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  • hi vicki its charlotte and am 11 years old my hymen is really big and i haven't has sexual intercourse or used a tampon or put my finger up my vagina is this normal thanks

    Hi Charlotte, hymens very often stretch during exercise so please try not to worry about this.

  • hi vicki when are you going to do more interviews i love watching them thanks

    We are working on our 2015 plans at the moment, so keep visiting us to see what great things we have planned for you all.

  • Hi Vicki, Hope your ok xx
    I recently (2 weeks ago) had a BIG argument with a close friend. In this instance she was wrong and admitted it, we made up and she was ready to go back to being as close as sisters again. I don't really feel like I can do that though. I have forgiven her but I still feel like I want some spave from her. In the past when I have tried to distance myself from her she has taken offence and got really angry. I am really stuck and confused. Have you got any tips/advice? Thank you πŸ’•πŸ’•

    Why not explain that as you get older you need wider friendship groups and that it is important to get to know new people and have a little time away from each other as you meet new people. Reassure her that you are still going to be good friends and that this will not impact on your friendship one bit.

  • hi vicki its this boy in my class am in y7 and he takes the balloon drug and he's always high on it and he keeps on saying your tidy have sex with me some time Im waiting please answer me even if it sounds inapporte am worried thanks vicki

    Please speak to your teacher if you feel this boy is taking drugs and being inappropriate and they will deal with this matter on your behalf.

  • i have had one period so far for my second should i try a tampon or a pad?

    If you wish to try a tampon and your mum or the person who cares for you is happy for you to do so, then I see no reason why not and you may find our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons a great start, as they are shorter and narrower than other brands but just as important and ideal for first time users.

  • hi vicki i am 11 years old and everybody skits me because i am VERY tall i ma taller than my dad

    We very often take after family members in height and this is nothing to worry about.

  • hi vicki i hoe this is nothing bad but my mum said dint use talons and i went out and bought some and use them and bought your brand they are zoo comfortable and my mum found out and now she's not talking to me thanks

    I am sure your mum is hurt that you did not respect he wishes, but now you have tried themn and found them comfortable you may want to share this news with your mum and hopefully she will let you continue using them. Remember that reading the leaflet enclosed with every pack of tampons from time to time is very important and let your mum know that you do this too.

  • Hi Vicki,

    So a week ago my friends who I've known all my life got into a fight. They don't go to my school but used to talk everyday. There are three of them A,B,C and me and B were the closes and she's the one who refuses to talk to me but so does C. A talks to me but she can still be rude. I do t know what to do

    Why not let them know that you regret what happened last week and hope you can all move on and continue being friends. Hopefully they will apologise too and you can get back to normal.

  • Hello vicki I wear 30aa bra and it's moulded is this alright ?

    If you feel comfortable and it fits correctly then I see no reason why you should not continue wearing it.

  • Hi

    Basically i wear a size 32a bra and when i sit on my side my bra gets loose and it leaves space? It doesn't do that when i sit up straight tho? I don't hav a measuring tape and i don't wanna get measured at shop

    Elle xx

    Hi  Elle, this happens to lots of us and does not mean that your bra no longer fits so please try not to worry.

  • If you're on your period, and it's really heavy and you don't drink enough water or get any sleep or eat enough iron can you faint or pass out and how long does it take? I'm not going to do it just curious xx you're very pretty

    Eating and drinking not only when on your period but also when going through puberty is very important as your body needs so many calories to keep you healthy. 

  • Hi Vicki, so basically I'm really insecure because of my hairy arms and I want to shave except my mum doesn't like it. I don't want to wax because I hate the idea and the only shaving razor I have is from veet. So can can I shave without my mum noticing?

    You should never go against your mum's wishes, so why not wait a while and ask her again about removing underarm hair, possibly when the warmer weather is here.

  • hi vicki :) x
    it's rach again I don't know if u can answer this but if u can please please do!:) xxx so I reaaaaaally wanna be a professional dancer when I grow up but I don't think I'm good enough I am grade 4 ballet and grade 5 modern and I also do an invitation only ballet class but I'm not sure how I could become a dancer cuz it's really competitive please help I don't wanna be anything else when I grow up so I'm stuck :(
    thanks rach xxxxxxxx

    Hi Rach, have a chat to your teacher and if she feels you have the talent to become a professional dancer she will be able to advise you on the steps you need to take to make this happen.

  • What size am I it's Elizabeth hi so I don't have a measuring tap but I am wearing a 30aa and i am 13

    Your age will have no impact on your bra size,  but if your current  bra feels comfortable then  I would not worry too much and in the future ask your mum to pop you along  to your local store to be measured.

  • Hi it's elizabeth thxs or answering my question this is a helpful website so I lik boys but am unsure about the bisexual bit and I don't like having a shower on my period because the blood and I don't know if to masterbatet

    Hi Elizabeth, there is no reason why you cannot shower or bathe when on your period, in fact it is good to keep clean by doing so.

  • Hello, how are you? I'm worried about my period.. I haven't got it at all this month and I don't know what to do. Im really worried. I've asked my mum but she's said to wait a week and if nothing comes I'll have to o see a doctor.. But.. Is it normal to miss your period for a month? I got it when I was 11 or 12 and I'm 15 now and this is the first time it's happened.

    Hi, I am very well thank you. Periods can be irregular during  your teenage years even when they have been regular before, your body will still be experiencing fluctuating hormone levels which can very often delay a period.

  • Hi Vicki
    Last week I has a really sore back/sides and had a fever and felt sick so my mum took me to the doctors and they thought I might have a kidney infection but they weren't sure cause my urine was fine so they have me antibiotics for 3 days and the pain went away. That finished on Thursday and now my back/sides are sore again. I did do gymnastics in PE today and we did sit ups but that was all the exercise I did. What should I do?

    I would have another chat to your mum as you have already said it may be the exercise you are doing that is causing this pain, so why not sit out of these particular exercise next time and see if the pain  goes away.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have light-ish purple stretch marks on my breasts...
    Will they ever go away?
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, yes they will fade in time and you may find my blog on Stretchmarks useful to read.

  • Hi vicki
    I have several questions.
    I have had discharge for about 10-12 months when do you think I will get my period? My mum got hers when she was about 12 -13 I am 13 in September I get lots of stomach pains as well in my lower back and all over my stomach. I am a bra size 32aa and I was wondering is the the band on my bra supposed to lie flat on my ribs.
    Lilly
    P.s I love you website and teens liners I use them they are brilliant

    Hi Lilly, I doubt you will have much longer to wait for the arrival of your period and you may find my blog entitled Does Your Bra Fit Properly? useful to read.

  • i have discharge evrey day wearing liners but still not having my period is it comming its im 11 my mum had it at 12

    Discharge can be noticed for up to a year, sometimes longer before the arrival of your period so please try not to worry. It is worth remembering too that we do not all follow the same pattern as family members for the arrival of our periods or the flow we experience.

  • Hi Vicky, I started my period on the 8th of jan for the first time and now I have found some dark red blood when I went to the toilet this morning, I am really worried as I'm not due on my period for another 8 days yet.
    What is happening?

    First periods can have  short or long gaps between each one for the first few years so please try not to worry this is all very normal and simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • I am 13 years old. I am moderately flat chested but my nipples and areola are well on their way to being formed and often stick out and show through tops. I feel really uncomfortable asking my mum to go shopping for a small bra or even just wearing one because I have two younger siblings who will make fun of me and always comment "your boobs will stick out" and just make me feel really awkward and uncomfortable.

    Have a private word with your mum and ask if you can have a one on one  shopping day just the two of you, letting her know how you feel, just like you have told me. I am sure she will understand and even have a quiet word with your sisters about teasing too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have a friend (boy) that I used to fancies. Now, I have a "boy friend" and the boy is really angry if anyone talks about the boy. Does that mean he fancied me? He also sings "Everybody wants to steel my girl" and looks sad. I don't want to say anything but all of his friends says to me that I have broken his heart.
    Also, I am 12 and my bf is 14, is that OK?
    Thanks,
    Olivia

    Hi Olivia, if  your friend did not speak up and let you know he liked you romantically then you have nothing to feel bad about and should ignore any comments and continue chatting as friends. As for your boyfriend, it really is a case of what your parent's think  with regard to your age difference. So why not have a chat to them and see how they feel about it.

  • Hey vicky i just want to know over 2 months i only got my period 1 day ? And alot discharge like evryday my panty stays wet

    Discharge is often noticed in between periods even if they have  only lasted  for just one day. Remember too that periods can have long gaps between each one for the first few years.

  • Should I be wearing a padded bra even if I am a AA? X

    I see no reason for you to wear a padded bra if your cup size is an AA but if it make you feel comfortable then continue to do so.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 16 now and I've never had a boyfriend or kissed a guy ! I just feel so embarrassed even though guys have liked me in the past and called me pretty. how can I get a boyfriend ? :(

    You may be surprised to learn that a great many people now wait until their late teens or early twenties before they date and by getting to know lots of people as friends first, you may just find that one of these friends becomes more once you have got to know them.

  • IM 11 ABD I HAVE BEEN GRWING BOOBS SINCE I WAS 10.MY SWEAT SMELL HAS CHANGED AND I HAVE SOME LIGHT PUBIC HAIR. SOMETHIMES MY DISCHARGE IS YELLOW AND OTHER TIMES ITS WHITE AND SMELLS LIKE FISH, I HAVE HAD THAT FOR5 MONTHS X WHEN WILL I GET MY PERIOD?

    Hi, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait and I would chat  to your mum so she can purchase some pads or liners for you to keep in your school bag from now on.

  • Hi Vicki
    I was just wondering because I often feel quite sore down there. It can get itchy and red but I have been to the doctors and they said I was fine but that was a few years ago now. She said that an infection is often a sign of your first period....but it still hasn't come.
    I have experienced all of the symptoms but I am 14 which is late compared to all of my friends. Feel so left out when they talk about them. Please explain.
    Thanks x

    A period can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18 so please try not to worry and consider what toiletries, washing detergent or toilet roll you use that may be making  you sore in this area.

  • Hey Vicki I'm 13 years old my period usually last 3 days but my period is quite annoying because when I go on holidays my period rewind them it makes me feel upset because my mum puts so much effort into the holidays but I don't have fun because my period and it makes my mum sad because where we're not close I don't tell her anything please help me I would like to stop my period for when I go on holidays what's the best thing to do ? Should I go on the pill xx

    The contraceptive pill will delay your period if taken but not all doctors will prescribe it and I am inclined to advise you to not let your period stop the enjoyment  of your holiday and instead work out the right form of sanitary protection just for you and your flow.

  • hi! ok so my parents are split and I see my dad every other weekend and I'm normally downstairs on the tablet or watching TV with him. sometimes I go upstairs to go on the tablet before going to bed and every time after I set it down I just feel really sad and I don't know why because I only really get it at my dads. I'm thinking of coming over more like twice a week but I don't know. ugh I sort of just needed to get this out of my system but do you know why I'm feeling this way? I'm 12 1/2 btw. ly!
    -FD

    Have a chat to both your mum and dad about these feelings, it may be that you feel unsettled by visiting only every other week and possibly need to increase these visits a little, but don't make concrete plans and take any changes to your routine slowly so you can see if they suit you and make you feel better.

  • Hi Viki,I've been talking to this boy for weeks now and he says he likes me but He hangs around with all the chavs and smokes and stuff.He's 2 school years above me. I like him but I don't know if he's just after sex. We have spoke about it and he claims he's not. He keeps asking to meet me and I keep saying I can't beause im a bit scared. He asked me to come to a party tonight and said if I come we can go somewhere alone.I don't want to keep cancelling on him,but he might think I'm fridged. What do I do?x

    If your heart is telling you not to trust this boy, listen to what your body is saying and under no circumstances would I recommend going to this party with him. So for now keep your chats friendly and avoid being alone with him until you are older and sure of his true intentions.

  • whats my bra size please?
    27 under
    33 bust
    im wearing a 32 aa
    katzaik im from scotland.

    Based on these measurements 32A is now your size.

  • Hi vicki I'm really pale and really wanna put on fake tan but don't want it to be too dramatic and orange but I just wanna not be so pale! Plus I don't tan in the sun I just get burnt! Any advice on products for me? Ty xx

    Hi, purchase a medium colour and put moisturiser on your knees, elbows and hands before applying. And once applied rub moisturiser all over the body to avoid streaks and of course wash your hands thoroughly with soap to avoid streaks.

  • Hi vicki
    This year we are going abroad and I really wanna wear a bikini! I'm 14 is that too young to wear one? I don't wanna ask my mam as it would be veryyyy awkward.. XD

    I am sure this is fine and your mum would be happy to take  you shopping for your first bikini, you may find my blog entitled; Summer SOS how to find the perfect swimwear.

  • Hello,
    Recently I've been really moody and stressed, I haven't started my period yet and I've had lots of homework and sometimes I just cry because I have so much :( anyway would me being all stressed and moody have anything to do with periods? I have had discharge for about 3 years now so I was just wondering if it has anything to do with it
    Thanks xxx

    Hi, stress will not be the reason for your period not arriving, it is simply not yet your time, so please try not to worry and read our two great blogs on revision; Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress and Seven Studying Tips.

  • hi,
    so im 12 and in s1 and iv got a friend in s4 woh is gay which i am totaly fine with!!! but she recently got a girl friend, again im ok with that, but the other day i saw theme snoging but for some reason i dident like it and i dont know why it wasent homaphobic or anything i just dident like it:(
    plz help asap
    O.K.M

    Hi, it may be that you were not used to seeing this and it was something very new. I am sure in time you will become more accustomed to this type of behaviour but if it bothers you ask your friend if she can be intimate with her girlfriend in private.

  • Hi
    So during the day (especially at school) I get really sweaty. Like REALLY sweaty. Even when I'm not hot I sweat for no reason. Often, I go to the toilet and see I have huge sweat marks under my arms. Is this normal? Thanks:)

    This is normal because as you enter puberty you will find your body does produce more sweat. My advice is to try using an antiperspirant deodorant as this will not only stop the sweat from forming but also keep you smelling nice too.

  • Hi vicki
    my vagina has started to widen, is this normal. It is normally really thin but all of a sudden it's gone really wide and its freaking me out πŸ’• is this a sign of my first period? (Ive got all the puberty signs and discharge for 8-12 months so I'm just waiting for it to come now)

    Just like the rest of your body is changing so will  your vulva and a change to its shape, colour and size will become more noticeable as continue entering puberty. Why not read my blog entitled Your Reproductive System.

  • I am going to Greece at the time I have my period. I want to go swimming but never used a tampon. I feel really awkward talking to my mum bout periods and stuff. I am going to but ur tampons and try them. I am scared incase something goes wrong? What can I do?

    Just like anything new tampons can take a little practice, but if you read the instructions held inside each leaflet and watch or videos you will quickly learn how to insert and remove one comfortably.

  • Hi vicki
    I am 12 and will be 13 in March but my period still hasn't started! I've gone through lots of changes including pubic hair discharge spots and stomach cramps every so often! Do the stomach cramps mean it will be starting soon? How long?

    Hi, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and with so many signs already noticed you may not have much longer to wait.

  • What happens if you eat your discharge/period blood??

    As a general rule blood and discharge leaves your body for a reason and should never be re-digested.

  • How can I stop my bra constantly riding up? I don't think the band is too big because I'm wearing 32, which you told me was my measurement. πŸ’• thank you

    It may be the straps or the cup size, why not read my blog entitled Does you Bra Fit You Properly?

  • Hi I would love it so much if you could interview little mix! Xx πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰πŸ‰

    They are on our list.

  • Hi viki
    I'm 70cm underneath
    70 full bust
    What are my measurements?
    Plz reply ASAP
    Lolly11

    Lolly, if your under bust and over bust are the same size you do not yet need a bra.

  • We're you excited to get your first bra/ first period?πŸ’ž

    I was 13 when I got a two pack of bras and yes I loved having them and how pretty they were. As for my period, it really did not bother me too much as I was the last of my friends to get it and they had told me what to expect. I was 14 and quickly moved to tampons that allowed me freedom I did not get with pads.

  • Hi Vicki I need help super fast ASAP so I have an underskin spot and I put some cream on but it needs to be gone in the next day because I'm going to London and makeup won't cover I need really quick working remedies please!!! Thank you for your help love holly xx

    Hi Holly, leave the spot alone is my advice, putting lotions or creams on it will only irritate the area and make things worse. Have a great day in London.

  • Hey Vicki
    About 2-3 months ago I had that brown/black fluid in my underwear that you told me was my period and yesterday I got is again at it was really weird and sticky and was bright red. Then I put on a pad and then nothing! Today it's back to dried brown on my underwear! What's going on?!! Thanks :(

    This is your period and is not released all in one go, but rather over a number of days, so keep a pad in your underwear for the next few days and until you have stopped noticing blood.

  • Hi had discharge everyday when will I finall have my period 11 Turing 12 mum had hers at 12 thanks

    Discharge is always a good sign that your period may not be too far away, maybe even in 2015.

  • Is it normal for your first period to only be one day and the next day you get discharge again?

    Yes this can happen and is nothing to be worried about, from now on ensure you keep some pads and liners with you when out and about in preparation for your next period.

  • Is it normal for part of your period to be red and part to be Reddy brown?

    Yes this is very normal and menstrual fluid can vary in colour from day to day or period to period.

  • I do dancing, should I use a tampon ?

    This really is your choice and whether you use a tampon or a slim ultra pad they will  both protect  you during your dancing class.

  • Hello,tomorrow is the last day of the month and I haven't had my period yet and I have been having really really heavy discharge so iam confused

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years so please don't worry if yours is a little late.

  • Hi vicky I'm 14 and my brother is 16, I was sitting in the lounge with my dad and I did something that my brother always does and him and my dad always laugh about it but I got told off when I did it and I feel like my dad hates me , I went and cried. I've always felt like this with my dad, I feel as though sometimes he hates me and it's making me so upset. Thanks xxxxx

    I am sure your dad loves you very much and when  things are calmer you may want to ask him why it is fine for your brother to act this way but not you, it may be that  he felt it was not the act of a female and more of a manly thing, but until you ask you will never know.

  • Hi Vicki! My parents are going to a meeting about Sex Ed next week. I am getting the lessons in a few weeks. I am a bit nervous but I also feel a sense of maturity. What can I expect? Thanks in advance, Abi.

    Hi Abi, depending on the lesson plans your school chooses, you may find they discuss reproduction, sexual attraction and contraception.

  • Hiya Vicki, your the best by the way!!!xx. people tell me their is no way to prepone your period and some people say their is. someone I know drank green tea for 4 days- 3 a day- and she got her period. who should I believe!!!

    Believe me when I tell you there is nothing you can eat, drink or do to make your period arrive any sooner or even  delay it. Your period will arrive when your body knows the time is right for you and not before.

  • I sometimes feel a bit wet on my underwear is it discharge ?

    Yes this is most likely discharge and you can find out all  you need to know about this fluid by clicking on the Puberty tab at the top of the page.

  • Hi Vicki
    This is my third period no and every time I don't know how to tell my mum any of the three times and I haven't even told my mum about this one yet and this is my third day on my period.How do I tell my mum. Also is it possible for my mum to forget about it as last time she kept asking me about it.

    Hi, if you have not spoken to her about this matter and are buying your own protection she may not realise, but I am sure she will be happy to learn you are now menstruating and sensible, so if you cannot ask her face to face then consider sending her a text or writing her a note and leaving it somewhere only she will find it such as her make-up bag, or underwear drawer.

  • Hi Vicky
    I've started my period and puberty but i don't feel attracted to any boys at school.If one of my friends think that some guys fit and ask for my opinion I kinda just think nothing and that it's just a boy. Is that normal?
    Thank x

    Yes this is very normal and nothing to be worried about, we all discover attraction to another person at different times to each other.

  • Hey Vicki Its Jess two days ago I started my period my mum is aware, but in three days I have a swimming session an it's really important I can't miss it but I'm scared of tampons my mum is away I am staying with Nan what do I do?

    Hi Jess, it is unlikely that your period will still be with you in three days and if it is you will most likely find your flow is very light and a tampon will not be necessary.

  • Hi Vicki, my name is ruby I am 12 years old and I have started my period. Although I haven't plucked up the courage to tell my mum we have never ever brought up the topic of puberty, I also need a bra and I don't know when the right time is and how to bring up the conversation of boobs and blood please help!! From Ruby xx

    Hi Ruby, why not find a time in the day when you have about 10 minutes alone and ask  your mum when she got her first period or bra, this will quickly move the conversation over to you and if  you now feel ready.

  • Hi,
    I've been feeling sick for a few days now and my mum said that it could be my period starting is this true?xx

    It may be a sign that your period is due or you may have a little tummy uspet.

  • Hi vicky i have a strong smell in my urine like a urine infection i dident get my period this month did pregnancy test and i get negative is it posible the am pregnant???

    If you have been sexually active you may be pregnant  if contraception was not used, however it is far more likely that you have not drank enough fluid during the day which can often  make urine dark with a strong odour.

  • How long should you keep a pad in before changing it? In school whenever i have had my period i do not change it at school so i keep it in for about 7 hours, i have done this for about 2 years but i was just wondering if that is bad, i know its not very hygienic but i don't like changing it in school. Is it okay if i leave it in for 7 hours when I'm in school? Thanks :)

    A pad can be worn for up to 8 hours, some people change every 3-5 hours but if you feel comfortable with wearing yours for 7 this is fine too.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have just switched to the lil-lets teens range and I am so glad that I did. I just want to thank you for all the questions that you answered that I anonymously asked. Have a nice day :-)

    Orla

    Hi Orla, what lovely feedback I am so glad you find the teens range ideal for your use.

  • Is it bad that I'm only 11 and I'm already into beauty and make up??

    Of course not, it is perfectly fine to be curious about make-up and beauty products but please make sure your parents are fine with this interest.

  • I'm 13 and I don't know if its weird but when I am alone I sometimes (not often) "discover myself". I feel like its wrong but I am self conscious when my friends have beautiful figures and I am awkward. my chest is pointy not round like my friends. And I have a small behind when they are all womanly. If they're not womanly than they're petite and gorgeous. What do i do? I feel like some people see me for what I physically am.

    Here's the thing...during puberty most teenagers feel insecure about their appearance and are a little self-conscious too and I am sure even the girls you think are beautiful feel the same.  Please read my blog entitled Beat Those January Blues for some more on this and many other subjects.

  • Hi Vicki am 25 and I havend had my period this month can't remember if I had a normal period las month but I have experience a lot of discharge this mother can it be possible the am pregnant? I have done pregnancy test at home and the result it negative? Do u have any idea??

    If you have had unprotected sexual intercourse and feel you may be pregnant then I would speak to your GP, especially if you have previously experienced regular periods before.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have been having discharge and I'm 12 but I started having it early on when I was 11 , my mum has confirmed that is discharge but I have yet to have my first period ( I think). Also I went to the toilet as I felt I had wet myself and found it again I then wiped with a tissue and found blood, later on I put a panty liner on and went to bed. The next morning I found reddy-brown dots, is this my period? If this is my period it only lasted one day and the next day I experienced discharge again

    Yes this was most likely your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Okay, so I'm showing lots of signs for my period like tender breasts, pubic hair, discharge and headaches, but still, I haven't started and I am 13 and 4 months!! When the time eventually comes, obviously I will have to tell my mum, but I can't, as I find it really really awkward, and recently I have had to start wearing panty liners, but without her knowing! I need a way to tell her, but not too childish, as I am 13!!
    Thanks so much xxx

    Hi, why not write her a note and leave it in her make-up bag or underwear drawer, letting her know that you feel your period may be here soon  and you need some advice, it is most likely she has been waiting for you to have this chat to her.

  • Hi Vicki
    Just wondering when you go to bed while on your period, do you need to wear knickers? Sorry kinda of silly question, but just wanted to check!
    Thanks xx

    If you wear a pad then yes you need to place a pad inside your underwear. If you sleep for 8 hours or less and wear a tampon there is no need to were underwear if you prefer not to.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Please can you tell me everything you know about ovarian cysts? I was meant to be having an operation on one next week, but I went back for a second scan and they said it had gone... But I still feel sick and painful - I told them this and they said it had gone and so there was nothing they could do. Do you have any advice? Thanks xxxx

    I would imagine these feelings you have are caused by relief following the stress and worry of an operation no longer being necessary. Trust your medical team, ovarian cysts can often disappear without medical intervention so please try not to worry.

  • I do gymnastics and people were crop top as a part of the uniform do you think i should wear one im allowed to, i want too.
    Do you think it suitable for 12 yr old
    And do you wear tou bra underneath the crop top as i dont want my.nipples shoin!
    can you reccomend were i can grt one
    Thanks Heather xalso my friends si theyr goss at gym.

    It is your choice if you want to wear a crop top and if you want to wear one over your bra, so why not try out both options at home and ask your mum what she thinks.

  • Hi Vicki my friend days I'm dirty because I wash my hair once a week. One week I left 2weeks as I was poorly am I dirty

    Not at all, this is very much a personal choice and if you feel that your hair only needs washing once a week then it is no one's businesss but yours.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So, I was due to start my period in about a week and a half, but I went to the toilet yesterday and saw a little bit of blood. Usually I am heavy but so far it has been unusually light. Also, two of my closest friends also share the same pattern as me and we all usally start around the same time and I know they have both started theirs this week too. Is this my period? And if so, is it normal to be this early/light?

    Yes this is your period and very often the flow can vary from period to period and this is nothing to be worried about and all very normal.

  • Part 5 and I don't text him everyday so I wouldn't say I'm clingy. last time I text him was about 2 weeks ago and I really want to text him again (just as friends) but I'm getting really sick of waiting for weeks for him to reply? I feel like he only talks to me when He's bored and I'm like someone he can tell his problems to . Do you think I should just forget about him? I don't want to but I feel like I'm lowering myself by chasing after him all the time. What's your opinion? Thanks x

    I think this boy has moved on and now is the time for you to do the same.  Yes if you see him in person it's okay to say "Hi" and to think fondly of your friendship and the memories you shared. But now is the time to focus on you and your future, so my advice is to stop texting and start getting to know a new set of friends.

  • Part 4
    But he besicallu kept texting me about how sad he was she left. But he also said that some girl had kissed him when he was there but I didn't believe him at first until his best friend( who was on holiday with him) said he had seen them. Once he got back he stoped texting me, despite me trying to start conversations every so often. I will send him a message saying hi and won't get a reply for a week yet he is always glued to his phone?

    See part five.

  • Part 3
    We just went out as friends though, and that was fun and I started to really like him. But then he went on holiday to Turkey and we didn't talk as much which I understood as I was on holiday to and obviously wouldn't want to be on my phone 24/7 but then he did a start texting me. He was telling me about this amazing beautiful girl staying at his hotel and how it was his "dream girl" and it really upset me at the time but apparently she left the next day... Part 4..

    See part four.

  • Hi Vicki is it normal to habe discharge for juat over 3 years just wondering
    and does it mean my period might be close

    anonymous xx

    It is not unheard of and is nothiing to worry about and I am sure your period is not too far away.

  • Part 2
    As most of them lived near that church. Anyways, we were put into the Same group at conformation class and got talking again. We spoke quite a lot and used to text all the time, he told me he liked me ( in about year 7 through text) but at that time I had a lot of things I needed to focus on so I said I couldn't go out with him. ( currently in year 10 btw) but in summer we went out a few times as friends just me and him... ( part 3)

    See part three.

  • Hey Vicki kendall here. Just a pre- warning this will probably be in a few parts. Basically all through primary school I was friends with this guy A.We weren't really close but we were close enough I guess. We went to sepearate highschools and didn't speak for about 3 years, but last year at my local church they were having confirmation classes. Even before I went I knew I would be seeing all my old school friends as most of them lived near that church.. ( rest in part 2 )

    Hi Kendall, see my response in part two.

  • hiya Vicki, you are the best xx can u put Taylor Swift on your list for interviews

    Hi, she is already on the list you will be pleased to know.

  • Hi vicki I need help ASAP i have been having discharge for a LONG time now and I have had pubic hair dish charge breAst are fuller and bad stomach pains an a couple days ago there were the tiniest spots of blood ever will my period come soon???
    ASAP
    Been so much help xx
    From Paige

    Hi Paige, with so many signs already noticed, your period may be closer than you think, you may even find that these little spots of blood are the sign that  your period has arrived already.

  • what is their to look forward to for your first period

    It's not always about looking forward to your period, but rather that your period is one more sign that you are on your way to becoming a beautiful young woman.

  • hi vicki am 13 years old and i was watching the movie ????? when it came to the part with sex and stuff my vagina started to hurt and whet stuff come out its happened before while watching a movie like this is this normal thanks

    This is called sexual arousal and the fluid your body makes is to lubricate the vagina and is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hey Vicki!!
    So me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 moths now. Im starting to feel like breaking up with him but Im not sure. I really need help and don't want a reply like maybe u should, but its ur choice. basically I feel like im losing love for him each day. Im so confused. HELPPPPP!!!!
    xxKxx

    If you have doubts then ask him if you can take a break for a couple of weeks as you need some space to work out how you feel. Don't keep him waiting too long however before letting him know how you feel when you have had time being single.

  • CAN SALT PREPONE YOUR PERIOD

    Salt will have no impact on the arrival of your period at all.

  • Hey Vicki
    I was just wondering what does curting mean (don't no if that's spelt right)
    Btw thank u so much for it help in the past:)

    I wonder if you mean courting, which is an old fashioned, but rather cute word for dating.

  • Hiya Vicki!!!

    So there is a guy called Johnny in my class who I like and he likes me. So when he told me that he likes me he was really nervous. He has not even told his best friend and they tell each other everything. So he then told me not to tell anyone and I do not know what to do. I mean I do not want to tell anyone because I promised I would not but I want to tell my best friend. What should I do?

    Thanks from Stephanie xxx

    Hi Stephanie, I would respect this boy's wishes for now and wait until you both feel comfortable with dating before telling others.

  • Hello vicki,
    I wanted to ask my bra size is 30AA would you recommend padded bras or moulded bras ??

    I would recommend a non-padded or non-moulded bra for an AA cup.

  • Hi vicki
    I had a really good friend called D and now its hard to see each other cause were in different classes
    And this girl called E seems like she is trying to steal her of me and I hate it
    Felicty

    Hi Felicity, rather than worrying about E taking D away from you, be friendly to all of them and join in as much as you can. It is possible for you to all be friends and most likely beneficial too, as during puberty it is always a good idea to have a large group of friends.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 13 soon to be 14 and I've had discharge for ages and ages! Recently theres been more than usual. I've also had headache but don't really get tummy aches/cramps. I'm really worried about starting because I don't know how I'll tell my parents. Do you know if my period will start by the end of this year?

    If you have been experiencing discharge then you should not have much longer to wait  before the arrival of your first period and if you think it may be helpful, why not send your mum one of our e-cards and we will do the asking for you and this should open up the conversation about periods and how you feel about this matter.

  • Hi Vicki its BBC075 (what number my q was)
    I've talked to my mum more and I want to apologise for how rude I must have sounded to u when I asked my question 😭😭😭😭😭I feel realy bad now but I also want to thank you so much for being there 4 me at all times and for giving me the BEST advice btw my name is paige and I'm 12 yrs old and have had discharge for over 2 years my mum has also suplied me with 2 sanitary pads for now until I start my period
    Thanks sooooo much and sorry xxxπŸŽ€

    You are more than welcome Paige and I appreciate that you have showed true maturity in your response and I accept your apology. I hope you continue to enjoy a good relationship with your mum and visit us often at Becoming a Teen.

  • Hi Vicki did you ask your daughters if wanted to wear makeup or dos you just buy it for them because what age is appropriate I don't have very good skin how to I help my nose become less oily get rid of a scar from a spot and help these underskin spots I'm 13 by the way My cheeks chin and forehead are all clear but my nose should o wear makeup or should I put it on my 14th birthday list recommended brands??? Xxx

    They generally had make-up as a surprise from me at Christmas or Birthdays, or if we were out shopping they always had a small amount of money to purchase toiletries for themselves. However, foundation was not something I felt appropriate for their young skins and instead I focused on showing them how to keep their skin clean and as blemish free as possible. So rather than considering make-up have a think about skincare products that will help for a T-zone which is what I feel you may have.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering because I have a huge phobia of feeling sick and being sick and I was wondering, can period pain make you feel sick or physically be sick? I'm so scared because I don't want to be sick and stuff. Also can you faint or be really ill with your period? Thank you :) x

    Some girls can feel a little bit nauseous for their first few periods but generally eating small snacks often can reduce this feeling. Try to remember that as worrying as being sick may be, it's actually a good thing and your body's way of releasing something it knows is not good for it, almost cleansing the body.

  • Part dos

    then after that I got really sensitive and pretended to have a really bad head ache ( but that wasn't all a lie I did have one but not as bad as I made it out to be ) so they called my mum and I went home but know I've come really sensitive about it what shall I do?

    I am sure Oliver meant no real malice when he said these words and the simple truth is that the amount of hair we have on our arms can be the same for both sexes and depends on your genes, so take it from someone who has always had very dark hair on her arms, and still has more hair than her husband, this does not make you any different or unattractive, it simply make you ....you!

  • Part Uno

    Hello vicki we were about to do p.e when our p.e teacher decided to get changed in our p.e kits ( don't know why we didn't in the first place ) then we got changed it was quite cold but I forgot my cardigan and this ugly gruesome know it all boy called Oliver said Oh My God you have hairy arms there hairier then mine.

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Can you start your first ever period at any time of the day or is it only in the morning when you wake up?
    Thank you in advance

    Yes, your period can arrive at any time day or night, awake or sleeping.

  • Vicki if you have no sigh on having discharge but get cramps and you have pubic hair also breast, head aches and I starting to get curves does it mean I could be close to my period or close to discharge?
    Another thing is my friend Guisseppe says that another symptom is fat coming from you stomach to your hips to form your curves, is this possible true?? BTW... I'm frazzle

    Hi Frazzle, yes some girls do notice their tummy becomes rounder and their hips wider as they enter puberty and with so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find your period is not too far away, even if discharge has not yet been noticed.

  • Hello vicki it's frazzle again,
    These are my measurements
    Under bust: 26cm
    Fullest bust: 28-29cm
    What is my bra size?
    And is there even a point wearing a bra at the moment?
    I currently wear a trainer bra if I should wear a bra padded or moulded?
    xxxxxxxxxxxxx

    30AA is your size based on these measurements and if you prefer to wait a while before wearing a bra this is fine as you are an AA cup.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 10, when will I start to get periods?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you may find reading all the great stuff on our website including my blogs helpful in understanding this time in your life better.

  • there is a boy in my class i really liked and have been liking him since year 3 (8 years). now i'm in year 6 (11) and i still like him. although he's really mean sometimes, i can't stop liking him. And now he's moving to Canada at the end of the year, if not term. What should i do???

    Why not ask this boy if you can be penpals or social media friends once he has settled into his new life in Canada, I am sure he will be happy to stay in touch and keep as many friends as he can from the UK.

  • Hi Vicki I have said dthat I have my parents permission to get a pack via email will u send me one love from Mia ☺☺

    Yes Mia, you are on the list.

  • my period leaks though every pad even the super tampons and towels!
    What cn i do im15

    If you find your flow is very heavy then consider switching to our adult range of tampons which come in six absorbencies. You may also find our Freshlock long pads are ideal for your heavier periods.

  • Vicki, so basically I had a party in Christmas with 2 girls and 2 guys, one of the guys I really liked and one of my really good friends snogged him! So I don't know if I should still be upset/angry/annoyed with her. Because she knew I liked him I told her constantly and she still did it. She promised after the first time she wouldn't for the rest of the night but she still did. She broke her promise to me. Should I be friends with her??

    Thanks, Kimmy xx

    Hi Kimmy, if your friend likes this boy, then it may be a good idea to let this matter drop and continue being friends. After all the boy must have wanted to kiss her too, so she is not entirely to blame and I am sure she did not mean to hurt your feelings.

  • how do I tell my brain that im mature enough to have my period

    I am afraid this is something your body will do all by itself when it knows the time is right just for you, so I hope you can be patient and let nature work her magic.

  • hi Vicky
    My Mum won't buy me a bra ,even though I need one
    What should I do.😞

    Why not measure yourself using our bra guide and if your size is on there, show this to your mum, asking if you can go and have a look around stores for bras or soft support tops which will allow you to see what is available in the future. I am sure she will be happy to do this.

  • Hi vicki I need help because I have had dish charge a long time now like 1-2 years and a couple of days ago there were spots if blood in my undies I have had most of the sighns such stumach cramps, dish charge and hair (down there) also my breast are fuller than they used to be is it my period I only had it for 1 day so I am confused ?????
    Pleas help ASAP
    Thanckyou you have helped so much
    From MAZIE grace xxx

    Hi Mazie, some first periods can be as short as a day, so my advice would be to prepare for future periods by having some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi vicki I'm 13 and I'm in year eight and I don't have a phone. It's not fair my parents treat me like a child I'm also not allowed to walk home from school alone and it's really embarrassing being in year eight and walking to school with your mum so I always go in my dad's car but now I want to be fit and healthy so how do I convince mum and dad? Also how/when will I get a phone? Potato xx

    Hi, have a chat to your parents about independence and let them know that whilst you respect their decision to keep you safe, as a teenager you need some responsibility and ask if you can perhaps meet them in the middle, with your mum walking you half way to school or to a freind's house so you can walk to school together. As for a mobile phone, why not ask for a 'pay as you go' phone for your birthday letting them know you will use it responsibly.

  • Hi vicki pleas can you interview jennet mcgurys from Sam and cat plz thx from daisy mai xx

    Hi Daisy-mai, they are on our list.

  • Hi Vicki! I just turned 12 and I feel uncomfortable because all my classmates and friends and cousins wear a bra already and I only wear a sando or sando bra :/ I'm too shy to ask my mom and my breasts are somewhat small so I think that my mom wouldnt like me asking her to but me one because i'm flat chested. Thank you! Have a nice day! :)

    Try not to compare your progress with those around you, we really are all different and breasts can grow until our late teens or early twenties so please be patient and for now have a chat to your mum about when she got her first bra and how she knew she needed one, this should make discussing you and if you now feel ready a lot easier.

  • Hey Vicky! I'm new here but I just started getting yellow and red spots in my discharge ? I'm 15 years old and I haven't gotten my period ? Is this my period coming ? Should I wear a pantiliner every day ? Thank you!
    Gladys πŸ’•

    Hi Gladys and welcome. If you are noticing a little red fluid in your underwear this could be your first period as very often the flow can be very light lasting a few hours or a day.

  • I got a little bit of brown discharge yesterday and a lot more regular discharge today. I haven't gotten my period yet. How long after brown discharge and brownish/redish spotting is it normal to get your first period? Also is it ok if discharge smells like dry blood?

    Brown discharge is often your period as menstrual fluid can be brown and not red in colour. So ensure you let your mum or the person who cares for you know about this and be prepared in future by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • okay so I want to start talking to new people but when I do I don't know how to keep the conversation going and then there's a really awkward silence please help with what I can speak to them about! Jessica x

    Hi Jessica, when talking to new people it is a good idea to ask them about themselves and then once they have told you a few things you can then share your views or life with them, this ensures everyone is involved in the conversation and it is not just a one way chat.

  • what is discharge and what does it look like?

    Why not read our section on Discharge under the Puberty for tab for all you need to know on this subject.

  • I am 12 I have had discharge for about 5 1/2 months now and it has become thinker recently also I am a 32a bra another thing is that I have been having headaches cramps and my spots are bad . Another thing I have noticed is that I am now 7st and keep craving food finally my mum was abou 12 1/2 when she got hers.
    When do u think roughly I will get my period???

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait and you may even find you follow the same pattern as your mum for the arrival of your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi
    I think I might be depressed. I have a lack of appetite, i dont want to do anything anymore, I find myself crying for no reason and having suicidal thoughts. I want help but nobody knows how I feel not a friend and not my mum and im only 13 so I cant go to a doctor by myself and I dont know what to do because I could never tell my mum this. Do u have any advice on what o should do????
    Olivia x

    Hi Olivia, of course you can share how you feel with your mum, she is there to help you and will understand completely how moods can change during puberty, after all she was once a teenager too. By chatting things over you may find you feel better about life in general and if this does not help let your mum know that you feel you need professional advice so you can understand if this is indeed a medical condition or simply the journey most teens make as they enter adulthood.

  • Hey Viki. My really good guy friend started liking me a few months ago. But i do not feel the same. I am pretty sure he doesn't like me anymore but he won't talk to me even when I attempt to talk to him(he is afraid to talk to me about his feelings). I just want him to act like he used to around me :*(
    xoxo Sofia

    Hi Sofia, I am sure if you act naturally around him and as a friend would he will start to feel more relaxed and back to his old ways.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm going on a residential with my school. I don't know what I'm going to be doing and we are going for 5 days. Any suggestions on number of tampons, pads and liners to bring?
    Victoria xx

    Hi Victoria, next week we are creating a blog on half term breaks and what to pack so keep a look out for it on our website. If you feel your period is going to be with you whilst away then consider taking enough tampons or pads and liners, plus disposal bags to put your used products for 4-5 days.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 15,
    Recently I had some trouble with this other girl- 16- who I thought was my friend trying to make me out to be a slut when I've never done anything with a boy (only kiss) then all the boys in her year were sticking up for me but now they're having a go at her and I don't feel guilty myself because what she did was really unnecessary but I don't know whether I should speak to her myself and apologise for the boys behaviour? I know they're just sticking up for me but I'm worried for her!

    Whilst you do not need to apologise you could let her know that these boys are not acting on your behalf and that you have not let the matter go and moved on. You may also find this week's blog entitled; Standing Up For Yourself really useful.

  • Pressure to do well in school and exams 😣
    Too much stress 😞

    Please help

    From Bella

    Hi Bella, feeling stressed around exam time is only natural and you may find our blogs on this subject useful. Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress and Seven Easy Steps for GCSE Studying.

  • Hi vicki. So basically im 15 and i have soze 36C Boobs- most of the females in my family have big boobs and i guess ive just inherited it. There is a couple of things that are bothering me: bras- i wear tshirt bras but i feel i need a bit more support and hold (what should i use? Pushup?) also i have strethmarks on them which means in summer time/on holiday im self conscious of the marks being on show. How do i get rid of them? Thanks please reply

    Firstly if you find you need more support then thicker straps will help and a wider under band. Too often people feel a push up, underwired or padded bra is the answer when really it is the suport the straps and band around the body that make all the difference. As for stretchmarks, these will fade in time and you may find rubbing in a moisturiser or Body oil will help increase this healing process. Why not read my blog entitled; Stretchmarks for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicki. I really have become depressed lately about the way I look and I'm confused about the way I feel. When I was six my mum walked out on us. I haven't seen her since. This has come to bother me alot recently and I'm not sure y. Anybody I've tried to tell tells me I'm over reacting. Am I?? Xx

    If something is bothering you, then no, you are not overeacting and finding you think about your mum is only natural, especially if you are now entering your teenage years. Why not ask your dad or the person who looks after you if you can talk about the way you feel or even if there is a professional counsellor you can chat to. If it is not too painful for your family ask them if they can offer you some details as to what kind of person your mum is, asking them to be positive when they do this; for instance what food did she love to eat, who was her favourite musician...etc, so you can build up a picture of who she is.

  • hey viki
    i would like to know were you can find shops that sell pretty bras for a size 32 b p.s more than two.shop ideas

    thank you zaynab

    Hi Zaynab, if you live in the UK you will be spoilt for choice as so many stores have a wide and pretty collection of bras, from M&S, BHS, Primark, New Look and even local supermarkets such as Tesco and Sainsbury's have a great choice for you to view.

  • Hi vikki,
    I just had my first period but I keep getting it brown every 1-2 hours. Is this bad ? It was a bit red one time but every time I look down there I need to change my pad again please help I'm desperate ! πŸ˜πŸ’—

    Why not read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid and you will quickly see that the colour of this fluid can vary from light brown to very dark red and either is normal.

  • Hi Vicki
    So there's this boy and we are really good frends and talk all the time but wen we're all talking in a group like with my frends and his he addresses me wen he says things and he smiles at me and makes eye contact and stuff. A lot of my frends and his say we shud be together and he just laughs at this but idk if I like him or not and if I do I rlly dont want to tell him bcuz he hasn't even said he likes me!

    It seems you and this boy are still getting to know each other and there really is not rush, if you are attracted to each other it will happen quite naturally and you will not have to say anything.

  • Hey, my names bea
    I like this boy but he's in the year above and I don't want my friends to know I like him because they will tell him, we text all the time and he tells me he loves me and stuff but he talks to so many other girls so I don't know if he means it, and to top it all off my previous boyfriend that I had been dating for a long time, I broke up with him a few weeks ago but we are still friends, I don't wanna to fancy this boy but I just can't help my self, I love talking to him!

    Hi Bea, we cannot help who we are attracted to, but as you have only recently come out of a relationship, consider just being friends with this new boy for now, until you are 100% sure he is someone you want to get to know better and date.

  • Its a Anamelis again i got measure and i fount out im a gg in cup size im very slim and hav a big boob why?
    Also what bra size r u? i feel so self consciou
    thanks anamelis

    Hi Anemelis, breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and there is no right or wrong for anyone, so please try not to worry and learn to love your shape no matter what that may be. I am a 36DD.

  • I am 14 years old girl I mastrbute a lot also I watch porn I try to stop but I can't I really want to stop it I feel guilty and what makes it harder for me that I am Muslim so mastrbuting is forbidin also I am single I am not the prettiest but I am not the ugliest I have a great feeling that I want to have sex I want to feel loved but also I can't because of those sick cultures writing this makes me feel guilty and depressed I really need an answer

    To have feelings of a sexual nature during puberty is very normal and nothing to feel bad about. As you get older and find someone you want to share your life with, you will be able to forge a sexual relationship.  I am sure you already know that masturbation is both a natural and instinctive activity and as teenagers find themselves becoming sexually aware of their body and how it responds to touch it is very normal to feel curious about exploring your body in this way. With regard to your religion you would have to take advice from a trusted female member as there are differing views on this type of sexual exploration and whether it is permitted or not.

  • Wha a gel insert? And where do ya get dem?
    Thanks

    Gel inserts are little pockets of gel that fit inside your bra and most good department stores sell them.

  • Hi viki
    ive been best freinds with this girl for a while now. but ever since we started secondry and we got split up in two sides of our school i never see her and shes always like o ur my best friend blah blah and this other girl who doesent like me has sort of become really goods friends with her and i dont know what to do coz i feel really pushed out.
    Thanks
    Tilly
    xx

    Hi Tilly, take the time to get to know your friend's new friend, this is not a competition and if you all make an effort you can all get along and enjoy time together.

  • I'm really upset because I was doing my nails and the nail glue was on my finger then I locked my phone with the lock button at the top and then the button got stuck😭 it won't come back up and I'm scared to tell my mum because I've only had it for a month I'm so so worried please help😿

    I really would speak to your mum as she may be able to offer a product or solution to free the glue from the button. If this does not work you can always pop it along to your local phone store who will advise you further.

  • Hi, 4 years ago on December 14th (2011) my grandad died (he'd had lung cancer however that's not what he died of) and I keep feeling so empty and alone. I keep thinking that i could of saved him from dying. What do I do? Is this just a stage of grieving? Myself and my grandad were very close, so maybe this intensifies the grieving? Please let me know, thanks x

    Please take the time to read my blog entitled; Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One, I feel you may find this useful when experiencing loss that is so deeply felt.

  • Hi Vicky. I've recently turned 12 and all my friends have had there's. I have pubic hair down there, sometimes cramps and tender breasts. I have had no discharge but once I saw a tiny bit of blood on panties but not sure? Please help me I feel so left out.

    Charlotte xxx

    Hi Charlotte, try not to compare your progress with that of others we really are all different and your period will arrive when the time is right and not before, so ensure from now on you are always prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • How far apart are they? And do tampons hurt?

    The menstrual cycle can be between 21-34 days and is often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months being very common. As for tampons, if inserted correctly and the correct absorbency is used, they should not be uncomfortable, in fact most people cannot feel they have a tampon in when on their period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm doing this drama performance with a few of my friends. Its about this couple meeting in the war, and there is one boy and he is the main male and I am the main female, so we have to fall in love is the performance. Its really awkward though because I have a huge crush on him, but I know he likes my friend, even though she doesnt like him. How do I make our rehearsalss less awkward for me and him?

    Have a joke and laugh with this boy so both of you can feel more relaxed when together would be my advice.

  • Whats my bra size 74 over 66 under
    love sadie xxx

    Hi Sadie, 30AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • I have a line of spots between my boobs, why are they there? My boobs are only a 32a, and how do recommend I get rid of them?

    Thanks from Katie

    Hi Katie, just like our faces can have outbreaks of spots, so can our torso. So consider using your facial cleanser in this area and if necessary putting a little bit of talcum powder in the crease in the morning to avoid perspiration building up.

  • Hi Vicki!

    I kind of want to tell R that I fancy him but I know that all my friends will be really embarrassing. What should I do?

    Thanks again. Sorry for bothering you. JordanXxX

    Why not ask R how he feels about you and if he likes you as a friend or as something more. If he likes you romantically you can then let him know you feel the same, but if you can do this away from either of your friends as this really is a personal matter.

  • My vagina is really hairy what should I do and also my boobs are a 32e is that normal for a 12 year old

    Pubic hair is a very natural sign that you are becoming an adult and there is nothing you need to do now you have noticed this hair. In the summer and if your mum agrees you may wish to trim it back a little to avoid sweating in this area, but no other action is necessary. Finally, were breasts are concerned there really is no right or wrong size for them to be regardless of your age.

  • I know you'r not a doctor but I have a tiny pimple like spot next to my circle and breast bud what could it be? I'm really worried please answer this is urgent

    Little dots or pimples on and around the nipple and aerola are your Montgomary Glands and from part of your breast, they can look alarming but I can assure you they are very common and nothing to worry about.

  • Do you have to have discharge to get your period

    No, not at all, in fact some people never experience discharge and this is fine too.

  • Hi Vicki!

    Its Jordan! (Again) thanks for the advice. R has been of school for about two weeks now. I really ddon't know what to do! H (a boy that fancies me and is kind of cute) kissed my cheek on monday. I felt this really weird feeling. I don't know what happend. It felt....Nice....

    Another thing is that I've noticed some whitish stuff in my underwear but I'm not due my period for another two years! Help me....

    Hi Jordan, I am unsure as to what makes you think your period will  not arrive for another two years, as discharge is always a good sign that it is not too far away and can be noticed for some girls for between 6-12 months before their first period.

  • Hi vicki,
    How can you tell if a boy likes you? Sadie xx

    If you catch this boy looking over from time to time or he acts silly or shy when you are near he may like you. Some boys are very shy and rarely show their feelings while others are quite happy for everyone to know if they like someone, but as a general rule you get a feeling if someone is attracted to you by the way they behave.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So, I've been expecting and preparing for my period for MONTHS and it still hasn't come! Do I give up preparing or do I keep a small supply?
    Victoria xx

    Hi Victoria, I would always recommend keeping a small supply of pads, wipes and liners in your school or sports bag just in case your period arrives unexpectedly when you are out and about.


  • I am in year8 and for some reason am really uncomfortable over authoritive men liketeachers.i have this extremecrush on my musicteacher and I feel like all the other male teachers look at me in the wrongway.I'm a very selfconscious person and ask my friends how I look all the time Why am I so uncomfortable around all maleteachers like that though it's so creepyto me I have fantisies about my music teacher in one lesson he leaned over the computer his handbrushed againstmine

    This is not uncommon during puberty and as you become of new sexual feelings you may not have noticed before. A lack of self-confidence can also be noticed at this time and my advice is to be brave and say "Hi" to people, get involved, its a great way to dispel any nerves and increase confidence. You may even like to read my blog Walk Tall with Confidence.

  • Band 26/27inch
    Bust 28/29

    What size am I? Also one of my breasts have been really sore today and I don't know why.Any clue what's wrong with me or is it perfectly normal?

    Jasmine

    Hi Jasmine based on these measurements you are a 32AA bra size and try not to worry, breast tenderness is very common during development.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So, this new girl joined my class last week and I really like her. We've been hanging out quiet a lot since then and she said she was my best friend. I was fine with this but I've had three best friends for about 4 or 5 years now and one of them gave me a really dirty look when my friend (the new girl) said that. I felt really akward because my bff said I have to choose. I don't wanna flippin choose! Sorry. Help me...Please....

    ...and you shouldn't have to choose, so stand firm and let all of your friends know that you like them all equally and believe you can have more than one close friend. You may find this week's blog entitled Standing Up For Yourself useful too.

  • Hi vicki
    Under -64cm
    Over-66.6cm
    Could u tell me my bra size (if I even fit one)

    Thnx β˜•

    30AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—So I really need some advise also I have not been to the doctors about any of this
    I have very bad anxiety and get panic attacks due to this there is this one girl how says things that make me get like this she called me fat,slut,bitch,faker and my best friend if leaving me for her I have been feeling really depressed and I have no one to talk to I can't tell my mum she will judge me and also recently I have been cutting and self harming and I don't know what to do any advise πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—πŸ’—

    You really must speak to someone about the way you have been feeling so they can offer you the help you need to manage these feelings. If you are not yet ready to speak to your parents then consider chatting to your teacher or close family relative such as an aunt. Alternatively, you may like to call Childline on 0800 1111 who will offer you advice on these matters. The most important thing is to remember you are not alone and there will always be help available if you ask for it.

  • Hi Vicki, so tomorrow will be the 11th day of my first period, I was wondering if they are supposed to last that long because I know they are only supposed to last 2-7 days. Is this normal?xx

    A period can last for between 2-10 days often a little longer as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you and I feel you have nothing to worry about.

  • HeyπŸ’
    I'm really good friends with this boy, and I really like him. We talk a lot at school and over snapchat!! He's really nice to me saying I have a nice figure and he would spoon me!! But I don't know if this is just banter!! By the way I'm 16!! What shall I do

    Thank you😘😘😘😘😘

    This may just be harmful banter, but if you are the only person he talks to in this way, then I would say he likes you and is keen to get to know you better.

  • It's Elizabeth again I'm worried to tell my mum I might be bisexual

    Hi Elizabeth, why not wait until you are sure about the way you feel and then sit down and tell your family of your decision.  Your family are bound to be surprised by your news and may need to take some time to adjust, so don’t be surprised if they are a little bit negative in the beginning this is an anxious time for them too.  Eventually most parents are happy to accept the choice their children have made and in time will more than likely feel proud that their child told them in person. If you feel you may need some more advice on this subject you can call Childline on 0800 1111, they have trained counsellors who can help you and give you some guidance on this matter.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Really weird question but I just had the worst period pain ever!!! And it was so painful I went on the toilet and yes It has like the 'runs' and know I feel alright. Why was this? it was deferently period pains because I am on at the moment.
    Thank you
    Love Lottie x

    Hi Lottie, some people do notice that their stools are a little loose when on their period, this is believed to be caused the the muscles in this area contracting to release menstrual fluid and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi my name is elizabeth this is my 3rd period and I'm wondering if u could give me any good advise

    The more periods you have the more you will understand that they are a part of life for women and girls and should not prevent you from going about your day as you would normally. Make sure you always have good quality sanitary protection and I am sure you will be fine Elizabeth.

