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Older answered questions

  • To get pregnant does a lady need to be on or off her period?
    happy holidays xxx

    Most females are fertile two weeks after their period but this is not true for all women and occasionally you can become pregnant when menstruating.

  • Hey Vicki! 2014 has been a great year for me because so many things changed. I just want to ask you a question. Why was gay marriage illegal before and now it's legal?

    Rules and regulations are often reviewed on a yearly basis to see if they are still correct or right for the people that reside in that country, with regard to marriage the rules have most recently been reviewed and it has decided to amend them; this happens with a great many rules, laws or regulations and not just those concerned with marriage or the right for someone to love whomever they please.

  • How do I get rid of dandruff? I use head and shoulders shampoo as I've heard it gets rise of dandruff, but I'm not so sure it works that well. I'm 11 yrs old

    Thx Viki,
    Sofia xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Sofia, I believe Head and Shoulders is very good, but remember you have to continue using it and not stop once the dandruff has disappeared.

  • Hi Vicki
    I saw red stuff in my pants today but I haven't had any discharge
    Is this my period?
    Please help me

    Yes this could be your period as not everyone experiences discharge.

  • Hey Vicki I am called daisy . I am 16 my boyfriend is 17 we are having sex tonight is that OK ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’‘

    Hi Daisy, if you are asking me if this is legal, then I would confirm if you live in the UK then yes this is lawful.

  • This boy and I were going out. We kissed a lot we were in love. The other day he went round S's house he said if I could I said yes S was.my friend (best) she asked me round but he was there. He gave me a cuddle and a big kiss. I went to the loo and when I came back they were kissing and it went on for 4 mins S said he is mine now . then he came out and said I love S you r dumped I ran home and cried . BTW we are all 11

    I think it would be a good idea to keep away from S and this boy and find other things to occupy your time than kissing.

  • Hello, Vicki! I have put my details onto the contact page to get one of the free sample packs. I am just wandering whether- 1:I will get an email to say that the package has been dispatched? and 2: how long will the package take to get to my house?

    We do not usually send out an e-mail response unless you have not supplied us with all the details. We are now holding our samples back until the New Year to avoid any lost parcels due to the increase in Christmas post.

  • Hey vicki! I'm 13 and u masterbate quite a lot. I kind of want to to talk my friends about it but all of them have already told me that they don't and they think its gross so I said I haven't too. I don't know what to do! Katie cx

    Hi Katie, most people prefer to keep masturbation to themselves and it would appear your friends feel this way to, so for now why not refrain from discussing this with them as it may make them feel uncomfortable, even if secretly they do it.

  • hi Vicki I just started my period I think because I have been having heavy brown discharge for 3 days now and I was just wondering do I still need to use pads and tampons even though it's brown??

    Yes you should still use pads even though your menstrual fluid is not red in colour.

  • Hey Vicki its Eliza, so yesterday I noticed a spot whilst showering and it was along the knicker line then today I noticed another one but on the inside of one of the outer flaps near my pubic hair, I have had these before and they are a bit like a spot filled with puss that you can get on your face is it normal to get these spots many thanks Eliza

    Hi Eliza, just like anywhere on your body you can get spots around the entrance to your vagina, especially if you have shaved this hair. My advice is to leave the spots alone and let them heal naturally.

  • My teacher knows me and Milly have sanitary needs and people always stop and stare in the corridors even teachers just to look at our bags of things. we told our teacher who said our friends Charlotte and Erin could get them for us probably because they are less developed. most of the time they ask them and they come back empty handed saying they 'forgot' so them Milly and I have to get them ourselves and its so embarrassing.

    Periods are a fact of life and you do not have to share this news with anyone, so I do not understand how or why your teachers and friends would even know that you have these products in your bag.

  • hi vicki,i have this one friend that is very odd,she kind of stalks me and follows me everywhere i go!i have told her to give me some space in a nice way but she doesn't understand,she also touches me,not sexually but trying to hold my hand and stuff.I'm not into that and all my other friends have tried to tell her. I'm not trying to be nasty.she is a friend but i want to make new friends.she doesnt understand.when i do tell her she gives me emotional blackmail.what can i do?

    No one has the right to touch you if you do not like it or use emotional blackmail. So be firm with your friend and let her know that you like her as a friend but if that is to continue she has to respect your wishes.

  • I'm 13 and I've got discharge and irritation, I think it's due to the pads I'm using but I'm not quite sure, what should I do? Xxx

    Stop using the pads in question and see if the irritation stops after a while, if it does, then consider changing brand and you may find that our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads are an ideal choice.

  • Hi vicki i had a groth spurt and im really tall and skinny now and i didnt eat anything at night because we had no food and i never had breakfast because i was going to be late for school and i had no luch because i didnt have time to make any and when i got home there was NOTHING to eat. When i say nothing i mean literally empty fridge. Im scared people will think im anorexic. What can i do to gain weight? Elsaa

    Hi Elsaa, clearly you are not anorexic as you do want to eat. So why not have a chat to your parents and ask if you can have some school dinner money to pick up a snack or meal when in school.

  • Hi Vicki,
    When would you think it would be the right time to start using tampons? I have had my period twice now and used pads but I really want to start using tampons but I'm scared to. My periods haven't ever been red blood it's always been brown. Is this ok? Please reply
    Love tobi xx

    Hi Tobi, if you feel ready for tampons then there is no reason why you cannot use them, but if your flow is very light, try with a lite or regular tampon on your heaviest of days and always read the instructions included in every pack.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I have had a normal, regular discharge and it has seemed fine for ages but suddenly it's gone brown. Because it changed suddenly, should I be worried? Is this normal?

    Thanks, Lorenzo (my nickname)

    Hi Lorenzo, the colour of menstrual fluid can vary from day to day or period to period and this can be light brown through to dark red and is very normal.

  • Hi there Viki,
    I'm singing a solo (once in royal David's city) as you know because I contacted you to say that I'm worried about messing up. Anyway, I have a cold, do you have any suggestions on how to cure this cold by tomorrow? Or to make my singing clearer? Or just simply to unblock my nose?
    Thank you,
    Phoebe xxxx
    P.s. please reply by 12 o'clock tonight?? Xxx

    Hi Phoebe, rest and drink some hot lemon with a dash of honey to help clear your throat and blocked nose.

  • Hi Vicki
    I start to watch romantic movies and I'm 15 i have a boyfriend and whenever we watch it together and our parents are not Home he starts grinding on me and i get this tingly feeling
    is that normall????

    Yes this is normal and is called sexual arousal, however as you are 15 it would be wise to avoid these situations which could be considered of a sexual nature until you are legally old enough to be sexually active.

  • Is it true that if you worry about your period then it will delay your first period? I don't worry about it i just want to get it and i think about it a lot. I have all the signs and i have had discharge for 1 year.

    No this is not true and with discharge already noticed I am sure your period will be with you in 2015.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am 11 years old and I have just finished my first period. I was on my first period for 9 days, is that normal??? Also should u wear a towel/tampon even if your not on your period because I have still been getting tiny amounts of blood on my towel after 9 days ????
    Hope that you can answer my question thanks xxx

    A period can often last for between 2-10 days and for the small amount of blood lost right at the end you should consider wearing a pant liner rather than a pad or tampon.

  • Hi Vicki
    When I was younger my cousin tried to sexually abuse me. He was 14 and I was like 5 or 6 anyway he did a few things to me and told me that my sister had done it with him already. For the last like year I've been thinking about it and when I see him I feel sick p, I didn't tell him that I remember what he did and I haven't told anyone about it but I don't know what to do thanks xxxxxxxxx

    This episode has clearly left you with concerns and I do feel you should speak to a trusted adult such as your parents or another family member about what you believe happened.  You have done nothing wrong and they will then decide how to help you manage these feelings you have about this matter and move on in the future. You may also find speaking to the team at Childline will help and they can be reached on 0800 1111.

  • What colour is your period

    Why not check out my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid for all you need to know about this fluid.

  • Hi Vicki
    I started cutting my arms and hips with a sharpener about a month ago because I constantly feel alone and depressed. I feel like I need help and I tried to tell my mum but she said people who do it are sick in the head. I argue with my dad a lot and school is horrible I just feel like doing it all the time but can I get scars or tetanus from this and how do I get help without anyone knowing thanks xxxxxxxx

    You really must get some professional help to guide and support you through this problem and that starts by speaking to your parents again or teacher letting them know that this is something you do, they will not judge you and I am sure will want to help. You could also visit the website : http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_children_young_people/whats_worrying_you/self-harm...this has a section for children and young people just like you.

  • Ok, I kind of feel left out not starting mine, my mum started hers when she was 13 and my sister at 12, all my friends have started there's! I told my best friends I hadn't started mine and she looked shocked and said oh everyone starts st different times! There are 3 friends and one of them has started treating me like a baby because I haven't started mine - me and her have never really got on! It doesn't make me younger than everyone else does it?
    Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and has no impact on how mature you are, as there are a great many changes happening to your body at this time and your period is just one part of this change from a child to an adult. So please don't feel unhappy, you are just as mature as your friends, you are simply at a different stage in your life that is all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Can I have some advice on the matter of jealously or envy? You see, none of my family members have ever had a single 'best friend' and this includes me. Anyway, I have a friend that I find is really close to me but she is also close to someone else I know. I love them both but I felt really upset when I saw that S and P seem to be closer than S and myself. Is this normal for tweens?

    Jealousy is a normal emotion for anyone at any age. My advice is to not worry as it is far better to have lots of friends rather than just one special one. So focus on getting to know others and chat to them as often as possible, this way your friendship group will be large and supportive when you need it.

  • I dont have breasts yet but everyone in my class has bigger breasts than me and im a bit concerned. Also my breasts have been hurting quite a bit for about 1-2 months and they haven't grown at all.
    If you could reply to both of my concerns in the same message it would be helpful.

    Thanks Vicki xxx

    Breasts can develop at different times for each of us and even though you cannot see growth occuring it will be happening which is why they feel so tender. This is all very normal and nothing to worry about, my advice is to try not to compare your progress to that of others around you as we really are all different.

  • Hi Vicki, my period was regular but it hasn't came in 5 months. Is this normal or should I be worried? Thank you :)

    There really is  no need to worry as periods are often irregular for the first few years, even when they have been regular previously.

  • i often feel bloated and as if i have wind? but not on period.

    This bloated feeling may be caused by eating too quickly. Try sipping water in between bites and chew slowly.

  • Hi, this is kind of a personal thing but I'm not interested in sex. I'm 19. I have a boyfriend and we love each other and there are no problems in our relationship. I've been with him 3 years. Why do you think this could be? I've never been a really sexual person but to me I would have thought I should be interested in sex or at least feel like it sometimes but I never ever do and I don't masturbate.

    Not everyone is preoccupied with sex or have feelings of a sexual nature, but if you have any concerns you may want to have a chat to your GP and discuss this matter in more detail with them.

  • Hey vicki!
    Its JJ again, im wondering, what are the signs of periods?? I am SUPER worried. Answer ASAP please!
    JJ

    Hi JJ, there are a number of things that can happen before the arrival or your period such as breast development, pubic and under arm hair, or discharge, but just as many girls notice none of these signs that their period arrives without warning so it's a good idea to keep some pads or liners with you when out and about if you feel you have entered puberty.

  • I seem to heave really easily, especially if I'm anxious or on edge. Usually things that set it off is waking up early, certain smells, chewy meat..these are just a few examples as I won't go into it. I'm not a fussy eater and that isn't the problem but how can I get over this?

    Eat slowly, chop meat up into very small pieces and take some deep breaths if you find there are certain smells or times of day when you are more likely to feel this way.

  • Hey Viki, I saw a question similar to mine. I looked inbetween my legs and saw the middle hole, where my discharge is coming from, but it has this skin colour lump in it, and I don't see how a tampon can fit in? On the other question you said that it was probably a bit of skin called the hymen or something, but its not skin it's a lumpy thing, I'm really worried, is this the same thing? Please help!

    Yes this is still most likely your hymen.

  • Hi I'm 14 and I am a 34A, I feel very insecure about my boobs because all my friends have C,D etc, and I started my period when I was 12 but my boobs have hardly grown? Is this normal and will they grow as I get older?

    Breasts continue to develop into your late teens and early twenties, I would however urge you to learn to love your shape not matter what that is, after all it's what makes you special and nowhere does it say that big is best!

  • I have blood on the toilet paper after I use the loo I'm only 11 and I really scared.
    Please answer

    This could be your period if you notice this blood when urinating, however if you notice blood after releasing waste food, you may be constipated and will need to speak to your parent's about this matter.

  • Dear Vicki.
    My two best friends had a massive fight and even though i didnt pick a side and i am both of there friends i always get stuck in the middle sumhow wat do i do

    Let both of them know you are staying out of this argument and will remain friends with both of them and refuse to get involved in any conversations about their row, changing the subject if necessary.

  • Hi, im in yr7 and i have this friend shes really popular and the small arguements ive had shes been there for me but every1 is saying dnt be her mate shes only gonna cause truble because shes broken up with 3 of her mates already ive already tld her but she says dnt believe other people and she says r u gonna believe random strangers or ur mate i dnt noe wat to do

    You have to go with your own instinct on this one and if she is a good friend to you judge her by that on not what has happened in the past and ignore any comments you may hear from others.

  • Hi Vicki
    I REALLY like this boy I have had 2 crushes before but this is different I don't think he likes me but I want him to it's getting to a point where I can't bear it. I do try and busy myself with family and friends and stop thinking about him but I can't I know it's a crush and it will fade but is there anything I can do to make it more bearable because I do try to keep myself busy but I can't stop thinking about him. Help Vicki what do I do it's getting so hard to control.
    Love, l (again sorry)

    It really is a case of taking the time to be busy with friends and see how you feel in a few months or even consider getting to know him as a friend...you may just find that once you really know him your crush fades quite naturally.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 15 and there is this guy that I am texting and we have met up twice but he is not my boyfriend but we do text like all flirty and I have no idea what to get him for Christmas. Please help any ideas would be greatly appreatiated
    Love Lola

    Hi Lola, why not get him some chocolates or an body spray, but please ensure that if you are meeting up with anyone you do not know very well, that your parent's  or another trusted adult give their permission and know where you are at all times.

  • Hey I have had discharge for 12 months I am only nine will I get my period soon

    Discharge is a good sign that your period may not be too far away and it may be a good idea to have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share your concerns with them. They will then ensure you have some pads or liners with you at all times, just in case your period arrives when out and about.

  • I have emailed you asking for you to send me some free samples and I was just wondering how long it will take for them to get here? (I live in the uk)
    Thanks

    As the Christmas period is upon us, it may take a little longer for samples to be distributed and any samples requested this week will not be sent out until the New Year to avoid them getting lost in the postal system during this busy time.

  • I seem to sweat a lot , deodorant doesn't help , I'm not telling my mum cuz it's too embarrassing ๐Ÿ˜”help!!!

    During puberty the sweat glands do work harder to keep you fit and healthy, and you may find that using an antiperspirant is better than a deodorant, as antiperspirants prevent sweating whilst deodorants only mask the smell. It may take you a few tries to find the right one for you but with a little patience you can be sweat free in no time.

  • Hi ,
    I've been getting really heavy discharge for most of the week for months non stop . I don't know if there something wrong or if it's a good sign that my period will be coming soon .if so I don't know how I will deal with my period though I've had lots of talks and chats and I have loads of pads and liners and a special kit that I keep In my bag for shool.
    Thanks vicious.

    Hi, the amount of discharge we notice can vary from day to day or person to person and is nothing to worry about, if you have some liners, why not consider using these on a daily basis to capture this fluid and leave you and your underwear clean and fresh.

  • Hiya vicki Maybe you help me. At school I'm in all the sports tea,s: cross country, gymnastics, netball, and athletics. But people only think to be me as the smart nerdy girl who gets into every since argument. Why do people focus on the nerdy side of me and the arguementative side, why don't they realise I'm more then a nerdy girl- treat me with some more respect for once because I'm more then that. Why do it have such a reputation?? X

    Maybe you should start sharing your other likes and personality traits so friends and school colleagues can get to know the real you.

  • Im 12 and ive been having discharge for about 1 and a half years now and resently ive been getting it more heavily than usual, also i have a lot of pubic hair both armpits and down below and i have got quite big boobs so wen do u think il start my period and shld i be wearing a panty liner??
    Thx xxx

    It would be impossible for me or anyone else to give you an exact date for the arrival of your first period as we are all so very different. But with so many signs already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hi Vicki
    So recently i have started noticing brown-red blots in my discharge. I haven't started my period yet and I'm just wondreing if this is the start of it or is it just normal?
    - Jess xxx

    PS. I have had discharge for around 7 months

    Hi Jess, this could be your first period as very often first periods are very light, so why not share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and ensure going forward you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hiya Vicky I've messaged you before but things seem to have got worse. I've become really down lately, I don't want to get out of bed(I don't really want to do anything) I cry and panic constantly, and it seems I've become paranoid, I'm paranoid that everytime I go out something is gonna happen to me. What do I do to make myself feel better.?

    Puberty can be a difficult time with so many new and strange feelings, but you will get through this time in your life, especially if you share your thoughts and feelings with friends and family. You may also find my blogs on Puberty and Emotions and Too Tired for School useful too.

  • hi vicki, yestsday i show blood on my panty n when i put pad there was no blood on my pad till this morning.....and it was also NOT my period date.....Should a be worried o it's Just normal..pliz help

    It is very normal to notice irregular periods for the first few years and nothing to worry about, you may find that keeping some pads or liners in your bag is quite useful for any unexpected arrivals.

  • Hi Vicky

    I have had discharge for about a year now and have noticed some small red/brown dots in my pants. I'm twelve. How long do you think my period will be and how will I tell my mum

    Any small stains of a brown or red fluid, no matter how small can be your first period, so from now on keep some pads or liners with you in preparation for your next period.

  • I've measured myself and my size is 32B but my boobs are tiny. They can't possible fit onto a 32B!! Is this right? Even u said im a 32B

    If these are your measurements then this is your size and depending on the underbust measurement; in your case 32 inches this would not mean your breasts are large in size so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki
    So basically i used to have a crush on this boy and my brother asked him who his crush was and he said me. My brother told me, then i began to not like him anymore, and kind of felt sad. We have a relashonship as friends. But whenever i see him i began to like him again he has a very sweet personality, if I'm away and he brought something to our house he would tell my brother to give it to me, which i think is so sweet.Then i start to hate him again. I do not know whats my problem!?
    xxxxx
    Rylie

    Hi Rylie, its seems you only like this boy when he is unavailable to you and once you realise he feels the same you start to feel a little less inclinded to like him as much, this is not unusual and it may be a good idea to keep any contact with him on a friends only basis.

  • Hi vicki I'm worried about when I'll start my period as I'm getting Lots and lots of discharge lately . I'm also having really bad mood swings and I absolutely hate them and there was a way to stop them or calm me down as I then get really upset.
    Thanks Vicki
    Erin

    Hi Erin, why not read our section on Emotionss under the Puberty tab and my blog entitled Puberty and Hormones, you will quickly see this is all very normal and that there are things both you and those around you can do to help this time in your life.

  • Hi Vicki

    So on Sunday I'm was wondering if I should get me full fringe cut; but if i get it cut (My Mum who's doing it) She will cut it up to my eyebrows and I always think getting my fringe is horrible but I've got 2 weeks to grow it out; so should I get it cut? Even though I look horrible?

    Thanks

    If you are not 100% sure about this cut, then my advice would be to wait a while and see how you feel in the New Year; for now you could always sweep your hair to the side and clip back for a similar effect to a fringe.

  • Hi Vicki, I missed my period last month and i just had it last week and it was quite a bit heavier than normal. Is this just because I missed it last month or is it going to be heavier all the time from now on? Thanks Ella xx PS merry Christmas :)

    Hi Ella the amount of menstrual fluid you release can vary from time to time, so please try not to worry and ensure you always have some pads or tampons with you to manage your flow.

  • Dear vicki

    Recently I have been having heavy discharge (, haven't had my first period) and its annoying but is it a sign of my period coming???

    Discharge is always a good sign that your period is not too far away and whilst I appreciate it can be annoying, it is actually keeping your vagina clean and free from infection so is actually a good thing. To avoid any unnecessary discomfort why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis.

  • What do you recommend sanitary pads or cloth menstral pads. And do killers sell cloth menstral pads
    Thanks x

    Lil-Lets do not manufacture cloth pads and as such I cannot recommend them, it would be better I feel to contact the manufacturer in question regarding these products, understanding that they are reusable and will need to be washed out after use.

  • I think I have started my period and ...
    1.i don't know how to tell my mum and
    2.i want to try some products out and don't know what to select and don't know how to ask for them ??๐Ÿ˜ณ

    Try not to worry and remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once.  Why not ask for her permission to request a sample pack from us.  You can pop onto the home page of this website and click on the contact tab at the bottom of the page and simply fill in your details.

  • hi vikki

    i never know when im gonna start my period like after a month . what are the sighns that you are gonna come on in several day xx

    from unicorn :)
    merry xmas :))

    Hi Unicorn, periods can be very unpredictable for the first couple of years, with lots of girls noticing no signs of its arrival at all, which is why it's always a good idea to have a supply of pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • hi, i have very heavy discharge some days i have predicted my self to start my period in may, should i carry a pad around and i think i should wear pantyliner's but i don't know how to ask her. i have asked my mum if i can shave my legs she said no but my underarm hair is worst. when it was the summer she noticed the hair and then she never mentioned it again i helped my self to a razor and shaved my armpits and i have done ever since. i fell this is the wrong thing to do. what should i do ?

    Firstly, no one can accurately predict when your period will arrive, so keeping some pads and liners in your bag when out and about is a great idea. Whether you decide to wear liners on a daily basis is your choice and lots of girls and women do so. As for shaving, it really would be a good idea to let your mum know you have already started to remove underarm hairl; yes she may be a little cross at first, but I am sure she will be grateful for your honesty and she may even let you remove leg hair in the summer.

  • Hi viki
    I'm really confused! I thought I started my period 2 days ago because their was all this blood! Then I had it yesterday around mid day but there was nothing yesterday afternoon and when I woke up this morning there was nothing either! It's really awarkward when I talk to my mum about this stuff..... Please help! Did I really start my period and if I did what happened????? ASAP!!!

    A period can last for between 2-10 days so you have nothing to worry about, this is a very normal cycle.

  • I have used pads for a while now and I want to try tampons but I don't know how to ask my mum to buy me some. Would you be able to send me some samples of the applicator tampons please (if so how do I do this)
    Thanks

    Yes of course, please click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and enter your details, letting me know that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request samples.

  • Hi viki,
    I'm had my period for almost 1 year I'm 13, but recently Iv been having a very strong smell in my underwear and normal discharge. I had the same thing last month but I had my period and it went away and later returned at a similar time the next month. It hasn't always smelt this strong and almost fishy, not sure. I'm stressing. I have been eating a lot more sugar recently + it's summer. Would that affect the smell.
    Many thanks Tina.

    The heat can contribute to odour being noticed in this area, so why not consider wearing pant liners and using intimate wipes after visiting the toilet to keep this odour at bay.

  • 3) ๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต
    Then when I came back in, they where absolutely on top of each other and arms around each other and full on everything. On the lips! We are all 13 by the way. Later when I had a deep and meaningful talk with J, she said she liked f. So all that was just for her! Not to practice. And also, f said out of anyone in the school, he would date me, J and another girl. Does this mean he likes her?

    I am little confused as to why F felt he needed your permission to kiss anyone if you are not a couple; unless of course he was giving you the opportunity to say no, letting him know that you like him romantically. Now he and J have kissed and been so intimate, it would be only natural for them to date and yes he must like her to kiss her and probably thinks you are not interested in him romantically so it is not an issue for you if they date.

  • 2) ๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต
    Then f said to me "are you sure your alright with me kissing J" an I said sure so what you want. Then he kissed her on the lips. This happened about 9 times throughout the movie (or more) and it got more serious each time. Then when they where kissing FULLY for about 7 mins straight, I walked out and went to the bathroom. I found it hard to breath - I didn't know they'd go that far.

  • 1) ๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต๐ŸŒต
    Vicki, please help me. ๐Ÿ˜”
    A boy that likes me and I like him asked me for permission if a girl could "practice kissing on him" i said sure. I asked her if this was true, she said yes. So at the movies, we went with other friends that had boyfriends and everyone had a row to themselves. Then the girl that wanted to practice lissing on f showed up (I am friends with the girl and also f was okay with her "practicing on him" ) and she sat next to f.

    See my response in Part Three.

  • Hi Vicki so I normally get white discharge but today it was pink. Is there something wrong.

    This could be the start of your period, so please place a pant liner or pad in your underwear for the next few days and see if any further fluid is lost. If it is then it's time to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicki! Today I went to the toilet and I noticed some black dotting on my panty liner...is this normal?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, this could be discharge or the start of your period, so continue wearing your pant liners and see if any more fluid is noticed over the next few days.

  • Hi,I was wondering my bra size? I usually wear a 10D or a 10DD but I find it difficult to find bikinis and some clothes to fit me properly. I've just turned 13.
    Bust: 91
    Underbust: 68

    10D is your size based on these measurements and you may want to consider a halterneck bikini to offer you more support. Also check out my blog on swimsuits for your shape.

  • Hey Vicki I'm 13 and I have these family friend ones 17 ones 15 (my BFF) and the boys also 13 so whenever we go to see them or I'm in a bathing suit around him I always try to make my boobs look bigger and I suck in my stomach I don't know why because were friends but I'd never date him were to close and he's not the most attractive I'm not sure why I feel this way and I always try to dress nice ish or a tinny weensy bit slutty I don't know why tho I would never date him. Why is this ? please help thanks๐Ÿ˜˜

    I wonder if you really do only like this boy as friend or if you have started to feel an attraction for him, which is why you feel you have to impress him with your appearance.  Why not have a think about the way you truly feel and if you do not find him attractive it would be fair and appropriate to stop dressing provactively when in his company as this may be giving him the wrong signal.

  • I have gym class tommorrow and I have a REALLY heavy period. I try using pads but I feel uncomfortable like they show and I don't like running in them and stuff, and tampons really hurt me for some reason. Sometimes when I use pads it still leaks through!?? Idk what to do, plz is there some brand that's not uncomfortble and is also really effective? Plz help meee

    Why not consider trialling our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons, ideal for first time use as they are shorter and narrower than other brands. Remember that like anything new using tampons can take a little practice and as long as they are inserted high inside the vagina you should not be able to feel them at all.

  • Hi Vicki, I used to have this massive crush on a boy but when he found out, he said he didnt care and then admitted that he likes my best friend. My best friend hated him before that and still does and I got quite cross that she wasn't taking this opportunity with him. I was really upset about him not caring but I think I'm over him now, I just think I like him again and I don't want to. What should I do? Thanks x

    My advice is to put some distance between you and this boy, if he has had a change of heart and now likes you, he will let you know.

  • Me&this boy have liked each other for a long time and have talked forever. We always end up arguing really bad and dont talk then we start talking again. he brought up the idea of dating and we both agreed after a month,if we didnt argue we would go out.We werent arguing then he tells me he still has feelings for his ex but idecided to keep calm&we stopped talking but istill really like him but dont wanna get my feelings hurt? He knows ilike him but not this much

    Be friends with this boy for now and until you are sure he has got over his ex. After all the secondn part of the word boyfriend is 'friend' and this is an important part of any relationship.

  • Hey Vicky,
    I was wondering do you know a easy Christmas present i could make for my friend?xx

    Why not take a box and print off some pictures of you both to glue on the lid and sides, adding a little material inside to make a lining and place a couple of things inside you know she would like, such as pens, hair clips, etc... Alternatively, like my daughters you could crochet some fun hello kitty slippers and the Internet has lots of ideas for these kinds of crafts so get busy.

  • 3/3
    Im not gonna lie, I do like seeing her jealous so I sometimes flirt with her crush and some other boys she use to fancy cause I know it kills her, and she started calling me a sl*t, so I had a massive go at her. The fight started by her taking me and my friend for grantage. Me and my friend wants her to stop spreading lies about us, but were not gonna apologise as weโ€™ve got nothing to apologise for. We tried talking to 1 teacher but she seemed not to care, what shall we do? Thank you

    It would be a good idea for all three of you to meet up with your teacher and to discuss this matter out in the open. There appears to be fault on all sides here and it may be a good idea to all apologise for what has transpired before and agree to start afresh.

  • (part 2)
    she always talks about me to another girl right infront of my face in geography, I got to the point where I have started skiving geog, and tomorrow im pretending to be ill so I donโ€™t have to go school coz I donโ€™t want to go geography. I smoked before, which was in year 8, now im in year 10, and sheโ€™s telling loads of people that me and my friend smoke when my friend has never smoked, and mine was in the past.

    Taking time off from lessons and tutor is not the answer here. My advice would be to confront this girl, letting her know that her comments and behaviour is not appropriate and you will not accept it. It is only by dealing with this matter can you make it go away. If she does not listen and continues to bully you, then it is time to speak to a teacher or tutor and they will resolve this matter for you and your friend. Please read my blogs on Bullying for more advice on this subject.

  • (Part 1)
    hi Vicki, me and my friend had a fall out with this girl called B, its been 2 months now. She always likes to have a go at us when were alone, she's in my friends tutor and my friend doesn't go tutor anymore cause she knows sheโ€™s gonna embarrass her in front of her whole tutor by having a go/shouting at her (which she has done like 4 times), so I skive tutor with her. In geography B always has a go at me which is embarrassing,

    See my response in Part Two.

  • would it be possible for me to get samples??xox

    Yes of course, click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page, complete the form, ensuring that if you are under the age of 16 you let me know your parents are happy for you to request samples.

  • Hi I'm 15 and I have blonde leg hair all my friends shave bit everyone says that they will just grow darker I don't like it when I have pe and I don't want to ask my mum as I tried brier and she said no. Is there any way u could make me confident with hair

    Firstly, hair does not grow back thicker or darker, this is a myth. The changes you will notice are the hair will appear coarser as shaving bluntly cuts the hair at the surface of the skin. The hair may appear darker to you, simply because over time hair naturally lightens. Finally, remember that once you commit to removing hair from any part of your body it requires upkeep and for shaving you may find you have to do this weekly.

  • Hi Vicki,

    How are u? I am feeling really nervous because I have an important exam in January, I really need to pass but feel that I am going to fail!! I am revising past papers and reading a workbook. Any advice? Also, my crush has not been at school for a week and I am begining 2 miss him. Noone knows that I fancy him, its just my little secret. I dont want to text him because I am not confident in that way! Fingers crossed, he will come to school tomoz! Thank you! ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜”โœŒ

    It's always nice to have a secret crush and I am sure he will be back in school before the festive break. But until then focus on the task ahead and your exams, you may find my blog entitled Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress useful too.

  • Hey Vicki, a couple of my friends have started their period and there more devolved than me and they tease me about it all the time I tell them to stop but they won't. I don't like it, and there 2 of my best friends as well, can you help me please ?

    Next time they say something ask them how they would feel if you teased them...pretty awful I would imagine! Then ignore any silly comments they make as everyone who visits this website knows that periods and puberty arrives at different times for each of us, because we are all unique.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 14 however I haven't started my period. I have 32a boobs, discharge for 2 years, pubic hair in both places (haha), and I have random cramps and mood swings. Recently, my discharge got much heavier. Will I start my period soon? Thanks!

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait until the arrival of your period.

  • Hi Vicki I am 13 years of age and have NOT started my period yet,
    I was just wondering, I have had yellow/white discharge for a while now and they are gradually growing bigger in size. It has recently turned a dark brown and is a lot bigger than usual, is this my period?

    This is almost certainly your period as menstrual fluid can often be brown in colour and not red as most people think.

  • what do you know about co-cyprindiol tablets? are they the same as Diane35 and Clairette?

    When any medication is being considered you should discuss this with your doctor as they will be able to advice you based on your particular needs what is suitable for you.

  • This is really embarrassing but I am worried. I had a bit of diarrhea for no apparent reason and I got some in my front area..:\ i really think this isn't a nice thing to talk about but I had a shower afterwards, worried I might get an infection and I was very thorough in cleaning. I sometimes get diarrhea type bowel movements about once a month or every two months - is this normal? I go every 2 days normally and it is normal on these occasions. but could this cause a urine infection?

    Having loose stools is not generally anything to worry about and if you clean this area thoroughly there is very little chance that any waste food will make its way into your vagina.

  • Hi Vicki!
    At my school and a club I go to I see a boy. We talk a lot and he's asked me questions about my life in general and I did the same back, to be polite and I really REALLY like him. I lose my breath whenever I first see him and I don't know if he is flirting or being very nice?! He has a girlfriend (who I have made friends with to maybe see him more- bad move!)
    Do you think he likes me? He's only like that with me....

    Thanks and MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

    If this boy has a girlfriend then he is off limits and I am sure is just being a good friend. It would be a good idea to distance yourself from his girlfriend as I can only imagine this will make seeing him more difficult.

  • Hey vicki!๐Ÿ’• so I'm 14 and I still don't have my period. I've literally had discharge for about 2-3 years now!! Yesterday and today, I saw a orangey stain in my pants, could this be my period at last!? It's just, I thought your period was a browny red when you first started, not orange..? Thank you if you answer :)

    Menstrual fluid can often be light red, brown or orangey in colour and this could be your period so why not wait and see what happens over the next few days.

  • I get a lot of discharge is it normal

    The amount of discharge experienced can vary from person to person and day to day, with lots of teenagers noticing quite a lot of fluid is produced. Why not consider wearing our pant liners to keep you feeling clean and fresh during the day.

  • Dear Vicki,
    A few days ago I found extremely light brown discharge in my underwear. Is this my period? I'm not completely sure because the discharge was just really light but I don't think it was a "skid mark" because the discharge was closer to "the hole" than my butt. Is it my period or am I just really close to it?

    This could be your period as menstrua fluid is often brown and not red in colour. Why not consider wearing a liner or pad for the next few days, just in case more fluid is lost and if it is, you may then want to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Help me! My cousin and auntie have gone to Australia for Christmas and it's making me really upset because it's been the first ever Christmas with out them. It's really annoying me and making me upset because Christmas won't be the same I will be so lonley. I know this is really weird but it's true. I don't even want to speak to them because it makes me want to cry as there going to have a really good time where I'm not. How can I get over this?
    Love lucie xxx

    Hi Lucie, I hope you can be happy for your family and chat to them often about the trip and how much fun they are having, I appreciate that you feel a little left out, but try to make this a positive experience for all of you and if possible consider organising some new things to do over the Christmas period that will not only keep you busy but give you lots to of news to share with your aunt and cousin.

  • I started my period about 3 months ago and I'm having my 3rd period now I'm normally on for three days and it's very light my 3rd period started of normal and light but I've been on for over a week now and it's coming out heavily when I stand up and is bright red is this normal it's like it isn't going to stop ?

    The amount of blood lost and length of time for a period can vary for the first couple of years, so I do not think you have anything to worry about here as this is normal very normal.

  • hi Vicki so today I looked in my pants and noticed I had some brown discharge do you know what it is because I'm not sure! I'm 13 so does that effect anything? anyways please reply

    This is almost definitely your first period as menstrual fluid can often be brown and not red in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you who will I am sure off you some products to protect your underwear. You may also find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid a good read too.

  • Hey Vicki :) OK so recently I have been on an emotional rollercoaster, like I'm either really happy or as miserable as ever :( Is this just my hormones and also do all girls have red or brown fluid before their periods?

    Yes, this is your hormones changing the way you feel from one minute to the next and this will subside over time. As for periods well they can vary in colour and if you are noticing a red or light brown fluid in your underwear this is quite likely to be your first period and not discharge at all.

  • Hi Vicky

    I have had discharge for about a year now and wear a size 32aa bra and I'm 12. My mum started her period when she was 14 so am I going to start then? Also my friend started her period and she Is younger smaller and lighter than me. Is there something wrong with me? Also today I noticed one very small line of red in my pants. Is that showing signs that I might start my period

    Please could you answer back it would really help

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8 - 18 and not everyone follows the same pattern as family members for its arrival. My advice is to stop worrying or comparing your progress to that of those around you. Finally, now is the time to prepare yourself so keep some pads or liners with you in future, just in case this line of red fluid is your first period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am going to Germany next year in June and I am really scared if I have my periods when I am there, or travelling there since we are going to be on a coach for like 20 hours and then on a ferry for like an hour, I am scared that I will not have enough time to change my pad and I will leak.
    Also we are going to a theme park, and everybody knows that periods and theme parks do NOT mix! ๐Ÿ˜‚
    Thanks xxx

    Who said that periods and theme parks do not mix. There is no reason why your period should prevent you from having a fabulous time when on holiday no matter what activities you take part in. You may also find that taking some of our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads will keep you protected and secure during your travelling from the UK to Germany as they are super absorbent and super comfortable too.

  • Hi Vicki. So today my "friend" kept on saying a bad word to me in science lesson and I didn't like it. I didn't do anything to her, she was saying it to annoy me. I got really upset and told her to stop but she didnt. I said Id tell her off, she said she would care. Eventually I got really fed up and told the teacher. So yeh... And then afterwards she was angry and calle me a snitch! But then I felt bad... So should I say sorry to her tomorrow..or should she! She's being mean to me...

    If you politely asked your friend to stop and she decided to carry on teasing and being unkind then I do not see what other choice you had but to speak to your teacher. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about your behaviour and if she behaves likes this in future my advice would be to ignore her and pretend you did not even hear what she was said, this generally stops people repeating or annoying others.

  • Hi Vicki, it's Sadie again, I've had discharge for 1 and a half years now and im getting little lumps in it I have boobs they started developing 1 and a half years ago and i also have hair down there, on my legs and under my arms when do you think my period will come love sadie xxx

    Hi Sadie, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait, so ensure that you are prepared for the arrival of your period by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • hi vicki,is it normal to touch my vagina at class?

    It is not appropriate to conduct yourself this way in public no matter what your age, so if you can try to find something else to occupy your hands when in class.

  • Hello Vicki why am I having pains in my vagina ?

    This is most likely caused by your reproductive organs maturing and is very common during puberty and nothing to be anxious about.

  • There's a non-uniform day at school on Friday, I'm 14 and am a 34A (bra size). Everyone else has bigger breasts than me and I am quite embarrassed. But I want to wear a tight top but I don't know if it'll be embarrassing and people will judge so... What should I do???

