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Older answered questions

  • Can u get a tampon stuck inside u?

    A tampon is designed to be inserted and then removed and therefore it is highly unlikely it would ever get stuck.

  • How to now which absorbany do i need but i havnt started my period

    For your first few periods I would suggest you try our Lil-lets teens day and night towels. And if you then feel you may want to move to tampons, you may find my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies useful.

  • Hi Vicki,

    A few months ago my parents split up. I was so upset and frustrated i had to take time off school pretending i was sick, 3 1/2 months later I'm still depressed.
    I started high school this year and I was always what you would call goth'ish' because of the music i listened to and the clothes i wear, but since this all happened i have gotten worse, and i get bullied for it.
    Even though i have anxiety and social problems anyway i am struggling now and i think I'm slowly giving up
    Thanks x

    Dressing a certain way and liking a particular knid of music does not mean you have to be unhappy or accept bullying from others. So please speak to someone about the behaviour of these people and they will step in and get his behavious stopped. And please share with others your continued management of your parents split. I appreciate this is very hard for you but by talking to others including your parents you will be able to find a happy and more balanced way of managing your life.

  • hi viki

    i asked my mum to buy me your lil-lets teen towels today and i love them! they are so much comfier and a better fit than the always brand. anyway i just wanted to now how our body's can loss so much blood it feels really strange knowing there is lots of blood coming out of my body. is this normal??xx

    Here's the funny thing, although it looks like there is a lot of blood being released it is actually about an egg cup full throughout your entire period and thank you for the wonderful feedback on the teens range.

  • hi viki

    i stared my period on the 21st and i am now on my forth day and i think i'm started to come off. its so wired because im 14 and i have only just started and my 11 yr old friend stared 2 days after me is this just a coincidence?

    thank you so much i love this site!! <3 xx

    A period can last for between 2-10 days and I am sure it was just a coincidence that your friend's period arrived around the same time as yours.

  • You know the ball shaped thing at the very top of the whole of our vigina not the actual part that the blood comes out of, it's been hurting me and I went to the toilet to check why and I touched it so I could see the side and it looked like blood however when I touched that bit there was no blood on my finger. What is this and why does it hurt? Please answer this iis because it hurts when I do a lot of things it has been hurting since 23rd it is now 24th, and please don't mention GP or talking to my mum.

    As with any part of your body, if you catch it or nick it, it can hurt and even bleed. Now this could be what has happened or it may even be your period, but the simple truth is that if you are in pain you MUST share this information with your mum and then she can decide what to do next.

  • Hi Viki
    I was just wondering is it easier to use non applicator or applicator tampons
    Thank you

    The choice really is yours, but for most people they find not having to worry about learning how to use an applicator makes non-applicator a great first choice.

  • I want to use tampons, but i'm scared and my mum says no what should I do?

    If your mum does no wish you to use tampons, you must respect her decision until you are old enough to make your own choice.

  • Hi Vicki
    Actually it's been 2 months only and this month I had already got my periods so my mom told me that the second time u get ur periods,a little more blood will cum as compared to the first time.but it was not much it cam like the first time only. Is it a problem?

    Aash

    The amount of menstrual fluid can vary from period to period and not everyone experiences heavier ones every time their next one arrives, so you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi viki, my ex boyfriend has moved up into my set in school and now i sit by him for a couple of lessons. I really.like him but he has a crush on my best friend. If i tell her she will tell him amd im scared she will laugh at me. In class he always lookes at me an her and tickes me. And teases me by wrappin his leg around mine. Do you think he is flirting with me. My belst friend says he likes me but i dont know. Its making me get fustrated. What should i do?. Thx

    I think your ex either still likes you or feels comfortable in your company because you have previously dated. I can only suggest you wait a few month or so and see if he shares his feelings with you.

  • I get some discharge bu i havnt started yet. I have hit puberty and i get loys of mood swings. I am really nervous about starting. Do u think i might start my periods soon?

    Discharge is always a great sing that your period is not too far away, so ensure from now on you are prepared by having some Lil-Lets teens pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Help!

    I put a tampon in for the first time but I stupidly did it an hour before bed and I don't want to sleep with it in. I'm also scared if I take it out too soon it will really hurt :(

    Please help me as soon as you can.
    Thanks.

    I am sure by now you have removed the tampon and in future be mindful of the time so you do not have to remove a dry tampon too soon after insertion.

  • my breast bulge out of my bra when ever i pull my arms behind my back and also i get arm fat outside of my bra is my bra to small ?

    It does seem that this may be the case, so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask if you can be measured.

  • i asked a question ages ago if u could do a review about books/stories about periods like artichoke hearts by sita Brahmachari. have you done it and if not not could you do it please? i felt proud because you said it was a good idea!
    love fabby

    Hi Fabby, it is on my list and will be considered.

  • I have had this happened twice; I began to sweat really badly, felt dizzy, Needed the toilet, felt a little bit sick, felt it was hard to walk-the more I walked I felt sick, I felt like I was going to faint and was shaking. Was this a Panic/Anxiety Attack? Thanks :)

    This would be difficult for me to comment on and you really should speak to your parents or the person who cares for you and ask their advice.

  • My best friend keeps on flirting with my crush on purpose and it's really annoying me. Whenever I talk to him she always butts in. What should I do?

    You can do one of two things, you can have a word with your friend and ask her to give you and this boy some space. Or you can choose to ignore her and simply enjoy the time you spend chatting to this boy, letting your fun personality shine through.

  • How long should each period last?

    A period can last between 2-10 days.

  • I'm nearly 11 what bra size am I ?

    Your bra size is not based on your age but rather your measurements so why not check out our bra guide for more information on how to do this.

  • Is it normal for my first period to be brown?!

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red, so yes this is very normal.

  • Hi Vicki โค๏ธ
    I started my period 6 months ago, and in November it will be seven months, and I haven't had my second period yet even though it's been a while. I've bought pads just in case, but nothing's happening. I get the occasional spotting and I've had discharge for about a year and a half. I'm scared that there's something wrong with me ... Thanks xxxxxx

    I would imagine that this occassional loss of blood is your period and not spotting, which is something generally experienced by women who have been menstruating for a while. Remember periods are very often light and short so please try not to worry.

  • hi vicki,
    Im 12 and i havent started my period yet, all of my friends have and im getting a bit self consious. Im growing boobs quite rapidly but im too scared to ask my mum to get me measured/get a bra for me. Also i havent been able to sleep recently and its really getting me worried. Please help me i feel like i dont fit in anywhere and its making my life miserable x

    Puberty can be a trying time for girls, but you  really have nothing to worry about, periods arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive. As for bras, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this should quickly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • HI Vicki
    I'm going on holiday soon (on monday) abroad, but I'm scared of flying, how can I get over this?

    Why not have a chat to the air stewardess on the plane and he or she should be able to put you at ease.

  • Hey there, I'm just wondering - is it normal for the insides of your vagina/vaginal wall to point sideways to the right and go towards your anus??

    Never think of your vaginal passage as something that points up towards your chin, it actually slants towards the base of your spine. So you see you have nothing to worry about.

  • I see a lot of questions about masturbating but why don't I like it?

    Let me reassure you that not everyone feels the need to masturbate or does, so please don't worry or feel pressured if it is not for you.

  • I think I have a crush on this boy in my science class but I've never even spoken to him! However I DO know that he knows my name and who I am, he just never speaks to me. But why should he? Because I'm really shy when it comes to boys and well shy in most situations- even around the 'popular' people because I just never know what to say and have a complete emptiness in my head - so I end up looking really stupid and boring :( I think he's really cute but how do I get him to notice me? Thanks x

    Why not simply smile when you see him next and this is sometimes enough to get someone's attention.

  • A friend who is 18 said that she went to a house party (with her boyfriend) and when her boyfriend went away for a bit a guy touched her on her thigh and then on her vagina through clothes when she didn't want him to. and when she tried to get him to stop he did not. What should you do if that happens? I am only 15 myself and just wondering because now I'm scared in case it happens to me when I go out.

    Your friend would have bveen wise to have shouted out for her boyfriend, screamed even. And moved away pushing this boys hand away so he was left in no doubt his behaviour was inappropriate. It can also be useful to stay in a crowd, with people you know.

  • if your are infertile does that mean you dont have periods?

    Not necessarily, infertility is a complicated condition and different for each of those concerned.

  • I'm not sure if i just started my period. I looked at the toilet paper and there was a small amount of red streaks and some brown stringy stuff. I have constipation and i wasn't sure if it was because of that or if I'm starting my period pls help. ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

    Why not see what happens over the next few days and you will soon be able to tell if this is your period or residue waste food if you have been constipated.

  • What happenes when you have a panic attack and what are the symptoms if you have angsiety.
    Thank you xxx

    Feelings of being hot, sweaty, nervous, short of breath can all be signs of a panic attack. But this should really be discussed with a medical professional.

  • I'm really worried about starting my period, so when the time does come, how do I tell mum and dad?

    You can write them a note if you are not comfortable telling them face to face. Or you could simply ask your mum to pick you up some pads next time she goes out shopping.

  • hey vicki, i just got some sweetcorn stuck in my brace (i have a fixed brace) and i am scared i will cut my fingers if i try and get it out, should i go to the dentist to get it out?

    I am sure brushing your teeth and rinsing thoroughly will help remove this food particle.

  • hello vicki, i just tried on my bra but one of the hooks broke, what should i do?! its really urgent so please answer asap

    There is usually more than one hook on your bra and the others will still keep your bra secure.

  • Hi, there are some boys two years younger than me and i cannot stick up for myself whatsoever, but the boys are so abusive. i passed my grade 5 singing exam and they said im a rubbish singer, they hit me, push me, shout names, and are just verbally abusive but i cannot report them because my friend hit one once after not being able to take any more. i cant avoid them. help there is no winning them

    YES you can report them and urge you to do just that. Speak to your parents and teacher and ask them to have a word with these boys as their behaviour is totally unacceptable.

  • What does it mean if your blood is clotted on your pad? Xx

    These clots of blood form part of the lining of your uterus and are very normal.

  • Hi i had my period im 12 nearly 13 and my mum keeps asking me if i had it again as she only got her period when she was 14 so she thinks ive done something wrong what should i do ?

    First periods often have large gaps between each one and these gaps can be of several months so please don't worry this is all very normal and your mum has nothing to worry about.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Im sorry if this is inapropriate but i was wondering if a condom is a contraception? Xxxxx purpleBananas xxxX

    Yes it is.

  • Hi
    I started my period 2 days ago but it was a light on and dint hapend the next day so i only had it a day and i read u should have them 2-7 days is this normal?

    Periods can vary in length and any time from 2-10 days is normal so you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi, well I like this boy who is two years older than me but I've known him since we were 6 and 8 we were like brother and sister but then word got round that I like him and he acts like he likes me back but is a bit embarrassed so he isn't talking to me and rarely looks at me what should I do I really like him and please don't tell me to find someone else. Thank you x

    If this boy is not ready to tell others about his feelings for you, then consider just being friends until he is comfortable or you are older.

  • Hi vicki it's laura again Iv started to use panty liners and have used a range of them, my period still hasn't came yet but it has definitely helped me keep fresh and keep my underwear cleaner than they were but I'm 13 now so maybe my period will come soon as I've had discharge for about 2 years now, Thanks again Vicki, much love, Laura ๐Ÿ’• xxx

    Hi Laura, I doubt you will have much longer to wait and I am pleased you are finding the pant liners a useful addition.

  • Hi Vicki, I've had this horrible cough for over 3 weeks now(nearly 4)it's really flemmy and disgusting- I've been coughing up mucus all the time, but since the start of this week I've started vomiting up food, I saw my doctor last week on Thurs, she said it's not a chest infection. I don't eat at school anyway in case I'm sick there, I'm just not sure what to do. Is this really a normal cough? My friends don't have coughs like this. Please answer sorry if this is inappropriate, Ren x

    Some coughs do linger for a number of weeks Ren, but if you and your family continue to be concerned you can always go back and have another chat to your doctor.

  • My brother went to university in Scotland this summer, it was hard saying goodbye to him the first time he went as I did not go up to Scotland with the rest of my close family. He has been to see us twice now but every time he leaves I get emotional. I know he'll be back but I still tear up a bit when we say bye. How can I feel a bit better about it and not get upset by this? Also is it normal? Idk plz help!

    Why not start writing to your brother and letting him know how your days are going, being positive in your words and I am sure you will start to feel excited about the adventure your brother is having up in Scotland. 

  • How do you know your boobs are growing at early stages? x

    Generally you can feel a little lump under the nipple area, this is your breast bud and it may only be one breast that develops first, with the other one growing a short time after.

  • hi vicki i just want to ask for some help i have been told today that my granddad has cancer and well i have struggled with self harm before and i dont want to hurt myself again but all the time its one thing after anoter and i can cope anymore xx

    I am sorry to hear of your news and this is a time for you and your family to chat about this illness and support each other and your grandfather as he undergoes treatment. So be sure to let someone know how you feel and that you are struggling with this news.

  • Whenever I run my period always seems to get REALLY heavy and I don't know what to do also I'm only 13 ??

    It may be that you are using more of your muscles when running helping to release menstrual fluid and is really nothing to worry about a good quality brand of pad or tampon will capture any fluid lost.

  • I started my period last month but I haven't had my period this month is something wrong??

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months between each one being very normal.

  • Hi Vicki! Im 12. So my pubic hair down there is kinda long and I wanna trim it down a bit soon, like you said to the other girls. But am I too young?! And when sometime I do trim it back, Im scared that the bits will stick out of my nickers! Like one girl in here said!
    Will it? Also this website is the best thing! Thank you!! xxxkissyxx
    cheese

    This really is a personal choice and there is no reason to trim or remove this hair at all if you do not want to.  It may sometimes show through your underwear but I really would not worry about that.

  • Oooooooh! Nice blogs!
    Thank you!

    Thank you.

  • Err..Why wont you ever answer this question!!!
    What is depression???
    Could you please answer this ooone! Please! Ill say thank you!
    Thank you!! :)

    Depression is more than simply feeling unhappy or fed up for a few days. People who are depressed can feel sad for weeks or months, rather than just a few days.  Hormonal changes noted during puberty can often leave teenagers feeling concerned that they are suffering with depression, but this really does need to be discussed with your family and diagnosed by a medical professional if you have any concerns.

  • Hi! I read the page on TSS. If you got it and go to the hospital, what will they do to you? I mean, like will you die? Will they do an operation? Will they give medication?
    Cheese

    Hi Cheese, in very rare circumstance TSS can be fatal, but if diagnosed quickly a course of treatment is offered that can aid a full recovery from this illness.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My name's Marie. I've just turned 13 and I feel really sad and depressed because I have never had a boyfriend! Ever!Or been kissed. And some of my friends who are 12 have had millions. I feel really pressured to get one but no boys like me because I'm ugly.

    What do I do?

    Marie, please don't worry a great many people nowadays wait until their late teens or early twenties before dating. So try not to compare your progress with that of others, the right person will come along when the time is right for you and there really is no rush.

  • Hiya, so I am 14 and over the past couple of weeks I have noticed that a lot of men stare at me was the drive past or walk past me, it is really beguining to creep me out๐Ÿ™Š why is this happening โ‰โ‰thankyou very muchโ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„โ›„

    If you feel you are getting unwelcome attention from others share this news with your parents and ask if they can collect and pick you up from time to time and walk to and from school with a group of friends when possible.

  • Hi Vicki
    On school days I instantly wake up in the morning around the same time before my alarm goes off, it is like I have one in my head. But at the weekends I don't is this bad?
    xx#12345678910#xx

    No this is fine and quite common. Lots of people have an internal clock that wakes them up at the same time each day, even if it means later at weekends.

  • Hi Vicki
    All I wanted to say was thanks for helping me with all my problems, your advice really helped me! I'm so glad this website exists.
    Love Piper

    Hi Piper, you are most welcome.

  • Hello,
    I have normal white discharge but I also have some light yellow bits aswell
    What is it??

    Try not to worry as discharge can often appear creamy yellow in colour. This is all very normal.

  • Hey! Since I started year 8 (after summer) I've had lower back pains. I've not other signs of period except discharge. In bed when I stretch getting up or lie really straight it aches. It's been like that for 8 weeks. I've also had hot water bottles on it but its still there

    This sounds very much like your reproductive organs are maturing and the reason for your discomfort, but if you have any concerns then please have a chat with your parents.

  • Does exercising make your periods even more irregular?

    No not at all, in fact exercise is a great idea during your periods as it can ease any menstrual discomfort.

  • I'm 13, I got my period in May and have had it three times but recently I've skipped 2 months and have still got cramps..what's going on??

    Anonymous.xx

    The cramps are most likely caused by your reproductive organs maturing and this can happen at any time during puberty, so please try not to worry periods are often irregular for the first couple of years.

  • Hi! My friend asked my crush out for me and he said yes. Im really happy but I don't know how to bring up a conversation how do I start?; love Elle๐Ÿ’˜๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Elle, why not ask him how his weekend was, this is a great way to break the ice and start chatting.

  • Xoxoxoxoxoxo- so I use to ask question on here, and I forgot how useful it is it's about spots, well I'm 13 but hit puberty quick, and I'm not stressed, not on time of month, have a good skincare, amd having the biggest breakout had in long time? And my boobs nipples are getting swore? But Iv already had period this month? I'm confused help?- xoxoxoxoxoxo

    Breasts can be swollen and spots can appear at the most inopportune moments and this can be linked to hormone levels and is nothing to worry about and is all part of being a woman.

  • Hey Vicki,
    there's this girl called I who's SO popular and hangs out with my crush all the time. All the boys like her and shes just SOO annoying. Shes always like "hey D!!" then she smiles and i fake smile and say hi then pout behind her back. I call her L M O for just annoying me. I feel mean but literally shes so annoying and everyone HAS to like her. How can i deal?! I feel like ripping my hair out!

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Be true to yourself, you do not have to like someone but you can still be polite. So next time she calls your name, smile and carry on with what you are doing. And if you like this boy then chat to him and you may just find romance blossoms.

  • I have this friend and we have connected really close lately and I think he's a bit of a show off and flirts with me a lot like today he squirted his water bottle on my legs and we started chasing each other, he's always making jokes and I like him a little bit. How can I take this a step further?๐Ÿ’š

    What's the rush, you may just find that if you continue being close friends, romance will blossom all on its own without any help from either of you.

  • HI VICKI
    BASICALLY I WAS IN PERIOD 2 AND I GOT A NOTE SAYING I HAD TO GO TO RECEPTION AT 12:30 I WENT AND THEY SAID TO GO AND SEE A LADY ABOUT BEING A YOUNG CARER BECAUSE I SELF HARM AND HAVE ANXIETY PROBLEM THIS RUNS IN MY FAMILY BUT I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO

    PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE GIVE ME ANY ADVICE

    LAUREN :) :| :(

    If your school feels you would benefit from this chat then why not go ahead and visit her. You do not have to do anything you are not comfortable with, but a chat will not do any harm.

  • HI VICKI

    I have the biggest boobs in my year (7) everyone stares and thinks I'm lucky in a way I laugh and feel lucky but then it gets embarrassing (36C)
    please help me what reaction show

    LAUREN :):):):)

    Try to ignore any comments you hear, in time they will stop as others develop and you are no longer the only person in your class who has developed.

  • i want to have sex with my boy friend yet he does not want to do it
    xxxxxx
    shannon

    Hi Shannon, I am presuming you are both legally old enough to be sexually active before I go any further. And my advice is simple; if your boyfriend is not yet ready for this step in your relationship, then you should respect his wishes and wait.

  • All my friends are more developed than me it's not FAIR!!! :( they all wish they were like me and they hate it but I want boobs and even to be hairy and spotty just to show the world I'm growing up!!! Ik it's crazy but im almost 12 and I look like I'm 6 :(:(:( HELP!!!

    We all develop at different times and it really does no good comparing your progress to that of others. Instead learn all you can from them and read all the great stuff on our website about periods and puberty and then when changes start to happen to you, you'll be prepared.

  • Hi Vicki.Im a bit silly and I do not know what bra size I am.
    Under Bust-78cm
    Bust-80cm.
    What am I,
    Please answer ASAP,
    Abigail.
    Thanks.
    ||||||||||||||||||||||

    36AA is your size based on these measurements.

  • I just tried to punts tampon in but I couldn't do it. It didn't even go half way in, I took it out because it was hurting so much. I'm not sure if I was putting it in the right place. Now it really hurts down their especially when I wee. It stings. What was I doing wrong??

    Like anything new using a tampon can take practice. So why not wait until you are your next period and try again, remember to read the leaflet enclosed inside each pack and inserting in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine.

  • This isnt puberty but what does it mean when you smell smells that aren't there? I keep smelling things that aren't there ( i don't think)! and it's annoying? Do you know why this is?

    If you can smell something, then even if it is only a glancing odour, it will be there somewhere.

  • hi vicki.! im now 18 n I usually have sex with my boyfriend.my periods are quite irregular.I had unprotected sex after crossing my period date.its now nearly two months I delayed in my periods. Im feeling so what ill.im afraid that im pregnant..pls help me vicki

    If you have had unprotected sexual intercourse and your period is late, then there is a chance you are pregnant and as such you should consider taking a pregnancy test. You can do this either at your doctors or local family planning centre or alternatively by purchasing a home pregnancy test.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had my period, but only once, and haven't had a second one yet. It is 25 days late-is this normal??? I'm really confused... can you help me?
    -confused

    Periods are often irregular for the first few years and can have gaps of several months between each one. This is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hey, I've just started my period! I'm a little lost, one question I do have that would be really useful to know is when I need to change my staniary towel I go to the toilet with my friends, what is the quickest way to change it and go to the toilet without them getting worried about what I'm doing in there!?
    I hope you can give me some advise!!!! xx

    Some people flush the toilet and then remove their pad and put in a new one, others wait for the hand dryers to come on. While just as many people are comfortable changing quickly and not worrying about what others may think.

  • I asked u a question and was given the reference code KAN519 I wrote it down so I remember and I know it was inappropriate and I know you can't answer everyone question quickly but I asked mine 2 'months ago but plZ don't think I'm angry I love this site and never change it. Thank you xx sorry it's so long

    If your question was inappropriate then I am afriad I would not be able to respond. However, if you wish to ask me another question then please send me another one.

  • When he says something funny he looks at me to see if im Laughing and he laughs even more when if I am. I did really well in a test once and he boasted to people near him how well I did. Once I turned around to speak to the boy behind me and he turned his body and legs around to face me and rested his knee on mine but I moved away... when I was speaking to the boy he watched and listened to everything we were saying. When I turned back, he did too. Do you think he likes me? Part2. Luv Ella

    Ella, I would say yes he likes you very much and is not worried if others notice too.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm not sure if this boy likes me. He stares at me a lot, but I'm not sure how long for because i always look away... i sit next to him in all of my science classes and he stares at me a lot. Sometimes he mirrors my movements and he ALWAYS flicks/smooths his hair every time moving his head to my direction when he does it and never to the girl on the other side of him. Whenever him/the boy behind us says something he often looks at my reaction straight away. Part1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi vicki,
    So after 7 months of discharge I had a couple of drops of blood in my pants, this was 3 weeks ago and now I'm having really bad low abdominal pain and I'm feeling really upset
    Do you think I could have a period in the next couple of days? Xx

    It would be almost impossible to say, periods can have both long and short gaps between each one for the first few years, so my advice would be to keep some pads and liners with you when out and about.


  • Hiya viki for the past year I have been getting a clear discharge but apart from that I have shown not really any signs of puberty (I Am 12)
    Is this normal?

    This is very normal and as time goes by you will start to notice more signs of becoming a young woman and you can find out more by reading the articles on our Puberty tab.

  • Hey Vicki
    I am having a blood test soon and i wanted to know if it hurts thanks xx

    Not really no, there may be a slight sensation of a scratch but that is all.

  • Hiya vicki
    Firstly thank you so much for answering all of my questions, you have really helped me out. I was wondering if you have any ideas about how I could exercise more often? I walk to and from school everyday and always take part in PE but I don't think that's enough. Any suggestions?
    Thanks so much
    Zara xxx

    Hi Zara, now the winter nights are drawing in, I would suggest that you join a club for something you enjoy or if not simply try doing an exercise routine or dance in your bedroom.

  • Hello,
    I'm turning 15 soon, but this time last year I lost my virginity to a boy I no longer speak to. I was safe and protected and nothing went wrong. I feel bad for keeping it from my mum all this time, I don't know what to do, should I tell her? If so how?

    This really is your decision to make and the relationship you have.

  • I have just reseved a text saying: "You dont realise how much this is breaking me! I actually cant be bothered to live if I gonna have people like you!"

    What shall I do?

    That depends who sent it and why they felt the need to send it to you in particular. If you have any worries about this text then why not speak to your parents about this matter.

  • Hi Vicki im on my period and for the past 2 nights I have not let out any blood is this normal
    This was on the 5th and 6th day
    Thanks xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a blance for your regular period.

  • VICKI I LOVE YOUY SO SO SO SO SO SO MUCHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You helped me with a lot of things and you said you really like one direction wich is my obsession I love you and thanks a alot for helping me with your answers. :)

    Thank you for your support.

  • Hi

    'm the only girl in the class who is a bus enthusiast(got inspired by my boyfriend) but the whole class and my cousins, friends and siblings all make fun of me! How do I ask them to stop?
    Thanks
    from Renee

    Hi Renee, if you like something and others don't quite understand try to ignore any of their comments and once they see you are not bothered they will soon stop teasing.

  • Hiya so this past month my lower back has been really aching usually just at night, it isn't like a pulled muscle pain it is more just a dull aching type, so this isn't my period as I have already had one this month, I am 14 and recently I have been having really low sore belly ache at night to, what is this? Thank you โ„โ„โ„โ„โ„โ„โ„โ„โ„โ„

    It is possible that these pains are due to your body getting ready for when your period arrives but please talk to your mum or guardian and ask what they think.  A hot water bottle or painkiller will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Hi vicki
    I missed the last 2 days of school before the holidays and my class had a test but I missed it. I only just got back from holiday and I have lots of homework to do but I don't know if I would need to do the test when I go back or not so I don't know if I need to revise or not. What should I do?

    If you think that knowledge is a powerful thing, revise for the test and even if you don't have to do it, you will still have learned the material which is a good thing.

  • Hi vicki
    I started my period about 6months ago and I had my period last month but

    I haven't had it this month and sometimes I touch myself I'm a bit worried

    P.s my periods are usually really really heavy

    From anonymous

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years and masturbation will have no effect on this at all.


  • I'm 10 and getting brown stuff in my undies so is it my period. but my mommy says its just discharge. what is it? I'm confused.

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum to buy some pads for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi
    What are the symptoms of thrush and what is it?

    Thrush is easily identified by the presence of a thick creamy discharge that ressembles cottage cheese, you would have a swollen, irritated vagina and there would be a burning sensation when you urinate.  Thrush is a fungal infection caused by a chemical imbalance in the vagina - it can be easily treated by creams from the chemist.

  • How do u masterbate???

    Masturbation is something that is dont naturally and by instinct and is definitely not something I can tell you how to do.

  • Hello, I'm 12 and I had my period in August 2014 my mum said that periods happen every month but now its October and still haven't had my period yet..... Is that bad? Is there anything I need to worry about???? Please give me some advice. Thanks xx ๐Ÿ’ž

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • is the brown discharge in my undies my period. please answer

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy you some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vikki
    Do you have any tips on how not to be constipated anymore
    Please help

    You should introduce more fibre into your diet by eating more fresh fruit, vegetables, pulses, nuts etc.. and also try drinking more water as this will make the stools easier to pass. 

  • Hey Vicki so I have something that's a problem (to me idk how big of a deal it is) but there's this guy I met last year and we became good friends like really close and this year we only text after school but sometimes well get into deep and long conversations over text reaciling problems and are stress but at school we hardly talk sometimes we say hi or rarely hang out at break what should I do?? Thanks Annie (p.s I'm in grade 8)

    Hi Annie, next time you chat to this boy ask him why he is not comfortable speaking to you in school, it may be that he really does like you but is not yet ready to share this with others.

  • Masturbution techniques? Is it okay to mastubate at 14?

    Puberty is a time when hormones run riot causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.  People of all ages masturbate and it is nothing to be ashamed of.

  • Hi im 14 and about 2 months ago I found some brow/red discharge in my knickers. Ive had discharge for about 3 or 4 years now and I think im almost at the end of puberty but I want to know if that brown stuff was my first period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi I'm 12 and I'm a 30a and have not had my period yet is that normal ?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki! Sorry to waste your time bit i have a really itchy throat and when i cough it makes a loud heavy sound, i dont know how to describe it but its a loud noise coming from inside my chest, sometimes it burns when i cough heavily which makes the noise louder and makes my chest burn. Ive searched the whole internet and i still have no answers. Plz help. What is this cough called? Love, natalia x

    Hi Natalia, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi vicki I'm struggling sleeping at the moment I will sometimes get to sleep at 3am and then get up at 7am. This makes me really moody and tired. Do you have any tips so I can get to sleep easier and earlier. Thanks x

    You should make sure that you're really tired before you go to bed.  So, why not consider doing a sport or simply dance for an hour in your bedroom until you work up a sweat.  When you have then had a shower or bath, read a book for a little while but try to avoid going on your PC or watching the tv as this will stimulate your brain.  You might also like to consider learning some relaxation techniques or yoga. 

  • Hi vicky.
    Im 12, my breasts are a size 32C and they have stretch marks around them. I dont no whether this is normal or not because im quite scared

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to develop stretch marks in places all over the body.  They occur when skin is stretched rapidly over a short period of time.  You might find that by applying moisturiser, you will help to hydrate the skin and minimise the effects.

  • How long do periods last? I started on Monday. Thanks :)

    Congratulations.  It is normal for a period to last between 2-7 days.

  • Hey Viki do you still have to be over 16 to have sex in Australia?
    Thanks, Jess

    Hi Jess, I believe this varies depending on what part of Australia you are from.

  • I'm a little bit different to everyone in my year. I'm bisexual. My best friend has autism and sometimes ppl stare at us but idrc she's my best friend. I have ginger hair.I'm tall and have a really loud voice.
    Some people won't accept me for who I am what should I dooooooo??

    As long as you accept you, for who you are that is all that matters. What other people think is unimportant.

  • I am really upset because I feel like i am losing my best friend. We have only known each other about 5months but in that time she has changed so much and we have just grown apart. At my old school I had lots of friendship problems similuar so I am beginning to think it's me. Please help, I am so upset.
    Thanks Becca x

    Hi Becca, why not ask your friend what the problem is and if she can give you some positive feedback. You may both then be able to work this out and stay friends.

  • Hi Vicki!

    So I got my first period about a month ago. My period was kinda light brown and I only had it for one day. Is this really my period? My mom said it was and that my body was just taking its time. I'm not sure that it really was my period. Please answer and please can you put it in the period section? Thanks Vicki!

    - Megan

    Your mum is a wise lady and I totally agree with her comments; all of this is very normal and in time you will find a more regular cycle is noticed.

  • Hey Vicki, there's this boy at school who sits next to me in physics and is always asking me what kind of boys im into (naughty or smart etc.) Im not popular but I'm not someone who is considered not worth talking to. is he flirting with me or wanting to ask me out? thanks BUTTERCUP2000

    He may be flirting with you and if you like him then why not continue chatting, but if you can try to switch the conversation to other subjects than dating and romance.

  • My tampon won't go in

    The trick is to relax and remember that wearing a tampon can take a bit of practice. So if you do not get it right this month, try again next and remember to insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine.

  • Hi Viki

    I haven't got my period yet but I get discharge, it has suddenly got heavy and started to go brown is it my period or something else
    Thank you

    Brown fluid in your underwear is often your period as menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red.

  • Hello Vicki, you know in the latest new blog, the nail polish one, havy YOU tried it yet? I tried but it didnt go quite right.
    Cheeeese. I love ittt

    I have yes, but it took a few practices.

  • I had a little dot of blood on my liner.
    Is this my period?

    It could be, why not wait and see what happens over the next few days and if more blood is lost during this time. If so, then it would be a good idea to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • hi, vicki!
    i am going on holiay next week and we will do a lot of swimming. i am not due to have my period, but if i do i will need to use tampons. i was just wondering, do i have to tell my mum or could i use them without her knowing?
    thank you so much for always being here to help me
    Tizzy xxxx

    Hi Tizzy, it would be a good idea to share your views on tampons with your mum and let her know you would like to try using them when your next period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm in year 8 and my best friend from primary school who I barely see is having a party and sleepover. The thing is, I don't know if I will be in my period! ๐Ÿ˜” I started in August, nothing in September but my mum and I thought that maybe I'll have it every 2 months, but the sleepover is this month! I wear special night pads when I'm on my period at night but I still leak onto my bed sheets sometimes. What do I do?! Thanks, Anna xx

    Hi Anna, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  So you have no way of knowing for sure when your period might arrive so I would suggest that you try to be prepared by wearing a pant liner on the day of your best friend's party and take some towels with you.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and they should never interfere with the things you enjoy doing in life.  Have fun!

  • Hi Vicki, I have really big nipples and there really pointy and they've been like that for a while now :( When will they grow and is that a sign that they will be big? I hope haha

    Some women do develop big nipples but you should wait until your breasts have fully developed when they should look the perfect size so try not to worry. 

  • Hi vicki, I'm getting whitish gooey liquid around my vagina and I've had for a few months but I don't know what it is and I haven't started my period yet?????

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they wil keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey vicki,
    So theres this boy who a around a few months ago we use to be so close i use to give him girl advice we use to joke around and walk home together, flirt a bit ..... but quite a while now we dont really talk which i hate because I really miss him๐Ÿ˜ญ

    I mean i really miss him!!!! i wished him a happy birthday a few days ago he answered and asked how i was but that was pretty much it.
    I want my friend back๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ˜‚
    How do get him back?

    What did i do wrong?

    It is normal for us to outgrow our friends from time to time but it wouldn't hurt for you to tell him that you miss his friendship and see what his response is.

  • Hey Vicki,
    this is my second question today. If someone wants a kid, but they don't wanna have sex, can they get the semen and put it in lots of seringes and push the seringe up there so the sperm can meet the egg?? Is that possible? also to break the hymen can u pull it out with tweezers? Ik these r weird questions, sorry!

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, there are lots of medical advances that can help someone have a child if conceiving one naturally is not an option. As for your hymen, this piece of skin stretches rather than breaks and does not require to be pulled apart by tweezers or any other implement for the matter.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i watched a video on how to insert a tampon and the woman said if it doesn't go in after u try a few times, u may hav a smaller vaginal opening or hole and said visit ur GP. Im not attempting to try inserting a tampon but if u do hav a small opening (im scared i do) does it make sex and childbirth impossible or harder and what would they do at the GP??

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Please try not to worry as the vagina is a muscle which can expand wide enough to allow a baby to pass through when it is being born.  You should try to be as relaxed as possible before trying to insert a tampon and you might want to consider using a Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for first-time use have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Please talk to your mum for peace of mind.

  • I know its a bit rude and im really sorry but what is sex and do you need to do sex to have a baby and whats it mean if you are a virgin xxx sorry xxxx

    The only way you can become pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male and by doing this, you will no longer be a virgin.

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    Please can you post answers more quickly please,Vicki.
    From Abigail.
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    Hi Abigail, I really am trying my best to get the all the questions answered every day.

  • Hi Vicki
    Im 13 i have had my period for about a year now but last month i missed it and a week ago i just come of a 3 week long period this has happened to me before i come of now im getting drops of blood in my wee what is going on and by the way it is not heavy please help!!!!!

    Try not to worry as it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  If your periods continue to last for a long time and you should begin to feel more tired than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • What does green stuff in your pants mean because my friend has it?!

    It is possible for discharge to appear dark yellow/green when it dries out.  Your friend might like to consider using pant liners to keep her feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Can you rush to your period

    Periods are a natural occurrence that happen when they are ready and there is nothing you can do to make it arrive any quicker.

