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  • I am one of those people that get very very very stressed out and because I am in my first exam year at shcool my stress levels are quite high, I live in Scotland and I am sitting 8national5 exams this year and I have my Spanish speaking exam ina couple of weeks, I just wanted to know can you miss your period if you are stressed out and can it affect you health in general?
    Thank you
    From Fiona

    Hi Fiona, stress can sometimes effect the menstrual cycle but it will not do any lasting damage to your health. Why not read our blogs on Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress and 7 Easy GCSE Studying Tips.

  • Hi Vicki this is just a quick reply to a question you answered for me (CBH783) you said the tenderness and soreness of my boobs were because of breast development, but my boobs are also quite red around the nipples and how long does this pain last?
    Becca x

    Hi Becca, this pain can continue for a few years and as your breasts continue to grow.

  • About 6 weeks ago I had henna (paste) on, and then a few days later I dyed my hair. I had about 2 scabs on my scalp after I washed my hair, and they were abit itchy. My mum thinks I'v had an allergic reaction - meaning I can NEVER dye my hair again. I'm 15. Next time I want to dye my hair, shall I do a patch test to see what happens? (I'm never going to use henna again, just to be safe). Thank you x

    Just because this hair dye did not suit you, it does not mean another brand will not either, and with any new product you should always do a small patch test as per the manufacturers instructions.

  • I wear an anti persperant deodorant but I still smell a bit at the end of the day?

    Hi, try a different brand, possibly one for men which are often a little stronger and ideal for people during puberty.

  • Hi vikki its me again sorry I ask so many questions I am very curious! Well the over day I was.. Wiping after going to the ladys and I notesed a little red (blood) and I got super excited but it didn't happen again and that was about a week ago? Also that night I was sick. Thx From April x I'm 11

    Hi April, I would not worry too much about this little spot of blood it may have been a cut and is unlikely to have been your period.

  • Do you know what brown urine means even if you're drinking normally? And I haven't been eating anything colourful.

    If you have been drinking throughout the day you should speak to your mum about the colour of your urine and she will advise you further.

  • Hi vicki, whenever I have my period I get worried that other people can smell or see it. As I am only 12 there aren't many people who have theirs in my year. I am also the first one in my friendship group has it xx

    No one can tell by looking at you if you have your period, but lots of girls feel a little self-conscious that this may be the case. Ensure you always have some pads with you to change into and no odour should be noticed.

  • Hi,
    I haven't got a period yet but how can I prepare what if I'm in school.

    From now on consider taking a few pads or liners with you in your school bag and our Lil-Lets teens starter pack may be the ideal choice as it is very discreet and holds all you need for your first period. If you decide not to do this, don't worry if your period does arrive in school then your teacher or school secretary will have some pads for you to use.

  • Hiyya x anyway I pressed on the wrong buttons and it said I hope u liked the free samples we sent you but unfortunately this comp is closed? So please What does this mean I didn't put in my home address and can you cancel it x thanks

    Yes, not to worry, we will not be sending you anything.

  • Hi vicki I'm really struggling at the moment I can't even walk into school without crying. I told one of my teachers how I felt (the head of year) and she said I look like I'm the bottom of the bottom. I just don't know who to talk to. I just feel alone and rubbish. Please help me I generally think I might have depression and by what the teacher said so does she. I just want someone to talk to properly x 🐼🐘🐼

    Have a chat to your parents and another teacher letting them know you are struggling with your emotions, which is very common during puberty and not always a sign that you are suffering with a medical condition.

  • Hey Vicki,

    I have just finished my period, but I feel the need to pee 30 mins after I've just been, and I have what feels like period pains, is this normal or do I have something else?

    You may have a urine infection so please share these symptoms with your mum who will advise you further.

  • Hey I am 13 and flat. I'm a "late bloomer" and I hate it all my friends has boobs and hit puberty and I haven't I am so nervous and imbarrest when I get changed for pe help!!!

    We really are all different and our bodies know when the time is right for each of us to develop, so please try not to compare your progress with that of those around you, it does not mean you are not as mature as your friends and you should not worry about this one bit.

  • is it dangerous to wear tampons if you haven't started your period?
    thanks

    Tampons are designed to catch menstrual fluid  before it leaves your body, therefore if you are not on your period there should be no need for you to ever wear a tampon.

  • Hi Vicky
    Umm.. I have been noticing small bits of something which is red in color when i pee... What is it ? Is it skin?

    Thanks
    Zoe

    Hi Zoe, as you enter puberty your vulva starts to change in colour, length and shape and this may be what you are noticing.

  • Hey vicki
    I'm kayla and I have a lot of split ends in my hair so.... I was wondering whether I can use heat or curl my hair. Should we use or not?

    Thnx 😊

    Hi Kayla, there is no reason why you cannot use heat on your hair and my advice would be to have your hair cut to remove the split ends as this is the only way to remove them.

  • I'm only 11 and I started my first period a month ago. I'm now on my second period which last for 6 days and my cycle is 34 days.

    I really don't know what to do about school because sometimes the toilets are really packed or my friends wait outside the door and I'm scared they can hear me. Today my friend asked "why do you take so long and what were you doing coz I heard rustling?" I didn't know what to say.

    I see no  reason why you cannot tell your friend that your period is here and you are changing your protection, after all we all have to do this in the toilet. Alternatively you may find that our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal pads will keep you protected for the entire school day so you do not have to change at all.

  • I have had discharge for 6 months and a bit but recently it has become heavier I don't think its a infection and my breasts have grown quite a lot recently also I'm very tired sometimes I get cramps and I think the discharge might be sigh s of my first it almost feels like I've wet my self some times is this my first period coming πŸ‘€

    Discharge along with breast development is always a good sign that your period may not be too far away, so keep some pads and liners with you from now on just in case your period arrives when out and about.

  • hi Vicki,
    I am 12 and one of my boyfriends best friends kept on touching my bum in the lunch line today. I said stop and I turned around but he did it again, I said stop again. should I tell my boyfriend? I don't want to split up their friendship!!

    For now ignore this boy and keep what has happened to yourself, making sure you are not alone with him or in a position where he can touch you. If he still continues being so intimate let your boyfriend know and he can then sort this matter out for you by chatting to his friend.

  • Hiya vicky, I like this by and i have liked him for several months. He said he liked me a few months ago but now he is talkin to another girl. I hate her and the way she treats him, she plays him tbh and talks to other boys but he is so loyal towards her and apparently he was crying about somthing she did so i. Asked him and he was on the phone to me at 1am cryin sayin how much he hates her and now he is all over her again.. I need to get over him..

    My advice would be to stay away from both him and his girlfriend and let them sort out their problems without you being involved. If in the future they decide to split up, then you can  be there for him as a friend, but for now keep your distance.

  • My vagina smells like fish and its itchy... Im 13 and never had anything put up there not a tampon.
    I only wear pads. Whats happened?

    Vaginal  infections can occur from  time to time and it does not mean you have done anything wrong, it just happens. If the itching continues have a chat to your mum and consider washing this area twice a day or using our Lil-lets Freshen-up wipes during the day to keep the area odour free.

  • I'm 15 and I still haven't started my period! I'm worried it will never happen!

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18, so please try not to worry you have plenty of time left for your period to be here.

  • Hey
    I don't have any boobs yet and I'am 12 a really scared

    Breasts continue to develop into your late teens or even early twenties and you have no reason to be worried or  concerned, your breast will develop when your body feels the time is right for you.

  • I think my friends might not be real friends.

    Why not have a chat to them and share your concerns,  they will, I am sure let you know how they feel and alleviate any worries you have.  Let them know that you want everyone to be honest and if there are any issues you can  all work to improve them.

  • What if it happens at primary school?

    Why not read my blog entitled Back to School for all you need to know about this subject.

  • Part 2πŸ’™ it sounds terrible but I hate them, I don't ever enjoy being at home and we can never have 1 day, or go anywhere without someone acting up, or having an argument, I'm 13 but I honestly can't wait to leave home, I hate the environment and it gets me down every single day, I've tried to solve things but it doesn't help. I really need help, please answer, I really don't know what to do xxxxx

    All families have down days and my advice is to move away from focusing on these days and instead work out ways you can all have fun and bond as a family, it could be something as simple as organising a family meal and all sitting down together or watching a TV show at the same time. By doing small things like this you may just find the rows cease.

  • Part 1 πŸ’™Hi, I'm fed up of my family, I know a lot of people say that but this is different. All my mum and older sibling do is argue constantly and it's not even little arguments it goes on for hours. My brother is badly behaved and a little brat most of the time. My dad is overprotective so I'm not allowed to do anything, and I sometimes have extreme arguments with him. Most of the time I do what I'm asked and abide by he rules but I'm fed up x

    See my response in Part Two.

  • I have a problem, I'm 20 years old and my friends have suddenly started being really stupid and immature and plain mean towards my boyfriend. It all started because they took something he said on Facebook the wrong way, and now they've fallen out with him and I don't think I can face speaking to them because they've annoyed me so much over this and they caused him to cry because of it. Also he hasn't done anything to them and I don't think they are true friends, do you? What should I do?

    Have a calm chat to your friends asking if you can all meet up for a chat to sort out this misunderstanding. There is no need to break friends with them or for your boyfriend to be sad, mistakes happen and with a little bit of care and attention you can quickly get things back  on track.

  • Hello Vicki. I wear a crop top. How do I know when I need a bra, and what is an AS cup size. Thanks you , Belle

    Hi Belle, if your crop top is a little tight, then consider speaking to your mum about getting measured for your first bra. I am not sure what you mean my an AS cup I am afraid.

  • Hi Vicki
    Sorry if this is inappropriate but the skin around my bits seems to big to fit down there. I was wondering if you know what this is?

    The shape of your vulva will change as you enter puberty and your labia, the folds of skin on either side of the entrance to your vagina will appear to drop slightly this is very normal  and all part of becoming a young woman.

  • Hi Vicki
    I was just wondering if you count the days till your next period after you've finished bleeding or when you start?

    You start counting from the first day your period arrives and until the first day of your next period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My period has all of a sudden become super heavy, everything is annoying me, I have to change my pad like every hour and also I have the worst Back ache ever! My period keeps on leaking and i can't stop it, I also use your winged pads too.
    From lulu x

    Hi Lulu,  for very heavy periods consider trying our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads in the pink bag, super absorbent for even the most heaviest of periods and super soft too.

  • Hi viki
    After told me I may have a urine infection how can I treat it

    You should speak to your mum who will advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm sorry if this is innapropriate, but we were doing puberty at school and I was wondering where the clitoris is?

    Why not read my blog entitled Your Reproductive System  for all you need to know about this subject.

  • I'm 12 and all my friends have boobs But I don't have anything there AT ALL. It's really embarrassing please help!

    Breasts can continue developing into your late teens or even early twenties and my advice would be to try not to compare your progress with that of those around you, we really are all different and will develop at different times to each other.

  • I'm 14 and I want to be pregnant. Ever since I was about 6 I have always dreamt of being pregnant. When me and my best friend were 10, she came on her period. That made me upset because I knew she could get pregnant and I couldn't. I am seriously considering getting pregnant. There is a storyline on in hollyoaks at the minute about a pregnant 14 year old and it makes me jealous. Should I get pregnant?

    Lots of girls dream about the day they will one day have a child, but the reality is that it would not only unlawful for you to be sexually active under the age of 16, but also raising a child is hard work and you have such a lot going on in your life already such as puberty and school exams. So whilst it is fine to dream, remember that life is not always as rosy as it appears on TV.

  • Hi Vicki my down below is hairy and I get these har yellowish things that get stuck to my pubic hairs and I don't know what it is I think it might be dried up discharges pls help πŸ’ž

    This is discharge which can often attach itself to pubic hair. Why not consider keeping a pack of our wipes in your school or sports bag to help remove this fluid and leave you feeling clean and fresh.

  • Hi vicki,I really need advice on what to do with my friends.., an argument came about between them,It was about an unimportant situation in which one of my friends got jealous over boys or something ridiculous, anyway,Things went on as always, and we were alright, all of us being civil. But now something has happened between them again, and I feel stuck in the middle of snarky comments and glares all the time! I'm so confused of what to do, as I know they won't even be friends like I wish they could beπŸ˜’πŸ’˜

    Be impartial and try not to get involved in any conversations about the squabble, they will most likely sort themselves out this will quickly be forgotten. You may also find my blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself useful too.

  • My mum doesn't believe that I take panic attacks. I once had a really bad one in school and when I came home and told my mum, she said that I was making it up and that they call " random stuff anything these days". I really hate taking panic attacks, although I don't take them often. Is there anything I can do so my mum believes me?

    There is a big difference between a panic attack and feeling nervous and panic attacks can only be diagnosed by a medical professional. So why not have a think about what made you feel nervous and uneasy and consider how you can prevent feeling this way in the future.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I sleep for more than 8 hours but I fell really uncomfortable wearing a towel when I go to bed and I want to wear a tampon. What should I do???
    Pleas answer ASAP
    P.S. Thanks you have answered so many questions for me in the past u r a lifesaver

    If you plan to sleep for 8 hours or less a tampon is a great way to prevent leaks whilst sleeping, but if you sleep for longer you should stick to pads and you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock night time pads are ideal and very comfortable.

  • I'm 14 and still haven't had my period, I'm kind of worried and I'm so embarrassed. Everyone always talks about bad period times and stuff and I'm left out! I know people say I shouldn't want it to come but I do! Please help, why has it not come yet?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you have plenty of time for yours to arrive, so be patient learn all you can from your friends and our website and when your period does come you will know what to expect.

  • My first period went after 7. Days and it came back after 1 day why 😘

    Very often even when we feel our period has ended there is still a little bit of blood yet to be released and this can happen a day or two after. For this reason most women use pant liners for a couple of days after their period has ended just in case a little more fluid has yet to be released.

  • I am 13, mum mum started when she was around 10 I have had discharge for around a year. I do gymnastics 5 times a week and my mum said I haven't stared because of this. I dont have much boobs but I think that is sue to the gymnastics but I do have quite thick black pubic hair. Do you know when I will start ish??

    Not everyone starts their period at the same age as family members and your mum may be right in as much as your period may be slightly delayed now you are so active, but it pays to be prepared by having some pads and liners with you from now on.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was having sex with my boyfriend in my room cos my 'rents were meant to be home late but then, they came home and walked in on us. It was just at the final moment and it was so awkward. Now my 'rents wont speak to me. What should I do?
    Sorry if this is inappropriate xxx

    This really is a matter for you and your parents to work out and I am sure once they have gotten over the shock of seeing you being so intimate they will have a chat to you and share their thoughts on this matter.

  • I have non-existant sexual feelings! I am over 16.
    I never want to have sex or feel like doing anything related to it. I never get aroused and sex scenes don't turn me on and neither does anything! It's making me feel worried and a bit embarrassed/frustrated with myself.

    There is no rule book that says you have to have feelings of a sexual nature at any given time in your life, so please try not to worry about this.

  • I really like a boy, the boy I used to like became really annoying, but I really really do like this guy. It's one of his best friends, but he's different, he is funny, and kind. I think he likes me back, I'm not sure, we talk every day and he texts me almost every night, he teases me sometimes too. Does he like me? I want to tell him I like him, but I'm nervous

    It does appear as if this boy likes you, but there really is no rush to divulge your feelings, instead continue chatting and getting to know him as a friend, when he is ready he will most likely let you know himself.

  • I am 19 and have a boyfriend but don't want to have sex. He doesn't pressure me but somehow I feel as if I should want to do it. We've been together 3 years. I love him and we never have any fallouts. I am on Dianette but surely this wouldn't be the only factor, would it?
    Carianne.

    Hi Carianne, if you do not feel like being sexually active then there is no requirement for you to be so. Very often people feel if they date and are legally old enough to have sex, they should. But this is not the case at all and if you and your boyfriend are happy with things as they are then there is no need to push this matter further.

  • Hey vicki
    I am going to buy your product but don't know what to buy. How do u get the free started pack as I went to the contact at the bottom of the page like u said before but I cannot find it
    Thanks
    Mia

    Hi Mia, if you click here Contact this will take you to our form and you can enter your details on here letting me know in the message box you would like a free sample. Remember too that if you are under the age of 16 you need to let me know that your parents are happy for you to request samples.

  • Hi Vicky.
    I've been really tired for the past few days and I've been going to bed a lot earlier than usual. I have headaches, which go on and off a lot. I have stomach cramps and when I went for a warm bath I was fine and the when I got out I got cramps again? Is this my period starting? I'm 13
    Thanks for your help!

    This could be a tummy bug, so please share this news with your family who will advise your further.

  • Hi,
    What are Cramps,Period Pains

    Cramps or period pains as they are sometimes called are caused by the muscles contracting around your uterus, this can happen at any time during your teenage years as your reproductive system is growing or just before and during your period. They can last for a couple of minutes and a little gentle exercise is all that is needed to ease this discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I think that the tampon I'm using doesn't have a high enough absorbance as I need to change it every hour but I cant use the bigger tampon as I cant fit it into the hole in my vagina. Any suggestions???
    Please answer A.S.A.P as my period should start on Saturday
    Thanks, Skye

    Hi Skye, you may be right. Why not consider using our Lil-Lets teens tampons, shorter and narrower for girls or our adult range of non-applicator tampons, which are really easy to use too.

  • Hey vicki, I got my period a day late but it was lighter than usual but lasted 6 days, I have been sexually active but using contraception everytime. Is this normal? I'm really worried please help!

    Periods can vary from month to month in both the amount of fluid released and the arrival of the period itself, this is very normal during the teenage years and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi, do you know any good books/series of books for teenagers (around age 14)?

    At 14 why not consider reading some of the classics, such as Wuthering Heights. You could even check out the Book Trust who have a wide range of suitable titles to read. Here is the link. http://www.booktrust.org.uk/books/teenagers/booklists/244/

  • I feel so alone & left out, everyone has a best friend and i just have friends that have best friends, I am now in year 9 and I feel it's too late for me to have a bestfriend as everyone has got thier own. I have alot of friends but nobody wants to be my bestfriend but I don't know why, am I doing something wrong? Any advice on me getting a bestfriend, thanks x

    Some people prefer to have a group of friends rather than just one friend they are close to, so whilst I appreciate that this makes you feel sad from time to time, think of it as a good thing, you will always have a large and wide group of people to chat and hang out with, without the arguments that can often happen in close friendships.

  • Hi Vicky
    Sorry lol it's me again my head is buzzing with questions all the time !!!!!!
    In the morning I put deodorant on but it iis stopping the smell and that but
    I'm sweating loads so it's shows up on my uniform so I ending up having to wear a cardigan all day so people don't see patches,....... Wht can I do to stop this 😰😰
    Xxxxxxxxx Abi xxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Abi, my advice would be to stop using deodorant and consider switching to antiperspirant, which will leave you feeling clean, fresh and sweat free.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My friend who is a gay recently told me that she is gay. She also told me that she loved me. I feel really awkward and upset as I don't see her in that way. What can I do to help my friend?
    Thank you x

    Let your friend know that you are happy that she trusted you with such important news but that for you, friendship is all that you have to offer and that you would prefer it to stay that way.

  • Hi Vicky,
    i'm sure there's something very wrong with me
    I find myself watching sex videos and pornography i'm only thirteen and i hate myself for dong it, but i just can't seem to stop myself even though I hate myself for doing it, i just do. please help i don't know what to do.
    Thanks so much
    K

    Hi K, watching pornography can be addictive and my advice would be to put yourself in situations whereby you cannot easily access these images. So leave your electronic gadgets downstairs when possible and keep your bedroom door open, these are a couple of ways you can remove the temptation to view this type of imagery in the future.

  • Hi. I helped my teacher out the other day when she dropped her books. She said thank you so so much. Was this intended to be a little sarcastic I mean I wasn't being that helpful? Also a friend said that she had her head stuck up my butt as a way of saying that she was 'sucking up to me' I think. Would you please explain this to me. Thanks. Bubblegum

    Hi Bubblegum, I feel your teacher was not only being polite but also genuine so please don't misjudge her comments and ignore any silly remarks by friends, it is clear you and your teacher have a good relationship.

  • Hi i'm quite shy about getting measured for a bra and i don't know weather i need one but my measurments are:
    About 64cm underneath my boob
    and 74cm at the fullest part of my chest
    Do i need a bra? If so what is my size ?
    Thanks x

    30AA is your size based on these measurements and if you feel ready for a bra then there will be a bra in your size. Try M&S's Angel range for starters.

  • Hi last Sunday I went in my bathroom and they was brown splodge I had nothing overnight or Monday .on Tuesday and Wednesday I had another splodge but it was lighter it brown not red . I had this for a couple of months
    Is this my period ?
    Sometimes I don't have it at all or it just for one day and it tiny amounts nothing when in my pee . why it brown ?
    Thanks in advance

    Yes this is almost certainly your period and you should share this with your mum or the person who cares for you. And try not to worry menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour can be released slowly over a number of days.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I had my first period last month on the 16th but have still not had my next one yet. I Had a small amount of spotting a few days ago but have had nothing since. I'm going through a lot of stress with exams at the moment and wondered I that might be why I am late. Is it normal for me to have an irregular period to start with? Thankyou:)

    Even though only  a small amount of blood was lost a few days ago, this may still have been your period as your flow can vary from time to time and especially for the first few years.

  • I'm scared of using a tampon in case I put it in the wrong hole. How do I know it's in the right hole?

    You have three openings between your legs that all have a different job to do. The front opening is where your water or urine is passed, and this is much too small for a tampon to fit into.  Your back passage is where you excrete waste food, and the middle opening is your vaginal opening and of course this is the one where you insert a tampon.

  • Hi,I started wearing tampons on my last period which was last December but whenever I wore one I could feel it. I'd put it in as far as it would go. I don't want this to happen when I have another one. I'm twelve btw xx

    Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons and ensure you insert them in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine for maximum comfort. Some girls even find giving a little cough as they are about to insert relaxes the vaginal muscles and ensures correct placement.

  • Hi Vicki. I think I have plucked up enough courage to tell my mum I've had discharge but I don't know how to tell her I want teens liners. She will just ask how I know about them and I don't know how to tell her about this site. BTW I DON'T want to send her an e card

    There is nothing on this site that your mum cannot view, but if you prefer to not speak to her about the website, you could always say you have seen friends with our liners and pads in school as we do send out samples to schools on a regular basis.

  • Hi vikki,
    So my best friend has a boyfriend and so does my over friends but I don't! About 10 boys have asked my out and even when there Incredibly hot and one of my closest friends I say no?! And I don't no why so I try tell people about it and ask if there is something wrong and they say Of course not nothing is up and I will be fine but it's not really answering my question. Why do I say no?

    Some people just don't feel ready to date in their early teens and prefer to get along with people as friends and concentrate on studying instead.  There is nothing wrong with this and a growing number of people now prefer to date in their late teens or early twenties.

  • The hair all over my body is the same colour as my scalp hair but 1 (only 1) of my pubic hair is dark brown \ black its reely wierd help

    Pubic hair is not always the same colour as the rest of our body hair, so please try not to worry this is very normal.

  • What soes it mean by masturbating? (sorry if I spelt it wrong!)
    Sophie
    P.S thanks for everything! Xx

    Masturbation is both a natural and instinctive activity and as teenagers find themselves becoming sexually aware of their body and how it responds to touch it is very normal to feel curious about exploring your body in this way.

  • Look I understand this is weird and possibly not appropriate if it is im really sorry x But I keep thinking I'm pregnant but I a a virgin the reasons I think this is because by belly shape and I no it sounds stupid but I don't no how to get it out my head because really I no it's impossible but my mind is.... Messed up do I have a problem?

    Don't worry you are not the only girl who has this worry, even if they have not had a period, been sexually active or even if they have kissed a boy. Relax and tell yourself that this is just your imagination running wild and nothing for you to be worried about.

  • what would happen if you put a tampon in and you didn't have your period

    The tampon would be dry and difficult to remove and may cause a slight tear to the vaginal walls.

  • Hiya Vicki
    I had my first period on 28th January 2015 and it lasted 8 days I got bad cramps and hack ache through put my period it was really heavy all the 8 days
    ~
    Now(26th feb) I've had bad cramps all week and vagina pain some back pains aswell and a head ache all week
    ~ do you think I will come back on my period again soon
    My mum said that I might come back on again soon
    ~is she right ?

    Thank you
    I'm 13 (by the way)
    Xx

    Very often girls and women experience a little back and lower tummy ache a week before their period so ensure you have some pads and liners with you from now on, just in case you are one of these people.

  • Vicki xo
    I was in school today and felt sick with cramps then I went into town with friends then came home to find brown stuff in myπŸ‘™underwear and I have not had this happen to me before (I am nearly 13) I am at my dads now and feel like I need help from someone like you, is this my period?

    Yes this is most likely your period and you may want to call your mum and ask her to have a chat to your dad who will pop out and pick you up some supplies and don't worry dads do understand about periods.

  • I have been friends with a boy for a good while now and then I really like him (I heard he likes me back) then I asked him out. He said "look I really like you and I would ask you out but you know how we are good friends I feel like I can tell you this, you know your quite flat chested and I really don't want to be embarrassed in front of my friends sorry" we never spoke again.I am 15 and still a 32A and after this I feel so so insecure, Do boys really want big boobs is that what I need to get a boyfriend?

    What a truly awful comment for someone to say and how very sad that he feels he needs to look good in front of his friends by dating someone who looks a certain way. Let me reassure you that not all boys are infatuated with breasts and there are a great many people that understand it is not how someone looks that is important but how they are inside.  Finally, breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes all of which are beautiful and I can assure you the more petite busted women like Keira Knightly, Kylie Minogue and Jesse J have no problems finding Mr Right, so please don't let this boy get you down or make you consider changing who you are and how you look.

  • Hi vicki
    I am ten and im not on my period yet but I have had discharge for over a year now. I want to buy some tampons but my mum said tampons
    are cotton devils and I will find them difficult. I have already put one in before and it didn't hurt
    how can I buy some without being embarrassed
    and without my mum finding out
    thanks mimi lou lou

    You really should not use tampons if your mum would prefer you to use pads and please don't be tempted to insert a tampon if you are not on your periods as the tampon would be very dry and uncomfortable on removal.

  • How do I ask my mom for tampons.
    I'm 12 (13 in september) and have had been going with pads for about 4 months and would like to try tampons but I'm nervous about asking my mom for them. How do I do it?

    Alice xx

    Hi Alice, why not ask your mum if you can request one of  our free sample packs that contains two tampons, you can then show these shorter and narrower tampons to her and ask if she would be happy for you to use internal sanitary protection in the future. Simply click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page to complete the form for a free sample.


  • however now i cant help wondering if she's lying.
    and, in the nicest way possible, she herself has admitted she has lied loads.
    SOrry i wrote an essay to you but i really needed a second opionion.
    part 5

    We all mourn the loss of a loved one differently and it may be that your friend has moments when she reminisces about her Nan’s passing which leaves her sad. My advice would be try and move away from the topic of death and advise your friend that it is often good to chat to family members if they feel a little sad. You may both find my blog entitled Dealing With The Loss Of A Loved One useful too.


  • HOWEVER today they - including my friend - tried to annoy me and were saying stuff like 'Oh remeber (my name) its a shame she died" and I laughed at the joke but it made me think: well she was acting like death is nothing at all.
    not only this, but when she gets sad because of her gran it reminds me of my gran's death and upsets me. part 4


  • For example, me and my other friend were mummifying a water bottle - dont ask XD - and then i noticed my friend looked sad. i asked her what was wrong and she said
    "Your just acting like death is nothing at all!"
    whch was a bit dramatic as it was only a game but we still felt sorry for her. so we apologiesed and stopped.
    stuff like this has happened a lot recently and when she gets like this it upsets me, concerns me and irritates me.
    part 3

  • She said she was offcially diagnosed as depressed a few weeks ago but then two weeks later told me she was cured. She has been really happy - honestly not faking it im her closest friend and i know when she fakes happiness -recently except when the topic of death comes up even very very slightly. part 2

  • Hi Vicki
    My gran died late last year and i havent complained about it to anyone except once to my mum when we found out she was dead.
    I'm one of those suffer in silence types and if i get really sad I'll just talk to my mum and dad. im quite a happy person.
    However, lately my friend has been particularly upset about her gran's death two years or so ago. part 1

    See my response in your final question.

  • Is it bad to put a tampon in if ur not on your period
    thanks
    Moomoo

    Hi Moomoo, you should never wear a tampon when not on your period as there will be no menstrual fluid for it to absorb, leaving it dry and uncomfortable on removal, which could tear slightly the lining of your vagina.

  • Hi vicki my name is ashleigh I think my period will start really soon I was wondering if you have eany ideas how I can hide my mads I'm still in primary school I'm 11 now year 6 bye viki love your products their amazing xx ps at the moment I use your panti-liners. Bye xπŸ˜œπŸ˜‹

    Why not ask your mum to pick up our Lil-Lets teens starter pack, ideal for keeping your pads and liners discreetly in your school bag.

  • Hi vicki I'm called ash what do you think I should do I've already bought period supplies and my moms now buying me some is there eany thing it can do without telling her? πŸ˜‹πŸ˜œ. Also love your pads xxx ash.

    Hi Ash, you can never have too many pads so accept your mum's gift and add them to your current supply.


  • Theres a boy in my school i like but i dont know how to be friends or bf.im not sure if he likes me because we kept on looking at each other at P.E ,i stood close to him also at lunch he was lining up very close to me and myfriend i try to get close to him before math lesson and i found out that he was coming to myset and i was happy he sat behind me and we look at each other once in a while btw it was his first day and was friends with boys i don’t really like and his form class is close to mine

    Be patients and get to know this boy as a friend, there really is not rush to move things to quickly so take your time and find out what he likes and dislikes by asking him how his weekend was, what his favourite movie or song is.

  • I got glasses last summer and I love the look of them but they have a really low prescription so people keep telling me and saying behind my back that I'm sad because I wear fake glasses when they're not fake at all! I'm supposed to wear them at school and when I'm watching tv or on my phone but I don't feel comfortable at school because of what people say. I stopped wearing them in October and I feel that if I start wearing them people will start talking about my glasses again! What should I do?

    It really does not matter what anyone else says you have been given prescription glasses for a reason and if you do not wear them when directed you will be placing your eyes under unnecessary strain, so please ignore people and their silly comments.

  • When I'm on my period and I go for a poo there is always blood when I wipe is this normal??

    If you notice blood after every release of waste food you may be constipated and as such require more fibre in your diet, such as cereals, fruit and vegetables, so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Ho, I wear a crop top But when do I know that I need a bra? Thanks.

    If your crop top feels tight and your breasts are an AA cup then it may be time to consider wearing a bra and having a chat with your mum about this.

  • Hey, me and my mum are really close but we don't really talk about puberty... I wear crop tops but I think I need a bra but I don't know how to ask. If I do ask then she will want to see my boobs! What do I do? Thanks, cat.

    Hi Cat, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this will quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready and I am sure your mum will be able to see the shape of your breasts over your clothes without you having to show her your breasts uncovered.

  • Hi viki I have been have discharge for quite a few days I. A row now is my period coming ?

    Discharge can be noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period so it may now be a good idea to keep some pads and liners with you in your school bag.

  • DOES EVERY GIRL EXPERIENCE BROWN DISCHARGE?

    Not everyone experiences discharge which can be clear or creamy yellow in colour. If you notice brown or red fluid in your underwear this is most likely your period and not discharge at all.

  • DOES EVERY GIRL GET STOMACH CRAMPS BEFORE THEIR FIRST PERIOD?

    No, not at all, in fact some people never experience tummy cramps ever during their menstrual life.

  • is feeling awful and when you think about everything you sigh with anger and annoyingness part of puberty?

    Yes very much so, fluctuating hormones can leave you feeling angry, frustrated, sad or moody, so it pays to be nice to yourself when you feel like this, understanding this is not a permanent way of feeling and always chat over your feelings with family and friends.

  • Is epilating painful because I want to use one because I get red dots on my legs after shaving???

    I believe there can be a little pain when using this method of hair removal, however if you use plenty of shaving gel or foam when shaving no small red dots should be noticed afterwards.

  • is everyones pubic hair brown?

    No, not at all, in fact pubic hair is body hair and generally mimics the colour of the hair on your legs or arms.

  • is it normal that discharge looks different on different materials of pants- cotton e.t.c

    If discharge is clear and runny it will make the colour of your underwear look a little darker, if it is creamy it will leave almost a ting of yellow or light green to your underwear and this is very normal.

  • is light hairs that fade when in the bath and sometimes stick up when damp- pubic hair?

    Yes it can be the start of pubic hair.

  • hiya Vicki, is nausea a sign that your period is on its way

    Not generally, so if you feel unwell please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicki!
    So recently my boobs have been really like tender and slightly sore if you know what I mean I am 15 and I have started my period a good while back and I'm scared in case it is a sign of breats cancer or something other 😭 but is it just my boobs growing or should I be worried about it?
    And also is it normal for your nipples to get softer and harder and points? Sorry for the awkward question I am just really nervous
    Becca x

    This is almost certainly the pain noticed during breast development and nothing to be worried about at this time and nipples are very sensitive to temperature and touch and this may be the reason you notice the change from time to time.

  • How to tell your mum you got your period, and the dangers of TSS?

    I got my period 6 months ago, and told my mum straight away, but she has totally forgotten, I am now freaking about how to tell her. Also, I'm freaking because I've started swimming club but am scared about TSS, could I know a bit about it please.

    Why not have another chat to your mum letting her know you need supplies to manage your period and that you now feel ready to consider using tampons, I am sure she will be more than happy to take you shopping for supplies. As for Toxic Shock Syndrome, this is a very rare illness that can occur and it is always a good idea to read up and understand what this may mean for you. If you read the instruction leaflet enclosed within every pack of tampons then your chances of contracting this illness are very slim indeed and you may also find our section on TSS on our main website useful too. Finally, remember that many millions of women use tampons every day and enjoy the benefits they offer.

  • so i showered this morning and now its 5.30pm and my vagina smells of poo. btw i am on my period

    During the day our bodies sweat and we release urine and 'poo', which if not wiped away thoroughly can leave an unpleasant odour. Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets Freshen-up wipes during the day to keep  you extra fresh and clean.

  • I live with my dad and my.mum died a few years ago I'm 14 ,what's the easiest way to get supplies without him asking questions and it getting Awkward?

    Why not ask if you can have a monthly allowance for toiletries that you can go and purchase yourself, believe it or not dads do understand about periods. If this is not something you are comfortable to do, have a chat to your gran or an aunty and ask if they can have a chat to him on your behalf.

  • is it normal to not have a period every month?

    During your teenage years, yes this is very normal and these gaps are your body's way of working  out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi
    I have already started my period but I have never had any discharge before. Is that Normal.

    Yes this is fine and very normal, not all girls experience discharge so please try not to worry, we really are all different.

  • hey Vicki, mothers day is coming up and i have seen from other questions that you have a daughter or daughters? i want to get my mum something but im not sure what, so i wanted to ask what you would want from your daughters for mothers day. thanks for all the help in the past

    A card and flowers are my big treat from my children, they know which ones I love and it always puts a smile on my face.

  • Hi Vicky,

    I'm REALLY worried, I've had discharge before and its usually White and stringy but all of a sudden its been brown and gooey, I haven't started my period yet and I'm 13.

    Many thanks,
    Makenzi x

    Hi Makenzi, brown fluid may be a sign that your first period has arrived, as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Hiya Vicki
    My Little Sister A is seven and really boystrous. When I'm alone in my room she comes in and I tell her to leave me alone. But she starts hitting me in the boob and vagina and scratching and mocking me. When I tell my parents they stick up for her saying she's only seven.
    How can I get this to stop and will being hit in the boob or vagina stop my period or breast development
    Thanks for your amazing help in my previous questions
    Mia xx
    P.s I'm twelve

    These little fights will not impact on your development and my advice would be to stand up and let your sister know you no longer want to play with her and leave the room. She will soon understand that her behaviour is pushing you away and stop.

  • I'm embarrassed to buy condoms over the counter I can't use internet shopping how can I get them?? X

    Condoms can be collected from most Brook, Family Planning clinics or Surgeries around the country.

  • I am 13 mid-puberty and I have extreme chronic migraines I have a headache 24/7 it never goes away I have been to the doctor they gave me medication bit it didn't work, is this to do with puberty ?? X

    If you have already sought medical advice with regard to this matter you should now go back and visit your GP letting them know the medication is not proving successful and they will offer you further treatment.

  • I am 13 years old and I get a whitish discharge in my pantsfor a few moths now I alsohave recently been getting stomach cramps, am i near to starting my period my mum didn't start until she was 16? X

    Discharge is always a great sign that your period may not be too far away and remember too that we do not all follow the same pattern a family members for the arrival of our periods.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I had a fall out with one of my 'friends' and we haven't spoke in weeks. My other friend is stuck in the middle and is friends with both of us. The one who I fell out with, let's call her K, has been badmouthing me to my other friend and stopped my friend from inviting me to her bday party. My friend just keeps on talking to her but how do I get her to know that K is trouble!

    Why not ask K if you can get together and have a chat all three of you, letting her know that you feel there is room for all three of you to be friends without any badmouthing or unfriendly chats. She may just be waiting for you to speak to her and be happy you can sort it out.

  • My friends are all getting boyfriends and having relationships , but no boys have ever told me that they like me and they have never asked me out on a date . I am too shy to go up to the boys I like and tell them that I like them , and most of the time the ones I like always are the ones who are taken .
    Am I weird ?
    Or ugly :( ? It just sometimes makes me feel sad and left out .
    I have got male friends , but I only see them as friends and nothing more .
    What should I do ? :)

    Xxxx

    You may find it difficult to believe, but lots of people now wait until their late teens or early twenties before they decide to date, so please don't feel you have to date just because others around you are there will be plenty of time for you to find the right person.

  • Hey Vicki,
    So this may be inappropriate and I'm sorry if it is...
    But I do not know how to shave pubic hair, (vagina hair)
    I have my period, I have big boobs, and hair, but I don't know how to shave it.
    Please help me x
    Elly

    Hi Elly, firstly I wonder what makes you think you need to remove this hair, after all it is a sign you are becoming a young woman and very normal. Very often girls now feel that this hair is unnatural and as such ugly or wrong, this is not the case and you may prefer to simply trim it back if it becomes too long, other than that I see no reason to remove it.

  • I last had my period on 10 january. Thought i was coming on the 16 feb but it was only a bit over 2-3 days and it wasdarl brown and hvent come on my period since. What could this be?

    Even small releases of blood can still be your period and very often menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red.

  • All of my friends have quite large boobs and I'm really flat chested an I feel kind of insecure, I wear a bra but I can't figure out what size I am? I know you use a measuring tape. I wear a 30aa but I think it might be too big? When I'm standing it's fine but when I'm lying down it goes flat and moves up my chest and it's sore! - I'm 13
    Also, I've been having sore heads and pains in my stomach (I'm also really tired a lot) a few months I had a little dot of red in my pants but nothing's happened! Help?

    All of these things you are noticing, such as headaches, stomach cramps, feeling tired are signs of puberty and even though you feel your breasts are not yet developing they will be sure to continue to grow as you get older so please try not to worry, puberty can continue into your late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi,
    I 13 and self conscious
    I'm really tall, I'm taller then my mum and older sister.
    I'm 168cm
    I got period long ago.
    I weigh 45kg I'm really skinny,
    I'm too big for kids sizes (height) but I'm to small for ladies (breast)
    My mum says I will grow out of it but I have been like this for the past 4 years.
    I can't even fit an 8-10 crop top. My breast size is 78cm bust 69 under
    Because I'm so skinny and breastless I look like a 10 year old boy with long hair wearing a sack.
    Help
    Sarah

    Hi Sarah, listen to your mum's advice at the age of 13 there is still quite a bit of development to come and we continue to develop into our late teens or early twenties so please try not to worry.

  • I Vicki I was wondering if you were ever going to sell your products in Australia and New Zealand? Thanks x

    There are no plans to do so in the near future, but you can order our products online via our store.

  • Hi Vicki, U really like this guy I have liked him for over a year and when ever we see each other we make eye contact then he looks away, he has a girlfriend now, and they seem very happy together but it makes me wish I was her. Thanks for your time x

    It is always hard when we like someone but they are otherwise involved with someone else and I would urge you to spend as much time away from this boy as you can, keeping busy with friends and family. If in the future he decides to no longer date this girl then yes you may want to pursue him, but for now I would advise against any loving glances between you both that can only leave you feeling more unhappy that you do not date.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 13 and rather curvy. I lost some weight but being curvy makes me still look fat! I am worried that no guy will ever like me for this reason. All my friends are very slim and not curvy! Please help x

    We all come in a variety of shapes and sizes and it would be wrong to think that people are only attracted to athletic shapes, when in reality we are all attracted to different things and there will I can assure you be someone who will find your particular shape very attractive, but more importantly love you for who you are as a person.

  • Hi Vicki,
    2 months before Christmas last year I had dark brown discharge for 2 months in a row and i haven't had it since then but this afternoon I found some. I'm a bit worried that it stopped for the months in between, should I be? Is it my period? is it just a warning indicating that it's coming soon? Or is it an infection? I'm so worried.
    Thanks xox

    This is almost certainly your period and there are often wide gaps between each one of several months and this is nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hi vicki,
    when i am on my period i use pads but recently i felt like i was ready to use a tampon. I search up how to insert a tampon like how to stand, to relax how to put it in etc. but when i tried to insert it it hurt and it felt like something was blocking it. is there something wrong with me??

    This resistance you may be noticing could be your hymen; a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina and which stretches during puberty. It does not mean that you will never be able to insert a tampon but rather that you may want to wait few months before trying again.

  • But, I read my my mums texts to a friend and she had cancelled the evening out with partners because of home issues. The friend text back and said is it u and my dad and she said yep. I keep asking mum if dad and her had made up
    and she doesn't reply.
    I'm in urgent help as I am scared they R gonna get a divorce

    The truth is couples argue from time to time, but this does not mean they are going to divorce and I am sure your parents are working through any problems they have and will always have your best interest at heart.


  • The other day my parents had an argument (small) and then my dad stayed away got 2 nights but to do with work. I thought getting some space would help but he has come back and u can feel the tension. I went to bed and mum said oh I need to wash your tights for school be up in 30. But then i could hear my mum and dad talking really loud. This morning I asked her and she said oh it probably sounds loud as u r upstairs. part 1

    See my response on Part Two.

  • hi vicki i am 13 years old i haven't developed breast yet is it normal ?

    Yes this is very normal and very often breasts continue to develop into a girls late teens or even early twenties. So please try not to worry.

  • So I am thirteen and started my period four months ago and I am like super afraid to even try to insert a tampon... is this normal... like at all???

    It is normal to be anxious about anything new that we try and please don't feel you have to move to tampons if you prefer pads, a great many women only ever use pads throughout their menstrual life.

  • Is my bladder really weak?? I just wet myself all the time. Sometimes its really hard to hide. What to do.

    Lots of females have a little bit of urine leakage when they laugh, cough, sneeze or are active, but if you feel that this may be more than a little bit or leakage please chat to your parents who may pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • I have bn having breast and backpains for about a month I had sex on the 26th of jane came on my period on the 3rd and it ended on the 7th two days heavy(not heavyat all) and two days very light when its usually last almost 2 weeks 5 days after that I woke up to pee and wiped and there was one spot of blood ever since then I've bn stressing over whats going on with my bodycan u please help me out?? ?

    Periods can often vary in the amount of blood released and when this fluid is released too, so I would not worry too much this is all very normal.

  • I'm 12 and have been having heavy discharge since i started puberty around 4-5th grade. I've had my period for while and discharge still happens. It's really annoying though! Is this normal and will it ever stop?

    Discharge often continues in between periods and can do so into your twenties, for some even longer so please try not to worry this is very normal.

  • Hey vicki

    Lags night some brown stuff came from my vagina. But now it's coming very few. So what's this? Not: I haven't got my first period yet. I'm 12 years.

    This could still be your period even though only a small amount of fluid is being released.

  • Last night some brown stuff came from my vagina. When i woke up today it was there a litte bit. I haven't got my first period yet. Is this my first period?

    Yes this could be your first period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Dear, Vicki I want to use my moms make-up just to practice not to wear to school or anything should I use it then tell her or ask her before or what? P.S. I'm 10 years old and I'm getting a bra soon because I took your addvice thank.

    I think it would be a good idea to ask first and maybe even pick up some tips on how to apply from your mum too.

  • Hi Vicki! I have had white discharge since April of last year and two days ago, it has turned brown with no odor? What is happening? How long does it last? What is it?

    This is most likely your first period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. Have a chat to your mum and share this news with her and she will advise you further.

  • Hey vicki, I wear the teen liners but sometimes they roll up and it is really uncomfortable, I stick them down properly but it still happens. Also wen do u need to change your liner. Thanks for the help x

    It may be that now you are older you need to switch to an adult liner as for changing; some people are happy to wear just one liner a day, while others change two or three times a day, it really is a personal choice.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Me and my boyfriend had sex last week and then broke up a couple days later. My friends noticed I was fainting a lot so they took me to the hospital and it turnes out I'm pregnant. I'm only 15! But I am gonna be 16 on Saturday. I have no idea how to tell my ex that I'm pregs.... Any advice?
    Sorry if this is inappropriate.
    Love Carlyβ™₯β™‘β™₯

    Hi Carly, it is quite early to be diagnosed as pregnant if less than a week has passed, but if you have confirmed results the you really do need to speak to your parents and this boy of your status. They can then decide how to help you manage this situation going forward. Yes your parents may be a little angry or upset initially but they will definitely want to ensure you get the best possible health advice once they have taken this news in.

  • Can I use normal pads as night towels

    Yes of course, although as you move about in your sleep you may experience a little leakage onto nightwear or bed sheets.

  • Hi vicky ,

    When I went to the toilet I wiped
    Myself and I found teeny little dots
    Of red is this my first period ive been getting
    Discharge for about 2 years now and i donk know if it is my
    Period or not ?
    Ps:I had 1 week cramp

    This could be your first period and my advice would be to continue to wear a pad or liner for the next day or two to keep your underwear protected.

  • Hey Vicki
    Under my bust is 77cm and around the fullest part of my bust is 82cm. What size am I? And is this an ordinary size for an 11 yr old? Thnx. Cherry.

    34AA is your size Cherry based on these measurements and there really is no average size for breasts to be at any age, they come in a variety of sizes at any age.

  • Thank you xxx

    Your welcome.

  • Hi I want my period to come sooner I'm sick of waiting I have hair down there, a tiny bit of armpit hair, discharge and have been getting cramps and headaches in the last couple of days (which are horrible) btw I'm 11 nearly 12

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please be patient and ensure that now you have noticed so many signs of puberty you have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki over the past few days I have all of the symptoms of a yeast infection but I'm 14 and don't feel cpmfortable talking to my doctor or Mum about this. I read on the Internet that period blood restores the natural PH in the vagina and gets rid of yeast nfections , is this true because I'm due on my period in a couple of days so do you think the infection will go? Thankyou Emily cxx

    Hi Emily, if you feel you have a yeast infection and do not want to share this with your mum or GP, you could purchase over the counter treatments often in the aisle in supermarkets too. Alternatively you may want to visit your local Brook or Family Planning Clinic who will advise you further. Finally, there is no medical proof that would show that menstruation can reduce or treat vaginal infections.

  • Hi vicki,
    I am 85 cm on top
    69 cm underneath
    And wear a 32b
    Is this correct? Xxx

    32B is your size based on these measurements.

  • There is this boy I really like and I think he likes me back but there are a ton of girls who are all over him and when ever I a girl says that she likes him he just blushes and never brings up again and then there is this one girl who is really really obsessed with him but she is annoying him by poking him with pencils, hugging him, and poking his nipples?? I don't even know but I need help fast because 3 girls THIS MONTH said that they like him

    It really does not matter how many girls like this boy, what really matters is who he likes, so be yourself around him and act as a friend and you may just find that he prefers your company to that of those around him, who appear to be giving him too much attention that may be annoying.

  • Hey Vicki!
    I said I didn't understand your bra guide and you said for me to send my measurements so I am 67cm under bust and 73cm around the bust what is my bra size? (I usually fit 30aa but I wanted to check).
    Thanks so much! X

    30AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi vicki, so i think i like this boy in my year but i keep confusing myself. I go to school and will act flirty and funny with him but i go home feeling like an idiot and totally regret it. I keep telling myself NOT to like him because he isn't very nice to my friends and likes a lot of gifls but the next day i forget what i told myself. I have been keeping my distance and he was flirting with another girl and i got jelous kind of. Will these feeling last? I don't know what i should do:(

    If  this boy is a flirt and not making any attempt to speak to you when keeping your distance then he may not be the boy for you and you may find spending time with friends is more useful and in time you will forget about him and find someone who treats you as well as you treat them.

  • hi vicki ,
    so theres this who calls me a spa*ti*al and is mean what should I do

    Ignore them would be my advice.

  • (((Part 2)))and I just feel so sad and some of the things she says doesn't help and she just doesn't understand me I don't really talk to anyone about anything. .. I can't talk to them because that idea terrifies me ... I have been getting headaches for no reason too?? Please helpπŸ˜”

    Of course there has been a change to the way you feel and your moods, this is only natural as you enter your teenage years, with girls often retreating to their room for hours on end and not conversing with family members. You may find my blog entitled Puberty and Hormones useful and our section on Emotions too. Remember that whilst these feelings are very normal there should be an effort on your part to join in, even if this is something as simple as watching a TV show together or volunteering to go shopping with your mum from time to time. And whilst I am not saying you have to chat everything over with your mum, letting her know when you feel a little low and the reasons why are always a good idea and will ensure you keep a good relationship going.