  • Hi Vicky its Raquel im 12 and wondering what my bra size is? I'm 28 inches band and 34 inches bust! Can u measure in U.S. measurements plz

    32B is your size based on these measurements.

  • Could you please add Danny Harmer to your list (Tracey Beaker) thanks πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

    Danny has been on our list for a number of years.

  • Is it normal for my discharge to be more yellow than clear or white? Because everywhere else says its supposed to be clear or white.

    Discharge can vary in colour and yellow is fine and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hey Vicky, it's jo I am 33 inches bust and 28 inches band what is my bra size? I am wearing 32 A.

    Hi Jo, 32A is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicky, I hope this is not weird but I was just wondering if these things are normal and if so, is my period on the way because I have no idea

    I'm thirteen
    I have discharge every day
    I have quite thick pubic hair ( down there)
    I have some pubic hair under my arms
    But I'm almost completely flat chested so I'm kinda confused. My mum was a late developer so if I am, is all of the above normal? Or can you be flat chested and still get your period?
    Thanks x

    All of these signs are very normal for someone going through puberty and a sign that your period may not be too far away, maybe even this year sometime.

  • hi
    if i am upset about something (usually my friends) what can i do to help me calm down/ forget about it for a bit?
    tysm xo

    Spend some time with your family  or consider having a dance in your room anything that will take your mind off what has upset you, very often these uspets fade over a  day or so and things will get back on track.

  • I am so so worried. Haven't had my period and i have had all the symptoms. Why??? It is really bugging me and it is literally all I worry about. I am 14 which seems late to start. I have also had cramps for ages and still nothing. Do I have an illness or something? Please, please explain.
    Thank you
    Flora

    Hi FLora, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have nothing to worry about and plenty of time for your period to arrive.

  • Hiya
    I'm worried about my shape of my legs and stomach
    How do I keep on a balanced diet?
    Love Caroline

    Hi Caroline, make a list of all the fruit and vegetables you like and try to eat some of these every day if you can. Start exercising too, even if its only walking or dancing in your room, you will be surprised how small changes to your diet and daily fitness regime can tone your body.

  • Hi Vicki, I had blood spots and they lasted about 5 days, do you think this is my period? It was also quite a while ago and it hasnt happened again since then. From Alisha. X

    Hi Alisha, this may have been your period as it was noticed for a number of days, remember too that periods can be irregular for the first few years with long gaps between each one.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm thirteen and I hope this is not inappropriate but all my friends have started wearing bras and stuff, I'm quite a late developer like my mum and I just feel a bit embarrassed because I'm practically flat chested. All my friends are really open to there mums but I feel kinda awkward even asking to shave my legs, do you know away I can get over that?

    Why not start by having small chats that last about 15 minutes, for instance when you are in the car or helping with dinner. You can ask her how old she was when she had her first bra and I am sure she will quickly move the conversation to you and how you feel about this subject.

  • Hi Vickie
    Is it normal to have stomach cramps before your period arrives that month? Also, when I have my period it is uncomfortably heavy but normally pretty short! Everytime I have my period I feel shaky, dizzy and often sick. Could something be wrong?
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, feeling a little sore in the tummy region is fairly common and gentle exercise may ease this discomfort. If you feel dizzy or nauseous during your period try to drink plenty of fluids and snack healthily in between meals.

  • Hi im 12 i santa real plz tell me

    Here's the thing about Santa and the Tooth Fairy; if you believe in them and keep the idea of Christmas or Fairies in your heart then I see no reason not to believe. There is always a present under our Christmas tree from Santa for each and every one of our family and I would like to think somewhere in this world there is someone with a heart so full of joy he wants to spread it with everyone...wouldn't you!

  • Hi vicki, my mum started her period when she was 10 years old and I am 13 years old now and I only just started, is there something wrong with me? Also I started my period a few days ago, it only lasted one day and I haven't had it since

    We do not all follow the same pattern for our menstrual cycle as family members and very often first periods can be very light just as you have noticed, so please try not to worry.

  • Do u get pregnant when your on or off your period just curious xx

    It is generally 12-15 days after the arrival of the first day of your period when you are most fertile, but lots of women find they can be fertile at any point in their menstrual cycle, which is why contraception should always be used if you are sexually active.

  • Hey Vicki. I've finally started my period😊 but how do I stop everyone fussing over meπŸ˜’it's very annoying
    K xx

    Let people know that you are fine with puberty and periods and have read or researched all you need to know. Once they see you are not worried or anxious they will start to back-off and give you some space.

  • Hi vicky, whenvever my friends critisize me, my other friend laughs, but whenever I do it back, that friend always sticks up for them and they get upset and mad at me. I don't find it fair that they r aloud to critisize me and they don't think it affects me. But it does and they don't get that. But the friend that sticks up for them is really close to me, but I don't think she cares if she's mean to me.. I don't know what to do😭

    You may find this week's blog useful as it discusses being heard and respected when you have an opinion.

  • hi I asked a question 3 weeks ago and it was never answered it wasn't inappropriate I don't think cuz it was about bullying but I was just wondering if u don't answer all questions :)
    thanks, panda123 x

    Hi Panda, your question was answered and I suggest you type panda123 into our keyword search and you will find all four of your questions sitting there.

  • Hi
    I sometimes get discomfort around my lower part in class I can't stop fidgeting
    How can I stop
    Becky

    Hi Becky, stretching in between classes may help with this discomfort as will sitting up straight.

  • So my period has just stopped sn now do I wait 28days until I put in a new one or put one in every couple of days? I don't know I haven't started yet though I'm getting propered I haven't asked my mum any questions yet because I'm emmbarresed I hope you can answer this and btw I'm 10😢

    Why not read our guide to periodss for all you need to know on this subject.

  • Hi please answer this! My period is late for about 9 days and I know thats not long but I'm worried something is wrong! I haven't had sex before but my friends said you can get pregnant without having sex but it's a one in a million chance? My mum said I don't need to worry but I still am worried about it. im 14🌸🌸🌸🌸

    Your mum is quite right and periods are often irregular with long gaps between each one, so please try not to worry and you may want to educate your friends letting them know what they have heard is not true.

  • Hey Vicki
    My brother is really annoying me so how can I control my anger?
    From Anna

    Hi Anna, during puberty we often find we struggle to get along with siblings, my advice is to appreciate the good times and do as many fun things together as you can. By doing this, when he is a little annoying you can ignore him or walk away and will have your happy memories to keep you both connected and close.

  • I'm heartbroken :(( I asked you a question about my favourite teacher leaving, the one i fancy. I can't let him go, don't tell me this is hormones. I'm havin a hard time at school tho I have loads of friends and he's always supported me. I know he likes me as a student, and I'm goin to give him a card and a gift. I don't wanna ask for his email. I want to ask him for a hug, but I'm not sure if he'll give me one cause he has a girlfriend. Can you give me ways how to?? Very appreciated, thanks vicki x

    Your teacher may offer you a hug as a friend and you should accept it as such and nothing more in this instance.

  • Hi vikcki

    Is it true that your body has to be 15% fat before u can start your period ?????? Or any %

    Thank you x

    Scientists have never been able to agree on a specific percentage of body fat that is required to be present for menstruation to occur, however the majority agree that significant weight loss, such as with the condition Anorexia can in some instances stop the menstrual cycle.

  • I am 13 and I have been noticing discharge for about a year now. In September, I noticed quite a lot of brownish discharge which I thought was my period, but it stopped after a day. I noticed the same thing around the same time month in December, but for 2 days, however it hasn't happened since. Was this my period? πŸ’ž

    Yes this is your period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you. You may also find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid useful too.

  • Hi vicki just wondering about how many messages u rt very day on this website

    Between a 100-200.

  • I have been having discharge for about 2 years and I still haven't started my period , is there something wrong also can you flush tampons????
    Alia x

    Hi Alia, discharge is often noticed for longer than a year and this is nothing to be anxious about, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you. As for tampons; these should be wrapped up in tissue and disposed of with your normal household rubbish or the sanitary bin if you are in public toilets.

  • I really need a starter kit will it be OK if you can send me a free one by the way I'm called ellaxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Ella, we do not send out Lil-Lets Teens Starter Packs, but we do offer free samples and if you would like to have one, click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and complete the form, letting me know in the message box that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request samples.

  • Please answer asap :)
    I'm 15, I finished my period 9 days ago and it lasted about 8 days, but I came on last night, I'm aware it's normal to be irregular as this will be my forth period since starting, but I've literally just had my period, so I'm quite worried😬 (by the way, I got my first period about 7 months ago but since then they've been very sparse and irregular)

    Periods can have both short and long gaps between each one and this really is very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • 🌸Hi Vicki🌸
    Can you please interview Marzia (cutiepiemarzia)? She's my fav youtuber
    πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

    I believe she is already on our list.

  • Hi vicky. Im supposed to be going swimming tomorrow with friends and im due on my period today/tomorrow and im not sure what to do... if i do come on my period will it happen in the water? im scared to tell my friends i can't go and i was really looking forward to going! I feel uncomfortable using tampons and im really stressing right now! help?

    Don't let this stop you from having fun, if your period has not yet arrived you should go swimming and for the short time you are in the pool, if your period should start I am sure only the smallest amount of fluid will be lost for the duration of the time spent in the water.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 13 and I have had discharge for around a year now, and occasionally it smells kind of fishy and I get itchy, but I haven't started my period yet, when most of my friends have, so I'm getting a bit impatient! I can't tell my mum, about the itch and smell although I am getting slightly worried! Is there anything I could buy myself in the supermarket or something?
    Thanks so much xxx

    Cleanliness can reduce any irritation or odour, especially after visiting the toilet, because discharge mixed with urine or faeces can be unpleasant. Why not consider wearing our liners and using our wipes when out and about to keep you feeling clean and fresh throughout the day.

  • What I mean is that at the moment we have snow where I live and he's messing around with her having a snowball fight but in the same way we did when we were close. I don't know what to do. I'm sorry I jo u probably can't help but it feels good to get it out even if u don't know me.
    PART TWO xxxSMURF!!!!!!

    Smurf it is only natural to feel a little jealous or miss the closeness you had with this boy, but as written in my previous response it is now time to move on and make new friends.

  • I'm sorry it's me again SMURF!!! I previously messaged u about a friend called T well he has this new girlfriend and I'm slightly jealous I don't no wether that's cos I am worried or I like him or just dos I've never had wot they have and want it but I jo I'm jealous cos she does the stuff with him that I used to do as his friend (not in that way) PART ONE

    See my response in Part Two.

  • HI VICKI i hope this doesn't sound inapporte but theirs more into it but ill go quick i am 12 years old and i think i am pregnet i went to my boyfriends hose to do a school project and when i was about to leave i just gave him a quick kiss on the cheek and then we bots got a bit carried away please help me x

    You cannot get pregnant by kissing, but if you have had sexual intercourse this is a very different matter and you must speak to someone immediately. Not only is it against the law for your boyfriend to be sexually active with you, if you now feel you are pregnant you will need medical support. If you do not feel you can speak to your family contact Brook or your local Family Planning Centre who will advise you further.

  • If you get a bra at 9 how old will you be when you get your pirod

    The signs of puberty arrive at different times for each of us,with some girls getting their period before their breasts develop, so you see there is no one answer to your question I am afraid.

  • To Vicki
    There's this boy who fancies me and I have to do extra work with him because he's not so great a learning, he try's to act cool and wont listen. I have already told him i'm not interested but he keeps on trying to be cool.
    WHAT SHOULD I DO?
    Thanks

    If this boy's attention is causing issues with your studying then speak to your teacher and try to avoid getting into conversations with him, and instead give one word replies, he will soon get the message that you are not interested.

  • To Vicki
    I think my friend is interested in this boy and so do my other friends, I have asked her before but she just says of course not. I think she's lying. I'm not just guessing because in front of him she try's to be all cool. I have told her he's silly but she always try's to defend him. What should me and my friends do?
    Thanks

    If your friend likes this boy but prefers to keep this news to herself, then I would respect her decision and drop the subject, when she feels comfortable discussing this she will let you know but it has to be in her own time.

  • To Vicki
    There are a few boys who have a crush on me but I'm not into them, I don't want to upset them but I don't want them to think i'm interested.
    PLEASE HELP
    Thanks

    Make a point of letting them know how great it is that you are friends without any romance getting in the way, they will soon get the message.

  • Hi, I went out with this boy for awhile and we broke up... he still likes me though and I still like him but he ignores me most of the time what should I do?😭

    Thanks.

    If you were the one that ended the relationship then he may be too hurt to speak to you, even if you believe he still cares for you. So it is up to you to make the first move and chat to him and say "Hi". It may take a while but I am sure in time he will start to talk to you once again.

  • Hi vicki I am not sure if it is my period but I have had discharge for 1 or 2 years now and a couple days ago there was a few red spots in my undies but for only one day I have also had a lot of the sighns to

    This may be your first period and my advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you from now on in preparation for your next one.

  • 93 under 157 on
    I've tried ur chart but it doesn't go up to my size😳

    I think you may need to remeasure yourself as these measurements appear incorrect, ensure you are using inches of centimetres.

  • Hiya viki I have been trying to measure myself but we don't have any measure tape is their any other way to measure myself. Also I have been quite emotional for a while but I don't know way it can't be my period because I haven't had it yet.

    Thnx Lola

    Hi Lola, you could pop along to your local Department store and ask them to measure you or alternatively, you could use string to wrap around your body and then place this next to a ruler to find your measurements. Finally, these mood swings are all part of puberty and not always linked to periods. Why not read our sections on Puberty and Hormones and Emotions.

  • both lost a big part of our friend groups and now I have lost T as well cos he has gone off with all the stupid group, who also smoke but I can't do anything about it. I have tried talking but it doesn't work. I somehow feel like it's my fault but I don't know how to ask. I'm slowly getting over it now but am struggling with it a bit xxx SMURF!!!!!!!!!!!!
    PART TWO

    Hi Smurf, friendships often change during puberty even though we would not wish them too. My advice would be to say "Hi" when you see these people and refrain from trying to change their minds about who they hang out with now. Instead focus on you and if you can try to make new friends by joining after school clubs so in future you have a large group of people you can chat to and hang out with.

  • Hey Vicky. I haven't been on here in a while. I having a bit of problem with friends. I used to be really close with these group of boys. Two of them moved to another school at the end of last year and it hit me and the one I was closest to T quite hard.
    PART ONE xxx SMURF

    My response is in Part Two Smurf.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 12, I have had discharge for a while now and occasionally it smells bad, and I get itchy, is the normal? Should I be worried?
    Thanks xx

    Discharge does have a slight odour which can be made worse by poor hygiene, so ensure that you keep this area very clean and after visting the toilet always wipe thoroughly as discharge mixed with sweat, urine or faeces can make for rather an unpleasant smell.

  • Hi is materbation normal because everyone says it's not?

    I am not sure who ‘everyone’ is, but I can confirm that masturbation is both a natural and instinctive activity and as teenagers find themselves becoming sexually aware of their body and how it responds to touch and it is very normal to feel curious about exploring your body in this way.

  • Hi. So on Sunday, my grandad died and I went into school on Tuesday but not on any of the other days. I just feel mentally exhausted and down and I know I should go in tomorrow but I just feel exhausted and depressed thinking about it. What should I do?

    It is only natural to feel both physically and mentally exhausted after hearing such sad news and I imagine there is a lot of activity at home as people adjust and organise matters. Everyone grieves in their own way and in their own time and if you feel you need a little more time off I am sure no one will mind. You may also find my blog entitled; Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One useful too.

  • Hey, what bra size am I if I am 27 and 33? X

    32A is your size based on these measurements.

  • Dear Vicki

    I am 12 years old and I started having my first periods in November 2014. For the past few days, I have been getting a brown solution with my discharge. Is this normal ? I am worried. Help!!!

    Xoxo

    Hi, this is almost certainly your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. Why not read my blog entitled; So What Is Menstrual Fluid for more on this subject.

  • I'm 16 and I just wanted to ask something. I only feel confident talking to girls and I find some of them really attractive but that doesn't make me a lesbian right? Because I still find boys even more attractive and only see them in a sexual way but I'm just not confident around them. Is this normal? Thank you

    It is very normal to feel confident around friends and other girls but slightly awkward when around boys and even more so as you enter puberty, but if you can try to chat to boys about general subjects as this will help you feel more confident around them in the future.

  • Hi I'm 16 and I have never had a boyfriend. I am not even interested in getting into one or having sex and when I think about it, it scares me a lot😞 I also don't have any sexual feelings towards anyone like my friends do is this normal at my age? Thanks x

    This is very normal and please don't feel because those around you have thoughts of this nature you should too, this really is not the case.

  • I'm really self conscious how can I become more confident? I feel like people are staring at me all the time. It's getting me really down x

    Very often during our teen years we can start to notice a lack of self-confidence appearing, but trust me you are not alone in feeling this way and as you get older you will start to feel better. Why not read my blogs entitled, Fitting InWalk Tall with Confidence and this weeks blog Standing Up For Yourself, I am sure you will find them useful.

  • Hello vicki it's Freya, thank you for all your support as I am now more open with my mum about things and now she has started saying that she's going to take me somewhere with my sister who's 14 to ho get me measured would you recommend any places my sister shops and marks and Spencer's angel range and I have quite big boobs and I'm 10 am I too young to shop for bras at marks and Spencer's? X

    Hi Freya, I think M&S is a great place to start looking for bra as is BHS.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I have had my period for about 8 months or so, its become regular but its REALLY light. Will it ever become heavier?

    Love,
    Lily

    Hi Lily, some people always have a light flow, but for most of us our flow will change with age, so please try not to worry.

  • Vicki do you have to have discharge before you have your period because my frineds say you don't ??

    Your friends are right and not everyone experiences discharge before, during or after their first period. We are all very different you see.

  • Hi it's frazzle again yes I did give you incorrect measurements here are the correct ones but they have grown more now so bust: 78 under: 68

    Hi Frazzle, 32AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi vicki

    I'm eleven (12 in October) bra size 32AA and have hair on my anus.
    Is there any signs of when my period will come?( I have had white discharge but not sure for how long)
    Plz help

    Love KatieπŸ’‹

    Hi Katie, with so many signs already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait, maybe even 2015 will see the arrival of your period.

  • Hi! I have been friends with this guy for a while, but I kind of want to be more than friends. He is comfortable with me touching his hair and we walk home together. My friends tease us about being a couple and he blushes slightly. I see him looking my way once in a while, but I do sit with a few other really pretty girls. Thanks for your time!

    Continue being friends with this boy and I am sure if he likes you as more than just a friend he will let you know.

  • I kinda already asked this but uh I'm 12 turning 13 in august weigh 107 pounds and I'm 5'3 or 5'4 I had my period at the end or my sixth grade year and I wear a 32a bra size but I don't think its the right size is it possible for my bra size to be a 30b

    You really do have to measure yourself again as it is not always a case of going up a cup size, you may need a wider under bust size too.

  • if i weigh 128 pounds 5'7 and 13 turning 14 in aug. and had my period when i first started 7th grade what would my average bra size be i tell people im a size 34b and they believe it cause i sometimes where a bathing suit top under my clothes but im going to stop i dont think im even an a cup

    You really would have to measure your underbust and over bust for me to comment on this.

  • when my breasts are very uneven in size would that mean they are growing? how would I know and I've had my period about 3 or 4 times and i feel like they haven't grown at all

    Breasts continue to develop into our late teens or even early twenties and even when fully developed one breast is often larger or shaped differently to the other.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So i'm 13 year old and got my 2nd period about a week ago.I don't shave my legs because I am not allowed but I noticed that my leg hair started to fall out.Now I have little dots on my legs where I don't have hair and the hair is less then usual.I am a bit worried about this because it's not very usual thing and I don't know what is causing it.Please tell my if it has to do something with my period or its something else.
    Thanks xoxo

    Hair anywhere on your body has a life cycle and will fall out at some point. To add to this if you wear jeans or close fitting tights or leggins the hair can be rubbed away, so please try not to worry.

  • Their is a boy I really like he as me for my phone number on the first day on high school and he ask asked questions like have you got a boyfriend and he is all talking to me and has said sit with me but the only thing is he has had lots of girlfriends so I don't know if he likes me or just would like to be friend.
    Isabelle

    Hi Isabelle, until you know for sure why not be happy being just friends for now rather than another girlfriend.

  • I have started my period and I am a 11 years old but my friends think I am really early to have started I am just worried that I am really early

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you are certainly not the only girl to get their first period at this age and you have nothing to be worried or anxious about. You may find all the great articles and blogs on our website useful to read.

  • Hi, all of my friends say that she thinks me and this boy suit and should go out,and I like him but the only thing is,he has a girlfriend,he talks to me and we send each other really flirty messages which acts like we are a couple . We are also very close...how can I know if he likes me backπŸ˜•

    It is unfair for this boy to flirt with you when he is dating someone else and my advice would be to let him know that this is the way you feel, after all how you would you feel if you dated him and he flirted with someone else. The good news is, that after letting him know how you feel, if he does like you he may decide to end his relationship with this girl and date you.

  • Hi vicki I have had discharge for over 2years I have pubic hair and my breasts have developed the discharge can be very thick and sometimes not so thick lately I have had cramps low down is that a sign it is coming soon? thank you Katie ❀️❀️

    Hi Katie, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait before the arrival of your first period, so ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Vicky, me and this boy(J) have been talking to each other for a while now,we kind of have a friends with benefit relationship-without the sex. I've actually started to like him but I know I can't be with him because he already has a girlfriend. J always calls his girlfriend radged and that I should 'ignore her'. We are extremely close and we flirt and we can trust each other a lot! How do I know if he likes me? Thanks

    If this boy already has a girlfriend it would seem unfair that he flirts with you and I am sure if it were you he was dating you would be very upset to see him flirting with another girl. My advice would be to cool your friendship with J or let him know that whilst he is dating this girl he needs to set some boundaries for you both. If he does like you romantically he may just end his relationship with this girl, if not then you will know he has just been flirting and can move on.

  • Hi Vicki
    There is a boy that likes me but I don't like him, what should I do?
    Thanks, Lola

    Hi Lola, let this boy know how great it is that you are just friends and not even a little bit interested in romance. This is a good way of letting someone know you do not fancy them without hurting their feelings too much.

  • Hi when will u be filming the 2015 celebs thanks from Alexis-jade

    Not for a while yet Alexis-Jade as we have yet to finalise our plans for this year. You should expect to see our new plans sometime in late Spring.

  • Hi Vicki, I think I'm going to get my first period soon because I've had discharge for 18 months, my breasts feel tender and I'm getting cramps. However I'm only 36.6kgs though cos I'm small and people say you have to be 45kg.

    I just wanted to know: Can you use tampons on your first period(I'm going on holiday)? If so applicator or not?
    How often should you change your pad? What pads/tampons should I carry in my school bag?
    Also my mum has heavy periods does that mean that I'll be heavy? Thanks

    You do not have to be a certain weight for your period to arrive and this is just a myth. You can use tampons for your first periods but very often it is better to wear a pad so you can get used to your flow and cycle. If you do decide to use a tampon I would consider our Lil-Lets non applicator tampons, shorter and narrower than other brands, whilst still just as absorbent. A pad can be worn for up to 8 hours, but most people change every 3-5 during the day. I would carry our Lil-Lets Starter Pack in your schoolbag as it contains all you need for your period when away from home. Finally, we do not all follow the same pattern as family members for our menstrual cycle, it really is a case of waiting to see what your body has decided for you.

  • Hi Vicky,
    So there is this boy who I have liked a little over a long amount of time, I find him cute and adorable. A long time ago he would make me laugh, then nothing happened But Recently, he has been asking me questions and has been smiling at me,but he is really quiet (like me)so its hard to tell if he likes me or not.I don't know what to do because whenever he asks me questions, I feel as if I don't know what to say, and im scared of embarrassing myself
    Any tips? x

    If he asks you a question then answer it honestly rather than worrying about what is the 'right' answer, by doing this he will get to know you better and you him. Then who knows maybe in the future he will be brave enough to ask you out.

  • Hi Vicki, if you are 18 and you still don't have your period, what do the doctors do to make you have it?

    Most doctors run some blood tests to check your hormone levels and then take it from there with regard to how they advise you further. In most cases the period is simply a little delayed and there is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki xx
    So my friend thinks were growing apart! But I don't think so! What can I do to prove that I still love her cause she really is my best friend my chummy!!😘😘
    XxKxx

    Other than reassure her from time to time that you are still good friends I do not see what else you can do. You may however want to let her know that as you get older you may find you join new friendship groups which will not impact on your love and friendship for her, but is a healthy way of getting to know others and something you should both be encouraged to do.

  • Can you get tss of you wear a tampon less than 8 hours, like 3-4 hours or is it only over 8 hours?

    For more about TSS please see our main website and remember that anyone can contract this very rare illness and these are simply guidelines for safe use of tampons.

  • Hi im 9.
    My bra siz is 70 under 98 on the boob.
    boys squish my boobs and it hurts i Told th teacher sh si dey r expeimenting .
    I hav my piriod aldo.
    i tried on my mam bra they 34 C her wy too smalll+ can u recomind pads yo me? the other 1s r 2 big.
    Thanks,
    Anamelis ( im irish :) )

    Hi Anamelis, based on these measurements your bra size is  a 32F and I have to say in my opinion regardless of whether these boys are curious about breasts or not, they have no right to touch them and I would push their hands away in future if they do. You may find our Lil-Lets teens pads ideal for your period as they are shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for girls new to menstruation.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 14 and I have 40dd bra size is this normal? Thanks
    123 xx

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, height or weight so please try not to worry and learn to love your shape no matter what that may be.

  • I sit next to this boy in most of my lessons we dont talk to each other only when the teacher tells us to but other than that we dont and today he snapchatted me and we had a small convosation and he replyed with a :P i didnt know what to reply so i left it hes slightly smaller than me in height and hes an emo but hes cute im only 14 what do i do if i like his bestfriend because hes alot taller and we talk and joke loads

    It really is a case of getting to know both of these boys as friends, making it clear that this is all you are looking for at the moment and then if you decide you like one better you can let him know how you feel, but please don't be put off someone by their height, or how they like to dress, or what their choice of music is.

  • I've recently started my period... I've told my mum and she knows but I don't want my older sister to know because she will tease me about it... Seeming she teases me about all things, and I've been on my period for 2 days but I don't know how to keep it from her. I've been changing my pads in my mums bathroom and I'm scared she will catch me changing What shall I do? I know eventually she will find out but for now how to I keep it from her? I've almost been caught but not yet, how do I keep it from her

    Yes your sister may tease you when she finds out, but it is likely she will tease you more if she finds out you have been hiding it from her. My advice would be to stop hiding and and if she says something let her know you are cool about periods and she is being immature.

  • Hi vicki,
    I would just like to say Thankyou because you have helped me so much
    xxx

    You are more than welcome.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am a 13 year old and when I have sleepovers with my friends they always talk about masturbating themselves and say it feels amazing. I feel left out because I don't know how to masturbate. Please tell me how too! thanks, a desperate teen

    Masturbation is an instinctive activity individual to each of us and as such it does not need to be taught, nor is it appropriate for me to offer advice on this matter. Remember too that whilst it is perfectly normal, it really is up to the individual if they choose to do it or not, but please don’t ever feel pressured into taking part in this activity simply because those around you do.

  • Hi Vicki! I have really bad anxiety and social anxiety and find it hard to talk to boys. Once a boy messaged me and complimented me but the next day I regretted talking to him so much and I felt so stupid and tried to block him on everything, why do I feel this way? Its been a few days now and I still can't stop thinkng about it and I get so panicky😞 thanks x

    Feeling awkward in front of boys is not always a sign that you have social anxiety and is a very normal emotion for teens to experience which can very often stay in our thoughts for days. As time goes by and you see or speak to this boy again you will start to feel less awkward and this incident will be a distant memory.

  • I'm Tyla I start my period about 7 months ago and have decided to recently use tampons but I can get them in perfectly fine bit removal is painful is my vagina entrance to small? Also I hve a clear water like substance around my vagina entrance it is not discharge or anything but it is gross Thamks from tyla

    Hi Tyla, it may be that you are using too high an absorbency for your flow or removing your tampon too soon. Why not consider trialling our Lil-Lets teens tampons, shorter and narrower than other brands but just as absorbent. Finally, this white fluid will still be discharge and is often noticed in the creases and folds of the vulva.

  • Hi Vicki
    I really like wearing makeup and I love watching makeup tutorials all natural so my mum had a spare bareminerals powder brush and spare powder so I borrowed it and kind of kept it and I use it nearly everyday for school because i need it bad also I took one of my aunties YSL concealer a which was spare and Mac lipstick but my mum doesn't know about it how do I ask her for proper makeup I'm 13 nearly 14 and don't have that good skin! Xx

    Even if these items are spare or old you should always ask for permisison to use them or take them. Now you need new supplies it may be a good time to be honest and let your mum know that you have been using these products and now need new supplies.

  • Hi vicki whats in the free sample pack Xx Tyler

    Our samples contain one of each our teens range, our becoming a teen booklet and money off voucher.

  • Can I have some free samples xx

    Yes, of course, please click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and enter your details. Remember to let me know that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request samples.

  • Part 2 from hollyberry A hadn't told B about this something she wanted to keep between us best friends but i didn't know she hadn't told her and wasn't planning to tell A and at school she asked her if she was ok about what I told her and B got mad because she wanted to know who told A and I did but I haven't told her my best friends except B know I told A and they understand should I be guilty or what should I do about it B said the person who told A isn't a good friend and that's me help!!

    Holly, this seems like a genuine mistake and I am sure if you let B know that you did not know it was a secret between just the two of you and that you would never break a confidence if you had been told, she will understand.

  • Hi how can I tellif I got my period or not? It looked like a powder and it was a chestnut brown colour, somewhere in the middle to back of my undies. Is this my period or just poop I've had suscharge for over two years

    It could be either, if it's 'poop' it will not be seen tomorrow and will have an unpleasant odour. If it is your period you may notice this fluid again tomorrow and the odour will be very slight.

  • Hiya Vicki, I was wondering if you could give me a briefing on when I will start my period:
    I have discharge every day
    I have dark pubic hairs (down there)
    I have no under arm hair
    my breasts are small but they are round and they stick out a bit
    Thankyou x

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find that your period arrives sometime in 2015.

  • Hi Vicki so part 1 I told one of my best friends (A) something that my other best friend (B) told me and we are all best friends in the same group there are 5 of us and at dance it was just me and A she asked my how I was doing as a friend would and I said it was a depressing day because one of my other friends is moving to Australia and what B told me and our other Best friends but I thought A knew about B and I will go on it part two from hollyberry x

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki I went on to contact and filled it in and said it was a query is this rightand if you get this thing please send a sample

    Ok I will look out for it.

  • Hey Vicki,

    I'm getting my 3 in 1 polio, tetanus, and diptheria injection at my school soon, plus the meningitis C one too. I'm quite nervous as I hate needles and I'm wondering if it'll just be the same as my HPV vaccines? Do you know if it will hurt more and is there anyway I can make myself calm?

    Thanks!

    Needles are over and done with very quickly and if you found the HPV vaccine easy to handle I am sure these others will be fine too.

  • Is there anyway that when you get a feeling that u are going to suddenly burst in years at school how do you stop it?

    Some people find if they do something else to their body the tears will stop, such as gently biting your lip or clenching your fists and digging your nails slightly into your palms. Others think of something mundane such as eating dinner, making their bed or brushing their teeth to calm down any surge of emotions.

  • How can I shave my vagina i don't know how to do it I'm sixteen with and i have not female relatives that I'm close to ?

    I am sure there are lots of websites that will offer you advice for the removal of hair in this area, my only tips are to lathe well with shave foam or gel and use a clean razor, avoiding going over the same area several times. Finally, why not consider simply trimming it back, this is not so difficult and may avoid rashes noticed often when someone has used a razor.

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  • Hi vickie I have had discharge for a year or so now and there are little red dots in my undies does it mean my period will come soon I have had lots of sighns to

    This could be your first period as the flow can be very light for the first few times, so why not share this news with yoru mum or keep some pads and liners with you from now on when out and about.

  • hi Vicki i'm 11 years old and i was just wondering will it hurt if i put a tampon in?

    Like anything new, using a tampon can take a little practice, however if you are relaxed and insert the tampon high inside your vagina, you should not be able to feel it at all and can carry on with your day.

  • How do I get a sample

    Click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and enter your details into the form. Remember to let me know that if you are 16 or under that you have permisison to request samples from your parents.

  • I looked at your breast size chart and measured under to be 72cm and bust to be 75cm but it told me I was a 28a but my bras are 32a, and I was just checking beacause the cups fit fine but it slides up my back all day

    Thank you

    Hi, using these measurements you are a 32AA.

  • Hi...So I'm 14, and I wear a 32AA bra, which is basically hanging off of me even then. Everyone tells me I do have boobs, but I think that I'm entirely flat chested. All of my friends are wearing D cup bras, and I feel so left out and rubbish. I know that everyone develops at their own rate, but I feel so insecure, I dream about getting surgery more than anything. Is there any way to stop feeling so insecure about my boobs (or lack thereof)?

    The correct fitting bra will not only leave you feeling more comfortable but even if this is smaller it may make your breasts look fuller so ask your mum to pop you along to the department store to be fitted, or drop me your measurements and I will check your size for you.

  • I hope this is not innapropiate, but when I go to the loo, after that I keep having to go. Do I have weak bladder or somthing? Thank u this website is honestly AMAZING! Xx

    It may be that you have a urine infection or have not yet finished releasing all of your urine during your first visit to the toilet. If you continue to notice this event then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will investigate this matter further.

  • Hi viki, Im 12 and have had discharge for almost 2 years. Heavy. I could feel it since it started. Is this normal. When do u predict i could get my period.thnx

    Some people can feel discharge leaving there body and this is nothing to worry about. As for your period, it would be impossible for me or anyone else to give you an exact date, but with discharge already being noticed you may find your period arrives in 2015.

  • Hi! I think my period may have started at the beginning of this month. I went to the loo, and found a brownish-reddish liquid in my pants. I put in a tampon, and had a very light flow for about two days. Using my period tracker app, I know that I can expect another one on the 31st. In the week leading up to this, I've had cramps, and moodiness. Were these two days at the beginning of the month my period, and can I expect another one? Thanks!

    Your should start counting your menstrual cycle from the first day of your period, but remember that for our first few periods there can be some irregularity with long or short gaps between each period.

  • Heyy vickster πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–πŸ’–

    I love u u have helped me so much !!!! 😺 Anyway soz if this is innapropriot but my friend called me a fat stupid bitch and now she is asking me what is wrong is this normal .. Also what is intercorse from Ellie

    Hi Ellie, what an unkind remark for your friend to make and even worse that she does not seem to understand how offensive it is to say this to someone. But this does not mean you have to stop being friends, simply let her know that you will not tolerate her speaking to you like this and if she continues you will end your friendship. Sexual intercourse is when a penis is placed inside a vagina.

  • Hello vicki I have just started my period and I were pads I do trampolining should I use a tampon or a pad 😬

    It really is your choice both will offer you protection whilst on the trampoline, although tampons may be a little more discreet.

  • Hello, I was wondering if you could help me, I'm 12 years old I started puberty at 9 , but I still haven't had any of the mucus ( I'm not sure what it is called). But recently I have been really emotional and I have had bad headaches. Is this a sign of my periods. Please help me because I'm not sure who to tell

    Not everyone experiences discharge so please don't feel this is something that must be noticed before the arrival of your period. Feeling emotional is all part of puberty and again not always a sign your period is due anytime soon.

  • Hi Vicki,
    When abouts do you hips and legs start to enlarge, like what age or how long into your period does it happen?
    Love rose x

    Hi Rose, not everyone notices these changes to their outward appearance but for those that to experience a rounder tummy or widening of the hips, it can happen anytime during puberty even before the arrival of your period.

  • What does waz mean

    This is a slang word to describe urination.

  • Can jenett mucurdy (Sam) be interview

    I will add her to the list.

  • Hi Vicki, I really hope you could answer this but there is along story behind me and the boy but anyways there's this boy in year 11 and i keep having really deep sexual feeling for him but if these stuff happened he would get arrested I'm in year 8. And I'm generally really horn y and i need to stop 😭😭😴

    help123

    Hi, it is normal to have feelings of a sexual nature as you enter puberty, but as you have already mentioned you should not act on these feelings until you are legally old enough, which is 16 in the UK.

  • Hi Vicki how long do u leave before u awnser questions

    I answer questions every day and depending on how many I get they are generally answered within 48 hours.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have had discharge for 11 months ish and I just have NO clue on how to tell my mum I would like some panty liners and I am really scared that she will think that I am lying please please please help

    I am sure your mum has already seen your discharge when she does the weekly laundry and she will understand that this is all part of puberty for young girls so why not ask if you can go shopping and choose a few girly products for yourself and include a pack of these in your shopping basket.

  • Hi again, I'm the girl who asked about the brown discharge for a few days after sex, but also when I wipe down there theres blood, but its not on my knickers? Is this all normal?x

    Hi, again this should not be a cause for concern, but if you are worried why not visit your GP or local Brook or Family Planning Centres.

  • Hi Vicki, i dont really have any boobs but is there any way that is suitable to make them look a bit bigger? X

    You may like to consider a padded bra or even gel inserts, but it is much preferable I feel to be natural and wait for your breasts to become fuller without the aid of these items.

  • I'm really scared the other day I fingered and my vagina hole got bigger? Is this natural?

    Yes this is fine and it is only natural for this opening to appear larger once you have stretched the hymen.

  • Hi Vicki my name is Lauren. I'm 12 years old and I've been getting this white gooey stuff coming out of my down below bits and I told my mum she said it is just my period coming on. I've had it for like 5 or 6 months. Please help me Vicki. I've been told its just discharge. I don't know if it is . Please help me.
    Lauren

    Hi Lauren, your mum is right, this is discharge and you can find out all about this fluid by visiting ourPuberty section.

  • Hiya Vicki
    I think I got my first period today at school
    A lot of it was brown but a little bit was light red
    I had lower stomach pains all day
    And a little bit of a head ache
    Plus I got pains in my vagina
    Was this my first period ?
    Thank you xx

    If you have noticed light brown or red fluid in your underwear then yes this may be your first period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I was in the shower yesterday and found yellow stuff around my clitoris. What is it?

    This is most likely discharge a fluid made by the body to keep the vagina clean and free from infection, it can often sit in the folds of the vulva which is why it is very important to keep this area clean on a daily basis.

  • Hi I was the girl who once asked you about writing stories, a little while back. Would you recommend Wattpad? I'm not sure I'm ready to let my family see stuff plus I'm finding it difficult to come up with things, keep changing things etc...
    Also another thing. Is it normal for your period to come on the second last day of the 7 day break of Dianette?

    Hi Dianette, if your family are comfortable with you using this site, then yes this is an ideal way to get short stories out there. For the first few periods you may find there are both short and long gaps between each cycle and this is very normal.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Its JJ. My sister and i go to colorado every summer to visit family. Now she wants to take turns going first every year because there are things she wants to do that i get to do every year. What she doesnt realize is in 3 years im going to start geting summer jobs. Then she has 4 more years to do the things she wants to plus extra time. How can i get her to see my side of things?

    Hi JJ, why not compromise and take turns.

  • Hello the last two days I have had belly cramps i have discharge does this mean I am starting my period soon or is it just something else

    The reproductive organs mature throughout puberty often causing cramps but this is not always a sign that your period is due any day soon.

  • HI Vicki,
    I just curious if someone could have sex when they are pregnant? Also, could someone have sex whilst on their period?
    Barbie xx

    The answer is yes to both of these questions Barbie.

  • Hi I'm scared to get measured what size am I?
    27 inches under
    31 inches bust
    Lana xx 😊

    Hi Lana, 32AA is your size based on these measurements and please don't be frightened to visit a store, assistants will ensure you feel comfortable when trying on bras.

  • Hi Vicki,

    At school I feel really left out! All the girls wears make up but I don't really want to and my Mum says I don't need it yet. Lots of people know everything about sex including all my friends considering they are 11- 12. They are obsessed with it and the other day we had to go all the way around the school because they were trying to hump people in the corridor. I hardly know anything about sex because I am to shy to talk about it to my Mum.Please help. Charleigh x

    Hi Charleigh, I have to agree with your mum on this matter, there really is no need to wear make-up at your age and as for sex... I wonder just how much your friends know...or actually pretend to know. You can be sure all the great stuff on our website will tell you all you need to know about Periods and Puberty and you can always come and ask me questions if you are unsure about anything. Finally, don't feel you have to take part in these games your friends are playing in the corridor, which may be embarrassing others too.

  • Hi Vicki
    I started my period almost a year ago now and I haven't had a big growth spurt yet. I've just carried on growing at the same rate? Will I have a growth spurt soon? Also I still have a flat chest (only 30 a) and no hips. I'm very slim and 5 foot 6 tall. When will I have a growth spurt? Will I always stay this height and size?

    Not everyone experiences a growth spurt and some people simply have a gentle growth pattern throughout their teens and twenties.

  • Hi vicki

    What is the average age to be 32AA?

    Love Lucy 🐾🐾

    Hi Lucy, breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes at any age and there is no right or wrong in this instance.

  • What are the symptoms for TSS? Because I once left a Tampon in (by accident of course) for 11 hours! I miscalculated the time when I had to change it.. Xx

    Every pack of tampons has full details on TSS; its symptoms, what to look for and how to reduce the risk of contracting this very rare illness. You can also find these details by visiting our main website and the TSS section.

  • My mum brought me scented pads (I don't think she meant to, she just picked them up!) is it weird that I like to sniff them?xx

    Not at all, if the fragrance is nice then I see nothing wrong with this, although I would not want you to get them dirty by handling them too much as they would then not be suitable for use.

  • Can I wear a vest instead of a bra because I'm so flat chested and I find it conifer

    Yes of course and even when your breasts are fuller you may still like to switch to a vest top or crop top, I do this quite often...in fact today I have just a vest on under my jumper.

  • Have you ever met Zoella?

    Yes, I was lucky enough to be involved in Zoella's interviews with Fearne, Nicola and Alexandra in 2014, she was great fun to be around and very friendly.

  • I've noticed I've got loads of pimples and spots is this cause I'm on period too??

    It may not just be because of your period, spots can also be noticed at any time during puberty when hormone levels go up and down. Why not read my blog entitled; Being Skincare Savvy for ways to reduce these outbreaks.

  • Hi, which tamping are non applicator ones?

    Here is the link to our non-applicator adult and teens tampons. Unlike many other brands Lil-Lets expand widthways for a more comfortable fit with less leakages, why not check out my blog entitled Not All Tampons are the Same.

  • why am I so obsessive it drives my family crazy

    This really does depend on what you are obsessive about?

  • Hi Vicki,

    The last two days I have noticed three dots of brown in my pants. But it couldn't be my period because they're the size a pinprick. What could it be?

    Thank you very much β™‘β™₯

    It may still be your period as they can be very light when they first arrive so why not share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi,i just wanted to ask how to know if a boy fancies you because people are saying that these boys like my friend but she's to scared to ask so I thought I would ask you.
    Thanks

    If this boy is always looking at your friend when she catches his gaze, or acts silly or even shy when she is near, then yes he may like her.

  • I've had an itchy vagina for a while now with a bit more discharge than normal & more thick but the discharge has died down a bit now but still a bit watery, I have itchiness mostly all over the external pubic hair &the inside of the outer libia I have told my mum & she bought thrush cream for me about 1 week & a half ago I put it on for one week and it went briefly for about three days after stopping but its back should I put it on again but for a two week period or three instead? thanks Eliza xx

    Hi Eliza, I would continue applying this cream and let your mum know if the irritation persists and it may be that you need to have a different type of thrush treatment such as a tablet or pessary, or even pop along to your doctor for a chat.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 12 years old a for a few days now I have had bad tummy cramps but I haven't had any discharge, does this mean my period won't come for a while. Please help me
    Thank you

    Tummy cramps are often caused by the reproductive organs maturing inside you as you grow from a child to an adult and are not always a sign that your period is due anytime soon. They can be noticed; before, during and after your first period and these cramps are very normal.

  • What does it mean to be in a relationship thanks

    This is when you have agreed with another person to be connected in a certain way. For example you and your friend could decide to be 'best friends' this is a relationship. You may decide to date someone and this again is a relationship.

  • I had sex for the first time on monday night (its now wednesday) and since then I have had brown discharge...is this normal? Will it happen every time? Sorry if this is inappropriate x

    This may be a little blood if you stretched your hymen during intercourse and will almost certainly stop over the next few days.

  • Hi Vicki :) PART 2
    Sat at the office and he asked if I was okay and like checked my temp which was cute :) he comes over when he sees me and stands next to me, he always looks me in the eyes when we talk but I get nervous so look away, he laughs loads too and makes me laugh. Any help on how I can be more confident around him? Also do you think he likes me and any advice on how to tell a guy likes you would be much appreciated, Thanks xox
    Merllamacorn

    I think this boy is making it pretty clear that he likes you and you mean a lot to him.

  • Hi Vicki :) PART 1
    I like this guy called A, he knows I like him my best friend-E told him for me, he's fine with it but recently when we do our handshake type thing at the end where we high5 with both hands then he interlocks our fingers (Isnt a part of the handshake) and makes a game of it (I think he does it to hold onto them longer but I'm not sure) Also today I went home cause I'm ill and he said came to see if I was okay when I was
    Merllamacorn

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki, A lot of random people call me. Has my number leaked? Thanks.

    If you do not know this people then yes your number may have been passed on and if you have any concerns speak to your parents about changing your number.

  • I'm having lots of white discharge in my panty and I had missed a perio....I'm really worried. ...what should I do???

    Discharge is often experienced in between periods and periods are often irregular with long gaps in between each one, so please try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki..β™‘

    I am 15 years old and in gr9. I am getting worried.. I didnt start my period yet.. All my friends started their period.. Should I be worried?

    And every one teases me because I am short.. I dont like that :(



    A period can arrive at anytime between the ages of 8-18, so try not to worry you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • I'm 17 and I had an argument with my mum earlier. My dads already disowned me and now my mum said she has. She said she wants me to move out of the house but I don't want to. She said it's the last straw. How can I make it up to my mum?

    People often say things they do not mean in the heat of an argument. When things have calmed down,  have a chat to your parents letting them know that you find it hard to control your emotions as a teen but that you will try harder and hope they can help by supporting you during the time.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 13 I started discharging last year but today when I went to the toilet the discharge wasn't white it was a light brown colour and clean my vigina 100% when I shower could this be my period?
    Please reply ASAP
    Thanks Vicki and Staff
    Luyii

    Hi Luyii, yes this is most likely your first period, especially as you have been noticing discharge for a while. So have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • I'm 13 and 14 this year and I'm super embarrassed because I've never ever had a boyfriend. I've never even had a friendship with a boy. No boy likes me because I'm ugly! I don't want a serious relationship, I just want to be able to say I've had a boyfriend, you know?
    Help! πŸ’œ

    Firstly and most importantly, we are all beautiful in our own way, so get into the habit of saying this to yourself and find the things you like about being you....and there will be lots. Once you feel confident, other people will notice this confidence too. As for dating, you may be interested to learn that a great many people now wait until their late teens or early twenties before they have a first date. You may also find my blogs;Fitting In and Walk Tall for Confidence useful too. Our celebs also talk about self confidence in our video section of the website.

  • Hi
    I'm 13 years and 4 months old And I'm unsure about my weight. Please tell me if this is normal: 5 ft 4 and 7 stone
    I'm really self conscious because my tummy isn't flat like ale the other girls! I feel like I can't wear a bikini or a crop top. I feel so fat and unpopular. Help!😒

    Rather than worry about what the scales say, focus on what you eat and how much exercise you currently do, by eating healthily and exercising regularly, your body will find its ideal weight, just for you.

  • Hi
    Ive been 13 for about 4 months now and I'm starting to worry ill never get my period! Almost every one i know has alredy started! I've had discharge for 2 maybe 3 years now but no sign of a period! I sometimes get stomach cramps too but I don't think they're period related. I weigh 7 stone and I'm 5ft 4 - I'm not sure of that has anything to do with it
    Love cloelle x😊

    Hi Cloelle, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18, so please try not to worry with discharge already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • I'm 13 now and I'm really upset because all the people in my year group have much bigger boobs than me( at least a B cup or even C). There are a couple of others like me but I don't really know them that well. My best friend is also a 32aa like me and we both wish we were bigger. I'm so small they're barely even there. Any advice?πŸ˜•

    I often wonder why girls feel that bigger is better, certainly if you speak to girls or women with a fuller bust they will tell you how difficult it can be to find clothes that suit or fit this fuller bust. So my advice to you is to learn to love your bust no matter what its size and remember too that over the next few years and into your twenties it may change considerably.

  • I am 12 and im wearing a bra size 14b is that big for my age?

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be at any age, so please try not to worry and if you can learn to be happy with your bust size regardless of how old you are or what size it may be.

  • Hi Vicky
    I have not started my period yet but over the past days I have stated to get stuff in my underwear and I have also started to get pain in my lower tummy I keep asking my mum why I keep getting it she keeps saying my body is getting ready for my period But I don't know if I'm ready for a change that big I am prepared

    Thx Indy xx

    Listen to your mum as the stomach cramps you're experiencing and the discharge you're releasing are both signs that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so try to be prepared by using pant liners and keep some pads close to hand.

  • Is your name actually Vicki sorry if its inap

    Yes, my birth certificate states...Vicki, it's not abbreviated.

  • Hi Vicky
    I'm Indy I am 11 and I keep getting cramps in my lower stomach I always ask my mum what is here and point to my overies and she says my body is getting ready for my first period I also have started getting white or green or sometimes clear stuff in my underwear I don't know what to do PLZ help

    Thx indy xx

    Hi Indy, the stomach cramps you're experiencing are a sign that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives so try not to worry.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • please help me!
    so i'm 14 and i've had discharge for around 5-6 years now and i have boobs, pubic hair and stuff like that but no period! ALL of my friend ave theirs but not me and i always feel soooo left out.
    JJ xox

    Hi JJ, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • hi Vicki I'm 12 years old my birthday is in August and I had my period at the end of my sixth grade year i have been wearing a bra size 32a but I feel I'm a size 30b im 5'3 or 5'4 and weigh 107 pounds what bra size do you think I am and when will I start developing a lot more? from: liz

    Hi Liz, as you already have a rough idea of what your bra size is, when you go bra shopping, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you or if you prefer you could measure all the way round your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same over your bust at the fullest point.  Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate a bra sizing for you.

  • Hey Vicki! So I have lots of hair all over my body and I really want to get rid of it. I am 14 and I already shave my legs but I have really long and dark back hair and long and fair stach hair. I really hate it and want to get rid of it. Should I wax shave or any other suggestions? And how can I tell my mom about this if I want to wax this hair off? Please help I hate my hair I find it so gross and embarrassing.
    Thank you!

    Facial hair can be removed by using a waxing kit or if you would prefer, you could ask your mum if you could visit a professional beautician to do this for you.

  • I have hair around my anus! Is this weird or unnatural? How do I get rid of it? I don't like it and its dark like my pubic hair. Is it just a part of my pubic hair??
    -EmmsΞ

    Hi Emms, it is perfectly normal to develop hair around your anus so please try not to worry.

  • I use anti-perspirant and I still get a little smelly (but not that others would notice) is this normal? I know everyone wonders if something is "normal" or not.

    It is normal to sweat more during puberty so it is important to stay on top of your personal hygiene by regularly bathing  and by using a good anti-perspirant.

  • Hello my names shanice. And I'm just scared because im 14 and I'm going to be 15 in October 2015 and I haven't came on my period yet and I sometimes get white dischard and a couple of weeks ago my discharge was darker and I had more of it I'm scared if something's throng cause all of my friends have come on there period ages ago and I havent . I'm just scared

    Hi Shanice, try not to worry as the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  It is normal for your discharge to vary in colour, consistency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • I'm 14 and got 32 D boobs. My boobs feel like they have two massive hard lumps behind my nipple is this normal? I don't want to go to the doctors I just want to know if this is common?
    Thankyou vicki xxx

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to feel lumps of muscle, fat, tissue and milk glands in your breasts.  Have a chat with your mum or guardian for peace of mind.

  • 80 cm bust, 74 cm under

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki
    I am 13 and have been having all the signs of startig my period. About 5 days ago I had bad cramps and a total meltdown I was crying in the toilets for 15 minute for no big reason and had to skip half of English which is really not like me. Then the next day I went to the toilet and when I wipe my vagina there was blood on the tissue but none in my pants and haven't had any since was this my period? And how do I tell my mum?

    This was your period but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so please try not to worry.  As for telling your mum, please try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about this.

  • My legs are really big how can I get then skinny/tonned. Do you have any tips? Xx

    People come in a variety of shapes and sizes and skinny does not always equal toned, some people can have lovely toned legs that are fuller in size. My advice would be to walk when possible and even better if stairs are involved as this will help tone your legs all over.

  • Hi viki
    My best friend has a crush on thus guy in our class and she can't stop thinking about him please help me

    Thanks Emma😊😊😊

    Hi Emma, puberty is a time when hormones run riot causing young girls and boys to feel attraction to others and this is, as you rightly stated is called a crush.  The thing is that crushes often fade in time so tell your friend to relax as these feelings should ease with time.

  • Hi i have had my period for a year and a half now i started at eleven and i have really heavy period , the first day i feel loads of pain its so bad that i literally cannot move . Is that normal ? Also if it is is there anything i can do to reduce the pain , i also experiance quite bad pms is there anything i can do to help the cramps before as well ?
    Thanks x

    Exercise is key to lifting your mood before you period arrives and keeping those tummy cramps away. So consider getting active even if its just stretching, walking or dancing in your room.

  • Hi Vicki, I asked a question before asking if I had started my period but you didn't answer it even though it wasn't inappropriate. I was at home and my belly was hurting a bit about an hour later, I went to the toilet and there was a lot of discharge mixed in with this brownish coloured discharge. Was this my period?!?!

    Yes this was almost certainly your period.

  • Hey Vicki
    There's this guy and I like him. Like really like him. He offers me a seat on the bus and he makes me laugh and he treats me differently to other girls and pays attention to me in and around school. I really want to ask him out but I don't know if he likes me or if he just wants to be friends. But I don't want to ask him out because if I did, and he said no, it would make our friendship sooooo awkward.