    If you feel comfortable in your top of choice then it should not matter what anyone else thinks and it saddens me that so many girls feel big is better where breasts are concerned. But if you feel self conscious then consider diverting attention away from this area, by choosing a different hair style, wearing a bracelet, or some funky trainers.

  • I have white stuff on my pants like more than ever now (discharge im sure) but i havent got my period im on the pill because i do have a boyfriend but im scared incase this white stuff is meaning something else ,Please help

    Discharge is often noticed for up to a year before the arrival of your period and this is, I am sure what you are noticing in your underwear and is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi vicki, I started my period last month and had my period today. It was so regular, I had to change my pad about six times today,is this normal and will it always be like this ? Thanks:)

    The amount of blood lost can vary from period to period for the first few years and if you have a heavy flow you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal, long or night pads are more suitable for your daily use.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have a friend who is a boy (j) I dint lime him tho but anyway me him and two other friends (n and m) and basically we were talking and someone said something that could be misinterpreted as something different about erections and m said that someone had told her that boys get erections really regularly and j said he got one once a week (we are really close friends btw) but I was just wordering, how often do most boys get erections?
    Thanks, L

    Hi L, it really does depend on the boy in question; some boys get them daily, others less frequently. Why not read my blog entitled Boys and Puberty for more on how the subject of boys and their transformation from child to young adult.

  • hey Vicki,
    thanks for all your help :)
    Eve xx

    Hi Eve, you are more than welcome.

  • Hey Vicki!
    I haven't started my period, but my discharge sometimes has small bits of red-brown goo, just like discharge. Is this my period or not? Thanks

    This is almost certainly your period especially if this brown goo lasts for a few days. Why not read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid for more on this subject.

  • After your period, why does discharge come back straight after

    Discharge is often noticed in beteween periods as it keeps your vagina clean and free from infection and is therefore a good thing and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki, I like this boy and my friends keep saying to me that were the 'Perfect' couple because we both have anaphylaxis to nuts. They keep saying that we're 'made' for each other. They keep trying to set me up with him but I keep stopping them to ask him because I know he will say no. What shall I do?

    Have a chat to this boy and let him know that your friends are being immature and you would not want him to think any of their comments orginate with you and that you are happy being good friends and nothing more.

  • Hi Vicky ,
    Im just really worried as most people have acne
    on their face and neck but i have a million of tiny dots ( pimples) on my legs and im can't even shave my legs without hurting myself
    By the way im 13 and im really scared and i can't tell my mom as she won't be happy about the fact that i shave my legs and she'll notice when she looks up close .
    Please Help x
    Rhia -

    Hi Rhia, these little pimples under the skin are fairly common during puberty to the legs and arms and generally disappear over time. As for shaving you really should let your  mum know you do this as she will be able to offer you some advice on how to get a close shave without causing any irritation or rashes to the skin.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had discharge for 12 months and lately I have needed a pee more often will period come soon
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    The amount of times you visit the toilet to urinate is not linked to the arrival of your period, however as you have already noticed discharge for a year or more I doubt you will have much longer to wait until your period is here.

  • Hi. Vicky

    On the behalf of everyone on this website i want to say a MASSIVE THANK YOU! You have helped me and answered so many questions without this i wouldn't know what to do! THANK YOU VERY MUCH YOU WEBSITE IS AMAZING AND VERY MUCH APPRECIATED FOR YOUR TIME AND EFFECT YOU PUT IN THANKS! ๐Ÿ‘

    Hi and thank you for your wonderful feedback, it's greatly appreciated.

  • Vicki
    I have all signs for having a period and my pee when i wipe is a more yellowy colour when i wipe, i get loads of discharge my under wear is always white and once a month i get more heavier discharge than usual is this my period?
    PLEASE ANSWER im the only one in my class who hasnt had a period, is it possible for your period to be like dischafge

    Discharge can vary in both colour and the amount produced from day to day and I am sure you will not have much longer to wait until your period arrives. However, if you find that from time to time your urine is dark in colour consider drinking more fluids during the day to prevent this.

  • hi viki um heres a dumb question does lil-lets ship to the usa please I would like to know cause my mom would probly order me some from here since they seem so cheap for when I get my period and I need answer by Friday please.\
    thanks C.L.J.

    Hi, at this time and due to regulations in the US we are unable to ship any products or samples over I am afraid.

  • My period is extremely heavy, fills the toilet every time I go, and when I get up it is REALLY heavy. But it is showing no sign in ending. It is the fourth day and it is just as bad as the first. The blood is still bright red with small dark clots! I want it gone by christmas!! What should I do, I had to miss school today!! It has got the tiniest bit lighter but...yh :( I think something's wrong xxiloveeatingmaltesersxx

    A period can last anything from 2-10 days with  times of heavy bleeding, it does not mean that there is anything wrong and my tip is to ensure you have the correct pads or tampons to manage this flow. You may therefore find our Lil-Lets Freshlock range of pads ideal for your use or our range of tampons in both applicator and non applicator variants.

  • Hi Vicki
    I think a boy like me, we are already good friends. He flirts and does stuff like that. Its just that, how do I ask if he likes me so that I am sure. I don't want to make it awkward for him.
    Thanks

    I think you already know he likes you, without having to ask him outright, which may make him feel uncomfortable. So why not relax and enjoy his company and see what the future brings naturally without forcing anything.

  • Hi Viki, im 12 and havent started my period yet, I've been feeling really down lately and I've been crying for no reason, is this my hormones?

    Yes this is almost certainly your hormones and part of puberty. Finally, as your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 you really have nothing to worry about.

  • I'm a 32B, do I need a bra?x

    Hi, you only need to wear a bra if you feel it would offer you support and make you feel more comfortable. Lots of girls and women prefer to go without for many years, so please don't feel this is something you have to do if you are not ready.

  • Hi Viki,
    Sorry if this is innopropriate, but I looked inbetween my legs with a mirror, and there is a hole in the middle where my discharge is coming from, I assume its my vagina, but it has this like white lump in it and I do see how the tampon can go in?
    Please reply asap! I'm scared!
    Thanks Viki
    Lou Lou

    Hi Lou Lou, this is most likely your hymen; a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina, with a small gap for discharge, menstrual fluid to be released and if you wished a tampon to be inserted. You can find out more about this part of your body by reading my blogs on the Reproductive System.

  • Hi Viki,
    I'm 12 and have had discharge for about 4 years now, and still no period๐Ÿ˜•
    Is this normal? Will I start soon?
    Thank you and I hope you have a great Christmas๐ŸŽ„

    Lots of girls notice discharge for longer periods of time so please don't worry, your body is simply not yet ready for the arrival of your period and this is very normal.

  • Hey Vicki! I am 18 and flat chested. One breast is an aa and the other is an a :( I got my period at 13 but not boobs. My mum is dd, my 3 older sisters (age 19,23,25) are e,dd,d so why are mine so tiny?!i know you can develop breasts into your early 20s but all my sisters got theirs at ages 12/13/14 and have large breasts! It really gets me down, I hate being flat chested, and looking more like 12 than 18! Why are my boobs so small? Will they grow?

    Breast can continue to develop into your twenties as you have said, but if you have any concerns you may want to visit your GP and have a chat to him or her about this matter.

  • Hi availability click, I am the girl who had a few red drops in my underwear, you told me it's my first period and I should try wearing panty liners, should I also have a pad with me just incase I may have a heavy day
    Please we reply asap
    Thnx Vicki not staff
    Have blessed week and the holidays
    Love...#1 fan....Lulu

    Yes that would be a great idea too.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is it true that a teenage boy and girl can't be friends without one of them having feelings for the other one? My friends keep saying this about me and this boy but I think we are just good friends. And when I searched it online it said that they can't be friends. Please answer this because I'm confused
    Hannah โ™ โ™ฅโ™ฃโ™ฆโ™ โ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฃโ™ฆ

    Hi Hannah, of course two teenagers of the opposite sex can be friends, in fact sometimes they can have a friendship that will last for many years and into adulthood.

  • dear Vicki I do online tests to see when roughly when my period will arrive and it says within 5-8 months and another said 8-12 months. but this morning I felt like I wet my self after putting my cloths on. when I looked there was some brownish goo stuff. I don't know if it was my period but I drank some hot chocolate the night before and I wonder if it was that? thanks from..
    missmissmoo.

    Hi Missmissmoo, here's thing, neither I nor any online tests can accurately tell you when your period will arrive. We really are all different and for that very reason your period will be with you when your body feels the time is right just for you and not before. However, if you have noticed a brownish fluid in your underwear this could be your first period and it would be a good idea to wear a pad or liner for the next couple of days.

  • Dear Vicki
    My friend says she is moving school as apparently 2girls in our friendship group are bullying her by ignoring her and leaving her out.i have never known them do that.I said she should speak to them but she said no then I said I would speak to them she said no. what should I do pls help

    I do appreciate you will want to help your friend but this really is a matter for your friend, her parents and teachers to discuss and resolve and not something you can be party to.

  • Hello, it's Annemarie again.
    My Music teacher and my English teacher both suggest I let a doctor know about my elbow pain, because I've not been able to do anything with my right arm since yesterday. I'm just wondering if you had any ideas about what I've done.
    I waved really quickly at my Music teacher and I heard a crack/pop noise. Since then, I've avoided moving it, because it hurts when I move it. To clarify, I did not hit anything with it.

    It really is not for me or your teachers to offer you advice on this matter and as suggested I would ask your parents to book you an appointment to see your doctor for a more qualified view on your elbow, including the cause and how to ease the discomfort.

  • Recently, when I'm on my period (usually on the heaviest days) I find lots of tiny little lumps of blood on my pad. Is this normal? Thanks you have helped me a lot

    Yes this is very normal and these little lumps or clots as they are sometimes called form part of your uterus lining and are nothing to worry about. You can find out more by visiting my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid.

  • Hey Viki,
    I got the Once in Royal David's city solo at school. I've done one or two solos before in front of my primary school in plays (140 pupils). But I'm in yr 7 and performing it in front of year 7's (about 210 pupils) AND six form. I'm scared as I've gained some new best friends. What if I mess it up? Please can you help me on how to have more confidence in my singing? I also have a cold so I'm not in the best state.
    Thank you so much!!
    Love, Phoebe xxxxxx

    Hi Phoebe, you must be  a very talented singer to be chosen on so many occasions, so be brave and practice as much as you can. If you make a little mistake, well try not to worry, you only have to watch the talent shows on TV to see that lots of people make small mistakes but it does not spoil the performance and this is a very beautiful carol to sing.

  • Hi vicki
    Me and this boy are good friends
    He flirts lots and talks about his penis. I like him too and all of the things you have said is to ask if he likes me back, its just that how do I?? People joked to him saying I fancied him and he seemed to be quite pritectinve about it
    .
    What should I do???

    If this boy talks to you a lot, then it is pretty clear he likes you, however it is important you let him know his conversations about his penis are not suitable topics of conversation.

  • can you wear a towel instead of a tampon whilst doing sports?

    Yes or course, there is no reason why you cannot use a pad if you feel more comfortable with this form or sanitary protection for any activity with the exception of swimming.

  • How do I avoid having mood swings and upsetting people around me?

    Well you can't avoid mood swings but you can learn to manage them and you may find our section on Emotions and Puberty and Hormones useful to read.

  • im getting super stressed about christmas, all my friends have got their party dresses and a date for the school party, but I have not even started thinking about christmas yet...can you help vicki/

    Hi, you're in luck this month the team at Lil-lets have been busy finding the best presents and dresses for the festive season, we've even got a section on how to deal with family during the school break. So why not check our blogs out and see what you think!

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 12 yrs old.
    In my pants there was yellow discharge and where the period stuff comes out of there was a rust colured patch. This is the second time its happened.
    The first time it was bright orangey all down were you would put a towel.
    Does this mean I had my period?
    I have told my mum about my period stuff btw.

    Yes this does sound very much like your period as menstrual fluid can often be brown and not red in colour.

  • What would be the normal no eager chilled reaction to a boy askin you out face to face??
    Thanks ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿท

    If you like this boy then why not be eager and show you like him enough to say yes, after all he has been pretty brave to come up and ask you out in the first place.

  • Hi vicki I started my periods six month ago but this month when I'm bleeding it's like I am hemridging

    The amount of blood you lose can vary from month to month and this is nothing to worry about and you may find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid a useful read.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I also forgot to mention in my last question: Merry Christmas to u and ur family! Have a great day :) xx

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Thanks Darcy-Mae, and a Happy Christmas to you too.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Im going to Belgium in march with some people in my year and some teachers for a history trip to do with WW1 trenches. i think a few months ago i asked the question about my sleepwalking issue. Because we r staying in a youth hostal for 1 night im scared ill sleepwalk. Im still 13 and i still do it. I'm going to warn the 2 teachers that r going but im kinda embarrassed to tell them and the other people who r going, to warn them. any advise??

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, I feel speaking to the teachers is sufficient in this instance and as long as you relax before going to sleep there should be no reason for worry.

  • I have a really bad habit of lying (not in a malicious way) because I care too much about what people wlil say about my decisions (could be anything)
    It sounds really silly but how can I stop? I'm a bad liar and I prefer to be honest whenever I can.

    It can be easy to start off by exaggerating or elaborating on something then finding it hard to be honest when challenged and of course one lie however little can very often lead to many more lies as you try to cover you tracks. Why not take the time to listen to others and avoid commenting for a while, this should help you resist the urge to tell untruths. Then in the New Year start afresh, giving out only factual details.

  • quite a number of boys in my year and in school were nasty to me nd I haven't done anything. Saying just really stupid things and making fun of me for no reason that I can see. Every time i like someone they made fun of me too.

    Here's the thing, once boys see you are bothered by their comments, they will do it more. So my advice would be to ignore them, or sigh and let them know you are truly bored now and they should quickly find something else to occupy their minds.

  • hi I'm 15 (other day was my birthday)+I had my first 5-6 periods(quite irregularly)when I was 13, but decided to lose weight+ although I am not yet underweight I believe I have an eating disorder+ measure at 5'4" +7 stone 3 last I checked+basically I stopped having my periods early this year/late last year(cant remember)but continued to have discharge+in the past few days I have randomly eaten more+ have more discharge than usual,so I was wondering do you think my periods might be coming back?

    Periods can often be irregular even when they have been regular previously, so this halt in menstruation may not be linked to your weight loss at all. However, if you feel you may have an eating disorder I urge you most strongly to speak to a family member about this matter and they will be able to offer you support during this time.

  • PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!!!
    This is really important- it's tomorrow. I'm going to the movies with some friends and my crush - we both like each other. I really want to make a good first impression on them about my clothes - what should I wear that's not mainstream? xxxxxxx thanks ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    You should dress to please yourself and not worry about what anyone else thinks. 

  • Today I woke up and went to the toilet, I wiped as normal but then I looked into the toilet when I flushed it and there was blood on tissue. I'm using tissue now but there's barely any blood in the last 10 minutes I got a spot on the tissue, have I really started?๐Ÿ˜ญ and is possible that tomorrow or the day after it will be gone and only really start in a couple of months? It's 13 December and I'm 14, I should of realised it will happen soon but my twin sister isn't near it yet ..

    This is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • What do i do if my first period comes when i wear dark colour panties (MAROON OR RED OR BLACK)...how will I find if it's my period or white discharge

    Menstrual fluid is brown or red whereas discharge is a clear or yellow/green mucus.  You might like to consider using pant liners which will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there

  • Hi Vicki,
    My mum wont let me have cozzie bottoms with straps on the side. I'm 13, I would really love this cozzie and she's not letting me have it because of those! I can't get the same one without them and besides I like them there. Help! ๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™๐Ÿ‘™

    You really have to respect your mum's wishes but why not leave it a while before asking her again.

  • Hiya!
    I'm on holidays and I don't know who to invite over because they are all really popular and I always think it will go wrong and we won't have fun if I do help please also there's a girl that I would like to become friends with and have her over but it would be so always because I don't really know her help :( ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณ๐Ÿณโญ๐Ÿณ

    Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and relax.  Why not suggest that you all go shopping together or to the movies to break the ice between you?

  • Hi Vicki, a really popular girl said my clothes where extremely "mainstream" this sort of hurt my feelings, but no one wants to be mainstream. Help! ๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’˜

    There is nothing wrong with being mainstream so try not to take her comments to heart.  She is the one with the problem in finding it necessary to say something nasty to you.  Continue to be confident in the way you dress and don't allow this girl's opinions affect you.

  • hi Vicki so I had an argument with my friend because we promised we would tell each other when we started our periods, anyway she didn't tell me so I got angry at her but then we made up, now I'm hearing that she has been saying things behind my back and I'm not sure wether I should confront her about it or leave it, it's Xmas holidays now so should I just text her cause I want to be her friend and not have a fight but I'm so angry at her! please help I want to know what I should do

    You should really talk to your friend and try to clear the air.  As she has been talking about you behind your back, I think she owes you an explanation.  However, you should try to remember that it is possible for us to outgrow our friends at times.

  • Dear vicki, I just wanted to say thank you. You really are amazing and have helped me with so many of my problems ( even little silly ones ) you've always helped me with my problems, I dont know how you do it! If U hadn't been here I wouldn't be the same happy cheerful person I am now :) I think the other users of this site will agree when I say, thank you very much:) you'd are an amazing woman!๐Ÿ’œ

    Thank you so much for your kind words of support.  I am happy to have helped you.

  • Dear Vicki,
    A few days ago I found extremely light discharge in my underwear. Is this my period? I'm not completely sure because the discharge was just really light but I don't think it was a "skid mark" because the discharge was closer to "the hole" than my butt. Is it my period or am I just really close to it?

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  This is usually within 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki! My name is rylie and i am 12. I have been noticing discharge since march and it I now the middle of December. That's 10 months. I haven't told my mom yet because I thought that I would wait until my period came. I do not have my period yet but I have been getting really really bad headaches and I have been very moody. Do you have any tips or do you think you could predict when my period should come so that I can be ready? Thanks, Rylie

    Hi Rylie, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about discharge and periods.  As you've been releasing discharge for 10 months, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi, I'm thirteen and I've had my period for about a year now and i recently got off of it on the 30th of November and I'm supposed to start on the 22 of this month but I'm not sure if I'm having my period right now because only a little bit of blood came out and I'm not supposed to start for a whole other week. got anything?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hiya,
    Ive asked this before but the answer never came upnso..Sometimes I get really wound up and shaky especially at party's and my chest goes really tight and I struggle to breath I get them when I around lots of people and I start to feel dizzy what are these?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time in a person's life with so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel susceptible to stress and anxiety.  You should consider learning some relaxation techniques like taking deep breaths or distracting yourself by thinking of something else.  Why not look into learning some Yoga too?  You should also talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will also help you.

  • Hi vicki
    There's this boy who likes me and his friends always tease me about him. I dont know how I really feel about him wat shoul I do? Oh and there's this boy who I used to like but I don't anymore and he thinks i like him and is kind of mean to me probs cus of it but I really don't know wat to do?

    Ik it sounds stupid....
    Rhubarb ^_^

    If you like this boy, you should tell him and it has nothing to do with your friends at all and as for the other boy, I think you should put him straight by telling him that you only like him as a friend.

  • My teachers all love my (sarcastic) sense of humour, but everyone else hates it. My elbow was in a load of pain for whatever reason today, and my teacher said "has it swollen?" and I replied "I don't know, I don't usually measure my elbows." And this was hilarious to him. But I say something like that to anyone else, and I get lectured for being rude or whatever. Is this a regular thing to happen, or is it just me?
    Annemarie

    Hi Annemarie, personally, I also think you sound funny and to those who don't appreciate your humour, please don't allow them to make you any different to who you are.

  • does brown in my knickers mean I have started my period? If so I don't know how I will discuss it with my mum I feel really awkward!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi,
    I hadn't started my period and I was uncomfortable about my body because I have a slight bit of tummy fat. I'm worried now that I started my period I will get an even bigger belly? Or is this not the case?

    Puberty is naturally a time when teens undergo so many physical changes with limbs becoming longer, hips becoming wider and breasts becoming fuller and retaining a little 'puppy fat' around the tummy area is very common so try not to worry.  The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a balanced diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water and try to be as active as possible.

  • Im 14 and in year 10 and I still havent got my period. Im really worried about it and need some help. i am also worried about how to tell my mum when i do start

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for girls to start their period anytime between the ages of 8-18.  The best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  As for talking to your mum, try to remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once and there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about talking to her.

  • I did a pregnancy test the other day and it was positive. I told my boyfriend who's really excited but my parents are angry and have told me that once it is born, I have to have it adopted which I don't want to do. Im 17 and feel that I can make choices for myself. I am unwilling to have my baby adopted but my parents are adamant that I do. What shall I do? Janette xoxxo

    Hi Janette, this is your choice and whilst your parents and boyfriend can advise you, ultimately it is what you feel is right for you and your unborn baby that matters. Why not have a chat to your local Brook or Family Planning Clinic for some more advice on this matter.

  • Hey, merry Christmas and my name is georgia and today at around 11:30 I started to get really really sharp pains in my lower belly. Until around 4 they didn't go and they really conserned me but for a few moths maybe weeks I have had discharge and sometimes it would be yellow but sometimes it was a clear liquid stain in my pants and I have pubic hair but I don't have armpit hair so I was wondering is this the start of my period๐Ÿ˜–

    Hi Georgia, these pains are part of puberty and maturing into a young woman. The discomfort is very often caused by your reproductive organs growing and whilst it can be a little painful, it is nothing to worry about and gentle exercise should help reduce this discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had five periods and they have been regular. I am not a great fan of pads because my flow is heavy and when I move I feel like Niagara Falls. I have decided that I would quite like to try tampons but my mother, when she sees one of my friend's tampon boxes at a sleepover or I drop a hint, mutters to herself about girls my age (12) being too young for tampons. She is a doctor and she is logical so do you have any advice on approaching this subject with her?
    Love Anastasia

    Hi Anastasia, you may want to show your mum our teens range of tampons designed to be shorter and narrower for girls new to tampons and introduced with the help and approval of one of the UK's leading adolescent gynaecologists.

  • Do lil let's have wingless pads?

    We currently only manufacture winged pads, but if you prefer non-winged there is no reason why you cannot tuck the wings under the pad before placing in your underwear.

  • I am worried about boobs and how do u know when they are getting bigger or you are starting to go threw puberty.

    Maddy Beck

    Hi Maddy, sometimes breast development is so small you cannot notice any significant changes on a day to day basis and often there will be periods of no growth noted at all. So my advice is to measure your breasts every six months and try not to worry if you find that from time to time they are a little tender to touch or if knocked. You may also find our section on Boobs and Bras useful under the Puberty heading. 

  • Hey its Beth so my boobs are hurting a little I don't wear bra but I wear crop tops are they hurting cause the crop tops are too small for me? I'm 11. Thanks Vicki :)

    Breasts can be tender or sore as they develop and it is most likely not linked to your underwear. Why not have a chat to your mum and ask if you can be measured if you feel you may be growing out of your crop top.

  • hey Vicki xx
    im really grumpy. a little thing can set me off
    kxx

    Puberty can leave lots of teenagers feeling this way, why not read our section on Emotions under the Puberty heading for more on this subject and how to deal with these new feelings.

  • hey Vicki xx
    so please answer truthfully!!
    so I have had heavy discharge and when I went to the toilet I wiped and there was a little bit of blood but nothing ever after. I have been very moody a little thing can set me off
    when my period come??
    k xx

    If you have noticed a little bit of blood on your toilet tissue, this could be your period and is nothing to be worried about, especially as you have already been noticing discharge.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am 13 i hv been discharging since March,,last month on the 8th i went to the loo i saw รฅ few red drops wen i wiped i also noticed รฅ few red dots..they same thing happened this month(other days i also notice it)
    I told my mom n she sed it wasn't my period..as i am reading other peoples comments//questions some of them are kind of the same situations as others..
    I am really worried is this my first period?
    Please help me ASAP
    Thanks So much Vicki
    #Love_this_site
    From #1 fan_Lulu

    Hi, this could be your period even though only a tiny amount of blood is being noticed. It is nothing to be worried or scared about and you may find keeping some pant liners in your bag will help capture any fluid lost in the future.

  • Hey Vicki

    Is there any natural ingredient to make my breast grow cuz I went on the website home remedies or sum thing and it said you can apply a homemade natural ingredients and everyone in the comments said it worked and if u no it can u plz tell mii

    There is nothing you can apply to your breasts or eat that will make your breasts fuller, so please try not to believe everything you read on the internet. Breast size is generally genetic, so take a look at family members on both sides of your family and this should give you an idea of your final size.

  • Hi! I have quite dark circles under my eyes, and im going to be 12 in less than a month, I want to ask my mum for concealer, but Im slightly afraid! I don't know why, but because my older sister, Zoella and some people at school (they only wear concealer, as anything else is forbidden) wear make up, i kinda want to as well. Is 11, but practically 12, too young?

    Dark circles under the eyes can be attributed to lots of things like a Vitamin B12 deficiency or a lack of Vitamin K so you might like to try eating lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and drinking lots of water, reduce your salt intake and try putting cucumber on your eyes for 10-15 minutes per day as it should reduce any puffiness.  If you see no obvious improvement, ask your mum for a concealer but explain your reasons for wanting one.

  • Hey I've moved into secondary a few months ago I've made loads of friends and I have a big crush on 1 of my best friend (boy btw) and he found out we get on really well together and even though he found out he still is one of my besties but when I'm near witch is basically all the time him I can't help but get that feeling I reallly like him I thought I was over him but I'm not what do I do thx

    So it's good that your friend knows that you like him but you should try to find out if he feels the same way too.  If he doesn't feel the same, try not to let it affect your friendship as you are such good friends.

  • Hi Vicki๐ŸŒธ
    Ok well my friend likes this guy he likes her back and it's really cute and I'm happy for her!There's always been me her and my other friend and we have been like sisters to each other for 3 years! I know though that when she's with him she will just go of and leave us, me and my other friend both agree on this. She even said today,after Christmas we might be hanging out with his friends!I'm happy for her but I don't want our friendship to break, what should we do?

    Why not have a chat; all three of you letting your friend know that you understand she may want some alone time with her boyfriend, but that it is also healthy for her to spend time away from him and with friends. I am sure she will take your comments on board.

  • Hi vicki,
    I just finished my period and it has been on for 7-8 days
    1) is that normal
    After my period I noticed some blood kind if thing in my underwear I'm not sure if it is discharge but I'm scared it might be something serious
    2) is it discharge
    3) should I worry/ is it serious or not
    Thank you soooo much

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, if your period is persistently long and heavy and you feel more tired than usual, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Why am I having pains in my vagina and haven't started my period ?

    The discomfort is probably due to the fact that your reproductive organs are maturing.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,I'm Jane.I've recently got my periods and still have discharge? Is it normal because you won't usually have periods and have discharge.I usually have discharge after my period.Is it ok?

    Hi Jane, try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.  discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes to keep feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i have loads of these red spots on my vagina, they r really sore but i think its from shaving. The soreness comes when the hair starts to grow back. It was very sore today and there is more pink-ish spots and some r stuck together. I actually don't think i should worry but im not sure. What is this, there is loads!!

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    You should try to allow some time for the spots to heal by keeping the area clean and applying a little antiseptic.  When pubic hair grows back, it is normal for there to be an itch but you must try to resist the temptation to do this as it will stop after a while.

  • I don't know what to do. I recently got my first bra. When my cousin came round for dinner ( he's 12 same as me) he kept pulling on my straps and undoing my bra thorough my t-shirt. I told him not to but he kept doing it. Then when I went to the toilet he went into my room and was fiddling with my bras and saying how big my boobs were. What should I do?????
    Remy xx

    Hi Remy, your cousin's behaviour was inappropriate so be direct and tell him that he made you feel uncomfortable.

  • hi Vicki my boob are realy vainy is this normal xx

    It is normal to notice veins in your breasts so try no to worry.

  • Hi :) I'm 13 and I'm a 36DD , whilst I'm happy with them and don't mind boys attention to them somesometimes, I feel like I'm valued by boys too much for my chest and not for my personality or intellegence . And also I can get some very inappropriate comment on them sometimes. Like one boy offered me ยฃ10 to touch them (which I obviously denied). And although I know that these comments are not going to stop, I just want Some advice for dealing with the comments? Molly x

    Hi Molly, during puberty, boys are attracted to girls' bodies more than ever before and breasts are seen as the obvious focus of attention.  By ignoring their comments and keeping a dignified silence, they will soon get the message that you command a certain respect. 

  • Hi Vicki, I am 13years old and have had my period for around 8 months now, I do find pads and tampons quite easy to use but I did notice that because this time on my period I am only medium to heavy I find inserting a tampon really painful and when I pull it out it's also very painful. What do you suggest? Also if I order a samples pack of lil lets items will they come through discreet or will they have all of the lil lets signs all over saying period and stuff?

    If you are experiencing discomfort when removing the tampon, try leaving it in for a while longer until it has absorbed more menstrual fluid as this will make it easier to take out.  You might also like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular or Super non-applicator tampons as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Our sample packs are sent in discreet Jiffy envelopes so try not to worry.

  • Hiya, i am in year 10 and have never been late to school, however my friend which i have been walking to school with since year 7 has recently meeting me later then usual making us like 2 mimuets before the late bell goes, I hate this because I worry about being late,i dont want to stop walking wit her because she is my bestfriend i just want her to not be so late, what do you suggest i do? ThanksโœŒ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘Œ

    Talk to her and explain that as you hate being late could you please start meeting a little earlier.

  • I'm 14 and I have no boobs- I am the only one in the WHOLE year who does not wear a bra. A friend has made a comment about my size and I cried for a full hour at home- its quite pathetic really but I guess it's just hormones. As soon as I fit a bra I will be getting a padded one but for now is their anyway of making my breasts appear larger while wearing crop tops? (PLease don't reply "they'll grow" or something not particularly useful. Thanks :)

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and even though you haven't noticed much breast development yet, there is a chance that you will end up with larger breasts than some of your peers.  You might like to consider looking for a bra with a little padding for now to boost your self-confidence.

  • Annabel, 14
    I like this boy and i think he likes me back but my friends are making it so awkward in school i have asked so many times for them to stop but they just keep embarrassing me and then it gets awkward between us and i don't know what to do because i like him but i want us to talk in school with out the awkwardness ?

    Hi Annabel, as your friends aren't listening to you or respecting what you've asked of them, talk to this boy when they're not around to save the embarrassment.  Remember to relax and try to be yourself.

  • Hiya!
    I've recently started my period (this is my second one) and I'm a little puzzled.
    In your opinion how often should you change your pad? I know it's dependent on your flow but I don't know what a heavy flow is like or a little flow, so I don't know when to change it?

    Thanks :)

    We recommend that a pad should be changed every 3-4 hours but it does depend on how heavy your menstrual flow is and if it is particularly heavy, you should also consider buying pads with a higher absorbency.   Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi.
    I've asked several questions previously and I've recently started my second period. Last period I didnt have that much blood (mainly discharge) but this time it's been a lot more blood. I don't know if it's a normal amount and I'm a little worried?
    Thanks.

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • How many times should you change your pad if it's ur first period and it's very light?

    We recommend that you change your pad every 3-4 hours.

  • Hi viki ,
    I feel soo down at the moment. My grades are good, I have great friends and family but I just can't help taking some comments the boys in my class say so seriously. I think about them for ages after and some of the comments are stupid and I shouldn't take them too heart but I can't help it. It's making me soo sad please help๐Ÿ˜จ

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens when they undergo so many physical and emotional changes all at once, it's no wonder they can feel so sensitive at times.  Please try to remember that these boys are also going through puberty and are probably trying to get your attention by saying things that will get a reaction from you so please try not to take them to heart.

  • Hi Vicki I'm I think I started my period today but I jave quite a lot of blood is this normal as my friends said they only had a spot or two and I have lots of blood and brown coloured discharge? Is that normal ?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicki :-)
    Im 12 and I have been getting cramps for a few months/ weeks now and I have been getting discharge. When I got in from school there was a browny red patch in my underwear b ut it started towards 3/4the back ofthat part and when I wiped there was some. Im not sure if this is my period or not so pls help :-)

    This was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi viki ,
    I feel soo down at the moment. My grades are good, I have great friends and family but I just can't help taking some comments the boys in my class say so seriously. I think about them for ages after and some of the comments are stupid and I shouldn't take them too heart but I can't help it. It's making me soo sad please help๐Ÿ˜จ

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens when they undergo so many physical and emotional changes all at once, it's no wonder they can feel so sensitive at times.  Please try to remember that these boys are also going through puberty and are probably trying to get your attention by saying things that will get a reaction from you so please try not to take them to heart.

  • I am 15 and very very small! Hehe 5 foot to be exact!
    My breasts are also tiny!
    Band is 29 inchs
    Bust is 28 inchs
    What bra size am i?
    PLEASE ANSWER IF YOU CAN AS MY BOOBS FEEL LIKE THEY NEED SUPPORT AS THEY ARE STARTING TO ACHE AND FEEL SORE SOMETIMES TY ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜ญ

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Heyy Vicky!
    My breasts always feel sore and ache everyday for about a week every month is this normal? I haven't started my period yet but ive had discharge for over a year everyday!
    I wear a crop top at the moment not a proper bra could this be the problem why my breasts always ache? But i live with my dad as my mum died when i was 1 week old and i have no sisters and i am not close with any women relatives in my family so i am unsure how to tell my dad! Please answer ASAP IM SCARED! Thank you ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜ญ

    Please try not to worry as it's normal to experience discomfort with breast development and I'm sure your dad will understand if you feel ready to start wearing a bra.  I understand that you might feel a little embarrassed talking to him about this, but I'm sure your dad will be aware of the fact that you will be undergoing lots of physical and emotional changes during puberty.  Why not suggest that you go bra shopping with a friend?

  • Hi Vicky,
    I haven't really started my period yet, as i haven't had it flow out my vagina however for the past two months for about a couple of days i have had a tiny bit of blood in my knickers so could be a sign and i have had heavy discharge for about 1 and half years.
    But, my boobs always ache and feel sore is this normal? I wear a crop top not a real bra could this be the problem also what can i do to relieve the soreness thank you please answer ASAP PLEASE IM WORRIED ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜˜

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for breasts to feel sore and tender with development.  A soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm 13 and this morning I woke up and went to the loo when I wiped there was lots of blood I got scared so before school I put two pairs of pants on. At school the blood went through both pants so I went to my Head of year and she gave me some pads. I think I have started my period but last week I got fingered could it just be my cherry that ha spilled or is it my period? I have only told my friends I'm really scared. Is it my period ???

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  The blood you released was from your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    On Wednesday I got ill with the Flu and I'm still ill but since I have let out loads more discharge than I usually do. Loads. ๐Ÿ˜• My urine is really yellow and had a strong odour, what do you think is wrong? ๐Ÿ’™ If it's an infection, I'm on penicillin for a throat infection would that clear the infection? ๐Ÿ™ I would be soo embarrased if I had to go to the doctors! ๐Ÿ˜ณ Thanks
    Love Teenie ๐Ÿ’™

    Hi Teenie, try not to worry and drink more water which will help to dilute your urine.  It is possible that the penicillin you're taking will be affecting your urine.  Once you've finished the course, everything should go back to how it was before you became ill.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am 13 years old and when I watch Romantic movies I sometimes feel like fingering myself// masterbate bcz I am to young to have, sex ! I do have boyfriend but we jst dnt wanna rush ourselves...I sometimes touch him done there now he touches my breasts when we kiss coz u knew we cnt hv sex..is this normal?
    My other question is it normal for me to masterbate ?
    Plz help ASAP-sorry if this is inappropriate
    Thnx Vicky
    From Samoan

    Hi Samoan, the Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  Masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring curious new feelings caused by an increase in activity of sex hormones.

  • Hi vicki,I'm curios to know does sperm really die when it hits the air and can you get pregnant by having sperm ons your finger and finger it into you,I have irregular periods but I'm stressing up about being pregnant (sorry if it is innapropiat) ...

    During the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.  Sperm generally needs a warm, wet environment to survive as once it dries out, it dies.

  • Hi , so the other day I started my period and I am using the lil let's everyday teen pads. I woke up and I had had a very heavy period and it was even on my bedsheets ( I was wearing a pad) I don't know what to do as I don't want this to happen again and what would you suggest for any cramps?

    As your period is quite heavy, you might like to try using Lil-Lets Freshlock pads in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  As for your stomach cramps, you might like to try taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath or if the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi Vicki!

    In May I had some brown discharge, but haven't had anything since. I have only had really irregular yellow-white discharge. Sometimes it feels like I'm weeing when I'm not. Please answer if you have the time!

    Love the site! :)

    Try not to worry as discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It is normal for it to appear yellow when it dries out.  You might like to consider wearing pant liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki!

    Its Ashley (again) so my periods are starting to become regular even though its only been a few months, but its really light and brown, it lasts very long for example this month's was 10-11 days. Will my period become heavier and become red? Will the days become shorter?


    xxxAshley

    Hi Ashley, in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, if you should find that you feel more tired and lethargic than usual, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • I get really scared sa soon as someone says they feel sick.I don't know why. I hope you can help lucy x

    Let's be honest Lucy, nobody really likes the smell of or to hear someone else being sick but you can try to distract yourself by thinking of something else and by trying to remember that being sick is mostly a natural way for our bodies to expel things it doesn't want.  By trying to block out the sound and smell, you will learn to cope with this and no longer feel afraid of someone being sick.

  • Dear vicki
    I usually have my period around the 25th, but last month I got it on the 18th, and it was very light and lasted a whole two weeks, it ended around the the 4th and now it's the 11th and I got my Period again! That's twice in a month, is this normal?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I want to wear the same type of clothes as the other girls at my school butbut every time i tell my parents they say that I'm trying to be someone else. But I'm not trying to be someone else i just want to wear the same type of clothes as them. And I'm 14 what do i do?

    You have to respect your parents' wishes but it wouldn't hurt to tell them the type of clothes you would like to wear.

  • Dear Vicki,
    My name is Beatrice and I'm 14. Trying on bras has been exceedingly difficult for me. I found out that I was a 49FF. Is there something wrong with me?
    Hope you can help,
    Beatrice

    Hi Beatrice, to make sure you have an accurate sizing, I would ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with a professional bra fitter who will then also be able to suggest the best styles to suit your needs.

