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  • Hey Vicki. So I've had my very first period in July, I've seen no second period ever since. Is this anything to worry about?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • i tried to finger myself and stuff that requiers putting something up there, and i cant do it! it won't go! my vagina is too small to fit anything even a tampon won't fit probely!! will it get easier as i get older? will it streach?

    Try to remember that the vagina is a muscle which can stretch wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born so to take a closer look at the Reproductive System Inside & Out, please check out the blog link.

  • Vicki please help! My friend just told me that shes been crying everyday after school and feels helpless and horrible and like life isn't worth living... she says the only times when she feels happy is when shes either with me or her boyfriend... I'm not okay with her feeling horrible all the time and I want to fix it.. but the only thing is she doesn't want to go and see somebody :/ please help, it upsets me to see her like this x

    Your friend is no different to many other young girls and boys who struggle with all the physical and emotional changes that occur during puberty.  This is why it is so important that you talk to her and tell her that feeling this way really isn't her fault and she isn't alone.  She will find by talking about her feelings to members of her family or friends like you she will begin to feel better.  She can also talk to Mindline on 0300 1233393 who offer a confidential service.

  • hey,
    the other day a boy was messing around in my class on a school trip and walked pasted me and hit my front bottom (sorry if it sounds babyish but i don't want to be rude!) he keeps doing this what sout i say to him? should i tell someone and who should i tell? thanks

    His behaviour is inappropriate so please tell your teacher and parents as a matter of urgency.

  • hey vicki, my nipples don't seem to be right and they go in a bit, also there are little bumps on my nipples too is this normal? I'm 14 and I started my period last month. thanks

    The small bumps you have noticed are called Montgommery Glands which are perfectly normal and as for one of your nipples still being a little inverted, please try to allow some time for your breasts to fully develop.

  • Can u have sex with some1 n get pregnant but haven't started ur period
    Yet

    This is possible.

  • Hi Vicki
    My names jade and I'm 11
    I'm completely flat chested and haven't started budding
    All my friends have boobs and I feel leftt out
    And is it possible for your boobs to start growing
    Without starting to bud
    Pls answer Vicki
    ......Jade!!!!!!!!!!

    Hi Jade, try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to others and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi vicki ive had discharge for a long time now and for the past 2 months its gone darker and now for the past few days my left ovary hurts is this normal?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I've had my period for about a year now, and today was the second day of my period this month and I was walking through a park with my aunt and I all of a sudden felt really dizzy and really struggled/ couldn't walk in a straight line but it only lasted for about a minute and I haven't had it since. Is this normal?

    For peace of mind, mention this to your mum or guardian and ask if they think you should see your GP.

  • Is it right to kiss friends boyfriend on lips??

    I don't think so really.

  • Hello I have asked this before and I'm sorry if it was deemed inappropriate but my nipples really hurt if I touch them or move them and they are huge, is this normal and they are also very hard is this normal sorry if it is inappropriate, thank you

    It is perfectly normal for your nipples to feel sensitive and painful during development so try not to worry.  You might find that relaxing in the bath will help to soothe them.

  • Hi viki
    So there's this boy I like and we both do choir together he keeps telling me that he loves me but I don't know whether he joking or not
    Please answer SOON I need to know
    ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I asked my BBF too ask a boy out I reallyyyy like she said anything for u bit then asked him out for her she trusts me and I trust her me and her have been BBF for ever she suddenly won't talk to me I haven't done anything
    please answer u never answer any of mine xxxxx

    I wonder if the boy didn't want to go out with her and she resents the fact that he likes you more.  As you are close friends, you should be able to discuss this matter together.

  • Hi Vicki

    I have just started my period about 3 days ago and i don't really get any bleeding at night? also when will i get the next one because i heard that you won't get your next one for 6 months??

    Rosa

    Try not to worry as many females notice that their menstrual flow decreases by up to 40% at night and it is normal to experience irregular periods for the first 2 years as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period but you will simply have to wait and see.

  • I am not sexually active but today my discharge has stopped and my stomach is really tender to touch, why would this be?

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice a gap in releasing discharge before your period arrives.

  • Hi 💗 so basicually everyone I know has a obsession with a band of whatever. Most of my friends ♥️ 1D but I don't really. Or a lot of them ♥️ a original band that not many people know about. Loads of my friends go and see concerts of 1D and stuff but I don't really have a band I am obsessed with. How do I try and fine some original bands or whatever I like? Thanks Nyah x

    Hi Nyah, you should first try to identify with particular genres of music that you enjoy and then listen to some contemporary artists in that field.  Nobody says you have to have an artist or band that you obssess about and it's perfectly fine for you to simply enjoy someone's music. 

  • I have just started shaving my vagina, but when I did it really hurt, is there any other way to do it?

    Rather than shaving your pubic hair, you might like to simply trim it back.

  • Hi, meg here, btw thank you so much for creating this- so helpful!!👍
    1) I always get nervous around boys, why?
    2) can you please do things about if your/ being gay on your blog- it would be really helpful
    Meg xx

    Hi Meg, puberty is naturally a time when teens feel massive self-doubt as there are so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once, their confidence is at its lowest but try to remember that boys are going through puberty too.  Look at ways of boosting your self-esteem, joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.  As for a prospective blog on Sexuality, I will put it on my list for future consideration.  Thank you for the suggestion.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So I have recently met this boy, and I think I kind of like him, I don't know, I have never felt this way before. It's not as if it's awkward to talk to him, and I just found out he likes me to. But I don't know what I am ment to do!
    Thank you oxoxox

    For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Dear Vicki:
    BreastBud here. I've been wanting to ask you-- so I think my bra size is 32a. I only ever really get bras from my friends, and recently my cousin gave me a cupped bra. I'm not sure if I should ask my mom to get me one, though.. her breasts are tiny, and she like NEVER wears bras... so I'm not sure how to start the conversation. I want to ask her to her face, but we're not very close in terms of that kind of thing.
    -Please Help! Breastbud

    Even though your mum doesn't wear bras, she will understand that you will need to wear one so please talk to her.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Once we have the whitish liquid in our Nickers can we start earlier than 6 months before? Thank you

    There are always exceptions to every rule so try not to worry.  We say it is usually between 6-12 months as a general rule.

  • how long does your period last for

    A period can last for between 2-7 days.

  • So this boy goes to the same badminton club as me , I see him about 6 hours a week from that and he is really kind and he talks to me and smiles (not like any other boy I know) and I really really like him but there are 2 problems , 1. I think that one of my friends like him as well (she's 13) and 2. He is 13 and I'm 12. Oh and he smiles at me and as I said talks to me all of the time and he watches me play.Then congratulates me if I win and cheers me up if I loose. What should I do

    As you really like this boy, and suspect that he likes you too, you should get to know him better as a friend and see where things go from there.  Then you can either wait for him to ask you out or you can ask him out.

  • Would it be okay for me to try a tampon whilst not on my period?? Like I mean, just have a go at putting it in and then take it straight out again. :)

    The only time you should ever insert a tampon is when you are releasing menstrual fluid as inserting a tampon dry can cause tiny tears to appear on the vagina wall which may lead to infection.  The best time to try using a tampon is on day 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest which will make the tampon easier to insert.

  • Hi vicki,
    Im 14 and ive had my period for just under 2 yrs now. When i get my period its always really light and lasts for like 2-3 days 4 at the most. I never get cramps or anything that makes me feel ill or moody. Is this normal and will it get heavier.
    Aswell i share a room with my 8 yr old sister and whenever i buy period products she always wonders what they are and my parents tell me not to tell her but she never stops asking! What shud i do? Thanks Cupquake

    Hi Cupcake, you will simply have to wait and see if your menstrual flow changes but as you've been like this for a couple of years, you might be lucky in having short, light periods with no pain or discomfort.  As for talking to your little sister, you have to respect your parents' wishes but it's good to know that she might well be starting puberty soon and will be able to ask you for help and guidance.

  • Hey Vicki! During the last few days in my knickers there's either been very little or quite a lot of light brown liquid. Is this urine? Even though most of the times I don't even need a toilet..or is it like an infection? Or my period?

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki! :)
    I was just wondering if u could help me cuz one of my boobs are much bigger than the other one and I just wear crop tops at the moment but I think I need a bra now cuz the jiggle a bit what should I do?
    Thanks, panda123

    Hi Panda123, try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice more development in one breast than the other and there is no such thing as two perfectly symmetrical breasts but you will find that they will even up.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am just wondering if you send out free starter packs of your teen range...
    If so, where can I get/order one?


    Lillie mai xxx

    If you could first ask for the permission of your mum or guardian to request a free sample of our teens range, then pop onto the home page of this website and follow the link.

  • i really want to masturbate but i don't know how. i'm 13. could you please help me??? xxx

    Masturbation is a natural, instinctive thing caused by the massive increase in activity of hormones and is definitely not something I can tell you how to do.

  • I keep on getting pain when I go to the toilet is that a sign that my period will start soon! Or is there something wrong with me! Plz help!!!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months but you should ask your mum or guardian about the pain you experience when you use the toilet as you might need to see your GP for peace of mind.

  • I am 13 years old I had my first period On 28 February until now I haven't had my second period And I'm a little bit worried i'm just a virgin is something wrong with me or can I make my period More regular if I can I would really love to have it at the moment I'm feeling quite nauseous and I really don't know what to do about it could it be that I'm having my period for the second time finally i'm also having some cramps I am not comfortable aunt Vicky I trust you please help me

    Please try not to worry as it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  They will regulate so try to be patient and allow yourself a little time.  The nausea might be a sign that your second period is on its way, you will just have to wait and see.

  • Hi Vicki.this isn't a question but i thought it would be useful to u. I was bullied but now i have made new friends. One of them told me bullies try to bring u down..... So that obviously means your above them. i was useful to me so i thought it would be useful to others

    Thank you so much for sharing such a marvellous phrase.

  • Hi Vicki! How quickly do u normally answer questions because I asked a question the other day but I haven't seen an answer. It was not inappropriate and i remember the unique code thingy. Sorry to be so impatient but i really want to know the answer! I realise I am going to have to wait for the answer to this too but i just wanted to let u know that I am so curious about my question. Thanks! Xxxx
    P.S. Please reply ASAP because my question has been on my mind all day and I wish I knew the answer!

    I hope you have managed to locate your response by now but if not, please resubmit.  The only questions I don't answer are the ones that are inappropriate.

  • Hi Vicki, so I have quite thick pubic hair (I am 11) and I really want to remove it. Shaving isn't an option but I was wondering if hair removal cream is okay. I use hair removal cream on my underarms and legs normally. So I was wondering is it safe to use it down there .
    Sorry if inappropriate
    Thanks :)

    You might also like to consider simply trimming your pubic hair back so it isn't visible but there are creams that remove pubic hair for you.

  • Hi
    I keep getting (not daily) brown discharge and I've been getting some cramps to. Is my period coming? Also recently my discharge is getting heavier and now I have to change my underwear 2times a day? Please help😔

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your muym or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki :)
    So I am 11 and a 30AA and I have heard underwire isn't good for the breast tissue but I have also heard that it is absolutely fine, so I am confuesd as to if it is okay for your breast tissue or if it's not.
    And also are you ever gonna make your own line of bras?
    Thank you :)

    There is no truth in underwired bras being harmful to your breasts so please try not to worry.  As for making our own line of bras, it is something we've talked about but there is nothing definite as yet.  We will keep you posted though.

  • Hi vicki I have had pubic hair for nearly 2 years, just got armpit hair and I have breasts buds and spots on my face, I sweat lots too. When will I get my period thx? plz put this in periods section xx

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki. I love this boyband named 'One Direction', I'm sure you've heard of them. I live in Lebanon. I'm like, obsessed with them, they've helped me through a lot of things and I REALLY need to meet them. I'm not the only one, here in my country a lot of girls like them. What should I do?? I really need to meet them this is my only dream.

    Puberty is a time when teens can form deep attraction for celebrities such as a sports person, actor, singer etc.. but they are often people they don't even know or are ever likely to even meet.  This is called a crush which is caused by the increase in activity of hormones and the sad thing is that crushes often fade in time.  However, you might like to consider joining One Direction's Fan Club who will no doubt be running competitions that offer fans the chance of meeting the band but I'm afraid you will have to check this out for yourself.

  • Hi Vicki! Love your site, by the way! I'm a teenager in secondary school and I've been learning Sex in Science, but whenever we talk about periods, I feel all nauseous and my eyes go blurry, so I have to put my head on the table. It's really embarrassing! Can you help me? Thanks, Niome xx

    Hi Niome, try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to get so worked up about them.  I would suggest that you read everything you can on periods as knowing all about them will help you understand them

  • hiya vicki, im 12
    theres this white substance in my pants and gooey and sticky and it been going on for like 4weeks do you know what is it btw i havent started mt period... help

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and to tell us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to try using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they are ideal for keeping you feeling fresh and clean doen there.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm really worried about my boobs because on my nipples I have like green crusty bits stuck on and I don't know what it is :(

    Try not to worry as during breast development, tight clothes can irritate the nipples as can the increase in hormone production.  Lactin is the hormone which stimulates the production of milk which can appear yellow when dried out so wash the area with warm soapy water to remove the dried fluid and try to avoid picking as this will make it very sore.

  • Can your periods be regular straight away Vicki? I've had 4 the same day every month☺

    Absolutely yes.

  • Hi Vicki, I am thirteen and I had my first period on Tuesday it lasted till Thursday and today is Friday and now I am getting thick yellow discharge!! Is this normal?!? Have I got an infection?!? 😱😱😱 thanks xx

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for a period to last between 2-7 days.

  • This isn't really a question its for the girls who asked about cervical cancer jabs. I had them last year, they are fine. Some girls overreacted but seriously get the jab. Its a tiny bit of pain, but the people who do it are nice and personally I would rather have a jab than cancer.Just have the jab. It will be OK.
    Txxx

    Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

  • I shaved my legs and under arms yesterday, but when do you think it would start growing again?

    Thanks, Sophia xx

    Hi Sophia, usually it is normal to notice regrowth within a day or two of shaving.

  • I've been getting discharge for about a year a bit longer I'm not comfertable asking for liners I feel like I'm ready to use them also do you I might be getting my period xx

    As you are getting close to starting your period, it is a good time for you to start using pant liners as they will protect you from possible leakage.

  • Hi viki, so today I started my first period but once when I went to the toilet I noticed like a stringy bit of like blood is that normall??
    Thanks :) x

    P.s. is is normall for the blood to be really dark on the pad?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  It is also normal to release small clots which are simply a part of the lining of the uterine wall being released with mentrual fluid.

  • dear Vicki
    I really like this boy but he goes out with me friend and whenever she isn't here he flirts with me I.e by lying on my, picking me up, hugging me etc but he would never cheat,what do I do..
    Love ladybug

    Hi Ladybug, move on and forget about him or face the prospect of losing a friend.  He is clearly a flirt, so tell him to stop his behaviour or you will tell his girlfriend.

  • I want to tell my mum I have started my period but I'm too imbarrassing 😳I'm nicking. Y items lads and stuff because I dad dent ask my mum what should I do

    Try to remember that periods are one of the most natural things in the world that happen to every girl and your mum was once a young girl going through puberty just as you are now.  So please try not to feel embarrassed talking about your period as she will understand that you will need some pads.  You might like to ask her if you can try Lil-Lets teens range which has been designed especially to fit the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki, I really love touching the hair on my vagina... Is this normal? I'm way too scared to masturbate and if I ask anyone they'll think I'm a slut. Thanks! Natalie xx

    Hi Natalie, this is fine and as pubic hair is new for you touching and exploring new things is very normal.

  • Hi Vicki. I've been recently reading lots of porn stories and I'm really trying to stop myself as I feel really...dirty about it and I don't feel like it's wrong. My family doesn't know either. But I can't drag myself away from it; I'm really worried about this. Please help, I'm too ashamed to tell anyone! Natalie xx

    Pornography can be addictive as you have seen but by keeping busy doing other things and reading other things you can break this habit. So why not give it a go.

  • hi
    is it bad that i fancy older actors? like paul wesley and jerome jarre and ian somerhalder
    theyre like 12-24 years older than me but theyre so nice and gorgeous i cant help it :( obviously id never act on my crushes but they seem so nice and awesome and handsome!

    There is no age limit on who we crush on, so please don't worry this is fine.

  • Hey Vicki
    My mum went into hospital today (I was totally unaware as I was asleep) because her heart was beating @ 204 times a minute too she cud not breathe. When my dad told me, I didn't cry, so I felt angry with myself, but I was shaking and struggled to do up my school shirt. In PE I started using my nail and scraping my left wrist. Then in all other subjects I started with a pencil. I'm not doing it for attention. Is it because I'm worried about my mum?

    It could be, but you really do need to speak to an adult about this, as I am sure your mum is getting the helps she needs and you have nothing to be worried or anxious about. So have a chat to another family member about how you feel.

  • Is tampons more comfortable than pads?

    It really is a personal choice and how you feel about each product, but personally I would say they are equally as comfortable to use.

  • Does Lil-lets do any free samples?

    Yes we do free samples of our teens range, simply drop me a line at consumerrelations@lil-lets.com and I will see what I can do.

  • is there a known reaction between anthistamines and Dianette acne pills?

    I have answered this previously and my advice is to read the in pack instruction leaflet with your pills and also have a chat to your GP if at all concerned.

  • My vagina gets itchy sometimes, is this normal? Xxx

    It could be the toiletries you are using that is causing this irritation or even if you get too hot which can very often make this area itchy too.

  • I go out with a boy and I really like him and he likes me and we kissed and it was really good (sorry if it's inappropriate ) but we then did it with our tongues is this wrong at 14 this is a question for my friend thanks xx

    It is a little too intimate at your age, but as long as you do not let it go any further until you are 16 or over, I would not worry too much.

  • Hi vicki,
    My crush talks to me about alot of things ALOT but when i start asking him about himself he takes ages to answer and sometimes writes it on a piece of paper?

    It seems your friend is not as confident discussing his personal life and may be a little shy. Let him carry on telling you in the way he currently does and I am sure in a few months he will feel more relaxed around you and more open to chat, but whatever you do, don't push him into telling you things he is not ready to do.

  • Hey Vicki it's Chloe but I was wondering when you get your period do you still get discharge?

    Hi Chloe, if you do it is generally mixed in with menstrual fluid.

  • Hi I started my period in April and I haven't told anyone of my skl friends. But today my best friends found out that I have started and I feel really embarrassed.

    Thanks, Sophia xx

    Hi Sophia, don't be embarrassed, periods are part of being a woman and in time the rest of your friendship group will get their period too and they may just be glad they have a friend who has already experienced this new phase in their lives  who can give them advice.

  • What's my bra size?

    Under 26
    On the fullest point 28

    Thanks, Sophia xx

    30AA

  • Hi Vicki I have a friend she is so judgemental and sometimes she sticks up for me, other times she's a backstabber I don't know whether to ditch her or not?

    Rather than break friends, why not share your feelings with her, as she may not know that she is behaving this way and may just welcome your feedback.

  • Hi Vicki
    There's a boy in my Science class who has a crush on me. I like him back but his two friends always make comments about like "chemistry" between us and it makes me feel awkward because I genuinely like him. I want to hang out with him more, and he's really sweet but I can never talk to him alone to even give him my number. Any advice???
    Txxx

    Actually you can chat to him openly, if you ignore any silly comments from others, after all you do like him and he you, so what do you have to lose by chatting and being close. You may just find that these girls back off when they see their remarks do not bother you.

  • Hi Vicki x
    Quick question. Is a moulded bra the same as a padded bra? Because I can fit a moulded bra perfectly though I feel that padded bras are a bit too big.
    Also, is it bad to buy sanitary products without permission? Because I went to the shop and bought pantiliners though my mum thought I was buying crisps.
    Thanks!
    P.S: I LOVE your website. It has given me self confidence x

    Firstly, moulded bras are generally  a little softer with less padding than a padded bra and finally there is no age limit for purchasing sanitary protection so please try not to worry.

  • Vicki, how can I tell if I have depression? Do you have to have all symptoms or could it be just a few?

    Depression is an illness and as such can only be diagnosed by a medical professional. Remember too that the changes to someones moods during puberty is very different to that of this very serious illness. Have a chat to your parents and share your concerns with them, I am sure they will be able to advise you further.

  • How can I stop caring what people say to me or do? Im not bullied just want to know.

    It would not do for us all to be the same so learn to trust your own decisions, then if someone is unkind or makes a remark you will be confident enough in your own judgement to ignore their comments. It works for me and my children and I hope it will for you to.

  • Hi vicki, it was this boys birthday today and I kinda fancy him his pen broke and I thought he needed one so I chucked I'm one turns out he didn't need one and chucked it back and look soo confused and annoyed , I feel like I've lost my chance😡😩
    puppyglitterxx

    Try not to worry and forget this little episode, I am sure there are other ways to show this boy you like him; such as smiling when he looks over or asking him how his weekend was.

  • Hi vicki

    i'm 13 (nearly 14) and When i jump or breath in really deeply my left breast hurts? is this normal becuase my breasts are developing or something?

    thanks xx

    This is very normal as your breasts develop and is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicky I can't find my answer anywhere, so I like this boy Nick ( he's in my tutor group and sits next to me), and his friends keep on saying " so Nick is Mae the one you fancy!' But really loudly so I can hear! And when I told him about it in tutor he says he dosent like me! 😞 but then all his friends tell me he does! I don't understand! PLEASE HELP ME!
    Thanks, Mae xxx

    Hi Mae, I have answered this question and I feel that Nick may like you, but not be ready to share this news with everyone else, so why not give him some space until he feels more comfortable to share his feelings.

  • heya Vicki
    i'm 13 and I was just looking at my breasts today and i noticed that one breast was much bigger than the other one. i only saw today so i don't know how long i've had it but i'm not really concerned about breast cancer. is this normal?
    Thanks Vicki!
    Love the site btw! it's helped me out loads! xx

    Hi, this is very normal as one breast often grows before the other and even when fully grown, one breast will always be slightly bigger than the other.

  • My periods are super heavy so which one will be better for me a pad or a tampon? And what can i do to prevent super heavy periods?

    Either will work to absorb menstrual fluid, but be sure to choose a good quality product, such as our Lil-Lets Freshlock range of pads in normal, long and night, or tampons that come in six absorbencies from lite for very light flow to ultra for very heavy flow.

  • Hi vicki I have found a small group or spots on each of my bum cheeks they're red and sort of pussy I don't know if this is normal but how can I get rid of them it's slightly enbarrasing but would like to know thank you Nataliah x

    Hi Nataliah, just like puberty can cause spot break-outs to the face and back, your bottom can be affected to. Keep your skin super clean and if you can consider wearing cotton underwear when possible.

  • Hi vicki my boobs are 26 underneath and 27 on top what does this make me? xxxxxx

    30AA.

  • Hi Viki,
    First of all, I love your website. I'm 11 years old. I got my discharge on Tuesday 9th September 2014 (a couple of days ago) I had it for two days and I haven't had it since as it is now the 12th of September. I'm a bit worried, please help me!

    Thank you soooo much,
    Phoebe xxx

    Hi Phoebe, discharge can  be noticed on a daily basis for some girls and is nothing to worry about, it's simply your body keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • What are the symptoms of the first period? Ive been having pains by my left lung, it feels like a stitch but it happens every day and gradually gets worser

    This could be several things, for instance stitch as you have suggested or even idigestion. So have a chat to your parents and they will be able to advise you further.

  • hi vicki
    i like a guy in my brothers class hes the same age as me but i smilied and said hi he said hi and went over to his friends how do i make friends with him??
    please help he's really nice and i really wanna become friends and mybe his friends too
    am i weird if i dream about him ???
    thanks emma

    Hi Emma, continue as you are, by smiling and saying "Hi" it may take a few weeks for him to notice you but I am sure in time he will let you know if he likes you back.

  • Hi! I'm 14 next month and my breasts have started growing but I am very flat. I feel very self-conscious about them as most of my friends have big boobs! Also I have not started my period yet but i really want to so I will be like the other girls. Is there any way to know when my period is coming? Also is there any way to make my boobs grow faster? Thanks Millie xx

    Hi Millie, we really are all different and both breast development and periods will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and not before, so please try not to compare your progress with that of others if you can.

  • Hi me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now! I'm almost 17 and he's 21! We are thinking about having sex because we think the time is right! I really don't want to end up pregnant and I don't feel that a condom is enough protection and I would like th go on the pill as well! How do I go about it as I'm really shy and all my doctors are male! I do have a clinicical but I would be so embarrassed ringing up and everything and I don't know what to do! Please help

    Contraception is very important and whilst it may seem embarrassing, I can assure you that your doctor or the clinic in question will make you feel very relaxed and discuss your options regarding contraception.

  • Hello! This is bubbles again^o^! We'll I have a very small question about puberty! My period cramps are horrendous! ~^o^~!
    So what should I do I'm thirteen and I CRY WHEN I HAVE THEM!!!!!!!!!
    And if you asked anyone I don't cry much only ALOT, when I have my period.

    WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?!?!?!?!? Need a lot of help,
    BUBBLES

    Hi Bubbles, try being active when you have these pains as this can alleviate any discomfort and make you feel happier in your mood to.

  • I am getting Discharge in my pants every day this has been going on for a couple of years. I have had spotting two months ago but not a period yet. I have got some lil-lets towels ready but nothing yet. When wll it come ? xxxx

    If you have noticed a little bit of blood in your underwear then this is most likely your first period as they can often be light in flow.

  • today on the bus i kind of stumbled when getting off the bus and everyone on the bus was laughing at me. i was so embaressed and when i got home i cried so much, now i never want to get the bus again

    Look we all do silly things and trip or fall, the best thing to to is laugh it off and not let it worry you one little bit. I am sure everyone has already forgotten this episode already.

  • Hi! I'm 14 next month and I am still flat chested, my boobs are starting to develop but I am only a aa. Most of my friends have big boobs and I feel really left out. I haven't got my period and I really want to get it so I will be like the other girls. is there any thing I can do to make my boobs grow faster or know when they will be bigger? Also is there any way to know when I will get my period, I really want it to start! Please answer because I really want to know! Thanks xxx

    Breasts continue to develop into a girls late teens or early twenties, so you have plenty of time for growth. As for periods, they can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18. So again you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hey Vicki I'm Chloe and I'm really worried . There is this boy at school and I really like him. He makes me feel good and everyone even me thought he liked me. But recently he doesn't. He acts like everyone else, he won't listen to me anymore it's like I'm not special anymore. And i feel so alone I thought he understood me like I was good enough. Where as now I'm not good enough for anyone 😔 please reply as soon as possible

    Hi Chloe, maybe this boy got a little bit scared about his feelings and has decided to back off a little bit. Don't be too upset and if you can just be friends for now and see what happens in the future.

  • Hi, I'm in year 8 and really like this boy. He used to like me but I'm not sure anymore. I feel all happy when I'm around him and just wish he would ask me out. Why doesn't he ask me out? How do I know if I look ugly?

    Boys can very often take a little longer to mature than girls and find it easier to be friends with someone than date, so continue being friendly and see how things go in the future.

  • Hello Vickie,I don't know if this is a strange question I'm sorry if it is but,well,my nipples are huge and bigger than my boobs and hard and if I touch them ( don't know if I should do that) it is very sore is this normal? I haven't started my period and I am 12 I was even getting changed infront of my friend the other day and she said geesh girl u have huge nipples,I'm turning 13 in November and why is it like this? Do I eat to much veggies or something? Lol

    Nipples just like breasts can come in a variety of shapes and sizes, some small, some fuller. This is very normal and nothing to be worried about, so please try to ignore any comments from others.

  • Hello. What do I do about my problem?!? Ok so I have these two friends who are completely BFF's but I absolutely adore one of them and love her like my sister. We get along SOOOOO well and I really don't want to boast but I fit her so well as a friend. Her now BFF does NOT seem suitable and is actually a very bad friend who lies ALOT!!! What do I do?!? It's killing me inside! I see her everyday and my biggest wish is to be BFF's with her. Please answer in as much detail as possible thx xxx

    It really is your friend's decision who she chooses to be friends with and my advice is to accept this other girl as a friend too as having a group of 3 friends can be just as good as one special friend.

  • Hi Vicki, so I'm 12 and I have a mustache. I'm too young to get it done properly and my mum bleeches it every so often, but it still comes through. Is there anything I could do?
    Also some people do comment on it 😔

    If you do notice extra hair on your top lip and it bothers you then it may be wise to continue bleaching this area, or consider waxing, and wax strips can be purchased very cheaply, sometimes even in discount pound stores. But always ask your mum to remove or lighten this hair for you and never try it alone.

  • Hi Vicki

    Can you please do a blog about braces

    Thanks, Anna

    Hi Anna, I will add it to the list.

  • hiii umm soo i am a teen and i really want to go bra shopping in a proper shop without feeling awkward
    i dont have anyone to go along with me
    any tips?

    If you are allowed to go shopping alone you can ask to be measured yourself. But it would be better to speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask them to take you.

  • What sort of questions are deemed innapropiate?

    Any that would cause offence to others or use inappropriate language.

  • What shops sell the teen range

    Most large supermarkets and chemists stock our teens range.

  • Started puberty about 8 years ago and have hair on back, cleavage, nipples, belly button down to pubic hair, fine fair hair at sides of face and darker chin hair. Is this normal??

    Very normal as body hair does become more noticeable during puberty, so please try not to worry.

  • How can I stop having a bad gag reflex? It makes dental work impossible and I am scared to throw up while lying down at the dentist.

    Have a chat to your dentist and I am sure he will be able to offer you some tips on how to relax, you just have to let him know how you feel when in the chair.

  • 20 years old and still have dark hair in between breasts, have had it since I was around 15. Is this normal?

    It is not unusual to have this type of body hair, but if you feel at all concerned then have a chat to your GP.

  • I am a part of a catholic family we go to church every Sunday. There is a boy at my school who is really annoying. I accidently tripped him and all the teachers said it was on purpose. He held up a chair and tried to hit me with it, yet I'm the one who's parents get called. My parents are really disappointed in me and think I've put a bad image on my family. I want the ground to swallow me up I feel so horrible and guilty. What can I do? ;(

    This feeling will pass, you made a mistake and assumptions were made that were not right, but that is life I am afraid. You now have to move on from this episode and in time you will forget what happened and so with everyone else.

  • How do i break up with my boyfriend and tell him i like my guy best friend?

    I would advise you to end your relationship with your boyfriend letting him know you no longer have the same feelings for him and then wait a while before declaring your affection for another boy, to spare everyone's feelings and avoid any arguments.

  • I think I have started my period but it's quite light should I insert a tampon ? because I have dance tonight and I'm gonna have to do splits and stuff!!

    If your period is very light then I would advise you use a pad or liner rather than a tampon.

  • Vicki,
    I have had discharge for a year and a half, still haven't gotten my period. When should I be getting it? Thx.
    ~Sydney~

    Discharge is often noticed for a little longer than discharge and you really do not have anything to worry about, periods arrive at different times for each of us.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Ok so I've always been really thin but now that I'm 13 (I've only been 13 for 2 days but still) I've noticed I've been getting fatter. I even gained 6 pounds over the summer! I just want to know if this is healthy weight... I'm 5"2 and I weigh 123 pounds also I'm 2 days 13....thanks

    During puberty girls do become curvier and you have nothing to worry about, but if you can avoid visiting the scales and instead focus on eating a healthy diet and exercising 3 times a week if you can.

  • Hiya vicki I'm worried! I'm 15 and I haven't had my second period for 9 months I had my first on the 7 january 2014. Is this normal? But in august I found a brown stain in my underwear which lasted a day or two but other than that I've had nothing!! How much longer do you recommend I wait till I go the doctors.

    This brown stain in your underwear was your period as menstrual fluid is very often brown and not red in colour, so you have nothing to worry about.

  • What is the average age for starting your period and ive had discharge for almost 2 years, everyday, do u think I will start my period soon?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 with the average being between 12-13.

  • Hi my name is emily, i have had a school puberty talk and they have got me a bit paranoied about when im going to get my peiod. Do you think i should worry. Also i have started to get breseds before evary one in my year and when we get chaneged for PE i get really embarased and i turn pink (i do were a bra).

    Hi Emily, we all develop at different times to each other and you really have nothing to worry about that you are one of the first in your class to enter puberty, in no time at all, others will start to develop too.

  • when I start my period what do I do if I have a male teacher what do I say to him? what if I'm in pe when I start? I'm really scared

    Teachers will have been trained to deal with all types of situations, including menstruation and you simply have to ask to be excused to visit the toilet and he will understand.

  • I'm going into year 8 all my friends have started there period and my best friends started in year 5! why haven't I started mine like everyone else

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so try not to worry or compare your progress with that of others...we really are all different.

  • I'm feeling very sad recently. I Had a chat to my parents and friends, letting them know I am struggling with puberty and the moods swings that it brings. They don't care. I feel like nobody loves me. So i choose to be in my room the entire summer because they didn't take me to any place and they are always busy. And my friend are travelling with their families :(

    Have another chat to your parents, I am sure if they understand how you truly feel they will want to help so perservere and let them know you are struggling.  Remember too that you can make a change to your moods, so find ways to busy yourself, join a club and fill your time with lots of fun things.

  • Hiya Vicky

    Just wondering of u could answer my question.
    I have had discharge foe about a year now and I and twelve. My mum started her periods at 14 so will I start then or earlier

    Hope u can help me

    Not everyone gets their period at the same times as family members, but with discharge already noticed for a year or so, I doubt you will have much longer to wait, so make sure you have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi vicki I have noticed I have yellow sticky stuff my knickers like a week before my period. It smells a little bit and I'm sexually active?im 14. Please help thanks x.

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a few questions to ask you!
    1. Is it normal to fancy several boys at once? I can get a FIVE boys off my mind?!
    2. I suffer from anxiety when around large groups of people, how can I overcome this?
    3. (Random question) I go to a school where the girls are allowed to wear makeup, so could you suggest a subtle makeup look to me?
    Thank you!
    Joely ;p

    Hi Joely, it is very normal to have crushes on more than one person during your teens and feeling a little nervous when around them or others. Spending time with people and contributing to conversations in small doses should help overcome this anxiety. I am not a huge make-up wearer, but I imagine a little mascara, blusher and clear lip gloss is sufficient for in and out of school.

  • are cloth pads goo to use

    It is a personal choice, they have to be washed through and may not absorb as much menstrual fluid as a standard pad, but like I said it really is up to the individual.

  • URGENT ISSUE -PLEASE ANSWER 😩
    Ok so I know for sure that my dad has HSV... I don't know if my dad and my step mum has controlled it for all this while with condoms ... But when I was younger I found my step mums toy.. I can't remember f I used it or not ... I'm so scared and I want to know if I have it or not ... Is there a way of knowing with having the shame of telling my parents ...

    I would speak to your parents about this matter as if your dad has HIV it would be a good idea for you to understand what this means for you all as a family.

  • I want to measure myself but I don't have a tape and I don't want mum to find out

    Try using a piece of string or wool and measuring it against a ruler. Or you could have a chat to your mum and ask if you can be measured professionally in store.

  • What do you get before you periods I've heard horro stories how there's so much pain going through them is this true and what would you expect

    Not everyone experiences discomfort either before or during their period and for those that do, the discomfort can be eased by gentle exercise.

  • Hi vicky
    I've been having discharge for over a mounth now and I'm only ten does this mean I'm having my periods soon or what does it mean ❓

    Discharge is a sign that your body is maturing and one part of that is your period, so it may be a good idea to keep some pads and liners with you from now on, just in case your period arrives.

  • Hi the other day there was almost like a ball of brown discharge in my underwear then the next day there was some light brownish discharge with some normal discharge. Was this my period?

    This could have been your period yes, so why share this news with your mum and she will either confirm or deny it for you.

  • My breasts started to develop about 2 years ago I'm currently a 34a but my boobs haven't grown in ages when my nipples get little bumps on does that mean they're growing if not what does 🍀🍀🌷🌷

    Breasts often take a break from development and I am sure you have nothing to worry about and as for nipples, these lilttle lumps are very normal.

  • Part 4
    She was shouting in my face saying how annoying I was being to her apparently I kept telling her not to do this and that. But thats what she was doing to me! Now she keeps picking on everything I say and its really annoying. I'm scared to tell a teacher because she will be mean if I tell of her. What shall I do?????
    Soorry its so long!
    Thanks from Chloe

    Hi Chloe, if you do not want to speak to a teacher then stand up for yourself. Stop (I) in her tracks when she starts shouting at you and tell her that you are not prepared to listen to her when she is being unreasonable and loud and then walk away. Do not give her the chance to obstruct your views and friendships with other and I am sure other girls who feel she is bullying them too will be glad you have been so brave and be supportive of your stance. If this is not for you then speak to a teacher or find a new group of friends to hang out with.

  • Part 3
    Then todayshe was being slightly annoying by being silly trying to takea friends chocolates by leaning across to the other bench where the other girl was sitting. I then tried to pull her arm back so i could get up. The oother girl was getting annoyed with hertoo. She suddenly pulled her arm back and elbowed my shoulder.

  • Part 2
    So i didnt give her any and she did pull my hair! It really hurt as she cricked my neck! I didnt tell a teacher cos I new she would get angry with me. I then mentioned it to another friend later on and she heard and shouted at me in my face! Then the next day these boys were being mean to her and i stood up for her trying to stay freinds..

  • Hello, I'm 15 and my periods are getting more regular but they aren't every month. I went to the loo and at first I thought I'd started my period because it has been just more than 1 month but it was a lot lighter than usual. I don't know what it means? :/

    Periods can be light or heavy from one period to the next, just like they can have short or long gaps between each one. So please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki, at my school there is a group of about 10 of us and we are all good friends, but there's one girl in our group (I) and she has anger issues but me and another girl realised she is only using this as an excuse to be mean or nasty. She seems to think she can do anything like two days ago I gave one of my friends a tiny bit of chocolate and then she said to me if I dont give her some then she would pull my hair (i thought she meant as a joke)
    Part 1

    My response is in Part Four.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Recently i read a book which was based on a love story and i cant stop rereading it!!! I keep on wishing that i was the girl in the story and the boy loved me..... Any suggestions???

    There is nothing wrong with a little bit of escapism which is what this is so try not to worry.

  • Vicky when i run my period drips a lot and i get dizzy quickly what should i do?

    Eat a little more and more often and remember to drink plenty of fluids during your periods and when active.

  • Hi, i have just finished my period but i am still feeling cranky and irritable. Why is this?

    Mood swings are not always associated with just your periods and can very often be experienced during your teenage years and early twenties.

  • Hi, i have a really funny and awkward situation. I like this boy and he likes me (we both know it) but we can't stand it when we have to sit next to each other or even if we have to sit on the same table. However if we are on different sides of the classroom we just stare at each other lol i seriously don't know what's going on. Could you help? Why is this? Thanks x

    It seems you and this boy are not yet ready to share your feelings with anyone else, which I have to say is very normal and will change as you get older and mature.

  • Hi, I started my period a couple of weeks ago and it was very heavy at the start, getting lighter, but it still lasted for 8'days! I heard that most girls get really light first periods, so is there something wrong?

