Your questions answered

If you’ve asked Vicki a question she will post the answer on this page (and the best thing is nobody will ever know it was you that asked!). The most recently answered questions are shown below, and you can also search for questions by clicking on one of the categories. Or you might just want to have a look at the questions other girls have asked. 

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  • Emotions And Feelings
  • Friendships And Boys
  • Periods
  • Sex And Sexual Feelings
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  • Your Body

Older answered questions

  • Hello Vicky

    How can I tell if a boy fancies me or not?

    For more information on this, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • Hey Vicki, I have had discharge for about a year now and frequently get a sort of ache/tight feeling in my lower abdomen. Could this be my periods about to start?

    As you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I guess your period isn't too far away.

  • hi Vicki
    I want to have bigger boobs and the massaging method does work coz me and my friend did it once (even thought none of the methods are scientifically proven to work) but would you say I should carry on or have you heard of any other methods?
    (Loads of people say they will grow naturally but I want them now)

    sorry that its a bit long x love hotdog

    There is nothing you can do to make your breasts develop any quicker so try to be patient and allow the process to happen naturally.

  • 27inches over
    25 inches under
    What's my bra size?
    And if it's not even a bra what shall I do cause when I exercise they move and jiggle about? ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

    30AA. A sports bra will provide the support you need for exercising and sports.

  • I really want to know my bra size but I don't know how to measure myself? Can you help please๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    All you have to do is to get hold of a measuring tape and wrap it all the way around your front and back directly under your breasts, then do the same again but only this time, over your bust at the fullest point. Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate your bra size for you.

  • 30 over
    27 under
    Thanx

    32AA.

  • Hi Viki!!
    I couldn't find my question..I had discharge since 04/06/13 and my first period started at school on 21/11/13... I haven't had my period since then but the discharge just keeps on happening. (I've heard it takes 6 months for another one?) Plus, my breasts are 30AA, it sounds tiny to me but my family, friends AND total strangers keep staring... It makes me so self concious anywhere I go because of that and i'm always afraid my period will just turn up anywhere!!!

    xxxxxxx :P :D :3 Thanks!!!

    Try not worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. It is perfectly normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle too. You might like to consider using pant liners as they will not only protect your underwear from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrives. As for your breasts, try to remember that we're all made in different shapes and sizes with bodies that develop at different rates to others so try to feel proud of your breasts as it's possible to notice development up until your 20s.

  • Hi Vicki ! I love this site and it has helped me a lot. The problem is that I want to get your products or at least the starter pack... But I live in the USA so which products would you suggest for me since I'll only buy them once. I know I want the starter pack and maybe the liners and mini tampons but I don't even know if they ship to the USA? Sorry for all the questions but either way I love this site(So I can find it)
    ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    I'm afraid you're right in saying that we aren't yet able to ship to the USA. However, I do believe that if you go on to Boots website, you will be able to order a Lil-Lets Starter Pack and any other Lil-Lets products you might need from there Here's the link: http://www.boots.com/?cm_mmc_o=-uubkbzfwlCjCaw0f1bELCjCvi%20i9%20niioCjCC&affwin&awc=2041_1397661368_fc8d657593ad459ac71d5fca2812c9f7
    Thank you for your support - happy to help.

  • Hi, I'm the girl who likes Motown and MJ,
    Rock My World is on of my favourites! Invincible is definetly one of my favourite albums from Michael! I met a boy who likes MJ about 3 months ago and he is always singing love songs to me! He's awesome and plays guitar while I play piano! We do I Just Can't Stop Loving You. Do you think he like likes me? I have a crush on him! ๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŽถ๐ŸŽท๐ŸŽค๐ŸŽบ๐ŸŽธ๐ŸŽน๐ŸŽป๐ŸŽง
    We performed infront of our House as we both sing! Thanks!

    Great to hear from you again. It certainly sounds as if you've got a lot in common with this boy and to find out if he likes you too, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • Hi vicky,
    I'm 13 and this woman in our phsce lesson said that we shouldn't wear underwier bra's at out age because it will stop/damage the growth of my boobs.
    Is that true?xo

    To my knowledge there is nothing to say that this is true.

  • Hey :) i have been having discharge for about a year now and it was white and then for a week it was brown then it started coming out yellow now and it does smell but in not sure if the smell is counted as a really bad smell helo please.thank you โ™ฅ

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary protection for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. If you find the odour from your discharge offensive, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets Freshen-Up wipes. For more information, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/15/New%20Teens%20Wipes
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  • Hey Vicki,
    How do I get rid of stretch marks? I have really bad stretch marks round my hips and thighs and a few on my boobs. But I've got to do swimming next month and I'm really embarrassed. So please can you tell me how to get rid of them before next month. Thx

    First of all, try to remember that stretch marks affect a lot of teens as skin is stretched rapidly over a short period of time so try not to feel embarrassed as they will fade with time. You can try applying moisturiser which will help to keep the skin hydrated and minimise the effects. If you would like to go to the home page of this website and follow the links to the blogs, you will find more information on stretch marks on page 3.

  • Hi Vicki !
    Can you take a bath while on your period ? Thanks a ton

    Yes absolutely. Check out the following link for more information on this: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/September/30/Puberty%20myths?author=Vicki

  • Do you stop having discharge after you have stared your period?

    No, it's normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hey, I started my period today and its not very heavy..I tried using a pad but I find it to loud and bulky...I want to use a tampon but not sure if I can because its my first time? Is it okay to use? Should I ?

    First of all congratulations on starting your period and secondly, there is nothing to say you can't wear tampons straight away but we usually recommend that you've had a few periods before trying to give you the time to get used to your flow. Check out the following link for more help and information with this as Lil-Lets now offer a teens mini non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • Size

    27

    31

    32AA.

  • Hi viki, what are the signs of starting a period soon? โ˜บ๏ธ๐ŸŒธโœจ๐Ÿ’•

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. You might also notice stomach cramps and an increase in the release of discharge.

  • i just starting recognizing i had discharge and i'm nervous about periods i was wondering if you could tell me about when i will be getting my period

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • how often should i have discharge

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi!
    I've had discharge for about 7 months I get random aches in my stomach and have alot of mood swings. How ling until my first period?
    Thanks xx

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months so I guess you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • hi am 14 but i have nt started my periods why

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it's perfectly normal for girls to start their periods anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you still have plenty of time so try not to worry.

  • I am 14. The gap between my periods is only 15 days in the past few months. I am also getting more discharge then I normally do. What's going on?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. However, if you do find that you're feeling more tired than normal, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP. As for your discharge, try not to worry as it's normal for it to vary in colour, amount and consistency throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki, i have been wearing bras for quite a while now, my mum buys me the size that she thinks will fit, should i measure myself to find out what bra size is good for me? Also, i get red marks from wearing a bra, should i go up a size? Thanks, i really appreciate your help. Amy. X

    Hi Amy, it sounds as if you need an accurate sizing so if you would like to measure all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again but over your bust at the fullest point, record these two measurements and then come back to me and I will be able to do a bra sizing for you.

  • Hi, my best friend is quite full of herself and she loves taking photos of herself anyway the problem is , she went out with one of my boy best friends but they broke up about 3/4 weeks ago , she's says shes slowly getting over him but the thing is he said he likes me and I'm starting to like him to if my best friend finds out she'll tell everyone at school and hate me forever that's what she's like , so please answer this I really don't know what to do HELP?

    Thanks worried&scaredgirl

    Hi Worried&scaredgirl, if this girl is no longer with your friend, I can't see what the problem is but if you think she really is nasty enough to make things difficult for you at school, be up front and tell her that you and this boy like each other as it's really none of her business. If she stil causes trouble for you, talk to a teacher and your parents/guardians about her.

  • Hi Vicki, in the summer I am going on holiday to Greece. I am really excited but I feel like I am too fat for my bikini. Is there any way to loose my fat? Also I think my period might start when I'm away and I'm really nervous as I'm going with my Dad and his girlfriend and my mum might not be able to help if I start, what will I do???

    A x
    ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿฝ

    First of all, the key to maintaining a healthy weight and feeling good about yourself is to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drinking lots of water and trying to stay as active as possible. As for your period, try not to worry and make sure you're prepared by keeping some sanitary towels and tampons with you. Check out the following link for more help and support with this: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/July/16/Tampons%20and%20the%20Holiday?author=Vicki Have a fabulous time!

  • I am 14 years old and haven't even started puberty. Everyone in my year has got breasts and has periods and im not even close. Is this natural or should i see a doctor?

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other so please try to be patient as I'm sure you will be noticing signs of puberty pretty soon.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 12 (and 4 months) and have had discharge for around 3-4 months now however my mum had her period in her late 13's. Would you say this means I wont follow my mums period time but may be a bit earlier?
    Thanks x scc

    We don't always follow our mums in being the same age starting our period but as you've already been releasing discharge for a few months, you might be a little earlier yes.

  • hi Vicki
    can u please tell me my bra size because I wear a size 28A and I find it fits but from other peoples results im now not so sure.
    under bust: 25
    over bust: 27
    thank you

    I make you a 30AA with those measurements.

  • I'm 12 and have not started my period yet. I'm really scared that I will start at school and leak! That would be so embarrassing . When I get my period for the first time will I leak?? Thanks! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    Try not to worry as it's normal for girls to start their period anytime between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when it's on its way is when you have been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. You might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect your underwear not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki

  • hi Vicki, your website has helped me so much and I have another question. What are the symptoms of a period? thanks x

    Thank you for your words of support. The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months but very often girls can also experience stomach cramps, headaches, nausea and back or leg cramps.

  • Hi vicki!
    So i was wondering if it is ok to sleep without pyjamas because I find anything really uncomfortable, but maybe it's a bit weird for a 13 year old to do that :|
    Mia
    Sorry if this is inappropriate

    Hi Mia, if you feel more comfortable without pyjamas, then I can't see any harm in doing this.

  • Hey Vicki, I have just been to the toilet and there is white in my pants what does this mean? Thankyou๐Ÿ’œ

    This is discharge and discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina. It works to keep our vaginas clean and healthy and is used as a sign that our bodies are preparing themselves for when our period arrives. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Puberty/Discharge

  • I'm due to go swimming tomorrow and I've got my period but I'm about 4 days into it and it usually stops on like 5th day but I'm really scared to use a tampon,I have tyred but it's just all hard and won't go in, what do I do?:(

    As you're at the end of your period and your flow will be extremely light, you should be okay so try not to worry. However, as for using tampons in future, please believe me when I say that all it takes is a little practice. We recommend that you first try using them on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest which will make the tampon easier to insert. You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use, having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • Hey Vicky,
    I started my period just over a year ago and it has always been irregular but now I haven't had it for over 5 months and I'm really worried. I also find it odd that I still get discharge???

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. It is possible for it to be irregular like this for up to 2 years. It is perfectly normal to release discharge throughtout your menstrual cycle so again please try not to worry as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.

  • Hey vicki im 12 if I wear padded underwired push up bras all day or even at night would this affect me in anyway?

    There is nothing to say that padded bras are bad for you in any way so please ry not to worry.

  • Can you masterbate on your period and how would you do it :)

    Yes and you can do it exactly the same way as if you were not on your period. Masturbation is a natural, instinctive thing to do and usually involves the touching or rubbing of the sexual organs.

  • Hi! I am 12 nearly 13 and have had discharge for 1 and a half years and no period. I am flat chested and sometimes get stomach aches (might be constapation!) My mum was 13 when she started, when do you think I will?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki , this is an extremely embarrassing subject but I was wondering if you can help... I have these small little spots on the inside of my vagina, not were the hair grows but no the skin around the entrance of the vagina, having anxiety dosnt help as I keep thinking it's some sort of std or Sti...please help me x

    Try not to worry as the only way you could possibly have an STI is if you have had sexual intercourse with an infected person. The small spots are best treated by keeping the area as clean as possible and if you put a little antiseptic on them you should find that they will clear up but if they don't, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • ***I have a bra from LaSenza which is 32C (That's the size they measured as) and it fits really well and is comfy, I also have a primark bra that is 34C as the band on the 32 primark bra was too tight and small. The cup size in the 34C primark bra is a bit to big. Why are they different??***

    This is a common experience among many girls and women which is why I always recommend that bras are tried on before they buy them. It seems that there are slight variations in sizing from store to store and this can depend on style too.

  • i have had my period for 3 years and now it has become very irregular, i haven't had a period for 2 months and i haven't had intercourse. i am very worried!!!

    As your period has now become irregular, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • I am 12 nearly 13 and all my friends have developed (the have got breasts, periods ect) but I'm still flat chested and have not started. I understand that I may be a late bloomer, but I feel like the ONLY one. What can I do?

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time so try not to worry.

  • Hiya vicki........1515
    I just wanted to ask (sorry if inappropriate) but when a girl and a boy want to have sex with protection does the boy just wear a condom or just the girl or both at the same time? And say you were to have sex with a guy and the girl didn't have a condom do you expect them to wear protection and not you???
    Thanks

    Protected sexual intercourse is usually when the male wears a condom and the female is protected by either taking the contraceptive pill, an implant or other means. A condom is a soft, cover that fits over an erect penis and when the male ejaculates, the semen is collected in the tip of the condom preventing it from uniting with the female egg. Condoms are essential in helping to prevent the spread of sexual diseases.

  • Hi vicky, lately my discharge has been very heavy and leaked through my knickers, yet today I had brown discharge so I put a period pad on and there was loads. Should I continue to use pads and is this a sign my period is near?? Thanks

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to keep a supply of sanitary towels to hand and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. You might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect your underwear not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki

  • My discharge changed colour white to a yellow brown colour is that normal?

    This is perfectly normal but brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey vicki..............1515
    I had a bit of moustache and lots of people started to notice (it wasn't that bad but it got a bit more noticeable) even my friend noticed and she commented about it and laughed. Also boys noticed it too and I didn't like it. So recently I used those small angled scissors and trimmed it. Was this good idea or not? What should I do now?

    There are two options for dealing with unwanted facial hair. One is facial bleaching which can be done by you with a home bleaching kit or a facial waxing kit which will remove the hairwhich can again be done by you. If you prefer and if you have your parent's or guardian's permission a beautician would be able to do this for you too.

  • So much discharge... no period?
    Hi vicki! So for the past year or so I had white discharge.Then about 6months after that I had a brown yellow colour instead. had it quite long at least a month. didn't think it was my period cos no blood. After about 3 months from that I got really bad cramps and have been on and off for the past 4 weeks. I am 12 years old. I have hair. My bra size is a 30c. I have a slight hair under my armpits. My mum had hers at 11 and nans was 9.

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. Just be sure to keep some sanitary towels close to hand and you might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect your underwear. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki

  • 20
    22
    what is my bra size?

    I'm afraid that you will need to notice a little more development before I can get a sizing for you.

  • 110
    100

    bra size?

    This is a 44AA.

  • my under bust is 28 inches and bust is 34 inches what bra size am i please XXX :) :) :)

    32B.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Today my breasts feel bigger and I don't know why. they don't necessarily look it, but even when I sit down, I just feel like they are bigger for some reason. Is this a PMS symptom? I should be getting my period within a few days x

    It is possible that your breasts have developed or swollen breasts are also a sign that your period is due.

  • Hi vicki,
    I had my first period on the 22 jan and its now the 15 april and it hasnt come back when will it because its really confusing me because I thought your period came monthly.:-/
    Fluffy unicorn girl

    Hi Fluffy Unicorn Girl, try not to worry as during the early stages of the mentrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi I get really bad period pains evry day now I told my mum and she said to put a pad in just incase but does that mean I have to put one in evry day and because my mum has heavy ones she has night pads and she buys me them but they are too big any advice on it

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and the stomach cramps you've noticed are also a sign that your body is preparing itself for when this occurs. You might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect your underwear from possible leakage should your period arrive, so just make sure you have some sanitary towels in your school bag too and you should be fine. When your period does arrive and should you find that your flow is heavy, you might be interested in our Lil-Lets Freshlock towels as they are more absorbent than the best selling products and come in Normal, Long and Night sizes. They also come with a unique odour neutraliser.

  • i 'm 14 n half since 2 yrs i had all sins of period bt stil it hvnt occur why?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I had like two periods last month, or it came really early. Will my next period be back to normal? I got my first period about four years ago and its coming up to the usual time I'd get it, and I'm really worried it won't come. I have a slight headache, I'm feeling tired and looking/feeling bloated if that helps:)

    As your periods are rather irregular and you've been having them for 4 years, I would ask your mum or guardian to take you to visit your GP for peace of mind.

  • How do I now when my period will start and finish? After the first one x

    You will simply have to wait and see but you should find that a pattern forms and you will have a rough idea of how long your menstrual cycle will be. This is usually between 21-34 days and a menstrual bleed lasts between 2-7 days. Remember all you have to do is to count on from the first day of your last day to the first day of your next.

  • Hello,asked a question before but you didn't reply...so basically last month I went out with this guy but we broke up because before we used to be close friends and we didn't want things to be awkward so we broke up and yesterday he messaged my friend saying he still likes me but that he likes this other girl aswell but how is it possible to like two girls at once? I really Like him and I don't know what to do please help:(

    It is normal for him to like two girls as puberty is a time when teens are being rewired and hormones run riot causing them to feel attraction to others. However, it isn't very nice for you knowing that he likes another girl too, so I think you need to make things clear with him and state that if he wants a relationship with you, he has to make his mind up and decide who he likes the most. If it's the other girl, try to move on and forget about him.

  • hi Vicki can you tell me my bra size

    under: 24.75 inches

    over bust: 26.5 inches

    thank you

    30AA.

  • What age should I start wearing make up? My friends do and I wear a bit but they put on lots.
    From jess :)
    (I'm 10)

    Hi Jess, this is something for you to discuss with your parents or guardians. Personally, I think the longer you can remain natural and not have to wear make-up, the better.

  • Hey
    33
    37
    BRA SIZE?
    Xxx

    38AA.

  • Hi viki
    I was wondering... I'm 11 and I'm in y6 , I have been wearing a bra for a while now I've been wearing a 32aa and my mum recently brought a bra back from her bf house in Newark an I thought she bought it for me and didn't think to check the label but it turned out to be a 30b and I don't know wether to wear my old ones or keep that one because it fits and is really comfy so I don't know which one to wear. Also is 30b big for 11 and 7 months?!?

    If the 30B feels comfortable and fits you, then wear it. Try to remember that we're all made in different shapes and sizes and our bodies develop at different rates to each other so if the bra fits, that is perfectly fine.

  • hi Vicki! I keep getting really angry with people then crying and I don't know what to do!?!?!?!?! xxx

    Try not to worry as it's not your fault, it's all because of your hormones. Puberty is known to be a time for teens to struggle with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so it's no wonder they feel angry and upset for much of the time. Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so try to do things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film or most importantly of all, talk about your feelings to your family and friends as this will help you cope.

  • Thank you for your advice Vicki I am trying to help more around the house little things make a difference I suppose. I just feel sad while I'm around my auntie but I'm trying to seem happy and normal. From cancershouldcetcancerandleaveusbe ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿ ๐Ÿ 

    That's wonderful to hear and you're doing great. I'm sure your aunty would hate to see you being sad around her so try to be as upbeat as possible at this difficult time.

  • For about a year now I have been getting 'sweat' in my armpits but it doesn't smell but it leavesarks on my clothes and stuff! This happens everyday whether I wear deodorant, had a shower in the morning or not! It really affects my confidence and makes me feel disgusting it usually comes in the morning but then dries and is fine until about 7-8 at night it's really upsetting me๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š

    Rather than using a deodorant, an antiperspirant should help and try not to worry as you're not alone as it's perfectly normal to sweat more during puberty. Ask your mum or guardian to ask for an effective antiperspirant from your local chemist.

  • Hello you answered my question but nothig came up? Can you so it again please, thanks. Hello Vicki. There's this boy called L, I don't know if I like him but whenever I talk to him, be with him or when my friends say I like him or he likes me I can't help my smile so much! I don't think he likes me cause he always calls me names but sometimes he jokes around and says he loves me and that. Please help me! Do I have a crush on this boy? Thanks๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›

    During puberty, teens develop attraction to others quite easily and this is called a crush. For more information on how to find out if he likes you too, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • Right so this boy asked me out and I've liked him for ages so I said yes but the next day I dumped him because he only like the novelty if having a gf but the thing is I still like him and he still likes me he has sworn to change and said he will do anything for me because I make him happy but the thing is I'm not popular and neither is he but he is less than me so people will take the Mick loads and be like omg and no one else fancies him because he isn't hot so they might bully me
    Please reply asap

    If you both like each other I can't see why the opinions of others matter to you.

  • I haven't had my period but what shall I put in my bag just in case I have one

    You might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect you not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive. Then all you need to do is carry a few sanitary towels with you in your school bag and you will be prepared. You might like to consider purchasing one of our Lil-Lets teens Starter Packs as they not only contain a selection of our teens range of products but they also have a 'becoming a teen' booklet which is filled with lots of useful information to guide you through puberty and this all comes in a pretty cosmetic purse which can be used to store your sanitary products. They are available from branches of Boots, Sainsbury's and Tescos or from our online store.

  • Hi I am Darcy and I was wondering if it is natural to have one boob bigger than the other has one of my boobs stopped growing

    Hi Darcy, it's perfectly normal to notice more development in one breast than the other but they should even up in time so try not to worry.

  • can I still go swimming

    Tampons are the only form of sanitary protection that can be worn while swimming so you might like to give them a try. Lil-Lets now offer a teens mini non-applicator tampon which is ideal for first-time use so please check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/July/16/Tampons%20and%20the%20Holiday?author=Vicki

  • Hi Vicky,
    It's Nicky again. It's been about 15 - 30 minutes since I asked you the last question, and now, there is more blood on my pad. I think that I have a heavy - Very heavy flow but is there any way it can be lightened. I understand that periods can be irregular, but I don't think I can hadle changing it every hour/2 hours.

    Hi Nicky, try not to worry as it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. However, as your flow is very heavy at the moment, you might like to try our Freshlock adult range of towels in both Normal and Long as they are more absorbent than the best selling products and come with a unique odour neutraliser. If your period remains like this for a long time, please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vickiโ•โ—
    I'm 14 and I wear push up bras (I know that can be a little young but I bave a good reason. It's long tho) and I'm nervous that they might hurt my boobs in the long run or something. Is it true that they can damage your boobs?
    And my Mum never spoke to me about bras or anything. She brought me 2 like gymnastics bras but I mean, their not real. I've had to buy my own bras with friends. Why won't she talk to me and buy me some?! Is she waiting for me to ask?
    Sorry it's kind of long โฌ†
    -Em

    Hi Em, there is no truth in push-up bras causing any damage to your breasts so try not to worry. I think you could start a conversation with your mum by asking how old she was when she first started wearing bras so why not give it a try.

  • Hi Vicky,
    So, I just started my period yesterday evening. In the morning, I found patches in my knickers, so I changed them and put a pad on. After about an hour, I went to the toilet and found that there was quite a lot and looked like there were blood clots. I changed again. It has been about 30 minutes now and there is only a small amount. Is this a heavy flow and will I keep getting this amount?

    Thanks, Nicky

    Please try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to release small clots as a part of your menstrual flow as they are a part of the uterine wall being released. You will simply have to wait and see how your flow is going to be as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi,
    How long do you have to have discharge before your period?
    Thanks!

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • I'm thirteen years old and my mum is brilliant, but when it comes to talking about puberty she got embarrassed and didn't talk to me about it. I did not know what to expect and have kind of gone through it on my own. Now here's the problem I'm facing, my sister is 10 and coming in to puberty. I don't want her to go through what I went through but my sister is starting to ask questions but she won't listen to me talking to her, she wants my mum to tell her about it.
    Miami

    Hi Miami, why not recommend our website to your sister and then once she has viewed all the great stuff on our site, she can speak to your mum about certain subjects, she requires more information on.

  • what age do you have to be to start your period. it would be great if you could reply xx

    It is normal for girls to start their period anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • How do you mastabrate when you want to

    Masturbation is a perfectly natural, instinctive thing to do and usually involves the rubbing or touching of the sexual organs.

  • I want to get a bra fitting but i dont own a bra. So i either have to take of my shirt and be topless or not get one at all. But i dont want a stranger seeing my boobs. So what should i do? Please help!!

    You can do this with your crop top and shirt on if you wish,so measure all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again but this time, over your bust at the fullest point. Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to do your bra sizing for you.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I have a question about my boobs I have used your measurement size chart to see if I need a bra and under my bust is 65cm but my fullest part is 75cm which is only 3cm away from 28a so I am not technically on the size chart but whenever i run my boobs rub against my top and hurt do you think i should get a bra just for comfort and care when i do PE and exersize your opinion would be very helpful.
    Many thanks :)

    I make you a 30AA with those measurements and try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for breasts to feel tender during development.

  • Any Suggestions for period pain

    We recommend that you try taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath as ways of soothing your discomfort but if the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • So i play a lot of sport and I'm pretty sure I broke my hymen .but just a quick question what sports break ur hymen and why and how.
    Thx heaps
    Hayley

    Hi Hayley, the majority of girls don't even realise that their hymens have stretched back whilst doing things like sports, exercise, riding a bike or inserting a tampon and try to remember that the hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.

  • Hey vicki, People say its bad for young girls such as 12 year olds to wear a bra with under wire, I dont get it why?

    There is no truth in this so try not to worry.

  • โ˜…โ˜…Hey vicki, im going to ask a few questions,
    1. Can doctors estimate when your period will start?
    2. Is ur first period red or brown when uv just started?
    3. Up to how many months can u miss your period after your first one?
    lilly x
    thank you for all your help, ur helped everyone alot on your website and me thanx x โ™ฅโ™ฅ

    Hi Lilly, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. Your first period can be red or brown and it is normal to experience large gaps in between your periods when they first arrive as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • thanks so much for answering my question I appreciated it we were totaly cool about it and he wants to be friends and I do to we hung out all day I feel were better friends. Also were tight on money in our house and my mom said she only has enough money to buy me her and my sister pads and tampons I ask if she could get me pant liners she said we don't have enough money. I don't know wht to do I get really heavy discharge. Sam โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ‡โ˜”๏ธ๐Ÿ๐Ÿโ„๏ธ๐Ÿ‡โ˜”๏ธ๐Ÿโ„๏ธ๐Ÿ‡โ˜”๏ธ

    Hi Sam, why not consider having a spare pair of pants in your school bag so if the discharge is very heavy you can change at break. Remember to have a plastic bag to put your school bag to, so you can place your soiled underwear safely away.

  • Hello Vicki. There's this boy called L, I don't know if I like him but whenever I talk to him, be with him or when my friends say I like him or he likes me I can't help my smile so much! I don't think he likes me cause he always calls me names but sometimes he jokes around and says he loves me and that. Please help me! Do I have a crush on this boy? Thanks๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›

  • 33 under
    37 over
    I wear a 36A but apparently I'm a 38A according to previous answers you have submitted to other people
    Thanks

    38AA.

  • My breasts are tiny and I want bigger ones but what's the best way?

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to make your breasts any bigger so try to be patient as it is normal for girls to notice development up until their 20's.

  • quick question. when u r expecting ur period should u already have the tampon inserted?? if u don't wouldn't it be a bloody mess?!?๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿ‘„

    No, you should never insert a tampon dry into the vagina as it's possible to cause tiny tears to appear on the vagina wall which may lead to infection. You should wait until your period has arrived before inserting the tampon and you will find that using pant liners will protect you from any possible leakage.

  • I have had discharge for about a year! ๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘Ž๐Ÿ‘ŽWHHYY HAVENT I GOTTEN MY PERIOD??

    As you've already been releasing discharge for a year, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi, I have been having discharge for about 4 months and its sometimes quite uncomfortable. But how much longer should I have it for? Does it lead all the way up to my period?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives. You might like to consider using LIl-Lets teens Liners as they are ideal for keeping your underwear fresh and clean. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki

  • Help!
    So there's this boy that I always snapchat like 50 convos a day and then his girlfriend broke up with him. He said to me that he doesn't like anyone but then he starts calling me babe like 'gtg bye babe' etc. I was saying babe back to be nice but does this mean anything?
    Thanks xx

    For more information on this, please check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • Under: 27

    Over: 29

    Bra size pls x

    Thanks your site has helped me a lot :D

    32AA.

  • Hi Viki!
    I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for 5 months, but I don't think I want to go out with him any more! He still really likes me though, even though I've not spoken to him in three weeks! I want to let him know I don't want to be his girlfriend any more, but don't know how?! Also we're on Easter holiday so it'd have to be by text and I'd feel so bad, how do I do it nicely without upsetting his feelings?

    Thanks Milly

    ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘

    Hi Milly, it's best to be honest witht his boy so try to be as diplomatic as possible in saying that you don't want a relationship at this time and would simply like to remain friends instead.

  • My period is always either too early or two late is this normal ??

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • My periods have stopped why?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi. Vicki So light brown stuff started appearing on my underwear and now there's yellowish mixed white and im 11 years old (12 next month) and I have not started my period yet. What does this mean?

    This is discharge which is perfectly normal as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection. Try not to worry as it's possible for discharge to change in colour, consistency and amount throughout the menstrual cycle.

  • me and my boyfriend (been together for neally 3 months) keep having all these arugments.Bawically i need asvice on how to sprt this problem out i have kind of secretly friendzoned him but i still love him as more if you understand? i dont know what to do xx please help ๐Ÿ˜‹โœŒ๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘Ž

    You're still so young and shouldn't be having to deal with so much aggravation in a relationship that is only three months old. So, I would suggest that you both take a break from each other to decide if it really is worth you being together at all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am really stressed.my parents are always moaning at me
    I have got a neddle and scrached my arm and want to do it again.
    Plz help me thxs.๐Ÿ‘”๐Ÿ‘”๐Ÿ‘”๐Ÿ‘”๐Ÿ‘”๐Ÿ‘”๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ‘ซ

    Try to remember that puberty is naturally a time in which teens stuggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and self-harming is seen as an expression of these intense, negative feelings which aren't your fault so please talk to someone you trust whether it be a teacher at school or a counsellor at Mindline on 0300 1233393. Talking will be the first step in helping you to feel better.

