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  • Hello, so i am 14 and have had several periods, but over the past couple of months usually in the early morning i get woken up by this really sore belly pain like just above my 'pubic line' and I go for a wee and not much comes out, but then the tummy pain goes ? I'm so confused why is this? And I know this isnt my periods as they are a different pain, thank you๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ

    It sounds as if the discomfort is coming from your bladder as the pain goes once you've urinated.  Mention this to your mum or guardian to see what she thinks and if it persists, a trip to your GP would give you peace of mind.

  • I'm Crushing On A Boy And Don't Know If He Likes Me

    During puberty, boys and girls can easily form attraction to others due to the increase in activity of hormones.  For some help on finding out if this boy likes you too, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I got really bad stomach cramps the night before last about 4 in the morning, and for the past few days I've had a normal amount of discharge for me, but it's brown? I've had discharge for longer than I remember, but never brown. My mum thinks I might start my first period soon, is she right? I'm 13 btw.
    Thanks Vicki :)

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so your mum is right.  Be sure to ask her for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • This might seem rude but I don't know to professional term but how do you know if you've 'popped your cherry in your vagina' does it like make a difference to the way your front bottom looks like sorry if it's rude i just wanna know x

    This slang term implies that someone has lost their virginity and this does not make any difference to the appearance of your vagina.

  • Hi Viki,
    I am 12 and I have had discharge for nearly four years, and still no period. I've had every sign that it coming but yeah.
    And also, I looked between my legs and I can't see a vagina hole. There is a middle hole (which is were my discharge is coming from) but there is a white thing inside so i wont be able to put a tampon in I am really worried that its not normal. Sorry for to many details!
    Thanks๐ŸŽ€

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.  It can easily be stretched back without a girl's knowledge, by participating in sport, riding a bike or occasionally by using a tampon.  For more information, check out my blog on Getting to know your Reproductive System Inside & Out.

  • Hi I am 13 years old and I am due my period next Monday but I am going abroad on holiday where there will be lots of swimming pools and slides ...what to do ?x

    As there really is no alternaticive to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that tampons provide to millions of women all over the world.  Try not to worry and give them a try.  Have a great holiday.

  • This is not a question but i just wanted to say THANK YOU!You have been very helpful:)

    Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, thank you so much for your kind words.

  • I have a full fringe and i really want to push it back however i have loads of spots on my forehead and I want to get rid of my spots quickly so that I can push my fringe back. What should I do please please answer my question as soon as you can!!!

    Spots are a total pain that affect 90% of teens to some extent or other and a good way of keeping them in check is to stick to a good cleansing routine and try to stick to a healthy diet.  You might also find that medicated creams from the chemist will help but it's best to ask the advice of an assistant to see which are the best sellers and most effective.  Once you start pushing your fringe back, you might also find that the spots will clear up a little too.

  • Dear viki
    I took a test on the internet wether I have anxiety and it said yes hiw should I tell my mum and how should I explain I took the test

    Online testing is never accurate so please don't believe what it says.  Try to remember that puberty is naturally a time when teens are susceptible to stress due to the massive changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest, so try dancing to your favourite music, watching your favourite movies and most importantly of all, talking to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Hi viki,
    ive asked you before for a sample pack and you still haven't sent it to me. I asked for it months ago and nada plz get to me
    coliaa xx

    Hi Coliaa, if it really has been that long, please resubmit your request by following the Contact tab at the bottom of the home page.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I have just turned 14 and I am in year 9. I started having discharge at the start of year 7, and it's been quite heavy for about a year. I've also had really bad cramps for about 3 weeks and I'm getting worried... My mum and sister both started at age 12 but I still haven't! I know I'm a late developer in other aspects of puberty (eg only just got armpit hair) but this is getting strange now. Please help! Thank you :)

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is quite possible for girls to start their periods any time between the ages of 8-18 and as you've already been releasing discharge for quite some time, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • 66cm on nipples 60cm under.

    Thanks,
    Hetalia- Lover

    Hi Hetalia-Lover, your bra size is 28AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki, I recently asked a question about a boy, thank you for the reply but you said i need to forget about him. Have you got any tips on this? Thank you x

    You can try to forget about him by keeping busy doing things with your friends and family or by joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, sport or music.

  • hi vicki i noticed lots of girls are desparate to get their periods just cuz their friends got it all my friends have their periods every month and im just sitting there thanking my lucky stars that i dont have their cramps they say im lucky that im still innocent and the scarlet fountain hasnt come! ill get my period when i do and not before to all the other girls: JUST ENJOY LIFE!

    xxx fabby

    Hi Fabyy, thanks for sharing.

  • hi vicki
    this isnt exactly a question but i saw theres a lot of questions about being overweight. when i was 12 i weighed 126lbs (the weight an average 19 yr old would be) and now im 13 i have lost around 3 stone and am now a healthy weight i wanted to self harm because of the bullying i feel more confident and all it took was me adding up my calories and burning them off with exercise its easy if u beleive in yourself! :) keep trying and you will get there! love fabulama

    Hi Fabulama, thank you for sharing your experience with our girls but you know by sticking to a healthy diet and being as active as you can, young girls will naturally maintain a healthy weight.

  • For the past couple of days, my discharge has become really thin, I guess I could say it is like egg yolk... It's completly clear and doesnt have an smell. It's just really heavy and feels like I'm setting myself :/ is this anything to worry about and what could it mean? Thanks!

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrace to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and to tell us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki
    so for about 6 months I have had this weird feeling when sometimes I feel like I'm peeing but I'm not actually and when I look in my underwear it's clear. What is this?!?!??!?!
    Thank you

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi viki
    i had pink on my liner. What does that mean?!?
    Thank you
    ***************************
    #######################

    This was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy you some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm in year 9 and I checked my bmiand it said i am in the 46th percentile does this mean I'm fat. I'm 5'3 and I feel really tall and fat

    The only BMI calculation I would take notice of is one that is done by a Health Care Professional.  The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and by being as active as possible.

  • hi vicki
    i have sort of like a little gang of friends and we are all going through puberty
    but im going through it the mosy! we go swimming and my pubic hair goes through my cozy and my breast are massive and my nipples stick oout and i got my period on the 27th august and i havent had one since thankyouuux

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and we're all made in different shapes and sizes too.  You will notice that your friends will catch up with you very soon so try not to worry.  As for your pubic hair, you can simply trim it back and if you pick a bra with slight padding, your nipples will not protrude as much so you will feel less self-conscious.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki
    i just had a quick check of my area yesterday just to make sure everything looked okay! And when i looked i saw there was quite a bit of white stuff around my vagina opening! Ive had discharge before but it hought it was only surpossed to come out then go on to your pants or panty-liner! Why do i have this weird white stuff around that area?
    please answer urgently
    Lily xxx

    It is normal for discharge to stick to your pubic hair and when it dries out, it becomes hard.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • For how long can you wear liners? Can you stay with it the whole day or you have to chage it every 3-5 hours like pads?

    The choice is yours entirely as people tend to change them as and when they need to freshen-up.

  • Slowly I rebuilt myself up again and am now back to the old happy me don't take what your brother says to heart! He doesn't mean it boys and brothers are like that and remember he is a teenager it isn't just in girls that hormones are all over the place but honestly talk to your friends and ignore his little remarks it will get better Im sure xx part 2

    Again, thanks for sharing.

  • Hi so this isn't a question but more advice back to someone else's question she said her brother was really mean to her and said mean things to her calling her horrible things ane I completley understand what it's like! My brother isnthe exact he calls me some really horrible things and swears at me he tells me I ruin everything! I believed him! So I self harmed.... It wasn't just that but it was a main factor! part 1

    Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

  • PART2
    He was using my mouse on the computer today and i took his hand off it but when i touched it i got butterflies. I always mess up his hair and he twists mine. I like him even more now. You say your brain picks up flirting automatically, is he flirting or am i over looking the situation.

    Bluebutterfly17

    (please dont send me to a blog)

    During puberty, it is normal for teens to form an attraction to someone and this is called a crush.  Crushes occur because hormones are running riot but the sad thing is that crushes often fade with time.  Why not get to know this boy a little better as a friend and you will soon be able to tell if you like each other or not.

  • Hey vicki
    So i told u about "E" a month or so ago, since then i think we've got closer. In I.T today he was bored and he did a baby voice and said my name, eg...Vickiiiii. We laugh loads and he pretends to bite me and annoys/teases me. PART 1 Bluebutterfly17

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki, Im just really confused. In one of the questions asked that can you put a period calculator and games on the this website. And then you said at the end, Watch this space. ???.
    W..what does that mean...I tried to figure it out for 5 mins but..no. I just do t get that..? Watch what? There was nothing to look at!
    ...watch this space.. mmm....

    It's just an expression which means to keep your eyes peeled as we might be having some news about this in the future.

  • Because I have really heavy discharge I wear panti liners and I have worn them for a year almost everyday but if i forget to
    Wear one now my discharge almost burns and irritates my vagina why?

    I wonder if your skin is sensitive to the soap that your clothes are being washed in?

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am so small for my age, I'm 12 and about 4 foot 10, and there's this guy I really like but he's really tall, and I feel like because I'm small, I won't ever be able to get a boyfriend. Please help, I mean, I've been rejected by boys in the past because I was too small, and it's really hurting my feelings that they aren't even willing to go out with me for my personalty.

    Try to remember that you're still only 12 and have yet to finish developing through puberty.  There really is no rush in getting a boyfriend so why not concentrate on having fun with your friends and family.  You might also like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy as this will help to give your self-confidence a boost.

  • HI Vicki,
    So it's not really puberty related but I've always struggled with really greasy hair and a very sensitive flaky scalp I'm also very head lice prone.Any advice?
    Thanks Millie

    Hi Millie, puberty is naturally a time for teens to experience greasier hair than usual so consider trying a shampoo that has been formulated especially for this hair type.  You could also try using a dry shampoo spray which has powder in it and might help to make your hair less greasy.  Other than this, you could always pop into a hair salon and ask a professional hairdresser what they would recommend you use.

  • I'm 16 and get discharge all the time iv started my period but at the moment my discharge has gone brown does that mean I've come on my period ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to buy some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am 14 and i really really want my period. All my friends have it and i feel like i dont fit in. ive grown really tall, and have gone through puberty etc. I have had discharge for at least 2 years (maybe more) but a few months ago it started to get really heavy. when will i get my period???

    lots of love from stephie xx

    Hi Stephie, as you've been releasing discharge for so long, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • there is this boy at school who I really like. He is popular and talks to nearly every girl in Year 8, except me, BTW I'm in that sort of nice girl group. (He's not a player.)But every now and then I catch him looking at me in class. I know you'll probably say to tell him I like him, but I don't have that much confidence around boys. I am naturally loud person but when I'm around boys all of My confidence goes away. I have liked him for over a year now, so I don't think it is just a simple crush...

    There is only way to find out if likes you too and that is by getting to know him a little better.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I came off the pill 2 months ago after being on it for 4 months. I had a light period when day after I stopped but I haven't had one since. Im so worried, is this normal?

    It is normal for it to take a while for your periods to become regular after taking the pill but as you are concerned, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki again I had my period twice a year ago and since then I haven't had it but I have had discharge every single day In my pants sometimes heavy and sometimes not it always has crusty green stuff in it but I'm not itchy or sore down there and there's hardly a smell to it I'm so confused and acres please help ?xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow/green when it dries out.

  • Hi sorry if its inapropriate but can u give me some codes to questions amd ur answers as i wanna read some more thnx

    You don't need codes to read my responses to questions.  Just click on Recently Answered Questions.

  • Hi sorry if its inapropriate but how long does it take you to answer a question as ive asked u so many and i seem to get the answer really late and i love ur page thanks x

    Thank you for the support - I do answer questions every day.

  • Hiya x
    How long do cramps last for as ive had to but they didnt last to long and im not on my period and my mum only started her period at age 14 ( im nearly 13) thanks xx

    Everyone is different so it would be difficult to say.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Im 11 today my mum called me into to a private room and gave me the pack of becoming a teen and explained about the period but I think I panicked because I had kinda heard about it and knew and I've read the little booklet and I'm a little confused about which pack the tampons are in and which one the daily ones are in so I thought I'd ask you private questions also I was wonder if you pass a lot of gas during it because I'm having a lot of stomach aches and farting .Holly

    Hi Holly, you will be able to see what is what by looking.  The regular applicator tampons will be in a yellow wrapper and the non-applicator are in a clear wrapping.  The teens day towels are in the blue wrapping and the night towels in purple.  The Becoming a Teen booklet will help you to understand more things about puberty and if you should have any questions, please do come back to me.  It is normal for some girls to notice that they release more gas with their period too.

  • Hello x
    Well i looked in my bra cup and there was this yellow stuff, and today i put a clean bra on and by the night there was the yellow stuff again and it stool to my boob... what is it?x

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty and this is generally caused by either the increase in hormones or by wearing tight-fitting clothing.  Be sure to wash the area with warm soapy water  to remove any dried fluid and try to avoid picking it as this will make it sore.

  • Hey Vicki! Im the girl who broke her glasses. So we went to the optitions and I got to choose 2 new glases! I love them but..now I wanna change one of them. The lady there was distracting me! She was like, yeah you look cute on them take those! and then, do you like them, and all that! It was annoying! Why did my mum have to call her over! And then she was like, we havent got all day! And stuff like that! Then I was like OK Ill take this and this! When I got home I was angry. Gettin them on Friday anyway!

    I'm glad to hear that your new glasses are on the way but in future, try not to be pressurised into buying something you're not sure about.  You could always save the pair that you like least to wear at home and the nicer ones for when you're out.

  • Lately I have been feeling really down and bottling up all my emotions, I feel as if I'm depressed. Around my friends at school and around my family im okay I act normal but if someone says the slightest thing that could hurt my feelings it really gets to me and if I did something similar to what they called me for example "stupid" I would have that word running through my head. I cry on my own a lot to is here so,thing wrong with me

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's normal for them to feel susceptible to stress so please try looking at ways of giving your self-confidence a boost.  Joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.  Talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as chances are, many of your friends will be experiencing similar feelings too.

  • Hi Vicki! u helped me a lot b4, thx so much!
    I have another question...
    I go to a mixed secondary school and am quite upset cos a certain boy keeps asking me to send him nude pics. I WILL NOT DO THIS AND HAVE TOLD HIM SO. I ave told my mum but he wont stop.... I have blocked him on everything but every day he touches me sexually. I push him away but we do swimming & he squeezed my boobs! He calls me sexy and I hate it so much! HELP! Pls answer!!!!! Im sorry if inappropriate!

    Thanks,

    Desperate
    xxx

    Hi Desperate, this boy's behaviour is unacceptable and you should tell a teacher about it as a matter of urgency as he needs to be stopped.

  • Hey Vicki, cam you tell me my bra size plz?
    Under: 30 inches
    Fullest: 32 inches
    Thanx KT

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki at school I feel like someone gave me a choice be friends with a or be fre undos with everyone in your class now it's like everyone ignores me cause I'm best friends with a. I keep dreading school because I feel like it's another day to be ignored. One of my other friends said I should stop being best friends with a and see if people stop ignoring me. I don't know what to do cause I feel like I've lost all my friends apart from a couple. Please help me x

    I can only assume that your best friend isn't well liked in your class for some reason and you do risk upsetting her if you say you don't want to be best friends with her any longer.  I think you should try to find out what the root of the problem is and talk to your teacher or a mentor to see if they can help you find a way for you all to be friends together.

  • i noticed i had faint hair on my upper lip &people on utube always recomend waxing, so i tried waxing but everytime i waxed it ws red for @least 3 days & had red dots & always hurt. Recently, i waxed the middle of my two eyebrows &my upper lip &it ws
    red for 2days &then i noticed a group of white spots on the side of my lip &they hurt so much but i left them, thinking they were the usual spots! The next morning i woke up to a massive sore coldsore &everyone could see it &it was VERY painful &ugly. Y?!

    You might like to consider visiting a professional beautician to ask what she would recommend you should use. 

  • Hi vicki,
    Yesturday I shaved my pubic hair down below but I shaved it upwards which my friend told me is the wrong way. It's now really itchy and coming out with spots, I've put cream on it and I don't want to tell my mum what shall I do,
    Rachel xxx

    Hi Rachel, try not to worry as it should calm down after a couple of days.  In future, try to shave in the same direction as the hair growth and it should be okay.

  • Hi, there is this boy that i know and we always tease and flirt with each other. I love spending time with him and i really like him and i thought he liked me back but then he said he had a girlfriend and he showed me a picture and I've just been really upset about it. Thanks.

    I know it's painful but you really should try to move on and forget about him as he already has a girlfriend.

  • Hi vicki my pubic mound is quite big, noticable in leggings and tight tops I was wondering why this is it makes me quite conscious whenever I wear tight things. thanks.
    Cupcake

    Hi Cupcake, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about but as you are feeling a little self-conscious, try wearing loose fitting tops that cover your bottom.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm going shopping soon and think I need a new bra what is my size?: 66,74
    Thank you,
    Belle xxx

    Hi Belle, your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicky, so I've been feeling really depressed lately so I took an online medical deppression test and I was diagnosed by a legit docker with mild to serious cases of different depressions also. May have a mild case of anorexia. And I cannot tell my parents because they basically neglect me.

    Online testing is often inaccurate so please don't give the test you did too much importance but instead, try to keep in mind that puberty is naturally a time when teens are susceptible to stress due to all the psychological and emotional changes that are occurring all at once as serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest.  It is at this time when teens can also develop an irrational fear of gaining weight so please talk to your parents about how you're feeling and if they won't listen, talk to another trusted adult, whether it be someone in your family, a teacher at school or Childline on 0800 1111.  The sooner you ask for help, the sooner you will begin to feel better about things.

  • I have 2 questions:
    1: Is it alright to full-on shave pubic hair? Mine is really starting to annoy me because I feel very self concuss while swimming.
    2: How do I ask my mum to buy tampons because I haven`t started my period yet (I`m 12) but I don`t want to use towels but my mum has never used tampons.
    Thanks xxx

    You can choose to shave your pubic hair if you so wish or simply trim it back if you prefer - the choice is yours.  Lil-Lets now offer a teens Regular non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use which has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.  For some help with Talking to Mum & Dad, check out my blog link.

  • when's a safe time during your menstral cycle to have sex (with or without contraceptives)?

    There is no such thing as a definite safe time to have sex as women through the ages have always been caught out and become pregnant when they haven't wanted to.  When you are in a mutually respectful, loving relationship and are over the age of 16 (as the Law of Consent states) it would be advisable to do things the right way and use contraceptives before engaging in a physical relationship.

  • Part 2. Sometimes I get moods wings and my parents just just don't understand that I feel as though no one cares for me. Whenever I try to bringit up I just get screamed at for not appreciating anything and I get grounded for weeks. My parents act as though my brothers ar angels even though they are not. Also sometimes my dad beats me for small things. Also I think I may be depressed and I barely eat anything at all.

    As you have found that talking to your parents doesn't work, please write a letter explaining exactly how you feel.  Puberty is already a time when teens feel susceptible to stress due to all the emotional and psychological changes they're undergoing so please try writing a letter to get yourself heard and if things don't improve between you all, please call Childline on 0800 1111 for some confidential help and support.   

  • Hi Vicky! Okay, so I'm a middle child of two brothers and I feel as though I don't get any attention. My brothers they get all the attention and sometimes I just want a little attention. My parents seem too only care about them and not me. Because I don't get any attention I just stay in my room and then I get shouted at by my parents because I don't care about anything besides myself. Part 1

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki
    I got my period last night for first time I am 15. It wasn't that heavy but since this afternoon it hasn't came back again is this ok?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

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    My hair gets quite greasy quickly! I wash my hair in the shower with TRESemme luxurious moisture shampoo&conditioner every 2 days. But on the 2nd day it gets so greasy! What can you recommend for me to use or do?
    Thank you so much! Beth โ˜บ

    Hi Beth, it is normal to notice that your hair is more greasy than before and this is all because of puberty.  You might like to try using a shampoo and conditioner that has been formulated especially for greasy hair.

  • I feel so low can you help?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physcial and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling.

  • It's my 15th birthday next month and I'm really stuck for ideas on what to do with my friends? I live in chichester, On the south coast so london/brighton/portsmouth/southampton are in easy reach, do you have any ideas? Elisha :) x

    Hi Elisha, how lucky are you to live in such a lovely part of the country and it seems as if you have so much choice as you're in easy reach of all these wonderful places.  I think you should discuss your options with your parents/guradians as finances will dictate what you will be able to afford to do.  The London Dungeons are an absolute scream but you should really discuss this first as you would have to travel there too.  Hope you have fun in whatever you do.

  • Hey Vicki, I read on the internet you need to be 7-8 stone to start your period is this true? Xxx

    No this is a myth.

  • What shampoo and conditioner would you recommend for someone with long dry/normal hair? Thanks from Georgia xx

    Hi Georgia, try using a shampoo that has been expecially formulated for dry hair and see how you get on.

  • Hi Vicki, money's really really tight at home at the moment as both my parents have been made redundant and are struggling to look for new jobs. We had to be evacuated from our last house because we couldn't keep up with the rent anyway I started my period last month and it was really heavy and the pads my mum buys are the cheapest in the store and not very absorbant so I keep ruining my pants :( I asked her to buy some more absorbant ones but my mum said that they're too expensive... What shall I do? Xx

    I'm so sorry to hear that your parents have lost their jobs and really hope that something turns up soon.  You might like to ask your mum if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample from us which might help a little and it's always a good idea to look out for when our pads are on offer.

  • Hi Vicky,
    Im a size 28a bra size but I don't know where to get those sizes from. Do you know where I could get them from.
    Thanks :)

    Marks & Spencer, La Senza, New Look or any department store will usually have a wide range of styles and sizes for you to try.

  • Hi vicki, one of my breast is hurting really bad and when i push down theres a seperate lump by my nipple and i know its not when my breast are sore and a sign of growing because i know how that feels and this is a different pain in only one breast im 12 and i have my period...Could this be the sign of breast cancer๐Ÿ˜”help!

    Please try not to worry as the small raised lump that sits behind your nipple is a breast bud which comprises of muscle, tissue, fat and milk glands.  It is also normal to notice development in only one breast and to feel tenderness in that breast too.

  • When something says you need to drink more water, does it mean just water or can I be squash and other drinks?
    Laura 13

    Hi Laura, water on its own would be better for you as there are usually sugars in squash but it is still good to be well hydrated.

  • Hey
    How do you ask someone out?
    Char xx

    Hi Char, for more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hey Vicky
    I'm 15 and had my first kiss today but I did not want a kiss for him and I feel really weird and a bit sick?? Thanks xxx

    If you didn't feel ready to kiss this boy, you should have stopped him.  Try to remember that you should never feel pressurised to do something, so always stay true to yourself - if this boy doesn't respect your wishes, move on and forget about him.

  • Hi Vicky. I am 13 years old and I have had brown discharge in my undies twice between a few months. I get discharge everyday and then suddenly it goes brown for 2-3 days. I get grumpy etc and I think it is my period. But it's still brown ! Can I use tampons when my period is brown ?

    Try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  It is still a period and you will be able to use tampons normally.

  • My period is 5 days late and it would be my 4 period I'm I going to miss it ?!

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Can you just give me some general advice on Periods and Puberty please Picky. Love from Alisha. W

    Hi Alisha, please take a look at all of my blogs that have been posted on the website as you should be able to find the answers to all of your questions.  If you have any specific questions, please come back to me on Ask Vicki.

  • It doesn't help that about 6 weeks ago i self harmed so and i don't know what to do my mum always apologize after having a real good Moan about my dad to me I really can't cope with it all I'm only 13 I feel like it's all my fault my parents are spliting up! Do you have any idea how I can make my mum feel better and cheer her up? Thanks x dolphin4

    Hi Dolphin4, please don't think that you're in any way to blame for your parents' splitting up.  This is a difficult time for you all as a family and I think the best way of working through it is by talking.  Please try to sit down with your mum and tell her how you feel.  Self-harming is evidence of how bad you've been feeling and you need to talk to someone about it - if not your mum then call Mindline on 0300 1233393 as they will be able to offer you confidential help and support.  However, talking to your mum would be better and might help her too.  Things will get better and always remember that your parents love you.

  • Hi Viki Imy parents are spliting up and my dad was meant to move out 7/8 weeks ago so its being prolonged and my mum is really getting frustrated and keeps taking it out in me and my older brother but mostly me because I'm more mature and listen to her without annoying her like my brother does .( part 1 dolphin4)

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki its
    How do u know that u are abou to start....ps I have started but
    I have had pains ...stabing pain down there and cramps and mooods
    And ya plz tell me if u can ..thx vikiโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ก

    As you've already started your period, you should make a note of the first day of your last period and then count on how many days it is until your next as this will give you an idea of how long your menstrual cycle is going to be.  Some girls notice that they get stomach cramps, headaches, nausea etc.. or they might notice that their discharge becomes thicker.  Stomach cramps can be eased by doing some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or by having a soak in the bath.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • About a year ago I found a little bit of blood in my pants so I knew it was my period ,and then I had it once more but it was a bigger one this time ever since that second one I haven't had my period again I just get discharge in my pants everyday with a little bit or a lot of green stuff in it ,it also seems crusty ,I have developed hair down there and I have some spots on my face generally around my nose I have mood swings and feel vulnerably emotional ,what's going on ? btw I'm 12

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  All the symptoms you have noticed are a normal part of puberty so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki!
    (This isn't about periods/becoming a teen btw!)
    I think my maths teacher hates me, everyone in my class says it too!
    Like they talk about something irrelevent then I join in the conversation and it's me that gets yelled at!
    Im quite a slow person at solving things and she knows so but she still gives me a hard time!
    Now Im scared to even talk in maths class!
    How can I solve this?

    From Teenie! :) xoxo

    Hi Tweenie, if you think that you're being singled out, please ask your mum or guardian to call the teacher as this might be all that is needed to point this out to her.

  • I just feel like i get no pleasure out of anything and feel like sitting in the house all the time, never feel like going out really. I feel down a lot of the time. I don't even feel like going to see my boyfriend but I dont mind if he visits me. And talking to people never helps me. :( What should I do?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls and boys when they struggle to come to terms with all the emotional and physical changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watching your favourite movies and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Hi! Do you have to change your pad after 8 hours if it has not got much blood in it? Like just a tiny bit?
    thankssss

    As your period is so light, why not consider using pant liners instead as you can change them as often or as little as you like.

  • xxx I leaked a tiny bit onto my jeans because i couldn't change my pad. I wore the pad for about 6 hours and was lying in a weird position. I don't usually leak so is this a one off thing i shouldn't worry about because i usually change my pads about every 3-4 hours.

    Accidents do happen and as you said yourself, you wore your towel for longer than the 3-4 hours recommended.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 years old and I havent started my period. But I used to get lots of white stuff when I went to the toilet, but now I get lots of brown stuff and I'm really confused on what is happening to me. X

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey!!! There is this boy in my class- (I will call him Alex) and I have to sit next to him in maths. He starts making noises and vibrates on his chair. I know what he is doing and I told him to stop. But he didnt. What should I do coz it is so weird and I can't stop him.
    From
    Slug

    Hi Slug, if you find Alex's behaviour affects your concentration, talk to your teacher about it.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My first term at my secondary school is almost over and reports will be handed out. Even though I've always been a good girl in school, I'm worried I won't get good results. HELP!
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, please try not to worry as I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.  Try to remember that all you can ever do is your best.

  • Hi Vicki

    Is it true if you always have a full fringe means you have a big forehead? And is true people who have a full fringe are really lucky because some people can't ave full fringe because their forehead are oily?

    Thanks

    Not necessarily as some people might choose to have a full fringe simply because it suits them.

  • Hi there
    I was woundering where abouts are your stomach cramps surposed to happen just so i know for the future?
    Luv lils xx

    Hi Lils, it is normal to notice stomach cramps in your lower abdomen, back and sometimes in the tops of your thighs.

  • Hey Vicki.
    I am 11 and I have a boyfriend. Sometimes people say to me "You are to young to have a boyfriend!" But we love eachother so much and me and him(his name is Marco) really want to kiss but at school there is nowhere to do that privately! My question is:
    Am I to young to have a really close boyfriend and where do you think me and Marco should have our first kiss? (At school)
    Thanks for your time
    From Lillie Mai๐Ÿ’•xxx

    Hi Lillie-Mae, I think it's very easy to form a deep attraction to someone during puberty as hormones are running riot and this is called a crush but as you are only 11, you should consider getting to know Marco better as a friend as crushes often fade in time.

  • Hi i was woundering are periods surposed to be like blood that you see when you for example cut your self or is period blood darker and more thick etc... Also amother question are periods surpossed to have like biggish lumps in them?
    Please reply
    Lily xx

    Hi Lily, menstrual blood can vary and appear in colours of red, brown or sometimes it can be black.  Small clots are also normal and are nothing to worry about as they are simply a part of the uterine wall.

  • I'm really self-conscious as I think I am fat I'm 11 I don't weigh that much but I feel like I do . Every time I eat (which isn't very often ) I feel bad because I'v eaten . I eat one meal evry 4-5 days is that healthly . Thanks
    TIA SO I KNOW ITS MINE ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

    Hi Tia, puberty can be a most demanding and difficult time in a young girl's life due to all the emotional and psychological changes occurring and it's so easy for them to develop a poor self-image and an irrational fear of gaining weight which can lead to serious harm to your body. By starving yourself of food, you are putting your body's development at serious risk.  Please talk to your parents/guardians as a visit to your GP needs to be arranged as a matter of urgency. 

  • Hi vicki
    I have bought alot of products for periods etc.. Even things i dont need at the moment is that strange? Im 12 and ive only been getting discharge for about 1-2 months! So is it strange for me to be buying all these products when i dont even need them and i probably wont need them for a while?
    Luv lils xxx

    Hi Lils, I think it's always good to be prepared and you might like to consider asking your mum or guardian for a Lil-Lets Starter Pack as it not only offers a sample of the goods from our teens range, you will also find a Becoming a Teen booklet which will help to guide you through puberty.

  • can tampons leak?

    If a tampon is worn for too long or an absorbency used isn't right for your flow, there is always a possibility that you could leak.  It often takes a little time to manage your period effectively by wearing the right absorbency sanitary protection.  As an extra source of protection, you might like to also use a pant liner on your heavier days.

  • Hi vicki
    I asked this before but no answer ๐Ÿ˜ญ
    My breasts seem massive compared to my friends i am a 36AA and most of them are flast chested i am 11 btw and i dont want to wear my bra so i wear crop tops which most of the girls wear (please dont mention my mum)

    Jasmine .:.:.:.:.:

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and you will find that many of your classmates will be catching up with you very soon and maybe developing larger breasts than you so try not to worry.  If you feel more comfortable wearing a crop top then stick with it.

  • Dear vicki. I am so worried because I was masturbating and I felt so guilty but then it felt so good now I can't stop thinking about sex plz plz answer I am only 12 years old plz vicki sorry if this is deemed inappropriate but plz vicki ANSWER ASAP x0x0x0x0x sunshine 552. Put this in da sex and sexual eelings collumn z thankz

    Hi Sunshine 552, during puberty, there is a massive increase in the activity of sex hormones causing teens to think about sex more than they ever did before and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Hi vicki

    Is it normal to feel sort of annoyed and rubbish after coming back from a holiday? I always feel I but like this but it's a lot worse this time. Will I feel better in a few days?

    I think we all experience the post holiday blues to some extent but allow yourself some time to get back in the swing of things and you will be fine.  You will always have your next holiday to look forward to.

  • Hi vicki im a 10yo girl and I get all of the emotional side of puberty but my body hasnt changed af all is there something wrong with me from alexis

    Hi Alexis, try to be patient and you will notice that your body will undergo changes when it's ready.  You're still only 10 so you have pletny of time.

  • hello, I have recently started my period but its not what I thought it comes out thick black stuff. why is this? I used to and still do skip lunch does affect it please answer m question. thank you :)

    It is normal for menstrual blood to appear black or brown and this is nothing to worry about as it's simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so please try not to worry as it can be like this for up to 2 years.  Please be sure to eat something at lunch - you're a growing girl and your body needs nourishment so consider eating healthy options of fresh vegetables and fruit.

  • hi Vicki
    recently I've been getting a larger flow of discharge I have not yet started my period and iv e been getting cramps all the time I think this means I'm going to start my period soon is there anything I can do to num the pain of the cramps?

    Many women and girls notice that their discharge increases in amount before their period arrives but you would normally have been releasing it for between 6-12 months.  As for stomach cramps, exercise is great but you will also find that a hot water bottle or a soak in the bath will help to soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi vicki so like 1 month ago i got a brown giant stain i my underwear, and i was SO exited this was my period. But i never got anymore the day after, or then next e.t.c do you think this was my period?
    Zoe

    Hi Zoe, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period nso be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I would love an app for this site with a period calculator, games and Ask Vicki on it !!!!
    btw I love this site !
    Thanks xxx

    This is something the team and I have discussed and we really hope to have some good news soon.  Watch this space.

  • Hi, I have loads of body hair! Like literally it is everywhere and the fact it's on my tummy is really annoying me. Shaving it all takes forever and it grows back really quickly is there anything else I can try?

    It is normal to develop hair all over our bodies but as you're feeling a little self-conscious, ask your mum or guardian what she thinks you should do.

  • Hey, i am 13, i havent started my period but i have had a year of discharge
    Anyway i am about 4"11 and i only weigh 5.1 stone. Is that bad ? My arms are sooo skinny my spine sticks out and my body has no figure just straigt down. Byeee

    As you've been releasing discharge for a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and our bodies are made in different shapes and sizes which makes us who we are.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my period in August of this year, and it happened for 2 days then it stopped. In September I didn't get it. I knew I would probably be irregular, so I wasn't expecting it that month. It's October now and I', a week late and I still haven't gotten it yet. I was wondering if there was anything wrong with me or not. Thanks.
    Love, CeeCee

    Hi CeeCee, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki
    How do I know if I have a crush on someone?
    I'm really confused

    For more information on crushes, please check out my blog link on Your First Love.

  • How can you get free samples because I can't find the link on the home page

  • Hi
    Basically I get really home sick and this year we have to go skiing or go to North wales but you stay threre for a week I cry when I am bord I have my friends but they have grown closer to gether and my other firend is going skiing.have you got any thing to help me with?โ™ก

    Thank u

    As you only get homesick when you're bored, try your best to stay busy.  You can also call home, text or Skype which will make you feel better in seeing that everything at home is just as you left it and just think, a week goes by so quickly - you will be home before you know it.  Try to relax and enjoy yourself.

  • I'm 14 and have had discharge for about a year, I've been expecting my period for a while, and about once a month the discharge picks up. I was a late bloomer with growing, but I've grown a ton this year. I get cramps the same time my mom and sister do, and I have a lot of pubic hair. I'm really active but I feel like I'm really late especially because my mom started hers when she was 13 and same with my sister... I'm eager to start mine, but I'm worried there is something wrong!

    Try not to worry as due to the fact that you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I got brown discharge for 3 days heavy and then a little bit today. I fit an 28aa bra and have pubic hair down there and a little under my arms. My hips have grown. I've been quite moody lately and I have had painful cramps . I'm just wondering is this my period?
    Thx from holly
    P.s I'm twelve and three months . My mum got hers when she was twelve

    Hi Holly, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am a tad confused... I'm 13, 14 soon and I started my period Friday.. When I went to the toilet I found like a circle of brown stuff, so I put a pad on and went to bed the next morning my pad was full of blood. ( bit unexpected) is this normal? Should it be that heavy x

    Congratulations on starting your period and please try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice a heavy release of menstrual blood.

  • I have been watching a lot of porn lately and can't stop plz vicky u r all I've got left thank you so much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx cxxxxxxxx so I kno it's mine haha

    Love Elle

    Hi Ellie, it is normal to be curious about sex during puberty as hormones are running riot causing you to experience more feelings of a sexual nature but please use caution whilst watching pornography as it can give you a distorted view of what a responsible, loving sexual relationship should be like.  Try to focus on the things that mean the most to us in life such as family, friends and school.

  • Dear Vicki
    I am 14
    I started my period last month and this month i have had sore breasts, and some stomach pains, i had a drop of blood in my pants but have had nothing else since and that was a week ago, please help, i have not had sex!
    Rosa

    Hi Rosa. try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a blance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • hi vicki my names is arzoo
    i want to tell you something that i have been worred about.
    this is what happend:
    my periods stopped for like a month and then when i had a heart burn stopping tablet because i get heart burn my periods started straight away. is this ormal by the way im 13.thanks vicki bye!

    Hi Arzoo, I seriously doubt that a heartburn tablet would affect your period so please try not to worry.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I have never used a tampon before and was thinking about trying it to see if I wanna carry on using them or if they're not for me but you never know unless you try right? Anyway I know completely nothing about them like putting them in and taking them out and was wondering if you could go through the steps and any if you have any tips x

    You might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection enjoyed by millions of women all over the world.  For some help on How to use a non-applicator tampon, click on the video link.

  • I have cellulite on my thighs and dimples on my bum but I'm not fat how the hell do I get it off and what if I put on weight hows it going to look then? Is there any advice you can please give me? Thanks.

    Cellulite is very common and is believed to be due to factors like hormones, genetics and diet.  A diet that is filled with too many carbohydrates and salt and not enough fibre can often cause cellulite to form as will sitting around so please try your best to stick to a healthy balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and try to be as active as possible.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My pubic hair 'down there' is quite frizzy and long. No one other than me ever sees down there but I feel uncomfortable with the amount of hair that is there. Is there any way I can remove it without pain? Ive shaved there befor but where the hair was it bled like on each strand if you know what I mean? Hope you can help,

    Thanks โ™ฅ

    Pubic hair is naturally quite coarse and frizzy and a simple way of keeping it under control is to simply trim it back.  You could place a wide toothed comb flat to your skin and then trim the pubic hair that pokes over the comb with scissors.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and I know you have answered loads of questions about discharge but I jusst wanted to be clear. I have had my period for about a year and a bit now and I get white mucus discharge constantly and like varies in amounts and just wanted to be sure that it was natural because this has always been a major worry xx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection so please try not to worry as it is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Im only 11 and I started my period in may (so I have had 6 periods) I really want to use tampons because towels are to much fuss especially when in school!Should I use tampons or not? I havent told my mam that I want to because of my age :(

    Why not have a chat with your mum and suggest that you try Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.

  • Does it mean there's something wrong if you hurt more in your back than belly on your period?

    No not at all, period cramps can be noticed both in the tummy or back area and this is simply your body's way of reacting to the contracting of your reproductive organs and nothing more.

  • Would you say primark underwear is ok, like the knickers that are sold loose?

    Yes I would say these are fine to purchase and you can often find me in their underwear section too.