  • Hi I'm 14 I got what I think was my first period today (red stuff when I wiped) it wasn't very thin though and I have not seen any blood at all for 10 hours, is that normal? Have I started my period? (I have pubic hair and b cup breasts) sorry I'm just worried

    This is your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • on Christmas Day I wakeup between 4-6 this is bad but I can't fallback asleep and I'm not alowed to get my parents up between 8-10 usally idk what to do because I'm not alowed off the top floor til Evryones up I don't know how to occupie my self I might text friends cause were up at the same time do you have any other ideas of how I could occupie my self in my bed room? can't go on netflix because Ill get hooked and be in my room for the rest of the day I might wake up abitlater than usualth obc I'm13

    Sheer excitement means that millions of children all over the world wake up at a ridiculous time to see what Santa has left them so try going to bed a little later on Christmas Eve and make sure you're really tired before going to sleep as with any luck, you will then wake up nearer to the time that your parent's do.  Happy Christmas.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 12 years old and Ive been having brown discharge.I'm really nervous,I don't know why I've been having it. I've missed my period for months now but I told my doctor and she told me as long as I don't miss it for a year in ok. So please can you tell me why and how I can help myself also I haven't told my mom cause I'm too scared because I think she will tell me its a disease. IS IT???????!!!!!!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Brown discharge is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina so there is no need for alarm.

  • A week ago I got 1.5cm to 1cm long poop coloured discharge at the Back of my panties.(place where poop comes out of the body)..It had NO smell...I forgot to tell my mom and she didn't see it and dumped the panties in the washing machine...is this a period? Where does a period appear? (Is it in the back-poop place or front-urine place?) Pls answer as fast as possible...ALSO what do I do if my period comes when I where dark colour panties

    Your vagina is situated in between your anus (where you excrete waste matter) and your urethra where you urinate from; so releasing brown discharge from the middle to the rear is most probably your period as brown discharge can often present itself as this.  So, be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pad and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will not only protect your underwear from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hey Viki I am thirteen and I just had my peroid for the first time when Will I get the next one so I am prepared?

    From Elizabeth

    Hi Elizabeth, you will have to wait and see as menstrual cycles can last anything between 21-34 days.  So remember to count on from the first day of your last period to the first day of your next to get an idea of how long yours will be.

  • hiya!!
    I have a question about bras
    1) i wear a push up bra (i am 13) will this affect my growth or anything in anyway?
    2) i have inverted nipples and i m very worried about the appearance of them i know its 'natural' but I'm afraid that in the future my husband or boyfriend (if i ever get one) won't be as comfortable as i am with them ?

    A push-up bra will not affect your breast development in any way and as for your nipples, please try to allow some time for your breasts to fully develop.  Try not to worry as I'm sure your future husband will love everything about you and it really won't matter if your nipples are inverted or not.

  • hi vicki! i am 16 and i really like this boy in my class (he's 17) and he flirts with me etc. i just need to know something that will turn him on maybe? (not to have sex) but as a kinda play thing, i don't know like exp. biting your lip? thats all i know and i was wondering if you had anymore? thank you xx

    Check out my blog on Your First Love for help with this and please don't worry about flirting, if this boy likes you a simple smile is all you need to give him to show you feel the same.

  • Hello, Vicki. Sorry to disturb you. Please could I ask you a question?
    Is it normal to feel more appreciated by my teachers than my family? My family seem separated from me in comparison to my teachers. They rarely hold a conversation with me, while my teachers gladly spend at least 5 minutes having the sort of conversation you'd expect in a family. One even goes out of his way to make sure I'm okay if I'm upset, but if I'm at home, I'm either dismissed or called an attention-seeker.
    Thank you.
    Danielle.

    Hi Danielle, as you are feeling a little left-out by your family, try talking to them and tell them exactly how you feel.

  • I want to send a guy a picture of me in my bra, is this legally considered a sext? I'll have normal shorts on just not a t-shirt, so I'm technically not showing anything... I just wanna know if this is a sext
    .....๐ŸŽ๐Ÿ”ค๐Ÿ”ค๐Ÿ”ค๐Ÿ”ค๐Ÿ”ค๐Ÿ”ค๐Ÿ”ค๐Ÿ”ค

    I am a little unsure as to why you want to send such an intimate picture to this boy and it really does depend on your age, if you are under the age of 18 then sending sexually explicit photos is against the law.

  • Hi first I just want to say thanks for helping me with my other questions๐Ÿ˜Š
    So yea I've had my periods for like a year and a half now and been using pads all that time. They were ok at the start but now I'm getting older and doing more activities and stuff I would like to start using tampons (I'm 14 today) but I have no idea how to ask for them as I stay with my grandparents so I feel awkward talking to my gran about it. Please can you give my suggestions on how to casually ask for them.
    Thanks

    Try to remember that your gran was a young girl once and will probably understand that you are ready for trying tampons.  You might like to consider asking her for some Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • I really, really like this boy but my best friend is really outgoing and jokes around. She really annoys him. She said to him that i text myself pretending to be him ( even though i dont ) and now he thinks im a stalker and im obsessed with him. I sit next to him in science and ive got every lesson with him so that doesnt help. Before she said that we were getting on really well and he knew i liked him but we had a laugh with each other. What should i do?

    Just be honest with him and tell him that your friend was joking when she said this.

  • I have had this crush on a boy now for 9 years and we are still in the same class. What should I do.... Ignore him, ask him out?
    From Amy

    Hi Amy, 9 years is a long time to like somebody.  Please tell this boy you like him but if he doesn't feel the same, try not to let it bother you too much as teens crushes' often fade in time.

  • Hi vicky
    I'm thirteen at the moment but when I was eleven I noticed a spot of blood one day in my pants was this my period? I haven't had any blood ever since but have been getting discharge everyday is this normal?
    Thank you xx

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I got quite a lot of yellowish gooey stuff in my underwear while I was rushing around in the morning. What is this? Is it discharge or something else xx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • Heyy Vicki
    Do u have any tips for getting out of bed in the morning๐Ÿ˜‚ becuz I have to get up at 6 for school and I can't seem to get myself out of bed I've tried alarm but I js keep hitting snooze and I get the right amount of sleep p.s I'm 14
    Meg

    Hi Meg, it is normal for teens to feel more tired during puberty due to all the massive physical and emotional changes they're undergoing.  As long as you're getting enough sleep, you might like to try getting into the habit of jumping into the shower as the hot water will work wonders in bringing you to life.

  • Hi I'm 12 and I have had my period for 3-4 months but when I get my period I also sometimes get brown discharge with it I don't feel it and it not itchy or anything but in just wondering if this is normal
    Thanks jade x

    Hi Jade, try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Do smaller girls tend to have smaller boobs?

    Not necessarily.

  • Hi Vicki I really like this boy but I've liked him for 2 years but can never stop liking him I'm always quite busy but I still can never stop thinking about him do you have any advice? Also this boy likes me but I only like him as a friend but his mate is always trying to set us up whys shall I do?? Thanks๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

    It is normal for girls and boys to form an attraction to each other during puberty caused by the increase in activity of sex hormones and this is called a crush.  The thing is that crushes often fade with time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    About a week or so ago some popular girls said some insults about my friends and I being silly whilst singing 'happy birthday' to 1 of my friends, this made me rather upset today though it didn't have an effect on me at the time. Can you explain why this is happening or give me some advice, please?

    Due to the fact that you have had time to think about what happened, you are now angry and upset but you should really try to put it behind you and forget about it.  However, if these girls behave in a similar way again, talk to your teacher about it.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it normal to be oversensitive and to overthink for a tween? I'm asking since I became upset after my stepdad teased me about some small things (it was plain joking around since I'm the youngest) and I just got heavy hearted and a little teary-eyed, plus I feel as if since my brother came back from Uni that I am not loved as much as I used to be. Can you explain why this is happening or give me some advice, please?
    XxX

    Puberty can be a difficult and demanding time for tweens when they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's little wonder they feel sensitive and are easily upset at times, so try to remember that this is not your fault.  As for feeling a bit left out since your brother's return from Uni. I'm sure this isn't intentional, its just that your parents haven't seen him for a while so try not to take things too personally.

  • Here my my vagina is irritating and I think I have just finished my period by when I wipe my vagina brown stuff comes out?

    It is normal to experience an itchy vagina with pubic hair growth and development and there is no need for alarm as the brown blood you have noticed is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • What's the bit in the middle of your vagina called and can it like snap away from each other of that make sense

    For more help with this, check out my blog on Getting to know your Reproductive System - Outside

  • I don't know how to tell my parents I have a boyfriend, he keeps sending me cute texts and I am being really suspicious around my phone so my parentd don't see them and my dad noticed. I am only 12. How would you want your daughter to tell you?

    Absolutely yes.  Please be honest and simply tell your parents about your boyfriend.

  • I'm 16 and I've started my period when I was 14, in 8th grade. And now I'm a sophomore and I get my periods regularly yet I'm still getting discharge the other 3 weeks I'm not on my period. Is that okay?

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hey Vicki,my breasts are developing but one thing...they are like cones! So when they're done growing will they be normal?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry because as you develop through puberty, your breasts will become rounder and fuller.

  • Hi vicki,
    I do dance and trampolining but i want to switch trampolining to gymnastics as it would help me better in dance with flexibility e.c.t the only problem is i stil want to do trampolining but i want to do gym aswell but my parents can't afford it, i was thinking maybe give up trampolining if it came to it but gymnastics tend to take more time but my dance is already part of my life, what should i do?

    You should prioritise the activity you think you would get the most from and from the sounds of things, gymnastics would help your dancing along but the choice is ultimately yours.

  • 2) ๐Ÿ’š
    (I don't know where I left off the other q) but yeah my friends get invited to these parties but don't actually host them so they meet boys like this .... I just don't know what to do caus I want to meet boys but I'm never going to be able to cause I'm surround by girls ... And I can't move school cause I don't want to .. Please help!!! Thanks so muchx

    Why not consider joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport or there might be a church choir in your community which will enable you to meet boys who are like-minded.

  • 1) ๐Ÿ’š
    Hi vicki I went to an only girls primary school and go to an only girls school now - I'm in year 9 - 14 - and I don't know ANY boys, all my friends have boyfriends and meet up with boys and go to house parties but I dont go to any of those cause none of my close friends have house parties with boys they just get invited to them

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki,
    I really cannot get the courage to tell my mum about Italy. I don't want to send a note or anything cause that would be awkward. I want to tell her in person but I'm just so scared of what her reaction will be. I need to tell her soon - before the end of December when she pays the next payment. I'm soo worried๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜ฐ

    You have to be honest with your mum and the sooner you tell her the better.

  • You know how crushes fade after a while? How do people get married and live with eachother for the rest of their life? Wouldn't their love ever kinda fade like crushes do?

    When two people enter into a marriage, it is a mutual agreement and when they truly love each other they will work through any problems they might have together.  As with most things worth keeping, you have to work at it.

  • How do I change my pad or tampon in a public toilet without anyone hearing the noise of the wrappering?

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every female so there really is no need for you to be so discreet as chances are that other women will be on their period whilst you're on your too.  However, you could open the pad at the same time as flushing the toilet chain to disguise the sound.

  • I have had my period for eleven months now, but I still am not sure on which brand of sanitary products to go for. What should I be looking for in the products to help me decide on a brand?

    I can only speak for Lil-Lets in saying that the products in our teens range have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  If you would like to sample them, pop onto the home page of this website, click on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page and fill in your details so we can send you a sample from our teens range.

  • Hi Vicki, Reese again! My Discharge has been going on since August but now is more wet and I feel like I'm peeing my pants. I wear Bodyform pant liners every day is there anything else I can do to stop it feel like I'm wetting myself?
    Thanks Reese Xx
    BTW do you know how long my period will be as I got discharge at the beginning of August, thanks xx

    Hi Reese, you might like to try using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes which will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 12 and yesterday I was in the car but there was a bike shoved in a box next to me.As I was in the back, I starting feeling really sick, hot,ill and had a bad head ache I felt like I was going to collapse. Is this a panic attack?
    Please help Reese xxxxx

    Hi Reese, it is possible that you felt quite confined with the bike in such a small space which is why you became a little anxious.  In future, you might like to try taking some deep breaths and open a window.

  • Hi Vicki, my vaginal discharge is getting thicker and the smell is getting stronger. I have been getting discharge for more than a year. Does this mean that my period is on my way? P.S, it doesn't smell fishy, just the same musty smell, but stronger. Thanks!



    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi it's me again, my other question was NAW215, so I used to only see worms in my poo but now I haven't seen any in 2 poos only eggs. I don't want to tell my mum and I don't know how to but do you think they have died off or not:( Thanks, Ellie x

    Hi Ellie, for peace of mind, please mention this to your mum.

  • hi vicki, is it weird that i like to feel and squeeze my boobs and nipples? im not lesbian but i well enjoy doing it and i like exploring my body

    It is perfectly normal to be curious about your body during puberty so try not to worry.

  • i feel really weird. I have this best friend (hes a guy) and he told me hes gay. but for some reason, i keep wanting to text him and hang out with him and stuff. I dont like him do i? cos thatd be so weird. Ive never had a proper crush before and he is one of my best friends. Please help. I don't find him attractive, but i always want to spend time with him and stuff.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to spend time with your gay friend at all but you do seem a little confused over 'liking' him or not.

  • I want to know if I need a bra. Im 14 have my period. My best friend said 'hey sarah, i think u need a bra? you're developing'. I've never thought about a bra until this, and now im so self conscious. I know i have boobs, but never thought i needed one til i was like 16. They jiggle when i run, and my nipples poke through my shirt. They arent exactly small, like im able to cup them in my hand fully and the overflow out my hand. My measurements are 78 under 95 over. thnx

    Your bra size is a 36B but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki, what are the signs of period? Iv had discharge for about 3 months now and a few weeks ago I had a really bad pain in between my vagina and belly button (my bladder I think๐Ÿ˜‚) could that be a sign? If not then what are the signs of having period?๐Ÿ˜˜ I'm scared if it hurts?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so you might have a while longer to wait.  Stomach cramps can be managed so please try not to worry as gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath will all help to soothe any discomfort you might have and if the pain is too bad, you could ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi Vicki,
    what phone do u have? do u like it and would u recommend it?
    Also Merry Christmas 2 u and ur family xox :)

    I currently have a blackberry issued by Lil-Lets and this works for me, but I am sure a mobile phone store will be able to offer you advise on the best choice of phone for you and your needs.

  • Is it possible to start your period without ever experiencing discharge??? And also, was my last question inappropriate, because you didn't answer it. It was the one about when do u think I will start my period, and it also asked if I could wear bra with Brest mounds. Please answer ๐Ÿ˜Š

    It is possible for girls to start their period without releasing discharge and I can't really remember your question but if you have noticed the development of breast buds, I would say the choice is yours if whether you decide to wear a bra, crop top or training bra.

  • hi vicki, just want to say thanks for all the help youve given me over the last couple months. I totally understand my period and puberty now x

    You're very welcome.  I'm happy to help.

  • Hi Vicki. I have a question about boobs and bras. I really think I'd benefit from getting a bra fitting, but I have nobody to go with. I live far away from any female relatives and my mum works at weekends and evenings. I can't ask my dad, so I was thinking I could go with a friend? We are really close and have been bra shopping together, just never had a fitting. Do shops allow girls to have a fitting without an adult? Thank you - S x

    Yes if your parents are happy for you to go shopping with a friend this would be acceptable. Remember though that you may have to pop in to book an appointment and then go back an hour or so later when they have a vacancy open.

  • hiya, i have been having these urges to finger myself. What can i do to stop as it feels good when i do it but after i feel guiltly.

    Masturbation is a perfectly natural, instinctive thing to do caused by an increase in activity of sex hormones during puberty.  It is nothing to feel guilty of.

  • Hi, I'm just wondering at what bra size it is recommended to get an underwired bra. My boobs are just kinda falling out my bra cups and the side and top, and it is non wired. I feel like I have no support and they constantly jiggle when I move - especially when doing any sport. These bras are over a year old and are size 32B. In this year I started my period and have seen rapid growth in my boobs. What should I do?

    The best thing to do would be to pop along to your local Marks & Spencer or other department store and try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that provides you with the comfort and support you need.

  • hi, today when i was getting my PJ's on I noticed some gooey suff at the front of my pants ! little worried...
    I have put a light day lil lets pad in just to catch it ! How long do you think my peroid is away ? Just so i can prepare!
    thanks, martha

    Hi Martha, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Is there anyway u can answer someone's message and nt put it up on ur website for others to c?? (Because my question involves my friend but she posts things on this website and ino if she seen it shed no it was me that put it up)

    I'm afraid the only way you can ask a question is to post it to Ask Vicki but you can change the names in your question so your friend won't now it's you.

  • I don't know if I've started my period because about a couple of months back I had a bit of brown stuff in my underpants every second day for about a week but haven't had anything since is this my period pls help me xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • This term i've been put in a class by myself and i don't know anyone. I've been used to having friends with me in lessons and now i feel really lonely as everyone has there own groups of friends who they sit with .

    Please help, Nathalie

    Hi Nathalie, allow yourself a little time to settle in to your new class and who knows you might meet the best friend you've ever had.  If after a little while, you still feel the same, ask your parents or guardian to contact the school to see what they can do but in the meantime, you could also make an effort to make new friends by joining clubs at school for the things you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport.

  • I am only thirteen and started my period three years ago, but it's gradually getting heavier to a ridiculous point. I use Super absorbant tampons and 3 pads all at the same time but I still get blood all over. I've tried lots of things, but the blood still doesn't stop and it normally goes on for two weeks or so. Sometimes I feel faint from all the bloodloss, and I can't leave the house at all while on my period for fear of getting blood all over. It's so tiresome. Is there anything I can do?

    Ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I can't physically get the tampon up any further but I need to use one because my flow is quite heavy and I don't always have time to change my towel at school. Does this mean I'm not ready for a tampon? What should I do?

    The key to success is to relax and practice.  We recommend that you first try using tampons on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  It is important to be relaxed before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine and be sure to insert the tampon high enough into the vagina that only the cord is showing.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Super non-applicator tampons as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hello Vicki! So today I went to poundland and I saw some of your products there! How come? In other shops they're more expensive! And in poundland they are only ยฃ1! You didnt say they were sold there too! Did you know? Mmm...maybe rrom now on Im gonna buy them from poundland? Will they be the same? Thank you
    Superrr....ducky!
    Meow...ducksaymeow

    Hi, the packs currently sold in discount stores such as Poundland, do not come with a ribbon tied resealable bag and are instead more like most other pads on the market, hence the price difference.

  • Hi Vicky
    Everytime I see my crush I always embarressly
    Wet my knickers and get horny, what is a pleasureful experience
    I can try out being 15? What do I do?

    During puberty, it is normal for this to happen as sex hormones are running riot.  You might like to consider using pant liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • hi vicki
    its megan, i ahve a boyfriend we are both 13 and i really love him, he always goes to hug me and i like get really like nervous that he will think ima weirdo. i hve hugged him oncce and he always kisses my forhead and shoulder and neck and stuff and im scared to kiss him incase i mess up. sometimes when we kiss he like hugs me and i dont ever know what to do hug him back or just carry on kissing? howcan i get less nervous about hugging and kissing him? xx

    Hi Megan, kissing someone is the most natural thing in the world.  Try to relax and let your instincts lead the way.

  • Hey Vicki! Erm..basically I'm scared because recently in my discharge I've been getting those clumpy things and it smells. This has happened before and I went to the GP and they did tests but the results said it wasn't an infection but they prescribed a fungal infection cream. And today I saw the clumps back and it smelt weird..I'm scared. Is this normal?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, it is normal to notice thick clumps in your discharge from time to time so try not to worry.  It is also normal for discharge to have a slight odour so why not consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Last week I had my first period at school and I had swimming that day. I told my male swimming teacher that I wasn't able to do it for personal reasons but I don't think he understood. He saw I had my kit in my hand (I was expecting to do it) and started shouting at me but I kept saying I really couldn't do it and now I have detention for a week! What should I do!?

    Ask your parents/guardians to call the school and explain to your teacher exactly why you couldn't swim.

  • Hi Vicki :) A couple of days ago somebody I know told me that my crush fancies me but I'm not entirely sure whether he was joking or not. I was happy of course but now I'm feeling really guilty. A friend of mine really likes this boy and I would feel bad if I got the chance to go out with him. Let's say he does like me and asks me out, what would I say? It would be wrong of me to say yes because it would hurt my friend's feelings but it would also be wrong to say no because it would hurt his feelings...

    What a nice friend you are in considering your friend's feelings before your own.  You might like to consider talking to her before you agree to going out with this boy to explain how much you like him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have been having discharge (i think that's what it is) it's kind of crispy when it dries (it's white). I have been getting cramps in my lower stomach. I haven't got my period yet. I'm only 10, 11 in January.


    xxxxxx
    Mia

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives - this is usually within 6-12 months.

  • How does it make you feel when you have periods when you do not have the pads and knickers to change afterwards

    The key to success is to be prepared by wearing pant liners and keeping some pads with you at all times as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I liked this boy he didn't like me back so I moved on and now I really like his friend and his friend feels the same way but the boy I used to like is jelous and doesn't want us together there was an arguent about me the other day and it's was about me and the boy I like now. How do I keep the boy I used to like from interfering with the one I like now btw the boys are best friends
    Thanks super lady

    I think this boy is acting in a very spoiled manner.  It's as if he doesn't want to be with you and he doesn't want his friend to be with you either.  I think the boy you now like should tell him to mind his own business as it's nothing to do with him.

  • what does ovulating mean? and if two people have sex and the woman dosent have an egg ready to be fertilised can she get pregnant or do the sperm just die in her Darcey

    Hi Darcey, ovulation is when an egg is released from the ovary and travels to the fallopian tube, this is when a female is most fertile and most likely to become pregnant. If an egg is not fertilised then the sperm simply die off and fade away.

  • i just started my period on 12th dec this year i know that periods can often be brown in colour but mine has just been dark brown and i found like a peice of black coloured stuff in my pad it definatly wasnt fluff from my pants i know it sounds gross but please answer this thakyou so much, Mary-Grace

    Hi Mary-Grace, this is perfectly normal so please try not to worry.

  • Vicki I'm bisexual and I'm being bullied at school and I'm scared that my teacher is gonna tell my mum because I haven't come out yet I'm really scared because my mums a homofobic please help me

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens and deciding on their sexuality is something they can often rush into.  So, rather than stress about your teacher informing your mum about your bi-sexuality (which I don't think he will do), why not take the pressure off yourself and wait a while until you feel sure and ready about this in the future.

  • Okay so Im very confused,
    I liked this boy but he's hurt me a lot and I csnt really understand why I still like him? It's like he's put me trough so much but I can still look at him and he puts a smile on my face? IVe had crushes before but this doesnt feel like a crush?๐Ÿ˜I try to like other people and move on but it's really hard and I cant? What do I do๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

    You can't help who you like but as this boy has caused you so much hurt, you should really try to move on and forget about him as you deserve so much better.

  • I masturate somedays and I don't wash my hands after . I do it in bed . am. I dirty for not washing my hands love from *** me xxzzzzzzz

    Washing your hands regularly prevents the spread of infection and germs.

  • Hi Vikki,

    I am 10 and have been having discharge, is this normal?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  Try to remember that girls can start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Help!
    I've had my period for just under 2 weeks!

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and it might be like this for up to 2 years.  However, if you should begin to feel more tired and lethargic than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • Hey,
    So basically my discharge hasn't been as it usually is. I've had a lot more to the point where it's like snot and it's very think and as I said, there is a lot more of it throughout the month not only when I'm PMS-ing. Also, on my pantyliner it's highlighter yellow. Is this normal because I've never gotten it this bad before?
    Amelia xx :)

    Hi Amelia, try not to worry as it is possible for discharge to vary in colour, consistency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • Hi plz help y period has been over 7days and I do t know when it is going to stop it normal 3-4 days
    It its really light it stops for 1hour then you have altitude bit then a lot
    How can I tell when it is going to stop
    Thx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years.

  • People keep asking me what my weight is and in tests and things at school they ask us what is our weight i don't know we don't have any scales should i go and bye some???????? Please help thnx:) <3

    I wouldn't worry too much about buying some scales as the best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to eat a balanced diet and try being as active as possible.

  • What does loosing your virginity mean? Is it something to do with your vigina?

    A virgin is someone who has not had sexual intercourse.

  • Bit strange but when you have sex do u have to do it when u are on ur period so the egg can be furtillized? I am only 13 so don't worry I'm not going to do anything I was just confused coz i had science on Friday. Thanks

    Some people may choose to have sexual intercourse whilst menstruating.  Check out my blog on Understanding Periods  and Getting to know Your Reproductive System - Inside & Out for a clearer understanding of periods.

  • So I am on, what I think is my period and there is SO much blood it is unbearable. Every step I take I can feel the blood coming out of me and it is horrible. When I go to the toilet the bowl is filled with blood, no clear water and when I wipe it is all blood. There are clots too. I am also feeling sick and am in tears! Is there something wrong?! I am only 14 and there is no chance of me being pregnant, thanks xxiloveeatingmaltesersxx

    Try not to worry as you're not alone in experiencing heavy periods and there is no need for alarm in releasing small clots as they are simply blood and tissue from the uterine lining.  Do watch out for excessive bleeding though and if you should find that you become more tired and lethargic than usual, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki
    Bit of an odd thing to say but how do I know if a boy likes me. He keeps on staring at me in class then when ever I say hi his legs go like jelly. But the thing is i don't like him- he has asked me out 5 times in just a space of a week and I don't know if I should tell him I don't like him or not. What would you do?
    Eloise

    Hi Eloise, in as nice a way as possible, you should tell this boy that you don't like him that way but you would be happy being friends with him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Yesterday (13/12/14) I had bad headaches. I was watching Telly for about half an hour and it isn't normal for me to get headaches that easily. Then before we had tea I felt sick but I wasn't. Then this morning (14/12/14) I felt the same two things? What can this mean?
    Thx

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and your headaches might be linked to this but if they persist, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller and perhaps ask to get them checked out with your GP.

  • hi Vicki!my name is hazel and im fourteen.i have a date next Saturday since im a regular I know that I will be on my period I am nevous that my boyfriend will know help Vicki!

    Hi Hazel, being on your period isn't apparent to others so please try not to worry.

  • hi Vicki, if you like a boy can you tell them or will it ruin it

    Everyone is different but I think most boys would be flattered to find out that a girl likes them.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have the whole lot going on, boobs, period, pubic hair... Just wondering, I have a few bras (34a non wired) but they don't feel that secure. Firstly my breast is hanging halfway out the cup secondly they feel abit thin. Could you recommend a different style bra/ shop to buy as I really need new ones but not keen on getting from same shop (M&S) thanks
    From Manila

    Hi Manila, there are so many different styles for you to choose from which is why I would recommend that you try some on the next time you go bra shopping.

  • hi vicki , where can you get fitted for a bra?

    Marks & Spencer, La Senza and most large department stores offer professional bra fittings.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Sorry if this is inappropriate but I was wondering - if you were a crop top rather than a bra do your breasts go saggy?

    You should only consider wearing a structured bra when your breasts need some support.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 14 and I started my period when I was 12 and I got breast buds when I was 10 but now my breasts are a size 32D which are a bit big. You say that breast can grow untill your about 20 but do everyone's cause I really don't want mine to grow anymore. Do some peoples stop when their 14 like me?

    We are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to others and some do notice breast development into their late teens, early 20's but not everyone.

  • Hello Vicki, I am called Jasmine and I am 12 years old. This morning I went to the toilet and looked in my pants, there were three small spots of red in my pants. I tried to pick it out cos I thought it was red wool from my onsie. It wasn't wool. I began to grow worried. I raced into my mums room and told her. She said to keep an eye on it. Is this my period?

    It is quite possible that this was your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicky I'm thirteen and have had discharge for months now and for the past couple of weeks I've been been getting on and off stomach cramps like sometimes it won't be to bad others It makes me feel sick. Does this mean my period is coming soon?

    Zoe x

    Hi Zoe, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. 

  • Hi Vicki!
    Are you having a lovely day? Please can you answer my question (if you don't mind! :))
    I had some brown discharge last year, end of term, (May) and it hasn't come since. Thats 7 1/2 months! All I've had is irregular yellow discharge which only lasts a day. Is this weird?

    Also, is it normal for discharge to be yellow? Like a milky yellow? Sometimes I feel like I'm weeing, even though when I check my pants I'm not. Thanks for answering my really long questions! Have a nice day!

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and it is normal to notice large gaps in between releasing it and for it to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • Hi Vicki , Erm this is a bit awkward but I'm 13 and I masturbate !! Is it wrong , or is it something I should be concerned about ??
    Thanks x

    During puberty, there is an increase in activity of sex hormones causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings, so please try not to worry.

  • Does it mean I will get my period soon if I have armpit hair, discharge and other hair but not cramps?also is it weird that I don't get cramps?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki, you probably don't answer questions like this, but I haven't got a clue what to do. Ok so lately I'm worrying about everything, I'm pushing friends away because I'm always so low. My mum says it's hormones - which it probably is, but I feel so ill every morning and night thinking about school, and cry myself to sleep most nights and find it hard to stay awake/get to sleep. I don't feel right anymore. I don't know what to do, what do I do, Vicki? I would be so grateful if you answered.

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the psychological and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they can feel anxious at times.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest making them susceptible to stress so none of this is your fault.  Please do things that make you happy like dancing to music, watching your favourite films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling and you should find comfort in this.

  • How ol do you recommend we should be before we use a tampon ?!

    It is not really about age, but rather about how comfortable you are with your body, your menstrual flow and cycle. If you feel comfortable with all of these three things there is no medical reason why you cannot use a tampon.

  • So hey vicky

    I haven't been with my ex for 4 month and I still love him so much however he smokes and he's only 13 he also drink heavily and smokes weed and he was warned that if he smokes anymore his stomach lining will go I just really care about him and I love him so much I don't know what to do he is also propa popular and he's BEAUTIFULL
    Annalise x

    Hi Annalise, this boy needs to consider his health and the advice he has been given, complicating this with love at this time is not something that he should be worried about. So for now why not just be friends and support him.

  • ive been self harming and my mum and dad found out and I really want to do it again what should I do?

    from sstteepphh

    Now your mum and dad know about this condition, they will, I am sure help you manage this time in your life and help identify why you self harm and what you can do to stop this in the future.

  • Hey Vicki,

    For about one to two years I have hand pains in my stomach/abdominal area that happens at least once a month, (sometimes more) that happens between the hours of 11 pm and 4/5 am and it is really affecting me. I go to the toilet 1-6 times in the night and still feel really sick.my mum suffers with migraines really bad so do think that has anything to do with it.I haven't started my period but I have has discharge for 4 years,is this it?(my period)

    This sounds very much like your reproductive organs maturing which is very common during puberty.

  • Hi Vicki, I am really, really, ugly and I've tried thinking about whats on the inside or trying to get a positive image of my self but it doesn't work because im just so ugly. I really don't know what to do. Sometimes if one of my friends says "oh im so ugly" EVERYONE else argues, but if i say the same thing, no one says anything and it really hurts and thats how i know im so ugly.

    It is very common for teenagers to lose some self confidence during puberty, but I truly believe we are all beautiful in our own way. So think about what you like about being you, you may have nice thick hair, long legs, pretty nails, a wonderful laugh to sense of humour. Once you have identified what you like, start making the most of it. Consider also looking in magazines and find a style that appeals to you, and then introduce a few of these fashion items into your wardrobe.

  • Hi Vicky, i feel left out with my friends. Last week my friend asked me to sleep over on Friday and i said yes but a few days before friday i asked her if we could go to the school dance before we had a sleepover and she said "no i cant im going over to (other person)'s house and sleeping over.

    It may be that your friend was unsure that you had said yes to the sleepover, so please try not to take this to heart and be uspet... I am sure this is just a mistake and your friendship is still strong.

  • Hi Vicky, I have this friend in my friend group and everyone including me really wants her out of the group, she talks about us all behind our backs and is really rude sometimes but acts like we are the rude ones. We tried taking to her about her gossiping about us but she denied it. She really creeps me out because she always talks to me in a voice like she is mad at me when i haven't done anything. What should we do?

    If you have spoken to this girl already and asked that she kindly consider how she speaks to you all in future, you may want to speak to her again  making sure she understands that this is now affecting your friendship group and her inclusion in it.

  • Hi Vicky, yesterday i had a reaction to medicine i was on and it made me throw up. Its been 36 hours and ive only been able to eat about 500 calories. I've lost three pounds and i feel really dizzy and my ankles and knees hurt a lot. I am able to drink liquids without being sick but I can't drink fruit drinks for nutrition to help with the dizziness because fruit is making me sick. Do you know of any recipes for nutrition drinks i could have?

    If you have been unwell it will not hurt for you to eat small dry foods such as a biscuit or a piece of toast and then once  you are better you can introduce your normal foods back into your diet and you will quickly return to your ideal weight.

  • Hi! I'm fourteen and I started my period when I was twelve. I wear size 34A bra and this upsets me as all of my friends have really big boobs and I do not and sometimes people point this out. I understand that people are different and grow at different rates but will my boobs get bigger? I'm not exactly sure what breast buds are because I'm not sure what they look like but as im size 34A does this mean I have breast buds? Sorry if I sound stupid

    If you are an A cup then yes you have breast buds, more importantly as you say size is not important and as breasts can continue growing until your late teens or early twenties I would not worry too much about other people's comments.

  • Dear vicky,
    I have asked many questions but none of them have been answered, so please can you try to answer them, I know you might be busy with your own life and that you can't always answer all the questions and you might not even have time but I would really appreciate it if you did try to,
    Thank you!๐Ÿ˜˜

    All questions are very much up to date, so if I have not answered your question it may be that it was not appropriate. Next time you ask a question make a note of the reference number and look for my response.

  • Hi Vicki I really want to find out more about puberty do have any blogs or websites that you know because I don't understand periods.

    You can find out all you need about Puberty and Periods on our website and our blogs are very good too!

  • Hi Vicki its Sadie again I have to stay at my (great) aunts whenever my mum and dad go out which isn't very often my aunt is in her 70s I love her so much but she smokes she doesn't smoke in the same room as me and my sis but I hate the smell its suffocating what should I do x

    Hi Sadie, this really is your aunts choice, but maybe you could ask if you can open a window if it's too smokey or there is an odour in the house. I am sure she will not mind.

  • Hi Vicki, My names Zoe, I'm 12 yrs old and I'm only after finishing my period like now...its stopping a good bit, anyway I know its a part of growing up when you have sexual feelings for people? Well yeah, I think I have feelings for my best friend. She's amazing and we're always together. Anyway, we kissed before like, only touched each others lips pulled back and just laughed because we were messing, am I a lesbian?

    Hi Zoe, feeling confused about your sexuality is very common during puberty and lots of teenagers feel attracted to friends, it does not however make you a lesbian.

  • Vicki help me I am getting this pain in my vagina and I am getting cramps wat is dis !!! Btw: ur website is greatโค๏ธ

    This is most likely your reproductive organs maturing and whilst it can be uncomfortable it is nothing to worry about and all linked to your journey from a child to an adult.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm 13 and got my first period in April. It is December now and I kept track of all my periods. I got 13 periods in less than a year! Your only supposed to get 1 period each month sometimes twice but every other month I get two periods. This worries me because I have really heavy periods and I get them quite often. I have no one to ask if this is normal or not because all my friends have light periods. Please help!

    For the first few years the gaps between each period can be short or long so to have more than one a month is very common and nothing for you to be worried about. However, if you find managing a heavy period hard, have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they may pop you along  to your doctor for a chat.

  • Hi I'm 14, but my size is 36DD. Are my breasts too big? My Peers keep saying they are.
    Sincerely
    Lylaโ™ช

    Hi Lyla, there is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be no matter what your age, so please try not to listen to any silly comment from others, breasts come in a variety of shapes and size all they are all beautiful

  • Hi Vicki,
    i can't sleep at night cos i'm worrying about my problem.
    My Teacher says he loved me the other day and then the next day he asked me to meet him at a pub near us. Plz help i'm so sick with worry. xx

    Please speak to your parents about this matter with some urgency, your teachers behaviour is grossly inappropriate and this MUST be addressed and confronted. You have done nothing wrong here so please don't feel you will get into any trouble by sharing his conversation with you.

  • After you get a red spot and all cramps and stuff you told me it was my period but it only lasted one day the red spot when will the real one come will it be like in a couple of months or weeks ????

    It would be difficult to say as periods can be so irregular for the first few years, with both short and long gaps experienced. It really is therefore a case of waiting and being prepared.

  • Me and my boyfriend are 17 and Ive always said that I wasn't very well sex educated. We've waited nearly 2 years before doing anything and now that we're just starting to im glad j waited until I felt mature. The only thing is that I don't really know what doing...apparently i did it wrong. He said it DIDNT matter and that he's willing to wait and everything, but I want to do things now but I'm usless, how can I get better at it?๐Ÿ˜”

    Being a couple is all about listening and learning what the other person likes, it is not about being the best but rather being there for each other, so why not ask your boyfriend what he likes and let him know what you like too.

  • Hi Vicki, I fancy this boy in my form who is really quiet and rather introverted. We speak sometimes but I would really like to get to know him better. How could I do this?
    Thanks x

    If this boy is shy, then take your time, smile and ask what he was up to at the weekend or what his Christmas plans are. Simply quick chats of an innocent nature will be better than long involved conversations.

  • Do you know how I can stop my hands getting so sweaty?

    Consider wearing less layers if you find you are sweating and possibly a daily hand lotion may help too.

  • Hi vicky
    I need help I have had my period since my 12th birthday I'm 13 now but I did not have my period for 3 month but now
    I have it and it's really sore and has been going on for 9 days and no sign of stoping.
    I can't ask my mum because she is always at work
    Pls help

    Periods can be irregular with long gaps between each one, they can also last for between 2-10 days so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • I am 17 and ready to have sex with my boyfiend, but I'm so worried about the condom splitting or there being a hole in it etc. is this likely?x

    This can happen as no method of contraception is fool proof therefore you may want to use contraceptive gel together with the condom for added protection.

     

  • Hey vicki! I got my periods in febuary 2014 and most of the time now i get my periods 3 times a month!!! Is this normal?

    Periods can often have short or long gaps between each one for the first few years but if you are at all concerned share your worries with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I don't now if I'm just depressed or growing up which is most likely to be?