  • What are signs of starting your period that day?

    Many women and girls know when their period is due as they can experience stomach cramps, headaches, heavier discharge, nausea or swollen, tender breasts.

  • I came on my second period about two months ago. I just went to the loo and saw a brown stain. Is this my period again bcause i need to know wether to use a towel, or i really wanted to try a tampon this time round.

    There is a good chance that this was your period but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. When you feel confident to try tampons, you should wait until day 2 or 3 of your period as this is when your flow will be at its heaviest and make the tampon easier to insert. Check out the following link for more help with this: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • I have a baby sister and whenever we are in the shop looking for things for her I find something I think is so pretty my mum hates them I wish I had my own baby but I'm too young I don't want to play with"dollys" but I want the experience like night feeds,cloths,nappy changes .... What do I do

    With so much choice in stores it's no wonder you and your mum disagree about clothes, so try not to be too disappointed, when you have a family of your own you will be able to dress your child in the clothes you like. As for wanting to have the experience of having your own child, yes it's fantastic, it's also extremely tiring, absorbing, demanding and all encompassing. So please don't be in a rush to have a child, live a little, experience life before you consider a family.

  • My crush and I used to talk almost everyday. I told him I liked him in february and he said 'Aw cute' with 60 love hearts. We haven't talked since and i have a feeling he's losing interest in me but i have this feeling I annoy him and he doesn't wanna talk but I want to tell him how I feel and talk again. I think he's sorta forgotten about me :( xxxx
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    For more information on this, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • Hi Vicki at the moment I'm trying to keep track of my weight, but sometimes i step on the scales and I weigh 8 st 6 lb and other times i get on and weigh 8st 12 lb. How on earth can this be? And what's the best time to weigh myself for an accurate weight? THANKYOU! <3
    WWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWww

    The key to maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and by staying as active as possible.

  • Hey!!!!!
    It's about boys: I have just found out my boyfriend has been cheating on me and is now really mean! What do I do HELP!!

    Walk away, you are better off without him. Don't let him think that you are upset and if your can move on without being mean or nasty back. There is a lot to be said for being the bigger person.

  • Hi Vicki,
    How do you make twins?
    Eleanor x

    Hi Eleanor, there are two different ways for twins to be created. When two eggs are released and fertilised or when one egg is fertilised and splits into two.

  • I am almost 20 years old and lately my breasts have been feeling a little tender. It has not been my time of the month. Could they still be developing?I haven't had this feeling since I was about 16.

    Breasts can continue developing into a girls twenties so yes this may still be part of your continued development.

  • +*+*+* Hi Vicky,
    I love reading your blog posts and I am very keen on starting a blog too. I'm interested in blogging for Lil-lets because i love your products and helping other girls my age go through growing up. Is this possible? xxx

    Leave this with me and I will speak to the team. We have discussed running a blog competition in 2014.

  • Hi Vicki I need help my auntie has cancer and I don't know what to do. My dad seems upset but I don't like to talk about it I always answer back and then I get shouted at. I am also having to keep on top of tests and I am starting to get angry all the time but I want to stay strong for my family. What should I do? Thank you from cancershouldgetcancerandleaveusbe
    ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌso I know it's mine

    I'm so sorry to hear your sad news and realise that this is a very upsetting time for you and your family added to which you are going through puberty which is naturally a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring, it's no wonder you feel angry at times but you know the best way of coping with everything is to talk about how you're feeling with your family and friends and as your dad is so upset, try doing little things like asking if he would like a tea or coffee and give him a hug to let him know you're there for him.

  • I've had sore nipples for about a year now and they still haven't developed, how long does it usually take? Thank you โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’›โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’›

    Breasts can continue to develop up until your 20's but everyone is different.

  • Hi Vicki! I am 15 and wear underwire bras. I recently brought 2 new ones, same size as my other. But these 2 hurt at the wire. They are a good fit... So I don't know why they hurt, unlike the others! Please help :(

    From: Muffin pants

    Hi Muffin Pants, the only reason that the wire feels uncomfortable is because of the fit so why not take them back to the shop and try on some bras in a bigger size until you find bras that are comfortable on you.

  • I don't have a mum. I don't know when she started so I asked my older sister and she said I don't know so when I asked my grandma she said 12 because she was a bit fat throws days. My sis stated the same age as me at 11. My breasts are bigger โ€šim moody โ€š I gt emotional and I always feel sick. Also discharge.So what I'm saying is that can u get your period if your fat or does your parents HAVE to know ? I'm getting upset now.

    Your weight has very little to do with the arrival of your period and not everyone starts their period at the same time that family members did. What is for sure is that you have entered puberty and one part of that journey is your period and with so many signs already noticed already I doubt you will have much longer to wait. So be patient and be prepared by having some towels and liners with you when out and about.

  • Do you have an Instagram account? I've been trying to find it and I thought you might have one because of the links to Instagrammers on the blog :P

    Lil-lets does not have an Instagram account but some of us in the office have private ones so we get to see all the great stuff on there.

  • Hi I have started my peeiod and I am Scared if we get a puberty talk At school my reacher will tell everyone please help

    First of all, congratulations and please try not to worry as there is no reason why your P.E. teacher would tell anyone else that you've started your period. Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and there really is no need to fear them.

  • Hi. me again. My mum died so I can't tell her if I start my period or more information. My dad won't understand so I'll tell my sister if her and i could go shopping tomorrow. I'm always emotional all the time and my tummy keeps on hurting. I had discharge for a long time since last year. Living without mum makes me lonely because we always use to hang out. I need advice๐Ÿ’ฏ

    I'm so sorry to hear of your loss and realise how difficult it must be for you not having your mum around as puberty can already be such a diffcult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once. Try to take comfort in the fact that time is a great healer and you will always have your memories and try not to forget that your mum lives on in you and your sister. Please talk to her as you will both gain great comfort and support in discussing your feelings with each other. As for your period, the best way of knowing when it might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months so I don't think you have too much longer to wait. If you should feel the need to talk to anyone else for support, Childline are great and you can call them on 0800 1111.

  • Also a cupple of days ago a gymnastics I was doing a split leap on the beam but I fell one leg either side it really hurt I went to the toilet and there was a bit of blood there also I came out with a lot of bruising so I don't know if I should be worried Owwwww and also I constantly need the toilet know ๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜š๐Ÿ˜ฅ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜’๐ŸŒ•๐Ÿ™๐ŸŒณ๐ŸŒฐ๐ŸŒฐ๐ŸŒฐ๐ŸŒฐ๐ŸŒ—๐ŸŒ—๐ŸŒ—๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒผ๐ŸŒฐ๐ŸŒณ๐ŸŒฒ๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ™๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒพ๐Ÿด๐Ÿญ๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿป๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท

    I have answered this question so please look in Older Questons Answered.

  • How do you know what bra size you are if you dont want to have somebody else measure it for you ? Can you use a tape measure, but I might not be good at measuring, I dont know how to do it myself but I dont want somebody else doing it
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    All you need to do is measure all the way round your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again but this time do it over your bust at the fullest point. Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to do a bra sizing for you.

  • SATS tips part 2:
    Try and answer the questions that are worth the most marks because that will give you a higher level (but try and answer the questions worth less marks as well)!
    Take a deep breath before the test begins.
    And most importantly, believe that you can do it and stay calm! And if you are doing level 6 tests, don't worry, they are not that different to the normal tests (I did level 6 tests)!
    P.s. I am in year 7 and did SATS last year. ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

    Many thanks for this and for sharing with the girls.

  • These are some tips for girls in year 6 doing SATS:
    Always drink some water, go to the toilet and sharpen your pencil just before the test
    Revise before the test but don't go do too much revision because you'll tire yourself out!
    NEVER try and cheat!!! A boy in my class tried cheating and he was caught and the teacher was angry!
    If you can't answer a question move on and come back to it later.
    ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•

    Great tips.

  • Hello Vicki, I'm the girl that asked you about my period. You said I don't have long to wait, is that like 5months or something? Thanks, I love your site!๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    I am afraid I cannot give you a specific time you really do have to wait and see.

  • Hi, just wondering the last time I wore make up I was allergic to it so can you reccomed me some that is Eco friendly. Thanks ๐Ÿ’•

    Very often it's a case of trial and error until you find the one that suits you. Very often if you have an allergy to a product the company will refund your purchase so you do not always have to be out of pocket. A very good tip is to place a little bit of the make-up in the crook of your arm and if you notice no irritation then it should be fine for your face.

  • Hi Viki!
    I was at the park yesterday with my friend, a boy, but definitely just a friend! We were playing rugby and then to get the ball off me he dragged me by my leg, my top came up, I think he saw my breast :/
    He jokingly said, I saw your bra, but I think he saw something else too!
    It's soo awkward cos I see him all the time and want to know if he saw?!

    Thanks Milly

    ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

    Hi Milly, these things happen and I am sure he will forget about it in a few days and it will just be history.

  • Hello Vicki, I don't know if I like this boy. Whenever I'm with him I can't stop smiling and when I talk to him I always smile, and when we friends say I like him I can't help but have a massive grin on my face. I always think about him and I have dreams about him sometimes. But I don't think he likes me as he always calls me names and makes fun of me. Please help me!
    Reply ASAP thank youโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’œโค

    I think it is pretty clear you like this boy and just because he teases you does not necessarily mean he does not feel the same. Very often boys tease and joke around girls they like to avoid letting anyone else know how they feel.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I am 12 yrs old and get stomach aches most nights and get discharge but have not yet started my period. I am quite flat chested and dont wear bras or crop tops. Do you think my period is far off or near? Thankyou xx :)

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. Keep an eye on your stomach pains and if they persist, ask your mum to take you to visit your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey I don't know how to tell my mum that I've started my period. I also don't know how to tell her my discharge is really heavy! Thanks xxx

    Please try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and you shouldn't really be afraid to speak to her about your discharge and periods. Check out the folowing link for more help with this: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/July/29/Talking%20to%20Mum%20and%20Dad?author=Vicki

  • This is quite a complicated question but I like this boy who is the son of some family friends. He's 15 and I am 12, we never really see each other and I'm scared because I've tried searching things like 'am I too young for him' and stuff and all say at this time 3 yrs is a massive age difference. I know it's a bit of a difference but I really like him! I just feel a bit depressed and he lives 2hrs away...

    Please help me viki!!๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿช๐Ÿช๐Ÿช๐Ÿช

    The age difference may not seem huge to you but during your teen years there can be some really big changes to a person in just a year, so for now and because this boy lives so far away, why not consider just being good friends until you are older.

  • I'm really worried. Me and my best friend P, well we had a massive argument over I-Message ages ago. She asked for a new best friend. (We're only 11) Well, all of a sudden she won't sit next to me in Dinner times. She won't play with me, so I'm always talking with the boys. Also, she won't talk to me. What can I do?

    Nexx

    Hi Neeve, in a few days ask her if you can have a quiet chat. Let her know you regret the argument and hope you can still be friends.

  • Hey Vicki

    I would like my bra size please
    28 under
    33 over :)

    Thanks , love GalaxyChocolate (Fake Name)

    I make you a 32A.

  • Hi vicki my period started on thursday it was very light... now its totally just stopped and it looks brown on my pad? what is this? i dont have many periods anymore, but i do experience mood swings, and some bad emotions which make me want to have rows with people

    Jenna!

    Hi Jenna, try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Could you possibly tell me how to measure what size my boobs/breasts are. I'm really curious to know!

    If you can measure all the way round your front and back, directly below your bust and then do the same again but over your bust at the fullest point. Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to calculate your bra size for you.

  • I have been having discharge for 4 years now and I still haven't started yet what is wrong with me?

    As you are clearly a little worried about this, please ask your mum or guardian to take you to visit your GP for peace of mind.

  • hi! i just want to know how long periods last for and then when do they start again from kitty x

    Hi Kitty, a menstrual cycle can last anything between 21-34 days with the release of menstrual blood usually lasting between 2-7 days. For more information on this, check out the foloowing link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/Understanding-Periods

  • I get lots of discharge around my vagina that has not got to my pants is it normal

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry and consider using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/15/New%20Teens%20Wipes
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  • I got a LOT of discharge yesterday it absorbed into my pants but was lots but I did not feel it

    Try not to worry as it's totally normal for discharge to vary in amount, consistency and colour throughout your mentrual cycle. You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners as they are ideal for protecting your underwear and keeping you feeling fresh and clean. Check out the folowing link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki

  • Do you know methods of decreasing period cramps pain? Mine get quite bad and I was wondering if you had any suggestions? x

    Gentle exercise, warm baths and a hot water bottle are my favourites. If the pain is very bad you could ask an adult to offer you a pain killer, but this kind of medication should only ever be taken under adult supervision.

  • Are the Lil-Lets Teen range of sanitary towels suitable for heavy periods? x

    The Lil-Lets teens towels are designed for a normal flow but our Freshlock range of towels are ideal for heavy periods as they are more absorbent than the best selling towel and super soft too.

  • I get cramps daily now in my tummy I used to only get then accasinally they hurt. :(:(:( is my period going closer?

    This is your reproductive organs maturing and gentle exercise should be enough to ease this discomfort.

  • If you got your period in the swimming pool do they evaquate it and drain all the water?

    The chemicals in the pool will purify the water and there will be no need to evacuate or drain the water away.

  • When do your boobs stop growing? I have looked through most of the questions and I cant seem to find the answer..

    Breasts can continue to grow into your late teens or early twenties, it really does depend on the individual. They can also change shape and size during certain times in your life, such as pregnancy.

  • In the puberty tab, in the boobs and bras section, it says It is also not unusual for the nipple area to become a little sore and sometimes cracked. Are you talking about the breast bud being cracked?

    From AussieGirl

    Hi AussieGirl, no this is the nipple area itself. The breast bud is under the skin.

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 years old and yet I have not started my periods but all my friends did is it normal

    A period can arrive from the age of 8-18 so please try not to worry or compare your progress with that of your friends.

  • what bra size am I
    UNDER:33 inches
    on the bust:37 inches

    Your bra size is a 38A, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hey Vicki,
    How are u suppose to use a tampon if there is a big hymen In the way?

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

    Hi Darcy-Mae, your hymen does not completely cover the entrance to your vagina, if it did how could menstrual fluid be released. As you get older you will notice this piece of skin starts to stretch, sometimes from using a tampon, other times from taking part in sport and for some during sexual intercourse. If you find you cannot insert a tampon just yet, wait a while and try in a few months.

  • To Vicky,
    My boyfriend is really nice, but he's really obsessed with me, and it has got to the stage where me and my best friend have to hide to speak to each other in the morning. It's getting annoying now and I don't know what to do. I also found out he plays in my friend's band and I'm scared he'll try to get information of her about me. Also, is it wrong to have fictional crushes when you have a boyfriend?

    Can you please put this in boys please

    Sharleen

    It's time for you to be firm with your boyfriend, you love being with him, but you love time with your friends too. If he cannot accept this or constantly tries to find information about you from others, it's time to end the relationship. As for having crushes on fictional characters yes this is fine, in fact I think we all do!

  • Hi Vicki its me Mia again I want to ask another guestion oh by the wey I'm 12 ok I have lots of discharge each day and when I wipe mysel the tissue is always wet and it is really uncomfortable and when I walk it feels like I've wet myself should I start wearing towel xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Mia, I would suggest you wear a pant liner instead, these are designed to absorb discharge and are more cost effective than using a towel every day.

  • vicky lately my breast has been feeling painfull and i hurts

    It is very common for breasts to feel a little tender during breast development, a warm bath can usually ease this discomfort and it will subside over time.

  • I'm on my period, it's embarrassing to say but because I'm not exactly skinny my period is heavy and because of that it sometimes goes up my legs and its bad because I've broken my foot so I'm in a cast.. What can I do?x from ash

    Hi Ash, try our Lil-Lets Freshlock long and night time towels, ideal for heavier periods as they are more absorbent than the best selling pad.

  • Hi Vicki my name is Mia I am 12 years old and I need to ask u a guestion ok .... I get really stressed but I don't now I I have anger probelems and I'm always getting in troube but when I was a 11 I never use to get stredded this much is being really stressed growing up or it just coz I'm a stress head thank you hope you answer back sorry for wasting your time xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx HELP xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    If you have only recently started to stress and lose your temper then it is almost certainly caused by those little chemicals in your body called hormones; their job is to change you from a child to an adult and can very often leave us feeling, weepy, sad, angry or moody. Be nice to yourself and those around you. If you feel your temper rising take some time to be alone, listen to some tunes or read a book until you feel calmer. It won't last forever but you do need to learn to control it as your journey through puberty continues.

  • Hi,
    Please help!! I have cried over this many times! M problem is that I can't stop sweating I have tried loads of anti persperabts and deodorants but they don't work and lev massive sweat marks on all my clothes! Please help me and recommend a deodorant I don mind if it is spray or roll on. My mum says she might even take me to the doctor it is that bad help!
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜€

    Hi Lucy, why not try a roll-on that offers greater protection, sometimes these are designed for men, but women can use them too. And remember that showering or bathing is equally important to keep you feeling clean and fresh. You may also find natural fibres such as cotton will help reduce the amount of sweat produced.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 14 soon to be 15 and I've always had smallish boobs I now have small blue strech marks and I also wear underwired bras constantly only not in bed. Are they stopping the growth of my boobs? So in a nutshell why are the strech mark there will they ever go away and are underwired bras stoping my growth? Also my nipples are quite small and don't really look like proper nipples when will they develope?

    There is no medical evidence to show that underwired bras are detrimental to breast growth and it is a personal choice as to whether you have a rest from your bra at night or continue to wear it. As for stretchmarks, well you can find out all about these in my blog entitiled - Stretchmarks and here is the link. http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2014/January/15/Stretchmarks?author=Vicki

  • Hi
    Every time I look at boys I just imagine having sex with them. Its really weird and I feel disgusting stupid and horrible. How can I stop feeling this way . I'm too young for this. Don't get freaked out !๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ’ฏ Just so I know its mine

    It is normal to feel curious about sexual relations with someone especially as you enter puberty and start your journey to becoming a young adult. So don't feel guilty or horrible it really is nature working just as she should.

  • Hiya again Vicki it's Ashleigh. It's the next day and my period is normally heavy but it's gone to be lighter, what is happening. It's never like this, in worried once again :( x

    There is no need to be worried, periods are often lighter after a day or two and can also vary from period to period.

  • Everyone makes fun of me because I like Motown and Michael Jackson! It's just my music preference. What should I do? And what's your favourite type of music or artist/s? ๐ŸŽต๐ŸŽผ๐ŸŽง๐ŸŽค๐ŸŽถ๐ŸŽน๐ŸŽป๐ŸŽบ๐ŸŽท๐ŸŽธ

    Your taste is music is what makes you unique and it is great to embrace different styles of music from all eras and genres. I have to say I like lots of different styles of music, but have a particular favourite for dance music, including the incredible talents of Michael Jackson, my personal favourite of his is Rock My World.

  • My boyfriend has fingered me a lot, but the last time it was really sore afterwords!!!! Please help x ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ

    There is a rule for pain on any part of your body. If it hurts or is sore then stop doing the activity that makes it so.

  • Hey vikki, I have a problem my parents are divorced (have been for 4 years now) and there has been a lot of negativity going on in my house (I live with my mom) and I want to live with my dad but I don't want to leave my friends, or family (since he lives in Oklahoma) I'm scared don't know what to do I cry every night and sad I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, please help ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ซ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ฟ๐Ÿ‘‘๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘›๐Ÿ‘›โค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’

    Why not have a chat to both of your parents letting them know how their hostility is affecting you. I am sure once they realise this they will be mindful of their comments in the future and will want only what is best for you.

  • Help! I had my period and also my breasts ain't big yet! :( It been like some months I had my periods and my breasts ain't gonna grow :( when will it begin to grow?

    Breasts can continue growing into your late teens or even early twenties so try not to worry you have plenty of time for development.

  • Hey vicki im 16 and im cool with my big boobz n the period n stuff bt i hv this question like ever since i was younger i loved the sensation of when my vagina is under a pipe i read it up n it says tht this is water masturbation is tht true is it safe n whni do it n is it masturbation or... plz reply asap i hv no one to tlk to

    This is a form of masturbation and fairly common and like anything is safe as long as you respect your body and if any pain is noticed you should stop immediately.

  • I was at school when me and my friend got called by the principal. The reason was about this girl we've been talking about. We've said some things and I've made my teacher really disappointed and a bit angry. But I'm now really mad at this girl and I dont know what to do. The teacher said I was a good student but am I still one now? Will it affect my grades? It's really putting me down and I don't like making my teacher disappointed. What if the principal called my parents? PLEASE HELP ME

    If you have been unkind about someone and this has come to both your teacher's and principles attention then yes they have every right to be disappointed in your behaviour, this will not however affect your grades and there is something to be said for learning from our mistakes. Whilst you may feel a little angry for being found out, I would hope you have learnt that every action has a consequence and in future other people's feelings should be taken into account when saying unkind remarks.

  • Vicki I cut myself like self hurt it wasnt that deep it was jjst like a paper cut on my finger because I was sad because my grandma died so I gave myself a paper cut with paper I have not told anyone so I feel beter now because I talked about missing my grandma with my family but not about the cut so is this really self hurting and what do you recomend I do
    Please answer, Brea

    Hi Brea, I am sorry to learn of the loss of your grandma and I am pleased to learn that you realise there is nothing wrong with sharing your sadness with family members and to remember the great times you had with your grandma when she was alive. If you feel you also want to talk to someone about the cut you gave yourself then this would also be a good way of ensuring there is support there for you if you need it. I hope however this was an isolated incident.

  • I Vicki it's Samโ„๏ธ I asked what I should get my boyfriend for his birthday sorry if uve already answerd but he just broke up with me over text. also how should I deal with it I feel quite sad and don't know what to do at school tmw were in the Same table group ( not on pour pose the teacher out us there) I just don't know how to handle itโ„๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡

    Smile, be friendly and give the impression you are totally cool with his decision...even if this is not how you feel inside, there is no need for him to see how upset you are.

  • I feel like I wet my pants but it's just discharge I'm to scared to ask my Mum for pantie liners as she has already got me pads I haven't got my period yet, what should I do? I don't know where a tape measure is is there any other ways of measuring your bra size?
    Phoebe.

    Hi Phoebe, you could visit your local department store and ask them to measure you and I am sure they will do so happily. As for liners, why not ask your mum if you can request a sample pack from me, by clicking on the Content tab at the bottom of the page.

  • My Mum won't let me get a bra and all of my friends have padded ones while I'm stuck with crop tops! I really want a padded bra! Last time that we were yt the shops I pointed out the ones that my friend has (padded) and she is flat chested I'm to scared to ask my Mum again I'm scared that she'll say no!

    What should I do?
    Phoebe.

    Hi Phoebe, it depends on why you want a padded bra I guess. They are great for hiding your nipple through clothing but they do make the breasts look fuller and this may be why your mum does not feel you are ready for one just yet. Ask her again in the summer and see what she says. You may also find my blogs on bras useful too, along with section on Boobs and Bras. Here is the link http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Puberty/Boobs%20and%20bras

  • What would happen if you come on when your wat schooal and youfore get your period kit ? X

    Why not read my blog entitled; Periods and School it will tell you all you need to know should your period arrive unexpectedly when in class.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well in the summer I'm going on holiday but what supplies should I bring with me(my Mum got me all the Lil-Lets supplies) because I've got a really strong feeling that I might get my first period there(plus I have all the signs) but anyway what should I bring??
    Thanx Xxx

    Why not take a pack of our Lil-Lets teens day and night towels and a box of liners in your suitcase, this should keep you protected should your period arrive whilst on holiday.

  • Hey Vicki
    So in my class we have Sex Education coming up but I'm nervous because apparently a while ago a boy fainted and I'm scared incase it happens to me!! Plus what if I'm not gross/freaked out and the whole class laughs or goes " ooooo" and I don't people might think I am someone who enjoys it๐Ÿ˜ฅ
    Do u have any tips on how to just suck it up and get over it???
    Thanx Xxx๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜…$ยฃยฅ #help_nervous

    Relax, sex education should not be seen as something to be anxious or worried about and there is nothing wrong with not laughing or commenting, it shows a maturity towards the subject and if anyone makes a comment you can say just that!

  • Hey Vickiโคโค
    Well a wee wile ago me and my crush lets call him Z were walking together REALLY getting to know each other then this really annoying boy ran up to us and asked if we were dating and I said no because I didn't want to be embarrassed(and we aren't)but Z looked quite sad after I said that. Then the annoying boy said we looked good together and we both uncontrollabley smiled.But how do I show Z that I didn't mean it without telling him.What do I do, and how do I show him I didn't mean it? thanx Xx

    I would not worry too much about Z if you continue chatting he will quickly get the message that you like him, boys rarely give up once they like a girl.

  • Hello Vicki! I really want to start my period! It's really frustrating and I'm so embarrassed that I've lied to my friends that I've started. I have discharge frequently but it's not that heavy, I have sore boobs but I'm only a 30aa and I'm 13 almost 14!! I have pubic hair, I kinda have hips, my m started at 13 or 14 can you please give me a good estimate when you think it's going to start? Please help me!
    Reply ASAP, thanks๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    I cannot give you a date for the arrival of your period, however with so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait.

  • Hi, im 12 (year 8) and im a 32C bra size and people say that you get your period 2-2&1/2 years after breast growth and mine started to grow round about when I was 10, is this true and will I start soon because I get discharge sometimes and sometimes its clear and gooey?
    Thanks x

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed you may just find your period arrives this year sometime.

  • Hi!
    I don't know what to do anymore. For over a year I've been feeling terrible and sad all the time, usually for no reason, I've been cutting a lot more recently and can't stop, and now I've been looking at ways to commit suicide :/The only reason Ive not yet is because very way looks painful. I don't know if I should talk to anyone about this or who to talk to. Im not close with my parents and I feel like I don't have any friends anymore, what should I do? Thanks,
    Cupcake37

    Hi Cupcake37, you really must speak to someone about your feelings and if you feel unable to speak to your parents do you have another trusted family member or even a teacher you can confide in. There is a lot of help out there and you do not have to suffer alone. You may also find Childline a good starting point. Their number is 0800 1111 and all calls are free, confidential and do not show up on any telephone bills or call registers.

  • Hi Vicki I was just wondering how can I tell my teacher that I have started my period

    There really is no need to tell anyone you have started menstruating unless of course your period arrives in school and you are not prepared. If this is the case then why not read my blog entitled; Periods and School.

  • I'm 19 and I never get sexually aroused. I used to but never anymore. I don't think this is normal but is it serious enough to ask the doctor? I'd feel like I was pointlessly making an appointment

    If something is worrying you then it is worthy of a doctor's appointment. So give them a call and have a chat.

  • hi vicki please help
    I've been on Dianette since February but still not got clear skin. I've heard it takes about 3 months but that's been over 3 months now. I took it last year but stopped for a few months and went back on it in Feb 2014 . I really really hope it isnt that it just doesn't work the second time round. I can't be put on accutane. What do you think is happening? Should I wait another few months?

    I would visit your GP and have a chat with them. They will be able to identify if this particular form of medication is right for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 12 years old and I have found some dark orange blobs in my discharge. I haven't had my period yet and I was just wondering if you know this is my period. I have really bad stomach cramps too.
    From Cupcake

    This is most likely your period Cupcake and you should have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and let them know of your news.

  • Hi Vicki. I have my period and I was wondering if there was lil lets teen towels without wings because I really like the look of the towels but I hate how wings end up going loose and sticking to my legs. So I was just wondering if teens towels without wings were available? Thanks xoxox

    Our towels all come with wings, but you could always tuck them under the towel before placing in your underwear if you wished.

  • Hiya again Vicki, it's Ashleigh. Just to let you know thank you very much for helping me and after al the worrying I've finally got my period back!x

    Hi Ashleigh, you are most welcome.

  • Also a cupple of days ago a gymnastics I was doing a split leap on the beam but I fell one leg either side it really hurt I went to the toilet and there was a bit of blood there also I came out with a lot of bruising so I don't know if I should be worried Owwwww and also I constantly need the toilet know also I am know frightened of the beam every time I go to to do a leap I start cring ๐Ÿฌ๐Ÿ‹๐Ÿฌ๐ŸŠ๐Ÿ ๐ŸŒ๐ŸŠ๐Ÿž๐Ÿง๐Ÿฌ๐ŸŽ‚๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿž๐Ÿ…๐ŸŒ๐ŸŽ‚๐Ÿž๐Ÿ‹๐ŸŽ‚๐Ÿณ๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚๐Ÿ‹๐Ÿ‹๐Ÿญ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข

    The vagina is very well protected and this incident should not have caused any lasting damage, although like any other part of the body it can bruise and need some time to recover. It should not however prevent you from getting back on the beam in future.

  • Hi Vicki I have started my periods all ready and I am quite regular but I am a classical dancer and a gymnast and i am sceared people can c my pad cos I have to we're a leotard for both things and the are tightโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ‘ฏ๐Ÿ‘ฏ๐Ÿ‘ฏ๐Ÿ‘ฏ๐Ÿ‘ฏ๐Ÿ‘ฏ๐Ÿ‘ฏโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿท๐Ÿญ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿณ๐Ÿ‹๐Ÿˆ๐Ÿจ๐Ÿฏ๐ŸŠ๐Ÿž๐ŸŠ๐Ÿญ

    Why not consider using tampons; ideal for when you want to be active and you may find my blog entitled; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies useful.

  • What does fingering someone mean??โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Šplease answer ASAP

    This is a rather unpleasant slang term to describe when someone inserts their fingers inside the vagina.

  • hi vicki. ive had my periods since jan 2013 and tehy normally come out as bright red and medium. however, my period is due around now(i never know for sure) but im having a very light brown/orange discharge. i dont know if this is it or not. i have only ever had one this light before and it had a red tint to it but this was abnormal. is this pale brown/orange discharge my period?

    Pale coloured menstrual fluid is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hiya !! Ive a few things I hope you can help me with!! Does green tea avtually help you get your first period faster!?!? I was getting dressrf this morning and my reast buds had grown quite a lot and I think I mite fit in an aa cup will I be getting more kind of breast spurts like that !?!? And ive had a growth sport 2/3 inches in the lsst 2 weeks will I get my period soon !?!?

