, our sample packs contain teens Day and Night towels, Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator and applicator tampons, liners, wipes, a Becoming a teen booklet and a money-off coupon.  I would allow two weeks to receive your sample from us.

  • Hi Viki
    I recently started to wear a push up bra. I have started my period, I have small boobs and I am 12 (13 in April) is this okay? Will it damage my boobs?
    Thanks, Louiseโค๏ธ

    Hi Louise, wearing a push-up bra should not affect your breasts.


  • am a 32 b / 32 c and going shopping soon . icwant to get some underwierd padded bras instead of cloth and sport bras.
    how would i show my mum i want some because she bought me two sports bras the last time we went shopping. i am 13and how ou supposed to many years are. discharge before your first period because this is my third year. and my mum started at 16 but i dont want to wait that long.
    lastly i want to ask my mum for liners but i am not sure how to ask her or ishe knows what they are

    When you go bra shopping, be sure to try on some different styles of bra that your mum agrees with.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  We don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting so try not to worry.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty herself once so there is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about needing pant liners.

  • Hi Vicki
    The other night I was at. A party and I thought I could trust 2 girls, a guy had told me that he cuts and that he would keep doing it if I didn't go out with him I still said no. I wanted to tell someone to get it of my chest and I thought I could trust them they told him... He doesn't want to talk to me and I kinda made a lie saying I didn't tell them who it was and they musta guessed I have apologised he's still furious understandably what do I do????!

    We live and learn.  You have apologised to this boy and that is really all you can do.  Hopefully, in time he will forgive you and you can be friends.

  • Hi Vicki I have very skinny legs and people always comment about how skinny they are they also look ugly how do i get bigger legs? Thanks!

    We all have something we don't like about our bodies.  Try to remember that you are still going through puberty and during this time, you will notice many physical changes so try to be patient and wait until you have finished developing.

  • Bonjour Vicki! Do you know how to speak any other languages?

    I speak a little French, one of my children is fluent in Spanish, so I may try to learn this one too.

  • Hey Vicki, I am quite small for my age but am tall. You can slightly see my ribs and when i suck in u can clearly see them. I hate this since last year i have ate alot more like HEAPS more but i have hardly changed in my look apart from i have grown taller. How do i get fatter its just not working and people always call me skinny and it makes me sad :/

    We are all made in different shapes and sizes and this is what makes us who we are.  Try to remember that puberty is a time of great physical change so try to be patient and wait until you have finished developing into your grown-up self.

  • Hi Vicki, I was just wondering if you can purposley stretch your hymn so it doesnt hurt when you have intercourse. I heard that for some people it is super painfull like breaking a bone is this true? And would it hurt more for smaller girls? Thanks xx

    The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.  It can easily be stretched back without a girl even realising when she is doing sport, riding a bike or using a tampon. 

  • Hey Vicki. Recently a lot of my friends started getting boyfriends and since then i just thought of how lonely i get and how id like one if he was special, ya know? All of their boyfriends are just making me feel like ill never get one. Im 13 and i know that shouldnt be a big problem at 13 but hey ive been havin crushes since first grade haha. Should i feel lonely? -Daniella

    Hi Daniella, it is normal to feel emotional during your teen years especially if friends are now dating, but it really is important to wait for the right person to come along and lots and lots of people now wait until their late teens or early twenties before dating, so please try not to worry and remember being a teenager should be about having fun with friends, so why not organise some fun activities you can all take part in.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I worked it out and found out my first period was 482 days ago, I had a second one which was a lot heavier a couple days after - but I haven't had one since.I've been having discharge like every single day since then but I feel like after a year of this - I should be menstruating again. Is this normal ?

    So like 1 year 4 months .

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hi I've started puberty ages ago but I haven't started my period yet! I'm 13! I get a lot of yellow and discharge in my pants and it can be quite itchy sometime! I'm really worried and don't know what it is or what to do!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hiya I've asked for some samples. Just wondering what kind of things does it include charl xxxx

    Our sample packs include Lil-Lets teens Day and Night towels, liners, sachet of wipes, teens Regular non-applicator and applicator tampons, a Becoming a teen booklet and a money-off coupon.

  • should you tell a teacher that u get your period in school

    If you experience leakage and need a pad yes but you can easily avoid this by being organised.  If you use pant liners and keep some pads in your school bag, you will be prepared and won't have to tell a teacher.

  • Are your teens freshen up wipes in sachets or in a packet just sold at boots cause I have been looking for a long time now at my local boots and havnt found any and would really like to try them especially the ones in sachets????thanks xx

    Lil-Lets re-sealable wipes can be bought from Asda, Boots, Superdrug or Wilko or if you prefer, you could go online and order from our online shop.

  • Hi I've got an sports award evening with my school and I was wondering if you know any good hairstyles also is it normal to have a clear pee cuz mine is and its yellow pls help๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ˜ฌ thnxs SPRING

    Hi Spring, urine can change colour according to the things we eat and drink so try not to worry.  As I don't know if your hair is long or short, it is difficult for me to suggest a style you might like to try but if you want to do something a little special, try putting some soft, gentle curls in your hair.

  • Hi Vicki I am 16 yrs old and have had discherge for 4 yrs and I have an a size bra cup hair in both armpit and pubic. I would like to know if there is something wrong?? Thank you J

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki. I really need ur help. I'm 12 and there's a guy that i really like but he's 15. By accident I told him that im 14. What shud i do? Im scared to tell him the truth cuz he really likes me!!! Reply ASAP

    You should always be honest so please tell this boy that you like how old you really are.

  • Thank u so much for talking to me about my zayn issues

    Glad to have helped.

  • I'm so scared I accidently took one of my mums birth control pills and I'm 13 and I can't tell her

    Try not to worry but please tell your mum what you did.

  • Hi vicki I've had discharge for about 3 years now. It's really thick and stains my underwear really bad. I have a cup bra, armpit hair, and LOADS of publis hair like 2 inches thick. But I have not gotten my period!!! Is this normal?

    You have noticed many of the normal signs of puberty and as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away now.  If you would like to consider trimming your pubic hair, you could use a wide-toothed comb pressed against your vagina so the pubic hair protrudes through and then simply trim it.

  • Hi Vicki
    Ever since i was about 9 i havent really had any emotions and i dont know why. its as if im in depression but nothing particularly traumatic happned to me then or even in my whole life. i dont know whats happening to me i go out plenty and i have freinds and am often called wierd but never bullied at all so i dont see why there is any reason for me to be like this and i dont get it, please help me!

    Try not to worry as feeling like this isn't you fault as puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls.  This is a time when serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watching funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will help.

  • Hi viki its Jen I am 11 and will be 12 in June I have recently had a tiny bit of crusty ness on my pubic hair but I'm positive IT is not discharge as I have experienced discharge before and the crusty ness is soo different I also wear panti liners but it isn't helping and nor is the freshen up wipes what do I do ??? Xxxx

    Hi Jen, it is normal for discharge to become hard and crusty when it dries out.  Pant liners and Lil-Lets Freshen-Up wipes would easily keep this under control so please persevere with them.

  • Vicki ... I'm 14 and female. I'm panicking! My ipone said WARNING YOU MAY HAVE 3 PORN VIRUSES... And I quickly pressed close and I don't know If it has done anything. i have been reading on the internet that porn websites are the worst place to get a virus and some had to pay over ยฃ100 to get there's fixed. is this true or just a scam?. and I can NOT tell my parents becaus they will be really disappointed in me! What should I do?

    Your parents will be more than happy that you have been honest with them, letting them know you have not been on these sites but that you have heard there is a scam. Alternatively if you are allowed you can visit your local store and ask them to look at your phone.

  • I've been masturbating for about a year and a half now and i do it several times a day everyday, I can't stop, its so addicting, I wanted to know if it could harm me in any way since i've been doing for more than a while now, thanks.

    ANSWER ASAP NOW PLEASE.

    Due to an increase in the activity of sex hormones, it is normal to experience feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.  However, it is important to consider the things that are more important to us in life such as family, friends and school.

  • Hi Vicky I started getting discharge about March time last year and then it just stopped happening at around September time what does this mean am I going to get a period soon ??? Please help xxx Jennifer xxx

    Hi Jennifer, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I am 13 and my vagina hurts a lot. I will feel like I really have to pee but then nothing will come out and it hurts! What do I do?? Also, I have really really long pubic hair, how do I safely get it off?

    As you are experiencing discomfort whilst urinating, I think you might have a urine infection so please ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP about this.  As for your pubic hair, try pressing a wide-toothed comb against your vagina so the pubic hair protrudes through and simply trim it off.

  • Hello
    So I am 14 and my brother is 16. He is autistic and he has his hands in his pants a lot. He also likes to hold my hand a lot and sometimes it. Will feel wet. So if I touch his hand after it was in has pants then go to the bathroom or something could I possibly get pregnant???

    The only way you could possibly become pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male.

  • I have itchy in the vagina parts and I have adverts with a cartoon women feeling itchy in her vagina then it says don't let thrush get you done use ( can't remember name ) this cream ...I am thinking do I have thrush and what is thrush

    Thrush is an infection which is identified by the presence of a thick creamy discharge that ressembles cottage cheese, you would have a swollen irritated vagina and you would experience a burning sensation whilst passing urine.  So if these symptoms aren't present, it is likely that your vaginal itch is caused by pubic hair growth and development.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I think ppl think I'm a slut cause I pout in pics and wear sort of revealing clothes . and I think ppl think I flirt with boys a lot only. Cause I like hanging round with them more than girls and i think boys gf tell them to atay away cause im a slut then boya tell mates and now i cant seem to get a bf .a relashionahip is blooming between me and a b called A but I'm afraid rumors will ruin it any help how can I get a bf

    Hi, why not tell this boy about the rumours, letting him know they are not true and that you simply like boys as friends and are not a flirt, he should then be able to make his own mind up about how he feels about you.

  • Hi Vicki
    These girls who are sort of my friends if think are being a bit mean about me behind my back because I sweat a lot, I have boobs and I am on my period. I have told my mum and she is just giving me awful advice. It is really upsetting. What should I do? Thanks xx :)


    Try to remember that it is perfectly normal to sweat more during puberty so you are not alone in this.  As long as you bathe regularly and use a good anti-perspirant, you should find that your seat will be under control.

  • Hi Viki๐Ÿ‘‹;
    I have been doing some reasearch and according to the good old web, it's common for you get to get stretch marks when you're a teenager, is this true?๐Ÿ˜Œ I have them on be back on my legs and Waist area, they don't bother me too much, but do make me feel very self conscious when wearing shorts or swimming attire. I've been applying bio-oil for some time now but they don't seem to be fading or anything๐Ÿ˜“. (Age 14, I'm 5"4, 7-8 stone๐Ÿ˜š)
    Hope you have a wonderful day! Thanks!
    Verity๐Ÿ’—

    Hi Verity, try not to worry as the majority of teens experience stretch marks to some extent and the thing is that they will naturally fade with time.  For some more help with this, check out my blog on Stretch Marks.

  • Part two of jaz's question:)
    Me and my best freind are both going but our cleverness is completely different, so we are probably in different classes ect... PLEASE do you have any advise on making friends and things like that because as you can see I'm soooooooooo scared! Oh, also my primary school has 60-ish students so it's a MASSIVE step. Thanks soooooooooo much, jaz:)

    Hi Jaz, try to take comfort in the fact that you're not alone as the majority of Primary School leavers are daunted by the prospect of starting Secondary School.  Try to view this as an exciting opportunity to learn lots of new things and to meet lots of new friends.  Try not to put yourself under any pressure and just be you.  You might also like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or sport which will help to boost your self-confidence too.  Good luck.

  • Hi there.
    This might sound crazy, but I'm scared of people. I'm fin with kids under 4 and FRIENDLY adults over 30 but other than that I'm POSITIVELY PETRIFIED. Also teenagers are my worst fear, so the idea of going the secondary school in September is just plain scary.
    Part one of jaz's question:)

    Response in part 2.

  • Hi vicki, me and my friend were both in science and we are on the subject of puberty and child development, she starter to ask me all of these weird questions about pads tampons and what having a period Is like . It is pretty personal though . I understand that she is only looking for advice but it is embarrassing for me because she told everyone about my period ! ๐Ÿ’˜ thanks

    Try not to feel embarrassed as periods are a perfectly natural occurrence in every girl's life so it won't be too long before all of your friends will be experiencing them too.

  • Iv has discharge for quite a few months now and it comes and Gose i was 13 in October 5 2014 is my period close by + I get the pains and really bad mood swings xx

    Thanks Viki
    From Abigail x

    Hi Abigail, it is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.  We recommend that you take some gentle exercise, use a hot water bottle or have a relaxing soak in the bath to soothe your discomfort from stomach cramps.  As for your mood swings, these are all due to your hormones so always keep in mind that they are not your fault.  Remember to talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will make you feel better.

  • hi again, i started my period yesterday and have just been wearing your day time teen pads, do you recommend wearing the night time ones?. also when I have finished my period should I buy and wear some panty liners
    many thanks xxx๐Ÿ˜Š

    Lil-Lets teens Night pads are longer and wider than the Day pads and so aim to provide you with more protection whilst you are sleeping.  Lil-Lets teens Liners are ideal for protecting you not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • does the smell of your discharge vary depending on what you eat?

    Not really, but discharge if mixed with urine, sweat or faeces can be offensive, so please ensure you keep this area very clean on a daily basis.

  • What is a female wet dream? Please awnser Im so scared I had one

    When sexually aroused, it is normal for your body to release a runny discharge so try not to worry.

  • Hello, so around where i live (my town) very close to my house there has been many burglaries day and night all with in 2/3 weeks, loads of valuable stuff has been stolen, cars have been broken in to and I feel really unsafe in my own home, the police are doing their best but its still happening! I'm so scared, how can I reduce my house getting burgled? Any tips? Thank you ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

    You often find that burglaries happen in spates and as a result, I would imagine that your neighbours are all being extra vigilante.  Talk to your parents about how you're feeling as they will be able to reassure you.  I am sure they will be taking extra care that doors and windows are locked when the house is empty and try to take comfort in the fact that the police are also aware of what's happening too.

  • So today my vag was really itchy and later on I looked at it and there was all red botches and a few white dots? Whats happened to me and I don't know if it was because of the knickers I was wearing so I've changed underwear and put some is on it

    It is possible to experience itchiness with pubic hair growth and development so try not to worry.  If the skin is broken from itching, be sure to keep the area clean and apply a little antiseptic.  It should hopefully heal after a couple of days.

  • Do you have to tell someon if you need pantyliners

    The choice is yours.  Lil-Lets teens liners are ideal for protecting your underwear not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hi Vicki, this afternoon had I tiny bit of blood in my knickers, im 13 and almost developed, I have had nothing since apart from the tiniest bit , does this mean anything is it likely I will get more, im a littke scared x

    This is your period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hello,

    I first got discharge (i think) yesterday, and i was womdering how often you get dicharge. Is it the same as a period (every month), or do you get it on a daily basis, etc xx
    Thankyou xx

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • How do your boobs get bigger?

    There is nothing you can do to make your breasts bigger but try to keep in mind that it is possible to notice breast development up until your late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi vicki, my discharge is clear or white is this normal? I am 13/14 at the moment and really want my period is it normal to want it ?

    Discharge is a clear/white mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It is normal to want your period to arrive as many girls consider it a major step into becoming a woman.

  • I started my period last month and I still haven't had this months cycle yet and it's been over a month PLS help xxxxxxx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and tot hen reach a balance for your regular period.

  • You answered my question yesterday about me going to Spain and you told me to took in my hair before leaving the room but won't it come back out when I go in the pool !? โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    Not necessarily, and you can easily tuck it in if it does come out.

  • I suffer from extreme anxiety and depression and I don't think I can cope any more.

    Please speak to your parents, teacher or another trusted adult about these feelings, they will be able to offer you advice and support which will help you manage this time in your life.

  • are you more likely to have heavy periods if they last only 2 or so days?

    Not necessarily.

  • i got my first period yesterday, and there was quite a lot of blood, not just a few drops like most people have described. today, however, i completely soaked 4 pads is this normal for a first time?

    Try not to worry as this is perfectly normal.  You should try to allow some time for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hi vicki, i have been having discharge for around 15 months now, i know you cant say exactly, but when do u think i will sdtart my period considering my sister had hers at 9 and my mum and nan 11. my breasts have been hurting slot lately and i have been very wet "down there" lately. also i feel very emotional and attracted to boys is this normal? i would love if u replied, but i understand u are very busy xxxxxx
    bare in mind i am only 12

    Hi, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait so ensure that from now on you always have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • I just put in my first tampon and it is the second time I have had my period but now I have got swimming and I don't want ennyone to know. The tampon feels really unconfe and I don't know what to do.

    All it takes is a little practice so try not to give up as there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • i have been having discharge for about 15 months now, and i constantly feel wet down at my vagina. i know you cant tell exactly buty roughly could you tell me how long my period should be xx
    thanks vicky, this means alot to me as i am only 12 years old, and also my mum started her period at 11 and my sister at 9, surely i should have started by6 now????? luv u and thi swebsite xx

    Try not to worry as we don't always start our period at the same age as our mums or sisters.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Thank you for the support.

  • I'm 14 and one hip is straight and the other is curved like normal woman hip and the other is like a child's also the straight is the side I sleep on

    If you are worried about this, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi vicki is brown/red discharge normal before your period

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry as it is your period.

  • My bra size is a 30C and I'm getting my first bra on Thursday but my boobs are tiny, they can't be a C!? (I got measured, that's how I know my bra size) three different women measured and they said the same thing. It's defo my size, i Just want to know how. I'm 14๐Ÿ’–

    The best thing to do is to try on bras in different styles and sizes if need be until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi i dont think my question was innopropriate
    The ref was DBM210

    Heres the question i asked not long ago i asked you a question could i be pregent i am and my mum knows and says its up to me what i do in the way of aborsion my bf says to keep it but i dont feel ready to have a child whos chose is it mine or his or both together xxxxxx thanks

    I think that this is something you should discuss with your family and this boy but I do believe that it will ultimately be your decision. 

  • Hi viki I where an underwire bra that's to big for me can this stop the development of my breasts thx charley ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

    Hi Charley, underwired bras will not affect your breast development so try not to worry.

  • Heyyyy!!!
    Can getting punched in the boobs more then once effect the growth o my boobs? i have been hit on my boobs quite a few times, and so has my friend an we were wondering if it can stop out boobs from growing???
    Thank you
    Maddy xxx

    Hi Maddy, if someone is deliberately punching you and your friend in the breasts, they should be stopped as breast development can naturally already be quite painful.  I don't think it would affect your breast development but it could cause  other problems.

  • Hi vicki
    Can u use liners for vaginal discharge and are the lil-lets liners the ones with the pink packs where u get 4 liners in?
    Thanx
    Teigan

    Hi Teigan, Lil-Lets teens Liners are ideal for discharge. 

  • recently I have been getting headaches a lot and my eyes feel really dry and I tried on my friends glasses and I can see better, do you think I need glasses?

    You should ask your mum to book an appointment with an optician to get this checked out.

  • Hi Viki!
    I was wondering how much discharge people usually get because I think I have got it but there is hardly anything there and it smells a bit.

    Please answer asap.

    Everyone is different and it is possible for discharge to vary in amount, consistency and colour throughout your menstrual cycle.  You might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes which will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I have been having discharge for a while and I have just started getting a few brown stains does this mean I have started my period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • hi vicki
    one day i had put a tin of vaseline in my uniform shirt pocket . two boys made comments , not mean but they made an impression . a couple months earlier a boy made a comment , i've had breasts since i was eight and am almost twelve now but i used to think it was a side affect of me being chubby .
    thanks

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  The important thing is that you love your breasts whatever their size.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I've liked my brothers best friend for around 2 years now, I'm 16 and he's 20. In the past few weeks I've spoken to him more often than usual and we get along really well and just have a good laugh, also I've caught him looking at me a fair few times lately..

    I don't know if I should try to get closer to him in that way.. I do really like him, it's just its a bit of an age gap and then there's the fact that he's my brothers best friend.

    Your advice would be so helpful!
    Thanks,
    Emma :)

    Hi Emma, why not just be friends with this boy for now, 4 years is a large gap at your age and I am not sure how your parents or brother would feel about anything other than friendship, so take things slowly for now.

  • Hi vicki ! Can you do a let's talk with : sprinkle of glitter, Tanya burr, Naomi smart and Anna saccone Joly please xx Joanna

    Hi Joanna, thank you for your suggestions.  I will pass them on to the team.

  • Hi, I asked a question the other day (about not know whether to trust my new friend about what she said that my crush likes someone else) I want to tell my crush that I like him but I do not know how to tell him. Please help

    As you want to be sure, tell your crush yourself that you like him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had discharge for 1 year 1/2 now my body has made all its changes but i still haven't started my period do you think i will start soon.

    Thanks Sienna
    xxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Sienna, as you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky
    How do I know if I'm fat? People say I'm not,I have thick legs and thighs but but from waist up I'm skinny,I'm 12 and I feel fat and it makes me upset

    Try to remember that during puberty our bodies change with development.  Hips become wider, breasts become rounder and fuller and legs, arms and facial bones all become longer so try to be patient and wait until you have fully developed into your grown-up self.

  • Hi Vicky
    I don't feel like I have much confidence I feel fat even though everyone says I'm not amd I feel like no boys wet going to like me and sometimes u just feel really sad,do you know how I can raise my confidence?

    Puberty can such a difficult and demanding time for teens when they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once - it's no wonder they can feel stressed and can develop a poor body self-image.  Why not consider joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, dance or a sport as this will help to build your self-confidence and don't forget to talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling too.

  • Hi, i'm 15 and started my period when i was 13/14. Though i am still getting discharge. Its healthy but theres just a lot of it, it will stop when i'm on my period though as soon as i come off it's back again. Its constantly loads. I'm too embarressed to tell anyone else but is this normal? Im fed up of it >,<

    You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I was wondering if it is normal to have headaches whilst showing all signs of my first period arriving soon. Thx!
    Livvy :)

    Hi Livvy, some females do find that they experience headaches around the time that their period is due so try not to worry.  Ask your mum for a painkiller if the pain is too bad.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I asked a guy out and he took a long time to reply, and said no. Then a girl that I thought was my friend asked him out right after that he said yes. Now I am so upset and I don't know what to do.
    If you can, please help
    Xoxo, L

    Try not to worry as you can't help who you are attracted to.  You are still young and will have plenty of opportunities to have boyfriends in the future so please try not to worry.  I would suggest that you try to get to know someone as a friend before you consider asking them out as this will enable you to find out if you both like each other.

  • Hi Vicki. I am 16 and never had a proper boyfriend yet. I have bad social anxiety because I get so incredibly nervous and get embarrassed so easily. I have talked to boys, but only over text, as im not confident enough to go out and see them.People who ive spoken to have stopped speaking because I dont go out and see them. I'm scared of when I actually meet someone I'll be too shy to even speak to them. I tend to overthink about this all the time.. What can I do to build self confidence?

    A good tip is to ask people questions about themselves when you meet them face to face so they do the talking giving you time to relax.

  • Hi, I'm not sure what to do. Last night I had thick brown blood that lasted for 30mins and this morning aswell, it has stopped now. Is this normal and is it my period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am over weight and I really want my period, I'm 13 is my weight possibly effecting when I will start ? I no everyone says its a pain. Is there a way I can make it start and what is the age I should be worried? I have all the symptoms as well !?!?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki.There's this boy in my year who I know quite well and I like him quite a lot and I'm friendly with him. Somehow this rumour has started since I saw him ice skating and the seating plan in class makes me sit near him that he likes me and that we've kissed. I can't walk round the school without people asking me about it and the teachers in class ask me about it. Because we find people asking about it awkward we don't talk as often in public. How do I stop these rumours so we can be friends?
    Thanks

    Try to simply ignore the rumours and continue being friends with this boy.  People will soon stop gossiping if you ignore them.

  • Hey vicki, umm im not sure if you will be able to answer this question but I thought I would ask you just incase. My boyfriend can receive my text messages but he can't receive mine and I'm not sure why. He can call me fine but his messages definitley do not come though to me sorry if you can't answer this I was just wondering if you had any ideas thank you โ˜บ๏ธ X

    It may be that you have inadvertently blocked him on your phone, so why not pop into your local phone store and ask them for some advice.

  • Vicki I appreciate that you have a lot of questions to answer and I respect that you take your own time to help others so thankyou xox my question for you is last month I got a brownish fluid in my pants ,this month around the same time I got it again but it only lasts a day at a time is this my period ?
    Thanks c xx

    Yes this is your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not yellow in colour.

  • hi Vicki im 12 I have a lump really deep in my armpit so it cannot be seen on the outside . it hurts and I just woke up with it yesterday .im really scared.

    Try not to worry and ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • PART 2
    It kinda concerns me cos i was not that popular before i come from the other side of Europe compared to them .what`s got into them ?
    from Wioletta
    Ps. in september were going to high school.

    Hi Wioletta, I can only assume that these girls think that you are more grown-up as your period has arrived before theirs.

  • HI Vicky(part 1)
    OK so my story goes like this:Last year (2014 November) i started my period in the middle of a 5 day residential to London. All the girls started saying things like" your so special"etc .I`m the FIRST girl in my WHOLE school to get it.
    and since then they started treating my like i was the queen or something like that.

    Response in part 2.

  • Im in a group of friends we are the same age and my friend has started her period [my friend and i are really close] and at the same stage of puberty pubic hair, boobs , bras so will that mean i might be starting my period soon?

    We all develop at different rates to each other so you will have to wait and see.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki :)
    I'm 11 and people im my class are talking about periods and stuff and that its stuff that comes out of your fanny and yesterday some gel like it was kind of white and clear abit came out in my knickers! I asked my friends and they said it was but I just wanted a second option :) thank you a lot xoxoxo Quinta

    Hi Quinta, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Yesterday I felt like I was having sex when I wasnt!! Is this normal??!!

    During puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to experience feelings of a sexual nature which is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • Hi vicky! So I had my first period early January but I haven't had it again since. My mum said its normal to not have you second period till later when you first start but I was just wondering when It should go back to normal, thanks!

    Please listen to your mum as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki :)
    I started my period when I was 8 and I became very upset because my friends and I were talking about what age we started (we are 15 now) and they all said like 13 and 14 and then they were really surprised to find i got mine when I was 8 :( they said it could mean something like I have a disease and I should see i doctor ๐Ÿ˜ญ and im super worried xxx thanks sm xx Katie

    Hi Katie, try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their periods as young as the age of 8.

  • hi Vicki, I was due my period seven days ago, but there has been absolutely nothing. I haven't got cramps like normal, and theres been no blood, just really thick creamy discharge. whats wrong?

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hiya vicki how long does it take for the samples to be delivered. Thank you for answering my previous questions xxx charl (I live in the uk)

    Your sample request will usually be processed within 2 weeks.

  • Is there any way I can get my first period faster x

    As periods are a natural occurrence for every girl, there is nothing you can do to make them arrive any quicker.  The best way of knowing when it might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Dear vicki, I have started a 'health kick' which involves eating lots of healthy food, only eating when i'm hungry and going swimming twice a week (that on top of pe twice a week and occasional netball training). i wasnt overweight before I started this but I am wanting to acheive a more athletic phisique. How long do you think it will be before I begin to notice results? thanks xxx p.s I think this site is great ๐Ÿ’• x

    By continuing with what you're doing, I think you will naturally develop into a fit and healthy young lady.

  • I have had my period since I was 13 and now im 15, it's always been really really heavy I have always had to change every hour,but this time I have hardly any blood,is that normal?

    As you've been menstruating for a couple of years, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • Hi vicki, dont want to seem rude but What days and times do you answer questions so when I ask IPP know around what time it will be answered. Thank you isabelle xx

    Hi Isabelle, I answer questions at all times, even weekends.

  • Hey Vicki. During the summer I met this boy and overtime we have been texting because he lives far away. I really like him and he is a nice boy. However he lives so far that my mum would never let me see him. It sucks but I understand her. So instead I would like to FaceTime him but I feel kinda nervous to because I don't want it to get awkward because, for me anyway, I like texting better. Can you give me tips on how to make things less awkward?

    By texting each other, you are getting to know each other better and if this continues, the natural thing to suggest is that you talk to each other on Facetime.  Just relax and be yourself and things will be ok.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is it normal for my period to stop and start within the five days it usually is present ?

    Not at all as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki. I really hate how my ribs stick out a lot more than my boobs. It makes my body look so deformed and childish and im already 13. Will my body keep developing and ever fix this or will i have this childish appearance forever? It's also weird because I have wide(ish) hips but my waist is still wide like a five year old's. It makesme feel insecure because all my friends (even the ones that are less developed) have prettier bodies than me

  • Hi Vicki
    Is it bad to sleep in (sport) bra??

    This really is a personal choice, some girls like to wear a bra whilst sleeping, other prefer to take a break. It will have no impact on breast growth whichever choice you make.

  • Hi Vicki I'm Trinity and I've had discharge for 3 months now also I haven't had it at all this month exepet for one time when I woke up and I was in a puddle of it, is this normal,am I getting my period soon??

    It is perfectly normal for discharge to vary in consistency, amount and colour throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki my boobs always hurt is there anyway I can stop this?

    It is perfectly normal to experience discomfort with breast development so try not to worry.  A soak in a warm bath will help to soothe them.

  • Hey Vicki so I like this guy and my friend asked him out for me but he said that he doesn't know me because we don't have any classes together. Sometimes I see him but he probably doesn't' know that it's me and I'm too shy to tell him so can u plz give me some advice

    Why not try to get to know him as a friend by talking to him?

  • Hi, I'm twelve years old. I've been having vaginal discharge for almost a year now. I have never gotten my period yet and I'm in 7th grade. Every week or so, I notice that I keep getting more and more discharge. Sometimes I see brown spotting, and other times it's like an off-white. What does this mean?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  Discharge is generally a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • hi vicki
    my boyfriend and i, dont seem to be 'cuddly' we rarley hug and have never kissed. how do i let him know i want to do that stuff? ps were both 14:)

    It might be that your boyfriend is a little shy and doesn't feel ready to get that close to you just yet.  Why not talk to him and tell him how you feel.

  • Hi Vicky, im fourteen and my band is 27.5 and my bust is 33, what bra size am I? Currently im wearing a 32 a/b but it's not wide enough at the sides and my breasts bulge out but they don't fill the cup at the front?!

    32A is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • there is a girl in my class who has been mean in the past and i consider her quite full of herself , there is a boy in my class who has an attention dissorder and sometimes speaks in class.one day she was complaining too someone "i wish *so and so* would just shut up " and later "he fancies me so much " she said as he came in the room and heard his name "what" he asked "nothing"she denied . I know he dosent fancy her and she can be horrible to people .please help , i dont want him to get bullied or hurt

    I am sure this boy can look after himself and the teachers will be keeping a close watch on things, so be there with a smile for him when he needs it but otherwise keep out of this matter.

  • Hi !! I'm going on holiday to Spain I'm 3 days and I will be wearing a bikini ... But I'm scared that you will be able to see my pubes . Would you recommend me shaving down there before I go as it does stick out . I have never shaved there before . Thanks โ˜บ๏ธ
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    I would not recommend shaving this area which may leave you sore and with a rash, so consider simply tucking this hair in before leaving your room.

  • hey vicki I've really been struggling with sleep some nights because my neighbors are old and oftenhave their tv uploud. it keeps me up and I've tried everything. ear plugs sleeping the other way round. theyre really nice people but i dnt know how toface the problem without looking rude

    Have a chat to your mum and ask that she has a polite word with them asking that they can keep the noise down after 10pm as you are struggling to sleep, I am sure they will not mind and oblige.

  • hi Vicki
    sometimes my discharge drys and sticks to my liner or knickers and it make me feel horrible . please help
    thanks

    Try wearing pant liners these are great for keeping both you and your underwear clean and fresh.

  • Hi Vicki , I've been using liners for a bit now , sometimes I don't know if its pee or discharge in the liner .
    Thanks
    ps. my discharge is yellow , white or clear and no , I don't wet myself

    Discharge can be yellow, cream or clear with a very light odour, but urine will dry yellow and be quite strong smelling.

  • My period last time was really long it lasted like three weeks is this bad??

    It is not unheard of during your teen years, but if you are at all concerned you should have a chat to your parents who may pop you along to your GP if this continues.

  • when will mine happen ?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and yours will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you.

  • hi vicki i have started my period and dnt noe how to tell my mum ???

    Mums do remember what it was like to be a teenager so why not write her a note, send her a text or simply ask if you can go shopping for some sanitary supplies as your period has arrived, I am sure she will be delighted that you have shared this news with her.

  • I started my period almost a year ago and they have been pretty regular I had it in January but not in February or March it still hasn't come back yet. I haven't had sex either so why haven't I had them for 2 months

    Periods can often have quite long gaps between each one for the first few years and this is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki
    My sister elbowed me in the blood really hard and it still hurts i am scared I am going to get breast cancer however that was a year ago but the same boon is still tender I am so scared?

    Breasts are very often knocked but this does not generally cause any health problems. They can continue to be tender during development and again this is nothing to be worried about.

  • This boy told me he liked me for a year and now he doesn't, he said he was going to ask me out but someone told him I wasn't ready for a boy friend, he is a true gentleman, smart and he always has this nice smile when he sees me, unfortunately back then I wasn't interested in him (when he liked me) but now I think he's lovely and I wouldn't say I'm crushing on him because he can be creepy and a tad sexual but I just feel differently about him now that he told me he used to like me... What should I do?

    It may be that this boy still likes you but is being coy because of your past comment. So smile when you see him and chat so he sees you like him and who knows he may let you know how he truly feels.

  • I'm 13 and have lots of pubic hair on Tuesday I am going bikini shopping with my friend help advice please xxxx

    There is no need to show your friend your entire body when shopping, you can simply go into the changing room alone try on your bikini and then get dressed once you have found the one you like and come out with it. Or if you prefer simply try the top on only and share this with your friend.

  • Hi viki
    Is it true that you have to eat a certain amount to get your period.
    Also what bra size am I
    Under 69
    Over 74
    Thanks
    Tiggs x

    No this is not true. And if you have measured correctly your bra size will be 32AA.

  • Hi Vicki
    I wear underwired bras but the wire sits slightly on my breast tissue at the bottom. Could this be damaging?and if so, what should I do??

    Thanks

    Yes this may damage the breast tissue if they dig into your breasts and it may now be time to remove the wires until your mum takes you shopping for a new bra.

  • I go to an all girls school and I don't have time to do any clubs so how can I meet some boys ?

    There will be plenty of opportunities to meet boys as you get older and do other activities such as going swimming, skating, bowling etc...

  • I hang out with my friends alot and we usually start our periods about the same time, why?

    This is just a coincidence and there is no truth to the myth that friends or work colleagues menstruate at the same times as each other.

  • Hi xxx
    So recently I have been needing the toilet ALOT!! Sometimes I go but I can't and I feel contraption and sometimes I have to go to the toilet multiple times before I can go properly, however other times it is just normal, occasionally I go as usual. Also there has been some low key pain in my bladder/vaginial area.
    Please offer any advice on what to do.
    Thank you.
    --Kay

    Hi Kay, please speak to your parents as you may have a urine infection which can quickly be treated but can  be very uncomfortable if you leave it untreated.

  • But zayn promised us they all did that they wont ever leave like this I cant get over it :(

    Life can change from time to time and things do not always stay the same, so consider the positives both Zayn and 1D will continue to be successful.

  • Hi. I'm thirteen and I feel my mam and dad are so overprotective. I can't go to my friends houses unless my mam has met them. I'm not allowed even a sip of alcohol until I'm 18. All my friends are allowed to do things like going out and having fun and I feel like I'm held back from doing things because my mam hasn't met them. I wish she would listen that I'm not little anymore and she's saying I'm not letting you do whatever you want. I don't want to do whatever I want I just want a bit freedom.๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ๐ŸŒŸ

    Why not compromise and ask if your mum will drop you off and pick you up when friends go out and do things and I am sure in time she will trust you to be sensible, but please remember that her role as your parent is to keep you safe and of course alcohol should not be consumed if you are under the age of 18. You may also find offering to do thing around the house gives the impression of being mature, so tidy your own room, help with dinner, put your own washing away.