  • Hi (((part 1)))
    I have been feeling really negative and just bad about things... My mum is saying that Ive changed and that Im always in my room or with my earphones in and acting weird and whatever.. She says that Im acting like my dad (which to the rest of my family is a bad thing by the way)

    See my  response in Part Two.

  • Hi vicky
    Im 13 and started my period on the 2nd September and not had one since and im starting to worry I have had a lot of discharge which is clear and gooey.I dont know what to do I hope you can help
    Thanks xxx

    Periods can often have long gaps between each one and this is nothing to be worried about, I am sure a second period will arrive sometime this year.

  • Hi Vicki!

    I have had some problems at home (my family are strong and love each other but some are ill). I have been feeling lots of stress and anxiety lately and a couple of weeks ago had a panic attack. Honestly I don't think it was serious but I'd like to know some activities that are great for stress relief. Recently I've also really wanted to start a blog but I'm not sure how you start one! Please reply!

    Skyler xx (thanks!)

    Hi Skyler, chatting things over with family, friends and teachers is a great way to relieve stress as the issues you are worrying about can often be discussed and understood better when talked about openly. And as strange as it may sound, exercise is a great stress buster too.

  • hey Vicki, i know this is not about periods but i have looked all over the internet and i just thought i would ask you because you have helped me a lot in the past. i have to choose my gsces really soon and i have to choose between geography or history. i love them both so much as i love the humanity subjects but i cant decide. the teachers both want me to do theirs as i am a strong student in humanities. my parents don't mind and i just don't know how to decide. i think i will regret the one i don't do.

    I do empathise with you as I had a similar issue when in school and chose History. You could always choose to do one of these subjects later on in your education and it may be time to sit down and see which one you like the best and go with that choice, accepting that your love for the other subject is not as strong and can be picked up later in a year or two.

  • Hiya viki I have a boyfriend but everyone at my school is like have u hugged yet should I hug him or wait for him to hug me or should I ask why hasn't he hugged me yet thnx Lucy xx

    Hi Lucy, you should ignore your friends comments and consider letting things happen naturally with your boyfriend without putting any pressure on either of you.

  • So im really close with this boy hes just a friend we hug when we see eachother but i like him more than a friend and he knows that but i dont think he likes me back i mean he hugs me and that what should i do? Im 14 and so is he πŸ’―πŸ™ŠπŸ˜’πŸ™ŠπŸ˜πŸ™ŠπŸ˜πŸ˜˜πŸ‘ŒπŸ˜˜πŸ’πŸ’―πŸ‘’πŸ‘ŠβœŒοΈπŸ˜πŸ‘πŸ˜πŸ‘πŸ’”πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ‘’πŸ‘ŠπŸ˜’πŸ™ŠπŸ‘Š

    Boys often mature later than girls and do not consider dating or relationships important, so why not continue being friends and see what the future brings, there really is no rush to date.

  • Hey Vicki, it's Caitlin again! I have tried to avoid shaving because I heard that it makes it grow back quicker but it has got to a point where everywhere it is growing so for my hygiene I kinda need to. I have tried it once already but I always end up missing patches on my legs and it's quite itchy or sore on my armpits. Have any ideas or suggestions I could use? Would be much apprieciated, thanks!

    Pubic hair is not unhygienic and there should be no need to remove it. However if you prefer to keep it neat you may want to trim it back a little instead of shaving.

  • hiya, I have 28AA bra, I have no underarm hair, I have slightnausea and stomach cramps and really sore headaches. I have had discharge since September 2014 and have light hair around my vagina . is this pubic hair ? when will I get my period? I am 11 by the way xx thanks Vicki!! love Emma - oh and I tried a tampon last month- oops - I don't have my period- what will happen to me !!

    Hi Emma, it is never a good idea to use a tampon if your period is not yet here as the tampon will be very dry on removal and could tear the vaginal passage. In answer to your other questions, yes this hair around your vagina is pubic hair and this along with discharge is a great sign that your period may not be too far way, so why not ensure you keep some pads or liners with you from now on in your school bag.

  • hey Vicki I was shopping for bras online and I came aaa bras? whats bigger aaa,aa or a

    An A cup is bigger than the other sizes you have listed.

  • Dear Vicki
    I got my first period and it lasted 5 hours! I know periods can be short, but this short?

    Periods can be short, especially first ones, but as menstrual fluid is often released over a period of time I would advise you to continue wearing a pad or liner for the next few days.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 14 and when i have measured for a bra size i get 40D but bras never seem to fit the shape of my breasts properly, the band size is fine but the cup is to shallow and wide. I don't know whether i need a different style of bra (i normally wear a non underwired, lightly padded tshirt bra). What is the problem and how can i fix it?

    It may be a good idea to visit a store such as Bravissimo or M&S and ask the assistant for some help finding the right size just for you.

  • Hello, for 2 weeks I have had a heavy discharge every day. And today I wore I pad cos it had turned red. But when I went to the loo at lunch it was completely red. Is this my period or not i had to change my pad twice and each time they were realy red xx

    Yes this is your period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you letting them know that your period has arrived.

  • Hi Vicki
    Me demi again
    I'm the.person who was saying about how my mum was depressed and my dad was upset and nasty.
    I like your option onlying if I could get a teacher who cares. And she is the teacher who hates everyone
    No body knows if there is a heart of her so I am really stuck
    :(

    Of course your teacher has a heart and whilst she may appear professional when in class she will want to help you with any problems you may have. Alternatively consider speaking to the school nurse or secretary.

  • Hi viki instead of asking my mum about haveing a padded bra I was wondering if I could drop a few hints do u know any I could hint to her that I need a bra also wat other ways are there to measure yourself. Xx
    Thnx, Erin πŸ’•πŸ’•

    Hi Erin, why not ask your mum how old she was before she got her first padded bra and she may then ask you if you now feel ready for one. It really is a good idea to visit the store and ask the assistant for advice regarding your current breast size.

  • Hi
    I was due on my period Monday and have been having these real bad cramps but im not coming on and its nearly Thursday ?

    Periods can often be irregular from time to time with long and short gaps noticed between each one. Remember too that the menstrual cycle can vary from between 21-34 days.

  • Hi Vicki. My breasts are very painful 24/7 do you know of any way of easing the pain. Thank you Emma x ❀️

    HI Emma, as they continue to develop this pain will ease naturally, until then consider wearing a good supporting bra and massaging the breasts from time to time very gently.

  • can you still have sex without starting your period? I'll use protection x

    If you are legally old enough to be sexually active yes you can have sexual intercourse before the arrival of your period. Understanding however that there will always be a slim chance you could become pregnant if you have not used contraception.

  • Vikki. My breast are showing straight through my bra. It is not a cupped one only material.and my breasts are getting too big for it and I think I need a cupped bra with a bit of padding. How do I ask my mum for a cupped padded bra? Get back to me ASAP please.thanks. Alicia xx

    Hi Alicia, why not share your feelings with your mum as you have with me, letting her know that your current bra does not leave you feeling protected and your breasts are showing through your outer clothes, she will be sure to purchase a different style of bra for you once she knows this news, I am sure.

  • Hi vicki,
    I looked at the lil-lets bra chart, I measured myself but couldn't get an accurate bra size. What bra size am I?
    Under bust- 75 cm
    bust-78 cm
    Thank you,
    Pippa xx

    34AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Vicki sorry but my code was not there so I will have to ask u the same question xxxxx
    How do I ask a member of family that I need panty liners? Xx
    Btw I think ur great πŸ˜œπŸ˜œπŸ˜œπŸ˜…πŸ˜πŸ˜

    Why not ask if you can request a free sample from me by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page, there will be a pouch of liners in the free sample and you can then easily let them know if you like the liners asking them to pick you up some more next time they go shopping.

  • Hi Vicki, one of my best friends recently got asked by one of my other best friends BROTHERto take a topless picture and send it to him and she did but it didn't have her head in it just her boobs. What should I do as I am the only other person who knows and she knows she has done wrong but she is worried that it will ruin the other friendship?? please help me an my stupid friend ( she is stupid because she took the picture)

    Your friend made a mistake and we all do this and hopefully learn from them. She should try and move on from this episode and forget what has happened, if the boy in question starts to threaten or blackmail her with these images she can let him know that it is actually against the law for images to be passed from one person to another if the person in the picture is under the age of 18 and the police take these matters very seriously.

  • Hi vicki
    Btw i think your amazing
    I was just wondering how would I ask my mum/ step mum / dad /sis people
    Like that that I need some panty liners I'm really nervous xxxx
    Abi xx

    Hi Abi, why not ask if you can request a free sample of our products from me and there will be a liner pouch included in the pack. If you find them suitable you can then show the pack to your family and ask them to pick you up some more supplies. To request a free sample simply click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page.

  • Dear Vicki,
    My mum is always telling me that when I get older I should check my breasts for any lumps, I'm 15 and I have heard of girls a little older than myself unfortunately getting cancer. I don't know what to look for or where to check, would you be able to give me an idea as I think it would be useful for others to know, not just myself. Thank you, Cate xx

    Hi Cate, while breasts are growing, lumps may develop and these are nearly always because of normal changes in the breast tissue. Very occasionally lumps are a sign of something more serious and if you have any concerns you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and them may decide to pop you along to your GP. Although it’s very unlikely that there’s anything wrong, the doctor will be able to check it out and should put your mind at rest. You can even ask to see a female doctor.

  • Ever since I made up with one of my old friends, one of my other friends has been horrible to me and everyone I know. She called me a slut,bitch and told everyone not to talk to me, she also told me my boyfriend doesn't like me I know darn well it's to do with me becoming friends with the other girl again, she seems to have a comeback for whatever I say. What should I do? I appreciate this will be difficult to answer

    My advice would be to let this girl know that she has nothing to fear with regard to your relationship with your other friend and if this does not work, ignore her comments letting her know they are childish and unnecessary.

  • I know this isn't really to do with periods but do you know how to get permanent remover off of a locker at school? My friends wrote my own name on my locker loads of times a couple months ago with a permanent pen and I'm scared I'll get in trouble.. If you could help me that would be great thanks

    From chicken lover

    You may find that using an oil based stain remover will help or even nail varnish remover may help. Failing that have a chat to your school secretary and let them know this has happened and ask if the caretaker has anything you can borrow to remove these marks.

  • Hi Vicky I had my first period on the 14th of November and it's now the 25th of February and I haven't had my second one yet ,I'm becoming really worried that it's never going to come back please help am I ill is there something wrong ???!xxx

    This is very common and nothing for you to be worried or anxious about. Very often periods have a long gap between each one for the first few years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    How would you know if a bra is too small or too big for you? Also I really want to start using tampons but I'm two scared any tips?
    Thank you! Love candy x

    Hi Candy, why not read my blog entitled Does Your Bra Fit Properly for some guidelines on this subject and you may also find my blog on When Is the Right Time To Switch to Tampons useful too.

  • hi Vicki,
    I thought I started my period in December just before xmas but I did not have it this month or last month is there something wrong with me?

    Not at all...periods are often irregular for the first few years with long gaps of several months often experienced, so please try not to worry and keep some pads or liners with you when out and about in future just in case your period arrives unexpectedly.

  • I've been getting discharge for around 4-6 months now but after I do sports when I get sweaty, down there smells and makes an odour its gross but I'm worries will notice and also I use antiperspirant deodorant and i don't think it does anything coz I still get BO but do u have any reconmendations for the smell down there should I wear liners with a scent or something or shal I buy down thing? Xxx πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

    Liners and wipes would be a great idea to keep in your sports bag and if possible consider showering after every PE lesson. Why not consider placing a new liner in your underwear just before sports and then removing and replacing when you finish, remembering to either shower or use a freshen-up wipe before putting the new liner into place.

  • Is it wrong to masturbate if you haven't started your period thanksxx

    Masturbation is both a natural  and instinctive activity and as teenagers find themselves becoming sexually aware of their body and how it responds to touch it is very normal to feel curious about exploring your body in this way and it will have no impact on the arrival of your period.

  • Hi! I was ment to have my last HPV jab today. I missed the 2 times before when I was ment to go because I got to stressed out. Today at first I was really nervous but then I got used to it and felt like I was ready. When I sat down to have the jab I staryed gettig really paniky and wouldn't let the nurse inject me. I want to have it because I know iys important but I am genuinely terrified! Do you know what I could do to hekp myself? Thankyou xx

    Why not consider having the injections at your local GP's surgery by people you know. There really is nothing to be worried about and you may find my blog on the HPV vaccine useful along with other girl's comments.

  • You said I was a 32aa when I asked you and I wear a 30aa non wired tiny new look bra now, would you recommend getting wired now I have an average sized boobs?

    Wired bras are not something you have to wear and as you are an AA cup I see on reason why you would need this extra support at this time.

  • Hey vicki
    Its JJ. Is 30AA a training bra size? Thanks!
    JJ

    It can be, but it can also be a standard size for any bra.

  • I got my first period 3 days ago and today I tried out a tampon. The first time it went in painlessly and I managed to put it in. I went to change it and I couldn't manage to put it in this time as it hurt. Now I've got a pad on but in not bleeding anymore at all and I was earlier. Why is this? Is this because of the tampon? Thanks

    A tampon will not stop blood from being lost, therefore I can only presume that your period has now ended naturally. When using tampons try to remember that you need to reduce the absorbency of the tampon based on your flow on any one day, and it may be that on your last day you did not need to use a tampon and  a pad or liner was the better choice.

  • Hi vicki
    I haven't had my period since last October I'm not pregnat and I don't know when my next period is , how can I keep track of my period ?

    Periods can often be irregular for the first few years and this is most likely the reason for the gap you have noticed. It can be difficult to predict when your period will next arrive and you may find keeping some pads or liners with you at all times is a good idea.

  • hi Vicki,
    i had my first period and im on my second now but every time i have it i get really bad belly aches and get skids in my knickers and my period blood also im nearly 12 and i wanna try tampons but im worried they might hurt how can u get really small ones but please answer might first question as its really embarassing because if i do pe and i come on i mighht have skids in my under wear and people might see plz reply ASAP thanks ROSE !!!!

    If you are on your period and wearing a pad then there should be no staining of your underwear experienced so please ensure you wear a pad when menstruating. As for tampons, have a chat with your mum and ask her is she approves of you using tampons now, there is no medical reason why you should not and our teens range of tampons is designed to be shorter and narrower than other brands to make insertion easier for first time users.

  • I would like to try out tampons for the first time, but I am really scared! I don't know if it is going to hurt when it goes in or when it is inside of me, or if I will start to leak throughout the day and I wanted to know if you can sleep in them, but I'm not sure? Please help me!

    Like anything new using tampons can take a little practice and you may find it takes several attempts to get the tampon positioned correctly first time.Tampons can be worn for up to 8 hours so if you sleep for this amount of time they will be suitable to wear whilst sleeping.  Finally, a correctly inserted tampon will not only be comfortable but will also prevent any leakage.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I know your breast size is usually genetic. So on my dad's side, (my aunt, nan and 16 year old cousin) are all A and AA sizes, and on my mum's side (my mum and gran) are both DD/E sizes. I'm almost 13 and have 32B boobs, does this mean I'm gonna follow my mum's side as my boobs are already a bigger cup size than my dad's side???
    Thanks Vicki!!!πŸ˜€πŸ˜€πŸ˜€

    It may be that you follow the same pattern as your mum, only time will tell.

  • Hi Vicki

    I've being having a large amount of discharge, cramps and headaches since the beginning of the year and getting quite worried that i might start my period soon, and i am unsure what to do.
    Thanks Poppy x

    Hi Poppy, if you read all the great stuff on our website you will quickly see that there is nothing to be anxious about and that periods are a very natural part of being a young woman and should not interfere with your day one bit.

  • Hi vicki,πŸ’›

    With wipes, can I actually clean my vagina with them, or just knickers? And I have had me period for about 5months and I havent told me mum or had any pads or tampons, what do I do?😽😽🌞πŸ’ͺ😭 And I need a bra but how should I teel me mum?πŸŒšπŸ‘§

    It really is time to have a chat to your mum about puberty and all the things you have started to notice, but if speaking is a little awkward, why not write her a note or text her letting her know you have started your periods and have no protection and that you also feel you now need a bra. I appreciate that this can seem a bit daunting but she will understand and want to help you.  Finally, our wipes are designed to keep the vagina clean and fresh and are not suitable for use on your underwear to either clean or help remove stains and you should really be considering pads or liners to help protect your underwear going forward.

  • Hi Vicki; please answer this as soon as you can

    My BFF is really clever and she's gifted and talented at everything in school. She always gets praised by the teachers and gets high grades. I get really jealous and angry that I'm not as clever as her..:(


    What can I do?
    Also do you have any tips regarding school and learning
    ThankYou;'Xx<3
    From Anna...

    Hi Anna, it would not do for us all to be talented in the same areas as friends and you will shine in other areas, some you may not have even experienced yet. So try not to be too jealous of your friend's performance and be the best you can. For tips on how to study why not read our blogs on Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress and 7 Easy Steps To Studying. You may also find my blog about Beating the January Blues useful too.

  • I lost my viginety about a week ago and I've notice quit think and a little bit smelly discharge, what does this mean? And what should I do? Ps, I have been getting itchy down there since..πŸ™ˆπŸ‘‘πŸ’• thanks Molly

    Hi Mollly, being sexually active should have no impact on the health of your vagina. If this odour and irritation continues then you may want to consider speaking to your doctor or local Brook or Family Planning Clinic who will be able to advise you further, especially if you feel you have an infection.

  • Hey Vicki, I was looking at the blogs and saw there was a survey to do, but when I went onto the blog post I couldn't find the actual survey. I really love lil-lets and really want to do the survey.
    Sophie x

    Hi Sophie, we are experiencing a few problems with our website at the moment so please accept our apologies.

  • whats my bra size?
    63 1/2 under
    66 fullest
    These mesurements are in Cm's

    30AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Im the girl who asked about my mum not letting me talk to boys.
    She is being absoloutelu serious. I asked her today again , and she said no, dont talk to boys and dont have male friends. She is being serious, what shall i do?

    Why  not ask her why she disapproves of you have boys as friends and see if you can come to a compromise.

  • I'm sorry about the spelling but I think it's 'cellulite'? 😊 anyway does cellulite come and go? I'm really not sure xxx

    Yes you can reduce cellulite, which is a dimpled appearance on the body, usually the legs, thighs and bottom.

  • Hello I was wondering if I should buy some of your wipes or tampons but I have never used your brand before so do you recommend it? X

    I have always used Lil-Lets products and so have my daughters, so yes I can highly recommend these products.

  • Hi Vicky
    I am nearly 13 and I do wear deodorant but I feel like I still smell bad especially after my dance class should I take wipes to school with me if I feel sweaty?
    Your the best x

    There is a difference between a deodorant that will simply mask odour and an antiperspirant that will prevent odour from being produced. Ideally you should be looking for an antiperspirant deodorant that offers your the best of both products, so keep a look out in your local supermarket or chemist for these products they are very common and should help.

  • Hi so basically I just worry about everything like who I'm attracted to and all that like ill tell my self that I'm attracted to someone even though I'm not and I know I not but I just need it to slip from my mind an I'm sure it would go but any tips on how to distract my mind would really help and how I could stop overthinking if that makes sense

    Keeping yourself busy and active can help as very often when we have time on our hands our minds wander. And don't worry too much about thinking about what boy is right for you, this is very common during puberty.

  • At night I have these dreams about sex how do I stop them x

    Thoughts of a sexual nature are very common during your teenage years and nothing to worry about, as you get older you will find you understand and are able to manage these thoughts better.

  • Hi vicki I have discharge from about the start of the year does this mean I'll start my period soon?
    Thank xxx

    Discharge can often be noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your first period and you can find out more about this fluid by clicking on the following link. Discharge.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Last month, for two days in a row, I had tiny pinpricks of brown/ red dots in my pants.( You said that it was probably my period.) But then 8 days ago I had some more pinpricks of blood in my pants. What is this? Thank you very much. You're a life saver!
    Xx

    Hi, this could be your next period, as they are often irregular with either short or long gaps between each one. My advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you from now on when away from home, so you are always prepared.

  • Hi
    I'm am rly upset cos I rly like this boy in my class but I am scared to say anything and I don't think he fancies me back it would be great for some advice xxx

    Why not get to know this boy a little better and you will quickly be able to see if he feels the same. There really is no rush to start dating so take your time and consider being friends first.

  • Hiya Vicky
    Can you give me advice on mood swings? If you could that would be great because I stormed off with anger earlier and my friends didn't know why. I feel really bad because they didn't do anything wrong
    Thanks x

    I think you will find our section on Emotions and Feelings very useful along with my blog entitled Puberty and Hormones.

  • Hey Vicky ☺️
    I know this might be stupid but I don't think my breasts are big and I feel left out cos my friends fit into their bras but I don't and I get picked on if u could help that would be great
    Thanks x

    We all develop at different times to each other and even when completely grown everyone's breasts will differ to those around them. You may want to have a chat to the friends how are teasing you, letting them know that friendship is about supporting one another and understanding we are all different. Hopefully they will apologise and comment less in the future.

  • Hi vicki I'm 13, 14 in august.so for about 6-8 months now I haven't really been my self I seem to overthink everything and I've spoken to my parents and they understood and said that's it's normal and to just distract my mind but there is something that I have been overthinking and even though I know it's not true it still bothers me and I kind of tell my self it is even though it's not but basically if you have any tips on how to stop this and let it slip my mind i would really appreciate it :)

    Hi, you really would have to share with me what the thoughts are that are worrying you before I could make a comment.

  • Hey vicki, im 15, i havent had my period for about 2 or 3 months nw, its irregular, i sumtyms missed 1 month bt neva more than that, the past 2 months i gt a little blood in my pants bt nt my usual period, i recently had a bladder infection, may that hve caused it 2 stop coming or is it sumthing else? Please help. Penelope

    Hi Penelope, even though only a little bit of blood is being noticed, this is still your period and nothing to be worried about as the flow can vary from time to time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I just started my period on Sunday and I've been using pads however I find them quite uncomfortable and wet. I have the lil lets mini tampons and I just inserted one and it was completely fine and I can't feel it and I prefer tampons. Is it okay to use them even though I've only just started my period? Thank you

    Yes, if you feel ready to wear a tampon there is no medical reason why you should not and you may be interested to learn that we have just launched a super applicator teens tampon for medium to heavy flow. Check out this weeks blog for more on this topic.

  • hi vicki, how do I know I have been releasing light brown discharge if my underwear are pink?

    You will see quite a dark stain in your underwear that will be different to the colour in your gusset.

  • Hi viki I have a friend that's 13 and she might be pregnant so what should I do?

    It is not what you should do, but rather what your friend should do! My advice would be for her to speak to her parents or GP who will firstly identify if she is pregnant by running a test. They will then decide how to proceed once they know the result.

  • Hi I would really like a guy friend but my class can't seem to accept that a girl can talk to a guy without fancying him. There are two or three guys in my class that I like but don't fancy.
    Thanks
    PS I don't have a crush xx

    If you like a boy and want to be friends then be the mature person and get to know them better. If you do get any silly comments from others let them know how immature they are being  and ignore them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I recently thought I got my first period. I have been getting discharge for awhile now and a few days ago it turned a more brown/reddish colour. Then that afternoon there was blood but it stopped really quickly and randomly! Is this normal? Please help!

    This is most likely your first period even though it was short in duration, my advice would be to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will ensure you have some products to help protect your underwear for any future menstrual cycles.

  • Hello Vicki, I hope you are very well and good.
    Is my vagina normal I always think that it has abnormalities and will make me get disease and infertile. Could you maybe put a diagram on your next blog just for reassurance. I hope this isn't a lot of bother. Thank You

    Dreamboats and Petticoats
    Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi, all vulvas are different in appearance and it would therefore be misleading to show pictures of them on our website. During puberty the shape, colour and size of your external sexual organs from your labia to your mons pubis can change and appear different, so please try not to worry there is no right or wrong in this instance. Why not read my blogs Reproductive System Part One and Part Two for more on this subject.

  • How long do your period leaks last for?

    Periods last for between 2-10 days and if you use a good quality sanitary product such as Lil-Lets teens or Freshlock pads or Smartfit tampons leakage should not be an issue.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have just turned 13 and I have been having discharge for about 2-3 years and still haven't gotten my first period! Is there something wrong? I think I may need to put on some weight because I have heard that you need to be a certain weight to get your period. I am about 37 kg.
    Please help me!!
    -anonymous

    Hi, you would have to be severely underweight for your period to stop and I am sure you have nothing to be worried about as periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • hi vicki, im 15 and 5 months, i have had discharge for like 3 years but still dont have my period and also have small boobs. my 12 yr old sister started her period now and have bigger boobs than mine.
    am i normal? please reply asap. Thanks

    Hi, this is very normal and it is quite common for sisters to get their periods at different ages to each other. I would imagine you will not have much longer before your period is with you if you have been experiencing discharge for this length of time.

  • i am having problem of periods after having my first sex with my boyfriend 1-4 times in 2 days.now my periods is not normal..normally my periods exists on 18th of every month.but this time it didn't exist yet.(till the 25th of feb2015).please help me..i am afraid to get pregnant

    If you have had unprotected sexual intercourse you should consider taking a pregnancy test, your doctor or local family planning clinic can run this test for you free of charge, alternatively you can purchase an over the counter period kit and do the test yourself at home.

  • Hi I had sex on 2/14/15 I'm one day late for my period and but the second day of my period I'm spotting brown discharge am I pregnant?? Please help

    If you have been experiencing brown fluid, then this most likely your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. However, if you have had unprotected sexual intercourse you may like to take a pregnancy test.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 10 and my breast are not that big but all my friends at school have a bra I feel left out I'm depressed and I'm to scared to work up the courage to ask my mom for a bra what do I do?

    Why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra and this should quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready. You may also find my blog entitled First Bra useful along with other girl's comments.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 10 my boobs are big and my mom won't let me get a bra what do I do? all the kids at school make fun of me because they hang down I'm so scared!

    Have a chat to your mum, letting her know you are being teased she can then share this with your teacher and get this form of bullying stopped and may decide to purchase a training or sports bra for you too.

  • Me and my bff are 15 my bff allways takes Mickey because my boyfriend is a year younger than me but also she flirts with him and it's really getting on my nerves he says he's not interested in her (even though he used to have a massive crush on her) and she keeps asking me to dump him because she says he isn't that good looking and she says he isn't a nice personπŸ˜€ what should I do? Thanks πŸ˜€

    Hi, let your friend know that whilst you value her friendship, who you date is your business and that you and your boyfriend are very happy. I would avoid letting your boyfriend know that their chatting bothers you as jealousy can quickly ruin a relationship. Instead ensure when you are together you are yourself and you both have fun....after all, he chose you to date and not your friend for a reason.

  • Hi Vicki, I have had discharge for coming up to two years now and I have all the signs and I really want my period. I am almost 14 by the way so what do I do ?

    Discharge is often noticed for longer than a year so please try not to worry, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right and not before.

  • Hiya vicki.
    I am 12 and I have a boyfriend I like him a lot everyone says were could togeather πŸ‘I think so to but he wants to kiss me a few times he has asked and I just kinda just change the the conversation but I can't do that every time can I so what should I do ? Also this is my first kiss I want it to be special and I'm really nervous so I don't even know how to do it wat if he says I'm bad (this is just a peck ). Thanks viki look forward to hearing from u xxxx

    Hi and please read my blog entitled First Kiss, you can then explain to your boyfriend that you would prefer it to be natural rather than planned into your date.

  • I have been having mood swings. I hate them. Like one minute I'm hyper next minute I feel sh*t. How do I deal with them?

    It can be hard dealing with ever changing mood swings, so be nice to yourself, when you feel a sad or angry mood coming up, take some time to do thing you like or even to have some quiet time. You may find my blog entitled Puberty and Hormones useful or even our section on Emotions and Feelings on the website. One thing is for sure, you will not be the only person feeling this way, so talking things through with family and friends is a great idea.

  • Hey,
    I recently broke up with my boyfriend like two days ago because we weren't talking as much as we were and we both felt it was the best decision. Now he has been calling a girl from a different school "pretty fit" and giving her a nickname as if they went out. I feel jealous and annoyed as a few days ago he was telling we much he loved me. Can please help me try get these feelings I had for anyway.
    Thank you xxx

    It is a little insensitive for your ex to be considering dating so soon, but it does show that your break-up was most likely for the best. It may even be that he is feeling a little lacking in confidence and feels dating someone else so quickly will make him feel better about himself. My advice would be to keep yourself busy with friends and family and avoid when possible being in his company.

  • I have stretch marks on my hips, breasts, and shoulder blade. Do stretch marks lasts forever? I'm only 13

    Whilst they never completely disappear they do fade to become almost invisible in time. Why not read my blog entitled Stretchmarks for more on this subject.

  • What's dose it mean if you end up having periods passed the age where you usually don't have them?

    Periods generally end in a woman's fifties, if she continues to menstruate for a few years more this is nothing to worry about and simply means there are still some eggs available in her ovaries.

  • So my bestfriend has been on holiday for two weeks and is back on Thursday but there is one problem there is a girl in my class who we used to be friends with but she changed and now she is really mean lately she has become obsessed with my bestfriend (he's a boy) and it's creepy she sits next to him in more classes than me and I'm afraid she'll steal him away again please answer

    Kiana x

    Hi Kiana, it is always a good idea to have a wide group of friends to hang out with and if you like being with this boy then I see no reason why you cannot all hang out together.

  • What sort of question would be deemed inappropriate?

    Anything that I feel would upset other visitors or used inappropriate language.

  • earlier today my mum stormed into my room and began accusing me of things i hadn't done and/or said. during this i tried to act as normal as possible. however on the inside my heart was pounding like mad and i began to get really hot and felt i couldn't breathe and someone was chocking me. when she went out i burst into tears, began shaking and locked my door and collapsed onto my bed crying thinking about death. i worry i have anxiety and depression

    When confronted by someone or something, the body starts to prepare itself to either run away or fight and these feelings of being hot and your heart pounding are very normal and not a sign that you have anxiety or depression. When things are calmer have a chat to your mum and let her know how upset her conversation left you feeling, so you can both work on methods for discussing things in future in a more relaxed way.

  • Hi, I'm 15 and I've been having regular periods sine I was 12 and its 4 days until the end of the month, my period hasn't come yet. I've had discharge but no period. I'm very worried, this has never happened before. I'm wondering if there is something wrong with my menstural cycle or with me. If you could get back to me fast I would very much appreciate it.

    Periods can often be irregular even when they have  arrived on time before and this may continue throughout your teenage years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hey,I'm 18, and i know I'm a little bit old for this but i had my period about a week ago, and now i am on again, but its different. i take a pill, but this is not usual for me. The colour is a dark red or brown and it seems to be a bit clotted. I don't know what is going on. Please help.

    Periods can often be irregular when on the contraceptive pill so please make a note of your menstrual cycle for the next few months and if you have any concerns share these with the doctor who prescribed the pill.

  • hi vicki,
    i think i may be suffering depression i often feel down i worry a lot and i find it had falling asleep. i also think about suicide many days of the week and feel the world would be better off without me. most nights before bed i also wish i will die that night. the thing is i can't tell my mum how i feel cause i know she will think I'm attention seeking and won't take me seriously also i don't have the nerves to tell her. please help

    Depression can only ever be diagnosed by a medical professional so it really would be a good idea to speak to your parents and share your fears and concerns with them. It could be that this is linked to fluctuating hormones or that you have a specific worry that you need to discuss with them. One thing is for sure, once you have shared your thoughts with your family you will be on the way to feeling better and getting any help you need.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 14 and I have been getting lots of discharge for a good 5 years know but I haven't started my period. I know your going to say that is a sign it is coming soon, but why have I had so much discharge for such a long time with no period. From L xx

    Hi L, some girls to have lots of discharge and for a longer period of time than 12 months. Remember too that any brown discharge you experience may also be your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I'm 11 going on 12 and keep having these terrible cramps but I haven't started my period. Whenever u get these cramps I feel like I'm gonna be sick or have diohria. They really hurt and I get them regularly. They make me feel horrible and whenever I get them I cannot eat properly. Please help they are horrible pains and I really want them to stop. Thanks xx

    Gentle exercise may help ease these pains, which are linked to the growth of your reproductive organs and very natural. Even stretching has been shown to offer benefits.

  • What happens if u don't have measuring tape

    You could use string and then place this next to a ruler, but it may be far easier to visit a store try on some styles or ask an assistant to measure you.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm very self conscious of my weight. I am totally normal but I can't get my brain to make me feel that way I feel that I'm fat and ugly so I were makup at school. I can't seem to find a way to make me feel a bit more better about my body. P.s I am the only person with curved hips and breast in the whole year group (90 children) so that makes me feel self concous. My mum is in depression and my dad's about to loose his job wich is.making him grumpy and nasty.help
    Demi

    Hi Demi, have a chat to your teacher if you feel things at home are tense and you need support. And try to remember that we are all different and a great many people consider a curvy body a most beautiful shape.

  • Part two
    She makes me feel low and under appreciated. Wht should i do? I can't tell a teacher because i will be branded a snitch and it will cause an argument. Even if I hang out with other people she falls out with me! Help!! Lola

    Lola, it's time to stand up for yourself and you may just find others feel the same way you do. So next time your friend asks for homework advice, you can either ignore her text letting her know you were too busy to answer your phone or simply say no that you feel this is something she should do herself. If she is silly enough to talk to others about you, again stand up for yourself and let these people know that you are not a push over and see no reason why you should do all the work for someone else to benefit. You may also find the following blogs useful. Standing Up For Yourself, Walk Tall with Confidence and Fitting In.

  • My 'friend' just uses me for homework all the time and im sick of it! If I don't reply she will fall out with me and spread gossip and turn all my other friends against me. If I reply, she shows no gratitude and becomes quite aggressive and rude. I feel like she only uses me for homework, because she fell out with me in the day and was texting me about homework later! She makes me feel low and under appreciated. Part 1

    Hi, see my response in Part Two.

  • I'm constantly depressed. My mate is on anti depressants and she says they help a lot. I want to get some but I don't want to go to the doctors and I don't want to tell my parents so where can I get them from? _____xox from thatdepressedgirl.com

    Depression can only ever be diagnosed by a medical professional as it can very easily be confused with the mood swings lots of teenagers experience during puberty. So if you have any concerns you really should share these with your parents who will then decide on what steps to take next.

  • Hi viki
    How can you tell if the mark in your underwear is a pee mark or a discharge mark thanks xox

    If this mark is urine it will have quite a strong and unpleasant odour that you do not usually notice when releasing discharge.

  • If you're discharge gets more thick and yellow is it a sign that your period will be arriving soon?
    Thanks so much Vicki! You are soooo helpful! X

    Not necessarily no. Discharge can vary from day to day and can be clear and runny one minute and thick and creamy the next.

  • Hi, I'm 11 now, and I'm sure you get asked this a a lot, but how can I ask my mum for a bra? If you can help, that'll be great :)

    Why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this should move the conversation nicely over to you and if you now feel ready. You may also find my blog entitled First Bra useful as lots of girls have posted comments about their experience of speaking to mum about this very subject.

  • Hi vicky
    The clear white liquid you said was your body getting ready to have your period sould I were towels just incase x
    From Abi

    Hi Abi, no not at all, if you feel a little uncomfortable you may want to try pant liners but towels need only ever be worn when your period is actually here.

  • Hiya vicki,
    Im really worried, i looked in the miror and i saw like a mustache sort of thing over my lip so i grabbed my razor and i shaved it but now im worried that its gonna grow back. Have you got any advice? Thankyou xx

    It is never a good idea to shave your face, and this new hair you have noticed is quite common and very often noticed during teenage years. When the hair grows back it may feel a little spikey and obvious and my advice would be to leave it and let it soften up in its own time.

  • Hey Vicki
    I am 12 and I had my period January 8th and it's now 19 days late and still hasn't came I'm really worried and would like to no what's the matter with it?πŸ˜„ I feel fine and like I never had my period do I need to go to the doctor😜

    First periods are often irregular with long gaps of several months in between each one, so please try not to worry this is all very normal and simply happening because your body is working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi vicki i am 13 i am really sick of pads.. And i want tampons i don't wanna order them ,they don't sell them in my country i tried to find them but couldn't and ordering i don't want to do it cause every one will know also i am scared of tampons i am just sick on periods even when i am not on them it feels like i am please help me and asking my mom she answers be after a month or so i hate her

    Tampons are available in most countries across the world so I am sure your mum will be happy for you to try them if you explain your reasons behind your decision.

  • I think there is something wrong with me. Ever since I was little I've worried and been afraid of alot of things but recently it seems to have gotten worse. I am always thinking "What if" and feeling stupid and like people are watching me, I can't leave the house without worrying and I feel like something is controlling me. If I tell my parents I feel like they'll think I'm stupid or blame it on hormones, have you got any advice?

    Hormones can play a part in these emotions you are experiencing and it will definitely help if you chat over your fears with your family who will I am sure reassure you of your safety.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I have been going out with a boy for 5 weeks now and I really like him and I'm pretty sure he likes me just as much. We have. It hugged or kissed yet but I would like this to happen, however I don't think I'd have the courage to hug or kiss him without knowing he wants the same. How can I find out if he wants this without pressuring him into anything he's not comfortable with? I am nearly thirteen and have never kissed anyone
    Thanks xxx

    Being close and intimate with someone generally happens quite naturally and requires no planning, so please try not to worry and consider reading the following blogs; First Kiss, First Love and Top Dating Tips.

  • Hi Vicki, im Ava and im 12 years old. I have started my period and my mums on holiday and I am staying with my auntie. I havent told any one.I dont know how to tell my perents.PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!


    Thank you vicki
    Ava xx

    Hi Ava, have a chat to your auntie and try not to worry she will understand and be able to help you find some products to help you manage your period for the next few days.

  • Hi vicki,
    Recently my bra has even feeling rather tight around my back; it is non wired and size 30aa from new look it looks tiny and feels small but I don't know whever it is the right type for my boobs could you please clarify what size I am...
    28 inches below bust
    30 inches bust
    29 inches above bust
    Thank you so much xxx

    32AA is your size based on these measurements and this is most likely why your bra now feels uncomfortable.

  • I'm 14 and haven't started my period yet, but I am constantly getting discharge. Should I wear panty liners?

    If you feel pant liners will leave you feeling clean and fresh for longer then yes wearing them on a daily basis is an excellent idea.

  • hi vicky, last month i started my period on the 2nd february and it ended on the 9th february. does that mean next month my period will come 28-30 days after i start or does it come 28-30 days after i finish, i was just wondering and it's confusing me haha.
    thank you.

    Hi, your menstrual cycle starts on the first  day of your period and you should count until your next one arrives, this will be your cycle. But don't worry if you have quite a long gap between your last period and your next one as this is fairly common for girls new to menstruation.

  • I was sat on the bus with my boyfriend (now ex) I was really sleepy and my boyfriend started fingering me but I wasn't into it now we have broken up hes gone round and told everyone and im getting a lot of hate for it.
    Im the type whose scared to say no incase I lose anyone so I let him finger me .After it did happen I asked for it to not happen again through text and he thought he pressured me im always crying and have lack of appetite because I cant get over how much of a mistake it was

    It is very simple; we all make mistakes! Furthermore, if you do not like something then you have the right to say 'NO'. If your ex is silly enough to be spreading rumours around about your relationship, then it may be a good idea that he is now and 'EX'. My advice would be to ignore any comments and simply say you have no idea what they are talking about, it will pass in time and if your ex decides to speak to you about this matter let him know the conversation is over and you have moved on.

  • Hiya Vicki ,
    So at my school there are "popular people" who I am quite good friends with , however I don't know what to do because I am close with them but they all smoke and get drunk and fingered (I'm 12 and have never done this) and they all think its cool. I don't want to end a good friendship but I want them to stop, what should I do? Thanks
    Sarah

    Hi Sarah, you can still be friends with these girls, even though you do not take part in the activities them seem to feel will make them popular or cool. In fact from time to time you may even want to let them know you have way too much respect for your body to smoke, drink or be sexually active.

  • Hi vicki, i really need help i have just turned 15 and i have decided to use tampons when on my period but i have a couple of questions. Firstly, jow long can i keep them in? Currently i have the regular teen tampons as i have a light flow. Secondly, will it fall out? I know it seems a silly question but they are very thin.
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    Hi, tampons can be worn for between 4-8 hours and are held in place by the vaginal muscles and as such should not fall out. Finally, remember that every pack of tampons come with instructions for use and I would urge you to read this leaflet before using tampons.

  • Hi viki I have a question on periods
    I have this white discharge in my pants I don't know what do do and it smells a bit plus it is very sticky and uncomfortable it started a couple of weeks ago at school and I'm not sure who to ask so I came to you 😊 thanks x

    Hi, this is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, you can find out more about this fluid by visiting our Puberty tab.

  • Hi Vicki do breasts look different on different body types? I'm quite really thin (fast/high metabolism) and my bra size is either 32c to 32d, my breasts don't look that big but I've been measured a 32d in marks and spencers. And I know 32c isnt very big but when I look at online bra shops, where models are wearing 32c bras their breasts look larger?

    It really does depend on the type of bra they are wearing and their overall body shape, so in answer to your question, yes a 32C will look different on different people.

  • Hi Vicky I am 12 and a 30aa bra. I have been having discharge for about two to three years now I have previously had an eating disorder and I showed all the symtoms of starting my period and then suddenly it stoped. I am worried I have missed my period. I have a little pubic hair but no underarm hair. Will my period start?? Please answer as I am really really worried xx love Emily xx

    Hi Emily, if your weight is not increasing I am sure your period will recommence in no time at all so please try not to worry, as a general rule your body knows exactly what is right for you and when too.

  • Hi
    Every day when I look in my underwear there is a brown thing in it. I have already started my period. Is is spotting, discharge or menstrual blood?
    Also, should I wear a liner every day?
    Thanx
    JJ

    Hi JJ, it could be your next period which often have both long and short gaps between each one.

  • Hi Vicki - I'm 13 btw - i want to ask you a question about this girl that smells at school! She is in all of my classes, but i don't want to just confront her and say 'you smell so bad' what should i do?! I really like her - but i don't want to be horrid... Thanks Beth :) x

    It can be hard when you have a friend who is not paying attention to personal hygiene and rather then hurt her feelings why don't you and other friends mention casually what your daily routine is to stay clean and fresh, this may give your friend  some tips on a)the importance of keeping clean and b) what products work for you.

  • I'm 14, and I'm a 34AA. Boys constantly talk about how small my boobs are because most of my friends have bigger boobs,they expect me too aswell. I say things and defend myself, but at home i cry & it really upsets me because I know it's true & boys talk about it alot. I know I shouldn't worry about what they think, but I can't help it, I'm in high school.. and it's also the problem that I feel like I can't fill anything, bikinis just make me look flat, I don't at all feel confident, pls help x

    Hi, firstly even though what others think is irrelevant I do understand that it can hurt, but please try to remember that we are all different and at 14 you have quite a bit of development yet to come.  For advice on what bikinis to wear for a more petite bust try reading my blog on Swimwear SOS.

  • HelloπŸ™‹ this year I have been getting mini panic attacks and I'm not sure why last night I woke up having one and my heart was racing and I was struggling to breath, anxiety does run in my mums side of the family but I just hate getting them because all of today I have felt nervous, I haven't told anyone because it will make me sound weak😞ni think stress might be bringing them on because I have my GCSE's coming up and the pressure is on, any advice you can give would be truly appreciatedπŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

    Feeling nervous is not a sign that you are weak, so please share any concerns you have about upcoming exams with your parents and teachers and you may find that my blog entitled Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress useful along with our Guest Blogger Phoebe's blog on 7 Easy Steps for Studying.

  • Hi vicki, i will try and keep this short but recently at school ive been wearing my pads like normal (im on my period) but ive began to smell really bad. i change my pad at dinner but then i smell worse?? please can you give me advice! i do wash every night and use lil lets fresh up wipes before and after school but sometimes i still smell at home. thanks.

    Occasionally menstrual fluid can have a slight odour towards the end of your period as the blood lost at this time will be fairly old, but if this continues to be experienced have a chat with your mum who will be able to advise you further. Remember too that many people find changing their pads every 3-5 hours is a great way to keep feeling clean and fresh. Finally, Lil-Lets Freshlock pads have a unique odour neutraliser that is excellent for reducing odours and these pads are widely available in most supermarkets and chemists.

  • How can I feel more in control of my life? I freak out when I can't control my life. Is this bad? I'm not a controlling person.....

    During puberty you will start to experience a great many new feelings that you have never felt before and feeling a little out of control is very common. So make a plan, write a list of all the things you want to and need to do and give them a timeframe, you can then work towards achieving all the deadlines on your list which will hopefully leave you feeling a little less anxious. And finally, don't worry too much if you miss the mark, life is full of ups and downs and we all lose control from time to time.

  • Hi Vicki!

    Btw, we have the same name :D

    Anywho, I'm 13 (almost 14) and I've had discharge for about 2 (almost 3) years now and still no period? I have it numerous times a day, I have pubic hair, and a little bit of breast development (but I pretty skinny so I'm not too worried about that). My question is is that is it possible to never get your period? My friend told me that it is true and ever since I've been so scared...

    Please ease my thoughts

    Vicky <3

    Hi Vicky,  a very small number of females will never menstruate, however I feel as you have already noticed so many signs of puberty you will not have much longer before your period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My grandad died last year and lately I've been feeling really upset about it. I read your blog for loss of a loved one but I still feel really low and feel like crying. I get flashbacks of last year and what happened and it makes me really sad. What can I do?

    Try to focus on the great times you had with your grandfather, understanding that he would not want you to be sad and would instead have expected you to grow into a wonderful young woman. And when you can share your feelings with your family so they can support you.

  • Thanks for all ur advice so far on that Italy trip. I know that I've left it too long now to say I don't want to go but do u think that if I did my mum and dad could get some money back ? 😟

    This is something your parents would have to discuss with your teacher.

  • yesterday when I wiped myself there was a lot of red stuff, later some brown stuff and red stuff again. it was mixed with my discharge but no0t with my pee? its not here today- was that my period and can you tell me if I am the average age for a period, im 12 btw
    thankyou so much and ps I love the website
    love p

    Hi, this was most likely your first period, even though it only lasted a day, so please share this news with your mum who will be more than happy to ensure you have some pads and liners with you from now on.

  • Hi Vicki,
    There's a boy that I've fancied since I was like 9. this new term, he has been flirty. We flirt, he takes my stuff as a joke, sometimes touches my hand. I do fancy him, and I think he fancies me because he seems to look at me lots, when his mates say he loves me, he doesn't respond badly. I am quite a boyish girl, so i hang around with mostly boys, so I see him lots. I am not sure what to do though because 2 other boys fancy me and people think I go out with another boy.
    Thanks,

    It really is up to you as to how you wish to proceed with boy and as you like other boys too, it may be a good idea to wait a while and see how things go once you have got to know them all as friends. You will then able to make the best decision based on how you feel and there really is no rush.

  • every science I have moved house and school I have had trouble sleeping and I have been bullied at school years 3 to 7.
    I have also been spending most of my time in my room away from my family and I always feel sad and upset but I never show it.
    please help.

    Puberty and your teenage years can leave a lot of people feeling isolated and alone and I really would urge you to share your feelings with your family, friends and teachers so they can help support you during this time. Especially as you feel you have been bullied in school on such an ongoing basis, it really is time to share this news with your parents and teacher so it can be stopped and sorted out once and for all. Please read my blogs which I am sure will help you and our Section on Emotions and Feelings may be useful too.

  • a while ago I liked this boy in my year group but then I fond out he was taken by one of my friends and know hangs around with my group of friends. I feel happy that my friend has a boyfriend but upset because I liked him to.

    It is always a shame when we like someone but find they are attracted to another person, but now at least you will be able to get to know him as a friend and I am pleased that you are mature enough to be happy for them both.

  • Hey viki,
    Last week my discharge was a little oranger and abit browner than I usually have. It lasted about 3-4 days before going compleatly white again. I asked my mum if it was my first period but she wasn't so sure she said it would get darker but I don't exactly know, so could this bee my first period? I didn't feel any cramps or headaches I was just abit moody but I'm moody quite a lot of the time.
    I'm also 13 1/2 and I'm a D bra size and have ALOT of oubic hair.
    Thanks x

    Very often periods can be light brown or even orange in colour, it is still your period and lots of girls find that no cramps or other symptoms are noticed when their period is with them, so please try not to worry and consider keeping some pads and liners with you from now on in preparation for your next period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am twelve years old.
    I have pubic hair between my legs, on my legs and my underarms and I don't know what I should use to get rid of them. I don't want to cut myself on a razor and I heard waxing was painful.

    Firstly there is no need to remove this hair at all and many people prefer to leave it in place. But if you feel that you would like to remove have a chat to your mum as there may only be certain places she is comfortable for hair removal to take place and she will advise you of the best methods for removing this hair.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 13 and I have been getting discharge for over a year now, I have not started my period yet, but yesterday after I wiped I found two tiny spots of vivid red blood, is this my period?
    Thank you
    Megs xx

    Hi Megs, this could be your period so why not see if you experience more fluid loss over the next few days and place a liner in your underwear to keep you protected from any staining.

  • Do you have to be over 100 pounds before you get your first period? thanks from nina

    Hi Nina, this is not correct and a common myth.

