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If you’ve asked Vicki a question she will post the answer on this page (and the best thing is nobody will ever know it was you that asked!). You can search for your answer using the unique reference number you were given after you asked your question or enter a keyword or words from the question you asked. What's more, the most recently answered questions are shown below and you can also search for questions by clicking on one of the categories. You might even just want to have a look at the questions other girls have asked! 

 

Older answered questions

  • I know it's a strange question, but where are you from? (country/county/city/town etc.) I'm from Lancashire in England. 😊 But I don't like it here because its scary when its dark.

    I am from the West Midlands in the United Kingdom.

  • Its the 'stick-teacher-gossip' girl again!

    Thank you for all your extremely helpful advice! You're the best! You give so much good advice. Thanks again! I don't know where I'd be without your advice! (probably in detention for threatening a teacher)

    I'm going to recommend the 'Ask Vicki' page to my friends. 😊

    Thank you for your wonderful feedback.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 12 and I have recently started growing breasts and feel like I need some sort of crop top for sport and changing in school as I am the only one without one. I asked my mum a few years ago and she said yes but then kind of forgot about it and now I'm trying to ask again but am finding it hard xx

    Why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this should move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • Hi,
    My best friend goes to a different school now and ever since she started she has been acting very strange. Now she said to me that we can be a close friends and share are secrets, we all ways talk about having periods and now she has had her first one.But who will I talk to she has been upsetting me allot but I need her,I think she need me too.
    πŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’ŽπŸ’Ž

    Why not have a chat to your friend and let her know in what ways she has upset you, it could be that she does not realise she is being hurtful. Remember though that she may have some critism for you also and that it would be beneficial for both of you to listen and try to make the other person feel better.

  • Hey Viki,
    Well maybe a couple of weeks ago I kept getting brown stuff in my knickers I heared that this might be my first period but I'm not sure because like there wasn't much at all and nothing ever leaked so I didn't think much of it? Was it my period? Should I go out and buy pads in case it is and becomes heavy? I really don't know!! Thanks in advance πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

    This may have been your period, especially as the brown fluid was noticed over a number of days. My advice would be to keep some pads or liners with you at all times from now on, in preparation for your next period.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I have had regular periods but my recent one came late and when it came, it was lighter than usual. It stopped now, but should I be concerned?
    Btw I'm 11.
    Thanks Vicky!

    No not at all, the amount of blood lost can vary from period to period and like most teenagers periods can often be irregular too.

  • hi viki!
    I've recently noticed that I've got dark hair appearing on my thighs, bum, back, stomach, arms and lip. thighs arn't a problem because I can shave them but I don't want to shave my entire body because the hairs grow back thicker and darker. How can I solve this problem? should I start to wax or dye?
    please help, I don't know what to do :(

    xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

    Firstly, it is a myth that shaved hair grows back thicker and darker, it just appears this way because you are removing the hair at the surface of the skin and when it grows back it appears blunt. During puberty it is very common to notice more body hair and you may find that as you continue your journey into adulthood this body hair reduces all on its own, without any intervention from you, so please don't be tempted to rush into anything just yet.

  • How many periods should I have before I start to use the lil lets teen tampons ??

    This really is up to you, lots of girls prefer to use pads for the first five or six periods they have and until they are more used to their flow and cycle. But just as many switch to tampons if they feel comfortable to do so.

  • so I started taking to this guy called nick online and we got really close and he started saying that he loved me and in a way I kinda loved him back so we met and I thought everything went well, so a couple of days after I got grounded and couldn't meet him again so I told him and he said it was alright and that he still loved me but then the day after I see he's blocked me and he's blanking my messages. Also my friend tells me his status says in a relationship what should I do?

    I would delete this boy from your account as it is clear he is not prepared to accept the status you now find yourself in and for this reason alone he is not good boyfriend material.

  • Hi Vicki, I started my period about a year ago and my cycle was regular. I got my period in June but it hasn't came since, should I be worried or is this okay? Thank you

    Not at all, as periods can often be irregular with large gaps of several months between each one, so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki Kacey here! This is a little bit rude so please exuse me! I am 14 and so is my adorable boyfriend, sometimes I get a feeling of arousal around him but I don't want to have sex till im 16. Is there anyway to kind if overcome this just wondering and again sorry for being a bit rude!

    Hi Kacey, I am glad to hear you are willing to wait until you are legally old enough to be sexually active. My advice is to ensure both you and your boyfriend are never in a position when you are alone and at risk of being intimate. And try to remember that part of dating someone is about friendship, so try to do some fun activities together such as swimming, bowling, etc...

  • I've just got my first period and I'm using your lil lets day towels with wings but I have to get changed infront of everyone for PE how do I get changed without everyone seeing the wings of my towel?? Thanks

    You can always pop into the bathroom and put your shorts or gym skirt on in there if you feel a little self conscious. I believe that some girls consider wearing a second pair of pants during PE and when on their periods to disguise the wings, so you may even want to consider this.

  • Hi Vicki
    Earlier my mum said I look deformed, she was laughing to my sister. It hurt so much. I had a lump in my throat and nearly broke down. They know my self-esteem is critically low but all they do is joke about it.
    Also, is slapping your child abuse? And hitting her with a slipper? Or is it disipline because thats how I grew up and still do.
    Love K. X

    Hi K, have a chat to your mum and let her know how hurtful you find her comments and ask that she considers this when chating to you or about you to others. You can also use this time to discuss the punishment offered in your family and if you feel it is unjust let her know.

  • Hello, so i am 14 i have had many periods and they used to be very heavy, but my past 3 have been very light, and not really red?why is this? Thank you🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊🏊

    The amount of blood lost during each period can vary from time to time and is nothing to worry about, your body will still be working out the right menstrual cycle just for you and during your menstrual life you may find the amount of fluid lost will change.

  • Hi vicki
    I am beginning to become very worried because I'm 13 and haven't started my period. I have had small discharges, but all my friends have started. My boobs are beginning to grow bigger and pubic hair started sound 6 months ago. When should my period start and what to I do???

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hi, ive not got my period and im craving sooo much, ive just had 3 corns on a cob,and mushroom coated things, im still craving EVERYTHINNNGGGGGG, Is this a sign of my period?
    How do i controll it

    No this is most likely a sign that your body is working extra hard during puberty and requires extra calories, which is fine but please ensure you eat mostly healthy foods, such as fruit, vegetables and protein.

  • I am worried about getting my period in school. I would ask my stepmum but i'm embarrased. I have symptoms but I've had them for ages now. What should I do?
    Love, L.V. xxxx

    Hi LV, why not read my blog entitled Periods in School, I think you will find it very useful.

  • Iv been having trouble with my friends and iv been in the sag (a place were troubled kids go) countless times I'm very scared what should I do




    Have a chat to your teacher about how you feel and ask if they can offer you advice on how to turn things around, as it is clear you want to make a change.

  • Do boys get periods

    No, only females are lucky enough to carry a child.

  • Dear viki
    I'm a bit fat and my mum is trying to help me by getting healthy stuff but I don't like fruit or veg . Also I always seem to be hungry even after I have eaten I'm trying to put up with it and I'm going to skip breakfast but why am I always hungry

    Never skip meals and instead increase the amount of protein and vegetables in your diet so you feel less hungry during the day. Remember too the importance of exercise and if you can walk, dance or swim a couple of times a week.

  • My public hair is becoming quite long and I wasn't sure what to do about it so please could you give me some advice thanks x

    Why not trim the hair back a little with some rounded ended scissors if you feel the hair is too long.

  • Dear vicki
    i really like this guy and he is a friend in a way.he knows i like him but he recently got rejected.i don't think he likes me but i wish he would.what should or can i do.he is 13 and i am 12 but we are in the same year

    Be a good friend to this boy and you may find that in time and when he has got over his rejection you can be more than just friends.

  • Hi Vicki, I have been on my period for two years now. I am 12 I was wondering weather or not I should start using tampons rather than pads. Also were do I insert the tampon?? Xx Abbey

    Hi Abbey, it really is a personal choice as to whether you switch to tampons or use a selection of both tampons and pads during your period. Why not ask your mum if you can try our Lil-Lets teens tampons ideal for first time users. As for insertion, on our websites we have videos showing you how to insert and each pack of tampons has detailed information on insertion and removal.

  • Hey Vicky πŸ’œπŸ’œ
    I have a friend who has a boyfriend , I think she is forgetting about me when ever I want to meet her she is always with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is a good friend but I just want to spend more time with my friend. When we go somewhere they kiss the whole way and it's so annoying she doesn't listen to me. I did tell her about it but still nothing!πŸ˜‚
    Thank you, Nataly 😘

    Hi Nataly, if you have had a chat to your friend and she has not listened to your concerns, then it may be a good idea to find a new group of friends to hang out with. Don't be too hard on your friend and if you can stay friendly, repsecting her decision to spend time with her boyfriend.

  • Since summer I keep thinking about the name Ash, it's popped up in books I've read and tv. I fantasize that he's a real person that I meet and we fall in love. Cherry Angel

    Hi Cherry, there is nothing wrong with having a little fantasy.

  • My under arms are getting itchy and I don't know what if it is a sign of puberty or not

    It could be a sign that under arm hair is developing or that you are now starting to sweat in this area too. So ensure going forward you always wash this area thoroughly.

  • Hi vicki,
    My breasts are awefully painful and i dont know what to about it. It has been going on for quite a while and also i havent started my period yet.

    Breasts are often tender when developing, a supportive bra or crop top will help as will gently massaging the area.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My friend and I are really close friends, we sit next to each other in registration, we text/talk a lot and eat with each other at lunch often. I think I may have a girl crush on her but that doesn't really bother me, my real question is:

    Is it weird that the two of us are planning to go to America/Canada when in our GAP Year to try to have a successful YouTube career?

    This sounds like a normal friendship to me, spending time together, having fun and making plans for the future.

  • I have had discharge for quite a while now, but the other day, there was some darker coloured discharge about the same size and shape as my finger nail. This hasn't returned and since then, and my discharge has gone back to its normal colour (yellowish white) but I was just wondering was this my period? Thanks xx

    It could have been your period, alternatively it could have been waste food residue if you had not wiped the area thoroughly, so why not wait and see what happens over the next few months.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 13 and I've got Pubic hair and my boobs are growing and iv had the white discharge for 6 mounts... I think ?!? So do u know how long till I have my period

    Hope u reply,
    Jade

    Hi Jade, discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months so please be patient your body will know when the time is right just for you.

  • Hi,
    My names jade, I'm 13years old and all of my friends have started threre period and they are 12.But I know evrey one startes at diffrent times. But there's a theory that if you drink 3 cups of green tea a day you will get your period quicker I was just woundring if that was true ??!

    Thank hope u reply

    Hi Jade this is not true at all.

  • what does "getting the snip" mean?
    fabby xxx

    Hi Fabby, this is a slang term used to describe when a male has a vasectomy. A surgical procedure for permanent male birth control.  

  • Hi Vicki, I don't know who to talk to so I came to you. This girl I don't really get along with danced with my crush (that I like for 3 years now)at the school dance and flirted with him the whole time. Now everyday at school she can't leave him alone and flirts with him the whole time. AND... Today I found out that their a couple. WHAT DO I DO NOW?.. Beacause my crush and me is still good friends and throw break he saw I was down. How do I tell him he's the reason? Can you help? Anonymous

    If you have never shared your feelings with this boy it would be a good idea in my opinion to keep your affection to yourself. Try to be happy for them as a couple and spend less time around him if you can. Only time will tell if they are meant to be, but if they do split up, you really should let this boy know you like him as boys are not very good at understanding signals unless they are pretty obvious.

  • Do you know which celebrity's are being chosen to interview in 2015?

    We have not reached a decision.

  • Hi, could you please interview Emma watson and taylor swift? They really inspire me.

    Thanks
    Emma xxx

    Hi Emma, I will add them to the list.

  • Hey Vicki, so my friend gave me some kik names(of people she knew) but I started talking to the wrong guy and im scared he knows my nameand country but nothing else can he find out my address im really scred in case he is somebody that likes kids or something. PLEASE HELP !!!!!

    That depends on the information you have given him, have a chat to you parents and let them see your site and delete this person from your group.

  • Hi Vicki xxx, I am a horse rider and very spiritual but not religious and I like to go riding with my friend at night when it is dark one day I at riding and I fell of and broke my arm and when I am on my period and I go up the and still ride as my arm is now better I like the feeling of my vagina up against the saddle is this normal ΒΏ???ΒΏ

    I am 11 and my name is Jessica

    Hi Jessica, I am glad you enjoy riding your horse and I can only imagine you like the friction caused when riding which is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi
    My breasts are still developing and at the moment
    I wear crop tops. Would It be bad for my breasts
    Id I wore a padded bra/bra?? Plz answer back asap!

    No not at all, if you feel this is the best option for you.

  • Hi vicki
    I was just wondering how do you know how to insert an applicator tampon for the first time?
    Sarahe x

    Hi Sarahe, there are some great videos on our website that show you how to insert a tampon and included in every pack of tampons are clear instructions on how to do this also.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I really need your help... I've had discharge for over a year, I have 34aa breasts and other signs of my period... I'm 11 on Nov 5th.
    On my liner today I saw a brown smudge and pink smudges as well, and I'm really worried because this hasn't happened before... Last night I saw a bit of brown on my liner, so is this my period? It's not heavy, but I can see it really clearly. xx

    This could be your period as very often there is only a little bit of blood lost, but make sure there is no offensive odour as it could also be residue from waste food if not wiped away thoroughly.

  • Hi how long till you interview Cheryl cause she said you added her to the list ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀ ❀

    Hi, we add a great many people to our list based on the feedback from this site, but we have not yet made our decision who next years' celebrities will be yet.

  • Hi vicki!
    Recently I have noticed my breasts have small lines going across them and there like red/purple but my bum is covered in them what are they? Should I be worried what does it mean?
    Thanks ly x

    These are stretchmarks and are very common when the body grows over a short period of time, stretching the skin. You can find out more about these marks by reading my blog entitled; Stretchmarks.

  • Hi vicki, so i like this boy but i dont think he likes me as he said to his friends im fat but to be honedt i think my belly is a bit chubby as i am quite skiny in legs and hips and sides but my belly just goes up as it looks like im fat

    Ignore any comments made by this boy and if you can continue being friends, as it appears this is all he is looking for at this time.

  • If under my bust im 79 and over im 91 what is my size?

    36AA is your size.

  • Hi vicki,
    I just want to know that this is my second period and I only had a little bit of blood why is that??? By the way I'm 12

    The amount of blood lost can vary from period to period and sometimes only a small amount of blood is released, it's nothing to worry about and all very normal.

  • hi vicki my name in aan and i have had my first period in august 2014 and then i missed a month and got it again in october its is 29th today october and boobs really hurt and is it normal im twelve and i havent got nipples yet ? Also about 6 months before august i had my period it was brown/red and then it didnt come back thrn it came in august then it was also brown/red but on the 2 nd it was all brown and really lite it fitted on a pantliner is that normal ? thanks Vicki
    Aan

    Hi Aan, firstly it is very normal for breasts to feel tender as they develop and menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red, with the amount being produced varying too. So you see this is all very normal.

  • Hi viki am I ready for a bra I do wear a crop top with a pad In it but I don't no how to measure so what do I do

    Why not check out our Bra Guide under the Puberty tab and Boobs and Bras for advice on how to measure yourself.

  • How many questions would you say you get a day? Xx

    A few hundred every day.

  • Hi my breasts are still developing and at the moment I
    Wear crop tops. Will it be bad for my breasts if I wear a padded bra/bra
    I really dont know? Plz answer bck asap:)

  • hi vicki i love this guy but he loves my best freind what do i do x thanks lollipop

    Hi Lollipop, unfortunately in life we often find the person we are attracted to does not feel the same about us. It does not mean there is anything wrong with you, but rather that you are not compatible. So try not to worry and move on spending as little time around this boy as you can.

  • Hi, what is the average age to start a period. Thank you

    12-13 is the average age but  a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • My friend has just told me she started cutting herself and she showed me, it was really bad and I felt like crying, she's always asked me what I would do if she cut herself and if she committed suicide, she's my AMAZING BEST BFF but I don't want her to do this! She told me I can't tell anyone but I want to tell someone and ask them so I thought I could ask you,

    PLEASE ANSWER ASAP 🌸

    Millie

    Hi Millie, I appreciate that your friend wanted to share this with you, but I also understand how upsetting you have found this. Have a chat to your friend and urge her to discuss this matter with a trusted adult such as a friend or family member.

  • Hi Vicki!I am Cecilia
    Please answer my questions:
    1)Does the sample pack goes to other countries or only limited to England?
    2)Do you think that Lil lets could come to Malaysia?
    I love Lil lets a lot but I can't buy it here in Malaysia and my mom can't really afford it on the online shop.The shipping is really expensive.
    Love,
    Cecilia

    Hi Cecilia, I am afraid at this time we are only shipping samples to the UK.

  • Hi vicki On snapchat these boys keep askin to see nude pics and their sending me pics of their penis so I blocked them then this other guy asked me out nd I thought he cared but after 2 days he asked for a naked pic I'm upset nd angry my mum dosent no im on snapchat so I can't tell her can u please help thnx xxx p.s I'm 12

    It would be a good idea to delete you Snapchat account and stay off this social media site for a while and no matter what never send pictures of yourself in any shape or form to these boys.

  • The texts I've resevied were form my best friends (ex now!) I'm on half term, she said texted me them as soon is we broke up. Do you think when I go back to school on Monday, my first lesson if tutor. Shall I talk o her about it? I had an instanted last year, with a bog calling me a slut. I told the head of house, it took 1 term to sort out those. So shall I tell my tutor about the texts? I feel really uncomfterbel now. Is this a form of bullying? Im in the same class as her, so will be really awkward

    Yes this is a form of bullying and needs to be dealt with by an adult so either speak to your teacher or your parents who will manage this matter for you.

  • Vicki...er, why arent there any comments in the Autmn film and book review blog?! I left a comment...and its not there! Is there something wrong?!
    Thanks... im not complaining...just womdering..heheheee!
    xxxIloveuxxx

    I have posted live several comments on this particular blog.

  • Hi vicky
    There is a boy in year 8 and I'm in year year 7 that I've known for quite some time and we get on well with each other. I started secondary school in September and my new friends always laugh and say we should go out together, whenever I see him in the corridors at school. I tried to tell my friends that we are just friends but they never listen. What do I tell them? I really want this to stop ASAP!
    Thank you very much for all your help and advice.
    Jessica

    Hi Jessica, ignoring your friends and not letting them see that their comments are bothering you, is the best way to stop this silliness.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Can girls come to the website as grown-ups to discuss sex and stuff or is it strictly girls going through puberty only?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, occasionally women will come and ask me a question if they cannot find the answer they are looking for, which I think is ok as I am happy to help anyone.

  • Hi Vicki!!!<3
    When I did sex education at school we each got a sample pack and I didn't have discharge then but now I do and I lost it when I moved house and I really need some liners!:-( I can't go out and by any I'm too embarrassed but we walk past them all the time!:-o and I really want your starter pack coz I might start soon!:$
    I wanna ask my Mum but can't
    thanks please help
    Carla xxxxx

    Hi Carla, why not request a free sample from me by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page.

  • I have half of the boys in my class crushing on me and its super annoying. This one time one of the boys hugged me and ran away yelling I love you. My mom also said that the boy have a crush on is crushing on me I don't know what to do.

    P.S. I'm in 6th grade

    Kitty girl

    Hi Kitty Girl, just be yourself and let these boys know you are only interested in them as friends and nothing more.

  • Hiya Vicki, I'm 12 and I have all the signs of starting my period but nothing..? My mum started really early into her being 11, im worried all of my friends have started, I have regular discharge, I have hair 'down there' and a little under my arms but I domt get why I haven't started ky period yet? thank you so much in advance!! P.s I love this part of the site its my favourite your just so helpful xx

    I am so pleased to learn that you love the becoming a teen website. I really would not worry about this a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • Hey Vicki,
    So I've never had cramps before during pms or at all. But then again I dont know. Since I've never really experienced cramps I'm not sure if it's a cramp or some short of stomach ache? How can I tell?

    Not everyone experiences menstrual cramps or pre-menstrual symptoms to please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 14 in 3 days; but 6 months ago I started my period. I had 2 they were around the same date on both months, but ever since my second one I haven't had my 3rd it's now been 4 months since the fact. I'm not sexually active or anything, but I'm freaked out. I don't know what's wrong with me. I play sports and I'm 100-103 pounds I don't know if that makes a difference. Also I have almost no boobs. Why???
    Xoxo vanessa.

    Hi Vanessa, periods are often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months between each one being very common, so please try not to worry, your body is just working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • hello vicki
    i'm short and i get bullied sometimes for having 36dd is that not an average size for a short 16 year old girl?

    There really is no average size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, so please try not to worry and ignore any silly or unkind comments.

  • I have a few questions:

    I am 11 and I masterbate. Is this normal
    I have hair down there and under my arms and have regular discharge, but haven't had my period. Will it be soon.
    I am a 30 a in bra size and I have noticed little hairs. Am I normal
    Thankyou so so so much for your help
    Rosie xx

    Hi Rosie, in answer to all of your questions you really have nothing to worry about this is all very normal for someone of your age.

  • hi vicki!

    is there a site like this for boys?

    purplepanda

    I really do not know, but boys are welcome to come and ask questions on this site and lots do.

  • I have started my period since I was 10 and I just turned 14 and some times I get it and sometimes like I didn't get it this month is that strange plz answer

    This is fine as periods can continue to be irregular throughout your teen years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • hi vicki,so i have recently masterbater and i fear it will affect my periods help!

    Masturbation has no impact on your periods whatsoever so please try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki,I'm 12 years old and my bra size is 34D.Am I big for my age?.All my friends are an A, and it it makes me self conscious,I get attention from boys my age because of it.Is there any way I can stop this? Thanks x

    Hi, there really is no right or wrong size for breasts to be no matter what your age and as you become more accustomed to your new shape you will find that you worry less about any comments or looks from boys.

  • two months ago i went to the toilet and there was a tiny bit of blood in my knickers and when i wiped the was a lot of blood on the tissue. i am 13 and i have experienced discharge ,pubic hair and cramps.i thought it would happen this month but it has not.I experienced this for 2 days i need to know if this is my period as I'm staring to worry

    This was almost certainly your period and like most first periods there can be large gaps between each one, so please try not to worry and always keep some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • There is this boy in my class i like we used to hate eachother but now we are kind of friends i asked him out once ( he is English but im not) and he said sorry my mum diesnt let me go out with ppl that arent english but then in English he sits behind me and we always talk he plays with my hair and tickles me but i dont want to ask him out again as i know he will day no what should i do? And sometimes he talks to me but sometimes he just says leave me alone!

    It sounds very much like this boy values you as a friend but nothing more and my advice would be to chat occasionally but avoid thinking of him romantically.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 15 and have been having periods for 2 and a half years now, that's all fine. But yesterday I noticed a lump that sticks out about half a centimetre right at the top of my thigh on the outer flaps of skin on my vagina. I tried
    to squeeze it thinking it was a spot and normal spot stuff did come out but I think I've inflamed it as it's quite sore now. Normally a lump like that wouldn't bother me but because of where it was I thought I better ask.
    Thanks, Em

    Hi Em, just like anywhere on your body you can get spots on your vulva and my advice would be to leave it alone and let it heal naturally.

  • Hi vicki,
    I haven't started my periods yet but when I was getting changed into my pjs I found brown in my underwear and I'm sure it's not facies and I've been getting cramps.Please help me!
    Thanks

    This could be your period so why not see what happens over the next few days and then share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Inside my vagina it seems to tilt to the side and it goes really far back inside, is this normal? tampons are hard to insert and it feel like they're squint when I put them in. My vagina is also quite sensitive inside and I'm not sure why?

    Your vagina naturally tilts towards the base of your spine and this is they way a tampon should be inserted in a slanting direction for maximum comfort.

  • Hi viki,
    I'm really nervous about my first period I have been getting discharge for about a year and a half. I'm reallyy upset and can't stop worrying. Please help me
    Anna xx

    Hi Anna, try not to worry and remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki i became friends with my ex and we don't talk much cause he hasn't been on Facebook and me and my friend were talking about boyfriends and we were talking about how strong he was and now i think i kinda like him again hes in the special needs department cause he has dyslexia and anger issues so i don't see him much is there anything you can think of so i could tell him how i feel thx fallen angel xoxoxo

    Why not smile next time you see him, just to let him know you still want to be friends and maybe ask how he has been keeping.

  • is it normal for my period to be late? I am 13 and my first and second were exactly on time. This one, my third has not arrived yet...
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hi, I came across your site and thought I'd ask.I'm 16 and have had discharge for the last 2years. Sometimes not much and others a lot but my periods haven't started yet. My mum thought they'd start around 15 (when she started) but I'm in college now and I'm scared it may just suddenly start. Is there such a thing as never getting periods? Thank you

    Try not to worry as girls can start their period anytime up to the age of 18 and the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi :)
    I'm 12 and I've had my period for a year now. I had my period for about 5days from the 3rd-8th October and I've got it again today.
    Should I be worried about this?
    Thanks :)

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the channges in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period

  • Hiya vicki
    Could you tell me the difrerence between an applicator tampon and a non applicator tampon.
    Thankyou
    Abc

    Hi, an applicator has a plastic tube that covers the tampon and helps aid insertion. You can find out all about our tampons by clicking on the products link at the top of the page.

  • I have started my periods at a very young age ( 9 years ) Now I am 11
    ( 1 month to birthday ) I am going on a residential where I HAVE to swim
    I am worried. Can I use tampons for this?

    Yes of course, tampons are ideal for when you want to go swimming.

  • Hi vicki can i get any free pads and liners from you please?

    Simply drop me a line by clicking on the Contact button at the bottom of the page.

  • Hi vicki do you think its normal for me to go and buy my own pads/ liners as i dont want to pay at a till but like self check out what should i do as my mum said for me to use hers xxxxxxc

    I really would not worry staff are trained to deal with any items passed through the check-out. But if you prefer a self check out is fine.

  • Hi what happends if a tampon gets stuck inside (as like goes in to high and stays there?) can you have any infections or can anything happend to you thanks Nikola xxxx

    Hi Nikola, there reallly is nowhere for a tampon to go so please try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki
    I was wondering if you could help me figure out my bra size.
    Fullest bust 91cm
    Under bust 77cm
    Sam
    Thanks xxx

    Hi Sam, you are 34B.

  • Hi in your adults heavy flow non applicator tampons, how many grams or ml exactly does it hold? They come in a pink box. Thank you!
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    You can find out all about our tampons absorbencies by reading my blog understanding tampon absorbencies.

  • Hi, does short period mean something as i had my first prriod but it only lasted for a day (im 13) xxxxxx βœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€

    Periods can often be  very short for the first couple of years, it is very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • why cant i wear a bra under my swimming costume?

    There is really no need for you to wear a bra under your swimming costume as swimming costumes are tight fitting and should provide you with the support you need.


  • So my best friend was with the other girls in the class and today she told them that on one of our sleepovers I farted loud in my sleep(which is not true or I would of known) all the girls started laughing and looked at me across the room at first I didn't know she was talking about me until they looked. I don't think she did it on perpose to make me upset but I don't think she would think it's ok to say that in front of gossiping girls that we don't know very well. I don't know how to talk to her

    Your friend was wrong to act so indiscreetly and cause you embarrassment and understandably, you feel a little hurt by what she has done.  You should tell her how upset you feel and then try to forget about it and remember that this is something we as humans, all do at times.

  • Heya Vicki!
    I started my period this year in March..and I've had around..3-4periods since then and they've all been brown. How long will the blood continue being old blood?

    Tanisah xx

    Hi Tanisah, you will have to simply wait and see as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • What is a girls physical check up because I am apparently having one soon? Some other people are saying they look down there and have to feel your breasts is this true? If it is I am nervous because my assinged doctor is a man

    Why not have a chat to your parents and ask them to explain exactly what will be entailed in your examination and share your concerns with them.

  • I'm really worried about starting my period because I think when I start my period is when my mum is going to have the talk with me and I don't want her to have the talk with me what should I do!

    Try not to worry and remember that your mum was once a young girl going through puberty so there is really no need for you to feel embarrassed at all.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki
    I feel very emotional sometimes and just sit In my room and cry fortunately it doesn't happen very often I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it because I feel pathetic about it. What should I do if it happens again.

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so feeling like this isn't your fault and you're not alone.  You will find that talking to your family and friends will help you feel better so please try your best to open up and express your feelings.

  • I'm 15 and a 32a. I hate my small breasts and I don't know what to do. I've had my period for about 9 months. So my question is will they continue growing or will I stay like this. Also, do you have any tips on ways to make them appear bigger?
    -Hana

    Hi Hana, try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and this is what makes us who we are.  However, it is possible for breasts to continue developing up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.  In the meantime, you might like to consider trying a padded bra as it will make your breasts appear bigger.

  • So having my discharge be light pink or orange is my period? Is it still discharge or is it just a period? Should I wear a pad because it's very light! Sorry I've never had a period before xx

    The pink/orange you noticed in your discharge was your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am on birth control and I had a really really bad pain one night in my abdominal area, it seemed to suddenly come on as I lay down to sleep. I needed to pee and it was painful but the pain continued after I urinated. it wasn't my period and it went away after about an hour. Should I see a doctor? I'eve been taking it for two years on and off and never had any problems apart from that and as far as I know I'm healthy.

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering how long before you period comes again? I got my first one about two weeks ago and I'm not sure when it will come again.
    Thanks, Ella xxx

    Hi Ella, a menstual cycle can last anything between 21-34 days  and your period should last between 2-7 days but it is useful to remember that sometimes in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki
    In am 15 in year 10 there is a boy that likes me. I know he likes cuz of the way he acts and what people including his best friend have told me. I don't know if I like him in that way. in school he makes me laugh and everything but he is so immature.really immature! I don't quite feel that feeling. But whenever he texts me outside of school, I get butterflies . I don't if this is just because a boy is texting me, beacuse they never do. Please help me figure things
    Love Lola

    Hi Lola, if you liked this boy romantically you would feel it inside. So for now why not continue being friends and see how you feel in a few months.

  • Hi vicki,
    Is it ok to own expensive makeup at 12? Is that too young? Even if I saved up for it with my own money? My friends mum was suprised when friend told her.
    Thanks once again
    Cat Xx

    Hi Cat, if your parents are happy for you to wear make-up then this really is a matter between you and your family.  Remember though that make-up does have a shelf life of generally no more than six months so be sure to use all of your items up before they are no longer usable.

  • Hi vicki,
    this is my second time on periods and im getting brown and light red discharge i am really worried can you please tell me why!!
    sana

    Hi Sana, this is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • Hi,when I came home from school I went to the toilet and did my bussines then I went to my room to get changed and I was taking my underwear off and there was this brown in the centre and red on the outside in my underwear it was a huge blob.

    I didn't feel anything happens and a few minutes before my underwear was white.

    Is this normal it looked kinda heavy

    This is your period so congratulations.  Be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Nearly every time I go to the toilet Is see a lot of white dry discharge. I always have discharge and I have been that way for about 6 years since I started my period.

    It is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.

  • Okay so i started my period then i got sick and my period has stopped. I never had sexual intercourse with anyone but i masturbate. Am i pregnant!! I looked it uo and it said pregnancy and im freaking out!

    Try not to worry as the only way you could possibly be pregnant is if you have had sexual intercourse with a male.  Masturbation will not have an effect on your period but in the early stages of the mentrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular for up to 2 years.

  • hi vicki
    if you've got period pains how long will it be till your period.
    by the way i have already had my first.

    Some girls will notice that their discharge increases and becomes thicker but other signs include headaches, nausea, diarrhoea, bloatedness or stomach, back and leg cramps.  For more information with this, check out my blog on PMS - Is it really all in your head?

  • Hi Vicki, This guy I like and his friend turn around and look at me and it's kinda weird and I have heard them say my name once or twice
    They both sit in front of me but not directly in front me as they are at the other side of the classroom and they are not trying to talk to the rest of their friends as they are directly infront of them. And it is really distracting when I am trying to concentrate

    Why not ignore these boys and not catch their gaze, they will soon realise you are not interested.

  • Hi vicki...thank u sooo much for answering my question I finally got the courage to ask my mom for a bra it was soo easy I just said to her I think I need to go underwear shopping on the weakend and she said pants or bra I said both and she say ok no problem...I thought it was gonna b awkward but after being embarrassed at first I was fine 5 minutes later thank u soooo much and I hope u live a happy life cuz u deserve one

    Thank you so much for your kind words.  I'm happy that there's no embarrassment between you and your mum.

  • I keep eating sugary junk food until I am full up, and then I feel guilty because I know the damage it can do to my body. What shall I do? :(
    Thanks!

    It is ok to eat sugary foods in moderation but keep thinking to yourself that sugar turns to fat so eating too much is not healthy for you.

  • Hi vicki , I haven't got my period yet but I get orange bits in my knickers somethimes my mom says it isn't my period I've been getting a lot of discharge for TWO YEARS!! When I am I getting my periods ?????

    As you've been releasing discharge for so long, I would guess that this was your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm really annoyed with my friends because they want to compete with me all the time. There are only six of us and it's difficult to make new friends in year ten and I'm already an outcast so other people wouldn't accept me. I have no socialization skills and the situation is horrible what do I do?

    As a way of trying to meet new friends, why not consider joining a club for something you enjoy as this will enable you to meet like-minded people?  Puberty can be a difficult time for teens and they often lack confidence and making new friends and participating in a new interest like a sport, drama or music will help you overcome this.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm fed up of my friends. Some of them can't stop talking about sex! Literally. They actually discuss things like who they would "do it" with and do the most disgusting things (they pretend to give oral sex on a banana!!!). I'm 15 and they're 14 and I'm really private and reserved with this topic but they act as if it's normal to do those types of things and look at me as if I'm uptight. What do I do?

    Ps. sorry if this is really inappropriate. :)

    Your friends are of an age when they are experiencing more feelings of a sexual nature and thus, find it amusing to discuss it with each other.  You can either ask them to stop talking so crudely in your company or find some different friends who are more reserved like you.

  • If a guy invited you to his b-day party...what do you get him? Something that's simple.

    A gift voucher or some money in his card will enable him to buy whatever he wants. 

  • dear vicky,
    i dont mean to be rude but im going through a hard time at the moment whith my school work and my pocket money to buy myself period products and ive been wondering would you be as jenrous as to give free tamporns pads and linners much apriciated


    cerys xxx

    You can easily request a free smaple of our teens range by following the 'Contact' link from the home page of this website.

  • I've just started my period so as you know they are still not settled yet. I'm afraid of getting my periods in school and I have quite a few a men teachers in my all girls school. But if I ever start my period at school, how am I supposed to tell a male teacher that I need to go to the toilet because of it.
    Thanks, Rita xxxx

    Hi Rita, the trick is to be prepared by wearing pant liners as they will protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Periods & School.

  • How do you like, umm...
    Get a boyfriend.
    I've never had ONE boyfriend before and everyone else has.
    I tell people I have had one, when really I haven't.
    Is there anything I can do or just wait till someone finds me.

    There really is no hurry for you to get a boyfriend so try not to put yourself under any pressure to find one as there is plenty of time for this in the future.  Relationship with boys at a young age seem to cause no end of problems at a time when you should be concentrating on having fun with your friends and your education.

  • Are push-up bras comfy?
    Because I want a push up bra and my mum says she doesn't mind.
    But do they hurt the bottom of your boob?
    Thanks.

    Everyone is different and finds comfort in wearing different styles of bra.  So why not consider popping along to your local department store and try on some different styles until you find one that feels comofrtable on you.

  • Hi Vicky
    I have started getting yellow ish wet stains in my underwear and I haven't started my period yet, does this mean my period is coming? It has been getting heavier recently so I am not sure whether I should start wearing panty liners or not.
    Thanks
    P.S I am thirteen

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so try not to worry.  Pant liners will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there and will also protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • WHAT DOES IT MEAN?!?!!
    Hi vicki
    I have just turned 11 and I haven't had my period since a year ago. All I've had is yellow discharge and my boobs are growing. Also I have started growing hair. What does this mean? Should I be worried?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hey vicki,
    How do you sort out arguments you have with your friends?
    Please answer urgently
    Thank you x

    By talking through your differences.  You might find that getting a mentor or teacher involved will help to calm things down between you all.

  • Hi
    28inch under
    30inch bust
    32inch on top
    What size
    123

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, whe you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Are my boobs supposed to hurt? I'm 10

    It is normal to notice tender, sore breasts with development.  A soak in the bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had vaginal discharge for nearly 2 years now.none of my friends have. Does this mean I may be starting my period ?
    Thankyou so much
    Jess xx

    Hi Jess, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hai Vicki, I am twelve and my boyfriend is fifteen, I am in year 8 and he is in year 11, I love him lots and he is gorgeous, is it really that bad that he is 3 years older than me? People haven't really said anything about us and we have been going out for just over a month now. Is it unacceptable?
    Thanks ;)

    It really is a matter for your parents as they may have clear views on this difference in ages. Personally, I do feel this is quite a large gap at this time in your lives, but you really should discuss this with your parents.

  • Could you please interview Michelle Keegan? I love you, Vicky. πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’– X

    I will pass your suggestion on to the team.  Thank you.