  • hi
    I've just got my period and it a redy/brown colour and is a very light flow is this normal
    many thanks xxx

    Yes this is very normal and you may find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid? a useful read.

  • Hi vicki there's this lad and me Nd him have been on and off for about a year now and I found out he was talking to another girl when we had a thing going on, and we have now fallen out and he seems to text me or try get my attention whenever he can but not really in a good way. I don't know what this means but I still have feelings for him but him and this girl are sorta a thing now, I don't know how he feels about me. We have always had a bond. What shall I do

    If this boy is texting you whilst dating someone else then he is not being very fair in my opinion and appears to be a flirt. I would hope that you do not let him take advantage of your good nature if you feel he may simply be using you.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My bust under is 78
    Over is 82
    Thanks Ama

    32A is your size based on these measurements.

  • can you masturbate on your period?

    If you wish.

  • hi vicki, i saw some posts on the internet and it said birth control pills can increase your breast size is that true?

    The contraceptive pill is designed to prevent unwanted pregnancies and is not a breast enhancer.

  • Is it scary when you are on your period

    Your period is a very natural part of being a woman and it should not impact on your day one little bit, especially if you read all the great advice on our website.

  • I have a pimple on my nose and i don't know how to of it p.s. do those period quiz really tell the truth who do i get my period?

    The best way to get rid of a pimple is to keep it clean and leave it alone. As for your period, I do not believe anyone can accurately predict when your period will arrive, it really is a case of being prepared at all times and especially when away from home.

  • I think I have started my period but I'm not sure how to tell my mum thanks xx

    Why not wait and see if any further fluid is released and if this is the case, let your mum know you feel your period has arrived, and don't worry she will understand after all she was once a teenager and had a 'first time' too.

  • Hello ;)

    I have never had discharge or periods before, but today i found a small thin amount of pale-whitish substance in my underwear, it was dry, and about the size of a 50pence piece xx
    Was this discharge. Xx

    Thankyou x

    Hi, yes this was and you may find wearing liners on a regular basis keep you feeling clean and fresh, just like our Lil-Lets teens liners.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I get very bad gooey discharge and it stains my knickers
    My mum says to wear a liner but I don't want to as I don't want to feel more grown-up than other girls in my class and I don't want to tell my teacher as she might not understand.
    Thanks xx

    Discharge is a great way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and you may like to know that lots of girls wear liners to collect discharge, so there really is no need to be embarrassed.

  • Hiya Viki,
    So at the start of march I noticed a little blood. And the other day I had it again but it was heavy and I keep seeing brown in my pants. I have pads etc just in case. Is it my period? I had cramps each time before it happened.
    Thanks x

    Yes this does sound very much like your period and it would be a good idea to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki!!
    I gave the boy I like the note with my phone number one it, (remember me?!!) HE LIKES ME BACK!!! We're meeting up in the holidays, and I'm a bit nervous!! Any tips on first date-first meeting out of school things?? Thank you!!

    Why not read my blog on Top Dating Tips.

  • im 13 and I'm a bra size 28a is that normal?

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age. Breast size is generally genetic so take a look at family members to get an idea of your final size.

  • Hi vicky, are you friends with zoella
    By: Jesslyn

    Hi Jesslyn, no I am not friends with Zoella, but I did get to meet her last year when we were on set for a couple of days, filming our Let's Talk chats; she was lovely and very keen to share her memories of puberty with us for girls just like you to view.

  • I tried to put a tampon when I was on my period but it only went 3/4 of the way in. Why is this ?
    Julie

    Hi Julie, like anything new tampons can take a little practice and it may be that you need to wait a month or two before trying again.

  • Hi vicki๐Ÿ’œ
    So if you like someone how do you flirt on text, and let them know your interested in them? Thanks, it means a lot๐Ÿ‡

    I would imagine if you text this boy and chat to him he will already have an idea that you like him, without any blatant flirting.

  • Hi,
    Ok so how do you start a text convo with I guy you don't know so well? I really want to get to know him but dont know how to! I'm 14 btw, thanks๐Ÿ’œ

    If you have his number then you could simply ask him if it would be ok for you to chat via text sometimes, he will either say yes or no and you can then take it from there.

  • Hi im on the pill and i finshed last Thursday but i havent started again can you tell me why

    This is a conversation you need to have with your GP as there are different types of contraceptive pills that all perform in different ways. The leaflet inside the pack will carry useful information too.

  • Hello, Vicki!
    I have not had my period yet but I have the signs blah blah blah. Recently I have been craving chip shop chips to a serious extent. Is this weird?
    From,
    Abigail.

    P.S- sorry if this is inappropriate.

    Hi Abigail, no this is not weird we all have food cravings from time to time, but please limit the amount of times you enjoy this treat as they are rather greasy and unhealthy.

  • My mum is no longer on her period but wears liners. Why is this

    Your mum may experience discharge still or even have a little stress incontinence, when very small amounts of urine are released throughout the day, this is fairly common for women who have had children. Or she may simply like to keep her underwear clean and herself feeling fresh.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have headache all afternoon. I've been on my ipad, as per usual, and have been wearing my glasses which should stop headaches when I'm using my iPad. I haven't started my period, had discharge for a while and have recently noticed some cramps down there. Is this related to periods or just a cold symptom?

    This is most likely eye strain from spending too much time concentrating on electrical gadgets and I would recommend walking away from your ipad every 20 minutes to avoid headaches.

  • Hi vicki,

    I'm 16 years old and currently been using sanitary towels when I'm on my period. I use them because I've tried using tampons, but never have been able to get the tampon up my vagina. Everytime I try to use a tampon, I tend to shake and get light headed.. Is this normal? And also I can never find the right hole, which might sound weird too. But when I do, all of the tampon doesn't go up, only a small but does. Please help! X

    Hi, just like anything new tampons can take a little practice, so why not wait a few months and try again in the summer.

  • hi vicki
    i am emma, recently with no name i asked u my bra size and u said i was a 32aa but a 32aa is small for me

    Hi Emma then you really should measure yourself again or ask your mum to pop you along to a local store who will measure you there.

  • Hi I'm 12 years old and I am changing fast I want to know roughly to expect a period

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • I am getting white and brown stuff in my pants but don't know if I have started my period

    Brown fluid is often a sign that your period has arrived so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki, sorry if this sounds really weird. The thought of having my first period scares me because I have a phobia of blood and I'm scared that when I first see it im gonna freak out or something. I'm 13 and show many signs of starting soon!! Please help xx

    C x

    The blood you notice when you cut yourself does not always look the same as menstrual fluid and very often the first time you will know your period has arrived is when you see a browny red stain in your underwear. Once you are older and used to your cycle you may even find tampons are a great product to use as they capture the fluid from within and you do not have to see it at all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 71cm under, 84 over what would my bra size be?
    I currently wear crop tops and I'm 11. When do you think it's a good idea to get a first bra? Thanks.

    32B is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hello, is it normal for teens to get sad for a few months? what can I do to help my friends if there going through a tough time and are not as happy ? Thank you for answering my questions x

    Let them know that you are there for them if they need to chat or that you are happy to give them some space to be alone if they feel this is something they need.

  • I haven't got my first period yet, but I've had discharge for maybe a year soon? And I was wondering, is it normal that discharge smell wierd? I'm always a little worried in class that anyone smells it.. I can smell it but I don't know If anyone else does. I don't even know if it's just me or if it really has a wierd smell. Is my period coming soon? Is that it?

    Discharge does have a slight odour that can be made worse if mixed with urine, sweat or faeces, so be sure to keep this area thoroughly clean and consider wearing our liners on a daily basis along with using our wipes during the day and when in school.

  • I used a tampon for the first time. While I was pushing it in it stung a little? Is this normal for the first time?

    It may be that you have stretched your hymen when inserting the tampon. The hymen is a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina and can be stretched during exercise, puberty, sexual intercourse or wearing a tampon and this discomfort should pass very quickly.

  • Hi, In year six I got elbowed really Hard in my right breast eversince my left has carried on growing but my right hasn't, im now 15 and there's a large difference between them both and it's quite sensitive, do you know what could be happening?

    Hi, breasts do get knocked from time to time but this will not have impacted on your development. In fact one breast often grows before the other and even when fully grown no two breasts are ever identical, so please try not to worry.

  • Hello Vicki,

    I'm 16 and ive never took part in any sexual activities, but i do workout sessions like squats and plunges. i do 25 a day, but since i have started, i think it has affected my period as they are always 2-3 weeks late.

    i was expecting my period on the 26th March because i ended on the 26th Feb. But theres no sign of it, what can i do please help me.

    Periods are often irregular with long gaps between each one for the first few years and it is unlikely these delays are caused by exercise, so please try not to worry.

  • i'm getting spots on my back is that ok ?

    This is very normal and using the same facial wash you use on your face will help keep these spots at bay.

  • Hey Vicki, on Thursday I might have one of my friends that's a girl and 2 of my guy friends to watch the season finale of the walking dead and I'm excited cause one of thems my crush but the other one is my friends boyfriend and I don't know iF I bring it up to her that were haning out , I would invite her but she hates the walking dead and zombies and I kinda don't want her to come (she's been a bit moody latley) and I feel kinda awkward having him over without her I'm not sure what to do

    This really is something you will have to think about, if you feel your friend may be offended if you do not invite her, let her know she is more than welcome but that you will be watching this show that you now she does not like, so feel she may be better staying at home and you can catch up later in the week.

  • Hi Vicki my friends boyfriend broke up with her and seemed like he didn't care but she was really sad and im worried about her because she has self harmed and I want to know how to help her because she's one of my best friends
    -Cari

    Hi Cari, let your friend know that you are there to chat if she needs you and then if you can find ways to take her mind off this boy and the break-up.

  • My mum is a size 32b but my sister is like a 34d? How will I know what size I'll be?

    It really is a case of being patient and loving your shape no matter what that maybe.

  • Hi Vicky
    I am meeting up with my boy bff in the Easter hols. I have told my mum that just a few of my girl friends are coming; it is actually me and my boy bff because my girl friends donโ€™t get on well with him. I donโ€™t know how to tell my mum that itโ€™s just me and him without her thinking that we are dating because we arenโ€™t! I thought about telling her that he isnโ€™t coming but I feel bad about lying. I have read all your blogs and found them really helpful- thank you:)๏Š

    Hi, it is always a good idea to tell the truth and let your mum know where you are going and with whom. Yes she may tease you a little but you can always suggest she chats to your friends who will confirm you are just friends.

  • PART THREE(SENDING PICTURES) .......because I don't want to go to prison AndI told my mum and she was really supportive but I just want to know if I will get into trouble or not? (I don't know if he wrote my name down on the list or not because it was like 5 weeks ago and I really regret!!๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ) please help and reassure me as I have anxiety and I dknt want to have a panic attack over it ๐Ÿ’œ

    You can already see how serious sending pictures of an inappropriate nature is considered by the authorities, but as you have not sent him any pictures you have no reason to be worried. Even if they find details of your conversations he will be the one who is in trouble for requesting them and sending pictures of himself.

  • PART TWO OF SENDING PICTURES: .....Wether he has snapsave or not and at school a teacher over heard him saying I have pictures from girls and he had to write down all the names of the girls and hand over his phone๐Ÿ˜ญbut I don't want th police or school to know espically the police as I domy want ....

  • PART ONE: PLEASE ANDWER THIS ITS REALLY IMPROTANT ๐Ÿ˜ญ I'm 14 and ages ago this boy who is 16 was talking to me and was saying I' have a hot body(he's never seen it) and it made me feel special and then he asked for a pic and I said no and then a month ago he started talking again saying stuff about my body and then he sent me a pic and asked me for one and I said no and he asked again and again....

    Hi, please see my response in Part Three.

  • Hey Vicki...

    I am findiing it hard to go to sleep every time I go to sleep. WHy is this happening and does it have anything to do with puberty? *SORRY IF INAPPRORIATE*

    Yes puberty can impact on your sleep pattern and you may find my blog entitled Too Tired for School a useful read.

  • At school there is this boy i really like and its really wired because he said before that he liked another girl but the other day we were playing games in the computer room and later that day he asked my bestie if i liked him. im really nervous and dont know what to do. Help!

    Why not wait and be patient if this boy does like you he will let you know in his own way.

  • I have just started my period and I'm worried that I can't play sports !! Can you play sports on your period or not ๐Ÿ˜ถ

    Yes of course and in fact exercise is great for when on your periods as it will help ease any menstrual cramps.

  • Hey can you interview samantha Womack please xxxxx Mari

    Hi Mari, I will add her to the list.

  • I hate my shape a have a large tummy my thighs are huge but my abs sometimes show
    Help

    As we enter puberty and become young women it is very normal for tummies to become rounder and hips to widen so please try not to worry, you will not be the only one noticing these changes.

  • Hi Vicki
    So my best friend now has a boyfriend and they are so cute together and she always goes on about him but ... It makes me feel really sad that I don't have a boyfriend and I can't get it out of my mind do you know any ways to stop thinking about it
    Alicia xx

    Hi Alicia, have a chat to your friend and let her know that you miss your one on one time together and ask if she can find time for you both to be alone, ensuring she understands that you are more than happy to take a step back when she and her boyfriend need some time alone too.

  • Hey me again
    I was wondering..
    I like this boy at my school (year 7) and he keeps on being rude to me then he says i was his best friend and then im not.
    Help
    what does this all mean

    It could simply mean this boy is struggling with puberty and controlling his moods. But that does not mean he has the right to be rude to you, so next time he is, walk away and tell him to stop speaking to you in the future. He will either apologise or decide to keep his distance.

  • I know its weird but...
    I find it embarrassing to ask my mum to buy new pads for me when i come on.
    Is there any tips you can give me to boost my confidence???

    Why not give your mum a monthly shopping list, including pads, deodorants, shampoo, etc.... Or alternatively you could ask for a monthly allowance if you are allowed to shop with friends.

  • Hi Vicki, I've just turned 12 what bra size am I?
    Under bust: 88cm
    Fullest part of bust: 96cm
    Is this normal for my age
    From Ciara

    Hi Ciara, if you have measured correctly this would make you a 40AA so please ask a parent or friend to remeasure just to be sure you have the tape in the correct position and not twisted.

  • I'm depressed. I can't talk to no one. I cry a lot and my moods don't help that. My friends are not true ones-i know there not- even though I'm a true friend to them. My so called best friend has put me through hell in the past but she thinks that's all forgotten but it's not. I can't tell her anything .... I told her I liked someone she goes and flirts with him in my face even though she doesn't like him and now he likes her instead of me. The thing Is I'm Lonely and sad. No one knows he real me....

    Puberty is a tough time for both boys and girls, finding you have not control over your moods can be very hard to deal with, but it is important to chat things through with someone, a parent, grandparent, aunt or teacher. They may not have the answers but sometimes all you need is to be heard. So why not give it a go.

  • I see a lot of posts about girls saying they are in 'love' but I have always been skeptical about if you can fall in love at my age and I was wondering what your opinion of this was.
    Sparrow 13

    Hi Sparrow, I think love is felt differently for each of us and age has very little to do with it, but that is just my opinion.

  • Hi Vicki
    In an earlier question with someone else I saw the word 'thrush'. What is this?
    Sorry if inappropriate
    Daisyxoxoxoxo

    Hi Daisy, this is a yeast infection often found around the entrance to the vagina and in babies sometimes in the mouth. It is fairly common and very easily treated.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    I have been having. A really itchy vagina and it was for 3 days so 1 day I looked at my privates in the mirror.and I had millions of tiny red spots around my vagina. They went around in a semi circle just above my bum whole then up the sides of my vagina but not all the way up . I STILL HAVE THEM AND THEY ARE SUPER ITCHY. I took some tableta dor raah and itxhing and the itching stooped for 1 day but then carried on HELP what is this plz and shown can I make it go away !!!

    Hi, you may be sensitive to a new toiletry or washing detergent so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for and they will help you further and ensure this irritation is quickly treated.

  • I've been getting extremely moody and rude is there anything like meditation or something to help calm this Thx

    Taking time to think before you speak may be useful, walking away is another tip.  And if you feel meditation will help then consider asking your mum to help you locate some local clubs in your area or reputable cd's you can listen to.

  • Hello!
    It has been a while since I first had what i thought was my first period, but I'm wondering if it even was that, because I haven't had it since. When I had it the first time, it was a brown- slightly reddish- stain on my knickers the next day it was gone. I haven't had it since (this is about two months later). The only other thing I have noticed was a red stain on my knickers but this time is was really red not brown at all. I am really confused. What is going on? HELP!!!

    Hi, both of these marks could be your period as menstrual fluid can be brown or red in colour and I really do not think you have anything to be worried about.

  • I really like this guy, but I never used to. So me and my friend still joke about him and so things like you so like him as a joke. But now I do really like him so how do I tell my friend that I like him.

    If you feel you can trust your friend then I see no reason why you cannot let her know that after all the joking around you actually do find you have feelings for this boy after all. Be sure she will be discreet however if you share this news.

  • Hi,
    Today I was doing my sisters textile homework for her and my mum asked me to do it,then she starts shouting that I'm not doing it fast enough, she called me a load of horrible things. Later on when everything had calmed down I said that she had really hurt me and she said, 'oh get over it you f******* cow' and i said right thanks' and started crying and she called me a s***ty cry baby, what do I do? She won't listen if I tell her how I feel. Sorry if this was inappropriate

    If you cannot resolve this matter with your mother directly, then consider speaking to another family member such as a grandmother or aunt have a chat to them and they can have a quiet word with your mum letting her know how upset you are.

  • Sorry if this is inappropriate ,but I seem to be getting white sticky liquid that comes out of my boob when I squeeze.(by the way it was because it looked different) is this normal??

    Yes this is very normal, especially during breast development but please try not to squeeze this area as you may make it sore. This fluid is caused by fluctuating hormones and will disappear in time.

  • Part 5: By the way, sorry this on is late but i have read all your blogs but none of them help. Please, should i be with E or F and its hard to be with both.

    I see no reason why you should have to choose, if I were you I would make it plain to both of these girls and the rest of your friendship group that you have no intentions of taking sides, that you like them both equally and if they want to continue being your friend then they need to get along when in your company. Let them know that you are not prepared to listen to any unkind remarks from both of them and then stick to your decision being cheerful around them both and doing what makes YOU happy.

  • Hi vicki
    Recently I have been having really bad stomach pains that come and go. One time it got so bad I was in tears. I told my mum and my two sisters about it and they said it might be my period pains and I have had discharge for quite a while now so do you think it is? Thanks x

    I would say this is your reproductive organs maturing, which is a great sign that your period is not too far away. Gentle exercise is generally all that is needed to keep this pain to a minimum.

  • How do I know when I am going to start my period?

    Some girls experience discharge a year or so before their period which is a great sign, but lots of girls have no warning and for this reason it is advisable to keep some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Part 4: Thank you vicky, your opinion matters to me. And another thing, Me J, and F are in the same timetable, like we would all have Maths, whereas E and L are on the other side of the timetable so they'll probably have Languages or Art. Sorry for it to be long.___________________________

  • Part 3: E really gets me and she is nice. But if I'm with F, we laugh alot and have fun but she can be annoying sometimes and she can't keep secrets whereas E can. I don't know who to choose since I like both of them and i've been really upset and deppressed lately. So please can you tell me who to choose and please don't say to follow my heart and all that and that the day will come. By what i've told u, who do u think i should hang out with? but still be friends with the other person?

  • Part 2: and if i'm with E, i feel bad for F. L is always with E and J is always with F, so they've already chosen sides. I don't want to. So i try to be with E one day and F the next but I feel like i'm not that close to either of them anymore because i'm not being loyal like L and J. I'll never be close to them anymore just like how E and L are and how J and F are. I'll never have a best friend because its hard to do this and i want to be loyal. If i;m with E than everything is ok,

  • Part1: Hi Vicky, how are you? Im not good. Thing is,i started a new school in november and i made awesome friends but two of my friends E and F aren't talking to eachother and its been almost 3 weeks. Me and J are really upset because we don't know what to do. They are fighting becuase F couldn't keep E's secret. and its stupid. E said she is happier this way and she is but F said she also is but she seems more upset then usual. I don't wanna choose between them, if i'm with F, i feel bad for E, and

    See my response in Part Five.

  • Hey Vicki, i feel bad because im not rich and im always worrying about it. I keep a grattitude journal and stuff but i still worry please help xxxxxxxxxx

    We are all rich in our own ways, for instance do you have a great group of friends, a loving family....all  of these things make your rich and money simply can't buy them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    There's this boy in school that I really like but he likes my best friend. What do I do! Any advice would help. Thanks!
    Laura xox

    Hi Laura, if this boy has already shown an interest in your friend then you can choose to move on and find someone else or consider getting to know this boy as a friend and be happy that you get to spend time with him on these terms.

  • Hi Vicki
    Me and my BFF just had a fight. I was ignoring her and acting like I hated her but the reason I did this was cus she is always mean to me. She calls me stupid and tells me I'm only good for work . I got angry at her cus she Whent with someone else in pe but that's only cus everyone is choosing others over me and making me feel second best. She is acting like in the only one who did anything wrong but I'm not. What should I do?
    Thnx
    -Cat

    Hi Cat, wait a day or two then ask your friend if you can have a chat, remembering that this means not only telling her how you feel but also listening to how she feels too. Hopefully, together you can agree to continue being friends appreciating that you both have needs and feelings to be considered.

  • I don't know if I've started! I was in the bathroom yesterday and I saw brown/ red in my pants, does this mean I've started, I don't want to ask my mum!

    If you continue to notice more fluid is lost in this area, then yes this could be your period and this is the time you should speak to your mum and share this news with her.

  • Hi vicki I'm 16 can you get thrush from having too much sex? (Xxx)

    In some instances a vaginal infection can be contracted from increased sexual activity.

  • Hi vicki :)
    i have a kinda embarrassing question for you... so i was undressing to go into the shower (last month) and i found a whole bunch of discharge but some was like bright red and some was browny... was this my period? there wasnt anymore after the initial goo aha

    thanks so much xxx C

    Hi C, it may have been  your period as they are often brown in colour and short lasting, for this reason it may be a good idea to keep some pads or liners with you from now on just in case your next one arrives unexpectedly.

     

  • I don't know if I have breast buds or actual breasts, what is the difference? I wear bras though. -S

    Breast buds are the start of breasts tissue, so they are actually one and the same.

  • My friend who I've known for two years has become obsessed with weight and exercise and food. I don't know what this is but she won't stop talking about it all the time. She brings it up whenever there is an opportunity. Is this normal? I'm worried, she is only 14!

    Hi, try to explain to your friend how eating a healthy diet is so important during puberty as so many change are happening and in fact you need extra calories to keep up with all this change.

  • When I was 8 i was raped. I turned 13 about a month ago and I still haven't gotten my period . My breasts aren't very big ethier but I have hair in my public areas. I'm just worried that the rape did something to me and I won't ever get my period.

    Hi, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for your period to arrive, but if you have any concerns you may want to speak to your mum or doctor who will be able to reassure you.

  • The feeling of the pain is like it's burning but stop for a few seconds and then u can feel it I don't if I see a doctor about it or if I should just exercise .If you could please recommend me some exercise to help ease the pain.

    Hi, please speak to your parents and share the symptoms with them, they will then decide how to proceed.

  • The feeling of the pain is like it's burning but stop for a few seconds and then u can feel it I don't if I see a doctor about it or if I should just exercise .If you could please recommend me some exercise to help ease the pain.

    Hi, please speak to your parents and share the symptoms with them, they will then decide how to proceed.

  • Hi Viki,for a few weeks I've had the thigh pain on the inside of my upper leg and also the same pain is on my vagian not inside or anything just on top of we're I shave it.It really hurts and it only happens when I'm sleeping right now I just woke up because it hurt so much it often happens when I need to got to the toilet at night.

    You may be constipated or a urine infection so please have a chat to your parents letting them know about this discomfort when visiting the toilet.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm about 14 and a half now and I am still like completely flat chested. I got my period about 9 months ago and I've have buds and tenderness for almost two years but I still don't even fit into a bra size. My mother was also a late bloomer (about 15 or so) but now she is a 36D. Her mother also had large boobs but on my fathers side there were late bloomers who are still about 34As. Can you predict which side I will take after? If not do you think there's hope for me to get boobs fairly soon?

    It would be impossible for me to predict your final breast size and as breasts can continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties then I see no reason for you to worry too much and finally please remember that all breasts are beautiful no matter what their size.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 13 years old right now and i got my period when i was about 4 months after i turned 11. My bra size is a 32c right now but i normally just where sports bras. I am very thin for my age (93lbs) even though i eat a lot and i am also 5,5. i was just wondering if i am developing at a normal pace and also if your period has anything to do with development

    We are all different and your development seems fine to me.

  • Zayns gone I cant control my self plz help me

    I appreciate that this is quite startling news for fans of 1D, but you can be sure both Zayne and 1D will continue to have successful careers that you can  follow.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Ok so I've been secretly liking dis boy n didn't wanna tell my frann dat I did cuz I was embarrassed to n I juss found out dat she likes him too

    In the end it will this boy who decides who he wants to date and if it is you or your friend I would hope that it will not impact on your friendship.

  • Why is there red and then after not even a day, it's brown? When I wipe it's red. Is it my period? What do I do?

    Yes this is still your period as menstrual fluid can often vary in colour from red to brown.

  • I have a severe fear of becoming fat but I keep eating and I get hungry every hour. Help!!!!!!!
    Thank you X

    During puberty it is very common to feel hungry as your body is working very hard to make the change from child to adult. The trick is to increase the amount of healthy foods such as vegetables, carbohydrates and fruit instead of snacking on sweet treats.

  • When i first started my period i was put on the pill because i was bleeding alot all the time and becoming anemic i have recently stopped taking it as it has slowed down and made my periods regular however it has made my boobs grow faster then they should have and has made me a 36D because of that i now have stretch marks on my boobs which make me terribly self conscious is there any way i can get rid of them xxxxx

    Hi, stretchmarks will fade over time and you can accelerate this process but rubbing in some bio-oil on a daily basis.

  • Does wearing the wrong bra or bra size or something affect the growth of our breasts?

    Hi, not particularly unless of course it is a wired bra and the wires dig into the breast itself, this may cause tenderness and discomfort so be sure your bra fits perfectly if it is underwired.

  • when do your nipples become fully developed also? Mine dont "stick out" all the time... Only when im cold... They aren't inverted but i dunno. So basically my questions are will my breasts keep growing?? And when will my nipples "stick out" like on most every other girl!??? When will i know when my nipples are fully developed, im 16 started prd at 12 & have not seen any changes in my breasts at all :/

    Hi, breasts can continue to develop into our late teens or early twenties an nipples can be the last part of breast development to be noticed. Finally, very often nipples have to be cold to stick out and I doubt you have anything to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki
    im 13 and go to church we recently got a new vicar she has a son who's 12 i wouldn't class him as fit but then hes not really ugly any i don't find him fit but whenever i think of him i cant help but smile and i seem to be getting excited for Sundays cause i might see him Please help do i have a crush on him???????

    Yes it would seem you like this boy, now this may be because he is new and often people are curious about anyone new in their lives. Only time will tell if this crush continues or if you do actually like him.

  • Hi Vicki! I've recently been playing Minecraft a lot and I've met a boy that I really like, and the best thing is he likes me to! He's never sexual with me and he acts normal, but I've been wondering if he's a pedo?

    This question was answered yesterday. So please use our keyword search and enter the word Minecraft.

  • How can I ask out a boy that I have like for about 8 years?
    He always looks at me when he thinks I'm not looking and in class he tries to get my attention. I think he likes me too but if he says no things may be awkward between us. We have been friends for 8 years. Please help!
    From Lucifer

    Hi, if you think this boy likes you then in time he will let you know and there really is no rush at this time to make things official, after all the major part of dating is friendship.

  • Hi vicky!,
    So I have been asking u questions, but it seems that that you have nnot answered them. Im 100% sure they are not inappropriate, so could you explain what inappropriate questions look like? Thanks

    Hi, if a question will cause offense so someone else it will deemed inappropriate.

  • I have really heavy periods I would really like to start using tampons but I've tried inserting one about 8 times now with all different types including the teens Lil Lets ones but every time I try inserting one I can't get it in and it really hurts. What should I do? I really hate using towels they are so uncomfortable. Also at night I have to wear huge night pads and put in an extra two to cover all of my knickers and I still manage to leak. Is this normal?

    Hi, it can take a while to get used to using tampons so please don't stop trying.  Finally, why not try our Lil-lets Freshlock night pads, super comfortable, super absorbent and with a wider section at one end for leakage protection.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 24 years old in a couple of weeks and have just got my second period. I have had to shave my armpits for a few years now. But my breasts are still really small! (32 A) I am quite skinny, will my boobs ever grow?
    Thanks (sorry if this is inappropriate)
    ~Ali

    Hi Ali, why not take a look at family members as breast size is generally genetic.

  • Hi Vicki I was just wondering what sort of time u stop answering questions in the evenings, like past what time is it unlikely your question will be answered until the next day? It would be nice to know so I don't keep checking back constantly

    Hi, it really does depend, I answer questions at all times during the day, evening and weekends.

  • Hey Vicki,
    If I sleep in my wired bra do my boobs stop growing
    Also I would like to know I've had lots of discharge this year and going thought puberty when do you think I will start
    Thanks popcorn ๐Ÿ’–

    Hi Popcorn, it is a personal choice as to whether you wear a bra to bed, but it is important when wearing a wired bra that it fits perfectly with the wires fitting correctly around the bust and not digging in.

  • I have a crush on a guy and today I went to the nurse instead of doing p.e because I have an injury, my new friend told me on text that this boy I like said to her and his friend that he likes a girl (not me) and I don't know whether I can trust want my new friend said because I think it's a coincidence that this happened the same day I told her who I liked and he isn't friends with her so why would he tell her? Please help

    Hi, as this is only hearsay I would say nothing and wait a few days to see if this boy himself confides in you who he likes, but please don't break friends with this girl over a comment.

  • Hello again,
    Basically I got my first period about 48 days ago it lasted abo9 days and was very red
    Anyway I think I got my second one yesterday
    I got reddy brown discharge in the morning but it stopped about an hour later
    Was this my period or not?
    Thanks

    Hi, yes this may still have been your period as very often the colour can be light brown and the amount produced can vary too from period to period.

  • hi vicki
    im emma ,if i wear a 32a padded bra my boobs come out at the top alot andd i measured my self and i was a 32a so what do i do now help me vicki asap

    It may be the style of your bra that does not suit your breasts so consider trying several different styles to find the best fit.

  • hi vicki pls what is my bra size under bust.28 on bust 32 pls i need it asap

    32AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have red hair, like really bright red. I get teased for it, and I have freckles. I get called things like 'ginge', 'ginger','copper','ginger pubes' and sometimes 'ginger girrafe.' I hate it and people who I don't even know in school say it to me. I know you'll say tell a teacher, but is there another way? Thank you.
    P.S I love this website.

    Hi, actually my advice would be to look online at all the beautiful red haired females there are in the world and be proud of your lovely hair colour and ignore and laugh off any teasing by silly people who feel hair colour is something to talk about.

  • Hey it's Sarah again I'm sorry if I'm asking to much questions....
    But is there such thing as delayed puberty? And where would you get padded bikini because I am so small as well which makes me self conscious as well! 4 ft 5๐Ÿ˜”

    Hi Sarah, puberty can arrive later for some girls but this is generally nothing to worry about. As for bikinis, consider padded or halter-neck swimwear which can be very flattering.

  • Hi I have large vaginal Libias and I just wanted to ask if there is anyway of reducing the size of them naturally?

    The vulva can appear different for each of us and during puberty you will see that the labia become larger and change colour as you mature, there is certainly nothing wrong with this or any need to change them.

  • Hey Vicki! I was wondering furthered some kind of booklet or download for growing up or becoming a teen or some thing? Thanks

    Hi, yes you can download or request one of our Becoming a Teen booklets on this website.

  • I have a mentor at school as I'm really struggling with Self Harm but she hardly listens to me.I can tell, because I told her something she would have had to ring my parents again about. How do I ask her to actually listen because I rely on her so much. I can't really get a new mentor since my current one is my tutor as well so I would still have her as my tutor for 2.5 more years. How do I tell her to actually listen to me?

    Hi, let your mentor know that you do not feel she is listening to your comments and ask if maybe it would be better if you had a mentor who was not also your tutor.

  • Hi well after my periods I always have a white like glue in my pants and the problem is that it smells of like cleaning chemicals is this normal ?? And how do I stop the smell Xx??

    This is discharge and when mixed with urine, sweat or faeces it can smell unpleasant and my advice would be to keep this area very clean, washing daily and using possibly a Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipe after visiting the toilet.

  • Hi Vicki, Im 14, I was due to start my period 3 days ago but before it was due I had a brownish discharge, it's 3 days past from when my period was due and im only getting dark brown discharge and its but heavy at all, im really worried as I haven't had any signs of full bleeding and usually I have a flowijg period every single month, if you could explain why it's only dark brown discharge not blood I would appreciate it!

    Hi, menstrual fluid can vary in colour and is often brown, so I feel that this is still your period and you have nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki my me and my friend got in an argument over a guy and now she is really angry at me. Me and the guy are going out now;but I really dont want a boy to get between our friendship.What do you think I should do?

    Wait a few days and then contact your friend letting her know you value her friendship and would hope that she will be happy for you now you are dating this boy and that it will not impact on the time you spend with her.

  • My boyfriend asked me to kiss him yesterday and I said no because we were in school. I really want to kiss him, but I don't feel comfortable doing it infront of everyone. How do I tell him this? Have you got any advice?? ThankYou X

    Explain that you feel kissing is a private matter and as such would prefer not to do it in school with an audience, if he cares for you he will understand. You may also find my blog entitled First Kiss useful too.

  • Hi Vicki
    I had discharge for an awful long time and I'm just wondering ify period is close now . Also I've had the scines for a long time .
    Thank u x
    Heidi

    Hi Heidi, discharge can be experienced for a year or so before the arrival of your first period so please try not to worry, your body will know when the time is right for you.

  • Hi Vicky,
    So there's this boy and I've liked him for about a year and he's known I liked him since a few months ago and he didn't say anything to me so I assumed he didn't like me but now he keeps on staring at me and he's never rude,we don't really speak but he makes me laugh and I make him laugh.do you think he is intrested??

    He may be interested but like most boys he may prefer to keep it on friends only terms just for now, so please don't feel you have to rush into anything or ask him if he wants to date, which may push him away.

  • Hi Vicki,I had sex with my boyfriend days ago,I am not on the pill as we are trying to have a baby..Everything has been on,until I got in the bath and a load of discharge came out of me (normal colour) I have had no pains in my stomach,just wondering what has caused this..Thank you

    Discharge can very often change in colour, texture and the amount produced and this is not generally linked to sexual intercourse.

  • Hi vicki. do you think its necessary to wash hands after itching tha vaginal area or vagina, I mean if I am wearing a leggings and then I itch. I mean its ridiculous cozz my vagina itches a lot at night nd I have to get up nd wash my hands!! Is it necesarry to wash?

    If you do not directly touch your genitals I see no reason to wash your hands every time, however it is important to find out what is causing this irritation so it can be treated.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have been throwing up and had a headache all day and it's making me feel horrible. I don't know what to to with myself. I am so so tired but I can't get to sleep. It's horrible, what should I do?
    Thanks so much xo

    Have a chat to your parents sharing these symptoms with them, there are a lot of viruses around at the moment and of course if you are on your periods and have been wearing a tampon you should share this news with them too as some of these signs can be attributed to TSS.

  • Hi vicki, I want to get my eyebrows shaped and sorted out but I'm too embarrassed to ask my mum, any advice please ?๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    Why not ask if you can have this done together as a mother-daughter treat. It is usually very reasonably priced and may be something she is happy to do and will stop you from doing this yourself which often ends in over plucking or waxing.

