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  • What do I do my nipples show through my swimming costume!!!!! I'm going to do a lot of swimming over the holidays... But my nipples show through and I will be to embarrassed to swim if I can't sort this out please help love may

    Try not to worry and look for a swimming costume that has slight padding to conceal your nipples. 

  • Every time I see South Park when people are humping, it makes me want to have sex, REALLY BADLY. What should I do? I also want to take it to the next step with my boyfriend but I don't think he feels the same way, I am so scared because one day I could just end up having sex, what should I do?? Ps I'm in year 6 and so Is my boyfriend.

    During puberty, sex hormones run riot causing young girls and boys to experience  feelings of a sexual nature more than before and seeing films or tv shows with sexual content will naturally cause excitement.  This is perfectly normal and there is no need for you to feel afraid of having sex as the Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16, so you know you shouldn't break the law.

  • Hi vicky I just has relationships education with my teacher and she gave all the girls a starter pack of lil lets but she didn't tell us what the signs are for starting ur period could u help??

    Why not read our section on Puberty and periods on the website. You will see lots of girls notice breast development a year or so before the arrival of their period, pubic and under arm hair too and finally discharge. But this is not true for all girls and just as many notice hardly any changes to the way they look and feel, which is why its a good idea to keep our starter pack with you when out and about, just in case your period arrives unexpectedly.

  • Does lillets have a YouTube channel
    From Abbey xx✌️✌️✌️

    Yes we do and I have to say it's fabulous with lots of great stuff. Here is the link.  Becoming a Teen.

  • Hi Vicki.. I'm 17 and have a boyfriend(2 years). We aren't sexually active but we do touch now and then when kissing gets a little too good.. I've been feeling like I'm ready to have sex but at the same time I don't really want to do it. He respects me nd told me that it's best to wait a few more years and I agree with this but sometimes I feel like I really want to do it. I'm confused about how I feel. Advice please? x

    Take your time and relax, your boyfriend is not putting you under any pressure which is commendable and when the time is right you will know and it will feel very natural. Please make sure however that you both have discussed contraception and understand its importance.

  • Hey Vicki, im 13 and I fit a 32B but my friends have said I have no boobs before is that true is a 32B flat chested please help xxx

    I think the term 'flat chested' is over used. The fact is that if your breasts are developing you have a bust and the phrase is meaningless. So don't worry about what friends say, we are all unique and a B cup seems like a very acceptable size to be.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a few Qs:
    I keep getting hot flushes, why?Also if your boobs start growing at an early age does it they will be quite big when you are older? Sorry if inappropriate but can girls get wet dreams? Finally I have hair down there, breasts but no armpit hair is this normal? P.S I am 11

    Thank you. You are a life saver!

    Hi, firstly, due to the hot weather, I think lots of us are experiencing hot flushes from time to time, so consider wearing loose fitting and lightweight clothes. Breast size is generally genetic regardless of what age they start developing so look at family members and you may be able to guess what your final size and shape will be. Girls do not get wet dreams, but they do sometimes notice a liquid is produced and released from the vagina when they think of romantic things. Finally, lots of people notice pubic hair but no - or very little under arm hair and this is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm from the US, so I don't use metric, but my measurements are 27 inches under bust and 29.5 inches bust. What size am I? All those websites give me different measurements. Thanks.

    32AA is your size, but remember that this is just a guide and may change slightly when you visit the store to try on different styles.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 14 years old and I have been having discharge for nearly 3 years, it is a yellow white-ish colour and I haven't started my period yet. I would say I am quite skinny and skinnier than other girls in my school but eat a lot! All my friends have started. If I can't put on weight by eating how else am I meant to start my period?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive and there really is no need to consider gaining weight to speed this process up.

  • I had sex wt 14 and I was completely ready, I told my mum and she said at least I was ready, but sex didn't hurt me, why is this?
    And also I don't like the feeling of sex it makes me feel full and like I can't breathe down below, is this normal or am I going mental?x

    It is against the law for a man or boy to have sexual intercourse with a girl under the age of 16, so regardless of whether you felt ready or not, this boy has committed a crime. Furthermore, if you do not like the feeling of sex it would seem you are not ready to be intimate in this way and my advice is to stop all sexual intimacy until you feel ready, as I am sure is the same as your mum's advice.

  • My boobs show through my shirt but I am scared to ask my mum to get me bras because last time I ask she said I didn't need one and I was to young.

    Thanks😃

    Some time has passed and if you explain to your mum that you feel self-conscious because your breats are showing through your shirt, she might reconsider.  You could suggest that you start with a training bra as they are soft and help to get you used to wearing a bra.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 14 years old and I have lost my viginity is that bad?

    The Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16 so yes this is bad as not only has the law been broken, but you could possibly be pregnant too so please seek medical attention urgently.  You can contact the Brook Advisory Clinic on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk

  • Hi Vicki I'm getting lots of spots on my nose they look horrible I'm applying my face scrub more and it's not workin my mum won't let me buy concealer what shall I do????? Thanx

    Spots are a total pain with 90% of your peers experiencing them to some extent too so remember that you're not alone.  Try eating sensibly, avoiding greasy and sugary foods and drink lots of water.  Try getting plenty of sleep and stick to a careful cleansing routine concentrating on the T. zone.  Using a facial scrub too often will cause damage to your skin, so ask your mum if she would consider buying you a medicated, gentle cleanser from your local chemist.

  • Plz answer my questions, I understand totally that you have family life, social life and work life and all but I really need your help.

    Kindest Regards,
    Tessa x

    Hi Tessa, please submit your questions and I will do my best to answer quickly.

  • Hi Vicki,
    This may seem inappropriate but today I had my finger up there and I heard and felt a click. Is this normal or should I be worried? It's never happened before.
    Thanks xx

    I am sure this is nothing to worry about and could have been a joint on your finger clicking.

  • Hi
    Im going to a grammar school but the only downer is that there's no boys, I've started my period and I'm in yr6 i feel like I want to be with boys every single minute, What shall I do xxx

    It is normal to feel an attraction to boys during puberty due to the increase in activity of hormones so try thinking of them as an unwelcome distraction and concentrate on your studies at your new school.  Of course, you could always join clubs outside of school which will enable you to meet boys too.

  • hey vicky LULU again...im afraid u may not answer....but i have had this itch b4 i shaved but i cant tell if it went away because it growin back but the inside there Is kinda shaved hair so i guess its stuck like that till It grows,if i dont think about the itch, its not really there..i dont have any other signs ..all normal..PPL SAY ITCH CAN BE CAUSED DUE TO HORMONE CHANGES,..IM GOIN THROUGH PUBERTY AND HAVE NOT STARTED..COULD THIS BE WHY IT ITCH(HORMONES)

    Vaginal itching can be due to a number of things but I do think that the hot weather plays a big part too.  Pubic hair growth and tight fitting underwear can also cause itchiness so try wearing loose fitting clothes and cotton underwear.  You might also try taking regular dips in a shallow bath to keep the area clean and cool.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 10 and I wear a BB bra but my friends say I need a AAA bra and that I've got nothing to hide but their wrong I've told my mum.

    I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!?

    If you feel comfortable in the bra you're wearing it doesn't matter what others think so try not to listen to them.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've had my first period but it hasn't come back for 6months is this normal?? I'm in yr6 and I was the 3rd girl to get period I told one of my closest friends then everyone started to suck up to me. I know most of them really don't like me but wat shall I do?????? Please answer xxxxxxx

    First of all, try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycyle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and secondly, periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so it won't be too long before your friends are starting their period too.

  • Hi, I have started my period today, when I went to the toliet I noticed a brown stain on my pants, and when I wiped there was a lot of blood on the toliet roll, later on I changed it when I got home then I changed it again it is a very heavy flow, is this normal and is it bad that I am changing it so frequently today even though it is my first period ?

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for your first period to be like this so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • Hey Vicki.......URGENT!!!!!!!!!! HELP
    so i recently shaved ..u knw down there and i get why the outside itch ...but can this make the inside itch too....


    LULU

    I think the hot weather does nothing to help with vaginal itches so try to keep the area as clean as possible by taking quick dips in a shallow bath, wear loose fitting clothing and cotton underwear.  Once you commit to shaving, there will always be stubble/regrowth which causes an itch until you shave again.

  • Hi Vicki,
    On Monday July 14th my vagina was sore, itchy it felt really uncomfortable to sit down I had a discharge that was light pink then reddish down, it stopped about 3 days later and now its still itchy and itseems the lips are pilling before all this hhappened on Saturday July 12th I put fragrance lotion on it and kind of on the lips than sprayed perfume that night my boyfriend fingered me so I don't know what it coucould be

    I would never recommend spraying perfume or any other fragranced product near or on your vagina as this will almost certainly lead to the irritation and soreness you now feel. Your vagina is pretty good at cleaning itself naturally and a non-perfumed bath or shower product is all that is needed to keep this part of your body feeling clean and fresh.

  • Hi Vicki
    Yesterday I got a some brown in my discharge and today the same but a a few little bits I have been having discharge for I think around a year I and recently there has been a lot more is this start of my period because if so what should I do because I'm going on holiday in 1 week!
    Thanks Xx

    I think that this is your period because brown discharge can often present itself as this.  So be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  As you are on your period at the moment, it's unlikely that you will be menstruating whilst on your holiday but you might like to consider taking some Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons with you just in case it arrives early and you want to swim.   Have a great time!

  • Hi vicky,is it normal for your period to be brown?

    Absolutely yes as brown blood is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Hi Vicki
    How old were your children when they started shaving there legs-:)

    My eldest was 13 my youngest was 14. They both did this without my permission, but like most mums I found out pretty quickly and we had a chat about it.

  • What age is it normal to start to develop feelings for boys because I have went through puberty strangely with getting pubic hair when I was 10 and growing boobs when I was 12 then I had discharge since I was about 12 and I started my period when I was almost 14 so these stages have all been separated out and I do like boys but I'm quite sure I started developing feelings when I was 8 would that be too young for that? I might be mistaken

    When puberty begins, sex hormones start work causing young girls and boys to develop attraction to others and this is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • hi vicki ,
    how are you????
    so my cuz was home for a few days and when she was home i felt like she was gonna find that this guy liked me and i kinda like him back.So then we were down town and we meet him and he kept smiling at me and when we got home she kept asking is he your bf?and know she texted me asking is he and i kinda wanna tell her i like him what should i do??
    (btw she is 18 and im 12)
    thanks smileygirl

    Hi Smileygirl, there is nothing wrong with liking this boy so just be honest with your cousin and tell her.

  • Hi Vicki
    How old should you been before you start shaving your legs all my friends shave there legs and I'm not doing it for that reason it's just the hair is quiet long and it's really embarrassing........ erm also how should I ask my parents

    Thanks Xx

    You should really talk to your mum about this so try not to feel embarrassed and remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once.

  • I was about to go in my shower and I looked at my breasts and at the nipple it looks as thought there is orange/yellow kind of puss then I looked in my bra and it's looks kinda yellow ! What's wrong with me I'm really worried I don't want to tell my mum!

    It is normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty, generally caused by the increase in hormones or by wearing tight-fitting clothing so try not to worry.  Be sure to wash the area with warm soapy water to remove any dried fluid and avoid picking as this will make it sore.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't really feel embarrassed talking to her.

  • I'm hysterically crying jus typing this,I'm in yr 10 and hav 1 yr of secondary schl left wich will jus fly past, I hav friends that's I have grown so close 2 and jus the thought of bein wiv out them is depressing, I can't stand 2 think of it without crying, ppl say change is Gud, ppl move and u make new friends, I don't want new fends , I like my friends and don't no Wah 2 do?
    I wud like it if we went 2 the same college but that's unlikely!
    Hellllllpppp????

    Nobody is saying that you have to forget your friends so try not to worry and view the future as an exciting time to meet new friends at college, university and in the workplace.  As I see it, you can never have too many friends so please try not to worry.

  • Hi,
    At the mo I've been feeling quite down with myself. I've been feeling like i have no friends outside my friendship group at school and generally outside of school too. I have not gone to any other school than the one i'm going to now and so don't know how to make closer friends and how to become friends with guys seeming that my school is all girls!!! I need some advice!?, thanks xx

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel self-conscious due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and making new friends can be quite daunting.  You might like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as doing this will enable you to meet like-minded people and give your self-confidence a boost too.

  • HI Vicki!
    Recently i have been feeling awkward/ not feeling as close to my friends as i have been in the past. I have had some problems with some of the girls in my group before and i don't want to, like, move or leave the group as sort of before. What should i do to feel more confident around them?
    Ellie

    Hi Ellie, for more help with this check out my blog on Keeping and making friends.

  • This might be inappropriate but how do you masturbate?

    Masturbation is something that is felt naturally and instinctively and is definitely not something that I can tell you how to do.

  • What does discharge look like and smell like and is it normal for it to be a browny yellow colour thanx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It does have an odour but is nothing too offensive and can appear yellow when it dries out.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens pant liners to protect your underwear from the effects and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes are also ideal for keeping you fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey Vicki, i like this boy and im pretty sure he likes me back because around what April i think he was telling everone that me and him where dating even though we weren't but know he says he likes one of my friends.
    Me and him are like really close friends but im not sure if he likes me back what do i do

    It could be that this boy's affections have moved elsewhere and it may be time to ask him how he truly feels about you following his comments in April. This is really the only way to find out.

  • How will I know when I'm going to get my first period? X

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releaisng discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I'v had periods over a year now. One time it lasted over 2 weeks, the next one was fine, now a week later its back! What could be wrong? Should i go to the doctor?

    Irregular periods are very common during the first couple of years with long and short gaps between each one being experienced. It really is not something you need to speak to your doctor about unless you feel unwell or tired. And it may be a good idea to always have some liners or pads to hand from now on, just in case your period arrives unexpectedly.

  • My friend gets really bad hormones when she is on her period. It's really hard to ignore it because she becomes horrible. Should I say something as it's all the time?

    Have a chat to your friend and let her know that you sympathise with her mood swings but that she also needs to consider how she can control and manage them better in the future or you fear it may impact on your friendship.

  • hi Vicki, I am ten and getting lots of discharge and got brown stuff
    is this my period
    please respond
    x

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • hi Vicky...
    I have got discharge and tried telling my mom. but she doesn't come from here so she doesn't know what it means.
    and what does yellow discharge and sometimes cramps mean when I haven't
    started my periods
    thx :)

    Discharge is very normal and yout body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. There really is nothing you need do when you notice discharge and any stains in your underwear will wash out. Cramps are your body's way of preparing your for the arrival of your periods so why not ask your mum if you can have some pads or liners with you from now on, just in case your period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am really self conscious of the hair on my arms and leg and upper lip.
    I don't know how to ask my mum to get it off. Please help me!!!
    Deena

    Hi Deena, hair on your arms should never be removed. As for your legs you could ask your mum if you can shave this hair now the summer months are here. For the hair on your upper lip, well this can be waxed or lightened, but never shaved or cut.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 11 years old, I have cup 'N' boobs and my mum wont buy me a bra , I have discharge , my stomach hurts regularly and my mom doesn't listen to me and I'm starting secondary school in a few weeks and I'm scared. and i feel fat coz im 51.4 kg is that normal? please answer i really need your help

    Rather than worry about what the scales say consider whether your diet is healthy and if you get sufficient exercise, when both of these are right, your body will find its correct weight. Finally, why not have a chat to your mum and ask if you can add a bra to your school uniform list for Secondary School, especially as sports will be played on a regular basis.

  • How can you deal with going through puberty without being stressed about the way you look?

    It can be tricky and my advice is to firstly be nice to yourself, we all have good and bad days, but that does not mean we should let the bad days rule our lives. Take a good look at yourself and think about what you like about being you, it could be your eyes, your smile, your laugh. This will instantly make you feel better about yourself and more confident too.

  • hi Vicky ,my mom is being really unfair she wants to know my password for my tab but I really don't want to give it to her but she said if i don't tell it to her she won't let me have sleepovers and do fun stuff !!!! she is so unfair !

    I am sure you have nothing to hide and that your mum is just ensuring you are safe when online. So why not give her your password and then when she sees you are browsing quite innocent sites ask her to respect your privacy and not use your password in the future.

  • Hey Vicki, im a girl and my lower private part is bleeding and i haven't had my period yet. Is it because when im shaving that private part i shaved it to low. It gets so bad the blood will go on to my underwear. What do i do. Another it never really dries

    This is almost certainly your period and you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • On my first period i used an applicator tampon on either my 2nd or 3rd day as this is what my mum recommended however you have written about starting with non applicators on your later periods? Was I ok to do what I did? I have used them ever since? Thanks 😘

    It really is a personal choice and if you prefer using applicator tampons then there is no reason why you should not continue to do so. And Lil-Lets has both applicator and non-applicator tampons in its range, so you have plenty of choice.

  • Hi I really need your help! My OCD is getting much worse. I've had gad and OCD since an early stage but, they're getting much worse. I cannot walk out of a room unless I tap the floor with each foot three times. I spend about a full hour a night checking in my bed for danger. I spent 20 mins stood in the rain the other day because I felt like it would make my family safe. help me please! I know it's stupid, but it's a medical condition and a bad one at that!

    If your OCD has been diagnosed by a medical professional then you would be wise to ask your parents to pop you back for another chat. However, remember that a great may people will, at times focus on repetitive behaviour and this very often stops naturally as they get older.

  • My vagina hair(pubic area) is always really itchy and I'm 14. I have tried leaving it alone and I have tried shaving it so what do I need to do, cus it always is itchy in public and I don't want it itch just incase someone sees
    Please help me with this problem
    Hollister123

    Shaving can very often cause irritation as can the heat and tight fitting garments in this area, along with perfumed products. So have a think about changing what you use to shower or bathe with down there, avoid being out in the sun too much or tight fitting clothes and let this hair grow back a little.

  • do lots of girls have hair all over their body?

    Everyone develops hair all over their bodies.

  • Where can I purchase lil teens booklet?
    Thnx

    If you would like to jump on to the home page of this website, follow the link to request a free sample and the Becoming a Teen booklet is inside with samples of our teens range of products.  Please remember to ask your parents or guardians for their permissin first though.

  • Do I have to exercise if I add on weight in puberty?
    Please answer as soon as possible!!!😰

    Lots  of girls notice a change to their shape as they become young women and there is no need to exercise to lose weight, BUT exercise should be undertaken on a daily basis to keep you fit and healthy, so have a think about how you want to incorporate exercise into your day.

  • Im on my period 3rd day and it seems to be so heavy heavier that my usual period. It dosent seem to be slowing down ive used 4 tampons and its only 110clock please help me is here something wrong with me? Laura x

    Hi Laura, periods can change their flow from time to time and it may be  a good idea to move up an absorbency for your heavier days. Why not read my blog; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies for more advice on this subject.

  • I have a really big crush on a boy and it's lasted all year Help!!!!!

    Why not get to know this boy better as a friend...and you never know he may feel exactly the same way about you!

  • hi vicki,
    my last year i accesintly inserted my hand into my vahina and i dont think so i washed it before i sticked and now every single day and hour white stuff comes out (sticky) and my vagina is so ichy and i wanna ask you if that means i am a virgin or not, i didnt tell my mother or anyone cause i am really really scared! no matter what i wont tell her.
    i am 12 years old help me is their any kind of medicine i'll buy❤️

    This white fluid you are noticing is called discharge and it was  most likely just a coincidence that you noticed this after placing your hand inside your vagina. You can find out all about discharge on our website. Finally, to lose your virginity sexual intercourse has to have taken place so please do not worry you are still a virgin.

  • I am really worried about getting my period. My mum has bought me everything I need , but I am still anxious . What should I do ?

    Why not read all the great stuff on our website, you will find all you need to know about periods and puberty here and I hope it will leave you feeling a little less anxious.

  • Hi,

    My name is Aviona and I am 10. I have had discharge for over 2 years, Its brown.
    But now its fading away. But you can still see it and has a strong scent to it and I can smell it and I wonder if other people can smell it

    Hi Aviona, have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you as brown fluid in your underwear is generally your period and not discharge at all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What is a mood board?
    Love,
    L

    A mood board is simply that...a board that you can put up on your wall that is full of all the things you like. Whether that be your favourite colour, band, movie star. Pictures of your hobbies, friends, clothes you like etc. This is great for working out your own sense of style and personality.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am not from the UK but I love this site. I am moving to college next year and I am sure that the bathroom in the accommodation doesn't have a window as I have visited a friend there previously. What tips would you give to help dampness and moulds? And make it brighter? I hate mould as I think it triggers sneezing for me.

    If there is no window in your bathroom there may be an extractor fan that ensures no mould grows or odours linger. If not you can buy some very cheap products that contain crystals, these crystals capture moisture and prevent mould and damp building up.

  • I had my period Monday-Thursday (4 days) and on Friday and Saturday there was nothing there so I thought it had finished for another month. But it is now Sunday and there is blood I don't know whether it will carry on next week because it's currently Sunday but why is this???? Thank you

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi. I'd like to ask a question. I've started my period, and I'm fine with it at the moment and I use pads. I've always been using pads as I feel they're comfortable and easy to put on. I've thought about using a tampon but I'm not sure wether or not to suggest this to my mum seeing as she only buys pads. Another thing is that I'm scared if I do decide to wear a tampon it might hurt when I put it in. Does it hurt to put them in or do you not feel anything at all.

    Thanks-I.S

    All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women and girls all over the world.  It's never been easier to try than by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which are ideal for fisrt-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • I am 14, and have not developed much yet. I am the only one in my friendship group who has not started their period, or developed much boobs. Whenever we are changing at school for PE, or trying something on in a shop, they always mention how flat chested I am, and tease me a little. I'm sure they don't mean to be mean, but it just upsets me. I don't know what to do, because I cant talk to them about it, and I don't really get along with my Mum that much.

    Try not to worry and remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's too so you still have plenty of time.  In the meantime, you might like to try wearing a bra that has a slight padding to make you feel less self-conscious.

  • Hey Vicki, so there's this boy in my year, we went to the same primary school and we went out a few times but now we're in the academy and he's had girlfriends, but recently we started talking again. I like him a bit but not sure if he likes me. If he was to ask me out I don't know what to say because I've had boyfriends in the past and my family members would tease me about it and now I think I'm a bit scared to have a boyfriend, what should I do?x

    It is only natural that family members will do a little bit of teasing but they mean no real malice by doing this and would soon get fed up if you and this boy continue to date. Why not chat to this boy when you go back to school after the Autumn break and see how you feel about him then.

  • Hi Vicki, how old would you say you should be before you shave your legs and how should I ask my parents
    Thankyou Xx

    This is something you should discuss with your parents.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so try not to feel too embarrassed.

  • I want to wear a bikini this summer and i have very dark pubic hair that's kind of long ish. How should i go about this? and what types of bikini enhance your breast shape/size - Im a 34b if that helps :) Thankyou x

    You might like to consider trimming your pubic hair back so it isn't visible through your underwear and as for your bikini, try some different styles on when you go shopping until you find one you feel comfortable and confident in.

  • Can you find lil-lets range of stuff in supermarkets such as asda or tesco or can you only find them on this website thanksxxxxx

    Our Lil-Lets teens range is widely available in branches of Tesco's, Sainsbury's, Boots, Superdrug and Savers but you can also find them in other supermarkets and chemists too.

  • Hi,
    I am on my period now and this time next month I am on holiday, where we will go swimming probably everyday! I hadn't tried out tampons because i worked out that i wouldn't be on my period on my holiday, but it came late this month..
    I tried a tampon yesterday and I wasn't scared, I just don't know how to do it. I'm going to use non-applicator tampons, are they the easiest to use? Could you give me some advice on how to use them and the easiest way to put them in please!
    Thanks x

    All it takes is a little practice and to be relaxed and it's never been easier to try than by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons so why not give them a go.

  • On your puberty guide, it says that going through puberty your weight can vhange. Well mine isn't, I've only put on a little bit of weight. I weigh around 40 ish kgs and my height is 160cm (I'm 13) , which means I'm underweight. However, I eat more than most my friends and more than my parents. My mum said I have high/fast metabolism. But when will that go away, I hate being skinny.

    Ask your mum if she will book an appointment with your GP with a view to being referred to a dietician or nutritionist to discuss your worries.

  • How do u know when your going to have your period.....is there any signs or anything????

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vickie,
    I am very self conscious about my body, I am 12 years old and I have stretch marks on my hips and thighs and I am tall and I think a bit over weight, I get very anxious a lot and I am scared of wearing clothes that reveal a lot of my body (bikinis) most of my friends are smaller than me. I have spoken to my mum and she says that I am growing up and my body is changing, I get quite upset Bolger not being the same size and shape as everyone else, tips on how to be confident?
    Nicole x

    Puberty is naturally a time for young girls to feel self-conscious as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and stretch marks are a common sign of these physical changes.  Your mum is right in saying that the way you're feeling is normal because you're growing up.  Ways of boosting your confidence might include joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as you will meet like-minded people too.

  • I been out with my friend but we broke up I don't want to say why but my friends keep pressuring me to go out with him beaus they think he is good looking x what should I do ???

    It should ultimately be your decision and your friends are wrong to pressurise you into doing something you don't want to just because this boy is considered good looking.  Be true to yourself.

  • I often experience the warning signs of periods but i haven't started yet do you know why this is

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Do you know if theres anywhere i can get free samples of lil lets teens before I buy them so I can test them
    Please reply ASAP so I can find out
    Cheers x :)

    If you pop onto the Home Page of this website, ask your mum or guardian if it's okay for you to receive a sample from us and then follow the link.  It's as simple as that.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I am 12 and I started growing my boobs, except when my mum wants me to wear a bra I feel weird and she says I should as you can see them when I don't wear one. I feel uncomfortable mainly because all my friends wear one and I feel I don't need one.Please answer me.

    You might like to consider wearing a training bra as it is soft and is designed to help you get used to wearing a bra.

  • HEY VICKI,

    my mum said that you know your period is coming when your breasts feel tender
    is this true?
    thanks, your website has been a great help!
    xoxox

    Many women and girls notice that their breasts become more tender before their period is due.

  • Part 3 My boobs have grown recently and I am a 32a and my boobs are really really sore
    About 4 months ago I started to get hair under my arms and I have shaved them
    I am now 13 and I still haven't had my period
    My granny told me that
    My mum started when she was 13
    My granny started when she was 15
    And mr great granny didn't start till she was 18!
    I am worried I font start until I'm 18
    Do you think that I will start soon
    Ps. Sorry it's so long and is like my life story 😂

    You have noticed many of the signs of puberty and the red/brown discharge you noticed was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Um, hi Vicki...
    I haven't started my period but I get alot of discharge....
    I don't wanna wear liners or sanitary wipes or, talk to my mom about it so... what do you think i should do? I really need to know

    Pant liners and Freshen-Up wipes are ideal for helping you keep fresh and clean down there and there really is no alternative as discharge is perfectly natural, not only working to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection but also as a sign that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • Part 2 I have recently become "over emotional" and am struggling to control it and I can't help but be really crappy and impatient with my 11 year old sister
    Yesterday when i changed my pants there was a couple of spots of browny redy stuff that had dried onto my pants about 2 centimeters away from my discharge ( Whitchurch honestly looked heavier than normal)

    Response in Part 3.

  • Dear VIcki,
    I've started my period, the other day a boy came up to me saying 'do u wanna build a tampon' so now I think one if my friends has told someone and I think he knows ever since he hasn't stopped making fun of me, like things about pads and tampons. What shall I do??

    Please try to ignore the comments of this immature boy.  He is only doing this for attention and doesn't understand that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so by ignoring his behaviour, he should soon get bored and stop.

  • Part 1When I was about 11 I got my first pubic hairI am very worried about my period starting and my mum said its a little like peeing but you can't hold it in. I felt something that felt like her explanation of periods. So I went to the bathroom and their was this white, clear gooey stuff, I had heard about discharge and I touched I'd and it was really sticky
    This was about 5 or 6 months ago.. Then I started to get pains in my low left,low right sides .

    Response in Part 3.

  • Is my sister going to start puberty near the same age as me?

    We don't always follow our mums or sisters in being the same age starting puberty so you will simply have to wait and see.

  • hi Vicki, I am 13 on the 2nd sept and I am worried I still havnt started my period! everyone of my friends has started apart from me! my mum started when she was 17 will I start then? many thanks!

    Try not to worry as girls can start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Haya vicki! Why dont you make a video of your self or something like that? I would like that! Or youtube thingy?!
    thqnk you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    I am sure you would much rather see celebrities than me and I am pretty busy answering all of your questions, so I am not sure when there would be time.

  • Hey vicki

    My boobs are really sore like to touch and I told my mum and my granny

    My granny said it might mean they're growing

    And my mum said oh!

    Any ideas as what it could be ? Xxx

    Listen to your Gran as she is right in saying that breasts feel sore and painful while they are developing.

  • Hey vicki! You know the vidios in your website, like the people in them, have you met them all? Sorry just curious
    curiousmonkeyxxxx

    Hi Curious Monkey, yes I am lucky enough to be allowed to attend all of our shoots with celebrities. It's great fun.

  • Hey Vicki! You know the refrence numbers, do you have to when typing it to the thing when searching for your question, does it have to be capital letters like does small letters work on it?
    thanks xxx

    Either will do.

  • Hi vicki! Im 13 and i started my period yesterday, i didnt have any cramps before i started so i had no idea it was coming. Today i have still not had any cramps, is this normal?

    This is absolutely normal so try not to worry as not everyone experiences stomach cramps with their period.

  • Hi vicky im 13 and i just started my period yesterday, now that i have started will my boobs grow a lot quicker than before?

    You will simply have to wait and see how your breasts develop.

  • okay so there is this boy at my school that I use to like and I had him on bbm and he would ping me everyday and I sit next to him in 2 lessons my friend told me that she heard him and his friend talking about me saying he likes me but I don't like him anymore and everyone in my year thinks I like him how can I get a fresh start in year 8?

    Be honest and open with this boy and tell him as nice a way as possible that you only like him as a friend. It may be that the natural summer gap will ensure he knows that you are no longer as keen as you were.

  • Hey vikki it's teya
    So my best friend stayed round my house but in the middle of the night
    she said can I lay on top of you and I did not hear what she was saying so I just said yes. Then she humped me !!!!

    We have never spoke about it since. we are still best friends. The weirdest thing was that I liked it !
    Thanks so much xx

    Puberty is a time for teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature due to an increase in activity of sex hormones so your friend was acting on an instinct but if you didn't feel comfortable with her dry humping you, you should have told her to stop.  Put it in the past and try to forget about it.

  • Hi, I've had my period for 6 months or so now but it still isn't set and comes at different times each month. Next month I'm going away on a holiday with a lot of swimming involved. I am scared that I might come on whilst in the pool. Can I wear a tampon as a precaution or is this not safe? Thank you xx

    It is normal for periods to be irregular in the early stages of the menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  As for wearing tampons, when the time arises, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use.  However, you should never insert a tampon unless you're menstruating as inserting a tampon dry can cause tiny tears to appear on the vagina wall which may lead to infection.

  • My school goes from age 3-18 and on the bus I sit with a girl who is year 6, but I am year 9. I have already gone through pretty much of all the changes that happens during puberty. I don't think she has gone through any, but i know she doesn't have the home environment that I had, where I could ask my mum everything. I want I be there for her when she does start to develop, and I want her know she can talk to me. Do you have any ideas about what to help her with and how to make it less awkward?

    Being a friend and letting her know that you are there to answer any concerns she might have would be a great comfort to her, so just tell her.  You could also suggest that she requests a free sample of teens products from the home page of this website as there is a Becoming a Teen booklet which is crammed full of information to help her through puberty.  However, she will need parental permission to do this.

  • Hi,
    I started my period in January this year, but still haven't told my mum, an don't want to actually talk to her because she makes a huge deal and makes everything awkward. Would it be an "acceptable" way to tell her to text her whilst she's away at work. If it is, what should I tell her?

    If you feel more comfortable telling her by text then absolutely, it should be fine.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and should be able to help you through this special time in your life.  You can start by asking how old she was when she started her period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I asked you a question but you haven't answered it. I was wandering if you thought it was inappropriate but I really need an answer to my question
    X

    Please resubmit your question if you can't find your response.

  • Hi Viki,
    What should I do if a like a boy who has a girlfriend, I always try to get over him but he is so cute and naturally funny. Am sure I don't want to ruin his relationship. Btw he never determines me
    Thanks - Mia Mars

    Hi Mia, as this boy already has a girlfriend you should move on and try to forget about him.

  • I am 13 years old and my friends have had their period. My breast are not big but pointy and at the back their is a curve kinda lump. I get lots of pubic hair downwards but not on the face of the vagina and i have recently started to grow longer armpit hair too. I have started shaving too downwards. My breasts kinda jiggle while walking but i dont wear a bra. Will that slower the process? Also i hardly have curves and everyone calls me small coz i havent started yet. Please give me advice

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it's only a matter of time before you notice more development too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had the signs that I am going to start my period soon. I a concerned though because I do a lot of gymnastics and I am just scared that if I wear a pad it might fall out or something like that because I have experienced a liner fall out before and it was really embarrassing. I am really not ready to wear tampons when my period arrives. What should I do?

    Lil-Lets teens range has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and you should find that they fit better.  When you feel ready to use tampons, we also offer a teens Regular non-applicator tampon which is absolutely ideal for first-time use.  Why not ask for your parent's permission to request a free sample of our teens range from the home page of this website?

  • Hey, i am 13 and i have had discharge for about a year and a half and still haven't started my period, how long do you think it will be until i start?

    As you've been releasing discharge fo quite a while, I guess your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey, i have had discharge for about a year and a half and i haven't started my period, how long do you predict it will be until i start?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 13 and I'm not too sure if I'm about to start my period or not I want to ask my mum if you can buy me some lil-lets products but I'm a bit embarrassed to ask her I want to send the e-card too but my dad can then see it too but I just want my mum to know what shall I do!!!!!!! Thanks 😘

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence in the life of every girl so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed by it.  Your mum was a young girl going through puberty once too so why not just talk to her as she will be able to help you through this special time in your life.

  • Hey Vicki
    PLEASE ANSWER!
    So a few of weeks ago I got my period and the only people I told was my three best friends. two of them had already started there period so they gave me pads to last the week however I think I'm away to get it again and my friends are on holiday what should I do? I live with my dad as me and my mum don't get on very well..
    PLEASE HELP AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!!

    I'm sure your dad will be aware of the fact that you could be starting your period but if you're too embarrassed to talk to him, why not write him a note and ask that he either picks up some sanitary towels for you in with the weekly shop or gives you the money to buy your own.  You might also like to ask him for his permission to request a free sample from the home page of this website.

  • How can we reduce greasiness from skin?

    Greasy skin during puberty is so common as sweat glands naturally produce more sweat.  You might like to consider buying a  gentle cleanser, preferably one that is water-based which you should use both morning and night to keep your face clean.  Se ehow you get on and if it doesn't help, ask your mum or guardian to ask a pharmacist for some recommendations.

  • I'm 13 and a 32b bra size. I have been getting discharge almost every day for at least 2 years, I have had pubic hairs and armpit hairs for ages too but I haven't started my period. I don't know why, when my friends talk about theirs I feel really left out and every time I have felt ill in the last year my mum thinks I will get my period. Will it come soon, is there something wrong and how do I deal with being embarrassed every time it is brought up at school or home???
    Ps. This site is really helpful

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I have some pubic hair, but only a tuft around the bottom of the opening to my vagina. I was wondering if you get some around your bum hole? Sorry if this is inappropriate but I'm really worried. Thanks.

    It is normal to develop hair there yes.

  • Hi vicki,
    I started my period and there was loadss of blood on my tissue when I wiped myself, so I put a pad on and went to bed. When I woke up there was nothing on the pad.
    Im 11 and I was ten when it happened, but since then I haven't had a period.

    Have started or not?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vikki, so I got caught kissing my bf at school. I'm 12 and I know I shouldn't have done it but it was my first kiss and it was ruined. The school rang home and my parents haven't mentioned it yet but I know they will. What should I do?? :( thanks vikki, I really love your site xoxoxoxoxo

    Thank you for your words of support.  When and if your parents bring the kissing incident up, just be honest with them and tell them what happened.

  • I'm 16 and a late developer as I've only had my period for a year. I would say my breasts are a A cup depending on the shop. But I feel they are just real small and I'm really self concious about it. I don't like wearing padded bras as it makes your boobs appear bigger, when it's obvious there not when I'm wearing a bikini/swim suit.Do you think they will ever get a bit bigger (just to boost self confidence) or is it too late by 16?

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.  Try not to focus too much on the size of your breasts and feel confident in the way you look.

  • Hi so ive had discharge for just over a year now and im 14 and i have no boobs or anything.will i start my period soon

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hiiii, basically i first noticed breast buds over 2 years ago at the age of 11however now there is still no increase in size even tho ive had these breast buds for 2 years and im now nearly 14. Will my breasts like ever grow? Thanks from alicia xxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Alicia, try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • I recently moved house and schools (I still go back there sometimes) and a boy at my old school who I was good friends with still talks to me, I want to tell him I like him, but I don't know how because it will turn things awkward and change our friendship- he will put things like "aw I miss you loads love ya 😏😘x" does that mean he likes me? Or does he mean it in a friend way I'm confused... Please help?! 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

    I think you need to be direct and simply tell him that you like him but try not to be upset if he doesn't feel the same way.  You can still be good friends.

  • I'm 16 years old, and I've only had my period for a year and I've been using sanitary towels which I hate. I've tried loads of different tampons, and even your teen brand but all of them I find difficult to insert or they hurt while trying to applicate. Why can't i do it after so many attempts?
    Already have lubricant, relax etc.

    I would suggest that you book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out for peace of mind.

  • On your bra chart it doesn't have my size so what should I go for ??
    I am 70cm under bust and 75cm at fullest part ?? Please help !!

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • I'm 13 and i have a massive crush on an 18 year old? is it illegal to date someone of that age or is it just illegal to have sex? x

    It would be unlawful for the 18 year old person to have any kind of sexual contact with someone under the age of 16 and that does not only include sexual intercourse.

  • Last summer i had a really bad summer holiday. I was constantly putting myself down and feeling bad about myself. I was certain i was going to have a much better summer this year but i know I'm not now :( . I have just been pushed out my friendship group, been dumped by my boyfriend and getting this empty sad self concious feeling back. I don't want
    To have another holiday like that but there is only two days of school left and I'm not that close to my new friends. What am i meant to do? :'(

    Try to stay positive as we all outgrow our friends at times.  There is every chance that when you return to school in September, it will all be forgotten and you will continue as before so try not to let it affect your Summer holidays and relax and have fun.  Puberty is naturally a time when teens experience massive self-doubt and my advice is to start by being nice to yourself, spend fun time with family.

  • Hi viki!
    I've been rather uncomfortable for the past few weeks, for example,I've been having stomach cramps frequently, and my discharge has become more frequent. My discharge also has an "off" smell, is this normal? My mum started her period when she was around 13 but I've only just turned 12, does this mean I'll start my period at 13?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  It is normal for discharge to have an odour but nothing too offensive.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they are great not only for helping you to keep fresh and clean down there but also as a sign that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives. 


  • (My 'friends' problem):
    2 weeks before we had a sleepover and she said she thinks she's fat ( she's 11 and 4 stone 1) !! She only ever eats half of a dinner everyday and I'm extremely worried about her!! No ones ever talked to her about it and I don't really want to!! My mum knows as well but I don't think my friends mum knows!! Me and my other friend also do a little self harm as well if you have any tips with that?

    Let's address your friend's problem first of all as you're right to be concerned about her attitude to eating and gaining weight and I wonder if there is a trusted teacher at school that you might like to talk to so she can get the help she needs.  You could also suggest that she calls Childline on 0800 1111 for some confidential help and support.  Puberty can be a most demandng and difficult time in a young person's life due to all the emotional and psychological changes that are occurring all at once, they can easily develop low self-esteem and develop an irrational fear of gaining weight.  Self-harming is an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't your fault so please talk to a trusted family member or call Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get the help you need.

  • I told you bout me and my. Best friend, I admitted feelings and he said bye?, turns out he does like me back, we talk to each other everyday through messaging and only see each other like once a week because we are not in same schools, he lives about 10minutes drive away from me and I don't know if he'd want to be my bf because it'll be hard? I don't know whether I should ask him, I want him to be comfortable but I really want to be able to call him mine... Help please we are stuck, thanks

    He seems a little unsure of his feelings as you do get on well together yet when you told him you like him he said 'bye'.  I would try to be direct in telling him how you feel and would like to be his girlfriend and then the decision is his but if he doesn't want to be your boyfriend, do try to remain friends.

  • Hello viki-
    I have had discharge for about 5-6 moths now and I have had a bit of stomach aches lately. I have started wearing a bra recently and wondered if that might be causing the stomach aches as when I take it off it doesn't hurt that much but a pain is still there. I was fitted by Someone in a shop so it's not tight, but the correct size, but I was wondering if I might be starting my period soon, my mom said she had hers at 13 and I've only just turned 12.

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and I don't think wearing a bra would cause you to have a stomach ache so there is a chance that this might be due to your body getting ready for when your period arrives but please talk to your mum about this.

  • I have this long thing coming out of my vagina, I'm not sure what it is, it might be my clit I don't know how to say or explain it. If you know what I mean please could you help, I don't know whether it's normal or not?
    Thank you

    Why not read my blogs on the Reprodutive System for more on how your body looks in this area.

  • Hi Vicki! Im really worried as i havent started my periods yet and im worried that i have that disease that you never start your periods. I have a dietry issue and i only eat unhealthy things. Im 6 and a half stone too and have discharge nearly everyday. Im also a 30B bra size. Please answer im so scared! :(

    Discharge is a good sign that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives and this is usually between 6-12 months time.  As you're worried, talk to your mum or guardian and ask to visit your GP for peace of mind.

  • OMG!!!!!!!
    I'm in yr 6 n I have a boyf!! I hant started my period yet but I'm really scred bc I held hands wi my boyf last week n I think I'm pregnunt bc I'm gettin pains down below
    PLS ANSWER N HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

    The only way you could possibly be pregnant is by having sexual intecourse with a male so please try not to worry as holding hands is perfectly fine.

  • I only live with my dad. How do I convince him to let me wear thongs? They seem way more comfy to me and look nice. Should I tell him that without panty lines dudes won't look at my butt? Idk. I just wanna wear thongs. Help. Thx

    Thongs are designed to be worn at certain times; for instance if your trousers are low cut or your clothes clingy and standard briefs would show. They are not designed to be a way of attracting boys. So why not wait until you are older and if you like a boy let him get to know you for who you are as a person and not how you look!

  • Hi Vicki
    I dont have my period yet but I seem to be constantly moody and emotional. I used to blame it on tiredness but now I'm not so sure. Please help!!
    Thanks a lot
    Mia
    XxxxxxX

    Hi Mia, it is perfectly normal to feel moody during puberty as hormones are running riot and serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress.  Try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most improtantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as chances are, some of your friends are feeling the same too so you can support each other.

  • Hi Vicki so today I was in the bathroom and wiped and there was some blood on the tissue and I told my mother and she said that she thinks its my period but um not sure (sorry if this is a bit gross)

    Try not to worry as it's not gross at all.  This was your period but during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I hurt down three its rrlly rd plz reply r before twenty eight of July
    Thanks puppy eyes

    Hi Puppy Eyes, it is possible for vaginas to itch when pubic hair grows and this hot weather doesn't help matters as the area can become sweaty and irritated so try keeping the area as clean and cool as possible with regular bathing and try wearing loose fitting clothing and cotton underwear.

  • I'm 16. I'm in love with a 10 year old boy. We have so much in common and he is very mature for his age. Ppl call me things like slut for liking him. But this is true love. I told him about it and he said that he loves me.would ppl judge if I dated him? And no I'm not talking about sex. If wait till he's 18. At least. Could I date him? Thank you, Vicki.

    Hi, as this boy is only 10 it is highly unlikely he would be emotionally, physically or mentally able to date or understand about relationships. And whilst I appreciate that you are fond of him, I think it would be best to either keep your distance from him until he is much older or make a pact to only be friends and nothing more.

  • I'm 13 i have no boobs and earlier this year when i was at school i notised some blood when i went to the loo so i told my mother but i didnt think i started so we called it a false alarm because it stopped that day ,Around 2 days ago when i woke up in the morning to go to the toilet i saw some brown blood in my pants but i left it because i didnt know what to do and since then theres been blood in my pants have i started my period or not? Because im not experiancing any cramps and if so what do i do?

    This is your period so be sure to ask your mum to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • 🙈🙈🙈
    I'm 14 and 15 in about 2 months, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we hve only kissed (with tongues/snogging) how can I take it further without making it awkward?

    You and your boyfriend have been together for almost a year and should now be able to talk to each other openly and freely about things.  I will take this opportunity to remind you of the Law of Consent which states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • I have had brown discharge for 1-2years hair everywhere 2-3nboobs 4 and still no period!