    ConfusedCrusher

    Hi, why not organise a group day out at the weekend to the cinema or the bowling alley and include him, this is a great way to get to know him better and I am sure he will let you know if he likes you back. Why not check out this weeks blog on movies to see in January.

  • What shall I do if my nipples go dry

    A little moisturiser or body oil will help soften and re-hydrate this area at night and just before you go to bed.

  • my best friend sent me a text saying that she had her period and she has done that before and fooled me but she says this time shes serious.i actually feel a little jealous and I know that's weird but I do and I want to have it. I am 11 and my mum had her period when she was12. I have grown boobs and no hair . I have had discharge for 4 months and coming uo for 5 when will I get my period? I know It will come when its ready and how can I control these feelings of jealousy

    It is very normal to feel a little jealous when those around you are becoming young women, but try to remember it's not a competition and with so many signs already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 12 years old and I'm nearly 13. For the past few days I have had bad tummy cramps. But I still haven't had my period, please can you help me.
    Thank you

    These tummy cramps are often noticed during puberty and as your reproductive organs mature. Remember that just like your body is growing and changing on the outside, big changes are happening inside too and these cramps may be noticed before, during and after your first period has  arrived.

  • Hi Vicki!

    Some of the boys in my class fancy me and are always trying to touch me inappropriately. I facy two of them but I still feel really uncomfortable. Help me. Please...

    Even if you like someone it does not give them permission to touch you if you do not like it or if it is in a sexual way. So gently move away or push their hands away when they come near you and they will soon get the message.

  • my best friend had her period the other day and she is only 11 and she said she had brown and red stuff in her pants and she wiped it and it was blood!!!do you think that was it

    If this is what she noticed then yes I would believe this is her period as menstrual fluid can often be brown and not red in colour. Why not read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid for more on this subject.

  • Hi, I've resent this because I need you to answer!! Right so I started my period Sunday night and it's really light, and I don't leak when I go to bed or I don't even have blood coming out of me when I go to the toiletπŸŽ€ is this normal..😘C

    Yes this is very normal, lots of girls notice very light periods for the first few years.

  • Hi Vicki!

    I've just started growing boobs and the make little round lumps on my chest. Most of the boys are always being complete idiouts about it but they've got bigger boobs than me! I don't know what to do. Help.

    I really would not ignore any teasing from boy, breasts continue to develop into your late teens and early twenties so you have plenty of time for growth to occur.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So basically I've had this massive crush on this reaaly cute guy in my year named Rowan and I think he fancies me too. The problem is that I've never told anybody about this apart from my closet friend which doesn't go to my school. I've had this crush since I was in yr two or three and now im in year five. I know really weird. I don't know what to do. Thanks. Jordan XxX

    Hi Jordan, there is nothing wrong with having a crush and it being secret, in fact most crushes are. My advice would be to get to know Rowan as a friend and see how things go one you have both got to know each other better.

  • This is really wierd but is some pubic/ dark hair around the nipple are normal ?

    Yes as strange as this may sound, this is very normal and common amongst boys and girls as they enter puberty and notice fluctuating hormone levels. Don't be tempted to pluck or shave these hairs, they generally fall out naturally over time.

  • Hiya, I was just wondering if you have any good advice on what makeup to be buying for the first time. I'm 14 and I want to start wearing more makeup. Not beacuse I feel pressured I just want to hide spots and dark circles and generally want to experiment, I have mascara and a concealer but that's it. Is bb cram a good idea for a beginner?
    Thanks for all your help
    Juliet x :)

    Hi Juliet, rather than focusing on how to hide spots and dark circles consider getting a clearer skin by cleansing and eating a healthy diet and you may find my blog entitledBe Skincare Savvy useful. To hide dark circles under the eyes any pen concealer will do the job, simply day small dots under the eyes with the pen and then blend in with a clean and dry finger.

  • Hey Vicki, it's April again. I have another issue, please help me out :( !
    Theirs a girl at college who I really don't like. She keeps making horrible comments to me without anyone hearing and other things. That didn't really play on my mind much until recently I noticed, the boy I really like, may have a crush on her. He keeps flirting with her and it really upsets me that he could crush on someone so horrible. I tried to warn him but he just makes excuses for her. What should I do?

    We cannot help who we are attracted to and if this boy likes this girl, regardless of how you feel about her it would be wise to keep your comments to yourself, or this boy may start to dislike you. If she is as awful as you say, he will soon find out for himself.

  • Why is it hurting when I use a non applicator tampon? Mum said I was doing it right but its really uncomfortable and the applicator tampons don't come in the correct absorption for my flow. However I love swimming and sports!

    Like anything new using a tampon can take a little practice and if you find once inserted the tampon feels uncomfortable it is most likely not inserted the tampon high enough inside your vagina, so next time push the tampon in a little farther...and don't worry there is no way you can push the tampon in too far.

  • Hell vicky! So I'm 11 and I'm 12 in 7 months and for some reason when I masturbute I don't feel any joy, it's just a pit painful, is this normal? And I was unsure of my bra size my band is 28 and my bust is 30 can you tell me my size? Thanks vicky for all your help xx

    Not everyone chooses to masturbate and if you do not experience any pleasure from doing so, then I would stop. Based on the measurements provided I would confirm your bra size is 32AA.

  • Hi Vicki
    im really worried because I was fingered for the first time 6 days ago and a day after I was being sick and was off college for 2 days , I asked my bf whether he had any semen on his hand and he said no and im pretty sure there was nothing , however Im always irregular on my period but I was due on 2 days ago but haven't came on , im really scared as im having really bad stomach cramps , im only 16 and I don't take anything and ive never had sex

    Please Help

    I am sure this is simply a coincidence and you have nothing to worry about. There are a lot of viruses going around at the moment that could account for your sickness and periods can often be late with gaps of several months in between each one being very common.

  • Hey vicki,
    Sorry if this is innapropriate but i cant really ask any one else. Soo, im 13 and havnt started my period yet, i have started puberty though but ive noticed recently that my vagina fells kinda swollen, i can tell. I hoped it would go away but it hasnt. Is this normal or should i tell my mum? I hope this isnt inapropriate. I realy need a answer. Plz.
    Thx, carly.

    Hi Carly, as you enter puberty your vulva (the external reproductive organs) will change shape and appear larger, if there is no pain in this area then I would not worry about this change you have noticed.

  • I'm twelve, and every time I laugh too hard, I end up peeing myself. It happens in school and nobody's mentioned it and I can't do anything about it and I don't want to talk to my mum because she just doesn't get it and it's all getting too much.
    Please help me

    CryingOverWetPants

    It is nor uncommon for females to release a little urine when they cough, sneeze or laugh so please try not to worry as we all do this from time to time.  You may find however, that visiting the toilet more frequently instead of waiting until the last minute will help considerably. 

  • I'm the only one in my friends that hadn't started and I'm worried that I never will. I'm only 13 but I was wondering does every girl start and what can the doctors do if you don't start??

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi! I feel my current bra is really uncomfortable and doesnt fit, im not sure if its too big, too small. I currently wear a 32A. I just measured and im 68.5cm underneath and 75cm ontop. Please can you give me an estimate? Thanks :)

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feel comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki!
    There is a boy who hangs around a lot because I think he likes one of my other best friends but he's always joking around at my best friend but only sometimes jokes at me too but never takes much notice of me and I really like his personality but not as much his look he is annoying and silly at times but I like him do you think he likes my best friend and not me what should I do around him to hint I like him because I'm moving schools this year?

    If you like this boy then be yourself and if he likes what he sees and how you act around him, he will let you know. It really is that simple!

  • Hi Vicki,
    My name is Savannah
    What does it mean if my discharge is a little white but also a little clear? Does that mean I am going to start my period soon or does it mean something is wrong??? Please help!

    Hi Savannah, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives and this is usually within 6-12 months.  It is normal for discharge to vary in colour, consistency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicky! My name is Hollie and I'm 12 years old. I started my period when I was 11 and I've only just started using tampons (because I think they are a lot easier). The first couple of times I've used a tampon it didnt hurt and now i am starting to get pain (in my vagina) Is this normal? Am I not inserting it correctly? Thank you xx

    Hi Hollie, the trick is to make sure that the tampon is fully inserted high enough into the vagina so only the cord is showing.  So please persevere as all it takes is a little more practice and for you to be as relaxed as possible.

  • Hello Vicki, for the past few days I've been getting these REALLY tiny little dots of blood in my pants, but I don't think its my period because it's about the same size as a hammerhead, or smaller. My friend said she thought it might be a sign that my period will come soon, and I've had discharge for two years so she might be right, but I just want to check. It went away today though

    This is your period so try not to worry and be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi im 11, i wear a corset, is this necessary?

    I am not sure a corset is necessary at any age. So the answer is no to this question.

  • I've had discharge for about a year and still haven't started, is this normal?

    Holly x

    Hi Holly, I would guess that your period isn't too far away so try not to worry.

  • hi vicky
    i have just staryed secondary school this September. ive made a friend and she likes this boy called joe. because i went to his primary she came to me for advice. recently she told him and i think hes a bit confused about what to do. what should i do? should i encourage him to take it steady or shall.him to forget about it? or should i do some thing else?
    xox

    As you are all still young, I would suggest that you tell your friends get to know each other as friends as relationships at a young age seem to cause no end of trouble.

  • Can jenett McCurdy of Sam and cat plz be a celeb for your video plzzz and when are you filming them

    I will pass your suggestion on to the team.  Thank you.

  • Hi Vicki I have a crush on a boy there call him L my friend D is getting all exited that's she's in love with L . L likes me better how do I tell here love ele

    Hi Ele, be honest with your friend and let her know that L has indicated that he likes you and that you feel the same. If she is a good friend she will understand as I am sure you would if L liked her.

  • Hi vicki i dont know what to do, im 14 and i think im a lesbian and whenever i have sleepovers with my girl friends they flirt with my twin brother but i think i like them mire than friends its making me really upset and jealous because i know some of them like him back. I keep asking him not to come in when there round but he doesnt.

    Puberty is a time when sex hormones run riot causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature.  It is normal for them to feel attracted to people of the same and opposite sex but this doesn't necessarily have to determine your sexuality. So try not to rush into putting a label on it and see how you feel when you're older.

  • Hi
    I'm on my 2nd day of my period and basically on my first day my period was a medium brown now its gone to a dark like really dark red near enough black? When will i be off and the blood doesn't fill up the pad about a small portion on a maxi pad

    Thanks for answering!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I have just started my first period and I only have Discharge for 5 months is this normal x

    There are always exceptions to the rule so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, I am not sure if this boy likes me. He is always asking me for the time and when I sit next to him in one of my lessons, loads of people move but he has stayed next to me. Several times, I have noticed him staring at me. But he moans when I have to sit next to him. What do you think? From Buffy x

    Hi Buffy, the best way of finding out if he likes you is by simply asking him.

  • Dear viki I have recently started my period and I would just like to say you have helped me so much over the past year and I think your amazing and not many things like this exist so thank you for being there xxx Georgia

    Hi Georgia, congratulations on starting your period and thank you for your kind words of support, I'm happy to help.

  • Hi vicki, is it normal to have mood swings durin puberty. If so, is there any way to control your emotions? Or not. Thanks xx

    It is very normal to experience mood swings during puberty due to the increase in activity of hormones.  The best way of keeping your moods under control is by talking about your feelings with your friends and family.  Chances are your friends are feeling the same as you too.

  • Errm I'm realy scared that im going to start my period in school and I won't have any pads with me because I've told my mum about my stomach pains and everything but she just says ohh its soon then but won't buy me untill I'm ACTUALLY on my period and at school I can't text my mum coz it's no phones allowed and I want u to take notice of me and not just say "talk to mum or someone will listen" coz that's NOT advice I'm begging u to help me I don't trust anyone but right now I'm trusting u plz don't tell! Ta

    First of all, please try not to worry as the best way of telling when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and this is when you might like to start wearing pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  Why not ask your mum if she will grant you her permission to request a free sample of our teens range?  All you have to do is click on the contact tab at the bottom of the home page of this website and fill in your details. Finally, all schools carry a supply of sanitary products for girls to use, should there period arrive unnanounced.

  • Hiya, so I'm 14 and I have never had a proper relationship only a couple in primary school which I don't count, and so a couple of weeks ago I was talking to a boy I know and we were "getting in" I guess until he stopped messaging me but I'm not sure why. Now I am just ordinary looking I just really want a boyfriend someone who will be there for me 24/7 and someone to love me, but I feel like I'm never going to get that. Any advice on getting a boyfriend? Ta xβ˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€β˜€

    Be yourself and the right person will come along and remember too that a great many people now prefer to date in their late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi vicki,
    So I had this dark brown discharge/ period and it lasted for around 4/5/6 days last week. I don't know if this was my period as it wasn't a lot of fluid. Not to be graphic but also when I wiped there were bits of brown skin of which came out of my vagina? Is this my period or just a sign?
    Thanks
    Lyidia
    (mysterious unicorn)

    Hi Lydia, try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period and the small clots you noticed are simply a part of the lining of the uterine wall.  Be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm quite a healthy active person but recently i have found out i am underweight is this a bad thing ? β€’0β€’

    The best way of maintaining a healthy bodyweight is by sticking to a healthy, balanced diet.  If your weight is something you are concerned about, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • hi i started my first period at the beginning of January and I'm going on a trip next week with school and we will be going swimming. i don't know for definite whether i will be on my period but if i am should i use a tampon? I've never used one before and i don't know how :\ thanks x

    As there really is no alternative to wearing tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection enjoyed by millions of women all over the world.  For some help with this, check out our video on How to use non-applicator tampons.

  • hi Vicki
    i am a bit worried about my period i have had 2 this month one on the 5th and the 26th is that bad
    from Rachael

    Hi Rachel, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I'm sorry if this is weird, but I have these lumps in my groin area-they have always been there. One of them has grown a lot bigger than the others. I was wondering if this is normal to have them, and if so why one's a lot bigger than the others?
    Thank you ;-)β™‘β™₯

    These are most likely glands that can be found in several locations on the body, but if they are swollen or sore you should speak to your parents who may pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • I know i asked this question a while ago but i forgot to copy my code so i couldn't find it:

    My boyfriend asked if he can feel my boobs (i am 13 so is he) i feel quite comfortable about letting him do this but my mum says not to because he will tell everyone but i know he isn't like that because i was his best friend before we went out we have been going out for 2 months now and what should I do ??

    love from nicole

    I have answered this question Nicole and advised that as you are under the age of 16 this is not appropriate behaviour and in some instances may even be considered unlawful.

  • Is it ok to watch porn while masterbating ?? I am only 12 and do this and am worried it is wrong ! Please help . Issy xx

    Hi Issy, whilst it is fine to masterbate, I personally do not feel someone aged 12 should be viewing pornograhic images and I would ask you to bear in mind that these images do not show a true picture of what being in a loving relationship is all about and they very often show women in a less than favourable light too.

  • I just found out the teacher i fancy is leaving!!! finding it hard to cope :(

    It can be hard when we admire someone and have a crush on them to find they will no longer be in our lives, but these feelings will not last and I am sure you wish your teacher the very best of luck in his or her new position.

  • Hello vicki I need a bra how do I measure my self ( I mean breast ) πŸ˜¬πŸ˜‹πŸ˜¬

    Why not check out our Bra Guide for more on this subject.

  • i am 11 and am having lower pains after i go to the toilet. is it my period?

    It may be your reproductive organs maturing, however if you only notice this pain when visiting the toilet you should speak to your mum or dad as this may be constipation or a urine infection.

  • How r u xx

    Busy, but very well indeed thank you.

  • Hi Vicki what is a well woman visit xxx

    A well woman clinic, is generally run by a female doctor or nurse, who can advise you on all matters relating to periods, breasts, contraception and any gynaecological matters. Some are happy to also discuss your general health and have your urine, weight, cholesterol and blood pressure checked if you wish. You can find details of these in your local phone book or online.

  • I had my first period last year in February when I was 11, but then it completely stopped for 9 months! I had it again in Novemeber last year, and it stopped again! Now I'm 12, and it has only just begun again (Jan), and I don't know if it will start/stop in another month. It has also been very light, and I've spoken to my mum about it. She was a lot older than me when she had her first period, and she said it was a lot heavier than mine. I'd really like some advice on what to do.
    Thanks, Anna

    Hi Anna, this is all very normal and long and short gaps are often noticed in between each period for the first few years. It is also true that not all girls follow the same menstrual pattern as family members so please try not to worry.

  • Vicki I've started my period but what if something happens in the future that stops me from having kids😭😭 I really want to be a mum when I'm older im so upset

    I really would not worry about something that 'might' happen and for now enjoy being a teenager and all that this time in your life brings.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had my period for a whole now and I want to start using tampons because i Beleive they are easier and I don't really like wearing pads they get sticky and uncomfortable. I recently got my mums tampon and put it into the bath (just to see how big it expands) and when I put the amplicator in the bin my mum shouted at me as she thought I tried it for my period. So now I know she doesn't want me to use them, how could I persuade her to let me.
    Love lolly x

    Hi Lolly, why not have a chat with your mum explaining your reasons for this decision. You may also like to let her know that Lil-Lets have a range of shorter and narrower tampons designed for teens and users new to tampons. I can even send you a free sample if she agrees.

  • Hi Vicki, I think I had my first period yesterday but I'm not sure. I felt like something was dribbling a bit and it was hurting a bit in my lower belly, I checked my underwear about an hour later and there was discharge and brown stuff. It was at about 7:00pm and I haven't had it again yet. I just wanted to know if it came at around about the same time everytime it happens and if that was actually my period

    This may have been your first period and very often periods can be irregular for the first few years, so please ensure that going forward you always have some pads or liners with you when out and about just in case your second period arrives when away from home.

  • Hello Vicki! I was just wondering, do women with very small breasts have round breasts? I have tiny boobs myself and they have this pointy shape, but I'm only 13, will by boobs get round even if they are very small in the future?

    Breasts often appear pointed or triangular when first developing and even when fully grown they can come in a variety of shapes and sizes...all beautiful in my opinion.

  • Hey, I have had discharge for over a year. I believe I have started my period as when I wiped in December it had blood on it. Every time I bend down I have an imense smell of fish. Everyday at school I spray so much perfume on myself. Is there anything I can do to help the odours

    Avoid spraying perfumes in this area as this can make the vagina and vulva have a very unpleasant odour. Instead wash this area twice a day and consider wearing pant liners and using our Lil-Lets wipes after visiting the toilet, as very often odour noticed in this area is made worse by urine, sweat or faeces mixed in with discharge.

  • is it possible to get strapless 28 aa bras

    It may be possible in some stores, however for a cup this size you may find you could go braless.

  • I have just started my monthly period again but it was early. Should I worry because it has never happened to me before :/ thanks xxx

    Periods can have both long or short gaps between each one for the first few years and even when regular the menstrual cycle can vary from woman to woman and between 21-34 days.

  • what does it mean if you get pink discharge you get really bad cramps headaches and all the other symptoms because i am not on my period yet but i think i'm very close.

    Pink fluid is generally your period as menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown or pink to dark (almost black) red.

  • Hi Vicki, If you don't have your period yet at like 18 and you have sex will you be pregnant or what will happen?

    Regardless of whether your first period has arrived or not, if you have unprotected sexual intercourse there is always a chance you may become pregnant.

  • Hi, I'm 12 years old and have not started my period yet. The past two days I have had some stomach,head,and lower back pain. I also got a lot of discharge yesterday. Does that mean I might start soon?

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait, maybe even in 2015.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I haven't had my period in almost 2 and a half months and I'm starting to get a little worried. What's happening and should I be worried?

    Periods can very often be irregular with gaps of several months between each one and this is nothing to be worried about and instead your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • So this popular guy in my grade thinks I'm lame and he blocked me on instagram ages ago because he said I was annoying. Anyways my friends showed me his instagram because I haven't seen it in ages and I saw an old photo that I had commented on and then he commented "go away" and now I feel really embarrassed. Anyone who follows him can see the photo (which is just a photo of the ocean by the way) and any comments on it. All I did was point out something he did. I find it really embarassing plz help! Xxx

    I am sure this picture and any comments are now forgotten by anyone who viewed it and it is not time to move and on and avoid looking at his instagram site even if friends try to show you.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 14 and haven't started my period yet. Lately I have been noticing loads of discharge (especially first thing on a morning) and I think I keep noticing a smell. Is this normal? I keep feeling really uncomfortable about it, and hope other people can't smell it....

    Odour from discharge can sometimes be noticed and can be made worse when mixed with sweat, urine and faeces. For this reason it is very important to keep this area clean on a daily basis and you may find wearing pant liners and using wipes are a good idea going forward.

  • Hi, just wondering what is the absorbency of the superplus extra tampon compared to the' ultra tampon?

    Our Super Plus Extra for very heavy periods is a 15-18 gram tampon absorbency, our Ultra tampons for an extremely heavy flow are a 18-21 gram absorbency and you can find out more about tampon absorbencies by reading my blog entitled; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • Hi what bra size am I?
    67on top 70 bottom.

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicky, I started my period two months ago and this month i haven't had it and it's been 2 weeks since I thought I would. As Ive only just started I didn't know if is normal to miss periods ( if I have )?? Thank you x

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • IF I GO INTO BOOTS TO BUY A STARTER PACK- D0I NEED PERMISSION TO

    Our Starter Packs are available in branches of Tesco, Asda, Boots or Superdrug and you will not need permission to buy one although there is no reason why you shouldn't talk to your mum or guardian about this.

  • Hi vicki


    My boobs are size up for a 28AA but I dont want to wear a bra because none of my friends do.
    Please help

    Love Rosie

    When you have an A or AA cup there is no need to wear a bra or crop top if you do not wish to, so please try not to worry.

  • I have size 36DD in bra size and am only 17, so not done growing yet sadly. But I was wondering where the best places to get bras that don't have such big straps and are just all over not sexy.

    Bravissimo or BHS may be a good place to start for this style of bra.

  • I'm 17 and have had my period since I was 11 or 12, so I'm not exactly 'becoming a teen' but I've always had this question and no one has been able to answer but they say it happens to them too. But, why is it that I'm on my period for five days then it stops a day and then starts again for another day? It never seems to fail to cause me to stain a pair of underwear.

    Very often when we feel our period has finished there is a little more blood that is yet to be released by the uterus and for this reason many women wear a pant liner for a day or two after they feel their period has ended for this very reason.

  • I started my period yesterday and its really light, the blood is only on the toilet paper and pad but only a dot. I'm also eating saulty and sweet foods help ~C

    Very often first periods can be very light and your diet will not be the reason for this, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi! This is a really random question, but I needed an opinion. So, I'm going to write an action story about spies and stuff. So the plot goes like this: some girl spy goes to a candy factory because the bad guy's working undercover there and is putting poison into the candy. I need your opinion on which title I should call it: Skittle Situation or Candy Crushed. Thanx.

    Candy Crushed is clever.

  • Hi Vicki, is it better to use unscented products for your period or scented?

    It really is a personal choice, some people find scented products can cause irritation and prefer a non-fragranced brand, like Lil-Lets.

  • Hey Vicki,
    mum and I just went out and got some pop crop tops, there like a crop top but with a bit more support, I tried them on and was happy with the size 10/12 but mum wasn't sure, I then tried on the size 14/16 and I found it a bit loose mum still wasn't sure, how do I teal her I want to keep them- both sizes?

    From Laurin {}[]

    I am sure if you chat things over with your mum and let her know you want to keep both sets, one to wear now and one to keep for the future she will understand.


  • However, I don't 100% know if this is my period or not, I think it is but I'm double checking... However, i don't know how to tell my mum! Me and her aren't very close and I feel in-confident tAlking to her about things... What shall I do? I can't talk to a teacher or school nurse or friend about it because I'm scared of what they think


    P A R T 2!!!!!

    If this fluid continues to be noticed for a a few hours or even a few days, then why not send your mum a text or write her a note letting her know your period has arrived. It really is that simple and you do not have to say anything more than that. We can even send her an e-card on your behalf if you wish and do the asking for you.

  • Hi Vicki, well it's a.m( January 26th 2015) and I woke up to go to the toilet, but when I went I saw a big light red patch in my pants and in my tissue. But none in my bed! I obviously knew my period was coming because I am 13 and I had all the symptoms.

    P A R T 1!!!!!!!

    Hi, see my response in Part Two.

  • Part 3:
    Also this boy has hugged my before once last year. He asked for a hug then immediately hugged me

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Please can you help me stop feeling so sad and fed up nearly all the time? As if I'm out of touch with reality. I'm 21. Please.

    Chatting things through with your family and friends will help and remembering to be nice to yourself is important too. It is not unsusual for hormone levels to still be fluctuating in a girl's twenties and for moods to be up and down from time to time. Some people find regular exercise helps lift their mood, so why not consider joining a gym or dance class.

  • I heard that exercise is meant to help you feel better and more happy but I don't see the difference is this normal? I exercise every day.

    Exercise can often leave people feeling happier and more relaxed and so don't give up on your exercise regime just yet. Remember too that being nice to yourself is important, so have some 'me' time when you relax have a warm bath, paing your nails etc....

  • At 20 Years old, I still feel like I am going through puberty and I even feel more of the typical teenager type emotional sad/worried/messed up/weird feelings than I did when I was a teenager. What is going on?

    It is very common for the emotions experienced during puberty to continue into your twenties as hormones can still be fluctuating.

  • Part 2:
    So, a couple of months ago, the boy I like who joked around wih me, tried to trip me up as I was walking with my friend. And not too long ago, he said β€œnice hair” to me in a jokey compliment way. When he joked around with me. I don't think he's like that with other girls. What does that mean?

    I would imagine this means he likes you. Whether that is as a good friend or romantically, only time will tell.

  • My sample didn't come with wipes (got it today) and I really wanted to try them, any way I could ask you for them?

    If your sample was missing its sachet of wipes please drop me another e-mail by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and I will investigate this matter further.

  • Part 1:
    There's this boy I like.We don't talk much because we have no classes together.Last year,he used to joke around with me and pull this weird face at me sometimes.the other day, I went on a school trip and he sat behind me and my friend with his friend on the coach. Me and him didn't talk much on the coach, but when we did, he joked around with me.he hasn't changed one bit since last year

    See Part Two for my response.

  • I'm 13 and I have a small lump around my nipple it's quite painful, it goes between stinging and hurting. It's quite firm but apparently it's just part of puberty is this right please help !

    This could be your breast bud which often sits behind the nipple making it appear lumpy, but if you have any concerns speak to your mum and she will advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki what are your favorite non lil-lets products I live in America so I want to know.

    I have always used and relied on Lil-Lets.

  • I've been invited to a friend's birthday on Friday and I am really nervous because I haven't gone out much this past year, I've sort of become reclusive, not by preference, it's just happened that way. And there is going to be alcohol, and I have not drunk alcohol ina while, I dont often have more than just 2 drinks anyway, but I'm nervous somwthing will happen, it's in a bad area and I am really anxious about it.

    I am presuming you are 18 and over if you have already been drinking alcohol and feel it necessary to let you know that you do not have to drink alcoholic beverages just because they are available, in fact it may be a good idea to take some lemonade or cola and stick to that if this is your first time out in a while. And if you are nervous consider staying for just a short while on this occasion, so you are in control of the evening.

  • I'm scared of having a panic attack. How can I stop them?

    If you have been diagnosed as someone who suffers with this medical condition then have another chat to your counsellor or GP. However, if you have not yet had one or feel something like a panic attack is happening to you, then you should speak to your parents who will be able to help you manage this matter and get you medical support if necessary.

  • Hi vicki! Wanted to make a little suggestion! Could we possibly have an option to comment on others posts (to help)? I mean it could be checked dorm hate before but think it would help! Thanks Amy x

    Hi Amy, we do not allow girls to comment on each others questions, but if you have a comment you can add it to our blog section and indeed lots of girls chat to each other by using this method.

  • Hi vicki, I am a lady aged 22yrs old en currently am having a strange discharge and pain "down" and m really suffering a lot and I don't no wat might be the problem bcause my menstrual cycle is ok en av got no problem with it, bt this pain is becoming unbearable thoo av taken some drugs to relive the pain it now fourth month.kindly advice me en let me now wat I might be going through.I am eager to hear from you.thankyou. christine

    Hi Christine, I would urge you to speak to your GP if you are experiencing continued pain in this area and he or she will advise you further.

  • Hi vicki! Love this website BTW! I like a guy hes a year older then me and I know he likes me back! He only talks at weekends in the week he ignores me. But he always compliments my boobs and I feel awkward, what should I do?

    I would hope any boy who likes you, likes you for more than just your breasts! And as you mention that this boy ignores you in the week and when it suits him,  I would consider very carefully if he is someone you want to get to know better.

  • Hi Vicky!
    Today I wanted to go swooning and I'm on my period but I bought tampons from your store and I couldn't insert them. They are the non applicator ones but I couldn't get it to go fully in and it really hurt.
    Please help!!

    Hi, like anything new it can take a little practice to use a tampon, but if you have watched our videos and read the leaflet enclosed inside each pack of tampons you will quickly get the hang of it. Some girls find inserting a clean finger inside their vagina when not menstruating gives them a better idea of where and how to insert a tampon.

  • Hiya Vicki

    Its kayleigh (again) your blog about boobs and bras would you think I would need one I don't get your chart that you put up. do you mesersure wit a mersuing tape please help !!! thank you get back to me asap thanks

    Hi Kayleigh, yes measure yourself under your bust with a tape and then around the widest part of your bust; across the nipple, this will give you a good indication of your bra size

  • Hiya xx
    What signs are there that your 1st period is on the way because I have had stomach cramps, mood swings and discharge for the last 6 months.

    Stomach cramps are generally a sign that your reproductive organs are maturing, because just as you notice changes to the outside or your body, big changes will be happening inside too! Discharge is however a great sign that your period is not too far away and you may find keeping some pads and liners with you from now on is a good idea.

  • hi Vicki I have a dilemma, because there's a boy in my year who is really lovely and he likes me and wants to ask me out. My friends have told me this and say that he's asked what I think of him. However, I like another guy but I think I'm starting to go off of him and I think I'm beginning to like the guy who likes me! what shall I do...should I just wait to see how I feel? thanks, em x

    Hi Em, why not let this boy know that you like him as a friend but would prefer to wait a few weeks before dating, this should give you time to work out how you feel about both of these boys.

  • My names emma I'm twelve and currently on my period. Just wondering, is it ok to masterbate whilst on your period?

    Yes, this is fine, although there may be a little mess that requires cleaning up.

  • My sister's 2 years older than me and although I started my period before her, she was much much more developed than me when I started. Is it normal to start your period even though your very little developed?

    Yes this is very normal as we all enter puberty differently and lots of girls find their period arrives before any breast or pubic development has been noticed.

  • Hi Vicki, have had discharge for over 6 months to a year and I still haven't started my period. I was wondering if you would beable to give me a briefing of when my period will come because I'm not shure if it will be soon. P.S I have discharge every day. πŸ’›

    Discharge can often be noticed for longer than a year and whilst I cannot give you an exact date for the arrival of your period it may be useful to keep some pads and liners with you from now on just in case it arrives when you are out and about.

  • My bust is 80 and under is 74, whats my bra size? I was wondering as my mother keeps buying me a 30B when i feel it may be a little big for me..! Thanks x

    34AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hello Vicki, your site is really helpful to me! i have not started my period yet but I don't think it is too far away. I do 2 hours 45 mins of ballet every week. Can you wear a pad under ballet leotard and tights, or will I have to use tampons? Thanks,
    RM

    Either will be appropriate, but for your first few periods you may prefer to wear a pad until you are more accustomed to your flow and cycle.

  • hi vicki. I'm Alisha, 13. lately I've become so stressed out. I keep getting heaps of homework, i'm in the middle of setting up an important blog, I have to finish this article a newspaper asked me to do and I have to practise piano to get a song right for my exam shortly coming up. as long as keeping up with all this, I would love a social life and I try to go running every week too. any help on how to deal with all of this? I'm so stressed. thank you x

    Make a list of your daily tasks and give each task a time and stick to it. Ensuring that you allow yourself some free time and relaxation time. If this does not help then it really is time to have a chat to your parents and teachers about your workload and how to minimise it.

  • can you wear tampons at night?

    If you plan to sleep for 8 hours or less then tampon are ideal for sleeping and as they capture menstrual fluid from inside the vagina there is less change of leakage as you move around.

  • Hey Viki, I was wondering if I were able to buy smaller non applicator tampons as the ones we have at the moment are small but don't have a very good absorbency, I have tried some with higher absorbencies but i find them impossible to fit in my vagina. Is this normal??? And where can I get some smaller non applicator ones???

    Lil-Lets manufacture a teens range of smaller non applicator tampon in both regular and super which you may find suitable for your needs.

  • Right this is super duper embarrassing but I'm honestly so scared right now. Here goes... for a while I've had this constant itching, burning and just irritation in my... You know, down there area. There's also been some brown discharge and I don't know what to do! I'm so scared and don't want to talk to my Mum about it... Please help me! What do I do? I did some research and think it might be that I've had too many bath bombs and products but I'm not sure what it is and what to do about it....
    paige xxx

    Hi Paige, it could be irritation from toiletries or you may have an infection, which you MUST discuss with your mum and try not to worry this can be treated with creams or pills and will clear up very quickly.

  • What is my bra size,
    27 band
    30 bust
    29 above


    Thank you
    could you tell me in Australian sizes please

    32A is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hey vikcki,
    All my friends have started I'm 13 in May and have all the symptoms I've had them a while, and suddenly I have been getting loads of discharge my underwear is swarming in it please help what do I do? And why haven't I started ?
    Love
    Ashleigh

    Hi Ashleigh, discharge is always a great sign that your period is going to be with you soon, so be patient and keep some pads or liners with you throughout the day in preparation for this arrival.

  • Hey Viki, I was wondering if there was any signs your about to start your period because I started mine today but only noticed when I went to the toilet and there was quite a lot of blood (thankfully I didn't leak thorough) but I dont want to be caught out again as next time I may be too late. Do you get any 'signs'????? Thanks xxx ee

    Some people never experience any clues that their period is due to arrive, others notice breast tenderness, break-outs of spots, moodiness or a bloated tummy. So my advice is to be prepared and have some pads and liners with you when out and about from now on.

  • Hey Viki, I've just had my second period and it is as heavier than my first one. Will they get heavier again or is this the heaviest they get, I change my tampon roughly 4 times a day xxx ee

    Hi, the amount of menstrual fluid lost can vary from day to day and period to period and it is not unusual for this change quite a bit for the first few years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi I'm 13 and I'm only a size 32a and some of my friends are a 36c and I asked my mum how old she was and she said she had proper boobs at 14 but had 32b when she was 13 I feel left out. πŸ’ž what can I do - harley

    Hi Harley, we all develop at different times and I really would not compare your progress to that of those around you and instead try to remember that for most of us breast development continues into our late teens or even early twenties.

  • I clense and tone most days and wear no make up except mascara, why does my face looks horrible, it is so spotty and uneven. How do I get rid of this as it is so embarrassing. Thank u vicky xx

    Hi, removing make-up every day and eating a healthy diet is important for clear skin as is keeping your hair away from your face, as this can carry natural oils that can irritate the face. Finally, remember that during your teenage years even the healthiest of skins can have break-outs of spots.

  • Im 30, a bit old for this site.
    but anyway ive had my period but i have no breasts at all!
    30 AA only barely fit me but i dont wear any bra is this ok
    I feel embarressed to be on this site at this age.
    Esmae

    Hi Esme, if you prefer to go braless then I really would not worry about this, however if you feel your breasts should have developed further then why not have a chat to your GP.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am 12 (13 in April) and started going out with a boy a few days ago. I've liked him for a while and for his personality-not for the wrong reasons like how he looks. It's not as if we're in a very serious relationship or anything but do you think I'm to young to have a boyfriend?
    Thank you xx

    If you and this boy are dating as friends and your parents are happy for you to do so, then I see no reason why you should not continue.

  • Hi vicki,
    Ive had white thick discharge for around a year now and I've started my period but only get it every few months. The discharge makes me feel unclean and uncomfortable and i have to wear a panty liner every day. It has a slight smell but my mum took me to the doctors and its not an infection, do you know if it will stop or calm down soon? thanks xxx
    ps. Im 13

    Hi, discharge is often noticed into your twenties and whilst it may make you feel uncomfortable from time to time, try to think of it as a good thing; discharge is not only keeping you clean it is also protecting you against infection.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have started my period and have just started using deodorant. I tried a couple of different types and I don't know whether to use a roll on or a spray. Which type do you use?
    ( sorry if this is inappropriate)

    I use a roll on, but my daughters use a spray, either will work well and it is really your choice.

  • Hi vicki

    My bust is 73-74 under is 68 do I need I bra if so what size? Xxxx

    Love Taylor

    Hi Taylor, 32AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • Hi vicki
    My boyfriend........and I πŸ˜‚he made say this😝were wondering is there a website like this for boys? If there is could u tell us please thanks xx❀️❀️❀️❀️❀

    I am not aware of one, however boys very often visit this site and ask questions, which is fine; they are very welcome.

  • pls can you do a blog post on anxiety and panic attacks

    We have discussed this as a team, however as there are so many different websites who offer advice on this specialist subject I do not feel it is appopriate for me to write about this condition.

  • Hi Vicki, i have been having discharge for 3 years now and I haven't started yet, but I wiped once a few weeks ago and there was a little blood but I still don't have my period

    Even though a little bit of blood was lost this may still have been your first period, so ensure that from now on you always have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Please can you interview youtubers like zoe, louise, tanya, niomi etc

    These are all on our list.

  • Hello vicki, my name is Vicky haha, this diver called James Denny came to our school today and I liked him a lot, and I said bye when he left and he gave me a little hug ❀️❀️❀️❀️❀️ Then I weed myself but my friend Beth said it's not wee then I said what could it be and she said your going through your period but I don't think I am because it was only a little drop of brown liquid, what could this be? Xxxxx

    This could be your period and it may have been a coincidence that it happened when the diver hugged you. It was however more likely to be a clear fluid made by the body and released via the vagina when a female finds someone or something attractive and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am wearing a 36A bra but I am over filling it but my mum wont get me measured. what should I do?????

    Why not wait until you mum feels it is time for a new bra in a month or two.

  • Hello vicki it's frazzle ( I know weird name) can you do my breast size please bust: 76 under: 45 I'm 12 xx thank you πŸ˜‚πŸ˜˜πŸ’–πŸŽ€πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ˜

    Hi Frazzle, can you remeasure as I think you have given me incorrect measurements.

  • Hallo Vicki I'm Freya I'm new to your website and I wanted to ask you a question my friend Beth said she is a 28AA and my sister said (she's 14 and a 39AA) that twenty eight AA is nothing, is this true ?

    28AA is the first bra size available but it is hardly nothing and any breast development is important to the person it is happening to...don't you think.

  • I have never had my period before and this morning I wiped and there was some blood , I didn't tell any one or do anything , I did get discharge throughout the day but when I came home there was still no period in my nickers ... Is this normal ...is this even my period ... I need help to understand my own body xxx

    It may be your period as very often only a small amount of fluid is lost, my advice would be to always keep some pads and liners with you when out and about from now on, in case a second period arrives unexpectedly.

  • Do you know anything about stopping feeling anxious and stop feeling that way around family/parents?

    Chatting things through is the best way to lower any anxiety you may be feeling, because sharing any concerns you may have will help you and your family manage this time in your life as a family.

  • Hi Vicki my first period lasted from Friday to Thursday and was very heavy the first couple days it started on the 16th and does that mean it will start on the 16th of every month and last for 5-6 days because my birthday is the 16th of may so it will start on the night before my birthday so i should wear liners for the upcoming week and night pad the night before sorry im new to this thing and i love your range its so comfortable to wear kiz xx

    Hi Kiz, first periods are often irregular with gaps of several months between each one, so your next period may be anything from 21-34 days away, sometimes even longer. My advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about just in case it arrives unexpectedly.

  • I have had my period for the first time, and after it stopped for about five days everything was fine but on my sixth day after my period, a white substance (looked like thick icing sugar) was on my pants, is this normal or do I have an infection? Please reply xo

    This is discharge and often noticed in between your period and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicky,
    Over the last 2 days I have been having a normal white discharge but I have also been having some brown spots which are like a cotton wall ball they are really small

    This could be your first period so why not place a liner in your underwear for the next few days and see if any further brown fluid is lost, if it is then share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • recently my vagina has been feeling really tingly like all around it. what does this mean - does it mean that ill have my period soon!!!

    It may be that your reproductive organs are maturing and this is the reason for this feeling, but please try not to worry I am sure this is nothing to worry about.

  • why is it not good to use a tampon when our not on your period

    If you insert a tampon when not menstruating there will be no blood for the tampon to absorb and this would make it very uncomfortable to remove and may tear the vaginal passage.

  • Vicki please help, so I have had a sore back for a few days and my mum said to tell her if I notice blood in my pee cause I might have a kidney infection. And just now I released blood in my pee and if I tell my mum she's gonna take me to the doctors. So what I need to ask is what will they do? I really hate needles and stiff and I am NOT getting a blood test cause I hate veins. Also will they want to look at my vagina cause I'm NOT letting them do that either?

    I am quite sure your doctor will listen to your mums feedback during your appointment and simply offer you a prescription if he or she agrees it is a urine infection. They may ask you to pee into a bottle just to be sure but not more than that a a general rule. Finally, make sure that this blood is coming from your urethra and not your vagina as lots of people experience back ache before and during their peirod.

  • I have a few light hairs and you can see them sometimes but my vagina doesn't feel hairy and its not curly and it doesn't come in patches and its very fair and light. what is gong on and is this pbic hair and its the same with my armpits they have really like hairs but they aren't spiky they have been their since I was 9 but I think they have been there all my life and I haven't noticed it

    Pubic hair comes in a variety of colours and can take several years to become thick and curly so please try not to worry, just like the hair on our heads, our pubic hair can differ from person to person too.

  • I HAVE HAD DISCHARGE FOR A FEW MONTHS REALLY BAD LIKE TODAY I WOKE UP WITH IT ALL OVER MY LEGS. BUT I DONT HAVE ANY PUBIC HAIR OR ARMPIT HAIR. WILL I GET MY PERIOD SOON AND WILL I NEED TO HAVE PUBIC AND UNDERARM HAIR? ALTHOUGH I DO GROW BOOBS

    The signs of puberty can arrive at any time so please don't feel you have to have pubic or under arm hair before your first period. Instead consider keeping some pads or liners in your bag when in school and for when the discharge is very heavy consider wearing liners during the day.

  • Hey,

    Its my 2nd period and i started 37 days later but my period blood now was light brown but its dark? Will i be off soon?

    Thanks Vicki

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour and this can be anything from light brown to dark red at any point in your period.

  • Hi there!
    So I masturbate and I'm only 12 my friend who is a year older thinks it's gross I mean I don't want to have sex of anything But I just like it. Am I weird? Btw I know it's normal but have I started doing it at a young Age??? Please answer me and sorry if it's innapropriate!
    Thanx for all your help Vicki

    As you have already  said, this is normal and therfore not weird at all. However, please try to remember that not everyone is so comfortable and may be embarrassed to talk about it, so please respect their privacy and opinion.

  • Hi there Vicki!!! How are you?
    So there is this boy that I think likes me! I think he's
    Okay he's great to hang out with atleast. Are there
    Any ways you can tell if a boy likes you? Signs....etc
    Thanks xx 😊β™₯β™₯

    Hi, does he look away when he sees you have caught him looking at you. Is he always around you, does he go red when he sees you, or act silly when he is with his friends. Any of these can be signs that he likes you as more than just a friend.

  • How long does a period last? X

    A period can last anything between 2-7 days.

  • By measuring my bra size should be a 32A (70 under, 76 bust- is this right?) and I asked my mum for some bras. She said we'd go shopping but I really don't want to go with her- I'd much prefer to get some online to save embarrassment (I'm 14). I know she'll refuse to buy any without 'properly trying them' how can I avoid this!?

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, it would be a good idea for you to try on some different styles and sizes until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  Try to remember that we all have breasts so you should try not to feel so embarrassed.

  • Hi Vicki, I started secondary school recently (August2014) and have a boy in my class who went to a different primary school than me, so I met him 6 moths ago. I would probably say that he is the boy I am closest to, we sit next to each other in 5 classes & now I've realised it wouldn't be so bad if we had a stronger relationship . But, I'm not sure if he feels the same way, even if he felt we could become better friends over the next year then see how it goes? What do you think is the best way forward?

    If this is going to happen it will most likely do so very naturally without you having to do anything at all. Remember too that boys often mature later than girls and are quite often happy just being friends.

  • Me and my friends are regular swimmers & we never wear tampons! Nothing ever leaks so do you think we'll be okay?! Xx

    No I don't  I am afraid and there is always a chance that fluid will leak into the pool, which I am sure you will agree is not very nice for others in the pool with you.

  • There's quite a few " Pervy" male teachers at my school and I'm so scared of being raped!!!! What shall I do x

    I am not sure what you mean by 'pervy' in this instance,  or what these teachers are doing to make you feel so uneasy, but I would imagine if you speak to your mum about this matter she will be able to either, reassure you this is not the case, or if she agrees with you, she will speak to the head teacher and address this issue.

  • Hi Vicki how are you xoxo

    I'm very well thank you.

  • Is it easier to use an applicator tampon or non applicator for a first timer? Mae xx

    Hi Mae, we usually recommend you use a non-applicator tampon to begin with as it should be a little easier. 

  • Is it silly to wear two pairs of pants when I'm on my period, just incase it leaks through when I'm at school?!?!?

    You can do this if it makes you feel more secure but you can help to prevent any leakage by making regular changes of your pads or tampons.

  • My friend takes "the pill" because she really really really hates her periods! How can I ask my mum if I can take it too? Thanks Vicki xoxox

    Doctors generally only prescribe the contraceptive pill if there is medical reason, such as extremely heavy periods or sometimes acne. But please remember that your periods are a normal part of being a woman and as such there is no need to prevent them, if you ensure you always have the best quality pads or tampons to collect your menstrual flow your period should not be an inconvenience at all. 

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm 14 years old and I have a pear shaped body. The top half of my body is significantly smaller than my bottom, my bottom looks huge, how can I lose weight on my bottom and not the top half of my body?

    We are all made in different shapes and sizes and this is what makes us who we are but please try not to forget that you are still going through puberty so you have yet to fully develop.  By sticking to a healthy diet and by being as active as you can be, you will develop into your adult-self beautifully so try not to worry.

  • Hiya vicki,
    Underneath is 26-27 and on top is 32-33 what is my size?πŸ’–

    Your bra size is a 32A but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi, I only just plucked up the courage to tell my mum that I've started my period, I've had it nearly a year but now I've told her she keeps on fussing over me, constant,y asking me how I am, if I have a tummy ache etc etc! It's really irritating, how does it stop? X

    Well done you for finally telling your mum and I'm sure she is only fussing over you because she wants to make sure you're ok.  Just be honest and tell her that you're perfectly fine and she doesn't need to worry about your period at all as you have it all under control.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I started my period a few weeks ago (8th of January 2015 to be precise) and now it's the 26th of January 2015 and my period has come again. Why has it come so early
    Thanks,
    Skye

    Hi Skye, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had this crush on a boy for about 2 years. Recently one of my best friends has been going out with him. I'm really confused and I don't know how I feel about it but when she told me I felt really angry.please help me.thanks

    Try not to worry about this as crushes often fade anyway.  Try to move on and forget about him.

  • Hello! So my grandad who I have only known for 3 years we have all built a close relationship with him however he has just been diagnosed with heart failure, bit I don't feel sad about it, I am confused as to why I don't feel upset is this normal? And also does this mean he will die soon? 😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞😞thankuou

    As I am no doctor, I'm afraid I can't really comment on your grandad's health but it is lovely that you have become so close to him recently and there is no reason why this shouldn't continue.   Not feeling upset about his illness is your way of dealing and coping with it but please be sure to talk to the rest of your family about your feelings.

  • How can I loosen my vagina?

    The vagina is a muscle that can expand wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born so there really is no need to want to 'loosen your vagina'.

  • Is there a minimum and maximum age on your teens tampons?

    There is no medical reason why you cannot wear a tampon once your period arrives and if you feel ready. However, I always advise girls to wear pads for the first few periods they have so they can become accustomed to their flow and cycle.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 14 I turned 14 on the 1 of October and I haven't got my period yet I shve discharge and everything I think I've had it for at least 6 months maybe I'm getting kind of worried and I don't know how to spark my mum thanks xxxxxx

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her.  As you've already been releasing discharge for 6 months, I would guess that you haven't too much longer to wait until your period arrives.

  • Hello Vicki,
    This year I'm going to be 16, and I still haven't started my period!! I'm getting worried is this normal?! Or is something wrong? I have had discharge for a while now
    Please help!!!!!

    Try not to worry as it is normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • hi Vicki
    My bra kind of sags at my bust and I often find that my nipples are showing. Does this mean that it's too big? Too small?
    Thanks,
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, if you find that your current bra isn't providing you with the support you need or covering your nipples, ask your mum or guardian if she would consider going bra shopping with you to find one that suits your needs.

  • Hi Vicki

    Can you please Interview Gardiner Sisters? (They are Youtuber)

    Thank You

    I will pass your suggestion on to the team.  Thank you.

  • Hi vicki can u remember the huge sample pack u sent girlztalkxx on youtube btw none of mine hav came yet xxx

    The only sample we now send out to teenagers is one sample pack that contains one each of our teens range, together with our becoming a teen booklet and money off voucher.

  • Hi Vicki could you tell me my bra size:
    Under: 91cm
    On bust: 158
    Please help I have much bigger boobs than my friends and I need a new bra!
    Thank you!!

    I would recommend that you book an appointment with a professional bra fitter so you an get the right, most comfortable support for your breasts.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have got a big problem I cant get my tampon out. It's really painful and it's been in there for 36 hours. HELP!!
    Thanks

    You must speak to an adult about this immediately who will either help you remove the tampon or pop you along to your local A&E Department who will remove it for you.

  • Hey vicki!
    My discharge is getting really heavy. I have to keep buying thicker liners! Thank you for replying to all my question!! I haven't got my period yet but have no idea when it will come? My mum got hers when she was 14 and I just turned 14 like a week ago. Is it soon.

    Thanks Vicki you have been a massive help to me!!

    Xx chantelle

    You will have to wait and see as we don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting our periods.  However, many girls do find that their discharge increases before their period arrives.

  • How can I masturbate Vicki ???
    Sorry if inappropriate ......
    XXX May

    Hi May, masturbation is something that is felt instinctively and naturally and is definitely not something I can tell you how to do.

  • I've had my first period for 6 days so far. For the first 4 days it was very light with clotty black bits in it. Then for the next 2 days I thought I was finished my period, as there was only the slightest, lightest little bit of blood when I wiped. But then earlier I was doing my gymnastics, I started sweating, I was to the loo, and there was more blood in my undies. I'm worried that my period is going to last too long, and I guess I'm just worried about my weird period in general. This can't be normal?

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  The black clots you noticed are part of the lining of the uterine wall which is perfectly normal so please don't be alarmed.

  • I have this friend who I have asked out and he said yes. Well this happened on about the 18th of last month. We decided we are not ready for this yet (being 12). We hang out about 30 minutes before and after school together, and when we do we sit by each other, but lately he has been getting a lot closer to me like leg to leg touching. He says he doesn't like any more I have thought about kissing his cheek multiple times but I'm afraid it will ruin our friendship. What should I do?

    If you feel like kissing this boy on the cheek then it is clear he is more than just a friend to you and if he keeps moving closer he clearly feels the same about you. My advice would be to chat as friends and let things happen naturally, if a kiss is going to happen it will and without you having to worry too much about it.

  • Hey Vicki
    I am 13 almost 14 and haven't started my period. I have had discharge for 2 years, random cramps for about 1 year, my boobs are growing, I get acne here and there, and lots of mood swings but no period. My period can stay away as long as it wants but should I worry that it hasn't come yet? What should I do?

    Try not to worry as I'm sure it's not too far away now as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while.

  • Part 2
    Also we're learning about the menstrual cycle in science and my friends are always laughing about it. I really want to tell them that I've started my period but I don't know what to say. Any advice?
    Emily x

    Hi Emily, try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so it's only a matter of time before your friends will have their periods too.  Why not be honest and open about them as you will be making things easier for them when they start theirs.

  • Part 1
    Hi viki I'm 11 and I've just started secondary school and made some new friends. I've just started my period and when I need to go to the toilet and change my pad my friends come to the toilet with me (I haven't told them that I've started my period yet because I don't feel like we're very close) I allways take longer then my friends because I have to change my pad.

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki thanks for answering my last question but I actually don't where tampons how do I ask to use them. I've tried but I'm way to chicken.

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't feel embarrassed talking to her about tampons.  It's never been easier to try them than now as Lil-Lets offer a teens Regular non-applicator tampon that is ideal for first-time use, having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  For some help with this, check out our video on How to insert a non-applicator tampon.   All it takes is a little practice and for you to be as relaxed as possible.

  • My bust is 32-33 inches and underneath it's 28-29 inches what bra size am I?

    Your bra size is a 34AA with those measurements.

  • Im the summer I was in a relationship with a boy, I sent him pictures, not nudes but pictures of my cleavage and of me in crop tops, shorts showing off my bum, I don't want you to think I'm a slut. He Screenshotted them and threatens me with them when I do something he doesn't like! It's been going on for 6months and I've had enough of it, I don't want him to give them to people but I can't take it anymore what should I do? I hate myself for it and it makes me cry all the time, I cut because of it..

    This is totally inappropriate and you may want to let this boy know that blackmailing you by threatening to show these pictures to others is actually against the law and the police take matters of this nature very seriously, so he would be wise to delete these pictures before you actually tell on him. I am sure once you stand up to him he will back off and rethink his comments.

  • Hi vicki, so I've never been measure before and my mum and I measured myself and I seem to be between 32-33 inches on my bust and 28-29 inches underneath, I started wearing 32A bras but there was bulge at the side so I told my mum and she changed my size to a 32B but when I do online things it says I'm a 32A, I think 32B's are too big because there is space at the top and it's a bit loose but 32A is too small at the sides, what size would I be? I'm 14 by the way and I'm 5'3 I weigh about 7 stone.

    Your bra size is a 34AA with those measurements but as this is only a guide, so when you go bra shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • You have helped me so much and made my teenage years lots easier!!! Thank you so much!!!
    Keep doing what your doing and do NOT change!
    From Poppy xxx

    Hi Poppy, thank you for your kind words of support.  I am happy to have helped.

  • I'm the one that's talkjng to you about committing sucide .... So my cousin doesn't want me to tell parents are older people ... We just want to keep it to ourselves and one of her friends! Please what should I do

    It really is not a case of what your cousin says, this is a serious matter and one adults need to know about and I would urge you to speak to your parents with some urgency.