    There is nothing you can eat or drink that will make your period arrive any sooner, so please dismiss these myths that are untrue and very often spread around by others. As for breasts, they do very often have growth spurts and this can happen from time to time during breast development. This along with an increase in your height is a great sign that your period may not be too far away.

  • Is your period sometimes brown

    Yes menstrual fluid can often vary in colour, one day red, other days brown.

  • hi vikki
    my best friend is super pretty and I like this guy but he likes my friend ! I'm soooooo upset and I think that my friend likes him too what do I do ? :(

    It would not do for us all to like the same person so please don't feel upset. It does not mean there is anything wrong with you, just that you and this boy are not compatible, so leave them to carry on with their relationship and find someone who cares for you as much as you care for them.

  • Heyy Vicki
    I'm 13 and I've shaved 'down there' quite a few times now but I just wondered, in your opinion how often should u shave it because I shaved it one day and literally a day or two later it had grown back quite a lot, so I wondered if I could shave it again after a few days or whether that is too soon??
    Thanks xxx
    ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

    That's the problem with shaving, it always grows back and appears very noticeable. I do not shave this area myself but from other comments I believe once a week - two weeks is the average for maintaing this type of hair removal.

  • Hey:) I'm in love with a fella that don't love me back:( he did love me before but he doesn't anymore:( I really don't know what to do I've never felt like this before for anyone please help me:'( love Lela xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxooxoxox

    Hi Lela, as hard as it is for me to say this and for you to hear itโ€ฆyou do really need to move on from this relationship. Busy yourself with friends and family so you spend less time thinking over how you feel about this boy and in time you will feel less hurt and be open to love with someone else.

  • My period is almost 2 weeks late and I don't know when I'm going to get it, I'm not wearing panty liners anymore because I have no idea when it's coming. How could I tell when it's coming (if I can).

    There really is no sure fire way of knowing exactly when your period is going to arrive, which is why pant liners worn on a daily basis are so useful.

  • I come off my period Tuesday and I've had sex with my boyfriend on Wednesday however it is now Sunday and I'm getting blood come out of my vaginal area but I've been off for over 3days is this a sign of pregnancy and what should I do?

    It is unlikely that you are pregnant and it could just be that your period has not yet ended and there is still a little bit of blood left to be released.

  • Hello vicki Aangel319 here I get discharge I wear a panti liner every day and it dosent go on to it and and when I go to the loo I have it all in my vagina and sometimes it goes crusty how can I make it go on to the panti liner instead of keep going to the loo to clean it up its very annoying as I do dancing and I have to keep going out of practice to clean it ? Thanks xx
    Aangel319

    Hi Aangel319, discharge can be thick sometimes and stick to your vagina and pubic hair. Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes they can be used when you visit the toilet to keep you feeling clean and fresh.

  • There is a really cute boy at school and he's been dating an even cuter girl at school. Shes perfect. Funny, pretty, slim, athletic, popular and amazing skin. I look really fat in uniform, has horrible greasy hair and spotty skin and I'm really weird. They recently broke up and he asked me out just to get back at his ex .that afternoon he dumped me for his ex and it made me feel ugly. Will I get him? Will I get a bf? How can i look pretty in school uniform for him if my mum wont buy me new school clothes?

    Ok, so the most important question in your communication to me is "How can I feel better about myself". And that starts by being nice to yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself, this boy would not have asked you out if he thought others were going to tease him for dating you, so I am sure he and others think you very attractive and a nice person. For more self-confidence sit down and write a list of things you want to do on a daily basis, such as a good skincare routine, healthy diet and exercising. If your hair is suffering with excess grease then consider switching to a shampoo suitable for greasy hair. Then consider your style, it's quite simple to update your uniform with belts and simple accessories.

  • Recently I have really wanted to get loads of make up. This is totally not like me. All my friends have got lots and I feel like the odd one out. I am allowed eyeshadow ECT but not eyeliner and mascara ECT. My friends have both of them. What should I do?
    -JW
    (Can u put this in something else plz so I know where to look)
    Thankz

    Why not ask for some mascara next time you go out with your mum it is a little less drastic than mascara and liner, which can be quite harsh.

  • Hi so yesterday I went shopping with my mom to get some Underwear I was trying to pick out some pants my mom kept picking up ones with flowers and babyish style pants. So I picked up some nice lace ones I thought they were nice but my mom shouted at me saying that they would be to hot but I think she didn't want me to have them like I'm to young for them or something. when I wear nice grown up underwear I fell more confident so how do I tell my mom this thanks Mia w I'm 13

    Hi Mia, why not let your mum know that you feel you are a little young for her choice of pants and would like to try something a little bit more grown-up. However, lace may be a step too far.

  • ๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ‘‘-hi I usually use dove spray antiperspirant and I sweat so much but I tried the roll on dove today and my armpits feel hot and I feel like I'm sweating a bit but when I look, there's no sweat, my armpits are dry and I don't smell sweaty. Does this mean it's working better for me? Just wanted to know what u think

    Sarah x

    Hi Sarah, it does sound as if the roll-on suits you better and I have to be honest and say I too prefer a roll-on.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started to have discharge last year and it was quite regular, but a few months ago it stopped and i haven't had any ever since. Is this normal?
    Thanks, Tahi.

    Hi Tahi, it is quite common for discharge to come and go and it's nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki! I am 13 and I have been having discharge for about 2 and a half years and I want to know if my period will be soon. I have also been having cramps recently and was wondering what the most effective way of getting rid of them. Also I really feel like I'm ready for sex but I'm 13 is this normal? Thanks and sorry for all of the questions! ๐Ÿž๐Ÿฌ๐Ÿž๐Ÿฌ

    Firstly, with so many signs of puberty already noticed your period should not be too far away and to ease these tummy cramps you may find gentle exercise will help. Finally, having feelings of a sexual nature is quite normal for someone your age; after all you are becoming a young adult. However as I am sure you already know, acting on these feelings is illegal until you are 16 or over.

  • URGENT!!
    im going shopping with my sisters tomorrow I need to buy liners
    They will laugh at me How do I do it??
    Thank you!!

    They may chuckle for a few minutes but they will soon get used to fact that you now feel old enough to wear liners, so try not to take their teasing too seriously.

  • I'm sporty and go running nearly everyday / very often. I train very hard, will this stop my first period or affect it in any way as I have not have my first period yet ๐Ÿƒ please answer as you haven't answered any of my others ๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜ช

    If you eat well and are generally healthy then being active on a daily basis should have no impact on the arrival of your menstrual cycle.

  • Hey
    I had one period about 6 months ago and it lasted a day. I haven't had one period since then. What happened???

    This may have not been your period and could have been residue left from waste food or even a little bit of blood from your hymen if you had been active that day and stretched it.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Am I weird, I don't listen to One Direction or Katy Perry or anybody who happens to be in the chart right now I've read in a few places that it's normal for girls to like one direction and Katy Perry which made me feel weird. I talked to my friend about it and she said I'm weird too.

    Of course you are not weird. Your choice of music should be based on what you like to listen to and not what everyone else likes and with so much great music around it is only natural you will like other forms of music.

  • Hi Vicki,
    How do you gt rid of spots?
    Lucy ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, why not read my blog entitled; Being Skincare Savvy, it has some great advice on keeping your skin in tip top condition.

  • Does age matter in relationships?0โƒฃ1โƒฃ2โƒฃ3โƒฃ4โƒฃ5โƒฃ6โƒฃ7โƒฃ8โƒฃ9โƒฃ๐Ÿ”Ÿ

    That really does depend on the age difference.

  • I am 11 and fanxy loads of boys is this normal

    It is quite normal to find that as you enter puberty you find yourself more attracted to boys, this is all part of your journey to becoming a young adult and nothing to worry about.

  • No one qt My school has started puberty ecxept me

    It can be hard when you are the first one to enter puberty but don't worry in no time at all you will notice changes to your friends and I am sure they will come to you for advice as you already know what to expect.

  • dear vicki
    I am 21 years old I m having regular periods .. Now I m getting little blood nd pain in vagina is this a serious issue this happens in last two months I had for 2 time.will it affect my future.. Help me pls

    Why not visit your GP and he will investigate this intermittent blood loss. I am sure it is nothing to worry about and could be caused by contraception.

  • Hey vicki .i recived 4 of the lil lets teens liners throught the post when i requested a sample of ur products .i realy love them and find them great for discarge . I havent yet started my period and was wondering how to ask my mum to get me some to try and wear every dad.
    Thanks lily Xx

    Hi Lily, why not show your mum the sample pack and ask if you can go out shopping to get some full size packs in preparation for your period. Mums really do understand and she will want you to feel comfortable I am sure.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm Sam, and I'm ten years old.
    I have lots of hair down under and really wide hips, i mean super wide for my age.
    I've got the longest hairs on my leg because I don't shave yet, and I have hair on my pits and smell A LOT in less that two hours after having a bath when I don't wear deodorant. i'd like my period to come Hut im patient. Any signs?

    You do not have to have the shape changed drastically and most people who visit beauty salons ask for them to be tidied up and look natural.

  • hi viki, I kinda have big eye brows and I am going to get them professionally done but they are a characteristic of mine and im afraid people may think I look weird or something when they get done/:

    You do not have to have the shape changed drastically and most people who visit beauty salons ask for them to be tidied up with a more natural look.

  • Vicki plez read,
    so latly I've been having loads of discharge and and I havnt started my period yet. do you think it's coming. ( btw im 12)
    from
    saeah :/:/:/:/:/

    Hi Saeah, discharge is an excellent sign that your period is not too far away and is often noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your first period.

  • Hi Vicki, my mom has had a fiancรฉ for two years now and I hate him so much. He has cheated on my mother and went on inappropriate websites. He is still living with me and everything and they get into fights pretty much every other 2 weeks! I can't fall asleep when I hear them screaming a yelling! He makes me feel uncomfortable and she doesn't listen or do anything about it I am so stressed

    Do you have another trusted family member you can chat to, such as a grandparent or aunt. They may be able to speak to your mum on your behalf and let her know how upsetting you find the behaviour of her and her partner. It could be they have not considered the impact it is having on you and will happily calm things down once they know how upset you are.

  • My period has lasted over three weeks! I'm really curious as to why because my periods usually only last for around 5-6 days and it's been like that for almost 3 years now.

    Periods can sometimes vary in their length during puberty. It may however be a good idea to have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you as your iron levels may have dropped leaving you anaemic. Should this be the case your doctor may prescribe iron tablets.

  • Do yo ever catch boys on the site

    Sometimes boys ask me questions and I am sure they visit this site on occasions to find out about puberty and how it feels for girls to experience it.

  • I wear pink or red pants everyday is there a way of telling if its your period if your pants are a similar colour

    Yes, menstrual fluid and discharge will still leave a stain even on pink or red underwear, they may also feel a little stiff in this area too.

  • Is it bad that when I'm on my period I can't masturbate because it feels too uncomfortable

    Masturbation is a very natural activity and if you find it sensitive to do when menstruating then there really is nothing wrong with ceasing this activity for a while.

  • I always feel disgusting while on my period and really dirty and gross is there anyway I can stop feeling like this!?

    Periods are the body's way of letting us know that we are working just as we should and one day and if we want to, be able to have children. So rather than see it negatively, think of it as the miracle of life and how your period helps support this process. On a practical level lots of women and girls find tampons leave them with a feeling of being clean and fresh when menstruating.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My sister (she's 13) masturbates even when I'm in the room. I can hear her wherever she is in the house and it's, quite honestly, revolting. We aren't close enough for me to ask her to stop, same with my parents.
    Please don't ask me to talk to them.
    I can't.
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    If you are not prepared to speak to your sister about this matter then there really is nothing I can recommend, other than to get up and leave the room. Personally, I would let her know you understand what she is doing is natural but you feel it is private and should not be done when you are present.

  • Girl with a friend from December.
    She is really nice. I've gone through this with her before. I have to ask her to not show the others or talk about me; she usually respects and obeys my wishes. I probably won't contact her, but if I were to, how would I phrase the apology? Sorry, I just miss her because we had a great friendship. The apology is what I'm most worried about; how to phrase it and all. Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    Why not make it a positive text and comment on a fun time you both shared and use this as your introduction. For instance... "just checking my texts and remembered the great time we had doing ?????". If there is a picture this is even better. She may respond but be prepared that she may also have moved on and not feel inclined to get back in touch.

  • Is looking at girls on the internet porn? And if so is it bad for under 16s to look at it will they get I into trouble

    That would depend what the girls are doing? If they are taking part in sexual acts, then yes this is pornography and whilst it is not illegal to view if you are watching under your own free will, it is in my opinion not something the under 16's should be viewing.

  • i need help quick!
    i haven't started my period yet but today i noticed brown stuff in my knickers i just thought it was poo but every time i wiped more and more of it kept coming i think it was coming out of my vagina? could this be my period?

    This is your period and you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and tell them of your news. They will ensure you have some towels and liners to absorb any fluid lost and leave you feeling clean and fresh.

  • Hey vicki, this will be my second period il have, iv got a period tracker app, i started last month on 16th and the app says il start today 13th, if it doesnt start by 16th what will that mean?coz I really want to start and a few days ago I had a massive headache and dizziness, and heavy discharge kept coming out all day, it was clear then turned yellowish also I was really angry those days. I didnt have any cramp last time will I have them this time?
    Rebecca x

    Hi Rebecca, period trackers are great once your periods have formed a regular pattern, but for girls who are new to periods they can sometimes be inaccurate. So rather than worry about dates in your diary, consider just being prepared as for the first couple of years periods can have gaps of several months between each one.

  • can masturbation slow down the arrival of your period ? OooooooooOOooooooooooooooooooooooooooo so i know its mine xx

    Masturbation will have no impact on your menstrual cycle at all.

  • Hi vicki, im 12,13 in june, well other day I went to the toilet and saw brown stuff in my undies and then wiped myself with tissue and there was a lot of red blood it happened for 3 days and stayed browny red, I didnt get any cramps or symptoms,I just get mood swings a lot, dizziness, headaches, leg, back, neck pains, discharge for over 1 year, its clear then goes yellowish, Im 30a. Is this my period? P.s im worried if it wont come next month coz I want it to?

    Yes this is your period and it would be a good idea to share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I'm the girl with a friend from December.
    She is friends with all those who dislike me. She WILL show them the texts! They'll talk about me behind my back as they've done in the past. She IS a bit of a trouble maker and does start arguments between us but I hear that she has been depressed recently and I know how she feels. My mum says not to get in touch but she says that she respects my views. Can you phrase the text for me and tell me how to deal with the friends? ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    Ask yourself why you want to be friends with this girl again, you say she talks behind your back and is a trouble maker. So in this instance it may be wise to listen to your mum and find a new group of friends to be around. As for the group of friends she hangs around with, ignore any comments they make, they can only hurt you if you let them.

  • My mum went away for 5 days to Brighton And I'm left alone with my step dad, he scares me a lot! He told me yesterday "it's time for bed georgie" so I went to put my pj's ln and brush my teeth! I got into bed and he came and said "goodnight" and he started placing his hands where they shouldn't be on me. In the night I went to the toilet and locked it, he knew I was in there but he tried to open the door and said "open up", that's only the second day my mums been away! Anything csn happen

    Get in touch with a family member such as your grandma or aunt and ask if you can go and stay with them whilst your mum is away. And when she returns let her know how uncomfortable your step father made you feel and she can then address this matter with him.

  • What do i do when i go swimming and my periods have started ?

    If you want to go swimming when on your periods you should consider using a tampon and you may find my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies useful. If tampons are not for you then it would be a good idea to ask to be excused if you find your period is with you when you are meant to be in the pool.

  • Hi Vicki, I have had a breast bud for 2 years now and discharge for 6 months I'm a 34AAA. Xxxxxx PS I'm 11

    These are all great signs that you are on your way to becoming a young woman and nothing to be anxious about. You may even find your periods start sometime this year too.

  • i am sorry if this offends anyone in any shape or form and that is not my intention but "white" or British people hairs goes greasy during puberty what happens to "Black" or Afro hair. i just wondered. do people with afros have to wash their hair daily as we

    its KZC

    Regardless of your ethnicity puberty will have an effect on your skin and hair and just for clarity; there is no reason to wash your hair daily, as this can actually make it greasier.

  • Hi Vicki.
    When I try to press a category for your blog, it comes out as a blank, any reasons y?
    Thanks :)
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    I have no idea, I will speak to our web designers and ask for their advice. You can view all of the blogs by clicking on the Blog tab at the top of the page.

  • Why do people get horny?

    Sexual arousal is part of the bodyโ€™s mechanism for preparing someone for sexual intercourse and is a very natural emotion brought about by the need to create a new life.

  • I have a big lump inside my vagina hole, and I don't know what it is, but I don't want to tell mum because I'm embarrassed, I'm 13 please help!

    The vaginal passage is full of lots of crevices and lumps and bumps and it's generally nothing to worry about, unless of course you are in pain.

  • Hi vicki,
    i need to ask for some advice. So i have this friend who went to my old school but the other day he confessed he liked and and does now. He told me he had a gf a few dags ago and i was pleased for him, but in the next game we playdd on xbix with his other mate he called me beautiful. His friend said to him what bout your gf. He took a while but said she is more pretty. The thing is this came out very uncertainly. thanks

    This boy would appear to be confused about his feelings and my advice would be to keep things purely as friends, after all he has a girlfriend which means he is off limits. If he should decide to end his relationship with this girl, I am sure he will let you know if he is keen to date you instead.

  • โ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ขโ€ข HI VICkI apparently this boy at skl likes me we became good friends and I keep thinking about him he's to shy to say he likes me how should i tell him I feel a bit attracted?

    You do not always have to say anything, your actions will tell him for you. So next time you see him smile, ask him how his weekend was. This will make him feel comfortable around you and he may just pluck up the courage to ask if you can hang out at the weekend.

  • I been wolf - whistled at a few times and I don't know why. I don't see myself as an attractive person. I'm 17 and the guys look like their in their 20s or late teens. What does this actuallymean? X

    This means someone finds you attractive so take the compliment and use it to increase your self confidence.

  • Hi vicki x
    Today I kept getting really mad at my nan for nothing like really mad then I was really happy with her is this a mood swing cuz I think I'm just being a horrible person.

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    (Just so I know it's my question)

    It could be your moods yes and I am sure your Nan understands that this is the reason for your outbursts. Apologise for your behaviour and in future if you feel angry in her company take some time out to be alone rather than upset her unnessecarily.

  • Pls put this in periods section,Im nearly 16 and have had pubic hair since i was 11 and got discharge for a day when i was 12, but i still have no boobs or period! If i havent started by time im 16 will i have to go see someone about it?I was predicted to start last November by a child's doctor,recently ive lost a lot of weight so could that cause a delay ? Please answer ive asked 5 times already !

    Severe weight loss can have an impact on your menstrual cycle but as periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 there really is no need to visit your GP unless you feel there is an underlying medical condition that requires their assistance.

  • Hi what will I do if I get my period at school I would tell my form tutor but I don't really know what I would say to my teacher if I did?

    Don't worry teachers are more than equipped to deal with girls starting their periods in school and you may find my blog entitled; Periods and School helpful. Here is the link. http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/September/16/Periods%20and%20School?author=Vicki

  • *********************************************
    my disgarge is a reddy brown and i only knew i had disgarge yesterday.
    am i going to have my period soon?
    if so,do you have any advice on how to manage?

    Reddish brown fluid in your underwear is most likely your period so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share your news with them. They will then ensure you have some towels and liners going forward.

  • I've had a crush on this guy for years. I told one of my friends, because she sees him at a club, and she was really nice. Then she told me she liked him too. I was devastated, as it meant I couldn't really make a move. The next day she told me they had recently started dating and she wanted to tell me face to face so I didn't think she was a bitch. I told her it was ok, but I'm so angry. I don't feel like I can continue our friendship and I can't stop crying and thinking about it. I don't know what to do.

    It must have taken a lot of courage for your friend to tell you of her news and yes I appreciate you are angry and upset, but no boy is worth losing a friend over, so try to move on and continue being friends with both of them if you can.

  • I've had my period for two years, and they've been regular and predictable. But the last few periods have been irregular. (On: 19.11.13 off: 25.11.13, on: 2.1.14, off: 8.1.14, on: 24.2.14 off: 2.3.14, on: 22.3.14 off: 1.4.14) I don't know why this is happening. I know it can take a while to get into a proper cycle, but I've been having regular periods for 2 years. If it is irregular again mum wants to take me to my GP. Please help !!! ๐Ÿ’•the site x ๐Ÿ—๐Ÿต๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿธ๐Ÿข

    During puberty there can still be times of irregularity, but if your mum would like you to visit your GP then I see no reason why you should not.

  • Hi Vicki I was wondering what bra size I would be in New Zealand if there is one small anough to fit me
    Bust 60cm
    Under 68cm
    Thanks
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    Thanks ASAP

    Your bra size is a 6AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hi Vicky I was just wanting some advice on my period I think I will get it when I go to school camp how can I be discrete I leave on the 26th of May .thanks for the help I got a period starter pack it is amazing thanks

    From Jessie xxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Jessie, our Lil-Lets teens starter pack is a great start and by popping this in your suitcase you will be more than prepared for your period and because the bag is so pretty anyone seeing you with it in your hand will think it's your make-up or toiletry bag.

  • Hi Vivki, I was just wanting to ask two questions. 1.Is it normal to have a heavy period and a long period because it just seems like it go's on forever? 2. Also its so heavy that I leak alot, i was wandering if I could do anything to make it lighter because im sick and tired of my panties getting wrecked?
    Please help me!! L xx

    Hi, periods can be long or short with anything from 2-10 days being noted. Your menstrual flow can also vary too, one month being light the next heavy. There is nothing you can do to stop the amount of blood lost, but you can choose good quality towels or tampons that will absorb the fluid and protect your underwear. Why not read my blogs entitled; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies and How to choose the right product for your flow, both of these I think you will find useful.

  • Ok I'm ten my measurements are 23 under 24 over. Should I wear a bra. If so please give me HINTS on how to tell my mom please don't say just ask her. My sister is teasing me about it and my mom says I will need one in TWO years!!! I really think I need a bra. I have Bo ,pubic hair, armpit hair and discharge I think. PLEASE WRITE BACK!!! I NEED HELP!!!
    Xxx,
    Isabella T

    Hi Isabella, your bra size is a 28AA, so you could wear a bra if you really wanted to. Remember that this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I started my period wednesday and by friday evening it had stopped and gone away. Is this normal? Will it come back again in like a day?
    Please put this in the periods section
    Love anniexx

    Hi Annie, periods can last anything from 2-10 days so try not to worry this is very normal.

  • I get black bits in my discharge. Is this normal?
    -zoe

    Hi Zoe, this is most likely fluff from your underwear mixed in with discharge and nothing to worry about.

  • Is it possible to fall in love as a teenager? I know that hormones have a affect on how you feel on people but I was just wondering if it was possible even if it is rare.

    I think it is possible yes. I fell in love with my husband at the age of 13 and I can assure you it was not a teenage crush.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am going on a cinema date with my boyfriend next week. It will be our first date and I really don't want it to be awkward. Do you have any tips? And also any other teen date ideas? And do you think he'll put his arm around me?
    Thanks
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    Why not read my blog entitled Top Dating Tips, here is the link. http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/11/Top%20Dating%20Tips?author=Vicki I also have written blogs entitled; Your First Love and First Kiss. All of these I think you will find useful.

  • what are the different absorbensises you can get in a tampon? like what do the little water/blood droplets on the box mean? xxx################################################################

    Why not read my blog entitled; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies, this will give you all the information you need.

  • Hi Vicki
    my 1st period lasted about 5 days and than a week later was my 2nd period. Its lasting for agesssss!!! the 2nd started on 28th March & now its 12th april so its been 16 days and they were all really heavy, theres less blood now but still its lasting for ever!!! how long should they normally be? iv gone through 2 packs of pads and a lot of tampons already :( ######

    For some girls periods can be irregular with longer periods of menstruation noted. Once your cycle becomes more regular these times of lengthy menstruation will stop, so try not to worry.

  • Heyy Vicki,
    might as well get onto the question straight away. I was on my period and I went to the toilet I wiped but as I pulled my hand away the toilet paper was covered in blood clots of a dark red colour. I know blood clots are normal but is it to have this much? Thank you xx

    Yes this is quite normal and just the lining of your uterus leaving your body.

  • Hi Vicki
    In yr 6 &7 I used to always wish my boobs wud grow and it really annoyed me and now im in yr 8 it hasn't botherd me for a while cuz recently I thought they looked a lot bigger but just today when I looked down I realised how actually small they are so now im feeling upset again! :( im a 32 AA/ 30A and im 13. I didn't realise how small mine are and it upsets me cuz my friends r much bigger and she makes fun of me and shows off! ############ x

    Have a chat to your friend and let her know how hurtful her comments are. Us girls really should stick together and in my opinion all breasts are beautiful, regardless of their size.

  • Hi viki
    I have an A cup bra and had heavy discharge on and off for the past year (I'm 13) most of my friends have large boobs and have started there period!!
    When will I start Mine ?
    It hurts down there after exercise is this normal?


    Thankyou so much
    April xxxxx

    It would seem your period is not too far away now and so make sure you are prepared by having some towels or liners with you when away from home. As for discomfort after exercise, this could happen yes if you are not careful when being active.

  • Dear Vicki

    I was going out with this boy and we kinda started drifting apart but I would say we were still kinda going out since we were like hanging around together but then his best friend asked me out!!! What do I do because his best friend doesn't know but I can't tell my bf coz then they won't be friends! Please help!

    The first thing you need to do is to work out your true feelings for your boyfriend. If you no longer want to date him then tell him so and let him know that it is based on your drifting apart. It would then be appropriate after a few weeks to date his friend. Out of politeness it would also be a good idea for this boy to let your 'now' boyfriend of this news before anyone else.

  • Hey Vicki
    Is discharge a sign that you have hit puberty?
    Thanx Xxx!!!xxX

    It's one of many signs that you are pubescent yes.

  • Hey Vicki
    Ive had discharge dor about 6 and a half minths but these two weeks Its been getring heavier and mire of it but Yesterday I found 3 little orangey/browney/redey spots (a wee bit gigger than full stops) in my knickers, is this just Discharge?( today there was another one)
    Thank youxx!!??!!xx

    This could be your period so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will be able to advise you more.

  • So sometimes I feel like there is a scary killer in my house at night and when I tell my family how I feel they laugh. I'm too embarrassed to ask anyone else about it, do you have a suggestion โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’˜

    As we get older we start to have adult feelings and question some quite adult subjects. These feelings you are having are very normal and even though your family are taking your fear lightly, you can be sure you are quite safe when in their care.

  • Um, so hi. On tumblr, there are sometimes sex pictures. And I like wonder about them and were looking at them. Do you think this is wrong?

    I think it may be a good idea to avoid these images if I were you.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 10 years old and I'm getting really heavy, white, thick discharge. I've not been getting stomach cramps so I don't think I'm getting my period but the discharge gets really annoying and when it drys it's sort of yellowy. Please help and tell me what to do!!

    From Annonymous

    Why not try wearing our Lil-Lets teens pant liners, ideal for absorbing discharge and leaving you feeling clean and fresh during the day. Check out the Lil-Lets Products tab on the website for more information about our range. You can even request a sample from me by clicking the Contact tab found at the bottom of the page.

  • Is it bad to wear wired bras When they are still growing if so why??? ๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š

    There is no medical evidence to show this, however as wired bras are designed to uplift a fuller bust there really is no reason to wear one until you are older or have a fuller bust.

  • Can the the string come off the tampon whilst it's in your vagina if so what do you do??

    It is highly unlikely that this would ever happen, but if it did you could simply reach in and remove the tampon with your fingers.

  • hi vicky x
    I've ahd a question that i asked you before but i have forgotten it now but I'm 12 and i started my period a few months back, and my period was due at the start of every month but i missed 2 days because it never cam and just asking if i should be worried thanks! get back to me soon xx

    There really is nothing to be worried about, periods are often irregular with gaps of a few months between each one. This is just your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • dear Vicki,
    I really like this boy but he is my neighbour and I am best friends with his sister and Don't want to ruin anything between us. also I cant stop looking t him and then when he looks at me I look away and go all red.
    please help me yours sincerely,
    Anonymous

    Hi, I would imagine this boy already knows how you feel about him and if he feels the same he will approach you. For now, why not settle for being good friends and rather than going red, smile and then look away.

  • Is it wrong that I wear pull Ups every night even. I don't wet every night they are just really comfortable

    :/ :) cxx

    These products are not suitable for teens and you may find visiting the toilet just before bed and not drinking an hour before you go to sleep will be helpful in avoiding bed wetting.

  • Hi Vicki, Jennifer here,I just got my period!
    I'd just like to reassure all the girls out there that are worrying. I am 14 & I seemed to have every single sign of puberty but never a period. I was worrying as I'd had discharge for 3-4 years and my mum had started at 13. But now I am 14 and just got mine so everyone out there don't worry. Just wait patiently and your period will arrive!
    Thank you so much Vicki, this site has helped me so much!
    Love from Jennifer๐Ÿ’• xoxo

    Hi Jennifer, it's so good of you to share your experience of menstruation with us all.

  • Is it wrong to wear a bigger cup size than you need or a bra when you dont need one???????

    Wearing a larger cup than you need could make you feel uncomfortable during the day and may not offer your breasts the support they need. It's far better to get measured in store and have the right size for your developing breasts.

  • What is a wired bra and what does it do?

    An underwired bra offers support to a fuller bust and makes it look uplifted.

  • In December or November I had an argument with a friend over text. The last thing we both said was 'I hate you'. I miss her. We don't speak or see each other in real life as we go to different schools. She's friends with all these girls that hate me and used to bully me. What do I do!? I fear she'll reject me. How do I apologise or start the text message that could make us friends again? Thanks๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    Why not drop her a text simply saying that you miss the friendship you used to have with her and hope you can find a way to be close again. She may have moved on, but I see no reason why you cannot give it a go.