  • Hi vicki, I'm getting worried because I went on a school trip last week and we all shared mascara and eyeliner, I lent people my mascara and eyeliner and then used it afterwards and I used someone else's eyeliner.Is something bad going to happen ?!?

    We've all been guilty of doing this but for hygienic reasons, it is something that you should always be really careful of as eye infections can be spread very easily.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I'm on my 4th period now and I'm 12. I have had my period for about 8 days now but at night I don't bleed. Is there something wrog with me? Please reply ASAP!

    P.S I love Lil-lets it's amazing

    Try not to worry as it is normal to release up to 40% less menstrual fluid at night. 

  • Is it normal for my chest to be really sore. It's really sore when I lay on my belly/chest so I have to turn over. I am 12 and I am basically completely flat. I am the only one in my year who hasn't got boobs yet.

    Try not to worry as we all develop at different rates to each other.  As you are experiencing discomfort in your breasts, they will be developing.

  • hi vicki!
    so recently i have had this passion for being a youtuber but my mum wont allow me i tryed everything but she sed no i really want to do youtube and be a youtuber! wat shall i do shall i be a youtuber behind her back or wat! help me vicki
    thanks royalebeauty xoxo

    Hi Royalebeauty, you really should respect your mum's wishes.

  • Hello Vicky my period started again 2 days ago and I'm 11 and I have had my period for over a year now and now its brown and u can barely even see it should I be worried ?

    Try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  If you have released this brown discharge mid-cycle, you are ovulating so try not to wrry.

  • Everytime me and my boyfriend make out I get really aroused but I've noticed that he never seems to have an erection at all. I heard that boys hide it under their waistband but I've tried to see and it doesn't look like it. I heard it's really easy to turn boys on and if I can't turn my boyfriend on does this mean he doesn't find me attractive? He's either really good at hiding it, I'm looking in the wrong place for the wrong thing or he genuinely doesn't have oneπŸ˜”

    If your boyfriend did not like 'making out' as you call it, I am sure he would find an excuse to not take part in this pastime. So try not to worry there is no rush to move things on further if he is not yet ready.

  • Under- 72.5
    Bust- 81.5

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • my first and second period was all brown discharge and very little blood, so little it didn't even stain the pad. Is this normal?

    This is perfectly normal as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years so try not to worry.

  • I found brown discharge in my underwear all week. Is this considered a period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    it has been almost one year now and my second period still isn't here. Is this normal?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Vicki please answer!
    I just found out my ex best friend got her period. Her chest is flat (the way we all see it) and I havnt started mine yet! My mum told me that I would get my first period when she did- this time of year and that was three months ago! I have had discharge since the beginning of the year and I have pubic hair, my mum even shaves my armpits because they where hairy. I CAN'T BELIEVE MY FRIEND GOT IT before me, I feel like crying and I feel left out xx

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and we don't always follow our mums in being the same age starting our period.  As you've already been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away so please try not to worry.

  • how close to 1st period...B.O has been stinky lately..i have occasional cramps, ive had discharge since 5th grade..now in 7th, its so heavy now soaks through my undi, breast have been sore latley and getting noticeably larger, have a bit of black curly hair down there, dont know what this is but had bad stomach pains for the past 3 days, is sharp in the middle, then goes to where cramps would be, comes with poop and a bit of nausea on and off, anyway plz let know when u think 1st period will be here

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • My crush got odds to ask me to the dance I didint know this and when he didi was confused I said yes then My friend told me it was a odds and I got super pissed then after school we made up and I texted him saying hdidint have to go to the dance with unless he wanted to and he responded he wanted to go alone the I was really sad and I get that he wants to go alone and I found out he dosent like me in that way also I'm kinda mad at my friend for not telling me about it (my crushes friend picked me)

    I appreciate that you feel a little sad by this news, but you have been very sensible in speaking to this boy and asking him how he really feels and you may find that going the dance with friends is just what you need to have a good time. It doesn't always have to be about boys and I am sure when the right person comes along you will find it truly magical.

  • Hi vicki, I have been having discharge for a while now and sometimes its white sometimes its cleat and sometimes its yellow-ish. Is this normal? Also, my discharge smells really bad is there anything I can do get rid of the smell?

    Your discharge sounds completely normal so please try not to worry.   You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi vicki, I don't know if you answer questions like this, but I don't know what's wrong. Every night before school, I over think, which leads to the next morning, I end up feeling sick, getting a lump in my throat, and also uncomfortable with everything that's going on around me from the thought of going to school. I've also found Ive become extremely self conscience lately? I don't know if its anxiety or..? I'm tired of feeling like this, I don't know what to do..?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the psychological and emotional changes that are occurring.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at an all time low leaving them susceptible to stress so none of this is your fault.  So, try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will really help you feel better.  Chances are, some of your friends will be feeling the same way too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    This is a bit embarrassing but I'm 12 and 4 foot 10 and everyone my age is starting to develop except me.
    My nipples are starting to hurt and I think my boobs are starting to grow but how long until they will really start to be bigger or at least big enough to wear a padded bra...?

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  As you're experiencing some discomfort in your breasts, it is likely that they are developing so please try to be patient.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi vicky

    I am a 28AA in bras but I just war a non paded trianing bra.
    My mum and sister (who is 20) both are 34B in bras do you think I will be a 34B when I'm older?

    Thank
    (ps I am 11)

    There is a chance you might be the same size as your mum and sister but you will have to wait and see.

  • Hiya again Vicki! Hi Vicki! It's Leah (again!) I was just wondering if you could tell me what is inside your sample pack? X Leah x

    Hi Leah, you will find a teens Day towel, Night towel, teens Liners, a teens non-applicator tampon and applicator tampon, a sachet of Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes and a Becoming a Teen booklet which is filled with useful information to help guide you through puberty.

  • Hiya Vicki! My name is Leah and I'm 12! I was just wondering if you could tell me what your over bust and under bust is? X Leah x

    Hi Leah, the underbust measurement is then you wrap a measuring tape all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and the over bust measurement is when you do the same but only over your bust at the fullest point.

  • hi viki I have been seeing some discharge in my underwear for about 7 months and I was wondering when I would start my period ? I am 12 almost thirteen.My mom started hers when she was 15 but both my sisters started at 13 . when will I get my period? thanks!
    -Maria

    Hi Maria, as you've already been releasing discharge for 7 months, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki! I'm really confused and kind of scared because my discharge is a reddy orange. There is no dried blood in my underwear but my discharge is light red/orange! I've had discharge for about 3 years now and I've developed breasts for 4 years. Is this my period?

    This is your period so please try not to worry.

  • I want to start shaving under my arms but I can't come out and ask my mum any tips ?

    Try to remember that your mum was ayoung girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about wanting to shave your underarms.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am into my second month of periods and it has been 39 days since my last one and technically it was ment to start on the 13th or 16th I can't remember. So instead of having the exruiciating pain I have this yellowish green discharge when I wipe my bottom and vagina. What could it be?????

    It is possible to experience irregular periods in the early stages of the menstrual cycle as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out so try not to worry and consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi, my friend likes this boy a lot and talks to him all the time, I think think he may ask her out soon. I think she's trying to make me jealous or something because she always talks about things he's said to her and i hate to say that it's working and I seem to have developed a serious crush on this guy! I can't help it but I'm very jealous of them because she gets him and I don't and i feel angry with her whenever she talks about him! Any advice? 🌎🌎🌎🌎🌎🌎🌎

    Why not have a quiet word with your friend, letting her know how happy you are for her, but that it would be nice to have a conversation about something else, I am sure she will understand she was being a little insensitive and this should then help you get over any jealousy you feel.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I'm 13 years old, and my boobs are relatively small, but when I run they start to jiggle and just hurt, and i don't know how to tell this to my mom. I really need a bra, but my mom is really strict, and I'm a really shy person.
    It's also really hard for me to change for PE, because everybody else has a bra, except for me, and I kind of struggle with changing my shirt.
    Thanks!

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 12 and well I think my mum has anger issues and my whole family know it, but when she gets angry me and my brother (age 9)get really upset and scared of her. Nobody in my family can tell her she has them cos we are scared she'll get angry at us! It has been upsetting me for a while but I just bottled itall up inside me, so none of my friends knew. Now I get all these flashbacks of when she is worst and I worry it will affect my school work as I can't consentrate! Plz help!
    From KL

    I'm so sorry to hear that you are all living in fear of your mum's anger and would suggest that you speak to another family member about this.  A grandmother or aunt might be able to offer some support and speak to your mum on your behalf.  You can also call Childline on 0800 1111 for confidential help and support.

  • Hi viki
    I met this boy on holiday and he liked me and i just liked him as a friend so kept contact but now i dont see him every day I miss him so much we message each other and ring up but I am in love I cant even explain how much this guy means to me but I cant see him what should I do

    Holiday romances are wonderful, but once the holiday has ended it pays to be realistic about the relationship and you may find my blog entitled Surviving a holiday romance a useful read.

  • I have narrow shoulders and am a 32AA cup size (which I'm not all very happy with). Anyway I find that no matter if a bra is in my size the straps need to be in at the tightest and the problem is I always get a gap in the cup and it's really annoying. Sometimes i feel like I need two bras.

    You might want to consider booking a fitting with a professional bra fitter who will be able to suggest a style that fits you perfectly.

  • Hey Vicki sometimes i wish that a dude would like me even though i listen to rock music most of the dudes i have went out with either have never listened to that kind of music or don't know the bands is there anything you can think of that will help me plz answer this xxx fallen angel πŸ’žπŸ’ŸπŸ’—πŸ’–πŸŽ†πŸ’‘πŸΆ

    Hi Fallen Angel, I'm sure there are plenty of boys who share your love of rock music.  I wonder if there are any Music clubs at school you might be able to join as this will be a good way of meeting some like-minded boys.

  • Hi Vicki, I find this website really helpful πŸ˜ƒ. I've had light discharge in my pants for about 8 month and I often have mood swings... Some Gomes I just want yo burst out crying for no reason. I wear a 28 a bra. I am quite small and slim, recently I have been getting low belly ache. How far is my period ? πŸ’• thanks Amy x

    Hi Amy, as you've been releaisng discharge for 8 months already, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Your mood swings are a normal part of puberty and you should find that by talking about your feelings with your friends and family, you will begin to feel better.

  • I had a bad dream last night, where a man was following me, and I didn't realise he was following me until I turned around. And as I turned around he grabbed me and I started saying "Help! This man is gonna kill me!" But I woke half way through saying the sentence, and I found myself saying it in real life. Is this normal?

    Esther

    Hi Esther, there are times when we all have bad dreams and they might be the result of having watched a film or programme that has evoked some personal anxiety within you it is quite normal and although unsettling it is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi vicky!
    I'm really worried/scared because there's a high chance I have to get my tonsils removed soon, and I'm so scared of operations and I'm scared that something will go wrong!! I'm so scared I'm actually crying please help me xxx
    Abbie xx

    Hi Abby, please try not to worry as this procedure has been carried out thousands of times before and believe me when I say that you will be in very capable hands.  Just try to think of the operation as having a nice sleep and when it's all over and after a short time to recuperate you will no longer be having swollen, painful tonsils.

  • Is it a good idea to wear pants in bed if you think your period might be soon as I keep getting cramps in bed?
    Cloxxx

    Hi Clo, it might be a good idea to pop on a pant liner as it will give you some protection from leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hi Viki
    I haven't got my period yet but I get really bad cramps in my stomache
    Thank you

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki! I'm slightly worried yet curious about something.. This has happened loads of times now and I don't know if I should tell my mum or not. It first happened at the end of July. I went to the loo at school, not expecting anything. I pulled down my knickers to see a HUGE wet stain in them, It looked like pee but it wasn't.It's happened loads of times now and after around an hour I went to the toilet again because I was worried, but It had dried out Do you know what this is? It happens almost everyday

    This is discharge which is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found natuarlly on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep the vagina clean and free of infection and is a lso a sign that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • What is bigger aa or a?

    An 'A' is bigger than a 'AA'.

  • Hi viki! I've been having frequent stomach aches/cramps. But I did think I could be my period big no blood just really heavy discharge for last 2 months.
    Also the area around the bum hole has been very uncomfortable. It like some dried poo is still there...? Btw I am not on about my vagina.
    Sorry if unapproprate. Also what is mastubrating???and how do you do it?
    Thankx polly.

    Hi Polly, tummy, groin and lower back cramps are a sign that your reproductive organs are maturing and does not always mean your period is due any day soon. If you find that the entrance to your anus is irritated it may be that you have threadworms, which is fairly common and I urge you to have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news of discomfort with them.

  • I've had VERY heavy white discharge for about 5 months, but I haven't started my period yet. I'm only twelve... but my mom had hers when she was nine. My underwear is ALWAYS wet with thick white discharge. It's not itchy or anything, but its happened for almost half a year and I'm starting to worry. I've had loads of pubic hair and a bra size of 32A for as long as the discharge has been there so I know I've started puberty. :/ Is this normal? Please help!!!

    Hi and yes this is very normal, as discharge can often be noticed for up to a year or more before the arrival of your period. Finally, not every girl follows the same pattern as family members for the arrival of her first period, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki,
    I really like this boy that my friend was trying to set me up with and im pretty sure that he likes me too but my bestest friend ever likes him too and shes a bit obsessed with him because shes super desperate for a boyfriend. Im getting quite close with this boy but shes getting jealous and has started being mean to me to try and act cool around him but im scared im going to lose my best friend over him.
    Please help me its ruining me❀️

    If she is truly a best friend she will understand that you also like this boy and that it appears he feels the same and accept that you may date. So why not have a quiet word and let her know that you value her friendship but are not happy with her behaviour towards you in relation to this boy. After all no boy is ever worth losing a friend over.

  • Hi Vicki! You said that I'm roughly a 36AA.Do you think that now is a good time to start wearing bras?If so should I go for a full on cup or training bra?thanks,Abi
    \\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\

    Hi Abi, the choice is yours so when you go shopping, why not try on a training bra and some other styles to see how you get on.

  • Hi vicki

    My mum is taking me bra shopping at the weekend and I'm a bit embarrased about having to stand there whilst my mum buys the bras. Do you think I should pretend I'm going to the toilet or something?

    There really is no need for you to feel embarrassed as bras are essential for most of us women.  Why not take this opportunity to have a look at the different designs and styles of bras that are now available.

  • Hey Vicki!

    How do I tell my mum that I've got my first period? I've told my cousin and my best friends, but it's too awkward to tell my mum! Can you make an ecard for that?!?!

    Thanks!
    May xxx

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about your period.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Viki!
    I'm 2 days into my first period (which seems to be getting heavier as the days go by) and I was watching YouTube videos about how to survive, and my period is totally different to what everyone else has described. I don't have constant blood loss, I didn't get much cramping, I don't think I has a lot of PMS! It is a period, but I'm worried because I feel like I am abnormal! Am I normal??? Sorry if this is TMI, I'm just slightly worried!

    Thanks!
    Maeve xx

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to release menstrual blood at intervals and not to experience stomach cramps or PMS. 

  • Hey Vicki

    For the past few days I've got tiny little red bits in my pants along with my normal discharge... What does it mean should I be worried

    The red bits you have noticed are probably your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • hi Vicki I`ve been finding thin white stuff stuck in my pubic hair and knickers for a few months now. is this discharge and if it is then how far away do you think my period is I`m 12 thanks xxx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep the vagina clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives - this is usually within 6-12 months.

  • I haven't started my period yet (I`m 12) but when I do I want to use tampons but I`m a bit scared of using them so I tries practising with an empty applicator but I didn`t know where to put it
    help? xxx

    When the time arrives and you feel ready, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and for some help with this, please check out the video on How to use a non-applicator tampon.

  • Hi,
    My periods are really heavy, and I usually leak at night time. I always use the night-time extra long pads etc but they leak around either sides of the wings. Therefore, I get blood on my pj's and underwear. To make my life so much easier, I wondered if there is such a thing as disposable period pants (like a pad material in the shape of boxers) or something along those lines. Does that sound ridiculous? I personally thought it was a really good idea, but wondered if it already existed.

    I have heard of disposable Maternity pants that are made of paper but they would be in adult sizes so would naturally be too big for you.  Why not consider using dark coloured underwear during your period and double up on your sanitary towels.  You might also like to try Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand. 

  • I'm 14 and have my period since Jan time this year and it's really foul smelling and so is my discharge and I'm really scared people will make fUn of me or comment on it. What should I do??

    Why not consider trying our Lil-lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  I'm sure that nobody will be able to notice an odour so try not to worry but be sure to remember to change your pad regularly.

  • Vicki, I started my first period and it only lasted for 4 days and I haven't had one for 2 months now. Is it normal !!! πŸ˜•πŸ˜ŸπŸ˜Ÿ

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 months.

  • Hi Vicki
    I go dance and when I wear my leotard my nipples show through an it feels like everyone's looking at them. What should I do?
    Thanks lulu
    Ps I don't wear a bra xxx

    Hi Lulu, as you are a little self-conscious, ask your mum or guardian if she would consider buying you a bra with slight padding to help to conceal them.

  • i have full fringe and i want to push it back however i am still waiting for my sports to go away as i have loads of spots under my fringe. What should i do i really want to get rid of my fringe i have had it ever since i had hair lol x

    By pushing your fringe back with a hair band, you will be allowing the air to get to your spots which might well help them clear up faster.  Careful washing will also help to keep the skin clear but if spots are still present, ask your mum or guardian to buy some medicated facial wash or cream for you to try.

  • hello
    i can't go swimming because my mum said i wasn't allowed to use a tampon
    i am really missing out

    There will be times when you are not menstruating and will be able to take part in swimming class and it may also be a good idea to have another chat to your mum in a few months as she may have changed her views on this matter.

  • can you feel periods when you walk?

    You may occasionally feel a little blood being released, but this would not be uncomfortable or painful, it is simply a sensation.

  • hi vicki
    I am 14 and want to know my bra size, please help.
    28 inches (under bust)
    30 inches (bust)
    Thank you xxx

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi viki
    I always wet myself for no reason please tell me how to stop
    Thanks someone

    This is quite a common problem amongst teens so try not to worry and think that you're on your own.  You might like to try doing some pelvic floor exercises to strengthen the muscles down there and regain some control.  It is also possible that you might have a water infection so please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • will we ever be friends again ?
    All of a sudden he has stopped talking to me and when i asked him why he said " Because of the fact that your a horrible rumour spreader and I want nothing to do with you. Its also none of your business" . This has happen under two weeks . We where best friends before .

    If you genuinely have no idea why your friend is so upset with you, talk to him and ask what has happened.

  • Sorry for this weird question but what should I do when it stinks down there?

    You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes and our Lil-Lets teens Liners which will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I have a light yellow discharge. Could it be because my period is coming soon? I'm supposed to start within the next week or so. Also I had sex 2 nights ago protected

    It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.  during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regualr period.   As you have already had sexual intercourse, I'm assuming that you over the legal age of 16 but will take this opportunity to remind you of the Law of Consent which states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 5'2 at 15 and my Mum is 5'2 1/3. My family are generally small people. Is this not a god height because I'm slim and petite? Most other people in my school are skyscrapers and make offensive comments sometimes about my height. The skyscrapers I'm talking about are girls btw.

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and this is what makes us who we are.  You should really try your best to ignore the girls who make offensive comments to you as you are perfect just the way you are.

  • Hi Vicki, I worried about having a dating life and a partner when I'm older because right now boys don't think anything positive about me; one of them said they wouldn't want to date a person other than their own race which makes me feel sad. I have a mixed heritage of Asian, Caribbean and Scottish. What do I do? I feel really sad because I'm afraid that nothing good will happen to me in life.

    Please try not to pay any attention to the bigoted remarks from these boys.  You have such a fabulous, interesting heritage you should feel proud of it.  You have to believe that you will have a marvellous life filled with lots of wonderful experiences so please don't let these silly boys knock your confidence, they are simply not worth it.

  • HI Vicki
    I have been having cramps that come in and out for about 2 months .
    is this going to lead on to my period?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki, I just wanted to clarify something, where is hole in your vagina that you pee from and where is the hole where you have sexual intercourse? Also, how do you shave the downstairs area properly and will boys find it horrible if there is hair in that area?

    The urethra is the small opening that we urinate from and is situated above the vaginal opening.  The vagina is beneath the urethra and is where we menstruate from and is where the male's penis is inserted during sexaul intercourse.  Pubic hair is natural for boys too and it is a personal choice if you choose to remove it or not.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have just turned 11and I've have had lots of discharge since I was 9. I started my period when I was 9 and had it about three times. I haven't had it since I was 10 though. Is this bad? PS my boobs are growing and I have been having lots of discharge and moodswings but nothing. Please help!!!!! Also I go swimming a lot. What should I do if I have it when I go swimming? I don't want to use tampons yet. Thanks

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.  As there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you should refrain from doing this whilst on your period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have 2 things to ask;
    My most recent period started 7 days ago and I still have it, when will it end?
    Also, I want to start using tampons but I'm a little scared, have you got any tips?

    Thanks :-)

    Periods usually last between 2-7 days but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  should you find that you are feeling more tired than normal, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.  As for using tampons, when you feel ready, you might like to try Lil-lets teens Regular non-applicator as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection experienced by millions of women and girls all over the world.

  • Hi
    I have had disgorge for a bit more than a year
    And I have pubic and under the arm hair
    And I show loads of signs of becoming a teen
    Will my periods come in the next few months

    As you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • hey vicky im confused becuase a phew months ago i had some brown discharge then a phew days later a little bit of blood but now all i get is brown and yellowy discharge.

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vicki, my friend has just asked for my shaver and I didn't really know what to say( it was because her mum wouldn't let her have her own one). What should I say?? Thanks for your help xx

    Why not let her know that you would not feel comfortable going against your friends mums wishes in this instance.

  • Hi, I was just wondering if you could help me. I asked my bestie if I could borrow her shaver as I'm not allowed my own and she just moved on the conversation and didn't really answer me. Plzz help. Thx

    It may be that your friend was uncomfortable with sharing such a personal item as many people are; so please don't feel too upset and consider having a chat to your mum about getting your own shaving equipment in the future.

  • can anything bad happen to you from masturbating?? like can you get any diseases or anything?

    Masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring new feelings of a sexual nature.  It is not possible to catch a disease by doing this.

  • I feel sick about loving this boy, is it normal? He has a girlfriend from his church group who he may dump and he flirts with me and he sort of knows I love him and he used to love me. He might be moving school so I cried my eyes out. I feel panicky and sick

    It is very normal to feel physically unwell when we hear bad or upsetting news, but as this is all something that 'might' happen, focus on the here and now and spend as much time with this boy as a friend and try not to get upset over something that has not yet happened.

  • Hey, Vicki, this is the girl who told you the stick-teacher-gossip story.

    Thank you for your advice. I told them that they aren't bothering me, and I am planning to get moved to a different part of the classroom, just so they don't bother me again. Since it's half term, I can't do this yet, so before I do, could you tell me whether you think it is a good idea or not.
    Thanks again. 😊

    Personally, I would not move away from them. I would sit it out and be strong in your resolve, making sure just by your body language that they know you are not worried or concerned by their immature comments.

  • How do I know if a boy likes me or not I think the boy is quite shy

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi Vicki
    I started my period when i was 9 and now I have recently turned 11. I have only had 3 periods since I was 9. I haven't had my period for a year. I have started growing hair and my boobs are growing and I also have really bad stomach cramps sometimes. I have had discharge for about a year but no period. What does this mean? PS I go swimming a lot. Is it ok to wear two bathers and a pad!?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular for up to 2 years.  As for swimming, wearing a pad would lead to embarrassment as the pad will absorb water until it disintegrates causing you huge embarrassment.  There really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming so when you feel ready, you might like to try Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    I burnt my HAIR a long , long time ago now and I remember holding a chunk of hair in my hand when I burnt it . My hair is very thick and ever since I burnt it I've been noticing that my hair has been falling out , not huge amonunts but like medium chunks on the floor I don't know if I'm only worrying about this because I burnt it as I've never really thought about this before. Could my hair be falling out beause I burnt it ? Im 13 by the way.
    Thank you x

    As you burnt your hair a long time ago, I would be inclined to get it checked by a hairdresser. 

  • Hi Vicki, I am 12 now and most of my friends have started their period. God knows when I will start mine! But I wanted to ask you: what changes will I notice before I start my period? I know I don't know exactly when I will start, but I wanted to know some changes I will notice and maybe in what order they normally come in. Thankyou x

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and please try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  Girls can start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 14 I like this boy who is in my school he likes me to but, I'm always to shy to go up to him and speak to him. He is in 2 of my classes and whenever he see me he smiles and speaks to me but I don't know what to say back in case I say the wrong thing I want to ask him out however, I think I'm to young but, I found out recently someone else likes him and want to ask him out to so I don't know what to do?

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi Vicki

    Is it true a tampon can get stuck inside you


    thx

    xxxxxxxxxxx

    No this is not true; as the opening you insert a tampon in will always remain open for its removal.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 14 I have had periods before but, I haven't had one in two weeks all I keep on getting is discharge, could you please help me.

    Thank you

    A period can have both long and short gaps between each one for the first few years, so please try not to worry, your body is still working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hey Vicky,
    I'm 14 I should of got my period 2 weeks ago but all I'm getting is discharge I had periods before, but I don't why it hasn't come yet? Please could you help me
    Thank you

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your mentrual cycle and it works to keep your vagina clean and free of infection.

  • Hi Vicki yesterday I had black and a bit of red in my undies was this my period? Also today I had just black but my mum doesn't think its my period because she said periods are only red not black

    It is possible that this was your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki gou don't get it do u have sex on ur period or not and why or why not? Thanksd p.s I love ur website

    It is possible for women to have sexual intercourse whilst on their period.  Thank you for your support.

  • Hello Vicky,
    Should I tell my mom I've been having vaginal discharges lately?
    Thanks

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about discharge.  You could start the conversation by asking if she would buy some pant liners for you as they will not only keep you feeling fresh and clean down there, they will also protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hi viki, so I like a guy and he talks to me, but I'm not sure if he is just being genuine or not. How can I be more flirty and engaging with him?

    Just relax and be yourself.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • What is an period pain

    Period pain is often a tensing of the muscles often felt in the lower back, tummy or groin and is generally caused the the contraction of the muscles surrounding your uterus.

  • What is whie stuff on my underwear? What does it mean.

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • This isn't a question, but I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have the help from you! And I think I speak for at least half the girls that visit this site everyday! ;)
    Thank you so much Viki
    Love, Victoria (ha, we have similar names. Lol!) ;) ;)

    Hi Victoria, thank you so much for your kind words.

  • Can you feel ill and cold and hungry, sick tearful and cramps every 4 weeks? Is this normal?

    You describe some of the symptoms of PMS so for more help with this, please chack out my blog on PMS - Is it all in my head?

  • Can discharge replicate your period like it is heavier or just happens once a month???

    Discharge is entirely different to your period as it is usually released throughout your menstrual cycle.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Now that I know my friend wouldn't be there for me should I leave her and go off with my crush? Thanks sorry it was so long :) PART 2

    The choice is yours but I do think it's wrong of your boyfriend to make you choose between him and your friend.

  • Me and my friend like the same boy however the boy does not like my friend, he likes me. My friend doesn't know that he doesn't like her. My crush told me to stop hanging out with my friend because he doesn't like her but i refused as he is making me choose between both of them. I asked my friend what she would do and she said to my face that she would leave me and go off with the boy. I was so shocked as I thought that she would be there for me because I would be there for her.

    I do think it's wrong of this boy to ask you to choose between him and your friend because he doesn't like her.  He is trying to be controlling and this is disrespectful to you.  As for your friend, we all value friendship differently so please don't judge her too harshly for her decision, it may be that if this ever did happen she would rethink her choice and a boy is never worth losing a friend over in my opinion.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering if you could have a short video with Fearne Cotton on weight during puberty.If its too big of a deal, don't worry about it! Just wondering. Xxx

    All of our videos with Fearne have been posted now but I will consider doing a blog on 'Weight in puberty' pretty soon.

  • Hey again i was the girl who went to the parents night and my English teacher told me i need confidence in speaking what can I do to not be so scared

    Why not read this week's blog entitled Walk Tall it may be the help you need to gain extra confidence when speaking to a group.

  • Sometime ago i went to my parents night and my English teacher said i need to speak up more and i need more confidence in speaking and give my own opinion and if i have to speak i feel terrified and i feel like crying cause i hate speaking in front of everyone but in primary school i managed to speak in front of all the people in the school but know i don't in primary school i was not that bothered about speaking but in high school i am

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they lack confidence.  So, try looking at ways of giving it a boost -joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport would be a good place to start.

  • Hey Vicki)
    you say that puberty normally arrives when you are 8-16.
    but i know one girl at school who just hit 7 years old and already has boobs growing and she wears a crop top. is it ok to start at so early age?

    There are always exceptions to the rule.

  • why you can have sex at 16 but watch movies about it only if you are 18+?

    This is based around the rules governing the purchase or images, whether that be a video or cinema ticket and is very different to the Age of Consent law that keep children safe from any unwanted sexual relations.

  • hey Vikcki, i have a problem:
    there is this big fat vein coming through my right nipple. i know its ok since i had it for 2+ years. but one day my mom noticed and started worrying that someone punched me in my boob. i say no, i have it for 2 years, but my mom keeps worrying. what should i do so that she calms down?

    It is very common to notice veins in your breasts and for peace of mind, you could ask your mum if she would like to call the NHS helpline.

  • In reply to the girl who's worried about getting braces. I've had braces for just over 2 months,Having braces feels a little odd to start with, and you have to be careful about numerous things (sweets mainly) but even in 2 months I've noticed a difference and I know they're only going to get better. Like Vicki said it's gonna be worth it. Your ortho is there to help you. I've had no problems with any type of comments or bullying because of my braces. So don't worry and I hope everything works out. Jess xxxx

    Hi Jess, thank you for sharing your experience with us.  I'm sure it will help.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have told mum that I have had discharge and she has bought me pant liners and I told her in May and back then my periods were really irregular and now they come every month and I don't know how to tell her that I need pads instead of pant liners
    Help

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about needing pads.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Vickie.
    I am going out with a boy who I love. We are both 13 and have been going out for 1.5 years. 5 months ago we had sex together with a condom. I was 12 he was 13. We really want to do it again even though we know it's against the law. What are the consequences if you are caught having sex under 16?
    Thanks Mairi.

    Hi Mairi, please refrain from being sexually active as the consequences could be very serious for your boyfriend if anyone finds out he has been sexually intimate with a girl under the legal age of consent.

  • Ciao Vicki!
    I want your opinion on my exercise schedule, sorry for the hassle!

    Your exercise regime seems very healthy to me and as long as you are happy with this level of activity then I would not worry.

  • Hi Vickie!
    I am going out with this boy who I love. We are both 13. My friend is really jealous because her crush is a year older and they are not going out. She just walks away when he's around or makes it really awkward. How can I sort things out?

    Have a private word with her, letting her know how much you value her friendship and want to spend time with her, but that there will also be times when you want to be alone with your boyfriend. If she is a good friend she will understand and be reassured that you are not leaving her out.

  • Hello Vicki,
    As I have grown older I have realised I'm a bit clingy (well, from my own perspective). I often want hugs and physical contact from friends/family. Is that bad? XXX

    Some people like hugs and there is nothing wrong with this in my opinion. We all need a hug from time to time.

  • Hiya Vicki!
    Is it normal to feel emotionally attached to movie/book/anime characters though they aren't real?
    XXX

    If you love a character then it is only normal to feel an emotional attachment or identify with them; there is nothing wrong with this.

  • Hi Vickie!
    I have said yes to going out with this boy who I like a lot. He wants me to go round to his house but I don't know how to ask my parents to let me go. I haven't even told my mum we are going out or that I like him. We are both 13.

    I do not advise you going into his home during your first few dates unless you are 100% sure that his parents are in and remain in for the entire duration of your stay. Better still invite him round to your home for dinner, this will also be a good time to share this news with your parents.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering if you could fill me in on the 'curvy' body type. I know that your hips get wider but that's it! I believe I'm going to be this or an 'hourglass' figure like my Mum but my family all have different body types. I just want some info please! + Do curvy girls have a slightly curvy stomach? I'm insecure about my weight.
    Evie XXX

    Hi Evie, yes lots of girls find their tummies become a little rounder.

  • can you go through your life not wearing a tampon or do you have to wear them at least once

    Nobody says you ever have to use a tampon.  The choice is entirely yours.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 12 and i wear a 36a bra and i started my periods in the summer. Is it normal that my periods are quite irregular? I'm also nicknamed big-boobs at school, i don't really mind but I'm just wondering whether my size is normal for my age?
    Thank you, Abi.

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and it might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.  Your breast size is perfectly normal for your age so be proud of them.

  • Hi Vicki my name is Ella and im 11. How can I cope with my appearance because by boobs are starting to come and I constantly feel Like everyone is staring at me ad laughing also got told I had an ass like hills so how can I cope with comments like that

    Thanks

    Hi Ella, try to remember that all girls experience breast development at different times to each other so it's possible that the girls who are being immature and laughing at you will also be noticing development themselves very soon.

  • Hi Wonderful Vicki!
    Do you ever get time off?
    Could i just remind people that you have thousands of questions per day and it is difficult to answer everyone so just be patient as the advice is well worth the wait! :)

    ps. thank you so so so so so much for helping me with my questions :D
    Purplepanda

    Thank you so much for your kind words.

  • Hi Vickie!
    I have just got a 32 AA bra. When I went to try it on it seemed to high up. I loosened the straps all the way and put it on the largest size around the band. It still seemed rather tight. My breast was slightly
    seen around the armpit area.
    Can you please tell me what to do and how to ask my mum for a larger size if needed.

    I'm sure your mum will understand that you will need a new bra as your breasts have developed.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki
    There's a guy and I have a crush on him. We talk quite a bit. I've known him since I was 9. So it's been 5 years so far. But this year he started to change. He is always offering to walk me home. Last week I was gonna tell him how I feel but my best friend stopped me. She said he was a bad person. He always got into fights. He always gets detentions and that's why I shouldn't tell him. I said to her that isn't a reason.
    Hannah

    Hi Hannah, as this boy is a little naughty, why not try to get to know him a little better before you decide to tell him that you like him.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm a 12 year old, 5' 6 in height and I weigh around 9' 7 in weight. I'm slightly chubby though I try my best to eat healthy most of the time and do sports often! I'm highly insecure about my weight and I'm afraid people are going to judge me about it as I grow older and I will never find a boyfriend. What should I do? ;_;

    Try not to worry as you are doing all the right things to maintain a healthy weight.  Try to remember that puberty is a time for massive changes both physically and emotionally, so be kind to yourself and allow some time to fully develop.

  • hi vicki i dont know what to do i am close to my best friends ex and well like i go and see him regularly and my friend said she dosent mind but she wont be happy if i go out with him or do anything and well like i kinda kissed him 3 maby 4 times and i dont want to tell her but i feel guilty but ik for a fact she will not talk to me what do i do xx

    I think it's probably best if you're honest with your friend.  Tell her that you feel guilty but hope she understands that you and her ex like each other.

  • Hiya Vicki, I go to an all girls school, and I'm currently getting VERY bullied, to the point where I am now leaving to go to a mixed school. Because I'm not used to being around boys im slightly afraid of their presence and every time an attractive boy goes past I get tingly feelings in my stomouch. I really want a boyfriend, so do you have any advice on how I can get one and become more involved with boys at my new school? Thanks xx

    Just try to relax, be yourself and think that they are only boys.  Rather than put yourself under unecessary pressure about being around boys and finding a boyfriend, just give yourself some time to adjust to your new surroundings and concentrate on making some nice new friends.  Good luck in your new school.

  • Hi Viki! I really like this guy, we get along really well and we text eachother every day and we're in the same class. I'm nearly sure he likes me and my friends think he likes me too. Everyone says that we would make a good couple. I'm 13 years old and he invited me to hang out with him after school in the shopping centre nearby. I said yes and I'm just a little bit worried if we have nothing to talk about. Got any ideas?!

    Just try to relax and be yourself.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi Viki

    I'm 14 and haven't started my period. And today I found brown stuff on the tisse when I wiped myself, however I didn't find any on my knickers. I keep checking to see if here is anymore brown stuff but nothing is there anymore. What's going on? And what is it?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vicki.
    I like this boy, I think he likes me too. I feel that our relationship is quite strong, and although we 'hate' each other, I don't think we really do.All of a sudden he's been hanging around in our group, but I'm scared he likes someone else. I stayed back after school too, and he walked through,said hi, walked out and then 5 minutes later, I turned around and he had his head around the door. How do I find out if he likes me? He is a good laugh, and makes me smile. I'm 13.

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Today I got my breast measured and they were a 30G. I'm 14 yrs old and I think that they are too big for my age. What do you think?

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and our bodies develop at different rates to each other.  You are perfect as you are so be proud of what you have and try not to worry.

  • I think my hymen has stretched but is it like a lump because i do feel a lump inside my vagina, like inside the wall.

    The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.  For some more information on Getting to know your Reproductive System, the Inside Story click on the blog link.

  • Is water vitamin c

    Vitamin C is found in green leafy vegetables, fruits, chillis and pepers to name a few.

  • Please help! This is urgent.

    I have all of a sudden got a really sore stomach and had diareahhaa (sorry I know it's gross) and I am on my period and I have been using tampons. Is this TSS? I havnt had any other symptons just that. Do I need to go to the doctor? I'm really worried.