    This is a myth and periods can be light or heavy regardless of your age and can last for between 2-10 days, so you have nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki! So there is this boy... He is very nice and kind, very, very. Girls don't usually hang out with guys in our class but yesterday we had a really nice talk and he is always so kind to me and says that i'm pretty and tells me that everybody that's rude to me is well rude because everybody wants to be like me and he wanted to see pictures on my phone and i don't like him sooo much but with all those talks i think i'm starting to develop some feelings... What do you think does he like me?

    It does seem that he likes you a little and if you feel the same way then consider getting to know him better for now.

  • Hi, I wanted to know how to not let little things get to you. Like, at school all of the boys are really silly (even though we are in Year 8) and they tease me. Well to be honest they tease EVERYONE, even each other. So I wouldn't call it bullying or anything because it doesn't happen a lot. How can I just brush it off? I want to lean how to boost my self esteem and just ignore it. What are the best ways to ignore all of this silliness? I really want to know, because it really gets to me sometimes. xxx

    Ignoring someone and understanding that it really is not personal to you, is my advice.

  • Hi, it is concerning if you have a heavy period? because you know when people say that you can bleed to death, does that count in periods. like, is your period a different kind of blood or something? Just wondering...

    Menstrual fluid is very different from the blood released from say for instance a cut and there really is not need to worry. You may find my blog on Menstrual Fluid a useful read too.

  • Hi! I had my first period when I was 12, in February. I am now 13, and as it's been around 7 months since I last had my period, I was wondering if something may be wrong?
    I'm not sexually active, everything else seems to be normal, could you help me please?!:) is it worth going to the doctor?:)

    Sorry I asked this before but the answer isn't there, and I'm really worried!!

    Periods can be irregular during your teen years with gaps of several months between each one and this is generally nothing to worry about.

  • hi Vicki
    thanks for the advise about cheer and swimming,
    but i vas just wondering whats your hymen?
    Dusty :-)

    Hi Dusty, the hymen is a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina. And you can find out all about this part of your body by reading my blog on your reproductive system,.

  • I found out earlier today that my dad has Cancer in his eye. To say the least, I'm absolutely distraught and I can't stop crying. I'm petrified and can't bear the thought of losing my dad because he's my role model, we're really super close. I'm going to school tomorrow, but I know that I'm going to cry. I really don't want to cry at school, because I'm now in high school (year 10) and there's so many older kids who'll look at me like I'm some idiot. Help me Vicki, I don't know how to cope.

    I am sure your dad is getting the best possible treatment available and he will rely on you to give him lots of love and support during this time. As for school...or anywhere in fact...it's ok to cry when we feel overwhelmed by something. There really is nothing to be embarrassed about by showing others how you truly feel and I am quite sure classmates will understand and support you.

  • a boy and I have a crush on each other and we know it. I want to take this to the next level (relationship). I don't have the courage to tell him how. pls tell me how do I convince him

    If you care for him then get to know him even better and you never know things may develop naturally without you having to say a word.

  • Vicki,
    You are the only person who can help me,
    My friend is insane.she had a boyfriend but they both broke up for no reason.ages later a boy proposed her but she refused and she proposed the guy's friend. And now when she went to her gran's place she started having a huge crush on the neighbor's son.she wants to break up with her present boyfriend and according to me she is doing wrong,I want her to change her mind and tell her that what she's doing is wrong.tell me what to do.
    Regards,
    Chloe

    Hi Chloe, this really is your friend's business as to who or who she does not date and whilst you can advise her it really is her choice, who she dates.

  • i have been having discharge from second grade, i am in 5th grade now and my tummy hurt last night, today i got stringy brown red stuff in my undies is this a period?

    Yes this does sound very much like your period, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I went on the web today,and saw that my mum had been searching ?? I read the Wikipedia thing,and it says that it occurs in teens and preteens. And I'm that age! I got really worried-does my mum think that there's something wrong with me? I am shaking right now as I write this. Could you please look up conduct disorder and read it for me? I read bits of it and now I'm really worried. (Like I said.) Thanks,
    Marie.
    P.S I'm the girl who wrote the thing about me punching myself.

    Hi Marie, the internet is a great place for looking up and investigating lots of subjects you would never have considered before and I am sure your mum was just being curious and you have nothing to be anxious about, but if you have any concerns or queries then why not ask her outright, letting her know it has worried you.

  • Hi Vicki. So I'm 11 years old and I'm obsessed with a boyband named 'One Direction' <3 is it normal ??

    Yes very normal and with so much press activity around these talented boys, it's no wonder you have a crush, but it will subside as you get older.

  • Hey it's Chloe my breasts get a bit itchy or have pain in them is there something wrong? And I just wanted to tell you as a young 12 year old girl you have helped me so much. You are amazing Vicki. Xox

    Hi Chloe, this tenderness and itchy feeling is very normal during breast development and whilst uncomfortable is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicky. I want to try Lil-Lets pads and tampons, but I live in Lebanon and there's no Lil-Lets here what should I do ?? Thanks

    The great news is that we are currently working with a team in the Lebanon and our range should be in stores very soon.

  • Hi Vicki. When I don't have my period, i see sometimes a yellow liquid in my underwear. What is it and is it normal? Thanks

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, you can find out more about this fluid by clicking on our Puberty tab.

  • Hi Vicki. So, I see other girls putting make-up on, doing hairstyles, dressing very good etc... I want to be like them!! I'm insecure, don't know what for... Last time I went shopping with my parents everyone was so stylish and pretty exept of me. I really want to be like this.. how do I tell my mom that I want more clothes, make-up, shoes, etc.. thanks!! :)

    Why not start with small little changes, for instance a new hairstyle, then when you feel more confident maybe a clear lip gloss. And remember that one of the most attractive thing is being confident with yourself and staying true to what you like rather than being one of the crowd.

  • I'm convinced that I have a binge eating problem I have researched binge eating and I experience most, if not all of the symptoms and I want to go and see my GP about it. The problem is, no matter how many times I tell my mum, she thinks that I'm over-reacting. I feel like I really need to get this sorted because I am not happy with my body and I feel like binge-eating could be the problem. The real question is, am I able to make and attend a doctor's appointment without my parent's knowledge? -Georgia

    Hi Georgia, legally yes you can visit your GP for a chat, but legally your GP can, if he feels there is a need to do so, inform your parents of your visit and concerns.

  • Is it normal that I don't feel any pleasure when I finger myself. Btw is it normal to do this at my age, 11.
    Thanks x

    Please don't feel you have to insert a finger inside your vagina, just because others do and certianly not if you do not feel any pleasure from doing so, which is very normal I have to say.

  • Hi Vicki. So now it's been a year since I've got my period. When I first got it I told my mom, she gave me a pad. Now that I watch on youtube videos about periods and growing up, I found out that my mom never told me there's something named 'tampon'. I don't know why, maybe she don't want me to know about it or maybe she'll be afraid if I put something in my vagina... but I really want to try tampons. What should I tell her and how? Thanks !!

    Girls very often start using pads and then if they wish to move on to tampons when they have had a few more periods. So why not have a chat to your mum and ask her if you can try our Lil-lets teens tampons, ideal for first time users.

  • Hi vicki,
    Love the website by the way. I'm currently wondering about my boobs. They are quite small if that is needed to know, and if I touch one they feel hard inside. Just wondering, are these real boobs or still buds? By the way, I am currently wearing a 28aa bra because it fits and feels comfy.
    India xx

    Hi India, I would say this is still breast development and you have plenty more growth to come.

  • Sometimes, I hate school. Can I just give up on it and go be a porn star/ I mean, why not. You get paid for having sex. No GCSE's needed. People think Im joking but I'm serous.

    Lady P P L A A E M (a.k.a the POSH BITCH LOL)

    I am sure we can all think of what we consider easy ways to make a living but an education is vital for whatever career you choose to follow, so continue with your studies and think of all the exciting career paths you can follow.

  • I love my friends they make me so happy, how do I show how much they mean to me?

    Love them, love you, love and peace xxx

    Simply by being a good friend and chatting to them when they need your support is the best way to show how much you care.

  • My friend C D denies liking this guy called J C, but I am sure that there is SOMETHING going on between them. They keep looking at each other - generally she looks at him- they laugh together, they have banter, and he makes fun of her weird wave, but only joking. They look good together (even tho hes a little large), and....I SHIP THEEEEEMMMMM! Do you think that it sounds like they like each other as in want to date? Or are they just friends???

    Love, Disney-Anime-HarryPotter-FREAK

    Hi, it seems they may like each other but may not yet be ready to share this affection with others, which is quite normal and as a good friend I am sure you will be there to support your friend when she needs it.

  • Hi vikki,

    So I'm 11 and last christmas(2013) a boy I really liked asked me out. I said no. It was the biggest mistake I've ever made and I felt really bad after I'd said it. We're now at different high schools and I still like him, but we email and text each other and he said he doesn't like me. Please help. Should I ask him out and say I'm sorry for saying no?

    PoppyPrincess14

    You could let him know that you regret your answer to his question of last Christmas and leave it with him to mull over. He may then change the way he feels about you.

  • Hey, when im having my period, it feels very sore and itchy. Is this normal? :-) xxx Thanks

    It may be the type of sanitary protection you are wearing does not suit your skin type and you may find switching to another brand a great option and a way of reducing this irritation.

  • One of my best friends is on Wattpad should I get an account\/?

    If your parents are happy for you to do so and you feel it will be useful then why not. But please don't feel you have to visit this site simply because your friend does.

  • I HATE HOMEWORK!!!!!!!!!

    You are not alone, but by being disciplined and spending a set time each night doing homework you can still find plenty of time for yourself and hobbies.

  • Hi vikki
    I'm Maisie and i really love your website, it tells me not to be scared when I start puberty and not to be embarrassed about my body. Thank you so much!

    Hi Maisie, thank you so much for your support.  I'm happy that you feel reassured.

  • Hi Vicki!

    I've got a question. So I was at school and I'm Year 10 and 14 years old and when I was walking home to day from the bus I can a lot of girls looking at me and giving me a bad look? What does it mean? And I've checked my face and there wasn't anything? Plus i'm a (Girl)

    Thank you

    I am sure this was just one group of girls checking out another girl and this happens during puberty as someone compares their development with others and is nothing to worry about.

  • Sorry if this is inappropriate ...
    Basically it's not the first time this has happened but like a few nights ago it was really itchy 'down there' and I scratched it really hard and so ever since it hurts to clean my down there when I go toilet like really stings but I think it may be the inside of my butt cheeks but I'm really scared because could this affect my chance to conceive when I'm older?!

    Thanks Vicki blueeebunny:)

    It seems you have been a  little rough when scratching this area, but don't worry this will not cause any lasting damage and certainly not effect your ability to have children in the future.

  • My brown discharge has turned red so I must be in my period😅 right? Now I am scared to tell my mum! Like really scared!! I was gunna text her but I freake out and tomorrow I have PE and Horse Riding and I need to tell her ASAP!! So how!! Please reply today!!💕. Iloveeatingmaltesers xx

    Why not write her a note letting her know your period is here and you now need some products to protect your underwear. Leave the note in her make-up bag or underwear drawer so only she can find it.

  • PART THREE from meh, Danni, AGAIN. Anyway, do you think that he likes me? I would ask, but would this ruin our friendship? In my head, I am convinced he likes me; it may be my imagination but he KEEPS LOOKING AT ME AND SMILING NERVOUSLY, but maybe its all in my head.

    God, I am so confused. Please help, Vicky. Thankyou so much.

    Danni!!!! xxxxx

    He may like you Danni, but not yet be mature enough to share this news with his and your friends. My advice would be to continue being friends and see how that goes for now.

  • PART TWO
    I have no clue whether J likes me or not - he has said before that I was "eww," but that was before we got closer and I started catching him looking at me. He's my everything; I think that he's the One. I'm thirteen, and he's thirteen too. If I were to ask him out, he would probably think that I was joking and vice versa, because all of my friends say we should be together as a joke. And he makes me laugh, we get on well, even though he jokingly makes fun of me as a joke.

  • PART ONE
    Hello Vicky! This is Danni. I have had a crush on this guy since before last christmas. We get on well and hang around in the same group of friends. We have a bit of banter; we generally get along.
    I have not told anyone about me fancying him, not even my best friends, yet they 'ship' us. We even have a ship name. We are S's OTP (One True Pairing), and she thinks that we are perfect for each lother. On the other hand, my other friend thinks that I am way too good for him (lets call him 'J')

    My response is in Part Three.

  • Hey there Vickyy!!!
    I feel that I have WAY to much homework now that I'm in year nine. So far, I've had a t least one piece a day - AND I HATE KIT. Its such a waste of time, but there is n o way around it. I hate my school.
    Help?
    Thankyou, bae xxx

    Hi Bae, homework is something students have to get used to and having something to do on a daily basis is not unusual. However, if you are struggling and feel you need some guidance, then have a chat to your tutors who will offer you some tips on how to handle and manage homework better.

  • Hi Vicki, I think I started my period today but I'm still not sure because when I went to the toilet, I wiped and there was blood on the tissue but there was a brown stain in my knickers. It might be because I've been a little ill the past few days, but I really need your help ASAP!? Laura 14 xx

    Hi Laura, this was your period so try not to worry and be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Vicki, umm is it wrong to search up penis in google imiges...cuz Ive never seen one and I am curious..?

    It is not wrong and lots of people are curious but try not to over goodgle one penis is very much like another.

  • I was just wondering....do you know which hole do chickens lay their eggs from? Do they have a vagina..or does it come from the bum hole..? Sorry if inapproapriare Im just a bit interested in animals. Thanks..lol. hehh

    Chickens, as well as other birds, have a common opening for reproduction, and for the evacuation of stools and eggs, this opening is called the "vent".

  • hey vicky i was at my bf's house with his friends yesterday and he left the room to go and get something and then his bestfriend came really close to me and started whispering in my ear about how he really likes me. then he fullly kissed me on the lips and stopped just before my bf came in. who should i tell about this? do u think my bf will be mad if he finds out? im 12 btw.

    thanks for all your help. livvy xxx

    Hi Livvy, your boyfriend would be the best person to speak to about this and he can then have a chat to his friend letting him know his behaviour is not that of a true friend.

  • Im confused as to how S regards me.
    I found out he wanted my number through other girls (they voluntarily told me ONFRONT of him!) But he hasn't asked for it . In crowds, I noticed he smiles at me more and does silly things like thumbs-up and silly faces, and standing right beside me (but not talking to me.)
    Would I be right in thinking he's just shy?!
    P.s I really like him!

    11/9/14 at 7:47

    It would appear this boy likes you but is not yet ready to share this news with others, so be patient, be friendly and see what happens in a few months when he feels more confident.

  • Hey Vicki I was just wondering.. Well I'm 12 and I got my first u know... It lasted two days and yet I got nothing today. Is there something wrong with me?

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have hairs around my inner breast area and i think that no one else has it and is it only me or is there something wrong with me I don't even know if it is normal

    xxKitty

    Hi Kitty, it is perfectly normal to notice hair development in places all over the body during puberty so try not to worry.

  • Hi, Vicki
    I recently asked a question a few days ago about boys and i cant find it. it had two parts. Please can you tell me what the answer is! :)
    M

    Hi M, I receive many hundreds of questions each day, so my advice is to use a word you believed was in your question and use this word in our keyword search to find my answer.

  • For about a week or so I have had like a dark brown gooey discharge what does that mean and should I tell my guardian about it ? Also I'm 13 and only wear a B32 is that normal for the height of 4ft 10in and the weight of 90

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi I really need your help ive been bestfriends with this girl for 11 years are mums r bestfriend too so I got to see her a lot but about a year aho she left me for someone else she a year older than me and she wont evan talk to me for about a year now and I alalways see her I get depressed and cut I can't help it but I am really upset. Please reply im getting so upset

    Please have a chat to your mum and let her know how sad you feel about this change to your relationship between you and your friend. And whilst she will not be able to change the situation, she may be able to help you manage your feelings better and move on to a new friendship group.

  • My friend and I are having a problem with a girl in a few of our classes. She follows us around and butts into our conversations. We are nice to her, but we want to find some way to tell her she is getting annoying.
    Thanks,
    CWB

    Hi CWB, this girl clearly wants to be friends with you so why not be nice and friendly to her in the few lessons that you have together.

  • Hi Vicki. So now, it's been a year since I got my period. When I first got it I told my mom, she gave me a pad. Now that I watch videos about period and growing up, I found out that my mom never told me there was a thing named "tampon". I know it's weird!! I don't know why she never told me that. Maybe she don't want me to know about tampons or she don't want me to put anything in my vagina. But I want to try tampons and I don't know what to tell her. Please help?? Thanks :)

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.  When the time is right and you feel ready to try tampons, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • My period is SUPER heavy and hurts SOOO much! I was wondering how to relieve the pain because hot water bottles don't work and also how to relieve the pain at school when I have nothing?? I was once physically sick because of the pain as well, how do I avoid that? And I can't take tablets.
    😄😄😄😄😄😄😄😄

    As your periods are quite heavy and you seem to experience a lot of discomfort, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey Vicki, do most people have one boob a bit bigger than the other or is it rather unusual ? Xxx

    It is perfectly normal to notice more development in one breast than the other so try not to worry as there is no such thing as two perfectly symmetrical breasts.

  • Why is my period so heavy I have to change my pad every hour and it soaks through my underwear and I get unbearable pain every month

    As your period is persistently very heavy, ask your mum or guardian to arrange an appointment with your GP.

  • I am 15 I started my periods about a year and a half ago and after a few months I got into a really regular pattern and my period came every 28 day then it just stopped and I haven't had my period for about four months and im quite worried. Normally my period is pretty heavy and I get bad cramps. I have still occasionally been getting cramps that feel like period pain over the last four months but they only last a few minutes and I don't know what I should do

    It can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry. 

  • Im nearly 16 and my bra size is 30AA and its so embarrassing, will I get any bigger because all of my friends make fun of me and I feel really uncomfortable about my body

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to others and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Everytime I'm with or around boys and they touch me I get a tingling down below and I get a yellow liquid come into my knickers? Is this normal help???

  • I find red spots on the lower area I think might be from shaving how do I get rid

    It is really a case of waiting for the irritation to pass.

  • So I went to the loo last nite and there was nothing in my knickers but when I wiped there was some spotting. I wasnt sure if this was my period or not so I checked again and the same thing happened. Then bout 2 hours later before I went to bed there was nothing in my knickers and when I wiped there just the usual discharge which ive been having for about 18 months. I put on a pantyliner when inwent to bed but I am unsure. Is this the early stages if my period or my peroid please help

    tnx xxx

    The spot of blood you noticed was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicky
    Just under two weeks ago I began my first period and it still hasn't ended
    Should I be worried ?

    If you find that you become more tired than normal and feel lethargic, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • I am really self conscious. I am 12 and I dont wear any type of croptop / bra all I have is vests. How do I bring the topic up with my mum as its is difficult getting dresed for p.e now and its kinda an emergency now!

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about wanting to wear a bra.  Why not start the conversation by asking how old she was when she first started wearing a bra? For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi! I had my first period when I was 12, in February. I am now 13, and as it's been around 7 months since I last had my period, I was wondering if something may be wrong?
    I'm not sexually active, everything else seems to be normal, could you help me please?!:) is it worth going to the doctor?:)

  • H Vicki, so when I was 9 I fell off my bike and landed on the corner of my seat. Later that evening I found a lot of blood in my pants, and it was about the same amount as you would loose on the heaviest day on your period. I felt a really sharp pain and was just wondering did i stretch/break my hymen. I know it was years ago, I'm just curious. I'm nearly 16, love this site. Thankyou. Monkey 🙊 xxx

    Hi Monkey, this is possible but doubtful as there seems to have been rather a lot of blood released.

  • Hi Vicki, um I started discharge last year and I still haven't had my period I'm really paranoid because what if came in the night or at school, and I feel anxious about it, like getting angry and getting into trouble and arguments. I'm so concerned and abit to paranoid because I always check the toilet and pants too, how do you know if its your period

    Just be sure to wear pant liners and you will be prepared as they will not only protect you from the effect so f discharge but also from possible leakage too.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to get stressed out about them.

  • Hi vicki I need your help

    A couple of girls in my year have done things to boys or had things done to them ( I don't want to say what exsactly as I'm trying to make this sound apropriat) anyways I feel like I want to try a couple of thing but not sex as I'm only 14 so my question is is it illigal for 14 year old to do this sort of stuff ? Xx thanks so sorry if this is inapropriat xxx may you put this in sex and sexual feelings please ? Xx

    The law is fairly clear that any form of sexual intimacy under the age of 16 is not lawful.

  • Hi vicki,
    I have a really big crush on this boy. He is kinda my friend and people say he likes me too what shall I do??

    If you like him then get to know him better but do not push things to far as it may be he is not yet ready to share his feelings publically.

  • Hey vicki,
    so my bf bday cominq up & since skatinq is his thinq i wanna buy him brands of skate clothinq since wheels & a board are a lil too much $, the thinq is idk if he'll like it or not (its qunna be mailed since he away).

    I am sure your friend will like anything you buy him.

  • HI vicki, why don't you never answer my questions , its really confusing for me to figure out some things at this age but when i ask you never reply :/

    Please be sure to make a note of your unique refernce number so you can find your responses more easily.  The only time i don't answer a question is if it is deemed inappropriate.

  • At school we got this leaflet about cervical cancer with this letter so we can get jabs at school. Lots of girls and boys are saying it hurts lot is that true? On the scale from one to ten how much will it hurt?

    It is a moment of discomfort for a lifetime of protection from cervical cancer so please try not to worry.  When the vaccination is being done, look away and it will be over before you know it.

  • Hello
    Today in science i knocked my right breast and now its hurting ! It hurts around the nipple and it hurts a little bit on my left breast ( im 12 and my boobs budded around 2 years ago) what is this ?
    From Sparrow31

    Hi Sparrow31, it is perfectly normal to notice sore, tender breasts with development so please try to be more careful in future.  You might find that having a soak in a warm bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Just wanted to say to the person named Kara that it must be dreadful x Things will get better if you report it to a teacher or parents x It's classed as bullying and those people shouldn't be doing it. Keep note of everyone who says something and tell the teacher or leave a note if u feel more comfortable that way. Don't worry though most people won't believe it at all!

    Thank you for showing your support for Kara and offering good advice.

  • Hello !!
    Ive had discharge for ages now and it looks slightly green 😰😰😰 is this normal ?!!! Please reply ASAP im so worried !!
    From Lily

    Hi Lily, it is normal for discharge to appear yellow/green when it dries out so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners to help you feel fresh and clean down there.

  • HI Vicki,
    How old should you be to kiss someone? I know it depends on people, but what do you think? ~ Zoe x

    Hi Zoe, everyone matures at a different age so it would be difficult for me to say.  A first kiss is the most natural thing in the world and when the time is right you and your boyfriend will know.

  • I have been trying the lil lets teens light to medium mini tampons with the applicator I'm sure it's in right is it ment to be unconfortable at first try or a tampon?

    The trick to preventing uncomfortable tampons is to insert the tampon high enough into the vagina so only the cord is showing.  All it takes is a little practice and for you to be as relaxed as possible.

  • I'm katelyn and I'm 12 years old I want bigger boobs to fit in with my friends I'm only a size 30aa and my friend is a 34b and 34c help me xx

    Hi Katelyn, try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So basically, I've had discharge for around 3-2 years and it's pretty heavy. I've also started 'developing' recently (a couple of months ago) and heard this might be a sign that I might start my period soon is this true? What other signs are there and how long do u think I will start? I also get some strange feelings down there sometimes so and have a lot of hair in those kinda places! Hope u can help! LoveHeart9102 xxx

    Hi LoveHeart9102, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, i can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • i was waiting outside maths today, and this boy in my year walked passed me and he touched my back, i think he was trying to touch my bum but missed. 2 of my friends were standing in front of me and they said that he was looking at me top to bottom but mainly staring bottom half of me (bum). Do you know why he would do that? We're in year 10 thank you x

    This boy may like you romantically but that does not mean he has the right to touch you so intimately.

  • Hi vicki,

    My friend who doesnt know i like this boy she said we suited because we laugh togethor alot and all that cute stufff and he just went silent and smiled awkardly ehat does this mean ???

    It may mean people can see by your body language that you and this boy like each other and is nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm probably a bit too old for this site (16!) but it has helped my younger sister so whatever. Pretty much I've been an open lesbian for just over 2 years now (although I was sure of my sexuality much younger) and I have a girlfriend of 3 months but more recently I've been noticing boys? Firstly, could this be a phase at my age? I'v never even considered being bi before... And is it normal to look at other people and think about them while in another relationship? Many thanks in advance!

    It is normal to find you question your sexuality throughout your teens and rather than worry about labelling yourself sexually, give yourself time to find the right person to give your affection to, regardless of their gender.

  • Hi Vicki! So 3 days ago I wiped my down there after the toilet and had a few small specks of blood and a few bloods clots. Then the next day a slight pinkish tint to my discharge and for yesterday and today I have had a mud-brown colour discharge? WHAT'S GOING ON? WHEN IS MY PERIOD? I already got my FIRST period BTW.
    From DesperateHelpPlease xxx

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  it might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki a night or two before I have my period, I sometimes can't sleep because I'm too hot. Is this normal? Because I have noticed a pattern with it, and my mum said its happened to her before too. Thanks Txxx

    Very occasionally your temperature can rise very slightly during or just before your period and is nothing to be worried about. Consider wearing lighter bed clothes or leave a window slightly ajar.

  • Can you kiss your boy best friend on the lips? And what else can you do with your boy best friend eg. Hug...

    If he is your friend then I see no reason why you should kiss him anyhwere but on the cheek.

  • there's this new guy started in my school I'm now in year 10 and he's so good looking,I want to get to know him better but I'm not in any off his lessons and I hardly see him around school but he's quite shy as well,i really do like him and most people say we would be a good couple but,it's impossible to have a little kiss with someone at my school without it going round our whole year? And if you two are 'onit' then everybody judges you and whoever your onit with?
    ~mia💞

    Hi Mia, if this boy is new then get to know him as a friend first and you may find that slowly you become closer quite naturally without forcing anything.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Today,as I entered school,all my friendship were talking about the cervical cancer injections. I don't know a lot about it-the injection and the cervical cancer itself. My friend wants me to have it,because otherwise she will be one of the only girls to have the injection. I said no,but she's still trying to make me. Should I have the injection? What are the pros and cons? Thanks,
    Fleur

    Hi Fleur, the HPV inoculation is given to girls at around the age of 12-13 and offers tremendous benefits in preventing cervical cancer when you are older.  For more help and information, check out my blog on HPV Inoculation.

  • I'm 11 and get really bad mood swings is there anytng to help me some days I just want shut the whole world out for no reason xx

    Everything you're feeling is common in teens during puberty as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  It is so important that you talk about your feelings to your family and friends as chances are your friends are going through similar feelings too.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest levels leaving teens susceptible to stress so none of this is your fault.  If you feel yourself getting upset, try to distract your thinking and do something else that makes you happy like dancing to your favourite musci or watching a funny film.  Talking about your feelings is the key to success and helping you to feel better.

  • Hi Vicki I'm a massive fan of this blog
    I'm really worried i started my period last Friday and now I have been on it for a week and a half is this normal
    Thanks x

    Thank you for your support.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  If your period should last much longer and you notice that you are feeling more tired than usual, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi viki
    I have a crush on a boy in my year he's really nice and funny and a all his mates found out I like him and keep saying Sam ( the name of the boy) likes me but he says he doesn't to his mates ( but he knew I was listening so I don't know whether he meant it or not) but I'm not sure because one of his best friends asked me out the day before he found out that I liked him and I said no in a nice way but could this affect his opinion on me ??
    Liza
    Xx

    There is only one way to find out if Sam really likes you and that is by asking him yourself.

  • Hi Vicki, a month ago was my first period. Now it's my second period and this time is brown almost black! Is this bad? What's wrong with me?! Thanks for your time xx

    Try not to worry as brown/black blood is simply old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • What can I do?
    I don't want to we're pads or anything but my vagina smells and tomorrow in p.e I have to sit on my frends shoulders and I think she might be able to smell it. What can I do?
    P.s I have not yet started my periods and my 14 birthday is on the 12th of September so plez respond ASAP
    Thank u
    Lotty Mae

    Try not to worry as it is normal for everyone's vagina to have a slight odour and that is perfectly natural.  However, you might like to consider using a pant liner, some Lil-Lets Freshen-Up wipes or wearing an extra pair of underwear to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Yesterday I went to the toilet and noticed a kind of pale brown discharge mixed with normal stuff, but not very much of it. I thought it might be my period but I wasn't sure. I went to the toilet later, it had dried and was a dark brown. I thought it was probably my period, so I used a liner as it was really light. I had some pale brown stuff on the liner later and I was sure it was my period so I put on a pad for the night. In the morning pad was clean and I've had none today. Was it my period?

  • Hi Vicki,
    I really loved your blog on "summer bag essentials." Do you think you could do one for autumn/winter or for school??

    Thanks xoxo

    Thank you.  I will pass your suggestion on to the team.

  • I havent eaten for nearly 2 weeks now in order to lose weight,
    I have lost 7 pounds and im getting frightened to eat in case I get fat
    Im 6 stone 2 ponds and im twelve, is this normal. My best freind elsa says shes gonna tell the teacher if i carry on like I am doing. But she doesnt understand, I HAVE to lose weight I HAVE to be pretty cos I really want to impress my crush. D you think shell tell?

    Bella xxxx

    In starving yourself of food, you are doing a very dangerous thing as this can cause serious harm to your body.  Puberty can be a most demanding and difficult time due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and it's little wonder that teens develop a poor self-image and have an irrational fear of gaining weight.  Elsa is right to be worried about you too so please act now and talk to your parents or a trusted teacher at school about what you've been doing.  You really shouldn't put so much importance on being thin meaning that you will be pretty and boys will like you.  Boys will like you for who you are and not for being thin. 

  • My entire family is religious. None of them are atheists and lately my dad has been telling me more about praying and the stories, but he hasn't stopped to consider that I don't believe any of that. I havenk( started my period yet, but when I do he's gonna get really serious and make fast and stuff.I have no idea how he'll react coz I'm the oldest and I have no one else to talk to about it. Help!

    The only thing you can do is talk to your dad about your feelings and hope that he takes your opinion into consideration.  I think it is good to find out information about all different religions before deciding on what you believe in but you really should have respect for your parent's beliefs if they are different to yours.

  • Hi! I'm in year 8 and I'm really unhappy with my French lessons. All we've been doing for two hours a week is have the teacher at the front of the room doing actions and we have to copy. It's so annoying because we're top set and meant to be learning past and future tense and stuff like that for GCSE not the stuff were doing right now! It's just so annoying!

    If you don't think you're learning enough in your French lesson, ask your parents or guardians to talk to your school about it.

  • I am currently wearing a 36b but im skinny and only wear 36 because the cup size for 34 didnt fit me, the 36 firs me but do you think i should just wear a 34 or 32c instead of a 36b? Natss x

    The best thing to do is to try on some different styles and sizes until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki, yesterday I looked in my underwear and there was a dark bron stain in there, not black but really quite dark brown. And today there is some in my pants too but it isn't as dark and when I wipe there is a small bit of brown on the paper. Is this my period? Because it happened same time last month too. And I told a frend and she said it wasn't my period but I have had it twice now around the same time both months!! Please reply! And why isn't it red? I haven't had cramps? Iloveeatingmaltesers💕

    Hi Iloveeatingmaltesers, brown blood is simply old blood so please try not to worry as this is simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • I'm a swimmer and my period has just started I pay for my lessons in groups but I'm scared my money will be wasted because I cannot attend due to my period I'm going to have to do P.E swimming in school to around after the October holidays and now one has got it that I now of I sit at the side of the pool but I hear people saying things is the anyway I could go swimming on my period or hide it during my clubs and lessons x

    As there is no alternative to wearing tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might be interested in trying our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which have been desiged especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and for you to be relaxed.

  • Hey Vicki!

    Ok, so I was wondering what is a good weight for someone who is about 5 foot 7? I'm 8 stone and I don't feel that is healthy! I don't have a chubby belly, I just went on the scales and that is what it said! Now I'm really self- conscious! ;(

    The best way of maintaining a healthy body weight is to stick to a healthy, balanced diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and by being as active as possible.  It is normal to feel massive self-doubt as you go through puberty as there are so many physical changes occurring all at once so look at ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is it ok to have hairy nipples?
    Sorry this if this is inappropriate

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, im 14 and im a bit worried. I think my period is coming out as discharge. It comes about every 1-2-3 months and lasts for like 5 days. Only thing is, is that there is also brownish-red stuff aswell and im certain its discharge not an actual period. Please help!!

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works by keeping our vaginas clean and free of infection and lets us know that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  The 'brownish-red stuff' you noticed is your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • My mum keeps saying that I'm horrible. And since I'm quite smart, she gets really angry if I don't get an a on my report card. This only happens every month so I think it's her period and her hormones but I'm scared what she's going to do if I don't do very well in my GCSEs next year.

    Please sit down and tell your mum how you feel.  Tell her that you've noticed that she becomes a little nasty with you around the time of her period and you feel worried about what she might do if you do badly in your GCSEs.  Try to remember that all you can ever do is your best so if you're doing that, you shouldn't have to worry. 

  • hi vicky,
    I've been having cramps, feeling bloated, getting discharge and getting mood swings but my period has'nt started yet. I thought you could only get cramps whilst you were on your period? And do you think it will come soon?

    It's true that you've noticed many of the signs that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives but the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I had my first period a month Sunday and it has not came again. Is this normal and will it come again? Lucy.s

    Hi Lucy, try not to worry as in the early stages of the mentrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki I think I have started my period today it's only been a few weeks since my first one. Is it normal for it to be brown again? Is it anything to do with my age? I'm nearly 13.

    Ayesha :)

    Hi Ayesha, try not to worry as brown blood is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Can periods hurt? I am going to be 12 next month...and I've had vaginal
    discharge for about a year and a half, and I still haven't gotten my period. Can you give me an estimate of when my period she be coming? Thanks! :)

    Many girls and women experience stomach cramps with their period but the pain can be managed by taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or by having a soak in the bath.  if the pain is too bad, you can ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away so please try not to worry.

  • Dear Vicki
    1. I am normally very comfortable in my own skin but now that I have started secondary I keep on blushing really badly. I just take myself out of the situation by walking away when I feel myself blushing but it doesn't work!
    2. I have really bad acne and I'm using face masks once a week and I'm using a spot cream that used to work and now my acne won't go away and it's everywhere!!

    Thanks Charlotte xoxo

    Secondary School is a big step for every young girl and boy and it will take you a little time to get used to the new way of things so try not to be so hard on yourself and allow some time for you to adjust.   As for your spots, let's face it they are a total pain that affects 90% of teens to some extent or other so try sticking to a good cleansing routine, get plenty of sleep and stick to a healthy diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and drink lots of water and you should notice an improvement but if they are still bad, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki! Sorry if it's innapropriate, but I think I broke my hymen while I was masturbating! Will this give me heavier periods, because there's a lot more discharge now, and will it grow back? Thanks x

    Firstly you cannot break your hymen. The hymen is a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina and can be stretched when something is inserted inside it or during exercise. It does not grow back nor does it need to and it will have no impact on your periods or the amount of discharge produced so please try not to worry.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I don't think I want anything to do with my family anymore. My sister's a butt hole who purposely angers my autistic brother, and laughs every time my mom is mad at her. My mom was cheated on by my dad and she tells me everything, I feel like she's making me pick sides. My dad has still probably cheated on my mom this year and it's been 7 years since I've known, I'm turning 14 in October. The only people I can deal with in my immediate family is my older brother and grandma, what should I do?

    Families are all different and have their own struggles in life, but don't give up on your family and have a chat to your parents and let them know how the family relationships are affecting you and I am sure they will sit down and discuss family matters in a honest and calm way.

  • hi vicki
    i am 14 and i have discharge for the past 2 years. what does that mean, i have told my mother and she didnt know. does this happen sometimes?

    thank you

    Discharge is the body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, it is very natural and nothing to be worried about. It is also a great sign that your body is preparing for your period to arrive.

  • Hi someone said they had sort of like a ball of brown discharge and you said it was their period and the same thing happened to me and I really don't think it was my period. What else could it have been?

    It could have been residue from waste food that had not been wiped away thoroughly.

  • Hi,
    I had my first period 6 months ago (a normal one), and every time since then has been a really tiny amount of pale brown, water discharge (apart from my last period, that was really really heavy). Why am I having this instead of a usual period? This follows the regular 28 day cycle for about 4 days. I got my period again yesterday, watery pale brown again, and it only lasted for about 1 hour! Please help

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • so my mum had bought be a pack of the teens pads for when i started and now i have she went out and got me more pads, panty liners and some of the wipes (all by lil lets) i obviously know when to use wipes and pads but when am i meant to wear a panty liner?

    Pant liners can be worn in between your periods to catch discharge or to keep you feeling clean and fresh, or right at the end of your period when the amount of blood lost is very small indeed.

  • my friend seems to think I'm a lesbian because I don't fancy any boys and because I don't find the boys she thinks are attractive, attractive. Does that really mean I'm a lesbian?
    Hattie1317 x

    Of course not, it would not do for us all to like the same person so please try not to worry or take your friend's comments to heart.

  • Hi Vicki I started my period back in February. This month however, I've got all my usual signs, cramps, discharge, slightly more stressy than usual. But I've had nothing. I know some girls sort of moan about periods, but to me I just say to my body for crying out loud get on with it. I'm 9 days late. I haven't been spot on due any months, but no more than a day or two out?
    Txxx

    Periods can very often be irregular even when they have been regular before and this can continue during your teen years, so try not to worry, your body is working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • I havent eaten at all over the last week and a half , and I have only lost six pounds. Im
    scared now because I cant eat because Im too scared of getting fat. Im 148cm and 6 stone. I always feel so self concious around skinny kids and its so not fair because my best freind eats HEAPS and shes so skinny but i eat like hardly anthing and im still FAT. Please help me!

    Jess 12

    Hi Jess, sometimes when you do not eat properly rather than losing weight, your body holds on to any fat stored. So you can see it is very important to eat a healthy diet of regular meals and exercise often. By doing this your body will find its ideal weight and you will be healthy.

  • Vicki. I live with my dad, my mum's in intensive care at the moment and she is really quite ill. I've got really depressed lately, to the stage of self harm. I have been lacking sleep and the interest in food. If I did go to the doctors would there be anything they could do for me? E.g. Anti depressents or sleeping tablets. I don't know how to ask my dad to go to the doctors either, Im scared he will just say no, stop being a drama queen. What do I do Vicki. Thanks. Ollie < Yes that is a girls name.

    There are lots of things a doctor can do to help you manage your feelings that do not include medication. So let your dad know you are struggling with your feelings and find it hard to cope with your mum being so poorly, ask if you can visit your GP for a chat, I am sure he will understand.

  • What would i do if i got my first period and i had absolutely no way of getting a pad??

    You could use a little toilet tissue, rolled up in your underwear until you can find a pad.