  • I love the teens pads but I have one problem with them... The wings they arnt sticky enough or big enough so they just fold over and stick to the main pad and then I get blood on them ect. Do u think u could make them either bigger and skickyer or just make some pads with out them at all ?

    The teens Day towels have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and if yu find them a little small, why not consider trying our Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  I will pass your comments on to the team about the adhesive on the wings not being sticky enough for you too.  Thank you.

  • Vicki I am so streesed oUt today I found a streak of Brownish reddish discharge I told mom but she was lyk mmmh just relax we will c 2 morow I AM STreesed wat is this thing sunshine552 again

    Hi Sunshine552, try not to worry as this is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I got my report today and I did really well! Thanks for the help!
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, that's great news.

  • Have you ever heard of Cathy Glass? I really like her books, and the best part is, she's inspired me to want to be a foster carer when I'm older! But I don't know what sort of GCSEs, A-levels etc I'll need. Do you know?
    Rose

    Hi Rose, fostering is more about who you are as person and not what qualifications you have.

  • Dear Vicki
    i really need your help. My boy best mate hasnt been himself recently. I dont know how to explain basically sometimes he doesnt even turn up to school but the rest of the time he doesnt com until like 10.00am or lunchtime its really bugging me because hes always texting and at lunch he spend nearly 3/4 of lunch on the phone Im really worried because sometimes when i ask him he says had a doctors appontment or he is ill and i want to know whats up with him :( What should i do

    Whatever is going on with your friend, it's up to him if he chooses to tell you about it.  Your concern for him is nice to hear and if you tell him that you're worried about him, he might choose to confide in you but if he doesn't, try your best to support him and be a good friend to him at this troubled time.

  • Hi Vicki
    Thnx for alll urrr assistance this is the #1 website...wen eva i hav problems i knw who to ask(YOU!!!)...itz even become an addiction
    My Question:
    When girls get they periods does it come out with the urine or is it the same as discharge it stays *ฬฉn the undiez//panty liner//pads
    Thnx Vicki
    Love You Lots
    Have รฅ blessed and awesome Week
    Love Lulu(#1Fan!!xoxo)

    Thank you so much for the support.  In answer to your question, urine and menstrual blood are released from separate openings.  The urethra is the small opening at the front and the vagina is in the middle and is where we release menstrual blood.

  • Part 2 about the girl who's bestie self harmed
    She also went and got face book and twitter, and went around swearing @ everyone. SHE WASN'T EVEN ALLOWED IT! I deleted it but she kept getting it back. I'm so upset. I feel so ashamed at her, coz she went behind her own families back 4 times getting face book and stuff. She lies to me, her nana, her granddad, her foster sister... The list goes on. my bestie is making me really depressed now. What can I do?

    It seems your friend has some issues and needs your support and that of her family too. So rather than be angry with her, let her know she can talk to you about anything and you will not judge her. Understand also that this will be very hard for her and although she may not tell you everything it is not because she is not a good friend, but more likely she is not yet ready to share.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My bestie who I've known for years self - harmed this year. She stopped and did it again during the 6 weeks. I've only just found out and it kinda peed me off coz she kept it from me and lied to me. Now, I wouldn't have been angry, but all over the summer she lied to me, kept d8ting hear 11's who were going to college, and now she has been caught apparently by her foster sister with a lighter, and there was smoke in the bathroom. PART 1

    See my response in Part 1.

  • Hello viki
    Is it ok for period occurs two times a month ?? So now i found a pattern in my period occurring two times a month ..
    If i am not feeling fine in the end of my stomach and specially at the right side does this mean my period is due near?? I am really not feeling well in the lower parts of my body :(
    And why whenever i get period the pain the i. The left side๐Ÿ‘‰ ๐Ÿ˜ฅ
    Thankyou for your time viki ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญโค๏ธโค๏ธ
    Answer ASAP

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal to experience period pain in various parts of the body and you mgiht find that using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath will help to soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • I do like my boyfriend, but i dont feel as happy as i should? sometimes i dont want to even be around him, i just want to be with my friends? he's so lovely though and i dont want to hurt him? please help x

    You do not have to upset your boyfriend, simply make it clear that in healthy relationships couples find spending time apart and with friends is just as important as being together. I am sure he will understand.

  • Hello vicki,
    I was at an under sixteens party with two friends and there was a boy I liked there, who liked me a bit too. We both went to the toilets together and he asked me if I wanted to have sex with him at his house after the party. I said yes, we went back to his and had sex (using a condom), we are now together btw. However he is 14 and I am 13 but we want to do it again. I just want your opinion and I hope this is not inappropriate
    Hannah x

    Hannah, it is illegal for a boy or man to have sexual relations with a girl who is under the age of 16 and I urge you to have no more sexual experiences with this boy until you are lawfully old enough.

  • Hi Vicki. Please help me. I don't know if I have started my period. I've had it twice but it's been brown each time and lasts for like 3 or 4 days. I sometimes get really heavy and then I dont. Please help. I get grumpy and I feel very insecure at the moment. Thanks dee

    Hi Dee, brown blood is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina so try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for teens to lose confidence during puberty as there are so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once, so try lookinmg at ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • In pe yesterday I was changing into my pe kit and some of my friends were laughing and pointing at me I looked down to see my pubic hair hanging out of the top and out of the sides of my pants.now the girls have told everyone including boys and they won't stop teasing me about it what shall I do?
    Saskia x

    Hi Saskia, try to ignore their immature behaviour and keep your pubic hair trim by simply cutting it back.  If you can get hold of a wide-toothed comb, put it against your skin and then trim off the pubic hair that protrudes over the top.  These girls will soon forget about it so try not to worry.

  • Is it ok to wear to a underwire bra when u r a 28aa?

    The choice is entirely yours.

  • Is it ok to ask lots of questions?

    Yes of course, I am always happy to answer questions and lots of girls visit the site on a regular basis.

  • I bought two different sized bras one was 32aa and the other was 34aa the 32aa is too small and the 34aa is fine but one of my mates is a 34bb or b and I don't get it coz she has much bigger boobs than me so how can we be the same number also she's got a lot more weight than me coz Im really skinny and she s normal size. Thanks plz answer xx

    A 'B' cup is bigger than a 'AA'.

  • Hi Vicki, so I was dating a guy about a month ago but we broke up coz he thought we didn't see each other often enough. We're best friends now and are really close. He now has a new girlfriend and I have to admit I am slightly jel. We both still have feelings for each other and really dunno what to do. I told a guy I liked him because I thought I did but I've realised it was only a way to get over my ex.Me and my ex might get back together but that would require him dumping his girlfriend. Any advice?

    As you and your ex still have feelings for each other, it doesn't seem fair that he is seeing someone else so I would stay away from him until he has decided what he's going to do about his present girlfriend.  If he ends their relationship, then maybe you should spend some time being friends with each other to make sure a relationship is what you both want.

  • Yesterday i got my first period but today there was nothing there and i just shouted at mt mum for no reason what shud i do

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  During puberty, it is normal for teens to experience mood swings due to the massive changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most important of all, talk to your mum about your feelings as it isn't really your fault.

  • How long does it take you to answer a question as i ask you like 2 questions a day and i only get the answer after like a week and its aboying me and im starting to think not to use this page no more!

    I answer questions every day including weekends and within 48 hours. Why not check for your question by using your unique reference number I am sure if it was no inappropriate it will have been answered.

  • what is feeling of love

    I like to think 'love' is getting to know someone you are initially attracted to or know as a friend and finding that even when you recognise they have faults you love them still, look forward to being with them and doing all you can to make them happy.

  • Hiyaa x
    I got my first period yesterday but it was a really light one and nothings there today should i be worried? XxxxxxxxX

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi
    I am 13 and still haven't started my period but I think that I have some discharge, do I wear a liner ?

    Thanks

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and as you've begun to release discharge, I would guess that your period will be along within the next 6-12 months.  Pant liners are ideal for helping to keep you fresh and clean down there.

  • At the beginning of the year I used to swear because I started to hear it a lot and now I regret it heaps and I'm catholic so I'm scared someone's gonna tell on me and my parents find out. how can I stop being worried and how can I stop regretting things? Xx

    I think we are all guilty of behaving in a way we later think is inappropriate or saying something that we shouldn't have but please try not to be so hard on yourself and forget about it now. 

  • Hi Vicky. I'm in a crop top still yet I have had discharge on and off for the past few months. My books seem to suddenly look like they are growing a little bit. Gradually.They don't quite fit into normal 28aa bras but you can kind of tell I need something a little bit bigger than the crop top I have at he minute. Do you have any recommendations? Thanks A.W

    You might like to start with a training bra as they are soft and unstructured and will enable you to get used to wearing a bra in the future.  It is normal to notice gaps in between releasing discharge too so try not to worry.

  • Hi viki
    I'm 11 years old and am in grade 6, iv been getting discharge for about two years possibly longer, I'm really worried something's wrong with me, I know my mum got around the age 12 or 13 but I don't know if she had discharge for this long. Please HELP I'm really scared. If possible plz A.S.A.P
    Thanks

    Try not to worry as I'm sure your period isn't too far away.

  • PART TWO๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€
    Because I'm only friends with her cause my BFF is friends with her and my bffs is kinda stuck with her cause she follows her around everywhere. I told her that and she told me I wasn't being a good friend. I then retaliated by asking why she rolled her eyes numerous times. Then ..... You guessed it , she rolled her eyes ands taunted off. She is getting on my nerves recently and I don't know how to deal with it. One minute I'm her BFF and then the next I'm on her rival list

    Emotions can run high during your teen years and it is not unusual for girls to have fall outs. But reassure this girl that whilst she is not one of your closest friends, she is still a friend and as such you really should both be making an effort to get along.

  • Hi tis holly๐ŸŽ€ AGAIN
    Today when I got to school one of my classmates was walking past me so I said hi ( like you would do ) and she rolled her eyes and flicked her hari. Then she rolled her eyes two more times when ever I said something. A while later she demanded why I wasn't one of her bffs - it said who my bffs are on my desk cover thing. And like me and her both know we aren't the best of friends. PART ONE

    Hi Holly, see my response in Part Two.

  • I hope this isn't to personal but.....
    Are you a christian?
    Thx holly๐ŸŽ€

    Hi Holly, I have been christened yes.

  • Hi Vikki!
    So I just started my period about a month ago. I only had it for one day and it was light brown. My mom said it was my period but I'm not sure. I haven't had it again since. I really hope it was my period but I feel kinda bad if it isn't because I told all my friends and family. I don't know and i feel kinda left out know. Please answer I'm desperate and I'm too scared to ask anyone else.

    Please try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for brown discharge to present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • What age should girls loose there virginity? What age should girls have there first kiss and start dating? What does it mean when a boy sends flowers to you on your birthday? Can you have sex with a condom at the age of 14?

    The Law of Consent states that it is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.  I think a girl should start dating when she is mature enough.  A boy will usually send a girl flowers if he likes her.

  • I'm attracted to both girls, my best friend especially, and boys, kinda ish! But that's a completely different story. There's this boy in my form, he is so hot, he keeps on looking at me. Does this mean he likes me? This website is so helpful thanks! Also, can u plz post a pic of what discharge in white underwear is supposed to look like? Thnx so much Viki!
    Plz answer BOTH ASAP!! Thanks! Discharge and the boy one!
    Love, Kelly xxx

    Hi Kelly, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are gettng ready for when our period arrives.   As this boy keeps looking at you, I would guess that he likes you so for more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I have this crush at school who I thought he had feelings for me also but here's the twist. He has a crush on my best friend who is supper flirty and already has a bf! I told her i liked him one day and hours later that day she came rubbing it in my face smiling and blushing that he told her he likes her. I really like him and the way he talks to me is super attractive! What do I do!?

    Continue being good friends as very often romance blossoms out of friendship and try not to let your BF's comments concern you; no boy is worth breaking up with a friend.

  • Em, hi vicki. I'm really scared because I have a fleshy lump on my vagina that bleeds and I also have other ones but they don't bleed and are not fleshy. I really don't know how to tell my mum. Please tell me what's wrong with me?

    Try not to worry and ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have physical education four days a week and my mum point-blank refuses all my requests for tampons, as her sister ( my aunt) got a vaginal infection from them. I have told her about lil lets teens tampons but still she says no. There are no opportunities to visit the loo directly after p e and when I look at my pad at the next opportunity two hours later I have leaked a lot and have only just caught the problem in time. Is there nothing I can do or do you have any advice?
    Love piper

    Hi Piper, you really have to respect your mum's wishes but consider trying Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi I am 14 and I have had this white discharge for about a year on a daily basis it dosent smelll really bad or anything but is it supposed to happen for this long and I haven't had my period yet shouldnt I have had it by now

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.  As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki!
    So I wear a 30AA/A depending on the bra, but I only have like the soft non-padded bras. I would really like a lightly padded bra to stop my nipples showing through. But my mum doesn't want me to get them. I haven't actually asked her, but when I was getting some new bras she was looking for some plain white ones for school, and looked at the padded ones and said "no you don't want those they're padded."
    What should I do??
    Thank you so much ๐Ÿ’•

    Try not to feel embarrassed talking to your mum and remember that she was a young girl once.  Why not explain your reasons for wanting to wear a bra with slight padding and she might understand a little better.

  • Ok so I've been having discharge for a year and I havn't got my period yet and I know that discharge is a a sign that my period is close is a year close or am I having problems down there?

    Try not to worry as I'm sure that because you've been releasing discharge for so long, your period isn't too far away.

  • Vicki Im really scared that Im attracted to omen and girls! I just look at them and imagine having sex with them. Also I dont so fancy boys that much...theyre gros! I dont wanna be a lesbian! Even in today in assembly in school I sat at the front and there was some lady teachers there and I was just looking at them boobs and legs !! I just feel really discusting and gros sometimes! I just like girls we're so interesting! Oh..whyyy..??
    Im only 12! I dont like willies! Sorry if inappropriate!

    Puberty is a time when sex hormones run riot causing teens to feel attracted to the same and opposite sex so try not to rush into putting a label on your sexuality and see how you feel when you're older.

  • My period flow is really heavy and often stains my pants, any tips?
    thanks, Tris xxxx

    Hi Tris, you need to look at your sanitary protection.  If you're using towels, be sure to change them every 3-4 hours and you might find that Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night will provide you with better protection as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  If you wear tampons, try using a higher absorbency.  Here at Lil-Lets, we offer tampons ranging in absorbency from Lite all the way up to Ultra.  On your heaviest days, you might like to consider using a tampon and a pant liner too for extra protection.

  • Hi, Vicki!
    i am on my 2/3rd period and have a really heavy flow. I am using pads, but they often leak onto my pants because there's so much. Also, (sorry if this sounds stupid), the blood sometimes runs down my bum when i sit down and my pants get stained. What should i do? Tizzy xxx

    Hi Tizzy, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  Be sure to change your towel every 3-4 hours for best results too.  

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm really worried about my best friend. She is depressed and selfharms. She always says she's okay but I know she isn't. I don't know how to help her. Her mum knows but I don't think she knows everything. My friend is also not eating properly and she is very insecure. She cuts regularly but only tells me afterwards. I've asked her to call/text me before she does it so I can try and talk her out of it but she won't.
    What is the best thing to do?
    Thanks ๐Ÿ’•

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  It is normal for them to develop a poor self-image and to have an irrational fear of gaining weight but none of this is her fault so please ask your friend to seek the professional help she needs by either talking to her mum or by calling Mindline on 0300 1233393

  • Could you interview...Superwoman! In one of your videos! Her real name is Lily. She doesent live in the UK is that okay??? I love her shes the best!...after you, of course. Do you know her?
    Thanksssoomuch
    supergirl!

    I will pass her name onto the team to add to the list.

  • I don't seem to have a pubic mound! Should I?

    Try not to worry and allow yourself some time to fully develop but remember that we're all different and are made in different shapes and sizes.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Getting to know the Reproductive System Inside & Out.

  • I always have a dry vagina! Discharge is sticky and crusts instantly in my underwear. I wash every day. I use Radox shower gel, could this be the reason? Can dry vagina be a sign I am allergic to something? And I can't use tampons because of this as even during periods it seems dry, and the blood seems to dry instantly.....like not completely dry but sticky rather than runny? Any advice?

    Try to remember that the vagina is self-cleaning so there really is no need for you to be using shower gels to clean down there.   Have a chat with your mum or guardian to see if they think you should visit your GP.

  • do you think Topshop is too expensive or am I alone

    I do think Topshop's prices are a little expensive  but they do have some fabulous clothes which are

  • Hi Vicki
    It's me Millie again thank you for the advice I have another question I just started my period and my next one would be my third how long should I roughly be on my period or have had my period till it is ok to start wearing tampons I feel comfortable to start using them I would just like a little advice thanks

    Millie sorry for any confusion please answer ASAP

    Hi Milllie, we usually recommend that you experience at least 5 or 6 periods before you try using tampons as this will allow you some time to get used to your flow.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for firs-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki so one of my best guy friends and I have been really close since we were 5 and for about a year now iv kind of liked him well actually I kind of think iv fallen in love with him and we have talked about getting together but never decided on anything as he doesn't want to ruin are friendship but I keep thinking if we were to get together it would be great and it would work I was just wondering what your opinion is on this thanks Mia w xxx

    Hi Mia, you could always see how it goes but it would be a shame to ruin your friendship if things don't work out between you.

  • so, me and my best frid are friends with this boy, and we both liked him, the thing is she is now going out with him, i know she feels bad because she knows i like him, and i told her i was fine with it, but i'm really upset and can;t get over him

    I know it's not much comfort to you at the moment but you will begin to feel better with time and please don't forget how easily teens fall in and out of love and develop crushes which often fade.  Try keeping busy, talk about your feelings and you will soon forget about him.

  • Hi Vicki
    How do cramps feel like as i got my period today

    Period pain can be experienced in your lower abdomen, lower back and in the top of your legs and the pain can be different for everyone.  Some describe it as a dull ache whilst others might have more acute period pain but then again, some experience no pain at all.  Congratulations on starting your period.

  • Hey Vicki โค๏ธ I've none this boy since yr 5 and an liked him up to today (and I still like him ) were in year 8 now and we talk but i don't know how to ask him out ๐Ÿ˜ญ btw I love your website it's awesome

    Thank you for your support.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • This is probably one of the most irrelevant posts you'll ever get... But do you know who George Formby is? Nobody I know does other than my mum, dad and my great grandma.
    Sorry for the complete randomness of this question.
    Dawn.
    ps. I love this site. It's really helpful and you answer with such nice words. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Dawn, yes I do know who George Formby was and thank you for your support.

  • Hey vicki,
    1.what is a orgasm ? 2.My boobs budded 2 years ago and now developing,my right one is more developed should i start wearing bras and crop tops now ?


    Ellie ๐Ÿ˜

    An orgasm describes the peak in sexual pleasure and it is perfectly normal to notice more development in one breast than the other but they will eventually even up.  The choice to start wearing a bra is entirely yours so you might like to consider starting with a training bra.

  • Vicki!!!! Please answer ASAP! So, this guy who I am so close to and used to be in a relationship with, started texting to a really popular girl at my new school, he then invited her to a party (when he'd never met her) at his house, is that weird if you invite someone over when you've never met them???!! Also, I really didn't want them meeting incase they snogged when they were drunk, but I wasn't invited to his party even though I'm the link between them! Is that weird too???!

    Love kim

    Hi Kim, I do get the impression that this boy has moved on from you and is now pursuing this popular girl at your school.  Please try to move on and forget about him.

  • How do you sleep if you have your period?
    Like do you sleep in the side or what.

    You sleep in exactly the same way as you did before you started your period.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and they shouldn't mean that you have to change the way you do things in life at all so try not to worry.

  • Hi I am dyslexic and love your site but find it hard to read! ๐Ÿ˜ฅ would you be able to have an option of a font that is easier for dyslexic people to read? I know many people would benefit fro. This and the site could get more popular ( many ppl I know stopped going on the site as they could not read it properly!)
    Thanks xxx

    Thanks for your question.  I will pass it on to the team.

  • 1. Is it only classed as masturbating of you reach orgasm point?
    2. I masturbate about 3 times a day for the past 5 months to the point where I have an orgasm, is there any health issues with this?

    Masturbation is an instinctive, natural thing to do but it is good to keep in mind the things that mean the most to us in life such as family, friends and school.

  • hi Vicki are applicator tampons good to use in water as I am going on holiday and theres lots of water slides and will be wearing shorts and bikini and also will my tampon applicator leak and come out when in water?

    An applicator tampon only describes the method you use to insert a tampon - the applicator is not inserted into the vagina.  For more help with this, please check out the video on How to use and applicator tampon.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.  Lil-Lets teens regular tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hey Vicks
    I'm DYING!!๐Ÿ˜ซ(not literately)I know all about discharge and period stuff and PMS but about 10 mins ago was going in the shower and I gave my self a wedge (not on purpous) but when I took my pants off there was this big brownish kinda mark on the vagina bit of my pants and (I know this is the grossest thing ever I WAS FREAKING OUT!) I smelled it and it smelled like discharge, I have HAD discharge for a year and a bit BUT THIS CAN'T HAPPEN IM ON A TOAD TRIP tommorow
    Thanx miss_sunshineโ˜€

    As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, it is quite possible that the brown discharge you noticed was your first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • hi vicki im 10 and getting suicidal thaughts

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel down at times.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so please talk about your feelings to your family and friends and try doing things that will make you feel happier like danicng to your favourite music or waching some funny films.  You should find that participating in and activity like sport, drama or music will help you to feel better too.  You can also call Childline on 0800 1111 for confidential help and support too.

  • Hi Hi Vicki! I have a few questions for you and here they are.
    1) I have been recently been getting,when I wipe my bum,a little spot or two of blood,this is starting to become more regular,is this called "spotting"?
    2) I do not get discharge but I have been going through puberty for just over 3 years now.I have been getting a lot of back and stomach cramps lately especially this past week.From all these factors could I be about to get my period?Reply ASAP please
    Abigail xxxxxxx

    Hi Abigail, the fact that you have noticed menstrual blood and have experienced stomach and back cramps are signs that this is your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • How long does it usualy take for your periods to stop being irregular?

    Periods can be irregular for up to 2 years.

  • so a month ago this boy on a Facebook page posted his snapchat name and I added him.We've been talking ever since and he's so nice and we both really like each other!Callum makes me so happy:)we Skype and FaceTime all the time so he's clearly real! He only lives at the other side of my town but he isn't at my school bt I know the school he goes to.We've arranged to meet in the holidays at ashopping centre which is public! I'm not scared because I trust him! Is this ok? I just want things to work:) Lucy xx

    Hi Lucy, please talk to your parents or guardians about this.

  • I really should start wearing a bra but there really uncomfy so I don't where them
    But my brests are developing really quick so really I should !!!!

    Why not consider starting with a trainer bra which are soft and uinstructured and will enable you to get used to wearing a bra.

  • Hi Vicki
    its nearing christmas so that means our school starts dance lessons. Partner dance lessons. I have never had a boyfriend or any friends who are boys. How do i get over the awkwardness of asking a boy to dance and dancing with a boy??
    Thank! Love Ellie xxxx

    Hi Ellie, try to relax, be yourself and remember that they're only boys.  Have fun and enjoy.

  • hi vicky my boobs are a size 34b and im only 11 is that normal xx

    This is perfectly normal for you yes.

  • hi vicky i am only just 11 and my boobs are already a size 34b they are masive compared with my friends how could i tone them downxx

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to others.  You should notice that your friends will be catching you up with development pretty soon so try not to worry.

  • Hi
    Today i went to the toilet and i saw some blood in my pants but when i went for a loo there was no blood could this be my period as i dont want to tell my mum if its not? Please answer asap xxx

    It is likely that this is your period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • When do you start your period

    It is normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 12 years old and i've had my first period from august and then it stopped for a month and there was white discharge for about a week and then today i checked there was a few drops of blood, is my period back?

    This is probably your period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • i am on my period every 3 weeks and am quite heavy what period pads should i use for when im at school

    A menstrual cycle can last between 21-34 days so try not to worry.  As your period is quite heavy, you might like to try Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • hi vicci
    im 13 almost 14 ive had my period once over a month ago and havent had it since and ive always had white discharge but yesterday i came to go to the toliet and there was a proper brown colour in my pants and im really worried please awnser i dont know whats wrong me its still brown now thank you im freaking out ;(

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period.  Be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Any tips on how to become more organised and stay organised? thanks x

    I always find that writing a list helps to keep me organised so give it a go and see how you get on.  It is also improtant that you get a good night's sleep and feel ready to tackle the day by being focused on what you're doing.

  • Hi viki I fell so down and low lately and I don't know why I keep getting frustrated over small things and everything annoys me I also find it hard to stay concentrated inn school and it's starting to show in my grades I do lots of clubs I love and I enjoy them when I'm there but I constantly feel like I'm about to cry what Iis wrong with me? Thanks x

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time in a young person's life as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel down at times so try to remember that none of this is your fault.  Try talking to your friends and family about how you're feeling as this will help you.

  • Hi viki so Recently everything annoys me, I get frustrated so easily and I can't stay focused at school or stay organised I do quite a lot of clubs which I love put I don't know why I feel so down and lol and really can't bear the thought of getting up and going to school I jsit want to curl in a ball and cry please help me thanks x

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the emotional and physical changes that are occurring all at once so none of these feelings are your fault.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Is it possible to become pregnant even if you use a condom and the condom doesn't break?

    Condoms are really effective methods of contraception but I believe that the pill is still considered a more reliable method.

  • HI vicki it's not a question about growing up but please answer it :) <3
    Do you like One Direction ??

    Yes I really do.

  • Hi Vicki, I am unsure of my bra size, I am 13 years old and currently wear a size 34b or 32c but the band is too big. My underbust is 26inches and my bust 32 or 34 leaning over. Using the method from thin and curvy I am 26FF but I feel smaller than most girls. My dad's side are DD or E's but my mums are b's. However, my mum had her period at 16 but I had mine at 11/12. Will I take after my dad's side? my shoulders are similar to my mum's but I have shapelier legs etc. Thanks xxxxx ๐Ÿ˜˜

    Your bra size is a 30B but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki, I suffer with anxiety and recently I have been getting really upset because I have a bad fear of dying do you have any advice for all this to stop, it's like all the time I am alone and in a quiet spot I'm always thinking about losing my family and what it's like to not be in the world and what will happen when I die
    Sorry if this is inappropriate
    Sophie xx

    Hi Sophie, your fears are not uncommon amongst teens so please try not to worry.  As young people go through puberty, they begin to question their mortality and it's a good time to remind yourself of all the things you have - a loving family, friends, a safe place to sleep and food to eat.   Try not to let your worries get the better of you and as none of us really know what might happen to us in life, try to keep any negative thoughts to the back of your mind and concentrate on living a fulfilled, happy life.  You might also want to consider talking to your parents as they will be able to reassure you.  You could also start learning some relaxation techniques and might want to consider learning some yoga.

  • I'm thirteen now and get discharge. I haven't gotten my period yet but the discharge is getting heavy. Is this a sign or am I just paranoid?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you have been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki!!
    One question...
    Does your period stick to your pubic hair like discharge does? If so it would be so annoying...? Btw I haven't gotten my period yet!

    It is possible for mentrual blood to dry out and stick to your pubic hair so when the time arises, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • I want to try underwired bras but I heard that's they can stop your breasts from growing. Is this true? I am 13 and a 32B, is that too smal to wear one?

    There is no truth in this.  Underwired bras are perfectly safe to wear so why not try one and see how it feels.

  • Hi vicki
    I hate my school. Everyone in my year is so nasty and too busy trying to be "cool" and "popular" to bother being nice to any one. I only have a few friends but even they can turn nasty sometimes. I try to ignore it but I feel so left out. I told my mum and she said that in a few years time everyone will relise that there are more important thing than being "popular" but I don't want to wait a few years untill this happens cause I hate it! Can you help?

    I wonder if there is a mentor or trusted teacher you can talk to at school - you could suggest that your school does an assembly on the whole question that you raise.  I agree with you in saying that it's easy for people to get caught up in wanting to fit in and be 'popular' when they should take the time to be nice to others as it can make all the difference to someone's life.

  • Hi vicki๐Ÿ˜
    I'm wondering what bra size I am๐Ÿ’
    I wear a 28/30 AA โค๏ธ
    27under and 29 over๐Ÿ˜

    THANKSS๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

    Your bra size is 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until your find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki
    I really love this website.
    Do you have any tips on getting rid of nits? My friend has them really bad.

    Loppy :.:....:.:.:.

    Hi Loppy, a really cheap and effective treatment is to completely saturate your hair in a thick, cheap hair conditioner and then use a nit comb to repeatedly comb through the hair, removing the nits as you go along.  The nits will be unable to attach to the hair strand with the conditioner on it.  It is a good idea to do this consecutively for a few days until the hair is completely nit and lice free.

  • But now they're really noticeable and all of my friends were looking because I used to wear crop tops and now all of a sudden it looks like I have real boobs!!! The 8 aa is too small and the 10 aa is comfortable but it shapes my boobs to make them look like real boobs and about a centimetre bigger than my actual boobs.
    Is this bad or normal?

    If you feel comfortable wearing the 10AA bra, then that is your choice and it shouldn't really matter what anyone else thinks.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm almost 13 and a few days ago I went bra shopping with my mum. I tried on an 8 aa (New Zealand size), but it was too tight, so I tried on a 10 aa and it was comfortable. It makes my boobs look quite a lot bigger, like a centimetre bigger and a rounder shape (I used to wear crop tops, so my boobs were pointy looking and not that noticeable through my shirts, I have quite small boobs) - PART 1

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have รฅ boyfriend who iz my age(14)...i sometimes think he doesn't love me because i asked him to come to my 7th Grade car wash n Entruepreneurs dae...but he said he can't because he is going ice-skating....Thn i asked him just for 5 minutes...Then he said his parents won't allow him...But took it all out on him now i think he wants us to brake up
    Love Samoan
    Thnx Vicki
    :(

    Hi Samoan, I think your boyfriend seems a little disinterested and enjoys doing his own thing more so I think I would seriously think about moving on and forgetting about him.  Why not concentrate on having fun with your friends as relationships at a young age seem to cause trouble.

  • Hey,
    I'm 12 and in middle school. For fitness we have to get changed in the toilets with everyone watching. I get really self conscious because my friends always tell me how skinny I am and I get annoyed because it's their fault they are larger than the average person and they should stop complaining about what size I am.Once some one even tryed to convince me I was anorexic!!!!!! What should I do !?
    Holly๐ŸŽ€

    Hi Holly, all that matters is that you know you're not anorexic, so try to ignore these immature comments. 

  • Hello,
    At my school camp our girls in our class had to share a cabin together. There was one girl ( b ) who has the body of an 7 yr old ( I'm not being mean she said it herself ) and another girl who is like really mean (c). One day when we were getting changed b complained about her body ( cause most girls wear bras) and c was like " you should see holly ( myself ) and I mean I'm not the most developed person there is but it still kinda stung. Any advice on what to say or do ?
    Thanks holly ๐ŸŽ€

    Hi Holly, try not to let this comment bother you as let's face it we're all different and have bodies that develop at different rates to others and it will only be a matter of time before your peers will be catching up with your breast development anyway and just think, some might end up with larger breasts than you so there really is no point in worrying about this.

  • Hello, I am 12 getting 13 in a week and I think I am developing okay. My breats are growing and I also have lots of discharge, sometimes I almost feel that it is my period. I am worried becuase I haven't got my period yet and all of my friends do, even though they don't seem to be developing... Should I worry???

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and as you're alredy releasing discharge, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I had my period and never had white discharge and this month I didn't had my period what I only had was white discharge.
    Will I have my period this month?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal to release discharge throughout your mentrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki I'm a guy yes but I'm 16 and this girl I used to have feelings for has started to tlk to me and said she used to have feelings for me back then and she has a bf but hese a control freak and she has a kid but I think I'm falling for her again help me

    Why not continue chatting to this girl as a friend and see how things go, you never know she may need your support if she finds her relationship with her boyfriend is being challenged.

  • Hi Vicki! My best guy friend just told my crush that I have a crush on him and he comes up to me saying do you have a crush o me?
    And I'm like no and i kept on telling him fake things.
    So... I really need your advice please help me. Thx
    xoxox
    - Meghan

    Hi Meghan, it's a bit mean of your friend to put you on the spot like that but if you really like this other boy, why not be honest and admit it.  You might like to get to know him a little better as a friend before you decide that you like him or not.

  • My mum and I went shopping for bras I tried on a 32a and it was to tight so I tried 34 C and it fit perfectly but I have like teeny boobs. when I measured it said 30a so i'm not sure.. Please help me

    It is fair to say that the size and style of bra varies tremendously from shop to shop which is why we always recommend that you try a bra on before you buy it.

  • Hi vicki
    please answer ASAP!
    today was my 6th period and i am in agony i have tried everything!!
    also while i was on the toilet there was loads of blood in my wee how come im really worried?
    love beth

    Hi Beth, we recommend that you try taking some gentle exercise, use a hot water bottle or have a soak in the bath to soothe your stomach cramps.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • my nipples are cracked and sore to touch. it also hurts when i take off my bra. most pople say it feels nice but its heavy and awkward...

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty caused by the increase in hormones and when this fluid dries and breaks off, it can cause nipples to become cracked and sore.  Ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.  It is normal for your breasts to feel tender with development.

  • Hi, so all of my friends love Zoella. You know she has anxiety? Well they copy her and pretend to have panic attacks, when I know they're putting it on. As I know it's an actual illness I want to say something without causing an argument. Thanks!

    Why not have a chat to your teacher about your concerns and she may be able to have a private word with them, or ask the school nurse to chat to them also.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I THINK I have a crush on 3 boys in my class... :/ help?

    I'm 13 btw

    Thank you,
    BlueBonBon98

    Hi BlueBonBon98, it is perfectly normal for teens to develop a crush on someone due to the increase in activity of hormones during puberty.  The thing is that crushes often fade with time so why not try to get to know these boys a little better as friends to decide if you really do like them and they like you.

  • Hiya,
    I'm 14 years old and I had my first period about 3 months ago and it lasted about a week but the last two months there has been nothing! Is this normal? I started late as well, I am quite concerned. Thankyou x

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi vikki,
    Im 13 and have been having discharge for over 1 year and my boobs are only a size A and all my friends have started there periods, is it normal to have discharge for this long?

    Try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  As you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away and it is also normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.

  • Me and my boyfriend have done sexual things such as fingering but we haven't had sex. I am under 16, is this legal?
    Thank you

    Ps i would really like to know as I am very worried. I hope this isn't inappropriate.

    The Law of Consent states that it against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • To Vicki,
    Do you have an e-mail address I could ask you questions to? Because it is quicker and easier and you dont have to remember codes.
    Kind regards,
    The 11 year old girl,
    From England,
    Called Lauren.

    Hi England, the codes are used to make things easier for you so please submit your questions to Ask Vicki.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I am Lauren and I am 11. A couple of questions:
    โ€ข I have a plastic tape measure that sort off crumples so it wont give me an accurate result. Should I keep this one or get a material one.
    โ€ขThe result I did get was under 66 and above 68. What bra size am I and if you give me the link to the guide and I will be happy to work it out myself if preffered.
    Thanks.

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Tonight everything got too much for me to handle I cried for an hour straight and my life just feels like it's going no where . I'm only 13 but I feel like I'm a failure. The boy I really likes ignoring me my friends are getting into arguments and my best fried moved hours away how do I cope with it all

    Try to remember that puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) leaving them susceptible to stress.  So please understand that feeling like this is not your fault.  Try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film or simply hanging out with your friends and family and telling them how you feel.  Chances are that some of your friends will be experiencing similar feelings too.  Even though your best friend has moved away, you can still Skype or text and for some help with the boy you like, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Vicki on the page that tells you your bra size there is no chart for me to look at.
    Thanks
    Golden-lily

    Hi Golden-Lily, if you would like to get hold of a measuring tape, wrap it all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same but only this time, do it over your bust at the fullest point.  record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate your bra size for you.