  • Hi vicki
    I think I'm a bit of a hypochondriac because I always worry that I have motor Neron disease or multiple sclerosis or stomach cancer or am going blind (all in the past week!) and I always feel so nervous and scared that I'll die before im a grown up and never be able to have kids etc. what should I do?
    Love from Faith x

    Hi Faith, as we enter our teenage years we very often find that adult topics that would not have even entered our heads as children now start to fill our thoughts. This is all part of your journey to become a young woman and if you have any concerns please share these with your family, who will I am sure, put your mind at ease.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My question is bizarre I know but here goes. Do you have an email address that I could send you a picture on? I want to send you a pic of me just so that I can get an opinion on what hairstyle I should go for as I've been debating on whether to cut my hair short forever?
    I also can't go to the hairdressers and there isn't one near me and my mum always trims my hair and I've asked her opinion she said its my choice

    The wonderful thing about hair is that you can change your style as often as you like.  As you're considering cutting your hair short, why not look online at hair magazines to see which styles you might like and what might suit you.  I agree with your mum in saying that how you wear your hair is your choice.

  • Hi Vicki !! Δ°ve been feeling extremly ugly and i hate my body ( thats because im a bit over weight ) my bra size is C38 and i just turned 14 i dont wear underwired bras just soft padded ones , everyone in my year wear push up bras and they say there boobs dont sag . But mine do and i hate it i dont look a C but more of a B or even A but my boobs fit perfectly in my bra how can i stop this?
    Many thanks.x

    It is common for teens to develop a poor self-image during puberty due to all the physical and emotional changes they are undergoing all at once but please try not to worry.  Please consider joining a club for something you enjoy as a way of giving your self-confidence a boost.  As for your breasts, ask your mum or guardian if you can go bra shopping and be sure to try on bras in different styles and sizes until you find one that will provide you with the comfort, structure and support you need. 

  • hi i was 13 about 5 momths ago. I have had pubic hair and white discharge for about a year. I also started wearing bras in June 2014. why havent i got my period yet?

    As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I'm 13. 90-95 pounds. 5'3. I sometimes feel really fat and want to stop eating because it's like it feels good to be hungry.
    -is my weight ok?
    -should I be eating less
    Thanks
    Ballet girl

    Rather than worry about what the scales say, consider your diet and exercise regime, if you feel these are both satisfactory then your body will find its ideal weight naturally. Finally, during puberty your body needs a lot of calories to keep up with all the change happening so please don't be tempted to starve yourself or go hungry, this is not healthy during puberty.

  • Dear Vicki,
    Some nights I find myself crying myself to sleep over nothing. I have also been having discharge recently. Is this a sign of me starting my period??? Could my crying be my hormones going into over drive??
    Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    These changes to your mood are very normal and nothing to be too concerned about, during these times it is important to chat your feelings through with family and friends who will help you manage these emotions. Finally, discharge is often noticed for up to a year before the arrival of your period so it may not be a good idea to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering should you wear a bra to bed as
    I normally do but they always feel sore then but I don't
    Know if it's because their still growing so plz help out thanks

    Mirrorblue xxx

    Hi Mirrorblue, it really is a personal choice as to whether you wear a bra whilst sleeping; some people like to take a break at night whilst others feel more comfortable wearing one all the time. Finally, it is very common for breasts to feel tender at any time of day.

  • Every single time I look in my knickers, I have like a light brown substance in them and it's usually hardened into my knickers and I have white bits in my vaginal hair and it makes my hair stick together and go hard and my vagina sometimes goes all wet with small white bits in it. Please help I'm worried

    A brown stain in your underwear may be your first period if it is noticed over a few days and especially as you have noticed it following discharge (the white fluid in your underwear). However, if you notice this brown fluid every day then it could be waste food (poo) not wiped away thoroughly after visiting the toilet.

  • I'm 13 and I haven't got very big boobs but what I do have is some really big lumps that are tender when I touch them and quite hard in my boobs and I'm worried!?what are theyπŸ˜ͺ

    The small raised lumps you have noticed are breast buds which comprise of fat, tissue, muscle and milk glands.  They are a perfectly normal sign of breast development so try not to worry.  It is also normal to notice tender, sore breasts with development.

  • Hey, it's Carida!
    Is it possible to get a lump on your leg (sort of an inch below your knee) from growing pains? I know you're not a doctor or a medical expert, but I was only wondering if you'd heard of growing pains making a lump on your leg?
    Thanks!
    xoxoxoxo

    Have a chat to your parents as this is not something that is generally associated with puberty and it may be that you have knocked this area without knowing and now have a lump as your body heals.

  • my cousin gave me some of her old bras about 1-2 years ago when she left for N.Z. My breasts started to bud about 2 years ago and now when I try the bras they feel to tight. I think I might need a bra because my crop tops are irritanting on on my breasts and they feel tight, but I'm not shure how to ask my mum and what size I should get. The bras of my cousin are sizes 30A and 28A.

    It does sound as if you need a bigger size so ask your mum if you can go bra shopping and be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki,
    How can I apply for free samples? ❀️

    If you are under 16, we would first like you to ask for your parent's or guardian's permission to request a free sample from us, then pop onto the home page of this website and click on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page.  Fill in your details and we will be able to process your request.  It's as simple as that.

  • In a boyfriendy cuddly mood, any help? Xxxxx

    Hormones run riot during puberty causing young girls and boys to experience more feelings of a sexual nature so this is perfectly normal.

  • Hey vicki I have recently started PE and I am wondering about how I am going to change my clothes to PE in front of the girls like are they gonna see my pad and stuff how do I change without them seeing my pad

    Francis πŸ’•πŸ’˜πŸ’–

    Hi Francis, try to remember that you're not alone in this as every girl experiences periods.  You might like to consider wearing two pairs of knickers to provide you a bit more security and when you feel ready, you might like to try using tampons.

  • Hi
    I was wondering that i think you should make like a period diary by lil-lets?
    Thanks for answering

    Thank you for your suggestion.  I will forward it on to the team.

  • Hiya Vicki
    I'm 12 yrs old and I'm a size 28a ( I also fit into 30AA). I'm quite pettite and small but I am really quite tall. The kind of thing people would call "lanky".
    My bra size is really small compared to my friends but I feel padded bras don't exactly support me even though I have small boobs. Most shops only start doing underwired bras at 30a. Is it possible to get push up bras for 30aa?

    You might like to consider going bra shopping and trying on some different styles and sizes until you find one that suits your requirements.  Shops like M & S, New Look, La Senza and most large department stores should be able to help you with this.

  • does your period cycle start the day you start you period or the day you end it? For example..If I started my period on the 12th and ended on the 17th..when does the cycle start all over again?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, the first day of you starting your period is the day you count from until the first day of your next period which will then give you an idea of how long your menstrual cycle will be.  This will usually be within 21-34 days.

  • I want to ask questions about sex for the first time but don't know who to ask , I was wondering if u could please help me ?xxx

    Please ask away as I am happy to answer your questions.

  • Hi I was wondering if I was on my first period I got out of bed and I went to the toilet and I sow blood in my white underwear so I put a pad on and there was only a little pach of blood on my pad when I wiped there was a lot of blood on the toilet paper can you help

    This is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about.

  • πŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’ž
    okay so vicki there's this boy and he has a girlfriend but me and him used to like each other and it ended badly and now that he's with this new girl I just feel so let down, but I shouldnt? We were never together and I know that but I can't move on and be happy without him. I happy for him that he has found someone but I just wish it was me😭 I don't know what to do I dream about him every night and he's on my mind all the time please tell me what to do😭

    It seems you may have missed your opportunity to date this boy, but that does not mean you have to be excluded from his life, so let him know you miss his friendship and hope you can still hang out every now and then, obviously with his girlfriend’s approval.

  • How can I look older?

    We all enter puberty at different times and it really is a case of waiting for your body to develop in its own time, so try not to feel you have to make yourself look older and be happy being who you are.

  • I am 15 an still sleep with my teddy. Is it time I stopped?

    I see no reason to carry on sleeping with your teddy if it offers you comfort.

  • When putting a tampon in why does it hurt

    The key to doing this successfully is to be as relaxed as possible and to get plenty of practice as being nervous and tense can make the experience uncomfortable.  You might like to consider watching videos on how to insert a tampon so you get a better of idea of what you're doing.  To make things easier, we recommend that you try using tampons on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  Remember too that to avoid discomfort the tampon should be inserted high inside the vaginal passage and like anything new this takes is practice biut I am sure in no time at all you will be enjoying the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women and girls all over the world.

  • Ok, so this is really disturbing for me cause I heard my mum & dad having sex 😝 a while back and I got so angry because it's weird and horrible for me to hear this, I'm an only child so I can't talk to a sibling and I heard it happen again more recently so I chucked a bouncy ball downstairs πŸ˜‚ but now they know I heard cause they stopped 😁 helppp!
    Thanks xx

    Try to remember that when a couple are very much in love one way of showing this is by having sexual intercourse. I appreciate it is hard to think of your parents in this way and I am sure now they know you have heard them, they will be more discreet in future.

  • Whats a milf?
    I read it on a ryhme.
    Is it bad?
    Sorry if it is rude.Fluffy Bunnys

    This is a slang abbreviation for when someone describes another person's mother they would like to have sex with.

  • How do you order a free sample pack?
    Thanks,
    Niamhxx

    Hi Niamh, if you could first of all ask for your parent's or guardian's permission to request a sample from us, then pop onto the home page of this website and click on the Contac tab at the bottom of the page.  fill in your details and we will process your request.

  • Is 12 to young for wearing foundation?

    This is something you should discuss with your mum or the person who cares for you, as they may have specific views on this matter. Personally, I see no reason for you to wear this kind of heavy make-up at this age.

  • Hiya Vicky
    All my friends have started their period or been through puberty and I haven't and I'm 12, whenever we are getting changed for pe they have bras and im still on crop tops and I feel really insecure about it, what do you think I should do ??πŸ’Ÿ
    From lucy

    Hi Lucy, try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and it is possible for beasts to develop up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi so there's this boy that I think likes me.
    I think he us okay but I was wondering if there are aye signs
    You could tell me to know if he likes me.
    Thanx lavender123

    Hi Lavender123, check out my blog on Your First Love for some help with this.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm going on holiday soon and I will be going swimming everyday, I'm worried that I might be on my period, I really don't want to have to use a tampon, is there anything I can do that will mean I can go in the pool? Xxx

    As there really is no alternative to using tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be enjoying the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women and girls all over the world.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Tampons and Holidays.  Try not to worry and have a great time.

  • I searched my question and when it came up I pressed it and no answer appeared. Should I ask my question again? Don't want to be rude😏it was: can you recommend any books or magazines to do with puberty and growing up??? Thx!!! Siena

    Hi Siena, yes please resend your question. You should be able to find all you need to know about Puberty and Periods on our website, but a good book to read is What's Happening The Inside Story.

  • Hi Vicki,
    recently I have become very good friends with this boy, who is now part of our friendship group and one of the closest to me. I started to like him as more than a friend, so I told my best friend (who also liked him a bit). I then told the boy how i felt, but he didnt like me as more than a friend so I left it at that.now, two weeks later, I still like him, but the main problem is that him and my best friend are now boyfriend and girlfriend. Its making me quite upset, what should i do?

    I know it's not much comfort to you at the moment but you should really try to move on and forget about him.  Try to keep busy with your family and friends as there is plenty of time for boyfriends in the future.

  • Over Christmas I went on a school ski trip. There was a boy who went from our school who was 15. (I'm 13). We ended up Dancing together. for the rest of the trip everyone teased us about it. I am back at school and we started texting each other. He doesn't think people with a 2 year age gap should go out. I really like him and we are similar. Everytime I see him I just get teased. Now he has started ignoring me and stopped texting me. I don't know what to do? Should I just ignore him? Please help. Xxx

    As this boy has been ignoring you since you've been back, I think you should do the same.

  • I was quite an early bloomer and have quite big breasts, and I have recently started wearing make up regularly. My guy friends have started to treat me differently and they are not as open with me as they used to be before. How do I get them to see me as one of them again and explain that just because my physical appearances have changed I'm not a different person? Thanks Savvy.

    Hi Savvy, the thing is that your male friends will also be noticing changes in their physical appearance as they go through puberty and as their hormones are running riot, they might be experiencing new feelings of sexual attraction, not only to you but others too.  Just continue being yourself and tell them to do the same.

  • Hi Vicki. I've never really fit in with girls as much as I don't like all the friendship drama, but for the last two years I have gone to a girls school as it was my top choice when doing the 11+. This means I only meet up with my guy friends once a month.

    You can still try to be friends with girls but just keep out of the dramas.

  • Should I be worried as my period is more clumpy and dark than normal thin red discharge, I heared that this is old blood or something, it's fairly regular then stops for a while and starts, it's been like this for a bit should I be worried ?

    Clumps are simply pieces of tissue from the lining of the uterine wall are a normal part of menstruation so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicky I just turned 12 on November 2014. I know I have a breast bud in my right Breast since July and now my left breast is very tender. When will my breasts start to develop. All the other girls already have big breasts so I feel embarrassed and self conscious at times please help me . I need to know when my breasts will start to develop.

    We all develop at different rates to each other and even though you haven't experienced much breast development yet, there is a chance that you could have larger breasts than your friends so please try not to worry and be patient as breast development can continue up until a girl's late teens or early twenties.

  • I haven't started my period yet but I'm almost 13 and I've already started changing. I get cramps and stomach aches and mum said my period will start soon and I get really embarrassed to talk to her. I wanted to ask you, when I get my mood swings (which I have already experienced)
    How should I deal with them? What should I do to take my mind of everything? I really hope you can help xx

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and as for your mood swings, these are a common symptom of puberty and the best advice I can offer on how to deal with them is to talk about your feelings with your friends and family.  Should you feel yourself becoming angry, try to distract your thinking on to something else.  Try to remember that you're not alone and there is a good chance that your friends are experiencing similar feelings too.

  • I have just recently started my period but it only lasted for one day. Is this normal? Please help me. Xxx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi, Vicki. I've recently become a bit worried that I may have a social anxiety disorder. I've researched symptoms and noticed that I suffer from a few of them. It's things such as not being able to look people in the eyes and I always get sweat patches - sometimes before even arriving at school. I do suffer with extremely low self-esteem and worry that it's starting to affect my social life too. Please help. Georgia x

    Georgia, only a medical professional can diagnose this condition so please try to avoid internet sites that ask you to take part in quizzes. During puberty it is quite normal to feel self-conscious and find your body reacts in different ways, for instance becoming nervous and sweating for no reason, but this does not mean you have social anxiety. My advice would be to chat to your parents and let them know how you feel, they will then be able to help you manage these feelings, or if necessary pop you along to your doctor for a chat.

  • I'm 14 and finally need a bra. I've been on a couple websites (including this one) and they all say i'm size 32A. Is this correct, Im 70 under bust and 76 bust. Anyway I asked my mum and said my size but she said 'theres nothing there'. this is very embarrassing and rude of her so I don't know how to get bras as I don't want to buy my own (and was hoping she'd get me some online). What can I do?

  • Hey
    I had my first period on 3/5/11and I saw a drop of blood on the shower floor the next month so I asked and you said it was my period. But I haven't had it since. I think I had it on Friday bc I wiped and there was red on the roll and I went to the toilet later and there was red again but I've not had anything since. I'm starting to think I've not started yet. My friend has started and she said it skips months but mines nearly skipped a year!Please help
    LOVE GG

    Hi GG, please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki, this is my 3rd period now, but it's been pretty heavy, I'm using extra absorbent pads, and have to change a few a day, I've ruined like 3 pairs of pants now! They just seem to leak out my pad somehow. I've Realised by sleeping straight and on my back your period blood doesn't flow up your but. The first night I stained the bed 😣. How can I stop ruining pants? Cherryangel26

    Hi Cherryangel26, it's normal for it to take a while to get used to your flow and learn how to manage your period.  You might like to consider trying Lil-Lets Freshlock Night pads as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Vicki, HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

    I am peeing so much lately and having discharge overloads, my pants are covered with sticky yellow, wet stuff all around my pad area, it even leaks through!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    HELP!!!!!!

    XOXO Alicia

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and it is normal for it to appear yellow when it dries out so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  As for urinating more frequently than usual, you might have a urine infection so be sure to drink lots of water and talk to your mum or guardian about this.

  • Hi Vicki I have recently started my period and am 14 years of age. From my last to my current period there was only a gap of 19 days?- is this normal as I have just started and have only had 3 on and off periods before ?! Thanks Rosa xoxoxoxoxoxo

    Hi Rosa, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. 

  • hii i am 14 years my bra size is 34d and i want to haveee more big boobs how can i?

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to make your breasts develop any bigger.

  • Dear vicki,
    All my friends always go to all these parties together and they invite each other, like last night they went to a concert and I didn't get invited, I feel really left out and I don't know what to Do? Also my out of school friend is being really distant and everytime I try and text her she either ignores me or says she is busy and it is making me really sad! I also want to use tampons but I have tried in the
    Past and failed! Any advice?

    Love Rosa

    Try not to worry as it is normal for us to outgrow our friends from time to time.  Why not consider trying to make new friends by joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport?  This will also help to give your self-confidence a boost too.  For some help with this, check out my blog on Keeping and Making Friends.  As for using tampons, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls. 

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 12 and I have had my period but I don't have boobs.when will they come? Thanks

    Try not to worry as we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and as breast development can occur up until a girl's late teens or early twenties, you still have plenty of time.

  • I have been having my period for around half a year now and today when I wiped I got light brown discharge (the discharge was not my period) is it normal for discharge to be brown?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months

  • Part 2. When I go out during the evening to have a few drinks with my friends he tells me if I'm meeting up with boys not to do anything with them and if I did he would be annoyed?I guess I'm trying to say is I feel like I'm ready to do stuff responsibly and I think he wants too as well but I'm not gonna keep satisfying his needs if he isn't going to make a move or something. I'm not looking for a relationship with him exactly, I just feel ready to do stuff but want to do it with someone I know very well.

    Firstly, as you are 15 I feel it necessary to inform you that a) you should not be drinking alcohol or having any kind of sexual relations with anyone. So please wait until you are legally old enough to be intimate with your boyfriend or to consume alcohol. Finally, if you care for your boyfriend then respecting his wishes are important just as long as you feel they are in your best interests.

  • I'm 15 and I'm very respectful of myself & haven't done anything with a boy apart from kissing. However, I have recently found myself attracted to this boy I've been bestfriends for just over a year. I know this inst that long but it doesn't stop the fact I feel very comfortable around him. We have started to be more and more flirty towards eachother. Part 1

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki
    I started my period around 5 months ago and so far they have been pretty regular and normal. However, recently I have been releasing a lot of discharge - could there be something wrong?
    Jezabelle

    Hi Jezabelle, try not to worry as discharge can vary in colour, consistency and amount throughout the menstrual cycle.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.

  • how do girls masturbate?

    Why not read our section on Sex and Sexual Feelings for all you need to know about this topic.

  • Hi vicki, I forgot what it's called but in the long part before my vagina there is a copper if little lumps what is it??

    I'm not too sure if you're referring to your labia so I suggest that you take a look at my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System Inside & Out.  As for the lumps you have noticed, please mention them to your mum or guardian to see what she thinks they are.  If they are spots, try applying a little antiseptic and they should hopefully go away within a couple of days.

  • Hey viki,
    I'm a 32D bra size
    Had discharge for about 3 1/2 years
    I bloat a lot Have a lot of hair down below I'm 13 and a half I get mood swings and very emotional
    But NO cramps at all! Do you think I will get my period soon ? Thanks xx

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki so today I felt a pain around my vagina and pubic hair I thought it was discharge sticking so I checked and I just as I thought there was some discharge there and sticking but I was using a liner at the time what do u suggest

    You might like to consider using Lil-lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there and help to prevent any discharge drying into your pubic hair.

  • Hi Vicki, Flora here.
    I'm 12 and I'm going out with this boy, we go on the same school coach, I really like him we always wit next to each other and were going to meet up soon. But, neither of us have told our parents about each other and I don't want to lie to them and tell them I'm going to meet up with a group of my friends. Please help xx

    Hi Flora, you should always be honest with your parents so please tell them about this boy.

  • How offered should I use the freshen up wipes?

    The choice is entirely yours as some choose to use them each time they visit the toilet, whilst others might  use them whilst on their period.

  • This is a very urgent question and I'm really worried!
    I'm 14 and I started my period about three/four months ago. I'm due on my period but I wiped and there was this yellow/ light browny discharge stuff. I've googled what it is and they go from stds to Yeast infections but I am a virgin and have never been touched by anyone so I am extremely worried and scared. My mams at work, so I've messaged her but I really don't know what to do?
    I really hope you can help, thanks x

    Please try not to worry as this is not thrush as thrush presents symptoms of a thick creamy discharge which looks like cottage cheese, a swollen, irritated, itchy vagina and you would also be experiencing a burning sensation whilst urinating.  Discharge can often vary in colour, consistency and amount throughout the menstrual cycle so please try not to worry.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicki, I feel like my best friend is taking over my life. Not as in we do everything together and it means we don't get time with family. I feel like we aren't the same as we used to, she always questions everything I do and started planning my party. But I don't know how to tell her about it she's my best friend ( I think). Please help!!! Sophie xxx

    Hi Sophie, as this girl is your best friend you should be able to tell her exactly how you feel.  It is possible for us to outgrow our friendships at times so you really need to think about what you want your friendship to be like.  As for your party, she might think she is helping you but if you feel as if she is taking over, please tell her and try being more assertive with her.

  • Hi Vicki.
    When I wiped my vagina the other day there was blood on the wipe but none in my underwear. I think this is my period is this normal?

    This is your period so try not to worry as it is perfectly normal.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey viki
    Okay so I'm 12, 13 in October and haven't gotten my period yet. I've had discharge for 2-3 years. I shave and wear a 30 b bra. I'm getting really worried because I'm going on holiday to Florida in November for 11 days and we will be in the swimming pool a lot. When do you think I will get my period and will I be able to use tampons by November?
    Also many periods do you have to wait until you can use a tampon ?
    From
    TEE

    Hi Tee, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls. All it takes is a little practice so in time you will be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Tampons and the Summer holidays.  Have a fabulous holiday.

  • Hi Vicki, I have visited this website every so often and have read the info, but sometimes I get super nervous around stupid things like going to pay at a shop or being with my crush . any advice?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once; it's no wonder they lack confidence and feel stressed at times.  Try to look at ways of boosting your self-confidence and perhaps consider joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, dance or a sport.

  • I'm worried about getting my period. Any advice?

    Please try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to worry.  Be sure to read everything you can about them as understanding them will make things less scary.  For more help with this, check out our video on The Monthly Cycle.

  • hi vicki,
    im 12 and i shave my legs (not regulary) and armpits (regularly) and i have some pubic hair and i don't know when i can shave/wax/hair removal down there because i really hate pubic hair and have watched videos saying what girls use to shave but i don't know when to or how? i don't know what's the appropriate length or when to shave it and i do get my eyebrows waxed anyway so i know how it feels. thank you

    It is entirely your choice when you choose to shave or wax your pubic hair.  You might like to begin with simply trimming it to keep it short enough that it doesn't show through your underwear.

  • Why do I always think I'm going to drink alcohol when I am older

    There is a presumption that once you are legally old enough to consume alcohol you must! But I can assure you there are lots of teenagers who once they have had their 18th birthday decide alcohol is not for them, so the choice will be yours and please don't let anyone force you into a something that you are not happy to do. 

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have eczema and have had since I was a few months old. Recently, my breasts/nipples have been itchy and I have scratched them. I know this is normal in puberty, and I scratched them until they bled, and with eczema it is extremely hard in life to resist the urge to scratch.
    Today, I noticed some of the areas on and around my nipples have crusted over and I am just wondering if this is normal in puberty, normal for someone with eczema or not normal at all? Lynn, xx

    Hi Lynn, during breast development the skin is naturally stretched so by having eczema too, you should take extra care to keep it as hydrated and moisturised as possible by applying lots of cream.  Try to resist the urge to scratch it as it will make the skin bleed.  Your GP will probably be able to prescribe some more effective cream so please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment for you.

  • Hey viki
    (Sorry if inappropriate)Can you feel when your period is happening? Because I was ince walking with my friend and she kept telling me she was 'bleeding' and I can't feel when my period happens is this because I have only had my period once??
    Please AWNSER ASAP
    1/3/15
    From
    Amy

    Everyone is different and some people have a slight sensation of menstrual fluid leaving their body, whilst others feel nothing at all, so please try no to worry there is no right or wrong here.

  • Hello vicki it is Layla I would like to thank you as I am now able to understand what my friends are talking about thank you so much xxxx πŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸ’–πŸŽ€

    Hi Layla, you are most welcome.

  • Hello vicki
    My name is Esmae and when my mther and father watch a film and a sex scene comes on I wee myself but is it wee or is it discharge because I get it when I watch sex scenes and my companions talk about it at school ? Xxxxx

    This fluid is made by the body when you are sexually aroused and is a little bit like clear and runny discharge, it is nothing to worry about and all part of becoming a young adult.

  • What are wet dreams ? Xxxxx

    Wet dreams are when a boy or man has a sexual dream.  The penis becomes stiff and releases semen.  This is also know as a nocturnal emission.

  • Hey vicki! Thank u so much for ur last reply. But does white discharge cause itching? U just told me about the odour. Are u sure I m not having an infection. Thanks in advance.

    When discharge dries into pubic hair, it can cause an itch so you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they might help.  Try to remember that discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • Hi vicki! This morning I found a red mark in my underwear, and I woke up last night with a really painful tummy ache. Is this my period?
    Thanks x

    This was probably your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  Stomach cramps can be eased by doing some gentle exercise, by using  hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath.

  • Hi Vicki, it's Molly. I'm 15 this year. Is it bad that all my friends have figures like backsides/ much larger bra sizes than me? I am very tall and 'lanky' with no figure. do you think I will look like that or stay like I am?

    Hi Molly, try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.  Why not consider ways of giving your self-confidence a boost - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • I'm going on holiday soon and I am going to go swimming in a pool and I would be on my period I'm really scared of putting on a tampon,I tried it before but it really hurt could you help and give me some confidence thanks xx

    Try not to worry as all it takes is a little practice.  We recommend that you first try on day 2 or 3 of your period as this is when your low will be at its heaviest which will make the tampon easier to insert.  It is important to be relaxed before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine, ensuring that the tampon is fully inserted into the vagina so only the cord is showing.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  for more help with this, check out my blog on Tampons and the Summer holidays.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am really interested in testing out some samples because I am reall scared about talking to my mum about periods but if you did give me samples how could tell me parents it's for me,what if they opened it without me knowing :/ please could you help me and answer this asap thanks so much xxx

    We would need you to ask for your parent's permission to request a free sample from us anyway so try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and don't feel embarrassed as periods are a natural occurrence for all of us.  Your samples will be sent in a discrete brown Jiffy bag.  For more help, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hey Vicki
    I haven't started my period yet. My discharge is getting really heavy. Is this a sign I'm getting close?? Well...
    I have started to see my pubic hairs come out of the sides of my undies!!!! What do I do! I'm so embarresed and scared it will hurt when I wax it. Also I am in Australia and I do not think you send samples to AustraliaπŸ˜” so do you know any good brands of liners??

    Xxx Chantelle

    Many girls notice that their discharge becomes thicker before their period arrives but you will have to wait and see what happens.  If you don't feel ready to start waxing your pubic hair try not to worry and simply trim it back for now.  You're right that we don't send samples to Australia just yet but we are hoping that this will change in the future.

  • I definitely don't have a hymen as I have put in a tampon before so I dont think i can be that could it just be that I am very ...."tight" down there. I heard you can get dilators but could this weaken the vaginal muscles?

    Even if you use tampons your hymen can still be in tact as it only partially covers the entrance to your vagina and the fact that you can insert and wear a tampon leads me to believe there are no issues here for you to worry about.

  • Hi vicki
    Im eloise and I would like to know how you know if your over or inder weight im 5stone 10ΒΌ is this normal thanks btw the way im 13
    Bye
    Xxx

    Hi Eloise, rather than worry about what the scales say, consider your diet and exercise levels, if these are both healthy and you exercise often your body will find its ideal weight that is right for you, it really is that simple.

  • I wet to the doctors cuz I thought I had a water infection and she said it could be thrush or water infection cuz it burnt when I wee. But then I came on my period and now it doesn't hurt while I wee does that mean I have thrush or is the period taking away the pain?

    It may be that your infection has gone, but if you have any concerns you should go back and speak to your doctor as he or she is now treating you for this problem.

  • Hello Vicki! There is this new boy in my school, he is 17 and I am 16. He has been messaging me and telling me I am pretty and dropping hints he likes me. But he is one of those boys who likes girls too much and has a dirty mind. He told me today that he found his ex girlfriends bra strap in his room, and he hints about sex all the time. He says he is Christian but does not act like it. I don't want to be mean and tell him I don't want to speak to him anymore. Please help me! :)

    Why not suggest that you are simply friends with him?  That way it takes the pressure off and gives you the time to find out what he's really like.

  • Vikki I got my period a about 5 days ago and for the first day or 2
    I got red blood but now I only get dry blood and I have had it for 3/4
    Days. I know the first is irregular but how do I tell it's finnished

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  You will know when your period has ended as your menstrual flow will stop.

  • hi vicki
    i use ur night pads but no matter what it always goes onto the back of my underwear and its so annoying
    what should i do? thankss

    Why not consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels Night as they are from our adult range of products and you might find them a better fit.

  • i have started my b**bs and me and my brothers were toy fighting and they kneed my growing b**b and it really hurts

    This is quite a common occurrence as when breasts develop, they feel sore and tender and any accidental knock can really be quite painful.  Try having a soak in the bath and place a warm flannel on it to soothe it and then simply keep an eye on it.  Hopefully, it should feel better within a couple of days but if not, mention this to your mum or guardian.

  • hi vickie, I have Had 6 periods already and they are hardly heavier than discharge are light brown and last only 1 day. Is this normal? I am only 10(turning 11 this year).
    Thanks for your help! with love, stripy-pj's
    p.s love this site! SUPER HELPFUL!

    Hi Stripy-Pj's, in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.  Thank you for your kind words of support.

  • my Mum had her period when she was nearly 13 will I get it at the same time? thanks Vicki

    We don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting our period so the best way of knowing when it might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • do you need to have pubic hair and underarm hair to have your period?

    No.

  • yesterday I got a massive migraine, it was really sore. I am 11 years old and im only growing breasts and im not sure about hair, My Mum said that the migraine was probably the change of hormones. I know this isn't a medical website but do you think that was correct? xx love emma

    Hi Emma, there is a good chance that your migraine was caused by a change in hormone levels but for peace of mind, ask if she would book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hey Vicki,
    A week ago my mum found two drops of blood and now I'm scared I will start my period and I have had discharge I think
    Help

    Try not to worry as this was probably your period and in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  So be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  Try not to worry and remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for all of us females.

  • dear Vicki. my friend M said if you don't have your period and only have discharge it is dangerous to wear tampons and towels. apparently the only thing you can wear are liners. is this true love missmissmoo!

    Hi Missmissmoo, you should only ever wear tampons when you are releasing menstrual blood as inserting a tampon dry can cause tiny tears to appear on the vagina wall which may then lead to infection.  Pant liners are ideal for protecting your underwear from the effects of discharge as they are thinner than pads and can easily be changed as often or as little as you like.

  • I really want to try some samples but I'm scared my mum and dad will find out and ask what it is and they might be angry at me if I didt it by myself. I don't like to talk to my mum about periods so could you please give me advice on this I think I would link to try some because I'm not sure what to get and im embaressed to ask her witch ones are best please please help! -thanks xx

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence in every girl's life so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed as your parents will be aware that your period won't be too far away.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.  We do ask that you have your parents' permission to request a free sample from us.

  • hi vicki :)
    im 14 and i have had every sign of puberty except for the fact I've only had a little discharge and i haven't started my period yet! when will i start as all my friends have ages ago!!

    x

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months so try not to worry and remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am confused. What is masturbating?
    thnx

    Why not read our section on Sex and Sexual Feelings under the Puberty tab for all you need to know about this subject.

  • 1)What's the smallest bra size you can get?
    2)And how do I make my boobs look flatter?

    28AA is the smallest UK size and very often the correct size bra will make breasts look a little more petite, but whatever you do don't think by squeezing into the smallest bra size available you will make your breasts look smaller, it will in fact have the opposite effect and make them look larger and misshapen.

  • dear Vicki im so scared because yesterday I was in a very rough area so I could do my hobby. me and mum were waiting in the car and a tramp stood in front of the car and looked at me and im only 11.
    I told my mum I was scared as she started to drive away. she said she was scared too. then someone tried to steal her purse so I had to run as fast as I could to get away. I got a nightmare about it last night. please help me

    I am sure you were safe whilst in your mum's care and in time these fears will subside.

  • Hi viki im 13 and when I do pe my breast tend to jiggle I do were sport bras but I only were them for netball. I was hopeing you could tell me any hints about telling my mum that I think I need a bra. Plz could u just tell me loads of hints I could ask her
    P.S I still were crops tops and there really annoying

    plz help thnx abby

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need fro you to feel embarrassed about this.  For some more help, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • 13. 32a. How do I ask my mom for a bra.
    I don't want to ask when she got her first one

    Try not to worry and remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty herself once.  For some help with this, please check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki, I live at home with my dad and there are only ever boys around me so it is hard to talk to anyone about it all. Also I have short spells of blood every 3-7 days a month but it only lasts about 1 hour a day. Also is it possible to have a free trial pack please. Xx Ali Xx

    Hi Ali, I wonder if you might have other female relations who you could talk to?  If not, you could always talk to a trusted teacher at school or I am here to help you.  Try not to worry as a period can last anything between 2-7 days and all you have to do to request a free sample from us is to first ask for your dad's permission and then pop onto the home page of this website and by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page, you can then fill in your details and send them to us.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am a HUGE Harry Potter fan and would like to know who your favourite Harry Potter character is. Thanks!
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, I am afraid I have never read a Harry Potter book or watched the movies, so I cannot comment on this.

  • When I was 12 I got a little arroused by seeing sexual scenes in movies and on a night. But I'm 16 now and I haven't been feeling like that for a few years now? Whats happened? Is that normal?!

    I imagine these feelings were very new for you when you were 12 and now you are older you are able to  control them a lot better and this is nothing to be worried about.

  • Dear vicky,
    I was wondering if you could help me out, so do you know when I start my period I am very shy to tell my mum and sometimes I even run out of pads I am only 12 so i can't go to the shops and get it myself, usually my mum guesses or she finds my knickers which are sometimes covered in blood, I've only had my periods 4 times so I don't think she will always guess or find out in the future, do you think you could help me?? Please!!

    Why not leave her a little note and put it somewhere only she can find it such as her make-up bag or underwear drawer, asking for some new supplies, I am sure the will put them at the top of her shopping list.

  • I've been diagnosed with Osgood-Schlatter's Disease, and I don't know how to minimise pain. I've been given ibuprofen, but it's not helped. The only thing that's come of being diagnosed with OSD is what happened when I went to school on Friday; I told my teacher, because I trust him a lot, and he told me that he'd had it when he was my age, and he said that if I wanted to have a talk about anything related to it, I could feel free to talk to him.
    Do you know any ways I can minimise the pain?

    This really is a matter for you and your doctor to discuss and decide how to improve your pain medication, so why not book an appointment and have a chat.

  • Hi Vicki

    Recently I have been feeling really low and I have been having sucidal thoughts a lot. I'm only 12 years old and I am scared to tell anyone, incase they laugh at me. I have told one of my friends but she thought that I was just joking. I don't know what to do. I also suffer from a little bit of OCD and anxiety and don't know what to do.

    What should I do?

    It really is time to share this news with your family and teachers who I can assure you will take your concerns very seriously and ensure you get any help you need to manage these feelings going forward.

  • hi Vicki im really scared that ill star my period in gymnastics class or pe and it will show what can i do ? xxx

    If you feel your period may not be too far away then consider wearing pant liners when taking part in sporting activities this should offer you the reassurance you are looking for.

  • im in love with my ex



    help please

    Try to remember why he is your ex, if you feel the reasons for your split are no longer there then I see no reason not to try again, but if things are just the same then it may be time to move on.

  • Hi!

    I'm 12 and i dont like boys yet! Is this normal. My friend is not 12 yet (but is soon) and shes had like 4-5 boyfriends. I told her she was way too young to have boyfriends and how could her parents agree on this and she said i was just jealous and i should stop turning down guys.

    Am i normal?

    Of course you are normal and so is your friend.  We are all very different you see and the time we enter puberty and notice all the different signs of puberty will vary from person to person. My advice would be to let this topic drop with  your friend and agree on this occasion that you both feel differently about this matter.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm a twin and we are both 12. So about 2 days ago my younger twin got her period, and i'm older. I was a little confused. She's a bit bigger than me and now i'm worried i'm going to get mine!

    I hope some other people in my class already have theirs. I don't want to be the only one. I just have barley even there discharge, and my sister had brownish a few weeks ago. So i don't think i'll get mine for a while. But when will i?

    It would be almost impossible for me to give you an exact date for the arrival of your period but as you have already noticed discharge I would consider keeping some pads and liners with you when out and about and why not read all the great stuff on our website which will help you understand periods and puberty.

  • Hi Vicki. For a few months I've been lightheaded, had tingling hands and fainted. My friend went to the doctor cos she was feeling dizzy and said she had iron deficiency. But I don't want to see a doctor in case he says I've got the same thing as her. I heard my symptoms could be diabetes etc. I don't want to seem like I'm "copying" her.
    Thanks, Lilly- May x

    Hi Lilly-May, rather then self-diagnose, which is never a good thing, have a chat to your mum and ask her opinion, it may be that you are not eating or drinking enough during the day and a doctor will quickly be able to identify what the problem is.

  • Hi vicki

    Im 13 and all my friends go around kissing boys at discos and i dont do it because im actually kinda scared to do it and i actually dont know how to so are u able to tell me how and do u think my friends will except that i dont know how ❔❔ :)

    I am not sure anyone truly knows how to kiss until the moment they actually do it! So please try not to worry, kissing is very natural and should not be rushed into, when the right person comes along and the moment is right you will know and it will be magical. Finally, why not read my blog entitled First Kiss.

  • Hi, I know this is probably an awkward question but in my pants I see discharge but I also see this grey stuff- it looks like thos cotton bumps things you get on knitted jumpers! Its not causing me pain or anything I'm just curios to know

    This is most likely discharge that has clumped together and become discoloured in the process and nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • How many years of discharge should you start worrying at? Because i've had it for three years now and no period

    There is never any amount of years of experiencing discharge that you should worry about, discharge is the body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and will continue to be noticed once your period has arrived, which I am sure is not to far away now; maybe even this year.

  • Hey so I was just wondering
    1. I'm a 32a now, aged 14, but I was the same bra size when I was 12...is that ok?
    2. I haven't started my period yet and Its really late compared to most people in our year at school. I'm just worried I won't be able to have kids when I'm older. I heard that it could be something to do with my diet or sleeping patters. Any advice?

    Thanks

    Hi, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so I feel you have nothing to worry about at this time and as for your bust size, well as you have grown taller it is normal that your bust size may have stayed the same.

  • Hi Vicki me and my cousin have been getting unusual messages ... People are telling us to commit suicide and all that stuff😭 I don't know what to do helpppp!!

    Please speak to your parents and show them these messages, they will deal with this matter and ensure the people sending these texts are dealt with in the most appropriate manner.

  • Hi Vicki, I am going to sing in my school assembly this week - solo. I've never done anything this big, and get nervous when singing in front of one or two people. I want to do it to make myself proud, but the largeag audience I've ever had is 50 odd people. This will be roughly 300 people. How can I cope with nerves and stop my hands from shaking and prevent a panic attack (I have bad anxiety) x thank you so much ✨✨✨ x

    Practice, Practic, Practice is my tip and possibly invite family and friends round to the house for a rehearsal. Finally, remember this that you have been chosen because people believe in your talent and a little nerves never did anyone any harm.

  • Hi Thank you for my sample pack. I didn't realize I was being sent one as I hadn't got an email from you saying its on its way it just arrived so thanx!

    With so many girls requesting samples I rarely send an e-mail letting people know their sample is on its way. I guess it makes for a pleasant surprise when it arrives!

  • Hi Vicki I am a bit scared about using a tampon plz help!!

    Like anything new tampons can take a little bit of practice and it is only natural to feel a little nervous. But I am sure you already know that millions of women and girls all over the world use them and enjoy the freedom they offer. My advice would be to read the leaflet enclosed inside each and every pack, watch our videos on the website and relax, remembering to insert the tampon high inside the vagina so it does not feel uncomfortable. Why not try with our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons ideal for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • Hi vicki, it's the twins again
    We haven't been on lillets for a while. Our little sister is 10 (nearly) and she went on our blog and read about periods and asked us what they are. We said we will tell her later.
    What can we say to her!?!

    Please help ASAP

    Brooklyn and Melanie xx

    Hi Both, why not show her our website it is designed for girls of her age and she will then be sure to be getting the facts about both puberty and periods.

  • Hiya vicki
    So i asked a few weeks ago if my 4 days of brown discharge was my period and you said it was but I didn't experience any cramps or anything like that do all girls get cramps and other symptoms of pms?
    Thank youuu
    πŸ™

    Not everyone experiences cramps so please don't feel this is something all girls go through.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Im quite skinny compared to my other friends and they often pick on me for it. I have another group of friends who don't judge me on the fact that I haven't really got any boob's yet or my weight or anything. How do I explain to my other friends that it isn't ok for them to hurt my feelings but to also stand up for myself without hurting their feelings?

    Why not ask them how they would feel if you spoke unkindly to them and let them know that we are all very different and you are happy with your shape and hope they are happy with theirs.

  • I finished my period Thursday night/Friday morning and it is now Saturday night and I'm still getting like a medium brown discharge, I've had it before but only normally like once the day after I've come off, never for this long so is this just still abit of left over period or should I be worried?

    This is the final part of your period and nothing to be worried about, like me you may find wearing a liner for a day or two after your period is a good idea to catch these little fluid losses.

  • Hi Vicki!!!
    I've had breast buds before and I am having them again... Does this usually happen??
    And I've had madly strong discharge for as long as I can remember... I still haven't had my period... :-(

    The breasts continue to grow for many years and can very often have periods of no growth followed by growth spurts so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki , Im having a baby but I am scaared my vagina will hurt then I may have to have a cut, I really scared about soreness after birth

    please help me xx
    sasha

    Hi Sasha, this is something you need to discuss with your midwife or doctor, in my experience the feelings after childbirth is more of discomfort than pain.

  • Hi Vicki
    What comes in the free sample&how do i request it? I clicked contact before but didn't know what to do next?
    Please help:)

    Thank you:D

    Our sample pack contains one each of the following, teens; pads day and night, liners, wipes, tampons and our Becoming a Teen booklet, plus money off voucher. When you click on contact a form will appear and you simply add in your details and in the message box let me know that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request samples.

  • Hi Vicki i have 2 questions 1. Sometimes i feel like im gonna black out ive felt like this a few do you know what this is. 2. I had to do this thing in drama and when i got up to it i did it with my best friend and my heart started racing, i was almost crying and i felt like i was shaking do you know what this could be. Thanks Exterminator Wild xx

    Hi, if you feel a little dizzy then it could be that you have not eaten or drank enough during the day, as for these feelings  you experienced in drama, this is very normal and your body's way of preparing you for something exciting or dangerous and really is nothing to worry about, a few deep breaths should help ease these feelings.

  • Hi Vicki!
    a boy has a crush on my best friend, and knows that she doesn't currently like him as more than a friend. He has said i can tell her if i wish, but i think i should leave that to him. Is there anything i can say to either of them to ease the situation? Thanks for all your help. Tizzy xxx

    Hi Tizzy, my advice would be to stay out of this matter and leave any chating or messaging to them.

  • Hiya vicki!!!!!! Ive askes u sooooooo many questions and youve helped soo much amd i just wanted to say thank you so much for your support amd help.
    Heres my q:
    Recently, my cramps have just COMPLETELY stoppen and i havent had any cramps for over 2 days and i was just wondering why.
    Tysm xxx
    S xx

    Hi and I am glad to hear you find this website useful and don't worry about the cramps, these can often disappear for a day or two and it is all very normal.

  • Hi Vickie, my mum has told me that she is expecting her third child, I have a sister, but I am worried that she will forget me as I am 13 and the eldest.
    What should I do?????? Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    You will be amazed at how much love a mum has for all of her children and whilst your new baby brother or sister will take up a lot of her time, she will no doubt be keeping any eye on you and your progress as a teenager. For your part, keep chatting to your mum, sharing your daily news and helping out when you can. This is a way of ensuring you remain close even at her busiest of times.

  • hi Vicki I am always getting discharge and the original signs and was wondering if you could send me some free samples to start of and I will promot them on youtube thank you X

    I would be more than happy to send you a free sample, please click on the word Contact at the bottom of the page and enter your details into the form, letting me know you wish to have some samples and that if you are under the age of 16 you have your parent's permission to request them.

  • Hi Vickie,
    My vagina is sore and it looks like there is a red flabby bit of skin around the opening. I'm worried. What should I do??

    The vulva (the reproductive organs you can see) often grow during puberty changing in colour and size, but if you are experiencing irritation then you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Im 12 and HAVENT started my periods, for about a year iv been getting white discharge becoming heavier and heavier, recently i have been getting sharp pains in my lower stomacn. Am i starting??? Also im 13 next month

    With so many signs already noticed you may find your period arrives sometime in 2015 so ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you when out and about from now on.

  • Hi

    The other day (sorry for being detailed) but i felt like my vagina was burning it didn't hurt lasted like for 3-4mins and idk why but my hairs been getting really greasy top to bottom on my head and my heads starting to hurt everytime i brush it or run my fingers through it!
    Thank you so much Vicki!

    Any burning or pain felt in any area of your body should be discussed with your mum or the person who cares for you as they can advise you further after chatting this over with you. The same can be said for these headaches you are experiencing too. Finally, you may find your hair is becoming greasy because you are running your fingers through it when having these headaches; our fingertips have natural oils on their tips that can often transfer to the hair, so avoid touching it and keep it tied back when possible.

  • Hi Vicki

    Basically its been 35 days today since i last STARTED my period,its supposed to be my second one but its not came yet:/

    Thanks Vicki!

    For the first few years it is very normal for periods to have long gaps between each one of several months in some instances. This is nothing to worry about and simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki! I wanted to do something nice for a guy I like for valentines! But I donto want anyone else to no how do I get it to him without others knowing? Hes started ignoring for no reason btw! From amy

    Hi Amy, if you know his address you could send him a card, or if he has a locker you could push a card through the gap in the door.

  • Hi Vicki, I can recall getting butterflies in my stomach for no reason atall. I will just be sat down with my family or on my own and i will get butterflies for no reason and start to feel a little sick. Today I was sat down eating dinner with my family ( we don't do this a lot ) and just got random butterflies and my stomach churns. Is this normal? And should I tell somebody? It's been happening for about a year and a half

    Thank you <3

    This is most likely your reproductive organs maturing that you can feel and nothing to worry about, just like the rest of the changes you are noticing on the outside, big changes will be happening inside too.

  • Hey vicki im 11 years old and have only had my period for a day and then i had no blood all night and the next day. Is there something wrong with me?

    From chloe x

    Hi Chloe, first periods can often be very light and very short, so please try not to worry and ensure that you have some pads or liners for your next period with you at all in times.

  • Hey Vicki!

    There's this boy that I am best friends with (we don't go out) and I've known him for 9 years (I'm now 14 and a half) I am really fed up with people asking if we go out and claiming we do, there is also a boy who walks past on the way home from school and says hiya loverrrssss to us. Do you think I should tell someone or just ignore it as I am. It doesn't bother me just annoys me :(

    I would ignore these silly and rather immature remarks, you appear to have a good friend in this boy and that really is all that matters.

  • What happens if you forget to write about your period on a calender or diary ect. ???
    Angel xx

    Hi Angel, for most girls new to periods a calendar can be of little use as first periods can often be irregular with long and short gaps often being experienced. So my advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you at all times, so you are alway prepared.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Ok so im 11 yrs old in year 7 in secondary school, and i have severley overprotective parents. They dont let me add boys numbers to my phone,
    they talk to me like im 5 yrs old like 'boys are smelly so dont like them' they make to go to bed at 9pm
    And if i wake up any earlier than 7:30am they tell me off.
    I have a crush on this boy, and i like he likes me back. How do i tell them??

    It is only natural that your parents are protective and at the age of 11 and possibly in secondary school they will only just be getting used to the idea that you are becoming a young woman. So try to meet them half way, 9pm seems a sensible time for bed for any 11 year old to me and if you wake early then read a book in your room or do some stretching exercises to start the day off. As for boys, 11 is fine to have a crush but a little young to date in my opinion, so why not consider being good friends with this boy for now.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Every morning I wake up and the breast area always really hurts I also get really bad cramps, I've heard from a nurse that you should always keep a hot water bottle on cramps and places that are hurting, but it honestly doesn't work for me.. Any advice?

    Breasts often feel tender during development and to ease menstrual cramps a warm bath or hot water bottle may help, but the very best way to ease this discomfort is to try doing some gentle exercising or stretching.

  • Hi im caoimhe im 11 and i flirt with my frien H boyfriend i saw her post a few things on this website too.
    He doesent like it (C) and he is pretty cute.
    But he told me to stop but i wont why not
    whenever i c him with H or flirting with him i want to kick her.?
    She is pretty goo looking tho.
    He told me he wants to kis he i told her that he hate her and she asked him he told her no i ddn sy that and shes not talkin to me cuz he no its me.
    Why do i do this.

    Jealousy can lead people to do some pretty unsavourable things and it's a shame you are prepared to break up your friends relationship and risk losing her friendship too. My advice would be to keep your distance from them both for a few months and spend time with others, letting H know that you are going to give her and C some space.

  • Hi Vicky, My school starts swimming lessons soon and can't work out wether I'll be on my period. I started In October and it can be really heavy sometimes. I'm scared I'll be on my period because I don't feel ready to use a tampon, what should I do? Xx

    If you have your period when you are due to have a swimming class, ask your mum to write a note to your teacher excusing you in this instance. Then when you feel ready you may want to consider trialling our Lil-Lets teens tampons ideal for first time users.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is having discharge everyday something to worry about?

    Not at all, in fact lots of girls notice discharge on a daily basis.

  • Hi Vicki kendall here. Basically I've had my period for almost two years, but I have only used pads. I have quite a heavy flow a lot of the time and find pads quite uncomfortable and would like to try tampons. Unfortunately I am the worlds biggest worrier and I'm really scared that I will get TSS. I know it's rare but I'm still really worried that I would get it. Do I need to worry about it or is it to rare to even bother worrying about?

    Hi Kendall, it is always good to know the facts about anything and if you purchase a pack of tampons there will be guidance on how to insert and remove a tampon and important health information. Yes Toxic Shock Syndrome is something you should be aware of but it is a very rare illness and if you follow these instructions you will not only limit your chances of contracting this illness but also be aware of the signs of TSS when wearing a tampon. Finally, tampons can offer their users greater freedom, are very discreet and can reduce the odour sometimes noticed when wearing a pad and many millions of women use them every day and enjoy the benefits.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm in S2 and I have by far the most developed body in my class. My hips are really wide, but is that because I am slightly overweight?
    My breasts are 32A so that is a really ugly contrast to my hips.

    Bodies come in various shapes and sizes...all beautiful in my opinion and as we enter puberty we very often notice our hips become wider and tummies rounder, this is all part of your body preparing you for childbirth and nothing to be worried about, in fact this curvy shape is often considered very beautiful.

  • Hi Vicki, so I really like this boy and I'm only 13. I'm scared that if we go out our relationship won't last because we're so young. What do you think I should do? Should I stop liking him? I'm not sure if we'll ever meet again when we leave year 11.

    The second part of the word 'boyfriend' is friend, so if you like this boy I see no reason why you should not date just so long as you keep in friendly and not too intimate.

  • Hi Vicki,
    At the moment I hate school. Am I allowed to go to school but not be in lessons?

    The reason for school is to learn and you can only do this by attending lessons. So why not have a chat to your parents and teachers, letting them know how you feel and what the issue is, I can  assure you that there will be an answer to your problem which will allow you to enjoy school and want to attend.

  • Hi vicki,
    So I'm due on my period when I go on holiday and I don't know how I'm going to swim as I only wear pads! Please help me x

    It may be a good idea to try our Lil-lets teens regular non applicator tampons next time your period arrives and before you go on holiday, they are shorter and narrower than other brands, but just as absorbent, so ideal for first time users. If this is not something you feel ready for then it may be a good idea to find other activities to take part in that do not include you being in the pool.

  • I'm 12 years old and I weigh as much as a 17 year old I'm really fat. How can Ilose weight safely and efficiently I get bullied all the time at school and out. I get so jealous of other girls which are really skinny and pretty. What can I do??

    Rather than worrying about what the scales say, sit down with your mum and work out a healthy eating plan and exercise regime, it may be that by cutting out a few sugary snacks and walking or dancing more you will see a big change to the way you look and feel. Remember too that at 12 your body still has a lot of developing to come; you will become taller and a more womanly shape will be noticed, so try not to worry too much and chat to your mum letting her know how you feel.

  • Ever since my grandad died, my mum hasn't been the same. She gets stressed and shouts at simple things like if I ask her a question like "are we having a sandwiche?" When we're at the front door she flips. I am really sensitive and can easily get upset and panicky at these times.
    Please can you give me some advise and help? It doesn't matter if you can't ☺x

    Losing someone we love can take some getting used to and very often when people are sad they lash out at those around them. My advice would be to let your mum know that you understand how sad she is, but that you need her to be there for you. You may also find my blog entitled Dealing with the Loss of a Loved One useful.

  • hi Vicki, I am going on holiday for 3 weeks and I am due for some days then, obviously I will go swimming but I'm too young for a tampon, what do I do?

    If you are on your period when away, it would be wise to take part in other activites away from the pool if you do not yet feel ready for tampons and I am sure there will be plenty of other activites to take part in until your period has ended and you can go in the water.

  • What's asexual ? Xxxx Lucy again sorry if this Is inappropriate xxπŸ’–πŸ˜˜

    Someone who is said to be asexual is a person who has little or no sexual attraction to anyone.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 11 and I got my breast bud on the right side in July 2014 and I know it's normal for one side to start early but how long should I wait until I see a doctor or somonw about it?

    This is very normal and the second breast can take several months before it starts to develop. But if you have any concerns have a chat to your mum who will advise you further.

  • I asked a question but it had already been answered but in that question it talked about a hymen what is a hymen? Xxxx πŸ’–πŸ˜˜
    Sorry if this is wayyy to inappropriate. Xxx Lucy platt

    Hi Lucy, why not read my blogs on the reproductive system for more about your body and how it works. Here are the links. Part One & Part Two.