    Brown blood is simply old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina so try not to worry, this is perfectly normal.  This is your period.

  • Hi Vicki
    After i was masturbating, it looked like there was brown discharge. Was this a coincidence so it was my first period, or was it bleeding. Btw im 10, 11 in a month
    💛💜💛💜💛

    As brown discharge can often present itself as a first period, be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • Hi Vicki. Please answer ASAP😳
    I'm 14, my last period was in January 2014, since then iv had nothing. But tonight 19-07-14 at 7:30pm onwards iv had terrible lower stomach pains, sickness, and also, light pink discharge. Is it my period?
    PLEASE ANSWER ASAP🙏

    This is your period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regualr period.

  • Is it ok to shave pubic hair at 10 years old? I don't like how it feels or looks. Can I shave it? And will it be easier to masterbate without it?

    Rather than shave it at first, why not consider simply trimming it back.  Pubic hair has no effect on masturbation.

  • What does is a hymen supposed to look like? And where is it at? I can't find mine... Thanka

    The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.

  • Sup Vicki. EMO GIRL. Sorry for asking so many questions but someone asked about dying their hair. I started permanently dying mine at 10. Is that bad? Like I bleach, dye colors, etc. I also straighten it every day without heat protection. My hair is damaged but will it like fall out or anything??? Thx Vicki. You rock!!! ❤️❤️❤️ - :3 meow EMO GIRL

    Hi Emo Girl, it might be worth your while consulting a hairdresser who will be able to advise you on the condition of your hair.  Personally, I think that prolonged straightening and dyeing of your hair can cause damage and a hairdresser might be able to suggest some products to protect it.

  • How do you masterbate? Sorry if innapropriate. Thx

    Masturbation is something that is felt instinctively and naturally and is definitely not something I can tell you how to do.

  • My mum is a 36D, do you reckon my bra size will be around that when I'm older? I started my periods year earlier than her.

    We don't always follow our mums in being the same bra size or starting our period so you will simply have to wait and see.

  • Why am I crying over little things?(mum shouting at me for having a messy room)?

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel more upset than before due to the increase in activity of hormones and there are also so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once, they can be excused for feeling more sensitive than usual. 

  • Hey Viki.
    I've been getting a brown-ish discharge in my underwear for the past few days. Im 12. after using the bathroom and wiping, this brown gooey clump came out in my toilet paper. Im weating pads. Is this my period ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so just keep an eye on what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • What do I do if I like a boy

    Try talking to him to get to know im because even though you feel attracted to him, you don't know what his personality is like.

  • My discharge always becomes really heavy days before I'm on my period and it also becomes really watery, why is this?

    It is normal for discharge to vary in consistency throughout the menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Most girls say that before they come on their period they eat loads but I find that I get full really quickly and bloated and don't really want to eat anything at all. Is this normal because I don't no any other girls who feel the same way?

    This is not true for all girls, and some eat less a week or so before their period as they feel bloated and then resume a normal eating pattern when their period arrives. Others crave sweet things such as chocolate or cake. We really are all different you see and it pays to listen to your body and try to be as healthy as you possibly can.

  • A couple of days before my period my body feels really like tingly especially behind my knees and in 'intimate' areas and I feel really lethargic and lustful, is this feeling 'horny'?

    It could be considered 'horny', when someone has feelings of a sexual nature yes.

  • hi, i keep getting hot at random times for no reason y? Also y do some people go through a stage where thier boobs really hurt because mine don't.

  • if your vagina gets very itchy sometimes is it an infection or something else? Can u tell me the answer ASAP please thnks

    There could be a number of reasons why your vagina is itchy with the most common being due to pubic hair growth.  You would know if you had an infection as your vagina would be red and swollen and you would be releasing a discharge that ressembles cottage cheese, it would also be painful to pass urine. 

  • I'm only 14 but I find myself only sexually attracted to men around 40! Is this likely to last forever or is it just hormonal- don't worry, I know better than to act on any of those crushes though

    This is definitely due to the increase in activity of your sex hormones and you sound like a sensible girl in knowing that crushes are a passing thing that you shouldn't act on.

  • I have yellow stuff in my underwear is this discharge?
    Ps I dont have any hair and small breasts
    Thanks Vicki :-) :-)

    The 'yellow stuff' you have noticed is discharge which is perfectly normal as it not only works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection but also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  Try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other too.

  • I'm 13 and I'm not sure what size I am, because all the sizes below 32a give me a really big side boob so they're all too small however 32a seems to be a bit too big, yet it STILL gives me a side boob. Also, sometimes there seems to be a tiny gap at the top between the bra and my boob (whovh upposedly means it's too big?) I'm so confused:(

    You might like to consider getting a professional bra fitting at a local department store as they will be able to suggest styles that will fitr you the best and offer the most support.

  • Hey Vicki! I've had a crush on this guy for 5 years!! We went on a date the other day and when we leaned in for a kiss this little kid ran by saying "ew cooties!!" And when the guy drove me home we didn't talk or anything! It was so awkward cause the kid ruined the moment! That could have been the best moment of my life. :'-( how do we continue without it being so awkward??

    What a shame that this boy ruined your special moment.  As you've been going out with your crush for 5 years and are still going out with each other, I'm sure the opportunity to have your first kiss will arise again.  Talk to your crush and try to make light of it.

  • My discharge was very light brown today and I'm wondering if this is my first period or not because it was so light. Please help!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I got my actual period around two months ago (10 months before that I kept spotting in my discharge every 1-3 ish months), and when I got my first period I had it for 8 days, it was quite heavy, but now I haven't had it for two months. Why did I get spotting and no period before, spotting sometimes means your period is coming soon? Also, ever since I got my first proper period my discharge has got so thick, it looks like bogies, why? When will I get my second period?-Thankyou:)

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycyle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I've never kissed anyone before and I always dread that I'll do it wrong. And I think that tieing a cherry stem in a knot is a myth (even though I can do it) would If be weird If I asked my friend if we could practice doing? That even sounds weird. She has a boyfriend and she's bi. I'm bi but single. So she wouldn't be like cheating if she did this right? I just want practice and forget about the first kiss thing. Is that wrong or weird? What's your advice? Thx

    A first kiss is something that is felt instinctively and naturally and is best practiced with someone you feel attracted to.  So you might like to consider waiting until you are with that someone special.

  • Hi Vicki, Im 12 and haven't started my periods yet, is that normal, also im starting buying stuff for school and think I should get some emergency period supplys incase I get it but im too embarrassed to ask my mum, please tell how to ask her, it would be brilliant
    Thanks xx

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.  You might like to ask your mum if she would buy a Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack for you as it is filled with samples of our products from our teens range and also has a Becoming a Teen booklet which is full of useful information to help guide you through puberty.  They are available in branches of Tesco's, Sainsbury's and Boots or from our online shop.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her.

  • I have noticed some mucus aaround my vigena but its not transferrering on to my undies os it discharge

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and is also a sign that our body is getting ready for when our period arrives.  Lil-Lets teens pant liners will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there as they can be changed as often as you like.

  • Hey Vicki, I have used tampons before and have been perfectly fine but I was kinda worried that if I swim in them they might leak slightly? Also I'm going on holiday in two weeks but my period is due this week, do you think I should take some stuff with me?? Thank you, form E xx

    There really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection while swimming so when you are on holiday, be sure to change before and after you swim to ensure you have the best protection and avoid any possible leakage.  Hope you have a great time.

  • I have started writing blogs about cats on Tumblr but I'm running out of ideas. I really enjoy it but I posted a link on Facebook and no one seemed interested. I asked for suggestions but no one cared. I have no followers..help?! :(

    If you love cats, then why not make up a set of stories about a fictitious cat and put him/her in some crazy situations. Or take him on some wonderful journeys across the world. You could even make her a teenage cat for a new twist.

  • Hi Vicky,
    So the other day me and my group of friends were chatting and one of them said something about a really good porn site. I typed it into google not really knowing what porn was. I watched a few videos finding them a bit boring but now I keep watching porn even though I find it boring. Is that normal?

    I think it is normal to be curious about sex during puberty but you should always use caution while watching pornography as it can give a distorted impression of what a loving, respectful sexual relationship should be like.  It is important to stay mindful of the things that mean the most to us in life, like family, friends and school.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm about to have my period in 3 days. I started getting pain on my lower back, I was wondering because I'm having my period or maybe i laid in a wrong position while sleeping.
    Thx,
    Sierra,12 :)

    Hi Sierra, the pain might be linked to your period but please talk to your mum or guardian to see what she thinks.

  • hi Vicky
    all the boys in my class like this girl because she has got gigantic breasts and I have but not massive. so is it true that boys like people with breasts

    I think that boys are naturally fascinated by females regardless of their breast size.

  • Does sperm come out every time a boy pee's

    No, sperm is only released when a boy or man ejaculates.

  • I Started Getting Breasts About 5 Months Ago , I Know Its Never 100% , But When Do You Reckon My Period Will Start?

    We're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other so tell your friend to be patient as her period will be along pretty soon.  The best way of knowing when her might arrive is when she has been releasing discharge     for between 6-12 months.

  • hi vicki how are u? it's sel here. i like this boy but he doesn't like me. How can we get closer?

  • hi vicki its sel again. im going into year 9 after the summer holidays and im nervous for my gcse and i was wondering if u have any advice/tips for getting the best marks possible and revising and keeping on top of my grades? xx

    Hi Sel, it's great to hear that you want to be organised and do well in your exams but try to enjoy the Summer holidays and check out my blog on Top Tips to beat exam stress for when you're back at school.  Try to remember that all you can ever do is your best.  Good luck!

  • 1) I have extremely thick and dark hair in between my boobie area and it's starting to make me feel embarrassed.
    2) a year ago I used a tampon without my mum knowing and I was fine I want to try again but I told my friend and she made me feel disgusting.
    3) I have barely any clothes to wear and my mum wont take me shopping or give me money for clothes because she says she needs the money for our house.

    Hi, here are my answers.

    1. Lots of girls notice extra hair in this area, it should however start to disappear or become finer as you continue your journey through puberty.

    2. Tampons are a very clean, discreet and comfortable method of sanitary protection and can reduce any odours. They are used by many millions of women every day so please try not to be too upset about your friends remarks. BUT ask your mum next time, rather than taking one of her tampons without permission.

    3. Why not start visiting charity shops, clothes are inexpensive and unique and a great way to find your own sense of style.

  • Can Tampons get stuck inside the tummy?

    It would be impossible to lose a tampon inside your tummy as the opening to the womb is smaller than the tip of a matchstick.  The tampon will stay in the vagina.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have two questions for you today.
    1. What shaving cream should i use on my legs because i read up on it and im confused?
    2. What age do you usually see a gynocolagist for the first time?
    Many thanks.

    This really is a personal choice and with so many products on shelf I am sure you will find the ideal product for you. As for your second question, in the UK there is no need to visit a gynaecologist unless you are pregnant or experiencing problems in the vaginal area. This differs to other countries where girls are often encouraged in their teens to have regular check-ups.

  • A friend likes a boy but he doesnt like her back what should she do

    Unfortunately this happens in life and you cannot make someone feel an attraction for you if they do not and this does not mean there is anything wrong with you, it simply means you are not suited and there will be other boys who like your friend. So my advice is to move and consider just being friends with this boy.

  • Hi Vicki, I've had my period for about 2 and half years and it always followed a regular cycle - every 28 days - but lately its been coming after 14 - 21 days and is extremely heavy with severe cramps. I'm almost 16 and I was just wondering is this normal?

    As you've already been having periods for a while, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • My breasts are sore what does that mean???

    It is normal to experience painful, sore breasts with development so try not to worry.  A soak in the bath will help to soothe them.

  • Is using a tampon sore?

    All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.  The trick is to relax before inserting the tampon high enough into the vagina so only the cord is showing.

  • Under bust 64cm
    Ovr 75cm
    Am I normal? My bra size if I have 1 plz ?. I am 19 and a half. Should I take pills ...? I feel lyk a boy.people laugh at me

    Your bra size is a 30AA and you should try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and you should love your breasts regardless of their size. 

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 15 and very active in sports and such. I have a normal diet and am trying to loose some of the muscle on my body. It came pretty quickly and ended up on me having stretch marks all down my legs. Will the stretch marks every go away or are there any creams I could use to help them fade?

    Try not to worry as stretch marks are so common during puberty when skin is stretched rapidly over a short period of time.  Try applying some moisturiser as it will help to keep the skin hydrated and minimise the effects.  Check out my blog on Stretch Marks for more help and advice.

  • hey Vicki so Im 14 and I have periods and everything but I just don't know how to shave because I get spots and stuff I also don't know how short to cut it or anything also I have like this extra skin growing and it looks like a wart but I don't want to tell my mum

    Warts are common pretty much everywhere on your body, even on your pubic and vaginal area and there is no need to worry about this. As for hair removal, I see no reason to do this personally and it may be easier to trim this hair back in the summer months if you feel it necessary.

  • How do you know if the boy you like likes you?

    Boys can show their affection for someone in lots of different ways, they can tease you, hang around you all the time, go red when they see you. Or even pretend that they dislike you to distract others from the way they truly feel. One thing is for sure they will always be around and you will catch them looking over at you from time to time. Why not read my blog entitled; First Love for more on this subject.

  • I have been asked out by a boy at my secondary school and I do like him but I dont know what to say . And what do I do if he wants to kiss me?

    Why not read my blog entitled First Kiss and Top Dating Tips, I am sure you will find both of these really useful.

  • Hey Vicki, I was wondering what are boobs made of?? E xx

    Breasts are made up of milk glands, fat, tissue and muscle.

  • I think i'm really ugly and the whole year does too. My mum and i were talking about this girl in my class and my mum said shes beautiful and she will be stunning when she's older but obviously if i was she would say about me too but she didn't :( everybody in my year hates me. Help. I need your advice.

    Just because your mum did not compliment you, does not mean she feels you are unattractive and I am sure to her you are the most beautiful person in the world. It can however be hard on teenagers when they feel a little self-conscious about their appearance to hear others being complemented. Why not have a chat to your mum and let her know how this makes you feel and together you can find ways to improve your confidence levels.

  • Part 3- . When we went back to the classrooms, since it was the last day, everyone was hanging out,and R told all the girls in the class and they started bitching about me and starting arguments with me.I ended up shouting at one girl and saying 'well maybe you should shut your face' later i apoligised and she understood.Anywayit spoiled my last day of year 7 and its all im thinking about how should me and R make up at school. Also in the classroom i told her everything that happened

    When someone likes someone else romantically they very often speak to someone who is not their best friend about this matter and this can lead to divisions in friendships and things getting a little out of hand. It would be far better in future to just let these little chats continue and try not to get upset by them. Have a chat to your friend or text her letting her know that things got heated and you hope you can all spend time together in the summer and forget what happened on the last day of school.

  • Part 2- my friend K was getting upset cos her and A were really close and now they aren't because of A.By now everyone was getting emotional so i went up to A and R and I said 'All this week you have been dragging away A from K and she's getting upset because of all your private chats, so you need to choose your friends or the ugly troll boy.' R replied 'Well right now i want to choose the boy' in a horrible attitude. I walked off and to the boy and said 'You need too talk to R right now!'

    See my response in Part Three.

  • my period is very light and i dont even realise its there sometimes so i dont know ive started until i go to the bathroom but then i have bloody knickers. i usually only have my period for 1 sometimes 2 days and never get cramps, im 16 and started 4 years ago so im regular now. is this normal or is there something wrong? my friends say im so lucky not to get cramps

    Try not to worry as it is normal for your period to last only 2 days and not everyone has stomach cramps with their period.

  • Well this is going to be a bit of a long one so it will be in several parts.My friend,lets call her R,has had 2 boyfriends and has a crush on this guy and it is on the same person my other friend does, lets call her A.Anyway they kept having these private chats together and it drove me and my other friend,K crazy.Yesterday on the last day she claimed she was gonna ask him out and didn't and just kept having more private chats with A. End of part 1

    See my response in the last section.

  • Hi vicki I am so so so scared!! I am on my period and today I was doing my makeup in the mirror as I felt a big gush of blood come out my vagina,so I went to look at my pad and there was a massive pile of blood that looked like a slug!! What is this? I'm terrified please help!!!😩😩😯

    There is no need for alarm as small clots like this are simply a part of the lining of uterine wall being released with menstrual fluid.

  • I told a boy (my best friend actually) how I feel and all he said was "bye..." I think I ruined everything, I don't mind him not liking me back I just want him to be friends, what do I do? I thought he felt the same because when we were talking through Facebook before he said he wished he could kiss me and hug me and be my boyfriend, I thought he cared.. But now he does this I'm confused help? Thanks :(

    Why not give this boy a few days to digest what you have told him. Boys often take a little longer to mature than girls and he may need time to consider what he does next. For your part in a couple of days, go up to him and say "Hi" and act just like nothing has happened and your friendship should soon get back on track.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 25 inches under bust
    and 27 at the fullest I'm 12
    What size am I and what kind
    of bra should I wear?:)

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  For more help with this check out my blog on Finding the bra that's right for you.

  • Hi Vicki, lots of people in my year mostly have bigger cup sizes than B's or C's and I'm only a A and people in my year take the mick out of me for it. What should I do? 😔

    Try to ignore the silly comments and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is also useful to kow that breasts can continue to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki, im 13 almost 14 and about this time last year I had my first period then I didn't get it for 3 months(September) and then didnt have it for about 9 months after(June)I have armpit hair, downbelow hair and size 34-36DD boobs and I am due for my period either the 5th or the 20th. Im so confused and its really making me angry when I dont get them! I really need some advice, thanks :)

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regualr period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I know this question isn't related to any of the topics but i can't find the answer and i'm afraid to ask anybody so... Is it dangerous or bad to drink caffeine free coffee if i'm 12 years old. I put lots of milk in it and a little cacao but is it bad? Will it affect my growing?

    Drinking coffee will not have any effect on your growth, but you may want to limit the amount you drink to one or two cups a day.

  • Hi! I'm 21 years old and I have NOT had my period and I am JUST losing discharge I have been to the doctor she said nothing can be done can you help? Love Maxine ( Max for short )

    Hi Maxine, if you're not happy with the outcome of your visit, go back again and ask to be referred to a consultant.

  • Hi
    Im sorry if this is a bit rude but,im 12 and still flatchested my boobs have budded but havent grown and all my friends are a a,b and c ! Please help me and js this normal ? And one more thing should i sleep with a croptop on ?

    Thnx xxx

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi, my mum made me get measured for a bra at m&s. When i took of my vest it made me nervous but she said to stand a certain way so she wouldnt see but she kept making me turn around. Then when she was talking she said: "you have quite big nipples so this ones good" and she was talking about the shape of my boobs and then while I was standing there she was showing me how to put a bra on so we were standing face to face and she unhooked my bra so I was standing there topless. What do I do?

    This was a little insensitive of the assistant as most of them measure you over your vest or t-shirt. Try to forget this episode, it has passed and if you go to be fitted for a bra in future ask to be measured over your top or bra and to be given some privacy when you try on suitable options.

  • Hiya, yesterday in pe a girl tried to get this ball off of me but instead she pushed the ball into my thumb and it went all the way back, I almost. Cried the pain was so bad and I never cry over pain,so didn't tell Anyone or go to the nurse because I don't like people making a fuss, anyway it swelled big at the bottom like where the mussel is, I can move the top of my thumb but I can't write or grip things, also it hurts when I touch it, what do you think I have done to it? Any advise, sorry its so long xx

    Please talk to your mum or guardian and ask them to either arrange an appointment with your GP or to take you to a hospital Casualty unit to get this checked out.

  • Vicki I need your help!
    There's a spinning swing at this playground, where strong people push you really high, and I love it, so yesterday I went on it.
    Then some rough boy went on with me, and I told him to go away, but then one of the strong people had come to push us. The boy started pushing me and then he aimed for my right breast. He pushed down SO hard, I nearly cried.
    Now BOTH of my breasts have sort of shrunk, and it really hurts my feelings. Help?

    I am sure this boy has not shrunk your breasts although they can often be tender when touched. There should be no long lasting harm to this area and I am sure in a few days you will feel better.

  • Hiya Vicki! I'm going to Mexico for 10 days in August and my period is due the whole week I'm there. I'm not ready for tampons but do you have any tipa as I have very heavy periods and how will I deal with my periods on the 11 hour flight to Cancun and will they be affected by flying? Thanks Vicki!!xxxx

    I'm afraid there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming and when you feel ready, you might like to try using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  As the flight is quite long, just be sure that you wear towels with good absorbency and make regular changes.  Have a lovely time!

  • hi vicki
    i started my period today al lot of blood came out help
    !!!!!

    Try not to worry and remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl.  So congratulations!  Why not ask your mum or guardian to buy some of our Lil-Lets teens range which has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hey vicky this is quite awkward But recently i have had a light vaginal itch but then i itched it but now its all i can think about,im not " active " at all, i dont have any other signs all i have is my regular discharge that every girl gets i hav never had this ever before and.........some people said this happened to them when you "grow up" your hormones can cause this ... plz om scared help im crying...:,,,,,(

    The hot weather and tight fitting clothes is very often the reason behind vaginal irritation and scratching this area can only make matters worse. So if you can avoid scratching and if the irritation does not stop have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will pop you along to your GP for a check-up.

  • Vicki this is not a question but a comment for the girl who has a gap between her teeth. When I was yunger like under 10, I had a big gap my self and it did annoy me alot! But it started to close up when I was about 10, and now Im 12 and there really barely is a gap!!! I mean you couldnt even fit a needl through it now!
    So Im sure your gap will close up soon as well. :)
    sorry for making it so long xxxxxx

    Thanks for the feedback.

  • When they measure you for a bra size at shops do you keep your top on x

    If you feel more comfortable with your top on then that will be fine but remember to wear a thin t.shirt or vest top so your sizing is accurate.

  • Hey! Sorry if this is gross
    I'm 14 and have had my period for a while
    I use tampons for sport but when I take it out it's like a weird shape and it hurts to take it out!
    Also how can I ask mum for more talons because I'm nearly run out without it being weird

    You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular or Super tampons as they expand widthways.  For a demonstration of this, check out the following link. http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2014/May/30/Not%20all%20tampons%20are%20the%20same?author=Vicki  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about anything to do with puberty.

  • Last year I went on holiday and used some tablets that stopped your period so that I wasn't on whilst I was on holida. When I came ack I had extremely bad cramps and a very very heavy flow, I leaked through 4 pads and 3 pyjama shorts almost every night. I has to get changed in the night when I woke up and leaked. Are these tablets bad for you?

    This medication was most likely the contraceptive pill that can sometimes be offered to delay your period for a few days. Taking this type of medication will ultimately change the way your body works for a short period of time and very often when the period does arrive it is heavier and a little uncomfortable, but this generally does not last. It is however, I feel far easier to trust your sanitary protection to protect you whilst on your period and on holiday rather than taking tablets.

  • Hi,
    You probably won't remember me but I'm the girl who said about when I went to the toilet and there was no blood in my underwear but when I wiped there was a few spots of blood. This was before Christmas And nothing else has happend since but it wasn't a cut because it was stinging or sore or anything so what was it xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstruial cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Any suggestions for getting rid of severe period cramps?

    You might like to try doing some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath or if the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.  If they are persistently painful, ask them to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Is it ok to have sex if you haven't had your period yet?

    Yes it is possible to have sexual intercourse without having started your period but the Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • Sup Vicki.EMO GIRL.i don't mind calling myself that for this but at school all the kids call me an emo cutter etc.Once a boy told the teacher I'm emo and she agreed and the whole class laughed at me and the next day in the hall way she said hey emo girl. I looked at her and she laughed at me.it hurt my feeling.Why are ppl so mean to ppl who look different. And I know I can help how I dress but they are also mean to ppl cause of they're body and face where I live. :-(- EMO GIRL :3 meow

    People love to give others tags..sporty girl, preppy girl....etc.  Be strong in mind and ignore any comments you hear, you are an individual and that is something to be proud of.

  • Why are cartoons always so great? Like in Hortan hears a who. Jojo mcdodd is my dream guy except he's not real. Same with Marshall Lee in adventure time. But especially jojo. Hehe ☺️ Do guys really exist like that or will I always be a loner watching my cartoons? Hehe. Forever alone is not the answer I hope. Thx Vic.

    I think cartoon figures are a little bit of reality and fantasy and I always hope that somewhere there is someone who was the inspriration for these images and therefore looks a little like them.

  • I'm I'm love with this dude but he doesn't see me the same way. At least I don't think he does. He likes some blonde haired blue eyed girl. And I'm a brunette and brown eyed guy. I'm bi. And everytime I try to tell him how I feel I chicken out. Should I tell him, Mrs. Vicki? Thank you. You are very kind. And I hope you aren't disturbed that I'm a male on your website. But if you are I'm sorry. Thanks anyways though. :-)

    If this boy already has found someone he likes then it would seem inappropriate to show your feelings at this time. That does not mean however you cannot be good friends and get to know him as a person.

  • My BFF is a lesbian and I haven't told her yet but I'm bi. I really like her and she wanted to met up and with me and some other ppl the other night. I couldn't make it but I texted her and she sent me a pic of her making out with this girl I've haven't met before and I felt jealous but idk how to tell her. She said she's amazing and she's the luckiest girl ever. I wish she would notice me like that. Please help, Vicki. By the way, you rock. 😊😊😊 :3 meow I'm a kitty

    Why not take some time to consider if the feelings you have for this girl are real or caused by an increase in hormones caused by puberty. You have plenty of time to consider this and let your friend know how you truly feel.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I started my period almost a year ago and they're so irregular. Sometimes I get them twice a month and sometimes there's a 40-day gap. It annoys me that I have to wait to stain my knickers to find out if it has started. When will my periods become regular?

    They will become regular over time, but for now why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis to avoid staining.

  • Hey vicki if you have discharge does that mean your gunna start your period?

    Discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period, sometimes even a little bit longer.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I am 12 years old and haven't got my period yet.Everyone says that there is some problem with you.Second thing is I am not having hairs in my armpits.Third thing is I love a boy and I dont know that whether he love me or not but I love him a lot.

    Hi, firstly, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so there really is no problem and not everyone notices under arm hair, so again this is not a problem. Finally, a good way to see if a boy likes you is to smile at him and if he smiles back then he may like you too.

  • Hey vicki I started my period a month ago when do u think my second done will be thanks Zoey 😘

    Hi Zoey, this would be difficult for me to predict as very often periods can have gaps of several months between each one, whilst some girls will get their next period 21-34 days after their first one arrived. So it would be useful to keep some pads or liners with you from now on.

  • Is it a sin to masturbate? I'm catholic and I'm too afraid to ask. I know it's normal and everything but is it a sin for Catholics? I don't mind doing it

    Masturbation is a natural and instinctive way of exploring the way your body makes you feel and I am sure ther catholic church appreciates that there will be followers of this religion that take part in this activity.

  • Hi, I started my period in 2014 January and I'm only 11 and I don't really like talking about it to her plleaaassseeee help xx love from me x

    Remember that your mum was once a teenager and will want to make this time in your life as easy for you as possible, and having short chats to her from time to time will make this a lot easier and more comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have been developing for about 2 years 7 months and all of a sudden I'm getting pains in my right one but not in my left one. Some people say that it means your period is close. I've been having discharge for 6 months now if it helps

    One breast often grows before the other and can often feel tender with it does. Breast development is often noticed for a couple of years before the arrival of your period, so you may not have much longer to wait.

  • Is it weird to enjoy period pain? I get like a rush from it every time I get it, is this weird?:/

    Its unusual but we are all different so I would not worry too much about this.

  • I haven't started my period yet but I'm only 13, most of my friends have started but when I do start I don't know how to tell my mum could you give me some adivce?

    Why not write her a little note and put it somewhere only she will find it, such as her make-up bag or underwear drawer. Or before your period arrives you could ask her how old she was when she got her first period and she will most likely then ask if you think yours is due soon and will get you some products just in case.

  • making How do you ask your dad for pads while my mums on holiday...please help i have the last pack left ....

    Why not ask if you can go shopping for toiletries and if he will give you the basket so you can go and fill it with the things that girls need. Dads do understand about periods and I am sure he will get the message and let you purchase what you need with very little fuss.

  • Hey Vicki I'm sorry if this question is deemed slightly inappropriate but here goes...so I have a thing with this boy right and he said it's legal to have sex at 14 if you have a condom? He always talks about wanting to have sex with me and touch me down there and he touches my boobs and bum alot. Ps im 13 btw :----)

    Let me make one thing clear it is not lawful for you to have sexual intercourse in the UK if you are under the age of 16 and this boy is mistaken and you would do well to let him know. And please do not let him pressure you into doing something that you are not ready for or legally allowed to do.

  • I'm 14 and have just finished year 9, all of my friends have started their period and i haven't, should I be worried?

    Not at all, and a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please don't worry.

  • Why is my vagina sometimes slimy x

    The vagina contains lots of glands that release fluids to help keep the vagina clean and lubricated. This can often make if seem slimy.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a lot going on at home, and I have taken a few tests and it says I have severe depression. I really can't talk to my Mum about it, because she has thought about suicide and I don't wanna make it worse. I really want to talk to my teacher but I don't know how to do it. Will he think I'm weird? Please help, thank you!

    Only a doctor can diagnose depression and I am not a huge fan of online tests. So please have a chat to your teacher and let her know how you feel, also letting her know why you feel you cannot share this news with your mum. Your teacher may then arrange for you to see the school counsellor who will help you understand and manage your feelings.

  • Hi vicky.
    I am 14 and have this crush on a guy who I really like. I don't know what to say or how to act. Please help xxxxxxx
    PS I am a huge fan of the website 😀😃

    A smile can go a long way to let someone know you like them. As can simply saying "Hi". So why not try these and see what happens.

  • Hi vicki, so I've just moved to america. I start school in August, which means I'm on my own for 6 weeks. I can't stand the thought of watching all my friends have a great summer, while I'm stuck her bored out of my skin. I won't join any classes because I'm shy and hate doing things like that. I'm just stuck here, bored, doing the same thing, watching my friends have a brilliant time over Facebook >< What do I do?:'(

    Firstly, I hope you realise what an exciting country America is and you really may not have too far to go to find friends as there will be lots in the area you live. My experience of Americans is that they love to meet new people so get out and about and smile when you see new people.

  • My granddaughter is 11 years old. Her nipples are sore and red and a tiny bit of bleeding when she is in our pool. It hurts enough that she has to get out. Could the chlorine be iratating her, or is it just her going through puberty? Thank you

    It is most likely puberty that is causing her nipples to crack, made worse by rubbing against her clothes and the chlorine in the pool. So it may be a good idea for her to stay out of the water for a few days and to rub a little non-fragranced moisturiser to the nipple to help the healing process.

  • I was looking on a selling website and came across an advert where someone was selling what seemed to be a dead cat why would someone do this? I reported it!The photo was horrible.

    There are some very sad and unkind people on the Internet and you did the right thing to report this.

  • Hi vicki
    I am going to a sleepover next week and all my friends do stuff like compare boobs and pubic hair. I feel uncomfortable about doing it but I don't want to not join in and be "lame" as they say.
    Thanks a lot
    Hana xxx

    Hi Hana, why not read my blogs on Sleepovers and take some of the ideas with you, by doing this you will all be so busy having fun, comparing puberty developments may not something you have time to do. Sleepover Part One and Part Two.

  • Hey viki,
    I get realy bad period pains sometimes at skool or when im out wlkin wat can i do to releve this pain thnx alot xx ;)

    A hot water bottle can sometimes help as can a warm bath and as silly as it may seem, gentle exercise is one of the best ways to help with this discomfort.

  • My boobs are tiny. Really tiny, I have a 34AA bra, and all my friends have at least a C. I'm 15, so this gets really embarrassing. In the changing rooms at school, I always feel the need to change as quickly as possible so no one will make fun of how small I am, and I've heard some of the other girls telling boys about how underdeveloped I am. I know everyone matures at different times, but I don't think I ever will get them, my mother is very petite like me, we actually have the same bra size of AA. Help?

    It really is a case of waiting to see what nature gives you and learning to love it. As for your friends well you may want to remind them about the importance of being good friends to each other and supporting one another during puberty.

  • I've missed my period for 4 months now. I'm still a virgin so I'm obviously not pregnant. Should I be worried?

    Not really as periods can often have long gaps between each one, especially for the first couple of years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi vicki🎭🎭🎭 ive had my period for about 2 years now and i feel ready to use a tampon , i have tried the non applicator omes and i just cant get it to go in , it feels like its too dry or something , and i am using the lite flow ones ! What should i do , i really want to use them , as i think it would be better for sports and things x 🎭🎭🎭🎭

    Why not try using a tampon on the heavier days of your period and you may find our Lil-Lets non applicator tampons which are shorter and narrower than other brands a useful first time tampon. Remember also to insert in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine for the most comfortable fit.

  • Hi, im 12 and my discarge started when I was 8 and I haven't started my period yet. My pubic hair is itchy nowadays ..I have had the symptoms of periods .so should I be worried?

    No there is no need to worry a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18, regardless of when discharge was first noticed.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 17 years old and usually before my period, I give out discharge and then a day or 2 right before I get my period, the discharge stops. Is that a common sign that girls' are going to get their period or is discharge supposed to continue until the day of your period? That's usually the way I keep track of when I'm getting my period. Thanks. :)

    Discharge can come and go at any time during your menstrual cycle and if you find this way of identifying when your period is going to arrive for you works then I see no reason why you cannot continue using this method.

  • Hey vicki! I started getting discharge almost a year and three quaters ago now, how long so you think it will be till i start my period? i know your no expert but im not asking for like a set date just asking which month it might come.
    Thanks- Sophie!!!xxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Sophie, I doubt you will have much longer to wait now, maybe even this year. So ensure you always have some pads or liners with you when away from home, from now on.

  • Hi viki, do you have any advice on how to cope with anxiety when it thunders and lightnings? I suffer from.anxiety and panic attacks and the weather is making it worse to the point that I can't sleep at night.

    Rosie.

    Hi Rosie, try to remember that if you are indoors your are almost certainly safe and whilst thunder and lightening can be loud and scary it really is just part of nature setting things straight and nothing to be worried about.

  • Is is possible for your first period to only last only 1day? I was wearing a panty liner for discharge and I noticed brown on the liner once and iv had nothing since.

    This could have been your period or it may have been a little bit of residue from waste food (poo) not wiped away completely. So why not wait and see what happens over the next few months and if you notice this brown staining again.

  • Hi Vicky
    There is this boy that I really like and we went out for a couple of weeks but my friends are getting involved with it. Then he dumped me because of this but I really like him what should I do.?

    Have a chat to him and let him know that you miss him and if he is prepared to give you a second chance you will make sure your friends keep their distance. But whatever you do, don't stop being friends with these girls...friendship often lasts longer than boys ever do!

  • Hi Vicky well theres this boy that i fancied for two years and this year i told him i like him on facebook but he never answered even though he saw the message ive been ignoring him and all that and he started looking at me and stuff (in a nice way) but i was sure i didnt want to like him anymore .Last week one of my friends(not very close) told me she had a crush on him and i started getting reallly jealous without telling her of course.Idont know what to do somehow i just cant stop liking him,HELP.

    If this boy likes your friend there will be very little you can do to prevent them from dating. However, if he likes you then he may say no to your friend and continue smiling at you. It really is a case of waiting to see what this boy does.

  • Do you loose blood in periods because im only young 11 and in yr 6 and relly worried about loosing blood is it true
    Thank you vik

    Your menstrual fluid contains a little bit of blood, nutrients and bodily tissue and does not always look like the blood you lose when you cut yourself so please try not to worry, it does not mean there is anything wrong; your period is a very natural and healthy part of being a woman.

  • Hey Vicki, I'm 15 and basically today on the side of my right breast near my ribs I got this weird pain, like whenever I touch the area it feels like a bruise but there is no lump or anything and I was wondering if this is normal? I don't wanna tell my mum because I'm very self conscious and I think I have anxiety but I don't know! Ps I had my period last weekend so could my breast still be tender? Thanks xxx

    Breasts are very often tender during development and not just when you are on your period and this may be the reason you are experiencing pain, but if it does not disappear you really do need to share this news with your mum.

  • I'm 14 it's been about a year since I started my periods and my main worries r my spots and pimples. I'm confused about skin care routines and all that please can u help me clear my skin.

    Why not read my blog entitled; Being Skincare Savvy, this may help and remember too the importance of eating a healthy diet, drinking plenty of water and lots and lots of sleep.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I've been getting my period every two weeks. I started bleeding 3 months ago. Is there something wrong? My mum says if it keeps happening I have to go to the doctor and I'm really worried. Can you give me some advice?
    Thanks :)
    xxx

    Some girls do experience very short gaps between their periods and this is very normal. But if you start to feel tired then a trip to your GP may be a good idea.

  • Hi vicki, well this isnt any of these subjects but Im a bit worried and scared, this might be silly but I keep twiching every wear these days, and its FREAKING ME OUT!
    PLEASE HELP ME I dont know whats happening to me! Is it normal even???
    Thank you so much your the best, greatest, awsome, amaizing!

    I would not worry too much, it could be that now you are growing into an adult that your body is working over time and these little twitches may be caused by this. Taking some deep breaths and relaxing may help, reduce these little spasms in the future.

  • If you are having your first period and nobody knows and you cant trust the adult who is looking after you to keep it a secret. What shall you do?

    I am sorry you feel you cannot trust someone close to you and I wonder if there is an aunt or grandparent you can share this news with, they will then ensure you have some pads and liners from now on in preparation for the next period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I keep eating when I'm not hungry and I have really large portions and I eat and eat until I feel sick what shall I do?

    Try drinking a glass of water before each meal so you will feel fuller and when you do feel hungry in between meals go into your room and dance for 15 minutes, it sounds silly but it works.

  • Hi vicki

    I have dishcharge for 1-2 years now is that normal ? And one more thing should it be yellow ?

    From Terri xxx

    Hi Terri, some girls do notice discharge for a couple of years before the arrival of their period and discharge is very often creamy yellow and this is very normal.

  • Hey Vicki, um I was just wondering, how many times a day do you answer questions..?
    thanks for answering some of my questions, your the gratest!!!

    I answer questions at any time of day or night, weekdays and weekends.

  • Part 2. Hi um I always see all my friends have shaved their under arms... (just quick thing I couldnt fit in part 1)
    thanks vicki, your awsome!!!

    Have another chat to your mum and explain that now the summer months are here you would like her to reconsider her decision. I do have to agree with you about pubic hair and trimming would seem a far better option than shaving, but the final decision must be your mums.

  • hi im really neverous because its going to be a big change and I don't know how to tell my mum what will her reaction be

    Mums know and understand all about periods and puberty and I am sure she will want to help you manage this time in your life.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I went out with this boy and a few weeks ago we broke up,ever since then he's been saying things about me saying that he has had 'sexual intercourse' with me and has done other 'sexual' things with me,this means im getting called a 'slag' and a 'slut' and things.I've tried going to a teacher and it still has not stopped.It's gone on to the point where i don't want to even go to school anymore.Sorry it's not about periods&puberty.

    My first option for you is to confront this boy and challenge him on his comments making it clear you ended the relationship because you did not want to have any kind of intimacy with him. If he does not stop then you should go back to your teacher and ask him or her to escalate this matter.

  • Part1.Hey vicki, what age am I supposed to be to shave pubic hair? My mum said I should be 14, but Im 12. Mum says I have to shave down there and under arms, but I only want to shave my under arms..not really down there..but maybe trim it just a bit. I would like to shave my under arms NOW, because there in the way like in school in PE we wear t-shirts so when we like lift our arms for strech, it shows and Im embarrast if some one sees! What should I do, how can I ask mum to shave now. thanks

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki,
    this is SmileyFace (well my name is actually Mia) but recently my legs have gotten very hairy but my mum won't let me shave them, cuz aprantly u can't see them but when I put suncream on they came out darker. I have very low self esteem now and all my friends shave. I hate my body thanks to her.
    Please help! Mia (a great fan of u and lil-lets) xx

    Hi Mia, why not have a chat to your mum in  a couple of months and try not to worry now the summer is here the sun will naturally lighten this hair.

  • Part 2
    he says that what happens is between the 2 of us and i i know it would be. i feel horrible and he asks if i want a pic of his penis which i dont want. my best friend accidentally sent a picture of her naked chest to him and he sent back a picture of his penis. hes nice and really kind but i feel awful and my friend feels awful. i want to be friends but i feel bad and disturbed. please help us!!!

    Again you MUST stay clear of this boy and remind him that it is against the law for pictures of people under the age of 16 and in any kind of sexual pose to be sent. This should put a stop to his requests and it would be a good idea for you and your friend to make sure he knows you are both not prepared to be bullied or pressurised by him and if he continues you will speak to an adult.

  • Part 1
    hi vicki. so, a popular but nice boy from my year and i were talking for hours yeaterday and he kept saying things like he enjoyed it when i put my bum in his boy area (ive never done this intentionally) and that he likes my chest and bum.and he asks me for my bra size. he kept asking me for pictures topless or in a tight top and i refuse coz its awful. ive never felt so pressured! so in the end i sent him a picture of me in a tight dress that made my bum look huge and i felt awful and i still do.

    This boy is bullying you and I would advise you to ignore him in the future and stay away, he clearly is only interested in your appearance and not you as a person.

  • in your opinion, what age is ok to Dye your hair?

    Temporary dies are fine for the under 16's but for a more permanent look I think 16 and over is a good age. But this is just my opinion and your parents may feel differently.

  • My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a few days. But we have been really close friends for ages! It has suddenly became really awkward around him and I find my self avoiding him at school. What should I do so I feel more comfortable around him?

    Charlie X

    Hi Charlie, give yourself time to adjust to this new phase in your relationship and keep chatting when you can about what you both like to listen to, watch or hobbies. This topics are great ways to start off awkward conversations.

  • Hey vicki, umm does it do any harm if you stick your finger up your vagina? please i need to know...
    sorry if a bit inappropriate
    yanks

    No this should not do any harm, but make sure if you do that your fingers are clean and washed before and afterwards.

  • Hi. My mum said I have to be 14 to start to wear a bra, because she was 14. Im only 12! But I need to wear a bra NOW! My breasts are jiggling and juggling about when Im running, and the nipples show through! I dont know how to ask for one like right now. Im scared she will think I want a bra because Im impatient or I want to be all rown up or cuz all my friends wear a bra. What should I do?! thanks vicki. PLEASE ANSWER

    I am sure if you let her know how uncomfortable you are she will reconsider her decision to wait until you are 14. Why not ask if you can be measured next time you are in a Department store.

  • Sorry if this is a bit inappropriate..but Im just a bit curious...
    Why are boys so attracted to girls?
    thanks
    curiousmonkey

    Puberty is a time when boys and girls start their journey to become young adults and sexual attraction is just one part of this journey, so it is very natural for people to suddenly find they are attracted to others in a sexual way.

  • All of a sudden I have been getting a rash in my pubic area and I don't know what I should do. I tried putting regular lotion on it and it goes away and then it gets worse? What do you suggest?

    This could be either a sweat rash caused by the lovely weather we are experiencing or a vaginal infection. Either way have a chat to your mum and she may decide to purchase some over the counter treatment for you.

  • Hiya my bf hit me and forced me to do things I didn't want to do and I don't love him anymore he just scares me and I can't get away xx please help x

    You must speak to an adult about this matter with some urgency, they will ensure your safety and will make it clear to this boy that he needs to stay away from you and that his behaviour is not acceptable. And please don't worry no one will judge you or think you have done anything wrong.

  • How can I avoid arguing with my dad and become closer to him again?

    Find time to do things that you both enjoy, maybe watching a TV show together, walking the dog or helping out in the garden. Little things like this can make a huge difference.

  • Hey Vicky<3
    About a week ago I noticed light brown discharge, however I didn't think this was my period. Today I was masturbating it might sound disgusting but I was and afterwards I was bleeding. I put a pad on and I'm still bleeding now. Did I break my hymen or is this my first period? There was no pain after masturbating though. And the first time I had noticed the brown discharge I had not masturbated thanks. <3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

    This is almost certainly your period and just a coincidence that it was released after masturbating.

  • Vicki, my friend and I have a question for you. How old do you think you should be before you have sexual intercourse?

    The law clearly states this should be 16 and over. I have to agree that this seems sensible because very often even though someone may be physically ready for sex, emotionally and mentally they rarely are.

  • HI VICKI

    about a week ago, i went to the bathroom and when i wiped there were teeny tiny dots of blood when i wiped.
    i told my mum and she said it could be my period.
    do you think it is or not??

    thanks xxxxxxx

    I agree with your mum this is most likely your first period.