  • When is this website next doing another survey? Thanksโ™ปโ™ปโ™ปโ™ปโ™ปโ™ปโ™ปโ™ป

    There is nothing planned just yet but I'm sure we will have more in the future.

  • Hi viki,
    I get really bad period cramps before bed and there very painful which makes it difficult for me to sleep. Have you got any advice for that other than take pain killers because I've done that and it didn't work on me.
    Thanks x

    You could try having a soak in the bath before sleep and using a hot water bottle to help soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is still too bad and painkillers aren't helping, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hello, so i am 14 and have had several periods, but over the past couple of months usually in the early morning i get woken up by this really sore belly pain like just above my 'pubic line' and I go for a wee and not much comes out, but then the tummy pain goes ? I'm so confused why is this? And I know this isnt my periods as they are a different pain, thank you๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ๐ŸŽ

    It sounds as if the discomfort is coming from your bladder as the pain goes once you've urinated.  Mention this to your mum or guardian to see what she thinks and if it persists, a trip to your GP would give you peace of mind.

  • I'm Crushing On A Boy And Don't Know If He Likes Me

    During puberty, boys and girls can easily form attraction to others due to the increase in activity of hormones.  For some help on finding out if this boy likes you too, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I got really bad stomach cramps the night before last about 4 in the morning, and for the past few days I've had a normal amount of discharge for me, but it's brown? I've had discharge for longer than I remember, but never brown. My mum thinks I might start my first period soon, is she right? I'm 13 btw.
    Thanks Vicki :)

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so your mum is right.  Be sure to ask her for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • This might seem rude but I don't know to professional term but how do you know if you've 'popped your cherry in your vagina' does it like make a difference to the way your front bottom looks like sorry if it's rude i just wanna know x

    This slang term implies that someone has lost their virginity and this does not make any difference to the appearance of your vagina.

  • Hi Viki,
    I am 12 and I have had discharge for nearly four years, and still no period. I've had every sign that it coming but yeah.
    And also, I looked between my legs and I can't see a vagina hole. There is a middle hole (which is were my discharge is coming from) but there is a white thing inside so i wont be able to put a tampon in I am really worried that its not normal. Sorry for to many details!
    Thanks๐ŸŽ€

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.  It can easily be stretched back without a girl's knowledge, by participating in sport, riding a bike or occasionally by using a tampon.  For more information, check out my blog on Getting to know your Reproductive System Inside & Out.

  • Hi I am 13 years old and I am due my period next Monday but I am going abroad on holiday where there will be lots of swimming pools and slides ...what to do ?x

    As there really is no alternaticive to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that tampons provide to millions of women all over the world.  Try not to worry and give them a try.  Have a great holiday.

  • This is not a question but i just wanted to say THANK YOU!You have been very helpful:)

    Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, thank you so much for your kind words.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am a very out going fun flirty person, and I like a boy in my year but I don't know if he likes me back, my friends have all offered to ask him out for me but I've said no. Mainly, because he is desperate and if he does say yes I not know whether it is going to be because he's desperate or he likes me back but I don't want to go around asking a lot of wiered random questions.
    Please answer ASAP

    Thanks millieโค๏ธ

    Why not get to know this boy better as a friend first to see if you actually like him enough to be his girlfriend.

  • Vicki thank u 4 answering ma last question I just got 1 thing 2 ask I have been having a crush on this guy 4 a very long tym and he has been doing that 2 da only problem is dat he is taken . I have neva dated before when is the ryt tym 2 start dating as I am not allowed 2 do so in my religion but I want it so BADLY PLZ HELP AGAIN I luv u vicki. Sunshine 552

    Hi Sunshine552, as this boy already has a girlfriend, you should really try to move on and forget about him.  Please talk to your parents/guradians about having a boyfriend in the future as they will want you to respect your religion.  However, there is nothing to stop you being friends with boys.

  • All my friends are growing boobs and things and I'm just staying the same should I be worried?๐Ÿ˜”

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Why do women grow pubic hair under their arms .Ella and Hollie . Thanks x

    Hi Ellie and Hollie, it is believed that pubic hair's purpose is connected to the release of pheromones - a natural checmical secreted by the sweat glands. 

  • my nose gets really red whenever I wear my glasses and it forms a little dent in my nose and really don't like it. I feel like it is messing up my nose but i really really need glasses and i cant ever take them off or I am literally completely blind. what should i do? How to i prevent this bump/dent?

    This is a common problem for people who wear glasses but you could ask your mum or guardian to ask your optician if there is something smoother that won't cause as much of an indentation on your nose.

  • Hi, ive just got brown discharge and about two days ago, and now it has gone and is just white. is this normal? thanks

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy you some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Soo i like my best friend more then a friend but im scared to tell him . But i dont wanna ruin mine and his relationship we got now and im scared to tell him becausevi dont want to be rejected

    Try not to be afraid and tell your friend how you really feel but if he doesn't feel the same about you, try your best to not let it to affect your friendship.

  • Hi Vicki
    I had my 1 st period last month and about 29 days ago. Today I had cramps in my abdomen, sore breasts, very heavy discharge and my younger sisters said I was really cranky. Do you think my next period is coming?
    Any advice would be much appreciated :-)
    Love from Artemis ( age 12)

    Hi Artemis, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Your period should regulate in time.

  • Bra size please: on the top 79cm on the bottom 73cm

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I have a full fringe and i really want to push it back however i have loads of spots on my forehead and I want to get rid of my spots quickly so that I can push my fringe back. What should I do please please answer my question as soon as you can!!!

    Spots are a total pain that affect 90% of teens to some extent or other and a good way of keeping them in check is to stick to a good cleansing routine and try to stick to a healthy diet.  You might also find that medicated creams from the chemist will help but it's best to ask the advice of an assistant to see which are the best sellers and most effective.  Once you start pushing your fringe back, you might also find that the spots will clear up a little too.

  • Dear viki
    I took a test on the internet wether I have anxiety and it said yes hiw should I tell my mum and how should I explain I took the test

    Online testing is never accurate so please don't believe what it says.  Try to remember that puberty is naturally a time when teens are susceptible to stress due to the massive changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest, so try dancing to your favourite music, watching your favourite movies and most importantly of all, talking to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Hi viki,
    ive asked you before for a sample pack and you still haven't sent it to me. I asked for it months ago and nada plz get to me
    coliaa xx

    Hi Coliaa, if it really has been that long, please resubmit your request by following the Contact tab at the bottom of the home page.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I have just turned 14 and I am in year 9. I started having discharge at the start of year 7, and it's been quite heavy for about a year. I've also had really bad cramps for about 3 weeks and I'm getting worried... My mum and sister both started at age 12 but I still haven't! I know I'm a late developer in other aspects of puberty (eg only just got armpit hair) but this is getting strange now. Please help! Thank you :)

    Try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is quite possible for girls to start their periods any time between the ages of 8-18 and as you've already been releasing discharge for quite some time, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • 66cm on nipples 60cm under.

    Thanks,
    Hetalia- Lover

    Hi Hetalia-Lover, your bra size is 28AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • My sister has a boyfriend called Will. Her name is Sarah. I think they are cute together but am jealous that she has a guy and I don't. I kinda jancy this guy called Jordan in year 8 the year above me, pls help? I ma in year 7. Jordan has a brother in the same year as Sarah she in year 9 so maybe he could ask Jordan whther he likes me?
    Love me xxx

    In puberty, it is normal for young girls to form an attraction to someone and this is called a crush.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi vicki, I recently asked a question about a boy, thank you for the reply but you said i need to forget about him. Have you got any tips on this? Thank you x

    You can try to forget about him by keeping busy doing things with your friends and family or by joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, sport or music.

  • hi vicki i noticed lots of girls are desparate to get their periods just cuz their friends got it all my friends have their periods every month and im just sitting there thanking my lucky stars that i dont have their cramps they say im lucky that im still innocent and the scarlet fountain hasnt come! ill get my period when i do and not before to all the other girls: JUST ENJOY LIFE!

    xxx fabby

    Hi Fabyy, thanks for sharing.

  • hi vicki
    this isnt exactly a question but i saw theres a lot of questions about being overweight. when i was 12 i weighed 126lbs (the weight an average 19 yr old would be) and now im 13 i have lost around 3 stone and am now a healthy weight i wanted to self harm because of the bullying i feel more confident and all it took was me adding up my calories and burning them off with exercise its easy if u beleive in yourself! :) keep trying and you will get there! love fabulama

    Hi Fabulama, thank you for sharing your experience with our girls but you know by sticking to a healthy diet and being as active as you can, young girls will naturally maintain a healthy weight.

  • For the past couple of days, my discharge has become really thin, I guess I could say it is like egg yolk... It's completly clear and doesnt have an smell. It's just really heavy and feels like I'm setting myself :/ is this anything to worry about and what could it mean? Thanks!

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrace to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and to tell us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki
    so for about 6 months I have had this weird feeling when sometimes I feel like I'm peeing but I'm not actually and when I look in my underwear it's clear. What is this?!?!??!?!
    Thank you

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Viki
    There is this boy I'm going out with but he is always face timing me but I decline because I dont know why I just don't wanna talk on icy but I'm scared he'll think I don't like him I don't know what to do please answer fast
    From laura

    Hi Laura, why not be honest with him and tell him that you don't like using Face Time but still like him.

  • hi vicki
    theres lots of groups and popularity levels in my school. im in the inbetween group with other people from different primary schools who dont know eachothers but are friends anyway. and i love it we have loads in common somehow this random boy is joining our badass inbetweeners group 4 of us are welcoming him cuz hes really funny, 2 of us are ok with it but one of my friends hates him and he hates her but the way they throw bits of blue tac at eachother is funny.
    luciee

    It would be nice if you could all try to be friends together, so to the friends who aren't too sure about this boy why not suggest that they give him a chance and get to know him a little better.

  • Hey Vicki, ive had discharge for 3 1/2years and everything else for nearly 3 and I still havent had it, im starting to get a bit worried. Im tall and skinny but im a 32b and everybody ik has it. Eventhough I got discharge first. And everybody says you will get it soon but they have been saying that for about 2 1/2 years. Ive been getting modier, spottierand ive been getting stomach cramps so please help
    ps: ik its not great but I wanna become a woman like my friends

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away so please try to be patient as periods are a natural occurrence for every girl.

  • Hiya vicki
    It's livy here
    I wanted to ask you whether my period pain is normal because when I have my period I always feel sick like for 3 days and I have to use a hot water bottle but it only helps for like 10 mins and then the pain continues again
    Is this normal coz i don't think it is thanks
    love livy xxxx

    Hi Livy, people experience period pain very differently and just like you some girls find they are a little nauseous. Try eating small meals or snacks throughout the day of your period to help reduce the feeling of sickness and you may find as you get older these feelings disappear ....they usually do.

  • hi
    im am currently 14 nearly 15 I have not started my period yet and I am around 7.2 stone I am also quite tall and skinny I am just writing because I am quite self contious at the moment because I have relly small boobs my bra size is 30a but I did the bra check thing and I didn't fit into a category I am quite broad but my boobs are just to small what can I do

    There really is nothing you need do, breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and all beautiful in their own way. So my advice is to learn to love the shape you are and remember too that as breasts continue to develop into a girls late teens or early twenties, your shape will most likely change.

  • Vicki,
    I've just turned 12 and am currently wearing a training bra size 30A. I measured myself again and I think I now measure 32B. I have been wearing the training bra for about a year. I only have one friend with bigger boobs than me, but I don't know if I'm "normal". What is the average bra size for a girl of my age? Am I bigger than average?

    Thanks,
    ~worried

    Firstly there is no average size for breast to be no matter what your age, we are all so very different you see. If you feel your breasts may not be fuller have a chat to your mum and ask if she can pop you to your local store to be measured for a new bra.

  • hi
    my pubic hair is thick black and really coarse it sometimes itches andis very embarrassing when I wear my swimming costume as they poke out I have tried shaving but this just made me even more uncomfortable I have also tried trimmimg and using conditioner but it always just grows back worse and more uncomfoertable do you have any tips?

    General grooming is an ongoing committment so just try to get into the habit of keeping your pubic hair trim so it doesn't protrude through your swimsuit.

  • Hi viki
    i had pink on my liner. What does that mean?!?
    Thank you
    ***************************
    #######################

    This was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy you some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm in year 9 and I checked my bmiand it said i am in the 46th percentile does this mean I'm fat. I'm 5'3 and I feel really tall and fat

    The only BMI calculation I would take notice of is one that is done by a Health Care Professional.  The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and by being as active as possible.

  • hi vicki
    i have sort of like a little gang of friends and we are all going through puberty
    but im going through it the mosy! we go swimming and my pubic hair goes through my cozy and my breast are massive and my nipples stick oout and i got my period on the 27th august and i havent had one since thankyouuux

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and we're all made in different shapes and sizes too.  You will notice that your friends will catch up with you very soon so try not to worry.  As for your pubic hair, you can simply trim it back and if you pick a bra with slight padding, your nipples will not protrude as much so you will feel less self-conscious.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vicki
    i just had a quick check of my area yesterday just to make sure everything looked okay! And when i looked i saw there was quite a bit of white stuff around my vagina opening! Ive had discharge before but it hought it was only surpossed to come out then go on to your pants or panty-liner! Why do i have this weird white stuff around that area?
    please answer urgently
    Lily xxx

    It is normal for discharge to stick to your pubic hair and when it dries out, it becomes hard.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • For how long can you wear liners? Can you stay with it the whole day or you have to chage it every 3-5 hours like pads?

    The choice is yours entirely as people tend to change them as and when they need to freshen-up.

  • Slowly I rebuilt myself up again and am now back to the old happy me don't take what your brother says to heart! He doesn't mean it boys and brothers are like that and remember he is a teenager it isn't just in girls that hormones are all over the place but honestly talk to your friends and ignore his little remarks it will get better Im sure xx part 2

    Again, thanks for sharing.

  • Hi so this isn't a question but more advice back to someone else's question she said her brother was really mean to her and said mean things to her calling her horrible things ane I completley understand what it's like! My brother isnthe exact he calls me some really horrible things and swears at me he tells me I ruin everything! I believed him! So I self harmed.... It wasn't just that but it was a main factor! part 1

    Thank you for sharing your experience with us.

  • Hi Vicki!

    is there a meaning behind the lil=lets logo? just wondering :)

    purplepanda

    Hi Purple Panda, our logo is made up of elements that symbolise goddess, earth and moon. For us here at Lil-Lets it is a sign of understanding how special it is to be a woman.

  • PART2
    He was using my mouse on the computer today and i took his hand off it but when i touched it i got butterflies. I always mess up his hair and he twists mine. I like him even more now. You say your brain picks up flirting automatically, is he flirting or am i over looking the situation.

    Bluebutterfly17

    (please dont send me to a blog)

    During puberty, it is normal for teens to form an attraction to someone and this is called a crush.  Crushes occur because hormones are running riot but the sad thing is that crushes often fade with time.  Why not get to know this boy a little better as a friend and you will soon be able to tell if you like each other or not.

  • Hey vicki
    So i told u about "E" a month or so ago, since then i think we've got closer. In I.T today he was bored and he did a baby voice and said my name, eg...Vickiiiii. We laugh loads and he pretends to bite me and annoys/teases me. PART 1 Bluebutterfly17

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicki, Im just really confused. In one of the questions asked that can you put a period calculator and games on the this website. And then you said at the end, Watch this space. ???.
    W..what does that mean...I tried to figure it out for 5 mins but..no. I just do t get that..? Watch what? There was nothing to look at!
    ...watch this space.. mmm....

    It's just an expression which means to keep your eyes peeled as we might be having some news about this in the future.

  • Because I have really heavy discharge I wear panti liners and I have worn them for a year almost everyday but if i forget to
    Wear one now my discharge almost burns and irritates my vagina why?

    I wonder if your skin is sensitive to the soap that your clothes are being washed in?

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am so small for my age, I'm 12 and about 4 foot 10, and there's this guy I really like but he's really tall, and I feel like because I'm small, I won't ever be able to get a boyfriend. Please help, I mean, I've been rejected by boys in the past because I was too small, and it's really hurting my feelings that they aren't even willing to go out with me for my personalty.

    Try to remember that you're still only 12 and have yet to finish developing through puberty.  There really is no rush in getting a boyfriend so why not concentrate on having fun with your friends and family.  You might also like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy as this will help to give your self-confidence a boost.

  • HI Vicki,
    So it's not really puberty related but I've always struggled with really greasy hair and a very sensitive flaky scalp I'm also very head lice prone.Any advice?
    Thanks Millie

    Hi Millie, puberty is naturally a time for teens to experience greasier hair than usual so consider trying a shampoo that has been formulated especially for this hair type.  You could also try using a dry shampoo spray which has powder in it and might help to make your hair less greasy.  Other than this, you could always pop into a hair salon and ask a professional hairdresser what they would recommend you use.

  • I'm 16 and get discharge all the time iv started my period but at the moment my discharge has gone brown does that mean I've come on my period ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to buy some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am 14 and i really really want my period. All my friends have it and i feel like i dont fit in. ive grown really tall, and have gone through puberty etc. I have had discharge for at least 2 years (maybe more) but a few months ago it started to get really heavy. when will i get my period???

    lots of love from stephie xx

    Hi Stephie, as you've been releasing discharge for so long, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • there is this boy at school who I really like. He is popular and talks to nearly every girl in Year 8, except me, BTW I'm in that sort of nice girl group. (He's not a player.)But every now and then I catch him looking at me in class. I know you'll probably say to tell him I like him, but I don't have that much confidence around boys. I am naturally loud person but when I'm around boys all of My confidence goes away. I have liked him for over a year now, so I don't think it is just a simple crush...

    There is only way to find out if likes you too and that is by getting to know him a little better.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I came off the pill 2 months ago after being on it for 4 months. I had a light period when day after I stopped but I haven't had one since. Im so worried, is this normal?

    It is normal for it to take a while for your periods to become regular after taking the pill but as you are concerned, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am getting a lot of discharge on one day and barely any another day. Is that normal...?
    Also..
    Mum said she started her period at 13 and I haven't had my period and I am nearly 14! When will I get it...
    One more question...
    Is it normal to have itchy breasts... It doesn't always happen but I am late developed and my breasts are the slowest to develope.... Today they were SUPER ITCHY... IS that normal....

    Thanks!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and it is normal to notice itchy breasts with development.

  • Hi vicki

    I just wondered im a 36AA do i need to wear a bra?

    I wear crop tops just wondered

    Jasmine :.:.:.:.:

    Hi Jasmine, the choice is entirely yours so if you feel comfortable in crop tops, stick with them for a while. When you feel ready, you might like to try a trainer bra which is soft and is a good way of enabling you to get used to wearing a more structured bra in the future some time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 13 years old, turning 14 in one month and my breasts still haven't grown yet. Nor my nipples, I got my first period last year. Will my boobs never grow? I am very self conscious about my body, girls my age are developed already.

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and our bodies are made in different shapes and sizes.  It is possible to notice breast development up until your early 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Viki,
    So im thirteen and I started going through puberty when I was eleven and lately I've been feeling really quiet and kind of apathetic, I cant get my thoughts organized, I cant focus in school and its really affecting my grades and every time I come into contact with someone (like bumping into someone in the hallway at school) it justs makes my skin crawl. Theres nothing going on in my life that could cause this. Is this just something like hormones or mood swings? Is it normal? Thanks.

    Puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so try to remember that feeling like this is not your fault.  As for your concentration levels, try learning some relaxation techniques and try your best to be organised.  Talk to your parents and teachers at school about your feelings too so they might understand better.  You should also consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy would be a good place to start as it would enable you to get used to meeting new people.

  • Whats my bra size:
    70cm(under your bust)
    75-76ish(on your bust)
    Thank you xx

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hey Vicki... Umm, so I'm 14 soon, it's been over a year since I have gotten discharge in my underwear, a lot of dyes state that it should be at least a year before your period starts! I'm scared is there anything wrong with me? Please answer, the discharge has been getting stinky lately, and I am worried, I don't want to tell my parents because I don't want to worry them either. Please answer
    Sarah

    Hi Sarah, as you've been releasing discharge for a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • How do I survive school with my period!! I got it in the weekend and now I have to go to school !!!! Please help me ASAP
    Thank you so much
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    In time, you will be able to manage your period perfectly so try not to worry and take a look at my blog on Periods & School.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is sent you a question before but you didn't answer it. It wasn't inappropriate so I'm wondering if you can get questions form places other that the uk . Like Australia for instan
    Thanks ims ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

    Yes I answer questions from all over the world. Unless you question was inappropriate it would have been answered, so why not use your unique reference number to locate it.

  • Hey Vicki I'm kinda scared so my friend fosters dogs and we went to meet her new fosters and it's the last day of my period so I had a regular tampon in and we went for 2 hours and before I left I forgot to change it it was in for 10 hours but I went to take a shower so I changed into a pad for the night and the tampon was half full will I get TSS ???? Plz help love annie๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Annie, please try not to worry as you would know if you had TSS by showing symptoms such as sickness, diarrhoea, flu, a sore throat or a rash that looks like sunburn.  If you have any of these, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey Vicki my period is 7 days and after it's super light so I just use liners but the thing is I don't know what to do about swimming lessons bc it's way to light to use the lightest tampon should I be fine or do I have so etching to worry about thanks bye love annie๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Annie, as your period is so light, swim without a tampon.

  • Hello, I am 12 getting 13 in a month and my bra is 32A, i feel this is a really big size for me since all the girls at my school don't have any, I feel really bad sometimes because they seem really big to me. Is my size okay???

    Your bra size is perfectly normal for you so please try not to worry.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and you will find that your peers will be catching you up very soon.

  • I had my period for three months and this month I seen white stuff in my underwear and vagina am I having my period

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry as it might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.  The 'white stuff' you have noticed is discharge which is perfectly normal and it is possible to notice this throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hey Vicki. So I'm new on your website and I like it so far. It makes me realize that there are other girls out there that have the same problems as me. Anyways, I'm 13 and I feel like I'm fat but some people say I'm not. I really want to get skinnier. I know weight doesn't matter and you don't have to look perfect. But I kinda want to look skinnier. Is there something I can do to make me skinnier. I don't want to have to become anorexic.

    The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is by sticking to a diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drinking lots of water and by being as active as possible. 

  • Hey, so like I have a 32C/32D in some bras, but my breast are not full. I'm 13 and 5'10 (I have realized I'm really tall and I hate it). I got my period when I was 10 and my moms breast are 32C (but fuller obviously). Sorry if I'm giving to much information ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜….. But my aunt is like a 34D or E but like I'm just wondering if by any chance you know how big my boobs will get? Like will they stay like this or Nahh?

    Just try to be patient and wait to see what size your breasts will be.

  • To Vicki

    I'm 12 years old and I haven't started my period yet but I get lots of dishcharge and it makes my pants feel really wet (almost like I've peed myself) and I'm too embarrassed to tell my mum and I don't know what to do. What should i do?

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and to let us know that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't really feel embarrassed talking to her about puberty.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well I moved up to Secondary School like 2/3 months ago and there is this boy but I don't even know what to say or how to start a conversation with him and I'm not trying to sound like "he's too dreammy blah blah" I just ACCTUALLY don't know what I would say or when or what topic or what ever! :( can u help me? What is the best time and thing to say to him and who is he with?
    Thanx a lot Vicki xx
    Miss_sunshine๐Ÿ’–โ˜€๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿถ๐Ÿ‘ซ

    For some help with this, please check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hi vikki ever since I first got my period 7 years ago and i would have it for 2-6weeks i have never once had a white vaginal discharge until 2 months ago then when i got my period it was just a drop of blood every hour or so for 3 days. About sometime during the middle i had more vaginal discharge that this time was a little thicker then about 2 weeks after i got my period but it only lasted a day and about 3 days after that i have the discharge again.

    This is all very normal and nothing for you to worry about, periods can often be light and only last a couple of days and discharge is often noticed in between periods.

  • What is the difference between a liner and a towel?

    A pant liner is thinner and smaller than a pad.

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 years old and my 13th birthday is in six months in April. I. Really scared and nervous about getting my period and don't know what to expect. I'm also a really shy person and I don't know how to tell my mum. I hope you can help! Love from savannah xxx

    Hi Savannah, try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need for you to fear them.  Your mum will be able to support you through this special time in your life so try not to feel embarrassed about talking to her.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey vicki,
    Yesterday I got my first bras, originally it was for dancing because we have to wear white leotards but when mum was fitting me into them in the change room she relised that I have 'cupcakes' as she put it so we got 7 bras (im a 10AA). But the thing is mum and i are not exactly close, but she was crying and saying that her 'baby girl' is grown up. Im not sure why she was making a big deal out of it. Any idea? Much appreciated!!!

    The realisation that your daughter is growing up can be quite an emotional experience and I fully understand your mum's reaction so try not to be too hard on her. 

  • i no it was ages ago but, to the girl that fell asleep on her glasses, i wear ROXY glasses with plastic frames and iv fallen asleep on them 100ds of times and i toss and turn in my sleep like crazy, and there pritty tuff cos they are still in 1 pice and BTW dont be too hard on ur self cos every body dose it =)
    love dusty

    Hi Dusty, thank you for sharing.  I think that this is something that has happened to all of us at some point.

  • Hi Vicki again I had my period twice a year ago and since then I haven't had it but I have had discharge every single day In my pants sometimes heavy and sometimes not it always has crusty green stuff in it but I'm not itchy or sore down there and there's hardly a smell to it I'm so confused and acres please help ?xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It is normal for discharge to appear yellow/green when it dries out.

  • Hi sorry if its inapropriate but can u give me some codes to questions amd ur answers as i wanna read some more thnx

    You don't need codes to read my responses to questions.  Just click on Recently Answered Questions.

  • Hi sorry if its inapropriate but how long does it take you to answer a question as ive asked u so many and i seem to get the answer really late and i love ur page thanks x

    Thank you for the support - I do answer questions every day.

  • Hiya x
    How long do cramps last for as ive had to but they didnt last to long and im not on my period and my mum only started her period at age 14 ( im nearly 13) thanks xx

    Everyone is different so it would be difficult to say.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Im 11 today my mum called me into to a private room and gave me the pack of becoming a teen and explained about the period but I think I panicked because I had kinda heard about it and knew and I've read the little booklet and I'm a little confused about which pack the tampons are in and which one the daily ones are in so I thought I'd ask you private questions also I was wonder if you pass a lot of gas during it because I'm having a lot of stomach aches and farting .Holly

    Hi Holly, you will be able to see what is what by looking.  The regular applicator tampons will be in a yellow wrapper and the non-applicator are in a clear wrapping.  The teens day towels are in the blue wrapping and the night towels in purple.  The Becoming a Teen booklet will help you to understand more things about puberty and if you should have any questions, please do come back to me.  It is normal for some girls to notice that they release more gas with their period too.

  • Hello x
    Well i looked in my bra cup and there was this yellow stuff, and today i put a clean bra on and by the night there was the yellow stuff again and it stool to my boob... what is it?x

    It is very normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty and this is generally caused by either the increase in hormones or by wearing tight-fitting clothing.  Be sure to wash the area with warm soapy water  to remove any dried fluid and try to avoid picking it as this will make it sore.

  • Hey Vicki! Im the girl who broke her glasses. So we went to the optitions and I got to choose 2 new glases! I love them but..now I wanna change one of them. The lady there was distracting me! She was like, yeah you look cute on them take those! and then, do you like them, and all that! It was annoying! Why did my mum have to call her over! And then she was like, we havent got all day! And stuff like that! Then I was like OK Ill take this and this! When I got home I was angry. Gettin them on Friday anyway!

    I'm glad to hear that your new glasses are on the way but in future, try not to be pressurised into buying something you're not sure about.  You could always save the pair that you like least to wear at home and the nicer ones for when you're out.

  • Lately I have been feeling really down and bottling up all my emotions, I feel as if I'm depressed. Around my friends at school and around my family im okay I act normal but if someone says the slightest thing that could hurt my feelings it really gets to me and if I did something similar to what they called me for example "stupid" I would have that word running through my head. I cry on my own a lot to is here so,thing wrong with me

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's normal for them to feel susceptible to stress so please try looking at ways of giving your self-confidence a boost.  Joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.  Talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as chances are, many of your friends will be experiencing similar feelings too.

  • Hi Vicki! u helped me a lot b4, thx so much!
    I have another question...
    I go to a mixed secondary school and am quite upset cos a certain boy keeps asking me to send him nude pics. I WILL NOT DO THIS AND HAVE TOLD HIM SO. I ave told my mum but he wont stop.... I have blocked him on everything but every day he touches me sexually. I push him away but we do swimming & he squeezed my boobs! He calls me sexy and I hate it so much! HELP! Pls answer!!!!! Im sorry if inappropriate!

    Thanks,

    Desperate
    xxx

    Hi Desperate, this boy's behaviour is unacceptable and you should tell a teacher about it as a matter of urgency as he needs to be stopped.

  • Hey Vicki, cam you tell me my bra size plz?
    Under: 30 inches
    Fullest: 32 inches
    Thanx KT

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki at school I feel like someone gave me a choice be friends with a or be fre undos with everyone in your class now it's like everyone ignores me cause I'm best friends with a. I keep dreading school because I feel like it's another day to be ignored. One of my other friends said I should stop being best friends with a and see if people stop ignoring me. I don't know what to do cause I feel like I've lost all my friends apart from a couple. Please help me x

    I can only assume that your best friend isn't well liked in your class for some reason and you do risk upsetting her if you say you don't want to be best friends with her any longer.  I think you should try to find out what the root of the problem is and talk to your teacher or a mentor to see if they can help you find a way for you all to be friends together.

  • i noticed i had faint hair on my upper lip &people on utube always recomend waxing, so i tried waxing but everytime i waxed it ws red for @least 3 days & had red dots & always hurt. Recently, i waxed the middle of my two eyebrows &my upper lip &it ws
    red for 2days &then i noticed a group of white spots on the side of my lip &they hurt so much but i left them, thinking they were the usual spots! The next morning i woke up to a massive sore coldsore &everyone could see it &it was VERY painful &ugly. Y?!

    You might like to consider visiting a professional beautician to ask what she would recommend you should use. 

  • Hi vicki,
    Yesturday I shaved my pubic hair down below but I shaved it upwards which my friend told me is the wrong way. It's now really itchy and coming out with spots, I've put cream on it and I don't want to tell my mum what shall I do,
    Rachel xxx

    Hi Rachel, try not to worry as it should calm down after a couple of days.  In future, try to shave in the same direction as the hair growth and it should be okay.

  • Hi, there is this boy that i know and we always tease and flirt with each other. I love spending time with him and i really like him and i thought he liked me back but then he said he had a girlfriend and he showed me a picture and I've just been really upset about it. Thanks.

    I know it's painful but you really should try to move on and forget about him as he already has a girlfriend.

  • Hi vicki my pubic mound is quite big, noticable in leggings and tight tops I was wondering why this is it makes me quite conscious whenever I wear tight things. thanks.
    Cupcake

    Hi Cupcake, I'm sure you have nothing to worry about but as you are feeling a little self-conscious, try wearing loose fitting tops that cover your bottom.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm going shopping soon and think I need a new bra what is my size?: 66,74
    Thank you,
    Belle xxx

    Hi Belle, your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicky, so I've been feeling really depressed lately so I took an online medical deppression test and I was diagnosed by a legit docker with mild to serious cases of different depressions also. May have a mild case of anorexia. And I cannot tell my parents because they basically neglect me.

    Online testing is often inaccurate so please don't give the test you did too much importance but instead, try to keep in mind that puberty is naturally a time when teens are susceptible to stress due to all the psychological and emotional changes that are occurring all at once as serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest.  It is at this time when teens can also develop an irrational fear of gaining weight so please talk to your parents about how you're feeling and if they won't listen, talk to another trusted adult, whether it be someone in your family, a teacher at school or Childline on 0800 1111.  The sooner you ask for help, the sooner you will begin to feel better about things.

  • I have 2 questions:
    1: Is it alright to full-on shave pubic hair? Mine is really starting to annoy me because I feel very self concuss while swimming.
    2: How do I ask my mum to buy tampons because I haven`t started my period yet (I`m 12) but I don`t want to use towels but my mum has never used tampons.
    Thanks xxx

    You can choose to shave your pubic hair if you so wish or simply trim it back if you prefer - the choice is yours.  Lil-Lets now offer a teens Regular non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use which has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.  For some help with Talking to Mum & Dad, check out my blog link.

  • when's a safe time during your menstral cycle to have sex (with or without contraceptives)?

    There is no such thing as a definite safe time to have sex as women through the ages have always been caught out and become pregnant when they haven't wanted to.  When you are in a mutually respectful, loving relationship and are over the age of 16 (as the Law of Consent states) it would be advisable to do things the right way and use contraceptives before engaging in a physical relationship.

  • Part 2. Sometimes I get moods wings and my parents just just don't understand that I feel as though no one cares for me. Whenever I try to bringit up I just get screamed at for not appreciating anything and I get grounded for weeks. My parents act as though my brothers ar angels even though they are not. Also sometimes my dad beats me for small things. Also I think I may be depressed and I barely eat anything at all.

    As you have found that talking to your parents doesn't work, please write a letter explaining exactly how you feel.  Puberty is already a time when teens feel susceptible to stress due to all the emotional and psychological changes they're undergoing so please try writing a letter to get yourself heard and if things don't improve between you all, please call Childline on 0800 1111 for some confidential help and support.   

  • Hi Vicky! Okay, so I'm a middle child of two brothers and I feel as though I don't get any attention. My brothers they get all the attention and sometimes I just want a little attention. My parents seem too only care about them and not me. Because I don't get any attention I just stay in my room and then I get shouted at by my parents because I don't care about anything besides myself. Part 1

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki
    I got my period last night for first time I am 15. It wasn't that heavy but since this afternoon it hasn't came back again is this ok?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki! โ˜บ
    My hair gets quite greasy quickly! I wash my hair in the shower with TRESemme luxurious moisture shampoo&conditioner every 2 days. But on the 2nd day it gets so greasy! What can you recommend for me to use or do?
    Thank you so much! Beth โ˜บ

    Hi Beth, it is normal to notice that your hair is more greasy than before and this is all because of puberty.  You might like to try using a shampoo and conditioner that has been formulated especially for greasy hair.

  • I feel so low can you help?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physcial and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling.

  • It's my 15th birthday next month and I'm really stuck for ideas on what to do with my friends? I live in chichester, On the south coast so london/brighton/portsmouth/southampton are in easy reach, do you have any ideas? Elisha :) x

    Hi Elisha, how lucky are you to live in such a lovely part of the country and it seems as if you have so much choice as you're in easy reach of all these wonderful places.  I think you should discuss your options with your parents/guradians as finances will dictate what you will be able to afford to do.  The London Dungeons are an absolute scream but you should really discuss this first as you would have to travel there too.  Hope you have fun in whatever you do.

  • Hey Vicki, I read on the internet you need to be 7-8 stone to start your period is this true? Xxx

    No this is a myth.

  • What shampoo and conditioner would you recommend for someone with long dry/normal hair? Thanks from Georgia xx

    Hi Georgia, try using a shampoo that has been expecially formulated for dry hair and see how you get on.

  • Hi Vicki, money's really really tight at home at the moment as both my parents have been made redundant and are struggling to look for new jobs. We had to be evacuated from our last house because we couldn't keep up with the rent anyway I started my period last month and it was really heavy and the pads my mum buys are the cheapest in the store and not very absorbant so I keep ruining my pants :( I asked her to buy some more absorbant ones but my mum said that they're too expensive... What shall I do? Xx

    I'm so sorry to hear that your parents have lost their jobs and really hope that something turns up soon.  You might like to ask your mum if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample from us which might help a little and it's always a good idea to look out for when our pads are on offer.

  • Hi Vicky,
    Im a size 28a bra size but I don't know where to get those sizes from. Do you know where I could get them from.
    Thanks :)

    Marks & Spencer, La Senza, New Look or any department store will usually have a wide range of styles and sizes for you to try.