  • Okay, so I have literally the ugliest chin in the world because I have a dimple in it. I'm really self conscience about it, how can I build up my confidence and forget about it? :( x -A

    Lots of people consider dimples to the chin a sign of beauty so please don't feel that this is anything you should worry about.

  • Hi Vikki I keep getting white stains on my pants and it's a bit heavy is it normal to have discharge like this and will get lighter I've been off for about 3 days xxx

    Discharge can be clear or creamy white, it can be runny or thick and it can come and go from day to day, so please try not to worry this is all very normal and nothing to be anxious about. Why not consider using our Lil-Lets teens pant liners for your very heavy days.

  • Hey Vicki, today I had some tummy cramps but just a minute a to there was a brown dot in my dark pink pants? Then I wiped and some light brown stuff came out what is this??

    This could be your first period so why not place a pad or liner in your underwear and see if any further fluid is noticed. You can then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and let them know what you have noticed.

  • Part 2-
    Whats really winding me up is that one of the girls everyone else on the table seems to pity her and feel sorry for her so they will never confront her about never going out with us and always staying quiet on the table. I dont want to say anything an them thinking im taking everything too seriously but its really getting to me. Any advice?thanks -LM

    If it upsets you then it is a serious matter and your friends need to understand that they have crossed the line and it now seems you are the butt of all their jokes which is unfair. You may find my blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself helpful when chatting to your friends.

  • Hi vicky!
    So me and 4 other girls(my bestfriends) all sit together a lunch an we always mess around skitting each other and stuff but i feel like lately im being targeted the most saying i have 'far too much spare time' and im 'the bore of the table' i dont think they mean to hurt my feelings but it does. -LM(part 1)

    Hi, see my response in the next part.

  • I'm 12 and for the past couple of weeks have had cramps but no period.

    Menstrual cramps are not just a sign that your period is due, but also show that your body is maturing and growing, especially your reproductive organs and this is very often the cause for cramps in this area.

  • Hi vicki I'm 14 and have had irregular periods for some time now is it normal for you blood to come out brown?

    Yes very normal and menstrual fluid can very often vary in colour from light brown to dark (almost black) red. Why not read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid for more on this subject.

  • When do I expect my period

    Why not read our section on Periods and Puberty which will give you an excellent idea as to what you can expect before, during and after your first period.

  • Ok, so im 11 yrs old, and my parents wont even let me talk to boys(in lerson). The other day in the car my mum just said randomly, do you ever talk to boys, and i said yes. So then my mum said well u shouldnt be, and dont ever do it again. But i have quite a few male friends, and i dont want to stop talkin to them because my mums being overprotective. Do you think shes being overprotective, and what should i do?

    I think your mum may be teasing you and if you let her know that any conversations with boys are as part of your friendship with them I am sure she will understand.

  • Hi Vicki.
    Im 12 y/o and i still not have mens but i have a dark brown dischare i just want to ask if it is NORMAL OR NOT??
    How many days this discharge??

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vicki xx

    I'm 12 years old and my breasts are itchy. Do you know what it might be? xx Jodie x

    Hi Jodie, itchy or tender breasts are very common during breast development as the skin is being stretched to accommodate your new breast tissue. Some girls find massaging the breasts at night can help reduce this feeling and it will subside in time, so please try not to worry.

  • So I finished my period on Thursday and it was light, lasting for 7/8 days. And now it's Tuesday and my period has come again but it's kinda heavy. What's wrong?

    Periods can often be irregular for the first few years with both long and short gaps being noticed between each one, this is nothing to be worried about and I am sure as time goes by a more regular pattern will be noticed.

  • How long will my period last

    A period can last anything between 2-7 days.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 13, I've recently been having very bad stomach aches low down, below the belly button, I have all other symptoms of a period, my boobs are aa/a, I have had discharge for 1 and a bit years, my mom thinks I'm starting my period soon, do you think I will ? Xxxx

    I think your mum is correct and you may find that your period will not be too far away at all now so ensure that going forward you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I was wondering what my bra size was
    Under: 24 inches
    Over: 27 inches
    Thanks xx

    Your bra size is 28AA with those measurements.

  • My measurements are 29 under and 31 over I wear a 30AA, but think I'm 30A. What size am I?

    Your bra size is 34AA with those measurements.

  • Hey
    I have asked u loads of questions and one of them is from my pen pal who wrote it ik a different language and other ones. I am the one that keeps sending them to get a reply yet you are not replying
    Please reply as I am desperate
    Thanks
    Aiguadcookiespumpkin.noodles*~*{=%

    Hi, some of the questions you and your penpal have asked are inappropriate and as such are not being posted on the website.

  • Hello Vicki
    I am 11 years old and my boobs are kind of small but in pe I get a bit embarrassed because u can see my nipples through my crop top
    How do I stop it from happening
    From ella

    Hi Ella, why not ask your mum if she will purchase a lightly padded bra for you, or alternatively you may find wearing a t-shirt under your PE top will help hide any nipples showing through.

  • Hi vicki I'm Ali and I haven yet started my period but I get really bad cramp and pain by 'the area' I'm 12 and wandering if this is a sign of my period I have had discharge for a while 2. Also could u put the link to the free sample please xx btw your a lot of help to me .....xxxxx

    Hi Ali, these pains are most likely caused as your reproductive organs mature and are nothing to be worried about. If you have been experiencing discharge for a while then you may find that your period is not too far away at all now. Finally, click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page to request a free sample.

  • Ok so like a month ago i had 5 best friends but like then two of them started getting real close and have been totally different like yesterday was my bday but they weren't even hanging with me so today when i went to school i was just ignoring them but then my friend told me i was just being jealous and now i feel bad because honestly i am a little jealous and i really don't know what to do. Plzz help me

    Taniqua.

    Hi Taniqua, jealousy can occur when we see others getting along and now you have admitted that this may have been what you were experiencing, change your behaviour and join in with friends, I am sure they will understand that yesterday you were a little upset because it was your birthday and you had hoped you could all hang out together. 

  • I need new bras and I use pads to absorb my discharge. I need to tell my mum to get me some but I feel really awkward as my friends mum was the one that bought me both. It makes me feel really annoyed as she will be able to talk to her mum about these things and I can't even though I've got discharge and she hasn't and I got bigger boobs than her! Please help x

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about anything to do with puberty.

  • Hiya, I'm 12 and I've been having discharge for about 1 and a half years now and keep getting headaches and really bad stomach pains.lately,I've been craving chocolate and cry over anything lately...what does this mean?!

    As you've already been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki,
    I just really want to know when my period will start,
    I don't want to be left shocked or worried when it does,
    I have had my armpits waxed recently and have quite a lot of pubic hair and get discharge almost everyday, I'm 32-34a
    I'm 12
    I just want to know when it happens so im not caught off guard
    Thanks xx

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki
    I have had discharge since June/July is and I've had lots of infections down there and I'm not sure why. I wear panty liners and i dont know why I get them. I'm getting really impatient waiting for my period and I just want to start, my mum keeps saying we need to take you to the doctor and I said no because I've seen him all my life and I don't want him to see my girly bits all red and gooey and blah πŸ˜• what shall I do
    Ps:my discharge goes through the liner and over the sides

    The good thing about liners is that you can change them as often as you need to and you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that it isn't too far away.

  • Sorry for all the questions this is my last one promise ! I have social anxiety it's a nightmare and nobody understands why I act like I do Im not sure how to explain this and I haven't told my mum should I make a YouTube video or just tell people myself I don't know how to go about it thank u so so so so much love your products - xx

    Firstly, you can ask me as many questions as you like, there is no limit on our website. Secondly, social anxiety should be diagnosed by a medical professional as it can often be mistaken for the feelings lots of teenagers have during puberty. So have a chat to your mum letting her know how you feel and if she is concerned that it may be more than simply mood swings caused by fluctuating hormone levels she will pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • i get really embarrassed because I've noticed that whenever I sit in a seat and get up my chair has sweat on it all the time even when I'm not hot or sweaty it's so embarrassing and my bottom is sweaty aswell please help :/

    You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens liners and Lil-Lets teens wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I'm 11 and started my period about 5 months ago and I haven't had one since I started. What's wrong with me?

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki, please answer I'm worried. I'm 12 and have developed breasts from the age of ten. I used to have discharge when I was maybe 10-11 but then it stopped and I still haven't had my period is this normal? Thank you

    It is normal to notice large gaps in between releasing discharge so try not to worry.  I'm sure your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky! I turned 14 in January and am 5ft and about 5.12st. I have breast but only about an A cup, which I developed at around 11 years old, I also have A LOT of pubic hair EVERYWHERE which I have had for about 1.5 yrs at least now, and have had discharge from the age of 11! I am a little bit concerned as my mum, my nan and my auntie all started their period at around 10, and I have still not yet started! I do horse riding and am very active! I think there is something wrong with me!! xx

    Try not to worry as we don't always follow our family members at being the same age starting our period.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki
    Recently I've been kinda feeling pretty rubbish. My mum has recently had shoulder surgery so needs help but my dad is suffering from Clinical depression and my mum is always nagging my dad causing him to respond. My brother is 17 and has mild autism but recently that's been ok. I'm also in year 10 so got a lot of mocks and stuff coming up
    I feel meh :/

    I appreciate that you have a lot of things to deal with at the moment but it is important to remember that you are a family and there are always difficult times in life but try to think about them positively and you will get through them.  Try to be as supportive as you can be and make sure you find time to look after you by doing the revision you need for your exams.  Good luck.

  • it needs a little back story anyway: my best friend let's call her A is bisexual and I have kissed her but that was a spur of the moment thing and nothing ever happened but now I want to actually go out with her but there are three reasons I don't want to, 1: I feel like I will be judged for going out with a girl with me being a girl
    2:I am soso scared to ask her
    3: I have this massive crush on this other guy who I have liked for years
    I don't know what to do, I am so confused.

    Being confused about your sexuality during puberty is very common and as you appear to like two people at the same time, it may be a good idea to keep them as just friends for now, until you are 100% sure which one you like romantically, after all there really is no rush to date and part of the word boyfriend and girlfriend is 'friend' which is equally as important as dating.

  • Hi Vicki kendall again, quite a while ago I asked you what I should do about a boy who used to be a really good friend but had started to ignore me constantly and you recommended that I moved on and made some new friendships. I had started doing that but then he began texting me again. I replied and we started talking but I have a feeling it's going to go back into the same routine again. Do you think I should just stop talking to him now?
    We never see each other in person a a we go to different schools x

    Hi Kendall, if you're ok with being friends with this boy, just continue as you have been doing but try not to take things so personally if he doesn't respond to your text messages straight away.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 14 and my are very small, are these measurements appropriate for me to wear an underwired bra and why is my bra size.
    72cm unders bust
    80cm over bust
    Thank you! Love lulu x

    Hi Lulu, your bra size is 32AA but as this is only a guide when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi,
    I'm thirteen and I have not started my period yet, I am very flat chested but I have quite heavy discharge every day, it's really embarrassing because I wear black pants so the discharge shows up very clearly, even my friend commented on it when I when to hers for a sleep over, she let me use one of her pant liners and it made me feels a lot more confident and clean, I would like to use them regularly but I don't know how to ask my parents, what should I do? Thanks
    Lizzie

    Hi Lizzie, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so try not to feel embarrassed and explain your reasons for wanting to wear liners.

  • Hi Vicki!! I'm 12 and I have had discharge since April of last year. Recently, it has changed color from clear white to light brown and no odor. What does this mean? I have never had my period.

    This light brown fluid may be your first period as menstrual fluid is often light brown and not red in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you who will be able to advise you further.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm 14 im in year 9 and all my freinds have boobs and have started their period. But I haven't im barely a 32AA and i haven't developed many pubes or started my period. Also I have been getting lots of discharge since year 5-6 so for around 4 years. I know this is a sign of your period so why haven't I got mine yet?

    Sometimes we enter puberty a little later than those around us and I am sure your period is not too far away and remember that menstrual fluid is not always red in colour, so any light brown fluid may also be your period and not discharge.

  • Your bra size guide confuses me because apparently I'm about 28a but I fit into 30aa and I am nearly a 30a in normal bras. How do find the correct size on the guide?
    Thanks so much Vicki, you are a life saver for us teens! X

    Please send me your measurements and I will advise you as to your size.

  • I know everyone develops at different times but all my friends are way shorter than me.I turned 12 recently but I've had my period since I was 10 and I'm 34d which is embarrassing coz they are As or don't wear bras!(There older than me) I feel so awkward.
    Molly x

    Hi Molly as you have already noticed we really are all different and the ages we start to develop will also vary from friend to friend, so please try to accept your shape and understand that over the next year or so your friends will develop too and you will feel less awkward.

  • Hi

    My friend bought a pregnancies test and il asked me to come with her to get the result it came back as positive she is only 12 what can she do btw she is a Christian so her mother and father may not be too glad to hear the news could this just be an error as it was a pound so not very expensive

    I would recommend your friend visits her local Brook or Family Planning clinic or even her GP who will run the test for her and confirm or deny the results of the earlier test.

  • What age did u loose ur virginity ( dont have to answer)
    What happends if u have sex under 16 and the law finds out ( i havnt im πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ’―πŸ™ŠπŸ™ŠπŸ™ŠπŸ™ŠπŸ™ŠπŸ™ŠπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ’πŸ’πŸ’

    If the authorities find out a girl has had underage sex they will want to speak to the boy or man involved and they will then decide how to proceed.

  • are applicator tampons easier to insert then non applicator?

    It really is a personal choice, some girls prefer applicators to guide the tampon into place, whilst others prefer non-applicator with no fiddly applicator to use or dispose of. Once inserted the tampons if its a Lil-Lets tampon will work exactly the same. Why not read my blog entitled Not All Tampons are the Same.

  • Hi Viki
    I have been sort of getting these bursts of anger, sadness and happiness at different points during the last couple of weeks and it seems to be getting worse. At most times I can put up with it but sometimes I want to just yell at my best friend or cry at something that's not really worth crying about, or sometimes I would giggle really badly about some joke that is really rubbish . I kind of had realized that its not mood swings and I'm just kind of annoyed now

    As you have already understood, this is puberty and it can be a little frustrating and annoying to notice such quick and varied changes to the way you feel, my advice would be to speak to your friends and family letting them know how you feel so they can support you when you feel a little low or moody.

  • can a tampon ever leak? id like to go swimming in the summer but i dont want to go incase my tampon might leak in any way and cause emberassment

    If you use a tampon that is not suitable for your flow, then yes it may leak, but for the time spent in the pool I would presume a regular or super tampon will be more than suitable and great for protection when in the water.

  • im not sure if my measurements are accurate but
    74cm under
    76 around
    whats my bra sze? pls answer asap because my mums getting me new bras tomorrow morning and I have to tell her my size
    thanks ~Q~

    34AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm getting worried because I first got my period in September, then it came around again in October, then I didn't get it in November, December or January, what's happening? Why haven't I had it for three months in a row? (I get my period near the end of the month, and its February 23rd right now.)

    Periods can often be irregular for the first few years as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you and these gaps can be several months long, so please try not to worry and instead always ensure you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • 66, 72 how big would that be

    Your bra size is a 30AA with those measurements.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it normal to have bright yellow ish and stringy discharge?
    Thanks, Em x

    Hi Em, yes very normal and you will often find that during the month your discharge become stringy and yellow in colour.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 10 and I have a proper bra and I'm not sure how the table worked so can u tell me the bra size or if I even need a bra

    Measurements
    74cm under my boobs
    83cm at the fullest part

    Thanks really appreciated

    :)

    34AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi vicki.
    I would just like to know y wen somone by mistake hits ur breasts y it hurts and also wen you lay on them it hurts
    Thanks your so good at answering questions ur the best
    Ppz quickly answer my question poz and thanks.

    As breasts develop the muscle and skin can be very tender to the touch and this will often result in them being tender especially if knocked or accidently bumped, but this will not cause any damage to the breasts and will subside as they become fuller.

  • Hi Vicki, I think I may be suffering from a type of depression. I'm always moody or upset and I've lost over a stone in the last month. I don't eat for ages then suddenly I'll be eating loads just before bed time. I was having a shower the other day and a lot of hair fell out, I wasn't sure if this was because of the shampoo I was using. I'm starting to become real thin and I'm underweight for a 13 year old, IPlease tell me what type of depression this could be. Thankyou

    You really must speak to your parents about this matter with some urgency especially if there has been dramatic weight loss, which can often result in hair being lost. They will be able to help your understand why your appetite has decreased and find a way to improve this eating disorder going forward.

  • hi Vicki x
    how can u make money as a 12 year old cuz I really wanna buy some new makeup but I don't have much money and I only get given Β£5 a month as pocket money
    thanks vicki ! ❀️🍫

    Why not ask your parents or grandparents if there are any small jobs you can do for them each week to help earn you some extra cash, I am sure they will have some work for you.

  • Hey Vicki
    Does stringy discharge mean that you are close to your period?
    Sorry if it is inappropriate!
    I am 14 btw and haven't started yet. however I feel like I should have because I am fully developed.
    Thx
    Maddy

    Hi Maddy, the type of discharge we experience can vary from day to day and is not always a sign that your period is due any day soon, so please try not to worry; I am sure your period is not too far away.

  • Hey Vicki,

    My boobs are growing now. But i really dont know when to start
    wearing a padded bra? ~ xx :)

    There is no rulebook that says you have to wear a  padded bra ever in your life and I can assure you lots of women prefer the support of a non-padded bra at all times.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am getting really worried! I am 13 and I have no breasts- and when I say no breast, I don't mean they're small, I am completely flat chested. I hate it. Everyone in my year and the year below have boobs but I don't. One of my friends actually asked me if I have boobs and a boy in my year took the mick about it. I feel so self conscious and embarrassed about it. I just want to grow boobs! Is there any way I'd be able to make the grow some??

    Thank you so much,
    Love :)

    We all enter puberty at different times to each other and I would advise you to ignore any unkind comments and be patient, your breasts will grow when your body feels the time is right for you.

  • Hi Vicki,

    When im at school and were getting dressed for PE all the other girls have bigger boobs than me? It's sort of really awkward! xx I think you are really amazing xx

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and develop at different times for each of us too, so please try not to compare your progress with that of those around you, you still have plenty of growth yet to come.

  • Hey Vicki, I have just started trying to wear a tampon but I'm so neverous about putting one up as I don't know where it actually goes and how you put it up I have been trying for 4 months how do I know if it's blocked or nothing can go up please help xxxx

    There are three openings between your legs that all have a different job to do. The front opening is where your water or urine is passed, and this is much too small for a tampon to fit into.  Your back passage is where you excrete waste food, and the middle opening is your vaginal opening and of course this is the one where you insert a tampon. You may find relaxing and then trying to insert a clean finger inside your vagina when not on your period,  should give you a better idea of where the tampon should be inserted. Remember to wash your hands after you have tried this.

  • hi vicki x
    my sister is going bra shopping next weekend and my mum thinks I should get one at the same time I think they normally go to m&s but anyway I have one boob that's quite big and ready for a bra and one which is almost flat I haven't mentioned it to my mum but in worried what the fitting lady would say cuz I wouldn't fit a bra on my small boob please help vicki do u think I should just go for it? btw I wear a crop top at the moment if u needed to know
    love rachel xxxx

    Hi Rachel, it is very normal for only one breast to develop first and the lady in the store will understand this and offer you a bra that supports the larger breast. And don't worry the other breast will catch up in a few months.

  • i like a boy in the year above but he's super popular. it feels like he doesn't know that i exist. i don't want to like him, but i can't help it, what do i do?

    Smile when you pass and if he smiles back then say Hi next time you see him, it may be that once he sees you pleasant and happy you are he may notice you a little more.

  • Part 2!!! People at school have notised and I don't know what to do! She won't wear make up or do her hair, she just doesn't care, even when her mum tells her she smells! We have tried Hinting but it's not working! She has never liked a guy and just doesn't seem to be growing up with us! What can we do to help her as she's our best friend? Thanks xxxx

    Keeping a good level of personal hygiene is important during puberty as it is normal to sweat more rather than telling your friend you are worried about her personal hygiene, chat amongst yourselves about the problems you experience and how you keep yourself clean and fresh and when birthdays or Christmas is here consider purchasing a small deodorant or shower gel as a gift.

  • Hi
    I am 12 and I have not had my period for one mouth
    My bobs are getting really hard and heavy but not growing that much I really don't want to go to the doctors and I really don't know what else to do pleas help.πŸ˜šπŸ˜šπŸ˜šπŸ˜‹πŸ˜‹πŸ˜‹

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years with large gaps of several months between each one so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi vicki, ok so I will sound so horrid now but I have 4 best friends and we do everything together and have been best friends 3 years, we are now nearly turning 14 and growing up, even tho me and no 3 haven't started our period yet but I don't mind! The problem is no 4.... She always smells and has bad breath all the time, we are horsey so showering at least once a day is very important but she doesn't! Her hair is always Greecey
    Part 1

    Response in part 2.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm probably going to seem really horrible here but I need help! I'm in a friendship group of 4 and we all get on really well! We have been best friends for 3 years and are nearly turning 14, yay! We are all growing up even tho me and no 3 haven't started our period but we don't mind! Our problam is friend no 4... She's really nice but she smells all the time and had bad breath! Part 1

    Response in part 2.

  • Hi,Ive had my period for a few years now and Ive sudennly become irregular the past few months amd my discharge has changed even throughout the month,I was wondering if I need to see a doctor?
    Thank you xx

    Periods can become irregular with dramatic weight gain or loss but for peace of mind, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I want to talk to my mum but I get to embrassed and when I send her a e-mail she does not reply

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed.  Please talk to her.  For more help with this, please read my blog on Talking to Mum and Dad.

  • Hi I'm 12 and I masturbate EVERY SINGLE NIGHT!! I'm addicted!😒😒😒how do I stop and what health effects could it have?? Please answer as soon as possible plzzz!!!!😘😘😘😘😘😘I'm a MASSIVE fan of yours xxxx love Chardonnay xoxo

    Hi Chardonnay, whilst masturbation is an instinctive and natural thing to do, it is important to remember the things that are most important to us in our lives like family, friends and school.  So try to moderate the amount of time you do this and keep yourself busy with reading or talking to your family.

  • pt 4- i do use asda night ones and always liners, but i love all of lil lets things. ive thought about tampons but i dont think im ready for them. i hope you can help me on advice what to do and maybe what to choose to wear, it just seems the teens pads are too small and not thick enough! anyway, thanks. (im 12 by the way)

    If you have a very heavy flow, consider our Lil-Lets Freshlock range in normal, long and night and on your heavier days you may even prefer to try using a tampon when at home so you can work out which tampon absorbency is right for your heavier days.

  • I have not started my period yet and I want to take up swimming an I also have to do it t school. I am really worried that it will start why I am swimming.

    Try not to worry and remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and they should never interfere with the things we enjoy doing in life.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months so once it has arrived and you feel ready, you might like to consider using tampons as there really is no alternative to them for sanitary protection whilst swimming.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.

  • pt 3- its been a few hours since then and a few minutes ago i told my mum about my trousers and she has put the in the wash. she told me her friend got blood on a seat before and thats what happened to me, but i didnt say anything. she has got me some of her big day pads but i love the lil lets range :( (look for pt 4)

    See Part Four.

  • 1. Can you insert your finger into your vagina and I am scared the hole leading to my vagina isn't big enough and I will be infertile and I want to be a midwife and I couldn't deliver babies knowing I could never have one.
    2. Is it normal to want to be a midwife because all my friends say it is gross and it is horrible to want to look at WHERE they come out from but I think it is a beautiful job and a privilege to be involved at such a precious time in a woman's life

    The next time you have a bath, use your finger to gently feel where the opening to your vagina is and remember that it is a muscle that can expand wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born.  Personally, I think that being a midwife is a wonderful occupation and agree with you in thinking that it would be a privilege to be a part of such a wonderful thing as bringing a new life into the world.  Good luck.

  • I am worried that my breasts are to big for my age I am 11 and wear a 34a and I am self conscious.

    Please try not to worry as your breasts are a perfect size for you.  Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  Why not consider joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport to give your self-confidence a boost.

  • Vicki, I think everyone who asks you these questions all agrees that you are a inspirational lady who dedicates her time to helping teenagers who need support and guideance through puberty. I know you already know this and you remember that you are kind and generous to everyone. You really are like a aunt to me because I can confide in my problems and know they are being answered by a trusty person who deals with them in pure confidentiality and I hope you continue to do such an amazing job

    Thank you so much for your kind words of support - I am happy to help.

  • pt 2 - i never go to the toilet at lunch because there are gangs in there and its packed so i just went outside and ate my lunch. later on i felt blood go down my legs and i got up from my chair and there was blood on it! luckily no one saw (i think) i got home and realised i left a mark on the car seat! but i didnt tell my mum. got and in and ran upstairs and saw that there was a massive blood patch all around my butt on my trousers and my pants were completely red! (look for pt 3)

    See Part Three.

  • Can you tell me what the cervical cancer jab is like? How many injections and where do they inject you? I heard they do it in your leg. LN xox

    You might find my blog on the HPV Inoculation useful.

  • I told my mum the other day that I get discharge but she didn't suggest a liner to me!!!!
    Also I feel wet after I go to the toilet but I know that it's not wee cuz I stay in the toilet for a while and let all the wee come out and it feels horrible in my pants I hate it!!!! But I don't think that my mum will get me liners!

    If you tell your mum what you just told me, she should agree to you wearing liners.  You might also like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • hi
    I want to try out more makeup but I don't know how to ask my mum as I think she does not like me wearing it
    thanks

    You really do have to respect your mum's wishes so be honest and ask her if she would be ok with you wearing a little make-up.

  • Hi Vicki
    This boy keeps messaging me but we never speak at school, I though that he was wanting a relationship by the way he was acting but he replied saying that he just wants to be friends. It's really annoying cause he won't stop messaging me so how can I politely tell him that it's annoying?

    The thing is that he is messaging you as part of being friends but if you can't be friends with him, be honest and tell him.

  • Hi vicki, i love the way you give everyone advice and i would like some...
    i have a REALLY heavy flow and today i was at school and i was wearing lil lets teens day towels with wings and i had pe after break so i went in the toilets at break and blood was all over my pad and my pants were covered..but i only had a liner in my bag so i could not change it, so i got changed with my blazer covering my pants when it was time for pe. (look for pt 2)

    My response is in Part Two.

  • PART 3πŸ’™However, I feel like there is nothing else I can do, I know you will say I should talk it over with him but I can't.. He WILL NOT LISTEN trust me. I honestly think he is wrong, but the problem is, he won't listen, he'll just say, you'll thank me one day, but I won't, I'm beginning to really dislike him. When I have kids I'm going to let them have friends and go out and do things(to a certain extent) because otherwise they will turn against me, and lie, like I am to my parents.... Please help me xx

    If you have decided to speak to your mum about your plans for the sleepover it will then be up to her as to how she decides to proceed; if she is happy with your safety or whether she feels your dad should be involved. Parenting is hard, you very often want your children to have their independence but understand that there is a need to keep them safe and that they may not be able to see danger at their age, so please try not to be too hard on your dad his concerns for your are born out of love and he has a duty to keep you safe.

  • PART 2πŸ’™, my friend is having a sleepover (which I'm allowed to go to) but were also going into town/park (i would never be allowed to), I don't want to lie but I'm just not going to tell him because I won't be allowed to go. I will probs tell my mum coz she lets me do stuff but I hate her keeping secrets from my dad. I don't want to lie to them both coz I don't want to be one of those kids who lies to their overprotective parents all the time.

    See my response in Part Three.

  • PART 1πŸ’™Hey Vicks, I recently had a huge argument with my dad because I wasn't allowed to go bowling with friends, because 'it's not safe'. I got mad and said he was a bad parent because he never let's me do anything and expects me to not want to do things. Were 'ok' now but he feels bad for flipping out but when I said I didn't agree with his parenting I meant it. It singles me out from everything my friends do.

    Hi, see my response in Part Three.


  • Hi Vicki there is this boy that seems kinda interested in me but he wont say i want to confront him.He seems quite shy when we both make eye contact and i can sometimes sense him looking at me.But at the same time i mainly see boys as friends and don't want a boyfriend-I am only 13. I also have a feeling that he likes me more than i like him i don't know what to do.
    Please help me i would really appreciate it if you helped me out of this mess.
    Love ADMIREDBYALEC

    If this boy likes you but you do not feel the same then let him know from time to time how great it is to be friends without romance getting in the way, he will get the message and there should then be no need for either of you to be embarrassed or confrontational.

  • hi vicki i am very nervous about using a tampon when im on my period becuase i have a very heavy flow.is it ok to just try one out when im not on my period?
    thanks for all your help love you

    bumbumblebeekatie

    Hi, you should never wear a tampon if you are not menstruating. However, the next time your period is here try using a regular teens tampon when at home and then even if your period is heavy you will be able to change it quickly. By doing this you will soon realise how heavy your flow is and what absorbency is suitable for you. Please read my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • --------------------------
    Hi Vicki,
    I am twelve years old and my periods are very heavy.
    I would like to try tampons but I don't know how to ask my mum who doesn't like tampons.
    Also, I am scared about using them. Do they hurt when you put them in and out? What absorbency should I use?
    Thank you.
    JJ

    Hi JJ, why not read my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies and When is the Right Time to Switch To Tampons, but remember that it is best to get your mum's permission with regard to this matter.

  • Hi Vicki, I seem to wet myself when I laugh alot or leak when I cough or sneeze, are there any strong pads which you can advise me from the lil lets range? Also is this normal as I am only 11.

    Thanks xx

    Hi, this is fairly common amongst women and emptying your bladder more frequently may help. To keep you feeling clean and fresh you may also want to consider wearing our Lil-Lets teens pant liners on a daily basis.

  • I started my perioud ages ago like a year and now it's stopped its been like 41 days since my last one. My hands have started shanking and haven't stopped since morning and it's now evening . I told my mum about the hand shakes and she said it will pas but it's just getting worse. I don't know If these two things are linked. Please answer x

    It is highly unlikely that these two things are linked and it is important to remember that periods are very often irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one, this is very normal and all part of your journey to becoming a young woman.

  • Hi vicki
    I get lots of discharge and it smells really bad
    What can I do to stop this from happening

    Discharge does have a slight odour, which can often be made worse when mixed with urine, faeces or sweat. So ensure when you visit the toilet you wipe thoroughly from front to back and you may even find using our Lil-Lets freshen-up wipes when in school is useful too.

  • I am twelve years old and I have heavy periods. Is there a lil lets teen pad that I can use?
    Also, I want to start using tampons but I don't know how to ask my mum.
    Thanx
    JJ

    Hi JJ, if you feel your periods are very heavy you may prefer to try our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads and I am sure if you speak to your mum about trialling tampons to help manage your heavy flow she will be only too happy to help you choose the right product for you.

  • Hi vicki , what is included in the teens starter pack? I would really like to try them out thanks x πŸ’˜ --- Jess

    Hi Jess, our teens starter pack contains teens day and night pads, pant liners, tampons and our Becoming a Teen booklet, all wrapped up in a pretty and discreet bag.

  • Today since I got home my vagina has been a bit painful and it's like a "prickly" kind of feeling, when I move especially move or lean forward. I've never noticed this before and I'm not having a period. I wash it every day.

    The feelings you have noticed are probably due to your reproductive organs maturing but please mention them to your mum.

  • Dear Vicki, I like my body. I look in the mirror and think, yeah, I'm okay. But I always feel like I should look like other people. Its really difficult to put this to words but basically, I feel like I can't be beautiful with all these even more beautiful women and girls around me. I know this is because I'm a teen etc... but still.

    It is completely normal to want to look like others as puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel massive self-doubt.  I think you already realise this so why not consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport might be a good place to start.

  • Hi, I have had discharge for about a year and 3/4 and have also been developing boobs but haven't started my peroid

    As you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki , this is something else and has nothing to do with puberty but I just wanted to let you that I think the becoming a teen website is extremely helpful . Thank you so much x -- Jess πŸ’˜

    Hi Jess, thank you so much for your kind words of support.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 12 years old and I have had 5 periods in the space of 1 year, now. My first one was 5 days long, my second was 2 days, my third was 2 days, my forth was 10 days and my fith was 10 days long. Will it eventually just become 5 days? Because it isn't regular and I get upset when it's 10 days long because this website says periods last for 5-7 days. Is this bad? Thanks, from Sophie xx :)

    Hi Sophie, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi. I feel like self harming but i don't kno how cos my sister waxes my pits and she will know. Please don't judge or tell me to stop. How would i hide them?

    Self-harming is an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't your fault so please call Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get the professional help you need.  Try to remember that puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, so know that you're not alone in feeling this way and the sooner you talk to someone about how you're feeling the better you will be.

  • For quite a while now when I have a period the blood always comes out in clots/large lumps. It's almost never runny. Why is this and is it ok? It's also very dark and used to always be bright

    Small clots and clumps are nothing to be alarmed about so try not to worry.  They are simply blood and tissue from part of the lining of the uterine wall being released with menstrual fluid.

  • hi, Vicki!
    i started my period about six months ago, and i have a very heavy flow. my periods are lasting usually 8-10 days, sometimes longer. is it okay to have periods that long, or is there something wrong with me?
    thanks, Tizzy x

    Hi Tizzy, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, should you find that you become more tired than normal, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • My vaginal passages seem to veer to the left and they appear to not just be a standard "slanting to the back" as it is made out on the backs of the tampon box. it makes putting in tampons difficult. I think I will maybe try some of your teens ones but I am 19..

    If you have any concerns relating to your vaginal position you should consider speaking to your GP who will be able to advise you further.

  • hi vicki.
    I had discharge about a year ago and then it stopped for like a year today I had a short pain in my area and just now I have found a large area of discharge. will my period start soon? thank you ❀️

    It is normal to notice large gaps in between releasing discharge so try not to worry as it is possible for your period to be close.

  • Hi I find this very personal and don't want to talk about it but I have developed spots on the outside of my bladder (where hair grows) and it's sometimes itchy! What could this be?x

    Try to keep the area as clean as possible by bathing regularly, apply a little antiseptic and you should find that the spots will clear up.  It is normal to notice an itch on your pubic area with pubic hair growth and development. 

  • Hi Viki
    On Saturday I went into town with my mum and got my first bra with my mum 30AA. But on Sunday I went in buy myself and got my self fitted and I am a 30A. I have no told my mum and was wondering how should I ask for her to take me to a fitting and buy me another one? And should I tell her about Sunday?
    Love this sight.
    Danielle xx

    Hi Danielle, if the bra your mum bought for you fits you comfortably, stick with it until you outgrow it.

  • Know I've found out that my mum has paged Β£630 out of Β£730 for that Italy trip.I feel like just going but I can't stop worrying about not being able to sleep. When my mum mentions Italy to me and says she's payedr the next installment I act happy and excitement but I'm not . I wish I had just told her in the beggining I don't want to go but I feel its too late to tell her that now. I'm really worried I want to tell her I don't want to go but Β£630 is so much money what should I do ? Thanks😡

    As you've allowed this to go on for quite some time without saying anything to your mum, the full amount of the trip has almost been paid so why not try to feel happy about it, relax and look forward to having a fabulous time.

  • Hey Vicky
    I hAve had my period for 7 years and have had protected sex 12 months ago. My period has not come for the past few months
    Also please answer CBD126 and CBE711
    If they r inappropriate please tell me as my penpal really wants to know the answer
    Thank
    Martini Luther king jr

    If you have had sexual intercourse and have not yet had your period then it would be wise to take a pregnancy test, either with your GP or local family planning clinic or by purchasing an over the counter test kit and running the test yourself.

  • hi vicki i am fine with pads but i dont know if i should start with tampons.i have had my period for 2 years btw.i am scared that it might harm me or my health if i keep it on for real long.

    We do recommend that you start with pads to allow you some time to get used to your menstrual flow so after you have had 5 or 6 periods, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • I am 12 years old and I really wanna have big boobs. Why? Can I do something to make them grow?

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  I am afraid there is nothing you can do to make your breasts develop any quicker so try to be patient as this can happen up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi ,today I had some red and brown vaginal discharge, I've been getting discharge for almost a year now. I haven't had my period I'm 12 please help
    Thx
    P

    If this fluid is brown or red in colour then it is most likely your first period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicki, I am 12 3/4 and I have had my first period but my second period I knowtist a brown period and I was worried then the next day I had my normal period for the following 5-6 days then I had brown discharge again?
    I was just reay worried and it doesn't help that I have bad anxiety just tell me Idont have cancer because thats whaf im worried about.. Do you think you know what it means? Plz answer this question I am worried really bad!
    -Jenn

    Hi Jenn, menstrual fluid often changes in colour from light brown to dark red and these changes can happen on any day of your period and are very normal and nothing for you to be worried about.

  • I feel so helpless my mum today has payed another instalment and now thy have payed Β£530 it too late to tell them isn't it πŸ‘Ž

    Please stop feeling helpless and talk to your mum explaining exactly how you feel about this trip.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have been having some trouble with bras. When I go to school, the under part of the bra digs into my skin and I get really itchy and sore. I've tried loosening the straps that go over my shoulders and the one on my back is the loosest it can be. Do you have any tips or suggestions? Or is it time to get a new bra?
    P.S I've been too shy to talk to mum or step mum about it so I don't really want to talk to them about getting a new one.
    -Charlotte

    Hi Charlotte, it is time to not only get a new bra but also to be measured again as your cup size may now be larger.

  • Hi Vicki ! Is it normal to have 2 flabby bits in your vagina

    This is your labia and you can find out more about this part of your body by reading our section on The Reproductive System.

  • Vicki your website has helped me a lot so thanks but one quick question ..when I get my period I wake at 2 or 3 am in the morning why does that happen ?? 😴😴

    This may simply be because you are a little anxious that you may have leaked and will almost certainly stop as you become more used to your period and assured that your pads or tampons will protect you from leakage.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 13 years old and have started my period , but only brown stuff when I was 12, it came regular red blood once but that was about two months ago, I haven't got it anymore at all but I always get really heavy discharge but the clear gooey kind and it just feels wet and its very uncomfortable it feels like I'm weeing heavily when it comes out. Should I consider wearing a pad or tampon? Would it help in anyway? Sorry if this was innapropriate x

    Lots of girls wear a pant liner for when their discharge is heavier than usual and this really is a personal choice. And don't worry about the colour of your menstrual fluid, this very often varies from light brown to dark red.

  • Part 2
    have had a whole half term to do it. I got really stressed and started crying, It all went wrong. Nothing was right. I can't stop crying now and I'm not going to school. I feel so guilty and bad. I hate my self for it. I'm ashamed and embarrassed. I'm lying to my friends and can't stop crying

    We can all have moments when we are overwhelmed by workload and time sensitive projects and yes you may have missed a deadline but that does not mean you should give up. Why not take one evening to look at what you already have and see if you can improve it or need to start again. It is after all far better to put something in and show you have stamina rather than staying away from school and having to make excuses. There is also nothing wrong with letting your teacher know that you have struggled with this task but have now got a clearer view of what is required.

  • Please please please help me

    I had a massive project to do and I only started last night. It was due in on Friday. The teacher said we had to have so much done by today and I dint. I felt so guilt and angry with my self
    Part 1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is your period near if you have loads of stringy discharge?
    Thanks
    Rebecca xx

    Hi Rebecca, discharge can vary in texture and colour from time to time and this is not always a sign that your period is due any time soon.

  • Hi vicki :)
    I'm 15 and been getting discharge varying in colour from browny black to brown with red to light brown. Starts a few days then stops and then starts again. My mum says this isnt my and period and I haven't started bleeding properly because it will turn bright red.
    Is this correct have I not started?

    Not all menstrual fluid is red and it can often vary in colour from light brown to very dark red, all of which is normal and leaves me to believe your period has arrived.

  • Hi Vicki, is it normal for periods go last eight days? Last time it only lasted four days. Thank you.

    Yes this is very normal and nothing to be worried about as periods can often be irregular lasting anything from 2-10 days.

  • Hey Vicki, πŸŽ€

    I want to start using birth control. I want to have sex with my boyfriend of over 2 years. We will definitely use a condom, but I want to be on birth control for extra protection. But I'm really scared to ask my mom. I don't want to tell her it's for sex, so Im just going to say it's for my period, which I'm not lying when I do say that because sometimes it's itregular. But I don't know how to ask her!! Please help! Thanks! β€οΈπŸ’œπŸŽ€

    If you are over 16 and legally old enough to be sexually active there is no need to speak to your parents as your GP or local family planning clinic will offer you contraceptive advice and pills. However, if you are under the age of 16 you do need parental permission for whatever your reasons for considering the contraceptive pill and should remember that sexual relations are prohibited by law for the under 16's.

  • Hey vickiXx

    I have just started to get discharge and was wondering if its a sign of my period so should I start carrying some pads with me when I'm out and about.

    Also on one side of my breasts is starting to grow a bud and when I press down on it it hurts .Will my breast grow evenly? Because the other side isn't developing.

    Thank Xxx

    Hi, discharge is always a great sign that your period is not too far away and keeping some pads or liners with you from now on may be an excellent idea. As for breasts, if you read our section on Boobs and Bras you will quickly see that one breast often develops before the other and that this is very normal indeed.

  • Hi
    Say that my friend went through all of this stuff
    Her grandparents bought her some bras and she thought she was totally ready for a bra so she wore them to her school. While she was getting ready for p.e she saw people whispering and looking at her, that made her feel very self conscious and she couldn't go and tell anyone because she needed the bras and only had her grandparents. How do she deal with this type of judgementle actions? :)

    My advice would be to ignore any looks or comments, if your friend likes her bra and they feel comfortable it does not matter what anyone else thinks.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering why my orgasms only last around 10 seconds? Also when it comes to an end , nothing comes out and it ends up hurting but while it's happening it doesn't hurt

    I hope you can answer my question,
    Thank you from Zoë xx😘

    This is all very normal Zoe.

  • I love being in the shower when I'm on my period, i feel so clean and free. but getting out of the shower , dried and changed is a huge chore :(. Any tips?

    Why not consider tampons ideal for keeping you feeling clean and fresh.

  • Hey Vicki ,
    I'm 12 and just got my period in August 2014 I got my second one in December 2014 and haven't gotten it again yet. Is this normal?

    Yes this is very normal as we often find that periods can have long gaps of several months between each one for the first few years, so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vick ,
    Im really worried im 13 and i started what i thought was my period , but after one day it just stopped its been 2 days and im proper worried i dont know if its normal since then i kept on getting discharge x plzz help x thx a bunch

    Periods can be very light and very short for the first few years, so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi vicki,
    I just started my period today, when I went to the toilet and wiped there was blood on the toilet roll. Today I've been experiencing stomach cramps. I have a pad on but no blood is actually going on to the pad? When I wipe when I go to the toilet there's blood and when I wipe with my pad but the blood isn't just going onto my pad without me wiping, why is this?
    Thank you

    Very often menstrual fluid is released very slowly and only noticed when we wipe ourselves after visiting the toilet so please try not to worry this is still your period.

  • Hello, I'm 12 and I guess I'm an early sprouter. I have around 32 B-C boobs, and I have started my period. But my nipple end has not popped out like it supposed to? I know this is called an inverted nipple, but will they stay like that forever? And is it wrong to think I might have inverted nipples, besides the fact I am only 12?

    At 12 you still have plenty of development to come and nipples are generally the last part of breast development to be noticed so please try not to worry.

  • Hello Vicki, whenever I laugh,cough or sneeze I seem to either leak or wet myself. Coukd you recommend me any of the li-lets pads? Also is this normal because I'm 11?

    Thank you

    It is fairly common for lots of females to leak a little urine when we laugh, cough or sneeze and my tip would be to keep your bladder as empty as possible rather than leaving visiting the toilet until the last minute. You may also find our pant liners are a great way of keeping your underwear clean and protected from little mishaps during the day.

  • Hi vicki. Yesterday i went toilet after playing n chasing bro lol went to loo and saw blood not drops but a patch at first i though it was my period cuz ive been having discharger for 2 yrs but it was on pants near from were i wee
    P.s my back and legs ache
    What does this mean
    Thanks x

    Yes this could be your period and I would advise you to speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them, they will then be able to advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I've been having discharge for 4 months now - I keep pads close to hand but I'm really worried about what do if I have my first period at school! Plus are there any ways I can tell when my first period is coming?
    Thanks 😊

    Why not read my blog entitled Periods and School for all you need to know about being prepared and less anxious. You may also find our sections under periods is a useful read when understanding some of the signs that your period may not be too far away.

  • hi vicki, i am almost 14 and to be honest i am over weight and quite short and i am worried that my period is never going to come i have had discharge for over a year but its white or clear and i have breast development and pubic and underarm hair so where is my period?

    Discharge is often noticed for a little longer than a year so please try not to worry, with so many signs already noticed I am sure you will not have much longer to wait before your period arrives.

  • Hi vicki
    I am 10 and I really want my periods to start,a couple of days ago I started having thick discharge.I also have budding breasted and a few hairs have you any idea when my periods will start ? Thanks !!πŸ‘‘

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait, so please ensure that going forward you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • HOw do I stop feeling sad and nervous and on edge nearly all the time? It's driving me crazy.

    It really is normal to find your moods are changing as you enter puberty but if you find them difficult to manage you may want to have a chat to your parents who will be able to reassure you all is well and support you when you need help.

  • Hi vikki I've been getting discharge for ages and it gets everywhere I get it every day and it is really irritating is this normal

    It is normal for a lot of discharge to be produced from time to time and nothing for you to be overly concerned about. However you may find our Lil-Lets teens pant liners are a great product to use on a daily basis to keep you feeling clean and fresh.

  • Hi there Vicki
    Do you suppose that someone can smell a scented sanitary pad, even when it has just been changed?

    I am a little worried over the subject

    Thanks
    Love Clara

    Hi Clara, I would not imagine anyone can smell a sanitary pad once changed, however some pads do have quite heavy fragrances that can often lead people to believe you have recently sprayed on a body spray. Why not consider our Lil-Lets teens or Freshlock pads, which are fragrance free.

  • Hello Vicki
    Do you think that lil-lets might ever release a teens super applicator tampon?
    Thank you for your time
    Elizabeth

    Hi Elizabeth, you can purchase our NEW Lil-Lets teens super tampons in Boots the Chemist, they were introduced this week.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 14 and hce been getting my period for a couple months now. Im a little late on my period but have been getting a lot of discharge... I haven't been doing anything sexual, so I know I'm not pregnant (thank goodness) but I wonder what would make it late?

    Periods can often be irregular throughout your teenage years and this is nothing to be anxious about and is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi,Vicki,
    I am 9 years old, and under my breasts the measurement is 23" and on the fullest part of my breasts the measurement is 24".are my boobs too big for a 9 year old? Are they bigger than average? What is my bra size? What can I do to hide them? I'm really embaressed because I don't think my friends even have boobs yet. What bra should I wear? What do I do? 😞 Thanks for the help! Please answer my questions. Caitlyn of California.πŸ˜ƒ

    Hi Caitlyn of California, your breast size is 28AA with those measurements.  You might like to consider using a training bra as they are ideal for helping you get used to wearing a bra.

  • Measurement
    186 top
    154 under
    Also please answerCBC965 it is my penpal

    Please measure again in inches or centimetres.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was in the shower the other day and I noticed a bump near my nipple. I'm quite concerned as I don't know what this is. Is it just a spot and will it go away?

    The small raised lump that sits behind the nipple is a breast bud which comprises of muscle, fat, tissue and milk glands.  The breast bud signals the start of breast development.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is there a limit to how many questions you can ask on here because I sent you an URGENT question but you haven't answered my questions for ages and I've sent lots. Is it because I have asked to many on my phone or is it because there is a limit?! PLEASE ANSWER!
    Thank you so much,
    Maggie xx

    Hi Maggie, there is no limit to the amount of questions you ask me and it should be easier to access your responses with you unique reference numbers, so please resubmit. 

  • My mum's bra size isn't on there and neither is mine!

    If you would like to measure all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again but only over your bust at the fullest point.  Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate your bra size for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I asked you recently about masturbating and thrush and whether they link and your answer was no. If I suffer with thrush with my period and without my period, what do I do? A year ago, doctors just said it would go soon but I had my period then. Fo I need some medication as rubbing around that area I very painful. Is this also the case as my period is quite heavy and goes on for around 8 days. Plz answer soon. Millie 😊

    Hi Millie, this is a conversation for your doctor especially if the infection has not cleared up. Whilst you still have thrush you should avoid masturbating which can very often make the area sore when you have this infection.

  • part 2
    By the way i am short and skinny (5 stone) and all the people i hang around with have big breasts 2 of my closest friends have double D cups and the smallest cup in my class is like B and i don't wear i bra. Ive lied that ive started my period because its too embarrassing ive also got pubic hair and new hair i starting to grow under my armpits but no discharge at all! this means i wont start my period for at east 6 months dosent it? its sad and i just wish i was normal plsanswer Mills al Milla

    Hi Mills al Milla, please try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  However, it is possible to notice breast development up until a girl's late teens or early twenties and a period can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18 so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki, (Part 1)
    I'm 14 and going to be 15 in April so basically 2 months and i am really underdeveloped. Its making me so self conscious like i always wear baggy tops and i have NEVER worn a bra only now i starting to develop breasts but they are jut pointy and i don think i can even fit a child bra. Ive not started my period too. Millie al mala please answer in part 2 and can you put this in periods thanks

    Response in part 2.