  • hiya Vicki, im 14 and by bf is 15 and we had sex last weekend. all my friends talk about it all the time and ask me questions but they know something's up and don't want to tell them I have had sex they will think im a slut but the thing is I really love him but I feel really bad and guilty now xxx
    plez help xx

    I am sure you know that it is unlawful for a boy or man to have sexual intercourse with a girl under the age of 16 and even though you and your boyfriend care deeply for each other if he really does care for you he will wait until you are older and feel more comfortable with being sexually active.

  • I want to try tampons instead of towels because It will make things so much easier in my life, but I don't know how to ask my mum to get me tampons instead I'll feel a little embarrassed, do you know how I can?

    Why not ask if you can go shopping for toiletries and pop some in your basket, I am sure she will understand without you saying a word and you may find our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator range are ideal as they are designed for first time users.

  • Hi :)
    I'm having trouble with what cup size i need. B can be too big sometimes but A can be too small. Atm i have a soft nonwired bra/croptops that fits quite well but is getting small. Plus i would like more support and harder bra. My bust line is 39 inches but the problem is that i am fat and most of it is probably fat. So what size and type of bra should i use.

    Hi, why not visit your local department store and try on a few different sizes and styles, I am sure with a little bit of help from the assistant you will find the ideal one for you.

  • how does pregnancy treatment work please try to explain this in as much detail as posible

    There are numerous types of pregnancy treatments available and too many to be specific. If you have any concerns about this you should speak to your GP, who will offer you advice.

  • how do you know what discarge looks like xx

    Discharge can be creamy yellow or clear in your underwear.

  • Hi Vicki, it's so hot at the moment, and if I wear a bra I get hot and uncomfortable, but if I don't wear one you can see through my shirt. Any advice? Thanks x

    Why not consider a soft bra such as the 'genie'bra this may be a better option.

  • Hi Vicki
    So I used to self harm (don't worry I have stopped now and wish I never had) but I still have some scars on my thigh. I am a swimmer but haven't been lately because I don't want my mum or other people to see the scars. I can't just tell my mum or just be comfortable with it so do you know how I could get rid of these scars? What should I do?
    Thank you so much

    ************************

    Firstly, well done for beating this awful illness. Bio-oil rubbed in daily can help fade these marks, so why not give this a try.

  • Why do we get pain during periods

    Not everyone does, but for those that do it is generally caused by the muscles surrounding the uterus contracting to release menstrual fluid and a little gentle exercise should stop this from being too uncomfortable.

  • so i tried to ask my mum about periods as i am going away soon and i haven't started but i want to pack some things incase as i won't be with my parent (14) so the other day i said i was scared bout going on holiday, and she asked my so i said because there will be loads of swimming and i.. and then i couldn't say it so she just thought i was scared of somthing, how do i talk to her without getting nervous like that as i am gong away in a week and i really need some things just in case.
    thanks
    Rosa

    Hi Rosa, why not ask if you can go shopping for some toiletries for your holiday and casually walk down the feminine hygien aisle, you can then pop a few things in your basket and she will understand that you want to be prepared whilst away.

  • Part 2/2:
    I have recently starting to get quite worried about this is there anything I can do to perk them up my friends sleep with no bra but this scares me incase they sag anymore

    I have answered this question and my response was that wearing a bra in bed will have no impact on your breast shape and that for lots of girls this rather triangular shape is very normal and will change as you get older.

  • Part 1/2:
    I'm 14 and have been wearing a bra everyday for 3 years now and for the past 2 and a half I've wearing one 24/7 when I sleep except from when I do my ballet class because it has this built in part but not much support. I'm a 34B. I think my boobs are really saggy I mean they sit without a bra quite far down staring just under my armpit is this normal?

    My response is in the next section.

  • How come my friend is a completly flat chested and has started her period?!?! I havent started and I have much bigger boobs than her. Were both 12 (but she is a couple of months older tvan me) She doesent have mood swings at all
    Do you think shes lying because she jokes alot? Is this possible?
    But I think Im gonna start soon anyway (I have all the sings).. thanks. confusedmonkey. PLEASE ANSWER!

    Hi Confused Monkey, the arrival of your period is not governed by the size of your breasts and some girls get their periods before their breasts have started developing. We really are all different, so if you can try not to compare your progress with that of those around you.

  • Vicki.. I am 23 and I dont have boobs. They just wont develop.. :( I hatw the way I look like a boy... If I wear padded bras it gets to hot.. I just want my own to grow :'(

    If you have not experienced any breast growth then it would be a good idea to visit your GP for a check-up.

  • I'm 13 and delayed in puberty. You see, I really didn't get buds until I was nearly 12. I'm now 13 and have some 30aa bras, but most are too big, so I STILL have to wear a training bra. I have maybe 2 armpit hairs and only a couple pubic hairs. And of course, no period....not even discharge. I don't wanna rush things, but I'm behind all my peers, which is very embarrassing. I bet I'm the only girl in my class with no period and that wears a training bra. Help?

    We all enter puberty at a different time and you will certainly not be alone so please try not to compare your progress to that of others and see what the next few months bring.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I've had my period for around 3 years now and I am 16 and feel ready to use tampons, my mum is fine with me using them but I'm so scared of leaving them in for too long and getting tss. I have quite a heavy flow and I feel like I would change the tampon every time I go to to bathroom. Is it safe to use tampons when you have a heavy flow and what would you suggest I do??

    Thank you! X

    Tampons have a very safe history of use and my advice would be to start with a super tampon on your heavier days, and if you find you have to change this absorbency every couple of hours then you should try a super plus absorbency. As your period get lighter you can then move back down to a super and regular absorbency. Why not read my blog entitled; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • i kind of like this boy. i dont know what to do. im scared. please answer

    Why not get to know this boy as a friend first and you will soon be able to tell if he feels the same way about you...there really is no rush you see.

  • how do i know ive started?

    For most girls the first time they notice their period has arrived is when they visit the toilet or notice a little blood on the tissue when they wipe themselves.

  • Hi viki, just wanted to say this website rules, i always know your right and you are so lovely.

    I have shared this site with over 20 people too.

    Love you . Xx

    Hi and thank you for the lovely feedback. I hope you like our blogs too!

  • Hi viki, my breast buds has been hurting alot lately, my friend and my were playing a bit a foot ball after the world cup and the ball touch my boobs and they hurt so much, i carried on playing. then in my bed at nite i must have rolled over and i woke up straight away because i was leaning on my boobs. they hurt so much any tips or advice.

    And also i have started wearing a bra to sleep in, i find it support my boobs, is it bad to sleep in a bra?

    Breasts can often feel tender to the touch when developing and if wearing a bra at night makes you feel more comfortable then this is fine and nothing to be worried about.

  • I'm growing hair "down there" but I'm still flat chested??

    The signs of puberty can arrived in a different order for each of us and you really have nothing to worry about. Your breast can continue to develop until your late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi Vicki
    So here's the problem. I'm 13 and my year went on a four day school trip York and while we were there me and my friends hung out a lot with these 2 boys called charlie and billy. On the way back on the bus me and my friend talked to them non stop and really got along with them and I totally fell for charlie. it's been about 2 months now and I can't stop thinking about him. he complimented on how it was cool that I ran so fast on sports day and it made me feel so special. What should I do

    This is a holiday romance and as lovely as they are, it is very rare that they last. So why not think of this as a lovely experience that has now passed and move on, spending the summer break with friends and family.

  • what is puberty

    Puberty is the journey from being a child to an adult and you can find out more on this subject by clicking here - Puberty.

  • Hello Vicki,
    my name is Faye and I am 11 and I just came back from a holiday but on the plane back a ton of discharge came then at night well in the morning my pants were all wet but it is all clear is this really discharge and should I use panty liners?

    Hi Faye, if you are noticing a lot of discharge you may find wearing pant liners will leave you feeling clean, dry and fresh and lots of girls feel this way too. Why not consider our Lil-Lets teens pant liners.

  • Hi vicki☺️
    I love your site, but I have one problem this is really annoying too, after like a day or two I can never find the question I asked😭 I wish I could see all questions asked instead of only the recent questions😩
    Sorry this is more of a complaint but I do love your site😘

    Hi, you can find your question by using your unique reference number. We also have something called lazy loading so if you scroll down to the bottom of the questions answered page you will see more questions appear after a few seconds.

  • Don't u just think boys r SO weird????? x

    I think boys find different things interesting to us girls but no, I do not think they are weird. They just mature later than us usually.

  • Can u poop out red poop

    If you notice blood in your poo, then you may be constipated and should speak to your parents about adding extra fibre to your diet, such as fruit, vegetables and cereals.

  • What size do you recommend to get a bra at?

    If you find your breasts jiggle about when you are active or show through your outer garments, then it may be time to get your first bra.

  • Are yellow patches in your pants that are not wet discharge

    Yes most likely they are.

  • Dear vicki,my periods lasts up to 8days and my big sister goes only 3days,I am just wondering y mine take so long or does it differe from one person to another???

    Yes, our menstrual cycle is unique to each of us and a period can last for between 2-10 days.

  • Is it true that smocking can make your nipples fall off?

    Smoking will not have any effect on your nipples, however it is bad for your all over health in general.

  • 😎😎😎😎are you American or English 😎😎😎😎

    I am based in the UK but have lived in the USA for a while a few years back.

  • 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫
    Y r my boobs hairy!!! It's only short blond hair but I think it's just me that has it! Should I shave it ?

    This is fairly normal and as you enter puberty you will notice the hair all over your body becomes more obvious. Try not to worry as you get older this hair will become less noticeable.

  • Hi vicky my friend talks about this site all the time and I have been unemotional for a while....I never cry when I'm hurt or teased and when seeing other people in pain I just don't care but I want to care its like I have no emotions (btw I'm 11 almost 12)

    Just because you do not show your emotions does not mean you do not have them, this is not something you should let concern you, we are all different and feel concern and emotion on differing levels.

  • Hi Vicki

    So I had brown discharge about a week ago but I only had it for a day. Is this still considered my period? because today I had discharge but it had a little spot of blood in it.

    Thanks🎀🎀🎀🎀

    Yes this will still most likely be your first period so ensure going forward you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • I got my period o the 8t of July. I'm 12. I have a heavy heavy flow. I have to change my pad every 30 minutes-1 hour. At school what if I leak! My parents work so can't come get me or give me a change of clothes! How will I handle it! I just need help with school. And I love swimming but my parents think I'm I young for tampons so I can't go. I hate periods. I literally pee blood not pee just blood! It's so heavy! Please just give me advice!!!!!

    If you are changing your pad this often, then you should switch brands to a more absorbent product. For instance our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads are very absorbent and super comfortable, great for longer wear periods such as school. After you have had several periods you may also like to try our teens range of tampons, designed for girls and first time users.

  • Help me! I'm 12 years old and I have a 30C / 28D bra size. I can't fid bras in that size! I only have one that fits and wear it everyday! And also at school when we swim we have to wear a normal swimming costume and my nipples show help me! Please!

    Why not visit your local department store to  be measured and they will be able to find some bras in your size I am sure.

  • I'm 13 years old and I've been getting discharge for only 3 months and today it was brown. Did I get my first period? Because I read that you have discharge at least 6 months before your first period.

    Discharge can vary in the length of time it is noticed before the arrival of your period and I am confident this could be your period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • dear vicki
    today i felt my vagina and there was a hard nub/bump literally not too far in. it didnt hurt. i think its my hymen (bc it was like blocking my hole) but im not sure, what is it?

    This could have been your hymen or even your clitoris and you may find my blogs on the reproductive system useful. Here are the links. Part One & Part Two.

  • I hate my pimples so much . They are getting out of hand and I'm getting dark scars when the go away or when i pop them . My skin is sensitive and kind-of- lactose-intolerant . i really need the best product to use for my face but I've tried soo many . I drink about 2L of water in a day and i work out .

    Consider your diet and sleep pattern these can also contribute to healthy skin. Why not consider Simple's facial wash, used on a daily basis this can reduce the amount of break-outs.

  • Ok so last nite i heard my dad and my bro whos22 and he asked for tips on sex! He has a gf and they were talkin about condoms and that and at the end my dad says make sure shes sexually aroused what does this mean i cant ask mu dad b/c its embarrising and i cant ask my mum b/c she died of cancer last year xxxx💙❤️👍 hannah

    Hi Hannah, sexual arousal is when someone feels ready to have sex and their body is responsive to another person.

  • Hi Vicki

    I was using the toilet earlier on today, after I wiped I saw that there was blood on the toilet roll. I haven't bled since so I don't think it's my period but I'm scared and don't know what it is, I'm going on holidays tomorrow, will I be okay to swim etc. ? Thank you so much, sorry

    I imagine there will be no issues with you going on holiday, but take some pads or liners with you just in case.

  • hi Vicki
    I am 11 years old and I am afraid when I will stsrt my period what age do people normaly start?

    Periods can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18 and there really is nothing for you to  be worried about. Why not read all the great stuff on our website about puberty and periods, I am sure you will feel less anxious.

  • Hey Vicki,
    This might sound stupid but tonight I went to go to the toilet and when I wiped there was blood. I'm not sure if I wiped too hard or I've started my period (I am 14 years old). This has happened a few times after being to the toilet but its not heavy its just specks and it doesn't last for long, it doesn't even go on to my underwear. I'm really confused .I don't know the difference, help please x

    This is almost certainly your first period and even though there is not a lot of blood being released you should still wear a liner or pad and share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I'm 15 and I have a right crush on this boy in my year,he's in my science lessons and he is so good looking!my friend who is a boy is really close to me and him and my friend knows I think the boy is really hot they are both in my English I talk to him abit but I don't much and he wouldn't stop or talk to me in a corridor I really wanna get to know him&get over him I think i like him,he's perfection and has such a sweet personality but is quite popular and I'm abit popular but I get shy so easily

    Smile when you see this boy and say "Hi". Ask him how his weekend was and in time he may just start to see you as more than just a classmate.

  • Would I go to a sexual Heath clinic for a Mole on my groin to be removed?Where can I get it removed? Should I ask my mom to take me to the doctors or shall I tie a peice of string round it because it is meant to make them fall off!please help Vicki!im 16 by the way it's just soooooo embarrassing only my mom has ever seen it and it is a big raised on aswell and it makes me feel I have a ugly body!PLEASE DONT say love your body and embrace it I need it gone!please help*****

    Moles are often considered a sign of beauty but if you feel you need it removed then your doctor would be the person to speak to about this matter.

     

  • Dear Vicki,

    I am 14 and I have been having a vaginal discharge for 3 years now. I haven't started my period yet so I'm getting slightly worried that the discharge hasn't stopped yet. Is there anything I can do to stop it because its getting increasingly embarrassing, cause sometimes I find that it does smell and sometimes the discharge soaks through my pants. This has been going on for a long time now, please help, thank you x

    Hi, discharge can often be noticed for a couple of years before the arrival of your period and the amount you notice can vary too. Why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis to keep you and your underwear fresh, dry and clean.

  • i went out with a boy a while ago and we broke up he went out with someone else and they broke up but i still like him what do i do?

    Why not wait a while and see what happens, remember that you tried to date once before and it did not work, so what makes you think a second attempt will fair any better.

  • Im 13 and i started getting breasts at 10 but they have stoped growing and havent grown for 6 mounths they are really small will they grow agian please help

    Breasts often grow in spurts and as they continue to grow into your late teens or early twenties you have plenty of time for growth to be noticed.

  • Hey
    So basically I was on holiday and I came on my period :( I had never used tampons before but i got some non applicator ones, it was quite hard finding my vagina but anyway...
    It just felt so strande to my body and then I felt a bit faint. My mum told me to take it out and I did with ease. Then on the way down to the pool, I fainted. Is this bad? Will I ever be able to use tampons? I'm 12 by the way x
    Thnaks <3

    I imagine you were nervous and next time your period arrives try again when at home and under less pressure. Just like anything new using tampons can take a little practice so try not to worry.

  • Where can I buy a good first bra? (My friend has one, hook and eye fastening, extra material resembling cups, adjustable straps, etc, so not quite a crop top or a bra)

    Why not try M&S they have a beautiful teens range.

  • Hi viki,
    I have quite alot of questions...
    1. Is it wired that when I go bra shopping with my friend I always ask her to pay for it because I get inbarest.
    2. I got a bra from material and the next day the straps broke would it be ok to use the see through ones that come with it or just use it strapless?
    3. I'm.really sad because my neighbours dog is being put down tomorrow and I'm really close to it, do you have any advise to take my mined off of it?

    Rosie x

    Hi Rosie, firstly it is fine to be feel a little awkward when purchasing bras and this will stop as you get older. If the straps of your new bra have broken I would take them back for a replacement or a refund, but for now the clear straps will be fine. Finally, it is always sad when a pet is nearing the end of its life, but if you can try to remember the happy times you spent with him and make his last few days pleasant.

  • Hi lately I've been feeling really down and depressed. I think it has something to do with my dad in the past that had effected me now. I'm not really close with my dad anymore I see him rarely I try to talk to my mum about my problems about the past but she thinks it's her fault
    I've told her many times it's not her fault. I'm just not sure anymore what's real about the past and what isn't as I was 5. I remember only somethings. I want to talk to someone about it but don't know who

    Why not ask your mum if you can spend some time with a counsellor discussing your feelings, this can be done via your doctor or school and I am sure will help both of you understand the past and how to move on to a happier future.

  • Hi Vicki!!
    I get vaginal discharge often. I've had it for at least 9 months now. I also have pubic hair. I have pads off my school nurse when we had the 'talk' and I'm not sure if I should use them. I'm only 11. Help!!

    You should only use pads when your period arrives and there is no need to wear anything to collect discharge, although if you feel uncomfortable you may want to ask your mum to pick you up a pack of our Lil-Lets teens pant liners.

  • Vicks,

    I am going on my first bra fitting soon, I'm eleven .
    I am not sure what exactly they are going to do... Are they going to ask me to remove my trainging bra (or crop top whatever it's called) I'm kind of anxious aswell, I'm getting fitted at debanhams so yeah please help :)

    Assistants usually measure you over your top or bra, so please don't worry they will ensure you feel comfortable and not embarrassed at all times.

  • Hi Vicki
    Today my friend accidentally hit me in my right hand breast and it really hurt and they are both every tender is this normal even when I lie on my stomachs in bed (which is the only way I can sleep ) it hurts and I have to put a pillow underneath . I have asked my very best friend if she experiences any of this and she says no
    Please help xx
    😰

    Breast can be tender as they develop which is why when they were knocked they felt sore. It can also take a while for you to find the right sleeping position to prevent discomfort in this area and like you I sleep on my tummy and have to put my arm across my chest for a good nights sleep.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is this a bra size?
    Under bust : 60cm
    Fullest part of bust:74cm

    Your bra size is 28B, but this is just a guide and you should try on several different styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki! So, my best friend had bad period pains the other day at school,and then she was sick and had to go home. Do you get sick normally with period pains? She hasn't been in school for 3 days now, should I be worried? I haven't started my period yet so I don't know what it's like. Thanks Vicki!

    Hi, some people find that menstrual cramps can leave them feeling a little unwell, but this is certainly not the case for everyone and I am sure once your friend grows accustomed to these cramps her feeling of sickness will pass.

  • I am 13 years old and have been having white discharge for about a year and a bit now. I have recently been getting brown discharge what is this I am very prepared. Lol . I am also a bit worried because all the giis in my class have boobs and have started their period and have also filled out (body wise) and yet I am still really skinny yet I eat like a pig and am still only a 28aa in bra size

    Please help I really don't no what to do why hasn't all this happened to me yet . X

    Brown discharge is almost definitely your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so let your mum know about this news and she will ensure you have some pads or liners for the next few days and in the future.

  • Vicky why is there blood in my discharge I'm freaking out because I don't know if it's normal or not!!!

    This is almost certainly your first period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and for the next couple of days it would be a good idea to wear a pad or liner.

  • does period hurt?

    Some people experience little tummy cramps the week before or during the first couple of days, but for most there is no discomfort and no pain when menstrual fluid leaves the body. In fact your period should not stop you from carrying on with your day as you would normally.

  • hello, im 14 and i've been hiding my boyfriend who i have been going out with for a month. this has not been the first time i have hidden something like this from my parents. my dad is too overprotective he wont even let me go 2 mins down the road to the supermarket on my own or with friends. my mum is not as bad but does not believe in having a boyfriend at my age and will not hear anything about the subject. please vicki WHAT DO I DO?! xxxxx

    Why not ask them if you can invite a friend round for tea one evening, so the can get to meet and know this boy; this will be far easier than letting them find out that you have been deceiving them for all this time and I am sure once they get to know him they will be happy for you to date.

  • hi vicky,
    i have had discharge for over 3 years and all the signs that a oiriod is about to come every 1-2 months it is getting annoying what does it mean ?????????????

    Some girls do experience discharge for longer than a year and can notice all the signs of a period arriving. You really do have to wait and let your body work out when is the right time for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm going into 6th grade and I haven't started my period but I have started spotting, do you think i should bring some pads to school with me just in case? -Chloe

    Hi Chloe, it is always a good idea to have some pads or liners in your school bag and you may just find that these occasional spots of blood are actually your period, as the menstrual flow can be very light for some people. Why not consider our Lil-Lets teens starter pack, which is so discreet it can easily sit in your bag.

  • What age is right to start using a tampon?

    There is no right or wrong age for a girl to start wearing tampons; some choose tampons immediately, whilst others wait until they have had five or six periods before trying them. It really is a personal choice and something you may want to discuss with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hiya vicki

    I had my first period 2 months ago I'm about to go on holiday and really don't want it to happen again I'm not getting cramps or anything, is this normal ?

    Not everyone experiences period cramps or indeed any other signs that their period may be arriving anytime soon. So why not take some pads and liners with you when on holiday just in case.

  • Me and my BFF are bisexual. We like each other and we also like the same dude. He likes us too. So I'm wondering could 3 ppl date? Not a threesome or anything like that. Just dating. Could you do it or is it a bad idea? Thx.

    I guess they could but you would have to have guidelines before you date so everyone understands what to expect and jealousy does not become a problem.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have a gap inbetween my two front top teeth and I really hate it! Do you know how I could get braces but without paying for cosmetic treatment? My teeth don't hurt but I just hate the way they look.
    Thanks :) x

    Have a chat to your dentist when you next have a check-up; very often childhood gaps close up as you get older, and as someone who had a childhood gap I can speak from experience on this matter. It closed up in my late teens.

  • Im only nine and have got white stuff in my pants

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and is very normal.

  • Sup Vicki.this girl that used to be my BFF with,acts like we still are. She the one who a banded me for these mean girls.I tell her my feeling and she doesn't listen to me.Also so you know I'm 11. She's 12. And she goes around bragging about her 34aa.I wear a 34c and I don't go around bragging.She's mean,not attractive,not voluptuous, yet all the dudes like her! And hardly anyone likes me! What's up! :3 meow. EMO GIRL

    Hi Emo Girl, it may be that this girl really does like you and wants to be friends, so why not give her a chance and try not to compare your shape with hers we are all different and the most important thing is to love the shape you have.

  • Hi viki,
    So there is this boy in my class (who I am totally not interested in) who I think has a crush on me❗ if I miss place something he will offer to help me find it. If I lose a competition he will always say I should have won. Sometimes I will find him starring into my eyes❗ he is a boy with let's say behaviour problems as such so wouldn't usually do this❗do you think the same❓is there a way to tell❓❕
    Thanx
    J.W
    xxx

    Hi, he may simply just be nice and want to be friends, thinking you and he have a connection. So why not wait and see what happens over the next few months.

  • ✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️✌️👌👌👌👌👌👌
    (So I know it's mine haha)
    I do dance and we have to wear leotards and I have like loads of fat in the middle of my boobs and armpits I wear a bra under my leotard but that doesn't help I try tuck it in but whenever I lift up my arms it just comes out again no one else in my dance classes gets it
    Please help it's really embarrassing 😢x

    It may be that your bra or leotard are a little small and you would benefit from a larger size of both. Why not have a chat to your mum and ask if you can try on a few sizes and styles.

  • 🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐸🐸🐸🐸🐱
    In the average pack of sanitary towels how many are there

    It really does depend on the brand, but anything from 10-16 is average.

  • Part 2
    basically there were dares and one girl flashed her boobs and another 2 kissed and it was really fun, anyway we're having a sleepover and they've already said well be having a game of 'fun' truth or dare, I'm really excited but there's one problem I don't like how my boobs look kike idm flashing for a dare or taking off my bra but I just think my boobs are a bit odd as the nipple is big but the boob is smal
    Thanks xxxx 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and this goes for nipples too and you should never be embarrassed about your particular shape or size, it is after all what makes you special.

  • Part 1
    Basically on the coach the other day I was with my friends we're 12 btw and were going in a skl trip and we were at the back of the coach so we started playing truth or dare, it started of normal and then started to get... Fun 😉

    Hi, see my response in Part Two.

  • This isn't to do with periods but it's something I really struggle with.
    I'm 13, 5 foot 8 inches and I'm VERY overweight. I'm 16stone. I Do play sports , but they don't seem to be having an effect on my body. I need help fast because everybody takes the Mickey out of me and it was once so bad I turned to self harm and it's just gotten worse.

    I am sorry that these hurtful comments are making you so unhappy and you really must speak to your mum about the self harming and ask if you can sit down and review your diet, it may be that you are eating the wrong type of foods and with a little fixing, you will get the perfect mix of both exercise and diet.

  • Hi Vicki,

    What is the best way to stand/sit when trying to shave 'down there'?

    It should be what is most comfortable for you.  However, consider trimming this area instead of shaving.

  • I have started my period and have tried differend products but i cant find the right one what should i do?

    It can take a little practice and searching to find the right product that suits you and I hope the Lil-Lets range is the one you find works for you best.

  • I have recently starting to get quite worried about this is there anything I can do to perk them up my friends sleep with no bra but this scares me incase they sag anymore. Please help, thank you:)

    See my response in Part Three.

  • Part2: I have recently starting to get quite worried about this is there anything I can do to perk them up my friends sleep with no bra but this scares me incase they sag anymore. Please help, thank you:)

    During breast development you will find that breasts can often appear a little deflated sometimes even triangular in shape, and very often when you go without a bra they fall to the side, so please do not worry about this. Finally, and most importantly wearing a bra to bed will have no impact on your breast shape or size and if you prefer to wear one that is fine, but if you would rather not then that is fine also.

  • Part 1: I'm 14 and have been wearing a bra everyday for 3 years now and for the past 2 and a half I've wearing one 24/7 when I sleep except from when I do my ballet class because it has this built in part but not much support. I'm a 34B. I think my boobs are really saggy I mean they sit without a bra quite far down staring just under my armpit is this normal?

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi
    I've been having discharge for a couple o years now and I'm. 13 I've got pubic hair and my hips and thighs have changed shape. All my friends say that your period starts right after you notice discharge, like the next month, why hasn't mine started?

    Your friends are mistaken and very often discharge can be noticed for up to a year; sometimes longer before your period arrives. So please try not to worry your body is working just as it should.

  • What's a clitoris?

    For all you need to know about your reproductive system please read my blogs Part One and Two.

  • Hi Vicki sorry if this is inappropriate but sometimes my vagina itches but only recently (I'm 14) but my discharge is a normal colour. Could it be pubic hair just irritating it or something? I'm really worried I have a infection although everything. Seems fine apart from the itching sometimes my discharge is a bit smelly but that's all I really don't want to talk to my mum about it please answer ASAP!

    During this hot weather lots of girls and women notice their vaginal area can sweat a little and be itchy. So my advice would be to wash more frequently with an unperfumed toiletry and even consider using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-up wipes for a quick fresh-up when out and about.

  • I feel a bit insecure about my weight. I am taller than most of my friends and sometimes I feel fat, my friends are all really thin and I'm bigger than them.
    Thank you for reading this
    Emily

    Hi Emily, the world is full of people of differing shapes and sizes...all beautiful in my opinion and my advice is to think like this too and once you do, I am sure you will start to worry less about how you compare to others and enjoy your life to the full.

  • hi viki
    i have been having discharge for a few months but i don't know if my mum knows shall i tell her?
    if so, could you give me some tips because i am really scared to tell her
    thanks
    xx

    I am sure your mum knows you are experiencing discharge as she will see the marks in your underwear when she does the weekly laundry and I am also sure she will understand that this is all part of becoming a young woman, so please try not to worry. If you do want to chat to her, you could always ask her when she first noticed discharge.

  • dera vicki iam haveing a problem of watching porn alot plzs help me how can i stop??????

    Try to spend more time in company of family and friends so you can avoid being alone, because very often masturbation can be done out of boredom.

  • What lil lets products would you recomend for first periods and later on....:)♡thanks:)xxx

    I would recommend our Lil-lets teens day and night pads for the first couple of periods and then if you wish you could consider trying tampons in a few months. And of course in between periods our pant liners are ideal for keeping you clean and fresh, along with our Lil-Lets Freshen-up wipes.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I had my first period in may and nothing ever since. Am I okay?
    From Janice

    Hi Janice, periods are often irregular with gaps of several months between each one being noticed, this is simply your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • I have been having discharge for about a year when will my periods start?

    Discharge is often noticed for up to 12 months before the arrival of your period; sometimes even longer so ensure going forward you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • how do you tell your mum about discharge

    It may be that your mum has already noticed discharge in your undewear when she does the weekly laundry and I am sure she will understand completely what it is and that this is a sign your period is not too far away.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Ive been on my period for almost a year now and i really want to start using tampons but i dont think that im ready yet as i have tried and i just cant get it in but im going on holiday in august and we are going just at the time that i usually start my period and i dont know what i will do when we are there as we have our own pool and i am usually in it all the time when we go on holiday what shall i do?? Please help me vicki

    From GJ xxx

    Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons, they are shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for first time users. Next time your period arrives, relax....insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine for its more comfortable fit and if you feel it may help, try inserting your finger inside your vagina from to time to, so this because more natural for you to do.


  • I started my period in April 2013. It was was fine and the months of May. In June it never came but I thought it was normal as it was my 3rd time.In August it never came but from September to November everthing was okay, but in Decmeber it never came either! I missed February of this year and also April and I doubt im getting it this month.Should I be worried about this?

    Thanks vicki!

    This really is nothing to be worried about and this irregular pattern may continue for some time to come as your body works out the best monthly cycle just for you.

  • !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! URGENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PART TWO: I want to make an appointment but i cant cause me and my family r going Dubai tomorrow until late august.. I use Vagsil cream everyday since it started to soothe the pain down but after an hour or so it goes back to being painful ... My mum knows i told her two days ago... HELP !!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE REPLY 18TH JULY BEFORE 8:30PM !!!! Xxxx

    It seems you may have a vaginal infection and you really must speak to your mum again, she may choose to purchase some over the counter treatments such as a pessary for you, or pop you along to your GP for a check-up and he may need to have a little look at his area, but don't worry it's really nothing to be worried about and will just be part of his day and a nurse or your mum will be present at all times.

  • Hi vicki. There is this girl who i know and she self harms she wrote HARM on her arm with her knife and has got cuts all over her I'm worried about her but when you ask her about it she gets really angry and shouts at me. What should I do x

    Urge this girl to chat to someone, if not a family member then Childline on 0800 1111. Self-harming is generally a sign that someone's life is very unhappy and there are so many people out there that can help your friend get through this time and come through the other end a happier person.

  • Hi vicky
    Is it normal to have a unregular period in the first few months you start it?

    Very normal and periods may continue to be irregular for the next few years as your body continues to work out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! URGENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!PART ONE: Hi Vicki, basically, last week or two weeks my vagina has been really really itchy swollen burning and covered in red spots. Also i think i have a rash around it and bumhole. I dont know what ita called but u know those 'mini' balls in centre of vagina, has dropped abit lower so its really painful when I sit down 😭😩 Will gps look in ur vagina ??!!

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I'm starting to feel awkward around most people and I never used to but I'm 17. It even happens with family some times.

    As we get older we very often find that people we felt comfortable around previously now feel a little strange. This is because you are now becoming an adult and having opinions and views of your own. So be confident and slowly start to speak about how you feel and what you think and in time friends and family will start to see you have become a beautiful young woman.

  • I've been wearing earbuds to sleep every night now for a year to cancel out noise is this safe? They are older ones so I cut off the cables so they wont tangle round my neck. I dont have music playing it's just to stop noise.

    Lots of people use ear plugs to help them sleep, but please be careful, they should be cleaned or replaced regularly to avoid ear infections and of course your parents should be aware that you sleep with them in.

  • I am going to a bouncy castle party tomoro and I have my period. I was wondering if it would be better to wear a tampon because we will be jumping about or will I be completely safe with just a pad? What do u reccommend

    A pad will be fine if this is something you are comfortable to wear.

  • Part two.
    Hi Vicki. I was the one that fancied the boy in year 8 and my friends know. I would tell him that I like him but his sister is my best friend. Should I tell him or would it make it too awkward for all of us?

    Please see my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm in year 7 and I like this boy from my scouts who is in the same school but year 8. I told my friends from school, that don't know him, that I like him. Now they know what he looks like, he always points him out or nudges me in the corridor. I don't know if he likes me but he probably know that I like him. He once said that he likes this other girl but whenever he drops something, he looks at me. I don't know why. Does he like me? Should I tell him?

    Why not continue being friends and chatting to this boy for a little while longer. I am sure he will gradually see how much you like him and let you know how he feels.

  • Hiya viki,
    I have a problem. I like this boy and I think he likes me. but whenever I have asked a boy out first they always say girls shouldn't make the first move. I feel really bad because I know he's shy and finds it hard talking to girls but I want him to feel as if he doesn't need to be. I get on really well with him and some of my friends agree that he might have a crush on me but i'm really confused and need help on what to do and how to calm down! please help viki,
    Little_Lizzi_Lamb

    Hi Little Lizzie Lamb, boys often take longer to mature than girls and if you like this boy then give him time to get to know you as a friend....after all the last part of boyfriend is 'friend'.

  • I'm 16 and I started my period last month. It lasted from the 19th-28th and it was fairly heavy for the first 5/6 days. I'm really worried about August because I'm meant to be going camping from the 19th-21st but I don't want to go if I'll be on my period, what should I do?

    Periods can often be irregular with gaps of several months and your flow can change too. So why not see what happens and ensure you take supplies camping with you.

  • I'm an EMO boy and I was gay but I saw this EMO girl & now I'm bi cause of her.She's beautiful.I'm 14 and she's 11 which sucks.Ppl would judge but I love her.& this friend I have is her BFF but she won't tell me anything about her!!I won't see her for 2 years since I'm going to high school.i don't cares about her body or even her beauty really.She understands me.i know it.Even though I only talked to her once.We have a bunch in common.Help!i blush when I see her!Is there a chance she likes me?? :3 meow

    If there is a chance she likes you as much as you like her, then I see no reason why you cannot wait until she is old enough to date and  you are both mature. In the meantime concentrate on your education in High School.

  • hello viki ok so my question is, are infections around the vagina common and how are they caused?

    It is quite common for women to develop urine infections or thrush due to numerous reasons.  A good way of trying to avoid developing an infection of this nature is to keep your feminie hygiene to a high level with regular bathing and remember that when you've urinated, you always wipe from the front to the back.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Normally I am one of the people who are quite quiet and none of the popular guys will talk to me. But lately a lot of the popular guys have been talking to me, one of my friend said they were flirting with me and I asked why they would (bc I am short not the prettiest person alive) and she said bc I have bigger boobs than most girls, I didn't used to but I have now grown I am an 32 E. But do you think that is why they are talking to me I kinda wanna no why they are choosing to talk to me now xxx

    I think boys are attracted to girls regardless of the size of their breasts.  Please consider ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport would be a good place to start.

  • Hi, I have had my period for nearly 2 years now and I am ready to move on to tampons but I do not know if I should use applicator ones or normal ones. I have heard that non applicator ones are best to start with but I am worried about them because they may be hard to get high and into the right position and applicator ones sound easier. What should I use?
    PS why do they say normal ones are the best.

    It's true that non-applicator tampons are probably the easiest to start with but the choice is yours.  Either way, Lil-Lets now offer a teens Regular tampon which is absolutely ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be enjoying the discreet protection enjoyed by millions of women and girls all over the world.

  • Sup Vicki,it's EMO GIRL.Thank you's for answering my question about the boy.I think my BFF won't tell me anything because she likes both of us.(She's bi).she said she cuts her ankles so no one sees.She sent a pic.Idk what to do.Her mom isn't understanding & my fam. doesn't like her much.She's 2 years older & in the same grade as me.(She got held back once & I skipped one)she said she going to dye her hair without permission and asked if I wanna help because mine's red & black.:3 EMO GIRL

    As your family isn't very keen on this girl, I think it would be best to keep your distance from her.

  • hi viki,

    how do you know when you have an infection?

    I assume that you're talking about a vaginal fungal infection (thrush) which is easily identified by the presence of a creamy thick discharge that ressembles cottage cheese, your vagina will be red, swollen and itch and it will be painful to urinate.  Thrush can be easily treated by creams you can buy over the counter at your local chemist.

  • Hey
    This may sound strange but I keep getting these small insects getting INSIDE my laptop and it's really annoying as I cannot get them out then they are crawling all over my laptop screen. There is already a couple of dead ones that have fallen to the bottom. How can I stop them getting in? My house is perfectly clean.

    You might like to try spraying some compressed air in between the keys on the key pad as this should help to get rid of the insects in a way that won't damage your laptop.  Another option would be to seal your laptop in an airtight bag with a cloth that has some insect repellent on it but some pesticides might cause some damage so please take care when doing this.

  • What's your opinion on studying at college in Northern Ireland ? Should I go for it and move away from home? I would like independence now. I am 19. I have a pretty good idea of what I want to study. Should I go for it?

    If this college is offering the courses you want to study, it sounds like a great opportunity for you and as you say, it will be a good chance for you to become more independent.

  • I'm 14 and last week I had a really bad cramp and a lot of discharge but this week there was no discharge and I had a really upset stomach. I haven't had my first period ever but I do have pubic hair

    These could all be signs that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives but the best way of knowing is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki
    I read some books that have sex scenes and when those scenes come up and I read them I get this feeling down there and its all tingly and I have the urge to want to have sex so what should I do

    During puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and when reading material with sexual references, you are naturally going to feel excited.  This is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hey vicki what kind of questions are deemed inappropriate just wondering!x hannah

    Hi Hannah, this is usually down to my discretion, but as a general rule anything that I feel would cause offense to others or have abusive content within it.

  • Vicki,i woke up this morning and my stomach felt weird. Then i was changing my underwear and their was a brown/red stain. I went to the bathroom and wiped and their was browny colour discharge.im 11 have pubic hair and bra size 34a. Please answer quick! Im scared:(

    Please try not to worry as this was your period.  Be sure to ask your mum or guradian for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I really like this boy. Hes so cute and smart. I want to tell my bestfriend that I love him but Im scared what she'll say. Also this boy is a year older than me and is no longer in my class will that affect anything?
    ( Im in 6th grade)

    Hi, if your instinct is to not trust your friend then I would leave off discussing this with her for a while until you are 100% sure she will be discrete. If there is just a year between you and this boy then I do not feel this is too large an age gap. But remember that the summer break is coming up and now is the time to have fun and relax with family and friends and not stress too much over boys.

  • I'm sorry if this is gross but I don't feel fresh down there I am discharging more than normal I asked my mom for sanitary whipes but she said no I have to feel gross all day what should I do?

    You might like to ask your mum if she will give you her permission to request a free sample from us.  Just go to the home page of this website and follow the link.

  • I am 78 under and 82 over what bra size am I?

    Your bra sizing is a 36AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I'm 14 and havent started my period yet but yesterday i noticed brown discharge on my panties, is this normal or is my period starting?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicky,👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋
    I was on my bike recently and I rode down some steps. It rely hurt my vagina and I think I may have done something to it as it really hurts... It felt as if it was burning at first...plz tell me what to do thx vicky x
    From soph

    Hi Soph, please talk to your mum or guardian to see if they think an appointment with your GP is necessary.

  • Hi Viki,
    my best friend has started to ignore me on text. I have no idea why.
    She is a really hard person to get along with. She has does weird things like:
    If I can't hear what she's saying, she'll start to ignore me! And also, at lunch she'll start to ignore me and says "I get really offended when you eat more than me!"
    Its all really upsetting me, as she is so controlling and she tries to be the boss of everyone. She is really selfish and I don't know what to do any more. Any advise?
    Thanks.

    It is possible for us to outgrow our friends sometimes and I think you really need to decide if you want to remain friends with this girl at all as she seems rather controlling and often makes you very upset.  You could tell her that your friendship with her is difficult and makes you feel upset too often so you don't want to be as close to her anymore.

  • Hi Viki,

    I was just wondering: is masturbation normal? My friends all so it's disgusting but I don't know.

    And also, I asked my mum whether I'm allowed to use tampons because I'm 13 and have had my period for two years now, but she said no. But I really want to use tampons! She gave me all the reasons why I shouldn't wear them and said I can only when I'm at uni and more responsible! What should do because I find pads really uncomfortable in sports?!

    Thanks!

    Why not have another chat to your mum letting her know how uncomfortable pads make you feel. You may also like to let her know that Lil-Lets have worked with one of the UK leading gynaecologists and manufactured a tampon designed for teens, which is both shorter and narrower. As for masturbation, it is a very natural and instinctive thing to do, but something that not many people will admit to, so don't be surprised if friends say it's disgusting, they generally do this because they are embarrassed to discuss it even though it may be something they do.

  • Dear vicki I am turning 13 it acually 5 mins. !!! I am about to start my period. I also am getting hairy legs and arms I'm also out growing my 34 * bra. I want to tell my mom about me needing new bras razors and pads but idk how! Help!?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about anything to do with puberty as she will be able to help and support you through this special time in your life.  Why not start the conversation by asking if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range from the home page of this website?

  • Dr vicki iv been having terrible period pains. A few weeks ago it was so bad I was groaning. But I went to sleep. When I woke up I. Took a shower and noticed drips of redish brown stuff in my undies. The next day it was there again. It has now been 2 weeks and I haven't gotton any pains or blood in my undies. Was this my period and when should I be expecting it gain thx

    This was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Vicki. Me and this boy stopped talking and we were best friends. I'm trying to find myself because I dont know who I am anymore. I hardly have any friends and I feel like I need time to break from society. How do I take a break from society? I'm lost and at a low. How can I find myself?

    Puberty is naturally a time when teens feel massive self-doubt and losing your friendship with this boy has obviously affected you but you need to give your confidence a boost by getting involved with other like-minded people and joining a club for something you enjoy will enable you to do this.  As we're into the Summer holidays, you could look at your local library for events that are being held or you might like to consider doing some volunteer work to help others.  Keeping busy and active will help you feel better about yourself so why not give it a go.

  • Hello Vicki,

    I was wondering if it is true that if you wear a bra to bed it stuns your growth. I also have more( or larger ) amounts of armpit fat then my friends. (I'm 12) they are the same bra size as me but do not have this fat. What is it. Is it just extra tissue that I will have to deal with, is it breast tissue that will result in my breasts growing as I age and mature, or is it something else?

    Thank you!

    There is not proof that wearing a bra to bed is detrimental to breast growth or health and some people do notice a little bit of extra weight at the side of their chest and under their arms, it's nothing to worry about, although a good fitting bra will stop it being so obvious.

  • So i get this when am asleep only my boxers have this gooey clear stuff and i had my period like two or three weeks ago so idk what is it and i am only 16

    Discharge is a clear mucus produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection and you might like to consider using pant liners to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there as it is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and whenever someone asks me out or something I start overthinking things. And this makes me ill, and I end up not sleeping of eating. Why? And how can I stop this?

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel massive self-doubt as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so you might like to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as this would be a good place to start.  You could also try doing some basic Yoga to help you relax.

  • Hey vicki :), ok so im 20 & my bf &.i were ready for sex, but the thinq is we took it all slow because it was painful for me, first of all i dont know where my hole is, i nvr used tampon before, like it seems as if i had no entrance or somethinq, after a while of tryinq, it barley went in but i couldnt it was all to painful, i then later checked my self & found a small hole but how would it get biqqer w/out destroying the hymen? Pls help!! I dont want it to be painful.

    For sexual intercourse to take place the hymen will be stretched naturally over time. So be patient no one says you have to get it right first time.

  • Do you have to wear a pantie liner and towel together or do you wear them separately

    A pant liner is a thin piece of absorbent material that is suitable for protecting your underwear from discharge or a very light period. A towel or pad are thicker more absorbent pieces of material that will collect your menstrual blood and there really is no need to wear the two together, as you can see they both perform very differently.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 17 and theirs this guy I really like we got to no each other for about 5 months we started dating and I think I falling hard for him and I don't love my parents died in a wreck and I shut of all emotions but I made love to him and I love him and I'm showing emotions and I don't think that a good thing because the pain of my parents death please help thanks Rachel

    Hi Rachel, I am sure your parents would be happy to know that you have found love and happy times with someone. So please don't feel guilty for being in love, it is a very natural part of being a human being and in no way impacts on the love and sadness of loss you feel for your parents.