  • Hi just wondering if u work at weekends on this site so i know what days i can ask questions

    It's Sunday night and X Factor results is on the TV, so in answer to your question; I answer questions 7 days a week and at any time.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 12 years old and 3 months . I have been getting brown discharge ( quite a lot of it ) for 3 days. I told my mum and she said I started my period. But now she doesn't no because she bought it was supposed to go red after 1 day. I'm so confused do I have my period or not? Should I be prepared?!

    Thx so much anon

    Try not to worry as it is normal for mentsrual blood to appear brown too.

  • Hello, my name is veronica and im really nervous because I didn't start my period yet, and im 13 years old, is that normal??

    Hi Veronica, try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Basically I have been having discharge for a year and a half now, I have had
    Such heavy discharge and I keep getting proper painful aches in the lower bit of my stomach. These pains usually last up to and hour or more. I haven't started my period and I am getting very worried as all of this has been happening together for about 7 or 8 months. What do I do? I'm fourteen and I am nearly in tears as it's so painful please give me
    Advice
    Ella x

    Hi Ella, as your pains are quite intense, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while and experiencing stomach cramps, there is a good chance that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki,

    my whole period this month was brown. It didn't turn red at all. It also just ended. Why is this??

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering if because the girls in my family have quite a large bust if I might when I'm older, my mum is an f cup and other girls in my family all have big boobs and a cup size close to F does this mean I am likely to aswell? Also at the moment I am a 28C but it is almost impossible to find my size anywhere, do you know any stores that sell bras in this size but not for like ยฃ50
    Thank you x

    You will simply have to wait and see if your breasts are going to be as big as the other girls in your family and as you're finding it difficulty buying bras in your present size, have a look online.

  • hey vicki, so these past couple of days Ive had a bit of a fall out with my friend so basically she told me who she liked then I told this girl and now she's so annoyed at me๐Ÿ˜ž I realised what I did and if was so stupid๐Ÿ˜ž she's getting all her friends envolved with it and I've apologised to her heaps and im so sad๐Ÿ˜ž

    Hopefully, this will all calm down in time and as you've already apologised it should all be forgotten.  If she continues to make things difficult for you, please talk to a teacher or mentor at school so the problem can be resolved.

  • how many pads can you use (at a time)

    One pad should provide you with sufficient protection but at your heaviest times, it is okay to double up if you wish.  You might like to try Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi ,
    Im a 17 year old girl . I have had my period this month already for like 9 days and normally I have it for 4/5 days and now its a week later and apparently im having brown discharge is it nrmal to have it after a week or something?

    It is normal to notice irregular periods in the early stages of the menstrual cycle as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, should your period last for too much longer and you begin to feel more tired than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Lately my period has been really heavy and the lil-lets day pads have not been doing the job e.g it has been staining my school skirt. what pads would recommend.Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, if your periods are very heavy you may want to consider moving up to our Lil-lets Freshlock pads in normal, long and night. They are super absorbent and super comfortable too. They work for me and I have very heavy periods.

  • at school we are doing trampling in PE. can I still do trampling when i am on my period

    Yes of course, in fact exercise is very beneficial when on your periods at easing any period pain you may have.

  • Hi vickey
    I was wondering about periods and now tht I've started weather I could try out some lil lets towels and tampons Please?
    Thank you x

    Yes of course, just complete the Contact tab at the bottom of the page and I will send you a pack out.

  • Hi Vicki
    I think i have started my periods but i haven't had any cramps or pains and it comes out as a red sticky discharge is this normal???
    Charlotte x

    Hi Charlotte, not everyone experiences tummy cramps and this does sound very much like  your first period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • i really like 2 guys and they go to my school but they would like never go out with me coz they're in the yr above and like really popular. how can i get them to notice that i even exist? ps. they are both quite good friends

    Smile when you see them and say Hi, you will soon be able to see if they like you, if they say Hi back.

  • Hello vicki,im started puberty (down there) its almost done i think there long and thick, i have to shave under my arms all the time im size c in bra's and i got gooey stuff coming frim my vagina:( please help?

    This gooey stuff is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. You can find out more about discharge by clicking on the Puberty tab.

  • Hello Vicki, I have been feeling quite odd lately, I am usually loud and hyper but I just haven't been feeling up to it lately. Nothing has happened or anything, everything is fine and normal but I just don't understand why I feel like this. From Hannah

    Hi Hannah, this is puberty which can very often change the way we feel and act and you can find out more about puberty by reading the Puberty section on our website.

  • hi my period has been iregular ever since i started at bout 13 i am now 16 and i am 18 days late again why does this keep happening and also wen i start i am heavy to the point i nearly end up crying .

    Periods can often be irregular throughout a girls teen years so please try not to worry, your body is still working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi there,
    This week i havnt be acting my normal self acording to my family i have been acting quite and unconfident and i have no idea why im acting like this... Any ideas?
    Love lily xxx

    Hi Lily, this could be puberty having an effect on your confidence and my advice is to carry on listening and taking support from your family as they will be able to help you manage these feelings as you continue your journey to becoming a young adult.

  • Hey Vicki. I'm in year 8 and its the cancer jabs soon. I read on the leaflet you get 3 throughout year 8,is that true? Thanks, fran

    Hi Fran, since September most schools only deliver 2 vaccinations and you can find out more about this subject by reading my blog on the HPV vaccination.

  • Hey! I'm 13 and I keep having vaginal discharges and I haven't started my periods so what are the discharges for?

    The discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and a great sign that your period is not too far away.

  • I'm 13 and only just started my period and I'm only just fitting into a 34a bra, my mum is a 34d and both sides of my mum and dad's family all have big boobs and I don't know if you take after this? I feel really left out because all my friends are b's and some almost c's and I really want mine to grow but I think they will be small for ages, will they?

    Breasts can grow in spurts and can continue to grow until your late teens or early twenties, so please be patient and see what happens in the future.

  • Hi vicki, I have had a thick-ish brown discharge for three days and I'm 13 but not had my first period yet. I've told my mum so I'm wearing period pads but we aren't 100% sure it is my period because it's not in a proper blood form it's just basically discharge but brown and when I whipe myself after using the toilet there is not blood on the toilet paper just little bits of what I can only call brown discharge, it's not red and doesn't even seem like blood? Is this my period??

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and not red, so this could very well be your first period.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Umm... I'm 12 1/2 and I've had pubic hair since I was 9, I'm 32aa bra and I have armpit hair since I was 11. But I don't know if I've had my first period because I've noticed discharge for about 4 months. But about a week ago I had one brown/red spot on the edge of my pants and the other day, I had about 5 spots of brown/red, they were really spread out and far away from each other. Was this my first period? I still have alot discharge every time I wipe and in my pants!

    This could be your period, so my advice is to keep some pads and liners in your school or sports bag from now on, in preparation for your next period.

  • my boobs are tingly and i don't know why can you help

    Breasts can often be tender, tingly or sore during development and this is very normal and part of their growing phase.

  • Vicky, I have definitely noticed about my breast developing and getting bigger I do have a few bras but my mom can't understand. She gets me small ones that are too tight for me. The thing is that my family is really strict, in Pakistan where my mum was a child everything puberty was a secret. So I can't really talk to her about getting a bigger bra and I know she only get me small ones because she doesn't want them to look big to attract boys I really need help to talk to my mom please may you help .

    Believe it or not but wearing a bra that is too small can very often make your breasts look bigger than they are as the breast often bulges out. Why not ask if you can have a sports bra next time you get measured, this type of bra keeps the breasts supported without making them look fuller.

  • Hey Vicky,
    Basically recently I've been have lot of the brown stuff in my pants and when I wipe my vagina after going for a wee. I've heared that this could be my very first period? Is it? I think I should tell my mum but what if it's just poo and then that would be SO embarrassing! Please help! ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

    If you notice this fluid over a few days it is most likely your period and it would be a great idea to chat to your mum about this.

  • can you have sex if you haven't started your period

    sorry if this is inappropriate

    If you are 16 or over yes, but it should be noted that there may still be a slim chance that you could become pregnant.

  • Hi viki
    I got my period for the first time on the first Thursday of September 2014 and it's now the 19th of October 2014 and I've had nothing since (not even I little bit of red disgarge!) is there something wrong with me?
    Plz answer ASAP!
    Thanks!!!๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    No not at all, periods often have long gaps between each one for the first couple of years so this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm completely out of clothes that fit me, because I'm growing quite quickly. I have no money of my own, because I'm only 14, and when I ask my parents for some new clothes, they say they can't afford it. But my mum seems to always be getting new clothes and tattoos, and my dad buys a new phone pretty much once every 3 months. Does this mean they're neglecting me?
    Lucy x

    Hi Lucy, no this means they have not quite understood how much you have grown. Why not ask if you can have a couple of items each much, they can be purchased quite cheaply from places like Primark and New Look which is great as you are growing so quickly.

  • My favourite teacher is male, and everyone in my class thinks I have a huge crush on him, but I don't. I don't understand why people think I have a crush on him? Please help.

    I would ignore these silly comments and continue being friends with your teacher is my advice.

  • In the last few day I have had an sore sometimes ichey front bum!!!it is rely sore sometimes and it looks rely red anda bit swollen !!!!!! What do I do?

    Have a chat to your mum and see if she has changed any washing detergents or toiletries recently, which could cause this irritation.

  • I was watching this show last night, it was a panel show and there was this overweight woman and she sai her nipples were the size of a 10p coin but that's the size as mine?? So is it possible for a fully grown, over weight woman with big breasts to have the same size nipples as a 13 year old flat cheasted girl?? Thanks ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘ง

    Nipples come in a variety of shapes and sizes dependent on the indivual and not based on their age.

  • My friend claims she can smell when people are on their period is this true? Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’ƒ

    No one can tell just by looking at you that you have your period. However, if you do not change your pad regularly a slight odour may be noticed, but it would be unlikely that anyone but  you would be able to smell it. So I feel this may be a myth your friend has heard about rather than the norm.

  • Hey vicki,
    Do you think lil-lets could do an interview with Emma Watson or Evanna Lynch in 2015?
    Sorry if it is to much to ask, but they are seriously amazin people
    Thank you
    Xoxo

    Leave this with me and I will add it to the list.

  • Hi Vicki, my question is when will I get my period? About a month ago I turned 12 and I wear a 28 a bra, there only small buds really . I often have discharge in my pants and all my friends have their period. I am quite small and I also have quite a bit of hair down there? Thanks Amy x ๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Amy, your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you see you have plenty of time left and as you have already noticed so many sings of puberty this should not be too much longer.

  • Is ?? books inappropriate for a 14 year old? my friend said she wanted to let me borrow them but i think they might be a bit...dirty.

    I would have a chat to your parents and ask their opinion. They may not be suitable but it really is their decision.

  • hi Viki,

    i am 14, and about 2 years ago i started getting interested in porn and since then almost every night i watch porn and rub my thighs together and it makes me orgasm. i haven't started my period yet but i have had hairy armpits and pubic hair for over a year now. is me orgasming effecting my period, is that why i haven't started yet? please help, i am really worried!

    L

    Masturbating and its effects will have no impact on the arrival of your period.

  • My vagina feels small and dry and it hurts like something I've never felt before when I tried tampons. I wasted about 2 boxes in total trying to make it work. :-(

    Why not wait and try in a few months and consider inserting a clean finger inside your vagina so you can become accustomed to where a tampon goes without actually using one.

  • I got my brothers old phone and I went on a messaging app that I have and he has.I thought it wud have linked up to mine but it was still on my brothers. I shouldnt have done this but I looked on a conversation he had with one of his friends who was a boy. A couple of months back he had text his friend talking about this girl and how they were ready and his friend was telling him he would give him condoms and school. And he was saying they are spending the night together.I don't know what to do.

    This is your brothers business and as such I would advise you to keep what you have seen to yourself and say no more about it.

  • hey, okay theres this boy i really really like him. Hes in a grade above me and hes kinda known for like dating everyone. Hes my bestfriend at the moment and a few days ago he admited to liking me back. Actually before this he kissed me and he says he really does like me but im unsure because hes known to cheat on people. What should i do? thanks๐Ÿ’–

    Why not continue being friends for a while longer and if he truly likes you he will wait until you are sure he means what he says.

  • Hey Vicki xx
    so me and my bf have been going out for about a month now. We really like each other. I mean a lot. So on Friday we tried to kiss because of a dare. We both wanted to. The problem was r friends kept following us and we kinda chickened out.
    plz help.
    P.S we both wanted to kiss

    I don't blame you, no one wants an audience for their first kiss. My advice is to ignore any pressure from your friends and when the time is right it will happen very naturally.

  • I am twelve years old, have hair in both places, I am a 32c and in January will have had discharge for two years. Why haven't I got my period yet?

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you, and I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • I'm 11 years old, I'm not in year 7 (grade7) and I'm a 34aa , when will my boobs start to grow because the girls in my class are like a B cup .. So when will I start to grow a bit more?? I'm 12 in 4 months by the way. Thanks Vicki

    Breasts grow at different times for each of us and it pays to be patient and try not to compare your progress with that of those around you.

  • I'm really nervous because all my friends have boobs and I don't have boobs like them. I'm 12. Can you suggest any like foods or exercise methods that help your boobs develop?!?!?! Thx

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and it really is important to learn to love your shape and  not compare your size with that of others. Finally, be patient, breasts continue to develop into a girls late teens or early twenties so your final size is not here yet.

  • Hi Vicki
    do you know any foods that can help your books develop better
    thank you xxxxxx

    No there are no foods you can eat that will change the size of your breasts.

  • Hello I'm co fused I had period then few days later I came back on period haven't stopped bleeding for 15 days i

    Periods can often last longer than 10 days, but if you continue to be concerned have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My old brother is really mean to me all the time. He always calls me stuff like fat, stupid, useless, worthless, etc.and he calls me it for no reason. It really puts me down and sometimes it makes me feel like I believe everything he says. I told my parents but they don't do anything about it.

    P.S. I'm 11 years old and he's 14.

    Brothers can sometimes be unkind but they rarely mean it. So try to ignore his comments and try this. Next time he says something hurtful, say back to him. "I'm sorry you feel like this, because I really love you and would never hurt your feelings". It may just make him see how inappropriate his behaviour is.

  • Hi Vicki,
    All the girls in my class wear crop tops and i'm the only one that needs it.
    My mom always hints about it but i'm too scared to ask her.
    I've tried the thing that you said to jump up and down and they do, when i do PE everyone just looks at me and stares. What do I do.
    Wonder Girl xx

    Have a chat to your mum about going shopping for underwear and see if you need a bra or a crop top and then decide which one you prefer then.

  • How do you use a bra chart

    Taking a tape measure you measure around and under your bust and than around the widest part of your bust. Our bra guide will help you work out your bra size when you have these measurements.

  • Hi vicki,
    I love your blogs. I just wanted a question if that's okay ? I've started getting white discharge but now it's gone brown what should I do? Is there anything to worry about ?
    Lauren
    Xx

    Hi Lauren, this could be your period so my advice is to have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • i have a boyfriend at school but one of my friends said 'if you dont kiss or anything you aren't boyfriend and girlfriend'. then I wondered, are we realy just good friends. we do things that friends do but not boyfriend and girlfriend do.

    I would not listen to your friend, there is no rush for you and your boyfriend to kiss or be intimate. Being a couple if much more than being intimate, it is about being good friends.

  • Hi. I started my period back in january, so this is like my 10th period. Ive just finished it yesterday but that whole period was just brown blood, no red blood or anything. Should i be worried cos there was no red blood for the whole period (7 days)
    from Lisa ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

    Hi Lisa, menstrual fluid can vary in colour from period to period and day to day and light brown fluid is very normal.

  • I have had bad cramps for a few weeks. Does this mean that i will start my period

    Menstrual cramps are often noticed as your reproductive organs mature and this can happen both before and after your period has arrived and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki, im 14 and im really tall for my age, about 5'10/5'11. I would be really lucky for my height if I was skinny, but I'm really fat and it makes me feel really sad. I do dance and eat quite healthily but im still about 68kg and I hate myself for it. Also everyone is starting to get boyfriends and I havent and I barely know any boys (all girls school) and I have a pixie cut which I really like but I feel like people think im really fat and ugly and no one is ever going to like me. What do I do?

    It is very common for teenagers to judge themselves too harshly and I am sure you are beautiful and your hair suits your style. As you are 14 you still have quite a bit of development to go, so be patient, continue eating a healthy diet and exercising and I am sure you body will find its ideal weight.

  • Hi Vicki, in primary school, I used to be really good friends with this boy and our mums are also really good friends. We went to different secondary schools and drifted well apart but recently weve started chatting quite a lot on facebook. I really like him, I think in a more than friends way, but I found out that he has a girlfriend but its making me sad because shes so much prettier than I am and I still really like him. What do I do? I'm 14 by the way.

    Its a shame that you like this boy when he already has a girlfriend and I am afraid he is now off limits as anything other than a friend.

  • Hi Vicki!
    What is my bra size?
    68
    64?
    Thanks! !!

    30AA is your size.

  • Hi viki
    For about 3 and a half years I have had like a white/clear discharge and recently have been getting a heavier brown/red discharge. I'm a bit confused wether or not this is my period?

    Yes this would be your period as menstrual fluid can be light brown in colour, so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Vicki! Is it normal to get discharge after your first period, like all the time? Thanks

    Yes discharge is often noticed in between periods and can continue until your twenties.

  • Below my belly button my stomach i big and i masterbate am i pregnant. I have had some pregnancy symptoms and im scared

    You cannot become pregnant from masturbation, so please do not worry about this.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I just started my period ( yesterday ) and today it was really heavy. How often should I change my pad? I had a night pad on till 11 this morning then put a fresh regular pad on and left it on till 2 and put on a new regular pad and left it till 5 and now I have a night pad on. How often should I change my pad and is it normal to have browny black stuff along with the blood?
    Lulu1256

    Hi, firstly browny black fluid is very normal and nothing to worry about. As for pad changing, a pad can be worn for up to 8 hours especially at night, but most people prefer to change their pad every 3-5 hours.

  • Hi Vicki, my self esteem is really low. I have no confidence and its affecting me. I get so stressed out and I feel really anxious about going to school every morning. I don't know what to do about this? All of my friends are quite confident and that's making me feel worse as I'd love to be as confident as them. Is there anything I can do to build my confidence and have a bit more self esteem? Thanks, Vicki! x

    Start by liking yourself and your life a little more. Take the time to organise fun things to do with your family and friends, become more involved and slowly but surely your confidence will grow.

  • Is it true that if you haven't had your period you can't get pregnant

    Not this is not true, as if your period is close and you are sexually active you may still become pregnant.

  • Hey so last week when I went to the bathroom I had like blood in my underwhere but it's been a week now and there's hasn't been any blood is this normal

    This could have been your first period and they can often be very light so try not to worry and ensure from now on you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • hi vicki
    i sumtimes get really horny when talkin to this boy i really like and i sumtimes touch myself my breasts when talkin to him online or sumthin
    i feel like i want to send him pics of me with not much clothes on
    is this ok?
    thanks

    Never be tempted to send pictures of an intimate nature to anyone as it could be deemed unlawful and you may also find this boy then passed them on to other people...again this would be unlawful. It is normal however to find you have feelings of a sexual nature but for now it would be wise not to act upon them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm sorry if this question is inappropriate.i actually when I have goosebumps by nipples become a little big,big in the sense just kinda comes out a little.is it a problem?

    No this is not a problem as nipples are very sensitive to temperature and touch and can appear fuller when we feel the cold.

  • Hi Vicki, sorry if this is off topic or inappropriate! I'm 11 years old and have been thumbsucking forever. My mum puts oil on my thumb, but I just wash it off or suck my other thumb. I suck through the plaster when I wear one. I also have a tendency to bite the corner of my duvet for some reason and I love the smell (my family thinks this is gross.) Have you got any suggestions, I really want to stop but cant force myself to! -Felicity

    Hi Felicity, why not try wearing mittens when in the house, this should stop you from thumbsucking and consider taking up sports that will keep you active and unable to such your thumb.

  • i had my 3rd period about 2โ€“3 weeks ago and i think im havin another 1 now i dont want to tell my mum in case its not my period is this possible and what should i do pls answer ASAP
    dusty (~ยบ_ยบ~)

    It is quite possible as periods often have both short or long gaps between each one so please try not to worry.

  • Dear VIcki,
    I know this might sound strange, but I've been snapchatting this guy I am interested in for quite a while now. (I'm 14 by the way, he's 15).
    Is there a way I can tell him I like him without coming across as creepy or weird?
    Thankssssssssss:)

    Just by chatting to him you are showing him you like him, but please do not be tempted to tell him private information about yourself or share any provacative pictures. And never ever meet someone you do not know without speaking to your parents.

  • I need help! My boyfriend is gets 'depressed' when I don't talk to him on Skype like I want to speak to my other guy friends but when I say I can't call you or something like that. I know you will say break up with him and I love him but I feel like I need my space and when I do he is like ''I want to kill myself'' (to tell the truth I think He has no other people to talk to) what should I do without upsetting anyone?
    -Pink unicorn

    Hi Pink Unicorn, be firm and let him know that you have other friends and will want to spend time away from him and with them, which I have to say is healthy. And encourage him to do the same, if he has no friends then suggest he joins some clubs and meets new people.

  • Hey Vicki :)
    I need a little advice on how to come out to my best friend, I've always planned for her to be the first one to know about my sexuality but things didn't work out how I wanted them to and I ended up messily telling two other friends. I'm very confused about my sexuality and I'm hoping it will change but this is something I really want to do, I've never kept anything from her and I don't intend to start now.
    Sorry for writing so much and thank you for any advice that you give :)

    Find time to be alone and let her know you want to share some news with her before she hears about it from others. Let her know that for now you are not 100% sure if this is the way you are but for now would really love her support.

  • Hello vicky
    I am the one of the first to start my period in my friendship group and our worried about it and who to talk to.
    Thanks

    There is no reason why you should share this news with anyone as your friends will not be able to tell you are menstruating just by looking at you. So for now keep this news to yourself until you feel comfortable sharing this news.

  • Hi Vicki. I was just wondering if we can get samples to St them out for free?

    We do send out free samples of our range, if you have your parent's permission to request samples, simply click on the word 'Contact' at the bottom of the page and request a pack.

  • Hi I have worn a tampon before, when I took it out it ripped a hole in my skin around the area where it goes in. I told my mum and she said to go the female parts doctor- the word begins with a g- but I am very self conscious and don't want to do you have any ideas
    I wore another tampon the other day a d when I took it out it was fine

    It sounds very much like you stretched your hymen; the piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina and if you have inserted a tampon after this episode I do not think you have anything to worry about.

  • I am 12. I have been going through puberty for a couple of years and have had discharge for roughly 1 and a half years. Just recently, I have started to get an occasional belly ache, and greasy spots. Is this a sign of my period? Also, the hair on my legs and under my arms is blonde (like my hair) not black- is that normal? Thanks so much vicki
    Ruby

    Hi Ruby,  all of this is very normal and a sure sign that your period is not too far away.

  • Okay so I'm 12 and I have no confidence and all my friends do I feel scared to talk to people there are people in my year at school and I'm scared that if I say something wrong they will judge me for it and judge the way my voice is... Please help thankyou xx

    It is very common for teenagers to feel a little lacking in confidence during puberty, but please don't stop contributing to conversations; yes you may have comments back that are a little critical, even teasing, we all do, but simply shrug them off and carry on chatting.

  • Vicki,

    The other day in school, this boy I like winked at me cuz we are quite close, but it felt like my heart melted, what does this mean?

    Leah๐Ÿ‰๐Ÿ‰๐Ÿ‰

    Hi Leah, it means you like this boy and I feel he may like you too.

  • Vicki I have a small lump that is sore to touch near the back of my vagina! What is it? I am a virgin but could it still be dangerous?

    Your vulva will have lots of different parts to it and they will feel different when touched, but if you feel any pain you should speak to your parents and ask them to pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • Hi Vicky I have had two out of three of my HPV vaccines, when I got the first two it hurt when the needle was in and then through out the rest of the day it hurt so bad I could barely move the arm I got it in, is this normal? or do I need to ask my doctor about this, ps. I got it in my right arm

    This is normal and nothing for you to worry about.

  • What does your first period look like.

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red and the amountyou lose can vary too.

  • HI VICKY I really wanna know when I am going 2 get my period I. Am FREAKIN OUT !!!! PS: I am going to turn 12 in december so what is my age. Xoxo lUV Ulots vicky plz put this in the periods section. Sunshine 1253

    Hi Sunshine 1253, your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you really do have to be patient and wait for your body to find the right time for you. Reading all the great stuff on our website should make you feel a little easier about the changes that are coming your way.

  • Hi Vicki I have just turned 14 and I have been having very bad tummy pains for the past 2 days and I have been having tummy cramps I have not started my period yet but I think I might be starting soon ?

    It may be and my advice is to keep busy and active as this will quickly ease and discomfort.

  • how do I know if I have a tipped uterus?

    Some people have this difference to their body but never know, as it has no impact on their life.

  • I know it's stupid but at the moment I get really annoyed at some of my friends - don't get me wrong I really love them but I just am finding the things they do reaaly annoying.
    I am getting myself down and annoyed as I feel bad - what should I do ?
    anxiousant123

    Puberty can leave lots of people feeling frustrated and out of balance with friends and loved ones. My advice is to take some time to be alone when you feel yourself getting annoyed and having a chat to your friends letting them know that you find it difficult to handle your emotions. I am sure they will understand.

  • Hi Vicky, what do you do, if you go swimming you have never had your period before but when your in the pool you get your period? would you be able to tell that you had your period before getting out of the pool or blood leaking out of your swimsuit bottoms and getting in the water?

    It would be highly unlikely and if your period had just started the amount of blood would not be enough to cause you any concern.

  • Hi Vicki it's Amy I'm 13
    This morning I had one spot if blood but it was near where my bottom goes in my pants what is this?

    This could have been your period, alternatively it could be a little bit of blood released from your anal passage when releasing waste food, an indication that you are constipated and need a little bit more fibre in your diet.

  • Hi Viki! I have this thing where I'll like a guy and I'll flirt with him and then when he likes me I'll kinda stop liking him. I've tried just 'not liking anyone' but that didn't last very long. Any advice? Why do I do this!

    I wonder if it the thought of somone liking you that you love more than the boys themselves. I would continue just thinking of boys as friends for now and you may just find the right boy is right under your nose.

  • There's this boy at school I like but I don't know how to speak to him???

    Emily x ๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Emily, why not start by smiling for a couple of seconds when you see him and saying "Hi". When you feel more comfortable you could then ask him what he was up to at the weekend; a great way to get to know someone better.

  • Hi I am 14 years old and my period feels quite heavy and I don't feel confident to wear tampons yet so will a pad hold me for the night ?? And also I have flows of blood will this last for the rest of my 5 days??

    Why not consider wearing our Lil-lets freshlock night pads for when sleeping and our freshlock long pads during the day, when your flow is heavy.

  • please can i have a free sample of your things so i can try them all out and see what i like and can buy again and what isnt right for me so i can give to my cousin and not buy them again?

    You can drop me a line by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page.

  • i know this may sound weird however my discharge come at a certain time of month, i just call it my discharge period. why would it only be at a certain time of month?

    Discharge is based around hormone levels and as these can change from day to day within the month and is very normal.

  • Average Bra Size for 12-13 year old girls?

    There is no average, we are all different and breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes no matter what our age.

  • Hi Vicki! I have been having a lot of discharge lately it's embarrassing when my mum does the laundry is it normal for me to be having so much discharge at 11 yrs 10 mths it is a white colour or sometimes creamy yellow it makes me feel as if I have wet myself. What does this mean ? I have discharge everyday .

    Discharge is often noticed on a daily basis and from time to time quite a bit of fluid is released. If you feel it may help why not consider wearing pant liners.

  • Hi vicki,
    So the other day, a few days before my period,I was just staring at the desk at school. A boy who I. Usaly quite friendly with ( in a friends way) asked if I was ok. I had woke up in a bad mood and I just snapped at him. He is staying away from me now, and irs kind of my fault.Any hints on just talking again?
    Thanks,
    Golden_girl

    Hi Golden Girl, how about saying sorry to him for your behaviour, letting him know he caught you on a bad day.

  • Hi Vicki!
    OK, there' this boy in my year. We don't have ANY classes together but we met at one of our transition days and another boy said he might fancy me. He (the second boy) still thinks it now. I don't fancy the first boy, to me, he's just a friend but I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying, "I don't fancy you." but I don't want to keep him in the dark either. HELP!!!
    Mimi

    Mimi, you can drop a few hints into any conversations you have with either this boy or his friend. Letting them know that you like both of them as friends but that is all.

  • Hi Vicki! I really love the teens day pads. They are so petite and cute- I love them! Sometimes when my flow is heavier than it should I use the pads as pant liners.
    I have something to say about your adult tampons... I was searching for regular(I want to start using tampons soon), and I feel that the packaging is not great. I mean, there isn't tape on the opening flap so some people just open then and scatter the tampons everywhere... Perhaps you could add tape to make them more secure? Xx

    I will pass your comment on, thank you for your feedback.

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 years old I haven't started my period yet but I had white discharge for a bit. But now it's gone a brown colour Today. What should I do I? Im scared. Is there anything wrong? Xx

    This could be your period, so please put a pad or liner in your underwear and see if any more fluid is lost over the next couple of days...and if so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi, I am feeling like a third wheel around my two other best friends, what should I do?

    Why not have a chat to them letting them know how you feel and if there is any chance you can do things as a threesome from now on. It may be that they have not realised they are leaving you out.

  • Hi vicki

    I am going on a ski holiday in a few months and you need to tell them yiur weight. And I am quite embarrassed about this because my older sister is almost a stone lighter then me and she's a lot older and taller than me aswell. What can I do about this?
    Thankyou so much
    Sophie xx

    Hi Sophie, there is no need to be embarrassed we are all different and it never does do to compare yourself to others. So give your measurements and have a wonderful holiday.

  • Hi, is it normal for discharge to suddenly become brown-ish?
    Thanks x

    If discharge becomes brown, then it is almost certainly your period arriving and something you should share with your mum or the person show cares for you.

  • I'm confused about my sexuality:( how will i find out what gender i really like?

    There really is no rush to work out who you are and during your puberty sexuality can be quite confusing, so wait a few years and all will become clear.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i read ur advise on Boris and he still isn't leaving off. He hit my friend who's a boy with his blazer at school. So i pushed Boris into the wall and he was bleeding. I feel guilty but i felt i should protect my friend. I just wanted Boris to go away. Its so annoying, becoz im not usually a violent person.

    Darcy-Mae xx๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, it is never a good idea to use violence to beat a bully and it is now up to your friend to tackle this bully, either by herself or with the help of her teacher or parents.

  • Hi, Vicki

    I'm the girl again in year 10 doing "Moving Image" So I said "No" and she said "You have too" But i think she wants to push me by perhaps because I don't like her and she a bully. But the teacher always she nice, but she really horrible to me (especially me) But I already told the teacher before she was bullying me, what should I do? I don't want to listen her anyone she asking me to do things!

    (Sorry it's long)

    Again speak to your teacher or ask your parents to speak to her on your behalf.

  • Hi Vicki

    It's me again a girl who was in Year 10 doing "Moving Image" she perhaps saying that i looked like a nerd and i do wear glasses, another reason is we are planning our script and a girl who was with her said (Not the bully) "We need to push someone (As a part of our acting) and the bully said (My Name should do it) And I said "No" and she said "You can't no" and I said "I can"

    See Part 3

    Good for you, I am pleased you are standing up for yourself and not letting someone force you into things you are not happy to do. My advice is also to have a chat to your teacher if you find the 'pushing' scene uncomfortable and he or she may decide to change it.

  • Hi vicki I asked you a question and you told me my bra size was 30AA . Is this the right size to start wearing one?

    Only if you want to, you could still wear a crop top of vest if you prefer. There really is no rush, it's all about what makes you feel comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Why is it illegal to have sex when you're under the age of 16? I don't want to break the law, I'm just curious.
    Mimi

    The law is designed to protect children, who although their bodies may be physically mature enough to have sexual relations are NOT emotionally or mentally able to deal with such adult subjects.

  • HI Vicki

    I'm a girl in year 10 and i was doing my lesson called "Moving Image" which we need to acting and doing camera shots,This time my partner wasn't in she was at a trip so I work with the other girl which I know very well but a girl who was bullied but no one knows because she always tell the teacher that she get bullied but she bullying me! She was saying "No Offensive (My Name) but I don't like your full fringe because it makes people look like a nerd"

    See Part 2

    Be brave and stand up to this girl letting her know you respect her comments but that should be constructive and not negative. This should let her know that you are not someone who will stand for bullying.

  • dear Vicki,
    i am spotty and all the horrible things have or are happening to me and i have had the white stuff for 2 years I`m 12 and nothings happening!!!!!
    Thank you,
    Scarlet

    Hi Scarlet, puberty is what's happening and so many things will be noticed, such as spot breakouts, moods swings and discharge. One other thing that will happen is your period and it will come, you just have to be patient; periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • hey vicki
    ive been getting thick, white,smelly stuff on my pants!what is it, please help x
    love nikki xox
    please answer in discharge section!

    Hi Nikki, this is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Last year, my male friend and his sister, who's friends with my sister, came round for a sleepover. We slept top-and-tail on my mum's bed, our sisters one side, us the other. We didn't have sex, no, but as we're opposite sexes, I still feel like we broke the law (we were 10 then). Did we break the law by mistake?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, no laws were broken here so please try not to worry.

  • Viki- I'm always so confident when I talk to boys via text, snapchat, etc. though when it comes to actually seeing them I get all nervous! What do you think I should do? Also boys never find me attractive so never want to be my boyfriend or do anything! Any advice?! Xoxo Kimmy

    Hi Kimmy, getting to know someone as a friend is key to feeling comfortable around them. So rather than considering them as boyfriend material find out more about them what they like to do and you will soon feel better chatting in person.

  • Viki, it's kimmy again, what you said about my crushes party is that I don't know if I do like him really, although I think I would like to get off with him but the problem is I don't know how to get off with someone. :(

    Please help!? Xx
    Kimmy x

    Hi Kimmy, if you do not feel comfortable being intimate with someone then the simple fact is you should not consider doing so. Being intimate with someone is very natural and not something you need to be taught so for now try to keep your relationship on friendly terms only and never be forced into anything by anyone.

  • PArt Five My friend M - the one who knows about how in love I am with J says that maybe J is trying to get a reaction aout of me or see if I am interested in other boys. I am not sure, to be honest. She says that boys minds work in mysterous ways - and she is right. She says that if J likes anyone, it would be me.
    Please respond to each paragraph of this. Thankyou Vicki. Its nice to be able to explain my feelings.
    Love, the Confused Girl Of The Ocean

    Hi, it seems J does like you, but like many boys he may not be ready to declare his feelings openly and round others. So my advice is to continue chatting and being friends and see what happens over the next few weeks/months. There really is no rush to date and it must be when you are both ready.

  • Part Four
    Unfortunately, I don't know if he likes me. Sometimes, like when we have fun together, have a private joke, converse, or tease each other, I feel as though there may be something there. But today, to some of my other friends who stood nearby, he said that I should date A.
    I presume this is after my friend W told him about the time when a guy called T mistook A for my boyfriend, and apparently J agreed. This kinda hurt. A lot.


  • Part Three
    He smiles around me a lot, and tries to make me laugh all the time. Twice today I caught him staring in my direction during maths; once he quickly looked away, the second time I don't think that he realised that I saw him. Or at least, he carried on staring.

  • Part Two

    We hang around in a large group of friends together. All our friends tease us about one another, but only one of them knows my true feelings towards J. I usually deny any attraction towards him because I don't want to ruin our sort-of-friend-ship. And he denies his feelings towards me because they probably don't even exist.

  • Part One

    I am really into this guy, lets call him J. All of my friends think that we are kind of cute together, especially as his best friend is going out with my best friend. He is funny and a proper gentleman, though some would argue that he isn't the best looking. I think that he is gorgeous though, both inside and out.
    xx

    My response is in your final question to me.

  • I would like to know is it a good idea to practise using a liner and wipes before your period when you've got your discharge

    Lots of people wear pant liners to keep their underwear clear of discharge and wipes too keep you feeling clean and fresh even before their period arrives as both of these products are ideal.

  • Hi Vicki! I have been having a lot of discharge lately and it's embarrassing when mum does the laundry. It it normal for this to be happening to a 11 yr old ? What does it mean? It makes me feel like I have wet myself and it's white and creamy yellow

    Experiencing discharge is very normal for someone of your age and shows you are now becoming a young woman. And try not to worry about any residue being left inside your underwear, this can easily be washed out with no marks being left.

  • hey vicki i turned 14 last month and my weight is 50kg and my height is 149cm am i healthy or fat

    Rather than worry about what the scales say, consider rather eating a healthy diet, exercising often and you will soon find your body finds your ideal weight just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm a 12 year old girl and I'm going 13 in july next year. I think I am lesbian, cause I have a crush on a girl in my class but she's not lesbian because she has a crush on a boy. I was wondering if its okay to be lesbian especially at my age. I think I've been lesbian for around 8 months and I don't want to be awkward and tell her what should I do?

    It is very common during puberty to be confused about your sexuality and there really is no need to label yourself at this time. It would be far better to wait a few years and see how you feel now.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I LOVE YOUR WEBSITE!
    So My question is, I have been devolving breasts for 6 or more months and at the moment I wear a 30 AA though I think I need a 30 A. Anyway I always wear non wired and so when do you think it okay to wear underwired?
    I'm 11 by the way :)

    There is no reason to ever wear a wired bra if you do not wish to, it really is a personal choice and for those that do wear them it is generally for fuller bust and not really necessary for an A or B cup.

  • Im 11 years old, I'll be 12 in about 4 months.. I've started to get discharge but I don't know what it means, is it normal, is this puberty?

    Discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagain clean and free from infection. It is also a great sign that your period is not too far away, it's all normal and part of your journey to becoming a young woman.

  • I'm 13yrs old I had my first proper period in December 2013 Iv not had 1 since I'm losing a lot of discharge and get stomach pains but nothing else also Iv had quite a big weight gain in the last couple of months is this normal.

    Periods can often have long gaps between each one, sometimes of several months, but if you are 100% sure that it was a period in December 2013 then why not have a chat to your mum about this delay.

  • Hi Vicki
    I luv this website so much...i luv so much tht itz even became an addiction to use this site..N i also luv it because your always replying back..Thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜† so much!
    My Question:
    When girls start they period does it come out with they urine..or is it just like discharge it only releases *ฬฉn ur panty liner//pad//panty
    Thnx Vicki
    Love Lulu(Addicted chick)

    Menstrual fluid leaves your body from the same place as discharge; your vagina. However as blood is often left around the vaginal entrance, when you visit the toilet to release urine it can appear pink or red as it captures some of the blood around the vagina which is mixed with your urine.