  • how old do u have to be to have sex in the USA?

    This can differ by state.

  • What is 'the pill'?

    The pill is a form of contraception, products or tablets that are designed to prevent unwanted pregnancies.

  • Sorry if it is a little inappropriate but I have this strange pain in my vagina, it hurts a lot & I don't know what to do, its like I have a cut there next to the hole where i pee from & when i move in certain ways it hurts. I've had it 3 times a few weeks apart, it usually lasts a few days then it goes away, but it hurts more this time. I told my mum & she said we should go to the doctor but I'm too embarrassed as do you think it could be from masturbating? (I'm 15 & sometimes rub against a pillow)

    It may be from masturbating if you are a little too rough. So why not stop this activity and see if the discomfort goes away.

  • hi Vicki,
    I play minecraft online everyday of the week, And I recently met a boy online
    Hes the same age as me and we have talked for the past 2 weeks, He hasn't said anything sexual or neither asked uncomfortable questions. Everytime we talk to each other we admit getting butterflies in our stomach, Im going to skype him in 2 days, My mums scared incase he is a pedophile, but I know by the way he talks He isnt, Would should I do? I really do love him.

    People can be very clever at pretending to be someone they are not, so if and when you do Skype this boy ask your mum to sit in, maybe not in view of this boy but certainly so she can see if he is indeed who he says he is. Please also check out my blogKeeping Safe in Cyberspace.

  • Hi Vicki, recently I've noticed that every time I stay round my friend's house she has tried to come onto me. She's my best friend and the last thing I'd want to do is hurt her but I'm not interested in her that way. I've tried to avoid sleepovers with her but I don't want to lose her as a friend. Please help!! Thanks for your time xoxo

    Next time you go for a sleepover and she acts inappropriately be firm letting her know that you value her friendship but her behaviour leaves you uncomfortable and if it continues may jeopardise your friendship. I am sure she will be glad you have been honest in this instance.

  • I had my first period Nov last year and just got my second. Is it ok to start wearing tampons? I hate the feeling of pads and feel tapons would be better especially as we're coming into spring/summer and make it easier during PE lessons. I just feel I will prefer them to pads? Can I give them a go?

    Yes, of course. Read the leaflet enclosed within every pack and remember that just like anything new tampons can take a bit of practice to get right.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm 13 and my breasts are so flat I don't even think I'm a bra size and all my friends have way bigger breasts than me and I feel really self concous about it I've been going through puberty for ages but I'm quite naturally skinny does this affect the size of my breats ?

    Hi, being naturally slim does not always mean a petite bust and my advice would be to look at family members who you resemble and see what their sizes are, as your final breast size is generally genetic.

  • Hi viki, I dont know what to do because my best friends boy friend asked her to take a TP (a tit picture) her mum asked her if she has but she said no and I don't want to get her in trouble but I think her mum needs to know HELP WHAT SHOUKD I DO
    Love Eva

    Hi Eva, you do not tell me if your friend actually sent this picture, if she did there is very little you can do now, other than to hope that this boy is discrete and keeps it to himself. Personally, I would ask your friend to urge this boy to remove the picture and let him know that if he shares it with someone else he could be committing a very serious crime.

  • Hello!!!
    Can wearing a bra that leaves red marks stop your boobs form growing?? Thank you :) :)
    Lilly xx

    Hi Lily, no this will not cause any damage or stop growth, but it will feel uncomfortable and indicates you now need to be measured as your breasts may have grown. So show your mum these marks and I am sure she will pop you to the store to purchase a new bra.

  • Hi vicki, my name is Lauryn.so for around a year and a half now I've been getting discharge.but now it smells horrible and I wouldn't like my friends to smell something horrible beacause it's not nice.do you
    know how to get rid of this smell? Thanks

    Hi Lauryn, discharge can often smell offensive when mixed with sweat, urine or faeces, so take the time to wipe from front to back when visiting the toilet, wash this area day and night and consider using liners and wipes on a daily basis.

  • I'm really ugly. I have pimples, a big nose, really huge shoulders but a small body. My teeth are crooked but my orthodontist won't give me braces. Nobody has asked me out and I look at all the other girls my age and they're gourgous. I wear a bit of makeup so I dont look as hideous. What can I do to not look as ugly

    During puberty it is not unusual to feel lacking in confidence and comparing yourselves to others is common. But remember that this is only a short period of time in your life and once your body has full grown you will feel less awkward and self conscious. My tip would be to be nice to yourself, focus on the things you like about your appearance and personality and work on highlighting these.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I have gotten my period for the 3rd time and I decided to try a tampon because I have to go swimming in a couple of days, however when I put it in it felt fine and I didn't feel it during but when it was time to take it out it was painful! So how can I avoid the pain of taking a tampon out?

    P.s. it was a light absorbency and it was in for about 4 hours

    A tampon should be worn for between 4-8 hours and if when you try to remove it, it feels tightly held then it may not have absorbed sufficient menstrual fluid and should be left for a while longer, but never longer than 8 hours.

  • Hi Vicky my under is 27 and my over is about 30 1/2 what is my bust size

    32AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 13 and I've had discharge for about 3 years. You always say around 6-12 months of having discharge you have a good chance of getting your period soon but I've had it for that long and still haven't gotton my period. When do you think it will come?

    Hi, some people get their period after 6-12 months of experiencing discharge, others will have to wait a little longer, so please try not to worry, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and not before.

  • My vagina has a salt and vinegar crisps smell. could there be something wrong?

    It may be that vaginal fluids are being mixed with sweat, urine or faeces and for this reason it is vitally important to keep this area clean. So wipe thoroughly from front to back after visiting the toilet and consider using pant liners and wipes too during the day.

  • Dear Vicki,

    So I just have 2 questions to ask you:

    1. My vag is itching ALOT! So does that mean you period is ending?
    2. My period started for the first time 7 days ago, and I have been bleesing for7 days!! I heard that the average is 3 to 4 days. Should I ask my mom to make an doctor appointment? ?

    From, Acacia โ™ฅโ™ฅ

    Hi Acacia, firstly a period can last for between 2-10 days so there is no need to visit your doctor. With regard to the irritation, this may be caused by the type of sanitary pad you are wearing and you may find the soft covers on the Lil-Lets teens and Freshlock pads are more suitable.

  • My mum started smoking because of me; she told me. And now I feel like it's going to be my fault if she dies of a smoking-related disease. What should I do?

    I am sure this was  comment said in haste and your mum did not mean it. When you get some quiet time, let her know how sad this comment made you feel and I am sure she will reassure you that it was not meant.

  • My be and I have been together for about 3 years, and we used to be so close but now I feel that he dosent really try to make n effort with me and that Im the only one n th relationship who is actually bothering, it's really making me feel really upset as I really really like him and I don't want to dump him, what should I do? Thanks imagirl

    Hi, have a chat to your boyfriend letting him know that you feel you are the only one making the effort and ask if he wants to continue, this should be enough of a wake-up call for him to realise he may risk losing you if he does not make more effort, or you may just find that he no longer feels the same way about you and it is time for you both to go your separate ways.

  • Hi Vicki Im 15 years old and really want to shave but not the hair on my legs and underarms but I'm kinda scared to do it help me please thanks

    -L

    Hi, have a chat to your mum letting her know what you want to do and she will most likely offer you some tips on how to achieve a fuzz and rash free area once you have shaved. Finally, whilst it is common practice to shave the underarms, shaving the arms themselves can leave them looking unsightly so you should avoid this.

  • Hi, so i started my period a few months ago but recently I get like a brown discharge which lasts for a day and then goes this happens around once a month is this normal? Thanks girl13

    This is your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so please try not to worry.

  • My friends are a little but worried about me because when my grandmother died (we where very close) I barely cried at all. When I heard about her death, obviously I was upset and I cried a bit but after that I wasn't upset at all. My friends think I'm just hiding my feelings because it hurts too much but I'm not. I just see death as an inevitable thing. We all get our chance to live and then we die... My gran had a great life and I'm gonna miss her but should I be crying 24/7??

    Hi, no not at all. The impact of someone's passing is individual to each of us and if you have decided to look back on the wonderful life your grandmother had and remember it that way then this is a very positive attitude to have, it does not mean that you don't miss her or that you did not love her, so please do not listen to anyone else and follow your heart on this one. You may also find my blog on dealing with the loss of a loved one useful too.

  • I want to try some samples but how do I get them charl xxxx

    Click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and if you live in the UK complete the form, making sure in the message box you ask for samples and let me know that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request them.

  • I have been to the toilet twice today and the first time I saw a little blood, second time I saw brown stuff is this normal and what could it be?

    This would appear to be your period and don't worry, menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. You may find my blogs entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid? and Your Period is not the end of the story useful to read also.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm 14 and I haven't started my period and I'm still completely flat chested ๐Ÿ˜” my friend was talking to this boy in science and she told me that he was saying I have no boobs and I know I don't but it's still not very nice to be pointed out for it. It's really annoying because all of my other friends who actually have boobs always complain about not having any! I also feel like everyone is staring at that area and it's just stressing me out:(
    Thanks,
    Jess๐ŸŒธ

    Hi Jess, puberty can arrive at different times for each of us and whilst it was unkind of this boy to make these remarks and for your friend to relay they to you, I really would not worry what they think; our bodies continue developing until our late teens or early twenties so you have plenty of time for your final shape to become visible and I hope you will love it whatever it may be.

  • Hello Vicki,

    My mum says i can only wear pads and not tampons. omg im like 18!

    HELP!!!

    Whilst you should always listen to your mums advice it may be that at the age of 18 you are legally able to make your own decisions about sanitary protection so why not have a chat and explain your reasons for wanting to try internal sanitary protection.

  • Hi Vicki! It's Ella. I'm 22 inches under and 45 over. What am I? Thanks!x

    Hi Elly, please measure again either using inches or centimetres.

  • I get my period every 21 days, but its soo heavy, i have to change my pad every hour, and during the night i have to wear 3 thick pads, and i have to get up in the night to change them and put on another 3, any advice? its so heavy its stops me from doing every day activities..:(

    You may find changing brand is good idea and our Lil-Lets Freshlock long and night pads will more than accommodate your flow and can be worn for up to 8 hours. I have an extremely heavy period and they work for me.

  • hi Vicki,
    im 12,I started my period in October 2014, I had chickenpox last week and I was supposed to have my period last week, and it still hasn't come!! is this normal??

    Periods can be irregular for a number of years and as you continue through puberty so please try not to worry, it is unlikely that the Chicken pox has caused this delay.

  • How shall I tell my mum I have a boyfriend?
    Especially as she knows his family really well (for 9 years)

    Why not invite this boy round for dinner one night. I am sure once your mum sees you both together she will put two and two together and work out you are not dating or wish to in the future.

  • I'm sorry if this is inappropriate but what are aids? I'm really confused

    AIDS or Acquired immunodeficiency syndrome is caused by the virus Human immunodeficiency or HIV for short, which destroys the immune system for those that have contracted it making it difficult to fight infections. However, thanks to new medications, someone infected can stay relatively healthy for many years.

  • What happens after the 21-34 days of ur period???

    Why not take a look at our video the Monthly cycle for a clearer explanation of the menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki (nice name btw you'll see why)
    I was walking home from school and I walked past two boys, both of which I know quite well. So I walk past as they chat on the side of the pavement and one of them starts saying that his friend (other boy) wants my big bum. It kinda made me feel uncomfortable. How can I tell him politely to stop calling after me?
    Many thanx from Vicki (now u see)

    Ignore these boys in future and if they continue let them know how childish they are being. But as a general rule if boys see you are not the slightest bit interested they stop quite naturally.

  • I have started sex ed and everytime miss says the word sex my ex boyfriend turns and looks at me! He has a girlfriend and I'm 13 I've never had sex with him? What do you think he is trying to say??? Thank Vicki xo

    I really do not know but as he has a girlfriend I would ignore it and focus on the lesson instead.

  • Hi Vicki! I am the girl who had a club about blocking me. Anyway, I forgot all about the club until recenlt someone in my secondary school joined the club and started blocking me on instagram. I tried everything to forget about it but I end up realizing that I can't forget about it since I just started secondary and the hating will continue. If I am wasting your time, I am really sorry, but while I am writing this I can't see anything coz my eyes are filled with tears

    Try not to worry about others and their views and be the best you can going forward, that really is all any of us can do. In time people will see the real you and forget about any past issues.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have been feeling really sick and tiered recently and it's started to stop me from sleeping so I get even more tiered and I can't focus in class because I am constantly feeling sick and I don't have a clue why

    Have a chat to your parents who may decide to pop you along to your GP for a check-up.

  • Hi Vicki,
    This is very embarrassing but I have recently found hair around my anus. I'm really worried as I don't think you should have hair down there. Please answer this, I don't know what to do!

    Pubic hair can start at the pubic bone and continue to the entrance to the anal passage and this is very normal and very common, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I want to break up with my boyfriend, but he has a lot going on in his life and he is depressed (because his mum died about a year ago). Im worried if I do, I will make him even worse!๐Ÿ’œIm worried about him... But I don't love him anymore... I just wanna be friends... He always is telling me how I am the only one getting him through life๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜–. Please help!

    You are not responsible for the overall happiness of your boyfriend and it is important that you let him know that as time has passed you now feel you are more friends than boyfriend and girlfriend and whilst this may change in the future, for now it may be better for him if you keep things light-hearted from now on. Yes he may be upset, but if you set out times when you will chat and stick to them he will I am sure value your friendship in the long term.

  • what shoul i do plz reply asap i am really upset
    By the way i love this website i think it is great
    I have also been bullied quite a lot recently
    Plz reply asap
    Xxxxx๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ

    Hi, if you are being bullied you really must speak to your parents and teachers about this matter and you may find my blogs on Bullying useful too.

  • Hello,
    Thanks for answering my questions! I have recently started my first period and without your help I wouldn't of been as calm about it. Also, I am getting my bra measurements soon-again, you answered that question for me.

    ~Evie, 11 x

    Hi Evie, you are most welcome.

  • Part two
    really upset coz everyone likes her and she is the centre of attention all rhe time and everyone focuses on her and i also feel that because i jad quite a lot of friends and then introduced them to my other friends they jut left me and now i have no one i feel so alone and depressed i have talked to my mum and aunties amd they are all sympathetic but they say what they would do and i am not like them, what shoul i do plz reply asap

    Rather than focussing on this girl, which can only lead to negative feelings being experienced, take the time to consider how people view you. You may find my blog entitled Walk Tall with Confidence and January Blues useful when approaching others. Finally, whilst I appreciate it's hard when you like someone  romantically but they do not feel the same, it does not mean there is anything wrong with you, it is simply that you are not compatible, but don't worry by chatting to other people you will soon find someone who likes you as much as you like them.

  • Sorry that this isn't about something that important, but my mum keeps promising to go to Sainsbury's and get me towels and liners but then says no at the arranged time. What shall I do.
    Thanks a lot, ems

    Why not have a chat to your mum letting her know how important it is to you to be prepared, if she cannot make it to the shops why not ask if you can request a free sample from me by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page.

  • Part one
    Hi Vicki, so there is this boy at skwl and i really like him but he likes my ex-best friend and today at the swimming gala coz she is really popular everyone was talking to her and leaving me out i felt really alone and upset and to make it worse when he got out the pool i said well done amd stuff like that and he completely ignored me and started talking to her and when she said well done to him he was smiling and blushing and i was

    See my response in Part Two.

  • hi I'm 12 and I've had discharge for about 6 months but I've never gotten my period. I've looked at your discharge page but it didn't really help me with one thing. does having stretchy/gooey discharge mean that my period is coming soon? am I ovulating? how soon will I get my period? I usual have regular discharge that isn't stretchy but it is recently stretchy.

    Discharge can vary from day to day based on the levels of hormones in your body and discharge can last for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period, sometimes longer, so ensure you are prepared from now on by having some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki,
    When I was 12 years and 1 month, I got my first period and for the next few months it was normal. Now I am 13 years and 2 months and my period is coming every two weeks with the same flow as a normal period. I have told my mum so she knows but I don't know what to do. This has been happening for 4-5 months.
    Thanks, Al

    Hi Al, periods can have both long and short gaps between them for the first few years as your body works our the right menstrual cycle just for you. Please try not to worry this should regulate in time.

  • Hi vicky

    So i have this cousin and she really hurts me sometimes by saying stuff.I dont want to talk about it because shes not the talking kind. The stuff she says makes me CRY and i never cry! And people also say that im being pushed over by her and she uses me when all her friends are not her friend. I cant take it any more i dont want to be the pushover. Please help me you give really cool advice!

    Please read my blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself, if your cousin is not comfortable chatting to you about this matter, then see how she feels when you distance yourself from her, choosing to spend time with others, this may lead her to the conclusion that you have feelings that should be considered if she wants to remain close to you.

  • Hi Vicki!

    I am currently in p7 and I am going to a different high school from the rest of my class. The only problem is that the guy I have had a crush on for 4 years is going to a different high school as well. I am about 99% sure he fancies me. He doesn't have a phone or any social media so I don't know how I will keep in touch with him. We are currently really good friends. Thanks cat ๐Ÿฑ xx

    Hi Cat, if you are good friends then consider becoming pen pals and swapping addresses so you can write to each other every month or so.

  • i have started the pill but i started it when i was on my period, will it still work? because i plan to have sex with my boyfriend but he cant use condoms, please tell me if it will still work thanks :)

    This is a conversation you should have with your GP as different brands need to be taken at different times, they will be able to advise you further.

  • So hey vicky
    I live with my grandar and shes really horrible to me she shouts at me and swears and she wont let me make myself anything if shes made something that i dont like i really get upset all the time im getting help for it but shes not i just hate her
    What can i do ?
    Girlcookie

    Puberty can often lead to family arguments and whilst it can be frustrating if you take the time to chat calmly to your grandma you may find you can get along better. Why not offer to cook or help prepare some of your favourite dishes from time to time and accept that there will be occasions when your grandma will offer you food you are not always keen to eat but is nutritious.

  • Just want to know, does cramps mean discharge will start or do u get them when your having discharge and about to menstruate?

    Cramps can come at any time during puberty and are generally caused as your reproductive organs mature or when your period has arrived the muscles surrounding your uterus contract to release menstrual fluid.

  • Hello Vicki, I'm new to this website
    Just asking, my dads mum had her period at the age of 9, my mum had hers at 11
    I'm 10
    When do you think I'll have mine?
    You probably don't know
    I guess you can't predict when I'll have mine
    Just asking
    Thank you

    You're right, no one can predict the start date for your period and we do not all follow the same pattern as family members. However if you have noticed any breast development, pubic or underarm hair or even discharge you may find your period is not too far away.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am a thirteen year old girl and I accidentally stumbled across a porn site and couldn't stop the video playing. Now I feel really dirty and I read somewhere that it is illegal for children to watch porn and my parents could get arrested for not blocking the sites from me. I don't know what to do and I am really scared help!

    Unfortunately pornographic images can often be downloaded even when we are not actively looking for them. There is no need to worry however, but if this site or other inappropriate sites keep popping up have a chat to your parents who will put measures in place to block them in the future.

  • I really want to eat healthy but I can't stop eating junk food

    A couple of tips to help you; drink a glass of water when you feel hunger pangs, go for a walk or even better dance to your favourite tune for 10 minutes. Finally, ask your parents if they can keep any sweet snacks away from you so you can avoid temptation.

  • Ok, so i have a crush on my and my bffs ex i dont know what to do help me??
    so in art today we had a practical (so sir showed us what to do) and a boy called J was touching our bums and our backs so we had to stay behind and speak to the head of my school and now i had ago at J because he was harassing us so now i have to go to my school and not kick off and i still have to say yes or no to F but can u please give me some advice please ---- sophie & megan

    Hi Both, now you have brought the behaviour of this boy to the schools attention I see no reason for you to discuss this matter further, the headmaster will now do this. As for F if you like him and think it will not upset anyone else, then I see no reason why you should not accept his offer.

  • Hi Vicky,

    I've never really asked a question before so I'm going to try because im worried. I am 13, 14 in May had my period for more than a year, my periods stopped a day (on the 5th day) and started again today (on the 6th day) and I googled how long a normal period should be and it came up thatitshoukdnt be longer than 7days, Im worried incase it is, please HELP๐Ÿ˜’


    Lee lee (nickname)

    Hi Lee Lee, welcome to Lil-Lets Becoming a Teen website, in answer to your question a period can last anything from 2-10 days and for the first few years they can be very irregular stopping and starting when you least expect them to.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I recently measured my chest and found that I am 88cm(fullest part of breast) by 85 cm (below breasts). What size am I and how do I tell my mum that I need a bra?

    38AA is your bra size based on these measurements and you may prefer to wear a crop top for a little while as this will offer you support too.

  • What are the different sings when u are getting close to your first ever!! Periods???

    Breast development, pubic and underarm hair and discharge are often noticed a year or two before the arrival or your period, but this is not true for everyone and some girls have no warning that their period is due to arrive, which is why it's a great idea to keep some pads or liners in your school or sports bag, you may even like to purchase our Lil-Lets teens starter pack.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have had my period for about 5 months now and I missed it this month. Is that bad? Please help xx :)

    This is perfectly normal as periods can often be irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one. So please try not to worry and be prepared by having some of our fabulous products with you at all times.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm a girl and i'm nearly 15 and I don't why, my Best friend want to be better than me? She sometimes think she can do better work even know clever than, and she always make me feel useless? What should I do I'm a just normal nice girl?

    Thank You.... P.S I don't know why but people started to use me alot too....

    Stand up for yourself and you may find my blog of the same name a good read. Have a chat to your friend letting her know that you do not appreciate her comments and that this is not how friends support one another, it may be that she does not realise she is doing this and needs someone to bring it to her attention.

  • Hey! I'm going on holiday tomorrow and will be wearing a bikini but I'm worried my pubic hair will show how can I trim it back and be 100% sure nothing is showing I'm really nervous ๐Ÿ˜ช

    If you feel this will leave you feeling less self-conscious yes, or you may even be happy to tuck the hair in when getting dressed.

  • Hello Vicky,
    I had a tiny bit on brown/red in my underwear today, was it mu period, and also, what is the best idea on how to revise for the 20 exams i have coming up after easter (i am 12 and doing end of years fir every subject i take at my grammar school)
    Thanks
    Lily

    Hi Lily, this may be your period and only time will tell if this is the case when more fluid is lost. As for revising, check out our blogs, Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress and Seven Easy Steps for GSCE Studying.

  • My vagina is really uncomfortable, it's really red and I don't know what to do

    You may have an infection or be sensitive to a new toiletry or washing detergent being used, so have a chat to your mum and share this information with her and she will advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki i'm 12 and i recently worked out that my bra size was 30 B but i thought it might be wrong so i went to my 16 yr old sisters room found one of her bras and checked the size 32 B so i checked my bra size again but still the same 30 B . how should i tell my mum that i need a new bra ? also i have had discharge for around 11 months when will i get my period ? xxx

    Hi, if your current bra feels uncomfortable or leaves marks then why not show these marks to your mum. As for your period with discharge already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait until the arrival of your period.

  • Hello Vicki,
    Sorry this question isn't about puberty, but today I had a music exam and had to leave school early. I get a coach back, but obviously today I was at an exam so I couldn't catch the coach back. My long term crush is also on the coach and the only day I wasn't on, he sat with my friend. He barely ever sits with my friend when I am there. How can I stop myself from feeling jealous and why does he not sit with me?
    Thanks, x

    Hi, it may be that he thought your friend needed some company when you were away. You may also want to ask your friend how things went and what they talked about.

  • Hi vicki I have started to have pains does that mean that my period is going to start

    During puberty we often notice tummy or back cramps as our bodies start to mature and they are not always a sign that our period is due any day soon.

  • Hi Vicky, I am 12 and yesterday I got this creamy yellow goo in my underwear, only a little bit though. I have had cramps for ages. Was this my discharge, and how do I deal with it?
    Thanks
    Poppy x

    Hi Poppy, yes this was discharge and may want to ask your mum for some pant liners, but if it does not bother you I would not worry as this fluid easily washes out in the weekly wash.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm 14 coming on 15

    Should I buy stuff now so I'm ready or not and also what stuff do you recommend to beginners xx


    Thank you d.m

    Hi, it's always a good idea to keep some pads or liners with you in preparation for your first period and as you are almost 15 you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal pads a good choice.

  • Hi Vicki
    Recently I have noticed getting short, sharp pains down there. I haven't started my period and i've had discharge for at least 4 months. Is this normal?
    Thanks in advance :)

    Hi, yes this is very normal, just as the rest of your body is growing so will your reproductive organs and they can often cause cramping as this happens.

  • i first got my period in june 2014, but ever since then its been coming like every 2 months, i last had one in decemeber if not before that (cant remember) and now its nearly april!! whats wrong!

    Hi, there really is nothing wrong, periods can be irregular for the first couple of years as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • It really hurts when I put in a tampon. Why is this? I'm swimming all weekend and have a ballet exam tomorow so I have to wear one?!

    Just like anything new using a tampon can take some practice and it's important to ensure the tampon is inserted high inside the vagina to be comfortable, remembering to insert in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine. You may even find our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons are ideal for first time use as they are shorter and narrower than other brands, but still as absorbent.

  • Hi! I am 12 and my boobs are medium size for my age, and i have a little pubic hair. I am going on a big trip over the summer and i really dont want to get my period over or before that. There is a pool and a ton of stuff and idk if a tampon will work is there a way to test that without having my period or a way to prevent getting my period? PLEASE HELP! Thank you!

    Ashley

    Hi Ashley, you should never try using tampons if you are not menstruating and as your period is not yet here I really would not worry too much about its arrival. If you are on holiday and it comes you can simply stay out of the water for a couple of days, there is always plenty of other activities and things to do on vacation.

  • Hi Vicki. I am not sure how to ask my mom for Tampons... I haven't asked her for them yet. I want to try them, but I am scared of what my Mom might think of me for asking. What should I do???
    ~AJ

    Hi AJ, why not let her know that Lil-Lets now do a range of tampons designed for girls and that you would like to try them. You may even want to show her a picture from our website.

  • So last night I think I got my 1st period!! So I went to the loo last night and I wiped and it was definitely blood!! But nothing in my pants and no more this morning. I'm going on holiday on Saturday but was this my period or is it something else cause I've had discahrge since start of February so??

    Charlotte๐Ÿณ

    Hi Charlotte, this could be your period, or if you have been active you may have stretched your hymen, the piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina, if this is the case this is nothing to be worried about and is very common.

  • Hey Viki
    I have been getting discharge for a few months now and only recently it has really slowed down and kind of stoped what dose that mean? ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ฑ

    Discharge often comes and goes and this is quite normal and nothing to be worried about. Discharge is controlled by the level of hormones in your body at any one time so these changes are very common.

  • Hi, Amy here
    Do all girls get period pains?
    Thanks

    Hi Amy, no not at all. In fact a great many females never experience discomfort either before or during their period and for those that do, generally gentle exercise is all that is needed to ease this discomfort.

  • I am seriously scared of heights and I'm going on a school trip for a week and I will have to do mile high absailing. Also, I may be starting period during it. What shall I do?

    If you have a fear of heights speak to your teacher and they will ensure you do not take part in any activity you are not comfortable with.

  • heya
    so recently feel like my boyfriend, is flirting with my BFF. they r really good friends but latley he might b spending more time with her and not me:( what do i do?

    Try to involve yourself in their conversations and spend some time alone with your boyfriend, you will quickly be able to tell if your worries have substance or if you are maybe a little sensitive.

  • Hi Viki๐Ÿ˜Œ;
    I started my period the other day, but it was really heavy, I've been having to change my pads around 5-6 times a day, it's really frustrating and I'm worried there's something wrong with me!๐Ÿ˜“

    Hi, heavy periods are fairly common and you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads are a good choice of sanitary protection going forward.

  • Hey vicki

    Im being lazy for a while (maybe like for half a year since my period and I know that I shouldn't be lazy always but I dont know why nowadays I feel like sleeping more,I feel that my parents are reacting so much for dmall matters, I dont even feel like doing anything and my parents have been telling me to be active. I just can't understand this feeling. Amd is it because of periods?? Jade.

    Hi Jade, this change to your personality and activity is because you are becoming a young woman and experiencing some quite big changes. Why not read our section on Emotions and Feelings, and blogs on Too Tired for School and Puberty and Hormones.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I've just turned 13 and I haven't gotten my period yet. My best friend got it in the summer and she asked when I got mine. I was to emberessed to say that I haven't gotten it yet so I lied and said I got it, the end of summer. Now I have this lie going and ever since then I have to pretend I get my period every month. What do I do?

    Hi, it's a shame you have lied about this but these things happen and you are certainly not the first. As periods are often irregular, if asked again in the future and you do not feel ready to confess, you could simply say yours has not returned and that you know this is very common.

  • Hey, I have been getting discharge in my undies for about a year and a half now. It's kinda uncomfortable and sticky. Should I wear a panty liner? Also should my period be coming soon after 1 1/2 year of discharge?

    If you feel a pant liner will leave you feeling clean and fresh then yes I see no reason why you should not wear one on a daily basis and indeed lots of girls do. I would imagine that if discharge has been noticed for this length of time you may not have much longer to wait for the arrival of your period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had my period for almost a year and I missed a period. Should I go to the doctor

    If you are not sexually active, I really would not worry, periods can often be irregular for a number of years during puberty and adolescence.

  • My friend (not now) has taken something off me and started bullying me, she won't give it back, but I can't buy a new one because my family doesn't have a lot of money, I told my parents, they said they might call her mum but I don't want them to do that because otherwise people might call me a snitch or a gras ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜ข please help

    Tell your friend that you would like your item back and if she refuses it would be wise to let her know that you will know get your parents involved. Because if this was taken without your permission it would be classed as stealing.

  • Mine comes every 28 days then 21 days, never heard of anyone with the same, regular and irregular at the same time I say

    Lots of people find their menstrual cycle is erratic with gaps changing monthly, it's nothing to be worried about and all very normal. Once you period has regulated you can expect to see a menstrual cycle lasting from between 21-34 days.

  • Two months ago I got brownish/reddish stuff in my underwear I think it was my period but I am not sure I haven't had it for two months though so I'm not sure it is my period. I'm 13 and have all signs of puberty and have had discharge for a while but have really small boobs, I still have boobs they're just not big.

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one, so please try not to worry and ensure that from now on you keep some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • I flirt so much! I can't help it When I flirt I don't even mean it I just talk to boys in a different way which according to other people is flirting?! How can I stop myself from being so flirty and encourage boys to flirt bAck.I just act so different because they are boys. Here's some examples:
    A boy I still have a crush on (for 3gears now) I flirt with
    A boy who fancies me but I said no to them I flirt with
    A boy who was pretty much tutors me in physics I flirt with

    Some people naturally flirt, you could take the time to consider what you are going to say in future, almost sense checking what you are saying or doing and how it will be construed by others.

  • I overheard a group of boys in my year (some who I am friends with) talking about sex and big boobs and who they think has the best figure in my year. Then lne of the boys who is my friends boyfriend, started to say that he really wants to start having sex with her because he has "touched" her before.also they all watch pornography. Why do boys always think about sex constantly and stare at girls boobs and bums and always judge them on what they look on the outside?!?

    Puberty is just as tough for boys at it is for girls, they too struggle with new and often confusing emotions and yes whilst I appreciate that often it seems as if they are only interested in sexual matters and how someone looks, I can assure you as they continue to become young men these things will matter less and forming a relationship will become as important to them as it is to females. Check out my blog Boys and Puberty for more on this subject.

  • I get emotionally attached to fictional characters and then mourn their deaths. It's torn my life apart.
    Why do I prefer reading about fictional people rather than hanging out with real people?
    Am I just an introvert?
    Will this pass or will I be forever alone
    From a certain Bookworm
    Xx

    It's great to read books and become involved with their stories but they are just that stories and whether they are based on fiction or real life events they are designed to inform and entertain, so please try to bear this in mind when you next read a book. Finally, spending time along reading is great but like everything a balance has to be found, so please get involved with after school clubs or simply spending time with friends and family, they too can be informative and entertaining if you give them the chance.

  • Hi, i have a peg tooth and its really embarrassing. I think i am getting a crown. Does it hurt to get a crown?

    Modern dentistry ensure that no one experiences any unnecessary discomfort when having treatment so have a chat to your dentist during your next visit and he will talk through the process.

  • I get annoyed at my friends at school because in lessons they are always messing about. They can spend half the lesson working and I can spend the whole lesson working and we still end up at the same question. I feel like it's unfair that some people understand maths so easily and I have to work really hard to get good results. In exams and stuff, we normally get around the same mark, I just have to put more effort into it. I'm not really asking for advice, I just wanted to get that out.
    Xx

    Hi, it's always good to vent out any frustration and I do understand how you feel, Maths has always been a struggle for me too and I often marvelled at friends who could work out equations that left me completely bemused. Remember it would not do for us all to be good at the same thing and I am sure there are other subjecst to which you excel.

  • I think there is something wrong with my vagina it has like really long lobes hanging down and I'm really embarrassed (im 13 and I masterbate do u think that has anything to do with it or if it's serious, thanks..katrina xx and also I started my period a month and 5 days but I still haven't had another one

    Hi Katrina, as you enter puberty you will notice a great change to the shape, colour and size of your vulva and this is very normal and is nothing to do with masturbation. It is also true that no two vaginas will ever look the same so please try not to worry, you may also find my blog on the Reproductive System useful too. Part One & Part Two.

  • What is our purpous here on this planet? Is it all just a cosmic coincidence or is there a greater metaethical purpose to life? I mean, simple ontological reductionism is clearly a fallacious argument, but I can't stop thinking about it!!! I can't sleep, I can't concentrate until I've figured it out. All my friends are just worried about getting boyfriends but I keep torturing myself with impossible questions and not being able to rest until I have come up with a suitable answer.
    Elsbeth

    Elsbeth, as you enter puberty you will find yourself questioning a great many things and by researching you will most likely reach your own conclusion on these matters or find in time your views change based on new information you are exposed to. It may not be mine or anyone else's view and our interpretation of life and all that it encompasses is what makes us unique and forms who we are as individuals.

  • hi Vicky
    I was due my period 3 days ago and it hasn't come. i'm really worried. I had cramps 2 days ago, but that's it. help please!

    The menstrual cycle can vary from between 21-34 days and for the first few years they can be very irregular with gaps of several months between each one, so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki I am just asking a question about tampons
    I have had my period for about 4 months now
    And I find it really un comfortable to wear pads
    I really want to try a tampon but I am scared
    Of inserting it and if it will hurt please help me
    Thankyou

    Just like anything new tampons can take a little practice but if inserted correctly you should not be able to feel them at all and you may find our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons are ideal for your first choice as they are shorter and narrower than other brands but just as absorbent.

  • hi vikki!
    everytime I shave under my arms they go really red and itchy, and the skin always looks quite dark. The hairs usually grow back in 2-3 days. is there a way i can stop the iratation?
    Em x

    Hi Em, using a clean and sharp razor and plenty of shaving foam can help. Remember to not go over the same area more than once as this too can lead to irritation.

  • Hi I'm 12 nearly 13 and I am a 32A
    Is that the right size for my age cause quite
    A lot of my friends are a 34D or 34C I am just
    Worried my boobs are not growing enough ??
    THANKYOU x x

    As you can see by chatting to friends there really is no right or wrong size for breasts to be at any age, it really is about loving your shape and being happy with what you have.

  • Hey vicky
    So i really like this boy and we always talk about like relationships and hes actually really nice although he doesnt know i like him and he jokes on like im one of his freinds and it kinda hurts me because he jokes about it all but i truely have feelings for him i dont know how to tell him i like him xx
    Thanks annalise

    Hi Annalise, I am sure the more you hang around with this boy the clearer it will become to him that you like him more than as just a friend, so please try not to worry or feel you have to declare your affection for him just yet.