  • How do you lessen period cramps?

    Stretching or gentle exercise is the most natural way to relieve menstrual cramps, you may also find a warm bath or hot water bottle will do the trick too.

  • Is my period close
    I wear 30b bras
    I have regular discharde (sorry if spelled wrong)
    I have mood swings and sometimes cry for no reason.
    Thanks cp

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I do not think you will have much longer to wait for the arrival of your menstrual cycle; maybe even sometime this year.

  • Hi I'm calina and I started my period yesterday I'm 12 years old and im turning 13 in a month I am bleeding a lot and I have to keep changing. The worst part is that I don't like blood. It just makes me want to faint I almost did this morning. But what should I do. Would it be ok in I just ️no look or.. Also when I have to go to the bathroom to do number one (pee) I wipe DOWN THERE and there's lots of blood so it really scares me
    Thanks calina..❀️

    Hi Calina, first periods can take a little getting used to and although there looks like a lot of blood is leaving your body in truth we lose just about an egg cup full each month. Try to remember that this fluid is natural and not a sign that there is anything wrong and don't worry about the blood being noticed when you pee, this is simply blood that is sitting on your pubic hair or around the entrance to your vagina being washed away by the urine.

  • Hi Vicki
    I got Γ₯ BIG question
    I started my period on the 8th of Nov it arrived again on the 4th of Dec but this month my period never arrived and it's the 24th today, i am really worried
    Please help
    ASAP
    #1fan...Lulu
    Thanks Vicki and Staff:*

    Hi, periods can often be irregular with gaps of several months between each one, this is nothing to be worried about and simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi bassicly I am 15 and go to ballet I have done this for 7years and have just started a new ballet school after summer. I have been going faithfully every week but am just not enjoying it and don't have any friends. How can I make new friends? Also I think about stopping but how do I tell mum cos she has paid loads of money since I was little and don't want to let her down? Please help xx

    If you no longer enjoy this activity then let your mum know as we often find we grow out of hobbies as we get older. However, if you still love ballet but are unhappy about the friendship group in your new class then have a word with your teacher who may be able to place in a group of girls allowing you to become friends.

  • Hi vicki I'm lusk I was wondering What would be a normal age to go on birth control

    As the legal age of consent is 16, this in theory should be the age you can start taking birth control pills. However, some doctors prescribe this form of contraception to girls under this age if they are having issues with their menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm getting tiny white bumps that are only noticeable when you look closely all over my vagina. I don't know why but I feel as though because it's cold they're just goose bumps is this normal?
    P.S I'm 12
    Mia

    Hi Mia, you are quite right, just like we have pores that cover our body helping it to breathe, they are also present in and around the vulva and nothing to worry about.

  • i know its big and i kinda like it when they say that but i dont like it when they say it all the time one is my best friends brother and hes kinda sweet and cute i guess i like him but hell send me pics of his d!ck off to the side in his underwear i kinda like that but what he wants in return is a pic of my butt. i get this tingling sexual feel when i talk to this guy and i kind of want to see his d!ck i dont what to do (part 2)

    This is not only very inappropriate behaviour but also illegal. So please refrain from sending any pictures of your body to anyone and delete any pictures sent to you of a sexual nature or of nudity. I appreciate that you like the attention these boys are giving you, but I would hope you have a little more respect for yourself and understand that you are more than how you look and if these boys are only interested in your appearance I would be tempted to unfriend them.

  • so i have these to guy friends and when i txt them they also want to play truth or dare. when i pic they also say send a pic of your butt and im like y do you want to see that? one says because its soo big and the other say that i have a nice butt. (part 1)

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I inserted Fingers into my vagina (sounds horrible I'm sorry) and it hurt when I got to certain point where there was this ring type thing and it felt really sore if I went in that part. I've done this a few times to help me insert tampons but it's so sore. I was also relaxed.

    This is most likely your hymen a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina, it will stretch over time but like any part of your body; if pushed or poked there may be discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki can thread worms go into your vagina or stop or make you never get your period?

    No, this is not possible, but they do need to be treated so please speak to your parents about getting the correct treatment and remember too that personal hygiene is very important to reduce this type of infection.

  • I used to be bestfriends with this girl and we had so much fun together and we are so similar and everything, the only problem was that we argued quite alot because she wouldnt really consider my fealings and she got annoyed with me for getting upset with her so we havnt spoken in 4 months, i miss her loads and idk what to do? Shall i try to be friends with her again or forget her

    If you found that you both clashed when friends and neither of you could compromise when discussing how you felt, it may be that you are not meant to be close friends but rather acquaintances, so smile when you see her and say "Hi".

  • Is there a cup size difference between a 32B and a 34B??

    Yes there may be a slight difference between the cup sizes for both of these sizes, which is why if you feel your breasts have become fuller or your body is expanding you should measure your underbust and over bust and finding your new measurement.

  • band = 28
    bust = 34
    bra size?

    32B is your size based on these measurements.

  • Is it normal to have REALLY heavy periods when u start??

    212

    Hi, yes it is very normal for some girls to experience heavy periods from the onset of their period so please try not to worry and you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal and long pads are ideal for this heavy flow.

  • Hi Vicki, basically I've noticed recently on my armpits that there's a border of dry skin around where the hair grows and I don't know what this is from (razor??) I was wondering how I should treat it? (Moisturiser??)

    Skin can become dry in this area if you have pulled the razor across the skin several times when shaving or have not used sufficient shave foam or gel to help the razor glide across the skin. Some antiperspirants or deodorants can also dry the skin out too. So yes moisturise this area and see if you can identify what is causing the problem.

  • Hi Vicki, basically everyone at school does there eyebrows with like eyebrow pencils, tweezers, waxing stuff and I want to sharpen up my eyebrows as well coz I have a little mono row but I don't know how to and I'm not asking my mum.

    Firstly I would have to urge you to speak to your mum about this matter and ask if she will take you to a salon to have them waxed or threaded professionally. I appreciate it is a hard conversation to have but you will feel much better once you have, rather than going behind her back and a salon will do a wonderful job.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I've been having my period for just under a year now, and for the past 2 or 3 months, they have lasted only 3 or 4 days. I was just wondering, is this normal, my flow is heavy on the first day and for the rest if my period it's just regular and light 😩
    Please could you tell me if this is normal, I'm 13
    From Puty Pie xx

    Hi Puty Pie, a period can last for between 2-10 days so this is fine and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and barely even fit into a the smallest bra I know I might just be a -really- late developer but I'm scared IM going to be "flat chested" for the rest of my life. All my friends are more developed and I'm extremely self conscious and my "best friend" keeps saying I look like a 10 yr old boy. :'(
    Thanks x

    How very unkind of your friends to make such remarks, if it were me I would point out to your friends the importance of supporting one another and ask them how they would feel if you were unkind to them. Breasts continue to develop into our early twenties so you have plenty of time for growth, but please try to remember that big is not always better and we should all learn to love the size and shape of our breasts no matter what that may be.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have been getting discharged in my pants for about a year now and I haven't started my period. I'm 14 and I don't know if this is a bad thing or usual x(
    Thanks

    Discharge is a great sign that your period is not too far away and can often be noticed for longer than a year, so please try not to worry this is very normal.

  • So when we were dancing I saw other girls disgust in their faces when they had to dance with him and everyone was giggling at us now people think I fancy him what should I do and who do I go with for the presentation I'm not going with him again love sadie x
    part 2

    Hi Sadie, my advice would be to let your friends know that you needed a partner and that this boy was a good dancer, let them know that you are not attracted to him and think they are being immature. Remember this boy has feelings too so stand up to your friends and if you want to go to the celebration with this boy then do so, letting him know it is only on a friendship basis.

  • Hey vicki we were doing scottish country dancing for p.e today coz it's Robert Burns Night soon so we had to get partners to cance with I couldn't see anybody I liked so I asked this boy who's in my class he is dyslexic and has numerous problems he's not the best looking either I asked him coz I felt sorry for him and I didn't want to go with a complete stranger, part 1 x

    See my response in Part Two.

  • So, i normally have really heavy painful periods that last for about 6-8 days but this month it is really light and only lasted 3-4 days? I have never had sex and im 13 (14 in a week) and i have had my period since april last year.

    This variation in  your period is very normal and because your body is still working out the right menstrual cycle just for you. So please try not to worry lighter and shorter periods are common for the first few years.

  • 00000
    is your period just the blood days cos i get like 1 day of brown discharge, 3-4 days of blood then about 5 days of brown discharge but it isn't any heavier than my normal discharge

    This brown fluid is still your period as menstrual fluid can be light brown to dark red in colour depending on different days, so please try not to worry.

  • Dear Vicki, I am very determined to speed my period up, as quiet strangely, unlike other girls, I want my period. Is there anything I can do? Or will it come when I am ready for it? Despite the fact that I already have puberty in my lower area and under my arms and heavy discharge. Thank you anyway, this is Amber.

    Hi Amber, there is nothing you can do to make your period arrive any sooner than when your body feels the time is right for you. So be patient with so many signs of puberty already noticed I am sure you will not have much longer to wait.

  • Dear Vicki, I appreciate your reply! But lately I have been having very heavy discharge, but I am not sure if it is worth putting my liner on, as it has been about twice but very heavy. Thank you a lot, my name is Amber.

    Hi Amber, not everyone feels the need to wear a liner and if you prefer not to, this is fine. Discharge is easily washed out of underwear.

  • Hi viki
    Do u answer questions at the weekend????

    I answer questions every day, in fact it is now 9.30am on Sunday.

  • Hello vicki its Kwanita...again
    So i've just started grade 8 with my best friend T but her boyfriend D also goes to our high school.so whenever tashneek is walking me to my class D always comes with us.they are always so lovey dovey and i feel like the third wheel whenever its the three of us.i have made a lot of new friends and i get bored with duncain and T's lovey doviness.so sometimes i feel like ditching them but i don't wanna hurt their feelings
    Any advice thx

    Hi Kwanita, why not have a chat to T letting her know that you are happy she is dating D but that sometimes you feel like the odd one out and wonder if you can have some boundaries when it is just friend time only.  It would also be a good thing to spend time with your new friends and let T know that this is not because you do not want to be her friend but simply because you want to give her and D some alone time together.

  • In Year 2-6 I have had a crush on this boy. Then I stopped liking him.
    But now were in secondary school he is dating this girl and i have a boyfriend but it feels like i still like him but i dont want to break up with my boyfreind .What should I do?
    Thnx xx (P.S he used to talk to me then teased me and now he doesnt talk to me)

    Even when we no longer have a crush on someone they will still have a place in you our hearts for many years to come, but it is clear that this boy has moved on and is not dating and my advice is to move on too. However, if you have any doubts about your feelings for your current boyfriend you should consider if it would be wise to end your relationship so you can both find someone you are truly committed to.

  • Hi do you know how much it costs for a full set of metal braces? Coz I need them but I don't know if my family can afford them

    If you are under the age of 16 and your dentist feels there is a health or medical requirement for braces they are free under the NHS.

  • I'm 12 years old 13 in a month and I'm always getting really worried and crying before bed I feel like a baby. The worst thing is that I always worry about stupid things like no one loves me and what happens if my mum or dad dies. Please tell me why I'm like that? Thx

    You are not alone in this thinking and a great many teenagers find that topics of an adult nature that did not worry them before now occupy their thoughts. My advice is to chat over your concerns with your family who will reassure you that all is well and help you manage this new adult way of seeing the world.

  • Hey Vicki! Okay well me and my best friend have been best friends for ages and well I think she gets a little bit jealous when I talk to other people and its like she is stuck to me she doesn't leave me alone it's like we have to do everything together and I just want to meet new people and have other friends than just her, it's just she gets a bit annoying sometimes awell please help and I don't want to speak to her about this as it would be weird, from Jessica xx

    Hi Jessica, you do not have to discuss this matter in detail, but you can drop hints about how great it is that you can both have a large group of friends and that this is actually healthy for friendships. She will soon get the message that you like her as a friend but need others around you too.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm in elementary school and I want to know how to secretly change my pad or tampon. I've asked this question before but forgot the code. Thanks!

    If  you are not allowed to take your school bag into class or the toilet then consider keeping a pad or tampon in your pocket so you can easily change at break time.

  • Its the second day of my first period and there is hardly any blood. Is this normal??
    Angel xx

    Hi Angel, yes this is very normal and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi my boyfriend keeps asking if he could feel my b**bs i think i feel comfortable with it but my mum told me not to let him because he will spread it round his friends but i trust him a lot because we were best friends before we went out we've been going out for nearly 2 months and we are both 13 ?? X Nicole

    Hi Nicole, I have answered this question earlier today.

  • Hi vicki my nipples are starting to swell is it normal for this to happen

    Yes this is very normal and a sign that your breast buds are most likely developing behind the nipple just as they should be.

  • Hi Vicki!

    There is this new girl that just started yr five and shes really cool. She said shes my best friend but I've had 3 best friends for about five or six yrs. When the new girl said that my best friend gave me a funny look. I wanna move on but Idon't know how. Help!

    Hi, why not keep let all your friends know how great it is that you are all good friends and it really does not matter who your best friends are, just as long as you are nice to each other.

  • (P a r t T w o)
    This led to all kinds of problems in our relationship.
    Because of those mere words I said, we don't speak anymore! It's stupid and when ever I try to talk to him, or stand next to him he either moves away, once the teacher forced us to be partners and it was the most awkward session I've ever been in.
    Please help, I really want to be friends with him again (we were pretty close) but I'm hurt and I feel as if I'm in complete (even if it was last year)

    Be honest with this boy and let him know you miss your friendship and hope that you can both be close again. It may take him a while to get back to the way things are and you really do have to let him reach this point in his own time and without pressure.

  • I really like this boy but not sure if its as more than a friend. I talked this morning briefly with him he seemed interested and I felt like he was starring directly at me, in a good way. But sometimes I think he gets nervous when we talk and I feel like I'm the guy starting the convo. He is a really good guy😊😊

    Boys often mature later than girls and even if this boy does like you, it may take him a while to be confident enough to let you know  so be patient and see what the future brings.

  • Hello Vicki, (P a r t o n e)
    Last year I talked to this boy ALOT via kik. I had a bit of a crush on him, but I wasn't sure. Anyway, one day he asked me if I had a crush on him, which I replied no. A little later he asked me again, I said "your just going to keep asking me that until I say yes aren't you?" Which he replied "so you basically just said you have a crush on me?" Being the idiot I was, I said "yes"

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki!

    I have a massive crush on this boy Iin my year. I think he fancies me too but I don't know how to tell my feiends. I'm one of the most popular girls in school but will it ruin my rep? I just don't know how to tell them, or him.....

    Thanks.

    If you are not 100% sure that your friends will keep this news to themsevles then I would keep this news to yourself and if this boy does like you he will ask you out and you can then decide how you want to proceed.

  • Hey, I've know this boy for about a year and I got his number the other day and we txt quiet a lot. The other day I asked how he felt bout me and he said really good friends bit not in a girlfriend type of way. He than said he might like me as more than a friend in the future! I don't know what on earth this means !!!!

    Thanxxx

    This boy seems very sensible and honest, by  letting you know that he likes you as a friend only at the moment but that he appreciates that this may change in the future. So keep it purely friendly at the moment and you never know what the future may bring.

  • Hey Vicky

    I feel like I am over weight and would really appreciate any tips you could give me. I'm 4:11ft and weigh 6st 4. I feel really fat and really want to lose weight. Please help

    From. jazzy

    Rather than looking at what the scales say, consider how healthy is your diet and how much you exercise and once you have these right you will quickly find your body finds its ideal weight.

  • I want to shave my legs and arms but how do I tell my mum?? Please hep because I don't like to expose my arms or legs so I want to shave them how do I tell my mum? Plzzzzz help
    Ruby

    Why not ask  your mum how old she was when she first started to remove her hair and she may then let  you know if she is happy for you to start shaving. One word or warning, shaving the hair on your arms can be a mistake as it often appears unsightly when it grows back.

  • Hey Vicki
    U remember that question about the boy in ep? U said u think he likes me but I'm still not sure cus I asked him if he liked me ages ago but didn't give exact answer and now he barely speaks to me even tho we uses to talk loads?
    Thnx
    Cat xxx 🌟🐱

    I doubt any boy would admit to liking someone if put on the spot, but that does not mean he does not like you, so why not continue being friends and see what happens in the future when this boy feels less pressured.

  • I've just been told that a boy likes me but I only like him as a friend. Me and my friends thought he might like one of us because he always follows us around but I didnt think it would be me. I don't know how to act around him anymore and I don't know what to say if he asks me out. Apparently (from someone I trust) he is going to but how can I decline nicely? Because I don't like him as more than a friend.... Thx soooooo much!! L

    Simply let this boy know that for now you would prefer to be friends and are not looking for romance. In the meantime you may like to drop some subtle hints to this boy letting him know how great it is to be friends without romance getting in the way.

  • Hi Vicki
    Whenever I lift up my legs or bend down ,there is a pain in the "area" do you think my period mite be coming ??

    If this pain is felt constantly you should speak to your parents who will advise you further.

  • I have had an idea for a Valentine's day present. I just wanted to see if you think it's creative or to much.
    I have a plastic jar wich I have washed and sprayed with perfume, then I'm going to write on little pieces of paper the things I like about the boy who im sending it to.

    -Goldenwonder

    What original and lovely idea and what a lucky person this boy willl be to receive such a gift.

  • Hi!
    I was wondering if it is possible to get TSS from a pad

    I am not aware of any instances of someone contracting Toxic Shock Syndrome whilst wearing  sanitary pad and for more on this illness why not read our section on TSS under the Period tab.

  • Viki the girls in my school bully me SOOOOOOO much because I have hairy legs and my mum under no sercumstances will let me shave/wax/use hair removal cream and she said I don't even care if u die because of this but I'm not allowing u to do anything to your legs and every day at pe and swimming I get bullied teased and hit because if it, what do I do

    Have a chat to your friends and let them know how hurtful their remarks are and if they do not listen it is time to speak to your teacher who will deal with this problem and speak to the bullies about their behaviour.

  • How to insert a tampon?

    Every pack of tampons come with full instructions on how to insert and remove a tampon and you may also like to watch our videos on how to insert a non applicator or applicator tampon. These can be found under the videos section of the webpage and at the very end if you scroll down.

  • What age do you need to see a doctor if your periods haven't started ?

    If your periods have not arrived by the time you are 18 it may be wise to have a chat to your doctor and he will most likely run some tests to ensure all is well.

  • I'm convinced that I need a cup bra, because my nipples poke out of my shirt even with a crop top on. I asked my mom for one and she said she didn't get a bra until she was 15 and she was going to do the Same for me, but I'm not sure I can wait that long because my breasts are only going to get bigger. What should I do??? Thanks!!

    Have another chat to your mum letting her know of your concerns and pointing out that we do not all develop at the same time as family members and you are little more developed than she may have been at your age.

  • Hey im 12 and ive got size 32aa boobs ands i have dishcharge and also i have hair DOWN THERE, I dont know when my first period is going to start and all my friends talk abt it and im just like ok kwl. also when i was 10 u used to watch porn and masturbate and now my mum said she wont buy me a new phone and i have stopped watching it and ive told her that but she wont beleive me and its driving me insane xx Angel x

    Hi Angel, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait until your period arrives. With regard to your phone, why not ask your mum what you can do to win back her trust and then both of you will have a goal to work towards.

  • Hi vicki, I'm eleven (nearly twelve ) and I'd like to start wearing a tiny bit of make up. Just some lipgloss and possibly very pale eyeshadows. Not to school, just at the weekends. I know it's up to my parents if I can or not but do you think I should be able to or not???

    I think wearing a little make-up at home is acceptable and will help you understand better how to apply make-up should you decide to wear it when older, but as you say, the decision is your parents and you should abide by their wishes.

  • Hi Vicki 😊
    How old do you have to be to move out ? And if it's 16 do you also need parental consent (I've never had the bet relationship with mine)

    Legally you can leave home at the age of 16 without the permission of a parent, but life away from home can be very hard and it may be better to find a way of making your relationship work within the family home before considering such a drastic move.

  • Why can't you leave a tampon in for over 8 hours??

    To reduce the risk of contracting Toxic Shock Syndrome there are certain guidelines you should follow, which are listed inside every pack of tampons and wearing a tampon for between 4-8 hours is just one of the tips tampon manufacturers offer users to prevent this illness being contracted.

  • Vicki, I'm kinda worried. My friend told me about this thing that happened last night. She was playing on mine craft with 2 of her friends and near the end one of them got really upset and started talking about how no-one loved him and there was no point in him being in this world. She heard him shouting that to his mum. My friend called me after (she was crying about it ) and explained everything. He always seems so happy at school aswell. What can I do to make them both happier????

    It is very normal for teenagers to have changes to their moods without warning and as long as you are there to chat to your friends then there is no more you can do in this instance and I am sure this boy's parents are monitoring his behaviour to ensure he is ok.

  • Please can you interview Louise from sprinkleofglitter and Tanya burr for your YouTube channel??!!

    They are on our list of possibilities.

  • How come I never got stretch marks during puberty? Could it be that I'm too skinny?

    Not everyone experiences stretchmarks, the elasticity in the skin can play a part, as can the speed of growth experienced too.

  • What does a period feel like ?

    For most of us, having a period has no impact on our lives one bit, other than having to place a pad in your underwear or inserting a tampon to preven the soiling of your underwear.

  • Vicki,
    I'm 13 years old and I haven't started my period yet. I have no boobs which I get picked on at school for. I keep getting heavy discharge in my knickers everyday and I don't no what to do!?
    Please help x

    If you have been  noticing discharge then your period may not be too far away so please don't worry. As for any teasing or bullying based around your breast size, you can either choose to ignore it being safe in the knowledge that breasts continue to develop into our early twenties and that all breasts are beautiful no matter what their size, or you can speak to your parents or a teacher about these comments and they will speak to the people involved and get this matter resolved.

  • Can your period blood be white?

    No it cannot, but discharge can be creamy white in colour and if this is something you are experiencing in your underwear try not to worry and read all about this fluid in our Puberty section.

  • i want to be a peskitarian and for 6 years I've had these kind of views. I don't like eating meat: the taste the texture and especially the thought. But my mum gets really angry and thinks I have an eating disorder when I don't at all I just don't want to eat meat cause I don't think it's right! What should I do because I have to eat meat so my mum doesn't get angry but I really really hate it. Please help!

    Why not write down a list of the reasons why you do not wish to eat meat and even research Pescetarionism so your mum has some information to hand that will help her understand your reason behind this decision.

  • hey there vicki
    nearly every girl in my P.E class has a bra and i feel like i need one. Im a 32 AA and I have a sports bra with removable pads but these seem to flatten my breasts more so would you say i could get a bra?
    Have a nice week

    Sports bras are great for when you are active, for example in PE and need support, so please don't feel you  have to have a bra just yet or to make your breasts look bigger, this is not the case.

  • Hi

    I just finish with my period about one and a half week and now I'm bleeding again. Normally it would take about a month for my period to come, but it only had been about a short time. I am really concern about it. This is the first time that it happen to me. Can you help please??

    This is very common and your cycle can have both long and short gaps between each one as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • what age is appropriate for working out and especially to reduce belly flab?

    I would advise general walking, swimming and dancing if you are looking to tone your body and leave any specific work outs until you are in your late teens and your body has almost finished developing.

  • Hi vicky I'm 13 and i go out with a boy we are both the same age we have been dating for a month and a half and he keeps asking me if he could feel my boobs what should i do i think i feel comfortable about it but my mum told me not to because he will just brag to his friends so what should i do xxnicolexx

    Yes he may tell others about what he has done, but far more importantly as you are under the age of 16 this kind of sexual intimacy is not appropriate and could be deemed unlawful in some instances.

  • Hi Vicki, sorry if this is such a long question. Basically, I'm 17 now and even if this is not the norm I want to ask my boyfriend for sex. We're not like, really young and stupid or anything, but he asked ages ago and I said no. Any help on how I could ask? from Sian x

    Hi Sian, you may not need to ask him at all. If you feel ready to be sexually active this will happen very naturally with no need to speak to your boyfriend at all.

  • I Vicki can being hit quite hardly in the breasts or vaginal area effect your breast development or stop your period or make you never get your first period?

    No, knocks to the breasts and groin whilst painful would be unlikely to cause any permanent damage.

  • My bust size is 34 and band size is 30...whts my cup? Im 14? Do u like it?

    34AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Heyy vicki
    My period tends to last 10 days and goes over days.should i worry

    Not really lots of girls find that their periods last longer than 10 days and this is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Band:26
    Bust:33
    What is my bra size, thanksπŸ’•

    30C is your size based on these measurements.

  • Dear vicki,
    The boy I have a crush asked me out
    And I got really nevous and told him I'll speak to him on Monday and now the WHOLE school knows!😞
    I want to say yes coz I like but no to coz I'm not sure my parents would like it as I'm only 12 but if I did go out with him it would just be as we r friends coz we r only 12. WHAT SHOULD I DO HELP ME😞

    From SOPHIE 🌸🌺🌸🌺🌸

    Hi Sophie, if you date it should really be as a friend only and I am sure if you speak to your parents and let them know this boy has asked you out, but that they need not worry as it is really just going to be like you are friends and nothing more they will understand. You may even want to invite him round for tea one night so they can get to meet him.

  • Yesterday I started my period! I have a few questions about it as im not sure about all the details. Will my period come next month at the same time because apprently it can skip months or come a different time. Also does the blood always come out or does it come out every few hours or so? And how do I tell if my period is light or heavy

    You can find out all you need to know about periods by reading all the great articles on our website, in answer to your questions; yes your periods may be irregular for the first few months with long or short gaps in between each one. Menstrual fluid is not released all in one go but rather over a period of days and if you find that you have to change your pad every 2 hours or less then you may be experiencing a heavy flow on that particular day and it would be better to move to a more absorbent pad.

  • Hi Vicki. Basically, the other week I got called out to receive a reward in assembly in front of the school, and I immediately felt sick and started breathing madly, and I just couldn't do it. The other day, I had to read something out in front of my English class and my palms got very sweaty, I felt sick and for nearly an hour after I was feeling really sick. Is this just common nerves, or something worse? Please help, from Leia x

    This is common nerves Leia, that can become more noticeable during your teenage years when you feel a little less confident. But don't let that stop you from taking part in discussions or group chats in the future, it is only from taking part that you can start to beat these feelings and enjoy participating in group activities or awards.

  • Hi vicki, I just started my periods today, I'm 11 and was a bit shocked. I felt a bit anxious at first but now I'm feeling fine. I was a bit confused because my mum didn't have her first period until she was 13, should I be worrued?

    Hi, not everyone gets their period at the same time as family members so please try not to worry and I am very pleased to hear that you find your period is nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hey Vicki
    I just can't seem to talk to my mum or send her a message an ecard or a note. I have had discharge for 10/11 months ish and I am really scared please help
    Many thanks

    Discharge is nothing to be scared of and is simply your body working to keep your vagina clean and free from infection. Why not read all the great stuff on our website, including my blogs and you will quickly see that puberty and periods are just part of your life and nothing to feel worried or anxious about.

  • friend issues part 5 xx
    and shes completely changed and i dont know what to do shes really bitchy now and ive told teachers and so have other people but nothings changed and im getting really sad and lonely now... :( please help....
    love rejectedgurl xx
    ps. sorry for it being so long xoxo

    During puberty friendships can change and we either accept our friends for who they are or we move on and find a new group of people to hang out with. My advice would be to stick with your current friend and her new friend and try to get involved, if you feel they are leaving you out then let them know in an light hearted way and try to keep an upbeat attitude. It would also be a good idea to make new friends remember that not everyone needs just one special best friend and don't worry if sometimes you work alone in class or with another person, consider this an opportunity to get on with your work or meet someone new too make friends with or simply have a chat with.

  • friend issues part 4 xx
    so i sometimes post how i feel on snapchat not using names just saying like why do i even bother when you will just replace me and stuff. So anyway i did that and she messaged me saying whats up and i said just stuff and she said well you can talk to me BUT SHES THE PROBLEM!!!!

  • friend issues part 3 xx
    its making me feel bad about myself and even though ive made new friends, they are in 2s so i cant work with them for lessons so im with a stranger, with my friend, by myself or with both of them. I hate it. sorry this is long but theres another part xxxx

  • Part 2 of friend issues xx
    and i fell totally left out. She says im her best friend but i dont think this is true. This bully is so manipulative and has had fights with everyone even my bff but she still went back to her. They talk about me and when i spoke to my friend about how i feel she went back and told her!

  • Part 1 of friend issues xx
    Im having loads of friend issues right now. My 'bff' has always jumped from group to group a bit but now shes befriended this girl who bullies me. Theyve been kinda friends for a year but in the last 6 months their really close. I know i cant stop her from being friends, but ive told her how i feel, how she still bullis me but she doesnt care much. Shes completely ditched me for her

    My response is in Part Five.

  • At what age are your boobs meant to get bigger. Billie

    Hi Billie, breasts can continue to develop into a girls late teens or even early twenties and in between these times you can very often have periods of no growth followed by fast growth spurts.

  • I want to ask my mum for your liners but don't know how ?

    Why not send her one of our e-cards and we will do the asking for you.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 13. 30a. I don't know how to ask my mom for a bra. I want her to ask me. I have 2 (twins)21 year old sisters
    1)how do I make my mom ask if I want a bra
    2)how do I ask her for one
    Ps. Please don't suggest asking when she got hers as we don't talk about that kind of thing.
    Thanks,
    Ballerina

    Hi Ballerina, why not have a chat to your sisters and ask them to speak to your mum on your behalf, they may even decide to take you shopping themselves for your first bra.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I started my periods last October and my first period lasted 4 days but all the other periods I've had only last 2 days and I have a really light flow, is this normal? ❀️

    Yes, this is very normal and the amount of fluid we release can vary from day to day or period to period, so please tru not to worry, this is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi, I'm alsmoust 14 and I weigh about 6stone and abit, my mum started her period at 12 and I still haven't started, I've had no sign of it really apart from discharge that I've had for like 2-3 years, with no pains , but lately I've had shap pains in my lower belly and my discharge suddenly stopped, I'm really worried I will never start my period, I'm so confused, thanks vicki😎

    Hi, a period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 so you have nothing to worry about and with discharge already noticed, I doubt you will have much longer to wait before yours arrives.

  • Please help! I'm going swimming for a friends party tomorrow but I'm on my period! I've had it for 12 days now and it's really heavy still. I only started recently, so I've never used a tampon. I'm really worried as it's quite heavy, and I'm really worried to use a tampon. Thanks x

    If you do not feel ready to use tampons then I do not feel this is the right time to start. Why not go to the party but stay out of the pool, if challenged you could say you do not feel well enough to go swimming but still wanted to come along.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm going to get a bra at the weekend and i'm not sure if to wear a crop top underneath
    Please help
    Thanks

    Very often assistants measure over your top so please don't worry, some don't even measure at all and have been doing this for so long they can tell by simply looking at your shape what size you are. So have fun and try on lots of pretty styles until you find the one that is perfect for you.

  • I get paranoid about stupid things that I know aren't gonna happen but still worry me (e.g. Every night I 'touch wood' in a hope it will protect me from going blind or getting a disease) me and boyfriend have been together for a long time and love each other, but when I read things aboutcontrolling relationships I get terrified that mine will become one although it doesn't show signs of it at all. Why do you think this is?

    During puberty thoughts of a more adult nature start to fill our minds and you will certainly not be the only one who goes through certain rituals to ward off bad luck, so please try not to worry, as you get older these more adult topics will be less worrying and you will find managing them becomes easier.

  • Sometimes by parents say that me and my boyfriend (we're 17) have the potential to stay together because we're so similar and get on so well. Other times though they say that I need to break up with him because I 'haven't lived' if I stay with one person my whole life and it seems like they want me to break up with him...how can I tell them to not get involved and whatever happens happens?

    Your parents are entitled to their opinion  and this is simply all this is and it is up to you and your boyfriend to decide what will happen in the future, so please try not to judge them too harshly, they are most likely trying to work out what is best for you and simply giving an opinion.

  • Hi vicki. I am twelve and a half year old. I got my periods when I was 11. I ve noticed that these days my white discharge is a bit more and itchy and a bit smelly. I talked to my mother about it and she said dont think about it so much. But I am realy worried. Is this ok? Or am I having an infection? Please tell me!

    Discharge does have a slight odour from time to time and for this reason it is very important to wash this area thoroughly and wipe from front to back after visiting the toilet, as very often discharge mixed with sweat, urine or faeces can cause an offensive odour.

  • Im 13 years old and i have not had my period and i have some 12 year old friends that have it and so are my 13 year olds and i dot have it and I went to pee and I saw in my underwear one small drop of some blood ? It's was kinda brown and it seemed kinda small and i put a liner on and woke up and I haven't had anything in there for days ... Is that a period and i herd that u get a period and then a year later u get ur full period ? So is that my period ?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and some girls experience heavy periods from day one, whilst others can take a few years for their periods to form a regular pattern and flow. My advice is to try not to compare your progress with that of others around you, we really are all different you see.

  • Hi vicki. I am nervous, I am thirteen with all the signs of my period coming for over year. Yesterday I had a few light cramps but I sort of ignored them later though when I went to the toilet I wiped there was some redish brown stuff. I haven't had any since.....yet. Was this my period? Will I get any more blood?

    This could be your period and it would be a good idea to have a chat with your mum and share this news with her. You may then want to keep some pads or liners with you when out and about in preparation for your next  period.

  • Hey I was asked out all week by this boy and even though I really like this other boy I said yes because I didn't want to upset him because everyone was telling me that e seriously liked me but now only been goin out for a day I don't like the thought that I have a boy friend and it's my first one what shall I do?? ThanksπŸ’•πŸ’•

    Having a boyfriend can be a daunting experience and it is very common to even feel a little fearful of what is expected of you. My tip is to remember that the second part of the word 'boyfriend' is friend and as such treat this relationship as a close friendship and take things slow. You may also find my blogs entitled, First Kiss, Top Dating Tips and First Love useful too.

  • Hi Vicki
    I get so much nausea on my period for the first few days. Is this normal?????

    Yes this is normal for some girls and will most likely subside the more periods you have so please try not to worry.


  • So, I have a heavy flow and I tried a light tampon as they were the only ones I had. (I know it's best to use the lowest absorbency for your flow) I had no trouble putting the tampon in, but it was really difficult to take out. I had it in for 5 hours before I managed to get it out and I had to keep going back to the bathroom and trying to get it out several times before I actually did and it was a bit painful. Do you have any tips on what I should do differently next time???

    Like anything new using tampons can take a little practice and if you find the tampon is tightly held you may want to leave it in a little longer, but never longer than 8 hours.

  • Hi Vicky I am twelve years old I got my periods few months ago I get white discharge some days but I was feeling very itchy down there and I scratched really hard now I saw and it's swollen I am really scared am I ok

    Like any  part of your body that is scratched, irriation will be noticed but if you leave it alone it will heal itself over a few days.

  • Viki
    I have been having white discharge for about a year and a half today the 2 days ago the substance got thicker and sticky and smelt very strong am I getting my period I have been having pains around my lower abdamen and I get a pain that's starts in my inner thigh and shoots up through my area and makes me almost cry

    Discharge can vary in colour and texture at varying times during the month, but it does not always mean your period is due any day soon. The cramps you have been noticing are generally caused by your reproductive organs maturing because just like you are noticing to the way you look externally, changes will be happening internally too.

  • Hi Vicki

    What does it mean when your period lasted only a day and then you have a white gooey discharge that has a little odor?

    It really is nothing to worry about and discharge is often noticed in between periods, so as you can see this is all very normal.

  • Hi

    I have been having a whitish discharge for about a year and it's been getting a lot thicker now I can feel it coming out during class It dries yellow and smells bad my mom said it's because I don't wipe good I DO I don't know what to do

    -unsure girl

    Your mum might be correct as discharge does have a slight odour that is often made worse if you do not wipe thoroughy after visiting the toilet to urinate or release waste food. Consider using pant liners or wipes during the day to help reduce this odour.

  • i just turned 13 and i shave my arm pits and legs i have lots of hair 'down there' and i dont have my period do you think i will get it in less than 3 months? ps i wear bras and im a gymnast

    As you have already noticed several signs of puberty you may find that your period arrives this year, but as we are all different it would be impossible for me or anyone else to give you an exact date.

  • I'm 15 and I am going to the doctors soon to get a blood test about why I'm starting puberty late, I'm really scared, what will they find out from it? Will they be able to tell if ive started my period or not?!?! Please help me I'm freaking out so much😭😭😭😭

    Blood tests are a common test undertaken by a GP to check levels of certain hormones, and are nothing to worry about. Remember too that lots of girls menstruate a little later and in their late teens.

  • Hi I was just wandering if you have any tips on dealing with acne and what products I can use because I can't get a doctors appointment for another week thanks xx

    My advice would be to wait for the week and seek the advice of your doctor with regard to this matter.

  • hi vicki
    im 13 and im a 34 B but my left boob is bigger then the other (but not by alot) but you cant tell the difference when i lie down is that normal? also how do i get rid of clevage spots?

    One breast often grows before the other and even when fully grown no two breasts are ever identical. To reduce spots in the clevage area, consider dabbing a litle talc or antiperspirant spray in this area.

  • Hi Vikki
    I'm a 12 year old girl in secondary school and I always wear a bra but its getting to small for me now but my mum said when my first ones don't fit she will take me to get measured and I really don't want to go and do it nude or with my top off because I'm really nervous and I'm always embarrassed. So wear is the best place to have it done

    Most stores measure you over your top and do not expect you to be naked, some do not even measure at all and can tell just by looking what size you may be, so please try not to worry.

  • I accidentally walked in on my brother taking a shower and I saw his bits and now i feel scarred for life. I feel blinded. I feel sick. Igh.. I can't get it out of my head!! Help me!

    Seeing family members naked can be a little disturbing for a few days and I am sure your brother feels the same embarrassment you do. So move on, talk to him about general things and in no time at all you will be back to how you were before.

  • Hello I'm Lily-Mae
    How do I bring up the conversation of periods with my friends? Its hard to at school because its mixed and we sit with the boys at lunch.
    Because I'd love to have a long conversation about it with them but its hard.
    Also how do I start the convo?
    Thank you xoxo

    Hi Lilly-Mae, accept that your friends may not be comfortable discussing these matters at school or at any time, so please don't force the conversation. When and if they feel ready to chat about periods I am sure they will already know you are the person to come to.

  • Hi Vicki Amelia here
    So I love talking about periods , breasts , sex , crushes , boys etc etc (I'm 14) but all my friends (who happen to have there periods) think its gross and hate talking about it and never do. But I love it all , it makes me feel closer to my friends.. But since they hate talking about it I have nobody to talk to about it. I only have a dad brothers uncle and no grandmother. Not even female cousins. I'm lonely about this stuff. I always come here but its not the same as talking..

    Hi Amelia, not everyone is comfortable discussing puberty and periods and you have to respect your friends wishes in this instance. But you may find commenting on some or our blogs useful as very often girls chat to each other via this route and on subjects you enjoy discussing.

  • Recently, I've been having very bad panic attacks. my cousin has been getting sick of them, saying they annoy her. i can't help it when i have them. its getting me more stressed causing more panic attacks

    If you feel you are unable to control your emotions resulting in an attack you should speak to your family who will most likely pop you along to your doctor for a chat, because only a medical professional can really identify if these are panic attacks and advise how to manage them in the future.

  • I dont know why but when I'm on my period i dont want to have it. But when I dont have it I want it? Why is this? Thanks xx

    Getting used to menstruation can take a while, with girls often wanting a feeling of 'fitting in' with friends but worried about leakage when the period actually does arrive. In time you will start to feel better about this time of the month and understand that your period should not affect your life in any way or prevent you from doing all the things you would normally.

  • 69 under 135 above
    -TriangleSquircle

    Why not measure yourself again as your bust measurement appears to be incorrect.

  • VIKI,
    So my question is -how do I get a boyfriend?

    (PLEASE ANSWER this one especially): HOW DO I MAKE MYSELF PRETTIER? BTW WE WEAR SCHOOL UNIFORM SO PLEASE DON'T SAY TO DRESS DIFFERENTLY
    PHOEBE XX
    PART 2

    Even if you wear a school uniform Phoebe, you can still make yourself individual, by having your own sense of style with your hair, school bag etc... Remember too that being yourself is very important and being friends with boys is a great way to get to know new people and who knows romance may follow once you have got to know them better. Why not read my blog entitled Walk Tall with Confidence.

  • Hi Viki, I just started year 7 in September. I became really really good friends with this girl called Lili. She asked out this boy by text who she'd known for eight years, he said yes (btw this was today). Lili has been sending me screenshots of what they've said to each other and they put these emojis '😍😘' If I'm honest, I don't like it. PART 1
    PHOEBE XXXXXX

    Hi Phoebe, why not let your friend know that whilst you are happy for her to be dating you feel these messages should be kept private between her and her boyfriend.

  • if you had a 13-year-old daughter who masturbated, what would you think? i do so and i cant help feel ashamed and disappointed with myself.

    I am quite sure my children masturbated at this age and as a mother I understand that for some people this is a natural and instinctive way of exploring the way their body feels when touched and nothing to be embarrassed or feel guilty about.

  • I have had a yellowish goo in my panties. I have had it for about a year now and it smells really fishy. Could this be a sign on starting my period

    Yes, this could as this fluid is called discharge and you can find out all about it on our website under the Puberty tab.

  • Hi Vicki,
    This sounds so pathetic and ridiculous but I'm so paranoid about my body - I always find the need to look at my boobs and my stomach. I am not happy with my body. I'm 13 and a size 34A (maybe 32A, I don't know) but other girls at school are like, size C. There are girls who are smaller than me too but, is being an A at my age normal?
    Thanks.

    There is no right or wrong size for breasts to be regardless of your age, so please try not to worry at 13 you have a lot more development to come, possibly even into your early twenties. For now, avoid comparing your progress to that of others; we really are all different and this is what makes us all so very special.

  • Hi, I have never had any signs of discharge and im 13! is this bad?

    Some people never experience discharge so please try not to worry, this will not stop your development from a child to a woman.

  • I have acne, and it isn't that serious, but I have a lot. I don't want to use anything with too much chemicals as it can increase the outbreak. I am too shy to ask my mom
    Help!!!!!!!!

    You really should have a chat to your mum who may decide to pop you along to your GP for a chat, very often lotions are not applied to acne prone skin but rather tablets are offered instead.

  • I really need help I just notice I had blud in my underwear and my Virginia is be hurt what happing help

    This may be your first period and I would urge you to speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Vicki
    Now this may be a bit weird but im super worried
    Im 13 now and have not had any signs of discharge but ive had moodswings, some cramps and im going through puberty.
    Does this mean I will never have my period? as all of my friends started there discharge when they were like 10 and ive had no signs.
    Is this bad??

    A great many people never experience discharge, but this does not mean that their period will not arrive soon, we are all different you see, so please try not to worry.

  • Well I really need a bra but I known my mum won't get me one and she will say can I look at your breast I'm only 10 and when I'm older I don't want saggy breast help me please

    I am not sure there is any medical evidence to show that wearing a bra stops the breasts from sagging in later life.  But if you feel ready for a bra, ask your mum how she knew she needed her first bra, this should open up the conversation to you and how you feel about this part of your body.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm 12 years old and in Year 8 at school and I'm the only girl in my class (maybe even my whole year) without a bra. Getting changed for PE is so embarrassing and my sister makes fun of me because of it. I've had a 'breast bud' for about a year now but my boobs have only got a tiny bit bigger. I'm terrified that I'll be flat chested all my life. What should I do? And do you think my breasts will grow? Thank youπŸ’•

    Breasts can continue to develop into a girls' late teens or early twenties so please try not to worry there are often periods of no growth, followed by some quite quick spurts.

  • Im 10 and I'm so ambarrsed to ask my mam for a bra I looked at the bra guide and notice I'm a 30a for now I'm wearing crop top but I need a bra please help me

    Why not ask your mam how old she was when she got her first proper bra, this should move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • There a boy in my besties tutor who I hav a crush on! We are only in one lesson together and sit not far away from each other. We look like identical twins- tall, blonde and have very pale skin! I have his phone number but he never starts the convo its always me. Yesterday when I was getting told of for the stupidest reason I was trying not to laugh he turned his head laughed with me with cutest smile ever😊 I don't know weather I like him or he likes me. friends keep telling me he does but I'm not sure

    If you think you may like this boy as more than just a friend, smile next time you see him, ask him how his weekend was. By doing this you will start to be friends and who knows after a while it might even lead to dating.

  • Is it true that when you get your period, you stop growing???

    No, not at all and you may find my blog entitled Your Period is Not the End of the Story useful.

  • I know I'm a bit older then most of the people but PLEASE help me Vicki, it's important to me ;( !
    My name is April and I'm 16 years old (nearly 17).
    I go to college and at college there is a boy who I have known since Year 8. I've really liked him since I first met him. Recently my crush on him has grown bigger and I don't know what to do. I don't think he likes me in that way but he's always been kind to me.
    What do I do? Please help me! :'(

    Why not ask this boy if he would like to meet up one weekend for a chat or to go to the cinema. This should let him know you want to move things to the next step and if he feels the same he will accept if not then you will know that he sees you as a friend and you can then decide how you want to proceed.

  • I have really heavy periods and I get the really absorbing pads but they still leak!!!what shall I do????

    Try our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads, ideal for heavier periods and they are available in normal, long and night.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 12 years old and I have just got my first period.
    I am worried because you are supposed to just have one or two drops of blood but I have had quite a bit! It didn't hurt too bad but it lasted for about 4 hours. My teacher and my friend said one or two drops anyway. Is it normal to get an uncomfortable amount the very first time?

    Your friend and teacher are mistaken in this instance and please let me reassure you that  a great many girls notice quite a bit of menstrual fluid is released over a period of days and you may find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid useful.

  • Hi im 19 and still have no period.
    I have no hair or discharge and i don't fit into a crop op never mind a bra.
    Ive had sex before.
    Does this affect this?
    Love Kate

    Hi Kate, sexual intercourse will have  no impact on the arrival of your period and I would suggest you have a little chat with your GP who may run a couple of tests on your behalf.

  • iv got no boobs my brother has bigger boobs than me im 12 and my name is maria.
    Any help?

    Hi Maria, breasts can continue to develop into your late teens and early twenties so please don't be too downhearted, you have plenty of time for your breasts to grow.

  • I was chatting to this guy on a animal site and he told me i was so pretty and i told him he was cute and then he said he went hard on his penis and he ejaculated on the screen.
    im really scared as i was just facetiming this guy about koalas and are they in danger!!!!!!!
    What can i do he said hes coming to get me and hes going to have sex!
    Im only 13!
    Love Rebecca

    Hi Rebecca, firstly delete this site from your pc or phone and speak to your parents about this person's comments with some urgency. You will not be in trouble and they will deal with this organisation or individual on your behalf.

  • Is it normal to place a finger inside my vagina and masturbate?
    Im 11 my name is Maria.

    Hi Maria, yes this is very normal.

  • Hi Vicki its Fluffy Horses.
    Can you tell me when im going to have my period or give me an idea?
    So i have hair under my arms and on my vagina its dark and coarse.
    Ive had discharge for 11 months and wear liners ( always dailies).
    I sweat and have an interest in boys im 12 nearly 13.
    I get cramps a lot as well.
    Do you have any idea?
    Thanks again,
    Fluffy Horses x

    Hi, I cannot give you an exact date (no one can) but with so many signs of puberty already noticed, it would be a good idea to keep some pads and liners with you from now on just in case your period arrives unexpectedly.

  • Hi Vicki- do you know when gaps between two front incisors close up? Coz I'm 13 but I HATE mine soo much but my dentist hasn't said anything apart from that it will close up when my canines come through. But they're overlaping with the baby teeth(the canines) and the gap is only getting bigger

    I would trust your dentist in this instance as he will be looking at the long term health of your teeth, so next time you go for a check-up, ask him how things are going and let him know of your concerns, I am sure she will be more than happy to share what his plans are for your teeth.

  • Hi vicki
    I was wondering if you reply when people ask for samples because I am not sure if I put the correct details…
    Thanks, Maisha AGAIN! (I must be addicted to this site or something!)

    Hi Maisha, with so many girls asking for samples we do not currently reply to their e-mails. However if they have provided their full UK postal address and confirmed that if they are under the age of 16 they have their parent's permission to request samples, we process their request and the sample pack is generally sent out with a two week period.

  • Hi i have jhair under arm an on vaguna dischargew fo 11 mnths whn be period.
    malla

    Hi Malla, with so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find your period arrives some time this year, although I cannot give you an exact date.

  • How come you decided to get this job? Would you not go to schools and do a growing up and sex ed classes? I would love to have a job like this but it would be every odd to tell my careers teacher or parents this. How do you get into this business?

    Lil-lets do currently offer all primary and secondary schools their Teens Schools Programme, which has  20 minute film, quizzes and samples.  And for a number of years I have visited schools and chatted about puberty and periods when requested. Finally, having a good knowledge of dealing with people is a good way to become an Agony Aunt, so any areas associated with Consumer Relations, such as call centres, customer care sections in stores will be useful. Remember though there is a lot of typing so you have to be quick and have a good grasp of English language and Human Biology.

  • Hi Vicki.. Just to 'LIL letS ' you know..
    I read this like its a diary. I come on this in the morning. At lunch
    After school. And before i sleep. I love it so much . its the best. I probably wouldn't have been able to tell my Mam about my periods , wouldn't be close to my mam . would have been thinking I was dying .. If it wasn't for this website. So thank you Vicki

    What a lovely message, thank you for sharing.

  • a few months ago I had brown/red stuff in my knickers and then after 3 days it went and has not recently come back but a few weeks ago more then once I had a little red dot in my knickers everyday which could easily be rubbed off. Also I have been recently Ill and had really bad heart burn and stomach pains and my mum thinks it's because im going to start my period,

    Btw I'm 13 and had discharge but 2 or almost 2 years

    I feel your period has already arrived as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Whats the meaning behind the name Lil let's and the logo?

    Lil-Lets was taken from our original name Lilia White and the beautiful logo you see on our packs represents Goddess, Earth and Moon or GEM as we call it in the office for short.

  • PARTT 2
    if i say i don't know they'll think I'm lying but if i say something like i cut it by accident when i was climbing a tree they'll say that why didn't i say before i must be lying(soz this question is rly long I'm nearly finished i promise!) also WHEN WILL THE SCARS GO AWAY?


    THX SOO MUCH THAT WAS A LONG QUESTION AND PROBABLY A BIT BORING TO READ

    I put that in caps aswell!!!!!im so sorry!!!!!!
    xxxxx

    These marks are most likely stretchmarks and they can appear in lots of different places on the body. You can find out more about these marks by visiting my blog entitled Stretchmarks.

  • Do you have a husband or a partner. If so what's there name

    I do have a husband, but I hope you will understand that I feel it is important to protect my family by keeping their names anonymous.

  • PART 1
    hi vicki i have these big scars on the inside of my upper thigh and every one thinks they're self harm even though they're definrty definitely not as i would never do that. (this might sound silly sorry lol.) but i don't know where i got them from! HOW SHOULD I RESPOND TO THESE PEOPLE (i put the letters in caps so u can see it is the actual question I'm not shouting don't worry lol)

    See my response in part two.

  • Highlow Vicki
    In my school bathroom there is a machine to buy pads or tampons but they are very dear like 2 euro for one pad or tampon. I have pads with me but it annoys me that they make girls pay so much for protection... Can I do anything to help this other than talking to a teacher because one day I might be in emergency and have money to buy one and dont want to ask a teacher! Thankssss
    PS. What times do you answer questions??

    Unfortunately the vending machine companies can sell these products at any price they wish, but you may find that if you run out your school secretarial office will have a supply you can have for free. Finally, I answer questions every day and at any time.

  • Hi Vicki Is there anyway to stop breast from hurting? I can't even lie on my front without it hurting.

    Gentle massaging at night may help, a soft cup bra or even a warm bath.

  • Hi
    Ive had a crush on someone for more than a year what does this mean ??

    It simply means you admire then and like them. These crushes often fade over time and are nothing to worry about.

  • What bra size are you if you are
    Bust: 72cm
    Under: 66cm

    30AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • What bra dice if you are
    Bust: 27 cm
    Under: 24cm

    28AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Hi Vicki! I really like this boy in my class but he's really shy and I'm socially awkward. Every time I see him I panic and start to walk around it circles often tripping over stuff. My friends always tease him and ask him for his phone number, and because my friends and I are really close he thinks I'm behind it! We used to be really close and now we can't even start a conversation. Everything is always so awkward :( I would be really grateful if you could help me out! He thinks I'm a complete stalker.

    Why not let him know when things calm down that you have nothing to do with your friends behaviour and in truth you find it a little immature. This should settle any nerves he has when around you and your friends.

  • What can I do to have a toned stomach?
    P.s r sit ups bad for ur back

    If not done correctly any exercise can be bad for your back. Why not consider hula hooping, dancing or swimming to tone your middle area.

  • Any boy that I like always likes my friend. She wears loads of makeup, swears all the time and is really dirty minded and I don't know why boys are attracted to that. I wish they would like me as I'm quite pretty and I don't really swear. I'm thirteen by the way. πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€πŸŒ€

    When the time is right you will find a special someone to date and whilst boys may find your friend attractive at first, I am sure they would get a little tired of bad language and inappropriate talk after a while and it may be that your friend acts this way because she is a little anxious and uses this behaviour to disguise it.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it true that wired bras increase your chances of breast cancer ?
    And how old do you have to be to legally move out?

    Thankyou 😊

    I am not aware of any medical papers published that claim underwired bras can contribute to breast cancer. However, if your breasts are developing and you wear a wired bra you should make sure if fits you perfectly with the wire surrounding the outside of your breast as if the wires dig to the breast itself they may cause a little damage to breast tissue.

  • HiVicki
    Lately I'm struggling to hold my anger in. I know it's puberty anger on top of my moody grumpy nature and it's ruining every thing. My dad said he won't decorate my room until I sort my temper out but I can't stop . I try counting to ten but it just turns into a mocking voice like I'm making fun of my self. It's so hard and I can't control it. Sometimes I only calm down when I hurt my self like hitting the sink (which I one broke my finger from) or accidentally breaking something. Any advice xxxx

    Go for a walk or listen to some of your favourite tunes. Anything to take your mind off the problem and allowing you to calm down.

  • Hi Vicki, I have recently been feeling really down and I`ve been giving myself friction burns and scratching all my arms, and today in science this girl who I like but don`t really know asked me if I was okay and I just broke down. I did a quiz on the nhs website to see if I was depressed and it said my depression levels were 23/27!! It told me to make a gp appointment asap but I`m only 12 and I don`t want to tell my mum :( Please I`m a mess

  • Is it normal for discharge to burn my vagina while coming out and smells of acid and fish? It also is yellow with little bumps inside it 😬 is this normal 😬 a few days ago I had a rash down there and it was prickly and felt bumpy and irritated while sitting down. Pls answer Asap ❀️❀️

    It may be that you have a vaginal infection and I would urge you to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will then decide whether to purchase over the counter creams or pop you along to your doctor for a chat.