    For peace of mind, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP.

  • A couple of weeks ago I had a couple of drops in my knickers but the next day there was none and then the next day after that there was a bit of blood but I haven't had anymore since then what does it mean

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • I want to have sex with my boyfriend, but I'm embarrassed that I won't be any good and he won't like me afterwards and also I'm quite nervous, because I've read that your first time causes a lot of girls to bleed and it hurts, what should I do and are the things I've heard true?

    I will take this opportuntiy to remind you of the Law of Consent which states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  So, assuming that you are of a legal age, I will say that some females do say that they feel a little discomfort the first time they have sexual intercourse and sometimes there is a very small amount of blood released but what is important, is that the couple take their time to get to know each other intimately and do not rush into anything.

  • Hi vicki

    Sorry if this question is a bit too personal but I was just wondering, when did you have your first boyfriend?
    Thanks so much for everything else you've helped me with. I love this site!
    Julia xx

    Hi Julia, I think it was aged 15 but it was a disaster, we dated for a day. I remember we had a first kiss at the end of the school day and both decided it was not for us.

  • Hi Vicki
    Do u have any tips or Advice on how to find out if a boy likes U?
    Thanks😘✨

    For some help with this, check out my blog link on Your First Love.

  • Vicki I really need your help !
    There is this guy who I kinda like and he has asked me out twice already and my parents wont let me go !! He has asked me out a third time and I don't wanna let him down again ! what should I do ?? How should I persude them ? He is the same age as me
    thanks girlygirl99

    Hi Girlygirl99, you really should respect your parents' wishes.

  • Hi vicki, I'm 13 and have never had sex or any sexual contact to anyone before but I have missed acouple of periods and had cramps. After a big meal I got really bloated and my stomach was hard... Do you think I'm pregnant.thanks😐😩

    The only way you could possibly be pregnant is if you were to have sexual intercourse with a male so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Although I have friends at school I don't wish to discuss any of these issues with them. I also don't want to talk to my family about it. Do you have any advice/ways to cheer myself up? P.s thankyou so much for creating this website, it's so useful! Thanks xoxo

    You might also like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy as this will enable you to meet new people who are like-minded.  As well as Mindline on 0300 1233393, you could also talk to a trusted adult.  Thank you for the support.

  • I just feel like the smallest things annoy me sometimes and I don't know what to do. People usually see me as a happy and smiley person but they don't know how I feel on the inside. Also I just feel constantly stressed and I always, always feel tired from school etc. Another point is that I just feel ugly and worthless and just wish I could grow up and move on with my life(btw I'm 13) I hate my life and i dont know what to do. Part 2

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time in a young person's life due all the psychological and emotional changes that are occurring but try to remember that none of these feelings are your fault.  As I said in Part 1, you should really try to talk to someone, whether it be a trusted adult or someone at Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get the professional help you need.

  • Hi Vicki, so I don't know where to start but I have been feeling very anxious and depressed over the past few months. I have self harmed before but I haven't for a couple of months although I still have the scars, but I just feel like I gt easily wound up and upset these days. I usually stay at home since none of my friends live near me and I don't do activities outside of school. Part 1

    Self-harming is an expression of intense, negative feelings that aren't your fault so please talk to a trusted adult or Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get the professional help you need.

  • Hey! I think about me and my best friend's friendship a lot. When we became friends everything was amazing! But now we're 13 and she's always on bad mood,depressed and tough. I wanna help her but she keeps saying its easy for you. I also dont wanna be in negative space all the time. Please help me!

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and it's obvious that your friend is experiencing this.  Why not suggest that she tries to boost her serontonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) by dancing to her favourite music, watching some funny films or by simply talking about her feelings.  You could also suggest that you both join a club for something you enjoy as this might also help.

     

  • Im not sure what my bra size is.
    bust-86cm
    under bust-79
    thanks.
    [[[[[[[[[[[[[[]]]]]]]]]

    Your bra size is a 36AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 13 (as in Oct 2014). I'm 144cm tall and 54.1kg....am I healthy? I have a huge doubt
    thanks
    bye

    Rather than worrying about what the scales say, consider what you eat and how often you exercise and you will find that your body finds your ideal weight quite naturally.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've had my period for a while now, I'ts been late once but that doesn't worry me because I only started mine around the start of the year. However, my period is very late this time and today I got brown discharge. Does this mean I'm about to get another period or is it something I should worry about?
    Thanks :)

    Brown discharge is often menstrual fluid as it can vary from light brown to red and this is nothing to worry about and very normal.

  • Hey Vicki, im 14 and ive never had a proper boyfriend and I feel let out coz all my friends do and I feel happy for them but at the same time I feel a weeny bit jelouse. What does this mean am I ugly or something.
    love sassycatlay😺

    ps: ik im only young and many people wait till their older but I still feel leftout xxxxx

    Hi Sassycatlay, I can understand that you feel left out but please try not to as you are only 14 and believe me when I say that relationships at a young age seem to cause nothing but problems at a time when you should be having fun with your friends and concentrating on your education.  Why not look at ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy would be a good place to start.

  • Hi vicki, next weekend im sleeping at my friends for her birthday but im due on. ive slept at other friends houses whilst on my period but those friends have started and have bins in the bathrooms however this friend hasnt started and doesnt have a bin so what shall i do?

    Try not to worry and either dispose of your used pad with other household rubbish in a bin downstairs or simply wrap it in some tissue and keep it in your bag until you get home.  Have fun at the sleepover!

  • hi everyone in my class says i am flat when im not what should i do? P.S im too embarresed to say a word to my mom

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and our bodies develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through pubertry once so there is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about puberty.

  • Yesterday I noticed a little red colour in my discharge and today I've got a really achy belly. Does it mean my period is coming? My mom keeps telling me to sleep a certain way. And plus I've been recieving discharge for many months, I am curious xxx Libby

    Hi Libby, this is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 12 years old now and when I was 9 I started getting hair down there, no one else did because when we were swimming u can't help looking and they had no hair at all so I would hide. Now in 12 and it's like a bush down there, I'm really worried, on Friday in swimming I looked around again and still no one even had hair, even now Maybe a few girls had a bit but I have a bush and hair sometimes sticks thought my panties! Please help Vicki! Thank you very much.

    Why not simply trim your pubic hair back by using a wide-toothed comb.  Put the comb next to your skin and you will notice that the pubic hair will poke through over the comb, so simply trim it with scissors and it will not be visible through your swimming costume.

  • Hi Vicki I get light periods but i want to use a tampon what should I do

    As your period is so light, you would do better to stick with pads.

  • Hi Vicki I think im a hypochondriac can you fully explain what a hypochondriac is
    this will seriously help me

    thanks
    lauren :):):)

    Hi Lauren, a hypochondriac is someone who has an abnormal anxiety about their health.

  • HI Vicki its lauren I would like to know if its normal to be moody on your periods because im on my 2nd period and ive just been braking into tears for no reason if so then why???

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel so down and upset at times.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so try danicng to your favourite music, watch some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • im due for my period, and for the last three days ive had some brown stuff in my pants. Im really worried that im not getting it because I haven't been eating as much as much as I normally would ( not intentionally). The doctor says i'm at a healthy weight but im at the lower end. Pease help me, im really worried!!!

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to notice brown blood.  It is considered old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • HI Vicki its lauren I would like to know if its normal to be moody on your periods because im on my 2nd period and ive just been braking into tears for no reason if so then why???

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel so down and upset at times.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so try danicng to your favourite music, watch some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • How do you remove pimples? Or prevent them from coming?

    Try careful washing, eating a healthy diet and drinking lots of water.  If you see no improvement, ask your mum or guardian to buy some medicated creams or facial washes from the chemist.

  • Also, someone said I was hogging al of the awards. All of this happened last school year, but now I've started to let it effect me. Should I speak to my Head of Year, or support officer, because I've really started to let it get to me and it is affecting the amount of effort I put into my work? And how can I speak to them, because I'm quite shy about this sort of stuff? Thanks Vicki, you've really helped me.

    Please do speak to someone at school for support as your friend isn't really being a friend to you by making you feel as if you shouldn't do well in your studies.  You owe it to yourself to be the best you can ever be so try to take no notice and continue with your hard work. 

  • HI Vicki,
    I'm quite a shy person, but lately I've started to let everything get to me. Poeple are always calling me a nerd and boffin, and they're comparing me to everything. If someone gets a higher level than me in something, everyone will say "Oh wow, you got a higher level than (my name)". It's the same with awards. I got 6 awards for outstanding student of the year, and I usually get 3 - 7 awards on a termly basis, and everyone compares the number of awards to the numer I got. Part 1.

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicky I've had discharge for 5/6 months and quite a lot if it bit recently I've barely had any, why is this? Xx

    Try not to worry as it is normal to notice large gaps in between releasing discharge.

  • Hi,I'm not on my period yet but I'm craving chocolate and I'm 13 do think it will come soon?
    And I'm going swimming tomorrow and I don't have tampons do you think I should still go?

    It is normal to feel hungrier during puberty as your body is working extra hard at changing you from a child to an adult, but chocolate is not the answer, instead consider eating more vegetables. It will be fine to go swimming and the likelihood of your period arrving when in the pool is very slim so please try not to worry.

  • Hi,
    I was wondering about contraception (i am 16 nearly 17) and whether we get it for free.. for example, do doctors prescribe the pill for free or do you have to pay for it? thanks

    Your GP will prescribe the contraceptive pill to you and the prescription will be free of charge.  You could also contact your local Brook Advisory Clinic on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk for the same thing.

  • whenever a teacher calls my name to answer something I never know the answer and its's really embarrassing and they think i'm not listening when i am. it makes me really angry and i'm fed up th it all the subjects are rubbish!

    Why not have a chat to your teachers in private and let them know how you feel about answering questions out loud. Reassure them that you are listening but struggling with understanding the answers and I am sure they will help you manage your time in class more productively.

  • How can I stop feeling guilty abou everything amd everything I do in my life? I feel like everything Is my fault and I'm not going anywhere with my life. I've left school btw.

    It may be a good idea to have a chat to your doctor who may decide to arrange for you to chat over your feelings with a counsellor.

  • I'm having horrible dreams these past few nights and they make me feel rubbish in the morning. I don;t even remember what they are about but all I know is that they're disturbing and awful. Can I do anything about it? ☺

    Take the time to relax an hour or two before bedtime, try not to play with any electrical items or watch TV. Instead have a warm bath and some warm milk to help you feel relaxed and ready for sleep.

  • Hi Vicki it's holly again I have a big problem… I had my period at the beginning if this Month and now it's started again at the End of this month. What's happening?
    (luckily I got it in half term :)). Please
    Reply ASAP
    Thanks Holly xxx

    Hi Holly, periods can have short or long gaps between them and this is really nothing to worry about and very normal.

  • Hey Vicki my school doesnt offer any good subjects just the ordinary ones, the only creative subjects we get options to do are art and music and i dont enjoy them because of the teachers. What do you think I should do?

    Any education requires a certain amount of learning of standard subjects, such as English, Maths, Science and Languages. If you want to learn more about other subjects have a chat to your teacher and parents and you may find some evening classes will be useful for you to attend.

  • I have a latex allergy, do you use latex in your adult range???


    Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Our products are latex free.

  • Hiya vicki, well I need some advice about a boy...I'm 15 and he is 16. Recently we have been snapchattting each other. And in form I can see him staring sometimes.He sits next to me in welsh bac, and he always smiles when he is talking to me(and so do I if I'm honest) In welsh bac he will tease me and like steal my pen,paper ect and play with my feet. He playfully punches my arm and kicking my bum when I walk πŸ˜‚ do you think he like me? And are these signs of flirting?Thank you x

    Yes I do feel this boy likes you and yes this does count as flirting.

  • hi , i have recently started my period and it seems like there is alot blood ... is this normal ? .... i dont really get alone time with my mum as my younger siblings are alway with us and i dont want to tell my dad but im scared ... i have sanitary towels and things but i need some painkillers but i dont want to say infront of my dad or younger siblings ??

    It all sounds perfectly normal so try not to worry and ask your mum if you can have a quiet chat with her as she was a young girl going through puberty once and will understand what you're going through.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi vicki,
    What bra size is this?
    On-79cm
    Under-70cm
    Thanks for answering all my questions and I love your teens range!!
    Cat

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.  Thank you for your support.

  • hi vicki, i got my first period from 8th September-12th September (I'm 14) and on the 9th of October I got a small amount of blood again. there was only that small amount and then on the 27th october I woke up and my period was back and really quite heavy. I know my period will be irregular but can you give me some advice and tips please :-)

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there and protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • I've been having discharge for around 2 years but recently the amount has started to vary and I've noticed dots of really light red for around 2 week but not sure if it's blood. I'm 13 years old and started to get back pains and quite smelly, I'm a 32a. Does this mean I'm close to my period and when will I start? Jessica x

    Hi Jessica, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait and with these little spots of blood noticed it may even be here.


  • Hi Vicki, I really like this boy and I think he likes me to as before the summer holidays he would look at me all the time as we had every single lesson together and my friends had noticed him looking at me. Both me and him are really outgoing people but when we are around each other we both seem to go really quiet and quite shy.. But after the holidays he wasn't looking at me as much as he used to as we only share 1 or 2 lessons together but I still want to ask him out any advice?
    Peachxx

    Hi Peach, why not smile and say "Hi" next time you see him and see if he responds. Ask him how his weekend was and what he has been up to. If he is interested he will chat back.

  • Hi Vicki
    If us girls don't ask about periods,boobs,bras,discharge,boyfriends
    Iz it okay if we asked about family

    I will try my best to answer any questions you might have.

  • Theres this boy that I've known for ages and I was kinda enemies with him but now I have this massive crush on him,I even have dreams about him anyway I told my friend about him all the time and now she likes him and I really wanna be happy about it but I'm quite jealous because its like he likes us both equally. Is this really bad BTW I'm 11 thx in advance!

    If this boy likes both of you then why not wait and see if he likes one of you enough to date. If it's you, I am sure your friend will be happy for you.

  • Hi I am Ashley I am 11 but I have not grown boobs yet my bff is 10 but has already had her boobs and period I think there is something wrong with my body.

    Hi Ashley, try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  Pleaes try to be patient and you will notice breast development soon.

  • hey vicki,

    for my last period i had brown discharge for all 5 days and its time for my period again and its still brown discharge. why is this happening? is it normal? ive been too scared to ask my mom about it so im hoping you can answer. thanks vicki

    Try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  In the early stages of the mentrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki I need your help its ok if you can't though:)
    Ok so I really want to start a blog kind of just a bunch of random stuff but I just think it will be fun. Anyway I don't know if my parents will let me because it might cost to much. I also don't really want my friends and my family to know I have one cause I don't want to get to tease me because they will think Im just doing it to be like Zoella who is my inspiration. But I mainly want to do it for myself. I really don't no what to do. Thnakyou xx

    Setting up your own blog does not have to cost you anything and by visiting websites you can easily find ways to start up and getting writing.

  • Hi, I've been finding white, sort of dry dishcarge in my underwear, and it's a bit wet and I'm 12! Is this normal, or could it be an infection? What does it mean?

    Discharge is a fluid made by the body to keep the vagina clean and free from infection and is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • I can't believe it! Periods may last only two days? Those girls are so lucky what can I do so that mine lasts less time

    Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and there really is nothing you can do to make it last anything other than what it naturally is.  Some girls are just lucky I guess.

  • So i went to the bathroom and wiped and brown stuff was on it.Then i wiped again it was lighter so i thought it was my period I freaked out becausr i masturbate and i think im pregnant and i found my calender and my last perios was 10/5/14 to 10/10/14 and today is 10/25/14. I was looking up why this is happeneing and it said pregnancy(spotting) I cant be pregnant im only 12. I went to check again and i wiped and there was nothing there. Am i pregnant please Answer im really scared.

    Try not to worry as the only way you could possibly be pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and it might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • I'm 12 nearly 13 in year 8 and my boobs are not growing I wear crop tops and all my friends wear bras I would like a way of making them look a bit bigger but I don't know how and should I be worried that they are not growing xxxx Lauren

    Hi Lauren, try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.  In the meantime, you might like to consider buying a bra that is slightly padded which will make you feel less self-conscious.

  • So me and my boyfriend have been together two weeks now and we had our first kiss today . We went back to his house and we snogged and frenchkissed for a long time . I wanted to ask some questions tho . 1. What do I do if I want to kiss him first , do I just do it like he does to me ? 2. How do you mantain a strong relationship being together all the time . Is it normal for me to be thinking about him , our first kiss , everything all the time ? Would you say it's innapropite to be 'tounging' at 11 .

    Try to remember that you are only 11 and have plenty of time to form a relationship with someone when you're much older.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hiya me and my boyfriend just broke up and im alright with everything but we go to the same achery club and were in the same group I love achery, should I still do it and ignore him? πŸ’—πŸ˜˜

    Yes absolutely you should still go to your archery club and just ignore him.

  • Ok, straight away I need to tell you that I was abused when I was younger by my brother... You know... Sexually... So I have always been sensitive about things like sex, men's and women's private parts etc. But in the book we're reading in school, sex is mentioned a lot, and I'm always really close to tears, because it's scary, but I never told anybody. So crying in the middle of class for apparently no reason wouldn't be good, would it? How can I cope?
    Freya x

    Hi Freya, please speak to a trusted adult about this matter, they will be able to help you move forward by discussing what happened during your early childhood years. You can also call Childline on 0800 1111 if you prefer to speak to someone confidentially on the telephone.

  • In school recently (I can't remember when exactly) we had a sort of health checkup, involving checks on speech and reading etc.
    I was told I have a good reading ability, better than the average expectancy for my age, which is good. 😊 But on the speech part, I was told my speech often regressed to that of a much younger child. I wasn't sure what that meant, so that's my question to you. Also, does it mean there's something wrong with me?
    Danielle.

    Hi Danielle, as I'm not qualified to answer this question, please ask your mum or guardian to ask at school for you.

  • I don't understand TSS. How do you get it from a tampon? I'm curious because it's TOXIC shock syndrome. Does this mean there are chemicals in tampons?

    TSS can be contracted from a number of things; following surgery, burns, stings and bites to name but a few. It can happen to anyone, male or female, young or old and occassionally for women when using a tampon. No one knows why this is and I can assure you there are no danerous chemicals in tampons. TSS is a bacterial infection that happens very occassionally to some people and by reading the information leaflet in every pack of tampons you can reduce the chances of contracting this illness.

  • I just wondered about spots πŸ˜…
    When you get those really sore spot where there's all stuff under the skin which hasn't formed into a spot? 1) what are these types of spots called
    2)what is this stuff under the skin that it causing the fullness?
    And also... Sometimes when you squeeze a spot you get that clearish liquid ooze out? What is that? It is the same stuff that was under skin as mentioned before orrrr?

    Let's face it all kinds of spots are a total pain that affect 90% of teens to some extent or other.  By sticking to a good cleansing regime, eating a healthy diet and drinking plenty of water, you should find that your skin improves.  However, if it doesn't you might like to ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I haven't started my periods yet but my discharge has been greeny yellow and a little clumpy in consistensy it doesnt smell but my vagania has been itchy. I am a virgin so i know itd not na STI, help im really worried xoxo

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice yellow discharge and the itchiness might be caused by pubic hair growth.  The only way you could possibly have an STI is by sexual contact with an infected person.  You might like to consdier using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey Vicki a while ago i knew this boy who i wasn't friends with before and me and my friends invited him to this club and we have became friends but most of the boys joke about with me about how my boobs are big and we know its a joke but he doesn't joke about that and i sometimes like him cause he doesn't joke about that does it mean he likes me plz answer this as soon as possible thx xxxxx πŸ’– fallen angel

    Hi Fallen Angel, this boy might simply have more respect than the other boys and thinks it's inappropriate to joke about your breasts.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi Vicki
    I feel really stupid but I started using tampons yesterday. Today I put one in now nearly 6 hrs ago and went to the toilet, I forgot all about my tampon. Is it possible it came out with my urine? Cause I can't find it anymore ?! I'm not really sure what to do. I've watched+read loads but when I try I can't feel anything, please help

    It is most likely the tampon has fallen out when you have visited the toilet, especially if it had not been inserted high enough inside your vagina.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm 12 and I don't have any breast everyone in my school does (I'm a 7th grader) I'm really worried because when I was in 4th grade my nipples starting hurting and my sister started punching them to the point where it stopped hurting I'm worried I'll never get any breasts and get made fun of please help πŸ›πŸ‘πŸ€πŸžπŸŒπŸ’πŸ€πŸŒ΅πŸ‰πŸ†πŸ€πŸŒ΄πŸ‰πŸ“πŸ‰πŸ†πŸˆ

    Try not to worry as we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for girls' breasts to continue to develop up until their 20's so you still have plenty of time.  Please ask your mum or guardian to tell your sister to stop punching your breasts as this could cause you a lot of pain and is unacceptable behaviour.

  • I'm sorry if any of this is inapprotirate.

    I watching a program and it mention a diaphragm, I know what it is but Can you use the same one more than once?
    How do you get it in and out of your vigina? And what other forms of contraceptives are there?
    Thankyou so much. This site is AMAZING xxx

    A diaphragm is just one of the many forms of contraception available and yes it can be resued if kept clean. It is inserted by placing inside the vagina with the fingers and removed the same way too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it true that guys fall in love with your eyes? Xx

    I think boys are attracted to everything about girls and it is true to say that there is usually an initial physical attraction which can then develop into love when they get to know their personality.

  • Hai Vicky
    This website has helped a bunch but I wanna know something. I'm kinda worried because my period is 4-5 dAys late and I'm only 14. I haven't had sex before so I know it's not that but I don't know what's going on
    If you help me that would rock x

    Love Trudy

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vixki
    How can you tell if a guy counts u as a really good friend or likes u? Plz reply xx

    I think you should talk to this boy and for more help, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi please reply as I have been confused about this. So there's this guy who Everone says counts me as a really good friend. But the guy keeps asking me to buy him things eg food. Does this mean he is using me or he does actually care about me?

    I think you should stop buying things for him and you will soon see if he is a friend ot not.

  • Hi, I'm nearly 14 and have had a hard bit behind my nipples in my breast for quit a while now, when i lay on my front or if i touch it it really hurst like needles!! Is this normal? Thanks xxxx

    The small raised lumps you can feel are called breast buds and signal the start of breast development.  They comprise of milk glands, tissue, fat and muscle and are nothing to worry about.  A soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • What is the average bra size for a 14-15 year old?? x

    It would be difficult for me to say as we're all made in different shapes and sizes.

  • Hi vicky I am 15 and I have a bf but in class he don't want to speak to me he doesn't text me call me is he loosing his interest I don't know what to
    From Ashley

    Hi Ashley, why not talk to your boyfriend and ask him how he truly feels as by ignoring you, he is making you feel that he's disninterested in you.

  • Hi, I'm nearly 14 and have had continuous discharge for way over a year now (it just hasn't stopped!) i just wanted to check is this normal? Also it can be itchy sometimes? Xxxx

    It is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  It can cause your pubic hair to itch when it dries and makes the hair stick together.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I am going to m and s to get a new bra next week and I am getting fitted. I have told my Mum that I feel really awkward and embarrassed because you have to take your bra off! I am taking a vest top to wear over my boobs because that is allowed but I was just wandering about some advise on how to feel less embarrassed because I feel insecure! Please help! Btw thank you for always replying and I can rely on you -M

    Try to remember that the person who measures you will be professionally trained and should do her best to make you feel at ease.  I'm sure it will be ok for you to leave a t.shirt on too so please try not to worry.

  • Should i start using tampons? I'm 14, and know quite a few people that do. I want to start using them because I can then move around more and swim, but im really anxious about using them. I dont want it to hurt or get stuck. How do I get over my fears?? Thankyou :)

    Try not to worry as all it takes is a little practice and to make things a little easier for you, why not consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki
    Im worried my period will start when I have to do swimming with school(it hasn't started yet) and im not sure about wearing tampons
    please help

    Try not to worry and remember that you're not alone as periods are a natural occurrence for every girl.  As there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, when you feel ready, you might like to try Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for first-time use and all it takes is a little practice.  Be sure to keep some pads with you and consider using pant liners as they will protect you not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • When do u know if its coming???

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey vicki

    I feel so left out in my family. My older sister has just started university and my parents give her lots of attention and are proud of her and everything. My little sister is so spoilt. She gets EVERYTHING she wants! My parents are always so moody with me and are always to busy doing something with one of my other sisters to have time with me. If I'm not spending time with friends then I'm in my room cause I feel like my family don't want to see me.

    Have a chat to your parents or another trusted family member such as a grandparent and share your thoughts with them. I am sure they will be able to put your mind at rest and help you manage your feelings.

  • I read somewhere about a girl who bled after sex is this normal?

    There can occassionally be blood if the hymen is stretched during sexual intercourse.

  • Hi I'm 13 and I've had my period a couple of times but recently they have disappeared although I have still been having mood swings cramps and headaches...I'm scared incase there's anything wrong with.
    Can you get back to asap😊
    ThanksπŸ’—

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months between each one being very normal.

  • I'm only 12 and i have a crush on a 13 yr old but he was my ex bf and i've liked him for 11 months now! I always tingly feelings when he walks past me or if i hear his name we both like each other and i met his foster mum! Do you think i'm too young and i should just ignore my feelings?

    I think for now it would be a good idea to just be friends until you are older.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Umm, i really like a certain boy(for aleast 10 months now) and he was my boyfriend 4 months back and we had a proper relationship but now i get butterflies in my stomach. How do i stop liking him?
    Tnx, Emily

    Hi Emily, if you still like this boy and he likes you, then why not have a chat and see why it did not work  before and what you can do to get things back on track.

  • I LOVE cats! D'you?
    cheese

    Unfortunately, I am allergic to cats, horses and rabbits.

  • I really want to start using tampons, so I can swim and be more comfortable, but I'm just really worried. I'm worried it will hurt and feel wierd and I just get really scared thinking about it... Any advice??

    Many millions of women use tampons and enjoy the freedom they bring. Just like anything new they can take a little practice to get right, so why not consider trialling our Lil-lets teens tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for first time users.

  • Hi viki i was wondering.. When the piece of skin in vagina breaks will it hurt? I know it a wierd question but im a bit nervous about it. Please answer soon. Thx

    Your hymen does not break it stretches and this could happen without you even knowing about it. For some people exercise, using a tampon or having sexual intercourse will stretch it too.

  • I have now revived another text from the same person saying: you are bullying me now, because I have apologised and you are not forgiving me. Can we be friends again, oh wait. You don't want to. Sorry for wasting your time again.

    What shall I do?
    I'm I bulling her?
    Is she bulling me?

    If you know who this person is, then speak to your parents and let them see this text, they can then sort this matter out on your behalf, possibly they will visit this girl's parents and have a chat to them. If you do not know who is sending these texts then consider again speaking to your parents who can get the number blocked.

  • Hi Vicki
    When I look in the mirror at school I think I look a lot uglier then I do at home for some reason and it makes me feel even more self conscious. I am thinking of wearing some light powder because I have a few spots and my face gets quite shiny. My mum got me some and I've tried it at home and it makes me look better and feel more confident but I'm worried incase it looks really bad at school since my face always looks worse at school. What do you think I should do?

    The way we look in one mirror can often be different in another mirror, so my advice is to put your make-up on in natural daylight and if it looks good here, it will look good anywhere.

  • Hi viki
    under my bust im 72cm and on. My bust im 75cm what bra soz am i
    Nikita
    thanx
    πŸ‘β•

    Hi Nikita, 32A is your size.

  • Hi, Vicki. I woke up in the morning, and I saw something gooey in my pants.. I don't know if this is discharge, or whatever but it was soft and gooey, clear and there was a little puddle of it, what does this mean?

    From,
    Sasha

    Hi Sasha, this could be discharge and it's nothing to worry about. You may find you notice this on a daily basis from now on and you may want to consider wearing a pant liner if it troubles you.

  • Hi vicki
    Does it matter if your boyfriend is not really hot?
    Love
    Lola
    Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Lola, all that matters is that you love your boyfriend and he loves you.

  • Hi vicki,

    The problem is that ,at school when I'm on my period, teachers won't let me go to the toilet during class, my friends have this problem as well at different schools what do I do, it makes me very worried about school.

    If you have a good quality pad or tampon then there really should not be any reason for you to visit the bathroom during lesson time. So why not reconsider your brand and find a product that keeps you protected for up to 8 hours.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've been having discharge for along time now and I have 2 Questions:
    1) What does discharge do and why do I get it?
    2) What can I do about it?- I don't like the feeling of it in my underwear!
    I would be really thankful if you could answer my questions! :)
    Thanks, ? xx

    Discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, there is no reason to do anything it is very natural, if you find it leaves you feeling a little uncomfortable then you could always consider wearing pant liners.

  • My problem is that I'm having some thoughts that I might be gay, I want to tell my friends about it but they may think its werid or to awkard to talk about, not because being gay is a bad thing but because I'm the only one out of all of us not to have a boyfirend and because it isn't something we would normally talk about , dispite looking up to a lot of gay people, such as, tyler oakley and troye sivan, we are all 15/16. My parents are not aware of this either despite me wanting to tell them despratly.

    It is very normal for teenagers to be confused about their sexuality, but you do not have to make any decisions just yet. It would be far better to wait until you are a little older and are more sure of your true feelings.

  • Hi Vicki im in 2nd year and im already a size 34D i have the largest boobs in all my classes would i need a reduction when im older

    Breasts can grow in spurts and you may find that yours have grown earlier than your friends and could stop in a few years. So it really is not necessary to consider altering their shape or size at all.

  • I want to talk to my mum about what I'm going through but I don't know how to bring it up without being to shy or awkard, how do I talk about , just anything I'm going through? we have never really talked about anything like this and when we did once I was too shy to say what I really wanted to even though she said we could talk about anything I needed to any time.

    Why not start with simple subjects about her experiences such as; how old was she when she got her first bra, period, boyfriend. By asking these questions the conversation will quickly more to you and how you feel about these matters.

  • Hi vicki,
    I am 13 and unlike my friends, I'm not on my period and I feel left out, is this normal or should I start to worry? I also haven't got as big breasts as them, I don't feel comfortable talking to my mum..

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you really do not have anything to worry about and this along with your breasts will grow in time.

  • Hey Vicki on Monday i went up the town with my friend josh and it seems like we're not friends anymore i asked him and he hasn't replied i think its something I've done or its something to do with a girl he likes can you help me

    Why not wait a few days and then say "Hi, is there a problem". It may be that he is busy and you have done nothing wrong, if there is an issue I am sure he will let you know in time what the problem is.

  • I'm nearly 15, are purple vien like lines on my breasts normal or should I ask for help from my doctor?

    These are quite normal and nothing to worry about.

  • I find it really difficult to get good marks on tests. I'm just not good at remembering information and regurgitating it. TO me that is not learning and it just doesn't cut it for me. Any help you can give? I'm in secondary school and doing A level

    Have a chat to your teacher and ask if she can offer you some tips. For me I always find writing something down time and time again helps me revise.

  • hi Vicki!
    You say get to know "E" a little better as a friend, how can i get to know him better? He doesnt use his phone or social networks much and at lunch and break its hard to because we hang out in such a big group

    thank you x

    bluebutterfly17

    Even in a crowd of people you can make an impression. Smile and when you speak to the group ensure he can hear what you have to say, how could he not be impressed.

  • My abilities in maths are way below that of what they should be for someone my age and I am worried I have a disability. I have always been this way. but I cant talk to anyone about it because I'll just get moaned at.

    You can talk to your teacher if you have any worries and she will be able to speak to your parents on your behalf if she feels there is an issue and get you the help you need.

  • I feel like my mind works differently from other people and I've even noticed it with my own family. It's as if I'm crazy or something and it's getting me down..
    They'll think I'm even more weird if I talk to them about it but should I just not care what they think and ask them what I should do?

    Puberty can leave lots of teenagers wondering about all manner of different subjects and this is all part of your journey to becoming a young adult and in time you will start to feel a little more comfortable with your thoughts. In the meantime continue chatting to your family about your feelings.

  • I am utterly ashamed at myself I have a boyfriend and I suddenly keep seeing other men or pictures of them and think "ohh they're nice looking" and i get that feeling in my chest. But why is this happening and how can I stop it?!! It didnt used to happen!

    It is human nature to look at things and find them attractive, it does not however mean you love your boyfriend any less, so try not to worry about this.

  • Hi Vicki
    PART 2
    It's me again a girl who do Moving Image and I'm 14 So my mum and my brother don't even believe how much I try so hard in school, another reason is that my mum and my brother thinks it funny to make me angry and every time when i'm angry they just go and laugh and make fun off me.
    And when i'm angry i'll my mum always hit me Thank Vicki sorry it's long

    If you feel your family do not appreciate your work in school have a chat to a teacher who will ask them to pop into school for a chat, they can then reassure your family how hard you are working, which should make things easier at home.

  • If you have discharges does it mean you have to wear pantyliners?

    Not if you do not wish to no. Many girls are quite comfortable with discharge in their underwear and it is easily washed out during the weekly wash.

  • sometimes when i wipe my backside there is red stuff and i think that it is blood. what is this
    please reply soon if you can that is

    It seems you may be constipated  and eating more fibre in your diet will help, so increase the amount of cereals and fruit you eat each day and please share this matter with your family too, so they can monitor the situation.

  • Hi Vicki
    PART 1
    It's me again a girl doing Moving Image and I'm 14 everything alright for now.Vicki I don't like my mum and my family because I'm 14 and all of them are strangers to me because my mum and my brother always say "My Name you never ever go to Uni because your grades are horrible and you never get a job you more like go to and clean the toilets and everything" and these always make me feel sad, and my mum and my brother always don't believe me how hard I try in every lesson.

    Hi, see my response in Part 1.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm 14 and i'm a girl and I don't know why I'm always really happy in school and when I'm at home or away from my friend I feel sad? I'm always happy in school and I'm never sad and I never ever told my friends that when I'm at home always sad?

    Another question is that I'm sick of my mum she keep hitting me and shouting at me? And I'm always angry now and being angry never happened to be as often can you help me? And my mum keep saying horrible thing to me and I want it to stop?

    Thanks

    This is fairly common amongst teenagers and nothing to worry about. You obviouisly feel comfortable around your friends because they are sharing the same experiences as you. My advice is to get more involved when at home, chat to your family, watch a TV programme with them or help make dinner. They are only little things but they will help lift your mood when at home.

  • I heard that the average person laughs 17 times a day and this made me feel sad because I don't even laugh once a day sometimes :(

    I am not sure where you heard this, but I would not worry, just because we do not laugh during the day does not mean there is anything to be concerned about and I doubt this survey is a true reflection of real life.

  • I don't like swimming or ice-skating or things like that is that normal? People think i'm weird or something and I don't know why?

    I am sure there are other things you enjoy doing, so please don't feel pressured to like some things just because others do, we are all different and this should be embraced and not a cause for concern.

  • Hey, I'm in an all girls school (unfortunately) and I really hate it. I'm loosing all my friends because all they talk about is boys who I hate and I don't know why but I like geeky boys, and they pick on me for it😭

    It would not do for us all to like the same person and you may want to remind your friends of this and let them know how great it is that we are all different.

  • Hi, I'm 13 and a month but I'm not sure if I'm normal. When I was 10 and a half, I kind of had the beginning of puberty- like hair down there, breast buds, wispy armpit hair. But then nothing happen end since. I got quite thin at one point, I don't know if that's relevant, but now it's 2.5 year later and I've only grown 1cm since; 148cm then, 149 now. I look really young compared to my friends! Is there a problem? PS I eat really healthy and I'm quite skinny. Thanks!

    I would not worry too much, lots of girls find that there are large gaps of a few years between the first signs of puberty and their period.

  • I'm 12 and a half but I haven't got boobs or my periods help

    Please don't worry, periods and breasts can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm 13 and i have quite a lot of underarm hair. I really want to get rid of it because everyone laughs at me but I'm not allowed to shave. Would just cutting with scissors be ok?

    I would not advise using scissors to cut this hair as you may nick your skin. Why not have a chat to your mum and ask if there are any other methods she would be happy for you to use. Finally, don't be pressured into removing this hair because of insenstive friends and their comments, lots of girls and women are quite happy to leave this hair to grow naturally.

  • Is it safe to put another tampon in straight after you take another one out ? or do you need to wear a pad before you use another one to give it a break?

    Another tampon can be inserted after removal of the used tampon. It is a good idea to have a break from using tampons from time to time and you may find switching to pads when around the house or sleeping is when you choose to do this.

  • HEY VICKI, HOW ARE YOU. HOPE YOU ARE FINE. I WANT TO USE THE LIL-LETS PRODUCTS BUT THERE'S A PROBLEM THAT I LIVE IN INDIA AND YOUR PRODUCTS ARE ONLY AVAILABLE IN UK AND I CAN'T BUY FROM UK SO WHAT SHALL I DO.

    You can purchase our products online via our store shop if you wish.

  • Hi, I've been getting REALLY Painfull cramps recently and I've never had my period, and since ive been getting cramps, I've been eating ALOT more than usual, and I can't seem to reduce my eating habits. I've also had a lot of friends trouble recently and I've been upset for months non stop. Is there a link between the cramps and eating a lot? Thanks xx

    During puberty your body does need extra calories to help manage all the changes its going through, but that does not mean you have to eat unhealthy foods, so if you feel hungry add a few more spoonfulls of vegetables to your meals, or eat a healthy salad, nuts or fruit.