  • Hi Vicki
    What is menopause?
    Thanks from Sapphire

    Hi Sapphire, the menopause is the time in a woman's life when she no longer has a period and is there unable to have children. It usually occurs in a woman's 50's.

  • Hi I'm ruby I'm 11 I'm not sure about my bra I am a 27inches under bust and 31 inches on bust different websites say different sizes please help thanks

    Hi Ruby, 32AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • I started my period two months ago I went on really light for a day and then it got heavier but I haven't been on since did I start my period or was I just getting discharge ... But I've got really bad pains in my left side does this mean something ..PLEASE HELP ๐Ÿ˜ž

    This is almost certainly your period and the discomfort you are experiencing may be the muscles surrounding your uterus as they contract to release menstrual fluid.

  • At Easter my family are going to my Gran's for a few nights. My period is due then. I've had 11 (all regular), but I only told my mum last week. She got me a starter pack. I want to try tampons as soon as possible so I'll be ready to use them during my residential trip in August, which I asked about in another question. It'll be embarrassing throwing them away at my Gran's house. There's no other way I can dispose of them (I'll use pads at night). Also, I want to try tampons at home, not anywhere else.

    Pads and tampons are great for any situation and can be wrapped up and disposed of with normal household rubbish, so why not take a little pack of products with you to your Grans and have a wonderful Easter break.

  • Im am only twelve but i wear size 14 to 16 i am sooo fat. I get bullied at school every sngle day how can i lose weight?

    Have a chat to your mum about healthy eating and more importantly increased exercise. By working out a plan you will quickly reach your ideal weight and without taking part in any faddy diets too.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm currently on the pill and I'm on my 7 day break. This is my first month on the pill. I took my last pill on Sunday and it's Wednesday and I still haven't had a period type bleed. When will it happen as I just want to be prepared. Thanks in advance x

    This is something you should discuss with your GP as different contraceptive pills will perform very differently.

  • I had some white liquidity stuff coming out of my area. I'm not sure what it is?

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hi Vicki i'm 32 inches on my bust and 29 inches under my bust what bra size am I ? xxx

    34AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Can you shop for period supplies secretly

    If you have permission to visit stores alone or with a friend there should be no reason why  you cannot purchase your own sanitary protection. But a chat with mum is always a good idea.

  • i have had discharge for a year and a half is that abnormal

    This is fine and very common with lots of girls experiencing discharge for more than a year.

  • How do you know when you are starting you first periods?

    I think you will find our sections on Periods and Puberty very interesting when understanding your body and when your period may arrive.

  • What shall I do? I am going on the residential trip which lasts a week and I don't know what to pack just in case.should I pack liners or towels?

    Check out my blog entitled What To Pack For A School Trip, I think you will find it very useful.

  • I go to millais school and i have my year 7 exams in msy and i am really scared that i will move down to the bottom set in most subjects ? btw i am in the second to bottom set in english and maths and science do u think i am smart ? i feel really sad because a good friend of mine is in the top set in maths and secobd to top in maths and engish and that girl makes me feel i am rubbish and so not clever.Love Brooke xxxxxx

    Hi Brooke, we all excel at different things and I really would not compare your progress to that of those around you. Have a chat to your teachers asking them if there is any revision you need to do in particular to attain a better grade and you may find our Blogs Top Tips To Beat Exams Stress and Seven Easy Steps for GCSE Studying are perfect to read.

  • Is it true that if a crush exceeds 4 months your in love? I've had a crush on a boy that moved away 2 years ago for 4 years

    There is absolutely not truth to this rumour.

  • Hi
    When I was about 9-10 I had a crush on a boy When I was 11 he moved away. We were good friends but I never Said how I felt because I just liked being around him I didn't want boyfriend. I'm now 13 I thought I was over Jim but I think about him more than ever now. Help

    It is quite common to think romantically about someone you like and these feelings may continue for a while but as you no longer see this boy you should consider spending time with friend and family which may take your mind off him and help you move on.

  • Hey viki, I'm 13 and I am a 30aa bra I have been this size for ages and have been checked to see if I have grown but I haven't. I weigh only 5 stone and very small I am the person who recently had an eating disorder and thought I might of missed the start of my period. I am still worried I am to small and underweight to grow! :( love Emily x

    Hi Emily, if you have previously had an eating disorder you may find that puberty arrives a little later for you, but please be patient there should be no reason why your period and breast growth should not be delayed any further now you are eating better; it just takes time.

  • Hello, Vicki!
    How are you?
    Anyway, I have been going through puberty for a few years now and my breasts are quite big. I really need a bra and in the changing rooms the other girls are like- "Wear a bra!" Or "Ewwww! You are practically naked!" I don't just want a bra because of them, I need one!
    Any tips on asking my Mum for a bra?
    I understand that every woman goes through this but I'm still nervous.
    Thanks in advance,
    Yours truly,
    Abigail. X

    Hi Abigail, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra and how she knew it was time, this should quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready. You may also find my blog and other girls comments useful under the blog Finding the Bra That's Right For You.

  • Hi Vicki, I started my period exactly a month ago on sunday, I got my period on Sunday but its discharge and period blood, is this normal? The blood is brown-red and there is discharge as well I'm sooo confused

    Menstrual fluid can often be light brown in colour and this is still your period so please try not to worry.

  • I am 13 and I think I might be underweight a few months ago I was around 7 stone 5 pounds (I'm 5 foot 6) since then my weight has gone down and I have lost like 6 pounds (not deliberately) but when I go on the scales and I have lost weight I don't know why but I kinda feel good. I do wanna put on weight but I just can't I'm never really that hungry

    Rather than focusing on what the scales say, ensure you eat when hungry and what you eat is healthy, as studies have shown that during puberty people actually need slightly more calories.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I've been getting this whitish-yellowish hard thing (I'm not sure what it is) in my pants for quite a while now. It doesn't seem to have an odour. Is this discharge?

    Yes this is discharge and you can find out all about this fluid by clicking on the Puberty tab at the top of the page.

  • Hey, I have had discharge for over a year . But no period. But I whipped and there was blood but that only lasted 2 days over Christmas. It hasn't happened again since. Anyway I have discharge daily. I wear pantie liners occasionally but it is uncomfortable and sometimes I can actually feel the discharge going into my pants and then it feels wet. And when I get home from school it dries and it is embarrassing when my mum washes my pants๐Ÿ™‹

    Mums know all about discharge and I am sure she does not mind putting your soiled underwear in the wash. I do feel that this blood loss at Christmas was your period and as with lots of girls, it could be that a gap of several months may be noticed until your next one arrives, this is all very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • Today a went to the toilet and just a little blood came out and on the pill does that mean my period is on its way

    Hi, thank you for your question, but I am a little confused as to what you mean by 'the pill'?

  • Hi Vicky,
    So basically I have had really period but I don't know if it is a period or if it is spotting, is there any way to know which one it is as i don't know? It is like 3 spots on my pad after over 4 hours but I once had a half full pad after 5 hours, I don't understand what this is as I think it is too light to be a period!
    Please help!!
    Love Rosa

    Hi Rosa, periods can be light or heavy and your flow can change from period to period or day to day. It is also important to know that menstrual fluid is not released all in one go, but rather over a period of time, so I feel you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I'm 14 and i THINK I'm fat. My family does not think I am.

    I way 9 stone 4 pounds am I too big

    URGENT thanks x

    Rather than worry what the scales say consider instead how healthy your diet is and how much exercise you get each day. If both of these are healthy your body will find its ideal weight.

  • I'm on my period I've had it for 3 years I recently moved school it's private they don't let u out in lessons and don't let you inside at breAk in the lessons they say u should of gone at break and at break Thai say u need fresh air I use pads and my flows really heavy what do u do I've been there 2 weeks so don't really no the teachers and don't wa to tell them ๐Ÿ˜จ

    Hi, if you wear a good quality pad such as our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads for heavy flows there should be no need for you to visit the toilet in lesson time and if necessary you can quickly change your pad when visiting the toilet.

  • Hey,
    so my boyfriend let me borrow his phone because I had to check something online. I opened up the internet and a porn site came up. I was taken back and angry and I just glared at him. He could see that I was annoyed and told me that it was "ok" and "i shouldn't have to worry". It's been bothering me since> I feel in a sense, let down and he's just acting like nothing has happened.

    A great many people watch pornographic images, but this does not mean they do not love and care for their partners, so please don't take this to heart or be too angry with your boyfriend.

  • how do I know when I am going to start my period?

    Why not read our Puberty and Period section on the website it will tell you all you need to know about periods, how to prepare for them and when you can expect them to arrive.

  • Hi.
    I have had a lot of white goo in my pants recently and sometime it hardens and I get quite embarrassed about it sometimes. what is it and does it mean i am going to start my period soon?
    xx

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, you can find out more about this fluid by clicking on the Puberty tab and entering the Discharge section.

  • PART3๐Ÿ’— the only style that I can do quickly is a high bun but It shows my face and I have moles which are ugly. And it makes my face look so ugly. I can't wear it down much coz it shrinks up and looks short even tho it's actually long which is another reason it looks nice straight. I understand why my parents don't let me do it much but I hate these feelings. No one ever says how nice I look or pretty I am (which I'm not anyway) unless my hair is straight๐Ÿ˜ญ help me please xxx๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

    Why not consider the Frizz Ease range, they have products that will help keep your straight style for longer, ensure you spend less time straightening your hair and possibly damaging it.

  • PART2๐Ÿ’— so I know that it sounds so pathetic because there are so many kids out there who have such a hard time with other issues. But sometimes I wish I had no emotions because I hate the way this makes me feel. I can't wait to be 18 so I won't get shouted at by my parents for liking my hair straight. I know it's damaging but I just hate my hair. It's discussing and makes me look so messy. I can't wear like normal people ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

  • PART1 ๐Ÿ’—Hi, I have horrible Afro/curly frizzy hair, it's not Afro but I'm half black. I'm not allowed to have my hair straight all the time but when I do, I feel so confident. Today a boy said about a picture of me with it straight that I look so much nicer like that ๐Ÿ˜ญ. The only time anyone EVER complements me is when my hair is straight. It makes me feel so rubbish about myself and its so upsetting. ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

    See my response in Part Three.

  • Hello ๐Ÿ˜˜,
    So tomorrow at school we have to partner dance, how do I make sure the boy I have to partner dance with doesn't make everything awkward. These are the types of boys at my school who insist on holding your wrist if you have to hold hands.

    Smile and laugh with this boy to make him feel at ease and if he prefers not to hold your hand, don't be too upset it should not interfere with your dancing routine.

  • Sometimes when I have my period there comes thick pieces of blood out!!is it normal or not...I am really worried when that happens

    Yes this is very normal and these small clots of blood form part of your uterine wall. You can find out more about menstrual fluid by reading my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid?

  • Hiya Vicki I've had a period since I was year 9, last year I had a termination and started the injection but came off the injection in January because it was making me ill but recently I came on my period on the 12th and still haven't come off. Should I be worried as it doesn't look like I'm coming off anytime soon? Thank you

    This is a conversation for your GP as different types of contraception will work in different ways once use has been ceased.

  • Hey Vicki, im a little worried because my friends are going through some tough times and I keep thinking it's my fault and it makes me feel quilty and worried. I keep putting there problems on my shoulders and I feel like I'm stuck in a box. I'm not sure what to do. Thank you xx

    You are not responsible for your friends actions unless of course something has happened by which your friends feel bullied or intimidated by your behaviour, if this is the case then reassure them you do not mean to act this way and hopefully you can all move on.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm a little bit worried because I got my period, but I didn't have any discharge at all before it, and I know that you said most people have at least 6 months of discharge before their first period. I was just wondering if this was normal. Thanks! -Jill

    Not everyone experiences discharge and there is no reason to be worried about this.

  • I got my first period last week but it only lasted one day. I didn't bleed that night or afterwards. Is this normal?

    Yes this is fairly normal and it would be a good idea to keep some pads and liners with you from now on in preparation for your next one.

  • I'm 12 and I still haven't gotten my period. I asked my mom and she said she got hers at 14 but my grandma got hers at 8, now I'm really confused! I have started Breast develoepment so I don't know what's going on! Help :(

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 and we do not always follow the same pattern as family members for its arrival so please try not to worry, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you.

  • I dont know when im gonna get my period..i feel kind f uncomfortable talking to my mum.What do i do?

    Why not read our sections on Puberty and Periods they are full of advice on what to look out for during puberty and how to manage your period too.

  • Hi Viki ! the bras I have been wearing (for nearly a year about 10 months) are 28 AA's but they never seemed to fit right so went on-line to a bra size calculator website I put the calculations in and it told me I was a 32 C so I thought that can't be right so I went on to another couple websites and they all said the same that I was a 32 C . How could this happen ? is it right ? xxx

    Hi, if you have had your bra for almost a year there is bound to be some change to the size of your breasts and you may find visiting your local store and trying on some bras in a 32C is a great idea.

  • I just wanted to say thank youโ™ฅ You always answer my question when I need helpโ™ฅ Thank you so muchโ™ฅ You have helped me through so much and for that I'm so, so gratefulโ™ฅ

    Your are most welcome.

  • Hey vicki, I haven't started my period yet but when I do I still want to go swimming so I will have to wear a tampon but I'm worried if it hurts or not. Do Gambians hurt ?
    Chloe xx

    Hi Chloe, if you find you are on your period and want to swim then yes a tampon is the ideal choice as a pad would simply fill with water and may split. But don't worry, tampons have been worn for many years by millions of women and they are comfortable and ideal for this type of activity. You may even find our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons are a great first product to trial as they are shorter and narrower than other brands but just as absorbent.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 13 years old and still don't have my period! All of my friends have had theirs and I'm worried that it might happen in school..
    I'm also worried about the pain my friends say it really hurts but I have a few pains but I don't know if it my period or not do I get pains after the period? I'm really nervous should I be ?
    Chloe xx

    Hi Chloe, firstly a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you have plenty of time for yours to arrive. Secondly, not everyone experiences pain and for those that do a little gentle exercise should remove any discomfort. Finally, you may find my blog entitled Periods and School a useful read.

  • hi vicki, lately i have been very warm and my mum thinks its my hormones and i want to know if she is right??? i'm 13 by the way. also i have been feeling very emotional lately why is that and i had have period symptoms for 2 years and nothing has happened and i really want it to ?????

    With so many changes during puberty it is possible to become a little hot and bothered but if you continue to experience this rise in temperature you should speak to your mum again who will be able to advise you further.

  • Hi this is just a quick question that I really wanted to ask. Do girls have to buy tampons and use them coz my mum doesent use them and I don't want to use them coz I feel scared and I don't feel that I have to use them



    Thank you xxxxโ˜บ๏ธ

    Lots of women only every wear pads during their menstruating life, so if you feel pads are something you want to continue using there is no reason why you should not continue.

  • Hi Vicks

    I'm 14 coming on 15 in November. I have not started my period yet,but have had discharge and going throw pubety now 3 years.

    Should I go to the gp

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and I do not feel you need to visit your GP just yet.

  • Hi Vicki
    This question is about recording periods...
    I have an app on my phone that keeps track of how long my period should last, when I am next due etc. However, I don't really know when I should record my period to have ended. I only really bleed for around 2.5 days but I get a tiny amount of brown stuff that never even gets to my underwear for a few days after that. When do I record my period as finished?
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, period apps should only record the day your period started and this is the date you should be counting from and not the final day of blood loss.

  • Hi vickie!
    I had my hpv jab the other day and I was really suck the day after is this normal?
    Thanks, Rachel xxx

    Hi Rachel it is not uncommon to feel a little out of sorts after having a vaccination, but this is very often short lived and you will be feeling back to your normal self in no time at all.

  • Hi so i like this boy and i don't know if he likes me. We speak everyday at school! We trip each other up for fun, we help each other and he always cares for me??

    It does appear that this boy likes you, whether this is a friend or romantically only time will tell and boys can take their time to share their feelings so why not continue being good friends and worry less about dating and if this boy wants to date you.

  • Can you become pregnant if you've not started your period yet? (I'm not just wondering)

    There is always a chance that you may become pregnant if you have unprotected sexual intercourse, regardless of whether your period has arrived or not.

  • Hi, i think i had my period on the 21st of March and i told my mum but it hasnt really come since... Now im not sure if it was my period or not. Also i know the cycle is 28 days (for most people) but what happenes after those 28 days?

    A period can be very irregular for the first few years with both long and short gaps between each one, so it would be impossible for me to predict when your next period will arrive. Once a regular pattern has been formed it can be anything between 21-34 days and not always 28 days as lots of people think.

  • Hi I am 12 years old in year 7 and my boobs are big! I wear bras but they are not strong enough because whenever I'm running or doing Pe in school my boobs always go up and down and my paste of running has gon slower because whenever I run or jump my boobs start to hurt what can I do?


    Thank you xxxxxx

    Why not ask your mum to purchase a sports bra for you, they are great when you are active and can be purchased quite cheaply from most large supermarkets such as Tesco, Sainsbury's or Asda.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    I am really confused i have had discharge for like over a year and a half now and i am a size 30A , when will my period come ???
    Plz answer back asap coz i am worried
    Thnx x

    Hi, discharge is noticed for about 6-12 months before the arrival of your period, sometimes even a little longer so I doubt you will have much longer to wait for its arrival.

  • Hi Vicki

    My name is Taylor and i'm 12 years old. I have starter to get really bad cramps in the lower parts of my backs and stomach also my discharge has started to increase but i don't have a period. My mum started her period at 12 and i was just wondering if this could mean that i might start mine soon.
    Thanks xxx

    Hi, whilst we do not all start our periods at the same time as family members, I would say with so many signs of puberty already noticed you may not have much longer to wait, so why not chat to your mum with regard to having some pads or liners with you from now on and when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki, I think that I have just started my period but it is VERY light and the blood is brown... Is this my period?? And is this normal??? Thanks xx

    This may be your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. Why not place a pad in your underwear over the next few days and see if more fluid is lost.

  • Hi vicki
    I M really low in confidence at the moment and this may sound really stupid. I am going on a school trip abroad and we are going swimming but I am very flat chested ? I have no boobs what so ever but all the girls going have proper boobs:( is there any way I can make my boobs look bigger or grow them faster :( please help none of the bikinis will fit me and I don't even think I have a bra size ?!:(

    Why not read my SOS swimwear blog to help you find the right style for your shape, generally a halter-neck style is flattering to a petite bust.

  • dear Vicki so I was at guides . my best friends dad was supposed to pick us up but instead my dad had to pick us up because he was 25 mins late. (our mums were out )my dad can get rlly angry and he knew for a fact her daad was in the pub . when he arrived he called her dad with a lot of expletives and called him names .I the car my dad was really angry and was swearing a lot.I am just soo upset because shes been my best friend for 13 years and I am just so upset .

    Hi, have a quiet word with your friend letting her know that your dad's opinions are not yours and that you are sorry for any offence his comments may have caused her. Then have a chat with your dad, letting him know you understand how angry he was and why he was angry but that it has made things a little awkward with you and your friend. I am sure next time he sees her, he will make amends.

  • hi , I've never had sex but i have a sore or cut or something and it was bleeding earlier , i really don't know what to do as it is painful x -a

    Just like anywhere else on the body, we can cut ourselves in this area and just like the rest of our body it will heal over a number of days.

  • Dear Vicky I tried to do my own eyebrows but it went wrong now I look terrible my mum doesn't want me to shape them is their anything else I could do please help from ellA

    Hi Ella, unfortunately this is something I think we all do at some point in our lives. Wait for them to grow back and then ask your mum if you can visit a local salon to have them shaped, you can then keep them neat once the salon treatment has ended.

  • Hi Vicki
    You always say most girls get their period after 6-12 months of discharge. However I have had discharge for over 3 years now and it still hasn't come! I have pubic hair in both places and breast development. I am 12, 13 in September. My mum got hers when she was 14. I feel like I'm NEVER going to get it!!! Please help thanx
    Gothgirl

    Hi, yes most girls do experience discharge for between 6-12 months and some for longer so please try not to worry with so many signs of puberty already noticed you should not have much longer to wait.

  • My teacher told me and my friend that he hates the band we were talking about, he said he couldn't stand listening to their songs. The thing I am worried about is he said he was happy when the guy in the band died. I am not sure if he was joking or not, but my friend and everyone I have told had said he was only joking because he hates the band. This problem has been stuck in my mind for some reason. What do you think I should do? Just say to myself he was only joking and forget about it?

    Your teacher is entitled to him opinion as you are yours and regardless of whether he was joking or sincere it is not something you should be worrying about, it is after all up to you who you like.

  • Hey vicki I was wondering all my friends have started there period but me I started puberty in year 5 or 6 I'm 13 and still havnt started I'm also flat chested and all my friends laugh that I havnt started and that my boobs still havnt developed could you give me some advice please
    -lily

    Hi Lily, my advice would be to remind your friends how important it is to support one another during puberty and not tease someone, ask them how they would feel if someone teased them. You may also want to point out to them that puberty arrives at different times for each of us and you have plenty of time for your period to arrive.  You may also find my blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself a useful read too.

  • Hi my friends all come to me for everything like they all tell me stuff and hope I can deal with it the thing is when it's between two of them they both tell me then I can't do anything about it because I promise them both I will keep the secret.... Like I get stuck in the middle of everything but I can't talk to them about my problems because I feel guilty... And I have my own problems to and my mind is just so messed up I can't deal with everything I don't know what to do

    Let your friends know that this is not something you can deal with as you are friends with both of them and whilst you support them both totally, puberty is hard for you to and that there are times when you need a little chat or support from them. It may be that they think you are fine and have not realised puberty is stressful for you also.

  • When I'm at school I always sweat in my shirt. It's really embarrassing and a boy at school was like ew someone stinks of sweat. I also get really bad aching ribs around wear my bra is and was wondering if you know what any of these are? Thanks xx

    Firstly, during puberty you will often notice you sweat more and for this reason it is vital that you wash daily morning and night and if possible use an antiperspirant as this will stop the sweat from being produced, unlike a deodorant that will simply mask any odour. Finally if you  under bust is tender your bra may be too small for you and you should chat to your mum with regard to getting remeasured.

  • Hello Vicki I feel like a lot of people are judging me because I was in foster care but was adopted. Yet I feel like I'm out of place most people at my school are from normal family's. but I want to fit in I know that I won't change myself but what should I do?

    Luna

    Hi Luna, I can appreciate how you are feeling as I was adopted by my grandparents as a child, but the reality is that in this day and age there is no such thing as a 'normal' family.  And it's up to you to set aside these feelings and join in with friends just as any other student would. It is after all who we are inside that matters and what will draw people towards you as friends. Why not read my blog Walk Tall with Confidence for tips on how to make you feel confident around others.

  • I can't really get to sleep very easy at nights due to sweating. Is this anything to do with puberty? Is there any advice you could give me?

    It is normal to sweat more during puberty but if it is preventing you from sleeping, I would suggest that you wear a cotton nightie or pyjamas and keep your bedding really light, you could also open a window so there is some ventilation in the room.  If this doesn't help, talk to your mum as an appointment with your GP would help.

  • Vicki im weirded out! I was in my school toilet and this group of girls went into a stall together and started to go look while like 2 others were watching and chatting. And once they all were helping changing anothers tampon. They are like in year10 but its weird right?

    Some girls do seek the assistance of friends to help them insert their first tampon, although a group in one toilet does seem a little extreme.

  • Vicki I keep on needing to go to the loo. I feel bursting and thenits just a drop. And when i need to go I NEED TO GO. But it doenst hurt at all. And also this is weird but I need to poop in school but every time i go to the toilet loads of people are there and can hear me fart and the poo drop and its embarrassing, really!

    It sounds as if you might have a urine infection which can be easily treated by your GP so please ask your mum to book an appointment.  As for using the toilet for a poo, try placing some toilet roll down the toilet basin as this will mask any sound.  Try to remember that this is a normal bodily function that we all do so try not to feel embarrassed by it.

  • When will the let's talk be out? Please put you tubers in it PLEASE like Louise (sprinkle of glitter) Zoella again?! And even some from America? Colleen ballinger? (Physcosoprano) Rachel ballinger ? Jenna marbles? Superwoman? Myharto? Mamrie hart? Omg Miranda sings please!!!,

    Our plans are still being discussed but I will pass your suggestions on to the team.  Thank you.

  • Me and my boyfriend had sex in the. Toilets at school, I'm worried that there were CCTV cameras that saw us having sex? I'm 14 btw x

    It is unlawful for a boy to have sexual intercourse with a girl under the age of 14 and regardless of whether the camera caught you carrying out or not this activity is unlawful and as such you should both have a chat and decide if you should not wait until you are old enough to be sexually active.

  • Vicky all my friends are going to the Tyler Oakley show and I really want to go its just too dear. Its my favorite of all time. I love him. I just dont have the money and I dont k ow what to do I NEED TO MEET HIM I'm crying!! What do I do!

    Have a chat to your family and see if together they can pull together the funds for you to see the show, with a promise from you that you will run errands and do chores to pay them back for their kindness.

  • Hello. All my friends have brand new clothes. Brand new shoes. Wear make up ahve about 3apple products (iPhone , ipod and I pad) and I have old Penney's clothes and crap 30 pound phone and Penney's shoes and I feel really left out and poor (my whole class has all this stuff) bit o know she doesn't have the money and I dont get pocket money help!

    You don't need to have the most up to date clothes or brands to be stylish. It's all about picking up small items that will mix and match with each other and show your individual style and don't be shy of going to second hand shops or bring and buy sales, they often have some great and unique clothes to purchase very cheaply. As for gadgetry, well ask yourself this question, if you see your friends every day, do you really need a phone and a pc will do the job of an ipad.

  • Is there a type of tampon that's better for swimming or are they all the same? I'm part of the swim team which includes over an hour of swimming relentlessly and I have used a tampon whilst swimming before but sometimes it feels a little un-comfy. Just wondering if there was a specific kind that I needed to buy.
    Xx
    Katie

    Hi Katie, why not try our widthways expanding tampons for a comfortable fit. Our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons are ideal as they are shorter and narrower than other brands. Going forward to ensure total comfort, always ensure the tampon has been inserted high inside the vagina and if you can feel it then simply push it in a littler farther with your finger or remove and start again with a new one.

  • Hi Vicki. I have problem. I have my period 1 year now and my mom doesn't know. I live with all boys and mom I never get a chance to say it and when I do I just can't. Shell kill me for me not telling her . she asked me many times 'do u have ur period yet' and i just say no. Shell be really mad at me and never trust me. I can't tell her or even write a note. Help me!!

    Hi, I am sure your mum will not be upset when you share this news with her and if you explain that you found it difficult to say the words she will understand. After all mums were teenagers once too.

  • Hello Vicki,

    I'm 16 nearly 17 and my boobs are like triangles on my chest. I get mocked in P.E, my mum won't let me wear a padded bra, it's just a white piece of cloth type bra but it makes me feel so down about myself. Everyone laughs when they see me in P.E with no boobs.

    What can I do please help me?

    Lots and lots of girls including my daughters notice this triangular shape to their breasts as they develop it is very normal and it seems very unkind and slightly immature for people to tease you about it. I would ignore their comments safe in the knowledge that breasts continue to grow into your late teens and early twenties.

  • I'm going to a boarding school after the summer holidays and even though I'm really excited, I'm also a little bit nervous.
    Will I just have to bring a lot of tampons and pads with me or will I have to buy some products at weekends? I'll be going home every half term but it's just a little nag in the back of my mind.

    Why not take a few packs with you just in case and then if you need further supplies you can always pop to the store to purchase more.

  • I've got an irrational fear of obtaining TSS. I know that there is a remote chance of me getting this but it is making me apprehensive towards tampons.
    I have had my period for just under a year and it is a light flow due to my participation in sport. I use an extremely low absorbency tampon but whenever I take it out (after about four hours) it still seems relatively dry. I really don't want to leave it in for more than four hours because I am paranoid.
    Is there anything I can do to avoid TSS?

    TSS is a very rare condition and if you adhere to the guidelines set you in each pack of tampons you will reduce the risk of contracting it considerably. But like anything it is always a good idea to be aware of any health implications and now how to safely use tampons. If  when you remove your tampon it feels dry it would be advisable to leave it in a little longer but never longer than 8 hours or switch to a pant liner instead.

  • Are sister bra sizes true? Because I'm a 36aa and me and my friend have similar sized boobs and she's a 30b(we're both tall and slim). I did some research and saw that 36aa=34a=32b=30c which seems kinda accurate. And I think I would fit better in a 34a/32b then a 36aa- shall I try that next time I go shopping ? Em x

    Hi Em, the only way to truly now your size is to measure yourself and then try on lots of different bras until you find the one that is most comfortable for you in your size. However, please don't think that if you are a 36 under the bust a 32 or 30 would be comfortable, it would in fact be very tight and restrictive.

  • Hey vicki! I noticed under the 'sex and sexual feelings' thing you told a lot of girls it's illegal for a guy to have sex with a girl under 16, but doesn't the law state that it's illegal for anyone to have sex under the age of 16, whether they're a girl or not? Also, I just started my period and I have my dance assessment tomorrow. What do I do?

    The law of consent covers two main areas, sexual intercourse and sexual relations and yes it would be unlawful for someone to have sexual relations or sexual intercourse with anyone who is under the age of 16.

  • I have a boyfriend but I'm only 13 and I don't even think I accually like him I'm so confused

    If you are unsure about your feelings then speak to this boy letting him know you really like him but think dating is not for you and you need time to understand what you want. I am sure he will understand especially if you let him know you want to remain friends.

  • I'm really frustrated because for the life me I cannot insert a tampon... I've had my period for a year now, I'm 15 and I always find it so uncomfortable wearing pads when I'm on quite heavily, do you have any advice? Thankyou

    :):):)

    All it takes is a little practice so try not to lose heart.  You might like to start by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  We do recommend that you first try on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  It is important to be relaxed be fore inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.  For some help with this, check out our video on How to use a non-applicator tampon.

  • I'm 15 turning 16 this year and I haven't had my period! I thought I was going to have my period when I was 13 because I started to get discharge but it still hasn't came and my birthday is only a few months away!! ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away. 

  • Hi vicki, in January, I went to the toilet and there was a brown stain in my pants. My mum thought that it mght not be my period but she asked me f I knew where my (just in case) pads were. It was only that one day and my stomach only hurt a bit. I haven't had it since. I wanted to know, is diarrhoea a sign of periods because I've been getting cramps and diarrhoea a lot.

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so just be sure to keep the pads close to hand and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  Diarrhoea is occasionally a sign that your period is coming but if it persists, you should talk to your mum about it as you might have a tummy bug.

  • Hello Vicki! Right, last month I was visited by thread worms. :( Not sure how I got them, I'm clean! I took tablets and killed them. I should have taken one two weeks later but I forgot and I saw one! We had one spare ovex so I took that straight away, I've been washing morning, when I have my shower and before bed. I have a separate towel and I hoovered all carpets and my bed and bedroom thoroughly. I need another tablet in two weeks; I don't want to have to tell my mum and dad again!!!

    Please try not to worry as threadworms are quite common and all you have to do is tell your parents what happened as it was a genuine mistake.  The tablets can be purchased over-the-counter or from your GP.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So for the last few months I have been noticing black discharge in my underwer. I haven't started my period yet so I was wondering is this was my period. P.S it comes few about 8-9 days every month. Thank you xxx
    Love From Emma xx

    Hi Emma, this is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  It is perfectly normal for a period to last between 2-10 day so try not to worry.

  • HI Vcky,
    My friends are being relly confusing. we're in year 7, and i have made lots of new freinds. But one of my new freinds hates 2 of my other new freinds. Freind no.1 hates freind no.2 and 3. No.1 won't hear a good word about no.2.and no.3. It's sooo anyoying as no.2 and no.3 are big parts of my life as they are in my form and no.1 isn't. Do you have any advice on how to get no.1 to see their good side? THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!

    Hi, it may be a good idea to let your friends know that in life we will always come across people who we do not make close connections with, but that does not mean we cannot be friends and understand that we are all different. Explain that their behaviour is making you feel sad and ask that they all try to get along. You could even ask for a week of saying only nice things to and about each other and see how everyone feels after this time. See also my blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself.

  • Hi Vicki, I started the big P at the end of November but haven't had it since! I know it is irregular for the first year but my mum keeps asking if I'm pregnant (which I'm definitely not!)
    HELP ME

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hi, so I usually wear shoes (trainers) with socks but today I wore them without and through out the days my feet got a bit sweaty so how can I remove this smell from my shoes, or will it go away on its own?

    Leave your shoes to get some fresh air, outside if you can for a few hours if dry and avoid placing them in your wardrobe as this may make the rest of your clothes and shoes smell too.

  • Also DBI895 I can't wear tampons so what should I do

    If you do not feel ready to wear tampons then it may be a good idea to have a chat to your coach letting them know you may not be able to compete. If your flow is very light you could always consider going without protection, but I should warn you there is always a risk of blood leaking into the pool.

  • I am on my period but have a national swim compmlater and can't let the team down what should I do

    If you are planning to be in the water and on your period you should consider wearing a tampon. If you are new to tampons consider using our Lil-Lets Teens non applicator tampons, ideal for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • Hi, Vicki
    Violet here, would my boobs stop developing in any way if my bra was too big?

    Hi Violet, a large bra wouldn't affect your breast development.

  • Hi Vicki
    I told my mum I have discharge, but she didn't suggest using the teens liners she gave me (along with some pads for a just-in-case). The discharge is really starting to annoy me and I want to use the liners, but I don't know how to talk to my mum and I don't want to go behind her back. Please help, I don't know what to do! Thanks.

    Your mum would surely have bought the pant liners for you to use to protect your underwear from the effects of discharge and for possible leakage should your period arrive so try not to worry and ask her if you can use them.  Try to remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't feel embarrassed.

  • Hi vicki, I'm only 14 but I'm in such a rush to grow up and be sexually active but I've never had a boyfriend and I'm starting to think I never will no boys are attracted to me and I'm getting frustrated my friends all have boys chasing after them and boyfriends and no one likes me at all or even thinks I'm pretty will I ever have a relationship? It's so annoying

    Please try not to worry as there is plenty of time for boys but try to remember that you can't expect others to like you when you don't like yourself very much.. Try to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy would be a good place to start and would also enable you to meet new friends.

  • Hi vicki I have a little t of discharge it always feels like I've wety self it also gets caught up in the hair down there and solidifys would panty liners help cos I'm also scared to ask ๐ŸŒŸ

    You might like to try using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes which will help to keep you feeling clean and fresh down there.

  • i got a small amount of blood in my underwear it is peroids

    Yes this is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I have dark brownish to brown something in my underwear. I haven't had my period but I had a drop of red like a few months ago. Every few days I get the brown thing in the front of my underwear. I don't know what this is whether I have started my period or not! Thanks -ChocoLover

    Hi Chocolover, this is your period so try not to worry and be sure to ask your mum for some pads and then see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi it's me again, I went for the bra fitting and I'm a 28A (groan) but it feels too tight! My mum says that it's supposed to be tight but I have just changed for dance class and it has rubbed a bit during gym class!
    Love Abbie xoxo

    Hi Abbie, your new bra will gradually give a little bit, the more it is worn and washed so try not to worry.

  • I'm 15, I've had discharge for about a year and half almost every day now... Pubic hair is there, underarm hair is coming and boobs have just started to grow a little but they still only fit an a cup.. Wondering if you would know when my period may come coz all of my friends have it.
    Every time I have a thing with a guy, I'm worried to go further or deeper into a relationship because im worded that they'll tell people that I don't have boobs or that I don't have my period yet.

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only assume that your period isn't too far away and it is possible to notice breast development up until your late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hey vicki
    Im 12 years old n I got my period last year in September.
    After that I've had a lot of armpit sweat and I dont know how to stop it. Because of this my parents think I dont take my bath properly. I know this may sound disgusting but I dont know what to do. pls help me.

    Jennifer.

    During puberty, it is normal to sweat more but as long as you bathe regularly and use anti-perspirant, you should find that any bad odour will be avoided.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I really need some form of crop top as my nipples can be seen through my shirt but I don't have the courage to ask anyone as it is really awkward.
    How do I ask my mum for one?