  • Hi vicky i was just wondering what size bra I am and if i should start wearing a bra yet...and also should I ask my mom for a bra or just wsit until she mentions it. Im 14 soon
    Under 70
    Fullest 82
    Thank you

    32A is your size and if you feel ready for your first bra then it would be more than acceptable to speak to her about going shopping for one. You could even ask her how old she was when she got her first bra to start the conversaion off.

  • So all of a sudden I fell like I had to pee before I could get up I just started peeing a little it was pee I'm 11 it's not happened before and I have not got my period help

    Have a chat to your mum if this continues as you may have a small urine infection that can be quickly cleared up with treatment.

  • Hi vicky im 13 years old and sometimes i worry that my boobs are not big enough comparing to my friends .. i measured my breast and 76cm is that too small ? thx

    The simple advice I can offer you here is to not compare any part of your progress through puberty with your friends. You will all be different and in my opinion breasts are beautiful whatever their size or shape.

  • Hey Vicki,

    For the last 3 or so days I have been having brownish/ redsish discharge, I'm 13 years old and haven't had my first period yet so I was just wondering if this could be my first period. Or if it was an early sign of me getting my period, I really need your help because I don't have a mother to look up to and I only have my dad by my side but I'm a bit nervous to ask him. So I want to know if this is my first ever period.

    Thanks Zoe xx

    This certainly is your period and it may be an idea to let your dad know by writing him a note or speaking to a family member such as an grandmother or aunt and they will ensure you have some pads or tampons from now on to keep your underwear protected.

  • So each month one of the ovaries realises an egg but it says that they both release eggs so do they like take it in turns or is it just random

    No one really knows the answer to this. Lots of people believe they take it in turns, but others now believe that this is just a random occurrence.

  • Heya!x
    So today this bump came up above my lip and I told my mom about it and she said that it's just a cold sore and it's going to go away within a week or so. I googled ways to get rid of it faster and came across some information about herpies. I haven't kissed anyone recently nor have I had oral sex. Where did this cold sore come from??
    Lola๐Ÿ’œ

    Hi Lola, cold sores are part of the herpes family and they very often lay dormant for many years only to reappear when you are stressed or in the sun without sun protection. So you could have innocently kissed a family member some time ago that had the virus and this has now been passed to you. My advice it to not touch it at all and it will soon disappear on its own.

  • Hey. I hate my dads girl friend! I just hate her!!! She's really really thick she's never never serious she laughs at everything and I mean everything. She is also really mean in a joking way but the worst thing is she now has an amazing job all cause of my idiot dad who never gave my mum a job. She also is very unhealthy and my dad has gained so much wait since he met her. He also drinks to much! Is there anything I can do to save him from well her?!

    Give this lady a chance, it is clear your dad loves her very much and I am sure he will greatly appreciate you taking the time to get to know her and understand that whilst she is not like you, she may still be a really nice person.

  • Hi Vicki, I had brown discharge in my pants a few weeks ago and it continued to happen for 2-3 days, what was this? I have also had a lot of clear, white discharge for about a year and a half? Thanks๐Ÿ˜Šx

    This was your period and you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.


  • I'm now at secondary school and the craze is peircing everyone's ears. They were all doing it the "Parent trap way" until one of my friends bought an ear peircing gun off amazon; I don't know if your allowed them or not but I don't like it! She's only 13! Also, they don't have any ear cleaner and the training studs are rubbish... I know I'm probably over reacting, but do you think I should tell my maton? I just don't want them all to get into massive trouble if they are caught... What do you think?

    I think you should definitely speak to an adult about this matter as if not done professionally serious infections can be contracted, not to mention mutilation of the ear if the piercing does not go to plan.

  • I've started my period! This is my 3rd month, for the last 2 every thing has been normal. But I haven't had this months period yet and I'm about a week late. If I miss this months period is it normal because my body is getting used to them? If I don't get it this month I hope there not a problem I don't know whether it's normal of not.
    Thanks Vickiโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    Periods are very often irregular for the first few years, with gaps of several months between each one being very common, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, I have two questions? I'm 14 and haven't gone through puberty yet but my boobs have started to grow a couple of months ago but they are still the same size before. I don't wear a bra yet but they hurt when I jump so I think I should get one. And is normal for my boobs to be like this slow? Also I have quite a big upper body to my legs and I want to lose my big stomach and my love-handles but u can't do sit ups. Can you help me? ?
    Thank you. Fatimah. ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

    Hi Fatimah, breast development is all part of puberty and you will start to notice changes very slowly at first and if you feel a bra will reduce the amount of movement then why not ask your mum to pop you into a store to be measured. As for shape, my advice is to simply eat a healthy diet and exercise often and by exercise I mean walking, swimming or dancing, all of which will help tone your body.

  • Hey! I was just wondering whether it's normal to have to change my pad every two-three hours....I know I heavy periods but they just seem to keep getting worse....It's really embarassing. :/

    Pads can be worn for up to 8 hours but most people change every 3-5 hours. When your flow is at its heaviest you may find wearing a long pad such as our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads are more suitable.

  • Hi Viki! I like this guy in my base class in school and I'm 13. Some people in my year go out with each other and they are always pressuring the girls into kissing the guys and making a big deal about it. I really like this guy and I would like to go out with him but I wouldn't feel comfortable kissing him. I think he likes me but what would I say if he asked me out. Please help!

    There is no rush to kiss anyone if you do not feel ready and if this boy likes you he will wait. Kissing is a very natural act and when the momemt comes it will be magical. Why not read my blog entitled First Kiss.

  • All my friends talk to their mums about doing sexual things with their boyfriends but I don't know how to talk to my mum about it

    Just because your friends have this kind of relationship with their mums, does not automatically mean you have to. So please don't feel you have to force this kind of conversation if either of you are not comfortable to do so.

  • I'm 14 and I've got a boyfriend that I'm really happy with, we've talked about having sex and I want too but I'm worried because all my friends are on some form of contraception and I'm not, but I don't know how to ask anyone in my family as its a bit of a taboo subject, please help me

    As you are under the age of 16 it would be unlawful for you to be sexually active and regardless of whether friends are having sexual relations my advice is to have a chat to your boyfriend and ask him to be patient and wait until you are 16. You may also like to have a chat to your local Brook or Family Planning clinic who will be able to advise you of your options for when the time comes.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 11 (12 in January ) and been having discharge for a year and a half almost size aa bra quite a bit of pubic hair and armpit hair anyway when do you think I should start as I have being having cramps everyday practically for the last 7 months also 3 of my friends have started 1 was 10 when she started and the others year six. I really want my period as I'm jelous as I want to feel normal and experienced is this normal

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you. This is not a competition and it really does not pay to compare your progress with that of others, you are normal and the fact that you have so many signs of puberty shows this, so please be patient and see what the next few months bring.

  • hi Vicki do you know if you are skinny do you still get periods? cause I am 17 and still haven't started but I keep getting this gooey discharge in my underwear and i also got 4 months ago brown stuff with blood on and I got it again last week too. does this mean that I have started my first period?

    This brown fluid is your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. And for the first few years large gaps between each period is very normal.

  • Hi vicki my mum is against me plucking or waxing my eyebrows or upper lip and my friends get theirs threaded at 13 which i think is too young. They keep pressuring me to get mine done but I ignore them. how to I make my upper lip hair less noticable do I pluck them and how do I make plucking less painful thank you caandychristmas16 xx

    If your mum is against any removal of body hair then she may be happy for you to lighten your upper lip hair. But please don't feel you have to do anything just because others have chosen to remove theirs.

  • Hi vicki c:
    I was 10 in Augus)t and aboyt 3 months ago ( i check my undererwere for my period every day) I looked atmy 'area' and it had sort of thick white-blonde hair on it. My hair is naturally brown and i dont know if its pubic hair. Can u help me pls thanks x
    Ellie

    Hi Ellie, pubic hair is not always the same colour as the hair on our heads so try not to worry this is very normal.

  • If you are medium flow how often do you need to change yoy pad?

    Most people change their pads every 3-5 hours if you need to change more often than this, your flow may be heavier and you should consider wearing a long pad instead.

  • I HAD A CRUSH ON SO MAY PEOPLE IN 3 YEARS.
    KYLE COOK BEN
    KIERAN BROWN
    NICK
    JAKE FOLKYEARD
    JAKE BAYLUM
    KYLE JOPLING
    THE NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGESD FOR PRIVICY.
    IS IT NORMALS TO LIKE PEOPLE LIKE THIS I AM IN YEAR 10 THEY ARE ALL TIN THE EAYR BELOW ME

    During your teen years when feelings of a sexual and emotional nature start to form, it is very normal to find yourself attracted to others, but as you say these are simply crushes and soon disappear over time.

  • Hi.
    I am MattSmithIsTheBAE.
    I am in love with this guy at school. More than a crush. In love. I cry if I don't see him. I am in love. But I am thirteen. Is this possible? To be so in love? I want to ask him out but I'm too shy, we are kind of friends, but its a little awkward becauese everyone tells us we should go out whenever ew are together. Anuy advuce?
    Love, MattSmithIsTheBAE xxxxxxx

    Love does does not have an age limit to it and if you truly love this boy, then let him know you would like to date and see if he agrees. I would hold off telling him about your love for a while though as he may not be ready for that kind of committment or pressure.

  • Do you like Doctor Who? I've noticed a lot of whovians on here, so I wondered whether you liekd it?

    Love, MattSmithIsTheBAE xxx

    If I am honest I have never watched it, but lots of girls in the office do and love the show, so maybe I am missing out!

  • I fancy Peter Capaldi.
    I am thirteen.
    IS THIS WRONG HE IS LIKE 5O ODD!!!!?????? BUT I LOVE HIM!!!!!!! Sorry if innap but I am worried that having a celeb crush on an older guy is wierd.

    Crushes are very personal to the individual and not weird at all, but like most crushes it will disappear over time so try not to worry.

  • my mum has told me i need to start wearing a bra but im really nervous about it as none of the girls in my class are wearing one i dont want to be the embarased about it as it happens to everyone at some point but i dont want to be the first so what do i do

    Getting your first bra is a big step in any girls life and someone always has to be first.  Why not ask your mum to pick you up a crop top too when getting your first bra, you can then wear this to school and wear your bra around the house until you grow accustomed to how it feels, in a couple of weeks you may then feel more confident to wear your bra on a daily basis.

  • My friends sometimes comment on my breast size saying that they are big. I am a 34D and 14 years old. Would you consider this to be quite big compared to other people my age?

    There is no right or wrong size for anyone's breasts to be regardless of their age, so try not to worry and ignore any comments from friends.

  • Hey how Are you Vicki?

    I only have discharge no period and I wondered if it was ok for me to practise using tampons? Also what is the expected age I will get my period?

    Love Anonymous

    You should only ever use tampons when your period is with you and as you have already noticed discharge this may not be too far away; discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months. I would advise that you wear pads for the first couple of periods you have so you can grow accustomed to your flow and cycle before switching to tampons.

  • Hello Vicki

    I am 10 years old but my nipples are a bit more big and I was thinking is it breast buds or are they just getting ready to have breast buds?

    This could be the start of breast development for you and you may soon start to notice little lumps under your breasts as they start to grow that can often make the nipples appear a little puffy.

  • Hi Vicky!

    Recently, when my discharge dries a tiny bit of it crusts over greenish! Also there is a slight odour, what is happening! Please reply, Tasha x๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Tasha, discharge often has a green tinge to it when it dries and a slight odour too. Why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis and having some of our fabulous teens freshen-up wipes to use after visiting the toilet, this will help with the odour and leave you feeling clean and fresh too!

  • How do mark when you periods start and finish and how can you spot the pattern??

    It can take a few years for periods to form a regular pattern but that does not mean you should not start marking the date of your periods. So put a tick in your diary or calendar on the first day you notice blood being released and then again when the first day of your next period arrives. This will be your menstrual cycle, but like I said don't worry if there are gaps of several months between each one for a little while.

  • how do you shave your legs without hurting yourself

    The trick is to lather this area very well before shaving, with either shaving foam, shower gel or even hair conditioner. Then using a clean and fresh razor you should use upward movements to remove the hair, but if you can try never to go over the same area twice as they can lead to a rash. Finally, never remove hair on your body without getting permission from your parents.

  • I am embarrassed to ask my mum to buy me some more pads. Do you have any tips on how to ask her.Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, why not write a shopping list of things you need such as pads, anti-perspirant, wipes etc and pass it on to her for when she next goes shopping.

  • Hi I have had brown stuff coming out of my vagina twice now and now theres blood have I strted my period ??xxx

    Yes this is your period, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you, so they can ensure you have some pads or liners to protect your underwear.

  • hey Vicki my down there gets very sweaty and starts to smell of discharge and when i touch that part of my trousers and smell my hand it smells
    answer this question please
    Kendall xx

    Hi Kendall, why not consider wearing a pant liner on a daily basis to capture any discharge or urine released and remember to wash this area daily if possible.

  • My discharge smells is this normal

    Discharge does have a slight odour to it, but if it is offensive then it may be mixed wth sweat, urine or faeces. So it is important to pay extra special attention to this area when washing daily and when you visit the toilet always make sure you have wiped this area thoroughly with toilet tissue. You may even find using our Lil-Lets teens pant liners and freshen-up wipes is useful too.

  • Hi vicky,
    I'm 12 and 9st, I have quite a lot of body fat and I don't like it, I always have a double chin and no one seems to like me I am also goofy and used to ride so my mum said most of it is muscle but I am really insecure about it because my skirt at school just has a lump in it where as all the other girls have a nice flat skirt, I haven't started my period yet but have had discharge for 1yr and keep getting stomach cramps ๐Ÿ’œ thx vicky ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ’œ
    Skyyy ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    Hi Skyyy, please don't worry too much about your shape as you have so many more years of development to come and your shape will change quite a lot over the next few years. For your part, ensure that you eat a healthy diet with not too many sweet or greasy treats and exercise regularly.You will soon find your body finds its ideal weight just for you.

  • Please could you do like a video of your self answering the girls questions?!!! Please I would be sooo greatful and happy!
    I mean like reading out the questions and answering them.
    Ok..I can understand if you werent comfertable doing this...But I just wanna see you!! :D
    cheese

    You can see me cheese, there is a photo of my on the About Vicki section on our website.

  • Hey vicki! Would it be possible for you to interview Colleen Ballinger in one of your videos, shes a youtuber! She doesent live in the UK is that okay? I love her sooo much..do you know her? Thankssoomuchxxxx!!!
    cheese

    I will share your comment with the team and we will add it our list of people to chat to in 2015.

  • I am 13 and started my periods 2 years ago, i am size 32AA will i be this size forever?

    Breasts continue to develop into our late teens and early twenties so please try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm turning 16 soon, and my periods still haven't started. Should I be worried? Thank you.

    No, not at all. Periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • I was walking home by myself (from school) but there was lots of people around, and this man drove past me in his car and he turned and looked at me as he turned the road, and I carried on walking and saw he had stopped and I went past them he carried on driving the way I was going, luckily I went across the field instead but saw he had stopped again outside a school, where I would have been walking, I'm really scared he was stalking me or something please help

    Please speak to your parents and school about this matter, it may be nothing but it pays to share what you experienced with others and in future try to walk home with a group of friends or ask your parents to collect you for a few weeks until you feel less anxious and more confident.

  • Hey Vicki I've been feeling a bit strange recently and I don't think it's because of puberty. I don't know what it is. It's hard to explain, but sometimes when talking to someone I feel like I'm not quite "on the same page" as them, or that maybe that's what they're thinking. I only get that feeling with some people and I don't know why. I never used to get it.

    Self confidence can often be lost when we go through puberty, with people feeling others are judging them. Don't let this stop you chatting to people and as you get older these feelings will subside.

  • Sorry last time I asked you a question I got the measurements wrong ! But here are the correct ones
    Fullest 28 inch
    Under 26 inch

    II'm 11 and I wear a crop top but I was wondering if I could fit into a bra yet? Could you please tell me my size ?
    Thanks xx Rosie

    Hi Rosie, 30AA is your size.

  • Hey vicki

    I am now getting a bit concerned as my periods are still irregular after having them for 3-4 years. I am 15, 16 in December and I started my period when I had just turned 12 but they are still very irregular. Should I be concerned?

    Not really no, this is very common during your teen years and early twenties.

  • My back really hurts during my period! Any suggestions on what to do?

    A warm bath, a hot water bottle or gentle stretching should help this discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am thirteen now and BARELY a size 8AA... Is that normal. I am really scared that I will be flat chested.. Help me...!

    I really would not worry, breasts come in a variety of sizes and continue developing into our late teens or early twenties, so you have plenty of time for growth to occur.

  • HELLO VICKI.. I HAVE A FRIEND NAMED 'D'.. HE USED TO LIKE ME BUT NOW HE SAYS HE DOESNT.. I WANT HIM TO BE MY BOY FRIEND WHAT DO I DO?

    If this boy has been honest and said he has no romantic feelings for you, then accept and respect his decision and move on, but try if you can to remain good friends. You will soon find someone who cares for you as much as you care for them.

  • Hey! Ummm...this is quite an awkward question but...um....when I have sex I don't want to have any pubic hair but I don't know how to get rid of it!? Any ideas?! Cuz I don't want to shave again as it gets itchy. XxxxKimmy please don't report this inappropriate! I really need a answer xx thanks!

    Hi Kimmy, I wonder why you feel you need to be hair free when being sexually active? There really is no need for this so please don't feel pressured into doing something based on what you think another person will think.

  • Vicky. I am going to my crushes party next weekend and the other day my friend fraped me saying 'will you get
    Off with me' he said "yeah if I get drunk enough." I really want to go there with him but he said "as long as there's no emotional relationship stuff" so I really want to get off with him but I don't know how?! Help please. XxxxKimmy

    If this boy is not interested in the 'emotional stuff' as he calls it, then I would not recommend doing anything with him at all. Remember you have to respect yourself and this boy clearly is not respecting you by making this comment. So why not say thanks....but no thanks...I want a boyfriend who cares for me.

  • Vicky, hey I'm 14 and thought I'd start at 16 like my mum. But I hady period in August and haven't had it since then. Last Friday I started again and on the 5th day it stopped. But after a night of not wearing a pad I found a reddy brown patch in my pants. When I wear a pad now, nothing comes and when I don't stuff comes! I have a party next weekend so I'm quite worried about it for then. Should I wear a pad every day constantly? What should I do?! XoxoKimmy

    Hi Kimmy, very often when we feel our period has ended there is a little more blood yet to be released and for this reason most people wear a pant liner or pad for a day or two after they feel their period has ended just in case.

  • my boyfriend fingered me about a week ago and since then I have been having cramps and heavy discharge. Do you think am pregnant

    No, this will just be a coincidence.

  • About 2 days ago I noticed I had a lot of brown/ dark red discharge in my underwear. I haven't had my first period yet so I don't know if this could be my first period. Because I have been having discharge for 1 to 2 years now, so could this be my first period.

    Julia xx

    Hi Julia, this is almost certainly your first period as very often menstrual fluid is brown and not red in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki

    Its Kelly again I would like to no if it is normal for your period to last only one day.

    Thnx

    Hi Kelly, yes if the period is very light it can only last a day or two.

  • Vicki! I broke my glasses accidentally! I fell a sleep last night them on..and then they kind of like twisted! The next morning I woke up an found them like that then I tried to bend them back to normal very carefully, then it just went SNAP! They split it half! I told my mum and she said we'll get new ones. Good she wasnt angry...but IM angry to myself! WHY did I have to fall asleep in themmm..grrr! Now Im compleatly blind! I cant see far away! Everything is such a blurrr I cant find my things..help?

    I am sure if you visit your optician he will be able to give you some glasses to keep you going until your new ones a ready. And finally don't be too hard on yourself, I don't know any spectacle wearer who has not done this accidently at some time.

  • Hi viki I've read al most all of ur advise about periods but I don't no if I'm going to get my first period still Im 11 yrs old I have have sore and itchy breasts but they arnt fully developed yet I don't wear a bra only crop tops
    I have a few pubic hairs (down there) and it's very itchy , I have lots cramps in my back and stomach which are so annoying food cravings but no discharge. Sooooo am I getting my period soon and also is there such a thing as a long pad
    Ps carolyn

    Hi Carolyn, firstly with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period, maybe even next year. As for pads, well them come in 3 formats, normal, long and night. Our Freshlock range has all three and are super comfortable and super absorbent too.

  • I haven't yet had my first period but for the last 2 days I have been suffering from blood discharge. I'm only 13 so I don't really know what's going on with my body. When I go to the toilet I just pee normal coloured pee so I don't know.

    Menstrual fluid is often light pink or light brown in colour, so I really do feel this is your period and urge you to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi! I am 15 and I still have boobs of a 10 year old.. is this normal? Are they going to grow or is this the size they are going to stay? I just very insecure because all of my friends have normal sizes for their age and then there is me.

    There is no 'normal' size for any woman to be where breasts are concerned, we really are all different. You may however be comforted to learn that your breasts continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties, so please try not to worry.

  • So on really like this boy ๐Ÿ˜ in my grade he is the cutest one of all lol but everytime I want to talk to him I get nervouse I feel like if he hates me !! How should I talk to him
    Thabks

    Rather than worry about chatting consider smiling at first and just saying "Hi" when you see him. This will get you accustomed to his company and in a few weeks you could ask him how his weekend was...as boys love a girl who finds their hobbies interesting.

  • Heyy
    I have a crush on this guy an he told me he likes me and we like really like each other and we both knew it for along time but just recently admitted it. I can tell that he wants to take things further I just don't know what to say. Like my friend told me he said he wanted to kiss me and I want to kiss him so what should I do? Please answer me :)

    Claud's <3

    Hi Claud, kissing is a very natural activity, there is no need to rush into it and it generally happens when you are both relaxed and without warning. Why not read my blog entitled First Kiss for more on this subject.

  • I've had my period for a few years and still get discharge and it's gotten worse than before. There is a strong odor which scares me that I might have an infection. I can't buy pant liners.

    Discharge can continue in between your periods and up until your early twenties. If there is an odour it could be that discharge is mixing with urine or faeces and for this reason it is very important to keep this area clean by bathing/washing daily and wiping the area thoroughly after visiting the toilet.

  • Hi vicki-
    I have had very heavy discharge at all times for the past few months. It suddenly stopped earlier this week. Do you know what this means?

    Discharge often stops and starts with breaks of several days being very common. It's nothing to worry about and all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki
    Do you have to be a certain weight in order to get your period??
    I'm 12 in 7th grade and I weigh 83 pounds

    No this is a myth. Your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and when your body feels the time is right for you.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have really dark hair on my body. Under my arms its really rhuck and grows back within the day. I get really selfconscious. I have had my underarms waxed but I don't wan to have to do this a lot. I also have really dark upper lip hair and people take the mick out of me even though I cant help it. I have had it waxed but waiting for the hair to be long enough is a pain. Please help
    Harriet

    Hi Harriet, body hair does become more noticeable during puberty and for most of us when we shave our underarms the hair starts to grow back almost immediately requiring upkeep on a weekly basis. As for your upper lip rather than remove the hair, ask your mum if you can gently lighten it, by using one of the many products on the market. But don't ever be tempted to do this without adult supervision.

  • So basically I'm really close with this boy and I like him a lot and he knows but it's not awkward so were just like best friends and we talk all the time recently I can tell he's been upset and he finally told me why he said his dad is hitting him I've told him to tell someone and he won't I don't know what to say because he's telling me not to worry about him when I do because I'm scared for him I don't know what to do because I don't want him to get hurt what should I do?

    Be there to listen to your friend and urge him to speak to an adult about this matter such as a teacher or close family member who will be able to support and help him further. He can also call Childline on 0800 1111 in complete confidence.

  • He takes me ice skating on Sunday I'm getting my step dad to take me so I can avoid him. What should I do???
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    PART 2

    Rather than cause a rift between you and your family, why not ask your mum and step dad to have a chat to your uncle, letting him know that whilst you are happy he has a new family you find the pressure of having to fall in line with his step children's needs too stressfull and need some time away. I am sure he will understand.

  • My uncle has this new German girlfriend who has 3 kids. (I Go to his on sundays) He always makes me hang out with them, I like them but he's expecting me to learn German Do stuff with them they don't speak English. Last week He said I should watch a movie with them, I said No thanks not in a rude way and now he says I'm rude and selfish cuz I got a Netflix account and he wants to use it, I'm paying for it.
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    PART 1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi, I have a best mate (H) and we are really good friends, today I went to hang out with him and my friend (R) told him I wanted to tell him something and I didn't so I said nothing and went quiet then when I got home he asked me if I was going to ask him out when I went to see him I said no but some girl (J) has already told like the whole of yr7 that I apparently love H what do I do (I don't love H

    There are only two people that matter in this instance and that is you and this boy. If you have made it clear that someone has been telling lies and that you just like him as a friend, then you have no reason to worry and if it were me I would hold my head up high and laugh at the girls who gossip.

  • Hi
    I'm 12 and my boobs have boobs have been quite sore , I wear a bra (underwire) and I'm size 32C. My boobs also have quite big lumps in them what should do? Should I stop wearing underwire?

    Breasts can often feel tender and sore during puberty and a week or so before your period. If your underwired bra fits you correctly and does not dig into your breasts there is no reason why you should stop wearing it.

  • my best guy friend who I have a crush on has just come out as gay, I accept that that is who he is and that he is a great person no matter what sexuality he has but I can't help being heartbroken, I thought that one day we would have been a couple since he had been what I considered flirting to me, now I have no chance. I feel that I have wasted 3 years crushing on him. It also came at a shock since he always asked loads of girls out and constantly talks about how attractive he finds female celebrities.

    How brave of your friend to share this with you and even though you are a little hurt I am sure you will find someone else to be romantically attracted to in time. As for your friend, there is a difference between finding someone attractive and feeling romantically attracted to them, which is why I imagine he finds female celebrities attractive too.

  • how do I get the free samples my mammy has agreed with this

    Click on the link 'Contact' found at the bottom of this page.

  • I really want to buy some pads off amazon but I don't want my mum to know do u know if the outside parcel thingy says like LIL LETS PADS or is it normal ???

    As Lil-Lets do not sell their products direct on Amazon I could not confirm how any products purchased will arrive. If you order products from our website, I can confirm that they arrive in plain brown packaging with no mention of Lil-Lets anywhere on the pack.

  • Hi Vicki
    Today I've been really annoyed because one of me closes friends found out who I liked the day after she found out who I liked! Then the other day I asked her if she liked my crush(because I spoke to him and he said he likes 2 people her and someone else) my mate said no never then when I got home I had a message saying actually I am goin to like him and rib it on your face what shall I do I'm so peed off

    Why not just laugh this off, a boy is never worth losing a friend over and I am sure you agree.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm getting new glasses and they are a thick rimmed type, like the 3D ones you get at the cinema, but I am scared I will be picked on for looking " to geeky" I like my glasses, but others probably won't, because the have never has bits of glass and plastic on their face before.
    Any tips ?????

    Ps , you are so helpful

    My youngest daughter has the very same glasses you are getting and she loves their quirky look. I hope you will be confident wearing yours too, and you may even want to consider changing your style to suit your new glasses, I know my daughter does.

  • Hey Vicki,
    there's this boy in yr 8 (and im in yr 9) called Boris, and he really likes me and hes always putting his arm round me and asking me out, also he tried to touch my hair. Its really patronizing and really uncomfortable as i really don't like him and hes a year younger
    please help me i feel like hes trying to rape me or plan a rape cos he keeps talking to his friends while looking at me! Its scary now.

    Darcy-Mae xx

    If you do not feel comfortable around this boy or he touches you without your permission be firm and tell him to move away. If he does not listen then have a chat to your teacher who will speak to him in private and advise him his behaviour is not acceptable.

  • Hey viki it's mmmmm part 2

    Also I have a few anxiety and self harm issues and nearly opened up to him but chickened out should I tell him cos know body knows and I feel I can trust him and he said whatever was wrong he would like to hel if I was ready. And I have knowing to talk to and he said I was his friend Sorry it's so long! ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

    Firstly, I am concerned to learn that you and others were intoxicated and I am sure you know that this is not suitable for someone under the age of 18. My advice is to share the issue of self harm with your parents or a teacher as they will be able to offer you the help and support you need....and keep your conversations with this boy on a less serious level until you are 100% sure you both feel the same way about each other.

  • Hey viki it's Mmmm
    So there is this boy I think I love but he is my brothers best friend! So the other night we all got drunk and me and my brothers best friend got close and kissed! The next day he had forgotten everything! But someone filled him in and he said he was sorry. But I still really like what should I do? P.s my brother doesn't know! I hardly ever see him, so how can I get close?
    Part 1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki, I am just coming up to my my period and my boobs feel really sore. Is that normal?

    This is very normal and lots of women experience breast tenderness a week or so before their period arrives.

  • Hi i told my mum about discharge and she said to use pads and then i brought her in the bathroom the other day and showed her my pants and she said use what i told you then but im kinda shy and embarested to just take her pads i rather have my own but how should i ask/ talk to her more about it? Xxx

    Why not use some of your mums for now and then the next time she goes shopping ask if you can have some smaller pads or liners from our teens range. She will be able to find them in her local supermarket or chemist.

  • Hi ive had discharges for a year and something i also have pubic hair breast developing etc and for the last 2/3 weeks my discharges got really thick and gone different they got in my pants really bad and also starts to stink what should i do?

    Keeping yourself extra clean during puberty is very important and you may find wearing our Lil-Lets teens pant liners every day will help keep any odours at bay.

  • basically my parents have realised I may have anxiety and depression. one parent is like "its fine to cry" and the other one is like "its your own fault you are like this you don't make an effort to talk to us". I don't know what to do. I g=have trust issues and I want to go to the doctor but im scared and I also don't want my parents telling people about my 'problems'.
    I don't know where to start and I hope this makes sense tah xx

    I am sure if your parents feel your mood swings are more than just those of a hormonal teenager they will speak to your doctor regarding this matter, so please try not to self diagnose your emotions and let your parents guide you through this time in your life.

  • i masterbate like almost every day because i feel the need to almpst all the time. am i being bad?

    Masturbation is not harmful in anyway, although remember that spending time with family and friends being active is also important too.

  • My mum has always wore pads but i want to see what its like wearing a tampon but my mum hates them how should i ask her for them??

    Why not show her a picture of our teens tampons designed for first time users just like you. They are shorter and narrower than other brands but still just as absorbent.

  • hi Viki
    I had pink on my liner today and i dont know what it is!!
    I looked it up on the internet and it said that you could be that you will soon start your period or your pregnant! i havnt had sex because i am only 12 and i am really scared! I cant be pregnant can I ?!
    i told my mum and she said she got the same when she was 12 and got her period at 13.
    i am still really worried Please help me! im worried and scared!

    This is most likely your period, even though only a little blood has been released. It would be a good idea to wear a pant liner for the next couple of days, just in case a little more period blood is lost.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm really depressed cos I get bullied at school. This is cos of my name and my siblings' names. There's my big bruv, Harper (I know, piper and Harper!?) he's 14. Then I'm Piper,13 and my lil twin sisters are harmony and melody and they're 12. Adding to that between us we play 11 instruments and go to singing lessons. I can't believe our parents called us this. Do you have any advice to help stop the bullying?
    Thanks, love Piper.

    If people are teasing your because of your names and talent, my advice would be to ignore them and carry on being yourself. You have beautiful names and really this is something to be very proud of, I think...don't you!

  • so basically i got measured at a bra shop anbd they gave me bras and my bras fit me but they r a D cup. but my boobs are tiny. i dont understand?

    It's important I feel for girls to understand it is not always the higher letters or numbers that signify how large your breasts are, you have to take into account how both measurements work with each other when added together. So it is very normal therefore for someone with a D cup to not feel as full in the breast as another person with a smaller cup size.

  • Hi viki i am 11 and i am a year 7 student . after a few weeks i started liking this boy he is in all my classes and i really like him what do i do xxxxx please help ( thanks (:


    Why not get to know this boy, say "Hi" when you see him or smile. After a few weeks ask him what he's been up to at the weekends. You will soon be able to see if he feels the same about you once you have started chatting.

  • Hi do you like cheese?
    From cheese
    xxx

    Love cheese, especially Brie.

  • Hi I was wondering if you could tell me my bra size I am 28 inch on top 25 inch fullest and 27 inch under , I'm 11 and I wear a crop top but I was wondering if I was big enough for a bra

    32AA is your bra size and whilst you can still wear a crop top for now if you prefer, you will find bras in your size if you wish to start wearing one.

  • Hey Vicki. Abbie Here. Theres A guy Right Ive known him for ยฃ years now. Lets Call Him JJ I have liked him for ages and ages and He Only Likes Me as a friend and I know that from the way he treats me sometimes. One Day We Were Sitting In French Together and he kept on putting Hid foot On Mine And he has been Doing this 4 sometime. I Really Like him xS Help Me xxxx

    It may be time to let JJ know how you feel and if he does not feel the same you will know for sure and can move on.

  • Hi,I'm 13 now I started my periods last yeah July. I last saw my period on August and its October now I'm really scared and worried plz answer

    Please don't be worried, periods often have large gaps of several months between each one, as your body continues to work out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • all my friends have told me i am way too thin and need to eat more and some people at school call me anorexic. we had an assembly on anorexia and were told we should tell the school if we think we or somebody we know has it. i researched it when i got home and i found an online quiz made by a doctor so i took it and i told me that i was anorexic and now that i think about i think i might be. i show all of the symptoms. what if i am anorexic? what should i do because i am way to scared to tell my parents?!

    Medical conditions should only ever be discussed and diagnosed by a medical professional and not via an online quizz. My advice would be to stop listening to other people in your class and instead have a chat to your parents or teacher about how you feel and why you believe you may have an eating disorder. I am sure they will be able to offer you the advice and support you need with regard to this matter.

  • hi
    when I was 12 I started to masturbate and I do it quite often now although I haven't done it for about 1 month now I masturbate by rubbing my vagina on my duvet. I was wondering if there were any risks with this and I so feel really out of place and dirty because I masturbate im 14 btw

    Masturbation is a natural and instinctive way of exploring how your body feels when touched, how you choose to do it, is your business and nothing to feel dirty about.

  • Dear Vicki

    Thank you for answering my previous question!
    I am just saying that my best friend keeps ignoring me and dosent really wanna play with me and we used to be really close and when we went swimming once and I was asking her to look she never even bothered to look๐Ÿ˜ข. This makes me feel sad and I sometimes cry because I have never had a friend like her in my life but now we just disagree with each other

    Please answer as soon as you can
    Thank you!
    From 16star18 xx

    Friendships can change over time and especially in your teen years. Why not have a chat to your friend and ask her if there is a problem. It may simply be that as a teenager she needs some more alone time and does not always feel like talking.

  • Hi Vicki , i used a tampon for the first time today and when I went to take it out it hurt so much! It was like a really bad stinging pain and it was then like a dull pain for a while after I'd got it out! The tampon was only half covered but I'd got the lowest absorbency!

    If a tampon feels tightly held when you go to remove it then this is a sign it has not absorbed sufficient menstrual fluid and should be left in a little longer - but never longer than 8 hours. If it was the lightest absorbency available then it may be that you should consider wearing a pant liner or pad instead of a tampon on your lighter flow days.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been getting discharge for quite a long time now, but my period hasn't happened yet. I was wondering when it might happen and if it's close? Thanks!

    Discharge can often be noticed for between 6-12 months, sometimes even longer so please try not to worry.

  • hi, so i'm going on a trip for a couple of days with my school and we are gonna do some swimming. i can't wear tampons so what shall i do if i AM on my period?

    If you are on your period and need to go in the water you should wear a tampon, if you are not comfortable to do so, they ask your mum to write a note excusing you from this activity.

  • Hi Vicki!,
    Basically, this girl that was really nasty to me keeps flirting with this boy I know and I don't know why but I get really jealous as no one likes me and I even over heard some boys saying that I was the loner nerd in my year even though I have lots of friends!! Anyway I don't know what to do about this jealousy?!? I just want someone to like me!!
    Thank you xx

    I am sure these comments were made in jest as you have nothing to worry about. It would be a good idea to stop feeling so jealous of this girl, we really are all different and even if you do not like her, accept that others may like her and as such keep any contact with her friendly.

  • hi, as u have already said to me and other people; periods are usually irregular for the first few years. but does that mean that i will never know exactly when i'm gonna start and will have my period leak every time for those years? because this has happened 3 or 4 times already.

    It could mean that your period will arrive when you least expect it, but very often the first sign that your period is here is just a little bit of blood in your underwear or on tissue when you wipe down there. So my advice is to consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis so your underwear is always protected from the first blood lost.

  • hi
    I have discharge every day sometimes my vagina itches and ill itch it (with pants on) but anyway if I smell my hnd afterwards it smells a lot like fish is this the discharge or something else

    This is a mixture of discharge, sweat and urine and you may find wearing pant liners will stop the irritation.

  • Hello
    Just a quicky is using scented panty-liners okay for discharge? Xx
    Thanks lily

    Hi Lily, yes it's fine.

  • Hi vicki, i have once asked you a question asking when might i start my period as i had discharge for nearly 2 years.i started my period yesterday when i woke up and it was quite scary at first but i got use to it,each time i change the blood was very,very heavy however i change it to a new pad an hour and a half ago and there is the faintest drip of blood and im scared that my period has endend for this month when i heard they should last for atleast 4 days! Summer x

    A period can vary in length, sometimes just a day or two, other times up to 10 days. So please don't worry this is all very normal.

  • Today I felt stuff co,em out into my pants I looked in my pants and it was all wet with thick white discharge in it? I'm 12 and havnt started my period and was wondering if this was mucas?

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. It is very normal and a sign that your period may not be too far away.

  • hello
    I am currently 14 and I will be turning 15 in a few months.
    I have not started my period yet and I already know that my mum started her period at 15.
    its not that im scared that I havent started my period its just that all my friends have
    I am quite skinny (about 7.2 stone) and I am quite tall I am also very flat chested, I started to get discharge definatly over 8 months ago but I have no signs of starting my period yet.

    You may find you follow the same pattern for menstruation as your mum, so I would not worry a period and the signs of a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi vicki

    When I'm on my period I only get about 1-2 hours of sleep every night for about a week which are about 2 days before my period and a few on my period aswell. The funny thing is that I'm not tired in the day but I'm just a bit worried incase it's bad for my health. Also I get so bored just lying in bed not being able to sleep

    If you feel fine, then I would not worry too much. You may find a glass of warm milk will help you stay asleep all night, or even going to bed half an hour later may be beneficial too.