    That would be something I cannot comment on, but it is true to say that lots and lots of teenagers feel sad, moody and angry from time to time during puberty as the levels of hormones in their bodies fluctuate. So why not have a chat to your parents and share your feelings with them.

  • I now I have told you already but my friend has an account on this app she has another girl as the profile picture I now you said this is her choice but yestaday I was playing on a new game on her phone wile we walked home and a message popped up from the app and I accidentally clicked on it she gets about 100 requests and messages a day everytime she logs on mostly from older men is this right since we are only 13? she dosent now I looked what can I say to her?

    If you feel your friend is in any danger then you should speak to her and let her know what you have viewed, explaining that this app may be dangerous especially if men are messaging her. It will then be her choice if she takes your advice or chooses to ignore it.


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    And a Merry Christmas to you to.

  • Hi Vicki kendall, recently my boobs and nipples have been quite sensitive ( more than normal ) like my nipples don't hurt but they feel really sensitive and if someone accidentally bangs into me it really hurts! Is this normal ( I'm 14 and wear a 32c) is there any tips on how to make them a little less sensitive, thanks, kendall xxx
    Ps ( I've been moving them around a bit because of that lump, could this be why?)
    Love the site btw :)

    Hi Kendall, breasts are very often sore during development especially if knocked, this will subside over time and you may find gently rubbing in a little moisturiser my help or wearing a bra if you do not do so already.

  • Hi Vicki, I am so sorry if this is deemed inapropiot but today when i was about to have a shower, i noticed the tiniest spot of brown/red it was smaller than a pea it was so small.(however i was wearing pink pants. But something was definatly there no matter how small!)
    But could this be a start of my peroid ?

    And will i get it tomorrow ?
    I have got the smallest bit of pubic hair literately none and no armpit hair. I have a bit of breast.
    Also i get yellow skids in my pants sometimes.

    Yes this could be your period, so why not wait and see what happens over the next few days.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 14 and today I had my first period ever and tbh I was quite excited about it but it took me a couple of hours to tell my mum. I am worried that my younger brother and sister will wonder why I'm making noise in the bathroom and my 10 year old sister being curious will probably find my towels and ask what they are. What shall I do?

    Ask your mum to have a chat to your siblings; at the age of 10 there is no reason why your sister should not know about periods and puberty, after all she will be fairly close to this time in her life too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    It's Z and I love your page so my problem is I'm scared that I may have a thyroid problem, I've put on weight ( a little) and when I excessive I lose weight but I'm still fat and I have a problem with hair loss I lose a lot of hair in one day and I think it's bad about 100-150 stands of hair a day please help me I'm really worried
    Thank you
    Z

    Hi Z, you may be interested to learn that we all shed hair on a daily basis as part of its natural life cycle and this is nothing to worry about. As for weight, worry less about what the scales say, if you eat well and exercise often your body will find its ideal weight without you having to focus on how much or how little you weigh.

  • HiViki I have like really small boobs I get teasted quite a lot and it really mean stuff the other say u was wearing a training bra and the girl sitting behind me keept pulling the stop and then she was telling people I was wearing a sports bra then she wisperd u ain't got not tits I tht like really hurt but I tried to pretend to not hear her and now I'm back wearing vests and I know your going to say everyone grows different but I really want bigger boobs do your know anyway of making your boobs grows

    It would not do for us all to be the same and breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes. My advice is to ignore these silly, hurtful and immature comments, but if you do feel brave, simply ask these people why they fell big is best where breasts are concerned, because honestly I have never read anywhere that having bigger breasts is best.....have you!!

  • Hello Vicky, I'm Erinna(nickname) im going to trip on 16th of December, but my period start on 14 so what I should do? The trip is just panto, all of my deaf friends going, I only allowed to use pads not an tampon,

    13579

    Thank you x

    Hi Erinna, there is no reason why a) your period should stop your enjoment of the trip to the Pantomime or why you should not continue wearing pads for this trip, so please try not to worry.


  • Hey viki I have this crush in my class . I got my friend to ask him out for me and he said nothing I realy like him though .

    Why not wait a few weeks and see what happens now that your crush knows how you feel, he may be taking him time to work out just how he feels about you and this should not be rushed.

  • I feel really embarrassed but I heard that when you have sex you 'cum'. What is 'cum'? Also sorry if this is inappropriate. Plz answer I have no-one to turn to right now.From TriTri

    Hi TriTri, the slang word 'cum' is used to describe two things; 1. when either a male or female reaches orgasm and 2. when during orgasm a fluid is released.

  • Hi Vicki,

    So recently in the past week I have been waking up, or having more discharges lately. I can kind of feel them? You could say. There's just s lot more and I'm not used to it. I haven't had my period yet, I'm 13 and Around 80 lbs.

    The amount of discharge we produce can vary from day to day and this is really nothing to worry about, although you may want to consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis if you feel this would make you more comfortable and keep your underwear stain free.

  • hi Vicki,i am fourteen and I have just started my period and I am going to have to go to school on Monday .i am worried about people knowing I am on my period.help!

    No one can tell just by looking at you that your period has arrived, so please try not to worry. Place a new pad in your underwear before leaving home for school and then change at lunch time and then again when you get home.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm Victoria I have started my period in October and I had it last month (November) it is now December I was supposed to have it last week but it hasn't happened. I am only twelve, I haven't had any sexual intercouse or a boyfriend. Please help I am really worried.

    Hi Victoria, periods are often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months between each one being very common so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm going to the town to buy some new brand new school shoes, but I'm 5ft 2in and I'm a size 7 and I'm scared to wear shoes because is it NORMAL to have big feet when I'm 5ft 2in?

    Thanks

    There is nothing wrong with this shoe size and you will find a great many styles in this size, my advice would be to consider a low heel for extra style.

  • Hi vicky
    I'm 13 and have had white discharge that appears yellowish in my pants for 1-2 years now, I've been quite emotional recently and have had occasional stomach cramps for a few weeks does this mean my period will start soon?
    Thanx x

    I feel your period is not too far away if you have been experiencing discharge for this length of time, so ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Ok Vicky,I want thongs but I don't think my mum will let me and I really don't know how to ask her. She might think i do things with guys but I really don't, I haven't dont anything, I just would like thongs. How do I bring it up, when in thongs section at shopping or in house or anything? Please help,Thanks,Ellie x

    Hi Ellie, if you are looking to reduce the visibility of your underwear through your clothing then you do not have to wear a thong. A great many underpants are now made of material that makes them invisible and these would be much more suitable and comfortable to wear.

  • So I had my period for the first time and whenever I have a poo I see white worms, whenever I wipe my bum there is none or even when I look in the mirror at my bum there's nothing. Should I tell my mum or wait until I have a poo when I've stopped my period. There moving and white, so do I go to the doctors or just wait until my period stops and check my poo for some more. Sorry if this is a discusting unusual subject but thanks, Ellie x

    Hi Ellie, these are threadworms and you really must share this news with your mum so she can purchase some over the counter treatment to get rid of them. In future you should also ensure that you wash your hands both before and after visiting the toilet, eating or preparing food, which is often the cause of these parasites living in body.

  • This is a bit of a weird q, but my sister(last week I think) watched some lesbian porn, she's only 8. This happened about last year too but we thought it was my cousin doing it, he's 12 now. she's started licking and biting my other sisters leg,9, she also likes to touch her bum. should I be worried? Im 15 and I don't remember ever doing anything like this, how do I tell my mum too-she doesn't listen to me normally and my sister is her fav so I doubt she'll believe me

    Your sister is too young to be viewing any images of a sexual nature and you must bring this to the attention of your mum, who I am sure listen and take action.

  • Merry Christmas And A Happy New Year To You And Your Family Vicki!
















    Lots Of Love Abigail! Xxx

    Thank you and Festive Greetings to you and your family also.

  • Heya Vicki.
    I'm 14 and I've had my period since June 2013 and i've read it takes 12-18 months to be regualar but i'm still not? i predict it out on a calender but it never comes on that day? Will I eventually get a regular cycle?

    Also would you say that Non-applicators are easier to use? as i want to move onto them.
    Thannks xx

    Periods can be irregular for several years so please try not to worry that your cycle has not yet regulated. As for tampon, well it really is a personal choice; for me non applicator tampons are easier to insert and have no messy applicator to dispose of either.

  • Hi could Uou maybe interview taylor swift and/or Emma watson next time?

    They are already on our list.

  • Hi vicki
    Would you be able to interview Emma watson for the video thingy next year? And when will you be doing the videos?

    I believe she is already on the list.

  • Do you believe that personality tests are a good indication of the way you really are? Or not?

    No I do not, simply because the way we feel can change from day to day or even hour to hour.

  • I know this is a stupid question but if we have periods to make a baby then why don't animals because they can make babies aswell?

    Some animals such as primates, cats and dogs do have something similar to a period, but for most female mammals the lining of the uterus is dispersed within the body.

  • Today I was holding my rabbit and she scratched me really badly on my wrist. I'm worried about when I go to school if people will think I've been self-harming because it really looks like I have even though it's just my rabbit. What should I do? How long will it take to heal?

    When anyone has a pet scratches can occur and I am sure these marks will be gone in less than a week. There really is no need to worry about this matter, because regardless of what anyone thinks you know the truth and that is all that matters.

  • Hey Vicki I was 11 in July and every since iv been having really bad cramps and belly aches every single day I'm not on my period yet however I've had dish charge for quite a while know

    Hope you know what it could be x

    As you enter puberty your body starts to mature and these cramps are most likely caused by your reproductive organs maturing and this is nothing to be worried about and is very normal.

  • There's this boy and I think he likes me because he is always trying to make me laugh and he knows that I find him funny. I don't know if I like him because he can be really annoying and has got a really bad reputation. We are like contrasting people. If he asks me out( which I think he is very close to doing) what should I say?! Please put this in friendships and boys category.
    Kiera xxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Kiera, if you like this boy then say yes, if you are unsure they say no, letting him know you would prefer to just be friends for now.

  • Hi vicki,
    On sleepovers, two of my close friends have discovered I wore padding and they where really suprised, (this was at different times not together) they where completely gobsmacked! (In a bad way)I am developing but alot of the other girls are bigger than me. At camp or any other sleepovers, I'm really scared that they'll say the same thing and tell everyone (it normally gets around) and I will feel really self conscious. The thing is I don't want to stop wearing them! โญโญโญ thanks x

    If you feel that wearing padding in your bra gives you extra confidence then be bold and confident and tell them so if anyone asks. This is your choice and if they are true friends they will respect your decision and not judge you.

  • Hi vicki it's Zoe
    So basically none of my bras fit me, and none that I buy never do either. I have measured myself and you said a was a 32B. My mum never seems to "have time" to take me to a shop to try them on there so I have to keep asking her to order them online but there's not even much point cause they never fit so they have to be sent back anyway. Do you know how I can get some bras that actually for me so there not so uncomfortable?

    It really is a case of trying on bras before purchasing, so why not have a chat to your mum letting her know that you feel purchasing online may be wasting money and ask if you can go shopping for a bra.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have a horrible fear of drunk people and sick. My mum got very drunk and whenever she wakes up the next morning with a hangover she is normally sick. I had a dance show the next morning and she keeps telling everyone she meets its only 20 minuets and its not going to be good. Im really upset because she knew that it was my dance show and she knew i hate sick and she got drunk. Im really upset so can you tell me any answers even though its not a question, because you are the only person i trust.

    Sometimes people say things they do not mean and I am sure your mum was very proud of your dancing achievement and enjoyed the day thoroughly, even if she did not give this impression. Why not have a chat to your mum one day letting her know how uspet you feel when someone is sick, I am sure she will be able to alleviate any concerns you may have and will welcome your honesty when discussing this matter.


  • Hi viki I have realy bad discharge : - ( from

    If you find your discharge a little difficult to manage then consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis.

  • Hi vicki,
    so heres the thing, I have these spots that are red and small and I have them on my breasts and stomach. They are not warts or anything like that but they are really itchy all the time and i have had them for 3 or 4 weeks. Are they normal?
    sorry if its inappropriate,
    Lissa

    Hi Lissa, I wonder if your mum or the person who cares for you has changed any of the products you use, such as toiiletries or washing detergents that could be causing this irritation. Why not have a chat to see if this is the case, if not then it may be an idea to pop along to your doctor for a quick check-up.

  • Hi vicki ,
    Do periods stop when you go in the bath ?

    No, but there is no need to wear any sanitary protection when in the bath or the shower.

  • Hi Vicki I'm Isabella and as you know its nearly Christmas I'm so excited but my period is due that day I'm not really bothred about periods really but what do I do and whats even worse is I'm flying over to america to see my bestest friend Sofia please help me PS Merry Christmas xxx

    Hi Isabella, your period should not get in the way of any festive treats or your flight over to the states, so I really would not worry, just make sure you have sanitary pads or tampons with you for when it arrives.

  • Me and my boyfriend are ready ton have sex and we know we are but I'm worried people will call me names if anyone finds out

    Why would anyone find out!! If you are both over 16 then being sexually active is between the two people who are involved and not something that should be broadcast.

  • I think my friends are starting to dislike me because I don't hang around with them every lunch and I hang round with some other people can you suggest what to do!? X

    Why not have a quiet word with them, letting them know you still want to be friends but feel it is healthy to get to know other groups of people also. I am sure they will understand.

  • Dear Viki,
    I'm not sure whether I have had discharge!!!! I have seen these white stuff and recently there has been wet patches. I know I can talk to my Mum but I don't know how to tell her! Pls help and do you have any advice?

    Yes this is discharge and it may be that your mum has already noticed this fluid in your underwear when she does the weekly laundry, so I would not worry too much about speaking to her about it, mums know all about discharge and understand it is very normal.

  • Hey Vicki my period was 5 days late, on the 5the night I had tiny spotting for a couple minutes then it completely stopped no signs of any spotting anymore whats going on? I have never been late.. .......

    Period can often be irregular for the first few years, even when they have been regular previously. I imagine this small amount of blood loss was still your period as very often periods can vary in the amount of flow experienced.

  • Hi, i was examining myself and i noticed that about 2-4 inches in, in the centre there is like a bobbly bit which like splits open it doesnt hurt at all, what is this? it also like sticks in the way of the rest of my vaginal canal

    also, at the opening there is like a bone covered in like wrinkly skin. whatss that?

    This is most likely your urethra, as for the wrinkly skin this is almost certianly your hymen and you can find out all about this part of your body by reading my blogs on the Reproductive System Parts 1 & 2.

  • Hi Vicki,

    My mum thinks I'm too young to wear make-up or curl/straighten my hair she even won't let me use dry shampoo or anything like that but I'm 11 . Do you think I'm too young to wear make-up or do all those stuff? Or do you have any tips i can use to maybe convince her? (i love dressing up and I'm into make-up and hair)

    Please replyxxxLydia

    Hi Lydia, I think this is a little young, so why not compromise and practice when in home and then when your mum feels you are old enough you will be very good at both hairsytling and applying make-up.

  • Hi vicki,
    How can I arrange a sleepover with a group of girls? It's a silly question, but I'm not sure how to do it in a good way. And things that we could do?
    Also, how can I invite a friend to my place? I'm afraid it will be awkward because she's popular. What could we do together?
    Thanks x ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

    You'll be pleased to know that we have two blogs on how to have a great sleepover, so why not check them out.

  • Hi vicki,
    when me and my friends are walking in the beach, I really want a photo taken from behind us from our other friend. How can I ask this in a nice way that's not to desperate - or akward?
    Please put this in the friendship category xx
    ๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท๐Ÿ“ท

    It would seem a shame to not have your friend involved in the photo, so why not find a trustworthy passer by to take the picture of all of you.

  • Hi Vicki
    Ok so I am a bit embarrassed about this but I am a 32a and I am 13 and I am tiny and all my friends are growing before me will i be tiny forever or will they grow because the feel sore and itch mostly but they haven't changed and I've the same size for 1 year

    Breasts can grow in spurts with times of no growth often experienced. And you may be interested to learn that breasts continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties, so please try not to worry and avoid comparing your progress with that of your friends, as we really are all different.

  • Hi Vicki, I am really scared when I first have to go to my GP because I am afraid that something will be wrong "down there" and that it will look nasty to the gyno because it's all saggy and weird. Plus, when my sister went, she was grumpy afterwards. What do they do there? Please help I'm scared. Thanks! Tessa


    Hi Tessa, not all countries require you to visit a gynaecologist, but if your country does adopt this check-up, please don't worry as the vagina will change in both shape and colour as you enter puberty and this is all very normal.

  • When are the new videos being filmed? Thank you xxx

    We have not yet made our choices.

  • Could you please add jenna marbles to the list shes a youtuber x thanks vicki x

    Yes.

  • Could you please add rclbeauty101 to the video list she hit 1 million subscribers a few months ago so shes really popular xxx

  • Hey vicki xx Is it possible you could add bubzbeauty (lindy) to the list for new videos x shes a really good/popular youtuber xx thank you :)

    I will add her to the list.

  • Hey Vicki! I turned 13 in July and have had discharge for a few months now. I do athletics as a sport and when I woke up in the morning I was feeling quite sick. When I got changed there was a bit of blood in my underwear. It is only a little and when I changed into my pi's later on there was a little bit of blood again. Is this my period? It is only a little bit of blood, so is this normal?

    This is your period yes and you should share this news with your mum who will ensure you have some pads and liners with you from now on.

  • Hi Vicki I just started my period but I'm a bit confused. In my mum's culture they don't talk about things like this, I haven't had the talk yet and whenever I ask my grandma or my mum they end up changing the subject. I haven't told them even if I tell them I still won't understand because neither of them will talk to me about it.

    You can find out all about periods by reading our section on Periods and Puberty and my blogs. But you really must let them know your period has arrived as they will need to purchase some sanitary protection for you to use. If you feel uncomfortable saying this out loud why not write them a note.

  • There's a boy I like in year elven, I'm in year nine. Isomeone told me his snapchat name, so I added him. Ok, so far. But why do I feel so nervous when I message him? It's not like we're actually talking. I never say anything inappropriate, or risky. Is it just the crush making me feel this way.
    ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ๐Ÿ”ฎ

    You are correct, it is your attraction for this boy that is making you feel nervous and this is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • I love this boy and he loves me. We are both twelve and live down the same road we love each other so much but if we tell our parents we will get teased by our brothers and parent s but if we don't then we keep getting separated so we can't share the love we have for eachother.

    I want to get on with my life but he is my life plz help me

    P.S. how would you phrase it if you were going to ask your mum for a bra for the first time? how would you say it ? when would you say it?

    Thanks
    Lalasagne

    Firstly, it is fairly common for parents and siblings to tease each other when they learn they are dating, it's not malicious and will stop after a few days, so please don't get too upset about sharing this news. As for your first bra, lots of girls find asking mum when she got her first bra is a good conversation opener, so why not give it a go.

  • hey Vicki. I volunteer for a charity and I found out that you do not get your bus fares reimbursed. I pay ยฃ3.10 for a day rider and that costs ยฃ6.20 for the 2 days that I go. What can I do? I thought most places were meant to reimburse you.

    When giving your time to charity for free it is very unusual for any costs to be reimbursed, so why not have a chat to your parents and ask if they will be happy to help you with your bus fares whilst you help this worthwhile cause.

  • How do I ask my mum to buy some pant liners. I don't know why but I'm really nervous.

    Why not send her one of our e-cards and we will do the asking for you. Alternatively you could write her a note and leave it in her make-up bag or underwear drawer. Or even ask if you can request a free sample from me by clicking on the word Content at the bottom of the page.

  • I feel like I've got the courage to ask my mum for a bra but it feels to awkward because my brother or dad are always around. Also what do you do if your teacher has a crush on you.

    Why not ask her if you can go shopping for some underwear, I am sure she will understand. If you get a quiet moment you could ask her how old she was when she got her first bra; this is a great convesation starter. As for your teacher I am sure he simply likes you as a student and does not have a crush on you. But if you have any concerns please speak to your parents about this matter with some urgency.

  • Hi Vicki, do you think this boy likes me? Last week he started flirting with me in class, and he was flirting with me the other day too. He smiles at me and looks at me in class. He's quite shy and he doesn't talk to any other girls. We're both 15 and I like him. Do you think he likes me? How do I start talking to him? Please don't refer me to a blog.
    Thanks.

    It does seem that he has noticed you and may like you, why not smile next time he looks over and ask him what his plans are for Christmas, this is a great way to open a conversation.

  • I saw my period on the 25th of november and bleed for seven days, when am I suppose to see it again?

    A menstrual cycle can be anything from 21-34 days but for the first few years there can be some irregularity with gaps of several months between each one. So my advice is to always ensure you have some pads or liners with you from now on and when out and about in preparation for your next one.

  • Hey Vicki.
    Just out of curiosity, I lost a stone in 3 weeks, is this safe? I think it was because I wasn't really eating in school (I was skipping lunch, stupid I know) I kinda panicked, but I've been desperate to lose weight for so long. I've had lots of problems too, and stupidly self harmed (I think anyway, I broke a pen and used itto scratch my wrist and my friend said I've been depressed as I was sad and I was always tired. I haven't said I was depressed tho x

    It really is time to have a chat to your parents or teachers about your diet, weight loss and self harming. I am not sure you are depressed but you certianly need to chat to an adult about the way you feel, so they can offer you support and guidance as you continue through your teenage years.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm going in holiday soon, and obviously I will have to go into the pool and wear bikinis and stuff, but I don't know how to use a tampon, I've tried so many times to get it in and it just won't go in, I'm really worried about this holiday, and also even on a day-to-day basis pads are still quite uncomfortable, every time I try I use a tampon I get this weird feeling in my vagina for a couple of minutes after i try to put one in, please help me Vicki, I am freaking out here๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

    Just like anything new using a tampon can take a little practice, so when not on your period why not try inserting a clean finger inside your vagina so you can feel more comfortable about where a tampon is inserted. Remember too that a tampon should be inserted in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and inserted quite high so it does not feel uncomfortable.

  • Hi Vicki, sorry if this is too inappropriate but around my nipple sometimes gets itchy, why is this ?im scared! btw I have really small breasts and I'm 13

    This irritation is caused by the skin surrounding your breasts and nipples starting to stretch as the breast grows;  it's very normal and you may find moisturising this area can help alleviate any discomfort.

  • So I'm 14, I got my first period last September and it was pretty heavy, began to become regular with cramps etc. I had it like normal for about half a year as if it was regular but suddenly it stopped and I haven't had IT since. Not even something light. Should I be worried? Will it come back and when? What should I do? ):

    Periods can often be irregular even when they have been regular previously and this may continue throughout your teen years and is nothing  to worry about.

  • my period is sometime really watery, would drinking less stop this?

    No the viscosity of your menstrual fluid is not controlled by how much fluid you drink and very often it can be thin in texture, so please try not worry.

  • ^^^^^^^^^
    Hi, hope you're having a good day!
    I am nearly 16 and started my period when i was 13 and occasionally i leak on my bedsheets if i move too much, it only happened last night and once before, but i felt really embarrassed and like i was incapable of dealing with my period. Is it normal to leak occasionally and do adults sometimes leak too?

    It is very normal and you will find that throughout your menstrual life accidents like this happen. You may want to consider our Lil-Lets Freshlock night time pads, with an extra wide part at one end to prevent leakage; I place this at the front of my underwear because I sleep on my tummy. Alternatively, if you sleep for 8 hours or less tampons are a great way of preventing leaks as they capture menstrual fluid from inside the vagina.

  • Hi Vicky,


    Ever since I've got breast buds my nipples have gone slightly red!



    Please answer Im not sure this is normal,



    Thanks anyway, Franโค๏ธ

    This is very normal and you will notice a change to the colour and appearance of your nipples over the next few years.

  • So I had a red spot and the next day I had broen dicharge
    Mixed with whit dicharge and also for about a week I get cramps everyday also I have not started does this mean that
    My period will come soon ?

    Brown discharge is often menstrual fluid, so I feel your period has already arrived and it would be a good idea to keep some pads or liners with you from now on when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki this a bit about jealousy. Well I lied to my friends telling them that I'm on my period because another girl started and I felt jealous. I feel bad lying to them. I really want to tell them the truth but I'm afraid of what they will say.

    You could say you now feel you were mistaken and after visiting our website you realise that this is quite common. I am sure they will understand.

  • Is it normal not to get ur period at night but get it during the day

    Lots of people can notice less fluid is lost whilst sleeping and this is believed to be because the muscles that surround the uterus and help release menstrual fluid relax. It is nothing to worry about.

  • Hey :)
    Okay to get straight to the point, I like a boy and for the first time in my life I feel confident enough to do something about it.
    However my friend (at least I think we're friends, she doesn't seem to like me much) has liked him for a lot longer than I have so I'm unsure on whether I should act out on my feelings. Would it be wrong of me to get to know this boy when she likes him?

    The fact of the matter is that it will ultimately be up to this boy who he decides to date and therefore it really is his choice and I see no reason why you cannot get to know this boy better just as it appears your friend is doing to.

  • Heya,
    3 questions please answer all three

    1) How many inappropriate messages do use hv to dismiss everyday?
    2) can u add 'GloZell' and 'ilikeweylie' to the list, they're YouTubers
    3) what should I get my best friends for Christmas? They're girls and 12 yrs old

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE ANSWER ALL 3
    THX VIKI,
    Melanie xx

    Hi Melanie, for christmas presents why not check out our blog on Secret Santa. I will add these names to our list. Finally, there are very few questions that I do not answer, if necessary I remove the inappropriate section of the question and answer as best I can.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 14 and I feel quite embarrased because I've never had a boyfriend... I kinda like this guy but I also kinda like another guy. But they both think I'm really quiet and shy because I don't speak much. Do you know how I can try and not be so shy around people (especially them) so they don't think I'm so weird?

    Why not read my blog entitled Walk Tall for confidence this should give you some great tips on how to be more confident around others. But please remember too that there is no rush and lots of people now wait unitl their late teens or early twenties before they have a first date.

  • Hi Vicki. I come on this site quite a lot and read things others have posted, I find it quite interesting to see what problems other people have. Well here's mine...I'm sure I am mildly depressed. I have most of the symptoms. I've not done any of these online tests you get, just to let you know. And I am 18. Please can you tell me the best way to try to get rid of depression yourself or without medication? I just don't want anti depressants that's all.

    As I say to others, you cannot self diagnose any medical condtion and you really do have to speak to your GP if you have any concerns and he or she will advise you further, which does not always mean taking medication.

  • Hey Vicki
    I have never had a mother I don't know why because my dad has never told me but anyway I am 12 and really need a bra and so scared I start my period and don't have access to any sanitary protection what should I do PS every time I ask my dad why I don't have a mom he changes the subject thx

    Why not speak to another female family member such as an aunt or grandmother, they will be able to help you out and speak to your dad on your behalf.

  • I like this guy! My friend had a dream about him and she thinks she likes him! Its really annoying because she keeps saying that he winks at her ( he would EVER do that) and ive heard off different people that he likes me. Once he put his head on my shoulder. One of my friends asked him if hed ever go out with me and he said maybe. Weve been out before but that was ages ago so it wasnt proper. Its just were really good friends! Do you think he likes me? What should i do about my friend?

    If this boy likes you he will ask you out when he is ready, as for your friend try not to be too hard on her and when she speaks about him try to gently change the subject.

  • So today I've started my period and me and my mum went shopping for a lot of products for me. however now it's been about 3 hrs since I started and no blood has been seen.im really confused! Please help me! from lily x

    Hi Lily, menstrual blood is released over a period of time and it is nothing to worry about if you do not menstruate for a few hours, there is always tomorrow.

  • Hey, it's "Kawa" again. I asked him, and he didn't answer me, but I think he knows I find it semi-funny, and semi-weird, because he walked away grinning and laughing a bit. He knows I'm alright with it. It's not a case of mispronunciation, because he calls me Kara sometimes when he's not in a really good mood. Any more ideas on why he may call me Kawa?

    Hi Kawa, if you find it amusing and he sees you find it amusing then I see no reason to worry about this or pursue this matter further.

  • I've had my period a few times and I've never got cramps, whereas my two sisters do occasionally. Will I get them eventually?

    Not everyone experiences menstrual cramps, so please don't feel you are missing out by not having them.

  • Hey Vicki

    In May I had little bits of blood in my pants it only lasted about 3 days I thought it was my period .Now I am starting to get worried I have been having discharage before I and after but If it was will my period be comin I had this in May babys because it was so small it could be my period im 14
    Courtneyx

    Hi Courtney, yes I feel this was your period and as with many girls you may find there are several months between this one and your next one. And discharge is often noticed in between your periods and this is very normal.

  • HI vicki is it normal to get more discharge than normal when you are ill? Thanks zozo123

    Discharge can vary from day to day and I am sure it is just a coincidence that your have noticed more discharge whilst unwell.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've been having trouble at school. I'm in Year 8 now and my BFF has started off with another girl who Doesn't like me and I can't stand her. I wan't things to go back to normal and I sometimes just want to lock myself away and cry because they are quite mean to me sometimes. Could you give me some advise? Thanks, love the website by the way! โœจ

    If your friend likes this girl then you have to repsect her wishes and if you can try to get along with both of them so you can be a threesome. It does not mean you have to great friends with this other girl, but rather tolerate her without being unkind or spiteful. If this does not appeal to you, then it may be a good idea to find a new group of friends to hang around with.

  • Hi Vicki
    After my friend's screw up everyone knows who I like. I really like him, but everyone teases me about it and asks me if I'm gonna ask him out and I really hate anyone knowing too much about me, it scares me. I don't know what to do. I get stressed easily and have been self harming to relieve pressure and anger. What do I do? Everyone knows, and if they don't they constantly ask me.

    Why not try sighing and shrugging your shoulders letting them know this is boring and old news. It may just make people realise that it's time to stop the teasing and questionning. What is more concerning is your self-harming and I urge you to speak to an adult about this matter letting  them know how you are feeling and they will offer you the support you need at this time.

  • My mum hasn't talked to me about wearing makeup yet and all my friends wear it. I'm 12 and even if it's just mascara and concealer but I don't want to bring it up. What do I do? Shall I wait or say something?

    Why not add some to your Christmas list and see if you get some in your stocking.

  • Hi Vicki,

    So ever since I've been little, about 5 I've never ever wanted boobs and still to this day ( I'm 12) I still don't want boobs. I absolutely despise them and I feel like crying whenever I notice them because I have started developing. Is this normal? And also I've been masturbating since when I was 5 too (weird I know) and I still do is this normal? Thank you.

    Actually masturbation is natural at any age and whilst you may not like breasts as a female they will start to develop, but there are ways to dress for the look you want and it really is a good idea to learn to love your shape no matter what that may be.

  • My discharge is quite stringy and slimy, and there's quite a lot. Is this normal?? I've had my period twice before, quite regular just not one month after another, with a couple of months in between. I'm just not sure if it's normal to have such thick and stringy discharge. It ranges from white to kind of see through and sometimes I sometimes find like little lumps of it in my underwear.

    Discharge can vary in appearance and texture from day to day and this can also be noticed in between your periods too, so don't worry this is all very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm a girl and I'm 14 and I don't why it's so hard to buy skinny jeans; because if I wear skinny Jeans which is a size 10R it's doesn't fit me properly because the waist or too lose and the legs are so tight. Vicki is there a way I can buy a pair of jeans?

    Thanks

    Why not purchase some skinny jeggins with a little bit or elastic in the material that will fit you much better in all the right places.

  • hi could u add iisuperwomanii to ur list of videos pls
    (she is a youtuber)
    From Ella :)

    Hi Ella, she is already on the list.

  • Hi Vicki :) so since I've moved onto my gcse's my friends and I are all split up and we're not in all classes together. I've become really friendly with this girl who was in my class last year but we've just got really friendly this year. Now one of my best friends from the start of school is starting to take over and trying to steal my new friend :( I've been feeling really down about it today and I just wondered if you could give me any advice?? Thanks :)

    Rather than thinking of this as someone stealing your friend, think of it more as an opportunity for all three of you to be great friends and encourage the three of you to all do things together.

  • So I'm 13 and I still haven't had my period I have discharge regularly and it's became a milky custard colour ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ my friends have all had there periods and I feel like a weirdo when they ask have I had mine ๐Ÿ˜”I don't know what to do please help me ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    A period can arrive at any time between the ages of 8-18 and it should not  be considered a competition between friends as we are all different and so will our periods be.

  • Hi Vicki so I have had a crush on this boy for 6 years now and we have been out before and I seriously like him, but as we have gone into secondary school we've grown apart and whenever I go near him i get butterflies and today we sat on the same lunch bench without realising and I noticed him and instantly had to move as I felt very nearvous, but we've been out before and how do I try to talk to him ๐Ÿ’œ xxx 3120027 (so I know it's mine)

    Well  not moving away when you sit near him is a great place to start, saying Hi and smiling are also good tips, asking him how weekend was or what he's doing  over Christmas are something I would consider also.

  • Hi vicki
    I know this sounds silly but I used to have a crush on this boy but not anymore but now I'm not so sure... So today in geography he was sharpening his pencil and I was daydreaming but I didn't relise I was staring at him so he looked at me and then I looked away and then I looked back and he was still staring at me, we looked at eachother for a second then he looked away. Do you think this meant anything?

    I think this just means you caught each others glances and nothing more at this time.

  • Thanks viki for answering my last question in how to start the conversation with my mum about the Italy trip. However I just can't find te right moment and I'm really scred that my mum will be annoyed. Also I'm worried that it will be a waste of money. ๐Ÿ˜ž

    Hi, if you are this worried then you really do have to go for it and speak out. Yes she may be a little cross but she will be even more so if she pays the full price for something you are having second thoughts about.

  • do men have period

    As it is women who are lucky enough to have been chosen to carry a child it is only females that have periods.

  • I feel like I've grown out of my friends, I barely ever go and see them and that as I just barely ever feel like it. I'm invited out this weekend and I'm going so I'll see what it's like. I am a year older than a few of them so maybe that's something to do with it but I don't go to school anymore so I don't know many other people and my job it's difficult to make friends because people there are always moving kn

    It can be a difficult transition from school to working life and I urge you to continue chatting and meeting old school friends as often as you can but don't feel bad if in time you grow apart this is very natural and as your world evolves so will your friendship groups, you just have to give it time.

  • Hello I'm 13 years old and my boobs are hard I told my mother but she said not to worry one bit cause it's just cause they havnt developed yet but I'm very concerned my boobs are both small well yeah and my nipples are still small I have had my period and puberty and stuff like that but my boobs are just small and there hard and I have small nipples anyway please help me out tell me something ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ thanks ๐Ÿ˜ž

    These little hard lumps you describe are your breast buds and as your mum has said, they are nothing to worry about and the start of breast development for you, which can continue into your late teens and early twenties.

  • HI VICKI!! My names Breanna :) im turning 13 on April 2 and just got my period today!! Im happy but also sad. Im sad because i have no idea what to do. I already told my mum but she didnt give enough info and she is working. Can you please give me guidelines like how to lay down? And what not to do? Can i bike or not?

    Hi Breanna, your period should not stop you carrying on with your day and any activities you take part in. In fact your period should have no impact on your life other than having to wear a sanitary pad or tampon. Why not read all the great stuff on our website under Periods and Puberty and you will find my blogs really useful too.

  • Hey Vicki! I was wondering I have had discharge for about a year now and my mom got her period when she was 12.
    I am now starting to get a lot of discharge and I'm wondering if I am about to start my period?

    Not everyone starts their period at the same time as family members but if you have already noticed discharge then I doubt you will have  much longer to wait, possibly in 2015.

  • My boobs are size 34E is this normal for a 13 year old
    Also I started my period at 8 if this helps
    Many thanks xxx

    The size of your breasts is generally genetic and not dependent on your age, and very often you will find girls have the same sized breasts as women much older than themselves.

  • I am stick thin and cannot put on weight no matter how much I try I cry myself to sleep sometimes about I and when I'm at dance and in a leotard I keep my jumper on even though I'm boiling just cos I'm so thin and the others are normal plus. I just feel ugly and getting down about it. I'm 16 and the skinniest person people even say your legs are so thin etc. should I get fatter when I grow more?

    We all develop at different times to each other and it may be that as you get older you will start to fill out a little more. Remember too that what you eat is important and if you are a gymnast that will include protein, so have a chat to your parents and check if your diet is adequate for your busy schedule.

  • Does using a tampon hurt thanks

    If inserted correctly and high enough inside your vagina, you should not be able to feel a tampon at all.

  • If I use a tampon can I die ?? I understand this sounds stupid but I've heard if you use them parts of the tampon are left and bacteria goes into your body and then you pass out or something along those lines. Thank you

    I think it would be beneficial for you to read our section on Periods and in particular the section on Toxic Shock Syndrome or TSS for short, remembering that a great many women use tampons every day with no ill effects and if the instuctions for health and use are read and understood there should be no danger when using internal sanitary protection.

  • So I started at 8 and am now 14. I have just started my period and I get discomfort when I walk with my tampon in. Whats the matter. Also my boobs are really hurting my back as they are quite large (34E) how can I stop this and I feel every boy only wants me because of my boobs what should I do??? Xx Thanks

    Firstly, if you can feel a tampon when inserted then it is most likely you have not inserted it high enough inside your vagina and next time you should push it in a little farther. For your breasts consider purchasing a wider strapped bra with more support (these are often not underwired). And finally, I cannot lie and say that boys are not interested in breasts; they are curious. However, if a boy truly likes you for who you are the size of your breasts will not make one bit of difference for the feelings he has for you.

  • I've started getting boobs and just wanted to know is it normal to see dots around your nipple I really don't know
    Thanks vicky

    Yes, very normal. These are called your Montgomary glands and form part of your breast.

  • Do you know a way of getting over feelings of a 'crush' as the person I like is sending me mixed feelings as I'm sure he likes my best friend but denies it, and I know there isn't even a slightest chance he'll ever like me back, and I like being just friends but my feelings are getting stronger for him and I don't want to change anything as I know he doesn't feel the same way, but I get super jealous when I see him and my best friend together because I know they probably like each other

    If you already know that this boy is not interested in you romantically, then it would be a good idea to distance yourself from him a little bit by spending time with others. This should help you get over any crushes and avoid too much heartache should he and this girl decide to date in the future. Finally, I appreciate this may be hard for you and so be nice to yourself and try to organise some fun things to do with other friends and family members.