    Thankyou xx Indi

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty so she will be well aware that you will be noticing breast development and needing a crop top or bra so try not to feel embarrassed and talk to her.  For some help with this, my blog on Talking to Mum and Dad might be useful to you.

  • Hi I am alice I am 12 I am just wondering what bra size I am. I am a 30 inches on my bust and 26 inches under my bust. Thanks

    Hi Alice, your bra size is a 30AA with those measurements.

  • ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒนHi Vicky
    I was just asking, how do you know you ended your period? My mum is out town, so I couldn't ask her, have a great day or night ๐Ÿ’š
    ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒน

    A period can last anything between 2-10 days and you will know when it has come to its end as menstrual blood will stop being released.

  • i think I need help.
    It's a normal day and I'm thinking of happy stuff, ya know pugs and rainbows and whatever, but then I don't know why but my mind turns to something like 'death is inevitable and you are going to die soon' and it's like I'm swimming in a pool of pitch black and I can't get out of it. I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't know if there is a name for that but I don't like talking to anyone about how I feel.
    What should I do and do you have any advice?
    Thanks for all the help๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›

    Puberty is a time when teens begin to question their mortality and this is perfectly normal.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to feeling a little low which is why you should try to keep yourself busy with the things you enjoy doing, such as dancing to your favourite music, watching funny films and most importantly of all, talking to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Okay, so I woke up and I have like a spot just above my boob but it's not red it's like a ball of skin put on a spot? I have no idea what it is. It's not really a lump it's just really annoying cuz it gets caught on my clothes when I get changed and it hurts whenever I touch it.
    Plz help thx๐Ÿ’ž

    For peace of mind, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP.


  • ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’So at school I went to the bathroom to change my pad, and then I put it in something called a napkin disposal. So are you supposed to put your pad in napkin disposals? Thanks in advance, have a good day or night๐Ÿ˜„
    ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

    Yes.

  • Hi Vicki .
    I'm so confused. When im on my period i hate it .. Want it get rid of it just hate it.
    But when I'm off it I want it so bad. I jsut want it , I dont know. Also I think I'm bi and I'm really happy. I don't know why but I want to be gay. I love the idea. The gay are my favorite and I want to be gay and fabulous so bad!! Is this weird? What do you think of th

    The thing to remember is that periods are a natural occurrence for all of us females and there is nothing you can do to avoid themit so it really makes sense to try and get used to it and learn to live with it as we all do.  As for your sexuality, try not to be in any rush to put a label on it and see how you feel when you're older.

  • Hi vicki, I've started to get spots just above "down there". Some are white heads, some aren't. I do wash everyday. I'm really worried, please help. Really really sorry if this is inappropriate. Not sure what to do, thanks xx

    As you're keeping the area clean, I would try not to worry as they should clear up by themselves.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I really like this girl and I am considering asking her out! How should I ask her?
    I am lesbian btw!
    Nyrell

    Hi Nyrell, just be yourself and get to know her better as a friend first and then asking her out will feel like the natural thing to do.

  • There is this boy at my school who keeps on flirting with me,but is my best friend and my next door neighbours boy friend. In a way I keep on looking at him and I really fancy him. On the other hand I have a boyfriend and it could be getting serious I have been going out with him 18 months. But I don't know whether I fancy him anymore. What should I do? xoxoxo

    Hi, if you have feelings for another boy, then it would be wise to end your current relationship regardless of whether you date the boy who is flirting. Once you are single you can spend some time alone and working out who you really like and if they are a) available and b) feel the same way about you.

  • Hi Vicki! Sorry if this is inappropriate but I don't think my vagina is right. Everything isn't symmetrical and I'm really worried this will stop me having sex when I'm older/having my period.
    Sorry again if this is awkward to answer :s

    I am sure you have nothing to worry about as nothing down there is completely symmetrical.  For some help with this, take a look at my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System Inside and Out.

  • Hey Vicki, I've had a major crush on a boy for nearly a year now...to me he his perfect but I'm 98% sure he doesn't know i exist. He's a year older than me however we used to know each other when we were little, he smiles at me sometimes and likes my photos on social media but I don't know if this is just because he thinks off as a kid he knew when he was younger! Please help!! I don't know if it is normal to have liked someone for so long!!
    Thank you!!:)

    Hi, it is very normal to have a crush on someone who is older and you admire and whilst it does seem that this boy likes you as a friend it may be that he does not see you in the same way as you see him. So whilst it is fine to crush on someone, don't forget to spend time with others keeping yourself busy and who knows in time you may have feelings for someone else.

  • Hi Vicki! Next week I'm going away with my sports team it means there will be lots of sport throughout the day and In evening times there's a pool!My period started about 7 months ago however it's been very unpredictable since! It was meant to come before I left for the week!! I will be sharing a room with girls also! I don't know what I'll do if the period comes whilst I'm swimming? I am so upset andthe thought of it is putting me off the entire holiday ps I haven't yet tried tampons as none fit! Thanks x

    As there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to give Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons a try as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Try to remember that millions of women and girls from all over the world use tampons for the discreet protection they provide and all it takes is a little practice.  Periods should never interfere with the things you enjoy doing in life so try not to worry and have a fabulous time. 

  • Hi vicki,
    Im 13 and i havent started my period yet. Im quite fat but im trying to lose weight; im 4 foot 10 and im 8 stone 2. i hate school because my friends block me out and exclude me. i feel really lonely and my old best friend left me for my other friend but now that friend moved school but my old best friend is trying to become best friends with me again. Ive never had a boyfriend but all my friends do. please help

    rainbow 27

    It is possible to outgrow our friends at times and as painful as it can feel, sometimes you should try to move on and make new friendships.  For some help with this, please take a look at my blog on Keeping and Making Friends.  You might find that joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport would be a great way of meeting new boys and girls.

  • I dont know if this is legal or bot but the day i turned 16 i had sex with my bf also 16 do i need to tell my mum and also i missed 2 periods should i take a test ??????????????? ๐Ÿ˜˜

    Please talk to your mum as a matter of urgency.  If you had unprotected sex, it is quite possible that you are pregnant.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Thanks so much for the great advice on my violin exam! Now it's over and I'm feeling my usual happy self! Thanks again, Jaz :)

    Hi Jaz, I'm happy to have helped.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have not had my period for 2 years but I have had discharge
    Plz can you help me




    Katy.mayse

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki ๐Ÿ˜„ I don't know if this is weird but I feel really immature with two of my friends (both are 10 same age as me) because they both have their period. Me and my best friend only have discharge and we feel embarrassed infront of them. What do I do to stop feeling like this?
    Ps: I have had discharge for about a year now, is that a sign I'm close to getting my period?

    Thanks, R xoxo

    You shouldn't feel embarrassed in front of your friends simply because they have started their periods before you.  Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and we all develop at different rates to each other.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that yours isn't too far away.

  • Are the lil-lets sanitary pads smaller than always sanitary pads?


    Our Lil-Lets teens range has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hello Vicki. I'm 12 years old and basically the only sign of ' breasts' I have is buds . When getting changed for gym I usually wait until all the girls are out of the cupboard and then change my top . I'm starting to feel left out because I don't have breasts. It does hurt my feelings and I have cried once . I'm healthily thin , 5.5 stone which is healthy according to the NHS. Is it anything to do with my weight? Love Freya xx

    Hi Freya, try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  It is possible to notice breast development up until your late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • dear vicky , if been having brownish stuff in my pants and my belly hurts. is this a sign that my period will come or is this my period and im 12


    thank you

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 11 years old and my period has started before any of my friends. But the only thing is my periods are really heavy like sometime i have to put on more than one pad because it's that heavy. Do you know why?
    From Darcy x

    Hi Darcy, try not to worry as many girls experience heavy periods.  You might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  You should also try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and they can begin at any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi vicki
    My friends grandma has cancer and my friend wants to talk to me about it but I have never had to deal with anything like this before so I have no idea what to say to her. Can you give me some advice
    Love lola

    Hi Lola, just be prepared to listen to your friend and support her as best you can.  You could suggest that she reads my blog on Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One.

  • Is it normal to have really light periods when taking a contraceptive pill? I've been on it for 2 years.

    The contraceptive pill can make periods lighter.

  • hi vikki
    so i watch this tv show called pretty little liars where one of the girls is gay, and i think i feel a little gay too. i know this is normal but i have no idea how i would tell my family or friends, as they would think i am weird. please help me, i'm 14 and don't know what to do. no one else i know is gay.
    thanks,
    Em
    325748 (so i can find it)

    Try not to worry as puberty is a time when there is a massive increase in the activity of hormones causing teens to feel attracted to both the same and opposite sex but this does not mean you should rush into putting a label on your sexuality.  Just try to wait until you're older and see how you feel then.

  • What does it mean if you need to go to the toilet a lot and can it be dangerous, because I have just been to the toilet 3 times in the last half hour is that normal?

    You might have a urine infection so please talk to your mum about this as your GP will easily be able to treat it.

  • Hey Viki
    I started my period on the 4th of March and was wondering when would it come again? Also is it alright for me to start using tampons if I want to because I am quite active. I requested some teens samples last Monday but they didn't reply.
    Becky
    P.S. LOVE THIS SITE

    Hi Becky, a menstrual cycle can last anything between 21-34 days so you will have to wait and see how long yours will last.  There is nothing to say you can't start using tampons straight away but we do recommend that you have experienced at least 5 or 6 periods to allow you some time to get used to your flow.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.  As for your sample request, it is usually best to allow a couple of weeks for your request to be completely processed.

  • My friend who is a boy asked me if i had my period. I tried to change the conversation but I went bright red what do I do?

    You are not alone in feeling embarrassed by your period so try not to worry as it was rude of this boy to put you on the spot and it's really none of his business anyway.  Just try to forget about it for now.

  • Hi viki! ๐Ÿ‘‹
    I keep getting migraines like I had one on the 23rd of feb then the 1st of March then another one today (23rd of March) - I have got discharge and have had it for over a year now (it's rlly annoying) and I seem to get migraines when my mum is due on does this mean anything? Xx btw we have been to the doctors about my migraines xx๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’– from jo

    Hi Jo, your migraines might be linked to your menstrual cycle but for peace of mind, ask your mum to book another appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I have been depressed since I was about 11, maybe 10 (I'm 13 now). I self harm on and off and have considered and attempted suicide a few times. I really don't know what to do :( I can't tell my parents so I told some of my friends but now they treat me like I'm a different person:( Would it be possible for me to visit the doctors and get help without my parents knowing?
    Thank you xx Anna xx

    Hi Anna, you clearly need some professional help and support and you can start by calling Mindline on 0300 1233393.  Try to remember that during puberty, serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest, leaving teens susceptible to stress so none of this is your fault.

  • Dear Vicky
    I wanna shape my eyebrows but my mum said I could get them professionally shaped but then I said I'm to young and she agreed but I really want them shaped coz I hate them
    Love from l

    As your mum has given you her permission to have your eyebrows shaped and I think you want them done too, why not do it?

  • Hi Vicki, Is it true taller girls have their periods sooner, i am in year 7 and I'm 5"6 And I have had discharge for about 8 months. Im just a bit confused. Thanks,
    Becca

    Hi Becca, there is no truth to this.  As you've already been releasing discharge for 8 months, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki! when I masturbate I put fingers in me I don't feel any pleasure at all like I do with my other way :/ is there something wrong with me? I don't understand how I haven't felt pleasure by putting fingers inside sorry if this is inappropriate but I need to know please x

    Masturbation is an instinctive activity individual to each of us and as such it does not need to be taught, nor is there a right or wrong way to do it.

  • hi vicky im a bit worried right now because ive being having discharged for the last year and a half and now its getting heavier and im having it more often.but im worried beacause it doesn't smell nice and i dont no what to do about it.please help i would really aprreciate it!

    It is normal for discharge to have a slight odour but nothing too offensive.  You might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I know this is creepy but i am an 10A. How much aa will i be?

    It is possible that your cup size will change but the measurement around your front and back will remain the same.  You will just have to wait and see.

  • Hi Vicki, I have started to worry about when my period will start. Almost everyone has had it in my class except 3 and the other 2 seem to not gone through puberty yet. I know I'm only 13 and have loads of time to get it but it's really concerning me and even my mother is curious why it hasn't come yet. I seem to have gone through all of puberty except my period and have had discharge for over 6 months. Do you know why it hasn't started yet?
    -Ellie

    Hi Ellie, girls usually release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives, so I would guess that you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • Im 15 and iv had my period for 4 years but iv still never used a tampon and i want to. I have tried by i cant do it and it hurts. please help?

    All it takes is a little practice and it's never been easier to try than now by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  We do recommend that you try on day 2 or 3 when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  Try to relax before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.  For more help with this, take a look at our video on How to use a non-applicator tampon.  Remember, all it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that using tampons provides to millions of females all over the world.

  • Hi vicki,, I have very overprotective parents. I am meant to be going to my friends after school by train with her and other people one day soon but I am not allowed to take the train without an adult. I am just going to tell them that her mum is picking us up. I know it's wrong to lie but they ruin everything. I feel like it's their fault I have started to lie to them because I have always been so honest and open with them but I have no freedom. Dk you think I'm a bad person?? x

    I don't agree with you deceiving your parents as they really do have your best interests at heart so please try talking to them to see if you can find some middle ground for you all to work with.  Once you have proven that you are responsible, I am sure they will allow you more freedom.

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    I have deleted the contents of your question as it may be offensive to others, but in answer to your query, legally this is not unlawful, but the school may find your teachers behaviour inappropriate especially if you still attend school.

  • Hy vicki.im 16 turning 17 by nxt mnth bt ma breasts re still as little as dey were since i waz 11.initially,ma mum had a late maturity bt iz bursty.bt most of ma dad's family re small chested.do u fink ill end up lyk dem?? .kween

    Hi, it would be almost impossible for me to advise you on your final size but as we continue to develop into our late teens and early twenties you have plenty of time for growth to continue. However, it is also important to love your shape regardless of what that may be and I do hope you feel this way and understand that all breasts are beautiful no matter what their size.

  • Do you think it is appropriate for a parent to hit their children?
    Please answer viki I need u!

    If you feel the behaviour of your parents is of concern, then I would urge you to speak to a trusted adult such as a grandparent, aunt or teacher who will be able to advise you further.

  • What is masterbating??? I woyld like to try it I'm 13 thanks! PS di I have to tell my parents when I do it??

    Masturbation is both a natural and instinctive activity and as teenagers find themselves becoming sexually aware of their body and how it responds to touch it is very normal to feel curious about exploring your body in this way. It is not something someone generally shares with other people nor should you feel you have to do this just because other are.

  • What is my bra size 81 cm under and 95 cm over? How do you know that a bra fits properly? Also what places do you think have good bras in the UK?
    Thank you very much Bethan

    36B is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki I need help my best friend has a crush on me but I don't know if I like her like that she told me that she was gay about a year ago and is totally cool with people knowing this. I don't know what to do should I give her a chance? Thanks sorry if it's a weird question
    Viola

    Hi Viola, if you do not feel attracted to your friend then there is no reason for you to consider dating. Have a quiet word with your friend letting her know you are flattered that she thinks of you in this way but, that for now you are unsure of how you feel and would prefer if you could keep your relationship on a friends only basis for now.

  • You always say that after u have released discharge for 6-12 months your period will come. Well ive had it for nearly 2 years now and it still hasnt come. Im 15 and Ive had my growth spurt im 5"6. Im flat chested. When will my period come Ive been waiting for a long time

    I always say 'most' girls experience discharge for between 6-12 months and like anything there will always be exceptions to this timeframe and it really is nothing to be worried about, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hi Vicki I need help I think i like my best friends brother but I don't know what to say to her and to him I think he likes me back as he always seems shy around me and blushes a lot around me. What do I do?

    Yoru

    Hi, I am sure if this boy likes you eventually he will let you know and this should not be a problem or cause friction between you and your friend. For now simply get to know this boy as a friend as there really is no rush to move things on too quickly at this time.

  • Hi Vicki I need some help me and my best friend both like the same guy and we both know it I don't want to hurt her feelings but I really like him what should I do?
    Thank you
    London Kirk

    Hi London Kirk, if you are both aware of how the other feels and have agreed you will still be friends no matter what happens then there really is nothing more to do, other than to see if this boy feels the same way about either or you.

  • I Really want my period u am 12 nearly 13 want can I dk to make it hurry along my mum didn't get hers till she was late 15 does that mean I will

    We do not all get our periods at the same time as family members and there really is nothing you can do to make your period arrive any sooner than when your body feels the time is right just for you. So be patient and be prepared. You may even like to ask your mum to purchase our Lil-Lets teens starter pack for you.

  • Bonjour Vicki I need some help and thought that you most likely have good advice. My best friend has this crush on a guy but me and my other friend don't like him at all he's annoying and loud but every time we try to tell her that she just denies it and says that's not true. What should I do thanks
    Paris

    Hi Paris, it would not do for us all to like the same person and if your friend has decided she likes this boy, as good friends you should support her decision and offer only positive advice when discussing this boy, I am sure she would do the same for you if you liked someone, regardless of how she felt about the person in question.

  • I've been feeling so down lately๐Ÿ˜” I'm normally really hyper, loud and bubbly but I don't feel myself. I try to act normal around my friends so they don't worry, but I think some have noticed. I just want to sit alone and cry. I sit on my own thinking and my mum has noticed. One day I didnt move, hardly ate or drank and just cried. I hate it and I know it's my hormones but I get it when I'm not on/near my period too๐Ÿ˜ฐ
    Please help๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜

    Hi, the change from a girl to a young woman does not just affect us when our periods are here or due, we can feel emotional all the time and during this time it is important to share your concerns or feelings with family and friends, they will be able to support you and help you manage this time. You may also find my blog on Puberty and Hormones and our section on Emotions and Feelings useful to read also.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm just finishing my period, I still have a light bleed. But recently I've been needing to go to the toilet more often and also I have a throbbing/pulsing pain in my downstairs area (most likely my c or v) and it hurts so bad! I asked my teacher to go to the toilet because I thought I needed it but I only piddled and it stung loads! I drink a lot too, but I was wondering what it is?
    Thanks x

    Hi, you may have a urine infection and it is important to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you as if not treated quickly it may become more painful.

  • Hi Vicki, I got my period last month, it came yesterday but there was only a little bit of brown-red blood and it hasn't come it was only one drop on one day. Is this my period?

    Periods can often be irregular in not only their arrival but the amount of fluid released so please try not to worry this is all very normal and all part of your body's journey through puberty.

  • Hi vicki, I have had a severe pain in my ear and I can't hear out of it and I have also been having a high temperature recently, but the problem is, I always exaggerate to my mum to get off school but now that I have a real problem, she doesn't believe me.
    What can I do and do you know what this is?
    Love scarlet

    Hi Scarlet, ear infections are very painful and I am sure your mum will quickly realise you are not faking this ailment and genuinely feel unwell.

  • Heyy, I was wondring my period blood comes out a kind of orangey colour and I have had no discharge but suddenly started my droid yesterday is that normal t wasn't it my period and my period blood always only stains the back of my pad not the front so I just wanted your spectacular view on those things โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ Thx Ilysm โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    Hi, menstrual fluid can vary in colour, often appearing light brown (almost orange) in colour and if you sit down this fluid can often appear at the back of the pad. However if the stain has an offensive odour remember it may not be your period at all, but instead residue from waste food released and not wiped away thoroughly.

  • Hey, I have some of your applicator tampons but I'm really scared of using them. I don't understand how to use them. Could you please explain?๐Ÿ’˜
    Lola-mary

    Each box of applicator tampons comes with full instructions on how to insert and remove, together with helpful tips on health and safety. You may also find our video: Inserting Applicator tampons useful too. Finally, remember that just like anything new using tampons can take a little practice so don't worry if at first you struggle to insert the tampon or it feels a little uncomfortable, this generally means the tampon has not been inserted high enough inside your vagina.

  • Hello...
    Me and my boyfriend had protected sex two days ago, but I was on my period at the same time (a tad nasty but again, it was protected)
    It's the first time we've done it and I can't decide whether it's just me being extremely paranoid or I'm pregnant? I thought the condom didn't look right so we changed it and finished.

    Two days later, I've been worried and I've felt sick and had headaches, but I'm too scared to tell my parents as I am only 14...

    What do I do?

    There is no medical evidence to show that having sexual intercourse when on your period can impact on your health and there may be an unrelated reason behind your sickness and headache. Finally, please be aware that it is against the law for a boy or man to have sexual relations with a girl under the age of 16.

  • So there this boy at my school I like him and everyone at my school says he like me . But he's told me he likes another girl but I don't want to ask him out cos if he says no it would be a massive thing . Also this boy been really nice he helped me when another boy asked me out and I said no so he called me a slag so this boy ( the one I like ) helped me to go to the teacher . Sorry if this is really confusing ๐Ÿ˜Š

    It seems this boy likes you as a friend and whether this may grow into something more only time will tell. You could ask him why he has not yet asked this girl out that he claims to like and if he is evasive this may be a sign that he has now changed his mind and likes someone else instead.

  • Hi vicki
    This is a weird one but basically my vigina is a different to a normal one as if you look at it a wrinkly piece of skin is outside if it and a bit underneth you can see aswell. It has been like this since i was born but i dont know if it is anything to worry about or not as i have not yet had my period and am 13. Xo

    There is no such thing as a 'standard' vagina, they all look different and once a girl has hit puberty they will change shape, size and colour too. So please try not to worry we really are all unique.

  • Hi vicki! I have had my period for more than a year now but for the past 3 weeks I have had 3 periods (1 each week) 2 of them were a normal flow but the one I have now is really heavy! I really don't know what's going on is this normal? And what should I do? Thanks

    This is quite common as periods can have either short or long gaps between each one throughout the teenage years and as the body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you, so please try not to worry.

  • Hey
    I have a swim comp today and my period is due. I can't miss it as I am at national level and I am already 8 days late. This is only my second one please help.
    For some reason you didn't answer this question on my last one but doesn't matter. I just need an urgent reply please.
    From
    Girlinneedasherperkodisdue!!

    Hi, if your period is not yet here then I see no reason why you cannot enter the pool and compete in the competition without protection. Periods can often be irregular with long and short gaps between each one and this is nothing to be worried about it is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi vicki I have had discharge for around 7 months and recently it's been quite heavy I only way 6.6 stone and am 163 cm tall I'm really worried im gonna start at school and leak I uave pads just in case but could u they'll me roufly when it's coming sorry about the spelling I can't spell ๐Ÿ™ˆ

    Discharge can often be experienced for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period and I am pleased to hear you keep some pads in your school bag in preparation. Why not read my blog entitled Periods in School for more on this subject.

  • Part 2 problem
    I've also noticed her teeth are looking a bit yellowish and her teeth are far at the bottom are starting to look a bit apart. Please get back to this quick cause im worried for her she's one of my best mates and I don't want to say anything to her cause it might seem rude.

    If your friend has mentioned to you that she vomits food back up, then I see no reason why you cannot bring this matter up  letting her know how dangerous this can be to someone's health. If she then decides to ignore your comments and you continue to be concerned have a chat to your mum or teacher who may intervene on your behalf.

  • Can you get discharge at night and if you don't wear a pad, can discharge stain your pants? I hate discharge .
    From Georgia

    Hi Georgia, you can release discharge at any time of the day or night and whilst it may mark your underwear any stains will easily be removed when washed.

  • Is it better to dance with tampons or pads and when is it ok to start using tampons? Could you use them on your first period?
    Laura

    Hi Laura, if you feel ready to use tampons there is no reason why you should not even if it is your first period, but please be sure you understand your flow and have permission from your mum or the person who cares for you to try this form of protection. Finally, if you are not yet ready, I see no reason why you should not wear pads when dancing and lots of girls do.

  • Part 1 problem
    Hi vicki im kind of worried about my friend I think she might have bulimia. she might be because she often eats crap food for dinner and eate small portions of food and when she was texting me earlier she said she can throw up whenever she likes. But she might not be because she's quite dramatic and seeks attention.

    See my response in Part Two.

  • what are liners ?? are they a bit like pads in the way you out them in your pants???

    Yes just like pads are placed inside your underwear so are liners and you can find out more about the difference between the two by reading my blog entitles The Difference Between Pads and Liners.

  • Hi vicki , I'm 12 nearly 13 and I've had my period around 4 times . The problem is that I am a pad user but I am going on holiday very soon (April 9th) and I would like to go in the pool . I know I cannot swim with a pad but I have never used a tampon before -- what would be you advice ? ๐ŸŒบ jess

    If you feel ready to try tampons then consider our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator range of tampons, shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for first time users. If you are not quite ready for internal sanitary protection then there is no reason why you should not find other things to do on the days when your period is here, such as sightseeing, shopping, tennis or volleyball.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I had protected sex last month then my period came, I haven't had sex since but this month my period hasn't come and I'm 1week late so far. It sounds silly because I'm pretty sure you can't be pregnat if you haven't had sex since you last period, but I'm worrying.

    People do worry if their period does not follow its normal pattern even when they know that there is no reason for concern. And I am sure this delay is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • I have discharge in my nickars and I was wondering is there any other reason for discharge than puberty?
    thanks - B xx ๐Ÿ˜˜

    Hi B, discharge is almost always a sign that your body is now maturing and is keeping the vagina clean and free from infection. It is nothing to be worried about and all very normal.

  • I recently started using the little lets tampons and I found them absolutely fine, however, I read somewhere on a sight about purely organic cotton tampons and how much better they are for your health. It went on to list all the benefits and why not to use regular tampons. But I figured since a vast amount of people DO use regular tampons, it probably isn't as bad as they make it out to be??

    There is no evidence to show that organic cotton tampons will perform any differently when inserted or that they are better for your health and as you have quite rightly said, millions of women would not choose to use Lil-Lets if they were not assured of their very safe history in use, now spanning more than 60 years.

  • Hello Vicki I just moved schools but feel like everyone talks about me behind my back and make fun of me because I'm a half albino with white hair but purple eyes and I speak mostly Norwegian and don't know what to do about it. I think the teacher don't really like me either because I have dyslexia and adhd so I find it hard to pay attention in class and my dad is in the military. My mom is normally busy and I don't want to burden her what should I do? Thanks
    Lyra

    It's never easy being the 'new girl' but try not to let this bother you and try to be yourself.  Please talk to your mum about how you're feeling too as she will be able to support you.  Try to be patient, as things should improve in time.

  • ciao Vicki my friends were talking about they're periods and about discharge but I never had discharge when and before I started my period. Is this normal or not? thanks

    Feliciana

    Hi Feliciana, there are always exceptions to the rule.

  • hallo Vicki well I'm in the shower I realized that a lot of my hair came out and was worried about It I still have hair on my head but with the amout on my brush I was Suprised that I wasn't bald. Do you know what's happening? It's okay if you don't im just curious and slightly worried thanks

    Maria

    Hi Maria, as you are slightly worried about your hair loss, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind. 

  • Hi Vicki I have a problem with my period in 13 years old and have a pretty heavy flow on the second day but that's almost always the day we have gym at my school. The problem is that my teacher Is a guy and dosnt get the problems of being a female every month. We normally have to run a lot but when I'm on my period I can't run at all I try but it's not a good idea. How do I tell him about my period so he will understand thanks
    -Ireland (or ire)

    Hi Ire, try not to worry as I'm sure your teacher is well aware that girls in his gym class will be on their period.  Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and they should never interfere with all the things you want to do in life so they shouldn't really prevent you from running at all.

  • I started my period over a two years ago now but its really irregular i come on every 2 months or sometimes 3 or 4. Why is this happening i dont understand?but i still get discard all the time?

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry and as you've been having irregular periods for more than two years, you might like to ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • I don't know how large my flow is exactly and i use Tampax Pearl Active, but it leaked sometimes. What should I do and how can I find how big my flow is thxxxxxxx
    MC๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿฎ

    As your current choice of sanitary protection is causing you to leak, you might like to try using Lil-Lets range of tampons as there is a wide range of absorbencies available.  For some help with this, check out my blog on Understanding tampon absorbencies.  A normal period sees menstrual blood loss of between 20-60ml or 4-12 teaspoonful and a heavy period sees menstrual blood loss of between 60-80ml or half a teacupful.

  • Hi, I'm 14 years old and I weigh like 105 pounds, but I'm barely 5.0". I haven't started my period yet and I'm kinda concerned. Almost everyone in my grade has started, even girls way skinnier than me have started. My sister who was way smaller than me started when she was barely 13. I'm really athletic so I think that has something to do with it but shouldn't I start around the same time as my sister?

    Try not to worry as we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you have been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki
    I am aspiring to become a model and I am confodent about most of my body apart from my ears. I get tease about them if I wear my hair up and you might say that I should talk to a teacher or whatever but a lot of the teasing is from myself. Even so I still get teased and I feel if I get them pinned back it will help me with confidence and my modelling but I'm not completely sure...

    I would imagine if you asked even the most successful of models that would all have something they do not like about their appearance but would readily admit it is what makes they unique. So my advice would be to avoid surgery where possible and continue with confidence in your chosen career.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 14 and I have liked this boy for a very long time now. He is one of my best friends and he likes this other girl that he's always talking about which makes me feel so sad. But I REALLY like this guy he is so important to me and I really think that I might love him. I can see myself being something really special with him but no matter what I think say or do he will still like this other girl and it drives me insane. Should I persevere or get over him?

    During puberty, teens easily form a deep attraction to others due to the increase in activity of hormones and this is called a crush.  The thing is that crushes often fade in time but as this boy likes someone else, you should respect that and try to forget about him.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 14 years old and I started puberty when I was about 11 or maybe younger (I don't know if this makes any difference but it could be useful to know I guess). Anyway I currently wear a 32C bra and I would just like to know if this is a normal size for my age and if you think by boobs will get bigger.
    Thanks โ˜บ๏ธ

    Your bra size is perfect for you and it is possible for breast development to continue up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • I'm sorry this is crazy, my best friend fancies my boyfriend and my other best friends crush fancies me! And my boyfriends best friend (my best friend too) keeps flirting with me! I'm surrounded! Help!

    Abbie xoxo

    Hi Abbie, how complicated!  The thing is that during puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to feel attracted to others and this is called a crush but the thing is that crushes often fade with time.  I think that you should all spend some time getting to know each other better as friends and see what happens.

  • {part 3}
    I have my period and small breasts, what would I do about them? Would I have to have a new name for being a lad? My preferred pronoun depends on what gender I feel. I kind of cross dress already, but ugh idk I'm so confused.
    Thanks
    6763

    Response was in part 2.

  • I am going for a bra fitting and I'm really scared! What happens and will it hurt? And what if I don't need a bra then? My mum says I do but mine are tiny compared to some...

    Being fitted for a bra is painless so you have nothing to worry about.  You will also find that the fitter will be professionally trained and will be able to put you at your ease so try not to worry.

  • {part 2}
    she said we could go for coffee and look in clothes shops. Should I tell her how I feel then? Pimples scared of what she will say. If she said yes, I think I'd just get some hair gel, a shirt and chinos for the days when I feel like a boy, and sweats and a hoodie (and gel) for when I feel genderless. I'm not sure. I'm so confused. Nobody knows how I feel about this. If I did change my gender identity (I think that's what you call it) would the teachers have to know and

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls and boys, it's no wonder that they feel confused at times.  Please talk to your mum and try not to put yourself under any pressure.

  • {part 1}
    Hey. So I'm Panromantic asexual, and have been that way for ages. I'm 12. I have always not felt comfortable as a girl. Sometimes I feel like a boy. Sometimes I feel like a girl. Sometimes I feel genderless. My parents know that im a tomboy and that I'm not straight, but they don't know how I feel about my gender. Should I tell my mum? I'm away with her next weekend and

    Response in part 2.

  • Vicki, I have a friend C who I like but he has a gf and they are cute together and I don't want to split them up coz he's myfriend and he will be unhappy and it's mean. We get on really wel and text daily.I don't know what to do coz I have liked him for a long timeand even dreamed about him asking me out! I do like other boys but they are single so I don't feel bad but with him I do and it is awkward with his gf because hewill say jokingly not knowing I like him 'coz you love me' even when his gf is around!

    Hi, it may be time to distance yourself from this boy, that is not to say that you should stop speaking to him, but rather keep conversations short and start spending time with others. Eventually it will be less painful to see him with his girlfriend and hopefully you will have found someone who cares for you as much as you care for them.

  • Hi vicki, so I started my period a few days ago and im 11. My problem is if I go to the school bathroom to change my pad, im scared that people will hear the sound of my pad and know its my period, any advice?? Thanks in advance ๐Ÿ’Ÿ

    Periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so try not to feel embarrassed about having to change your pad as every other girl will be in the same position at times.

  • Hi viki,
    I like this boy i met in maths lesson on Saturday but he lives a hour away i want to get to know him better! But the lessonss have stopped! I'm friends with him on instagram and can send private messages to him! What should i do? The last time i saw him my heart beated so fast! I know as i am only 14 this might well be a crush but i can't stop thinking about him! Help! I don't think i'll ever see him again in person! Help! Thanks!
    Cherryblossom

    Hi Cherryblossom, puberty is naturally a time when teens can form a deep attraction to someone and you're right in calling this a crush and the thing is that crushes often fade in time.

  • I always masturbate and watch porn and I feel guilty afterwards, how can I stop? I always do it before I go to sleep

    The thing to remember is that whilst it's normal to feel curious about sex, watching pornography can sometimes give you a distorted view of what a loving, respectful sexual relationship should be like.  So, why not try to focus on the things that are more important to us in life, like family, friends and school.

  • Hi Vicki,about 22 days ago I saw a brown stain in my pants where a cream one would usually be from discharge.I told my mum and used pads, but it wasn't a proper period.I looked it up,and the results said it meant that I was going to start having periods very soon!The blood went away after 2/3 days,so I thought nothing of it.The stain has just come back last night,but it is still brown and heavier than before,but not heavy enough to meet my expectations of a period.What if it isn't spotting?!Please help me!

    This was your period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi I am 14 turning 15 November, I'm a 32G & I'm 5.1ft im worried that my body is out of proportion also it's really random but my feet at a size uk1 I'm wondering if my body will every even out? Xx

    As you are still going through puberty, your body is still developing so try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hey vicki .. can a 12 year old girl suffer from depression? And what are the signs of it x

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them to feel susceptible to stress.  So try dancing to your favourite music, watch funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will help you to feel better.

  • My parents split up ages ago but when my dad gave me his phone to play a game it was still on his messages and this is how it went
    Mum: Hi I sent u the pics of ( mysistersname)s costume
    Dad:Ok thnx ๐Ÿ˜˜
    Then-
    Mum: Im not going to exercise class because i have a lump under my arm
    Dad: If u help me look after the girls ill give u a massage
    Dad: No being naughty promise๐Ÿ˜‡
    Mum: Mmmmm
    R they together and hiding it?

    This is something you should discuss with them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    The other night my parents went out and I had a panic attack. I was crying, breathing weirdly, shaking and my heart was pounding. I want to let my mum know and everything but I don't know how to because I think she'll think I was just being silly and crying but it was a panic attack.
    How do I tell her? Please answer!
    Sasha B xx

    Hi Sasha, please talk to your mum about this and consider learning some relaxation techniques like taking deep breaths and distracting your thinking.  Yoga would be a great way of teaching you to relax and deal with stress effectively too.

  • Hi Vicki, after a bath,i noticed dark rings around my nipples and white on the inside of my black crop top. What is this? Thnx from Nyeli

    Hi Nyeli, the dark rings around your nipples are called areolas which are perfectly normal so try not to worry and nipple leakage is very normal during puberty caused by an increase in hormones.

  • Then V asked him if he liked me infront of evry1 on the bus that was from our school ( about 21 ppl) and he said yes . Then evryone said awwwww and i got if the bus because i was embarrassed and i already have a boyfriend in secret . Now i feel guilty because he really likes me. My friend said i should go out with him for a day and then dump him but i dk t want to do that. Part II
    Sweetiemarshmallows

    If you don't really like this boy then you shouldn't go out with him just because he has asked you and besides, you already have someone else that you like.