  • I'm in love with an EMO boy. I'm also EMO. I'm 11. He's 14. I've only talked to him once but he always blushes when he sees me. My "BFF" is friends with him but won't tell me anything about him. He's going to high school and I won't see him for 2 years so i cry myself to sleep every night. I know It shouldn't consume so much of my life but I love him. He's the nicest person I've ever met and we have so much in common. Does he like me too? And what should I do so I won't be so sad? Please reply.- EMO GIRL

    Hi Emo Girl, it is so easy to feel deep attraction to someone during puberty as hormones run riot and your BFF is being rather mean for not telling you anything about him.  From what you've said, I do get the impression that he likes you too so try and do some detective work by asking around to find out who he is.

  • Dear Vicky,
    I am scared and I really need your help.
    - I'm thirteen and I wear a bra to school but I find it so uncomfortable I don't wear it on the weekends or after school. Is it bad? Will my breasts still grow normally if I don't wear it? PLZ help me I don't know what to do?

    You might like to consider trying a trainer bra as they are ideal for helping you get used to wearing a bra.

  • Im 12 and my period has came regular for a few months then all of a sudden it seemed to stop coming and its got me worried!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki, I recently just started discharge and I haven't really cared once it happens, I just throw my underwear in the wash and it's fine. I thought that it would just go away after a few days but it's been constant for like a month and I was wondering if it leads more to my period. I have all the symptoms and I have no clue when I will start because I asked my mom and my sister and they started, they said at age 11 and I am 13. What should I do?

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstural cycle and it works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection, so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  We also make Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes which will also help you.

  • My discharge started out as a clear type color, then it turned into a dark yellow/light brown. Today it was clear colored. Should I be worried?

    It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out but brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicks
    When I'm not on my period I always get discharge WILL THIS STOP???
    It's so annoying because I do wear panty liners but it seems to go on my knickers aswell. I sometimes use lilets panty liners too. So there's always a panty liner or a pad on my knickers and this just irritates me >:(

    It is perfectly normal to relelase discharge throughout your menstrual cycle and you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they are ideal for helping you feel fresh and clean down there.

  • hey viky
    im a boy but my girlfried uses this so i can use it 2
    my girlfried and me are in yr6 and i realy love her like sooo much and i want to take it to the next level before we leave skl for yr7. i want to tuch her boobies and she loves me back. she is awsome. i want to go 2 her house to touch her, how do i ask her. weve been going out for like 3-4 years and we r realy serous. pls answer thx

    If you are in Year 6 then I have to presume that you are 11 and as such you and your girlfriend are too young to be sexually intimate, so for now keep any contact to a 'friends only' basis and until you are legally old enough to be intimate in this way.

  • U never answer any off my questions xx😥😳😔😱😭

    I answer all questions unless they are inappropriate or would cause offence to other visitors.

  • Hey Vicki, I heard that two years after getting your first period you will have horrible cramps.......I don't have cramps yet and I started for a few months already. I'm really scared to have a third of my life ruined by horrible pain...... Is this true that everyone will get cramps?Is it possibly not to?

    There is no truth to this so please try not to worry.  However, if you do experience stomach cramps, they can be easily managed by taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle  or by having a soak in the bath and if the pain is too bad, you can always ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi vicki

    Do you have a app?

    Thanks

    lGR

    This is something the team are looking at so we will hopefully have some news for you very soon.

  • Hi vicki. Will my adult body look like my mothers? Like the curves and all that? Because she says that when she was my age she looked a lot like me

    Not necessarily but you will simply have to wait and see.

  • Dear Vicki
    HELP
    this evening as i was lying in bed i suddenly got a mild ace in my lower belly, it wasn't like really bad or anything but it was an ace, was this period pain?
    also if it was does this mean that my period will come soon?? i have had discharge for about 2 and a half years i have pubic hair and small boobs!
    what does this mean
    love
    rosa

    Hi Rosa, the stomach cramps you noticed were likely to be a sign that your body is getting ready for your period as you have already been releasing discharge for quite a while but keep an eye on them and if nothing happens please ask your mum or guardian what she thinks.

  • I've been getting black stuff in my pants and I'm not sure what it is. It could be my period but I've never seen black in my pants before???

    It is normal to release dark coloured discharge and this can often present itself as a first period if you haven't yet started or it can simply be a clearing out of the vagina if you have already started so try not to worry.

  • I'm 12 nearly 13 and friends lots of boys -i always Skype and sometimes meet up and my mum is being awk and saying gshe doesn't want me hanging around boys too much i tell her I'm just like good friends and she agrees but then i was sky ping this boy who's a really good friend but he is already going out with my bff and my mum was like you shouldn't be going out with boys until at least another 4 i like hanging out with them but i don't see the problem?

    You really should respect your mum's wishes and limit the amount of time you spend with boys.  To put her mind at ease, you might like to invite some of them round to your house to meet her so can see that you're just friends.

  • Hi Vicki
    Hi I'm Katie and I'm 12 do you wipe yourself front to back
    Or back to front and why ??
    Thanks !!

    Front to back minimises the risk of infection by speading germs from the anal area.

  • Hi vicki me and my cousin are developing breast.We were born in the same year and month and I am 14 days older than here. The thing that shocks me is that she has breast discharge before me. I am asking what stage of breast devolopment are you supposed to have breast discharge

    Not everyone experiences nipple leakage but it is very common as breasts produce fluid during puberty.  It can be caused by an increase in hormones or by wearing tight-fitting clothing.  Try to remember that we are all different and have bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hello! I'm 11 and my body shape is quite odd... my tummy is rather round but I haven't any fat in the other usual places, like my thighs, bottom etc. My mum says this is normal and will go, but I am curious to know why this is here. Also as I become older, I am getting more conscious of my shape so I hope it won't worry me in the future!😊

    Puberty can be a most difficult and demanding time for young girls and boys when they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  It is perfectly normal for the bodies of girls to become curvier with breasts becoming fuller and rounder and hips becoming wider and it is also very commom for young girls to develop a roundness to their tummy area too.  Try to be patient and allow some time for your body to fully develop. 

  • Hiya Vicki

    I just started my period and it's brown. But later it will just be blood. How long until it's just blood and not brown? Also I only had brown discharge for a day, is that normal?

    From,
    Morgan⚽️⚽️⚽️

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so try not to worry and be sure to ask your mum or guardian if they will buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hello i am 14 and i have recently fell for a boy in my year, we talked alot this past week but we are talking les and less, i want his number so we can talk over summer but i dont know how to ask. I am also worried about how my friends would react if the found out as he is in the 'nerdy' group at school.

    It doesn't really matter what your friends think of this boy as long as you like him so try not to worry.  You just need to be brave and direct and ask him if you can have his number as you would like to get to know him a little better over the Summer.

  • I'm really sorry if this is inappropriate but I don't understand how gay people have sex?

    People are mistaken into believe that being sexually active invloves only penetration of the penis into a vagina.  But just like any other couple who are in love, they find a way to be close and have pleasure with their partners in a number of different ways.

  • Hi vicki I have a problem with my best friend afew months ago I told her I liked her and she got freaked out , we have sorted it out now but lately she's been flirting with me . At first I thought nothing of it then I noticed it when I went to hers for a sleep over with 4 other girls afew weeks ago because she insisted that I hang out with her and cuddled me when we went to sleep and she looked sad when I spoke to our other friend , I don't know whether she likes me or not . I don't know what to do xx

    Puberty is a time for teens to form deep attraction to others due to the increase in activity of hormones but this is called a crush and the thing is that crushes often fade in time. 

  • Hi Vicki
    I asked you a question about mood swings and having fall outs with my mum. How can I control my mood swings and hormones.
    Sophie

    Hi Sophie, I am so sorry you weren't able to locate your response.  Here goes again.. Mood swings in puberty are really quite common as teens struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so you're not alone and they are not your fault.  In a quieter moment, sit down with your mum and explain your feelings, give her a hug and tell her you're sorry but it's not your fault.  If you should feel yourself becoming angry in future, try to distract your thinking and do something else.

  • hi Vicki
    im 14 yrs old and my period hasn't come back and it has benn months , I cant be pregnant since im a virgin but is this normal and is there any way to 'get it back'
    thanks, holly

    Hi Holly, during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry as it can be ireegular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Every so often, today and yesterday I had a strange pain around my vagina area. Its a burning sensation that comes in short bursts- the main pain lasts for about 30-60 seconds but there is a dull pain that comes with it. I haven't told my mum yet though.
    I also have a lump on my bottom which is roughly a quarter of the size of your pinky. it has been there for about a week now. I haven't told my mum about this either.

    I am so worried about these questions. PLEASE answer them.

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and should be able to help you so please try not to feel embarrassed about talking to her.  You should mention your stomach pain and the lump on your bottom to her and she will know if you need to visit your GP to get them checked out or not.

  • Hi Vicki
    So every day when I am falling asleep my mind subcontiously runs through the boys I have spoken to that day and decides that on of them is the guy I like. Why is this?
    Love,
    L

    It is normal for young girls and boys to feel attracted to others during puberty as sex hormones increase in activity so try not to worry.

  • I'm 13 and quite moody, why?

    During puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to feel more moody than before and this is perfectly normal.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so be sure to talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling and try dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films or going for a nice walk to help better your mood.

  • My hips are leaving me behind! My hips are way too big compared with the rest of my body and I know I should love myself and my shape, but will the rest of me catch up? It's so arkward.

    Try to be patient and allow your body the time to finish developing.

  • Would you say 73 under and 90 over would be a 34b?
    Thanks I'm kind of confused! I think I've come up a cup size and I don't know how to tell my mum😳 she thinks I'm a 34a? How would I approach it?
    Thanks so much for all the help xx

    Yes I make that a 34B but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • What is the name of your son and how old is he?

    To protect my son's privacy, I can't really divulge that information.

  • What are the names of the girls who do the videos with the celebrititys ?

    Their names were Demi, Serena, Chloe and Leyla.

  • Hi vicki, lately I have had discharge and really want to ask my mum for liners. But I don't know how! I can't send her a e card as my dad checks his email. I have a older sister but she is quote awkward to talk to. My mum is also awkward to talk to as she probably doesn't even know I know about discharge and periods. Please help. Also I don't want to sound strange but what is a bonor I think I might of spelt it wrong but what is it? Thanks elephantlover10 xoxo

    Hi elephantlover10, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really isn't any need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her.  You might like to start the conversation by asking if she will grant you her permission to request a free sample of products from the home page of this website.  A 'boner' is a slang term for an erection.

  • i asked you about the snapchat incident a few days ago, now the girl doesn't want to be friends anymore and I'm soso upset, what do I do??

    Give this a few days for this girl to feel less uspet about the incident then approach her and again let her know that you are sorry and hope your friendship can go back to how it was.

  • will i go through puberty the same age as my mom? thanks vicki xx

    Not necessarily as we all develop at different rates to each other.

  • What are breast buds?
    Are they nipples?
    thanks xxx

    Breast buds are small raised lumps that sit behind the nipple and comprise of tissue, fat, muscle and milk glands.  They signal the start of breast development.

  • How will you know when you are going to have your first period what signs will you get

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I've alot of siblings, lately I feel smothered, u know the way sometimes you just need to be alone. So I go to my room and close the door to try and drown out the noise for a bit of peace and quiet, my parents have a problem with this, I'm not allowed to have my door shut tight
    I feel like I can't breathe and I'm easily irritated and mood swingy
    I try to relax, release my feelings playing piano, and I'm apparently on it all day long
    plz put in something else

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel moody at times.  I would suggest that you sit down with your parents and tell them how irritated you feel at times and that you need some quiet time alone sometimes to relax.  If playing the piano allows you the time to do this, personally, I think this is a good thing fo you but you must find a balance and be able to spend time with your family too.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm 13 and I want to start working out to get fitter but I don't want to have to go to the gym or buy any equipment, what exercises could I do?
    Ps- We have some weights that I can use.

    Izzy xx

    I would always be wary of using weights when you are still young as your muscles are still developing.  Something you might like to consider would be using work outs on YouTube as they can really help you get fit.  You could also join a club for a sport you enjoy which is a great way of staying fit too.

  • how long can you wear the liners for

    The choice is yours as they can be changed as little or as often as you like.

  • Hiya, I've got this reoccurring stomach pain and it's really painful but dosen hurt when I bend over or lie down! What is it it's a sharp pain too!

    Please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • Hi I'm hplovelife and I'm 14 and a half. I started my periods 6 months ago and I've only had 3 since then and theyve been VERY irregular. Recently I've noticed I've been smelling fishy down there and also I've got thick brown discharge. It doesn't look like the start of a period so I'm really confused. Also I hate smelling. Please help Vicki xxxxx

    Hi Hplovelife, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Brown blood is simply old blood and is a clearing out of the vagina so again try not to worry.  As for the 'fishy' odour you have noticed, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will help to keep you Feeling fresh and clean down there.  You might also be intereseted in using our pant liners as they can be changed as often as you like.

  • hi ! I haven't started my period yet and all my friends have I feel left out ! and I know we all start at different times but what if I never have mine!
    mady B,
    ae 12

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 so try not to worry.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm sorry for asking so many questions but I've been worrying a lot. Thank you for answering them, here' one I'm VERY worried about. Is masturbating bad for you if you do it too much?
    Love. Tildies
    x

    Hi Tildies, I'm very happy to help you with any problems you might have so please, try not to worry.  Puberty is naturally a time for young girls to experience more feelings of a sexual nature due to the increase in activity of sex hormones and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.  It is important to stay mindful of the things that mean the most to us though, like family, friends and school so all things in moderation.

  • Hey Vicki im in year 7 going on to year 8 and there is this boy in year 9 and i really like him but im not to sure if he is to old for me please help
    From Karma

    Hi Karma, liking a boy who is a little older than you shouldn't be a problem but why not get to know him better as a friend before you consider 'going out' with him.

  • A girl in my form lost her virginity this weekend. Should I tell the teacher. By the way she is 12

    If you seriously suspect that this girl has been having sex, you could have a discreet word with a teacher to voice your concerns.

  • Hi I'm 12 and my measurements are 69cm under and 75cm over what is my size? Am I ready for a bra?

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi! These past couple of days my downstairs has been really sore and itchy. Especially at night, it is really tender to touch and really irritating. It's worst at night and sore when I walk or sit down for long periods of time. I'm 13 and haven't started my period yet but I've had discharge for around 7 months. Thanks. I'm scared it could be something really bad. Sorry if this is inappropriate.

    It might be something as simple as the type of detergent your mum or guardian has been using which has caused you to have an allergic reaction or it could be that you have a slight infection.  Please talk to your mum to see if you need to get this checked out with your GP.

  • Hi viki im 16 nearly 17 and havent started my period I was told its ok by the doctor and its normal all down there but ive really been craving sex me and my boyfriend both want it hes coming over this saturday is it to do it even thhough I havent started I really want it and we both feel ready

    It is normal for girls to start their period up until the age of 18 and the fact that you haven't yet started your period will not affect your ability to have sexual intercourse with your boyfriend.  Just please make sure that you are fully protected and are absolutely sure you are ready to do this.

  • Hi Vicki
    When i was masturbarating with something in my vagina, when i took it out there was blood. Wht does this mean?
    💛💜💛💜💛💜💛💜💛💛💛💜💛💜💛💜💛

    This generally means you have been a little too vigorous and may have damaged or torn the skin in this area. Don't worry too much just like anywhere else on the body the skin will heal itself over the next few days.

  • Well my last period was 2 months late and I was wondering if it will be the same with this period?

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • What if you are the only girl in your class who doesn't wear a bra and the rest who do laugh at you. You have even asked your mum for 1 but she says no what should I do

    You should try to ignore them and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is only a matter of time before you will notice breast development too so try to be patient.  You might ask your mum if she would consider buying you a training bra which are soft and enable you to get used to wearing a bra.

  • Hi iam really worried about my mons pubis it quite large and I really dislike it it sticks through my pants and iam worried that boys won't like it iam 13 by the way

    I'm sure you're worrying needlessly as everyone's mons pubis appears large at first so just allow yourself some time to get used to it as you develop with puberty.  Try to remember that it does have the important function of protecting the delicate area found at the front of the vulva which covers the pubic bone.

  • Hey Vicki, yesterday when I was putting my bra on, I noticed lots of tiny red dots on my breasts, is this normal? thankyou xxxxxxxxxx

    As it has been so hot, this might be a heat rash so ask your mum or guardian to have a look at it to see what they think.

  • Dear Vicki,

    Hi, today at school we were talking about your great website and things you can but from you! And we got a pack with tampons, pads and more in. Should I take them too school just incase I start my period?

    Also, last thing, if I feel ill and that I am going to start my period soon, should I wear a pad?

    I develop quicker than others, quite a lot.

    Thank you ever so much😊

    From, Lottie age 10, year 5 going to year 6.

    It might be a good idea to start wearing the pant liners when you start releasing discharge as they will not only protect your underwear from this but also from possible leakage should your period arrive. You should really keep a couple of towels in your bag too so you're fully prepared. 

  • hi vicky saadia here i just wanted to is stuffing the bra ok??????

    You might find that wearing a padded bra will give you more comfort than stuffing your bra with somenthing else.  Many young girls choose to wear padded bras to make them feel less self-conscious about the size of their breasts.

  • Hi vicky im in year7 and there is this boy in year 9 would it be okay if i went out with him

    Why not get to know this boy better as a friend before you consider 'going out' with him?

  • I have fancy this guy who is my age 14. I asked him a couple of questions on F.B to which he probably thinks I'm obsessed and stalking him. At the end of the convo. I said "I enjoyed talking to you". He saw the message but didnt reply. I am very overweight, which I am working on. I know he is young so he is only going to see how I look and not at my personality. I really like him. I'm not sure if he is in a relationship but I know that 99.9% doesnt like me. He maybe knows that I have a crush on him. HELP!

    It shouldn't matter that you are a little overweight but as he doesn't seem interested, maybe you should think about moving on and forgettting about him.

  • Hey Vicki
    So I really like this boy he's a year older than me and he said he likes me back and nothing has happened since then ,we're friends too so I'm scared to ask him what's going on so I can move on coz I don't wanna be stuck on a crush that I have no chance with
    Thanxx

    You might like to talk to him to find out for sure if he likes you too and wants to be in a relationship with you.

  • Hi Vicki

    On my first period it's just brown but most people say there will be blood. When will blood come on a period?

    🍁🍁🍁

    Menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour so try not to worry, this is still your period.

  • I eat ALOT! I'm 14 and I eat my feelings

    But, I never gain any weight every
    And now people and even my mum thinks I'm anorexic but I eat alot!!
    And guys at school are spreading rumors I starve myself

    Ignore any silly rumours and have a chat to your mum about your diet, it may be that you need to increase your portion size now you are becoming a young adult and require extra protein and carbohydrates too.

  • Hi, Vicki,
    I am having a blood test today to check my thyroid, and I'm really scared. I will be anxious waiting for the results and won't know what to do. I can accept it if I have a thyroid disorder, but I'm still so anxious about doctors and medical things!
    Please help! x

    Try not to worry if the results come back positive for thyroid activity issues then your doctor will be able to prescribe treatment to regulate this part of your body. It may take a few days before your results are back so be patient and try not to become too anxious.

  • Does a girl's hymen ever 'go away'? Do all girls have a hymen? Thanks.

    The majority of girls have a hymen and rather than going away it is stretched over a period of time and becomes barely visible.

  • hi vicki, i sent a question just like this last month but i didn't get to see the answer to it any way what happened last month was i wiped my bum after pooing, and there was red stuff on the toilet paper which i don't know if it was blood but anyway it happened last month and this month,today aswell is this my period? Also, does period blood come out of your vagina or poo hole just wondering thnx

    Menstrual fluid comes out of your vagina. If you have noticed blood in your 'poo' then you may be constipated and you should speak to your parents about this matter and they will ensure your diet is changed to avoid this happening in the future.

  • Hi vicki, so I have a couple questions. 1. Is it normal to have diarrhoea before your period (sorry it's gross) and 2.do you gain weight before a period, thanks💕

    Some people to experience loose stools just before and during their period due to the muscles surrounding the uterus contracting. But you should ensure that you speak to an adult about this as it may be a tummy bug you have.

  • how to ignore people calling u names

    My advice would be to look them straight in the eye and shake your head slightly before walking away, so they and everyone around them knows how immature you find their behaviour.

  • whats pms???

    Check out my blog; PMS is it really all in your head for all you need to know about this subject.

  • Hey Vicki

    I don't know If I've started my periods or what??😒
    As This is so embarising 🙈🙈 I was scratching down there🙈🙈
    And then I went to the toilet and then there was blood all over my pants
    So I put a pad on to go to sleep and when I woke up I was still bleeding😕

    Please answer as I was ok about it last night but I'm getting scared now and I don't want to tell my mum 🙈

    Clarkyx

    Just so I now it's my question

    If you have noticed bleeding overnight then yes this could be your period and you should continue wearing a fresh pad for the day and then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hey Vicki! Im 12
    Please answer! What does a belly cramp feel like?
    I THINK I just had it. It was in the lower belly. Just how do I know if Im having one??? I have pubic hair (down there & under arms) and my breasts have been definetly growing MORE these days!
    And have discharge for 8 months now...will i start my period soon? My mum was 11 when she started.
    ps. what r breast buds??

    Hi, a period cramp is usually a dull ache in the groin, lower tummy or lower back that lasts for a couple of minutes. I would imagine with so many signs of puberty already noticed you will not have much longer to wait for the arrival of your period, it may even be this year or early in 2015.

  • is there anything you can do to make your period last a shorter time or make it lighter???

    Your period is a very natural part of being a woman and there is nothing you need do to make it shorter or lighter, especially as there are such great products on the market nowdays to keep you protected from leaks.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've just got my period (late Tuesday) and I have my dance recital this weekend. My period lasts usually between 4-6 days, therefore I may be on it for the dress rehearsal on Friday or the weekend. I don't wear tampons, because I've never really felt ready, but I have been considering it lately. However, I don't want to use them for the first time during the show, in case I insert it wrongly/or its the wrong absorbency. Do you thnk a pad will be that bad?

    I think a pad will be fine and then when you are ready and relaxed at home you may want to try our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons.

  • Why do people get discharge

    Discharge is the body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki, I like to stock up in Period Pads, I have quite a lot, but my mum always tells me off for having loads, and she won't buy me any more regular flow pads even though at the moment I only have 2 regular flow left?! She won't respect my desicions - what shud I do????
    Thanks Snowy :)

    Hi Snowy, one pack of day and night pads is really all you need and I am sure your mum will agree to allowing you to have this stock in the future if you stick to just one pack of each in your possession at any one time. She may even agree to purchase for you our new teens day towels with a free sample of pant liners. See this weeks blog for more on this great offer.

  • Hi Vicki, so I let my little sister have a go on my iPhone, and when she gave it back to me I was closing all the tabs on my phone, and on the internet she had been looking at porn. I don't know what to do, because she is quite young. I don't want to talk to my mum about it and I don't want to talk to her about it. Please HELP!!!!!! Put this under sexual feelings please
    Thanks LordOfTheRings xxxx

    Have a chat to your sister and let her know that some of the sites she has visited are not age appropriate and that she should avoid visiting them in future. You do not have to go into details, she will understand which sites you are referring to and hopefully will stop.

  • I am nearly 13 and I haven't started my period but I get really bad mood swings and anxieties. I also have really bad fall outs with my mum. How can I control my mood swings and is that a sign that I could be starting my period.

    This is a sign you have entered the time in your life called puberty and mood swings along with your period and breast development will all be noticed over the next few years. Why not check out our section onPuberty for all you need to know on this subject.

  • Hi Vicky, i am 12 year old girl, on november i'll be 13.. My breast size is cup B i dont have problems with my breasts.. But i have period only 1 time in the year (when it's winter at the end of january month starts my period and ends till to entrance of february ,this happens for me one year ago and i dont have anymore period).. What that means,does my body is not ready or i'm too young for period?

    It could be that this was not your period after all and I would not worry too much about this, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and not before.

  • Before and during my period I get huge painful pimples. I get really self conscious because I only get them around my period so everyone who I know knows that if I have a pimple it's because I am getting or have my period. When I get a pimple and am nowhere near my period I don't feel bad because everyone gets them. People comment saying "It must be that time of the month". I eat healthy, exercise and wash my face everyday. Do you have any suggestions on what I can so, without suggesting pimple cream?

    Drinking plenty of water and getting lots of sleep may help. You should also reduce the amount of sugar and salt in your diet at this time too as these can all contribute to pre- period break-outs.

  • Hey!
    So my mum is a single parent with 5 children.. And I'm very greatful and I apreaciate all the things I have. So I'm 14 and and I have the oldest Samsung phone, like my Nan's phone😂 and all my friends who are only 13 and don't turn 14 until next year all have the new iPhones and stuff and although I'm greatful I even hve a phone I am very jelous

    It's hard not to feel jealous when people have the most up to date gadgets. But try to remember that your mum is doing her very best to take care of you all and in the end...a phone is just a way of communicating with another person and you can do that by speaking to them face to face. You may find my blog entitled;  Is your Phone Your New Best Friend an interesting read also.

  • Vicki i really need you help im so worried! im 13 going into the 8th grade and i haven't started my period, i have pubic hair and underarm in a 34 or 32a i have had discharge for a while now and sometimes it smells really nasty and sometimes when im not even discharging it stink! my first question is what can i do for the smell and is there something wrong that i havent started yet?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have nothing to be worried about. To reduce the amount of odour noticed to your vulva area, consider washing this area daily, using liners and if necessary using our teens freshen-up wipes after visiting the toilet. It is also important to wipe yourself from front to back when visiting the toilet and never the other way round.

  • ☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️
    Under bust 67cm
    Fullest point 72m
    What bra size am I

    30AA would seem to be your size, but try on lots of different styles and sizes until you find the most comfortable one for you.

  • how long does it take for breast to grow?

    Breasts can start developing from the age of 8 and upwards and continue to do so into a girls late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering why I haven't started my period yet. All my friends started in 5th or 6th grade.. And we're going into eighth and I still haven't started. I have only discharged once and my breast r not very devolved. I do have pubic hair in vagina and just grew a little in my armpit. I going to start any time soon??

    We all develop at different times and there really is no need to be anxious about this matter, your body appears to be working just as it should and I am sure your period is not too far away.

  • Okay so I'm not gold with relationships I guess I just can't fully commit or somthing like that but I've been dating this guy for over 2 months and he's amazing I just don't know if this will end up well, if its I actually like him or attracted sexually or just for a relationship. I'm not sure! Help??

    Take things slowly there really is no rush and you may find it useful to remember that the second part of the word boyfriend, is 'friend'. So continue being just that until you are 100% sure of your feelings.

  • I feel terrible vicki... I went to my boyfriends house today and we started to.. makeout and I guess it got heated and he was like 'grinding' little bit on my area and I did nothing... it felt good and I'm scared about that!! I feel gross and dirty, I'm only 13. I'm ashamed... help?

    Firstly, don't feel ashamed, having feelings of a sexual nature is very normal and all part of your journey to becoming a young adult. However, this is quite adult and inappropriate behaviour for a 13 year old girl and if you can avoid getting into this situation again and until you are 16 or over.

  • Hey vicki! So my boobs are this shape like fuller on the bottom than they are on the top and I'm not sure what bra would be best for that shape, any suggestions?

    This is very common during the first couple of years of breast development and any bra will support your breasts regardless of its shape. As you get older a more fuller bust will be noticed.

  • Do u know a link or a video of showing how to put a tampon on a real demonstration with a real women or teen cause I really need help I don't know where my vagina is and u need to see it for real thanks
    Ps I really do want u to think this as inappropriate 🐴🐗🍉🍭🍑🍠🍍🍯🍓

    I don't I am afraid and if I am honest I am not sure it would give you any better idea of how to insert a tampon. This really is something you need to try for yourself.  There are three openings between your legs that all have a different job to do. The front opening is where your water or urine is passed, and this is much too small for a tampon to fit into.  Your back passage is where you excrete waste food, and the middle opening is your vaginal opening and of course this is the one where you insert a tampon. Why not consider using your finger to explore this area and find your vaginal opening before trying a tampon. You may also find my blog on the Reproductive System useful too.

  • hi Vicki i really need help i think i have an ulcer

    If you have any medical concerns you really should share your symptoms with your parents or the person who cares for you and they will then decide whether they need to pop you along to your GP for a check-up.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I've tried tampons twice and it's not easy to insert them, they feel like rough cardboard. I have used lil-let's light flow pack and I can't even insert them. Should I keep on trying and do you have any tips? I get my period every month and I've had it since I was 9 and I'm 13 now. I've got used to pads but there just so unconfertable. Any suggestions? Thanks xx

    Why not try our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons; they are shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for girls new to internal sanitary protection. Remember too that tampons should be inserted in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine for maximum comfort.

  • Recently I've been worried since I'm 15 and I've been having discharge for 2 years now and still no signs of my period yet. I worked up the nerve and talked to my mom about the subject and asked if we could make an appointment with our doctor just to make sure everythings okay. She told me she doesn't think anythings wrong with me and she doesn't think it'll be necessary to make a doctor's appointment. And thinks my period will come with time. But im still really worried.

    I have to agree with your mum; periods can arrive at anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please try not to worry about this.

  • I'm sorry if this seems a bit rude. When you put a tampon in does it feel as if you are 'having sex' 💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞💞

    No, not at all. Using a tampon is a method for collecting menstrual fluid from within the vagina. Sexual intercourse is part of sexual attraction and arousal and is a very different feeling.

  • I want to go out and buy my own things but I feel embarest what shall I do xx

    Please don't be embarrassed store assistants whether they are male or female serve customers to sanitary protection every day and are very comfortable to do so.

  • I measured across my chest (31.5 inches) bad my band (29) i should be an a but i cant fit in anything at stores!

    It seems you are an AA cup and it may be an idea to look for this size or consider wearing a crop top for a while longer.

  • Dear Vicki
    I have hair on the part above the vagina.I don't know if it's normal or not,could you help
    From Aoife

    Hi Aoife, yes this is very normal and called pubic hair. Why not read my blogs on the Reproductive System Parts One and Two.

  • Hi Vicki

    So I just started my period yesterday but it's summer. I'm scared that when school starts it's just going to come and there will be blood all over and I'll be embarrassed. How do period work? Do they just come out of the nowhere or do you get them before the day starts? Please answer

    From, maddi💠

    Hi Maddi, a period can arrive anytime day or night and if yours have now arrived you may find wearing a pant liner on a daily basis will keep you protected from any unexpected arrivals in the future. Why not read my blog entitled. Periods and School too.

  • Hi Viki,
    thanks for answering my other question.
    I have another one:
    Are the lil-lets wipes used for wiping you vagina to clean it from the discharge you have? Thanks!
    Lou Lou

    Hi Lou Lou, our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes are ideal for removing any discharge you notice around the vaginal area, of for just leaving you with a feeling of freshness after visiting the toilet.

  • Hi Vicki, I have had alot of discharge and it has abit of a scent on it also dried up some days on the vagina could this be a STI?

    No this is still discharge and it can very often dry and leave residue on your pubic hair and in your vagina. Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens wipes and pant liners to help you feel clean and fresh during the day.

  • Hi, I just got rejected from the voice. It's not like I'm an incredibly bad singer as I did up to my grade 7, but they say pull yourself up and try again but I just can't! I feel like I should give up singing all together. I entered teen star but feel like I shouldn't go because I'm a failure. Should I just go study and go to uni instead? Please help me

    As any judge on The Voice will tell you that in music you have to take the good with the bad and there will be knock-backs, but that does not mean you should give up. So continue auditioning and if you can try to get a good balance of pursuing your dream together with a sound education.

  • I'm constantly feeling upset for no reason and I've lost friends over it. I like a boy who doesn't like me back which adds to all my sad feelings. I just feel so alone and upset lately, what do I do?

    It is quite common during puberty to feel a little out of control and have a roller coaster ride of emotions. My first advice would be to have a chat to your friends explaining that you are struggling to control your moods but that you will try to manage these better in the future and ask that they give you a second chance. You may find my blog entitled Keeping and Making Friends a good read together with our section on Emotions under the Puberty tab.  Finally, it would not do for us all to like the same people and as hard as it is to hear, it may be an idea to forget this boy and turn your affection to someone who likes you just as much as you like them.

  • Hello I'm 14 15 in October I haven't started my period and I don't get pains I have hair everywhere but less under armpits my boobs have buded if that's the right term I get discharge witch I have had for like 2,3 years now but no period I find is so embarrassing and I want boobs :'( I hate it ...

    Be patient with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait now.

  • I keep cutting myself and I hate my self I'm on medication for adhd I've got the highest and I have trouble at home and I'm so upset I can't stop I don't know what to do

    Please speak to your parents and ask them if they can pop you back to your GP to check that your medication is still correct. It may be that it needs a little bit of tweaking to get you back to feeling happier and in control of your life.

  • I miss having a relationship where i know i can get home and talk to them for the rest of the night and spend weekends with them and cuddle and watch movies. I recently broke up from a relationship like this but it was basically my life and i feel this empty feeling when i see films with people doing the things we used to do. I do realise this sounds so sad but after all its just the way I'm feeling.
    qwtylp

    Hi, give yourself time to get over this break-up and organise some time and activities with friends and family in the evening that will replace this time historically spent with your partner.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 14 and I've had my period for 3 years or so and I don't have any underarm hair and I asked my mum and she told me she doesn't get it either I just want to know.if it's normal

    Yes this is very normal and lots of people experience very little or no under arm hair.

  • Hi :)
    I am 13 years old and i think i started my period a few days ago. For about 3 days now, i have only had really light, brown spots or scuffs in my knickers. I have been having signs about starting my period for about a year now, with heavy discharge, and my boobs are already a 32 C, but I was just wondering when my period will actually start, because i'm worried it will start properly at school, but i don't want to keep wasting pads that only have a tiny bit of blood on.

    If you only notice a very light amount of menstrual fluid being lost then you may prefer to use pant liners instead of pads.

  • Hey Vicki, how are you? Please may you help me? why have tesco stopped selling the freshlock pads ?! They Thankyou in advance Jess xxx

    Hi Jess, I am sorry your local Tesco no longer stocks our fabulous Freshlock pads, but you will be pleased to hear that Morrisons, Boots, Waitrose, Superdrug, Bodycare and Savers all stock this range.

  • Well I need to get a bra because I'm growing boobs but I'm not sure how to ask my mum? 😁

    Why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra, this is an excellent way of starting the conversation and she will quickly move the chat over to you and if you now feel ready.

  • I am going off to college soon but I'm scared of getting raped I never have been be fore but you hear all those stories....... Please help me! Love Josie

    Hi Josie, it seems every college has a story that has been passed down for a number of years and I can assure you that these are just silly rumours that are circulating and the team who run the college will have put in a great many procedures to ensure all students are safe when in their care.

  • I keep having brown like discharge in my pants and i told my mum she was like it isn't your period but on ur blogs it says periods are often brown i have had this discharge like 5 or 6 times since Xmas what do u think it is please help xxxx
    Ella xx

    If there is no offensive smell that is often caused by waste food not being wiped away properly when you have had a 'poo', then this is almost definitely your period and you may want to have another chat to your mum about this matter.

  • Hi vicki I'm a 14 year old girl and I think I have a crush on an 11 year old boy.... I see him quite a lot and we're friends but I cant do anything about this because 1. He is still really immature 2. I'm friends with his sister and she woul kill me 3. I don't want him to feel awkward around me so is there anything I can do to stop feeling this way because its driving me crazy. Thanks

    I agree this could be too much pressure on this boy if you let him know you like him. But if being around him causes you too much stress try to avoid spending time with him and invite your friend over to your house so you can limit your time spent in his company.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I shaved (down there⤵️) and now it's become irritating and itchy, and its uncomfortable to walk? Any idea how to prevent this? It's not the first time it's happened!😩
    Thank you😘

    This is a common problem when shaving  and my advice is to use plenty of shave gel or foam when removing this hair and exfoliate regularly in between shaves. However, the best tip I can give you is to stop shaving and instead trim this hair back instead.

  • Hi vicki, I'm thirteen, I've had discharge for about 1 and 1/2 years, I have hair down below but not under my arms, but sometime I get a really bard belly, and the other day I seen a dot on my knickers it was no smaller than a pin top, it was red/brown in colour, but I've had nothing else since? is it anything to worry about? And I haven't got my period yet any idea how long it will be? My mum started at the age of 14 does that mean that the chances are I will start when I'm 14?
    Thanks😘

    Not everyone starts their periods at the same time as family members but with so many signs already noticed you may find yours arrives sometime this year. You may find our Lil-lets Freshlock towels a great product to have with you when out and about together with our teens liners.

  • is it normal to crave sex at 14 years old?

    It is normal to have feelings of a sexual nature during puberty and these may be very new to you and not something you have been aware of before.

  • Part 2
    my mam said she cant take the money and wach grandad go to work all ill over again shes soo upset and makes me me feel sad also people in my form are saying my mates boyfriend has been flirting with me just cause he makes my laugh takes my phone and takes selfies on it and his girlfreind thinks so to i dont want to fall out with her now please help me

    Firstly, it is a very nice gesture for your grandad to offer your mum some financial help and I am sure he is ensuring he has enough funds left to keep him financially secure in the future and this really is a matter for your mum and him to discuss. As for your friends boyfriend, I suggest you act cool towards him and stop him taking your phone so your friend can see his flirting (which this is) has nothing to do with you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Basically I'm thirteen, I've had discharge for about 1 1/2 year now, I've got hairs down there but no underarm hair, I have very little boobs, and all I want to do is start my period! It's so frustrating, any idea when I will start? My mum started when she was 14, so will I?
    Please answer?☺️

    With so many signs already noticed it may be an idea to have some pads or liners with you from now on as your period may be here by the end of the year or early in 2015.

  • hiya vicki Part 1
    my mam has been very sad because were moving to australia (i talked about it a few months ago) and my grandad offered her some money but hes been pretty ill and has barley any money so shes been very sad she feels soo guilty leaving him behind and she feels like shes ruining our lives but i know shes not tring to

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Ok so my brother had his hands down his trousers,and then he touched my phone,he gave me it back and I ran upstairs, I then started to finger myself, and forgot that my brother had his hands down his pants and then touched my phone, could I get pregnant like this?

    No...never.

  • If you force a period will it hurt when the blood comes out?

    There is no way to force a period, menstrual fluid is lost when the body feels the time is right and not before.

  • What is the definition of 'losing your virginity'? Do you have to have male-female sex or can you lose it from gay sex? Does masturbating count?

    Regardless of whether you are male or female if you have vaginal sexual intercourse you will by definition have lost your virginity.

  • Hey Vicky!
    So I gto my period last about four months ago. In between I've had a hard time of anorexia, but luckily I managed to find a way to stop. My period still hasn't come back, so I#M getting kinda worried. I don't eat a lot of Sweets, is that it? Please help!!!

    Periods can be irregular throughout puberty with long gaps between each one, so I really would not worry too much about this and congratulations on beating anorexia.

  • I had my first period just after new year and have only had one period since. My mum says that they are just irregular because I have just started but I was wondering if this is ok or is there something wrong with me?

    Your mum is correct and periods often have long gaps between each one for the first couple of years and as your body works out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • hey Vicki i am 13 years old and i ama till on ym leriod but finishing off.I have seen no blood on this 5th day but from monday i have noticed even with my pads on i have been leaving little wet barly noticable patches on the chair i have sat on is it normal? x

    Discharge is experienced even when our periods have arrived and you may find wearing a liner in between periods is a good idea.

  • Can u wear a pad when u r not on ur period

    You could, but it would seem a waste of a pad and if you are just looking for protection from discharge or from the unexpected arrival of your period a pant liner is a much better option.

  • I'm 13 and on my 6th day of my period i dontknow why but when i came home from school i noticed that when my bladder isnt full,only a bit i have to rush to the toilet .It's happend twice so far and int the space of an hour i've neally wet my self why is thiss? x

    😣

    It could be that you have drank a lot of fluid during the day, especially as we are experiencing such lovely weather, or that your uterus is putting a little bit of pressure on your bladder during your period. I would not worry too much about this.

  • Hey Vicki...these days I feel a bit emotional for nearly everything! Will I start my period soon! I have all the sings. Im 12.
    thanks

    Puberty is a bit of a roller coaster journey isn't it! And very often you find your moods change from minute to minute, it's all part of your body preparing your for adulthood and your period is just one part of that journey, so why not have some samples of pads or liners with you from now on just in case your period arrives when you are out and about.

  • Hi Vikki ive got 2 questions
    1: how do you know if you need a bra?
    2: I really want a starter bra but I dont know how 2 ask my mum?
    Thanks

    If you find your breasts jiggle about when you move around or you can see your nipples through your outer garments it maybe time for a bra. Why not start the conversation off by asking her how old she was when she got her first bra, this is always a good place to start.

  • Hi I'm 17 me and boyfriend finally had sex but there was tampon between in it has gone right up my vagina and I don't know what to do cause I took it out but It was bleeding

    You should never wear a tampon when having sexual intercourse because as you have already noticed it will move up further inside the vagina and you may need to reach in with your fingers to remove it. However, this should not cause any permanent damage and it may be an idea to wear pads for the rest of your period and then continue using tampons next month.

  • Hi Vicki! Um, I was wondering, does gymnastics affect your breast development? Because I've started my period, and I've been doing gym for nearly 2 years, but I haven't noticed growth in them for nearly a year, is gymnastics affecting them?!

    Breasts often grow in spurts and it is very normal to notice times of no growth, but remember too that breasts continue to grow into our late teens or early twenties so you have plenty of time for development to occur.

  • dear vicki
    i am 14 and have not started my period yet but my mum brought me some tampons and has told me before that she thinks that i should use tampons form the word go but i don't really want to as i am nervous enough to be start my period, i don't really want to use them straight away.
    how do i tell her this?
    also i want to talk to her about periods as i think that i amy start soon what is a good conversation starter?

    love
    t

    Hi T, why not ask your mum how old she was when she  got her first period and who she told about it. This is always a good way to start a conversation. You can then let her know that you would like to use pads for the first couple of periods you have, even though you know lots of girls go straight to tampons. I am sure she will understand and respect your decision.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 and I went on holiday to Spain 3 months ago and I had sex because It's legal there but I haven't had a period since and I'm scared to go to the doctors because we didn't use protection and I can't contact him what do I do?

    If you feel you may be pregnant then you should take a pregnancy test and you can do this by visiting your GP or local Brook Advisory Centre, or alternatively purchasing an over the counter kit from your local chemist or supermarket. Once you have the results you will then be able to make a decision on what to do next. Finally, I think it is important for you to now and any other girls how read this that regardless of the rules for sexual relations in any country you are bound by the rules in the UK if this is where you live and as such it is still unlawful for a man or boy to have sexual intercourse with a girl under the age of 16.  Furthermore it is my belief that Spain raised its age of consent to 16 in 2013.

  • Hi Vicki
    Sorry if this is innapropriate or rude...it's a bit embarrassing for me also.
    My period is due...but I have diarrhea and it hasn't come...also I am going on holiday in 2 weeks and I want it to come before then. My periods come every 5/6 weeks on average, and it has been that time. I have had cramps but that might be the diarrhea?
    Rachel age 13

    Hi Rachel, periods can often be irregular for the first couple of years so please try not to stress over this and if they have not arrived by the time you go away on holiday consider taking some pads, liners or tampons with you just in case.

  • PART TWO

    i am also going with a friend do i won't have any of my family, the friend i am going with also thinks i have started already and i don't really want to wear tampons as i will be doing loads of swimming!!
    what should i do?
    scaredperiod

    Ask your mum to pack you some of our Lil-Lets teens day and night towels so if your period does arrive you will have some protection. And don't worry if your period does arrive your friend and her family will understand that you do not want to go swimming and there will be plenty of other things to do.

  • PART ONE
    Dear vicki
    i don't know when i am going to start my period, but i have all the signs so i am thinking that it is soon, anyway i am going on holiday soon and it is exactly the date my sister got her period(but she was 13 and i am 14) any way i am going to be doing loads go swimming and i am scared i will start and i will have nothing on me.

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hey viki, I am in year 9 now and since the end of year 6 I've had discharge, over the years I've gotten more, I wear pantiliners but they don't absorb it and it just leakes through, help! X

    Why not consider a different pant liner and you may find our Lil-lets teens pant liners are ideal or even our Lil-lets teens day pads when the discharge is very heavy.

  • I like my best friend's brother who is 2 years older than me. I only see him for 1 week every year when I go on holiday. I know it will be impossible for him to notice me so I need some advice.

    Next time you see him smile and start a chat, possibly about what he does when he is at home. And if you can get an e-mail address or phone number so you can contact him when you get back off your holiday.