  • Hi vicki, one of my breast is hurting really bad and when i push down theres a seperate lump by my nipple and i know its not when my breast are sore and a sign of growing because i know how that feels and this is a different pain in only one breast im 12 and i have my period...Could this be the sign of breast cancer๐Ÿ˜”help!

    Please try not to worry as the small raised lump that sits behind your nipple is a breast bud which comprises of muscle, tissue, fat and milk glands.  It is also normal to notice development in only one breast and to feel tenderness in that breast too.

  • When something says you need to drink more water, does it mean just water or can I be squash and other drinks?
    Laura 13

    Hi Laura, water on its own would be better for you as there are usually sugars in squash but it is still good to be well hydrated.

  • Hey
    How do you ask someone out?
    Char xx

    Hi Char, for more help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • I met this guy online(and i know he's real because he has facebook and we've talked on the phone) and we're good friends. I'm 10 and he's 12. I live in London and he lives in Doncaster. We really want to meet, but I told him that was nearly impossible. I sort of like him and I'm wondering if this is bad...
    Also, my discharge is heavy, and on two pairs of my knickers there is still a stain of discharge, even though my mum washed it in the washing machine... Is this normal?xxx

    Firstly, yes sometimes discharge can stain underwear and you may find pant liners are a great way of keeping this area clean and stain free. Secondly and most importantly, just because you speak to someone on Facebook does not necessarily mean they are who they say you are. And I urge you to make no plans to see this boy, share any pictures with this boy or get into any conversations of a sexual nature or that make you feel uncomfortable with this boy. My advice is to also speak to your parents and let them view this boy’s Facebook page.

  • Hey Vicky
    I'm 15 and had my first kiss today but I did not want a kiss for him and I feel really weird and a bit sick?? Thanks xxx

    If you didn't feel ready to kiss this boy, you should have stopped him.  Try to remember that you should never feel pressurised to do something, so always stay true to yourself - if this boy doesn't respect your wishes, move on and forget about him.

  • Hi Vicky. I am 13 years old and I have had brown discharge in my undies twice between a few months. I get discharge everyday and then suddenly it goes brown for 2-3 days. I get grumpy etc and I think it is my period. But it's still brown ! Can I use tampons when my period is brown ?

    Try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  It is still a period and you will be able to use tampons normally.

  • My period is 5 days late and it would be my 4 period I'm I going to miss it ?!

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Can you just give me some general advice on Periods and Puberty please Picky. Love from Alisha. W

    Hi Alisha, please take a look at all of my blogs that have been posted on the website as you should be able to find the answers to all of your questions.  If you have any specific questions, please come back to me on Ask Vicki.

  • It doesn't help that about 6 weeks ago i self harmed so and i don't know what to do my mum always apologize after having a real good Moan about my dad to me I really can't cope with it all I'm only 13 I feel like it's all my fault my parents are spliting up! Do you have any idea how I can make my mum feel better and cheer her up? Thanks x dolphin4

    Hi Dolphin4, please don't think that you're in any way to blame for your parents' splitting up.  This is a difficult time for you all as a family and I think the best way of working through it is by talking.  Please try to sit down with your mum and tell her how you feel.  Self-harming is evidence of how bad you've been feeling and you need to talk to someone about it - if not your mum then call Mindline on 0300 1233393 as they will be able to offer you confidential help and support.  However, talking to your mum would be better and might help her too.  Things will get better and always remember that your parents love you.

  • Hi Viki Imy parents are spliting up and my dad was meant to move out 7/8 weeks ago so its being prolonged and my mum is really getting frustrated and keeps taking it out in me and my older brother but mostly me because I'm more mature and listen to her without annoying her like my brother does .( part 1 dolphin4)

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki its
    How do u know that u are abou to start....ps I have started but
    I have had pains ...stabing pain down there and cramps and mooods
    And ya plz tell me if u can ..thx vikiโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™กโ™กโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ก

    As you've already started your period, you should make a note of the first day of your last period and then count on how many days it is until your next as this will give you an idea of how long your menstrual cycle is going to be.  Some girls notice that they get stomach cramps, headaches, nausea etc.. or they might notice that their discharge becomes thicker.  Stomach cramps can be eased by doing some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or by having a soak in the bath.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • About a year ago I found a little bit of blood in my pants so I knew it was my period ,and then I had it once more but it was a bigger one this time ever since that second one I haven't had my period again I just get discharge in my pants everyday with a little bit or a lot of green stuff in it ,it also seems crusty ,I have developed hair down there and I have some spots on my face generally around my nose I have mood swings and feel vulnerably emotional ,what's going on ? btw I'm 12

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  All the symptoms you have noticed are a normal part of puberty so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki!
    (This isn't about periods/becoming a teen btw!)
    I think my maths teacher hates me, everyone in my class says it too!
    Like they talk about something irrelevent then I join in the conversation and it's me that gets yelled at!
    Im quite a slow person at solving things and she knows so but she still gives me a hard time!
    Now Im scared to even talk in maths class!
    How can I solve this?

    From Teenie! :) xoxo

    Hi Tweenie, if you think that you're being singled out, please ask your mum or guardian to call the teacher as this might be all that is needed to point this out to her.

  • I just feel like i get no pleasure out of anything and feel like sitting in the house all the time, never feel like going out really. I feel down a lot of the time. I don't even feel like going to see my boyfriend but I dont mind if he visits me. And talking to people never helps me. :( What should I do?

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for young girls and boys when they struggle to come to terms with all the emotional and physical changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving them susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watching your favourite movies and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Hi! Do you have to change your pad after 8 hours if it has not got much blood in it? Like just a tiny bit?
    thankssss

    As your period is so light, why not consider using pant liners instead as you can change them as often or as little as you like.

  • xxx I leaked a tiny bit onto my jeans because i couldn't change my pad. I wore the pad for about 6 hours and was lying in a weird position. I don't usually leak so is this a one off thing i shouldn't worry about because i usually change my pads about every 3-4 hours.

    Accidents do happen and as you said yourself, you wore your towel for longer than the 3-4 hours recommended.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 years old and I havent started my period. But I used to get lots of white stuff when I went to the toilet, but now I get lots of brown stuff and I'm really confused on what is happening to me. X

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey!!! There is this boy in my class- (I will call him Alex) and I have to sit next to him in maths. He starts making noises and vibrates on his chair. I know what he is doing and I told him to stop. But he didnt. What should I do coz it is so weird and I can't stop him.
    From
    Slug

    Hi Slug, if you find Alex's behaviour affects your concentration, talk to your teacher about it.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My first term at my secondary school is almost over and reports will be handed out. Even though I've always been a good girl in school, I'm worried I won't get good results. HELP!
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, please try not to worry as I'm sure you have nothing to worry about.  Try to remember that all you can ever do is your best.

  • Hi Vicki

    Is it true if you always have a full fringe means you have a big forehead? And is true people who have a full fringe are really lucky because some people can't ave full fringe because their forehead are oily?

    Thanks

    Not necessarily as some people might choose to have a full fringe simply because it suits them.

  • Hi there
    I was woundering where abouts are your stomach cramps surposed to happen just so i know for the future?
    Luv lils xx

    Hi Lils, it is normal to notice stomach cramps in your lower abdomen, back and sometimes in the tops of your thighs.

  • Hey Vicki.
    I am 11 and I have a boyfriend. Sometimes people say to me "You are to young to have a boyfriend!" But we love eachother so much and me and him(his name is Marco) really want to kiss but at school there is nowhere to do that privately! My question is:
    Am I to young to have a really close boyfriend and where do you think me and Marco should have our first kiss? (At school)
    Thanks for your time
    From Lillie Mai๐Ÿ’•xxx

    Hi Lillie-Mae, I think it's very easy to form a deep attraction to someone during puberty as hormones are running riot and this is called a crush but as you are only 11, you should consider getting to know Marco better as a friend as crushes often fade in time.

  • Hi i was woundering are periods surposed to be like blood that you see when you for example cut your self or is period blood darker and more thick etc... Also amother question are periods surpossed to have like biggish lumps in them?
    Please reply
    Lily xx

    Hi Lily, menstrual blood can vary and appear in colours of red, brown or sometimes it can be black.  Small clots are also normal and are nothing to worry about as they are simply a part of the uterine wall.

  • I'm really self-conscious as I think I am fat I'm 11 I don't weigh that much but I feel like I do . Every time I eat (which isn't very often ) I feel bad because I'v eaten . I eat one meal evry 4-5 days is that healthly . Thanks
    TIA SO I KNOW ITS MINE ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

    Hi Tia, puberty can be a most demanding and difficult time in a young girl's life due to all the emotional and psychological changes occurring and it's so easy for them to develop a poor self-image and an irrational fear of gaining weight which can lead to serious harm to your body. By starving yourself of food, you are putting your body's development at serious risk.  Please talk to your parents/guardians as a visit to your GP needs to be arranged as a matter of urgency. 

  • Hi vicki
    I have bought alot of products for periods etc.. Even things i dont need at the moment is that strange? Im 12 and ive only been getting discharge for about 1-2 months! So is it strange for me to be buying all these products when i dont even need them and i probably wont need them for a while?
    Luv lils xxx

    Hi Lils, I think it's always good to be prepared and you might like to consider asking your mum or guardian for a Lil-Lets Starter Pack as it not only offers a sample of the goods from our teens range, you will also find a Becoming a Teen booklet which will help to guide you through puberty.

  • Hi vicki! So I saw this boy on Facebook post his snapchat and I added him. We've been talking for ages now and we both really like each other, he is a year older than me and only lives at the other side of my town. We Skype all the time so he's obviously real! We've arranged to meet at a local shopping centre and I'm so excited because he is so nice! I wanted to go somewhere public just in case but I trust him! Is this okay?

    I  cannot stress enough how important it is that you speak to your parents about your chats to this boy, it really does pay to be careful and ensure your safety is number one priority. Why not even invite him round to yours for a  meal so your parents can meet him too.

  • can tampons leak?

    If a tampon is worn for too long or an absorbency used isn't right for your flow, there is always a possibility that you could leak.  It often takes a little time to manage your period effectively by wearing the right absorbency sanitary protection.  As an extra source of protection, you might like to also use a pant liner on your heavier days.

  • Hi vicki
    I asked this before but no answer ๐Ÿ˜ญ
    My breasts seem massive compared to my friends i am a 36AA and most of them are flast chested i am 11 btw and i dont want to wear my bra so i wear crop tops which most of the girls wear (please dont mention my mum)

    Jasmine .:.:.:.:.:

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and you will find that many of your classmates will be catching up with you very soon and maybe developing larger breasts than you so try not to worry.  If you feel more comfortable wearing a crop top then stick with it.

  • Dear vicki. I am so worried because I was masturbating and I felt so guilty but then it felt so good now I can't stop thinking about sex plz plz answer I am only 12 years old plz vicki sorry if this is deemed inappropriate but plz vicki ANSWER ASAP x0x0x0x0x sunshine 552. Put this in da sex and sexual eelings collumn z thankz

    Hi Sunshine 552, during puberty, there is a massive increase in the activity of sex hormones causing teens to think about sex more than they ever did before and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Hi vicki

    Is it normal to feel sort of annoyed and rubbish after coming back from a holiday? I always feel I but like this but it's a lot worse this time. Will I feel better in a few days?

    I think we all experience the post holiday blues to some extent but allow yourself some time to get back in the swing of things and you will be fine.  You will always have your next holiday to look forward to.

  • Hi vicki im a 10yo girl and I get all of the emotional side of puberty but my body hasnt changed af all is there something wrong with me from alexis

    Hi Alexis, try to be patient and you will notice that your body will undergo changes when it's ready.  You're still only 10 so you have pletny of time.

  • hello, I have recently started my period but its not what I thought it comes out thick black stuff. why is this? I used to and still do skip lunch does affect it please answer m question. thank you :)

    It is normal for menstrual blood to appear black or brown and this is nothing to worry about as it's simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so please try not to worry as it can be like this for up to 2 years.  Please be sure to eat something at lunch - you're a growing girl and your body needs nourishment so consider eating healthy options of fresh vegetables and fruit.

  • hi Vicki
    recently I've been getting a larger flow of discharge I have not yet started my period and iv e been getting cramps all the time I think this means I'm going to start my period soon is there anything I can do to num the pain of the cramps?

    Many women and girls notice that their discharge increases in amount before their period arrives but you would normally have been releasing it for between 6-12 months.  As for stomach cramps, exercise is great but you will also find that a hot water bottle or a soak in the bath will help to soothe your discomfort.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi vicki so like 1 month ago i got a brown giant stain i my underwear, and i was SO exited this was my period. But i never got anymore the day after, or then next e.t.c do you think this was my period?
    Zoe

    Hi Zoe, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period nso be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have one question that I've been wondering about. When you masturbate and the white fluid (natural lubrication) comes out what is the scientific name for it because it is different to discharge?
    Thanks xx
    I โค๏ธ this website !

    It is generally referred to as vaginal lubricant.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I would love an app for this site with a period calculator, games and Ask Vicki on it !!!!
    btw I love this site !
    Thanks xxx

    This is something the team and I have discussed and we really hope to have some good news soon.  Watch this space.

  • Hi, I have loads of body hair! Like literally it is everywhere and the fact it's on my tummy is really annoying me. Shaving it all takes forever and it grows back really quickly is there anything else I can try?

    It is normal to develop hair all over our bodies but as you're feeling a little self-conscious, ask your mum or guardian what she thinks you should do.

  • Hey, i am 13, i havent started my period but i have had a year of discharge
    Anyway i am about 4"11 and i only weigh 5.1 stone. Is that bad ? My arms are sooo skinny my spine sticks out and my body has no figure just straigt down. Byeee

    As you've been releasing discharge for a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and our bodies are made in different shapes and sizes which makes us who we are.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started my period in August of this year, and it happened for 2 days then it stopped. In September I didn't get it. I knew I would probably be irregular, so I wasn't expecting it that month. It's October now and I', a week late and I still haven't gotten it yet. I was wondering if there was anything wrong with me or not. Thanks.
    Love, CeeCee

    Hi CeeCee, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki
    How do I know if I have a crush on someone?
    I'm really confused

    For more information on crushes, please check out my blog link on Your First Love.

  • How can you get free samples because I can't find the link on the home page

  • Hi
    Basically I get really home sick and this year we have to go skiing or go to North wales but you stay threre for a week I cry when I am bord I have my friends but they have grown closer to gether and my other firend is going skiing.have you got any thing to help me with?โ™ก

    Thank u

    As you only get homesick when you're bored, try your best to stay busy.  You can also call home, text or Skype which will make you feel better in seeing that everything at home is just as you left it and just think, a week goes by so quickly - you will be home before you know it.  Try to relax and enjoy yourself.

  • I'm 14 and have had discharge for about a year, I've been expecting my period for a while, and about once a month the discharge picks up. I was a late bloomer with growing, but I've grown a ton this year. I get cramps the same time my mom and sister do, and I have a lot of pubic hair. I'm really active but I feel like I'm really late especially because my mom started hers when she was 13 and same with my sister... I'm eager to start mine, but I'm worried there is something wrong!

    Try not to worry as due to the fact that you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I got brown discharge for 3 days heavy and then a little bit today. I fit an 28aa bra and have pubic hair down there and a little under my arms. My hips have grown. I've been quite moody lately and I have had painful cramps . I'm just wondering is this my period?
    Thx from holly
    P.s I'm twelve and three months . My mum got hers when she was twelve

    Hi Holly, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I am a tad confused... I'm 13, 14 soon and I started my period Friday.. When I went to the toilet I found like a circle of brown stuff, so I put a pad on and went to bed the next morning my pad was full of blood. ( bit unexpected) is this normal? Should it be that heavy x

    Congratulations on starting your period and please try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice a heavy release of menstrual blood.

  • I have been watching a lot of porn lately and can't stop plz vicky u r all I've got left thank you so much xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx cxxxxxxxx so I kno it's mine haha

    Love Elle

    Hi Ellie, it is normal to be curious about sex during puberty as hormones are running riot causing you to experience more feelings of a sexual nature but please use caution whilst watching pornography as it can give you a distorted view of what a responsible, loving sexual relationship should be like.  Try to focus on the things that mean the most to us in life such as family, friends and school.

  • Hi,
    So there is this dood ( r ) he is gay and hangs out with all the girls at school.
    He is really nice but he thinks everything i say is rude and I'm mean. He is also very up about himself and is a drama queen. He can also do things like and high kick better then me when it a girl thing to do.
    I feel bad saying this but sometimes I wish he acted like a proper BOY
    From ๐Ÿ˜ก

    Something we all have to accept in life and that is that we're all different to each other and by trying to be tolerant of these differences, we will all get along better.  So why not try your best to be nice to this boy and get to know him a little better.

  • Dear Vicki
    I am 14
    I started my period last month and this month i have had sore breasts, and some stomach pains, i had a drop of blood in my pants but have had nothing else since and that was a week ago, please help, i have not had sex!
    Rosa

    Hi Rosa. try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a blance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • hi vicki my names is arzoo
    i want to tell you something that i have been worred about.
    this is what happend:
    my periods stopped for like a month and then when i had a heart burn stopping tablet because i get heart burn my periods started straight away. is this ormal by the way im 13.thanks vicki bye!

    Hi Arzoo, I seriously doubt that a heartburn tablet would affect your period so please try not to worry.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I have never used a tampon before and was thinking about trying it to see if I wanna carry on using them or if they're not for me but you never know unless you try right? Anyway I know completely nothing about them like putting them in and taking them out and was wondering if you could go through the steps and any if you have any tips x

    You might like to consider trying Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection enjoyed by millions of women all over the world.  For some help on How to use a non-applicator tampon, click on the video link.

  • I have cellulite on my thighs and dimples on my bum but I'm not fat how the hell do I get it off and what if I put on weight hows it going to look then? Is there any advice you can please give me? Thanks.

    Cellulite is very common and is believed to be due to factors like hormones, genetics and diet.  A diet that is filled with too many carbohydrates and salt and not enough fibre can often cause cellulite to form as will sitting around so please try your best to stick to a healthy balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and try to be as active as possible.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My pubic hair 'down there' is quite frizzy and long. No one other than me ever sees down there but I feel uncomfortable with the amount of hair that is there. Is there any way I can remove it without pain? Ive shaved there befor but where the hair was it bled like on each strand if you know what I mean? Hope you can help,

    Thanks โ™ฅ

    Pubic hair is naturally quite coarse and frizzy and a simple way of keeping it under control is to simply trim it back.  You could place a wide toothed comb flat to your skin and then trim the pubic hair that pokes over the comb with scissors.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and I know you have answered loads of questions about discharge but I jusst wanted to be clear. I have had my period for about a year and a bit now and I get white mucus discharge constantly and like varies in amounts and just wanted to be sure that it was natural because this has always been a major worry xx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection so please try not to worry as it is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Im only 11 and I started my period in may (so I have had 6 periods) I really want to use tampons because towels are to much fuss especially when in school!Should I use tampons or not? I havent told my mam that I want to because of my age :(

    Why not have a chat with your mum and suggest that you try Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.

  • Does it mean there's something wrong if you hurt more in your back than belly on your period?

    No not at all, period cramps can be noticed both in the tummy or back area and this is simply your body's way of reacting to the contracting of your reproductive organs and nothing more.

  • Would you say primark underwear is ok, like the knickers that are sold loose?

    Yes I would say these are fine to purchase and you can often find me in their underwear section too.

  • Hi just wondering if u work at weekends on this site so i know what days i can ask questions

    It's Sunday night and X Factor results is on the TV, so in answer to your question; I answer questions 7 days a week and at any time.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 12 years old and 3 months . I have been getting brown discharge ( quite a lot of it ) for 3 days. I told my mum and she said I started my period. But now she doesn't no because she bought it was supposed to go red after 1 day. I'm so confused do I have my period or not? Should I be prepared?!

    Thx so much anon

    Try not to worry as it is normal for mentsrual blood to appear brown too.

  • Hello, my name is veronica and im really nervous because I didn't start my period yet, and im 13 years old, is that normal??

    Hi Veronica, try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Basically I have been having discharge for a year and a half now, I have had
    Such heavy discharge and I keep getting proper painful aches in the lower bit of my stomach. These pains usually last up to and hour or more. I haven't started my period and I am getting very worried as all of this has been happening together for about 7 or 8 months. What do I do? I'm fourteen and I am nearly in tears as it's so painful please give me
    Advice
    Ella x

    Hi Ella, as your pains are quite intense, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while and experiencing stomach cramps, there is a good chance that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki,

    my whole period this month was brown. It didn't turn red at all. It also just ended. Why is this??

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering if because the girls in my family have quite a large bust if I might when I'm older, my mum is an f cup and other girls in my family all have big boobs and a cup size close to F does this mean I am likely to aswell? Also at the moment I am a 28C but it is almost impossible to find my size anywhere, do you know any stores that sell bras in this size but not for like ยฃ50
    Thank you x

    You will simply have to wait and see if your breasts are going to be as big as the other girls in your family and as you're finding it difficulty buying bras in your present size, have a look online.

  • hey vicki, so these past couple of days Ive had a bit of a fall out with my friend so basically she told me who she liked then I told this girl and now she's so annoyed at me๐Ÿ˜ž I realised what I did and if was so stupid๐Ÿ˜ž she's getting all her friends envolved with it and I've apologised to her heaps and im so sad๐Ÿ˜ž

    Hopefully, this will all calm down in time and as you've already apologised it should all be forgotten.  If she continues to make things difficult for you, please talk to a teacher or mentor at school so the problem can be resolved.

  • how many pads can you use (at a time)

    One pad should provide you with sufficient protection but at your heaviest times, it is okay to double up if you wish.  You might like to try Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi ,
    Im a 17 year old girl . I have had my period this month already for like 9 days and normally I have it for 4/5 days and now its a week later and apparently im having brown discharge is it nrmal to have it after a week or something?

    It is normal to notice irregular periods in the early stages of the menstrual cycle as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and then reach a balance for your regular period.  However, should your period last for too much longer and you begin to feel more tired than normal, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Lately my period has been really heavy and the lil-lets day pads have not been doing the job e.g it has been staining my school skirt. what pads would recommend.Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, if your periods are very heavy you may want to consider moving up to our Lil-lets Freshlock pads in normal, long and night. They are super absorbent and super comfortable too. They work for me and I have very heavy periods.

  • at school we are doing trampling in PE. can I still do trampling when i am on my period

    Yes of course, in fact exercise is very beneficial when on your periods at easing any period pain you may have.

  • Hi vickey
    I was wondering about periods and now tht I've started weather I could try out some lil lets towels and tampons Please?
    Thank you x

    Yes of course, just complete the Contact tab at the bottom of the page and I will send you a pack out.

  • Hi Vicki
    I think i have started my periods but i haven't had any cramps or pains and it comes out as a red sticky discharge is this normal???
    Charlotte x

    Hi Charlotte, not everyone experiences tummy cramps and this does sound very much like  your first period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • i really like 2 guys and they go to my school but they would like never go out with me coz they're in the yr above and like really popular. how can i get them to notice that i even exist? ps. they are both quite good friends

    Smile when you see them and say Hi, you will soon be able to see if they like you, if they say Hi back.

  • Hello vicki,im started puberty (down there) its almost done i think there long and thick, i have to shave under my arms all the time im size c in bra's and i got gooey stuff coming frim my vagina:( please help?

    This gooey stuff is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. You can find out more about discharge by clicking on the Puberty tab.

  • Hello Vicki, I have been feeling quite odd lately, I am usually loud and hyper but I just haven't been feeling up to it lately. Nothing has happened or anything, everything is fine and normal but I just don't understand why I feel like this. From Hannah

    Hi Hannah, this is puberty which can very often change the way we feel and act and you can find out more about puberty by reading the Puberty section on our website.

  • hi my period has been iregular ever since i started at bout 13 i am now 16 and i am 18 days late again why does this keep happening and also wen i start i am heavy to the point i nearly end up crying .

    Periods can often be irregular throughout a girls teen years so please try not to worry, your body is still working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi there,
    This week i havnt be acting my normal self acording to my family i have been acting quite and unconfident and i have no idea why im acting like this... Any ideas?
    Love lily xxx

    Hi Lily, this could be puberty having an effect on your confidence and my advice is to carry on listening and taking support from your family as they will be able to help you manage these feelings as you continue your journey to becoming a young adult.

  • Hey Vicki. I'm in year 8 and its the cancer jabs soon. I read on the leaflet you get 3 throughout year 8,is that true? Thanks, fran

    Hi Fran, since September most schools only deliver 2 vaccinations and you can find out more about this subject by reading my blog on the HPV vaccination.

  • Hey! I'm 13 and I keep having vaginal discharges and I haven't started my periods so what are the discharges for?

    The discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and a great sign that your period is not too far away.

  • I'm 13 and only just started my period and I'm only just fitting into a 34a bra, my mum is a 34d and both sides of my mum and dad's family all have big boobs and I don't know if you take after this? I feel really left out because all my friends are b's and some almost c's and I really want mine to grow but I think they will be small for ages, will they?

    Breasts can grow in spurts and can continue to grow until your late teens or early twenties, so please be patient and see what happens in the future.

  • Hi vicki, I have had a thick-ish brown discharge for three days and I'm 13 but not had my first period yet. I've told my mum so I'm wearing period pads but we aren't 100% sure it is my period because it's not in a proper blood form it's just basically discharge but brown and when I whipe myself after using the toilet there is not blood on the toilet paper just little bits of what I can only call brown discharge, it's not red and doesn't even seem like blood? Is this my period??

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and not red, so this could very well be your first period.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Umm... I'm 12 1/2 and I've had pubic hair since I was 9, I'm 32aa bra and I have armpit hair since I was 11. But I don't know if I've had my first period because I've noticed discharge for about 4 months. But about a week ago I had one brown/red spot on the edge of my pants and the other day, I had about 5 spots of brown/red, they were really spread out and far away from each other. Was this my first period? I still have alot discharge every time I wipe and in my pants!

    This could be your period, so my advice is to keep some pads and liners in your school or sports bag from now on, in preparation for your next period.

  • my boobs are tingly and i don't know why can you help

    Breasts can often be tender, tingly or sore during development and this is very normal and part of their growing phase.

  • Vicky, I have definitely noticed about my breast developing and getting bigger I do have a few bras but my mom can't understand. She gets me small ones that are too tight for me. The thing is that my family is really strict, in Pakistan where my mum was a child everything puberty was a secret. So I can't really talk to her about getting a bigger bra and I know she only get me small ones because she doesn't want them to look big to attract boys I really need help to talk to my mom please may you help .

    Believe it or not but wearing a bra that is too small can very often make your breasts look bigger than they are as the breast often bulges out. Why not ask if you can have a sports bra next time you get measured, this type of bra keeps the breasts supported without making them look fuller.

  • Hey Vicky,
    Basically recently I've been have lot of the brown stuff in my pants and when I wipe my vagina after going for a wee. I've heared that this could be my very first period? Is it? I think I should tell my mum but what if it's just poo and then that would be SO embarrassing! Please help! ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

    If you notice this fluid over a few days it is most likely your period and it would be a great idea to chat to your mum about this.

  • can you have sex if you haven't started your period

    sorry if this is inappropriate

    If you are 16 or over yes, but it should be noted that there may still be a slim chance that you could become pregnant.

  • Hi viki
    I got my period for the first time on the first Thursday of September 2014 and it's now the 19th of October 2014 and I've had nothing since (not even I little bit of red disgarge!) is there something wrong with me?
    Plz answer ASAP!
    Thanks!!!๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    No not at all, periods often have long gaps between each one for the first couple of years so this is all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm completely out of clothes that fit me, because I'm growing quite quickly. I have no money of my own, because I'm only 14, and when I ask my parents for some new clothes, they say they can't afford it. But my mum seems to always be getting new clothes and tattoos, and my dad buys a new phone pretty much once every 3 months. Does this mean they're neglecting me?
    Lucy x

    Hi Lucy, no this means they have not quite understood how much you have grown. Why not ask if you can have a couple of items each much, they can be purchased quite cheaply from places like Primark and New Look which is great as you are growing so quickly.

  • My favourite teacher is male, and everyone in my class thinks I have a huge crush on him, but I don't. I don't understand why people think I have a crush on him? Please help.

    I would ignore these silly comments and continue being friends with your teacher is my advice.

  • In the last few day I have had an sore sometimes ichey front bum!!!it is rely sore sometimes and it looks rely red anda bit swollen !!!!!! What do I do?

    Have a chat to your mum and see if she has changed any washing detergents or toiletries recently, which could cause this irritation.

  • I was watching this show last night, it was a panel show and there was this overweight woman and she sai her nipples were the size of a 10p coin but that's the size as mine?? So is it possible for a fully grown, over weight woman with big breasts to have the same size nipples as a 13 year old flat cheasted girl?? Thanks ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘ง

    Nipples come in a variety of shapes and sizes dependent on the indivual and not based on their age.

  • My friend claims she can smell when people are on their period is this true? Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ’ƒ

    No one can tell just by looking at you that you have your period. However, if you do not change your pad regularly a slight odour may be noticed, but it would be unlikely that anyone but  you would be able to smell it. So I feel this may be a myth your friend has heard about rather than the norm.

  • Hey vicki,
    Do you think lil-lets could do an interview with Emma Watson or Evanna Lynch in 2015?
    Sorry if it is to much to ask, but they are seriously amazin people
    Thank you
    Xoxo

    Leave this with me and I will add it to the list.

  • Hi Vicki, my question is when will I get my period? About a month ago I turned 12 and I wear a 28 a bra, there only small buds really . I often have discharge in my pants and all my friends have their period. I am quite small and I also have quite a bit of hair down there? Thanks Amy x ๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Amy, your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you see you have plenty of time left and as you have already noticed so many sings of puberty this should not be too much longer.

  • Is ?? books inappropriate for a 14 year old? my friend said she wanted to let me borrow them but i think they might be a bit...dirty.

    I would have a chat to your parents and ask their opinion. They may not be suitable but it really is their decision.

  • hi Viki,

    i am 14, and about 2 years ago i started getting interested in porn and since then almost every night i watch porn and rub my thighs together and it makes me orgasm. i haven't started my period yet but i have had hairy armpits and pubic hair for over a year now. is me orgasming effecting my period, is that why i haven't started yet? please help, i am really worried!

    L

    Masturbating and its effects will have no impact on the arrival of your period.

  • My vagina feels small and dry and it hurts like something I've never felt before when I tried tampons. I wasted about 2 boxes in total trying to make it work. :-(

    Why not wait and try in a few months and consider inserting a clean finger inside your vagina so you can become accustomed to where a tampon goes without actually using one.

  • I got my brothers old phone and I went on a messaging app that I have and he has.I thought it wud have linked up to mine but it was still on my brothers. I shouldnt have done this but I looked on a conversation he had with one of his friends who was a boy. A couple of months back he had text his friend talking about this girl and how they were ready and his friend was telling him he would give him condoms and school. And he was saying they are spending the night together.I don't know what to do.

    This is your brothers business and as such I would advise you to keep what you have seen to yourself and say no more about it.

  • hey, okay theres this boy i really really like him. Hes in a grade above me and hes kinda known for like dating everyone. Hes my bestfriend at the moment and a few days ago he admited to liking me back. Actually before this he kissed me and he says he really does like me but im unsure because hes known to cheat on people. What should i do? thanks๐Ÿ’–

    Why not continue being friends for a while longer and if he truly likes you he will wait until you are sure he means what he says.

  • Hey Vicki xx
    so me and my bf have been going out for about a month now. We really like each other. I mean a lot. So on Friday we tried to kiss because of a dare. We both wanted to. The problem was r friends kept following us and we kinda chickened out.
    plz help.
    P.S we both wanted to kiss

    I don't blame you, no one wants an audience for their first kiss. My advice is to ignore any pressure from your friends and when the time is right it will happen very naturally.

  • I am twelve years old, have hair in both places, I am a 32c and in January will have had discharge for two years. Why haven't I got my period yet?

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you, and I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • I'm 11 years old, I'm not in year 7 (grade7) and I'm a 34aa , when will my boobs start to grow because the girls in my class are like a B cup .. So when will I start to grow a bit more?? I'm 12 in 4 months by the way. Thanks Vicki

    Breasts grow at different times for each of us and it pays to be patient and try not to compare your progress with that of those around you.

  • I'm really nervous because all my friends have boobs and I don't have boobs like them. I'm 12. Can you suggest any like foods or exercise methods that help your boobs develop?!?!?! Thx

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and it really is important to learn to love your shape and  not compare your size with that of others. Finally, be patient, breasts continue to develop into a girls late teens or early twenties so your final size is not here yet.

  • Hi Vicki
    do you know any foods that can help your books develop better
    thank you xxxxxx

    No there are no foods you can eat that will change the size of your breasts.

  • Hello I'm co fused I had period then few days later I came back on period haven't stopped bleeding for 15 days i

    Periods can often last longer than 10 days, but if you continue to be concerned have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My old brother is really mean to me all the time. He always calls me stuff like fat, stupid, useless, worthless, etc.and he calls me it for no reason. It really puts me down and sometimes it makes me feel like I believe everything he says. I told my parents but they don't do anything about it.

    P.S. I'm 11 years old and he's 14.

    Brothers can sometimes be unkind but they rarely mean it. So try to ignore his comments and try this. Next time he says something hurtful, say back to him. "I'm sorry you feel like this, because I really love you and would never hurt your feelings". It may just make him see how inappropriate his behaviour is.

  • Hi Vicki,
    All the girls in my class wear crop tops and i'm the only one that needs it.
    My mom always hints about it but i'm too scared to ask her.
    I've tried the thing that you said to jump up and down and they do, when i do PE everyone just looks at me and stares. What do I do.
    Wonder Girl xx

    Have a chat to your mum about going shopping for underwear and see if you need a bra or a crop top and then decide which one you prefer then.

  • How do you use a bra chart

    Taking a tape measure you measure around and under your bust and than around the widest part of your bust. Our bra guide will help you work out your bra size when you have these measurements.

  • Hi vicki,
    I love your blogs. I just wanted a question if that's okay ? I've started getting white discharge but now it's gone brown what should I do? Is there anything to worry about ?
    Lauren
    Xx

    Hi Lauren, this could be your period so my advice is to have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • i have a boyfriend at school but one of my friends said 'if you dont kiss or anything you aren't boyfriend and girlfriend'. then I wondered, are we realy just good friends. we do things that friends do but not boyfriend and girlfriend do.

    I would not listen to your friend, there is no rush for you and your boyfriend to kiss or be intimate. Being a couple if much more than being intimate, it is about being good friends.

  • Hi. I started my period back in january, so this is like my 10th period. Ive just finished it yesterday but that whole period was just brown blood, no red blood or anything. Should i be worried cos there was no red blood for the whole period (7 days)
    from Lisa ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

    Hi Lisa, menstrual fluid can vary in colour from period to period and day to day and light brown fluid is very normal.

  • I have had bad cramps for a few weeks. Does this mean that i will start my period

    Menstrual cramps are often noticed as your reproductive organs mature and this can happen both before and after your period has arrived and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki, im 14 and im really tall for my age, about 5'10/5'11. I would be really lucky for my height if I was skinny, but I'm really fat and it makes me feel really sad. I do dance and eat quite healthily but im still about 68kg and I hate myself for it. Also everyone is starting to get boyfriends and I havent and I barely know any boys (all girls school) and I have a pixie cut which I really like but I feel like people think im really fat and ugly and no one is ever going to like me. What do I do?

    It is very common for teenagers to judge themselves too harshly and I am sure you are beautiful and your hair suits your style. As you are 14 you still have quite a bit of development to go, so be patient, continue eating a healthy diet and exercising and I am sure you body will find its ideal weight.

  • Hi Vicki, in primary school, I used to be really good friends with this boy and our mums are also really good friends. We went to different secondary schools and drifted well apart but recently weve started chatting quite a lot on facebook. I really like him, I think in a more than friends way, but I found out that he has a girlfriend but its making me sad because shes so much prettier than I am and I still really like him. What do I do? I'm 14 by the way.