  • On Friday I noticed an orangey discharge on my liner (I recently started using them as I get discharge regularly) but I didn't think much of it
    Yesterday I noticed it again, it was a peachy orangey discharge, a bit like the colour of rose wine so I asked my mum and she said it's just discharge darkening or its my period
    I also asked my best friend and she said the same (I always ask her advice cos shes already started)
    What do u think it is?
    How long do u think I'll be til I do start???

    This pinky discharge is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi xxx
    So a while ago I went to hospital just because I was slightly unwell and dehydrated and I was okay and then a while later they asked me to come back to be tested for over active thyroid because they noticed my weight would increase and decrease weirdly and they said they would phone and when they never did I assumed I didn't have it. I just recently looked up the symptoms to this and I have a lot of them. Since they never phoned does this mean I don't have it? I don't know what to think

    If the hospital have not come back to you then it is most likely you tested negative and are fine, but if you have any concerns ask your parents to contact the hospital in question for clarification that this is indeed the case.

  • Hi vicki
    Ive just got your teen pads and I have no idea how to use them ive only just
    started my period xxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Why not watch our video on how to use a pad for more on placing pads in your underwear when on your period.

  • Hi vicki I wanna start using tampons but I don't know how to ask my mom can I try tampons can u help pppllllllzzzzz

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't feel embarrassed talking to her about wanting to use tampons.  You might like to suggest that you try using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My dad is really stressed at the minute we just bought a new house to like referbish up and then rent out to people. He is always at this house but then when he comes home he is always really mardy. I just want my old happy dad back. I know hes not like this and its really upseting because he always argues with everyone. Im scared my mum will brake up with him, and im scared because i feel were running out of money.My dad isnt really like a sit down and talk to person so any advice. Thanks Liv

    Hi Liv, why not make home life a little easier for your day, by asking him if there is anything you can do to help, like sweeping up at the new house or even having a cup of tea ready for him when he returns home. They may only be little things but very often they are so appreciated and can ease any tension in the home.

  • The other day I was making tea for my dad and I started to feel dizzy the room started spinning and I felt sick I went up to the bathroom was not sick but my legs were wobbling and I felt as if I was I was gonna pass out, I was sweating uncontrollably and it is really worrying me because I haven't had my period and I am only 12 is this a sign of pregnancy

    There may be lots of different reasons why you felt unwell and I really do feel you have nothing to worry about here. Sometimes standing up quickly can leave us giddy, especially if the room is warm or not eating or drinking enough during the day can have this affect too. If these symptoms continue to be noticed then have a chat with your parents as you may have a virus, which seem to be common during the winter months.

  • I'm 11 and I'm getting very stressed I have started my period and none of my friends are on and I have camp soon and other activities and I'm on for all of them if there a way I could stope my period t this young forever ?? Because it is stressing me out loads and I'm getting upst by it ??

    Please try not to worry and remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so it is likely that some of your classmates will be starting their periods very soon too.  Periods should never interfere with the things we enjoy doing in life so just be sure to have enough sanitary protection with you when you go camping and you will be fine.

  • I think I'm 5"3 and about 9 stone and my bra size is 32aa and has been for years. I also haven't grown for about 5 years.

    We continue to grow and develop into our early twenties so please don't feel that you have finished growing just yet and remember that no matter what your final size and shape it will be unique to you and it is important to learn to love it.

  • Hi. This isn't to do with puberty but I just wanted to know, if you can undo sending a question here because I sent something that I meant to paste into Google.

    I am afraid not, but if I come across a question I can quickly see was not meant for me, then I will delete it, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki I am 14 and been on my period for 2 years it's still notRegular is this normal

  • A 7 year old girl posted that she is 32aa I'm 20 and that size! I feel pretty sad now. I'm DESPERATE to be fuller! I hate being small and I'm average everywhere else! I hate it! :'(

    As you will have seen in my response to other visitors to the site, we are all very different and so will our breast size be, in fact as the breasts continue to develop into a girls early twenties you may find you have a little bit more growth yet to be noticed.

  • I always want to be alone and I don't think this feeling is healthy. I want to be with my boyfriend but that's about it. I just like being on my own but why? I don't understand it. Am I just an introvert or something or is it abnormal? I don't mean I don't love my family or anything, of course I do. But I just want to be alone pretty much all the time and sometimes I even get bored when I'm around people like at work. I don't want to go and I don't enjoy it.

    It is fairly common for teenagers and young adults to prefer their own company and feel they can't be bothered to spend time with friends and family. These feelings will change but you do have to make an effort to take part in family gatherings and friendships to help things along. You may find simply by keeping your bedroom door open is a great start to keeping yourself a little less aloof from others.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So recently I've become fat. Really fat. And it's not just me being self conscious. My BMI is waaaay over average. To be honest, I don't care that much as I know that I'm being healthy. I eat very healthy and try to run at least half an hour a day. But in a couple of months I'm going to India and I'm scared I'm going to be judged by my relatives. They're really judgemental and don't understand that being fat doesn't mean I'm not healthy.

    Rather than worry about what the scales say or what your BMI is, concentrate on a healthy diet and exercise, because during puberty our bodies can change quite a bit and if you are generally healthy your body will find its ideal weight.

  • I think it's really sad that some people feel they can't talk to their parents and more to then point having parents that don't understand or try to. Do you think so too? Sometimes I find it cripplingly hard to tell my mum and dad things especially important things. I just get too anxious and I can't. Because I'm afraid of what they think and could say. I know I need to get over this but I don't know how!

    Having short chats about anything may help you get over your shyness when speaking to your parents and make chatting about more serious or important matters easier. Rather than sitting down and having a serious conversation some people prefer to have a casual chat in the car or when helping to clear dinner away, others find dropping a text or speaking over the phone helpful too.

  • This is similar to another question you had.

    So... I have this feeling that I'm not loved. My mum or dad never tell me they love me or give me a kiss when I leave to go to school and they don't hug me either! Whenever I look at school all the mums kiss their kids and hug them and get told they are loved by their parents but my mum never does. I don't want to tell them or childline or anyone else! What should I do?

    From the unloved child. 😞

    Just because your parents do not openly show affection does not mean they do no love you, so please try not to compare the family values you have to that of those around you.  We really do all show love in different ways.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've recently found out that my parents are splitting up😰 I'm so upset, Im up trying to stay strong because my old sister is destrought. Everything's going to change I don't know what to do, I can't talk to my sister because every time I try to she just starts crying and I don't want to make her upset, what should I do? My mum doesn't want anyone knowing yet but my best friend Coral knows and is being really supportive. Any advice you have would be much appreciated,
    Thanks

    Families can change over the years and as hard as this new way of life may be for you and your sister, you have to understand that your mum and dad still love you both as much as they always have and you will be their priority. So try to support both of them and let them know that you feel the need to chat things over from time to time to avoid you becoming anxious about this new chapter in all your lives.

  • Hi Vicki, before now I've never worn makeup, I went out last Sunday and my mum put some on me and I liked it. How should I tell her I want to wear makeup and own my own??

    Thanks Reese πŸ’œ

    Hi Reese, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about wanting to wear and own a little make-up. Just talk to her.

  • What is TSS. Why is it dangerous and how do I no if I have it??

    To find out more about Toxic Shock Syndrome please visit our main website, which will tell you all you need to know about this very rare illness. Here is the link TSS.

  • %%%%%%
    I'm going on a weekend away next month and i'm worried i'll have to share a room with a girl who hates me. She used to bully me when i was little and even now i'm 16 she still can be mean or just say things in a mean tone. What should i do?

    You can do one of two things: either talk to a teacher at school and explain how this girl has always been mean to you in the past so you would prefer not to be sharing a room with her or if you do end up sharing with her, give her the benefit of the doubt and ask her why she has acted so mean around you.  Who knows, this might be an opportunity for her to realise how bad her behaviour has been and change her attitude towards you.

  • Hello Vicki
    My breasts are about average maybe smaller.I am 13 I still wear a crop top because i like comfy things i will probably need a proper bra but i don't know what to get. All of them are padded will you please advise a type of comfy bra i can wear?

    Thank You for all your help

    Denise

    The best thing to do is to pop along to your local department store and try some different styles and sizes of bras on until you find a bra that feels comfortable on you.

  • mmmmmmm
    I feel so guilty about little things that sometimes i feel sick and can't sleep at night. For example, i feel guilty for not replying to an email and for saying i was hungry. Please help.

    It is fine to have a conscience and you may find that as you enter your teenage years you struggle with your self-confidence often judging how you feel and act around others and if this is acceptable. These feelings will subside as you continue your journey into adulthood, so please try not to worry.

  • Recently I had sex a few times and all the times we used a condom and he pulled out every time and the condom didn't break, is there any chance that I could be pregnant? Thank you for your help x

    I will take this opportunity to remind you of the Law of Consent which states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  So assuming that you are legal, condoms do provide a good level of contraceptive protection and also guard against sexually transmitted diseases.  However, if you have any doubts and think that you might be pregnant, seek medical attention from your GP.

  • Hi Vicki I am 13 I have had my period for 2 years I have discharge that is white/see through when will it go?

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina and it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.

  • Hey vicki it nadiie not been on here for a bit now but I was wondering is it normal to have my periods twices in one month like I come on on the 27 every month and im on till the next month and it carrys on like that im just a bit worries thanks for your time to answer my question from nadiie

    Welcome back Nadiie, a menstrual cycle can last anything between 21-34 days and a period can last between 2-7 days.  You can work out how long your menstrual cycle is by counting on from the first day of your last period until the first day of your next and it doesn't matter if it goes into a different month e.g. January 15th to February 12th is still one period.

  • Before I ask my question please don't say to me about tampons because I'm not allowed to wear them and wouldn't feel comfortable wearing then anyway.
    So I'm going on a school trip and if I change my pad before I leave for the trip and I have a REALLY heavy flow on that trip what shall I do? (It's a day trip and there will be no toilets as its in the mountain area)

    As you will be in a mountainous area with no toilet facilities, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock pads in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • My nan died 4 years ago but im still struggling to cope with it. For a year or so i blocked out all of my feelings and how i felt never mattered but recently ive been having to go to counselling about everything in my life and i just cant seem to control myself anymore. I cry at everything and this is what i was able to avoid by not caring? I know its unhealthy but its easier to block my feelings rater than face them. I need help please

    I am so sorry to hear of your Nan's passing but just try to think of how much she would have wanted you to be happy. Your Counsellor should be able to help you come to terms with your feelings and find a positive way of living your life.  Puberty can naturally be a difficult and demanding time in a young girl's life and your grief is adding to these negative feelings so try to consider ways of helping yourself - joining a club for something you enjoy doing like singing, dancing, sport etc.. would be a good place to start as it will help you restore your self-confidence and boost your serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone).  You might find my blog on  Dealing with the loss of someone helpful.

  • So when I went to get my armpits waxed my brother had to come bc my dad was at work. My mum took me. My brother is 8 and its a bit embarrassing bc he saw me get them waxed and knows I (like all other teens) have hairy armpits

    Talk to your mum about this and ask that if in future, your little brother could wait outside whilst you have your armpits waxed.

  • My boyfriend watches porn and whilst I understand that this is common and normal thing for 17 year old boys, it makes me feel really uneasy. I've brought it up to him in the past and he has just dismissed it and says "don't worry about it". We have a really good relationship and I love him to pieces but I can't help but feel put out and almost as if I'm not good enough for him. We have sex and we both enjoy it but it makes me feel weird that he needs "something else" in addition to that.

    Watching pornography is a pastime that some people like to take part in, but I can assure you he is almost certainly not comparing what he sees on the screen to how he feels about you, they are almost always completely separate.

  • Be honest...
    Do u only wear lil lets pads and tampons?

    Yes, I have only ever worn Lil-Lets products and even when I lived in the US for a couple of years I took my supply of Lil-Lets tampons with me.

  • Hi vicki. For years my dad was cheating on my mum and eventually they broke up. But know hes seeing my friends mum but shes married! i have been stuck knowing this since the beginning of high school every time i try and reach out to him to tell him how its effecting me, he just avoids it and buys me new stuff to get away from it. I dont know how to cope with it anymore and my mums telling me to just ignore it (i told her). I really want to tell them but i love my dad so much and i dont know what to d

    If your dad is not comfortable discussing his relationship then I am afraid you have to respect his wishes and understand that whatever is going on in his personal life will have no impact on his love for you.  His friendship with your friend's mum is their business and I am sure no one holds you accountable for it.

  • Hello vicki I am a huge fan of yours 😘😊 my period is weird when I have a poo my bum bleeds is this my period or something else because I'm really worried- I haven't told my mom πŸ˜ŸπŸ˜ŸπŸ˜ŸπŸ™ŠπŸ™ŠπŸ™Š

    The blood you release when you pass a stool is probably due to constipation so try to introduce more fibre into your diet by eating more fresh vegetables and fruit and drink more water which will help to soften your stools.  Thank you for your support.

  • Hi Vicki
    I usually grow quite regularly and am 12. But recently I lost quite a bit of weight and have stopped growing for a while. Is this normal?
    L

    It is perfectly normal to notice large gaps in between development during puberty so try not to worry.

  • My periods due when I'm supposed to go on holiday! What do i do??

    You might find my blog on Tampons and the Summer Holidays helpful. 

  • I'm to nevrous to buy products in store and I would like to know how to. Ur them without being scared.vicky

    Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about buying them.  However, you could ask your mum or guardian to do this for you or you might like to consider using our online store which you can access via the Lil-Lets UK website.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've recently started my period almost 2 months ago. However when I wear pads it doesn't come but when I don't it does.
    Is this normal?

    Try not to worry as this is perfectly normal.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    Recently I have been growing hair on my nipples,chest ano tummy. I know everyone has light hairs all over there body but mine are going darker and about a centimetre long. I read somewhere that a symptom of amenorrhea is growing hair in a male pattern.
    I'm really worried about this (even though I've recently started my period)

    Actually during puberty body hair does become a little more noticeable and very often disappears all by itself once your hormones have settled down into a more manageable cycle.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I feel a bit left behind. Im 14 and my friends are doing stuff with boys and I haven't even kissed a boy. It makes me feel a bit childish please help xxxxxxx

    It doesn't mean you're immature if you haven't kissed a boy yet so try not to worry as we all do this in our own time.  Try to remember that it is much better to kiss someone you feel attracted to rather than someone you don't simply because your friends have.

  • my mum and dad haven't noticed how depressed i have been the last year or so, i don't blame them because i always hide it from everyone around me. who can i talk to about how sad i am feeling all the time. (that isn't my parents) THANK YOU!!!

    maddie xxxx

    Hi Maddie, puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time in a young person's life as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so you're not alone in feeling this way.  Why not mention how you're feeling to your friends and other family members if you don't want to talk to your parents.  You could also try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music or watching a funny film as this will help to boost your serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone).

  • Hi Vicki, I've self harmed with a razor once before last December and I haven't done it since but do you have any advise on what I can do instead of cutting when the urge comes. Thank you! PS. your site has helped me so much and I really appreciate that you spend your time doing this. It may sound silly but you are the only person I feel like I can talk to in these dark times. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx(so I know its mine)

    Self-harming is an expression of intense, negative feelings that aren't your fault as puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time so please call Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get the professional help you need.  You could also try talking to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will also help.  Thank you for your kind words of support, I am happy to help if I can.

  • Hey Viki
    I was just wondering how you know when your period has properly stopped? Because sometimes when the blood stops coming after a day I don't know whether to stop wearing a pad or not. I have also recently just started(3rd one) so I don't have a pattern yet and can't tell by that. Sorry if you can't answer this question!

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so the best thing to do is to wear liners until a pattern forms and you know how long your menstrual cycle will be. You can do this by counting on from the first day of your last period to the first day of your next.

  • Part 2 she said she won't talk to me tomorrow I havent done anything and don't tell me to talk to her coz she won't and I was so close to her literally half a month ago. What shall I do as I have most lessons with her I felt so upset and annoyed and I know she meant it, what do I do tmoz shall I talk to my true best friend who been always there for me but he's a boy. Thx from
    SGS

    Hi SGS, as your friend is accusing you of doing something you haven't done, I can only assume that she is using it as a way of not being friends with you anymore or she has been misinformed by someone else?  In both cases, I think you need to talk to her, so be frank and honest and if she doesn't want to be friends anymore, you still have your other friend.  You might find my blog on Keeping and making Friends useful.

  • This morning my apparent bestfriend Messaged me and appantly I was being really mean to her other friends, and I had no idea what she was talking about I would never hurt anyone ever. And she said to me that she deleted my contact and want me to do the same. Part 1 from sgs

    Response in part 2.

  • Hi,
    I'm 13 and I started my period in December. My next period (last month) was 5 days late and now my 3rd period hasn't started yet and was due to start 11 days ago. I don't know if this is normal. Also, I have a swimming gala next weekend, what if my period is on then, I don't want to use tampons. Please reply adapt x

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  As there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use and all it takes is a little practice.

  • I am one of the most developed girls in my class, i am 32a-b i am over 100lbs i have had discharge since september and i have it everyday and i have to wear liners to stop it staining,i am almost full (down there). i had really bad cramps for a couple of days in october and me and my mum thought it was my appendix so i was taken to out of hours but they said it is just period pains when do you think i will start?

    it is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • Is it normal for you period not to come on every month? I usually get a heavy period that lasts about 8 days. Sometimes it's at the beginning of the month, sometimes the middle and sometimes the end. Every now and the I don't get it at all and some months I get it twice! I have had a period for 6 years. Should I be worried?

    As your periods are still quite irregular and long and heavy, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi,the other night I woke up in the morning with my pj shorts soaked in the middle it wasn't blood or pee and I havent told anyone?! Help?! btw I'm 12

    Try not to worry as discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I have a really close friend. She has a twin sister who she hates a lot. In June, me, her and her sister will all go on a school trip. So I asked her if she wanted to share a dorm with me and she said no. But when her sister asked her she said yes. She seems frightened to share a dorm with me. I don't know why she's scared. I feel like I've done something wrong. What can I do for her?

    Even though your friend says she hates her twin sister, it's normal for her to feel a little safer and confident sharing a dorm with her as you are going away so try not to take it too personally.  I'm sure you will all have a great time so try not to worry.

  • hi, i have had my period for like nearly a year now and i really want to use tampons, but i'm really scared of getting TSS! how will i know if i have any symptoms if i'm already felling sick!? (i feel sick when i have my period)
    Thanksxx

    Please allow me to reassure you.  Men, women and children can get TSS following a burn, boil, insect bite or after having surgery and occasionally a small proportion of women who are menstruating and using tampons might be affected but just to give you an idea of numbers; TSS affects roughly around 40 people in the UK each year so you can understand how rare it is.  However, it is important to know the signs and these can include a sudden high fever, sickness, diarrhoea, muscle aches, a sore throat, fainting and a rash that looks a little like sunburn.  So if you have been using a tampon and notice any of these signs, remove the tampon immediately and ask your mum to take you to get checked out by a doctor.   Try to remember that millions of women and girls from all over the world use tampons and enjoy their discreet protection so when and if you feel ready, why not consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Ok so basically yesterday I had cramps and felt something wet so I went to the toilet and saw discharge with little spots of blood on it. I realized that it could possibly be my period but then my period isn't due till like another week or two. So my mum told me to sleep with a pad on and this morning I saw that my discharge is yellow. Should I be worried? My older sister said it's probably because I've been eating unhealthily. But I really don't know

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicky i am in year 8 and a 32 aa bra size (padded) but have small boobs and am wondering if in year 9 they will be the same and that they wont grow i really am starting to worry.

    thank you

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other which is what makes us who we are.  It is possible to notice breast development up until a girl's late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi. I'm only 13 years old and I have a weird addiction to watching pornography. I hate myself for doing it but I just get the urge to watch some. I haven't told my parents I couldn't stand the way they would treat me if I told them. What shall I do? I can't go to my GP cuz my mum will know something's up. Help! It started about 2 years ago. And everyday I hate myself more because of it. Please help xxxx

    It is normal to be curious about sex and pornography due to the massive increase in activity of your sex hormones but please try to use caution whilst doing this as it can sometimes give a distorted view of what a loving, respectful sexual relationship should be like.  Try to moderate the amount of time you spend doing this and concentrate instead on the things that are more important to you like family, friends and your education.

  • Hi vicki xx
    I need help my mum told me to leave it a while with this boy that asked me out but three days down the line we r going back out again πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜” xx
    I love him so much but I don't want her to find out but I am scared she will read my messages and I will get into loads of trouble πŸ˜–xx
    What should I do ??????.?????? Thank u

    You should really respect your mum's wishes so why not be honest with her and compromise by agreeing to be just friends with this boy until you're older as this will also give you the time to get to know what he is really like.

  • Hi vicky, this happens all the time after p.e or dance whenever I start sweating I get very smelly down there, why and anyway how to help this?

    You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there

    .Teens Wipes



  • Hi vicki
    I'm 13 and I find that every day I find white liquid all over my pants
    And it's really bugging me,what dose this mean?!

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance of the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • Hi vicki I got brown discharge 3 months ago and haven't had it since what is this
    Love kailey x

    Hi Kailey, brown discharge can often present itself as first period but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicky, I have acne and it isn't really severe but it is mild or moderate so i'm not sure if i should see a dermatologist, benzoyl peroxide and salycylic acid don't help my acne and it keeps spreading. Do you have advice as to wether i should see a dermatologist? Thanks

    Your GP will be able to advise on the best course of action.

  • when I sleep i wear a pad but it gets all over my sheets .What do i do ?

    You might like to consider trying Lil-Lets Freshlock Night pads as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.


  • I've been wearing a bra since 4th grade and now im in the 7th wearing a 32a. I've had a lot of thick and very gooey discharge since I was in 5th grade. I was just wondering do you know when I might start my period?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki iam recently turned 13 and Ive been getting my peroid for about a year now and it was okay at first but now iam getting really painfull cramps even when iam not ony peroid they come before my peroid during my peroid and after my peroid even weeks after iam not on my peroid please help thanks!

    As your stomach cramps are persistently painful, ask your mum to book you an appointment with your GP.

  • I'm 13 nearly 14 and have quite big boobs, underarm and pubic hair,a few spot and I have had discharge for quite a while but I haven't started my period yet. What if I never get my period?? What'll happen and will this mean I can't have children??πŸ˜”πŸ˜«

  • Hi, im 12 and this lad that i know well, we were close and anyway he asked me to do it with him,he was drunk and i said no, so i told my friends that i could trust, that has asked me to have s** but then someone must have told someone and that person must have told the guy that asked me. so he sent me a message says i have never asked you for sex when was this stop sh***ing. so i got annoyed at him because he was denying it. i have pics of when he asked me, should i try and talk it over? Thanks Mia

    Hi Mia, whilst it was totally inappropriate for this boy to ask you to be sexually intimate, it was also inappropriate for you to share this with others. My advice would be to move on and not speak about this matter again to either this boy or your friends.

  • i really like this boy in my class but I have a really good relasionship with him as a friend and i don't want to ruin it by telling him that i like him ??????? what shall I do !!!??!!!!?!!!!!!!?!

    Why not continue being friends with him and you will be able to tell if he likes you too in time.

  • My bra keeps unclipping itself which is very annoying. I have the correct size and everything. This happens to very bra, new or old. It's fine for about 2 hours, but then it unclips. I am not sure why. I have tried hooking it on loosest and tightest but still no results. Even when I am not doing much physical activity.

    I can only assume that the bras you have are too big because bra clasps are usually quite tight so the next time you go shopping, be sure to try some on until you find one that fits you well and doesn't come undone.

  • hi viciki

    im really sceared to use a tampon i have looked at a lot of
    infomation on lil lets? but I still don't know what to do
    charlotte xx

    Hi Charlotte, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.  For some help with this, you might find our video on How to insert a non-applicator tampon useful.

  • Hi vicki, hope you're doing well ☺

    My school skirt is very very long. I mean It comes down to below my knees! Of course I don't want it very high but just above the knee would be good. Any idea of how to fix this?? BTW it has a back vent so I am not sure if hemming would work.

    From Becky

    Hi Becky, I think you need to talk to your mum or guardian about this as you might need to ask a professional seamstress to do the alteration for you.

  • Hiya Vicki!
    I have had a dark brown discharge in my underwear recently, I had one period a while ago but I'm pretty sure this was discharge as it was gooey ish. Could it be my period? (Sorry this may have been inappropriate, please answer though).
    Thanks so much for answering all these questions, it helps so much having websites like thisπŸ‘ x

    Dark brown discharge is perfectly normal so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Thank you for the support.

  • I'm am scared to sleep because of my time of the month, what do I do?

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to fear them.  You can easily be prepared by using pant liners which will provide you with protection should your period arrive whilst you are sleeping.  

  • Hi vicki do you like my name? My name is Alex (Alexandra) I don't really like it but do you?

    I think your name is great.

  • Hey Vicki! I have two questions:
    1. I started my period on December 27th, it was only one day and was really light but it was definitely my period but I haven't had anything since...is this normal? Will it come back soon?
    2. I want to ask my mum for the lil lets teens starter pack but not sure how, it will be awkward even though I always chat to her about stuff.
    Thanks! Xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about wanting a teens Starter Pack.  They are available from Boots, Superdrug, Tesco or Asda and are not only filled with samples of our teens range but also a Becoming a teen booklet which is crammed with useful information to help you through puberty.

  • Hi, Viki
    Lately my bra has been leaving marks on my skin , even when I have it on the first hook. I don't know whether it's too small, but if you could help me it would be much appreciated.
    Thanks
    Emily

    Hi Emily, as your bra is leaving marks, it might be time to get a bigger size so please talk to your mum.

  • Dear Vicky
    I would love to try some of the lil lets products but I don't want my horrible step mum ordering it so I would like to order it myself is theremany possible way I could do this thank you
    Xox Shan

    Hi Shan, if you don't want to ask for permission from your stepmum, ask your dad instead and then pop onto the home page of this website and fill in your details by clicking on the contact tab.

  • Hi vicki,
    I haven't got my period yet and I'm 13.
    Lately I have been getting adrenaline rushes, every minute. They won't stop and I can't eat because I feel like I'll get more sick and also for some reason I just don't feel like eating all the time. Is this something to do with my period or anxiety or what?!
    btw I have had discharge for 2 years now if that helps xx
    Rachel 🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜🐜

    Hi Rachel as you enter puberty your body will experience lots of different changes and there may be times when you feel a little anxious our excited which can often supress appetite. So when you feel like this try very hard to eat smaller meals or healthy snacks such as fruit, nuts or oat bars and if these feelings continue then consider chatting things over with your family.

  • hi Vicki, one of my boobs is a 34a and the other 34aa what siz bra should I wear?
    thanks x0757 (ref number)

    When you go bra shopping, you should try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  You might be able to find a bra with removable pads which will help until your smaller breast catches up in size.  Try to remember though that it is very normal to notice that one breast is larger than the other but they do eventually even up in size so try not to worry.

  • Hi, I'm 15 and been on my period since I was 13 and I have a complex congenital heart condition and was only told recently I can have children even though I'm not planing a pregnancy any time soon. My periods come 3-4 months sometimes 5 months only had my period 9 times in 2 years and in between my periods have white discharge and sometimes brown and bad pains. What's wrong ? I'm not sexually active and am a Virgin. Thanks

    This is very common for girls new to periods with long gaps of several months often being noticed throughout the teenage years. So please try not to worry this is all very normal, as is experiencing discharge in between your period.

  • I'm 11 and have had discharge for a year, but my mum started her period when she was 13/14. I am much taller than she was at this age, will this effect anything? I also wear a 34 A bra.
    Thanks xx

    As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.  We don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting so try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki,
    I was just wondering why people shave down there? Is it more hygienic if you do? Do most people shave down there? Btw I'm 13 and haven't started my perioud yet!
    Thanks for your help😘

    Yes I think girls do find that shaving or trimming their pubic hair is more hygienic.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you'v been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicky!
    i am one of the most developed, i have the 3rd biggest boobs(bra size) in my friendship group of 9! i have had discharge since the start of september 2014 and i get it everyday and i get LOADS i have to wear lil-lets liners otherwise it stains, i once had REALLY bad cramps so bad i thought it was my appendix and i got took to out of hours. I have lots of pubic hair you know wear and it is thick and completely black and almost completely full so when do you thing i will start my period?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • My mum hates me and everyone around me hates me. I have a club all about hating me and I want to commit suicide. My best friends don't even like me anymore… Why does nobody like me. I have always tried to be nice and I only get smiles given when I give people everything they want but if I say something like "no you cannot have my phone" they will try to make me feel left out. Why is this happening to me (sorry if I look like I am selfish)

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time in a young person's life when they undergo such massive physical and emotional changes all at once, it's little wonder they experience self-doubt so please don't think you're alone in feeling this way.  I'm sure that your family and friends don't hate you so please talk to them about how you're feeling and consider ways of giving your self-confidence a boost.  Joining a club for something you enjoy like singing, drama or a sport might be a good place to start.  Remember that you have to learn to love yourself before you can expect others to so really believe that you are lovely and fabulous and things will get better.  You can also call Childline on 0800 1111 for some support.

  • hi i am 17 i have had my period since i was 9 the are regular and have been for 2 years they have now stopped! what is going on

    For peace of mind, book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki, you've always been a great help whenever I have need your advise on something so thank you!
    I have a query about a boy I'm friends with, over the past week he's asked me 3 times if I have a crush on anyone and won't give it up. I showed it to my friend, at some point he sarcastically said 'I love you' and she said that he's always flirting with me (via text&in person.) Should I ask him about it, or leave it? what is your view?
    Thank you! Cate xx (this isnt relevant but we're 15)

    Hi Cate, if you like this boy, I think you should be honest and tell him as he clearly like you.  Thank you for the support.

  • My period is well late 😱 it usually come at about the 8th and now its the 21st 😡 what are the first signs of pregnancy ⁉⁉ I am only 12 and I fear I may be pregnant but idk how cuz I haven't had intercourse xx how long does sperm live for when it is in the air???
    And yes I know you period isn't regular until your hormones calm down but please reply asap

    Try not to worry as the only way you could possibly be pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male.  You're right in saying that irregular periods are normal for a while due to your hormones so please try not to worry.

  • Hi viki its hermione
    And my discharge smells it smells really strong I think it smells like wee and it's makeing my vergina smelly
    What does it mean
    Please help
    Xxxxxxx

    Hi Hermione, it is normal for discharge to have a slight odour and you might find that using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes will help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • What is the difference between the different types of bra and how does eadh one affect how your boobs look?
    Wired bra? Padded bra? Normal bra? Push up bra?
    Thankyou🌸
    Deneera

    Hi Deneera, the best way of finding this out is to pop along to your local department store and try on the different styles you mention.  This is also a great way of finding out which style suits you best and feels the most comfortable.

  • I am a 15 year old girl, and am extremity Sporty and fit. I train 5 times a week at a high intensity. I am slim and have a toned body. However I weigh around 130 pounds... I am tall also. Is this too heavy or is it just the muscles being heavy?

    You are obviously a very fit young lady so please try not to focus on your weight and simply continue being as active as you are and make sure you eat a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables. Your body will find its ideal weight for you without you having to jump on the scales.

  • Sorry for being annoying , I've decided that I'm not ready for this Italy trip and I cannot go. It just telling my mum this now that's the problem. I'm so worried my parents have paid Β£430 towards it already but I know I can't go .I'm too anxious and I get too homesick. Is it too late to tell my mum that I don't want to go , is Β£430 too much money and if it is I would feel so bad about wasting it but I just cannot go! help! Thanks πŸ™ˆ

    I think you really need to discuss this matter with your parents, so try to be honest and express your fears to them as soon as possible.

  • Is it okay to masturbrate at 12 years old because I'm literally doing it every night and can't stop and my periods are really weird so how can I stop cause Im literally addicted. I love you btw 😘 love ellana xxxxx

    Hi Ellana, during puberty feelings of a sexual nature are caused by an increase in activity of sex hormones and masturbation is a natural and instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.  However, it is important to focus on things that are more important to us in life such as family, friends and our education so try to do this in moderation.  Thank you for the support.

  • Emmie, 15.
    My period is late, is this normal? Okay so I'm usually 'on' about the 3rd-15th every month, today is the 21st and I'm still not on! I did have really weird cramps the other day that were making me feel sick abit, but then they went. I'm really worried about it πŸ˜– (Ps, I'm not sexually active)
    Many thanks

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to reach a balance for your regular period.

  • My period is late, is this normal? (Ps, I'm not sexually active)

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm going to break up with my boyfriend but i'm really scared of sounding really mean but I just don't feel that way about him. Do you have any tips for dumping someone? We've been together like a week but he's already said he loves me and I feel really awkward around him.
    Thank for all the help you've given me
    Txxxx

    The kindest thing to do is to be completely honest with this boy and tell him as diplomatically as possible, that you would prefer to be friends with him.  Thank you for the support.

  • Hello. I was wondering what type of bra I should wear. I am 15 and am now wearing a wireless 32A, but the bans seems too tight. I am 26 in underneath, and 29 around. What type and size should I be wearing?

    Thanks,
    Melissa

    Your bra size is a 30AA with those measurements but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I have notice red spots in my pants and i would like to know what it means and if it's my period coming and how long it would be-Marley

    Hi Marley, the red spots you have noticed were probably from your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki I was just wondering if you could tell me what's best to wear when I go to my gymnastic competion thanks Emily

    Hi Emily, gymnasts tend to wear leotards which as you know, are quite tight-fitting so why not consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use and will provide you with the discreet sanitary protection you need.  All it takes is a little practice.  Good luck in the competition.

  • hey vicki x im 12 and my name is immi x and im in high school,england,
    and i want to join singing lessens but i dont want my bff to know x what should i do? i know this isnt the avage question u would get asked but i thought u might help x thanks xxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Immi, talk to your parents about this and maybe consider joining a choir in your neighbourhood for great practice.

  • is light pubiv hair, pubic hair?

    It is possible for pubic hair to be fair.

  • Please help me
    I'm on holiday and my period has arrived
    I stayed in because I have nothing with me and it would be a massive mess
    What do I do now and how do I tell my mum so she can go out
    I am so scared

    Try not to worry and talk to your mum as she will know what you need.  Remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed.  Wherever you are on holiday, your mum will be able to get hold of some pads for you so please talk to her.

  • What happens to girls in the developing countries
    Many of them aren't in education so how do they know what's happening and what to do?
    Also do their pireods come earlier or later

    Periods arrive at pretty much the same time for all girls regardless of where they live in the world. And I am sure just like everyone else school, parents, family members and friends will share their knowledge of periods and puberty.

  • My mum never buys me my own tampons and towels. She buys them when she and my sister are on and I just have to use them. They're not right for my flow and there are never many left. She should see when I'm on as she empties the bin and there in an obvious place. What should I do :'(

    Please talk to your mum about this.

  • I've had very irregular and very heavy (very, very,) pigeons for 3.5 years now :(
    I'm 15 now :(
    It's really annoying and I don't know what I should do
    I feel extremely achey and tired, with GCSES soon, it's going to be hard
    What should I do
    Will I ever be regular
    Also can heavy irregular pireod effect pregnancy,

    As you've been experiencing irregular periods for three and a half years, why not ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP?  

  • Will my bum get bigger during/after puberty? Because my bum has a shape but it's not big like if I wear a dress for example you can see the shape but my bum is not big. -ChocoLover P.S. Sorry if this is Inappropriate

    Hi Chocolover, as hips naturally become wider during puberty, it is also natural that our bottoms widen too so try not to worry as your body will develop perfectly. 

  • Is it normal to have hairs on your bum? Not loads just a few?
    Plz. Reply
    -Spiral

    Try not to worry as it is normal to notice hair in places all over your body.

  • Hi Viki, I'm the same girl who was talking about me feeling so depressed and my brother who has asperges. Anyway, I always overthink things. For example: if someone looks at me just walking down the street or at school then my mind races with a million thoughts about if they don't like me or think I look ugly or something completely ridiculous like that! I know it's silly to overthink all that but I can't help it and at its worst it can lead to a panic attack or me almost having one. Pls help Viki! πŸ’•

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel massive self-doubt as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so please remember that you are not alone in feeling this way.  Why not consider ways of boosting your self-confidence?  Joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama, sport or a choir would be a good place to start as you would also meet new people.  You might also like to consider learning some yoga as it will teach you how to relax.

  • I want children, but I'm scared sleeping with a guy hurts. I will wait for the right guy and all. What do I do? Any advice?

    You are worrying needlessly about something that will happen naturally when you're older and have met someone who loves and respects you.

  • Hey. I text ALOT. My dad asked me who I was texting so much and he said if I didn't answer he'd take my phone. I didn't answer but he didn't take it. I'm kinda scared Bc I text this boy (nothing bad) but I'm not supposed to text guys. Do you know how I can limit my texting? It's about 1000 text a month and it's way too much. I want to stop though. And I always text first too. Should I just wait till someone text something important? Thx. -123girl

    Hi 123girl, it sounds to me as if you've already realised that you're texting too much so why not try to keep yourself busy with other things and focus on them instead.  You could join a club for something you enjoy which will enable you to meet new people and talk to them as opposed to texting.  You should respect your dad's wishes so please bear this in mind the next time a boy texts you.

  • I'm 13 and have a boyfriend. I want to tell my mum but I never spoke to her about boys. I don't even tell her if I'm going town with a boy mate. Any ideas on how to slowly bring the conversation up or make her ask me herself?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so none of this will come as a surprise to her.  Why not start the conversation by asking how old she was when she first had a boyfriend?

  • Hey vicki,
    I'm 16 and turning 17 in July this year. I started developing breasts and pubic hair from when I was perhaps 11 years old... However, I only started my period when I was 15 in year 11... My breasts are still relatively small (32A). I still haven't developed nipples and I feel really awkward... I don't know what to do... What's happening? Why am I so late? All my other friends have it... Plus I'm worried that I won't reach a size 32B eitherπŸ˜”
    F x

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  Having said this, it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hay so I'm really scared 😭 recently my vigina has become really itchy so I had a look just to check everything is all right and my vigina is really red inside and the bit when I wee from is purple!? Does this mean I have TSS!? I do not use tampons but I do mastubate sometimes PLZ help I'm so scared 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 thnx x p.s age 13
    Lily

    Hi Lily, try not to worry as masturbation does not cause TSS.  It is normal to experience an itchy vagina with pubic hair growth and development.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 and shave my legs and armpits and wax my upper lip because I get loads of hair, I havnt started my period yet btw. And my parents know I do this. I want to shave my arms coz they bother me coz they're quite hairy. I've heard that if you shave your arms they will grow back thicker is it true? Also, do you think it's ok for me to shave my arms in your opinion? Xx

    I am not a fan of shaving arms as the hair can appear coarser and darker when it grows back, although this is not actually the case. You may want to consider waxing this area, but in my opinion hair to the arms is absolutely nothing to be worried about.

  • how come some people can shave their pubic hair and others find it too uncomfrotable? I've tried it before as well and it's just not a nice feeling plus its itchy and scratches my pants when growing in making them wear out more easily.

    We are all different but shaving is something you can get used to in time so try to persevere and you will find that it will become easier the more you do it.  However, if this isn't an option, you might like to consider simply trimming your pubic hair instead and you can do this by using a comb pressed against the skin so your pubic hair shows through and then you can trim it with scissors.  By doing this, you will avoid any itching.

  • HI Vicki,
    I'm a swimmer and I got my first period not too long ago. SInce i've just started, I'm a little nervous about using tampons. Do you have any tips on how I can copntinue swimming? I don't really know what to do.

    When on your period and swimming it really is advisable to wear a tampon and you may find our Lil-Lets teens tampons are an ideal place to start. Each pack comes with full directions on how to insert and remove a tampon.

  • Hey viki could u interview samantha Womack who plays ronnie in eastenders cause she's a real inspiration thanks xxxx

    I will add her to the list.

  • hi vicki how many pounds are in a stone? thanks for being so helpful I love your site. you encourage us all x

    There are 14lbs to  every  1 stone.

  • How can I stop worrying about everything?? Like at the moment about that I might not get into the college I want and what do I do then? And just heard that the accommodation is needing serious fixing because its attracting bad people so it's going to be done up and that might mean I might not get a place there because of all the refurbishment work...for example. It drives me crazy..

    It is very normal to feel a little anxious about things that have yet to happen or that are new to you, my advice would be learn all you can so you have no surprises when you do go to college and remember that very often you can work around problems if you simply sit down and thinks things through with others. I like to think of life as a bit of a challenge.

  • Hi, this summer I am going on holiday for two weeks so it is likely that I'll be on my period, the problem is I've have got a massive family (10) and it will be really embarrassing what should I do to make it discreet xxx thx

    Take some pads or tampons with you when away and I am sure you will find that your period does not stop you from enjoying your holiday one little bit.

  • I'll call her l. We were really good friends for a solid year. She was there when I fell out with c. But this year I've sort of become friends with c again. Now l won't answer my texts and calls and turns away when im there I asked her what was up but she said that me and c are being horrible. But the thing is we never did anything to l and we still spent a lot of time with her. They've borh convinced me not to believe one another. What do I do for l? I know this may be hard to answer.

    Let both of your friends know you refuse to be in the middle of their quarrels and that you would much prefer it if you could all make an effort to get along, letting them both know you value their friendship equally.

  • Sorry Vicki. I couldn't understand the table:
    92cm over
    78cm under
    Thanks
    Hippychicky (ps u saved my life)

    36A is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Hi vickie it's Elizabeth I was wondreing why u have not answered my question about period and breast and anorexic thing plz answer soon your the best elizabethxx

    Hi Elizabeth, your question has been answered.

  • Hi Vicki,
    You know how you should not wear a towel for more than 8 hours. What happens if I sleep for longer than that should I set an alarm to change it?? Even if it is the end of my period and nothing is coming should I still change it after 8 hrs. How long should I leave a Tampon in for?? Also can u describe in words how to put one in as our wifi is so bad it takes 30mins to load 1 minuet.
    Thanks
    Happygirl12345

    Hi, firstly if you sleep for longer than 8 hours when wearing a pad there is no need to worry, it is only tampon that should never be worn for longer than 8 hours as they worn internally. As for inserting a tampon you will find details on how to do this when purchasing a pack of tampons as each pack contains full instructions.

  • Hi vicki, i got my period the other day and im so used to wearing thongs with leggings and because i havnt tried a tampon yet im restricted to one pair of jeans that dont show a pant line. I feel disgusting ehen im on my period like i cant feel 'pretty' no matter if im wearing makeup or not. I hate feeling like this have you got any ways of how i can maybe overcome this? Thanx

    There is a wide range of very pretty underwear that are not thongs and more suitable for when on your period and wearing a pad, so why not purchase some and try these out when on your periods.

  • hey! i would like to know how to shower on ur period? my shower kind of leaks out onto my bathroom, and sadly it is unfixable! what should i do?

    There should be no need to shower any differently when on your period and any blood that is lost when showering will run down the drain along with the water, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, I went to Marks and Spencer with my mum to be measured for my bra size and I was a 34aa and still am. She gave me these kind of thin cotton bras how long will I be wearing these till I can get an actual bra how do I ask my mum for a normal one or do I wait when this one gets too small for me? Thanks

    A bra is a bra regardless of its style so please don't feel your bra is any less important than any other style of bra.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am 14 and have had about 4 irregular periods. This time my period started for a day or two then I got a lot of discharge for a day and now its back. Except this time it is extremely heavy!!! On nights I'm leaking through to my bed and last night my pad was completely covered!!!!! I'm starting to worry it's never going to end. Thanks xxx

    Periods can often be heavy from time to time or day to day and during the night you may find our Lil-lets Freshlock night pads, which are wider at one end more suitable and they are widely available in most large supermarkets and chemists such as Boots.

  • Hi vicki

    I'm afraid that if I wear a bra all my friends will laugh and tease me because none of them wear bras, plz help

    Reply immediately cuz I'm going in town 2morrow and dunno if I should get a bra, ok?
    From krissie Newbury

    Yes some of your friends may have a little giggle, but this will be out of embarrassment and not malicious, in fact they may even be a little jealous that you are the first to wear a bra and even respect you for going first.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So 2 days ago my mum took me shopping for my first bra. I tried on a 10aa and a 12aa. The 10aa fitted well although it was a little tight and the 12aa was too big. We bought the 10aa because she said it will stretch. But whenever I take it off my nipples hurt (although I am still growing) but there are red marks under my breasts. Is my bra too small? x

    Hi, it may be a little small or it may simply be that you are still getting used to wearing a bra which can take a couple of weeks. See how your new bra feels once it has been washed as this can soften the bra making it more comfortable.

  • Hello vicki I'm kat I get really bad periods and I go to the doctor for them my doctor was talking to me and the subject of brirth control came up I don't think my dad want me to take birth control but what age should you normally take it thanks kat

    Hi Kat, sometimes when the menstrual cycle is very heavy or painful a form of the contraceptive pill is offered. It does not mean you can now be sexually active or that you will be protected from unwanted pregnancies it is merely to regulate your period and I am sure your mum will explain this option to your dad.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So earlier I went to the loo and got loads of discharge, it was te gooey type that makes you feel wet down there (sorry if that was innapropriate). I was just wondering if it is normal to get loads of gooey discharge that it wet and clear/sometimes really yellow?
    Thanks so much, you're page really helps! X

    Hi, discharge can vary from day to day, one day possibly clear and runny, the next cream yellow and thick, this is all very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • Recently I told u that i wet my self a little every now and then and have to change my pants twice a day. You told me that I should go to the toilet more often. However I do but it still happens. Any other suggestions to make it stop?
    Thank you.

    I would now speak to your parents about this matter and they will then decide what to do and possibly will pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • I've just self harmed and now I feel even worse than before I don't know what to do I can't tell my parents because they won't understand and I'm sorry if it's inappropriate x

    I can assure you, your parents will understand and will want to help you understand why you feel the need to do this. So please be brave and have a chat to them letting them know how you feel and that you need help.

  • Does doing sports affect the size of your boobs?

    No, not at all.

  • Hi
    I only got my first period yesterday. It happened at night so when I woke up my pjs were stained. When I went to look my pants were completly coved in blood and I put on a pad the next hour I went to the toilet and the pad had leaked. This happened the whole day but I kept changing pads to keep clean but I did not tell my mum. I put on double pad but I didn't leak through. Will it always be this much ?
    Thanks I love your blog

    Not all periods are heavy, but it may be a good idea to keep some pads for a heavier flow with you from now on, just like our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal or long pads and you really should share your news with your mum so she can purchase some pads for you from now on.

  • Hey vicki
    I am glad I found you. My younger sister who is 13 has started her periiod however I am 15 and haven't even started mine is this normal.

    Thank you x

    Yes this is very normal and you will often find sisters will get their period at different ages so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki
    I am new to your website and I very glad I found you . I have noticed that my discharge has changed colour to a deal drown colour is this normal

    Kind regards ️xx

    Light brown discharge can often be a sign that your period has arrived and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • are you ment to wear panty liners everyday?

    Only if you want to, lots of people like to wear a pant liner on a daily basis, but just as many are happy to go without.

  • I think my mum doesn't love me. She never hugs me or kisses me but she does hug my siblings. She didn't even do it when I was Ill in hospital. When I wear something new she just asks if it fits but if my sister wears something new she compliments her. She tells my siblings she loves them but she's never said it to me she always shouts at me to clean and do as she says but if I ask my younger sister to pick up her toys she shouts at me to do it. I think she hates me. Luciee xox

    Hi Luciee, I am sure your mum loves you very much and this extra attention being paid to your siblings may be because they are a little younger. However, it is clear that you are hurt by her behaviour and as such why not have a chat to your mum when things are quiet letting her know that you could use a little bit more attention too, especially now you are a teenager.

  • Hello Vicki!

    I have had one period and haven't had my next one for a while, however from reading your answers I know that this is normal/fine. I really want to use tampons, because they look more comfortable and easier to use, however I'm not sure where to put it. This is really worrying me because not only do I want to use tampons I think that I need to know where it is! Please help me! I really like this website it has help me so much!

    Skyler

    Hi Skyler, why not read my blogs on the reproductive system you will quickly see that there are three openings between your legs and the middle one will be your vagina. Our videos on inserting a tampon are very useful too.

  • Hi I am 7 years old and have a bra size of 32aa is that normal

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age and you find lots of girls your age have varying sizes of breasts and this will be the same throughout life.

  • Hi Vicki
    Basically I got measured for a bra in M&S just before summer, where they said I was a 32C. But because I always found bras EXTREMELY uncomfortable I decided to get them WITHOUT underwire.
    I feel like I should get one with underwire but should I get measured again, or would it be fine to just get a 32C with underwire?
    I never really understood the "only 2 fingers rule" when trying on bras so any other tips on checking if a bra fits, thanks Vicki x

    I think if you have not been measured for more than six months then you should revisit the store and ask to be measured again as your size can change a lot in this time.

  • I know you said periods become regular with hormonal changes but what are the first signs of pregnancy xx I know I am probs not preggas but I just wanted to know xx I am starting to worry a little as my period usually arrives on the 8th but today is the 20th x I have not had sex but just to be on the safer side pls answer asap xx

    If you have not been sexually active then you could not be pregnant and it is far more likely that your period is still settling into its routine and you have nothing to worry about.

  • For at least a year I've felt really depressed. My brother has asperges and money is tight so homes hard. I'm always nervous or anxious especially in things like social events and being with people I don't know. I have panic attacks and sometimes I'm so sad I just break down to tears. During a period of time when I was feeling my worst I self harmed. Only once and never again. I've felt suicidal and still do at times. I'm 13 and I don't know what to do, I've never told anyone this. Please help me Viki.