  • To Vicki, I think I have got anxiety but whenever I have told my mum she doesn't believe me. I get nervous about everything but do you have to go the doctors to be told about it? Also i get really depressed if i am by myself for a long time. Thank you x

    Anxiety disorder or depression really does need to be diagnosed by a medical professional. Remember too that puberty can leave a great many teens feeling they lack self-confidence and a little low in mood. So continue to chat things through with your mum and sharing your feelings so she can help you manage them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My grandma has had cancer for the 3rd time a few months ago..is there anyway im ever going to get over the fear of it returning and be able to realx and get on with life??? she keeps having to go tothe hospital to be poked prodded and scanned and im so scared one day im gonna be told its back or they found a new tumor or something...please help!!!

    It's never easy when someone we love is unwell and cancer is such a scary word to hear. But I am sure your grandma's medical team are taking great care of her now she has recovered and will continue to do so for many years to come. So when you are around your grandma, be positive make her smile and laugh, because this is one of the greatest things you can do to aid in someone's recovery.

  • Hey vicky I have two questions

    1) I have pe tommorrow and we are doing rugby so I haft to run a lot but it make me leak realy bad and I started mt period a weekago and everyday its gotten heaver what should I do ?

    2) I really want to use a tampon but I've tried lots of times and I can get the anglee right or find the right hole !! I've even looked up how to put one in but nothing worked !! Please help xx

    Also can you put this in the periods section -- thanks xx

    Why not consider trying our Lil-lets Freshlock normal or long pads, super absorbent and super comfortable and leave tampons for a few months before trying again.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 11 I'm a 32a I haven't started my period is ever possible my boobs are to big

    There is no size breasts should be regardless of your age so please try not to worry, you have nothing to worry about.

  • I feel down there when i get period cramps as it helps is this weird

    Not if it helps no.

  • Would you ever consider making/selling heavy flow applicator tampons? I don't know if that's possible or if they have in fact been made though, so sorry if this question is stupid :)

    Lil-Lets applicator tampons come in four absorbencies from regular to super plus extra for very heavy periods and within our non applicator range we manufacture ultra for extremely heavy periods.

  • I'm getting braces on Friday and my birthday and party are on Saturday. Do you have any ideas on what I should eat that won't hurt but will still be like party food. Also can you do a blog post about braces

    Birthday parties are quite busy days, so why not stick to shakes during the party and eat a large breakfast to keep you full for the days activities.

  • I have had dischage since July last year,still not period.it was only yellow stans in my pants at the time and did not come every day.in March it became more licwedie and I got a lot more.now it is geting wors and still not period.i have seen a lot of post about there discharge hapning for more than a year and still no period.confused!¡!¡!

    As you've been releasing discharge for such a long time, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  It is normal for discharge to vary in colour, consistency and amount so try not to worry.  Pant liners will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there too.

  • Hi vicki, this boy cuddled me the other day and I kinda fancy him but for some reason I feel really guilty, normally I tell my mum EVERYTHING but I don't want to talk to her bout boys for some reason , I just feel really guilty and feel like she would ashamed of me but I know she would never be ashamed of me, I feel like when the time comes amd when I have a boyfriend I won't be able to talk to her, I think I'm just going brought a guilty stage is that normal? Thankyou xxxxxxx

    If you like a boy why not invite him over as a friend for dinner one night so your mum can get to know him better, this will make introducing him as a boyfriend a lot easier.

  • hey Vickie, just wondering how do girls maturbate?..? I know that boys wank, so do girls like fiddle around in their vagina ...? thanks, libby .xoxox

    Libby, masturbation is an instinctive activity and not something someone can give you advice on how to do.

  • Hi Vicki! How will I know my next period will come? With me they are very irregular. From Natalia xx

    Hi Natalia, during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • How can I control mood swings ?

    Mood swings are a common symptom of puberty and it might be a good idea for you to sit down with your family and explain that you're sorry but it isn't really your fault that you're so moody at times; it's all because of your hormones.  In future, if you feel yourself getting upset, remove yourself from the situation or try thinking of something else.  Take some deep breaths and try to calm down.  I'm sure your friends are all going through similar feelings too so talk to them as this will help.

  • Hi. My crush is one of my friends. we're still friends after i asked him out. I really like him and whenever i see him it breaks my heart because i know i'll never have a chance. What breaks my heart more is that he asks my bff if i still like him, she says yes and today i messaged him on instagram telling asking him to please stop because it upsets me. he hasn't answered and i'm scared :(
    -Ava

    Hi Ava, puberty is naturally a time for teens to develop strong feelings for others brought about by an increase in activity of hormones but this as you rightly said is called a crush and the sad thing is that crushes fade in time.  Why not continue to be friends with this boy and don't let the fact that he doesn't want to go out with you ruin your friendship.

  • Vicki
    I asked this guy out.
    He said no, but he hesitated for a while. It upset me, but when he sees me in the yard at break he looks at me like he wants to tell me something but he doesn't. He's in another year so I don't see him in classes. But my friends asked him for me. Do you think that maybe he said no just because he was scared it was a prank or something? He's quite shy sometimes?

    As this boy is shy, he doesn't like being put under the spotlight so why not try to get to know him better and see how things progress from there.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've had discharge for AGES! (Around 2-3 years) and it's just not changing in colour or anything! I also get very frequent stomache aches that are quite painful and last around 10-30 minutes. I also get really massive mood swings and have become very emotional. Are any if these things signs of my period? Lots if my friends have started but I haven't :( what other signs are there? I know the usual ones (discharge change, cramps etc) but are there any others?
    Thank you!

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Im 13
    I am getting self conscious
    I am 4"11 and l am 5 stone. I get called skinny all the time and I do want to gain some weight and also I haven't started my period but I am getting all of the signs: a slight arm pit hair growth, hairy bellow, and I am coming up to about a year of discharge. I wear daily pantie liners. The only thing is is I have very small breast which are developing. But It annoys me because I feel a bit left out from my friends as they all started about a year ago. 🙅🙅🙅

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while. there is a good chance that your period isn't too far away so try not to worry.  As for your weight, if you are eating 3 balanced meals every day and are still struggling to gain weight, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I have this feeling that whenever I do one thing wrong it makes me feel sad and upset and I can't forget about it... How do you stop yourself feeling negative- I am usually a happy person and little things like this just get me down. Today at lunch I didn't feel hungry at all and I worry about having all my books and stuff over and over again - do you have any advice xxxx

    ScaryStorm123

    Hi ScaryStorm123, instead of looking at your mistakes as a bad thing, try to think of them as positives as this is the only way we learn to do better next time.  Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle with self-doubt due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so consider ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 28 over and 24 under. xx
    Holly

    Hi Holly, your bra size is a 28AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until your find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • hi vicki well i have this spot on my nose it used to be red now its a bit like a scar and its hard to cover i have school pictures tomorrow what do i do i need an answer before tomorrow because its a school photo!!! Please please please reply asap its important to me how do i make it dissapear or cover it or hide it thankyou sweetiepie xx

    Hi Sweetiepie, ask your mum or guardian if you can use a little cover-up make-up or foundation to hide the mark

  • Hey Vicki, so i like in the year above. He is in my form but none of my classes😕 but he has talked to me and he seems very nice. So how can I get closer to him. Please help!
    Thanks 😊
    Love Sassycatlady
    ps: he is a bit more popular not a lot but a bit and im just normal will this effect anything? 😑 xxxx

    Hi Sassycatlady, it really doesn't matter that he is more popular than you; by getting to know him better as a friend and being yourself you will be able to tell if you like him enough to go out with him.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi Vicki my sizes are 75 under and 85 over what size am i also i told my mum crop tops weren't comfortable and they dont have 15-16 in stock (i'm 13 but they fitted best) so my mum said that she would take me shopping so i could choose do you think she will take me to get a bra because she went silent and it got slightly awkward so i am hoping i will get a bra what do you think i need your opinion please thank you so much love sweetypie xxxxxxxxx

    Hi Sweetypie, your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  As for starting a conversation with your mum, ask her how old she was when she first started wearing a bra and say that you now know what your size is and would love it if she helped you buy one.

  • Hey, I'm only 14 years old and I haven't had a period for a while now But the thing is I haven't had sex yet? I had a look online about it they said it could be because of stressing out a lot as I have :) but I have been worrying about not having them but I don't think its just by stressing tho please help!! :)

    This is possible but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki my twin sister started her period yesterday and I'm a bit worried because I haven't got discharge yet. And I heared that you get your period near the time your mum got it so we should get it the same time because of being twins and that. I am very confused about this so please can you help. Thank you.

    Even though you and your sister are twins, this doesn't mean that your bodies will develop at the exact same time so try not to worry.  We don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting our periods either.  Just try to be patient and it will happen.

  • Hi Vicki. So I have really bad pains between my breasts, it's like chest pain. What causes this? Is it my breasts becoming bigger? Is my top part growing and putting strain on my chest? :) Thanks xx

    it is normal to notice breast tenderness with development but the pain you can feel is between your breasts so ask your mum if she will book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • I feel very self conscious because I have quite hairy legs. I don't want to start shaving them because my hair is light and I know it will grow back darker what shall I do? I also don't want to start shaving because then I can never stop! Thanks

    I'm afraid the only choice you have is to either have hairy legs or commit to shaving which many girls and women do every day or so as part of their daily routine.  You might also like to consider using hair removal creams, the choice is yours.

  • I need new bras but mine are pretty new (about 6months) and I feel guilty asking for more. Im currently wearing 34As and 32Bs and they don’t fit. My boobs just squish out the cups and sometimes fall out when im active. I want to get properly measured in M&S this time, I want these ones to last longer with proper advice. How often should a developing 14 year old replace their bras? Should I hold on to these? My measurements are 32 inch under and 37 inch over. Thanks in advance! Izzy x

    Hi Izzy, your bra size is a 36A but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  It seems that the bras you already have are too small so it's no surprise that you fall out of them.  It would be difficult to say how often you need to change your bra as all girls develop at different rates to each other.  So, when your new bras become uncomfortable and ride up your back or your breasts spill over the top, it will be time for a bigger bra.

  • What are the signs of a period coming?

    The best way of knowing when a period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Why do periods become heavier when we work out(do jumps and stuff)?

    This isn't the case for everyone but for those that notice fluid loss when being active it is most likely caused by muscles contracting and working harder during exercise.

  • Hi Viki recently since going back to school since summer I have been having difficulty staying focused and concentrated I'm in 3rd year. I am stressed because my parents are splitting up but I can't seem to focus at first I thought it was cause I have not been at school in a while but I have been back for over a month why can't I concentrate 😭 please help x

    When parents split up, it can have a massive effect on the children but the best way of dealing with it is by talking to them both as you need some reassurance that everything will be ok.  Try to remember that your parents have only fallen out of love with each other and that they both still love you.  Please tell them how you feel and allow yourself some time to adjust to the new situation.  You will feel better in time.

  • Hi vicki, I'm really worried now I have dark brown discharge and it's really thick and gooey, and I mean really thick, I wear panty liners, and I've had it for like 3/4 days now?😔

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • So yesterday I went to the bathroom and there was brown and black stuff all over me, pouring out of my vagina, I'm scared, it happened again today, but if wore a pad to skl (my mum has them on her dressing table) is it cancer? Or my period? Help please xxx

    Try not to worry as this is perfectly normal.  Just be sure to ask your mum for some pads and you will be prepared.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vikki. When I looked in my panty liner when I came back from school (I'm 10 years old) I found this brown discharge and there was a little clump of it on my toilet paper is it normal and my 3 period is coming on the 15th of September and I hope I'm not pregnant any help?

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hey vicki , so im 14 and i have a boyfriend who is 15 , ive snogged him and tunged him like loads of times but he wants to do more and so do i , as in fingers , sex you know all of that , apart from sexual intercourse is it illegal to do the other stuff if you are both under 16 thanks you , chloeeee xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Yes it is.

  • can we do sex during periods

    It is possible to have sexual intercourse whilst on your period.

  • I was wondering when I might start to release discharge, I have had underarm hair since I was 9 and pubic hair since 10, my boobs are fairly small but I can fit into a bra, I have pimples and oily skin, I also get quite sweaty "down there" I'm 12 if that helps xx

    thanks xx

    Try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 so you still have plenty of time to notice the release of discharge.

  • hi vicli , i found out at the end of last year that girls and boys in my year are having unprotected sex ( they are all 13) one of the girls had sex with someone she didn't love or even know that well and I'm scared about her she seems not herself recently please help xxx polly xxx

    Hi Polly, as you're concerned for your friend, please try to persuade her to get checked out at a Brook Clinic or with her GP.  She could also call Brook on 0808 802 1234 or visit the website on www.brook.org.uk to arrange an appointment if she needs to chat to someone.

     

  • hi
    im 13 years old and have not had my period. All my friends have their except me. I got a little bit of whitish discharge stuff in my undies a few days ago. but not again. I have hair down there. Is it normal to get a bit of discharge once and not again

    The good news is that as you've started to released discharge, you know that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives and this is likely to be within 6-12 months.  It is also normal to notice gaps in between releasing discharge so try not to worry.  Please also try to remember that it is possible for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and we all develop at different rates to each other.

  • I went to the toilet and I was due on my period and some blood came out but then for the next 48 hours theres been none. I asked my mum with night it happened and she said wait longer as it is probably my period being weird but its always been normal and now its been 2 days now and I can't talk to my mum because she's away for another 6 days. There is no way I can speak to my dad but I am really worried, whats wrong with me? P.s I'm 13 but very tall

    Please try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years but should regulate in time.

  • (PART 2 FROM M)
    but in maths, he sits at another table with another girl and she flirts with him a lot even though i told her to back off. he some times flirts back and i can see it clearly!!! she is really rude to me. i have tried doing everything but i am literally in love with him! I tried spending more time with my family but it doesnt seem to work! I tried liking other boys but i only think of him. I DREAM ABOUT HIM! please help me!
    M

    During puberty, it is easy for teens to develop a strong attraction to others and think that they love someone due to the increase in activity of hormones but this is called a crush and the sad thing is that crushes often fade in time.  This boy seems to like flirting with other girls and doesn't consider your feelings at all so try your best to move on and forget about him by keeping busy with your friends and family.  You will get over him in time.

  • Hi, Vicki
    Theres this cute boy in my year (year 8) and i have liked him for 3 years (i know it is pathetic). but i really like him and everyone in the school including himself knows it. he is really nice to me when we are alone but when hes talking to me and there are others, he is harsh. All my friends hate him and i dont know why!
    (PART 1 FROM M)

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hey Vicki I know halloweens in a month but me and my friend have been cordanateing r costumes scince grade 3 (were in grade 8 now) and it's been just us and we have let others come trick or treating with is but not as the same thing this year were going As super heroes and r friend kinda just decided to do it with us and she usAly asks sure she can come with us but we don't really want her to be a superhero with us what should we do? We don't want to be rude nude it's kinda r thing any ideas? Thanks again

    I understand that as you've been planning this Halloween for quite a while, it feels as if it is something special exclusively for just you and your friend but you know it would be really nice if you welcomed your other friend to dress up as a Superhereo too and join in on all the fun.

  • How can you tell between brown discharge and periods?

    It can be difficult as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period.  Brown blood is simply old blood.  It is also common to release a brown discharge/blood mid-cycle but this is due to ovulation.

  • Hi I got my first period at school today which I'm happy about, but the night before I got really bad stomach pains but it wasn't below it was more in the middle I didn't really think that it could be something to do with my period so do you think it had something to do with my first period or not? Also my period is quite gooey also it's bright red with black bits and also white bits should I be worried?!?! Thank you x

    Congratulations on starting your period.  The stomach pains you experienced were likely to be due to your period but ask your mum or guardian what they think for peace of mind.  The 'red goo' you released is perfectly normal so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki,
    So I recently got my first period (2 days ago on a Saturday) and I have been wearing pads and showering everyday. I know it's normal for some people to get quite heavy periods, but as it's my first ever one I'm a bit worried. When I go to the loo I wipe and there tends to be a lot of darkish blood. I had school today and had to go clean up twice. I was just wondering if I should be worried or is this normal? Thankyou!! (Sorry if this is inappropriate, I didn't know where else to ask) x

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice heavy menstrual blood loss in the early stages of the menstrual cycle as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Added to this, allow yourself some time to get used to your period and manage it with regular changes.

  • Are you suppose to shave your VAGINIA for when you have sex?

    There is no requirement to remove pubic hair at all if you do not wish to and certainly you do not have to be hair free to be sexually active.

  • Hi Vicky,

    So I tend to discharge a lot and it smells at times but only because it sits in my underware for so long and I don't realize it till I go to the bathroom. Other than that it's fine but idk why I'm discharging so much? I'm 18, have periods, don't mean to be inappropriate but sexually active, and it's been like this for years and I just don't want it to anymore and it just really bothers me and make me self conscious because idk why I discharge so much..please help...

    As you are sexually active, you might like to consider a check up either with your GP or by attending a Brook Clinic.  You can contact them on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk to arrange an appointment.

  • Hey, I'm a swimmer and I get changed at the end of the session with all the other girls. By boobs are tiny and one girl in particular has noticed that, but she's not just one girl she is one of my best friends ! She tells me that I have boobs the size of here little cousin and compares hers it mine and doesn't say it quietly either. Everyone in the changing room usually laughs and I don't like it, please help me. Is there any reason why my boobs aren't big and why would my best friend do that.

    How mean of your friend to want to embarrass you like this.  You should remind her of the fact that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for girls to notice development up until their 20's.  If your friend continues to embarrass you like this, tell her to stop it and if she doesn't listen, ask a teacher to have a word with her.

  • Is it normal to have sore nipples? They hurt whenever i touch them or my clothes rub on them!
    Thanks, Sarah x

    Hi Sarah, it is perfectly normal for nipples to feel sore with development so try not to worry.  A soak in a warm bath will help to soothe them.

  • Hi 👠I really want to use your starter kit thing I walk past it evry time I go in boots to give a hint to my mum but she walkers write past it I've sent her 2 e card and I've got the day tows but my flow is too heavy and I'm really sporty so I want to use tampones I've don't it oce and it was amazing for sport but I didn't use lil lets which I want to do now

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking about tampons.  You might like to try the Lil-Lets teens Super non-applicator tampons as your flow is a little heavy and instead of using the teens towels and you might also like to try Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Would you consider a 32b as flat chested??

    Not at all.

  • Hey Vicki, I know this May come accross as strange but I have really small boobs and to make them look larger I roll up a thin sock and place it at the bottom of my bra to make then come up more and fill the bra up, all my friends have big boobs and this make me feel more like them. Is this ok or should I stop doing it! Love Amelia x

    Hi Amelia, you might like to consider using gel inserts which can be placed inside your bra.

  • Hi Vicki, I live in the States & came across your blog. I wanted to ask you about sex and the changes in discharge. I've recently lost my virginity and now I have large amounts of discharge. I think it's weird, because I do use contraceptives. I just want to make sure nothing is wrong, & I have no strange smells or colors. Just white and milky sometimes. Should I be worried?

    This is most likely a coincidence and being sexually active has very little effect on the amount of discharge produced.

  • What age can you use a tampons

    When you feel ready and your parents or guardians are happy for you to use them.

  • Hi vicky,
    I do a lot of dance (4 times a week), i also do pilates once a week, cheerleading once a week, and swimming one a week. I got my period around a year ago. It was very light for the first 4 months, and then suddenly became heavier in january. Firstly, is this normal? secondly, my mum does not feel comfortable for me to be wearing tampons, and i respect her wishes, but its very uncomfortable for me to be doing all this sport while on my period. What do i do? I have a dance recital in two weeks

    Firstly, try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and secondly, you are right to respect your mum's wishes about not wearing tampons just yet.  However, as you lead a very active life and enjoy swimming, when the time is right, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been desiged especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hey vicki I'm 13 and 14 in 2 months i'm a 32A but I started my period when I was 11/12 is this bad? Also I have been wearing wired B bras for the past 2 years because i never got properly fitted, Has this damaged my boobs?

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and there is no truth in underwired bras damaging your breasts.

  • Hey Vicki, basically I just met this boy from the year above and he spoke to me a bit and I would like to get closer but he isnt in any of my classes and he sits of a different table in form. How can I get him to notice me ?
    Please help!!!
    Ps: I think hes a bit more popular than I am , im not unpopular but im just normal.
    Love sassycatlady

    Hi Sassycatlady, I think that the most important thing to be is yourself and a smile can go a long way in letting someone know that you like them.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi, i've been dating my bestfriend for nearly a year now and i love him soo much and i worry sometimes of what might happen when we break up, i dont think i could handle it because he has been my bestfriend forever and i dont know how we would change thing back to how it used to be, i cry a lot about it sometimes because i really feel like he's the one for me but if it doesnt work out i don't know what i should do, Any advice? xx

    Why not try to focus on the positive and enjoy the relationship you have now and please try to stop worrying about what might happen in the future.  You will find that in life, it is normal for friends to come and go.  For some more information, check out my blog on Keeping and Making Friends

  • Hi Vicki Xx
    My breasts are really small, but every time I where a tight top, my nipples stick through, and it lookes sooooo stupid :(. I looked at the chart, and I don't think any of the bras would fit me, but lots of my friends
    have flatter cheasts then me, but still wear bras.
    What should I do ? :(

    The choice is yours but as your nipples are making you feel a little self-conscious, a bra with slight padding would help.

  • What's the best way to deal with people like this? My only options in my head are either to run away or tell a member of staff in my school, but no-one likes a grass. I'll get bullied more if I do tell on them.

    From Kara.

    (ps. For the record, I do not have AIDS. And I don't think it's fair to joke about a serious threat to people's lives)

    Kara, these people are bullying you and bullies need to be tackled, so have a chat to your teacher and parents about these people, their comments and behaviour.  You may just be surprised how many other people appreciate  you speaking to someone in authority about this matter. So be brave and take the plunge. And in future walk away when someone makes comments like this and don't let their immature remarks hurt you.

  • They also told everyone that I'm sexually active will a 14 year old girl. Which I'm not. So I can't go anywhere without people saying "You gave Lily (name changed) AIDS. You had sex with Lily in the cinema?" etc.

    I'm sick of it. I wanted to ask your advice, because I can't cope anymore. I spent the whole of my spare time in a toilet cubicle crying at school. It's not fair.

    pt 2/3

    See Part Three.

  • Vicki, No-one treats me like I'm human. Only today, I sat with some people in my form and they started saying "Oh, you can't sit with us because you sat with Tom (name changed for privacy) and he gave you AIDS." So I turned around to walk away, and they said "Oh yeah. Kara (real name) has AIDS. Let's tell everyone." So they did. Now the whole school thinks I have AIDS.

    pt 1/3

    My response is in Part Three

  • he sent me a picture of his willy twice to that i did not want to see! now ive found out he does it with loads of other girls. im worried that the secret will escape and ill get into trouble. I JUST CANT LIVE LIKE THIS. WHAT DO I DO TO STOP IT? SORRY ITS SO LONG AND THANKS:) PART 5

    It is a form or bullying and blackmailing for this boy to threaten to share pictures you have sent to him with others and you may want to remind him that it is actually illegal for him to do so if you are under the age of 16. For your part, you have made a mistake and you can clearly see that other girls have fallen for this trap too, so don't be too hard on yourself, learn from this episode and move on.

  • i realise he didnt care about me or mean the things he said, he used me because im weak. now i still feel on edge and im so scared i feel bad and i cant look at him. he said also he then took screenshots but im not ure if he did but he said he deleted them but im not sure. i feel scared and so does my bf and i just want to say something to him to put my mind at rest and live life less jittery but im scared of making it worse. PART 4

  • but after that i ended up sending 2 more in everyday clothes that enhanced my chest p2 again, i felt awful and still do. i confided in a bff and found out he did it with her. i feel annoyed because in the end after i confided in her i said no full stop and he said horrible things and that hed put it on facebook and tell evryone if i didnt do more and he was horrible to my friend too. PART 3

  • that i had privately sent to my bff to gt her opinion but it made my bum lk big. after that he said realy nice things that i thought he meant it but i felt so bad after. he then nagged me for more and sometimes said more nice stuff and then said hed never talk to me and other threats like that. i then explained my mental health issues because i thought i could trust him. i explained that its hard mentally and its hardto say no, etc. PART 2

    See my response in Part Five.

  • I am just turned 14 and I have been having discharge in my underwear for about 4/5 years now without a period. Isnt it meant to be a few months?

    Some girls notice discharge for longer than a year and this is nothing to worry about. Your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • hi. this happened 7/8 wks ago but i have anxiety and depression so it really affectS my everyday life. i dont kno how it started but in the end this popular boy from school who seems really nice asked me for a photo of my bum. he asked nd pressurised me into it and said nice things about me and then said that if i didnt he would stop talking to me. so he carried on and i kept saying no.i sent him a picture of me in a dress. P ONE

  • Hi Vicki, I'm sorry if this is inappropriate, and I'm not sure how else to put it, but I think I have a fat vagina. I swim for a club, and in my costume it sticks out further than my stomach, and I am really self conscious about it. Is there any way to make it smaller, or just appear smaller.
    Thank you

    The pubic bone generally has a layer of fat covering it to protect your vulva and whilst it may seem a little too large to you, I can assure you it is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Does anihistamines affect birth control pills?

    You really would have to read the leaflets in your particular packs of contraceptive pills and antihistamines as each brand is very different.

  • How can I tell my mum I have a boyfriend? ~ Zoe x

    Hi Zoe, why not ask if you can invite a friend round for dinner one night so she can get to know your boyfriend, she will soon put two and two together and understand you are dating without you having to say a word.

  • I have a crush on a boy and my best friend sits next to him in science. She offered to ask him out for me and see what he feels about me. Is this the right thing to do?

    I am not a fan of friends asking someone out on your behalf, but this really is your choice.

  • Hi vicki, i dont no what to do because I have a major crush on this guy for over 15 months (i know its a while) loads of people think we were going out we were that close qnd things like that and mine and his friends used to say that we both liked each other and I was really upset and going through a really rough time so i asked him out and i deaply regret it because he said no but we sit next to each other for at least three hours a week in school and its soooo awkward help.

    It may be that this boy likes you but is not yet ready to date. So don't be disheartened and continue being just friends for now and you never know what the future may bring.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm having a bit of boy trouble at the moment! I have liked this boy since year 6 and I am now in year 10!!! Please help me I really really like him, but he's my brothers friend and he's not interested! Thank you x

    If this boy has let you know he is not interested in you romantically, then it would be wise to move on and focus your time and affection elsewhere.

  • I think I started my period yesterday it was really dark brown and it was like brown bogeys (sorry about the content) but today there just like yellow discharge can I still put a tampon in ?

    If you have not noticed any further fluid then why I would not use a tampon and maybe consider waiting until your next menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki, Im 13. My brother is 19 and he told my parents and I that he's gay, they did NOT take this well. He got really mad and is staying at his boyfriend's now. I really want to go see him but my mum won't let me. They have practically disowned him and its made me really upset now Im not talking to my mum or dad. Would it be bad for me to go see him secretly?

    I would not visit your brother behind your parent's back at this time, but rather give them some time to chat to your brother when they feel ready. Very often a parent's first reaction to this news can change once they have had time to come to terms with your brother's sexuality.

  • Hi thanks so much for answering, i was masturbating and i wasnt looking and i ripped the tissue or whatever and it bled for a bit i havnt started my period so thats what it is and im worrying if that should have happend cus i wasnt pulling too hard or anything please help,
    Ezz

    Just like anywhere else on your body if you cut yourself it will heal quite naturally over the next few days.

  • At 12 years old is it okay to be near enough flat chested and is it bad to have not started my period.

    At 12 you have such a lot of development to come and you certainly have nothing to be worried about as periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and breasts can continue developing into your late teens or early twenties.

  • What can doctors do for my irregular periods? As I have had my period for 3 years no and it is still soo irregular xxx

    Periods can very often be irregular during puberty, your teen years and early twenties and is rarely anything to worry about. But if you really are worried you may find having a chat to your doctor will be helpful.

  • Hi Vicky! I've started my period but it's very irregular. I've taken GCSE PE as an option for school and over the next to years I'm going to have to swim. Also you have to be assessed on 4 sports and I want swimming to be 2 of those 4 sports. But I can't use tampons- I've tried & failed- and I don't want to tell my teacher because he is a man and ny head of year and I really do need to be able to go swimming! Do u have any suggestions?! Thankyou I'm so worried 😪💖

    Just like anything new tampons can take a bit of practice, so why not try using our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons next time your period is here and follow our advice on the website.

  • I asked this before but no response was found.
    I have been getting really heavy discharge and today I have had stomachs cramps all day
    Last month I started my period so I know I shouldn't be regular yet...is my period coming???
    Jess💁

    Hi Jess, discharge can vary in the amount produced, colour and texture but this does not always mean your period is imminent, so my advice is to keep some pads and liners with you from now on.

  • Hiya, my periods finnaly became regualr , but I skipped last month, and on Saturday there was a orange smudge in my pants and I put a pad on and there was only a little but it was gone by that night, and still haven't got anything, was this my period or just discharge? I started my period december 2012and they have always been irregular, please answer, thank you

    This could have been your period as experiencing shorter and lighter periods is a common part of menstruation in teens.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm 13 and I've noticed that on someday my breast appear bigger
    A) is this normal?
    B) should I get my size measured on they day that they are 'bigger'?

    Thanks x

    Breasts are very senstive to temperature and touch and can very often appear fuller from day to day because of this and also due to the level of hormones in your body at any one time, so I really would not worry and yes it may be a good idea to take your measurements when they are at their fullest.

  • i know this sounds really gross but if you finger yourself, does that make your period come faster? thank you so much Vicki xx

    No not at all.

  • Hi Vicki, the past few days i have been having pains in my belly, lower back and headaches, does this mean that i am going to start my period

    It may do, or you may have a tummy bug, so why not share this news with your mum and see what her views are.

  • Hi Vicki... So this is the same person who asked about the boy in secondary school. Well i really like him bit all of his friends say he has a girlfriend but when i ask him he says he is single... Im so confused what should i do? 😞 I feel so confused... Love Freya xxxxxx

    Hi Freya, if his friends say he is dating, but he denies this, then it may be wise to keep your distance until you can find out for sure.

  • hey xx
    my mum always says im not fat but not skinny x but if feel fat all my friends are stupidly skinny and they eat every thing but I cant do that. I really want to be thin and I run and stuff but I don't seem to get any thinner xx can u help

    thanks gina xx

    Hi Gina, there is a big difference between being thin and being fit and it seems to me you are the later and I really would not worry about your shape if you eat a healthy diet and exercise often. It would after all not do for us all to be the same.

  • Hi Vicki I have had discharge for 17 MONTHS NOW where is my period ????
    This really annoying me now because all the other websites say that you have discharge up to 12 months before u start your period so why have I not started xx
    Please help Alicia

    Hi Alicia, there are always exceptions to the rule and I can only guess that your period isn't too far away now.

  • Hi Vicki I need pantyliners but I'm afraid to tell my mum do you have any advice for me to tell her I need them?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed asking her if you can wear pant liners.  You might like to start the conversation by asking if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample by following the link from the home page of this website.

  • I no its against the law but if my parents his parents me and him are happy to do it at 14 how are the police gonna find out to prosecute us

    It is irrelevant what your parent's views are on underage sexual relations, the law is the law in this instance regardless of how the authorities may or may not find out.

  • Hey
    I can't find my 3 questions I posted the other day. Were they inappropriate (if so, sorry) but I didn't think they were
    I wasn't on this site after I posted them.
    Do u remember wat u wrote?!

    Sunflower8**********

    Hi Sunflower8, I have answered your questions and my advice is to visit the questions answered page and type sunflower8 into the search box and both questions come up.

  • Hiya Vicki

    Well...sometimes my discharge will be dark yellow and sometimes
    It will be like kinda slimy/wettish
    Do you know when i might get my period(eg, days,weeks,months)
    Thx xoxo
    Kwanita(12)(13 in december) 1214

    Hi Kwanita, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Try not to worry as it is possible for discharge to change in colour, consistency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • i have been having distance for 1 and a half years how long will it be before my period starts

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi this is char
    and there is this really cute boy and I can't stop thinking about him. My mind wanders off topic in class about him and I feel I'm not doing as well as I should be in class cos I'm always thinking about him.
    I'm really want to ask him out but I know he'll say no as I have already asked him out twice.
    Have you got any tips to make him like me?
    Thanks so much,
    Char xx

    Hi Char, if this boy has said no previously it may be a good idea to move on and find something else to focus your attention on, such as school work. It may take some real restraint to avoid looking at this boy or even thinking about him, but in time you will be able to do this and he will not be so important in your life.

  • Hi I'm E, i have 3 friends: B, J and C. J n B had been friends for ages before me and C arrived but now were all friends.
    The problem is we all have people we like more. J loves B more. C loves me and I love B more. B says she thinks of us all equally but I don't believe her. I love B so much and I am always very sad in school. I want her to be my BFF so bad it hurts. It sounds selfish but I just don't know what to do! Please please help xx

    When there are so many of you it would be advisable to avoid any best friend unions and if you can all get along and be equal friends.

  • Myself and many other girls would please like an applicator light tampon (for proof check reddit!). Would you be able to pass this on to the relevant department? I find it strange you have an ultra (always in stock and never running low), and a massive applicator tampon, but not light, when surely these would sell better?
    Thank you in advance

    I will pass on your comments to the team and thank you for your feedback.

  • I was wondering if you could tell me what size bra I would be as I am getting confused, I'm 73cm under and 82cm on the boobs thanks xxx

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I have gone on a quiz online and it says that I am due to start in about 6-12 months, I want to ask my mum for panty lines but I don't know how. Can you help me please.

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and you might like to start a conversation with your mum by asking if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range by following the link on the home page of this website. 

  • I am 15 + I like a boy and I've never liked any1 b4ore. We used 2 sit in class together all the time + get on really well but now it's Sep + we have different set seats so we don't sit next 2 eachother + I fear that we'll grow apart + we've been back a week + he's only said hi I don't have his number or anything + the only reason I think he liked me was he always looked at me + got annoyed when I got moved next to my BF in 1 lesson + he asked me a few times if I fancied anyone (I said no). What should I do?

    For more help with this, check out by blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi iam 13 and I haven't got my ...... (u know) and I am really worried if I don't get it :'(

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  It is possible for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my period in March, I've had two since the last one was in May. I always have quite alot of discharge but not too much. But over the past two days I have had loads of really watery discharge. I woke up and it had gone through my knickers on to my pyjamas making me look like I'd wet myself. I put a pad in last night and there was so much the pad couldn't absorb it all. Could I have an infection? Or could it just be my next period?

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  As for your discharge, it is perfectly normal for it to vary in colour, consitency and amount throughout your menstrual cycle so be sure to change your pant liners as much as you need to.

  • Vicki in the newest blog, why does it say 13 times a year?
    xxx

    If your menstrual cycle lasts for 28 days then multiply that by 13 months and you will get 364 and there are 365 days in a year.  Just imagine if your menstrual cycle is only 21 days, you will have 17 periods in a year.

  • Part 2: Do they have to do an operation! What ix I dont wake up! And Ill die! Is this a DISEASE!!! I just feel like my throat and the pipe thing to my tummy is too small like its shrunken! Please Im scared to eat!!! Is it goingto get better!!!???
    Vicki I really Am scared!!! please help whst shall I do!
    Ps my tonsils are a bit bigger than they used to be and Im not ill!!! Is it effecting this? Please anseer I need help!!!
    Yeah I also told my mum aboit yhis... Help..!

    Try not to worry as nobody is saying that you even need an operation so please talk to your mum and ask her to arrange an apointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Part 1:Vicki Im SO scared! I really cant eat. I meen when I try to swollow food, it goes really slowly down to my tummy! And if I take big bites itll just stay in my throat and Im scared itll go in my lungs or itll block me from breathing! Vicki Im scared should I go to my doctor!? Are they goingto do operation to me!? Im so scared..Vicki. I mean I cant eat propaly! So I always try to eat real careful and drink alot as I eat. It doesent help! Should I go to my doctor! Help Im scared...!

    Response in Part 2.

  • Dear viki
    In school all the girls get changed for p e in one room!
    I think it's horrible as we r ten and I wear a bra !
    I hate people seeing me and also I have boobs for my age and hate it

    Try not to worry as I'm sure that your classmates will all be showing signs of breasts development soon too and just think that you're all in the same position so try not to worry. 

  • Hi vicki, for the last 2 days I've had like Brown/black discharge and there's quite a lot of it, I've told my mum about it and she said it's just discharge and said I'll probably start my period in a few days, is she right? There's been a really lot of discharge though, like a black colour?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I want to know is it true that your period start after 28 days and how do you know when your starting because next month we are going on vacation and I don't want to use tampons ??I'm little scared...ps.Lilly

    Hi Lilly, the menstrual cycle can be anything from 21-34 days and is not always 28 days from the first time you notice menstrual blood loss. Remember too that periods can be irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months between each one. So my advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when on holiday just in case.

  • Hey Vicki!
    I'm having a bit of bra trouble.
    I'm 12 and I've been wearing a bra for about 6 months now. I'm a 10 aa and I've never had this problem before but, lately when I run, or jump my breasts hurt. Like its that feeling when you don't have a bra on and you run accidentally. And it's a bit if a problem cause I do a lot of running and I can't now cause it hurts. Do I need a bigger bra? Or a smaller one? Or is it normal? Will it stop after a while? Thanks! 😳😊

    It may be nothing to do with your bra and instead linked to further breast development, which can often leave the breasts sore and tender when you are being active.

  • I'm 11 and I've got a boyfriend and we've kissed, do you think I am to young to have a boyfriend

    Yes, if you are planning on being intimate enough to kiss. But it really is not what I think, but rather what your parents think that is more important so why not have a chat to them about this matter.

  • What age does your period stop. Because my nan is almost 80 and she still buys pads

    It is probable that your nan is buying pads for stress incontinence as periods stop when a woman hits the menopause around the age of 50.

  • Should I wear a bra while doing pe

    Absolutely yes if you need to.

  • Hi 🙋 I have recently become obsessed with Cheryl Cole I don't no why but I always think if i met her we would be bff and stuff how do I stop this its taking over xxxxx

    During puberty, it is normal to become fixated on someone that you don't even know like a celebrity or sports person so blame this on your hormones and try to spend more time doing things with your friends and family who are really the people who care for you.

  • Hi there Vicki, Im 14 and growing so I have been eatin heaps more but my mother tells me off and says I dont need more food just being im growing so Im really hungry all the time

    It is quite normal for teenagers to feel hungrier at this time in their lives as your body is working so hard to change from a child to an adult. The trick is to avoid junk food or treats like chocolate and crisps. But instead increase the amount of vegetables, carbohydrates and protein in your meals.

  • Hi Vicki, my mum is always accusing me of things i never do, I have no one else in my family to talk to because my dad lives in another country, I have tried so many times to talk but she just says go away you have a perfect life and I just sometimes wish I was born in another family

    I'm so sorry to hear that your mum won't listen to you but you might like to consider writing her a letter explaining your feelings.  If this doesn't work, you can talk to your friends, a trusted teacher at school or Childline on 0800 1111.

  • How can I mastorbait so it does not hurt

    Masturbation is something that is felt instinctively and naturally but please take care when doing it so you don't hurt yourself.