  • Hi vicki, so basically i had a dare. I had to ask out this one lad in my year. He had said he wasnt ready for dating, not that im not his type or anything. For some reason i felt attracted to him with the way he worded it. He said thathe respects my pravicy and wont tell anyone. So my question is, was him saying the firt thing an easy let down, and also why im suddenly attracted to him, mimz

    Hi imagine you are attracted to this boy because he is sensible, mature and considerate. However, he has made his feelings clear on this matter and you will find a great many boys prefer to have girls as friends instead of girlfriends, so for now why not be happy just being a good friend without any pressure. Finally, and most importantly, never be pressured into asking anyone out or doing anything for a dare, this is quite insenstive to the person involved and I am sure you would be hurt if someone asked you out simply for fun.

  • I don't have a normal eating time I feel like I want breakfast@10am,lunch@ 2:30pm and dinner@9pm.I can't stomach eating at any other time and I always have chocolate cravings at breakfast time I also have a snack@4pm. I'm a active person and do dance every night as well as being in all of my school sports teams, I have big appetite but I'm an average size, I want to Change when I'm Hungry. I'm forced to eat at the normal times but it makes me feel bloated and then I get really hungry at the times above

    Why consider eating smaller meals every couple of hours to make your family and you happy. Avoid too many sugary snacks however and instead consider eating fruit or a handful of nuts or even an oat bar.

  • Hey vickie,
    I'm not a popular girl, nobody fancies me, (but not showing off but I'm actually pretty!) , i have a long skirt, I'm really nerdy . People like me, I'm nice and friendly but literally I won't ever get a boufiend. I haven't got an amazing body like my friends, nobody will ever like me!!! I don't get it though, because I'm just as pretty as the popular girls in my year....it's so annoying and sad knowing that nobody o ever going to like me :(( does everyone feel like this !!???!! Xxx

    Lots of girls feel self-conscious about their appearance during puberty so please try not to worry and take comfort that a great many people nowadays wait until their late teens or early twenties for their first romance.

  • I'm thinking about asking my mum to get measured because we are going to a shopping centre where they have an m&s and I would love to be fitted there. My question is: should I only be measured when my breast buds go into real breasts (because there isn't much tissue)? But I would love to be measured because I want to have something that supports me as my buds are really sore and I feel that my trainer bras don't offer much support.

    If you feel you need support then I see no reason why you should not get measured. Remember though that very often you have to pop into the store and book a time slot, and then maybe to back an hour or two later.

  • I have been reading some of the questions and answers and I have some more tips/options to what was given in the answer.One thing was a lot of girls didn't want to wear tampons put still wanted to swim - I recommend using a menstrual cup which just collects the fluid inside of you, you can leave it in for a while too as well as wear it in water. Another thing was a great way to ask your mum about puberty etches to ask in the car as you don't have to make direct eye contact and nobody can walk in/overhear.

    Thanks for the tips.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm on my Period at the moment and it's my second time, during the day I get quite abit of blood/brown stuff (light period I guess) but at night I get like a pea drop. Why is this?
    Please reply!
    Love Emily xx

    Hi Emily, lots of people notice up to 40% less blood loss when sleeping and experts believe this may be caused by the muscles surrounding your uterus being less active when full resting and this is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki!!
    So I used to wear cropp-tops and trainer bras (like cropp-tops but with a clasp) now my breasts have become very sensitive and I knock them or people will accidently knock them and it really hurts! So I've moved on to moulded bras. It isn't about showing off or trying to make my boobs seem bigger it's about comfort. I find that moulded bras help to keep my modesty and protect my breasts from knocks and painfulness. I wear a 28aa even though I have never been fitted Is this ok?

    Yes this is fine; it really is as you say about what makes you comfortable and supported and not what is the most trendiest of bras on the market or what others are wearing around you.

  • Hi vicki, I'm 14. I'm called kirstie. I think I'm bisexual but I'm not sure. I have a crush on my best mate, who's a girl. I don't know what to do! Help!

    Please put this under emotions
    Thanks, kirstie

    Hi Kirstie, there is no rush to identify your sexuality just yet, as a great many teens find they are confused about who they are attracted to. It may therefore be better to wait and see how you feel once your teen years are almost over and your hormones have become more settled.

  • Hi Vicki
    I used a tampon today and since then I haven't really noticed much blood is this normal???

    Well as tampons capture blood from inside the vagina you should not be able to see any blood in your underwear. However, if you feel your flow is very light I would avoid using tampons on these days and instead switch to a pad or liner.

  • I have a light period, but I find tampons a lot more comfortable than pads. But, they really hurt to take out because there isn't enough blood. Do you suggest I stop using them?? (It's Eve by the way) and I'm just too embarrassed.
    Thank you Vicki,
    you're really helpful

    Hi Eve, yes I suggest you use pads or even pant liners for a very light menstrual flow.

  • Hi Vicki,
    it's Eve again. Thank you for answering my last question but isn't there something wrong if I don't even need to use a pad because no blood actually makes it as far as my pants? I have had discharge for about 4 years now so....I don't know. I guess I'm just a bit worried :( I did start my period in January this year, it's now December and the amount of blood had increased, but there is still hardly any. It's a bit embarrassing...

    Hi Eve, some people often have very light periods only noticing blood when they wipe themselves after visiting the toilet and this is nothing to worry about. It may be when your next period arrives it will be a little heavier as your menstrual flow can vary from period to period.

  • Why does my vagina look long? Like it dangles abit?

    As you enter puberty you will notice that your body changes in size; you become taller and curvier for instance and your reproductive organs will also grow in size, it is therefore very normal for your labia to become longer and change in colour and shape, almost as if it has dropped and nothing to worry about. Why not check out my blogs on the Reprodutive System.

  • If you have dry sex does that count as losing you virginity
    cause my boyfriend and I are thinking about it and I just wondeing

    You can only lose your virginity by having sexual intercourse and that is true whether you are male or female. You should remember however that any form of sexual intimacy in the under 16 could be considered unlawful.

  • Hi Vicki,
    In school I like to try and act I have done a lot with boys, but really I havent, I think the time is coming when I'm going to French kiss (toungue) a boy. But I'm so worrie if I fail. How do you successful kiss?

    There is no such thing as a successful kiss. Kissing is the most natural thing in the world and when you have met the right boy you will know how to do it. Why not read my blog entitled First Kiss for more on this subject.

  • Hi vicki i saw my friend looking on snapchat, and she went on a chat with my crush. It showed all their messages. There were tons of hearts and kissy faces. She says she doesnt like him... but she knows i like him. Why is she doing that if she knows i like him. From Niamh ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข

    Hi Niamh, it is really your friend you need to speak to in this instance, only she can let you know why she is having these conversations with your crush. Whether she gives you an honest answer however is another matter and you may have to make your own decision on this matter.

  • Dear vicki, If your discharge is becoming darker and darker shades of yellow is this a potential sign of period coming?
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    Not really, discharge can vary in colour based on your menstrual cycle and there will be days when it is clear in colour and other days when it is cream or yellow.  All of which is very normal.

  • Hi ,viky
    Yersterday I had a red dot and also
    The next day I had discharge what dies that mean?? HELP!!!

    This could have been your period or alternatively it may have been caused by your hymen stretching. I would not worry too much and in future ensure you have some pads  and liners with you when out and about in preparation for your next period.

  • Wait, so why is it inappropriate and illegal for any boy or man to have sexual intercourse with a girl under 16 but not for a girl or woman to have sexual intercourse with a boy under 16?

    It is unlawful for anyone over the age of 16 to have sexual relations with anyone under the age of 16 regardless of their gender.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm really worried because I have started pooing a lot more like I used to poo maybe once a day but now it's around three times a day usually after every meal why is this?????
    I'm really sorry if this is innaproriate
    Please help

    You may have a little virus that will pass in a few days. Alternatively you may be eating  a diet rich in fibre and exercising more which is nothing to be worried about; some people do visit the toilet more than once a day to release waste food.

  • I got my period every 5 weeks (i've got it twice now)but its been 7 weeks now and I haven't got it

    Periods can be irregular for the first few years with gaps of a few months often being noticed, it's nothing to worry about and simply your body's way of working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicky , how can you lose weight as a 14 year old, I do dance for three hours every Saturday but I seem to be putting on instead of losing thanks xxxxx

    As a teenager your body will be changing dramtically over the coming years and a change to your shape and weight will be noticed and more womanly figure achieved. This is very normal and if you eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly then there is no need for you to worry about losing weight, it is more about accepting this is your new shape.

  • My English teacher really confuses me... He has a nickname for me. My name is Kara, and he insists on calling me Kawa. He has no speech impediments and is certainly capable of pronouncing my name, because he didn't start calling me Kawa until late September, when he'd known me for around 3 weeks. Why do you think he calls me Kawa?
    (there's someone else called Cara in my school, and he calls her Cara?)

    Why not ask him why he has chosen to pronounce your name this way, it could be a mistake on his part thinking this is how you prefer it to be spoken.

  • Hi Vicki so today this boy (not naming) he's in my pe class and we like became really good friends and we was doing trampolining but whenever I looked up he was smiling at me and he just kept trying to talk to me,I'm not the sort of girl who people would like...but does he like me?

    I would say yes this boy likes you, so if you like him smile and see what happens in the future.

  • i dont know if ive got my period yet but it looks like it! its pink


    help

    This could be your period so why not have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask their advice.

  • I am 13 and about one month ago I got brown distarge for 2 days and at about the same time this month I got it again I felt no pain is the a sighn of my first period?

    This IS your first period as very often menstrual fluid is brown and not red in colour. Why not check out my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicki I have gained alot of weight lately and I am thirteen I think I am pregnant because I have had sex about four times no. but this time its serious because I think I am pregnant Ps people have commented on my weight especial my form tutor she Evan had a word with me please help xx thank you

    If you have had unprotected sex then yes of course you may be pregnant and my advice would be to take a pregnancy test, either by visiting your doctor or local Brook clinic, or by purchasing an over the counter kit and doing the test for yourself. You will then be better informed and able to move on.

  • Hi,
    I can't eat in the mornings.I don't have breakfast no matter how hard mum protests I know this is bad.When I do eat breakfast (I rarely do)it's not because I want it it's because mum gets stressed and makes me feel bad, But I don't want to get her stressed and at the same time I don't want to force feed myself.I feel fat, everyone tells me I'm not but I can't see what they're saying. I am 13 and I weigh 5.9 Stones.Would you say I am overweight?

    Thanks Xx

    I would say it's time to stop worrying about what the scales and others are saying and focusing on being healthy. If you find breakfast too much first thing in the morning then why not take an oat bar to eat on the way to school with a juice drink as a compromise.

  • hi Vicki I have just turned 13 last month and at school I am finding out that loads of my friends have started their periods and there's only like 4 girls that havnt ( including me) I was just wondering my mum started when she was 12 and I just really want to know if my period will come soon? is there any signs I should look out for??? please help

    Breast development, pubic and under arm hair and discharge can often be noticed a year or two before your period, but as with many girls you should not worry as periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • hi vicki,
    last year i had the cervical cancer jabs (in year 8) will i need anymore?

    The HPV vaccine is given in either 2 or 3 doses.

  • Hi Vicki, me and my boyfriend have been going out for nearly a month. We were both good friends before he asked me out,but I don't have any feelings for him except for being friends. He's really nice and kind, and I only want to stay friends and not let anything go any further. Do I tell him before Christmas or after?

    I would let him know of your true feelings as soon as possible to avoid any bad feeling.

  • Thanks for answering my last question on homesickness. However I don't know how to start the conversation with my mum about not wanting to go on that Italy trip . Do u have any advice ๐Ÿ˜ฐ

    Why not start by simply saying "would it be a problem if I told you I have been thinking about Italy and have changed my mind". This should be enough to start the conversation off.

  • Hi vicki I know this is quite an odd question but do you know how I could give my hair more volume? Because it's so flat and boring...

    If your hair is long then you may find adding in a few layers will add volume. Alternatively you may find dry shampoo or volumising hair styling products can be great at the roots when drying your hair.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm experiencing pubic hair on my bottom as well, is that normal?
    Thanks

    Pubic hair can start at the front of your body; your pubic bone and then will make its way round to your anal opening and this is very normal.

  • heya Vicki
    I'm 14 and use the sure roll on deoderants because i used the sprays and at first they did work for a little while but then the stopped and i switched to roll on, and what i find is that after a while every deoderant i try stops after a few months. is it my hormones making me sweat more? as it's really horrible when i sweat even though i use dedoerant! should i just keep changing deoderants when they stop working as i've read that our bodies do adapt over time to deoderants. Thanks xxx

    Bodies can adapt over time, so it pays to swith fragrances rather than brands to keep you feeling fresh and clean.

  • Hi Vicki kendall AGAIN!
    Sorry I keep up on the subject but about the lump in my right breast. It's not DIRECTLY under my nipple, but some of it is it's not around the rest of it and it only goes about 2cm away from my nipple ( under the skin)
    So is this just a Breast bud because it isn't on the side or anything and most of it is under my nipple. I really have a fear of the doctors so I feel like that isn't an option and talking to my mum is a last case scenario. Thanks x

    Kendall, I am sure that this is nothing to worry about, but like anything if you are worried you MUST speak to your mum or even write her a note letting her know of your concerns.

  • Hi vicki, it's Rachel
    Could you tell me my bra size please?
    Under-68cm
    Biggest part-86cm

    Thankyou

    32B is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering if you could tell me more about what brown discharge is.

    Brown discharge can be one of two things; your period as menstruall fluid is often brown and not red in colour, or waste food (poo) not wiped away thoroughly after visiting the toilet the later will be quite smelly.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I reicived a sample pack from you ,Just wondering why some girls got massive packages full of products all full sized boxes (They all say they are samples on youtube unboxing videos of lil-lets)they're sample packs had a whole boxes of tampons,towels,liners and wipes.Which is different to the one I reicived,I'm not being ungrateful or anything I am just wondering.

    Thank you for the samples.:)

    The offer of full size packs was given out to 5 You Tubers in 2013 and to ensure more girls can receive our great samples we now only send out the sample pack you have received.

  • hi Vicki its nova ,
    i had to take a day off school because i had lower back pain,a migraine and cramps i have not started my period but I've had discharge for a bout a year now (i,m 11) could these be signs my periods coming? thanks

    With discharge already experienced I doubt you will have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period, in future though consider going for a walk if you notice discomfort as this is a great way to ease any discomfort.

  • Hi Vicky, I've started a new school.Anyways,I've made a friend and she is the nicest person ever! she is just like my best friend.Well,apparently no-one likes her coz she got bullied before.one of the girl who i thought was nice,bullied her.I don't know what 2 do because people keep asking me why I'm friends with her&I just say that she is really nice.And people are talking about me.I fear that everyone will hate me just becuase I'm friends with her but I don't want to make her feel upset. What shall I do?

    You can only judge people by your own experiences and if you and this girl get along, then I would not worry what others think and instead do your best to be friendly with everyone rather than just one person.

  • Hi Vicki , this morning when I wiped there was some light red blood , but nothing for the rest of the day . Could this be my first period ?! (Btw I always have cramps and have had discharge for about 5 months) xxx Olivia

    Hi Olivia, this could be your period and you may notice a little more fluid lost over the next few days. If not then keep some pads and liners with you from now on in preparation for your next one.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I wanted to know if you get a lot of discharge will your period be heavy? Also, I have a lot of discharge and have done for a really long time, easily 6-10 ish months. I just wondered if that means my period will start soon, as I don't know and have been waiting for a while. Thanks! โค๏ธ

    The amount of discharge you experience will have no impact on the amount of menstrual flow you have and with discharge noticed for this length of time I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hi Vicki, do normal people masturbate? Like do most people do it?

    Masturbation is both natural and instinctive for some people and many people take part in this activity, with just as many people feeling no need to do so.

  • Hi Vicki,

    Does brown discharge mean that your period is near or not?

    Brown fluid in your underwear is generally your period as menstrual fluid can often be brown and not red in colour.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am worried and a bit embaressed because I have a crush on a boy that is in y5 , but I'm in y6. People will think I am stupid if I ask him out!!! I don't like him for his looks he is so kind and generous!!!! Please help me!!

    I would not worry about what others think, if you like this boy then why not be friends and consider dating when you know each other better.

  • I find it so difficult to be healthy. It sounds terrible but I hate most fruit and vegetables. Like if I try to eat them I end up gagging. How do I be healthy?

    Why not try some fruit or vegetable smoothies, a great way to get your five a day.

  • Hiya!
    I'm 15 years old and I can't use a tampon. I can't even insert 1 finger into. Vagina without pushing really hard that it hurts. What's wrong with me? Why is it so closed??

    It may be that your hymen has not yet stretched which is quite common, and you may find that relaxing and inserting a clean finger inside your vagina will help when not menstruating and may make tampon insertion easier when your period does arrive.

  • Hi Vicki, I really like this boy and others think he likes me too. I always catch him looking at me and then he quickly turns away, I notice other things too... Do you think he likes me?

    I would say so. If you like him then next time he looks over smile so he understands you feel the same way too!

  • How do I make a complaint? Darcy m

    Hi Darcy, please click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and your query will be answered.

  • Help! Its my first time using a tampon and it won't go in all the way it hurts do I push it in or? Please help xxxx

    Tampons just like anything new can take a little bit of practice so if you can't get the tampon in this month, try when your next period is here and relax, inserting in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine for maximum comfort.

  • part 2. I texted him telling him sorry if I annoyed him and he said 'that;s the last time you do this. It's not a game !!'. i really like him and i feel my heart beat whenever I see him but he kinda not noticing me. help?

    I am not surprised that this boy is unhappy with your conduct, especially as it was a dare. My advice would be to avoid him for a few days until he has had time to calm down and in future ignore any silly dares from friends.

  • I think I've started my period but I'm not sure. It's REALLY light and I don't even need to use a pad. There is blood but hardly any and I get pains but I'm still doubtful. Too embarrassed to talk about it so I've asked you. hope you can help,
    Eve

    Hi Eve, sometimes first periods can be very light, but it is still your period and you may want to keep some pads and liners with you from now on in preparation for your next period.

  • part 1. I like this boy in my class and we're kind of frieds like we talk everyday just a little bit. I'm a curvy girl, probably not his type but, he is nice and everything. I THINK he likes the 2 popular girls in class, he always hangs out with them and always look at them. I told my close friend about him and then yesterday she dared me to kiss him on the cheek 2 times and i did. She dared me today to to hug him, i did and I'm happy about it but he looks annoyed and didn't hug back at all

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi, so my time of the month started today. ( It wasn't my first one, it was my fourth.) and I also got a nose bleed today. Could it have anything to do with my period? Or is it just coincidence? Thanks Vicki, you've helped me a lot!

    This is just a  coincidence and not linked to your period.

  • Hi Vicki I had a pregnancy test the other day and it said positive I am almost sixteen in fact four days to be exact I had sex about a month ago and I know it irregular but I have missed some periods (I started when i was thirteen) and the worst bit is I have gained aaallllooooottt of weight thank you B I think I am pregnant which I want to be but what do I do xx

    If you have had unprotected sexual intercourse then you must take a pregnancy test. You can do this by visiting your doctor or family planning clinic who will run the test for you, or by purchasing an over the counter test from your local chemist and supermarket. Once you have the results you can then chat to your parents and decide how to move forward.

  • Hey Vicki,
    On the 25th of November I started my period and with in about 5 days it was ever. Today I saw browny with a bit or reddy discharge in my pants again. I've been of for less than 2 weeks. Is this my period?
    Please reply!
    Love lolly xx
    163727)-so I know it mine

    Hi Lolly, yes this could be your period and you may find for the first few years there can be both long and short gaps between each cycle so please try not to worry.

  • Do you have any tips on how to revise? I'm in year 10 and have got a couple of mocks coming up..Every time I revise I seem to get distracted by anything and everything! Any tips?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, why not read my blog entitled Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress, I think you will find it very useful.

  • Hi Vicki,

    Thanks for answering my previous question! I don't know what GP stands for though?


    xxx Ashley

    Hi Ashley, GP stands for General Practitioner or doctor.

  • I am going out with my friends for a meal for Christmas at the weekend and we were all invited throug a Facebook event, which was private by the way so only those invited can reply. But the thing is there is one friend who I don't think gives presents anymore and I dont think she is coming but am not sure and so I didnt get her anything. Im worried she turns up and it's awkward because I havent got her anything..

    Christmas is more than sharing presents or only buying presents for people who purchase presents for you. If this girl does attend I am sure she will  not mind if you do not have a gift for her, your company will be more than enough.

  • HI Vicki! i understand that this might have nothing to o with any topic but it stressing me out and i would really be grateful if you answered! so my mum has just become a teacher, and i know this boy which is in her class and he keeps telling me that he is gonna say some stupid lie about me to my mum but like something inappropriate but my mum would take is so seriously! i ask him not to but he really won't listen and I'm really worried please help!!!!

    I would share this news with your mum as this boy is blackmailing and bullying you and he needs to stop. I am sure your mum is sensible enough to know when someone is being malicious and lying which of course this boy is.

  • What do period pains/cramps feel like? yesterrday i felt like i had a knot in my stomach and i told my mum this and she said it might be a sign that my period will start, is she correct?

    Your mum may be correct, you may also notice these little cramps as your body matures and your reproductive organs mature.

  • Hiiii
    Ive been getting pain above my hips and pain under my tummy well my period is due after two days , its my first time to get cramps in these places do u think these are period pains in addition if i went to the toilet and urined sometimes me hips hurts do u think this relates to period??
    Thanky for ur time lovely viki !!
    Stafii

    Hi Stafii, these are most likely growing pains caused by your reproductive organs maturing and these pains are often felt during your teenge years regardless of whether your period is due or not.

  • Hi Vicki I'm called Leela I'm very pleased to meet you my friend got raped two days ago its awful that she got raped full stop but its so close to Christmas and I want her to get her bubbly personality anyway how do I help her get over this her name is P thank you xxxx -Leela

    Hi Leela, this is not something you can help your friend with and you MUST urge her to speak to an adult about this mattter and if you feel she may be in any danger then you may need to speak to your parents or teacher about what your friend has told you and they will manage this truly awful situation and help her get through this most difficult of times.

  • Hello Vicki

    My name is Kwanita and the guy i think i have a crush on is D
    There was a certain time on whatsapp that he was so sweet to me i thought he maybe even liked me,but yesterday(10 december) he was all lovey dovey with one of my besties T and i felt so replaced but whenever i say goodnight to him on whatsapp he'll always say goodnight luv ya.
    But T likes D too what should i do we are all going to the same HighSchool

    Hi Kwanita, why not keep your conversations to this boy to a minimum and wait for him to contact you first, if he is interested in your romantically he will be sure to do so. If not then you will understand that he was not the boy for you.

  • Band: 71
    Bust:81
    What bra size am I?

    32AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Hi,
    A few days ago i got brown discharge. .. (colour of my poop) is this a period? Besides it had NO smell...where is the usual place where a discharge appears. ..I usually get white discharge in the middle of my panties...but doesn't it appear in the front...plus plus answer ASAP (alter question if needed) I have been releasing discharge for 2 years now...I am 13...

    This does sound very much like your first period, especially if it is noticed for longer than a day.

  • Sometimes I get dry white stuffs iny pants but I'm not sure if it is definitely discharge. And I do t know how to ask me mum what it is I'm worried about asking her. Thanks

    This does sound very much like discharge, which often dries white in colour in your underwear.

  • My discharge is usually normal but one day this week it was really thick like cream cheese and there was more than usual. It's never been like this before and I'm not even due my period soon. Is this normal?

    Discharge does vary in both colour and texture from day to day and this is based around hormonal levels in your body and generally nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki!
    It JJ again, i was wondering, how can i make a long distance realashionship work? I want to know scince i really like this guy but he lives really far away, like cross country. what do i do? Help!

    Why not settle for being good friends for now and see how things go.

  • Hi Vicki
    My name is JJ and i was wondering, i have this guy who i think is my boyfriend but i dont know, how do i ask without being to direct?

    If this boy has asked you out then he is your boyfriend, if he has not then there is no agreement between you, it really is that simple.

  • Hi Vicki! So I've been wondering lately... Is it normal to be jealous when another girl talks to the guy you like? I don't know, we're not even dating... Is it okay to feel this way?

    Jealousy is unfortunately a natural emotion, but you can try to avoid it by taking the time to chat to this boy and feeling more comfortable in his company. It may be difficult to hear but there is always the chance that this boy likes this girl and if this is the case I hope you will be happy for them.

  • Hi, I broke up with s 2 weeks ago because i kept getting picked on for going out with s but I realize I still love him. I want to talk to him but I can barely look at him. He has lunch the same place I do.What should I do?๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’˜

    It would not do for us all to date or like the same people and it's a shame that friends bullied you about your dating. If you still like him, next time you see him have a chat or smile so he understands you still like him and who knows maybe in time he will ask you out again or maybe you can ask him if he wants to hang out at the weekend sometime.

  • i started my period on the 4th of august this year (14 years old)
    it wasnt a proper one only light discharge which was brown, i then came off then back on again on the 30th august until the 8th september this time i had a proper period and to me i was quite heavy, the problem is i havent came on since, i think i am about to as i have brown discharge again but i had that in october as well and didnt come on, is this normal? , i am 15 now and quite worried.444

    This is very normal and gaps of several months in between each period are very common for the first few years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki so I've had discharge for more than a year now, and I have boobs,spots and everything else in that matter but it don't know if I get cramps because sometimes I get pains just by my hips and it's painful to move?!? โค๏ธ Xxxxx๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’œ

    Growing pains can often be experienced in the groin, lower back and tummy and even at the top of your legs. This is generally caused by the reproductive organs maturing and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki! Im 13 and Ive had discharge for about 2 years now, but I haven't started my period yet. Lately my discharge has been heavier than usual- does this mean I will have my first period soon? Also, I have been really emotional and getting cramps, but nothing's happened. Does this mean anything?
    Thanks!
    Charlie x

    Hi Charlie, discharge can vary in colour from time to time and can often be noticed for longer than a year, so my advice is to wait and let your body work out when the right time is for you. For your part, it may be a good idea to be prepared and have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • I have BPD and my friend always finds it really annoying, because I cannot control my emotions properly. She gets really irritated when I (for example) self harm, and then tell her later on that I'm completely fine. How can we help each other to cope?

    Willow

    Hi Willow, if you are self-harming you need to speak to someone other than your friend who I am sure is finding this news hard to cope with. So please let an adult know about this matter, either a teacher or parent who will be able to get you the help and support you need.

  • I'm scared about puberty because I don't have a female in the house my mum died a couple of years ago and I don't think I will be able to cope what shall I do

    My advice is to read all the great articles and blogs on our website, designed for girls entering puberty and of course you can  visit me and ask any questions you may have on the Ask Vicki section of the site.

  • What does lil lets mean and what does the logo mean? Please put this in something else.
    Trixibelle

    The name Lil-Lets comes from the brand name Lilia White a product that was introduced some years ago. The logo means Goddess, Earth and Moon.

  • How long can I wear a non applicator regular flow (not teens) tampon before it leaks. I have a light to normal flow? Xxx tt

    Any tampon can be worn for between 4-8 hours and if your flow is light to normal on some days you may be able to wear it for the maximum recommended time. It really is about learning how your body works and how much fluid you lose on any one day.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have all the signs of my period so I know its coming soon but I am a bit nervous about telling my mum when I finally get it do you have any tips on telling your mum .
    Thanks xxx

    Lots of girls write their mums a note and leave it somewhere only she will find it such as a make-up bag or underwear drawer. Others drop mum a text, or you could use our e-card and send your mum and e-mail and we will do the asking for you.

  • hi viki im may and im scared of tampons should i use them or not

    Many millions of women use tampons every day and enjoy the freedom they bring. But if you do not want to use tampons then don't worry lots of people prefer to use pads throughout their menstrual life.

  • I turned 12 in November and I've been having discharge for about 1 yr and 1/2 I'm scared my period will start when I'm not expecting it but when I've asked you before you've just said that my period is not to far away ๐Ÿ˜ง thNk you casey-grace

    Hi Casey-Grace, I am afraid I cannot give you an exact date...no one can. You really do have to be patient and prepared by having some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • merry Christmas viki xxx :):):):):):)โ™กโ™กโ™ก

    Thank you and a Merry Christmas to you too...and I hope you are enjoying our blogs for the Festive period.

  • hi Vicki
    I have started puberty and periods and boobs and all that. but I am really broody and want a baby is this normal

    It is farily normal for girls to feel a little broody especially as hormone levels fluctuate during puberty, but this passes in time and I am sure as you get older you will know if the time is ready to start a family.

  • hey viki there are 3 cute boys but I cant choose who I should ask out =)

    My advice would be to refrain from asking any of them out and instead get to know them all better, because whilst they may be cute, it's also important to know them as a person too.

  • Hi Viki! You probably don't get many questions like this but.... I think I'm bisexual. I don't know if you have experience in this but I think I just need someone to talk to and some advice. There are signs but how do I KNOW. I'm not sure if I should tell my mum or not because she might just think I'm being rediculous. Please please help!

    During puberty it is not unusual to have mixed feelings of a sexual nature and a great many teenagers question their sexuality. My advice is to wait until you are older and puberty has ended, by then you will almost certainly now for sure whom you are attratcted to romantically.

  • Hi vicki. A few months ago i talked to one of my best guy friends brother, who is 15 and I'm 13. We then gradually stopped talking after a couple of months and I forgot about it, now all of a sudden my best friend is talking to him and they flirt and Skype all the time and I can't help but feel very jealous and it makes me feel guilty :( but earlier on she hung up on Skype on me pretending to do maths but she was actually hanging up to talk to him:(

    If your friend now likes this boy then there really is nothing you can do about this situation, other than to be happy for them both. On the otherhand if you know for sure she lied to you then I see no reason why you cannot let her know how hurt you were by here lies and that it is ok by you if she wants to spend time chatting to this boy.

  • Heya Vicki,
    I'm 15 and i was talking to this boy who is 18 years old at this Pantomime group i do and my sister has now said that i'm not allowed to talk to this boy but it's not normally a problem when i talk to other people who are 18 there or older and i only see them as friends what can i do to make her see that she's 22
    thanks
    Pinocchiogirl

    Hi, why not ask your sister what the issue is. It may be that she feels this boy's  behaviour is inappropriate, either way you have a right to know why she feels so strongly about this.

  • Hi Vicki , Kotrina again. Thank you for answering my last question.So I have a lot of discharge Ive had it for about a year and sometimes its a pale yellow and then it changes to light brown . What does this mean? and I had my period but It was 3 months ago and I didn't have it since.
    And I love this website it is amazing.

    Sorry if innapropriate

    Hi Korina, it is almost certain that this light brown fluid you are noticing from time to time is your period as menstrual  fluid can often be brown in colour and for more on menstrual fluid check out my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid?

  • Hi Vicki
    I like this guy,he knows and I asked him out a while ago but he said no.recently I find him looking at me.some times if I caught him he looks away sometimes he just still looks and I pretend not to see.but today I caught him looking and I pretended not to see but I couldn't help quick glances.then I looked away and talked to a friend but I could see he was still looking at me.it's a bit odd but don't know if he likes me or not
    Thanks

    He may like you but may not yet be ready to date anyone, so next time you see him looking, smile, you never know this may be all the encouragement he needs to smile and chat back.

  • fffff
    when older people have relationships, like people in their 20s, is there any way to guess how long it will last or if they will get married and for people of that age, how long does it take for a relationship to be 'serious'?

    It really does depend on the couple in question and there is no perfect formula for a successful relationship.

  • Hi Vicki
    So I've had discharge for about 1 year now and around 2-3 weeks ago I had brown discharge for around 3 days and it's stopped. Sometimes I see a very little brown stain in my underwear. I'm probably going to start my period but IS IT POSSIBLE for me to start in a few years time. I'm 12. I know we are all different but do you think it's possible or how likely do you think it is for me to start in a few years. I don't want to ask my mum. Thanks.

    If you have noticed brown fluid for 3 days then this is almost certainly your period and lots of girls find this arrives at your age, so from now on please keep some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki I have missed the past five periods and I have gained alot of weight in the past two months plus I have being having morning sickness do u have any idea I am really worried plus I am 15 Thankyou Lauren x

    Hi Lauren, if you have been sexually active then you may be pregnant. However, if you are still a virgin and are new to periods then long gaps between each one is very normal as is a little weight gain as you enter puberty.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've had discharge for a long long time now and I was wondering how faraway my period is? I haven't started yet! I'm also quite scared that I'll faint or feel ill by the blood :( Also, please tell me is it as bad as people say because when people talk about it, they say it's soooo painful and horrible etc.

    Thanks Vicki xx

    Hi, let me reassure you that most people never experience any discomfort when on their periods and for most they carry on with their day as usual. Why not read all the great things on our website about periods and puberty and you will see there really is nothing to be worried about as long as you are prepared.

  • my mum says i must wear a pad with a tampon but i do not like pads. do i have to wear a pad?
    thank you :)

    Not if you wear the right absorbency for your flow no;  a tampon will be more than adequate.

  • Hello I am Ella I think I am pregnant

    Hi Ella, if you believe you may be pregnant then you should either visit your doctor or local family planning centre who will run a pregnancy test for you. Or alternatively you can purchase a pregnancy testing kit from your local supermarket or chemist and run the test yourself.

  • When I get my period, I use pads and I always leak no matter where I put them and I find tampons really uncomfortable to wear and insert and I can't put them in at school becuase I have to use a mirror and it takes me a while, I pretend to be I'll some days I'm on my period becuase I don't wanna go to school on it and I keep bleeding all down my leg at night and got it down the toilet seat at home and my brother saw๐Ÿ˜ญ

    Hi, it would appear that you need a more absorbent pad and I would advise you to ask your mum to purchase some Lil-Lets Freshlock normal and long pads that will keep you feeling protected from leaks no matter what time of day. As for tampons as you get older and use them more you will find that you can insert a tampon without using a mirror and remember too that you have to insert a tampon high inside the vagina for it to feel comfortable.

  • Hello :) This guy at school keeps saying I love him and all that jazz and I don't like him so i tell him that. He keeps hugging me at school and I push him away. He doesn't stop but now I fear that I might actually like him. I'm 14 and still haven't liked anyone! I am too scared to be in a relationship though! I am scared to be heartbroken and am worried if we break up and if it is awkward around school. I don't want to ruin our friendship!

    It would seem silly to worry about breaking up before you have even started dating and as you still seem unclear about your feelings, my advice would be to continue getting to know this boy, but let him know that his hugging is inappropriate and when you say no you mean no, otherwise he will feel taking advantage of  you in any way is acceptable, which of course it is not.

  • Hi Vicki, Zoey here, IM only after stating my period last night. I'm 12 years old , and Anyway I told mam about this and she explained to me and told me to start wearing pads. I find it difficult while I'm in school, ts only my first fall day today with my period, and in school its so hard to put on. A new pad because I have to sneak it so the boys won't see or anything, and its SO heavy. !! Its sore at times and in school I always get worried and scared about the blood, . Will I be Ok?

    Hi Zoey, it can take a while to get used to our menstrual cycle and you may find wearing our Lil-Lets teens pads a more suitable choice as they are shorter and narrower than other brands and will keep you secure until lunch time when you will be able to visit the toilet in privacy.

  • &&&&&&&&&
    How can i stop worrying?

    During puberty and as we become young adults we find ourselves considering things of an adult nature that can leave us anxious and worried. Why not write down all the things that are worrying you and then sit with your parents and share this list with them. I can assure you that they will be able to alleviate any concerns you may have and make you feel so much better.

  • My friend got her period and I didn't get mine yet and is it weird dat I made up dat I had my period ?

    Lots of girls feel left out when friends start menstruating and pretend  their period has already arrived. You now have a choice you can continue to pretend or you can let your friend know that you made a mistake, which often happens during puberty.

  • Do you know any other ways I can boost my confidence apart from clubs? Cause I go to dance, gymnastics and I used to go to trampolining. They don't really work though. At school everyone asks me why I don't speak but even I don't know. I don't have much friends at school either.

    Why not read my blogs on Walk Tall for Confidence and Alexandra Burke Talks Self Confidence form more advice on this matter.

  • Hi Viki
    I would like to ask you what size my bra should b but i dont know how to measure could use plz help me?
    Thx u
    Unicorns and potato girl xxx

    Take a tape measure and place this under your bust and around your body, then do the same around the widest part of your bust, these two measurements are your bra size. You can find out more about this by visiting our bra guide or reading my blogs and bras.

  • Hi viki,
    I'm really worried at the moment.My mum has booked me a school trip to Italy for 5 days but I get really homesick. I really don't want to go and can't stop thinking about it and dreading it , even though it is next July. My mum has paid a deposit and first payment and still has 5 payments to go. Is it too late to tell her I don't want to go . Will she be annoyed as we might not get the deposit back . Also how to I get the courage to speake to her about this . Thanks ๐Ÿ˜ฐ

    It is not unusual for children to change their minds about trips and I am sure your mum will be grateful that you have been so honest and informed her of your change of heart and don't worry  my son was very similar to you but in his early twenties he travelled the world...it appeared he just wasn't ready when he was younger...just like you!

  • Hi Vicki this is a question to do with friends.
    First of all there is a new girl in my school and I was chosen to look after her since we have the exact same timetable. I showed her to my friends and then they start treating her like a queen and everything but the real problem is that the past few days they stole her of me and whenever she is coming over to me they take her the other direction do you have any advice?

    Your teacher obviously knew you would take good care of this new student and by introducing her to your friends you have certainly done that. Yes your friends are bound to treat her as someone special, because she is new, but rather than wanting to keep her to yourself, be happy she is part of a large group of friends and join in, that way you can all be good friends together.

  • How do u know when it has stop and why does it not come every 28 days sometimes mine is 2mothes of just 18 days

    During the first few years it is quite common for periods to be irregular with gaps of several months between each one being very common, as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you. Once your period has become regular you will find it can be anything from 21-34 days and not always 28 days.

  • Hi Vicki kendall. In my last question you said I should go to the doctor ( about the lump in my right breast) but me and my mum have never had a close relationship, I had to pretend I didn't know what a period was because I was to afraid to tell her. I'm so scared I'm crying I don't know how to tell her to take me to the doctors any ideas please?
    Ps. I know my mum was a teen Once but I'm really not comfortable talking about that. Thanks

    Hi Kendall, if this lump sits under the skin and behind the nipple it is almost certainly your breast bud and nothing to worry about, however if the lump is painful and somwhere else it may be something else and you must speak to your mum and yes I appreciate it may be a little bit embarrassing, but this conversation does need to happen. So simply let her know you are wondering if your breasts are ok as there is a little lump.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Is it normal for discharge to have small lumps in it ?
    Thanks Allyxxxx

    Hi Ally, yes sometimes, especially when it dries. But if it looks like cottage cheese and you are noticing some irritation you may have a slight infection and  should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • There's a guy on my bus that I really like, I've never really spoken to him and he's one of my best friend's friends. He's always with his friends so I cant really go and sit next to him. I think we like the same music and I really want to get to know him please help!