  • How come you have to be 16 to have sex but you can buy condoms when you're under 16?

    Just because you purchase a condom does not automatically mean you are going to be sexually active, you may be purchasing them for the future.

  • If you wear a bra at night and sleep with it, will it affect your boob growth? thanks!❀️

    No not at all, wearing a bra whilst sleeping is a personal choice and will have no impact on breast development at all.

  • Ok so I have this guy friend and recently he's been concerned that he's never gonna touch a pair of boobs, so I made a pact with him that if he hasn't touched any by the time we're 17, he can touch mine (I'm 14, he's 15 and we're both in the same year at school). Our relationship is completely platonic, plus I've had a huge crush on this other boy for about a year now. I'm just wondering though: is this a particularly weird thing to do? (sorry if it's strange or inappropriate to ask). Thanks, Nikki :)

    Hi Nikki, as much as you like this boy as a friend, there really is no need for such a pact to be made and you may find when you are older you are no longer comfortable with your decision, so have a rethink and let your friend work out his own way to be intimate with another person that does not include you!

  • AFTER watching Flatlines I am scared of walls, please help my parents want me to go to a counciller but I dont want to

    help? You clever girl
    Mary aged 8 xxx

    Hi Mary, please remember that things we see on TV or in movies are designed to evoke a reaction, whether that be to make us happy or frightened. They are not always a true representation of real life and once you undersand this you may be able to start changing the way you feel. Please also continue chatting to your parents about your feelings and take advice from them, they do have your best interests at heart.

  • Hey VICKI
    I have a real bad girl crush on Jenna Louise Coleman, could you interview her? Do you lik her? Ahe is well preeeetyyyy

    LOve Hannah

    Hi Hannah, I will add her to our list and yes she seems very beautiful

  • Dear vicky

    My period finished just a couple of days ago and today when I went to the bathroom there was a fair amount of brown discharge :S is this normal?

    Yes this is very normal and still your period as very often towards the end of your period menstrual fluid can be brown in colour.

  • Hi Im a bit worried, does your IP address get tracked or show on this site? I dont want anyone to know it was me who asked a question or pass on any information or details to anyone!

    I have no information on anyone who visits this site nor do Lil-lets share any information with any other companies.

  • I am 13 + I like this guy at school but I don't think he likes me. I tried to be nice to him but recently I've been getting fed up with him as he started hurting me physically so I hit him back sometimes.Am I a bully? I know I shouldn't have but I wouldn't want to just let him hurt me and not stand up for myself. He makes out that it's all my fault and it ISN'T. He also says things that hurt me inside as well as physically. I can't help that I liked him. Why would he react like this?

    If this boy is being physically and verbally abusive then stay away from him and have no further contact. It could be that he does like you but does not want anyone else to know. Or it could be that he does not like you and is trying to find ways to keep you away. Either way for your own self respect and safety I feel it is time to move on and avoid any contact with him in the future.

  • I started my period when i was 12 or 13 but I've had pubic hair down below since I was around 9 ? Is 9 not quite young?

    Not really, puberty can arrive between the ages of 8-16 so you have nothing to worry about as lots of girls enter puberty early just like you.

  • I think my computer might have a virus so I wonder if my question came up with a weird link?

    Your question is fine, but if you have any concerns about viruses, have a chat to your parents who will run a virus scan for you.

  • is the correct way to wash your vagina around the opening but not actually in the hole? just wondering

    The vagina is very clever and keeps itself clean, so all you have to do is keep your vulva (the external part of your reproductive organs that you can see) clean.

  • My boobs are 32AA and I'm 20 - I'd really like to get bigger boobs? Any help you can give? Most of my family has average to bigger boobs?

    Breasts can continue to develop into your early twenties and their size is generally gentic. If you want an immediate effect to your breast size, you may find wearing gel inserts helps, however sometimes it is best to learn to love the shape we have not matter what that is.

  • hi Vicki
    what happens if you get tss

    TSS is an extremely rare illness that can very, very occassionally be fatal. Why not read more about this condition on our Periods page or in our Becoming a Teen Booklet. Like anything it's always good to know the facts.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm wondering what is the hymen?
    What happens to it when have sex or put in a tampon?? :\
    Thanks Rosa

    Hi Rosa, your hymen is a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina, over time it stretches and this can happen quite naturally if you are sporty or when you use a tampon or have sexual intercourse.

  • So I denied all truth behind the rumours, and having heard the stick story, and hearing from me that I know exactly where the stick is, they told me "We'll believe you if you take that big stick into English and threaten him with it. No sane person would threaten their crush with a stick!"

    I almost cried. What can I do? I'm sick of the mockery that happens everyday, but I don't want to threaten my teacher.
    Please help.
    Pt 3

    It's time to stand up to these bullies and their teasing comments and let them know you have no intentions of speaking to your teacher about this matter and that they are being immature. Once they see their comments do not bother you they will stop and find something else to gossip about.

  • Hi Vicki so long story short I really wonna move schools. There is nothing wrong with my school I just want a new fresh start for reasons I won't bore you with. I want to tell my parents but I don't know how!!! I can't really sit down and talk to them (there not really that type) and I am sacred too! I don't want to sound selfish as my parents are going through a lot right now due to money. I would move to a state school if I had to I just want to go!! Plz help me! How do I say? Thx

    Unfortunately if you do not share your reasons for wanting to move schools I cannot advise you further. If you do not feel comfortable speaking to me about this matter, why not share your concerns with a teacher or another trusted member of your family.

  • I told my best friend about my new favourite teacher, and she said "Oh I know him. He gave me a big stick to look after in case someone hit someone else with it, but I said I could bludgeon someone with it, so he took it away." This story amused me, so I asked my teacher for his side of the story, and he told the whole class.
    But since he only told this story after I'd spoken to him about it, the two girls who sit behind me (somehow) assumed I fancied my teacher. And they started a rumour.
    Pt 2

    See my response in your final part.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My names Katie and Im 14. I live in Ireland and Ive started going to teen discos with my friends. All of my friends are pretty much younger than me and have had boyfriends and 'shifted' someone Shifting is a kind of french kiss where I'm from. Anyways I haven't had a boyfriend or had my first kiss and its the thing just to kiss a random person at the disco. Should i do it because everyone slags me for it.
    Thanks x

    Hi Katie, never be pressured into doing anything you are not comfortable to do and ignore any comments from others, your first kiss should be special and not something you do, because everyone else is.

  • I started Year 9 this year. And when I went to my first English lesson of the year, I was late. So I was panicking because I assumed he was gonna be this evil man who'd kill late kids. I was wrong, because I walked into my English room, and he turned around and said "Oh hello. Take a seat and I'll introduce myself to the class." I breathed a sigh of relief.
    But this is where my problem started.
    Pt 1

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have been told by my orthodontist that I have to get braces and that I have an over crowded mouth. This means I will have teeth removed!!! I am really scared because two of the teeth are right at the front(they are baby teeth and are blocking the adult teeth) and this means I will be 'Gappy'!! I am really worried people at school will laugh at me and although it is the half term holiday I don't think the adult teeth will have grown enough to fill the gap!!! Help me!!
    Alixx

    Hi Ali, you'll be surprised how quickly teeth can grow into place and I am sure you will agree it is definitely worth having a little bit of inconvenience now, for a lovely set of teeth in the future. As for what others say, my advice would be to laugh off any comments, letting them know you don't mind the brace because the end results are going to be fabulous.

  • One month my period is really heavy and painful and then the next month it's really light and not sore at all! Is that normal?

    Yes this is very normal and one period can very often differ from the next; this may continue for a few years and whilst your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been having discharge for about 1 and a half / 2 years. I have b cup breats, underarm hair and pubic hair. Yesterday eveningI had bad stomach cramps for about 1 and half hours, and I went to the toilet and I had like pink discharge in my pants. I put a liner in and went to the toilet a few hours later and there was quite a small amount of brown/dark red blood. How much blood is there supposed to be? I've woken up this morning and don't have any blood in my pants! Was this my period?!!!!

    Why not read my blog on menstrual fluid, you will learn a lot from this. Especially that menstrual fluid can vary in colour and when it is released too and it is quite common for less to be noticed whilst sleeping. As for how much is lost, for most people it is no more than an egg cup full throughout their entire period.

  • hey vicki
    i had my first period and ever since then its been so random my last one was about 3 months ago and i haven't had one since i don't know what to do to make it more regular as it has almost been a year now since my first.
    thanks

    Periods can continue to be irregular during puberty and there really is nothing you can do to change this. It is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Yay! I got my glases yesterday! I CAN SEE!!! WOW!
    I almost forgot what the world looked like!
    xx

    It's always a great moment when you get your new glasses and everything becomes clearer.

  • THE SIZE UNDER THE BUST IS 78 AND THE FULLEST PART OF THE BUST IS 75. SO WHAT BRA SIZE AM I. PLEASE ANSWER SOON.

    34AA is your size.

  • Vicki, my breast buds are so sore all the time! Like ever since I got them (when I was about 10) they hurt a bit when I squeeze them very lightly! Its ennoying... I have started my period at 12 and Im still 12, goingto be 13. Does kt have anythi.g to do with that?
    Thann you Ducks

    Hi, breasts are often tender or sore during puberty and even once you are a fully grown woman you may find they are tender from time to time. So if you can avoid squeezing them and ensure you always have a comfortable bra or crop top on for support.

  • Mmm..I thinkI have a question. Erm.. My room wall paper is yellow. I hate it! I really wanna change it! Ive asked my dad if I can paint it, and he always says, "yes yes" for ages but never actually does anything! Its annoying. Umm, Id like to paint it..blue! Like light blue! And paint the floor and ceiling! Yes! Is that possible?
    Mmm...what shall I do?
    Thankyou
    Cheese

    Anything is possible Cheese, but remember you will have to live with these colour for a long time. So why not get some swatches of colour to put in your room for a few weeks before you make your final decision and then have a chat to your dad again. He is far more likely to take you seriously once he sees you have been placing things in your room as a test.

  • Hey Vicki I have gone through all the changes of puberty yet I didn't got my period. I have been waiting for my period since one year. By the way my breast size is 32b and I'm getting brown discharge in my undies. when will i get my first period. beauty.

    Menstrual fluid is not always red and I would imagine that this brown discharge you have noticed from time to time is your period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • hi vicki i have small boobs. i am 36 under and 38 inches on top. help!!! what is my bra size. i once tried on my sisters bra and when i rake it off it presses on my nipples and it hurts. please help me?!
    -amyania.

    Hi Amyania, if you have measured correctly you are a 40A and as such should not be wearing your sisters bra but instead wearing one that has been purchased for you and you only.

  • hi vicky i have really small boobs. i wear crob tops but i wear bras without telling my mum and they are a size 34B, they are my sisters. when i take them off it presses on my nipples and it hurts? is this normal? i am 35 under , 36 on my boobs and 37 on top. Help me please!!
    -Amyania.

    Rather than wearing tops that are not purchased for you, have a chat to your mum and ask if you can go underwear shopping, this way you can be measured professionally and will find a bra that leaves you feeling comfortable.

  • I've liked this boy for 3 years and 2 months. Help me get over him. I've tried numerous times but I cant please help me

    Keep yourself busy with friends and family, organising fun things to do, and if you can avoid being in the same places he is so your brain gets used to him not being around.

  • hey vicki,
    I am worried that my breasts aren't developing. My mom has D cup breasts and I have her body type. I am 13 and have not had my period yet. every other girl in my grade is at least an A cup and I am not even an A yet. I feel very ashamed and embarrassed of my body. Will my breasts ever develop?

    Firstly and most importantly puberty is nothing to be ashamed of and periods can arrive between the ages of 8-18, breasts can continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties, so you see you have nothing to worry about, we are all different and for now try not to compare your progress with that of friends and family members, your body will know when the time is right just for you.

  • hey vicki,
    i am 13 years old and have not had my period yet. today i noticed a lot more discharge in my underwear than usual. is this a sign that my first period is coming soon? if so how soon will it be coming?
    xoxo madi

    Hi Madi, discharge can often vary in the amount produced from day to day and this is not always a sign that your period is due any time soon, but as discharge is often noticed about 6-12 months before the arrival of your first period, I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hi vicki,
    I just wanted to know why i started my period than most of the people in my class because I'm one of the youngest in my class.i got my period at 10, is that strange because i heard you're supposed to get it at 11 or 12

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 and I can assure you lots of girls just like you every day find their period has arrived. We are all so very different you see.

  • Can u get a tampon stuck inside u?

    A tampon is designed to be inserted and then removed and therefore it is highly unlikely it would ever get stuck.

  • How to now which absorbany do i need but i havnt started my period

    For your first few periods I would suggest you try our Lil-lets teens day and night towels. And if you then feel you may want to move to tampons, you may find my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies useful.

  • Hi Vicki,

    A few months ago my parents split up. I was so upset and frustrated i had to take time off school pretending i was sick, 3 1/2 months later I'm still depressed.
    I started high school this year and I was always what you would call goth'ish' because of the music i listened to and the clothes i wear, but since this all happened i have gotten worse, and i get bullied for it.
    Even though i have anxiety and social problems anyway i am struggling now and i think I'm slowly giving up
    Thanks x

    Dressing a certain way and liking a particular knid of music does not mean you have to be unhappy or accept bullying from others. So please speak to someone about the behaviour of these people and they will step in and get his behavious stopped. And please share with others your continued management of your parents split. I appreciate this is very hard for you but by talking to others including your parents you will be able to find a happy and more balanced way of managing your life.

  • hi viki

    i asked my mum to buy me your lil-lets teen towels today and i love them! they are so much comfier and a better fit than the always brand. anyway i just wanted to now how our body's can loss so much blood it feels really strange knowing there is lots of blood coming out of my body. is this normal??xx

    Here's the funny thing, although it looks like there is a lot of blood being released it is actually about an egg cup full throughout your entire period and thank you for the wonderful feedback on the teens range.

  • hi viki

    i stared my period on the 21st and i am now on my forth day and i think i'm started to come off. its so wired because im 14 and i have only just started and my 11 yr old friend stared 2 days after me is this just a coincidence?

    thank you so much i love this site!! <3 xx

    A period can last for between 2-10 days and I am sure it was just a coincidence that your friend's period arrived around the same time as yours.

  • You know the ball shaped thing at the very top of the whole of our vigina not the actual part that the blood comes out of, it's been hurting me and I went to the toilet to check why and I touched it so I could see the side and it looked like blood however when I touched that bit there was no blood on my finger. What is this and why does it hurt? Please answer this iis because it hurts when I do a lot of things it has been hurting since 23rd it is now 24th, and please don't mention GP or talking to my mum.

    As with any part of your body, if you catch it or nick it, it can hurt and even bleed. Now this could be what has happened or it may even be your period, but the simple truth is that if you are in pain you MUST share this information with your mum and then she can decide what to do next.

  • Hi Viki
    I was just wondering is it easier to use non applicator or applicator tampons
    Thank you

    The choice really is yours, but for most people they find not having to worry about learning how to use an applicator makes non-applicator a great first choice.

  • I want to use tampons, but i'm scared and my mum says no what should I do?

    If your mum does no wish you to use tampons, you must respect her decision until you are old enough to make your own choice.

  • Hi Vicki
    Actually it's been 2 months only and this month I had already got my periods so my mom told me that the second time u get ur periods,a little more blood will cum as compared to the first time.but it was not much it cam like the first time only. Is it a problem?

    Aash

    The amount of menstrual fluid can vary from period to period and not everyone experiences heavier ones every time their next one arrives, so you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi viki, my ex boyfriend has moved up into my set in school and now i sit by him for a couple of lessons. I really.like him but he has a crush on my best friend. If i tell her she will tell him amd im scared she will laugh at me. In class he always lookes at me an her and tickes me. And teases me by wrappin his leg around mine. Do you think he is flirting with me. My belst friend says he likes me but i dont know. Its making me get fustrated. What should i do?. Thx

    I think your ex either still likes you or feels comfortable in your company because you have previously dated. I can only suggest you wait a few month or so and see if he shares his feelings with you.

  • I get some discharge bu i havnt started yet. I have hit puberty and i get loys of mood swings. I am really nervous about starting. Do u think i might start my periods soon?

    Discharge is always a great sing that your period is not too far away, so ensure from now on you are prepared by having some Lil-Lets teens pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Help!

    I put a tampon in for the first time but I stupidly did it an hour before bed and I don't want to sleep with it in. I'm also scared if I take it out too soon it will really hurt :(

    Please help me as soon as you can.
    Thanks.

    I am sure by now you have removed the tampon and in future be mindful of the time so you do not have to remove a dry tampon too soon after insertion.

  • my breast bulge out of my bra when ever i pull my arms behind my back and also i get arm fat outside of my bra is my bra to small ?

    It does seem that this may be the case, so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask if you can be measured.

  • i asked a question ages ago if u could do a review about books/stories about periods like artichoke hearts by sita Brahmachari. have you done it and if not not could you do it please? i felt proud because you said it was a good idea!
    love fabby

    Hi Fabby, it is on my list and will be considered.

  • I have had this happened twice; I began to sweat really badly, felt dizzy, Needed the toilet, felt a little bit sick, felt it was hard to walk-the more I walked I felt sick, I felt like I was going to faint and was shaking. Was this a Panic/Anxiety Attack? Thanks :)

    This would be difficult for me to comment on and you really should speak to your parents or the person who cares for you and ask their advice.

  • My best friend keeps on flirting with my crush on purpose and it's really annoying me. Whenever I talk to him she always butts in. What should I do?

    You can do one of two things, you can have a word with your friend and ask her to give you and this boy some space. Or you can choose to ignore her and simply enjoy the time you spend chatting to this boy, letting your fun personality shine through.

  • How long should each period last?

    A period can last between 2-10 days.

  • I'm nearly 11 what bra size am I ?

    Your bra size is not based on your age but rather your measurements so why not check out our bra guide for more information on how to do this.

  • Is it normal for my first period to be brown?!

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red, so yes this is very normal.

  • Hi Vicki ❀️
    I started my period 6 months ago, and in November it will be seven months, and I haven't had my second period yet even though it's been a while. I've bought pads just in case, but nothing's happening. I get the occasional spotting and I've had discharge for about a year and a half. I'm scared that there's something wrong with me ... Thanks xxxxxx

    I would imagine that this occassional loss of blood is your period and not spotting, which is something generally experienced by women who have been menstruating for a while. Remember periods are very often light and short so please try not to worry.

  • hi vicki,
    Im 12 and i havent started my period yet, all of my friends have and im getting a bit self consious. Im growing boobs quite rapidly but im too scared to ask my mum to get me measured/get a bra for me. Also i havent been able to sleep recently and its really getting me worried. Please help me i feel like i dont fit in anywhere and its making my life miserable x

    Puberty can be a trying time for girls, but you  really have nothing to worry about, periods arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive. As for bras, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this should quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • HI Vicki
    I'm going on holiday soon (on monday) abroad, but I'm scared of flying, how can I get over this?

    Why not have a chat to the air stewardess on the plane and he or she should be able to put you at ease.

  • Hey there, I'm just wondering - is it normal for the insides of your vagina/vaginal wall to point sideways to the right and go towards your anus??

    Never think of your vaginal passage as something that points up towards your chin, it actually slants towards the base of your spine. So you see you have nothing to worry about.

  • I see a lot of questions about masturbating but why don't I like it?

    Let me reassure you that not everyone feels the need to masturbate or does, so please don't worry or feel pressured if it is not for you.

  • I think I have a crush on this boy in my science class but I've never even spoken to him! However I DO know that he knows my name and who I am, he just never speaks to me. But why should he? Because I'm really shy when it comes to boys and well shy in most situations- even around the 'popular' people because I just never know what to say and have a complete emptiness in my head - so I end up looking really stupid and boring :( I think he's really cute but how do I get him to notice me? Thanks x

    Why not simply smile when you see him next and this is sometimes enough to get someone's attention.

  • A friend who is 18 said that she went to a house party (with her boyfriend) and when her boyfriend went away for a bit a guy touched her on her thigh and then on her vagina through clothes when she didn't want him to. and when she tried to get him to stop he did not. What should you do if that happens? I am only 15 myself and just wondering because now I'm scared in case it happens to me when I go out.

    Your friend would have bveen wise to have shouted out for her boyfriend, screamed even. And moved away pushing this boys hand away so he was left in no doubt his behaviour was inappropriate. It can also be useful to stay in a crowd, with people you know.

  • if your are infertile does that mean you dont have periods?

    Not necessarily, infertility is a complicated condition and different for each of those concerned.

  • I'm not sure if i just started my period. I looked at the toilet paper and there was a small amount of red streaks and some brown stringy stuff. I have constipation and i wasn't sure if it was because of that or if I'm starting my period pls help. πŸ˜₯

    Why not see what happens over the next few days and you will soon be able to tell if this is your period or residue waste food if you have been constipated.

  • What happenes when you have a panic attack and what are the symptoms if you have angsiety.
    Thank you xxx

    Feelings of being hot, sweaty, nervous, short of breath can all be signs of a panic attack. But this should really be discussed with a medical professional.

  • I'm really worried about starting my period, so when the time does come, how do I tell mum and dad?

    You can write them a note if you are not comfortable telling them face to face. Or you could simply ask your mum to pick you up some pads next time she goes out shopping.

  • hey vicki, i just got some sweetcorn stuck in my brace (i have a fixed brace) and i am scared i will cut my fingers if i try and get it out, should i go to the dentist to get it out?

    I am sure brushing your teeth and rinsing thoroughly will help remove this food particle.

  • hello vicki, i just tried on my bra but one of the hooks broke, what should i do?! its really urgent so please answer asap

    There is usually more than one hook on your bra and the others will still keep your bra secure.

  • Hi, there are some boys two years younger than me and i cannot stick up for myself whatsoever, but the boys are so abusive. i passed my grade 5 singing exam and they said im a rubbish singer, they hit me, push me, shout names, and are just verbally abusive but i cannot report them because my friend hit one once after not being able to take any more. i cant avoid them. help there is no winning them

    YES you can report them and urge you to do just that. Speak to your parents and teacher and ask them to have a word with these boys as their behaviour is totally unacceptable.

  • What does it mean if your blood is clotted on your pad? Xx

    These clots of blood form part of the lining of your uterus and are very normal.

  • When I mastubrate I somtimes get a sudden load of discharge

    This is not discharge but rather a fluid made by the vagina to aid lubrication and is nothing to worry about.

  • I really like this boy and want to be with him do you have any advice on how to ask him out.

    Why not organise a group event and include this boy on the list of attendees. You could all go bowling, swimming or to the cinema.

  • Hey viki
    I have gotten my period like 3 or so times and I am 12
    And when I was wondering if my full menstrual period
    Will be coming ...if u can please answer me and say please

    A menstrual cycle can vary from month to month and I can assure your menstrual cycle has started.

  • Hi vicki! Youve answered quite alot of my questions!! And in really worried! I think im going to turn out to be bisexual and i dont mean im agains bisexuals but i never thought of myself as being a bisexual and i hve a boyfriend but im sexually attracted to girls!! I font know what to do... Thankyouu xx

    Lots of teenagers find they are confused about their sexuality and you really do not need to label yourself anything at all. Why not wait and see how you feel in a few years when your teen years are behind you.

  • can i loose my virginity by using a tampon?

    Regardless of whether you are male or female, the only way to lose your virginity is by having sexual intercourse.

  • what is the average age when you get a period ?

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18.

  • In in year 9 and i really like this boy, i only really talk to hime in one class but i dont think he sees me in that way actually i dont think he notices me at all!! PLEASE HELP😬

    It may be that this boy is not mature enough to consider dating or even girls for that matter. So why not consider being just friends for now.

  • Hello Vicki,
    There is this guy I really like. He found out I liked him and was acting normally and was showing off a lot. After a lesson were I sit next to him, he kissed me! I was sooo happy but a week after this he told me he now has a girlfriend which is sooo infuriating!! I acted normally Nd calmly and said ok. But now I am really jealous and sad and also sad that he kissed me because it was my first PROPER kiss that wasn't a split second long. I just really hate this...Btw I am 13.
    πŸ’žπŸ’ž

    It seems this boy was unsure of his feelings for you and this other girl. Now it appears he has made his decision, try not to be too upset and chat to him as a friend and give him and his new romance some space to get to know each other. I appreciate this may be hard, but getting angry will not solve anything.

  • Hi Vicki, there is the guy I sometimes see around school and we stare at eachother for like 2 seconds sometimes less sometimes more. Anyway I really Like him I have liked him for almost 6 months I think. I found out he likes someone else but do u think he may like me as he always stares back? I also wanna get really close with him but we have never talked. Please help xxx

    Why not wait and see what happens over the next few months, if this boy does like you he will find a way to let you know. If he doesn't then it may be that he does like this other girl and it would be wise for you to move on. So give it a little more time, before making your decision.

  • Hi viki, I'm 11 and I wear a crop top as well as in general, all my friends say that when I go to sleep I should take it off so that 'they' can breath but now that I'm so used to having it on all the time it just feels weird not to wear it. Is it better for your boobs to sleep without one if there still developing? Also when I look down there a little pointy, like the left one points out a little to the left and the right is the same. Is that normal?

    Thanks

    Firstly, it is a personal choice as to whether you wear a bra whilst sleeping and it will have no impact on your breast development. As for their shape; it is normal to find that breasts are a little triangular in shape, with each one looking a little different.

  • Hey there vicki
    Um i was woundering... Is it normal to have loads of different types of discharge so for example one week you may get thick white stuff then the next you get thin clear stuff then the next you get thick yellowy green coloured! Is this normal?
    Luv lils
    Please reply xxx

    Hi Lils, this is very normal and these changes are caused by the levels of hormones in your body on any one day.

  • Hi Viki, so my school had our first dance a few weeks ago and the guy I really like asked me to dance. We danced twice and I was so happy, he said all nice stuff an how he'd Ben waiting for this moment for a long time. He told me he really like me I'm in 7th grade. Anyway once Monday came it went back to how it was before, we don't talk to each other and are both shy. What should I do? I really like him and he is in the other class, my grade isn't the dating type, so how do I get us to be closer? Thanks! ❀️

    Why not say "Hi" next time you see him and ask him how his weekend was. In time you may find you both feel more comfortable around each other and there really is no rush.

  • I'm 10 and last year for only once I got red blood in my underwear and after that I always found brown discharge in my undies but never got my period. so my question is to you is that the red blood i found once in my underwear my period or is the brown discharge my period.

    Whether the fluid you notice is red or brown, it will still be your period as menstrual fluid can be both. Why not have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will be able to advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki so it's Annie again sorry I ask so many questions so for Halloween me and my 2 other friends are being super Heros and I'm Wonder Woman and I have a costume but it's strapless and it will probably be cold so I'm wearing tights but I don't know wht to do about my arms bc it will be cold and I would wear a shirt under it but it looks wired and is super super uncomfortable ( dosent fit right with the shirt at all) but I don't want to be freezing what do I do??

    Hi Annie, why not wear a short cardigan or a cape.

  • Sorry if this is gross but is there a way to tell when your period is coming by feeling your ovaries or sticking a clean finger up your vagina?

    Some people find that once their periods are more regular they notice their discharge becomes slightly thicker, their breasts may be tender and they can feel a little moody a week before. But inserting a finger inside your vagina will not tell you anything.

  • Hi Vicki! There was this brown stuff with a red tint to it in my underwear have I started?

    I would say yes this is your period and it would be a great idea to share this news with your mum.

  • Hi viki I was with this guy for a long time and he hurt me and he hurt me again recently and I don't know what to do because I work with him please help

    It seems you and this boy are not meant to date and even though you now work together you can still keep your distance by not entering into any conversations with him when you are together.

  • Do you think i should tell my teacher in school incase i have a few accidents with my periods if so how will i tell her?

    I do no think there is any need to speak to your teacher about this matter. If you do have an accident he or she will already have been trained to deal with it and will be able help you manage any period issues you have. But my best tip is to advise you keep some pads or liners in your school bag every day, in preparation.

  • Hi i had my period im 12 nearly 13 and my mum keeps asking me if i had it again as she only got her period when she was 14 so she thinks ive done something wrong what should i do ?

    First periods often have large gaps between each one and these gaps can be of several months so please don't worry this is all very normal and your mum has nothing to worry about.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Im sorry if this is inapropriate but i was wondering if a condom is a contraception? Xxxxx purpleBananas xxxX

    Yes it is.

  • Hi
    I started my period 2 days ago but it was a light on and dint hapend the next day so i only had it a day and i read u should have them 2-7 days is this normal?

    Periods can vary in length and any time from 2-10 days is normal so you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi, well I like this boy who is two years older than me but I've known him since we were 6 and 8 we were like brother and sister but then word got round that I like him and he acts like he likes me back but is a bit embarrassed so he isn't talking to me and rarely looks at me what should I do I really like him and please don't tell me to find someone else. Thank you x

    If this boy is not ready to tell others about his feelings for you, then consider just being friends until he is comfortable or you are older.

  • Hi vicki it's laura again Iv started to use panty liners and have used a range of them, my period still hasn't came yet but it has definitely helped me keep fresh and keep my underwear cleaner than they were but I'm 13 now so maybe my period will come soon as I've had discharge for about 2 years now, Thanks again Vicki, much love, Laura πŸ’• xxx

    Hi Laura, I doubt you will have much longer to wait and I am pleased you are finding the pant liners a useful addition.

  • Hi Vicki, I've had this horrible cough for over 3 weeks now(nearly 4)it's really flemmy and disgusting- I've been coughing up mucus all the time, but since the start of this week I've started vomiting up food, I saw my doctor last week on Thurs, she said it's not a chest infection. I don't eat at school anyway in case I'm sick there, I'm just not sure what to do. Is this really a normal cough? My friends don't have coughs like this. Please answer sorry if this is inappropriate, Ren x

    Some coughs do linger for a number of weeks Ren, but if you and your family continue to be concerned you can always go back and have another chat to your doctor.

  • My brother went to university in Scotland this summer, it was hard saying goodbye to him the first time he went as I did not go up to Scotland with the rest of my close family. He has been to see us twice now but every time he leaves I get emotional. I know he'll be back but I still tear up a bit when we say bye. How can I feel a bit better about it and not get upset by this? Also is it normal? Idk plz help!

    Why not start writing to your brother and letting him know how your days are going, being positive in your words and I am sure you will start to feel excited about the adventure your brother is having up in Scotland. 

  • How do you know your boobs are growing at early stages? x

    Generally you can feel a little lump under the nipple area, this is your breast bud and it may only be one breast that develops first, with the other one growing a short time after.

  • hi vicki i just want to ask for some help i have been told today that my granddad has cancer and well i have struggled with self harm before and i dont want to hurt myself again but all the time its one thing after anoter and i can cope anymore xx

    I am sorry to hear of your news and this is a time for you and your family to chat about this illness and support each other and your grandfather as he undergoes treatment. So be sure to let someone know how you feel and that you are struggling with this news.

  • Whenever I run my period always seems to get REALLY heavy and I don't know what to do also I'm only 13 ??

    It may be that you are using more of your muscles when running helping to release menstrual fluid and is really nothing to worry about a good quality brand of pad or tampon will capture any fluid lost.

  • I started my period last month but I haven't had my period this month is something wrong??

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months between each one being very normal.

  • Hi Vicki! Im 12. So my pubic hair down there is kinda long and I wanna trim it down a bit soon, like you said to the other girls. But am I too young?! And when sometime I do trim it back, Im scared that the bits will stick out of my nickers! Like one girl in here said!
    Will it? Also this website is the best thing! Thank you!! xxxkissyxx
    cheese

    This really is a personal choice and there is no reason to trim or remove this hair at all if you do not want to.  It may sometimes show through your underwear but I really would not worry about that.

  • Oooooooh! Nice blogs!
    Thank you!

    Thank you.

  • Err..Why wont you ever answer this question!!!
    What is depression???
    Could you please answer this ooone! Please! Ill say thank you!
    Thank you!! :)

    Depression is more than simply feeling unhappy or fed up for a few days. People who are depressed can feel sad for weeks or months, rather than just a few days.  Hormonal changes noted during puberty can often leave teenagers feeling concerned that they are suffering with depression, but this really does need to be discussed with your family and diagnosed by a medical professional if you have any concerns.

  • Hi! I read the page on TSS. If you got it and go to the hospital, what will they do to you? I mean, like will you die? Will they do an operation? Will they give medication?
    Cheese

    Hi Cheese, in very rare circumstance TSS can be fatal, but if diagnosed quickly a course of treatment is offered that can aid a full recovery from this illness.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My name's Marie. I've just turned 13 and I feel really sad and depressed because I have never had a boyfriend! Ever!Or been kissed. And some of my friends who are 12 have had millions. I feel really pressured to get one but no boys like me because I'm ugly.

    What do I do?

    Marie, please don't worry a great many people nowadays wait until their late teens or early twenties before dating. So try not to compare your progress with that of others, the right person will come along when the time is right for you and there really is no rush.

  • Hiya, so I am 14 and over the past couple of weeks I have noticed that a lot of men stare at me was the drive past or walk past me, it is really beguining to creep me outπŸ™Š why is this happening ⁉⁉thankyou very muchβ›„β›„β›„β›„β›„β›„β›„β›„β›„β›„β›„

    If you feel you are getting unwelcome attention from others share this news with your parents and ask if they can collect and pick you up from time to time and walk to and from school with a group of friends when possible.

  • Hi Vicki
    On school days I instantly wake up in the morning around the same time before my alarm goes off, it is like I have one in my head. But at the weekends I don't is this bad?
    xx#12345678910#xx

    No this is fine and quite common. Lots of people have an internal clock that wakes them up at the same time each day, even if it means later at weekends.

  • Hi Vicki
    All I wanted to say was thanks for helping me with all my problems, your advice really helped me! I'm so glad this website exists.
    Love Piper

    Hi Piper, you are most welcome.

  • Hello,
    I have normal white discharge but I also have some light yellow bits aswell
    What is it??

    Try not to worry as discharge can often appear creamy yellow in colour. This is all very normal.

  • Hey! Since I started year 8 (after summer) I've had lower back pains. I've not other signs of period except discharge. In bed when I stretch getting up or lie really straight it aches. It's been like that for 8 weeks. I've also had hot water bottles on it but its still there

    This sounds very much like your reproductive organs are maturing and the reason for your discomfort, but if you have any concerns then please have a chat with your parents.

  • Does exercising make your periods even more irregular?

    No not at all, in fact exercise is a great idea during your periods as it can ease any menstrual discomfort.

  • I'm 13, I got my period in May and have had it three times but recently I've skipped 2 months and have still got cramps..what's going on??

    Anonymous.xx

    The cramps are most likely caused by your reproductive organs maturing and this can happen at any time during puberty, so please try not to worry periods are often irregular for the first couple of years.

  • Hi! My friend asked my crush out for me and he said yes. Im really happy but I don't know how to bring up a conversation how do I start?; love ElleπŸ’˜πŸ’•

    Hi Elle, why not ask him how his weekend was, this is a great way to break the ice and start chatting.

  • Xoxoxoxoxoxo- so I use to ask question on here, and I forgot how useful it is it's about spots, well I'm 13 but hit puberty quick, and I'm not stressed, not on time of month, have a good skincare, amd having the biggest breakout had in long time? And my boobs nipples are getting swore? But Iv already had period this month? I'm confused help?- xoxoxoxoxoxo

    Breasts can be swollen and spots can appear at the most inopportune moments and this can be linked to hormone levels and is nothing to worry about and is all part of being a woman.

  • Hey Vicki,
    there's this girl called I who's SO popular and hangs out with my crush all the time. All the boys like her and shes just SOO annoying. Shes always like "hey D!!" then she smiles and i fake smile and say hi then pout behind her back. I call her L M O for just annoying me. I feel mean but literally shes so annoying and everyone HAS to like her. How can i deal?! I feel like ripping my hair out!

    Darcy-Mae xx πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„

    Be true to yourself, you do not have to like someone but you can still be polite. So next time she calls your name, smile and carry on with what you are doing. And if you like this boy then chat to him and you may just find romance blossoms.

  • I have this friend and we have connected really close lately and I think he's a bit of a show off and flirts with me a lot like today he squirted his water bottle on my legs and we started chasing each other, he's always making jokes and I like him a little bit. How can I take this a step further?πŸ’š

    What's the rush, you may just find that if you continue being close friends, romance will blossom all on its own without any help from either of you.

  • HI VICKI
    BASICALLY I WAS IN PERIOD 2 AND I GOT A NOTE SAYING I HAD TO GO TO RECEPTION AT 12:30 I WENT AND THEY SAID TO GO AND SEE A LADY ABOUT BEING A YOUNG CARER BECAUSE I SELF HARM AND HAVE ANXIETY PROBLEM THIS RUNS IN MY FAMILY BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE GIVE ME ANY ADVICE

    LAUREN :) :| :(

    If your school feels you would benefit from this chat then why not go ahead and visit her. You do not have to do anything you are not comfortable with, but a chat will not do any harm.

  • HI VICKI

    I have the biggest boobs in my year (7) everyone stares and thinks I'm lucky in a way I laugh and feel lucky but then it gets embarrassing (36C)
    please help me what reaction show

    LAUREN :):):):)

    Try to ignore any comments you hear, in time they will stop as others develop and you are no longer the only person in your class who has developed.