    Its a shame that you like this boy when he already has a girlfriend and I am afraid he is now off limits as anything other than a friend.

  • Hi Vicki!
    What is my bra size?
    68
    64?
    Thanks! !!

    30AA is your size.

  • Hi viki
    For about 3 and a half years I have had like a white/clear discharge and recently have been getting a heavier brown/red discharge. I'm a bit confused wether or not this is my period?

    Yes this would be your period as menstrual fluid can be light brown in colour, so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Vicki! Is it normal to get discharge after your first period, like all the time? Thanks

    Yes discharge is often noticed in between periods and can continue until your twenties.

  • Below my belly button my stomach i big and i masterbate am i pregnant. I have had some pregnancy symptoms and im scared

    You cannot become pregnant from masturbation, so please do not worry about this.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I just started my period ( yesterday ) and today it was really heavy. How often should I change my pad? I had a night pad on till 11 this morning then put a fresh regular pad on and left it on till 2 and put on a new regular pad and left it till 5 and now I have a night pad on. How often should I change my pad and is it normal to have browny black stuff along with the blood?
    Lulu1256

    Hi, firstly browny black fluid is very normal and nothing to worry about. As for pad changing, a pad can be worn for up to 8 hours especially at night, but most people prefer to change their pad every 3-5 hours.

  • Hi Vicki, my self esteem is really low. I have no confidence and its affecting me. I get so stressed out and I feel really anxious about going to school every morning. I don't know what to do about this? All of my friends are quite confident and that's making me feel worse as I'd love to be as confident as them. Is there anything I can do to build my confidence and have a bit more self esteem? Thanks, Vicki! x

    Start by liking yourself and your life a little more. Take the time to organise fun things to do with your family and friends, become more involved and slowly but surely your confidence will grow.

  • Is it true that if you haven't had your period you can't get pregnant

    Not this is not true, as if your period is close and you are sexually active you may still become pregnant.

  • Hey so last week when I went to the bathroom I had like blood in my underwhere but it's been a week now and there's hasn't been any blood is this normal

    This could have been your first period and they can often be very light so try not to worry and ensure from now on you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • hi vicki
    i sumtimes get really horny when talkin to this boy i really like and i sumtimes touch myself my breasts when talkin to him online or sumthin
    i feel like i want to send him pics of me with not much clothes on
    is this ok?
    thanks

    Never be tempted to send pictures of an intimate nature to anyone as it could be deemed unlawful and you may also find this boy then passed them on to other people...again this would be unlawful. It is normal however to find you have feelings of a sexual nature but for now it would be wise not to act upon them.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm sorry if this question is inappropriate.i actually when I have goosebumps by nipples become a little big,big in the sense just kinda comes out a little.is it a problem?

    No this is not a problem as nipples are very sensitive to temperature and touch and can appear fuller when we feel the cold.

  • Hi Vicki, sorry if this is off topic or inappropriate! I'm 11 years old and have been thumbsucking forever. My mum puts oil on my thumb, but I just wash it off or suck my other thumb. I suck through the plaster when I wear one. I also have a tendency to bite the corner of my duvet for some reason and I love the smell (my family thinks this is gross.) Have you got any suggestions, I really want to stop but cant force myself to! -Felicity

    Hi Felicity, why not try wearing mittens when in the house, this should stop you from thumbsucking and consider taking up sports that will keep you active and unable to such your thumb.

  • i had my 3rd period about 2โ€“3 weeks ago and i think im havin another 1 now i dont want to tell my mum in case its not my period is this possible and what should i do pls answer ASAP
    dusty (~ยบ_ยบ~)

    It is quite possible as periods often have both short or long gaps between each one so please try not to worry.

  • Dear VIcki,
    I know this might sound strange, but I've been snapchatting this guy I am interested in for quite a while now. (I'm 14 by the way, he's 15).
    Is there a way I can tell him I like him without coming across as creepy or weird?
    Thankssssssssss:)

    Just by chatting to him you are showing him you like him, but please do not be tempted to tell him private information about yourself or share any provacative pictures. And never ever meet someone you do not know without speaking to your parents.

  • I need help! My boyfriend is gets 'depressed' when I don't talk to him on Skype like I want to speak to my other guy friends but when I say I can't call you or something like that. I know you will say break up with him and I love him but I feel like I need my space and when I do he is like ''I want to kill myself'' (to tell the truth I think He has no other people to talk to) what should I do without upsetting anyone?
    -Pink unicorn

    Hi Pink Unicorn, be firm and let him know that you have other friends and will want to spend time away from him and with them, which I have to say is healthy. And encourage him to do the same, if he has no friends then suggest he joins some clubs and meets new people.

  • Hey Vicki :)
    I need a little advice on how to come out to my best friend, I've always planned for her to be the first one to know about my sexuality but things didn't work out how I wanted them to and I ended up messily telling two other friends. I'm very confused about my sexuality and I'm hoping it will change but this is something I really want to do, I've never kept anything from her and I don't intend to start now.
    Sorry for writing so much and thank you for any advice that you give :)

    Find time to be alone and let her know you want to share some news with her before she hears about it from others. Let her know that for now you are not 100% sure if this is the way you are but for now would really love her support.

  • Hello vicky
    I am the one of the first to start my period in my friendship group and our worried about it and who to talk to.
    Thanks

    There is no reason why you should share this news with anyone as your friends will not be able to tell you are menstruating just by looking at you. So for now keep this news to yourself until you feel comfortable sharing this news.

  • Hi Vicki. I was just wondering if we can get samples to St them out for free?

    We do send out free samples of our range, if you have your parent's permission to request samples, simply click on the word 'Contact' at the bottom of the page and request a pack.

  • Hi I have worn a tampon before, when I took it out it ripped a hole in my skin around the area where it goes in. I told my mum and she said to go the female parts doctor- the word begins with a g- but I am very self conscious and don't want to do you have any ideas
    I wore another tampon the other day a d when I took it out it was fine

    It sounds very much like you stretched your hymen; the piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina and if you have inserted a tampon after this episode I do not think you have anything to worry about.

  • I am 12. I have been going through puberty for a couple of years and have had discharge for roughly 1 and a half years. Just recently, I have started to get an occasional belly ache, and greasy spots. Is this a sign of my period? Also, the hair on my legs and under my arms is blonde (like my hair) not black- is that normal? Thanks so much vicki
    Ruby

    Hi Ruby,  all of this is very normal and a sure sign that your period is not too far away.

  • Okay so I'm 12 and I have no confidence and all my friends do I feel scared to talk to people there are people in my year at school and I'm scared that if I say something wrong they will judge me for it and judge the way my voice is... Please help thankyou xx

    It is very common for teenagers to feel a little lacking in confidence during puberty, but please don't stop contributing to conversations; yes you may have comments back that are a little critical, even teasing, we all do, but simply shrug them off and carry on chatting.

  • Vicki,

    The other day in school, this boy I like winked at me cuz we are quite close, but it felt like my heart melted, what does this mean?

    Leah๐Ÿ‰๐Ÿ‰๐Ÿ‰

    Hi Leah, it means you like this boy and I feel he may like you too.

  • Vicki I have a small lump that is sore to touch near the back of my vagina! What is it? I am a virgin but could it still be dangerous?

    Your vulva will have lots of different parts to it and they will feel different when touched, but if you feel any pain you should speak to your parents and ask them to pop you along to your GP for a chat.

  • Hi Vicky I have had two out of three of my HPV vaccines, when I got the first two it hurt when the needle was in and then through out the rest of the day it hurt so bad I could barely move the arm I got it in, is this normal? or do I need to ask my doctor about this, ps. I got it in my right arm

    This is normal and nothing for you to worry about.

  • What does your first period look like.

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red and the amountyou lose can vary too.

  • HI VICKY I really wanna know when I am going 2 get my period I. Am FREAKIN OUT !!!! PS: I am going to turn 12 in december so what is my age. Xoxo lUV Ulots vicky plz put this in the periods section. Sunshine 1253

    Hi Sunshine 1253, your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you really do have to be patient and wait for your body to find the right time for you. Reading all the great stuff on our website should make you feel a little easier about the changes that are coming your way.

  • Hi Vicki I have just turned 14 and I have been having very bad tummy pains for the past 2 days and I have been having tummy cramps I have not started my period yet but I think I might be starting soon ?

    It may be and my advice is to keep busy and active as this will quickly ease and discomfort.

  • how do I know if I have a tipped uterus?

    Some people have this difference to their body but never know, as it has no impact on their life.

  • I know it's stupid but at the moment I get really annoyed at some of my friends - don't get me wrong I really love them but I just am finding the things they do reaaly annoying.
    I am getting myself down and annoyed as I feel bad - what should I do ?
    anxiousant123

    Puberty can leave lots of people feeling frustrated and out of balance with friends and loved ones. My advice is to take some time to be alone when you feel yourself getting annoyed and having a chat to your friends letting them know that you find it difficult to handle your emotions. I am sure they will understand.

  • Hi Vicky, what do you do, if you go swimming you have never had your period before but when your in the pool you get your period? would you be able to tell that you had your period before getting out of the pool or blood leaking out of your swimsuit bottoms and getting in the water?

    It would be highly unlikely and if your period had just started the amount of blood would not be enough to cause you any concern.

  • Hi Vicki it's Amy I'm 13
    This morning I had one spot if blood but it was near where my bottom goes in my pants what is this?

    This could have been your period, alternatively it could be a little bit of blood released from your anal passage when releasing waste food, an indication that you are constipated and need a little bit more fibre in your diet.

  • Hi Viki! I have this thing where I'll like a guy and I'll flirt with him and then when he likes me I'll kinda stop liking him. I've tried just 'not liking anyone' but that didn't last very long. Any advice? Why do I do this!

    I wonder if it the thought of somone liking you that you love more than the boys themselves. I would continue just thinking of boys as friends for now and you may just find the right boy is right under your nose.

  • There's this boy at school I like but I don't know how to speak to him???

    Emily x ๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Emily, why not start by smiling for a couple of seconds when you see him and saying "Hi". When you feel more comfortable you could then ask him what he was up to at the weekend; a great way to get to know someone better.

  • Hi I am 14 years old and my period feels quite heavy and I don't feel confident to wear tampons yet so will a pad hold me for the night ?? And also I have flows of blood will this last for the rest of my 5 days??

    Why not consider wearing our Lil-lets freshlock night pads for when sleeping and our freshlock long pads during the day, when your flow is heavy.

  • please can i have a free sample of your things so i can try them all out and see what i like and can buy again and what isnt right for me so i can give to my cousin and not buy them again?

    You can drop me a line by clicking on the word Contact at the bottom of the page.

  • i know this may sound weird however my discharge come at a certain time of month, i just call it my discharge period. why would it only be at a certain time of month?

    Discharge is based around hormone levels and as these can change from day to day within the month and is very normal.

  • Average Bra Size for 12-13 year old girls?

    There is no average, we are all different and breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes no matter what our age.

  • Hi Vicki! I have been having a lot of discharge lately it's embarrassing when my mum does the laundry is it normal for me to be having so much discharge at 11 yrs 10 mths it is a white colour or sometimes creamy yellow it makes me feel as if I have wet myself. What does this mean ? I have discharge everyday .

    Discharge is often noticed on a daily basis and from time to time quite a bit of fluid is released. If you feel it may help why not consider wearing pant liners.

  • Hi vicki,
    So the other day, a few days before my period,I was just staring at the desk at school. A boy who I. Usaly quite friendly with ( in a friends way) asked if I was ok. I had woke up in a bad mood and I just snapped at him. He is staying away from me now, and irs kind of my fault.Any hints on just talking again?
    Thanks,
    Golden_girl

    Hi Golden Girl, how about saying sorry to him for your behaviour, letting him know he caught you on a bad day.

  • Hi Vicki!
    OK, there' this boy in my year. We don't have ANY classes together but we met at one of our transition days and another boy said he might fancy me. He (the second boy) still thinks it now. I don't fancy the first boy, to me, he's just a friend but I don't want to hurt his feelings by saying, "I don't fancy you." but I don't want to keep him in the dark either. HELP!!!
    Mimi

    Mimi, you can drop a few hints into any conversations you have with either this boy or his friend. Letting them know that you like both of them as friends but that is all.

  • Hi Vicki! I really love the teens day pads. They are so petite and cute- I love them! Sometimes when my flow is heavier than it should I use the pads as pant liners.
    I have something to say about your adult tampons... I was searching for regular(I want to start using tampons soon), and I feel that the packaging is not great. I mean, there isn't tape on the opening flap so some people just open then and scatter the tampons everywhere... Perhaps you could add tape to make them more secure? Xx

    I will pass your comment on, thank you for your feedback.

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 years old I haven't started my period yet but I had white discharge for a bit. But now it's gone a brown colour Today. What should I do I? Im scared. Is there anything wrong? Xx

    This could be your period, so please put a pad or liner in your underwear and see if any more fluid is lost over the next couple of days...and if so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi, I am feeling like a third wheel around my two other best friends, what should I do?

    Why not have a chat to them letting them know how you feel and if there is any chance you can do things as a threesome from now on. It may be that they have not realised they are leaving you out.

  • Hi vicki

    I am going on a ski holiday in a few months and you need to tell them yiur weight. And I am quite embarrassed about this because my older sister is almost a stone lighter then me and she's a lot older and taller than me aswell. What can I do about this?
    Thankyou so much
    Sophie xx

    Hi Sophie, there is no need to be embarrassed we are all different and it never does do to compare yourself to others. So give your measurements and have a wonderful holiday.

  • Hi, is it normal for discharge to suddenly become brown-ish?
    Thanks x

    If discharge becomes brown, then it is almost certainly your period arriving and something you should share with your mum or the person show cares for you.

  • I'm confused about my sexuality:( how will i find out what gender i really like?

    There really is no rush to work out who you are and during your puberty sexuality can be quite confusing, so wait a few years and all will become clear.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i read ur advise on Boris and he still isn't leaving off. He hit my friend who's a boy with his blazer at school. So i pushed Boris into the wall and he was bleeding. I feel guilty but i felt i should protect my friend. I just wanted Boris to go away. Its so annoying, becoz im not usually a violent person.

    Darcy-Mae xx๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcy-Mae, it is never a good idea to use violence to beat a bully and it is now up to your friend to tackle this bully, either by herself or with the help of her teacher or parents.

  • Hi, Vicki

    I'm the girl again in year 10 doing "Moving Image" So I said "No" and she said "You have too" But i think she wants to push me by perhaps because I don't like her and she a bully. But the teacher always she nice, but she really horrible to me (especially me) But I already told the teacher before she was bullying me, what should I do? I don't want to listen her anyone she asking me to do things!

    (Sorry it's long)

    Again speak to your teacher or ask your parents to speak to her on your behalf.

  • Hi Vicki

    It's me again a girl who was in Year 10 doing "Moving Image" she perhaps saying that i looked like a nerd and i do wear glasses, another reason is we are planning our script and a girl who was with her said (Not the bully) "We need to push someone (As a part of our acting) and the bully said (My Name should do it) And I said "No" and she said "You can't no" and I said "I can"

    See Part 3

    Good for you, I am pleased you are standing up for yourself and not letting someone force you into things you are not happy to do. My advice is also to have a chat to your teacher if you find the 'pushing' scene uncomfortable and he or she may decide to change it.

  • Hi vicki I asked you a question and you told me my bra size was 30AA . Is this the right size to start wearing one?

    Only if you want to, you could still wear a crop top of vest if you prefer. There really is no rush, it's all about what makes you feel comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Why is it illegal to have sex when you're under the age of 16? I don't want to break the law, I'm just curious.
    Mimi

    The law is designed to protect children, who although their bodies may be physically mature enough to have sexual relations are NOT emotionally or mentally able to deal with such adult subjects.

  • HI Vicki

    I'm a girl in year 10 and i was doing my lesson called "Moving Image" which we need to acting and doing camera shots,This time my partner wasn't in she was at a trip so I work with the other girl which I know very well but a girl who was bullied but no one knows because she always tell the teacher that she get bullied but she bullying me! She was saying "No Offensive (My Name) but I don't like your full fringe because it makes people look like a nerd"

    See Part 2

    Be brave and stand up to this girl letting her know you respect her comments but that should be constructive and not negative. This should let her know that you are not someone who will stand for bullying.

  • dear Vicki,
    i am spotty and all the horrible things have or are happening to me and i have had the white stuff for 2 years I`m 12 and nothings happening!!!!!
    Thank you,
    Scarlet

    Hi Scarlet, puberty is what's happening and so many things will be noticed, such as spot breakouts, moods swings and discharge. One other thing that will happen is your period and it will come, you just have to be patient; periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • hey vicki
    ive been getting thick, white,smelly stuff on my pants!what is it, please help x
    love nikki xox
    please answer in discharge section!

    Hi Nikki, this is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Last year, my male friend and his sister, who's friends with my sister, came round for a sleepover. We slept top-and-tail on my mum's bed, our sisters one side, us the other. We didn't have sex, no, but as we're opposite sexes, I still feel like we broke the law (we were 10 then). Did we break the law by mistake?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, no laws were broken here so please try not to worry.

  • Viki- I'm always so confident when I talk to boys via text, snapchat, etc. though when it comes to actually seeing them I get all nervous! What do you think I should do? Also boys never find me attractive so never want to be my boyfriend or do anything! Any advice?! Xoxo Kimmy

    Hi Kimmy, getting to know someone as a friend is key to feeling comfortable around them. So rather than considering them as boyfriend material find out more about them what they like to do and you will soon feel better chatting in person.

  • Viki, it's kimmy again, what you said about my crushes party is that I don't know if I do like him really, although I think I would like to get off with him but the problem is I don't know how to get off with someone. :(

    Please help!? Xx
    Kimmy x

    Hi Kimmy, if you do not feel comfortable being intimate with someone then the simple fact is you should not consider doing so. Being intimate with someone is very natural and not something you need to be taught so for now try to keep your relationship on friendly terms only and never be forced into anything by anyone.

  • PArt Five My friend M - the one who knows about how in love I am with J says that maybe J is trying to get a reaction aout of me or see if I am interested in other boys. I am not sure, to be honest. She says that boys minds work in mysterous ways - and she is right. She says that if J likes anyone, it would be me.
    Please respond to each paragraph of this. Thankyou Vicki. Its nice to be able to explain my feelings.
    Love, the Confused Girl Of The Ocean

    Hi, it seems J does like you, but like many boys he may not be ready to declare his feelings openly and round others. So my advice is to continue chatting and being friends and see what happens over the next few weeks/months. There really is no rush to date and it must be when you are both ready.

  • Part Four
    Unfortunately, I don't know if he likes me. Sometimes, like when we have fun together, have a private joke, converse, or tease each other, I feel as though there may be something there. But today, to some of my other friends who stood nearby, he said that I should date A.
    I presume this is after my friend W told him about the time when a guy called T mistook A for my boyfriend, and apparently J agreed. This kinda hurt. A lot.


  • Part Three
    He smiles around me a lot, and tries to make me laugh all the time. Twice today I caught him staring in my direction during maths; once he quickly looked away, the second time I don't think that he realised that I saw him. Or at least, he carried on staring.

  • Part Two

    We hang around in a large group of friends together. All our friends tease us about one another, but only one of them knows my true feelings towards J. I usually deny any attraction towards him because I don't want to ruin our sort-of-friend-ship. And he denies his feelings towards me because they probably don't even exist.

  • Part One

    I am really into this guy, lets call him J. All of my friends think that we are kind of cute together, especially as his best friend is going out with my best friend. He is funny and a proper gentleman, though some would argue that he isn't the best looking. I think that he is gorgeous though, both inside and out.
    xx

    My response is in your final question to me.

  • I would like to know is it a good idea to practise using a liner and wipes before your period when you've got your discharge

    Lots of people wear pant liners to keep their underwear clear of discharge and wipes too keep you feeling clean and fresh even before their period arrives as both of these products are ideal.

  • Hi Vicki! I have been having a lot of discharge lately and it's embarrassing when mum does the laundry. It it normal for this to be happening to a 11 yr old ? What does it mean? It makes me feel like I have wet myself and it's white and creamy yellow

    Experiencing discharge is very normal for someone of your age and shows you are now becoming a young woman. And try not to worry about any residue being left inside your underwear, this can easily be washed out with no marks being left.

  • hey vicki i turned 14 last month and my weight is 50kg and my height is 149cm am i healthy or fat

    Rather than worry about what the scales say, consider rather eating a healthy diet, exercising often and you will soon find your body finds your ideal weight just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm a 12 year old girl and I'm going 13 in july next year. I think I am lesbian, cause I have a crush on a girl in my class but she's not lesbian because she has a crush on a boy. I was wondering if its okay to be lesbian especially at my age. I think I've been lesbian for around 8 months and I don't want to be awkward and tell her what should I do?

    It is very common during puberty to be confused about your sexuality and there really is no need to label yourself at this time. It would be far better to wait a few years and see how you feel now.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I LOVE YOUR WEBSITE!
    So My question is, I have been devolving breasts for 6 or more months and at the moment I wear a 30 AA though I think I need a 30 A. Anyway I always wear non wired and so when do you think it okay to wear underwired?
    I'm 11 by the way :)

    There is no reason to ever wear a wired bra if you do not wish to, it really is a personal choice and for those that do wear them it is generally for fuller bust and not really necessary for an A or B cup.

  • Im 11 years old, I'll be 12 in about 4 months.. I've started to get discharge but I don't know what it means, is it normal, is this puberty?

    Discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagain clean and free from infection. It is also a great sign that your period is not too far away, it's all normal and part of your journey to becoming a young woman.

  • I'm 13yrs old I had my first proper period in December 2013 Iv not had 1 since I'm losing a lot of discharge and get stomach pains but nothing else also Iv had quite a big weight gain in the last couple of months is this normal.

    Periods can often have long gaps between each one, sometimes of several months, but if you are 100% sure that it was a period in December 2013 then why not have a chat to your mum about this delay.

  • Hi Vicki
    I luv this website so much...i luv so much tht itz even became an addiction to use this site..N i also luv it because your always replying back..Thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜† thank ลฑโ˜† so much!
    My Question:
    When girls start they period does it come out with they urine..or is it just like discharge it only releases *ฬฉn ur panty liner//pad//panty
    Thnx Vicki
    Love Lulu(Addicted chick)

    Menstrual fluid leaves your body from the same place as discharge; your vagina. However as blood is often left around the vaginal entrance, when you visit the toilet to release urine it can appear pink or red as it captures some of the blood around the vagina which is mixed with your urine.

  • Hi vicky i was just wondering what size bra I am and if i should start wearing a bra yet...and also should I ask my mom for a bra or just wsit until she mentions it. Im 14 soon
    Under 70
    Fullest 82
    Thank you

    32A is your size and if you feel ready for your first bra then it would be more than acceptable to speak to her about going shopping for one. You could even ask her how old she was when she got her first bra to start the conversaion off.

  • So all of a sudden I fell like I had to pee before I could get up I just started peeing a little it was pee I'm 11 it's not happened before and I have not got my period help

    Have a chat to your mum if this continues as you may have a small urine infection that can be quickly cleared up with treatment.

  • Hi vicky im 13 years old and sometimes i worry that my boobs are not big enough comparing to my friends .. i measured my breast and 76cm is that too small ? thx

    The simple advice I can offer you here is to not compare any part of your progress through puberty with your friends. You will all be different and in my opinion breasts are beautiful whatever their size or shape.

  • Hey Vicki,

    For the last 3 or so days I have been having brownish/ redsish discharge, I'm 13 years old and haven't had my first period yet so I was just wondering if this could be my first period. Or if it was an early sign of me getting my period, I really need your help because I don't have a mother to look up to and I only have my dad by my side but I'm a bit nervous to ask him. So I want to know if this is my first ever period.

    Thanks Zoe xx

    This certainly is your period and it may be an idea to let your dad know by writing him a note or speaking to a family member such as an grandmother or aunt and they will ensure you have some pads or tampons from now on to keep your underwear protected.

  • So each month one of the ovaries realises an egg but it says that they both release eggs so do they like take it in turns or is it just random

    No one really knows the answer to this. Lots of people believe they take it in turns, but others now believe that this is just a random occurrence.

  • Heya!x
    So today this bump came up above my lip and I told my mom about it and she said that it's just a cold sore and it's going to go away within a week or so. I googled ways to get rid of it faster and came across some information about herpies. I haven't kissed anyone recently nor have I had oral sex. Where did this cold sore come from??
    Lola๐Ÿ’œ

    Hi Lola, cold sores are part of the herpes family and they very often lay dormant for many years only to reappear when you are stressed or in the sun without sun protection. So you could have innocently kissed a family member some time ago that had the virus and this has now been passed to you. My advice it to not touch it at all and it will soon disappear on its own.

  • Hey. I hate my dads girl friend! I just hate her!!! She's really really thick she's never never serious she laughs at everything and I mean everything. She is also really mean in a joking way but the worst thing is she now has an amazing job all cause of my idiot dad who never gave my mum a job. She also is very unhealthy and my dad has gained so much wait since he met her. He also drinks to much! Is there anything I can do to save him from well her?!

    Give this lady a chance, it is clear your dad loves her very much and I am sure he will greatly appreciate you taking the time to get to know her and understand that whilst she is not like you, she may still be a really nice person.

  • Hi Vicki, I had brown discharge in my pants a few weeks ago and it continued to happen for 2-3 days, what was this? I have also had a lot of clear, white discharge for about a year and a half? Thanks๐Ÿ˜Šx

    This was your period and you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.


  • I'm now at secondary school and the craze is peircing everyone's ears. They were all doing it the "Parent trap way" until one of my friends bought an ear peircing gun off amazon; I don't know if your allowed them or not but I don't like it! She's only 13! Also, they don't have any ear cleaner and the training studs are rubbish... I know I'm probably over reacting, but do you think I should tell my maton? I just don't want them all to get into massive trouble if they are caught... What do you think?

    I think you should definitely speak to an adult about this matter as if not done professionally serious infections can be contracted, not to mention mutilation of the ear if the piercing does not go to plan.

  • I've started my period! This is my 3rd month, for the last 2 every thing has been normal. But I haven't had this months period yet and I'm about a week late. If I miss this months period is it normal because my body is getting used to them? If I don't get it this month I hope there not a problem I don't know whether it's normal of not.
    Thanks Vickiโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    Periods are very often irregular for the first few years, with gaps of several months between each one being very common, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki, I have two questions? I'm 14 and haven't gone through puberty yet but my boobs have started to grow a couple of months ago but they are still the same size before. I don't wear a bra yet but they hurt when I jump so I think I should get one. And is normal for my boobs to be like this slow? Also I have quite a big upper body to my legs and I want to lose my big stomach and my love-handles but u can't do sit ups. Can you help me? ?
    Thank you. Fatimah. ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

    Hi Fatimah, breast development is all part of puberty and you will start to notice changes very slowly at first and if you feel a bra will reduce the amount of movement then why not ask your mum to pop you into a store to be measured. As for shape, my advice is to simply eat a healthy diet and exercise often and by exercise I mean walking, swimming or dancing, all of which will help tone your body.

  • Hey! I was just wondering whether it's normal to have to change my pad every two-three hours....I know I heavy periods but they just seem to keep getting worse....It's really embarassing. :/

    Pads can be worn for up to 8 hours but most people change every 3-5 hours. When your flow is at its heaviest you may find wearing a long pad such as our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads are more suitable.

  • Hi Viki! I like this guy in my base class in school and I'm 13. Some people in my year go out with each other and they are always pressuring the girls into kissing the guys and making a big deal about it. I really like this guy and I would like to go out with him but I wouldn't feel comfortable kissing him. I think he likes me but what would I say if he asked me out. Please help!

    There is no rush to kiss anyone if you do not feel ready and if this boy likes you he will wait. Kissing is a very natural act and when the momemt comes it will be magical. Why not read my blog entitled First Kiss.

  • All my friends talk to their mums about doing sexual things with their boyfriends but I don't know how to talk to my mum about it

    Just because your friends have this kind of relationship with their mums, does not automatically mean you have to. So please don't feel you have to force this kind of conversation if either of you are not comfortable to do so.

  • I'm 14 and I've got a boyfriend that I'm really happy with, we've talked about having sex and I want too but I'm worried because all my friends are on some form of contraception and I'm not, but I don't know how to ask anyone in my family as its a bit of a taboo subject, please help me

    As you are under the age of 16 it would be unlawful for you to be sexually active and regardless of whether friends are having sexual relations my advice is to have a chat to your boyfriend and ask him to be patient and wait until you are 16. You may also like to have a chat to your local Brook or Family Planning clinic who will be able to advise you of your options for when the time comes.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 11 (12 in January ) and been having discharge for a year and a half almost size aa bra quite a bit of pubic hair and armpit hair anyway when do you think I should start as I have being having cramps everyday practically for the last 7 months also 3 of my friends have started 1 was 10 when she started and the others year six. I really want my period as I'm jelous as I want to feel normal and experienced is this normal

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you. This is not a competition and it really does not pay to compare your progress with that of others, you are normal and the fact that you have so many signs of puberty shows this, so please be patient and see what the next few months bring.

  • hi Vicki do you know if you are skinny do you still get periods? cause I am 17 and still haven't started but I keep getting this gooey discharge in my underwear and i also got 4 months ago brown stuff with blood on and I got it again last week too. does this mean that I have started my first period?

    This brown fluid is your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. And for the first few years large gaps between each period is very normal.

  • Hi vicki my mum is against me plucking or waxing my eyebrows or upper lip and my friends get theirs threaded at 13 which i think is too young. They keep pressuring me to get mine done but I ignore them. how to I make my upper lip hair less noticable do I pluck them and how do I make plucking less painful thank you caandychristmas16 xx

    If your mum is against any removal of body hair then she may be happy for you to lighten your upper lip hair. But please don't feel you have to do anything just because others have chosen to remove theirs.

  • Hi vicki c:
    I was 10 in Augus)t and aboyt 3 months ago ( i check my undererwere for my period every day) I looked atmy 'area' and it had sort of thick white-blonde hair on it. My hair is naturally brown and i dont know if its pubic hair. Can u help me pls thanks x
    Ellie

    Hi Ellie, pubic hair is not always the same colour as the hair on our heads so try not to worry this is very normal.

  • If you are medium flow how often do you need to change yoy pad?

    Most people change their pads every 3-5 hours if you need to change more often than this, your flow may be heavier and you should consider wearing a long pad instead.

  • I HAD A CRUSH ON SO MAY PEOPLE IN 3 YEARS.
    KYLE COOK BEN
    KIERAN BROWN
    NICK
    JAKE FOLKYEARD
    JAKE BAYLUM
    KYLE JOPLING
    THE NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGESD FOR PRIVICY.
    IS IT NORMALS TO LIKE PEOPLE LIKE THIS I AM IN YEAR 10 THEY ARE ALL TIN THE EAYR BELOW ME

    During your teen years when feelings of a sexual and emotional nature start to form, it is very normal to find yourself attracted to others, but as you say these are simply crushes and soon disappear over time.

  • Hi.
    I am MattSmithIsTheBAE.
    I am in love with this guy at school. More than a crush. In love. I cry if I don't see him. I am in love. But I am thirteen. Is this possible? To be so in love? I want to ask him out but I'm too shy, we are kind of friends, but its a little awkward becauese everyone tells us we should go out whenever ew are together. Anuy advuce?
    Love, MattSmithIsTheBAE xxxxxxx

    Love does does not have an age limit to it and if you truly love this boy, then let him know you would like to date and see if he agrees. I would hold off telling him about your love for a while though as he may not be ready for that kind of committment or pressure.

  • Do you like Doctor Who? I've noticed a lot of whovians on here, so I wondered whether you liekd it?

    Love, MattSmithIsTheBAE xxx

    If I am honest I have never watched it, but lots of girls in the office do and love the show, so maybe I am missing out!

  • I fancy Peter Capaldi.
    I am thirteen.
    IS THIS WRONG HE IS LIKE 5O ODD!!!!?????? BUT I LOVE HIM!!!!!!! Sorry if innap but I am worried that having a celeb crush on an older guy is wierd.

    Crushes are very personal to the individual and not weird at all, but like most crushes it will disappear over time so try not to worry.

  • my mum has told me i need to start wearing a bra but im really nervous about it as none of the girls in my class are wearing one i dont want to be the embarased about it as it happens to everyone at some point but i dont want to be the first so what do i do

    Getting your first bra is a big step in any girls life and someone always has to be first.  Why not ask your mum to pick you up a crop top too when getting your first bra, you can then wear this to school and wear your bra around the house until you grow accustomed to how it feels, in a couple of weeks you may then feel more confident to wear your bra on a daily basis.

  • My friends sometimes comment on my breast size saying that they are big. I am a 34D and 14 years old. Would you consider this to be quite big compared to other people my age?

    There is no right or wrong size for anyone's breasts to be regardless of their age, so try not to worry and ignore any comments from friends.

  • Hey how Are you Vicki?

    I only have discharge no period and I wondered if it was ok for me to practise using tampons? Also what is the expected age I will get my period?

    Love Anonymous

    You should only ever use tampons when your period is with you and as you have already noticed discharge this may not be too far away; discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months. I would advise that you wear pads for the first couple of periods you have so you can grow accustomed to your flow and cycle before switching to tampons.

  • Hello Vicki

    I am 10 years old but my nipples are a bit more big and I was thinking is it breast buds or are they just getting ready to have breast buds?

    This could be the start of breast development for you and you may soon start to notice little lumps under your breasts as they start to grow that can often make the nipples appear a little puffy.

  • Hi Vicky!

    Recently, when my discharge dries a tiny bit of it crusts over greenish! Also there is a slight odour, what is happening! Please reply, Tasha x๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Tasha, discharge often has a green tinge to it when it dries and a slight odour too. Why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis and having some of our fabulous teens freshen-up wipes to use after visiting the toilet, this will help with the odour and leave you feeling clean and fresh too!

  • How do mark when you periods start and finish and how can you spot the pattern??

    It can take a few years for periods to form a regular pattern but that does not mean you should not start marking the date of your periods. So put a tick in your diary or calendar on the first day you notice blood being released and then again when the first day of your next period arrives. This will be your menstrual cycle, but like I said don't worry if there are gaps of several months between each one for a little while.

  • how do you shave your legs without hurting yourself

    The trick is to lather this area very well before shaving, with either shaving foam, shower gel or even hair conditioner. Then using a clean and fresh razor you should use upward movements to remove the hair, but if you can try never to go over the same area twice as they can lead to a rash. Finally, never remove hair on your body without getting permission from your parents.

  • I am embarrassed to ask my mum to buy me some more pads. Do you have any tips on how to ask her.Laurenxxx

    Hi Lauren, why not write a shopping list of things you need such as pads, anti-perspirant, wipes etc and pass it on to her for when she next goes shopping.

  • Hi I have had brown stuff coming out of my vagina twice now and now theres blood have I strted my period ??xxx

    Yes this is your period, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you, so they can ensure you have some pads or liners to protect your underwear.

  • hey Vicki my down there gets very sweaty and starts to smell of discharge and when i touch that part of my trousers and smell my hand it smells
    answer this question please
    Kendall xx

    Hi Kendall, why not consider wearing a pant liner on a daily basis to capture any discharge or urine released and remember to wash this area daily if possible.

  • My discharge smells is this normal

    Discharge does have a slight odour to it, but if it is offensive then it may be mixed wth sweat, urine or faeces. So it is important to pay extra special attention to this area when washing daily and when you visit the toilet always make sure you have wiped this area thoroughly with toilet tissue. You may even find using our Lil-Lets teens pant liners and freshen-up wipes is useful too.

  • Hi vicky,
    I'm 12 and 9st, I have quite a lot of body fat and I don't like it, I always have a double chin and no one seems to like me I am also goofy and used to ride so my mum said most of it is muscle but I am really insecure about it because my skirt at school just has a lump in it where as all the other girls have a nice flat skirt, I haven't started my period yet but have had discharge for 1yr and keep getting stomach cramps ๐Ÿ’œ thx vicky ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ’œ
    Skyyy ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    Hi Skyyy, please don't worry too much about your shape as you have so many more years of development to come and your shape will change quite a lot over the next few years. For your part, ensure that you eat a healthy diet with not too many sweet or greasy treats and exercise regularly.You will soon find your body finds its ideal weight just for you.