    You really must share your feelings with your family or teachers who will be able to help you manage these feelings going forward and I am sure even if things are hard at home your family will be happy to help you manage matters going forward.

  • Hi vicki,
    I am 12 1/2 and in year 8. When we change for pe I feel awkward as my boobs are flat, I wear a bra it's non wired and it looks like one a 6 year old would wear. My friend used to wear crop tops and be flat like me as we would sometimes talk together about it but recently she has been wearing a massive bra. I was thinking about getting a bigger one befit she got hers but I don't know how to ask my mum. I also would quite like bigger boobs like mor people my age have,
    Hope you can help
    Xx

    Hi, breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties. So please be patient and try not to compare your progress to that of friends around you or consider wearing a larger bra than is your size.

  • Hello. I'm just wondering if i have social anxiety? It's things like I'm scared of being seen in public, or bumping into people I know, I'm scared of people in general, scared of crowds, scared of traffic and roads, scared of being touched, scared of eating in front of people, scared of ordering food, permanently embarrassed and sometimes I get panic attacks. What is wrong with me??!!

    If you feel you may have a few issues with being around others then you should share this news with your family who will decide how to proceed. Social anxiety can only ever be diagnosed by a medical professional and so please try to avoid any online quizzes based on this condition.

  • I'm bisexual, and I'm really strongly attracted to this girl I love her so much! She knows about my sexuality and she's cool with it, and all my friends say I should tell her that I kind of love her. Thing is I think I have social anxiety and I get panic attacks sometimes and I'm scared to tell her. What should I do?

    If you like this girl then I am sure she will have already noticed this for herself and if she feels the same she will let you know, so for now consider just being good friends and see what happens in the future.

  • Part 2
    But I have 0 curves. I'm 14 ( 15 next week ) and I barely have any curves.
    So when I try on crop tops I feel like I look just round and unattractive which prevents me from wearing them. Will I ever have curves? Or will I always look like this?
    Thanks Vicki I really appreciate you answering all my questions :) xx

    Our bodies continue developing into our late teens or even early twenties so please try not to worry and consider wearing a to shirt over your crop tops for a more flattering look.

  • Hi Vicki kendall here
    Sorry if this is pointless but it's been getting me down.
    I absolutely love the look of crop tops on people. It can be with anything
    Jeans,leggings,skirts. And I really want to wear them but I feel so fat in them and it makes me feel bad. The thing is I'm not fat at all. I used to be really underweight and had to get my weight up quite a bit but would still be considered on the smaller side. But ( part 2)

    Hi Kendall, see part two.

  • I'm quite worried because I started my period about 2 years ago, and I am lacking in periods because I am regularly missing them each month for up to 6 months in a row. I tried googling it to find out what was wrong with me but it just said I was pregnant which is clearly not true. Can you
    Help me find out what is happening and can I have some tips on how to become more regular and what is wrong with me?

    Periods can often be irregular with gaps of several months in between each one, so please try not to worry this is very common during your teenage years.

  • Hi Vicky ,I'm 12 1\4 and I haven't started my period yet but I've had a lot of discharge lately.i get it everyday.most of the time it's very thick and white .Just wanted to now if this is a sign I'll get my period soon.

    Discharge is a great sign that your period is not too far away and my advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you from now on when out and about.

  • Part 2 (alice)
    He's gone for a holiday to a different country and I miss him so much.. Even though we didn't talk a lot I miss his presence, his friends do too. I enjoyed seeing him stare at me all the time now that's all gone :( He's going to be back in a month and I can't wait for a month. How can I stop thinking about him? Thank you so much if you answer my question :)

    I am sure this boy is having a lovely holiday and will have lots to share with you and his friend when he returns. You will also have lots of gossip to share with him, so keep busy with friends and family until his return and the time will pass in no time at all.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm 12 years old and I like this guy who's 12 but 2 months younger than me :/ I don't know if it's bad but.. Carrying on, we used to joke a lot and laugh and stuff... This was months ago. Recently, he's found out that I liked him. He ignored me for weeks, but I've managed to impress him. He usually looks at me in the eyes, and from across the room a lot. He also talks to me more than before, well, he's slightly talking to me.
    There's going to be a part 2 if you don't mind ~Alice

    Hi Alice, see part two.

  • Part 1 πŸ’š
    Hi Vicki.
    This question is probably like any other but I'm really struggling.
    There where three of us in our grade that haven't got our period yet. One was me, then my best friend and then my really good friend. Just the other day, my bestfrimd got her period.

    We all develop at different times to each other and just because your period is not yet here it does not mean that you are any different or less mature than your friends, so please be patient, your body will now when the time is right for you.

  • My mom only pays attention to my sister (depression) she lets it out there and not me ..she didnt notice im always depressed (i try to hide it)

    If you have feelings you want to share with your mum let her know you need to have a chat, I am sure she will be able to help once she knows you are struggling with emotions.

  • You've mentioned teen sample packs a few times in response to other questions. What are these and how do I get one?

    Our teens sample pack contains one each of our teens range, a little booklet and money off voucher. You can request one by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page ensuring that you let me know you have your parent's permission to request samples if you are under 16.

  • on my breasts, you can see my veins (blue/purple lines) around my nipples and up to my chest. there are also some red stretch marks. what can i do because it's really embarrassing and you can see them even with my bra on (which fits well btw).
    pls answer asap! THANK YOU!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

    These veins are fairly common and nothing to be worried about, and stretchmarks will fade in time and again are common to the bust, legs, buttocks, thighs and tummy.

  • I go to an all girls school and I don't have any friends who are boys outside of school. I'm worried i'll never get a boyfriend. Also when is a good age to start dating?

    You may be interested to learn that lots of people now wait until their late teens or early twenties before they start to date so please try not to focus too much on getting a boyfriend, at this time studies and exams are the most important thing for you to be concentrating on.

  • so i left school just in september and i still stayed very close friends with the school i left especially my two best friends. right now their in a sort of friendship group with 3 girls and i just feel really left out and feel like one of my best friends (the one i was closest with) has moved on. all she cares about is herself, i help her through everything and now its like she's left me, we're in an argument over something else but he just doesn't understand how i feel and i don't want to start something

    As you enter puberty you may find that friendship groups come and go and it is time to move on to new groups of friends. You may also find that friends and even you, have changes to your moods that can often lead to arguments and you may find that chatting things through open and honestly with neither of you taking comments too personally will be a good option for you.

  • I've felt really depressed for the past year but the last couple of months have been really tough to get through. I've tried telling mum but I just couldn't. I don't want to speak to anyone. I don't want to speak to childline or anything like that. I don't want to leave a note. I'm 12 and feel terrible. I can't find any reason to keep living and have had suicidal thoughts. Please help.

    If you have felt comfortable speaking to me then you may find e-mailing Childline is a way to speak to a professional about how you feel. Most importantly is that you open up and share your feelings with someone because it is only by taking that step that you can understand why you feel like this and start the journey to feel better and of course I am always here to chat things over with you.

  • Hey Vicki, i am 12 and I have had dark brown discharge for about 2 days. Then on the third day it changed colour to a light brown, and now, the fourth day it is absolutely clear and stretchy, more like mucus. Is this normal or is this an infection? Please answer
    thank you :-)

    This brown fluid was almost certainly your first period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Ok😳 this is really embarrassing. I don't know if it's something to do with my period or not but most nights since I got my period I've woken up and almost wet the bed. One time I actually did a bit😭 I don't know what it is I'm too embarrassed to ask anyone please replyπŸ˜”

    It is most likely not linked to your period but rather that you are so preoccupied with your menstrual cycle that you have not emptied your bladder before going to bed and you may find that drinking nothing an hour before bedtime will help this little problem. If it continues then chat to your mum who may be able to offer you further advice.

  • i have the lil lets teens pads (night and day), and the pink packet of pads and today my mum brought me the yellow packet of pads (i haven't used them yet but they seem great)
    and i can honestly say that I love them and they are definitely worth the money.
    carry on doing what your doing! ;) xo

    Hi, thank you I have to agree.

  • are the teens wipes kind of the same as normal wipes you can buy in stores like Asda? we have some wipes at home which you use after visiting the toilet (after a number 2) and the lil lets wipes don't seem much different except for use when on your period to feel fresh

    If you prefer to use your toilet wipes then this is fine, our wipes are designed to be used in the vaginal area and not the anal area. But the choice really is yours.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm starting to get depressed because my parents have recently been arguing, and they're spliting up soon. My mum will be living away from me and ill be living with my dad, and I can't imagine life without Mum today I looked in dads wallet bcz he said I can borrow Β£1, and I looked in his holiday wallet. I found foreign money from the country he travelled to last month and then I found three condoms. Mum and dad hate each other and won't think about having sex, so dads cheating on her. HELP!

    It is always hard when parents make a decision to no longer live together but please don't jump to conclusions and judge either of them based on what you have seen in your dad's wallet. I am sure the most important thing for them is that you are happy and even if you do not live with your mum you will most likely see her very often and together you will make this work.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my first period on the 11th January, it finished on the 18th, I know that the gaps can vary as its only my first cycle, but I'm planning to go swimming with my friend kn Sunday, and as I haven't had my second period yet, I'm worried I may get it just before I go swimming. Whatcan I do it it does arrive then?!?!?
    Thanks, from Katie

    Hi Katie, you should still go swimming if your period has not yet arrived and not let this spoil your fun. If your period does arrive and you do not feel ready to wear a tampon then you may need to make an excuse to stay away from the pool on this occasion.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I've been wearing braces for five months and had them recently tightened I can not eat anything as they are too painful and the pain is so bad It makes me cry I've taken paracetamol and ibuprofen but they don't seem to help, what can I do to ease the pain?

    If this pain does not ease up then speak to your parents who will most likely take you back to your dentist for a chat.

  • I really like this boy but I'm scared that if I ever went out with him his best friend(the popular and mean kid) would laugh at me
    Thx anonymous

    If you like this boy and he likes you then what anyone else thinks is irrelevant and you should not worry one bit about their opinion, after all it would not be him you would be dating.

  • Hey vicki,
    I'm 13 and for about 3 months ish I've had liitle red itchy spots between my boobs (I'm only an a so its not much of a cleavage) what are they?! I've tried putting cream on them but it doesn't seem to help. Is this something to worry about?
    Thank you,
    Saff xx

    Hi Saff, in your teens it is not unusual to experience spots to the face, chest and back and using the same skincare product in this area as you do on your face.

  • Can you get pregnant if the condom doesn't break?

    Condoms are a very good form or contraception and should prevent a pregnancy if the condom remains in tact.

  • When age would you be comfortable for your kids to have a boyfriend/girlfriend? Thanks! You have answered my other questions so well! Xx

    My children did not start dating until their late teens, not because I did not allow them to date, but simply because they preferred to have friends rather than boyfriend or girlfriends.

  • Hi, I am 14 and in September 2014 i was sure I started my period because I started to bleed. But I haven't had it since and its now nearly the end of February is this anything to worry about?

    Thanks

    Hi, periods can often be very irregular with gaps of several months between each one, so from now on consider always having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • When should you worry if you havnt started?

    If your period has not yet arrived by your 18th birthday, then it may be a good idea to visit your doctor for a chat.

  • Hey vicki, im 15, my boobs havent grown in about two years, they have mayb grown a teeny bit bt i still wear the same size bra.do u think they will still grow or will they stay the same,im really worried as i feel its late for them to continue growing please help, i feel they are too small for my age, every1 my age wears a C or a D size. Thanks, Penelope

    Hi Penelope, breasts continue to develop into your late teens or even early twenties and I can assure you whatever your final size it will be beautiful.

  • I was trying to wear a tampon but I'm so confused because I pushed it and then it felt really weird and tight and then I took it out & had a look and it had made a small hole inside this ball piece of skin thingy I don't know I'm not sure whether I'm doing it right and I've looked at the videos on your website I just can't seem to grasp it!
    Thanks love Jeaniex (sorry if this is innapropriate)

    Hi Jeaniex, if you could feel the tampon when inserted then it may have been that you had not inserted the tampon high enough inside the vaginal passage so next time consider inserting higher. As for this little hole, this is almost certainly your hymen and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki, I started my period on the 20th of October 2014. My parents have split up and I live with about half and half, my mum knows I've started and has from the beginning but I have the courage to tell my dad and step-mum.
    Please help
    Sophie xxx

    Hi Sophie, why not ask your mum to have a chat to your dad about this matter and then he will most likely ensure there are always some pads or liners at his home for you stay.

  • Hey
    How often should I change my sanitary towel?
    Thanks!
    Mimi Xx

    Hi Mimi, pads can be worn for up to 8 hours but are often changed every 3-5 hours.

  • Hey vicki, hope you are well x At the minute my breasts are very triangular, they used to be rounded and dome shaped but the nipple has sort of made a lump, away from my breast making them triangular. Its hard to explain but will they go round again?
    I have one more question. i wear stretchy training bras from peacocks and they are really digging into my shoulders. is this a sign to move to a bra? thank you,
    Becky x

    Hi Becky, firstly breasts can often be triangular in shape during development and they will become fuller in time. As for your current bra, yes it does seem that this is now a little small for you.

  • I have some browny / black discharge in my pants, but if this is my period I haven't had anything like this before and it will be 4 days late. Will I be able to go swimming tonight as I have swimming all weekend without wearing anything, there isn't much discharge/ stuff anyway

    Yes this will be your period as menstrual fluid can very often be light brown or very dark (almost black) red. As for swimming, well this really does depend on how much more fluid is lost over the next few days.

  • Hi Vicki
    I swim a lot and when my period comes I will have to wear a tampon while swimming. Tampons sound horrible to me and I don't understand how to put them in or which type to use. Can you help me?

    Why not read all the great stuff on our website, including our videos and you will quickly understand how easy using tampons will be. But try not to worry if you prefer to use pads instead it is unlikely you will always be on your periods when you want to swim.

  • Hi Vicki,
    When I was out today my back really hurt. I had to sit down because it hurt so much. Is this a sign of my period or something else?

    It may be a sign that your reproductive organs are maturing, but it could easily be something else and you should share this news with your mum who will advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my periods about 18 months ago (I'm 13 now), and they're really heavy. I use tampons but my periods normally last about 5-7 days to go completely and if I use a super tampon, I have to change it about an hour after I've first put it in. This is really ruining some things for me because it is hard to be able to manage at school, on holiday etc. Why are they so heavy and how can I make them lighter? Thankyou :) :) :)

    You cannot make your periods lighter, but you can manage them better by using a higher absorbency tampon on your heavier days and you will find that Lil-Lets comes in six absorbencies from Lite to Extremely Heavy.

  • Why am I so grumpy and blood coming out of some places

    If you think blood is being released from your vagina and your period is here, then please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will advise you further.

  • Hi vickie it's Elizabeth I'm really worried because I haven't started my 3rd period but have had a little distarge even my mum asked if I'm on my period yet because it's the 20th I'm really scared.and if u wear a bra to bed will it slow down your breast development plz plz answer quick,from your fave fan Elizabeth

    Hi Elizabeth, periods can often be irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one being very normal, so please try not to worry. Finally, a good fitting and supportive bra will not effect your breast growth one bit.

  • Hey viki I have this best friend but we are like family and are always with each other and I would do anything for her but latley she's lost a lot of weight an isn't eating and I know it's not my problem but she always tries hide it from me because she knows how worried I am but the other day he got in trouble for not eating anything and I'm so worried please help me or give me ways to help her thanks🌸🌸

    I am sure you are not the only person who has noticed this weight loss and her family are already dealing with this matter, so for now, simply try to support your friend by being there to listen and chat and don't be too uspet if these conversations do not include her weight, she may not ready to divulge how she feels about this.

  • When I'm on my period I get cramps. But they always seem worse after I go to the toilet and see my pad or have to change it or seeing blood in the loo. I take paracetamol but I think it's quite psychological the pain. Do u no how I can keep my mind of it?? Also when should I change my pad cas I don't want to waste them but I don't no when I should change them - like when it's covered in blood or when there's a bit. Thanks. Please don't put this as inappropriate cas I really would like to know.
    Hxx

    Hi, a pad can be worn for up to 8 hours but most people change every 3-5 hours. If you find viewing blood uncomfortable then consider wearing tampons as the menstrual fluid is captured from inside the vagina and cannot be seen.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Why should you shave your pubic hair the direction it grows, I try to but it feels sensitive and hurts how can I stop this?
    Toni x.

    Hi Toni, if you find shaving uncomfortable then consider trimming it back instead.

  • Hi Viki,
    I started my period late on 25th December 2014. It was quite heavy and lasted 7-8 days. In January it occurred roughly the same time but was very weak and light pink, with not much at all, along with browny discharge. It lasted about 4 days. It was like nothing even happened. Then this month it came earlier (19th February) with only browny pink stuff at first, but not that much then that night it got more like blood and I though it was getting started but then this morning it was basically gone

    All of these experiences are very normal as the amount of blood we lose can vary from time to time and menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so please try not to worry.

  • Dear Vicki,
    so i'm 13 and got my period once last year and it has'nt been coming ever since for almost nine months now... my mum says it normal but my friends keep convincing me to go to a check up to the doctors. im not sure what the cause is... i'm sort of worrieddd.. :( please help.. :)

    Thank you in advance- Ada x

    Hi Ada, if your mum is not unduly worried then I would take her advice and listen to her comments on this matter. Periods are often irregular during your teen years with long gaps between each one.

  • I'm 16,I started my period when I was 12, I'm now on implant. However I'm getting signs of a period,but there is No blood,just clear discharge, is this normal? I haven't had a period since 2014; I'm concerned?

    Periods can often be irregular but if you are at all concerned have a chat to your doctor who will advise you further.

  • I've known for a few months that I have a breast bud but when I touch the other boob,( which hasn't got a bud) I can push it in like 1 centimetre!
    Is that bad or is it just because it hasn't got a bud yet??

    Thanks Viki, you're a legend!
    Molly

    This is nothing to worry about and all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki I started my period octoberish and I only lasted like a day and when I'm on my period only blood appears on the tissue not on the pad, and when I go to the toilet it's there and the next time I go there's just brown discharge on the tissue,and my periods are well out of sync-please help! My mom knows but she said its cause Ive only just started. I'm 12 thanks x 😘

    Your mum is quite right and during your teenage years you may find they can be light in flow and irregular, this is all very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicky, I was just wondering what my bra size would be with 65cm under and 75cm over.
    Thanks x

    30AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • i have had two periods this month, i started my period in August, is this normal?? Thanks Anna

    Hi Anna, periods can often have both short or long gaps between each one and as the menstrual cycle can vary from 21-34 days experiencing two periods in one month can happen.

  • Hi Vicki so I have quite heavy periods will they become lighter when I grow up or is that just a myth

    You menstrual flow can vary from time to time and this is nothing to worry about as there will always be a Lil-Lets product to help manage it.

  • Hello Vicky
    I'm 14 and a have started my period last year April. It has started to get regular until now I'm a week late and I have clear discharge. Is this normal because I'm really worried.

    Periods can often have times of irregularity even when they have been regular previously, this is just your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hey vicki :)
    I'm a 87 on my bust and a 82 under it.
    Could you please tell me what size I am?
    Thanks from Ally :)

    36AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Yesterday I saw some brown stuff in my underwear is this my period or do you think I might of not wiped properly? I hope,it's not my period! I don't want my period

    If this fluid was towards the back of your underwear and has an unpleasant odour it may be waste food not wiped away thoroughly, however if there is very little odour and you have noticed more is being released this could be your period and is really nothing to be alarmed or anxious about. Reading all the great stuff on our website will quickly show you that periods are a very normal part of being a woman and should as such not impact on your life one bit.

  • Hy Vicki I'm 14 years old on the 15th of January I started my periods but the blood wasbrownish blackish and it only lasted for two days. Then this month I waited on the fifteen for my periods but still nothing and my mom asked me if they came she said it might mean I'm present and I have never had set before
    Thank u

    Periods can often be irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months between each one, so please try not to worry and continue keeping some pads or liners with you when out and about just in case your second period arrives unexpectedly.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have spoken to my mum about my stomach aches. But they've gotten quite bad and I get one at least 3-4 times a day, and when I go to the toilet it feels better. My mum said it could be period pains. Is it constipation, period pains or something else?
    -Charlotte

    Hi Charlotte, why not add more fibre to your diet by way of cereals, fruit and vegetables especially if this pain is noticed when passing faeces as you may be constipated.

  • Hi Vicki
    How often should I change my sanitary towel? Thanks! 😊

    A sanitary pad can be worn for up to 8 hours, but most people prefer to change them every 3-5 hours or when they visit the toilet.

  • i know the teens sample pack comes in a brown envelope but are the products in some sort of bag or are they just put in?

    They come in our pretty sample pack box that is similar in design to our starter pack.

  • I'm 11 and whenever I go swimming I think that I will drown because I nearly drowned once because my leg got caught in something below the water but I have a swimming party tomorrow and I said I'm going and I really do actually want to go but what if I freak out?

    Natasha.P

    There is no need for you to enter into the deep waters if you feel uncomfortable to do so and parties generally are about having fun in the shallower end with friends, so please try not to worry, as I am sure there will be an adult there to supervise also.

  • Hi Vicky
    Im 11 and wear a small crop top but dont really have to much "Boobs" and I'm turning 12 this year will they get bigger?

    Your breasts will continue to develop into your late teens or even early twenties so please don't worry and be patient, we all develop at different times to our friends and family members.

  • Hi Vicky
    Um ……… I'm 14 and I lately have had the urge to have sex I know I'm under age but I can't seen to stop this feeling x I masturbate but I still have the urge what can I do
    Thx annoymous

    These feelings are very natural as a teenager and as you continue to mature you will learn how to manage them without too much effort.

  • Hi Vicki, I just asked u a question about how my freinds are getting bigger breasts and how they all have their period... And then I noticed that all of my friends from primary school have got heaps of new friends and high school!! It's been a couple of months and I still have made no new friends. My freinds - freinds don't seem to like me, and I can't find anyone that doesn't like my best friend more than me. She is so charismatic and I'm socially awquard!! What do I do!! I have NO friends!

    In friendship groups there will be those that are super confident and bubbly and others that are quiet and reserved, they all have their place and one is no more important in the group than the other. You may also find my blogs entitled Fitting In, Walk Tall with Confidence and Standing Up For Yourself useful too.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 12 and in year 7, all my friends have really big boobs and have had their period and I'm practically flat chested, but I've just started getting yellow discharge (from u know where)!! Why is is taking sooooo long and why are my boobs small, and could u guess when my period will be?? Thanks so much ur website SAVED MY LIFE

    We all develop at different times and your journey through puberty will be unique to you and not something you need to compare with those around you. And discharge is always a good sign that your period may not be too far away.

  • I'm 13 and I have sore boobs and I have faint veins to what is wrong with me please help !!!

    These veins are often noticeable to the breast area as they develop so please try not to worry, the soreness is part of development and will subside over time.

  • hey vicki, im 11 and iv'e been discharging for abut 3 or 4 months now but today i went to the bathroom because i felt myself discharge but when i went to wipe it was dark red, does that mean im starting my period soon? chayla

    Hi Chayla, this could be your first period and my advice would be to place a liner or pad in your underwear and see if any more fluid is lost. If it is then share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicky, I started my period in March 2013 first time it's been fine and coming regulary but in December 21-28 that was my last period til this day 20th February my period hasn't come I haven't ever had sex before I'm scared what if I can never become a mum?

    Periods can often be irregular, even when they have been regular before so please try not to worry, this is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been having my period every 2 weeks, and I'm only 12. My mom and I have tried a list of things to try and calm my cramps down but nothing seems to work! I was wondering if you have any suggestions for medication?
    Thanks,
    Ky

    Hi Ky, it is not unheard of for periods to have short gaps in between each one for the first few years and my advice would be to get active to ease any menstrual cramps, it may not be what you feel like doing but I can assure you having a dance for 10 minutes or going for a walk with your mum will help ease any discomfort. However, if you continue to be unhappy you may find your doctor can advise you further.

  • I know this hasn't got anything to do with puberty but 3 weeks ago I started my period, my vagina is getting quite itchy and I'm rly concerned that I have worms?! Please help

    Threadworms do not originate from the vagina, but rather the anus and can be quite itchy in this area, especially as night. If you have only noticed this irritation since getting your period, you may be sensitive to the cover of your sanitary pad, so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will advise you further.

  • Me and my boyfriend are really close. We are practically best friends. We've been together awhile but recently I've been really wanting to hug him. We've never hugged before, when should I hug him?

    When it feels natural would be my advice. Just like kissing these things are best done instinctively rather than setting a time, so relax and when the opportunity arises you will know what to do.

  • I have a big problem with people touching me. For as long as I can remember, I've never liked kissing anyone (family) and had/have to be forced to do it. When someone touches me I get all panicky. The only time I'm ok with it is if it's my best friends and my boyfriend who know are fully aware of my fear of being touched, I don't mind hugging them. It's just like when I'm in a crowd (oh yes I'm scared of crowds and traffic to) when someone touches me I get scared. What should I do

    There is nothing wrong with wanting personal space and others will learn in future what you find acceptable or not and this is nothing for you to be worried about or feel you have to apologise for.

  • Hi Vicki. I am 17 years old and I have a bf. he Is only 14 years old but I don't mind. He's the sweetest boy I've ever met. My friends all think he's cool and so do my parents. His parents know and don't mind either. But everyone else at school makes fun of me and all the boys ask him if he 'does it' with me and other inappropriate remarks. I don't know what to do. We love each other so we aren't going to break up. Thx. -vamp girl

    It really is a case of you and your boyfriend to ignore any comments made by others and you may just find they stop once they see you are not upset or angry by their silly remarks.

  • Hi I'm 15 1/2 and I use tampons and stuff so I know my body pretty well but my vagina is really like small? It's very tight so putting in a tampon is painful at first no matter how I do it. I'm worried about losing my virginity as I know when I have sex I will hurt - is this normal to be that 'tight'? X

    Actually the vagina is very good at accommodating anything that is placed inside it and this tightness you feel may be because you are not inserting the tampon high enough inside your vagina. When you are ready and old enough to be sexually active you will find that the vagina, produces fluids that help lubricate it and make the insertion of a penis easier and if both parties take their time and listen to each other there should be no discomfort experienced.

  • Hi! So I'm almost a teen, and I do a lot of sports. When I'm super tired at night sometimes I don't shower. How many times do you think I should shower?

    Showering daily if you are active and sweat is a good idea, or alternatively you may be someone who prefers to shower in the morning. If you do not have time, always make sure you wash your face, underarms and genital region to keep you feeling and smelling clean and fresh.

  • Today she went on my phone and saw one of my friends who's a boy and she kept asking and I lied about how he got in my ig feed. What do I do? Every time someone asks me something a lie pops up into my head and instead of say.ing the truth. I lie I can't stop help I want to kill myself and I feel depressed NIJI xox

    Have a chat to your mum and let her know that when she questions you it cause you to be anxious and you feel you cannot be truthful with her. It may be that she is asking you in an accusational tone, which is the issue. For your part take a deep breath and a couple of seconds before responding in the future.

  • This doesn't have anything to do with purity or bras or anything but I don't know who else to ask. My friend got me a jacket for my birthday form the internet but it wasn't new. When I got home I showed my mom and she said it wasn't new. I panicked and said it was and that I tore the tag off she asked me again the next day and showed me the stain on the back and then I said my friend tore the label off. She found out I lied and I promised not to lie anymore.

    Even if your friend purchased a gift for you from another source, it is still a gift and should be appreciated as such, so please try not to worry about this or hold it against your friend. I often purchase vintage clothes for my daughters from online stores as gifts, it's a fairly common practice nowadays.

  • how do you tell your teacher you are on your periods

    There is no reason why you have to share this news with your teacher, unless you need to visit the toilet with some urgency and then you only need say you need to leave the room. That should be enough and if necessary you can explain why in private at another time.

  • Hiya Vicki,
    So me and my boyfriend both use this social networking app (ooVoo) where you can video chat. He always tries to ring me at like midnight when I'm meant to be silent so i pick up but just listen to him sing or whatever and I don't talk. He knows I'm not meant to talk after a certain time why does he keep calling me

    Your boyfriend is not respecting either you or your parents rules and as such it may be a good idea to ignore his calls so late at night you can simply tell him you need your sleep and won't take calls after 9pm.

  • Hi vicki I have had discharge for 2 years and pubic hair and my breast are going when might I get my period by the way I am 12 and 13 in June 23rd

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait, so please make sure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • My mum has told me i should start using a panty liner but i don't really want to as then you will be able to see it when changing for pe xxx

    You should not be able to see a pant liner through your underwear and especially if you choose to wear our Lil-Lets teens liners, which are shorter and narrower than other brands, whilst still as protecting. So why not ask your mum to pick up a pack next time she is out shopping.

  • Is there anything you can do to stop the pain in your breast bud?
    Because mine REALLY hurts!!!

    From Maddelynn

    Hi Maddelynn, I appreciate this pain can be uncomfortable on occasions, but it really is a case of letting the pain end and then getting on with your day. A good supportive bra or crop top may also help ease this discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki,
    In normal bras i am a 32aa, but i don't have any boobs. I'm 13 nearly 14, and I feel really self conscious and i really wish that i had boobs. But when i bought a push up bra before it didn't fit me right, and the cup would go out at the top with no boob filling it. I wasn't sure what size you need to be to fit a push up bra properly, as i would feel so much more confident and comfortable with a push up bra as it would make my boobs look bigger. Thank you x

    A push-up bra that does not fit you correctly will not necessarily make your bust appear fuller. It would be far better to wear a non wired, non padded bra for an AA cup and as your breasts become fuller you may find a different style may be more suitable then.

  • Vicki, I always go red in the face if I'm the center of attention- mainly at school. And when I do everyone points it out which makes it 10000 times worse. Don't people realise that I know and theres nothing I can do about it?!
    Please help
    S xx
    P.S thank you for everything

    Me too, but I find the more I chat to people the less this happens and if others comment on this, laugh it off, letting them know that you really didn't need them to point it out, and that you know it's happening. Finally, some people find it quite an endearing trait in a person.

  • Hi
    Is it illegal for a boy of 14 to have sex with a 14 year old girl they r both under aged tho so u no
    Also what are the "pills" people go on about
    Thanks
    also can u answer the question ref:cba271

    Yes it is illegal. The pills often discussed are a form or contraception, which prevents any unwanted pregnancies from being experienced.

  • Hey Vicki, I'm 13 and can't remember the last time I had a boyfriend, and even then it was a primary one that meant nothing. I'm worried that I'll never get a boyfriend.
    Is it because I'm shy and go red in the face?
    Please help
    S xxx

    Actually you may be pleased to hear that a great many people now wait until their late teens or early twenties before they decide to date so you have plenty of time for the right person to come along.

  • Hey Vicki! I've had discharge for maybe a year now and it vary's between being a lot of discharge and sometimes a little. I get it everyday and it's starting to get a little more thicker and yellow.
    ~Rosey(-:

    Hi Rosey, this is all very normal and nothing for you to be worried about, it is also a great sign that your period may not be too far away.

  • Hey, I'm nearly 14 now, and haven't started my period, I'm one of the few girls in my year that haven't started. My friends always have conversations about this sort of thing and I'm always left out, it's like they think I'm still a baby. I have everything on the criteria for it starting, and have done for what seems like ages, but nothing's happening. When will it start?
    Thanks

    Hi, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please try not to worry and just because your period is not here yet it does not mean you cannot join in the conversation and learn all you can from your friends.

  • This is a wierd question but when people say thet ge t brown discharge does it still mean thier pee is normal but because of the brown discharge it would make it thier period? Thx viki

    Generally this brown fluid is noticed in their underwear or when they wipe after visiting the toilet, but their urine will still be its normal light yellow colour and is not linked to periods or discharge.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I'm 13, and still use pads. Is this bad? Using Tampons hurts, so could I possibly use pads for the rest of my life?
    Thanks!
    -Anonymous

    Yes, of course, in fact lots of people prefer to use only pads throughout their menstrual life, it really is a personal choice.

  • Hello Vikki, I am a bra size 30aa and I'm 13 nearly 14. i was just wondering how do you know when you need to move up a bra size? Also I feel really self concious becuase I am 5 foot tall exactly and my boobs are quite small ish and people always think I look younger because my boobs are quite small I wish they were bigger. <3 ( cheese duckfluff - keywords)

    Why not read my blog entitled Does Your Bra Fit Properly for more information on this subject and try not to compare your progress to that of those around you, we are all very different.

  • Hello Vicki,
    Please can you leave a link to where I can try a free sample please! I can't find it any where.
    Cathy xx

    Hi Cathy, here is the link. http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/About/Contact

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm nine days late is my period really late or have I missed it completely?

    Lauren xx

    Hi Lauren, periods can often be irregular for the first few years so please try not to worry and ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • I think I have had my period once but it has been longer that a month and it has not come again! My discharge is always nonstop and I am running out of pantyliners all the time so I have to embarrass myself and ask my mum to get some. Is it right to wear pantyliners all the time or is it bad. Some people can ask their mum easily but I can not is this abnormal? I have breakdowns sometimes because I am worried about my period! Please reply I need someone to help me through this!
    Thx mrs x

    Hi, periods often have long gaps between each one, especially during the first few years and lots of girls and women find wearing pant liners on a daily basis keep them feeling not only clean and fresh but also prepared for the arrival of an unexpected period. Why not ask your mum if you can go shopping with her at the weekend as you have a few things you need, I am sure she will be happy to purchase some liners for you when in store.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm 14 and I have masturbated since was about...5. I can get aroused sometimes, but very rarely. Was It a mistake to do so at such a young age and especially before puberty known kicked in? I'm getting a little concerned. I have everything from 34C bras to the zits, underarm hair and down there hair, I sweat and have had down discharge for a year and a half maybe? Please answer and Thankyou!

    Taylor. Xxx

    Taylor it is important I feel for you to understand that not everyone masturbates or feels the need to, so if you find no pleasure from taking part in this activity then stop. Finally, the age you started masturbating will have had no impact on your health at all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Hi I have a problem I guess Im 13 but not lesbian im straight but I like watching lesbian porn but I'm not attracted to women so am I straight

    Thanks kiara

    Hi Kiara, this is fairly common and does not have any impact on your sexuality.

  • Hey Vicki! So last year I got my first period back in the summer but I haven't had anything since, just normal discharge. Is there something wrong with me or is it normal? When do you think it with come?
    P.s. This page is sooo useful I love it!
    Thanks, from Hannah (age 13) xx

    Hi Hannah, if you are sure this was your period then I am sure your second one will not be too far away. And remember too that brown fluid is not always discharge and can very often be your period also.

  • Hello Vicki :)
    I have had my period and find that I have a very heavy flow (I'm 13). I once tried to use an applicator tampon so that I could go swimming, but felt it slightly while sitting and it leaked, which was embarrassing. :| Then, when I tried to take it off it hurt and when I finally got it out it was completely soaked in blood and blood rushed out into the toilet. Non-applicator tampons are not available were I live and I want to be able to use one so I can swim. Advice?
    Thank-you!

    I am sure a chemist or supermarket will have a non applicator tampon for you to trial and remember you can always request a sample from me by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page. Remember to let me know that your parents give you permission to request samples as you are under 16, when you fill in the form.

  • Hi Vicki, so my grandad on my dads side of the family is awful and I hate him! He says pervy things to me and I'm 14! My 17 year old sister also thinks the same. Sometimes he will stroke my waist or hip and I not very obviously push away because I hate it! My mum and dad are divorced and I told my Mum and she said he is a pervy & he's used to be like that with her. I don't want to tell my dad and upset him but I just feel so uncomfortable around that man! Lilly cx please put this in something else

    If anyone makes you feel uncomfortable Lilly,  you have the right to let them and others know. So if you find your grandfather's behaviour feels inappropriate then tell him so; making it loud and clear for all to hear. It may all be very innocent but it really is all about your personal boundaries and how comfortable you feel when in someone's company.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My friend is the same age as me, 13 years old, and yet she already uses a D sized cup bra, is a lot taller, has more pimples, and looks tougher and more feminine. Is it possible to have an A size bra when puberty is done? Also I am very short and flat chested in comparison to people in my grade. I'm not saying its a bad thing, but by when can I expect to grow more? I sometimes feel very small and like people don't take me as seriously as my friends who look taller.
    Thank-you

    We really are all differently and will develop at differing times to our friends during puberty, but it does not mean that you not as mature as your friends or should not be considered mature. So make sure your voice is heard and you may find my blogs entitled Walk Tall with Confidence and Standing Up For Yourself useful.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 13. I use a bra, but don't know when to start using a cup or padded bra. I know that your breast size is determined by your family member's before you's size, but is it possible to have bigger breasts than them? When do you know that your breasts are done developing? Also can you have growth spurts of breast size and height?
    Thank-you

    Hi, breasts can continue developing until your late teens or early twenties and can very often differ to those of family members, after alle we are all individuals and unique. They can also have times of quick growth followed by no growth at all. So my advice would be to love your shape no matter what that may be and no matter how far along you are in your development.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I have just realised something quite weird with boat my breasts, at the tip of when my breasts start to come out it has be some quite firm all the way round the top. It's not hurting but it feels weird and my breasts have started to develop. Is it maybe my bras are getting small or if is like a Desease? I wear 30aa bras but the fit okay. Please help.
    Love emily I'm 14 if this helps you awnser x

    Hi Emily, this sounds like your breast buds developing and nothing to be worried about.

  • HI VIcki,
    I have stretch marks on my breasts and I really don't like them...
    Do you have any ideas on how to get rid of them?
    Jezabelle
    P.S I have always been a bit (but not massively) overweight and have had no recent sudden change in size.

    Why not read my blog entitled Stretchmarks for all you need to know about this very common condition.

  • Hi vicky

    i have had 1 Period but i havent had my secound yet is it normal to skip the secound period and i am going swimming next month to centre parcs and i want to ask my mum to buy tampons but ive been worrieing. i have a friend who has already been on her period for a while should i ask her for advice.

    thanks

    worrying 14 year old

    Periods can be very irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one. Why not ask your mum if you can take a few supplies with you when on your vacation including tampons and you may find my blog entitled What to pack for a short trip useful too.

  • I've had like a brown discharge that looks like poo .. Is this normal ?? Sorry it might be a bit inappropriate x
    Thanks x

    If this were 'poo' it would have a very offensive odour, if it does not, then it could be your first period, as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will advise you further.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I was wondering if you could help me with some ideas for my mum's birthday present? I was planning on giving her a goody bag type thing, but got a bit stuck for ideas after chocolates, hand cream and nail polish. If you could help me that wound be great!!
    From Emmy xx
    P.S. I love your website and have found it solo helpful!! Thanks!

    Hi Emmy, this sounds like a great idea. If your mum reads books then a personal book mark may be a good idea. Also how about a bath bomb from Lush. And never forget that flowers are always welcome at any time of the year.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 12 years old and recently a boy told me he liked me. We have talked recently but he hasn't said anything about it. I know he meant what he said but does he want me to make the first move?

    Hi, he may want to wait before making the first move, being reassured that you like him back. If you do, smile when you see him and make an effort to chat to him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've got a bestfriends who's a boy but lately we have been very close! We act like a couple and it's weird! Today he kept grabbing my hand and wanting to hold it? He hates it when I speak to other boys also!
    Do you think he likes me more than a friend? And how can I tell him I just want to be friends?
    Thanks, GooGoo❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️

    It does seem that this boy's feelings have grown to be that of a romantic nature and if you do not feel this way, then move your hand away when he takes it and drop into the conversation from time to time how great it is that you can be friends without any romantic stuff getting in the way. This should be enough hints for him to get the message.

  • Hi Vicky, I was wondering is it normal to be so underweight, i am 14 in march and only weigh 91 pounds and i am 5,5. i had my period 2 years ago and have pubic hair and breasts, my parents say its because I am a late bloomer but I dont think its that because I have all of that stuff. I eat loads but i never put on weight, why is this, is it to do with puberty or should I seek medical help?

    Some people are naturally slim and it is also wise to remember that just because your period has arrived your development has not ended and you will continue to develop into your late teens or even early twenties, so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki, how do you know when you've reached the end of puberty? I'm 14, already started my period, have pubic hair, had a growth spurt, lots of achne but only 32a boobs. Does that mean they will be this size forever! because my boobs have been like this for 1-2 years

    Your period is not the end of the story and you may like to read my blog of the same name for more information on what to expect during puberty.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm just wandering if my nipples should be dry and itchy.
    Should I go to the doctor?
    Pleases help because it's been happening for around 5 months.
    Thanks.

    Hi, this can happen during puberty to both boys and girls and generally requires just a little gentle cleaning and moisturising.

  • I feel really insecure with the way I look, my face imparticular, my pores are huge and spots massive. I just hate every part of my face and feel as though people think that I'm ugly behind my back. Noone understands

    It is very normal to feel a little self-conscious during puberty and to doubt ourlseves. But with a little trial and error you will find the right skincare for you and you may even find rinsing in very cold water will help close your pores. Why not read my blog entitled Being Skincare Savvy for more skincare advice.

  • It's ok if you can't but can you possibly estimate when my first period will be?
    These are the symptoms that I have...
    β€’breast development
    β€’regular discharge
    β€’pubic hair
    β€’Hormones

    I would appreciate it if you could answer.

    Thankyou, Maisy xxxx

    Hi Maisy, with so many signs already noticed you may find keeping some pads and liners with you from now on is a good idea, as your period may not be too far away, possibly sometime this year.

  • Hi Vicki I am currently camping with a lot people from my class (including boys) my period just arrived for this month and I am in the middle of nowhere with nothing none of my friends have anything, no adults have not
    Anything no one has ount I am debating wether or not to go home I'm here until Tuesday were in the middle of no where what should I do?

    Speak to the adult who is suprvising you and they will make a special trip to the local store to pick up some supplies for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and I want to runaway. The thing for me wanting to leave is that my mum and brother always get to angry and argue lots. I've grew up with them shouting at each other, taking it out on me and my dad and I'm done. my mum can be the best person in the world then if you say one thing she doesn't like or if she wakes up in a mood everyone is quiet around her so she won't be mad I really don't like living with them but I don't want to leave my dad . What should I do?

    I am sorry to hear you feel so sad and I am sure you understand that moving away from home would cause an awful lot of upset for all members or your family. Why not have a chat to your mum and let her know how you feel and in future if you can see she may not be feeling her usual self, offer to make the tea or tidy up the house, anything that will help her manage her day better, I am sure she will be very appreciative of this.

  • Hi vicki, I'm so paranoid when I'm on my period that I have leaked and that people have noticed, but I haven't. I wear to pairs of pants but I still feel paranoid. Is there a way to make me feel less paranoid and is his normal? Xx

    Time will teach you when you need to change and also what products to use to manage your period on a daily basis so please try not to worry this is something all females have to manage and understand as their periods arrive.

  • Hi Viki,
    You don't have to reply to this as it may waste your time on answering other girl's questions but I would just like to say Thankyou for answering all of my questions I am very lucky to have websites like this and people like you. If you hadn't answered my questions I would have probably gone insane!!!

    A very BIG Thankyou
    πŸ’Œ xoxoxoxoxo

    I am so pleased to hear that our website has been useful and I hope you will continue to come and visit us here at Lil-Lets.

  • around how many questions do u answer a day?

    It really does depend on the time of year and school holidays, but as a general rule between 100-200 per day.

  • Hi vicki
    I had my second period on the 17th January and I have found some redial brown / clear discharge in my pants today. Is this just because my periods are irregular and it's there because my period is 3 days late and it there in replace .

    This may be your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not always red in colour.

  • Hi Vicki
    Im 14 and have recently got together with my first boyfriend via text (I do know him and everything he's at my school) and I haven't seen him face to face since we got together and basically im meeting up with him tomorrow and idk how to act, he texted me and told me he loves me and I don't love him. We've been together less than a week I don't Love him yet. But idk how to act around him
    T xxx

    Act as you would when with a friend and keep the conversation light, discussing topics linked to school, TV, or music. There is no need to declare your feeling for him at this stage or to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

  • When I visit the toilet, I wipe that area thoroughly with a wet wipe and toilet paper aswell, but when I come out, I feel wet as if there is still a little bit of urine left in my area. What is this?

    From Abby-lee

    Hi Abby-lee, don't be in a rush to finish too soon and give your bladder a couple more seconds to finish releasing any urine before wiping.

  • Hi Vicki, do you have any recommendations for any skin cleansers and moisturisers for oily acne prone skin? Any products you know the doctor might recommend? Thank you

    The Superdrug Tea Tree range may be suitable and is reasonably priced too.

  • Hello Vicky,
    Basically I've had discharge for over a year now and one day i had cramps and spots and my stomach blew up and also a frequent redish discharge for like a fortnight , my mom said i got my first period but ever since that day I am back to brown/white discharge

    This may have been your first period as it is often brown and not red in colour and you may find keeping some pads or liners with you when out and about a good idea going forward.

  • If you try to put a non-applicator tampon inside your vagina but it only goes in a little bit so you take it back out can you put it back in again or do you need to get a new one?

    Thank you
    Freya-may

    Hi Freya-may, I would recommend either pushing the tampon in further you already have inserted or remove it and start again with a fresh one.

  • hey vicki i hope youre well. I have this friend and she can be nice to me one day and the next she will be touchy with me; im on edge that anything i say will cause her upset or make her angry. I know at my age hormones are running wild and but it is hard for me to know what to say at what time. She can also be judgemental of me and roll her eyes at what i say and she can sometimes favour one friend over another and push them away.
    How can i approach this without upsetting or making her angry? x

    Whilst it is great that you appreciate your friend is struggling with puberty she also needs to understand that she has a responsiblity to take ownership of her actions. So if you find her behaviour is inappropriate then please let her know you value her friendship but find her comments and behaviour is not that of a friend and you are not happy to accept it. You may also find my blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself useful too.

  • This isn't a question, I busted wanted to say your advice for helping me insert a tampon worked and I just git back from swimming :) Thank you

    You are most welcome and I was glad I could be of help.

  • I don't know how to tell my mum that I have started my period so what should I do?

    Why not read my blog entitled Speaking To Mum and Dad you may find it gives you lots of tips regarding this special chat.

  • hi Vicki i have run out of liners and my mum dose not know i use them regularly i can feel my discharge when i walk and she dose not look at her emails so i cant send her and email.. what shall i do.....

    Why not ask her if you can request a sample pack from me by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page. This may then start off a conversation about what products you want to use and she may purchase a full size pack for you.

  • hi vicki
    I'm 12 and my mum bought me a packet of pads but they r way to big what should I do? also I always feel like I don't want a shower even If I really need one so how often should I wash in the shower? how often should I wash down there? ur amazing vicki!! I love ur blog and U answer questions so fast. u r really inspirational πŸ’™
    thanks, r x

    You might like to mention our teens range of products to your mum as they are smaller having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  During puberty, it is important to bathe every day if possible as you sweat more than before.  Thank you for the support.

  • dear Vicki you have to help me because im so obsessed with bras. whenever we go to the store I just have to try one on then I buy it and my parents get so annoyed because I spend all my money on them its almost abnormal what do I do

    Try to remember that your breasts are developing so you won't really get the wear out of them for very long so why not wait until you've experienced more breast development before buying any more.

  • I'm 15 years old and I've been having unprotected sex with my boyfriend a lot lately. I stopped the pill in December and I was due this month 17/18 I'm worried that I won't come on?
    Please Help!!!

    The Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  It is possible that you are pregnant so please seek medical attention as a matter of urgency.

  • You are amazing! Just saying thx for answering my question ref: cba271 it's quite a relief to me to know someone is willing to answer our questions!

    Thank you for the support.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I was just wondering if there is a limited amount of questions you can ask on this site? By the way thank you so much for answering my questions.
    -Charlotte

    Hi Charlotte, there is no limit to the amount of questions you want to ask.  Thank you for the support.

  • Hey Vicki. I was on my twitter timeline and some one retweeted porn and then I started going all tingly in places. Is this normal?

    Images and text of a sexual nature can cause teens to experience feelings of sexual arousal.  These feelings are part of your journey to becoming a young adult and are nothing to worry about.  However, when viewing pornography, you should always use caution as it can often give a distorted version of what a loving, mutually respectful sexual relationship should be like.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been experiencing a lot of hair loss. If I wash my hair you can see hair on the shower floor. And when I wake up I find stray hairs all over my pillows. My hair used to be really thick but now its all starting to come out and become quite thin. Is this normal?
    Thank you x

    Try not to worry as we can all lose hair at certain times in life and it is usually a temporary thing.  Try to stick to a healthy, balanced diet and if you are stressed about anything, talk to your mum.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I have had 2 periods before , and My 3rd one was due about 2 weeks ago , but it hasn't come. Over the last few days I have been having brown discharge. I'm 13, and I don't know if it's concerning or normal.

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Does my very low cervix effect my ability to insert a tampon?

    If you have been diagnosed with this conditioin you should speak to your GP regarding your menstrual needs.

  • I had my last period in January 17th and it lasted 7 days, this morning I woke up and I had light brown discharge which was quite thick. I have a swimming competition on Saturday and I really don't want to have my period this weekend.

    So you can be prepared and just in case this is your second period, why not consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls?  All it will take is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.  Try to remember that periods should never interfere with the things we enjoy doing in life.  Good luck in the competition.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am 12 and have noT yet started my period but yesterday when I checked in my panties there was this brownish reddish discharge I don't know what it is. I hope it's not some sort of infection. It is not extremely odorous but smells a little i hope you know what it is!
    Xxxxxxx your fan

    This is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • My sister that is 7 keeps messing about with my sanitary products . what can I say to her to make her understand not to do it
    Many thanks
    Charlie island xx

    Hi Charlie, if she won't listen to you, ask your mum to speak to her and perhaps move your products to somewhere new so she can't find them.