  • Hello viki,I have been having discharge for over a year now and it's getting uncomfortable.what do I do?what does this mean?

    Why not try our Lil-Lets teens pant liners, ideal for absorbing discharge and keeping you clean and fresh. We also have our New Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes, which can be used when out and about for that extra clean feeling. Why not check out the Lil-Lets Products tab on the website for more information on these products.

  • Hi Vicky! I've had discharge for around a year now and recently it has been getting heavier. It has been like this for the past fortnight! How long do you think it is until I start my periods? xx

    Discharge can be noticed for about 6-12 months before the arrival of you period and during this time you will have times when its consistency changes. This is very normal and a sign your body is working just as it should.

  • I've been getting lots of sticky white/clear discharge for around a month, I've had discharge for around a year. Is this a sign I'm going to start my period soon? xxx thanks for your help

    Discharge is always a great sign that your period is not too far away, so from now on ensure you have some towels or liners in your school or sports bag just in case it arrives whilst you are out and about.

  • Dear Vicki, ive had my periods for about 2 years now and sometimes they are late, it this natural?

    This is very normal and all part of your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm quite worried because I started my period yesterday (my first period) and it's really heavy but I'm not ready to start using tampons and the towels get dirty quite quickly and I have to change them frequently but I wondered because it's quite heavy should I use tampons or not? Also If I do keep using pads how often should I change them? Thankyouxx.

    There are a great many towels on the market for heavy periods, for instance our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal and long towels and there really is no need to move on to tampons if you do not feel ready. Why not read my blogs entitled. How to choose the right product for your flow and Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • Hi Vicki! I just wanted to know about my nipples. When I get out of the shower, I dry myself well but as soon as I go downstairs, my nipples seem to be wet and there are little blobs of wet on my top. Is this normal? I haven't started my period yet...... please answer ASAP! Thank you! From SV (sorry thats just do I know what my question is) x

    Nipples can very often release a little fluid during development for both boys and girls and this is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hey. Everytime my private gets wet because of the discharge. I wipe it away but more comes out. I live with my dad and I don't want to tell him to buy pantyliners and my sister just doesnt understand. My vagina is itchy so I stopped using pants and then my discharge turned from thick white to clear. Few days ago I had belly aches and I texted my friend who started her period and she said I'm close but I didn't start. Am I close ?

    Discharge is a great sign that your period is not too far away and you really do need to speak to your dad about supplies of sanitary products. Don't worry dads know all about periods and I am sure he will be more than happy to take you shopping for supplies. Discharge can be an inconvenience sometimes and pant liners will help you feel fresh and clean, so why not ask your dad if you can request a free sample from me so both of you can check out the Lil-Lets teens range. Click on the 'Contac't tab at the bottom of the page and complete the form.

  • i have yellow pee stains in my pants ....what is this because people say that discharge is gooey but mine never is and sometimes its white and wet and i wear WHITE pants all the time and i can c it...plz help

    Discharge when dry can resemble a yellow stain in your underwear and at other times it can be clear and look like a wet patch. Both are normal and I think you may find our section on Discharge under the Puberty tab very useful.

  • Hi viki,kiki again...
    i had alot of brownish blood once and it has been over a month and have not gotten anything.I showed my mum and she said it was my period but i just want to be sure...and i no that they can be irregular and that but will it come the same this month?thanks again kiki
    plz answer ASAP!!!!!
    ????????????????????
    (just so i no its mine)

    Hi Kiki, not necessarily. Periods can very often have gaps of several months between each one for the first couple of years, so be prepared by having some towels or liners in your school or sports bag from now on.

  • Is there a way of telling the difference between brown discharge and period blood?

    Discharge is generally clear or creamy yellow in colour. Brown discharge is almost always your period as menstrual fluid can vary in colour from light brown to dark red.

  • Hi sorry me again but i asked how long before my period will the discharge turn brown and heavy I have had it for 8 months and you said since I've had it for a while you can only guss it's not to far away but how long before your period is it brown and heavy is it about a week or 2

    Discharge can be noticed for up to 12 months before the arrival of your period so be patient and keep some towels and liners with you when out and about.

  • hy
    vicki,im 14 and haven't got my periods yet by i've been having
    discharges for over 2 years! yesterday i wipe my vigina and i saw some
    spots of bloods is there something wrong with me or wat??

    These little spots of blood could be the start of your period, so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share your findings with them. It my also be a good idea to wear a liner in your underwear for the next few days.

  • Hey it's Sam. Thanks so much for your advise thanks for telling me not to put vasine on the tampon or eles I would be in a mess! I know you might not be able to answer this but I'm not sure what to get my boyfriend for his birthday he's really into tech and computers (he built his own) but I just don't know what to get him. Thanks again Sam๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ‡โ„๏ธ๐Ÿ

    Why not get him a cool mouse mat or a mug that has a techy slogan on it.

  • I've had discharge since 2012 and nothing is happening yet. I've had some pain/cramps in the lower abdonom area. I get moody a lot more often now. I don't have hairy armpits. Just hairy down there. I don't know when my mother got her period bug my sister had hers very early. Any idea when I may get it? Ty! โค๏ธโค๏ธ

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I do not think you will have much longer to wait. So make sure you are prepared and from now on have some towels or tampons in your school or sports bag.

  • Hiya Vicki
    I noticed that wear my boob is bigger is around the nipple it is like a 2 inch radius and in that area it is hard. Can you explain to me why this is do I need medical attention I'm only 14 and don't have my pieriod yet

    This is your breast bud and the start of breast development. Why not read all about breasts in our Boobs and Bras section under the Puberty tab at the top of the page.

  • Hey, so my legs are really hairy and I really want to start shaving them by my mum says to wait. All my friends d shave theorems and I feel real really down because I can't wear shirts or anything because everybody notices. Any advice?

    Why not wait until the summer months and have another chat to your mum, she may have a rethink with the warmer weather is upon us.

  • I see tiny bumps around my breast and is that normal.

    These little bumps you sometimes notice around your nipple are called Montgomery Glands and all women and girls have them. It is believed that these little bumps help moisturise this area.

  • Hey Vicki
    So thus week I've had much thicker/heavier discharge but I went to the loo and there was like 3 tiny dots that was a strange colour Like a brown/red/yellow. Is this just discharge?, or something else?
    Thanx Xxxx!!!!๐Ÿ˜œ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ‘ง๐Ÿ‘ฉ๐Ÿ˜บ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿฐ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿน

    This could be your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Hi Vicky, all of my friends have a bit of a boob and one had a cup size and one time in gym they said I am flat and it hurt my feeling and almost all of them have period. They are 12 and I'm 11 but why don't I have boobs yet they can fit training bras and then theirs me so my question is will I ever get boobs or will I get them soon

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and they continue growing until your late teens so you have plenty of time for breast growth to happen, try to remember though that it's not a competition we really are all different.

  • Hi I am 13 nearly 14 and all my friends have their period escept me. I have had vaginal discharge for nearly 2 years now I am quite small and skinny and I am only a 28 a in bra size. My mum started when she just turned 14 . Is it becuase I am small and skinny that I have not started yet? Please help. Thankyou xx

    A period can arrive from the age of 8-18 so please do not worry you have plenty of time for yours to arrive and your weight and shape have nothing to do with it.

  • ๐Ÿ’ญ๐Ÿ’ฌ
    Hi Vicki , please answer my question!
    I started my period late last year and for 3 months I haven't had one is this ok? Also i tried a tampon a while ago I got a mirror and this is a bit akward but I couldn't do it as there was something sort of inside the hole blocking anything from getting inside it is shiny and pinky and it blocks me from getting the tampon inside, and I don't know if that's the reason but I can't seem to be able to see three holes!
    Please help me many thanks! 29

    Hi 29, irregular periods with gaps of a few months in between each one are very normal during puberty and nothing to worry about. At the entrance to your vagina you have a piece of skin called the hymen, it has a small opening at one end that allows discharge and menstrual fluid to be released and over time this skin will stretch and using a tampon will be possible.

  • Under: 26/27
    Over: 29
    What's the bra size?

    P.s I have found this website extremely helpful

    Love, J x

    Your bra size is a 32AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • hi โ™ก
    so my bestfriend (only close friend thats a girl) has a bf and she wont stop going on about him anf they are always together - they are litterally the cutest. But i feel ready more than ever for a relationship but all the boys in my school are either close mates and immature and annoying. What do i do??? How do i meet other boys without doing clubs? Also one wiick thin does putting vaseline on your eyelashes actually make them grow faster?

    Be patient the right boy will come along when you least expect it. And no Vaseline will not make your lashes grow longer.

  • I've started to masturbate, but I don't know how to.

    Not everyone chooses to masturbate and so please do not feel pressurised to do so. Masturbation is a very instinctive activity so why not wait until you find what makes you comfortable.

  • Hello vicky,I was just wondering I'm just a bit worried because my 2nd period hasn't came?

    Periods are very often irregular for the first year or two, with gaps of several months between each one being very common. Why not read our section entitled Understanding Periods for more on this subject.

  • Hi, my brother has autism and my parents get really stressed with him all the time. He isn't bad because he can speak etc. But my parents always blame me for things I don't do and that I start every argument. I always have to play with him. So yes just wondering if you could help me. ๐Ÿ˜š I'm 11 and he's 9. He basically stays on the computer all day which means I cannot go out and do stuff.

    Have a chat to your parents and let them know how you are feeling and check out the National Autism website they have a section for siblings just like youn with a great many links to other sites. Here is the link. http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/parents-relatives-and-carers/siblings/support-for-siblings-of-people-with-autism.aspx

  • Please help!
    There is this boy at school that asked me out ages ago and I said no. He is now really horrible and thinks I like every boy in town!
    I like him! What do I do!
    Thanks

    If you like him then it may be an idea to let him know that you have changed your mind and would like to get to know him better.

  • Hey Vicki
    I read your blog on pms, and looked at the symptoms, Im quite glad you put that up actually, because I have severe back pain and stomach cramps and this only started on Monday, does this mean I will start my periods soon?

    During puberty your reproductive organs are constantly maturing and whilst this is not PMS it is a sign that your body is preparing your for your first period yes.

  • Hiya:)
    I was just wondering if you could tell me my bra size?
    Under bust:71cm
    Over bust:76cm
    Please answer ASAP thank you๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€

    Your bra size is a 32AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hi Vicky, Im 11nearly 12 and I have some little boobs still growing and I have some pubic hair down below, I also get discharge now and again I have been having it now for about 1year now why hasn't my period started yet?? Also my mum started when she was 13 is that when I will??
    Soory with all the questions ๐Ÿ˜

    Not everyone starts their period at the same time as family members, however with so many signs already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait...maybe even this year.

  • Hi vicki
    I was wondering what type of stuff should you put in a period kit

    I would actually go out and purchase the Lil-Lets teens starter kit, it has everything you need for your first period and is pretty enough to be kept in your school bag.

  • I have used a hair removal cream under my arms and it has come out in a very bad rash. It is stinging badly and i tried to put a cream on it but i couldnt as it hurt to much.

    Give this a few days and it will settle down and become less irritated. In future make sure you follow the instructions for hair removal cream and hopefully next time this will not happen again.

  • 60cm under bust
    70cm bust
    Thank you

    Your bra size is a 28AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hi............ Does masturbating delay your period??? Xoxooxoxoxoxoxo

    Masturbation has no impact on your menstrual cycle at all.

  • SO ... i my hips have been getting wider ect but heres the thing most of my jeans are too small for me and im scared to ask my mum for some more cause she might think im getting fat im also not fat but not super skinny what should i do ?

    Mums understand that girls hips widen as they enter puberty and the last thing she would want is for you to be uncomfortable so have a chat to her and ask if you can maybe have some stretch jeans that will offer you some growth for the future.

  • .......my parents divorced a few years ago and my dad got married and they are a perfect couple but my mum and her boyfriend argue nearly everyday for ages and ive been getting so depresed im 12 and i feel like crying im depressed i feel terrible pls help :(

    Relationships come in many different forms and just because your mum's new relationship is volatile it does not mean she and her new partner do not love each other. It would be a good idea however to have a chat to her and let her know how their arguments are affecting you emotionally.

  • Hi vicki
    i love my boyfriend lots am only 12 is it ok to have sex with him

    thanks

    It is unlawful for a man or a boy to have any sexual relations with a girl under the age of 16 and so I am sure you already know my answer is; no this is not ok.

  • A couple of weeks ago I was in the shower and washing my breasts when some pus came out of my nipple. Is this normal and what should I do? I'm 14 and started my period when I was 10 btw xx

    Sometimes the nipples can produce a little fluid during puberty and this is nothing to worry about and will pass. Gently wash this area so it does not become crusty.

  • My bestest friend ever is moving to the other side of the world๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜” I'm so upset and I can't stop crying
    xoxoxoxoxox

    Just because you and your friend are not going to see each other every day does not mean you cannot continue your friendship from afar. Why not work out together how you can still communicate, for instance e-mail, face time, Skype or even the more traditional method of letter writing. And remember that it is important for you to also find a new group of friends in your area too, so you have plenty of interaction with others.

  • Hi Vicki
    This morning I noticed that I have got quite a lot of pubic hair down there and under my armpits, I have also been getting body odure for about 6 months now and I have been getting discharge aswell as being hormonal and getting spots!!! The last thing is I have noticed my boobs growing.
    I would like to know rufely how long away my peiriod is???
    Thx ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I am sure you will not have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period...maybe even this year.

  • my right boob aces some times but i know i don't need a bra because my measurements are 89 and 73 but i don't like wearing a crop top as i find them unconformable.
    ******************
    &&&&&

    Your bra size is a 34A, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it easy to lose your fertility? because its just I keep on accidently banging my vagina and I do quite a lot of cycling on rough ground. The other day in the park I went on a brokem zipwire and I slammed down on my backside and vagina so jard and iy really hurt. Ive heard though thaT you can lose your fertility from horseriding?
    Thank u
    From ivy

    Hi Ivy, your reproductive organs are very well protected from vigorous impact so I would not worry, however, it would be a good idea to take more care when you are active.

  • Dear viki I am 1o almost eleven
    because I go to a private school we do c e education in year seven and I am in year 6 somtimes when I am in the changing rooms some girks dont understand anything like one time me and an other girl addmitted that we used deoderant and one girl said why
    your ti young . And somtimes itd hard to change without everonr looking at my boobs but kickly this year loads of people have started developing anyway whats the best way to tell people about c. E education

    Why not recommend our website they can find out all they need to know about puberty from here.

  • Hi
    Is there any STD's that you can get ftom kissing? Im twelve and I kiss my boyfriend and my parents dont approve so it would be really akward if i had to go to the doctors with an STD!
    Thank you
    From Eve

    You cannot get an STD from kissing but cold sores can be passed on so never kiss someone who has one.

  • Hi Vicki, Carmen here,
    I'm 11 and my breasts have started developing. No bras will fit me just yet , but I don't know if I need one or not because whenever I run or jump they sort of jiggle and feel baggy and a little bit painful. I have tried crop tops but I find them very uncomfortable. What can I do?
    Thank you, I'm a big fan of the sight! xxx

    Hi Carmen, why not consider a training bra, lots of stores sell these and they will keep you comfortable when active.

  • Hey Vicki
    I got my eyebrows waxed but on my forehead where the wax was there's loads of tiny little pimples that weren't there before
    Thanksss
    :):):):)

    It could be that the wax was not pulled off quickly enough and has caused a little trauma to the skin's surface, don't worry this will disappear quickly with no lasting damage.

  • Hi I had sex during skwl and my pse teacher caught us! ( he is a boy) i am in year 8 and he said he wont say anything if we take care and use protection but I heard him at resipion askin for my boyfriend and my parents number what should I do plz answer im desprite ๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ง๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข

    It may be a good idea to speak to your parents and let them know what has transpired. As embarrassing as this may seem, it is far better to hear it from you than a teacher from school.

  • hi.i week ago i had a bit of brown discharge.yesterday.i had i tiny bit of red ish stuff.what does this mean

    This is your period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Is it normal to have black spots in my discharge?
    What are they

    This could be fluff from your underwear mixed with your discharge and this is fairly common.

  • Hiya! My best friend is being really mean all of a sudden and when someone says my name in the same sentence as hers, she'll always act like she hates me and it really hurts alot. Also, all my friends have smartphones and I don't so they all use Whatsapp to arrange days out and she never tells me and I have to find out the day before from another friend. I feel really shut out........ love ask-a-lot xx

    Why not have a quiet word with your friend and ask her if there is a problem between you, because you are picking up signals that she no longer wants to be friends. It will then be up to her to be honest and let you know how she is feeling. It could just be she has not realised she is behaving unfairly and hurting your feelings, so it's best to get this out in the open.

  • Hi Vicki
    I couldn't find the answer to my question. It was the one that said that my friend is skipping breakfast, lunch and only eating a tiny bit of dinner. Please help because my friend and I are really worried about her!
    Thank you Rowan xxx
    Please could u put it in all categories
    THIS IS SO I KNOW IT IS MINE

    Hi Rowan, my advice was to speak to an adult about this matter and they will then help and support your friend. I appreciate she may not thank you for interfering but in this instance you have the right to share what you know with someone who is older.

  • Hiya,
    I started my period yesterday and i was red(sorry) and today its a dark yellow? Just dont know if this is normal. Plus my periods light and my friend says they always start off heavy???
    From lillypad

    Hi Lillypad, your friend is mistaken in this instance, periods can be light or heavy when they first arrive and it is also very normal to only have a period for a day or so initially. So please try not to worry.

  • Heyy Vicki,
    Just want to say a huge thank you to you because you have given me so much surport and without you i was clueless. You honestly helped me so much. Because i got my period yesterday and im so happy.
    Thank you so much
    Abi x

    Hi Abi, you are more than welcome and I am so glad the website has helped you understand periods and puberty really are a fact of life for us girls and nothing to be anxious about.

  • 1111111111111111111(so i know it's mine)
    hello Vicky!
    my friend started to have disgarge anther friend has a bra. i just feel left out slightly. also i haven't had chicken pox and i've heard it's much worse when your an adult.i'm worried that i'll have chiken pox when i'm having my period! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Chicken pox can be slightly more uncomfortable as you get older but rest is generally the best way to help this virus come and go quickly. Puberty will be something that you and your friends experience differently. So try not to compare your progress with theirs. Over the next few years you too will notice changes that will lead towards being an adult and it really isn't a race.

  • Hi Vicki, I started my period in July last year and it was regular and lasted about 7 days until January when they started being really short and much lighter (about 3 days) but my last period started on the 22nd March and ended 4th April so it was nearly 2 weeks long and it was really really heavy with clots and I got my period again yesterday and I don't think thats normal, could you please help me? Thanks ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

    The length of your period and the amount of blood lost can vary from month to month, especially during your teen years. This is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi I am 14 I have had my period for about 2 years but I have no boobs!!??

    Breasts can continue to develop into your late teens and early twenties so please try not to worry you have plenty of time left for growth.

  • How many hours will a tampon last if you are swimming and have to stay by the pool for a while? Would it last 4 hours?

    Yes it could, but most people pop to the toilet and change their tampon once they leave the water.

  • Hi viki is it illegal to have sex with a girl with your clothes? My friends 12 (underage) and she said she had sex with her of the same age. I don't want her to be caught or arrested or anything! Please tell me! JEZZZZZZZZZ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฐ

    Sexual intimacy of any nature with a girl under the age of 16 is unlawful.

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    Does std happens to womens or mens
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    To both.

  • I have started my period and I just got off of it and now I have brown discharge what does that mean

    Brown discharge is generally the end of your period and it is very common for menstrual fluid to be this colour at the end of your period.

  • Hi Vicki
    Your website is really helpful I go on it everyday
    Don't know what I'd do without u Ok
    Anyway getting to my question I wanted to ask:
    1)If I insert a tampon and I go to the loo do I have to take it out
    2)if u can leave it in won't my pee go on the tampon
    By #sugar_babe

    Hi Sugar Babe, I'm glad you like the website. You can leave your tampon in whilst urinating and most people just move the string to the side to avoid it getting soiled.

  • Hello again Vicki, recently I told you how I was 5 days late for my period and you told me not to worry as my body was getting to used to the changes, it had been 9 days since I was supposed to have my last period, I still haven't had it but I get stomach pains and I have a creamy and sometimes clear discharge, I really cannot stop thinking whether or nt something is wrong. Can you please explain what is happening again as its making me feel really upset x from Ashleigh

    Hi Ashleigh, during puberty the body is working very hard to make the transition from child to adult and irregular periods are just your body's way of working out the right cycle just for you and gaps of a few months are quite common and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki!!!
    Just wondering does pubic hair grow back after it has been shaved/cut????

    Yes, just like the hair on your head, your pubic hair grows at a similar pace.

  • Hi Vicki,
    You sight is amazing!
    When you get period cramps what can you do to make them better?

    Gentle exercise is the best way to alleviate menstrual cramps. Why not read this weeks blog on PMS for more tips.

  • Under boobs and bras
    How big should you breasts be for a 11 year old?
    Thank you
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Lucy, there really is no right or wrong size for anyone's breasts to be no matter what their age, so try not to place too much emphasis on size...we really are all different.

  • Hi Vicki

    Can i use a tampon without masturbating first? Will it hurt putting it in?
    Thanks :D

    If your period has arrived and you wish to use tampons, masturbation is not something you need to have done before you can use them. And if you read the instruction leaflet and watch our videos then inserting and wearing a tampon should not be painful at all.

  • Hey Vicki, I'm Neve. So last night my stepdad he's Turkish got drunk. He talked to me about becoming a woman and stuff. But he massadged me and nearly went up to the line of my vagina thint. And I placed my hand there so he couldn't go any futher. He asked if I wanted my first orgasm and I was like "Hell no". He laughed and then told my mum I wanted to move away to Amercia from her! Vicki I wish he never had the chat wiy me my mum doesn't know. I just want to forget this please answer this. :(

    Please have a chat to your mum and let her know that your step father's behavior made you feel uncomfortable and was greatly inappropriate. It will then be up to her to handle this matter and I am sure she will speak to your stepfather with regard to his behavior and how he conducts himself in future. If you cannot speak to your mum, chat to another trusted member of your family, such as your grandparents or aunty.

  • Hey Vicki,
    What bra size am I ??
    28 under and just under 30 over.
    Thanks,
    ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜ƒ

    Your bra size is a 32AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hi viki, I'm 13 with hair everywhere, I've started to develop breasts& ive had discharge for as long as I remember, but I havnt started my period yet.
    Recently, I've had a lot more discharge in my underwear, does this mean I'm going to start my period soon?
    Thanks :) x

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait for the arrival of your period, so be patient and have some towels or liners with you when out and about.

  • How manny eggs does a woman have? And um is there an age when a woman will stop getting periods

    Every baby girl is born with all the eggs she will ever need to make a baby, more than a million. When she gets older; in her late forties or early fifties, the eggs have generally been used up and the woman will no longer menstruate. For most women they can expect to have periods for approximately 38 years, so you see it's important to have the right sanitary protection and to have a positive attitude to your menstrual cycle. After all it is something you will have with you for most of your life.

  • Hi vicki if you remember I told you I could not find the teen range in sainsburys and only adults u said they might be out of stock are all the lil let's products together adult or teen

    Generally you can find our teens range in the centre of the sanitary protection aisle with all of the range being together.

  • If you get your period in the swimming pool what happens would they have to evaquate it and clean the pool out

    No there are chemicals in the pool that would keep the water clean, but it's not a very nice thing to happen to anyone in my opinion and if you are on your periods it would be wise to wear a tampon in the water or ask to be excused from swimming on this occasion.

  • I have really bad dischage I am wondering when I will get my period I have had my discharge for 2 weeks

    Discharge can be noticed from between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period, so you may have a little while yet before yours comes.

  • What if u get yoir period at schhol and u do nothave a pad on u

    Your teacher, school nurse or school secretary will have supplies you can use and are very often prepared for this time in a girls life.

  • Hi Vicki, can you tell me what my bra size is? 32 inches under 36.5 inches over. xxx

    Your bra size is a 36A, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • I am getting wider hips and my boobs are really big and I have grown like 3 inches in the last month.And I have discharge and am interested in boys now. I recently took a period test and it said I would getit in aabout a month. I took more and they all said about the same thing. I don't know when my mum got hers and I asked her and she doesn't remember. Will I get my period soon. Jade xoxo
    Reply asap

    There are a great many signs that periods are not too far away, but predicting the exact month is not possible, so why not ensure from now on you have some towels or liners with you, so no matter when your period arrives you are prepared.

  • If have a mono brow and nose hair but my mum doesn't let me pluck it! I am 14 in July x

    Have another chat to your mum in a couple of week and ask if you can visit your local beauty salon to have your eyebrows shaped professionally. This may be something she is more comfortable with you doing.

  • I'm nearly 14 and I am a 30aa.?
    I have pupes but not my period I sometimes get a yellow stain in my pants

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • I no tht you shouldnt use a tampon if u havnt had your period but can you use a non-applicator if you havnt started??? M xx

    Tampons are the same regardless of whether they are applicator or non-applicator tampons and you should not use any form or internal sanitary protection if your period is not with you.

  • My breasts are 71cm across and 66cm underneath what bra size am I and is it appropriate to wear a padded bra st this stage??? (please put under bras) thank you Viki !!!
    Fr: l.p

    Your bra size is a 30AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm 13 I started my period on December 13th 2013. I know that during the first couple years it'll be irregular and I got my period again on Feb. 1st 2014. Now its April and I haven't had another period but I'm not too worried about that, however I've noticed that theres brownish discharge in my panties its happened a few times now but I haven't done anything about it. Usually I get this happens for a few days so I wear a liner but I don't know what it is. Please help.

    This is almost definitely your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Hi Vicki!
    Well first I'm 12 and started my discharge when I was 10 but I noticed that when I went to the restroom I have a white ball of discharge like mucus is this bad may I have an infection please help!

    Discharge can very often form balls in your underwear and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm going on a school trip to France soon. While I'm there, I guess the teachers will be with us while we eat. Problem is, I don't have breakfast or lunch, and most people tell me it's not healthy. I don't want to eat, but I don't want them contacting my parents or something. It doesn't need to be made into a huge problem. What should I do?
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    Why not try to eat some fruit and have a drink of juice, because you will most likely be very busy during the day and need food to keep your energy levels up.

  • Hi Vicki. I have a lot of discharge and the littlest amount of drops of blood in my panties. I'm 13 and I have all the signs except I don't have any armpit hair. Only a couple . My mom got hers around the age of me. Any ideas when I might get mine ? -unknown girlll

    This could be your period as very often periods can be light and you may find wearing a pant liner for the next few days a good idea.

  • I am 10 yrs old and got my first period. It is 12 days now still have very light and brown flow. is it ok?

    Yes this is very normal and can happen for the first few years as your body finds the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • โคโคHey Vickiโคโค
    So I have had discharge for about 6 and a half months but this week it has gotten heavier/more so I have been using the Lil-lets panty liners but about 10 minutes later I have already released discharge. What does this mean ? Or does that just happen sometimes?
    Thank you Xxxx!!! ๐Ÿ’„๐ŸŒ‚๐ŸŽ€๐Ÿ‘‘๐Ÿ’…๐Ÿ‘—๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ’œ

    This is the way discharge is released...over a period of a few hours and very normal.

  • Hi, I have been experiencing a extremely heaving discharge for about about a year now I've had the implant in and been on the pill I think my contraception might be causing it . I have been checked for sti's and there all negative. What could be causing this? Is it the contraception? Or could it be I haven't had a period in nearly a year and haven't been taking a 7 day break on the pill?

    Have a chat to your GP who will be able to advise you about this matter. It could be a symptom of your contraception and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi vicki
    i am a very girly girl so i wear pink pants (of course) so i do not know whether the darcker patch is discharch or my period!!!!! how can i tell whith is which with a pink background??????? thanks from pink!
    @@@@@@@@@@@@so i know it is mine

    I think if it were your period you would notice a lot more fluid and it could leak and be visible on the inner thigh.

  • what size am i
    under: 25 inches
    bust: 29 inches

    Your bra size is a 30AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • hey
    this may sound really weird but when i look in my pants or when i go to the toilet, i cant tell whether theres a tiny dot of blood from my first period or its just tiny bits of poo mixed with discharge
    sorry its so disgusting
    thanx

    If it were waste food it would have a rather offensive odour, that you would not notice if it were menstrual fluid.

  • Hi Vicky... I'm a 32d in bra size so what size should I buy if I wanted a padded bra vest. Just for support when I'm at home or something they usually come in small, medium and large or 8, 10,12 so wat would you say please help.

    I would try on several different sizes until you find the one that's most comfortable.

  • Hi Vicky
    I'm 13 1/2 and have really tiny breasts. All of my friends have way bigger breasts th as me hand have started to call me flattie. I do wear a bra but it's only a size 28 aa. My mum didn't start her period until she was 16. I have a little bit of pubic hair but no armpit hair at all. I have been having discharge for about 5 months now. Sorry for all the questions. I'm sorry for waistng your time.
    -zoe

    Hi Zoe, it seems to me, your body is working just as it should and you have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki, so I like this guy we text a all the time and people always say we would be so good together. Our all girls and all boys schools are brother and sister schools. He always compliments me, then teases me, then shows off about how he is captain of his hockey team etc etc.. do you think he likea me back?
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    I would say that yes this boy likes you.

  • Hi Vicky, I was just wondering you know you have Beth tweddle and other people taking about growing up and things put maybe we could try and persuade a celebrity that has a teenage daughter that could give their take on things. This may help us out on what our parents are thinking. Thank you for your time. Eve xx
    Please May you put this in something else?
    ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘ just so I can find it!! xx

    Hi Eve, why not wait and see what we have coming up over the next few months, you may be pleasantly surprised.

  • Right basically, I'm 13 turning 14 in may I haven't started my period or puberty my sister makes fun of me, calling me names that I'm a late developer an that, it don't really bother me it's just because I feel awkward and uncomfortable about it all, I feel not normal? Is this normal xxxxx

    A period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 and you really do not have anything to worry about. It does seem your sister is being a little unkind, so why not have a chat to her asking for her support rather than gentle teasing.