  • Hi vicki
    i like a boy he says he like me but he noone not even he knows i like him ,should tell him I ask because well chase after everygirl he sees oh he tells his friends im his girlfriend

    Why not continue being friends for a while longer, especially as you say this boy shows an interest in other girls too. In time he may just realise you are the girl for him and stop flirting.

  • Is there a way that you can tell when your period is coming by touching and feeling your ovaries?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki so my breasts are slightly smaller than my hand I am 13 and can't ask my mum for a bra and i don't want to leave a note how do I ask her I recently came to an m&s bag on my bed hoping I got a bra in there but it was crop tops which were baggy and horrible on me I need to ask her but I don't know how help please everyone in my year has one and my friend once said try asking for a bra or u can borrow mine but they were too big thank you reply ASAP going shopping after school xxx

    For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.  You should try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once just as you are now so try not to feel embarrassed about wanting to wear a bra.

  • how do you tell your parents its time to shave your pubic hair without being accused of trying to grow up too fast???

    For help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hey! I'd first like to say that I like the fact you now get a reverence number for your question. But anyway, all my friends have done things with boys but I haven't yet although I do have people that want to do things with me. I have a lot of pubic hair and I dont know what to do. There is too much to shave. Please Help!x

    We have found that the unique reference number makes it easier for you girls to find your responses.  I think you haven't been out with a boy yet because you haven't met anyone you like so please do not bow to pressure simply because your friends have already, just try to be patient and wait for the for the right boy to go out with.  As for your pubic hair, you might like to simply trim it back so it isn't visible.

  • Okay so me and my best friend seem to be arguing about small, pointless things but I just don't know how to stop this from happening, I don't want to try speaking to her because it's awkward and she won't take it seriously. Thankyou in advance M xx :)

    For more help with this, check out my blog on Keeping and Making Friends.

  • Hello, I was wondering how id be able to know when I'm going to start my period so I don't make a "mess". I first started about 3 or 4 months ago and I've heard that your period is irregular for te first year, is that true?

    Sometimes your period can be irregular for up to the first 2 years as your hormones can take a while for your body to control the changes in your body to then reach a balance for your regular period.  So a good way of being prepared is to wear pant liners that will not only protect your underwear from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  By doing this and keeping some pads in your school bag, you should be well prepared.

  • so yesterday morning I wiped n there was streaks of blood on the toilet paper every time I wiped so I waited to see if more would come and later in the day when I wiped there was some spotting on the toilet paper not very much at all and all day today I've had nothing . I'm 13 and I'm very developed and have had dishcharge for 2 years now.

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicki xx
    So I really need your help! I'm 12 years old and I really feel like I want to kiss someone!! I mean I'm single but I really want a boyfriend! I've asked out a couple of boys but most of them turned me down! I feel like I'm not worth much! But the point is I have kissed someone before and it was so nice but I really want to do it again but I have no one to do it with!! What sould I do xx please help me xx 😁😔

    As kissing is such a pleasurable experience, why not wait until you meet someone you really like but remember that you have to like yourself before you can expect anyone else to like you.  Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel massive self-doubt as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so try doing things to give your confidence a boost.  Joining a club for something you enjoy would be a good place to start as you would also meet new people.

  • I started my periods at 12 I'm now 14 and still not told my mum

    There is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to your mum about your period as she was a young girl going through puberty once.  For some help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki, I had this thick really dark brown almost black stuff with one tiny ball of ? on my pants (at the front) today! I'm worried wether this is me beginning to start my periods or it is maybe just discharge!?!? By the way I also had pains in my lower stomach around the ovaries area. Is this my period? (I'm 14) Thank you! -Sophie😶😁

    Hi Sophie, this was your period so congratulations.  Be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi viki I asked another question about nightmares about my ex but please can you answer this as well because I am a worrier and can't easily talk to my mum .... there's this guy who likes me and we facetimed and he got changed during facetime not like fully undressed but changed his top and trousers is this okay???? Please answer bluebunny24

    Hi Bluebunny24, based on your age, no this is not ok and I would stop facetiming this boy.

  • Hi viki
    I have recently broken up with my ex and he used to always touch my boobs and bum and undid my bra and stuff but one day I had a nightmare that he hated me so much he tried to kill me and now I get really nervous around him is this normal and is it okay for him to be touching me and stuff I am 12 13 on the 12th Sep...please answer bluebunny24

    Hi Bluebunny24, it was certainly not acceptable for your boyfriend to be touching you so intimately and it may be a good thing that he is now an 'ex boyfriend'. Try to remember that respecting your body is very important and until you are 16 or over no one should touch you sexually.

  • I'm too scared to tell anyone cause I don't know what they will say 😢

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there is no need to feel afraid of them.

  • I'm 12 and in the 7th grade . and I don't have discharge or that gooey stuff . but my mom had her period at 9 1\2 . Why I'm getting my stuff so late ? Is something wrong with me ?

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to others and we don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting our period so so try not to worry.

  • I am really really worried,please help!
    Hi, my name is Emily and I'm 14. I have 32AA boobs yet all my friends are at least B's. My nipples aren't flat and one boob is so much bigger than the other,it's like one just isn't growing. is that normal?
    Also,about the 32AA thing, does this mean I am underdeveloped? I have no period,not very much hair anywhere and look really young. I am really worried that there is something wrong with me. Thank you.

    Hi Emily, please try not to worry as we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to others and it is perfectly normal to notice more development in one breast than the other as there is no such thing as two symmetrical breasts so please try to be patient as they will even up in size.

  • Hi Vicki
    Im 14 and i have had discharge for about 5 years now, about 4 months ago i had a sort of period, but since then i have had nothing, when will i start? Please answer my question, thanks.

    During the early stages fo the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I don't know why but I really like the look of boy clothes. Like when I'm in a shop I always find myself in the boys or mens section, womens clothes don't seem to appeal to me as much and I've never been a girly girl, my mum hates it but I don't know how to stop.

    You are only acting on instinct and it really wouldn't do if we were all the same and liked the same thing. 

  • Hi Vicki Miss Piggy again what bra size am I??
    Under 28
    On the bust 31
    In inches
    Thanks, once again Miss Piggy

    Hi Miss Piggy, your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different sizes and styles of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi viki!
    I recently started my period and it's finished now but I've recently had an itch on the right flap, I've looked and there is no redness and I've not had lots of disgarge or anything like that so I was Wondering if you had any idea what is wrong or is it nothing? I've had this itching feeling for 2 days now and it's very annoying! Please answer ASAP!!!

    The itchiness might be due to the growth of pubic hair so try not to worry.

  • When do your boobs stop growing ????🙏

    It is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's.

  • I just started my period yesterday and I'm not sure what happens when I hav me a bath or shower as I don't want to use a tampon yet!!!

    Try not to worry as if you were having a bath, the volume of water in the bath would far outweigh the amount of menstrual blood so you wouldn't even notice and if you were having a shower, the blood would simply wash away with the water.  Just remember to keep a pad close to hand so you can put it on before you begin to get ready.

  • I think I'm lesbian I love seeing fit girls there so pretty what shall I do ?

    During puberty it is normal to be curious and feel attracted to the same as well as the opposite sex due to an increase in activity of sex hormones.  This does not mean you're a lesbian so try not to rush into putting a label on your sexuality just yet and see how you feel when you're older.

  • I've had brown sticks discharge but only for about an hour but it's completely stopped now and it was really dark brown is that normal I havnt started my period yet

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary pads for you and see what happens in the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki sometimes my mum and dad ignore me and just speak to my brother and also sometimes they shout at me for things like going to my room for a long time but if I come down stairs they shout at me and tell me go back I don't understand i feel as if they prefer my bro I've told my mum and she told me don't be silly but then she carries on please help!😘😘😘😘😘😘

    If this is something that upsets you, ask both of your parents to sit down with you and discuss the problem.

  • Thanks for all your help u are great 😃

    Thank you for your support.  I'm happy to help.

  • Hi. My periods are really heavy. I was bleeding through my pad, pants, pyjamas onto my bed sheets and duvet. And apparently you're not supposed to bleed in the bath but I was. Why is it so heavy and why was I bleeding in the bath? Help me!!!

    We all bleed in the bath so please try not to worry.  As your period is quite heavy, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  If you period is persistently heavy and you begin to feel tired and lethargic, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I read that if you shower while on your period it stops the blood flow for a little while . is this true and if yes for how long xx thank you

    There is no truth in this.

  • Vicki I was the girl who asked about wearing liners you said the sample comes in the post but I need parent consent but I don't want to ask my mum what can I do pls help

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need to feel worried about asking for her consent.  For more help with this, chck out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad

  • Should you moisturise "down there"
    Wondering girl xx

    Hi Wondering Girl, the vagina is self-cleaning and needs nothing more than water to keep clean so please do not use a moisturiser there.

  • I have started my period and the first in my group to start, I talk to my friends about it, but I don't live with my mum and I found it to awkward to talk to my dad, so I talk to my older sister, I want to talk to my mum when I next see her but I don't know how?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed.  You also have your older sister to talk to so you have plenty of support.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and you will get used to them in time.

  • I just started my period ( like today ) and my mom has gave me these really thick pads that show through my pants when I get changed for today ( bit inconvienient) iv been watching loads of videos and I eally want to start using tampons as they just seem more hygienic ( if you think about having odour and blood in your pants ) but my mom says I shouldn't start using tampons as im 12 and I should always start on pads. is it true or can I just start using tampons straight away ?
    thank you ! xx

    You really do have to respect your mum's wishes but when the time comes and she allows you to try tampons, you might like to consider Lil-Lets teens Regular or Super tampon which are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki... Its Alex I'm 13 years old and I started my peirod on 28th Arg and I having had any blood since ???

    Hi Alex, try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It can be like this for up to 2 years.

  • which are more protective- pads or tampons

    They are both effective methods of sanitary protection.

  • Hi im 11 and i just reallized that my pants and shorts ive been wearing today have got a patch of brown/red i didnt feal it at all and im scared if i put my clothes in the wash my family will find them i gind it hard to talk to my mum because we are never alone and i find it akward if i write a note im going back to school and i dont really know if i am starting my periods!

    This is your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  I'm sure that whoever does your washing will not be too surprised to see that you have started your period so please try not to worry.

  • Hi,
    How do I tell my mum I have started to have discharge? We have talked about periods once but I can talk to her about anything else like stops and bra ect.
    Plz help. Thanx!
    From Emma

    Hi Emma, I think your mum will be fine as you've already spoken about periods.  It is useful to know that usually girls release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives.  You might also like to consider using pant liners as they will help to keep you feeling clean and fresh down there.

  • Hi Vicki, is it normal to want a boy best friend at 14 ? How can you get one x

    This is perfectly normal and I would suggest that you consider joining a new club for something you enjoy as this will enable you to meet new friends.  I think it's usually best to get to know someone as a friend before you consider going out with them

  • Hey Vicki
    i need your help or advise on what to do
    i really like this boy soo much hes called Corey and we did like each other and we talked and video chatted every hour of the day but the thing is we fell out because he told one of my best mate Andrew to stop talking to me and i got pissy at Corey then we stopped speaking for a month then i got in touch saying sorry for being all moody at you and stuff and he was like i just want to be friends because it hurt me when you went.

    The decision to remain friends with Corey has to be yours.  He was wrong to tell your friend to stop talking to you but has now apologised.

  • hi part 3💎
    she just does not get it,she thinks that we will be friends for ever because we will be going to difrent schools so we won't have time to break up.she is just upsetting me so much.

    It seems that you are the one who seems to be making all the effort in your friendship so you really should talk to your friend about how you feel and take things from there.  As you are both going to different Secondary Schools, it is likely that you will both meet new friends but wait and see what happens.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Keeping and Making Friends.

  • hi. Part 2💎
    she also think that we can meet up ever day even though her school finishes to late for me to come out and be worth it, but she think I can just cycle up ,stay at her house for ten minets then go and she can not even be bothered to cycle up to my house because on the way back the hill is to big for her,I still have to cycle up it .

    Response in Part 3.


  • Hi part 1💎
    My kinda best friend is upsetting me,we met up when we found out that we both wanted are period to start.i know that she is grow up and everything I am to but .she now has a bra, liners and tons of make up and hair stuff.

    Response in Part 3

  • Hi, im 11 and I hope this ok to ask but I have had diarehha or however u spell it for 3 days straight at the same time from about 16:00-18:00 and now today I have pains in my lower tummy, I started discharge about a year ago and now my mom thinks its time to 'start', is there anything else I can expect until my period or is this a normal thing?

    These are all signs that your period might be arriving soon so just try to be patient and wait and see what happens.  Do keep an eye on the diarrhoea though as it can make you dehydrated very quickly.

  • hi vicki, i was just wondering what besides from cutting counts as self harm. quite frquently, i punch and slap myself and throw myself against walls. my sister saw me punching myself, and said that im not allowed to do that. im 14 and have been feeling very sad, lonely and stressed. i have severe anxiety and going back to school has really stressed me out. I just want to know if i should seek help, although i have no clue how to approach the topic with my parents. thank you xx

    Self-harming is an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't your fault as puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens.  You can call Mindline on 0300 1233393 for confidential help and support and please also talk to your parents about how you're feeling as a matter of urgency so they can arrange for the professional help you need.

  • I really want a nose Pierceing and I'm 12 should I get one

    This is something you should discuss with your parents or guardians.

  • Hi I am 11 years old and have started my periods but don't like liners but don't know what type of tampons would be better for me

    Lil-Lets teens range has been designed especially to fit the smaller bodies of young girls.  It includes teens Day or Night towels and we also offer a teens Regular or Super non-applicator tampon.  Why not ask your mum if she would consider buying you a Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack which will enable you to sample our products.  They are available in branches of Tesco, Asda, Boots, Superdrug or from our online store.

  • Hey Vicki so I have had discharge for 17 months now and I have had all the signs of puberty
    But I have had brown discharge twice and I know it's not my period because I only had it for a day and I went back to normal discharge what does this mean ( I'm 12) xx
    Thanks Alicia xxx

    Hi Alicia, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I started my period today it wasnt me first one like but anyway so yeah im on me period and tomorrow i have pe first lesson and im most likely to get period pains and i dont wear tampons what should i do because when i get bad period pains it really hurts and i have to stop what im doing and just stay still for like a minute. X thanks x

    Physical exercise can actually help with period pain so please try not to worry and enjoy your PE lesson.  As long as you change your pad before the lesson, you should be protected from leakage but it might be a good idea to change again afterwards as you will also be sweaty.

  • Why js it that only the male gets lunished for having under aged sex

    It is not always a male that gets punished; the law is the same for females if they have sexual relations with a girl or boy under the age of 16 too.

  • My won't let me get tampons and I've asked her and she said no but I really want them. Should I just go to the shop and buy them anyway or should I just continue using pads

    You should always respect your mum's wishes.

  • Hi! So I like this boy, S and I asked one of my "friends" for his number. I didn't tell her why I wanted it and she said oo u like him P and accidentally sent if to him. So now I don't know if I should text him or not because he now thinks I like him and I do but he is a grade older than me, I'm in 7 he's in 8. What should I do? Text him... Idk but please help me also we are having a carnival at my church and I want to go with him but.. I don't know if he even like me!! Just please help!!
    Thanks!! 😘😘😘

    Now this boy knows how you feel, why not wait and see if he gets in touch. This would be my advice.

  • Hey

    So a boy messaged me saying that he saw me and then he sent this
    " Your really busty for your age x_x"

    What does that mean? I know it means big breasts but like the EXACT meaning

    It means that in his opinion he thinks you have big breasts for a girl of your age.

  • HI i have a few questions
    .can you wear a pantyliner all day?
    .does masturbation damage or affect your body?
    .what is an underwired bra? is it different from just a 'wired' bra
    .imconfused, is the stretchy thing between your labia called the hymen and is that where your pee hole is/what is the hymen?
    .is it ok for discharge to be clear?
    .how does your period leak
    thanx

    The choice is yours as pant liners can be changed as little or as oftne as you like.  Masturbation is a perfectly natural, instinctive thing to do which does not damage the body.  An underwired bra describes a bra that has more structure to it from the wire whereas a non-wired bra is a softer bra with less structure.  The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.  The opening that you urinate from is called the urethra and is situated in between the labia.  For more help with this, check out my blog on The Reproductive System.

  • IF YOU FEEL DISTANGE FOR UP TO 8 MONTHES WHEN WILL YOUR PERIOD START

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months so I guess that your period can arrive at any time.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 11 and my boobs are tiny and I haven't got my period yet I want bigger boobs how can I make the big?

    There is nothing you can do to make your breasts any bigger so try to be patient and wait for them to develop.  This can happen up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • I keep getting pains/aches in my left side at the bottom and I want to know if it's anything I should worry about. Thanks

    Ask your mum or guardian what they think the pain is and if you should be checked out by your GP.

  • HI HOW LONG AFTER A YELLOW GOU IN YOUR UNDERWEAR DOES YOER PERIOD START

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki,
    im a bit scared id like to buy my first bra but going in to shops to buy one is going to be hard for me as im shy and i wonder what my friends would say as they say i dont need one hope you can give me some advice thanks

    You might like to consider buying a trainer bra to start with as they are soft .  It really doesn't matter what your friends think as long as you and your mum or guardian think you need one, that's fine.  As you're a little shy, why not ask your mum if you can order one online but make sure you have a rough idea of your bra size is.

  • Hi, Vicki
    I am 12 years old and my period has lasted for more than 7 days and i am getting worried. I dont want to tell my mom because she will freak out. Should i be worried?
    M

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for 2 years.  However, if your period is persistently heavy and you begin to feel tired and lethargic ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.  I'm sure your mum will understand as she was a young girl going through puberty once.

  • I started my period about a year ago, and it is super heavy, like leaking through tampons and leaking through pads to my bedding on a night. Is it normal??😔 I also get really bad cramps before and during my period

    As your periods are quite heavy, make sure that you make regular changes of your sanitary protection and consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels, available in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  Lil-Lets also offer tampons in different absorbencies ranging from Lite all the way to Ultra. For more information, check out Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.Should you ever feel more tired than normal and your period continues to be so heavy, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Im gonna be 13 and still got no boobs im completely flat is that a bad thing and sometimes boys make fun of me for being like that is something wrong with me or im just really a late bloomer. thanks x)

    Try not to worry as it is very possible for you to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki, can you suggest anywhere, online or an actual store, where you can buy cute underwear. I don't know whether you've heard of victorias secret, they're stuff is really nice but unfortunately it isn't widely available in the uk. Thanks :)

    I have heard of Victoria's Secret and understand that they offer some lovely underwear so take a look online.  You might also want to look at Marks & Spencer, New Look and any department store like John Lewis or Debenhams.

  • Vicki! My first period was on the 11th of August. Like a few days before my first period I had tummy ache ( not lower belly, like normal belly ache) and um diarrhea. Sorry its gros. And then my period came. Now its the 7th of September and the same pain and diarrhea has come again. Does that meen my 2nd period is coming? But my question is has the tummy pain and diarrhea got anything to do with my period? OMG! Does that meen Im goingto have this every time I get my period?Should I go to my Doctor? xx

    Some girls do experience tummy pain and a little diarrhoea before and during their period but it does not require a visit to your doctor. It is most likely caused by the muscles surrounding your uterus contracting and impacting on your bowel movements. So please try not to worry, lots of us girls experience this.

  • Hi vicki so me and my bff hang out all the time and there's this other girl who hangs out with us but sometimes she says you 2are bff and not me coz she's jealous so we got bff necklaces and she got mad I don't get it any advice

    If you purchased three necklaces I do not see why she was so upset; maybe you need to speak to her about this in an effort to avoid any friendship fall outs.

  • Hi vicki I'm really confused I like this boy but I'm not sure if he likes me he's 13 and im 12 we talk on snapchat and he said I'm his good friend he's gone into middle school and I'm still in 8th grade but sometimes he completely ignores me and other times he sign his txt with an xxx I'm not getting the signals do u think he likes me

    He may like you but may not yet be ready to share this news with others, which is quite common for boys. So continue chatting as friends and see what the future brings without putting too much pressure on this boy.

  • Part 2
    L told her mum and i felt super guilty and i needed to tell my mum so we all talked on skype and sorted things out.. But im still really worried and i think my mum is too, please give me some advice vicki xx
    Love J

    Hi J, if E has decided to smoke this really is something her parents must manage and I am sure they have noticed the tell-tale signs that a member of the family is smoking; it is very hard to hide the smell and evidence that you have been taking part in this activity. So whilst I appreciate that you and your friend are worried, my advice is to gently advise E of the dangers of smoking without making her feel that you are either ganging up on her or judging her choice.

  • Hi vicki,
    Ok so im 13 and i was chatting to my friend L online. She had been to town with E and when they were coming back E told her that she was going into the woods to smoke. L wount go in with her and asked why E was doing it but E just started crying.
    Part 1

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi vicki

    I went in the bathroom this morning and i noticed a light brown almost pee colour in my pants it didnt smell so its not wee what is it please help vicki


    Should i wear a pant liner just in case?

    Nina wowretrypopcorm

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also to tell us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki ive currently just started my period and ive got sports at school tommorow and i dont know what to do i feel quite uncomfortable with the fact that when I've got bad period pains I'll have to be running about and i dont feel comfortable with getting changed infront of my friends when I've got a pad on

    I hope that the exercise you do will help to ease your discomfort but you might like to ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller before you go to school.  Try to remember that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so it is very likely that some of your friends will be on their period and wearing a pad too.  You might like to wear two pairs of knickers to make you feel more secure.

  • Why are my boobs small when nearly everyone in my family has or had quite big ones?

    We're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is quite possible for breast development to continue up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Why do my parents never say anything positive about me or congratualate me or remind me of times when I did something well?

    As you feel upset by this, I suggest you sit down with them and tell them how it makes you feel.

  • Hi it's Abigail: Whenever I try to talk to my mum and dad about things that are bothering me it always turns really negative and almost into an argument...but I don't make it that way. I don't really understand why it happens and I don't know what I do wrong everything just seems to go upside down with me, my plans never work, nights out are always rubbish no matter how I try and whenever I want to do something it never works out. I'm so sick of it.

    Could it be that you build your nights out to be something so fabulous you will always be a little let down. Try to take one day at a time and get into the mindset of thinking that in whatever you do, you will get the best out of the experience. Finally, have a quiet word with your mum and dad letting them know that you just want to share your feelings with them but find very often it starts a row and that is the last thing you want.

  • Hi!
    So last night I went to the loo and wiped and there was some blood (first time) so I wore a pad that night. I went to the loo again the next morning, and there was nothing on the pad. But, when I wiped, there was more blood than last night, and even a little bit dripped into the loo. Should I be worried or is this just my period? I've never gotten this before so I'm kind if panicky.
    Thanks in advance :)

    Try not to worry as this is simply your first period so congratulations.

  • My mum is super excited about me starting puberty, its pretty embarrassing for me and i think shes gone bananas!!!

    I think it's great that your mum wants to share the experience with you.

  • Hi vicki x

    I was wondering, when discharge comes out it is clear and sometimes runny sometimes creamy. But when it dries on my nickers / a liner it goes a weird orange colour, is that normal?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry as discharge can vary in colour, consistency and amount.  When it dries out, it is normal for it to turn yellow.

  • How do i tell my mom about my period ? its my firstand im scared xx pleas help asap from holly mae wood

    Hi Holly Mae, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there is really no need for you to feel afraid telling her.  For some help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi so I'm sorry if this is a stupid question but on your period do you bleed more from mastubating? Because if u mastubate your tricking your body into thinking you are having sex because your body really wants to make babies so when you mastubate your body creates more of a lining so when you have your period you bleed more? Sorry it's just I have mastubated a little and this is my second period and it has come on really heavy! Thanks x

    Masturbation has no impact on your period or the amount of fluid that is produced to line the walls of your uterus.  So please try not to worry and rest assured that your period and masturbation are not linked in any way.

  • Hiya Vicki,
    Right so I sent in measurements and you told I was a 30aa, but 30 is too small around the band and a double a is too small cup size. So I tried a 32aa and the cups are still too small, so then I tried 32a And the band fits comfortably but the cups are too big...
    What do I do ??

    This is why we always recommend that you try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.  It is only a guide that I can provide you with.

  • When I'm on my period on the first day or two I like need a poo a lot of the time but it isn't loads?.. Why is this coz I hate it and it's so annoying. Thanks and sorry if inappropriate cc

    This is perfectly normal so please try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 11yrs old and complety flat, I know that u would tell me that boobs development happens at different times but I'm really desperate now, I haven't even started budding and my 9yr old cousin has boobs and my 8yr old sister has started budding and I haven't !!!!!!! Pls help ASAP!!!!!!

    You are still only 11 and there is plenty of time for your breasts to develop so try not to worry.  You might find that once your breasts start to develop, they develop more quickly than your friends as we a ll develop at different rates.

  • Dear Vicki
    every month my boobs hurt really badly i told my mum but she doesn't much.i have paracetimal doesn't help much.i haven't started my periods either. My second question:I went to the docters in June to ask how long till my period comes he said 3months.He looked up my vagina and looked at things id had already got (bodily features). Thanks pls answer(:

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and sore, tender breasts are perfectly normal with development.  A soak in a warm bath might help to soothe your discomfort.

  • if u have not started ur period but have discharge what does it mean when discharge gets darker and heavier??? Like is it a sign u cud get ur periods sooner???
    Ty xxx

    Hi Ty, if your discharge is brown, this could be your first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  However, if it is still clear/white or yellow in colour you will still have a while to wait before your period arrives and this is usually within 6-12 months.

  • at the beginning of the year my school did a colour run and my shirt was too big and because I'm flatchested it looked really stupid and now everytime I look back I feel terrible and embarrassed. how can I forget it and other people forget it?

    Very often things that happen can feel pretty important and embarrassing for us, but with time you will realise we all have these moments and they really are not that bad. So give yourself time and if someone mentions the colour run, just smile and laugh it off, saying how crazy that day was.

  • Hello! My name is Kayla and I'm 13. I've had discharge for about 1 year and a half. And it was just clear. But, not it's turned white and sticky and stringy. I have grown 4 inches in 2 monthes and I've also had an increase in breast size. I was just wondering if I was gonna get my period soon? I also have had a voice change and hips have widened. :)

    Hi Kayla, as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • i really want to try tampons but my mum thinks I shouldn't wear them cause i would get cancer up there

    There is no truth in this but you have to respect your mum's wishes.

  • hi Vicki, I saw stuff online talking about breast massages. It told me to move my finger around my breast for a few hundred times and I tried it. it actually feels nice (like the feeling after exercising) ? Is this a good idea? Is it good or bad for me?

    The breast is a very sensitive part of your body and will respond to both touch and temperature, however there is no need to massage the breasts unless they are tender and a few hundred times does seem a little extreme.

  • Hi vicky,
    This is urgent. ...I have to were indian saree for a function.i want to were padded bra since my chest is flat...what size cup should I were? Measurement in indian size please...urgent the function is tomorrow.the saree color is cream...blouse is dark blue..urgent .help...

    I am unable to do a bra sizing for you as I would need to have some measurements from you.  Try not to worry as I'm sure you will look beautiful in your Indian Sari whether you're wearing a bra or not.

  • Hi vicki i want to ask u a question what can i do if a boy that i really really like stoped
    talking to me and doesnt reaplay to my massages ?

    Try to move on and forget about him.  You can do this by keeping busy with your family and friends.

  • Hi Vicky! I've started my period but it's very irregular some moths I don't have it and some I do. I have taken GCSE PE and part of the course is swimming and I want to do swimming as one of the sports That I do. However I have a male PE teacher who is also my head of year and I can't use tampons. What happens if I come on when I'm meant to be swimming because its obviously going to happen because I've got 2 years of GCSE PE and swimming is going to be lots thanks & i have tried tampons 😔 x

    I'm afraid there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming and please believe me when I say that all it takes is a little practice.  As swimming is part of your GCSE PE course, you can't afford to miss your lessons and I do understand that you have tried them unsuccessfully before so why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  It is so important for you to be relaxed and if you wait until day 2 or 3 of your period, when your flow is at its heaviest, it should make the tampon easier to insert.  Be sure to insert it high enough into the vagina that only the cord is showing for it to feel comfortable.

  • How many Kcalories does an average teenager (13/14yr old) eat a day
    Xox

    Teenagers come in different shapes and sizes with different appetites and different metabolisms so it would be difficult for me to say.  The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is by sticking to a healthy diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and avoiding foods that are high in sugars and fat.  By doing this and being as active as possible, you will be a healthy weight.

  • i'm supposed to start so I was a little worried when I saw it was all brown instead of the normal bloody look. Do you know what this means?

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some sanitary pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • What do i tell my mom about starting my period please help xx how did you tell your mom xx ta vicki im 13btw so it seems a bit babyish to start know but i have you big help love rachel

    Hi Rachel, try not to worry as girls can start their period as young as the age of 8.  For help in Talking to Mum & Dad, check out my blog.

  • Hi Vicki I couldn't find this question since about 12:30. I don't know if it was deemed inappropriate but I'm asking again. I keep finding dried out yellowish stuff in my undies. What is it? Ps, I searched aswell

    I'm so sorry you haven't been able to locate your response.  The yellow stuff you have noticed is discharge which is perfectly normal as discharge often turns yellow when it dries out.  You might like to consider using pant liners to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey I have thrush all the time and I've gotten creams and stuff for that but the doc said it won't go away and I just started periods and I use lil let's pads and my periods are soo heavy and my thrush gets worse and I'm barley able to walk and tampons are not allowed in my religion so I want to stop my period for at,east 2 months or even a year I'm 12 btw is there any medicine I can get without bad side effects like no pregnancy when older etc plz answer?

    Ask your mum or guardian to make another appointment with your GP to find an alternative treatment for your thrush and why not consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels available in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • hi Vicki,I have started my period last month and im due(I know I wont be regular yet)but the past two days my discharge has been a lot heavier than normal? is this a sign I might get another soon

    I have been getting belly aches aswell

    Many girls notice that their discharge becomes thicker before their period arrives so this is likely.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering if there was any other way to measure my breasts without a tape measure? My mum said she was going to do it but she's always with my dad or at work and I don't know where we keep the tape measure :/
    Thanks! xx

    I'm afraid there is no other method I know of but you might like to consdier going to your local department store to ask a professional fitter to do it for you.

  • I started my period already but i had sex with this guy and we didn't use protection will i get pregnant? Jaimizha

    Hi Jamizah, having unprotected sexual intercourse means there is always a possibility that you could be pregnant.   Please contact Brook on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk to arrange a test as soon as possible.

  • I'm 11 I've been getting the white discharge for two years now but i still haven't started my period yet why?

    There are always exceptions to every rule so I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I'm scared to use a tampon,help please

    All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women and girls all over the world.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Tampons and the Summer holidays.

  • Hey Vicki
    This is gonna make my sound SO stupid I just wanted to say does EVERY girl get their period. I'm 11 and haven't started yet. I know girls get periods but does every girl or do some not ever get it? Sorry it sounds really stupid but I just wondered. Please answer! Love penny xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxox

    Hi Penny, periods are a natural occurrence for every girl and it is normal for girls to start them any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicki
    Sorry if this is inappropriate but I've had discharge for months and sometimes there are little lumps in it. Not often though. Is this normal ? Xoxoxoxoxoxooooxoxoxooxxoxoxoxooxoxox

    There is no need for alarm as this is perfectly normal.

  • Hi! I'm really confused! There's this boy called Joe and I absolutely love him and have done for 2 years we txt each other and flirt a lot but at school we barely talk🙎but he flirts with loads of other girls via social media, what should I do? Two other boys have asked me out and their both so lovely but I don't want to date them xx thanks

    I think you should think seriously about going out with Joe as he seems to be flirtatious with girls on social media and yet chooses not to talk to any of you when you're at school.  I think it would be best to get to know the other boys better before you decide on which one you would prefer to go out with.

  • Hi, i had my ears pierced at the start of the summer holidays (over 6 weeks ago) but my right ear is starting to close up! ive taken them out for school but always put them back in in the evening. i keep getting puss. do i need to get them re pierced at the jewellers or can i just keep pushing it through im worried :(
    emily x

    Hi Emily, as there is puss in the piercing it is likely that there is infection so please ask your mum or guardian what they think you should do and consider making an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 12 years old and I feel quite fat. Do you know any ways I can lose weight without exercise because recently broke my wrist and cant do any sports for another 1 1/2 months!?!?!
    Thanx from Jasmine

    Hi Jasmine, there are so many physical changes occurring during puberty that it is easy for young girls and boys to feel self-conscious about their bodies. The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a balanced diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink water and try to avoid foods that are high in fat or sugars.  By doing this and being as active as possible, you will be well on the way to maintaining a healthy weight.  Think of exercises you can do that won't affect your broken wrist; going for a long walk is an easy exercise to start with.

  • Hi Vicki! It's Lilly. You might have answered me 2-3 times before. It's because I looooove this website soooo much and I ask A LOT of questions. So... I'm sorry if this seems inappropriate but I know that girl's sings of puberty are breasts, period, hair and etc... but what about boys?

    Hi Lilly, the changes that boys notice during puberty are similar in some ways to girls as their arms, legs, hands and feet grow longer, their skin and hair become oilier but as their reproductive systems are different to girls they notice that their testicles and penises grow larger and fuller and they also develop facial hair and chest hair.

     

  • Hi
    Im 12 I have size 34b bra do you think my busy will grow?

    It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hey,
    I'm starting at my senior school tomorrow. I am really worried about the boys in the first year they are all really immature and can be a bit stupid at times. I like 1 guy (at different school) but otherwise I dront want a bf as only just 13 and starting at a new school. I don't think I should be so worried but everyone i know has told me that all the boys will like me as I'm size 34D and and really funny and kind but I don't really want that to happen. Do you have any tips? Thanks x

    Starting Secondary School can be a big step for anyone but try not to feel too worried, be yourself and ignore any interest from boys as I'm sure they will like all the girls regardless of the size of their breasts.  Good luck!

  • HI Vicki I'm 13 and a half (6 months older than my mum was) yesterday I had a really dark yellowish brown discharge is this a sign im going to get a period?
    PS I havent had one yet

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey so I have Arachnophobia and I get REAALLYYY creeped out when I see spiders. Even the smallest ones make my whole body go stiff and my blood turns cold and my whole body just shivers. I start crying for my mum and dad. Today on top of my bed *on the cealing* I saw a spider and started Screamingggg and cryinggggg so much and I started sweating and panicking.
    Do you know a way to get over this?

    Tjanks Nx

    Always try to remember that the spider is more scared of you than you are of it and you should really face your fear in order to overcome it.  Try to accept that spiders are a natural part of our world and believe it or not, they actually provide a good service by getting rid of all the other bugs that come into our houses.  You can try to desensitize yourself by looking at pictures of spiders and by reading about them or watching a documentary about them.  You should also try to identify when you first developed your fear of spiders and talk about it to whoever will listen.  Phobias can be managed with the right mindset and support, look at some relaxation techniques so you don't get too upset the next time you see one.  Deep breaths are a great way to start.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I am wondering if I am going to get any hair under my arms... I have no signs of anything and no smell despite being just 14. It's not like I've just hit puberty because I'm a 34D and have had hair down there and my period since I was just 11. I'm wondering if it is usual for underarm hair to grow last or whether it's possible not to get any at all?
    Thanks, love Chesca xxx

    Hi Chesca, this is not unheard of so please try not to worry as I'm sure it will develop when it's ready.

  • Dear vicky, im thirteen and i havent developed much. I havent started my period or development. What should i do?

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Um hi Vicki. This is a hard topic for me to talk about, because err, I'm very body conscious. I have wide hips, narrow waste, and quite big boobs (34B at age 11), I know all girls go through this but boys stare at me and I don't like it. I masturbate every night because I enjoy it (I'm sorry), and I'm just scared that I'm gonna always be the way I am....
    Thank you so much
    12345 xxx

    You're 11 so try not to worry and allow yourself some time to develop into your grown-up body.  Girls naturally notice a widening of their hips and breasts become rounder and fuller during puberty so there is nothing wrong with this.  Hormones also run riot during puberty which causes young girls and boys to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is an instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Continued from part 1.

    A few days later he sent me a message saying that he doesn't go out with girls like me and that I didnt want to hug or kiss him and he liked someone else. So he dumped me and I cried for a few days and I now can't stop thing about him. I now wish I would of kissed and hugged him. I it my fault?
    Morgan x

    Hi Morgan, your instincts told you not to hug or kiss this boy so believe that you made the right decision.  Just look at how quickly he has found someone else.  Just try to move on and forget about him.

  • do you get pain when you first start your period

    Everyone is different and some experience stomach cramps whilst others do not.  Even if you do experience pain, there are things you can do to hel ease the pain like taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in a hot bath.  If the pain is too bad, you can ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hiya, So there is this boy who lives near my house who i like and this one day he asked me over text if he wanted to go out with me, and I said yes. A few days later he broke his arm and I didnt see him and I'd I didn't it was ouside his house. I was with my friend and he said i was pretty but I didnt what to hug or kiss him and when he said do i get a hug i said yeah but I didnt give him one cause i got embarrassed.

    Continue to part two when it says a few days later

    Response in Part 2.

  • Vicki, Me and my long term boyfriend broke up. I can admit Im completley lost. Im not eating, I cry myself to sleep everynight, I sob at all the photos. I miss him so much it physically hurts. My mum is comforting me but its not making a difference. Everytime I see him at school he smiles and I just burst out crying, he said to my older sister he feels bad for putting me through this. Any advice to keep me occupied? 😰 - Becky.

    Hi Becky, I realise that you feel really upset at the moment so try to make things better by keeping busy. It is early days but in time you will be able to move on and forget about him.  Your family and friends are there to support you through this difficult time so talk to them as often as you can.

  • Hi Vicki. This site is fantastic! So I went to my best friends house last night after going horse riding. We were just sitting on her sofa having a chat and we kissed. Then we carried on kissing and she was grinding on me. I am going to tell my mum as I don't keep secrets from her, is this illegal as we are both under 16 but both girls? Sorry if this is inappropriate. ~Skylar xo

    Hi Skylar, lots of teens experiment with their sexuality and I do not feel you have done anything wrong here so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, i just turned 12, on my birthday which was about 2 months ago me and my boyfriend had sex, i'm really worried that i might be pregnant. What should i do!?!?! Xxxx

    You should act quickly and either contact your GP or the Brook Advisory Clinic on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk to confirm if you are pregnant or not.  The Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • my friend is 14 but her breast ar stil in stage 2 for almost a year now do u think her breast will grow

    Try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is also quite possible to notice breast development up until her 20's, so she still has plenty of time.

  • dear vicky
    i am 11 nearly 12 i have had my 2nd piriod and i do cheer leading (im a flyer) 3 times a week and go swimming a lot wi my pals and i need to use tampons cos i cant move very well at cheer and i obviosly cant go swimming. i dont know how to go about askin my mum! plz help ASAP
    from Dusty

    Hi Dusty, try not to worry as using tampons for the first-time has never been easier than now as Lil-Lets teens Regular and Super non-applicator tampons have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  As you swim and do cheer leading, they will provide you with the confidence and protection you need.  As for talking to your mum, try to remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed.