  • HI VICKI

    im really self concious about my breath.
    i feel like it smells horrible. ow can i tell if it does and what can i do about it?? i brush my teeth 2 times a day as everyone does.
    thanks xoxxox

    Ensure you drink plenty of fluids during the day and eat regular meals 3 times a day. You may also find sucking on a mint or a breath freshner will give you a little more confidence when out and about.

  • Got any advice on how to get rid of constipation? Xox

    Adding more fibre to your diet is a great way to prevent constipation, such as orange, juice, fruit in general, green vegetables and of course cereals that contain oats or bran.

  • PLEASE HELP Vicki,


    Yesterday I got brown discharge and today I got heavy brown discharge and a little red. Is this my period? My mom isn't at home because she has work and I don't know what to do please help

    From Sarah🌴🌴

    Hi Sarah, yes this is your period and it is now time to ensure you have some pads or liners with you to catch any menstrual fluid lost and prevent staining of your underwear. I am sure your mum has some for you already.

  • Do they do push up bras for size 30aa? 💗

    I would imagine some stores do, but please remember that a bras real purpose is to offer support and not make your breasts look bigger or higher on your body.

  • Hi, it's my best friends swimming birthday party in 2 days but I'm on my period and I don't know what to do because I can't miss it and my mom says I'm to young for tampons

    You may find that your period has ended by the time the pool party arrives and you can go in the pool without any protection. Have another chat with your mum in a couple of weeks and let her know that Lil-lets to a teens range of tampons designed for first time users and she may change her mind.

  • Hi! Um... Well, I always get dried blood in my vagina after my period, and I have to use loads of wipes to get rid of it. Its annoying so I started using a separate washcloth to clean my vagina and butt( butt last obviously) and then wash the washcloth after. I felt extra clean, but when I used lil let's wipes after washing, I could still see some dried blood, so it hadn't been washed away:-( How do I get a clean vagina?! Please help.

    It may be an idea to consider using tampons, as they catch menstrual fluid from inside the vagina and are a cleaner option to pads. Why not check out my blogs on When is the Right Time to Use Tampons and Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • A few weeks ago i thought I started my period but i dont know. This must sound stupid but i dont know what it should look like, i have been having discharge for months and months now and then the other week there was blood in my knickers then the next day i put pads on but only once i had something on it and it was bloody discharge... WHAT DO I DO??? Xxx

    Menstrual fluid can often be brown in colour and appear like discharge, but it is still your period so share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and ask them to pick you up some Lil-Lets teens pads next time they are out shopping so you are prepared for your next period's arrival.

  • I am the girl who asked about having problems getting pants to fit, I meant trousers, not underwear.
    Thanks xx

    I would suggest you purchase some funky belts to help bring in your waist and ensure you trousers fit you snuggly.

  • Hey vicki,
    I'm not fat and not skinny, I'm average build and comfortable with the way my body is. But I have a problem with getting pants to fit. I never used to have this problem. Whenever I try on shorts or trousers there always seems to be this baggy bit at the back, just where my lower back is. Yet they feel fine or even tight around the front. I am quite a curvy shape but I like it that way. I just normally have problems getting bottoms to fit right. Does anyone else have this nd is it normal?

    This can be an issue with a more curvy figure and you may find that shorts made of a stretch material are ideal for you such as jersey, lycra or t-shirt material.

  • Hi i would like to ask you tips on how to prevent leakage and what is discharge

    Hi, first discharge is your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and you can find out all about this by clicking on this link - Puberty. As for leakage; well there are a great many products on the market today that are designed to catch menstrual fluid, such as pads or tampons and to help collect any discharge a pant liner may be a good idea.

  • Right so for a while now I've been worrying if u have an anxiety disorder, I took a test and it said I had all the symptoms and I should get it checked by a doctor but my mum won't believe me because I hide the anxiety from her and if she did see it she would say I was being silly, I want to tell my form tutor but not sure how she will react plz help 😁

    There is a big difference between the insecurities a 'teen' feels when entering puberty and an anxiety disorder and I urge you to NEVER take online tests, as this kind of problem can only ever be diagnosed by a medical professional. Have another chat to your mum and let her know of your concerns and she may be able to reassure you a little more.

  • Hi, i am the one who said that I like my brothers friend: well we were listening to music when my brother went out and he put bruno mars , just the way you are and started staring at me when it was on and singing it and he always asks me to go out when he and my brother go out any where, does he like me or is he just being kind?x💛💙💜💚❤️

    Why not ask him, or ask your brother, it really is the only way to find out.

  • Hi Vicki, I've lately fallen for my brothers friend, I'm 15 and he's only just turned 17. I think he likes me back because he will sit talking to me for hours even if my brother goes in to a different room and always play fight and I really like him. What should I do and is this too big of an age gap?x
    Thanks 💛💙💜💚❤️

    It really is up to your parents as to whether they feel this is a large age gap or not and I am sure they will let you know, especially if they already know this boy. Be mindful however, that this boy may expect a more intimate level in any relationship he has with you so if you do date, set some groundrules as you are still legally a minor.

  • what happens if u don't get ur periods after a long time

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18, but even then there can be large gaps between each one as your body works out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • hi vicki , what si the normal weight for a 13 yr old
    im about 11 stones and i need advise on how to lose it x fauzia xxx

    Hi Fauzia, we really are all different and rather than  worry about what the scales say, consider your diet and exericse regime. It is by eating a good diet with fewer sugary or greasy treats and exercising at least 3 times a week that you will find your ideal weight and retain it during your life.

  • hi what should you do if your a late comer

    We all develop at different ages to each other and there really is nothing you need to do, other than be patient, wait and learn as much as you can about puberty from friends and this website.

  • My friends 12 and she smokes weed in her room so her parents don't know. she sends me the pictures of it as well. I don't know what to do? Please help

    I would ignore your friends pictures when she sends them letting her know that you do not think it is clever or cool to smoke and that you have a little bit more respect for your body than to waste time with this pastime.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I really like this boy named Bradley. He's my age. We talk in school and we went skateboarding and all, but I'm not sure he likes me back? What should I do? I wanna tell him I like him, I just don't know how..
    Love Tildies x

    Hi Tildies, smile and chat about him and his weekend, I am sure by doing this Bradley will soon get the message that you like him as more than just a friend. But don't worry if he does not ask you out, boys are very often happy just to have girls as friends as they mature later than us.

  • How do I do PE with my period?!!! Won't it be mega heavy?'

    Your period should not stop you from taking part in any activity you would normally and with such great products on the market today; whether you use a pad or a tampon you will be protected from leakage.

  • Hi Vicki
    So every day when I am falling asleep my mind subcontiously runs through the boys I have spoken to that day and decides that on of them is the guy I like. Why is this?

    It is very normal to find you have feelings of a romantic or even sexual nature for boys you spend time with during the day, this is all part of puberty and becoming a young adult. It's nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki
    Why do I mind that my friend is going out with a nice guy even though I don't even like the guy she's dating?
    Love,
    L

    It could be that you see this boy as a challenge to your friendship and the time spent together. Why not have a chat to your friend and see if you can allocate some friend time when boys are off the agenda and you just concentrate on having a girly chat.

  • Hi Vicki
    What is a mood board?
    Love
    L

    A  mood board is something you make up yourself of all the things you like and place it somewhere you can look at for reference. For instance, pick out your favourite colour, band, food, style of clothing, hobby and pin them to a board and very soon you will start to notice you have your own individual style and personality this often helps teens as they enter puberty and struggle with their identity.

  • Hey Vicki, I was wondering. Can you get addicted to masturbating? I masturbate and it scares me how much I feel I need to do it. Love Tanya xox

    Hi Tanya, like any activity it can become addictive but please do not mistake this for boredom. Whilst there is nothing wrong with masturbation there is a lot more to life so spend less time on your own and more time with family and friends to help reduce the amount of time you spend in this particular pastime.

  • Hi, last month i had brown discharge for about a week. Was this my first period? I have had normal discharge for quiet a while now.
    Thanks xx

    Yes this was almost certainly your first period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. Ensure going forward you now have some pads or liners with you when out and about in preparation for your next period.

  • Is it ok to wear liners everyday?

    Absolutely and you will find a great many girls and women (including me) wear liners on a daily basis to keep them feeling clean and fresh and especially in these hot summer months. Why not consider trying our Lil-lets teens pant liners, shorter and narrower than other liners and very comfortable too.

  • Hi! This concerns music please please please! Check out Little Mix We Are Who We Are and please download it its a great song I am self concuison about my body so this song really helped!!!
    Love Emily ( Em for short )

    Hi Emily, thanks for the tip, I'll have a listen.

  • Hi Vicki
    Im 15 and I haven't started my period!!
    My mom started at a early age she said
    what shall I do

  • Hi Vicky im 12 years old in year 7 and i wear a 36dd bra and i dont know why but most of the boys in year 7 and up dont look at my face when speaking to me is there some thing wrong with me??????

    Boys are often curious about breasts and you can very often find them looking at them rather than your face. A gentle reminder to them may be all that is required here. So cross your arms or bend down to catch their eyeline and they will soon get the message.

  • My vagina is starting to look like a silly . I'm getting really worried.

    IS THIS NORMAL??!!!!

    The viulva (the name for the external part of your reproductive organs) changes both in shape and colour as you get older and enter puberty so try not to worry.

  • My friend is suffering from depression, I have given her the childline number and a few others also some websites and I told her I will always be their for her and stuff. But i feel awful for her. Her parents know about it to. Is their anything else I can do? Thanks Vicki xx

    What a lovely friend you are in caring about your friend as much as you do.  It sounds as if you are doing everything you possibly can in supporting her and as her parents are also aware of her depression, there is really little else you can do as it would be up to them to arrange a visit with her GP.  Puberty is naturally a time when teens are susceptible to depression as serotonin levels (the body's happy hormone) are at their lowest so when you and your friend are together, try doing fun things like swimming, dancing, watching a funny movie or just talking together as this will help her feel better.

  • How can u tell if your period is heavy or not ??

    As a general rule if you need to change your pad or tampon every 2 hours or less you may want to consider moving up to the next absorbency and you can find out more about these subjects in my blogs - Understanding Tampon Absobencies and How To Choose the right Product for your Flow.

  • Hey Vicki! People always tell me how pretty i am and how good i look in that dress or those shoes. i dont like it. im quite a shy person and i wish they would stop!

    There is nothing you can do to stop someone complimenting you, but why not break the shyness habit and tell someone how fabulous they look from time to time, you'll be surprised how this can help with conversations and being more comfortable around people.

  • Does drinking lemon juice lighten your period?

    There is nothing you can eat or drink that will change your flow. There are however a wide variety of products on the market that will allow you to manage a heavy flow and you may find our Freshlock range of towels ideal and our tampons too.

  • Hi Vicki...
    I'm 13 and I get super heavy periods. I have to chance the thick pads that are the most absorbent every hour and a half. My period lasts 6-7 days.
    In 3 days I have to go out to a place that doesnt have good toilets and I'm going to be around guys mostly. I only use pads not tampons. I need advice on what I can do.
    Thanks

    Why not consider our Lil-Lets Freshlock long pads, super absorbent and super slim too.

  • Hi Vicki :)
    So I got my period in 7th grade maybe beginning/middle of the year and I've always thought Ive had small boobs yeh? They are fuller on the bottom than they are on the top. So I measured them because my best friend just found out she's a 34C!! And we are only 13, so I measured myself and I got under bust; 29 and fullest part; 34/33 so I'm my sure what size I am :/ I get my bras from target, I wear 32 A, a push-up bra and then simple padded 32 B but the top of my boobs don't fill it. Help..?

    Try a 34AA or A and don't worry about the shape of your breasts as this triangular shape is very common when breasts first start developing.

  • I think I have discharge because I do find yellow stains but I'm not completely sure because if you get it 6-12 months before your period then I might not have it because I think I'm too young to have mine.

    This could be one of two things, discharge if it is cream yellow or urine if the colour is again yellow but has an strong odour. Finally, discharge can be noticed from the ages of 8 upwards.

  • I have really dark brown in my underwear covering half of it, i am a bit constipated. What is this?

    This could be your period, so why not have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • I am 12 years old and have been kind of upset because all of my friends have their periods and people make fun of me for not getting it already. I have been getting discharge for a year now and my nipples sort of "pop up" and I have pubic hair and breast development and all of the signs of getting my period and I've been waiting and waiting for me to get my first period. Is it coming soon?

    I would say you will not have much longer to wait so ensure you are prepared by having some pads or liners in your school or sports bag and try not to compare your progress with that of others...we really are all different.

  • Hey Vicki
    It's sunflower here, and I was just wondering because I go swimming 3x a week sometimes 4, that my period will start and I will have to go swimming do I have to wear a tampon straight away. I think I will start soon because I have had discharge for 10 months. What do I do?
    Thanks sorry it was long x

    Hi Sunflower, if you plan to be in the water and are on your period then yes a tampon is the best option. And you may find our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons ideal as they are shorter and narrower than other brands and designed for first time users.

  • I'm upset that your objects you sell ( pads..etc) aren't available for the united states. I recommend that you support it!?

    I do appreciate how uspetting this is and we do look at lots of distributing our range in a great many countries so please be patient and see what the future brings.

  • Hey. I'm 13 years old ( 14 in July), and I still don't have any boobs! I am an a cup! I hate it! I actually just got my period today! Does that mean my boobs will stop growing? Is there any tips to gain larger breasts? Also, I know I should accept my body how it is and accept me and blah blah blah... But I just can't grasp the concept of me being good. Any advice?

    Breasts continue to grow into your late teens or early twenties so you have plenty of time for development to continue.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 14 and I haven't had my period yet. I'm going into hush school in less that a month and I've been having discharge for over a year at least, I'm not sure exactly how long it has been. what can I do? my boobs are slowly developing and they itch a lot and become red with little red marks. what is this? is it normal? do you know any ways to make your boobs grow?
    thanks for your time(:

    Hi, being prepared for your period is the key and having some pads or liners with you in your new school is a great idea. As for breasts they often tingle or feel a little tender during development so please do not worry. Why not check out my blog entitled; Back to School.

  • vicki help!, im old enough for sex & it was time for me to be ready & so was my bf, but its all to painful for me no matter what, it hurt really bad. why is this. please help.

    If both of you take your time and listen to what the other person likes or needs and when to say 'no', then sex should not be painful and it may be wise to wait a while longer if for now you are experiencing discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki
    My name is Olivia I have questions
    1.my mum won't let me buy panntyliners she thinks it's just that I am making it up and there is no such thing as discharge
    2.how should I get panty liners

    Hi Olivia, why not ask your mum if you can request a free sample from me here at Lil-Lets so you can trial pant liners and the rest of our teens range for yourself before purchasing.

  • hi my name is Haley i haven't started my period yet but i have this brown discharge i think that's bad but i don't no please help me i don't no what to do my parents are always away on business and i don't want to tell my nanny

    Hi Haley, brown fluid is often your period as menstrual fluid is not always red in colour, so have a chat to your nanny or your mum when she gets in contact with you and ask if you can have a supply of pads and liners to use from now on.

  • so i want to quit my sport.it takes alot of money though and my mum put alot of money in it but i am quite bored of it. how do you suppose i tell mum? i want to do track and cross country instead i think if that helps p

    please answer quickly, aven

    I am sure your mum will understand that you have now had a change of heart and would like to try a different sport. And I for one commend your attitude to being fit and taking regular exercise and trying out new things.

  • Dear Vicki,
    It's Kitty again. I was laying on dad's bed and noticing there was blood. There are some spots of blood on his bed sheets and bed. I was freaking out when I saw that. My dad is going to kill me, not literally kill me but he will rail up to me :/ . He will be back a few days :( . Is there any way to remove the blood from his bed? Any solution? Plzzz!!! ASAP!!!
    -Love Kitty

    Hi Kitty, blood can easily be removed by rinsing in cold water and rubbing with some washing detergent and then placing in the normal household wash. But if this is too much for you to do, don't worry dads, just like mums, know all about the mistakes periods can bring.

  • hi I my name is paige I started my periods when I was 10 yrs old but since then my periods have been on and off
    I am 17yrs old now and sometimes I am on a period and then off for about 6 months is that ok or is there something wrong :)

    Hi Paige, this is fine and your body may still be working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • I go on holiday in September and my mum thinks I may have my period then, what do I do because I want to go swimming and that but I don't want to wear a tampon because I'm scared it will hurt

    Tampons should not be painful to insert if you ensure they are inserted high enough inside your vagina. Why not ask your mum if you can try our Lil-Lets teen range of tampons, designed for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • Hey vicki,
    Erm I am 12 years old and just got my second period today but it came light (when I had my first period it came heavy) and now my period has stopped and it has only been 1 day and I'm a bit scared. Please answer as soon as you can xx

    Please don't be scared the amount of menstrual fluid we lose can vary from period to period and especially for the first couple of years as our body works out the right monthly cycle for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I just wanted to say thanks for always answering my questions and I love this website! Sorry this is not a question but I think it's great because you have the time to answer everyone's questions and thanks for always helping me. From jenny

    Hi Jenny, it's a pleasure to read your questions and help you and all our other visitors to BAT (Becoming a Teen) during their teen years.

  • Hey Vicki, I'm 14 and have had discharge and cramps for about 2 years, but I haven't started my period, my mum didn't start until she was nearly 16 but she told me she didn't get cramps until just before she started and I'm a lot more developed than she was at my age, I just want to start already it's getting annoying😫

    Be patient with so many signs already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait and remember to that we do not all start menstruating at the same time as family members.

  • Hi Vicki, I think I'm really ugly and so I'm shy and self conscious. I get bullied because I'm shy, and even my friends tease me because I have spots. How can I become more confident and stop this? Thanks xx

    Firstly, start by learning to love yourself a little more, it's okay to be shy and friendship groups are often made up of lots of different personalities. However, it is not ok for your friends to tease you and you may want to remind them about supporting each other during puberty and how hurtful their comments are. Not only will this make them stop and think about their actions, it will also make them seen you in a different light and as a confident person who does not stand for teasing or bullying.

  • I haven't started my period yet but I have size 36 B boobs and loads of pubi and armpit hair. I also get lots of discharge every day. I suddenly got a really sharp stabbing pain in my vagina and I'm really scared!!! Why is this happening and does it mean I'll get my period soon??

    If you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months, the pain you have noticed might be because your body is getting ready for when your period arrives.  Please talk to your mum to see what she thinks about your pain.

  • If scared about using a tampon for the first time as Ive only been using pads. I want to start using tampons but I font know how to go about it. Any advice?

    All it takes is a little practice and it's never been easier as Lil-Lets now offer a teens Regular non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  The most important thing of all is to be relaxed and you will soon be enjoying the discreet protection that using tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.

  • I'm 15 years old and I have irregular periods is this normal? I started my period when I was 12 years old and I have never had a regular period where it came after every month. Shoukd I get it checked out or not?

    Some people do have irregular periods throughout their menstrual cycle but for peace of mind ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get them checked out.

  • Hi :)

    I've been having really bad cramps recently, and I've had discharge for over 2 years now. I've got boobs and hair and all that jazz but I don't know whether it's close to my first period or not. I'm almost 13. Please help

    Sarah

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I am 14 I had unprotected s*x and I think I am pregnant what should I do x

    It is of vital importance that you seek medical attention as soon as possible so please talk to a trusted adult and arrange an appointment with your GP or local Brook Advisory Clinic.

  • Where do you get push up bras from?
    👌👌👌

    Any department store, New look, La Senza or Marks & Spencer (to name a few) would all have a selection of push-up bras.

  • hiya Vicki

    should I get some pads even before I have my period so I become prepared ?
    should I get tampons?

    thanks xoxox

    It is always a good idea to start wearing pant liners when you begin to release discharge as they will protect your underwear not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.   Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack which is crammed full of samples from our teens range and also includes a Becoming a Teen booklet which has loads of information to help guide you through puberty.  We usually recommend that when you first start your period, you wear sanitary towels to allow you the time to get used to your flow and when you feel ready, you might like to try our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they have been especially designed to fit the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Do you get spots after u have you're period..because I have all the signs of puberty..just not spots and period..do them two usually come together

    Spots can sometimes be noticed a week or so before your period, when fluctuating hormones are present.

  • A close(ish) friend of mine has started going out with my ex and we only broke up a couple of months ago, we were going out for almost a year. I am so angry and upset, what do I do? xx

    As your relationship was for quite a while, I can understand how difficult this feels to you now but as it has been a couple of months, maybe it's time to move on and forget about him.  You will be able to get used to the fact hat he is with your friend in time and by trying to keep busy with your family and friends, you will forget him even sooner. 

  • I want to kiss someone at this disco that I go to...but I never have..and I'm afraid incase I don't know how..any tips??

    Kissing someone for the first time can be quite awkward so it is always best if you like the person, to be relaxed and allow your instincts to lead the way.

  • Can youse do a YouTube video on shaving

    Thank you for your suggestion.  I will pass it on to the team and let you know.

  • I keep getting stubble every time I shave my armpits..do you no any tips on how yo get rid of this

    Once you commit to shaving, there will always be stubble until you shave again so this is perfectly normal.

  • Hey Vicki I am 13 going in to 8th grade I have huge boobs! I am a d cup everyone makes fun of me except my best friends they are so sweet. Anyway they are growing still and I don't want to have any bigger boobs than I do what can I do to prevent them from growing? Help me please!!!!

    There is nothing you can do to prevent your breasts from developing so you might want to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence to make you feel proud of the way you look.  Try not to forget that your peers will also be noticing more breast development soon too.  Why not join a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as this will enable you to meet like-minded people.

  • What is an orgasm

    This describes the peak in the pleasure of sex.  It is a tingling sensation  and tightening around the genital area.

  • Viki, I am 11 years old. I was sitting on the couch when alot of discharge suddenly came out. I am not close to my period so I don't know why. I have another question: I have had discharge since I waz 8 or 9. Is that normal? Thanks, A Fox

    Hi, discharge can often be heavy and it may be that your period is not too far away, so consider wearing pant liners now on a daily basis to catch any further discharge and protect your underwear from an unexpected period.

  • I'm 12...these group of boys that are 13..they keep saying to me and my friends..ooh youse r going into the big girl school...I bet yas haven't even had you're period yet...wat should we do when they say this again

    Ignore them, these boys are being immature and most likely love watching girls squirm and be embarrassed.

  • Iv had discharge for ages now and I started purity about a year ago, I'm 11 turning 12. My bra size is 32aa and I can fit into a 34a is this okay? Also all my friends say they are on ther peiriods and lately iv been getting very small red dots in my pants, they are so so small but I'm not sure if this is my periods, I'm too scared to ask my mum xxxx

    Many thanks from me x

    This could be your period so why not ask your mum to pick you up some pads and liners when she is out and about shopping, you could even send her one of oure-cards and we'll do the asking for you.

  • How do you shave

    Why not have a chat with your mum or the person who cares for you and ask their opinion on this, as very often sitting with someone is the best way to learn. If they agree, they will ensure you have a clean razor and plenty of shaving cream or gel to help the razor glide over the skin.

  • Are Muslims allowed to use tampons?

    I am not aware of any teachings that state muslims should not wear tampons, but your parents may have a different view on this and it would be wise therefore to ask their opinion on this matter.

  • I have been getting some really thick discharge in my nickers I wear liners but it sticks to my pubic hair and smells what wrong with me

    Discharge can often be thick and in the summer months have an odour too. So why not consider using our Lil-lets Freshen-up wipes, ideal for keeping this area fresh can clean when at home or out and about.

  • I had my first and my second period but im struggling to work out when my third will come. my first and second had roughly 7 weeks between them. this weekend would be 4 weeks since my second. will it come then?

    Periods can be irregular for the first couple of years as you have already noticed and it would be very difficult for me to predict when your next one will arrive. For this reason you may find that wearing a pant liner on a daily basis will help you prevent any unexpected leaks from your third period.

  • Hi Viki! I'm a 14 year old girl and I have lost my virginity, and I started having my period in September 2013 I lost my virginity in December 2013. My period was regular and came every month although the odd time it would be a couple of days late and now it's July 2014 and I haven't had a period since January! I deffinitely don't think I'm pregnant as I've had no symptons and I'm not showing at all! I just need some help on what could be wrong with me:(xx

    I am sure you do not need me to tell you that it is in fact illegal for a man or boy to have sexual relations with a girl under the age of 16. Periods are often irregular but as you have been sexually active it would be a good idea to take a pregnancy test. You can do this by either visiting your GP or local Brook Advisory Centre, or purchasing an over the counter kit.

  • Hi vicki I'm 11 and I think I have mood swings I am happy one min then I'm grumpy the emotional ?? Can you get back to me ASAP plz

    Yes this does sound like the roller coaster ride of mood swings girls and boys experience during puberty. Have a chat to friends and family letting them know you may not be yourself from time to time and ask if they can help you manage these feelings. You may also find our section on Emotions useful too.

  • I think I'm ready for a padded bra because I've started developing but I'm to afraid to ask my mum what should I do?!

    When you first notice breast development a soft bra may be all you need, leaving a padded bra until you are older and require more support or discretion.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have had discharge for over a year and I have all the other signs of puberty, but I still waiting on my period. As I know it is soon I am really scared of an embarrassing accident. Is there anything I can do to stop an embarrassing accident??
    Thanks so much
    Millie xxx

    Why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis Millie and keep a couple of pads in your bag to change into if your period does arrive. The liner will be more than sufficient to wear until you can nip to the toilet to change.

  • I do rock climbing regularly and I started my period on the weekend. Do I have to wear a tampon to do my rock climbing or will I be okay with a pad? I know I probably don't 'have to' wear a tampon but I quite often end up having to get into very stretched positions because I'm quite short and I'm worried a pad could be seen or come lose.

    It will be fine to wear a pad when on your period and rock climbing if this is what you prefer to use and most pads nowadays are super thin and have wings to prevent them moving around.

  • Hi Vicki
    Why do I feel so bad about myself and feel like I'm really ugly when I look at other girls in my year? I just feel so ugly:(
    From
    jess x

    During puberty Jess, it's very common to feel a little self-conscious and worry about how you compare to those around you, but trust me they will be having exactly the same thoughts as you. The trick is to start liking yourself and focusing on your good points... and there will be lots I can assure you.

  • What are signs of teen depression and eating disorders?

    Any issues you have with eating or feeling unhappy should be discussed with your family who may decide to pop you along to your GP. Only a medical professional can diagnose any of these illnesses and confirm whether they are real or simply part of becoming a teenager and entering puberty.

  • Hi Viki, I have had discharge for a really long time now, many months, but I still haven't started my period! Everyone at school has started already, do you know how long it will be till I start? x

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and it never pays to compare your progress with that of those around you. Your body will know when the time is right just for you and if you have already noticed discharge for a number of months this may not be too far away.

  • what do I do I really lik this boy we have been friends for aw while and I don't know if I should tell him or not because it might ruin our friendship

    Why not invite him to spend time with you in the summer holidays, such as the cinema or swimming. If he likes you he will jump at the chance.

  • hi Vicki im ot sure if this boy likes me.were 13 he hugged me and gave me a piggy back and we're gonna meet up In summer but I think I like him and im not sure if he likes me back and advice?

    If he has agreed to meet up in the summer break, then yes there is a chance that he likes you and so be patient and see what happens when you meet up.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm really worried. What if when I'm older a man will never love me. I know I'm only 12, 13 in November 4th. But I look in the mirror and I'm pale and think I look weird. My dad always says I'm so pretty but he has to say that because he's my parent.. Will I end up being a single lady all my life with 1,00000 cats?
    Love, Tildies xx

    Hi Tiddles, love can come when we least expect it and I like to think there is someone out there for all of us. So don't be so down on yourself and ensure you have fun with friends and schoolmates so any potential suitors can see how fabulous you are!

  • hi vicki, I'm going in holiday in October and when I go I'm due my period and I really really don't want to have it when I'm with friends and family and I'll be in swim wear, is there any way I can stop or slow them down ? I really aprrishate what you do for everyone and your sites helped me out numerous occasions, thankyou💘💘
    Lots of love Amelia8814 xxxxxxx

    Hi Amelia, occasionally your GP will offer the contraceptive pill to delay a period but this really is your GP's decision and it would be more beneficial to let your period come naturally and protect your underwear by wearing either tampons or pads.

  • hi vicki im 20 years old (i know im a bit to old for this website) and im pregnant is 20 an appropriate age to carry a baby thanks alot

    There is no reason why you should have any medical issues being pregnant at this age, but as with any mum to be, you should be visiting your GP for regular check-ups to ensure both you and the baby are well.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I have been having discharge for about 11 months now. I have had breast development for a year or so, pubic hair and underarm hair, and heavy, dark colored discharge. I as wondering if you could give me a quesstimate to when you think it could come. I would really like this answered.
    Thanks.
    Laina

    If the dark coloured discharge you've released was brown, this might well have been your first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I have had heavy discharge for about 7 months sometimes it's really thick and white and I find it in my pants everyday and it's white I haven't yet started my period and I'm 12 my sister started it at 14, would I start soon?

    Maya💕

    Hi Maya, as you've been releasing discharge fo quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki I have had 3 periods now and I have been prepared , but I am very active and do a lot of sport so I have found that my towel moves a lot, even with the wings, and as it moves my period goes onto my underwear. So I was wondering when I should start using a tampon, but my periods have been irregular and they say you should start using them after around your 6th period
    What should I do?

    We only recommend that you wait until you've had 5 or 6 periods before you start using tampons to allow you the time to get used to your flow but nobody says you have to do this.  It's never been easier to try than with our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicki. I don't want to be too graphic here, but when I get my period, it always comes out brown for the first day. It's never heavy on the first day, so it's not like there's much of it, I just don't know whether this is normal or not? I'm 14 by the way. Thanks a lot :) x

    Try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I started my period on Monday the 9th of June. Then I was due back on my period on Monday the 7th of July, but still I have had no period and it is Monday the 14th of July. Is there something wrong with me ? Please can you reply.

    Thank you from
    Paige Ayers💜

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki
    I keep wetting myself, but I haven't started my period yet.. does that have anything to do with it? Whenever I move a bit of wee comes out.. Is that normal?
    Love Tildies
    (nickname)

    Hi Tiddles, lots of girls find that when they sneeze, cough or laugh the release a little bit of urine and it would be a good idea to get into the habit of visiting the toilet regularly rather than waiting until the last minute to prevent this happening.

  • Hi, My friend cuts and I'm scared she has bipolar disorder as she's shown alot of symptoms what do I do? I've tried going to a walk in clinic for information but it wasn't open.

    Please talk to a trusted adult to get your friend the support she needs.  You can also ask her to call Mindline on 0300 1233393 for confidential help and support.

  • Hello vicky
    Often when i wear a t-shirt i can see my nipples through the material and they stick out. Is this a sign that i need a bra? If not, what can i do to help prevent this from happenning !

    Please answer ASAP
    Love from Morgan. Xxx

    You might like to consider wearing a bra with slight padding which will help to conceal your nipples.

  • HELPPP!!x

    I'm 14 and I've had brown discharge for the past few days. Today (14th July) I was taking a shower and my vagina started to burn so I washed the soap out. Roughly around 3 hours later I needed to urinate. When I urinated my vagina was stinging as I peed. What's the problem? I haven't told my mom yet because I'm not sure how long this will last.(when I was younger this happened to me but only lasted a day or two)

    -Lola💜

    If you are noticing a burning senstion in this area and discomfort when you have a pee, then you may have an infection and should speak to your mum immediately so she can offer you treatment.

  • Please answer Vicki!
    How can I stop worrying about periods that when will it start. I cant stop thinking about it. I just want to put my mind off it!
    Just how can I distract my self from thinking about it?!?!
    I have ALL the sings
    Im 12, my mum was 11 when she started...NOT FAIR!
    sorry

    Please try not to worry and remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and wearing pant liners will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Um I was just wondering you know a couple normally have sex often before they have children, when they have children do they still have sex. is it true? sorry if inaproppriet

    When two people love each other, it is normal for them to have an active sex life throughout their relationship.

  • Hey Vicki how do I make my boobs look smaller coz its embarrassing and boys always stare

    You can buy minimiser bras but you should look at ways of boosting your self-confidence and might want to consider joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport.

  • My boyfriend dumped me on friday asked me back out saturday then dumped me again monday I'm so fed up of his games. He told me he realised he doesnt care about me. I'm really angry and i cant stop thinkong about what an idiot i was and a jerk he was and its taken over my brain and its annoying because whatever i do it makes me think of him which makes me angry and upset! What do i do? I have lost my friendship group i was in, i am making new friends but its hard and i don't know what to do :(

    You deserve so much better than to be treated like this so move on and forget about him.  If your friends are really friends, they will soon come back to you so try not to worry.

  • hi sorry its really urgent, please could you answer my question about the tampons on holiday its just I'm going away tomorrow so i kind of need it! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Ive had discharge for 3 years and evdrything else for like 2 years so why havent I got my periods it kinda brings me down coz all my friends have it so please help 😯xxx
    ps:everybody has said it will come soon for like the past 2 years it never does!

    Try not to worry as we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other but I would guess that as you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, your period isn't too far away.

  • Dear Vicki
    It's Kitty again, I forgot to tell you that yesterday was my period and it still going on. I was wondering if it had something to do with my period or its not enough or something else?
    -Love Kitty

    Hi Kitty, it is normal for some of us to experience stomach cramps with their period and we recommend that you do some gentle exercise, use a hot water bottle or take a relaxing bath to help soothe them.  If the pain is too bad, ask mum for a painkiller.

  • Dear Vicki,
    Yesterday Night my belly/stomach was hurting like a little bit. My mom always tells me that if my stomach starts hurting, I should eat more food. I ate a few food and it still hurts. Is it not enough or is it something else?
    -Love Kitty

    Hi Kitty, as you're on your period, these pains are probably stomach cramps but if they persist when your period has finished, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • To Vicki, this isn't to do with puberty or boys or periods but I'm really excited about the holidays and I just can't control it!
    Love claudia

    Hi Claudia, good for you.  i hope you have a fabulous Summer holiday.

  • What is birth control?

    Birth control refers to methods of preventing pregnancy like the contraceptive pill.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Ok ummm this is embarrassing but I think I have worms as when I went to do a poo my bum felt really itchy even though I had a shower.
    How should I tell my mum? And how should I get rid of them? And where do they come from?
    Thanks (sorry for the inappropriateness😳) love from Emilie XXX

    Hi Emilie, try not to feel embarrassed and ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • Hi!
    I'm 14 years old and I have really small boobs, I feel out of place a lot of the time because my friends have normal sized boobs and they are 14/15 years old. I'm just starting to feel like they are never going to get any bigger and I feel quite embarrassed about it! Also, I haven't even started my period yet so it makes me feel even worse because again, all my friends have. I've been getting discharge recently, so is that a sign that it might start soon? I just feel out of place, please answer back!

    Please try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is good to know that breasts can continue to develop up until your 20's too so you still have pletny of time.

     

  • Hey Vicky, I masturbate and I have strong orgasms sometimes but I'm scared that when I have sex it happens then. Do you only have strong orgasms when you finger yourself? Thankyou xox

    An orgasm is an intense reaction to sexual stimulation and whether you achieve this by masturbation or with a partner the strength of the orgasm is nothing to be embarrassed about.

  • Vicki! I have all the signs that i will get my period within the next year or so, 36a boobs, stretch marks in my thighs, spots, tired, greasy hair, pubic and underarm hair but i don't have vaginal discharge in my knickers? I have white stuff in my vagina but not in my knickers what do i do?

    Discharge does not always sit in your knickers and the white fluid you are noticing in your vagina will still be discharge.

  • Can you start your period when your 11 ?

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18.

  • Please put this under friendship and boys
    How far should you go with a boy at 14? I don't know what to do
    74&2484864931976423867;23

    The law clearly states that you should not be sexually intimate with a boy unless you are aged 16 or over. So for now consider a cuddle and kiss appropriate behaviour.

  • I have had a white, clear discharge for 1-2 years now but yesterday it was a light brown :/ please tell me what this was because today it is back to white/clear ahh x

    This may have been your first period or if the fluid has an offensive odour, it could have been residue from when you have visited the toilet to release waste food and not wiped the area afterwards properly.

  • PART TWO:
    So, when we had to buy a strapless and sports bra for my dance show, I mentioned that I measured as just a c cup, but fit into a b. However, we couldn't find a c, so we had to buy a b, which is a bit tight. My problem is, I now feel ready to have a c, but since my mum has just brought me a new bra, I don't think I can ask for another one?

    If you have not yet worn either of these bras, consider taking them back for an exchange. I am sure your mum will understand.

  • PART ONE:
    Hi Vicki, the other day, you told me I may be needing to move up to a c cup soon. I tried on my Mum's bra (which is a c) and fit perfectly. I fit into a B, but its starting to be tighter/ uncomfortable and I very slightly bulge on the top.

    Please see my response in Part Two.

  • is it good to peirod

    Periods are a natural part of being a woman and they should not stop your everyday routine one little bit and if you find a quality sanitary product then you can get on with your day just as you would normally.

  • Hi Vicki today and yesterday in my underwear nearer the front their was like heaps of brown dark and medium coloured. Was this just poo? Sorry if it sounds gross. Thanks so much!

    If this was 'poo' I am sure it would have had an unpleasant odour. If today and after washing you notice more of these brown fluid have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you as it is almost certainly your first period.

  • I'm 15 and Ive never had a boyfriend or kissed a boy. I know I have told you this like 3 times but I just can't help feeling depressed about it. I know in the back of my kind it's ok but u could tell me a million times and I'm still going to lie in bed not able to sleep for constantly worrying about it. Also, just to make things worse, I heard a rumour that the guy I like made out with one of my friends (no-one knows I like him) so now I'm even more depressed. What should I do?? Xx

    If the boy you like does not know you like him, how do you ever expect to go on a date? Be bold and smile next time you see him, ask him what he's been up to at the weekend, you never know, by pushing yourself you may just get that first kiss you wish for so badly.

  • Hi, I am Sky and I have had my period for a year now and want to move on to tampons but I am not sure which to use. I have heard that the non applicator ones are best to start of with but sound really hard to get high up and my mum uses the applicator ones so I am just not sure.

    Hi Sky, non-applicator tampons are easier to insert as you can place them in the right position with your fingers and you may find our Lil-Lets teens range of tampons ideal as they are designed to be shorter and narrower for first time users just like you.

  • Hello, I don't know why but I have NEVER been physically attracted to people, while my close friends always talk about boys that are cute or so. I have periods already. I don't find girls physically attractive either.I find no interest in masturbating or sex. Could I be asexual?(oh btw I'm 12)

    Not everyone feels a sexual attraction to others or wants to be sexually active, it does not mean there is anything wrong or that you are asexual, so please try not to worry you have plenty of time for these feelings to start.

  • My discharge is happening I have pubic and armpit hairs a little bit of pimples on my forehead I am 11 and all that has happened do u think I might get my period soon if so about what month
    Thanks🐴🐹🐮🐴🐨🐭🐸

    I think with so many signs of puberty already noticed you may not have too much longer to wait.

  • My friend Nikki told me that my best friend lost her virginity at 13. I asked her and she said it was true. I know it is none of my business but I feel really betrayed that she didn't tell me and annoyed that she is so young. Should I talk to her about it?

    This really is your friend's business and I would think it best to leave discussing it further and please don't feel too angry with her for keeping you out of the loop on this matter.

  • I haven't had my peroid in about 4/5 months? Is everything okay!?😭

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 15 and still haven't started my period. I have discharge and everything, but not my period. Should I be concerned?
    -Skylar

    Hi Skylar, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki I'm Olivia
    I was wondering I have discharge and I don't know how to tell my mom how should I tell her

    Hi Olivia, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about your discharge or periods.  You could start the conversation by asking if she would grant her permission for you to request a free sample from our teens range as Lil-Lets teens Liners are part of this and would protect you not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hi there Vicky..if your pregnant do u get stretch mark your vagina area( exactly below my trousers lines, I've also got them on my tummy aspell and my hips. I don't want to discuss this with my mum.

    Thanks jess

    Stretchmarks can be noticed anywhere on the body and at any time. They are caused when the body goes through a growth spurt, such as in someone's teens years and this may be the reason you have noticed them. Why not read my blog entitled: Stretchmarks for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicky,
    So this boy asked for my number over social media and we started talking and he keeps dropping hints about liking me and wanting a relationship but since 2 days his been acing strange and not talking to me as much, he wants to meet up but I'm not in a right situation to meet him as my mum doesn't now about this and I don't wanna tell her I want to him but I'm scared and don't really know how he feels about me

    Help .....

    It seems this boy was only interested in you when he thought there was a chance of meeting up. Why not ask your mum if you can invite a friend round one day for tea and ask him to come over. Once your mum has met him she may be more inclined to let you both go out together on a date.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm almost 15 and I'm really worried about my body hair, I get in regular places as everyone else but my forearms are quite hairy and I'm also getting it on my chest, boobs, feet and stomach. Although alot of girls get this, it's making me very self concious, is there anyway to stop this from happening? Or are there any methods of controlling it? Thanks:)x

    It is perfectly normal for us all to develop hair all over our bodies and it's a natural thing so there is no need for you to feel so self-conscious about it.  You will find that by going out in the sun, the hair will naturally lighten but be sure to use some sun protection with a high SPF level first.

  • Hi viki,
    I have been having trouble sleeping laterly because of the humid weather, do you have any tips?
    Rosie x

    Hi Rosie, make sure you have some ventilation in your bedroom so by opening a window and a door, you will create a flow of air.  You can also sleep on top of your duvet and wear a cotton nightie.

  • Hi vicki,
    its c here i was just wondering how often should you change your pantiliner just for discharge?
    Thanks in advace xxxx

    Hi C, some people wear just one pant liner each day, others who feel they have a lot of discharge may change several times a day...it really is a personal choice.

  • i really wanna rip/tear my hymen so i can fit a tampon in. i cant fit one in at the moment because my intire hole is like covered (i still have periods tho) how do i tear it so i can put a tampon in?

    Your hymen will stretch naturally as you get older and you should not try to force this part of your body open. What you may find easier to do is insert your finger inside the opening where menstrual fluid is released until if feels comfortable.

  • I have to buy sanitary towels when I'm out and about shopping with my friends but I'm too scared to go over to the till and purchase them. I find it so embarrassing! Especially of its a male shopkeeper! What can I do?

    Trust me shopkeepers whether they are male or female understand all about periods and the purchasing of sanitary products and once you have visited the store and made your purchase a number of times you will start to feel less embarrassed and more relaxed.

  • Dear vicki

    I got my first period I was wondering if I will get my second one the month after

    You may do, but some girls notice gaps of several months between their periods for the first couple of months so please don't worry too much if this happens to you.

  • I am in year 8 and have had my period since the end of year 7. I have always used pads. My mum said that I shouldn't use tampons because they aren't very hygienic? And she said she has never used one. As I've been thinking about it, I have had thoughts about trying one. So my questions are.. Is it bad that I may not ever use a tampon?(incase I change my mind about trying one) Which ones should I get? Which ones are good for swimming? What ones are comfortable for school and sports? Thank you

    Hi, tampons are actually very hygienic as they capture menstrual blood before it leaves the body, they also reduce odour too. My advice would be to try our Lil-lets teens non-applicator tampons, designed to be shorter and narrower than other tampons and ideal for first time users. 

  • Hi Vicki I've asked u a few questions before and just wanna know if u could recommend exercises for developing good stomachs muscles? I'm trying to do a Planche and finding it really hard! Bye I'm an 11 year
    Old gymnast

    I would speak to your Gym teacher about this as very often doing the wrong kind if exercises can lead to problems or strained muscles. For a general work out however you cannot beat swimming for getting your tummy toned.

  • Hi viki, i am 12 and getting this really bad pain down there, you know period pain's, i asked my mom and she said it was period pains, but it hurts so bad, i have had to come up stairs and lie on my bed its so bad.

    I need to know if there is any thing i can eat, drink or do to ease the pain, its just so bad, really really hurts. please help

    A warm bath or hot water bottle may help ease any discomfort. But the best way to ease pain is to be active...even though I appreciate this would be the last thing on your mind! So if possible have a little dance or walk for a few minutes to help with the pain.

  • URGENT I have felt 1 or 2 lumps in 1 breast and occasionally I get nipple discharge but tonight it soaked through my pjs an I gently squeezed y nipple and loads kept comin out! I looked up stuff on the Internet and I'm worried I might have breast cancer.
    The discharge is a greedy colour I am sooo self conscious i would hate anyone even my mum see my breasts to check and if I had breast cancer it would ruin my life in crying now cos I'm having visions of living with it
    Ahhh please help ASAP

    Breasts often feel lumpy and release discharge during puberty and I would advise you not to squeeze them which will only make them sore and possibly cause an infection.