  • i want to have sex with my boy friend yet he does not want to do it
    xxxxxx
    shannon

    Hi Shannon, I am presuming you are both legally old enough to be sexually active before I go any further. And my advice is simple; if your boyfriend is not yet ready for this step in your relationship, then you should respect his wishes and wait.

  • All my friends are more developed than me it's not FAIR!!! :( they all wish they were like me and they hate it but I want boobs and even to be hairy and spotty just to show the world I'm growing up!!! Ik it's crazy but im almost 12 and I look like I'm 6 :(:(:( HELP!!!

    We all develop at different times and it really does no good comparing your progress to that of others. Instead learn all you can from them and read all the great stuff on our website about periods and puberty and then when changes start to happen to you, you'll be prepared.

  • Hi Vicki.Im a bit silly and I do not know what bra size I am.
    Under Bust-78cm
    Bust-80cm.
    What am I,
    Please answer ASAP,
    Abigail.
    Thanks.
    ||||||||||||||||||||||

    36AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • I just tried to punts tampon in but I couldn't do it. It didn't even go half way in, I took it out because it was hurting so much. I'm not sure if I was putting it in the right place. Now it really hurts down their especially when I wee. It stings. What was I doing wrong??

    Like anything new using a tampon can take practice. So why not wait until you are your next period and try again, remember to read the leaflet enclosed inside each pack and inserting in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine.

  • This isnt puberty but what does it mean when you smell smells that aren't there? I keep smelling things that aren't there ( i don't think)! and it's annoying? Do you know why this is?

    If you can smell something, then even if it is only a glancing odour, it will be there somewhere.

  • hi vicki.! im now 18 n I usually have sex with my boyfriend.my periods are quite irregular.I had unprotected sex after crossing my period date.its now nearly two months I delayed in my periods. Im feeling so what ill.im afraid that im pregnant..pls help me vicki

    If you have had unprotected sexual intercourse and your period is late, then there is a chance you are pregnant and as such you should consider taking a pregnancy test. You can do this either at your doctors or local family planning centre or alternatively by purchasing a home pregnancy test.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had my period, but only once, and haven't had a second one yet. It is 25 days late-is this normal??? I'm really confused... can you help me?
    -confused

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years and can have gaps of several months between each one. This is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hey, I've just started my period! I'm a little lost, one question I do have that would be really useful to know is when I need to change my staniary towel I go to the toilet with my friends, what is the quickest way to change it and go to the toilet without them getting worried about what I'm doing in there!?
    I hope you can give me some advise!!!! xx

    Some people flush the toilet and then remove their pad and put in a new one, others wait for the hand dryers to come on. While just as many people are comfortable changing quickly and not worrying about what others may think.

  • I asked u a question and was given the reference code KAN519 I wrote it down so I remember and I know it was inappropriate and I know you can't answer everyone question quickly but I asked mine 2 'months ago but plZ don't think I'm angry I love this site and never change it. Thank you xx sorry it's so long

    If your question was inappropriate then I am afriad I would not be able to respond. However, if you wish to ask me another question then please send me another one.

  • When he says something funny he looks at me to see if im Laughing and he laughs even more when if I am. I did really well in a test once and he boasted to people near him how well I did. Once I turned around to speak to the boy behind me and he turned his body and legs around to face me and rested his knee on mine but I moved away... when I was speaking to the boy he watched and listened to everything we were saying. When I turned back, he did too. Do you think he likes me? Part2. Luv Ella

    Ella, I would say yes he likes you very much and is not worried if others notice too.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm not sure if this boy likes me. He stares at me a lot, but I'm not sure how long for because i always look away... i sit next to him in all of my science classes and he stares at me a lot. Sometimes he mirrors my movements and he ALWAYS flicks/smooths his hair every time moving his head to my direction when he does it and never to the girl on the other side of him. Whenever him/the boy behind us says something he often looks at my reaction straight away. Part1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi vicki,
    So after 7 months of discharge I had a couple of drops of blood in my pants, this was 3 weeks ago and now I'm having really bad low abdominal pain and I'm feeling really upset
    Do you think I could have a period in the next couple of days? Xx

    It would be almost impossible to say, periods can have both long and short gaps between each one for the first few years, so my advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about.


  • Hiya viki for the past year I have been getting a clear discharge but apart from that I have shown not really any signs of puberty (I Am 12)
    Is this normal?

    This is very normal and as time goes by you will start to notice more signs of becoming a young woman and you can find out more by reading the articles on our Puberty tab.

  • Hey Vicki
    I am having a blood test soon and i wanted to know if it hurts thanks xx

    Not really no, there may be a slight sensation of a scratch but that is all.

  • Hiya vicki
    Firstly thank you so much for answering all of my questions, you have really helped me out. I was wondering if you have any ideas about how I could exercise more often? I walk to and from school everyday and always take part in PE but I don't think that's enough. Any suggestions?
    Thanks so much
    Zara xxx

    Hi Zara, now the winter nights are drawing in, I would suggest that you join a club for something you enjoy or if not simply try doing an exercise routine or dance in your bedroom.

  • Hello,
    I'm turning 15 soon, but this time last year I lost my virginity to a boy I no longer speak to. I was safe and protected and nothing went wrong. I feel bad for keeping it from my mum all this time, I don't know what to do, should I tell her? If so how?

    This really is your decision to make and the relationship you have.

  • I have just reseved a text saying: "You dont realise how much this is breaking me! I actually cant be bothered to live if I gonna have people like you!"

    What shall I do?

    That depends who sent it and why they felt the need to send it to you in particular. If you have any worries about this text then why not speak to your parents about this matter.

  • Hi Vicki im on my period and for the past 2 nights I have not let out any blood is this normal
    This was on the 5th and 6th day
    Thanks xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a blance for your regular period.

  • VICKI I LOVE YOUY SO SO SO SO SO SO MUCHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You helped me with a lot of things and you said you really like one direction wich is my obsession I love you and thanks a alot for helping me with your answers. :)

    Thank you for your support.

  • Hi

    'm the only girl in the class who is a bus enthusiast(got inspired by my boyfriend) but the whole class and my cousins, friends and siblings all make fun of me! How do I ask them to stop?
    Thanks
    from Renee

    Hi Renee, if you like something and others don't quite understand try to ignore any of their comments and once they see you are not bothered they will soon stop teasing.

  • Hiya so this past month my lower back has been really aching usually just at night, it isn't like a pulled muscle pain it is more just a dull aching type, so this isn't my period as I have already had one this month, I am 14 and recently I have been having really low sore belly ache at night to, what is this? Thank you ❄❄❄❄❄❄❄❄❄❄

    It is possible that these pains are due to your body getting ready for when your period arrives but please talk to your mum or guardian and ask what they think.  A hot water bottle or painkiller will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Hi vicki
    I missed the last 2 days of school before the holidays and my class had a test but I missed it. I only just got back from holiday and I have lots of homework to do but I don't know if I would need to do the test when I go back or not so I don't know if I need to revise or not. What should I do?

    If you think that knowledge is a powerful thing, revise for the test and even if you don't have to do it, you will still have learned the material which is a good thing.

  • Hi vicki
    I started my period about 6months ago and I had my period last month but

    I haven't had it this month and sometimes I touch myself I'm a bit worried

    P.s my periods are usually really really heavy

    From anonymous

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years and masturbation will have no effect on this at all.


  • I'm 10 and getting brown stuff in my undies so is it my period. but my mommy says its just discharge. what is it? I'm confused.

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi
    What are the symptoms of thrush and what is it?

    Thrush is easily identified by the presence of a thick creamy discharge that ressembles cottage cheese, you would have a swollen, irritated vagina and there would be a burning sensation when you urinate.  Thrush is a fungal infection caused by a chemical imbalance in the vagina - it can be easily treated by creams from the chemist.

  • How do u masterbate???

    Masturbation is something that is dont naturally and by instinct and is definitely not something I can tell you how to do.

  • Hello, I'm 12 and I had my period in August 2014 my mum said that periods happen every month but now its October and still haven't had my period yet..... Is that bad? Is there anything I need to worry about???? Please give me some advice. Thanks xx πŸ’ž

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • is the brown discharge in my undies my period. please answer

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy you some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vikki
    Do you have any tips on how not to be constipated anymore
    Please help

    You should introduce more fibre into your diet by eating more fresh fruit, vegetables, pulses, nuts etc.. and also try drinking more water as this will make the stools easier to pass. 

  • Hey Vicki so I have something that's a problem (to me idk how big of a deal it is) but there's this guy I met last year and we became good friends like really close and this year we only text after school but sometimes well get into deep and long conversations over text reaciling problems and are stress but at school we hardly talk sometimes we say hi or rarely hang out at break what should I do?? Thanks Annie (p.s I'm in grade 8)

    Hi Annie, next time you chat to this boy ask him why he is not comfortable speaking to you in school, it may be that he really does like you but is not yet ready to share this with others.

  • Masturbution techniques? Is it okay to mastubate at 14?

    Puberty is a time when hormones run riot causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.  People of all ages masturbate and it is nothing to be ashamed of.

  • Hi im 14 and about 2 months ago I found some brow/red discharge in my knickers. Ive had discharge for about 3 or 4 years now and I think im almost at the end of puberty but I want to know if that brown stuff was my first period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi I'm 12 and I'm a 30a and have not had my period yet is that normal ?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki! Sorry to waste your time bit i have a really itchy throat and when i cough it makes a loud heavy sound, i dont know how to describe it but its a loud noise coming from inside my chest, sometimes it burns when i cough heavily which makes the noise louder and makes my chest burn. Ive searched the whole internet and i still have no answers. Plz help. What is this cough called? Love, natalia x

    Hi Natalia, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi vicki I'm struggling sleeping at the moment I will sometimes get to sleep at 3am and then get up at 7am. This makes me really moody and tired. Do you have any tips so I can get to sleep easier and earlier. Thanks x

    You should make sure that you're really tired before you go to bed.  So, why not consider doing a sport or simply dance for an hour in your bedroom until you work up a sweat.  When you have then had a shower or bath, read a book for a little while but try to avoid going on your PC or watching the tv as this will stimulate your brain.  You might also like to consider learning some relaxation techniques or yoga. 

  • Hi vicky.
    Im 12, my breasts are a size 32C and they have stretch marks around them. I dont no whether this is normal or not because im quite scared

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to develop stretch marks in places all over the body.  They occur when skin is stretched rapidly over a short period of time.  You might find that by applying moisturiser, you will help to hydrate the skin and minimise the effects.

  • How long do periods last? I started on Monday. Thanks :)

    Congratulations.  It is normal for a period to last between 2-7 days.

  • Hey Viki do you still have to be over 16 to have sex in Australia?
    Thanks, Jess

    Hi Jess, I believe this varies depending on what part of Australia you are from.

  • I'm a little bit different to everyone in my year. I'm bisexual. My best friend has autism and sometimes ppl stare at us but idrc she's my best friend. I have ginger hair.I'm tall and have a really loud voice.
    Some people won't accept me for who I am what should I dooooooo??

    As long as you accept you, for who you are that is all that matters. What other people think is unimportant.

  • I am really upset because I feel like i am losing my best friend. We have only known each other about 5months but in that time she has changed so much and we have just grown apart. At my old school I had lots of friendship problems similuar so I am beginning to think it's me. Please help, I am so upset.
    Thanks Becca x

    Hi Becca, why not ask your friend what the problem is and if she can give you some positive feedback. You may both then be able to work this out and stay friends.

  • Hi Vicki!

    So I got my first period about a month ago. My period was kinda light brown and I only had it for one day. Is this really my period? My mom said it was and that my body was just taking its time. I'm not sure that it really was my period. Please answer and please can you put it in the period section? Thanks Vicki!

    - Megan

    Your mum is a wise lady and I totally agree with her comments; all of this is very normal and in time you will find a more regular cycle is noticed.

  • Hey Vicki, there's this boy at school who sits next to me in physics and is always asking me what kind of boys im into (naughty or smart etc.) Im not popular but I'm not someone who is considered not worth talking to. is he flirting with me or wanting to ask me out? thanks BUTTERCUP2000

    He may be flirting with you and if you like him then why not continue chatting, but if you can try to switch the conversation to other subjects than dating and romance.

  • My tampon won't go in

    The trick is to relax and remember that wearing a tampon can take a bit of practice. So if you do not get it right this month, try again next and remember to insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine.

  • Hi Viki

    I haven't got my period yet but I get discharge, it has suddenly got heavy and started to go brown is it my period or something else
    Thank you

    Brown fluid in your underwear is often your period as menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red.

  • Hello Vicki, you know in the latest new blog, the nail polish one, havy YOU tried it yet? I tried but it didnt go quite right.
    Cheeeese. I love ittt

    I have yes, but it took a few practices.

  • I had a little dot of blood on my liner.
    Is this my period?

    It could be, why not wait and see what happens over the next few days and if more blood is lost during this time. If so, then it would be a good idea to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • hi, vicki!
    i am going on holiay next week and we will do a lot of swimming. i am not due to have my period, but if i do i will need to use tampons. i was just wondering, do i have to tell my mum or could i use them without her knowing?
    thank you so much for always being here to help me
    Tizzy xxxx

    Hi Tizzy, it would be a good idea to share your views on tampons with your mum and let her know you would like to try using them when your next period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm in year 8 and my best friend from primary school who I barely see is having a party and sleepover. The thing is, I don't know if I will be in my period! πŸ˜” I started in August, nothing in September but my mum and I thought that maybe I'll have it every 2 months, but the sleepover is this month! I wear special night pads when I'm on my period at night but I still leak onto my bed sheets sometimes. What do I do?! Thanks, Anna xx

    Hi Anna, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  So you have no way of knowing for sure when your period might arrive so I would suggest that you try to be prepared by wearing a pant liner on the day of your best friend's party and take some towels with you.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and they should never interfere with the things you enjoy doing in life.  Have fun!

  • Hi Vicki, I have really big nipples and there really pointy and they've been like that for a while now :( When will they grow and is that a sign that they will be big? I hope haha

    Some women do develop big nipples but you should wait until your breasts have fully developed when they should look the perfect size so try not to worry. 

  • Hi vicki, I'm getting whitish gooey liquid around my vagina and I've had for a few months but I don't know what it is and I haven't started my period yet?????

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they wil keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey vicki,
    So theres this boy who a around a few months ago we use to be so close i use to give him girl advice we use to joke around and walk home together, flirt a bit ..... but quite a while now we dont really talk which i hate because I really miss him😭

    I mean i really miss him!!!! i wished him a happy birthday a few days ago he answered and asked how i was but that was pretty much it.
    I want my friend backπŸ’žπŸ˜‚
    How do get him back?

    What did i do wrong?

    It is normal for us to outgrow our friends from time to time but it wouldn't hurt for you to tell him that you miss his friendship and see what his response is.

  • Hey Vicki,
    this is my second question today. If someone wants a kid, but they don't wanna have sex, can they get the semen and put it in lots of seringes and push the seringe up there so the sperm can meet the egg?? Is that possible? also to break the hymen can u pull it out with tweezers? Ik these r weird questions, sorry!

    Darcy-Mae xx πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, there are lots of medical advances that can help someone have a child if conceiving one naturally is not an option. As for your hymen, this piece of skin stretches rather than breaks and does not require to be pulled apart by tweezers or any other implement for the matter.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i watched a video on how to insert a tampon and the woman said if it doesn't go in after u try a few times, u may hav a smaller vaginal opening or hole and said visit ur GP. Im not attempting to try inserting a tampon but if u do hav a small opening (im scared i do) does it make sex and childbirth impossible or harder and what would they do at the GP??

    Darcy-Mae xx πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„

    Please try not to worry as the vagina is a muscle which can expand wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born.  You should try to be as relaxed as possible before trying to insert a tampon and you might want to consider using a Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for first-time use have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Please talk to your mum for peace of mind.

  • I know its a bit rude and im really sorry but what is sex and do you need to do sex to have a baby and whats it mean if you are a virgin xxx sorry xxxx

    The only way you can become pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male and by doing this, you will no longer be a virgin.

  • |||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||||
    Please can you post answers more quickly please,Vicki.
    From Abigail.
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    Hi Abigail, I really am trying my best to get the all the questions answered every day.

  • Hi Vicki
    Im 13 i have had my period for about a year now but last month i missed it and a week ago i just come of a 3 week long period this has happened to me before i come of now im getting drops of blood in my wee what is going on and by the way it is not heavy please help!!!!!

    Try not to worry as it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  If your periods continue to last for a long time and you should begin to feel more tired than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • What does green stuff in your pants mean because my friend has it?!

    It is possible for discharge to appear dark yellow/green when it dries out.  Your friend might like to consider using pant liners to keep her feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Can you rush to your period

    Periods are a natural occurrence that happen when they are ready and there is nothing you can do to make it arrive any quicker.

  • I love the teens pads but I have one problem with them... The wings they arnt sticky enough or big enough so they just fold over and stick to the main pad and then I get blood on them ect. Do u think u could make them either bigger and skickyer or just make some pads with out them at all ?

    The teens Day towels have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and if yu find them a little small, why not consider trying our Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  I will pass your comments on to the team about the adhesive on the wings not being sticky enough for you too.  Thank you.

  • Vicki I am so streesed oUt today I found a streak of Brownish reddish discharge I told mom but she was lyk mmmh just relax we will c 2 morow I AM STreesed wat is this thing sunshine552 again

    Hi Sunshine552, try not to worry as this is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I got my report today and I did really well! Thanks for the help!
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, that's great news.

  • Have you ever heard of Cathy Glass? I really like her books, and the best part is, she's inspired me to want to be a foster carer when I'm older! But I don't know what sort of GCSEs, A-levels etc I'll need. Do you know?
    Rose

    Hi Rose, fostering is more about who you are as person and not what qualifications you have.

  • Dear Vicki
    i really need your help. My boy best mate hasnt been himself recently. I dont know how to explain basically sometimes he doesnt even turn up to school but the rest of the time he doesnt com until like 10.00am or lunchtime its really bugging me because hes always texting and at lunch he spend nearly 3/4 of lunch on the phone Im really worried because sometimes when i ask him he says had a doctors appontment or he is ill and i want to know whats up with him :( What should i do

    Whatever is going on with your friend, it's up to him if he chooses to tell you about it.  Your concern for him is nice to hear and if you tell him that you're worried about him, he might choose to confide in you but if he doesn't, try your best to support him and be a good friend to him at this troubled time.

  • Hi Vicki
    Thnx for alll urrr assistance this is the #1 website...wen eva i hav problems i knw who to ask(YOU!!!)...itz even become an addiction
    My Question:
    When girls get they periods does it come out with the urine or is it the same as discharge it stays *Μ©n the undiez//panty liner//pads
    Thnx Vicki
    Love You Lots
    Have Γ₯ blessed and awesome Week
    Love Lulu(#1Fan!!xoxo)

    Thank you so much for the support.  In answer to your question, urine and menstrual blood are released from separate openings.  The urethra is the small opening at the front and the vagina is in the middle and is where we release menstrual blood.

  • Part 2 about the girl who's bestie self harmed
    She also went and got face book and twitter, and went around swearing @ everyone. SHE WASN'T EVEN ALLOWED IT! I deleted it but she kept getting it back. I'm so upset. I feel so ashamed at her, coz she went behind her own families back 4 times getting face book and stuff. She lies to me, her nana, her granddad, her foster sister... The list goes on. my bestie is making me really depressed now. What can I do?

    It seems your friend has some issues and needs your support and that of her family too. So rather than be angry with her, let her know she can talk to you about anything and you will not judge her. Understand also that this will be very hard for her and although she may not tell you everything it is not because she is not a good friend, but more likely she is not yet ready to share.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My bestie who I've known for years self - harmed this year. She stopped and did it again during the 6 weeks. I've only just found out and it kinda peed me off coz she kept it from me and lied to me. Now, I wouldn't have been angry, but all over the summer she lied to me, kept d8ting hear 11's who were going to college, and now she has been caught apparently by her foster sister with a lighter, and there was smoke in the bathroom. PART 1

    See my response in Part 1.

  • Hello viki
    Is it ok for period occurs two times a month ?? So now i found a pattern in my period occurring two times a month ..
    If i am not feeling fine in the end of my stomach and specially at the right side does this mean my period is due near?? I am really not feeling well in the lower parts of my body :(
    And why whenever i get period the pain the i. The left sideπŸ‘‰ πŸ˜₯
    Thankyou for your time viki 😭😭❀️❀️
    Answer ASAP

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal to experience period pain in various parts of the body and you mgiht find that using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath will help to soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • I do like my boyfriend, but i dont feel as happy as i should? sometimes i dont want to even be around him, i just want to be with my friends? he's so lovely though and i dont want to hurt him? please help x

    You do not have to upset your boyfriend, simply make it clear that in healthy relationships couples find spending time apart and with friends is just as important as being together. I am sure he will understand.

  • Hello vicki,
    I was at an under sixteens party with two friends and there was a boy I liked there, who liked me a bit too. We both went to the toilets together and he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him at his house after the party. I said yes, we went back to his and had sex (using a condom), we are now together btw. However he is 14 and I am 13 but we want to do it again. I just want your opinion and I hope this is not inappropriate
    Hannah x

    Hannah, it is illegal for a boy or man to have sexual relations with a girl who is under the age of 16 and I urge you to have no more sexual experiences with this boy until you are lawfully old enough.

  • Hi Vicki. Please help me. I don't know if I have started my period. I've had it twice but it's been brown each time and lasts for like 3 or 4 days. I sometimes get really heavy and then I dont. Please help. I get grumpy and I feel very insecure at the moment. Thanks dee

    Hi Dee, brown blood is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina so try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for teens to lose confidence during puberty as there are so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once, so try lookinmg at ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • In pe yesterday I was changing into my pe kit and some of my friends were laughing and pointing at me I looked down to see my pubic hair hanging out of the top and out of the sides of my pants.now the girls have told everyone including boys and they won't stop teasing me about it what shall I do?
    Saskia x

    Hi Saskia, try to ignore their immature behaviour and keep your pubic hair trim by simply cutting it back.  If you can get hold of a wide-toothed comb, put it against your skin and then trim off the pubic hair that protrudes over the top.  These girls will soon forget about it so try not to worry.

  • Is it ok to wear to a underwire bra when u r a 28aa?

    The choice is entirely yours.

  • Is it ok to ask lots of questions?

    Yes of course, I am always happy to answer questions and lots of girls visit the site on a regular basis.

  • I bought two different sized bras one was 32aa and the other was 34aa the 32aa is too small and the 34aa is fine but one of my mates is a 34bb or b and I don't get it coz she has much bigger boobs than me so how can we be the same number also she's got a lot more weight than me coz Im really skinny and she s normal size. Thanks plz answer xx

    A 'B' cup is bigger than a 'AA'.

  • Hi Vicki, so I was dating a guy about a month ago but we broke up coz he thought we didn't see each other often enough. We're best friends now and are really close. He now has a new girlfriend and I have to admit I am slightly jel. We both still have feelings for each other and really dunno what to do. I told a guy I liked him because I thought I did but I've realised it was only a way to get over my ex.Me and my ex might get back together but that would require him dumping his girlfriend. Any advice?

    As you and your ex still have feelings for each other, it doesn't seem fair that he is seeing someone else so I would stay away from him until he has decided what he's going to do about his present girlfriend.  If he ends their relationship, then maybe you should spend some time being friends with each other to make sure a relationship is what you both want.

  • Yesterday i got my first period but today there was nothing there and i just shouted at mt mum for no reason what shud i do

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  During puberty, it is normal for teens to experience mood swings due to the massive changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most important of all, talk to your mum about your feelings as it isn't really your fault.

  • How long does it take you to answer a question as i ask you like 2 questions a day and i only get the answer after like a week and its aboying me and im starting to think not to use this page no more!

    I answer questions every day including weekends and within 48 hours. Why not check for your question by using your unique reference number I am sure if it was no inappropriate it will have been answered.

  • what is feeling of love

    I like to think 'love' is getting to know someone you are initially attracted to or know as a friend and finding that even when you recognise they have faults you love them still, look forward to being with them and doing all you can to make them happy.

  • Hiyaa x
    I got my first period yesterday but it was a really light one and nothings there today should i be worried? XxxxxxxxX

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi
    I am 13 and still haven't started my period but I think that I have some discharge, do I wear a liner ?

    Thanks

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and as you've begun to release discharge, I would guess that your period will be along within the next 6-12 months.  Pant liners are ideal for helping to keep you fresh and clean down there.

  • At the beginning of the year I used to swear because I started to hear it a lot and now I regret it heaps and I'm catholic so I'm scared someone's gonna tell on me and my parents find out. how can I stop being worried and how can I stop regretting things? Xx

    I think we are all guilty of behaving in a way we later think is inappropriate or saying something that we shouldn't have but please try not to be so hard on yourself and forget about it now. 

  • Hi Vicky. I'm in a crop top still yet I have had discharge on and off for the past few months. My books seem to suddenly look like they are growing a little bit. Gradually.They don't quite fit into normal 28aa bras but you can kind of tell I need something a little bit bigger than the crop top I have at he minute. Do you have any recommendations? Thanks A.W

    You might like to start with a training bra as they are soft and unstructured and will enable you to get used to wearing a bra in the future.  It is normal to notice gaps in between releasing discharge too so try not to worry.

  • Hi viki
    I'm 11 years old and am in grade 6, iv been getting discharge for about two years possibly longer, I'm really worried something's wrong with me, I know my mum got around the age 12 or 13 but I don't know if she had discharge for this long. Please HELP I'm really scared. If possible plz A.S.A.P
    Thanks

    Try not to worry as I'm sure your period isn't too far away.

  • PART TWOπŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€
    Because I'm only friends with her cause my BFF is friends with her and my bffs is kinda stuck with her cause she follows her around everywhere. I told her that and she told me I wasn't being a good friend. I then retaliated by asking why she rolled her eyes numerous times. Then ..... You guessed it , she rolled her eyes ands taunted off. She is getting on my nerves recently and I don't know how to deal with it. One minute I'm her BFF and then the next I'm on her rival list

    Emotions can run high during your teen years and it is not unusual for girls to have fall outs. But reassure this girl that whilst she is not one of your closest friends, she is still a friend and as such you really should both be making an effort to get along.

  • Hi tis hollyπŸŽ€ AGAIN
    Today when I got to school one of my classmates was walking past me so I said hi ( like you would do ) and she rolled her eyes and flicked her hari. Then she rolled her eyes two more times when ever I said something. A while later she demanded why I wasn't one of her bffs - it said who my bffs are on my desk cover thing. And like me and her both know we aren't the best of friends. PART ONE

    Hi Holly, see my response in Part Two.

  • I hope this isn't to personal but.....
    Are you a christian?
    Thx hollyπŸŽ€

    Hi Holly, I have been christened yes.

  • Hi Vikki!
    So I just started my period about a month ago. I only had it for one day and it was light brown. My mom said it was my period but I'm not sure. I haven't had it again since. I really hope it was my period but I feel kinda bad if it isn't because I told all my friends and family. I don't know and i feel kinda left out know. Please answer I'm desperate and I'm too scared to ask anyone else.

    Please try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for brown discharge to present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • What age should girls loose there virginity? What age should girls have there first kiss and start dating? What does it mean when a boy sends flowers to you on your birthday? Can you have sex with a condom at the age of 14?

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  I think a girl should start dating when she is mature enough.  A boy will usually send a girl flowers if he likes her.

  • I'm attracted to both girls, my best friend especially, and boys, kinda ish! But that's a completely different story. There's this boy in my form, he is so hot, he keeps on looking at me. Does this mean he likes me? This website is so helpful thanks! Also, can u plz post a pic of what discharge in white underwear is supposed to look like? Thnx so much Viki!
    Plz answer BOTH ASAP!! Thanks! Discharge and the boy one!
    Love, Kelly xxx

    Hi Kelly, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are gettng ready for when our period arrives.   As this boy keeps looking at you, I would guess that he likes you so for more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I have this crush at school who I thought he had feelings for me also but here's the twist. He has a crush on my best friend who is supper flirty and already has a bf! I told her i liked him one day and hours later that day she came rubbing it in my face smiling and blushing that he told her he likes her. I really like him and the way he talks to me is super attractive! What do I do!?

    Continue being good friends as very often romance blossoms out of friendship and try not to let your BF's comments concern you; no boy is worth breaking up with a friend.

  • Em, hi vicki. I'm really scared because I have a fleshy lump on my vagina that bleeds and I also have other ones but they don't bleed and are not fleshy. I really don't know how to tell my mum. Please tell me what's wrong with me?

    Try not to worry and ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have physical education four days a week and my mum point-blank refuses all my requests for tampons, as her sister ( my aunt) got a vaginal infection from them. I have told her about lil lets teens tampons but still she says no. There are no opportunities to visit the loo directly after p e and when I look at my pad at the next opportunity two hours later I have leaked a lot and have only just caught the problem in time. Is there nothing I can do or do you have any advice?
    Love piper

    Hi Piper, you really have to respect your mum's wishes but consider trying Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi I am 14 and I have had this white discharge for about a year on a daily basis it dosent smelll really bad or anything but is it supposed to happen for this long and I haven't had my period yet shouldnt I have had it by now

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.  As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki!
    So I wear a 30AA/A depending on the bra, but I only have like the soft non-padded bras. I would really like a lightly padded bra to stop my nipples showing through. But my mum doesn't want me to get them. I haven't actually asked her, but when I was getting some new bras she was looking for some plain white ones for school, and looked at the padded ones and said "no you don't want those they're padded."
    What should I do??
    Thank you so much πŸ’•

    Try not to feel embarrassed talking to your mum and remember that she was a young girl once.  Why not explain your reasons for wanting to wear a bra with slight padding and she might understand a little better.

  • Ok so I've been having discharge for a year and I havn't got my period yet and I know that discharge is a a sign that my period is close is a year close or am I having problems down there?

    Try not to worry as I'm sure that because you've been releasing discharge for so long, your period isn't too far away.

  • Vicki Im really scared that Im attracted to omen and girls! I just look at them and imagine having sex with them. Also I dont so fancy boys that much...theyre gros! I dont wanna be a lesbian! Even in today in assembly in school I sat at the front and there was some lady teachers there and I was just looking at them boobs and legs !! I just feel really discusting and gros sometimes! I just like girls we're so interesting! Oh..whyyy..??
    Im only 12! I dont like willies! Sorry if inappropriate!

    Puberty is a time when sex hormones run riot causing teens to feel attracted to the same and opposite sex so try not to rush into putting a label on your sexuality and see how you feel when you're older.

  • My period flow is really heavy and often stains my pants, any tips?
    thanks, Tris xxxx

    Hi Tris, you need to look at your sanitary protection.  If you're using towels, be sure to change them every 3-4 hours and you might find that Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night will provide you with better protection as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  If you wear tampons, try using a higher absorbency.  Here at Lil-Lets, we offer tampons ranging in absorbency from Lite all the way up to Ultra.  On your heaviest days, you might like to consider using a tampon and a pant liner too for extra protection.

  • Hi, Vicki!
    i am on my 2/3rd period and have a really heavy flow. I am using pads, but they often leak onto my pants because there's so much. Also, (sorry if this sounds stupid), the blood sometimes runs down my bum when i sit down and my pants get stained. What should i do? Tizzy xxx

    Hi Tizzy, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  Be sure to change your towel every 3-4 hours for best results too.  

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm really worried about my best friend. She is depressed and selfharms. She always says she's okay but I know she isn't. I don't know how to help her. Her mum knows but I don't think she knows everything. My friend is also not eating properly and she is very insecure. She cuts regularly but only tells me afterwards. I've asked her to call/text me before she does it so I can try and talk her out of it but she won't.
    What is the best thing to do?
    Thanks πŸ’•

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  It is normal for them to develop a poor self-image and to have an irrational fear of gaining weight but none of this is her fault so please ask your friend to seek the professional help she needs by either talking to her mum or by calling Mindline on 0300 1233393

  • Could you interview...Superwoman! In one of your videos! Her real name is Lily. She doesent live in the UK is that okay??? I love her shes the best!...after you, of course. Do you know her?
    Thanksssoomuch
    supergirl!

    I will pass her name onto the team to add to the list.

  • I don't seem to have a pubic mound! Should I?

    Try not to worry and allow yourself some time to fully develop but remember that we're all different and are made in different shapes and sizes.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System Inside & Out.

  • I always have a dry vagina! Discharge is sticky and crusts instantly in my underwear. I wash every day. I use Radox shower gel, could this be the reason? Can dry vagina be a sign I am allergic to something? And I can't use tampons because of this as even during periods it seems dry, and the blood seems to dry instantly.....like not completely dry but sticky rather than runny? Any advice?

    Try to remember that the vagina is self-cleaning so there really is no need for you to be using shower gels to clean down there.   Have a chat with your mum or guardian to see if they think you should visit your GP.

  • do you think Topshop is too expensive or am I alone

    I do think Topshop's prices are a little expensive  but they do have some fabulous clothes which are

  • Hi Vicki
    It's me Millie again thank you for the advice I have another question I just started my period and my next one would be my third how long should I roughly be on my period or have had my period till it is ok to start wearing tampons I feel comfortable to start using them I would just like a little advice thanks

    Millie sorry for any confusion please answer ASAP

    Hi Milllie, we usually recommend that you experience at least 5 or 6 periods before you try using tampons as this will allow you some time to get used to your flow.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for firs-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki so one of my best guy friends and I have been really close since we were 5 and for about a year now iv kind of liked him well actually I kind of think iv fallen in love with him and we have talked about getting together but never decided on anything as he doesn't want to ruin are friendship but I keep thinking if we were to get together it would be great and it would work I was just wondering what your opinion is on this thanks Mia w xxx

    Hi Mia, you could always see how it goes but it would be a shame to ruin your friendship if things don't work out between you.

  • so, me and my best frid are friends with this boy, and we both liked him, the thing is she is now going out with him, i know she feels bad because she knows i like him, and i told her i was fine with it, but i'm really upset and can;t get over him

    I know it's not much comfort to you at the moment but you will begin to feel better with time and please don't forget how easily teens fall in and out of love and develop crushes which often fade.  Try keeping busy, talk about your feelings and you will soon forget about him.

  • Hi Vicki
    How do cramps feel like as i got my period today

    Period pain can be experienced in your lower abdomen, lower back and in the top of your legs and the pain can be different for everyone.  Some describe it as a dull ache whilst others might have more acute period pain but then again, some experience no pain at all.  Congratulations on starting your period.

  • Hey Vicki ❀️ I've none this boy since yr 5 and an liked him up to today (and I still like him ) were in year 8 now and we talk but i don't know how to ask him out 😭 btw I love your website it's awesome

    Thank you for your support.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • This is probably one of the most irrelevant posts you'll ever get... But do you know who George Formby is? Nobody I know does other than my mum, dad and my great grandma.
    Sorry for the complete randomness of this question.
    Dawn.
    ps. I love this site. It's really helpful and you answer with such nice words. 😊

    Hi Dawn, yes I do know who George Formby was and thank you for your support.

  • Hey vicki,
    1.what is a orgasm ? 2.My boobs budded 2 years ago and now developing,my right one is more developed should i start wearing bras and crop tops now ?


    Ellie 😏

    An orgasm describes the peak in sexual pleasure and it is perfectly normal to notice more development in one breast than the other but they will eventually even up.  The choice to start wearing a bra is entirely yours so you might like to consider starting with a training bra.

  • Vicki!!!! Please answer ASAP! So, this guy who I am so close to and used to be in a relationship with, started texting to a really popular girl at my new school, he then invited her to a party (when he'd never met her) at his house, is that weird if you invite someone over when you've never met them???!! Also, I really didn't want them meeting incase they snogged when they were drunk, but I wasn't invited to his party even though I'm the link between them! Is that weird too???!

    Love kim

    Hi Kim, I do get the impression that this boy has moved on from you and is now pursuing this popular girl at your school.  Please try to move on and forget about him.

  • How do you sleep if you have your period?
    Like do you sleep in the side or what.

    You sleep in exactly the same way as you did before you started your period.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and they shouldn't mean that you have to change the way you do things in life at all so try not to worry.

  • Hi I am dyslexic and love your site but find it hard to read! πŸ˜₯ would you be able to have an option of a font that is easier for dyslexic people to read? I know many people would benefit fro. This and the site could get more popular ( many ppl I know stopped going on the site as they could not read it properly!)
    Thanks xxx

    Thanks for your question.  I will pass it on to the team.

  • 1. Is it only classed as masturbating of you reach orgasm point?
    2. I masturbate about 3 times a day for the past 5 months to the point where I have an orgasm, is there any health issues with this?

    Masturbation is an instinctive, natural thing to do but it is good to keep in mind the things that mean the most to us in life such as family, friends and school.

  • hi Vicki are applicator tampons good to use in water as I am going on holiday and theres lots of water slides and will be wearing shorts and bikini and also will my tampon applicator leak and come out when in water?