  • I'm 14 and I'm only a 28aa. Is this normal and how long dies it take to finish puberty.

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age and as they continue to develop into your early twenties for some people, I am sure you have plenty of development still to come.

  • Hi Vicki, I know this isn't really about periods or emotions or anything, but i have my cervical cancer injection on Monday. The thing is, I'm scared of injections ๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜ญ what should I do? At school I don't have many friends either, I'm beginning to be really antisocial. I don't want people to laugh at me if I cry or something ๐Ÿ˜ญ please help? Thanks, Anna x

    Hi Anna, the HPV injection is very quick and virtuously painless, have a chat to the nurse giving the injection  and let her know how nervous you are; she will be trained to put your mind at ease. If it becomes a real issue you could always ask your mum to pop you to your GP to have the vaccination done there.

  • hi I'm only 11 and I really want my period. I wonder when I will get it because I'm only
    5 stone please give me an idea of when I will get it.

    A period can arrive anytime  between the ages of 8-18, so why not read all the great stuff on our website, so you can look out for the signs that yours may not be too far away.

  • PaRt ThReEEEEEEEEEEE (threee three threeee)


    And, I dunno, blush? And according to a friend, JD said that CD was pretty...(BTW ARE YOU PROUD OF ME SPELLING CHEY'S NAME RIGHT?!) Argh I ship them so much. But anyway, the Real Question - DO THEY SOUND AS THOUGH THEY ARE INTO EACH OTHER?! Love, meh xxxxxxxx

    As much as you want to be a matchmaker, it is clear that both CD and JD are not ready to date or make any kind of committment. So it would I feel be a good idea to let this matter drop as it is clear they are both embarrassed by the attention. If they are meant to be they will find a way to do so without the assistance of others.

  • PARET TWOOOOOO

    is this why CD wont tell me who she likes? Also, do you think that J and CD like each other? They seem to get on really well but seem a little shy around each other (especially CD lol) and, IDK...they are both really embarresesd about how we keep on about them together...but its kinda cute how embarresed they are. So I think they like each other. Maybe its my imagination but they stare at each other?

    See my response in Part Three.

  • PART ONE
    My friend CD is like the only one who hasnt told our whole group who she fancies. I think that she has told MD who she likes but I'm not sure...but anyway, we all think that CD should go out with JC. THEY WOULD BE SO PERFECT. Honestly, they look so good together. We all have out in a massive group but sometimes I hang out with other people instead in the year above or just other people -

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I am 13 and started my periods 2 years ago, i am only size 32AA, will i be this size forever.

    Breasts can continue to grow even when your period has arrived and this development can be noticed into your early twenties. Why not read my blog entitled Your period is not the end of the story, for more on this subject.

  • Viki Im so scared, i wore a pant liner to school today and when i just went to the loo there was pin stuff on it.
    I no periods are red but this is pink!! I don't no what this is and i am really scared!
    Please answer soon, i need help

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour, sometimes dark red, other times brown or light pink. So why not see what happens over the next few days. If more blood is lost have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Viky I trimmed my pubic hair then shaved it by wetting the razor im 11 is this ok

    It is preferable to lather the hair and not the razor to avoid nicking the skin or causing razor burn, which can leave the area very sore.

  • Hi Vicki, this boy in my class told my best friend that he likes me. I have mixed feelings about this as I he already knows that I like someone else. What should I do? Thank you so much :)

    Just because someone likes you does not mean you have to like them back romantically. So you could make it clear how much you value his friendship but are not looking for anything else at this time.

  • I really want to tell my mum about my discharge but can never seem to bring myself to do it I can't send her the e card any ideas on how to start the conversation ways to make it less awkward p.s I dont want to write it down or text her. Love sadie xxx

    Hi Sadie, I am sure your mum already knows you have discharge as she will see it when she does the weekly laundry. She will also understand it is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki why do loads of girls who hAvnt got there period complain about not having one and say 'I wish I had my period' I'm asking because periods stink and it makes you feel rubbish why do they want it so badโ“
    Also what period type of period products do you use?
    Thanks๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿฑ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡ง๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡ง

    Periods are a just one of the signs that you are becoming a young woman which is very exciting for some girls, so it is only natural that they are anxious for it to arrive. In answer to your last question; I use Lil-Lets Freshlock pads and Lil-Lets non applicator tampons and have used Lil-Lets since I was a teenager.

  • Hi Vicki is there any way of getting free period products I know lil lets do samples but are there any over ways ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    There are two ways to get your hands on our teens sample pack. Request one from me by clicking on the 'Contact' tab at the bottom of the page, or find out if your school has decided to run the Lil-Lets teens schools programme, each girl who attends the lesson not only gets to watch our fabulous film on puberty but also recieves a free sample too.

  • Hey! I'm writing a fan fiction set in the 80s which is written about a celebrity and a normal person. How can these two meet? I've written so many that I'm running out of ideas๐Ÿ˜‚ multiple ways would be brilliant!
    Thank you so much!
    Also, you have helped me so much!

    Why not have a think about everyday meetings you have with friends and family and adapt those into possible meetings scenarios for your characters and best of luck with your book.

  • Hi Viki! I shaved my pubic area 2 days ago and I just used shower gel and a razor. After I shaved them I used a scissor so snip a few more hairs off. Ever since 'down there' has been really itchy and irritating. It's hard to ignore it at school. Is there anything I can do and will I go away any time soon? Please help!

    Shaving can do this and my advice is to let the hair grow back and the irriation will subside in time. In future consider just trimming this area rather than shaving to avoid further irritation.

  • Hi vicki , I was just wondering if it hurts to take out a tampon ? I am in year 9 ,I have had my period for about a year and I am worried about starting to use them instead of pads because of all the horror stories I have been told. My mum bought me some lil-lets teens applicator tampons because she thought these would be good to start with?? Only one of my friends have had their period and she uses pads so I didn't know who to ask. Thank you - lauren x๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Lauren, tampons are great for when you want to be active, are convenient and super discreet too. Inserting and removing a tampon should not be painful at all and included in every pack of tampons is a booklet that carries information on how to use the correct tampon for your flow. So why not give them a go and remember just like anything new it can take a few attempts to position a tampon correctly.

  • Hi Vicki!!!! So im a little concerned about my labia. I think its that flap of skin on either side of my vaginal opening. Well on one side its big, floppy, wrinkled and red, and on the other side its pinky and there's really no flap at all. is there something wrong?

    Thatila

    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxXXXXXXXXXXXXXXHHHHHHHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

    There is nothing wrong Thatila, your labia starts to change in both colour and shape as you enter puberty and it is very common for one side of your labia to be different to the other, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicky ,
    I've stated my period but hate wearing pants what shall u do please I'm so worried x

    Why not consider wearing tampons they are comfortable, discreet and great for reducing any odours you may notice when wearing pads. They also come in a wide variety of absorbencies so there will always be a tampon to suit your flow.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering if I could ask you something. I started my period in August and then I haven't saw any signs of anything until now? I've put on a pad just to be on the safe side but is that sort of gap normal in your first periods?

    Long gaps between each period can often be experienced for the first couple of years and as your body gets used to your individual menstrual cycle.

  • hi vicki,

    a lot of people at school talk about sex and most of them aren't virgins and they are all freshman like me. i get very uncomfortable sometimes and i feel like I'm the only one who hasn't even experienced kissing. i feel left out. :(

    elle

    Hi Elle, please don't feel left out of anything, a great many teenagers wait until their late teens or even early twenties to have a first date, so you are not alone and there is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person to come along.

  • Hey,
    Im a bit worried beacause i have been using scented panty-liners and im a bit worried beacause all my friend wear non -scented beacause scented will give you an infection or something! Will scented panty-liners give me an infection?
    Please reply
    Lily xxxxx

    Hi Lily, your friends are mistaken and whilst some people may find scented pant liners a little irritating, they are not harmful in any way; it really is about personal choice and what suits you.

  • Im really scared. People are saying you can gt pregnant by masturbating because we produce our own sp*** and we can get pregnant but i have no idea if i started producing spe**. Is this true. I do masturbate and fluid comes out every time i do. Help im only 13. I have started my period but this time it lasted for 6 days when it usally lats for 5 days and it usally came on time but this time it came 2 days early. Am i pregnant PLEASE ANSWER IM REALLY SCARED!!!!

    Your friends are very much mistaken. You cannot get pregnant by masturbating and girls do not produce sperm. The liquid you notice when masturbating is a natural lubricant made by the body and nothing to be worried about. As for your period, well it is very common for the length of each one to vary from time to time and again nothing for you to be anxious about.

  • Hey Vicki it's Annie so I have this friend group we call our selfs "the s" and it's a few girls and a few guys and there's this girl that can b anyoing at times and he dosnt really fit in and we drop hints for her to leave but she doesn't take them also there's this group that doesn't fit
    In with us at all and we don't want to hang with them but they hang around us and we've tried walking away but they just follow and we can't just b like we don't want to hang with you leave what do I do?

    Hi Annie, it would be nice if you could all try and get along, accepting that some of you may not gel as well as you do with others, but nevertheless it is great to have a wide and varied group of friends, so why not put a positive slant on this problem and get to know this girl and this other group a little better.

  • Hey Vicki it's Annie, I went to my swim lesson on my period I was just fine but there were a few times where I could feel my tampon. Abyways I know there's probably not but other than birth control is there a way I can make my period shorter or lighter?

    Not really no, as for your tampon, it is most likely that you had not inserted the tampon high enough inside your vaginal passage, which can often feel uncomfortable.

  • I get so so moody how can I control it

    There are a couple of things you can do; give yourself some alone time for 10 minutes or so, doing things you love to do. Get active, as this releases chemicals in the body that leave you feeling happier. Find some fun things to do with your family that you can all take part in. And finally, don't beat yourself up too much about the moody moments and instead work towards reducing them.

  • I didn't have my period yes my doctors says somtime in 4 months But my mom Dosent believe it she refuses to talk about it So if been staying up searching the internet for questions about My period.I would feel much more comfortable with info from her and I'm Comfortable talking to her but she isn't.Please help!!

    I am sorry to hear that your mum finds discussing periods uncomfortable. Why not start off other conversations between you both that will start to build a bond. Such as what hairstyles did she have as a teenager, what age did she get her first bra. I am sure after a few weeks she will feel much more at ease discussing periods once you have chatted about other matters first.

  • Hey Vicki,

    For the pat month I've had all the signs for my period, I even usually have a little blood in my discharge. But why hasn't it started yet?

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and so please be patient this can be anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicki kendall sorry if this is inappropriate at all but I just wanted to see of this was normal.
    Basically my nipples are large. And I don't mean large as in wide or anything but there always fat? There never small they always look really fat?
    Is this normal?

    Nipples come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colours and during development they can often appear swollen and puffy, this is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Recently, I found out that my best friend has a crush on my all-time crush too. I still love her but I still love him too. I feel less bad since I found out that she also has a crush on a few other boys. I know this guy has known I fancy him forever but I passed up an opportunity to go out with him when he asked me out a few years ago. And now I think he might be interested in my friend??? Feeling awful - what do I do? Saffy

    Hi Saffy, why not let this boy you like him. Smile when you see him, ask him how his weekend was, it could be that you are still someone he considers a romantic interest, he may just need these signs from you to let him know you feel the same.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 23 I have had unprotected sex with my boyfrind ax we are trying to conceive I have now missed 2 periods taken 2 tests results negative had a hormone test at docs all ok not sure if she tested hcg tho but I am now 33 days late had a few stomach cramps my boobs are not tender but the have been feeling as tho someone is pulling on them or they are expanding please could u give some advice on ehat it could be or what to do

    Thank you

    Why not go back to your GP's surgery and ask them to run another test, they will be able to advise you further once they have the results.

  • Im nearly 15 and for the past week I've been getting a lot of discharge. Its clear and odourless and doesn't itch or hurt but there is a lot of it every day and it feels really wet and horrible. I sometimes wear pantyliners but im worried somethings wrong. Ive also not started my periods and all my friends have. What should i do?

    There really is nothing to worry about, discharge can very often be clear in colour and the amount produced can vary from day to day. It is also a great sign that your period is not too far away so make sure you have some pads or liners with you in preparation.

  • How to ask my mum if I can use tampons? I am going on holiday for 4 weeks over the Christmas holidays and I am going to Barbados so a lot of swimming involves! I will principally be on my period at some point so should I use tampons?


    molly Alexandra xx

    Hi Molly, tampons are great when you plan to be in the water and I am sure if you ask your mum if you can start wearing tampons she will understand your reasons. Just like anything tampons can take a little bit of practice to get right, so my advice would be to try inserting one during your next period and you may find our Lil-lets teens non applicator regular tampons a great first choice; they have been designed with teens and first time users in mind as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • How old should you be when you try tampons? I do a lot if dance and I don't know if I should use then for that!

    If you feel comfortable to use internal sanitary protection and understand your flow then there is no reason why you should not use a tampon. You may find our Lil-Lets teens range of non-applicator tampons ideal, as they are designed for first time users.

  • Hey Vicki,

    I need to buy new bras, I'm a size 32 EE. due to my wrong sized bras I have now, overtime my chest has been growing and my mum said to make my boobs 'pushed up' naturally, I need to buy bras my size. What type of bras would form my chest naturally pushed up when I'm older? I have no clue, push up? Padded?

    Thanks ________________________________________________________

    It is not so much about pushing your breasts up, but more importantly finding a bra that supports your breasts and reduces any shoulder or back ache and lots of bras will do this. Why not get yourself measured in store and ask the assistant to find you some styles to try on.

  • I think I'm going through a cliche teen girl phase. My family annoys the heck out of me. I'd rather be alone that be around them which makes me feel awful but I can't help it I just hate them for some reason. When I'm not alone at home I'm hanging with friends. That's all i ever do anymore I'm either alone or hanging with friends outside of school. Is this normal and just a phase or is this just who I am?

    This is fairly normal, but that does not mean it has to be the 'norm' and you can choose to change this if you wish to. Yes families can be challenging from time to time, but they can also be a joy and the memories will stay with you for a lifetime, even if it is something as simple as watching your favourite TV show together, so why not make the effort to spend more time with them and less time in your room.

  • I want to use tampons but I'm scared I will get TSS... Do u die from TSS? Xx
    aged 13

    TSS can be fatel in very rare circumstances, but this should not prevent you from enjoying the freedom wearing tampons can offer and many millions of women all over the world use tampons with no issues. In each pack of tampons there will be clear instructions for the safe use of tampons that can reduce the chances of contracting this rare illness.

  • I looked at your blog about periods at school but I am still really scared it is going to happen at school that it is then going to leak through my tiets at everyone is going to laugh at me.What should I do??
    P.S. Sorry if inepropriet

    The chances of this happening are very slim and generally the first time you will notice your period has arrived is when you visit the toilet and see a little bit of blood has been released, leaving you plenty of time to place a pad in your underwear. But if you are anxious consider wearing a pant liner on a daily basis from now on for extra protection.

  • Why do I get itchy down there sometimes?
    From Cuteteen aged 13 xx

    It could be due to overheating, so keep this area cool by wearing cotton underwear and loose fitting clothes.

  • I was going to ask my crush out this week but he hasn't been in and we have 1 week left and i want to ask him before school finishes


    Please answer ASAP
    Xx
    Thanks viki and your team for helping me out xx

    Why not wait and see if he returns next week and ask if you can meet up during school break.

  • Vicki, I feel like I do lots of thing to help in the house. (I don't mean to sound un-greatful or snobbish.) I clean, I do dishes, I do laundry, I walk the dog, I do errands etc. But my parents still say I do NOTHING. It gets me so wound up. Like earlier I was so tired so I went for a bath and I had only been in for 5mins and I got called to put my brother to bed. I never get time to do other things and rush my homework at the last minuete. What can I do to get freetime?

    Why not start a diary of your daily events including household chores and after a couple of weeks share this with your parents, they will clearly see you need some time for yourself I am sure.

  • vicky
    i dont know what to do my english teacher hates me and i have her 4 times a week she alway shouts at me and gives me detention
    what should i do i have her tomz
    asap
    lola

    If you feel your teacher is being unfair in her discussions with you, then have a chat to your parents who will give the school a call to see what the issue is here.

  • 1) I have bad period pains in school and out of school but when I'm in school and in lessons so I can't walk around or anything, how do I tell my teacher without getting embarrassed?
    2) when I slept over my friends house I was on my period and I have really bad cramps but I didn't know what to say to her mum and if I go to one of my friends houses again when I'm on my period what could I say to their mum if I have a bad stomach? Thankyou

    There really is no need to speak to anyone about this discomfort. Have a chat to your mum about managing the pain with a hot water bottle or pain killers when necessary and always given by an adult.  For your part, be sure not to hunch over your desk which can often make the pain worse.

  • Hi vicki, I'm 13 and have 32D boobs and all my friends say they're jelous of me but I hate it!:( some boys in my class mess about with me and talk about them but I don't mind that because they are like saying its a good thing if you get what I mean๐Ÿ˜‚should I feel self conscious about how big they are? Thankyou, laney xxx

    Hi Laney, you should never feel self conscious about your shape no matter what that shape maybe.

  • when do i get periods i am 9

    Periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicky:)
    I have had discharge for about a 1-1/2 years now and I've started having this brown kinda goo in my pants, by the time I look it's hard but is this my period? I am a size 34c in bra I have armpit hair and hair down below, hairy legs (if I don't shave them) but I have had no tummy pains, is this normal?
    I'm 13
    Frankie

    Hi Frankie, your body is maturing just as it should and this brown goo you have noticed is almost certainly your first period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki, my question is...Is it true that 2 years after your boobs have started devolved you start your period? Xx

    For some girls this is true, but as we are all do very different it is not true for everyone.

  • im really scared about my period I don't no when its gonna come what should I do about it?

    Try reading all the great stuff here on our website, this should leave you feeling alot more relaxed about periods and puberty in general. Our blogs on periods are great too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    On Monday I got the job injection I think that's what it's called everyone else got the flu one aswell apart from me I wanted to know where I can get it or the next time they come with injections I think 6 months time is to get it then
    Chocoholic ๐Ÿซ

    If you feel you have missed a vaccination, have a chat to your mum who will contact the school and your doctor who will arange to give you the vaccination at the surgery.

  • Hi vicki,
    theres this girl in my class that is OBSESSED with the two girls i hang around with. She always follows us round and I CANT STAND IT ANYMORE!!! I dont wanna sit with her and its so fustrating!!!! I dont want to loose my two other friends and i dont want know what to do!!
    please answer ASAP because i need some help!!!!!
    thanks,
    marshmallow17

    Have you asked your friends how they feel about this girl being around. If they are happy to be in her company then it really is a case of getting used to this new dynamic in your friendship group and whilst you may not always feel a connection to this girl you can still be friends and nice to each other.

  • Hi vicki! Big fan of your blog, it's been a great help. I had my period last week, but I only had discharge for about 1 month before hand. Is this normal? Thank you so much!

    This is normal and nothing to worry about, some girls never experience discharge which is very normal too.

  • Hi Vicki. My bestfriend and I used to be so close. We never ever said a bad word about eachother. But she has a boyfriend (has had for 9 years) and whenever hes around and his bestfriend she dumps me and goes off with them. Then I follow behind them trying to join in and they all nudge eachother and run off. It makes me feel like poo. I don't like any other girls in my class cause theyre all girly, pretty and Im country, equestrian. Why is this happening?

    You really should speak to your friend, letting her know how hurtful you find it when she walks off without you when her boyfriend is around. Explain that good friends stick together and for your part understand too that she and her boyfriend will need some alone time and for this reason consider making new friends, even if they appear a little different to what you are used to, I am sure they are interesting.

  • Hey Vicki, I really want a phone so that I can listen to music at school. Music is like my "escape" and it makes me feel better. I can just cope better with it, I know that may sound silly. Anyway, I asked my mum for a phone and she said that don't need one because I'm only 12 and she think I'm too young even though I'm in year 8. I'm kind of annoyed about this because I don't see why she won't let me have a phone. Why wouldn't my mum want me to have a phone?

    Phones can be expensive and as such are a great responsibility and it may be that your mum does not feel you are ready for that level of committment.  Why not wait a while and add one to a Christmas or birthday wish list. As for phones in school, I do not agree with this, nor do I feel they should be used when studying.

  • I am so stressed at the minuet with school and just everything! Will stress bring on chest pain? Because just now I got up and had a really sharp pain in the left side of my chest and gets worse when I get up or breathe in, as I say I have been feeling very stressed and a little down recently, why am I getting this pain? Im 14, please help๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ†๐ŸŒƒ๐ŸŒŒ๐ŸŒ‰๐ŸŽ‘๐ŸŒ„๐ŸŒ…๐ŸŒ‡๐ŸŒ‹๐ŸŒŠ๐Ÿ—พ๐Ÿ—ฝ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿ—ผ๐Ÿ—ป๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฏ

    Stress can affect us in many ways and it could be that your breathing is laboured due to stress,  so why not have a chat to your parents or teacher about what is making you feel so stressed and together you can work out ways to improve your life and school workload.

  • At my school people tease me for having big boobs and when I'm swimming they show the boys my bra. I'm a size 32 D and what is the average size for an 11 year old. Thx ##=##

    There is no average size for breasts to be no matter what your age. My advice is to have a chat to your teacher about this behaviour which is inappropriate and for your part, try to be proud of your shape and ignore any silly remarks.

  • Hello Vicki. I have been having a bit of boy trouble lately. You see I like this guy he is in some of my classes but there never is really a time to to talk and what do I talk about ?how do I start a conversation.?I think he might like me as I sometimes catching him looking at me but I don't know it that means anything. I'm an awkward and shy person. So it's difficult help! Sorry for all the questions!
    Thanks so much! Marlia ๐Ÿ˜ƒASAP please

    Hi Marlia, ask him how his weekend was and what he got up to. Boys do like to think girls take an interest in their hobbies and this is a great way to start a conversation.

  • Hi Vicki
    Sorry to ask questions all the time but my discharge is becoming thicker and there seems to be a lot more of it . I know this is a normal sign but I just wondered because there's more of it would my period come soon .
    Thank you
    Pink heart

    P.s I've had it for over a year xx

    Hi, discharge can vary in both colour and texture from day to day and is based on the level of hormones in your body, thicker and creamier discharge can be a sign that your period is not too far away once your periods have settled into a more regular routine.

  • Hey Vicki could you please do a blog about being a lesbian cuz I feel like Im attracted to girls AND boys, like biasexual or something like that. I dont wanna be and Ive seen many other girlies having this problem. xxx

    I will add this to the list of future blogs.

  • Hi Vicky! I am 12 and have had 2 period cycles. My third is about a month late (Im not concerned because I know it will be irregular), but I hate pads! They are uncomfortable, make noises and dont fit because theyre too big! I would wear tampons but Im new to periods and Im too scared to ask my mum. Should I ask for tampons, or are tbere more comfortable pads?

    Tampons are very comfortable if inerted correctly and if you feel they would be more suitable for you, why not ask your mum if you can try our Lil-Lets teens tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands they are designed for first time users.

  • i have a whitehead spot on my lip, what shall i do?

    My advice is to keep it clean and leave it be. It will most likely disappear on its own.

  • There is this boy that i like and we have had sex but he has just moved away what should i do

    If this boy has moved away and you have no plans to see each other in the future or keep in touch, then it would be a wise decision to move on.

  • Hi I'm 12 I started my period when I was 11. I got my period yesterday and it's just been brown discharge and nothing is on the pad. I am really worried please help. Thanks

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and light in flow too! It's nothing to worry about and is simply your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Vicky, I've been having discharge for about a year and a half and I've heard a lot of people say they use pant liners for discharge.. I don't, is that okay? It goes onto my pants but it gets washed off in the washing machine!! Xx

    There is no need to use pant liners if you are comfortable with discharge and as you say; it easily washes out of underwear once washed. It really is a personal choice.

  • Can you flush pads down the toilet? Only because I share a bathroom with 4 other siblings, one older sister, 2 younger sisters and a younger brother! I don't really want to be throwing my bloody pads in the bin in case they see! Can I flush them down the loo? Erica xoxoxo

    Hi Erica, you should never flush any sanitary protection down the toilet as it could block the pipework that flows from your house to the sewage plant and I am sure you would not want this to happen. So always wrap your pad up in the wrapper of your new pad or some toilet tissue and dispose of with normal household waste. Some people also like to use disposal bags that can be purchased in most supermarkets and chemists.

  • Dear viki
    So in school in drama we are doing a talent show and we all have to do it I'm gonna sing but I do keep it to myself that I'm a good singer as I am on my own but when other people are there I get nervous and get bad so I'm really nervous in case people laugh
    From
    Libby

    Hi Libby, if you are a good singer then this is your chance to shine and I am sure once people hear you they will be very proud of their classmate.

  • I keep on getting itches *down there* and it's really awkward at school when it gets really itchy! I think it's just my pubic hair but could it be thrush/yeast infection?? Cheers, Abigail. X

    Hi Abigail, it may be the type of garments you are wearing that are causing the itch. If you can wear some cotton underwear and loose fitting clothes to avoid overheating this area of your body.

  • Hi Vicki- I really need help. This is really embarrassing, but when I'm out in public I literally cannot eat anything without gagging or feeling sick. I don't know why, but the minute I have to go get food in public I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack. It's my friend's birthday soon and we want to go out shopping, but I am so stressed out and don't want to go. Please help me ASAP! Meg_The_Dalek

    Hi Meg, why not eat before you go shopping and then simply have a drink when you are out, by taking small steps such as this to eat in public you will soon feel comfortable eating different meals when out and about.

  • Hi
    How do you know if the pad you are wearing fits you propally if you know what i mean! When i wore one it felt all clumpy and uncomfotable is that what they are surpossed to feel like?
    Thank you
    Please reply xxx

    Not really no, it may be the pad was a little too large and you may find our Lil-Lets teens day pads a more suitable option.

  • Hi Vicki- I really need help. This is really embarrassing, but when I'm out in public I literally cannot eat anything without gagging or feeling sick. I don't know why, but the minute I have to go get food in public I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack. It's my friend's birthday soon and we want to go out shopping, but I am so stressed out and don't want to go. Please help me ASAP! Meg_The_Dalek

    Hi Meg, why not eat before you go shopping and then simply have a drink when you are out, by taking small steps such as this to eat in public you will soon feel comfortable eating different meals when out and about.

  • hi Vicki, so my best friend(M) and I(K) have been friends for 7 years and were now in year9. in y7 she told me she got her periods, but I don't think its true she never goes to the toilet ever and other reasons. my other friend(L) and I have started and we don't think she has although she never told L. also me and L are the same bra size(32B) so she told us she was a B even though she clearly isn't. should I confront her about this or not.
    thanks!

    Why do you need to confront your friend about this, surely as a good friend you will accept her comments and be supportive, regardless of whether you feel her comments are true or not.

  • Hi Vicky you recently answered an important question of mine. thank you my mum said yes. Please tell me where the free sample link is for sanitary products.

    It is at the bottom of the page - Contact.

  • hi vicki

    im really REALLY scared about Ebola im scared my family will die

    purplepanda

    The Ebola outbreak is a concern for everyone, but rest assured authorities all over the world are working tirelessly to contain this disease and keep us safe.

  • hey vicki,
    im going to try tampons soon but im worried that if im swimming or doing p.e or just walking somewhere in public that my tampon is going to fall out of me.Can it??
    from holly :)

    Hi Holly, tampons are held in by your vaginal muscles and if inserted high enough inside your vagina will not fall out until you are ready to remove them, so please try not to worry.

  • Is it normal to have a dark blacky brown coloued blood at the start of your periods???

    Yes very normal and you will find that blood can range in colour from light brown to very dark (almost black) red. This is all fine and nothing to worry about.

  • Hey Vicki!
    You might not be able to answer this question, but is it normal for me to be constantly stressed about everything even when it's nothing to stress over and get very easily frustrated?
    Thanks, xoxo.

    Yes it is quite normal for teens to feel this and is all part of your journey from being a child to an adult. As you get older you will manage new experiences better, it just takes time.

  • My discharge has turned slightly brown
    Have I started my period?
    Am I about to? Or what?

    This could be your period so why not put a pad or liner in your underwear and see if more is lost over the next few days. If it is then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Dear vicki,
    I'm not sure what to do a girl tryed to force me and my secret crush to make out. She got a bunch of people to hold us down but I got out and ran when I could not run anymore I sat on the ground and pretended to throw up so they would not come near me. She then came up to me and said " I told j you like him." I was so upset I ran for the bathrooms. I'm just not sure what to do now.
    Thanks for reading,
    Shy- Anime- Girl

    Hi, ignore this girl and don't let her see you are upset. In the end if 'J' knows how you feel, it is now up to him to decide if he wants to chat to you, if he does not feel the same, well at least now you know you should move on.

  • Part 3 ( guys throwing food)
    So I don't think they had that brand of food that the empty box was from. But I didn't get a clear view and no one else was sitting near us.the only people near us were about 4 metres away two guys about 40ish?
    And when we got up to leave ( which we did) they were staring at us. So now I'm worried it was the creepy older guys even though I'm sure it was the guys behind me and my friend ( because they kept turning around and looking)

    Hi Kendall, it was almost certainly the boys playing games with you and your friend and you really should not let this worry you at all. It was an episode in your life that has no passed.

  • Part 2 ( guys throwing stuff at me and friend)
    I thought it was just the guys being stupid but it happen again about a min later. Then a box of empty popcorn chicken landed on our tray. So we got up and left we were finished anyway. But now that I think back to it I don't remember them sitting down with the brand of food that was on the box. But I didn't get a clear view. ( part 3 final part) ( kendall btw)

    See Part Three.

  • Hi Vicki basically on Saturday me and my friend decided to go shopping. We were in the food court when these two guys ( looked about our age (14) ) sat down. I thought I saw them staring at me and my friend but just a few glances nothing much. But when me and my friend were finished eating we decided to just sit there for a bit but then I noticed this piece of cardboard ( tiny like a piece torn of from a food box) land on the chair next to me. I ignored it ( rest in part 2)

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I have had 2 periods can I use a tampon because I kinda need to because I do a lot of sports???? Please answer thanks

    If you feel ready to use tampons, then there is no reason why you should not. Have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask them to purchase some tampons for you to try, you may find our Lil-Lets teens tampons ideal, as they are designed to be shorter and narrower than other brands and are ideal for first time users.

  • I think im pregnant.My stomach feels heavy and below my belly button my stomach is big. I only masturbate. I never done it with a boy. Am I pregnant. Please answer im really scared. I have been having symptoms of Pregnancy like Urinating a lot ,sleeply, and mood swings. My period came 2 days early and it ended at day 6. Im scared. Please answer ASAP!!!

    You cannot become pregnant from masturbating so please don't worry, periods can be irregular for the first few years with both long and short gaps in between each one. As for your tummy, it is quite common for this to look a little rounder as you enter your adult years and again nothing to be anxious about.

  • Hi Viking it's 4 am and I can't sleep because of.pains,I'm 12 haven't started
    yet and have taken ibuprofen what should I do. Phoebexx

    Hi Phoebe, cramping can be caused by the reproductive organs maturing and it may be a good idea to ask your mum to make you up a hot water bottle to help ease this discomfort when in bed.

  • For the last 2 days there's been loads of brown stuff in my underwear is this poo or something serious?

    It could be 'poo' but if you have bathed over the last couple of days, it is far more likely to be your first period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I fell I need to have sex very often I am. Only 13 and I am not going to do it until I am 16 or above and I am comfortable but I hear all the time I had a sexual erge and so the masterbated em what is it and how do you do it ps I do not want to say my name if that is ok and I have not got my period yet so will it affect it

    Firstly, feelings of a sexual nature are common in teenagers with masturbation being an instinctive and natural activity and not something it would be appropriate for me to tell you how to do.  It will have no impact on either the arrival of your period or your health in general.

  • Hi I'm really confused,
    I'm 13 and I started my period early may this year, they've been pretty regular. There 35 days apart but it's been 38 days now and still haven't got it? Is there something wrong?(I'm not sexually active in any shape or form) plz answer ASAP xx
    Thanks for ur help, always appreciated xx

    There really is nothing to worry about, periods often have long gaps between each one, even when they have been regular previously and this may continue for a couple of years as your body find the best cycle just for you.

  • I started my period just this afternoon but already I find towels uncomfortable! I want to use tampons but I'm scrared as I don't know how to put them in even after watching your videos! I'm struggling on what I should use? Please help x

    Included in every pack of tampons are full instructions for insertion and removal, together with important health and safety advice. It can however take a few attempts to insert a tampon correctly so don't be too disheartened if you get it wrong at first. As for pads, in time they will feel more comfortable once you have grown accustomed to how they feel in your underwear.

  • Hi Vicki, i have had discharge since i was in 5th grade and I'm in 8th grade now! Why hasn't my period started? Also a few months ago i had black discharge with small drops if blood! Was that my period.? If so why hasn't it come back?

    This could have been your period as menstrual fluid can often be light in flow. My advice is to have some pads and liners with you from now on, in preparation for your next period.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and I still havnt had my period.. I thought I started in 2011 but nothing happened until May 2014 when another one came but heavier. And I havnt had anything 6 months later. I have pubic hair and arm pit hair the only thing I don't have is boobs and I'm feeling really left out! Is this normal or am I just a complete utter freak!!! ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    This is very normal and long gaps between each period are very common. My advice is to worry less and keep some pads and liners with you at all times in preparation for your next period's arrival.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I got pulled out of class today to get told off. My maths teacher took me out because I sent an innapropriate email. It wasnt rude it just shouldnt be use in the context I used it for. I am embarrased and overwhelmed because at primary I was a teachers pet and suddenly I have becone rather cheeky. Is this just puberty and how can I get over being told off.
    By the way, my name is Lauren, I am 11
    Thanks

    Hi Lauren, this could be puberty thatis changing your moods and personality, but regardless of whether it is or not, puberty is not an excuse to be cheeky and it may be a good idea to forget about what has happened with this e-mail and focus on behaving better and as expected of you in the future. This clearly worries you and there is always room for improvement.

  • Vicki do you have to be 7st to start your period ?x

    No this is a myth.

  • Hiya Vicki, I am 12 and started my period yesterday, I noticed it by a load of brown discharge in my underwear, and so today I worn pads and it is definately my period but I have noticed that I don't release blood during the night, is this normal?โœจ

    For some people less blood is lost during the night as the muscles surrounding the uterus contract less. But you should always wear a pad as from time to time blood may be lost.

  • Hey Vicki just wondering what my correct bra size is
    Under: 75
    Over: 86 - 87
    Thanks a lot and if possible in Australian sizes please

    12AA is your size.

  • Do you smoke?

    No, I have never smoked.

  • How long has the "Ask Vicki" thing been going on for? :) From Scarlett

    Hi Scarlett, since September 2011.

  • I may have accidentally said something behind one of my friends back and now she is mad at me. I have said sorry many times but she won't accept my apology. Shall I just leave things as they are as I have been the bigger person and apologized? Thanks, I was really upset about this and I need some cheering up. How can I cheer myself up and move on from this situation? From Amanda :)

    If you have apologised and your friend is not happy to forgive and move on then Amanda it may be time for you to let her know you are sorry she feels this way and then move on yourself to a new group of friends, being mindful not to say things behind someone's back in future as this almost always gets back to them.

  • Then I said "If it doesn't matter then why do you keep on looking at me and bothering about what I am doing". They have not responded to this ever since and they won't even tell me what I have done wrong. No matter how many times I ask they won't tell me! What should I do? Thanks from Taylor xxx PART 2

    Hi Taylor, if your friends have decided they want to part friendship then you can really only respect their wishes and move on to find a new group of friends. There is no need to be angry or upset with these girls and no reason why you cannot still chat to them from time to time. This kind of thing just happens and is no one's fault.

  • Last week my best mates decided that they weren't going to talk to me, I just went along with this because I thought they just needed some space for a bit. However they have been ignoring me and giving me dirty looks. So I asked them why they were doing this and they said "It doesn't matter". PART 1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • I'm 14 and my sister is 15. I'm ahead of her in terms of puberty I.e I have bigger boobs and I have got my period and she hasn't. I feel kind of awkward about it like when she is outside the bathroom when I am changing a pad or something. Also when I was younger I spoke to my other sister about periods, like when I had just learnt what they were, but now I can't really talk to her about anything because she is busy with work and A Levels. Txxx

    We do not all reach puberty at the same time, not even if we are related, so if you can offer some advice to your older sister who is still waiting for her first period and by having small chats about puberty and periods you may find that your 15 year old sister is the person you can not chat to instead of your older sister.

  • Hey Vicki, I am wondering about when I will start my period.. I' started puberty at about 9-10 years old and now on 13, nearly 14 and I've had loads of discharge for ages! I just want to know what are the symptoms you get when your REALLY close to your period? Xx

    Discharge is a great sign and as you have noticed it for such a long time, you may find your period is not too far away at all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering if u have any tips for looking nice during p.e I got red quite a lot when we do certain things and was wondering if u had any way of stopping that? Thanks p.s pe is my favourite subject

    Wearing breathable cotton clothing may help as will keeping your body hydrated by drinking plenty of water.

  • Is dyscalculia about as common as dyslexia and I'm sure I have it?

    As with any medical condition a proffessional should always be the source for diagnosis, and in the case of Dyscalculia a teacher can usually check for this condition that can effect around 3% of children which effects their ability to do simple math calculations.

  • HI so im really uncomfterbale with people seeing me naked. 2 Years ago we did swimming and we didnt have any changing rooms so everyone could see everyone ( it was split into boys and girls) but it makes me shudder to think all the girls in my class+2 teachers have seen me naked.I felt uncomfterbaale at the time too. o you think they should've made us do that

    It would be difficult for me answer your last question as I do not know how old you were when you changed in a mixed group. But I really would not worry what others saw, I am sure this is long forgotten.

  • Hey Vicki
    Is there anything I could do to boost my confidence around boys and just in general? I'm so self confious and always worry about what people think and I know I shouldn't but can you not say ' be happy with you' because that doesn't help me and I know you are a smart woman and you have really helped with my last questions thanks vicki xxxx

    Confidence can only grow by getting yourself out there and making yourself heard or seen. I'm not saying you have to loud or boisterous. But you can voice your opinion from time to time, even if it's only to agree with what someone else is saying. In time it will get easier and you will feel more able to contribute more to conversations....even with boys.

  • Hi vicki,
    My mom bought me these crop tops but all the girls in my class wear a wired bra and the crop tops are tiny and hurt my breasts they are a size 32aa, I am 11 by the way what size would u recommend. And there is this boy in my class and I really like him and he likes me but there r some really mean bully's in my class and I am scared that they will make fun out of me!! This boy is totally cute to!!!! HELP ME PLZ ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    Firstly, ask your mum if you can be measured the next time you go out shopping for a bra, but please don't feel there is any need to wear an underwired bra just yet. As for this boy, why not wait a while before deciding if you want to let him know how you feel and as for these bullies, well...they can only upset you if you allow them to and if you hear any comments ignore them is my advice.