  • hi ,
    im really confused on how to measure your bra size because i tried doing the under bust, over bust thing and i was looking at how to do it and bra charts and things but when i did it, all the charts i looked at showed me i was a C/D cup and i retried loads of times because it didn't seem accurate because my boobs only look like they barely fit a A cup but i kept on saying C and D. ps. at the moment i dont wear i bra( just a crop top) and ,im 13
    thnx x

    Why not check our my blog entitled; Your First Bra for more accurate information.

  • how do u know if you should wear a bra

    If your breasts jiggle when you are active, or you can see their shape outside of your clothes then it may be time to consider a bra or crop top.

  • i rly wntd a byfrind and yestday i saw a rly cute boy and i instntly had a crush on him. he ws wlking dwn my road thn i saw him agin at the train stat. like 5 mins after but he gt on a diferent pltform and we kept on looking at each other and smiling then he got on a train and i culdnt se him but now i rly wnt to see him again and talk to him but i dnt have his phone number and i dnt even know his name! wht shld i do coz i rly lke him now?

    If it is meant to be, you are most likely going to see him again.

  • Hi Vicky, my question is, my boobs are still what I believe an A cup, but I'm 21 and I've never had sex. Does not having sex have anything to do with boob growth?

    Sexual intercourse has no impact on the size of your breasts. Breast size is generally genetic so look around at female family members and this should give you an idea of your final bust measurement.

  • Hi, so I have has my period for about 2 and a half years and I turned 14 last week but they make me really sick sometimes and I don't know why. Normally on the first or second day I get really painful cramps and I get really dizzy and sweaty I can't stay standing up, I had to go ambulance one because of this. This hasn't happened since December now but why do I get so sick on my period? I understand people get cramps or something but this is really extreme, especially that I was sent to hospital.

    Try eating and drinking meals and snacks frequently to keep your energy levels up; even if it's just a banana or handful of nuts in between meals. Lots of people also find drinking a small glass of orange juice with their meals helps absorb iron, a good nutrient for menstruating women.

  • hi

    i was just wondering, how often do u answer questions?

    x

    I answer questions every day, and sometimes at night and at weekends and bank holidays too.

  • I've had discharge for a while, and I've never had problems with it. Now my discharge is a lot heavier and I've noticed that a bit of it is clear (a little whitish) and sticky and kind of looks like jelly. I'm 12 and I've never had a period. What's going on?

    Discharge can very often change in colour and texture and it is nothing to worry about.

  • what are menstural cups?x

    Menstrual cups are exactly what they seem to be a plastic cup that you place inside your vagina to collect menstrual fluid. When you need to change them, you remove the cup, tip the fluid down the toilet and then rinse the cup out and insert again.

  • hi Vicki
    I hope your having a lovely holiday! i had spotted a very light pinkish colour on my liner and i saw a tiny thread of gooey blood mixed with discharge i thought this was my period (it had been 21 days) but the next day nothing really happened but i kept checking and once a light pink colour came. this has never happened before in my periods
    i am also 14 years old and not sexually active please answer this as soon as possible
    thanks!!!!!!!!!!

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from time to time and the colour can change from light pink, to brown or even dark red. Why not keep a record of when you notice blood again so you can start to map your menstrual flow.

  • Hi i am 13 and i get very heavy discharge, sometimes yellow and thick or clear and gooey. When i wipe it off within a hour its comes right back again is this a sign of my period starting๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    Yes it's a great sign that your period may not be too far away. So make sure you are prepared and have some towels or liners with you when away from home.

  • I think a girls trying to steal my boyfriend. We have been going out for a while and she even said that she fancies him. I'm scared that she is going to take him away from me. She went out with him before but he said he wouldn't ever go out with her again which is hard to believe. She is always flirting with him. Should I say something? What should I do?

    My advice would be to ignore the attention this girl is giving your boyfriend and be comfortable with your relationship. Very often jealousy can lead to the break-up of a couple, so when you are with your boyfriend do not discuss this girl and focus on having fun and quality time. This way his memories of you will always be positive.

  • Hi vicki

    I am really stressed since i have started coundon
    My parents take their anger on me and spend half their time with my brother it has gotton to the point i am starting to self harm
    Plz vicki help me thxs Tess
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    Hi Tess, have a chat to your parents and let them know how you feel, they will be able to support you as you manage this distressing time in your life.

  • Hi Vicky me Abigail again I found your reply about emotions and that but when will I get discharge I am nine and a half on the 14th of June this year I turn ten so when will I get discharge can you let me know ASAP? Thanks Abigail bye

    Hi Abigail, discharge just like periods can arrive at different times for everyone. Some girls notice discharge about 6-12 months before the arrival of their first period, while others never notice discharge at all. Why not read our section on Discharge under the Puberty tab.

  • Hello Vicki,

    I started having discharge on the 4th July 2013 and got my 1st period on November 21st 2013. I haven't had a single period since then but my discharge still happens. When will it next happen and is the discharge thing normal? xxx

    Periods often have long gaps between them for the first few years and it would be almost impossible for me to predict when your next period will arrive. My advice would be to keep some liners or towels with you from now on when you are out and about.

  • Hi, i have had my period for over 2 years, but my period is late this month! I normally start at the end or the very beginning of the month. Should i be worried? X thanks x
    (Ps i havent had sex so i cant be pregnant)
    Thanks.x๐Ÿ˜Š

    Not really, periods can very often be irregular as we continue our journey through teen years, so please try not to worry.

  • Do you ever catch boys looking at the site

    I do receive questions from boys and I am sure they visit the site to find out about puberty, which is fine by me.

  • When is it normal to start having periods?

    A period can arrive from the age of 8-18 with the average being 13.

  • What size pants /Age would you say your teen range goes upto on Avrage?

    I would say that if you are petite, for instance under 5ft 3" our teens range is ideal. If you are a little bit taller then you may find our adult range of towels are more suitable. However, I do know lots of women who find our teens range more comfortable. It really is a matter of choice.

  • I don't know if I need painty liners

    Not everyone feels the need to wear a pant liner. For people who feel uncomfortable with discharge in their underwear, pant liners can keep them feeling fresh. Some people also wear them daily if they do not know when their period is due to arrive. This ensures their underwear is protected from staining and gives them the chance to get to the toilet to switch to a towel. Finally, some people wear them at the end of their period when their flow is very light.

  • HELP ME!
    How do u get rid of spots?

    Why not read my blog entitled; Being Skincare Savvy. It will tell you all you need to know about spots and skincare.

  • Hi,
    How much blood should come out when you get your period?
    Lucy xx. ๐Ÿ˜Š
    You are so helpful!
    How do you know all of this?

    During your period you can lose around an egg cup full of menstrual blood throughout your cycle, it doesn't sound like a lot does it, some people will lose a little more. How do I know all of this information, well I have worked for Lil-Lets for many years and periods and puberty play a huge part in my working life.

  • What if I don't want to use a tampon when swimming?
    Lara xxxxxx

    Hi Lara, then I am afraid you may have to stand down from swimming on that particular day.

  • Hi vicki
    How much discharge should you get a day?
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, this can vary. Sometimes you lose a little fluid and then other days lots. This is all based on the level of hormones in your body from time to time and very normal. Why not read our section on Discharge under the Puberty tab.

  • Okay so I don't live that close to my boyfriend so i only see him at school, but he has two friends which are girls in my year called C and E and they live near him He uploads loads of pictures online when he is with them and likes all of their pictures. I cant help but be jealous, as I think E fancies him. Also, he said that this girl called M who is in my year doesn't like me, but ive never spoke to her so I don't see how she can't like me. Am I overreacting? ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ๐ŸŽƒ

    Lots of teenagers have friends who are of the opposite sex and it works well. Try not to be jealous and if you can get to know E & C better yourself. I would not worry too much about M, not everyone can get on and if she does not impact on your life, I would choose to ignore her and keep your interaction to a minimum.

  • Hi
    There is this girl in the sixth form (collage) at my school and I think that's she's really pretty and nice and clever and I want to be like her. I do not like her in a sexual or loving way but I admire her like a role model . However I think I'm obsessed I keep going on her twitter and Instagram and seeing what she's put.... And when I'm around her I get all shy and awkward๐Ÿ˜ณ what shall I do

    This is a crush and very normal so please don't worry too much about the attention you pay her. But from now on start thinking about your own style and what you like. Looking through magazines is a great way to start and cut things out until you have a collage of what appeals to you and very soon you will find you view her social websites less because you will be too busy working on your own.

  • Hi I asked my mum if I can shave cos I am starting a new school and have to wear shorts. She said yes and said she had a spare razor for me. But when I have a bath tomorrow I want to shave. How shall I ask her to use the razor. Reply asap please ๐Ÿ™Œ

    Why not simply say "mum can I try shaving with your razor today", she may even stick around to make sure you do it correctly.

  • I have felt sick 4times today and actually thought I would be but I was not

    You may have a virus and as such should speak to your parents or the person who cares for you, who will be able to advise you further.

  • HIYA!!
    Plz help I am really scared because a few weeks ago I got a brown patch in my pants! There wa still discharge there and so I was not sure whether it was my period?! It was my red at all. Was it my period? Nobody knows apart from my BFF!
    Thanks your site is really helpful!
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, menstrual fluid is very often brown and not red. Why not make sure you have some liners or towels with you from now on, just in case your next period arrives when you are out and about.

  • It it usual to have a boob size of 32 C at the age of 10?
    Thx

    There is no right or wrong size for breasts to be no matter what your age.

  • Hi vicki,
    Can you get discharge at night?
    Thanks x
    Lucy ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Yes.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What are the best ways of getting rid of cramps when you are on your period?
    Thanks x ๐Ÿ˜Š
    Lucy xx

    Gentle exercise, a warm bath and hot water bottle are all great ways to ease menstural cramps.

  • ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ๐Ÿญ
    Hi Vicks,
    Is there any way to tell is someone is on there period?
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    No, you can never tell just by looking at someone that they are on their period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What is the age to wear a sports bra?
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, you can wear a sports bra at any age.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What at the last signs of puberty?
    Lucy x๐Ÿ˜Š
    Thank you so much for your help!

    Puberty isn't just about how we change physically but also how we change emotionally. So very often moods swings can continue for many years and into your late teens or early twenties. Your reproductive organs also continue to mature and grow even after your period has arrived.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What are the first signs that you will get your period soon?
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    How can you tell whether brown patches in your pants are your period or jut a stain?
    Thank you
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, you will be able to tell if the brown discharge is waste matter by the odour.

  • xxxxxxxxxxxxx
    Do you know who the new celebrities will be who are interviewed? I really hope Jessie J is - she is my inspiration!!!!

    We are working on our celebrity interviews soon so we'll keep you posted.

  • Hi Vickie,
    It it usuall for boobs to hurt when you bash them?

    It is normal for breasts to naturally feel sore and tender with development so bashing them would be seriously painful. Please try to be careful.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Am I going through puberty early I am 11?

    No, puberty usually starts as young as 9.

  • Hi Vicki, I masturbate every day. Sometimes I masturbate more than three times. I really would like to cut it down can you help me??? ๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ๐Ÿท๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฑ (just so I know it's my question!)

    Masturbation is a natural, instinctive thing to do but it is improtant to remember the things that are much more improtant to us in life such as our family, friends and school.

  • Hi Vickie,
    I always get spots and can't get rid I them! I use simple daily scrub every morning and evening and wash my face once a day! They just don't go! What can I do? I am the only one with spots in the class!
    Thanks
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, read my blog entitled Being Skincare Savvy, you will see itโ€™s not just about cleansing your skin, your diet is important too. Also use the scrub only twice a week and consider using a facial wash for the rest of the time.

  • Hiya Vicky
    I am getting a lot of stick from my class mates over my weight. I am 13 1/2 and 140 cm tall. My weight is just under 6 stone and when I tested myself on a bmi checker I came out as a healthy weight, so why are people still teasing me? And any advice to make it stop

    It's sad that very often people can make unkind comments without thinking how it will affect the person they are saying it to. If you feel generally well, eat a healthy diet and your parents are not concerned then ignore these remarks and try not to let these comments upset you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it usual for discharge to be yellow?
    Thank you
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, it is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Sorry for all the questions I will not put ๐Ÿ˜Šafter my name if it is me.
    Are my boobs too big for an 11 year old I am a size A 32?
    Thanks you
    Lucy x ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Hi Lucy, you are perfect just as you are so try not to worry.

  • If I did get my period how do I tell my mum?
    Lucy x

    Hi Lucy, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and there's really no need to feel embarrassed about your period as they are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl.

  • Hi,
    I can't get over boys! I am always following them and talking to them! Is this normal?
    Lucy x

    Hi Lucy, during puberty it's normal to feel more attracted to boys due to the increase in activity of your sex hormones so try not to worry.

  • If the brown discharge was my period was it usually that it was on one day and off the next then on again?
    Thank you x

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstruial cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi thank you for answering y other questions!
    Is it usual to have discharge for such a long time as four years?

    This is an exception to the rule but not unheard of. Why not ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to ensure that everything is as it should be and then you will have peace of mind.

  • I was just wondering what bra size I am:
    81 under, 91 over.

    Thanks
    ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿถ๐Ÿถ

    P.s. I love your site. It has been really useful

    36AA.

  • Hiya!
    I have had discharge that I yellow for 4 years. Pubic hair down below but no armpit. I am always moody.
    When will I get my period?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I usualy have yellow discharge and have had it for about 4 years. Then one day I got brown discharge. Two days after I got brown discharge again!
    I am really worried as nobody knows!
    What is it?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to keep some sanitary towels close to hand and wait to see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • My tummy is kinda hairy and my mum told me not to shave it but I don't want it to be there

    You have to respect your mum's wishes.

  • Hi Vicki
    So yesterday I came back home and got undressed into my pyjamas. I was wearing a panty-liner that day, so I checked it. It was a dark browny red colour. I went to sleep and forgot about it. Then today morning when I went to have a shower, my pyjama bottom was the same browny red colour. Have I started my period? My mum started when she was 13 and im only 12.

    x

    Congratulations, this is your period and try not to worry as we don't always follow our mums at being the same age starting.

  • Hi Vicky its me Abigail again I found your reply about discharge thanks for telling me what it is I know you to also talk to your mum but the trouble she's helping my nannie a lot so I can't really I got I another question for you I haven't started my periods yet but some day I feel like crying and feel happy then sad why do you think that is? Can you get back to me ASAP? Thanks Abigail bye

    Hi Abigail, puberty is a time for teens to be emotionally rewired and serontonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest level leaving teens susceptible to stress and moodiness. So, when you're feeling low, try dancing to your favourite music, watch a funny film and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling. The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Please can you make a before your period just incase bag with a few packs of liners and some pads to keep in your bag and also maybe wipes thank you if you do

    You might be interested in our Lil-Lets teens Starter Packs as they not only contain samples from our teens range, have a Becoming a Teen booklet which will help to guide you through puberty, it also serves as a carry case for your sanitary towels, liners etc... They are available in branches of Boots, Sainsburys and Tescos or from our online shop.

  • Hey Vicki,I am 12 years old 13 next month and little red dots have started appearing on both nipples,is this something to worry about or just normal for girls my age to have these?
    Please respond as soon as you can as I am extremely worried about this situation.

    Thank you x

    The small, raised lumps you have noticed are called Montgommery glands and are perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • What is the average weight of a 12 year old girl who I is 5ft 0ins ?

    It would be impossible to say as all 12 year old girls are different.

  • 77cm under & 95 over please ? (Bra size) xx

    34D.

  • Hi i am 13 and have not yet started my period. I am not really fat but i am not really skinny like my friends. I eat very healthy and exercise a lot but can not seem to lose weight! Will all my fat go once i have started my period?

    Puberty is a time for the bodies of teens to change physically with hips becoming wider, breasts becoming fuller and rounder, arms and legs becoming longer and hands and feet becoming bigger so naturally, a little weight is gained. You're doing all the right things by staying active and eating healthily so be patient and try not to worry. Your period should make no difference to your weight and it should arrive when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki I've started my periods! Bt this month I've had a drop of blood on my pants which on lasted a day and I thought I had started my periods as I normally do although this occurred 2 weeks before my normal period days and then after it stoped, what does this mean?does it mean it was my period or just a discharge

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. It's possible for it to be irregular for up to 2 years.

  • I have had discharge for 1 year and 1/2 and I am 13 and 1/2. Will it be likely I will start my period soon? Almost all my friends have. Also my mum started hers when she was 13.

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I guess your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki, I am going for a bra fitting soon. I'm quite nervous, we are going to M&S. I have a few questions.
    1. Will I be topless?
    2. I know my measurements, but my mum still wants to go to the shop. Will the lady still want to measure me?
    3. Will the lady have to touch me/my boobs? I don't mind if she has to, but I just want to be prepared.
    4. Will she make me try on bras and have her check? Or can I try them on on my own without her there?
    THANK YOU, PLEASE ANSWER xxxxxxxx

    Try not to worry as the professional fitters have been trained to be as discreet as possible so they will know exactly how to keep you at your ease. You don't have to be topless, the lady will measure you professionally and will not have to touch your breasts and you can select the bras you like and try them on in private so please don't worry.

  • The thing is though, about my dance show, I may start me period the next day or something becasue it was only a rough estimate it would be the day of he show, and I've been told yiu CANT use tampons when your not in your period, and I can't wear a liner or towel becasue it will show and will move out of oplace ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญโ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    A liner is really quite thin and discreet and really shouldn't be noticeable.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Your site is so helpful I go on it nearly everyday But I was wondering what bra size I am in NZ if there is one
    Bust: 190mm
    Under Bust: 120mm
    Thanks

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    Please answer as so as possible please
    Thanks

    Thank you for your support. On our bra sizing calculator, you're coming up as an 18F but if that seems a little inaccurate, I would recommend that you go to your nearest store that offers professional bra fitting for accuracy.

  • Hey , so I have had discharge an drops of blood in my undies for a while now. I have a lot of pubic hair down there (I shave) but I have no armpit hair. My boobs are getting bigger I guess I could say and I've been getting mood swings. My mom got hers around the age of 13-14 . I'm 13 about to be 14 but I still have not received my period and am scared I won't . My boobs will get sore every now an than and same with the cramps on my lower areas.is it coming?

    The drops of blood you noticed were your period but during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. Be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • help! i get yellow stains on my pants everyday and sometimes my private part is wet and slimy! im only 11.

    This is discharge and it is perfectly normal as it not only works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection but also lets us know that our body's preparing itself for when our period arrives. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Puberty/Discharge

  • Hey Vicki I am 12 and looked all over the Internet for something about my problem nothing has said anything about it. I have not told my mom any of this stuff because I'm embarrassed and shy . Well any way I found this clear gooey stuff in my underwear once and I have this dark brown stuff that comes out of my nipple . I looked on the Internet but it said stuff about pregnancy when I have not even started my period . Thank you and please help me

    The clear gooey stuff you noticed in your underwear is discharge and it is perfecly normal so try not to worry as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection. Nipple leakage is very normal and is caused by the increase in hormones. Try to keep the area clean by washing in warm soapy water.

  • Hi! ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ I'm 12 and just stopped my period last week but this problem has been going on like forever! My discharge is really heavy and I hate it! I wear panty liners but they either come off my undies or stick to my private because of the discharge! And sometimes it itches down there and my discharge is thick and white but it's not a yeast infection because it doesn't hurt and doesn't itch a lot just whenever I have discharge come out. What is this? (Sorry if it's too detailed!) -AnneM

    Hi Anne, for more information on how to stay fresh and clean down there check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki You might also like to try using our Lil-Lets Freshen-Up wipes as they will also help you feel fresh and clean down there too: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/15/New%20Teens%20Wipes

  • Hi Vicki, It's Tori again. A few days ago I asked you a question on what that stain on my underwear was. You said that it was period. How come that when I put a pad on, I woke up totally clean? Is this normal? Is it ok that I got it only once? Or maybe it wasn't my period? I'm sooooo confused!! Please reply!!
    Thank you,
    Tori

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • im 15 had period since 10. I have my period for 2 weeks and my breasts are tiny. what do i do i want to cry everyday. EVERYDAY I PUNCH THEM IN ANGER BECAUSE THEY ARE SO SMALL BECAUSE 5 YEARS AFTER YOUR PERIOD YOUR BREASTS SHOULD HAVE GROWN.

    I cant stop crying will i ever get breasts i only have a tiny bit of breast tissue had loads of lumps and they are always sore but never grow.
    Will they always be this way, my family have at least a c cup.

    My first advice is to stop hitting your breasts immediately as this may cause harm. Breast size is generally genetic and your breasts may continue growing until your late teens or early twenties so please try not to worry unduly about this and most importantly learn to love your shape a petite bust can have a huge advantage especially when choosing clothes. So try to think of the positives...big is not always best!

  • Vicki, in a relationship does age matter?? ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•1โƒฃ2โƒฃ3โƒฃ4โƒฃ5โƒฃ6โƒฃ7โƒฃ8โƒฃ9โƒฃ1โƒฃ๐Ÿ”Ÿ

    That really does depend on the difference between ages.

  • Vicki, im scared. am i underweight? i looked on the Justice website to find a bra size for me, and my 'band' (ribcage) is 24. They dont have 24, they have 28 for 6-8 year olds and said 30" 'band' is normal for 12 year olds... Vicki please help..

    There is no right or wrong size for breasts to be at any age so I would not worry to much about this. Find a bra or crop top that you feel comfortable with and steer clear of making the size the most important aspect of wearing a bra.

  • Hey Vicki, sorry for annoying you with questions today. But im 12 and my bust is 27" and my boobs are 29" . Is that small for my age? Girls in my school have normal sized boobs and they make fun of me for not having my period yet, or normal boobs. Please help! xxx

    I make you a 32AA with those measuements and that is perfectly normal so try not to worry. You should really try to ignore the silly girls who make fun of you as we all develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hey Vicki, so i have really curly hair and its very annoying. My friends say its beautiful, but i cant style it in any kinds of ways girls with straight hair do! Please help, i feel embarrassed letting my hair down.

    It's true when people say that we are never happy with what we have but you should really try to listen to your friends and believe that you have beautiful curly hair. You always have the option of straightening your hair at times if you like and a bit of product works wonders before using straighteners.

  • Hey Vicki, ive been yelling at my parents and everyone for no reason and i get stressed by someone talking. i feel horrible, please help!

    Puberty can be a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emtional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel stressed out at times. Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest which leaves them susceptible to stress so try dancing to your favourite music, watch a funny film and most importantly of all, talk about your feelings to your parents and friends as this will help.

  • SWIMSUIT ISSUES PT 2 (idk if my pt 1 saved or not because my computer quit working,but im going to continue writing)

    It makes swimsuit shopping difficult because they apperently dont make size 14-16 swimsuits for undeveloped youth...the bottoms fit fine,its just those dang tops!!! I can only wear certain 1 pieces because tankinis dont work either!Are there any inserts or something i could buy for my swimsuit?Or will I have to wait until i develop? Thanks in advance!
    -Magically_Awkward

    It saddens me when girls feel a bigger bust will make them happy or that they will fit in with their friends. Breasts really are beautiful whatever their size and I hope you feel that way too one day. Stuffing your bra is not an ideal answer and can very often leave the breasts feeling sore. If you really do feel the need to make them look fuller try gel inserts sold in most department stores. Alternatively a halter neck swimsuit or bikini will make your bust look fuller naturally.

  • SWIMSUIT ISSUES PT 1

    Hey Vicki! It's Magically_Awkward here! As you can tell from the title, i'm having issues...with swimsuits. See,tonight I'm going swimming. I'm 12 years old..well,almost...and I'm totally flat chested.( I'm just a late bloomer, I guess.) But all my friends wear B cups! 9I'm barely a 32 A,by the way.) At school, I can fake it by stuffing, but Its impossible in a swimsuit! I get teased because of my small chest.(pt 2 next)

    My response is in Part 2.

  • Hey Vicki, i am 12 and i havent gotten my period yet, and my breasts are very small. Im worried because all of my friends have their period and they all have normal sized breasts. Im also very short, were as they are very tall. Am i abnormal? Does this happen to everyone? My mum got her period at 14, and all of my friends got it at 10. I dont have it yet, but i had discharge for around a year maybe. Please help!

    Try to remember that we're all made in different shapes and sizes and we also develop at different rates to each other. As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away and it is also possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hey Vicki, I am 13. I have been having discharge for about 4-5 months so far. Sometimes it is really heavy and sometimes it is not. I have been having really bad pains in my lower stomach. It last about 3-5 min but one time it happened for about 30 min, the first time before I stated having discharge. My mom started her period around 14-15. Does that mean I am about to start soonโ“โ“

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so you might have a short while longer to wait.

  • Is St Thomas a Becket Catholic College (its a high school) included in your program?
    Sierra

    Hi Sierra, our new Schools Programme was launched last week and the response so far has been great with thousands of schools already registering for our fabulous new film. Why not ask your teacher if your school is one of them.

  • So hi Vicki. I think I have a eating disorder so I ate this morning and I threw up I feel really horrible but I think it is caused because I recently self harmed and I feel sick looking at my arm please answer it because I think I've started my period

    Please have a chat to your parents or the person who cares for you and let them know how you are feeling they will be able to offer you the support you need.

  • Hi vicki,
    I shaved my vagina and now there are little Stubbs which irritate me badly and the other side. So i cant wear trousers and that so what shpuld i do?
    Thxs ๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ’ข๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿ‘…๐Ÿ‘…just so i no its mine.

    It is normal to experience irritation sometimes after shaving but this is something that you usually get used to the more it's done. If you prefer you may rather trim it back in future.

  • Hi what are panti liners and what is a discharge I have know idea .

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina. It works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection and also tells us that pour bodies are preparing themselves for when our period arrives. Pant liners are thin pads worn to collect discharge and keep your underwear fresh and clean. They are also sometimes worn at the beginning or towards the end of a period when a woman's menstrual flow is very light.

  • I've had sore boobs for about a year now and they haven't grown, I'm 13 and I'm really flat chested! When will they grow?

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time so try not to worry.

  • Hello Vicki, it's Alex again! I really want to start my period already, all of my mates have started except me, I've had all the signs, little bit of under arm hair, pubic hair, discharge for a couple of months, sore boobs and I think my mum started when she was 14/15 and I'm 13, when will I start my period?

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives, so you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • Hi viki I am on my periods and I do gymnastics. A few days ago I did a split leap and fell down with one leg either side . I went to the toilet afterward and I have a bit of blood . I had cut my self and got a huge bruise. But I don't know if it was period blood or what. And could this isidence effect me xx

    If you've noticed a cut, then it makes sense that the blood you noticed was from that. However, as there is also a bruise, you might like to mention this to your mum or guardian and arrange a visit to your GP for peace of mind.

  • I feel a boy has not taken my feelings into consideration. I dont know weather to confront him about it or leave things as they are?

    If someone has upset you then you should let them know, but you do not have to be confrontational about it, you could simply say "you hurt my feelings and I wanted to let you know".

  • Hi vicki? I am 12 and have yellow/white jelly like liquid come out of....you know where! Btw i havent started my period so does it mean its near?

    This is discharge which is perfectly normal as it works to keep our vaginas clean and healthy. It is also used as a sign that our body's preparing itself for when our period arrives.

  • I like this guy and he likes me back and dated for a day but broke up because someone said we wernt right together but I think he now likees someone else but I still like him and no I dont know what to do:( help

    If this boy can listen to someone else's advice about who he likes rather than knowing his own mind, I think you're better off without him so try to move on and forget about him. Try to keep busy with your friends and family and he will soon be forgotten.

  • Hi vicky !!!!!!
    I need you to answer this quick because i dont know what to do
    I had my first piriod in september and it was really light and now recently i have had my second (yesturday) and i am on holiday skiing where my mum says i need to use a tampon but i tried to use one yesturday and it really hurt soooo bad that i couldn't walk and am now scared for tomorrow and i dont know what to do
    Plz help
    Xxx

    Try not to worry as all it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world. The most important thing to remember is that you are relaxed and try on day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert. You must also ensure that the tampon is fully inserted so only the cord is showing. For more help with this, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/July/16/Tampons%20and%20the%20Holiday?author=Vicki

  • Hi it's julie,
    I'm 15 and have been having my periods for over a year now and the were really predictable. They Are also really heavy and crampy but last time they came a week early and were so so so light! And now two weeks later their here again their not as light but still not normal! It's also really dark! What's happening? Oh and theres no chance I'm pregnant! Please help!

    Thanks julie!

    It is normal to ovulate mid-cycle but it's also useful to know that in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and this might happen for up to 2 years so try not to worry.

  • Vicki can you answer my question asap im the 15 yr old going on 16 asking about my nipples not stickin out just go threw yr list nd asnwer that| question please itll mean a lot x/

    Try to be patient and allow some time for your breasts to fully develop but try to remember that nipples don't always stick out and it is quite common to have inverted nipples too.

  • Hello vicki,
    Im not a very confident person, i hate talking to new people but recently i have been getting better at talking and socialising etc, i just wanted to know how do i approach this boy that i like?
    Im not normally shy but when it comes to boys im just blurrrghhh XD
    He knows i like him, and he likes me, but we havent talked much face to face, just over facebook
    Thank you xx

    Well done you for trying to improve your levels of confidence and for more help with boys, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • Hi .. Okay I dunno if I have started my period or not today I went to the toilet and there was this brown streak so I told my mum and I put a pad on but there is nothing on the pad sooo I dunno I confused .....