    An applicator tampon only describes the method you use to insert a tampon - the applicator is not inserted into the vagina.  For more help with this, please check out the video on How to use and applicator tampon.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.  Lil-Lets teens regular tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hey Vicks
    I'm DYING!!😫(not literately)I know all about discharge and period stuff and PMS but about 10 mins ago was going in the shower and I gave my self a wedge (not on purpous) but when I took my pants off there was this big brownish kinda mark on the vagina bit of my pants and (I know this is the grossest thing ever I WAS FREAKING OUT!) I smelled it and it smelled like discharge, I have HAD discharge for a year and a bit BUT THIS CAN'T HAPPEN IM ON A TOAD TRIP tommorow
    Thanx miss_sunshineβ˜€

    As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, it is quite possible that the brown discharge you noticed was your first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • hi vicki im 10 and getting suicidal thaughts

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel down at times.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so please talk about your feelings to your family and friends and try doing things that will make you feel happier like danicng to your favourite music or waching some funny films.  You should find that participating in and activity like sport, drama or music will help you to feel better too.  You can also call Childline on 0800 1111 for confidential help and support too.

  • Hi Hi Vicki! I have a few questions for you and here they are.
    1) I have been recently been getting,when I wipe my bum,a little spot or two of blood,this is starting to become more regular,is this called "spotting"?
    2) I do not get discharge but I have been going through puberty for just over 3 years now.I have been getting a lot of back and stomach cramps lately especially this past week.From all these factors could I be about to get my period?Reply ASAP please
    Abigail xxxxxxx

    Hi Abigail, the fact that you have noticed menstrual blood and have experienced stomach and back cramps are signs that this is your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • How long does it usualy take for your periods to stop being irregular?

    Periods can be irregular for up to 2 years.

  • so a month ago this boy on a Facebook page posted his snapchat name and I added him.We've been talking ever since and he's so nice and we both really like each other!Callum makes me so happy:)we Skype and FaceTime all the time so he's clearly real! He only lives at the other side of my town but he isn't at my school bt I know the school he goes to.We've arranged to meet in the holidays at ashopping centre which is public! I'm not scared because I trust him! Is this ok? I just want things to work:) Lucy xx

    Hi Lucy, please talk to your parents or guardians about this.

  • I really should start wearing a bra but there really uncomfy so I don't where them
    But my brests are developing really quick so really I should !!!!

    Why not consider starting with a trainer bra which are soft and uinstructured and will enable you to get used to wearing a bra.

  • Hi Vicki
    its nearing christmas so that means our school starts dance lessons. Partner dance lessons. I have never had a boyfriend or any friends who are boys. How do i get over the awkwardness of asking a boy to dance and dancing with a boy??
    Thank! Love Ellie xxxx

    Hi Ellie, try to relax, be yourself and remember that they're only boys.  Have fun and enjoy.

  • hi vicky my boobs are a size 34b and im only 11 is that normal xx

    This is perfectly normal for you yes.

  • hi vicky i am only just 11 and my boobs are already a size 34b they are masive compared with my friends how could i tone them downxx

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to others.  You should notice that your friends will be catching you up with development pretty soon so try not to worry.

  • Hi
    Today i went to the toilet and i saw some blood in my pants but when i went for a loo there was no blood could this be my period as i dont want to tell my mum if its not? Please answer asap xxx

    It is likely that this is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • When do you start your period

    It is normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 12 years old and i've had my first period from august and then it stopped for a month and there was white discharge for about a week and then today i checked there was a few drops of blood, is my period back?

    This is probably your period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • i am on my period every 3 weeks and am quite heavy what period pads should i use for when im at school

    A menstrual cycle can last between 21-34 days so try not to worry.  As your period is quite heavy, you might like to try Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • hi vicci
    im 13 almost 14 ive had my period once over a month ago and havent had it since and ive always had white discharge but yesterday i came to go to the toliet and there was a proper brown colour in my pants and im really worried please awnser i dont know whats wrong me its still brown now thank you im freaking out ;(

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period.  Be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Any tips on how to become more organised and stay organised? thanks x

    I always find that writing a list helps to keep me organised so give it a go and see how you get on.  It is also improtant that you get a good night's sleep and feel ready to tackle the day by being focused on what you're doing.

  • Hi viki I fell so down and low lately and I don't know why I keep getting frustrated over small things and everything annoys me I also find it hard to stay concentrated inn school and it's starting to show in my grades I do lots of clubs I love and I enjoy them when I'm there but I constantly feel like I'm about to cry what Iis wrong with me? Thanks x

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time in a young person's life as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel down at times so try to remember that none of this is your fault.  Try talking to your friends and family about how you're feeling as this will help you.

  • Hi viki so Recently everything annoys me, I get frustrated so easily and I can't stay focused at school or stay organised I do quite a lot of clubs which I love put I don't know why I feel so down and lol and really can't bear the thought of getting up and going to school I jsit want to curl in a ball and cry please help me thanks x

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the emotional and physical changes that are occurring all at once so none of these feelings are your fault.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Is it possible to become pregnant even if you use a condom and the condom doesn't break?

    Condoms are really effective methods of contraception but I believe that the pill is still considered a more reliable method.

  • HI vicki it's not a question about growing up but please answer it :) <3
    Do you like One Direction ??

    Yes I really do.

  • Hi Vicki, I am unsure of my bra size, I am 13 years old and currently wear a size 34b or 32c but the band is too big. My underbust is 26inches and my bust 32 or 34 leaning over. Using the method from thin and curvy I am 26FF but I feel smaller than most girls. My dad's side are DD or E's but my mums are b's. However, my mum had her period at 16 but I had mine at 11/12. Will I take after my dad's side? my shoulders are similar to my mum's but I have shapelier legs etc. Thanks xxxxx 😘

    Your bra size is a 30B but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki, I suffer with anxiety and recently I have been getting really upset because I have a bad fear of dying do you have any advice for all this to stop, it's like all the time I am alone and in a quiet spot I'm always thinking about losing my family and what it's like to not be in the world and what will happen when I die
    Sorry if this is inappropriate
    Sophie xx

    Hi Sophie, your fears are not uncommon amongst teens so please try not to worry.  As young people go through puberty, they begin to question their mortality and it's a good time to remind yourself of all the things you have - a loving family, friends, a safe place to sleep and food to eat.   Try not to let your worries get the better of you and as none of us really know what might happen to us in life, try to keep any negative thoughts to the back of your mind and concentrate on living a fulfilled, happy life.  You might also want to consider talking to your parents as they will be able to reassure you.  You could also start learning some relaxation techniques and might want to consider learning some yoga.

  • I'm thirteen now and get discharge. I haven't gotten my period yet but the discharge is getting heavy. Is this a sign or am I just paranoid?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you have been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki!!
    One question...
    Does your period stick to your pubic hair like discharge does? If so it would be so annoying...? Btw I haven't gotten my period yet!

    It is possible for mentrual blood to dry out and stick to your pubic hair so when the time arises, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I want to try underwired bras but I heard that's they can stop your breasts from growing. Is this true? I am 13 and a 32B, is that too smal to wear one?

    There is no truth in this.  Underwired bras are perfectly safe to wear so why not try one and see how it feels.

  • Hi vicki
    I hate my school. Everyone in my year is so nasty and too busy trying to be "cool" and "popular" to bother being nice to any one. I only have a few friends but even they can turn nasty sometimes. I try to ignore it but I feel so left out. I told my mum and she said that in a few years time everyone will relise that there are more important thing than being "popular" but I don't want to wait a few years untill this happens cause I hate it! Can you help?

    I wonder if there is a mentor or trusted teacher you can talk to at school - you could suggest that your school does an assembly on the whole question that you raise.  I agree with you in saying that it's easy for people to get caught up in wanting to fit in and be 'popular' when they should take the time to be nice to others as it can make all the difference to someone's life.

  • Hi vicki😍
    I'm wondering what bra size I amπŸ’
    I wear a 28/30 AA ❀️
    27under and 29 over😍

    THANKSS😍😍

    Your bra size is 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until your find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki
    I really love this website.
    Do you have any tips on getting rid of nits? My friend has them really bad.

    Loppy :.:....:.:.:.

    Hi Loppy, a really cheap and effective treatment is to completely saturate your hair in a thick, cheap hair conditioner and then use a nit comb to repeatedly comb through the hair, removing the nits as you go along.  The nits will be unable to attach to the hair strand with the conditioner on it.  It is a good idea to do this consecutively for a few days until the hair is completely nit and lice free.

  • But now they're really noticeable and all of my friends were looking because I used to wear crop tops and now all of a sudden it looks like I have real boobs!!! The 8 aa is too small and the 10 aa is comfortable but it shapes my boobs to make them look like real boobs and about a centimetre bigger than my actual boobs.
    Is this bad or normal?

    If you feel comfortable wearing the 10AA bra, then that is your choice and it shouldn't really matter what anyone else thinks.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm almost 13 and a few days ago I went bra shopping with my mum. I tried on an 8 aa (New Zealand size), but it was too tight, so I tried on a 10 aa and it was comfortable. It makes my boobs look quite a lot bigger, like a centimetre bigger and a rounder shape (I used to wear crop tops, so my boobs were pointy looking and not that noticeable through my shirts, I have quite small boobs) - PART 1

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have Γ₯ boyfriend who iz my age(14)...i sometimes think he doesn't love me because i asked him to come to my 7th Grade car wash n Entruepreneurs dae...but he said he can't because he is going ice-skating....Thn i asked him just for 5 minutes...Then he said his parents won't allow him...But took it all out on him now i think he wants us to brake up
    Love Samoan
    Thnx Vicki
    :(

    Hi Samoan, I think your boyfriend seems a little disinterested and enjoys doing his own thing more so I think I would seriously think about moving on and forgetting about him.  Why not concentrate on having fun with your friends as relationships at a young age seem to cause trouble.

  • Hey,
    I'm 12 and in middle school. For fitness we have to get changed in the toilets with everyone watching. I get really self conscious because my friends always tell me how skinny I am and I get annoyed because it's their fault they are larger than the average person and they should stop complaining about what size I am.Once some one even tryed to convince me I was anorexic!!!!!! What should I do !?
    HollyπŸŽ€

    Hi Holly, all that matters is that you know you're not anorexic, so try to ignore these immature comments. 

  • Hello,
    At my school camp our girls in our class had to share a cabin together. There was one girl ( b ) who has the body of an 7 yr old ( I'm not being mean she said it herself ) and another girl who is like really mean (c). One day when we were getting changed b complained about her body ( cause most girls wear bras) and c was like " you should see holly ( myself ) and I mean I'm not the most developed person there is but it still kinda stung. Any advice on what to say or do ?
    Thanks holly πŸŽ€

    Hi Holly, try not to let this comment bother you as let's face it we're all different and have bodies that develop at different rates to others and it will only be a matter of time before your peers will be catching up with your breast development anyway and just think, some might end up with larger breasts than you so there really is no point in worrying about this.

  • Hello, I am 12 getting 13 in a week and I think I am developing okay. My breats are growing and I also have lots of discharge, sometimes I almost feel that it is my period. I am worried becuase I haven't got my period yet and all of my friends do, even though they don't seem to be developing... Should I worry???

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and as you're alredy releasing discharge, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I had my period and never had white discharge and this month I didn't had my period what I only had was white discharge.
    Will I have my period this month?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal to release discharge throughout your mentrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki I'm a guy yes but I'm 16 and this girl I used to have feelings for has started to tlk to me and said she used to have feelings for me back then and she has a bf but hese a control freak and she has a kid but I think I'm falling for her again help me

    Why not continue chatting to this girl as a friend and see how things go, you never know she may need your support if she finds her relationship with her boyfriend is being challenged.

  • Hi Vicki! My best guy friend just told my crush that I have a crush on him and he comes up to me saying do you have a crush o me?
    And I'm like no and i kept on telling him fake things.
    So... I really need your advice please help me. Thx
    xoxox
    - Meghan

    Hi Meghan, it's a bit mean of your friend to put you on the spot like that but if you really like this other boy, why not be honest and admit it.  You might like to get to know him a little better as a friend before you decide that you like him or not.

  • My mum and I went shopping for bras I tried on a 32a and it was to tight so I tried 34 C and it fit perfectly but I have like teeny boobs. when I measured it said 30a so i'm not sure.. Please help me

    It is fair to say that the size and style of bra varies tremendously from shop to shop which is why we always recommend that you try a bra on before you buy it.

  • Hi vicki
    please answer ASAP!
    today was my 6th period and i am in agony i have tried everything!!
    also while i was on the toilet there was loads of blood in my wee how come im really worried?
    love beth

    Hi Beth, we recommend that you try taking some gentle exercise, use a hot water bottle or have a soak in the bath to soothe your stomach cramps.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • my nipples are cracked and sore to touch. it also hurts when i take off my bra. most pople say it feels nice but its heavy and awkward...

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty caused by the increase in hormones and when this fluid dries and breaks off, it can cause nipples to become cracked and sore.  Ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.  It is normal for your breasts to feel tender with development.

  • Hi, so all of my friends love Zoella. You know she has anxiety? Well they copy her and pretend to have panic attacks, when I know they're putting it on. As I know it's an actual illness I want to say something without causing an argument. Thanks!

    Why not have a chat to your teacher about your concerns and she may be able to have a private word with them, or ask the school nurse to chat to them also.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I THINK I have a crush on 3 boys in my class... :/ help?

    I'm 13 btw

    Thank you,
    BlueBonBon98

    Hi BlueBonBon98, it is perfectly normal for teens to develop a crush on someone due to the increase in activity of hormones during puberty.  The thing is that crushes often fade with time so why not try to get to know these boys a little better as friends to decide if you really do like them and they like you.

  • Hiya,
    I'm 14 years old and I had my first period about 3 months ago and it lasted about a week but the last two months there has been nothing! Is this normal? I started late as well, I am quite concerned. Thankyou x

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi vikki,
    Im 13 and have been having discharge for over 1 year and my boobs are only a size A and all my friends have started there periods, is it normal to have discharge for this long?

    Try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  As you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away and it is also normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.

  • Me and my boyfriend have done sexual things such as fingering but we haven't had sex. I am under 16, is this legal?
    Thank you

    Ps i would really like to know as I am very worried. I hope this isn't inappropriate.

    The Law of Consent states that it against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • To Vicki,
    Do you have an e-mail address I could ask you questions to? Because it is quicker and easier and you dont have to remember codes.
    Kind regards,
    The 11 year old girl,
    From England,
    Called Lauren.

    Hi England, the codes are used to make things easier for you so please submit your questions to Ask Vicki.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I am Lauren and I am 11. A couple of questions:
    β€’ I have a plastic tape measure that sort off crumples so it wont give me an accurate result. Should I keep this one or get a material one.
    β€’The result I did get was under 66 and above 68. What bra size am I and if you give me the link to the guide and I will be happy to work it out myself if preffered.
    Thanks.

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Tonight everything got too much for me to handle I cried for an hour straight and my life just feels like it's going no where . I'm only 13 but I feel like I'm a failure. The boy I really likes ignoring me my friends are getting into arguments and my best fried moved hours away how do I cope with it all

    Try to remember that puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) leaving them susceptible to stress.  So please understand that feeling like this is not your fault.  Try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film or simply hanging out with your friends and family and telling them how you feel.  Chances are that some of your friends will be experiencing similar feelings too.  Even though your best friend has moved away, you can still Skype or text and for some help with the boy you like, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Vicki on the page that tells you your bra size there is no chart for me to look at.
    Thanks
    Golden-lily

    Hi Golden-Lily, if you would like to get hold of a measuring tape, wrap it all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same but only this time, do it over your bust at the fullest point.  record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate your bra size for you.

  • When is this website next doing another survey? Thanksβ™»β™»β™»β™»β™»β™»β™»β™»

    There is nothing planned just yet but I'm sure we will have more in the future.

  • Hi viki,
    I get really bad period cramps before bed and there very painful which makes it difficult for me to sleep. Have you got any advice for that other than take pain killers because I've done that and it didn't work on me.
    Thanks x

    You could try having a soak in the bath before sleep and using a hot water bottle to help soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is still too bad and painkillers aren't helping, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hello, so i am 14 and have had several periods, but over the past couple of months usually in the early morning i get woken up by this really sore belly pain like just above my 'pubic line' and I go for a wee and not much comes out, but then the tummy pain goes ? I'm so confused why is this? And I know this isnt my periods as they are a different pain, thank you🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐🎐

    It sounds as if the discomfort is coming from your bladder as the pain goes once you've urinated.  Mention this to your mum or guardian to see what she thinks and if it persists, a trip to your GP would give you peace of mind.

  • I'm Crushing On A Boy And Don't Know If He Likes Me

    During puberty, boys and girls can easily form attraction to others due to the increase in activity of hormones.  For some help on finding out if this boy likes you too, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I got really bad stomach cramps the night before last about 4 in the morning, and for the past few days I've had a normal amount of discharge for me, but it's brown? I've had discharge for longer than I remember, but never brown. My mum thinks I might start my first period soon, is she right? I'm 13 btw.
    Thanks Vicki :)

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so your mum is right.  Be sure to ask her for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • This might seem rude but I don't know to professional term but how do you know if you've 'popped your cherry in your vagina' does it like make a difference to the way your front bottom looks like sorry if it's rude i just wanna know x

    This slang term implies that someone has lost their virginity and this does not make any difference to the appearance of your vagina.

  • Hi Viki,
    I am 12 and I have had discharge for nearly four years, and still no period. I've had every sign that it coming but yeah.
    And also, I looked between my legs and I can't see a vagina hole. There is a middle hole (which is were my discharge is coming from) but there is a white thing inside so i wont be able to put a tampon in I am really worried that its not normal. Sorry for to many details!
    ThanksπŸŽ€

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.  It can easily be stretched back without a girl's knowledge, by participating in sport, riding a bike or occasionally by using a tampon.  For more information, check out my blog on Getting to know your Reproductive System Inside & Out.

  • Hi I am 13 years old and I am due my period next Monday but I am going abroad on holiday where there will be lots of swimming pools and slides ...what to do ?x

    As there really is no alternaticive to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that tampons provide to millions of women all over the world.  Try not to worry and give them a try.  Have a great holiday.

  • This is not a question but i just wanted to say THANK YOU!You have been very helpful:)

    Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, thank you so much for your kind words.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am a very out going fun flirty person, and I like a boy in my year but I don't know if he likes me back, my friends have all offered to ask him out for me but I've said no. Mainly, because he is desperate and if he does say yes I not know whether it is going to be because he's desperate or he likes me back but I don't want to go around asking a lot of wiered random questions.
    Please answer ASAP

    Thanks millie❀️

    Why not get to know this boy better as a friend first to see if you actually like him enough to be his girlfriend.

  • Vicki thank u 4 answering ma last question I just got 1 thing 2 ask I have been having a crush on this guy 4 a very long tym and he has been doing that 2 da only problem is dat he is taken . I have neva dated before when is the ryt tym 2 start dating as I am not allowed 2 do so in my religion but I want it so BADLY PLZ HELP AGAIN I luv u vicki. Sunshine 552

    Hi Sunshine552, as this boy already has a girlfriend, you should really try to move on and forget about him.  Please talk to your parents/guradians about having a boyfriend in the future as they will want you to respect your religion.  However, there is nothing to stop you being friends with boys.

  • All my friends are growing boobs and things and I'm just staying the same should I be worried?πŸ˜”

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Why do women grow pubic hair under their arms .Ella and Hollie . Thanks x

    Hi Ellie and Hollie, it is believed that pubic hair's purpose is connected to the release of pheromones - a natural checmical secreted by the sweat glands. 

  • my nose gets really red whenever I wear my glasses and it forms a little dent in my nose and really don't like it. I feel like it is messing up my nose but i really really need glasses and i cant ever take them off or I am literally completely blind. what should i do? How to i prevent this bump/dent?

    This is a common problem for people who wear glasses but you could ask your mum or guardian to ask your optician if there is something smoother that won't cause as much of an indentation on your nose.

  • Hi, ive just got brown discharge and about two days ago, and now it has gone and is just white. is this normal? thanks

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy you some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Soo i like my best friend more then a friend but im scared to tell him . But i dont wanna ruin mine and his relationship we got now and im scared to tell him becausevi dont want to be rejected

    Try not to be afraid and tell your friend how you really feel but if he doesn't feel the same about you, try your best to not let it to affect your friendship.

  • Hi Vicki
    I had my 1 st period last month and about 29 days ago. Today I had cramps in my abdomen, sore breasts, very heavy discharge and my younger sisters said I was really cranky. Do you think my next period is coming?
    Any advice would be much appreciated :-)
    Love from Artemis ( age 12)

    Hi Artemis, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Your period should regulate in time.

  • Bra size please: on the top 79cm on the bottom 73cm

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I have a full fringe and i really want to push it back however i have loads of spots on my forehead and I want to get rid of my spots quickly so that I can push my fringe back. What should I do please please answer my question as soon as you can!!!

    Spots are a total pain that affect 90% of teens to some extent or other and a good way of keeping them in check is to stick to a good cleansing routine and try to stick to a healthy diet.  You might also find that medicated creams from the chemist will help but it's best to ask the advice of an assistant to see which are the best sellers and most effective.  Once you start pushing your fringe back, you might also find that the spots will clear up a little too.

  • Dear viki
    I took a test on the internet wether I have anxiety and it said yes hiw should I tell my mum and how should I explain I took the test

    Online testing is never accurate so please don't believe what it says.  Try to remember that puberty is naturally a time when teens are susceptible to stress due to the massive changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest, so try dancing to your favourite music, watching your favourite movies and most importantly of all, talking to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Hi viki,
    ive asked you before for a sample pack and you still haven't sent it to me. I asked for it months ago and nada plz get to me
    coliaa xx

    Hi Coliaa, if it really has been that long, please resubmit your request by following the Contact tab at the bottom of the home page.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I have just turned 14 and I am in year 9. I started having discharge at the start of year 7, and it's been quite heavy for about a year. I've also had really bad cramps for about 3 weeks and I'm getting worried... My mum and sister both started at age 12 but I still haven't! I know I'm a late developer in other aspects of puberty (eg only just got armpit hair) but this is getting strange now. Please help! Thank you :)

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is quite possible for girls to start their periods any time between the ages of 8-18 and as you've already been releasing discharge for quite some time, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • 66cm on nipples 60cm under.

    Thanks,
    Hetalia- Lover

    Hi Hetalia-Lover, your bra size is 28AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • My sister has a boyfriend called Will. Her name is Sarah. I think they are cute together but am jealous that she has a guy and I don't. I kinda jancy this guy called Jordan in year 8 the year above me, pls help? I ma in year 7. Jordan has a brother in the same year as Sarah she in year 9 so maybe he could ask Jordan whther he likes me?
    Love me xxx

    In puberty, it is normal for young girls to form an attraction to someone and this is called a crush.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi vicki, I recently asked a question about a boy, thank you for the reply but you said i need to forget about him. Have you got any tips on this? Thank you x

    You can try to forget about him by keeping busy doing things with your friends and family or by joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, sport or music.

  • hi vicki i noticed lots of girls are desparate to get their periods just cuz their friends got it all my friends have their periods every month and im just sitting there thanking my lucky stars that i dont have their cramps they say im lucky that im still innocent and the scarlet fountain hasnt come! ill get my period when i do and not before to all the other girls: JUST ENJOY LIFE!

    xxx fabby

    Hi Fabyy, thanks for sharing.

  • hi vicki
    this isnt exactly a question but i saw theres a lot of questions about being overweight. when i was 12 i weighed 126lbs (the weight an average 19 yr old would be) and now im 13 i have lost around 3 stone and am now a healthy weight i wanted to self harm because of the bullying i feel more confident and all it took was me adding up my calories and burning them off with exercise its easy if u beleive in yourself! :) keep trying and you will get there! love fabulama

    Hi Fabulama, thank you for sharing your experience with our girls but you know by sticking to a healthy diet and being as active as you can, young girls will naturally maintain a healthy weight.

  • For the past couple of days, my discharge has become really thin, I guess I could say it is like egg yolk... It's completly clear and doesnt have an smell. It's just really heavy and feels like I'm setting myself :/ is this anything to worry about and what could it mean? Thanks!

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrace to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and to tell us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki
    so for about 6 months I have had this weird feeling when sometimes I feel like I'm peeing but I'm not actually and when I look in my underwear it's clear. What is this?!?!??!?!
    Thank you

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Viki
    There is this boy I'm going out with but he is always face timing me but I decline because I dont know why I just don't wanna talk on icy but I'm scared he'll think I don't like him I don't know what to do please answer fast
    From laura

    Hi Laura, why not be honest with him and tell him that you don't like using Face Time but still like him.

  • hi vicki
    theres lots of groups and popularity levels in my school. im in the inbetween group with other people from different primary schools who dont know eachothers but are friends anyway. and i love it we have loads in common somehow this random boy is joining our badass inbetweeners group 4 of us are welcoming him cuz hes really funny, 2 of us are ok with it but one of my friends hates him and he hates her but the way they throw bits of blue tac at eachother is funny.
    luciee

    It would be nice if you could all try to be friends together, so to the friends who aren't too sure about this boy why not suggest that they give him a chance and get to know him a little better.

  • Hey Vicki, ive had discharge for 3 1/2years and everything else for nearly 3 and I still havent had it, im starting to get a bit worried. Im tall and skinny but im a 32b and everybody ik has it. Eventhough I got discharge first. And everybody says you will get it soon but they have been saying that for about 2 1/2 years. Ive been getting modier, spottierand ive been getting stomach cramps so please help
    ps: ik its not great but I wanna become a woman like my friends

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away so please try to be patient as periods are a natural occurrence for every girl.

  • Hiya vicki
    It's livy here
    I wanted to ask you whether my period pain is normal because when I have my period I always feel sick like for 3 days and I have to use a hot water bottle but it only helps for like 10 mins and then the pain continues again
    Is this normal coz i don't think it is thanks
    love livy xxxx

    Hi Livy, people experience period pain very differently and just like you some girls find they are a little nauseous. Try eating small meals or snacks throughout the day of your period to help reduce the feeling of sickness and you may find as you get older these feelings disappear ....they usually do.

  • hi
    im am currently 14 nearly 15 I have not started my period yet and I am around 7.2 stone I am also quite tall and skinny I am just writing because I am quite self contious at the moment because I have relly small boobs my bra size is 30a but I did the bra check thing and I didn't fit into a category I am quite broad but my boobs are just to small what can I do

    There really is nothing you need do, breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and all beautiful in their own way. So my advice is to learn to love the shape you are and remember too that as breasts continue to develop into a girls late teens or early twenties, your shape will most likely change.

  • Vicki,
    I've just turned 12 and am currently wearing a training bra size 30A. I measured myself again and I think I now measure 32B. I have been wearing the training bra for about a year. I only have one friend with bigger boobs than me, but I don't know if I'm "normal". What is the average bra size for a girl of my age? Am I bigger than average?

    Thanks,
    ~worried

    Firstly there is no average size for breast to be no matter what your age, we are all so very different you see. If you feel your breasts may not be fuller have a chat to your mum and ask if she can pop you to your local store to be measured for a new bra.

  • hi
    my pubic hair is thick black and really coarse it sometimes itches andis very embarrassing when I wear my swimming costume as they poke out I have tried shaving but this just made me even more uncomfortable I have also tried trimmimg and using conditioner but it always just grows back worse and more uncomfoertable do you have any tips?

    General grooming is an ongoing committment so just try to get into the habit of keeping your pubic hair trim so it doesn't protrude through your swimsuit.

  • Hi viki
    i had pink on my liner. What does that mean?!?
    Thank you
    ***************************
    #######################

    This was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy you some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm in year 9 and I checked my bmiand it said i am in the 46th percentile does this mean I'm fat. I'm 5'3 and I feel really tall and fat

    The only BMI calculation I would take notice of is one that is done by a Health Care Professional.  The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and by being as active as possible.

  • hi vicki
    i have sort of like a little gang of friends and we are all going through puberty
    but im going through it the mosy! we go swimming and my pubic hair goes through my cozy and my breast are massive and my nipples stick oout and i got my period on the 27th august and i havent had one since thankyouuux

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and we're all made in different shapes and sizes too.  You will notice that your friends will catch up with you very soon so try not to worry.  As for your pubic hair, you can simply trim it back and if you pick a bra with slight padding, your nipples will not protrude as much so you will feel less self-conscious.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki
    i just had a quick check of my area yesterday just to make sure everything looked okay! And when i looked i saw there was quite a bit of white stuff around my vagina opening! Ive had discharge before but it hought it was only surpossed to come out then go on to your pants or panty-liner! Why do i have this weird white stuff around that area?
    please answer urgently
    Lily xxx

    It is normal for discharge to stick to your pubic hair and when it dries out, it becomes hard.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • For how long can you wear liners? Can you stay with it the whole day or you have to chage it every 3-5 hours like pads?

    The choice is yours entirely as people tend to change them as and when they need to freshen-up.

  • Slowly I rebuilt myself up again and am now back to the old happy me don't take what your brother says to heart! He doesn't mean it boys and brothers are like that and remember he is a teenager it isn't just in girls that hormones are all over the place but honestly talk to your friends and ignore his little remarks it will get better Im sure xx part 2

    Again, thanks for sharing.

  • Hi so this isn't a question but more advice back to someone else's question she said her brother was really mean to her and said mean things to her calling her horrible things ane I completley understand what it's like! My brother isnthe exact he calls me some really horrible things and swears at me he tells me I ruin everything! I believed him! So I self harmed.... It wasn't just that but it was a main factor! part 1

    Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

  • Hi Vicki!

    is there a meaning behind the lil=lets logo? just wondering :)

    purplepanda

    Hi Purple Panda, our logo is made up of elements that symbolise goddess, earth and moon. For us here at Lil-Lets it is a sign of understanding how special it is to be a woman.

  • PART2
    He was using my mouse on the computer today and i took his hand off it but when i touched it i got butterflies. I always mess up his hair and he twists mine. I like him even more now. You say your brain picks up flirting automatically, is he flirting or am i over looking the situation.

    Bluebutterfly17

    (please dont send me to a blog)

    During puberty, it is normal for teens to form an attraction to someone and this is called a crush.  Crushes occur because hormones are running riot but the sad thing is that crushes often fade with time.  Why not get to know this boy a little better as a friend and you will soon be able to tell if you like each other or not.

  • Hey vicki
    So i told u about "E" a month or so ago, since then i think we've got closer. In I.T today he was bored and he did a baby voice and said my name, eg...Vickiiiii. We laugh loads and he pretends to bite me and annoys/teases me. PART 1 Bluebutterfly17

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki, Im just really confused. In one of the questions asked that can you put a period calculator and games on the this website. And then you said at the end, Watch this space. ???.
    W..what does that mean...I tried to figure it out for 5 mins but..no. I just do t get that..? Watch what? There was nothing to look at!
    ...watch this space.. mmm....

    It's just an expression which means to keep your eyes peeled as we might be having some news about this in the future.

  • Because I have really heavy discharge I wear panti liners and I have worn them for a year almost everyday but if i forget to
    Wear one now my discharge almost burns and irritates my vagina why?

    I wonder if your skin is sensitive to the soap that your clothes are being washed in?

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am so small for my age, I'm 12 and about 4 foot 10, and there's this guy I really like but he's really tall, and I feel like because I'm small, I won't ever be able to get a boyfriend. Please help, I mean, I've been rejected by boys in the past because I was too small, and it's really hurting my feelings that they aren't even willing to go out with me for my personalty.

    Try to remember that you're still only 12 and have yet to finish developing through puberty.  There really is no rush in getting a boyfriend so why not concentrate on having fun with your friends and family.  You might also like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy as this will help to give your self-confidence a boost.

  • HI Vicki,
    So it's not really puberty related but I've always struggled with really greasy hair and a very sensitive flaky scalp I'm also very head lice prone.Any advice?
    Thanks Millie

    Hi Millie, puberty is naturally a time for teens to experience greasier hair than usual so consider trying a shampoo that has been formulated especially for this hair type.  You could also try using a dry shampoo spray which has powder in it and might help to make your hair less greasy.  Other than this, you could always pop into a hair salon and ask a professional hairdresser what they would recommend you use.

  • I'm 16 and get discharge all the time iv started my period but at the moment my discharge has gone brown does that mean I've come on my period ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to buy some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am 14 and i really really want my period. All my friends have it and i feel like i dont fit in. ive grown really tall, and have gone through puberty etc. I have had discharge for at least 2 years (maybe more) but a few months ago it started to get really heavy. when will i get my period???

    lots of love from stephie xx

    Hi Stephie, as you've been releasing discharge for so long, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • there is this boy at school who I really like. He is popular and talks to nearly every girl in Year 8, except me, BTW I'm in that sort of nice girl group. (He's not a player.)But every now and then I catch him looking at me in class. I know you'll probably say to tell him I like him, but I don't have that much confidence around boys. I am naturally loud person but when I'm around boys all of My confidence goes away. I have liked him for over a year now, so I don't think it is just a simple crush...

    There is only way to find out if likes you too and that is by getting to know him a little better.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I came off the pill 2 months ago after being on it for 4 months. I had a light period when day after I stopped but I haven't had one since. Im so worried, is this normal?

    It is normal for it to take a while for your periods to become regular after taking the pill but as you are concerned, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am getting a lot of discharge on one day and barely any another day. Is that normal...?
    Also..
    Mum said she started her period at 13 and I haven't had my period and I am nearly 14! When will I get it...
    One more question...
    Is it normal to have itchy breasts... It doesn't always happen but I am late developed and my breasts are the slowest to develope.... Today they were SUPER ITCHY... IS that normal....

    Thanks!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and it is normal to notice itchy breasts with development.

  • Hi vicki

    I just wondered im a 36AA do i need to wear a bra?

    I wear crop tops just wondered

    Jasmine :.:.:.:.:

    Hi Jasmine, the choice is entirely yours so if you feel comfortable in crop tops, stick with them for a while. When you feel ready, you might like to try a trainer bra which is soft and is a good way of enabling you to get used to wearing a more structured bra in the future some time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 13 years old, turning 14 in one month and my breasts still haven't grown yet. Nor my nipples, I got my first period last year. Will my boobs never grow? I am very self conscious about my body, girls my age are developed already.

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and our bodies are made in different shapes and sizes.  It is possible to notice breast development up until your early 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Viki,
    So im thirteen and I started going through puberty when I was eleven and lately I've been feeling really quiet and kind of apathetic, I cant get my thoughts organized, I cant focus in school and its really affecting my grades and every time I come into contact with someone (like bumping into someone in the hallway at school) it justs makes my skin crawl. Theres nothing going on in my life that could cause this. Is this just something like hormones or mood swings? Is it normal? Thanks.

    Puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so try to remember that feeling like this is not your fault.  As for your concentration levels, try learning some relaxation techniques and try your best to be organised.  Talk to your parents and teachers at school about your feelings too so they might understand better.  You should also consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy would be a good place to start as it would enable you to get used to meeting new people.

  • Whats my bra size:
    70cm(under your bust)
    75-76ish(on your bust)
    Thank you xx

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hey Vicki... Umm, so I'm 14 soon, it's been over a year since I have gotten discharge in my underwear, a lot of dyes state that it should be at least a year before your period starts! I'm scared is there anything wrong with me? Please answer, the discharge has been getting stinky lately, and I am worried, I don't want to tell my parents because I don't want to worry them either. Please answer
    Sarah

    Hi Sarah, as you've been releasing discharge for a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • How do I survive school with my period!! I got it in the weekend and now I have to go to school !!!! Please help me ASAP
    Thank you so much
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    In time, you will be able to manage your period perfectly so try not to worry and take a look at my blog on Periods & School.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is sent you a question before but you didn't answer it. It wasn't inappropriate so I'm wondering if you can get questions form places other that the uk . Like Australia for instan
    Thanks ims 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

    Yes I answer questions from all over the world. Unless you question was inappropriate it would have been answered, so why not use your unique reference number to locate it.

  • Hey Vicki I'm kinda scared so my friend fosters dogs and we went to meet her new fosters and it's the last day of my period so I had a regular tampon in and we went for 2 hours and before I left I forgot to change it it was in for 10 hours but I went to take a shower so I changed into a pad for the night and the tampon was half full will I get TSS ???? Plz help love annieπŸ’•

    Hi Annie, please try not to worry as you would know if you had TSS by showing symptoms such as sickness, diarrhoea, flu, a sore throat or a rash that looks like sunburn.  If you have any of these, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey Vicki my period is 7 days and after it's super light so I just use liners but the thing is I don't know what to do about swimming lessons bc it's way to light to use the lightest tampon should I be fine or do I have so etching to worry about thanks bye love annieπŸ’•

    Hi Annie, as your period is so light, swim without a tampon.

  • Hello, I am 12 getting 13 in a month and my bra is 32A, i feel this is a really big size for me since all the girls at my school don't have any, I feel really bad sometimes because they seem really big to me. Is my size okay???

    Your bra size is perfectly normal for you so please try not to worry.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and you will find that your peers will be catching you up very soon.

  • I had my period for three months and this month I seen white stuff in my underwear and vagina am I having my period

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry as it might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.  The 'white stuff' you have noticed is discharge which is perfectly normal and it is possible to notice this throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hey Vicki. So I'm new on your website and I like it so far. It makes me realize that there are other girls out there that have the same problems as me. Anyways, I'm 13 and I feel like I'm fat but some people say I'm not. I really want to get skinnier. I know weight doesn't matter and you don't have to look perfect. But I kinda want to look skinnier. Is there something I can do to make me skinnier. I don't want to have to become anorexic.

    The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is by sticking to a diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drinking lots of water and by being as active as possible. 