  • Hi I'm 13 and I have noticed under arm hair Im scared to ask what to do. What should I do I'm going to Disney so i don't want to have gorilla arms in photos what should I do
    Thanks

    Under arm hair is perfectly natural so try not to worry.  You might like to ask your mum to show you how to shave and in not time at all, you will be doing it without even thinking about it whilst having a shower or bath.

  • There was a boy that liked me ( j ). First boys kept coming to me and telling me ur the one that j likes.Then when we were all waiting for the bus one of the boys asked me if i like him and i said no. Then my friend ,v,went and spoke to him. So she brought him over to me and told him to say hi to me and he said hi. Part I
    Sweetiemarshmallows

    Response in part 2.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I got my first period 2 months ago, and since then i have not had another proper period although i have had all of the symptoms of a period and when i wipe there was blood although nothing every came out. they lasted a couple of days. is this normal?
    Thanks, Sophie

    Hi Sophie, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I am a late bloomer i am 15 and flat chested no period but i am tall and have had my growth spurt. Everyone makes fun of me i tell my mum about my problems and she says i should give it time. But ive given it time for 3+ years and still nothing. I dont think i can give it more time i am so so upset and i think i am getting depressed please help thank you

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  It is also good to know that breasts can develop up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • I have had my growth spurt but i still havent got my period. Its been a long time Im 15 and 5"6. Does this mean something is delayed

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I am really worried about my growth, im 15 and i am completely flat. I cant wear any of the clothes my friends wear and they always make fun of me. I have no development in the chest area apart from buds. I havent started my period but discharge for 2ish years. Please dont say they will grow beacause they arent growing at all do i need to take pills????

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi, I'm a bit worried because I'm underweight and all my friends say that I'm anorexic with I think is very inappropriate. I'm 13 but I wear clothes that supposed to be fire 9-10 year olds, I'm not so much short, just wquite skinny and I feel self conscious about lt but know i don't have an eating disorder, is there any way I can put on weigh? I'm 152cm tall and I weigh 32 kilograms Is that ok?

    Please talk to your parents about this.  If you are very underweight, your GP will be able to advise you on a diet that will help you to gain weight.

  • hi im 15 and i rly need help. i havent started my period and everyone makes fun of me. im tall but flat chested. everyone else has started and i am the only one left. you always say to me that my period isnt far off but it clearly is. i think i need to see a doctor. its got to a bad point i always think depressing things and its rly affecting me pls help what can i do to get it to start i cant do this

    Try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • is 136lb for a 13 year old fat
    ple give me your opinion
    I really don't mind if what you say I really need to know

    If you feel that you are overweight, you should try sticking to a healthy, balanced diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water and try to be as active as possible.

  • So this girl used to be in our friendship group and she left and the. Came back then left again and has gone to our head of year and said we are bullying her and she has got her mum to phone school. I'm so scared we haven't done anything wrong ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    You will have the opportunity to share your view on this matter so try not to worry.  Just be honest and it should hopefully be resolved.

  • Hi, I've just got my first bra but it's my sisters old one, it fits fine but do you know anywear that does good cheap bras. I'm a size 30 aa and nowhere seems to have it because its the smallest size. :( thanks xx

    Hi, Primark, New Look and BHS are all great stores for reasonably priced underwear.

  • hi vicki its ebony (the girl who asked about the boy and streach marks)
    im 12 and i have size 38b boobs! i think i might be a bit big is this bad? because im not skinny (im meduim but planning to lose the weight) if i do lose weight will my boobs become smaller? ASAP PLEASE ANSWER!!
    thx
    from ebony xxxx

    Hi Ebony, you're still only 12 and have yet some way to develop with puberty so it is likely that you will notice more breast development.  Try to be patient and allow yourself some time to develop into your grown-up self.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    I go dancing and I love it there but there's one teacher who really hates me and she has pushed me I've four times! My mum spoke to her but she just lied to my mum saying she loved me. I really don't know what to do because I don't want to leave because my best friend is there .
    Love Nicky

    Hi Nicky, as your mum has spoke to your dance teacher, I would hope that she has stopped pushing you.  Should her shocking behaviour continue, tell your mum again and then perhaps you should think about finding another dance class to attend. 

  • I have a massive crush on the guy I sit next to. I think he likes me. People always say he likes K and he says he doesn't but when another boy at my table said he liked me he said he liked K. Don't say he will tell me because he is kinda shy and had never asked a girl out. We talk alot and like each other etc. Does he like me? And how do I tell him I like him without making it awkward?


    Keywords: Purple hair

    If you chat to this boy and spend time with him, he will eventually understand that you like him without you having to come straight out with it.  Remember too that there really is no rush to declare your attraction for someone simply being friends is important too.

  • So my mum is gonna get me the lil lets freshlock pads but I just wanted to know the price of them and if there are any offers on (in Boots)

    Lil-Lets Freshlock pads are around £2.00 in most stockists but currently, you will find them on offer at Superdrug for buy one get one half price or at Boots, they are on a 3 for 2 offer.

  • I talk to three boys... And when they are by themselves they are very nice understanding and trustworthy (some of them I tell my deepest secrets to) but when these three boys are together they make fun of me, laugh at me, make sick jokes and take pictures of me on their phones. I don't know why?!? I really like these boys they are really my close friends but I dont understand that when they are together they take the mick out of me?

    I think it might be a case of them showing off in front of you.  If they like you, they might consider this as a way of getting your attention but if you don't like it, tell them to stop or just continue your friendships by dealing with them individually.

  • I like this boy a lot, and he knew I did, then now I say I'm completely over him because I feel so embarrassed but I'm not I just like him quite a lot. I keep saying I don't like hi anymore to avoid getting comments from people at school but I do, please can you give me some advice

    As you are feeling hurt at the moment, you should try to keep yourself as busy as possible by doing lots of activities with your family and friends.  Time is a great healer.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Sorry if innappropriate but whenever a member of family kisses my face it feels tingly and goes down my throat as a tickly senstation! What is this please.
    Also, what age does discharge tend to occur? Please say an age, and please dont say 'it varies'
    Thank you
    Dreamer123

    Hi Dremer123, the sensation you experience when someone in your family kisses you is completely natural so try not to worry and as for discharge, everyone is different and releases it at different ages.  This is reflected by the fact that girls can start their periods any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicki I am 12 years old and still don't fit into a bra . I have buds but I only wear crop tops and it makes me feel insecure because every other girl in the class apart from one owns a bra . Also some of my friends have been teasing me .2 of my best friends were talking about how they have so many bras whilst we were changing and I replied to a convo with "me too" . They took it the wrong way and said you don't even own one!! And laughed. Is there anyway I can feel more comfortable? Xx๐Ÿ’–

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  Try to ignore the immature comments of your friends as it is quite possible that you could end up with larger breasts than them one day as breast development can continue up until a girl's late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi vicki! I think I started my period in November and it came in February so that's 3 months difference, do you think my next period will come within 3 months from February? And my period in November was so light and the one in February was so heavy, is this normal? Olivia xx

    Hi Olivia, you will simply have to wait and see but try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hiya ๐Ÿ™‹ hope your well โ˜บ๏ธ Who is on the list for an interview this year? Please can you have Cheryl I love her to the moon and back ๐Ÿ˜ Thankyou ๐Ÿ’•

    I will pass your suggestion on to the team.

  • I feel left out because all my friends have periods but i dont!
    Im 9 and a half my birthday is next month and i have all the symptoms but no period :(


    Please help!!!!

    xxAimee

    There is plenty of time for you to start your period as girls can start any time between the ages of 8-18.  the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you have been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • hi viki
    my friend this boy that i went out with that i dumped for penis pictures and then after this happened i asked him out we were going out of a couple of days and then my ex friend kept on asking and he gave in and sent her one is that classed as cheating ?

    thanks annabel

    Hi Annabel, it saddens me that you and your friends are so open to send naked pictures to each other and if you are under the age of 18 I can assure you the police take a very dim view of the posting or sharing of these images. To answer your question....what do you think? If your boyfriend is happy to share such intimate pictures with another person, I really would question how committed to your relationship he truly is.

  • Hello,

    When i go to sleep will my period leak on my bed? I'm a bit worried that it will and i won't be able to sleep.

    Many girls notice that their menstrual flow decreases by up to 40% at night so try not to worry.  For peace of mind, you could always double up on your pads.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm off on holiday soon and I have a bikini to wear. I shave my legs and under arms but what shall I do for "down there" ? Really confused and worried :/ sorry if inappropriate. Love this website it really helps, from L xxx

    You might like to consider simply trimming your pubic hair back so it will not be visible.  Have a fabulous holiday and thank you for the support.

  • How can I shave tha hair in between my legs near my vagina? I don't want to catch my skin with the razor

    Be sure to be very careful whilst doing this.

  • If I wear a menstrual cup and I did a hand stand, would all the blood from the cup spill out of the cup back into my body?

    This is a question for the makers of the Menstrual Cup.

  • Hi Vicki, I was just wondering if it is possible to wear night towels in the day??? And if so how long to the last for??? Thanks x

    The choice is yours and pads should be changed every 3-4 hours.

  • Hi Vicky
    I have never shaved my pubic hair but recently my puboc hair has been SO PAINFUL. stinging,ichy and very uncomfortable. Why? ps. do you have to shave your pubic hair??

    There is no rule book anywhere that says you have to remove hair anywhere on your body, and it is unusual for hair to be painful, which makes me wonder if it is the skin itself that is irritated and you may want to ask your mum or the person who cares for you if they have changed any washing detergent to toiletries lately that could be causing this itchy feeling you have been experiencing.

  • I have started puberty and i have had discharge for 4 months now do you know aproxamately when i will start my period?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki
    this boy keeps on flirting with me but says he likes my best friend. what should I do?

    Firstly, flirting and being nice to someone can often get confused, so be sure that this boy is flirting and not simply being a good friend. If you are convinced it is the former then pull him to one side and let him know he is giving off mixed signals and that if he does not like you romantically he should stop being so flirty. It may however be that this boy is a natural flirt with a great many girls, do your homework first and see how he is around others before having this chat.

  • Hi Vicki,
    There's this boy on my street who is in the year above me at school (we go to different schools), I have only met him a few times but I think I have a crush on him but I think he has a girlfriend. I am hoping that when all the neighbours have parties I will get to know him a bit better but for now what should I do ?
    Thanks xx ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŽ€๐Ÿ’–๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŽ€๐Ÿ’–

    Crushing on someone a little older than yourself is very common amongst teens and as you believe this boy already has a girlfriend, for now I would keep any thoughts to that of a friend and next time you see him smile and say "Hi".

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering if you are maybe wanting a young teenage girl councillor/advice person? You see I would just love to help people with their problems, whether its puberty or feelings. If so let me know and perhaps ill contact you?

    Hi, thank you for your kind offer. Why not consider reading my blogs, girls often ask for advice in this section of our site.

  • Girls&boys,you are all beautiful. You are spectacular, even if you can't see that yourself. Life may be hard right now, but please do not give up. Carry on fighting and you will succeed, no matter what your problems are. I love you all

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful optimism.

  • Vicki,I hate myself&life in general.I'm sad all the time,my life hasn't been the best,with having an abusive,alcoholic father&a disabled mum who I must take care of.I am 13&have no one to talk to.No one cares;everyone leaves&says they cant deal with my sadness.Im leaving out huge chunks right now.Ive been having horrible,suicidal thoughts.I just dont think I can go on. No one should have such a cruel life

    I know you are going through a hard time at the moment but please believe that your life won't always be like this.  You can call Childline on 0800 1111 for support and advice.  You can also get your mum to ask for the help she is entitled to from your local Health Service which can be arranged through her GP.  Please try to take comfort in the fact that there is help out there for you and the sooner you ask for it the better it will be.  You could also try talking to a mentor or trusted teacher at school as they will also be able to support you.

  • Hi Vicki, is it alright when you get your period in school you use toilet roll as a pad?

    It is ok to do this as a temporary measure but you could prevent having to do this by using pant liners and keeping some pads in your school bag.

  • I need help! My friend is upset because she has feelings for another girl. She's asking me for advice but I'm not sure what to say. Any help?! X

    You could advise your friend that during puberty, it is normal for teens to feel attracted to both the same and the opposite sex but this doesn't necessarily mean that she is a lesbian.  Tell her to continue being friends with the girl she feels attracted to and see how she feels over time.

  • I started my period when I was 11 and I am now 14 and still just about fit into an AA cup, my boobs haven't grown for about 2 years ! Will they always be this small ? My mum is about a D cup
    Thanks , E

    You will simply have to wait and see as breast development can continue up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so try not to worry.

  • What colours can Discharge be? What do they mean?

    Why not check out our section on Discharge for all you need to know about this fluid.

  • Hi vicki, in mid December I had about 2-3 days where I had brown discharge and I thought it just meant that my first period was coming so I got some pads, but yesterday when I went to the loo I noticed that the brown discharge was back, do you think that this is my period because i thought periods were meant to be red and i know it not dried up blood, also it's not 'runny'' like I imagined a period to be,I don't want to tell my mum incase it turns out to not be my period. Please help me!

    This is still your period so try not to worry.

  • Hello, I'm 14, I have a big calcium mark on my front tooth and always have had it, it makes me feel really self conscious and I hate the way it looks! It makes me feel sad and ugly, my dentist can't do anything about it. Do you have any advise on how I could make it less visible? Thank you ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ๐ŸŽญ

    White spots on teeth can have an impact on someone's self confidence even though they do not adversely affect the health of the tooth itself.  Remember though, they are not what makes you special and I am sure we all have something about our appearance that we dislike but learn to accept and I hope you will feel this way too in time. You may also want to have another chat to your dentist to see if there are any cosmetic procedures that can help reduce the appearance of these deposits as advances in this area are always being created.

  • So I had sexual intercourse on February and normally I get my period the final week before the month ends. So on February I was supposed to get my period on February 21 and it lasts for 5 days. However, I got my period on march 1st. Its march 22nd today and I got white discharge that went through my pants. What does this mean?

    I am assuming that you are 16 or over and that you use contraception when having sexual intercourse and if this is the case I am sure you have nothing to be worried about. Discharge is often noticed in between periods and can change in colour and texture from time to time too.

  • can you get thrush from masturbating??

    Thrush is a yeast infection and not something that is generally linked to masturbation.

  • dear vicki,
    i seem to only get discharge during the day, is this normal? and my discharge is always quite far forward in my pants and i don't know why???

    sophiexx

    HI Sophie, it is perfectly normal for discharge to vary in amount, colour and consistency throughout your cycle so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • dear Vicki
    I like think I might like this boy who when I saw him once asked for my number and I didn't reply because I was so in shock, and I never saw him again after that and I try to get the bus the same time as him but I never se him. I cant stop thinking about him. what do I do?- J

    Hi J, fate willing, you will hopefully get to see this boy again so when you do, say hello and ask his name.  You can then get to know each other as friends and explain how shocked you were when he asked for your number.

  • So ive had discharge since last year now and Im worrying if I never start my period 12 months of dishcharge is a long time for me n I wonder if it will ever happen all my friends have started and I want it too just hurry up and be done with it I'm scared I have pads and pantie liners and my mum knows I just need your help !!

    Try not to worry as due to the fact that you have been releasing discharge for a year, it shouldn't be too far away.

  • hi vicki, i have for the past 2-3 years been pleasuring myself by humping a cushion, until i felt pleasure. i want to know if this is normal for a 13 year old girl and whether it will effect me in the long run????????

    During puberty, sex hormones run riot causing teens to experience intense feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Hi Vicki, i started my period last Sunday and finished Wednesday, but I have started bleeding again this Monday, i just wanted to know is it normal?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki i started my period today and me and my mum went to the shops and bought some lil lets teen products and i love the day pads and am excited to use the tampons
    Zoeee

    Hi Zoee, congratulations and thank you for supporting our products.  We hope you like them as much as we do.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I love badminton and play it often. My friends think its awfull and only idiots play it! How can i tell them i love it when i know they will laugh and tease me๐Ÿ˜ฅ

    If you love badminton, you shouldn't let anything your friends say deter you from playing it.  It is a fabulous way of staying fit and healthy so ignore them and continue playing the sport you love.

  • Hi Viki.. I have my first bf and I don't know how to talk him now that I'm going visit him in Dubai..

    Just be yourself and you should be fine.

  • hi Vicki
    I dunno if I'm interested in girls. like I kinda like this girl at school but the thing 8 I've always had this perfect idea of having a husband and I don't want to talk to my mam about it or anyone else. Please help

    During puberty, many girls find that they are attracted to the same, as well as the opposite sex but this doesn't necessarily mean that they are lesbian.  Puberty is a time of great physical and emotional change and hormones run riot so try not to rush into putting a label on your sexuality just yet. 

  • Hi
    I'm 13 and started my period in December. I would normally get my period on the 19th/20th of each month. I haven't had my period this month and I'm definitely sure I haven't had sex. To be honest I'm scared. Is this normal?
    Thanks

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I'm sorry to bother you but I need some advice on periods. I really want to start mine but everyone says I'm lucky to have not started or I really don't want it but I do. I have talked to my mum about it but she says everyone has different starting times which I am okay with. I have seen things and done research on it and says green tea and also things I don't want to do
    please help!

    Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and the best way of knowing when they might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki
    I think I have started my periods but am unsure what to do as my mum is ill so she keeps sleeping and I never have a chance to talk to her, my dad is well a man and I don't feel comftable telling him and I don't have any older brothers and sisters! What should I do? Please help!
    Jemsy

    Hi Jemsy, I am sure you could have a quiet word with your mum about this and she will then be able to arrange to get some pads for you.

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    I am sorry you have been unable to locate your response.  Please re-submit.

  • Hiya Vicky!
    Is a heat patch okay to put on my back?
    Because I have back cramps.

    Yes, heat patches can provide comfort.

  • Hi Vicky!
    My back and my stomach are both hurting.
    Is this a common thing during your period?
    I'm finding it very hard to sleep.
    I've had 4 paracetomols yesterday but it did not work at all!

    It is perfectly normal to notice discomfort in your stomach and back during your period.  Try taking some gentle exercise, use a hot water bottle or have a soak in a relaxing bath.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum for a painkiller.

  • I have quite short fat legs and it's really embarrassing! I'm not fat because I don't eat unhealthy and do excirsise 6 times a week! Is this just muscle? Is there any way to make them skinnier?

    We are all made in different shapes and sizes so try not to worry as this is what makes us who we are.  However, you are still going through puberty, so arms and legs will naturally become longer.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 13, turning 14 this year and lately i've been finding some weird little stains on the inside of my bra. Some times they are yellow-ish but most times they are more of a dark color, like brown. And when i woke up today i had the same stains on my shirt, on the side of my left boob. I'm getting kinda scared bc i have no idea what this is. But my boobs don't hurt and i'm feeling good so i guess it's not that bad. Thanks for the help, lots of love.

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty and this is generally caused by an increase in hormones or tight-fitting clothing.  Be sure to wash the area with warm soapy water and avoid picking as this will make it sore.

  • hi vicki what are code words for periods

    It really does depend on your age, where you live and who you speak to.

  • Hi Vicki, my discharge is relatively heavy and makes me feel uncomfortable. My mum bought me some panty liners but I don't know if she only wants me to use them if I start my period!! What should I do?? Thank you

    C x

    Pant liners are great for helping you to feel fresh and clean down there.  For peace of mind, ask your mum if it's ok for you to use them for your discharge.

  • Hi vicki, I have had discharge for about a year/a year and a half, my hips seem to be widening my bra size is a 32/34a and I get spots and pubic hair does this mean my period is going to start soon ?x many thanks

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki, was there any of you in the blog that had the behind the scenes one with zoella?

    Hi, I like to stay behind the camera and therefore whilst I was on set when we produced the Let's Talk videos there is no footage of my with any of the celebs. I hope you agree they were all fabulous and shared so much of their teen years with us, certainly they were all a joy to spend a few days with.

  • Hi it's lily again I just wandered well basically I have stopped eating because I keep thinking to my self I'm to fat im fat why am I so fat and we are going the ilse of Wight and I don't want to go swimming and my mum bought me a bikini and I don't like it bcs I'm to fat to wear it I don't know if I should keep not eating bcs I get headaches and pains from this๐Ÿ˜ขxxlily

    During your teenage years it is vitally important for you to eat well as your body actually needs more calories to keep up with the changes your body is going through. Remember too that as you continue to grow your weight along with your shape will change and a more womanly figure will be noticed, this does not however mean you are overweight and I urge you to start eating healthy meals once again and share any concerns you have with your parents.

  • I do ballet and I haven't had my period at ballet yet but I don't know what to do when I do. I don't wear knickers at ballet and I'm terrified of tampons so what shall I do? I don't want to miss it for two weeks. Also, my first ever periodic was nine days so I could have to miss two sessions of ballet. I've only ever had two periods. I don't wear a bra to ballet and I'm a 30 a is that okay? Ooh that rhymes!

    Why not have a chat to your Ballet teacher and ask her advice, I am sure for the time when your period is with you she will not mind you wearing underwear underneath your leotard with a pad attached. Finally, I see no reason why you need to wear a bra at this time.

  • Hi vicki I'm quite scared because I bought some bras sized 32a and then one of my breast fit but the other was smaller and didn't fit. Now I'm thinking of changing size to 34a but the smaller one barely fits in a 32a will it always be like this? ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ณx

    We do recommend that you always try bras on before you purchase them.  It is normal to notice more breast development in one breast than the other too but they will even up over time so try not to worry.

  • I need to have braces done can you recommend to me a good orthodontist within range of 10 miles from hampshire

    You will need to discuss this with your parents.

  • Hi,
    Well I'm 13, 14 in December I haven't had a period but I get discharge, I heard when you get discharge and way around 7stone you will start your period soon but I haven't so do you know when or around a curtain time I will start thank you x

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Since a year or so ago I've been totally addicted to plucking my pubic hair. I haven't told anyone but I feel like it's getting in my way because I spend ages doing it and get obsessed to the point where I draw blood. Also, I spend ages doing it and it wastes so much time. I tried to stop but I enjoy it because it's therapeutic

    As you are aware that you are doing this excessively and it has become a habit, try trimming your pubic hair or shaving it instead and keep yourself busy with new interests.  You could join a club for something you enjoy like sport, drama or dance.

  • Hi vicki Is there any way for me to find out when my first period is starting ?x

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I think I might be anaemic or have an under active thyroid but my mum is just like no you are fine you are such a hypochondriac and I'm phobic of needles and blood tests

    You should trust your mum's judgement as I am sure she would know if she suspected there was something wrong with you.

  • Hi vicki! What's the smallest size of bra?
    Thanks! Lara ๐Ÿ’˜

    Hi Lara, the smallest bra size is a 28AA.

  • Hi I'm 14 and I've lost my virginity is it bad or not because I know the illegal age is 16 ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or girls to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I'm thirteen and I have had my period for over a year now and it usually comes every 3 weeks or so (my mum is the same) it also usually lasts between 7 and 12 days. I spoke to my mum and we decided that tampons would be the right choice for me and my lifestyle. So when my next period came on the heavier days (2 and 3) I tried it but the only thing is it made my period stop immediately. I have stopped using them but I don't know what to do as I want to use them more when I am older?

    Tampons would not have caused your period to stop so try not to worry.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance fro your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 and there is this boy in my class at school who I like. Ive noticed him looking at me a lot. We sit next to each other in some classes and he teases me, sometimes about other boys. We also have a lot incommon, (we like the same bands etc) My main question is, do you think he likes me back???

    It certainly sounds as if he does.  Why not continue getting to know him as a friend and all will become clear with time.

  • Are older women allowed to use the lil lets products?

    Lil-lets has a range of products suitable for al women.

  • I have a national swimming competiton today and my period is due from four days ago. So basically anytime now. I can't wear a tampon but need to compete. What should I do. Please rocky ASAP because it is tonight they I have it.

    If your period hasn't arrives by the time your competition starts, you should be fine but as there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, they should be something you consider for the future.  When you feel ready to try, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Is my period normal if it's sometimes heavy and sometimes light????

    It is absolutely normal for menstrual flow to change throughout a period. 

  • Hi Vicki
    I have had a relatively heavy period for around 6 months. I am getting quite worried/don't really know what to do as overnight I soak through pads and pyjamas. Even the 'very heavy goodnight' ones, it takes me about an hour to clean up. What should I do?
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, heavy periods are normal for a lot of girls so why not try using Lil-Lets Freshlock Night towels as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.   For your heaviest time, you could try using two pads to help prevent leakage.

  • hey, vicki, i was just wandering is it true that vitamin c contains hormones, because some people say it does, some say it doesn't.
    xx

    Some experts believe that Vitamin C can improve oestrogen levels in the body but the nutrient itself does not contain this hormone.

  • Hey Vicki
    Can you wear regular/light pads for heavy discharge? Thanks

    Paige xxx

    Hi Paige, the choice is yours but you might find pant liners better as they can be changed as often as you like.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 13 and have stretch marks I'm not fat I'm just chubby. Why and how do we get stretch marks? I've also have been felling very self conscious because I have stretch marks all over my back and when I am supposed to go swimming I can't find a swim suit that covers then because they go up to about the middle of my back an under my shoulder blade. I feel self conscious a lot and I go to high school next year and we have a swimmin unit. If there anything that can get rid of them?

    With all the physical changes that are occur during puberty, it is normal to notice stretch marks so try not to worry as we all get them to some extent.  You might like to consider applying moisturiser as this will help to keep the skin hydrated and reduce the effects but they should fade naturally in time anyway.  For more help with this, take a look at my blog on Stretch marks.

  • Hey Vicky๐Ÿ˜˜
    Well I never really eat healthily which I want to buy I always forget or go for an easier/faster option of unhealthy stuff!
    How can I stay motivated to eat healthily?
    Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜

    It really is important to eat healthily and you might find that snacking on carrots, celery or fruit, nuts and seeds are a good way of introducing healthy things into your diet.  You should find that you will feel better and have more energy too so this should motivate you. 

  • Hi Vicki I'm 13 years old and am a 30- DD and still growing my cousin has the same thing going on but not as bad as me should I be worried about this? Also I already had my period would this make any diffrence?
    Thanks
    -Berlin

    Hi Berlin, try not to worry as we are all made in different shapes and sizes and this is what makes us who we are.  Be sure to wear a bra that will give you good support.  Your period will not make any difference to your breast development.

  • Hi. I am Emily and will be turning 14 next week.. I still haven't started my period and am not even sure I get discharge. My mum and sister started at 11, I have hair down there and in my pits. I weigh 46kg and am "5,6" and my brests are small. Please help, I am alittle worried.. ๐Ÿ’–

    We don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting our period so try not to worry.  The best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My boobs are very swishy and aren't firm and they are pointy n haven't grown in like two years. I think there is something wrong with me cuz my boobs don't grow

    Try to be patient and allow some time for your breasts to continue developing.  This can sometimes continue into a girl's late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi I'm a girl almost 14 years old I got my first bra in year six which was a 28aa but I've never changed it I am now in year nine and my boobs have stretch marks and I don't know what bra size I am but I'm too embarrassed to get fitted do you know what the average bra size is for a girl my age Thx

    It would be impossible to say as all 14 year old girls are different.  You might like to ask your mum to book an appointment for a bra fitting at your local Marks & Spencer as they provide a professional service and will put you at your ease.  As you've had your current bra for quite some time, I think it's time you had a new one.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm 27under 35 over. What size am I? THANKS๐Ÿ’ž Elle

    Hi Elle, your bra size is a 32C with those measurements.

  • I stuck some cotton wool pads in my bra and they came out. How do I stop this happening?

    Rather than use cotton pads, you might like to consider buying a bra with slight padding that is fixed.

  • Hi Vicki

    I was just wondering does discharge increase at any point before you have your period?

    Thanks xx

    Many females notice that their discharge becomes thicker before their period arrives.

  • Normally my flow is medium but this time my flow is fairly light compared to my usual flow... Is this bad?

    It is normal to find that your menstrual flow changes from time to time so try not to worry.

  • Hi vikki
    I have had a little bit of blood on my pants and I have discharge but no period I don't know what's going on I am 13 years old and my mum was the same age as me when she got hers but I still haven't got mine when will I get it ?xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hello vicki x
    I just wanted to say a huge thank you for everything you have done for me and many other Young girls x
    I have only used this site for a while and love it already! My friend recommended it and it's great!
    So thank you! Xxx
    Love Em xx

    Hi Em, thank you for your kind words of support.  I am happy to help.

  • Hey Vicki the other day my teacher walked in the classroom and I was checking the time on my phone because I couldn't see a clock and she started moaning saying I can't be trusted in the future and I don't know what will happen and my parents are really really strict so I can't get in trouble please help๐Ÿ˜

    I would be very surprised if your teacher tells your parents about this so please try and forget about it.

  • Hi Vicky, what happens when girls mastburate, please don't deem this as inappropriate, really confused, L xx

    A pleasant feeling is experienced.

  • Periods very irregular can be anywhere between 6 days and 10 months between each period and they can last between 3 days and 5 weeks. I also have two little lumps on my cervix (I checked after receiving a leaflet from a teacher at my school). I have a major phobia of doctors and at 16, I live on my own

    Periods can often be irregular as you have noticed with long and short gaps in between each one and the length of our period can vary too. I am not sure what leaflet your teacher has given to you, but I can assure you the vaginal passage is made of a number of folds and is not completely smooth, but if you have any concerns you should speak to your GP or surgery nurse who will be more than happy to take a look.

  • Hi Vicki me and my friends were in school, and we were sun bathing and a girl in my year started touching us and showing us her panties and lifted my skirt. It's made us feel very uncomfortable and scared and if we told our teacher she would yell and say we were being silly. Thank you so much for helping.xx

    As this girl's behaviour was inappropriate and made you feel uncomfortable, you should have told her to stop.  If she should do this again, and doesn't listen to you, tell a teacher.

  • I'm getting made fun of at school because I'm flat chested. What should I do about it?x

    Talk to a teacher about their behaviour as we all develop at different rates to each other and it is quite possible that you could end up with more breast development than the girls who tease you, so try to take no notice of them.  We all develop in our own time.

  • Hi Viki
    My mum says I might need a bra but I don't want to get one because I am in p5 but our class is P5/6 and none of the P6s have bras and they might tell me in the changing rooms that I don't need one and might get all jealous and haughty. I don't want that to happen!
    HELP!!!


    Xx

    Why not consider starting with a training bra as they are soft and unstructured and will enable you to get used to wearing a more structured bra in the future?  Pretty soon, more of your peers will start wearing a bra too so try not to worry.

  • Hi vicky, I am a 14 year old girl, I started my period a year ago and got it regularly for about 3 or 4 months, I can remember my period going for about 3 months then and coming back. After that it was normal for a few months but now it had been gone for around 5-6 months, i am not a very stressed person. I haven't told my mum yet but I am so so so concerned because I don't want to go to the doctors because it will be awkward, is this normal and what should I do?

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to two years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm nearly 15 now and I haven't started my periods yet. I have been having discharge for around 2 1/2 years now and I have small boobs. I'm 5' 4" so I get teased at school for being not having big boobs or developed much and I was just wondering how long it will be until I do develop properly.
    Thank you Em x

    Hi Em, try not to worry as we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.  It is also possible for breasts to continue developing up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • There is this boy that I like and he is dating another girl but he used to like me and he is kind of mean to me a lot and I don't know if he likes me but maybe he does?

    There is only one way to find out and that is by asking him.

  • Why do boys not get periods?

    Periods make up a part of the female reproductive system and boys are made differently.  For more help with this, take a look at my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System, Inside and Out.

  • Hi Vicki
    Can you use a tampon if your period is brown? It just seems too gooey to be absorbed. ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™

    Yes menstrual fluid can often be brown and thick in consistency and will still be absorbed by the tampon.

  • Why does discharge smell so fishy? Sometimes in class I get wafts f fish and I'm scared people around me can smell it. I use panty liners and I've had discharge for about 4-5 months now. Thanks

    It is normal for discharge to have an odour but nothing too offensive.  To keep it under control, you might like to change your pant liner more frequently and try Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes which will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey vicki,
    I just wanted to know is it ok to watch porn at the age of 12 ? Please do not seem this inaprpriate because I need this answering xx

    Thanks lily

    It is normal for teens to feel curious about pornography due to the increase in activity of sex hormones but you should always use caution when viewing this as it can often give a distorted view of what a loving, respectful sexual relationship should be like.

  • I've had discharge for a few years but recently I've been noticing some brownish stuff in my knickers is this my period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Why do I have to tell my mum?

    Your mum was a young girl going through puberty herself once so she should be able to support you through this special time in your life.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum and Dad.

  • Hi Vicki I'm quite fat and I really want to lose weight but I always end up eating unhealthily eventually. I snack a lot and literally all I think about is food as soon as I get in the car after school I ask what's for dinner and then snack until dinner and I end extremely full after dinner but still have second helping how can I stop eating so much????

    Try snacking on healthy foods like carrots, celery, cucumber or fruit and you might like to consider being more active by joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport.  You might also find that drinking more water will stop you feeling so hungry all the time.

  • Hey Vicky
    I love to masturbate and watch porn ,my boyfriend asked me to have sex with him should I do it and use a condom.because I really want to we've been seeing each other for a year now

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  As you have asked me if you should do this, I would guess that you are not ready and are feeling a little pressured so please consider this carefully.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I love the internet, and I love playing on virtual worlds on my laptop. I don't know which ones are safe, do you know any virtual worlds (e.g, moshi monsters) that are safe? Thanks!

    Please talk to your parents about this as they will be able to monitor which games are acceptable for you to play.

  • Hi, I keep getting really worked up and scared about starting my period! I'm worried that it will happen in school and I will feel really embaressed. Also I recently started and when I wear my towels they are really uncomfortable and I know I am wearing them right. What should I do? Please help xxx

    Periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so try not to feel embarrassed as you're not alone.  You might find that reading my blog on Periods and School helpful.  For some help in using a pad, check out our video on How to use a Towel.

  • I need a new swim suit but I feel like just a swim suit is not enough on my arms and that you will be able to see armpit and pubic hair. What should I do. ps I don't own shorts

    Pubic and underarm hair is very natural and nothing to be worried about, but have a chat to your mum who may suggest you trim this hair back when you are in the water.

  • I have had discharge for about 2 years and it's quite yellow I am worried I will never get my period because my mum got hers at 12 and I'm 12 pls help xxx

    We do not all start our period at the same time as family members and with discharge noticed I am sure you will not have much longer to wait before yours arrives.

  • Hi Vicki, I prefer to use your non applicator tampons but my mum brought me applicator ones which I don't like using, if I just pushed the tampon out if the applicator would it work as if it's a non applicator one or shall I just wait for my mum to get me non applicator ones and use pads for the time being?

    You may find removing the tampon from the applicator is a good idea and will ensure you do not waste the pack of tampons. Make sure you let your mum know that next time you prefer non-applicator tampons.

  • I really got on with her and at lunch I went to where her group was sat on the field and she was like sit down if you want but I think she only said it because I was there and someone in her group said something and I felt like they didn't want me there so I just said where is everyone and one of them said there are some people over there so I just walked off and spend lunch on my own in the bathroom do you think they don't like me I'm dreading school PART 2 to Sydney's question

    Sydney it can be hard to meet new people and my advice is to continue hanging around with lots of different groups and over the next week or so I am sure you will make a connection, just be patient and you may find my blog entitled Walk With Confidence a good read.

  • Hey vicki, so I've recently moved to England and school here is so so different to school in Canada so basically I started 1 week ago and there are so many different groups and I've been sat with people I don't like and who I don't think like me but there's one group that I like and I was talking to one of the people In that group and

    PART 1 to Sydney's question

    Hi, my response is in Part Two.

  • Hi! So I know this may sound a bit stupid, but I cut my hair into a short bob today and I didn't realise how short it would look and I HATE IT! I don't ono what to do because I'm really scared to go to school on monday because everyone will obviously notice! What should i do? x

    Over the next day or so you will learn to love your new hairstyle and if you wear it with confidence I am sure everyone will notice it and see how confident you are with the change.