  • I get tonsil stones and scared... My mum is going to take me to the doctor but if they suggest removing my tonsils then what if I don't wake up after them putting me to sleep? Could u give me some advise on the tonsil stones and on surgery please x

    Please try not to worry as I believe that they only remove tonsils if they absolutely have to these days.  Try to remember that if this is what they suggest for you, this procedure is something that has been perfected as it has been done for years so I'm sure you would be in the safest of hands.

  • Hi, i am 15 and i have really bad mood swings from being loud and happy to wanting to be quite to being moody and depressed? How can i help make my mood swings less noticeable because it effects the things i do and how should i be dealing with the? Is there anything i can do?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's little wonder they feel down at times.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film and most importantly of all, be sure to talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as chances are, some of your friends will be feeling the same way too.

  • Shall I wash my pubic hair with shampoo and conditioner and body wash?

    Normal shower gel will be fine.

  • when will i get my piored

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki
    When I wipe my bottom this like black fluff comes off Wat is dis BTW I am 12 and I love dis site really helpful



    From emma

    The black fluff you notice is probably from your underwear or a piece of clothing.  Thank you for your support.

  • I get dizzy a lot usually in the morning when I go outside to feed my pets and let them out of their hutch... Could this be because of the bending over cuz I get it when I get up after bending over or laying down? And is this normal?

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • roughly every month i have a clear fluid discharge? what is it and should i be wearing a liner or something as protection as sometimes there is large ish amounts?

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and is the body's way of letting us know that our period isn't too far away.  Lil-Lets teens Liners are ideal for helping to keep you fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki
    Im 14 and im a 32a i have had discharge for about 5 years and i had a sort of period about 4 months ago but had nothing since then, but i have been having pains in my belly lately, when do you think i will start?

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki my question is How do you know you have cramps because My stomach hurts but I don't know if its cramps or a stomach ache.

    Ask your mum or guradian what they think.  If your period is due then it is likely that the pain is due to this but if not, you should be checked out by your GP.

  • I'm 14, 15 this month, & I have really small boobs, would wearing an underwired bra be affecting the growth?
    thankyou Vicki x

    There is no truth in this so try not to worry and be patient as we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • I'm bisexual but have not yet come out. I know my family will be ok with it as they brought me up to belief that it's ok whatever sexuality you are, but there's this girl at school who's really homophobic, but she's popular and everyone copies what she says so I'm scarred that because she says its disgusting, (as she said when someone else in my form came out), everyone else will think that too. I know I shouldn't care what everyone else thinks but I don't want everyone to be against me!
    Molly 123 x

    Hi Molly, puberty is a time for teens to feel attracted to both the opposite and the same sex due to a massive increase in the activity of sex hormones but this doesn't necessarily mean that you are bisexual so rather than rush into putting a label on your sexuality, why not wait a while and see how you feel.

  • Hi vicki! I am 13 and havent started my period yet. However, i have been getting discharge for a while now and sometimes it feels like i wet myself. Do you think my period is close?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and you might like to try using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi, I'm 14, and when I text my boyfriend and he has to go out for abit he says "love you" to me. But I never say it back. I don't want to be mean to him, but I don't feel like ready to say it back, what do I do?

    You should always be true to yourself and if you don't feel ready to say this back to him then don't.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and I was talking with my boyfriend (he's 2 months older than me, but he's 15) just randomly, and somehow we got on to what like personalities we like in kids, and I just said i wanted 2-3 kids. And then he started acting really weird. Did I scare him or something?

    Ps. I don't want children for a very long time and defiantly don't plan on having sex any time soon x

    Maybe he needs a little reassuring that you have no intention of having children until you're much older.

  • Hi Vicki, I went to the toilet yesterday and found a browny-white discharge when I wiped. I thought nothing of it but then it happened again today. I don't know what this means. Could I be starting my period?..

    Thanks, Alyissia x

    Hi Alyssia, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi i am 12 have started discharge about 6-8 months ago, i have pubic hair but not a lot of breasts. I am wondering when i will get my period or have any signs that it is close (i am pretty skinny).

    Many girls notice that their discharge becomes thicker before their period arrives and as you've already been releasing discharge for 6-8 months, I would guess that you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • Can a tampon get lost inside you?

    No never.

  • (P2) sorry this is going on a little. so basically every morning I feel like i'm going to have a panic attack and puke (this last the whole day). I don't know what I should do! I could either put up and shut up or move. what is your opinion on this issue? It would be great if you could reply asap thanks Cat cfc x

    Hi Cat CFC, you are obviously anxious about your GCSE's but try to remember that all you can ever do is your best so try not to put yourself under too much pressure.  As for your concerns about your teachers and school, please discuss this problem with your parents to see what they think.

  • Have you got any ideas about what to do after school (activities in berkshire) ??? Thank you!xxx

    Why not take a look at the notice board in your local library to find out what's happening in your area?  You will find that drama groups, choirs and such like will advertise here but if your looking for a sporting activty, try looking in a local sports centre.

  • Can you do more about being gay growing up on the blog, PLEASE! Thanks!xxx

    Leave this with me.

  • Can you do more about being a lesbian growing up please? Thanks xx

    Leave this with me.

  • Hi Vicky!

    It's not really a question at all but I just wanted to say Thank You so much for all of your good advise it has really put my mind to rest about a lot of stuff! So thank you so much!!!❤️

    Thank you for your support.  I'm happy to help.

  • Hi,I'm Emily and I'm 14. I have been getting discharge for ages now (over 1 year) I don't have my period yet but I seen about the different stages of discharge. Apparently, if your discharge is stretchy and stretches between your fingers it means your on your period. I'm really worried because I don't have my period,what if I just don't bleed? Please help Vicki!

    Hi Emily, when discharge becomes thicker and stretchy, it is usually a sign that your period isn't too far away but this is when you have already been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey vicki, it's my third month of being on my period & all of a sudden so much blood is coming out, it's leaks through my pad & knickers, are there any way of preventing this from happening? What causes period pains too?


    Thankssssssss

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets  Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand. If your period is so heavy that you begin to feel tired and lethargic, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.  As for stomach cramps, when the body releases menstrual fluid, it adds stress to the tummy.  Prostglandis is the chemical released by the body to help the uterine muscles contract and shed the lining.

  • I gave my bf a bj and we thought my mum had gone out but she forgot her phone and came back and she caught us and shea not spoken to me its been 9 days now and im 14 its not that unreasonable

    It's actually illegal for you to be sexually active with your boyfriend, which is why I guess your mum was so upset. Give it a few more days and have a chat to her and see if you can work out a way to move forward and get back to being on good terms.

  • I am so paranoid about getting my period! I don't know whether I am overreacting or not. Am I?

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need to fear them.  To help you understand them better, check out my blog on The Reproductive System.

  • Hey Vicki
    I started my period today but I have a huge fear of blood there is hardly any in my pad but tons when I wipe seeing as I am afraid of blood I'm really scared and don't know what to do help ! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!xoxoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxox(just so I know it's mine )

    Please try not to worry and tell yourself that releasing menstrual blood is perfectly natural and is something that happens to EVERY girl.  The more periods you experience, the more used to it you will become.  To try and help you understand your period better, check out my blog on The Reproductive System.

  • (P1) Hi Vicki
    I am seriously considering moving schools. I started last year (I am in year 10) along with the rest of my year- and honestly have not settled in at all. the teachers don't really care about how you are doing- they don't encourage you to do well. I don't think I will do as well in my GCSEs as I could if I stay. Cat(cfc)

    Response in Part 2.

  • I am not sure if have just started my period. For the last week or so, I have been seeing the signs of my period coming or PMS. I just went to the toilet and in my underwear I saw dark patches, it wasn't red, it was more brown but near the front of my pants. I am really confused if I have started since it doesn't look like blood but it doesn't look like anything else. Also if it is my period, is it ok to be brown?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary protection for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • So, I have to do swimming for P.E twice a week, for six weeks and im not allowed to use tampons.What do i do?!

    As there is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you will have to be excused as it would be both embarrassing for you to be leaking into a swimming pool and unhygienic for others.

  • Hi,
    I've been getting my period now for just over two years, and for months now it's been really heavy, is this normal? It nearly always leaks during the night, and sometimes during the day too (which is mortifying at school) and I'm also paranoid about the smell, to the point where I will try and miss as many days as I can of school when I'm on.
    My mum keeps saying that the smell is all in my head, and that no one can tell, but I've heard people talking about me.

    I'm sure your mum is right but for your own peace of mind, you might like to try our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  In addition to this, if you feel ready, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Super non-applicator tampons as they offer discreet protection by absorbing menstrual fluid internally.  With regular changes and by using a pad too, you should be able to manage your period better and avoid any leakage and there is no need for you to ever miss out on school.  At night you might like to try our Lil-Lets Freshlock Night towels as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  Should you begin to feel tired and lethargic at any time and your period is persistently heavy, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hello! I just recently took your servey and one of the questions was. "Did you know we have an adults range of sanitary products?" Or something like that and I was wondering if you can buy them from the page? It's just because my older sister knows about lil-lets but is using other brands because she is 20 so I was gonna tell her about your adult range

    Our main website has an online store and you can find this at www.lil-lets.co.uk

     

  • Why cant I have sex now im 14 and I am on the pill and can use a condom. my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years, and best friends since we were born, so we know each other amazingly well and trust each other no matter what. Weve always been open and told eachother any questions we may have even about periods/erections ect. Weve discussed sex and both agreed we are ready and we wont tell friends. Our parents know we have these intentions and say that they will support anything we decide.

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16 and that is the law.

  • Hi I am so sorry if this is inappropriate but I need help!
    So this boy in my class said to me "this is your only life". And from then on I can not stop thinking of death. But I want to stop thinking of it. I get scared to die. I have asked my mum dad + friend if they can tell me any ways to stop thinking of it.
    How can I? Please may you help me? Please coz other wise ill live the rest of my life worrying. Please. I'm only 12 and my bday is on Friday the 12 and I wonna stop thinking of it
    Thank you

    As you enter puberty  a great many things of an adult nature will occupy your thoughts and may feel a little bit scary. You are not alone in thinking like and by continuing to chat to your parents you will start to feel more comfortable about this and many more subjects.

  • So im the 12 year old girl who asked about was it too far to go woth my boyfriend and you said yes it was and my mum would probably agree.. so I felt really guilty and told mum.. she congratulated me on becoming trustworthy with another person, and she said she has no doubts that I can take any consequences my actions may bring and if I ever want to ask him to stay then she will let him.. but I dont want to upset you so until you reply i will not talk to him at all untill I know if your ok with this

    If your mum is happy for you to be this intimate and you are 16 and legally able then this really is not my business and you should continue to chat this through with your mum.

  • In school the chairs that. I sit on are plastic and whenever I get up a see a patch of like wet? I don't wear panty liners or anything like that but I don't know what it is. What is it and how do I stop it???? Thanks xx

    The wet patch is probably from sweat and discharge so you might like to consdier trying Lil-Lets teens Liners as they are ideal for helping you to feel fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi again! U answered by saying to get a padded bra to stop my nipples from showing one problem... I don't have any breasts. What can I do?
    351073

    As you are so self-conscious about your nipples, why not consider wearing either crop tops or vests made with thick material.  Try to remember that they are a perfectly natural sign of breast development so you should try not to feel so embarrassed by them.

  • Hiya Vicks, I am 14 almost 15 and I have had discharge heavy for about a year and about 2 weeks ago it went from bright yellow to brown and It lasted a day and not gone brown since:/
    What does this mean

    There is no need for alarm as this is perfectly normal.  Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens in the coming weeks and months and please remember that in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki. Everyone at my new high school seems to have a crush on a boy. Except me. I havent ever had a crush on a boy, or even thought "whoa, hes hot". Is this normal?


    From ~ Anonymous Kitty cat

    Try not to worry as you're simply not ready to have a crush on someone.  Just be patient and allow yourself some time.

  • Dear viki
    I always get really scared about worms
    I feel like I have them and am scared to go to the
    Toilet ? What should I do ? I don't know much about worms

    I am sure you would know if you have threadworms they are small white string like parasites that can live in the intestines. They are very often noticed around the entrance to the anal passage and I am afraid must be treated with over the counter medication or by a visit to your GP.  Medication alone will not prevent future eggs from hatching and spreading so consider changing your personal hygiene routine going forward to prevent further infection.

  • Theres this boy in my class that all of the girls like including me. I have know him for almost 2 years now and he knows that i like him. He constantly stares at me and his friends always say to him "go and sit next to her (me) theres are seat to to her!" He doesn't like any other of the girls that like him but i think he might like me. He has had a couple of girlfriends before, do you think he like me? thanks x Oh and he also asks questions about me to my friend.

    It sounds like he likes you, if you feel the same way then smile and chat to him when he is around and see what happens from there.

  • Hi, my period is very very heavy and it's only been about 2 or 3 days i think. Why is this? btw i am 12 and this is a first period.

    Periods can be light or heavy and this is nothing to worry about, it is just important to have the best sanitary protection available and for very heavy periods I would consider wearing our Lil-Lets Freshlock long and night pads.

  • I like this guy and we talk and I know he likes me but how do I get with him (if you know what I mean) also he is my friends ex :/ xxx thank you

    Get to know him as a friend and in time you may just find feelings deepen and you become closer. If you do decide to date you can then chat to your friend if she has not already worked it out for herself and let her know you and this boy like each other.

  • Hi so there was this like I dunno It felt like I was pooping but it was just a HUGE clump of discharge is this normal and whenever I bring up periods to my mum she shouts at me because I think she has no overies or something I hav no one to talk to plz help ps I'm adopted

    Discharge can vary in colour, texture and the amount produced, so I do not think you will have anything to worry about and this is all part of your development from a girl to a young woman.  If you cannot chat to your mum then why not be sure to read all the great stuff on our website for all you need to know about periods and puberty.

  • how do i tel my mom i need a bra?plz ansa my Q's

    Why not ask her how old she was when she got her first bra and this will move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • hello vicki. so me and my boyfriend have been together for since we were 5 (i know, some people cant believe it but we've been on and off) and im 16, hes 17. i think the time is right but with protection. would i be sold condoms over the counter with ID or is there an age limit like alchol? 🌸 thank you ~ bethanyy.x

    Hi Bethany, you can purchase contraception from a store if you wish as can your boyfriend. Alternatively you can obtain condoms for free from your local family planning or Brook centre.

  • I keep getting cramps in my tummy HELP KitKatxoxoxo:)

    Hi KitKat, this is very normal and part of your reproductive organs maturing during puberty.

  • I am on my period yet I've only just started I am the second one in my group of friends out of three of us . But how do I tell her ? Do I have to tell her ? Because if I don't she might feel like I can't trust her ! Any help thanks x

    You only have to tell someone if you want to, as no one can tell just by looking at you that you have your period.

  • Hiya! Vicky!

    I've read so much of your advise and now I want to ask you a question. I have been getting brown stuff in my pants so started to wear lines but it has been going on for about 3 days so when will it stop because I'm a little worried! Should I be?
    Thanks! Xxx
    BTW I'm Jenny

    Hi Jenny, this is your period and could continue for a few more days so continue to wear pads or liners until no more fluid is noticed. It would also be a good idea to have a chat to your mum about this too.

  • My mum always reads my texts to my friends but I don't think this is fair as she knows all my friends secrets that my friend trusted me not to tell anyone. How can I get my mum to stop being so mean?? I'm 9 btw.
    😄😄😄😄😄

    Have a chat to your mum and explain the situation, if she has read your texts she will know you have nothing to hide and hopefully understand that you do not want to break confidences of close friends, which you feel you are currently doing. If not then it may be a good idea to ask your friends to stop texting letting them know what is happening.

  • I found some very light brown/yellowy discharge in my knickers. Is this my period or will it come soon??
    😋😋😋😋😋😋😋

    Why not wait and see what happens over the next few days and if you notice more brown fluid over the next few days this could be your first period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Recently my discharge has become a lot heavier, I have had discharge since January and heavy discharge for about a week. It has probally doubled in amount. My question is, does this mean anything?
    From Cordy

    Hi Cordy, not really; discharge can vary in the colour, texture and amount produced from day to day and is very normal and part of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hey Vicki! I'm trying to work out my bra size, on my under bust I am 78 cm and the fullest part I am a 83cm!! What does this work out to be?

    Try 36AA when you visit the department store.

  • the other day when I started walking my vagina got this really sharp pain through it, it was really sore and it continued when I walked. when I sat down and every so often moved it hurt? And I don't know why? I've started my period but I don't use tampons thanks X

    These cramps are part of your reproductive organs maturing and nothing to worry about.

  • What causes period pains? & is there any way of not coming on your period every month?

    Period pain and growing pains can be very similar. As your reproductive organs mature you may notice little cramps in your groin, lower tummy and back even when your period is not due and this can happen for many years during your adolescent years.

  • *PART 2*
    He got asked to do P.e. where you do trampolining, go in the gym and stuff but he asked if he could do hisotry after my teacher told the class that I'm doing it. So I'm really confused. I thought he hated me, but he's also really tall and I'm really short, and I really wanna go out with him but I'm worried he'll say i'm too short, please help!

    It seems this boy likes you, just the way you are and I really would not overthink his intentions. If he likes you he will ask you out and all you have to do is be patient, yourself and see what happens in the future.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am having boy troubles. There's this guy I have a huge crush on, and lately, he's been looking at me in classes, and he will talk to me a lot more and try and high five me. But we have this open evening coming up and he loves p.e. and I love history.
    *PART 1*

    See my response in part two.

  • Hi Vicki, I keep finding a pale yellow dried out stain every time I look at my under wear. What could it be? Ps when I go to the toilet it stil dried out even if it's the first visit in the day

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and is a great sign that your period is not too far away.

  • Thanks Vicki for doing lots of blogs recently!
    :D Im very happy! :D

    You are more than welcome and the surveys you have all recently taken part in have given me lots of ideas for new blogs to come.

  • I..I forgot what I was going to ask you...it was really important.......

    Get back to me when you remember, I am here every day.

  • Hey Vicki? Have you changed some little details in this website already? Like...in the video section you have to watch the videos in youtube? And maibe in the blog comment page when there is like no picture it has a bit different imige???
    Is it changed or is it just...me?

    We have made no changes just yet as we are still reviewing your comments from the survey.

  • Vicki? Do you check the comments in the blog page?

    Yes, I do. The newer ones I check every day and the older blogs every couple of days.

  • What part of your body do u get PMS cramps.i keep on getting cramps and pains in the front of my belly under my belly button.

    This sounds about right, as does the groin and lower back.

  • Hey
    Please reply Asap xx
    I have liked this boy for ages and now i see him at school its a bit awkward. Over the summer we have texted all the time and now we find it aekward to talk face to face. He has a crush on me now and I really like him too. Hes asked me out but I dont know what to say! Im really shy and dont want everyone to know. My friends dont think hes great coz hes had a crush on all of them befor. Please help!

    Why not go out with this boy at the weekend as a friend and see how you get on, you may really hit it off and like each others company, but it doesn't have to be too serious...too soon.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm really not happy because I'm fat and I'm really unhappy about this, I don't know what to do to lose weight:( I'm about 9 stone and I'm 12:( What should I do?

    Charlotte x

    Hi Charlotte, there really is only one way to lose weight and get fit. Eat 3 healthy meals a day, eat fewer snacks and exercise 3-4 times a week for an hour or so. By doing this, your body will find its ideal weight and you will feel much healthier.

  • I have tried lil-lets tampons however they unfortunatly don't work for me I am very heavy and a super plus tampon and pad will be full in 15 mins I am a gymnast and being that heavy makes me very uncomfortable at the gym I don't feel comfortable talking to any of my coaches about it as I only just joined that gym in May this year and don't seem to be fitting in very well any advice because i hate missing gym because of it

    It may be that you need a higher absorbency and our Lil-lets non applicator or applicator super plus, super plus extra and ultra tampons will be a more suitable absorbency to try.

  • Hi vicki it's taylah and I've been having discharge for a while now and I haven't had my first period is there something wrong with me and I'm really worried about it please help me vicki
    Thanks taylah😄

    Hi Taylah, discharge can be noticed for up to 12 months before the arrival of your period, so please try not to worry, your body is working just as it should.

  • Hi I'm 12 and I started my period in December last year and the missed about 6 months and then had my period on the 16th August. Do you know when my next period will happen?
    Also my boobs are really big for my age and all my friends have tiny ones.
    There is also this one boy that I REALLY like and I can't stop thinking about. Have you got any tips?
    Thanks so much xxx

    Periods are very often irregular for the first few years and this is very normal and nothing to worry about. My advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about in preparation. As for breasts well they come in a variety of shapes and sizes and I am sure your friends will notice growth just like you in time. Finally, if you like this boy, smile when you see him and say "Hi", if he smiles back I am sure he will be happy to chat to you more as time goes by.

  • Viki I need your help.
    I really hate my school right now. I just moved schools and I wanna move straight away. It's been 2 weeks and I feel terrible. I have friends but I hate it. I have to wait 14 WEEKS Before I can move back.

    Why not give your new school a real chance to change your mind...new schools are always strange but you may find chatting to teachers about the way you feel can help resolve any issues.

  • Hey Vicki. At which do your breasts stop growing?

    In your late teens or early twenties, why not read my blog entitled; your periods are not the end of the story.

  • I'm the girl who asked about inverted nipples,
    . Thankyou it helped a lot and is it normal for inverted nipples to be dry and crusty? Also I had my first period in early august which means my second period was due today and I knew it wouldn't come because my friends always say their 2nd didn't come till 5 months later! Around the date my second should have started I got cramps around the lower tummy but no period? I also understand periods are irregular but why did I get cramps when there was no period?

    Cramps occur when the reproductive organs are maturing and this can happen any time and not just before or during your period. As for nipples they can be crusty from time to time, my advice is gently wash them and they will feel less sore in a few days.

  • Dear vicki,
    I'm sixteen now and have been developing my breast for many many years now. However, I only started my period when I was fifteen in August 2014. I noticed that I'm still a size 32A and have been remaining that for a while. With very little growth. Despite the many years sines I've started to grow breasts, I still haven't grown nipples. Everyone else has and it makes me feel awkward when they ask around or even talk about nipples. Why haven't I grown nipple yet? It's been more than 3-4 years...

    Nipples are one of the last parts of the breast to develop and as breasts continue to grow into our late teens and early twenties, so you see you have plenty of time for this part of your body to mature.

  • (this is part 2 of my question)
    so what do i do?? should i talk to A1 and A2 when i go to our sleepover this weekend?? i also have 2 other really close friends called A3 and L1 so should i hangout with them instead??? Please help!!
    from leila
    xxx
    PS . my old best friend has also been hangout with a nother group so she might stay with them but i just dont know ???

    Leila, why not give your old friend another chance, we all make mistakes and invite her to hang out with all of your friends as group.

  • dear vicki, (prt. 1)
    i really need some help. i have just started high school and i have noticed that my best friend from my old school has changed and isnt as nice anymore so i started hanging out with 2 new girls called A1 and A2 and i really like them they are my new nest friends!! but then my old bestfriend started to try and hangout with us and we have been through so much i cant say 'i dont want hangout with you anymore' to her face.
    (look at part 2)

    My response is in Part Two.

  • One of my best friends is a boy and we both fancy each other we want to go out but if it goes wrong I don't want to loose him as one of my closest friends.
    What should I do?

    This is a chance you have to take, so don't be shy and see how things ago...what do you have to lose.

  • Hi vicky *+*+*+*+
    Im starting my gcses this year and im finding onebof my classes a bit awkward - there are only 4vof us taking this subject and the teacher is a new man and quite young. Us 4 are quite quiet and I just feel really awkward in these lessons - any ideas?!
    ××××××

    Give it time, even though your new teacher is young I am sure he is very qualified to teach you all you need to know, so relax and learn what you can from him.

  • Hi Vicki, on Wednesday I started my period for the the first time. The next day I was sitting in class and started feeling really sick, hot then my head felt weird. I stood up and fainted, then once I had stood up I fainted again. Is the coincidence or is it linked? Thankyou x

    It could be a coincidence, but to be safe from fainting again consider eating small and healthy meals next time your period is here and drinking plenty of water and get lots of rest too.

  • Hi Vicki, so sorry if this is inappropriate, but I watch porn and I only get arroused watching lesbians. I am 12 and I have discharge/am developing. I used to watch it when I was 10 but I wasn't going through puberty. What does this mean? I still think sex is a beautiful thing though. Help!
    Helen x
    P.S: should I try and stop? Or can I can carry on?

    It would be great if you can stop watching pornographic images but it really is your decision.

  • Hi viki , I
    I hope this isn't inapropriate but I have white stuff on my down there what is this ?

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, it's nothing to worry about and you can find out all about this fluid if you visit the Puberty section on our website.

  • how old do a girl gets her period

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18.

  • Dear viki ,
    My sister is ten and she doesn't use this site but she has had a period and is fairly mature for her age and some of her friends use this site too , is it ok for a ten year old to use this site ?
    Thanks
    Lauren

    Hi Lauren, absolutely ok, in fact girls younger than your sister come and visit us and ask me questions.

  • Dear viki ,
    So I'm ten and all my friends wear makeup to school only like concealer and lipgloss is this ok
    Laura

    Hi Laura, I think this is a little excessive for a 10 year old, but if your parents are happy for you to wear make-up then it really is their decision and their views count.

  • Hi viki
    So I wear a bra and my breasts are really sensitive and hurt . What should I do ? Ps I wear a bra to bed is thus good or bad
    Katie

    Hi Katie, this is quite normal as the breasts continue to develop and should stop in a few months as they continue to grow.

  • Today I wanted to go shopping with my mum to buy stuff for school but my sister's best friend wants to come over! What should I do? Answer Asap

    love from VUlFAB20

    This is something your mum should manage and possibly arrange another day for your sister's friend to come over.

  • hi Vicki, my names abi and I have been getting discharge now for eight-ish months and about 2 months in there was blood in it but nothing since! I had a really bad cramp in my stomach about 2months ago , and I have had 2 dreams now where I started my period, also just recently my discharge Is clear and stringy, all my friends have started but I'm the only one who hasn't... Help!!:( thanks xxxx

    Hi Abi, blood is generally your period and they can have gaps of several months between each one so please try not to worry and ensure you have some pads and liner with you going forward.

  • Hiya viki! pLease put this in friendship and boys thx x so over the holidays I was texting to this boy in my year and he said he loves me so I told him I loved him 2. We talked like everyday! He said he was gonna ask me out on the first day back but he didnt. And he didn't talk to me. He said he gets really embarrassed and its just really awkward when we try and talk face to face! What can I do to help him with his embarrassment and how can I make it less awkward? plz answer ASAP thx.flowergirl xx

    Why not smile when you see him, say "Hi" every now and then slowly he may start to feel less shy around you and in front of others, but the main thing is to not rush him and wait until he feels ready.

  • Hi Vicki what is my bra size
    72under 3o over thanks!

    I think you may have done your under bust in cms and your bust in inches, so please try again and get back to me.

  • Can girls with flat breasts get periods?

    Yes of course, periods have no impact on breast development.

  • Is it normal to get a tingly feeling when I watch videos of a celeb?

    If you have a crush on this celebrity then yes this is very normal.

  • Is it actually true that if you share a really good bond with someone you know, your periods sync? Because me and my friend suddenly started getting periods at the same time, and I'd like to know if this period syncing is actually true?

    This is a myth.

  • hi Vicki
    I'm really worried because I'm only 12 and I masturbate quite a lot practically every day! I'm just wondering if other girls at the age of 12 do what I'm doing. I mean I used to watch porn at the age of 11 but I stopped soon after I started but now I'm just wondering if it's just me that's doing these things at my age. I'm so confused !! please help

    You are certainly not alone in experimenting with how your body makes you feel when touched so please try not to worry, lots of young people masturbate.

  • I've heard there's a modern way of measuring your breasts? Do you actually use your under bust measurement as your band size? xx

    It is always important to measure your underbust when working out your bra size.

  • Hey Vicki :-) im 13 almost 14 in 18 days n I really want to lose my weight im 149 cm in height n my weight is 47 kg plz tell me wat to do n I have a lot of study burden so tell me something easy please

    Eat three healthy meals a day and exercise for at least half an hour to an hour 3-4 times a week. Even if this is exercise is simply walking to school or dancing in your room.

  • Hi Vicki! Okay so this may seem inappropriate but isn't sex messy? Like if the woman's on her period there's blood and discharge and the mans sperm. Wouldn't it all just be a bit..messy? Xx

    It could be yes, but if the two people do not mind this then it is rarely a problem and menstrual fluid and semen are not harmful fluids, it is simply a personal choice between the people involved.

  • PART TWO FROM CATHYI and dirty messages on my yr7 sisters fcebook, I've told them both but I just can't get over it with him he ignores me and acts scared infront of me but that's, not what I want. I'm in live with him it's been 9 months and he still won't talk to me,how do I get over him?Why is it so hard?Am I being over the top?Why is he scared?

    Cathy, you really must make a decision on this matter; do you forget the past and try to make things work between you both, or do you decide he is not the one for you as he has been intimate with your sister and only you can make that decision I am afraid.

  • PART ONE FROM CATHYI spent a lot of time with this boy in my year(yr10and we got so close, I developed feelings for him,I really truly am In love with him recently I have found pictures of his ****

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Is sleeping together (not sex but same bed) considered bad because my boyfriend has been my friend throughout childhood and weve often shared a bed on sleepovers and yesterday we decided to go out and he is staying in a week and shares my bed will there be sexual tension? We are 16 and mum doesn't know were together she thinks he's gay but obviously he isn't so I can't ask her

    There is bound to be sexual expextations for both of you that could not only cause tension but also impact on your friendship in the future. So please consider whether it would be a good idea to sleep seperately if you are not yet ready to be sexually active.

  • I got caught making out in the toilets with my girlfriend (im a lesbian) and our pe teacher caught us and I think our parents will be called in but my mum has such strong discriminative veiws against gays so im worried about he reaction and my gf an I are going to stick together no matter what

    If the school do decide to contact your parents about this matter, it will not be regarding your sexuality but rather your inappropriate behaviour in school and yes your parents may be a little shocked and upset when they find out, but as with most parents once they have got  over the shock they will I am sure support you 100%.

  • On the brook website that we get a link to after asking a question, it says that if you are under the age of consent you are unlawful however if both parties are of close age and both willing participants you might not be punished. Does this mean me and my bf who are both 14 can have sex because we are of similar age and willing.

    It means that if you are sexually active and found out, it will be up to the individual authorities to decide whether they prosecute your boyfriend or not.

  • if I'm a 12aa bra size, should I bother wearing a bra?
    thanks xox

    Only if you want to and feel ready, otherwise you can continue going without for a little while longer.

  • Why iqsbit considered such a bad thing for someone to have sex under the age of 16 I mean obviously like a 7 year old having sex would be a bit extreme but I mean people used to be married and having children by around 14 and now it's considered shameful to have sex under 16 and I dont understand why

    It is generally believed that even though someone may be physically mature at the age of 16 to be sexually active, it is unlikely that they will be either emotionally or mentally prepared for this type of intimacy, which is why the age of consent was introduced.

  • Hey Vicki

    So I am 13 and this boy asked me out I said no but I still like him and when ever I think of him I just want to kiss him but my friends don't like the boy and I am worried about what they would say what do I do

    Thanks

    It would not do for us all to like the same people and if you like this boy you should date him and if your friends are true friends they will support you whatever your decision.

  • is 15 too young to go to a house party with alcohol but not more than about 10 people?

    I feel it is a little young especially as alcohol is being drank.

  • I just got my first period and I don't know how to tell my mom. I want to tell her but I am never really alone with her so everyone can hear if I start talking about it which embarrasses me. Please help me?

    Why not write her a note and pop it in her make-up bag or underwear drawer, I am sure she will them make some girly time avaiable for you both to chat.

  • Theres this boy that I like and my BFF says that he always asks about me when I'm not around. In literally every single lesson he won't stop staring at me! He knows that I like him but I think he's embarrassed even though he's super confident. I think that he does like me because his friends always hint to me that he does and they always embarrass him in front of me. Do you think it is possible that he likes me? I'm not sure and it's really bugging me! x

    I think he may like you but is not yet ready to share this news with either you or anyone else, so be patient and let him know you like him back to build his confidence.

  • Hi vicki, I wanted to know how you can tell if a boy likes you?

    If he smiles or acts silly around you, is always around and you catch him looking over at you, he may just like you.

  • Today i started my period and theres ALOT of blood like ALOT! I had to change my pad about 5 times because they were all close to leaking. Is this normal? And how often do you have to change your pad? I change it everytime it feels wet. Are you supposed to do that? xxx

    A pad can be worn for up to 8 hours but most girls change every 3-5 hours. As your flow is heavy you may find our Freshlock long pads a suitable pad to wear as they are super soft and super absorbent.

  • No period or boobs yet but why do my breasts keep hurting badly???????????????????????????? Please help I'm 11 btw xoxoxoxoxooxoxoxoxo

    Possibly because you are starting breast development as this can often leave the breasts feeling tender or sore.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 15 and I wanted to know whether I have started my period or not. In August for about 3-4 days I'm not very sure how long, when I wiped my private part I saw small amounts of light red blood on the tissue. However I have not had any marks on my underwear that is brownish-red like I have read. I'm a bit worried I have been having discharge for over a year and it is still continuing. Help please have I started my period or not?

    Your period could have arrived and only time will tell when your next one arrives so please try not to worry.

  • I think I'm close to getting my first period how do I know when to be prepared?

    It can be tricky to identify when your first period is due and my advice would be to always keep some pads and liners with you when out and about so you can be prepared.

  • hey Vicki I'm really confused on what sexuality I am I mean I know it's "part of life" and thing a change but in really it sure like I've never fancied a girl in my life i look at people and go their pretty aw but like someone once rtd 2 girls porn on my twitter tl and it kinda made me feel some way like Im so confused rn bc I don't want to be gay (Not in that offensive way I just don't feel me being) and I'm not sure I only get really turned on by that girl stuff but I'm so confused 😔😔

    The teenage years can be a confusing time sexually and there really is no need to feel you have to label yourself as any one particular sexuality just yet. Give it time and see how you feel in a few years and once your hormones have settled down.

  • I'm 16 now and I want to have it with my bf but the thing is I've never felt anything really sexual like I've never felt the feelings enough even to like ""masturabte"" I'm worried I won't feel anything or idk helP

    Please don't think that just because you are legally able to have sexual intercourse you should. It is clear from your comments that you are not yet ready, so continue being close to your boyfriend in other ways but not sexually just yet as there really is no rush.

  • Vicky my mum and me we don't really talk about growing up so I find when I have my periods it's hard plz Vicky what advice can u give me larny

    Hi Larny, why not write your mum a little note letting her know how you feel and put it somewhere only she can find it, such as her make-up bag or underwear drawer.

  • Hi Vicki
    How do you stop liking a boy cause the boy
    I have liked for ages dosent like me I think and I just want to forget about him do you have any tips thanks
    😘😘💗💗💩💩😝😝

    Fill your time with friends and family, keeping busy and in a few months you will start to think less about him and have moved on.

  • Hey Vicky,

    I'm 15 and have a 32b/c bra size but i feel unbelievably flat because my two best friends are both dd so i was wondering if I'm bellow average or something.

    Thanks x

    There really is no average for breasts to be regardless of your age, so please try not to worry and learn to love your shape no matter what it is.

  • I have had a really bad lower back ache for
    Two days now is it my period

    It would be very difficult for me to say as this pain could be caused by menstrual cramps or something else related to over reaching in this area.

  • My nipples are 1 1/3 inches I'm 12 is this bad? THEY ARE SO BIG

    No they are fine as nipples come in a variety of shapes and sizes, all unique.

  • Hi Vicki I think you are fab. But I have a suggestion for the Lil-lets website. Maybe other users could answer questions as well as you? Because I know you give great advice but its interesting to hear opinions from other girls on the site. No offence meant Vicki you have been a big help. Txxx
    P.S I know one of my friends really likes another friend's boyfriend. I think she was really upset when they got together because everyone thought she would end up with him. Any advice?

    Thanks for the feedback I will share this with the team. I am sure your friend will learn get used to her crush and friend dating and it would be a good idea to keep her busy and mind occupied on other things.

  • Hi vicki,
    Ok so my friend told me that eating certain foods can make your boobs bigger like:
    💢Flax seeds Seafood ect Is it true that they do and if so , what other foods do xxx
    A-line xxx

    Your friend is mistaken.

  • I know this sounds a bit weird , but I have just got a bra and I'm 12 but my nipples look big so I measured them they are 1 and 1/3 inches is this bad?
    Thanks xxx

    Nipples come in a variety of shapes and sizes and all are very normal.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm 12, and I've had discharge for a long time now. I remember whitish goo in my undies since I was around 8. I only told my mum when I was 11, and started wearing pantyliners for safety. I only started developing breasts around 10 and a half (I'm a 36B) and still haven't started my period. I was wondering is it normal to have discharge before starting puberty or if my discharge was the beginning puberty but that's a young age?!?!

    This was almost certainly the start of puberty for you and nothing to worry about.

  • How to get rid of upper lip hair without waxing? Lucy.s xx

    Hi Lucy, consider letting it lighten naturally in the day light if waxing is not for you.

  • Hi Vicki this site is awesome it's helped me a ton. I am a 36B and I'm 12 and I have a lot of discharge. My mom said I will get my period soon but I really don't want to! :( do you have any idea when I might start my period?!?

    I think your mum may be right and if you read all the great stuff on our website you will see that periods are not anything to worry about and should not interfere with your day one bit.

  • hi Vicki,
    I have been having discharge for around a year or so and for 2 months I practically stopped getting discharge, well I didn't really notice anything in my pants, and now suddenly it has come back really heavy and I have been getting some really big headaches and stomach pains.
    Please help me! I'm only 12 I have no idea whether I'm starting my period or not!!!

    Discharge often comes and goes and this is nothing to worry about and is also a great sign that your period is not too far away.

  • I'm 14 and had my first period last month and it's been about 32 days and I still Havnt got my period , is this normal?

    Very normal and for the first few years you may notice both long and short gaps between each one as your body works out the right monthly cycle for you.

  • Hey, my friend keeps on leaking when she's on her period, quite a lot at school (in classrooms, cafeteria etc) and most importantly on my brand new horse saddle! I had to work really hard for it and was just over £1,400 and now it's stained and is really noticeable! I can't use it as it's such an embarrassment as I dismount... My mum thinks it's me even when I explain and she's not going to buy me a new one and I have to use my old one which is a bit worn! What could I possibly do?

    This method may be used for more stubborn blood stains which have already dried and cannot be removed completely with soap and water. With the assistance of an adult consider applying a few drops of hydrogen peroxide on a dry washcloth, until a small portion of it is saturated. Dab the washcloth on a small portion of the leather item to test for any reaction. Wait for the test spot to bubble. Once bubbles start to form on the area, wipe it dry with another washcloth. Use another piece of dry cloth to wipe the stained area once bubbles start to form. Once the stain has been removed completely, wipe the stained area with another cloth dampened with water, then wipe dry. But please make sure your mum assists with this process and supervises.

  • Why not go shopping with your mum and show her the liners on the shelf asking if you can trial them. Better still you could ask permission to request a sample of liners from me, by dropping me a line at consumerrelations@lil-lets.com
    I am the girl who wanted to wear liners and above is what you answered but do they come through the front door? and are they a see through envelope? Also can you tell what they are? Is it labeled? Soz about the questions.