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to keep your pads close to hand and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Im 14 and i have started my period however i have missed it and its a week later and for a few days i have been having this brown goe in my pants and a bit of blood too. What is this and why am i having it? Thank you x
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    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the mentsrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. It is possible for it to be irregular for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Im 12 years old and i have a couple if spots down there and theyve been there for about over a week and im to scared to tell my mum because its embarrassing please help xox

    Try not to worry and keep the area as clean a possible, then apply some antiseptic and see if it clears up. If it doesn't ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki I am a 32b I started my period a week before my 10th birthday it has been nearly 2 years now and I am still the same size I know it's different for everyone but I'm really worried I'm goin to stay this size forever do you think they will grow just a tiny bit more? Please answer๐ŸŽ€๐Ÿ’œ

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and simply because you haven't noticed any development for a while this doesn't mean that your breasts are fully grown as it is possible for them to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi vicky IF here having my discharge for more than a year and I am just 11 p.s a part of my vagina hurts pls replay ASAP and pls add under periods

    Try not to worry as there are always exceptions to the rule. As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky,
    So in a few days I'm going out and we usually hang out in a local park but I'm on my period and there is a toilet available but what if I smell or I go to the toilet to often it looks like I have pee issues? I want to wear leggings but I currently wear pads, will they be obvious or will I leak? Could i wear a pair of pants over? Is there a way to make your period go heavier and shorter? Finally do you know about menstrual cups? Thank you so much!
    Hannah xxx

    Hi Hannah, first of all, sanitary towels can be worn for between 3-4 hours so if you change just before you leave for the park, you might only need to change once while you're there and wearing leggings shouldn't be a problem as sanitary towels are usually quite thin but still absorbent and if it makes you feel less self-conscious, it's fine to wear an extra pair of pants. Secondly, there is nothing you can do to make your period any shorter so try not to worry as all it takes is a little time and you soon learn how to manage them. Finally, I have heard of menstrual cups yes but consider them a rather messy form of sanitary protection.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I've had a crush on this guy for ages and the other day he said I was pretty. But now he's not answering anything I say to him on text and it's really awquard.
    What do I do??

    Check out the following link for more help with this: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • What is spotting?
    From S

    Spotting is when you notice small spots of blood and is usually nothing to worry about. However, if you notice it regularly, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki, u answered my question about having discharge for 7 months and now stopping for a week, I haven't had my period yet though ( you answered: u often gets gaps between ur menstral cycle) thnks xx Also that week has turned to a week and a half...

    Please try not to worry as this is all perfectly normal.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 11, I wear a bra and I'm size 32B. I don't know weather I should wear my bra to school or not because I'm scared people might judge me or something.
    What do you think I should do?

    Try not to worry as your friends will be noticing breast development soon too. Bras provide the support you need so take no notice of others if they say something to you.

  • Hi Vicki I'm starting to get brownish discharge is it a symptom of periods ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey ! I think I started my period today !! I just wondered how long and how much brown blood should I have Cus I have had quite a lot and I am a bit worried ?
    Is this just my body clearing out ?

    I have panty liners :)

    Please reply ASAP :)

    Congratulations and try not to worry because everyone is different and while some might release a little brown blood, others might lose considerably more. Be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi
    When I look at really cool boys I get the shivers?
    What does this mean!
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    Puberty is a time for teens to feel attracted to others in a sexual way due to the increase in activty of your sex hormones so try not to worry as it's perfectly normal.

  • Vicki please don't judge me!

    I have grey hair and I'm 12 ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ my mum says because I stress out a lot! And now 2 of my eyelashes have turned white! I'm so so scared ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ™

    Please try not to worry and ask your mum to take you to your GP for peace of mind. I happen to think white/grey hair is super cool and reminds me of Storm in the X Men movies but if you're not happy, there are always things you can do so please try not to worry.

  • I was in sainsburys and I could only see your adults range not the teens

    I can only assume that they were out of stock as Sainsburys stock almost all of the Lil-Lets teens range. Our teens range is also available in branches of Boots and Tescos or from our online store too.

  • Hi Vicki,

    What do u do when u masturbate??

    Masturbation ususally involves the touching or rubbing of the sexual organs.

  • I am nearly 14 and I am a 30aa...?

    There is nothing wrong with this at all as we all develop at different rates and it's possible to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki, just a quick question, if I start my period when im out could I use toilet roll in till I return home ???xxx
    Thank u
    Plz answer from ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๏ฟฝ๏ฟฝ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๐Ÿ‘ฟ ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ˜ˆ gyhchbvfu๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜‡

    Toilet roll is a quick fix as it isn't very absorbent and is likely to cause leakageso so you might like to consider using pant liners which will protect your underwear more effectively. You could also consider carrying a couple of sanitary towels in your school bag with you.

  • I already had my first period 2 years ago, and last month on 21st i got brown discharge, but i have no period til now. Does this mean this month's period is skipped? (And pleasw gimme an answer to my question, i know the hormones blah and irregular.. no intention to be rude) xx

    You will simply have to wait and see but as periods have usually settled in to a regular cycle after 2 years, if they are still irrregular, you might like to ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki, so I got this new bikini (I don't like all in ones) and it's padded (to stop your nipples sticking out) but its not a booster one or anything - I would be embarassed to wear one. But I have small boobs and it makes me look like a 5 year old chest-wise, I got it for going on a school trip where we will be going to a waterpark - obviously boys will be there including my boyfriend. How do I not feel embarassed? Thank you ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

    There is absolutely nothing wrong in wearing a peadded bikini top so try not to worry and feel proud of how you look. You might like to consider ways of boosting your confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport is a good place to start. Have a great time at the water park and try not to worry.

  • Im 12 years old and have some spots on my vagina they have been there for a bout a week now and im to scared to tell my mum if i did she'll say we'll go gp but thats embarrassing what do i do??? Xx

    You might like to try keeping the area as clean as possible with regular bathing and then try applying a little antiseptic to the area and if they clear up then fine but if not, you should try to overcome your embarrassment and ask to see your GP with your mum.

  • Hi are all panty liners 100% cotton? Thanx

    Not all no.

  • Hey Vickie about the self harm thing it's okay I have everything sorted out sorry if this worried you I have 2 best friends it's all I need I understand I should go to a doctor or tell my family about this but I choose not to I would rather stop thanks for this website it helps so much xxxx kittygirl

    Hi Kittygirl, I'm relieved and happy to hear that you're seeking the help and support you need. Well done you.

  • Hey viki ..it is demi
    I had in march or February a little Blood but it was a light and a little Dark ...this was after I got out of the Shower and then I noticed it on the towel Then I went to the toilet and saw I had blood Coming out of my vagina and is this my Period or is it got to start this year.....but then After that day I just had heavy discharge which is white and mousey and thick

    Hi Demi, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm a bit stuck for 12th birthday party ideas because I don't no if I'm to old for a themed party also I want boys and girls. So have you got any ideas.BTW I'm a bit of a tomboy.

    I don't think you're ever too old for a themed birthday party so try not to worry. As for ideas...why not pick a colour theme or ask everyone to come as their favourite cartoon character.

  • Dear Vicki
    I've had my period for 2 years but I still get cramps after using a hot water bottle, a little bit of exercise (I'll walk around the house again and again and again) plus 2 ibuprofens. Is there something wrong with me because it's complete agony and it's only ever on one side

    As nothing you've been doing seems to ease your discomfort, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hey vicki im gna be 16 my boobs are huge really huge like 34c it varyz from brands but thatz not the issue the issue im having is that my nipples are flat and huge and prob covers hlf of my boob ..my sis is about 23 but her nipples stick out if mine stick out as well i wldnt want to cry x'( i want it to stick out like hers especially when everyone bothers me about it i bet when she was my age it was sticking out x/ how do i make this happen like can i take anything for it ..?? I dont know what to do...

    Nipples are generally the last thing to develop and inverted nipples can be noticed for a while. It is also common for the nipple to never 'pop' out and should this be the case don't worry lots of women are like this and they either leave them or try one of the many methods for enticing them out.

  • So hi Vicki this might be a horrible question to ask but I self harm bEcause I get cyber bullied and I barely have any friends to talk to people put me down and I always feel worthless I need to cover the scars up because they are on my arm like where a watch goes and everytime I look at them I feel guilty sick and I feel like I am going to bE sick becaus I can't stand how I can do it to myself most people say it's addictive but for me it's no I know I need to stop ๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

    You really must get some professional help to guide and support you through this problem and that starts by speaking to your parents or teacher letting them know that this is something you do, they will not judge you and I am sure will want to help. You could also visit the website : http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_children_young_people/whats_worrying_you/self-harm...this has a section for children and young people just like you.

  • OMD Vicki HELP. Just now I saw lots of brown stuff in my pants, is this my period or discharge? I've had discharge for very long but it was yellow or clear so what is this?

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi,
    I'm just having my first period, what should I do? Use a towel or a tampon? And what would help me choose between them? Will my needs change over the course of my period? How often should I change my towel or tampon?
    Thanks
    Paula

    We recommend that you start with sanitary towels and when you feel ready and are used to your menstrual flow, you might like to try tampons. Sanitary towels are designed to be changed every 3-4 hours and tampons can be worn for up to 8 hours.

  • My boobs are size 34d and they are super heavy. Heaviness can cause droopyness so I wanted some suggestions on how to you know hold em up, what bra to use and also bras that make them look smaller. As I'm only 12 I really don't want that kinda attention so that's why your suggestions are valued a lot by me.

    It might be a good idea to pop along to your local department store and look for a bra that gives you firm support. You should try different styles on until you feel happy, comfortable and confident. Thank you for your words of support.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I'm on my period and I'm going to a theme park it is heavy and I don't know wether or not I'm going to feel comfortable I'm not going for another 2 days but I know I will still be on it. Is there anything I can do that will help? Please will you help me out as I don't have a clue if I'm going to be comfortable and not leak or not. I do want to go on the big rides aswell.
    If you help thankyou so much I'm very grateful xxxx

    Try not to worry and as long as you have plenty of sanitary towels with you, you will be protected so just try and relax and have a nice time. Remember that periods should never interfere with any of the things you enjoy doing in life.

  • hi vicki my name is popstarz1 and i read alot of your questions awnserd but you never seem to awnser my questions so here it is . when i masturbate i dont get any plesure what shall i do please awnser xxxxxxpopstarz1

    Don't feel pressurised to masturbate, certainly not everyone does or feels the need to and if you experience no pleassure it would seem pointless in continuing and this is perfectly ok.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I can't take it anymore! I cry and cut and fight off anxiety attacks. Waking up is a nightmare. I'm in love with my best friend (I'm bisexual)and she told me she doesn't feel the same. If my parents found out they would disown me. I don't know what I did wrong.
    Nobody loves me. Nobody cares.
    Please answer me Vicky.
    Xoxoxoxoxo.

    You really must get some professional help to guide and support you through the issue of self harming and that starts by speaking to your parents or teacher letting them know that this is something you do, they will not judge you and I am sure will want to help. You could also visit the website : http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_children_young_people/whats_worrying_you/self-harm...this has a section for children and young people just like you. Finally, the world if full of people and it would not do for us all to be attracted to the same person, so please don't feel you have done anything wrong, there will be someone for you in the future, of that I am sure.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I just feel so upset and worthless all the time. I have terrible mood swings and I cut myself. I have tried to stop and have gone 12 days clean once but the stress and hurt is too much and I can't take it anymore. I just feel like ending it all. Also Im in love with my best friend (were both girls)
    (Please look at part 2)
    Xoxoxo.

    See my response in Part 2.

  • hi Vicki,
    I self harm. your the only one who knows except my best friend. I talked to a childline councillor about it but I'm still doing it. what can I do? please put this in the your body or the other section. thank you,

    from Wiltingwillowtree

    Hi Wiltingwillowtree, self-harming is an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't your fault and you should really try to talk more to a trusted adult, a teacher or a parent/guardian as a matter of urgency as they will be able to give you the help and support you need. Mindline will also be able to help you on 0300 1233393.

  • Hi vicki I was wondering if you could make not a starter pack but before your first period pack like a few pads,liners,wipes and a booklet any time soon :):):)

    Great news we already do and you can purchase the Lil-lets teens starter pack on Boots, Sainsbury's and Tesco. It contains, liners, pads and tampons plus a booklet written by me that gives you lots of great information about periods and puberty. It comes in a pretty cosemtic bag so no one but you will know what's inside.

  • I don't know if I need a panty liner

    Check out the following link to understand why pant liners are ideal for staying fresh and clean down there: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki

  • Hey viki ....its demi and I had lots and lots of discharge for the past few years
    Months and I just want to know if my period will come this year or in six months. ....thxs....

    Hi Demi, as you've been releasing discharge for so long, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • i am in 75A is that normal? im 13. my friend in B

    I think your sizing is from another country but you should try not to worry as we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • hey vick! ive been discharge since 11 but now im 13. and i dont even started my period yet. is that normal?pls help

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

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    Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering if a discharge is consistent? I don't think it is, but I wanted to be sure because I my last discharge was a like 8 days ago, then I had another not to long ago. Is this normal?

    Try not to worry as discharge can change in amount, colour and consistency throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • hi vicki i got my period like 5 months ago is it normal to get your period twice a month

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicki thanks so much for the advise๐Ÿ˜˜ I read online that I you put vasaline on the end of a tampon it goes in easier. Is this true? And if so is it ok? I wanted to ask just to be safe.โ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธโ„๏ธ๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ‡๐Ÿ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ€๐Ÿ€๐ŸŒ™๐Ÿโ›บ๏ธ๐Ÿโ›บ๏ธโ›บ๏ธ Sam

    This is not a good idea as Vaseline will coat the tampon and not allow any menstrual blood to be absorbed. If you do want to lubricate the tampon a water based lubricant would be better.

  • HI Vicki... My mum says I'm not allowed to wear wired bras because they give u some sort of disease or something??? Should I be allowed to wear them or iso my mum right???? Xxxxxx 1234567891011121314151617181912021222324

    You should respect your mum's wishes but to my knowledge there is no truth in wired bras being bad for you in any way.

  • Vicki around my nipple one of them are brown and the other is pink?

    I hunk this is really weird! ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž

    Try not to worry as it's normal for your areolas to vary in colour in response to hormonal changes caused by mentruation. They should even up in time.

  • Part three: What can I do to make her not be mad at me? She thinks I'm just ditching her and now I'm 'not a friend for life' and will never be. If she is going to miss me, why isn't she willing to come see me on the weekends or on Wednesdays when we have shorter days at school? I just don't understand it and it's making me really quite sad:'(

    Ella

    Try to allow her some time and I'm sure she will come round.

  • Part two: She said that's what it's been like with everyone else, and I said I'm not everyone else. She won't accept that I did it for personal reasons, and not just to leave her. I know she's doing it because she'll miss me, but it's unfair on me when I'm going to miss her so much! Whenever I message her now she always is in a mood or has an attitude. What do I do?

    Ella

    Hi Ella, I think you should sit down with this girl and reassure her by saying that you can Skype and text each other all the time as it's never been easier to stay in touch. She is obviously angry with you for leaving and probably doesn't mean to be so hard on you so try and allow some time for her to get used to the idea.

  • part one:I'm going to online school in a few weeks and my other friends said we'll still be best friends bar one. That one person said that she can't be bothered to meet up on weekends that often and I won't be seeing her 5x a week so it won't be the same. I'm willing to try, why isn't she? She said we'll drift apart. My friend moved two hours away and we're bffs. I see her like 3x a year.

    Response in part 2.

  • Hey Vicki, i have just started my period. And although i have pads for during the day, i don't have pads for at night. As the night ones people use are more like a nappy on me, because i'm really small for my age My mum said that i will be ok, but what if i get blood on my pants, or even worse...my bed covers! I don't want to use a tampon just yet, as i feel as though im not ready PLEASE HELP! xxx
    From Hannah

    Hi Hannah, you might like to try our Lil-Lets teens Night towels as they hace been especially designed for the smaller bodies of young girls and try not to worry as it is normal to release 40% less menstrual fluid at night so the risk of leakage is minimal.

  • hi vicki
    i was wondering if you could set up and e-card for girls can ask their parents anything from can i start shaving to please may you get me some more pads
    thanks a lot

    I will pass the suggestion on to the team. Thank you.

  • Hey vicki, I was on holiday ages ago when I was about 8 and met a boy and we were great friends so we decided to be pen pals when I left to go home, I'm now 15 and still talking to him, however I kinda really like him, but he doesn't like me the same way back, I just want to meet him again but he lives in America and my dad doesn't want to go back :( I don't know what to do :,(

    It's lovely that you've stayed in contact with this boy for so long but puberty is a time when teens naurally form deep attraction to others due to the increase in activity of sex hormones. This is called a crush and the sad thing is that crushes often fade in time.

  • Hi Vicki๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™
    There's this boy that used to go to my old school and I still see sometimes.i like him as a friend and all , but he keeps asking me out. I feel bad that I keep rejecting him but I am just not attracted to him. I try and say no thanks nicely, but he doesn't seem to get the message? What do I do? Thanks ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™

    You can't help that you're not attracted to him so just try to be as assertive as possible in telling him that you only like him as a friend.

  • Hi vicki!!! I'm 15 now and I have really small boobs! It's really annoying because I worry that people will make fun of me! Also my nipples don't stick out, they go inwards a little? Is this normal at all? I don't know what to do about it :(

    Just try to be patient and allow some time for your breasts to fully develop. It is possible for this to happen up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • This is part of the question where I asked that I have red bumps all over my body they itch and stuff could it be that I masturbate every single day 2-3 times?

    Masturbation will not be the cause of your rash so please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki so I really like makeup and I want buy some, but I don't know how to ask my mom! how could I?

    You could start the conversation by asking how old she was when she first started wearing make-up.

  • HI Vicki so I have noticed these little red bumps that look like bug bites and only itch a little all over my stomach and breasts after I itch them they turn into a tiny rash. There not chicken pox because I have already had them. I asked my mom she said that this happens it will go away when your period come this month. Could this be because of the weather (I live in Canada) and the winter was really bad and allot of people have had really bad skin because of this! I'm not allergic to anything! pls reply

    If the spots are still present after your period has finished, ask your mum to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • At the moment I am a 32D and 14. I was just wondering is this an average size? Will my breasts keep growing or might they stop? Also can your breasts ever decrease in size? Sorry for all the questions but please answer :) x

    It is difficult to say as we're all different and develop at different rates to each other. You're perfect as you are so try not to worry.

  • This is akward but I have tried inserting lil lets mini tampons and others but i can't they just won't go in I have looked down there and I can see this thing that's blocking where the hole should be what could this be and what should I do, please help as this is stopping me from doing activities. Thanks

    This is your hymen; a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to your vagina. It is very often stretched during sport, intercourse or when inserting a tampon. Don't worry if you find it a little difficult to insert a tampon for now, this will change as you get older.

  • Hello Vicky I was the one that asked the question about the boy crying over me and you said wait a few months to see how I feel and I for got to mention it has been 4 months already do I love him?

    Only you can answer this.

  • Hi Vicki , I'm 14 and the other day a couple of my friends told me that they shaved off all their pubic hair and said I should maybe try it. I did but I wasn't sure if it was normal or even hygienic? Sorry of this is really weird. X

    Pubic hair is very natural and whilst I appreciate that magazines and the media discuss shaving pubic hair, there really is no need. So why not do what feels right for you.

  • Hey โ™ก
    I feel more ready than ever for a long relationship but i either find a boy annoying or just like him as a mate? I know it is very weird but i cant help wanting a relationship but how do i get one if i don't fancy anyone???

    When the time is right and the right person comes along you will find the companion you seek. You just have to be patient....finding Mr Right can take time.

  • Hey vicki!
    My friends have been telling me that I need to start wearing a bra, could you tell me what size I am and what type of bra I should wear?
    Under: 27 inches
    Over: 32.5 inches
    Thanks!!! Please answer!! xx

    I make you a 32A with those measurements.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well basically I'm 10 and compared to the rest of my class my boobs are massive!!! All my friends are flat chested and I find it embarrassing when we are getting changed because I'm the only one wearing a bra!! Please help me!!
    MegXXX





    Hi Meg, try not to worry as we all develop at different rates to each other and you will find that your class mates will be catching you up soon too.

  • Hey Vicki! I'm 14 and I haven't started my period yet. I am quite skinny and I barley have any boobs. The other day, my dad was saying that I need to eat more to get some boobs and my mum said the same thing about starting my period. I am really self conscious and am really embarrassed to ask for a padded swimming costume - also. Please help me get through this as I can sort it out with my mum in the Easter holidays (next week)
    Thanks V and I love your page
    From Mimi xxxx๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ‘

    Hi Mimi, the thing to remember is that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to others so try to be patient and you will notice development. You should also try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need to feel embarrassed talking to her about any of your concerns.

  • Hey Vicki
    Lately I have been having a lot of mood swings today I was crying for no reason and in the car all of a sudden I got really angry I'm 12 and I have loads of discharge really thick and I have had headaches and cramps does this mean I will get my period? ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜œ

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they're being rewired emotionally. Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest levels leaving teens susceptible to stress. If you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months already, there is a good chance that your period isn't too far away but in the meantime, try dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will help.

  • Hey โ™ก
    so mmm I used to fancy a boy in my year who told me he loved me and wanted to ask me out and lead me on really badly then went and asked out this really popular girl and she said yes. He shows it off loads and its really getting to me loke he is trying to make me jealous and i know this is probably not true. But i don't know what to so because i cant stop thinking about it :( what do i do? I feel like an idiot as we didn't go out!

    Put it down to experience and try to forget about him. Once he knows that you're really not bothered about what he's doing, he will stop trying to make you jealous.

  • One of my best friends has been skipping lunch and my other best friend and I think she's going anorexic. We try and make her eat at least a cereals bar but she won't eat anything. I really want her to be ok but it's upsetting us all and in just so scared she's starving herself. She said last night she barely touched her tea and I really need some advise on how to get her to eat again. Pls help! Thank you Rowan xx THIS IS SO I KNOW THAT IT IS MINE XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX

    Hi Rowan, it's wonderful to hear your concern for your friend and you're right to be worried about her as not eating can have a serious effect on her development and cause her problems when she's older too. Please talk to a trusted teacher at school as they will be able to contact her parents/guardians to arrange for the profeesional help she needs.

  • I don't know how to tell mum, please help!

    You should try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and there really is no need to feel embarrassed about talking to her.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I tried using a tampon today but it hurt so much and I had to to take it out. I don't know why. Also how long can you wear a tampon for?
    Thank you Rowan xx

    Hi Rowan, try not to be put off because all it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world. The most important thing to do is relax and wait until your flow is at its heaviest so it's easier to insert the tampon. This is usually on day 2 or 3 of your period. For information on what to do next, follow this link :http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • Hi Vicky I haven't got a reply for my question it was discharge I wondered what it was can you let me know ASAP? Thanks Abigail bye

    Take a look in 'Recently answered questions' and if it's not there, please resubmit.

  • Hi,
    I have had my period for about 6 months. I some times get like brown blood stuff. Is this normal? Also, I have this crush but I don't always like him. Is this normal? Thank you for reading!!!
    From monkeygirl10
    P.S. I am 10yrs old.

    Hi Monkeygirl10, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens in the coming weeks and months. As for your crush, it is normal for boys and girls to develop huge attraction to someone during puberty as their sex hormones are running riot but the sad thing is that crushes often fade. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • I have been on discharge for just over a year now and im statting to cry over little things that I never used to cry over. However im only getting small cramps. Does this mean my period is coming?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I saw about that educational program thing going for year 7s too now and I am in year seven and think it sounds really good as our page teacher will probably make it really awkward as he is about 66 and a man. Please could you tell me if Chilton cantelo school is involved and if not I really would be way too embarrassed to ask if we could have it but is there any other way like just them being randomly contacted by lilets. please say there is as I know many of my friends would find it useful too.

    Over 30,000 schools have been sent an e-mail informing them of our schools programme and I am sure your school is one of them.

  • I have been talking to a boy who I have k own since primary school for a while now, even though we don't go to the same school now we speak slot on social media and text . He flirts with me and vice versa , I would like to meet up wihr h and maybe flirt a bit more but I don't know whke to tell him I fancy him , lease leave in the something else category xxx thank u ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ‘ธ

    For more help with this, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • If I miss 3 periods in a row should I see a doctor in case it's ahhromea? Sorry if it's spelt wrong

    Periods can often have gaps of several months between each one and this is not anything to worry about or something that requires medical attention.

  • Hi viki, I'm Isobel and I'm 11, I have quite large breasts and my mum wants to go and get them measured which is fine. the thing I'm worried about is school, nobody else at school wears a proper bra, they wear bra-tops and I'm worried the girls might make fun of me, even if there are no boys in the room. is there any solutions to my problem?

    Thanks! :)

    Hi Isobel, try not to worry as we all develop at different rates to each other and you will soon find that your peers will also start wearing bras.

  • +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
    hi Vicki,
    Im really worried because I have a massive spot down there and this morning it was bleeding really badly. im worried this might be a problem but I doubt it is. please can you just reassure me because im quite scared? thank u so much.

    Try to keep the area as clean as possible by having a soak in the bath and then after, apply a little antiseptic to the spot. It should clear up in a couple of days but if it doesn't ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • If you don't wash down there does it mean your discharge will be heavier?

    No but your vagina will begin to develop a bad odour. Regular bathing is essential during puberty as you sweat more.

  • Is it bad that I don't wash down there? I was my pubes but not like the actual parts

    The vagina is self-cleaning but it is good to keep the area clean with warm soapy water while bathing or showering.

  • Hey x
    I went to a dance with this boy but I only said yes cuz I didn't want to be mean. But sort of made it clear that I didn't like him but now I do! I know I am selfish and all but now I am not sure if he still likes me. I mean we do talk lots but I dunno...
    could you plz make a blog about asking out boys+/or telling if someone likes you. Thanks (sorry if this is stupid)๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’›

    We already have a blog on this subject, so please check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/November/06/Your%20first%20love?author=Vicki

  • I really badly want to have sex with this guy from my school he is 16 where as I'm only 13 :( we talk everyday and send pictures to each other but I don't know what to do :(
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    Whilst I appreciate that lots of girls have feelings of a sexual nature you should be aware that it would be against the law for this boy to have sexual relations with you as you are under 16. That does not mean to say that you cannot be close friends.

  • 70 under and 92 the other one? what Breast size am I?

    (Sorry I really don't know what bust means and I don't really get it)

    From Kayla
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    Hi Kayla, I make you a 32DD with those measurements. Bust is another word for breast.

  • I'm really sporty, I do football, basketball, cricket and running. I run nearly everyday for quite a distance, I haven't started my period yet. Will all this exercise affect or prevent my first period? thanks
    Ps. Please put in periods ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ

    Being healthy and fit should have no impact on the arrival of your period if you eat a healthy diet too.

  • Hello I'm 14 and I'm getting cramps. And I've been discharging a lot now lately. what does that mean I'm gonna get my periods any time soon? cause when I come out of school and I get hom then I pee then the discharge like hang out grose

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and you might like to consider using pant liners to keep your underwear feeling fresh and clean.

  • Hi I tried a 32C but it was too big, but a 32B was too small! What size shall I try???

    It sounds as if you would benefit from a professional bra fitting so ask your mum or guardian if they would ook an appointment for you to determine your correct size.

  • Is there a normal flow rate for teens?

    No, as we're all different.

  • Hi Vicki! My name is Charly, and I'm eleven years old. I've been experiencing these kind of 'back pains' - but I'm not sure if they are actually back pains. Every time I do my daily skipping, laugh, move too quickly, jump and run it feels like someones stomping on my back part in between my shoulder blades. I think it might be because my breasts are growing. What do you think?
    Please answer, and thank you! xx

    For peace of mind, I would ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • My vagina itches and hurts and I have white discharge and brown discharge and should I wear
    menstruation pad

    Brown discharge often presents itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi Vicki
    My last boyfriend and all his mates (behind my back) was calling me frigid and I was sick of it because I am 14 and have never French kissed and he wanted to infront of his mates to impress and I ended it but what shall I do because I can't run away from this and I don't know how to French kiss
    Thanks xxxxxxxx,xxxxxxxx

    You did the right thing, no one should ever be forced to do anything they are not comfortable with and not kissing someone does not make you frigid. Be true to yourself and trust me, when the right boy comes along and the moment is right your first kiss will be magical. Why not read my blog entitled; First Kiss for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicky I have been having discharges and a part of my vagina hurts is it an infection

    If the discharge has a foul smelling odour, is causing irritation and has the texture of cottage cheese, then yes you may have a vaginal infection. Why not have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and let them know of your concerns.

  • Hi Vicki
    I know it is illegal for under 16's to have sex but what if you was under 16 and you had something else done sexually but not sex because my friend brags about being 'fingered' all the time and I didn't know If something like that was illegal

    Sexual intimacy of any kind for the under 16's is classed as unlawful.

  • There is a gooey white stuff on my underwear and sometimes it is brown HELP!!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some sanitary towels and see what happens in the coming weeks and months.

  • I Vicky I have been getting period stomach cramps since I was 11 I'm 14 now and just started getting white discharge buy I haven't even started my period and my cramps are really bad please help
    Demi x

    Hi Demi, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. Stomach cramps can be eased by taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in a hot bath. If the pain is still bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am 14 and I have my GCSE's coming up next year. All my friends are really interested in getting boyfriends and I do like boys but I'm only interested in passing my exams but my friends always want me to go with them to meet their boyfriends and it makes me feel really left out. What should I do to feel like I belong again?

    My advice would be to go with your heart, your education is very important and it's ok to feel this way, boys can wait in my opinion and you could if you wished organise some girls nights in to keep you up-to-date with all that's going on in your friends lives. Why not check out my blog on sleepovers for inspiration.

  • Hi Vicky its me Abigail again I haven't got a reply from my question was discharge what is it? Can you get back to me ASAP? Thanks Abigail bye

    Take a look in Recently Answered Questions and if you can't find it, please resubmit.

  • *****Hi Vicki, I really like this boy... we went out in year 7 (I'm a year 9 now) and I have been talking to ever since but we got close recently and I speak to him with my friend all the time. I really want him to ask me out but I don't know if he likes me! What should I do? X

    If you went out once then he clearly was attracted to you and could be once more. Why not ask him if he wants to do something, one weekend, just the two of you. This should give you the answer you require.

  • Hi Vicki I've never asked you any thing before but I need help
    Today I went to the doctors because I've had pains in my tummy for a week (I'm 11) and he didn't know wat it was he asked me if I'd had my periods I said no so he said it could be that I've started my periods but I have no blood how do I know if that's true plzzzzz reply soon

    Ps thx

    The stomach cramps you're experiencing might be because your body is preparing itself for when your period arrives but this will normally coincide with the release of discharge. If the stomach pains persist for much longer, ask your mum to book a return visit to the GP for peace of mind.