  • Please could you do like a video of your self answering the girls questions?!!! Please I would be sooo greatful and happy!
    I mean like reading out the questions and answering them.
    Ok..I can understand if you werent comfertable doing this...But I just wanna see you!! :D
    cheese

    You can see me cheese, there is a photo of my on the About Vicki section on our website.

  • Hey vicki! Would it be possible for you to interview Colleen Ballinger in one of your videos, shes a youtuber! She doesent live in the UK is that okay? I love her sooo much..do you know her? Thankssoomuchxxxx!!!
    cheese

    I will share your comment with the team and we will add it our list of people to chat to in 2015.

  • I am 13 and started my periods 2 years ago, i am size 32AA will i be this size forever?

    Breasts continue to develop into our late teens and early twenties so please try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm turning 16 soon, and my periods still haven't started. Should I be worried? Thank you.

    No, not at all. Periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • I was walking home by myself (from school) but there was lots of people around, and this man drove past me in his car and he turned and looked at me as he turned the road, and I carried on walking and saw he had stopped and I went past them he carried on driving the way I was going, luckily I went across the field instead but saw he had stopped again outside a school, where I would have been walking, I'm really scared he was stalking me or something please help

    Please speak to your parents and school about this matter, it may be nothing but it pays to share what you experienced with others and in future try to walk home with a group of friends or ask your parents to collect you for a few weeks until you feel less anxious and more confident.

  • Hey Vicki I've been feeling a bit strange recently and I don't think it's because of puberty. I don't know what it is. It's hard to explain, but sometimes when talking to someone I feel like I'm not quite "on the same page" as them, or that maybe that's what they're thinking. I only get that feeling with some people and I don't know why. I never used to get it.

    Self confidence can often be lost when we go through puberty, with people feeling others are judging them. Don't let this stop you chatting to people and as you get older these feelings will subside.

  • Sorry last time I asked you a question I got the measurements wrong ! But here are the correct ones
    Fullest 28 inch
    Under 26 inch

    II'm 11 and I wear a crop top but I was wondering if I could fit into a bra yet? Could you please tell me my size ?
    Thanks xx Rosie

    Hi Rosie, 30AA is your size.

  • Hey vicki

    I am now getting a bit concerned as my periods are still irregular after having them for 3-4 years. I am 15, 16 in December and I started my period when I had just turned 12 but they are still very irregular. Should I be concerned?

    Not really no, this is very common during your teen years and early twenties.

  • My back really hurts during my period! Any suggestions on what to do?

    A warm bath, a hot water bottle or gentle stretching should help this discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am thirteen now and BARELY a size 8AA... Is that normal. I am really scared that I will be flat chested.. Help me...!

    I really would not worry, breasts come in a variety of sizes and continue developing into our late teens or early twenties, so you have plenty of time for growth to occur.

  • HELLO VICKI.. I HAVE A FRIEND NAMED 'D'.. HE USED TO LIKE ME BUT NOW HE SAYS HE DOESNT.. I WANT HIM TO BE MY BOY FRIEND WHAT DO I DO?

    If this boy has been honest and said he has no romantic feelings for you, then accept and respect his decision and move on, but try if you can to remain good friends. You will soon find someone who cares for you as much as you care for them.

  • Hey! Ummm...this is quite an awkward question but...um....when I have sex I don't want to have any pubic hair but I don't know how to get rid of it!? Any ideas?! Cuz I don't want to shave again as it gets itchy. XxxxKimmy please don't report this inappropriate! I really need a answer xx thanks!

    Hi Kimmy, I wonder why you feel you need to be hair free when being sexually active? There really is no need for this so please don't feel pressured into doing something based on what you think another person will think.

  • Vicky. I am going to my crushes party next weekend and the other day my friend fraped me saying 'will you get
    Off with me' he said "yeah if I get drunk enough." I really want to go there with him but he said "as long as there's no emotional relationship stuff" so I really want to get off with him but I don't know how?! Help please. XxxxKimmy

    If this boy is not interested in the 'emotional stuff' as he calls it, then I would not recommend doing anything with him at all. Remember you have to respect yourself and this boy clearly is not respecting you by making this comment. So why not say thanks....but no thanks...I want a boyfriend who cares for me.

  • Vicky, hey I'm 14 and thought I'd start at 16 like my mum. But I hady period in August and haven't had it since then. Last Friday I started again and on the 5th day it stopped. But after a night of not wearing a pad I found a reddy brown patch in my pants. When I wear a pad now, nothing comes and when I don't stuff comes! I have a party next weekend so I'm quite worried about it for then. Should I wear a pad every day constantly? What should I do?! XoxoKimmy

    Hi Kimmy, very often when we feel our period has ended there is a little more blood yet to be released and for this reason most people wear a pant liner or pad for a day or two after they feel their period has ended just in case.

  • my boyfriend fingered me about a week ago and since then I have been having cramps and heavy discharge. Do you think am pregnant

    No, this will just be a coincidence.

  • About 2 days ago I noticed I had a lot of brown/ dark red discharge in my underwear. I haven't had my first period yet so I don't know if this could be my first period. Because I have been having discharge for 1 to 2 years now, so could this be my first period.

    Julia xx

    Hi Julia, this is almost certainly your first period as very often menstrual fluid is brown and not red in colour, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki

    Its Kelly again I would like to no if it is normal for your period to last only one day.

    Thnx

    Hi Kelly, yes if the period is very light it can only last a day or two.

  • Vicki! I broke my glasses accidentally! I fell a sleep last night them on..and then they kind of like twisted! The next morning I woke up an found them like that then I tried to bend them back to normal very carefully, then it just went SNAP! They split it half! I told my mum and she said we'll get new ones. Good she wasnt angry...but IM angry to myself! WHY did I have to fall asleep in themmm..grrr! Now Im compleatly blind! I cant see far away! Everything is such a blurrr I cant find my things..help?

    I am sure if you visit your optician he will be able to give you some glasses to keep you going until your new ones a ready. And finally don't be too hard on yourself, I don't know any spectacle wearer who has not done this accidently at some time.

  • Hi viki I've read al most all of ur advise about periods but I don't no if I'm going to get my first period still Im 11 yrs old I have have sore and itchy breasts but they arnt fully developed yet I don't wear a bra only crop tops
    I have a few pubic hairs (down there) and it's very itchy , I have lots cramps in my back and stomach which are so annoying food cravings but no discharge. Sooooo am I getting my period soon and also is there such a thing as a long pad
    Ps carolyn

    Hi Carolyn, firstly with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period, maybe even next year. As for pads, well them come in 3 formats, normal, long and night. Our Freshlock range has all three and are super comfortable and super absorbent too.

  • I haven't yet had my first period but for the last 2 days I have been suffering from blood discharge. I'm only 13 so I don't really know what's going on with my body. When I go to the toilet I just pee normal coloured pee so I don't know.

    Menstrual fluid is often light pink or light brown in colour, so I really do feel this is your period and urge you to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi! I am 15 and I still have boobs of a 10 year old.. is this normal? Are they going to grow or is this the size they are going to stay? I just very insecure because all of my friends have normal sizes for their age and then there is me.

    There is no 'normal' size for any woman to be where breasts are concerned, we really are all different. You may however be comforted to learn that your breasts continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties, so please try not to worry.

  • So on really like this boy ๐Ÿ˜ in my grade he is the cutest one of all lol but everytime I want to talk to him I get nervouse I feel like if he hates me !! How should I talk to him
    Thabks

    Rather than worry about chatting consider smiling at first and just saying "Hi" when you see him. This will get you accustomed to his company and in a few weeks you could ask him how his weekend was...as boys love a girl who finds their hobbies interesting.

  • Heyy
    I have a crush on this guy an he told me he likes me and we like really like each other and we both knew it for along time but just recently admitted it. I can tell that he wants to take things further I just don't know what to say. Like my friend told me he said he wanted to kiss me and I want to kiss him so what should I do? Please answer me :)

    Claud's <3

    Hi Claud, kissing is a very natural activity, there is no need to rush into it and it generally happens when you are both relaxed and without warning. Why not read my blog entitled First Kiss for more on this subject.

  • I've had my period for a few years and still get discharge and it's gotten worse than before. There is a strong odor which scares me that I might have an infection. I can't buy pant liners.

    Discharge can continue in between your periods and up until your early twenties. If there is an odour it could be that discharge is mixing with urine or faeces and for this reason it is very important to keep this area clean by bathing/washing daily and wiping the area thoroughly after visiting the toilet.

  • Hi vicki-
    I have had very heavy discharge at all times for the past few months. It suddenly stopped earlier this week. Do you know what this means?

    Discharge often stops and starts with breaks of several days being very common. It's nothing to worry about and all very normal.

  • Hi Vicki
    Do you have to be a certain weight in order to get your period??
    I'm 12 in 7th grade and I weigh 83 pounds

    No this is a myth. Your period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and when your body feels the time is right for you.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have really dark hair on my body. Under my arms its really rhuck and grows back within the day. I get really selfconscious. I have had my underarms waxed but I don't wan to have to do this a lot. I also have really dark upper lip hair and people take the mick out of me even though I cant help it. I have had it waxed but waiting for the hair to be long enough is a pain. Please help
    Harriet

    Hi Harriet, body hair does become more noticeable during puberty and for most of us when we shave our underarms the hair starts to grow back almost immediately requiring upkeep on a weekly basis. As for your upper lip rather than remove the hair, ask your mum if you can gently lighten it, by using one of the many products on the market. But don't ever be tempted to do this without adult supervision.

  • So basically I'm really close with this boy and I like him a lot and he knows but it's not awkward so were just like best friends and we talk all the time recently I can tell he's been upset and he finally told me why he said his dad is hitting him I've told him to tell someone and he won't I don't know what to say because he's telling me not to worry about him when I do because I'm scared for him I don't know what to do because I don't want him to get hurt what should I do?

    Be there to listen to your friend and urge him to speak to an adult about this matter such as a teacher or close family member who will be able to support and help him further. He can also call Childline on 0800 1111 in complete confidence.

  • He takes me ice skating on Sunday I'm getting my step dad to take me so I can avoid him. What should I do???
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    PART 2

    Rather than cause a rift between you and your family, why not ask your mum and step dad to have a chat to your uncle, letting him know that whilst you are happy he has a new family you find the pressure of having to fall in line with his step children's needs too stressfull and need some time away. I am sure he will understand.

  • My uncle has this new German girlfriend who has 3 kids. (I Go to his on sundays) He always makes me hang out with them, I like them but he's expecting me to learn German Do stuff with them they don't speak English. Last week He said I should watch a movie with them, I said No thanks not in a rude way and now he says I'm rude and selfish cuz I got a Netflix account and he wants to use it, I'm paying for it.
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    PART 1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi, I have a best mate (H) and we are really good friends, today I went to hang out with him and my friend (R) told him I wanted to tell him something and I didn't so I said nothing and went quiet then when I got home he asked me if I was going to ask him out when I went to see him I said no but some girl (J) has already told like the whole of yr7 that I apparently love H what do I do (I don't love H

    There are only two people that matter in this instance and that is you and this boy. If you have made it clear that someone has been telling lies and that you just like him as a friend, then you have no reason to worry and if it were me I would hold my head up high and laugh at the girls who gossip.

  • Hi
    I'm 12 and my boobs have boobs have been quite sore , I wear a bra (underwire) and I'm size 32C. My boobs also have quite big lumps in them what should do? Should I stop wearing underwire?

    Breasts can often feel tender and sore during puberty and a week or so before your period. If your underwired bra fits you correctly and does not dig into your breasts there is no reason why you should stop wearing it.

  • my best guy friend who I have a crush on has just come out as gay, I accept that that is who he is and that he is a great person no matter what sexuality he has but I can't help being heartbroken, I thought that one day we would have been a couple since he had been what I considered flirting to me, now I have no chance. I feel that I have wasted 3 years crushing on him. It also came at a shock since he always asked loads of girls out and constantly talks about how attractive he finds female celebrities.

    How brave of your friend to share this with you and even though you are a little hurt I am sure you will find someone else to be romantically attracted to in time. As for your friend, there is a difference between finding someone attractive and feeling romantically attracted to them, which is why I imagine he finds female celebrities attractive too.

  • how do I get the free samples my mammy has agreed with this

    Click on the link 'Contact' found at the bottom of this page.

  • I really want to buy some pads off amazon but I don't want my mum to know do u know if the outside parcel thingy says like LIL LETS PADS or is it normal ???

    As Lil-Lets do not sell their products direct on Amazon I could not confirm how any products purchased will arrive. If you order products from our website, I can confirm that they arrive in plain brown packaging with no mention of Lil-Lets anywhere on the pack.

  • Hi Vicki
    Today I've been really annoyed because one of me closes friends found out who I liked the day after she found out who I liked! Then the other day I asked her if she liked my crush(because I spoke to him and he said he likes 2 people her and someone else) my mate said no never then when I got home I had a message saying actually I am goin to like him and rib it on your face what shall I do I'm so peed off

    Why not just laugh this off, a boy is never worth losing a friend over and I am sure you agree.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm getting new glasses and they are a thick rimmed type, like the 3D ones you get at the cinema, but I am scared I will be picked on for looking " to geeky" I like my glasses, but others probably won't, because the have never has bits of glass and plastic on their face before.
    Any tips ?????

    Ps , you are so helpful

    My youngest daughter has the very same glasses you are getting and she loves their quirky look. I hope you will be confident wearing yours too, and you may even want to consider changing your style to suit your new glasses, I know my daughter does.

  • Hey Vicki,
    there's this boy in yr 8 (and im in yr 9) called Boris, and he really likes me and hes always putting his arm round me and asking me out, also he tried to touch my hair. Its really patronizing and really uncomfortable as i really don't like him and hes a year younger
    please help me i feel like hes trying to rape me or plan a rape cos he keeps talking to his friends while looking at me! Its scary now.

    Darcy-Mae xx

    If you do not feel comfortable around this boy or he touches you without your permission be firm and tell him to move away. If he does not listen then have a chat to your teacher who will speak to him in private and advise him his behaviour is not acceptable.

  • Hey viki it's mmmmm part 2

    Also I have a few anxiety and self harm issues and nearly opened up to him but chickened out should I tell him cos know body knows and I feel I can trust him and he said whatever was wrong he would like to hel if I was ready. And I have knowing to talk to and he said I was his friend Sorry it's so long! ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

    Firstly, I am concerned to learn that you and others were intoxicated and I am sure you know that this is not suitable for someone under the age of 18. My advice is to share the issue of self harm with your parents or a teacher as they will be able to offer you the help and support you need....and keep your conversations with this boy on a less serious level until you are 100% sure you both feel the same way about each other.

  • Hey viki it's Mmmm
    So there is this boy I think I love but he is my brothers best friend! So the other night we all got drunk and me and my brothers best friend got close and kissed! The next day he had forgotten everything! But someone filled him in and he said he was sorry. But I still really like what should I do? P.s my brother doesn't know! I hardly ever see him, so how can I get close?
    Part 1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki, I am just coming up to my my period and my boobs feel really sore. Is that normal?

    This is very normal and lots of women experience breast tenderness a week or so before their period arrives.

  • Hi i told my mum about discharge and she said to use pads and then i brought her in the bathroom the other day and showed her my pants and she said use what i told you then but im kinda shy and embarested to just take her pads i rather have my own but how should i ask/ talk to her more about it? Xxx

    Why not use some of your mums for now and then the next time she goes shopping ask if you can have some smaller pads or liners from our teens range. She will be able to find them in her local supermarket or chemist.

  • Hi ive had discharges for a year and something i also have pubic hair breast developing etc and for the last 2/3 weeks my discharges got really thick and gone different they got in my pants really bad and also starts to stink what should i do?

    Keeping yourself extra clean during puberty is very important and you may find wearing our Lil-Lets teens pant liners every day will help keep any odours at bay.

  • basically my parents have realised I may have anxiety and depression. one parent is like "its fine to cry" and the other one is like "its your own fault you are like this you don't make an effort to talk to us". I don't know what to do. I g=have trust issues and I want to go to the doctor but im scared and I also don't want my parents telling people about my 'problems'.
    I don't know where to start and I hope this makes sense tah xx

    I am sure if your parents feel your mood swings are more than just those of a hormonal teenager they will speak to your doctor regarding this matter, so please try not to self diagnose your emotions and let your parents guide you through this time in your life.

  • i masterbate like almost every day because i feel the need to almpst all the time. am i being bad?

    Masturbation is not harmful in anyway, although remember that spending time with family and friends being active is also important too.

  • My mum has always wore pads but i want to see what its like wearing a tampon but my mum hates them how should i ask her for them??

    Why not show her a picture of our teens tampons designed for first time users just like you. They are shorter and narrower than other brands but still just as absorbent.

  • hi Viki
    I had pink on my liner today and i dont know what it is!!
    I looked it up on the internet and it said that you could be that you will soon start your period or your pregnant! i havnt had sex because i am only 12 and i am really scared! I cant be pregnant can I ?!
    i told my mum and she said she got the same when she was 12 and got her period at 13.
    i am still really worried Please help me! im worried and scared!

    This is most likely your period, even though only a little blood has been released. It would be a good idea to wear a pant liner for the next couple of days, just in case a little more period blood is lost.

  • Hi Vicki

    I'm really depressed cos I get bullied at school. This is cos of my name and my siblings' names. There's my big bruv, Harper (I know, piper and Harper!?) he's 14. Then I'm Piper,13 and my lil twin sisters are harmony and melody and they're 12. Adding to that between us we play 11 instruments and go to singing lessons. I can't believe our parents called us this. Do you have any advice to help stop the bullying?
    Thanks, love Piper.

    If people are teasing your because of your names and talent, my advice would be to ignore them and carry on being yourself. You have beautiful names and really this is something to be very proud of, I think...don't you!

  • so basically i got measured at a bra shop anbd they gave me bras and my bras fit me but they r a D cup. but my boobs are tiny. i dont understand?

    It's important I feel for girls to understand it is not always the higher letters or numbers that signify how large your breasts are, you have to take into account how both measurements work with each other when added together. So it is very normal therefore for someone with a D cup to not feel as full in the breast as another person with a smaller cup size.

  • Hi viki i am 11 and i am a year 7 student . after a few weeks i started liking this boy he is in all my classes and i really like him what do i do xxxxx please help ( thanks (:


    Why not get to know this boy, say "Hi" when you see him or smile. After a few weeks ask him what he's been up to at the weekends. You will soon be able to see if he feels the same about you once you have started chatting.

  • Hi do you like cheese?
    From cheese
    xxx

    Love cheese, especially Brie.

  • Hi I was wondering if you could tell me my bra size I am 28 inch on top 25 inch fullest and 27 inch under , I'm 11 and I wear a crop top but I was wondering if I was big enough for a bra

    32AA is your bra size and whilst you can still wear a crop top for now if you prefer, you will find bras in your size if you wish to start wearing one.

  • Hey Vicki. Abbie Here. Theres A guy Right Ive known him for ยฃ years now. Lets Call Him JJ I have liked him for ages and ages and He Only Likes Me as a friend and I know that from the way he treats me sometimes. One Day We Were Sitting In French Together and he kept on putting Hid foot On Mine And he has been Doing this 4 sometime. I Really Like him xS Help Me xxxx

    It may be time to let JJ know how you feel and if he does not feel the same you will know for sure and can move on.

  • Hi,I'm 13 now I started my periods last yeah July. I last saw my period on August and its October now I'm really scared and worried plz answer

    Please don't be worried, periods often have large gaps of several months between each one, as your body continues to work out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • all my friends have told me i am way too thin and need to eat more and some people at school call me anorexic. we had an assembly on anorexia and were told we should tell the school if we think we or somebody we know has it. i researched it when i got home and i found an online quiz made by a doctor so i took it and i told me that i was anorexic and now that i think about i think i might be. i show all of the symptoms. what if i am anorexic? what should i do because i am way to scared to tell my parents?!

    Medical conditions should only ever be discussed and diagnosed by a medical professional and not via an online quizz. My advice would be to stop listening to other people in your class and instead have a chat to your parents or teacher about how you feel and why you believe you may have an eating disorder. I am sure they will be able to offer you the advice and support you need with regard to this matter.

  • hi
    when I was 12 I started to masturbate and I do it quite often now although I haven't done it for about 1 month now I masturbate by rubbing my vagina on my duvet. I was wondering if there were any risks with this and I so feel really out of place and dirty because I masturbate im 14 btw

    Masturbation is a natural and instinctive way of exploring how your body feels when touched, how you choose to do it, is your business and nothing to feel dirty about.

  • Dear Vicki

    Thank you for answering my previous question!
    I am just saying that my best friend keeps ignoring me and dosent really wanna play with me and we used to be really close and when we went swimming once and I was asking her to look she never even bothered to look๐Ÿ˜ข. This makes me feel sad and I sometimes cry because I have never had a friend like her in my life but now we just disagree with each other

    Please answer as soon as you can
    Thank you!
    From 16star18 xx

    Friendships can change over time and especially in your teen years. Why not have a chat to your friend and ask her if there is a problem. It may simply be that as a teenager she needs some more alone time and does not always feel like talking.

  • Hi Vicki , i used a tampon for the first time today and when I went to take it out it hurt so much! It was like a really bad stinging pain and it was then like a dull pain for a while after I'd got it out! The tampon was only half covered but I'd got the lowest absorbency!

    If a tampon feels tightly held when you go to remove it then this is a sign it has not absorbed sufficient menstrual fluid and should be left in a little longer - but never longer than 8 hours. If it was the lightest absorbency available then it may be that you should consider wearing a pant liner or pad instead of a tampon on your lighter flow days.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been getting discharge for quite a long time now, but my period hasn't happened yet. I was wondering when it might happen and if it's close? Thanks!

    Discharge can often be noticed for between 6-12 months, sometimes even longer so please try not to worry.

  • hi, so i'm going on a trip for a couple of days with my school and we are gonna do some swimming. i can't wear tampons so what shall i do if i AM on my period?

    If you are on your period and need to go in the water you should wear a tampon, if you are not comfortable to do so, they ask your mum to write a note excusing you from this activity.

  • Hi Vicki!,
    Basically, this girl that was really nasty to me keeps flirting with this boy I know and I don't know why but I get really jealous as no one likes me and I even over heard some boys saying that I was the loner nerd in my year even though I have lots of friends!! Anyway I don't know what to do about this jealousy?!? I just want someone to like me!!
    Thank you xx

    I am sure these comments were made in jest as you have nothing to worry about. It would be a good idea to stop feeling so jealous of this girl, we really are all different and even if you do not like her, accept that others may like her and as such keep any contact with her friendly.

  • hi, as u have already said to me and other people; periods are usually irregular for the first few years. but does that mean that i will never know exactly when i'm gonna start and will have my period leak every time for those years? because this has happened 3 or 4 times already.

    It could mean that your period will arrive when you least expect it, but very often the first sign that your period is here is just a little bit of blood in your underwear or on tissue when you wipe down there. So my advice is to consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis so your underwear is always protected from the first blood lost.

  • hi
    I have discharge every day sometimes my vagina itches and ill itch it (with pants on) but anyway if I smell my hnd afterwards it smells a lot like fish is this the discharge or something else

    This is a mixture of discharge, sweat and urine and you may find wearing pant liners will stop the irritation.

  • Hello
    Just a quicky is using scented panty-liners okay for discharge? Xx
    Thanks lily

    Hi Lily, yes it's fine.

  • Hi vicki, i have once asked you a question asking when might i start my period as i had discharge for nearly 2 years.i started my period yesterday when i woke up and it was quite scary at first but i got use to it,each time i change the blood was very,very heavy however i change it to a new pad an hour and a half ago and there is the faintest drip of blood and im scared that my period has endend for this month when i heard they should last for atleast 4 days! Summer x

    A period can vary in length, sometimes just a day or two, other times up to 10 days. So please don't worry this is all very normal.

  • Today I felt stuff co,em out into my pants I looked in my pants and it was all wet with thick white discharge in it? I'm 12 and havnt started my period and was wondering if this was mucas?

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. It is very normal and a sign that your period may not be too far away.

  • hello
    I am currently 14 and I will be turning 15 in a few months.
    I have not started my period yet and I already know that my mum started her period at 15.
    its not that im scared that I havent started my period its just that all my friends have
    I am quite skinny (about 7.2 stone) and I am quite tall I am also very flat chested, I started to get discharge definatly over 8 months ago but I have no signs of starting my period yet.

    You may find you follow the same pattern for menstruation as your mum, so I would not worry a period and the signs of a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi vicki

    When I'm on my period I only get about 1-2 hours of sleep every night for about a week which are about 2 days before my period and a few on my period aswell. The funny thing is that I'm not tired in the day but I'm just a bit worried incase it's bad for my health. Also I get so bored just lying in bed not being able to sleep

    If you feel fine, then I would not worry too much. You may find a glass of warm milk will help you stay asleep all night, or even going to bed half an hour later may be beneficial too.

  • I'm 14 and I'm only a 28aa. Is this normal and how long dies it take to finish puberty.

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age and as they continue to develop into your early twenties for some people, I am sure you have plenty of development still to come.

  • Hi Vicki, I know this isn't really about periods or emotions or anything, but i have my cervical cancer injection on Monday. The thing is, I'm scared of injections ๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜ญ what should I do? At school I don't have many friends either, I'm beginning to be really antisocial. I don't want people to laugh at me if I cry or something ๐Ÿ˜ญ please help? Thanks, Anna x

    Hi Anna, the HPV injection is very quick and virtuously painless, have a chat to the nurse giving the injection  and let her know how nervous you are; she will be trained to put your mind at ease. If it becomes a real issue you could always ask your mum to pop you to your GP to have the vaccination done there.

  • hi I'm only 11 and I really want my period. I wonder when I will get it because I'm only
    5 stone please give me an idea of when I will get it.

    A period can arrive anytime  between the ages of 8-18, so why not read all the great stuff on our website, so you can look out for the signs that yours may not be too far away.

  • PaRt ThReEEEEEEEEEEE (threee three threeee)


    And, I dunno, blush? And according to a friend, JD said that CD was pretty...(BTW ARE YOU PROUD OF ME SPELLING CHEY'S NAME RIGHT?!) Argh I ship them so much. But anyway, the Real Question - DO THEY SOUND AS THOUGH THEY ARE INTO EACH OTHER?! Love, meh xxxxxxxx

    As much as you want to be a matchmaker, it is clear that both CD and JD are not ready to date or make any kind of committment. So it would I feel be a good idea to let this matter drop as it is clear they are both embarrassed by the attention. If they are meant to be they will find a way to do so without the assistance of others.

  • PARET TWOOOOOO

    is this why CD wont tell me who she likes? Also, do you think that J and CD like each other? They seem to get on really well but seem a little shy around each other (especially CD lol) and, IDK...they are both really embarresesd about how we keep on about them together...but its kinda cute how embarresed they are. So I think they like each other. Maybe its my imagination but they stare at each other?

    See my response in Part Three.

  • PART ONE
    My friend CD is like the only one who hasnt told our whole group who she fancies. I think that she has told MD who she likes but I'm not sure...but anyway, we all think that CD should go out with JC. THEY WOULD BE SO PERFECT. Honestly, they look so good together. We all have out in a massive group but sometimes I hang out with other people instead in the year above or just other people -

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I am 13 and started my periods 2 years ago, i am only size 32AA, will i be this size forever.

    Breasts can continue to grow even when your period has arrived and this development can be noticed into your early twenties. Why not read my blog entitled Your period is not the end of the story, for more on this subject.

  • Viki Im so scared, i wore a pant liner to school today and when i just went to the loo there was pin stuff on it.
    I no periods are red but this is pink!! I don't no what this is and i am really scared!
    Please answer soon, i need help

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour, sometimes dark red, other times brown or light pink. So why not see what happens over the next few days. If more blood is lost have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi Viky I trimmed my pubic hair then shaved it by wetting the razor im 11 is this ok

    It is preferable to lather the hair and not the razor to avoid nicking the skin or causing razor burn, which can leave the area very sore.

  • Hi Vicki, this boy in my class told my best friend that he likes me. I have mixed feelings about this as I he already knows that I like someone else. What should I do? Thank you so much :)

    Just because someone likes you does not mean you have to like them back romantically. So you could make it clear how much you value his friendship but are not looking for anything else at this time.

  • I really want to tell my mum about my discharge but can never seem to bring myself to do it I can't send her the e card any ideas on how to start the conversation ways to make it less awkward p.s I dont want to write it down or text her. Love sadie xxx

    Hi Sadie, I am sure your mum already knows you have discharge as she will see it when she does the weekly laundry. She will also understand it is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki why do loads of girls who hAvnt got there period complain about not having one and say 'I wish I had my period' I'm asking because periods stink and it makes you feel rubbish why do they want it so badโ“
    Also what period type of period products do you use?
    Thanks๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒน๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒˆ๐Ÿ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿฑ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡ง๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡ง

    Periods are a just one of the signs that you are becoming a young woman which is very exciting for some girls, so it is only natural that they are anxious for it to arrive. In answer to your last question; I use Lil-Lets Freshlock pads and Lil-Lets non applicator tampons and have used Lil-Lets since I was a teenager.

  • Hi Vicki is there any way of getting free period products I know lil lets do samples but are there any over ways ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽˆ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    There are two ways to get your hands on our teens sample pack. Request one from me by clicking on the 'Contact' tab at the bottom of the page, or find out if your school has decided to run the Lil-Lets teens schools programme, each girl who attends the lesson not only gets to watch our fabulous film on puberty but also recieves a free sample too.

  • Hey! I'm writing a fan fiction set in the 80s which is written about a celebrity and a normal person. How can these two meet? I've written so many that I'm running out of ideas๐Ÿ˜‚ multiple ways would be brilliant!
    Thank you so much!
    Also, you have helped me so much!

    Why not have a think about everyday meetings you have with friends and family and adapt those into possible meetings scenarios for your characters and best of luck with your book.

  • Hi Viki! I shaved my pubic area 2 days ago and I just used shower gel and a razor. After I shaved them I used a scissor so snip a few more hairs off. Ever since 'down there' has been really itchy and irritating. It's hard to ignore it at school. Is there anything I can do and will I go away any time soon? Please help!

    Shaving can do this and my advice is to let the hair grow back and the irriation will subside in time. In future consider just trimming this area rather than shaving to avoid further irritation.

  • Hi vicki , I was just wondering if it hurts to take out a tampon ? I am in year 9 ,I have had my period for about a year and I am worried about starting to use them instead of pads because of all the horror stories I have been told. My mum bought me some lil-lets teens applicator tampons because she thought these would be good to start with?? Only one of my friends have had their period and she uses pads so I didn't know who to ask. Thank you - lauren x๐Ÿ’•

    Hi Lauren, tampons are great for when you want to be active, are convenient and super discreet too. Inserting and removing a tampon should not be painful at all and included in every pack of tampons is a booklet that carries information on how to use the correct tampon for your flow. So why not give them a go and remember just like anything new it can take a few attempts to position a tampon correctly.

  • Hi Vicki!!!! So im a little concerned about my labia. I think its that flap of skin on either side of my vaginal opening. Well on one side its big, floppy, wrinkled and red, and on the other side its pinky and there's really no flap at all. is there something wrong?

    Thatila

    XXXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxXXXXXXXXXXXXXXHHHHHHHHHHHHHHEEEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!

    There is nothing wrong Thatila, your labia starts to change in both colour and shape as you enter puberty and it is very common for one side of your labia to be different to the other, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicky ,
    I've stated my period but hate wearing pants what shall u do please I'm so worried x

    Why not consider wearing tampons they are comfortable, discreet and great for reducing any odours you may notice when wearing pads. They also come in a wide variety of absorbencies so there will always be a tampon to suit your flow.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering if I could ask you something. I started my period in August and then I haven't saw any signs of anything until now? I've put on a pad just to be on the safe side but is that sort of gap normal in your first periods?

    Long gaps between each period can often be experienced for the first couple of years and as your body gets used to your individual menstrual cycle.

  • hi vicki,

    a lot of people at school talk about sex and most of them aren't virgins and they are all freshman like me. i get very uncomfortable sometimes and i feel like I'm the only one who hasn't even experienced kissing. i feel left out. :(

    elle

    Hi Elle, please don't feel left out of anything, a great many teenagers wait until their late teens or even early twenties to have a first date, so you are not alone and there is nothing wrong with waiting for the right person to come along.

  • Hey,
    Im a bit worried beacause i have been using scented panty-liners and im a bit worried beacause all my friend wear non -scented beacause scented will give you an infection or something! Will scented panty-liners give me an infection?
    Please reply
    Lily xxxxx

    Hi Lily, your friends are mistaken and whilst some people may find scented pant liners a little irritating, they are not harmful in any way; it really is about personal choice and what suits you.

  • Im really scared. People are saying you can gt pregnant by masturbating because we produce our own sp*** and we can get pregnant but i have no idea if i started producing spe**. Is this true. I do masturbate and fluid comes out every time i do. Help im only 13. I have started my period but this time it lasted for 6 days when it usally lats for 5 days and it usally came on time but this time it came 2 days early. Am i pregnant PLEASE ANSWER IM REALLY SCARED!!!!

    Your friends are very much mistaken. You cannot get pregnant by masturbating and girls do not produce sperm. The liquid you notice when masturbating is a natural lubricant made by the body and nothing to be worried about. As for your period, well it is very common for the length of each one to vary from time to time and again nothing for you to be anxious about.

  • Hey Vicki it's Annie so I have this friend group we call our selfs "the s" and it's a few girls and a few guys and there's this girl that can b anyoing at times and he dosnt really fit in and we drop hints for her to leave but she doesn't take them also there's this group that doesn't fit
    In with us at all and we don't want to hang with them but they hang around us and we've tried walking away but they just follow and we can't just b like we don't want to hang with you leave what do I do?

    Hi Annie, it would be nice if you could all try and get along, accepting that some of you may not gel as well as you do with others, but nevertheless it is great to have a wide and varied group of friends, so why not put a positive slant on this problem and get to know this girl and this other group a little better.

  • Hey Vicki it's Annie, I went to my swim lesson on my period I was just fine but there were a few times where I could feel my tampon. Abyways I know there's probably not but other than birth control is there a way I can make my period shorter or lighter?

    Not really no, as for your tampon, it is most likely that you had not inserted the tampon high enough inside your vaginal passage, which can often feel uncomfortable.

  • I get so so moody how can I control it

    There are a couple of things you can do; give yourself some alone time for 10 minutes or so, doing things you love to do. Get active, as this releases chemicals in the body that leave you feeling happier. Find some fun things to do with your family that you can all take part in. And finally, don't beat yourself up too much about the moody moments and instead work towards reducing them.

  • I didn't have my period yes my doctors says somtime in 4 months But my mom Dosent believe it she refuses to talk about it So if been staying up searching the internet for questions about My period.I would feel much more comfortable with info from her and I'm Comfortable talking to her but she isn't.Please help!!

    I am sorry to hear that your mum finds discussing periods uncomfortable. Why not start off other conversations between you both that will start to build a bond. Such as what hairstyles did she have as a teenager, what age did she get her first bra. I am sure after a few weeks she will feel much more at ease discussing periods once you have chatted about other matters first.

  • Hey Vicki,

    For the pat month I've had all the signs for my period, I even usually have a little blood in my discharge. But why hasn't it started yet?

    Your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and so please be patient this can be anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicki kendall sorry if this is inappropriate at all but I just wanted to see of this was normal.
    Basically my nipples are large. And I don't mean large as in wide or anything but there always fat? There never small they always look really fat?
    Is this normal?