  • Will a push up bra work for a 30 A/B? I
    I really want a push up bra for the parties I go to, because everyone wears them and I want to see if they would make a difference
    Thanks xx

    I guess it depends on what you want  a push up bra for. If you want your breasts to look fuller and appear higher then yes this would be a good choice, but I really do not see the need for such a bra if you are an A or B cup. I also do not think it is a great idea to get one of these bras just because others wear them. Try to remember we are all different and when purchasing a bra comfort and fit are the two most important aspects of any purchase.

  • hi viki

    i have been releasing discharge for 8 months. is my period near?

    Discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your first periods; sometimes even longer, so I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hello.
    Can you flush tampons down the loo ?
    Thank you, xx.

    No form of sanitary protection should be flushed. Our recommendations are that you wrap them up in toilet tissue or in disposal bags and place in the bin with household rubbish.

  • Hi can I wear a pad for my discharge? Its really heavy and a liner doesn't hold all of it thank you

    If you wish, or you may find changing your liner a couple of times a day is also a good idea.

  • i haven't revived my period in over 5 months now and I've been putting on weight rather rapidly but I've been eating the same and so is my exercise me and my mum have noticing me being bloated and putting on the weight my mum even Asked me if I was pregnant I got quite upset about this but I tried to laugh it off I'm 13 and I've never had sex I have maturbated for a while but it scares me that I could have gotten pregnant with out sex is this possible In any shape or form I'm really worried

    If you have not been sexually active then there is no way you can be pregnant. During puberty our shape does change with a more rounder tummy often being noticed along with wider hips and possiblya slighter round bottom too. This is nothing to be worried about.

  • I have a very itchy pubic area but not near where all the holes are, just where the hair is, it got really itchy so i shaved to see if it lloked red or anything but it doesnt and its really annoying!

    Pubic hair can be a little itchy from time to time during puberty, why not consider rubbing in a little hair conditioner when the hair grows back to keep it soft.

  • Hello vicki
    I've been masturbating for what maybe 4 months and I do enjoy it I've been watching some porn as well is this legal ?

    Masturbation is both natural and instinctive and if you do not buy pornographic images or are being forced into watching them, no law has been broken. However, please understand that pornography does not show a true representation of how a loving relationship should be, so please try to avoid viewing these images if you can.

  • Hey Vicky
    I've had discharge for over a year and a half now and still no period??
    My breasts are 30A/B
    I'm always concious about this and I can smell it
    I'd love you to answer thanks xxx

    Discharge does have a slight odour which can often be made worse if mixed with perspiration, urine or faeces, so please make sure you wipe this area thoroughly after visiting the toilet and consider wearing pant liners to help capture both the sweat and discharge. Finally, I am sure you will not have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period, so please don't worry.

  • im not sure when to start wearing a bra. how old were your daughters when they started??

    If you notice your breasts jiggle about when you are doing PE or being active, or are starting to show through your clothing, it may be time to consider a bra. As for my daughters they were around 13 when they first started wearing bras.

  • Hi I've gotten a brown stain in my pants with a white streak going through the middle is this my period?

    It could be your period, or alternatively it could be staining from waste food not wiped away thoroughly. Why not wait and see what the next few days bring, if this fluid continues to be noticed it is  most likely your period.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15, we've been going out for nearly 2 months, but for the past 2 (ish) weeks, he's being really distant, and I ALWAYS have to message him first, and sometimes he replies, sometimes he doesn't. Why is he all of a sudden being distant? Should I not message him for a few days? Thanks x

    Boys are not great at communicating in a timely fashion, but this does not mean he no longer wants to date you. Why not have a chat to him face to face asking if everything is ok, if he says yes, then let him know that you were worried due to his lack or returning text messages. This should sort out any confusion and let you know where you stand with this boy.

  • I was born with a club foot I had the ops years ago and now my foot is normal
    Could you give me any facts coz i don't really know that much about them.

    Ollywolly567

    I am pleased to hear the operation to correct your foot was successful and if you want to more about this subject, why not visit NHS choices for information.

  • Hiiiiiii Vicki,

    I have recently had this feeling to masturbate or want to touch myself. I don't know how to do it and I don't want to get an infection. The thing is I don't know how to do it and I can't get rid of the feeling. What do I do?

    Alina

    Hi Alina, masturbation is a natural and instinctive activity and not something anyone needs to tell you how to do. Please also don't feel pressured into doing this because you believe you should. Not everyone chooses to masturbate and this is fine too.

  • I find it really hard to hide my feelings, especially around school, what do I do? I hate showing that I am upset, I hate people worrying about me๐Ÿ˜ฅplease help๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿถ๐Ÿฃ๐Ÿท๐Ÿค๐Ÿฉ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฅ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿฆ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿน๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ๐Ÿข๐Ÿบ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿง๐Ÿ”๐Ÿด

    Why not take some time out every now and then when you feel your emotions starting to change. You may also find adding some uplifting music that you can listen to will keep your mood positive and help you get through any moods swings you are experiencing.

  • I will be going swimming with school soon, I don't feel comfortable in my swimming costume because my nipples stick out. Will it be possible for me to wear a bra underneath my swimming costume? Or is that unhygienic? Thank you :)

    It would not be suitable to wear a bra under your swimsuit, but you may find purchasing a slightly padded swimsuit will be a more suitable option. Personally, I would not worry too much about your nipples showing, once you are in the water and have warmed up they will most likely not be visible.

  • Hi , I'm going to ask my crush for his snapchat this Saturday , do you have any ideas ? Thanks (please don't direct me to a blog as I would like an answer straight from you๐Ÿ’›)
    Eleana Marie

    Hi Eleana Marie, this really is up to you what you Snapchat about and anything you send over should be what you find amusing or interesting and not something someone else has thought of. So have a think over the next few days of all the things you would like to share with this boy.

  • Hi Vicki
    Can periods stop and start ? X

    For the first couple of years it is very common for periods to have long gaps between each one, sometimes several months can pass with no period being noticed. This is all very normal and your body's way of working out the right cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki, i have had discharge for about three years now - when do you thin i will start? also i have really discharge and it normally goes through my pants/ liner! please help x



    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    With discharge noticed for such a long time, I doubt you will have much longer to wait. If you find your current pant liner does not hold this fluid, consider a different brand, or changing more often.

  • A girl I want to look like told me I was "too small" , "too skinny" and that I "look fragile" but she is bulimic and so much skinnier than me.....what do i do??.....

    My first thoughts are why you would listen to someone who suffers with an eating disorder or want to look like her also. Be happy with your own shape and if you eat well and exercise regularly, you really have nothing to worry about and in future try to ignore any insensitive comments.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My best guy friend ( not my boyfriend ) keeps getting me into trouble in school and I am really worried about my report. I don't know what to do because I don't want to stop talking to him

    Have a chat to your friend and let him know that you are going to concentrate on your school work and as much as you like him you will not be getting involved in any misbehaviour or activites that will get you into trouble. I am sure your teachers will quickly notice a change in your work and behaviour and this will be reflected in any reports they make.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've had my period for about a year now. The last 3 times I've had my period i have bled through my pad. I use maxi pads but they don't work and it gets to the point where i am changing my pad every hour. My period just all of the sudden got really heavy and i am not sure what to do. Please help!
    Aly

    Hi Aly, it may be time to change brand and you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock range a suitable alternative, they are super absorbent and super comfy too. Alternatively, you may want to consider wearing tampons as these come in a variety of absorbencies to suit any flow.

  • Dear Vicki
    Recently I've been hanging out with two girls who including me are in a big group of girls and they've been closer since they came round to my house after school one day. We all hangout a lot last week and I felt like we were all really good friends when over the past couple of days they've started being partners constantly and walking off in front of me when we're with the group. I know it's babyish to feel this way but I can't help it.

    Have a chat to your friends letting them know how much their friendship means to you and how you thought you were all three of you good friends. I am sure they have not realised they are upsetting you and this chat will set the record straight.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm quite petite but my nose is fat. That's not the problem. Recently, I'd just got out the bath and went to my mum so she could dry my hair. Of course, I wasn't wearing anything and my mum said, "You've got a dimply bum.". I asked her what that meant. Basically, I've got a bit of fat round my bum. It's not much but now I'm REALLY careful when undressing so no-one else notices. I really want the fat to go away. Will it?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, as you get older your body will change considerably and as long as you eat a healthy and sensible diet and exercise regularly, your body will find its ideal weight.

  • Hey again Vicki! Sorry for continously asking you use questions, but what can I say? I'm a curious girl xD Anyway I just wanted totell you that my normal periods (that come like onice every 3 months) normally last one or 2 days. But the last period I had lasted 12 days..I've been to the GP but she says it's normal but I doubt it! Is there anything wrong with me?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, trust your doctor she is quite right when she chats to you. Periods can vary in length especially for the first couple of years.

  • I know this is similar to my other question but is a 28aa cup bra the next step from a training bra as I think I am ready for one of these because I feel like sometimes I have to squeeze my small boobs into my training bra.

    Your measurements will decide what your next size is, so please don't think you should go to the first size available you may be more developed than this.

  • Hi vicki
    Lately I feel like my boy friend has been exludeding me like if i go into hold his hand or give him a hug he either runs off or pushes me away I am not being forceful i mean I feel like he doesn't want to be in a relationship ๐Ÿ˜•
    The problem is i like him alot a few people have recognised this and he is also talking about my parents behind my back saying they don't want me near him when all they want is me to go straight home after school xx

    Have a honest one to one with your boyfriend asking him if he feels the same as he did when you orginally started dating, if he says yes then stress on him the importance of intimacy. If he agrees things have changed offer a break of a few weeks so you can both have a think about your relationship.

  • Hey,
    I just have a quick question ...how much discharge are you surpossed to get and how often is it surpossed to occur if you havnt started your periods yet?
    From lily xx

    Hi Lily, some people notice discharge on a daily basis, others every now and then and the amount produced, its colour and texture can vary from day to day and person to person too. Why not read about this subject by visiting our Puberty tab on the website.

  • Hi, please help me and I REALLY NEED A REPLY !! I'm 12 years old (nearly 13 in Jan) and I have a 32AA bra ! Are my boobs too big because I'm really self conscious because they look really big to me :(

    AA is the first cup size available and whilst your breasts may appear big to you they are perfectly proportioned to your body and it may just be a case of getting used to your new shape.

  • What product of Lil-let's is suitable for discharge??

    Tanisha xxxx

    Hi Tanisha, why not try our Lil-lets teens pant liners ideal for capturing discharge.

  • I'm almost certain that I have ADHD as I've done a lot of research into it, and it's effecting my schoolwork. How do I tell my mum so that I can talk to a doctor or someone? Me and my mum don't really talk about stuff like that

    Why not speak to your teacher about your concerns and she can then ask your mum to pop into school for a chat.

  • Hi I'm not really sure how it is meant to feel with a tampon inside, and what if it isn't put in right, how do I tell ? xCaity

    Hi Caity, if  a tampon is inserted correctly and high enough inside the vagina, you should not be able to feel it at all. If you can feel it or it is uncomfortable then it is most likely not inserted high enough and it should be removed and another tampon selected and inserted.

  • Why do women grow breasts . Ella and Hollie . Thanks

    Hi Both, when females enter puberty their bodies start to prepare them for the time in their lives when they may want to have a child and part of that process is to prepare the body to feed that child when born. This is why unlike males, women's breasts develop in order to breast feed.

  • Hi Vicky! My discharge has a strong odour and I dont think its normal, please help!!!

    Discharge does have a slight odour, but if this is becoming stronger it may be that it is mixed with sweat, urine or faeces. So in future ensure you always wipe this area thoroughly after visiting the toilet and consider wearing pant liners and using our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes.

     

     

  • Hi Vicki!

    This Thursday I'm going to Mandarin (Chinese) Lesson and I'm scared because I told the teacher that they need to give me a transport home; the reason why I'm scared is because what if they forget?

    And I'm scared walking home by myself and going on the bus?

    Please Help Vicki!

    I am sure your teacher will not forget and if they do, they will quickly organise transport for you.

  • I like this boy and I don't know whether he likes me or not like it seems like he makes an effort to talk to me like he doesn't have to but he does so does that mean he does or he's just being friendly. Also I do squats and ab working like sit ups without me mum knowing and Im just wondering how do u know if you have muscle on ur legs and should I tell my mum that I do them. Thanks please answer this it means a lot thanks. Xx

    It would appear this boy enjoys your company, whether this is romantically or not only time will tell. As for exercising, it would be useful to speak to your mum and let her know you are toning your body, as for muscle tone, you will see this develop over time and when you flex this part of your body.

  • hi Vicki
    so i had brownish disharge 2 months ago and it lasted about 3 days.I asked people on the internet what that was and they said that it was probably my first period.I got the same brownish discharge again today and iยดm not sure if that is my period because there iis just a little amount of it...Could you please help me I donยดt know what to do Thank you <3

    Yes this is your period as menstrul fluid is very often brown and not red in colour.

  • Happy 14th Birthday Kara!

    From Super girl!
    xx

    Hi Super Girl, thank you for sharing.

  • I think my bra size is 34a (75cm, 88cm) do you think it is appropriate to wear a bra at this size. I know it's a personal chose but is it normal to wear a bra when your boobs are only that size,
    Please tell me what you personally think, thank you

    If you feel comfortable wearing a bra then yes it is fine and as you say your choice.

  • In school today these two boys where saying stuff like we think your on your period and it made me really embarrassed because I'm not sure if they heard my friend saying to the teacher the lesson before that I had tummy pain because of my period so the teacher came over to me so they might've heard him saying stuff to me in lesson but I actually am on my period so it made me a bit upset and worried :( do you think they might've heard or could tell somehow thanks :( :( Kate ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    Kate, periods are a natural part of being a female and I really would not worry what these boys say, if you ignore their comments they will stop making them.

  • In school we have swimming for a term and I sometimes worry about what to say to the teacher if my period starts in the day as I feel like if I gave her more than one note or told her more than once she might ask me why I don't want to swim whilst on my period do you think she would say this? Also how could I say to my swimming teacher if I want to be excused from swimming because of my Period and how do I tell a normal teacher I'm in pain? Because my friend had to do it for me today ๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜ญ

    If you are in pain then consider getting active walking around the playground as this will help ease period pain. As for swimming it is unlikely you will have to be excused for every lesson and your teacher will understand that periods arrive every month or so and understand if from time to time you need to miss a class.

  • what do you think is a suitable age gap in a relationship? :)

    This really does depend on the ages of the people in question.

  • When you visit the toilet and you wipe, do you have to wipe your vagina too ?

    I think it is always a good idea to keep your vagina clean so be sure to wipe from the front to back to prevent any infection spreading from your anal passage after having a bowel movement.

  • You don't have to answer but I would be very thankful to know if you know any way to tell if a guy likes you cause I have a huge crush on a boy in my school and he's exactly like me and hangs out with me at lunch/recess everyday and when the bell rings to go back to class he will walk with me to my line then hug me and tell me bye and I can't stop thinking about him and he's always in my dreams so please help if you can

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hey Vicki!!!
    Do you have to have boobs to have your first period?
    Thank you!!!

    Not necessarily no.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki
    Could you please tell me some signs that my period is near?
    Thanks!!!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki
    You said in one of my previous questions that your period doesn't have to be red to be real but does that mean that I'll never have blood?
    Thank you!!!!!!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi there
    Is it thought of stupid if i wear pantie liners just for discharge?
    Please reply
    Lily x

    Hi Lily, not at all.  In fact, this is encouraged as pant liners help to keep young girls and women feeling fresh and clean down there and also protects them from the embarrassment of possible leakage should their period arrive.

  • Is it ok to wear a bra when your boobs are a 28AA?


    Thank you
    Whovian-girl

    Hi Whovian-girl, the choice is entirely yours so when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • So I've had discharge for about 7months now and today i was in the bathroom and there was this little speck if blood about the size of the top of the pin. Super small! I've never had my period. Was this my period

    It is possible that this was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vicki! So basically, I'm 15 and I started my period about a year ago, maybe 2, I can't even remember ๐Ÿ˜‚ but yes, I have developed small breasts, but I'm unsure if I'll fit into a bra or not yet. I currently wear a crop top but they're getting really tight, and recently, they've been starting to feel very sore. Any ideas on what could be happening and what I should do?

    It is normal to notice sore, tender breasts with development so try not to worry.  A soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Is discharge kind of gooey?or can It be as if you've got a bit of flour and got it on your clothes because I've just gone to the toilet and it was stuck in side my pants?xx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the vagina together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It is normal for discharge to dry hard and stick to your pubic hair and knickers so you might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will help you to keep feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki I am nine but I have started to get pubic hair and my mum points it out to me when I get dressed. Should I be worried? - Sasha ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

    Hi Sasha, the development of pubic hair is a perfectly normal occurrence for all of us so try not to worry.  If you find that the hair is protruding through your underwear or swimming costume, you might like to consider simply trimming it back.

  • When did you start using tampons

    I moved onto tampons fairly quickly and was certainly using them by the time I was 15, but then my period did not start until I was 14.


  • Hi vicki
    I just wondered when you get fitted do you have to show your boobs?
    Cuz when i got fitted i did and i was really upset because i thought they looked massive and i wonder why on earth do people want big chests? Im 11 and a 34AA and thats massive. At least i think so

    Holly turtlerocksyaknow

    Hi Holly, it is not necessary for you to show your breasts to be measured and you will find that bra fitters are professional and will put you at your ease.  Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes which is what makes us who we are.  Why not consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • What is my bra size????
    Underneath: 70cm
    Fullest: 80cm
    Please tell me what my bra size is.

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different sizes and styles of bra until you find one that feels comofrtable on you.

  • Every day I get discharge in my underwear and even if I have showered recently I can smell an odour that is highly unpleasant if I open my legs for too long and was wondering if I have an infection? Thank you :)

    If you find the odour particularly unpleasant, you should ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey vicki,
    This boy has fancied me for ages now and people keep joking about it, I have ignored him ever since I found out and feel so awkward around him.I don't know what to do and my friends get so annoyed when I talk about him and everyone hunks I like him, when I don't I'm just so self conscious. Thanks xxx

    Try not to feel pressured by your friends and stay true to yourself as it really is none of their business.

  • Hey vicki!
    I always get the urges to do something sexually and I can't help it! I realise I am young but I just feel the need to do something.! I need help
    And I never know if I'm masturbating right or not?
    Thanks xxx

    During puberty, it is normal to notice an increase in feelings of a sexual nature due to an increase in activity of sex hormones.  Masturbation is a natural way of exploring these new feelings and is something that is felt and done by instinct.

  • Two things:
    1. How do you know if you fancy someone?
    2. By the time you see this (hopefully) it'll be my 14th birthday! :D

    Kara

    Hi Kara, for some help with this, please check out my link on Your First Love.  Happy 14th birthday.

  • He VickiOk so I'm now 13 and haven't has my period I'm starting to get a little worried as I have realised I'm getting clear gooey stuff In my nickers and I was wondering is it normal to be at my age and haven't started ?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also lets us know that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives and this is usually within 6-12 months.

  • Do bra sizes count if you have padding? I am a 32B in a padded bra but will I be a smaller size in a non-padded bra?? Please help!!

    It is true that the padding in a bra will make your breast size a little bigger so it might be better to get measured when you are wearing an unpadded bra.  We always advise you to try on bras before you buy them to ensure you have a comfortable fit anyway.

  • Hi Vicki
    I love your blog so much but I need your help i started my period last month but now I'm 12 days late i have not had any stress or anything and have masturbated 2 times could this effect my periods
    Thanks xxx

    Thank you for your support.  Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Masturbation will have no effect on when your period arrives.

  • Hi its sadie again I was wondering if you only get your period during the nightor Iif it can happen in the middle of the day because im really worried I get my period at school and don't notice what should I do, sadie xxx

    Hi Sadie, it is possible for you period to arrive at any time and a good way of being prepared is to wear pant liners.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Periods & School.

  • How do I tell my mum I want to start wearing my panty liners as it is staring to feel inconfortable????
    Cloxxxxx

    Hi Clo, why not consider asking your mum for her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range by following the link from the home page of this website.

  • I hav been on my period for about a year now and it's always about the 7th or 8th of each month but it's about the 14 or something and I still haven't started. Is something wrong please help. E xxx

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hey Vicki, I asked you what kind of clothes you line to wear and you said ....to flatter your shape? What does that mean?

    It means that I understand the way my body looks and choose clothes that suit me. This is something most people learn how to do over time and unfortunately after making a few unwise fashion choices.

  • Hey Vicki I am 17 and I got brown discharge last week but with no blood is this my first period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to buy some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering about how long does vaginal discharge last for before your first period. Im 13 and been dealing with discharge for about a year now. It that bad or normal?
    Thank you in advance :)

    Julie x

    As you've been releasing discharge for a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Part 2
    About the note what should I put in the note could it be
    Hey (name)
    I heard u think I'm hot well i think your hot too
    From grace xx
    Ps my snapchat ID is ....


    Or should I put something else


    Thanks viki xx

    Ansere ASAP please

    Hi Grace, it's up to you but as you will be sitting next to him, why not use this as an opportunity to get to know him better before you decide to go out with him or not.

  • Part one

    My crush called me hot and now everyone in the class knows and he is really popular so I get no time with him alone and I sit next to him in French I thought this would be the perfect chance to slip a note in his bag when no one is looking

    What do u think

    Thanks please ansere ASAP

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hello.

    I'm going to try and insert a tampon soon when I'm next due. Just so I know,does it hurt a bit the first time you put one in? Thanks! X

    All it takes is a little practice and we do recommend that you first try using tampons on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make it easier to insert.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are perfect for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Check out our video on How to use a non-applicator tampon for more help.

  • Hi there,
    I am new to this sight and i am finding it quite helpful i was woundering if i could ask you a question? I am 12 and i have been getting discharge quite heavily but havnt started by period, is this normal and if it carries on should i start wearing pantie liners so my pants arnt always filled with discharge at the end of the day?
    Thank you!

    Welcome to Ask Vicki - I'm happy to answer any questions you might have.  It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives and pant liners will not only help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there, they will also protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hi Vicki, I asked why my breast were tender earlier. Is it conserning I went from a size AA last month to a size A? I am really self consiose (not sure how to spell that) so I really dont want to talk to my mum about it.
    -Snow White

    Hi Snow White, there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to your mum about your breasts as she was once a young girl going through puberty too. Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to experience discomfort with breast development too - a soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Hi it's Cat. I broke up with my best friend and she keeps on flirting with my crush on purpose and it really irritates me. She knows that I like him and my crush knows that a like him too. My crush hates my "ex" best friend anyway so should I just just forget about this since he doesn't like her anyway? Thanks, sorry if this was hard to understand :3 xxx

    I would concentrate on your relationship with this boy and not pay any notice to your old friend.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i accidentally cut my vagina while shaving now there's some blood. Its quite painful so i put some savlon (antiseptic cream) on it to stop germs from getting in it to cause infections. Should i be worried or is it just like cutting any other part of ur body??

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcey-Mae, it should hopefully heal quite quickly but please be sure to keep the wound as clean as possible and watch that it doesn't become infected.  If it does, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I've got a pimple Down there is that normal or should I see a doctor ?

    Try to keep it as clean as possible and apply a little antiseptic and it will hopefully clear up after a couple of days.  If it becomes infected, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I feel a little bit strange when i talk to my parents and i have loads of questions what can i do?

    Try to remember that your parents were young once too so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to them about puberty.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • So I never did it with a boy but i masturbate and i kinda think im pregnant. Below my belly button is big and im kinda scared. Im only 12. There is always a sharp pain on my left side. My doctor said its nothing serious but i looked up pains on my left side and it said that a baby is either growing or a miscarrige. I cant be pregnant. Im not even a teen yet! ๐Ÿ˜ฉ Please tell me whats going on. Oh its not my period either my period ended yesterday.

    The only way you could possibly be pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male so try not to worry.  Your GP has told you not to worry too so please try to relax about this.

  • Hi vicki,
    I have this friend in my year who thinks she is way more attractive than me so she is really overconfident and patronising around me. I dont really know what to do because she really likes this guy who i think likes me and hangs around with him loads, i dont know what to do cos i really like him and i would feel i was backstabbing her if i admitted this, thank you

    If this boy likes you and you like him, then I see no reason why you would feel you are being unfaithful to your friend. This is your business and if she is a true friend she will be very happy for you.

  • Can you send me some of your products as I am to scared to tell my mom about my period as I have been borrowing some of her stuff but they are heavy flow not low flow

    If you would like to ask for your mum's permission, pop onto the home page of this website and follow the link to request a free sample from us.

  • Hi Vicki, i have some crop tops my mom bought me, however i don't know if i should tell her that i want to wear them or just start wearing them and let her see them when she washes them. BTW i have had them for about 2 months and haven't worn them yet.

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about wearing crop tops.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Whenever I laugh for abit, I end up wetting myself. This normally happens during school about 4/5 times a month. Its soo embarrassing, I don't tell anyone and just make sure my jumper covers the wet patch on the bottom of my bum. And when I sit down it leaves a wet stain and smells bad! Even when Ive just been to the loo it happens! :( Im worried incase people have noticed and talk about me! :( Help?

    Try not to worry as this is quite a common problem amongst teens.  You should look at ways of strengthening your pelvic floor muscles in order to be able to control them a little better.  Ask your mum or guardian to arrange a visit to your GP for some advice about this and you might also like to consider using pant liners which will help to protect you from possible leakage and keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • HEYY VICKI!!
    I don't have a problem but my friend does. I want to know what I can do. before she went out with a boy (really rude) but they broke up. Now he's telling everyone that she sucked on his thing when actually she didn't. But for some reason stupid people believe him, keep giving her dirty looks and talking about her. It's gotten so bad that she didn't come to school and pretended that she was ill. Its not fair, I want to tell but its going to be worse. Is there anything I can do?
    FLOWERPOTXX

    Please tell your friend to talk to a teacher at school as this is bullying and shouldn't be tolerated.  Staying away from school is one of the worst things she could do so please encourage her to talk to her parents, a trusted teacher or mentor at school about this as he should be punished for what he has done.  With your support, your friend will be able to do this.

  • My training bras feel a bit tight so do you think I should move on to a soft cup bra or is this a bad idea. I have been told I am a 28 AA.
    Thanks๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜ฎ

    As your training bras are tight, you should consider getting a bigger bra.

  • Hello.

    Basically I'm have tried several times to insert a tampon, including lilets! However, I just can't do it because I don't know how. Is it normal for it to hurt the first time to try and put it in? And is it normal that I just can't see my vaginal hole? Iam worried because I looked up something that 2 percent of teenagers can have a abnormally small vaginal hole and need to see the gp. Is that serious? And are there any tips for inserting it in? Please reply! X

    Please don't believe all you read on the internet, it is most likely that you are anxious and nervous and this is the reason you cannot insert a tampon. My advice is try inserting a clean finger inside your vaginal opening when you are not on your period, so you can get used to how this feels and locate your vaginal opening. This should make inserting a tampon easier when your next period is with you.

  • Im sorry Vicki Im waisting your time, asking silly something else questions...Im really sorry your probably fed up with me..I just think your really amaizing and interesting, I also dream about you alot. Ill try to stop right away! xxx I love You Vicki xxx :)

    You're not waisting my time, I guess it's only natural to be curious about someone you chat to online.

  • Hi, there's this boy I like and I think he likes me. In my opinion a boy should ask a girl out but I'm not sure if he actually likes me. I met him the other day and we kissed but does this mean he likes me or is he going to mess me around? For example he slept over a his mates house in the same bed as some girls, he also got with a girl while he was speaking to me but they have broke up now. So what do I do? Thanks Bethany xx

    Hi Bethany, I do get the impression that this boy likes girls rather a lot and it might be a good idea to get to know him better as a friend before you decide if you would like to go out with him or not.

  • You know the picture on About Vicki page, do you still look the same cuz you said it was taken on 2011? You look pretty...xxx

    My hair is lighter and I am a few years older now.

  • Hi its mee again. Whats your hair like? Is it long? Mines very curly and a bit bushy and dark brown...and yeah the blog on 5 minute hairstyles was great! I tried all of them! Thanks...xxxx

    At the moment my hair is in a shoulder length bob with a few layers. I am glad you like our hairstyle guide.

  • hi, im 12 I have had breast buds for like 8 months now but no breat tissue is this normal ? also I measured my self and im 64cm and 73 cm I don't know I I measured my self right because this seems too big ? do I need a padded or just a sports cos I really want to ask my mum but I feel too embarrassed . x thank you

    Breast buds comprise of milk glands, muscle, fat and tissue so please try not to worry.  Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  A training bra is something you might like to consdier as they are soft and help to get you used to wearing a more structured bra when the time arises.

  • Hi is me. What kind of clothes do you like to wear? I like dresses!
    xxx

    I like all sorts of clothes and with two daughters keeping my up to date on fashion, I try to adapt my look as much as I can to flatter my shape.

  • Hi
    I hear these voices in my head and last night they were really loud and gave me a headache when I was younger I had a recurring nightmare/dream where these voices where screaming loud and then they went really quiet. It hurts my head when I hear them and they tell me what to do sometimes and I feel like I have to respond. Please help what's wrong with me x :(

    Try not to worry and talk to your mum or guardian as a trip to your GP should give you peace of mind.

  • Hey Vicki!
    Okay so I'm 13 and 1. I started my period in august and since then I haven't had another period, it wasn't light either it was really heavy! My friends said they had there's every month since they had theres, is everything OK with me? 2. One of my nipples last week went purplish and them little bumps around your nipple went swollen on mine, that has gone down now but I have really sore breasts at the moment I'm a 32b/c why is this and what can I do to make them less sore?
    Ty!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.  It is normal to notice sore, tender breasts with development and you might find that having a soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • do you grow nipples? and how do you tell the difference between urine and discharge?



    thanks , from sharonn

    Hi Sharonn, we are all born with nipples and as our breasts develop, nipples naturally become bigger.  Discharge is a clear mucus produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It is released from the vagina whereas urine is released from the urethra and is a thinner fluid.

  • Hi vicki
    This may sound really silly but does it hurt when you use a tampon for the first time? Im not on my period yet but i was just wondering
    Thanks :)

    All it takes is a little practice and it's never been easier than now by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  We recommend that you first try using a tampon on day 2 or 3 of your period, when the flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  For some help with this, check out our video on How to insert a non-applicator tampon and remember to try to be as relaxed as possible.

  • Hi Vicki

    When I wash my hair over the bath - (So my head is up side down). When I finishing my hair I put a towel over it my parting in my hair really shows? do you think Vicki that normal thanks!

    I think this is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  When hair is wet, partings are naturally more noticeable.

  • hi vicki ,
    ive been getting discharge and bad cramps but i havent started my peiod yet does this mean i could nearly be starting ?? x

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I'm two weeks late for my period, I'm 15 and I admit that I am sexually active with my boyfriend, I've got no symptoms of pregnancy or anything thing like that but what else could be the cause of my late period?! many thanks x

    If you have had unprotected sexual intercourse then you should consider taking a pregnancy test to rule this out before considering other reasons for the delay.

  • Hi, Vicki!

    You don't have to answer this question I would like to say I really Thank You for helping me! Did you without this website I really don't know who to find and share my problems and worried!

    Did you know you already answer 6 Question:

    1) Changing my periods pad- Not to hide it
    2) Fringe- Already grown!
    3) Uniform- told me to be brave and bold
    4) Girls keep looking at me
    5) Youtuber (Wengie)
    6) Hair and Beauty Communication

    Thank you very much!

    You are more than welcome.

  • I've started brushing my tongue (sounds gross) and recently noticed I got a sore throat from it. It lasted 3 days and it wasn't that bad, just a bit sore. But I didn't used to get this when brushing my tongue and I feel unclean if I don't brush it as well as my teeth. Is this normal or did I brush too hard maybe?

    Lots of people brush their tongue as part of their oral hygiene routine but if you made your throat sore by brushing too hard, you might like to be a bit more gentle in future.

  • Hi vicki im 12and i was out the other day and suddenly my lower bit of my belly started to ache but it was my first time and only happend for about 10minutes and hasent happend since i have pinic hair breast developing etc could my periods be on its way?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I feel left out! my friends have got wipes and liners and starter packs from you. we all have discharge none of us have our periods. the only thing is I get so uncomfortable and wet with discharge so when I asked for your products to keep clean and fresh my mum said no. I don't know what to do my mum doesn't understand I need something to help me.

    Why not ask your mum if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample by following the link from the home page of this website?

  • Hi Vicks,
    Some of my friends have started to wear a bra, and I am not sure whether i should? And I am also getting really angry with my parent sometimes and I am getting worried they might shout at me back. I hope you can give me some advice.
    Thanks xx

    It's normal to notice that some of your friends will now be starting to wear bras but try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different times to each other and it is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's.  A good way of knowing if it's time to get a bra is to notice that if when you jump up and down, your breasts jiggle about and you feel that they need some support.  A training bra is  good to start with as it will help you get used to wearing one.

  • Hey Vicki
    I got my period. And I told my mom
    And I don't think she believes me
    Please answer she said she believed
    Me but I don't think she does
    P.S. I'm ten I'll be eleven in a month
    What should I do ???? Please please answer

    Your mum will be well aware that your period will be arriving some time soon so try not to worry as she was a young girl going through puberty once.  You could always show her a used sanitary towel if you wanted to prove that your period has already arrived.

  • I have discharge and plucked up courage to ask my mum for some wipes and liners. she said no. she doesn't understand the dis comfort I have in the day. what can I do

    I can only suggest that you talk to her to and express how uncomfortable you feel.  Pant liners will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there and will protect you from possible leakage too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had my discharge for a long time now and I'm only 11. In the day I feel a bit wet and uncomfortable so I asked my mum for some wipes and liners and looked at the starter packs. She said no! I think she is a bit nervous about letting me have them but I don't think she understands that I am uncomfortable,
    please help me what can I do?

    Talk to your mum and explain how using pant liners will help you feel more comfortable down there.  They will also protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Last night I went to a party and all my friends including me wanted to get off with a boy (getting off meaning intense make out) and I started talking to this boy that I think is fit and we got so close and we cuddled all night and sat on his lap and he got my in the lift and we got off. And it wasnt awkward after but last 20 mins he left me and had another girl sat on him. My friend made him inbox me but I'm not sure if we've fallen out...

    I think you should think carefully about getting involved with this boy as he obviously likes all girls and doesn't think he should be exclusively with one.  I think you should consider moving on and forgetting about him.

  • Hiyaa i really like your page xx
    Soo ive had discharges for quite a while now my breast are developing pubic hair etc when would my periods arrive? Xxx
    Thanks

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed, I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hey I'm 12 and haven't been on my period for 2 weeks and I'm really worried. It has been stressful at home with my mum leaving and don't k ow if that is why please help me you are the only women I can get advice form as my mum isn't helping me please help x ๐Ÿ’“

    Periods are often irregular with both long and short gaps between each one and when they do arrive the length of time for menstruation can vary too, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki
    There is this other guy *ฬฉn my neighbourhood who has รฅ crush on me..i keep *ฬฉn contact with him but he is รฅ perv...he always askes me for picz of my boobs but i sy no..then he gets pissed off with me..he thinks that i like him but I don't,,i don't know how to tell him that i don't like him i already have รฅ boyfriend...he also thinks that we are dating but we not
    Plz plz plz help me!
    Thnx Vicki
    Love Samoan

    If this boy is not taking your request to leave him alone seriously and continues to ask your for pictures of an inappropriate nature you should speak to your parents and ask them to deal with this matter,  before it gets out of hand.

  • the 2nd day there was a small stain and none when I wiped and today there was a fairly large amount when I wiped it was like a clot. I don't know if this is my period bcuz its quite a light brown and ive not told my mum yet, how shouldi say. is this my period? thanks x PART2

    There is no doubt that this is your first period and you may find my blog on menstrual fluid a useful read.

  • hi Vicki,
    so I think I might have gotten my period but im not sure, Ive had a brown kind of discharge in my underwear which has occurred for 3 days now. ive had normal discharge for 3-4years. on the first day there was quite a lot but when I wiped there was a very small amount. PART 1

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi vicki
    If you are on your periods and you have sex will you get pregnant? I am under 16 but will not be thinking of sex anytime soon. I am always within the law. thank you

    This could happen yes.

  • hi vicki๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฏ
    ive just turned 13, my bra size is 34b but my nipples seem to be inverted or just stick out a tiny bit. im not sure wether they are inverted or not though? will they come out as my boobs continue to grow?
    ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

    Most nipples come out as the breasts continue to develop so please try not to worry.

  • Just a suggestion, I think because there is a limited amount of characters you can have in a question, there should be a character count, it would make it a lot easier. Thank you ๐Ÿ˜Š

    I will pass your idea on to the team that deal with our website display.

  • I've got a lot of hair around my body. I shave my legs, armpits and down there, but I've got hair on my stomach and lower back and it really makes me feel self conscious. I don't want to shave there because the hair will grow back quicker. Is there any way I can fix this?? Xxx

    This hair very often disappears on its own as your hormones settle down, so why not leave it for now.

  • I haven't actually been diagnosed but I've taken quizzes etc and I think I'm depressed. I have felt really down for the last few months but I have no reason to be. I have one friend at school who I love and she has anxiety. What do I do next?? Thanks, Carrie x x x

    Online tests cannot diagnose any medical condition and as you are a teenager you should really speak to your GP who will be able to identify if you are depressed or finding it difficult handling your emotions due to puberty. So have a chat to our parents and ask for their advice as to how to move forward.

  • For a few months now I've been contemplating on selfharming and I'm not sure what to do because I don't want anyone to see it. My sister does it and I hate seeing cuts upon cuts all over her thighs and wrists. What do I do? X

    Please chat to someone about the way you are feeling, such as family members or your teacher, they will ensure you get the support you need at this time.

  • Hi vicki,
    I think I might have started my first proper period because I went to the Rooney and I noticed blood in the toilet so I wiped and keeps wiping ant there was stil blood going and so I went to bed and woke up this morning and went again and there was blood in my pants. Is this my period I've had all the signs of puberty and how shall I tell my mum x

    Just the same way you have shared this news with me, do the same when speaking to your mum, she will be more than happy to hear your news and I and will I am sure purchase some supplies for you.

  • How long is it hygienic to keep a pad in for? X

    A pad can be worn for up to 8 hours, but most people change theirs every 3-5 hours.