  • I know that this isn't the type of question you normally receive but I really want a BB gun but I don't know how to convince my parents that it is safe. I have not yet mentioned it to them but I don't think they are the kind of people who would let their 12 year old daughter have a BB gun. I don't even know why I want one but I do. How can I convince them to let me have one? Thanks ๐Ÿ’• (p.s I am 12 years old)
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    Regardless of why you want this type of firearm, you may find the law has a very different view on this matter and if you do speak to your parents and they agree to this, you would all be wise to visit your local police station and the officer in charge will advise you of the law regarding the use and ownership of such an article.

  • Okay so I've been feeling like rubbish recently, I'm too fat and I feel the need to self harm but I've never before, I don't know what to do?!? :((

    Gwyn

    Hi Gwyn, puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel low self-worth. Self-harming is an expression of these intense, negative feelings that aren't your fault so please talk to Mindline on 0300 1233393 for the confidential help and support you need. You should also try to talk to your parents/guradians, teachers or friends about how you're feeling as this will also help.

  • Hi there , sorry to waste your time but I really need you're help, you see my best friend went put with this boy who happens to be my boy best friend so anyway they broke up and he's the very first boy she's cried over. She told me she still kinda likes him , but the reason I need your help is I'm starting to fall for him.. is that bad? Should I tell him? What do I do ? i feel terrible๐Ÿ‘Ž..

    I think that if you want to let this boy know that you like him, you should first talk to your friend as it could cause a problem between you both and it's only fair to leave a little time for her to get over him.

  • Hi Vicki
    Recently ive been getting really itchy down below and it happens in the middle of class but I cant itch do you have any tips on how to make it itch less!!!! If you don't anwser its alright XXXXXX
    Hope you can help xxx

    The itchiness you're experiencing might be either due to pubic hair growth or because of your discharge drying out and getting stuck in to your pubic hair in which case you might like to try using our Lil-Lets Freshen-Up wipes as they will help to keep you fresh and clean down there. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/15/New%20Teens%20Wipes

  • Is it bad that I've told all my mates I've started my period when I really haven't? I'm so insecure about it and when my other mates say they haven't started they call them little babies and laugh, please help, what should I do?:/

    You're not the first person to have done this and I'm sure you won't be the last but really when you think of it, periods are a perfectly natural occurrence that happens to every girl between the ages of 8-18 so you know it's going to happen at some time and lying always catches people out so it's not really worth it. Your 'friends' who think it's clever to laugh at people simply because they haven't started their period yet are immature so try not to take any notice of them.

  • My mum has had regular periods since she started and my auntie (through my dads side) has always had irregular periods and so far my periods have been irregular (had 2 missed 2) so I was wondering if I will have irregular periods for the rest of my life?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and it is possible for it to be irregular for up to 2 years. So you will just have to wait and see what happens.

  • When it comes to puberty I'm the exact opposite of my mum. She Has light discharge I have heavy discharge. She had big boobs when she was younger I have tiny ones. She had regular periods and mine are completely irregular and she was an early bloomer and I'm a late one. I thought you were meant to be like your mum?

    This is a myth as we definitely don't always follow our mums. Try not to worry though as I'm sure you will be noticing development soon.

  • Hi Vicki it's Anna again regarding X factor. The problem is I'm going into sixth form and will have a levels and then my family want me to go to university so really I'm never again going to have chance. This is what I want to do. I love singing. I don't have my head in the clouds and i am an academic person but this is what I love

    Hi Anna, I can only suggest that you try to convince your parents that this is something you desperately want to do and you will not neglect your studies in any way if you pass the audition.

  • Part 2 - sorry this is so long. I also have 25 exams in two weeks which is getting me down even though I'm targeted all a*, a's, and b's. My parents don't seem to be jokey with me anymore or anything and I don't feel their affection. I feel so isolated and whatever I say to them I just feel like I'm offending them. I've had counselling before but feel embarrassed to ask for it again. Please will you give me some advice to avoid this.

    Please don't feel embarrassed about needing help, you're no different to anybody else and we all have times in our lives when we need some. As I've already stated in the previous response, puberty is naturally a difficult time for teens and add this to the pressure of your exams, it will be beneficial for you to talk to someone and get the help you deserve. Childline's number is 0800 1111.

  • Hi, I think Im depressed. I'm so down. I have always suffered with anxiety & panic attacks but at the minute I just think what is the point in trying. Nothings fun and I just cry all the time. Mum had an op 3 weeks ago and so all of the attentions on her and my I don't feel my parents love me. I've tried telling mum and dad but they don't really understand although dad has anxiety too. I don't want to hurt myself and so don't worry about that but I can't see any way out of it.

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they are being emotionally rewired. Sertonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) is at its lowest level which leaves them susceptible to stress which when mixed with your panic attacks is something that needs to be addressed. I think you really need to talk to your parents and ask that they book an appointment with your GP to get the help you need. You can also talk to Childline on 0800 1111 for confidential help and support.

  • Right you have not answered any of my questions which is really annoying me!! My first was for my friend where she had discharge for 2 years and wanted to know when her Periods would be, and my other was asking if it was normal to have had 4-5 periods but no pains?!?!

    I'm so sorry you haven't been able to locate your responses. Here goes again, please tell your friend that as she's been releasing discharge for quite a while, I guess that her period isn't too far away and secondly, it is normal for some women or girls to have no period pain so try not to worry.

  • Hello Vicki. I've had discharge since I was about 12, I'm 13 now. It's like stains in my knickers and it's a creamy colour, does this mean I'm far from my period? Please help! Thanks
    Alex x

    Hi Alex, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • When you measure your breasts are you supposed to do it standing straight or bending over?

    Try standing up straight.

  • What should you do if your self concience about having small boobs? How can you be confident or will that come in time?

    You might like to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, dance or a sport is a good place to start. Remember that it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you have plenty of time.

  • hi Vicki

    I'm really sad and I think I should talk to someone about it and I self harm. what can I do about my self harming? thank you

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel lost and confused at times. Self-harming is an expression of these intense negative feelings that aren't your fault and it's so important that you talk to someone. Mindline offer a confidential service on 0300 1233393 or you could talk to a trusted teacher at school or your parents for the help and support you need.

  • What should you do if your self concience about having small boobs? How can you be confident or will that come in time?

    You might like to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, dance or a sport is a good place to start. Remember that it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicky its me Abigail again I found your replys for me. Thanks about discharge what is it? I have no idead what it is can you get back to me ASAP? Thanks Abigail bye

    Hi Abigail, discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina. It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and is also used a s asign that our body is preparing itself for when our period arrives and this is usually between 6-12 months.

  • Can I just say, thankyou very much for helping me, I can now focus and feel better now its all of my chest :) xx

    Thank you for your support. I'm happy to help.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I was wondering what masturbation is because I have no idea and people keep saying it at school
    Dxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    During puberty, it is normal for teens to experience feelings of a sexual nature due to the increase in activity of sex hormones and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings. This usually involves, the touching or rubbing of the sexual organs.

  • I started my first period in December since then I have had normal discharge but no sign of another period my mum. Thinks I should go I the doctor is this normal it's been 4 months

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. It can be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Helpppp! I think I just had my period but I'm not sure. I know that girls get white spots In their panties but mine came out a horrible brown! It has only happened today and my mum advised that I wear a pad but will this continue or not?

    Rachel xx

    Hi Rachel, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period. To protect your underwear from possible leakage, it would be wise to wear either a sanitary towel or a pant liner.

  • I started period 2 years ago and I haven't had it for over a year and a half, and it's still irregular, and even when I have a period i have no idea when it comes. Other people say you feel uncomfortableness on your belly and you feel a lot of things before you get period, but in my case I feel none. I don't even have cramps when I am on a period, i just feel more tired... so what can you advise me about how can i know if i'm going to have a period next time or not? xx

    This is something that lots of people struggle to understand especially those who like you do not notice any menstrual cramps. Firstly it is quite normal for your periods to still be a little irregular. My advice would be to wear a pant liner on a daily basis that way no matter when your period arrives your underwear will be protected.

  • Heyo so I've had discharge for 2 years, is this normal and when will my period start?? X ta x

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a dance show coming up and I've worked out that my Period will probably start the last day if the show. This is the first time I've had my period while I'm dancing and especially being on stage makes me worry as I have big trouble using tampons, what do I do! When I did manage to use one, it leaked and my costumes are white? Helppp Z xx

    Tampons are ideal for discreet protection and people who swim, do gymnastics or dance benefit tremendously from using them. For an extra precaution against leaking, be sure to change your tampon just before the show and you should be fine. Check out the following link for more information on using tampons: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • This might sound really weird but why is it only humans that have periods? Why don't like dogs or cats? Sorry if it's weird I was just curious xxxx

    Female animals do have a type of period but not in the same way as us - it's called oestrus.

  • I'm really sporty and I do football, cricket and running, I go running nearly everyday, will that affect my first period as I haven't started yet ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿƒ

    It's wonderful to hear that you're so active and this shouldn't affect your period so try not to worry. The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi vicki ______________________
    Everyday i haave white stuff comming out of my vagina & i havent done sex i am only 11 year old girl and today it came littlebit to the yellowish but not every yellow but not white but recintly it comes white

    The 'white stuff' you refer to is discharge and it is perfectly normal as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection. It is also normal for it to appear yellow when it dries out so try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki______________________
    I would like to get rid of my eczema i think it is how i scratch alot is that one of the bad things i musent do thankks

    If your eczema is bothering you, ask your mum or guardian to book a visit to your GP.

  • Hi Vicky, whenever I play sims 3 and the people make out on the bed on have a baby or woo hoo (its always blurred out or they are under blankets) I fell kinda tingly down there?

    This is called sexual arousal and is very often noticed when we see or hear things of a sexual nature. It is quite normal and nothing to be anxious about.

  • My discharge is always only a tiny bit I've had it for 8months when will it become heavy or go brown?

    As you've been releasing discharge for 8 months already, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm in year 8 (13) and have 30 FF BOOBS is that to big and will they keep growing my mum only has 32 C's. Is this normal????

    There is no right or wrong size for breasts to be at any age so please do not worry about your current bust size, we really are all different and as you have noticed, we do not always follow the same pattern as our mothers.

  • Hi vicki im 15 and I like this guy hes 17 if me and him ever got togethet would he be expecting sex even if im under age??? ANSWER PLSSSSS

    He may do yes. Alternatively he may understand the ways of the law and be happy to wait until you are old enough to legally participate in sexual intimacy. Why not have a chat to your parents or the person who cares for you and ask how they feel about this age difference before accepting his invitation to date.

  • Hi
    Every one in my 6th grade class wears bras and have boobs and I have bumps that stick out. I really want to wear a bra. I know my mom was a girl once but I still feel so awkward. Today I told my mom my shirts were to lose and I wanted tanktops. She took me to the stor and I secretly pick out ones with bras that is how I get my nipples not to show. Is there any other way I can ask or give her hints i need bras?
    Please help

    Why not start the conversation by asking how old she was when she first strted wearing bras? Check out the fololowing link for more help with this: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/July/29/Talking%20to%20Mum%20and%20Dad?author=Vicki

  • Hey Vicki!
    So, I'm 14 years old, and I have a bra size 32A. But I'm worried there might be something wrong with my boobs. My nipples are really far apart! Like, if I'm laying down, I can make them go in my armpits! Is this normal? Will they gradually get closer? I'm sort of self conscious about them!
    Thank you so much!

    Please try not to worry and be patient as your breasts need time to fully develop.

  • Hey viki, I had what is called spotting and I went to
    The doctor and she said that I might will have my
    Period this year or in 6 months. .....so my question is
    When roughly is my period going to start. .thx

    You will simply have to wait and see as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm 14 years old, and about a month and 1 week ago, I had my first period, and it was very light and only lasted about 2 days. The past couple of days, I've been having really heavy discharge- so heavy I thought I peed my pants! It leaks through my underwear- not a lot, but I can feel the wetness on the other side of my panties. Is this a sign that my second period is coming? If not, when will my second period come? (: Thank you!

    Many women notice an increase in discharge before their period is due and you might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect your underwear from the effects.

  • 123456
    Hi Vicki, I'm 13 i went to a friends house this evening and we watched a scary movie, he had another friend (P who is 15) too who I had not met before. During the film, P put his hand on my leg. I thought it was an accident but he started stroking my led and going higher. I moved and then he put his arm around me and started touching me under my jumper. I feel violated and I do not know what to do please help x

    You must speak to your parents about what has transpired, you have done nothing wrong and this boy really does need to know that his behaviour is unacceptable. And in future I would avoid visiting your friendโ€™s house if they cannot guarantee your safety.

  • Is it normal when you start your period that you don't have it every month

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to ocntrol the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I'm 12 and a half I started my period this summer. I have had it a little bit off but I know that happens when you start your menstrual cycle. Well I wanted to lose a little weight so I stopped eating breakfast and lunch for a few weeks maybe three. I was doing two sports so I would lose weight I have recently stopped because if heard not eating can cause infertility I haven't had my period for almost 2 months do you think I have lost fertility and and unable to have my period?๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ

    Periods do stop when someone is extremely underweight and this can lead to problems conceiving a child, but in your case I think this is just the irregularity you naturally experience when new to menstruation. However, what is more concerning is skipping meals, during puberty girls actually need more calories than they did before to keep up with all the changes that are happening to their bodies and you may find my blog entitled; Eating Your Way to a Better You useful.

  • I have wight lmb umpy discharge about 4or5 times a day, xxxx

    Try not to worry as it's normal for discharge to vary in consistency, colour and amount throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm 14 but I have really small boobs, I'm only an A cup! Is there a reason to why I have such small boobs?

    Try to remember that we're all made in different shapes and sizes and while some of us have small breasts, others will have large but what matters most is that you feel proud of them regardless of their size. You might like to know that it is possible to notice breast development up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • I can never ever get to sleep at night!!! I sometime read or play a vard game on my phone with the light at dimest but i can still never sleep. What can i do to stop this? I have been going to sleep at 12 ish and waling up at 8:30 ish (in the holidays) and 7 on school days.

    Here's the thingโ€ฆby playing these games late at night you are preventing your brain from shutting down. I would advise being active in the early part of the evening so you are more tired when finally going to bed. And once in your bedroom, steer clear or all electrical stimulation, such as phones, pc's, ipods, games. A warm glass of milk half an hour before bed may also help.

  • Hi viki,
    I have had discharge for about 1 year 9 months and I'm really itchy down there and I get the very occasional stabbing pain only for like 2 seconds in my adomin. My mum started at 14, is my period close?๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ๐Ÿธ

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess thta your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicki,

    i sleep for more than 9-10 hours and I wear a pad at night when I'm on my period. Is it safe?

    Thanks xxx

    Please try not to worry as it's normal to release 40% less menstrual fluid at night so you should be okay.

  • Part four: yes, this Long, but I couldn't fit the question, should I just ignore her, or compltly stay away from her.
    Please help, thanks.

    Nobody should have to endure being teased by someone else regardless of the situation. Be firm next and time this girl teases or says something unkind let her know that you find it hurtful and ask her why she feels the need to hang around with you when she clearly does not respect you. If she cannot change her ways then it may be a good idea to find another group of friends who offer you the respect you deserve.

  • baiscally my boobs are triangular shaped and they are ore rounded than point. when i got sized they measured me a 32aa but for some reason i dont believe this. can the shape of your breast make your size vary.
    my second question is i am a 28 inches below and 30 above what is my size thanks
    xxxxxxxxx ketty xxxx

    Hi Ketty, try to be patient and allow your breasts some time to fully develop and you will find that they will become fuller and rounder. I also make you a 32AA with those measurements.

  • Part three: I try to shrug and pass it of as a joke, because the only 'friend' of mine that she talks to is just as bad as her. She wasn't making fun of me recently, I guess that's because she couldn't really find a reason to, but now that the other'friend' of mine started she did to. The only reason I hang out with her is because she's the one who calls me up and asks if I want to go uptown,plus her dads dying of cancer, id be a jerk to brush her off.

    My response is in Part Four.

  • I've had discharge for about a year and a half and I have not started my periods what does this mean?
    Ps I am 12

    Try not to worry as I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Part two: is she just getting tired of being around me (truthfully I'm not really a very fun person) should I just go way from her and be a complete loner, is that even better? Its not like I haven't told her it affensive, because I already have, and she just laughs like 'oh, you're just being stupid and annoying!' and then goes and tells my other friends what happened to embarras me more.

    My response is in Part Two

  • Part one : Hey vicki, I have this 'friend' and she's always being a jerk to me. She contsanly makes fun of me and she thinks that she's just so perfect and funny. I'm getting so sick of her just completly embarrasing me so much for no real reason in public. The only reason I don't just go away from her is because my other friends are in other classes, so I'm already enough of a loner

    My response is in Part Four.

  • Me and my friend got seriously bullied by the deputy heads daughter as skl. I am ashamed to say that I tried to kill myself about 3 times but didnt use gd enough methods I was ill for awhile after but it was thought as just a bug so still nobody knws wut I attempted. We ended up tellin a teacher bout it but she got influenced my bullys mum and we both got in serious trouble. Bully got scared off and doesn't bother now and im happy nows but she still wants pay back.

    If you are in fear of what this person may do in the future you should voice your concerns to your teacher and parents who will ensure your safety in the future.

  • Hey Vicki <3
    Im 13 years old and started my period on jan 14 2014 and lasted 3 days. I missed my period in february and got it on march 14 for 2 days. then i got it again on april 1st and its still going, its my eighth day today (April 8th) is this normal, IDK when it will stop yet, Its also EXTREMLEY heavy that it wets my undies from my bum. The first and second time were so light that barely any blood showed and was brown. This time its red and really heavy.

    HELP ME.
    Thanks

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hromones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Vicki my discharge come out white and then within minutes it turns a browny colour??

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • ...I am very sensitive towards homophobia. This is probably cus I recently discovered my big sisters twitter and found out she has a gf. She still doesn't knw ik. My parents have brought be up telling me that sexuality doesn't matter and everyone is equal. I dont knw how to figure out if I like my bestfriend in that way or I am just really close with her and have a good connection. She has been there for me through alot so we have bonded rlly well. Please Help ;x

    Puberty can be such a confusing time for teens and due to their hormones running riot, they easily form deep attractions to others. I too beleive that a person's sexuality doesn't matter but as you're still so young, why not wait until you're older to make any decisions.

  • Dear Vicki
    It's megan again. My friend is still being horrible. It was my other friends birthday party yesterday.I went along with another girl who we are friends with. She was telling me to tell her about my crush who is in our Classes. The annoying friend has been hanging out with us a lot more recently and ever since she has my other friend has been asking me about my crush. I dont know what to do.Your last advice really helped. (Please put this under friendship and boys)
    โ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅโ™กโ™ฅ

    Hi Megan I think I may have answered this question already and my advice was to try and include this friend, as it is clear she is trying really hard to be part of your friendship group.

  • I think me &my bstfrnd might b becoming more than frnds We r 13 &grew close cus we shared same bully Its big frndship group but me &her r so much closer wit each other We snugle alot, compliment the other and she says she luvs me but then mkes it a jk Ik this cud b the usual dscoverin ur sxualty thing but Im not sure I am attracted to her &I can tell its mutual We hve bn tld we seem like a couple We're nt imature 4 our age &we tlk bout these things. She mkes jks bout us being together &Im really confused...

    It's ok to be confused and to question your sexuality and lots of teenagers do. But there is no rush, you have plenty of time to work out what you want from life, so don't be inclined to rush into anything, you and your friend appear to have a great bond and for now why not concentrate on that.

  • Is it normal I look at lots of good looking boys and I get the shivers?
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    Puberty is a time for teens to feel attracted to others more than before as their hormones are running riot so try not to worry.

  • How do you know if you have cramps or just a belly ache of something you've ate?

    It can be quite difficult to determine if your stomach cramps are due to your periods at first but many women become used to the pain that comes with them and are able to recognise them as such.

  • Hello Vikki! I've had discharge for quite a while now and it's still like stains but sometimes it's wet and it feels like I've wet myself and it fills my hole knicker bit, when will I start my period?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives and you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners which will help to keep you fresh and clean. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki

  • i weigh 48 kg - is that about average for an advanced 11 year old, nearly 12?

    You are perfect for you, just as you are so try not to worry as puberty is a time when young girls and boys undergo so many physical changes. Hips widen, arms, legs, hands and feet become longer and bigger and breasts become rounder and fuller. Just be sure to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and try to be as active as possible and you will be fine.

  • Dear Vicki, I'm 14 years old and I started my period on the 23rd of Decemeber 2013. That lasted 6 days. 2 weeks later it started again for 6 days. I haven't had a period since January. Why? Thank you๐Ÿ’ž

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicky Abigail again this concerns boobs I don't really know if they are small or big my mum says she will buy me a crop top but I am REALLY don't like it when people see me in the bath because I am naked can you get back to me ASAP? Thanks Abigail bye PS I think I might not need a small bra until 3 months time bye

    Hi Abigail, a good way of knowing when you might need to start wearing a bra is when you jump up and down, do you notice that your breasts are moving around and feel as if they need some support. Crop tops are ideal to start off with and then you might like to move on to wearing a trainer bra.

  • Hi Vicki, I am exited to start my period so I can have my bellybutton pieced but also it proves that I am getting more mature. But at the same time I am scared because I am in school where will I put my towels the boys r childish and always open my bag ,purse,pencil case also how many would I need for a normal day? Can I go swimming on my period?
    Could I use toilet roll intill I get home if I start when im out ???Thank u PLZ ANSWER ASAP THANK U FROM ๐Ÿ˜Š x

    You could keep your sanitary towels in a zipped compartment of your schoolbag or you might consider asking your mum or guardian to buy you a Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack which is not only filled with lots of our sanitary products for you to sample, a Becoming a Teen booklet which is packed with useful information to guide you through puberty, but also a pretty case which can be used to store your sanitary towels. Sanitary towels are designed to be worn for between 3-4 hours, so I would estimate that you take 4 with you to school to be on the safe side. As tampons are the only form of sanitary protection that can be worn for swimming, you might like to try them when you feel ready. Pant liners are ideal for protecting your underwear not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive. Lil-Lets teens Starter Packs are available in branches of Boots, Sainsburys and Tescos.

  • Hi Vicky its Abigail my question is NOT about periods its about emotions and feelings I am nine and a half I keep feeling upset angry and some times I don't come down for a long while I keep feeling upset and angry but I haven't started periods can you help me? Can you get back to me ASAP? Thanks Abigail PS my neighbour keeps looking at me at his window freaking me out if I want to play I will! ( my parents know he keeps looking at me :) )

    Hi Abigail, even before someone's period arrives they can notice a change to the way they feel and this is very common. The best thing you can do is speak to someone about these new emotions and they will be there to support you during this transition from child to young adult. As for the neighbour, have another chat to your parents and let them know you find his attention disconcerting.

  • Hey Vicki I'm angel and I am 11 years old and I self harmed twice I have 5 scars on my arm and everytime I see them I get lots of worries that my kids one day will find them or my boyfriend in the future will see them have u got any tips on how not to freak out at the scars ?

    Hi Angel, scars can very often fade with time and you can help this process by moisturising the area or using an oil; such as Bio-oil.

  • URGENT- HI Vicki, I have had discharge for about 7 months and now all of a sudden it has stopped for a week is this ok? Thnks xxx

    Try not to worry as it's normal to notice gaps in the release of discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicky its me Abigail again I still haven't got a reply from you my question was periods can you get back to me ASAP? Thanks Abigail bye

    Hi Abigail, take a look in 'Recently Ansewred Questions' and if you can't find it, please resubmit.

  • Sorry if I ask this twice
    I have very bad problem.everytime I eat a big meal I be sick I havnt told anyone yet it took me an hour to slowly eat my Toby carvary but I was still sick I try to stay with small meals the other day and my mam noticed I only have big meals at home and during the week to just a crispy cake at lunch time at school I havnt told because I wondered if it was a sign of growing up
    Ps: I have lots of scans and blood tests to do with a foot specialist ???
    From sophie.h ๐Ÿ’›๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’šโค๏ธ

    I think you should talk to your parents/guardians about this and ask them to arrange an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi Vicki, In the boobs and bra section it says that ur breasts start growing 2 yrs before ur period if u have waited 2 yrs and u don't have 1 is that ok. thnks xx

    This is a general rule but it doesn't always apply as we're all different and our bodies develop at different rates. The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Dear Vicky
    Hey Vicky my friend also asked the same question but our friend doesn't know what a period is and she keeps asking us but me and my friend are not really aloud to Tell her because she would tell her mum and then her mum would tell my friend s mum and mine and we would get in trouble but she keeps asking and I hate saying no thanks Vicky

    I really can't see any harm in being honest with your friend and explaining periods to her as they are a perfectly natural occurrence in every girl's life, including hers but maybe you should consider asking your mum to talk to this friend's mum and inform her that her daughter has been asking about periods.

  • what are the measurements roughly for 30b breast size?? xxx

    There are many different variations in measurements for this bra size.

  • my friend keeps asking me to tell her what puberty is but I am not alowd tell her what do I do

    Why not recommend our site, she'll find out all she needs to know by visiting the Becoming a Teen website.

  • Hi Vicki !! I really like this boy but he does not like me and now my hole class knoes!! So humiliating!!!! Do you have any tips to get over him !!!!! Hope you can help !!!! Thank you xxx

    Bye xxx

    Try to stay busy doing things you enjoy with your family and friends and you will soon forget about him so try not to worry.

  • My friend said that If you sleep in a bra it stops your boobs from growing.
    Is this true?
    Thanks Vicki

    There is no medical evidence to show that wearing a bra whilst sleeping has any detrimental effect on breast growth; it really is a personal choice.

  • Vicki,

    How long should my period last. I'm really scared that it's lasting to long or short. How often should they come?
    :) smiley girl :)

    Hi Smiley Girl, a menstural cycle can last anything between 21-34 days and a menstrual flow usually lasts between 2-7 days. A menstrual cycle is counted from the first day of your last period to the first day of your next.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I'm really worried if I'm a lesbian. I don't have anything agaisnt them, but I would like to know if i was strait or not.

    Thanks

    Puberty can be such a confusing time for teens as they struggle to cope with all the physcial and emotional changes that are occurring all at once. It is a time when hormones run riot causing them to be attracted to both sexes but this doesn't necessarily mean that you are a lesbian so try not to be in a hurry in putting a label on your sexuality and see how you feel when you're older.

  • Hello Vicky,
    I have hair under my arms and I feel really self conscious about it. I don't know what to do but I really really want to just get rid of it. I don't know how to ask my mum that I want to get rid of it.
    Thanks,
    1234567890merle

    Try not to worry as underarm hair is perfectly natural and it's quite common for girls to remove it by shaving on a regular basis. You should try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so try not to feel embarrassed talking to her about it.

  • hello Vicki, I am self-harming (I have only started a few weeks ago) and I think I am depressed but I haven't seen anyone about it. I don't know what to do because i do not want to talk to anyone over the phone about it because I am really not comfortable with the idea and I do not feel like I can talk to my parents about it, what should I do? thank you!
    (p.s: I am only 12 so not an adult or teen yet)

    Self-harming is an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't your fault so as you find it difficult to talk to your parents, talk to a trusted teacher at school about how you're feeling as they will be able to offer you the support you need. Talking will help you feel better so please also try to call Mindline who offer confidential support on 0300 1233393.

  • Hi Vicki I'm really confused about my sexuality because I like girls & boys?

    I like boys because they're really good looking
    I like girls because of their boobs but I think I might just be jealous?

    Please help me!
    Lots of love Megan,14

    Hi Megan, try not to worry as puberty is notoriously a time for teens to be attracted to both sexes as hormones are running riot but this doesn't necessarily mean that you're a lesbian. Try not to be in a hurry to make a decision about your sexuality just yet and see what happens as you get older.

  • Hi Vikki. Nobody understands how fat I feel all the time and everyone says I'm not but I feel so fat. I do ALOT of excersise like I go on a run everyday (did 2.7 miles today) and I do loads of sports clubs. I feel really fat and I'm below the average weight for my age by 1stone (I'm 12) please help!!!

    Puberty can be sucha adifficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emtional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel low self-worth but you're doing the right thing by staying as active as you can and you will find that by sticking to a healthy, balanced diet, you will begin to feel better about yourself.

  • I'm 14 and I keep talking to who I have known since my primary school but we go to different schools now so we talk via social media Etc, we get on really well and I think he likes me as much as I like him? My school friends don't know him and when the see me texting him they say I shouldn't speak to him as they don't like him !! What shall I do and please out this in the friendship and boys category please xx

    Trust your own instinct as you know this boy having already been to Primary School with him. If you want to keep your friendship going, it is your choice so try not to listen to your friends.

  • Hi Vicki !

    I don't know if I have started and should I wear a pad just in case ????

    You will notice menstrual blood or a brown coloured discharge if you have started your period. If you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months, pant liners will protect your underwear not only from its effects but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • URGENT!!!!!!!!!
    I think there is a problem with my vagina. It was normal until this weekend. On the weekend it was really itchy then today it was really dry and sore around my clitorus and the pink skin around it. When I looked just now there was a rash and the pink skin was very sensitive and one side of it was swollen. I'm really scared, what should I do? Is there something wrong?
    Sorry if this question is a bit awkward. I just really need some advice.
    URGENT!!!!!!!

    As your vagina has some kind of irritation, you should ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi viki, I had a white, thick, , mucusey
    Discharge but then I saw a yellowy discharge
    .....but in February or in march I had spotting
    I am 12 years old ....does this mean that I am
    Closer to getting my period

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal to notice changes in your discharge throughout your menstrual cycle. The spotting you noticed might well have been your period but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm really scared because I go swimming in the holidays with my auntie and I'm worried I'll start while I'm in the pool. I've had all of the signs for about a year and a half now and I don't know how to tell her I don't want to go swimming cause we don't share stuff like that and I would feel uncomfortable talking to her about it.

    The thing is you can't really be sure that your period is going to arrive whilst you're on holiday so try not to worry and focus on having a great time. As tampons are the only form of sanitary protection you can use for swimming, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applictor tampons as they are ideal for first-time use. All it takes is a little practice and you will be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world. Please check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/July/16/Tampons%20and%20the%20Holiday?author=Vicki

  • Dear Vicki

    On this website could there maybe be a feedback tab for your products and you website and stuff coz I have a lot to say (good)

    Thanks

    I will pass your suggestion on to the team. Thank you.