    You'll be surprised how far a smile can go, so next time you pass give him a quick smile to break the ice.

  • Dear Vicki,

    I don't get what makes your period heavy or light, like why?? why do you get a heavy one one month and then a light one the next??
    what changes the flow each month?
    Rosa

    Hi Rosa, this is all linked to hormones and even genetics; what you should understand is, that whether you have a light or heavy flow it is all very normal.

  • Hey Vicki,
    thanks for answering my question about the logo of lil-letts, woah i didn't know that the logo had a proper meaning behind it! We take it for granted!

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, you never know unless you ask :-)

  • Hi Vicki
    My left boob hurts on the left hand side nearer my arm pit and feels like there is a lump I am 14 and is it just because of my age ???

    It is normal to notice discomfort with breast development but ask your mum or guardian to what they think.

  • I have had normal discharge for two years, but for the past to days it has turned to a very light muddy brown colour and has had pieces of stuff in it. I don't think this is my period as it has absolutely no hint of red at all. Thanks, TT

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Dear Vicki

    I started my period!! and I have had 2 previously and i got blood on monday and tuesday (very light) and then in wednesday i have a tiny bit but pretty much no blood, i masturbated in sunday, could this light blood be my hynmen?? also my first period was regular heaviness but the next one was really light??
    Love
    Rosa

    Hi Rosa, the amount of blood lost can vary from month to month and masturbation will have no impact on the amount of blood released, so please try not to worry.

  • I am 13 and have no boobs, just breast buds but I am so insecure about it everyone else has A or bigger when will I grow๐Ÿ˜” It's so embarrassing in pe๐Ÿ’ญ

    Of  course you will continue to develop breasts, in fact they grow into your late teens and even early twenties so please try not to worry and learn to love your shape no matter what that is.

  • Hi Vicki
    So I sit next to this boy in form who i guess I kinda like and he pushes me around a bit as a joke and it doesn't bother me but apparently my friend told me that this is a sign that he likes me but we have been like this for around a year so I guess he doesn't? I'm really confused .
    Thank you Vicki xxxx
    Zalfielover14
    Age 14

    He may like you as boys often joke to show affection, why not continue chatting and see how things go in the future. If he does like you he will let you know in time and when he feels ready.

  • how do you insert a tampon

    All it takes is a little practice and we do recommend that you first try using a tampon on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make it easier to insert.  Try to be as relaxed as possible before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi vicki
    I discharge every day but my friend doesn't...she only discharges now and then
    But I discharge alllllloooottttt most of the times..
    What I wanna ask uu is this normal And is it possible for me to start my periods earlier than her?
    Btw I started discharging on 15th of March
    Thnx vicki for ur help
    Yours truly: #1 fan...Lulu:*

    Hi Lulu, it is perfectly normal to notice gaps in between releasing discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so please try not to worry.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months but remember that we all develop at different rates to each other so it doesn't really matter who starts their period first.

  • Whats my bra size 77 under bust 80 bust

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • My friend doesn't like the way she looks she told me she created a page on an app but put a pretty girl as the photo is this Evan allowed?

    Puberty is a time when teens can develop a poor self-image due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring and if your friend has chosen to use another girl's photograph, then it's a shame but it is ultimately her choice.

  • Hi, im 14 years old and I've always been slim but im almost 15 and I only weigh about 5 and half stones which really upsets me cos no one in my school is like that and I eat alot aswell but I just cant seem to put on weight

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.  He/she might be able to refer you to a nutritionist who will be able to advise you on what kinds of foods you should eat to help you gain weight.

  • Hi VIcki this is JOJO i am only letting you know....!!!!!! That thanks for everything but i have a concern about my body and i dont know how to control it... I have severe rashes on my skin and im not really sure what they are.. i have no shown my body or my neck at school because i am embarrssed that someone is gonna make fun of me..WHat should i do??/

    Please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • So I heard that u get your period two years after your boobs start to grow and that discharge will become regualr when younare going to get yours and I've had both of these and I'm 14 and still haven't had my period I don't know if that's normal

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hiya,I haven't got my period yet but I do have discharge. I'm quite worried coz mostly all my mates have period and I don't. Will my discharge turn into a period or are they two different things? What are the signs of having period? Because I had a really bad stomach pain near my bladder and I don't know what it is? Iv had discharge for about 4 or 5 months now so when do u think I will get my period? I'm 13๐Ÿ˜˜

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months so you haven't too much longer to wait.   

  • Vicki I have recently broken up with my boyfriend as I was feeling really used and controlled by him and not comfortable in our relationship. I am feeling really depressed and I am hurting inside . I thought I didn't like him anymore but I was wrong ! What shud I do ? He also wanted to break up with me
    Girlygirl99

    Even when we know a relationship is not right for us, it can still hurt when it ends. Give yourself some time, keep busy with friends and family and in time you will feel better about the split and more optimistic about the future.

  • Hey Vicki kendall again.
    Basically in my right Breast there is like a lump?
    It's not a bud I don't think. And it's only on my right one? Directly under my nipple. It's really sore to touch and I'm really worried, is this normal?Please answer ASAP and edit if you need to. Thank you, kendall xx
    Ps (14 bra size 32C ( don't know if this helps?) and I can't go to the doctor)

    Hi Kendall, for peace of mind, you should ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP as even though breasts are full of lumps of muscle, fat, tissue and milk glands, it wouldn't hurt to get it checked out.

  • hi Vicki,
    I got brown stuff in my underwear about 6 months ago, so i told my mum. So she told me this is my period which i was fine with, but then it didn't come the next month, then brown stuff came again the next about a month and a week apart. but then not the next or the next and i got it a tiny bit last month but still brown stuff.
    When am i going to properly bleed and why is it so irregular? should i be worried?
    I am 13 years old and bra size 32b if that helps
    thanks x

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So for quite a while now I've been getting some stuff in my pants. I'm not sure if it's discharge because it's not gooey it just dried or in a wet patch in my pants. Also my mum knows about it and I have some panti-liners and stuff if it is discharge should I wear them?
    Thankyou,
    Meg XXX

    Hi Meg, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  Pant liners will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hey Vicki x
    So I don't know what to get my boyfriend for Christmas!
    He's not really sporty or into anything like a lot a lot! Any ideas??
    K xx

    How about a DVD of a good new film, some after-shave, a bracelet, or a game?

  • Hi Viki!
    Just wanted to wish you and your family a very happy Christmas and a merry new year!!
    Love,
    Kerry (yes that is my name ๐Ÿ˜ค๐Ÿ˜จ g

    Hi Kerry, thank you and the same to you and yours.

  • My last period was 35 days ago and usually my cycle is about 26-28 days. Why is it late? I've read that it could be caused by stress and teenagers that are athletes dancers or gymnasts are more prone to a late or absent period and I dance a lot could it be either of these? Thanks

    Stress and vigorous exercise can have an impact on your period but however, it is more likely that it's simply due to the fact that in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years.

  • My mum is always going on about how looks don't matter, so it's kind of drummed into me, haha! And i like someone that's not very popular and people look down on and i feel embarrassed to like him! This is so low of me but I'm worried what my friends will think. Thanks

    It would not do for us all to be attracted to the same people and if you like  this boy then consider getting to know him better and if your friends are true friends they will support your choice.

  • I got this red spot does this mean that it is my period ? Please respomd

    The red spot of blood you noticed might well have been your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Do you have to have started your period to like boys? I haven't started mine but I think I'm pretty close to! Ok getting to the point, I like this guy but I don't know if he likes me back. Unforchnetly I know my friend likes him aswell and I haven't told her I like him but her and him go way back and there good friends and there always flirting! But he does flirt with me to! If I even told him I like him I feel like she would make my life a misery, should I just leave him?
    Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜

    Puberty is the time in a boy or girls life when they make the journey from child to adult and there will be lots of changes you will start to notice such as an attraction for someone. My advice would be to let your friend know that this boy seems very nice and then if he does ask you out she will not be too surprised if you say yes.

  • Hey vicki ASAP QUESTION
    is it bad to masterbate everyday like 4-5 time? im 13 btww and ive been masterbating everyday for about a year now! :(

    Masturbation is a natural and instinctive activity but can often be carried out due to boredom. So consider keeping busy to avoid masturbating so much.

  • Hiya vicki
    Just wondering what is in the sample pack please and how long does a sample pack take to come as I ordered mine lat Thursday and it hasn't come yet
    What do i do

    Love Georgia

    Try not to worry as I'm sure your request is being processed.  In your sample pack, you will find a Lil-Lets teens Day and Night pad, Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampon and Regular applicator tampon, liners, a sachet of our teens wipes, a Becoming a teen booklet and a money-off voucher.

  • Recently I have just been feeling so angry lately and wanting to scream when the smallest things go wrong or annoys me. Also I've been feeling really like I can't be bothered anymore and just wanting to cry and wanting the ground to swallow me. What is it, why is it happening and how can I resolve it?
    Kind regards,
    Charlie xxx

    Hi Charlie, puberty can be a most demanding and difficult time in a young person's life due to all the psychological and emotional changes occurring, it's no wonder they feel anxious and stressed at times.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them to susceptible to stress so try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film and most importantly of all talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling.  Yoga would be a good way of helping you to relax and feel better about yourself, so why not give it a go.

  • Is it normal for your first period to be bright red and dry brown just like a normal cut or something? ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿจ

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, I started my period a year ago but it's never ever regular??? I don't know if this is normal or not??x

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have been wandering what are the symptoms of a period - I would like to be prepared. I feel anxious about talking to my friends about it too!

    Thanks ๐Ÿ’Ÿ

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I just wanted to say Thankyouu so much for answering all of my questions xx
    you are very helpful to all girls xx Thanks for spending your free time to answer our questions xx

    It's my pleasure.

  • I'm worried about my weight.i do dancing at school and out of school and recently have auditioned and now dancing at the panto. I also do trampolining at school but I am overweight still. I used nhs website to check and I'm scared that people see me as fat. What do I do :(

    It is quite common to develop a poor body image during puberty due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once but by being as active as you are and maintaining a healthy diet, you will be absolutely fine so please try not to worry.

  • Band:66
    Cup:89
    Wht is my bra size?xxxx

    Your bra size is a 30D but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some bras in different styles and sizes until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hello Vicki! I had some stomach cramps and some light brownish gooey stuff in my pants and i haven't the brown stuff twice. And I feel a bit uncomfortable at school and things. Is this my period coming? And is that discharge? Jenna xxx

    Hi Jenna, brown discharge can often present itself as a period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki! How do you masturbate and if I wanted to put something inside me what would you suggest?? Thanks!! :)

    Masturbation is something that is done naturally by instinct and is definitely not something I can tell you how to do.

  • hi I'm twelve and had my period for a year now and have already had sex i want to know if I'm pregnant but I don't what to ask my mum to bye me a pregnancy test what should I do

    The Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  Please seek medical attention as a matter urgency either by contacting your local Brook Advisory Clinic on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk or by contacting your GP to determine if you are pregnant.  You should also talk to your mum.

  • my period is nine days long and as heavy as it gets it gets on my nerves because I cant keep a tampon in for more that four hours and I use Tampax super plus can you give me some advise please

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  You might like to consider checking out Lil-Lets range of compact applicator tampons as we offer a wide range of different absorbencies that might suit your needs more effectively.

  • hi I want to know if I should be wearing wires bra I want to but my mum says I will damage my breast tissue but with out wires i feel uncomfortable and my boobs jiggle and it hurts can I please have some help

    There is no truth in underwired bras affecting your breast development so please try not to worry.

  • Dear Vicki,
    Im sorry if this is inappropriate but i need help!
    I am really stressed about having periods and i dont know how to tell my mum about a bra so what shall i do?
    Also, i heard my mum and dad having 'it' yesterday and a few times before and i really dont know what to do! Please help
    Thanks, you have been really helpful in the past
    -Mi Mi

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to fear them.  You should try not to feel embarrassed talking to your mum about needing a bra as she was a young girl going through puberty once.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.  As for hearing your parents making love, please try to remember that they are adults and sex is a natural expression of love between two people.  As it makes you feel uncomfortable, you could tell your mum to consider the fact that you can hear them and ask if they would be mindful of this fact in future.  Alternatively, use some headphones and listen to music for a while.

  • How do you shave you know 'down there' ?

    Rather than shave, why not start by simply trimming back your pubic hair by using a wide-toothed comb and pressing it against the vagina.  The longer pubic hair should fall over the teeth of the comb for you to trim away.

  • Hi, I have just started my period and it is quite heavy! I have trampolining tomorrow in pe and am not allowed to be excused from it I am very nervous and not sure what to do! I always don't want to wear a tampon

    Try not to worry and be prepared by changing your pad just before trampolining.

  • I'm 60 cm underneath and 74 cm at my fullest. What is my bra size? Thanks!!!

    Your bra size is a 28B but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I know it's a wired question to ask but do you ever feel sad hearing some on the questions sent to you?

    Yes I really do but I always try my best to help.

  • Hi Vicki
    My left boob is saw and it is red I am 14 and I'm about to come on to my next period.

    It is normal to notice sore, tender breasts with development but please do keep an eye on the redness.  If it gets any worse, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey vicki,
    My discharge turned a brown-ish colour last Friday and my mum told me this was my period, it's been brown-ish ever since. Should it become a more red-ish colour soon?

    It can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • i am 11 and i ahve dishcharge , breast develpment and many syptoms when is my period coming

    You need to have been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • Okay so please help! There's this boy lets call him A has asked me out a few times and I don't want to say no but if I say yes all my friends will laugh at me and say I'm stupid for it please help!

    It really shouldn't matter what your friends say so try to ignore them and go out with this boy if you like him.

  • hi vicki i know this is kinda awkward butโ€ฆ is it bad that i get an orgasm from masturbatiing every day? I'm 12.

    alsoโ€ฆ merry christmas in advance!!!!!!!!

    Masturbation is an instinctive, natural thing to do but it is important to stay mindful of the things that mean the most to us in life such as family, friends and school.

  • This isn't exactly a proper question, but if my brother is really bullying me and my mum doesn't really care ( my brother is thirteen) is it overreacting to live in my bedroom until he chills out a bit?




    From Lauraxxxx

    Whilst it is normal for siblings to argue and disagree with each other at times, you shouldn't have to live in fear of your brother's behaviour.  Therefore, I would really try to talk to your mum and explain how you prefer to stay in your bedroom rather than be in his company.

  • *********** I'm a bit worried about someone who isn't really my sister but she is like a big sister to me, she is 26 and i probably shouldn't worry cos she can look after herself but recently she got a new boyfriend and i really want her to be happy and i don't want her to get hurt but last night i had a dream her boyfriend made her pregnant then left her and now i'm worried its gonna happen. Was this just a dream and will she be fine?

    Try not to worry as this was just a dream.  As a 26 year old, your good friend is probably capable of looking after herself so again try not to worry.

  • vvvvvvvvvvvv
    Please could you tell me if i'm wearing the right bra size? I wear a 32aa and my measurements are
    69cm and 80cm
    I can't work it out on the chart :( because when i rounded the 69 to 70 the box where 80 is is blank????????

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • really sorry if this is innapropriate, but one of my vaginal lips has got quite saggy and stretchy, is this normal? do I have an infection? Thankyou x

    It is perfectly normal for the labia minora to appear saggy as it's job is to protect the entrance to the vagina.  For more help with this, please check out my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System - outside.

  • i get loads of discharge every day, and yesterday there was a small-ish pink dot. What does this mean?? thankyou x

    There is a chance that this was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki recently I have been getting brown discharge but then it goes back to white but a lot than normal comes out. Does this mean anything?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am a bit worried about my breasts. They are really sore and sometimes I get this really sharp pain in them. They Arnt breast buds, I got breast buds when I was 10, I'm now 14. Is this normal ?

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to notice discomfort with breast development.  A soak in a relaxing bath should help to soothe the pain.

  • Is it ok to trim back pubic hair really close so that it stops blood sticking to it during periods? i mean I know that doesn't sound nice but it happens! and sometimes bits of dry blood go into my vagina, is this bad?

    It is perfectly fine to trim your pubic hair back and you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes which will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Well there is this boy who says he fancies me and he is really annoying!! He will not stop talking about me to the person that sits next to him and even when I say i do not fancy him he thinks I am lying!! I never actually liked him.
    I like someone else. What should I do??

    Thx from aleeba

    He should get the message if you tell him often enough but you could tell him that you're sorry but you happen to like someone else.

  • I hate phoning for doctor appointments and going to appointments, how can I stop this?

    You might like to try to relax by taking some deep breaths before calling your surgery.  Try to remember that the people working there are there to help you so arranging an appointment for you is simply a part of their job and when you actually see your GP, again try to remember that he is there to help you feel better.

  • Hi Viki,
    I think I'm a lesbian, but I'm not sure. I don't want to b a lesbian. There is nothing wrong with being gay, I just never pictured myself as one. How do I turn my attention to boys and less to girls?
    Kerry (yes, that's my name ๐Ÿ˜ค๐Ÿ˜ญ) xxxx

    Hi Kerry, try not to put yourself under too much pressure as hormones run riot during puberty causing teens to be attracted to the opposite as well as the same sex.  Just allow yourself some time before making any decision about your sexuality.

  • I wear padded bras and i feel fake but i dont want to be teased for being flatchested

    If you feel uncomfortable wearing padded bras, try to have the self-confidence to wear unpadded ones for now.  Just try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and our bodies develop at different rates to each other and even though your breasts are quite small at the moment, there is a chance that they could be bigger than your friends in the future so try not to worry and do whatever makes you happy.

  • how can I order some free samples?

    Ask for your mum's or guardian's permission first and then pop onto the Contact tab of the home page of this website and complete your details.

  • Hey Vicki,
    sorry if this sounds weird, but is the Lil-lets logo supposed to be a vagina? It kinda looks like one (so sorry, i don't mean to be rude)

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, our GEM icon is a representation of real femininity and is derived from cross cultural symbols for the Goddess, the Earth and the Moon.

  • I got asked out by this guy a few days ago and i siad yes but two days late he says he only likes me as a friend why????

    It may be that this boy feels under pressure as a boyfriend that he realises he is now not ready for. But don't worry this is very common, so why not let him know you are fine with this and happy to be friends.

  • me and my boyfriend have been going out with each other for 5-6 months now and i really want to hug him (we are both 11) but i don't want to pressure him into hugging me also how do i ask him to hug me and we've never hugged before. also not me or him have told our parents we go out with each other they don't even know we have a boyfriend/girlfriend how do we tell them.

    Hugging is someything that will come very naturally and does not need to be discussed. I am also of the opinion that as you are 11 your focus should be on friendship rather than being too intimate with each other; after all part of the word boyfriend and girlfriend is 'friend' which is so very important.

  • I have bright yellow stuff being left in my pants all the time!! Just wondering what it is xxxx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • Is it okay if I respond to something?
    Cos I read about a girl whose parents were older than most, and I am in the same situation. My Mum is 40-something and my Dad is getting on for 80...I know that it sounds strange but I guess true love is something age cannot dampen. Do you agree Vicki?

    Thank you for sharing.

  • At what age did you allow your girls to shave and wear makeup?

    My daughters decided to shave without asking me and they were both around the age of 13. As for make-up the eldest is very natural and has only ever worn mascara and lip gloss, but the youngest daughter loves to wear lots of make-up, as she loves the old style 50's look. But luckily both of them like me avoid foundation and believe keeping your skin healthy and clean is all you need for a nice complexion. For school they only ever wore mascara, blusher and lip gloss at around 14.

  • Hi vicki,
    There's this girl at my school in my grade who is really popular, and we are friends but we don't talk - ever. My bestfriend is always around her and always going to her place and saying how she always has so much fun at her place - how can I make friends with this girl? It's really hard - I've tried. Please keep in mind that she is reallyyy popular! ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

    She might be popular but that doesn't make her some kind of superior being so please try to relax and be yourself around her.  As your best friend is friendly with her, why not suggest that you all go shopping or to the movies together?

  • Hi vicki,
    There's a boy at school that really likes me an I like him.. We are on holidays now and over text I asked him of we wanted to "catch up" during the holidays and he simply said "maybe". What does this mean? Tips pleaseeeee x ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿฎ

    In answering 'maybe' to your question he is saying that there is a possibility that you can catch up sometime.  So he really isn't committing to getting into contact with you so for me personally, I think I would forget about him and if he decides to contact you then reply but if he doesn't, just move on.

  • Hi vicki!
    At our school it's really popular to have friends over all the time. I'm stressing about it! I think that if we don't do something fun, they will think of me as boring. Ideas of what to do with friends? (Please leave go shopping out of it)
    Xx thanks.

    I sense that you feel under great pressure to arrange fun activities for your friends but it should be enough for you to all be together.  You can have a great time by just telling stories to each other or listening to music together.  Trips to the movies, going out to eat, ice skating all cost money but are good fun too.

  • Hi vicki how do you notice discharge in your underwear thanks your friend anoumas

    Hi Anoumas, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You will be able to notice this in your underwear and might want to consider using pant liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey Vicki!
    So i only started my periods about 2-3 months ago but, my periods last 8-10 days, and they are there for 2 days then they go then come back! Is this normal?
    xxx Ashley

    Hi Ashley, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. However, should you notice that you feel more tired than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to make sure everything is as it should be.

  • hey vikki, I am 13 and have gotten discharge every day since I was 10, I used to be able to just wear a panty liner but ever since my period got very heavy the discharge did also so now I feel that i need to wear a tampon to control it, again, it happens everyday. what do I do?

    Tampons should only be worn when you're menstruating and as your discharge is quite heavy, try making more regular changes of your pant liner and perhaps consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes which will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Can I try your products and review on YouTube/ Instagram? Get back to me Asap

    If you would like to pop onto the home page of this website, click on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page.  Fill in your details and submit to us and we will be able to send a sample pack to you.

  • So vicki i took out a tmpon yesterday and i didnt bleed much at all yesterday evening after i took it out and when i woke up there was no blood either.. But once i got out of the shower and got ready i started to bleed again... Why did i stop bleeding after the tampon...? Plz help(:

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry. 

  • Hi viki,
    So there's this guy I really like, is there any way to tell if he likes me too? And how can I get him to like me more?

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi viki , I'm 13 and my best friend has recently started her period , she only just started stomach pains but had had discharge for 12 months where as I have had discharge for at least 2 years . I haven't started my period yet and Have had stomach pains on ocations , is this normal ?xx Ohmystarsโค๏ธ

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.

  • So there was this site where it puts you on video chat with a random person who has the same interest as you, and I love Cameron Dallas so I typed that in and I thought it would be a teenage girl, but it was a peinis. The man was shoving it into the camera. I hung up as fast as I could but I could. I'm scarred help

    There is a lesson to be learned here and that is to never visit sites you are not sure of, or without your parent's permission, because this world is full of people pretending to be someone they are not! You have done nothing wrong here and I appreciate that these images were alarming, but please don't be worried or anxious, delete this site from your PC and if you feel it will make you feel better have a chat  to your parents letting them know what you have seen and that you have been mature and sensible by removing this link from your PC.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I aspire to be a great ballet dancer one day but I have a lot of problems.I have long slender thighs which are fine for dancing and a flat stomach.However,my bust is VERY big,a size 30d to be exact,they are massive compared to the rest of my body.Big busts are NOT good in ballet and are very unhelpful,especially for a 12 year old girl.How do I get rid of my massive bust?
    From
    TheBigBustedBallerina

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to 'get rid' of your breasts but you can try wearing a minimiser bra.  Why not pop along to your nearest Marks & Spencer or department store and ask for some advice, explaining that you need a bra that will provide you with good control and support but also make them look smaller if possible. 

  • how do you reject someone who asked you out. (note) this is one of my good friends so i dont want to make things awkward, i still want to be his friend i just dont want to hurt him.

    Try to be honest and as friendly and diplomatic as possible in saying that you only want to be friends with him.  You sound like a sensitive, caring girl who will be able to make your friend understand.

  • Part 2
    I soon found out that the reason he dumped me is because these boys had been bullying him for going out with me I was so upset they were saying things like omg why would you go out with that s**t and go f*ck yourself cause if your going out with that b*tch you clearly haven't got anything better todo but i still love him and he still loves me supposeidly but it doesn't feel like that now it's almost like he is bullying me what do I do

    From millie

    These boys have absolutely no right to bully anyone so please talk to your parents and teachers so their behaviour can be stopped.  You should also try to talk to your boyfriend and ask him if he really doesn't want to be your boyfriend because he has been bullied about it or has he simply outgrown your relationship.

  • Hi Vicki
    There is two or three boys in particular that have been bullying me for about four years and I took your advise about becoming friends with my crush we were really really close friends and my friends soon revealed that he had liked me since the first school day this year and basically he asked me out we were in a very nice relationship but then he dumped me and I don't trust people but I somehow managed to trust him. Part 1

    ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi vicki I'm 13 and I have my period for about a year
    But recently I was due for my period I had brown discharge
    I expected it to be my period . After 3 days of brown discharge
    I went back to normal . PLEASE HELP I have been reading on the
    Internet that it is a medical condition please help โคโค thank you . Charlotte

    Hi Charlotte, try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take up to 2 years for your body to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicki
    Underneath I'm 29
    On bust 32
    What size bra am I?
    ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Why do I always look at porn but when I go on porn I look at lesbian porn why is this?

    1265

    During puberty it is very normal to be curious about lots of different sexual  things and is nothing to be worried about. However, you should remember that pornography is not a true representation of what being in a loving relationship is all about and if you can avoid watching any pornographic images.

  • Hey Vicki I'm 12 and have a boyfriend (I know it's pretty young and pathetic) but there are three girls that have asked him out recently two of them are my friends and one has been my friend In the past but now annoys me because she copies everything I do. I feel like all three girls are prettier and better than me...what do I do?

    I would seriously question if these girls are truly your friends as they really don't respect the fact that this boy is your boyfriend.  It is normal to develop a poor self-image during puberty as there are so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once, so please consider ways of boosting your self-esteem - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.  Remember that you have to love yourself before you can expect others to love you.

  • Hey Vicki. I don't know if this is rude of me but I want to put forward one of my ideas. Will you and the Lil lets company think of making the teen liners (for discharge) be a bit thicker? Because the ones I uses are really thin and my discharge soaks right through it. Thank you xx

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, thank you for your suggestion.  I will pass it on to the team.

  • Hi Vicki xx
    My cousin left some pads at mine the other day . Ive started my period but haven't told anyone which means i have no supplies x Do u think i should use the ones wa my cousin left at mine? xx thankss x

    Why not ask your cousin if you can use her supplies first and then please tell your mum or guardian that your period has arrived.  there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed as she was a young girl going through puberty once.

  • Yes the best thing about asking questions is that no one knows that it was you that asked! Like you said! So this might be gros but um, well...I go to shower/bath only once a week! And I get smelly and feel dirty.. I wanna go like every 3 days only (personally I think everyday is waay too much!) Im 12! So big...I dont tell that I go so rearly to my friends..oh no why ever would i!
    Actually I dont really get smelly. . ..

    Even if you only bathe or shower once a week it would still be a good idea to wash your underarms and pubic area daily to prevent odour building up.

  • Hi, my cat has a bad eye and i think it has an infection, however my mum is refusing to take him to the vets, i understand it can be expensive but i have offerd to pay but she still says no, and puts it off, it is really upsetting me bacuse I have a really close bond with my cat and hate seeing him in pain, I tell mum that if you can't afford to pay for your pets then you shouldn't have any at all, but she doesn't listen!! I don't know what to do??! Please help๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

    If it is the cost that is preventing your mum from taking the cat to the vet, the PDSA offer veterinary services free for people who have a low income.  Why not speak to your mum about this.  I hope your cat is feeling better soon.

  • So, if a argument gets out of control between a man and women, and they both hit and push each over ect, but this only happens rarely, does this count as domestic abuse??

    Sometimes couples argue and things can get out of hand with both parties getting physical. However, if this is a common pattern some people may feel it is an abusive relationship, but this really is for the people concerned to decide  and if anyone feels they are being hurt either physically or verbally they should speak to someone about this problem with an effort to stopping it.

  • Part 2: They both completely ignore me which leads to me just staying in my room all the time and then they think I'm grumpy because my sisters home so they shout at me and we argue and then it just ruins everything, this happens all the time when she's home and absolutely wrecked last Christmas. i hate it. They act like I'm not there 24/7 please help me. I just want a nice Christmas for once.

    You really need to talk to your parents and tell them how you feel.  It is normal for there to be a little sibling rivalry and for you to want your parents' attention but as you're getting older now, things should be getting easier so please talk these issues through and be honest in telling them that you feel ignored because your sister gets all the attention when she's home from university.  Try to remember that this time of year is a time for us all to be extra nice to each other so why not suggest that you all play a game to break the ice and have fun.

  • Part one Hi, I hate whenever my sister comes home from uni. Mum turns so childish and giddy and dad ends up arguing with me all the time because he always wants to talk to my sister and not me.

    Response in Part 2.


  • I have a friend who's a boy and he recently asked me out on Facebook.
    I said no in the nicest way possible but he was like "please it would make me so happy" And lots of stuff like that. I had to keep on and on messaging him saying no but he kept begging and saying he would always love me and that we would have lasted forever and that I have ruined his life and stuff like that. I had to say no again, really firmly, and he didn't even answer and now he won't speak to me. Help!

    Try not to feel too bad because you can't help it if you're not attracted to him.  You were being honest and should try to remember that during puberty, teens can easily form deep attraction to others and this is called a crush but the thing is that crushes often fade in time.

  • I always take silly comments personally and I get really sad and upset and cant stop thinking about them...is that normal?
    If you know what i mean...for example, "your new coat doesent sute you and it looks really big on you" and then"only joking" sometimes they dont say theire joking...it makes me think so long and get embarrast....

    Puberty can be a difficult and demanding time for teens - with all the physical and emotional changes they are undergoing all at once, it's no wonder they feel quite sensitive to criticism and have a poor self-image so try to look at ways of boosting your self-esteem - joining a club for something you enjoy like a sport, dance or drama would be a good place to start.

  • hi
    my boyfriend has been asking me a lot lately and this is what he keeps asking me 'are you ok you look like you're not feeling well and sad.' he never used to do that before i keep saying i am which i am i'm not sad or ill what do i do

    It seems your boyfriend is worried about you or maybe even worried about whether  you still care for him. So why not reassure him you are fine and that you still care for him and that during puberty it is quite common for moods to change from time to time.

  • I am a swimmer and I have just started my period I don't feel comfortable using a tampon and I have to keep going swimming so what do I do


    Olivia

    Hi Olivia, as there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, your only other option is to be excused from swimming if you're on your period.  If you do change your mind in the future and consider trying tampons, it's never been easier than now by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection experienced by millions of females all over the world.

  • I only use pads and liners, I don't want to use tampons at all! Is it okay to only use pads and liners? Is it normal to get a bit annoyed or angry for no intire reason?? X Manys thanks xx

    The choice is entirely yours as nobody says you have to use tampons.  As for your mood swings, these are perfectly normal during puberty as hormones are running riot.  Be sure to talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this should make you feel better.

  • I have discharge and I am thinking about getting the lil-let's teen liners but I don't want to tell my mum because I am too embarrassed

    Thnx

    There really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about asking your mum for pant liners as she was a young girl going through puberty once.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • I am 25" under and 28" on my bust. What size am i

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different sizes and styles of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I was talking to this lad. We send each other pictures, me of my bum and him of his penis. His mam went on his phone found our messages and He got his phone took off hi for a week and just got it back the other day. i tried talking to him but he just doesn't seem interested in me anymore and i hate that. I just want to go back to how we were before he had his phone took off him. Is there anything I can do to make him want to talk to me again?

    It is very important for both you and this boy to understand that sending or sharing pictures of an inappropriate nature is unlawful and should be stopped instantly, which is why I imagine this boy's phone was taken from him and his mother I am,sure has explained how serious a crime this is. My advice is to no longer speak to this boy  via text or any electrical equipment and simply chat as friends when you see each other and nothing more.

  • hi Vicki please can you ask the lilets you do more videos with celebs or youtubers? thanks!! I love the videos and this website!! youre really great xxx

    Every year we review our videos and consider how we can help girls feel more confident about the changes they are experiencing during puberty. We are currently working on our 2015 plans and have lots of great ideas.

  • hi Vicky
    I once heard that the first step to depression was always wishing you were someone else. I'm like that all the time. I always wish I was people in my year because they have such better lives than me. it really gets me down. I'm actually a really happy person, always laughing. but I cant help thinking like this. am I depressed? thank you x

    Lots of people daydream about living another person's life; it does not however mean they are depressed, so please try not to worry, during puberty you will be having so many feelings and emotions that are new to you, the most important thing to understand is that this is all very normal and we all do it from time to time.

  • If I get my period at school what should I do all my friends have got it so i think it's a possibility that I could too. I am not looking forward to the experience so I would really appreciate if you had some advice to share. Thank you .

    The key to success is in being prepared so if you're releasing discharge, I would suggest that you consider using pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  By doing this and keeping a supply of pads with you in your school bag, you will be prepared.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Periods & School.

  • hello Vickie,
    I read a book the other day and in it was like a text conversation and it was about sexting and stuff, and when I read it, I felt like a needed a wee and my vagina got tinngely.
    is that ok?? is that 'horny' ?
    thanks
    keri990

    This is called sexual arousal and something you may notice a little more as your body prepares itself for becoming a young woman; it generally happens when we see or read something that we find sexually pleasing and is very natural.

  • Hi Vicki
    I need a little help. My friends seem to leave me out and not want to hangout with me I feel lonely all the time and want to move forms what should I do because I like my teachers and if I move form I won't have them?
    Thanks L...

    By excluding you, your friends are bullying you so please talk to your parents and teacher about their behaviour.  Try to remember that this isn't your fault and your school will hopefully deal with this problem in an effective way which will not result in you being moved to another form so please try not to worry.

  • Hiya Vicky. I used to have a lot of thick white discharge, and it lasted for about a year. I got cramps on a few occasions and I've got a lot of arm pit and pubic hair but recently the cramps and discharge have just stopped. I used to get discharge every day but not any more for the past month. My sisters started their period when they were almost 14 and I'm 14 in a month. I've been stressing about it a lot and I'm worried if masturbation has played a part in this? Thanks x

    As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Masturbation will not affect this so try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki, I wanted to ask a question which I'm a little bit embarrassed about. So, recently, I've had the urge to touch myself- usually around my breasts. The weird thing is that I want to be touched by a boy and I feel disgusting for wanting it. I'm not sure if its just me or if you're supposed to feel like this usually around puberty?

    As you enter puberty you will start to notice a great many new feelings and emotions you have never considered before, these feelings are part of your journey to becoming a young adult and are nothing to worry about and are a very natural part of growing up and understanding how your body works.

  • My cat died about a month ago: on Halloween and I can't stop crying! Iv had her scince I was 1/2 yrs old now I'm 12? She had to be put down by the vets because she was in terrible condition! I feel so bad! I hate myself! I wish I could of spent more time with her? What should I do? Everyday I cry! I even cry at night saying goodnight to her? Help ๐Ÿ˜ฟ๐Ÿ’ž

    I'm so sorry to hear of your cat's passing but please try to take comfort in the fact that the life she had with you and your family was a good one.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Dealing with the loss of a loved one...

  • I started my period this morning tons and tons of blood but how do i explain to mum I have started and need pads/tampons. Should I use tampons? I seem to think they might suit my needs better as they are more discreet

    We do recommend that you use pads for the first few periods to allow you the time to get used to your menstrual flow but when you feel ready to try tampons, you might like to consider Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  As for telling your mum, please try to remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about it.  Check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad for more help with this.

  • hi viki
    I have this clear gooey stuff sometimes when I wipe my bum I know its not discharge I have had discharge already is the clear stuff anything to do with period
    which I havnt had yet???

    The clear gooey stuff you have noticed is discharge that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives and this is usually within 6-12 months.

  • hi viki
    I have this mega crush now on this boy I went out with before in year 2 so im really afraid that he will freak if he finds out

    It is normal for girls to develop a crush on someone during puberty and I am sure if this boy ever did find out he would understand and not freak out. Remember too that crushes often fade in time anyway so it may  be a a year or two you will have moved on quite naturally.

  • Hello Vicki, super useful site!
    I am 12 and am always hungry as I am growing, and know this is normal as I am almost at my adult height. But whenever I am at home there is a lot of unhealthy foods so I find myself reaching for the cookies and crisps. Can you reccomend a way to resist eating these, and any healthy snacks I could have instead? I'm not worried about my weight, just think I would be a lot happier without this junk food.

    Healthy snacks like carrot and celery sticks are great to nibble on as are nuts (as long as you're not allergic to them) but try not to have too many.  You could also try pumpkin, sesame or sunflower seeds, dried fruits or fresh fruit and remember to make sure you're well hydrated by drinking lots of water.  Eating these things should hopefully make you feel healthier so why not give them a try.

  • I haven't the courage to tell my mum about my period so I use her padsbut they are far to big for me and I wwant to wear tampons but I cant tell her :(

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about talking to your mum.  Periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for all of us females so try not to worry.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.  When you feel ready, ask your mum if she will consider buying you Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use  having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.

  • How common is it to have your first period cycle and be regular straight away x

    It is possible to be regular from the outset but not everyone is as lucky and it can often take some time to establish a regular menstrual cycle.

  • All my friends make the kick out of me because I've only had one boyfriend. What should I do?

    Take no notice as there is absolutely nothing wrong in being selective and only going out with a boy if you actually like him.  Some girls would agree to go out with someone just because he asked them out without even getting to know him to see if they like him first.

  • I get horny and look at pictures and squeeze me legs together and my vagina tingles is it normal I am 11

    This is called masturbation and fairly common amongst teenager and nothing to be worried about.

  • My friend masturbae with a tampon is this OK

    Tampons should only ever be used to catch menstrual fluid and worn only when on your periods.