  • hi! im scared of leaking through jeans.advice???

    All of us at some point become anxious about leakage, but over time you will quickly see that having superior protection from your sanitary products can alleviate this concern. Consider our Lil-Lets pads  or tampons they come in a wide range of absorbencies capable of managing any flow.

  • Is discharge white? And if so are you meant to where towels for discharge aswell as for periods?

    Discharge can be clear or creamy yellow in colour and if you think it will  make you feel better, pant liners are a good product to wear on a daily basis but leave pads for your periods.

  • Dear Vicki, I'm 12 years old and im already a 30- DD about 4 months ago I was a 30- B. Should I be worried about this or not.

    There is no right or wrong size for breasts to be at any age so please try not to worry.

  • Hello Vicki ๐Ÿ˜‚my period started in late July and it has always been around the end of each month. I had my period around the 31st December and then in mid November (well the 18th, my birthday ๐Ÿ˜ญ) it came back just for a day! And then I got it again... So weird x

    Actually this is quite common as your body continues to work out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi vicki, I feel my parents hate me i try so hard to fit in but i cant my brothers get on well with my family but all I get is comments like i need to lose weight i need more friends i need to get out more or i need to stop being so selfish and i need to dress more like a girl i try so hard but i just cant i feel i need to be my own pearson but thats never good enough i don't know what to do I just feel its because I'm the only girl and their used to boys

    Have a word with your parents letting them know that their comments are causing you to lose confidence and that as a teenager you need support not criticism, it may be they have not realised that their comments are so hurtful and I am sure they will consider how they speak to you going forward.

  • I am eleven and almost a half my cousin had her breast then what can I do I just have a flat chest what can I do

    We all develop at different times and it really does pay not to compare your progress with that of those around you. Breasts can continue developing until your late teens or early twenties so please try not to worry.

  • i am super angry with my EX- bff because i like this boy and he is in her science and she asked him out for me and dint tell me for the entire day so people kept coming to me saying your going out with him and i was like no bec i dint know she asked and ppl kept laughing to their mates pointing and whispering and i was with him and he new then i found out from my mate so i was angry then this boy wanted to talk but i ignored him now i feel guilty

    Hi, when you get a moment have a quiet word with this boy letting him know that there has been a misunderstanding and you had no idea your friend has asked him out on your behalf... but that you are glad she did.

  • HI Vicki, mum mum says she's going to drown herself because I am such a bad daughter but when I spoke to her about it she made out i was imagine it I don't know what to do I don't want to be the cause of my mothers death what should I do?? Please help ASAP!!

    Lauren xx

    Lauren have a word with your mum letting her know how upsetting her comments are, even if they are said in the heat of the moment and not meant she needs to know that you feel sad by these remarks.

  • Hey vicki,
    Boys in my class say that I smell of fish this is only when I am on my period though why is this and how do I stop the smell please reply asap xxx

    Consider changing your pad more often and use wipes in between changes. You may even find our Lil-lets Freshlock pads are ideal as they come with unique odour neutralisers.

  • hi vicki im 12 and i started my period when i was 10 but my mum wants me 2 tell her when i get it every month but i dont no how to tell her. also i want to try new pads and shop for pads myself.lastly wat should i do when i have pe on my period without using tampons.

    ps. what are codes for period

    You could simply say to your mum that your time of the month has arrived and ask next time you go grocery shopping if you can choose your own sanitary protection, this can all fee a little awkward at first but it will get easier as time goes by.

  • I HATE MY BOOBS. I am only 9 nearly 10 and my boobs are kinda big but I hate them. When I wear my cropped bra tops and my school t-shirt they practically stick out and I HATE it. What should I do. Is this normal for a 9 year old girl.

    It can take while for girls to get used to their new shape and I can assure you that as time goes by you will become accustomed to your shape and learn to love it.

  • Hi vicki I have a mono brow and it's becoming more noticeable and people keep commenting on it and my mom won't let me get them done!! Help!! Please! ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ‘Š๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™โค๏ธ Love Sarah xxxxx

    Hi Sarah, have another chat to your mum letting her know how you feel about this teasing and if she unwilling to allow you to have this hair shaped then ask if she can speak to your teacher about the teasing as this is totally unacceptable.

  • hi vicki,
    i like a boy called Nathan but my friend asked him out and i think she only dated him to get back at me for liking him during there relationship. but i liked i since the start of secondary school and i want to ask him out but i don't think my friend is over him because she STILL talks about him.
    can you please help me vicki from kaytlyn x

    Hi Kaytlyn, if they no longer date then I see no reason why you should not let your friend know that you now like this boy and would like to get to know him a little better, if she is a true friend she will understand.

  • Hi vikki, I was wonderingly if you could answer my question. I've been on my period for about 3 years now and it's always been on time but for the past 2 cycles it's been a week late, I haven't had sex so I can't be pregnant. Is this normal or should I be worried? I also have a lot going on at the moment so it could be stress?

    It may be that your cycle has changed and remember that a cycle can vary from between 21-34 days all of which is very normal.

  • Is it normal to feel dad and emotional during your period?

    As hormone levels can fluctuate during the month it is very normal to find every now and then you feel a little moody, angry or even tearful.

  • Hello Vicky
    I had a question to ask
    You know when you are on your period does the lower part of your back hurt? I was a bit nervous to ask you xD

    It can sometimes yes and a little gentle exercise can help with this discomfort as can a warm bath or hot water bottle.

  • Hi I'm 15 and I got my first ever period in August 2014 at the age of 14 and a half. I got my second period in November 2014 but it is now March and I have had nothing since. I'm a little on the thin side but I don't diet or excessive excessively and I'm not sexually active so...? What should I do?

    Hi, periods are often irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one and this is nothing to be worried about.

  • Part Two:...want to play football they all try to show off to us. It feels like the list of boys who fancy us will never end. Is it normal at the age of 9 and 10 to have so many boys who are attracted to you? Thanks once again, Leah and Laylah

    I see no reason to be worried about this, if you make it clear to these boys that you are only interested them as friends I am sure you can all get along just fine.

  • Part 1:10 boys fancy me and 10, some the same some not, fancy my friend. We do not like any of them and they all try so hard to make us fancy them. 3 boys, H,W and R have fancied me since Year 1. I sometimes feel sorry for them when we say we have no interest in all 10 boys but then again I really do not like them. They are all in the sort of 'Cool Guy' gang/group, so when (sometimes) we decide we ... Thanks, Leah and Laylah

    Hi Both, see Part Two.

  • What sort of make-up/foundation should I use to give my face a bit of colour? I have really pale skin and I want a product that would just give it a bit of colour, do you have any idea what I could use?

    Why not try a BB cream for light skin or better still avoid foundation and add a little blusher to your cheeks.

  • I'm 5"5 (65 inches) and I have an inseam or leg length of 33 inches is that long or average? Also do you think I could gro another inch or two? I'm 14 btw
    Thanks Vicki

    We continue to grow into our late teens and early twenties and no matter what our final height it is, remember it is what makes us special and should be loved and appreciated.

  • My boobs haven't grown in soo long, if anything I think they've got smaller, and im self conscious because all of my friends' boobs are growing normally and are a nice size and they can wear pretty tops and stuff but I feel I cant :( will they grow again??

    Pretty tops can be worn by anyone and any shape, so please don't let anything hold you back and remember that breasts can continue developing into your late teens and early twenties.

  • What absorbency-level pad should I start wearing when I start my periods?

    A teens day pad should be fine for your first period and over time you will quickly be able to work out if this is the right absorbency of if you need to move up to a long pad for a heavier flow.

  • Hello viki! I really need a bra,my breasts move and bounce a lot during exercise and my nipple is very proment.I have asked my my mum for a bra but she changes the subject and won't talk about it.Even my nana and my dad say I need one. Thank you
    Alice S

    Hi Alice, why not ask your nana to have a chat to your mum on your behalf and I am sure she will decide to take you shopping soon.

  • Hi vicki, I'm Katie and I'm 11 years old ( nearly 12 )

    So I was wondering how can I ask my mum for liners???

    Thanks

    Why not send her one of our e-cards and we will do the asking for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Sorry if this is innapropriate but sometimes my down below randomly has a rapid throb of pain. It happens randomly, even at school.

    Just like the rest of your body is growing so are your reproductive organs and as such you will often find you experience the odd cramp, this is quite normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi I'm 16 and I've started my period a long time ago and my boobs are so small I'm a 32a but both my mums and dads sides have big boobs why aren't they growing

    Hi, breasts can continue developing into your late teens or early twenties so please try not to worry you have lots of growth to come.

  • Hi I'm Eloise and I'm 14
    I've been having discharge for a very long time now and haven't had my period yet and I don't know if that's normal? I've had all the signs that my period should start soon but I'm still confused. Also ive been having brown discharge lately and I'm not sure if that's normal.
    Please answer my question because I'm really worried๐Ÿ˜•
    Thanksx

    Hi Eloise, menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so this brown discharge may actually be your period.

  • What bra size am I? 71 under 78 over I''m wearing a 30 aa and I only measured there now. Please answer

    32AA is your bra size measurement.

  • Where can I get my free sample of your products from?โค๏ธโค๏ธ

    Click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and simple complete the form letting me know you would like a free sample and that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's  permission to request a sample.

  • Hi vicki i'm 10 and i haven't started my periods yet I want to tell my mum and dad that i know about periods because they don't know I know.But I don't know the right time to tell them can you help me.

    Hi, you could always have a chat to your mum about being prepared and having some samples for your periods is something you feel is a good idea. I am sure this will start the conversation off very nicely as to what you currently know and how much more she can teach you.

  • I am 15 and i really really like this boy... I have liked him for four years!!! I ask him out in the first year I liked him twice and he said no but now he doesn't realise that I still fancy him! I do flirt with him but so does he back but I'm scared incase I will like him til I leave school at 18 and then we both leave to go to uni and he doesn't realise how I felt, I really don't want to make a fool of myself again by asking him out though... Can you give me some advice?
    Jessica

    Hi Jessica, if you chat to this boy and flirt and he in turn flirts back then I think he already knows how you feel about him and if he wants to pursue this matter further I am sure he will let you know and there is no need for you to say anything more.

  • What is the difference between a pad and a liner? X which is more absorbant?x

    Please read our blog entitled What is the difference between a pad and a liner for all you need to know about this subject.

  • Hi Vicki I have had my period since July 2014 and I have been wearing pads because I am quite scared of tampons (not scared scared,I just really can't get them in) in August last year I tried for nearly two hours and was unsuccessful, every oeriod I try and try but it's so hard :'(( I am determined to get one in so what advice do you have and which ones are the best/easiest to get in for teenage girls? Em xx

    Please don't feel you have to wear a tampon, a great many females are quite happy to continue with pads throughout their menstrual life and this is fine. So pleases don't feel you are under any pressure to change your current protection.

  • Hi Vicky! I'm on my period and last night I sat on a light blue cushion in our living room and when I stood up there was a blood stain! I turned the cushion upside down for the moment but what if anyone sees!especially my dad or two brothers?!please give advice :) xx

    Mistakes happen from time to time and all women understand this so have a chat to your dad or mum letting them know you have stained the cushion and they can quickly remove the stain by running it under cold water before placing in the wash.

  • Hi vicki,
    I have this crush on a boy and I literally can't stop thinking about him yet when we have English together I feel really awkward when we are alone. When I'm around him with my friebds I find it easier to talk to him and when the weekend comes I just want to go to school to see him and I keep worrying whether he likes me or not and I want to stop thinking about him 24/7 as I have tests I need to revise for ,
    How can I stop thinking about him?
    B

    If you chat to this boy in school then you have a great opportunity to get to know him and there is no time limit for this, so try to remember this and understand that how important revision and exams are for your future. Why not check out my Top Tips to Beat Exam Stress for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 13 years old and I haven't started my period yet. I have tons of discharge for awhile now, I wear a 34 A bra size, I have pubic hair, I have a little armpit hair, and I get acne and oily one in awhile. Why haven't I started my period yet???

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please try not to worry you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • My friends and I are all 13 and we were comparing our boobs tonight. We measured each other's boobs. I measure 63cm under the bust and 101cm over the top, while Lorna is 70cm under and 108 cm over, Megan is 71cm under and 97cm over, Jennifer is 75cm under and 110cm over, Raechel is 64cm under and 92cm over and Kayleigh is 68cm under and 102cm over the bust. What bra sizes are we?

    Thanks
    Katie, Lorna, Megan, Jennifer, Raechel and Kayleigh.

    Hi Girls, please don't compare breasts sizes and remember that no matter what their size ALL breasts are beautiful and I am concerned that if I supply your bra measurements some of you may not appreciate this and feel a little less fabulous.

  • Hey Vick! There's this boy I like but I don't think he likes me, let's face it tho, I'm pretty ugly :( I'm worried I'll never be with him, and he used to date my enemy which would make it worse!

    If you like this boy then worry less about other people he has dated and concentrate more on getting to know him, what he likes and let him know all about you. Who knows in a few months you may become more than just friends, but if you don't try you'll never know!

  • Hey Vicki! I'm really skinny and sometimes ppl make fun of me. I also feel I'm short (5ft/12yrs old) but my BFF is 5"6 and she hangs out with a lot of the taller girls who don't like me because I'm her bff and they aren't. What should I do? She doesn't seem to notice that I feel this way or that the other girls don't like me so what should I do? I've tried talking to her but it doesn't help :(

    Hi, firstly height and body shape are unique to each of us and you really should embrace yours and be proud of it. Ignore any looks from other girls, it really is there problem if they are jealous of your friendship and for your part try to get along with them and become more involved.

  • My chargers keep breaking and my dad thinks I'm breaking them. I'm not they just break. He gets mad at me when I say it's a coincidence and talk back how can I tell him it's not my fault?

    If you believe the fault lies in the quality of the charger then you should urge your dad to take the product back to the shop for a refund or exchange.

  • I have been getting discharge in my pants for about 1-2 years , should I be using pantie liners? Is this a sign that I'm getting my period soon ?
    Btw I'm 13
    Thanks

    Discharge is always a sign that your period is not too far away and if you feel pant liners may make you feel fresh and clean then yes they are a great idea, but not everyone feels the need to wear liners, it really is your choice.

  • Hi Vicky,
    All my friends wear bras and have boobs and I'm still flat chested and when we get changed for pe I have to go into the toilets because I'm embarrassed. I'm scared to ask my mum for a bra what should I do ?

    If you do not feel your breasts have started to develop then there would be no need for a bra just yet, but you may find a crop top is a good idea and I am sure your mum will be happy to purchase one for you. You could start the conversation off by asking her old she was when she got her first bra.

  • I have been getting discharge in my pants for about 1-2 years , should I be using pantie liners? Is this a sign that I'm getting my period soon ?
    Btw I'm 13
    Thanks

    Discharge is always a sign that your period is not too far away and if you feel pant liners may make you feel fresh and clean then yes they are a great idea, but not everyone feels the need to wear liners, it really is your choice.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My mom says tampons hurt is that true.

    If inserted correctly you should never be able to feel a tampon once inside you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have vaginal itching and idk wht to do. Btw I don't have yeast so yea wht should I do?

    Ask your mum if she has changed any toiletries or washing detergents over the last few weeks that may be making your irritated. This is often the reason for skin irritation.

  • Bad cramping and dischsrge but i havnt started are these signs

    Discharge and menstrual cramps are always a great sign that your body is preparing you for the arrival of your first period, so ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki, so i'm 13 years old and i feel like i am fat and i hate feelings this way, so i've been eating very little and been very hungry buti am losing weight. Should i keep doing this?

    During puberty your body needs extra calories to keep up with all the changes occurring to your body and missing meals or reducing food intake is never a good idea. Remember that every teenager's body changes  as they enter puberty becoming more womanly but this is not the same as being overweight and I am sure if your parents had any issues with your weight or overall health they would have spoken to you about it. So eat well, exercise often and you will  find your body will naturally find its ideal weight.

  • Hi Vicki, how can you tell if a boy likes you? Me and this boy are friends, we always mess around like punching each other and that, talk and text each other. But some of his friends have told me that he fancies me. I think he likes me but I'm not sure.

    If this boy takes the time to be around you and speak to you when out of school, yes he may like you and I am sure if he feels romantically attracted to you he will let you know when he feels ready and so for now, continue chatting and ignore any comments by his friends that could be making this boy feel uncomfortable.

  • Hey Vicki, Recently ive been feeling bad becuase im the only kid that doesn't have an iphone. Ik that sounds stupid but its getting to me for some reason.

    xxxxxxx

    Why not ask your parents if you can  have an iPhone for your birthday or possibly if there is a second hand phone you can purchase. But remember that a phone is ultimately something that allows you to keep in touch with family should there be a problem and sometimes the amount of time spent on phones, ipads or pc's is not productive for teenagers and you may find my blog Is Your Phone Your New Best Friend, shows you that having a phone is not that important anyway.

  • Hi vikki, I'm 14 and a half and I'm so embarrassed about my breasts im 32A and I'm practically flat chested, I also have no bum and all my friends have bums, boobs and everything else. When will they start growing. Also they are a bit sore at the min, what does this mean? Thank you xxxxx

    Tender breasts is often a sign that they are developing and can continue to do so into your late teens or early twenties so please be patient you have plenty of time left for puberty to change your overall shape.

  • I hate the way my mum acts. We never get on now, always having arguments,shouting and slamming doors.She said she wish she wasn't my mother because I am depressing her when actually she's the one that's putting me down (when she's angry). This is happening everyday now.
    What do I do? Stay in my room? Ignore her? Don't talk to her?Thanks

    My advice is to take the time to chat to your mum, letting her know how you feel and allowing her time to let you know how she feels. Once you have cleared the air and understand what upsets both of you, you can move forward respecting each other and appreciating that there will be times when you quarrel but that by walking away or counting to 10 you can make these little spats less upsetting.

  • Masturbating is meant to be a pleasurable experience and thing to do but when I do it, I get a little excited then I stop and feel disgusted with my self and awkward. What do I do?
    X

    You do not have to masturbate and indeed a great many people prefer not to, so if you experience no please from masturbation stop, would be my advice.

  • I got stressed out at a maths test today, so I threw it in the bin and my maths teacher noticed I was upset, so he spent a few minutes consoling me. So I pointed at the bin (I wasn't talking) and he took the test out of the bin and he didn't sound happy. Do you think he'll hold this against me?

    I am sure your teacher has seen how upset you were about the test and will speak to you again about managing your stress and temper ensuring in future you do not throw important paperwork away.

  • How do i get my friends to treat me with respect? I have this friend that when I treat her the way she treats me hates it. Even my other friends side with her. Like things like "who are you talking to her like that?" Why do I get treated like this? Sometimes it gets way to much to bare. :-(
    Thanks Vicki

    It is never a good idea to treat someone unkindly simply because this is the way they treat you. It would be far better to let her know that you do not appreciate her comments and ask that she be a little more respectful in the future. If she does not listen to your feedback it may be time to find a new friend.

  • Hi My mum has fibermialja. she is constantly complaining of a sore hip or something but she can't afford to get physio therapy because she is in college and she has to support myself and my sister by herself. The other day I saw a booklet from the hospital that said 'Breast Cancer Pain Chart' on the kitchen table. Today she was saying goodnight and she said 'I'm quite ill, you are going to have to start doing more around the house'. I'm really worried about what will happen Please answer ximscaredx

    Have a chat to your mum sharing your concerns, there may be some government help you and your family are entitled to and Citizens Advice may be able to advise your mum further.

  • what if i start at school and i dont have eny pads ?

    Your teacher, school nurse or secretary will have some supplies they can offer you, so please try no to worry.

  • Hiya
    How do I get my friends to treat me with respect? My friend seems to think it's perfectly fine to say that she can see me as a cat woman - woman all on her own with a time of cat and never in a loving relationship but if I say months later that I can't see her getting married ( we were on about milestones) I'm the worst person ever. How come people hate being treated the way they treat others?
    Thanks Vicki I'm so confused

    Hi, stand up for yourself next time an unkind remark is made letting your friend know that it's  hurtful and unnecessary. Hopefully she will understand that sometimes it pays to think before  you speak and this must also be true for any comments you make back to her too!

  • Hi Vicki. Two months ago I had a period and last month I got cramps but no period. Is this normal because today I got my period again. Please help
    Aaliyah xx

    Hi Aaliyah, periods can often be irregular for with long gaps of several months between each one and this is nothing to be worried about, your body is simply working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I often find a kind of light crust around my nipples. Is this lactating, and is it normal before you get your period?

    Nipples can sometimes leak a little fluid during puberty for both boys and girls and this is nothing to be worried about. Generally a little moisturiser will help keep this area supple.

  • So the other day my mum said that when I start my period i moght have to use tampons because I practically live at dance class in leotards and running leggings. I am completely fine with that and i want to use tampons when i start but why would she think that i wouldnt want to use them?
    Zoe

    Hi Zoe, some people prefer not to use tampons and I imagine this is your mum's way of letting you know that she is happy for you to use them.

  • i havent had my periods a year yet and im 7 days late for this months and i ahvent had sex either,is this normal?
    thanks x

    Hi, periods are often irregular with gaps of several months between each one being very common so please try not to worry.

  • Im 14, still havent started my period. I have discharge but no boobs! is this normal? i hate it because all my friends do and i just feel the odd one out!

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you really have no reason to feel unhappy, your body will know when the time is right for your period to arrive.

  • I'm ten and my boobs have got big and I've had blood in my nickers and in the toilet what's happening

    This blood in your underwear may be your period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you, they will ensure you have some pads to keep your underwear protected from now on.

  • My left boob niple is really inchy it looks like the skins pealing or something is this normal? What is it?

    This is fairly common and may be caused because  your clothes are rubbing against the developing breast. Gentle moisturising to the nipple should help.

  • How do you trim pubic hair and how short?

    Use some round edged scissors and place a comb flat on your pubic bone, then trim the hair that sticks out of the top of the comb.

  • Hi vicki,I am 13 nearly 14๐Ÿ˜Š and I have just started my period! I was expecting soon and it doesn't really bother me. I have 4 best friends and we do everything together, it's one of there birthday sleepovers tomorrow night and I'm on my period and not sure how to be desecrate about it! I want to enjoy my self just as much as I would before! We are going out for tea then back to sleep at hers! Do you have any tips for Me? Thanks alot๐Ÿ˜˜

    Hi, take your bag into the toilet with you to change into your pj's and change your pad then.  If you may also find my blog entitled surviving a sleepover a good read too.



  • I think I got my period today. I had really heavy discharge then for the past few months and when I wiped there was some blood. Have I got my period? It was only a little bit.

    This could be your period and my advice would be to wear a pad or liner for the next few days just in case any other fluid is released, you can then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Vicki, Our school just gave out our reports today and my English teacher gave me the same level and effort grade as before (5A and 3 effort) I got really upset because I feel that I have worked hard and tried my best and this just makes me feel really bad about myself. I'm in year 7 and this makes me hate my teacher.

    I appreciate that you are a little disappointed but you tried your best and this is all you can  do. Your teacher may have a different scoring process to what you had expected and this is still a great mark.

  • I found a dot of blood in my pants a year ago and every month since I get cramps but no period. I'll be 14 soon and going on holidays in a few months. I'm scared that it'll come during the holiday at the pool. So what should I do? Also I don't know how to ask my mum for tampons for the pool...

    Hi, why not consider taking some pads and liners with you when away so you can enjoy your holiday safe in the knowledge you are protected should your period arrive. And if it does arrive and you are not yet ready to wear tampons you can always go shopping, sightseeing or play volleyball or tennis.

  • Hey vicki! Xx
    My hands are always reddy and dark but either freezing cold or sweaty and uncomfortable and I have to keep washing them. My family think it's because my hands have trouble circulating or something. I hate my hands so much and I just wish they were normal skin colour, like all my friends. I use hand cream daily but they stay sweaty cold and red. I'm not any other race (no racism promise) I'm British and it really gets me down! Xx
    How could I prevent this?? Xxx
    Thanks, Em x

    Poor circulation to the hands can change their appearance but this does not mean there is anything wrong and lots of people have a slight tinge to their hand colour. Rather than fight this colour distract from it and ensure your nails are kept pretty and even coloured in a fashionable colour.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So there's this boy I sit next to in Maths. Once I said to him 'sorry if I'm annoying you' and he said 'you don't annoy me'. He helps me with my maths questions, listens to what I say, looks over when I'm chatting to my friends and he asked me what I was doing on the weekend. Does he like me?

    Hi, yes it does sound as if this boy likes you, whether this is as a friend or as something more romantic, only time will tell.

  • Hello viki, a boy rlly fancied me and now he has told my friend that he likes her instead of me. He still hugs me and sends me hearts. What is happening to us/ him. Please help and give me advice. Thankyou so much viki xx love leah ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ’—

    Hi Leah, it seems this boy has changed his mind, which of course he is entitled to do. If you like him then continue being good friends and who knows in the future he may change it again, but please don't wait around for him and enjoy spending time with friends and family.

  • Hey vicki I know I have already asked you this question but I am really worried now right okay I started my period almost 1year ago and I haven't had another one since I am really worried there is something wrong with me can you please tell me what to do

    There really is nothing to be worried about, your body will know when the time is right for your next period.

  • To Viki,
    I am 12 I've had discharge for about 7 months I am a 32a and I have had thicker discharge than usual. My mum got hers at about 12.5 and I turned 12 for 4 months. Also I have noticed black dots twice. Also I have think curt pubic hair and armpit hair is definitely apparent.Finally my face is always filled with greasy spots and it happens more at one time of the month. Do you know roughly when my period will start? And what will it look like ?
    Thanks ๐Ÿ’•

    Hi, with so many signs of puberty you many not have too much longer to wait until the arrival of your period so ensure you are prepared by having some pads or liners with you from now on when out and about.

  • Hi,

    I was wondering do all girls get discharge before their period???

    Thanks xx
    From Katie

    Hi Katie, no, not all girls experience discharge either before or after the arrival of their period as we are all very different.

  • HI Vicki I'm really worried!!
    As yo probably know it was the solar eclipse today and I kept looking at the WITHOUT GLASSES!! I haven't had any side effects but will i go blind and if so when?? Please answer ASAP I'm really worried

    Hi, if you have not yet experienced any problems to your eyesight then I really would not worry, it is most likely everything is fine.

  • Hi Vicki, im 11 years old and i started my period 6 months ago and i've sometimes had it during school time, i don't know how to tell my teacher?
    Thankyou

    There should be no reason why you have to speak to your teacher about your period as a sanitary pad will keep you protected until break and you can then change. A period should not prevent you from carrying on with your day as you would normally, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, i'm 11 and i started my period6 months ago and i've had 4 period between that time. The next one is taking so long, is it normal?
    Thankyou

    Hi, periods can be irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one and this is very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi vicki my best friend was told by this guy that he likes her. My mate likes him to but theres a problem because one of my other friends fancies thhe guy that likes by best friend. My mate wants to go out with him but dosent know how to without upsetting her other friends.? what to do!?

    Your friend should have a chat to your other friend letting her know that she has been asked out by this boy and that she would like to accept his offer. If she is a true friend she will understand even though she my find it hard at first.

  • Hiya vicki,

    I have had discharge recently. Should I tell my mum even though she won't forgive me. Will pads or tampons work?

    Cya
    Ysabelle xx

    Ysabelle there really is nothing to forgive here, discharge is a very normal part of being a young woman and your mum will understand this and that from time to time your underwear may be soiled. You can then ask her if you can possibly try wearing liners to protect your underwear going forward.

  • Hi so today a guy in an older class aka my crush... Started crying over a girl hu was moving out of scool nd I found him in the hall nd then he told me everything nd then some of the lads came and were telling me to go away he dosent want Ya here etc nd now he won't even look me in the eye why is this? Nd some girls in my class keep telling each other secrets nd stuff nd when I walk over they give me dirty looks idk y plz help thnx so muchโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚

    It is clear this boy is upset about this girl and he may be embarrassed that you have seen him so vulnerable and it would be a good idea to give him some space and simple smile when you see him. I am sure in time he will feel comfortable to chat again....as for these other girls you have a choice, ask them if there is a problem or ignore them, I am sure whatever it is will soon be forgotten.

  • Hi Vicki, I had my first ever period on january 12th 2015 and I havent got my second period yet and its now march! Iam really worried that im not going to get it for months and months and i definately know it was my period and it was quite heavy and lasted for 5 days i told my mum that i had missed my period and she said that it just because im starting off and it wont be regular. Is it true that you can have your first period and not get your second one for 1 year? Pls help thanks x


    Periods can be irregular for a few years as your mum has already told you and this is indeed true and these gaps are nothing to be worried about, your body is simply working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hey,
    I have discbarge, pubic hair, underarm hair (slight) I have naturally small boobs, I have had a massive growth spurt, and I have been getting pains around my stomach. I'm 13 when will I get my first period? I'm worried because everyone else has it but me.
    also I'm not sure if this helps but my mum got hers at this age also๐Ÿ’˜
    Thanks
    Rosie-May

    Hi Rosie-May, with so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find that your period is not too far away at all, maybe even sometime this year.

  • Hi vicki I've asked this before but I think I need to word it better. Ok so the other night I had a dream where I was having sex. While having this dream I remember feeling like I was having sex. I'm only 11 and I have not started my period or had sex before. Could I be pregnant or was it just hormones and a weird dream? Please awnser I'm scared

    I do understand your question and dreams of a sexual nature are common during puberty and are nothing to be worried about and there is no way you can become pregnant from a dream.

  • I don't know what to do. There is this, 'friend' I have who is usually quite funny, not always nice but the thing is she gets upset over the smallest things and posts all over social media sites that she's mad and I'm always not sure if it's about me. I know she isn't worth it and I shouldn't dwell on it and I don't know why I feel upset, although I shouldn't. What should I do? I don't want to talk to her.. Should I just stop being her friend??

    You can still be her friend, just remember not to let any comments you see upset you, in fact it may even be a good idea to avoid her social media account. It may be that she is struggling with puberty and feels the need to vent her anger from time to time and whilst it is not always acceptable behaviour I would hope as she gets older she will realise this is not the best way to keep or make friends.

  • OK I try to exercise to try to lift my mood and it works for a while then I go back to feeling down should I exercise every time I feel down? Which is a lot.

    It's a good idea it doesn't have to be anything more than a nice walk or dance in your room to a favourite tune. Even better if you can do it with someone and have some fun.

  • Hey viki, I like this boy he likes me and my friend videos me hug and I'm scared what she will do with the video. Also, my brother might m
    Find out and tell my mum and I'm nit sure what she will do. thanks x Lola

    Hi Lola, a hug isn't so bad and I am sure if you speak to your friend she will kindly delete the video at your request.

  • Hi Vicki, I am in year 6 and I am moving up to high school in September. It's been a kind of tough year. My best friend since I'd known from year 4 moved away and I've missed her ever since. And also my other best friend is moving to America in September. So I'm facing the prospect of high school on my own. This may not seem like much but Iam a really shy person and I don't make friends easily. So Iam really nervous about the move. Vicki please help me and give me advice on how to make friends.

    Hi, this is a fear lots of student have as they start a new school but I can assure you that teachers will do all they can to encourage friendships and you may find a couple of my blogs useful too, check out Back to School and Walk Tall with Confidence.

  • hi vici am 11 years old and I've started my period in school i asked my male teacher if i could go the loo and he said no i was in pain all class what should i do next time

    It would be a good idea to ask your mum to speak to your teacher so he understands that girls occasionally need to visit the toilet for sanitary purposes. In the future it may be a good idea to wear a liner on a daily basis and then on the days when you know your period is here, a pad should easily last you until break and there will be no need to ask to be excused.

  • Imy cramps started after i ate lunch they hurt so much and lasted for nearly an hour ive also been releasing discharge but i still hsvent started us this normal

    Yes this is normal and nothing to be worried about, gentle exercise will help ease any discomfort and is very beneficial.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I asked my mom could I use tampons and she was like no not right now an then I said please n den she was like no tanpons aren't for you and they hurt. I have a heavy period and I really wanna use tampons but she just doesn't get it.

    You should respect your mum's wishes in this instance, she has not said never, she has simply said not right now. So wait a few months and ask again. In the meantime for a heavy period you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock long and night pads a good product choice.

  • Whenever I'm at school always happy and chatty! But when I get home I always shout and tell my family to go away! It makes me feel bad but I can't stop!! Why?

    This is common during puberty and as you start to consider your life as an individual and an adult. Trust me it will pass, but that does not mean your behaviour is acceptable and you should certainly consider sitting down with your family and letting them know you are struggling with home life and then together you can al find ways to get along even if it's just watching a TV show together or going out to do the weekly shop.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have started getting period pains but i haven't started my period. Is this normal?

    Thanks xx

    These cramps are not always a sign that your period is due anytime soon, but can be a sign that your reproductive organs are  maturing as you enter adulthood and this is very normal.

  • a yellow-ish discharge with a little fishy scent. What is it?

    This odour usually occurs when discharge has been mixed with urine, sweat or faeces, so be sure to always wipe from front to back when visiting the toilet and cleaning this area thoroughly, you may even find using our liners and wipes is a good idea too.

  • 32"
    28"
    I am currently wearing a 32a, but it's MUCH too small. Could you tell me my size?
    Thanks you!!

    32AA is your size, but as a 32A is too small you may need to re-measure.

  • I started my period last year and after the period, I have discharge everyday. I don't want discharge everyday though. Is there a way to stop this?

    Discharge can very often continue until your twenties, even longer for some females, but please don't think of it as a bad thing, it is after all your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • how to remove public hairs

    Hair in any location can be removed by shaving, waxing, threading, or using hair removal creams. But there really is no medical reason for it to be removed and you should always speak to your mum if you are considering doing this.

  • Hi Vicky, I am 12 years old
    I have all the signs of puberty except for breasts...
    all the women on both my mom and dads sides of the family have decent sized breasts. When will I grow?
    Thankyou <3
    Rose

    Hi Rose, at 12 you have plenty of time for growth to occur, so remember that this isn't a race and your body will work out what is the best time for you to start your journey to becoming a young woman.

  • Hi Vicki,
    How can I hide my period at school? I' yr6 and because ks1 use our classroom toilets there is no sanitary bin. So I have to use the staff toilets but I keep getting asked by both boys and girls, why I am in the staff toilets. What do I do?

    Why not consider keeping a very discreet pad in your pocket, you can roll the used pad up in the wrapper of your new pad and simply place in the bin in the main part of the toilet. If you are not happy with this option then have a chat to your mum who should ask the school to consider getting an extra sanitary bin for the main toilet, because one thing is for certain you will not be the only girl how needs to change her pad in Year 6.

  • Hey vicki I think I've started my period because I've noticed brown discharge in my nickers over the past couple of days but since the I felt really gait, had loads of hot flushes, have had really bad cramps which have prevented me from doing anything when I get them and I also noticed dots of blood in my nickers, is this normal?

    Lucy xxx

    Hi Lucy, this is your period and first periods can make you feel a little different, but they should not stop you from carrying on with life as you would normally. If you have tummy cramps then get out and about and be active as this is one of the best ways to reduce this pain and may even help with the flushes.

  • ok so this may have nothing to do with anything but i need some advice because i feel really strongly about this. like my family think I'm growing up too fast, especially my sister, but i'm 13, 14 this year and i really want to change my name to Alaska and in the uk you can with parents permission but i don't want to ask because their just going to take the mick out of me and it will be so embarrassing since its an unusual name, what do i do

    Whenever my children want to do something that I feel they may regret afterwards we do a trial run. So as silly as it sounds why not ask your family if they will consider calling you Alaska for a couple of months just for fun and you will soon know if this is the name for you or if you actually like the name you have better....what do you have to lose.

  • I feel like sometimes people are never satisfied no matter what I do and I have tried to stop being such a people pleaser even though I still am and it's like I just disappoint everyone, my parents, even my friends. I am unhappy even though I fake smiles. It's got to the stage now where I just feel like sitting in my bedroom all the time alone because I like being alone better than being with people.