    They come in a plain brown jiffy bag and yes will pop through your letter box very easily.

  • Hi vicki so I'm having a bit of a bad day. So anyway when asked u about wanting a boyfriend u told me to just be friends with boys but the thing is vicki I have loads of friends who are boys but I just worry that no boy will ever see me in a girlfriend way I just think that they see me as a friend and that's it but I am so sick of been thought of as just a friend Thanks Mia xxx

    Mia, give it time, boys will start to see you in a different way if you are patient and continue chatting to them.

  • I havnt started my period and I'm 14, my mum started when she was 13. I feel sick a lot of the time in the past few days and my discharge has been heavier. Does this mean I'm starting my period? The sickness is horrible and I feel like I can't eat.

    If you feel sick then you really should speak to your mum as you may have an upset tummy as this may have nothing to do with your period.

  • Hello Vicks, so I'm 14 and went to a party a few nights back. The boys party who's it was is really nice, he is 17. And we are meeting this Sunday with a couple of other people just to see how things go. I don't want to rush into anything obviously. I've never really had a boyfriend nd I don't know how I feel about maybe having one who's 3 years older if things go well. Do you think 3 years is to old ? Thankyou.

    I think it is a little too large a gap and you may want to have a chat to your parents and ask them how they feel about this.

  • Hey ive just finshed my first period i manged to hide it without using pads as it only came.out when ibwiped i need to be ready for the next now im going to write a letter to tell my mom have u got any like lines wich woukd be good xxxx thanks emz (emily)

    Hi Emily, why not send her one of our e-cards or write her a note letting her know you now need some sanitary pads. This should be enough of a hint for her to know your period is now with you.

  • HEY W'SUP VICKI
    I have a black discharge in my underwear it is the first time i have seen it and i wanted to know if it was normal

    This could be your first period so please have a chat to your mum and share this news with her.

  • Hiya Vicki.
    I like this boy and i have meet him a couple of times I trust him and he is nice.Last time i meet him were at this night club for under 18's he is the same age as me and i like him a lot.He asked if it were okay if he kissed me and i said yes then we danced a little longer then separated the next day i tried to message him over fb he saw it and didn't reply but he can talk to me in person.I don't want to annoy him i might be meeting him on Wednesday.But do you think he likes me or not?

    Hi, I think it would be a good idea to be cool when around this boy as very often they find speaking to someone on social media is not their thing. If you see him at the disco, be friendly and wait to see what happens; sometimes it pays to not overthink these things.

  • hi vicki
    so im a twin and im in an all girls school and the boys school is next door so i see the boys everyday and theres a guy in my brothers class i like i would even like to become friends but y bro might find it award..how to i ask him for his pho number i culd ask a girl in my class but she may not ee a sercet and mightn't have it
    thanks emily
    age 12

    Hi Emily, why not chat to this boy and get to know him as a friend then if things move forward it will be easy to ask for his number.

  • Vicki, I've just started my period and I'm really shy to tell my mum, I will tell her tho so that's not really what I'm asking, as it's my first period I know it won't come in exactly a months time cos it won't be regular but I don't know when I'm supposed to put my pads on? when I first see blood?

    Yes, I would keep some pads in your bag and then when you notice menstrual fluid in your underwear or on tissue it's time to wear a pad.

  • If you are worrid about showing everyone that you are going through all these changes, how can you get over them and show them it's know big deal??

    Learn all you can about puberty and then when things are mentioned you will know all about the subject and feel at ease with anything discussed.

  • HI Vicki,
    In an answer to my previous question you said that I should maybe but some distance between me and my Ex. My only problem is that I have most of my classes with him now and so I don't know what to do. It distracts me because when I'm meant to be working I just think about what he's doing and can't concentrate properly. what can I do?
    thanks xx

    It really is a case of willpower and even if you have to be close to him you can still choose to ignore him and spend time chatting to other students in class.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I need something to cuddle if I want to sleep well and I'm in secondary school now. Am I normal?
    Mimi

    Lots of people like to cuddle something when they go to sleep Mimi, so please don't worry this is fine.

  • Hey vicki, i sit next to my crush in Spanish (not our choice) and its really awkward because i asked him out we used to be so close ive screwed up massively i dont know what to do (im 13 nearly 14)
    Thanks, trinaxxxx

    Hi Trina, give it time and things will start to feel less awkward between you both. So continue chatting to him as a friend to help move this phase along.

  • I think I started my period, well you told me I had, so yeah but I can't tell my mum like I really can't and I can't show her anything coz the blood didn't go in my pants so yeah I can't do anything, shall I wait for my next one to tell her? xxx

    This may be a good idea as it will give you time to consider how you will share your news.

  • Heya Vicki,
    so i started year 7 on Wednesday and after 2 days a boy (in my year) has said im Fit and he has asked for my phone number. I really like him too but im to scared to tell him as he will be my first boyfriend ☺
    love Freya xxxxxxxxx

    Hi Freya, you do not have to tell him straight away that you like him. Get to know him first and see how things go ,there really is no rush.

  • Vicki is this a sign of your first period having cramps discharge headache

    Not so much the headaches but very often discharge and cramps are noticed before the arrival of your first period.

  • Hey Vicki x
    Today at school I kissed one of my friends that I've known since nursery and I liked it and she did aswell but I'm a girl and she is a girl too so yeah.. also I'm going to her house for a sleepover tonight and I can't wait because I will be able to kiss her again, but I want to be with her but I think everyone is going to not like me anymore because I like girls

    It is not unusual for teens to experiement with their sexuality and whilst it may seem exciting you do not have to label yourself or your sexuality at this time, so please try not to over think this just at them moment.

  • I started my period about 5 or 6 months ago and I have been getting clear/white sticky stuff coming out of my vagina in the last few months. What is it?
    Thanks morgan x

    This is discharge a fluid made by body to keep the vagina clean and free from infection and it can be  noticed before and in between periods.

  • I'm 14 and I've got size 36d boobs, all of my friends are still in AA cups and it's very embarrassing, boys are Also getting to the stage where they notice my boobs and it's really horrible to be the odd one out

    A great many girls have fuller breasts and my advice is to learn to love your new shape, yes boys may stare as they are often curious about breasts but they will stop eventually if they see you are not bothered by their comments and attention.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have got 2 questions!
    1. Is discharge part of puberty?
    2. I have had discharge for 1 and a half year now will my period come any time soon. Just curious!!!!!!!!
    From
    Ruby

    Hi Ruby, yes discharge is a fluid that is generally first noticed during puberty and is a great sign that your period may not be too far away, maybe even this year.

  • I was going out with a boy at my old school we then both moved to the same school. But now he is hardly talking to me, but there is a guy in my class who I'm starting to like. I don't think my boyfriend still want s to go out with me but I still do I like him. I don't know what to do

    Have a chat to your boyfriend and ask if him if he now feels differently about your relationship letting him know that this is ok if it the way he feels. You can then move on from there, making an effort to be closer if he still wants to date or making a clean break if he wants to stop dating.

  • I like girls and boys and I feel for this girl called Georgia she's so cute and kind but I like this boy I don't know what to do I love them both help me she loves me too and he's in love with me too help me please thanks a lot xxx

    You really do not have to make a decision just yet as to who you like and it may be a good idea to just be friends with anyone you meet and have affection for. As time goes by you will start to feel more confident about your sexuality and now how you want to proceed and date in the future.

  • So today i went to the toilet and when i wiped there was yellowish red stuff on the toilet paper and this happened about 3 times today. Is this my period or just discharge. If not how long will it be until i start my period?thanks from jessica x

    Hi Jessica, if the fluid is pink, red or brown in colour then this is almost certainly your first period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi, vicky,
    I am 12 years old.my cheast is just a little developed, I got discharge 1 year ago, stomach pain, side pain is there.today my friend was talking about her periods then she compared me with another girl and told that I might get my period next year and she will get it this year.i was hurt.i know I will get my periods but when? I am patient.but how to react to this kind of situation? Any way to make periods come quicker?

    There is no way either myself or your friend can predict when your period will arrive so try not to let their comments upset you and rather than focus on dates and timings, just ensure you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about for when your period does arrive.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 14 and haven't got my period yet. I've had discharge for about 8 months now and get stomach pains sometimes. All my friends have started they're periods and always have little chats about it. They say I'm really lucky not to have it yet but I just wanna know when it will come !
    Please please please please reply!

    Love from Molly 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have nothing to worry about at this time.

  • I'm a little confused
    My last 4 periods have gone like this:
    40-45 days 21 days 35-40 21 days
    and I'm on my period again but it's only been like 2 1/2 weeks since my last one? The majority of my periods were really far apart like 40-50 days and now they are becoming really close together?

    Periods can have short or long gaps between each one and this can happen throughout your teen years and is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hey sorry to bother you Vick but I've got an all day swimming gala tomorrow, so ill be in and out the water. I've done this loads of times but I've got my period this year and its kinda heavy. This has happened before but it wasn't a pleasant experience having to rush to the bathroom before and after every race because I don't really like tampons.
    I will thank any advice just please help

    Tampons really are the best option and mean you can be in and out of the water without worrying about having to change your tampon too often or rush to the toilet.

  • When I was born the doctors thought I had a heart murmur bit I didn't in the end, but when I was young I used to get there painfull shoots suddenly come on in my heart on my left chest inside and I always get them when i cry some times I crunch up in pain they are so bad, and today at school I had one and pain shot through my body, I'm scared, I no your not a doctor or anything but do you have any idea what this could be? Thank you for answering xxx

    With your past medical history it would be inappropriate for me to respond, but I do think you should speak to your parents and ask them to pop you along to your doctor for a chat.

  • Can you write a blog post on a first date? It would really help me. PS love lil-lets!

    Why not read the following blogs, you may find them very useful. Top Dating Tips, Your First Love  and First Kiss.

  • Sunflower8*******

    How come (with the exception of 2-3 close ones) I don't really get along with girls my own age like 13-15. Its soo pathetic....They are nasty and jealous about me behind my back and im only recently finding it out. I get along better with older girls, 17-20+.I actually have a good friend who's like 27..

    It may be that you are mentally and emotionally more mature than your friends and find the company of older people more appropriate, but please don't let this stop you being friends with your classmates and remember having fun is just as important as having meaningful conversations.

  • Sunflower8********************

    No doubt you've heard about the beheadings.....
    I feel sick thinking about it,in England now too.im really worried :-s what can they do to stop it spreading to other parts of UK.

    Hi Sunflower8, the news is certainly very distressing to read and view at the moment and you can be sure the government will be doing all they can to help resolve and eradicate this problem.

  • Hey, lately I have been having horrible period pains worse than I have had before and nothing is working. It gets to the point to where I can move! What should I do? Thank you

    Have a chat to your mum and if gentle exercise or a hot water bottle are not helping then she may offer you a pain killer, but remember that pain relief should only ever be taken under adult supervision.

  • Hi Vicki :) I've been doing gymnastics for years with pretty much the same class. I'm quite shy, so as everyone else has got closer and made new friends etc, I've hardly made one and I don't feel part of the group. Do you have any tips for overcoming my shyness with both the class and my teachers ? Thank you.

    If you are naturally shy, then simply smile and when you feel confident comment from time to time. Eventually you will feel comfortable and part of your team. Consider reading my blog on Fitting In too.

  • hi
    Vicky, i am a 15 year old and i have not started my periods and i hv no
    boobs every one in my class and younger has had their and the all have
    big boobs, the question is: is there sumthng wrng with me

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 and breast development can continue into your late teens or early twenties so you see, you have plenty of time for both to happen and there is nothing for you to worry about.

  • Hey Vicki
    We droped my brother off at university the other day and I miss him. It's made me notice that my childhood is almost over I'm not ready for that. When ever people talk about change it makes me sad I really miss him and I've been crying every night. My parents were video chating with him and he seems to be more social than b4 they were talking then asked him if he missed me and he said no in a dead serious voice it made me curl up and cry I miss him pls help

    University can be an exciting time for the person who is there but quite sad for the ones they leave behind. Try to be happy for your brother and please don't think just because things have changed you can no longer be close. You can still hang out and have fun when he comes home, my children are no longer teens and still hang out together.

  • Can a tampon ever get stuck inside you? When they expand, do you have to tug really hard and is it painful? Also, how can you hide your period supplies going to the bathroom?

    There is no way a tampon can get stuck inside your vagina and if the tampon has absorbed sufficient menstrual fluid it should glide out very easily. Lots of girls choose to use non applicator tampons as they can be hidden in the palm of your hand, so why not consider these as an option.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Well I don't know why but my boobs aren't big? They are really small and I have really big nipples and there kind of cone shaped is that weird?
    Also I have had discharge for around 6-7 months.. And im 13 when do you think I will start my real period? Thanks Emily! :)

    Hi Emily, breasts are often triangular shaped with the nipples appearing large, but this will change over the next few years. As for yoru period I doubt you will have much longer to wait so be prepared and have some pads and liners with you at all times.

  • So there's this kid and he thinks I like him but I don't and he asked me out today and than when I told him I was going to the store he went to and he kissed me there and he kept saying "u know u want to go out with me" but I just looked at him and said idk but kinda with a smile cause I felt bad and then he kept kissing me and I don't like him what do I do? I'm so lost because I don't want to hurt him.

    Be honest, this boy is being way too pushy and forcing himself on you. You don't have to be unkind, simply say no that you do not want to date him at this time and would prefer him to keep his kisses to himself from now on.

  • Hi Vicki!

    So basically, yesterday I was swimming with my 2 friends, a boy and a girl. They boy accidentally hit me in my vagina but I didnt go angry with him because he's only 7 but he hit me on the right side of my vagina and I believe thats the ovary area? ( He hit me on where the vagina starts on the right) and after that my Ive been having more discharges and they have become alot faster but I feel like there filling up my pants. Should I be worried?

    No not at all, your vagina is very well protected from any knocks that may occur and the extra discharge noticed will just be a coincidence.

  • Hi Vicki!

    So basically I have been having for the past 2 days so much discharge, I have had discharge for 1 year now, but wheres my period? My mum started when she was 14 and apparently you always start when your mum stars but Im 13 so I'm not sure if I will start then... I just would like a rough idea when I'll be starting.

    Not everyone starts their period at the same time as family members so please don't think this will be the case for you. I would say with so many signs of puberty already noticed you will not have too much longer to wait, so be patient and ensure from now on you have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • I want a boyfriend I am so lonely and I want someon to huggl m close on cold winter nights and share kisses when I need one and touch when I feel naughty can you help me find one? I'm 10 plz help

    You may be interested to learn that a great many people now wait until their late teens or even early twenties before having a first date or boyfriend, so be patient and please wait until you are older before considering dating anyone.

  • hi, im a teen and im sexually active. i thought i was pregnant because im late on my period... But a week ago i got pain on the side of my breasts, and today i got cramps and white discharge. am i pregnant?

    If you have been sexually active and have not used contraception, then yes there is always the chance you are pregnant. So pop along to your GP or local Brook centre for a test of consder purchasing an over the counter pregnancy kit from your local chemist or supermarket, so you can be sure.

  • PART THREE-----
    and then we moved closer so our bits were kind of close and continued to kiss and then we started french kissing and he pulled me closer to him and his hands were on my bum, he put his hands up the back of my shirt and held me round the wais, I put my hands up his back and nothing further happened but is this too far for a 12 year old to go. Even though I love him so much and hes sworn never to leave me and weve been together 6 months.
    Taa

    Yes I feel this is way too intimate for someone of your age and I am sure your mum would agree.

  • PART TWO----
    and I turned to face him sitting infront of him with my legs crossed and then we kissed again and it was slow and passionate and exactly like in movies he put his arms around my neck and mine went around his back and then I uncrossed my legs and put them over his so they went behind his back and I was in between his legs
    Continued

    See Part Three.

  • PART ONE----
    So im 12 and I have a cute bf who is 13 weve been togethet 6 months now and he is so nice my mum likes him too and says he is a nice boy :) and we met up and went to the recreation ground and into the tree bits there and had our first kiss! It was so special! And then we just stayed there under this tree I was cuddled up to his chest and we were just talking and he said he loves me so I turned to face him
    Continued

    See Part Three.

  • sorry this is not a question but, this website is really helpful! I love it! thank you so much for answering my and other girls questions.

    You're more than welcome.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 12 and just started year 8.
    Recently I have been getting some stomach cramps which do hurt quite a bit and my discharge has just started getting quite heavy.
    My mum started her period when she was 12 so do you think I am about to start mine?

    Not everyone follows after family members for when their period arrives but you are certinaly showing lots of signs of puberty that may mean your period is not too far away.

  • I think I started my period before I went to school. I instantly told my mum and she put a pad in my pants and talked me through it all. It looked brown but it wasn't poop as it was at the front of my pants. I'm really worried though now that I'm using pads for nothing?? Help!!

    Menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour and for more about menstrual blood, why not read this week's blog.

  • Hi Vicki
    I was wondering what my bra size is if I'm 28" underneath the bust and 30 on the bust? Xx

    32AA but remember this is just a guide and you should try on lots of styles before selecting the right bra just for you.

  • I have just started my periods and having been having any stomach cramps, as my periods are still irregular are there any indicators I could look for so I dont get caught out and know roughly when to expect it

    It can be fifficult for the first couple of years to identify when your next period will arrive and my only advice is to keep some pads and liners with you at all times.

  • Hey Vicki, this is for the girl that really wants to get fit. But doesn't like fruit.
    Don't worry I was the same as you!! Although I didn't hate fruit I wanted to lose weight but I alo had no motivation!,
    I took up swimming and found that while it was really fun and I was losing quite a lot of weight. Also I found that I didn't tend to snack on unhealthy things as I found substitutes like rice crackers instead of biscuits!
    Good luck and remember 'don't change for others, do it for yourself'

    Great motivational advice, thank you for sharing.

  • Hi Vicki! Okay so I'm 12 years old I've been getting discharges for like 2 years and I got my first period a couple weeks ago I haven't gotten my second why??!

    Periods are often irregular with gaps of several months between each one and this may be this way for a few more years, so please don't worry; your body is just working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hiya Vicky, sorry if this is inappropriate but some times I get small white worms in my discharge :(

    Threadworms are small white string like parasites that can live in the intestines. They are very often noticed around the entrance to the anal passage and I am afraid must be treated with over the counter medication or by a visit to your GP.  Medication alone will not prevent future eggs from hatching and spreading so consider changing your personal hygiene routine going forward to prevent further infection.

  • Hi. This might be unrelated but it's related to school - do you know if Level 3 diploma get you into HND?

    Anything is possible and you will find further education organisations are always open to chatting and working through the best routes to get you the education you want regardless of your qualifications.

  • I get distracted easily. If I have to do something that I find boring I will take a whole day because I look at other things and get bored. How can I stop this?

    Why not create a timetable, allowing yourself an hour to focus on the thing you really have to do, a further hour to go out and do something active and then a final hour looking at the things you enjoy.

  • Why would someone get acne in late teens and adulthood when they didnt used to have it?

    Acne can occur at any time in a persons life and especially during puberty which can continue into someone's late teens. Why not have a chat to your GP about the options available to keep acne at bay.

  • Is Diane 35 safe? I've been taking it for two years.

    I am sure your GP would not have prescribed it for you, if he did not feel it was suitable. But you can always have a chat with him and see if he feels this is still a suitable method of keeping acne at bay.

  • I am 18 years old and I've never liked sleeping anywhere other than my own house or my family or boyfriend's house. is this normal? It's not that I'm scared it just sort of grosses me out. I'm a clean freak and I hate staying at public places and using public toilets could this be some form of OCD? I've been this way since I can remember.

    Lots of people prefer the comfort of home and this is nothing to be anxious about. As you get older you may find that spending time away from home is not so bad, especially if it is linked to a holiday and brings back happy memories.

  • I am 12 I have a size 34b bra I don't no when I'll start my period
    My nipples are not flat

    Periods are just one sign of puberty and breasts another, so you are certainly not far from your first period and it may be this year or next. It would however be a good idea to keep some pads or liners in your school or sports bag just in case.

  • I'm very small down there and even when I open up my vagina it looks small and squashed in. I am a small person and I have small breasts and I hate it. I'm 17...

    The vagina is very clever and can stretch to accommodate a penis or the birth of a child, so please don't worry about the size of any part of your body, we are all different and my advice is to learn to love your body just the way it is.

  • Thankyou so much for answering my question! now I know my size should I worry about getting a bra (size 12aa)

    Not if you are happy to go without for a while longer.

  • I don't find one of my parents very approachable what can I do? I don't mean about puberty about anything.

    If you can talk to one of your parents then why not have a chat to them and share how you feel, they may be able to help you and your other parent become closer and have a better relationship.

  • Why do I have pimples all over my upper arms and thighs (I don't shave if this helps)

    These little spots under the skin are very normal and generally exfoliating this area with a soft bristle brush or sponge can help reduce their appearance.

  • Hi Vicki I have just finished my period well I think but I get brown stuff in my knickers I don't know whether it is just discharge or I'm still on my period

    Brown fluid is generally the last part of your period and not discharge.

  • Hi okay I have just turned 14 and haven't started my period only one other one of my friends hasn't and I don't want to be last!! I have no boobs at all only out line where I can see they are going to grow but I have pubic hair and I have started discharge!!( I have had that for a year now) I think I should start my period soon but it says the first step to puberty is boobs and I Have none!!! Thankyou!!

    Lots of girls start their periods before their breasts have developed so please don't think there is a check list of the signs of puberty that come in a certain order before your period arrives this is not the case. Be patient, we are all different and your period will arrive when the time is right just for you.

  • Hey vicki, i only ever get discharge after ive had a wee or been to the toilet and its quite heavy and feels like ive wet myself! Just wondering if this is normal to only get it after going to the tolet :-) thhannnkkkss
    Anon

    It is most likely that you do experience discharge at other times but you simply do not notice it. Remember that discharge is very natural and nothing to be worried about.

  • My mum has rheumatoid arthritis and sometimes I don't feel like a kid. Whenever's I get told to do something I feel like its only me, this makes me feel really emotional. Is this just normal teenage feelings or just me?

    It is most likely a mixture of both; the hormonal changes you naturally experience as a teenager and the repsonsibility of having to help care for your mum. And my advice would be to speak to a support group about these feelings you have and you may find the support group The Child Society may be a good place to start. Here is their website address http://www.childrenssociety.org.uk/young-carers?gclid=CIaeg5mVzMACFfSWtAodpSAAnQ

  • On my first period which was 2 going on 3 years ago I only bled a tiny bit once, and I had 2 more after which I bled once, but there were a lot of months in between, and in may I finnaly got my period after 10 months, and it has been regular since then, but I skipped august, I'm scared that I won't come on for ages again and there is something wrong with me?

    There is nothing wrong with you and periods can be unpredictable during the teen years so my advice is to always be prepared by having some pads and liners with you when you are out and about.

  • Hi Vicki so I just started year 7 and I have a boy in my class who I really like and I can't stop thinking about him I don't really know him but I would like to and I think I really like him I've never really felt this way before and what should I do
    Thxs the website is really helpful

    When you pass this boy in the corridor give him a quick smile, after a week or so say "Hi". This should be enough to get you noticed.

  • Hi I'm 11 years old and I am going through puberty and I just wanted to know does a girls voice break like a boys voice break when they are going through puberty

    Thank you xxxxx

    Actually it does deepen very slightly but not on the scale that boys notice.

  • Hi Vicki for the last week I've been eating less and I've been eating healthy food. I thought it was the right thing to do because I've been eating loads of junk food in the holidays, however when I got in my pyjamas for bed I noticed loads of purple stretch marks on my bum and at the top of the back of my thighs. I'm only 12, 13 in 24 days. Is this normal, is there a way I can get rid of them?

    Ayesha :)

    Why not read my blog on Stretchmarks, they will have nothing to do with your healthy eating plan and it is most likely a coincidence that you have noticed them this week.

  • I like this boy and we went out but then we just decided to finish it but now I really wanna kiss and snog him. How do I tell him I love him so much I just feel like he's the one ?
    Please answer I'm Despret you never answered my other one so please help
    Xxx
    P.S I masturbate a lot what should I do to cut down my time masturbating ?
    Thanks Vicki xxx

    If you like this boy let him know that you miss his company and ask if you can date again and give it another go. To reduce the amount of masturbating your do, consider leaving your bedroom door open more often if this is where you currently masturbate and spend more time with family and friends as very often masturbation is done out of boredom.

  • Hello vicki,
    I am very sorry if this is inappropriate, every night when I'm laying in the dark, I feel as if I need to hump something, the only way to calm myself is to do the physical actions by myself or to watch a sex video online, when I wake up I feel ashamed of myself but then the next night comes and I feel as if I need to hump something again! Please help me, I'm only almost 12! Also what does it mean to orgasm or masturbate? Thanks:)

    These feelings are very normal for girls and boys entering puberty and are nothing to feel guilty or ashamed of. If you rub your body against something for pleasure then this is called masturbation, the nice feeling you get from doing so is called an orgasm.

  • I've not even had my period for a year and I'm 12 I've had 4 but the last 2 months they've been regular. Is that it are they regular or could it be that they go back to being irregular?

    They could still be irregular from time to time and this may continue throughout your teen years, so please try not to worry.

  • So I know a girl right who knows a boy who lives near me and ive seen him around and he's so hot and shes set me up so I can meet him in a few days and have sex with him but shall I shave down there or not? Also shall I give him a bj or is that too much for the first time

    It seems to me you think the only reason someone would date you is for sexual favours, which I feel is quite sad. If this boy likes you and you respect yourself you will go for a drink  in a cafe or burger bar or walk and find ways to not be intimate and this is even more important if you are under the age of 16.  There is no rush to be sexually active and you may just find if you do, this boy may not want to see you again.

  • I'm 14 and I get upset at school, I've never had a boyfriend but this boy will always come and put his arms around me, I have feelings for him but I dont know if he feels the same what do I do?

    If he puts his arm around you, he clearly likes you, but maybe he is not yet ready to take it further. So why not make an effort to get to know him better and see how things develop from there. There really is no rush.

  • Hi so I know this sounds bad but I really need sex. Im 14 nearly 15 but when I was 13 I had a bf and we used to text each other describing "actions". Now I feel ready to do these things but I dont have a bf but the thing is, I know this boy I like likes me back I could get with him because my friends describe sex to me and I am urging for it so bad masturbating dosent relieve the feeling help. Im home alone in 3 days time shall I invite him over?

    No please don't be tempted to invite someone over just for sex. Not only because it would in fact be illegal for this boy to have sexual relations with you, but also out of respect for yourself. Sex is not something you should rush into and should always be with someone you care for and they you. So please busy your time with family and friends until a) you are legally old enough for sexual relations and b) you have found someone special to share this most intimate of activities with.

  • Hiii:)
    I'm 14 and I like a boy at school he says he likes me but when other people ask him if he likes me he says no, I dont know what to do, he'll be my first boyfriend and I've never kissed a boy before :/

    Helllllpppp!! :(

    Thank you

    Boys are often reluctant to share their feelings for someone with others around them. So be patient and give this boy some space, being just good friends for now and until he feels ready to let others know how he feels.

  • I have read the lil-let's little guide to becoming a teen booklet and on one of the pages it says about the white-ish fluid u can get in your underwear, I've been having this for a while now but recently, it has been staining my under wear, because my mum and dad fold and clean the dirty clothes, I'm worried that my dad is going to say something, I'm wondering if I should start using liners, thank you for taking the time to read,
    Kiannah xx

    Hi Kiannah, you could consider wearing liners, but trust me mums and dads do know all about discharge and understand that it is a very natural release of fluid for a female so please don't feel embarassed or awkward about this.

  • My period is brown is that my proper period yet?

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and so therefore this is still a 'proper' period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hello
    My name is Amy. I'm 12 years old and have not started my period yet. Im quite a big girl and I have hair down there and quite big breasts already. I've been releasing discharge for well over 1 year now and over the past couple of days I've been getting bad tummy aches and headaches. Why have I not started my period???? And could it be starting in the next couple of days????????? Thankyou xxx

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and with so many signs already noticed Amy I am sure you may not have much longer to wait. So ensure you are prepared and have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi vicki, i asked my crush out because lots of people say he likes me but he said no and now at school its really awkward and all i can really say to him is hi our conversations just ain't the same anymore we used to be so close. Im 13 and liked him for around 16 months and he means so much to me and I just dont know what to do anymore please could you maybe just give me a little bit of advice xxx

    Give this time, it is quite a new phase for both of you. So continue chatting normally and over the next month or so, things will get easier.

  • Heyy Vicki,
    I need help with acting natural around boys! No matter who it is, whenever I'm around one, I NEVER know what to say and it always turns out really awkward. I want to be more confident. I hope you can give me some tips that will help me- but please try to avoid saying, 'just be yourself', because that doesn't help and even that I find hard to do!
    Thanks a lot :D

    If you want to chat to a boy, then the best topics to cover are things that they like, so ask them what theydid at the weekend, what music they've been listening to lately or movies they have seen.  Boys just love talking about themselves you see, given half the chance and this will also give them the impression you find them interesting and like their company too.

  • Hiya vicki
    I was the girl who asked you if we sweat down there you said to wear pant liners (which i do) and you said to wear cotton underwear (which I also do) so is there anything else that will help to not feel damp and sweaty down there
    Thanks Xxx 💚

    Possibly using Lil-Lets freshen-up wipes when visiting the toilet may help too.

  • Hi viki can you recommended some healthy meals I should be eating I'm 13 and dance a lot and I'm regularly outside doing gymnastics on my trampoline and in the ground but I am aware I need to be carefull what im eating so can you recommend meals for me all 3 I have skipped breakfast for years but know it's bad hanks x

    Imagine a Sunday dinner, it comprises of one third vegetables (vitamins), one third meat (protein) and one third potatoes (carbohydrates). If you can balance all of your meals to include vitamins, protein and carbohydrates you will most likely be eating a healthy diet. And never skip breakfast.

  • Hello Vicki

    My little sister is crazy about unicorns and anything unicorn related. She was just wandering if you like them as well?
    I know I have asked before but its been two weeks and nothing has turned up so sorry again I just thought I would ask!

    AnnaXXX

    Hi Anna, I have answered this question twice already and I am sorry you have not been able to find it. My response was yes I love unicorns, especially the one in Despicable Me.

  • Hey vicki,

    Right I'm so confused when to count the next 28 days of your period.

    Example: say you started on the 2nd of September do you start counting from then or the day you finish your period?

    HELP is NEEEDED

    The first day of your period is the day you start counting from. But remember that very often periods can be irregular for the first few years so they may not come every 21-34 days for a little while yet.

  • What causes period pains Becasue I have them in the lower back & near my ovaries?

    Cramps are generally caused as your reproductive organs mature and this can be noticed before, during or in between your periods. Very often a little gentle exercise is all that is need to ease this discomfort, or a warm bath or hot water bottle if you are unable to get out and about.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have a reasonably small chest, and i started puberty 2 years ago. Whenever I wear strappy top, my chest looks really deformed. also, my boobs take the shape of a triangle, but when I am cold, the become rounded and my nipples extend. Is this normal for a 10 yr old?
    Thanks a bunch, mini meercat.

    This is all very normal and breasts are very sensitive to touch or temperature which is why sometimes they appear fuller. The triangular shape you have noticed is also very common and as your breasts continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties you have lots more development to come.

  • I want to start my periods

    Lots of girls feel the same way as you, excited for this new phase in their journey to become an adult. My advice is to read all the great stuff on our website; in our articles or blogs and then when your period does arrive you will be more than prepared.

  • Sorry if this is inappropriate, but why is virginity such a big thing?
    Thanks-Just Curious :)

    I am not sure who has said to you that being a virgin is 'a big thing', and in what context, so it's difficult for me to comment.

  • Hiya!
    It's Charlotte

    I've been getting white discharge for a while now but lately I've been getting more and more but it's gone to a really brown colour ad I'm actually quite worried and I don't want to tell my mum?😕 So what should I do and should I be worried? Btw I haven't found blood yet!😐

    Thanks xx

    Brown discharge is usually your first period as menstrual fluid is not always red in colour, so please have a chat to your mum and share this news with her and I am sure she will be able to confirm if this is indeed your period or not.

  • What are some ways of stretching your hymen other than being a sporty person or trying to stretch it yourself? How do you stretch it yourself?

    There is no reason why you have to stretch your hymen, it is far better to let it happen naturally, for instance when taking part in sports, using a tampon or when older having sexual intercourse.

  • so i asked about the small spot on my underwear, and it wasn't here today? ps. does discharge happen at night aswell as the day? sorry if inappropriate : /
    love ya vicky!!!!!!! -T

    Discharge can be noticed at any time of the day or night.

  • Hi Vicki. I took your advice. My school bag has to be kept in my classroom so when I want to get a liner, I have to do it in front of my classmates. It's so embarrassing. Can you help? ASAP

    love VULFAB20

    Why not pop your liners in your make-up bag so people think you are simply retouching up your make-up or freshening up.

  • I cant use tampons i just find if so difficult and painful and cant get it in ( i am 13) and i try putting them in between periods to try them out but it says only use when on periods... Why? And what is tss ?
    Thankyou!
    ***************

    You should never use a tampon if you are not on your period as the tampon would be very dry and uncomfortable on removal. Instead why not try inserting a clean finger inside your vagina, so you can become accustomed to how your vagina feels, this may make inserting a tampon easier when the time comes and you may also find our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons easier to insert as they are shorter and narrower than other brands and have no fiddly applicator to work. For information on TSS click on our link under the Periods tab.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Ok, school's started again. Well, it's been good, but I found out that although I'm in year 9 I'm doing 3 GCSE'S this year!! I have been terrified of exams for as long as I can remember, I can do the huge end of year ones, but GCSE'S have terrified me for a long time! I don't know what I can do, I need to do them, but if I don't get at least a C it's gonna look really bad! ;( Also, I'm expected an A- A* in my media coursework and exam! Please help me!! I'm really stressed out about it! :(

    Have a chat to your teachers and explain your fears to them. Very often it is the idea of something that makes us anxious rather than the coursework or exam itself. You may also find my blogs on Top Tips To Beat Exam Stress useful along with GCSE's.

  • I got my first period early this year and i havnt had one since may the 10th. Please help!

    There is really nothing to worry about here as periods are often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months noticed in between. So be patient and ensure you have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi vicki, I asked a question a few days ago (I'm the girl that wanted a baby) and I would just like to say a massive thank you for answering my question and I totally agree with what you said, I might want a baby but I want to wait until I'm married! So yeah thank you for your support.

    This sounds like a very sensible decision.

  • Hi Vicki! Please please answer fast! I am in the 7th class and i have never had so much stuff to do. I'm not used to be working this hard... I knew there will be much more work in 7th class but it's so much! I come home and i start working and end work at 7:00 pm and i go to sleep 9:00 pm it's been 4 days like that since school started and i haven't had an hour for myself. I have no time and so many things to do... Seriously last night i broke down and started crying... Help me please please!

    Schoolwork and homework can very often leave teens frustrated and weepy. My advice is to draw up a timeteable of events for when you are at home both in the week and at the weekend. Allocating time for study, exercise and 'you' time. If you can giving an hour and a half to each. If you find this is not working out for you, then have a chat to your form tutor and explain the sitution to them, they will be able to offer you some more coping methods to get you through this time.

  • hi im 14 , sarah and i have a sort of white ish goo ive had it for i think 8 months now it not alot but there is a abit is that discharge ? and ive not started my period...

    Hi Sarah yes this is discharge and you can find out more about this subject if you visit our Puberty section.

  • Hello vicki, I started my period at the beginning of August, well actually I'm late but I heard that is normal? I was the last one in my year group to start and I also have the smallest boobs(32a) , as I have started does it mean my boobs will start to grow? And my mum/sister/aunties all have really big boobs, does that mean I will! And I am very self conscious about it all! Help! Thank you OXOXOX

    Periods can be irregular for the first couple of years and you will find breasts continue to grow into your late teens or early twenties so try not to be too anxious and why not read my blog entitled; Your period is not the end of the story.

  • Hi im 13 years old and I have not got my period yet
    my mum was 14 when she got hers but ive got all of the signs apart from cramps
    Should I wear panty liners every day or not?and when do u think I will start my period?

    Not everyone starts their period at the same time as family member did, but if you feel wearing pant liners will make you feel more self assured and confident then I see no reason why you should not.

  • It has been two months since I first noticed spotting in my underwear. I thought this would be the start of my first period but it hasn't come after two months. help ?

    Periods are often irregular with gaps of several months being noticed so please don't worry your body is simply working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hey vicki,
    I don't know my bra size. I currently wear a 32A bra size, but I chose that myself... I want to know my actual size... What do I do? FS x

    Why not visit our Boobs and Bras section on the website and follow the instructions on the Bra Guide.

  • hi Vicki, I just thought I'd ask you what's the best way to keep yourself clean? As my 'private' don't smell but I'm just concerned because it's an odd colour? thanks x

    Wearing a pant liner on a daily basis and using wipes after visiting the toilet are great ways to keep this area extra clean, but for most girls simply bathing or showering daily is all that is required.

  • Hi Vicky,3years ago I thought I was on my period, so told my friend and she told EVERYONE so I was like 'yeah' and now three years on everyone she told STILL thinks im on my period and its really awkward because everyone was like 'whatever' and whenever someond mentions puberty or periods they're like 'haha, mia' and I know im not but its just so annoyind and I don't know how to say 'guys, im not on it' because all the girls I hangaround with are so like nosey and they'll thinkim a liar

    You could simply say that like lots of girls your periods are still irregular to avoid these embarrassing conversations in the future or come clean and let them know you made a mistake, which is very different to telling a lie.

  • Hey vicki! So basically I am 13 but I have the lower, middle and upper school system so I have just a gone into my first year of upper school. Me and this boy in my new class who didn't talk on transfer days were texting all summer like everyday from the morning until we went to bed. We have gone back to school now and I don't know how to start a conversation in real life because he is really shy. Help me? Thankyouuuu;)

    Why not just smile and say "Hi" when you see him, next week you could even ask him how his weekend was.

  • Why i feel something electricity in my body when i saw something kissing ?

    This is called sexual arousal and a very normal sensation to experience as you become a young adult.

  • Hi Vicki so I have started my period and so far this is my second time. When I wear pads I feel like I am wearing a nappy and they don't fit! I have asked my mum for some of your products but she has not yet bought any for me I would ask her agin but I don't want to pester. Is there any way I can make my pads comfy? I have never used tampons. Should I ask my mum to try some free samples? Thx so much! 👍

    Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens pads and asking your mum if you can request a free sample from our website. If she agrees drop me a liner at consumerrelations@lil-lets.com

  • Hi I am miguel.I have discharge everyday. Then the 4th August 2014 I got my first period.I am looking out for it and I am always worried.My tummy continuously cramps.I am 12 about to be 13.I don't know when I wll get it again.*please tell me*

    Hi Miguel, periods can very often be irregular for the first few years and I cannot specify when your next period will arrive, however my advice is to keep some pads and liners with you from now on so you are always prepared wherever you are.