  • I have loads of spots all over my face and it's really getting me down! I have done loads of research on how to get better skin and I'm doing all the things people reccomend, drinking water, moisturising, cleansing, exfoliating, sleeping well, but it isn't helping!! I try not to clog up my skin with makeup either. People tell me I will grow out of it but it really doesn't help. How can I get better skin?? please help thanks- Ivy

    Simplifying your cleansing routine may help to using a facial wash, avoiding salty, greasy and sugary foods is a great time also. Finally, consider your hair care which can often cause spots to the face, especially around the hairline and forehead. Why not check out my blog entitled; Being Skincare Savvy too!

  • Hi Vicki, my Mum and Dad have an awful relationship. My Dad treats my Mum really badly, he drink drives and then blames I on my Mum when me and my sister get upset with him. Also, he is an alcoholic and is always calling her horrible names. My mum is deressed I think but she takes it out on me, by calling me nasty stuff and hitting me. What shall I do??? Cara x

    Hi Cara, have a chat to another member of your family such as an aunt or grandparent, asking them to have a quiet chat to your parents letting them know how sad their behaviour is making you feel. It could be that they have not realised how their actions affect you and they will be sure to change once given this news.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I really want 2 u tampons but I'm scared if it hurts when pull it out Eg : If u fill up a bottle of water and put a tampon inside it expands so u can't pull it back out. So will it hurt when I pull it out my vagina help????

    Thanks from Lucy

    It's never been easier to try than with our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and all it takes is a little practice.  Extracting a tampon also takes a little practice and when you feel that the tampon has absorbed enough menstrual fluid, it will come away easily so try not to worry.

  • I'm going on holiday soon and it involves a lot of swimming, the date I'm going is when I'm having my period, i don't want to go on the pill, will tampons be ok like i don't know, i use them but i have never used them for swimming, won't the string show through my costume?what happens if the string comes through? I'm really not sure and don't want to ask my mum help???!! , what happens if i start in the pool? can you give me some info on using tampons in a pool please xx

    Try not to worry as it's never been easier to try tampons and Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  When you go swimming, be sure to pull the cord up to the front and it will not be visible.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her and she should be able to support you through this special time in your life.  Have a great holiday!

  • dear vicki,
    I really want to stop being shy. It restricts me rom having friends, and some people even say 'oh I didnt even know you were there'. I'm conscious of my voice bc i think it sounds weird, so I don't speak alot. When I'm with my ex-friends, I feel more confident, but when I'm with people who i WANT to be friends with, my voice is never heard. how do I stop being shy?
    -Di

    Hi Di, you might like to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport would be a good place to start.  Try to believe that your voice is as important as anyone else's so speak up and be heard.

  • Dear Vicki, I really like this boy who I talked to for a while but now I think he's going to get with another girl, what can I do to stop feeling so down about myself?? :( :(

    Puberty is a time when young girls and boys form deep attraction to others and this is called a crush but the thing is that crushes often fade in time.  You don't yet know for sure if this boy is going to get with another girl so why not try to get to know him better as a friend - you never kow, you might not like his personality so just see how it goes.  Try to believe in yourself more as you are as good as anyone.

  • Hi Vicki,

    our best friend asked us to ask you this, she is 12, has large boobs, and 2 years ago she have red- brown stain in her pants. She hasn't had any thing since. Is this normal.

    from Brooklyn and Melanie (identical twins)

    It is possible that the red/brown stain your friend noticed was her period but  equally it could have been the residue from visting the toilet to release waste food. Why not advise your friend to wait and see what the future brings and from now on to have some liners or pads with her when out and about.

  • hi vicki

    if your irregular can you still put tampons in?

    Yes of course.

  • hay Vicki.
    I've have all the signs of puberty but no period but I'm past the age my mom started hers. I've had boobs for around a year, discharge for about 18 months, and I've had pubic hair for 5 or 6 months. when will i start?
    ~Question mark

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I guess your period isn't too far away.

  • I'm scared. When I left school I went to see my PE teacher to say bye.
    We gave each other a hug but then he pulled me into his offices and we started kissing and had sex. It felt normal and it hasn't bothered me. But I'm scared because I've stopped my periods and I left school about 2 months ago. I'm seeing my PE teacher all the time and going out for meals etc. should I be worried and what should I do? I don't want to tell my parents. Please put this in sex and sexual feelings! X

    Not only should you tell your parents about the possibility of being pregnant but you MUST also speak to them about your relationship with your teacher. His behaviour is totally inappropriate and I would imagine breaks the rules of his contract with the school.  Yes your parents may be a little cross at first, but I can assure you that your welfare will be their first concern.

  • 25.5 inches under, 28inches on bust what's my bra size

    30AA.

  • I have had discharge since I was about 11, but still haven't started my period and I'm 13-is this normal?

    Yes, this is very normal and very often discharge is noticed for longer than a year.

  • How do I tell if my period is coming?

    This can be quite difficult for the first few years, as periods are often irregular with gaps of several months between each one. My advice would be to keep some liners or pads with you on a daily basis or even consider wearing a liner daily just in case.

  • I snog my boyfriend and I've not had my period does it mean I'm pregnant

    Please don't worry, you cannot get pregnant by kissing and periods are very often irregular for the first couple of years, so I am sure you have nothing to be concerned about.

  • hi whats my bra size
    34 1/2 over
    29 under
    im 14 btw

    34A.

  • I have been of my period for 4months now. When will I start again??

    Why not read all the great stuff in our section entitled; Periods, it will tell you all about the length of the monthly cycle and irregular periods that are often noticed for the first couple of years.

  • Is it normal for girls to have hair like around the bum hole? Sorry if its innapropriate

    Pubic hair can start at the front of your body at the top of your knicker line and will continue to your anus and even down your inner thigh sometimes. This is very normal and nothing for you to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki! This is really awkward but I'm am 13 and haven't started my period. Although I have pubic hair and don't know what to do about it-do I shave? If so what do I shave with? Id appreciate it if you could let me know as soon as possible because I have been wondering this for ages! I have seen those women's razor things but I'm not too sure how to do it!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and as for your pubic hair, it is your choice if you want to shave it or simply trim it back.  Nobody says you have to do this, the choice is yours.

  • Hey vicki! I really don't like wearing bras😭 I find them uncomfortable and annoying and never want to put them on. If I had small boobs I wouldn't mind not wearing them but my boobs have big nipples so they show through! I don't like any kind of bra not soft cup of sports bra.is there any way I can cover nipples up using something at home?(wont be allowed to buy nipple concealers) reply asap please!! Xxxxxxx

    I'm afraid there really is no alternative so the next time you go bra shopping be sure to try on some different styles of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki
    Well last week i was home alone, I decided it would be fun if I stripped naked and hung out around the house. I had SO much fun! I ate food, watched tv, jumped on my trampoline and sat by my window all naked. I really want another day like this and when my family are around I always feel the urge to take off my bra or sit around naked but I known I can't, is this strange? And what can I do to cure this urge for being naked and wanting to be seen?(not by family) please answer! Xxx

    Being naked can give you a sense of freedom, but be mindful that if you are in the window or garden others may see you and this no longer becomes acceptable and may be considered exhibitionism.

  • hi vicki, its sel. i have no friends and i guess thats because of my attitude and the way i act towards people but i want to change so can you help me? i want to be a nicer person. i dont want to be mean.

    Hi Sel, the best news here is that you recognise that you have been a little distant and off hand with people. So from on smile, hold doors open, compliment friends when they look nice or do well in something. Very soon people will start to see a new you and feel more inclined to involve you in their groups.

  • hi vicki

    i am 14 and my sister is almost 11 her best friend is 10 years old and masturbates is this normal

    During puberty, sex hormones run riot causing young girls and boys to think about sex more than they ever did before and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • If you have a bit of white discharge ( a small amount ) when will the period start ?? Will it be a few months ? Thanks

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 11 years old and 5ft (roughly)
    I don't have scales at my house so when I went round my friends house I used hers. I was 7 stone 2. All my friends say they are about 5 stone and moan about how ft they are. Am I overweight for my age and height??
    Thanks so much
    Millie
    Xxxxxxx

    You are perfect just as you are so try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes.  The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and try to stay as active as possible.

  • I get hungrier and i start to like eat and krave lots of junk foor. normall?

    It is very normal to feel hungrier during puberty, in fact your calorie intake should increase during this time to around 2,000 calories per day. BUt the type of food you eat is very important and sugary or greasy foods will not satisfy your hunger. So consider increasing the amount of protien, carbohydrates and vegetables you eat with your meals and if you do need to snack in between, bananas, nuts, or oat bars are a better option than a packet of crisps of chocolate bar.

  • Hi Vicki

    my boyfriend asked me the other day would I like to go to his house for tea I said maybe I'll ask my mum.when I got home I found it really hard to tell her (she doesn't know that we are going out.)pleeeease help!!

    Thanks Laura

    You should always be honest with your mum so try to remember that she was a young girl once and tell her that a boy you like has invited you to tea.

  • im 13 and 14 in October and still haven't started my period. I'm an average size and build for my age and all my friends have started. ive been having discharge for about a year now but still Havant started. is this normal? what does this mean and when will i start?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, i can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • hi viki lot of 13 year olds in my school are very pretty am 13 turning 14and I find myself very UGLY would my facial statue change AS I grow

    Try to remember that puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel massive self-doubt as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  We all have things we don't like about ourselves but you really should try to focus on the positive and be able to look in the mirror and love what you see.  You might like to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, dance or a sport would be a good place to start. 

  • Dear vikki,

    I have just started my periods and it was in the church. I was wearing white jeans and the blood showed. I think people must have noticed when I was taking communion.I was so embarrassed. How can I keep track of my period so this does not happen again?

    Try not to worry too much as we've all been caught out at times.  In future, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will protect you not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive unexpectedly.

  • I was ment to start my period 9 days ago and I still haven't got my period is this normal?

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so please try not to worry.

  • I'm only 10 so I don't really know much and I might even ask a stupid question, my question is, at which ages does period and puberty start?

    Not a stupid question at all.  It is possible for girls to start puberty and periods as young as the age of 8.

  • Everytime I have my period it always gets like everywhere like on my underwear or on my sheets but I just started my period a few months ago so Im not ready for tampons but do u have any advice, how can I stop
    It from going everywhere? Also about how often should I change if it's a really heavy period?

    It sounds as if you need higher absorbency sanitary towels and you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  Try not to forget that towels should be changed every 3-4 hours too.

  • I'm going to camp soon and i'm showing all the signs of female puberty but i haven't started my period.i want to bring tampons because swimming is done every day but what brand and size should i bring?

    sleezle

    Hi Sleezle, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for beteween 6-12 months and when you feel ready, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • hi Vicki
    today I have been having loads and loads of discharge and my stomach has been really pain fall does this mean that I am having my period soon...
    I am 14 and still have not had it , even my twin sister has

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki
    I love this website.Also,how do u know when your breasts have started to develop?

    Thank you for your words of support.  You will know that your breasts are developing when you notice  breast buds form which are small raised lumps that sit behind the nipple and comprise of milk glands, fat, tissue and muscle.

  • I can't masturbate because my vagina entrance is so small I can't even use my pinky finger. I can't use the teen mini non applicator tampons they are just to big. Also is there a difference between a moulded bra and a padded bra
    Thanks

    Firsly, masturbation does not always have to involve the insertion of a finger inside the vagina and it may be that you need to wait a few months before trying to use a tampon again, so please do not be in a rush to either masturbate or use a tampon. Finally, a moulded bra is generally a softer material that is used for the entire cup, whilst a  padded bra generally has extra padding in the bottom part of the cup.

  • Well i heard you get discharge 6-12 months before your period i`ve had discharge for about 7 or 8 months now and sometimes i have mood swings and pains how do i know how long it would take for my period to come?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vikki
    I have only just started my period this week and I am going on holiday in 2 weeks time and you say you should only wear a tampon once you have had 6 periods. I love swimming and are going to a place with a massive swimming pool.
    Please answer x

    This is only a guide as we recommend girls wait for a while to get used to their flow but there is nothing to say you can't start using tampons straight away.  You might like to consider Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Have a fabulous holiday!

  • I started my periods 3 months ago, but its been about a week and a bit since it was due (acording to my other 2) Is this normal and why did this happen? (I'm 12 by the way)

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of puberty, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular for up to 2 years.

  • Im 17 and from America
    My home room teacher kissed me and I kissed back but I need to know if this is bad because I have true feelings for him and we masturbate ob skype to each other

    No this is no okay. Your teacher has a position of trust and his actions are not only inappropriate but also highly likely to be against school policy. Please take my advice and cease all contact with this man and if he continues to bother you, report him to the head of the school.

  • Hi viicki i cut and get bullied what should i do my school doesnt care nor do my parents imdont have any friends sorry if this inapprpopriate shaunna x

    Hi Shaunna, none of this is your fault and I would urge you to talk to Childline on 0800 1111 as a matter of urgency.  Bullying should never be tolerated and you don't have to feel like this.  Please come back to me if you need me.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I saw a tiny bit of what looked like blood after going to the toilet and I am 10. What do you recommend I should do to get ready for any surprises when I am in public or in school?

    This was most likely to be your period so ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Is it ok to kiss when you are 13 (my boyfriend is 14) and also is it ok to have a boyfriend at this age. I just wanna know is it ok to kiss him?

    It would be fine for you to kiss and cuddle your boyfriend in my opinion..but no more than that.  But it really is your parents you should be discussing this with, as they may have a different view.

  • I'm confused, can you make make an account on this website, because I've seen people comment and stuff?

    There is no need to make an account on our Becoming a Teen website, as all questions are posted for everyone to view. You can even comment on our blogs if you wish and again this requires no login details to be submitted.

  • Hey Vicki, puzzeledpup here. My friend told me that her mum hits her. I asked how hard she hits her and she said that it was hard enough to make her cry. It's really starting to annoy me because her mum does it so often and I think it's so wrong. I want my friend to tell someone but she won't. I don't know how to help but every time it happens she messages me saying I'm scared and I don't know what to say anymore. Can you help us? xx

    Hi Puzzeldpup, advise your friend to speak to another member of her family, such as an aunt or grandparent, or alternatively speak to Childline on 0800 1111.

  • When will you get your period

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • What happens if you don't get your period near the same time as your mum

    Not everyone starts their period at the same age as family members so please don't worry if yours has arrived earlier or later than your mum.

  • Hi I'm in year 8 going into year nine and there's this boy in year 10 going to 11 should I go out with him Cus we both like each other I go to Henry box.
    Kylie 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😜😝😍😍😍😍😍

    Hi Kylie, this is a gap of two-three years and it really does depend on how your parents feel about you dating someone who is this much older as you are still in your early teens and you may both have very different ideas of what is expected from an intimacy perspective.

  • Hi Vicki! So my question is last month maybe may 30 - june 2 i guess..
    May 30-light yellowish brown discharge, may 31- dark brownish red discharge, june 1- same as may 31, june 2-- lighter. Then on the following days its only white discharge is this normal? Im still waiting for this month to have that brownish thingy but it is still white and yellow when dries. Is it a period or a sign that my period is coming? Help.

    Hi, Brown fluid in your underwear is your period as menstrual fluid is not always the reddish colour people feel it should be. In between periods you may notice discharge continues and this will either be clear or creamy yellow in colour.

  • Hey viki plz answer this as soon as u can!! Thx xx

    I just went to the toilet and in my knickers there was a llittle red dot next to a little clump of discharge (i think the little clump was discharge!)!! What was the red dot?? Plz answer as soon as u can!! It's urgent!! Thx xx

    123456789💐🌸🌷🍀🌹🌻🌺🍁🍃-so I know it's mine xx

    It is possible that this was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki
    So last year after my sister passed away I would just wat and eat and it would make me feel better
    But now when I have bad days I can eat all I want and I never feel any better
    It's like there is a big hole that I can't fill):

    I'm so sorry to hear of your sister's passing and can only imagine how hard it must be for you and your family but as you've so rightly noted, you're using food for comfort and this is not good for you.  Please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to arrange some grief counselling for you as this will help you tremendously.  You can also call Childline on 0800 1111 for confidential help and support.

  • Hey Vicki!!! I love your website soooo much!
    So I eat alot! Like alot but I never gain weight and now a boy at school is spreading rumors I'm anorexic and starve myself
    Is there any way to gain weight?

    If you eat well, then you have nothing to worry about and are just someone who is naturally slim. My advice would be to ignore this boy's comments and once he sees you are not bothered he will stop.

  • Hi Vic! So last month maybe may 31 - june 2 i had a brown discharge then back to white discharge, so this month i still dont have the brown discharge buy just white discharge. Is this my first period or a sign that my first oeriod is near?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period but try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Be sure to ask your mum to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • My discharge is soo heavy, I am due in my period soon, is this the reason why its so heavy?

    Many women notice that their discharge increases before their period is due.

  • I literally can't use tampons. I started my period about 7-8 months ago and I've been using pads. When I insert the tampon it just won't go up any further than about 1-2cm. It stops when I push it any further and I'm really scared. Could there be a blockage?and if there is, how does the blood come out?

    Just like anything new, using a tampon can take a little bit of practice to get right. It may be however that you are not inserting the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of you spine, which is the most comfortable position. Some people also find giving a little cough as they are about to insert useful too, as this relaxes the vaginal muscles. Finally, why not consider our Lil-lets teens non-applicator tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • Hi Vicky
    There's this boy I like in my class and he has a girlfriend. I can't tell him I like him because I'm popular and I'm in a whole groups of boys and girls and I'm the main one out of it, I love speaking to him even though he's a bad boy and he's popular but on the playground I can't go up to him coz I have loads of people following me everytime! And he always looks at me does he like me?!?! 😱😱😱😱😊😊😊😊😊😅😅😅

    He may like you or he may be wondering why you are looking over at him! Just because you are part of a popular group does not mean you should not like someone who is not part of that group and if you want to say "Hi" to him, please don't let others impressions of you get in the way...life really is too short to sit around wondering what might have been.

  • Hi Vicki I am a 30 A and I recently puchurched my first bra. I am in need of some more comfy ones what shops or brands are good for our age (I'm 11). What would you recommend. Ps I haves tryed most styles on and most fit me rather well. Thnx

    M&S, BHS, La Senza, Primark and New Look are all great stores for bras.

  • I am 22 and im flat chested.plz plz plz help...what should I do ,? My boobs just wont grow

    That really does depend on what you feel 'flat chested' is. Many, many women are a smaller cup size and are happy with their petite shape. If this is not something you are happy with, you could consider using gel inserts that are widely available in most high street stores and are placed inside the bra.

  • I have some gooey clear white stuff that comes out onto my pants and it smells I just want to know why it comes and what it is

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. It is nothing to be worried about and is also a good sign that your period is not too far away.

  • I think I'm bisexual? How do I know for sure? Like I only watch girl on girl porn and thinking of a penis makes me feel sick but not with girls. My lesbian friend slept over a few weeks ago and we basically spooned and held hands whilst we slept (there was 2 beds and we both slept in the same one). Ive only ever had boyfriends and like I feel attracted to girls and boys (I'm nearly 14) and thinking of sex with a man makes me feel sick but sex with a girl kinda excites me... Help?

  • Hi Vicks,
    I'm quite worried I'm 121 centimetres and I weigh 27kg, I took part in a nhs online BMI test and it said I was in the first percentile for my height which means that I am very thin, I'm quite scared because I don't skip meals or anything like that, I don't feel sick or have a low immune system, is the BMI right??

    From Celia

    👀
    👃
    👄

    Hi Celia, rather than worry what the scales say or your BMI, consider that if your diet is good and you exercise you may just be someone who is naturally slim and I really would not worry about this.

  • Hi Viki,
    So....
    There's this really cute boy in my class and I have an umbeliveibly big crush on him. Everytime I go near him I go all red and shy and sometimes a bit clumsey. If he speaks to me I go red too. Do you think anyway I could control my blush?

    Being around him more is a good way to stop blushing and as time goes by this will get easier...trust me as I too am a blusher.

  • Hey
    I have started my period but i wanted to ask how do i knwo if im complety finsihed

    This is a question lots of girls ask and the truth is that very often you don't and I always advise girls to wear a liner or pad for a couple of days after they believe their period has ended just in case there is a little bit more blood left to be released.

  • This isn't about Periods or anything, its about relationships and If you can't answer thats ok (:
    Recently, My ex-bestfriends ex-boyfriend told me he likes me and I think I like him too but even though we're not friends anymore I still feel like i'm betraying her if anything actually happens between us. What Do I do?

    Thank you (:

    If they are ex's then there is no reason why you should not date, but you may want to let her know first before she finds out from others as a matter of courtesy.

  • do yellow stains in your pants count as discharge even if they are not wet when u see them

    It is normal for discharge to turn yellow when it dries out.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I started my periods last month (it was brown/red)
    I had my first proper red period this month and the week of my periods my boobs went from a AA cup to a Bcup.-__-
    I don't know if this is normal please answer xx
    sorry for making it so long

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Is a li-let's regular tampon okay for swimming ?

    If it is the right absorbency for your menstrual flow, it will be ok.  For more information on Understanding tampon absorbencies check out the link.

  • Dear Vicki,
    My name is Kate and im a 13 year old and im healthy but i think i may be depressed and i also have a panic disorder. Whenever i hear or see stuff at school or at home i dont like i usually go to my room and get a sharp object and cut the top of my wrists. my arm dosent bleed or anything but it leaves terrible scratch marks on my arm. I wear a cover over my arm so my family dosent see it. Is this self harming and i dont want to tell any one really. PLEASE HELP VIcki! xx

    Yes this is self-harming and you really do need to speak to someone about this matter. They will be able to help you manage your feelings going forward and put a stop to this abuse. It doesn't have to be your parents that you speak to, you could confide in an aunt or grandparent who will bring the subject up with your mum and dad.

  • Hi Vicki

    Once your periods and started becoming regular, does discharge stop. Im just wondering

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Lately I have started to become very shy and nervous about things. I have always been shy but never nervous about doing things. I sometimes go in moods and just get nervous about doing things what I shouldn't be nervous about doing ie. paying for things in a shop, talking to people ect... Do you have any advice on how to become less nervous? I also get very shaky and my heart rate goes very fast!

    Imogen, 14

    Hi Imogen, please don't worry about this, during someone's teen years it is very normal to feel a little self-conscious, but by continuing to do the things that make you feel a little on edge you will soon realise there is nothing to be worried about and that life will always throw up challenges and new experiences and you just have to learn to embrace them.

  • Vicki, I really need your help!
    I'm in love with my best friend and everyone is saying that he likes me, I really want to ask him out but I'm scared he'll say no and our friendship will be ruined. There's only four and a half days left of school and then I won't see him for 6 weeks. I'm really worried we'll drift apart and I don't want that to happen!
    What do I do? Please can you reply A.S.A.P
    Thanks a lot, you are absolutely amazing-you deserve a medal!
    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Rather than dash to ask him out, consider working out a timetable for when you can both catch up in the holidays so you can have some quality time away from school, doing fun things such as swimming, going to the park or cinema.

  • I only started my periods last month but this month I very very heavy periods is that normal?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  If you should begin to feel very tired and bleed heavily for more than 7 days, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki, please help I think I will start my periods soon as I have all the symptoms except cramps and I am flat chested I am 12
    Xxxpurpleunicornxxx

    Hi Purpleunicorn, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki, please help me I have pubes and armpit hair, discharge, and I think I have had a cramp though I'm not sure as I don't know what a cramp feels like. Will I get my periods soon???😕 Also how can I prepare myself and make myself less scared of starting?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and there really is no need to fear them.

  • I think I'm quite an early developer as I'm only 11,12 in nov, and I have Boobs,
    Underarm hair,
    Pubic hair,
    I get discharge,
    Spots.
    But no period when will it begin?
    Ps: viki ur awesome and I love ur website it has helped me so much xx😊

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I've never masturbated b4 and I've had periods for about a year now - I don't want to masturbate though, is that normal?

    Nobody says you have to masturbate, it is entirely your choice.

  • Is there a boys version if this website x

    Not that I'm aware of but I would be more than happy to answer any questions from boys too.

  • xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
    Is there anything you can do to make your period shorter and lighter? thanks

    I'm afraid not no as periods are perfectly natural.

  • How would you tell your mum you have started your period?

    You can start the conversation by asking how old she was when she started her period.

  • Heyy Viki,
    What does it mean to masterbate?
    And also what is an orgasm?

    Lou Lou xx

    Hi Lou Lou, during puberty, there is a massive increse in feelings of a sexual nature caused by an increase inactivity of sex hormones and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these feelings.  An orgasm is a peak in the pleasure of sex, it can be a tingling sensation and tightening arround the genital area.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am quite an early developer; I'm only 10! I already have armpit hair and breasts and sometimes my friends make fun of me (not my girls though!) Is it normal?

    Try not to worry as I'm sure your friends will be catching up with you pretty soon too.

  • is it normal to have a crush on someone and feel all weird near them and think about them all the time, even when you are 12/13 years old?

    It is perfectly normal to develop a crush on someone whilst you're going through puberty as sex hormones are running riot.

  • Is it ok to have a boyfriend at my age? I am turning 13 next month, I am going into year 9 in september. I know a boy who is in the same year as me but he is turning 14 in september. We have been close friends for a while and a month and a half ago we started going out. Last week he kissed me on the side of my lip. Is it ok to have a boyfriend now and what should I do?

    It is fine in my opinion to have a boyfriend at this age, just as long as you keep it to kissing and cuddling and your parents are happy for you to date.

  • I know this sounds totally stupid but how do I tell my mum I started my periods like 3 months ago? Please I'm really embarresed, only my best friend knows.

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about your period.  You might like to start the conversation by asking how old she was when she started hers.

  • Hello Vicki can I ask on a tampon what is an applicator?

    An applicator tampon is a tampon that has an applicator to help with insertion.  You simply pull the inner tube out until it comes to a stop, be sure that the cord is hanging free from the inner tube.  Holding your fingers at the base of the outer tube, place the tip of the applicator into your vagina and gently push it towards your lower back, until you've inserted it as far as the base of the outer tube.  Use your finger to push the inner tube into the outer tube until the raised rings meet and then gently withdraw the applicator.

  • PART 2:Anyways I'm emotionally torn and idk what to do at this point. When I talk to him it's just simple replies. I dont want the friendship to be over but I dont think he wants it anymore. How can I move on from three years of a good friendship.?What should I tell my girl bestfriend? 07

    It is possible to outgrow our friendships at times and so I think it's only fair that you move on and allow your friends to get to know each other.  I think it's perfectly fine to remain friends with both of them but just allow them some sapce.

  • PART 1My best friend and I had a fallout. He just doesnt talk to me anymore and I really miss him. My girl bestfriend wants to date him and I don't think I'm ok with it but I told her that if she loves him and he loves her go ahead with it cause love is putting other people's happiness before yours right?

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi vicki I would like to ask you if that some people don't start there period because it scares me and plus can masturbating stop you form starting your pariod. Please answer because it scares me.
    Thanks xoxoxo :)

    Masturbation will not affect your period at all and the vast majority of girls have periods so please try not to worry.

  • what age do u become a teenager

    Officially you can be called a teenager when your age ends in the word 'teen'. So therefore 13 is the official age you can be called a teenager. However, you may have already been noticing the changes associated with puberty for a few years before your 13th birthday.

  • hi Vicki,
    im a average height 10 yr old.
    at the moment im feeling self conscious about my body. I would say puberty has hit me but the only places it has mainly begun is my boobs and my legs have became hairier legs. I am scared to shave and im not wearing bras yet. some of my friends wear bras. do you think I should start earing bras?/

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel self-conscious as there are so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once so please try not to worry as you're not alone.  If you have noticed some breast development, you might like to consider wearing a training bra to begin with as it will help you get used to wearing a bra.

  • Why do some people's nipples become black? o.O

    Very often the areola area of the breast can become darker in colour, why this is, is not really known.

  • Hi I have a friend and she self harms what could I tell her to help her stop
    thanks××
    Ps I love the knew youtube videos very helpfull

    Self-harming is an expression of intense, negative feelings that aren't her fault so please tell your friend to talk to a trusted adult as a matter of urgency so she can get the help she needs.  Mindline also offer a confidential support service on 0300 1233393.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm 11 and haven't had any discharge yet. My mum said that I will start my period soon. Is It possible to get your period without getting discharge?

    Thanks

    Usually, girls release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives.

  • my mum seems to think Im starting to become hormonal at the moment. we have had a few little conversations but im to scared to talk seriously about it.have you got any tips on what to do to prepare my self for this daunting time in my life please can you help.

    Reading all the great stuff on our website should be a great place to start and you will find our section on puberty and my blogs are very useful when understanding what is happening to your body at this time.

  • Dear Vicki

    I know this might sound a bit weird but before my poo comes out it gets really warm and then it's kind of explodes and leaves brown marks all over the toilet is this normal ?

    Please help

    I think you should ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out as your stools shouldn't always be like this.

  • I want bigger boobs how do I do that?

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to make your breasts grow any quicker but some choose to wear padded bras to give the impression that their breasts are bigger than they really are so next time you go bra shopping be sure to try on some different styles until you get the look you want.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and I've had my period for about 3-4 years. I have never used a tampon because I'm scared if it hurts or gets stuck. I want to be able to use them as summer is approaching and I want to feel most comfortable when I'm on my period, I have spoke to my mum and close friends I would just like some new advice, thanks x

    It's never been easier to try as Lil-Lets now offer a teens mini non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice.

  • Hey vicki Can you ever not start your period or does every girl have there pariod
    Thanks

    Every girl has their period.

  • Hello Vicki, it's Louise again. How are you??? At night I have a sort of sting/ itch down below and it feels really weird as it feels like stuff is coming out but when I go to the toilet to check there is nothing there. What is this?? I am sorry that it's so long. Love you vicki. Xxx :):):)

    Hi Louise, could this be caused by the toiletries you are using to wash this area. Consider if they are heavily perfumed as this can often cause irritation. If it does not stop after a few days I would also have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and ask them if they can offer you some advice.

  • I'm 13, i started my period on the 1st day of 2013, but it has been inconsistent. I haven't had my period for over 3 months, what dies that mean?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It can be like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki

    I have had discharge for about 5 months now. But I have not had my first period yet. Is this a sign that I will get it soon??if it is when will I get it.

    Thanks
    Jess

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months so you still have a while longer left to wait.

  • me&my friend tell each other everything because we know we can trust each other so when my other friend told me she was secretly going out with this boy&how he had licked her out I told her but now it turns out she has told everyone in our year&that I told her!She dinied telling anyone&said she'd never do that but I know she did because everyone in the year and all my friends say she did, the boy&girl are together properly now so it doesn't matter but I still trusted her.Please help,thanks xxx❓❓❓❓❓❓❓❓❓❓❓❓❓

    The problem is that someone told you something in secret and you decided to break their trust by telling your friend. The lesson is here is to remember in future that no matter how close you are to someone, if another person tells you something in confidence your lips should be sealed.

  • Dear Vicki,

    I am 14 and i still haven't had my period yet, I have had discharge for about 2 and a half years and today i went to the loo and in my discharge was a tiny red thing about the size of a pen dot and i wasn't sure what it was so i ignored it and nothing else has happened after that.
    i have hair down there and small boobs and underarm hair.
    could this have been my period?
    thankyou sooooo much
    T














































    The red you noticed was probably your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki, I want to swap a piece of toast with my cereal for breakfast to having a more filling cereal with a banana on top as I don't like having bread for breakfast and lunch. I don't know hiw to ask my mum as I'm worried she will think I have a problem with eating😐

    Lots of people like cereal in the morning and I am sure your mum will not mind this change to your eating plan at all. Especially as you are adding a banana to your diet.

  • The Playground and then we went and layed down under a tree where nobody could see us we were talking about our 2 bffs being bf & gf and then it moved on to our relationship we both miss each other and we were talking then he said I love you and then the bell rang we both stood up and I didn't know what to do so I hugged him and kissed him and then I said I love you and then we walked off hugging I felt so happy and everyone said it was true love
    Are they right?

    End of part 2

    It would be very difficult for me to say whether this is true love, but it was certainly a special moment.

  • Hi Vicki I'm Millie-Blue
    So there's is this kid in my class who I like and everyone says he like me and we should be together he is my ex who I dated for 3 years I'm in y6 btw
    We broke up in y5 and me and him were at our new high school for like a try out and we were both put in the same group and we were walking together in

    End of part one

    Hi Millie-Blue, my response is in Part Two.

  • Hi, lately I've been feeling very down and depressed. I've thought about self harm but haven't ever done it. I'm scared to say anything to my mum because I feel like she will feel like it's her fault and I can't talk to my dad because I'm not close with him. I feel like I need to talk to someone but don't know how. I always cry and I can't help it. I think what's happened in the past with my dad has effected me now and I don't know what to do because my mum just blames herself and she gets upset.

    Puberty can very often leave both boys and girls feeling sad and not understanding why. Please read our section on Emotions which you may be useful and if you feel you need to speak to someone you could call Childline on 0800 1111.

  • Hi vicki first I just wanna say thanks for answering my last question it helped!! I'm 11 and by accidentally got an underwired bra when out with my mum. I was just wondering if they are okay to sleep in as I feel more comfortable sleeping in a bra oddly enough. Thanks
    I think you are amazing answering all of these people's questions!

    There is nothing to say you shouldn't sleep in an underwired bra but for comfort, you should feel better without one.  Thank you for your words of support.

  • Hi Vicky,
    Ok this is kinda orkward but my Virginia and the area around it gets really really really itchy at night (to the point that I can't sleep and its all I can think about) I have angry red saws all around it. My mum is away for the next two weeks.and.I really can't talk to my dad about that kind of thing, have u got any suggestions of creams that can stop the itching please help,
    Thank you very much
    Zoe

    I wonder if there is another adult female member of your family who would take you to visit your GP to get this checked out?

  • hey ♡
    So my ex-bestfriend have stopped talking and just ignore each other i had no choice about this as she wouldnt speak to me. So this happened tuesday then wednesday i was off school ill then thrusday was strike and friday i was back in. My boyfriend dumped me friday morning. He told me the reason on saturday and now we are back together. But he is very close to this girl and its actually annoying because she trys to make me jealous about it. What if he ditches me for her? I don't know what to do!

    Don't let your boyfriend see you are jealous and find ways to have fun together and ignore any comments this girl makes, if she sees you and your boyfriend are happy and love being around each other she will be less likely to try and break you up.

  • Hi Vicki I've had my period for nearly 3 years and they are heavy flow but they have always been irregular and they are always at different times is this normal
    😳 help

    Please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out for peace of mind.

  • Hi, so i can see myself that I am slim, I have a flat stomach and I im in the middle of puberty. However, I am scared that I weigh a lot more than my friends. I am 13 and quite tall but when all my friends weigh about 7 stone ( well they say they do) i am more 8-9! Friends who are bigger and less slimmer than me weigh less than me! Could my friends be lying? I am really confused right now all my friends think I weigh less than i do please help!

    It really is important for girls to avoid worrying about what the scales say...after all this is just a number and what is far more important is that you eat a healthy diet, exercise often and feel generally well. By doing this you will find your body finds its ideal weight with no need for weighing required.

  • My b f f has a boyfriend and whenever she goes to speak to him it's really awkward cos I don't know if I should stay around or leave them together . Lauren .

    Hi Lauren, why not say "Hi" to her boyfriend and then make your excuses to go and spend time with other friends allowing them some time alone.

  • Hi I have a problem im not quite big enough for a bra so I wear training bra/crop tops but one boob is bigger than the other Ik this is normal but it means when I wear it it goes slanted and looks weird what can I do???
    Thanks
    Ps can you get crop tops/ training bras fitted???? Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    If you think that the difference in size is quite noticeable, try buying a bra with padding and remove it for the breast that is more developed.  Try not to worry too much as I'm sure it will even up in time.

  • I am so scared,I have been having ALOT of discharge and it soaks my pants,I masturbated like last month but didn't wash my hands before , I was really scared i was pregnant,I had my period but now I'm off and still having long stringy discharge,I was in shower and there was discharge hanging out of my vagina is this normal or am I pregnant, I am scared!also my belly is really big😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔🇪🇸

    Try not to worry as the only way you could possibly be pregnant is by having sexual intercourse with a male.  It is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your mentrual cycle and it works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • im suicidal and I think I hav depression and anxiety. I don't want to tell my parents because when I mentioned it before they thought I was joking. I cry every day and I don't know why sometimes. I hate myself so much. What should I do? Cheers xoxoxox

    There is a big difference between depression and the changes to our moods during puberty and you really must share your sadness with family and friends so they can help you identify which of the two this is. You may also find our section on Emotions useful.

  • how shall i tell my mum that i have hair on certain places of my body?

    I think your mum will be well aware that you will be developing pubic and underarm hair so try not to worry.

  • is it normal to masturbate? my friends say its gross and I laugh and agree but I do it anyway. Im 13, and how do I get a boy that doesn't go to my scl notice me? tah xo

    During puberty it is normal to experience feelings of a sexual nature due to the increase in activity of sex hormones and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • I want to make my boobs look bigger should I buy a push up bra or pads for extra cleveage? What's better?

    Many girls choose push-up or padded bras to give the impression that their breasts are bigger.  It is up to you which you like best so when you go bra shopping be sure to try on the different styles to see which you prefer.

  • Ok I'm going to my aunts for about a week and my period starts so she has this huge out door pool ive never used tampons before how do I ask my mom!!!!!HELP Love
    MIKA

    Hi Mika, try not to worry as it's never been easier to use tampons as Lil-Lets now offer a teens mini non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use and all it takes is a little practice. 

  • What are tampons.? What are condoms ? How do u use them ..does male use it or femal and how? I am 18. Still dont know!!!!!!

    Tampons are absorbent materials shaped like a cylinder and inserted in the vagina to catch menstrual fluid. Condoms are predominantly used by men and placed on the penis before a couple has sexual intercourse and they are used to prevent pregnancies and sexually related diseases.

  • Hi, I was wondering if when my period comes and if I use a tampon should I ask my mum for advise and help with it as you say they when through the same thing. Thank you so much :)

    Taylor xxx

    Hi Taylor, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about using tampons.  To make things a little easier for you, our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and are therefore ideal for first-time use.

  • I think i've had my first period and I Don't know what to tell my Mam or dad but the e-cards will not work as they don't have an email

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need to feel embarrassed talking to her about your period.  You might like to start the conversation by asking if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range products from the home page of this website.

  • Hi Vicky!
    I'm 14 and started my period almost exactly two years ago. For the past 6 to 7 months I have been on my period almost non stop. I am anemic and I think that is why. About 5 days out of the month I won't have my period and I don't understand what is happening. Most girls my age have pretty regular periods do why are mine like this? My period is also extremely heavy. Please help I need to know if this is normal or if I need to tell my mom and go see a doctor.

    Please talk to your mum and ask her to arrange an appointment with your GP.

  • Hello, i was wondering the symptoms of you having your first period? How will I know if it's coming or not? Thanks Vicki x

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and many notice that their dicharge increases in consistency and amount just before too.

  • The first time I got my period was when I was 9, it was quite a young age. I sometimes get an uncomfortable feeling going outside because now my body shape has gone larger than before, and even at school I get really uncomfortable at school, sometimes there are boys around me. And I get quite scared if they start making fun of me.What can I do? Please help.

    It is very normal to feel a little self-conscious around people as we enter puberty and become young adults and for this reason it is important to learn to love yourself and worry less about how you look but rather concentrate more on what a great, fun person you are to be around. As for teasing, well this happens sometimes and if you let others know by a look that you are not bothered by their comments they will be sure to stop.

  • What age is the earliest and latest age that we can get our period?

    Girls can start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • I think I like my best friend we are really close like he gives me piggy backs and we hug and we try our best to annoy eachother in a fun way but lately I have been thinking about him all the time I've kissed him before and since the kiss I can't stop thinking about him

    It sounds like your friendship has turned to romantic affection and I am sure this boy has noticed the change in your relationship and will let you know soon enough if he feels the same.

  • HEY viki is it ok to wear tampons when your at the age of 10 because i wear them and i no what im doing i do alot of sports i leave it in 3 to 4 hours so im safe but people say im way to young my mum and teacher said its fine what do u think??

    If you feel comfortable wearing a tampon and are sensible when you do by removing them between 4-8 hours then I agree with your mum and teacher.

  • I'm such a dumb girl. I dumped my best friends cos I didn't like her that much and I made a new best friend. She broke up with her vest friend but now they're best friends again. She doesn't play with me and sometimes she's kinda rude to me. Its no her period cos she was like that for a week. Why she doing this and what shall I do ?
    Choclatefudgecake

    Don't be too hard on yourself, we all make mistakes and regret them afterwards. During the teen years girls can have highs and lows to their moods regardless of whether their period is with them or not.  So why not let your new friend know that she offends you sometimes and see if you cannot get back on good terms with your old friend.

  • I am 5'7 I weigh 13 stone and have a 36 dd bust I am only 14 is this a normal weight to have

    Rather than worry about what the scales say, consider your diet and exercise regime, if both of these are healthy they your body will find its ideal weight regardless of your height.

  • Is it OK to shave your pubic or armpit hair?

    It is ok to shave both but just be careful.

  • Please help! I have gotten my period in December 2013 so its very recent, and I have missed a few periods like probably 3-4 months. Just a few days ago I got reddish-brown stufd in my pants, which I think is old blood and thats it. I never had sex, so why is my period so IRREGULAR?? Thank you

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycyle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Brown blood is ismply old blood and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm worried that I need a bra but I can't ask my mum because
    she's quite army type of woman (no nonsense from her)
    Please answer I'm really worried because all the girls in my class all wear bras
    CherryChocoChic

    Hi Cherrychocochic, try to remember that your mum was a young girl once and should be well aware that you will be needing to wear a bra sometime soon so try not to feel embarrassed and simply ask her if she will take you bra shopping.  Please bear in mind that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's.

  • Hi vicky :) PLEASE READ MY QUESTION ! I really love your blog and thank you for your awsome advices :) My name is Sophia and i'm 17 years old , and i have a serious problem that i hope you help me with !! Whenever i move i feel a burning sensation in my left breast with pain in the back , i went to the doctor and she said i do not suffer from any problem , but i am concerned that this may cause me harm in the future becausz the breast is sensitive . i'm really worried and thank you so much

    Hi Sophia, I have answered this question and have to agree with your GP that this is nothing to worry about and most likely breast growth that can often leave the breast tender and sore.

  • Hi Vicky!!
    I do really love this blog and the advice.
    I wanted to ask you...
    Which of the lil lets teens range should I get first?
    I haven't started my periods yet but I want to be ready.
    I would love to hear your suggestion.

    thanks,

    Star

    You might like to consider asking your mum or guardian to buy a Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack  for you as they are filled with a range of our teens products and also has a Becoming a Teen booklet which is crammed with useful information to help you through puberty.  Thank you for your support.

  • Hi, so i have kind of hairy hands ( for a girl) as i have dark hair. it is not so bad like not really long or visible but i don't particularly want it. Can i pluck it, or trim the hairs? I don't want to shave if it will make it really stubbly and more obvious and definetly don't want to wax! Thankyou !!

    The sun will naturally lighten this hair and I really would agree that you should not remove it.

  • Hey i have regretted so much in shaving my arms and ive had razor spots for at least 3-4 weeks and i dont know whether they r scars :(

    These marks will disappear as time goes by and moisturising would be a good idea to speed up this process.

  • im 13 and started my period about 3 months ago. My period is late and I know tgat can be normal but ive got brown discharge is that my period? Normally my periods are red and come around the same time.

    Try not to worry as brown blood is simply old blood and is a clearing out of the vagina.

  • I havent got my period but is it okay if i wear a liner to keep fresh?

    The choice is yours and many do wear pant liners to protect their underwear from the effects of discharge too.

  • Hi vicki, I just want to ask can a girl faint while having sex, I mean I heard it several times that it happened is it true? And also what does the boy do after she faints does he stop what he is doing ( you know... ) or continue? Sorry if the question is weird.

    It would be highly unlikely that a girl would faint during sexual intercourse and I feel this is just an urban myth that has no truth behind it.

  • I was wondering can you have sex while on your peirod? Just wondering lol

    It is a matter of personal choice but some people do yes.

  • Hi Vicki so I have allways struggled with my weight since I was about 5 and Iv allways have been a little chubby and still am none of my family are particularly skinny but as I'm older I want to loose wait. When I was 11 I was put on wait program and I lost a bit of weight But now I am 13 and still unhappy with my weight I would like to loose just a little more do you have any tips of how I can do this in a safe and healthy way.


    The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to do 2 simple things: One is to try and stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and avoid foods that are high in fat or sugar and the second is to be as active as you can.  Good luck!

  • I got my first discharge at the end of year 6ish but now I'm nearly at the end of year8 and I still haven't started? I get discharge most days as well. I have quite small boobs as well. What does this mean?

    Try not to worry as I'm sure your period isn't too far away.

  • Most have my friends have started their periods and I haven't and I dont know when I will and I feel really immature and babyish. Is there anything I can do to speed it up?