    The only person you have to please is you. If you feel you act correctly towards others and they do not respect you then tell them so. It is often by standing up for what we believe in that we are heard. Why not read my blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself and Walk Tall with Confidence for some useful tips.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Well a couple of weeks ago I got the tiniest bit of blood when I wiped down there and today I got it again but I can only notice when I wipe. Is this my period??
    Please answer because I don't know what to expect xx

    Yes this may still be your period and it may be a good idea to wear a pad or liner for the next few days to capture any further fluid lost.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have this friend who is a boy and I've known him since we were little. We are really good friends and we talk all the time on text. But recently, he hasn't been very nice to me at school and when he is in front of his friends he acts all cool and says really nasty thngs. Why is he so kind when its just me and him texting but horrible to me at school?

    It is clear this boy does not want others to know you and he are so close, which is not uncommon amongst boys....but that does not make it ok! And next time he texts you make sure you tell him that his behaviour in school is not only sending you mixed messages but also is not how a true friend treats someone. Let him know that you are not looking for full on commitment in school and would prefer he says nothing rather than be unkind.

  • Please help Vicki I'm having a complete meltdown,
    I'm 13 and 3 months And I have been releasing discharge for around 1 1/2 years, and it's ruining all my pants. My mum brought me lil lets handbag liners, just in case. But I want to start wearing them each day to keep my pants clean; but my only problem is I don't know how to ask her!!!
    I also have the same problem of needing to shave my legs but unable to ask, please help.

    Thank you
    Kati xx

    Hi Kati, if your mum has purchased our fabulous liners then she will be fine for you to use them and once they are used up, I see no reason why you cannot ask her if you can have some more, letting her know the benefits our liners offer you.

  • Hey,

    Well this boy i like (AS A FRIEND!!) i think kinda likes me; he hangs around sometimes, is always willing to talk and joke and mess about. When we got put together he smiled and he asks me to help him with stuff. Does he? Or just being nice?

    Jaz

    Hi Jaz, it would be difficult to say, it may not simply  be friendship he is seeking but who knows what this will develop into over time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 12 and on my period but my boobs haven't grown in like 2yrs. They look like triangle and there has been an ocassion where I have been made of for having tiny boobs. What should I do?

    Hi, a great many girls notice a triangular shape to their breasts as they develop and before they become fully and breasts often grow in spurts with this continuing until you late teens or early twenties so please try not to worry. And finally, be brave stand up for yourself and if someone mentions breast size ask them where it is written that 'big is best'. Surely we should all love our shape no matter what that may be!

  • I wish my mum and dad would stop talking negatively about me I just know they are and I hate confrontation. I'm having quite a hard time at the moment and I'm really angsty.

    Firstly identify what your parents are saying that bothers you and then have a quiet word letting them know you feel hurt and angry when you hear their comments, explaining that puberty is a struggle for you. I am sure if they are making comment they are not being malicious parents generally have their children's best interests at heart.

  • Hi vicki,
    I was just wondering does your period get heavier as you get older or will it just stay the same?
    Thanks x

    The menstrual cycle can change throughout a ladies menstrual life, sometimes getting heavier after the birth of a child, or towards the later years when periods are coming to an end. One thing is for sure, is that no matter what your flow there will always be a product to keep you protected and comfortable.

  • Hi there. I will start high school in August but at my primary I feel like I don't fit in. Sometimes my friends are nice and we have a laugh but the rest of the time I feel stupid around them. Do you think I should wait until high school to make friends โ“

    Hi, I think its important to get along with others, on the understanding that we are all different and will bring different things to the friendship group. inevitably once you enter High School you will meet new people and new friendship groups will be formed and these along with your current friends can ensure you always have someone to go to for support.

  • Hi Vicky!
    This is a strange question but I feel addicted to my phone because I always want to check my Instagram! It really annoys me because I hateways being on tecnology! How can I cure my addiction?!
    Thank you lots

    This is a growing issue and you may find my blog Is Your Phone Your New Best Friend a useful read.

  • What happens if you are in water and you get your period

    Girls often mistakenly believe that menstrual fluid all comes away in one go, this is not the case and if your period did arrive when in the pool, you would most likely not notice this until you came to get changed and if you have some pads or liners with you at all times, popping one in your underwear should be all that is required to allow you to carry on with your day.

  • Hello Vicki!
    So basically I am dating this guy who my bff fancies but really I don't love this guy but not as much as another guy who my other bff is dating! And to make things better I dated this other guy and I dumped him and he keeps texting me and apparently he is still "deeply in love with me" but the bff who loves my boyfriend also loves him!
    I'm so confused!
    Please help me Vicki!
    Love from Em x

    Hi Em, the first thing you have to do is end your relationship with this boy if your feelings for him are not genuine. Then stay single for a while and see what happens over the next few months, it seems there is a lot of confusion in your friendship group and who knows how things might change over time.

  • I use lil lets night lads during the day (yes my period is that heavy) and it leaks I have tried so many brands of pads but no matter what I try my period always leaks it goes on my legs and all over my pants... What do I do? Can I get some advice please

    Try our core range of pads - Lil-lets Freshlock long and night, they are super absorbent, super comfortable and super slim too.

  • Hi I had a dream that I was having sex and I kind of felt weird? It's scaring me what is this?

    Dreams can be quite vivid at the time but try to remember they are just thoughts in our head and nothing to be fearful of.

  • Hi viki ,
    I am in year 6 at primary school and I have started my period but I feel weird having to take my bag into the loo. What should I do ???

    If you have a pocket then place your sealed pad in here in the morning then when you go to the toilet no one will be any the wiser. Alternatively you could keep a little lip gloss, deodorant or breath freshener in your bag along with your pads and tell people you are going to freshen-up.

  • I haven't started my period and all my friends have, is this normal? x

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and it would not do for us all to be the same, so please try not to worry your body will know when the time is right for you.

  • Hi vicki
    I think this guy likes me. He always says hello and is really sweet and protective towards me. But the thing is I really don't like him but also don't want to hurt his feelings. And also my friend has a mega crush on him and is annoyed with me because she thinks I'm leading him on!
    Please help me!

    Make it clear by saying often and in front of others that there is no one you like romantically at the moment and that any boys you hang around with, you see as only friends. This should send the message loud and clear to this boy and your friend of your thoughts on this matter.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 12 and Ive been having discharge for over a year now. I wear a pantliner and a few days ago I started to notice like a tiny tiny dark spot in the middle of a chunk of discharge then I ignored it cos it was tiny but a few days later there was this beige coloured discharge on top of the normal yellowish bit. I showed my mum who started at 13 and she said it was "probably not my period but a sign that my body was getting ready". What do you think? Please help.
    xx

    Your mum may be correct and as you wear pant liners you can be sure wherever you are your underwear is protected from any unexpected arrivals.

  • I am 14 and my boobs are hardly there. Everyone else has boobs and I feel so stupid and weird because I'm practically flat chested. Some of my friends have even started commenting about it and it makes me feel really down about myself and I just wish they would grow so I don't look so odd.

    How unkind of friends to make comments like this and you may want to remind them of the importance of supporting one another during puberty. Of course I am sure you already know that our breasts develop at different times to our friends and can continue to do so into our teenage years, so please try not to worry we are all different and I firmly believe that breasts are beautiful no matter what their size.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm feeling kinda off. Either I'm talking and laughing more than most, or I just feel like crying or shouting. When I try to explain this, people say it's just hormones.
    However, I feel it's more than just that. In my sad moments I feel a force to do selfharm and sometimes end up doing it, and in my high moments I'm a complete different person, and feel like I can touch the sky.
    I'm really confused and feel as if no one understands me.
    Thank you
    X Sunni

    Hi Sunni, hormones do play a huge role in the moods of teenagers often leaving you confused as to how your mood can change so quickly. It is important to always share your thoughts and concerns with family members or a trusted teacher they will be able to advise you how to better manage this time and offer you support if they feel professional help is required.

  • I have had discharge for over a year now and i have got it a little more thicker and more of it as usual. Is this normal?

    Yes this is very normal and discharge can vary in colour and texture and even the amount produced from day to day and this is based on the levels of hormones in your body at any one time and nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Do padded or underwired bras stop your boobs from developing/growing fully? Thanku xx

    Not if they are fitted correctly.

  • I'm confused, I thought discharge was the body's natural way of lubricating the vagina before sex? Is this true? If not, what is it for x ( sorry if inappropriate)

    No this is not true, the lubrication produced by the body prior to sexual intercourse is different to discharge.

  • Hiya vicki,
    For school we are goin to a trip sleepover for two nights and it's loads of adventure activities every day should I pack my li lets just in case and what should I pack e.g higen things

    Thanks Shauna.

    Hi Shauna, why not read my blog entitled Packing for a School Trip it will tell you all you need to know. Have a great time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is there always blood on your pad/liner every single time you go to the loo when your on your period?? Or is it just sometimes? Also is there always blood when you wipe? This migh be a weird question but I just want to know.
    Thanks,
    Rosie.D xx

    Hi Rosie, not always no. Menstrual fluid is released over a period of says and very often you will no little or no fluid as been released for a few hours, this is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • are period delay tablets safe to take for 14 year old? xoxo

    Generally the contraceptive pill is prescribed to females who want to delay their period for whatever reason, but it really is up to your GP as to whether they want to offer them to you. After use they can very often cause irregularity to the menstrual cycle for a few months, but like I said this is a conversation for your GP and if you are considering this for a holiday I would urge you to reconsider and have a think about tampons and pads instead.

  • Hey, it's Emily
    I was talking to you about my bras leaving marks and you asked me if I had been measured, I haven't, should I ask my mum if I could?

    Hi Emily, this would be a great idea as there is no point guessing what size you may be you need to know for sure to get the right fitting and most comfortable bra for your daily use.

  • my best friend refuses to talk to me and I want to kill myself what do I do.
    we also had a vicar come in and talk about negative and positive thoughts and all that came to mind was negative-kill myself
    positive- my friends and family don't have to worry about me ever again, please help I think I have depression and metal problems and I really don't know what to do. Please don't judge me and I am to scared to tell my parents.
    Echo

    Hi Echo, if you feel unable to control your emotions you should speak to a family member or teacher and share this news with them. They will then be able to decide if this matter needs to be taken further and whether you should have a chat to your GP. The most important thing for you to remember is that there is a lot of help out there, so please have faith and trust others to help you feel better about yourself.

  • Hi Vicki
    People say that discharge can be clear . Can you still see it ?

    Sometimes clear discharge can appear as a wet patch in your underwear and when it dries can be a little white in appearance or stiff.

  • hi vicky,
    i am due my 4th period soon and i have a period calculator and it says that my period will b due when I'm on holiday. I am super worried as i find tampons really difficult to put it and i haven't managed to get one in yet at all. Also, many of my friends will be there and i don't want to be messing about all the time with pads and not being able to wear white jeans. Also we go swimming like all day so that is going to be difficult as well, please reply X

    Periods can be irregular for the first few years and there is always the chance that your period will not be with you whilst on holiday, but even if it is, it is unlikely it will be with you for the entire trip and you can easily find other things to do that will keep you out of the water, such as beach volleyball, tennis, shopping, sight seeing, etc. You may even find that ad the year unfolds you feel ready to try tampons again, being sure to read the instructions for use before trying.

  • A girl in my year we are both 14, well this morning she was approached my two men in a car and they were suggestive of her going with them, the school and police are aware but because it is in my town and so close to where I live I'm scared its gonna happen to me, what would you do if this happened to you? Because I wouldn't know what I would do thankyou โ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Žโ›Ž

    I am sure the police and your school will speak to all of you in assembly and offer pointers on how to deal with someone who approaches you.

    Adults rarely ask children for help so if someone approaches you see this as a warning that something may not be right.

    Don’t

    • Get in a car with a stranger.
    • Go to another location with someone you don't know.
    • Let someone swear you to secrecy.

    Do

    • Stay with a friend.
    • Let parents know where you are.
    • Be impolite; if you feel uncomfortable or threatened by someone.

     

  • How do I go in the bath on my period. Apparently it runs down your leg when get out...!!

    Yes of course menstrual fluid can run down your legs if at any time it is being released and you are not wearing protection, but this certainly does not happen all the time and if it did you can quickly wipe it away with some toilet tissue and put your new pad or tampon on, as you dress.

  • i have not started my period but i have LOADS of discharge!! i know this is normal but the weird thing is it looks like it have black fluuf in. my knickers arent black so it cant be from thats so please help. also what are signs you are ABOUT to start you period.

    please answer BOTH questions!! Thank you!!

    Hi, sometimes when discharge is very thick it can roll up into little balls as we are busy during the day being active and these little balls can look quite dark and this may be what you are noticing.

  • When I talk to a boy i fancie or think about him I get a weird tingling feel above my thing. What is happening?๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜ญthank you elsey๐Ÿ’›

    Hi Elsey, this is called sexual arousal and shows you like this boy and are attracted to him physically. It's all a sign that you are becoming a young adult and nothing to be worried about. Why not check out our section under the Puberty tab, entitled; Sex and Sexual Feelings for more on this subject.

  • hi! I have discharge for about 3-5 days before my period is this normal? it's a clear colour and doesn't smell but I'm not sure?! xx

    Discharge is often noticed in between each period and this is very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • How do you ask for bras

    Next time you and your mum are alone, ask her how old she was when she got her first bra and how she knew she was ready for one, this should move the conversation nicely over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • I am 11 years old 12 in July but I don't know what to do should I try tampons but I am scared that I will get TSS and I read something about a girl who died from it by using tampons

    TSS is a very rare but serious illness that everyone should be aware of regardless of your sex or age. But if you read all the information about TSS there should be no reason why like millions of other women around the world you cannot enjoy the benefits of tampons. So why not have a chat with your mum and ask her how she feels about you using internal sanitary protection.

  • I talk about boys and that with my mum but then sh gets and tells my dad and I hate it but then she always does it how can I get her to stop it

    Next time your mum asks you about a boy, let her know that you are unwilling to share your thoughts because you prefer them to be between you and her and not your dad, she will understand I am sure. Although I do have to say dad's may tease a little when they know their daughters have taken an interest in boys but no malice is meant by these words.

  • Hi it's elizabeth last month I missed my period then this month I felt wet. Then went to the toilet and it was like a big explosion of brown red stuff and distarge was this my third period this was a couple of weeks ago.

    Hi Elizabeth, menstrual fluid can vary in colour and you really have no reason to be worried this light brown fluid is very normal and part of your menstrual fluid too.

  • I like a boy he likes me back and yesterday evening I told him I like him and when I went into school everyone kept asking me if I like him then they started to spread rumours about me. I don't want to tell anyone but if the rumours are spread my brother will find out because he is in the same school as me then he will tell my mum and I feel sick and I don't want to go to school. I feel embarresed and ashamed of myself but we both really like eachother. Please help me viki lots of love lucie๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ˜ญ xxx

    Lucie there s nothing wrong with liking someone and yes people may tease a little but if you and this boy just laugh off any comments and ignore then, people will soon tire of making comments and move on.

  • U have not answered my question yet it's Elizabeth plz answer it's been a couple of months I can't remember the code.

    P.s I have a boyfriend now yeayx

    Hi Elizabeth, unless a question is inappropriate it will be answered within a couple of days. So my advice would be to type in your name into our Keyword Search and if I have answered your question you will be able to find it in the list.

  • i feel like there are rumors going round about me because all the populare hot girls who all have boyfriends keep acting weird around me and this one girl called emma-lea keeps going hi rose really cheesily and sneakily laughing after and she has never done that before i just feel like people ar always staring at me and whispering and talking even if they arnt

    Why not read my blogs entitled; Walk Tall with ConfidenceJanuary Blues and Standing Up For Yourself. During puberty we are often extra sensitive filling our heads with ideas that may not be an issue, have you thought that this girl actually likes you and wants to get to know you better.

  • Hi so in November last year I had my first period, it was light, so then in January my 2nd came back ,it was VERY heavy, I was using my mums maternity pads ! And I had it last month for the 3rd time and it was in the middle ~ so in future will my periods be heavy or light or is it still to early to be able to tell ??

    It really would be impossible to predict your menstrual flow, at the moment it will be erratic as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you, but even during your heaviest of days you do not need to wear a thick pad and our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads with super absorbent gel beads will protect you from even the heaviest of flows.

  • i am stage fright but in really love singing and to get a highere score in music i have to sing in front if the class while playing the keyboard which i can do but i am sc ared of singing infront or everyone PART TWO i feel super fat i am nabout 7 stone and a half uyou mostly say dont worry about the scales but i need a wake up call am i over weight or near to it plz tell me because all my ofriends are skinny

    During puberty it is very normal to feel self-conscious about so many things; how we look, how others see us, and what they think about us. The trick is to keep saying to yourself, 'I am the best I can be and I'll do my best, sure I may make little mistakes along the way and if I do I will laugh them off'. Finally, avoid comparing yourself to others and ensure your diet is mostly healthy and you exercise often, your body will then find its ideal weight and yes that may not be the same as those around you, but then again who said it should be...aren't we all unique and beautiful in our own way!

  • Yo vikiโœŒ๏ธ I've had regular periods for about 6 months but have now stopped again. I don't know weather to ask a doctor about it, or if its serious. So is it normal? Oh and I'm 14๐Ÿ˜˜ thank you

    Periods can often continue to be irregular throughout your teenage years, even when a pattern has been noticed before, so please try not to worry.

  • hi vicki i am 11 and i have a lot of Q'S so can u try answer them (a) i have stretch marks on my boobs ( they are big/boobs) is it normal (b)i love music singing and dance so when i see people better than me at them i get really annoyed (c) before my period i get dioreer then i get my period is this normal (d) i have a dance assessment tomorrow & there are 2 people who missed a lesson and dont know the ending of the dance im scared our dance will look rubbish !!!

    Hi, stretchmarks are common during puberty and as your body grows over a short period of time and you may find my blog on Stretchmarks useful. With regard to your period, for some people as the muscles surrounding the uterus contract they find this can also have an effect on their stools, often making then runnier than usual and again is common. Finally, there is nothing wrong with being competitive but I am sure already know that getting annoyed will not be productive and could impact on your own performance if you are not in a positive frame of mind. Why not suggest to your other dance partners that you meet up half an hour early to go over your dance routine, this should make you feel less anxious about the routine.

  • Hi Vicky I have:
    25 inch waist
    35 inch hips
    36.5 inch bust but 15 inch calves and 20.5 inch thighs. I have a flat tummy, thigh gap, etc but I can't look at myself like all of the other girls. I see myself as much fatter than I actually am and If I see girls buying a size 8/10 item, I don't believe that I am as slim as them. It's getting me down and its starting to take a toll on my life now, thx

    It is now time to share your thoughts about your body image with your family who will decide how to proceed, possibly having a chat to your GP about counselling, which may sound daunting initially but will help you see yourself in a more realistic and positive light.

  • Hi Viki its lily again just wanted to say thanks for wandering my question it really helped

    You are most welcome Lily.

  • Hi Vicki I got my first period last July and I got my second period in august and its march now I haven't had another one and some of my friends have started after me and had like 6 periods and I've only had 2,its been 7 months since I had my period.
    I don't know if I should go to the doctors but what should I do?

    Hi, we are all very different and it can take a while for our bodies to work out the right cycle for each of us, so please try not to compare your menstrual cycle with that of those around you, there are no medals for having a certain number of periods, the most important thing is to understand you are unique and so will your cycle be too.

  • I've just been through a bad breakup, before which I was extremely happy with my appetite. Since it happened however, I don't usually get hungry, and even when I am I don't feel like eating. Any idea why this is and what I can do to get it back on track?
    Thank you!

    A small number of people experience a change to their appetite depending on their mood and my advice would be to try and eat smaller plain meals more often to keep your energy levels up and in time your appetite should come back quite naturally.

  • Hi, I am 12, and in year 7. My friend asked if we could go for a bra fitting soon, and i dont know what to say. She is my closest friend and she knows i am self concious, but i dont have boobs! I cant get measured coz theres nothing to measure! I am 45 under and 50 over! What would be my bra size? Thanks
    Poppy x

    Hi Poppy, if you do not feel that getting measured is for you then tell your friend so, letting her know that you are happy to go along with her for support that at this time you would prefer to wait to be measured. You may also like to measure yourself again in inches or centimetres ensuring the tape is not twisted.

  • B's question FINAL:
    At the moment he's not comfortable talking to me, so how do I make sure I don't completely lose communication with him, and remain friends with the person who is still so special to me?
    I am so sorry for the length and complexity of this question, I just hope you have insight into this, and can help me get through this tough time.
    Thank you so much xxx

    As hard as this may be to hear, if this boy has decided to move on, so should you. Yes it may seem like he is now cold and aloof towards you and that is sometimes the way people handle the end of a relationship. Life doesn't always go to plan and as adults we have to accept that regardless of how much we want something it may not be feasible or what another person desires. This young man clearly feels pressure in his life and is experiencing turmoil and as much as you care for him, the help of a medical professional is necessary in this instance. My advice would be to give him the space he needs, take a break from texting and keep all communication to a minimum and when you do text be upbeat, with a simple "Hi, hope you are well", with no leading questions about his personal life. Who knows in time he may feel better about things and decide a relationship is what he wants, but that does not mean you should sit around and wait for that time to come. So put all of his possessions in a box and put them away, start to spend time with family and friends and keep busy, difficult I know and it will take effort and time to move forward, but it is something you both need to do.

  • B's question part TWELVE:
    How do I cope with not being able to communicate with my soul mate on the level I am used to, not even close to it?
    How can I get the answers I'm looking for, so that I have some closure, without pushing him even further away?
    Is it a bad idea to keep the pictures of him, and all the gifts such as the bracelet, scarf, teddy and cards?

  • B's question part ELEVEN
    Is it possible that he just fell out of love with someone he had such a deep connection with, or could there be something else he doesn't want to admit?
    How can I make sure he's okay, without making it seem like I'm creepy, or trying to force him to reestablish our love?...

  • B's question part TEN:
    I asked him where I stand now, and he said I am a friend. This is breaking me apart because we've been through so much, and I'm still just a friend. He always told me I really helped him cope with his granddad's death, which is why I can't figure out what's changed....

  • hi viki,
    I am a dancer and have a show next week but my period is also supposed to be that week. how do I cope with my period during the show. I don't want to wear a tampon though because i'm scared. I have discharge does that mean its defiantly coming that week.
    please help xx

    Discharge is often noticed in between periods and it would be impossible for me to predict when your period will be with you, but be safe in the knowledge that a pad will offer protection during your exam and you may find our Lil-Lets teens day pads a good choice as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • Hi
    Help me I just asked my mum for pantiliners in a text she sure said but after work thanks I said but now I'm so embrassed for when she comes home :)

    Your mum will understand completely your request to feel fresh and clean; remember she is a woman too and will know how it feels to be uncomfortable in this area or feel the need for protection. So when she comes home and discusses this with you be open and honest letting her know what brand of liner you would like to try....I hope it's our fabulous Lil-Lets.

  • B's question part NINE:
    He says he's going to talk to a professional about "stuff", which makes me feel useless because I feel like that should be my job, not some stranger with a degree.
    I still want to be in a relationship with him, but I know that this now can't happen. I miss him so much, and I'm experiencing withdrawal symptoms; I think I was addicted to our relationship...

     

  • B's question PART EIGHT:
    Possibly the hardest thing to come to terms with, is that clearly I don't know exactly what's going on with him at the moment, and I'm used to being told all about it. I still love him, and so of course I'm so concerned about how he is, but he doesn't want to talk to me about it, and all I want to do is make him happy...

  • B's question PART SEVEN:
    When I went back to texting him, he was saying it'll be alright etc. I know he valued our relationship so much, and everyday he told me how grateful he was to have me. This is why I don't understand how he could end it without showing any signs of heartbreak. He told me he was upset, but had "other stuff worse than this to deal with"...

  • So for around the past year I have had discharge but today there was a little brown-y red spot on my underwear an I don't know what it is ?
    Also I have never had a period before xx

    This may be the first sign of your period and for this reason I would advise wearing a pad or liner for the next couple of days just in case more fluid is lost.

  • B's question PART 6:
    He promised me it was nothing I had done and he spoke to me calmly, telling me that he will still reply to texts, but he gave me the idea that he would rather not. Of course I'm heartbroken. It hurt so much when he told me, without any unsurity that I should find another guy who I can love even more than him. That's the last thing I want to hear or do at the moment. We hung up, and I discussed it with my best friend for a while....

  • B's question PART FIVE:
    In hindsight, I can say that he did sound strange to me; it was almost as if it was back when we first met, and he was still slightly nervous and shy, not his usual self. Now I guess that was anxiety, because after conversation started to run dry, he dropped the "I've been thinking" line. He told me he'd been thinking about GCSEs and his granddad, and that he didn't want a relationship anymore....

  • B's question PART FOUR:
    We still continued to put the absurd amount of kisses on the end of our texts, so I thought it was just a phase. On Tuesday evening, he asked to ring me I was excited, because it had been the first time I heard his voice in 3 weeks, I did the majority of the talking, and that went on for about half an hour....

  • B's question part THREE:
    It was little things that made me feel uneasy, but I denied any thought that he could be falling out of love with me, and put it to the fact that he'd been feeling down recently; his granddad died last year and I knew he'd been thinking about him a lot....

  • B's question PART TWO:
    Despite this, we had an absolutely amazing relationship, and we shared everything with each other. We never went a day without communicating and quickly he became a special part of my life. However, the past two weeks or so, I could tell he wasn't himself...

  • Hi, i got my 2nd period 6 weeks after the first and it is 4 weeks and 3 days since and it still hasn't come do you think it will be 6 weeks after the second one i had, i am really nervous as my mum thinks they come 4 weeks after each one.

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years with both long and short gaps between each one being noticed, sometimes several months will pass between periods. Even once your period is more regular your cycle can be anything between:- 21-34 days so please try not to worry.

  • HI Viki
    I started my first period on the 7th of March.
    I am going on two camps at easter and was wandering what supplies would I need and if it was alright to start using tampons?
    Danni
    xxx

    Hi Danni, why not read my blog entitled What to Pack on a School Trip for all you need to know on this subject.

  • B's question PART ONE:
    Hi, I'm 16 years old and my boyfriend and I had been in a relationship for 3 and a half months. Although it doesn't sound like a long time, I don't believe that time is a measure of love. We don't go to school together and we live about a half an hours drive away from each other, so we only really met up once a week at best. Despite this, we had an absolutely amazing relationship, and we shared everything with each other... Tbc

    See my response in Part Nine.

  • I get discharge nearly every day and I've had it for maybe 7 years now. When I get it it's a LOT, I mean covering the length of my underwear, like from front to back. It's usually white and it doesnt smell nice.

    Discharge has a slight odour but when mixed with urine, faeces or sweat it can become unpleasant, for this reason it's important to wipe this area from front to back after using the toilet and possible consider liners and wipes too.

  • I think it would be really cool if there was a Lil Lets advice Facebook account, like one you could actually add as a friend or follow. Would that ever be something your team would consider?

    As a large proportion of the girls who visit this site are under 13 we do not feel a Facebook account would be suitable at this time.

  • Hi Vikki I applied to college over 200 miles away and I'm scared what my mum & dad will say. I have a feeling they will be mad at me! What can I do? I'm 18.

    Have a word with them letting them know what has led you to this decision and how you are going to make it work. If you have enough information to back up your decision I am sure they will consider your choice.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 12 years old. I know that's still quite young but most of my friends around me have started their period and they aren't as developed as but i haven't started my period. My mum started around my age too. Sometimes i feel like a liquid coming out of my vagina but when i look i cant see any blood or discharge. I get discharge sometimes but not everyday. I was wondering if you could help me xxx

    Thanks

    Very often discharge can be clear in colour and difficult to notice and it's important to remember that not everyone starts their period at the same time as family members, so please relax and ensure you are prepared for your periods arrival, which may even be sometime later this year.

  • I asked you today about feeling down and stuff well is it possible to still be in puberty after 18?

    I would say yes, the changes linked to hormonal fluctuations can still be present into someone's early twenties too.

  • I think you should put a section with questions that usually get asked so that you don't have to awnswer the same question over and over again. :)

    I think visitors like a personal answer to their questions, which often differ slightly to anyone else's, so I really don't mind repeating myself. In truth you can find the answers to most of your questions if you click on all the great articles and blogs on the website.

  • Hi,
    I said I was going to commit suicide, well I told my mum and she said I cant and that's ok and I am going to get help, you said it was disturbing and that's fair enough, sorry for the message, my emotions were to overwhelming on that day and my suicidal thoughts got the better of me.

    There is no need to apologise I am here to listen and advise and it's wonderful  news to hear that you have spoken to your mum and together you are working together to help you through this time in your life...and remember you can always come and visit us here at Lil-Lets and drop me a line when you need to chat.

  • My period is so heavy! I'm on my 3rd day and it's really heavy and I get so self concious and sometimes I feel like I've peed my pants/piddle it's so horrible please help!! Xxx

    Hi, we can all feel like this from time to time which is why it may be worth considering switching to our Lil-Lets Freshlock Long or Night pads, they are super absorbent, super slim and super comfy too.

  • I've had lots of discharge from down below does this mean I might start my period soon
    Thanks Vicki xx


    Discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your first period, even longer for some. So now may be a good idea to ask your mum for some period supplies such as pads or liners. Or even our fabulous Lil-Lets teens starter pack.

  • is it normal to have a kind of brown discharge which looks like a period and then the next day nothing?

    It is not unheard of, remember though that this may have been a little left over waste food if you had not wiped yourself thoroughly after visiting the toilet. My advice would be to wear a pad for a day or two just to be sure.

  • Hi Vicki
    We have to do a talk for English and it's important cause it's for passing part of the nat 4 added value thing. I hate talks so much! I go red and my voice goes all funny, I shake uncontrollably. I don't know what topic to do either cause I don't want people to judge me for that and how can I not panic and stop being so nervous infront of the whole class?

    Discuss something that you know about and liking the subject is a must, by doing this, if for any reason you go off track you will hold so much information about this subject in your memory you will be able to talk without the use of notes. Keep your chat short and interesting, add in a couple of funny sections to lift the mood and if you make a mistake laugh it off and simply say "I'll start again". It happens to us all even when you have been talking for many years. Finally, practice speaking out loud about your chosen subject, in the car, in the shower, at the dinner table until it becomes second nature. We used to have a spaniel and I would sit him down in front of me and talk to him!

  • Well I'm 12 and there's this boy at school in year 11 who I really like. I wouldn't dream of asking him out because I know he's way too old for me. I don't follow him round but I watch him and get the giggles when he walks past. Is this stalking? I read that stalkings a criminal offence and I'm really worried. Also, would it be ok for me to go out with him when I'm like 15 or 16 because I think he's 3 years older than me.

    Thanks xx

    No  this is not stalking, this is a crush and very common for girls of your age especially towards older boys in school. I even had one myself.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    My name is lois and I'm 13 years old, and I'm worried I might start my period at school.

    If this happens what's shall I do?

    From lois

    Hi Lois, why not read my blog entitled Periods in School for all you need to know about this subject.

  • Hi vicki I'm 13 I have a this close friend and he asked me do I want to have sex ? What do I do now ?

    If he is a good or close friend he would not have put you in such an uncomfortable position. So politely decline his offer, letting him know it would a) be illegal and b) is not generally the way someone should act if they are a true friend.

  • Hello, I am on my period and it is really heavy this month and I stayed home from school today because I had such bad cramps and I was scared I would leak at school. Tomorrow I have a sleepover at my friends for her birthday and people I'm not really close to are going to be there. I bled through my pad last night and I'm worried it's going to happen tomorrow night infront of everyone, how can I prevent this? Thanks, Ella๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

    Hi Ella, if your period is very heavy consider our Lil-Lets Freshlock long and night pads, they work for me and reduce the chances of leakage at night as our night time pads have a wider section at one end.

  • do you get period pains in your stomach?

    For some menstrual cramps are experienced in the lower abdomen, lower back, groin and top of legs.

  • Hello :)
    I was wondering if you could help me. Ok so for a while now I have been feeling...off. I am nearly always anxious, I never want to go out with my friends, or even see them, it's my friends 21st birthday at the weekend and I'm dreading it, I often don't even feel like leaving the house, I'm always worried about what my parents think of me, I always just want to be alone, the only person I seem to want to hang around with is my bf.

    Hi, if you feel you teenage years are now behind you  and that these changes to your emotions are not linked to puberty you should visit your GP for a chat, he will no doubt run some tests and help you identify why you feel so low.

  • Helloooo Vicki!!!!
    I just wanted to ask whether or not i could take some sort of medicine to get my period back. I havent gotten my period for 1 yr and 3 months, in the 2 months that i got it, it was REALLLLLYYYY light. I started devoloping breasts 4 years ago and my cheeks and forehead are covered with pimples and scars...
    My mum went to a doctor and the doctor recommended taking something but my mum cant remember... Perhaps you might know what it was??
    Thank youuu!!!

    If your sure your period started last year and has not stopped you should go back and share your concerns with your family doctor.

  • Hi Vicki
    Just wanted to say thank u Soo much for answering all my questions you are such an inspiration.
    I know this is probably a waste of your time but I just wanted to say thank you soooo much :)
    From ally

    Hi Ally, thank you, you are more than welcome.

  • helomy friend is worried as she thinks shes bisexual, shes 14, but i told her she may not be as her hormones are like just getting balenced as she has only just started her period, she is convinced shes bisexual i said im alwaus here to support her but what do you think, do you think its just her age or do you think she actually is thanks, evie xxxx

    Hi Evie, I think you give out great advice and your friend has plenty of time to work out who she is attracted to, there really is no rush.

  • Vicki, I really like this boy and we go out now. I know it probably won't last forever because I'm only 14 and I have common sense for that. The thing is.. It's really cringy the relationship, after day 1 he told me he loves me which is just too soon it's only been a day and I don't know if I like it. Should I give it a week before I make any more decisions or should I talk to him, and if so how? Plz help

    Be honest with this boy letting him know that you like him a lot but feel the word 'love' is often said before it is felt and you would prefer you both got to know each other before making any such serious commitments.

  • Basically I like this boy and so does my friend and she has known him since they were little, I know that she likes him because she keeps talking about him to me and my other friends but they don't know I like him too, the hard part is I think he likes me back but I don't know if I could be in a relationship with him because I'd upset my Friend, which upsets me because I like him so much but I'd never want to her. Help!!!

    It may be time to come clean with your friend and ask her if she likes this boy as a friend or as a potential boyfriend. If she says "No" then this gives you a chance to let her know that you like this boy too. If she says "Yes", then you may want to consider what to do next, you could be bold and tell her that you like him too, or you could simply wait to see if he asks you out.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Whenever I talk when I'm alone, or when I sing alone, my voice usually sounds okay, but when I'm around others, I seem to stutter a little when I talk and my voice sounds awful when I sing. Help?

    It may be that you are nervous around others, but the more you sing and chat the easier it will get.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 12 and I got my first period about in December then I got it in January and I didn't get it in February or March should I see a doctor?

    No, this is very common and there is no need for medical intervention. Periods can be quite irregular for the first few years with both short and long gaps between each one often being noticed as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Is it normal for my age I'm 11 to have a bra size as 32c

    There is no right to wrong size for breasts to be at any age, we really are all different you see.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm that girl who likes jesse, the guy that goes on my friends bus but she hates him, yeah well this is the problem with your advice, we don't go to the same school he's in 7th grade I'm in 6th. I only see him when I go on my friends bus and on Instagram. We barely see each other! But I only like him because I like guys that are older than me and I'm the oldest kid in school! And he's sweet and kind and cute and awesome... But I'm getting to the wrong subject i need advice again!

    If you only see him from time to time then smile and see if he returns your smile and chats to you.

  • Hey Vicki! So a few days ago I found a tiny red bump with a white top right above my vagina. Then I just found another one that looks exactly like it on my leg, what do u think it is, just zits?

    Yes I think these are just spots which can appear anywhere on the body.