    Nipples come in a variety of shapes, sizes and colours and during development they can often appear swollen and puffy, this is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Recently, I found out that my best friend has a crush on my all-time crush too. I still love her but I still love him too. I feel less bad since I found out that she also has a crush on a few other boys. I know this guy has known I fancy him forever but I passed up an opportunity to go out with him when he asked me out a few years ago. And now I think he might be interested in my friend??? Feeling awful - what do I do? Saffy

    Hi Saffy, why not let this boy you like him. Smile when you see him, ask him how his weekend was, it could be that you are still someone he considers a romantic interest, he may just need these signs from you to let him know you feel the same.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 23 I have had unprotected sex with my boyfrind ax we are trying to conceive I have now missed 2 periods taken 2 tests results negative had a hormone test at docs all ok not sure if she tested hcg tho but I am now 33 days late had a few stomach cramps my boobs are not tender but the have been feeling as tho someone is pulling on them or they are expanding please could u give some advice on ehat it could be or what to do

    Thank you

    Why not go back to your GP's surgery and ask them to run another test, they will be able to advise you further once they have the results.

  • Im nearly 15 and for the past week I've been getting a lot of discharge. Its clear and odourless and doesn't itch or hurt but there is a lot of it every day and it feels really wet and horrible. I sometimes wear pantyliners but im worried somethings wrong. Ive also not started my periods and all my friends have. What should i do?

    There really is nothing to worry about, discharge can very often be clear in colour and the amount produced can vary from day to day. It is also a great sign that your period is not too far away so make sure you have some pads or liners with you in preparation.

  • How to ask my mum if I can use tampons? I am going on holiday for 4 weeks over the Christmas holidays and I am going to Barbados so a lot of swimming involves! I will principally be on my period at some point so should I use tampons?


    molly Alexandra xx

    Hi Molly, tampons are great when you plan to be in the water and I am sure if you ask your mum if you can start wearing tampons she will understand your reasons. Just like anything tampons can take a little bit of practice to get right, so my advice would be to try inserting one during your next period and you may find our Lil-lets teens non applicator regular tampons a great first choice; they have been designed with teens and first time users in mind as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • How old should you be when you try tampons? I do a lot if dance and I don't know if I should use then for that!

    If you feel comfortable to use internal sanitary protection and understand your flow then there is no reason why you should not use a tampon. You may find our Lil-Lets teens range of non-applicator tampons ideal, as they are designed for first time users.

  • Hey Vicki,

    I need to buy new bras, I'm a size 32 EE. due to my wrong sized bras I have now, overtime my chest has been growing and my mum said to make my boobs 'pushed up' naturally, I need to buy bras my size. What type of bras would form my chest naturally pushed up when I'm older? I have no clue, push up? Padded?

    Thanks ________________________________________________________

    It is not so much about pushing your breasts up, but more importantly finding a bra that supports your breasts and reduces any shoulder or back ache and lots of bras will do this. Why not get yourself measured in store and ask the assistant to find you some styles to try on.

  • I think I'm going through a cliche teen girl phase. My family annoys the heck out of me. I'd rather be alone that be around them which makes me feel awful but I can't help it I just hate them for some reason. When I'm not alone at home I'm hanging with friends. That's all i ever do anymore I'm either alone or hanging with friends outside of school. Is this normal and just a phase or is this just who I am?

    This is fairly normal, but that does not mean it has to be the 'norm' and you can choose to change this if you wish to. Yes families can be challenging from time to time, but they can also be a joy and the memories will stay with you for a lifetime, even if it is something as simple as watching your favourite TV show together, so why not make the effort to spend more time with them and less time in your room.

  • I want to use tampons but I'm scared I will get TSS... Do u die from TSS? Xx
    aged 13

    TSS can be fatel in very rare circumstances, but this should not prevent you from enjoying the freedom wearing tampons can offer and many millions of women all over the world use tampons with no issues. In each pack of tampons there will be clear instructions for the safe use of tampons that can reduce the chances of contracting this rare illness.

  • I looked at your blog about periods at school but I am still really scared it is going to happen at school that it is then going to leak through my tiets at everyone is going to laugh at me.What should I do??
    P.S. Sorry if inepropriet

    The chances of this happening are very slim and generally the first time you will notice your period has arrived is when you visit the toilet and see a little bit of blood has been released, leaving you plenty of time to place a pad in your underwear. But if you are anxious consider wearing a pant liner on a daily basis from now on for extra protection.

  • Why do I get itchy down there sometimes?
    From Cuteteen aged 13 xx

    It could be due to overheating, so keep this area cool by wearing cotton underwear and loose fitting clothes.

  • I was going to ask my crush out this week but he hasn't been in and we have 1 week left and i want to ask him before school finishes


    Please answer ASAP
    Xx
    Thanks viki and your team for helping me out xx

    Why not wait and see if he returns next week and ask if you can meet up during school break.

  • Vicki, I feel like I do lots of thing to help in the house. (I don't mean to sound un-greatful or snobbish.) I clean, I do dishes, I do laundry, I walk the dog, I do errands etc. But my parents still say I do NOTHING. It gets me so wound up. Like earlier I was so tired so I went for a bath and I had only been in for 5mins and I got called to put my brother to bed. I never get time to do other things and rush my homework at the last minuete. What can I do to get freetime?

    Why not start a diary of your daily events including household chores and after a couple of weeks share this with your parents, they will clearly see you need some time for yourself I am sure.

  • vicky
    i dont know what to do my english teacher hates me and i have her 4 times a week she alway shouts at me and gives me detention
    what should i do i have her tomz
    asap
    lola

    If you feel your teacher is being unfair in her discussions with you, then have a chat to your parents who will give the school a call to see what the issue is here.

  • 1) I have bad period pains in school and out of school but when I'm in school and in lessons so I can't walk around or anything, how do I tell my teacher without getting embarrassed?
    2) when I slept over my friends house I was on my period and I have really bad cramps but I didn't know what to say to her mum and if I go to one of my friends houses again when I'm on my period what could I say to their mum if I have a bad stomach? Thankyou

    There really is no need to speak to anyone about this discomfort. Have a chat to your mum about managing the pain with a hot water bottle or pain killers when necessary and always given by an adult.  For your part, be sure not to hunch over your desk which can often make the pain worse.

  • Hi vicki, I'm 13 and have 32D boobs and all my friends say they're jelous of me but I hate it!:( some boys in my class mess about with me and talk about them but I don't mind that because they are like saying its a good thing if you get what I mean๐Ÿ˜‚should I feel self conscious about how big they are? Thankyou, laney xxx

    Hi Laney, you should never feel self conscious about your shape no matter what that shape maybe.

  • when do i get periods i am 9

    Periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi Vicky:)
    I have had discharge for about a 1-1/2 years now and I've started having this brown kinda goo in my pants, by the time I look it's hard but is this my period? I am a size 34c in bra I have armpit hair and hair down below, hairy legs (if I don't shave them) but I have had no tummy pains, is this normal?
    I'm 13
    Frankie

    Hi Frankie, your body is maturing just as it should and this brown goo you have noticed is almost certainly your first period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi Vicki, my question is...Is it true that 2 years after your boobs have started devolved you start your period? Xx

    For some girls this is true, but as we are all do very different it is not true for everyone.

  • im really scared about my period I don't no when its gonna come what should I do about it?

    Try reading all the great stuff here on our website, this should leave you feeling alot more relaxed about periods and puberty in general. Our blogs on periods are great too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    On Monday I got the job injection I think that's what it's called everyone else got the flu one aswell apart from me I wanted to know where I can get it or the next time they come with injections I think 6 months time is to get it then
    Chocoholic ๐Ÿซ

    If you feel you have missed a vaccination, have a chat to your mum who will contact the school and your doctor who will arange to give you the vaccination at the surgery.

  • Hi vicki,
    theres this girl in my class that is OBSESSED with the two girls i hang around with. She always follows us round and I CANT STAND IT ANYMORE!!! I dont wanna sit with her and its so fustrating!!!! I dont want to loose my two other friends and i dont want know what to do!!
    please answer ASAP because i need some help!!!!!
    thanks,
    marshmallow17

    Have you asked your friends how they feel about this girl being around. If they are happy to be in her company then it really is a case of getting used to this new dynamic in your friendship group and whilst you may not always feel a connection to this girl you can still be friends and nice to each other.

  • Hi vicki! Big fan of your blog, it's been a great help. I had my period last week, but I only had discharge for about 1 month before hand. Is this normal? Thank you so much!

    This is normal and nothing to worry about, some girls never experience discharge which is very normal too.

  • Hi Vicki. My bestfriend and I used to be so close. We never ever said a bad word about eachother. But she has a boyfriend (has had for 9 years) and whenever hes around and his bestfriend she dumps me and goes off with them. Then I follow behind them trying to join in and they all nudge eachother and run off. It makes me feel like poo. I don't like any other girls in my class cause theyre all girly, pretty and Im country, equestrian. Why is this happening?

    You really should speak to your friend, letting her know how hurtful you find it when she walks off without you when her boyfriend is around. Explain that good friends stick together and for your part understand too that she and her boyfriend will need some alone time and for this reason consider making new friends, even if they appear a little different to what you are used to, I am sure they are interesting.

  • Hey Vicki, I really want a phone so that I can listen to music at school. Music is like my "escape" and it makes me feel better. I can just cope better with it, I know that may sound silly. Anyway, I asked my mum for a phone and she said that don't need one because I'm only 12 and she think I'm too young even though I'm in year 8. I'm kind of annoyed about this because I don't see why she won't let me have a phone. Why wouldn't my mum want me to have a phone?

    Phones can be expensive and as such are a great responsibility and it may be that your mum does not feel you are ready for that level of committment.  Why not wait a while and add one to a Christmas or birthday wish list. As for phones in school, I do not agree with this, nor do I feel they should be used when studying.

  • I am so stressed at the minuet with school and just everything! Will stress bring on chest pain? Because just now I got up and had a really sharp pain in the left side of my chest and gets worse when I get up or breathe in, as I say I have been feeling very stressed and a little down recently, why am I getting this pain? Im 14, please help๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒ†๐ŸŒƒ๐ŸŒŒ๐ŸŒ‰๐ŸŽ‘๐ŸŒ„๐ŸŒ…๐ŸŒ‡๐ŸŒ‹๐ŸŒŠ๐Ÿ—พ๐Ÿ—ฝ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿ—ผ๐Ÿ—ป๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฏ

    Stress can affect us in many ways and it could be that your breathing is laboured due to stress,  so why not have a chat to your parents or teacher about what is making you feel so stressed and together you can work out ways to improve your life and school workload.

  • At my school people tease me for having big boobs and when I'm swimming they show the boys my bra. I'm a size 32 D and what is the average size for an 11 year old. Thx ##=##

    There is no average size for breasts to be no matter what your age. My advice is to have a chat to your teacher about this behaviour which is inappropriate and for your part, try to be proud of your shape and ignore any silly remarks.

  • Hello Vicki. I have been having a bit of boy trouble lately. You see I like this guy he is in some of my classes but there never is really a time to to talk and what do I talk about ?how do I start a conversation.?I think he might like me as I sometimes catching him looking at me but I don't know it that means anything. I'm an awkward and shy person. So it's difficult help! Sorry for all the questions!
    Thanks so much! Marlia ๐Ÿ˜ƒASAP please

    Hi Marlia, ask him how his weekend was and what he got up to. Boys do like to think girls take an interest in their hobbies and this is a great way to start a conversation.

  • Hi Vicki
    Sorry to ask questions all the time but my discharge is becoming thicker and there seems to be a lot more of it . I know this is a normal sign but I just wondered because there's more of it would my period come soon .
    Thank you
    Pink heart

    P.s I've had it for over a year xx

    Hi, discharge can vary in both colour and texture from day to day and is based on the level of hormones in your body, thicker and creamier discharge can be a sign that your period is not too far away once your periods have settled into a more regular routine.

  • Hey Vicki could you please do a blog about being a lesbian cuz I feel like Im attracted to girls AND boys, like biasexual or something like that. I dont wanna be and Ive seen many other girlies having this problem. xxx

    I will add this to the list of future blogs.

  • Hi Vicky! I am 12 and have had 2 period cycles. My third is about a month late (Im not concerned because I know it will be irregular), but I hate pads! They are uncomfortable, make noises and dont fit because theyre too big! I would wear tampons but Im new to periods and Im too scared to ask my mum. Should I ask for tampons, or are tbere more comfortable pads?

    Tampons are very comfortable if inerted correctly and if you feel they would be more suitable for you, why not ask your mum if you can try our Lil-Lets teens tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands they are designed for first time users.

  • i have a whitehead spot on my lip, what shall i do?

    My advice is to keep it clean and leave it be. It will most likely disappear on its own.

  • There is this boy that i like and we have had sex but he has just moved away what should i do

    If this boy has moved away and you have no plans to see each other in the future or keep in touch, then it would be a wise decision to move on.

  • Hi I'm 12 I started my period when I was 11. I got my period yesterday and it's just been brown discharge and nothing is on the pad. I am really worried please help. Thanks

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and light in flow too! It's nothing to worry about and is simply your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Vicky, I've been having discharge for about a year and a half and I've heard a lot of people say they use pant liners for discharge.. I don't, is that okay? It goes onto my pants but it gets washed off in the washing machine!! Xx

    There is no need to use pant liners if you are comfortable with discharge and as you say; it easily washes out of underwear once washed. It really is a personal choice.

  • Can you flush pads down the toilet? Only because I share a bathroom with 4 other siblings, one older sister, 2 younger sisters and a younger brother! I don't really want to be throwing my bloody pads in the bin in case they see! Can I flush them down the loo? Erica xoxoxo

    Hi Erica, you should never flush any sanitary protection down the toilet as it could block the pipework that flows from your house to the sewage plant and I am sure you would not want this to happen. So always wrap your pad up in the wrapper of your new pad or some toilet tissue and dispose of with normal household waste. Some people also like to use disposal bags that can be purchased in most supermarkets and chemists.

  • Dear viki
    So in school in drama we are doing a talent show and we all have to do it I'm gonna sing but I do keep it to myself that I'm a good singer as I am on my own but when other people are there I get nervous and get bad so I'm really nervous in case people laugh
    From
    Libby

    Hi Libby, if you are a good singer then this is your chance to shine and I am sure once people hear you they will be very proud of their classmate.

  • I keep on getting itches *down there* and it's really awkward at school when it gets really itchy! I think it's just my pubic hair but could it be thrush/yeast infection?? Cheers, Abigail. X

    Hi Abigail, it may be the type of garments you are wearing that are causing the itch. If you can wear some cotton underwear and loose fitting clothes to avoid overheating this area of your body.

  • Hi Vicki- I really need help. This is really embarrassing, but when I'm out in public I literally cannot eat anything without gagging or feeling sick. I don't know why, but the minute I have to go get food in public I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack. It's my friend's birthday soon and we want to go out shopping, but I am so stressed out and don't want to go. Please help me ASAP! Meg_The_Dalek

    Hi Meg, why not eat before you go shopping and then simply have a drink when you are out, by taking small steps such as this to eat in public you will soon feel comfortable eating different meals when out and about.

  • Hi
    How do you know if the pad you are wearing fits you propally if you know what i mean! When i wore one it felt all clumpy and uncomfotable is that what they are surpossed to feel like?
    Thank you
    Please reply xxx

    Not really no, it may be the pad was a little too large and you may find our Lil-Lets teens day pads a more suitable option.

  • Hi Vicki- I really need help. This is really embarrassing, but when I'm out in public I literally cannot eat anything without gagging or feeling sick. I don't know why, but the minute I have to go get food in public I feel like I'm going to have a panic attack. It's my friend's birthday soon and we want to go out shopping, but I am so stressed out and don't want to go. Please help me ASAP! Meg_The_Dalek

    Hi Meg, why not eat before you go shopping and then simply have a drink when you are out, by taking small steps such as this to eat in public you will soon feel comfortable eating different meals when out and about.

  • hi Vicki, so my best friend(M) and I(K) have been friends for 7 years and were now in year9. in y7 she told me she got her periods, but I don't think its true she never goes to the toilet ever and other reasons. my other friend(L) and I have started and we don't think she has although she never told L. also me and L are the same bra size(32B) so she told us she was a B even though she clearly isn't. should I confront her about this or not.
    thanks!

    Why do you need to confront your friend about this, surely as a good friend you will accept her comments and be supportive, regardless of whether you feel her comments are true or not.

  • Hi Vicky you recently answered an important question of mine. thank you my mum said yes. Please tell me where the free sample link is for sanitary products.

    It is at the bottom of the page - Contact.

  • hi vicki

    im really REALLY scared about Ebola im scared my family will die

    purplepanda

    The Ebola outbreak is a concern for everyone, but rest assured authorities all over the world are working tirelessly to contain this disease and keep us safe.

  • hey vicki,
    im going to try tampons soon but im worried that if im swimming or doing p.e or just walking somewhere in public that my tampon is going to fall out of me.Can it??
    from holly :)

    Hi Holly, tampons are held in by your vaginal muscles and if inserted high enough inside your vagina will not fall out until you are ready to remove them, so please try not to worry.

  • Is it normal to have a dark blacky brown coloued blood at the start of your periods???

    Yes very normal and you will find that blood can range in colour from light brown to very dark (almost black) red. This is all fine and nothing to worry about.

  • Hey Vicki!
    You might not be able to answer this question, but is it normal for me to be constantly stressed about everything even when it's nothing to stress over and get very easily frustrated?
    Thanks, xoxo.

    Yes it is quite normal for teens to feel this and is all part of your journey from being a child to an adult. As you get older you will manage new experiences better, it just takes time.

  • My discharge has turned slightly brown
    Have I started my period?
    Am I about to? Or what?

    This could be your period so why not put a pad or liner in your underwear and see if more is lost over the next few days. If it is then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Dear vicki,
    I'm not sure what to do a girl tryed to force me and my secret crush to make out. She got a bunch of people to hold us down but I got out and ran when I could not run anymore I sat on the ground and pretended to throw up so they would not come near me. She then came up to me and said " I told j you like him." I was so upset I ran for the bathrooms. I'm just not sure what to do now.
    Thanks for reading,
    Shy- Anime- Girl

    Hi, ignore this girl and don't let her see you are upset. In the end if 'J' knows how you feel, it is now up to him to decide if he wants to chat to you, if he does not feel the same, well at least now you know you should move on.

  • Part 3 ( guys throwing food)
    So I don't think they had that brand of food that the empty box was from. But I didn't get a clear view and no one else was sitting near us.the only people near us were about 4 metres away two guys about 40ish?
    And when we got up to leave ( which we did) they were staring at us. So now I'm worried it was the creepy older guys even though I'm sure it was the guys behind me and my friend ( because they kept turning around and looking)

    Hi Kendall, it was almost certainly the boys playing games with you and your friend and you really should not let this worry you at all. It was an episode in your life that has no passed.

  • Part 2 ( guys throwing stuff at me and friend)
    I thought it was just the guys being stupid but it happen again about a min later. Then a box of empty popcorn chicken landed on our tray. So we got up and left we were finished anyway. But now that I think back to it I don't remember them sitting down with the brand of food that was on the box. But I didn't get a clear view. ( part 3 final part) ( kendall btw)

    See Part Three.

  • Hi Vicki basically on Saturday me and my friend decided to go shopping. We were in the food court when these two guys ( looked about our age (14) ) sat down. I thought I saw them staring at me and my friend but just a few glances nothing much. But when me and my friend were finished eating we decided to just sit there for a bit but then I noticed this piece of cardboard ( tiny like a piece torn of from a food box) land on the chair next to me. I ignored it ( rest in part 2)

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I have had 2 periods can I use a tampon because I kinda need to because I do a lot of sports???? Please answer thanks

    If you feel ready to use tampons, then there is no reason why you should not. Have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask them to purchase some tampons for you to try, you may find our Lil-Lets teens tampons ideal, as they are designed to be shorter and narrower than other brands and are ideal for first time users.

  • I think im pregnant.My stomach feels heavy and below my belly button my stomach is big. I only masturbate. I never done it with a boy. Am I pregnant. Please answer im really scared. I have been having symptoms of Pregnancy like Urinating a lot ,sleeply, and mood swings. My period came 2 days early and it ended at day 6. Im scared. Please answer ASAP!!!

    You cannot become pregnant from masturbating so please don't worry, periods can be irregular for the first few years with both long and short gaps in between each one. As for your tummy, it is quite common for this to look a little rounder as you enter your adult years and again nothing to be anxious about.

  • Hi Viking it's 4 am and I can't sleep because of.pains,I'm 12 haven't started
    yet and have taken ibuprofen what should I do. Phoebexx

    Hi Phoebe, cramping can be caused by the reproductive organs maturing and it may be a good idea to ask your mum to make you up a hot water bottle to help ease this discomfort when in bed.

  • For the last 2 days there's been loads of brown stuff in my underwear is this poo or something serious?

    It could be 'poo' but if you have bathed over the last couple of days, it is far more likely to be your first period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I fell I need to have sex very often I am. Only 13 and I am not going to do it until I am 16 or above and I am comfortable but I hear all the time I had a sexual erge and so the masterbated em what is it and how do you do it ps I do not want to say my name if that is ok and I have not got my period yet so will it affect it

    Firstly, feelings of a sexual nature are common in teenagers with masturbation being an instinctive and natural activity and not something it would be appropriate for me to tell you how to do.  It will have no impact on either the arrival of your period or your health in general.

  • Hi I'm really confused,
    I'm 13 and I started my period early may this year, they've been pretty regular. There 35 days apart but it's been 38 days now and still haven't got it? Is there something wrong?(I'm not sexually active in any shape or form) plz answer ASAP xx
    Thanks for ur help, always appreciated xx

    There really is nothing to worry about, periods often have long gaps between each one, even when they have been regular previously and this may continue for a couple of years as your body find the best cycle just for you.

  • I started my period just this afternoon but already I find towels uncomfortable! I want to use tampons but I'm scrared as I don't know how to put them in even after watching your videos! I'm struggling on what I should use? Please help x

    Included in every pack of tampons are full instructions for insertion and removal, together with important health and safety advice. It can however take a few attempts to insert a tampon correctly so don't be too disheartened if you get it wrong at first. As for pads, in time they will feel more comfortable once you have grown accustomed to how they feel in your underwear.

  • Hi Vicki, i have had discharge since i was in 5th grade and I'm in 8th grade now! Why hasn't my period started? Also a few months ago i had black discharge with small drops if blood! Was that my period.? If so why hasn't it come back?

    This could have been your period as menstrual fluid can often be light in flow. My advice is to have some pads and liners with you from now on, in preparation for your next period.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and I still havnt had my period.. I thought I started in 2011 but nothing happened until May 2014 when another one came but heavier. And I havnt had anything 6 months later. I have pubic hair and arm pit hair the only thing I don't have is boobs and I'm feeling really left out! Is this normal or am I just a complete utter freak!!! ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    This is very normal and long gaps between each period are very common. My advice is to worry less and keep some pads and liners with you at all times in preparation for your next period's arrival.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I got pulled out of class today to get told off. My maths teacher took me out because I sent an innapropriate email. It wasnt rude it just shouldnt be use in the context I used it for. I am embarrased and overwhelmed because at primary I was a teachers pet and suddenly I have becone rather cheeky. Is this just puberty and how can I get over being told off.
    By the way, my name is Lauren, I am 11
    Thanks

    Hi Lauren, this could be puberty thatis changing your moods and personality, but regardless of whether it is or not, puberty is not an excuse to be cheeky and it may be a good idea to forget about what has happened with this e-mail and focus on behaving better and as expected of you in the future. This clearly worries you and there is always room for improvement.

  • Vicki do you have to be 7st to start your period ?x

    No this is a myth.

  • Hiya Vicki, I am 12 and started my period yesterday, I noticed it by a load of brown discharge in my underwear, and so today I worn pads and it is definately my period but I have noticed that I don't release blood during the night, is this normal?โœจ

    For some people less blood is lost during the night as the muscles surrounding the uterus contract less. But you should always wear a pad as from time to time blood may be lost.

  • Hey Vicki just wondering what my correct bra size is
    Under: 75
    Over: 86 - 87
    Thanks a lot and if possible in Australian sizes please

    12AA is your size.

  • Do you smoke?

    No, I have never smoked.

  • How long has the "Ask Vicki" thing been going on for? :) From Scarlett

    Hi Scarlett, since September 2011.

  • I may have accidentally said something behind one of my friends back and now she is mad at me. I have said sorry many times but she won't accept my apology. Shall I just leave things as they are as I have been the bigger person and apologized? Thanks, I was really upset about this and I need some cheering up. How can I cheer myself up and move on from this situation? From Amanda :)

    If you have apologised and your friend is not happy to forgive and move on then Amanda it may be time for you to let her know you are sorry she feels this way and then move on yourself to a new group of friends, being mindful not to say things behind someone's back in future as this almost always gets back to them.

  • Then I said "If it doesn't matter then why do you keep on looking at me and bothering about what I am doing". They have not responded to this ever since and they won't even tell me what I have done wrong. No matter how many times I ask they won't tell me! What should I do? Thanks from Taylor xxx PART 2

    Hi Taylor, if your friends have decided they want to part friendship then you can really only respect their wishes and move on to find a new group of friends. There is no need to be angry or upset with these girls and no reason why you cannot still chat to them from time to time. This kind of thing just happens and is no one's fault.

  • Last week my best mates decided that they weren't going to talk to me, I just went along with this because I thought they just needed some space for a bit. However they have been ignoring me and giving me dirty looks. So I asked them why they were doing this and they said "It doesn't matter". PART 1

    See my response in Part Two.

  • I'm 14 and my sister is 15. I'm ahead of her in terms of puberty I.e I have bigger boobs and I have got my period and she hasn't. I feel kind of awkward about it like when she is outside the bathroom when I am changing a pad or something. Also when I was younger I spoke to my other sister about periods, like when I had just learnt what they were, but now I can't really talk to her about anything because she is busy with work and A Levels. Txxx

    We do not all reach puberty at the same time, not even if we are related, so if you can offer some advice to your older sister who is still waiting for her first period and by having small chats about puberty and periods you may find that your 15 year old sister is the person you can not chat to instead of your older sister.

  • Hey Vicki, I am wondering about when I will start my period.. I' started puberty at about 9-10 years old and now on 13, nearly 14 and I've had loads of discharge for ages! I just want to know what are the symptoms you get when your REALLY close to your period? Xx

    Discharge is a great sign and as you have noticed it for such a long time, you may find your period is not too far away at all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering if u have any tips for looking nice during p.e I got red quite a lot when we do certain things and was wondering if u had any way of stopping that? Thanks p.s pe is my favourite subject

    Wearing breathable cotton clothing may help as will keeping your body hydrated by drinking plenty of water.

  • Is dyscalculia about as common as dyslexia and I'm sure I have it?

    As with any medical condition a proffessional should always be the source for diagnosis, and in the case of Dyscalculia a teacher can usually check for this condition that can effect around 3% of children which effects their ability to do simple math calculations.

  • HI so im really uncomfterbale with people seeing me naked. 2 Years ago we did swimming and we didnt have any changing rooms so everyone could see everyone ( it was split into boys and girls) but it makes me shudder to think all the girls in my class+2 teachers have seen me naked.I felt uncomfterbaale at the time too. o you think they should've made us do that

    It would be difficult for me answer your last question as I do not know how old you were when you changed in a mixed group. But I really would not worry what others saw, I am sure this is long forgotten.

  • Hey Vicki
    Is there anything I could do to boost my confidence around boys and just in general? I'm so self confious and always worry about what people think and I know I shouldn't but can you not say ' be happy with you' because that doesn't help me and I know you are a smart woman and you have really helped with my last questions thanks vicki xxxx

    Confidence can only grow by getting yourself out there and making yourself heard or seen. I'm not saying you have to loud or boisterous. But you can voice your opinion from time to time, even if it's only to agree with what someone else is saying. In time it will get easier and you will feel more able to contribute more to conversations....even with boys.

  • Hi vicki,
    My mom bought me these crop tops but all the girls in my class wear a wired bra and the crop tops are tiny and hurt my breasts they are a size 32aa, I am 11 by the way what size would u recommend. And there is this boy in my class and I really like him and he likes me but there r some really mean bully's in my class and I am scared that they will make fun out of me!! This boy is totally cute to!!!! HELP ME PLZ ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    Firstly, ask your mum if you can be measured the next time you go out shopping for a bra, but please don't feel there is any need to wear an underwired bra just yet. As for this boy, why not wait a while before deciding if you want to let him know how you feel and as for these bullies, well...they can only upset you if you allow them to and if you hear any comments ignore them is my advice.

  • Will a push up bra work for a 30 A/B? I
    I really want a push up bra for the parties I go to, because everyone wears them and I want to see if they would make a difference
    Thanks xx

    I guess it depends on what you want  a push up bra for. If you want your breasts to look fuller and appear higher then yes this would be a good choice, but I really do not see the need for such a bra if you are an A or B cup. I also do not think it is a great idea to get one of these bras just because others wear them. Try to remember we are all different and when purchasing a bra comfort and fit are the two most important aspects of any purchase.

  • hi viki

    i have been releasing discharge for 8 months. is my period near?

    Discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your first periods; sometimes even longer, so I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hello.
    Can you flush tampons down the loo ?
    Thank you, xx.

    No form of sanitary protection should be flushed. Our recommendations are that you wrap them up in toilet tissue or in disposal bags and place in the bin with household rubbish.

  • Hi can I wear a pad for my discharge? Its really heavy and a liner doesn't hold all of it thank you

    If you wish, or you may find changing your liner a couple of times a day is also a good idea.

  • i haven't revived my period in over 5 months now and I've been putting on weight rather rapidly but I've been eating the same and so is my exercise me and my mum have noticing me being bloated and putting on the weight my mum even Asked me if I was pregnant I got quite upset about this but I tried to laugh it off I'm 13 and I've never had sex I have maturbated for a while but it scares me that I could have gotten pregnant with out sex is this possible In any shape or form I'm really worried

    If you have not been sexually active then there is no way you can be pregnant. During puberty our shape does change with a more rounder tummy often being noticed along with wider hips and possiblya slighter round bottom too. This is nothing to be worried about.

  • I have a very itchy pubic area but not near where all the holes are, just where the hair is, it got really itchy so i shaved to see if it lloked red or anything but it doesnt and its really annoying!

    Pubic hair can be a little itchy from time to time during puberty, why not consider rubbing in a little hair conditioner when the hair grows back to keep it soft.

  • Hello vicki
    I've been masturbating for what maybe 4 months and I do enjoy it I've been watching some porn as well is this legal ?

    Masturbation is both natural and instinctive and if you do not buy pornographic images or are being forced into watching them, no law has been broken. However, please understand that pornography does not show a true representation of how a loving relationship should be, so please try to avoid viewing these images if you can.

  • Hey Vicky
    I've had discharge for over a year and a half now and still no period??
    My breasts are 30A/B
    I'm always concious about this and I can smell it
    I'd love you to answer thanks xxx

    Discharge does have a slight odour which can often be made worse if mixed with perspiration, urine or faeces, so please make sure you wipe this area thoroughly after visiting the toilet and consider wearing pant liners to help capture both the sweat and discharge. Finally, I am sure you will not have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period, so please don't worry.

  • im not sure when to start wearing a bra. how old were your daughters when they started??

    If you notice your breasts jiggle about when you are doing PE or being active, or are starting to show through your clothing, it may be time to consider a bra. As for my daughters they were around 13 when they first started wearing bras.

  • Hi I've gotten a brown stain in my pants with a white streak going through the middle is this my period?

    It could be your period, or alternatively it could be staining from waste food not wiped away thoroughly. Why not wait and see what the next few days bring, if this fluid continues to be noticed it is  most likely your period.

  • Hi, I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15, we've been going out for nearly 2 months, but for the past 2 (ish) weeks, he's being really distant, and I ALWAYS have to message him first, and sometimes he replies, sometimes he doesn't. Why is he all of a sudden being distant? Should I not message him for a few days? Thanks x

    Boys are not great at communicating in a timely fashion, but this does not mean he no longer wants to date you. Why not have a chat to him face to face asking if everything is ok, if he says yes, then let him know that you were worried due to his lack or returning text messages. This should sort out any confusion and let you know where you stand with this boy.

  • I was born with a club foot I had the ops years ago and now my foot is normal
    Could you give me any facts coz i don't really know that much about them.

    Ollywolly567

    I am pleased to hear the operation to correct your foot was successful and if you want to more about this subject, why not visit NHS choices for information.

  • Hiiiiiii Vicki,

    I have recently had this feeling to masturbate or want to touch myself. I don't know how to do it and I don't want to get an infection. The thing is I don't know how to do it and I can't get rid of the feeling. What do I do?

    Alina

    Hi Alina, masturbation is a natural and instinctive activity and not something anyone needs to tell you how to do. Please also don't feel pressured into doing this because you believe you should. Not everyone chooses to masturbate and this is fine too.

  • I find it really hard to hide my feelings, especially around school, what do I do? I hate showing that I am upset, I hate people worrying about me๐Ÿ˜ฅplease help๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿถ๐Ÿฃ๐Ÿท๐Ÿค๐Ÿฉ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฅ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿฆ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿน๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ๐Ÿข๐Ÿบ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿฎ๐Ÿง๐Ÿ”๐Ÿด

    Why not take some time out every now and then when you feel your emotions starting to change. You may also find adding some uplifting music that you can listen to will keep your mood positive and help you get through any moods swings you are experiencing.

  • I will be going swimming with school soon, I don't feel comfortable in my swimming costume because my nipples stick out. Will it be possible for me to wear a bra underneath my swimming costume? Or is that unhygienic? Thank you :)

    It would not be suitable to wear a bra under your swimsuit, but you may find purchasing a slightly padded swimsuit will be a more suitable option. Personally, I would not worry too much about your nipples showing, once you are in the water and have warmed up they will most likely not be visible.

  • Hi , I'm going to ask my crush for his snapchat this Saturday , do you have any ideas ? Thanks (please don't direct me to a blog as I would like an answer straight from you๐Ÿ’›)
    Eleana Marie

    Hi Eleana Marie, this really is up to you what you Snapchat about and anything you send over should be what you find amusing or interesting and not something someone else has thought of. So have a think over the next few days of all the things you would like to share with this boy.

  • Hi Vicki
    Can periods stop and start ? X

    For the first couple of years it is very common for periods to have long gaps between each one, sometimes several months can pass with no period being noticed. This is all very normal and your body's way of working out the right cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki, i have had discharge for about three years now - when do you thin i will start? also i have really discharge and it normally goes through my pants/ liner! please help x



    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    With discharge noticed for such a long time, I doubt you will have much longer to wait. If you find your current pant liner does not hold this fluid, consider a different brand, or changing more often.

  • A girl I want to look like told me I was "too small" , "too skinny" and that I "look fragile" but she is bulimic and so much skinnier than me.....what do i do??.....

    My first thoughts are why you would listen to someone who suffers with an eating disorder or want to look like her also. Be happy with your own shape and if you eat well and exercise regularly, you really have nothing to worry about and in future try to ignore any insensitive comments.

  • Hi Vicki!
    My best guy friend ( not my boyfriend ) keeps getting me into trouble in school and I am really worried about my report. I don't know what to do because I don't want to stop talking to him

    Have a chat to your friend and let him know that you are going to concentrate on your school work and as much as you like him you will not be getting involved in any misbehaviour or activites that will get you into trouble. I am sure your teachers will quickly notice a change in your work and behaviour and this will be reflected in any reports they make.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've had my period for about a year now. The last 3 times I've had my period i have bled through my pad. I use maxi pads but they don't work and it gets to the point where i am changing my pad every hour. My period just all of the sudden got really heavy and i am not sure what to do. Please help!
    Aly

    Hi Aly, it may be time to change brand and you may find our Lil-Lets Freshlock range a suitable alternative, they are super absorbent and super comfy too. Alternatively, you may want to consider wearing tampons as these come in a variety of absorbencies to suit any flow.

  • Dear Vicki
    Recently I've been hanging out with two girls who including me are in a big group of girls and they've been closer since they came round to my house after school one day. We all hangout a lot last week and I felt like we were all really good friends when over the past couple of days they've started being partners constantly and walking off in front of me when we're with the group. I know it's babyish to feel this way but I can't help it.