  • I was on my period at school the other day and I forgot to bring a spare pad to school so I had to keep the same one in all day but at about 2:30 (my school finishes at 4) I could smell it! You know the blood has a odd smell to it? I could smell myself ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ทwhat can I do to stop this from happening again?? Thanks x

    Remember in the morning to always ensure you have sufficient pads to change during break. If you get caught out in the future you could always ask your teacher, school nurse or school secretary for one.

  • Hello Vicki,
    My daughter uses this sight although I am not sure if parents can use this feature? She heard her Father and I having intercourse last night and will not speak to me or even look at me since. I have tried to explain it is natural but she just won't listen! I could appreciate some help.
    Thankyou.

    My advice would be to continue reassuring your daughter that this is just one part of how couples share their love for one another, it may take her a while to realise this, but I am sure in time she will understand and whilst not always comfortable with the idea, she will hopefully be accepting that this is the way things are.

  • Hi Vicki,
    The other week, I was out shopping with my mum. I asked her if I could have some more cropped tops (coz mine were to small). She said, would this size be okay?(it was age 12-13) I said yeah. Then she said do you want a bra yet? And I said No. Now I realy want one coz most of my friends do. I am scared to ask her, after I've said I don't want one yet! Please help! Thanks xxx

    I am sure your mum will understand if you say you have changed your mind and were a little taken aback when she asked you. Mums were teens once too.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Is it true that you get swollen nipples two years before your first period? I had it when I was nine and now I'm eleven!

    Please answer ASAP,
    Thx

    Some girls notice breast development including the nipple area a few years before the arrival of their period, but we are all different and this is not the case for others.

  • Dear Vicki
    Is discharge everyday or just a few days a month (when your period will be)
    Thanks xxx

    This can vary, some people experience it every day, others just from time to time, either way it is very normal and nothing to be anxious about.

  • So i have just had my first period and now I'm getting lots of brown discharge. Is it normal?

    During the last few days of your period it is very common for the fluid to be light brown in colour, but this is still your period and it is a good idea to either wear a pad of liner during these final days.

  • Dear Vicki, can nasturbating affect your period in a negative way, for example prolong the time you start your period (not first period)? xx




    Masturbation has no impact on your menstural cycle at all.

  • Hi I am 10 (2 months till I am 11)What stage is after pubic hair and longs the gap before the next stage
    ThankYou
    from anonymous

    This depends on the individual, some girls notice breast development and pubic hair about 2 years before the arrival of their period, others get their period sooner.

  • HI vicky please help me my boobs are progressing lost of people at my school have there period i'm scared it going to happen at school i have had a discharge for couple of months what do i expect, when do you think it will happen.

    Discharge can be noticed between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period, so consider taking some pads or liners to school with you from now on so you will always be prepared and you may find my blog on Periods in School useful too.

  • I'm 11 and I find that my emotions are out of control and when I want to be left alone my friends won't stop. What should I do and how do I hold my crazy emotions together

    Why not read our section on Friendships and Boys and Emotions, under the Puberty tab for all you need to know about handling your feelings during puberty.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm almost 13 and haven't had my period yet. I have discharge that can sometimes be brownish but usually just yellowish white. You've told me in some of my other questions that a first period can sometimes be brown coloured the first few times, but when will I actually know when it's there, like with blood and all, not just brown coloured stuff.
    Thank you!!!

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and if your period is light it may always be this colour, so please don't think menstrual fluid has to be red to be real.

  • Hi Vicki, I wrote last week and asked my bra size, you asked me to check again as my measurements were unusual. I got my sister to measure me tonight I measure 71cm under the bust and 113cm over my bust. Plesae tell me my bra size, I'm 15 and I'm wearing a 38DD which simply doesn't fit me, but I live in a remote area with no shops near me which sell nice bras. II will have to get my sister to get one for me online so I need to know what size to order.

    Please help.
    Thanks, Molly x

    Hi Molly, you really should visit a store when you get a chance and ask them to measure you if you feel your DD bra is not suitable.

  • Hi vicki, I have just come back off holiday and I missed my period while I was away! It's the first one I have missed in about 8 months and I'm really worried. What does this mean? Is it because I was in and out the pool? Will it be heavier next month? Also, I use pads but I want to move onto tampons as I dance a lot and I think it would be better for me but I don't know how to ask my mom? Any tips? Thankyou x

    I would not worry too much about your period, they can often be irregular even when they have been regular before.  As for tampons, why not ask your mum if you can try our Lil-Lets teens tampons designed for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands, but just as absorbent.

  • Basically, my brother and his girlfriend are 17 nearly 18 and they were at a party and she got quite drunk and we are so close like she's practically a sister but she told me about her and my brother having sex at her house but I don't know whether she might of remembered telling me about it and I don't want there to be awkward tension!!!!

    Why not try to forget his conversation and be happy that she trusts you enough to share this news with you.

  • Do you have to wear knickers in bed when u r on yout period????

    If you wear pads then yes you will need to wear underwear, but if you wear tampons then no there is no reason to wear underwear at all.

  • What should I have in a period bagpack???

    Pads, liners, wipes and even a change of underwear is a good place to start.

  • hi vicki.
    i think my vagina smells a bit.. a day after washing and it still does. im 13, what do i do?

    Washing this area daily is very important, as is wiping thoroughly after visiting the toilet. You may also find wearing pant liners helps as will using Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes.

  • so i feel like im wearing the wrong bra size or i dont know, im 15 i mesure 5'6. i was measured 3 months ago and i was told i was a 32C but when i put the bra they gave me i feel like it makes my boobs really small compared to other girls who wear the same size... is it because there bra might be thicker? under the boob i measure (31) inches and on the boob (35)inches. oh and i get bad back pain when i wear a bra to long, my bra comes from lasenza

    The purpose of a bra is to support the breasts and not to make them look fuller, if the measurements you have given me are correct I feel you may be smaller in the cup, but it really is a case of trying on lots of different styles and sizes until you find the right one for you.

  • im 14 and all my friends dont shave their pubic hair. ( vagina hair )
    is it fine if i shave mine is that normal? i want too and i know some girls in other years who do it too..

    That depends on why you feel the need to remove this hair and how your parents feel about this too. Personally, I feel trimming it back is a better option, but your parents may feel differently.

  • Hey.
    I am really worried because my breast (only one) is a odd shape. It really sags and definitely isn't a round shape. My other breast is perfectly round.
    Also my nipple on the 'odd breast' is really flat...I am really worried and wondering if there is something serious wrong with it.
    Thanks x

    One breast often develops before the other and even when fully developed no two breasts are ever identical so please try not to worry.

  • Is doing it with a boy the only way to get pregnant?

    For couples who struggle to conceive a child, medical help can be given and there are several options available to couples finding themselves in this situation.

  • hi vicki x
    im really good friends with this girl, i have the best fun with her but im lost because she keeps upsetting me and then saying sorry and doing it again and being all nice and im either rellt unhappy or really happy with her. weve had a massive fallout and is arguing with her alot natural? i dont know wether i should want to be her friend, i would miss her alot or shall i say something to her? if so what shall i say? x

    Let her know that you want to continue being friends but her behaviour is making it impossible and that if you cannot find a way to get along and respect each other more then it may be time to call an end to your friendship.

  • Hi, I was wondering why my um...erm... breast are so tender? Even the slightest touch makes it sore. Just wondering.
    -Snow

    Hi Snow, as they develop the skin grows over the breast tissue, which can make them very tender and sore if touched. This is very normal and will cease as they continue to develop.

  • hi vicki!
    i went on holiday in summer and my brother invited his friend too. it sounds just like a stupid crush but i got butterflies every time he walked past me and i think about him so much. hes two years older and i dont know what to do because i really really like him ... will everyone in my brothers year think im a freak? shall i say something?

    This does sound like a crush and unless he showed signs that he liked you too, I would keep your feelings to yourself for now.

  • Hi vicki
    I am 12 years old and i have had discharge for almost a year now. About a month ago i found this brown gooey stuff in my knickers but it was only that once and it didn't last for days. It has been a month now and nothing else has happened, i've only had clear discharge that is slightly yellow since then. What was that brown stuff? Please help.

    This brown fluid was almost certainly your period, even though it only lasted a few days. Your next period may be a few months away as periods often have long gaps between each one for the first few years.

  • hi vicki :)
    im really concerned because i have a big flap on the left side of my vagina and google says its normal but i dont think it is because boys in my class make jokes about girls with beef curtains so im scared to have intercourse with my boyfriend and what he would think but i need to know if other girls at 16 have it too i think about it alot and i really wish it just was the size of the other one :(

    Yes this is normal and is called your labia. I would not take one bit of notice of these boys and their comments, they clearly do not know anything about the anatomy of a girl. As for you and your boyfriend, when you are old enough and ready to be intimate he will love everything about you.

  • Hi. What is the diffirence between where it says 'Blog' and 'Vicki's Blog Posts'?

    Ask Vicki blogs are themed on subjects relating to puberty and periods, other blog posts are based on subjects such as our products, fashion, music or books.

  • Fullest:70cm
    Around:65cm
    I asked this 2/3 days ago and I don't think u answered so I'm asking again if that's okayy also is that a good size for a14 year old?? My breasts are so small๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ™

    I have answered your question and your breast size is 30AA.

  • Hey Vicki
    I really love your site but I'd like to ask why I'm so self conscious, whenever I turn around I always think boys are staring at me and I can't help it, also are push up bras good for my age (13)

    Thanks Xxxxxxx

    It is not unusual for teens to feel a little self conscious wondering if people are staring at them. I would not worry about this your confidence will return as you mature. As for push up bras, these are generally only suitable for fuller busts or for those people who want to make their breasts appear bigger.

  • Ok I told u about the boy who thinks I'm hot well any way
    I do like him and I was wondering should i ask him out or
    Should I let him do it thanks
    1 week left so can you answer
    ASAP
    Thanks

    Why not wait for him to approach you.

  • Hi Vicki, over the past few days I've had pain in my breasts, armpits, shoulder blades and other places around the shoulder. I wondered if this was normal for a 15 year old during puberty, can you help please? Xx ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

    I suggest you have a chat to your parents as you may have strained a muscle.

  • Hi vicki

    I'm super scared so...
    Next to my clit was itchy so I looked and it looked like there was a second one it's red and itchy I think it's swollen do you think I should wait and see what happens or sat straight away what do you think it is
    Thanks in advance ๐Ÿ˜„โ˜…

    It may be your vulva is inflamed and this may become less so over the next few days, but if you have any concerns speak to your parents about this matter.

  • Hi, (I am sorry I ask a lot of questions...) I just yelled at my brother, it was very unlike me. Also I kinda yelled at my sister. My brother and sister are younger and I am the oldest my parents are out. I domt have anyone to talk to about these feeling. Help?
    -AJDJ

    Puberty is a tough time for teens and I am sure if you spend time having fun with your siblings when the hard times come along you will find you will still be close as a family.

  • Could you please tell me my bra size please vicki:
    74cm and under 70cm
    xxx

    32AA.

  • Hi vicki
    There's this guy I really like and at school I sit near him for almost everything and all my friends seem to think he likes me and every time I walk past him I get butterflies in my stomach and it's even worse in class coz I have to sit next to him and he's all I think about.My friend keeps asking him who it is he likes and all the things he said add up to me plz help it's driving me insane

    Be patient and if this boy does like you he will let you know in his own time, my advice is to not rush him into making a decision as this often pushes boys too far too soon and can make them feel awkward.

  • Is it normal for me to enjoy things like films and TV shows that are meant for older people? (I'm 14, but I like things that are meant for 15 or 18 yr olds) Most people my age prefer things that are in their age range, like things for 12 yr olds. But I like comedies performed by Ricky Gervais or Jimmy Carr. Everyone else just sticks with stuff like The Simpsons, which just seems childish to me.

    We are all different and I can remember my children found more adult humour funny at your age, so try not to worry. Just make sure it is age appropriate and your family are happy for you to watch these shows.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have a size 30AA bra size. I have pubic hair. I am just starting to develop armpit hair.
    I have a lot of discharge on a regular basis (I have to wear pantiliners)
    Do you think I will start my period this year? I know you usually have discharge for 6-18 months before you start, but I was just askin for your opinion, so I can prepare myself.
    I am 13 by the way.
    Thank youโค๐Ÿ’œโค

    It is very hard to say, but I do think it would be a good idea to keep some pads and liners with you from now on when you are out and about.

  • I recently broke up with my friends and I have found some new friends. I am sooooo much happier! However me, my new friends and my old friends are all in the same class. I absolutely hate my old friends now and they always give dirty looks. When we broke up they expected me to have no friends and be sad and lonely, however now that they see I am much happier without them they seem as though their "plan failed." This is really annoying me and I have so much hate towards them now. What should I do? Thanks xx

    Let the hate go is my advice, it serves no purpose and if you like your new friends, then be the better person and try to get on with your old group of friends as acquaintances, you really will find being positive is so much better than filling your heart with hatred.

  • Hi Vicki,
    This is my first time looking on here and asking a question on a online site. Today I was at a party went to the ladies room and saw that I had discharge in my underwear. I thought I should now look at how long it would take for my first period to come after discharge it said from 6 to 8 months on the amount of sites I looked at. So my question is will your first period ever come before that time ?? Xx Thank you abbie

    Hi Abbie, your period could arrive at any time but as a general rule you can wait anything from 6-12 months so why not ensure you are prepared and have some pads and liners with you from now on when you are out and about.

  • Hi vicki :)
    Ive been really imotional this week, im not on my period yet but i do have discharge. Ive been really happy then next i get upset and moody for no reason and i start being mean to my sister and back chatting my mum :( i feel bad after because i yelled at them for no reason :'( what shall i do?

    Emotions can often be all over the place during puberty and it may be time to have a chat to your parents and let them know how hard you are finding puberty and ask them if they can help you during this phase in your life and trust me they will understand.

  • Hi Vicki!

    I was wondering what kinda of bra do I get if an AA cup is to small (Tight)and an A is to big. What do I get? I am a 32 but I am not sure what cup size...
    From AJDJ

    Hi, it really is important to measure your under bust and bust to get your measurement as if an AA cup is now too small, it does not automatically mean you need an A cup. So next time you go shopping get yourself measured.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 11 and I wear an underwired bra
    I am a 34a is it ok to wear an under wired bra at this time
    Also I find it gives me a lot of support
    Ps I love this site and it has helped me through my first couple of periods

    Also I loved your starter pack

    If you find the bra comfortable and it fits perfectly then I see no reason why not, but for me an A cup does not usually need the support of an underwired bra.

  • Right,I've liked this boy for a while and he's just admitted he likes me. He always compliments my boobs and how big they are. Also he's constantly asking me to send him pictures aswell. At first it was fun but now it's getting boring,but I'm scared he won't talk to me if I don't send them. What shall I do?

    I would be very wary of continuing any communication with this boy if all he seems to care about is your breasts and receiving photos of them. My advice is to stop all contact with him and find someone who likes you for your personality and not just how you look.

  • Hi
    So I wet the bed quite alot (im 12) so I have these dry nites there kinda like nappies but I was wondering when I get my period on a night I could wear them.

    Thanks

    I think when you are on your period you should wear a sanitary pad, a night one will be most suitable, but if you feel more comfortable wearing your dry nites then it really is a case of trying them and seeing if they capture menstrual fluid as well as urine.

  • I am 14 and I haven't started my period yet, should I be worried, and does this mean I won't be able to have kids in the future?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please don't worry you have plenty of time left for yours to arrive.

  • Hello Vicki, I am feeling VERY out of place right now... All of my freinds are a half a year younger than me or half a year older than me. The only one my age is really tiny. The ones older are really not easy to talk to. But anyway all the kids havent even diveloped breast. They dont say anything but they give me strange looks. And I am the tallest so I look really out of place. Any advice?
    -Alexa

    Hi Alexa, we are all different in our own way. And rather than worry about how you fit in with others, concentrate on being you and individual, because in the end that is all that matters.

  • Hey Viki,
    I had my period 3 times and then it just stopped completely. It's been almost a year now and I'm really worried. Is this normal? Please help me.

    Periods can often have long gaps in between each one, but if you have any concerns ask your parents to pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • Today I think my period has started, I went to the toilet and wiped and found blood? and done it 5 times to make sure, and it was there. I then tried it again 5 minutes later no blood was there? it was a little to alot.

    Why not see if any more blood is lost over the next few days, if it is then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • hi Vicki, how can I tell my mum I'm having sexual attraction for a boy I like? She knows I like him but I don't think she thinks that i'm feeling this way.i'm almost certain that he likes me but how do I tell him without everyone at schol knowing. mum is very understanding, like a best friend or sister. Sorry if this is inappropriate but I really need an answer asap. I have found myself crying because I like him so much and just want to tell him. Thanks xxxx

    If you are sure this boy feels the same about you then why not wait and see if he asks you out on a date, there really is no rush. You can then invite him round for tea so your mum can get to know him too.

  • PART 2โ™ฅโ™ฅ
    my other friend asked if she was alright (over text) and she said yes it was just people talking about her behind her back and i dont know whether she means me or what? im so confused and very upset

    Have a quiet word with your friend and let her know that you value her friendship but feel that it would be beneficial for both of you to find different partners from time to time as part of getting involved with larger groups, which can only be a good thing.

  • PART 1 โ™ฅโ™ฅ
    i have a clingy friend, who immediately asks to go in partners with me whenever the teacher mentions about partners and follows me everywhere. The other day she ask to be partners with me in badminton (i feel like i always have to say yes) and i beat her by quite a lot, she then got really quiet and sad and wouldnt talk to me

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki,on photo day the people taking the photos said smile more and to me i smiled alot then i smiled really hard and they said a sarcastic ok that's fine. It made me feel that i don't have a good smile how can i make myself feel i'm beautiful without makeup please reply
    LOVE Freya xxxooo

    Hi Freya, not everyone likes to smile on photos, and I can count myself as one of those people. So please try not to worry about the photoshoot, we are all beautiful in our own way and we don't need a smile on our faces to prove it.

  • Hey - I want to do extra-curricular rowing but i'm not at all fit and it's a really big commitment. i am also really short and I'm not sure if there are any ways i can row if I'm short. it costs loads so i really need advice to make up my mind, thanks xx from A.B

    Why not ask your local rowing club if you can have a trial for a few weeks to see if a) you like it and b) if you are physically capable of taking part in this sport.

  • Hi so i slept at my friends house and i peed the bed by accident as i have problems and she said she will tell everyone and she already told most of the class and i feel really bad as im 14 help please x

    How unkind of your friend to share this accident with others and it really would make me think twice before continuing with your friendship. My advice is to ignore any comments you hear and have a chat to your teacher or parents if any teasing or bullying is experienced.

  • Hi Viki it's Millie :) ,

    there is this boy I like who's in all of my classes and I'm pretty sure he likes me too, but our friends are the type of people who if you ask for privacy will be up in your face, I do and don't want to ask him, I've already had my crush blurted out by my bestfriends so I don't want to ask him incase they find out. Plus we always laugh together but I don't want to ask him, have him say no, then lose all the fun we had. what should I do?

    Hi Millie, why not just be happy being friends for now and if in the future things change you can always wait for him to ask you out on a date.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Do you have swollen and tender nipples two years because I had it when I was nine and now I'm eleven because I turned eleven.

    Please answer AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!
    Thx

    Tender and swollen nipples can happen during breast growth yes and this can continue for a number of years.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Do you have to have discharge to have your first period? I'm getting really worried because I've not had discharge and some of my friends have.

    Thx

    Not everyone experiences discharge before their period so please try not to worry.

  • In the morning I put on a pad and I set off at school. Something bad happened during lunch. My period leaked through my trousers and I left a stain everywhere I sat. My school has uniform so I was wearing black trousers and luckily you could hardly see with my blazer over it as well. But I left visible stains on every chair I sat on and I had to ask my friend for her sweater to wear over my shirt so it wasn't noticeable at all๐Ÿ˜จ.
    What shall I do if it happens again๐Ÿ˜ฐ.
    Thnx๐Ÿ’˜

    It may be that you need a different brand of pad and you may find our Lil-lets freshlock long pads ideal for your heavier days and finally don't worry little mishaps happen to all of us from time to time.

  • Hiya Vicki, I love this website. It's really helpful. Here's my question; when will I start my period? I turned 12 about 5 weeks ago. All my friends have started and I really want mine! I have had a light discharge for about a year now. And I've got buds (boobs) there often itchy. So when will I start my period !?? Thanks โค๏ธ

    You really do have to be patient, your body is working just as it should and I am sure your period is not too far away, so ensure from now on you have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • how do i ask my mum for a under wired bra, I'm wearing a 30AA but i think i need more surport and so do my friends.

    please help!

    Underwired bras are generally for a fuller bust, so I do not think you need one if you are an AA cup and a non wired bra should be more than suitable for now.

  • I started my period at the beginning of 2012 and even now I get horrible gloopy discharge and small dry lumps on it and it stains my knickers yellowy, it is worrying me and I get embarassed
    Jasminxo

    Hi Jasmin, discharge is very often noticed in between periods and this may continue until your twenties and is very normal and nothing to worry about, you may find wearing pant liners on a daily basis will help leave you feeling more comfortable.

  • Hi I'm 14 and I started my period at the start of 2012, but my boobs are so so small, all my friends have big boobs and it's so embarrassing because I look funny in some outfits as I have no boobs, and I know they carry on growing till im in my 20's but Because I'm so small I'm so scared I won't grow any bigger:(

    At 14 you will still have growth yet to happen so please be patient and try not to compare your progress with those around you, we really are all different and in time you will learn how to dress for your shape.

  • I really want to know my bra size and if I'm ready for a cupped bra. At the moment I am wearing a non padded 30A. I have looked online and it has told me various things from training bra :( to 28B :)
    Anyway I have measured myself and I am:
    Under: 62cm
    On top: 69cm
    What is my size and do you think I'm ready for a bra?
    Thanks so much xxx Zoรซ

    28AA is your bra size and there really is no need for padding at this time.

  • My friend said she loves me in a romantic way.. we are both girls. shes lesbian and I said idk what I am..what should I say?

    If you feel uncomfortable with your friends comments then tell her so and ask that you just keep this on a friends only basis for now and until you are 100% sure as to how you feel. If she is a good friend she will understand and accept your decision.

  • so mt friend is having a party soon and wants me to bring my bf. i told her i would ask him but i keep procrastinating! i do want him to go but not sure how to ask him we barely talk and we think we should talk more. today is our 1 month anniversary and i just still don't know how to ask him and its on the 25th!

    Why not leave the invitation open and casually let him know there is a party and you would like him to come along and then see how you both feel in a few weeks before the party is here and as you both prepare and chat about what fun it iwll be.

  • I have a friend who keeps hitting on me, shes bi and I'm kinda confused.. do I say something? both girls

    If you do not feel the same then you should let her know and inform her that you only see her as a friend and hope that she can accept this and continue being good friends.

  • Hi ive had discharges for iver a year now and when i go out i just feel like theres a bit of pee comming out of my vagina and i feel kind of weird ive told my mum about it she said she would try getting me some pads but she still hasent and i dont want to talk to her about it again what should i do?

    I am sure your mum will not mind you asking her again and jogging her memory, so why not have a chat and let her know you still feel uncomfortable when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki. I like this boy at school and I have sexual attraction for him. He knows me as we are in the tutor group and I think he likes me. My mum knows that I like him but she doesn't know or suspect that I have these feelings. I don't know how she will react as we are Jehovah's Witness'. BTW, I do have my periods, I do not masturbate anymore and I look up too you.
    Thanks xxx

    Dating someone is not all about being sexually active and in fact it is advisable to be good friends and keep things very simple, so your mum has nothing to worry about.


  • pls ansa.2 days ago, i think i hd cramps and my mum said i am gettin my
    period soon. pls z it a week afta befor i get my period?

    Tummy cramps can also be noticed when your reproductive organs are maturing and this can happen both before and after your period so please try not to worry and have some pads and liners with you from now on...just in case.

  • Hi vicki
    I have been getting discharge for almost a year now and i have found this dark brown in my nickers but it has stopped now and my discharge has gone clear again. Please help

    It seems this was your first period, so ensure going forward you have some pads and liners in your school or sports bag in preparation for your next one.

  • Hi I have a problem well I never feel like hanging out with my friends any more. I feel bored when I'm with them and think that Id rather be at home on my own. What's happening and why am I feeling like this? I just never feel like going out with them or anything. It's really weird and makes me feel guilty and I can't help feeling the way I do. My other friend lives abroad now so I can't see her but she's the only one I feel like meeting

    It is very normal for teenagers to feel the need to  be alone from time to time and to find they are growing apart from friends. But it really is worth making the effort to be around people and it may be a good idea to organise some fun activities for you all to do, to make your time together more exciting.

  • Hi Vicki, so I was just wondering if I could wear a bra yet I'm 65 under and 72 over?
    Thanks Ellie xx

    30AA is your size Ellie and you can wear a bra if you wish, but if you prefer to wait a while this is fine too.

  • Hi Vicki
    i been having discharge for quite a while now maybe up to 2 years, I've got got some signs like sight cramps and hair but could you tell me any other signs and could when I might start my period thanks !
    From pink heart xx

    Hi Pink heart, you have already noticed so many signs I really would not worry; your period is not too far away now I am sure.


  • I've never been to mixed school (I'm in year 8) and I have no idea how to act around boys!!!! I'm totally cool talking about them, and most of the time I'm fine being around them, but talking to them I get all nervous and I don't know what to talk about! I would join a club outside of school but I'm at boarding school. My mum says that I can't go to mixed school until sixth form because girls do better in all girls schools up to sixth form. What tips do you have for me to talk to boys less awkwardly?

    It really is all about practice and talking to boys you like as friends rather than romantically. It may not happen any time soon, but then nowadays lots of people wait until their late teens or early twenties before dating.

  • I have had discharge for just under two years now and i am now in year 9. About ninety percent of my friends have started their periods. My breasts are fairly small. My Mum said she started when she was twelve and I am now 13. Also how do you know when your first period is coming?? X

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed you may not have too much longer to wait, so please try not to compare your progress to that of others....we really are all different.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I've got a another question - Our teacher told us to stick anything on our books; like anything we like but the teacher told us it must have our name, so I was wondering if I stick my favourtive band and group and my name - but I've I've told my friend what they are sticking in and they are sticking in Youtubers- and I was going to stick Korean Music bands _ But I'm worried that other people in my class might laughed at me?

    Should I still stick them on or not?

    If this is what you like then go for it. There is something to be said for being individual and following your heart.

  • Hi Vicki, me again... I just started finding this white goo in my underwear? Is this bad? And how do I keep this from ruining my underwear? Please reply soon.
    -AJDJ (Yes I am a girl...)

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping vagina clean and free from infection, it is very natural and a sign that your period may not be too far away.

  • hi i have to do swimming at school but im on my period ive watched some videos on how to use a tampon but both said that it might leak and i need a little help i need u to answer pretty quick cause i do swimming in 2 days thank you

    If you wear a tampon when in the pool it will not leak, so please try not to worry and consider using our Lil-Lets teens tampons, ideal for first time users.

  • Heyyy,
    It's layla :) so umm theres this boy who i like and on facebook i had to tell him a confession so i came out with it and said i liked him. He replies saying do you...? And i said what if i do and he said nothing he's just wait for me to say something, and after he said so do i yes or no and i said yes, and after he replies ' okayyy x ' so we keppt talking and i said what would he do if i asked him out he said to ask him and i said rt would he said yes and he said mayybe, does he like me or??

    Hi Layla, it does seem that this boy likes you, but I see no reason why you cannot wait a while before asking him out, so you can both get to know each other a little better.

  • Hey Vicki! I'm going on holiday with the school soon, and I'm super excited! However, we are going swimming, and I was wondering what bikini would suit my body shape. The bikini I have at the moment does me no favours, and makes my boobs look saggy. I am 34c and I have a small waste but huge thighs! Please help! Smileyface๐Ÿ˜ƒ (14) x

    Hi Smileyface, consider a halter neck top if you are looking for support to the breast area and have a great time on your school break.

  • I suffer with something called iontophoresis, it's excessive sweating of the hands, feet & under arms. And it's ruining my life! Because of it I'm shy, & not confidence, it's the most embarrassing thing you could ever experience. Imagine doing your normal day, things like school / work / handling things such as paper etc.. with sodden hands. That's how it is for me everyday of my life, I've been to the doctors several times, & they've pretty much said I should just put up with it, but I don't think I can.

    I really do not think you should have to accept this condition and I would urge you to ask your mum to speak to your doctor again and ask to be referred to a specialist as there may be treatments available.

  • Hi! I'm 14 and I haven't started my period yet. My mum started when she was 16 so I know that I still have a little while to wait but I'm really worried I am going to get it at a really embarrassing moment. Is there anything I could do to help?

    Having some pads and liners with you when out and about may help, you may even want to consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis just in case.

  • Hi Vicki, Within the last 12 months I've been suffering with..this may sound odd but; blushing. I've always blushed a little, but within the last year it has been much worse. I've become a completely different person once loud and confident now quite and shy, all because I'm scared whatever I do I'll go bright red. In class I don't want to speak to anyone or put my hand up incase I go red, and it's so embarrassing & the more I think about it the brighter I go! Am I the only person who suffers with this??

    I suffer with this too, as do a great many people and my advice is to continue answering in class even if it's just short responses to questions. In time you will start to feel more comfortable around others it just takes time.

  • Hello Vicki, I havent gotten my period yet but i am sorta scared on what to tell my mum. I look up information on it and they said to send a text from school but I am homeschooled. What should I do?
    -AJDJ

    Why not write her a little note asking for a chat and leave it somewhere only she can find it, such as her make-up bag or underwear drawer. It may be that she is waiting for you to approach her and I am sure she will listen to any concerns or questions you have.

  • Hi Vicky, I've just turned 14 and everyone else in my whole year has started there periods! Whereas I'm small, shapeless, flat chested and baby faced. I've had hair down below for about 3 years!! I have none under my arms tho, I've also had discharge for over about 18 months, but that's all the signs I've had. I don't even fit in an AA bra to be quite honest. I'm becoming extremely self-conscience with myself!!!

    Please don't worry about puberty, it arrives at a different times for each of us and you have plenty of time for development to occur.

  • Hi, I am 12 and I havent reseaved my period yet. Should I be worried? I have all the signs of puberty. Please reply.

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you really have nothing to worry about at all.

  • Hey Vicki,

    At what age do periods stop?

    Delia :)

    In your fifties Delia.

  • Also i dont know if i should tell my mum bcuz i dont want to look stupid if its not my period. How should i tell my mum about it? I dont think it is my period as its looks like a poop stain but its at the front of my pants not the back and also its not thaat brown its quite yellowy as well. Help!! PART2
    Thanks so much!!x

    Rather than worry about what this was, consider being prepared by having some pads and liners with you from now on, just in case more of this fluid is released in a month or so.

  • Hi vicki
    I dont know if u remember my question that was asked recently but i said about the browny yellowy discharge on my pant liner and the next day it was there again but on my underwear.U said it could be my period but if its not then what would it be? PART1

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki!

    So in a class the other day my lower belly hurt for around a hour and then stopped when I went into another class, I have hardly any boobs and I hardly fit into a 32B, But they are growing slowly, Also i use deorant but I still smell a little, Also there has been some discharge in my underwear, and Ive had hair on my legs, arm pits and below etc for a long-ish time.

    Will i come on my period soon?

    Your period cannot be too far away now as you have already experienced plenty of the signs of puberty already. So ensure from now on keep some pads and liners with you when out and about and consider an anti-perspirant rather than a deodorant to keep the sweat at bay.

  • Hey Vicki,
    You know how there's a little girl called Madeleine McCann who went missing 7 years ago? Well, since the day she was in the news after going missing, I've been paranoid that I'm gonna get kidnapped. Is it normal to think something could happen to me? I was 5 months away from turning 7, and now I'm 2 days away from turning 14, and I've always been worried about this.

    It is only natural to feel concerned for your safety and especially when you read or learn of tragedies that have occurred to others. But the reality is that the instances of children who are kidnapped are very slim and I am sure your parents and teachers do all they can to keep you safe from harm so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, so I often get paranoid that I have some sort of illness. Whenever I get the slightest pain , a sore head or something like that, I will always think it is something very serious. I dont want to ask my mum to go to the doctor because I know it will be nothing , but i worry all the time that there is something wrong. Any advice?xx

    It is fairly normal in your teens to worry about things far more than you did in your childhood days. As you get older and learn more about the world you will realise that there is a level of sensibility to be achieved in all matters; including illnesses.

  • Can you be called a teenager if you have started puberty or is a teenager like a number that ends in teen
    As I have started puberty and I have pubic hair my period (is regular and everything and my mum calls me a teenager but I don't know if I am still a child or a teen

    Technically speaking a teenager is someone who is between the ages of 13-19. But the term is often used to describe someone who has entered puberty and this can occur before your 13th birthday.

  • Hi I was going out With this boy but we were really only friends and a few weeks ago I said maybe we should be just friends but he kind of said he still liked me and I do like him but now were just friends I really miss him and it feels like a part of me is missing is this strange? I've tried talking to him but it's as if he is a bit annoyed but I can't go back on what I've said please help :( thanks

    Why not wait a few months, continue being friends and then see how you feel, this boy may be a little hurt at your decision right now, but this should change over time.

  • Hi My brother is autistic and he's different from the other kids and he tries to make them laugh and be a bit like them He loves shouting(in a funny way). He learns things from the TV(photographic memory) and he tries to use what he watches outside.people keep insulting him It hurts me so much. He tries to be friendly, and yet they call him retarded, weird and other mean words. I try to defend him, but they carry on. I've told teachers but they don't do anything. advice to make them stop being mean? X

    Why not have a chat to your parents and ask them to speak to teachers, it may be that your teacher could run a short lesson on this illness so classmates understand how people with this condition act and how to react or behave when around them.

  • Hi vicki I'm 10 and I think I'm ready for,a,bra I have tried to drop hints about it like when we were in primary looking for tight s I said mom all that's over hear is bras there quite pretty but because im always in a school uniform u never see them what should I do its a bit embarrassing

    Why not have another chat to her letting her know that you now feel ready for your first bra.

  • If a teenager is mature enough to think about sex and to know they want sex it should be totally up to them when they lose their virginity. They need to know they won't get arrested and having sex isn't a bad thing. Out of all the people I know, not one person has said "I'm going to wait until I am 16" because that's just not how it happens now. Teenagers are made to make important life decisions at ages of 13-14, they should be allowed to make the decision themselves about when they want to have sex.

    Whilst I respect your opinion, the law of consent was implemented by educated people who feel that anyone under the age of 16 is neither emotionally or mentally mature enough to make these decisions and I have to say I agree with this law.

  • Hi, I've had discharge for about a year now. It started out clear but recently the amount has increased and it is a very yellow color, but no odor or irritation. I also haven't changed anything when it comes to sanitation. Is it an infection? Thanks

    No this is fine as discharge can range from clear or creamy yellow in colour from time to time.

  • Dear Viki
    my boobs are really sore and ive got really hairy legs! Does this mean I might get my period son ? Please help
    from emma

    Hi Emma, it may be a couple of years before your period arrives, but you have definitely entered puberty.

  • I really like this boy that goes to my band, I only met him a few months ago, we snapchat and that and he asked for my number etc, and when we smapchat he sends xx if I send them but he doesn't if I dont.
    And he carries my instrument out the school for me, do you think he likes me?
    And when we are playing he keeps turning around to look at me ๐ŸŒธ
    I had a dream about him last night and I wish we were going out but he's a year older than me 15,
    Thanks xx

    It does seem that this boy likes you, but like most boys he may not be confident enough to let you know just how much yet. So be patient and continue being good friends.

  • Dear Vicki,

    I'm 13 next month, and I have a feeling when I'm 13 i'll start my periods, but I'm embarrassed to ask her about it. Any advice on how to approach her?

    Thanks

    Why not ask your mum how old she was when her first period arrived and this should quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • Hi, Vicki!
    Last week, I looked at someone else's question about "dry sex". I've forgotten the reply. My question is: what is dry sex and is it illegal if you're under 16, like normal sex?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, 'dry sex' is a term used to describe when a couple are intimate while fully or partially clothed. Whilst not unlawful, it would be deemed inappropriate behaviour if you were under the age of 16.

  • Hi I'm Thalia, and there's two boys that keep flirting with me but I like another guy but he's not in my school what souls I do?

    Hi Thalia, if you do not like these boys then make it clear you like them as friends only and have no interest in them romantically. As for the other boy, if an opportunity comes for you to see him, smile. This is very often all you need to do to show someone you like them.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm almost 13 and I haven't had my period yet. Can you tell me what to look for please? I've had discharge for about a year now, sometimes it's brownish and sometimes it yellowy white. I don't really get any terrible cramps yet. My boobs aren't really big enough to fit a bra yet.
    Thanks!!!

    If you notice brown discharge from time to time, then your period may have already started as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • It's really weird, and I'm abit confused. I have had discharge for over a year now but just lately it's becoming thick and stringy, I don't have any infection and my discharge comes everyday. I have pubic hair and tender breasts. I'm 13 and still yet haven't had my period? Is ist near


    PLEASE ANSWER I AM QUITE WORRIED

    With so many signs of puberty I doubt you will have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period and please don't worry about the discharge, this can often change in colour and texture from day to day.

  • Hi vicki!!
    I was just wondering if the type of bra u wear can reduce or stop your boobs from growing. Also can this happen with your hips ??

    The type of underwear you wear will have no impact on your breast or hip development so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki(awesome name!),
    So I have had discharge every day for about 3-4 months,I have started getting cramps a lot(very painful) and I have hair(armpits and 'down there ')I have got all the signs.Should I be expecting my period soon?
    thanks!
    Kayley
    xxx

    Hi Kayley, I would say with so many signs already noticed your period is not too far away now, maybe even by the end of the year or early in 2015.

  • I mark down evertime i have my period. I never acually did it with a boy but i masturbate and im scared that im pregnant. Its really dumb but im scared plus im only 12. I masturbated one night then the next day my period was here but two days early! Im kinda scared that i could be pregnant.

    PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!!

    Masturbation has no impact on your period and there is no way you can become pregnant from masturbation, so please try not to worry.

  • Really gutted just typed up question and it disappeared great

    Anyway here it is

    My crush who I met in French class told his freind ( a girl who is also my friend) that he thinks I'm really hot ( which I am NOT) and the bad kids keep asking me out from him and I don't believe them so i tell them to go away and we have 1 week of school left so can you answere

    ASAP

    As Soon As Possible

    Thanks viki xxx

    You have not said if you like this boy or not. If you do, then let these people know that if this boy wants to date you he should ask you himself...and see what happens then.

  • Hi, it's sasha what is the sins of your period is comeing?

    Discharge is a good sign, as it breast development and pubic hair.