  • Hey Vicki!!! Lil lets is my favourite brand for liners, towels and wipes etc! I find the videos and ask Vicki most helpful!!I am 13 and last week I started my period, I felt fine with it, but a few friends who have started said to me that they thought i would of started much later like when I am 15-16, I found this a bit mean, and another friend said when I showed her my new dress on me, that I need bigger boobs? Also any advice on dealing with cramps??

    It's a shame your friends do not visit our website, if they did, like you they would understand that we are all different and puberty arrives at different times for each of us. As for breasts well these continue growing until our late teens or early twenties and come in a variety of shapes and sizes even when fully grown. So please don't let these comments upset you and if anyone says something let them know the facts and urge them to support each other during this time rather than choosing to be unkind.

  • There's a guy in my class who I really like. He's been flirting with me for a long time, and even my friends have realized and they tease me about it. But why won't he ask me out?
    Thanks xx

    There 's only one way to find out and that is by asking him yourself.

  • I haven't had discharge in ages, even though i used to have it really thick. I have no boobs and i am the only flat chested one in my year so i wear padded bras and i feel fake. I have a lot of hair down there and i am 12. When do you think i should grow breasts because my mum grew breasts at the age of 12 as well.
    btw i was premature if that makes any difference
    thnx, cookiemonster xoxo

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and breasts can continue to develop into your late teens or early 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • im really conscious that i have older parents, im 13 and my mum is 50 also my dad is a lot older than that. is that weird?

    Not really, a great many couples nowadays decide to start a family in their 30's or 40's, so please don't feel that this makes any difference to the way you are taken care of in life, or how others will see you.

  • There is this boy in my class who is realy nice he just broke up with a other girl. I realy like him , but I dont know how to ask him out. He is so nice and cute . But should I ask him out. Or not. โ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜†โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…โ˜…
    PLEASE REAPLY ASAP

    There is only one way to find out if he likes you too and that is by asking him so try not to feel shy and simply ask him.

  • Hi I have light brown stuff in my pants is that discharge ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.

  • Hi Vicki... I have been having a lot of clear sticky discharge but recently I noticed the discharge was brown...is this my first period and if so how long before it will be red and become regular? Thanks A

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  During the early stages for the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi I don't know how to tell my mum I need a bra! What do I do ? Plz give me some advice thanks xx

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about wanting to wear a bra.  Why not start a conversation by asking how old your mum was when she first started wearing a bra?  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm not sure if I've had my period there was a bit of brown but I'm not sure if it means anything .

    Thanks pinkheart xx

    Hi Pinkheart, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • hi vicki,
    how 'heavy' is heavy discharge before getting you first period? Because I've been having about a teaspoon of it a day for about a year.
    Thanks (sorry if this is inappropriate)
    Gabby xxx

    Hi Gabby, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It is normal for it to vary in amount, colour and consistency throughout your menstrual cycle so please try not to worry as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.  It also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives and as you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I would guess that you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • Is it true that your first period is the worst?

    Not really no as everyone is different and whilst some have heavy first periods some might have light.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Its guitarist,
    Me and the boy are really good friends but how so I ask him? I have never asked anyone out so I don't know how to do it
    Please can you help,
    Guitarist

    Hi Guitarist, try to relax , be yourself and remember that he is just a boy so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed.

  • Thx for asking my other question! I'm sorry, this is the third question I've asked. Anyway, we're friends. I feel like I have to wait for the boy to tell me first than telling him that I like him. I'm ten and I absolutely agree that I'm not allowed to date. We are close friends it's just that I want to know desperately that he likes me back. What should I do?
    P.S
    Is it normal to like about three people at a time?
    SuperSnail

    Puberty is a time when young girls and boys easily form attraction to each other due to the increase in activity of hormones and this is called a crush.  It is possible to form a crush on more than one person at a time and the thing is that crushes often fade in time.  As you are so young, why not enjoy getting to know this boy better as a friend.

  • Vicki, can you orgasm without showing symptoms of physical arousal? Am I doing something wrong?

    Thank you Vicki! You're always really helpful and kind xx

    There is no right or wrong way to masturbate and there is nothing wrong with your method or the feelings you experience when doing so, so please try not to worry. (I have removed part of your question as it was too detailed for this website).

  • Hey Vicki. Is it normal for discharge to be yellow and runny? I've been getting it quite a lot and it definately is not my urine. I'm always getting it..like whilst I'm sleeping..at school. Nothings wrong with me right?
    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, it is normal for discharge to vary in colour and consistency throughout your menstrual cycle and it is also normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out so try not to worry as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.

  • Hi Vicki
    How do you insert a tampon

    We recommend that you wait until day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  The trick is to be as relaxed as possible before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.  Be sure to insert the tampon high enough into the vagina that only the cord is showing.  For more help on How to use a non-applicator tampon, check out our video.

  • I started my period 2years ago and I'm normally on my period for 2-3 days with a very light flow and the last time I was on before December was September. However in December I came on on my usual date (1st) but its lasted 6 days now and it's very heavy! Is it making up for the months missed?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hi viki i am wondering if you could help me i am 11 years old i started my period 5 days ago and its still really heavy am loosing a lot of blood and I've got bad cramps am really scared i have been invited to a swimming party but i can't go because of my period and i asked my mum if i can use a tampon and she said am too young how can i persuade her to let me use one.thanks for your help and please get back to me as soon as possible xx

    You really have to respect your mum's wishes and we do usually recommend that you have experienced 5 or 6 periods before you try using tampons to allow you some time to get used to your flow.  So, why not leave it a while and ask your mum's permission again.  When the time is right, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What bra size am i? Under: 80cm Over:83cm

    xxxxxxxxx

    Your bra size is a 36AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am little concerned because i started my period last Sunday but it was really light and now it is monday and i still have it but much heavier (8 days) is this normal?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, if you find that your period is persistently heavy and you should begin to feel more tired than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • What age do you think is right to date?

    This is something that you should discuss with your parents or guardians.

  • Band:28 inches
    Cup:32 inches
    What is my bra size I am 10 & is my bra size normal xx

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.


  • I'm 12 and i've had a crush on this guy for nearly two years! However he's going out with one of my friends and she knows how i feel about him, i just don't feel right about their relationship because i'm his ex girlfriend and he keeps flirting with me and i dont find that right since he's going out with my friend, she's the reason whenever he asks me out i say no because she's my friend. How do i get rid of these feelings?(Iโ€™ve tried everything:( ). PS : I like him soo much it hurts and it makes me cry

    I know this boy is your crush and you really can't help feeling attracted to him but from what you've said, I get the impression that he is someone to mistrust as he keeps his options open by still going out with your friend whilst professing to like you.  I think you should try your best to keep as busy as possible, move on and forget about him as crushes fade with time anyway and remember that you're still only 12.

  • Hi Vicki I've had around 5 or 6 periods now and I was wondering is it okay to try one tampon to see if I can insert it and how I get on with it or have I not had enough periods btw my mom said I can use them when I'm ready but I thought I'd ask you for a second opinion. Thanks Vicki you always answer my questions when I need and answer so I would like to show my appreciation
    From
    caniusetampons

    As you're feeling ready to try tampons, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and we recommend that you wait until day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampons easier to insert.  Be sure to relax before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine and insert the tampon high enough into the vagina that only the cord is showing.  Check out the video on How to use a non-applicator tampon for more help with this.

  • i told him i liked him in the past but he picked the other girl, i told him i liked him again and he still picked another different girl< we went out at one point but i was stupid and i let him go and now he kinda uses me as a second choice, he has a girlfriend but i don't think it will last, i know he sounds like he's not good but i really like him, i can't even explain how jealous i get when i see them together but i don't wanna tell him i like him again, i try and get over him but i can't

    I really think you should try to move on and forget about this boy as you deserve better than second choice.

  • I have had my 2 periods now and I am 13. I haven't had my period this month or last month and I don't know what is wrong. Is this normal
    Thanks

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicky it's Amal here again now afew days ago I asked you abt that weird red discharge spot and you said it was my period. Well I have only seen a very tiny reddish brown stain in my underwear after that. And I'm worried because I have had no blood since was this my period or am I just abnormal because I told my mum and now I feel weird because what if it's not my period plz answer.... Thankyou from AMAL

    Hi Amal, during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    I have had all of the signs of puberty except underarm hair and it is staring to worry me why I haven't got any and all of my friends have. I have started my period and I am 13
    Thanks

    Try not to worry as your underarm hair will develop when it's ready.

  • Hi vicki... So after i got out of the shower i had heavy blood and i put a tampon in and after volleyball i took the tampon out and since then i havnt had blood, does this mean my period is finished..??

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, it is normal for a menstrual cycle to last anything between 2-7 days.

  • Hi viki,
    So my friends flow is really heavy, so she put in two tampons! That is bad right?!

    One tampon with the right absorbency is all that is needed.

  • Hey viki,
    So I have these two friends that haven't gotten their period while everyone else has, and its like a competition for them! I've tried to tell them they don't want it, but it doesn't help. Any tips? Thank you!!

    Girls consider that starting their period is a sign of growing up so it's only natural that they all want to be the same. The thing that your friends need to realise is that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 so they should try their best to be patient.  The best way of knowing when a period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi viki,
    So I've had my period since May, but I've only had it 3 times. For 4 days in may, for 6 days in September, and 5 days in November. They are all about 3 months apart. Is that normal? When do you think it will become more regular? Thank you!! โค๏ธ

    It can take up to 2 years for your period to become regular as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it takes a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    In your opinion what size should u be to start wearing a cupped bra? What are something things that might show it is time to wear one?

    You should start wearing a cupped or padded bra when you feel ready and your parents or guardians are also okay with it.

  • I had brown dots in my discharge and I told my mom. She said it was my period and it had dots because it was light. Is this true?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • hi vicki
    i have had my period before and when i have it i get really bad cramp i was wondering if theres anything i could do to make it better, thanks x

    You might like to try taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath to help soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi! Recently I have been getting stomach cramps and pains in my privates and sometimes nned to go the toilet a bit more often than usual. I think it's my period but I can't tell! I have hit my puberty stage but live with my dad so I can't really talk to him and I just need some help with the situation . Thanks Vicki !!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  I wonder if there is another female relation in your family that you would feel comfortable talking to about this?  If not, please don't forget that I am always here to help you too.

  • Hello, my boobs are quite small, well I think so anyway, but all my friends have big boobs and iv got 32a. Is this average size. I'm 13?

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and that we are made in different shapes and sizes which is what makes us who we are.  It is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi vicki
    Iv had discharge for around 4 months now and iv not got my period. I'm scared of when I'm going to get it as I keep getting some severe stomach pains. Is this a sign? Is this normal? Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜

    It is normal for girls to release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives so you might have a while longer left to wait.  The stomach cramps you are noticing are due to your body getting ready for when your period arrives.  You might like to try using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath to help soothe your discomfort.

  • I have completely flat chest apart from huge breast buds that puff them out slightly.i got that in yr6 I'm now in yr11 and the last person in the year to get boobs. having flat breasts has lowered my self esteem so much I feel like a child compared to my D cupped friends I can't even make a cleavage cos the breast buds are in the way it just makes a disc shapes on either side that can't even touch each other. I am really thin too, is this why they aren't growing do I need more fat?

    Please try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it really isn't a competition to see who has the largest breasts.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time so try not to worry and maybe consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm just worried because I haven't noticed any further development in my breast buds for at least the past 4 months and I'm worried because when all the girls get changed for p.e they make fun of the girls who don't wear a "proper" bra or only have an AA cup so I just want to know if things will speed up any time soon? I'm 12 if this helps.

    Try to remember that we're all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  It really isn't a competition to see who has the largest breasts as someone who has small breasts now might well end up with breasts that are bigger than everyone's so try to ignore the immature comments of your classmates.

  • Do you have to be a certain weight to start your period??
    Thanks for answering x

    No.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm really self conscious of my face and body. I think I'm a healthy size but I don't want to be that I want to be skinny like my friends- I eat less and try taking out carbs and drink water / green tea and go to the gym but i don't think I should be worrying about this at my age. Also I have small boobs which I hate. I hate ALL photos of me I just think I look so bad- it's becoming obsessive and isn't normal who should I talk to about it? Abbie

    Hi Abbie, puberty can be a difficult and demanding time when teens sometimes struggle with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they lack confidence and develop a poor self-image.  Try not to put yourself under too much pressure and worry too much about what you eat - a balanced diet of three meals each day with plenty of carbs, proteins and lots of vegetables are all you need and of course it's perfectly fine to snack on things you like once in a while too.  By doing this and being as active as you can be, you will naturally develop into your grown-up body beautifully.

  • Hi vicky, ive been having discharge for avout one year and a half and I wear a A28 bra I am 11 years old and im going to be 12 in june every week
    I keep having cramps dies that mean that my period is so close ? And can you say like in how many months do u think I might get it ? This website is good .!!

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • The one for 14 year old 1 and a half year discharge blood thing I posted earlier I am sorry. It turn out I am on my period... if their any advice u can offer please with the discharge. Will it continue?

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle and it is possible for it to vary in amount, colour and consistency.  You might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there

  • I've recently been getting boobs and they are hard at the front I'm terrified is this normal? Thanks

    Try not to worry as the small raised lumps you have noticed are breast buds which signal the beginning of breast development.  They comprise of tissue, fat, muscle and milk glands.

  • Hi vicki :3
    I hadthsi reddy brown stuff that i think was my period but i only got it once and not again (just that day)). was this my period?

    This is your period so try not to worry and be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and then see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki
    Can u pee when u have a tampon in.
    I really want my period to come is that normal.
    Do u enjoy being on your period and why.
    Please reply
    ASAP

    It is perfectly okay to urinate with a tampon in - you simply move the cord to the side out of the flow of urine.  I don't think girls particularly enjoy being on their period, it is just something we learn to live with.

  • Some of my teachers have noticed I am sad at the mo, and I am. My Dad hit me amd kicked me once, and he's an alcoholiv and I got really upset about it. I can't tell anyone though, I can't get my Dad in trouble and I know he will If I tell, but I really need someone to talk to. My dad realises what he did was wromg and won't do it again, but im still upset!

    Please call Childline on 0800 1111 for confidential help and support.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I do this type karate called kempo and i went to a competition earlier this year and there was this boy there and I thought he looked cute he was walking to the toilets the same time that I was and asked me if I was ok while looking at my 'area' I looked down and I had leaked all over my white trousers ( it was so embarrassing!) Well now I message him and stuff but I feel really awquard around him but he likes me! What should do? Please put this in the relationshios category! X

    Try not to worry about leaking as it's happened or is likely to happen to all of us at some point in life or other.  As you like this boy, try not to feel embarrassed and get to know him a little better as a friend before you decide if you want to go out with him or not.

  • I've had my period for over a year, and it quickly settled into a normal routine, but i've just come on again after coming off exactly two weeks ago - is this something to worry about? And what could it of been caused by? Thanks, Grace x

    Hi Grace, try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi, I've started my period and I haven't told my mum yet , I'm really embarrassed to talk to her . What do I do?
    Thanks
    N x

    Try not to worry and remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about starting your period.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • I'm 14 AND NEVER HAD MY FIRST KISS
    I feel so childish ehen everyone around me has.
    I don't even know what to do when having my first kiss, what dos the tongue do OMG HELP VICK XXXXXXX
    Tamelia๐Ÿ‘

    Kissing is the most natural thing in the world and when the time is right and you have met someone you would like to kiss, your instincts will lead the way so try not to worry as there is no rush and it's not a competition.  A proper first kiss with someone you really like is worth waiting for.

  • HI VICKY! LYRINA HERE:)
    I'm 14 and have a boyfriend and I would really like to have sex, I have never done anything sexual but I feel as if the time is coming soon but I am scared just incase it will hurt. And I will bleed on him. I'm an awkward person so I couldn't. Communicate during sex and I think that will make it worse:( HELP ME VIKY

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • PLEASE PUT THIS IN SOMETHING ELSE
    I'm 14 I have gotten my periods and I have discharge and (small) boobs but my hair and face is very greasy. I will wash my hair on the nighttime and the next say it will be fresh but throughout it will begin to get greasy then the day after that it's greasy. I can't wash my hair everyday as it will being to get even grassier. PLEASE HELP VICKY x

    It is normal for your hair to be more greasy and oily during puberty so try either using a shampoo that has been formulated especially for greasy hair or you might like to consider giving a dry shampoo spray a go.

  • Heya Vicki <3
    When I turned 14 I had my first period.since then it has been a year and two months and I have only had about 5 periods. It's really embarrassing because everyone else has a regular periods and I still feel uncomfortable when i get mine,it still feels new to me! After more than a year! My mum and sister both got theirs at 13. I do seven hours of sport a week and I eat a lot but can't seem to put weight on. I am underweight but not unhealthy. What is happening?
    Anna xxx :)

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • When I go to the toliet and wite there is tiny red splotches does this mean I have stareted my period yet or not

    The red splotches you noticed were probably due to your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • I went to the doctors about a suspected eating disorder and now after counselling and help I am now starting to get better, but I haven't had my period for 4 months! I've put on weight but my period hasn't come back! I'm worried it never will

    Well done you - you're on the right track so try to be patient and allow some time and I'm sure your periods will return soon. 

  • Hey 12446
    I have been getting discharge for ages now I want it to stop. I wear pads almost everyday because of it but I always seem to smell when I change my pad at the end of the day. How can I stop discharge or when will it go away my friends don't deem to get as much as me. My friend took her shorts off and I couldn't see any wetness/of the discharge and she's not a virgin. HELP!!!

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  Pant liners will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • my mum is really annoying me. she keeps on saying that i'm lazy and i dont do anything around the house but she never asks me to do anything so i dont understand what her problem is. she always tells me off for not sitting with my family but i really dont want to, i would rather be alone in my room. she considers this as "lazy". what shall i do?

    It sounds as if you would benefit from talking to your mum about this and ask her if she would like to give you some chores to do to help her out.  As for not spending some time with your family, your mum is probably a little worried that you're spending too much time alone and probably misses you being isolated away from the family.  So why not compromise and perhaps spend a little time with everyone for an hour after tea.  She probably just misses you.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I think I am fairly far down the line of puberty, I have books almost as big as my mum's, hair in all the new places, a waist etc and I have been noticing lots of discharge for about a year and a half now, but still no period! I am just 14, which was when my mum and sister both started their periods but I haven't had any of the stomach cramps and stuff. Should I be worried? Also I have developed a really bad habit of pulling out my pubic hair. It is really painful but I can't stop. help!
    Jj xx

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  As for pulling out your pubic hair, please don't as this is not only painful it can also cause bald patches to appear.

  • I'm ugly how do I get pretty ๐Ÿ˜ž

    Puberty can be a difficult and demanding time for teens when they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they can develop a poor self-image.  Try to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.  You have to love yourself before you can expect others to.

  • HI Vicki,
    We were on the coach, and my crush was sitting in the row behind me. He kept putting his arm through this gap and asking me for high fives, and then he asked me if I would date someone with braces. He has braces.
    I'm really confused.
    Thanks xx

    As you clearly like each other, why not agree to being friends and get to know him a little better before you agree to dating him.

  • I'm really worried and confused about where to insert my tampon I know how to do it my mums explained but some reason my vagina seems to be closed off and I'm just so confused and basically don't know where to insert my tampon I just can't find the opening to my vagina. Where does it go?

    If you try to imagine that the vagina is a muscle that can expand wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born, you will be able to understand that a tampon should be quite small by comparison.  The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina and it can be easily stretched back without the girl's knowledge when she participates in a sport or is menstruating and is using a tampon.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System - (outside)

  • Hi so I have bought your pads and have been carring one in my school bag. I am now 14. I have had it for 1 and 1/2 years and i havent had my period. The past few months my discharge has been very heavy. Im having to wipe twice after urinating. I havent used ghe pads.I had two spots of blood that were very tiny about year ago but today when I wiped there was blood in my discharge. I have it everyday. Is my period going to stary. Please help. Please im worried.

    Try not to worry as this was probably your period so be sure to keep your pads with you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months

  • Hi Vicky

    I was wondering what should I do if I start my period at school? I get really embarressed about things like this and would appreciate if you could offer some help. Thanks

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Periods & School.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Are school is going swimming soon and I have just started my periods so I am not comftable with using a tampon yet. I know know this means I can't go swimming but I don't know how to tell my teacher that I am having my period. What should I say?
    Beth x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Beth, ask your mum or guardian to call your teacher and explain that you're not quite ready to start using tampons so will have to be excused from swimming when you're on your period.  When you do feel ready, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hey Vicki um well I'm not a shy person really but I need help on how I could be more confiden in situations where I dont really wanna be there? like school or this charity shop that I volunteer at. I work there for 8 hours over two days and I find that I dont like it any more.

    Puberty is a time when teens can naturally lack confidence due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  Why not consider joining a club for something you enjoy like sport, dance or drama to give your confidence a boost.  I would have thought that working in the charity shop would help to build your confidence too but if you don't like it anymore why not try doing something else. 

  • hi vicki can you get your periods at the age of 11

    Try not to worry as girls can start their period anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • I'm 12 years old and all my friends slag me off for doing my eyebrows and wearing mascara, but I'm a 28c/30b and have my period but as I'm so young I dont want to tell them that that's the reason, so what do i do?

    Thank you, xxx

    As long as it's okay with your parents or guardians for you to wear make-up and pluck your eyebrows, it shouldn't really be any concern of your friends. 

  • My breasts are really sore rigt now, like what they're like before my period but I doubt it's my period cause I just finished my period about a week ago... (Im 14 nearly 15) do you know why their sore?

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to notice breast tenderness with development.  A soak in the bath often helps to soothe them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering if it is normal to have your period more than 7 days in a row? I started last Janurary and have usually always had it for langer than 7 days.
    thanks.

    A normal period usually lasts between 2-7 days so if yours is continually longer than this, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • 1. Do you think my "anorexic" friend really does have anorexia, or is she trying to get attention? (she eats well enough for me to think she may be lying)
    2. Do you have any advice for coping with all of this?
    Pt 3

    There is no denying that puberty can be a difficult and demanding time for teens and whilst it is good for you and your friends to share your problems with each other, you really should consider your own well being if you're finding it difficult coping with everyone else's problems as well as your own.  So, be honest and tell them.  Why not suggest that your friends talk to a trusted teacher or mentor at school or tell them to call Childline on 0800 1111 for some confidential support.

  • The worst part is, I told my other friend about my eating issues, and (suddenly) she's anorexic. I don't disbelieve her, but I think it's more than a coincidence. And when I told her about my insomnia, (lo and behold! she's an insomniac!)
    I'm at the end of my tether with all these people having problems I can't help with, because if I could help them, I'd help myself too. So I will conclude with 2 questions:
    (see pt 3)

    Response in Part 3.

  • Hey, it's Kara again. (the one with the question about having a friend with anxiety)

    I think I'm to blame for a lot of mishaps in my friend's life. I think this because EVERYONE I'm friends with has a mental illness (mild or a little more severe). My friend I told you about has anxiety and (apparently) she's bipolar. I have another friend who suffers from anxiety.

    Pt 1

    Response in Part 3.

  • I'm 14 year old girl and I have a girlfriend, most people at school know and most of our friends understand! I slept at her house a few days ago and we started kissing, we were in her bed room and kissing. Im really scared incase her brother finds out because he is homophobic! Im scared in case he stops us from seeing each other, do you have an advice for us. Thank you x

    The law is very clear on matters such as these; in as much as any form of sexual activity is against the law if you are under the age of 16 and this is true regardless of your sexuality, so please refrain from putting yourself in a position with your girlfriend when this kind of intimacy can happen.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So there's this boy in my school and I kind of like him and he likes me. We've been really good friends for the past few weeks now and I think he's going to ask me out tomorrow. But the thing is I think we will be better off as friends as I don't feel really attracted and in love with him. What should I do?! Please help!!

    Then why not be honest and just tell him that you would like to remain friends.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have a rather small build, but i used to eat to much, stress ear actually i recently joined a sport and now am skinnier i feel like my fat was holding up my boobs i wear a 36a and was wondering of my boobs were beggininh to sag and i needed to ALWAYS have ona bra sometimes i dont wear one when im in my room whicklh i almost always am

    It's good to hear that you're now more active and are no longer eating through stress.  It is perfectly ok to not have to wear a bra when you're at home so try not to worry.  As your breasts are still developing, you might well need to buy a bra with more structured and firmer support in the future so try not to worry.

  • Hey, I haven't been on my period for about 5 months now but since I've not been on ive been having a lot off discharge what do I do?

    This is all perfectly normal so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is also normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle - it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection. You might like to consider using pant liners to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki
    Today I got a wierd browny red stain in my underwear and i am really confused. Is this my first period or just a wierd colour discharge? ( I haven't worn red underwear for ages). I only just noticed it and I want to wear a pantyliner overnight just incase but my mum kinda disapproves of them and prefers for me just to ignore it. She thinks i am too young to have my period even tho i am ten!!!!!!!!! She got it when she was 14-15. Thanks soooo muchxx

    The 'browny-red stain' you noticed was your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my period roughly about a year ago and i have have had discharge for about two years. When i am of my period i have discharge, the discharge can be white sometimes and then other times its a yellowy colour and it can smell. its not a very nice feeling having discharge in my pants and its very off putting when getting changed in front of someone or wearing shorts and i am 15! Please help as i don't know why the discharge hasn't stopped as its been over two years and ive had enough!

    It is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle and for it to vary in colour and consistency too.  You might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • im 4ft 10 and im 12 in year 8 .I have pubic hair down there .No pubic hair on my underarms and I have a very very small chest ( I only Wear Crop top bras ) However ive started my period .Is this norm ?

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other. 

  • This is really random, but how can you get your hair to stay in its side parting without having to push it back literally every few seconds. Not only is this annoying but it makes my hair greasy.

    Try using some product to make it stay in place - either a little gel, mousse or hairspray might work.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i tried to insert a tampon today. I tried 3 times and it hurt so much and just wouldn't go in! I used the liletts teens ones and the fluff came off. It just wont go in and hurts. It still hurts now and i never even got it in, just the tip. Im worried cos it still hurts around the 'area'. Also can u get TSS from inserting the tip in?

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    We do recommend that you first try on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert and if you try to imagine that the vagina is a muscle, that can expand wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born, you will be able to understand that a tampon is relatively small by comparison.  So please persevere as a little practice is all it takes and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of females all over the world.  TSS is an extremely rare disease that affects a very small percentage of the population (around 40 people in the UK each year).  You can get it from things like insect bites, burns, after having surgery and occasionally if you are menstruating and wearing a tampon.  If you were to have TSS, you would have been displaying symptoms like a high fever, sickness, diarrhoea, a sore throat and a rash that looks like sunburn.  As your vagina is a little sore, try having a soak in the bath and leave it until your next period before you try using a tampon again.

  • ive started my period .How do I tell my mum in person ? x

    Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and your mum was a young girl once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about them.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • hi vivki have a boyfriend and we are both 13 he always promises me a hug but i get nervous everytime he hugs me and he always kisses me forhead and cuddles me but i dont know hether to kiss him back or not helpppp shall i work up to a kiss or the next time he kisses my forhead shall i kiss him too???? i really love him and also my mum doesnt kno but his mum does know we r together. i dont know how to tell mum coz i want him to come rounf my house and stuff

    You should always be honest with your mum so try to remember that she was a young girl once.  A first kiss is the most natural thing in the world and when the time is right and you are both ready, your instincts will lead the way so try not to worry.

  • HI vicki
    i want to masturbate but i have really long nails so it hurts whenever i try to finger myself. I don't know where my clit is or how to get wet.
    Thanks, elmogurl

    Hi Elmogurl, puberty is a time when hormones run riot causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is an instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.  Check out my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System (outside) for help in knowing where everything is and what it is.

  • Hey Vicki!
    So I started my period in August and then on my 3rd I tried putting a tampon in but i only got it 3/4 in and the rest stuck out and it hurt so badly and now I'm waaay to scared to try again, what went wrong? I really must put one in as I do sports 6 nights a week and I just am scared, do you have any tips? Or any video I can watch? Thanks a million!!!๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—

    -Cloie

    All it takes is a little practice so please persevere.  We recommend that you first try using a tampon on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  Try your best to relax before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.  For more help with this, check out our video on How to use a non-applicator tampon.

  • I've been really unhappy recently and one of my friends pressured me into telling her why but then I told her she wanted nothing to do to me. She even said she didn't want to know me till I snapped out of it. She hurt me so much and I self harmed. If she's saying horrible stuff about me to my friends but not to me (by text) is this bullying?

    Your friend's behaviour is really quite cruel and if she is saying nasty things about you, this would be considered bullying so please tall to a teacher and your parents about this.  Self-harming is an expression of intense, negative feelings that aren't your fault so again either talk to a trusted adult or call Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get you the professional help you need.

  • Hi Vicki, a few weeks ago I got a spot about the size of a pea at the back of my underwear it was a orange slightly red colour along with my daily discharge. This happened once and then once again a few weeks later what was this?
    Also sometimes I have specs of grey in my discharge
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    This might well have been your period but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Im in set one for maths, but recently my marks have dropped and I can't do some work. Ever since we got our new maths teacher, i feel like im not learning anything because she literally just puts a question on the board without teaching us how to do it and expects us to get it right, and if u dont, she yells at you. I have tried talking to her and asking for help but she dosent. Any suggestions? Traci

    Hi Traci, talk to your parents or guardians about this and they could approach the school about this matter.  If you can find out if the other people in your class feel the same way as you to ask their parents to also contact the school.

  • Hi Vicky,
    My friend self harms but she shows off about it like it's cool to self harm. She says she does it for no reason but then why would you damage your body??
    Love Harp

    Hi Harp, usually when people self-harm it is considered an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't their fault and if you suspect that your friend is effectively doing this for attention, I would guess that there is something very wrong.  Please ask her to talk to a trusted teacher or to call Mindline on 0300 1233393 for some professional help.

  • Hi vicki(: so i just had my 1st period and its still going on i think, but i have not told my mom yet): i dont know how to really. Im close to my mom but i just dont know how to tell her. If i could redo this i would tell her from the very begging, but i think i will just tell her when my next one starts...

    Please try not to worry and try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about your period.  For some help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi vicki
    So I got a breast bud only in one nipple a few months ago and now it's actually starting to turn into a breast and I think I will need a bra for it soon but the other one doesn't even have a lump yet. It's quite embarrassing cause you can see that the other one is starting to turn into a breast. What should I do?

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to notice more development in one breast than the other  so try to be patient and you will soon see that they will even up in size.  However, please keep in mind that no two breasts are perfectly symmetrical.

  • I am 15 and have had discharge for around three/four years now and I still have no period but suddenly I have had a large amount of discharge in the last week is this a sign of my period is on it's way? Please reply quickly ๐Ÿ’•

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while and have recently noticed an increase in it, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki this is my question,
    ne and my friend both have vagina hair and we don't want to tell our mums because its really embarrassing. My friend has more than me and she was wondering if she should shave it and if she should when should she. Same with armpit hair (both of us) and sorry if this is inappropriate. From kaytlyn and rose. (both age 11)

    Hi Kaytlyn and Rose, the choice is entirely yours if you decide to shave your pubic hair or not.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other so it is perfectly normal for one girl to notice more pubic hair development than another.

  • hi vicki I masturbate a lot in bed and dream of sex I am 9 am I normal

    During puberty, hormones run riot causing young girls and boys to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • I'm very nervous about my period I'm not on it yet but I'm getting signs what are the best pads you do that are suitable to a school day xx thanks bobbie

    Hi Bobbie, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Day and Night pads as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi vicki. I previously asked you about the boy in my class who is depressed. Firstly thanks for answering, but you said that I should tell him that I thought we spend too much time together. I can't do this because he said that he'll kill himself if our friendship ever ends but I never knew we were friends in the first place. He 'loves' me but I dislike him but I don't want him to kill himself. Thanks, BlueSky1092

    Hi Bluesky1092, I really think this boy needs help from someone who is trained to treat people with depression so please try to encourage him to talk to a trusted adult, his parents or to call Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get him the help he needs.  He is not really being fair in putting you under so much pressure and you should also talk to someone about his behaviour.

  • How can I stop myself getting so wet when I'm with my boyfriend? He knows that I do and its soooo embarrassing! Also when I get home and go to the toilet it smells a bit bad, is that normal? How can I stop both of these?! ๐Ÿ˜–

    This is perfectly natural so why not consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • i am 16 and have had my period since i was 13, i seem to be having quite heavy periods every 2 weeks and i'm worried that i'll run out of eggs and that when i want to have a baby i won't be able to

    Please try not to worry as baby girls are born with an estimated 1 to 2 million immature eggs and even though many are lost there are still plenty to last through a woman's natural menstrual cycle that will continue up until her 50's when she  hits the menopause.

  • hi Vicki,
    I previously asked you how I would be able to tell if this boy likes me. I took your advice and none of my friends knew I liked him. I did what you suggested and all of a sudden there are rumors going round that he wants to ask me out. im sooooooooo happy thanks for the great advice. i8ll let you know if he ends asking me out. you'll be able to tell its me as from now on I will tekll you a name

    thanks

    cherrylover45
    xxx

    Happy to have helped.  I hope it all works out for you.

  • can a 14 year old girl go on the pill through her gp without them contactig parents or you having permission?

    This is possible but a responsible GP might try to persuade the girl to involve her parents in the decision.

  • Vicki me and this girl are not vey good friends ,we have tried because we are friends with the same people .Id had enough the other day when I heard her talking some really horrible things about me .I told my bestfriend because she didn't know why I was sad she is the one who I tell everything to. the not very nice girl is now trying to make her become less close with me and taking her awaayy from me .I feel devastated .

    It is quite apparent that this girl has a problem with you and you should talk to your friend about what you believe this girl is trying to do to your friendship.  She is attempting to bully you so please also talk to a teacher or mentor at school about her behaviour.

  • My Mum is annoying me. She keeps going Xmas shopping with my Dad and so for friends I asked her to get them chocolate etc. She came back with some chocolate which I was grateful for. But she keeps going on about the price. Actually everything seems to be about the price of stuff. We shop at places like Lidls, pounland and primark. My family aren't struggling with money but I don't know why we always shop at places like that. I kinda find it embarrassing. I don't want to say anything in case I offend her.

    It is most likely because your mum is careful with her money that you are not struggling financially as a family. You really should not be embarrassed about the stores your family shop in they are now widely recognised as good quality supermarkets and stores.

  • Vicki today I woke up with brown discharge and a spot of blood I have had discharge for 9 months is this my period as its continued throughout the day ?? do I tell my mum and will it get heavier ?

    Congratulations as this is your period.  You will have to wait and see how heavy your menstrual flow is and please try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about this.

  • I started my period on Thursday and it's Sunday I'm 14 years old and I wear a pad and I was just wondering lately I've been getting brown spots like powered and I'm really embarrassed about it and I was just wondering if this is normal? Thanks Vicki.

    It is normal to notice brown discharge and this is considered to be old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • hi vicki i started my period 3days ago and it really heavy am loosing a lot of blood i have to wear two towels so the blood doesn't go though but i have to change it every 1 hour my mum is taking me to the doctors but am scared all of my friends haven't developed yet they don't have boobs spots or hair in different places and they have no hips and my boobs are big i have spots and lots of pubic hair and my hips are really wide. ps am 11 xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  You should also try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and your friends will be catching you up very soon.  Your GP will be able to set your mind at ease so please try not to worry.

  • I emailed lil lets requesting free samples and also filled out the form that pops up when u press the 'contact' icon. Will I get two parcels because I have only got one?๐Ÿ˜’ Belinda-Shelley Puge

    We only send out one sample, per person and per household.

  • Hi Vicki
    Whenever I have my period I feel really shaky and often ill. I have tried all sorts of pain killers but nothing works. How do I deal with this each month? I also become really sad and unpredictable
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • 1145 heya vicci his mah sund really weird but im 14 and got fingered for the first time about 2 weeks ago ... my boyfriend want me to mastutbate him but i dint know how ... what shall i do ... he said we are not having sex till im 16 butim confused xxx answer asap

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • Do you know how I can stop my bra stretching? I put it on in the morning and it fits fine but then after a few hours it keeps wiggling around and it's so loose.

    It sounds as if you might need a new bra as when they've been worn for a while, the elastic becomes old and worn and doesn't provide you with as much support.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have just started shaving under my arms, how often should I do this?

    Once you commit to shaving, it becomes easy to shave daily whenever you bathe or shower.  Of course, you can leave it for longer if you want to.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had discharge for 14 months now and I'm getting a bit concerned, is this ok?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • So I'm 13 and I'm in a dance class group, we came 1st in Regionals and now we're going to nationals on 1st of July next year! I'm really excited as I've been made dance captain but I've been told that as I'm most experienced and skilled I have to do a contemporary solo piece for 4 minutes! In front of over 1,500 people! Helpppp
    Shannon.Shannon.Danceloverrr

    Hi Shannon, congratulations and what fabulous news.  This is a wonderful opportunity to shine and to show all of those people how brilliant you are.  You have plenty of time to choreograph a great routine so just make sure that you are fully rehearsed and you will enjoy every minute.  Good luck to you and your team mates.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I love this website.I have this friend that is a boy and he always flirts with me. How do I know if he likes me? Thanks

    Guitarist

    Hi Guitarist, if a boy flirts with you, it is usually a sign that he likes you but I would suggest that you make sure you like him too before you agree to going out with him.  So try getting to know him better as a friend before you decide.

  • Hi Vicki
    Basically at school we are having a Christmas prom and I asked my friends if they wanted to go with me they said only if the two boys they like say no but I'm to scared to ask the boy who I really like because I don't know if he likes me. He doesnt sit next to me in anything so I can't ask him casually if he's going with anyone without going up to him which might imply something. What do I do I can't go alone no one is!?!?!...
    Thanks sooooooo much
    L

    The thing is, you will never know if this boy wants to come to the prom with you or not unless you ask him.  If he declines your offer, then try not to worry and go with friends as it doesn't really matter if you go with a boy or not.  Just try to relax and have a good time.

  • Hey Vicki
    I started my period on the fourth and it's the seventh today but when i do sport at school i just get really anxious incase i sit down and people can see where i folded my pad. I had to fake an injury so i didn't have to play.
    I can't put the liners on because my flow is too heavy so i'm not sure what to do because we're playing tea ball and theres boys there too >.< Help!!!!