  • Is it okay for a 16 year old girl and 26 year old guy to date? like, is it legal and how would people view it, would the people in the relationship get a lot of abuse from other people because of the age gap? They both know eachother and have met eachothers families before

    Whilst legally there is no reason why people of those differing ages should not date or be sexually active. Some people may question the morals of someone in their mid to late twenties decision to date someone almost 10 years their junior.

  • I am 12 years old. My friends already got periods. They ask me wheather I got it when I say no they say ok after a few days they ask me again. .i have white discharge for 1year, pain in stomach and side.i know I will get my periods.but how will I know when? If i might get my first period the next day how will I know it the day before? Is there any trick or techniques to know it the day before? Help!

    There is not trick or technique that will let you know when your period will be arriving, it really is a case of being patient and letting your body decide when is the right time just for you.

  • Hi Vikki I have this boy in class but he don't look like he likes me but..he starts to ask my best friend about me and he starts talking to me and he starts to look at me before he was so shy and quite and he doesn't look at me I want to know what does it mean does it mean that he is starting to like me or not?

    It may mean this boy likes you, but is too shy to let you or others know. So if you like him, why not chat to him from time to time and smile when you see him looking over.

  • Hi, I'm 16 and I have discharge all day everyday. It's white and all day I feel excited? Don't know how to explain it but I hope you know what I mean. I've never had sexual activity so what's wrong? It's constantly on my mind and puts me off a lot of things...

    It is very fine to be excited by the thought of puberty and all the things that go with it, so please don't worry discharge is a very normal way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hey vikki
    Today I experienced light brown discharge and just wondered what this meant? (I haven't had my period) x

    This could be your first period. My advice would be to wear a pad or liner for the next few days to capture any more fluid and share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Dear vicki,
    I'm sixteen years old and had my first period in January. I then missed seven months of my period and my doctor thinks it was because of the fact that I'm underweight. I again last had it in august last month. My period Callander tells me that I should have started again in September the 3rd, I'm two days late and still haven't started. What should I do?
    FS xx

    Periods can often be irregular for the first few years and if you have been severely underweight it may take a while for regular cycle to be noticed. I would not worry too much and instead ensure you always have some pads or liner with you for when your next period is here.

  • hey vicki! so the other day I measured myself and this is what I came up with
    under : 75cm
    on bust : 77cm
    I live in Australia so the bra sizing is very different here, so the sizing chart said I'm a 12aa. I was wondering if you could tell me what size I am? Thankyou so much, my mum has been dropping hints that I needed a little more support ( I wear crop tops at the moment ) but I feel as though I'm growing out of them, help! xx

    12AA is the bra size I also get when entering your figures into our system.

  • Hi vicki.okay so I'm 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 6 months, I haven't been ready for sex for a while and he was been really sweet waiting,but for the last month or so I have felt ready. But I have a problem because everytime we start passionately kissing or touching leading up to sex, I really need a wee. I've had this problem for a while,when I become aroused I need a wee!is this normal?what can I do about it?? Thanks x

    It may not be that you need to urinate but rather that feeling so nervous is making you want to do so. Don't be too hard on yourself and the next time you meet up with your boyfriend visit the toilet before you start to kiss, that way even if the urge arises you will know that your bladder is empty and you can carry on kissing.

  • Heyyyyy Vicki!
    There is this really cute boy 1 year older than me that I like, we go on the same bus to school but he doesn't come to my school cos its a girls school. Anyway he teases me and I can tell that he really likes me as a friend but I like him more than that. I'm really shy and quiet around him so how do I talk to him? BTW his friends are idiots and they always make fun of me and him
    xxx Amy

    Hi Amy, what's the rush, you and this boy clearly have a connection and if you carry on you may just find in time you feel more relaxed around him and he makes the next move to asking you out on a date.

  • I've recently been feeling hyper at random times and then suddenly going back to normal again. I'm on dianette.

    If you feel your contraception is to blame for your energy levels you should discuss this with your GP.

  • hi,i have had discharge ever since i was 8 and a half and now i am 10 and 3 months. I get cramps like,every day and have a few armpit hairs. I told my mum about my period symptoms but i just want to know if it is likely that i will get my period this year. Thanks for your help -in advance- from olivia

    Hi Olivia, it is not possible for me or anyone else to give you a specific time for when your period will arrive, as we are all different. But it does seem suitable for you to keep some pads and liners in your bag from now on, just in case it is here either this year or in early 2015.

  • Hey vicki so ive recently entered into the final 2 years of my high school life leading up to the big exam and my family expects big. they take it too far that if i use the computer once ill be a dunce and ndver get good grades , they shout at me and say how they're ' fed up' and think ill fail but ive been on a merit list the past 3 years, also when i try to tell them about things my teacher said about the exam and work related stuff they shout at me for ' bothering them'. this hurts me alot

    The truth is, you can only do your best and I am sure that is exactly what you are doing. When things are calmer have a chat to your family letting them know you feel pressurised by their comments and actions. I am sure they do not mean to act this way and will change their attitude to your school life once they see how uspet it is making you.

  • I've been having discharges for at least 4,5,6 years now so I'm scared I don't know what's happening. PS:my name is Madison

    Hi Madison, discharge can be noticed for a year or two before your period for some girls and is often noticed in between periods until your twenties so you have nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hi viki,
    So my little sis is ten and she always has these little Boyfriends. She also goes to school discos
    With them and even kisses them there but A few of her friends do this is this normal .
    What should I tell her .
    Abi

    Hi Abi, a gentle kiss on the cheek is not so bad, but it really is not about what I think, but more importantly how your parents feel about this.

  • Dear viki ,
    It is not really a question but I would just like to say thank you so much for answering my questions I really appreciate it x

    You are most welcome.

  • its wednesday today. so monday evening there was nothing but normal discharge in my pants but when i wiped there was blood so i guessed this was my first period. i out a pad in and on tuesday morning there was a tiny smudge of blood, put a fresh pad on tuesday and when i next went to the toilet there was pure brown on the pad like pur brown,is this okay?

    This is fine and still your period as mentrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • I was in class today and I found the work really difficult and for a while I've been feeling really low about school and today I just burst into tears. Did I have a panic attack?

    This was not a panic attack but more than likely just an outburst of emotion that can easily be noticed during your teen years. Have a chat to your teacher and let him or her know that you need help to manage your work load when in class.

  • A started my period about 2 months ago and my mum had already bought me pads luckily. But I am running out and i am due again soon and I don't know how to ask her or even tell her I have started because we aren't very close. I also don't feel the e card would be right for my parents.

    Emma xx

    Hi Emma, why not write her  a note or drop her a text asking for more sanitary protection supplies this will also be a great way to let her know your period has arrived.

  • Iv had these yellowish/white sometimes brownish discharges since I was 9 or 10 and now I'm 13 what should I do. they happen everyday and night I'm scared I don't know what it is.iv already started my period this year and I don't know what's going on!!!please help!!!?!

    Discharge is often noticed in between periods and this is nothing to worry about and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • hello so recently I posted a quite mean thing on ask.fm but now I feel so guilty and quite anxious. I deleted my account but I know the question is still there. What shall I do?

    We all make mistakes and if we learn from them then that is the main thing to come out of all this. Give yourself time to get over this incident and I am sure in time you and others will forget all about it. In future it pays to wait and sleep on any comments you want to make to avoid this happening in the future.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm not too fat but I REALLY want to be thin I have NO motivation to exercise and hate fruit I haven't had any fruit that I like and I'm 15 Everyone else in my school is so thin and perfect and I'm chubby and sad. Basicly I just need you to help find something that works for me to get me to loose weight without eating fruit. (My knees are also quite weak and getting worse. At the end of the day when I cone home from school it hurts to walk)

    6302026 (so I know it's mine)

    Swimming places less stress on the joints and is a great way to get fit. Rather than eating fruit consider eating more vegetables and carbohdrates at meal times. They will leave you feeling fuller for longer and less likely to snack on sweet or sugary treats.

  • PART 2 - However cute this is and I love him so much for thinking it through like that, I would really like him back. do you think that he might come back to me at some point? Any advice?
    Thanks xxx

    See my original response to your first question.

  • Hi Vicki,
    PART 1 - I just broke up with my boyfriend because he was worried about us having a horrible breakup because that just happened to our friend and she was really sad. He hates seeing me sad because it makes him sad and that is why he broke up so that we are just friends again and he doesn't have to worry about making me sad.

    I have answered this question in your previous question to me.

  • HI Vicki,
    I just broke up with my boyfriend because my 2 other friends just had a horrible break up and he didn't want that to happen to us. As he is always sad when I am sad and he doesn't like seeing me sad so he wanted to go back to being friends. I said I understood but I really want him back now! Is there any chance that he might change his mind? Any advice?
    Thanks!

    It seems very unusual that this boy wanted to end your relationship because of what might happen. But you must respect his decision and if I were you, I would actually put some distance between the two of you, it may just make him realise just how much you mean to him.

  • Hi Viki
    I am sorry if this deems inappropriate but I just feel so awful. I love getting horny and I have been doing for about 10 months and I hump a pillow and look at pics of porn, I have started to stop doing it because I knew it was bad and now I have stopped completely but I have just found out that porn is against the law! Is that true? If it is I just feel so awful because I had no idea, am I a bad person?
    I am so upset!

    It is against the law for anyone under the age of 18 to purchase pornography, it is also unlawful to be forced to watch pornographic images, but it is not in general against the law to watch them if you do so voluntarily. However, please be mindful that pornography rarely shows women in a positive or respectful light and is not a true representation of what being in a loving relationship is all about. So if you can continue to refrain from watching these images.

  • Pert 3-last- I NEED HELPPPP!!!

    and when he said that my friends were teasing me but he didn't really mind he just said come and then I went and then I went back and my mates said'' ohhhh true true loveee'' and.... I don't know I just can't stop thinking about him, its like.... But I shouldn't :'(

    It sounds like you may be misreading the signs and this boy and his girlfriend are trying to make you feel welcome in your new school. So please try not to worry and consider focusing on school work rather than this boy.

  • Part 2- I need helpp

    we were just talking and then I said you know *lets say ariana is his gf* ariana'' likes you and he said yeah I know and I said go hug and kiss her and he said can I talk to you and before I actully saw him like *looookinggg* at me but don't think it ment anything and ....
    ••••••••

  • Part 1-i need helpp

    Help meee :(
    Ok so I JUST went into year 7 and my friends sister *who's in year 9 now* she came and gave me a hug then her boyfriend came who I didn't even know was her boyfriend and baisiccalyy she said that he likes me *he's in like year 9/10* and I was like okay then *sarcasm* and after I looked at him and he looked at me and my mates were talking n his gf went so...

    ••••••••••••••••••••

    See my response in Part Three.

  • Hi, it's me again. So its day 4 of my period and it's slowing down but not much. I was told by school that periods last 3-4 days but someone told me that it can last up to 8 days, is this true? I have P.E in 2 days and I'm really worried about what to do, I wear lil-lets towels with wings and I'm not using tampons just yet, but so sometimes my period comes through to my trousers/pants. What can I do to help this. Thanks x

    A period can last between 2-10 days but as you have noticed the amount of blood being lost is reducing it may be that by the time you do PE you can wear a pant liner and not a pad.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have already had a small sample of lil lets products a couple of months ago but I want to try more but I want to try it before I buy it cause I don't want to waste any but I don't know whether I am allowed to ??

    Please respond xx
    P.s I think what you do is a great thing an you help lots and lots of people
    Thanks very much
    Ilovepugs123456789 = so I know it's mine x

    We only send out one sample to one person, per one household, so I am afraid I an unable to send you a further sample, but you will be pleased to learn that our teens range is widely available in most large supermarkets and chemists.

  • I have discharge normally but suddenly today on my panty liner I found the discharge was brown! It was gooey and dark brown! I don't know if it is natural or not because it isn't light brown! Is it old blood?

    This could be your first period as menstrual blood is often brown and not red in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vichy I just asked a question about the sticky spot on my underwear but I thought I might add I have been getting painful stomach pains.

    This is still most likely discharge and stomach cramps are almost certainly caused by your reproductive system maturing and this is very common.

  • hi vicki i masturbate and watch porn and i just dont know how to get out of the habit could you please give me some tips on how to stop feeling so sexual because i am only 13 also i have not started my period but i have told everybody that i have what shall i do please help me also when will i start my period i have full pubic hair size 30aa and i have discharge every day if i dont wear pantiliner my underwear gets wrecked also my sister and my mum was a late bloomer

    If this is a habit you want to stop then consider leaving your bedroom door open at all times, this will help to reduce the amount of times you masturbate. As for feelings of a sexual nature, well they are very normal and nothing to worry about, although you may want to keep yourself busy with friends and family as often boredom is the reason for masturbation. Finally, not everyone gets their period at the same time as family members so please try not to worry, your period will be here when your body feels the time is right for you and not before.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 12 and my breast a very small, they are a 27 buy I dnt know the under bust. Do I just measure under my breast, and how do I know what size I am I dnt have a chart

    If you measure your bust and under your bust I can let you know your size, or you may prefer to use our Bra Guide.

  • I found a white/clear spot on my underwear which was slightly sticky. What could it be?

    This is discharge and you can find out all about this fluid in our Puberty section on the website.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have 2 best friends and I feel like they are closer then I am to them and they have even admitted that. One of my BFs left us and it left me and my other one! We bonded really well and have a lot in common now it's just us but then today the old BF came back and it seems like it's gone back to me as on my own! I want to leave because I feel like I'm just unwanted but I don't know how to slowly drift away from them!
    Love Tobie(I'm not a boy) xox

    Hi Tobie, rather than leave them try to join in and let your friends know how great it is that all three of you can now be close.

  • I'm a bit confuse and don't know whether in going to start my period and I have p.e tomorrow so I don't want to wear a towel for nothing . It will be my first though. I have some symptoms and I don't know what to do!?!?!?! Ps I'm 12

    Why not wait and see, there is no need to wear a pad if your period is not yet here and you may find keeping a liner in your underwear is a better choice of product.

  • Hi Vicki,
    For a while I have noticed I have discharge in my vagina but not any in my knickers. Does this still mean my periods could come soon?

    Sometimes discharge can be thick and stay in the creases of your labia, as can residue from soap or shower gel.  This is nothing to worry about and gentle washing in this area with water should remove this residue. Finally, discharge is always a great sign that your period may not be too far away, but this can take up to a year, so be prepared and have some pads or liners with you from now on.

  • Earlier, I had abit of a mood swing. (Im on my period!) and I suppose I gave my dad cheek but he hit me on the back of my neck also pulled my ponytail. It really hurt and I nearly lashed out but I was too scared to. Ive stayed in my room since because Im scared. What do I do? My mum lives on the other side of town and is doing a night shift so I can't ring her. Please help, Im so scared. ~ Amelia. X

    Hi Amelia, I am sure your dad now regrets his behaviour and it would be a good idea for you to have a chat to him, letting him know you are sorry for being cheeky but felt his reaction to this was a little heavy handed and left you feeling scared.

  • HELP VICKI!!! IM SO SCARED!!!
    I have quite big tonsils, and I showed them to my mum and she agreed they were strangely big! No wonder its a bit hard to swallow food! I mean the food is very easy to get stuck in my throat and then I panick like Im gonna die!!! So I try to eat very carefully! Ive heard that some people get their tonsils removed. I dont want mine removed! Im so scared! I dont know what to do! Please help! Am I going to die!?!?! Thanks..Vicki...

    You really should speak to your GP about this matter as tonsils are rarely removed unless the person in question is suffering with repeated throat infections. It may just be that yours are a little swollen and I really would not worry.

  • Usually one day I have a lot of discharge and the next I will have less but recently I have been having a lot everyday. Does this mean my period is close?

    Not necessarily, as the hormones in our bodies that help produce discharge can often fluctuate with days of increased discharge being noticed only to be followed by none at all. This is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki!!
    So, I am having bra trouble.... I am a fairly short person with very defined body features (breasts and bum). I have matured a lot I'm the last year and have grown into a C cup. I am usually a 34C. The only think is straps are usually small on my sholders. They fit very well on my breast, but then will often come up off my breast... Do I need a smaller band size?

    You may do, but it may also be a good idea to be measured professionally next time you are in a shop, just to make sure your size is still a 34C.

  • Hi Vicki, my period has not came since June even though it was regular for about 6 months before that. Is everything okay or should I be worried? Thank you x

    Everything is fine and very often and even when they have been regular previously, periods can have long or short gaps between each one. This is simply your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • I don't know why but I have sex with my pillow pretending its my crush

    This is fairly normal amongst teenagers and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki! I just started Year 8 and I just started my period. I have some lil-let's pads but I would quite like to try the other products avaidible so would you recommend the starter pack? Is that a good thing to use for my first time? Thanks! X

    The starter pack is an ideal product to purchase as it is includes all of the products in the Lil-Lets teens range, including our fabulous wipes.

  • Hiya vicki
    I am going on holiday in October and I think I will be on my period. I have never used tampons before but I will have to since I will be swimming a lot. I was just wondering if it hurts and how bad is it? Also does it hurt taking it out?
    Thanks
    Natalie xx

    Hi Natalie, if inserted correctly you should not be able to feel the tampon inside you at all and will be able to carry on with your day uninterrupted. Why not try inserting a clean finger inside your vagina before the holiday arrives so you can get used to how your vagina feels, this may make using a tampon a lot easier and I would recommend our Lil-Lets teens non applicator regular tampon for when you go swimming.

  • Hi I got my period about a year ago but had no signs no discharge boobs or hair and I still don't and I havint missed a period so I don't understand y I have not developed I'm 17 still flat chested help is there something wrong with me?

    We all develop at different times and notice the signs of puberty at different time too. It is not unusal for girls to get their period before breast growth or pubic hair and this is nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    So I was researching how to put a tampon in I haven't started my period yet I was just curious and many people have said to put your finger in to find we're your hole is the first few times I did it it was easy and then if got really tight and I couldn't put my finger in is this my period coming because because you'd walls get bigger don't they which means tighter please get back to me ASAP thanks xx

    The tightness you noticed was most likely the muscles surrounding the vagina contracting and is nothing to worry about. And yes it is often a good idea to place a clean finger inside your vaginal passage so you can work out where a tampon goes.

  • how will i know when im starting my period. on the odd occasion i have a shooting pains around the place where my pants go round the thigh but on 3 or times and not regulary.

    These pains are most likely caused by your reproductive organs maturing and this is just one of the many signs that your period is not too far away.

  • My friend lied to me telling me she had her period. We are 12 and she was the only one out of all my friends that have it other than me. It was nice to have somebody to talk to about it. But it turns out she's men lying to me for months and it upset me. She said she did it because she thought she was 'broken'. Is it bad that that upset me?

    Try not to be too harsh on your friend she may have claimed this to fit in or to make you feel better about your period arriving. It is also quite common for girls to misread the signs and think their period is here when it is not, so please don't let this ruin a good friendship.

  • I knew a girl for 10 years and we did everything together we were like sisters but since she met a new friend she started getting annoyed at me and so did the other girl. The other girl changed her completely and I know this for a fact. I don't know what to do as I don't particularly want to be 'besties' with the girls but I don't want to argue as I'm fed up of all the nasty looks and texts.
    Thanks Vicki!-MrsIrwin

    Hi Mrs Irwin, sometimes in life friendships change and you may find my blog entitled Keeping and Making Friends a useful read. Consider the option of having lots of friends rather than one special or best friend this is quite a healthy attitude to have.

  • Hi I am 13 in 2 weeks and want to be prepared for when I start my period, my mum and older sister started around there 13th birthday. Please tell me all the signs of starting your period! Xx

    Discharge is a great sign, as is breast development and pubic hair. It is always good to be prepared, but remember we do not all follow the same pattern as family members where puberty and periods are concerned.

  • Hi! So I really like this boy (he is amazing) and I don't know how to tell him? He is very close to my oldest friend but I'm bisexual and like a girl too and don't know what to do?!!

    Why not get to know this boy as a friend for a while longer, he will most likely realise you like him romantically at some point and if he feels the same let you know.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Do you still get discharge once you've started your period or do you stop having it?
    Mimi

    Hi again Mimi, lots of people continue to notice discharge in between periods into their twenties and sometimes longer.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it normal to have discharge for more than 12 months before your first period?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, yes very normal and nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hi
    So today I put on a cotton dress and you could see my nipples through it like they are all pointy. It has been like this for two days. Then my mum and I went to new look where I tried a dress (by then I had put on top and shorts) and the same thing happened. What should I do?
    BTW I don't have boobs
    Lots of love
    351073 (my name in my code)

    Breasts and nipples in particular are very sensistive to touch and temperature and your clothes can often make your nipples erect as can getting dressed and going from being warm to a little chilly. It may however now be time to ask your mum if you can have a lightly padded bra to help prevent your nipples showing through clothes.

  • hi vicki ,
    how far into when you have discharge should you buy panty liners ??
    thanks
    Ellie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Ellie, whenever you feel ready and only if your discharge leaves you feeling uncomfortable.

  • Hey Vicki, I am 14 with 30aa boobs. I don't get a lot of discharge, if any but I way the average amount. I don't do a lot of sports and that's not damaging it. My mum was 13 when she started her peroid and I'm 14 yet still nothing! My mum is also a 36c bra size which I don't think I'll ever reach that size!i know my body grows at a different time to everyone else's but I thought that it would be similar to my mums! Please help because I'm in year 10 and it is starting to stress me out ! M

    Not every girl follows the same pattern for puberty as their mum or sister. So please try not to worry, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and breasts continue to develop into a girls twenties, so you have plenty of time for growth to occur.

  • is it natural to hide sweets without knowing while sleep walking , i have been told that it isnt ,when my friends mum scowled at me because i hid her skittles without knowing ...
    thanks
    emellie

    Hi Emellie, people often do strange things when they sleep walk and I am sure your friend's mum meant no offence. However it maybe a good idea to ask your mum to hide the sweets from now on so you do not know where they are.

  • what do bra sizes range from? And also, as your body develops does your arms grow fatter? I see that in all my friends but not me:( thx safiaxx

    Bras generally start at a 28AA and can go up to quite high cup sizes depending on which store you purchase from. As for body fat, this tends to happen to us all at different times and our body shape can continue to change until our early twenties.

  • is it worrying for a 16yr old girl to have a bra size of 34A? thx xx

    There really is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, so try not to worry and remember too that breasts continue to grow into your late teens or early twenties.

  • My legs are so skinny:( and im not developed but have had my periods. do u know any exercises how to gain fat? and i know everyone is different but my clothes don't even fit onto me:( i feel so left out coz my friends are all developed.

    Eating a healthy diet of protein, carbohydrates and vegetables will help. And as puberty can continue into your late teens or early twenties you have plenty of time to notice a change to your shape.

  • Vicki, how long is the survey going to be???
    x x x x x x x x.

    A few more weeks I think.

  • Can you put a tampon in the wrong hole???

    This would be almost impossible as there are three openings between your legs that all have a different job to do. The front opening is where your water or urine is passed, and this is much too small for a tampon to fit into.  Your back passage is where you excrete waste food, and the middle opening is your vaginal opening and of course this is the one where you insert a tampon.

  • Hey Vicky, about 1 or 2 years ago I was in school and I needed the toilet. So I went and I looked in my knickers and there was a reddy/brown splats in there and it happened for 3 days. And now 2 years on... I haven't had it! Do you know what could it be? (xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo) So I know its mine:) -Mxllyy

    It could have been your period or even residue from waste food (poo) that had not been wiped away thoroughly, which can often be mistaken for a period. So please try not to worry and see what the next few months bring.

  • Vicki, are you goingto do new surveys for us to dl in the future?
    I love doing them! Xxx

    The team are looking at doing regular surveys, but it will only be when there is feedback we need from you that will improve the website or our products.

  • Why when I search for my question and put a keyword, it some times takes AGES! Is it just taking a little while to search where the keywords are in a question, or is it just my tablet being slow?
    Thanks xxx

    It may be your tablet being a little slow, as I have not received any other complaints about this.

  • ive known this boy since I was 7-8 & now were 13. I really like him but im not sure if he likes me. he sends winky face emoji & we've met up a few times since primary school. but when we text he doesn't text long thinks its just a few words but when we met up I hugged and after I think he had a semi. im not sure if he likes me so im gonna ask soon but sometimes hes blown me off to see his mates I wonder WHY hed like me coz hes fit with a 6pac and im nothing special how shld I ask him out and any tips?

    Boys are very different to girls and will generally choose their mates over spending time with a girl. They are also rarely good at texting, prefering to keep it short and to the point. My advice would be to give this boy some space, be friends and try not to push him into something he is clearly not yet ready for.

  • Hey :)
    So I finger myself in my sleep and often wake up in orgasm the thing is that I am waking my family up moaning! Btw, my dreams are often about my celebrity crush if this helps

    There is very little you can do about dreams, but you may want to stop masturbating so late at night in the future.

  • Hi Vicki I am the girl who really likes a boy in my class and my friends say I'm his type and I also can't stop thinking about him I also put these emojis👍🙎



    I just wanted to add that he is a day younger than him so can I still love him is it so wrong?😭💏

    A difference of a day is not such a big deal, so please do not worry about this. If this boy likes you and you like him, I see no reason why you cannot date.

  • Hello well for three days now i thought ihad been on myperiod it was a millions time worse then i had thought it would be this is myfirst btw
    Anways the pains got worse but the blood only comes when i wee its a bit in my wee not much but it hurts to wee now i googled it and i had allthe sighs of kidney stone. My kidneys are hurting and i think it might be kidney stonenot my period i dont know what to do i cant tell mymom as sheis away and im staing at my uncles and i dont feel confutuble telling him

    It is highly unlikely it is kidney stones but it may be a urine infection and as such you MUST speak to an adult, whether that be your uncle, teacher or another female member of your family. Could you even call your mum and let her know as this must be treated with some urgency before it becomes more painful.

  • Maybe with your e-card you could put boxes to tick whether you want
    -tampons
    -pads
    Ect...
    Hope this is a good idea thank you,
    AnnaXXX

    I will pass this on to the team.

  • Is it inappropriate to talk about unicorn's?

    No and I have answered your question at the weekend.

  • Whats the difference between A cups and AA

    An AA is slighly smaller than an A cup.

  • Hi Vicki,I am using your lil Lets teens night time towels but I am experiencing some leakage during the night. Do you have any suggestions to help stop this please ?

    It may be that you are now old enough to move up to our Lil-Lets Freshlock night pads, super absorbent and super soft, they come with a wider section at one end that can be placed in your underwear either way. I place the wider section at the front as I sleep on my tummy and never experience leaks.

  • Hi ,
    Im 14 and I know this guy who ive known for ages and he has two other brothers and i like him and i think he likes me back. The only problem is one of his brother has a crush on me and im 99% sure. But i dont like the brother... What should i do

    At some point in the future the other brother will realise you do not share the same feelings for hiim and may even recognise that you like his brother, so don't worry about this and if you can, get to know your crush as a friend before considering dating.

  • PART ONE Day 1: Hey Vikki, I have recently asked help because I was scared of tampons. Well today I told the learning mentors and they made me go out of class and then the weird teacher pulled a box out of her bag and I was crying and she was using her soft voice to kill me and then she made me stroke it and I puked and

    I am not sure why your teacher would make you touch a tampon if you did not wish to, possibly this is something you should speak to your mum about and she can then discuss the matter with the school.

  • hi why do you always recommend non-applicator tampons for teen rather than applicator ones

    Lots of girls find applicator tampons hard to work and difficult to insert as the applicator makes the tampon slightly wider and finally girls often talk about being embarrassed as to where to put the used applicator once the tampon has been inserted, which you do not get with a non-applicator tampon. But it really is a personal choice and if you prefer applicator then there is no reason why you cannot use them. Remember though that not all applicator tampons are the same and Lil-Lets is the only applicator that expands widthways.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I know that you can start your period between the ages of 8-17, but what is the AVERAGE age for a girl to start?
    Thanks for your help💞💞 x

    13.

  • Part 2 : I've tried loosening the straps to the loosest and everything! Nothing works! I just want to know what I should do about it riding up the front of my chest and my back..Any help?
    Thank you, Charlotte :)

    Charlotte, have a chat to your mum and ask if you can be measured professionally in a store. This really is the best way to understand your bra size.

  • Hiya Vicki. When I think about naughty things (sex) I get a tingly feeling in my lower belly and privates. I stack up 3 pillows&sit on them and spread my legs apart. I rock back and forth and it feels nice. But I feel wrong and guilty afterwards, what is this? Is it normal? - Jessie

    Hi Jessie, this is masturbation and very normal as are these feelings you have of a sexual nature, which often develop during  puberty so please try not to worry or feel guilty.

  • Hi Vicki. So my mum left pizza cooking in the oven and guests came and she forgot about the pizza. And I smelt burning and turned off the oven. I never knew she was cooking until I got the smell. She came through and went mad at me and blamed it all on me. She knows im weary of ovens from an accident when I was young. She blames me for everything and Ive been feeling down about this. Is there a reason? Horemones? Natalie xx

    Hi Natalie, I am sure your mum did not mean to shout at you and she was most likely upset about ruining dinner. When things are calmer have a chat to her and let her know how upset her comments made you feel, when it was not your fault and you were only trying to help. I am sure she will apologise.

  • I asked you this question around a week ago but there was no reply yesterday or two days ago I noticed about three streaks of brown in my knockers but it wasn't right near my vagina it was more further down I smelt it and it smelled like my discharge so was this my period but I guess if this was my period why did it only last one day as the next day there was no more than in the night I am so freaked out so can you answer this as soon as possible please

    Periods can often last for just a day, so please don't worry and it may now be a good idea to keep some pads or liners with you in your school or sports bag just in case more fluid is released in the future.

  • Hi.
    You might not know the answer to my question. For as long as I can remember my mum has NEVER been emotionally stable. I have had to be a mum for my mum for as long as I can remember. I remember at school when they use to tell us not to touch knives or hot water, I have been cooking and making tea for my mum for years. Anyway, now I'm older and I searched her 'symptoms' and what came up several times was bi-polar. I also think I might have it. What can I do?
    p.s. I'm 13

    If you have any concerns about your welfare or that of your mum, you can do one of two things. Speak to your teacher who will arrange for someone to speak to you, or book an appointment with your GP. Bi-polar disorder can only be diagnosed by a medical professional, so please try not to jump to any conclusions and have a chat to someone about the amount of work you have to undertake when at home.

  • Hi.
    __ I don't know what is happening. Recently I have been having really weird ___ cravings and gaining weight. It's been happening for about 2-3 months ____ now.
    _____ I don't think that I'm pregnant and I'm not P.M.Sing.
    ______ What's wrong with me????

    Puberty requires your body to go through a lot of changes and what teenagers seldom understand is that you may need to eat a little more as your body requires up to 2,000 calories a day to keep it working hard. But this does not mean you should be snacking on sugary or greasy foods and if you feel hungry increase the amount of vegetables, fruit and carbohydrates in your diet. Check out my blog Eating Your Way To A Better You.

  • How do I know if my bra cup size is too small? I have no non-underwired bra, but the middle which connects both cups doesn't sit flat on my chest and I can put two fingers under it without it moving up. Does this mean my cup size is too small? I'm a 32 aa by the way! 😘💗🌸🎀

    Why not check out my blog entitled Does Your Bra Fit Properly for more advice on this subject.

  • Ive had discharge longer than 6-12montns (over 3 years) so why isnt my period here , I want it coz everybody ik has it but ive had discharge way longer than them. Everything says it will come soon but they have been saying that for like 2 years please help xxxx

    Discharge can often be noticed for longer than a year and this is nothing to be anxious about. Remember too that menstrual fluid can often be brown in colour and a great many girls mistake this for brown discharge.

  • Dear vicki
    My mum got her period when she was 15 but I am getting a lot of discharge and other signs for periods at the age of 11. Will I get my period like my mum or will i get it sooner.

    Lauren

    Hi Lauren, not everyone gets their period at the same time as family members so it would be a great idea to have some pads or liners with you from now on, especially as you are already noticing discharge; a great sign that your periods may not be too far away.

  • hi,
    I have started my period however I am a competitive swimmer and I have heard that when you climb out it can come pouring out, is tis true? What should I do? and is it safe to go swimming on your period with nothing in? thanks x

    See my response in your previous question to me.

  • hi, I am a competitive swimmer and am on my period and I am not sure if I can go swimming and I am scared that if I do I might start to bleed when I climb out and if I don't go swimming then people might realise that I am on my period and I cant tell my coach as he is male and I don't feel comfortable speaking to him. What should I do?

    Tampons are ideal to wear when you want to be in the water and are on your period. Have a chat to your mum about the possibility of using our Lil-lets teens non applciator regular tampons, next time your period is with you. They are designed to be shorter and narrower than other brands so ideal for first time users.

  • Hi! So me and my frind play this online game and I NEVER normally play with someone I don't know I just normally do levels. But my friend was playing with people world wide so now I do. I do not give anyone personal info and the only time I talk is when I want to team and if anyone says something mean to me I just report them! Is this alright? I have read your blog on internet safety but if u where my mum would you let me do this? Thx so much! Daisy x

    Hi Daisy, I am sure if your mum knows you are sensible when you play these games she would be happy for you to continue so have a chat to her and get her views.

  • Er, Vicki...Do you answer 'every' question if its not inappropriate?
    Just wondering..? xx

    Yes.

  • Hi. Is this website like 'your' website. Like, do you own this or something? Sorry..just curiiious :)
    xx

    The Becoming a Teen website is owned by Lil-Lets and I one of their employees.

  • Isnt Taylor Swifts new song 'Shake it off' just Brilliant?!!!
    Do you like it? Im like odsessed with it right now! I play it over and over again!!! xx

    Yes I love it, it's very funny too!

  • Do you think 14 is an okay age for kissing? How do you kiss a boy for the first time?

    Just about ok I feel, although your parents may have a different view. And for all you need to know about kissing, read my blog First Kiss.

  • im 16 and had my periods when i was 15 but theres no development in my body and i mean in my hips and my legs and everyone else in my school is fully developed and im not AND im goin into sixth form! Please help i feel so left out and how do i get thicker and bigger thighs and build fat onto my body?(im a veggie). Please help! thx xx

    Your body continues growing until your late teens and early twenties so you have plenty of time for your body to grow and mature.

  • Hey Vicki,
    So today was the first day back and I wore a skirt with tights for the first time and everyone noticed how skinny my legs were. I have what's known as thigh gap which is when I put my legs together and I have a gap inbetween my thighs. I am very self-conscious everyone looks at me like im anerexic but I'm not I'm just naturally skinny. I am 14 I haven't started my period and quite peteite. Is there anyway I could get rid of this "thigh gap"!
    Thank you
    It's Macayla again xox

    Hi Macayla, the thigh gap has seen quite a bit of press recently but it is a very natural gap for lots of girls and not an indication of anorexia. My advice would be to ignore any comments and continue to eat a healthy diet. Your body will then find its ideal weight.

  • Hi Vicki :*

    Today at school, me and my boyfriend had our first kiss, I'm 13 and so is he, is this illegal?

    Thanks

    Ariana xx

    No it is no illegal, but make sure it does not go any further into something more intimate.

  • Hi I'm the girl who asked about asking my parents for twitter. I haven't asked them as I'm too scared and I don't know what to do and I know my mum will ask alladin of questions that I won't know the answer to and one of them will be why do u want it and I won't know what to say coz If I say everyone has it then she'll think I'm following the crowd. Plz help also I am obsesed with youtubers is that weird?? Xx

    Twitter does not have to be about copying friends, but is more about keeping in touch with the world via a different format and your mum can enjoy this new format with you if she wishes, so you learn together. As for You Tube, well it is the highest visited social media format in existence today so you are not alone.

  • Hi vicky I came home from school and went to the toilet and on my knickers there was like a pale orange discharge I haven't started my period could it be period cuz iv had bad belly and lower back ? Xxx

    It could be your period yes, why not place a pad or liner in your underwear and if any more fluid is lost over the next few days and if so share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicky
    I'm 13 and I'm going into year 9 my mum bought me some padded bras, I've used crop tops and a non-padded bra before and I really like my padded ones, but they have underwire and I've read quite a lot that you shouldn't wear underwire bras until you are fully developed??
    (I'm a 32A btw)
    ~+~+~+~+~+~+~+++~+~+~+~ --> so I know it's mine
    Phobees

    Hi Phobees, if the wire fits properly under and at the sides of your bust then there should be no reason why you cannot wear this style of bra.

  • PART 2 - Also the people that do sit with her at lunch say she only ever eats half a sandwhich at lunch and even then she nibbles at it and it takes so long can you tell me what I should do? I know how anorexia is a mental problem but also physical and I know it can have an impact on your school work and she soon will become low in energy I'm worried about her we are only 13 please help thanks

    I am sure your teachers and her parents are monitoring this situation closely, but if you are concerned you could also have a chat to your teacher expressing your fears and worries for your friend.

  • PART 1 - Hi viki so a girl that I'm friends with but not like best friends with has suddenly changed a lot she is becoming anorexic I think, she has suddenly gotten super skinny her trousers hang off her and her face has slimed down a lot she wasn't ever fat just a little more baby fat but I'm really worried about her even if we aren't best friends. All the people I sit with at lunch agree but we don't want to say something incase we are wrong should we?

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki this is my second period third day and since it started about every few minutes loads of blood comes out is this normal also i soak through a ultra pad in just a few hours please reply urgent
    from chloe

    Hi Chloe, periods can vary from month to month in the flow produced. Consider trialling our Lil-lets Freshlock pads for your heavier days and nights, they come in normal, long or night.

  • I have bad lower belly cramps but no period will I start soon

    Lower tummy pain is a sign that your reproductive organs are maturing and just one part of this is your period.

  • i am very consernde now as i have had discharge for about 2 and a half years and i have had puberty for 3 years now and i am 12 coming up 13 in december and i am 8 stone and i havent started my periods! i dont do any sport so nothing can affect it?! is this notmal or will i start soon?! please answer soon as i am rather worried!

    thanks maddie

    Hi Maddie, a period can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18 and I do not feel you have anything to be worried about, so please be patient. Your body will know when the time is right just for you.

  • i am 13 years old and i have had ouberty for 3 years and have had discharge for about 2 years but i havent had my firat period yet! why is this?! i have resently had extremly bad cramps and i have not been able to walk, sit u or laydown or sleep! can explain to me why this is?!

    As your reproductive organs mature you may often experience cramps and this can continue for a few years. But it is also a great sign that your period is not too far away so please be patient and see what happens in the future.

  • I'm worried now as I'm 14 and I'm flat chested but my nipples stick out a bit and they are really sore. I'm worried I wont start growing boobs :( I get bullied for it at school for it and I'm so scared to go back to school again:(
    but do I have a problem? I haven't stared my period but I started growing hair down there... please tell me they will start growing soon! because I want everyone to stop bullying me :(

    Puberty arrives at different times for each of us and you have plenty of time for development to arrive so please try not to worry and if anyone makes a comment you may want to remind them how important it is to support each other during puberty.

  • Hi vicki

    I love this website it has helped me loads i just wondered where abouts is your clitoras because i dont think i have one and if i do i dont know where it is! Please help im worried

    Ellie kikkapolkadot ( so i know its mine)

    Why not read my blog on the Reproductive System it will tell you all about your vulva (the external part of your reproductive system).