  • Hi Vicki I am 11 years old and I keep getting discharge and by the texture I know my period is soon but I don't know how to tell my mum.plz help

    Why not send her one or our e-cards and we will do the asking for you. Alternatively you could write her a note, or ask how old she was when she got her first period, which will almost certainly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • Hi Vicki
    i recently asked you the question can you reccomend any other pad besides lil let teens one as i have grown out of them.
    You reccomended lil lets normal freshlock in yellow as th other brands pads are HUMONGOUS but so is this one!
    Can you reccomend any others?
    Sorry for such a on going questions
    Many Thanks
    Heather x

    Hi Heather if you are looking for a slimmer pad you may find wearing our teens night pad in the day is a good idea.

  • Hey Vicki xx
    So my question is.... How do you get over people talking behind your back??
    Today on the bus I overheard something I shouldn't have because it was about me. it was definitely about me cause my name was mentioned numerous times. they only realized after that I could here cause they then said oh shit she heard us!! Plz help Vicki im really down about this cause the said something very sensitive about me!
    xx K xx

    Hi K, we cannot stop people talking about us, if this is what they wish to do. But we can choose to ignore anything they say and unfortunately during puberty girls can be unkind about each other for no apparent reason. My advice would be to avoid these girls, do not let them see they have offended you and let what you heard go.

  • Hi, I missed a period in November and had a really heavy one in December I guess making up for the missed one. This month I am meant to be on now but I only saw a few dots of blood a few days ago and today just some really light brown discharge- almost beige. Is this my period or just discharge? And will it get heaver, thanks xx

    This is still your period and you may find that very often for the next few years the amount of blood lost varies from period to period. This is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm on my period and its heavy.
    Today at school I leaked. Luckily nobody noticed as I was sitting down and had a long coat on. But most of my teachers are male. And they BARELY let you go to the toilet. And if they do they say you have 2 mins and that's too short for a period.i change at lunch but I usually need another change in between. Last time I told a male I was on my period the next day was SO awkward. What I do I do

    Why not consider wearing tampons as they come in six absorbencies from lite for very light flow to Ultra for extremely heavy for flow.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have been on discharge for very nearly a year now and I don't know when my period is coming I am petrified of my period happening in school or overnight however I just cannot gain the confidence to ask my mum for pant liners etc also because my dad is always around and I don't want him to find out please help
    Thanks

    Hi, with discharge noticed for this length of time your period may arrive sometime this year, so drop your mum a text or write her a note letting her know you feel you need some sanitary supplies and put it somewhere only she can find it such as a make-up bag or underwear drawer.

  • Hiya Vicki,
    So I want to buy pads on my way to school tomorrow but the cashier doesn't like me. Everyday I go in to get a sandwich and its only himin the morning
    He really dislikes me and it will be really awkward. Once I bought a face cream their and he said : well at least your starting to wash your face in a mean way. Its the only shop around my area . and there is no stands or food near cash register so I can't look at them while he is scanning. HELPP

    My advice would be to look him straight in the eye when you shop and if he makes a comment let him know he is being inappropriate and that you will be bringing your parents in to have a word.

  • Hi Vicki, I feel a little silly asking this, but I am the only person in my class that hasn't started their period *i think* and I have been ex perennial discharge since year 7 and I'm in year 9 now, my mum got her period at the same age as I am now. Also I have had barely any breast development and well I just feel like the 2 year old of my group.
    thank you very much for your time, from megan x

    Hi Megan, periods can arrive between the ages of 8-18 and whilst I appreciate how difficult it can be when you are the one who has not yet started, I would not worry too much as I am sure your body is working out the right time just for you and this cannot be rushed.

  • Hi Vicki will u be filming the 3015 celebrities soon and if u are can u contact cheryl fv please thanks from Lana

    Hi Lana, Cheryl is on our list of possible celebs to interview.

  • Part 2 Leah: Anyway, after upsetting my friend she wants to go to the medical room as she feels ill. He grants her to leave and i was with her at this point. The teacher calls the deputy head after she leaves becaause she apparently left without asking. In the councillor's office he denies letting her go and denies everything he said to her! What should we do? HELP

    If you and other classmates heard your friend ask to be excused I am sure they will be happy to be interviewed by the head teacher and confirm that this was indeed the case.

  • Hi, there is a teacher at my school who nobody likes. He is rude, unfair and a teacher who always copies out of the book and makes no effort to teach us. In class we were doing a research project in the library and we had to do a powerpoint. My friend asks a question and sir says something which upsets my friend (Angry point 1). Go to part 2 Leah

    My response is in Part Two Leah.

  • Hi Vicki,

    Basically I wear a size 32a bra (my mum just guessed my size) it fits but when I sleep at night on my side it gets loose I don't know if this is because my breasts are being squashed but other that that during the day it fits me? I don't wanna get measured at the shops and I don't have a tape measure at home? What should I do?

    Thanks so much
    Girlinneedxx

    Hi, why not try going without a bra at night as there is no medical reason why you should wear a bra 24 hours a day.

  • Hello Vicki

    I would like to no if im going throught puberty-This is what I have:
    Boobs, discharge, a period, lots of pubic hair, bit of underarm hair, growing, cramps and ye thats basically 😘 im 12 x When did u start puberty if u dont mind me asking? πŸ‘§-πŸ‘΅

    Hi, if you read our section on Puberty you will quickly see that yes this is indeed the phase in your life you now find yourself in. I was quite a late developer and my puberty for me arrived around 13 with my period starting at 14.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 12 and I recently got my first period. Lately I've been having extremely bad PMS this involves mood swings and arguing with my parents. I feel as if my parents treat my like poo and my dad slaps me and saying I'm getting him angry all the time ( but with a lot more profanities). I feel as if they don't love me and they never give me TLC. I've tried several times talking to them but they just don't listen or understand.Please Help

    Hi, firstly these feelings you have noticed are most likely caused by puberty and not pre-menstrual syndrome and you may find my blog entitled Puberty and Hormones a useful read, along with our section on Emotions under the Puberty tab.

  • Do you get tummy cramps before your period because I have them really low and also some achey pains In my vagina is this normal?

    These cramps can be noticed in your teens as your reproductive organs mature and they are not always a sign that your period is due anytime soon.

  • How long do you recommend using a pad for ??

    A pad can be worn for up to 8 hours but as an average, most people change every 3-5 hours or when they visit the toilet.

  • I have a crush on my friends boyfriend ( they've been together for 1 year + I'm 13) help!!

    I think you may already know what my answer to this question will be! If this boy is dating someone already, he is off limits and it may be sensible to spend time away from him and your friend and with other people to move focus from them.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 13 an I got my period a few weeks ago, my closest friend knows but I want to let the others know, please help xx ( ps . Only my closest friend has her periods :) )

    If you want to let others know about your periods, then why not wait until it comes up naturally in the conversation. There really is no rush to share this news with everyone without the conversation topic of periods being discussed.

  • Is there a postage charge on the free samples??

    None at all, they are 100% free of charge.

  • im 12 and my mum wont let me use face scrub/creme and mask but i rely think i need it!:(
    advice to convince her please
    love O.K.M

    Washing your face with soap and water is still acceptable and until your mum feels you are ready for more dedicated skincare products.

  • Hey vicki, there's this boy in my class that I have a huge crush on but I don't think he likes me. I'm to shy to admit it and I think he likes someone else. I'm not a confident person so I don't know what to do!

    Why not smile when you see this boy and see if he responds. You may then feel brave enough to ask him how his weekend was. You may just find that once he gets to know you he sees you very differently and who knows what may happen.

  • So the bras I wear right now are SOOOOOOOO TIGHT AND PAINFUL, there is spillage and the underwire is on top of my boobs and it leaves really bad marks but my mum will no way under any circumstances buy me a bigger bra, so shall I just not wear a bra at all, TRUST ME SHE WON'T BUY ME A NEW ONE NO MATTER WHAT, and I even have black lines on my boobs because of them, so shall I not wear a bra

    I would have another chat with your mum and if possible for the immediate future remove the wires from the bra for a little bit more comfort.

  • Hi vicki
    Should I wear a pantry liner if I have got discharge
    Also I need a bra but I don't know how to tell my mum
    Please help

    Discharge will easily wash out of your underwear so unless you notice discomfort in this area or a feeling of wetness there is no need to wear a liner. As for bras then why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this should move the conversation to you and if you now feel ready.

  • I started my period a few years ago and I thought it would be time to try a tampon out. But I have tried to use one many times and I just can't put it in correctly and when I think I have its not comfortable. What should I do?

    If the tampon is uncomfortable when inserted, it is most likely that you have not inserted it high enough inside your vaginal passage, so next time you have your period, try inserting a little farther and some girls find that if they cough as they insert the tampon the vaginal muscles relax and the tampon eases in a little better.

  • Hey vicki, lately in the mornigs when i wake up my eyes they've been getting quite watery & get eye booger that crusty stuff, i they sorta kinda burn a lil when i try to open them, & like they look a redish pinkish color in the mornings. Whats wrong w them?
    P.S i wear glasses
    Thanks
    -timaπŸ‘½πŸŒΈ

    Hi Tima, you may have an infection or be sleeping in a draft, have a chat to your mum who may decide to purchase some over the countery eye cream or pop you along to your doctor for a chat.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 13. 30a. My mom has bought me a few soft cup sports bra before. But she removed the cup after a month or so and I needed it so that my nipples didn't poke. I don't know how to ask her for a bra. And please don't tell me to ask when she got her first bra. I need a way to make her ask me or a way to ask her without saying it

    Why not ask if you can have the cups put back in your bra as your nipples show through your clothes. This would seem the best way to approach this conversation in my opinion.

  • Hello, so I have self harmed before and it has left white lined scars up parts of my arms, and I have tried everything to make them fade but nothing seems to work, however at school people have started to notice and ask me what they are, I just say my cat done them and just make up a story about what happens, I don't want people to know, what shall I say if I get asked again? Thank you πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯

    If you have previously used your cat as the reason behind the scars, then I would leave it at that and try not to worry, scars will fade in time and to help improve their appearance you may find using Bio-oil is useful.

  • Hello,I am 14 and started my period when I was 12, now I know it is normal for discharge to vary in heaviness but I come on my period twice a month and when I am not on my period my discharge is honestly so heavy and feels so uncomfortable, it has been like this for so long now I am beginning to wonder whether this is normal? Thank you 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

    This is very normal as you are still in the phase of your life called puberty and it may continue in this way for several years to come. So consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis to leave you feeling clean and fresh throughout the day.

  • HI VICKI my older sister is so pretty she has a boyfriend and am so jelous she is blonde with blue eyes tall and skinny and i am fat ginger head with green eyes she always get the attention in the house thanks vicki

    I am sure your sister looks at her younger sister and admires you as much as you do her, so try not to feel disheartened and learn as much as you can from her, because sisters can be an excellent source of ideas, for fashion and beauty tips and very often offer honest feedback friends are reluctant to do.

  • So for a few months now my area has been itchy and sensitive for about a week after my period. It's really uncomfortable. But this last week I itched it and I think I may have cut it because when I dab it with a tissue I get a little bit of blood. What can I do to make this go away

    It may be that the brand of pad you are using is causing irritation to your skin and you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock or teen pads a better choice to avoid this irriation, which will quickly heal all by itself if left untouched.

  • Hi its blue horse, I am a 30B, should I have a under wired bra yet or not?

    There really is no need for an underwired bra if you do not wish to wear one, this type of bra will offer support to a fuller bust, so for now I would not worry too much about purchasing one.

  • hey...i m a 13 year old almost 14... and my boobs are 34 and below my boobs the measurement is 30..what is my cupsize?

    34AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • Part two.
    So I don't know what to do.
    Like I said before I'm outgoing and love making friends but it is a challenge to actually go up to someone and make friends. (This may not make sence, but it does to me)
    I'm scared people are going to push me down so much I'll change into a different person. What do I do, and do you have any tips for someone who tries to make friends but people roll their eyes and whisper about me?

    NEVER change who you are for anyone and my advice would be to ignore these comments and carry on chatting to people and making friends. You may find my blogs entitled, Back to School, Fitting In, Walk Tall with Confidence and Keeping and Making Friends all useful to read.

  • Part one
    Hello Vicki,
    I start secondary school on the 30th. I live in a very little area so in my primary school we're all friends. Anyway, my secondary school is quite big and there's the most year sevens they've ever had this year.
    Anyway the point is that I'm a very out going person who loves making friends but I've had a lot of people saying I have to "tone it down a little" and that really hurts my feelings.

    Hi, see my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it normal to have discharge and get your period when you are 9?
    Thanks,
    Niamhxx

    It is not unheard of Niamh for girls as young as 9 to start menstruating or to experience discharge.

  • What size am I (if I fit a bra)
    64 under
    72 over

    30AA is your bra size based on these measurements.

  • I've had discharge for about two years now, does this mean I'm getting my period soon?
    Also my mum told me that she got her period at 13 and I'm turning 13 in a few months, does this mean Im getting my period at 13? Because people say that you usually get your period around the age your mum got her first period

    Not everyone's period arrives as the same time as family members, but as you have already been experiencing discharge for this length of time, you may find that your period arrives this year.

  • hi..
    I'm Kafia.I'm 22 years old ,my height 5' feet and weight 43 KG.Is my boobs size is normal according to my height and weight?

    Hi Kafia, there is no right or wrong size for breast to be in relation to your age, height or weight. We are all very different and so will our breast size be too, so please try not to worry about this and learn to love your shape no matter what that may be or how old you are.

  • Hey Vicki,

    I'm an athlete and I train a lot but for two years now ive had a little bulge around the bottom of my stomach and its bulges out a lot, I thought it was a sort of muffin top but it doesn't go around on my side but at the front of my body, I'm 13 and rather worried cause I can't wear tight tops and swimmers without being embarrassed. Thank you

    Felicity

    Hi Felicity, at the age of 13 your body still has lots of developing to come, so please try not to worry about this part of your body, especially as you appear to be very fit and exercise often.

  • Sorry if this is inappropriate, it's important:

    Recently, a guy in the school hallway touched my bottom. I thought it was n accident, because the halls were crowded, but the next day the SAME guy did it again. Today, I noticed him laughing with his friends when he passed me. Is it just me, or does it seem like he is doing this inappropriate behavior on purpose?

    -CWB

    Hi CWB, it does seem he has singled you out for attention and my advice would be to avoid him if you see him in the corridor or turn you back to the wall so he cannot reach your bottom. If this does not work then let him know you do no appreciate the harrassment.

  • Theres this boy whos 16 and i like him we used to talk on phone like everyday but then we had a massive argument but we sort of made up and started talking again he knows i like him but hes more into having a sexual relationship hes 3 years older than me but today we were talking and i said like bored and tht and he said tht hell come over so i got embaresd and thn he said tht i should go to his he was being like cute but then i didnt know what to do/say what do u think this means?

    As this boy is so much older than you I would decline to be alone with him anywhere, especially as you have already said he is looking for a sexual relationship. So if I were you, I would chat for a little while on the phone or via text, keeping the conversation light and away from any sexual content.

  • Hello! This is probably one of the silliest questions but here it is...
    I shaved my arms!!!!!! I was shaving my legs for the first time and i have very hairy arms and it is very noticable as it is a bit thick and quite dark. So i shaved my arms. It looks fine now, but i have read lots of scary things of it growing back like a stubbly beard or all bushy and thciker. Is this true? What will happen?
    Please help. Thanks xox

    Hair when shaved is cut off at the surface of the skin in a blunt fashion and therefore when it grows back it can appear coarser and more noticeable. It may appear darker because over a period of time hair lightens in the sun,s something this new hair will not have seen. But it will not actually be thicker or bushier...as I said it may just seem this way.

  • Hi I was at work in the shop that I work at for a few hours a week and this young man came in smelling of marijuana and he was very weird and staring at me when speaking and coming too close when he was speaking and it freaked me a little. It was a very strong smell and he had obviously just been smoking it. I felt weird after he left and I'm sure I inhaled it. Could this harm me? I don't smoke.

    I would imagine any inhalation for this very short period of time, especially from someone's breath will not have been harmful to you.

  • Thanks 4 ur advise on how 2 tell my mom I'm pregnant at 15 ur such a great help by the way Im nearly 6 months Ps I'm not scared anymore From please help

    You are most welcome.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 12 and my friend likes to get drunk on a regular basis! We all know that its not healthy for her and we would like her to stop. We all think that the person that she has a crush on (he is a lot older) is influencing her to do this. We would like to tell her how bad it is for her and that we want her to stop but we don't know how!! Please help!!

    I would simply speak to her as you have to me, letting her know that a) alcohol is not suitable for someone her age to ingest and that b) if someone is offering it to her when she is away from home, or she is buying it, this is a crime.

  • I've tried every pad and tampon light flow medium and heavy!! Even tried all the adult ones ! NOTHING is working it just keeps leaking 😭helppp

    Try the Lil-Lets Freshlock range in long and night, these are very absorbent. And if you find your periods are very heavy and you are used to using tampons you may find our Super Plus Extra or Ultra tampons are ideal for you very heavy days only.

  • Hey Vicki Andrea here, is it normal for this thick lump of flesh to be in the hole if you vaginal opening ? I don't know what it is ? And my period seeps through it, people say that's the hymen but I'm not sure if it can cover the inside hole like you can't see beyond it , I'm really worried about it btw it's sort if painful not a lot only when I apply pressure to it, my period seeps through a hole inside this flesh I don't know what to do ! Help pls I am 14

    Yes, this is your hymen and as you continue your journey through puberty you will see this piece of skin stretches with the opening to your vaginal passage becoming more visible.

  • Do the samples contain wipes?

    Yes our sample pack contains one wipe in the pack.

  • Hi Vicki what is the normal bra size for a 12 year old as I'm 30AA and I feel this is too small is there even a normal size? Thanks Molly

    Molly there is no normal size for our breasts to be regardless of our age, we are all different and it is important to love your breasts no matter what their size and at any age.

  • Hi Vicki, I've noticed that I had a bit of brownish discharge when I woke up. I'm not sure if it was actually my period or what it was. Should I wait till next month to see if I get it again? Or should I tell my mom? Thank you for all the help.

    You may want to mention to your mum that you have experienced a little bit of blood loss that may or may not be your period and that you would like some products to keep in your school or sports bag from now on, just in case your second period arrives when out and about.

  • ok sorry for being so straight forward but,
    i masturbate. i masturbated and and when i... you know, "inserted a finger" i felt something unusual which ive never felt before, something hard and its worrying me so much like what if i have some kind of disease? sexual disease? ive just come off my period, does that have anything to do with it? i dont want to tell my mum i mastirbate either! :(

    The inside of our vaginal passage is full of folds and crevices and this is nothing for you to be worried about.

  • Hi Viki, all my friends have started their periods and I haven't everyone is telling me that I am lucky. This has made me scared about starting. Should I be scared? Xx

    There really is nothing to be scared of, but lots of girls feel it necessary to tell girls who have yet to menstruate stories, which in turn can make them feel anxious. I am sure if you read all the great articles and blogs on our website you will be reassured that for most of us, our period has no impact on our daily lives whatsoever.

  • hi Vicky so I'm 13 and basically I am very pubertised like I have hair everywhere I started my period and I am well developed the only ting I don't have is spots and it really annoys me somehow because all of my friends have spots and some havnt even started their periods like I just want spots cause then I will feel like I won't get them when I'm older cause I'd rather them now than later but is it normal not to get spots at al?? I'm mean I should have them by now right?

    Actually, you may be interested to learn that some people never experience breakouts to their skin, so please don't feel that you have to have all the signs of puberty to become a young woman....this is really not the case.

  • Hello Vicki!
    I'm eighteen, nearly nineteen and have never had my period. I do discharge but I have no sort of PMS. Please, does this mean I'm never going to get my period? My mum got hers at 14 and little sister at 8. I'm quite embarrassed really.

    If you have any concerns about the arrival of your period you should now visit your GP and chat this matter over with them.

  • Hello, Ive planned to have sex with a boy that I really like, but ever since we planned it I've been getting like a butterfly feeling and I haven't eaten for 3 days. Please help😩

    Firstly it is my duty to let you know that if you are under the age of 16 it is unlawful for a boy or man to have sexual intercourse with you. Secondly, it appears you are not yet ready for this type of intimacy, hence your butterflies, so let this boy know that for now you would prefer to wait and I am sure he will understand. If he does not, then you may want to consider if he is someone you wanty to be intimate with anyway.

  • Hi im 12 when i was eleven i had my period i have breasts (32C) and have had sex MANY times but one day my bf(14) ejaculated inside me and im pregnant . Can i have an abortion?
    Also i live in a rough area Donaghmeade so its excpected here so its NOT A JOKE
    Cat OXO

    Hi Cat, if you believe you may be pregnant then you should discuss this matter with your family or local family planning clinic who will run a test to identify if you are pregnant. Regardless of where you live I can assure you that having sexual intercourse at your age is not expected or legal and as such your boyfriend has committed a crime. Finally, I appreciate this is a difficult time for you and it is therefore vital that you speak to your parents who will be able to offer you support and guidance regardless of the outcome of the test.

  • HiπŸ‘ for the last couple of days I've been having really itchy armpits and i can't help but itch them by the way I'm 11 please could u tell what's this might be , thanks .

    It may be a change to washing detergent or deodorant, so have a chat to your mum who will be able to advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Im Victoria also known as Tori or Vicki.
    Im 19 and ive never had my period should i be worried?
    Im pratically concerned since my mm had heres aged13 and my sister got hers today(12).
    I have a boyfriend but weve never did anything intimate i have and so has he decided to have sex on the following date 22nd of Jan since i will be 20 hes already 20.
    Should i have sex ? Because i havent had my period?

    Hi Tori, regardless of whether you decide to be sexually active with your boyfriend or not, you should consider visiting your GP for a chat about your menstrual cycle's delay. I am sure there is nothing to worry about but as always it's good to talk things through with a doctor.

  • hi my name is Anna and im 12 years old i just got my period in June and about 2-3 months later I started to smell fishy down there and im scared to tell my mom i want to get this done on my own please help.



    Anna10907

    Hi Anna, during puberty discharge (the fluid released by the body to keep your vagina clean) can have a slight odour and if this is mixed in with sweat, urine or faeces the odour can be offensive. So ensure after you  have visited the toilet you wipe this area thoroughly and consider wearing ourpant liners and using our wipes when in school.

  • I'm on my first period and I fainted is this normal?

    It is not unusual for girls to feel a little dizzy or nauseous for the first few periods they have and generally eating small snacks throughout the day should help.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I get a lot of discharge and I have for about 6 months now. Occasionally there will be ppinhead sized brown bits in the discharge. I haven't started my period, so would this be a sign it may start soon?
    Thanks,
    Jess
    Xxxxb

    Hi Jess, if you notice this little bit of brown fluid every month or so then I would think that your period has already started, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm about 13 and a half and I've had discharge for about 3 years and a half now and I've never had any brown marks in my pants or a period and I know this is normal. I've got anxiety and get panic attacks sometimes so does having anxiety and being anxious make a period late?
    X

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please don't worry these anxiety attacks you experience from time to time will have no impact on the arrival of your first period.

  • How do you know when the last day of your period is?

    Very often if we notice no fluid released during the day we feel our period has ended, but there may be a little bit of fluid yet to be released and for this reason it is always wise to wear a liner for a day or two after you feel your period has ended or the flow has become very light.

  • Hi Vicki, it Jenny again!
    Here it is, I have had lots of spots all over my face for two years now. My parent nag at me all of the time to wash my face. But I can't get into the habit enough. I sometimes wash it in the shower but that's it. I have been washing my face and applying some ' Freederm ' gel as well for a week. I'm not noticing much of a difference and I feel really ugly because all of the other girls wear makeup and have flawless faces.
    ASAP!
    Thanks, Jennyxx

    Hi Jenny, washing your face twice a day is the best option and if you like to do this in the shower, then consider a facial wash that can be taken in the shower with you. Remember too that your diet may be contributing to these outbreaks so try to eat a healthy combination of foods avoiding too many greasy snacks. Finally, remember that the odd spot is very normal during puberty and will subside as you become a young adult.

  • Hi Vicki
    My name is Louise and I'm am 16 years old (nearly 17) i had sex with my boyfriend about 3 weeks ago and I've started to feel really unwell. I don't think I'm pregnant but I did a test and it was positive and the I did another one and it was negative so I don't know what to do my parents were away at the time and they still are. I don't know what they will say please help xx thanks Louise x

    Hi Louise, as you have had differing results from a pregnancy test it may be beneficial to visit your GP or local Brook or Family Planning clinic and ask them to run the test for you. You will then be able to decide how to proceed once you have correct results.

  • Hi, Vicki! Well here's my problem. I had my first period in the summer and then my second one near Christmas. And I'm on my third now. But I sometimes when it first starts don't have a pad in so it leaks all over my pants. My mum knew I had started my first one but I don't know about the others. I've beed hiding my bloody underwear because I don't want Her to say something when she sees them in the dirty washing pile. Please help me! Jennyxx

    Hi Jenny, please don't feel you need to hide your underwear from your mum, she will understand and simply washing your underwear in COLD water first will prevent the stain from being permenant and then underwear can be placed in the normal household wash. You may also like to ask if she can pick you up some liners to wear daily, this will ensure that whenever your period arrives your underwear will be protected until you can visit the toilet and switch if for a pad.

  • Hi I'm mirajane (that's my nickname)
    I have started my period for the 5th time or 6th time I don't know and I wear tampons for pe and it has leaked 2 times now I think I use regular but I think I need ultra the highest on but I don't know I have kind of a heavy flow please respond

    Hi Mirajane, it would not be wise to switch from a regular tampon to an ultra tampon so quickly and instead you may prefer to try our Lil-Lets Super or Super Plus tampons on your heavier days and see if this prevents leakage. Our Ultra tampons are for an extremely heavy flow and should only ever be considered if you find you need to change a Super Plus Extra tampon every 2 hours or less. Why not read my blog entitled Not All Tampons are the Same and Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • Hi Vicki, my period lasts 8 days and I know that's normal. The problem is when it's at night, it never goes on the pad, always behind it so I never get sleep because I have to change it and it runs down my bum. How can I stop this? It's quite embarrassing too when my mum washes my sheets.

    Why not try using our Lil-Lets Freshlock night pads which have a wider section at one end so you can capture fluid lost when sleeping. When you are ready and if you sleep for 8 hours or less you may find using tampons is also another option.

  • Hi vicki one of my so-called friends know something really embarrasing about me and she blackmails me. I told my other friends about it but I just don't know what to do.

    It really would be worth speaking to your friend and letting her know that this is a form of bullying and as such if she does not stop threatening you, you will have no choice but to report her to your teacher. She may try and use her knowledge of your past against you, and it would be wise to remind her that whatever you have done, bullying will be considered a much more serious matter.

  • I feel like nobody I've told truly believes me, my family thinks I've been influenced by what I read and watch but I know I've not. I only began reading into different sexualities after discovering my attraction to other girls. I want to be taken seriously and not told that 'I'm going through a phase'. (Part three)

    As mentioned in my previous response, now you have told your family it really is their choice as to how they interpret this information. In time and as you forge relationships I am quite sure they will start to understand your point of view in relation to your personal life and be very supportive.

  • Hi vicki
    Do you normally get discharge at the front of your underwear or at the back of your underwear (sorry if this question is a bit rude xx)
    From lucy πŸ’œ

    Hi Lucy, discharge is generally noticed at the front or middle of your underwear.

  • When I confronted her about it, she simply said 'it didn't offend her' and that it 'wasn't directly aimed at me so I shouldn't be offended either' but I am offended because it was aimed at people like me. It's taken me three years to finally accept that part of me and now I feel terrible about myself... What am I meant to do? (Part Two)

    Everyone has the right to speak and have an opinion and whilst I appreciate that you do not share your friend's views, she is entitled to them. You may wish  to have a quiet word with your friend letting her know that you find her comments offensive, but even then she is entitled to have the same view. This does not mean you should feel terrible about yourself and if you have accepted your sexuality then that is all that matters and I am sure you already know that who we choose to be attracted to or fall in love with is a very personal matter and not really anyone's business.

  • The other day my friend made several disturbing homophobic comments and I've been feeling really gross about my attraction to girls because of it... I can't say much to her about the comments without outing myself and destroying our friendship in the process. My other friend whose knows about my sexuality laughed throughout the whole thing and didn't tell her to stop or anything like that. (Part One)

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hiya Vicki Louise here ,
    I was just wondering is it normal and appropriate to have my bff Jade see me privates and breasts ? She shows me too.
    Just because we get worried something is wrong with us so we reassure eachother we are normal? Because I'm worried this is weird and innapropiate!?
    Thanks , Louise xx (btw I am fine with this because it helps me not get worried!?)

    If you and your friend are comfortable to be naked in front of each other and neither of you feel uncomfortable I see no reason to worry about this.

  • How am I supposed to know when my period is due again? xx

    For the first few years this can be very difficult as periods are often irregular with gaps of several months in between each one. My advice is to always have some pads or liners with you when out and about just in case your period arrives unannounced.

  • Hi Vicki,
    When getting a professional breast measurement are u nude on the top half of ur body?
    Thanks!

    This is usually done over the top of your clothes and some assistants don't even need to measure you they can tell just by looking, what your bra size will be.

  • Do the samples include some wipes?

    Yes our sample pack includes one each of the everything from our teen range.

  • Hi vicki,

    I have been expecting very heavy flows of dischange lately and this happens for a few days a month. I know its common for this to happen but i cant seem to find much written about it so i would be highly appreciated if you could tell me a bit about it.
    Thanks x

    The type of discharge you experience is based on the level of hormones in your body at any one time and for this reason, during the middle of your menstrual cycle you may notice more clear runny discharge, which may be replaced by thicker creamy discharge when you are close to your period.  And these changes to colour and texture can occur even if your period is a few years away.

  • Hi - I said b4 about having therapy for depression.I've had 11 sessions and mum out of the Middle of nowhere today asked me if I was falling for my therapist. Naturally I said no to mum. But I feel like I am and I don't want to because it will make it really awkward during therapy. This is a real mess because I go twice a week and I feel like I can't go any more because I'm gonna go bright red when I next see him and I feel really bad and guilty. I want things to go back to how they were with him before

    There is a big difference between having a crush on someone and falling in love with them. I would presume that you have a little crush on this person as you will almost certainly look up to them and admire them. So try not to worry these feelings generally disappear on their own and your therapist will be used to this issue and will know how to handle it.

  • Hi. I've just had my second period and was off to my swimming lesson today with it still going on. I have some tampons but when I came to put when in I freaked out and started shaking nearly in tears. Is there anything I can do to make me less nervous? I was lucky today that I ahev finished but I know it won't always be that way. Thank you. Megan x

    Hi Megan, like anything new tampons can take a little practice and I would suggest the next time your period arrives you try inserting a tampon when at home and on your heaviest of days. You may also find our video How To Insert A Tampon useful too.

  • Hi Vicki, I know this is kind of weird but I'm 14 and I've got a bit of pubic hair growing on the inside of my thighs, like not on my vagina but my legs, and they go down further to my anus (i know its so gross but its really embarassing when i change at school and lift my legs up;-;)I don't want to shave because I'm so scared it will spread even further across my inner thigh? Would that happen. Should I just shave?

    Actually this is not weird at all; but very normal. Pubic hair can start at the pubic bone making a triangular shape and continue past your vaginal opening to your anal opening, it can also make its way down your groin and upper thighs. You may want to trim this hair back with scissors if you feel it would make you more confident in PE but it is not necessary. Finally, it is a myth that shaving makes the hair grow back quicker or thicker.

  • I have started to develope my boobs but they are uneven ... i am shy to tell me mum what should i do?

    This is very common and nothing to worry about, very often one breast grows before the other and for most women, even when fully grown one breast is always slighter larger.

  • Hi Vicky,whenever I hit my brother, he hits back. I am 14 (girl) and he is 23. Whenever he calls me stupid or any other harmful word, I hit him then he goes completely mad, and either grabs me by the arm, which hurts or holds me by the neck, which doesn't hurt as much. I tell him to stop,but he says he's suppost to hit me back, when he shouldn't. I don't really know if I am abused or not, and I tell my parents but they wont do anything.Help?

    It is not acceptable that your brother strikes you, but it is also not acceptable that you hit him too. It would be a good idea to ignore any comments he makes and walk away, once he realises his remarks no longer bother you, he will stop and a better relationship will be formed.

  • What is a good place to buy your first bra

    In the UK, M&S. BHS, Primark or New Look are great places to start. Even some supermarkets such as Tesco and Sanisbury's have a great selection of bras too.

  • Hi vicki I don't know if you know about Facebook but I was looking at my crushes page and I accidnently liked something but relised and quickly I unliked it.
    Will they know I liked it?
    What is they say something, I'll be sooooo embarrased please help vicki

    If you did this very quickly it is unlikely they will have noticed you liked something, so please don't worry. However, there really is nothing wrong with 'liking' something if you are a friend on their page.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I am eleven (puberty for around a year) and keep having mood swings and lashing out (verbally) at my friends. I told one of my friends the reason and I thought she would understand since she started puberty around 2 years ago. She has mood swings too, but says that mood swings isn't really a reason.
    What?! Please help?!
    Molly xoxo

    Hi Molly, whilst your moods may change during puberty it is not an excuse for being unkind or lashing out and whilst it is important for friends and family to understand that this may happen, it is also up to you to learn how to control these outbursts and you may find my blog entitled Puberty and Hormones a useful read along with the Emotions section under the Puberty tab on our website.

  • Hi vicki
    So basically I was going out with this boy for 4 months and it was really strong then out of the blue he dumped me, he said he dumped me because it was awkward but we texted every day and we were in the same form. Loads of people found out and he also dumped me on Instagram. When they found out they were all mean to him and my friends didn't let me near him and it's like that now. What should I do?????

    I am sorry that this boy has decided he no longer wants to date and I urge you to respect his decision and let him know that there are no bad feelings and that you hope you can both be friends. It would also be wise to have a chat to your friends letting them know that you do not want any awkwardness between anyone and they should still speak to him as they did before.

  • Sorry if inappropriate but if I have had light brown discharge sometimes like quite light not like red but is this my period because I haven't told my mum about it and don't know if I should if it's important I would because I'm close with my mum and what should I do I've had discharge for over a year now and all signs of puberty and I'm 13?? Thanks in advance I really appreciate your help!!xx

    I would say that yes this is your period as menstrual fluid is often light brown and not red as you would imagine. You can find out more about this fluid if you read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid.

  • How do I make my chest look flat

    Actually, you may be surprised to learn that a good fitting bra can make your breasts look better, than squeezing yourself into a smaller bra, so why not ask you mum if you can be measured for a bra when next in store.

  • I want a soft cup bra I'm a 32a. I don't talk to my mom about those kind of things. How do I ask her for one?

    Why not ask her how old she was when she got her first bra, I am sure this will quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • What is this light brown discharge I'm getting? I'm supposed to be getting my period but ive got light brown discharge. Like light..almost beige and yellow?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark (almost black) red, it is nothing to worry about and all part of your period.

  • Hi vicki my breasts have just started developing and I am a bit worried I have a lump in my right breast and it is about the size of a grape it is very tender and painful PLEASE ANSWER ASAP I AM REALLY WORRIED 😭😒 btw I am 11 almost 12

    This is almost certainly your breast bud, which is the start of breast development and it is very common for one breast to develop before the other so please try not to worry.

  • hi Vicki so I have had 3 periods I started my third today and they have all been like 2 weeks apart I'm worried is this normal to have it this close? thx x

    It is very normal for both long and short gaps between each period to be noticed for the first few years and this is simply your body working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I need your opinion a boy just asked me out and I am 16 what should I do please help me ??
    From Kayla xx

    Hi Kayla, if you like this boy and want to get to know him better then I see no reason why you cannot say yes and start dating, make sure before you do that your parents are happy for you to see this boy.

  • I was just wondering if you could help me.....On my upper arms i have these weird marks and they are on both , they are red and spotty do you know what they could be and do you know any ways that i could get rid of them because they really ruin my confidence
    thank you for listening even if you don't now
    xxx Emily

    Hi Emily, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • Hiya Vicki

    I got the email saying are you under 16 it didn't send so I am under 16 and I have got permission thanks xxx

    Could you please respond via the website as opposed to Ask Vicki please?

  • hi vicki. a little while back i sent you a question on how to tell my friend to leave me alone and stop touching me... your advice was really useful. i did as you said and told her to give me some space. still to this day she follows me and touches me. i have to actually run home now because i fell quite uncomfortable. if i tell her she doesn't understand and she has no other friends because she's so awkward!!! how can i tell her? everyone feels sorry for me because no offence but its a struggle!

    As your friend is not respecting your wishes, the time has now come to talk to a teacher.  You should also talk to your parents about her behaviour.

  • There is this boy in my class who was horrible to me and my boyfriend. The boy kept on making up things by saying that I was his girlfriend even though I wasn't, he kept trying to give me a hug right in front of my boyfriend. My boyfriend said that didn't feel comfortable and went and the other boy boy followed him and didn't say sorry to me or my boyfriend. My boyfriend isn't talking to me now so I think he is angry with me but I'm not sure. Please help! What should I do?

    I don't understand why your boyfriend isn't talking to you as you've done absolutely nothing wrong.  You should talk to him about this and if this other boy should do anything like this again, tell him to leave you alone or you will inform a teacher about his behaviour.

  • hi vicki iam 11 years old i have started my period my hips are really wide and my boobs are pretty big i have no confide i do dance an i have to wear a little teatard and about tiny skirt i hate it i can't cop i know it happens to everybody thanks

    Please try not to worry as we all notice that our hips become wider and our breasts become fuller and round during puberty.  Try to look at ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport might be a good place to start.

  • Hi Vicki, my friend recently started her period so my friends and I were talking about that sort of stuff. Anyway, my friend asked if I had started but before I could answer my other friend said "no of course she hasn't, she'll start when she's about 18!" I don't know why she said this or what she meant but I feel left out an I want to start so badly! (By the way I am 14 and aa, I am also quite skinny)
    Thanks x

    Hi, this was a little tactless of your friend but I am sure she meant no malice by her comments and as you probably already know if you have read our articles, a period can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi vicki my name is jasmin-Louise and I'm in my period and its really heavy
    It's been going on for 5/6 days and it just keeps. Bleeding I have had to change my pants 3 times today and I have gone through 6 sanctuary towels but I think its more serious and I'm really worried

    Hi Jasmine-Louise, try not to worry as heavy periods are quite common but for peace of mind, ask your  mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have had quite a lot of discharge for nearly a year and a half now, my boobs had been devolving for 2-3 years but i still haven't had my period. I am quite small and an quite petite. Nearly all my friends have started but not me :( do you have any idea of when i might start??
    Holly xx

    Hi Holly, try not to worry as I'm sure your period isn't too far away.  Please also try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hi Vicki! I fancy a guy (he is a youtuber) who doesnt even live in the same country that i do and he is obviously too old for me... still i cant stop thinking about him... i just cry at night and dream of us together. My phone is full of pictures of him, i white his name everywhere, i sometimes just feel like i would just want to kiss him so hard... what should i do? I just cant live like that! Please help me, im afraid ill take my life if icant get him out of my head! Thank you

    I am little concerned that you and your boyfriend have not yet met but share photographs and I would urge you to speak to your parents about this relationship and ask if they are comfortable with you chatting to each other before you do anything else.

  • do you know if you have to be born with eczema or can you develop it?

    Eczema can develop at any age and in particular during your teenage years.

  • If you have discharge does it mean you are getting your period soon. I am only 9 and I've had discharge for quite a bit now.

    It is normal for girls to release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki! It's impossible to find aa bras where I live. Do you know any places to order them online?
    Also whats your opinion about getting rid of pubic hair? I mean do men find natural ones unatractive and all that?
    Thanks!

    Regardless of what men think about pubic hair, it really is up to you what you wish to do with your own body, and whilst a great many girls feel they should remove this hair to fit in with the trend, there really is no need. As for bras, it really is better to go and try some on or if this is not possible consider wearing soft bras such a Bellini available in packs of two in most supermarkets.

  • Today, she told me that she would rather teach me. But when?! I am seventh grade?! As you can probably see, I am very agrivated. Also, I am scared for tomorrow. I don't know what to expect. I love and respect my mom but I don't understand what her plan is!?!? Why has she still not talked to me about that yet??!! I don't know what to do but please help me. Thank you so much.

    Firstly, if your mum has ticked no to you taking part in these lessons, your teacher will most likely find you something else to do whilst the class in being taken. It will be most likely that your friends will come out of that lesson and be chatting about what they have heard, so you may want to share this news with your mum, letting her know you are ready for this chat. Remember too that a lot of the stuff covered off in class you will find on this website in our articles and blogs.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 12 years old and in 7th grade. I have never had a health class and my mom has never given me "the talk." She also has not given me any bras which is quite annoying because my chest bounces up and down during gym. Tomorrow, I am supposed to have my first health class. I casually went up to my mom and asked what it was. She said she didn't know because she called it something different. In the beginning of the year, she checked of "no" to Family Life and Human Sexuality. Tbc...

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicky
    I am 12 years old and I can't stop watching porn no matter how hard I try.Any adviceon how to stop?

    I am sure you already know that watching pornographic images does not show a real representation of what it is like to be in a loving relationship and if you want to reduce the time spent doing this, keep your bedroom door open, leave your electrical gadgets downstairs when you go to bed or ask your parents for greater protection on your electrial items.

  • Hello! I will say I am 15, most likely asexual and a little bit guilty. I have masturbated before , but I feel I am too young and I am a bit disgusted with myself. any advice? I can't really expand the on subject

    Masturbation is both a natural  and instinctive activity and as teenagers find themselves becoming sexually aware of their body and how it responds to touch it is very normal to feel curious about exploring your body in this way.

  • Hi Vicki, so I'm going bra shopping this weekend and I'm 12 years old. All my friends wear bras from lasenza and that type of thing. Right now I don't have any so I don't change in front of my friends so they don't make fun of me. I didn't know how to ask my mom for one but then she noticed my breath were growing and said we might go get some. Do you have any suggestions for places to look for bras? My measurements are 28 and 32. What size would I be?Thank you so much :)

    Great places to shop are M&S, BHS, Primark and New Look and based on your measurements you may like to try on some 32AA sized bras.

  • Hi, this is quite urgent. I'm 14 and I haven't had my period for about 42 days now is this normal I'm a bit worried now.

    This is very normal and girls often find that their periods are irregular for the first few years and as their body works out the right menstrual cycle just for them.

  • Hello Vicki. Let me say first how much I appreciate you and this site because it helps me a lot:). So, recently, I have noticed pains under my breasts and on that soft spot under them and between them on my chest. Sometimes it hurts for me to breathe in. Is this a sign my bra is getting too small because the pain is where it is. Thank you. -Margo

    Hi Margo, it may be, especially if you are noticing red marks when you remove your bra. Have a chat to your mum and share your concerns with her, she will be able to advise you further.

  • Hi Vicki!

    At school I feel everyone else knows more about growing up and sex education than me. Sometimes I am imbarased to ask my friend what a certain word means.

    Please Answer

    I'll let you into a secret...lots of people pretend they understand about sex and puberty as a way of fitting in, when in reality they are just as confused about these subjects as you. You can always come and visit me here on the website if there is a word you do not understand and I will give you advice on its meaning.

  • Hi so ik i keep pestering u about this but its so annoying and its because i shaved my down below ages ago and then i let it grow which it has and then before xmas it started itching again and i didnt want it to cuz of school but it has but i dont understand why its itching because all the hair has grew back and i cant see any stubble and so y itchy. Will it ever stop. Im going on a trip in february and i dont want it to annoy me while on the plane. Ik its my fault for shaving but i wish i never did

    If you feel this area is irritated then you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you, to ensure it is not being caused by washing detergent or toiletry products.

  • Hi, my last few periods have been hell. Im currently on one right now and the pain gets worse as time goes on. I get cramps- which is normal for my period but lately ive been getting sharp shooting pains/aches around my 'area' which shoot up towards my stomach and leave me in pain for a couple of minutes, i go to sit down to hopefully relieve the pain but i cant physically sit down as the pain makes it impossible. Ive tried paracetamol/ibuprofen but nothing works. Please reply asap. Thanks

    As hard as this is to hear, getting up and walking will help this discomfort even though it may be the last thing you feel like doing. If this is not possible then consider stretching as this is proven to help also.

  • Why do I get blod clots come out on my period ?

    This is part of the lining of your uterus and whilst they can look alarming they are very normal and nothing to be anxious about. You may also find my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid useful to read.

  • Hi viki my names ashley and i had my first period december 2014 22nd and havent had it again and what happens if i dont get it at all this month ?

    thanks x

    Don't worry your first few periods may be a little irregular Ashley, this is very normal and because your body will still be trying to work out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • I started my period last August and I have had a jelly like discharge in my pants for the last two days it doesn't smell or itch what is it ??

    Discharge can often change in colour and texture from time to time and this jelly like substance is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hello, Vicki. I have always been a very person, but after having an argument with my best friend/crush who also felt like a bro four/five months ago, I still feel really broken. I have lost myself. I don't care about grades, other friendships. And when I do try, I fail. We sort of made up, but it was awkward. I just don't know what to do. Life just feels like a loosing battle...please help, SmileyFace:-) (14 yrs)

    Hi SmileyFace, these feelings are very normal and not surprising when you think about how much your body and mind is changing now you are becoming a young woman. The best advice I can give you is to share your feelings with others, family, teachers and friends and they will be able to advise you. You may also like to keep a diary of events that are coming up in the next year to give you something to look forward to and work towards. Finally you may find some of my blogs will inspire you and help you manage this time in your life.

  • I've got light brown discharge really irregularly like once every 2 months for example then another 3 but the rest is clear what does this mean?

    This brown discharge is almost certainly your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • I have just gotten my first period, will I still get the large amounts of discharge I used to or just a little bit

    You will have to wait and see as it is normal for discharge to vary in consistency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my first period in December the 21st its now January and i've still not started my period as its the 21st of January on Wednesday could i be on then? Also my stomach feels bloated and i get a few menstural cramps now and again and a bit of discharge,what does that mean?

    Thanks alot,x

    Try not to worry and be patient as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I feel really stupid and i know this is weird but i cant find my vagina.
    I think i know where it is but there is like a thin bit of flesh down the middle so it looks like two holes.
    Is this my vagina and how do i find it

    There are three openings in between your legs, the first is the urethra which is situated at the front and is where we urinate from, the second is at the rear and is called he anus which is where we excrete waste matter from and the middle opening is the vagina which is where we release menstrual fluid from.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System - (Outside).

  • Hello Vicky,
    I am 12 years old and I am just wondering would you be able to send me out some samples to try please ??

    From Kayla xx

    Hi Kayla, as you are only 12, I would first ask that you ask for your mum's or guardian's permission to request a free sample from us, pop onto the home page of this website and then click on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page.  Fill in your details and we will be able to process your sample request which you should receive within a couple of weeks.

  • Hi Vicky, i need your advice on something, there's this boy I like, I've liked him from quite a while, and he told me he liked me too, he asked me to start seeing him (build up to a relationship) so I said yes, he was really nice for a while, but then he started texting other girls and ignoring me, I really like him and I don't know what to do, please help

    As this boy is showing you little respect and loyalty by talking to other girls, I really think you should move on and forget about him as you deserve so much better.

  • I'm.... Pregnant I'm really worried cause I'm only 15 I've been 2 the doctor but I'm really scared 2 tell my parents in case they kick me out From. Please help

    You really need to get the courage to sit down with your parents and discuss your situation.  The sooner it is all out in the open, the better.  Should you need more help and support with this, please call Childline on 0800 1111.

  • Hi Vicky
    I think my bras are a bit small as they left a mark. I'm a 32aa at the moment so what size would you recommend me getting. Also how would I tell my mum I think my bras are a bit small as we got them about 2-3 months ago.
    Thanks. Fluffy horses xxx

    Hi Fluffy Horses, it would be a good idea for you to go shopping and try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  Alternatively, you could also use a measuring tape to measure all the way round your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same over your bust at the fullest point.  Record both of these measurements and come back to me and I will be able to do a bra sizing for you.

  • Do you have free lil lets products for life? Alain, are you ALWAYS supporting lil lets even if you know another company would be better for a certain asker?

    With regard to sanitary protection I feel personally that Lil-Lets is the better option for tampons, pads and liners and as such would recommend them to anyone who visits this site.

  • Hi Vicki xx
    I'm 11 and so is this boy (M) he dumped me because he found out that I was on my period. He likes me and I like him but he keeps sayin its weird. Finally he knows about periods so he's ALWAYS talking about it. Please he Vicki. Please reply x

    This is exactly why I think girls should forget about having a boyfriend until they have grown up a little.  This boy has proven his immaturity in saying that periods are weird.  Why not simply be friends with this boy for now?

  • I was wondering if you got my email about trying the teens stuff? Btw I am Maisha

    Hi Maisha, if you have completed your details on the sample request form found by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the home page of this website, your sample should be with you within a couple of weeks.

  • What does PMS mean?

    Why not read my blog entitled PMS is it all in your head?, for all you need to know about this subject.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have no clue if I'm on my period or not because I found a brown stain in my pants for a day about a month ago and I'm not sure what to say to my mum since I might not be on my period, please help!!

    It is possible for brown discharge to present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I'm 14 I have had discharge for nearly a years, I'm a 32AA and today I noticed my discharge was brown and when I went to the loo I wiped my down below and it was reddish? Does this mean my period is here?

    This is your period so congratulations.  Be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Im in year 7 of high school (age 12) and i really like this boy called L. H is one of the most popular boys in the whole year, and hes like the ONLY white boy in the whole of year 7. Over the past few weeks, he has been:
    smiling at me apparently he told ma bff he likes me in maths he stares at me and on da way home from school i said something to him and then he was like 'i thought u loved me' and den like fake cried.
    Does he like me?

    I would say he has an attraction for you and is letting you know in light hearted way.

  • Hi Vicki. I think my daughter has started her period. However she is only 6 years old. She doesn't understand how to use pads or tampons so what on earth should I do. She's so young and I feel bad that she has to go through this at such a young age especially since she is only in year 1. What should I do?

    For peace of mind, I would suggest that you book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have EXTREMELY rough skin (legs and a little on the arms)
    They feel like sandpaper, honestly, it's that bad. I was just wondering, do you have any tips in smoothing it down to make them softer?
    Thank you,
    Chloe.

    As your skin is so dry, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP as they will be able to prescribe some cream for you. 

  • Hi
    I'm not sure if i got my 3rd period today. My first 2 were 3 months apart. But this one has come merely 2 weeks after the last. I know irregularity is normal but is being extremely early? The way it started was in the bath, i farted from my vagina then several blood clots left me .i have had no bleeding since. Is this acctually my period or just a strange re-lapse?
    Lily x

    Please try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice irregular periods during the early stages of the menstrual cycle.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • I need to buy some bras as I asked you my measurements recently but I'm embarrassed and don't want to go with ANYONE. Also how often should you wear one bra for?

    If you are a little embarrassed to buy bras for yourself at the moment, why not consider buying some online?  However, please think about this as it would be better for you to go to a store as you will be able to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  Why not ask a close friend to go shopping with you as chances are, they share similar feelings to you.  Try to remember that we all have breasts and wearing bras is something we all have to do at some stage or other so try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki
    My knees click so badly when I stand up and some of my other bones do too. My dad had an operation on his knee a few years ago and so did my nan (dads mum) is this hereditary or not. I've had it for years now and nothing improved. I do wanna go to the doctor but I don't really want an operation even if it is necessary because I'm only 13 so I don't want anything serious to have to happen.
    Thank you.

    Just because your dad and nan have had problems with their knees doesn't necessarily mean that you will have the same problem so please try not to worry and ask your parents to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki I got my first period recently but I haven't had one since is this normal? Plus I'm in an athletics competion and I was wondering if this will effect by boobs or my period?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Participating in sport should not affect your breast development or periods.

  • Hi vicki!!! I am 11 years old and I have started to develop a large amount of pubic hair and to have regular discharge but my boobs aren't developing with them. My boobs did grow a tiny bit about a year ago to a 30 AA but haven't done anything since and I am worried about it, especially because my mother has large boobs. Thanks for listening xxx

    We don't always follow our mums at being the same breast size so try not to worry as you're only 11 and have plenty of time to notice development.  Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are.

  • Bra size? 26" below 28" across the boob and around the back.

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What age do girls usually start and finish puberty?
    What age do boys usually start and finish puberty?
    From Horse girl xx

    Hi Horsegirl, girls begin puberty between the ages of 8 or 9 and have usually finished by the age of 15 and boys are a little later in starting puberty at around the ages of 9 or 10 and finish around the age of 15.

  • What is sexual intercourse? Sorry if I spelt it wrong.
    From Horse girl xx

    Sexual intercourse is when the male's penis is inserted inside the female's vagina.

  • I have something I really need to ask but mum. I have been thinking about it for over a week but can't think off how to ask. It is bugging me so much. Please help

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed as she will be able to support and advise you.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi, I am eleven and started puberty around a year ago. I currently wear M&S crop tops, but am outgrowing them. My measurements are 26" underneath and 28" over my boob. Do I need a bra?

    Your bra size is a 30AA and the choice to wear a bra or not is entirely yours.

  • hi vicki, im going to barbados soon on holiday and ill be swimming lots. whenever i shaev my down there hairs, i always come out in lots of red lumps and it itches. i know that you can trim but there are some hairs that i just want gone. How can i get rid of them? sorry if its inappropriate

    Be sure to use a new razor, use plenty of shaving cream and try to shave in the direction of the hair growth and this should help to prevent any red lumps.  If however, some happen to appear, simply apply a little antiseptic cream and they should fade pretty quickly.  Have a fabulous time.

  • How old do you have to be to masterbate and can you masterbate before you have had your period? Thx Vicki πŸ˜ƒ

    Hi, there is no age restrictions for masturbation or is it in anyway related to your period. Why not read our section on the website entitled Sex and Sexual Feelings for more on this subject.

  • How long do you have discharge before having your period?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • Is your real name just "vicki" or is it short for something?

    It's Vicki and not short for anything.

  • I've had my period for a year now and they've become regular but I've missed my last one by a couple of weeks. Also I have had period pains, just no period? What is going on? Many thanks AA

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to notice gaps in between periods for the first couple of years.

  • If you delete ALL your history is it still there?

    Occasionally history can be saved in your PC yes.

  • Hi Vicki, I have been on my periods for almost a year now and they are really short, they only last approximately 3 days and aren't heavy. ..is that normal?

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for a menstrual cycle to last anything between 2-7 days.