  • Hi Vicki. I have short hair i feel so ugly with it, and everyone tells me I'd be prettier with long hair. I want long hair. People constantly take the mick, and I just feel Upset, because I don't like it either, and they're always make me feel even less self confident.most of the time the "popular" girls sit and take the Mick out of anything I do or look like. I feel so ugly and I always want to look different. Everyone complains I'm too thin, ppl go "eat a pie" but I want to loose more weight!!!!

    It's time to stop worrying about what others think and being true to yourself and how you like to look. If they see you are not bothered by their comments they will stop making them and as for your short hair, if you prefer to let it grow then look up some styles on the internet for making it look trendy whilst it is growing, hair slides, gel and a side parting can help.

  • Hi, Vicki I have a spot on my face and I I have stared puberty my boobs are bigger and hari in places I want to aks my mum so I can talk to her when my period comes I am 11 soon . I now what puberty is but my mum does not no I now how can I aks her about it? I seid to her why do I have a spot on my face and she seid your at that age I don't want to aks her icase she does not tell me I want to aks her when my period will come and when I will get a bra please help mee! From sasha;)

    Hi Sasha, how about asking your mum how old she was when she got her first bra or first period, this should quickly move the conversation on to you and if you now feel ready. You can there share with her all the stuff abouty puberty you already now.

  • Vicki; All my Granny's siblings had cancer and all passed away, inculding her except one brother who is still living. My mum said something about it is a gene in the family. Is there any test's I could take to check if I have the gene? BTW I'm 13.

    Cancer is such a scary word, but please try not to worry about this illness too much. Have a chat to your mum about the types of cancer your grannies family died of and I am sure she will be able to offer you reassurance that you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki.
    Ok I talked to you about me liking a boy. Well, I want to ask him out, but I know he will say no for these reasons 1) I have short hair, and everyone constantly takes the mick. 2) he only likes girls who are pretty. I'm not chubby, and if I was, I wouldn't let that stop me. People think i have like an eating disorder because I'm quite thin. I'm trying to get down to 7 stone. (I'm 8 stone) if I grow my hair do u think he will like me?

    If this boy does not like you as you are then I would not advise changing your appearance for him. Rather it would be better to get to know him as a friend and see how things develop then.

  • Why do my nipples look swollen? I am 15 and have AA boobs

    Nipples often appear swollen as they develop and  this is very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki, there's a boy in my year he just moved to my school in June. We're both 15. I've never had a boyfriend or been kissed before. I really like this boy and I want to get to know him better. He's in two of my classes but we don't sit near each other so how am I supposed to talk to him? What should I do? I would really like to go out with him. I think he might like me too. Thanks Vicki x

    You could start by smiling at him when you seen him and when he passes say "Hi". After a while you could ask how his weekend was.

  • is it normal to expirence more discharge when doing sport?

    It is normal to sweat more when taking part in sports which in turn can make the amount of discharge produced appear as if increased.

  • What colour is discharge meant to be ?
    Thanks
    From pink heart xx

    Hi Pink heart, discharge can be clear or creamy yellow  in colour and you can find out more about this fluid by clicking on the Puberty tab on our website.

  • Hi so I wanted to invite my boyfriend over to mine. But I'm worried it will be too awkward and that we won't have much to talk about. What are good things to do when it is just a boy and girl alone together. Should I ask him over for the whole day?

    Firstly, I would not invite him around when you are alone. Have some family members there so they can get to know him and ask him if there are any movies he likes that you can watch and possibly share a pizza.

  • I started my first ever period a couple of days ago, and it has caused me ALOT of pain and I don't know what my routine will be? Thank you๐Ÿ’–

    Your routine may change quite a bit over the first few years as this is often a time of irregularity. Why not consider keeping a diary of your menstrual cycle and to ease those period pains; gentle exercise is the best way to ease discomfort.

  • im always so upset about my flat chest that im always crying, ill get home from school and ill always be really depressed. im 14 and have no boobs and people always comment on it, they dont mean to hurt my feelings but i always get really upset. what should i do?

    Breasts continue developing for lots of people into their late teens or early twenties so please try not to take these rather unkind comments to heart.

  • I've been attracted to girls for quite some time now, and when I was younger I used to like boys? I have a big crush on a girl in the year above me and I'm almost positive that I'm not going through a phase. Can sexuality change throughout teenage years? I'm honestly just curious, I know that sexuality is fluid and I don't have to label myself, but I'm just wondering why it might be that I'm not attracted to boys anymore.

    As you have said the teenage years can leave lots of people wondering about their sexuality, rather than focus on this for now, why not simply enjoy being a teen and see how you feel in a few years.

  • Hi Vicki I'm really worried cos I have to go to a sports camp with much younger kids and my second period is due that day. It is likely I will be going swimming and I will not use tampons as its only my second period. Do you have any advice?
    From Piper xx

    Hi Piper, if you feel your period will be with you and heavy then you may want to have a chat to the camp leader and ask to be assigned to another activity for that day.

  • Hey vicki !! I am 13 years old and I'm very confused about my sexuality .. I watched lesbian porn before but I stopped and sometimes I have dreams or visions about me doing it with a girl but also there's this girl that is attracted to me at school and I feel like I like her too .. But I like guys too it's weird .. But I get very grosse out at sex with a boy . Please help me vicki !!!!!! Thank you sooooo much :-)

    Lots of teenagers are confused about their sexuality and often have thoughts of a sexual nature involving both sexes. But you do not have to make any decisions about your sexuality yet and my advice would be to wait until you are older before deciding on this matter.

  • Hello! There is no need for you to answer this, but I would just like to say how much I appreciate you helping and awnsering all my questions and reliving me from my worries, thank you ever soooo much,โ˜บโ˜บ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ‘๐ŸŽ€

    You are most welcome.

  • I am quite shy talking to teachers and I was thinking if my period started in the day I had swimming and didn't have a note how can I tell my teacher? my teacher is a female but I feel very self conscious about it as nearly all of my friends haven't started yet and I am quite shy speaking to teachers. I also get a bit upset sometimes as I get pms and I also get bad stomach cramps and back ache and headaches a lot of the time and it really annoys me and not many medicine works, why is this?

    Teachers are trained to help girls manage their periods and she will completely understand if you wish to be excluded from swimming from time to time. As for tummy cramps gentle exercise is best for this.

  • im 14 and have no boobs. i am a normal weight and quite tall, so my body looks really out of proportion as i have a normal body but no boobs. still no period either. do i need to go to a doctor because i am the only one in my year like this

    There is no need to visit your doctor to discuss this matter, puberty including your period can arrive at different times for each of us and you have plenty of time for development and your period to arrive.

  • ive had discharge for 1 1/2 years and im 14 now. will my period come soon?

    Discharge is often noticed for longer than a year and is still a good sign that your period is not too far away.

  • Ive just started my period and i don't know how to tell the teacher i need the toilet without telling them I'm on my period and some teachers don't let me go i don't know what to do!

    Why not ask your mum to give the school a call to let them know your period is now here and from time to time you will need to visit the toilet. However, if you put a new pad on in the morning this should keep you protected until break time, so you may not need to leave class at all.

  • In school we do swimming and I got my period at the end of year 6 I am now in year 8 but I use pads, I do want to try a tampon but I'm scared too, if I didn't use a tampon and said more than once if I could be excused from swimming do you think they would say something about it or do you think they might understand? I have 2 female PE teachers. Do you think they might say something? Or would they understand? Thanks x

    If you are not yet ready for tampons, then ask your mum to write you a note to excuse when on your period and your teachers will understand.

  • I've just started my period and I'm very sporty and I'm really nervous about doing sport with a pad and i don't wear tampons as I've just started. I don't know how to tell my pe teacher about it as I'm very self conscious of it.

    Pads are so slim nowadays you really have no reason to be anxious, no one but you will know you are on your period and if you feel ready there is no reason why you should not try tampons.

  • Hi, I would love to try some products. I kindly ask if you would be able to send me some of your products. Kind regards Lucy

    Hi Lucy, send me an e-mail by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page.

  • How do u wear a pant liner?????
    Cloxxxxxx
    Ps sorry that I have a lot of questions

    A pant liner is worn exactly the same as a pad; you simply pull away the backing strip and place the sticky side in your underwear.

  • I WANT TO AND I DONT WANT TO START MY PERIODS WHAT SHOULD I DO

    It is very common to feel excited and anxious for your first period all at the same time. My advice would be to read all the great stuff on our website, including our blogs and you will soon know all you need to know about periods and puberty.

  • Hi Vicki. My discahrge is very heavy and i got it EVERY SINGLE DAY . By the way i started my period last year. So my mom tells me that's it's not good to wear pantyliners everyday and you've got to let your skin breathe. But as i said i have very heavy discharge and i have to wear pantyliners. Is it true and what to do. Thanks xxxxxx

    There is no evidence to show wearing pant liners on a daily basis is harmful in any way and many people wear them every day. But if your mum prefers you to have a break from wearing them, then you should respect her wishes.

  • I cannot get a boyfriend! I'm 16 and people are starting to make fun of the fact that I haven't even had a boyfriend yet and its not like I don't want one, I can't get one! I've tried talking politely to so many boys and they all tell me to go away! I don't know what to do anymore I haven't even had my first kiss yet! My friend has so many boys chasing her and I'm too fat and ugly to even gt one!

    You may not know this, but lots and lots of people wait now until they are in their late teens or early twenties before having their first date...or first kiss. So please don't listen to these silly remarks made by others, the right person will come along when the time is right just for you and it will be magical.

  • I tried to break up with my boyfriend because im to young but i really tried but i ended up messing it up how can i do this?

    Have another chat to your boyfriend letting him know you like him as a friend but feel things have moved on too fast and you now need to take a step back and have some alone time.

  • Hi
    So my friends always keep serects from me and whisper in groups and say things like go away you can't listen do this. I'm just finding it really mean also most of them txt boys and have their number and when I say I talk to boys they say that how many boys numbers do you have then but I have none because I like to talk to boys in person. I feel like they all gang up on me and talk about me and exculde me from alot of things and I'm not finding it very nice. Plese help xx
    Thanks

    I think it may be time for you to find a new group of friends, friends who care for you and understand that being part of a friendship group means supporting and involving one another.

  • my boobs are reallly itchy is this sign of my period.

    No this is a sign that you are developing breasts and is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So i want to kiss my boyfriend for the first time (it will be my first kiss)... We are totally comftable with each other and i have also kissed his cheek. I really want to kiss him like loooong but i don't want to french kiss because i think i'm a bit to young. How do i kiss my boyfriend for at least 10 seconds without a thongue? How should i do this? Help please

    Why not read my blog entitled Your First Kiss for all you need to know on this subject.

  • I know this boy in my class. He is being annoying and once he flirted with me, that's what the people on the bus said. I caught him looking at me once. Does he like me???????

    He may do, why not wait and see what happens over the next few weeks and I am sure he will let you know of his true feelings.

  • hi im natascha.... i have very much thick discharge, i hav had two or three pickels... my boobs have buds... all the people in my class have bigger boobs than i have... i have really hairy legs and im moody and crave food... when will i get my period?

    Hi Natascha, with so many signs of puberty already noticed, I doubt you will have much longer to wait, so make sure you are prepared by having some pads or liners with you from now on.

  • My friends don't know I have my period and I'm the first to start. Everytime I go to pee them come with me and are like why are you taking your bag. What do I say?!? Also when I want to change a pad it's really loud and it takes ages and they r already finished. Also we r meant to be going swimming together but my period came early!!! I have only had 3 periods so it not ready for tampons. ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ„๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ„๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ„๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ„๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ„

    If you feel ready for tampons then there is no medical reason why you cannot wear them and you may find our range of teens tampons ideal for when you go swimming. As for your friends, why not consider letting them know that your period is here and that when this happens most women and girls take their bag to the toilets. I am sure they will want to support you once they know of your news.

  • Hi vicki
    So today i went to the toilet and on my pant liner there was sort of a brown yellowish discharge that elt quite strongly. Also that day i had really bad cramps and ive ha dishcharge for 3-4years what was it?

    This could be your first period, so why not see what happens over the next couple of days and if any more of this fluid is noticed.

  • Does my discharge have to be really thick or can I wear pant linters anyway as sometimes it feels like I have wet myself?????? Thanks again!!
    From Clo xxx

    Hi Clo, you can wear pant liners on a daily basis whatever discharge you notice. Some people even wear pant liners when they have no discharge at all. It really is all about how you feel and what is best for you.

  • Well I'm 14 and have been usising pads for 4 years, and trust me they're annoying. I want to start to use tampons because I want to try something new and to be honest they're more hygienically cleaner. But my mum has used pads her whole life so I can't exactly try one of hers first. I was wondering how to tell her this because we do discuss things quite open but I don't know how she'd react??!!

    Why not tell her what you have told me and ask if you can try our Lil-Lets teens tampons designed for girls new to internal sanitary protection. I am sure she will be happy you have made this decision, even though she is not a tampon user herself.

  • How many pads should I take around for a normal school day. And how can I tell my mum when I do get my period because she usually makes fun of me for things like this.

    Why not consider taking 3-4 pads with you to school and if you think your mum may not understand how serious this is for you, then write her a note letting her know that you feel your period may not be too far away and that you are looking to her for support.

  • I Started my period in April 2014 I had it again in June 2014 but it's now nearly te end of October and I haven't had my period is this normal? I'm 14

    This is very normal as periods can have both long and short gaps between each one for the first couple of years.

  • Dear viki
    I'm really nervous to tell this boy I like him coz if he doesn't like me it'll be embarrassing he's a bit flirty but I'm not sure if he likes me how should I let him know

    From
    Emily

    Hi Emily, if you are not 100% sure of this boy's feelings towards you then consider waiting a while longer and getting to know him better before sharing your feelings.

  • I would like to wear a bra but I dont know how to ask everytime I try to ask I forget what I wanted to say





    From Desperate

    Why not ask how old your mum was when she got her first bra, this should move the conversation nicely over to you and if you are now ready.

  • Hiya! I a! 18 and on the contaceptive pill, my period is so heavy! And it has lasted 5 weeks now and shows no sign of stopping?! Please help๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™‰๐Ÿ™Š

    You really should revisit your GP and share this news with him/her. They may decide to offer you a different brand of contraceptive pill going forward.

  • Is it normal for on my 2nd day of my period for it to be light browy /yellow?

    Yes very normal. Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from period to period and day to day.

  • Dear Vicki,

    There is this boy that I sort of fancy, but he doesn't like me back. Well, he talks to me, jokes around and all. At first I thought he liked me back... But apparently I was wrong. The guy told my friend that he likes someone and this friend won't tell me who! But she said it wasn't me. I think I am going through a heartbreak. My stomach got tied up into knots and my heart started beating really fast and the whole day I was depressed.

    It seems this boy likes you as a friend, which is fine as a great many romances start off as friendships. Try not to be too downhearted and continue spending time with this boy and see what develops in the future. Finally, if you can, avoid listening to gossip from others.

  • Okay, I am really scared. I have no idea if this is serious or not. Im 12 and my period came 2 days early. It always comes on a Tuesday of every Month but this Month it came on a sunday and 2 or 1 day early. Im really scared.

    PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!!!!!!!

    There is nothing to be scared of, periods do not always arrive on the same day of each month every month. It really is a case of writing down the first day of your period and then counting how many days until your next period, this is your menstrual cycle and for the first few years this may vary.

  • i havent had 28 days between my period in fact i was only on 2 weeks ago, is this normal?

    Yes this is very normal as period can be irregular for the first few years with both long and short gaps between each one. Even when they do become regular they can have anything between 21-34 days between each period.

  • Hi Vicki ! I got my period in school and I didnt wear a pad for almost 6 hours. My school uniform is so wet but Im able to hide it ! After that, I notice that when I stand up , my period was all over the chair and I didnt know about it.Suddenly my friend who sit beside me notice and touch the blood ( she didnt know that it is my period) . I was so embarassed and I tell her that is my period.

    I dont know what to do . She was so angry .What should I do to make her forgive me ?

    I don't understand why your friend is so angry, if anything you need her support right now. So please don't feel you have done anything wrong here and if possible have a chat to her, letting her know how upsetting this was for you and hope that she can be there for you as a friend.

  • Hi vicki
    I was wondering if you could give me a rough time when I will get my period I have bushy and curly hair down their halfway developed I'm a b or c cup I weigh 11 stone and I'm 5foot 4 and I've had discharge for about 4-6 months and quite a lot it's not brown yet . Oh any yeah I've got just a lil bit of hair under my armpits thank you can't wait for a reply xxx

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed, your period may not be too far away at all, maybe even by the end of the year or even in the early part of 2015.

  • Can period pads go out of date

    If they are kept in a dust and damp free environment they can easily last for up to five years from purchase.

  • Hello Vicki,I have a very personal question and I am very sorry if its inappropriate,I'm turning 13 and most of my friends have had their first kiss and I haven't.....well is it normal to imagine your first french kiss?I feel like I have such a sick mind and I'm sorry ,is it normais is their some thing wrong with me? I am religous so I don't know what's wrong with me and my friends say I'm kind. Thank u ( again apologies) I have been asked out before if that helps

    It is very normal to be curious about your first kiss and wonder how it will feel. But did you know that lots of people nowadays wait until their late teens or early twenties before they date so you have plenty of time for that special someone to come along.

  • Hey Vicki, im getting bullied at school. I have hair like miley cyrus so people pick on me and say nasty things. I stood up for my friend against these older boys and now they hate me. I dont want to go and I fake being ill and my grades are going down as well becayse im always worried. Ive told my mum and she saud shes sorting it but the damage is done and I was just wondering what I could do. I hate myself now my confidence has been destroyed and im always crying please help !!! Xxxxx

    It is important to learn that we are all different and that some people find this difficult to manage. So you have to be extra strong, you clearly have your own sense of style, so be proud of it and ignore any silly comments. Take a look in magazines and select things that appeal to you so you can find your own sense of style. I am sure your mum is sorting things for you and by having some courage of your own you will I am sure feel better about school and your grades will soon become higher.

  • Hi Vicky I have a question my mom got her period when she was in 7th grade. I'm currently in 8th and started discharge in 6th grade. I still haven't gotten my period yet what should I do? Even my cousins got them already and there in 6th grade maybe even 5th.

    We do not all follow the same pattern as family members for the arrival of our period, so please try not to worry, with so many signs already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Uh hi Im uncomfortible with saying my real name but please just refer to me as Luna.well for a long while I've been very insecure about how I look and how my body is and I have this guy friend who I care for very much but I feel I'm not pretty enough and I'm very shy so I don't even have courage to speak to him and everynight someway somehow he keeps occur in my dreams and I can't help but cry all the time because I don't know what to do. I'm a 14 year old girl that needs your help I'm begging you please

    Hi Luna, I truly believe we are all beautiful in our own way, but how can you ever expect anyone else to like you if you do not like yourself. So have a think about all the great things there are about being you...and there will be lots. Once you have a little inner confidence others will see it to and when you see this boy, just give him a quick smile as you walk by.

  • Lately I'v been feeling as though I smell "down there" ?

    It's important to pay extra special attention to your hygiene during puberty, so wash this area day and night and consider wearing pant liners during the day and possibly even using our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes inbetween washes. Finally, after visiting the toilet please ensure you wipe this area throroughly.

  • Hi vicki
    What should I do if my period starts at school and I have no pads or anything to help me.
    Also what do you experience before your first period starts.
    From lucy 123

    Consider taking a period kit to school, for instance our Lil-Lets teens starter pack. But if you find yourself in school with no pads or liners, try not to worry, your teacher, school nurse or school secretary will have supplies you can use.

  • Hi vicki,
    We had swimming in school the other day and we were talking about bra sizes(we're all quite good friends) and one of my friends said that because I'm a 30A(I'm 12 almost 13) and my boobs have kinda flopped that mine probably won't get any bigger. I've been this size for a while and my boobs don't seem to b growing. Is she right? Almost all my friends r a bigger size than me.

    No your friend is mistaken. Breasts can continue to grow into your late teens or even early twenties, so try not to worry, time of no growth are fairly common.

  • What should you keep in a period kit and in a pre period/ discharge kit. I want to have a range of types of pads including lil lets teen pads. How many pads and liners should you have in for a wheel. Pls answer ASAP. Thanks

    Why not consider purchasing our Lil-Lets teens starter pack, it comes with all you need to keep in your school or sports bag in preparation for your period.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm almost 13 I'm and self conscious about my B.O under my arms. I don't have many dark hairs yet. I only have a few dark hairs under one of my arms but heaps of thin, blonde hairs everywhere else under my arms. I learned in a health session that when you have heaps of dark hairs the sweat catches on to the hairs and it helps stop the smell, but I don't have many dark hairs. I use spray on and roll on but the sweat still smells and it soaks through my shirts.
    Thank you!!!

    It is important to find a good anti-perspirant rather than a deodorant and if you find you sweat a lot then consider trying one suitable for men or even one that offers 48 hour protection.

  • Hey viki actually i had a sex with my bf then i took ipill than after 6days i had a periods bt nw this month i hvnt got my periods yet my date should be 27 nd now it is 10 nd still i hvnt got my perods . I test my pregnancy 3 times result came negative, do why i have missed my periods plsssss helpp me...

    Taking any form of medication can alter your periods slightly, but if you have any concerns you should visit your doctor or local family planning clinic for a chat.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm almost 13 and haven't had my period. My mum started just before she was 13 as well but I'm a bit lighter than her than she was. I have discharge and wear liners because there's quite a lot. I feel really self conscious of my boobs because they aren't really big enough to fit a bra. They're definitely growing but slowly. I have really bad mood swings. Last week I found this rusty coloured spot in my underwear, what is it? I get HEAPS of headaches and migraines. Am I close to my period?

    This rusty coloured stain in your underwear could have been one of two things, your first period or the residue of waste food not wiped away thoroughly after visiting the toilet.

  • Hey Vicki
    All of my friends are taller and heavier than me, they're not fat or anything, but they're just taller. They're not that much taller than me but they're quite a lot heavier (I weigh 38).Last year and even at the start of this year I got teased about my weight and height, but it stopped because I told my parents and teacher about it. I don't think I'm underweight or anything (I turn 13 in 3 weeks), so why are they normal and I'm not? I haven't had my period yet.

    Who says they are normal!! Actually we are all very different and come in a variety of shapes and sizes. You may be naturally petite and this is very common and nothing to worry about. So please try to avoid comparing your progress with that of others.

  • im 12 and my period came 2 days early and im scared. My body is what my mom says is changing but when im on my period my stomach feels weird and on the lower part of my stomach is hurting.
    Please Help and Answer im really scares its all new to me.

    Firstly, periods are often irregular with long and short gaps between each one. As for these little period cramps, usually some gentle exercise is all that is needed to ease this discomfort, or if you can't get out and about, a warm bath or hot water bottle may help.

  • Ik when boys get like a sensational/sexual feeling they have an erection. What do girls do when they feel that way? Do they release dishcharge?

    A clear fluid is produced when a female is sexually aroused yes.

  • Hi vicki
    I don't know what bra size I am. Above my rib cage area it is 60 centimeters and on my nipples it is 64 centimeters.
    Thanks,
    Hetalia- lover

    28AA is your size, so you can wait a while longer if you like before getting your first bra.

  • [Part 3] So by now I guess you've figured out what the problem is. With a thorough description of periods, I start to get dizzy and need to rest. Normally, this would be a minor problem BUT we're doing SE lessons in a Science lab, where the chairs are stools and we're not allowed to drink anything! I'm in a new class with new friends and I really don't want to mess up! Please don't tell me to tell a teacher or something! *Felicity xx

    Felicity, my advice is to read all you can on our website and you will know so much about periods and puberty you will realise there is nothing to be nervous about. Don't forget my blogs too, there's even on on menstrual fluid.

  • [Part 2] My Science teacher announced to the class that we'll be learning about periods in two weeks time. This has got me really nervous because back in primary school, we had two main lessons about periods, one in Year 5 and one in Year 6. In Year 5, I felt really dizzy and my eyes started blacking out, so my TA rang my parents to bring me home. In Year 6, it was slightly better and I just put my head on the table as well as having a drink. (Carried on in P3)

    My response is in Part Three.

  • [Part 1] Hello, Vicki! I love your site, it's so pretty and helpful for me! Anyway, I'm a pretty ordinary high school girl who has just moved up from primary school. We're about six weeks into school and my Science teacher has started giving us Sex Education lessons on Friday. It's been okay up until now because everyone in my class just laughs and messed about during these lessons, but now I'm so worried! (Carried on in P2)

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Recently i've just been feeling so down, i've been listening to sad songs and crying at night over nothing! sometimes the slightest thing will just ruin my day and i'll just continuously cry and cry, everything seems to be getting on top of me and i dont know who to talk to. my mum just tells me to be happy, my dad wouldnt understand, my sister lives away and i feel like my friends are getting bored of me talking to them. i sometimes think of self-harm, please help!

    Puberty can be hard on teens and it seems you need some support to help you manage your feelings. Why not have a chat to a teacher about your feelings. They may have a school counsellor you can speak to. You can also make some changes yourself. Join some after school clubs that increase your activity, spend less time in your room and more time with your family joining in family life. They may only be little things, but they will lift your mood.

  • Hi vicki !
    Thank you for answering my last question about periods. You mentioned discharge. I have a question and I know the answer but I want to make sure does discharge have to happen and can you always see it clearly ??

    Not everyone experiences discharge and for those that do it can be clear or creamy yellow in colour.

  • Hi Vicki! so i self-harmed once before but stopped before things got too serious. But every time i look at my arm and see my scar i think about it? and then last night i had a dream i was self-harming and couldnt stop myself? if you could help it would be so amazing x

    Even though you have stopped self harming it may be useful to speak to someone about the reasons for this abuse and you will find the organisation Mind may be useful to chat to.  Here is the link to their website. http://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/types-of-mental-health-problems/self-harm/

  • Hi Vicki, there is this guy in class that likes me and his friends tease him about it, I felt sorry for him so I told them to stop and then my friend started sending them notes and now they think I love the boy when I don't I've told them but now they smile at me and raise their eyebrows when I'm near him, I'm one of those girls who when they find out someone likes them they start developing feelings for that person and I don't want to coz I like a different boy, what do I do?

    If you ignore these silly comments, and do not let people see that they bother you, they will soon stop making them and find something else to talk about.

  • I have loads of discharge lately, I've had my period for about 6 months now and I always seem to have discharge in my panties. does masturbating produce discharge more?

    Discharge continues to be noticed even once your period has arrived and the amount produced can vary from day to day, so you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki - I just turned 16 and I haven't started my period yet. Will this make any difference when having sex? (I know I could still get pregnant) thanks x

    The age you start your period has no impact on your sexual life, so please try not to worry.

  • How can I stop Insecurities?

    Have a chat to your parents and teachers about how you feel and they will advise you on the best methods of gaining confidence in the areas you feel a little unsure about.

  • I wish I could FLY!
    Do you?
    xx

    I guess that would be nice every now and then.

  • Hi Vicki! Im too embarrast to go shopping for pads and stuff like that alone. I just dont wanna tell her I want some. And if I do what will the check out person think of me if its a man and everybody will stare at me and Ill go all red and shaky and then Itll be SO akward...Oh I know what to do! As I buy pads Ill buy some other stuff with them like foods and stuff to not to make the pads so visible...? Yes Ill do that when my mum asks me to go to the shop to buy something Ill buy the pads with them! Ok?

    Try not to worry, stores sell hundreds if not thousands of packs of pads, liners and tampons every week and are very used to them going through the till.

  • Hi, its the twins

    I don't know if you got our last message, bit u haven't replied. There was a mistake in that message anyway. Katie is our new little sister and she was born on 22nd of September. Our mum went into hospital 3 times, Thinking she was in labour, but it was just Braxton hicks!!. Katie is so cute and can has slept through the night already

    Brooklyn and Melanie x

    Hi  Both, this is great news.

  • Hi vicki
    I just wanted advice on what happens if my period starts at school and if I do not have pads with me.
    Lucy

    Hi Lucy, not to worry your teacher, school nurse or school secretary will have supplies you can have. Schools are always very well prepared for girls and their periods.

  • I really like a boy in my year. Sure, we're friends but I don't know if he likes me the way I like him. Any suggestions on what to do???

    If he likes you he will let you know in his own way, maybe not anytime soon, as boys can take their time to mature. So for now my advice is to continue being good friends and be patient.

  • Hi Vicki :)
    I have been getting discharge for about a year now and now ive started getting this brown goo in my nickers. Its like discharge but brown or sometimes it can be really dark red. I get this every few weeks and was wondering what it is. Please can u help? :)

    This is your period as menstrual fluid is very often brown in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares with you.

  • Hi Vicki so I'm so down my beautiful cousin died of cancer 3 weeks ago I loved her sooo much at ger funeral when she went through the curtains I couldn't bare it and just started crying and telling them to stop her and I just want her back I would give anything to get her back I just wanna hug her and tell her I love her and talk to her and I am constantly crying I am so so sad I miss her so much I thought about killing myself to be with her I was never like this with my grandad I want her back ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    It is only natural for you to miss someone you loved dearly, but remember that she would want you to move on and be happy in your life. So whilst it is fine to remember her, try to think of all the great fun you had together and keep these happy memories with you when you feel sad.

  • Hey Viki!!!!
    Sorry that it's me again but when should I start wearing my pant liners I have discharge, I think. As I have what looks like snot in my knickers most days?????
    Love Clo xxxxxx

    Hi Clo, consider wearing a pant liner every day from now on, to protect your underwear from discharge and leave you feeling clean and fresh throughout the day.

  • Hey โœŒso my periods have always been weird and iregualr, but today I got my period at around 10am and it is now 8pm and my period has gone, it only lasted a few hours, why is this?? Please please reply๐Ÿ‘‹โค๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’“๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’Ÿ

    This could be a short period or you may find more blood is lost tomorrow.

  • Hi. When you measure your breasts do you have to press the measuring tape hard? Or just lightly? xx

    Very lightly and breathe out as you measure yourself.

  • Thankyou for answering my questions, one I asked you my size and you daid 32AA. Thanks but so are they big enough for a bra, or training or sports bra whatever they are?
    Thanksss

    A traning bra or crop top will do for now.

  • A month ago monday i had a tiny bit of blood in my knickers and when i wiped there was blood too i have no idea if this was my period as this went of for 2 day there was only a little though i am 13 and i have experienced ALOT of discharge for over a year now and pubic hair. is this my period

    Yes this is your period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 16 and have awful acne. I have tried everything and have been referred to a dermatologist now. I feel like it will never ever go away and I am already left with scarring really bad. I have absolutely no self confidence because of this and I cry so much because I just hate the way my face looks and I can't cover it up even with makeup I don't know how to feel better I feel like I'll never like how I look because of this

    Continue working with your dermatologist they will find the right product for you in time and this make acne break outs less and less in the future.

  • PART2When i change for pe everyone stares at them and a lesbian in my class walked passed me and went oops! And placed her hand on my breasts everyone laughed as my nipple went hard. What do i do! There is no where else to change

    Have another chat to your mum expressing your concerns and need for support when active I am sure she will understand.

  • Hi vicki
    Im 14 now and i do not own a bra!! My boobs are a 34C! Ive have asked my mum a few times now but she says that i am too young-even for acrop top! I hve expressed my problem to my mum such as in pe my boobs jiggle so much it hurts and you can see my large nipples through tshirts. PART1

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi vicki
    I often fund that my discharge that ive had for 3-4years comes thicker in the morning. Why is this and is it normal

    It is very common for discharge to change in both colour and texture from time to time so please try not to worry.

  • What if I start my period in school and I dont have any tampons or pads.

    Don't worry your teacher, school secretary or nurse will have some pads or liners you can have.

  • I've not had my period yet but what does discharge look like? I think I know what periods look like but I'm not sure about discharge. Thanks xx

    Why not read all about discharge on our website under the Puberty tab.

  • Hi so ive had discharges for ages and i think i might have my period on its wah but how should i ask my mum for some pads as i told her about dischare but i think she forgot about it xx

    Why not let her know your period has arrived quite casually in conversation, she will then automatically go and purchase some pads for you, hopefully some Lil-Lets ones too.

  • Heyy Vicki

    I have really small boobs (just a bit bigger than flat chested) All of my friends have big boobs and I feel left out :(
    Can you wear a padded bra if you have small boobs? Or can you stuff your bra or crop top?
    Sierra xox

    Hi Sierra, it really is important for you to learn to love your shape regardless of what it is and try not to compare your progress with that of others around you, we really are all different.

  • Hi while itcing my vagina ( i dont do this alot) i found some black stuff on my fingers. I dont know what it is so can you maybe tell me, thanks c:
    ~Dior

    Hi Dior, it could be skin that you have scratched off as this can often appear dark grey in colour.

  • Hi Vicky
    I've been getting discharge for almost a year now and I've been having really crazy mood swings from crying all the time at the littlest thing ang then going completely crazy also I've just had a big growth spurt is this a sign of my first period pls answer ๐Ÿ˜Š

    All of these are great signs that your period is not too far away so ensure that from now on you have some pads and liners with you from now on when out and about.

  • Fullest:70cm
    Around or whatever:65cm
    I know my breasts are tiny I don't even wear a bra and guess what I'm 13 and 14in 4 months I hate my body!!!๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ™

    30AA is your size and don't worry, breasts continue to develop into our late teens and early twenties so you have plenty of time for development.

  • Hi Vicki!

    My period started on the 27th of September with very very light flow and gradually increased. Today on the 9th of October my period still has not stopped. Is there a problem?
    Please answer. Violet x

    Hi Vioiet, I have answered this question before and please be assured this is very normal.

  • Hi Viki! I'm really worried about something. the other day i was looking through your blog and i found the '' knowing your body inside out'' it says on the diagram ''uthera'' sorry don't know how to spell it. but i pee out of my vagina and i don't have a uthera. I'm so confused because i have discharge and it comes out of the please i pee from. please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! xx

    Your urethra is very close to the entrance of your vagina, so even though you feel it is coming from this opening, trust me it is definitely coming from your urethra.

  • Vicki, I think Ive just done something silly. Me and A were talking on facebook and giving hints on who we like. He gave all the hints that lead to me and I did the same. Then I wrote his name jumbled up and he knows I like him. But I think hes changed his mind and hes being really blunt. I dont want things to be like this. Help! :(

    Why not let things cool down for a day or two and see if he gets back in touch then. I am sure he is just busy and is not upset at all.

  • Heya Vicki!

    I'm 13 nearly 14. Becuase i'm still at school and there is always usually someone in the toilets i can't wash my hands before i use a tampon so i use hand sanitizer when i'm in the cubicle. I use applicators at the moment but i want to move onto non applicators and i'm just wondering if hand sanitiser is ok to use for inserting no applicators?
    Thanks!

    Hand sanitisers are fine to use if you cannot get to a wash basin.

  • Hey xxxxx
    So their is this boy i realy like n i tlk to him quite often on texts but i have never personaly seen him my friend gave me his number but like i sed i realy like him for looks and personality and eaven tho im ugly he still tlks to mebut sometimes i want to tlk to him but idk wat to start the convo with that dont make me seem desterate plz help me xx thnx

    Starting a conversation does not make you look desperate, in fact the opposite. It makes you appear interesting, so if you want to chat every now and then, be the one to initiate the conversation. But as with anyone you have never met, please don't be tempted to meet him without speaking to your parents first.

  • Hey Vicki,

    I wanted to ask two questions. First one; is it ok to finger yourself? Sometimes I feel really embarrassed and can't bring myself to doing it to check if there are any problems.
    Secondly, I have been really liking this boy and I can't talk about which leads me to lying to my friends. How can I talk to then and explain my feelings?
    Thanks Vicki

    Inserting a finger inside your vagina to alert you to any issues is not necessary, so there is no need for you to do this. As for your friends, if you do not feel you can trust them to be discreet with the news about your attraction for this boy, then it may be a good idea to keep it to yourself for a while longer and until and if you and this boy date.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm in Year 10 and I'm stuck; because i'm doing Hair and Beauty course the teacher told me "Communication in Hair and Beauty"
    Please Vicki can you tell me what it means?
    Thank you!

    You really should speak to your teacher about this matter as communication for hair and beauty is not something I have heard of and may be unique to your school. So have a chat to clarify if this really is the course for you.

  • im 13 and had dishcharge for 2 years now
    When i sit in calss, i can feel my discharge coming out really fats, almost like wee
    is this normal and when is my period going to arrive

    This is very normal and you may find wearing a pant liner during the day helps you feel clean and fresh. As for your period well this cannot be too far away now, as discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months before its arrival.

  • I don't know where I can get a training bra. Me and my mum have searched EVERYWHERE but we can't find one. Btw I am moving to Australia so can you recommend places in the UK and Australia

    Thnx
    KuteKittyKat

    Target in Australia usually has a good range and M&S in the UK has their Angel range for girls.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 14.
    So my boyfriend recently dumped me even though i was so in love with him! and, because he was so sweet, i got really anxious when i spoke to him... i was scared i would say something weird or go to far, but he dumped me for not talking enough and i've been so sad ever since and now he's dating my enemy (we don't talk about her) and it's made me even worse. I heard her last week say 'i dont want a boyfriend' so im so confused and sad. How do i get over it?

    Spending time with your family and friends and keeping busy will ensure you spend less time thinking about this boy and will help you move on. If you can try to avoid being anywhere he is so you also get used to him not being around. It may take a few months, but it will get better I promise.

  • i' v had discharge for a year ( loads of it...) and my breasts are buds i hav a litte bit of pupic hair, my legs are hairy... iv had a few pickels... when will i get my peeiod?

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find that your period is not too far away, possibly even early in 2015.

  • I had my first period two months ago (nothing last month) and since then, my discharge has been different. It used to be clear and sometimes slightly yellowish but now it's more bright yellow and slightly green, and a lot more sticky ๐Ÿ˜” please can you tell me why this may have happened? Thank you xx

    Discharge can vary in both colour and texture from day to day, depending on the level of hormones in your body at any one time, so please try not to worry. And remember too that periods can be irregular for the first couple of years, with gaps of several months between each one being very common.

  • Hi Vicki this is kimi again I measured my Uh bust and under is 75 and fullest is 81 but I looked at your guide and I was really confused what do you think I should do and is this a normal size for a 14 year old cause some of my friends are close to having a size double D bra and my older sister who is 16 has to wear double D bras and my little sister (she's 12) wears bigger bras then me and my youngest sister (she's nine) is catching up fast to me her are bigger then mine when I was her age

    34AA is your size Kimi, and in answer to your question; there is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki my name is kimi and I have a few problems. One is that boobs are smaller then all my classmates and even my 2 year younger sister. I'm 14 and haven't started my period yet and have been having discharge for 3 years and maybe a few months. I have very little pubic hairs no armpit hair and my voice has gotten a lot deeper,and finally my eyes keep changing colors one minute they will be brown then the next minute green I'm so confused please help!!!!!