  • I'm feeling very sad recently): and it sucks

    I am so sorry to hear this. Have a chat to your parents and friends, letting them know you are struggling with puberty and the moods swings that it brings. I am sure they will find ways to cheer you up. It's always good to talk.

  • Hey Vicki I've had my period for around 8 months and I'm 14, I wear both pads and tampons at during the day. But at night a always leak, like all the time and always ruin my undies and stuff. What should I do?

    If you sleep for less than 8 hours consider wearing a tampon. If you prefer pads then try our Lil-Lets Freshlock night time pads, they keep me protected when I am sleeping and with a wider section at one end you can be sure of no leakage; I sleep on my tummy so I place this wider section at the front.

  • I just wanted to say thanks for everything:)

    Thank you for your feedback, it is great to hear I can be of help.

  • Hiya Vicki

    i have had my period for just over a year now, and i am quite heavy i use the adult lil lets super applicators, but every time i put a tampon in, it leaks after about 10 miutes but it's not full. i know i'm not inserting it right becuase when i insert it i constantly hit the wall so it slips down and doesn't go into it's right position. i was just wondering if you have any tips on how to make sure that it goes in right, as it's becoming a real pain!

    thanks xx

    I would consider trying our Lil-lets non applicator tampons and use your fingers to glide the tampon into place. Remember to do this in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine. When you are not on your period you may find inserting a clean finger inside your vagina helps you to understand how your body works and where a tampon should be placed.

  • basically i had my period when i was 15 until now but theres no development in my body as in my hips are still the same and my legs. its annoying coz everyone is developed but not me and its taking too long. do u recommend any exercises to make yr thighs bigger?

    If you read my blog this week you will see that puberty continues to happen into our twenties so you have plenty of time for development to occur.

  • I'm really worried about being at school because there is this boy who I think about at stare at all the time and I have a massive crush on him and every time time he talks to be my legs turn to jelly I blush and I stammer my friends say I'm his type but I'm not so sure I really want him to like me but I know that will never happenxxxx any suggestions?!

    Carry on chatting and eventually the shyness will disappear and you may just find this boy like you, just as much as you like him. There really is no rush to move things on too quickly.

  • Hey Vicki ! My names ashley and I am 16 years old , I am sexually active (don't judge me please) and we don't wear a Condom, last time I was active was august 27, for maybe 4 days now I have been discharging a very light brown, I am suppose to he starting my period tomorrow. But I'm not sure if I'm pregnant?

    Hi Ashley, there is an obvious risk of pregnancy when you choose to have sex without using contraception so please pop along to your GP or local Brook Advisory Clinic to get tested.  You really need to think if having a baby is something you really want as it is a life-changing event and one that requires the complete commitment of you and the father and if this is something you're not really ready for, please speak to Brook about your contraception options.  You can contact them on Brook Advisory.

  • Hi my name is Lizzy and I have been having white discharges for a while now but they also smell like I wee my self hw can I fix this and is this Normal please help?! ❤😔😔😔

    Hi Lizzy, it is normal for discharge to have a slight odour and it can be kept in check by the use of pant liners as you can change them as little or as often as you like.  You might also like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will also help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Ok so i have had dicharge for a least a year and it is kinda of heavy now and no period !

    Many girls notice that their discharge becomes thicker just before their period arrives.

  • Hey Vicki! I was wondering if you could help me? I know it's a bit if a weird question to ask but I really want to finger myself and I've heard that it's really nice but every time I try it hurts!! Any suggestions! Xx thanks - Melissa Xx

    Hi Melissa, the way you choose to masturbate is individual to you so please don't think because you hear other people do this, you should. And please don't think just because you feel nothing when you do it that there is something wrong this is not the case at all.

  • Hi Vicki
    So I started my period a couple months ago but there wasn't blood. And I'm supposed to have my period in a couple of days. My stomach has been not hurting but feeling like weird but idk if it's part of my period because the flu and anomia is going around were I am. Am I sick or is it just part of my period?

    I would question if you actually started your period as you didn't release any menstrual blood.

  • Hi Vicki! I have a question about starting my period. I've never had it before and recently I've have a lot of discharge and for about 24hrs now my lower stomach (belly button and down) has been hurting non stop. I've tried going to the bathroom like 3 times and nothing comes out. Is this a sign that I'm about to start my period?
    Thx- ms curiousity

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki can you tell me what size I am?

    Underbust - 28 inches

    Overbust - 30 inches

    Thankyou!!

    32AA.

  • hi v. im almost 16 and haven't started my period. i currently weigh 45kg and am 180cm. am i too underweight to have children. i love kids and would be upset if i couldn't have my own, but i don't want to go to a doctors because they think I'm anorexic. please help, yours sincerely skinny bones.

    Your weight if dramatically low may effect the arrival of your period, but if you start to eat a healthy diet this weight should soon rise and your periods and fertility should be unaffected.

  • Hi Vicki xx
    There's this guy that i used to be quite close and i used to really like him but over the last couple of years we have drifted apart due to school but I really want to get close to him again. How can I ask him without sounding really desperate?!

    Why not start a conversation by asking him what he has been up to, let him tell you how he's been and very soon your friendship will have started up again.

  • Hi there, Vicki.
    I was wondering how you could get experience if you want to study a course in college on media?

    Have a chat to your careers advisor and consider a career in Marketing if you want to work in the media.

  • apparently my ex cried after he dumped me and calimed how much he had loved me then snogs a girl two days after the break up.Like what is up with this? I want to get revenge because i'm not the forgiving to forgetting type at all and i dont know what to do and when he told me on fb he blamed autocorrect but that was a lie

    As I have said be the better person and move on, revenge serves no purpose and just makes someone look babyish and immature.

  • Just need someone to talk too and some helping advice please - boyfriend broke up with me two days ago saying 'I wanted it to end' which isn't true and i find out today that he already snogged some girl.I want a way to get back at him so he can taste the venom he gave me.

    Revenge I can assure you is never the way forward. It is far better for him to see you are not bothered by him and his new girlfriend and that you have moved on and are having lots of fun without him.

  • My mum won't let me move onto tampons! How can I persuade her as I hate using pads :(

    Why not wait a few months and then speak to her again. You may also like to show her our Lil-Lets teens tampons, designed for first time users just like you.

  • All my freinds have big boobs for a 10 year old why do I still have a flat chest?😞

    Pubertyu and breasts develop at different times for each of us and continue to do so into our late teens and early twenties, so please try not to compare your progress with that of others around you.

  • My breath smells like poo after eating Skips crisps is this normal?

    Well they are very fishy flavoured snacks so it's hardly surprising. A fresh breath mint should irradicate this.

  • I did some stuff with a boy which I regret so much how can I move on and forget about it?

    We all make mistakes and if you have learned from them, then that is all that matters. So fill your time with friends and family and don't let anyone make you feel bad for what has happened in the past.

  • Hi, today I was at my nans and I got a sharp pain in my lower abdominal area I think and I told my nan thinking nothing of it and she aske if I ha tarted my period. I haven't so I said no, she got me a hot water bottle and the pain went . She told me to take a towel to school if it still hurt tomorrow. I've had discharge for about7 months.it was a bit yellowey todayv though.i hve some symptoms you've said before but could just be coincidence. Just some advice plz. Am I going to start my period. Thanks

    I think your nan is very smart, she can clearly see that your period is not too far away and knows a hot water bottle can often ease discomfort noticed when your reproductive organs are maturing.

  • Hope I didn't bother you, but I need to ask you a question?I have pubic hair "down there"but the hair down there is getting longer which makes it itchy, I want to remove the hair but I am only 10 but my mum doesnt let me because she thinks I am still a baby,so what shall I do?

    I have to agree with your mum on this matter, removing pubic hair is not necessary and as it grows it will become softer and less itchy.

  • Hey vicki

    I was wondering do you know why moast of the boys in my school either cheat or just got for short relationship. I really want to be in a good strong healthy relationship but no one I know or like wants the same ? Thanks hope this makes sence :) xx p.s I'm in year 10 x

    There really is no rush for a long term relationship at your age, so please don't be too harsh on these boys that are just looking for fun and new experiences. There will be plenty of time for serious relationships in the future.

  • Sometimes I get really wound up and shaky especially at party's and my chest goes really tight and I struggle to breath I get them when I around lots of people and I start to feel dizzy what are these x

  • Hiya Vicki! I started my period middle of may and my second came on the 30th of June but I haven't had one since! Help please!


    Also I get terrible discharge and it smells bad I wash it really well every day! It's so bad at the moment!

    Moo x

    Hi Moo, periods can be irregular from time to time and discharge can often become offensive when mixed with urine, faeces or perspirtion. So consider wearing pant liners and using our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes after visitig the toilet.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I started my period once and it's been a little over a month already is this normal. The worst part is going to school because when I did it the first time it was really embarrassing.

    Periods can be irregular with long and short gaps between each one for the first couple of years, so be prepared and have some pads and liners with you at al times and you may find my blog entitled Periods and School a useful read too!

  • I had this brown stuff in my pants the other day.i showed my mum and the said it WAS my period and she gave my pads.But It's been 3 days and nothing but normal whitey/yellow discharge has been on the pads.(I have had stomach cramps too)
    -Did I start my period?
    -should I still use pads?
    -what was on my pants!?

    Yes this does sound very much like your first period even though only a little blood was released. Why not consider wearing a pant liner for a day or two longer just to ensure all of the fluid has been released on this occasion.

  • Hi! Im the girl with sleepover and a naughty sister)
    The party was really good! I said to my sister i will give her 5 chocolates per hour if she wont come in. But she forgot about the treats, lol
    So we were partying without giving any chocolate.
    Thats it)

    Great news, I am so glad everyone had a good time.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My BMI shows that I am on the lower end of healthy weight but I still have a larger stomach than I would like, not fat by any means. Just rounder and not flat. I wish I could feel comfortable wearing short tops and tighter clothes but I don't. I just want to lose stomach fat, for me not anyone else! Please help?!

    Did you ever think that this slightly round tummy is part of your journey to becoming a young and beautiful young woman. During puberty hips, thighs and the tummy can become curvy, this is very normal and very beautiful.

  • Hi viki
    So in my school every year once a week we go swimming like the whole class except I have belly fat and feel really uncomfortable especially
    Since the boy I fancy is in my class I don't know what to do please answer as soon as possible .
    From
    Love rolo xx

    Hi Rolo, be yourself, none of us are perfect and enjoy your swimming lesson taking part and having fun. You may just find that this boy finds you a great person to be around if you give him a chance.

  • Dear viki,
    I'm really scared and worried about getting my period and how to tell my mum and although I know it will proboblay not be to soon I'm worried about wearing a tampon , does it hurt and what did you first use

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there is no need for you to worry and as for some help with talking to mum and dad about this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum and Dad and as for using tampons, when you feel ready to try, you might like to consider our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • How long do period cramps last because usually mine go away after a little while but today I had cramps for 4 hrs+

    Everyone is different so it is difficult to say as some females have them only at the beginning of their period while for others, the discomfort can last longer.

  • Part 4, L
    this is why I asked this question, I want some advice on what to make of the fact that j didn't want me even though n was very mean when j went to a private school. I felt upset also that j didn't tell me this, she said she couldn't remember who she put which was an obvious lie. Please help, I reaaaaaalllllyy love you! Love, L
    P.S I can tell j is still scared of me which makes me very sad too :'(

    I would seriously advise you to focus less on why you were not picked by certain girls and instead focus on having fun when taking part in these activities; showing your friends, both old and new that you have changed and no longer get angry and lash out and instead consider others. You cannot change the past L but you can definitely change your future and this is your chance to do just that.

  • Part 3, L
    My leader said that n had picked me, so I picked n and chose the same activities even though they weren't my favourite, so I could be with n (i assumed j and e woul be together) bit then after n asked me who I put and I said I picked her because the leader said n had too but she said she had picked no one because she didn't know wether to do me or j because j had picked her. Part 3, L

  • I always get so hormonal and it's annoying I am trying to become a better person but I keep kicking off at my family all the time and being a gobby cow I hate it! How do I become a better person and apologise to my family and not be so moody all the time?! Thx so much plz answer ASAP xx

    Puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring so it isn't really your fault.  However, being argumentative and confrontational with your family is no good for any of you so sit down with them and explain how you feel and apologise.  In future, if you should feel yourself becoming angry, try to distract your thinking.

  • Hi Vicki, im 12 and my mum was 10 when she go her period. I have had discharge for 3 years and i have hair 'down there' but not under my arms yet. i would like to know when i might start to be prepared. but I'm worried that i don't have the right holes to actually have a period. i get discharge everyday and its really heavy so i were liners, i do have to were a bra.
    PLEASE REPLY, thanks (xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx) so i know its mine x

    As you've been releasing discharge for so long, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away and please try not to worry about your body and take a look at my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive system inside and out.

  • Part 2, L
    So anyway I'm now going into year eight and this girl isn't at school with me anymore. Another friend, who I occasionally hurt too is still at school with me. the first girl(j) goes to guides with me and the second girl(n) j has a new BFF (e) who is also at guides and is really nice. There is a camp
    were all going to and you had to pick one person you definitely want to be with and 3 activities you really want to do. So when my leader came to ask me these things...
    Part3,L

    See Part Four.

  • Hi Vicki!! Today I started a new school, and I was walking home with a group of my mates friends. There was one boy who caught my eye. He was funny, and tyed his tie around his head, told jokes, etc, and kept looking at me. I was the on,y girl in this group. I know him over school and Instagram, but we currently have no classes together and I deleted my Instagram. I really like him and can't stop thinking about him!! Thanks.
    Ps you are AMAZING thankyou so much xxxxx
    Ginger

    For more help with this, check out my blog on Your first love.

  • Hi Vicki
    When I was in primary school, I got angry and hurt (physically) people a lot when they annoyed me. No one understood that I didn't plan to and it would just happen and I regretted it straight away. I did it a lot to my best friend when we had small disagreements that all friends have. One day she told mum and showed her bruises and her mum told mine. My mum got so angry and told me I was bullying, but since then I stopped doing it even though I still get the angry feeling. Part one, L

    Hi L, my response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki x

    I hear people saying it is bad to wear a tampon over night or for more than 8 hours but I don't know why, can you tell me please?

    Thanks, M xx

    P.S. This website is very helpful x

    There is no reason why you cannot wear a tampon whilst sleeping but as the recommendation is to not wear a tampon for longer than 8 hours you must ensure you do not sleep for longer than this. This guideline was introduced following the illness TSS and you can find out more about this subject by visiting our section on Periods.

  • hiya vicki!
    i'm really bad at orginisation and revising and homework and even though ive tried loads of different methods i cant seem to get any better, whats you advice on these topics please?
    -mrs.irwin

    I always find that writing things down helps and then you can allot a certain amount of time to each thing you have to do.

  • I kind of have a boy problem.Basically, I have a crush on one of my guy friends, but I know what he's like and I don't want to date him, but everytime I see him, I always feel really happy inside! We talk on social media sometimes, but I can't tell my friends or they would either tell him or tell everyone! I don't really love him I just have a crush on him! I think he likes me too, but I don't really know for sure...
    Please help!!
    Thank you so much!

    As you're unsure of your feelings, just continue doing what you're doing and get to know this boy better as a friend.  It is nobody's business but your own so there really is no need for you to tell any one if you don't want to.

  • Hi Vicki, I go back to school tomorrow (I'm in year 10) and I'm worried about my period. I tend to have extremely painful periods as one time I almost fainted and threw up at school! Also the pain is so unbearable in my abdomen that sometimes I can't even breath. What should I do? Please answer ASAP!!! Meme

    As your period pain is so severe, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and I have always been naturally thin, but lately my friends have been teasing me about my weight. Even though the comments are 'just jokes' they make me feel self conscious. They also comment on my small bust (C 32). I have also tried eating more food, but I can't seem to gain weight. :/

    As long as you are healthy, you shouldn't listen to your friends.  So, try to feel comfortable with the size of your bust as  puberty can naturally be a difficult time for teens when they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring so try to be kind to yourself and allow some time to develop into the more grown-up you.

  • hi vicki , i had my first period in may this year and i had it again in june. before my first two periods i always had a heavy flow of discharge the week before. its now september and it still hasn't come but i keep on having anoying heavy flows of discharge. i'm really confused :s thank you so much vicki!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Is there a certain age you have to be before you can wear a bra?🙎Thanks Vicki!👍

    Not at all, it is all dependent on your bust size.

  • Hi, I really need to know what my bra size is. Ive only just started wearing them and I only have very small breasts. All my friends are massive, but im not. I don't know how to measure. Any way you can help? -Molly

    Hi Molly, why not use our Bra Guide or pop into your local department store and ask them to measure you. But remember this is not a competition and it is not about being the same size as your friends, it's about being comfortable with the size you are!

  • Hi viki ,
    So basically I had been dating this boy for like 2 years then he dumped me . So next thing he has a new girlfriend who is my mate but he kept flirting with me and being really nice and he is still doing that now but when she is around he is really nasty he says stuff to me and about me to my face and to her so basically what does this mean and what should I do ? P.s. I kind of do still love him but I'm not sure although If he asked me to be his girlfriend again I would say yes ! Thanks
    Polly

    Hi Polly, why not keep your distance from this boy as he clearly has no respect for you. And if he does make a comment about you in the future, ask him why he still feels the need to talk about you when you no longer date and then walk away.

  • Hi Vicki,

    Today I went back to school after the summer holidays and I have moved up from the bottom PE group to the top PE group but I don't feel confindent in it because there is lots of girls who are really fast at running and are really good at sports, I don't think I'm good at PE myself. Should I tell my mum to write a note to the teacher asking if I can move to the bottom group because I feel more confindent or stay in top group?

    Thanks Vicki xxxxx

    Give it time, your teachers obviously see potential in you and by putting you in this group you can only continue to flourish. Yes you may not be the best in class but it is not always about being the best. So see how things go and I bet in a few months you will be as confident as your classmates in PE.

  • Hi viki my breast have moved up a little but not as much as I would hope and I'm thirteen and only 28a should I worry when will they grow

    Hi, if you read my blog  entitled, Your periods are not the end of the story, you will see that breasts continue to grow into a girls late teens and early twenties so you have nothing to worry about.

  • so yesterday i went to the toilet and there was nothing in my pants but when i wiped there was blood on the tissue and i figured this was my period so i put a pad on that my mum had got me for when i started, this morning a changed my pad and there was only a tiny skid mark nut i put a clean one on and today the blood was brown with no red in it atall. it was pure brown,should i be worried?

    Menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, this is very normal, nothing to worry about and still your period.

  • Ok I just turned 13. I've had 2 boyfriends. The 2 was last year with this jerk. He would jump on me, try and kiss me (I didn't want my first kiss) he would hurt me and I would end up with bruises and he asked to meet him in this hidden wood and I was so scared I brought my best friend luckily nothing happened. I finally got courage to end it. Now a guy I really like (were really close) asked me out and I know he wouldn't do anything to me but I'm so scared I'll get hurt badly! What should I do?

    Take things slow would be my advice, the second part of the word boyfriend is 'friend' so have fun, hang out and don't let things get too serious....too soon. If he likes you he will be prepared to wait and get to know you better.

  • Hi. So yeh I took the test...now what? So are you and the team going to do some changes to this website? If so, what? Or is it secret? Are you going to do the changes the girls have suggested? And when are you doing them? Please do the chat room!!! Thanksss xx
    hehheeeee!!! Im soo EXITED!

    The survey still has a few more weeks left to run. We will then look over the results and make any changes we feel will benefit the site.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have discharge inside my vagina, does this mean my period is coming soon?
    Thanks! From Emily!

    Discharge is always a good sign that your period may be between 6-12 months away, so get prepared and have some Lil-Lets liner and pads with you from now on.

  • Hi viki i feel a bit awkward talking about thiswhat does it mean when i have had my period but i have hit puberty and my boobs are a size 34B and i had discharge tht is brown and then after i had stringy bits of blood but not full on i cant talk to mum about it it feels weird and i think what you do here is amazing helping teens deal with this and btw im 12 xoxo

    This is your period and even though you do not notice a lot of blood you should still share this news with your mum so she can ensure you have some pads and liners from now on.

  • Hi Vicki
    I haven't been on my period for long time but I started my new school yesterday and I was bleeding all day but to day I haven't bled once.
    What does it mean pleas tell me!

    I am Ellie and I am 10

    Hi Ellie, sometimes periods last for only a day or two, it's nothing to worry about and quite normal.

  • I had my first period at school and then it came a few month later at camp and caught me by surprise is that natural for that to happen.

    thanks

    Jadin xx

    Hi Jadin, yes periods can be very irregular for the first few years, with gaps of several months between each one, so please try not to worry.

  • I took the survey...nnow what happens?
    ?

    The survey will run for a few more weeks and then we will check all of your answers and see if we can make the Becoming a Teen site better for you all.

  • Want to wear liners as I have lots of discharge and all the signs if my period coming soon how do I ask my mum as she doesn't know much about liners I cannot send an e card so how do I ask her pls help

    Why not go shopping with your mum and show her the liners on the shelf asking if you can trial them. Better still you could ask permission to request a sample of liners from me, by dropping me a line at consumerrelations@lil-lets.com

  • I started my period today!!! :D the day before I went into year 9 my mum was exactly the same I'm. Soo happy!!! Thanks soo much for all your help

    Congratulations and I hope your first day back in school goes well.

  • Hi Vicki, I didn't get to walk home with the boy, I had to get the bus instead. How do I tell this boy I like him? I think he like me too, he always smiles at me in school. We're both almost 15 so if we were to go out, would kissing be okay? How do I kiss a boy?! Thanks so much xxx

    Kissing would be fine if you dated and trust me, if this boy likes you he will find a way to get in touch with you and let you know. So don't feel you have to rush into anything just yet.

  • I have white discharge for 1 year now, sometimes I have pain in lower part of stomach and side (mostly side) am I going to get periods.
    Thx
    Girl

    Hi Girl, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait so please be patient and prepared by having some pads and liners with you at all times.

  • Hi Vicki, what is an appropriate age for kissing ? French kissing? And getting a boyfriend? Thanks

    That really depend on how your parents feel about this. For me, I feel it is fine to have a boyfriend if you are about 12 just as long as you keep it on friendly terms only. But kissing and in particular french kissing is too intimate for the under 15's in my opinion, but that is just me and your parents may have other views.

  • Would there be a problem if I started using tampons on my second period and from then on? I get Sooo nervous whilst changing pads in the toilets and everyone I've asked says that they use tampons all the time. If anything, I will definitely use them by my third because I am going on holiday with my friend and I want to go in the pool a lot!

    Thanks, x

    Not if you feel ready to, just make sure you read the instruction leaflet enclosed within every pack before you use a tampon for the first time and consider trialling our Lil-lets teens non applicator regular and super tampons, designed for first time users.

  • what happens when your period comes

    Why not watch our video and read all about periods on our website. This should be all you need to know about periods and puberty.

  • my mum want me to wear a bra and i do whant to what shall i do

    Why not have a chat to your mum and let her know you are not yet ready for this step in development and ask her to discuss it with you in six months when you may have changed your mind and will welcome her request.

  • there is this boy in school and i love him and he doesnt like me and i feel imbarrsed if everyone will know what should i do

    It is always hard when our feelings for someone are not reciprocated, but you have nothing to feel embarrassed about. If others know that you like this boy, you can simply shrug it off and say yes you do but understand he does not feel the same so you are moving on.

  • Hiya, when measuring my bra size what do I measure in? Thanks x

    If you would like to get hold of a measuring tape, measure all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again over your bust at the fullest point.  Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate your bra size for you.

  • I'm a swimmer and my periods are never regular. What happens if I start whilst training? Will blood go everywhere when I get out the pool? I train for 1 1/2 to 2 hours. Thanks

    This is a risk you will have to take but as long as you have some tampons close to hand, you will be able to exit the pool, insert a tampon in a toilet and resume your training.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Our parents found out that me and my bf have been doing inappropriate things (with clothes). How do I go about rebuilding trust between both sets of parents..

    Be honest, talk to them and try to reassure them that you have done nothing inappropriate.

  • I am 12 years old I got my white discharge 1 year ago but not my first period my friends got it they ask me wheather I got it. I am extremely embrassed what should i do? Help.
    Thx.
    Little girl

    Try not to worry as the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  So, if this is the case, I would guess that you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • I want to buy tampons but am afraid to tell my mum

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to fear asking her if you can use tampons.  For more help with this, read my blog on Talking to Mum and Dad.

  • for three days I had Brown discharge and now it's gone back to the normal clear/yellow discharge, why has it done that?

    Unknown

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • What would you define as self harm?
    Thanks, swiftie12334

    My understanding of this condition is that , people who self harm are so deeply unhappy they hurt their body on purpose.

  • Hi :)
    I'm obsessed with horror movies. I aspecaly love slasher movies andwill happily watch a horror movie at least 5 times a week. I collect merchandise and own a horror DVD collection. I watch movies that are rated 18 and 15 even thought I'm not of age. I just wanted to know if this is normal ??
    Thanks

    You are not alone in your choice of movie genre and it is nothing to be unduly concerned about.

  • I'm 12 nearly 13 and next summer I really want to try using the lil-lets teen tampons. Do you think this would be a good idea as I really missed using the hot tub this summer and I couldn't go swimming in the sea.

    From Anna

    Hi Anna, we recommend that you ususally wait until you've had 5 or 6 periods to allow you some time to get used to your menstrual flow but nobody says you have to do this and if you feel ready to try using tampons, please do.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls, so why not give them a go.

  • Hi Vicki, all of my friends have started their period and i haven't and i'm the oldest out of all of them. i feel really abnormal and like there's something wrong with me. i have lots of pubic hair downstairs but no armpit hair, one of my friends told me the more pubic hair you have the more likely you are to start your period. is that true??
    Thanks xxx

    There is no truth in this so try not to worry and remember that we a re all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it weird to want to have sex with your dolls? Sometimes I just feel like I want to have sex really really bad an I try to stop myself but It doesn't work then I feel bad after! Because fingering doesn't work I use my dolls is that weird? 😁 I also feel horny after reading sexy stuff lol

    Due to the massive increase in activity of sex hormones during puberty, teens experience more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural way of exploring these new feelings.

  • I'm going on holiday with my sister and her boyfriend but I'm going to be on my period but I don't know how I'm gunna change my pads have you got any ideas?

    Try not to worry as I'm sure that your sister will be able to help you with any problems you might have.  All you need to do is to change your pads just as you always have as there should usually be waste receptacles in any toilet you visit so just dispose of your used towels there.

  • Hiiii! I'm 14 nearly 15 and REALLY need to loose weight! I am so overweight but I have absolutely no time to exercise and my parents cannot afford for me to go to a gym and I have a knee problems so I cannot put pressure on it.i have tried dieting but put it straight back on . Help! I want to be like the other girls at school 😭
    -Lucy.s😘

    Hi Lucy, the best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a balanced diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water, avoid foods that are high in sugars or fats and try to be as acitve as possible.  You say that your knees cause you problems which makes me think that swimming would be an ideal way to exercise so ask your parents if you can go swimming once a week to help you.   

  • Hey Vicki, I really hate my teeth and im always worrying about them, how can I learn to love them ???
    Please Help!!
    Love Lx

    I think we all have something we don't like about ourselves and puberty is naturally a time when teens feel more self-doubt than usual.  Try to focus on the things you like about yourself and don't give too much importance to your teeth.  You might like to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy would be a good place to start.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I 'm 13 and have still not started my periods. mum started when she was 11 and all the other girls in my class have. is there any way to speed them up??? I often have wet pants when I go to the loo -distarge???
    Please help.....
    Axxx

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months but it is possible for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 so try not to worry as we don't always follow our mums at being the same age.

  • sorry for this but you haven't answered my question i check all the time and other people have theirs answered

    love
    VULFAB20

    Please resubmit your question and make a note of your unique reference number.

  • I'm 14 and I got my period last year and my mom haven't grown at all. They are pointy and far apart. My bra size is a 34A. Why haven't my boobs grown yet? Are they deformed or something?

    Breasts continue to grow until your late teens or early twenties so you have nothing to worry about and you may find this weeks blog entitled; Your Period Is Not The End Of The Story useful too.

  • Hey vicki I'm in 7th going to 8th in fall there I this guy that every girl likes but he doesn't lyk any of them well that's wat I thought but we hang all the time my friends even asked him and he said yes that I'm his best girl-FRIEND and I liked him to but didn't know wether I fancied him but since he likes this other girl 'K' now I'm angry so do I like him or not

    If he has said you are his best girl as a friend and you have not let him know that you like him as more than just a friend, it would seem harsh to dislike either him or this girl. So why not take the time to chat to both of them and if in the future they split up you can then let this boy know how you feel.

  • I'm 14 and I got my period last year and my mom haven't grown at all. They are pointy and far apart. My bra size is a 34A. Why haven't my boobs grown yet? Are they deformed or something?

    Breasts continue to grow until your late teens or early twenties so you have nothing to worry about and you may find this weeks blog entitled; Your Period Is Not The End Of The Story useful too.

  • All my friends have boobs but I am completely flat!
    I get light discharge quite often and have a little bit of underarm hair! I have noticed quite a lot of hair down below! I am only 12 and a few of my friends have recently got there period! Sometimes I feel like I want to have you know what with myself! Sorry if this is inappropriate but Is this normal because after I do it with myself I feel really gross and guilty!! I get sore Tummy's but yet still no period! Is this all normal?

    Firstly with so many signs of puberty already noticed I am sure your period is not too far away. Secondly, it is very normal to have feelings of a sexual nature as you enter puberty and masturbation is nothing to be embarrassed, ashamed or feel guilty about.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I've finished year 8 and now I'm going to year 9. My school is a performing arts school so there is a lot you can do. I love dance and I am really good at it according to my friends and teacher. They all tell me to join dance club or the school dance academy,but I can't! I am bigger than everyone, my thighs are huge and my butt and belly stick out. My friends are really nice and supportive but sometimes I feel out of place. People tell me I'm not big but I don't believe them.What do I do?

    You do not have to be a specific size to be able to dance and it seems to me that your friends and teacher can see your potential and natural rhythm, so give it a go....after all what do you have to lose!

  • so im turning 13 on december and im in grade 7 now and i started growing boobs in 5th grade, i can say it coz i felt the breast buds and it hurts but now gr7, nothing has changed at all, and it doesnt hurt anymore why is it so slow to develop, im skinny and not heavy, im 28 kg is it bc of that

    Breasts often grow in spurts with periods of no development being noticed so try not to worry this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I started secondary school last year and I settled in well but recently my friends have started getting their periods but I haven't. They keep talking about puberty and boys. I feel like I'm being left out, just because I haven't developed yet. What do I do?

    Xx AnxiousAyanna

    Just because your period is not here, does not mean you are not developed or going through puberty, so please try not to worry and listen to your friends, I am sure they will have some good advice for when your period does arrive that you will find very useful.

  • I'm 18 I don't have boobs nor had a period. What is this? I'm sporty and very skinny. Why am I like this when will things change?
    Lots and lots of love from
    Iup< (that's my nickname)

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8 - 18 so please try not to worry it is highly unlikely that your sporting activities are having an impact on its arrival... it's simply not your turn just yet.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have noticed that I have got black hairs on my arm and it looks like I'm part person part monkey it's funny when I say that but when you look at my legs the hairs aren't black. I asked my mum and she said oh well you are turning into your dad(coz he's hairy). So I don't know what to do. Thank so so so much
    From
    :)

    Body hair does become more apparent during the teenage years and this new hair on your arms may seem a little unreal to you at the moment but you will get used to it and the more you go out in the daylight the lighter it will become.

  • Hi Vicki, I asked you a question a couple of days ago but you never answered so I'm going to ask again: So my school are changing school uniform this year and we have to wear skirts now. I don't like wearing skirts when I'm on my period because I'm scared I'm going to leak. I haven't tried tampons and don't want to as I have only had about 3 periods. Have you got any advice I'm really scared? Thank you for the support, always appreciated :) xx

    Consider wearing Lil-Lets Freshlock pads in normal, long or night they are so comfortable and very absorbent. They should be ideal at any time of the day.

  • What's the latest you can start your period

    Girls can start their period up until the age of 18.

  • Vicki please help
    I feeli like my family is falling apart. My mom and little sister are always fighting and I mean proper heated arguments and mom later on saying that she wanted to leave. And when me and my sister get Into an argument everyone gets super super mad at me and it's sets off my anxiety. I don't no what to do I extra clean the house to say I'm sorry and try not to get mad but she (little sis) really nos how to push my buttons. Thanks Vicki it's ok if u can't help x

    Walk away when your mum and sister argue and have some alone time listening to music or going for a walk. Very often mums and daughters can say things in the heat of the moment they do not mean so please try not to let it worry our stress you out.

  • Hi. I feel kinda self conscious all the time about my weight. I uh hate my weight and feel fat all the time. I tried to loose weight, and it didn't work. But people are telling me I look slimmer, or that I've lost weight, but I don't see it. Plz reply. I know it isn't remotely to do with periods but I'm worried, so can u reply, even if it's just a little bit of advice?
    Thanks.

    It should not be about losing weight but more about eating healthily and exercising often. By paying attention to both of these you will find your body reaches its ideal weight and you will start to feel better about yourself.

  • hai vicki!
    what sort of things would you recommend for a 'school survival kit'? i really dont know what to take to school?
    thank youuu-
    mrs.irwin

    Why not consider purchasing the Lil-Lets teens starter pack, ideal for keeping discreetly in your school or sports bag.

  • Vicki, in the survey, what are daily question polls???
    Thanks!

    Surveys on a daily basis.

  • Hi, I started my period. But it's now two weeks later and it's come back is this normal? Not only has it come back but it's really bad its all over my bed sheets and pants and I'm only 12 so I'm not considering using tampons yet, plus I am away from home and I keep crying and getting tummy pains. Also I sometimes feel a bit lightheaded is this something to do with blood loss and should I be concerned?
    Thanks x

    For the first couple of years periods can have short or long gaps between them and this is nothing to worry about. For your heavier days, consider our Lil-lets Freshlock long and night pads designed for heavy flow and remember to eat well during your period so you do not become dehydrated or lightheaded.

  • Vicki, I have a little question. When a man and woman have sex, do they both have orgasm and which one has more orgasm and who has it longer? Sorry if this is inappropriate...Im just curious..
    Thanks xxx

    It really does depend on the couple but both are capable of an orgasm.

  • I don't get any period cramps or if I find I do it is usually wind, lol. Is this normal. I get really heavy periods but still nothing. Also I am going to be 13 in 11 days so if you could get this back to me on my birthday them that would be fab!😊

    Not everyone experiences period cramps but lots of people do experience flatulence or an upset tummy.

  • Hi. I was just wondering...are married couples still supposed to have sex? Sorry if this deems inapproapriate, but Im a bit curious.
    Thanks Vicki!

    Yes of course, in fact having sexual relations is just one of the ways a couple show how much they love and care for each other.

  • Hey Vicki xxxx I put a aplicater tampon in to see f it fits whil not on my period I didn't tack it out the plastic but wen I took it out it had blood on the end what does this mean xx thanks xxxBIGFAN x.

    Hi, this little bit of blood could have been caused by stretching your hymen and is nothing to worry about. However, please don't insert a tampon if you are not on your periods. If you want to practice then consider placing a clean finger inside your vagina so you can get used to how this feels.

  • So hi Vicks I had about 2 brown streaks in my knickers I haven't had my first period but if this was my period I only had it for a day or two thanx

    Yes this does sound very much like your first period, even though only a tiny amount of fluid was lost.

  • Hii vicki
    can you loose your virgain(hymen)wail being fingerded by your boyfiend..
    Did her hymen stretch ther was a littel blood waill he fingered her???

    Tanx vickii

    ♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡((so i know it myne))

    You cannot lose your virginity if someone places a finger inside the vaginal passage but it will almost certainly stretch the hymen and a little bit of blood may be noticed if this happens.

  • I'm scared about using a tampon, what do I do?

    Many millions of women use tampons every day, and enjoy the freedom the offer, they are discreet, hygenic and easy to carry around, so why not have a chat to your mum and ask if you can try our teens range of non-applicator tampons next time your period arrives.

  • What would happen if you put a tampon up the wrong hole by accident?
    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXso I know its mine

    Tjere are three openings between your legs that all have a different job to do. The front opening is where your water or urine is passed, and this is much too small for a tampon to fit into.  Your back passage is where you excrete waste food, and the middle opening is your vaginal opening and of course this is the one where you insert a tampon. Why not read my blogs on the Reproductive System for more on how your body looks and works down there. Part One & Part Two.

  • Dear Vicki ,
    I got a brownish thing it lasted for like 2 days and then i got it again on the week after i got the brownish thing and it is both sat and sun whas it my first period ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I woke up this morning and went to the loo and I was on my period . I am 10
    but in my pants there was little worms they are white and that where just mooning around in the blood what is it!
    From Ellie xxx

    Hi Ellie, threadworms are small white string like parasites that can live in the intestines.  They are usually found around the anal passage and must be treated with medication from over the counter or by a GP.

  • Okay, I'm scared I was light brown at first now I'm white discharged can you help me out???? I'm scared

    Brown discharge is generally your period especially if it lasts for a day or so. Have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them, so in future you are prepared.

  • HEY VICKI, PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME
    i started my period a week age how do i tell my mum
    i normally go and get the pads with my pocket money ?
    and she found the pads in my draw and i said they were for my best friend
    i want to tell her but i just cant
    please reply vicki
    thankyou


    2208> so i can find it :)

    I'm sure that your mum will be expecting you to be starting your period soon anyway so try to remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once and talk to her.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum and Dad.

  • Dear vicki URGENTTTT
    From jihanna
    I have an itchy vgg for about A month or 2 and the walls of my hple vgg arnt smoothe r thay posed to be im in pubertu stage so could it be my hormonal inbalance

    Hi Jihanna, you may be allergic to perfumed products so avoid these when washing this area and finally, all vaginas have ripples and grooves along the vaginal walls and this is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hey Vicki!
    Sorry, if this is inappropriate :/
    I watch porn! I am I think addicted to it! I don't want to be and try not to look at it but I always end up watching it! Is this normal becuase I'm only 11! And everytime I watch porn, I feel happy and kinda horny! But after I watch it, I feel lb slutty and gross and just not normal!
    Again, sorry if this is inappropriate!
    Love, from Anilre! ♥

    Hi Anilre, it is normal to be curious about sex as your hormones are running riot during puberty but watching pornography on a regular basis can leave you vulnerable to all manner of disturbing images that can give you a distorted impression of what a loving, respectful sexual relationship should be like.  So, please use caution whenver doing this.

  • Hi
    The days leading up to my period are the worst because of discharge. The discharge smells so bad for like 4-5 days before my period is due and its always smelly,brown and gooey. Is this normal??

    Brown discharge is often your period too, so wear a pad on these days also and consider using our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes when you visit the toilet for extra freshness.

  • I am 13 and my breasts are starting to develop. But they hurt if i lay on my front and things like that. Is this normal. Also they are a bit hard just behind the nipple?

    It is perfectly normal to experience breast discomfort as they develop so try to be careful and not knock into anything.  A soak in the bath often helps to soothe them.

  • I am 13 and have had discharge constantly for over a year now. Is this normal? Xxx

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry as I would expect that your period isn't too far away.  It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.