  • For about the past year I have been feeling really down and hate my life. My brother has autism and I hate him. I get told off for everything bad he does and I never talk to him or my parents. I cry most nights and can never get to sleep. I scratch and I don't know if that is self-harming or not but I can't talk to my parents because they are part of it. I just want to die and I don't know who to tell or what to do.

    I am so sorry that you're feeling so down and would urge you to talk to either Childline on 0800 1111 or Mindline on 0300 1233393 as a matter of urgency to get you the support you need.  Whilst your brother can't help being autistic, it does not seem fair that you feel so alone and ignored by your parents who I appreciate have a lot of responsibility and it might simply be that they are so caught up in everything involved with looking after your brother, that you are overlooked without them even realising.  Please talk to someone now as you don't have to be feeling like this.

  • hey Vicki! my mom doesn't get me a lot of supplies. she believes i should tell her when I'm running out and she will get me more (1 pack). I'm very shay and embarrassed talking with her.i think i should be able to try many different brands and sizes, and even tampons, but she gets me the same type, every time- and i didn't even pick out that type! so, i go out by myself and get some more. is this wrong? should i confront her, or continue what I'm doing, because it works fine for me.

    Why not show the products you are purchasing to your mum and let her know that you find these are more suitable for you but you find purchasing them yourself a little expensive, I am sure she will understand.

  • Hi . about 2 months ago a brownish liquid was in my pants from my vagina . so I started using pads as I thought it was my period . I tried a tampon and diddnt like it so after around 6 minutes I took it out . nothing has happened since then except from a clear discharge . is there something wrong with me ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  However, during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  As for using tampons, we do recommend that you experience 5 or 6 periods before you try as this will give you the time to get used to your menstrual flow.  All it takes is a little practice, so when you're ready why not consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use.

  • i got my period on january 11 (2015) and it was normal. however, none of my friends have gotten there periods yet (were very childish even if were in year 9.) and i didn't tell them. about 2 weeks later my best friend in my group told us she got it! I'm not a very open person with anyone, so i would feel imbarrased saying that i already got it. Then, one of my friends asked if i got my period and i said no. if i told them that i got it now, then she would know that i lied! also I'm 2 weeks late!

    Try not to worry about this too much and if you want to, wait until the next time the subject comes up and just say that your period has started.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for all females so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed by them.

  • im and okay wieght for my hieght but i think i have an eating disorder. i constantly feel like i need to eat an when i do eat i feel even more fat and giulty. i try dieting and exersizing but im never able to stick to it. it makes me sad becouse my friends are thing but im not and i desperatly want to lose wieght but i cant. i never starve myswlf tho. What should i do?
    from lela x

    Hi Lela, puberty can be a most difficult and demanding time in a young girl's life due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and it is easy for them to develop an irrational fear of gaining weight.  Please talk to your mum about how you're feeling.

  • My older brother always hits me and it's usually around the area of my boob and it really hurts but I don't want to tell him that I have breast buds what should I do???

    Talk to your parents about your brother's behaviour so he stops.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 12 years old, I'm 152 cm tall, I weigh about 50 kg ,I started my period about 2 months ago and I usually wear training bras even though I'm a size 34 aa
    . Are my breasts to small or too big ?
    . Am I overweight?
    . Should I start wearing proper bras?

    As your body develops through puberty, it's natural to notice that you might gain a little weight here and there as hips become wider and breasts become fuller and rounder and the choice to wear a more structured bra is entirely yours. 

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm 14 and wear a size 30aa bra, I'm the only one in my year who hasn't got "fuller" breasts and a feel really self conscious about it and I get really embarrassed. Is there anything I can do to make them look bigger? Would I fit a pushup bra?

    Thank youa

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other which is what makes us who we are.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop into a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have time.  As you are feeling a little self-conscious, you might like to try wearing a bra with a little padding but you should discuss this with your mum first.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Can you wear a pushup bra if you are a size 30aa?
    Thanks x

    The choice is yours and your mum's.

  • Hi vicki

    I'm 9 years old. I have size 34b boobs ALOT of hair down there. Recently whenever I go to the toilet TONS OF BLOOD COMES OUT I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THIS IS IM LITERALLY FREAKING OUT!
    Please help, immediately!

    Caitlin c

    Hi Caitlin, if you have noticed blood in the tissue when you visit the toilet then this is almost certainly your period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you who will ensure you have some pads to protect your underwear going forward.

  • Hi Vikki,
    I keep getting loads of discharge for 12 months and water comes out as well. I know you will say it will happen probably in the next few months but I'm worried that I might not be able to have kids if I don't start.
    Please reply soon.

    Try not to worry as periods are a natural occurrence for every girl.

  • hi vicki My friends always go out without me and never invite me anywhere whether its going out to town, to the park, for lunch, sleepovers, i never get invited. They all went out without me once, and when i was asked why i wasn't coming i said i wasn't invited and then they were all coming up with different excuses to why i wasn't invited,coming down to that they forgot me. This upsets me, ive tried approaching them about it but they go moody with me. What can i do? Thanks x

    If your 'friends' are purposely excluding you from their activities together, this can be considered as a form of bullying so please talk to a teacher and your parents about this.  You may find my blog on Keeping and Making Friends useful too.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I keep getting stomach aches all the time. I've had this for about six days. I sometimes get stomach cramps so bad that I can't walk. I havent started my period yet and I'm 11. Is this signs of my period?
    -From Charlotte

    Hi Charlotte, please talk to your mum about this.

  • Hi Vicki! I am 13 and have extremely dry skin conditions. My Dad is a doctor so gets me prescription creams and these do work well. But I also get quite bad spots and I just can't find a face wash that doesn't dry out my skin and get rid of spots. I am using 'simple' and it is moisturising but doesn't help with my pimples and blackheads. Do you recommend any brands? Thank you. From Verity xxx

    Hi Verity, spots and blackheads are part of puberty for some girls, even those that wash their face daily. You may find that using an exfoliator twice a week will help reduce these outbreaks as will ensuring you have a healthy diet and I am sure the SIMPLE range has an exfoliator in its range, if not then Superdrug's Tea Tree skincare exfoliating scrub may be a good product to try.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I feel really anxious when traveling. Even if its a short car journey I find myself griping hold of the seat or the side of the door. In about a month I'm going on holiday to Italy meaning going on a plane I'm very worried about it......

    Sophie xxx

    Hi Sophie, have a chat to your parents and let them know what makes you feel so anxious, they will I am sure be able to help you understand why this is and reassure you of your safety.

  • Thanks for answering all my questions. I have one to ask
    Is it weird that ever in PE when I do skipping or go on a trampoline I pee a little this started after I started masturbating.
    Also it might be a good idea if you put things up about STIs/STDs so people know for the future.

    It is perfectly normal for this to happen and is not linked to masturabtion. You may want to consider using pant liners, which will keep you feeling fresh, clean and protected when you are being active in the future. 

  • Hi vicki
    When you have sex do boys expect you to have pubic hair because my bf asked me to go to his house tommorow and his parents whont be there we have been together for a long time now so I think we r ready to have sex but I don't know whether I should shave or not ? Ps.i haven't had sex before what do I do
    Thank you xx

    Just to remind you... The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  So, if you are over 16 and are sure that you are ready to be intimate with your boyfriend, the choice to shave your pubic hair is entirely yours.

  • Hey Vicki, Ive had a yellowish pasty discharge for the past six months and it was very uncomfortable. I just started my first period and I'm wondering if the yellowish discharge will continue, since I think the discharge was the pre-period discharge mentioned in other questions. Thanks! ~Sammie :)

    Hi Sammie, it is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so why not consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm 17. My problem is I had a yellow discharge for one day and then it went back to a white clear color but it had blood in it for two days and then my discharge just disappeared and I haven't had discharge for two weeks now but I got my period and usually it's heavy the first three days but it's practically nonexistent and still no discharge. Is this normal or is there something wrong with me? Please answer as soon as you can.

    Thanks, M

    Discharge can vary from day to day in both the amount produced and its look. So I would not worry unduly at this time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So you recently answered my question before about me finding pink stuff in my underwear and you you said it may be my period. SHould I confront my mother about this and treat it as my period or wait until i absouletly know it is my period like when it is red or brown? Please help!
    -Taji

    Hi Taji, why not ask your mum if you can wear Lil-Lets teens liners as they will protect you not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive?

  • First off let's get this clear: I am NOT goin through puberty anymore.
    Ok. So I'm wondering why do I keep gaining stomach weight and my boobs don't grow at all? I don't eat super healthy but I don't eat a lot. Is it because I eat more than I exercise? I don't exercise at all except for physical education.
    -EmmsΞ

    Hi Emms, you might like to consider eating a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and being a little more active too.  It is possible for breast development to continue into your late teens or early twenties. 

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and I only get discharge during the day and not at night, (I' haven't had my period yet) but like 2 months ago I found like a brownish discharge in my underwear in the morning and a few weeks after that it happend again. What do you think this is? Thank you for all the help!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vickii Bella here x
    I'm 15 and like this boy in my school year ..... At parties he has told me he loves me and he's bought me drinks and any problams he has been there for me we've hugged and kissed alone but in public it's like he hates me we've entered 2015 and he avoids speaking to me or will not text me and tell me he wonts nothing to do with him but I carnt Vickii I love him so much and I know he loves me all my friends and other students at my school say there Is definetly a spark

    It is easy for girls to form a deep attraction to someone during puberty due to the increase in activity of sex hormones and this is called a crush and crushes often fade with time.  As this boy is avoiding you, just move on and try to forget about him by keeping busy with your friends and family.

  • Dear Vicki one at I got red discharge which was like discharge mixed with blood. It only lasted one at and then the discharge went back to it's normal colour. Could that still be my period?

    This was your period but try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    When do you think i will start my period:
    Pubic hair
    Discharge 1+ year
    Cravings
    Headaches
    Irritability
    30A breasts
    Cramps
    Sore breasts xx
    Thanks!! I am 10 years old.
    From Emily

    Hi Emily, as you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky! I am 13 & I have a spot down below it' feels like a normal spot but it is very tender to touch I hope I am okay thank you! Xxxx

    Try to keep the area clean and apply a little antiseptic to the spot and it should hopefully clear up in a couple of days.  If it doesn't, mention this to your mum.

  • Hiya Vicki!I'd just like to say how pleased I am of the speed you answer all the questions in! This site has helped me so much and I'm sure other girls will think the same. Thank you Vicki! πŸ’ŸπŸ’ž

    Thank you for the kind words of support.  I do try to answer the questions as quickly as possible for you.

  • Hi Vicki, ive had sex with my boyfriend and he wore a condom, a week later and ive been experiencing pains/cramps/movement in my stomach/nausea and stomach gurgling. I am 4 days away from my estimated period and I am just wondering if there is any cause for concern? Thanks.

    If your boyfriend wore protection I do not see any reason for concern in this instance.

  • hello
    can you explain how you insert a tampon because the video dosent work

    123xxx

    There are two videos on our website so I will add both to your response.  How to use a non-applicator tampon and How to use an applicator tampon.

  • Dear Vicky
    i had started my period in the summer of 2014. It had been pretty regular and then in December i started to get ill. The doctors couldn't find anything then i have had my period 2 times when i was better all still regular and then its this month and i am about a week late. I know im not pregnant as i am 12 and to scared to talk to a boy let alone do anything and i am starting to worry whats wrong with me

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've been having discharge for ages now and when I woke up this morning it came out soso liquidy and big and it has been itching all day! Is this normal? When will my period be coming?

    It is normal for discharge to vary in colour, amount and consistency throughout your menstrual cycle so to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there, why not consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens wipes.  It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • What can I wear to protect my underwear everyday?

    Lil-Lets teens Liners are ideal for keeping your underwear fresh and clean.

  • I haven't started my period yet but I'm very self consiious that it might happen soon I don't know if I should wear pads even though Im not in my period and what if it happens when I have a subject with a male teacher what should I say to him
    Please help

    For some help with this, please check out my blog on Periods & School.

  • Dear vicky
    I have had discharge since last year and i have real bad mood swings follwed by cramps is my period coming soon. And is it normal for your boobs to hurt. I have boobs have been growing. Scould you please estimate when my first period is due
    From lulu 12

    Hi Lulu, it is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrive so I would guess that yours isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki, I got braces August 2014 & have recently noticed some quite bad stains round them. Im not a big fan of coffee or fizzy drinks, what else stains teeth? I feel really bad and embarressed that my teeth are stained. I feel embarressed asking my ortho, he hasn't said anything about the stains or my dental hygiene. I'm not sure what to do, please help?? P.s I've got 18-24 months until I get them off. Should I wait till I get them off or try to remove the stains now?😁 Thankyou so much... JessieπŸ’•

    Hi Jessie, your orthodontist is the person you should be discussing this with as he will be able to recommend what you should do.

  • I was due on the other day and have only had a bit of dark brown blood for the past two days but not much. Any ideas why as my periods are always normally medium to heavy with red blood and this time its dark brown and hardly any there

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi its betty again. Basically I swim 6 times a week. i'm 15 and my periods haven't started. I am worried that when they will start (soon) I am worried about the blood leaking in the pool and what to do. Any help? thanks xx

    Hi Betty, try not to worry as women all over the world swim whilst menstruating using tampons for their sanitary protection.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.

  • Hey vicki I'm Jennifer

    I just want to ask my boobs are sore and itchy has been for a while now I'm 13 what could it be
    Thx Love Jennifer (Jennie)

    Hi Jennie, it is normal for your breasts to be sore and itchy during development as the skin is stretched.  Try applying some moisturiser as this will help to keep the skin hydrated and reduce the urge to itch.

  • HelloπŸ’•
    I have had stretch marks on my breasts for a while now and I've recently gone up a cup size but there still there does this mean I'm going to have a outgrowth spurt and how do I get rid of them (they are also on my bun😁)
    Thanks so much have a nice day x

    Stretch marks are perfectly normal as skin is stretched through development.  Try applying moisturiser as this will help to keep the skin hydrated and reduce the effects.  Stretch marks naturally fade with time anyway so try not to worry.

  • I have a weird problem. I get scared to change my pad and I leave it as long as I possibly can. What's wrong with me??? :(

    The thing to remember is that pads should be changed every 3-4 hours and you will find that the more you do it, the easier it will become.  If you're concerned about the noise of the pad's wrapper as you are opening it, try not to feel embarrassed as all females have to do this so you're not alone.

  • Hello, I was wondering if you could help me, about 2 weeks ago I started my discharge. And for the past few day it has been extremely heavy, I'm so embarrassed people will see it when I get changed for pe.what can I do.

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina. It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens wipes to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

    Teens Wipes    

  • somone told me (mabe u) that I should cut NqoT shave my ****** so I have bin, but I cut the scin (badly) and I stings , I don't exactly no what to do to stop the bleeding, I cant use plasters cos that would heart to be pulled off, so I use the liners even though I've had my period this month, how do I stop the pain??

    If you are going to trim your pubic hair, it is safer to use a comb pressed against the skin so the pubic hair protrudes through the comb's teeth and then you can trim it without cutting yourself.  As the wound sounds quite bad, please tell your mum about it as you might need to see your GP.

  • i have had quite an irregular period for two months now, and my cramps have kicked in there are soooo painful and hot water bottles, rubbing/massages help. i couldn't help but gasp in spanish when a sharp one came. what should i do? xoxo

    You might like to ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller to ease your discomfort.


  • how do I clean down there?
    thanks r xxx

    The vagina is self-cleaning so warm, clean water should be enough to keep any bad odours at bay.  However, I am aware that many girls feel they should be using soap to feel properly clean, so it is ok to use soap on the outside area. 

  • hi I have a big spot thingy on the flap of my vagina is this normal? am I ill? plz reply thanks
    Anna Louise smith xxx

    Hi Anna, it is normal to notice spots around your pubic area so keep it as clean as possible and apply a little antiseptic.  Hopefully, it should clear up in a couple of days but if it doesn't, please talk to your mum about it.

  • hi vicki
    i am 12 years old and i have had lots of discharge for 2 and half years now, pubic hair for 2 years and a lot of cramps and mood swings. is my period soon? Ijust want to be prepared
    thanks from Ellen-may

    Hi Ellen-May, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki

    At the moment I cant get to sleep at night its really hard and everytime I try i can't i go to bed at half eight and don't have energy drinks i really don't know what's wrong thank you

    Ella

    Try to make sure that you are really tired before going to bed by being energetic during the day.  You can do this by dancing in your bedroom or going for a jog or a long walk, vacuuming the house and so on.. If you have a soak in the bath and try to create a relaxing environment in your bedroom by not watching television or listening to music, you will be more likely to fall asleep.  Give it a go but if you see no improvement, please talk to your parents about it.

  • Hi vicki please could you re- make the bra chart I noticed the size 32b isn't on there and it would be really helpful if it was
    Xx

    I will check the bra chart,  thank you.  For now, you might like to measure around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again over your bust at the fullest point.  Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate your bra size for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    If two girls were to start growing breasts at the same time, would one girls breasts grow faster than the other or grow at the same speed?
    Thanks x

    We all develop at different rates to each other because we are all different.

  • Hi viki,
    Please help me.
    I recently got my period a few months ago. So now time as passed and I've got it a few times it seems to be more of a responsibltiy. Now, on my period I seem to get embarresed. This is because of the odor. Is there a possible way to get rid of this odor?

    Thanks,
    M. :)

    Try not to worry as it is normal for menstrual blood to have an odour but as you are feeling a little self-conscious about it you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will help you to feel fresh and clean down there. 

     Teens Wipes

  • Did you go to college or uni and what would you recommend studying for someone who isn't sure what career they want? I want to do something within the creative industries or arts.

    I think everyone should have some of the basics, such as English, Maths a Science and Language.  For the creative industry why not have a chat to your teacher and see what requirements are needed for these careers, whether it be Art or Design or computer studies; they will be able to advise you further.

  • Dear Vikki
    You answered one of my questions and I'd like to thank you
    For the advice! I have anouther question tho I have really
    Irregular periods and I'm only on my 3rd I have swimming
    And I don't want people to know but cause its irregular
    I have been advised for the moment not to use tampons is
    This good advice if not what should I do??

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and as there is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to try using Lil-lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • They even give gifts to each other and don't give me one! We do talk in school, but the other 2 always whisper and don't tell me what they are talking about. I told them how I feel, and they said they consider me a third wheel. I have tried making other friends, but no one is willing to accept me. 😭😭😭😭what should I do?

    By excluding you and calling you a third wheel, your 'friends' are bullying you so please talk to your parents and teacher about this.  You do have a choice and that is to either accept that this is how your relationship is going to be with them or try making some new friends by joining a club for something you enjoy.  You may find my blog on Keeping and Making Friends helpful.  Remember that you have to learn to love yourself before you can expect others to do the same.

  • Vicki i do not know much about puberty but i want to know this. I have been having discharge for over a year and do not know if it should come in a normal way. Also the does the fact that i am twelve this year increase the fact i am going to have my period soon?

    As it I normal for girls to release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives, I would guess that yours isn't too far away.

  • Im in a group of 3 friends,& my 2 friends have been ignoring me. They always go to each other's houses &they NEVER invite me. They even talk about all the fun they had right in front of me! We do talk a lot at school, but the other 2 always whisper to each other &don't tell me what they are talking about. Part 1

    Response in part 2.

  • I've heard that it's a good idea to switch to pads occasionally instead of tampons. Why is this?

    Many women combine the use of both tampons and pads - some choosing to sleep in pads and use tampons during the day but the choice is yours.

  • hi,could a light brown/yellow smudge in my undies be my period? I already have my period but usually its just a light brown/yellow smudge.
    P.s this website is super helpful thnx!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  Thank you for the support.

  • Hi viki
    Well in a few months Iam going on a school trip to oaklands Wich is were you go and do outdoor activities and things but you have to get a shower in the middle of the day and well u wear makeup , I don't wear a lot of it but it's obviously going to come off and i have loads of stops and thing so I'm a bit worried
    I'm only 11 and I know that is young for makeup but I started puberty early so I feel more comfortable as a lot of my friends don't have spots and things . Thanks anyway from Anna ❀️

    Hi Anna, why not consider that this school trip is a time for you to be completely natural and leave your make-up at home?  I assume that Oaklands might involve lots of outdoor pursuits so wearing make-up would pose more problems than it's worth. 

  • Hi vicki
    Sorry if this is inappropriate
    I have noticed this since my breast development started I have this white stuff in my nipple could you tell me what it might be
    Thanks
    😘😘😘😘

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty generally caused by an increase in hormones or tight-fitting clothing.  Wash the area with warm soapy water to remove any dried fluid and try to avoid picking as this will make it sore.

  • Me and my friend (boy) are going to see a scary film together, how can I flirt with him while I'm there? X

    Being in such close proximity to your boyfriend should be enough to let both of you know how you feel about each other, with no tips on flirting required by anyone.

  • On Monday I thought that I had started my period. When I went to the toilet there was blood in my knickers but I had just itches my lady area because it was sore and it had bled, I have told my mum and dad that I am on my period and I don't know what to do, should I keep lying to them?❀️

    Be honest with your mum and explain that you were mistaken and the blood you noticed wasn't from your period but due to the fact that you had been itching your pubic area due to hair growth and development.  Please be sure to keep this area clean if you have broken the skin and watch that it doesn't become infected.

  • I am 5ft tall and I weigh 6 stone. Do I weigh too much???

    Puberty is naturally a time when teens can develop a poor self-image due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so rather than worry about being overweight (which you clearly aren't), try sticking to a healthy balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and be as active as you can.

  • Hi viki 😊
    I have had my discharge since may 2014. And im starting to feel uncomfortable about it, i know this sounds stupid but i want to start wearing liners. But i dont want to ask my mum as i would feel really embarrassed (even though i know she would want me to ask)
    What should i do??!

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty herself once, so try not to feel embarrassed and simply ask her.  Lil-Lets teens Liners have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive too.

  • So I have this thing where I get this build up of energy and I either have to let it out or I have a panic attack. I obvs just let it out bc panic attacks are the worst. My friend got annoyed with me because I couldn't concentrate on the group work we were doing and I told her about it, and she teases me and makes fun of me and now I have no friends apart from my bestfriend but his girlfriend told him that he has me as a best friend or her as a girlfriend so I have no one πŸ™ˆwhat should I do?

    If you are struggling; like lots of teens do, to manage your feelings then speak to your parents and teacher about this matter and they will offer you some coping strategies to help you feel better. As for your friend, if you no longer feel you can rely on her for support consider joining a new friendship group.

  • There's this cute boy i like and I think he might like me too. He's flirted with me twice and once asked me out but pretended it was a dare and on valentines day he sent me card that i think was from him because it looked like his hand writing. Do you think he likes me

    I do think this boy likes you so why not be brave and ask him?

  • Can you get pregnant by shaking hands with someone (and you don't know what's been on their hands), sort of washing your hands and it may or may not have been transferred to the wrong place?

    The only way you can become pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male.

  • hi vicki
    i have had the worst cramps today it took 3 hours of relaxing on my bed with a heat pad on the area and 1 paracetamol is there anything i can do.
    they are really painful. i cant move when i have got them i just want to know if there is any medication i can take?

    As your stomach cramps are quite painful, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki! So, for a couple of months I've had a crush on a guy and since then we have gotten quite close. He's dated a few of my friends but it didn't really bother me until he started seeing one of my best friends. I was the one he told first about him liking my friends and I was the one who got them together. He guessed that I liked him and we're still friends but I just don't know how I should feel about it all. He has stopped talking to me. Please help :)

    It may be that this boy sees you as a friend and not a romantic interest. Now you are no longer chatting as friends you may just find that he starts to see you as something more, especially when he sees what great fun you are to be around when with your friends.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm 13 and have just recently started my period after a couple of years of experiencing the discharge. I feel as though my bust is smaller compared to my other friends, and I was wondering if my bra size (32AA) is too small for the age of 13 and if I am a late bloomer for periods and if there should be anything to worry about.

    Thanks :)

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  It is possible for girls to notice breast development into her late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • Dear Vicky
    My mum already bought me pads for when my period does happen but I woul like to try th lil lets starter pack but I dontthink she will get me what should I do
    Thnxox

    Why not ask her if you can request a free sample pack from us instead?  You can do this by clicking on the contact tab at the bottom of the home page of this website.  The Starter Pack does have more in it and comes in a handy reusable bag so this might be something your mum might consider buying in the future.

  • Hey Vicki:) im nearly 18 and im in college- since last year I have really liked this guy (he used to be in my chemistry class)! All my friends dont think he is attractive. I dont really talk to him at all so normally I would give up and be like 'ah well nevermind' but i believe in fate so much and i just keep running into him in really unique situations (this has happened at least 4 times) and i want something to happen and he used to be really flirty with me, what is your advice? Thank you so much!! X

    It really shouldn't matter that your friends don't find him attractive, the important thing here is that you like him so why not be brave and talk to him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So my two friends came round my house today (they're both girls,we're all 11) and one of my friends was being sort of flirty (she does this at school too). She was putting her arm around my waist, hugging me and lying on my chest. She even said 'kiss' to me. But it makes my down below all tingly! Why?

    These are perfectly normal feelings for young girls to experience during puberty as hormones run riot so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki
    I don't know if this is a coincidence or what. So basically, I habe been reading and asking questions for about 1week and then my period began. Is this because I have been reading things about it.
    Anyway I started my period and has only lasted for 1 day. Is this usual?
    Anyway I am confused on your answer to question BBW672
    Thanks,
    Choconoodles

    Hi Choconoodles, remember that periods are a natural occurrence that arrive when they are ready so I really don't think that reading about them would have had an effect. 

  • Me and my family nearly always go out to the mall and restaurants and stuff but what if I get my period there how will I tell my mum without everyone hearing???

    From Sarah

    Hi Sarah, you might like to consider using pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  By doing this and keeping some pads close to hand, you will be prepared.  Have a chat with your mum.

  • Hi vicki
    Sorry if this is inappropriate but I started my period and because I do dance I need to wear tampons thing is whenever I try get one in it really hurts I'm putting it in the right place but it just won't go in😁 I wish I could use the small lillets ones but unfortunately that is not an option. Do u have any advice for me
    Thanks, livs x

    Hi Livs, the trick is to insert the tampon high enough into the vagina so only the cord is showing and it might take a little practice so try not to give up.  If you would like to sample the Lil-Lets teens tampons, you can do this by popping on to the home page of this website and clicking on to the contact tab at the bottom of the page.  If you are under 16, you will need your mum's permission to do this.

  • so i'm going to a waterpark and i'm gonna be on the last day of my period but my period is SO light. last night i put a lil lets teens night pad on and now its 5pm and i still have the same pad on because im really light also the blood isn't red its brown.
    do u think i will need to wear a tampon?
    tysm xo

    As you are at the end of your period, you should be ok but you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons (which are ideal for first-time use) in future.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world. 

     Teens tampons

     

  • Vicki help me!
    PT 2
    What she doesn't understand is that in 3 years i am going to have to get a summer job. These upcoming 3 years are all i have left. She has 7 years to go to CO. Those 4 years after my 3 she gets 2 go for BOTH of us. Why cant she be happy with that? And what can i say to make her see my point of view????
    JJ

    Hi JJ, I have answered this question a few weeks ago and my orignal response still remains true in as much as it may be a good idea for you to take it in turns deciding what you want to do or how you spend your vacation, because in the end both of you want to get the best out of your holiday and to achieve this you will both need to compromise.

  • Vicki, i need your help.
    PT 1
    OK. So every summer my sister and i visit Colorado. She has her traditions and i have mine. I always go first since I'm older. And my birthdays first. This year my sister wants to take turns going first. She thinks because she went 1st 1 year (I had an acting camp) that we are taking turns.
    JJ

    Hi JJ, see Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki, for the last few days I've been having bad cramps in my stomach, today I had blood in my poo, does this mean that I am going to start my period? I'm staying with my grandma and I have a 4 & a half hour journey back to my house on Sunday so I'm quite worried, please help.
    From KK

    Hi KK, the stomach cramps you're experiencing might be a sign that your body is preparing itself for when your period arrives and the blood you've noticed in your stools might be due to constipation so please try to drink more water and introduce more fibre into your diet.  Please mention this to your mum too.   As you face a long journey home from your grandma's, why not use a pant liner or pad just in case your period arrives?  This way you will be prepared. 

  • Hello viki
    Its marela ... So i am a girl who gets heavy period for the first 4 or 3 days but for this month my period started to get lighter from the second day with sooobad cramps
    Thanku for ur time. Viki

    Hi Marela, it is perfectly normal for you to notice a heavier menstrual blood loss at the beginning of your period and for it to become lighter towards the end so try not to worry.  As for your stomach cramps, try taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath but if the pain is too bad, ask your mum for a painkiller.

  • Hello there is this guy that likes me but I don't like him in that way and he really likes me but I feel really mean because everyone asks him out for me when he doesn't want to and I feel horrible and i don't want to hurt his feelings because he has been acting quite sad lately and he said he hasn't been getting much sleep and I think it's because of me saying no 😁I don't want to lose him as a friend but I also don't want anything to happen to him or make him upset x

    It would be much kinder for you to be completely honest by telling him that you only like him as a friend that way he will know where he stands.

  • Hi I'm 14 now and I started my period 2 years ago and my boobs have been the same size since. I'm scared they will never grow as all my friends have bigger boobs than me. Do you think they will grow?

    Breast development can continue up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time but please do remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and we should learn to love our breasts regardless of their size.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering whether people usually shave their pubic hair before showing someone (eg, your boyfriend/doctor) because I'm not sure whether it's better to shave or not (I don't at the moment) and how do you shave down their? Is it the same as shaving your legs or do you have to do it differently??
    Thanks x

    The choice is entirely yours and if you do want to shave your pubic hair, the same principle applies as to shaving your leg hair which is to shave in the direction of the hair growth. 

  • So basically, i am 17 and my boyfriend is 18... we both discussed it and decided that we are ready for sexual intercourse... and i know that we care for eachother and are completely honest so the otherday he told me he's had sex before and i mean, i dont mind that cuz thats in the past but now i am kinda nervous of not doing it right or what to do??!! Does it all come naturally? all i know is that i 100% want to do it.

    When two people feel ready to be intimate with each other, it is important that they take their time and allow nature and instinct to take its course.

  • I started my period at they end of 2013 and recently (from december,January) i havent had my period yet.... normally it comes on the 20th of every month.... i know we arent exactly nearing the end of february but its just around the corner... i haven't had sexual intercourse at all but i am worried about it not coming. Is this normal? How long is it before your period becomes regular?? Does it take a few years?
    Thanks

    It can usually take up to 2 years for your period to become regular and as yours has been irregular for longer than this, you might like to ask your mum or guardian to arrange an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • hi Vicki I am 9 and I have had discharge for 14 months. also I have pubic hair and a bra size of 32aa if this average or not

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away. Your bra size is perfect for you so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, my size is 30A and I decided to remeasure myself and got 28 32. My step mom and I got bras last year in October. I'm not sure how to tell her though. Also, I've had breast buds for over a year now, how will I know what stage I am on?

  • Hello vicki, thank you very much for sending me the lil-lets teen non-applicator tampons! I am very thankful for them :) I love the packaging and how tiny they are so you can keep one in your purse or pocket, they are great for school too! Because I like them so much I was wondering if there are any other products that you're able to send me because I'd love to try them! I would also like to try the applicator tampons (my flow is fairly heavy) thanks!

    Why not request a free sample from us by popping on to the Home Page of this website?  At the bottom of the page, click on the Contact tab and fill in your details and we will be able to process your request. 

  • Do you think if my mum looked over my shoulder and saw me on this website she wouldn't want me to go on it anymore?

    Thanks x

    There is nothing on this website that would be inappropriate for anyone to view.

  • Dear Vicky I am really worried that i will get my period soon and I'm wondering what I should do for advice
    Love Shanie 12 years old

    Hi Shanie, reading all the great stuff on our website will help you understand how to prepare for this new phase in your life and don't forget that key to being prepared is to have some pads or liners with you when out and about. You may even like to ask your mum to pick up our Lil-Lets teens starter pack when she is next out shopping.

  • Hi vicki so last year I got something in my underwear that did not wash of I thought it was discharge but I have pants that like if they get wet looks like a red colour (pink ones) they were what I had on at the time but now I'm confused to if it was my period or not can you just get one lot of blood on your period πŸŒ†

    Very often discharge can be clear and if it soaks into pink or red underwear it can appear red in colour. However, if you have been noticing discharge you may find keeping some pads and liners with you when out and about is a good idea from now on.

  • Hi. Just now I had diarear and after I had wiped five times there was blood on the tissue and I can't tell anyone and I'm not going to a doctor. What was it?
    Love miss miss moo

    Hi, you may have strained your bowels whilst passing stools and whilst it is worth mentioning to your parents it is not uncommon when suffering with diarrhoea or constipation.

  • My nipples hurt..why?

    During breast development, it is normal to experience discomfort and tenderness. 

  • I am scared of starting at a friends or whilst away from home such as at my nannas or grannys I do take like 7 towels incase but what if I needed more or if I started in the night I am really nervous and have all of the symptoms
    Discharge 2 years
    Hair 1 year
    Could you estermate when I will start please xxxx

    I have answered this question earlier to day so why not use your unique reference number or or keyword search to find my response.

  • Hey Vicki, what's contraception??

    There are different types of contraception and their role is to prevent unwanted pregnancies.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is it normal to have uneven butt cheeks or uneven boobs? I felt confident with my body but then after noticing those thing I felt like my confidence levels have decreased. I'm actually squatting at the moment so I'm not sure whether it's something to do with that.
    Thanks x

    No two breasts or bottom cheeks are identical and this is true for pretty much all of the population.

  • Hi Vicki
    What bra size would 76,79 be?

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering, what age would u let your children go out to shopping centres alone, or go to a shopping centre with adults but then seperate from the adult?

    At the age of 14 my children were allowed to go shopping, just as long as I knew who they are shopping with, dropped them off and picked them up. But every parent is different and your parents may have different views.

  • i started my periods on jan 12th and finished them on jan 16th. it is feb 18th and i still haven't had them yet. what's happening? i am 11, btw

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • In my best friend group there is 5 of us and I love them all (as friends) but i sort of have a 'favorite'. Is that wrong?
    Thanks

    Not at all, in fact I think it's normal for us to be drawn to some people more than others.

  • Hi vicki, I have just turned 12 and have had bad discharge since I was 10.
    I have not started my periods yet but I have had all the signs:
    Sore breast,cramp,mood swings and very bad discharge, I can feel the discharge when I walk !
    So does this mean I going to start soon ?
    Can you estimate when I will start ?
    Please help me!
    Love tiffany
    X

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Part 2: (Jess)
    What made it worse is a few years ago me snd my friend were out and a van pulled up next to us ( in the middle of the road) and I can't remember what the men said, but I think they whistled or something like that& it's made me scared to go out.
    What can I do to try and stop this fear? Is it normal to feel this way?

    It is normal during puberty to have more adult thoughts and find the world around you slightly daunting. My advice would be to speak to your parents about your fears and they will be able to help you manage any time away from home or their care, which will leave you feeling more confident, whilst still being aware of your surroundings.

  • Hey Vicky
    I'm 12 and I haven't had my period but lately at night I've had loads of discharge and its uncomfortable in ma pajamas and my pants is there any way to stop so much coming out at night or at least a way of stopping it getting to my pjamas

    You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Part 1: (Jess)
    I am so scared to walk to places on my own. I'm. 14/15 &quite small for my age and whenever I have to walk somewhere on my own I get really anxious and I know this sounds stupid but I feel like I am going to kidnapped or harrassed and it terrifies me.

    Hi Jess, see my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I recently git my first bra (30A) but it is uncomfortable when I lean against something because the clip digs in. I don't know what to do.

    Thanks,
    GeekyGinger

    This is why we recommend that you try your bras on before buying them.  If it's new, try taking it back to the shop and explain how the clip digs into your skin.

  • Can you have sex and get pregnant during your period?

    There is always a chance that if you have unprotected sex whilst on your period that a pregnancy will occur.

  • I got some blood in my underwear yesterday then i started wearing a pad but then its been 24 hours and i havent had it is this normal ?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicky when I'm having my period I like to wipe a lot after using the restroom but I do wipe kind of hard, is it bad to wipe with quite a bit of pressure?

    It is fine to wipe but not too hard as you may make this area sore, instead why not consider dabbing instead of wiping.

  • When I take a shower is it okay to wash your viginal area with soap during your period? I hate feeling unclean but I don't know if I should only rinse with water.

    The vagina is self-cleaning and soap can sometimes cause irritation so try to keep it to the outside area if possible.

  • hey,first im a little new here but kinda nervous.so first I have this whit and yellow stuff that come from my female area(vagina) and am really nervous because it has been happening since I was maybe 10 or 11.Can you help?
    thank you
    DJ

    Hi DJ, discharge is a clear mucus (that can dry yellow) that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I always seem to piss on myself a little or a lot. I don't really know why and it's been happening for a while. I need to change my pants like 2 times a day. Is this normal and how can I stop?

    Try using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there as you can change them as often or as little as you like.  You might also consider using the toilet more frequently to ensure your bladder is not full.

  • My period is really late like 10 days from when it normally comes I haven't had sex or anything so I can't be pregnant can I? Xx I am really worrying about this x this is only my third month so my cycle is uneven but ..... Xx is this normal to have such large gaps between periods

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hello
    when do your boobs go normal sized?
    if you have pubic hair does that mean you will have periods?
    how do you insert a tampon also does it hurt and how do you open the hole?

    123xx

    Breasts can continue to develop up until a girl's late teens or early twenties.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and when you feel ready to try using tampons for the first time, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and for you to be as relaxed as possible.  You might like to watch our video on How to use a non-applicator tampon for some help with this.

  • Hi vicki
    I am 14 and I have no period 😩 I have lots of discharge and some times it just a little bit ? I have really bad mood swings and have recently had tummy craps :/ I feel really awkward around my friends as they have most of them have started it just stared :/ what shall I do 😷

    You have noticed lots of the signs of puberty but the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm 15. and sometimes when I cough or sneaze I get this discharge/wee in my pants, is this normal? also I haven't started my period and lots of my friends have but I have had discharge for ages about 4 years now and I have pubic hair etc. Am I close to starting my period?
    Thanks xx

    It is normal for us to release a little fluid when we sneeze or cough on occasion and you might like to consider using pant liners as they will help to keep you keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  As you've ben releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 12 years old and I've started my period, recently I keep getting big clumps of blood jelly and my periods really heavy and thick. I was sat on the bed which had an expensive white throw on it and then I got up and a big patch of blood was there and I haven't told my step mum or dad I've stained the expensive throw. Please help. Olivia xx

    Hi Olivia, rinsing the throw in COLD water will help remove the stain and then pouring on a little washing detergent to the area before placing in the wash will remove the rest. If you feel your period is very heavy you may find that Lil-Lets Freshlock pads or tampons are a good choice of protection to use going forward.

     

  • Can teenagers (under 16) get abortions wothout their parents knowing? Because a girl in my year is pregnant and I dunno if she's told her mam or is keeping or what x

    If the UK if you are under 16 years of age, you can have an abortion without telling your parents, as long as two doctors believe it's in your best interests and you fully understand what is involved.

    However, the doctors will encourage you to involve your parents or another adult in your decision-making process. This increases the amount of support you have available. If you choose to have an abortion, you have the right for it to remain confidential, regardless of your age and I am sure your friend is taking advice on her condition and the best way forward for her.

  • I have a rather large mole in a very private area like a coco pop and I have asked you a question before about this but I need to get it removed!however i am anxious,nervous and scared of telling my mom and that I want to go to the doctors about it!what if they think I'm weird and unormal!because that's how I feel!i think the first step is the doctors then referral maybe?what do you think?it has such a massive till on my life and makes me feel discusting and vile towards my body!i need it removing

    Our bodies are all unique and many will have moles in unusual areas and whilst I see no reason why you cannot share this news with your mum, unless the mole is causing discomfort or inconvenience there is no need to have it removed, but I am sure your mum will decide if this needs to be discussed with your GP.

  • You say menstrual fluid is often brown but mine is nearly always red or purple is this ok? I also sometimes get weird fairly large lumps or white stringy tissue in it, and large blobs of clear jelly after periods or before them. I'm on Dianette.

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour and this variation can be brown through to dark red and these lumps or stringy fluid is also very normal.

  • Dear Vicki , I have had a whitish discharge for about a year and a half or maybe a bit longer and I still haven't gotten my first period , is there something wrong?

    No there is nothing wrong as discharge is often noticed for longer than a year before the arrival of your period.

  • I am pretty sure I have what's called Precordial Catch Syndrome. I first noticed random chest pains in my left side about 6 years ago and I didnt get them much for a while, just on and off but recently, I've been getting them again at least once or twice a week. It usually happens at night when I'm sitting or lying still or if I'm anxious. Can I ask a doctor about this?

    I would speak to your parents about your concerns and they will then decide how to proceed, which may indeed involve a visit to your GP.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm 13 and I get anxious in many times an don't know if this is a normal teenage thing or weather I have anxiety or not! Do you think I should say something about it or is it just normal?
    Thanks xx

    Hi, feeling anxious and self-conscious are very normal during your teenage years and I really would not worry and talk through your feelings and concerns with our mum or dad who will be able to advise and support you during these puberty years.

  • Hi,
    I asked a question earlier as to why my discharge is a brownish colour yet I have not started my period! I would just like to add that the discharge does smell, I don't know how to discribe the smell but it's not good. Does this mean I have a yeast infection or is it just signs of my period starting? What should I do?
    Thanks x

    Hi, it could be either of these, if the brown fluid stops after a few days it is most likely your period, if it continues then you may have a vaginal infection.

  • 30 inches under and 37 on the fullest part, what is my bra size??

    34C is your size based on these measurements.

  • So I was just curious if having discharge and some bleeding on your period means you are pregnant ... It has been pretty constant and I used protection so I just wanted to know if being active affects your period or to be worried

    Discharge is often noticed in between each period and is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hey. So I'm 14 almost 15 and I'm only a 32A. I haven't started my period yet. Does your weight affect when you start your period because I'm very very thin. Almost 7st. But not quite. Thanks -K

    Hi K, severe weight loss can alter the date for the arrival of your period but as a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 I doubt you will have much longer to wait before yours is with you.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 12 years old. Recently in the winter months I got ill I had no appetite to eat so mainly had fruit, yoghurt and coconut water. As I hadn't eaten I got skinny and lost weight. My boobs have gotten smaller and I can't fit into my bras properly. I feel really self conscious cuz all my friends have bigger boobs than me. How do I get them back without getting the rest of me fat.

    I am sure once you are back to your ideal weight you will notice an increase in your bust size and your bras will fit you comfortably again.

  • Its about Italy again....πŸ™ˆ I'm so fed up everyday I have butterfly's thinking about Italy. In the morning I think about Italy and I think I'm being silly about thinking I'll be homesick, but when it gets to the evening and I think about it I get butterfly's and am scared almost. It is beacuse I'm scared of being homesick but what's worse is that I can't stop thinking about how far away from home I'll be 😨

    If you have now decided that you are going on this school trip then speak to your teacher and ask her for some information on what you will be doing when away so you can research the area. You may also find my blog on Packing for a School Trip useful too.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I have a massive crush on this boy in my year and we always use to flirt but then I asked him out and he said no and then a day later he asked my best friend out and I saw them hug so I walked out of the gate before they saw me but then she ran up to me and was like he asked me out and I didn't want to be rude so I sad ahh I'm so happy for you but when I got home I just cried and I don't know what to do because every time i see him I just want to kiss him what do I do??

    It can be hard when we like someone but they do not feel the same and my advice would be to continue being happy for them both and if you can give them some alone time, whilst you spend time with friends and family. It will become easier in time and if you put some distance between you and this boy.

  • Hi vicki!
    Q1: what determines if a question is inappropriate or not?

    Q2: what signs are there that show I could be having a growth spurt?

    Q3: I can't stop eating! I have a really fast metabolism and I don't put on weight but whenever I finish eating about 10minutes or sometimes straight after, I feel hungry again. Is this normal?
    Thankyou Xx

     A question is deemed inappropriate if I feel its content would cause offense to others that may read it, or if the words are inappropriate or abusive.  Growth spurts can come in different ways, for example you may suddenly become taller, curvier or your breasts may grow a cup or two larger over a short space of time. In answer to your second question, if you feel hungry soon after eating consider increasing the amount of protein, carbohydrates and vegetables on your plate, to leave you feeling fuller for longer. Very often we also eat when we are bored so have a glass of water when feeling peckish as it may be habit that is sending you back into the kitchen to snack.

  • Vicki! HELP!
    My discharge load has doubled!!!!!!! Does this mean my period is sooner than i expected??????????????? PLEASE HELP ASAP!

    Not necessarily as discharge can often vary in the amount produced from day to day and in relation to hormone levels in your body at any one time, regardless of whether your period has started or not.

  • Hi Vicki
    I use the lil-lets teens applicator tampons and although they are very good they do not last very long at all with me. I cannot use a higher absorbency because it hurts me too much. So you think that it's ok to just wear a pad with the tampon? The reason I use them is just so that I don't feel fluid exiting me.

    Thanks
    From Tia })i({ (btw that's meant to be a butterfly)

    You could wear a pad with your tampon or you may prefer to try our NEW Lil-Lets teens super applicator tampons out in stores at the end of the month. Drop me a line by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and I will send you a pack with my compliments.

  • Im really scared i might start when at a friends or my nannas or someones and i do take supplies but when i run out what would i do and what if i started at night or when im out xxx





    Very often when periods arrive only a small amount of fluid is lost and so please try not to worry, if you always ensure you have an emergency pack of pads or liners with you when out and about there should be no embarrassing leaks or moments.

  • Is it dangerous to have a cold and be on your period at the same time?

    No, not at all and it is important to remember that a period is a very natural process for a female and has no impact on your general health.

  • Why are me and my best friend drifting apart? All she does when we text is cause arguments and she says that I get all defensive but I don't, she never admits she's wrong. And tbh she doesn't act like a proper friend, as she's nice somthimes and really horrible other times. My other friends think say she doesn't meen it but why is she doing this? I'm not sure if I want to loose her as a friend as we have had some amazing times togethrr xx

    During puberty it is very normal for friends to be frustrated with each other as they struggle to manage their emotions. So rather than text your friend agree to meet up and have a chat letting her know you understand that puberty can be touch causing moods swings for both of you and that you feel this is a time to support one another. You may find my blogs on Puberty and Hormones and our section on Emotions and Feelings useful too.

  • Is there any way I can get larger boobs?

    There is nothing you can do to make your breast fuller and I feel it is important to learn to love your shape no matter what that may be, remembering that breasts continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties.

  • I had my period early does that mean I'm pregnant but I haven't had intercourse

    The gap between each period can be short or long during your teenage years and does not mean you are pregnant.

  • Whenever I go to the bathroom and I do the usual things like wipe, flush, and wash, a few minutes later discharge comes out thinly almost like urine... Is this normal? -Morgan

    Hi Morgan, yes this is fairly normal as discharge can be released at any time during the day.

  • Hi vicki
    So basically I've just been diagnosed with type one diabetes and I am now injecting insulin into myself. I know insulin is a hormone so will this affect the time of my period?



    Xxxxxxxx❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀

    This is something you should discuss with your GP and will depend on the type of injections you are having.

  • You answered my question about if I started my period. Well, it was light brown yesterday, by today there is just normal dischatge. I don't understand if it was my period. What do you think? I also had cramps yesterday.
    Thanks- goose

    Hi Goose, sometimes first periods can be very light with only a small amount of fluid being released and if you are 100% sure this was menstrual fluid and not waste food not wiped away thoroughly after visiting the toilet then I really would not worry at all.

  • I've been having an upset stomach for a while now and my mom said its not normal if your gonna have your period soon but she said it wasn't abnormal either. Am I gonna get my period soon?

    Tummy upsets can be caused by many things, growing during puberty or viruses. My advice would be to keep some pads or liners with you when out and about from now on and especially if you have noticed other signs of puberty such as breast development, discharge or pubic hair.

  • Hi Vicki, so I really want to go to legat dance school but I don't do ballet πŸ˜”πŸ˜” I am 13 so it is deffo too late to start but I do lyrical and jazz and contemporary. So tou think I will still get a chance of going to dance school for sixth form
    Alicia xx

    Hi Alicia, why not have a chat to your teachers who will be able to guide and advise you on your best options for dance and how you can go about reaching your goal.

  • Hiya
    This mightn't be serious or a silly question, but I' feel so guilty. So basically my boyfriend has a twin brother, and today they asked me and a group of other people if I wanted to go and see this new film tomorrow. I said no, and made up an excuse why, and said thanks for asking and stuff, but I feel so bad that I'm scared of being with my boyfriend around his friends!?
    Thanks

    There is no reason why you should feel bad, if your body is telling you that being in a large group of boys is not something you will feel comfortable with then this is your choice and you can always go and see the film with friend or family instead.