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to make your period arrive any quicker but try to be patient because one thing is for sure and that is that your period will be arriving soon so try not to worry.  Try to remember that we a ll develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hi Vicki
    Its Kelly again
    I'm not sure what this means but I sometimes google liam Payne Muscles and I get I get a tingling feeling down there

    <3<3<3

    Hi Kelly, this is called sexual attraction and a very normal sensation for people to notice as they enter puberty and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicky its mishal here; i was wondering when ill get my periods beacause i have had my discharge for over a year; i am 13

    Hi Mishal, as you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I've been feeling quite down and upset lately starting from last Tuesday actually . I've told my mum about it and she helped but then it keeps coming back and going I have started my period but not due for a while how can I stop myself from feeling like this ?

    Becky x

    Hi Becky, puberty is often a time of mixed emotions and I hope you continue speaking to your mum and sharing your feelings with her. It may also be helpful to join an after school club as exercise is well documented for lifting the mood and this may be another option.

  • Hi Vicki
    Can I please have your help. So me and this girl well we aren't friends anymore. She used to be my best friend but we aren't friends anymore and for very good reasons. Anyway I have anxiety and when some one mentions her or I see a picture it makes me feel panicky and anxious. Do u no y this is and how can I stop it?
    Thanks it's ok if u don't no
    ❤️❤️

    This feeling of panic may be noticed because of the way you broke your friendship bond and as time goes by this will become easier and even though you are no longer close friends it may be useful just to acknowledge her when you see her by nodding or a half smile.

  • Is it all right to not use a tampon though your period?

    Absolutely, nobody says you have to use tampons; the choice is yours and when you feel ready to try you might like to consider using a Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Have had discharge for most of this year could you give any advice on when I will start my periods? Also I am nervous about starting and wondered how I can prepare myself for when it comes?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives and you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners  as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • My periods are really heavy and I often flood my pads, do you know of any products I could try?

    You might like to try our Lil-Lets Freshlock adult towels in Normal, Long and Night sizes as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  They also come with a unique odour neutraliser to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • In the morning sometimes my vagina is ichy then when I go to the loo it's fine and goes away .i don't wAnt to tell my mum but I am worried that something is wrong .

    Love lila123

    Hi Lila123, try not to worry as it is perfectly normal to notice vaginal itchiness at times and this is often due to the growth of pubic hair.

  • vicki i havent had my period in 3 months whats happening? im not pregnant cos im only 12 and havent had sex😔please reply im so worried

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hey viki i'm jessica i have been discharging for months but havent had my period ! Is it normal ?
    And im 12

    Hi Jessica, it is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • ---------------------------------
    Hi Vicki, I've only been on my period once like for 5 days and my mum told me that she's usually late, does this mean I could be usually late?
    Thx

    You will have to wait and see but try not to worry as it is normal for periods to be irregular in the early stages of the menstrual cycle as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Are adult period products ok for teens (not tampons btw)?

    For teens who are a little older and their bodies a little larger, our Lil-Lets Freshlock adult towels might well be more suitable as the teens range has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Do you Have to were a tampon ?

    Nobody says you have to wear a tampon but if you want to go swimming and are on your period, there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection. 

  • when do i know that my period will be on the day that it is on

    You don't really know for sure what day your period will arrive on which is why we recommend that you wear pant liners especially around the time that it's due as this will protect you from possible leakage.

  • I am ten and I have way bigger boobs than my friends who are eleven what do I do?

    Try not to worry and remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  You will notice that your friends will be developing breasts very soon too.

  • Hi vicki I just wanted to know, if when you start your periods do you also loose weight ??? Thank you xxx

    Not usually no.

  • so im already 16 & ima be in year 11. & vicki i disliket that im not fully developed. like my breasts are small & pointish & i have no nipples! why is it that i dont have them?! & ive nvr experienced breast buds or my breasts hurting. i feel like ima never have breasts at all oh & i weigh 134 . pls help. thanks

    Please try not to worry and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is normal for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki I keep getting some pain down there⬇ and I just wanted to know if they are cramps or not . Should I be worried??!?!?

    There is no way I can know for sure so pleae talk to your mum or guardian to see what they think.

  • vicki so i want to visit my boyfriend at his house but my parents say no bc he should be the one cominq to visit me but hes scared of them since my parents are strict i really dont see anything bad about me going to visit instead. i mean like theres alot.of girls who do too, plus if he came to me.we'd be just outside the house bc they dont want him inside which is really rude, how can i convince them to let me go to his instead.

    It may be a good idea to ask your parents to speak to his parents and get some assurance from them, that once you are in his house they will take care of you and ensure you are supervised at all times.

  • Hi Vicki I was wondering I have started have discharge I was wondering what should I wear with it and how should I tell my mum

    Many choose to wear pant liners not only to protect their underwear from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should their period arrive.

  • What's the difference between a crop top and a bra? I bought a bra but I'm not sure if it's a crop top.

    A bra has more structure to it than a crop top.  Crop tops are usually put on by pulling them over the head whereas bras have a clasp which is fastened at the back.

  • is there a such thing as a pregnancy treatment where they put the babies in your stomach thanx x

    Babies are not placed in your tummy but rather your uterus and for some couples who struggle to conceive a baby naturally, the egg can be fertilised by the sperm outside of the body and then placed back in the uterus to grow.

  • If my mum started at 13 will I also start then. I'm 12 now I am just wondering if that is a guideline for when I will start?

    We don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting our period and the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • this isnt about puberty, but i feel insecure about my weight&body , because im going to grade9 & everyone is judging . i cry myself to sleep alot , please i need advice !

    We are all different and will be different shapes and sizes, so rather than worry about being compared by others, be an individual and find your own sense of style, this will increase your confidence and people will soon start to see in you someone who knows her own mind and sense of fashion.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 13 years old and starting to get yellow/white stuff in my panties. I just noticed it 3 days ago. My doctor told me i won't have my period until I was around 15 or 16. Is this normal or will I start Sooner? Should I wear a pad? Thanks

    This is discharge and this is a sign that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives.   This is usually within 6-12 months.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect your underwear from the effects of discharge.

  • Hi Vicki,
    There's thus boy in my form and I have liked him ages.Recently I told him and he didn't seem to care. He does not like me back in that way but always tries to make me laugh, jealous and,always talks to me
    Landofoo xx

    Hi Landofoo, maybe this boy does like you but is not yet ready to date anyone....boys do mature later than girls so please try not to be too uspet and see what happens over the next few years.

  • Are "when will you get your first period test or quiz" always correct because i did a few and they say like 8 months to 1 year but i have all the signs and discharge for 7 months and my mum thinks i will get my period soon and so do i. Are these test correct?

    I do not think there is any test that can reliably predict your period as we are all so very different. But if you have noticed some of the signs of puberty then you may not have much longer to wait and the main thing is to be prepared by having some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hiya Viki,
    I have recently got my braces on and I also have glasses. There is a boy in my year I really like and I walk down to the train station and stuff with him but i feel really awkward around him because of my brace and my glasses. I want to ask him out but I don't know if I have the confidence to or if he would say yes. I'm really confused please help! (i'm 12 by the way)

    Love LizziLamb

    Hi Lizzilamb, there is nothing wrong with wearing glasses and braces at all and they are often considered a fashion accessory these days so try not to worry and be yourself. 

  • Hi Vicki
    My friend used to cut, she stopped, and the scars are almost gone. But she got more marks and said its coz she itched them and they been itchy, but it doesn't look like a cut its lots of little bumpy scratches. I really worried plz help!!! Xx :(

    Self-harming is an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't her fault and as you are rightly worried about your friend, ask a trusted teacher to talk to her or suggest that she calls Mindline on 0300 1233393 for confidential help and suppport.

  • What is an appropriate age to have a boyfriend?

    I think it's fine to have a boyfriend if you want to just hang out and be friends, but if you are looking for intimacy such as kissing or cuddling then 13 and older would seem appropriate.

  • Okay so I like this guy and I know he doesn’t like me back but i just want to tell him. I want to get it off of my chest but I can’t find the right words. Since school is out I would be texting him, which is kind of awkward but it’s my only option (I don’t really want to call :/) So I’m basically asking if you could help me tell him that I like him, like how to approach the situation.

    If you don't feel up to telling this boy you like him to his face, calling him or texting him would be the next best thing.  You already suspect he doesn't feel the same about you so if he confirms this, try not to be too upset and try to remain friends if you can.

  • Hi xxx, I am a 30D bra and I was told that a 32C would have the same cup volume as the 30D but I tried on the 32C and it was okay but I bulged slightly out the top of it. I don't understand this. Also is it normal that I was a 32A I'm first year at high school and have went to B then C near the end of second year ( and now a 30D because the 30 is a better band fit)

    A D cup is larger than a C cup so it's no wonder you were bulging out of it.  Next time you go shopping for a bra, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes until you find one that fits you comfortably.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and you are a perfect size for you so please try not to worry.

  • Hey viki
    💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
    i love my bf and he 13 and im 12 there is only 6months between us though and we wanted to go camping together but i don't no how to ask my mum as i am not sure she would trust me for the night with my bf and i really want some alone time with him xx
    bluebunny24 xxxxx 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜

    Hi Bluebunny24, I really feel that spending a night alone with a boy at your age is inappropriate and I am sure your mum will feel the same. Why not think of another way you can spend time with him that does not involve you being alone.

  • What is discharge and what colour is it?

    Discharge is usually a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works not only to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection but also to tell us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • hi
    my bra size varies depending on what shop i go into. 1 shop told me i was a 28 E !!! but another shop told me i was a 30 B. also I'm 14 and are my boobs likely to grow much more because i am a dancer and plan on turning pro soon as i train everyday and dancers have small boobs.

    The best thing to do when you go shopping is to actually try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you as there are often slight differences in size from shop to shop.

  • When I get period pains they are really painful. Is this normal?

    We recommend that you try taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in a warm bath to soothe your discomfort.  However, if the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller and if that doesn't work, ask to arrange an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi vicki! I was sat in class and my friend saw some scratches on my hand so now she is going round telling everybody she knows my deepest secret and that it is that i self-harm but i dont and i dont know what to do please help. Pls put this in the something else catergory! X

    This really isn't a very nice thing for your 'friend' to do and I think I would have to ask her why she finds it necessary to spread lies about you.  In effect, this is a form of bullying and should not be tolerated so tell her that you are going to talk to your teacher as she has really hurt your feelings by doing this.

  • Hi vicki
    Part one
    Question:Last night was my years leaving party (yr 6) and at lunch every one was dareing each other to ask each other out to the dance. And this boy called daiman asked me out and i said did u get dared he said no and ran off. All his friends were like errrr daphne you've hurt his feelings man he achtally likes u.
    daphne

    Hi Daphne, my response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki, I've just finished work experience and over the last five days I've grown to know and care for about 60 4&5yr olds. I've really enjoyed my time working there (my old primary school), and they said they'd said it shouldn't be a problem for me to pop in for a few days. I finish school 3 days before them, do you think they would want me to help out with the stuff for September or something? Not sure how to approach them about it ? Thanks Jess xx

    Hi Jess, it's lovely to hear that you enjoyed your work experience so much.  Maybe working with children will be your vocation?  As the school has said that they don't mind you popping in for a few days, why not give them a ring and arrange it.  I'm sure they will be grateful for the extra help as they are so busy at the end of term.

  • Hi Vicki. Im 13. This really nice boy in my year asked me if I wanted to go to the cinema with him on like a date. Do you think I am too young??

    This really is a question for your parents and as long as you let them drop you off and pick you up I am sure they will agree.

  • Hey Vicki
    Can you where a tampon in bed?? And how often should you change a tampon?? Thanks x
    Louise

    Hi Louise, there is nothing to say you can't wear a tampon in bed but always bear in mind that tampons should only be worn for up to 8 hours.  This is why many choose to use sanitary towels at night time and tampons during the day but the choice is ultimately yours.

  • Hi Viki!
    If I don't wear a bra to bed I get a lot of breast pain in the morning is there something wrong. Also I have much bigger breasts than everyone else and it makes me feel really self-conscious!

    It is perfectly normal to notice discomfort with breast development and you should try not to worry and remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to one another.  Hold your head high and try to feel proud of your shape and size.

  • To Vicki, my mum always puts me down when I say things and acts like my views are stupid and talks to me ole I'm an idiot which is really horrible. But sometimes, I realise I'm copying her without realising and i sometimes do it to my friends😁I feel really bad but I can't help it as I do it without realising what I'm saying.
    Thx lottie

    Hi Lottie, get into the habit of waiting 10 seconds before responding to your friends and this should be just enough time for you to think before you speak. And have a chat to your mum letting her know that you find her comments are having a negative impact on you, it may just be that she does not realise she is being this way.

  • I really hate my brother

    Sibling rivalry is quite common and puberty can naturally be such a difficult time for young girls and boys.  Although you feel like you dislike him at the moment, in time you should become friends so try talking to your parents about how you're feeling to see if they can talk to him and sort things out between you.

  • What does the phrase ' the waters have broken ' mean?

    This refers to the stage in pregnancy when the water sacs that surround the baby in the womb rupture in preparation for birth.

  • I've had discharge for over a year and today my liner looked like it had brown stuff on. It wasn't a dark brown or anything. It was like, white mixed with light brown to make an even lighter brown. I don't know if this is my first period or not and it happened yesterday too. -Ellie<3

    Hi Ellie, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicky, It's Snowbelle here i just have a quick question.
    Since I am quite short for my age I am really self concious about it, Any tips on how to look taller?
    ¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬¬(so i know its mine)

    Hi Snowbelle, shorter skirts (not too short), tops that show off your waist (but not your tummy) and a little bit of a heel (but no more than 3") are some common tips people try.

  • i feel really sad when i see pretty blonde girls with blue or green eyes on instagram from my school because I know i'll never look like them :( i dont see any 'popular' black girls in the years above me so i feel like i'll never be accepted like that. i have medium length black hair and my eyes are really dark brown i'm also short :/ all of the blonde popular girls are quite tall but i'm 12 and i'm short :( will i ever be like a popular girl in year 9 and stuff :/

    It would not do for us all to look the same and I am sure there are just as many blonde haired and blue eyed girls that wish they had glossy brown hair and brown eyes. So rather than worry about being the same as others, be individual and show off those luxurious locks and beautiful eyes.

  • Part 2 and I was wondering if you could tell me of I'm a sociopath even though it's unlikely as on 3% of the population is believed to have antisocial personality disorder if it helps I'm 12

    I think you are simply entering puberty which can very often make teenagers grumpy and feeling frustrated. They can also struggle to be sociable, but this does not mean they have a medical condition. Finally, your mum does have a point and you may find my blog entitled; Is your phone taking over your life useful.

  • My mum always says to me to get off that computer or get of those gadgets as I'm quite anti-social she also said that children who use technology often can form mental problems and be worse in school I looked into it and I think I might have antisocial personality disorder (sociopath) as I sometimes feel an urge to punch or kick people if they are being stupid and even though every other girl in my year has a crush on someone I hAve never into life felt anything like that continue to part 2

    My response is in Part Two.

  • hi vicki,
    are your freshen up wipes smelly? because i really stink down there
    from ria

    Hi Ria, our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-up wipes have a nice light fragrance to leave you feeling clean and fresh.

  • Hi Vicky i am 13 and going on holiday in summer can i still go swimming on my period

    You might like to try our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use and are the only form of sanitary protection you can use whilst swimming.  For more help with this, check out my blog link on Tampons and the Summer holidays.

  • I like a boy, and i have liked him for he longest time ever. The past some weeks, he has been rude to me. But has made up for it by holding the door for me and asking if I'm alright because I fell some days before. My friend doesn't like him, and I am getting the feeling that she wants me to give up? What should I do?

    During puberty, it is normal for teens to develop attraction to others and as you like this boy, I think you should get to know him better as a friend to see if you truly like him.

  • hi vicki, I had a tiny fight with my bestfriend a while ago, and we just started talking again. she mean the world to me and is the only person that understands me and helps me through everything, but she's been acting weird around me, and I told my friend on snapchat, but I sent it to her by mistake, and now she's annoyed at me and I don't want to loose her again, what should I do??

    You should try to be honest with your friend and tell her how much you value her friendship.  You could tell her that you want to put all of this behind you and look to the future as the good friends you always were.

  • Hello Vicky
    I'm 12 years old (turning 13 in December)and i have had discharge since
    Last year and I'm wondering when i'll get my periods and if you know
    Can you plz tell me

    Thx xoxo

    Curious to know

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so I would guess you haven't too much longer left to wait.

  • dear Vicki

    how do u know when u have started developing breasts?
    Also, I love this website

    You will notice a breast bud which is a small raised lump that sits behind the nipple.  Thank you for supporting our website.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I got my period in February this year and I have ha it every month since except march is this normal to have mostly regular periods this early I was late last month and early the month before but apart from that nothing irregular I'm 13 btw 14 I'm August ! Plz answer ❤❤❤❤❤❤

    Please try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I've liked this guy for about 6 months now and about a month ago he kissed me on the cheek and told me he liked me! I was so excited because he knew I liked him and had been ignoring me for aaagges! He explained that he didn't want a girlfriend though so I was a little disappointed. recently he hasn't been talking to me and has been flirting with loads of other girls.. like reeeaally flirting! I'm trying to get over him but its really hard as I think im in love! please help!!! Hali xx

    Hi Hali, it is normal for young girls and boys to form deep attraction to others during puberty due to the increase in activity of sex hormones and this is called a crush and the thing is that crushes often fade in time so try not to worry.  Even though this boy has said he doesn't want a girlfriend right now, he does seem to enjoy flirting with others and if this is what makes him happy, you should leave him to it and try to forget about him.

  • do animal mammals have periods??

    The do but not quite the same as us and generally the lining of the uterus disperses inside the animal unlike in humans where it is released on a monthly basis.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have had discharge for a year and having really bad tummy cramps and lots of headaches.Also I suddenly cry for. No reason or shout at a boy. Do you think my period is due
    P.S my mum and my sister started their periods at age 12 I'm 11 do you think I'll follow the same pattern
    Thanks liv xxxxx

    Hi Liv, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. As for your mood swings, they are perfectly normal during puberty as hormones run riot and teens struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.

  • Hi vicki, I dont know who to ask.. So I thought of you. How can I remov puberty hair... I wax underarms but wat about the other ones ? I use hair removal creams but I dont let it go so far. How can I clean them off fully? Plz help. I cant ask anybdy

    Some young girls choose to simply trim their pubic hair back while others prefer to shave it off either by using a clean razor or by using special removal creams but the choice is ultimately yours.

  • how do i tell my mum im having my period

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and also remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed as she will be able to help you through this special time in your life.

  • in 4 weeks im going alton towers with school im in a group of people il will have to sit behind them as they no room im worried they will leave me can you hep me please

    Please try not to worry as I'm sure you will have a lovely time if you just try and be yourself and relax.  Look at ways of trying to build your confidence, joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport might be a good place to start.

  • What facial cleanser would you recommend for an 11 year old?

    Simple Facial Cleansing wash is an ideal product and because it is perfume and colour free is kind to even the most sensitive of skins.

  • for 5 years i had grey hairs coming im only 12 i get bullied for this why is this happening it only about 7 streaks





    diamond xx

    Pigmentation lost to the hair is fairly commonin adults and not so common in chidren, so why not ask your mum to pop you along to your GP for a check-up. It may be a vitamin deficiency or actually nothing at all and simply genetic. Either way I am sure your doctor will put your mind at ease.

  • hi vicki
    i have a 2 problems
    . my washing manchine is filling up i think the part where u put farbic contionder . my mum doesnt understand and i really want her to clean it but she aint listening and stuff like this stress me out .




    diamondwishes

    Hi, try not to stress I am sure if your mum thought it was causing any issues with the cleaning of your clothes she would sort it.

  • Hi,
    I'm 13 & I my breast are developing & Im growing underarm&pubic hair (this started just under 1 year ago), but still haven't got my first period.i am starting to find this white, sticky/watery stuff in all of my underwear, and I was wondering what it is? And how to get rid of it because its got a very bad odour?
    Thanks x

    You have noticed many signs of puberty which is perfectly normal.  The 'white sticky stuff' in your underwear is discharge which is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works not only to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection but also as a sign that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives and this is usually within 6-12 months of releasing discharge.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicki. I just wanna ask, is it normal not to have breakouts or any spots on your face? I don't seem to have that. Loads of my friends have spots and I feel like my skin might not be normal. Could you help? Thanks x
    Sumi xoxox

    Hi Sumi, 90% of teens develop spots to some extent during puberty and it is considered to be perfectly normal as oil and sweat glands become more active than ever before.

  • i have been having discharge for a couple of months and recently i have been getting angry and sad does this mean i am going to get my periods?
    thanks
    xx

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so you have a while longer left to wait.  During puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to feel a range of emotions as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once but try not to worry as it does get easier as puberty progresses.

  • I masturbate quite a lot and when my friends speak about it they think its so disgusting and then i think its so bad that i do but just the feeling is so pleasurable. Also sometimes my period might skip a month and then come on, why does it do this?

    Here's the thing about masturbation, lots of people do it, but prefer not to admit it. So please don't feel ashamed for exploring the way your body makes you feel it really is a quite normal. As for periods well they can often be irregular with gaps of a few months being noticed from time to time and again is nothing to be worried about.

  • I started my period about 6-7 months ago but the date keeps changing, is this normal? And when will it start to be around the same time every month? Thank youuu xx

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the chnages in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Sorry if this is really irelivant but one of my moles on my back really hurts when I touch it, should I be worried? Thankyou ################

    Any moles that are itchy, change colour or shape and feel uncomfortable should be seen by your GP who will advise you further.

  • Hello, so basically I have had 5 periods which 3 was only a tiny bit of blood, and really irregular, the last 2 were proper ones lasting a week or more, and I came on two months in a row, now I'm having really heavy discharge, for about a week now, does this mean I will come on my period again quiet soon? Thanks ❇❇❇❇❇❇

    Discharge can vary from day to day; sometimes heavy, other times light and it does not always mean your period is going to arrive anytime soon. It may however, be a good idea to wear a liner for the next few days just in case.

  • Hi viki,
    I really like this boy who I dated for at least 4 years but after we broke up he said it was a dare, this made me very upset but somehow I can't take my mind off him I love him so much, how do I tell him how I feel?

    Eatsleepsing

    Hi, it is highly unlikely that someone dated another person for 4 years as a dare, so I think this boy is just saying this to lessen the hurt he feels at no longer dating you. Why not give him some space and let him see how much fun you are from a distance by spending time with your friends, this may make him see that you and he really are meant to be together but for now a break seems the best solution.

  • Hi Vicki, I was wondering what age does periods start and I mean roughly and by the way this website is awesome thank you for making it.

    The average age for a girl to get her period is 12-13 but quite a few girls start earlier than this or later and the general guide is betweeen 8-18 years of age.

  • How do you tell your mum your periods have started

    If you feel too shy to tell her face to face, you could leave her a note and put it somewhere only she will find it, like her make-up bag or under her pillow. Or you could drop her a text. Finally, lots of girls send their mums one of our e-cards and we do the telling for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 13 and I started my period two years ago. I love swimming and going to the beach so my mum suggested using tampons. However, when I try to take them out, it really hurts. I don't use them at the very start or very end of my period, so what am I doing wrong?

    Thanks a lot!

    It may be that you are using too high an absorbency for your flow or removing them too soon. A tampon should be worn for between 4-8 hours and if you notice any restriction or discomfort when removing it would be a good idea to leave them in a little longer...but never longer than 8 hours. You may also find our Lil-Lets teens range of tampons an ideal first tampon as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • how do you stop having vaginal smell

    Washing or bathing every day will help as will using Lil-Lets Freshen up wipes during the day and ourpant liners too. You may also find in the hot weather wearing cotton and loose fitting clothes will reduce the amount of sweat produced.

  • Dear Vicky

    What is the best way to deal with really heavy periods?

    A good quality pad such as our Lil-Lets Freshlock range and if you wear tampons consider our non-applicator range that have absorbencies for very light periods to extremely heavy periods.

  • Hi!
    So there's this boy Im 13 and he's 14 but we 10 months apart but anyway I really like him and he said he likes me but then he got a GF they broke up like 2 weeks after but now I'm scared to ask him what's going on coz we friends now and our friendship is already dented because of him now I'm trying to get us back to how we were but i still like him so plz help me
    thanx♡♡

    Give this time, if you are meant to date it will happen, but you really do need to relax and enjoy being friends with this boy so he does not feel pressured into dating someone if he is not yet ready.

  • Hey vicki!
    I really want to start using a tampon and i tried many times, but when i try it kind of hurts putting it in. Is that normal for the first time?
    Yuval xxx

    Hi Yuval, like anything new using a tampon can take a little bit of practice. Ensure you always insert in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and that the tampon is placed high inside your vagina so it does not feel uncomfortable. You may also find our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons are ideal as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • Can I leave the same pad when it's not that dirty?

    A pad can be worn for up to 8 hours and maybe a little longer if no menstrual fluid has been captured within its core.

  • Hi vicky! I am eleven and I started. Noticing like a brown substance on my panties and it barely started yesterday should I be worried?

    This is almost certainly your first period and I would share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will ensure you have some pads or tampons to protect your underwear whilst on your period.

  • Why do girls have a hymen covering part of the vagina? Thanks 😊

    They hymen is a piece of skin that keeps the entrance to the vagina protected from infection.

  • What's TSS?

    For all you need to know about TSS read our section on this subject under the Periods tab.

  • PART TWO Ive sort of had enough of this now because I think I'm ready for a padded bra. I've found it so hard to tell I her I want this, any suggestions? Xx

    Why not ask if you can spend sometime going girly shopping for new underwear, believe it or not, mums do understand about puberty and just how awkward it can be purchasing your first bra.

  • PART ONE Hi, I am 13 years old (14 in December) and I still don't wear a bra! When I was in year7 my mum kept asking me if I wanted one and I said no, now I do. Ages ago my sister gave me all her old underwear because she doesn't need it anymore and I've been wearing some bras that fit me as I'm fairly flat chested, when ever I go to school or out with my friends I wear a bra and then when I get home I take it off!

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki what is sex ?

    Sexual intercourse is when the male places his penis inside the female's vagina.

  • Hi Vicki, my name is Sydney but all my friends call me Syd. I am 13 years old.So for a couple months now I have noticed that when i shave my privet parts i get what i think is razor burn and it hurts REALLY bad for about 3 days. Now if I don't shave I get very itchy down there. I have not told my mom because she doesn't agree with it. So what do you think I should do and do you think it is razor burn?

    P.S. I always moisturize after I shave; same as when i shave my legs and
    underarms.

    Hi Sydney, it could be razor burn, but very often this area can become sore with an ugly rash and I really would urge you to let this hair grow back and simply keep it tidy by trimming it. I certainly do not think there is any need to remove this hair at 13 or indeed any age.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So for the few periods I had, I just want an end.mine have been regular since the start. people recommend birth control pills but I don't like the fact that it increases breast cancer risk.Im 11, I just want to stop it for two or three years. Periods just ruin my life. Is there a safe way to not have it for years and get it back without health risk? I just want to have a life that doesn't involve worrying about this.Please help

    Rather than looking at periods as a chore, consider how marvelous they actually are. They are a sign that in the future you may be able to carry a new life and as long as you have a good quality pad or tampon they should not impact on your life one little bit.

  • Hey Vicky
    first I want to start off by thanking you for answering my other questions. Okay so there's a guy that I used to date and now I do not but I feel like we had a really good friendship and I would like to regain back because we lost all communication I'm just afraid to make the first move because what if he doesn't respond and I don't want to be rejected bu him because I really miss the times that we used to have what should I do
    Love A

    Hi A, you could just start by smiling when you see him and then asking him how he is, what he has been doing. This should let him know that you want to speak to him in the future as a friend.

  • I am 12, and I have been having discharge for about 11 months. It's has not changed much in color. It's became much more heavier and the only color it's changed to is a little bit of a darker yellow. I have had breast development for about a year and a half, and have leg, underarm, and pubic hair. I also have the cramps, and lower back pains. I was wondering if you could give me a guesstimate of when my first period should be?

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed your period may be with you by the end of the year or early in 2015.

  • Can u plz explain what a tampon is in simple words? Thnx!

    A tampon is a piece if cotton or rayon material that is pressed together to form a cylinder shape. It is then inserted inside the vagina to collect menstrual fluid before it leaves the body. For more on tampons then why not read our blogs and Product section on the website.

  • i want to ask a question about bras when should i start to wear a bra im 12 and my mum tells me i have to start but i want to know when do i know i need to wear a bra

    Wearing a bra is a personal choice and some people are happy to go without one for many years. As a general rule if you find your breasts move about when you are active or you can see your nipple through your outer clothes it may be time to be fitted for your first bra. Why not read our section entitled Boobs and Bras for more on this subject.

  • Hey Vicki I'm 11 years old and I haven't had my period yet and ig have this white thing that is on my vagina and it makes my underwear wet and itchy and when I check down there I take out the white thing and then and the side up there's something white up the there where's itchy and I smell it smells like infection

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, it really is nothing to worry about and you can find out more about this subject by clicking on the Puberty section on our website.

  • hi there, I'm generally a sweaty person and get very sweaty "down there", I was just wondering if there is anything I can do to help reduce the sweat as there is always a smell and leaves a mark on chairs?.. thank you:)

    Try to wear loose fitting cotton underwear and consider trying our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes; ideal for cleansing this area when you visit the toilet.

  • when will i have my period

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and you can find out more about this subject in our Periods and Puberty section on the website.

  • is it possibe to have your periods twice in one month?

    Yes sometimes periods can have short gaps between each one.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 18 and I think I measure up to be a 30B but I don't understand why my boobs won't grow any bigger I'm getting fed up and EXTREMELY self conscious about it! I have friends who are a dress size smaller and taller but have bigger boobs that have actually grown from the front in the middle not just a bump on the side! I don't wear anything low cut because I'm so embarrassed! This has left me in tears on SO MANY occasions:(
    P.s. could weight problems when I was younger have caused it?

    Breast size is almost always genetic and it is most likely you are following in size to family members. Remember however that breasts can continue to become fuller over time and if this is a real problem for you, you could always purchase some gel inserts that can be placed inside your bra, but personally I think a B cup is a nice size to  be.

  • Hi Vicky , How are you ? Thank you for your awsome advices :) My name is Sophia and whenever I move I feel a burning sensation in my breast with pain in the back , i went to the doctor and he said I do not suffer from any problem, but I am concerned that this may cause me harm in the future because the breast is sensitive :( So what should i do ???? i'm really worried !!!

    Hi Sophia, breasts are often sensitive when they are developing and if your doctor is happy with your health then I would not worry too much and ensure in future you have a good supporting bra to help decrease any discomfort.

  • Hi vicki
    My best friend says she has a crush on my boyfriend. Im really upset with her because everytime i tell her i like someone she always ends up likin them to. I really like my boyfriend and i dont want her to spoil my relationships like he always does . What do i dooooo?
    ❤️❤️🏨🏢🏨🏨🏨🏨🏨🏨🏨🏨🏨🏨so i know it mine

    Well firstly he is your boyfriend and has chosen to date you, so rather than worry about how she feels, be confident in your releationship and make sure your boyfriend and you have fun so your friend can see you are unbreakable as a couple.

  • My face. I was supposed to be born with down syndrome but God saved me. I've read online that they have late puberty. I'm 14 I haven't gotten a period. only once that lasted 3 days. Anyways, when I look at my mirror I go upside down and in my mirror I see a face of a down syndrome. I thought it was fake but I asked my little sis and she said the same. I don't even have to go all the way upside down to see my eyes and face forming.

    Hi, there is no evidence to show that people with down syndrome notice puberty later than anyone else, so please try not to worry about this and you may find our website will help you understand what is happening to you both physically and emotionally at this time in your life.

  • Hi,
    Lately I have noticed, that I have goo ten a lot of fat around my stomach but nowhere else on my body.
    I've talked to my mum and she said it was part of growing up but I just wanted to check.
    Hope this made sense :)
    Rebecca, 11 xxx

    Hi Rebecca, your mum is quite right and a rounded tummy area is a common change that some girls notice to their shape as they become women.

  • Hiya Vicki,
    How should you start shaving? Do you HAVE to use a cream or is it ok without? Also what is birth control?
    Thank so much! I don't what us girlies would do without this website!!!! What u do is very helpful!
    From LULU 🐯🐯🐯

    Hi Lulu, you should always use some form of lubricant on your legs to help the razor glide across the skin, such as shaving gel, foam or even hair conditioner. Birth control is something that you use to prevent an unwanted pregnancy it can come in the form or condoms, pills or devices that are placed inside the vagina.

  • Hi vicki

    Hi I'm molly
    I don't know when I am going to start my period: I have been getting
    Pains in my lower stomach and pubic hairs and discharge
    Thanks !!

    Hi Molly, with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait. Make sure you have some pads or liners with you from now on when you are out and about in preparation.

  • Hi Vicks,
    Are girls from LA allowed to ask questions

    Many thanks,
    Charlotte-Elizabeth

    Anyone can ask me a question Charlotte-Elizabeth.

  • when your boobs actually start wobberling like as you move about does it mean your about a size b when that happed because im bra size a but my boobs wobble all the time but my friends who are bra size a don't thanksxx plese put this in boobs and bras

    Boobs can wobble about at any size, so it may be a good idea to get yourself measured in a store and find a bra that supports your breasts when you are active.

  • Dear vicki

    i was in school and went to the toilet and i looked down and there was brown stuff in my underwear i was wondering if it was my period.

    Yes this does sound very much like your first period, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • If I've started my period should I were a bra (I have have got small boobs)

    Just because your period has arrived it does not mean you have to now wear a bra. So why not add your measurements to our Bra Guide and see if it's time for your first bra, you can then have a chat to your mum.

  • What are soft cups

    Soft cups are little plastic cups that you insert inside your vagina to catch menstrual fluid and then remove rinse out and place back in.

  • Hi Vicki
    Ok so my mum is a b cup does this mean I'll be a b too? But my aunty (my mum's sister) has got MASSIVE boobs so has my grandma (my mum's mum) so I'm not sure what size I'll be.
    I'm 11and a size 32AA at the moment
    Thanks,
    Meg XXX

    Hi, it really is a case of waiting to see what the future brings, some girls take after their mum, while others take after other family members.

  • Hello. I am 13 soon to be 14 and I have had my period for 1 year and a half. I have very very bad cramps and I take Advil and it never helps. What should I do. And at night when I sleep it leaks all over My panties and my shorts. I wear heavy pads and liners to try and help keep it from leaking.😞 it is really getting on my nerves cause it happens ever single time. Please help. And thank you so much

    Why not try our Lil-Lets Freshlock night pads, they are wider at one end so they can be placed either end of your underwear to prevent leakage. (They work for me) However, if you plan to sleep for less than 8 hours you may find using a tampon a better idea for when you are sleeping. As for period pain, well exercise will help this discomfort and leave you feeling happier too.

  • I got my first period in November 2013 and I've missed a period in January, April and June so far. My last period was the beginning of May. My friend said this happened to her sister amd had to have tablets to make it come in the end. Is it normal to miss this much? Would that happen to me?

    Periods are very often irregular with long gaps between each being experienced for the first couple of years, it really is nothing to worry about and you would be wise to just wait and try not to listen to other people's experiences.

  • On Friday 4th I went to Blackpool pleasure beach ( I wrote to you about my period) anyway I went on infusion bad mistake on the ride I was thrown around and ever since I have has really bad chest pain especially as I excersise like running ect do you know what this is btw i already have big boobs so it can't be my boobs growing can it?
    Thank you Isobel xoxoxox

    Hi Isobel, it could be that your breasts were thrown around a little too much and are a little sore. Why not see what the next few days bring and if you continue to notice pain, have a chat to your mum and ask if she can pop you along to your GP for a check up.

  • Hey Vicki
    Im very confident about my body but my lower body meaning my 'down there' is pretty big in my eyes cause I've had people bring it up to me and it hurts me coz I'm self concious about it already and when I wear a bikini or just a swim suit I always wear shorts and I just wanna be comfortable but I can't!
    Kitty♡

    Hi Kitty, the external part of our reproductive organs; the vulva will look different for each of us and you really should not feel self-conscious about this area. And my advice would be to ignore any silly comments from others.

  • hi i am 16 ad have had a boyfriend for a while now and we were wanting to have sex but i am worried it will hurt also will i bleed
    yours sincerely
    Tessa

    Hi Tessa, sex should never be painful if both people taking part listen to what each other like and consider the other persons feelings. There may be a tiny bit of blood loss if your hymen is stretched but this is certainly not always the case.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 13 and a lot of my friends are all ready getting boobs but i dont think im developing as fast, is this normal?

    This is very normal and we all develop at different times and you have plenty of time for your breasts to grow and in the meantime, try not to compare your progress with that of others.

  • I don't want to ask my mum to get me a bra and what if i need one what shall i do?

    If you are allowed to go shopping with friends they consider purchasing a bra when out with them. it can be a lot of fun trying on lots of different styles and sizes, until you find the perfect one for you.

  • i keep feeling all tingly down there when i think about this boy in my class do i like him? i have a boyfriend aswell what should i do?
    help
    confused teen
    btw i am 14

    It does appear that you have an attraction for this boy, even though you have a boyfriend. Take some time to think seriously whether you and your boyfriend are happy together or if you should part. But don't go rushing into dating someone else if you decide to end things, it could just be attraction for this boy who may not be a good friend if you date.

  • Hi Vicki,
    First of all, just to say, this website has been really helpful to me.
    Anyway, that discharge stuff makes me really uncomfortable. Like it makes me feel really gross and it makes me not want to move at all. I hate it?!!? What do I do??
    Thanks

    Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens pant liners, ideal for keeping you clean and fresh when discharge is being produced by the body.

  • Hi vicki, i started my period back in january and have had it once every month ever since however after may i havent got another one. Recently i have noticed an increase in discharge and today i have experienced abdominal pains, cramps or bloating, i cant tell the difference, do think there is something wrong? And would i be getting it soon? Many thanks, Natss

    Periods are often irregular for the first couple of years, even when they have been regular previously. So try not to worry this is just your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • I started my period wednesday 8th july and today im still bleeding but havnt bleed for about 1hour is this normal?and the blood is really light and brownish red?

    This is all very normal and very often menstrual fluid becomes lighter in both the amount produced and the colour. So please try not worry.

  • Ive had that discharge stuff for like 2 years, but my period hasnt started.. Is this normal?? And when do you think it will start??
    Love FreyFrey

    Hi FreyFrey, there really is nothing to worry about here and lots of people experience discharge for a year or more before the arrival of their period.

  • Hey, I've never had like sexual feelings and I'm not on pills I mean I'm 15 and I've had my period for a year now but how come I never get those sexual feelings like everyone else does at school but not me. I have my crushes and celeb crushes but I never felt the erge to "masturbate" either like not that I don't want to but I just don't have those feelings what's wrong with me ?????????? Xx

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with you and there are a great many people who do not feel the need to masturbate or have sexual experiences.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have always been very skinny, however I eat healthily, and take part in regular exercise. However my BMI is saying that I am too skinny. My weight is 6st 10, and I am 5ft 4, am I too thin?

    If you feel generally well and your family are not concerned then I would avoid taking part in any online BMI tests or what the scales say. Some people are just naturally slim and you may be one of them.

  • Today we had a strike day so we all went out again and all the boys got drunk again and it got out of hand (again none of us girls drank) but some older kids came over and started smoking and one boy was really drunk and was crying when we ran out of drinks so i walked home but im worried i will get accused of drinking or smoking but i cant just ditch my friends because they are so nice sober its just when they are drunk it gets out of hand and quite dangerous! part2

    It would be wise to avoid  visiting the park for a while and until your friends realise that drinking and smoking is not only not clever but also in most parks it is a crime. Remember too that it does not make you a grown up to do either.

  • hi vicki, on tuesday night after school me and my friends (girls) arranged to meet up with some boys, when we got there they were all drinking, (we are 12/13). None of us girls drank but i didnt want to smell. part 1

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Dose it hurt when you have your periods

    Some people notice a little discomfort, but for most of us a period has no impact on your daily life.

  • I sometimes miss my period for two months or a month, is that normal ? Even though I started my period 3 years ago?

    Yes this is normal and can very often continue this way as you journey through puberty.

  • Hello Vicky!
    I am 14 and only 154 cm tall (short i know). I wear a 30B or 32B cup size depending on the brand. My boobs are so not tight and very slouched if you can understand me. I am having loads of itchiness and dryness around my nipples, is it bad? Plus, am really really insecure about my breast s

    Breasts often take a while to develop and during this process you can find they are tender and itch a little. They can also require a little bit of moisturiser if they appear dry. Breast can often appear triangular in shape for the first few years and again this is nothing to worry about.

  • Dear vicki,

    Im 13 years and still havent got my period. Loads of girls have and in a way i kind of want to have it but im worried because im scared if i were to get it at school. we do swimming at our school and im scared if i will get my first period in the pool pleasehelp!!
    Kate xx

    Hi Kate,  a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive. And please don't worry about your period arriving when in school or in the pool there will be a teacher or school secretary who will be able to help you.

  • I just litually now had my period and im scared

    Please don't be scared and share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will ensure you have some products to protect your underwear. And for more information on periods why not read all the great stuff on our website.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 14 and I've had discharge for about a year now but still haven't started my period yet. How much longer will it be until I start my period? Thanks x

    Discharge can often be noticed for longer than a year, please don't worry though....your body will know instinctively when the time is right for your period to arrive.

  • Do you think I have a vaginal infection? My discharge is white, or clear, and on my knickers it's yellowish-whitish.
    The discharge smells differently; some days it has hardly any scent, or it smells like pee. Might I have an infection, or is it healthy discharge? I get discharge everyday. I mean it. :/

    This is not an infection and would appear to be the normal colour and odour for discharge so please do not worry.

  • Hi Vicki

    Me and my boyfriend had sex then after a while I start bleeding a little in the vagina we had it before and nothing happened is something wrong?

    I would not worry too much it may be that the blood was noticed if your hymen had been stretched a little and if the bleeding has now stopped then I am sure all is well.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I am 4'11 and I have started my period (I'm 12). is it normal to have thighs that are much much longer than your calf? And will my calves grow? Sorry if this seems like a stupid question but I worry about looking weird sometimes :/
    Thx! -Belle

    Hi Belle, we are all different and come in a variety of shapes and sizes and I really do not think you have anything to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki i am 12 years old and have got the signs I also am getting white stains in my knickers is this a sign iM going to have my period soon? Also the other day I was with my netball friends and they asked me what bra size I am but I don't know should I know?

    thanks GossipGirl xxxx

    Hi GossipGirl, firstly this white fluid you are noticing is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and healthy it is also a great sign that your period may not be too far away. As for breast sizing, well if you do not feel like you need a bra just yet, then there is no reason to know what your size is.

  • When i tried for the first time to insert a tampon it kind of hurt. Is that normal?

    Like anything new it can take a little bit of practice to insert a tampon correctly and you will find as time goes by, inserting a tampon becomes easier.

  • Is there a way u know u are getting ur period other than discharge

    Some girls notice breast development, pubic and under arm hair before their period arrives, but this is not the case for everyone. It's important to know that not all girls notice discharge either. So it really is a case of waiting for your body to decide when the time is right just for you.

  • My friends say that if you sleep in a bra, your boobs won't grow and they will go black, is this true?

    No this is not true and it really is a personal choice as to whether you feel more comfortable wearing a bra when sleeping or not.

  • I've noticed some white dried up stuff on my vagina, but when I go in the shower it goes, is this discharge or a yeast infection or something?

    This is discharge and you can find out more about this fluid by checking out our section entitled Discharge under the Puberty tab.

  • I bought a sex goddess apron for my friend and was going to give it to her on monday cause she asked me to and stuffed it in my wardrobe then my boyfriend saw it and immediately left I'm worried what shall i do.

    What do you need to be worried about, this is just a present for someone and would not be a reason for him to be upset and I imagine his leaving was just a coincidence.

  • 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
    I'm 12 and I have public hair, under arm hair, boobs (although still small), discharge since I was 7, I've have a growth spirt, mood swings and I have hips but I still haven't started my period! Is this normal? Cause I heard that you only get underarm hair after your period

    This is all very normal and the signs of puberty can arrive at different times for each of us. So please try not to worry, your period may not be too far away now.

  • ive been getting white stains in my pants for over 12 months, what does this mean?

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection, it is also a great sign that your period is not too far away, so ensure you have some pads or liners with you from now on and when out and about.

  • I've been having shower orgasms for about 9 months but I've read that they could cause pregnancy problems or even death, is this true?

    No there is no truth to these rumours.

  • Do Every girl get periods?

    Pretty much all females menstruate and it is a very, very small percentage of the population that does not menstruate.

  • Hi vicki
    i only get discharge in one side if my pants, is this normal?

    Yes this is very normal and the discharge is situated her because of the way you sit or the way your underwear is worn, it's nothing to worry about.