    You might like to consider wearing two pairs of underwear to cover the pad or when you feel ready, you might like to try using tampons as they are more discreet than pads.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki
    I got my period a few days ago and there has been heaps of blood though!! Is that weird?? The blood is at the top and bottom of my towel.

    It is normal to notice a heavy menstrual blood loss with your period and you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi vicki, this morning in bed i had a weird feeling like I was peeing and then I went to the loo and there was this clear stuff which was a bit like snot :( is there something wrong with me or is this just discharge? Because I normally get a little bit of white or slightly yellow dry stuff in my pants and I thought that was discharge! Thanks vicki

    Try not to worry as this is discharge and discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.  You might like to consider using pant liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I feel little tingles sensations around my vagina area and someone times a little strike of pain in the area too is that part of your period starting โ“

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I'm 14 and in a relationship with a guy that's 15. I'm really inlove. I go to his place to watch movies but he touches me and he always want to have sex after touching me. I am on contraception pills to help with my periods. But about 3 weeks ago I told him we're have sex but he must wear a condom. Everything got out of hand and the condom got a hole, but we didn't stop.I'f been throwing up alot lately. Do you think I'm pregnant? Should I buy a home pregnancy test?

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  It is quite possible that you are pregnant so please contact your local Brook Advisory Clinic or GP as a matter of urgency.  You can contact Brook on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk

  • Hi Vicki,
    Recently I have been feeling really strange. I have felt like I want to just scream at everyone and cry. Everything has been annoying me, even the little things! I can't sleep or eat sometimes. I thought it might be because of my exams, but I didn't feel like this last year!
    What's wrong with me? What should I do?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel so stressed and upset at times.  Try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling. 

  • how do you get over something that is bothering you?

    Talk about it with someone who will listen and offer support.

  • me and my friend (a boy) are quite close. I think he has a crush on me but i want to stay friends. if he does ask me to be his girlfriend how do i say no without making things awkward?

    You need to reassure him in saying that it's nothing personal and you do still value his friendship.

  • How do u tell ur mom u hade ur period

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Would you say that fifteen is too young to date a nineteen year old, we have agrees there is absolutely no sex until im old enough and were both ready, weve known each other for four years now and the feelings are too strong to hide. We are like best friends but I want to call him mine and hols hom and kiss him and be his girlfriend. Can we date or is the gap too much?

    I think that this is something you should discuss with your parents or guardians.

  • Ok hi Viki
    So there's this boy in my classes who always teases me, he says he lives me in a jokey way and sometimes puts his arm round my shoulders. He also says about sleepovers with me to wind me up but I don't know if he likes me and I'm too scared to ask him or any of my friends

    It is normal for young girls and boys to form attraction to each other during puberty as sex hormones run riot.  This is called a crush and the thing is that crushes often fade in time.  Why not try to get to know him better as a friend to find out if you really like him.

  • In the past week my dishcharge has got a lot worse it's got really heavy ,it's been in big clumps is this a sign that my period is coming? X

    As long as you've already been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months, there is a chance that your period isn't too far away as many women notice that their discharge becomes thicker before their period arrives.

  • Hi I've been volunteering for a charity shop, Oxfam, for the past year for 8 hours a week. But I don't like it any more. I kind of dread going. Should I stop and what should I volunteer for instead because I want to still volunteer?

    I think it's wonderful that you have volunteered your free time for Oxfam for a year but if you feel as if you would like to try something else, please don't feel bad about leaving as I'm sure there will be others to step into your shoes.  As you've already got experience of volunteering, you should hopefully find it relatively easy to find something else.  Good luck.

  • I have a pain in my left breast and it comes and goes but it has just been today, I am 14 years old do you think that this is serious?

    It is normal to notice pain and discomfort at times with developing breasts but for peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian what she thinks.

  • Hi vicki I know you many not reply but I need your help when I push down on my boobs it hurts I'm 12 years old I have got discharge has that got anything to do with it I don't wear bras I were crop tops does this mean it's growing please reply

    It is normal to notice discomfort with developing breasts so try not to worry. A soak in the bath will help to soothe them.

  • Hi so I have a massively awkward crush on my friends older brother. I am 14 in January and he is 16 In April. Me and the guy are quite good friends, we did a School production together and my costume was this really skin tight jumpsuit thing and I think he was sort of checking me out once. The thing is he got into trouble for posting a picture of his ex naked on snapchat, which should be off putting but I can't stop liking him!!! What should I do??

    Puberty is a time when young girls and boys can easily form a deep attraction to each other due to the increase in activity of sex hormones and this is called a crush.  The thing is that crushes often fade with time and this boy is someone to be wary of as posting a naked picture of his ex on Snapchat really isn't a nice thing to do.

  • Hi Vicki
    If you personally had to choose if you prefere tampons or pads what would it be and why ???
    Please reply
    ASAP

    I prefer non-applicator tampons when I am out and about as there is no applicator to dispose of and when I am relaxing at home I like to wear a pad. At night when sleeping if my flow is very heavy I wear a tampon and sometimes a liner too.  You will notice when you read any instruction leaflet in a pack of tampons that it is advised to switch from time to time and wear a pad every now and then if you are a tampon user and this is why I wear a pad when relaxing from time to time on the sofa.

  • Hi vicki
    I know this sound silly but I really need new bras so I asked my mum for some for Christmas but now I'm a bit worried about when I open my present cause I don't really want my dad/brother to see them. Cause we all open are presents one at a time so they will definatley notice. What should I do when this happens?

    Try not to worry but as you feel embarrassed ask your mum if you can open your bras in private.

  • Hi Vicki
    I need some advice I've been going out with this boy who I've liked for ages but we don't talk that much at school and stuff and I feel akward going up to him when he's with his mates is this bad? Also everyone keeps asking if we have kissed and we haven't, I want to kiss him but I'm scared because I've never kissed anyone before what do I do?x

    A first kiss is the most natural thing in the world and when the time is right you and your boyfriend will know what to do instinctively. 

  • I have had periods for a year. It is the first pain I have had with them, it is realy heavy! I have to change my pad every 2 hours and even then it's soaked. Will this be a regular from now on or will I go back to light periods? This one is so heavy that when I wipe the tisue is ful of blood. How much longer wil it go on for its been 2 days? Sometimes the tisue has lumps, they are hard lumps, like flesh. Sory for detail, I am woried it is making me conscious and I'm not doin activities, pls help๐Ÿ˜ข

    It is normal to notice small clots in your menstrual flow and this is considered a clearing out of the vagina as they are simply a part of the lining of the uterine wall being released with menstrual fluid.  However, if you should begin to feel more tired than before, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • I have been having dirty dreams lately is this normal?

    It is very normal for teenagers during puberty to have feelings of a sexual nature that come in the form of dreams.

  • Is it normal for the discharge a girl gets when aroused to smell bad? Because I'm 16 but don't want it to be off putting when I become sexually active...wasn't sure if its meant to have a smell or not... ๐Ÿ’ญ

    This odour is perfectly natural so please try not to worry.

  • my boyfriend has his hand on my knee but sometimes slides his hand up. if I tell him to stop then he will, but he'll do it again later. he doesn't mean any harm though. sometimes when we kiss he has his hand on my bottom (over my skirt) is this breaking the law?

    His behaviour is inappropriate and you need to make your boyfriend understand that no means no and he should stop.

  • Hi Vicks!
    I'm SuperSnail. Thx for asking my question. I absolutely agree that I'm not allowed to date and I don't want to. I'm just so afraid to tell him because if he says no then I'll feel so embarrassed inside. We are friends and I just want to tell him to see if he feels the same way. I'd just be happy to know that he likes me the same way. We'd still be friends. Shall I tell him or not?

    If you do not want to date somone you should always tell them, ensuring they know it is because that at this time you simply want to be friends and nothing more.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What bra size am i? Under:75cm Over:84cm
    xxxxxxxx

    Your bra sizing is 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    This boy in my class has told me and only a few others that he is clinically depressed because he trusts me. He thinks I am his best friend and he has also told me that he fancies me! However I do not feel the same and find him very annoying. But I don't want to hurt his feelings.
    Do you have any advice? ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    You do not have to hurt this boy's feelings but you should be honest and say that your feelings for him are that of a friend and nothing more and that sometimes you feel that you spend too much time together and being apart may be better for both of you.

  • Hi vicki
    Ive had my period for 4 years now and im 15 but i havnt been on my period for 3 months. What does this mean?

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki
    Yesterday at school this boy who I really really like gave me his number and told me to text him sometime and I was really excited but I text him hey and he didn't reply my fone tells u wen someone's read your message and it said he'd read it but there was no reply I tried again and the same thing happened does this mean he was just taking the hand out of me?
    Thanx Sarah

    Hi Sarah, save yourself the bother and move on and forget about him.

  • Hi Vicky, everytime I get undressed at my friends house if we are going to a party or something , she'll always try and see my bra size on the label and it makes me feel uneasy and I have quite big boobs

    Let your friend know that she is making you feel uncomfortable and that we are all different and it should  not matter what the label says on anyone's bra.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I have bigger boobs than my closest friends, they are all flat chested but when I get undressed they all stare at me and make me feel uncomfortable what should I do?

    It is normal for some girls to want larger breasts but the thing is that we all develop at different rates to each other so it's more than possible for some of these girls to have larger breasts than you when you have all finished developing so try not to worry.

  • Hi Viki,
    I'm currently wearing a 28aa (a training bra) but it doesn't cover all of my boobs but my friends one fitt her perfectly a 28a doent fit me watt should I do? should I stay in training bras?
    Thanx
    Amy xx

    Hi Amy, if your bra doesn't cover your entire breast area, you need a larger size.  You can either ask your mum or guardian to take you for a professional bra fitting at your local department store or if you can get hold of a tape measure, wrap it all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again but only over your bust at the fullest point.  Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to give you a bra sizing.

  • Hi when I squeeze my legs together I get this tingly feeling and after it I get like this discharge thing is it normal?

    Yes this is normal and called masturbation. The fluid you noticed is made by the body when it is sexually aroused and nothing to be worried about.

  • Say i had my period on dec 4 when will my next one be?

    That would be almost impossible for me to comment on as periods can be a little irregular for the first couple of years and whilst you may be someone who has a period every 21-34 days, equally you may find your next period does not arrive for many months. So my best tip is to have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Part 3/3
    I don't know what to do my mum can't do anything and the teachers won't. Is this bullying. How can I stop this
    It does not help with my anxiety and panick attacks (I have not been told by a doctor I just think I have anxiety )
    It is also getting really depressed and have been for the last 7 months
    Plz plz reply I'm getting desperate and I'm have a mental break down and keep thinking if I step in front of a car it would be all over
    Ellie boo

    Firstly, you mum can do something and if you speak to her and are sure you have not been saying unkind things about this girl then your mum can speak to your teacher and get you an apology for the detention. Most importantly you must remember that puberty is a hard time for lots of teenage girls and very often friends can have fall outs. The trick is to not let these get to you and move on quickly once a row has occured. It maybe that in time you and this girl can patch things up, or that ultimately you can no longer be good friends and will grow apart, but this can be done without malice and ill feeling.

  • Hi part 2/3 ๐Ÿ˜”
    In dt (l) came up to me and my friend and she called me a rude b**** my friend went straight to the teacher and told the teacher just said she was being a snitch and not to lie I was almost crying so when the teacher had spoken to me (l) went and said I called her worthless and inhuman I don't even know waht that means. The teacher gave me a detention and my friend. We did not even say it. I have had enough now and don't know what to do no teachers will listen
    Ellie boo

  • Hi part 1/2 ๐Ÿ˜”
    I have a strong groop of friends and a best friend
    This girl said to me do u like me (she is (l) , she was one of my best friends)
    Then when I said yes she said u are such a lier u really hate me. So the next day I did not even talk to her she kept pestering me (hugging to annoy me,shouting my name,bumping in to me on purpose) then on kik she was shouting at me over the last 4 days I have cryed each day non stop. It is making me really depressed
    Ellie boo

    My response is in Part Three.

  • hi vicki
    i really hope this is not inappropriate but..
    there is a strange smell down there even when i am not on my period
    and i have heavy discharge
    and i am at the age that i am legally allowed to have sex
    can you help me stop tht smelly and reduce my discharge because i am scare because i have a boyfriend and we what to have sex
    thx linda

    Hi Linda, I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to reduce the amount of discharge you release and it is normal to notice a slight natural odour from discharge but this should be nothing too offensive.  You might like to try using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  Try to remember that discharge works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.

  • Hello vicky so I have been having discharge for a while now and today I noticed brown/red discharge is this my period and also my boobs have started to hurt lately and I have been having stomach cramps

    This is your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 13 but I'm wearing a 36D, but it's too tight! I fear there's something very wrong with me. People say that I'm too developed, that I'm a freak! Help a sister out!
    Thanks,
    Nancyโ˜…

    Nancy, there is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be no matter what your age, so ignore any of these silly comments, we all develop at different times and you may be fuller cupped than your friends but this does not mean there is anything wrong.

  • I have had my period for over a year now I'm 13.
    I've recently missed my period for 20 days then today I recieved a brown watery discharge like stuff?
    what is it?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your body to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • i know my my mum knows that i know about it (sex) but we don't talk about it so what is maturbation?????? can you put this in sex and feelings thank you vikkixx

    Masturbation is when someone touches their genitals and notices a nice feeling from doing so.

  • Hi vicki
    My mum never comes clothes shopping cause apparantly she's always to busy. And I really need new bras. So I finaly managed to get her to order some from online but none of them fit so I told her that she needs to take them back. But I don't think she relised that I still need new bras since they didn't fit. I don't want to ask her for more though cause it's so awkward... What should I do?

    You really do need speak to your mum about this matter and try not to worry, even though she is busy she will still want you to feel comfortable and supported.

  • Hi Vicki
    I put a finger 'up there' in January and when I took it out there was blood on it. This happened for a week then it stopped.Was that my period? It is now December and it hasn't happened again I've just been releasing discharge and I have been for about year. Please help xxโ™ฅ

    This could have been your period or alternatively it could have been that you cut yourself when inserting a finger inside your vagina, either way try not to worry your period cannot  be too far away if you have been  experiencing discharge for such a long time.

  • So all my life i've been growing around 2 inches a year, i started puberty around march in year 5 and now im in year 8 and i started my period a few days after my 13 ( a month ago). So i was just wonderung if i will have a growth spurt because i heard you dont grow as much after your first period but im only 4 ft 9, tanner stage 2.7 ( according to a tannrr stage calculator) and i havent reached my peak growth yet

    It would be impossible for me to estimate how much you might grow as everyone is different and develops at their own pace.

  • How long does it take for a sample pack to arrive as i would like to know
    When to expect mine

    I think a sample pack should be received by you within a couple of weeks.

  • Please help
    I feel so ugly and horrible. My face is patchy and vainy and when i try put makeup over it it looks worse. I sometimes cry because everyone else can cover it up and i can't
    please give me some advice?

    Try not to worry and remember that puberty is naturally a time when teens struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so it really is no wonder that they develop a poor self-image.  As your skin is patchy, ask your mum if she can buy some tinted moisturiser for you to even up the skin tones or ask if you could ask the advice of a beauty consultant in your local Boots or large department store.  they will be able to offer alternatives to help you feel less self-conscious.

  • What do you define to be immature (in a person)?

    It's quite difficult as some people can be naturally silly but this does not make them immature. Some people giggle when difficult conversations come up, but again this does not necessarily make them immature either. So I guess what I'm saying is that immaturity can be different for each of us.

  • Hi. I am a twin and am finding things a bit difficult at the moment. My sister is always getting in trouble with our parents (messy room etc.) and so sometimes my Mum vents about it to me. I feel like my parents don't understand that I spend way more time with her than they do and I am the one who listens to both my Mum and sister vent. I am no Angel and so I don't want to sound hypocritical if I were to speak to my parents about it. It's making me feel sad. What should I say?x

    Have a quiet word with your parents letting them know how you feel and that you hope they understand that because you are both twins you should not be judged equally or made to feel bad about each others behaviour. I am sure they will understand.

  • i have been on my period for 15 days!
    please help

    Periods can last for longer than average for the first few years, but if you have any concerns about the length of this period have a chat to your mum and she may decide to pop you along to your GP for a check up.

  • 64cm underneath
    75cm on bust
    What size is this?
    Thankyou!

    Your bust size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki,

    So im in year 6 and we have all sent in our secondary school applications and i am the only girl who wants to go to this school all my other friends want to go to separate schools as well and i dont want to be all by myself we are ALL going to be split up. Sorry for going in a bit

    Jasmine

    It is normal for us to fear the unknown but the thing is that you should try to have faith in your parents' and your choice of school as opportunities of meeting new friends await you and who knows, you might meet your best friends for life.  Try not to worry as you will adjust in time.

  • Ive had my period for almost a year. Im 15. Its a medium heaviness flow and i am okay woth handling pain etc (cramps aches) but one thing i dont understand is sometimes my period come exact a month after sometimes it come 1 or 2 weeks early. Because of this im so confused with the whole knowing when it will come. Any reasonswhy?
    Thanks

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years.

  • I am thirteen and have a lot of older friends, seventeen at the oldest. I hang round with them but I'm in basically no lessons with them, I'm in a few GCSE classes but the not with older ones. I hardly ever have anyone to work with or sit by because I don't really have friends in my year ๐Ÿ˜ญ Can you suggest what I could do??

    The most simplest answer is to start making friends of your own age and have a good mix of friends of all ages.

  • Hi vicki
    I have read other girls worried about being overweight and you said that they need to eat healthy and get exercise but the thing is I do eat healthy but I also eat lots of chocolate stuff. Do you know how I could not eat so much chocolate?
    Thanks

    Next time you fancy a chocolate bar, drink a glass of water and then dance, skip or walk for 10 minutes to take your mind off this temptation.

  • I think you should make scented liners/pads/towels.
    Hamburger

    Thank you for your suggestion.

  • This morning I was really thirsty and hungry so I had a bowl of cereal and milk, a glass of orange juice and a cup of tea. But then my stomach got really sore and it was aching(I don't even know if it was my stomach, I'm just guessing it was) and it was like this for about half an hour. Do you think everything's ok?

    Yes I am sure all is well and it may be that you ate everything a little too quickly without taking your time.

  • Hi Vicki
    There's a boy in my class and I have him on my social media things so we talk quite a bit and wen we get into a conversation on social media things he seems to really like talking to me but I find that I'm always the 1 to start the conversation but he does always reply wen I do is there any reason y he wudnt want to start the conversation or am I just thinking about it to much
    Thanx Gabby

    He may be shy Gabby, so try not to worry, if he didn't want to chat to you he would not respond.

  • Do you have to have a baby or could you just adopt one if you want a kid?
    Can you never were tampons?

    If you prefer to adopt a child rather than have one naturally, then this is your decision and perfectly possible. As for tampons you do not have to wear these and indeed some ladies only ever wear pads throughout their menstrual life.

  • hii so i am 15 and have gain a bit of weight over the past few years.
    so before puberty when i was like 10/11 i was really skinny and tiny and when i was like 13 and 1/2 i started gaining weight
    I'm wondering if when i finish puberty, will i loose some weight because of hormones or will i keep the weight on ? :(
    im 167 cm and 60 kg

    It is normal for girls to gain weight during puberty as limbs become longer, hips widen and breasts become fuller and rounder but all of this is perfectly natural and nothing to worry about.

  • Hiya Vicki

    I'm just wondering something. On your previous answers you say the Laws of Consent means a boy or man can't have any sexual relationships with a girl under the age of 16. What about if a girl over 16 had a sexual relationship with a boy inset the age of 16?! Or a girl over 16 and a girl under 16? Or a boy over 16 and a boy under 16? Or a girl and boy both under 16?! Are these things also illegal?

    Thanks, Lottie๐Ÿ’ž

    Lottie the law protects both males and females if they are under the age of 16 from being sexually intimate with anyone of any age.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Im almost 13 and I have had discharge for about 6 months, it makes my pants feel really wet but I dont know how to ask my mum for liners.
    Also when you have your first period will it be alot of blood? x

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the vagina together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  Try not to feel embarrassed about asking your mum for liners as she was a young girl going through puberty herself once.  You will have to wait and see how heavy or light your menstrual flow is once your period arrives as everyone is different.

  • Hey vicki, is it normal to have a size 10B (australian size( for a 13 year old ?

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have had brown discharge mixed in with normal discharge about 3 times now. Is this my period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Is it illegal to date someone who is 16 when you are 13/14? X

    It is not unlawful to date, but it would be against the law for you to be sexually intimate in any way.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 14 have started my periods but am still basically flat chested! It bugs me because all my friends have boobs and I don't. I find it awkward changing for sport because everyone has developed and I practically have no boobssome . When they ever grow?! โ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธ

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and we are all made in different shapes and sizes which is what makes us who we are.  It is possible for breasts to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Do all girls have to wear bras?
    The thing is, i have small breass( 32aa) but i find bras uncomfortable and so i dont like wearing them. So do you have to???
    Please reply, thanks
    -Mimi

    Hi Mimi, the choice is yours as nobody says you have to wear a bra, especially if you don't really think you need to just yet.  However, you might like to consider using a training bra at some point as they are soft and unstructured and will enable you to get used to wearing one.

  • I have red discharge... Is this my period? But it isnt like blood pouring out of me its just red discharge...

    Congratulations as this is your period.

  • Hi viki,
    so I have started my period and it is quite heavy. I have recently been leaking a lot and having to wear two pads. My mum keeps saying for me to try out tampons but I am sososo scared of them like how do you put them in and can you die from that rare disease ? Xx
    M.G

    Hi M.G., it's never been easier for you to try using tampons than now as Lil-Lets teens Super non-applicator tampons have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection enjoyed by millions of females all over the world.  It is good to know all the facts and toxic shock syndrome (TSS) is such a rare illness, it only affects around 40 people in the UK each year.  You can get it from things like insect bites, burns, after having surgery or occasionally when you are menstruating and using a tampon. If you were to notice a sudden high fever, dizziness, diarrhoea, sickness, muscle aches, a sore throat and a rash that looks like sunburn; remove the tampon straight away and seek urgent medical attention.  Try to remember that this an extrememly rare occurrence.

  • I have a 60cm underbust and a 72cm bust. What size bra should I wear?

    28A is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki :)
    I think there's a boy I like... I'm not really nervous around him, we're pretty good friends but I do get jealous if he talks to another girl. He's down to earth, maybe that's why I like him. I don't really know if the feeling's mutual or not. I know the easiest way to figure it out is to simply ask him but I need more confidence. Are there any common signs that guys show when they like someone? So that I know if I'm heading the right direction if I ask? Thank you :D
    - Dolce

    Hi Dolce, if he chats to you, looks over at you from time to time and always seems to be around, he may like you and if he does then he will let you know when he is ready and not before.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm am getting sometimes orangey,yellowy and sometime white stuff in my pants.i do have panty liners and I do carry spare towls in my school bag. I am only 11 and in year 7 but it seems like nobody wants to be around me and this girl that is really silly is getting all the attention. I know it's kind of wierd but I don't know what discarge is? I think it might be what I'm getting in my knickers ? I don't know...
    Thanks
    Lily-Mai xxx

    Hi, Lily-Mai, this is discharge you are noticing and nothing to worry about, you may even find wearing a pant liner on a daily basis will help you feel cleaner. If you feel you and your friends are growing apart then why not have a chat to them and let them know how you feel, it may be that they had not realised this was happening.

  • Hey viki
    I'm currently wearing a training bra and it doent cover my whole breasts while my friends one fit her perfectly watt should I do I tried getting a bigger sizeit still don't cover it and a 28A dosent fit h at should I do? ???
    Thanx
    Anonymous

    There is no piont guessing what your bra size is, you really do need to measure your under and over bust to find your correct bra size, so have a chat to your mum and either measure together or pop along to your local department store and get measured there.

  • Hey Vicki :) ok so recently I've been "down and out" and miserable for months. When I finally got sorted i was much better. However, my teachers are still concerned. They spoke about me in a tutor meeting and stuff, and now my head of year wants "to talk" it's so obvious it's coz they are worried, but I'm ok. I know they spoke about me because of the fact that one of my close teachers told me. I feel exhausted a lot from all they stuff I do around school. Could this be y? I apparently am "zombie like"

    Take the advice from your teachers because even though you feel a lot better know, they are just making sure can maintain this feeling of well being, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki
    Sorry its not puberty related but i had to ask
    I really want to start going to church and that but i dont know how to mention it to my mum xx
    Lauren
    Ps i have been christened so am technically a christian

    Hi Lauren, I am sure your mum will understand if you say that you would like to visit church and see if this is something you may enjoy in the future. Why ask if you can both go and visit your local church, or if you have a friend that currently goes, then why not go along with them.

  • Why haven't my boobs grown when I'm 12?

    Breasts can grow at any time from the ages of 8 onwards and can continue to grow into your late teens or early twenties so you really have no need to be worried.

  • Hi, vicki!
    I'm in ppyear 6 and have started my period, but they sometime become quite heavy and it always feels like it's leaking, but I don't know how to tell my teacher about it, because in case I actualy come on without realising, I'd need to tell her. Do you have any tips on how to approach a teacher?
    Thanks x
    Glitteryglam

    You could ask your mum  to phone the school and have a chat to your teacher, alternatively consider wearing a pant liner on a daily basis to ensure you and your underwear are protected at all times.

  • hi Vicki,
    I am so confused . There is a guy that I really like. one minute i'm almost certain he likes me back and the next he is acting like a best friend. is there anyway i'll be able to tell if he likes me back. if there is away please ley me know

    thank you
    xxx

    Be patient and carry on chatting to this boy as a friend, when he feels more confident he will let you know.

  • How can you tell if your breasts are sagging and whether you need an under wired bra?

    Breasts generally sag with age and this is not something you need to be worried about as a teenager and generally an underwired bra is only necessary for the fuller bust.

  • I don't know if I'm just being stupid, but I think I could have depression and/or general anxiety disorder. I've done a LOT of research, but I'm scared to tell someone I know because I don't think they'll take me seriously. I don't know if I do or not, but I just want to know if there is something wrong with me, or if I'm just being a wimp. I have a lot of symptoms, so I won't list them, I just want some advice. Thanks :)

    Puberty is a hard time for teenagers and you will very often find that your mood can change from one minute to the next; this does not however mean you are depressed or suffering with anxiety, this can only ever be diagnosed by a medical professional, so please have a chat to your parents and let them know how you are feeling and they will be able to advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki

    I was on this app that u can talk to people and some1 asked me to take a photo of my vagina and post it to them i did. And I told my mum they asked me to do it but I didn't. Anyway that was ages ago but I can't forget about it i know it's wrong wot can i do I don't want to tell her she will kill me. Plez help
    :)

    I am sure your mum has spoken  to someone about this website in an effort to get it and the person in question removed and investigated for requesting inappropriate pictures of girls. For your part never speak to anyone you do not know in person and always let your mum know which sites you are visiting so she has total  visibility.

  • Hey Vicki. Basically, there's this girl who I used to be best friend's with but we grew apart during the last few years. And today I found out that she's leaving the school and moving elsewhere..I'm so upset. I can't talk to her about it because we're not close anymore. Have you any ideas what I can do to stop feeling emotional?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, in life people will come and go from time to time, so rather than feeling sad, think of the great fun you have shared in the past and if you see her wish her well with her move.

  • (Part 2)
    They don't want me to be on such a social networking thing, but they don't understand that I really want to. How could I persuade them to let me? I'm not sure they'll understand, and I'm really scared if they think it's to chat to boys n stuff, but I don't want to do that, I just want to befriend my friends before they completely leave me out of everything. Plus, I'm not on any other social networking, so I dunno. But I really wanna be on Instagram.
    CloudyMelonFruit

    Why not let them know that you are feeling left out of your friendship group as they mostly communicate by Instagram and that if they let you have it, you will be more than happy for them to have access to it also. However, if they say no you really should abide by their wishes.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I really want Instagram coz I feel left out at school. Everybody in the form room has it, except for me, and that's all they talk about. I went to a friends house a few days ago, and mod of the time, she was on Instagram. Nobody texts me, and even if I text them, they don't reply. I could download it if I wanted to, but my Parents probably don't want me to have it.
    (Part 1)

    See my response in Part Two.

  • I am 11 I have no boobs and I still wear a bra 30a and it is way too big for me but if I don't then all the girls will laugh at me

    Wearing a bra that is too large can make your breasts a little sore, so why not consider wearing a crop top for a little while until your breasts have developed further and ignore any silly comments from others, we all develop at different times and true friends will understand this.

  • Can you take paracetamol for cramps because I do that. I know Ibprophen is usually stronger but I'm allergic.

    You can take paracetamol, but only under adult supervision and only when the pain is very bad. It would be better to do some gentle exercise to help ease any discomfort or ask for a hot water bottle.

  • I cant concentrate on anything I am in love pls help

    Love can do this, but it does pay to carry on seeing friends and family and not making your life only about your new love, after all it pays to have some exciting stuff to share with him that you have done, so don't stop spending time with others around you.

  • PART 2
    I hate it and i had a bad pabic attack this morning (they trigger easily. I cant take all of the stress i have anyway and now i have this. How can i get those pictures down and resolve. Im not biased, ive genuinely not done anything wrong. Thx

    If these pictures sit on your friends profiles there really is not much you can do if they do want to remove them. But try not to worry because as time goes by they will most likely replace these pictures and I am sure you look fine and try not to break friends over this matter if you can.


  • PART 1
    Hi. So, im not talking to my friends becase ive asked them to take down some photos online that really make me feel insecure. One of them was really shouty about it and theyve all ganged up on me. They wont and they dont understand how bad they make me feel. They say that it will ruin their profiles and that its not fair on anyone else in the background. Ive asked nicely but

    See  my repsonse in Part Two.

  • Where can you buy the sachet wipes in the shop can you do it in boots?

    Yes Boots, Tesco and Asda too.

  • Hi vicki
    Does when your period started have any effect on when your breasts will stop growing? For example, if someone started their period when they were 8 and someone else started when they were 18, would their breasts stop growing at the same age or would it be different because they started their periods at different ages?

    Breasts can continue to develop until your late teens or early twenties regardless of when  your period arrived.

  • I have got lots of spots and blackheads.My mum believes that it is a normal thing in pubety.Is it true? How would i ever get rid of them.I tied lots of skincare products however it still doesn't work.Have you got any ideas?

    Blackheads are quite common during puberty when more oil is produced in the skin. Using a facial wash twice a day will help, as will exfoliating twice a week. Finally, ensure you remove all  make-up and even better avoid any foundation, face powders or tinted moisturisers as these can block your pores and increases blackheads.

  • Hi Vicky,I'm Jane.I recently got my period but it is brownish/yellow and sometimes pinkish red.My mum and sister is sure that it is period but i'm not sure.Well...when i use a tissue and wipe my....private,it is red! How comes it turns brown?Is it really period?I remember that i had discharge for about 4 months.I thought that you get discharge for 6-12 months.Its normal isn't it?

    Hi Jane, menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to red and can also change to a brownish colour when dried up, so I have to agree with your mum and sister on this occasion and say that this is almost certainly your period.

  • Hi Vicki,I'm Jane.I started my first period lately and finished it.My breast has grown a bit.I have also noticed that my breast bud has flatten a bit.I have had breast buds for 3 years! When is the breast buds going to go away.It also hurts a lot when i touch it.Is this normal?

    Hi Jane, breast buds are the start of breast development and your breasts will  continue to grow from this area and become softer over time and yes they can feel a little tender or sore when touched.

  • Hiya Vicki
    I'm 15 and feel I am more than ready to start dating I really like this boy and he has asked me out a few times but I have said no because I'm not aloud. I have asked my mum a few times can I and she says that I'm to young I have tried telling her that I'm not and I really like this boy but nothing works!! This boy has had gfs before but not steady 1s I am woried if I wait to long he will move on and get a steady gf. I no I shudnt go behind my mum's bak but I really want a bf
    thanx georgiexx

    Hi Georgie, rather than go behind your mum's back, why not invite this boy round as a friend for tea, so your mum can meet him and get to know him...you never know she may be more inclined to let you date once she has met him.

  • Hi vicki
    I got my first period today (5th dec) and just going to ask why is it so heavy
    Ps my mum gave me lil lets pads. They're awesome!

    Glad you like our pads and don't worry the amount of blood we lose can vary from person to person and period to period, we really are all different you see.

  • Hey vicki,
    How long will it be ad ter first experiencing PMS and having a heavier discharge until I have my first period ? Thanks xxx

    Not everyone experiences premenstrual syndrome, but as a rule discharge is noticed for about 6-12 months before the arrival or your first period.

  • I now this might sound strange but I masturbate a lot and when I do it's always about girls dose this mean I'm gay? X

    It is not unusual to masturbate during your teenage years or find you think of different things when you do. During puberty all sorts of thoughts will cross your mind and this is nothing to worry about.

  • How do you no if your in love?

    Falling in love is very different to having a crush, for most people being in love is about caring for someone so much you would do anything for them and not just when you first meet but many, many years later. You also learn to accept them for who they are love them for being that person.

  • This is sooo embarrassing. Yesterday i was looking at my vagina in the mirror and saw a huge hole and i stuck my finger in with a condom from my dads draw and put my finger in after i pulled it out there was this milky stuff. Is that semen i heard my friends talking about it.
    thanks vicki you have helped me through my springtime. xoxoxo get back to me soon

    The vagina is full of fluid that keeps it clean and free from infection and this is most likely what you have noticed and not semen, which is made in the testes of a man.

  • Are you watching I'm a celebrity? If so, who do you want to win?

    I'm not watching this programme and I do not really know who is in the show, but I am sure it is great fun to watch.

  • Hi viki ,
    Is it normal for a girl to have a period and not have stomach aches or back aches ? I got my periods 5 days ago yet I haven't felt Any symptoms , is this normal ? Xx

    It is very normal for lots of people to never experience any discomfort or pain either during or before their period so please try not to worry.

  • hi so when I go for my bra measure thing for the first time do i have to take my top off?
    pls tell me how it all is
    thanks xoxox

    Most sales assistants are happy to take your measurements over your top so please try not to worry, assistants are trained to be sympathetic to any embarrassment you may be experiencing.

  • Could you please suggest some websites to help me stop cutting?

    You really must get some professional help to guide and support you through this problem and that starts by speaking to your parents or teacher letting them know that this is something you do, they will not judge you and I am sure will want to help. You could also visit the website : http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_children_young_people/whats_worrying_you/self-harm...this has a section for children and young people just like you.

  • I asked my step mum if I could order a free sample of your tampons and liners etc and she said yes, but my dad works at home and I'm worried if they turn up on the doorstep and he sees that they're lil-lets tampons that I've ordered, it quite embaressing.. What kind of packaging do you products come in?? C xxx

    Don't worry our packs come in plain brown wrapping and do not have the word Lil-Lets anywhere on the wrapper.

  • hi vicki its Megan p :)
    i had some browny red stuff in my knickers a week ago on saturday but only on saturday i havent had anymore since that day i dont know if this is a period coz surley i would have some more rather than just one day but anyway i wear 30aa bras and have hair down there but i havent had stomach aches or anythung im scared please reply asap! i dont know how to tell mum. i have pads anyway coz me and mum brought some of the lilets ones ages ago but yeah HELP!!!!

    This could have been your first period as sometimes they can be light and last for a very short length of time. My advice would be to keep some of our Lil-Lets pads purchased by your mum with you when out and about from now on, just in case another period arrives in the future.

  • I'm on my 5th period and its lasted nearly a week - is this normal??xx

    A period can last for between 2-10 days so this is really nothing to worry about.

  • There's a girl in my class who is 13 and so am I. She has a 16 year old boyfriend and she said that he pressured her into having sex with her and that she really regrets it. Could i report him to the police for "rape" I won't, but I'm curious to know what would actually happen if I did, Jodie x

    Hi Jodie, no one should be forced into doing anything that they are uncomfortable with and of course you could speak to someone in authority about what you have learned, but this really is your friend's business and it may be a good idea to have a chat to her first asking her if she wants to pursue this matter further and that you will be there to support her whatever her decision.

  • Im 12 years old and i havnt had my first period but i just got brown discharge and it turned to red discharge. It wasnt like full red but there was definately red mixed in there. What would this be??

    This would almost certainly be your first period, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will ensure you have some products to keep your underwear clean going forward.

  • COULD I GET EBOLA BY WEARING A TAMPON?

    No, there is no evidence to say that this would be the case.

  • I feel the need to have it (sex) and sometimes my vagina throbs when I see it on tv shows and then I feel disgusted after I have masturbated is this wrong 214๐Ÿ’—

    It is very natural for you to have feelings of a sexual nature and this is called sexual arousal, but it does not mean you have to have sexual intercourse and there is nothing wrong with masturbation.

  • Hi vicki,
    I have being having discharge for nearly 4 years now im fully developed have boobs and hair down there but i still havent got my period. Everybody who is at the same stage in ouberty at my school have got it and even some people who are younger. Im neraly 14 and my mum and sister started when they were 13. Im kinda worried even though you can start when your sixteen im fully developed! Thank you...xox

    Actually you can start your period anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive, you just have to be patient and let your body work out the right time just for you.

  • Can I get a free sample to try out your products?

    Yes of course, click on the word contact at the bottom of the page, add your name and address and in the comment box as for a sample letting me know that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request samples.

  • Part 2:
    It's the strong girl again :3 so ya I live out my day at school as a normal person but at home I do that thing all the time, so it's wierd no one knows about it, and I get lost in my own fantasy a I create in my brain while I'm doing the certain swinging action?? Do I need to speak with a doctor help? :( I'm scared that I'm messed up, but have you ever heard anything about this? And is it bad? I'm sorry for so many questions and oh another thing: it's been going on since I can remember.

    Hi Kiarra, try not to worry a great many teens and adults for that matter build up a fantasy world for when they are at home, putting themselves in fabulous situations and building up an entire story behind it. This is called using your imagination and nothing to worry about.

  • Part 1:
    So I've never ever told anyonel about this so here goes. I am different, uh I have this thing that I do were i take strings and I swing them around. My parents know o that but they don't know why and I've never told anyone why but here goes: I imagine things. I make up stories in my head and live them.but I only have that ability when I'm swinging. It's usualy stories about books or movies but I always make up my own stories for the charactors, and it's really interesting -Kiarra

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi! I had a question but I still have no answer! It has been a year! Can you please explain why I have to wait? Thanks! :)

    What was your question?