  • Here we go this is embarrassing.....
    Hi Vicki, i have this embarrassing problem where i sweat tons i put deodrant on but its not enough i don't dare take my school blazer off incase people can smell it 😷😡
    one time my one of my best friend's smelt it because the classroom was sooo hot and it actually gets worse with him 😱and he said something like you smell a bit sweaty or something like that and its so embarrassing for me i nearly burst into tears 😒
    -E

    Hi, there is a huge difference between body sprays, deodorants and antiperspirants. A deodorant or body spray will simply mask any odour, whilst an antiperspirant will prevent sweat from being produced so you may find using a good quality antiperspirant is a better product to try and some even come with a built in deodorant too, so you get the best from both products.

  • Hey vicki I'm quite shy and I get really easily embarrassed. Any way I have this major fear of dolls and (obviously) I was made to do CPR on a doll which lead to me feeling sick, shaky and resulted in me crying at the thought of having to kiss the doll, I have to do this again but I don't know how I will be able to do this.
    Q1) why did I react that way? (because I honestly have no clue)
    Q2) how do I stop it from happening again?
    Thanks for everything
    -Amy x

    Hi Amy, we all react to things differently and if you find that this sort of exercise does not appeal to you and makes you feel unwell have a chat to your parents who will I am sure ask your teacher that in this instance you simply watch others demonstate CPR as it makes you uncomfortable.

  • Hi Vicki, Laura here. I need your help. So basically me and my ex are friends.. He went up town and apparently 10 people went JP to him saying that he did stuff to me when we were together stuff that he didn't do but they claimed I told then this. When I certainly did not. He texted me about it and it didn't seem like he believed me I said that I hated him but I don't. I could never hate him. I explained to him that I was angry but he said I still said it :(

    It may be best to ignore any gossip you hear from now on, you have told your ex that these things were not said by you and if you catch up with the people he claims have told him these stories you may want to let them know the trouble they have caused by telling these lies. Then let the matter go and move on.

  • My period really hurts; it hurts so bad that one time I through up !!!!!! I've tried herbal teas, water, applying heat and no sweets/sugar…please help me…if there is anything I can do or use???

    Menstrual cramps are best eased by taking some gentle exercise or stretching and yes I do appreciate that when you feel like this exercising is the last thing you feel like doing, but it really will help.

  • I am 11 (almost 12) years old and I wear a bra size of 34A. Most of the girls in my grade are flat chested and I feel very insecure about them. Do I need to worry about oversized breats and does this mean that my breasts will stop growing earlier or that I will always have bigger breasts than most? Thank you!

    Breasts can continue to develop during your late teens or early twenties and there really is no need to worry, we are all different and so will our breast size be at any age.

  • Hi Vicki! So, I always get discharge like alllllll the time. I already started my period in year 6. I'm in year 8 now and I'm worried.is it even normal to have discharge all the time.. Even my mum said its weird. Thanks, Lauren πŸ˜ŠπŸ’–

    Hi Lauren, lots of girls and women continue to experience discharge throughout their late teens and early twenties and in between periods, so please try not to worry and remember that discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • I have a disk-like under my nipple on one breast but the other is completely flat and soft. Is this normal!!!

    From Anonymous x

    This is your breast bud and the start of breast development, it ofen occurs in one breast first, with the second breast catching up a few months later.

  • If you get TSS by using a tampon does it depend on the size of it??

    No one actually knows why there is a link between using tampons and menstrual TSS and for this reason several tips and advice guidelines are given to tampon users to avoid contracting this extremely rare illness and you can read more about this subject on our main website. Here is the link. TSS.

  • hi Vicki I'm 12 yrs old and I've had white discharge for about a year now but yesterday when I wiped I got this brown sticky discharge so I told my mum and she said its just the start of my period but it when I wear pads I dont have any blood on them just when I wipe I have this brown discharge
    my mum said not to worry and that its the start of my period (by the way this is the second day on my "period")
    is this normal? thanks x

    I have to agree with your mum, this is most likely your period, even though only a small amount of fluid is being released on this occasion. Remember though that periods can differ from time to time and you may find that your next period is a little heavier.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and have not started my period yet. I get a lot of discharge and usually it is clear or a misty white colour but the past few days it has been a sort of brown colour, what does this mean?
    Thanks x

    This brown fluid may be your first period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. Why not read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicki
    Right this is kinda weird. For some reason I keep thinking I'm a lesbian. I know fine well I'm not, I don't like girls (I like them as friends) and I have liked a boy for about a year or so coming up in July. I don't know why I keep thinking I'm a lesbian. I KNOW I'm not and I don't want to be either (not in a mean way, it's just not my thing) I have no objections towards people being gay, as that is who you are. Could it just be my hormones making me think like this??? Thank you x

    It could be your hormones as this is often a time of uncertainty and thoughts of a sexual nature will occupy your mind. My advice would be to not worry too much about this and instead concentrate on enjoying your teenage years.

  • Dear Vicky ,
    I saw some blood on my tissue and it was a jelly - like substance. The next day I was experiencing abit of pain but there was no blood . This have been happening for 3 days straight !


    Wat does it mean !!!!

    If this jelly like substance was brown or red; then this may have been your first period and I would consider keeping some pads and liners with you from now on just in case you notice this fluid in a month or so.

  • This may sound quiet grim so I am sorry in advance but I don't know what to do, so basically my vagina has a weird oder and I wash every day and am very hygenic , I change my pants every day etc but the oder is still there?! I am so embarrassed 😡 please helpπŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜–πŸ˜·πŸ˜·πŸ˜·πŸ˜·πŸ˜·

    This odour may be caused by sweat, urine or faeces not being wiped away thoroughly and you may find using our Lil-Lets Freshen-up wipes is a useful tip especially when in school or out and about.

    Lil-Lets teens wipes

  • I have a ballet exam tomorrow and I'm not sure on what of the products I should wear with a Loetard and tights

    Many thanks

    Jasmin

    Hi Jasmin, if you are comfortable with tampons these would be ideal as they are very discreet, but if you prefer pads then these would be the best option and can easily be hidden under your leotard.

  • Hi Viki,
    I seriously need some liners because I get discharge but no matter what you say about e-cards and stuff I still will feel way too embarrassed to ask and also don't you think that my mum would of asked me if I wanted liners cuz she does the washing and she must be able to see the stains so... Help!

    From Hannah

    Hi Hannah, lots of people do not worry about discharge in their underwear as it will generally wash out and this may be the case for your mum, especially if you have not already informed her that you find discharge uncomfortable. So why not try the e-card or sampling route so you have some of our liners to show her.

  • Why do my muscles ache so much when it's my time of the month?
    I end up limping and looking weirx
    I genuinely ache but get no cramps and back ache
    My flow is heavy

    Lots of girls experience muscle ache, especially to the upper legs and groin and this is generally believed to be caused by your muscles contracting to release menstrual fluid and gentle stretching exercises or walking should help ease this discomfort.

  • When will you have some new youtube videos?
    I find them extremely beneficial and a great way to know what to do when I am unsure and scared about puberty!
    They're really fun to watch but packed with so much advice!
    Please make some new ones!

    We are working on our 2015 plans right now and should have news in the summer. Have you watched our SmartFit You Tube videos these are very useful too.

  • Hi Vicky
    I am 11 years old and I don't wear bras because my mum thinks it is inappropriate to wear them but it is really embarrassing when we are getting changed for pe. What shall I do. My friends wear them. Thank u.

    Person.

    I think it really does depend on how developed your breasts are and if you find that you jiggle when active then it may be time for a bra or crop top, however if breast development has not yet been noticed then please don't feel you have to wear a bra simply because others in school do.

  • Hi Vicky

    For about a month now I have been feeling really down because I hate my body. I know I am overweight (I'm 13 and weigh 64.6 kg) and my doctor brought it up the last time I was there. I have considered cutting but haven't tried anything. It doesn't help that my best friends have model-like figures which makes me feel worse about myself. I've also starved myself which I told my mum about. Please help me I want to feel better about myself and lose weight.

    KittyCat358

    Hi, dieting is never the answer and at 13 your body actually needs lots of calories to help it manage all the changes you are experiencing. My advice would be to sit down with your mum and work out a healthy eating plan and exercise regime and you will find very quickly your body will find its ideal weight without you having to exclude or stop eating the foods you love and are good for you.

  • ❀️❀️Hi, I used a tampon for the first time (non applicator) yesterday and I could feel it and it was a little uncomfortable but I kept it in for a few hours and then I removed it after about 4 hours. Today I used an applicator tampon and couldn't feel it at all so I guess I put it in properly. How do I put non applicator ones in without it feeling uncomfortable? Thank you:) ❀️❀️

    Remember to insert a tampon high inside your vagina if you want to feel comfortable and this would be my tip for the next time you use our fabulous non-applicator tampons.

  • Hi vicki!
    What is my body shape?? 30inch-25inch-31inch (hips-waist-bust) and what clothes would look best on my body type?
    Also, what is my bra size?
    28inches underneath
    31inches around ? Thank you and if you can't answer the first question it's okay :)

    32AA is your bra size based on these measurements. As for your body shape and clothes it really is useful to go shopping and try on lots of different styles; some you may not have considered before and finding out what suits you and your shape best.

  • I have to double up on protection - tampons and pads..
    The flow is so heavy
    It leaks
    It goes on my clothes and furniure
    Even at school
    It makes my body ache
    I tried an ultra tampon but I feel my body is to small as it was so uncomftabe and was no use...I knew it was in right though

    Why not try a super or super plus tampon or our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads, for your heavier days and if you feel an ultra tampon is not suitable at this time.

  • Hi vicki, i am feeling sad. its half term and all of my friends go out without me. It has happened before, ALL of my friends went out to McDonald's and didn't invite me and when one friend asked why i wasn't coming i said that no one had invited me. They then told all of the other people going and everyone made up a reason why i hadn't been invited which was basically because they forgot about me. That same day they told me to come with them but it was too short notice; I felt like a last minute thought

  • My breasts have been growing for at least 1 year and a half, and ive had discharge for about a year, and sometimes but not very often, i get cramps in my stomach... Do you think I'd be coming onto my period anytime soon?
    Thanks

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I am sure you will not have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period and you may want to consider keeping some pads and liners with you when out and about in preparation.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I was wondering, when I masturbate, i feel ashamed or guilty after, and i feel like i shouldnt have done it, and i kind of regret it.
    Does everyone feel this way?

    Thanks,
    Sara

    Hi Sara, some people do, but it is important to remember that masturbation is both a natural and instinctive activity and as teenagers find themselves becoming sexually aware of their body and how it responds to touch it is very normal to feel curious about exploring your body in this way.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I havent started my period but what would happen if I started it in class? If i stood up would everyone see?
    Thank You,
    Hallie

    Hi Hallie, why not read my blog entitled Periods and School it will tell you all you need to know and I am sure alleviate any concerns you may have.

  • Hi vicki. Dats nt a Q jus wanna say thanks alot. U r the bst. I really appreciate u. U r the bst. Thank u so much for asnwering our Q. Ur the beeeeeeessssstttttt!! ty verry verry much!!!!

    BY dancer (jus so I come to know dats me)hehehehehe

    You are most welcome.

  • Hi vicki
    Thank u for answering my previous question. So I have frnds that I used to go to primary with. They are starting to talk to me badly and they are always gossiPing about me saying that I am a cheat. Now that I have new frnds in high school. There is only 4 of them and there is 10 of us. I really love my new frnds they understand me unlike them . I don't know what to do plz help vicki . I AM FALLING APART;(
    Cute princess x0x0

    Hi, friendships often change during puberty and especially when we start a new school and meet new people. Have a chat to your friends letting them know how hurtful you find their comments about you and ask if you can all work something out. It may be that in time you will stop seeing so much of your old friendship group and naturally graduate towards your new friends. You may also find my blogs, Keeping and Making Friends and Standing Up For Yourself useful too.

  • how do i ask my mum to by pre period products so i am ready

    Why not send her one of our e-cards and we will do the asking for you. Alternativel you can ask your mum if you can request a free sample from me by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page.

  • How do I get someone to stop acting differently when they're with more than just me in the friendship group? I find it annoying, immature and silly. I've stopped hanging out with my friends that much recently and I'm lucky if I do about once a month and I don't think this is good. What should I do?

    Some people feel a little self-conscious amongst a large group of friends and act differently to help them cope with this time. Others find that being in a large group is fun and gives them confidence to be more outgoing, so please don't judge your friends too harshly if they act this way and if you try to find a happy balance of alone time vs. friend and family time.

  • I never feel like socialising and feel like being on my own nearly the whole time. I don't know why and often the day before an event I'll get a strong feeling that I don't want to go, like a mix of can't be bothered to go and just not in the mood. How do I stop this? It's like I can't control it.

    Lacking enthusiasm during puberty is very common and can become habit forming leaving you solitary and spending time in your room. However, it really is important to fight these urges and spend time with family and friends taking part in gatherings and activities. Once you are there you will find you enjoy this time, it really is just a case of motivating yourself to take part.

  • Is a perenium the same as a pubic mound? And why do I not have a pubic mound? I have periods and body hair etc.

    No the perineum is a diamond shaped area found in the region of between the legs.  In females it is located between the vagina and anus and in males between the scrotum and anus. The amount of flesh or fatty layer found at the front of your body will vary from person to person, so please don't feel this area has to look a certain way, this really is not the case.

  • I have started my period and before ive been getting discharge I got period twice and now im still getting discharge sometimes is that normal?

    It is very normal to notice discharge in between your periods and this is nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm not sure if last month I started my period or not because : my breasts developed (30B), I had discharge for 1 1/2 years, I had a lot of mood swings and bad stomach cramps that were so bad that I couldn't move but they stopped happening. On the day that I think I got my period, it felt like I was having discharge and my tummy was a bit painful but not really. When I checked, there was brown discharge, my mum didn't think it was but I think it was. BTW I'm 13. I didn't have it again after that

    It may have been your first period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. Why not wait and see what happens over the next few months and ensure that going forward you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hiya Vicki!!

    How did you get your mum to get you a bra because I might try your way with my mum. However hard I try to be persuasive, it doesn't work, so when I wait a while and then ask, she still says no!!

    Please HELPPPP!!

    Thanx a lot,

    Ysabelle

    Hi Ysabelle, why not measure yourself and see if you can find your size on our guide. If you can then consider showing this to your mum, letting her know that you feel you now need some support in this area.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Firstly, What is an perenium?
    And secondly, I'm 14 and really skinny, will I start to get bigger and curvier as I get older?
    Thank you
    Love Lola x

    Hi Lola, the perineum is a diamond shaped area found in the region of between the legs.  In females it is located between the vagina and anus and in males between the scrotum and anus. Finally, as you continue to become a young woman you may see changes to your shape, height and weight and this can continue for some into their early twenties.

  • i cant insert a tampon and i dont know where to

    There are three openings between your legs that all have a different job to do. The front opening is where your water or urine is passed, and this is much too small for a tampon to fit into.  Your back passage is where you excrete waste food, and the middle opening is your vaginal opening and of course this is the one where you insert a tampon.

    Why not watch our videos on tampon insertion and be sure to read the leaflet enclosed within every pack of tampons purchased.

  • I am thirteen and my breasts have barely sprouted I also haven't started my period yet.I'm afraid that they won't grow and that I'll never get my period.I also have a high metabolism so I am very slim and I feel like that's the reason I'm not developing.Will my breasts develop and will I get my period? Thanks

    A period can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18 and breasts continue to grow into our late teens or early twenties so I do not feel you have anything to be worried about, your body will now when the time is right for you and we are all different so please try not to compare your progress with that of others around you.

  • I keep having these moments where my eyes go blurry I lose my balance and I feel dizzy. I nearly fell over and I can't control it. What is it?

    Please speak to your parents about this matter, it could simply be a case of not eating or drinking enough during the day, but it is always to get the advise of an adult around you who can discuss this matter with you in more detail.

  • Hey vicki what do you mean by demmed inappropriate!!?




    Thank u

    If something is abusive or its content will uspet others then I do not feel it is suitable to be published.

  • I love sports, especially swimming, but I can never insert a tampon. I've watched countless videos on it but I just find it so difficult.

    Just like anything new using a tampon can take a little practice, so be patient and try again when your next period arrives, remembering to insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and some girls find giving a little cough as they insert can help relax the vaginal muscles and aid insertion.

  • Hi Vicki, my underline is 69 and my bust is 74. What bra size should I have? Thanks.

    32AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Dear Vicky

    I'm 15 and have just had my second period In 2 weeks, this has never happened and I'm a little worried is it normal?

    It is very normal to have both short and long gaps between each period during your teenage years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • I'm scared of talking to my mum about periods as normally my brothers or dad are around her if I want to ask HELP!!!

    Why not send her a text asking for some girly alone time, I am sure she will be happy to make time for a chat.

  • Do you answer our questions?

    Yes, every day, even at the weekends.

  • I'm about to go on the pill and im really scared to put on weight. I'm 5 ft 4 and weigh 7 stone 7 do IVE always been skinny, my mum said its not overly noticeable but I feel like bc IM so skinny it will be and people will wtart talking about me and saying im fΓ’t. I'm so terrified of putting on weight, is there much of a chance that I wont????πŸ’ŠπŸ’ŠπŸ’ŠπŸ’ŠπŸ’ŠπŸ’ŠπŸ’ŠπŸ’Š

    Not everyone who takes oral contraception notices a difference in their weight so please try not to worry. Remember too that as we become young women there will undoubtedly be a difference in your shape and weight quite naturally.

  • Hi i am 12 and I exercise a lot I haven't got my period yet . I had my discharge for nearly 6 months and I've only gotten clear and white discharge is it normal?
    And today my discharge suddenly stopped and my back, tummy also hurts what happened to me?

    Thanks and please answer
    Anna

    Hi Anna, discharge is often noticed for up to a year before the arrival of your period, sometimes even longer. Also the amount produced can vary from time to time too, with days of no discharge being noticed being very common.

  • So i am really sry if dis is inappropriate. In may 2014 wen I was gonna be 12 in a mnth. I had sexual feelings a lot. Like I always wanted to kiss smbdy . smthng of dat sort. I hd a cousin bro who was going to be 2. He was adopted. Wenevr I saw him I donno bt felt like kissing him on lips😣 dat is obvio I didnt Do anythng of dat sort!! That feeling was jus for a day...bt stilll it is really weird for me. Like now though I didnt do annyyyyything but I still feel embarrased and guilty!! Is dat all ok?

    It is fine to have feelings of a sexual nature and you have no reason to feel guilty for something that never happened and I am sure in time these feelings will pass.

  • Hiya viki , is there a way a man or boy can put his penis inside ur vagina without u getting pregnant? Many thanks Katie-

    Yes, if the man does not ejaculate or if contraception is being used.

  • Hi, I started my period November 2014 and it's been fine but now it's not red but really dark brown stuff maybe instead of my period. Should I be worried or....
    -Alexandra

    Hi Alexandra, menstrual fluid can often be brown and not red in colour and this is very normal. You may find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid useful too.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I am 13 and pretty flat chested and have a large disc shape lump under both my breasts and was wondering if this is normal?
    Also when do you think my breasts will develope?

    Yes this is very normal and these little lumps are your breast buds and the start of breast development for you.

  • Hi Vicki! How do you make new friends in a new school if you're really quiet and an introvert? :) Thanks! -t

    Why not read my blogs entitled, Walk Tall with Confidence and Keeping and Making Friends.

  • Hi,
    I'm 12 years old and I've had discharge for over 2 years. I wear pantiliners. My discharge was light brown. I also had cramps all day in my lower stomache. I told my mom and we think it is my period. Do you think it is? My doctor said my growth plates were wide open- meaning I have a lot of growing left- but my mom said it might be my period. Is it?
    Goosey or Fred or Marie Claire (keywords)

    Hi, I have to agree with your mum as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Hi..I'm 16 and when I touch my boob I feel something hard in the middle of both my boobs .. Is this normal..I don't know how to explain it ..thanks

    This is your breast bud and nothing to be worried or concerned about, in time this will continue to grow and form breast tissue.

  • Ok so i am really skinny and have barley any boobs i am a 36b and im 13 going to 14 in april.boys are always touching me and i feel wierd and dont now how to stop them

    If you find yourself uncomfortable with the attention others give you then tell them so, or move away. If this does not stop their behaviour speak to a teacher as very often boys feel they have a right to touch girls whenever and wherever they choose and to show them they need to be respectful we very often need to let them know they are being inappropriate.

  • Hiya vicki!
    Im 13 and have 32b boobs, but i just feel really conscious and embarrassed of them. My friend says she is a 32a but her boobs look loads bigger than mine, but my size is bigger?! My boobs are small and triangular and i hate them! How can i make them look bigger? And will they get bigger? Clara-Rae
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    Hi Clara-Rae, we really are all different and it may be the style of bra your friend has chosen that makes her breasts look fuller. Remember too that this is not a competiton to have the largest breasts and that all breasts are beautiful no matter what there shape or size. Finally, breasts often appear triangular during development and this is nothing to worry about.

  • Generally is 42AA a big size for a tall, but thin 11 year old? I think I might of measured my bra size wrong.

    If you have a thin frame then I think the 42 may be incorrect, so why not ask someone to help measure you again.

  • I often imagine I'm a different person, in different time periods, different lifestyles etc and I'm worried it's strange. I sometimes imagine I have a boyfriend or husband and children and when I lie in bed I play out scenarios in my head. Is this bad or unhealthy?
    Thank you.

    This is actually very normal and very common and part of your journey to becoming a young adult....lots of people continue to do this throughout their life...including me!

  • I'm 16 and I feel very childish. I'm rubbish at speaking to boys as I'm quite shy and awkward. Everyone I know drinks and has been drunk before and I feel left out because I've never done that and think it's silly. Many have also had boyfriends and had sex and I just feel like I'm getting left behind. I've never kissed a boy or been liked by one either.
    Ps I posted another question about feeling distant from my friends. I don't think I fit in at all with my generation.

    Let me into a little secret...lots of people now wait until their late teens or even early twenties before deciding to date and prefer never to drink alchohol. So whilst you may feel that your friends are experiencing life to the full this really is not the case. It's all about your life and how you choose to live it and there is no right or wrong time for experiences to be had.

  • I am 16 years old. I have friends, but I feel like I've become distant to them. I don't usually meet up with them or message them, like everyone else does, and I feel very antisocial. I'm leaving my school next year to go somewhere else and I feel bad because I'm desperate to get a new start, away from my friends and year group. I just feel like we're not very close anymore and I don't want to do. I feel like a bit of a loser.

    It is very common for friends to out grow each other and this seems to be the case for you. It does not mean that you no longer like your friendship group but rather that you now have different interests, so my advice would be to continue chatting to them and if possible find new groups of friends to associate with.

  • Hi vicki. This is just a thank you. I have liked a boy for quite a while and a few weeks ago asked him out. He said yes and we are now bf and gf. If it weren't for you And your advice I would never have had the courage. Thank you so much xx

    What a great result and I am so glad you took my advise.

  • So I really need some advice;
    So I've had a bad cough fot about 2-3 weeks and it started off OK, then last week it got really bad. Basically, half the time when I cough I stop breathing, and its like someone is blocking my airways and I have a panick attack. It has happened at least once everyday so far since last Monday, but MY MUM WON'T TAKE ME TO THE DOCTOR! I have asked her loads, even the school nurse say I should go but my mum doesn't think I should!!! THIS IS SCARING ME LOADS!!!

    Hi, coughs can often take a number of weeks to heal, very often people find sipping warm drinks rather than cold ones can stop the coughing action as can speaking less and I am sure if your mum does not see an improvement over the next few weeks she will pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Sorry if this sounds a bit gross but; basically, I started my period and its really heavy which I can manage, accept, the blood seems to come out and it sits between my bum cheeks some how! It also is really uncomfortable and I have to go to the toilet evey half hour or so to wipe it away. It is so uncomfortable too, as I can always feel the blood there! But how come there is still loads of blood in the pad and between my bum cheeks? Also, how can I stop this happening??? ThanksπŸ˜€

    You may find the top sheet on our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal, long and night pads is a better choice of sanitary protection in the future, guaranteed to leave you feeling clean, fresh and dry when on your period.

  • What do you get in the starter packs xxx

    You can find out what it is included in our Starter pack by clicking here. Lil-Lets Teens Starter Pack.

    Lil-Lets teens starter pack

  • Hey Vicki! Right, so I started my period on June 11/12th I think 2014, and I haven't told my mother yet! She got me pads and tampons to be prepared when I get them and I've nearly ran out! I need more pads and I need to tell my mam! But how?!😰😘xx

    It really is the time to come clean and let your mum know that your periods are here and you now need more supplies, trust me she will understand and very often the fear of telling someone is not half as bad as actually sharing your news.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 15, an I've had my period for a few years, and they've always been irregular, but recently I can't remember the last time I had one, and i think it was a while ago! I had all my symptoms the other week but I still haven't come on? I'm deffinately not pregnant as there is no chance of that! I'm not sure what to do? Thank you very much x

    Periods can often be irregular throughout your teenage years, often with long gaps of several months between each one, so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hello,
    I'm 13 and I get these little white/ yellow marks in my pants
    When I'm in school my pants always feel wet
    I think its discharge
    Should I wear a liner?
    Thanks x

    Hi, yes this is discharge and you may find wearing a pant liner on a daily basis helps you feel clean and fresh. You may even like to request a free sample of liners from me by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page.

  • Hi vicki,
    I am 12 1/2 and I have TINY boobs at the moment I am a 30aa but I really want to be a bigger cup size as my friend is a 32b how can I make my boobs grow bigger or am I in the right cup size?
    Thanks
    Carlotta

    Hi Carlotta, there is no right or wrong size for breasts to be at any age and as you can see even groups of friends can all look different. There is nothing you can do to make your breasts fuller, nor is it a good idea to compare your progress to that of those around you. Instead my advice is to learn to love your shape no matter what that may be.

  • Hi vicki, my parents have been divorced for about 7 years now (im 13). my dad has been remarried to my stepmum for about 5 years. they have 2 new children. My mum has had a boyfriend for about 3 years and he has a child. Im grateful for everything I have but the feeling that the two most important people in my life have just fallen apart and started new lives just makes me feel like dirt and that I have no use. I've been finding it so hard to stay happy lately. Any advice? From Olivia x

    Hi Olivia, have a chat to your parents letting them know how you feel and remember that whilst they may not live together as a couple anymore, they will care about one another and you will be one of the most important things in their life. It may be that you just need to hear them say it from time to time.

  • I REALLY want the lil-lets starter pack its sooo cute and I think that the mini tampons would be great for me (im 11) to start with after u use the pad for a while but not sure how to ask??

    Why not send your mum one of oure-cards and we will do the asking for you. Alternatively you could print out a picture of our starter pack and put is somewhere only your mum will find it such as her make-up bag or underwear drawer.

  • Hi vicki,my name is rachel and im 10 going on 11 i have all the signs of getting my period do you think you could give me a dune date and advice thanks vicki!

    Hi Rachel, neither I nor anyone else can give you an exact date for the arrival of your period as we are all very different. But if you have already noticed signs of puberty, now may be the time to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Help me please I don't know what to do.. my mate, who's 14, has had sex with my 25 year old brother and she thinks she pregnant it wasn't his fault he was drunk and she wasn't and she made it do it please help!!

    Actually, as your friend is under 16 your brother is accountable for his actions regardless of his state. It would therefore be a good idea for your friend to take a pregnancy test to see if she is indeed pregnant and then she and your brother can take matters forward from there. Finally, I do not feel it would be wise to be too upset with your friend and if you can, try to keep chatting to them both in an effort to keep the conversation open and flowing between them both.

  • Hey, I really wanna start using tampons but I can't get them from my mum not because she doesn't want me to use tampons because she doesn't want to buy them and i don't want to buy them from a store because I get extremely embarrassed and I don't know what to do because I don't like using pads as they get to messy.
    I have used tampons but I have to steal them from my sister. Please help! Xx

    I am sure if your mum is happy to purchase pads for you she will be happy to switch to a mixture of pads and tampons in the future so why not ask her to pick you up a pack next time she is out shopping; this I am sure will please your sister who may find she runs out of tampons when she needs them most.

  • Hi Vicki, I just recently started bleeding (I bleed irregular all the time) and I'm experiencing brown (which is probably the blood) and yellow (which I'm concerned about) on my pad. I am currently taking an antibiotic for BV, I'm not sure if that have anything to do with it. But please HELP! It's so annoying and I don't know what to do to stop this irregular bleeding. What do I do?

    Menstrual fluid can very often be brown in colour as well as red, but if you have any concerns you should go back and visit your GP who will advise you further.

  • Have you ever thought about producing a lil-let's deodorant or perhaps something else that has relation to female hygiene other than sanitary protection ? (Just a query)

    We are currently working on some new products lines but deodorant is not on that list, because at this time we do not feel we can better the products that are curently on the market today.

  • Hi Laila again
    Sometimes when no ones looking I get some toilet paper, put it down my pants and wipe my area because I often feel a little wet down there like I told you before in that 4 part question. Should I be doing this? And by the way my period hasn't started yet.

    Thanks for the help, please reply. Laila xoxo 😜

    Hi Laila, this is fine but you may prefer to wear a pant liner on a daily basis to keep this area clean and dry instead and our Lil-Lets teens liners are ideal for this purpose.

  • Hi Vicki!
    i started my period on 14 February 2015 and I haven't told anyone yet. I'm 10 and I've had to throw away 3 pairs of knickers due to blood stains. What should I do? I don't want to tell anyone. Ps no one else in my whole school has started their period apart from me and I don't want to tell my friends.

    I am quite sure there are lots of girls how have started their periods in your school but prefer to keep this news to themselves. Firstly, lets tackle the stained underwear, run these under a COLD tap to help remove most of the stain and then rub in a little washing detergent before placing in the wash. Secondly, its now time to speak to your mum, yes I appreciate it may be a little embarrassing, but try to remember that she was once a teenager too and will understand how you are feeling. Think of it as pulling a plaster off, the quicker you get the words out the quicker it will be over and your mum can start helping you manage your period with pads or liners.

  • Hi Vicki, my perenium feels like an inflated bubble which is squidgey and moveable and looks like saggy,is this natural ?

    Yes this is fine and nothing to be concerned about.

  • I was looking on someones Facebook account (who I don't know) and accidentally tagged one of my friends on their profile picture and there is no way to get rid of the tag! what can I do now? They will think I'm stalking them or something.

    I think most pictures on Facebook can be untagged if you place your mouse over the picture.

  • hi Vicki,

    a few days ago i said to my mum that sometimes i get anxious, she laughed and said don't be silly. she meant it lightly and flippantly. but sometimes when i'm in bed or sat at home i start to panic or worry, i have to go over a list in my head to check i have nothing to worry about. i start to panic thinking "have i missed anything, is my homework done? i get anxious and nervous about stupid things. is there something wrong or is it just hormones and a bit of a phase?

    This is not only hormones but also your transition from a child to an adult and it is very common to find yourself worrying about things of a more adult nature that would never have occured to you before. Making lists and preparing is a good idea and will help you manage this transition too.

  • Hi Vicki, there is a girl at my school who is getting cyber bullied and her parents know and I know but I don't know what to do. The bully went to our primary school but now me and the girl go to a different school to the bully so I don't know what to do! Plz help!

    I am sure your friend's parents are already managing this situation and for your part being there to support your friend is the best thing you can do. You may find my blog on Bullying 2014, Bullying 2015 and Keeping Safe in Cyberspace.

  • Hi Vicki, how do I know what size tampon I am? I am 13 and would like to start using tampons but don't know what tampons I would need! Plz help!

    It is always a good idea to start with a light absorbency such as regular and if you find you need to change the tampon every 2 hours or less then next time you may want to switch up to the next absorbency. You may also find my blogs entitled; When is the right time to switch to tampons and Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • Hi Vicki, how many questions do you get each day?

    Approximately 200 per day on busy days.

  • Hi Vicki, What is discharge?

    You can find out all about discharge by visiting our Puberty page.

  • Hi vicki
    So there is this boy that I lOVE. I have been stalking him and I think he noticed but the problem is that he won't make a move on me instead he just flirts in front of me. I LOVE HIM VICKI. He is in a higher grade plz help he has a galfrnd

    If this boy has a girlfriend then he is off limits I am afraid and he may find your behaviour a little strange. My advice therefore is keep away from this boy and try to spend more time with friends when in school.

  • Hi Vicki, recently I've been getting really moody and emotional for no reasons. My mum has mentioned 'hormones' but she hasn't spoke to me about puberty at all. Should I ask her about it or just wait? I'm quite embarrassed to speak to her about it. Thanks xx

    I am sure your mum has noticed a change in your moods and she understands that these changes are caused by fluctuating hormone levels. You can find out more about these changes by reading our section on Emotions and Feelings and my blog Puberty and Hormones.

  • Hi Vicki,
    It's the giggler again I have not had my period yet but i have discharge and in school I am getting really bad tummy cramps dose that mean my period is coming. My teacher keeps asking me is it girl problems so if a start it at school she won't sent me home. So how will I know when it's coming
    I hope u can answer my question

    Hi, these pains may be growing pains that can often be a sign that your period is not too far away and as long as you have some pads or liners with you in your school bag there is no need for you to be sent home. Try to remember that a period is a normal part of being a woman and should not impact on your day one bit.

  • I have spots of blood in my pants is this my period xxx

    This may be your first period, so my advice would be to place a liner or pad in your underwear and see what happens over the next few days. If more fluid is released share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi I had my period a month ago and I haven't had my second one yet and it is past the last time I was finished, is something wrong??

    Periods often have long gaps between them and especially during your teenage years, sometimes with several months passing between each one, so please try not to worry and ensure from now on you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • I have measured my breasts myself to generrally be a 32b. (I am eleven). I don't wear a crop top or bra but think i may need to. What should i do?
    P. S i feel embarrassed when i talk to my mum about things and questions like this.

    If you are a B cup then you may now need some support so why not start the conversation off by asking your mum how old she was when she got her first proper bra, I am sure she will then switch the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • Dear Vicki
    Today I wiped and there was blood. I think this is my first period.
    I am scared to tell my mum and cant send her an e card because she doesn't have a phone or laptop.ninwas thinking, I should leave it and act as if it had happened over night so it doesn't look like I have left it all day.
    I have white covers in my bed along with White pyjamas so it would show,
    Please help and this needs to be answered ASAP as it is urgent as I have a friend sleeping round tomorrow. She is also on her period

    Why not write your mum a note if you cannot face her to tell her of your news and leave it somewhere only she will find it such as her make-up bag. Remember too that your mum was a teenager once and will understand how you are feeling and want to help this time a good experience for you.

  • HELP
    I have a really bad problem with school shirts :(
    I have to wear men's one because the women's and girls don't fit
    Im really self conscious about it when like I get changed for Pea because I worry everyone can see the logo
    what should I do

    I really would not worry too much about this, lots of women prefer to wear a men's shirt as the cut and shape suits them, it could even be considered fashionable.

  • Dear Vicki
    I have a problem
    I'm 14 , 6ft 1 tall and 16.7 stone I know I'm overweight
    But my weight fluctuates from like 16.4 to 16.7! Is this because of my period ?
    Thanks
    Jess :)

    Hi Jess, this could be your period or what time of day you weigh yourself. My advice would be to stop focusing on what the scales say and concentrate on healthy eating and a good exercise regime, your body will then find its ideal weight.

  • Hi Vicki, so me and my friend have been so close over the years but now she is making other friends and not talking to me as much. I've got other friends but I'd hate to loose her. Should I just leave her or try to still be her friend? She is also starting to get really moody. Hope you can answer this xx

    Girls and boys do experience mood swings at they enter puberty and if you like this girl then continue to be friends, understanding that you may not be as close as you were before; and continuing to make new friends is healthy for both of you as you become young adults.

  • Hi vicki what bra size am I

    80 cm under
    85 cm on the boob
    Thx xx

    36AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • This is weird but after i asked the question yesterday i had my first propper period today. thank you for your advice xxx
    Jamelia

    Hi Jamelia, you are more than welcome and I am glad the website helped you prepare for this day.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I'm 12 and I haven't started my period yet, and I'm extremely worried it might start during school. If it sis start during school, would it run down my legs, or soak through so everyone can see? Would it smell? Also, Do you think it would be ok/appropriate to wear a towel, even if you haven't started, just in case?
    If so, would this stop people from seeing the blood? Or it going down your legs?
    Really hope you can answer because I'm very worried
    Thank You,
    Hannah x

    Hi Hannah, it is unlikely that menstrual fluid would run down your legs and very often the first time we notice our periods have started is when we visit the toilet and see a drop of blood either in our underwear or on the toilet tissue. But if you are worried you may find wearing our Lil-Lets pant liners on a daily basis will help.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 12 and i haven't started my period yet. But i get this discharge coming from my vagina. I know this is normal. It doesnt happen everyday, but it does happen very often. Usually it only happens once a day, or twice, but today it happened 4 times? Is this normal? What does it mean?
    Thank You,
    Hannah x

    Hi Hannah, the amount of discharge we notice can vary from day to day and depends on the level of hormones in your body at any one time, so please don't worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was good friends with a girl in my class, but she created two fake accounts of me on a social media site (which I deleted) and I haven't been friends with her since, but she keeps telling my other friend to not like me and the other day she kept ringing me and calling me an idiot. How can I stop this?

    Have a chat to your parents who now need to get involved, this person is bullying you and needs to understand that her behaviour is unacceptable and your parents are the people who now need to intervene.

  • Hi,
    I'm 12. My mum first noticed underarm hair on my 8th birthday and pubic hair started growing when I was about 10. My bra size is 32b. I've also been experiencing discharge (sometimes it is lots and sometimes there is hardly any) for about a year. Last night I went to the toilet and when I wiped there was a small dot of blood and I told my mum, she gave me a pad over night and there was nothing, and I wore one today until lunchtime but there was still nothing so I took it off. What's going on?

    This may have been your period or it could simply have been a little bit of blood from your hymen if it had been stretched slightly. Either way I would not worry too much, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer before regular periods are experienced.

  • Is it possible for a woman to pee standing up? If so, how? X

    If she crouches yes, but she would also have to understand that because of the way women are made anatomically the urine may also trickle down her leg, which is why sitting is preferable.

  • Hi i'm 15 and welsh. so what is a discharge? ive been having some yillew?green stuff come off in my pants. When do you think that my periods will start? wrth Betty xxx

    This is most likely dishcarge Betty and a great sign that your period is not too far away, so it may now be a good idea to keep some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • I'm 13 and I had my first period in September 2014 my second period was in February 2015 , when will my next period be because I have been having cramps lately and I have a big swimming national compition at the weekend and it's around the date that It came last month

    For the first few years periods can be a little irregular with gaps of several months being experienced, but if your period has already arrived in February you should be fine for your swimming competiton next week.

  • Hello! Until the age of 9, i grew up so quickly. I was the tallest girl and my breasts developed. Then i got my period and stopped. I'm currently 14 years old and my height hasn't increased and my chest is so flat. Do you think i will still grow up?

    We can continue to develop into our late teens or even early twenties, even though the growth may not have been as fast as it was previously, so please try not to worry.

  • my mom said last night to my dad that im probably gonna get my period really soon how would she know plz answer love Jodie xx

    Hi Jodie, I really do not know what your mum has seen or heard that has made her reach this decision, it might be a good idea to ask her, next time you are alone.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I am 12 and have a boyfriend of one year and he promised me we would meet up on valentines day, however he didn't text me at all until half five in the evening saying that we couldn't go out. I felt so upset and I felt he didn't care about me, and the fact he didn't text me on Valentine's day is quite upsetting let alone the fact he broke a promise, what should I do?

    Try to remember that what is important to you may not be so important to your boyfriend and yes I appreciate Valentine's Day is about love and caring for someone, but ask yourself, is it really worth getting upset and being unhappy about your boyfriend, especially if he is great to be around at any other time.

  • Dear Vicki , I am 11 yrs old , I have never been on periods , but I have got hair in that area !on 14 February I saw some blood on my underwear then I wiped myself and saw some more ! Then I went sleep with a pad on ! On 15 feb I stopped bleeding but I was still in pain ! Why ?

    Menstrual cramps can often be noticed during puberty and are caused by the growth of your reproductive organs, so please try not to worry and consider keeping some pads and liners with you from now on and when out and about.

  • hi vicki, my apologies if inappropriate but is it possible for your down there bits to smell bad i wash down there very regularly but they still seem to smell bad. is there any way for to prevent this? plz reply asap. love emma xx p.s you are awsome vicki.

    Hi Emma, keeping this area clean is very important and so is wiping thoroughly after visting the toilet, as very often sweat, urine or faeces mixed with discharge can leave someone with an offensive odour.

  • hiya Vicki,

    i don't mind if you deem this inappropriate but how do i get my addiction to thoughs of sex to stop?

    if you think this is inappropriate, just deem it inappropriate coz i dont mind.

    thanx Vicki,

    Anonymous (P.S. that
    is actually my real name)

    During puberty it is very normal to have feelings of a sexual nature that have not been there previously. These will naturally subside over time and as you adapt to your new adult status.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I am fairly certain that I have depression and have done self harm and thought of suicide before, I have hurt my sister before too. Anyway I think my mum can see that I always feel sad and feel like hurting me\someone. Now my mum says to my sister not to go near me and she locks me up in my room and says that if I sad, its just hormones. I feel so alone and am actually seriously thinking of suicide, what should I do.

    Have a chat to your mum letting her know that you believe your moods and behaviour may be more than just those experienced in puberty and share with her your concerns and fears, asking that she take the matter seriously. I am sure she will consider taking you to your doctor for a chat once she knows how much this is affecting you.

  • Hi vicky,
    Whenever I wear pads or liners the front curls up loads and I end up leaking!
    Any ideas to stop it?
    Thanks

    You may be placing the pad too far back or forward in your underwear, so try placing the centre of the pad or liner in the centre of your gusset.

  • Hiya viki I wear sports top for sports stuff but I wear crop tops for school and going out but all my friends wear starter bras or padded bras but I have bigger breast then them. I say to myself ok I'll tell her today no tomorrow then the next week I'll be saying the same things. I just don't know how to start the convasation or what to say. Cuz I don't won't to be like hey mom I need a bra😁 plz help me.
    Thnx,

    Cara

    Hi Cara, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this should move the conversation nicely over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • PART 3
    I don't know what to do... I dearly love my cousin but not in a love love kinda way... What do you think and what should I do?! Please help me... And thank you so much! xxx

    - t

    If you do not have feelings of a romantic nature for your cousin you should make this very clear to him, letting him know that your love for him is that of a relative and if he continues to touch you or speak to you in an intimate manner you will have to speak to yours and his parents about his behaviour.

  • this site is really really osme . I like dis site. Ty sooooo much vicki. U help us cope up wid problems

    You are more than welcome.

  • PART 2
    A few days after his confession, a lot of visitors came over so we had to sleep at the living room. I was with him and his little bro, him next to me. At around 3 am, I woke up half asleep then I felt him moving so I guess he was awake. I pretended to be asleep. Then I felt him touching my cheek, tugging my hair behind my ear, I was so scared I didn't react. Then next thing I knew, he KISSED ME IN THE LIPS! I didn't wake for I didn't want to make things awkward...

  • PART 1
    Hi Vicki! I have a guy cousin who I'm dearly close to.He's 15 I'm 14. I went to have a vaca at his house, and I noticed that he's always sweet to me. Sometime we looked like a couple. He did lovely-dovey things to me like putting his arms around me, pinching my nose, squeezing my face as if I was a cute baby, nearing his face to mine just to say something (almost like he was about to kiss me)... Anyway he once confessed that he wanted me to be his gf but knew that I can't.

    My respsonse is in Part Three.

  • Hey vicki😒why havent u answered my Q? U answered all d others😒πŸ˜ͺ pls answer my Q

    All questions have been answered unless they were deemed inappropriate.

  • Vikki please help! I've was on my period for ten days and i thought I was off but then when I went to th toilet lets have drops of blood came out? Please help?

    Very often even when we feel our period has ended there will be a little bit of blood yet to be released and for this reason it is always a good idea to wear a pad or liner for a few days after you believe your period has finished...just in case.

  • What are ways you can faint or pass out on purpose other than on purpose?
    It's for social studies, i'm not going to try it (:

    I do not feel it would be appropriate to answer this question and would advise you to speak to your Social Studies teacher with regard to this matter.

  • HI VICKI I NEED URGENT HELP. IN SCHOOL I SOMEHOW BECAME A LEADER OF MY GROUP THERE ARE 15 PEOPLE WE SHOULD MAKE A BROCHURE MAGAZINE AS A PROJECT AND WHATEVER OUR GRADE WILL BE GOOD OR BAD THE LEADER IS THE ONE TO BLAME. ANYWAY IM NOT GOOD AT BEING A LEADER, ITS MY FIRST TIME. IM ALSO NOT REALLY SMART AND IM NOT GOOD AT DISCUSSING THINGS SINCE IM VERY QUIET AND AN INTROVERT AND HONESTLY I DUNNO WHAT TO DO. THERE ARE SOME MEMBERS THAT KNOWS AND ARE VERY SMART BUT IDK IM SHY OF LEAVING ALL THE WORK TO THEM

    Being the leader of your group does not mean that you are the person who gets either the praise or the blame, you are the spokesperson and it would be healthy to remind your team and teachers that this is a group effort and you have all had a part in its production. By doing this there will be no doubt about what the word team means and how your project should be conducted. When you do present a great idea is to involve others in the chat or mention something they have done by name so all of you can feel proud of your work.

  • I Vicki ,
    I was thinking of starting my own blog. Can you recommend a good free website I can use? Thanks

    I would recommend visiting any website that does not ask you to pay over money for using their site. When you go back to school you may also find your IT teacher will be able to give you some one on one advice and coaching with regard to this matter also.

  • Hi vicki. So I was jus surfing sum photos of my fav actor on the net. But one of the images was kind of weird. It was like showed his half body jUs up a little from the down area and I jus saw the pic and now I really feel disturbed cause I am a very pure gal I dont like to do such kind of things u know....As I know dat d pic might hve smebdy elses body and jus d face of the actor...bt still Dis is it....If I see a little bit of such things I get very disturbed!! Please help!!

    It is normal to feel a little awkward when seeing the naked part of anyone and part of your journey to becoming a young adult. I am sure there was nothing inappropriate meant by this photo and if you think about it, if this person where on the beach in his swimwear you would see him naked from the waist up and not be disturbed at all.

  • Dear Vikki
    I'm always told I'm a slut when really I'm not and because they think
    About me in that way they keep asking questions about my period which
    I'm not comfortable with asking what do I do???

    Make it clear to others that this is a private matter and not something you wish to share. Eventually they will get fed up of asking and find something else to focus on.

  • is it normal to get browny discharge near the very end of my period. I thought I was finished but then I woke up with some brown discharge

    I am really scared it is infection pls help me thank you
    I don't want to tell my mum because I am really embarrassed
    thank you Vicki you are the best
    charlotte

    Hi Charlotte, even when we think our period has ended there can still be a little bit more left to be released and this is often light brown in colour as it is blood that has been in the body the longest and it's nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi. I'm going to be 15 and I don't know if this is a problem at all. I stayed at my male teacher's house last night? Nothing happened

    This really does depend on why you stayed over at your teachers house and if your parents were aware and agreeable.

  • ;;;;;;;;
    i'm going swimming on Saturday and i have 3 bikinis but none of them fit me. They're all patterned and 2 of them the top is too big but the bottom fits and one of them the bottoms are too big but i can tie the top tight enough that it fits. I'm a 32aa so pretty small so should i wear the top that i can pull really tight that is pink and blue with some of the other bottoms that are white and have pink and blue on them or will that look weird? Would i be safer to wear a costume?

    Lots of people mix and match their bikinis, so I think this is a great idea and very fashionable too.

  • Im 11 i have never shaved before down there but its getting big what should i do i really dont want to use a razor

    There is no need to remove this hair at all but if you feel you must, consider trimming this area back if it is long and bothering you, this is much easier than shaving which can often leave a nasty rash.

  • I'm normally on my period for 5 days but this time I was on for 10 days? Will my next period be 10 days again?

    It may vary as periods often do for the first few years, so my advice would be to ensure you have enough pads or tampons with you to keep you protected for 10 days, just in case.

  • This is the girl that self harms and wants to tell her teacher. The thing is I don't know how to tell him, I can't email or leave him a note or ask my friends to because I don't want them to know. I have to do it really quickly because he's leaving soon. Do you have any revealing tactics like rolling up sleeves in front of him?? My jumper sleeves are really long so maybe I could take of my jumper and put my blazer on?? I feel like killin myself right now x

    Hi, this really is a case of speaking to your teacher face to face when you return to school rather than hoping he will accidently see these marks. And if this teacher is no longer available then you could always visit another teacher and speak to them. Or as discussed in my previous answer speak to your parents, who whilst they maybe shocked will want to help you .

  • I am 11 and a half I have heavy discharge and hair down below. I have been getting stomach cramps as well when do you think I will start my period??
    Thanks I find this website so helpful xx

    If you have been experiencing discharge for a while then you may not have much longer to wait before your period arrives, so ensure that from now on you always have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • has my question been put inappropriate it was the one about how do people have sex

    If you cannot find your reference number then yes your question would have been deemed inappropriate.

  • Hiya Vicki,
    So I'm 11 with 32a breasts. When I wake up in the morning my breasts feel really tender and they hurt a bit. I don't know what this is.

    Breasts often feel tender when we wake up, especially if we have been lying on them, but this is nothing to worry about and all very normal during breast development.

  • Hey Viki,
    First part: I haven't got my period but I have all of the symptoms and stuff but still no period?
    Second part: I think that my period will be soon but what if it's a day when my mums at work?? Could I just put a pad in my knickers myself cuz I know how to use them? Or do I need to tell him??