  • Hello Its me again ( Sarah ) and I have been getting discharge in my pant for about 6 months and I was wondering there was anyway to speed up my period

    Hi Sarah, I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to help speed your period along but a good thing to remember is that as you've already been releasing discharge for 6 months, you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • hi vicki my parents went on a trip for a week and my brother is never at home and my brother caught my having sex and he got mad and kicked him out iits really akward now what do i do btw im 16 and my brother is 18

    Even though you are legally old enough to be sexually active, I would presume your parents have left your brother in charge of your welfare in their absence and if he feels that this type of behaviour is not suitable, then you really must abide by his wishes.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Its JJ (Again) anyway, i moved across the country like a year ago, but i still don't have any friends. Which is wierd because i am a social butterfly. But i also go to an online school. So what can i do to make friends and keep my grades up?

    Hi JJ, why not consider joining some groups that have advertised at your local library.  You could try anything from singing in a choir to doing a sport and these are great ways for you to meet new friends.

  • Heyyy so I'm 14 and have had my period for just over a year and recently just before my period and during a fishy smell has started and it's bad like my friends can smell it and I looked on line people are saying its a bacterial infection im scared is it really a Bactria infection im so self consious now 😭😭😭

    Try not to worry as it is normal for there to be a slight odour from your period, so why not consider trying Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Help Vicy! I got my period and I got it on my my white expensive carpet. Mum my kill me. I dont know what to do.
    Froms 1st period problem Patrica
    MWAH

    Hi Patricia, dab the area with COLD and not hot water and using a kitchen towel to mop up most of the stain, then let your mum know so she can use a specific carpet cleaner to remove the rest of the stain completely.

  • Does it hurt to have sex?

    Some females do say that they feel a little discomfort the first time they have sex which is why it is so very important that the couple take their time in getting to know each other very well before they agree to being intimate.

  • To Vickliy (sorry if spelt rong)
    I had blood in my breifs to morning and I am scerd I'm going to dye or have cancer
    I'm afrad to tell my mammy be case i dont want her to look at me privates. I looked upbon Google and this came up so I ask u questions.
    Thanz from Karen (9and 1/4 year old)

    Hi Karen, please try not to worry as this is your period which is a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl.  Please talk to your mum and ask her to buy some pads for you.  You might like to suggest that she buys Lil-Lets teens Day and Night pads as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki Billie again. I told my mum that I saw blood in my pee and she said dont worry about it what should I do

    Hi Billie, if you are on your period, it is very likely that the blood you noticed was due to menstrual fluid being left on your pubic hair and around the entrance to your vagina, so please try not to worry.  However, if you are not on your period,  and in pain when urinating then have another chat to your mum who may decide to pop you along to your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • Hello Vicki
    I'm sorry but before i ask you questions I would prefer to know these questions(sorry , I'm just that type of person! Dont answer if you dont want to):
    Are you in your menstral cycle or menopause? Do you have Kids?
    If so , and you have girls.. Do they have their periods and what was there 1st period story
    Do you have a embarrassing period story? If so explain..
    Lastly do/did you use pads or tampons

    Sorry if these are inappropriate or weird
    Thanks :) ~Ash xx

    Hi Ash, in answer to some of your questions. Yes I still have periods, if you read the About Vicki section you will know I have 3 children; two girls and a boy and yes my daughters have started their periods. I use a mixture of pads and tampons depending on the time of day and what I am doing. I am sure just like lots of people, including my daughters I have lots of stories to tell, such as leaking at inopportune moments, leaving a pad in the bathroom and forgetting to put it in the rubbish, etc... But the most important thing that both I and my daughters share is that we know periods are part of life for a woman and nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • I'm not sure if this boy likes me? He puts his arm around my shoulder or asks for a high 5 quite a lot.today in French he asked me how I was and gave me a high 5 and then I was doing my work but he sits behind me and him and he's friends were whispering stuff and pointing at different people and in regestration I heard his friends saying "do you really like her?" and he said "yes" but I don't know who they meant. However, he is quite a "popular" and naughty boy but I'm really shy and not popular.

    It does seem as if this boy likes you or at least wants to get to know you better, so please don't feel you are not worthy of his interest and if you like him back, smile, say "Hi" and ask him how his weekend was. This is a great way to feel comfortable around someone and get to know them better.

  • I love to read books on love and sex and stuff. Is this weird?

    It is only natural to feel curious about emotions you now feel that are new to you and being in love and intimate with someone is just part of this new phase in your life. You may find in time these feelings pass and your need to view or read images of a sexual nature subside.

  • What is masturbating?

    Why not read our section on Sex and Sexual Feelings for more on this subject.

  • Hi viki I'm turning 13 in a few months. And all my friends make fun of me because unfortunately I still were crop tops but I have bigger breast then them. Is their anyway to try to give a hint to my mum that I need a proper bra also I don't really won't to give my mum a letter.plzzzzzzzz helpπŸ˜’πŸ˜’

    Thx Sarah

    Hi Sarah, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first real bra and this should quickly move the conversation to you and if you now feel ready, you may even want to share your experience in school when amongst friends with her too.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Im 13 and almost EVERY girl in my form has started their period. I feel like a baby because I haven't started and when my friends talk about periods I feel like im not grown up enough, even though im one of the oldest in my friendship group. This has made me feel really upset. Is there anything i can do about this? Thanks, Charlie x

    Hi Charlie, periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and are not the only sign that you are becoming a young woman, which I am sure you are, so please be patient and listen to your friend's comments as this will help when your period does arrive.

  • Hi, I'm 15, and on Sunday I dyed my hair a dark brown, and now I'v got scab-like-burns on my scalp? I'v put antiseptic TCP on them. What else can I do to make them go away? Will this stop me from dying my hair forever?

    It may be that the hair dye was left on the hair for too long or that this particular brand does not suit your skintype and you should always as per the manufacturers instructions run a patch test of the product prior to using it. I would leave these marks alone now and let them heal naturally.

  • Hi vicki, earlier I asked you about a girl in my year&her strange hobby, well in reply to your answer I'm not really that worried that she knows about my info- more that she has fact files on others which are saved to her computer. Her parents know&aren't bothered. Its not just me whos worried- she sometimes asks strange personal question&has strong views on certain things. Should I share this with a teacher? Im just concerned for her and others around
    Cx

    If you feel concerned for the safety of private information then yes I see no reason why you should not share your concerns with your form teacher.

  • Hey Vicky
    It's my second period and I've been on it for 9 days now and today when I went to the toilet it was thick and goopy like a flem it was still blood but it was very gooey like, what is this because all the other days it had been normal ?! Pls help
    courtney

    Hi Courtney, menstrual fluid can vary from day to day and this is nothing to be worried about nor is the length of your period on this occasion, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, i really like this boy but i don't know if he likes me back. We have been girlfriend and boyfriend before. I never see him anymore as we do different clubs and go to a different school to each other. I have his number and he has mine but whenever i text him or phone him he never picks up or reply. please help! What should i do?

    If this boy is not responding to your texts or calls then this may be his way of letting you know he has moved on and it would be wise to move on too, I appreciate this may not be what you want to hear, but it seems this is the best way forward.

  • Is it possible for a girl to get a six pack

    It is possible for girls to improve their muscle tone in this area yes.

  • Hey Vicki,
    So im wearing a non-wired and slightly padded bra, its a size 32A... i fits perfectly everywhere but id like to know my size according to my measurements.
    Under:27
    Bust32
    Above:31
    Am i wearing the right bra size??
    Ellie x

    Hi Ellie, based on your measurements you are a 32AA but if the bra fits you comfortably I would continue to wear it.

  • Hi Vicks,
    So I was wondering how do I ask my mom to shave my legs as they are really hairy!

    Thanks

    Why not start by asking your mum how old she was when she first started shaving her body hair and this should quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • Hiya Vicki
    do you know when the samples will be here xx

    love from Kayleigh xx

    Thank you xox

    Samples take a few weeks to arrive Kayleigh.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I had my first period on January 9, 2015. I'm eleven I haven't had another one yet but I don't want to!!!! It's not that I have a heavy flow or anything like that but I just hate having it in general! None of my cousins have it and I really want one of them to get in not even my 14 year old sister has it yet! I don't want to have to worry about during swimming in the summer or anything like that!! Help.

    Hi, periods are a fact of life for us females and as time goes by you will learn to manage this time of the month and crucial for this are products that keep you protected from leaks and feeling comfortable such as our Lil-Lets teens and freshlock range.

  • Sorry to be gross, I just need to get some advice. I got my first period today, and I am using pads, but somethings weird. There is almost no blood on the pad, but whenever I wipe after going to the toilet there is lots of blood. It's kinda think, and has clumps in it, and the blood only comes out when I'm sitting on the toilet! Is this normal?? Also the blood has bits of back in it aswell. Once again, sorry if this is gross, but please help! Thanks Vicki. =)

    This is perfectly normal so please try not to worry.

  • hi Vicki you are so amazing. I have mood swings and they are very quick to kick in. I cant stand it when people swear especially my parents. I am always told even though im only 11 I am very mature but when anyone swears I get mood swings and it makes me look childish. also how can I stop having mood swings in public?

    Mood swings are a normal part of puberty for lots of girls as hormones run riot.  You might like to try using some distraction techniques so when you feel yourself becoming angry, try thinking of something else.  You might also like to consider learning some Yoga to help you relax.  Please don't forget to talk to your parents and friends about how you're feeling too as this will also help.  Thank you for your kind words of support too.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm on my very first period. I'm only on my 3rd day and my period has suddenly became very light?do I wear a pad or a liner?and do you know why this happens?
    Thank you
    Josie

    Hi Josie, congratulations and try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  If a liner provides you with enough protection, stick with them until your flow becomes more established.

  • Hi, so this boy and I we really like each other but he's verry shy and we don't talk much. Just email on our phones during school. I'm in year 7. My mum and dad know and are fine with it. Since Valentine's Day is coming up I wanted to get him something but it's awkwrd cause we don't talk to much so how can we talk more and should I get him a gift if so what? We aren't dating btw
    Thanks! πŸ‘₯πŸ‘€

    If you are both a little shy then why not send him a little note of affection rather than purchasing a present, I am sure he will be appreciative.

  • Dear Viki,
    Ive been having discharge and emotional changes for a long time and I'm only 12. I don't have much change in hip or boob size. Is this something to worry about because i have had discharge for almost 1 year?

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  As you've been releasing discharge for almost a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky, so today I checked and I had more discharge than usual and I'm scared it could be a yeast infection. But I don't have the symptoms that comes along with the yeast infection. I'm scared could I have it ? The only thing that I have is the thick discharge. Help? ( sorry if it's inappropriate)

    You would know if you had thrush as your discharge would be thick and creamy, your vagina would be red and swollen and you would notice a burning sensation when urinating.  As all you have is thick discharge, you have nothing to worry about as discharge can change in colour, consistency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • I want to reinvent myself, to become someone that I can look at in the mirror with a little selfconfidence. The thing is, I don't want to change friends and I have no idea how to reinvent myself. I'm not rich so I can't get new clothes, but i don't want to be me. "I wish that I could be like the cool kids" you know? Not just this me that has only three friends and nobody wants to hang around or talk with me for a long time. I'm not society's definition of pretty and I wish I was.
    -Emms Ξ

    Hi Emma, we all have something we don't like about ourselves and puberty is naturally a time for young girls and boys to experience massive self-doubt and develop a poor self-image so rather than reinventing yourself, look for ways of boosting your self-confidence and try to love who you are.  You might find that joining a club for something you enjoy like a sport, dance or drama would be a good place to start.  Remember you have to love yourself before you can expect others to do the same.

  • Hello vicki, I've been going through a really tough time recently I feel so down, I have a boyfriend I've been with him 7 months, but because I like him that much I've lost a lot of friends from being with him, I hardly have anyone now and it makes me feel so alone. I argue with my mum and dad a lot, they shout at me for the littlest things and it just gets me really upset, I'm upset about everything at the moment, I feel so alone and that everyone hates me, I just don't know what to do anymore.

    Puberty is naturally a time when teens feel more stressed as serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest.  Try doing things that make you happy like talking to your friends and reconnecting with them, you could also try talking to your parents and explain how you feel.  I'm sure that nobody hates you, you are just feeling a little excluded at the moment but you can change that.

  • Under my breasts is 27" and over the fullest part is 30", what bra size would I be?

    Your bra size is 32AA with those measurements.

  • One of my friends in Year 10 has asked me if I'd like to join a GSA group (Gay Straight Association... I think) and I'm all for it. But the meeting things are on Thursdays, and I have woodwind group and choir on Thursdays. I don't want to let my friend down, but I don't want to miss rehearsals for either of these groups.
    I'm at a loss. Advice?
    Carida
    (p.s. Do you like my name? Everyone says it's unique and quite beautiful.)

    Hi Carida, as you don't wish to appear as if you're letting your friend down, just be honest and explain that you have prior commitments that you've been involved in for a while but at the first opportunity you have you would be happy to attend the GSA meeting.

  • When I woke up this morning, I accidentally knocked my left breast and it really hurt. It's been hurting all day whenever I brush against it and it seems to be mainly in my nipple. When I look at it, it looks normal but it really hurts to touch and there is a lump behind my nipple that is really tender. I have never noticed this lump before so I could just be bruised from when I knocked it but I'm worried that it had been there before and I had noticed it or that knocking it has made it worse.

    This is quite a common occurrence as breasts can easily be knocked when participating in sport or simply by bumping into people or things and when breasts are developing, they are already sore and tender so a knock can be very painful indeed.  Just keep an eye on it as the raised lump you can feel behind your nipple might simply be a breast bud.  For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian what they think.

  • I know you're not a doctor, but I've become very emotional recently (I'm nearly 14) . I googled the symptoms of depression and ended up on the Nhs website, answering a survey type thing. It told me that based on my answers it's likely I have some kind of depression & I was 11/27. But I know that I can be a drama queen and usually because of this my mum might not take me seriously. Do you think I should speak to my mum and go to the GP? Or could it be a phase x

    The thing is that puberty can naturally be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring, it's no wonder they feel susceptible to stress.  So, try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films with your friends and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will help.  Chances are, some of your friends are feeling the same way too.

  • Hey vicki
    So this girl in yr 5 (im in yr 6) called bella who is my friend is going out wid dis rlly cute/nice/caring/sexy boy and she kissed him and hugged him and everything i do not have a crush on him im just kindaaaa jealous
    Sorry if this is innapropriate

    Jazzowazzo

    It is normal to feel jealous when you feel like you're missing out on something but you know you're still young and have plenty of time to have a boyfriend so try not to worry as your time will come.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Recently my skin has been flaring up, and I have an angry red lump on my forehead?! It doesn't look like a spot, and I've tried spot creams, Sudocrem everything? Help can I get rid of it? Also my friends are sleeping over at the weekend for my birthday and I feel really uncomfortable about them seeing me with no makeup on...
    What should I do?
    Thank you!
    P.S How can I stop finishing-period acne??

    You still have a few days before the weekend in which time the spot should fade considerably so try not to worry and have a good time.  You could also try using a little bit of concealer if it is still noticeable but try to remember that some of your friends might be in the same situation too.

  • I started my period over 2 years ago but they're still not regular, they seem to come almost exactly every 2 months rather than every one, is this normal?

    As it has been over 2 years that you have been experiencing irregular periods, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • Hi vicki
    I need help my boyfriend as lovely as he is is quite impolite to my parents as in quite rude when it come to manners xx i was also addressing to him how i am struggling in school within people teasing me (3weeks) and he told me to ignore them at school when someone says something to me he doesn't really do anything xx i know he's not a bodyguard but should I consider leaving him as this bothers me πŸ˜•???

    The fact that this boy has little respect for your parents, is reason enough to move on and forget about him.  Add to this, the fact that he doesn't stick up for you at school is another.  You deserve much better than this.

  • Hi Vicki, so my mum know i have periods and she buys me pads usually when she knows im on my period as i have some left from last month etc and 1 time i went and bought pads my self but i felt really embarrassed and the pads my mum bought me now aint really good do you think i should go and buy my own and not feel emmbaresd or tell my mum that these ar bad as she bought 2 packs (im 13) thanks x

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about them.  If you prefer, you could ask her if she would allow you to buy your own pads and you might like to consider trying out Lil-Lets teens Day pads as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki, I often text my best friend when I am having troubles with my anxiety. I easily get stressed with school work and have severe panic attacks a lot. I tell her, seeking comfort and advice, and all she can ever say is 'oh' or 'you'll be fine' and then moves on to another topic to make the conversation revolve around her. This does hurt my feelings a lot, as I feel as if she doesn't care πŸ˜” should I adress her on this or leave it be? X

    Being friends means that you should be able to talk to each other and look to each other for support in times of need.  So, I think you should be honest with your friend and tell her how you feel she isn't really interested in the things you have to say and it might make her think.

  • Hi.
    I masturbate but have no sexual feeling towards it , i just feel the need to masturbate just beacuse i want to.
    But i never get any pleasure when i look at sex/penis pics / other stuff i just think .………
    I have a boy friend and i want to have sex (but not yet as im 15 i have to wait till next year :) )
    is their something wrong with me? And i never have had a orgasm.
    Thanks May x

    Masturbation is something that is felt instinctively and naturally so please don't do it just because you think you should.

  • Hi vicki I am 13 and I have been getting my periods for about a year now but my last few periods I have had really bad cramps and I even had to stay off school one day but nothing seems to help them and it is starting to make me worried about having my period weeks before I'm due on is there anything that can help ( not medicine)
    Thankyou xxx

    We do recommend that taking some gentle exercise can ease stomach cramps but you could also try using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath.  If the pain is still bad, you could ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller but if this is something you would prefer not to do, persevere with doing some exercise by going for a walk or swimming often helps.

  • My flow is actually so heavy I have tried everything and EVERY lil let pads/tampons it still leaks😭 what can i do

    As your period is quite heavy, you might like to try our adult range of products.  Lil-Lets Freshlock towels are more absorbent than the best-selling brand and there is a wide range of tampon absorbencies. 

  • Is it normal to get belly aches and head aches and vomit before your period is due (not your first period..just normal ones)??

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, these are normal symptoms of periods so try not to worry.  For peace of mind, you might like to ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hiya I am 12 Amy mum buys me bras and she buys ones that are elastic on the strap and this makes the back go really high and all my friends have it below there shoulder blades how do I get it lower. Also my bras go go across my breast and make a line on them

    Hi Amy, I think you would benefit from a professional bra measurement as it sounds as if your current bra doesn't fit you properly.

  • Hi
    I started my period and am not sure whether I should tell my friend do u think I should and if so how

    Periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to feel so embarrassed by them and just think, there is a chance that your friend could also be starting her period very soon too so by talking to her about them, you will also be helping her.  Check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad for more help with this too.

  • As part of our school policy everyone has to go swimming. I'm really nervous aboout it because the girls in my year are quite judgemental and we have to wear sports costumes. Which dont provide much support and you can see your nipples through. I am quite large in the bust area and am worried because sports costumes dont give any support and i am scared the girls in my year will laugh at me. Can you help?

    The thing is that you are all in the same position and let's face it, you are all of an age when your nipples will be more noticeable as many of you will be in the early stages of breast development so try not to worry and be proud of what you have.

  • When you start your period is there always an irregular gap or can you have a period the next month instead of a few months later?

    Not everyone experiences irregular periods but it is quite common as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki
    I do a lot of sports so I really want it try tampons but I just can't bring myself to do it because I'm worried it's going to hurt or something . Also my vagina seems really small so I don't even know if tampons would fit, what positions could you even put a tampon in ? Also I don't know if I have a light, medium or heavy flow so I really don't know which tampons to get , does it matter if it turns out I have a heavy period and I got a low absorbency or vice versa?
    Thanks char1974

    Hi Charl1974, the vagina is a muscle that can expand wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born so a tampon is small by comparison.  The trick is to be as relaxed as possible before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.  It might take a little practice but being relaxed will help you.  You might like to start by trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use but if your flow is a little heavy, you could try Super.

  • Hello Vick,
    I am twelve years old and one of my friends is being bullied behind her back. Last weak in drama our class were sitting on the floor listening to miss and this boy was kicking her, she told him to stop and he would not. She is quite a sensitive person and started crying. I calmed her down, but when we were walking out of the lesson these girls were talking about her in a mean way. She has asked me why do people not like me. How do I answer to this?
    Thank you
    hannah

    Hi Hannah, please ask your friend to talk to the teacher about the bullying and be there to support and comfort her as much as you can.  You might like to suggest that she tries to give her confidence a boost by joining a club for something she enjoys like a Sport, Drama or Music.  My Bullying blog might also help her.

  • Hi Vicki
    I recently went to try and get a new bra, the ones i have are a little small and the wires keep popping out. Mum says i need to buy a bigger one because they are only going to grow but they are big enough and im really self concious about it because all my friends are hardly even c cups. and i tried on a DD in the shop and the lady said it was too small. what should i do?

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and this is what makes us who we are so please try not to worry and be proud of what you have.

  • Is it normal on my first period for there to be a change in flow because in the first hours there was a lot of blood but after a while there was hardly any.
    Thank you
    Emi

    Hi Emi, this is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hi vicki
    so i started my period on the 12th. me ad my friend issy had been talking about it 2 days before so it was easy to tell her. then issy told me she had started on the 11th,the day before!!i read somewhere that bestfriends start around the same tim if they spend a lot f time together. is this true?
    love mila xoxoxo

    Hi Mila, there have been studies about this but nothing has been conclusive so it is assumed that it is simply a coincidence when girls have their period at around the same time.  Congratulations anyway and now you can both share your experiences and support each other.

  • How do I tell my mam when I have my first period ??

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed by this.  For some help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • I am 14 and have discharge for about 5 or 6 years now. I occasionally get stomouch cramps but not that often. will I start my period soon.

    anglex

    Hi Angle, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki
    I like a boy and he keeps flirting with me and every one says he likes me but I don't want to just stay friends I want to be more than that but everyone around me thinks I am desperate but I am not all I want is a relationship that is longer than 2 weeks HELP

    Please reply ASAP

    Try to remember that you are still young so there is plenty of time to have a relationship with a boy.  So why not relax and concentrate on having fun with your friends and family for now as relationships at a young age seem to cause no end of problems at a time when you should be having fun with your family and friends and concentrating on your education.

  • I got my legs professionally waxed for the 1st time, but found the hair grew back within 3 days. i do have thick hair but i'm really confused coz i'm sure they're suppossed to grow in 2 - 6 weeks. maybe you can help me out? thank you, i love your site - can you add Aimee to the list? x

    Hi Aimee, it is perfectly normal to notice hair regrowth after a couple of days which is why girls and women often get into the habit of shaving their legs when they shower or bathe.  Thank you for the support.

  • hi vicky, im 11 (coming 12) i keep watching how to kiss videos and thinking alot about sex and havin sexual feelings. im obsessed with one direction and every time i listen or watch a video of thiers i get a tingling sort of feeling down there and picturing sexual images in my head. is this normal? ( aplogies if inappropriate and reply asap) thanks.

    These new feelings of a sexual nature are perfectly normal caused by a massive increase in the activity of your sex hormones so please try not to worry as it's normal to feel curious.

  • So there's this boy who has said something today thatbibwas a bit shocked at. He said to me the only im going to rob of you is your virginity. I felt so embarrassed and everyone started laughing. Then, he gave me a hug but he wrapped his arms tightly around my hips/ waist and then slammed me up against the wall. What should I do? P.s I think he thinks that he's joking around but I don't like it at all

    His behaviour is inappropriate and unacceptable so please tell a teacher at school.

  • Hey viki. I'm really scared about having my year 8 injections done. Do they hurt or don't they😩 ❓❓❓

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Why do we need the HPV Innoculation?  Please try not to worry as it will be over and done with before you know it.

  • Hi Vicki my parents died In a plane crash I'm 16 and my brother takes care of me I have a boyfriend and we do stuff sexaul but my brother dosent like him at all and won't let me see him what do I do......violet

    Hi Violet, as your brother is your guardian and is looking out for you, you have to respect his opinion.  However, you might like to suggest that he gets to know your boyfriend a little better by perhaps inviting him round for tea.

  • I have had discharge for well over two years, nearly three and recently I have had a constant tummy ache, and my discharge is very thick and darker than it used to be. I'm 14 does this mean my period is coming?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I'm really worried about my weight! I weigh about 6 stone 5 and I'm 12. I'm medium height and I sometimes skip breakfast and occasionally lunch... Is my weight going to stop me growing???? My boobs are starting to grow and I've having discharge for the last 6 months so should I being worried?? Thank you so much and I'd be so happy if you got back to me - πŸ’— x

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time when it is possible for young girls to develop an irrational fear of gaining weight but depriving your body of essential nourishment can do serious harm to your body so please be sure to eat three balanced meals every day.  By doing this and by being as active as you can, you will develop into your more adult self beautifully.  Please talk to your mum or guardian about this too.

  • Hi vicki i have been having discharge since aged 7 or 8 im 13 now and no period but for the past 2 years I've been having really heavy thick yellow ish white discharge that smells of vinegar (sorry to be graphic) but it normally smells fishy so I'm quite worried? I've been having symptoms of near period for about a year now (sore boobs, moodiness) and nothing is happening should I go to a doctor thanks x

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for discharge to have a slight odour but it shouldn't be too bad.  Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi I'm 13 and this is my third period it is still super heavy like the others but I am on my tenth day and it is still heavy what should i do? Also I had a pad on for two hours an I went to the toilet and there was nothing but about 45 mins later it was completely full is it strange for it to like stop and start? X thanks :)

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, as your period has been quite heavy for a while if you should you begin to feel more tired than normal please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • hi vicki so i recently went to a party and i had my first proper kiss. (snog) and I'm now growing feelings for this boy. he has mentioned sex to me and although i would maybe have sex with him if we were in a relationship i still haven't started my period. can i still have sex or not. also I'm not confident with my body. my boobs are tiny and I'm 15 size 30AA. why is this happening to me? it gets me really upset as everyone else in my year has lost there virginity but me and have big boobs but me. thanks

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  Your virginity is something to be proud of and hold on to until you are in a loving, mutually respectful relationship so please don't put yourself under unnecessary pressure to be like your other friends.  As for your breasts, try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to develop up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time.

  • hi vicky, i have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and we are both ready to have sex however i still haven't started my period so I'm worried if i have sex i will not be able to know if I'm pregnant or not. i really don't know how to tell him this.

    The Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16 so you have to respect the law if this applies to you.  If however, you are over 16, the fact that you have not yet started your period does not mean that you cannot become pregnant so it is important that you make sure you are fully protected by using contraception.  There is no need for your boyfriend to know if you have started your period or not.

  • Is your name really Vicki (sorry if its inappropriate)

    Yes it is.

  • I'm 15 and I have a boyfriend he is a lovely boy and we like each other for our personalitys but because of this I keep getting sexually attracted to him and sometimes madturbate and his friends tell me that all he thinks about when he sees me is sex... Should I be worried because I feel the same way but now it makes br think twice about our relationship any advice?
    Saskia

    Hi Saskia, as you and your boyfriend are going through puberty, your sex hormones are running riot which is the reason why you are experiencing deep feelings of sexual attraction to each other.  However, the Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16, so you have to respect the law.

  • In school, I seem to get really stressed when there is nothing to stress about. Also, I get really annoyed and often fin myself wanting to cry. Is this normal?

    It is so common for young girls to become stressed during puberty as there are so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once and serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest which also leaves them susceptible to stress.  Try dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will help you to feel better.

  • Hey Vicki, I've been having clear discharge now for a while but over the past few months it's gone quite a light brown colour what does this mean?xxx

    This is your period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki.
    I just wanted your opinion on this. I like this boy in my year and he knows that I like him because my cousins friend had told him so. He said that he doesnt really like anyone but surely he must have a crush on someone. But its so weird because we keep looking at each other and it just feels so weird but we hardly talk to each other. Do you think I should just move on? Thanks, emily xxx

    Hi Emily, lots of boys enter puberty later than girls and have no desire to date, so this is not as unsual as you would think. Why not be friends for now and see if his feelings towards you change in the future.

  • How do I tell my mum I started my period thanks

    If you find doing this face to face too hard, consider sending her a text or writing her a note and leaving it somewhere only she can find it such as her make-up bag or underwear drawer.

  • Hey VickiπŸ˜„,
    One of my friend used to have crush on this boy, who since we've moved classes I have become friends with. Anyway it had been a while since my friend and I talked, so we went out last weekend and the first thing she asks me is how's …? It's not like we are dating and don't know why she seems to have an issue with us being friends- she has accused my of flirting and it seems like my other friends have to keep watch to make sure nothing happens - even though she knows my intentions.

    Hi, the only person you have to consider in this matter is yourself. If you have told your friends that you see this boy as a friend only then this is as much as you have to do. If they find this difficult to comprehend, then this really is there issue to deal with and not yours. So continue being yourself and chatting to this boy whenever you wish to.

  • im flat chested but I can fit into a 30aa bra???

    I am not a huge fan of the term 'flat chested' and clearly if you can fit into a bra this is not the case, so please try not to worry about this.

  • Hi Vicki,
    There is a girl in my class who makes lists about people's grades, has fact files on them and even a black list! Should I be worries and inform a teacher or is it just a weird 'hobby'.It's just I find it a little strange that she keeps personal info on phone numbers, birthdays ect.
    Thanks C x

    This is an unsual hobby and whilst I can only assume it is harmful, if you feel she has private information about you written down that could get into someone else's hands then you may want to have a quiet word with her, asking her to politely remove your details for privacy.

  • Hello Vicki
    I've had my period for 11 months now.. AND I STILL HAVE NOT TOLD MY MOM! I can't! I can't through text , speech , email , note ANYTHING. I type/write it and my finger just won't press send. Its impossible! Thing is I feel like I can just blurt it out to her now because im sick wasting my lunch money on pads! But I can't tell her how long I've had it cause she'd freak. But THEN I'm ready and want to use tampons. But if I tell her i want them she would say no I'm to early into the cycle
    Thanx

    Hi, I am sure once you have spoken to your mum and told her your period has arrived she will chat to you in more detail and you may then want to share how long you have been experiencing them. There is also no reason why you cannot let her know that you feel ready for tampons and would like to consider these too. I appreciate that discussing this matter is delicate, but I can assure you, your mum will understand.

  • (Part 2):
    Weve been together for 3 weeks now. At 1st some of my friends said that it was weird - apparently Im 1 of the prettiest girls in my year & my bf isnt THE hottest. I no this sounds bad, but its been kinda hard to move on from what they said, I do like him & weve kissed & stuff. Pls help!
    Thnx! Cupcake x
    PS Im 14 (nearly 15) & hes my 1st bf, so maybe its just that Im not used to being in a relationship?! I dont want to break up with him, cos hes really sweet and nice...

    It really is not a matter of what your friends think or of how attractive someone is; if you like this boy and want to continue being in a relationship with him then follow your heart and not your friend's comments and give this boy a chance. If your friends continue to speak to you about him then simply let them know it would not do for us all to be attracted to the same person and that for you this boy is perfect.

  • (Part 1):
    Hey Vicki! So this guy in my class asked me out, I kind of knew he liked me because he'd said something to my brother a while ago. We were friends before he asked me out, so I said yes, but I didn't really fancy him when I said yes. Do you think it was wrong to do that?

    See my response in Part Two.

  • I HATE PADS!! They feel just like nappies and they never fit in my pants properly. I would use tampons or menstrual cups but I`m only 12 so my hymen hasn`t broken, I don`t masturbate because it hurts, so I`m scared that tampons will just really really hurt when I put them in!! is there any way I can break my hymen first without pain?? Sorry if inappropriate xx

    Firstly, the hymen is not broken but rather stretched over time so please don't feel you have to force anything inside your vagina if it is not yet ready. Secondly, I think you may find our Lil-Lets teens day and night pads are an ideal product for you to use as they are shorter and narrower than other brands, whilst still being just as absorbent.

  • Im in year 9 and am on the swimming team. I have asked to quit and the person in charge is a male teacher, he said i can but we have a swimming gala this week and he wants me to do it. I've tried to say no and ive come on my period and dont know how to use tampons yet. Ive already been prescribed medication for the pain a few months ago. How can i tell him, HELP!!😭😁❀️

    If you feel you cannot take part in this gala then let him know you would prefer to quit immediately, yes he may be a little disappointed, but if he presses you for more information then I see no reason why you cannot let your mum call him and let him know your reason for declining his offer.

  • I just turned 12 I've had breast buds for 2 years.
    Discharge for about 1 and a few months and pubic hair for around 2 years. My armpit hair isn't really noticble so I doubt have much in either words. My boobs are tiny and I think I'm 30aa(measured myself). I really want A bra even if I don't really need one. Hiw do I ask my mum?How soon will my period be? When will I get armpit hair? Hierarchy canI tell my mum I want to shave my legs? They're quite hair sorry for so many questions.

    Firstly, with so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find your period is not too far away..maybe even this year. As for under arm hair, this varies from person to person with some people never noticing hair growth in this area. If you want to wear a bra then have a chat to your mum and ask her how old she was when she got her first bra and I am sure this will move the question quickly over to you and if you now feel ready. Finally, depending on how old you are, you really should get the permission of your mum before shaving, so maybe ask her how old she was when she first started doing this too.

  • Hi Vicky
    I started my period quite early and I know that none of my friends at school havent started yet, so it is hard to tell them that I have already started whaen nobody else has. I am really scared that they might tell everyone. Also I only use pads and it is hard to find a time to chane at school because most of the girls hang around the toilerts and its hard to get in there and change easily. I would like to use tampons but im not sure how to ask my mum about it. Pelease reply. Amy xxx

    Hi Amy, for the first few periods you have pads will be suitable and then once you are used to your flow you may want to move to a combination of both pads and tampons. With regard to your friends, there is no need to tell them your period has arrived if you do not wish to and then when you nip to the toilet they will not be wondering if you are changing your pad. Finally, you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads offer your longer protection as they can be worn for up to 8 hours.

  • hi Vicki,
    well im really not trying to boast but im mixed rased and in my year(year 8)boys love mixies. well I was playin dares and I got dared to let this boy touch my bum (boys also like big bums wich is lucky because I have a big bum :D) anyways I did the dare and I really enjoyed it, I feel like a sl*t :/ :'(

    People are attracted to someone for a great many different reasons and it is nice to know that people are attracted to us, so please don't feel you have done anything wrong or that these feelings are not normal. However, remember that whilst this was a bit of fun, being sexually intimate at your age is not appropriate.

  • Hi, I don't get on with my mum & her partner I have to look after my little sister who's 1 called A, my mum doesn't cook me and my sister dinner she leaves the house a state and expects me to cook clean and wash im only 16 myself and have my own baby called Eloise mums not abusive at all neither her partner but he's not exactly nice and friendly. My dad lives with his girlfriend and his new kids and hasn't kept in contact please don't feel sorry for me I just needed seone to chat to -Bonnie

    Hi Bonnie, I am sure if you have a chat to your mum about the workload of chores at home she will work something out with you so everyone does their share.

  • Hi I asked you about 4 days ago about this I shaved it off about November and then it grew back and has stopped but then started again before xmas and has now carried on now and im so annoyed about this. everyone says well It takes a while but it already had grown back and has now suddenly started again and I haven't shaved again only that once and I cant concentrate or even enjoy life! I dunno what this could be because its quite long down there and no stubbly bits I can see.

    Pubic hair does grow back even when removed, so if you have decided to remove the hair in this area then you should also be prepared to continue to do so from now on.

  • Hi Viki,
    I wiped my vagina the other day and lots of blood came out and I thought I was on my period, so I put on a pad but the next day there was no blood or the day after. Please help me I am so confused!?

    Some girls to find their first periods are very short, often lasting for just the day. My advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about in preparation for your next period's arrival.

  • I'm 16 and I'm pregnant I don't know who the dad is well I have an idea but I'm not 100% sure. I have just broken up with my boyfriend who's not the dad of the baby Im going to have the baby but not sure weather to put it up for adoption or keep it yet. I hate how now my life's going to change and I'm never gunna get a normal life a teen should have. I live at home with my mum she knows but hasn't really spoke since and I just feel so alone 😭

    Why not ask your mum if you can have a chat about the situation you now find yourself in and take the opportunity to share with her any concerns or questions you may have. You may also find your local Family Planning Clinic may be helpful in offering you some guidance with this matter.

  • Ok I just found out today that my mum has payed another instalment and I'm so angry with myself for not telling her about not wanting to go on that Italy trip. I would never tell a teacher and it's not that I don't get on with my mum I just don't want to waste money or make her worried. πŸ˜•I don't no what to do and I feel upset everydayπŸ˜•

    I really cannot offer you any different advice than I have in your previous questions, in as much as you must speak to someone; your mum or teacher and the sooner the better. You will feel so much better once you do.

  • How long does it take before questions are deleted?

    Questions are never deleted.

  • Hi, I have recently been chatting to a boy in my year a lot, we have two lessons together and he always talks to me and is really nice. I like him but he is very tall compared to me and whenever we walk to our lesson together I feel embarrassed at how short I am . He said he likes me but is waiting to ask me out for a bit just to make sure we are both serious. I just feel so emanate asked about how short I am compared to himπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’ž

    Your height does not appear to worry this boy and he seems to like you very much and is being sensible about dating in the future, so please try not to worry, we are all different and if you walk with confidence you will find your height is totally unimportant to anyone.

  • I have had discharge for a really long time ; I am only 10 years old is my period going to come soon?

    Discharge is always a good sign that your period is not too far away, so why not have a chat with your mum and ask her if she can pick you up some supplies of our Lil-Lets teens range when she is next out shopping in preparation.

  • I have really heavy periods that last for 9 days. Ive only had 2 but they are really heavy and last for a long time. Why is that????

    A period can last for between 2-10 days and this is very normal.  With regard to your flow, this can vary from person to person and you may find over time this changes.

  • hi vicki! :)
    so at school my old bffs friends have started to bully me and I don't know what to do they have spread rumours about me saying I'm mean and stuff and they always shout my name and then hide the other day when I was in sainsburys the all lined up and tried to shove me. please help I don't know what to do and I've lost loads of friends because of it
    please reply it's urgent
    thanks!!!

    You must speak to your family and teachers about this matter as this is a very nasty form of bullying and intimidation and needs to stop. You may also find my blogs on bullying useful too.

  • Why are my periods so heavy. Its my second one and both were really really heavy???

    There is not medical explanation as to why periods can be heavier for some people than others, we really are all different and by choosing a qood quality pad or tampon from the Lil-Lets range you can be sure no matter how heavy your period is you will be protected from leakage.

  • I had tiny tiny red bits (lines) of what looked like blood in my clear discharge today is that normal? I'm not on my period for another 14 days though so it isn't my period

    Periods can be irregular with both long and short gaps between each one and this could still be your period, just arriving a little earlier on this occasion.

  • Hey vicki
    Im 5ft 3 and I'm 9st and my belly is really fat and I want to get rid of it especially because I want to wear nice clothes this summer rather then trying to hide my fatness like I did last summer. I try to not eat so much chocolate/sweets but I crave them so much so I give in and eat heaps of chocolate/sweets and then I feel sad and annoyed at myself cause I know it will just make me even more fat! What should I do?

    When you feel peckish, drink a glass of water, or go for a walk, dance in your bedroom, or even skipping in the garden. These are little tips that lots of people do when they feel a craving for food.

  • I have been getting some clear stuff in my pants is that normal? I started my period a while back by the way

    Yes, this is discharge and is often noticed in between periods and is your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • on ur website i was looking at the pads and then at the starter pack, it said RRP: Β£3.99 but i thought they were free?

    Our sample packs are free of charge, but our Starter packs are sold in stores all over the UK and contain more than one sample of our products.

  • I don't want to be inappropriate but my labia minora sticks out. Please answer I'm kinda terrified

    As we develop our bodies change in both shape and size and even colour and you will notice these changes to your vulva too, which your labia form part of, so please don't worry this is all very normal and nothing to be worried about. The labia almost always grows and will protrude from the entrance to your vagina.

  • Hi I'm 13 and me and this boy who I used o go out with have been like kissing and I itouched his penis the outer day and it felt amazing then he touched me and it was amazing x
    CR
    Thanks

    I am sure you already know that this form of intimacy with a boy is unlawful and should be stopped immediately, so please refrain from this type of behaviour until you are 16 or over and legally old enough to be so intimate with another person.

  • what is masterbation

    Hi, why not read our section on Sexual Feelings under the Puberty tab for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I'm 13 going on 14 and I've had white discharge for about a year now, my boobs have developed quickly (even though they're quite small) and I was wondering when im going to start my period? I feel like it should happen some time soon

    Thanks :)

    It may arrive soon, especially as you have already noticed breast development and discharge, so my advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about in preparation.

  • Hi
    I have migraine and when I try to eat I feel so sick. What do I do? My mum is asking if im worrying about something but im not. By the way I have had this for three days... x

    If you have had a migraine for three days then you really should speak to your mum about this matter and she may decide to pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • HI VICKY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    I used to be anorexic and am now on my way back to health. My goal weight is 48kg and I now weigh 43kg. I'm 12 and i am 168cm tall. How many calories each day would you advise for now? And how many for when I'm back to normal? I just want to get a bit of a view of it, I just want to know how much Energy I need to put on and then to not loose again!
    THNX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    XXX

    This really is a matter for your doctor or dietician to decide as you have already been diagnosed with Anorexia and they will be working out a healthy eating plan just for you.

  • Hi im really worried because im not eating anything. I did have a migraine though

    Migraines can often leave their sufferers with a loss of appetite, so please try not to worry and if possible eat small meals that will keep you fulfilled without making you feel nauseous.

  • hi viki,its sky again ummm i was home alone with my brother the other day and he had his girlfiend over,i needed to talk to him so i knocked on the door but he didnt answer so i opend it and they where have "sex" he told me not to tell. i dont want to because he is 18 so it legal but my dad said he couldnt. idk what to do my brother is so nice and he would never tell my secrets what should i do? thnx,sky

    Hi Sky, why not have a chat to your brother and let him know that you feel pulled between him and your father and then take his advice on the matter.

  • Hey Vicki
    Just wondering I have been having really bad abdominal pains lately and discharge for 8 or 9 months don't know what the cramp is
    Thx πŸ’Ž

    These cramps are most likely caused by your reproductive organs maturing, because just like you grow taller and can see changes to your body externally, your internal organs will be growing and maturing too.

  • how much do 34c boobs usually weigh. im trying to lose a few pds but i would like to know how much my boobs weigh so i an subtract that. btw im almost 15

    That really would depend on the individual and is not something I can give you a figure for.

  • Hi vicki my name is scarlett I'm 17 I turn 18 in two days my boyfreind is 18 the problem is I like him a lot but I'm not sexually attracted to him anymore and I think I'm starting to like girls im sorry if this is inappropriate thank you

    If you no longer feel you want to be dating your boyfriend then you really should let him know that you would now prefer to be friends and hope he will understand. This will then allow you time to be single and find out where your sexuality lies and how you wish to proceed in the future with relationships, but there really is not rush to label yourself with any one sexual preference if you are unsure.

  • I asked a question but it wasn't answered, it also wasn't inappropriate, so I'll ask a different one.
    When you get your first period does every girl start with it irregular? Or do some people get it for the first time and then continuously for the rest of the months?
    Thanks. Flatsy :)

    If your question was not inappropriate then I would have answered it so maybe take a look at the Q&A section and see if it is there. In answer to this question, it really is a mixed bag, some girls are regular immediately and stay this way, others are regular for a few years and then find they become irregular in their late teens  and others can take several years to form a regular pattern. We really are all different you see!

  • Why do I get discharge SINGLE day? I've only had my period twice a year ago

    Discharge can be noticed daily or every couple of days and can continue to be experienced throughout your teenage years. As for periods will they can be irregular with long gaps between each one and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • I binge all the time. I'm 13 in 3 months and I'm slightly overweight. you know not that kind of over weight that you would take any notice of but instead a couple of pounds over my bmi. I can't seem to stop binging and I do want to loose my slightly big stomach soooo bad.what do I do to stay motivated ? (I can't believe I'm actually eating nutella out of the jar whilst writing this)

    With so many wonderful foods in stores today it is very easy to binge especially when you get straight in from school and in the evening. Why not consider doing these two things; when you feel peckish, drink a glass of fizzy water or dance or run on the spot for 10 minutes, this should take your mind of food and keep you fit too.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm in year 8 and I was wondering -do I have the right to refuse to sign something in my school if I don't wish to without refusing any sanctions. I mean I probably wouldn't refuse but just incase.So I can use this against them if they try to make me. And also is there any other peculiar rights I should know about being a young pupil ?

    This really does depend on what you are being asked to sign and by whom. But as a general rule any documents relating to school that require a signature should be signed by your parents as they are your legal guardians.

  • Hi Vicki! I have a huge Mega crush on this guy and turns out he likes me too and we talk allll the time and he thinks I'm pretty and he's always so sweet to me but he told me himself that he's just out of a relationship and not ready for a new one but I can't stop thinkin about him! What should I do?!

    As it is clear he likes you then I see no reason why you cannot be good friends and see what happens in the future. Very often girls feel that dating someone is very different to being friends, when in reality it should change very little, so get to know this boy and try not to rush into anything.

  • hey Vicki,
    well basically im 12 and ive just started developing boobs. about 2-3 months ago I started noticing a whitish beigish colourd substance in my underwear. I havnt started my periods yet. I it discharge? I get it nearly everyday. is this normal?
    ~Q~ XX

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives and this is usually within 6-12 months.  It is normal for discharge to vary in colour, consistency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • I usually on get discharge once a day and the past couple of days I keep getting it twice a day? What's that mean?

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for your discharge to vary in amount, colour and consistency throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicky, I got my first period ever today and this might be innapropriate but it smelled SO BAD i think my flow is pretty light so i was just wearing a liner so maybe that was why. What can i use to make it not smell?

    You might like to try using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I was wondering, could you tell me my bra size?
    It's 28 inch. Under and 31 inch. Over
    Thank you a lot

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Bra size please?
    28 and 32 inch.

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Can you please tell me my bra size?
    Under - 28 inches
    Over - 32 inches
    Thanks

    Your bra size is a 32AA with those measurements.

  • Hi Vicky I am over weight and 13 is that going to effect when I will get my first period?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and if you think you're al little overweight, you might like to consider trying a healthy balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables.  Try to avoid foods that are high in fat or sugar and drink plenty of water.  By doing these things and by trying to be as active as possible, you will maintain a healthy weight.

  • I know I can fit into a underwire bra but my mom keeps buying me these training bra type things and my friends all way make fun of me when I'm changing because I don't wear a "real bra" I want some new ones but we just went bra shopping like in September and I don't want to make it seem weird. Please help me :(

    You have to respect your mum's wishes and if she thinks you're not ready for an underwired bra just yet, try to be patient and wait for the time when you are.

  • Hi , so I had my period on new years and it ended on the 6th but lately I've been getting really strong cramps but I'm worried its my period because I have school tomorrow and my school toilet is filthy and smelly , has no hot water or soap. Ugh. Also I'm kinda scared of it. And last time i had it in school somebody headed my pad wrapper open and i cud hear them say Haha she's on ger period . we go tell everyone so theyll laugh...
    I dont want to deal with it at school. Help asap

    First of all, try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so you're not alone in experiencing this.  Secondly, if your school toilets are dirty and do not have hot water or soap, you should ask your parents or guardians to call the school and Board of Governors to complain as this is unacceptable.  When people laugh at you being on your period, I would ignore them as every girl has them.  If you appear to be untroubled by what they say, they will soon get bored and please remember that every other girl will be having their periods too.

  • Sorry if this is inappropriate,
    What age were you when you :got a bra, started your period, had sexual intercourse?
    Also, please answer these three questions for your children(if they apply)
    Thank you for you help
    Kagieba xx

    Hi Kagieba, some of these questions are very personal, so I will respond to the ones I feel comfortable to share. My first period arrived when I was 14 and I was fairly late to puberty and remember my first bra was around my 13th birthday.  My daughters started their periods at the ages of 14 and 16 respectively.

  • There is something I'm a little worried about. Sorry if inappropriate. Well I am straight and never had feelings for a girl before, but like if I'm sent a dick pic it kinda disgusts me and is a huge turn off. But with a girl it's kinda different
    Please reply
    I'm fourteen btw x

    This is nothing to worry about and just because you do not find the aesthetics of the penis attractive it does not mean your sexuallity has changed and very often females find images of other females attractive.

  • Hi vicki,
    Why is it when girls are on a period it lasts on adverage a week, why doesn't the blood come out all at once?
    Xx

    For more help in understanding why this happens, please check out our video on The Monthly Cycle.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 13 years old, and my boyfriend is asking me if I want to have sex, I want to, I feel ready. But we won't let our parents or anybody know, I am scared of someone finding out, thanks, RMC x

    Hi, firstly it is my duty to inform you that it would be illegal for your boyfriend to be sexually active with you in anyway as you are under 16 and regardless of whether you feel ready or not, this is the law in this country and should be adhered to at all times. So please have a chat to him letting him know that this is not something either of you should be considering and if he cares for you he will wait until you are legally old enough to be sexually active.

  • Hi I'm josie
    I was wondering about something many people have told me about wearing under wired bras before your boobs have fully developed
    Is it true it has any effect on development or can increase your chances of breast cancer?
    Btw I'm fourteen and does that mean that my boobs have fully developed?

    There is no truth in this so please try not to worry.  As for your breasts, development can continue up until a girl's late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi vicki a couple of moths ago I said what does
    It mean if you get red spots and you said it may of been my
    Period and after that it came again then I just got discharge
    So do think it is my period ? It only lasted 1 day and I dint get it then is it because I only just started ?


    Please answer as soon as possible xxx

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hi vikki. I am 13, I have had discharge for about 2 years now, my boobs are size 32B, I have wide hips, and all the other signs of my period being due to start but I still haven't started. Lately I haven't been feeling too well and I have been craving chocolate, I don't if that is a myth. I think I'd better get some pads but I not sure how to ask my mum for some.please help. From Lu xxx 😳

    Hi Lu, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  As for talking to your mum about needing some pads, you might like to ask for her permission to request a free sample of our teens range by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the home page of this website and filling in your details.

  • hey Vicki, i want my first period are there any ways in which i can make it come quicker?

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to make your period arrive any quicker but the best way of knowing when it might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Is their an average boog Size for girls any age? Not that its a big deal but I'm a 32b is this normal.... Sorry if its an awkward way to put it.....p.s. I'm 13 in a week!!! Thank you!!

    There is no such thing as an average breast size for a 13 year old girl as they are all different. 

  • Hi Vicki! It's Leah again :) I was just wondering if lil-lets had a INSTAGRAM page? If so, what's it called? X

    Hi Leah, I'm afraid Lil-Lets do not have an Instagram page.

  • Ive been having discharge for a year and heavy sticky slightly brown discharge since november.
    I have corse pubic hair, wide hips ,32 a breasts, 5 foot 7, 9 and a half stone (60 kg i think)im 13 neally 14.
    Can you give me an estimation for when my period will start?
    Ps my mums breasts are 34b she says my breasts will be bigger than hers because she only started growing them at 16 and she had her period around then too. So will i have larger breasts then my mum.
    Many thanks
    stacey

    Hi Stacey, brown discharge can often present itself as a period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads.  As for the size of your breasts, you will simply have to wait and see as we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hey i have a boyfriend and we havent kissed yet and he really wants to but im really scared to what should i do?

    If you are not yet ready for your first kiss then let your boyfriend know you do not want to be rushed into this and generally a first kiss is something that comes naturally and is not planned in. You may also find my blog entitled First Kiss useful too.

  • Hi, I got my first period last month and it was three days of very light bleeding, i got my period again this month and it was two weeks of very heavy painful bleeding. Is this normal?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hiya viki I am 12 and I have been dumped by this boy who I really liked and I still do I don't know what to do should I tell him I still have feeling ???? Also the reason why we broke up was cause we didnt talk that much but it's always weired wen i tried to so how can I fix. Pls help from me xx thanku

    Take this time to get to know this boy all over again as a friend and who knows if you chat on a friends only basis you may both just realise that you are meant to be a couple in the future.

  • DEAR Vicki,
    I am now 16 and I have never had a boyfriend and i have not got any best friends. Other than my family, i feel alone in the world. I have friends but they are not close to me because they don't include me in their plans. I always feel down and unwanted. I would really like to gain those teenage experiences that people expect. People say that secondry school are the best years of your life. Well so far they aren't for me and I don't want to feel like I am wasting my Youth. Please help xx

    Hi, why not read my blogs entitled Fitting In, Keeping and Making Friends and Walk Tall with Confidence, you will quickly see that you are not alone in your thinking but by taking the time to chat to people you will soon start to feel better about school.

  • Hi Vicky

    I was wondering if you had any tips on getting a boyfriend. I am twelve by the way

    As you're only 12, why not consider getting to know boys as friends rather than boyfriends by just being yourself.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had a crush on this guy for almost five years. It sent him an invite for a convert on Instagram. I just read his response :Anyways I don't want to talk to you, so I am unfollowing and I think it would be best you should unfollow me to. Also I recently discovered I have anxiety and frequently have panic attacks. I have absolutely no idea what to to do or what to make of it. Please please please help me. Thank you so much. X

    I think you should move on and forget about this boy and remember that crushes often fade anyway.  There is plenty of time for you to meet someone who wants to talk to you so please don't waste your time on him.  As for your panic attacks, many young girls feel anxious during puberty and this is caused by the massive emotional and physical changes they are undergoing all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so please do things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends as this will help you

  • hi so I'm 13 in a month and have been getting discharges for about a year and a half but still not had my period I've began puberty and my breasts have bud i don't really know anything could you help?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Last night I woke up to a really itchy vagina and I got it before when I used a bath bomb and my mum gave me some thrush cream I used it and then this morning it had gone it's now come back and my discharge has got thicker and my vagina is swollen am I right to use an anti fungal thrush cram?

    Bath bombs and fancy soaps can often cause an imbalance in the vagina which might then lead to thrush but anti-fungal creams work wonders in clearing it up. 

  • Hey^.^ i am 17 and scared. i dont really know who I am or how to act around people! I have many friends but am always worried if they secretly dont like me! I have trust issues and hate everything about myself:/ im pretty and outgoing and get lots of boy attention but none are my type:/ im starting to wonder what is wrong with me. Atm i seem all about status rather than who i actually am, and its got to the point i dont know how to be me anymore because i have been acting for too long help? Thankyou xx

    During puberty it is very normal to wonder about how you are perceived by others and this will pass in time I can assure you. For now, be nice to yourself, every morning look in the mirror and tell yourself how great it is to be you and don't worry too much about what other people think or if you have not yet found someone you are attracted to, there really is no rush and this confidence will come in time.