  • Hey, so like I have a 32C/32D in some bras, but my breast are not full. I'm 13 and 5'10 (I have realized I'm really tall and I hate it). I got my period when I was 10 and my moms breast are 32C (but fuller obviously). Sorry if I'm giving to much information πŸ˜‚πŸ˜….. But my aunt is like a 34D or E but like I'm just wondering if by any chance you know how big my boobs will get? Like will they stay like this or Nahh?

    Just try to be patient and wait to see what size your breasts will be.

  • To Vicki

    I'm 12 years old and I haven't started my period yet but I get lots of dishcharge and it makes my pants feel really wet (almost like I've peed myself) and I'm too embarrassed to tell my mum and I don't know what to do. What should i do?

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and to let us know that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't really feel embarrassed talking to her about puberty.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well I moved up to Secondary School like 2/3 months ago and there is this boy but I don't even know what to say or how to start a conversation with him and I'm not trying to sound like "he's too dreammy blah blah" I just ACCTUALLY don't know what I would say or when or what topic or what ever! :( can u help me? What is the best time and thing to say to him and who is he with?
    Thanx a lot Vicki xx
    Miss_sunshineπŸ’–β˜€πŸŒΈπŸ’πŸΆπŸ‘«

    For some help with this, please check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi vikki ever since I first got my period 7 years ago and i would have it for 2-6weeks i have never once had a white vaginal discharge until 2 months ago then when i got my period it was just a drop of blood every hour or so for 3 days. About sometime during the middle i had more vaginal discharge that this time was a little thicker then about 2 weeks after i got my period but it only lasted a day and about 3 days after that i have the discharge again.

    This is all very normal and nothing for you to worry about, periods can often be light and only last a couple of days and discharge is often noticed in between periods.

  • What is the difference between a liner and a towel?

    A pant liner is thinner and smaller than a pad.

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 years old and my 13th birthday is in six months in April. I. Really scared and nervous about getting my period and don't know what to expect. I'm also a really shy person and I don't know how to tell my mum. I hope you can help! Love from savannah xxx

    Hi Savannah, try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to fear them.  Your mum will be able to support you through this special time in your life so try not to feel embarrassed about talking to her.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey vicki,
    Yesterday I got my first bras, originally it was for dancing because we have to wear white leotards but when mum was fitting me into them in the change room she relised that I have 'cupcakes' as she put it so we got 7 bras (im a 10AA). But the thing is mum and i are not exactly close, but she was crying and saying that her 'baby girl' is grown up. Im not sure why she was making a big deal out of it. Any idea? Much appreciated!!!

    The realisation that your daughter is growing up can be quite an emotional experience and I fully understand your mum's reaction so try not to be too hard on her. 

  • i no it was ages ago but, to the girl that fell asleep on her glasses, i wear ROXY glasses with plastic frames and iv fallen asleep on them 100ds of times and i toss and turn in my sleep like crazy, and there pritty tuff cos they are still in 1 pice and BTW dont be too hard on ur self cos every body dose it =)
    love dusty

    Hi Dusty, thank you for sharing.  I think that this is something that has happened to all of us at some point.

  • Hi Vicki again I had my period twice a year ago and since then I haven't had it but I have had discharge every single day In my pants sometimes heavy and sometimes not it always has crusty green stuff in it but I'm not itchy or sore down there and there's hardly a smell to it I'm so confused and acres please help ?xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow/green when it dries out.

  • Hi sorry if its inapropriate but can u give me some codes to questions amd ur answers as i wanna read some more thnx

    You don't need codes to read my responses to questions.  Just click on Recently Answered Questions.

  • Hi sorry if its inapropriate but how long does it take you to answer a question as ive asked u so many and i seem to get the answer really late and i love ur page thanks x

    Thank you for the support - I do answer questions every day.

  • Hiya x
    How long do cramps last for as ive had to but they didnt last to long and im not on my period and my mum only started her period at age 14 ( im nearly 13) thanks xx

    Everyone is different so it would be difficult to say.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Im 11 today my mum called me into to a private room and gave me the pack of becoming a teen and explained about the period but I think I panicked because I had kinda heard about it and knew and I've read the little booklet and I'm a little confused about which pack the tampons are in and which one the daily ones are in so I thought I'd ask you private questions also I was wonder if you pass a lot of gas during it because I'm having a lot of stomach aches and farting .Holly

    Hi Holly, you will be able to see what is what by looking.  The regular applicator tampons will be in a yellow wrapper and the non-applicator are in a clear wrapping.  The teens day towels are in the blue wrapping and the night towels in purple.  The Becoming a Teen booklet will help you to understand more things about puberty and if you should have any questions, please do come back to me.  It is normal for some girls to notice that they release more gas with their period too.

  • Hello x
    Well i looked in my bra cup and there was this yellow stuff, and today i put a clean bra on and by the night there was the yellow stuff again and it stool to my boob... what is it?x

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty and this is generally caused by either the increase in hormones or by wearing tight-fitting clothing.  Be sure to wash the area with warm soapy water  to remove any dried fluid and try to avoid picking it as this will make it sore.

  • Hey Vicki! Im the girl who broke her glasses. So we went to the optitions and I got to choose 2 new glases! I love them but..now I wanna change one of them. The lady there was distracting me! She was like, yeah you look cute on them take those! and then, do you like them, and all that! It was annoying! Why did my mum have to call her over! And then she was like, we havent got all day! And stuff like that! Then I was like OK Ill take this and this! When I got home I was angry. Gettin them on Friday anyway!

    I'm glad to hear that your new glasses are on the way but in future, try not to be pressurised into buying something you're not sure about.  You could always save the pair that you like least to wear at home and the nicer ones for when you're out.

  • Lately I have been feeling really down and bottling up all my emotions, I feel as if I'm depressed. Around my friends at school and around my family im okay I act normal but if someone says the slightest thing that could hurt my feelings it really gets to me and if I did something similar to what they called me for example "stupid" I would have that word running through my head. I cry on my own a lot to is here so,thing wrong with me

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's normal for them to feel susceptible to stress so please try looking at ways of giving your self-confidence a boost.  Joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.  Talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as chances are, many of your friends will be experiencing similar feelings too.

  • Hi Vicki! u helped me a lot b4, thx so much!
    I have another question...
    I go to a mixed secondary school and am quite upset cos a certain boy keeps asking me to send him nude pics. I WILL NOT DO THIS AND HAVE TOLD HIM SO. I ave told my mum but he wont stop.... I have blocked him on everything but every day he touches me sexually. I push him away but we do swimming & he squeezed my boobs! He calls me sexy and I hate it so much! HELP! Pls answer!!!!! Im sorry if inappropriate!

    Thanks,

    Desperate
    xxx

    Hi Desperate, this boy's behaviour is unacceptable and you should tell a teacher about it as a matter of urgency as he needs to be stopped.

  • Hey Vicki, cam you tell me my bra size plz?
    Under: 30 inches
    Fullest: 32 inches
    Thanx KT

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki at school I feel like someone gave me a choice be friends with a or be fre undos with everyone in your class now it's like everyone ignores me cause I'm best friends with a. I keep dreading school because I feel like it's another day to be ignored. One of my other friends said I should stop being best friends with a and see if people stop ignoring me. I don't know what to do cause I feel like I've lost all my friends apart from a couple. Please help me x

    I can only assume that your best friend isn't well liked in your class for some reason and you do risk upsetting her if you say you don't want to be best friends with her any longer.  I think you should try to find out what the root of the problem is and talk to your teacher or a mentor to see if they can help you find a way for you all to be friends together.

  • i noticed i had faint hair on my upper lip &people on utube always recomend waxing, so i tried waxing but everytime i waxed it ws red for @least 3 days & had red dots & always hurt. Recently, i waxed the middle of my two eyebrows &my upper lip &it ws
    red for 2days &then i noticed a group of white spots on the side of my lip &they hurt so much but i left them, thinking they were the usual spots! The next morning i woke up to a massive sore coldsore &everyone could see it &it was VERY painful &ugly. Y?!

    You might like to consider visiting a professional beautician to ask what she would recommend you should use. 

  • Hi vicki,
    Yesturday I shaved my pubic hair down below but I shaved it upwards which my friend told me is the wrong way. It's now really itchy and coming out with spots, I've put cream on it and I don't want to tell my mum what shall I do,
    Rachel xxx

    Hi Rachel, try not to worry as it should calm down after a couple of days.  In future, try to shave in the same direction as the hair growth and it should be okay.

  • Hi, there is this boy that i know and we always tease and flirt with each other. I love spending time with him and i really like him and i thought he liked me back but then he said he had a girlfriend and he showed me a picture and I've just been really upset about it. Thanks.

    I know it's painful but you really should try to move on and forget about him as he already has a girlfriend.

  • Hi vicki my pubic mound is quite big, noticable in leggings and tight tops I was wondering why this is it makes me quite conscious whenever I wear tight things. thanks.
    Cupcake

    Hi Cupcake, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about but as you are feeling a little self-conscious, try wearing loose fitting tops that cover your bottom.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm going shopping soon and think I need a new bra what is my size?: 66,74
    Thank you,
    Belle xxx

    Hi Belle, your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicky, so I've been feeling really depressed lately so I took an online medical deppression test and I was diagnosed by a legit docker with mild to serious cases of different depressions also. May have a mild case of anorexia. And I cannot tell my parents because they basically neglect me.

    Online testing is often inaccurate so please don't give the test you did too much importance but instead, try to keep in mind that puberty is naturally a time when teens are susceptible to stress due to all the psychological and emotional changes that are occurring all at once as serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest.  It is at this time when teens can also develop an irrational fear of gaining weight so please talk to your parents about how you're feeling and if they won't listen, talk to another trusted adult, whether it be someone in your family, a teacher at school or Childline on 0800 1111.  The sooner you ask for help, the sooner you will begin to feel better about things.

  • I have 2 questions:
    1: Is it alright to full-on shave pubic hair? Mine is really starting to annoy me because I feel very self concuss while swimming.
    2: How do I ask my mum to buy tampons because I haven`t started my period yet (I`m 12) but I don`t want to use towels but my mum has never used tampons.
    Thanks xxx

    You can choose to shave your pubic hair if you so wish or simply trim it back if you prefer - the choice is yours.  Lil-Lets now offer a teens Regular non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use which has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.  For some help with Talking to Mum & Dad, check out my blog link.

  • when's a safe time during your menstral cycle to have sex (with or without contraceptives)?

    There is no such thing as a definite safe time to have sex as women through the ages have always been caught out and become pregnant when they haven't wanted to.  When you are in a mutually respectful, loving relationship and are over the age of 16 (as the Law of Consent states) it would be advisable to do things the right way and use contraceptives before engaging in a physical relationship.

  • Part 2. Sometimes I get moods wings and my parents just just don't understand that I feel as though no one cares for me. Whenever I try to bringit up I just get screamed at for not appreciating anything and I get grounded for weeks. My parents act as though my brothers ar angels even though they are not. Also sometimes my dad beats me for small things. Also I think I may be depressed and I barely eat anything at all.

    As you have found that talking to your parents doesn't work, please write a letter explaining exactly how you feel.  Puberty is already a time when teens feel susceptible to stress due to all the emotional and psychological changes they're undergoing so please try writing a letter to get yourself heard and if things don't improve between you all, please call Childline on 0800 1111 for some confidential help and support.   

  • Hi Vicky! Okay, so I'm a middle child of two brothers and I feel as though I don't get any attention. My brothers they get all the attention and sometimes I just want a little attention. My parents seem too only care about them and not me. Because I don't get any attention I just stay in my room and then I get shouted at by my parents because I don't care about anything besides myself. Part 1

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki
    I got my period last night for first time I am 15. It wasn't that heavy but since this afternoon it hasn't came back again is this ok?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki! ☺
    My hair gets quite greasy quickly! I wash my hair in the shower with TRESemme luxurious moisture shampoo&conditioner every 2 days. But on the 2nd day it gets so greasy! What can you recommend for me to use or do?
    Thank you so much! Beth ☺

    Hi Beth, it is normal to notice that your hair is more greasy than before and this is all because of puberty.  You might like to try using a shampoo and conditioner that has been formulated especially for greasy hair.

  • I feel so low can you help?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physcial and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling.

  • It's my 15th birthday next month and I'm really stuck for ideas on what to do with my friends? I live in chichester, On the south coast so london/brighton/portsmouth/southampton are in easy reach, do you have any ideas? Elisha :) x

    Hi Elisha, how lucky are you to live in such a lovely part of the country and it seems as if you have so much choice as you're in easy reach of all these wonderful places.  I think you should discuss your options with your parents/guradians as finances will dictate what you will be able to afford to do.  The London Dungeons are an absolute scream but you should really discuss this first as you would have to travel there too.  Hope you have fun in whatever you do.

  • Hey Vicki, I read on the internet you need to be 7-8 stone to start your period is this true? Xxx

    No this is a myth.

  • What shampoo and conditioner would you recommend for someone with long dry/normal hair? Thanks from Georgia xx

    Hi Georgia, try using a shampoo that has been expecially formulated for dry hair and see how you get on.

  • Hi Vicki, money's really really tight at home at the moment as both my parents have been made redundant and are struggling to look for new jobs. We had to be evacuated from our last house because we couldn't keep up with the rent anyway I started my period last month and it was really heavy and the pads my mum buys are the cheapest in the store and not very absorbant so I keep ruining my pants :( I asked her to buy some more absorbant ones but my mum said that they're too expensive... What shall I do? Xx

    I'm so sorry to hear that your parents have lost their jobs and really hope that something turns up soon.  You might like to ask your mum if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample from us which might help a little and it's always a good idea to look out for when our pads are on offer.

  • Hi Vicky,
    Im a size 28a bra size but I don't know where to get those sizes from. Do you know where I could get them from.
    Thanks :)

    Marks & Spencer, La Senza, New Look or any department store will usually have a wide range of styles and sizes for you to try.

  • Hi vicki, one of my breast is hurting really bad and when i push down theres a seperate lump by my nipple and i know its not when my breast are sore and a sign of growing because i know how that feels and this is a different pain in only one breast im 12 and i have my period...Could this be the sign of breast cancerπŸ˜”help!

    Please try not to worry as the small raised lump that sits behind your nipple is a breast bud which comprises of muscle, tissue, fat and milk glands.  It is also normal to notice development in only one breast and to feel tenderness in that breast too.

  • When something says you need to drink more water, does it mean just water or can I be squash and other drinks?
    Laura 13

    Hi Laura, water on its own would be better for you as there are usually sugars in squash but it is still good to be well hydrated.

  • Hey
    How do you ask someone out?
    Char xx

    Hi Char, for more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I met this guy online(and i know he's real because he has facebook and we've talked on the phone) and we're good friends. I'm 10 and he's 12. I live in London and he lives in Doncaster. We really want to meet, but I told him that was nearly impossible. I sort of like him and I'm wondering if this is bad...
    Also, my discharge is heavy, and on two pairs of my knickers there is still a stain of discharge, even though my mum washed it in the washing machine... Is this normal?xxx

    Firstly, yes sometimes discharge can stain underwear and you may find pant liners are a great way of keeping this area clean and stain free. Secondly and most importantly, just because you speak to someone on Facebook does not necessarily mean they are who they say you are. And I urge you to make no plans to see this boy, share any pictures with this boy or get into any conversations of a sexual nature or that make you feel uncomfortable with this boy. My advice is to also speak to your parents and let them view this boy’s Facebook page.

  • Hey Vicky
    I'm 15 and had my first kiss today but I did not want a kiss for him and I feel really weird and a bit sick?? Thanks xxx

    If you didn't feel ready to kiss this boy, you should have stopped him.  Try to remember that you should never feel pressurised to do something, so always stay true to yourself - if this boy doesn't respect your wishes, move on and forget about him.

  • Hi Vicky. I am 13 years old and I have had brown discharge in my undies twice between a few months. I get discharge everyday and then suddenly it goes brown for 2-3 days. I get grumpy etc and I think it is my period. But it's still brown ! Can I use tampons when my period is brown ?

    Try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  It is still a period and you will be able to use tampons normally.

  • My period is 5 days late and it would be my 4 period I'm I going to miss it ?!

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Can you just give me some general advice on Periods and Puberty please Picky. Love from Alisha. W

    Hi Alisha, please take a look at all of my blogs that have been posted on the website as you should be able to find the answers to all of your questions.  If you have any specific questions, please come back to me on Ask Vicki.

  • It doesn't help that about 6 weeks ago i self harmed so and i don't know what to do my mum always apologize after having a real good Moan about my dad to me I really can't cope with it all I'm only 13 I feel like it's all my fault my parents are spliting up! Do you have any idea how I can make my mum feel better and cheer her up? Thanks x dolphin4

    Hi Dolphin4, please don't think that you're in any way to blame for your parents' splitting up.  This is a difficult time for you all as a family and I think the best way of working through it is by talking.  Please try to sit down with your mum and tell her how you feel.  Self-harming is evidence of how bad you've been feeling and you need to talk to someone about it - if not your mum then call Mindline on 0300 1233393 as they will be able to offer you confidential help and support.  However, talking to your mum would be better and might help her too.  Things will get better and always remember that your parents love you.

  • Hi Viki Imy parents are spliting up and my dad was meant to move out 7/8 weeks ago so its being prolonged and my mum is really getting frustrated and keeps taking it out in me and my older brother but mostly me because I'm more mature and listen to her without annoying her like my brother does .( part 1 dolphin4)

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki its
    How do u know that u are abou to start....ps I have started but
    I have had pains ...stabing pain down there and cramps and mooods
    And ya plz tell me if u can ..thx vikiβ™‘β™₯β™‘β™₯β™‘β™₯β™‘β™₯β™₯β™₯β™₯β™₯β™‘β™₯β™‘β™‘β™‘β™₯β™₯β™₯β™‘

    As you've already started your period, you should make a note of the first day of your last period and then count on how many days it is until your next as this will give you an idea of how long your menstrual cycle is going to be.  Some girls notice that they get stomach cramps, headaches, nausea etc.. or they might notice that their discharge becomes thicker.  Stomach cramps can be eased by doing some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or by having a soak in the bath.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • About a year ago I found a little bit of blood in my pants so I knew it was my period ,and then I had it once more but it was a bigger one this time ever since that second one I haven't had my period again I just get discharge in my pants everyday with a little bit or a lot of green stuff in it ,it also seems crusty ,I have developed hair down there and I have some spots on my face generally around my nose I have mood swings and feel vulnerably emotional ,what's going on ? btw I'm 12

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  All the symptoms you have noticed are a normal part of puberty so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki!
    (This isn't about periods/becoming a teen btw!)
    I think my maths teacher hates me, everyone in my class says it too!
    Like they talk about something irrelevent then I join in the conversation and it's me that gets yelled at!
    Im quite a slow person at solving things and she knows so but she still gives me a hard time!
    Now Im scared to even talk in maths class!
    How can I solve this?

    From Teenie! :) xoxo

    Hi Tweenie, if you think that you're being singled out, please ask your mum or guardian to call the teacher as this might be all that is needed to point this out to her.

  • I just feel like i get no pleasure out of anything and feel like sitting in the house all the time, never feel like going out really. I feel down a lot of the time. I don't even feel like going to see my boyfriend but I dont mind if he visits me. And talking to people never helps me. :( What should I do?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls and boys when they struggle to come to terms with all the emotional and physical changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watching your favourite movies and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Hi! Do you have to change your pad after 8 hours if it has not got much blood in it? Like just a tiny bit?
    thankssss

    As your period is so light, why not consider using pant liners instead as you can change them as often or as little as you like.

  • xxx I leaked a tiny bit onto my jeans because i couldn't change my pad. I wore the pad for about 6 hours and was lying in a weird position. I don't usually leak so is this a one off thing i shouldn't worry about because i usually change my pads about every 3-4 hours.

    Accidents do happen and as you said yourself, you wore your towel for longer than the 3-4 hours recommended.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 years old and I havent started my period. But I used to get lots of white stuff when I went to the toilet, but now I get lots of brown stuff and I'm really confused on what is happening to me. X

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey!!! There is this boy in my class- (I will call him Alex) and I have to sit next to him in maths. He starts making noises and vibrates on his chair. I know what he is doing and I told him to stop. But he didnt. What should I do coz it is so weird and I can't stop him.
    From
    Slug

    Hi Slug, if you find Alex's behaviour affects your concentration, talk to your teacher about it.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My first term at my secondary school is almost over and reports will be handed out. Even though I've always been a good girl in school, I'm worried I won't get good results. HELP!
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, please try not to worry as I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.  Try to remember that all you can ever do is your best.

  • Hi Vicki

    Is it true if you always have a full fringe means you have a big forehead? And is true people who have a full fringe are really lucky because some people can't ave full fringe because their forehead are oily?

    Thanks

    Not necessarily as some people might choose to have a full fringe simply because it suits them.

  • Hi there
    I was woundering where abouts are your stomach cramps surposed to happen just so i know for the future?
    Luv lils xx

    Hi Lils, it is normal to notice stomach cramps in your lower abdomen, back and sometimes in the tops of your thighs.

  • Hey Vicki.
    I am 11 and I have a boyfriend. Sometimes people say to me "You are to young to have a boyfriend!" But we love eachother so much and me and him(his name is Marco) really want to kiss but at school there is nowhere to do that privately! My question is:
    Am I to young to have a really close boyfriend and where do you think me and Marco should have our first kiss? (At school)
    Thanks for your time
    From Lillie MaiπŸ’•xxx

    Hi Lillie-Mae, I think it's very easy to form a deep attraction to someone during puberty as hormones are running riot and this is called a crush but as you are only 11, you should consider getting to know Marco better as a friend as crushes often fade in time.

  • Hi i was woundering are periods surposed to be like blood that you see when you for example cut your self or is period blood darker and more thick etc... Also amother question are periods surpossed to have like biggish lumps in them?
    Please reply
    Lily xx

    Hi Lily, menstrual blood can vary and appear in colours of red, brown or sometimes it can be black.  Small clots are also normal and are nothing to worry about as they are simply a part of the uterine wall.

  • I'm really self-conscious as I think I am fat I'm 11 I don't weigh that much but I feel like I do . Every time I eat (which isn't very often ) I feel bad because I'v eaten . I eat one meal evry 4-5 days is that healthly . Thanks
    TIA SO I KNOW ITS MINE πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

    Hi Tia, puberty can be a most demanding and difficult time in a young girl's life due to all the emotional and psychological changes occurring and it's so easy for them to develop a poor self-image and an irrational fear of gaining weight which can lead to serious harm to your body. By starving yourself of food, you are putting your body's development at serious risk.  Please talk to your parents/guardians as a visit to your GP needs to be arranged as a matter of urgency. 

  • Hi vicki
    I have bought alot of products for periods etc.. Even things i dont need at the moment is that strange? Im 12 and ive only been getting discharge for about 1-2 months! So is it strange for me to be buying all these products when i dont even need them and i probably wont need them for a while?
    Luv lils xxx

    Hi Lils, I think it's always good to be prepared and you might like to consider asking your mum or guardian for a Lil-Lets Starter Pack as it not only offers a sample of the goods from our teens range, you will also find a Becoming a Teen booklet which will help to guide you through puberty.

  • Hi vicki! So I saw this boy on Facebook post his snapchat and I added him. We've been talking for ages now and we both really like each other, he is a year older than me and only lives at the other side of my town. We Skype all the time so he's obviously real! We've arranged to meet at a local shopping centre and I'm so excited because he is so nice! I wanted to go somewhere public just in case but I trust him! Is this okay?

    I  cannot stress enough how important it is that you speak to your parents about your chats to this boy, it really does pay to be careful and ensure your safety is number one priority. Why not even invite him round to yours for a  meal so your parents can meet him too.

  • can tampons leak?

    If a tampon is worn for too long or an absorbency used isn't right for your flow, there is always a possibility that you could leak.  It often takes a little time to manage your period effectively by wearing the right absorbency sanitary protection.  As an extra source of protection, you might like to also use a pant liner on your heavier days.

  • Hi vicki
    I asked this before but no answer 😭
    My breasts seem massive compared to my friends i am a 36AA and most of them are flast chested i am 11 btw and i dont want to wear my bra so i wear crop tops which most of the girls wear (please dont mention my mum)

    Jasmine .:.:.:.:.:

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and you will find that many of your classmates will be catching up with you very soon and maybe developing larger breasts than you so try not to worry.  If you feel more comfortable wearing a crop top then stick with it.

  • Dear vicki. I am so worried because I was masturbating and I felt so guilty but then it felt so good now I can't stop thinking about sex plz plz answer I am only 12 years old plz vicki sorry if this is deemed inappropriate but plz vicki ANSWER ASAP x0x0x0x0x sunshine 552. Put this in da sex and sexual eelings collumn z thankz

    Hi Sunshine 552, during puberty, there is a massive increase in the activity of sex hormones causing teens to think about sex more than they ever did before and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Hi vicki

    Is it normal to feel sort of annoyed and rubbish after coming back from a holiday? I always feel I but like this but it's a lot worse this time. Will I feel better in a few days?

    I think we all experience the post holiday blues to some extent but allow yourself some time to get back in the swing of things and you will be fine.  You will always have your next holiday to look forward to.

  • Hi vicki im a 10yo girl and I get all of the emotional side of puberty but my body hasnt changed af all is there something wrong with me from alexis

    Hi Alexis, try to be patient and you will notice that your body will undergo changes when it's ready.  You're still only 10 so you have pletny of time.

  • hello, I have recently started my period but its not what I thought it comes out thick black stuff. why is this? I used to and still do skip lunch does affect it please answer m question. thank you :)

    It is normal for menstrual blood to appear black or brown and this is nothing to worry about as it's simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so please try not to worry as it can be like this for up to 2 years.  Please be sure to eat something at lunch - you're a growing girl and your body needs nourishment so consider eating healthy options of fresh vegetables and fruit.

  • hi Vicki
    recently I've been getting a larger flow of discharge I have not yet started my period and iv e been getting cramps all the time I think this means I'm going to start my period soon is there anything I can do to num the pain of the cramps?

    Many women and girls notice that their discharge increases in amount before their period arrives but you would normally have been releasing it for between 6-12 months.  As for stomach cramps, exercise is great but you will also find that a hot water bottle or a soak in the bath will help to soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi vicki so like 1 month ago i got a brown giant stain i my underwear, and i was SO exited this was my period. But i never got anymore the day after, or then next e.t.c do you think this was my period?
    Zoe

    Hi Zoe, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period nso be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have one question that I've been wondering about. When you masturbate and the white fluid (natural lubrication) comes out what is the scientific name for it because it is different to discharge?
    Thanks xx
    I ❀️ this website !

    It is generally referred to as vaginal lubricant.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I would love an app for this site with a period calculator, games and Ask Vicki on it !!!!
    btw I love this site !
    Thanks xxx

    This is something the team and I have discussed and we really hope to have some good news soon.  Watch this space.

  • Hi, I have loads of body hair! Like literally it is everywhere and the fact it's on my tummy is really annoying me. Shaving it all takes forever and it grows back really quickly is there anything else I can try?

    It is normal to develop hair all over our bodies but as you're feeling a little self-conscious, ask your mum or guardian what she thinks you should do.

  • Hey, i am 13, i havent started my period but i have had a year of discharge
    Anyway i am about 4"11 and i only weigh 5.1 stone. Is that bad ? My arms are sooo skinny my spine sticks out and my body has no figure just straigt down. Byeee

    As you've been releasing discharge for a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and our bodies are made in different shapes and sizes which makes us who we are.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my period in August of this year, and it happened for 2 days then it stopped. In September I didn't get it. I knew I would probably be irregular, so I wasn't expecting it that month. It's October now and I', a week late and I still haven't gotten it yet. I was wondering if there was anything wrong with me or not. Thanks.
    Love, CeeCee

    Hi CeeCee, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki
    How do I know if I have a crush on someone?
    I'm really confused

    For more information on crushes, please check out my blog link on Your First Love.

  • How can you get free samples because I can't find the link on the home page

  • Hi
    Basically I get really home sick and this year we have to go skiing or go to North wales but you stay threre for a week I cry when I am bord I have my friends but they have grown closer to gether and my other firend is going skiing.have you got any thing to help me with?β™‘

    Thank u

    As you only get homesick when you're bored, try your best to stay busy.  You can also call home, text or Skype which will make you feel better in seeing that everything at home is just as you left it and just think, a week goes by so quickly - you will be home before you know it.  Try to relax and enjoy yourself.

  • I'm 14 and have had discharge for about a year, I've been expecting my period for a while, and about once a month the discharge picks up. I was a late bloomer with growing, but I've grown a ton this year. I get cramps the same time my mom and sister do, and I have a lot of pubic hair. I'm really active but I feel like I'm really late especially because my mom started hers when she was 13 and same with my sister... I'm eager to start mine, but I'm worried there is something wrong!

    Try not to worry as due to the fact that you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I got brown discharge for 3 days heavy and then a little bit today. I fit an 28aa bra and have pubic hair down there and a little under my arms. My hips have grown. I've been quite moody lately and I have had painful cramps . I'm just wondering is this my period?
    Thx from holly
    P.s I'm twelve and three months . My mum got hers when she was twelve

    Hi Holly, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am a tad confused... I'm 13, 14 soon and I started my period Friday.. When I went to the toilet I found like a circle of brown stuff, so I put a pad on and went to bed the next morning my pad was full of blood. ( bit unexpected) is this normal? Should it be that heavy x

    Congratulations on starting your period and please try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice a heavy release of menstrual blood.

  • I have been watching a lot of porn lately and can't stop plz vicky u r all I've got left thank you so much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx cxxxxxxxx so I kno it's mine haha

    Love Elle

    Hi Ellie, it is normal to be curious about sex during puberty as hormones are running riot causing you to experience more feelings of a sexual nature but please use caution whilst watching pornography as it can give you a distorted view of what a responsible, loving sexual relationship should be like.  Try to focus on the things that mean the most to us in life such as family, friends and school.

  • Hi,
    So there is this dood ( r ) he is gay and hangs out with all the girls at school.
    He is really nice but he thinks everything i say is rude and I'm mean. He is also very up about himself and is a drama queen. He can also do things like and high kick better then me when it a girl thing to do.
    I feel bad saying this but sometimes I wish he acted like a proper BOY
    From 😑

    Something we all have to accept in life and that is that we're all different to each other and by trying to be tolerant of these differences, we will all get along better.  So why not try your best to be nice to this boy and get to know him a little better.

  • Dear Vicki
    I am 14
    I started my period last month and this month i have had sore breasts, and some stomach pains, i had a drop of blood in my pants but have had nothing else since and that was a week ago, please help, i have not had sex!
    Rosa

    Hi Rosa. try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a blance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • hi vicki my names is arzoo
    i want to tell you something that i have been worred about.
    this is what happend:
    my periods stopped for like a month and then when i had a heart burn stopping tablet because i get heart burn my periods started straight away. is this ormal by the way im 13.thanks vicki bye!

    Hi Arzoo, I seriously doubt that a heartburn tablet would affect your period so please try not to worry.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I have never used a tampon before and was thinking about trying it to see if I wanna carry on using them or if they're not for me but you never know unless you try right? Anyway I know completely nothing about them like putting them in and taking them out and was wondering if you could go through the steps and any if you have any tips x

    You might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection enjoyed by millions of women all over the world.  For some help on How to use a non-applicator tampon, click on the video link.

  • I have cellulite on my thighs and dimples on my bum but I'm not fat how the hell do I get it off and what if I put on weight hows it going to look then? Is there any advice you can please give me? Thanks.

    Cellulite is very common and is believed to be due to factors like hormones, genetics and diet.  A diet that is filled with too many carbohydrates and salt and not enough fibre can often cause cellulite to form as will sitting around so please try your best to stick to a healthy balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and try to be as active as possible.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My pubic hair 'down there' is quite frizzy and long. No one other than me ever sees down there but I feel uncomfortable with the amount of hair that is there. Is there any way I can remove it without pain? Ive shaved there befor but where the hair was it bled like on each strand if you know what I mean? Hope you can help,

    Thanks β™₯

    Pubic hair is naturally quite coarse and frizzy and a simple way of keeping it under control is to simply trim it back.  You could place a wide toothed comb flat to your skin and then trim the pubic hair that pokes over the comb with scissors.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and I know you have answered loads of questions about discharge but I jusst wanted to be clear. I have had my period for about a year and a bit now and I get white mucus discharge constantly and like varies in amounts and just wanted to be sure that it was natural because this has always been a major worry xx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection so please try not to worry as it is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Im only 11 and I started my period in may (so I have had 6 periods) I really want to use tampons because towels are to much fuss especially when in school!Should I use tampons or not? I havent told my mam that I want to because of my age :(

    Why not have a chat with your mum and suggest that you try Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.

  • Does it mean there's something wrong if you hurt more in your back than belly on your period?

    No not at all, period cramps can be noticed both in the tummy or back area and this is simply your body's way of reacting to the contracting of your reproductive organs and nothing more.

  • Would you say primark underwear is ok, like the knickers that are sold loose?

    Yes I would say these are fine to purchase and you can often find me in their underwear section too.

  • Hi just wondering if u work at weekends on this site so i know what days i can ask questions

    It's Sunday night and X Factor results is on the TV, so in answer to your question; I answer questions 7 days a week and at any time.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 12 years old and 3 months . I have been getting brown discharge ( quite a lot of it ) for 3 days. I told my mum and she said I started my period. But now she doesn't no because she bought it was supposed to go red after 1 day. I'm so confused do I have my period or not? Should I be prepared?!

    Thx so much anon

    Try not to worry as it is normal for mentsrual blood to appear brown too.

  • Hello, my name is veronica and im really nervous because I didn't start my period yet, and im 13 years old, is that normal??

    Hi Veronica, try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Basically I have been having discharge for a year and a half now, I have had
    Such heavy discharge and I keep getting proper painful aches in the lower bit of my stomach. These pains usually last up to and hour or more. I haven't started my period and I am getting very worried as all of this has been happening together for about 7 or 8 months. What do I do? I'm fourteen and I am nearly in tears as it's so painful please give me
    Advice
    Ella x

    Hi Ella, as your pains are quite intense, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while and experiencing stomach cramps, there is a good chance that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki,

    my whole period this month was brown. It didn't turn red at all. It also just ended. Why is this??

    Darcy-Mae xx πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering if because the girls in my family have quite a large bust if I might when I'm older, my mum is an f cup and other girls in my family all have big boobs and a cup size close to F does this mean I am likely to aswell? Also at the moment I am a 28C but it is almost impossible to find my size anywhere, do you know any stores that sell bras in this size but not for like Β£50
    Thank you x

    You will simply have to wait and see if your breasts are going to be as big as the other girls in your family and as you're finding it difficulty buying bras in your present size, have a look online.

  • hey vicki, so these past couple of days Ive had a bit of a fall out with my friend so basically she told me who she liked then I told this girl and now she's so annoyed at me😞 I realised what I did and if was so stupid😞 she's getting all her friends envolved with it and I've apologised to her heaps and im so sad😞

    Hopefully, this will all calm down in time and as you've already apologised it should all be forgotten.  If she continues to make things difficult for you, please talk to a teacher or mentor at school so the problem can be resolved.

  • how many pads can you use (at a time)

    One pad should provide you with sufficient protection but at your heaviest times, it is okay to double up if you wish.  You might like to try Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi ,
    Im a 17 year old girl . I have had my period this month already for like 9 days and normally I have it for 4/5 days and now its a week later and apparently im having brown discharge is it nrmal to have it after a week or something?

    It is normal to notice irregular periods in the early stages of the menstrual cycle as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, should your period last for too much longer and you begin to feel more tired than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Lately my period has been really heavy and the lil-lets day pads have not been doing the job e.g it has been staining my school skirt. what pads would recommend.Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, if your periods are very heavy you may want to consider moving up to our Lil-lets Freshlock pads in normal, long and night. They are super absorbent and super comfortable too. They work for me and I have very heavy periods.

  • at school we are doing trampling in PE. can I still do trampling when i am on my period

    Yes of course, in fact exercise is very beneficial when on your periods at easing any period pain you may have.

  • Hi vickey
    I was wondering about periods and now tht I've started weather I could try out some lil lets towels and tampons Please?
    Thank you x

    Yes of course, just complete the Contact tab at the bottom of the page and I will send you a pack out.

  • Hi Vicki
    I think i have started my periods but i haven't had any cramps or pains and it comes out as a red sticky discharge is this normal???
    Charlotte x

    Hi Charlotte, not everyone experiences tummy cramps and this does sound very much like  your first period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • i really like 2 guys and they go to my school but they would like never go out with me coz they're in the yr above and like really popular. how can i get them to notice that i even exist? ps. they are both quite good friends

    Smile when you see them and say Hi, you will soon be able to see if they like you, if they say Hi back.

  • Hello vicki,im started puberty (down there) its almost done i think there long and thick, i have to shave under my arms all the time im size c in bra's and i got gooey stuff coming frim my vagina:( please help?

    This gooey stuff is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. You can find out more about discharge by clicking on the Puberty tab.

  • Hello Vicki, I have been feeling quite odd lately, I am usually loud and hyper but I just haven't been feeling up to it lately. Nothing has happened or anything, everything is fine and normal but I just don't understand why I feel like this. From Hannah

    Hi Hannah, this is puberty which can very often change the way we feel and act and you can find out more about puberty by reading the Puberty section on our website.

  • hi my period has been iregular ever since i started at bout 13 i am now 16 and i am 18 days late again why does this keep happening and also wen i start i am heavy to the point i nearly end up crying .