    Have a chat to your friends letting them know how much their friendship means to you and how you thought you were all three of you good friends. I am sure they have not realised they are upsetting you and this chat will set the record straight.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm quite petite but my nose is fat. That's not the problem. Recently, I'd just got out the bath and went to my mum so she could dry my hair. Of course, I wasn't wearing anything and my mum said, "You've got a dimply bum.". I asked her what that meant. Basically, I've got a bit of fat round my bum. It's not much but now I'm REALLY careful when undressing so no-one else notices. I really want the fat to go away. Will it?
    Mimi

    Hi Mimi, as you get older your body will change considerably and as long as you eat a healthy and sensible diet and exercise regularly, your body will find its ideal weight.

  • Hey again Vicki! Sorry for continously asking you use questions, but what can I say? I'm a curious girl xD Anyway I just wanted totell you that my normal periods (that come like onice every 3 months) normally last one or 2 days. But the last period I had lasted 12 days..I've been to the GP but she says it's normal but I doubt it! Is there anything wrong with me?

    Tanisha

    Hi Tanisha, trust your doctor she is quite right when she chats to you. Periods can vary in length especially for the first couple of years.

  • I know this is similar to my other question but is a 28aa cup bra the next step from a training bra as I think I am ready for one of these because I feel like sometimes I have to squeeze my small boobs into my training bra.

    Your measurements will decide what your next size is, so please don't think you should go to the first size available you may be more developed than this.

  • Hi vicki
    Lately I feel like my boy friend has been exludeding me like if i go into hold his hand or give him a hug he either runs off or pushes me away I am not being forceful i mean I feel like he doesn't want to be in a relationship ๐Ÿ˜•
    The problem is i like him alot a few people have recognised this and he is also talking about my parents behind my back saying they don't want me near him when all they want is me to go straight home after school xx

    Have a honest one to one with your boyfriend asking him if he feels the same as he did when you orginally started dating, if he says yes then stress on him the importance of intimacy. If he agrees things have changed offer a break of a few weeks so you can both have a think about your relationship.

  • Hey,
    I just have a quick question ...how much discharge are you surpossed to get and how often is it surpossed to occur if you havnt started your periods yet?
    From lily xx

    Hi Lily, some people notice discharge on a daily basis, others every now and then and the amount produced, its colour and texture can vary from day to day and person to person too. Why not read about this subject by visiting our Puberty tab on the website.

  • Hi, please help me and I REALLY NEED A REPLY !! I'm 12 years old (nearly 13 in Jan) and I have a 32AA bra ! Are my boobs too big because I'm really self conscious because they look really big to me :(

    AA is the first cup size available and whilst your breasts may appear big to you they are perfectly proportioned to your body and it may just be a case of getting used to your new shape.

  • What product of Lil-let's is suitable for discharge??

    Tanisha xxxx

    Hi Tanisha, why not try our Lil-lets teens pant liners ideal for capturing discharge.

  • I'm almost certain that I have ADHD as I've done a lot of research into it, and it's effecting my schoolwork. How do I tell my mum so that I can talk to a doctor or someone? Me and my mum don't really talk about stuff like that

    Why not speak to your teacher about your concerns and she can then ask your mum to pop into school for a chat.

  • Hi I'm not really sure how it is meant to feel with a tampon inside, and what if it isn't put in right, how do I tell ? xCaity

    Hi Caity, if  a tampon is inserted correctly and high enough inside the vagina, you should not be able to feel it at all. If you can feel it or it is uncomfortable then it is most likely not inserted high enough and it should be removed and another tampon selected and inserted.

  • Why do women grow breasts . Ella and Hollie . Thanks

    Hi Both, when females enter puberty their bodies start to prepare them for the time in their lives when they may want to have a child and part of that process is to prepare the body to feed that child when born. This is why unlike males, women's breasts develop in order to breast feed.

  • Hi Vicky! My discharge has a strong odour and I dont think its normal, please help!!!

    Discharge does have a slight odour, but if this is becoming stronger it may be that it is mixed with sweat, urine or faeces. So in future ensure you always wipe this area thoroughly after visiting the toilet and consider wearing pant liners and using our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes.

     

     

  • Hi Vicki!

    This Thursday I'm going to Mandarin (Chinese) Lesson and I'm scared because I told the teacher that they need to give me a transport home; the reason why I'm scared is because what if they forget?

    And I'm scared walking home by myself and going on the bus?

    Please Help Vicki!

    I am sure your teacher will not forget and if they do, they will quickly organise transport for you.

  • I like this boy and I don't know whether he likes me or not like it seems like he makes an effort to talk to me like he doesn't have to but he does so does that mean he does or he's just being friendly. Also I do squats and ab working like sit ups without me mum knowing and Im just wondering how do u know if you have muscle on ur legs and should I tell my mum that I do them. Thanks please answer this it means a lot thanks. Xx

    It would appear this boy enjoys your company, whether this is romantically or not only time will tell. As for exercising, it would be useful to speak to your mum and let her know you are toning your body, as for muscle tone, you will see this develop over time and when you flex this part of your body.

  • hi Vicki
    so i had brownish disharge 2 months ago and it lasted about 3 days.I asked people on the internet what that was and they said that it was probably my first period.I got the same brownish discharge again today and iยดm not sure if that is my period because there iis just a little amount of it...Could you please help me I donยดt know what to do Thank you <3

    Yes this is your period as menstrul fluid is very often brown and not red in colour.

  • Happy 14th Birthday Kara!

    From Super girl!
    xx

    Hi Super Girl, thank you for sharing.

  • I think my bra size is 34a (75cm, 88cm) do you think it is appropriate to wear a bra at this size. I know it's a personal chose but is it normal to wear a bra when your boobs are only that size,
    Please tell me what you personally think, thank you

    If you feel comfortable wearing a bra then yes it is fine and as you say your choice.

  • In school today these two boys where saying stuff like we think your on your period and it made me really embarrassed because I'm not sure if they heard my friend saying to the teacher the lesson before that I had tummy pain because of my period so the teacher came over to me so they might've heard him saying stuff to me in lesson but I actually am on my period so it made me a bit upset and worried :( do you think they might've heard or could tell somehow thanks :( :( Kate ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    Kate, periods are a natural part of being a female and I really would not worry what these boys say, if you ignore their comments they will stop making them.

  • In school we have swimming for a term and I sometimes worry about what to say to the teacher if my period starts in the day as I feel like if I gave her more than one note or told her more than once she might ask me why I don't want to swim whilst on my period do you think she would say this? Also how could I say to my swimming teacher if I want to be excused from swimming because of my Period and how do I tell a normal teacher I'm in pain? Because my friend had to do it for me today ๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜ญ

    If you are in pain then consider getting active walking around the playground as this will help ease period pain. As for swimming it is unlikely you will have to be excused for every lesson and your teacher will understand that periods arrive every month or so and understand if from time to time you need to miss a class.

  • what do you think is a suitable age gap in a relationship? :)

    This really does depend on the ages of the people in question.

  • When you visit the toilet and you wipe, do you have to wipe your vagina too ?

    I think it is always a good idea to keep your vagina clean so be sure to wipe from the front to back to prevent any infection spreading from your anal passage after having a bowel movement.

  • You don't have to answer but I would be very thankful to know if you know any way to tell if a guy likes you cause I have a huge crush on a boy in my school and he's exactly like me and hangs out with me at lunch/recess everyday and when the bell rings to go back to class he will walk with me to my line then hug me and tell me bye and I can't stop thinking about him and he's always in my dreams so please help if you can

    For some help with this, check out my blog on Your First Love.

  • Hey Vicki!!!
    Do you have to have boobs to have your first period?
    Thank you!!!

    Not necessarily no.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki
    Could you please tell me some signs that my period is near?
    Thanks!!!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki
    You said in one of my previous questions that your period doesn't have to be red to be real but does that mean that I'll never have blood?
    Thank you!!!!!!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi there
    Is it thought of stupid if i wear pantie liners just for discharge?
    Please reply
    Lily x

    Hi Lily, not at all.  In fact, this is encouraged as pant liners help to keep young girls and women feeling fresh and clean down there and also protects them from the embarrassment of possible leakage should their period arrive.

  • Is it ok to wear a bra when your boobs are a 28AA?


    Thank you
    Whovian-girl

    Hi Whovian-girl, the choice is entirely yours so when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • So I've had discharge for about 7months now and today i was in the bathroom and there was this little speck if blood about the size of the top of the pin. Super small! I've never had my period. Was this my period

    It is possible that this was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vicki! So basically, I'm 15 and I started my period about a year ago, maybe 2, I can't even remember ๐Ÿ˜‚ but yes, I have developed small breasts, but I'm unsure if I'll fit into a bra or not yet. I currently wear a crop top but they're getting really tight, and recently, they've been starting to feel very sore. Any ideas on what could be happening and what I should do?

    It is normal to notice sore, tender breasts with development so try not to worry.  A soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Is discharge kind of gooey?or can It be as if you've got a bit of flour and got it on your clothes because I've just gone to the toilet and it was stuck in side my pants?xx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the vagina together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It is normal for discharge to dry hard and stick to your pubic hair and knickers so you might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will help you to keep feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki I am nine but I have started to get pubic hair and my mum points it out to me when I get dressed. Should I be worried? - Sasha ๐Ÿ˜ฃ

    Hi Sasha, the development of pubic hair is a perfectly normal occurrence for all of us so try not to worry.  If you find that the hair is protruding through your underwear or swimming costume, you might like to consider simply trimming it back.

  • When did you start using tampons

    I moved onto tampons fairly quickly and was certainly using them by the time I was 15, but then my period did not start until I was 14.


  • Hi vicki
    I just wondered when you get fitted do you have to show your boobs?
    Cuz when i got fitted i did and i was really upset because i thought they looked massive and i wonder why on earth do people want big chests? Im 11 and a 34AA and thats massive. At least i think so

    Holly turtlerocksyaknow

    Hi Holly, it is not necessary for you to show your breasts to be measured and you will find that bra fitters are professional and will put you at your ease.  Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes which is what makes us who we are.  Why not consider ways of boosting your self-confidence - joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • What is my bra size????
    Underneath: 70cm
    Fullest: 80cm
    Please tell me what my bra size is.

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different sizes and styles of bra until you find one that feels comofrtable on you.

  • Every day I get discharge in my underwear and even if I have showered recently I can smell an odour that is highly unpleasant if I open my legs for too long and was wondering if I have an infection? Thank you :)

    If you find the odour particularly unpleasant, you should ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey vicki,
    This boy has fancied me for ages now and people keep joking about it, I have ignored him ever since I found out and feel so awkward around him.I don't know what to do and my friends get so annoyed when I talk about him and everyone hunks I like him, when I don't I'm just so self conscious. Thanks xxx

    Try not to feel pressured by your friends and stay true to yourself as it really is none of their business.

  • Hey vicki!
    I always get the urges to do something sexually and I can't help it! I realise I am young but I just feel the need to do something.! I need help
    And I never know if I'm masturbating right or not?
    Thanks xxx

    During puberty, it is normal to notice an increase in feelings of a sexual nature due to an increase in activity of sex hormones.  Masturbation is a natural way of exploring these new feelings and is something that is felt and done by instinct.

  • Two things:
    1. How do you know if you fancy someone?
    2. By the time you see this (hopefully) it'll be my 14th birthday! :D

    Kara

    Hi Kara, for some help with this, please check out my link on Your First Love.  Happy 14th birthday.

  • He VickiOk so I'm now 13 and haven't has my period I'm starting to get a little worried as I have realised I'm getting clear gooey stuff In my nickers and I was wondering is it normal to be at my age and haven't started ?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and also lets us know that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives and this is usually within 6-12 months.

  • Do bra sizes count if you have padding? I am a 32B in a padded bra but will I be a smaller size in a non-padded bra?? Please help!!

    It is true that the padding in a bra will make your breast size a little bigger so it might be better to get measured when you are wearing an unpadded bra.  We always advise you to try on bras before you buy them to ensure you have a comfortable fit anyway.

  • Hi Vicki
    I love your blog so much but I need your help i started my period last month but now I'm 12 days late i have not had any stress or anything and have masturbated 2 times could this effect my periods
    Thanks xxx

    Thank you for your support.  Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Masturbation will have no effect on when your period arrives.

  • Hi its sadie again I was wondering if you only get your period during the nightor Iif it can happen in the middle of the day because im really worried I get my period at school and don't notice what should I do, sadie xxx

    Hi Sadie, it is possible for you period to arrive at any time and a good way of being prepared is to wear pant liners.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Periods & School.

  • How do I tell my mum I want to start wearing my panty liners as it is staring to feel inconfortable????
    Cloxxxxx

    Hi Clo, why not consider asking your mum for her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range by following the link from the home page of this website.

  • I hav been on my period for about a year now and it's always about the 7th or 8th of each month but it's about the 14 or something and I still haven't started. Is something wrong please help. E xxx

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hey Vicki, I asked you what kind of clothes you line to wear and you said ....to flatter your shape? What does that mean?

    It means that I understand the way my body looks and choose clothes that suit me. This is something most people learn how to do over time and unfortunately after making a few unwise fashion choices.

  • Hey Vicki I am 17 and I got brown discharge last week but with no blood is this my first period?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to buy some pads and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering about how long does vaginal discharge last for before your first period. Im 13 and been dealing with discharge for about a year now. It that bad or normal?
    Thank you in advance :)

    Julie x

    As you've been releasing discharge for a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Part 2
    About the note what should I put in the note could it be
    Hey (name)
    I heard u think I'm hot well i think your hot too
    From grace xx
    Ps my snapchat ID is ....


    Or should I put something else


    Thanks viki xx

    Ansere ASAP please

    Hi Grace, it's up to you but as you will be sitting next to him, why not use this as an opportunity to get to know him better before you decide to go out with him or not.

  • Part one

    My crush called me hot and now everyone in the class knows and he is really popular so I get no time with him alone and I sit next to him in French I thought this would be the perfect chance to slip a note in his bag when no one is looking

    What do u think

    Thanks please ansere ASAP

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hello.

    I'm going to try and insert a tampon soon when I'm next due. Just so I know,does it hurt a bit the first time you put one in? Thanks! X

    All it takes is a little practice and we do recommend that you first try using tampons on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make it easier to insert.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are perfect for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Check out our video on How to use a non-applicator tampon for more help.

  • Hi there,
    I am new to this sight and i am finding it quite helpful i was woundering if i could ask you a question? I am 12 and i have been getting discharge quite heavily but havnt started by period, is this normal and if it carries on should i start wearing pantie liners so my pants arnt always filled with discharge at the end of the day?
    Thank you!

    Welcome to Ask Vicki - I'm happy to answer any questions you might have.  It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives and pant liners will not only help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there, they will also protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hi Vicki, I asked why my breast were tender earlier. Is it conserning I went from a size AA last month to a size A? I am really self consiose (not sure how to spell that) so I really dont want to talk to my mum about it.
    -Snow White

    Hi Snow White, there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to your mum about your breasts as she was once a young girl going through puberty too. Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to experience discomfort with breast development too - a soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • Hi it's Cat. I broke up with my best friend and she keeps on flirting with my crush on purpose and it really irritates me. She knows that I like him and my crush knows that a like him too. My crush hates my "ex" best friend anyway so should I just just forget about this since he doesn't like her anyway? Thanks, sorry if this was hard to understand :3 xxx

    I would concentrate on your relationship with this boy and not pay any notice to your old friend.

  • Hey Vicki,
    i accidentally cut my vagina while shaving now there's some blood. Its quite painful so i put some savlon (antiseptic cream) on it to stop germs from getting in it to cause infections. Should i be worried or is it just like cutting any other part of ur body??

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„๐Ÿ‘„

    Hi Darcey-Mae, it should hopefully heal quite quickly but please be sure to keep the wound as clean as possible and watch that it doesn't become infected.  If it does, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I've got a pimple Down there is that normal or should I see a doctor ?

    Try to keep it as clean as possible and apply a little antiseptic and it will hopefully clear up after a couple of days.  If it becomes infected, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I feel a little bit strange when i talk to my parents and i have loads of questions what can i do?

    Try to remember that your parents were young once too so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to them about puberty.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • So I never did it with a boy but i masturbate and i kinda think im pregnant. Below my belly button is big and im kinda scared. Im only 12. There is always a sharp pain on my left side. My doctor said its nothing serious but i looked up pains on my left side and it said that a baby is either growing or a miscarrige. I cant be pregnant. Im not even a teen yet! ๐Ÿ˜ฉ Please tell me whats going on. Oh its not my period either my period ended yesterday.

    The only way you could possibly be pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male so try not to worry.  Your GP has told you not to worry too so please try to relax about this.

  • Hi vicki,
    I have this friend in my year who thinks she is way more attractive than me so she is really overconfident and patronising around me. I dont really know what to do because she really likes this guy who i think likes me and hangs around with him loads, i dont know what to do cos i really like him and i would feel i was backstabbing her if i admitted this, thank you

    If this boy likes you and you like him, then I see no reason why you would feel you are being unfaithful to your friend. This is your business and if she is a true friend she will be very happy for you.

  • Can you send me some of your products as I am to scared to tell my mom about my period as I have been borrowing some of her stuff but they are heavy flow not low flow

    If you would like to ask for your mum's permission, pop onto the home page of this website and follow the link to request a free sample from us.

  • Hi Vicki, i have some crop tops my mom bought me, however i don't know if i should tell her that i want to wear them or just start wearing them and let her see them when she washes them. BTW i have had them for about 2 months and haven't worn them yet.

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about wearing crop tops.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Talking to Mum & Dad.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Whenever I laugh for abit, I end up wetting myself. This normally happens during school about 4/5 times a month. Its soo embarrassing, I don't tell anyone and just make sure my jumper covers the wet patch on the bottom of my bum. And when I sit down it leaves a wet stain and smells bad! Even when Ive just been to the loo it happens! :( Im worried incase people have noticed and talk about me! :( Help?

    Try not to worry as this is quite a common problem amongst teens.  You should look at ways of strengthening your pelvic floor muscles in order to be able to control them a little better.  Ask your mum or guardian to arrange a visit to your GP for some advice about this and you might also like to consider using pant liners which will help to protect you from possible leakage and keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • HEYY VICKI!!
    I don't have a problem but my friend does. I want to know what I can do. before she went out with a boy (really rude) but they broke up. Now he's telling everyone that she sucked on his thing when actually she didn't. But for some reason stupid people believe him, keep giving her dirty looks and talking about her. It's gotten so bad that she didn't come to school and pretended that she was ill. Its not fair, I want to tell but its going to be worse. Is there anything I can do?
    FLOWERPOTXX

    Please tell your friend to talk to a teacher at school as this is bullying and shouldn't be tolerated.  Staying away from school is one of the worst things she could do so please encourage her to talk to her parents, a trusted teacher or mentor at school about this as he should be punished for what he has done.  With your support, your friend will be able to do this.

  • My training bras feel a bit tight so do you think I should move on to a soft cup bra or is this a bad idea. I have been told I am a 28 AA.
    Thanks๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜ฎ

    As your training bras are tight, you should consider getting a bigger bra.

  • Hello.

    Basically I'm have tried several times to insert a tampon, including lilets! However, I just can't do it because I don't know how. Is it normal for it to hurt the first time to try and put it in? And is it normal that I just can't see my vaginal hole? Iam worried because I looked up something that 2 percent of teenagers can have a abnormally small vaginal hole and need to see the gp. Is that serious? And are there any tips for inserting it in? Please reply! X

    Please don't believe all you read on the internet, it is most likely that you are anxious and nervous and this is the reason you cannot insert a tampon. My advice is try inserting a clean finger inside your vaginal opening when you are not on your period, so you can get used to how this feels and locate your vaginal opening. This should make inserting a tampon easier when your next period is with you.

  • Im sorry Vicki Im waisting your time, asking silly something else questions...Im really sorry your probably fed up with me..I just think your really amaizing and interesting, I also dream about you alot. Ill try to stop right away! xxx I love You Vicki xxx :)

    You're not waisting my time, I guess it's only natural to be curious about someone you chat to online.

  • Hi, there's this boy I like and I think he likes me. In my opinion a boy should ask a girl out but I'm not sure if he actually likes me. I met him the other day and we kissed but does this mean he likes me or is he going to mess me around? For example he slept over a his mates house in the same bed as some girls, he also got with a girl while he was speaking to me but they have broke up now. So what do I do? Thanks Bethany xx

    Hi Bethany, I do get the impression that this boy likes girls rather a lot and it might be a good idea to get to know him better as a friend before you decide if you would like to go out with him or not.

  • You know the picture on About Vicki page, do you still look the same cuz you said it was taken on 2011? You look pretty...xxx

    My hair is lighter and I am a few years older now.

  • Hi its mee again. Whats your hair like? Is it long? Mines very curly and a bit bushy and dark brown...and yeah the blog on 5 minute hairstyles was great! I tried all of them! Thanks...xxxx

    At the moment my hair is in a shoulder length bob with a few layers. I am glad you like our hairstyle guide.

  • hi, im 12 I have had breast buds for like 8 months now but no breat tissue is this normal ? also I measured my self and im 64cm and 73 cm I don't know I I measured my self right because this seems too big ? do I need a padded or just a sports cos I really want to ask my mum but I feel too embarrassed . x thank you

    Breast buds comprise of milk glands, muscle, fat and tissue so please try not to worry.  Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  A training bra is something you might like to consdier as they are soft and help to get you used to wearing a more structured bra when the time arises.

  • Hi is me. What kind of clothes do you like to wear? I like dresses!
    xxx

    I like all sorts of clothes and with two daughters keeping my up to date on fashion, I try to adapt my look as much as I can to flatter my shape.

  • Hi
    I hear these voices in my head and last night they were really loud and gave me a headache when I was younger I had a recurring nightmare/dream where these voices where screaming loud and then they went really quiet. It hurts my head when I hear them and they tell me what to do sometimes and I feel like I have to respond. Please help what's wrong with me x :(

    Try not to worry and talk to your mum or guardian as a trip to your GP should give you peace of mind.

  • Hey Vicki!
    Okay so I'm 13 and 1. I started my period in august and since then I haven't had another period, it wasn't light either it was really heavy! My friends said they had there's every month since they had theres, is everything OK with me? 2. One of my nipples last week went purplish and them little bumps around your nipple went swollen on mine, that has gone down now but I have really sore breasts at the moment I'm a 32b/c why is this and what can I do to make them less sore?
    Ty!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.  It is normal to notice sore, tender breasts with development and you might find that having a soak in a relaxing bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • do you grow nipples? and how do you tell the difference between urine and discharge?



    thanks , from sharonn

    Hi Sharonn, we are all born with nipples and as our breasts develop, nipples naturally become bigger.  Discharge is a clear mucus produced by glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It is released from the vagina whereas urine is released from the urethra and is a thinner fluid.

  • Hi vicki
    This may sound really silly but does it hurt when you use a tampon for the first time? Im not on my period yet but i was just wondering
    Thanks :)

    All it takes is a little practice and it's never been easier than now by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  We recommend that you first try using a tampon on day 2 or 3 of your period, when the flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  For some help with this, check out our video on How to insert a non-applicator tampon and remember to try to be as relaxed as possible.

  • Hi Vicki

    When I wash my hair over the bath - (So my head is up side down). When I finishing my hair I put a towel over it my parting in my hair really shows? do you think Vicki that normal thanks!

    I think this is perfectly normal so try not to worry.  When hair is wet, partings are naturally more noticeable.

  • hi vicki ,
    ive been getting discharge and bad cramps but i havent started my peiod yet does this mean i could nearly be starting ?? x

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I'm two weeks late for my period, I'm 15 and I admit that I am sexually active with my boyfriend, I've got no symptoms of pregnancy or anything thing like that but what else could be the cause of my late period?! many thanks x

    If you have had unprotected sexual intercourse then you should consider taking a pregnancy test to rule this out before considering other reasons for the delay.

  • Hi, Vicki!

    You don't have to answer this question I would like to say I really Thank You for helping me! Did you without this website I really don't know who to find and share my problems and worried!

    Did you know you already answer 6 Question:

    1) Changing my periods pad- Not to hide it
    2) Fringe- Already grown!
    3) Uniform- told me to be brave and bold
    4) Girls keep looking at me
    5) Youtuber (Wengie)
    6) Hair and Beauty Communication

    Thank you very much!

    You are more than welcome.

  • I've started brushing my tongue (sounds gross) and recently noticed I got a sore throat from it. It lasted 3 days and it wasn't that bad, just a bit sore. But I didn't used to get this when brushing my tongue and I feel unclean if I don't brush it as well as my teeth. Is this normal or did I brush too hard maybe?

    Lots of people brush their tongue as part of their oral hygiene routine but if you made your throat sore by brushing too hard, you might like to be a bit more gentle in future.

  • Hi vicki im 12and i was out the other day and suddenly my lower bit of my belly started to ache but it was my first time and only happend for about 10minutes and hasent happend since i have pinic hair breast developing etc could my periods be on its way?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I feel left out! my friends have got wipes and liners and starter packs from you. we all have discharge none of us have our periods. the only thing is I get so uncomfortable and wet with discharge so when I asked for your products to keep clean and fresh my mum said no. I don't know what to do my mum doesn't understand I need something to help me.

    Why not ask your mum if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample by following the link from the home page of this website?

  • Hi Vicks,
    Some of my friends have started to wear a bra, and I am not sure whether i should? And I am also getting really angry with my parent sometimes and I am getting worried they might shout at me back. I hope you can give me some advice.
    Thanks xx

    It's normal to notice that some of your friends will now be starting to wear bras but try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different times to each other and it is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's.  A good way of knowing if it's time to get a bra is to notice that if when you jump up and down, your breasts jiggle about and you feel that they need some support.  A training bra is  good to start with as it will help you get used to wearing one.

  • Hey Vicki
    I got my period. And I told my mom
    And I don't think she believes me
    Please answer she said she believed
    Me but I don't think she does
    P.S. I'm ten I'll be eleven in a month
    What should I do ???? Please please answer

    Your mum will be well aware that your period will be arriving some time soon so try not to worry as she was a young girl going through puberty once.  You could always show her a used sanitary towel if you wanted to prove that your period has already arrived.

  • I have discharge and plucked up courage to ask my mum for some wipes and liners. she said no. she doesn't understand the dis comfort I have in the day. what can I do

    I can only suggest that you talk to her to and express how uncomfortable you feel.  Pant liners will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there and will protect you from possible leakage too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had my discharge for a long time now and I'm only 11. In the day I feel a bit wet and uncomfortable so I asked my mum for some wipes and liners and looked at the starter packs. She said no! I think she is a bit nervous about letting me have them but I don't think she understands that I am uncomfortable,
    please help me what can I do?

    Talk to your mum and explain how using pant liners will help you feel more comfortable down there.  They will also protect you from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Last night I went to a party and all my friends including me wanted to get off with a boy (getting off meaning intense make out) and I started talking to this boy that I think is fit and we got so close and we cuddled all night and sat on his lap and he got my in the lift and we got off. And it wasnt awkward after but last 20 mins he left me and had another girl sat on him. My friend made him inbox me but I'm not sure if we've fallen out...

    I think you should think carefully about getting involved with this boy as he obviously likes all girls and doesn't think he should be exclusively with one.  I think you should consider moving on and forgetting about him.

  • Hiyaa i really like your page xx
    Soo ive had discharges for quite a while now my breast are developing pubic hair etc when would my periods arrive? Xxx
    Thanks

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed, I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hey I'm 12 and haven't been on my period for 2 weeks and I'm really worried. It has been stressful at home with my mum leaving and don't k ow if that is why please help me you are the only women I can get advice form as my mum isn't helping me please help x ๐Ÿ’“

    Periods are often irregular with both long and short gaps between each one and when they do arrive the length of time for menstruation can vary too, so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki
    There is this other guy *ฬฉn my neighbourhood who has รฅ crush on me..i keep *ฬฉn contact with him but he is รฅ perv...he always askes me for picz of my boobs but i sy no..then he gets pissed off with me..he thinks that i like him but I don't,,i don't know how to tell him that i don't like him i already have รฅ boyfriend...he also thinks that we are dating but we not
    Plz plz plz help me!
    Thnx Vicki
    Love Samoan

    If this boy is not taking your request to leave him alone seriously and continues to ask your for pictures of an inappropriate nature you should speak to your parents and ask them to deal with this matter,  before it gets out of hand.

  • the 2nd day there was a small stain and none when I wiped and today there was a fairly large amount when I wiped it was like a clot. I don't know if this is my period bcuz its quite a light brown and ive not told my mum yet, how shouldi say. is this my period? thanks x PART2

    There is no doubt that this is your first period and you may find my blog on menstrual fluid a useful read.

  • hi Vicki,
    so I think I might have gotten my period but im not sure, Ive had a brown kind of discharge in my underwear which has occurred for 3 days now. ive had normal discharge for 3-4years. on the first day there was quite a lot but when I wiped there was a very small amount. PART 1

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi vicki
    If you are on your periods and you have sex will you get pregnant? I am under 16 but will not be thinking of sex anytime soon. I am always within the law. thank you

    This could happen yes.

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    ive just turned 13, my bra size is 34b but my nipples seem to be inverted or just stick out a tiny bit. im not sure wether they are inverted or not though? will they come out as my boobs continue to grow?
    ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

    Most nipples come out as the breasts continue to develop so please try not to worry.

  • Just a suggestion, I think because there is a limited amount of characters you can have in a question, there should be a character count, it would make it a lot easier. Thank you ๐Ÿ˜Š

    I will pass your idea on to the team that deal with our website display.

  • I've got a lot of hair around my body. I shave my legs, armpits and down there, but I've got hair on my stomach and lower back and it really makes me feel self conscious. I don't want to shave there because the hair will grow back quicker. Is there any way I can fix this?? Xxx

    This hair very often disappears on its own as your hormones settle down, so why not leave it for now.

  • I haven't actually been diagnosed but I've taken quizzes etc and I think I'm depressed. I have felt really down for the last few months but I have no reason to be. I have one friend at school who I love and she has anxiety. What do I do next?? Thanks, Carrie x x x

    Online tests cannot diagnose any medical condition and as you are a teenager you should really speak to your GP who will be able to identify if you are depressed or finding it difficult handling your emotions due to puberty. So have a chat to our parents and ask for their advice as to how to move forward.

  • For a few months now I've been contemplating on selfharming and I'm not sure what to do because I don't want anyone to see it. My sister does it and I hate seeing cuts upon cuts all over her thighs and wrists. What do I do? X

    Please chat to someone about the way you are feeling, such as family members or your teacher, they will ensure you get the support you need at this time.

  • Hi vicki,
    I think I might have started my first proper period because I went to the Rooney and I noticed blood in the toilet so I wiped and keeps wiping ant there was stil blood going and so I went to bed and woke up this morning and went again and there was blood in my pants. Is this my period I've had all the signs of puberty and how shall I tell my mum x

    Just the same way you have shared this news with me, do the same when speaking to your mum, she will be more than happy to hear your news and I and will I am sure purchase some supplies for you.

  • How long is it hygienic to keep a pad in for? X

    A pad can be worn for up to 8 hours, but most people change theirs every 3-5 hours.

  • I was on my period at school the other day and I forgot to bring a spare pad to school so I had to keep the same one in all day but at about 2:30 (my school finishes at 4) I could smell it! You know the blood has a odd smell to it? I could smell myself ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ทwhat can I do to stop this from happening again?? Thanks x

    Remember in the morning to always ensure you have sufficient pads to change during break. If you get caught out in the future you could always ask your teacher, school nurse or school secretary for one.

  • Hello Vicki,
    My daughter uses this sight although I am not sure if parents can use this feature? She heard her Father and I having intercourse last night and will not speak to me or even look at me since. I have tried to explain it is natural but she just won't listen! I could appreciate some help.
    Thankyou.

    My advice would be to continue reassuring your daughter that this is just one part of how couples share their love for one another, it may take her a while to realise this, but I am sure in time she will understand and whilst not always comfortable with the idea, she will hopefully be accepting that this is the way things are.

  • Hi Vicki,
    The other week, I was out shopping with my mum. I asked her if I could have some more cropped tops (coz mine were to small). She said, would this size be okay?(it was age 12-13) I said yeah. Then she said do you want a bra yet? And I said No. Now I realy want one coz most of my friends do. I am scared to ask her, after I've said I don't want one yet! Please help! Thanks xxx

    I am sure your mum will understand if you say you have changed your mind and were a little taken aback when she asked you. Mums were teens once too.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Is it true that you get swollen nipples two years before your first period? I had it when I was nine and now I'm eleven!

    Please answer ASAP,
    Thx

    Some girls notice breast development including the nipple area a few years before the arrival of their period, but we are all different and this is not the case for others.

  • Dear Vicki
    Is discharge everyday or just a few days a month (when your period will be)
    Thanks xxx

    This can vary, some people experience it every day, others just from time to time, either way it is very normal and nothing to be anxious about.

  • So i have just had my first period and now I'm getting lots of brown discharge. Is it normal?

    During the last few days of your period it is very common for the fluid to be light brown in colour, but this is still your period and it is a good idea to either wear a pad of liner during these final days.

  • Dear Vicki, can nasturbating affect your period in a negative way, for example prolong the time you start your period (not first period)? xx




    Masturbation has no impact on your menstural cycle at all.

  • Hi I am 10 (2 months till I am 11)What stage is after pubic hair and longs the gap before the next stage
    ThankYou
    from anonymous

    This depends on the individual, some girls notice breast development and pubic hair about 2 years before the arrival of their period, others get their period sooner.

  • HI vicky please help me my boobs are progressing lost of people at my school have there period i'm scared it going to happen at school i have had a discharge for couple of months what do i expect, when do you think it will happen.

    Discharge can be noticed between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period, so consider taking some pads or liners to school with you from now on so you will always be prepared and you may find my blog on Periods in School useful too.

  • I'm 11 and I find that my emotions are out of control and when I want to be left alone my friends won't stop. What should I do and how do I hold my crazy emotions together

    Why not read our section on Friendships and Boys and Emotions, under the Puberty tab for all you need to know about handling your feelings during puberty.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm almost 13 and haven't had my period yet. I have discharge that can sometimes be brownish but usually just yellowish white. You've told me in some of my other questions that a first period can sometimes be brown coloured the first few times, but when will I actually know when it's there, like with blood and all, not just brown coloured stuff.
    Thank you!!!

    Menstrual fluid is often brown in colour and if your period is light it may always be this colour, so please don't think menstrual fluid has to be red to be real.

  • Hi Vicki, I wrote last week and asked my bra size, you asked me to check again as my measurements were unusual. I got my sister to measure me tonight I measure 71cm under the bust and 113cm over my bust. Plesae tell me my bra size, I'm 15 and I'm wearing a 38DD which simply doesn't fit me, but I live in a remote area with no shops near me which sell nice bras. II will have to get my sister to get one for me online so I need to know what size to order.

    Please help.
    Thanks, Molly x

    Hi Molly, you really should visit a store when you get a chance and ask them to measure you if you feel your DD bra is not suitable.

  • Hi vicki, I have just come back off holiday and I missed my period while I was away! It's the first one I have missed in about 8 months and I'm really worried. What does this mean? Is it because I was in and out the pool? Will it be heavier next month? Also, I use pads but I want to move onto tampons as I dance a lot and I think it would be better for me but I don't know how to ask my mom? Any tips? Thankyou x

    I would not worry too much about your period, they can often be irregular even when they have been regular before.  As for tampons, why not ask your mum if you can try our Lil-Lets teens tampons designed for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands, but just as absorbent.

  • Basically, my brother and his girlfriend are 17 nearly 18 and they were at a party and she got quite drunk and we are so close like she's practically a sister but she told me about her and my brother having sex at her house but I don't know whether she might of remembered telling me about it and I don't want there to be awkward tension!!!!

    Why not try to forget his conversation and be happy that she trusts you enough to share this news with you.

  • Do you have to wear knickers in bed when u r on yout period????

    If you wear pads then yes you will need to wear underwear, but if you wear tampons then no there is no reason to wear underwear at all.