  • Hi Vicki, I started my perid about three, maybe four, months ago but I have only had it for the first two, I am a bit concerned why my periods have stopped and I was hoping that maybe you could enlighten me? xx

    Thanks! β™‘

    Periods are very often irregular with gaps of several months between each one being noticed during your teenage years, so please try not to worry this is very normal.

  • What are your new year reseloutions?🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌🌌

    I am going to try and read a book a month and my son has given me a collection of five to get me going. I am also going to try and find some more time for myself to visit places I have always wanted to visit.

  • Hi:) im 17 (nearly 18) and im very confused because I like all the guys that treat girls meanly...I can't deal with the soppy lovey dovey guys:/ eg. this guy said i was the prettiest girl in college to my bestfriend (he is not my type at all) and i was like, ew nah dont say that man- i dont know why im like this - yet i love the guys that tease me:// i am a tomboy & flirt with guys a lot, but the moment they say im beautiful- my feelings are turned off - please help thankyou xx

    It would not do for us all to like the same people or the things that make them special so I really don't think you need to worry, when the right person comes along you will know and I am sure passion will be there.

  • Hey:) i am 17 and really dont want a boyfriend, i mean i do but i disike the whole 'commitment':/ i have really highstandards/hard to find where i live etc- black haired, tattoos, pierced emo boys;) i am really scared and have serious trust issues and im very self concious!! Do you think im choosing these boys because they are difficult to find so avoid liking anyone! have no confidence sexually and even if i start to like them- the moment they like me I suddenly back off? Thankyou so much<3

    I think when the right person comes along things will feel very differently for you and for now I really would not worry too much about this, lots of people now wait until their twenties before they consider dating.

  • im 13 and im getting lots of headaches and stomach aches but ive not started my period yet, ive tried talking to my mum about it and googling it but im still not sure can you help me out on what might be happening?

    Lots of girls get tummy cramps before their first period arrives but not as a rule headaches and you may find that these headaches are being caused by lack  of hydration, so please consider drinking more during the day, if this does not help then have a chat to your mum and share your concerns with her.

  • Hi Vicki
    Heather again!
    i got a padded bra today becuse i told my mam about your site and she got me measured and i got my first padded bra so thank you for all your support!x
    (Note to other girls who want a pdded bra when your shopping pick up a lightly pdded bra nd ask could you try it on.
    i reccomend marks and spencers angel range as their suitable for first bras.

    Hi Heather, thanks for the great advice.

  • Hello viki,
    I am 12 years of age and my friends were proper bra even though I have bigger boobs and still I were crop topsπŸ˜” it's quite annoying because I have ask mum but she just got me bigger crop tops and I am a football goalie (i live in the UK) so every time someone makes a shoot I stretch and my crop tops goes up and it's kind of embarrassing in the changing room cuz i am the only one who where's a crop top but I'm scared to ask plz helpπŸ˜”
    Thnx gabby

    Hi Gabby, why not have a chat to your mum about a sports bra as this will keep you supported when in goal.

  • Can you recommend any books or magazines helping with puberty? Thx, Siena x

  • I've had discharge for a couple months now and a couple days ago a found a fairly large amount of brown discharge in my underwear. I wore pads for 2 days but then the brown discharge stopped and I've had none since. Was this a period?

    Yes this could be your period, especially if you have noticed the fluid for a few days.

  • the fuller part of my bust is 76cm but under is 70cm and so it's not on the chart. what bra will fit me?

    32A is your size based on these measurements.

  • Is it normal to start getting pubic hair but no underarm hair at 12 years old?

    This is the same for lots of girls and is nothing to be worried about. Some people have very little or no under arm hair even once puberty has finished.

  • I'm a ballet dancer. My nipples poke through my shirts and leotard. I'm thirteen. I want a padded bra so that my nipples don't poke but then my boobs look bigger. I'm a 32a. To be a professional ballerina you can't have boobs. Is there any way to make my chest look smaller

    A soft cup bra may be suitable so why not have a chat to your mum take her advise.

  • Hi Vicky
    I have not had my period yet and I'm 13 but I got some brown discharge in my pants for only one day what is going on?
    Thank you πŸ’œ

    This could be your period or even residue from waste food not wiped away thoroughly. Why not wait and see if any more fluid is lost over the next few days and then share this with your mum.

  • I had my period for 4 days yesterday I didn't leak at all today I saw blood all over my undies what is happening .

    Very often even when we think our period is ended a little bit more blood is lost over the next few days, so it is always advisable to keep some liners in your pants for a few days just in case.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have varying amounts of discharge and wonder if I should wear liners or not? I have heard they can give you infections ! Is that true? I have also had discharge for 1 1/2 years but I don't have much much under arm hairs and a relatively small bust( 32 aa) does this mean I am close to my periods or not? I have made a kit just i case with some liners and some lil lets pads! Thank you for all the info you have given me.
    Issy xxx

    Hi Issy, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Pant liners will not cause infections so please try not to worry as they are great for keeping you feeling fresh and clean down there.  Thank you for your words of support.

  • I know this probably isn't true but I saw on the internet that if when on your period if you clean up as much blood as possible with a tissue or something when you go to the toilet or change your pad or tampon for example you will have a heavier flow because the blood will just try and replace itself. Is this true?
    Love Katie xxx

    Hi Katie,  no this is completely untrue.

  • Hi vicki
    Will being hit anywhere during puberty effect your puberty. If so where?

    I think you would need to be more specific as girls are often being hit accidentally in the breasts and are worried that their breast development will be affected but this is not true so if this is the case, try not to worry.

  • Dear Vicki im 16 and I'm boyfriend wants to have SEX but I'm not ready (sorry if this bit is i appropriate) he has fingered me lots of times is this bad? Please reply

    If you are not ready to be intimate with your boyfriend then please let him know and if he truly cares for you he will understand and wait.

  • A few months ago i asked if i could get a sample of the adult range, but you said that u don't do samples of that anymore. Would you mind if i asked for the teens range of samples instead or would that make me seem... weird?

    Our teens range has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls so if you are still interested and are under 16, ask for your mum's permission to request a free sample from us by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the home page of this website.

  • I am 12 and my breasts have Been really pointy for the last 8-12mknths when will they start to fill out ?

    Thanks holly

    Hi Holly, breasts can often appear pointy or triangular during development and generally become fuller in your later teenage years.

  • Hi Vicki I'm going to call myself g so I was in the shower as usual I masturbated and found a little drop of blood gooey on my finger do you think this could have been my period by any chance I only stuck my finger up the v please answer asap from g 😳

    Hi G, it could be your period or you may have accidently cut your skin when inserting your finger. If it is your period then it is most likely you will  notice more fluid over the next few days, if it is a cut, then like anywhere on the skin ti will heal very quickly

  • Hi Vicki if u are on a period do u have to wear a tampon in the bath

    No, not at all and this is very often the time when people take a break from wearing sanitary protection of any kind.

  • All my friends have Facebook I want it how do I persuade her to say yes

    If you are under 13 then you should not open a Facebook account and I am sure your parents are keen to keep you safe and within the guidelines of Facebook.

  • Hi Vicki,
    ............
    I am currently on my period and I usually have them quite heavy, but today A LOT came out at one point, then it was normal for the rest of the day. By a lot I mean enough to fill my tampon that I had put in about 30 minutes ago and come out around the tampon. Once I took the tampon out, so so much blood came out, including a big clump of it. I know it's kind of gross but I want to know why this happened? It would be really helpful if you could answer, thanks.
    ............

    This does happen from time to time and it may be that for your heavier days you need to switch to a higher absorbency, switching back down to a lower absorbency when the flow becomes lighter.

  • Hey I'm 14 and basically I have had discharge for 2 & half years and it's always soaks my pants completely. I am 34b and have been very emotional and moody for at least 5 months! My nan and mum started there period when they was 10 and I was just wondering if I'm going to start my period soon?! πŸ’•

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicky, I have been writing to you a few times now and you haven't replied to me yet. Well..Every day before school I have a headache and I feel sick. I cannot have breakfast. There has been a few times where I have been sick and it's awful. What should I do? Thanks, S xx

    Ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • I'm 15 and I masterbate quite a lot but I'm not sure if when I'm older and I lose my viginity will the boy think I'm not a virgin im really confused

    A virgin is someone who has not yet had sexual intercourse and masturbation is not linked to this one little bit.

  • Hi. My mums always so negative towards me. I am a horse rider and I want to pursue a career in it and she's always saying I'll never get into it and it's a rubbish pay. But I don't care about money, I care about doing something I enjoy! I showed her a pic of when I first started riding and now, I meant as in my position has definitely improved. And she goes "There's no difference in you, your position is still bad." Why is she so negative to me and not my siblings?

    It may be that your mum is concerned for your future and wants to ensure that you make the right choice. I would suggest you have a little chat with her and let her know that you feel hurt when she speaks to you in a negative way and that you would like some support and see if together you can work out several different careers you may be interested in as it pays to keep your options open.

  • Hi, Im 13 and I got my period in September 2014 it was super light and lasted 3 days! I have only had two since then and have been super heavy and have lasted 7/8 days i only get tiny cramps every now and again and felt like I was going to be sick on my last two! Is this normal? And is there anything I can do to make them less heavy as I do lots of dance and it just gets so annoying having to change my tampon every 2 hours !

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. It is also fairly common to feel nauseous during your period and eating healthy snacks such as oat bars, nuts or fruit will help you feel unwell.

  • Hi vicki,
    So a boy in my class just told me he has a crush on me. But i dont have a crush on him. Hes a great friend and all, hes really nice, but im not really into boys, i like girls. And im already with someone. How can i tell him without disappointing or upsetting him. I still want to be friends.

    Thanks. Emily.πŸŽ€

    Just be as honest and diplomatic as possible in telling your friend that you aren't attracted to him but do value his friendship.

  • hi vicky, i have a boyfriend and im only 11 but ages ago he asked me out ,and i said yes then as u do you kiss but since then he hasnt been showing much intrest in me how do i ask him if we are still together? love emma xx

    Hi Emma, as you're only 11, you shouldn't really be too concerned with having a boyfriend just yet as there is plenty of time when you're older for this.  Why not concentrate on having fun with your friends and family for now?

  • Hi vicki

    I'm 16 at still at school I lost my mum in a bad car accident last month before Christmas. I had sex with my boyfriend but then he dumped me he has just used me for sex but now I think I'm pregnant.i really need my mum at these time I tried speaking to my sister and a teacher but they both never did anything to help me please help
    Love Samantha x

    Hi Samantha, I would suggest you contact your local Brook Advisory Centre or local  familly planning clinic who will be able to help you identify if you are pregnant and also advise you on who and where to go to for support when dealing with the loss of your mum and of course you can always come and visit me on the website too.

  • Hey Vicki
    There's this boy in my classes and he sometimes stares at me. When he talks to me he always teases me and in ep he was poking my arm to get my attention then when I turn round he teases me. Does he like me?

    Thnx
    Cat ^_^ xxx

    Hi Cat, I would say that yes this boy does like you and is trying to get your attention.

  • Hi Vicki, on January 15 2015 I got my first period. I got home and noticed it in my undies and when I went to the bathroom, it was brown, dry and not a lot of it. The next day I had put a panty liner in and it was about the same amount as before. Then following day, it looked really light; my discharge was slightly brown but that was it. I am not sure if it's over yet but I'm going swimming with my friend and I don't know if I should wear a tampon- I don't really want to. I need know soon if it's over.?12

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  As your menstrual flow is very light, you might get away with swimming without having to use a tampon just yet but when your menstrual flow becomes established and you've experienced a few periods, you might feel ready to try using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use.

  • Hi vicki...
    On my vest...my noticed a strange cream blob where my nipple would be. What is this? And is it normal?
    Also...I have pubic hair, armpit hair, discharge( I think) and spots. Do u think I will start my period this year???
    Also when I masturbate... My carina gets what and produces this wierd clear liquid what is that????
    Please please please PLEASE REPLY
    I am 12

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty.  It is generally caused by an increase in hormones or tight-fitting clothing.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicky!
    I'm 13 years old an have noticed my boobs are rather smaller then most of my friends.
    I had i guess you could call it a eating disorder in a way when i was in year 5/6 were i basically went skinner an was never really that hungry.
    I still am quite skinny now but my eating is much better,I was just wondering if that might of had an effect on my boob growth?
    I also started my period for the first time last week so will that speed up the process?
    Thanks!

    First of all, well done you for eating better.  Starting your period is a sure sign that you're getting there and it is possible that you will notice more breast development too but remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and our bodies are all made in different shapes and sizes so try not to worry as breast development can continue up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you still have plenty of time. 

  • Dear Vicki
    Hi my name is Kayla and I'm in year 8. Everyone in my year wears a bra or a crop top but my mum wont buy me any she says a vest is fine. Some of the girls fling bra straps and when they realized I dont wear one they started to make fun of me. When I run they jiggle but my mums says im not ready yet please help me also I've had really light brown discharge in my underwear and it spells I don't think its my period though what is it.

    Hi Kayla, why not ask your mum if she would consider buying you a training bra which are unstructured and allow you to get used to wearing one.  Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi
    im almost 12 years old . my mom got hers at 12.Ive already got loads of the signs. when will I get it. and how do I ask my mom for your teen towels or starter kit, xx

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and try not to feel embarrassed talking to your mum about wanting some products as she was a young girl going through puberty once.  You might like to ask for her permission to request a free sample of our teens range by completing your details by clicking on the Contact tab found at the bottom of the home page of this website.

  • What is my bra size if I am 28 band and 30 bust. Also I'm 16 is my bra size too small?

    Your bra size is a 32AA and this is a perfectly normal size for you.

  • Is it okay if I show my mum this site?

    Absolutely yes.

  • Hi Vicki, im really confused with the measuring so please help me out. under :66 cm,fullest:74 cm.

    Your bra size is a 30AA with those measurements.

  • I have no idea what size my boobs are i have tried 28 A wayyyyy too tight and no cups. Then 30 A still tight and 32 AA and the cups are too baggy I need a padded bra though otherwise my nipples show! Any help? C

    If you can get hold of a measuring tape, measure all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again over your bust at the fullest point.  Record both of these measurements and then come back to me and I will be able to do a bra sizing calculation for you.

  • Hi Vicki I really want a padded bra all of my friends have one and they don't even really need one and I definitely do! I asked my mum but she said absolutely not. I keep on asking her but she always says no! Should I stuff? Because my nipples always stick out of training bras and everyone can see it. From Charlie C xx

    Hi Charlie, you really must respect your mum's wishes as she will know when you are ready for a padded bra.

  • Hi Vicky I really like this boy and I think he likes me but one time I asked him if he like me back and he said no but we were in front of alot of people. He always stares and smiles at me too. How do I ask him in private if he likes me back he knows I like him BTW 😍 LOVE FROM C

    Hi, rather than ask him outright if he likes you, which may be embarrassing for him, consider chatting and being friends and if and when this boy feels comfortable he will let you know how he feels....there really is no rush.

  • how do you feel normal if you have a heavy period?

    Heavy periods are quite common and it can take a while for you to get used to managing them.  Why not consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock pads as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand?  When you feel ready, you might like to try tampons as they are more discreet than pads.

  • Hello all my friends at school keep saying gettiing wet what does this mean plz get back to me love from

    SILLYNIJA

    I really do not know what your friends mean, it could be they are discussing discharge or alternatlively the term 'wet' can sometimes be used to describe when someone is sexually aroused.

  • hi vicki, im 11 and have had my period already. im not sure if I should use pads or tampons?? but I dont like changing everytime??

    We recommend that you first experience 5 or 6 periods before you try using tampons as this will give you time to get used to your flow. 

  • Hi Vicki,
    It's Chloe again.... I was wondering since my breasts hurt ( I'm 12 by the way ) should I wear a bra instead of crop tops??

    Hi Chloe, it is normal to notice tender, sore breasts with development but it up to you if you are comfortable wearing a crop top or you might like to consider a training bra.

  • When will my period arrive??

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • hi, I got my period a few days ago and im 11, it ended already. but im not sure what pads would be right for me.

    As you're 11, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Day or Night pads as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies for young girls.

  • Hi vicky, I asked you a question about my health but you have not replied yet. (Sorry if I am being pesturing you) But I just want you to tell me what I can do to prevent this. Thanks. S x

    If you have asked me a question and it was not inappropriate then it will have been answered, so why not place a word that was in your question into our Keyword Search and I am sure you will find my answer.

  • Hi Vicky , thank you for answering my question a few days ago it really helped me . I wanted to let you know that I'm not sure if I have started my period yet because I have had brown stuff coming out instead of discarge is this my period because I have had it for about 3 days now and have been wearing pads just incase it is x - ohmystars x

    Hi Ohmystars, this is your period so try not to worry and be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads. 

  • Hey Vicki, Today (18th Jan) when I woke up I had a tiny smear of really light brown discharge, surrounded by the coloured discharge I usually have(white) I told my mum and she said it was my period and gave me some pads. But the thing is, I`ve not had anymore of this discharge or any blood at all since. I have pubic and armpit hair and I`m a 34b (but my boobs have been growing and really sore recently? is this my period?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I'm almost 14 and I went to marks and Spencer's to get measured for a bra and they said I was a 30dd to a 32d but whenever I measured myself using guides it said I was a 30b or 32aa. So I'm confused as to what's happened? And what size I am.

    This is why we always recommend that when you go bra shopping, you try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    About a month ago I found brown discharge in my knickers, it was only there for a day so now I have no clue whether I have started my period or not! Please help because I'm really worried. I'm 12 and have all the signs of puberty but I'm very confused!!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey, I started my period a few days ago, I still haven't had another one though. And, how do I tell my mum because 2years ago I thought I started my period but it wasn't and it was really awkward so I cant really tell her again, what if she doesn't believe me?


    ~Adalia

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hiya, I'm 14 years old and started puberty but not my period. I have had terrible back pain latly and sharp stomach cramps and a little bit of brown stuff in my undies yesterday and when I wiped. However today I have completely nothing there but another stomach cramp was that my period? I'm really confused and hope you can help :(

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • hey Vicki,

    This is my last year of school and I have prom this year, basically one of my friends had planned how we were getting there. But I have another group of friends who I hang out with and I already planned to go with them. I then messaged my friend telling her I was going with the friends I hang out with, but now she wont talk to me and I sit next to her in a lot of lessons. I don't know what to do!!!

    Thank you for all advice you have already helped me with.

    It would be a good idea to let your friend know that you are sorry if she is upset but that you had already accepted an invitation to go to the prom from your other friends and do not feel it would be right to let them down. Maybe there will be room for her to in the transport so why not find out if tihs is possible.

  • Hi Vicky
    It's SuperSnail again
    I was wondering if it's normal to like about three people at a time.
    Because I kind of like L, B and E (let's call them) at a time
    Pls help

    Hi Supersnail, it's fine to like more than one person and by getting to know all three of them over time I am sure you will find the perfect person for you.

  • Hi Vicki Heather again im going bra shopping today an im getting a bra with a little bit of padding thanks to you!
    thanks for all your help!
    waz wondering do you hve a incline when my period might arrive? Hair:underarm and vagina hair very dark.
    Discharge: about a year yesterday i got a tiny spot of blood on my liner i told my mam and she said thats ok.
    also i measure myself yesterday using your chart and it says im a 30B! im wearing a 32A!
    heres my measurements under:73 or74 bust:83 Thx Heather x

    Hi Heather, I cannot give you an exact date for the arrival of your period, but with so many signs already noticed I am sure it is not far away. As for your bra size, as you visiting the store today I am sure the assistant will find the correct size for you.

  • So this is the third month I've had my period and the first day I had it it was very very very heavy is it going to get heavier because I am sitting exams for up to 2hours and I can't concentrate properly with my period being that heavy! Please can you help me because I can't deal with it it's physically (with my cramps) and mentally trying to focus! I hate it so much! Please can you help me in some sort of way
    Megan x

    Hi Megan, it can take a while to get used to menstruation, but with the right product you should not need to feel anxious or worry and you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal or long pads are ideal for when you are in class for longer periods of time.

  • Hiya Vicky. Why can't you go swimming on your period without a tampon? Thanks.x

    If you are in the pool and menstruating then without a tampon there would be the possibility that blood would be released into the pool.

  • Hi viki
    My mum died last year and I now live with my dad.
    But I've recently started my period and I don't know how to tell my dad
    I've measured my boobs and done the guide and it turns out I'm 32C!!! And I don't wear bras
    How shall i tell my dad I need bras and my period has started.
    We're also low on money
    HELP
    THX LOVE FROM Summerβ˜€

    Hi Summer, firstly I am sorry for your loss and I am sure your dad will want what  is best for you and understand that girls of your age need things to help them manage puberty. Why not have a chat to some female members of your family such as a grandmother or aunt who will speak to your dad on your behalf.

  • hi im 16 and i have not had my first period but i have been having sex since i was 13 (protected) since i was 16 i had unprotected sex .
    am i PREGANT. thanks aila

    Hi Aila, it really would be impossible for me to say and I would  certainly suggest you consider seriously using contraception in the future and possibly taking a pregnancy test to ensure you are not currently pregnancy.

  • will drinking coffee make my period come faster. thxs viki


    from zalia

    Hi Zalia, there is nothing you can eat or drink that will make your period arrive any sooner than when your body is ready.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Something really disgusting just happened and I'm confused of what it is.
    I do competitive swimming and went off to the bathroom.
    I wear a one piece so obviously I had to take it off and there was this white discharge thing right where my boob is and I'm really scared. What is it?

    Very often during puberty there can be a little bit of fluid leakage from the nipple area and this can be the same for boys and girls and is all part of becoming a young adult.

  • hi Vicki, okay so I had a cream discharge for about a year now and about 3 days ago I noticed blood on my underwear when I used the bathroom. also when I wiped there was blood on the toilet paper. I've been wearing pads so I don't ruin my underwear. the blood is a brownish color and I want to know if this is my period or not. I haven't had cramps but my lower back was hurting. Im 14 and don't know what's happening. please help !!
    thanks, xoxo

    Yes this is your period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm confused about shaving and leg hairs. Most of my friends have started shaving (pretty much all of them) and by the sounds of what I've read girls start shaving when their leg hairs go dark that's when they start shaving but my leg hairs are still the colour of my hair (blonde) but they're also really long (most of them longer than a centimetre) and I'm starting high school in a week or so and I really want to start shaving but I don't know if I need to or not, PLEASE HELP!!!
    Thanks!

    As your leg hair is blonde, I wouldn't worry about shaving as nobody will be able to notice them even if they are long.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 10 I have my period. I'm in elementary school!! How do I change my pad/tampon without anyone noticing? Also I'm to scared to ask my mom about tampons what should I do??? Please respond!!!

    Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so you're not alone in this.  You might like to consider asking your mum to call your school and explain that your period has arrived and you will need to change your pads at certain times of the day - I'm sure the school will do their best to accommodate your needs so try not to worry.

  • I want to use tampons but how do I ask?????

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad

  • Hi Vicki,
    My period is so light I don't even need a pad there is only blood when i wipe but I really want to try tampons

    As your period is currently so light, I would forget about using tampons for now.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so leave it a while to see if your menstrual flow increases in time.

  • Hi Vicki what are symptoms of thrush? How can you get it/avoid it? And also how can you get rid of it?

    Thrush is easily identified by the presence of a thick, creamy discharge, a swollen irritated vagina and discomfort when urinating.  It can be treated easily by over-the-counter creams.

  • Hi vicki. Everday before I go to school I have a really bad headache. I cannot eat because I just feel so sick. There has been days where I have been sick and my attendance is low due to this. Can you give me any tips on what toddo please, thanks. S xx

    Please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • Hi vicki. To do a job like yours what dI'd u study at uni??
    Was it journalism? Would love to do that job in the future

    English Language, Human Biology, Computer Skills and experience in Consumer Relations are just a few things you should consider if you want to be an Agony Aunt.

  • hi vicki, so basically i've started having panic attacks again. i had my first ever one at school during my german class that all together lasted 3o minutes. the next day i had another one in english. i had to see my form teacher to sort everything out. I'm getting anxious over if she sorted stuff out ect... and I'm not sure what to do at school if i have one that lasts more than an hour. i don't really want more panic attacks at school since everyone asks. please help?

    If you encounter panic attacks and these have been diagnosed by your GP then have a chat to your parents who will most likely refer you back to your doctor for more counselling.

  • I'm confused. The boy I like smiled/pulled a funny face at me, just me, when he walked past me. He asked to work with me over his friend sat next to him. He said I was awesome and has nicknames for me. He shows me pictures of his family. He asked me to help him revise over his other friend. He also has a girlfriend... but I've NEVER seen them talking. It hurts me, should I tell him how feel? Does he like me?

    As this boy already has a girlfriend, you should move on and forget about him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been kind of messed up recently, I feel alone at school, my social anxieties are getting worse, I feel confused about the boy I like and I've rowed with my parents a lot... The boy has a girlfriend, but we're close friends and other have noticed it (get my point?) and he makes me so happy and I don't know how to tell him without making things awkward?
    Also, sometimes I cry myself to sleep other everything.

    Help, Lucy

    Hi Lucy, puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so it's no wonder that you feel anxious and confused.  Try to remember that none of this is your fault and talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will help.  As this boy that you like already has a girlfriend, you should respect this fact and simply be his friend.

  • Hey Vicki! So, I started my period 11th/12th June 2014 and I still haven't told my mother. I don't know what way to tell her and also she bought me pads and tampons to be prepared when I started my period and I ran out! Help please!

    Try to remember that periods are a natural event in every female's life so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed by it as your mum was also a young girl going through puberty once.  Check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad for more help with this.

  • My vagina is itchy,swollen and stings. I havent told anyone.

    If you have a thick creamy discharge and find it painful to urinate, you might have thrush which can be easily treated with cream from the chemist.  However, if there is no discharge, it is normal for your vagina to itch with pubic hair growth and development so try not to worry.

  • Vicki when does your voice turn to a lower voice?

    There is no set age as everyone is different and develops at their own rate.

  • I don't really know what size are my breasts I tried measuring it on this website but it's all very confusing and I do really want to go to a shop or a service to get them measured so I know what size of bra to get but I don't know how to tell my mom because we do talk about puberty and my body changing but she probably think the wrong idea as if I'm trying to show my boobs to others so please Vicky tell me how I can talk to my mom about this and I also want to know us a bra fit service free or not?

    Marks & Spencer offer a professional bra fitting service so why not ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment for you.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about needing a bra.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to mum & dad.

  • For the past year I've been getting really sweaty hands and sometimes feet. Mum said she'll take me to the doctor soon and I'm worried. What's causing me to sweat so much😳
    Thx✨

    It is normal to notice that a person's sweat glands produce more sweat during puberty which is why it is important to maintain a good standard of personal hygiene with regular bathing.  Your GP will be able to set your mind at ease so try not to worry.

  • Hi viki
    Plz can u reply ASAP
    I love this website
    From coco12311

    Thank you for your support Coco.

  • Hi VickiπŸ‘‹
    I am twelve and have a twin sister. She's more developed than me eg more pubic hair, fuller breasts and she's a 28A. I'm only a 28AA and feel really bad about my breast size😳 I think Shes gonna have her period really soon cause she has a lot of armpit hairs. I'm jealous, but I don't know why!? Help😁

    It really doesn't matter who has their period first as we all develop at different rates to each other, even twins.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicky!
    Im 11 years old i started my periods 7 months ago . I really want to try out tampons. I dont want to ask my mum as our family is very private and we dont really talk about these types of things. If i do ask her she will ask me how i know about tampons. I know about tampons from research and watching videos and stuff. I dont know what to do i cant tell her.

    The thing to remember is that your mum was a young girl going through puberty herself once and as you've already been experiencing periods for 7 months and now feel ready to try tampons, your mum should be able to support you in this.  For help with Talking to Mum, please check out my blog.

  • Is it okay to be on your period when you are 10 years old? xx Billie xx

    Hi Billie, girls can start their periods as young as the age of 8 so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki I started my period last monday and i want to know if I should be using tampons or not I am 11 years old xxx

    Congratulations on starting your period.  We do recommend that you experience at least 5 or 6 periods before you try using tampons to allow you the time to get used to your flow.  However, the choice is ultimately yours.  Your period has probably ended by now so you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls, when your next period arrives.

  • Hey Vicki,
    there's this boy I liked in primary and he left (told no one about, but the most of the people in the class knew, guess it was obvious) anyways, since year 7 (I'm in year 8) his friends have been teasing me about him and now he's coming back and they're gonna try and embarrass me and end me up in an awkward situation with him. I know I should play it cool, but I always freak out. What Should I do.
    xoxo, Aggie

    Hi Aggie, as you say, playing it cool is the best way forward and yes people may tease you but if you make it clear this was a long time ago and you have both moved on.

  • Hi viki
    I'm 11 years old and I'm in yr6, all my friends are still ten but they are all wearing padded bra while I barely fit in crop tops my chest is litey completey flat and it's so embarassing when we get changed for pe
    What should I do
    Thx viki from coco12311

    Hi Coco123, try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girl's late teens or early twenties so you have plenty of time.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm really scared because we're going on holiday abroad this year (in the summer) and I think I'm going to start my period because I've had discharge since feb 2014,pubic hair,lots of underarm hair, I've been moody and I have spots. Both my sisters and my mum started their period at 10. I will be 11 nearly 12(in October) should I be scared? What should I do?
    Thanks
    Paige xxx

    Please try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to fear them.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for sanitary protection whilst swimming and as they have been designed especially to fit the bodies of young girls, all you will need is a little practice so try not to worry and try to enjoy your holiday.  Remember that women and girls all over the world use tampons to provide them with discreet sanitary protection.

  • In addition to that breast lump inquirey I know know it is extremely rare but there are a couple if dimples and puckerings in the sling around them (there's like 2) and there not pea sized but I turns out dimples (etc) are a sympton...

    It really would be wise to chat to your parents and stop reading articles on the Internet that can very often be confusing and cause unecessary concern.

  • Lately I've been feeling extremely upset and down. I'm in a rocky situation at the moment, my dad having cancer, my boyfriend of 8 months leaving me a few days before Christmas and such. I didn't want it to lead to this, but I took to self harm, and I now cannot stop. I don't know what to do, do you have any suggestions?
    -Katie

    Hi Katie, I appreciate that this is a difficult time for you but self-harming is an expression of these intense, negative feelings that you really need to talk about with someone who can give you the professional help you need.  Please call Mindline on 0300 1233393 as a matter of urgency.

  • I've had problems with my joints, especially my knees, since about February last year, and I'm going to the GP on Thursday. The only problem is, I keep losing all feeling in my left leg, and I keep collapsing. Is there any way I can help myself be able to get around for the next few days without having seen a doctor?
    Danielle.

    Hi Danielle, as I am not a doctor, I really wouldn't know how to help you with this.  The sooner you see your GP, the sooner you will get this problem resolved.

  • What age is a boy when he can start egeculate?
    From Cerise

    Hi Cerise, this is something that generally starts during  puberty for males.

  • Hi ,I'm worried . I've just noticed there's a tiny bump on my breast it's on my left one and is close to the middle of the two breasts. Can 12 year olds get cancer? My nan and grandad died of cancer if it's anything to do with genes . I don't think I will discuss this with my parents because I'm not a wry social and open person. Please just tell me if I ;a 12 year old girl can get breast cancer?

    Childhood breast cancer is fairly very rare and whilst this could be breast development for you, which often occurs in one breast first, it would still be a good idea to have a chat  to your mum about it. It doesn't have to be a serious chat, you could simply ask her when she first noticed breast development and what signs she experienced first.

  • This isn't really a question but I just wanted to share with everyone that I was given the most amazing book ever for Christmas! It's called Be Beautiful and it's especially for teen girls and discusses periods, spots, hair, teeth, fragrance, bodies, health and beauty, makeup and everything else! It reminded me a lot of this website-so helpful and beneficial! Thanks xxx

    Thank you for sharing with us.

  • Helloooo
    So im the girl who had brown discharge for a couple of days and then it stopped, well it started again the next day after i asked the question and its lasted for four days in total but it seems just too thick to be my period... Are all periods like this? Thank you sooooo much vicki your advise is always helpful and i love the site x

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Thank you for your support.

  • Hi,
    I started masturbating and having discharge at 8 , im now 13 but i havent started my period. I dont know if i should worry or not.

    Masturbation would not affect when your period arriving and as you have been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey
    So last year (year 8) a boy who sat on my English table flirted with me and and i started to like him.He's also in my form.Then this year i sometimes catch him starting at me and stuff. Also he's really nice to me and calls me nicknames and helps me with my work. I think i like him but there's another boy who i liked and i thought he liked me back but now he's quite around me so i think i should just move on.
    thanks xx

    Why not wait and get to know this boy and see how you feel about both him and the other boy in a few weeks, there really is no rush.

  • Hi Vicki!!
    Well I fancy a boy called R and he fancies me. One of his friends/ex friends C bully's R and says stuff like I would fancy him if it wasn't for R. C is getting on my nerves and he asked me out and I said no and now R is getting sad and C actually made R cry. What should I do!!

    From Alisha xx

    Hi Alisha, any quarrels between these two boys is for them to sort out and all you can  do is to let R know you still like him and enjoy his company.

  • Hi, I have had really low confidence since I started secondary school (2 years) I had a hard time making friends and stuff... In drama we are going to have to perform a mine completly alone in front of everyone. This is a massive thing for me and my teacher is literally making us do it. I actually started crying in class just at the thought of it. I don't know what to do because my drama teacher is really into drama and can't stand people who have no confidence and I dread her lessons.

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls and boys when they struggle to come to terms with the changes that are occurring all at once; it's no wonder they lack self-confidence.  However, doing drama could be a brilliant way of giving your self-confidence a boost so why not practice doing a quick mime at home in front of your family and then at school, try your best to relax and just give it a go as you will feel so much better once you've done it.  Try to remember that you won't be the only one dreading it so talk to your friends about it as this will also help.

  • Hi viki
    I am on discharge at the moment and I don't want my period
    To happen overnight or in class however I really don't want to talk to my mum or any family because my parents work full time so I don't really see them I don't know what to do 😭
    Thanks
    Courtney πŸŽ€

    Hi Courtney, try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and your mum was a young girl once so she will be able to support you and set your mind at ease.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and the best way of being prepared is to wear pant liners which will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  By wearing liners and keeping a supply of pads close to hand, you will be prepared so try not to worry. 

  • Hi Vicki
    I`m really really sorry if this is inappropriate, but I was watching porn earlier on and there was this video of a girl being sexually abused. It turns out in the end it was actually just actors, but I can`t get it out of my head. I`m 12. Is this normal?

    This is why you should always use caution when using the internet as images like these can often be disturbing.  It would be wise to delete the website from your PC and even consider asking your parents to place extra protection on your computer to prevent these images being viewed in the future.

  • I'm a 14 year old girl and I've never dated anyone. I think I have a crush on one of my female teachers and it's happened before. I fantasise about stuff. I don't know if this is right and I sometimes feel bad about it. Is it? Does it make me lesbian?

    Puberty is a time when hormones run riot and teens subsequently can form deep attractions to people of the opposite or the same sex.  This doesn't mean that you are a lesbian so why not leave it a while before putting a label on your sexuality.

  • I asked you previous questions about our head of year (7) banning relationships. He has not spoken to our parents on this matter, and i asked them and they are fine with it. However we cannot be in a relationship because if our head of year finds out we will both be excluded.
    What shall i do?

    Why not consider simply being friends with this boy as it is always best to get to know someone before you even think about being girlfriend and boyfriend?  As your parents are ok with you being in a relationship, you should simply keep this out of school.

  • I feel weird for saying this but I've started trying to write some short stories & maybe a longer one. Ever since I was about 7 I've been quite into writing stories but the only thing is, I feel a bit self conscious about it and I don't want my parents to know I'm doing it. I don't want anyone to read it just yet. I want to keep them until I get older and tweak them, maybe even get them published, but that's for when I'm older. I don't want my parents to know. But I just feel a bit awkward about it.

    You really shouldn't feel weird about writing stories as this is a wonderful thing to be doing.  You are obviously not yet ready for your family to read them but they are your family so I'm sure they would give you fair criticism and praise about your work.  Personally, I would feel inclined to allow them to read them first to hear their feedback before you consider sending them off to a publisher or allowing anyone else to read them.  Stick at it and good luck.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm in year eight and one of my good friends is always swearing, stixking her fingers up at people or been offensive towards someone! What can I do about this?
    Thanks!

    You might like to try talking to your friend to find out exactly why she feels so angry.  Puberty can be a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are happening all at once and talking about her feelings should help her.

  • hey viki

    what is my bra size

    under 77
    on 82

    thsnks

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi
    I was wondering whether lil-lets do a free sample\ gift of items

    We do offer a free sample from our teens range and all you have to do to request one is to pop onto the Home page of this website and click on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page.  Please first ask for your mum's or guardian's permission and then complete your details.

  • Hi vicki
    So Im 12 I've been getting discharge for over to years and recently I've been noticing tiny red dots in it and sometimes it's brown(when I've seen the brownness it's been light brown and dry) I don't get cramps anymore but do you think that was my first period or is it coming soon?

    This was likely to have been your first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hiya Vicki

    Ive done that form you will get I hope the question was can I try a pack of tampons and pads

    Love from Kayleigh xxxxx :)

    Hi Kayleigh, a sample pack contains one of each of the products from our teens range.

  • HI, TODAY I FOUND SOME BROWN DOTTS (POO/PERIOD?) IN MY KNICKERS ALONG WITH MY DISCHARGE (I HAVE HAD DISCHARGE A LONG TIME NOW)
    WHICH WAS REALY LIQUIDY AND SMELLY. DOES THIS MEAN THAT I HAVE STARTED MY PERIOD!!!
    I ALSO HAVE BEEN HAVING CRAMPS A LOT.
    I'VE JUST TURNED 12 YEARS OLD AND IM REALY SCARED WHAT IS IT PLEASE ANSWER MY QUESTION IT WOULD REALY HELP ME A LOT. X

    LOVE FROM'
    ELLA X

    Hi Ella, the presence of brown dots in your discharge could mean that you have started your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Would U recommend roll on, stick or spray deodorant? because i use Nivea pearl and beauty, roll on, but when it's near to finishing it doesn't come out and I have to leave it upside down, and it's really easy to break because it's glass !!! I don't want to try another brand because Nivea is the best for me, and i have also tried spray deodorant, and there alright, but i want to know what a stick deodorant is like and when it's dry or liquidy. Thanks vicki <3

    The choice is yours and as you've found a deodorant that suits you, you should stick with it.

  • hey Vicki!
    I met up with all my guy friends from primary school, I used to go out with one when I was there. We left the school in year 6 and I am in year 8 now. saw them and I like froze because they all looked so manly and hot. All their voices were so deep, it was like they were not the same people. I kinda got a tingly feeling in my vagina
    can u tell me if this is normal, and why my guy friends have changed so much, I love your blog Vicki!
    love Chloe xx

    Hi Chloe, boys go through puberty much the same way as girls do in undergoing massive physical and emotional changes so this comes as no surprise.  Experiencing feelings of a sexual nature are perfectly normal as your hormones are running riot so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 12 and my cup size is a 32 A sometimes my boobs look small sometimes they look big. It seems that they have flattened a little and have become a bit more fuller is this normal?

    It is possible for your breasts to change in shape throughout their development so try not to worry.

  • Hello Vicky,
    My name is Hannah and I got re measured for a bra today and it came up as a 30 dd. I am twelve years old and was wondering if this was normal?

    thank you
    hannah

    Hi Hannah, this is a perfectly normal size for you so try not to worry.

  • ok so I've been having discharge for about 2 years now and I shave armpits and curly pubic hair and I don't have big boobs but I've but growing them sense 3 years. I turn 13 soon and all my friends already started their periods and they are younger than me:( am I close at all? How much longer?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi so I have just started my period today 😞 wasn't expecting it! But it was very light does hat mean I will always have light periods? Thankyou πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so just be mindful of this and see what happens.

  • Hi Vicki today I noticed a light brown discharge in my pants?do you know what this it and is it the start of my period?
    Thank you
    Megan

    Hi Megan, try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 12 and I just got my period for the 3rd time (each time has had a 4-5 moth gap between) and I'm using tampons and they are the regular ones and I'm having to change them every 1-2 hrs and I'm too scared to ask my mum to buy me the super tampons. My mum has heavy periods as well but I think she's just been using pads. Help?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about needing a higher absorbency tampon.  Please talk to her.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've had discharge for a couple of years now and sometimes it's so gooey that a pantiliner won't soak it up. Is this normal?
    Thanks

    Discharge can vary in colour, consistency and amount throughput your menstrual cycle.  You can try changing your pant liner more frequently and might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • my period is really heavy i tried your lil lets pads but they are too small for me and i am only 11 my vagina in really big to i am becoming a teen a lot quicker that author girls and i am too scald to go to dance witch i love incase the blood leaks though thanks vicki

    As your flow is quite heavy, why not consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand?

  • Can you please tell me what size bra I need
    Band- 74.5 cm
    Fullest part- 79 cm

    Thank you
    Ciara xxx

    Hi Ciara, your bra size is a 34AA with those measurements.

  • I feel uncomfortable when I wear a tampon and I am a regular swimmer I just don't know hat to do

    All it takes is a little practice and for you to be relaxed as possible ensuring that the tampon is fully inserted into the vagina so only the cord is showing.  In time, you will be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Okay so, at the weekend i got my first period. I didn't have any pads or anything so i asked my mum she asked me to show her the stain so i did.
    But get this, she thought i was faking and wont even consider letting me wear pantyliners. I thought about wearing them secretly but I knew she would chew me out if she found any pantyliners in the bin!

    How can I deal with this ???????
    Plz help cos I'm almost at breaking point!

    You have to respect your mum's wishes but as you really do need some pads for your period, then continue showing your mum the fluid you lost and I am sure over the next few days she will have a change of heart.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 15 and I like this boy in my year. I think he likes me too. He's shy and so am I, I dont know how to start talking to him. He's flirted with me a few times and we smile at each other in the corridor. Do you think he likes me and how do I start talking to him?

    A smile is usually a good indication that someone likes you so just try to relax, be yourself and say "Hello".  You could start a conversation about music, something to do with school or a movie that is out at the moment.

  • Hi Vicki, I recently went to the loo, and I noticed this really thick white discharge, I ahve had my discharge for over 12 months now, This substance wasn't like what Ive had before or any other day. I havn't started my periods and I just wanted to know if this really really thick white guncky stiff is a sighn of my period in the next few days?

    Many girls and women notice that their discharge becomes thicker just before their period arrives so I would guess that you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • Hi Viki

    I already had my period and in a week i am going to have it again.But this morning i had this brownish discharge.Is this my period?How long will it last?I haven't felt moody or anything.

    Thanx:-)

    This could be your period as the gap between each period can be long or short from time to time and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you. Remember too that menstrual fluid can often be brown in colour also.

  • I have no sexual desire and it's affecting my confidence. This problem started about a year ago. What should I do about it? Should I see the doctor? I'd feel really silly.

    This really does depend on a number of things; how old you are, if you have lost sexual desire or if you have never had any.

  • Can tampons leak.? I have really heavy periods and I have been thinking about tampons.
    thanks!

    If you use the correct absorbency tampon no leakage should be experienced. Why not read my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies for more on this subject.

  • Vicki please please please answer my question it would really help me because I'm really worried. So, I get discharge like all the time , even when I'm not on my period.like seriously all the time. Is this even normal? Am I the only one it happns to.? Lots of love, kirsty

    Hi Kirsty, discharge is often noticed in between periods and this is very normal and can continue into your twenties. Try to remember that this is a good thing and that this fluid is keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have recently been told that I have a fibroadenoma in one of my breasts.But I can now feel a lump at the front of either breast.What is this?

    These could be your  breast buds, but as you have been diagnosed with a medical condition you may want to chat this over with your parents and doctor treating you.

  • As everyone loses the same amount of blood, will people with heavy periods have a shorter period and vice versa as it doesn't make any sense to me as I have a light period that is the same length as my mums bus she wears super plus tampons and I wear light! Love unicorn

    Hi Unicorn, in general people lose on average between 80-100 mls, but there will be exceptions and very often women have heavier periods after they have had a child.

  • How old r u and have u had sex

    I am old enough to know the answers to your questions and young enough to remember what it was like to be a teen. And with three children, yes I have had sexual intercourse.

  • Hi Viki
    I'm 12 and have been getting discharge for about 6 moths. Does this mean that my period is starting soon and if it is how can I tell my parents.
    PLEASE HELP
    El

    Hi El, discharge can be noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period and it may be time to have a chat  before your period is here, why not start by asking your mum how old she was when she got her first period for starters.

  • I feel like I'm annoying for some reason and just get in the way. I don't know why I feel like this. Also it's as if I spend most of my time trying to charm people into agreeing with me and I don't think this is the way it should be. I used to be so happy :0 and puberty has stopped pretty much for me about 4 years ago.

    Puberty can continue into your late teens and even early twenties and it is very normal to feel a little different to those around you, but remember too that everyone is entitled to their opinio and views on subjects and they may not agree with you, but it is fine to agree to disagree.

  • Hi vicky,
    For some reason i have been craving noodles and i dont know why and i had a hot bath last night and my cramps are a little more painful and on one side my breast around my nipple has been feeling aore and that is on my left side and i was just wondering why

    These pains and aches are all part of puberty and becoming a young woman, as for the noodles....welll maybe they are just too yummy to resist.

  • I'm scared to stand up after classes in school cause I can feel my period come out and I'm scared it leaks what do I do?

    If you are wearing a good quality towel and have changed at lunchtime then I see no reason for there to be any leakage, but I do appreciate that some girls often worry about leakes especially if they are new to menstruation.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am 12 nearly 13 and I have had my period for 3 years now and I want to start using tampons. I have found a collection of tampons in the cupboard ones with applicators and ones without applicators and I don't know which ones to use. The reason I want to start using tampons is that I do a lot of sport and towels often get in the way. Also we are swimming at school and I don't want to miss it.
    I hope your having a nice day and please answer my question πŸ˜„

    Have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask them how they feel about this. My advice would be to try with a non-applicator teens tampon first as they are shorter and narrower than other tampons and ideal for first time users.

  • I've been researching and it turns it that I have excess skin on my perenieum,I'm only 12 but I worry what problems this might cause me for the future.It's an eye sore and I'm sorry if this is deemed inappropriate but I really need you to answer,please. And I don't want to discuss this with anyone just please I need to know if this is normal

    Let me reassure you that excess skin noticed in this area is very normal and my advice would be to avoid websites of this nature that can often give misleading information.

  • I'm so scared because when I go back to shcool I do PE and I have my period and there are no individual changing rooms all the girls get together! How am I suppose to hide my period and not make it obvious that I am wearing a pad and I'm scared if it leaks and goes on my pants and everyone will see :(

    You could always put a new pad in your pants just before PE starts and then get ready discretely and I am sure you will find there will be little chance of leakage if you do this.

  • I have just started my period and am looking for advice,any tips?

    There are lots of tips and advice on this website so why not check them out, including my blogs.

  • Hi Vicki I have this yellow stuff at the bottom of my undies but it dries in to my underwear and I don't know what it is please help p.s I'm 11 12 in may



    The Vicki πŸ’‹πŸ’—βœ‹

    This is discharge a fluid made by your body to keep your vagina clean and free from infection, it's very normal and you can find out more about this fluid by reading our section under the Puberty tab.

  • Hey so I've been self harming for a while now and I've realised I need to stop. I need my scars to heal quite fast (in 2 months). They were never big just scratches and only bled a smal amount but because I'm tanned there are little white lines where my normal coloured skin has grown back and I was wondering if you could recommend a way to get rid of them. P.s I don't want my parents to find out as they would be upset because they have tried so hard to give me the best possible life. Thanks x

    Keeping the area moist will help the healing process, so using a moisturiser or body oil should help.

  • I used to want to be a doctor but now i don't know. I'm 16 and really want to help other people and be happy in my job and i thought this might be by being a doctor but when i was researching into the job online, i found a few articles saying that being a doctor was the most miserable profession and lots of doctors are unhappy and suffer from mental illness. Is the best way to see if this job is for me by doing work experience and seeing the jobs first hand?

    In any career you will find people are unhappy, but I am sure there are an awful lot of doctors who love their job and find it very fullfilling, so please try not to believe everything you read online, the medical profession can be very rewarding.

  • Is it true that you can make your first period come quicker ?xxxπŸ’—

    No, this is not true; there is nothing you can drink, eat or do to make your period arrive sooner than when your body decides the time is right for you.

  • I have had a kind of pain that come when I sit down or move about at the front of my groin for a couple of days now. I'm worried about what it is Lucy x

    Hi Lucy, any pain that continues for several days or even hours should be brought to the attention of your parents who will then decide how to proceed.

  • I woke up this morning with my 3rd period and it was so heavy! It was leaking through my pants even though I wore the most absorbed pads! It feels like I am peeing myself but I can't stop it, I have evn tried wearing a linear the the most absorbed pads but still it leaks through! I don't know if this is why but my period was one week late and I have been sitting my prelims and been quite stressed out is that why? I can't deal with my period being like this all the time!

    Consider wearing our  Lil-lets Freshlock long or night pads, they are super absorbent and should protect you even on your heaviest of days.

  • Would it be too long to wear a pad if u wore one to bed-to sleep?.

    There is no restriction for wearing a pad and if you want to wear one all night this is fine. It may however be wise to consider wearing a night pad as these are longer and will protect you when you move around in your sleep.

  • Hi Vicki! I haven't had my second period in 5 months, and I know they are irregular when you start, but the other day I had brown discharge, when I wiped again and there was nothing, just white-yellowish discharge. The day after, after school, I went to the toilet and there was brown stuff in my knickers and I wiped there was brown discharge. But since that there has been nothing! Just normal discharge. Was that my period? Does it count as my second period? I'm confused. Help?
    Thankyou!

    Yes this was your period and this is all very normal as you will see if you read my blog entitled So What Is Menstrual Fluid.

  • When first using a tampon is it better to use a non-aplicator or an aplicator ?

    This really is a personal choice and Lil-Lets do both. Some girls find however, using a non-applicator easier to insert as there is no applicator to work or to dispose of after.

  • Hi vicki, I'm 14 (15 next week) and my boyfriends 15 (16 in aprill). But he keeps asking me if he can f*nger me and I said I'm not sure but how do I tell him that I'm not ready for this if he asks again?

    Hi, it is quite simple, you are not old enough for such intimate relationships and it would  be wise for you to share this news with your boyfriend letting him know that he would actually be committing a crime. If he cares he will wait until you are both old enough and more importantly ready!

  • Hi viki
    Everyday when i get changed or go to the loo, I always pull down my pants but fund that my pants are wet with urine (not like soaking). I don't know what to do, I really don't want to see a doctor. I have had it for about 5 years. I think some times it's discharge but most times urine. What should I do?
    From candy 🍬

    Hi Candy, it may be that you are leaving long gaps between each visit to the toilet and it would be better to go a little more frequently. If this does not help and you are sure it is not discharge you are noticing, then you really should speak to your mum as this is a fairly common problem for lots of females and can easily be treated.

  • Hey,Vicki
    Are u able to get breast cancer at 12 years?

    thank you for your time
    From,kc

    Cancer of any type is not age related, but it is very rare for it to be noticed in children.

  • Hi vicki, am a 12 year old and i started grow breast at age 10 but my breast has not increased,boys are beginning to laugh at me but my 12 year old friends have bigger breast what should i do? pls help

    Breasts often grown in spurts with times of no growth noticed. However, as they continue to grow until your late teens or even early twenties I am sure more growth has yet to come.

  • Dear vicki, My period is 1 week late, but it's been coming on time all year last year. I was afraid I might be pregnant (because my bf and I did some stuff), but i took a pregnancy test and it read negative. Do you know why I'm not getting my period?
    SabrinaπŸ’™πŸ’™β€οΈβ€οΈ

    Hi Sabrina, periods can be iregular even when they have been regular previously, so I would not worry too much. Finally, if you are considering being sexually intimate with your boyfriend and you are 16 or over,  you should consider contraception very seriously.

  • Hi, I'm 15 and I think I have just started my period. At school when I went to the toilet there was brown discharge and a some blood when I wiped. I have been wearing pads to catch anything else. If this is my period then the flow is very light and it is a darkish brown colour. I don't know if this is my period or not. Thankyou:)

    Yes this does sound very much like your first period and it would be wise to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki! How are you? So I'm pretty flat and I'm 13, but my breasts still need support. Practice bras aren't enough. My measurements are: 67cm under and 74cm over. What would my bra size be (if I even need a real bra)?

    Hi, 30AA is your size and based on this a crop top or soft cup bra will be suitable.

  • HI vicki, My friend just told me that she kissed my crush and I don't know what to do should I stay friends with her? and the worst thing is that he has a girlfriend and she knew that! She did two wrong things and I'm not sure if I really want to be friends with her.... Please help!!!!

    Hi, firstly have you let your friend know that you like this boy and has she mentioned to you that she liked him too. If this is the case then I am afraid it really is up to her if she kisses him or not, just as it is up to her if she wants to kiss someone who is dating another girl. Personally, I would consider if you would want to date this boy as he clearly is not loyal to his current girlfriend.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My friend's sister who was around 14 at the time hadn't had her period yet but got pregnant with a 12 year old boy. Lately she has had sex with another boy younger than her and is pregnant at the moment. Someone in my class said she was very lucky not to die because she got pregnant before her period started, can this be true? Is it possible to get pregnant before your period starts?

    Hi, yes it is possible to become pregnant before  your first period has arrived but it would not be fatal if this did happen.

  • Hi Vicki, I don't know how to tell my Mom when I start my period (I haven't started yet but I know when I do, I need to tell her because she's my mom and she could help me when I don't know what to do.) Does it effect any sports? Sometimes I have tummy aches it has nothing to do with my period but will I have tummy aches when I do start? I am quite embarrassed to talk about growing up but I need to know what happens.

    You could always start the chat now, by asking her a few questions, such as when did she get her first bra, her first boyfriend or period and this will make asking more personal questions a lot  easier to discuss.

  • Hi Vicki! Is there any way to make my ribs stick out less? They are bigger than my boobs and it just looks horrible and gives me a really childish look. A big part of my self esteem is lowered by this because otherwise I'd have a flat stomach.
    Thanks!

    As you continue your journey through puberty you will notice a great many changes to your overall shape, so my advice would be, to be patient and see what happens to  your shape over the next few years.

  • Hi Vicki. why is one of my nipples hurting? Is this any sign of a period coming?
    Thanks xxxx

    This is generally linked to breast growth and nothing to do with the arrival of your first period.

  • JOJO

    hi vicki this is jojo... what should i do when someone is messing with my bestfriends!!!
    can you pleasse tell me what to do!!! They also say lies about her what should i do

    If you know these people then let them know that they are incorrect with the information they are spreading about your friend and that this is very hurtful for her. They may choose not to and if you feel she is being bullied it may be an idea to speak to your parents or teachers about this matter.