    Periods can often be irregular throughout a girls teen years so please try not to worry, your body is still working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi there,
    This week i havnt be acting my normal self acording to my family i have been acting quite and unconfident and i have no idea why im acting like this... Any ideas?
    Love lily xxx

    Hi Lily, this could be puberty having an effect on your confidence and my advice is to carry on listening and taking support from your family as they will be able to help you manage these feelings as you continue your journey to becoming a young adult.

  • Hey Vicki. I'm in year 8 and its the cancer jabs soon. I read on the leaflet you get 3 throughout year 8,is that true? Thanks, fran

    Hi Fran, since September most schools only deliver 2 vaccinations and you can find out more about this subject by reading my blog on the HPV vaccination.

  • Hey! I'm 13 and I keep having vaginal discharges and I haven't started my periods so what are the discharges for?

    The discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and a great sign that your period is not too far away.

  • I'm 13 and only just started my period and I'm only just fitting into a 34a bra, my mum is a 34d and both sides of my mum and dad's family all have big boobs and I don't know if you take after this? I feel really left out because all my friends are b's and some almost c's and I really want mine to grow but I think they will be small for ages, will they?

    Breasts can grow in spurts and can continue to grow until your late teens or early twenties, so please be patient and see what happens in the future.

  • Hi vicki, I have had a thick-ish brown discharge for three days and I'm 13 but not had my first period yet. I've told my mum so I'm wearing period pads but we aren't 100% sure it is my period because it's not in a proper blood form it's just basically discharge but brown and when I whipe myself after using the toilet there is not blood on the toilet paper just little bits of what I can only call brown discharge, it's not red and doesn't even seem like blood? Is this my period??

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and not red, so this could very well be your first period.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Umm... I'm 12 1/2 and I've had pubic hair since I was 9, I'm 32aa bra and I have armpit hair since I was 11. But I don't know if I've had my first period because I've noticed discharge for about 4 months. But about a week ago I had one brown/red spot on the edge of my pants and the other day, I had about 5 spots of brown/red, they were really spread out and far away from each other. Was this my first period? I still have alot discharge every time I wipe and in my pants!

    This could be your period, so my advice is to keep some pads and liners in your school or sports bag from now on, in preparation for your next period.

  • my boobs are tingly and i don't know why can you help

    Breasts can often be tender, tingly or sore during development and this is very normal and part of their growing phase.

  • Vicky, I have definitely noticed about my breast developing and getting bigger I do have a few bras but my mom can't understand. She gets me small ones that are too tight for me. The thing is that my family is really strict, in Pakistan where my mum was a child everything puberty was a secret. So I can't really talk to her about getting a bigger bra and I know she only get me small ones because she doesn't want them to look big to attract boys I really need help to talk to my mom please may you help .

    Believe it or not but wearing a bra that is too small can very often make your breasts look bigger than they are as the breast often bulges out. Why not ask if you can have a sports bra next time you get measured, this type of bra keeps the breasts supported without making them look fuller.

  • Hey Vicky,
    Basically recently I've been have lot of the brown stuff in my pants and when I wipe my vagina after going for a wee. I've heared that this could be my very first period? Is it? I think I should tell my mum but what if it's just poo and then that would be SO embarrassing! Please help! πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”

    If you notice this fluid over a few days it is most likely your period and it would be a great idea to chat to your mum about this.

  • can you have sex if you haven't started your period

    sorry if this is inappropriate

    If you are 16 or over yes, but it should be noted that there may still be a slim chance that you could become pregnant.

  • Hi viki
    I got my period for the first time on the first Thursday of September 2014 and it's now the 19th of October 2014 and I've had nothing since (not even I little bit of red disgarge!) is there something wrong with me?
    Plz answer ASAP!
    Thanks!!!😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

    No not at all, periods often have long gaps between each one for the first couple of years so this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm completely out of clothes that fit me, because I'm growing quite quickly. I have no money of my own, because I'm only 14, and when I ask my parents for some new clothes, they say they can't afford it. But my mum seems to always be getting new clothes and tattoos, and my dad buys a new phone pretty much once every 3 months. Does this mean they're neglecting me?
    Lucy x

    Hi Lucy, no this means they have not quite understood how much you have grown. Why not ask if you can have a couple of items each much, they can be purchased quite cheaply from places like Primark and New Look which is great as you are growing so quickly.

  • My favourite teacher is male, and everyone in my class thinks I have a huge crush on him, but I don't. I don't understand why people think I have a crush on him? Please help.

    I would ignore these silly comments and continue being friends with your teacher is my advice.

  • In the last few day I have had an sore sometimes ichey front bum!!!it is rely sore sometimes and it looks rely red anda bit swollen !!!!!! What do I do?

    Have a chat to your mum and see if she has changed any washing detergents or toiletries recently, which could cause this irritation.

  • I was watching this show last night, it was a panel show and there was this overweight woman and she sai her nipples were the size of a 10p coin but that's the size as mine?? So is it possible for a fully grown, over weight woman with big breasts to have the same size nipples as a 13 year old flat cheasted girl?? Thanks πŸ˜ŽπŸ˜˜πŸ‘§

    Nipples come in a variety of shapes and sizes dependent on the indivual and not based on their age.

  • My friend claims she can smell when people are on their period is this true? ThanksπŸ˜˜πŸ’ƒ

    No one can tell just by looking at you that you have your period. However, if you do not change your pad regularly a slight odour may be noticed, but it would be unlikely that anyone but  you would be able to smell it. So I feel this may be a myth your friend has heard about rather than the norm.

  • Hey vicki,
    Do you think lil-lets could do an interview with Emma Watson or Evanna Lynch in 2015?
    Sorry if it is to much to ask, but they are seriously amazin people
    Thank you
    Xoxo

    Leave this with me and I will add it to the list.

  • Hi Vicki, my question is when will I get my period? About a month ago I turned 12 and I wear a 28 a bra, there only small buds really . I often have discharge in my pants and all my friends have their period. I am quite small and I also have quite a bit of hair down there? Thanks Amy x πŸ’•

    Hi Amy, your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you see you have plenty of time left and as you have already noticed so many sings of puberty this should not be too much longer.

  • Is ?? books inappropriate for a 14 year old? my friend said she wanted to let me borrow them but i think they might be a bit...dirty.

    I would have a chat to your parents and ask their opinion. They may not be suitable but it really is their decision.

  • hi Viki,

    i am 14, and about 2 years ago i started getting interested in porn and since then almost every night i watch porn and rub my thighs together and it makes me orgasm. i haven't started my period yet but i have had hairy armpits and pubic hair for over a year now. is me orgasming effecting my period, is that why i haven't started yet? please help, i am really worried!

    L

    Masturbating and its effects will have no impact on the arrival of your period.

  • My vagina feels small and dry and it hurts like something I've never felt before when I tried tampons. I wasted about 2 boxes in total trying to make it work. :-(

    Why not wait and try in a few months and consider inserting a clean finger inside your vagina so you can become accustomed to where a tampon goes without actually using one.

  • I got my brothers old phone and I went on a messaging app that I have and he has.I thought it wud have linked up to mine but it was still on my brothers. I shouldnt have done this but I looked on a conversation he had with one of his friends who was a boy. A couple of months back he had text his friend talking about this girl and how they were ready and his friend was telling him he would give him condoms and school. And he was saying they are spending the night together.I don't know what to do.

    This is your brothers business and as such I would advise you to keep what you have seen to yourself and say no more about it.

  • hey, okay theres this boy i really really like him. Hes in a grade above me and hes kinda known for like dating everyone. Hes my bestfriend at the moment and a few days ago he admited to liking me back. Actually before this he kissed me and he says he really does like me but im unsure because hes known to cheat on people. What should i do? thanksπŸ’–

    Why not continue being friends for a while longer and if he truly likes you he will wait until you are sure he means what he says.

  • Hey Vicki xx
    so me and my bf have been going out for about a month now. We really like each other. I mean a lot. So on Friday we tried to kiss because of a dare. We both wanted to. The problem was r friends kept following us and we kinda chickened out.
    plz help.
    P.S we both wanted to kiss

    I don't blame you, no one wants an audience for their first kiss. My advice is to ignore any pressure from your friends and when the time is right it will happen very naturally.

  • I am twelve years old, have hair in both places, I am a 32c and in January will have had discharge for two years. Why haven't I got my period yet?

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you, and I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • I'm 11 years old, I'm not in year 7 (grade7) and I'm a 34aa , when will my boobs start to grow because the girls in my class are like a B cup .. So when will I start to grow a bit more?? I'm 12 in 4 months by the way. Thanks Vicki

    Breasts grow at different times for each of us and it pays to be patient and try not to compare your progress with that of those around you.

  • I'm really nervous because all my friends have boobs and I don't have boobs like them. I'm 12. Can you suggest any like foods or exercise methods that help your boobs develop?!?!?! Thx

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and it really is important to learn to love your shape and  not compare your size with that of others. Finally, be patient, breasts continue to develop into a girls late teens or early twenties so your final size is not here yet.

  • Hi Vicki
    do you know any foods that can help your books develop better
    thank you xxxxxx

    No there are no foods you can eat that will change the size of your breasts.

  • Hello I'm co fused I had period then few days later I came back on period haven't stopped bleeding for 15 days i

    Periods can often last longer than 10 days, but if you continue to be concerned have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My old brother is really mean to me all the time. He always calls me stuff like fat, stupid, useless, worthless, etc.and he calls me it for no reason. It really puts me down and sometimes it makes me feel like I believe everything he says. I told my parents but they don't do anything about it.

    P.S. I'm 11 years old and he's 14.

    Brothers can sometimes be unkind but they rarely mean it. So try to ignore his comments and try this. Next time he says something hurtful, say back to him. "I'm sorry you feel like this, because I really love you and would never hurt your feelings". It may just make him see how inappropriate his behaviour is.

  • Hi Vicki,
    All the girls in my class wear crop tops and i'm the only one that needs it.
    My mom always hints about it but i'm too scared to ask her.
    I've tried the thing that you said to jump up and down and they do, when i do PE everyone just looks at me and stares. What do I do.
    Wonder Girl xx

    Have a chat to your mum about going shopping for underwear and see if you need a bra or a crop top and then decide which one you prefer then.

  • How do you use a bra chart

    Taking a tape measure you measure around and under your bust and than around the widest part of your bust. Our bra guide will help you work out your bra size when you have these measurements.

  • Hi vicki,
    I love your blogs. I just wanted a question if that's okay ? I've started getting white discharge but now it's gone brown what should I do? Is there anything to worry about ?
    Lauren
    Xx

    Hi Lauren, this could be your period so my advice is to have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • i have a boyfriend at school but one of my friends said 'if you dont kiss or anything you aren't boyfriend and girlfriend'. then I wondered, are we realy just good friends. we do things that friends do but not boyfriend and girlfriend do.

    I would not listen to your friend, there is no rush for you and your boyfriend to kiss or be intimate. Being a couple if much more than being intimate, it is about being good friends.

  • Hi. I started my period back in january, so this is like my 10th period. Ive just finished it yesterday but that whole period was just brown blood, no red blood or anything. Should i be worried cos there was no red blood for the whole period (7 days)
    from Lisa 😁😁😁😁😁😁

    Hi Lisa, menstrual fluid can vary in colour from period to period and day to day and light brown fluid is very normal.

  • I have had bad cramps for a few weeks. Does this mean that i will start my period

    Menstrual cramps are often noticed as your reproductive organs mature and this can happen both before and after your period has arrived and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki, im 14 and im really tall for my age, about 5'10/5'11. I would be really lucky for my height if I was skinny, but I'm really fat and it makes me feel really sad. I do dance and eat quite healthily but im still about 68kg and I hate myself for it. Also everyone is starting to get boyfriends and I havent and I barely know any boys (all girls school) and I have a pixie cut which I really like but I feel like people think im really fat and ugly and no one is ever going to like me. What do I do?

    It is very common for teenagers to judge themselves too harshly and I am sure you are beautiful and your hair suits your style. As you are 14 you still have quite a bit of development to go, so be patient, continue eating a healthy diet and exercising and I am sure you body will find its ideal weight.

  • Hi Vicki, in primary school, I used to be really good friends with this boy and our mums are also really good friends. We went to different secondary schools and drifted well apart but recently weve started chatting quite a lot on facebook. I really like him, I think in a more than friends way, but I found out that he has a girlfriend but its making me sad because shes so much prettier than I am and I still really like him. What do I do? I'm 14 by the way.

    Its a shame that you like this boy when he already has a girlfriend and I am afraid he is now off limits as anything other than a friend.

  • Hi Vicki!
    What is my bra size?
    68
    64?
    Thanks! !!

    30AA is your size.

  • Hi viki
    For about 3 and a half years I have had like a white/clear discharge and recently have been getting a heavier brown/red discharge. I'm a bit confused wether or not this is my period?

    Yes this would be your period as menstrual fluid can be light brown in colour, so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Vicki! Is it normal to get discharge after your first period, like all the time? Thanks

    Yes discharge is often noticed in between periods and can continue until your twenties.

  • Below my belly button my stomach i big and i masterbate am i pregnant. I have had some pregnancy symptoms and im scared

    You cannot become pregnant from masturbation, so please do not worry about this.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I just started my period ( yesterday ) and today it was really heavy. How often should I change my pad? I had a night pad on till 11 this morning then put a fresh regular pad on and left it on till 2 and put on a new regular pad and left it till 5 and now I have a night pad on. How often should I change my pad and is it normal to have browny black stuff along with the blood?
    Lulu1256

    Hi, firstly browny black fluid is very normal and nothing to worry about. As for pad changing, a pad can be worn for up to 8 hours especially at night, but most people prefer to change their pad every 3-5 hours.

  • Hi Vicki, my self esteem is really low. I have no confidence and its affecting me. I get so stressed out and I feel really anxious about going to school every morning. I don't know what to do about this? All of my friends are quite confident and that's making me feel worse as I'd love to be as confident as them. Is there anything I can do to build my confidence and have a bit more self esteem? Thanks, Vicki! x

    Start by liking yourself and your life a little more. Take the time to organise fun things to do with your family and friends, become more involved and slowly but surely your confidence will grow.

  • Is it true that if you haven't had your period you can't get pregnant

    Not this is not true, as if your period is close and you are sexually active you may still become pregnant.

  • Hey so last week when I went to the bathroom I had like blood in my underwhere but it's been a week now and there's hasn't been any blood is this normal

    This could have been your first period and they can often be very light so try not to worry and ensure from now on you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • hi vicki
    i sumtimes get really horny when talkin to this boy i really like and i sumtimes touch myself my breasts when talkin to him online or sumthin
    i feel like i want to send him pics of me with not much clothes on
    is this ok?
    thanks

    Never be tempted to send pictures of an intimate nature to anyone as it could be deemed unlawful and you may also find this boy then passed them on to other people...again this would be unlawful. It is normal however to find you have feelings of a sexual nature but for now it would be wise not to act upon them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm sorry if this question is inappropriate.i actually when I have goosebumps by nipples become a little big,big in the sense just kinda comes out a little.is it a problem?

    No this is not a problem as nipples are very sensitive to temperature and touch and can appear fuller when we feel the cold.

  • Hi Vicki, sorry if this is off topic or inappropriate! I'm 11 years old and have been thumbsucking forever. My mum puts oil on my thumb, but I just wash it off or suck my other thumb. I suck through the plaster when I wear one. I also have a tendency to bite the corner of my duvet for some reason and I love the smell (my family thinks this is gross.) Have you got any suggestions, I really want to stop but cant force myself to! -Felicity

    Hi Felicity, why not try wearing mittens when in the house, this should stop you from thumbsucking and consider taking up sports that will keep you active and unable to such your thumb.

  • i had my 3rd period about 2–3 weeks ago and i think im havin another 1 now i dont want to tell my mum in case its not my period is this possible and what should i do pls answer ASAP
    dusty (~ΒΊ_ΒΊ~)

    It is quite possible as periods often have both short or long gaps between each one so please try not to worry.

  • Dear VIcki,
    I know this might sound strange, but I've been snapchatting this guy I am interested in for quite a while now. (I'm 14 by the way, he's 15).
    Is there a way I can tell him I like him without coming across as creepy or weird?
    Thankssssssssss:)

    Just by chatting to him you are showing him you like him, but please do not be tempted to tell him private information about yourself or share any provacative pictures. And never ever meet someone you do not know without speaking to your parents.

  • I need help! My boyfriend is gets 'depressed' when I don't talk to him on Skype like I want to speak to my other guy friends but when I say I can't call you or something like that. I know you will say break up with him and I love him but I feel like I need my space and when I do he is like ''I want to kill myself'' (to tell the truth I think He has no other people to talk to) what should I do without upsetting anyone?
    -Pink unicorn

    Hi Pink Unicorn, be firm and let him know that you have other friends and will want to spend time away from him and with them, which I have to say is healthy. And encourage him to do the same, if he has no friends then suggest he joins some clubs and meets new people.

  • Hey Vicki :)
    I need a little advice on how to come out to my best friend, I've always planned for her to be the first one to know about my sexuality but things didn't work out how I wanted them to and I ended up messily telling two other friends. I'm very confused about my sexuality and I'm hoping it will change but this is something I really want to do, I've never kept anything from her and I don't intend to start now.
    Sorry for writing so much and thank you for any advice that you give :)

    Find time to be alone and let her know you want to share some news with her before she hears about it from others. Let her know that for now you are not 100% sure if this is the way you are but for now would really love her support.

  • Hello vicky
    I am the one of the first to start my period in my friendship group and our worried about it and who to talk to.
    Thanks

    There is no reason why you should share this news with anyone as your friends will not be able to tell you are menstruating just by looking at you. So for now keep this news to yourself until you feel comfortable sharing this news.

  • Hi Vicki. I was just wondering if we can get samples to St them out for free?

    We do send out free samples of our range, if you have your parent's permission to request samples, simply click on the word 'Contact' at the bottom of the page and request a pack.

  • Hi I have worn a tampon before, when I took it out it ripped a hole in my skin around the area where it goes in. I told my mum and she said to go the female parts doctor- the word begins with a g- but I am very self conscious and don't want to do you have any ideas
    I wore another tampon the other day a d when I took it out it was fine

    It sounds very much like you stretched your hymen; the piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina and if you have inserted a tampon after this episode I do not think you have anything to worry about.

  • I am 12. I have been going through puberty for a couple of years and have had discharge for roughly 1 and a half years. Just recently, I have started to get an occasional belly ache, and greasy spots. Is this a sign of my period? Also, the hair on my legs and under my arms is blonde (like my hair) not black- is that normal? Thanks so much vicki
    Ruby

    Hi Ruby,  all of this is very normal and a sure sign that your period is not too far away.

  • Okay so I'm 12 and I have no confidence and all my friends do I feel scared to talk to people there are people in my year at school and I'm scared that if I say something wrong they will judge me for it and judge the way my voice is... Please help thankyou xx

    It is very common for teenagers to feel a little lacking in confidence during puberty, but please don't stop contributing to conversations; yes you may have comments back that are a little critical, even teasing, we all do, but simply shrug them off and carry on chatting.

  • Vicki,

    The other day in school, this boy I like winked at me cuz we are quite close, but it felt like my heart melted, what does this mean?

    LeahπŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰

    Hi Leah, it means you like this boy and I feel he may like you too.

  • Vicki I have a small lump that is sore to touch near the back of my vagina! What is it? I am a virgin but could it still be dangerous?

    Your vulva will have lots of different parts to it and they will feel different when touched, but if you feel any pain you should speak to your parents and ask them to pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • Hi Vicky I have had two out of three of my HPV vaccines, when I got the first two it hurt when the needle was in and then through out the rest of the day it hurt so bad I could barely move the arm I got it in, is this normal? or do I need to ask my doctor about this, ps. I got it in my right arm

    This is normal and nothing for you to worry about.

  • What does your first period look like.

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red and the amountyou lose can vary too.

  • HI VICKY I really wanna know when I am going 2 get my period I. Am FREAKIN OUT !!!! PS: I am going to turn 12 in december so what is my age. Xoxo lUV Ulots vicky plz put this in the periods section. Sunshine 1253

    Hi Sunshine 1253, your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you really do have to be patient and wait for your body to find the right time for you. Reading all the great stuff on our website should make you feel a little easier about the changes that are coming your way.

  • Hi Vicki I have just turned 14 and I have been having very bad tummy pains for the past 2 days and I have been having tummy cramps I have not started my period yet but I think I might be starting soon ?

    It may be and my advice is to keep busy and active as this will quickly ease and discomfort.

  • how do I know if I have a tipped uterus?

    Some people have this difference to their body but never know, as it has no impact on their life.

  • I know it's stupid but at the moment I get really annoyed at some of my friends - don't get me wrong I really love them but I just am finding the things they do reaaly annoying.
    I am getting myself down and annoyed as I feel bad - what should I do ?
    anxiousant123

    Puberty can leave lots of people feeling frustrated and out of balance with friends and loved ones. My advice is to take some time to be alone when you feel yourself getting annoyed and having a chat to your friends letting them know that you find it difficult to handle your emotions. I am sure they will understand.

  • Hi Vicky, what do you do, if you go swimming you have never had your period before but when your in the pool you get your period? would you be able to tell that you had your period before getting out of the pool or blood leaking out of your swimsuit bottoms and getting in the water?

    It would be highly unlikely and if your period had just started the amount of blood would not be enough to cause you any concern.

  • Hi Vicki it's Amy I'm 13
    This morning I had one spot if blood but it was near where my bottom goes in my pants what is this?

    This could have been your period, alternatively it could be a little bit of blood released from your anal passage when releasing waste food, an indication that you are constipated and need a little bit more fibre in your diet.

  • Hi Viki! I have this thing where I'll like a guy and I'll flirt with him and then when he likes me I'll kinda stop liking him. I've tried just 'not liking anyone' but that didn't last very long. Any advice? Why do I do this!

    I wonder if it the thought of somone liking you that you love more than the boys themselves. I would continue just thinking of boys as friends for now and you may just find the right boy is right under your nose.

  • There's this boy at school I like but I don't know how to speak to him???

    Emily x πŸ’•

    Hi Emily, why not start by smiling for a couple of seconds when you see him and saying "Hi". When you feel more comfortable you could then ask him what he was up to at the weekend; a great way to get to know someone better.

  • Hi I am 14 years old and my period feels quite heavy and I don't feel confident to wear tampons yet so will a pad hold me for the night ?? And also I have flows of blood will this last for the rest of my 5 days??

    Why not consider wearing our Lil-lets freshlock night pads for when sleeping and our freshlock long pads during the day, when your flow is heavy.

  • please can i have a free sample of your things so i can try them all out and see what i like and can buy again and what isnt right for me so i can give to my cousin and not buy them again?

    You can drop me a line by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page.

  • i know this may sound weird however my discharge come at a certain time of month, i just call it my discharge period. why would it only be at a certain time of month?

    Discharge is based around hormone levels and as these can change from day to day within the month and is very normal.

  • Average Bra Size for 12-13 year old girls?

    There is no average, we are all different and breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes no matter what our age.

  • Hi Vicki! I have been having a lot of discharge lately it's embarrassing when my mum does the laundry is it normal for me to be having so much discharge at 11 yrs 10 mths it is a white colour or sometimes creamy yellow it makes me feel as if I have wet myself. What does this mean ? I have discharge everyday .

    Discharge is often noticed on a daily basis and from time to time quite a bit of fluid is released. If you feel it may help why not consider wearing pant liners.

  • Hi vicki,
    So the other day, a few days before my period,I was just staring at the desk at school. A boy who I. Usaly quite friendly with ( in a friends way) asked if I was ok. I had woke up in a bad mood and I just snapped at him. He is staying away from me now, and irs kind of my fault.Any hints on just talking again?
    Thanks,
    Golden_girl

    Hi Golden Girl, how about saying sorry to him for your behaviour, letting him know he caught you on a bad day.

  • Hi Vicki!
    OK, there' this boy in my year. We don't have ANY classes together but we met at one of our transition days and another boy said he might fancy me. He (the second boy) still thinks it now. I don't fancy the first boy, to me, he's just a friend but I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying, "I don't fancy you." but I don't want to keep him in the dark either. HELP!!!
    Mimi

    Mimi, you can drop a few hints into any conversations you have with either this boy or his friend. Letting them know that you like both of them as friends but that is all.

  • Hi Vicki! I really love the teens day pads. They are so petite and cute- I love them! Sometimes when my flow is heavier than it should I use the pads as pant liners.
    I have something to say about your adult tampons... I was searching for regular(I want to start using tampons soon), and I feel that the packaging is not great. I mean, there isn't tape on the opening flap so some people just open then and scatter the tampons everywhere... Perhaps you could add tape to make them more secure? Xx

    I will pass your comment on, thank you for your feedback.

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 years old I haven't started my period yet but I had white discharge for a bit. But now it's gone a brown colour Today. What should I do I? Im scared. Is there anything wrong? Xx

    This could be your period, so please put a pad or liner in your underwear and see if any more fluid is lost over the next couple of days...and if so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi, I am feeling like a third wheel around my two other best friends, what should I do?

    Why not have a chat to them letting them know how you feel and if there is any chance you can do things as a threesome from now on. It may be that they have not realised they are leaving you out.

  • Hi vicki

    I am going on a ski holiday in a few months and you need to tell them yiur weight. And I am quite embarrassed about this because my older sister is almost a stone lighter then me and she's a lot older and taller than me aswell. What can I do about this?
    Thankyou so much
    Sophie xx

    Hi Sophie, there is no need to be embarrassed we are all different and it never does do to compare yourself to others. So give your measurements and have a wonderful holiday.

  • Hi, is it normal for discharge to suddenly become brown-ish?
    Thanks x

    If discharge becomes brown, then it is almost certainly your period arriving and something you should share with your mum or the person show cares for you.

  • I'm confused about my sexuality:( how will i find out what gender i really like?

    There really is no rush to work out who you are and during your puberty sexuality can be quite confusing, so wait a few years and all will become clear.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i read ur advise on Boris and he still isn't leaving off. He hit my friend who's a boy with his blazer at school. So i pushed Boris into the wall and he was bleeding. I feel guilty but i felt i should protect my friend. I just wanted Boris to go away. Its so annoying, becoz im not usually a violent person.

    Darcy-Mae xxπŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„πŸ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, it is never a good idea to use violence to beat a bully and it is now up to your friend to tackle this bully, either by herself or with the help of her teacher or parents.

  • Hi, Vicki

    I'm the girl again in year 10 doing "Moving Image" So I said "No" and she said "You have too" But i think she wants to push me by perhaps because I don't like her and she a bully. But the teacher always she nice, but she really horrible to me (especially me) But I already told the teacher before she was bullying me, what should I do? I don't want to listen her anyone she asking me to do things!

    (Sorry it's long)

    Again speak to your teacher or ask your parents to speak to her on your behalf.

  • Hi Vicki

    It's me again a girl who was in Year 10 doing "Moving Image" she perhaps saying that i looked like a nerd and i do wear glasses, another reason is we are planning our script and a girl who was with her said (Not the bully) "We need to push someone (As a part of our acting) and the bully said (My Name should do it) And I said "No" and she said "You can't no" and I said "I can"

    See Part 3

    Good for you, I am pleased you are standing up for yourself and not letting someone force you into things you are not happy to do. My advice is also to have a chat to your teacher if you find the 'pushing' scene uncomfortable and he or she may decide to change it.

  • Hi vicki I asked you a question and you told me my bra size was 30AA . Is this the right size to start wearing one?

    Only if you want to, you could still wear a crop top of vest if you prefer. There really is no rush, it's all about what makes you feel comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Why is it illegal to have sex when you're under the age of 16? I don't want to break the law, I'm just curious.
    Mimi

    The law is designed to protect children, who although their bodies may be physically mature enough to have sexual relations are NOT emotionally or mentally able to deal with such adult subjects.

  • HI Vicki

    I'm a girl in year 10 and i was doing my lesson called "Moving Image" which we need to acting and doing camera shots,This time my partner wasn't in she was at a trip so I work with the other girl which I know very well but a girl who was bullied but no one knows because she always tell the teacher that she get bullied but she bullying me! She was saying "No Offensive (My Name) but I don't like your full fringe because it makes people look like a nerd"

    See Part 2

    Be brave and stand up to this girl letting her know you respect her comments but that should be constructive and not negative. This should let her know that you are not someone who will stand for bullying.

  • dear Vicki,
    i am spotty and all the horrible things have or are happening to me and i have had the white stuff for 2 years I`m 12 and nothings happening!!!!!
    Thank you,
    Scarlet

    Hi Scarlet, puberty is what's happening and so many things will be noticed, such as spot breakouts, moods swings and discharge. One other thing that will happen is your period and it will come, you just have to be patient; periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • hey vicki
    ive been getting thick, white,smelly stuff on my pants!what is it, please help x
    love nikki xox
    please answer in discharge section!

    Hi Nikki, this is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Last year, my male friend and his sister, who's friends with my sister, came round for a sleepover. We slept top-and-tail on my mum's bed, our sisters one side, us the other. We didn't have sex, no, but as we're opposite sexes, I still feel like we broke the law (we were 10 then). Did we break the law by mistake?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, no laws were broken here so please try not to worry.

  • Viki- I'm always so confident when I talk to boys via text, snapchat, etc. though when it comes to actually seeing them I get all nervous! What do you think I should do? Also boys never find me attractive so never want to be my boyfriend or do anything! Any advice?! Xoxo Kimmy

    Hi Kimmy, getting to know someone as a friend is key to feeling comfortable around them. So rather than considering them as boyfriend material find out more about them what they like to do and you will soon feel better chatting in person.

  • Viki, it's kimmy again, what you said about my crushes party is that I don't know if I do like him really, although I think I would like to get off with him but the problem is I don't know how to get off with someone. :(

    Please help!? Xx
    Kimmy x

    Hi Kimmy, if you do not feel comfortable being intimate with someone then the simple fact is you should not consider doing so. Being intimate with someone is very natural and not something you need to be taught so for now try to keep your relationship on friendly terms only and never be forced into anything by anyone.

  • PArt Five My friend M - the one who knows about how in love I am with J says that maybe J is trying to get a reaction aout of me or see if I am interested in other boys. I am not sure, to be honest. She says that boys minds work in mysterous ways - and she is right. She says that if J likes anyone, it would be me.
    Please respond to each paragraph of this. Thankyou Vicki. Its nice to be able to explain my feelings.
    Love, the Confused Girl Of The Ocean

    Hi, it seems J does like you, but like many boys he may not be ready to declare his feelings openly and round others. So my advice is to continue chatting and being friends and see what happens over the next few weeks/months. There really is no rush to date and it must be when you are both ready.

  • Part Four
    Unfortunately, I don't know if he likes me. Sometimes, like when we have fun together, have a private joke, converse, or tease each other, I feel as though there may be something there. But today, to some of my other friends who stood nearby, he said that I should date A.
    I presume this is after my friend W told him about the time when a guy called T mistook A for my boyfriend, and apparently J agreed. This kinda hurt. A lot.


  • Part Three
    He smiles around me a lot, and tries to make me laugh all the time. Twice today I caught him staring in my direction during maths; once he quickly looked away, the second time I don't think that he realised that I saw him. Or at least, he carried on staring.

  • Part Two

    We hang around in a large group of friends together. All our friends tease us about one another, but only one of them knows my true feelings towards J. I usually deny any attraction towards him because I don't want to ruin our sort-of-friend-ship. And he denies his feelings towards me because they probably don't even exist.

  • Part One

    I am really into this guy, lets call him J. All of my friends think that we are kind of cute together, especially as his best friend is going out with my best friend. He is funny and a proper gentleman, though some would argue that he isn't the best looking. I think that he is gorgeous though, both inside and out.
    xx

    My response is in your final question to me.

  • I would like to know is it a good idea to practise using a liner and wipes before your period when you've got your discharge

    Lots of people wear pant liners to keep their underwear clear of discharge and wipes too keep you feeling clean and fresh even before their period arrives as both of these products are ideal.

  • Hi Vicki! I have been having a lot of discharge lately and it's embarrassing when mum does the laundry. It it normal for this to be happening to a 11 yr old ? What does it mean? It makes me feel like I have wet myself and it's white and creamy yellow

    Experiencing discharge is very normal for someone of your age and shows you are now becoming a young woman. And try not to worry about any residue being left inside your underwear, this can easily be washed out with no marks being left.

  • hey vicki i turned 14 last month and my weight is 50kg and my height is 149cm am i healthy or fat

    Rather than worry about what the scales say, consider rather eating a healthy diet, exercising often and you will soon find your body finds your ideal weight just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm a 12 year old girl and I'm going 13 in july next year. I think I am lesbian, cause I have a crush on a girl in my class but she's not lesbian because she has a crush on a boy. I was wondering if its okay to be lesbian especially at my age. I think I've been lesbian for around 8 months and I don't want to be awkward and tell her what should I do?

    It is very common during puberty to be confused about your sexuality and there really is no need to label yourself at this time. It would be far better to wait a few years and see how you feel now.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I LOVE YOUR WEBSITE!
    So My question is, I have been devolving breasts for 6 or more months and at the moment I wear a 30 AA though I think I need a 30 A. Anyway I always wear non wired and so when do you think it okay to wear underwired?
    I'm 11 by the way :)

    There is no reason to ever wear a wired bra if you do not wish to, it really is a personal choice and for those that do wear them it is generally for fuller bust and not really necessary for an A or B cup.

  • Im 11 years old, I'll be 12 in about 4 months.. I've started to get discharge but I don't know what it means, is it normal, is this puberty?

    Discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagain clean and free from infection. It is also a great sign that your period is not too far away, it's all normal and part of your journey to becoming a young woman.

  • I'm 13yrs old I had my first proper period in December 2013 Iv not had 1 since I'm losing a lot of discharge and get stomach pains but nothing else also Iv had quite a big weight gain in the last couple of months is this normal.

    Periods can often have long gaps between each one, sometimes of several months, but if you are 100% sure that it was a period in December 2013 then why not have a chat to your mum about this delay.

  • Hi Vicki
    I luv this website so much...i luv so much tht itz even became an addiction to use this site..N i also luv it because your always replying back..Thank Ε±β˜† thank Ε±β˜† thank Ε±β˜† thank Ε±β˜† so much!
    My Question:
    When girls start they period does it come out with they urine..or is it just like discharge it only releases *Μ©n ur panty liner//pad//panty
    Thnx Vicki
    Love Lulu(Addicted chick)

    Menstrual fluid leaves your body from the same place as discharge; your vagina. However as blood is often left around the vaginal entrance, when you visit the toilet to release urine it can appear pink or red as it captures some of the blood around the vagina which is mixed with your urine.

  • Hi vicky i was just wondering what size bra I am and if i should start wearing a bra yet...and also should I ask my mom for a bra or just wsit until she mentions it. Im 14 soon
    Under 70
    Fullest 82
    Thank you

    32A is your size and if you feel ready for your first bra then it would be more than acceptable to speak to her about going shopping for one. You could even ask her how old she was when she got her first bra to start the conversaion off.

  • So all of a sudden I fell like I had to pee before I could get up I just started peeing a little it was pee I'm 11 it's not happened before and I have not got my period help

    Have a chat to your mum if this continues as you may have a small urine infection that can be quickly cleared up with treatment.

  • Hi vicky im 13 years old and sometimes i worry that my boobs are not big enough comparing to my friends .. i measured my breast and 76cm is that too small ? thx

    The simple advice I can offer you here is to not compare any part of your progress through puberty with your friends. You will all be different and in my opinion breasts are beautiful whatever their size or shape.

  • Hey Vicki,

    For the last 3 or so days I have been having brownish/ redsish discharge, I'm 13 years old and haven't had my first period yet so I was just wondering if this could be my first period. Or if it was an early sign of me getting my period, I really need your help because I don't have a mother to look up to and I only have my dad by my side but I'm a bit nervous to ask him. So I want to know if this is my first ever period.

    Thanks Zoe xx

    This certainly is your period and it may be an idea to let your dad know by writing him a note or speaking to a family member such as an grandmother or aunt and they will ensure you have some pads or tampons from now on to keep your underwear protected.

  • So each month one of the ovaries realises an egg but it says that they both release eggs so do they like take it in turns or is it just random

    No one really knows the answer to this. Lots of people believe they take it in turns, but others now believe that this is just a random occurrence.

  • Heya!x
    So today this bump came up above my lip and I told my mom about it and she said that it's just a cold sore and it's going to go away within a week or so. I googled ways to get rid of it faster and came across some information about herpies. I haven't kissed anyone recently nor have I had oral sex. Where did this cold sore come from??
    LolaπŸ’œ

    Hi Lola, cold sores are part of the herpes family and they very often lay dormant for many years only to reappear when you are stressed or in the sun without sun protection. So you could have innocently kissed a family member some time ago that had the virus and this has now been passed to you. My advice it to not touch it at all and it will soon disappear on its own.

  • Hey. I hate my dads girl friend! I just hate her!!! She's really really thick she's never never serious she laughs at everything and I mean everything. She is also really mean in a joking way but the worst thing is she now has an amazing job all cause of my idiot dad who never gave my mum a job. She also is very unhealthy and my dad has gained so much wait since he met her. He also drinks to much! Is there anything I can do to save him from well her?!

    Give this lady a chance, it is clear your dad loves her very much and I am sure he will greatly appreciate you taking the time to get to know her and understand that whilst she is not like you, she may still be a really nice person.