  • Hi vicki, so im 12 and my crush is turning 13 on 23 july and he doewnt like me back but i wanna do something sweet to him on his bd btw we r on summer holiday so theres no chance i can give him a gift! Plz give me advice!
    Sara.

    Hi Sara, why not make him a cup cake, or simply send him a text saying Happy Birthday.

  • Hello Vicki, turns out the boy I like dosent have a girlfriend and he was joking? He deffiantly knows I like him btw. So after he told me he was joking he asked me a question. ' how did you feel when I told you I had a girlfriend' i relied ' erm I don't really know, happy for you, why?' And then I asked why and he said he was just wondering. I'm confused by why he asked me this?

    Of course he asked you this question to see if you were jealous or sad and if you really do like this boy, it's time to come clean and tell him so, before the moment slips away and he dates someone else.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So this guy and I used to like each other but now he likes one of my good friends and I think they're about to start dating but I still like him a lot. What should I do? P.s I'm 16
    Thanks heaps

    It may be an idea to spend time away from this boy and your friend so the discomfort of seeing them as a couple does not cause you any further distress. That does not mean you should ignore them, they are after all still friends, it may just be better to spend time with other friends and family members.

  • hello
    im 16 and have my period but i have 30aa boobs and im starting college in 2 months and im really self conscious , what can i do ?

    Puberty can leave a great many teens feeling self-conscious so you certainly won't be alone in wondering how you will fit in. Your breasts however should not be something you worry about as we really are all different and our breasts will continue to develop into the late teens and early twenties.

  • Hello Vicki!
    As you said in my previous question, I'm close to starting my period.
    I have so much discharge, it destroys my best knickers and I even have to chuck some of them in the bin! This is so so annoying; I really want liners. BUT I'M SCARED OF ASKING MY MUM! I don't have any money except £1, and I don't think that'll even buy me some wipes! :(
    How can I ask Mum for supplies to save my knickers?
    Thanks x

    Discharge although alarming when you first see it in your underwear, will wash out very easily and I imagine your mum has already noticed it when she does the weekly wash. Why not ask if you can request a free sample from Lil-lets that includes liners and I am sure once your mum sees how much better you feel after using them she will be more inclined to purchase them for you on a regular basis.

  • Hi Vicky!

    What can you do if you have a flat chest and will your boobs grow bigger somehow? At what certain age will your boobs start to grow big? Thanks!

    Breats continue growing into your late teens or early twenties so please do not worry there is always plenty of time for development to start.

  • I masturbate almost every day and i want to stop. How can i stop masturbating?

    Try to avoid being alone in your room and fill your time with family and friends.

  • I am 15 years old and I still havent had my period! I masturbate almost everyday and im very athletic, i have been getting a small amount of discharge for a few weeks. Is there something wrong with me that i havent had my period yet?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and I do not think you have anything to be anxious or worried about.

  • Are panty liners the same thing as sanitary towels? Thanks!

    No, pant liners are very thin and suitable for keeping your underwear clean and protected from discharge and very, very light periods. A santiary pad is for your period and is very absorbent.

  • There is this boy who likes me but he does mean stuff to me to cover it up. We are Christians and we were sitting next to each other and were about to pray (we hold hands when we pray) and I really don't like boys so I had to swap places with my sister because I COULDN'T hold his hand. When will I ever like guys? PS I'm 12

    You have plenty of time for boys to become important to you romantically, for now concentrate on school and studies.

  • I have sports day tomorrow and I'm heavy on my period, I'm scared it might go down my leg and I will never be able to face school again, I'm doing running infront of the whole school, help!? I quick reply would be great, Thankyou

    If you wear a good quality sanitary pad there should be not worry about leakage, why not try our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal pad, super thin and super absorbent too.

  • I had a stomach cramp and pain nuv and then and after sometime had bloody mucus discharge. What's it

    This is almost certainly your period and you may want to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hi!
    This isn't a question, just a message for 'M' the girl who has a dance show and doesn't want people to see her cuts, a god idea is to put foundation/concealer on them, this is what my friend does and it works quite well 😊 But please don't self harm...it's not worthit 😔
    Love Anna

    Hi Anna, thank you for comment.

  • Vickiiiii , I am 19 ..i have very small boobs they havnt been growing, I feel embaressd, im gonna be 20 soon. Will they never grow ?? Ps. Im very skinny and tall 5'7..help

    Please try not to worry as breasts can still develop into your 20's.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 12, 13 this year
    I have had hair under my arms for a few years, I have hair down there. I haven't started my period yet, but I've had discharge for a few months, my mum got me pads ready a while back. But the other day i had pain in my lower back and lower stomach, I've found I've been really grumpy and moody, am I going to start my period soon? If so do you know roughly when i will? My mum started when she was 14.

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait is most likely why your mum has purchased some pads for you. So keep some with you from now on and see what happens over the next few months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've just started my period lately and they're irregular so how can I tell when my next one will be? Also, how can I differentiate between discharges and period blood?
    Thanks,
    Worrywartx

    Hi, it can be difficult to predict your next period for the first couple of years and for this reason having some pads or liners with you at all times seems a good idea. Finally, discharge is often clear or creamy yellow in colour, whilst menstrual fluid ranges from light brown to dark red.

  • Hi Vicki,

    Im very slim, and all of my friends and family say it, however i eat loads. I exercise regularly, and im 11 yrs old. Is this normal

    Yes this is fine and not something you need to worry about. You may however find as you get older your shape changes and becomes more womanly.

  • Hi, i'm 14 and have been on my period since i was 12 but have never used a tampon. I've tried so many times but i just can't do it, i don't know where it goes in or anything! All my friends can do it but i can't, is there something wrong and how/where to i put them in? Also i'm a swimmer so it really affects me as i have 3-4 sessions a week. I'm going to a waterpark to but if i don't use a tampon then i can't. Please help me?!

    Why not try inserting your finger inside your vagina and then when your next period arrives consider using our Lil-Lets teens regular non=applicator tampons, shorter and narrower than other brands so ideal for first time users. Make sure you insert in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and maybe give a little cough as you do so, this very often relaxes the vaginal muscles and aids insertion.

  • I have a really big crush on an actor- and I like his movies and things but I have to come up with an excuse every time I buy one of the movies, because I daren't tell my parents that I like him because he's 39 and I'm scared they'll find the age difference weird. I don't know if it's a big issue but it's just frustrating.

    I do not feel this is an issue but more likely just a crush and really not something you need to worry about.

  • Hii
    Maybe too weird but is it normal to masturbate

    Thanks
    Im 13 :| 😳😳😳

    Masturbation is both instinctive and natural.

  • Hi vicki!
    I have a small spot on both my nipples and i'm worried it might be something bad. I have it on both my breasts. Is it bad?
    And my discharge has been comming for a year now, when is my period going to start?
    Thank you xx love you loads xxx
    Im 13 btw

    These little spots are most likely your Montgomary glands and form part of your nipple and areola area.

  • I really want to watch your videos they look great! But I'm scared my Mum will see it on my history and tell me off for being inappropriate???!!
    Thanks!!
    Ps I'm 11

    Hi, there is nothing inappropriate in our videos and I am sure if your mum sees you have viewed them she would be more than happy with their content.

  • Hi Vicki I started my periods when I was 10 and I am 11 now and they're still irregular is this normal? Thanks xx

    Yes this is very normal and this irregularity may continue for a few more years and as you continue with your journey through puberty.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I heard about this herb that's called shepherd's purse that can help lighten periods, I'm 12, is it safe for me?

    There is absolutely no truth to this rumour and taking this plant extract will have no impact on your menstrual cycle.

  • Hey Vic, I just got my period and I have company auditions for dance in one day! I can't wear tampons bc I'm not allowed and I don't ver wear underwear because it shows through my black shorts , I'm afraid if I wear a pad it'll be like wearing underwear and it'll show AND ill leak !!!!! Plz plz plz help!!!!!

    Have a chat to your dance teacher and on this occasion she may allow you to wear shorts over your leotard that will allow you to wear a pad inside your leotard.

  • Is it possible that I've had my first period and didn't know about it? Also does discharge continue after you get your period? Thanks Vicki!

    Hi, yes it's possible. Menstrual fluid can often be brown in colour and mistaken for discharge. Discharge itself is often noticed in between periods well into a girl's early twenties.

  • Hello!
    So, I've had had all the period symptoms; breast growth, pubic and armpit hair, discharge, cramps, all of it. I started growing pubic hair and having discharge about 1 1/2 to 2 years ago. A few days ago I had drips of brownish red stuff In my underwear but haven't had it since. When do you think I'll have my period?
    Thanks, Rian xx

    Hi Rian, this was most likely your first period, even though only a little bit of blood was lost. So please share this news with a family member and ensure that from now on you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hey vicki im 13 almost 14 and I want to get rid of my pubic hairs but I dont want to use razors or anything harmful and please answer me

    Why not consider trimming it back a little if you want to make this area neater.

  • Hi Vicki! Okay so I wear panty liners cause of my discharge. I don't have my period though. I have cheer tomorrow and I have to wear spandex. Should I still wear a panty liner?

    If you think this will make you feel comfortable and secure, then yes I see no reason why not.

  • Can u flush a used tampon

    It would be better to wrap it in tissue and dispose of with normal household waste.

  • If I have had my period for over a year is it ok if I still get discharge even if I have been having my period?

    Discharge very often continues to be noticed into a girls early twenties so please do not worry about this, it's very normal.

  • Hey Vicki...I started my period 1 year ago but lately I get cramps at night and can't sleep I don't know what to do please help???

    During puberty your reproductive organs will continue to mature and this may be the reason you are experiencing a little discomfort at night. Ask your mum or dad for a hot water bottle to take to bed with you to ease this pain.

  • Hi vicky

    ive always wanted to be a singer/songwriter. I havent told anyoone this because im scared of what theyll think. I love avril lavigne songs i think the lyrics in most of her songs are genius. But i cant copy and i cant seem to find much insparation im 12 years old going 13 in a month any ideas of where i might get some insparation??

    Thx lilly797

    Why not take inspiration from things you read in the newspapers or magazines and for now make your songs short until you have become more accustomed to writing.

  • I've had by period for the past 3 years since I was 11 & have realised that now my flow is beginning to get a little bit heavier & that I'm also beginning to want to do stuff that I feel uncomfortable with doing while wearing a towel so my mum has suggested that I maybe use tampons. I'm going on holiday for two weeks abroad next year and will be on my period & I know that I'll want to swim etc but I'm wary of using tampons. I don't know what puts me off them, could you give me so advice?

    Just like anything new periods can take a bit of getting used to, but by practising from time to time when your next periods are here you will very soon understand why millions of women and girls enjoy the freedom tampons can bring. And you will find all the information you need on tampons and how to insert and remove them on our website. Why not check out our video section too.

  • Hi, I am 15 and I really like this guy in one of my classes. We flirt loads. I sent him a topless pics (with a bra on) once when he asked me to but now he wants me to send nudes but I am not comfortable with that. I know that I need to say no but I don't know how to say it without making him think I'm not interested. I feel quite pressured, any advice?

    Simply tell this boy you have more respect for yourself than to be sending nude pictures and leave it at that. If he likes you will understand and respect your wishes. If he continues to pressure you, then I would really consider if he is someone you would want to date anyway.

  • Can you do anything to stop your period coming for that week

    A period is a very natural occurrence for your body and occassionally a GP will prescribe the contraceptive pill to delay the period but not all GP's are happy to do this and in my opinion your period should not stop you having fun or doing what you would normally do on a daily basis.

  • When you first start your period are you supposed to get it every 28 days?

    The menstrual cycle can be between 21-34 days and this can vary during the first few years when periods are a little irregular.

  • Last month i went to the toilet in school and there was all brown stuff in my underwear and i was wondering if it was my period ??

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so try not to worry and ask your mum or guardian if she will buy some sanitary towels for you and then see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Last month i went to the toilet in school and there was all brown stuff in my underwear and i was wondering if it was my period ??

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so try not to worry and ask your mum or guardian if she will buy some sanitary towels for you and then see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I'm 11 years old and I've been having cramps for a while and I have brown discharge once in a while but I haven't gotten my first period. Please help!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens in the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki x. I have a problem where I am a 28AA but it does not fit me any more however I tried on a 34AA and it fitted but it dosent in the cup so I dont know what to do xxx Also I have had discharge for over a year and I haven't started yet xx ConfusedKitty xxx

    Hi ConfusedKitty, try not to worry and the next time you go shopping, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  As you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Wen people talk about sex they sumtimz mention fingered wat does it mean .is fingered bad n y plz answer
    Lolxxxblueberry

    Hi Blueberry, fingered is a slang term to describe when fingers are inserted inside the vagina, which for some people is pleasurable....but I hasten to add this is still classes as being sexually active and unlawful if you are under the age of 16.

  • Hi Vicki

    I seem to be getting itchy down there and it sometimes goes red. My mum says it's thrush but we don't no what to use to treat it because all the creams say 16 or over and I did use it once but It stung a bit.

    Please help!! And im 12 by the way
    From daisy🌸

    Thrush is identified by there being a thick creamy discharge ressembling cottage cheese, a swollen vagina and pain when you urinate.  So if you have these symptoms, ask your mum or guardian to pick up some medication for you from the local chemist.  If the only symptom you have is itching, this could be due to pubic hair growth.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I've been going out with this boy for over 2 months now and my friends have started talking about me behind my back. They are saying that the only reason I'm going out with him is because I want to be popular. But this is not true! How can I prove to them that this is not the case?
    Thanks xx

    Why do you feel the need to prove anything to these girls. Your relationship with your boyfriend is your business and not theres. So my advice would be to ignore these silly comments and continue being yourself and enjoy the time you and your boyfriend spend together.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 15 and I started my periods about a year ago. I am due my period and I am over a week late. I am sexually active but I haven't done anything for a few months and have had a few periods since. I took mefenamic acid tablets last month at the start of my period to reduce the flow and I have never used these before, could this be why it is late? I am been slightly stressed recently but I don't think that's why it's late. I'm quite worried, hope you can help.

    It may be the tablet you have taken that has delayed your period or it could be that your period is just a little late this month, which can often be the case during puberty.

  • Hi vicki.
    I don't know if this is strange but I find it easier to talk (especially about boys and girly things) to my best friends mum than my own. She is 10 years younger than mine and she is alot more open with her daughter. I have 4 older brothers and I'm the only girl so my mum isn't as used to girls. What could I do to help mine and my own mums relationship?
    Thanks xxxxxxxxx

    This is not as unusual as you would think and lots of girls find it easier to speak to their friend's mum than their own. But you can change this by have short conversations with your mum, for instance why not ask her how old she was when she got her first bra...boyfriend....period. I am sure she will be happy to answer and you will both feel a lot closer.

  • I have stretch marks on my legs, is it normal for them to sting after being in salt water, just wondering because I'm going on holiday and I don't want it to get in the way of things as it happened last time I went in the sea-thanks x 😔

    Stretchmarks do not usually cause any irritation and I wonder if there was another reason for the stinging sensation you noticed. Why not consider reading my blog on Stretchmarks for more on this subject.

  • What do I say to my parents when I get my period ?

    It may be a good idea to have a chat to your mum before your period arrives asking if she can pick you up some pads or liners when she is next out shopping as you feel your period is not too far away. This should give her a clue that you feel your period is not too far away and when it does arrive it will be easier for you to let her know you need more pads from now on.

  • I'm about 5'2 and am a size 10, I get compared to kate winslet a lot and I see this as a good thing but I get conscious that my "curvy" figure is too large in proportion to my height. Is it a normal thing as I can't seem to lose or put on weight either.

    During puberty you will find your shape and height will change quite a bit and there is nothing wrong with being curvy at any height, so I hope you learn to love your shape.

  • I self harm does that have anything to do with puberty?, like how do I stop myself from cutting?

    Self-harm is generally a sign that someone is very unhappy with something in their life and not always linked to puberty. Please consider speaking to an adult or another trusted person such as Childline on 0800 1111 about this matter and they will be able to help you manage any negative feelings you have and hopefully stop the abusive cycle you have started.

  • Hi,
    How old do you have to be to buy hair removal cream? (UK)
    :)

    There is no age restriction for purchasing these type of creams.

  • Hi I wondered if we could have a mom of a teenage daughter for example Teri hatcher to talk about periods so we can see a moms point of view?
    Freya ☺️ xx

    Hi Freya, this is something we are looking at already. If your lucky enough to have the Lil-Lets Schools Programme in your school you will see there is a chat between a mum and a daughter on there.

  • recently i have started dance (im 12) all the other girls started when they were 3, i feel really stupid and not good enough, it makes me just want to give up, but i enjoy it sooooooo much

    The most important message in your question is that you enjoy dancing....so do I, even though I am not very good. So you see, it is not always how good we are at something but rather how much fun we have doing it, so please don't stop attending dance class.

  • Hi vicky
    What is my bra size
    Under-66
    Bust-76

    30AA.

  • Dear vicki

    How are you ment to aplicate a tampon for the first time.

    The most important thing to do when using tampons for the first time is to wait until day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest and then relax before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.

  • I'm 13 and a friend told me she had lost her vaginitiy I was shocked but she said that this boy from anougher school recorded it I thought it was so wrong and I don't want anything to do with it what can I tell my friend

    If your friend is under the age of 16 it may be a good idea to remind her that it is actually unlawful for a boy or man to have sexual relations with her and if you can perusade her to never do this again.

  • Hey, um just out of general curiosity, is there a birth control pill that stops your periods as well? If there is, what is your opinion on this?

    I am not aware of a contraceptive pill that stops your periods altogether.

  • Hi vicky

    Is it normal to feel incredibly tired during your period?

    -T x

    Hi T, it's normal to feel extra tired during your teen years regardless of whether you are on your period or not. So ensure you eat high energy foods and get plenty of sleep.

  • Do you go out with a boy for the looks or the personality?

    This is entirely up to you as everyone is different but you should always get to know someone before you agree to go out with them.

  • What happens when you masterbate on your period

    Nothing.

  • Last night, I had this dream about a boy in my school. I kinda have a crush on him. In the dream we kissed, what does this mean?

    It means you like this boy and dreams of this nature are very normal during your teen years.

  • I have just started my first period I'm 12 years old and I think I'm one of those quick developers unfortunately and it's sports day tomorrow I get really uncoftable when I try to wear a tampon and the pads are just to big and often get filled easy because it's quite hevey I'm really sporty but I was just wondering if I you had anougher way to be coftable wile playing sports ps: I'm badly anorexic if it makes a diffrance and I have came off medication for my atheritace
    Unhappybunny🐰

    Hi, why not consider our Lil-Lets night towels to use in the day if your period is very heavy, they are shorter and narrower than other brands but will still offer you supreme protection. Hope you have a great sports day.

  • Hi Vicki, My discharge is really thick and gooey it is dark yellow and comes out in big clumps. Is this normal??

    Try not to worry as discharge can vary in amount, colour and consistency throughout your menstrual cycle.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • hi vicki, my sizes are: 68 underbust and 76 over. what size am I?

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different sizes and styles of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have been getting discharge for a couple months now and I have been told that u can have discharge for up to 6-12 months and longer before getting your first period. Is it like this for everyone or can some people get there period sooner then this?
    Thank you so much xxx

    As a general rule, it is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • Hey Viki,
    So there's this really cute boy that i really, really like. i went out with him, but later i found out it was a dare. I was heart broken! Every time i think of him it makes me want to cry. I need you advice. And i feel as if i want to be sexual with him, even though I'm 13! Is this wrong? Please help!

    Of course being sexually active with this boy is out of the question as you are legally under age. However, it is very normal to have these feelings and if you really do like this boy, then tell him so and say you regret the dare, but in a way it did give you a chance to see how great he was and now you really do like him and would like to spend more time with him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 11 years old and these days my breasts start to hurt a lot. I've told my mum but she says it's normal is she right?
    Thanks,
    Skye

    Hi Skye, it is normal to experience sore, tender breasts with development so try not to worry.  A soak in a warm bath will help to soothe your discomfort.

  • My periods have been on and off as I've lost weight from being ill. I get them irregularly now, but I have to wear a liner ALL the time, it's been going on for months, there's always some sort of moisture down there, help?

    Please try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for period to be irregular in the early stages of the menstrual cycle and the damp feeling you've noticed is due to discharge which works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection.

  • I cant fit a tampon up my vagina

    The secret to using tampons successfully is to relax and then all it takes is a little practice before you will be able to enjoy the discreet protection provided by tampons to millions of women and girls all over the world.

  • How do you tell your mum you might have periods?

    A good way of starting the conversation is to ask if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample from us as you think your period has arrived.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl soing through puberty once and should be able to help and support you through this special time in your life.

  • Hi
    I'm not sure how to ask my parents to get me my pads and coz I have started
    My periods I have started noticing this certan boy in my class by ft found out he
    doesn't love me and I don't know what to do now coz I feel realy upset
    Robyn
    Titley

    Hi Robyn, try not to worry and remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed asking her to buy some sanitary towels for you; she will be expecting this.  During puberty, it is normal for teens to form attraction to others and this is due to the increase in activity of your hormones.  Please try not to feel too upset that this boy doesn't like you as crushes often fade in time any way.

  • What is the best age to start using tampons?

    There is no set age to when you can start using tampons but we do recommend that you wait until you've had at least 5 or 6 periods to allow you the time to get used to your flow.  When the time is right and you feel ready, you might like to consider using ourLil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • hiya vicki
    i was wondering what type of cream should i buy?
    AA cream? BB cream? or CC cream? i dont knw much bout creams caz i dont have any.. n i need 1 lol. i dont think i will need AA cream. i heard any good things about bb cream. i want a type of cream good to use on my sensitive skin.. make my skin kinda glow.. good for pimples ..a good spf 1..makes my face healthy.. n what brand should I choose? there are many brands out there for bb cream or cc cream. Garnier, Maybelline, OLay, etc. Plz help me

    The most important thing you need in any face cream is sun protection and this is something you should look out for. An SPF of 15 is ideal. As for the type of cream you use, I agree you do not need a BB or CC cream at your age and a gentle lotion such as SIMPLE Daily Moisturising Lotion should be sufficient.

  • Hi Vicki ,
    I am 13 and i have had discharge for quite a long while now. Ive had some brown but my period has not arrived. Also i am very flat chested and only have pubic hair below.For discharge i get cramps too. Im so embarrassed for not starting. Can you help me.
    Thanks xx

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • hi vicki!!!
    basically i amgoing through puberty and its slightly embarrassing my 2 best friends haven't really got it yet
    so its a bit embarrassing also my mum washes my her so she can see me naked and i always have to cover up cos i dont want her to see my pubic hair and breasts
    so any advice
    p.s sorry uts soo long x

    Try not to worry as we all develop at different rates to each other and I am sure you will be noticing signs of puberty very soon.  If you feel embarrassed when your mum washes your hair, talk to her and explain that it makes you feel self-conscious as you're getting older now.  You can suggest that she wahses your hair over a sink in future which will leave you to have your baths in private.

  • Hey Vicki I started my periods at 10 and I just wanted to know if it was normal sorry if this is a stupid question

    It is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 so try not to worry.

  • 😳😳😳😳😭😭😭😭😰😰😰😰
    Hey Vicki.
    So last night I left a tampon in for 7 hours and before I took it out my boyfriend said I was really really warm and I was. I also started getting really bad stomach cramps that came on instantly so I took the tampon out and that seemed to help but then I though what if I have TSS!!!?!? What do I do? Do I have it? I'm so scared! Please answer!!!

    TSS is a very rare condition and I wonder if this change to temperature was because you were just warm due to the wonderful weather we are experiencing but if you have any concerns then you may want to have a chat to your GP.

  • what's the best type of bra to wear if you are 12-14 and are quite developed

    There are many styles of bra you might be interested in and if your breasts are on the larger side, you might like to consider a bra with structure.  When you go shopping, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes until you find one that feels comfortable on you and provides you with the support you need.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I just wanted to ask why is it that. where my pubic hair is why is it fat because it wasn't when I never had it. I think it's because of my body being fat!
    💖💗🌸💋❤️
    Chocoholic🍫

    Hi Chocoholic, no this is a layer of fat that forms underneath your pubic bone to protect this very special area from any knocks and is very normal with no reason for you to be concerned.

  • I really like a boy in my year but my best friend is going out with his twin brother, the 4 of us are really close and we hang out alot but the other girls in my year dont think he is cool. I need advise should i ask him out? Thanks!

    It would not do for us all to find the same people attractive and in my opinion if you like this boy then it should not matter what others think and I would consider what makes you happy in this instance.

  • I am 15 and I like a guy in my class. We flirt A LOT!! The other night we were talking to each other on snapchat, being flirty as always, and he asked for a topless pic. So I sent one (with out my face in it and with a bra on). It was just a bit of fun, right? But since then he keeps asking for more but I say no. I have only sent the one, was it wrong? Any advice?

    Yes this was wrong and there are laws governing the posting of images of someone under the age of 16 that should always be adhered to. Stop letting this boy pressure you. Tell him in no uncertain terms you are not prepared to send another picture and delete his text messages without responding until he gets the message that you will not be bullied into doing something you are not comfortable with.

  • Well about a month ago I started this relationship with a guy as most teens go through but, I met this guy online and I have no idea how I should tell my mum. My mum does get worried about me a lot but I have told 2 of my really close friends at school who I know will not say anything to anyone (I met this guy over (video game))

    It is never a good idea to date someone you have met over the internet and I would urge you to speak to your parents about this new friendship. And please DO NOT be tempted to meet up with this boy....as some people are not who they claim to be on gaming or social media websites.

  • Hi Vicki!
    How does a cramp feel like?

    It is usually described as a dull ache in the lower abdomen or groin area that lasts for a number of minutes.

  • Hi, I'm 15 and I like this guy in one of my classes. We flirt a lot over text or in class. We have never kissed but there is no touch barrier as I am comfortable with him touching my bum and we hug etc. I think he is naturally a really flirty person. How do I know if he actually likes me or it is just a bit of fun for him?

    Why not try not being so flirty with him and texting less. If he really does like you romantically he will make his feelings known in a bid to win back your affection.

  • Heya Vicki my period has been for nearly a year and is still sooooooooooo irregular in 13 btw im 5.9 tall and weigh about 8.8 is that normal if possible could u answer both questions xx thanks your amazing x

    Periods can often be irregular for a number of years during puberty and this is nothing to be worried about. With regard to your height and weight, rather than worry about what the scales say consider your diet and exercise regime, if these are both healthy and you feel generally well, I see no reason to be concerned.

  • I'm 14 and haven't started my period yet. My mum and sister both started at 12, should I be worried?

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 so please don't worrry, we do not all follow the same pattern for menstruation as family members.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I'm 14 and I've already told you that it really really like this boy and haven't felt this way before. Anyway, I thought things we're slowly getting better because he was starting to text me first more and stuff but then he's gone and told me he has a girlfriend. I'm happy for him and that but I also feel upset. We cuddled the other night at a mix gender sleepover and now he's got a girlfriend I feel as if he has lead me on a little bit. It's complicated and very long to type.

    It's really not as complicated as you think! This boy was flirting with you and not taking into account your feelings. Now you feel hurt and this could have been avoided if he had been truthful about wanting to date him. My advice would be to play it cool, text or chat only on rare occasions now and avoid meeting up with him in the future.

  • Hi, im 13 and quite short for my age. Im 32DD and I don't know of this is normal. Im skinny and all my friends are A or B is it normal to be this big. Also my family have quite small boobs x

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, so you really do have nothing to be worried about.

  • How absorbent are the lil-lets teens pads/towels like how long do they last for

    Lil-Lets teens towels are designed to be changed every 3-4 hours.  They are more absorbent than the best-selling brands.

  • Hi Vicki,

    So there's this boy (more like man) who is quite older than me (by 8 years) and he said that he loves me and wants to meet up but he is talking about booking a hotel room. I'm quite scared and don't know if I'm ready for such things as I know he's implying sex. He keeps insisting and I'm the type of person who feels extremely guilty when I let somebody down.

    I am 15 years of age.

    Please speak to an adult about this man and his request to be alone with you. Not only should you NOT meet up with him anywhere you should also stop ALL communication with him.  His behaviour is not appropriate and could result in him committing a crime if he has any kind of sexual relations with you.

  • Hi Vicki
    There is a boy we used to go out last year and then I dumped him and the start of 2014 we started flirting and he used to ask people out and his best mate told me that he said it's to make me jealous and then he started asking someone out with the same name as me and then they started dating and I was jelois then they broke up and I decided that I was going to say yes if he asked me out but now he has a girlfriend I don't care if I go out with him or not I just want to tell him how I feel.susan.

    Hi Susan, I think it would be beneficial to end any romantic attachment to this boy without letting him know how you feel. It seems both of you have been playing with each others affection and if he now has a girlfriend, move on and enjoy the summer with friends and family.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 14 and All my friends have 'd' or 'c' cup size and I'm an 'a' and it's really hard for me to get a bra that fits because I don't actually no what my bra size is and I have asked my mum how to measure my breasts but I don't no and she won't tell me + all my friends make fun of my boobs because they are much smaller than theirs and my friends are 13??? please help. xxx

    Please try not to worry and remember that we're all different with breasts that develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.  For now, if you would like to get hold of a measuring tape, measure all the way round your front and back directy below your bust and then do the same a gain but only over your bust at the fullest point.  Record these two measurements and come back to me and i will be able to do a bra sizing for you.

  • PART 2
    Anyway today i accidentally stirred up an argument ( i didn't mean to but wish i hadn't ) so anyway our teacher miss jones is sick of the arguing blah blah blah. But depending on what lunchtime supervisors say depends wether she will call my mum and my mum would go bolistic and mental angry cause she expects me to be good and is always telling me not to get involved or stir. Im really sorry that i did it and get butterflies everything what should i do? I want to kill myself

    Try not to worry and be so hard on yourself and try to learn from your experience so you don't get too involved next time.  There will always be disagreements between girls and I think you should talk to your mum and explain what happened before she receives a call from school as it's better hearing it from you first.

  • Hi Vicki, how are you?I'm a little bit worried as I've been having heavy,smelly clear/creamy discharge. But I'm just coning on my period, and the discharge is a brown with a big bit of it being a really dark browny green, and it smells fishy. It said on the NHS website that it's normally my a sign of an STI, can't remember the name. But I'm a virgin, what is this??! Please help urgently I'm really worried !! Thanks Jess xxx

    Hi Jess, try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  You might also like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • PART 1

    Anyway we don't want anything to do with this girl because of her touching one of my friend on the boobs like properly feeling. Anyway we don't want anything to do with her so we ignored her like blanked her and said we dont want anything to do with her or anyone who is her friend . But now my friend Dylan and Megan are friends with her and it mean we can't be friends with Megan or Dylan ( we don't want to be)

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi vicki

    I keep getting a kinda pain down there ⬇!!
    What does this mean!!??

    💜 from 🐰bunny

    Stomach cramps can be associated with your body getting ready for your period but this is not always the case so please talk to your mum or guardian and see what she thinks.

  • Hey vicki !

    I'm wondering when I will start my period...I have hair upstairs and downstairs...I also have boobs....and a lot of discharge...and a few spots on my face..I'm worrid I'll start soon, if you have any ideas or good advice of when I shall start please reply ASAP
    THANKYOU VICKI xoxo

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been relasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Ok so, I have been getting discharge since grade 6 and am now almost year 9. Still no period. I am scared that I may you know smell because of that. My friends have dropped a few hints to the group like saying something smells like fish, so every time I go to my locker I pretty much smother myself in perfume so the problem doesn't occur during class. But the smell comes back during the next 30 mins or so we'll I think because I can't smell it myself anyways how can I reduce or stop the smell..? Plz answer

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite some time, I can only assume that your period isn't too far away.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there and we now also offer Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up Wipes.

  • I heard my parents laughing with friends and it made me feel bad. They were saying I have my dad's Huge build and I have too big of an appetite. They said when I come back from college I will be so fat. I'm going into 9th. I have a little chub here and there. I would like to get rid of it. But I don't know how. I run a mile and a half (my neighborhood) often. And I swim on a team 7 hours a week. I'm 5 foot 4 and weigh 117. How can I not eat as much???? I love food!
    Love a teen girl

    Hi Teen girl, consider not eating more but rather eating more healthy foods. So fill your plate with extra vegetables, salad, and protein. And avoid too many potatoes, rice, pasta or bread. Drinking water during your meal is also a good tip.

  • Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

    I had to go home from my year six residential trip on the first night (out of 4) due to supper sever homesickness I was sick and I texted my mom depressing messages and I have a sleepover coming up at school with my whole class and I don't know wheather I should go? Pleeeaaaassssssseee help xx I have to hand in the form tomorrow so it's nice if you could reply quickly xxx

    If you do not yet feel ready to be away from home then don't worry too much and on this occasion decline the offer. By taking things slowly you will find as you get older being away from home and family becomes easier.

  • I haven't got my period yet but have everything else underarm hair, pubic hair, acne, 10b cup, I am quite skinny looking but weigh almost 50kg, I also sweat a lot. I have been getting discharge for the past say 2-3 YEARS and it is really annoying it is really yellowy white and is always heavy what does this mean...

    Heavy discharge can very often be noticed from time to time and although it can be annoying wearing pant liners will help. As for your period, be patient I am sure you will not have much longer to wait.

  • Hey vicki,
    I've noticed lately that one of my nipples is darker than the other, is this normal?

    One breast often grows before the other one and this includes the nipple area and is nothing to be concerned about; the other nipple will start to develop over the next couple of months.

  • I had sex eduacation at school and the woman suggested us to put our fingers in our vagina when we get home so we "understand" our vaginas better. I did it and it it was all bumpy inside and it burns slightly? Am I doing it wrong and have I got an infection? Please answer! 😁

    Vaginal walls are made up of tissue and muscle and can feel a little bumpy if you insert a finger to explore this area; it really is nothing to worry about and I imagine the stinging sensation you have noticed is because you have not done this before and it is highly unlikely that you have an infection.

  • Hi Viki, i'm 12 and havent started my period yet, but have had these things happening:
    Loads of discharge (for 2-3 years)
    Big mood swings
    One or two cramps
    Hair under armpits
    Pubic hair
    'hormonal' headaches all the time.
    When do you think i'll start my period? Thanks!
    Liv x

    Hi Liv, I doubt you will have much longer to wait so please ensure you are prepared by having some pads and liners with you from now on.

  • Hi Vicki
    Today at School, i have a slight jabbing pain on my lower right side of my stomach l, and i have had loads of discharge.
    is this normal

    love Kirsten xx

    Hi Kristen, yes this is very normal and all part of your reproductive organs maturing in preparation for your first period. So please try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm just curious as to whether discharge is always a good sign? I've been getting it a lot recently and it's awful. Also, when I come OFF of my period or am near enough finished I have a horrible brown gooey substance instead of a normal sight of blood. I just wondered if either of these are signs of being 'abnormal'? I don't want to see a nurse btw because I'm really not a confident person and feel as though I can't expose my downstairs area. Thanks for the help x

    Discharge is a very natural fluid produced by the body to keep the vagina clean and free from infection. From time to time you may find there is more than in previous days and this is absolutely fine. As for periods; menstrual blood is often brown and not red in colour, especially for some at the end of their period and not somethign that requires medical attention.

  • Hi Vicki
    Should I be wearing something if I have noticed discharge ?

    Hi, you could wear a pant liner if you have started to experience discharge but this really is  a personal choice and may prefer just to keep a fewliners or pads in your bag when out and about just in case your period arrives.

  • Hello vicki!
    Please please answer as this has been bothering me for a while now. I'm 13, i have pubes, and i got them when i was around 10? i've never done anything to them, so they are really big , i was wondering what other girls do? do my friends shave theirs all off? or partly? am i suppose to leave a bit of hair? or shave it all of? whats normal?! It's something i could never ask my friends, i want to start to trim/shave them, but partly? or fully? Please please answer

    There really is no need to do anything with your pubic hair and I would never advise you to remove it simply because others around you feel the need to do so. But if you do want to reduce the amount of hair present then why not consider trimming the hair a little.

  • Hi vicki I went to the toilet today and I looked down at my pad and there was a massive blob about the size of a 50p , what is it ? . And then I wiped myself and some more but little blob about the of a 5p.

    I just wanted to know what ther blobs are abd do I need to see a doctor ?

    Thank you
    Xoxo

    I think you are referring to discharge which is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  Discharge is perfectly normal, working to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection.

  • Hi Vicky. I'm thirteen and haven't got my period yet. Everyday there is this white discharge that appears in my underware
    I don't wear a bra. In fact my breast haven't grown at all. Should I be worried?

    Try not to worry as you should release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives and as for your breasts, again you should try not to worry as it is possible for them to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • I I have had discharge for over 2 years now and I experience stomach cramps/pains and I am 14 when would you expect my period to come along and start? Also what are the signs or things you will notic on your first period? Xxxxxxx

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I use a pantyliner everyday and I need to change it at school usually as my discharge can be super heavy! But I get embarrassed as people might hear me changing it and ask questions. What do you think I should do Vicki? Xx

    Please try not to worry and remember that all your female peers will be doing the same thing as you at some stage so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about changing.  You might find that changing your liner more regularly will help you to feel fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey Vicki, I love this site and I find it so helpful. Anyway I am going to be 14 in less than a week I have discharge everyday usually. I haven't sartrd my period yet and i know you start when your body is ready but I just want to start so that I am the same as my friends as they always ask if I have started my period but I never know what to say? Also my boobs are quite small and they always tease me and I always feel a little down for this. Thank you from em xxx

    Hi Em, first of all, please try not to worry and bear in mind that we all develop at different rates to each other.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  As for your breasts, it is possible to notice development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time so try not to worry.  Thank you for your support.

  • I am 14 years old and have a really watery sort of discharge and is leaking through my underwear onto my trousers what is this?

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keeep our vaginas clean and free of infection and is also used as a sign that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi vicki, about 6 months ago my mum bought me the starter pack so she must realise that I've been getting discharge. But when she did she never really talked to me about it and now that my discharge is getting heavier I'd like to start using the teens liners but I don't know how to ask her for it. Can you help me? Thnx

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about wanting to wear liners.

  • What does it means when you get discharge every day and it's really thick?

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Dear Vicki

    i think that my pee hoe and my vagine hole have merged together, is this possible??

    thanks
    T

    There are three openings in between your legs and your urethra is the tiny opening where you urinate from.  It is in a completely different position to the vagina so for more help with this, check out my blog on Getting to know your reproductive system inside and out.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I was wondering if it is a good idea to use a tampon on your second period.
    also what brands of tampons do you recommend to use (Ones that are good for first timers please).

    Thanks Emily (Em for short)
    P.S. Please answer!!

    If you feel comfortable to do so then I see no reason why not and I would recommend our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons, designed to be shorter and narrower than other tampons and therefore ideal for first time users. You may also find my blog entitled; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies useful too.

  • Hey Viki,
    I've just started my period a couple of months ago and it comes at different times, sometimes early and sometimes really late. How can I tell when my period is coming since it keeps changing?

    It is normal to experience irregular periods in the early stages of the menstrual cycle as hormones try to control the changes in your body and then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.

  • Hi Viki!
    I'm the "nerdy" girl at school that everyone picks on. I'm 13 and wear a 34D, almost a 34DD. Some of the people at school (mostly guys) make fun of me for being that big. The Polos that we have to wear as uniforms hug my belly and make my bust even bigger. I've also got large hips. Is there any way to make my boobs and hips appear smaller?

    Thanks! You're awesome! Xoxoxo

    A good fitting bra is very important for not only offering support but for managing the shape and size of your breasts. But my advice would be to not consider finding ways to hide your new curvy shape, but rather be proud of it and wear clothes that suit this new you!

  • Hi! I'm 13 and I wear a 34D (almost a double D). Is this normal?

    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki, I know this seems gross but can you drink your period blood? I mean it's supposed to be for having a baby so it probably has a lot of nutrients in it.Like can you use a menstrual cup and then drink it? I searched this before but most people say it's gross and say if you do it you're a vampire.Im kinda curious.Sorry if this is kinda weird question.

    Generally if something leaves your body it does so for a reason and should not be ingested back into your system in any way.

  • Hi I'm 11 and I want to masturbate but how do I do it so it feels nice.

    Sorry if this is rude I need to know xxx

    Due to the massive increase in the activity of your sex hormones during puberty, feelings of a sexual nature are stronger and many choose to masturbate as a way of exploring these new feelings.  this is an instinctive, natural thing to do and is certainly not something I can tell you how to do. 

  • Hi Vicki, I had a few periods since the first but I got a few questions. I don't have cramps yet, but then people say that after a while they will be HORRIBLE and basically ruin your life after a few years! I don't get PMS or other symptoms but just periods are so annoying! I also don't seem to ovulate but I have regular periods? I don't have signs of ovulation.My periods are light but they happen to last like a week with the first few days with few drops of blood and get heavier.Help please?

    Firstly, not everyone experiences menstrual cramps or knows when they ovulate, so please don't be guided too much by what you read or hear from others.  Yes periods can be annoying from time to time but they are part of being a woman and should not prevent you from doing anything you would normally do. The key to managing your period is to have good quality sanitary products such as our Lil-lets teens and core ranges that will protect your underwear and leave you feeling comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki so I I was wondering I have some weird rusty color stuff in my underwear I've had it for two week do u know what is is is it discharge or my period I don't know what to do and also what should I wear with it

    If there is an offensive odour coming from these stains then it could be residue from when you release waste food (poo) that has not been wiped away completely. If there is no offensive odour then this may be your period and you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm in birth control, I've been having sex, but we wear concoms and none of them have ripped. I have discharge before my period, is this normal or does this mean something. I also have a yeast infection.

    Discharge is often noticed in between periods so please do not worry about this.

  • Hey Vicki, are you looking forward to the finals in the world cup? Who do you think will win? Argentina, Germany, or Netherlands? I'm mad at Netherlands for beating Costa Rica so I suppot Germany, since Brazil was eliminated. (7-1, thats amazing)

    I am sure it will be an exciting match whoever is in the finals and I will watch it with enthusiasm.

  • Hi Vicki I was on the pill to delay my period and now that I have started it's really really painful and heavy please help!!!!😭😨😱😰

    Very often when you take the contraceptive pill to delay the arrival of your period the next couple of periods can be a little different to what you are normally accustomed to. They should quickly get back to their normal routine in a month or so.

  • Hi Vicki I have had discharge for 6 and a half months, I have heaps of underarm hair that i have to shave it, i have lots of pubic hair down there it is dark curly and long, my breasts have been growing for 2 years but are still quite small, i get really sore tummy aches, back aches, i get mood swings and i get lots of pimples too. When do u think i will get my first period?

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I do not think you will have much longer to wait until the arrival of your first period, so make sure you are prepared by having some of our fabulous Lil-Lets products with you when out and about and in your bedroom drawer at home.

  • Hi Vicky I'm 14 since the 4th if July and I haven't started my periods yet or discharging. Is something wrong thanks xxxx
    Confuzzeled 😳😳

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please try not to worry, there really is nothing wrong.

  • I started my first period , like 2/3 months ago but I still haven't got my second one , I do t know how to feel about this , I'm only 13

    This is very normal and for the first couple of years you may find that very often you have gaps of several months between each period. This is nothing to worry about and simply your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was just wondering how do you get rid of TSS and how do you know if you have it?

    Thanking you x

    Every pack of tampons carries important health and safety information about TSS and should a doctor diagnose this condition then they would start the treatment for recovery by using a variety of different medicines. Why not check our our TSS section on the website and read the information in our Becoming a Teen booklet.

  • Hey vicki I have pubic hair armpit hair thAt I shave every 12-133days and I have mood swings and lower stomach cramps and aches well on saturday we were at car races and I was happy for a bit then Mad for a while then happy and the next couple of days i have been very tired i have all the signs I even had brown discharge for 2days last week and a tiny bit of blood with ot and a tiny bit of brown discharge and some blood this week is this my first period
    987654321

    Yes this is your first period and from now on you would be wise to keep some supplies of pads or liners with you when out and about in preparation for your next period.

  • I was wearing a 32B bra and went for a fitting because I thought I should be smaller but to my surprise she fitted me as a 30D and I didn't believe her at first but then I tried it on and it fit perfectly! I was happy at first but I am kind of embarrassed now because I have bigger boobs than my mum and all my friends and I am not fat soooo according to my family I should have small boobs because they all do and I don't know what to do and I feel like some of my friends are jealous. I am 14

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and rather than worrying about what size you are; because after all this is just a measurement concentrate on finding the most comfortable fit for you...which the assistant appears to have done.

  • Hi vicky, i dont know what to do because i feel depressed. I cry an awful lot maybe over little things, i just feel like im not wanted by anyone and i always worry. How can i tell my nan ( my carer)

    I am sure if you have a chat to your nan and let her know that you feel a little sad from time to time she will understand and together you can work on ways to manage this time in your life, which I have to say is very normal and you may also find our section on Emotions useful too.