    Puberty can arrive at different times for each of us, so please try not to compare your progress to those around you. As for your eyes, sometimes if they are a light brown they can appear a greeny colour, if they do not cause you any pain or discomfort I would not worry. I often have very blue eyes one day only to find they appear green the next. Think of this as a unique part of being you.

  • When I rise my arms my bra rises up so I get an underboob why is this?๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น๐Ÿ‘น

    This is a sign that your bra no longer fits you or is too big. Ask your mum if you can be re-measured in your local department store.

  • Hi viki I have a problem I'm going on 12 and this morning my period went through my pajamas, my blanket, sheets. I
    Don't know what to do about my mattress.

    Speak to your mum and she will be able to clean these stains off with cold water and detergent and don't worry it happens to all of us at some times. In future and if your period is heavy consider wearing one of our Lil-Lets freshlock night time pads, they have a wider section at one end to keep your pj's and bed linen protected.

  • I have had discharge for just over 2 years and haven't got my period. Is there something wrong with me and what products should I Cary around with me for when I do get my period like a pre period/ discharge kit.

    Some girls do experience discharge for longer than a year prior to the arrival of their period, so please try not to worry. Why not consider purchasing our Lil-Lets teens starter kit, it can easily and discretely fit inside your school bag and contains all you need for your first period.

  • Once I saw you say to someone to try to stick your finger in your vagina when you dont have your period. I have not gotten mne but i have discharge and i hurrird and got a tampon and it inserted. I put it it then took it out. it barely hurt. is this bad?

    You should only ever use a tampon if you are on your period, tampons are not designed to capture discharge so please don't be tempted to do this again and instead consider using a pant liner.

  • I'm 15 and I haven't started my period yet, but I'm a c cup. My mom says the letters are more shape than size, and I get that, but I have no curves and am worried it will look weird if they get any bigger. Is there any way to tell when they will stop growing?

    Breasts can continue growing into your late teens or early twenties so you may find that your shape will change as you get older but try not to worry there will be times of no growth too.

  • Hey vicki, my name is laura i am 13 years old and i am a 32 a breast size i have been having discharge for about 1 1/2 years now and they say about 6-12 months after discharge your period will come but mine didnt seem to come yet what should i do ?

    Hi Laura, lots of girls notice discharge for longer than a year, it's nothing to worry about.

  • PART2
    .he also fell out with this best friend over this girl who is in his class but that not all i was on talking to my neighbour who is in his form class she said he liked a girl in y9 and on facebook he called her beautiful me but .i have talk to him like a few times and he is nice.i want to try to know him better i have talked to him and friends ,played football and basketball sit next to WHAT SHOULD I DO
    HELP
    ASAP
    GEORGIA

    Why do you have to do anything, there is no rush, if this boy likes you he will let you know in his own time. If you do  not feel the same, you can simply tell him so, letting him know that you just want to be friends.

  • hi vicki
    so i am 13 y8 and the new year7 are coming into the school and i like (not loved)this boy from y7 and i think he loved me because he he gives me long stares when i am not looking because one of my friend was like i think that guy was looking at you and is alway looking at my butt and once said there are some beautiful girls in the school looking at me
    PART1
    georgiaxx

    Hi Georgia, my response is in Part Two.

  • Hi so everybody says that I like this boy but I don't like him what should I do it bothers me that everybody thinks I like him but I don't I just want to be his friend what should I do I have no idea and everybody is hurting my feelings

    The only person that matters here is you. If you know your true feelings for this boy then try not to worry about gentle teasing and you may just find if you ignore these comments people stop making them, once they see you do not react.

  • I'm 14 years old and I have very small boobs I haven't started my period yet my voice has stayed the same from when I was younger and I'm just really confused cause all of my friends my age have had those changes and even my younger sister(shes 12) had those changes already am I some sort of freak or is my body just not ready or something I need your help I talked to my mom about it but she didn't know what to do please give me some advice.

    Puberty arrives at different times for each of us and you have nothing to worry about, your body is simply not ready yet.

  • Hi - I'm not sure if I have started my period becuase i had my first in April and then none until July and now I still haven't had another one and it's October ( did I have a faulty start?)

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years so please don't worry if you notice long gaps between each one this is very normal.

  • It feels like there is a circular bone in my breasts and they're really sensitive, I'm 15 and haven't started my period yet

    This is most likely your breast bud which very often can feel like a hard circle under the nipple area.

  • Ok so, my mums side of the family have all had cancer, not one of them hasn't, so I am probably going to test positive for it but anyway I know having blood in your poo and your breast area sort of taking the air out of your lungs are signs of cancer and that's exactly what I've been getting, I'm so worried that I've got cancer because my whole family have got or had it when they died but none of them they I know of got it when they were young! I am scared to tell my mum in case she gets upset what do I do?

    Blood in your poo is generally a sign you are constipated and need more fibre in your diet. The chest pain you notice could be linked to breast development. However it is clear you have questions about family illnesses and this is affecting you and your way of digesting this information. I suggest you have a chat to your mum and share your fears with her. She will be able to chat things over with you and alleviate any concerns you may have.

  • so I'm 13 and a half (Year 9).a guy who sits next to me in maths said how hairy my legs were.All the girls in my year started shaving them in y7 and 8 but I want to wait as long as possible I have blonde hairs and don't want to get into a vicious cycle. I feel that if more people notice they may think I'm disgusting because I haven't started. I am conscious about wearing dresses without tights. I also worry that people are looking at the section between my knee socks and skirt at school.

    There is no reason why anyone should shave their legs, it's a personal choice and my advice would be to ignore any silly comments and be yourself.

  • Okay so I'm thirteen and I don't have a lot of confidence around good looking boys who are my age. I get really shy and I wish I could be more confident around them. All my friends are confident around boys and take selfies with them and stuff and I wish I could. From Laura ๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท

    Hi Laura, sometimes all you need to do is smile and say "Hi" for a boy to know you like him.

  • Hello,
    I am eleven (12 Soon) and my boobs are quite big for my age I was visiting my 3 year old cousins not to long ago, I was playing with them and one asked and pointed 'why have you got boobs like mummy?'' I ignored her and she started touching them I pulled her off and asked her to stop, but she kepted staring at them, I know she is only young but it made me feel really uncomfortable, what do I do if this happens again? Thanksx

    Change the subject and find something else for her to do that will take her mind off your breasts would be my advice.

  • Is it likely to have your period at 11 and a half?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • At what age should you shave your legs?

    This really is a conversation for your parents as they may have different views to me. I asked my daughters to wait until they were 14 or older.

  • I like to listen to movie soundtracks, does that make me weird and stupid?

    I don't see why you would think this, most movie soundtracks are generally hits in the charts too. My favourite bond soundtrack has to be Licence to Kill, which was a huge hit for Gladys Knight many years ago.

  • Hi Vicki I have had discharge for like almost 2 1/2 yrs now and no period it's got so heavy I daily have to change my pantyliners and I've started to get stomach cramps over the last few days and loads of discharge my mum and I openly talk about this but I don't wanna sound like an idiot and say I think I might start my period to my mum thanx any way xxxxxx

    The amount of discharge we lose can vary from day to day and pant liners are great for capturing this fluid, they are also good for protecting your underwear from menstrual fluid too. So if your period does arrive you can then have a chat to your mum asking if she will get you some pads too from now on.

  • Hi vicki
    Ive had discharge for about 2 years, and 2 months ago i got a little bit of blood in my knickers but nothing else, then last month i got a tiny bit of blood, like a clot, but thats been it. I have all the right period signs but i dont know what that was, please help asap x

    The amount of blood we lose during our period can vary from person to person and time to time. I do believe this is your period so please consider keeping some pads or liners in your bag from now on.

  • Are panty liners unhygenic? My friend told me because I consider buying some, I want to but she said that its worse having panty liners than not even having one one. Is it true? By the way, I love this website and its helped me alot๐Ÿ’• Thanks alot Ella x

    Hi Ella, a great many women and girls wear pant liners on a daily basis; me included and I don't think they are unhygienic at all.

  • So there is this boy who always goes to the bus stop that is right in front of my house so he goes there everyday at around the time that I leave he first started at around near the end of year 8 for me and now I'm in year 9 but when I leave my house he looks behind to look at me but he turns around quickly after I wanna start talking to him but I don't know what to do please help.โ˜†โ–ณโ˜†โ–ณโ˜†โ–ณ

    You could just start by smiling when you pass him and saying morning, lots of people do this and it's a great way to get to know someone.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm a 30AA but my bras are leaving marks on my back and digging in slightly they're on the outer hook thingy but 32AA are too big around my ribs what should I do?

    You could visit your local store and ask to be measured, you never know it could be your cup size that has changed too as very often it is not just a case of moving up a size when your bra becomes tight.

  • Hii
    my friend is really annoying me you can't do anything better than her and if you do she won't listen. For instance everyone said this guy fancied me and I didn't like him but they were txting on Facebook and he asked her out she eventually said yes of course I was happy for her coz I didn't like him but then after all she did was talk about how 'funny' it was that he actually liked her instead. And it was begging to become irrating I don't want to lose her but I wish she'd stop.
    Thanks x

    Why not change the subject quickly when she starts talking and she will soon realise that her conversation is not appropriate. Alternatively you could just let her know how you sometimes find the things she says upsetting.

  • Please answer, is it normal that I'm 24, have boobs, pubic hair, and started my period but don't have any armpit hair at all?! Isn't that suppose to be the first stage of puberty please answer I'm worried!
    Lucy x

    Hi Lucy, not everyone one has under arm hair and the amount grown can vary too, with some people having a lot and others having hardly any, so please try not to worry.

  • Hey vicki, I have liked my crush since last September and about 3 weeks ago he became my boyfriend. I am happy about this, but I constantly have this feeling in the pit of my stomach because there are these days when he makes me so happy but there are also days when I'm really unsure. What do you think I should do? I fall in and out of love with him every day, should I leave him? I'm so confused!

    Why not ask if you can take a break for a couple of weeks as you think you may have moved into dating too soon and are not sure if you are ready.

  • hi, vikki...my age iz 18 but periods r still not started, i m worried....plz give me suggestion wt will i do...????

    I would recommend you visit your GP and have a chat to them.

  • Hey Vicki! So I dont wear a bra but I really need one! Im 12 and all my friends wear them! My breasts jiggle when I run and jump stuff like that and I really think they are big enough for a somekindof bra. So I wanted to measure them and I found a measurin tape and I think it is, 72cm and 68cm, what is my bra size please? ..I really dont know how to ask for one but I know when she started wearing one,14. I CANT wait that long! Please I dont wanna just ask her one! What do I do? Thanks bestie...xxx

    32AA is your size. Why not ask if you can go underwear shopping at the weekend for some girly things, I am sure your mum will get the message.

  • โœจHiโœจ
    ๐Ÿ’ซSo there's this boy in my learning group and he actually said to me that he loves me and that he wants to go out with me.But I am only in year 7 and have known him for like 5 weeks(don't know if exact). What should I tell him?????????????๐Ÿ’ซ
    Thanks
    โœจCโœจ
    P.S I like stars

    Why not say thanks but for now you just want to be friends and are not looking for a boyfriend.

  • Hey Vicki๐Ÿ’•
    I have been really conscious of my chest for a while. I am 14 and I have absolutely no boobs. All my friends are wearing bras and I can't even fit into an AA- my measurements are 65 cm underneath and 70cm on top๐Ÿ˜” My mum just about fits into an A so is it most likely I will be flat chested? I know I should love myself the way I am and I will still grow but I notice girls and boys in my school commenting behind my back๐Ÿ˜•
    Thank you, Ellie, 14 years old๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€

    Hi Ellie, firstly breasts continue to develop into our late teens or early twenties so try not to worry and be patient you have plenty of time for growth.

  • Hi Vicki
    So there is this guy T and we went to the same primary school and we've been okay friends but now we are both in year 9 at different schools T goes to a boy school I go to a girls school and whenever I see him he always tells me to F off and I don't know why. He's become a real douche now and when I asked him he said that I just annoy him really easily.
    Please help me I don't know what to do!

    I think T has made his feelings pretty clear here and even though he is being rude and offensive, my advice is to steer clear of him and stop talking to him when you see him.

  • Hi vicki, I'm 12 and This morning I noticed a horrible, strong smelling brown gooey stuff in my pants and it was everywhere, I put some tissue in my pants and then this evening I noticed there was more of if. I'm scared it's an infection and the smell is really strong! Help

    This could be your period and I would urge you to speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My period started on the 27th of September with very very light flow and gradually increased. Today on the 8th of October my period still has not stopped.
    Is there a problem?
    Please answer.

    Violet x

    Not really first periods can often be irregular lasting for longer periods of time, so please try not to worry.

  • I want to make new friends because I have fallen out with my other ones. However, I don't want to make them feel as though I am using them in any way because I have no one else to go to. What do I do? xxx

    Join some new after school groups and maybe ask your current friends to come along with you so they do not feel left out. If they decline your request then you should still go on your own.

  • My period is due soon, but I keep getting this clear or white liquid coming out of me. I often mistake it for my period, because it seeps through the fabric of my trouser and pants. Not sure what it is.

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. You can find out more about discharge by visiting our website and clicking under the puberty tab.

  • Hi vicki, I noticed something wrong with me and decide to go to doctors but I didn't tell my parents. I was right and got diagnosed as hypomanic. If I tell my parents they won't believe me because I'm not the kind of person to do this. I know my friends/teachers will understand better because its easier to break this to them, but I don't know who to tell. I know that my parents should know and probably the school as well? What do you think? It's not serious for me to end up hospitalised but, could develop.

    If you are under the age of 16 to be diagnosed with this condition your doctor would have to had run a great many tests, that legally he would have to have had permission from your parents to do so. If this was not the case then I urge you to speak to your parents as your doctor has acted unethically.

  • Are my breasts small??????
    I am 11 3/4 and a 32a

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, so please learn to love the shape you have rather than worry about being bigger or smaller than those around you.

  • I heard that if you wear a bra longer than 12 hours a day it increases your chances of getting breast cancer later on in life. Is this true? Thanks x

    No this is not true.

  • Hi Vicki !
    I had my period like 3 weeks ago and now its here again and really heavy ! is that normal ??? Please help
    Girlygirl99

    Hi Girlygirl99, the gap between one period and the next can vary for the first couple of years and short gaps are very common so try not to worry.

  • Hey Viki!!!
    It's me again. What r pant liners and when should I use them i got the lil let's starter pack so I was just wondering???????
    Clo!!!!!!!

    Hi Clo, pant liners are suitable for when you have discharge or for a very light menstrual flow. They are also good to wear in you underwear should you think your period may be with you soon as a precaution.

  • I have a boyfriend that lives 200 miles away from me we have met before and our parents have know for about 2 weeks and we have been going out for 4 months but 200 miles is to far only 3 of my friends at school know and I sometimes randomly start crying because I miss him so some of my friends like to know but for the last week I just want to run to his house and give him a hug we are meeting up on the 15th of November but how can I cope with this distance I speak to him everyday on Skype and by phone

    I have responded to this question before and my advice remains the same that it may be an idea to think of this boy as your pen pal only and never consider meeting him without speaking to your parents first. Very often people can pretend to be someone they are not via social media and telephone and you would be wise to speak to your parents in general about this relationship before considering contacting him again.

  • Hi viki, I have a crush on this boy but I don't know if he likes me or not. If you have just started getting discharge can u still wear a pad to stop it going into your underwear or not. I hope you can help me and I know its a lot of questions.

    I am sure this boy will let you know if he likes you in time, so continue chattin to him when you can. In answer to your question on discharge; my advice is to wear a liner than a pad, this is much better option.

  • What subjects did you take in school?๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿช๐Ÿซ๐Ÿฌ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฏ๐Ÿฉ๐Ÿฆ๐Ÿน๐Ÿ”๐Ÿ•๐Ÿฃ๐Ÿค๐Ÿ—๐Ÿ–๐Ÿ

    I enjoyed languages and the sciences.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've been having discharge for about a year now. I don't wear panty liners but my discharge has been becoming a lot thicker and more common.Is this a sign that I might start my period? I do have some panty liners I could use.
    Thanks xx

    As you've already been releasing discharge for over a year and you have noticed that it has become thicker, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Dear Vicki
    I know that this isn't a question, but I'd like to say it: thank you. Even with the little things, like saying that our breasts can still develop until our 20's so try not to worry. Other "Ask _____" usually say, "yea, you're going to have small boobs as an adult", but not you! You give us hope! Thank you!! <3

    Thank you for your kind feedback. I like to think that rather than giving you hope, I give you the facts and let everyone see we are all different and beautiful in our own way.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I have this ''friend" and we had a fallout. I don't want to be friends with her anymore, so I don't spend any time with her. Nowadays, everything I say, she contradicts me and tries to prove me wrong. When I speak to people who are her friends, she just contradicts me and is desperate to say something that will show that I'm wrong. I just don't get why she's behaving like this, and when she's made it clear as well that she doesn't wanna be friends, then why be jealous?

    It seems you and this girl have reached the end of your friendship which often happens in your teen years. My advice would be to find a new group of friends and ignore any comments this girl makes, after all you can still be friendly even if you are not as close as you were before.

  • Hello, my friend is turning 15 next month, we have been bestfriends since we were 3 and I have no idea what to get her, do you have any suggestions? We always get eachover photos in a frame and stuff, but I want to do something special, please help!๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽˆ thank you x

    Rather than buying her anything offer to take her out for something to eat as your birthday treat and take photos of your day out.

  • Part 2,
    We mess around and he tickles me and asks me personal questions about himself and I'm fine with this. Whenever we get to choose seats we end up sitting near each other accidentally! The only problem is he is really popular and lots of girls always hang around the 'cool boys' and I never feel like I can speak to him out of lessons! what do I do!! does he like me? Ahhh!!
    Levixxxxxx

    Regardless of how this boy feels about you or acts around you, he has a girlfriend and is therefore off limits.

  • Part 1
    Dear Vicki
    I have a crush on this boy who sits next to me in my science class but he has a girlfriend. he always seems to not be happy about it if you talk about it but I don't know.Whenever I sit next to him my stomach goes fluttery and my hands get clammy.
    Levixxxxxx

    Hi Levi, my response is in Part Two.

  • Hi vicky! thanks for answering my question about "E"

    the only problem is he sits opposite me in Spanish and next to him in IT so i don't get chance to talk to him very much as we only have IT every other week.He is never on his phone or social networking sites either and sometimes he is busy shooting to come out. Today was his birthday and when i hugged him i didnt want to let go :( xx Please help x
    purplepanda

    Hi Purplepanda you really do have to wait and see what E decides to do, if he likes you he will let you know. For not try not to be in a rush and be happy that you are just good friends.

  • Hi vicki

    My mum had her period when she was 12 I am11 and have had dishcharge for 9 months and my birthday is Jan 26 do you think I will have my period before I turn 12?


    Thank :) ps I love this site!!!!!

    Not everyone follows the same pattern as their family members for the arrival of their period, but as you have already noticed discharge it would be a good idea to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I am 12 Years old in Y8. I am 5'6ft and a bit whilst I have an above average breast size. I weigh 9'10 and do sports most days of the week. Do I sound like I am chubby?

    At the age of 12 your body is going to change quite a bit over the next few years, so rather than worry about what the scales say, consider eating a healthy diet and exericsing often, this way your body will find the right weight just for you.

  • Hello Vicky,
    I wanted to ask you if it is okay for me, a 15/16 year old girl, to never have had a boyfriend and never have kissed a guy and not be close to doing either. I'm very shy and am always afraid of talking to people.
    How do I get over this? Is it normal?
    Thanks

    This is fine and you may be interested to learn that lots of people now wait until their late teens and early twenties before dating or having their first kiss.

  • Im 12 Going on 13 And i Have been Getting discharge and stomach aches but dont know when my period will start with u tell Me ?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • When I have my period I use pads but all the blood drizzled down and dries in my rear. Should I use tampons? I need something!

    If you feel ready to try tampons, Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of girls all over the world.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have A LOT of scab scars on my ankle, foot and some on my legs. It's really embarrassing and I read on a website that they're not going to fade away unless I do something to it. I've tried using Vaseline Aloe Vera moisturizer, but I don't think it's working. Please help me, school's starting in a few days and we have to wear sandals. And please don't tell me to pick my scars, its a bit late for that.
    Thanks

    The first thing you have to identify is why these marks keep appearing and you may find a visit to your doctor will give you the answer. For instance sometimes pets can carry fleas that bite the ankes, feet and legs. To reduce the appearance of these marks consider mositurising day and night and when at home wearing socks so you are less tempted to scratch.

  • Hey Vicki it's Annie again,
    So there's this boy I like and i want to ask him out and I'm in grade 8 but he's not going to the same high school next year so if things continued it would be a bit harder because we don't live the close (long story to how were at the same school) an I don't want to just ask him to the dance cus everyone would know I like him and he would know please help
    Love Annie๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Annie, why not ask for his e-mail address or phone number saying how you would like to keep in touch as friends when you both attend different schools.

  • Hey vicki, so i am 13 and im kind of insecure with my body. I am skinny but not too skinny and I have hips but I am almost flat. The thing is I hate my stomach, because my ribs stick out too much even if i am not that skinny. They are like bigger than my boobs and they make me look weird when someone sees me from the side, and it embarrases me sooo much :(

    As you continue your journey through puberty you will notice a great many changes to the way you look and these changes can continue into your late teens so please be patient and see what the future holds.

  • 75cm under
    82-83cm on
    80cm above
    What is my bra size? Should I wear a bra that has cups?
    I'm 13 (turning 14 in January) and in highschool and I wear a training bra. I know I shouldn't be worried and stuff because I'm. Still growing, but I can't help but feel self conscious. Everyone else in my year wears a c7pped bra and so do my friends.I feel like a late developer

    P.s. I haven't had my period in 2 months... is this normal?

    -Meerkat

    34AA is your size and it really is up to you what type of bra you choose to wear.

  • Hi vicki,
    Im 13 and want lose my virginity. Everyone says it feels good. so i want to try that experince to. I know im only 13 but i want to be a non-virgin soo bad

    PLEASE ANSWER ASAP

    The Law of Consent states that itis illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16 so you would be breaking the law.  During puberty, it is normal to experience feelings of a sexual nature due to a massive increase in the activity of sex hormones and some find that masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Hey Vicki
    Thank you so much for helping me with should I get a padded bra:)
    Ok so I have pubic hair I have had discharge for 9 months and im like a 28AA in bras but I don't have any armpit hair? Everbody in my family has armpit hair. Do I need to have amrpit hair before I have my period?
    BTW im 11
    Thanks Rachel:) P.S I have never had my period

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away and try not to worry about your armpit hair, it will develop when it's ready.

  • hey Vicki,
    I'm 12 years old grade 7 and all my friends make fun of my boobs bc they are so small. they all have big (considerably) to mine and I feel left out i don't know if I'm doing anything wrong why won't they grow!!! fullest part is 77cm. under is 73cm. what is my size??

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • My period is coloured dark brown and I have read y itz like dat, Buh I need to know if I can do something about it and should I be worried or see a doctor ?

    Brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina so please try not to worry.

  • hey Vicki,
    I'm 12 years old grade 7 and all my friends make fun of my boobs bc they are so small. they all have big (considerably) to mine and I feel left out i don't know if I'm doing anything wrong why won't they grow!!! fullest part is 77cm. under is 73cm. what is my size??

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • I just had brown discharge. It was kinda alot. I had it for 7 days. I had some blood on the 4th day but, it wasnt a lot. Is this my period? will it turn into blood soon? Will my second on come on time? Thanks!

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see waht happens over the coming weeks and months.  Keep in mind that in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hi its Emily,
    Alot of my friends say that I'm beautiful and ALOT of them like me idunno if its cause I'm REALLY popular but heres the problem this guy named 'l' asked me out and then a few hours later in 5th period he's best friend asked me out too and i like them both and i feel that if i say no to one of them than the other one won't like me any more. Ahhhhhh help me please

    NOT trying to brag sorry if i offended you

    A good way of dealing with this and not offending either one of them is to decline their offer for now but say that you just want to be friends as then you can get to know them a little better before you decide who you like more.

  • Part 2:
    After i looked again and he started winking at me continusly and smiling. .Onze we were in the same shop and after he walked out and i walked out after and he was walking and looked back and waited for me and then just walked next to me and started a conversation with me, and i said should i tell the girl you like you like her he said yeah but he didnt tell me who it is. Does he like me or nah?

    Purpleloverxox

    It is difficult to say, he may like you as his friend's sister. So why not be patient and see what happens in the future, there really is no rush to find out how he truly feels.

  • Part 1:
    Hey
    Okayy so baasiccaallyyy, My brother has a friend. And that friend is a good friend of his. His friend always asks me stuff like what looks good on him& how to tell someone you love them etc. So one day in school me and my friend were walking past my brother but away and i was looking at him and he smiled at me so i smiled back thinking he was just smiling in general.

    Purpleloverxox

    My response is in Part Two.

  • My house is so noisy every night and I can't really wear ear plugs because then I won't be able to hear my alarm clock in the morning. I have told my parents and sister to please be quiet so many times I can't remember but nothing will make them be quiet

    There really is no words of advice I can offer you at this time, other than to continue speaking to your parents and asking them to consider your feelings.

  • Hi Vicki! Just wondering, what's the earliest age do you think a girl could get a boyfriend? I know this is kind of a weird question but... I'm just confused - by the way I'm 12 is this a right age?

    By doing this job, I often see how many problems being in a relationship at a young age can cause so I suggest that you always try to get to know someone really well as a friend before you decide to 'go out' with them.  Relationships at a young age tend to cause problems at a time when you should be focusing on your education and passing your exams and I think you should always make sure that your parents or guardians are happy for you to have a boyfriend too so you should ask for their permission.

  • Ahh vikcy you didnt answer my question ive been waiting for 2 weeks :( your making me sad :(

    I'm so sorry you haven't been able to locate your response.  Please resubmit and be sure to make a note of your Unique Reference Number.

  • hi vicki i am small in my breasts on the mid nipplebit i am 30 inches under i 27 inches right underneath my arms i am a 31inches what size am i plus what shall i doif people be mean to mei dont wear an actaul bra beause ulit really upsets me i am the only one who has no breasts and everyone stares at me also when will iget my period, i have had discharge since january started having hair since yr 6 end of pubic hair and i have had underarm hair since the end of last year i am in yr9

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and we are all made in different shapes and sizes.  It is also possible to notice breast development up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.  the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I know that my bra size is 30A, but what style should I get? I want a bit of padding but no push up. Is there a such thing? What is it called?

    You can purchase soft cup bras that have a very small amount of padding and no matter what bra you decide to purchase you should always select your correct size; in this case 30A.

  • Hi! I've been having clear discharge for about a year and a half. I haven't gotten a butt or boobs or my period yet. What could this be? I also smell like I have my period a lot of the time too... Should I be getting it soon?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Just try to be patient and you will notice that your body will develop as you progress through puberty.  As for the odour you have noticed, you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes.

  • Hi, i'm 13 and one of my boobs is slightly bigger than the other I don't know if its because I sleep on that side or not.

    One breast almost always develops before the other one and this is very normal, in time the second breast will catch up, however no two breasts are every identical.

  • I think I started my period on Friday
    There was two drops of blood in my pants but I've had nothing since.
    Was this actually my period?
    Please answer asap

    It would be very difficult to say, but my advice would be to keep some pads or liners with you from now on, just in case this was your first period and so you can be prepared for your second one.

  • Hi, I'm 13 and I had my first period five months ago when I was 12. I have not had anything since except for and tiny bit of blood two months ago. Should I see a doctor. I'm really scared please help!!!

    There is not need to visit your doctor, periods are often irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one being very common. Just make sure that from now on you always have some Lil-Lets teens day pads in your bag when out and about.

  • Hey Vicki , basically I was lying down in my bra and knickers and then my phone started vibrating and it kept doing it for like a minute and it was like on top of my vagina I had pants on but could I now have cancer or something coz it made my vagina feel weird ๐Ÿ˜• PLEASE HELP IM VERY WORRIED

    ps. I heard mobikes can cause cancer
    pss sorry if this is inappropriate

    Try not to worry this vibration from your phone will have had no impact on your healt.

  • Hi, my friend has this massive crush on JFK and I find this really weird. I know I can't tell her who to like but she just doesn't seem to understand that even if he was alive he's three times her age (when he died) what should I tell her?

    Try no to worry as it is possible for girls to develop a crush on people they don't even know like fim stars, actors, sportsmen, celebrities etc.. during puberty as their hormones are running riot.  However, as JFK died so long ago, it is nice to hear that his memory is still alive.

  • Hi Vicki alot of ppl disagree but I think the song ???????????????????????is very inspirational and I think big ppl get criticized and picked on and told to change to much size can't stop you from doing somthing and I really want to get that across coz on the news it's all about the more skinny ppl are the better and they have no idea how much it can hurt someone how will I do this?????

    I agree that the media and therefore the public in general seem pre-occupied with someone's shape and size, but I am not sure this song does not do the same by focussing on the size of a particular part of someone's anatomy. I would like to think at some point we can all learn to love our shape regardless of what that is.

  • there's this one boy called H we hang out and today we were watching a match he was playing in and he was bouncing the ball on my head and was listening to my music with my spare head phone so we were stood really close. i like him a lot i just can't help feeling he doesnt like me back x
    Bluebutterfly

    Why not try to get to know H a little better as a friend to see if you really like him and if he likes you?

  • Recently I've been feeling really sad and crying a lot for no real reason I don't know why but I just feel down :( Also my mum bought me bra's and then after a week they were starting rub me and I was really itchy I don't know how? Thanks

    Try not to worry as the reason you've been feeling so upset is due to your hormones as puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls.  Sereotonin levels (the body''s natural happy hormone) are at an all time low leaving teens susceptible to stress so try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.  It might be a good idea to try on any bras before you buy them to make sure they fit comfortably.  A training bra might be a good idea to start with as it is soft and unstructured but enables you to get used to wearing one.

  • What should I do if I can feel a period coming in school and I'm in the middle of a lesson and the teacher is male?

    By being prepared and wearing pant liners, you won't have to worry as a liner should provide you with enough protection to avoid leakage.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Periods and School.

  • Hi Vicki, it's Gemma again:) thankyou for you brilliant response to my previous question :) so ever since I began using tampons my periods have got much shorter and lighter, is this normal? Thankyou (please put this in the periods section) thankyou so much for the support xxxxx

    Hi Gemma, thank you for the support.  There is a possibility that your menstrual flow seems lighter because you're wearing tampons as opposed to pads, so you're not really seeing your menstrual blood loss.

  • Can you wear a bra even if you don't have boobs?? Because I have breast buds but REALLY small boobs but all my friends wear bras and I feel left out. Also is okay to stuff things in your crop top/ bra????
    Thnx
    KuteKittyKat

    Hi KuteKittyKat, you might like to start with a training bra as it will help you get used to wearing one.

  • Hi Vicky, I love this website! I wear but I think that I need a padded bra. My mum disagrees of me getting one because she thinks my boobs arent big enough, but I know they are! Im 70 underneath and 74 on the fullest, what size am I and how do I convince her?

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  Thank you for the support and please respect your mum's wishes as she will know what kind of bra you should wear.

  • PART 2 if i ever become friends with a boy i always end up crushing on them whenever i am with a boy at school i always flirt and everyones says i like them but i dont i just do it automatically, not to impress anyone when they say i like them i always laugh but i dont like them i just "like them" because of hormones but i dont REALLY like them if you know what i mean. i said im not having a boyfriend till im 16 i dont know what to do.when I was single I got but it wasnt about coolness

    Some people naturally like to be around others and find their actions can be misinterpreted as flirting. I would not worry about what others say, if you like a boy then let him know, if you have boys as friends then be sure to let them know from time to time how great it is just being friends with no romance involved, so they do not get the wrong impression of your behaviour towards them.

  • PART 1
    I cant really explain the question well but here it goes: I am 13, im in year 9 and recently broke up with my boyfriend. he was basically using me and it wasnt working (relationship) and he was always like "lets kiss" even though we were always super good friends before that. i was all "lovestruck" as such when we 1st went out and then i decided to end it. i was ashamed and embarressed about what it thought (fantasizing, etc) but i couldnt help it. CONTINUED IN PART 2

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I am really worried about that Ebola diasese, I'm scared incase it spreads even more and I catch it or someone I know catches it

    Try not to worry as I'm sure the government has everything in hand.

  • Hi Vicki!
    is it illegal for 2 WOMEN to have sex? Sorry if inappropriate i'm just curious

    A lesbian is a female homosexual.  A female who experiences sexual attraction to other females.  It is not illegal for women to be lesbians.

  • how can you make your boobies grow quicker?
    luv from
    Scarlet

    Hi Scarlet, I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to make your breasts develop any quicker.  It is possible for them to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My crush went on a class trip to Paris, there's another girl going and she likes him. She told me she's going to ask him out in Paris, but I'm kinda scared he's going to say yes and they'll go out, because I really like him. But at the same time...I want her to be happy, because she's my friend.
    I'm really not sure how to feel.
    โ™ซ Love Zo โ™ซ

    Hi Zo, there is always a possibility that he won't like your friend so just wait and see what happens.  However, if he agrees to going out with her, you should be try to be pleased for your friend.  Try to remember that during puberty, teens easily develop a crush on someone but they do fade over time.

  • Hey Vicki! I was just wondering if colds could possibly be linked to puberty and the immune system? Sorry about the random question; I was curious as this is my second cold within a few weeks and I am going through puberty. :-P Thanks in advance, Smileyface๐Ÿ˜ƒ

    Hi Smileyface, I think this is just a coincidence. But as colds are common in the Autumn/Winter months you may want to eat more fruit and vegetables to keep your vitamin levels high.

  • I'm 11 and my nipples are getting sort of puffy. Do you think they will start developing soon?

    This is very common and is most likely a sign that your breasts are starting to bud, why not check out our Boobs and Bras section on the website you can find it under the puberty tab.

  • Hi Vicki
    Lulu here...I luv this site so much bcz ลฑโ˜† r so helpful so ลฑโ˜† wuld lyk to sy thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜†
    My Question:
    Iz it normall to skip a day of discharge because i am always discharging n yesterdae i skipped my discharge
    Thnx Aloottttt Vicki
    Love Lulu!!

    Thank you for the support and try not to worry about the gap in releasing discharge as this is perfectly normal.

  • I'm in year 8 and I really like this boy, I've liked him since the beginning of year 7. I don't know if he likes me back, everybody says He likes me back. He acts like he likes today he was trying to get my attention by hitting me on head with a ruler and always asking me questions from across the room. Whenever we are have to sit next to eachother in class he would always talk non stop and whisper the periodic table in my ear and draw in my french book๐Ÿ˜‚ I'm not sure how he might feel. Lissa

    Hi Lissa, I really get the impression that this boy likes you but I think you should take some time to get to know him a little better before you decide to be his girlfriend.

  • dear Vicki,
    i have a problem involving my best friend. I think I am jealous of her. She's really pretty, smart and everyone wants to be her. The boys said she is the prettiest girl in our year and it made me feel really insecure I started to cry. I feel so ugly and she thinks SHE is insecure. I don't know what to do because she thinks im mad at her, and I hate feeling so ugly. I'm scared of looking in the mirror. Help.

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's easy for them to develop a poor self-image but please try to remember that your friend is probably experiencing similar feelings too.  The world is made up of millions of people all different and all special in their own way, which is what makes us unique, so rather than feeling jealous of your friend, focus on what is great about being you...and there will be lots of things if you just take the time to consider what they are. Once you display confidence in yourself you will quickly notice others see you differently too.

  • Hello Vicky, I have fallen out with 2 of my friends. Apparently I have been saying things behind their backs. (which is NOT true) They have heard rumours from other people that I have been talking about them. However, they are refusing to tell me what the rumours are, and who started them. I really want to sort this out and I really need to know what the rumours are! They are my 2 best friends and they have turned against me! I need help ASAP I really need to sort this out! Thank you so so much! x

    It is possible to grow out of our friends at times but there is no need for them to be accusing you of doing things you haven't as a way of not being friends anymore.  Please talk to a teacher or mentor at school and arrange to discuss this through with them and check out my blog on Keeping and Making Friends for some extra help.

  • Hi Vicki,
    It's A Unicorn again. I've noticed that nipples go puffy sometimes and hard sometimes. I've looked through other questions that said the same. Why does this happen?

    If it is cold outside, it is normal for our nipples to become hard, just the same as they become soft when we are warm.

  • Hello i am 12, 13 soon i have been getting discharge for a while now and it has started to thicken, what happens when i have my priod what do i do? Help me please as i am really unsure!

    If you've already been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and have recently noticed it become thicker, it is possible that your period is very close.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Viki, my periods don't hurt. And I don't feel them coming at all. Is this normal?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • ok so its hannah here -again- and so my last period was in august although i vageuly remember having in again on the 28th of september 2014 but i don't know/remember if that was a dream or not. So far my period has only lasted 1 day. Also,is it possible to skip 3 months worth of periods during the first 1/2 years? Thanks vicki,from Hannah age 10

    Hi Hannah, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Periods usually last for between 2-7 days.

  • Hi Vicki I am sort of worried and confused my first period was regular to heavy but know my second period is very lite, what going on and will it ever get heavier again?? Thank you๐Ÿ’ž

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • And also sorry if this is gross or inappropriate, but when I feel/ masturbate down there and I touch inside my vagina, my finger always comes out with discharge on it. Also I have moody very moody lately. I'm 13 and my mom was 14 when she had her period: am I close to getting my period? Like in the next week or so?
    Part 2 by lollipop

    Hi Lollipop, as your discharge has increased, it is possible that your period isn't too far away.  Masturbation will not affect when this happens so try not to worry.

  • Okay so my lower stomach has been hurting for a couple of days now. I have had discharge for about 7 months now. Every time I go to the bathroom now, there has recently been a lot of discharge everytime.
    Part 1

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki
    I think I got my period I have had
    Discharge for over a year and a half.
    And in March I had a bit of blood
    In my underwear it lasted for 4 days and
    It has happened twice my mom doesn't
    Think I have it but my health teacher does
    But I haven't had it again since April
    P.S. I'm 10 I'll be eleven in 1month

    The blood you noticed was your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi,
    Ill be 16 in 4 months, ive been having discharge for 2+ years and its always been white and either liquidy or sticky and when it dries its still whitish. Im getting pretty worried because I havent gotten my period yet. I wear size 32-34 cup B bras. Im a sophmore in highschool and im pretty much the only one who hasn't gotten their period yet. Do you think ill still get it or will I be one of those cases where I dont get my period at all?

    It is normal for girls to start their period an time between the ages of 8-18 and as you've already been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.