    Yes of course placing a pad inside your underwear is perfectly acceptable until you can speak to your mum and this would be true if you were at home or in school.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I have armpit hair and hair down there. I am 13 and have had a growth spurt but I am very flat like if I look down I dont see much at all. My bust line is 76cm and my bust is 82cm. I started discharge about 10 months ago but I literally have NO boobs. When do you think I 'll get my period?

    34AA is your breast size and you may be interested to know that breasts can continue to develop into a girl's teens and even late twenties so please be patient and see what your body has in store for you as you get older.

  • Hi Vicki
    I was just wondering because when my siblings and I were little we used to play fight in the garden like most little kids but I am worried that they may have punched me in the stomach without me really noticing or worrying about it.
    I haven't had my period and I am 14. Could this have affected me? Sorry to ask such a silly question.
    Anxious Abbie xx😘

    Hi Abbie, play fighting will not have any impact on your period arriving so please try not to worry a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi I keep getting like sweating in my under arms and I have tried things like anti bacterial soap and doderant that protects against stains. But i still sometimes have a light Oder is this normal?

    You may want to try using an antiperspirant as this will prevent you from sweating and keep you feeling clean and fresh. A deodorant on the other hand will simply just mask odour.

  • I'm scared for when I have my first period should I be worried or not ?

    Absolutley not and if you read all the great articles and blogs on our website you will quickly see that periods are a normal part of being a woman and should not impact on your day one little bit.

  • Hi Vicky
    I am flat chested and am 13 years old. I don't fit padded bra's. I have large disc shape breast buds. When will they go away and when will my breasts develope?

    Your breast buds will develop and grow into breast tissue and this development can continue into your late teens or even early twenties so please don't worry about this and remember not everyone chooses to wear a padded bra.

  • hey vicki, ive got a big problem, when im with my best friend (we are both girls) i want to snog her, we met when we were 7 years old and we are now 11 and i still feel this way. i feel attracted to her but im also intrested in boys am i bisexual. i also get a tingly feeling down there when im with my bestie. plz reply asap. love emma xx

    Hi Emma, these feelings are quite natural as you enter puberty and it's really nothing to worry about, your body is simply becoming aware of sexual attraction and arousal and this is quite common amongst friends.

  • Hi Vicki! Is it normal to have red, purple and white lines on your boobs? I think they're stretch marks but I'm not sure? And why do I have these?

    Hi, yes these are stretchmarks and they can appear anywhere on your body. You may find my blog entitled Stretchmarks useful to read too!

  • hey vicki, i know this isnt a question but i want to say , you inspire me and ever since the day i took my period and told my friend , she told me about your website and your products and i said " wow this girl is so amazing" so now when i need your advice i turn to this website. thanks vicki. love ya xx emma

    Hi Emma, thanks for the wonderful feedback and I am so pleased to learn the website has been useful during your teen years.

  • hey vicki, im 11 and i have been really moody lately and i dont want to talk to any one so i lock myself in my room and listen to songs on youtube. is this all part of puberty as i have been shaving my pits and have hair ' hair down there' is this normal plz reply asap, love emma. xx

    It is common for teens to feel a little moody and isolated from their family during puberty, but I do urge you to spend time with them if you can, even if it is watching the TV, or eating dinner, short moments spent with your family and friends will have a great effect on lifting your mood.

  • Most mornings usually on a scool morning i hav bad stomach pains and i dont no why it usually happens most mornings before scool and could it be cos im waking up at my alarm at 6 but most times i dont get out of bed until 7
    xjessicalwx

    It could be that you are hungry and need a little snack, remember that breakfast is one of the most important meals of the day.

  • What is the usual weight for a 12 year old girl 147 -150 cm tall
    xjessicalwx

    Jessica, rather than worry what the scales say, consider your diet and how active you are, if both of these are healthy then your body will find its ideal weight without you having to do anything at all or worry about it.

  • I have a crush and i have liked him for about a year and a half now im not sure if he has a girffriend but i no he has beein out with a lot of girls i sit next to him in a few lessons and i dont no what to do

    Sometimes when i get told off i get really upset for example thursday night in the asdsa car park my mum shouted at me really bad for things i didnt do i got really upset and wen i got home i went im my room and lay in bed with the lights off
    Any tips on wat to do
    xjessicalwx

    Hi Jessica, if you like this boy then chat to him as a friend and see how things go in the future. As for arguments with parents, well it seems this is fairly normal for teenagers and my advice would be to get things back to normal as quickly as possible by chatting soon after a quarrel.

  • I get really scared before school, I u have a secure friendship group but I always feel sick and nervous before i go.
    I recently had to go on a camp and I was so scared to go but knew I had to. I spent two hours , under my pillow crying, I font know if I was homesick and cried before going.
    I get so panicky about anything where I don't know anyone, before exams, before going away and get nervous.
    Is it just hormones?

    It is very normal to feel a little anxious during your teen years especially when you are asked to do something you would not normally do like go on a trip or take an exam. But remember that you did go on the trip and it was fine and in future remember all the times you have done something that made you nervous and felt better for doing it.

  • Basically my periods are never ever regular but I think they are beginning to regulate...slowly

    If I had a normal cycle then I would be due on wednesday
    We are going away for the night on Wednesday to London
    Do you think I should take some tampons / pads
    I want to incase but I think my mum, dad, sisters would see them and it would be really akward
    I don't want them to see though as it will be embarrassing, especially if I don't get it

    This depends on what you feel a normal cycle is? A cycle can last anything from 21-34 days and I am sure your parents will not mind you taking some sanitary products with you on your trip, you may even find my blog entitled What To Pack a good read too.

  • I probably sound strange
    ...
    I would like to work in a job like you
    I find the whole puberty and period and menstural cycle really interesting
    My periods have been gross and I feel like I want to make sure others don't get embarrassed like me
    I genuinely do find it interesting so is it weird?
    No one knows I would like to have a job like this...
    Just like educating young girls, telling them all about it, tips, what everything is etc...

    If you wish to have a career in consumer relations then I see no reason why you should not pursue your dream.

  • Hey Vicki
    I have been having a brown substance coming from right at the back of my vagina but im still having discharge. I hadthis a couple months ago me and my mum said it was my perod but now im getting worried and not sure anymore.
    PLease help!!!!!xxxx
    Jamelia

    Hi Jamelia, discharge is often noticed in between your periods and this is nothing to worry about.

  • I have started my period but I am worried that in school the other girls with hear me opening the pad what should I do and my best friend just make fun of me because I have start before her
    Lucy

    Hi Lucy, my first advice would be to ignore any comments made by friends, after all we all get periods and changing in the toilet is normal. But if you do not yet feel confident to share this news with others then simply flush the chain as you enter the toilets and open your wrapper whilst the water is still being flushed.

  • Hiya vicki, yesterday I started my period for the first time. I realised this when I got brown discharge in my pants, I got a bit scared so I changed my pants and put a pad on. After about 3 hours I went to the toilet and there was nothing on the pad buy when I wiped there was loads of blood on the tissue. The same thing has happened today. I'm not sure why it's not coming out properly and want to know why this is happening and why is the blood not coming out onto my pad? Thank you❀️

    It may be that there is not a lot of blood being lost which is why is sits in and around your vagina. Please don't worry this is still your period and nothing to be worried about.

  • hi vicky,
    Im 14 and havent had and actual period yet.
    But i have had a browny /blood coloured substance when i wipe i had this 2 months ago aswell is this ok ?
    Is it my Period?

    This is almost certainly your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What is the normal weight 4 a 11 year old. I weigh 10 stone is that good of bad
    From "the giggler"

    Hi Giggler, rather than worrying what the scales say, consider instead what you eat and how often you exercise, if both of these are adequate as you continue to enter puberty your body will find its ideal weight.

  • I've had all of the signs for periods for a while now but I haven't actually got them and my friends only had the signs for a few months before getting theirs. I'm 13 and I don't know if this is normal or not?

    Puberty arrives at different times for each of us and it is never a good idea to compare your progress with that of those around you, I am sure your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and not before.

  • Hey vicki please answer asap I've recently found a strange spot on my down below areas, it doesn't hurt or anything but I'm really worried if you could tell me what it is/ why it's there that would be great thanks.

    P.s I love your page its helped me with a ton of problems 😊

    -Lucy xxx

    Hi Lucy, as I am unable to see this spot I can only presume it is just like any other spot we notice on our body, so my advice would be to leave it alone, unless of course it becomes painful, then you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and tell them of this matter.

  • Is it normal for a 14-year-old to have a really bad phobia of abandonment? Whenever someone says they need to leave me alone for a while, I feel ill, and sometimes it gets so bad, I end up cutting myself.
    Amber

    Hi Amber, have a chat to your parents about this matter and they will be able to help you manage the feeling of being alone and address the self-harming. Finally, remember that being a teenager and entering puberty can be difficult and a little scary, you want to be a grown-up but still have childlike feelings, which can often leave you needing the company of adults or loved ones.

  • Hi vicki, it's alice ☺I am 13 , I started on November 10th 2014 , so therefore my cycle has always been between 10th-13th however this month and last month I haven't been on , so is it completely normal to miss your period when you are just starting out or should I be slightly worried ?? Thanks , from alive xoπŸ’œxo ☺☺

    Hi Alice, there is no need to worry as periods are often irregular with long and short gaps between each one, this is because your body will still be working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki
    There are a few girls I know, they are all older than me and I am kind of obsessed with them and want to know everything about them and for them to be my friends and stuff...one of them goes to band with me, another is in my DofE group and the other is a TV character....am I a lesbian?
    Ciara-Jane x

    Hi Ciara-Jane, admiring older and more mature girls is very normal and does not make you a lesbian.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a very tight friendship group (there are 3 of us) both of my other friends have recently started their period and I still havent. I have had discharge for about 8 months and still nothing. I'm getting quite stressed about it. I know people develop at different rates but I feel left out, just looking for some advice. Thanks in advance. Ps I'm 13 xxx

    I appreciate that when friends periods have arrived it is easy to feel the odd one out, but try to remember that our bodies know what is right for each of us and your body will know when the time is right for your period to be with you.

  • Ive got all period signs i usually fet discgarge but now its stopped
    thanks viki

    Discharge can come and go from time to time depending on your hormone levels and is nothing to worry about.

  • What sighns are there when your going to start your period and whn you have all the signs how long will it take to get it❀️

    Why not read our section on Puberty and Periods for all you need to know about this time in your life.

  • Hi Viki,
    I am very nervous. On my last comment you said that my period may be coming in 2015..... You also said to tell my mum the signs of my first period, so maybe she would change her mind. Well, she didnt change her mind. She told me i wouldnt get my period until 12 like her.... but i think im starting soon. I really just dont want to start at school, or anywhere public and not be prepared.... so what should i do?


    Thx Viki, plz answer asap..... Bye, a worried 10 year old.

    Other than to ask your mum if you can keep some pads and liners with you just in case there is nothing else I can suggest and you should always respect your mum's decisions and advice.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So my period started on the 13th February and it started off with light bleeding. Then on the 14th February I had a heavy flow. Today, there is nothing but brown discharge on my pads. Why is this happening?

    Thank you for all your help Vicki! ❀
    -Hannah

    Hi Hannah, this is very normal as periods often become lighter over the course of a few days and a period can last for between 2-10 days.

  • What is the difference between pads and tampons ?

    Pads collect menstrual fluid once it has left the body, whilst tampons collect menstrual fluid from inside the body, as it leaves the vagina. Tampons are generally felt to be a cleaner form of sanitary protection and can reduce any odours noticed when wearing a pad.

  • Hi Vicki.

    I just wanted to ask you two questions that I'd appreciate if you could answer.

    1) My body measurements are 33-27-33 in inches (bust-waist-hips but I'm sure you already knew that haha) I was wondering if these are normal for a 14 year old? Also what body type do I have? I'm aspiring to have an hourglass figure haha.

    2) My underbust/band size is 27 inches and my overbust/cup size is 33 inches. What would you say is my bra size?

    I'd appreciate your answers. Thank you.

    -Amelia Stone

    Hi Amelia, this is an hourglass figure and your bra size is 32A based on these measurements.

  • Hey vicki
    Ok so I'm 11 and Im starting to feel self concious about the things 'up there'. Nearly all my friends in my class wear 'starter bras' or crop tops. I don't because I have abseloutley NOTHING to cover. Is this normal or am i just a late bloomer?
    From Jam G
    P.s I have lots of pubic hair :\

    At 11 you are certainly not a late bloomer and the signs of puberty can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please try not to compare your journey to adulthood with that of those around you. Your body will mature when it feels the time is right for you and not before.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have noticed clumps of brown in my discharge. Is this a sign of my period.
    I keep getting really bad lower back and belly pain. I find my relationship with my mum is not very strong sometimes she can be nice but a lot of the time she treats me like I can't make my own decsions , we often fight about things a lot. Usually when I try and tell her things she says she's too tired or she's busy
    Please get back 2 me soon
    Ella xx

    Hi Ella, this may actually be your first period and it may be a good idea to share this news with your mum so she can advise you further.

  • Hi Vicky !! I was just wondering when u get your first period can u feel wetness or ???? I don't know

    Some girls can feel a little damp in their underwear but for most the first time they know their period has arrived is when they visit their toilet and notice blood either in their underwear or on the toilet tissue.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I get knocked and hit quite hard on the boob on a daily basis. Will even being hit on the boob several times a day stop or cause problem during development?
    Thanks😘

    It should not cause any damage but you really must address these knocks if they occur on a daily basis and try to prevent them from occuring.

  • Hey Vicky!! I am 12 and had white discharge for about 12 months does Thant mean I will get my period soon and I have curvy hips now and size 32a??? Please awnser quick!

    With so many changes to your body you may find that your period arrives some time this year, so ensure you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • (the girl that self harms and wants to tell her teacher) i dont want him to tell my parents, can we keep it between us?? and do you have any techniques on how to show them to him, like rolling my sleeves up?? i don't want to email or leave him a note. He's going to leave soon, so I don't have long to do it. Also what helps make safety pin scars fade away quicker?? i really appreciate your help.

    Your teacher will almost certainly have to speak to the head teacher who will involve your parents and my advice would be to ask if you can see your teacher after class and speak to him about what is happening, he does not need to see your scars at this point and I am sure he will reassure you that this matter will be dealt with sensitively and by the appropriate medical professionals.

  • I'm 15 and my period is normally regular but for the past few months it hasn is this normal?

    Yes, even when periods have been regular previously, there will still be times when they are irregular and as your body continues to work its way through puberty, so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicky
    So I like this boy it's my friends ex she still likes him, but she told me to go out with him , I knownim not the type of girls he likes. He asked me what type of boys I like and when I told him he said 'I'm not like that' i talk to him at school and on fb. I don't know what to do? Thanks Nataly xxx

    Hi Nataly, I have already answered this question for you.

  • This month my 4th period will be coming on and 3-4 week ago was my 3rd period and I went in the bath yesterday and came out and all this brown liquid was all over my pants and it's not poop because I went in the bath so can you help me, I'm a little worried. Thank you Vicki

    This is most likely your period as they can be irregular with both long and short gaps between each one. Remember too that menstrual fluid can often be brown and not red in colour.

  • I a bit depressed at the moment/not as hyper, does this mean anything

    During puberty it is very normal for your mood to change from day to day or even hour to hour. My advice is to be active and chat through your feelings with friends and family.

  • So I have a boyfriend, I'm 12 and he's 13. All we do is hug and hold hands and I'm fine with that but it's getting a bit boring and same old same old. I really want him to kiss me, like properly not on the cheek or something. And I don't want to be the first to kiss him because I like the boy to be romantic, is there any way I can kind of get him to kiss me???

    When your boyfriend feels ready this will happen quite naturally and is best not to be rushed. You may find my blog entitled First Kiss useful too.

  • Hey Vicki
    I have a lot of split endsπŸ˜©πŸ˜©πŸ˜©πŸ˜“πŸ˜°πŸ˜°
    Like a loooooooooottttt of split ends in my hair!many of my friends told I have to cut my hair short.but I don't want to cut my hair as it is nice and long( it is till the end of my waist). What should I do?

    Thanks
    Kaelyn

    Hi Kaelyn, cutting is the only way to remove split ends, but you do not have to have it cut short, a couple of centimetres should be enough. From them on you should have a trim every six weeks to prevent more split ends from appearing.

  • i havent started yet but every one thinks i will start soon so i want to see wich product will be best ?

    If you would like to request a free sample of our teens range please click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and enter your details, making sure you let me know that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request samples.

  • Hi Vicki! I've been having discharge for 2 1/2 years and I'm almost 13. I have pubic hair and 30b breasts... Do you think I will get my period soon? Thanks! Maggi

    Hi Maggi, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait, maybe even this year, so always ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki
    just 2 say ure website is class and has thought me so much.I just have one question.I live in Ireland and I was wondering is it illegal to watch porn??
    Thnx again
    L

    Hi, I believe it is not illegal to watch pornography in Ireland if under the age of 18, although it would be unlawful to purchase it or to be forced to watch it. But it may be a good idea to check with your particular community regulations, which can vary in Ireland.

  • HI VICKY I'M A GIRL OF 13, I WOULD CLOCK 14 BY APRIL WHEN I LOOK AT THE MIRROR NAKED I USUALLY THINK MY BREAST ARE SAGGY. I MEASURED MY BREAST WITH A TAPE UNDERNEATH IS 28 INCHES UP WAS 31 PLZ WHAT'S MY PERFECT SIZE?

    32AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • hi vicki,
    aparantley when you sneeze or have a Barth on you're period you can feel it come. but when you have a barth can you see the period?

    thanks abbie

    This is not absolutely true Abbie, sometimes when you sneeze you may contract the muscles surrounding your uterus and a little bit of fluid may be lost, but this is not always the case. Showering or bathing is a great idea when on your periods and on rare occasions you may notice a little fluid is lost in the water.

  • Hey Vicki!
    How often do you answer questions? I have asked two really important questions and you haven't answered them. Could I have a timescale?
    Thanks
    Abi ❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️X

    Hi Abi, questions are answered every day, including weekends.

  • Hi Viki,
    I have discharge almost every day. Do I need a panty liner? Im not sure if panty liners are for periods, discharge or both! Please tell me if I need any sanitary products

    Pant liners are great for discharge, or at the begining and end of your period when your flow is light or if you are not sure when your period is going to arrive and want protection. They are not suitable for the heavier days of your period and a pad should be worn on these days. You may also find my blog entitled The Difference Between Pads and Liners useful too.

  • Hey Viki,
    I'm turned 11 in December and I have been getting discharge for months now (and I only just found out what it is by searching it online) and one of my breasts are developing and I have a bit of pubic hair in the private parts(which is probably because I have dark hair) but I still haven't had my first period and I've read that you should get your period about 6 months after the discharge and stuff but I still haven't got it yet! Is something wrong with me??? Please answer!!!

    Discharge can be noticed for between 6-12 months or even longer for some girls, so please try not to worry there is nothing wrong and you may find you have a little while yet before your period arrives.

  • Have you ever used a website where everything is five pounds

    No, I haven't.

  • Hey Vicki. I'm a 32E and was wondering whether this was unusual for my age as I have just turned 13. Please answer as soon as possible. Thanks, Keri x

    Hi Keri, there really is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age so please try not to worry this is all very normal and it is always a great idea to love your shape no matter what your age or what that shape may be.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My best friend who moved to Australia. She has depression and has seen the doctors and is getring therapy and stuff. I miss her and im worried for her because she's beeen having suicidal thoughts and if she ever killed herself idk what id do, how can I help her through this.

    Please help!
    Xxxxxxxxx

    If your friend is already getting help from medical professionals the best advice you can offer her is to keep chatting to her doctors and family who will help her understand manage this time in her life.

  • Hey vicki
    im 14 years old and im currentlyon my third period and I've lost so much blood in 2 days and im slightly worried, my friend had a very heavy flow too and she found out she had to have an operation as something was wrong

    Lots of girls experience heavy periods but not all require surgery, so please try not to worry and instead ensure you are always using a good quality pad or tampon on your heavier days, such as our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads or non applicator tampons.

  • How do you get rid of severe period pains in the back?πŸ’—

    Stretching exercises, a gentle walk or a hot water bottle may help.

  • Would it hurt if I tried to Shave off hairs on that area down below?

    It may hurt a little which is why trimming this area is a better option I feel.

  • Hi, I asked a question last week saying that I like a girl (who is also my best friend) and you told me to just ask her out. The reference for that is BBR964. Well I haven't told her yet but I have arranged for her to sleep over at my house this Thursday, thinking I could tell her then. But im worried that if she doesn't like me in the same way, it may ruin the sleepover. Also, how do I tell her? Where do I tell her? What do I do? Please help ;(!

    I am sure during the sleepover you will now if the time is right and the words will come out quite naturally to let your friend know about your sexuality, but I did not advise you to ask her out and it would be best to wait a while before thinking about this step, giving her time to take in and digest your news about your sexuality is enough for one night I feel.

  • Is it bad to have a secret boyfriend at 11?

    At the age of 11 I would hope your boyfriend is your friend rather than a romantic partner and as such you should share this news with your parents.

  • Hi Vicki, I know it's normal for periods to be irregular but... My 1st period was on August 11th for 4 days. 2nd was January 11th for 2 days, 3rd was Feb 14th and was for a day! But do these count as my periods?
    Thankyou! Your the best! xxxxxxxxxxxx

    Yes these still count as a period. Very often girls notice both short and long gaps between each one in their teen years and a more regular pattern will start to be noticed as you get older.

  • My first period was in September this year and my second one wasn't till January, when will my next one be?

    It would be almost impossible for me or anyone else to predict when your next period will arrive as so often periods can have long gaps between each one and this can continue throughout puberty, so my advice is to be patient and have some pads or liners with you when out and about at all times.

  • Hi i have a bff but we argue about the smallest things like when she/ i dont get our way.. First in school shes nice to me or when were outside but at the end of the day we have an argument what should i do? Should i let her choose what to do more? And please dont say its part of puperty etc thanks

    This is part of puberty and some friends agree to disagree whilst others decide to move on and find new friendship groups. So it may be useful for you and your friend to sit down and have a honest chat about what annoys you about each other and then decide if you can move on.

  • To Vicki,
    I have started my period and need to start wearing tampons because I'm doing swimming in pe and we can't miss swimming because of our period because I go to a girls school and a couple of years ago there was only around 5 people doing swimming each week in our big class so I'm not sure what to do because it REALLY hurts when I put a tampon in and take it out. I have tried loads of types of tampon already (including yours) and none of it works! Can you help please? Thanks, from polar bear penguin

    Hi, like anything new using a tampon can take a little practice and you may find that on your non period days inserting a clean finger inside your vagina will give you an idea of where the tampon should go. Remember to wash your hands before and after you do this. If this is not something you are comfortable to to, then consider using our non applicator teens regular tampons, shorter and narrower than our core range.

  • Hi Viki,
    It's been really hard lately because of bully's . I have told my mom but she just says go to your room. I'm am locked in my room for ours listeningto my mom and dad arguing. I always dred school and coming home to my mom shouting at,me. Normally when I go to school they,all call me skinny face and potato head and now they are starting to beat me. My only friend has turned against me now and I have been getting social !messages saying go die! Nobody likes u! Go kill yourself.
    Yours
    Evie

    Hi Evie, it is time to talk to both your teachers and your parents about the bullying in school which can be managed by your teachers without you having to get involved. I am sure once things are out in the open you will feel much better and things at home will be easier too.

  • Hi Vicky!
    I am really worried?! So I haven't started my period yet but yesterday and today I have been having brown discharge ? and today I just smelt it to double check and its smells awful like a fishy smell? I am panicking and don't know if I should tell me mum ? I have read your answers to similat questions and you answers how it might be your first period but if it is why does it smell awful? And will it ever be red??

    Sometimes when menstrual fluid comes into contact with air, urine or faeces an unpleasant odour can be noticed, so consider using a wipe to keep this area clean during the day and have a chat to your mum as menstrual fluid can be a variety of colours and is not always red.

  • Hi
    I have felt like I need to have a boyfriend and start getting really close and having a lot of sex. I'm 13 in 10 days haven't started my period but had all symptoms. But I want to know why I feel I need sex it's all I think about I need help I feel this is not right.
    Please help me.

    There is nothing wrong with having feelings of a sexual nature and this is very normal as you become a young adult, but I am sure you already know that until you are 16 or older it is not legally possible to be sexually active.

  • Hello, I have hair down below and I think I need to shave it how do I ask my mam can I? She doesn't let me shave my legs so I don't know how to ask her (I'm 13) thank youπŸ’˜

    I am not sure why you feel you need to remove your pubic hair, this is a natural part of your body and becoming a woman and requires no attention to it at all.

  • So basically i never get discharge at night be recently i have been is this normal xxx

    Yes this is fine and most likely because your muscles are resting.

  • So my discharge is heavier at a certain time of the month is this when my periods will be when i start xxx

    Discharge often changes from day to day and depending on hormone levels. Once your periods have been with you for a while you may find that a week before your period discharge is creamy yellow and thicker.

  • Hi vicky😊
    What size bra am I?
    Band:28
    Bust:32
    I currently wear a size 32A,and was just wondering if that's the right size.
    Thank you😘

    32AA is your size based on these measurements but if you find an A cup suitable then this is also fine to wear.

  • Hey Vicky
    I like this boy but my friend likes him too well she when out with him but they broke up. He talks to me in school and on Facebook. He talks about me to his ex, about how fun I am. But I know I'm not the type of girl he likes :( thanks Nataly

    Hi Nataly, if this boy likes you and talks to you then it may be that you are more to him than a friend, so why not continue chatting and see what happens in the future.

  • Part 2
    there's another boy that always is protective with me. I find it weird because I used to be bullied about my appearance, and now I am considered the "leader" of our little group. Do you know why suddenly 3/4 boys fancy me and do u know what I should do because they are all friends with me?

    Thanks, livi ☺

    Hi Livi, why not get to know these boys better as friends and try not to worry too much about why they like to be around you.


  • Part 1
    Hi
    Apparently, one boy at school (a friend) fancies me loads, he flirts, pretends to accedently put his hand or arm on my arm or whatever and does stuff like that.there's another boy that all if my friends say he fancies me and I realised he is flirty.


    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hey vicki I have been getting a lot if discharge and I have to wear max u pads or thick pads for my discharge

    BTW my discharge is pink red brown purple and I have it every single day since January 20 and it hasn't stopped

    Help
    thanks

    If you are experiencing brown and red fluid, this is most likely your period and you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you about this matter and the length of time you have been noticing this loss of fluid.

  • Hey Vicki I'm not sure if this is inappropriate or not but my teacher asked me what I wanted to do when I grow up and we had to write a essay about it and I want to be a Porn star how do I say that cause I know I can't write that
    thanks Vicki

    Hi, I would first ask yourself why you want to enter into this career area and maybe should be considering the entertainment area in general and write about that instead.

  • when should i get a bra?

    Why not read my blog entitled First Bra for all you need to know about this decision.

  • What Bra Size am I please? ❀

    Under= 94cm
    Bust=104cm

    42AA if you have measured correctly.

  • Hi vicki x my friend has started to go out with this boy that I fancy and she knows I fancy him but did it anyways. I thought we were friends why would she upset me like this πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜”πŸ˜” from grace xoxoxoxox

    Hi Grace, I am sure your friend did not mean to uspet you and if she likes this boy and he her, then there really is not much you can do. But please don't let it ruin your friendship.... a boy is never worth that!

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 14 and I have big boobs for my age but that's not the problem. The problem is they are very saggy I'm only 14 and I have the boobs of 47 year old woman I am very self conscious of them I know it's only natural but it's putting me down even more about myself

    Thanks xx

    Breasts can take a while to become fuller so please try not to worry and conside what type of bra you wear, one with wider straps and under bust band will most likely offer you the support you need.

  • How do I stop feeling week when it's that time of the month.
    I feel ill, weak, tired and like I can't move...
    I just say I hurt my hip and dance but it's to do with the p...

    Keeping active is a great way to help lift your mood when on your period and eating small snacks throughout the day will help also, such as bananas, oatbars, a handful of nuts.

  • I'm suffering from heavy periods and I don't know what to do...
    My panties, clothes, pj's, bedding and furniture (Include school :'( ) get blood on them and I'm not sure what to do.
    As well, I have so many pair of pants hidden from my parents as they are stained with period and I don't know what to do. I'm running out of pants and my parents know as they tell me.to put in wash but am soooo embarrassed and don't know what to do and ssy...

    Running  stained pants under COLD water will help remove the stain before you add it to the weekly wash and whilst this may not work for your older pants that have been stained for a while it will help with any new leakage noticed. However, I feel if you try our Freshlock long and night pads you can avoid this leakage from occuring

    and we also have a great range of tampons for even the heaviest of periods.

  • Hwy Vicki, I've asked two questions and you haven't answered and I don't think they were inappropriate but sorry if they were. Please could you answer? My codes were BBT286 and BBU148 thanks

    Both have been answered.

  • I'm 15, started my p in 2012 and it's sooo heavy and sooo irregular. It is never monthly, and always to heavy. I hate it. There is usually 3months between each. When it comes, it is so heavy, my tampon leaked about thirty minutes. The flow is so heavy and I have to wear tampom/pad and the tampom will leak after 2 hours. I've noticed that if I eat unhealthy - eg on holiday, then it will come. Is it related and what should I do about this

    Your period and what you eat is not related at all and I feel this is just a coincidence. To help manage your period why not consider using the Lil-Lets range of tampons they come in six absorbencies and capture the flow of even the most heaviest of periods. Here is the link to Understanding Tampon Absorbencies and our full range.

  • Can you please get Evanna Lynch to do a video on becoming a teen? I love her and would love to know about her personal experiences! Thank you!!

    Hi, I believe she is already on our list of possible celebs to interview.

  • but after three days nothing so I stopped wearing pads because it was obviosuly that I wasn't going to come on, what I'm concerned about is the fact that there was brown discharge but no actual blood, and I'm normally on for 10 days, was this my period for this month or not? Thank you, πŸ’˜ this is the last bit, please answer I'm quite concernedπŸ’˜

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from period to period and day to day and is often light brown in colour, so please try not to worry and you may find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid useful too.

  • I knew I'd come on, so I put a pad on i had cramps the day before and I had them then, but there was a tiny bit, but I thought it was normal because I normally take a day or two to come on properly, but the next day nothing, but I kept wearing a pad just in case... This is part two sorry it's so long.

    See Part Three.

  • Hi vicki, I'm trying to sum all this up as best as I can, basically I stared my period in November, didn't get it December, I got it January, Im on for 10 days for some reason, but then come to this month and I was suppose to come on, and I was feeling extremely bloated, so I goggled it, because I google everything, and it said that it is a sign of coming on, the next day then there was brown discharge when I got home from school... This is part one.

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hey Vicki
    I just got train-track braces (top and bottom)
    I've never kissed anyone but I think I will soon but what will I do about my braces! Can you feel them when you kiss? It'll be so awkward Nd probably no one wants to kiss me when I have them! What will I do?
    Thanks -jo

    Hi Jo, why not read my blog entitled Braces and you will see that kissing is no different when you have these fitted.

  • It hurts every time I try and put a tampon in. I can never manage to push the tampon all the way up my vagina. Is my vagina not long enough?

    Your vagina will be more than long enough to accommodate a tampon, but it may be that you are not inserting it in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine. Some girls also find giving a little cough as they insert can be helpful too as this relaxes the vaginal muscles.

  • will massaging my breasts make them bigger?

    Massaging your breasts will have no impact on their size, although it may help ease any tenderness noticed in this area.

  • Hi vicki I'm 14 and I just wondered whether you would concider creating liners for thongs, during the day I don't tend to wear anything but thongs and change into normal knickers at night so during the day when I'm on my period I like to wear a liner as backup protection from my tampon but I cant find any liners for thongs as I can wear a normal liner with normal pants at night! Thankyou vicki love you and this site you are so helpful and lovely:)
    Emily xx

    Hi Emily we have recently discontinued our thong range of liners and I am afraid we have no plans to re-introduce them back into our range at this time.

  • Hey vicki
    Ok there's a boy in my class who knows I like him and teases me about it.he gives me nicknames (not annoying tho) and sometimes chases me, my BFF tries to talk to him about me but he always just says go away/Idc/leave and never talks to her about it. He used to joke that we had sleepovers (we didn't) does he like me?
    Thnx and Soz for bugging u

    Cat xxx πŸ‘β˜•

    Hi Cat, he may like you, but he won't like your friends pestering him about how he feels about you. So my advice would be to ask them to stop discussing this with him and when he feels ready  and under no pressure he will let you know how he feels.

  • Hi vicki


    I have had discharge for ages now and still no sign of my first period. 2 of my friends who are younger then me have started and im worried in case something is wrong I would be grateful if you could give me any advise

    Kind regards

    P.s I'm 12 years old

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and we really are all different so please try not to compare your progress to that of those around you.

  • hi Vicki
    its been 13 days since my period started and there was only a week gap since the period before this my cramps are really bad and im struggling with school please give me some advice

    Periods can be irregular for the first few years with both short and long gaps being noticed and this is generally nothing to worry about and simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you. To ease menstrual cramps you may find gentle exercise or stretching will help.

  • hello my name is lola and i was wondering if youcould send me some free products thanks bye

    Hi Lola, if you live in the UK I would be more than happy to send you a sample. Simply click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and enter your details. If you are under the age of 16 be sure to let me know you have permission from your parents to request samples.

  • Ive recently found out that a girl in my friendship group is 'seeing' her lodger who is 10 years older than her. I know this is wrong but she dosent know thatI lnow so it is hard to talk to her. What should I do?

    It may be an idea to let your friend know what you have heard, just to confirm you are correct. If she admits that this is indeed the case, urge her to rethink her relationship letting her know that if she is underage this would not be considered appropriate.

  • Hi Vicki I feel like one of my best friends has a replacement of me from a new friend. My best friend is still my friend I love her to pieces its just the "new friend" I tried explaining that I want a little time with my best friend now and then but she knows what she's doing and I never really liked her attitude to some things like she makes a joke out of a lot and isn't sympathetic at some times also how do I act around her new friend when I don't like her? Xxx

    In life we very often have to learn to get along with people who do not share our values and this may be the case for you and this girl. It may also be a good idea for you to make new friends too, so all of you have a wider group of friends to hang out with.

  • Hi Vicki so I moved schools 2 years ago to a different town down south and now I am moving back to my old school up north but I haven't told my friends down south yet and I feel like one girl is already replacing me with my best friend down south I might feel stupid if people think I remember my way around and stuff like that I am worried if I might feel left out at my new school next academic year?

    Why not read my blog entitled Back to School for tips on how to meet new students and please don't worry about your friend who is now making new friends in anticipation of your leaving, I am sure you would not want her to be alone, so if possible help her make new friends and be happy for her.

  • Hiya. I just turned 13 and I'm a 32E. Is this bra size strange or unusual for my age? My friends are always saying that they're implants.

    There is no right or wrong size for breasts to be regardless of your age, so please try not to worry or listen to what friends have to say..we really are all different.

  • Hi Vicki my first period was last month on the 16th should I be wearing liners or night pads its 14th today and I have had no signs of it coming either if last time was my first will it be on a different day this time??? Thanks H xxx

    Periods can be irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one. If you feel wearing liners on a daily basis will offer you confidence and protect your underwear then please do so and keep some pads in your school or sports bag when out and about.

  • I am 15 and have never had a period. I have all the other signs of puberty and have had clear discharge for ages, and i got some brown gooey -ish discharge for a day. I thought i might have been my period but then a month later nothing happened . 2 months to the day it first happened it happened again, but it has been a month since then and it didn't come back. Was this my period? I am really scared that i have something wrong with me .

    Yes this was almost certainly your period as they can be very irregular with gaps of several months between each one and the fluid lost can be light brown in colour. Why not read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid for more on this subject.

  • Ok so i know this has got nothing to do with growing up but when I was 3 my dad's work mate passed away and I never use to talk to him and my dad needed the work van keys but he didn't know where his mate kept them and I said they're in a cup in that cupboard and he found them but I'd never been to the house before but I remember the day after he passed away he told me in one of my dreams where the keys were do you have any suggestions on what this could be

    It may have been that you overheard your dad's friend mention this in passing sometime before his death although you may not have registered it or thought it important. So please try not to worry there is generally always a good explanation for these things.

  • Dear Vicki,
    Of recent my vaginal discharge has increased and become thicker could this be my period or should I go 2 a doctor :-S so confused

    Discharge can vary in both colour and texture from day to day and this is based on the levels of hormones in your body and nothing to worry about.

  • Should I wear a liner? I have sometimes quite heavy discharge that comes especially when I'm excercising. Also I am 11 years old.

    If you feel wearing a liner will leave you feeling clean and fresh then yes this would be a great idea and our teens liners are shorter and narrower than other brands so ideal for girls of your age.

  • Hi Vicki!
    The other day, two new people joined my school: a boy and a girl. I am in their classes and would love to get to know them. There's just one problem: I'm VERY shy around new people. Do you have any advice for me so I can overcome my shyness? Thanks for the help!
    Pear-girl

    Hi, very often a smile is all you need to give someone to break the ice. So why not try this and if they smile back say "Hi" and ask them how they are getting on in their new school.

  • I don't know how to tell my mum I need a bra...

    Why not read my blog entitled First Bra and you will see other visitors have also given their tips for discussing this subject too.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 and have two bestfriends who have both started their periods, feel like I should have by now, I've had discharge for quite a while and have hair 'down there' I feel kind of left out. I know people develop at different rates and stuff but I just want some advice xxxx thanks BTW I love your page It's so helpful xx

    Hi, it really does not pay to compare your progress with that of those around you and I am sure that as you have already noticed discharge and pubic hair you will not have much longer to wait, maybe even in 2015.

  • Do I have to tell my mum that I am developing breasts??

    Your mum has most likely already noticed these changes, but it would not be a bad thing to remind her that you now feel ready for your first bra and would like to go shopping to see what is available.

  • After I had my period my vagina is itching why?? Is it normal

    Thx Vicki
    🐷🐷

    You may be sensitive to the cover of the pad you have been wearing and my advice would be to try a softer pad such as our teens or freshlock range of pads in the future.

  • Hi Vicki! I have looked at you blog post about FAQs about bras. At gym, eveyone says "OMG Abi! Wear a bra!" And I know I should. My bras jiggle and you can see my nipples through my shirt. How do I ask my mum? My Gran keeps telling me and my mum is like "she is ten for goodness sake!" But know she is like "you are about to have your periods" and I want a bra. I don't know. When should I ask her?
    From Abi.

    Hi Abi, when you are in the car or helping with dinner, why not ask your mum if you can go underwear shopping, when she asks what for? You can let her know you feel you need some support when active and a bra might now be a good idea.

  • Hi Vicki

    1. Why do I feel weird when I hear men doctors talking about periods and things regarding women, I don't know why it just makes me feel akward is that normal? sorry if that is mean


    Thankk you xxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Yes this is very normal as puberty and periods are a very new subject for you and one that you may find very personal. Don't worry in time you will start to feel more comfortable about these subjects, no matter who is discussing them.

  • Hi Vicky !
    I have been having vaginal discharge for a while now around 7-8 months guessing (haven't started my period yet) but last night and all today I have been getting brown (a light brown) discharge ? At first I thought I started my period but it's the same type of consistence as my normal discharge ? Should I be concerned and tell my mum ?

    This could still be your period as menstrual fluid is often light brown and not red in colour.

  • I have been having rally bad cramps for the past 2 3 days when will I get my period

    Cramps are not always a sign that your period is due any day soon, but can also be caused by the growing of your reproductive organs. My advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about just in case your period arrives when away from home.

  • Hey I havnt had a period yet... But tester day I felt in my vagina and my fingers had gooey stuff that had a little bit of blood on it is this bad? Thanks

    No this in not bad and it may have beent the start of your first period, or even discharge. So why not share this news with your mum who will advise you further.

  • Hey Vicki! My name is Abi and I am 11 in two weeks! Anyway, I have been getting discharge since about November and it has been ruining all my pants and it's even worse because all my underwear is white! My mum doesn't know that I know about Sex, Puberty, etc. how do I tell her? She hasn't noticed Anything at all. Even though she does the laundry. What should I do? Also if you are wearing pads/ panty liners, can you see them through White underwear? Thanks. I hope you can answer both questions, from Abi, 10

    Hi Abi, pant liners are a great idea when experiencing discharge and I am sure your mum has already noticed these little stains and is aware why you are experiencing them. Finally, Lil-Lets pant liners are so slim no one but you will know you are wearing them.

  • hi my mum bought me pads today (I haven't got my period yet but she says I should get them jn case) but she bought me always ones but I reaaaally wanted a lil lets starter pack 😞😞😞😞
    love from
    strawberry πŸ“πŸ“ xx

    Hi Strawberry, why not ask your mum if you can request a free sample from me so you have some of ours in your drawer too. Simply click on the word contact at the bottom of the page and enter your details.

  • Hi Vicky I were crop tops but they hurt pls can you tell me my size 68cm under and 75cm over pls help
    Thnx,
    BonnieπŸ’•

    32AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi vicki
    I am 13, have started my period and have an under breast measure of 7Ocm and a fullest part of the breast measurement 89 what size am ? Thanks Alex x

    32C  is your breast size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am almost 12 years old and feeling worried. I have lost interest in boys and feel more attracted to girls. I sometimes have fantasies about other girls and it makes my down below all tingly. I'm really confused.

    It is very nomal to find you have feelings of a sexual nature for others regardless of their gender, so please try not to worry as you get older you will find you feel more sure about your sexuality.

  • At what age should teens start getting hairs in that area down below?

    Pubic hair can often be noticed from the ages of 8 upwards.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm nearly 11 and I started having discharge just before the start of september last year. I haven't had any since. Is this normal??

    Discharge can come and go from time to time  so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm 12 years old and I have loads of big, red, ugly stretch marks on the front of my stomach and I'm really insecure about it, when I get changed in pe I always try to hide them but people see and stare, and I feel really self conscious about it. Please help!

    These are very common and you will find that in time they do fade, to help this along you may like to rub in some moisturiser or body oil.

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    Every Valentine's Day my mam usually writes me a card and addresses it anonymus. It made me feel loved and cared for when she done it even though I knew it was her. This year she didn't write me a card. I don't know why it is upsetting me so much but it's like waking up on your birthday and their not being a card there for you to open. I asked her why she didn't and she just didn't answer me, which shows how much she cares. This has really upset me. I don't know what to do.

    It is possible that your mum now feels you are of an age when you no longer need a valentine card, so please don't let this worry you too much it will have no bearing on how much your mum loves you and you may want to do something special for her, to show that you care for her just as much as she cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    It's me again, S.L.J. Last time I asked about my crush, as I will again.
    I have a feeling that my crush is starting to like me. He goes out of his way to chat, and when I look at him, he's often already looking at me. Does this mean he likes me, or it it coincidential? I really want to know!
    -S.L.J
    P.s - thanks for the last peice of advice. x

    It does seem as if this boy is now taking an interest, so ensure you smile and chat to him, this will let him know you feel the same.

  • Hi Vicki So basically I haven't started my period. I normally get white discharge but once I got brown discharge and today I got red discharge it was like blood mixed with discharge can you please tell me what this is

    This is most likely your first period and I would share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will be able to confirm this with you.

  • Hey Vicki, I'm worried because I'm 13, had discharge since year 6, I've grown boobs and I have public hair but I still haven't started my period? My mum and nan started at 9 and 10 but I still haven't and I'm 13?

    We do not all start our periods at the same time as family members and I am sure your period is not too far away especially as you have already noticed so many signs of puberty.

  • Vicki im getting blamed for loads of things I didn't do by my family.They then threaten me and call me viscious names ,I just really need my friends with me to
    comfort me but its half term and im so sad, I just want a hug .

    Now you are off school have a chat to your parents and let them know how you are feeling  I am sure they will take into account your feelings and by working together you can hopefully all get along as a family in the future.

  • Hi Vicki,
    For about 4 days I've had really bad cramps and stomach aches at school and at home. My down below has also been stinging and feeling uncomfortable.What's wrong with me?

    If you have been noticing a stinging sensation when urinating then you should speak to your parents as you may have a urine infection.

  • This is super awkward but my nipples are tiny, they don't stick out at all. Is this normal/ okay?

    Nipples come in a variety of shapes and sizes and are generally the last part of your breasts to develop, so please try not worry there really is no right or wrong size, shape or colour for them to be at any age.

  • I get extremely bad pains when I'm on my period, it's worse than broken bones! It's so bad I scream and cry in pain (and I'm quite tough) and only goes after taking very strong pain killers. It's un normally painful! What is it? xx

    If you feel your period pain is severe you should speak to your mum who may decide to pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • Hey vikki I've been on my period heavy for 9 days and today my blood is very watery is this normal and do am i coming off?? Please answer Asaph xx

    Hi, this is very normal as menstrual fluid can vary in colour and texture throughout your period, so please try not to worry.

  • Part 2 of question about internet friends:
    Do you think it's wrong that I have close online friends? Would you be okay with it if it was your daughter?

    Please see my response in Part One and in response to your final quesiton I would be very uncomfortable with children spending time on the internet speaking to people that neither I nor the know personally.

  • A few years ago I started playing a game where I met people, people I really, really bonded with. I think of them as real life friends, we talk through social networking and I know what they look like. I even know that some of them are real people because their pictures match to real lives and their information on Facebook/Twitter pages is all the same. But somehow I feel like this is wrong? My parents aren't aware, they're all older than me but I would never dream of meeting up in real life.

    Even though you believe these people are genuine, this may still not be the case and I really would urge you to speak to your parents about this matter with some urgency and they willl be able to advise you as to whether these people are indeed real.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've just been diagnosed with a severe Vitamin D Deficiency and I have to go and see a doctor in hospital. What can I do to make myself better?

    As you have already been diagnosed by a medical professional it would be inappropriate for me to comment, but I am sure they will be taking good care of your health and advising you of the best possible treatment for you.

  • Hi Vicki...
    I haven't had my period for two and a half months, and I started almost two years ago. Is there a problem? What could it be?

    Thanks

    Periods can often be irregular throughout the teen years and this really is nothing for you to be worried about.

  • Where does period blood come from ?

    Why not read my blog entitled So What is Menstrual  Fluid, for all you need to know about this subject.

  • PART 2!!!!! I started wondering what he wanted to ask me coz he sounded serious and he's not a serious person i thought maybe he was going to ask me out but I don't hang about with him and his friends but i sit next to him in classes and we talk so im not sure but on Thursday he liked my selfie on instagram vicki what do you think?X

    I think if you continue chatting to this boy and getting to know him, he will soon feel comfortable letting you know how he feels or what he wanted to say to you last week.

  • PART 1 !!!!!!Hi vicki it's sadie so I'm just more than half way through s2 at high school and I've had a crush on this boy since the start of s1 on thursday he said to me sadie can I ask you something I said don't hit my arm(id just had my jag and he likes to joke around and all the boys were hitting the girls arms) he said im not going to hit your arm then I started talking to my friends and he walked the other way.

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 turning 14 and I have a lot of pubic hair so I shave it but whenever I do it gets really itchy what can I do to stop this?

    Shaving can often leave you irritated in this area and you may find in future letting it grow a little and then gently trimming it back is a better idea.

  • Hi vikki, well I'm a 38d and I'm 14 . I don't want my boobs to grow anymore because I feel like they're too big, and I'm scare that I'm gonna have really big boobs because my mom was a 38ddd and she had breast reduction and I don't wanna go through that if I do grow really big boobs. So I wanted to ask when do boobs stop developing fully?

    Breasts can develop at different times for each of us and some people are fully developed in their teens, while others continue into their late teens or early twenties. My advice would be to learn to love your shape no matter what that may be and find a good supporting bra with wide straps that can often leave a fuller bust more comfortable and supported.

  • Some of my friend at school wear a bra, I feel like a need a padded bra but my best friend are flat chested an I'm Afrais they will say something to me how do I hide in wearing a bra?

    It can feel a little bit strange wearing a bra for the first few weeks and you may find that wearing it around the house for a couple of days is a good idea and will make  you feel comfortable when around friends.

  • Ok so I am almost 15 and haven't started my period yet I have hair all over barely wear a size B cup and have had discharge for over 2 years in 4th grade I broke my right leg because I had a cyst and in 8th grade I broke my other leg and learned I had another cyst in that leg I was wondering if I may have a cyst in one of my ovaries or something and that's why I havnt started it yet? Please help! My mom is really embarrassing about this stuff so I don't want to tell her about it unless it's serious

    A period can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18 and with so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find that your period is not too far away.

  • I need some more free samples because I have already used the onestop you have given me so doe stay men that I will have to fill in the former again

    We only send one sample per person, per household, by doing this we can ensure lots of girls get samples.

  • Hey Viki!

    I want to start using tampons, my flow tends to be heavier nearer the end of my period and light at the start, what tampons do you recommend considering it is my first time using them. Like, how much absorbency and what size? Because I'm really not sure!

    Thanks SO much!!! 😘😘😘😘😘

    Maddie xxxxxxxx cxxxxxxxxcxxxxxxxx

    Hi Maddie, I would always advise using a regular tampon for your first few periods, even though you may have to change them a little more frequently. Once you have become used to inserting and removing tampons you may then want to switch up to a higher absorbency on your heavier days. Why not read my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • Hey I havnt had cramps or anything or my period... But I had a little blood on my vagian? Is this wrong

    This could still be your period and you may find chatting to your mum about this is a good idea.