  • My bestfriend is best friends with a girl who's she's only really texted and has only met twice and they've only been friends for like 5 months she goes to a different school! And I've known her since she was born and she always seems to talk about them I can't help feeling upset that she's friends with them I'm probably just jealous tbh... Like she says we're still best friends but I think she likes her more than me :( some of my friends agree with me on this
    Gemmarainbow12345678910111213 xxxxxxxxx

    Hi Gemma, it is normal for us to form new friendships at times so for more information on this, please check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/30/Keeping%20and%20making%20friends?author=Vicki

  • Hi Vicki, I started my period today and I'm at my dads til Tomorrow, I have pads etc. But should I call my mum and tell her or just tell her tomorrow
    PLEASE REPLY!!! URGENT๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜ณ

    The choice is yours but it would be nice to tell your mum too. Congratulations.

  • After I went to the toilet on the toilet paper was a lot of blood (I think) is this normal? I have had brown discharge today and normally yellow stuff in my pants. Is it my first period? Feeling scared now. But it doesn't hurt...

    Try not to worry as this was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki, I have had discharge for more than 5 months now, all of a sudden it has stopped for almost a week, is that normal? thnks

    Try not to worry as it's normal to notice gaps in releasing discharge.

  • I have brown discharge and have hair downstairs and on my armpit. I have had brown discharge before once around 6 months ago. I am too scared to talk to anyone about it. I also need to shave but to scared to ask my mum. What should I do? Please reply asap. N x

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't feel embarrassed to talk to her. Brown discharge can often present itself as a period so be sure to ask her for some sanitary towels and see what happens in the coming weeks and months. However, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. So it might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • hi vicky, im 14 and i have spots on my boobs and nipples im a 34b and im scared of wot my boyfriends going to think about it should i go doctors or?

    It is normal to develop spots in different places during puberty so try not to worry too much and as you're rather self-conscious about them, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • I have had brown discharge for 1 day but I had it for a day 2 months ago. Does this mean I have started my period? I am wearing a towel just in case. Also I wouldn't know how to tell my mum when I do start. (I'm 11) Thanks

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. You might find that using pant liners protects your underwear and help to keep you feeling fresh and clean. As for talking to your mum, try to remember that she was a young girl going through puberty herself once and there's no need to feel embarrassed.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I think I have been experiencing pms lately. Before my period I need to do more number 2โ€™s, I have occasional headaches, increased hunger, fatigue, acne and mood swings and sometimes anxiety. Are these normal pms symptoms? Also, what can I do to stop myself dreading and hating this time of the month?

    The latest blog is on this subject so please go to the blog page 1 from this website and try to remember that you will get used to your periods in time.

  • ive had discharge for about 5 months and my tummy is starting to hurt when i suck in is this a sign that my period is coming!!!!! :)

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Sorry to take up your time over something that's probably not that important but there was a fire at my school a couple of days ago and I was right underneath where it happened. Everybody got out safe and no one was hurt but I feel sick with nerves every time I go back in and I am all shaky. How can I deal with it? Please help me๐Ÿ˜”x
    ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’•

    You're not taking up my time at all, I'm happy to help you. Please talk to your parents/guardians and teachers at school as talking about the fire will help you cope with what happened. The school might also offer some kind of counselling service to help students who have been affected by this.

  • Hi Vicki! This is Flowerpowergirl here! If you start your period and have to do swimming and put a tampon in do u have to? I don't want to feel pressured into putting a tampon in and do you still have to put a tampon in if its irregular?

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    Try not to worry as you shouldn't feel pressured in to doing anything you're not ready for and even though tampons are the only form of sanitary protection you can use for swimming, you should only try them when you're ready. When this time arises, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use. Check out the following link for more help and information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • Hi Vicki, I Just went for a pee at my dads, I think I've started my period, it's brown and REALLY HEAVY all over my knickers what do I do? Have I started? I've had discharge for about a year ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

    This is most likely to be your period so be sure to ask your dad for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • My name is Tatenda, I'm 13 years old and I haven't started my period yet but i get really heavy discharge and think i'll start soon. When i start can i and should i use tampons for my first period. I really want to try them that's why and I'm the last of my friend to start so they tease me sometimes but i kinda want to be the first one to start using tampons.

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    Hi Tatenda, there is nothing to say you shouldn't use tampons as soon as you start your period but we usually recommend that you leave it a while of at least 5 or 6 periods to allow some time for you to get used to your menstrual flow. Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they're small in size. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • Dear vicki,
    I am 10 years old, however I think that I might of started my period.
    How do I ask my mum, we're quite close, but things like this are awkward.
    Please help!
    From random preteen12321
    P.S please put this in the periods section. Xxxxx

    Hi Random Preteen12321, you should try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and so you should try not to feel embarrassed to talk to her. If you've started your period, you would have noticed the release of menstrual blood or a brown discharge and this usually happens after you've released discharge for between 6-12 months..

  • My brest size is under 28aa but when I walk my breasts hurt, can wear a padded bra?

    The choice is yours to wear a padded bra but it is normal to notice discomfort as your breasts develop. You might find that having a soak in a relaxing bath helps to soothe the pain.

  • My breasts are small and I am 14. What bra size am I if I am 71 cm across (not sure if I am correct). Thank you

    I'm afraid that I need a little more information from you in order to give a bra sizing. With your measuring tape, measure all the way around your front and back directly below your breast and then do the same again but over your bust at the fullest point. Record these two measurements and come back to me and I will be able to help you.

  • Hey๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ
    I have have like a group of friends and we r all rlly close but now there is this girl in our school who is like doing everything with us and I don't like how everyone acts different around her, they act like she is more important. I am not even good friends with her, she is friends with two others in the group and I don't know her well, and I really don't want her to be in the group but if I say something I know my other friends will get anger at me!
    Any advice? Thank you!

    Try to think of things from this girl's perspective; she is the new girl, eager to make an impression on her new friends which is in turn making your friends act differently around her. Try to allow some time for you all to adjust and you will hopefully find that things become easier. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/30/Keeping%20and%20making%20friends?author=Vicki

  • Dear Vicki
    What are Dr. Whites?
    Love from Eve
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    Hi Eve, Dr White's are an old style looped sanitary towel that have been around for a long time.

  • My nipples blow up like balloons sometimes!
    What causes this???? ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

    It is normal for breasts to become sore and tender during puberty and you will also find that they can often swell before a period is due.

  • when you get a mood swing and suddenly go angry how long do they last

    Everyone is different and moods can vary in how long they last. If you should feel angry, try to distract yourself by thinking of or doing something different.

  • I have been wearing a bra since i was 10 and i am now 12 i have only gone up one bra size since then even though it feels like they are growning and look bigger. But when i try on bras i never find ones that fit! Have they actually got bigger or not? An if not is this normal and have they already stopped growing (I'm only 32A)?

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other. It is also normal for girls to notice breast develoipment up until their 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicky its me Abigail again erm I didn't get a reply about my question about periods I just wondered when I will get a reply please get back to me ASAP thanks Abigail bye

    Hi Abigail, I'm sorry you haven't been able to locate your response. Please check in the 'Recently Answered Questions' section.

  • Hi Vicki I'm Anna, I'm doing my GCSE at the min and I'm achieving a's and b's etc. now that I am 16, I'm able to apply for the X factor which my parents have let me done. But now they're saying that they're not gonna let me go to my audition because of inteference with work. Help please because I have always sung and done 7 grades

    Hi Anna, you must respect your parents' wishes and just think that you will be able to audition next year when you've got no exams to get in the way.

  • Hello Vicki, im very worried. My period is 5 days late, i have a lower pain in my stomach, but have white and mostly clear discharge. im not sexually active but masterbate sometimes.. i have a sharp pain in my lower stomach when i urinate.. whats happening im really scared! :'( PLEASE answer

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. The pain you notice while urinating might be because you have a urine infection and I would ask that you talk to your mum and ask her to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind. Try to remember to wipe from front to back after urinating and be sure to drink lots of water.

  • Hello Vicky I am Abigail I am nine and a half I haven't started my periods yet
    the day ones seem okay but what about nighttime and I am worried because
    I haven't had them yet and I go out a lot and 2 months time I am seeing one direction and I don't want them then and my mum is helping my Nannie because she's got so much rubbish and I don't wanna ask daddy because he is a man I have a brother but he never talks hope you can help me Abigail

    Hi Abigail, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. You might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect you from possible leakage should this happen. You should try to talk to your mum as she was also a young girl going through puberty once, just as you are now.

  • Do you still release discharge even when you are pregnant or when your periods have stopped? (Also what is it called when your periods stop?)

    Some women can still experience discharge when pregnant and equally some women notice this fluid after menstruation has ceased permanently. When a woman's no longer menstruates she is said to have reached menopause.

  • I would just like to know, is there any way you could find out who asked a question on this site?
    Thanks. Xxxx

    All questions sent to the Lil-Lets Becoming a Teen site are completely anonymous.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I don't think I can go on in life the way I am. My mind tells me it's wrong to be happy so I never really am. When I am happy something tells me i shouldn't be. I'm just so sad and depressed but I hide it. Sometimes I don't even feel like going to school, or cheer, or even going out to see a movie or meet up with friends, or going to a birthday party. I don't even want friends anymore. I don't feel like anything is worth it anymore. I've always been quiet and I'm 13.

    Please have a chat to your parents or the person who cares for you about the way you are feeling. Puberty can be a tough time and with help you will be able to manage these feelings and get back to your old self; enjoying time with friends and family, so please open up and share your thoughts with someone.

  • Dear Vicki,
    Sometimes it's like I'm having an internal battle. I want to be happy, but my mind keeps telling me that if I'm happy something is wrong. I never told my mom this part but she saw at some point I would not stop crying so she took me to a therapist. Things are already tough for me and all I hear is that as life progresses things only get worse. I tried listing things I have to live for like my family, friends and education but none of them seem worth it.

    Who says as life progresses it only gets worse. Actually as you get older and the world opens up for you, life can be a thrilling challenge, you just have to embrace it and education, learning how to interact around family and friends are all skills that will help you be successful in adulthood.

  • Hi Vicki this is Sooddy here and I like this guy. And the other day he told me I liked you during summer but I didn't think u liked me. It made me really sad. Now he has a girlfriend and I think he may still like me. Should I tell him I like him and how?

    As sad as it is, because this boy already has a girlfriend, I would move on and try to forget about him.

  • Do you have to have to ask your parents if you can have a boyfriend? Do you have to tell them that you have one? And of they say no is it ok to still have one and not tell them?? Please amswer๐ŸŽ€๐Ÿ’œ

    Personally, I think it's always best to be open and honest with your parents and respect their wishes, whatever they say.

  • Vicky a boy cried because I wouldn't go out with him he said he doesn't just like me he loves me I asked him why and he said because I don't pretended to be anyone I'm not and about 2 weeks later I realised I loved him do I love him or do I feel sorry for him he's nearly 14 and I'm nearly 12 I can't stop thinking about him it hurts just to hear his name I cry but not tears come out it's like my heart cries please help me Vicky do I feel sorry for him that he cried or do I really love him?

    Why not wait a few months and see how you feel about this boy then, if it is sympathy you feel this will have passed by then and you will understand your true feelings a lot better.

  • You know how some girls, never start there period?? Well do they get discharge or not? I'm just curious? Also roughly how many girls never start?
    Kelli x
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    Hi Kelli, it is extremely rare for someone to not menstruate and these women may still produce discharge.

  • I'm 13 but I have sexual feelings towards my science teacher is this wrong

    During puberty, teens can all too easily form an attraction to a teacher, actor, musician etc.. due to the increase in activity of your sex hormones but this is called a crush and the thing to remember is that crushes fade with time.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 15 and would like to find out what stage of breast development I am currently in. At the moment I wear a 32 A. My breasts feel slightly tender and my nipples seem raised/swollen and they look far too big in comparison to my breasts. The actual breast doesn't seem to have grown in ages and I feel very self conscious because everyone at school looks fully developed! Hope you can help :)

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and you should try to be patient and allow some time for your breasts to fully develop.

  • A nice boy likes me, i kinda like him back. But he thinks IM too good for him which im not, ive been doing the casual suttle flirting but hes scared to ask me out any more ideas other than me asking him

    Give him to time to gain confidence and maybe suggest that you spend some time together at the weekend as friends.

  • This is really awkward and it not about periods but i think i have worms im 13 and i dont know how to tell my mum or if theres away of getting rid of them with out telling het? Please please help xx

    You really must speak to your mum about this matter, don't be embarrassed threadworms are very common and easily treatable with over the counter remedies.

  • Hi Vicki I am a bit worried about 2 things 1: I feel nervous about my pads making sticky out bits in my trousers so everyone can see
    2: I missed my period twice but I have had an unnatural amount of discharge making me have to change my pants twice a day
    and 3: I want to start using tampons but I'm scared of getting tss and what exactly is it I'm quite worried please reply ASAP and you can change my questions if it is abit *inappropriate* thanks (PS. I am 11 if this helps) (

    Hi and here are my answers to your questions.
    1. If you prefer not to use winged pads you can either tuck the wings under the pad or purchase non winged pads instead.
    2. Periods are very often irregular for the first couple of years and discharge continues in between your period for a number of years. So why not consider using our pant liners to protect your underwear protected.
    3. You will find out all you need to know about TSS under the tab entitled Understanding Periods on the website and I am sure you will see that whilst it is good to understand about this illness there is no reason why you should not try tampons.

  • Hiya Vicki, So for like the past 2 years I've really wanted to be an adult. I'm 13 this month and I REALLY want kids. I imagine what life would be like if I had them and even tried thinking of names.
    I feel really weird and abnormal. Am
    I weird or the only one?

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    Try not to worry as because you're going through puberty, it's perfectly natural to think about how your life is going to be as you get older and planning a family is something a great many teens find themselves considering.

  • Hey
    Just wanna ask somthing weird. So say if someone's on their period, and they have sex. Wouldn't the boy get blood on his..you know what?
    From Gabby
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    Hi Gabby, yes this could happen.

  • I am 12 and have recently started my period. However, I never really get any tummy cramps or back aches. I do feel tearful and argumentative but no pain. Is there somthing wrong with me?

    Try not to worry as not everyone experiences stomach cramps with their period but it is normal to feel emotional and argumentative at times due to the increase in activity of your hormones. You might like to try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film or most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling. Check out the following link for more help with this: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Puberty/Emotions

  • Why is my period lasting for 7 days when your website says 1-5 days please help and when will I get my second period
    Thanks and you know the lil lets yellow period freshlock pads could you make a pad case for us girlies I would really appreciate the fact that boys wouldn't go through your bag if you could just hide them thank you or any pad case because its really hard for us at school or in college because now a days boys can tell your on due to our moods thanks x
    Please respond!! Xxx

    It is normal for a period to last between 2-7 days and as for a sanitary towels case, I will pass your suggestion on to the team but in the meantime, why not keep your towels in a zipped compartment of your school bag or right at the bottom of your bag away from the prying eyes of boys.

  • I am 12 and have started my period but my discharge has always come out yellowy and quite think. also smelly- do i have an infection?

    Discharge can very often be yellow in colour but this does not mean you have an infection. It may be however that you need to pay more attention to personal hygiene and you may find wearing pant liners and using our Freshen-up wipes can help keep odour at bay and leave you feeling clean and fresh.

  • I'm 12 and I'm starting to have white stuff in my underwear:( is this normal? Thanks Vickiโค๏ธxx

    This is discharge which is perfectly normal as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection.

  • What shouldn't weight be at 12 years old and 4 ft 11
    My friends think I am too skinny
    Many thanks
    Steph

    Hi Steph, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • Should i be wearing a bra at night?

    There is nothing to say you shouldn't wear a bra at night so try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki it's annabeth ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’• I am a bit scred because I get distcharge and if I go to the swimming baths I'm scared incase I have my period or discharge in the water I'm scared Incase someone relises ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’• thanks x

    It's highly unlikely discharge would leak into the water and if your first period did arrive when in the pool, the initial amount of fluid lost would be of no concern.

  • my mum is a 36a and she was quite slim as a child i am slim as well does this mean that i will have very small boobs. Also my friends always make fun of how small my boobs are but when i size myself i always seem to be a 32aa should i trust this size.

    Very often we have the same genetics as family members and if you find your bra size fits you comfortably I would not worry too much about the actual size on the label, comfort is the most important thing. Finally, ignore any silly comments from friends about breast size, this is very immature and not the way friends should support each other.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well when I went to the loo I seen like dry white discharge with the slightest bit of pink is this normal???
    Thanx Xxx!!!

    This could be the start of your period so why not place a liner or pad in your underwear and see what the next few days bring.

  • My freinds s are all flat chested and I am a 34a and only 11 is that normal
    Ellie

    Hi Ellie, we all develop breasts at different times and regardless of your age there is no right or wrong size for breasts to be.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well I think that I might get my first period in like a week but ( I'm not actually worried) is there any BIG signs that you are about to start or how can I be sure??Xx
    Thanx Xxx!!๐Ÿ˜Œ๐Ÿ˜‰โ“โ”๐Ÿ“ฑ

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I've been underweight all of my life. It's partly because of genetics and partly because I never eat. However, I've been researching the health effects of being underweight and I've decided I want to gain weight.
    I don't want to gain fat, I want to gain muscle. Is there a safe way to do this? I'm 11. Thanks!
    ~Molly x

    Hi Molly, please talk to your mum or guardian and ask them to book a visit to your GP as he/she will put you in contact with a nutritionist who will be able to advise you safely on how to maintain a healthy body weight by eating a healthy, balanced diet.

  • I don't no why my class all have smaller boobs than me and it is worrying me how shall I cope with it
    Elliexx

    Hi Ellie, try to remember that we're all made in different shapes and sizes and whilst some of us will have small breasts, others will have fuller ones and the most important thing is that you should learn to love your breasts whatever their size. You should also remember that we all develop at different rates and there is every chance that your peers will be noticng breast development very soon too.

  • Hi vicki
    It's randomteen123 here
    I have inverted nipples and their sometimes painful, should I worry.
    And also I have had discharge and a few periods , does this mean I've started my periods?
    Thanks for your help.
    P.S I'm 10

    Try not to worry and allow your breasts some time to fully develop and it's absolutely normal for them to feel tender and sore with development. The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • hi vicki,
    i am doing a dancing show soon and i need a bra with clear straps. Only problem is i cant find a convertable bra in my size (30/32aa) i ca n find clear straps but not the bra its self. i have tried everywhere and online too but i cant find anything
    under: 27 inches
    over: 28 1/2 inches

    Why not purchase the straps and ask your mum or the person who cares for you to sew them to your most comfortable bra. You can then switch the straps back once the dance show has ended.

  • Dear vicki
    It's megan again. My friend is still being horrible. It was my other friends birthday party yesterday.I went along with another girl who we are friends with. She was telling me to tell her about my crush. The annoying friend has been hanging out with us a lot more recently and ever since she has my other friend has been asking me about my crush. I dont know what to do.Your last advice helped so please help again. (Please put this under friendship and boys)
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    Try to be patient with this girl, it really does sound like she is making an effort to be part of our group and in a way you should be flattered by her attention.

  • Dear vicky
    I have been getting cramps down my lower back and stomach and I have been getting discharge for 5 months now. Does this mean I will get my period soon? Please reply ASAP
    thanks xx

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while and are experiencing stomach cramps, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi vickiiii

    Well im a size 34b and my nipples dont go hard or don't even stick out at all. I was just wondering if this is normal im a bit worried

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    Please try not to worry and allow your breasts some time to fully develop.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm getting these pains in my tummy but I don't no whether it is something to do with my period of just normal they are lower in the stomach! Please Hellp!!!! Xx

    Stomach cramps in your lower abdomen are a natural sign that your body is preparing itself for when your period arrives but the best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki!
    It's Tori. A few minutes ago, I found a yellow-brown stain in my underwear. I don't know what it is! I don't know if it came from my vagina or my gludiusmaximus if you know what I mean. I can't figure out what it is because I was wearing dark blue underwear, so I can't figure out if it was my period, discharge or something else. Please help!
    -Tori

    Hi Tori, try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

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    Does drinking lots of water and exercise actaully make your period lighter???

    No this is a myth.

  • hey โ™ก
    I have dark hair between my breats that you can see even with my bra on! Its really embarressing because i have to get changed in pe and i am scared that people will notice. What do i do?

    During puberty body hair does seem to become more apparent and this is generally believed to be caused by an increase in hormone levels. Usually this hair disappears in its own time and there really is nothing you need to do to remove it.

  • hi vicki,so i was just wondering...can an 11 year old squeeze milk out of her breasts if so how.x thanks leah

    Hi Leah, no she cannot. Milk is produced in the breast during pregnancy and whilst some teenagers notice a little discharge from the nipple during breast development this is not breast milk.

  • If I asked my guy friend out on a date or something, and he said no, how would I be able to still be friends with him? :)

    Ella

    Hi Ella, give it a few days and then chat to him as you did before you asked him out. It may be awkward for a couple of days but it will get better over time.

  • Hi Vickie
    I want to ask is there a way to make your breasts grow faster
    PLEASE ANSWER!!!!!!!
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    so that I know it's mine lol

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to make your breasts develop any quicker so just try and be patient and it will happen.

  • I am really worried cause my right inner labia is really big and it was only big after i got my periods 1 year ago and it masks me self concious why is it like this?

    Try not to feel self-conscious as everyone's labia hangs down.

  • Zits here zits there zits like everywere!
    Hi vicki, i have zits
    It can be hard for healthy girls
    It really looks bad
    It drives me mad
    Zits here zits there zits freaken everywere
    What shall I do
    Can i ask you. (Sorry I just like poetry and I know its wierd!)

    Great poem. Don't be sad, spots are a common problem for lots of teenagers and even the most healthy ones can have the odd breakout. Why not read my blog entitled; Being Skincare Savvy for more on this very subject.

  • Hey so I've had around 4-5 periods now but no cramps or any kind of pain, is this normal? Please reply asap ta xx

    Try not to worry as not everyone experiences stomach cramps with their period.

  • Hi vicki, Im about to buy a hookah. I need adivice should I buy it
    Or not? Plz anwser..

    I see no reason for anyone to own one of these devices and start inhaling chemicals the body does not need. But that is just my opinion.

  • Hi vicki, I'm nearly 14 and don't wear bras, but lately I've been feeling like a need one, could you please tell me what size you think I am ( if any size lol ) under is 27 and bust is 30 in inches, thanks :)

    Your bra size is a 32AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Hey I I've had 2 tiny bits of periad in the last 2 years and my mum won't by towels she naught me hundreds of tampons but when do I use them ps my mum won't allow free samples

    Have a chat to your mum and ask her if you can try towels befoer you try tampons. I am sure she will understand once you explain you want to try external sanitary protection first.

  • Hello Vicki, please don't judge me, nobody judge me when you read this but last summer and a few months ago, I sent a nude picture to a boy and I'm worried that i will get bullied at school because he will tell them? Also, my best friend knows and I don't know if I can trust her 100%, what do I do? Do I try and forget it? Please help me, I've been worrying so much over this and it's a mistake I want to forget so I can be happy, thank you x

    I never judge anyone, after all, we all make mistakes and as long as we learn from them, they have their place in our lives. I can see you bitterly regret this episode and you may find my blog on Keeping Safe in Cyberspace useful as it discusses pictures of underage people and their intended use. If you feel this boy may share your picture with others, it may be an idea to let him know that this would indeed be unlawful.

  • I'm, putting on lots of weight. I just hate myself. My boobs are too big. I have stretch marks all over them. I just wanna die because I'll never be happy until I'm small enough to be accepted. I'm a regect. No boys look at me and think โ€œwow she's pretty". More like uhh she ugly because I am ....

    Who said a fuller figure is not beautiful...you'll never hear me saying that and you only have to look around you in shops, magazines and on TV to see that women of all shapes and sizes can shine. So rather than worry about what others may think of you, start to find your own style and wear a few items that show your true personality and I am sure you will feel so much better for it.

  • Hi Vicky
    I'm 13 and 1/2 and haven't really showed any signs of puberty, I have no breasts and no pubic hair although I have been having discharge to 6 months, does this mean I'm near to starting my periods?
    P.S my mum didn't get hers unroll she was 16
    -zoe

    Hi Zoe, the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and we don't always start our periods at the same age as our mums so try not to worry.

  • I have recently stared my periods so it is an irregular pattern at the moment. As i have no rough idea when im going to start, i will not be wearing a towel? So surley it will leak everywhere as it gets heavier?

    You might like to consider using pant liners as they will protect your underwear from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hey viki I saw you say in one of your answers that porn is bad and I was just wondering, why?? (I don't watch it or anything I'm just curious lol)

    I have never said that pornography is 'bad'. I have said however that I feel it gives an unrealistic view to many people of what a loving relationship entails and can very often show females in a poor image.



  • Hi Vicki,

    Just wanted to know how long it takes to get a question answered?

    Thanks, Sophia xx

    Hi Sophia, questions are answered on a daily basis.

  • hi Vicki,
    I really fancy my best friend and I don't know what to do!
    by the way we are both girls.age 12

    From Bella xxx

    Hi Bella, it is quite common during puberty to find you are attracted to the same sex. Why not hold off telling your friend about your feelings until you are sure this is attraction and not just a crush. There really is no rush.

  • 28 under, 30 over xxx

    32AA.

  • Any ideas
    I have just started wering make up often and I always cleanse with simple , today I woke up with red blochey skin and every one commented I didn't were make up but I feel like under my eyes are sunburnt which there not it just read my book with a open window and I started to get cracked skin and I feel very hot !! Is this normal!any good products?? Thanks๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ˜ฐ

    It could be that you have had a slight allergic reaction to a product or something you have eaten. See how your skin feels over the next few days and hydrate your skin by using a moisturiser and drinking plenty of water.

  • I have really bad discharge and wear panty liners but my panty liner often leaks. I don't have my period yet. Do I need to wear a pad and do I need to wear a night pad because my discharge is bad at night as my discharge is bad at night?

    As your discharge is quite heavy, you might like to consider changing your pant liners a little more frequently and using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes which will help to keep you fresh and clean down there. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/15/New%20Teens%20Wipes

  • hi Vicki I have had discharge for 7-9 months (I'm assuming coz I cant quite remember it that well) it turns yellow a tinny spot in my pants (I know that's normal)so well when will I get it brown or with blood or heavy how long before your period will it start?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I am 11 (almost 12) and I am worried about starting my period. I've had discharge about every 2-3 weeks for 7 months now, I've got thick hair on my armpits and down there!! And my vagina was really itchy and it hurt s loads. I get annoyed really easily. I'm also wearing aa-a bras.
    WHEN WILL I START MY PERIOD???!!!
    C.M

    As you've already been releasing discharge for 7 months and have recognised many of the signs of puberty, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Me and my best friend have our crushes phone number and we have arranged to go to the cinema with them. What would be a good film to watch they have both said they don't mind also how can we not make it awkward on the "date" we haven't told them its a date. Do u think that they will get the idea that we like them?

    Why not try a comedy this will ensure the date does not get too heavy and yes I think the boys will have an idea that this is more than just friends hanging out, especially if there are four of you going.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Just wondering, can you take a tampon out of the applicator then use it like a non-applicator tampon? Is it safe?

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

    Hi Darcy-Mae, this is perfectly safe so try not to worry.

  • Hy vicki, m 18 years i have not involve myself in sexual intercourse but m worried coz i always see jelly like substance on my panty

    This substance is most likely discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and healthy. It really is nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • Hi Vicki, I am 10 and have had discharge for more than 4 months now. All of a sudden it has stopped and I don't know whether that is normal? Thanks xx

    It is very normal for discharge to stop and start from time to time and nothing for you to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki my mum and dad live in seperate houses and well my dad comes and stays overrated but every time he comes over he clames he coming to see us but then you can hear my mum and dad having sex so I don't like him coming over and I have made this quite clear but my mum says I'm being horrible

    This is a matter that is between your parents and whilst I appreciate you find it hard to understand that they want to be intimate it really is there decision as adults to make and you should abide by their wishes.

  • How many sanitary towels should I be going through a day?
    How long should my period last?
    Thanks

    Sanitary towels are designed to be worn for between 3-4 hours, so I guess you should look at using between 4-6 per day depending on how heavy your menstrual flow is.

  • Hi Vicki I have really small boobs I'm 14 and a size 30aa but I also wear 32aa and I have started my period do boobs grow after your period as we'll as before?????????????

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and it is normal for your breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • hi vicki
    my BFF is having a swimming party on Saturday and i said i would go, but now my period has started of sunday normally my periods last about 8 days. is there anyway i can speed up my period?????

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to speed your period up but to eliminate any worry you might have, you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use and there really is no alternative to sanitary protection whilst swimming other than to use tampons. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons I hope you have a fab time!

  • I've been getting discharge for about a year, I have pubic hair on. My vagina and I'm a size 32B, but I haven't started my period and I've got no armpit hair... Is this normal? Thank you

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • I told my friends i think i am bi sexual. One told me that she liked me and we were thinking of going out. This morning i told her i wasnt ready and she had a go at me and i am messaging apologise but she hasnt replied i am so worried!
    Please help
    Melissa xx

    Hi Melissa, give this girl some alone time. It may be that she felt she could trust you with her sexuality and now feels let down. Chat to her again in a couple of days when she may feel differently and explain your reasons for changing your mind.

  • My friends say im pretty but thats because i do my hair my hair islike a messed up mop i hate it so i straighten it if i didt i would be bullied but even if i straighten it at school boys say im ugly look like a monster or witch i have a wierd smile that makes me look retarded i hate it i cry

    You sound like you have a very unique look to me which is great, it means you will stand out in the crowd and if you show confidence it will be for all the right reasons. So take some time to think about your style and what you like in magazines and try to incorporate this into your overall look. Yes people may comment but after a while they will also notice how original you are and confident too. You may also find my blog entitled; Fitting In useful too.

  • Hi Vicki, I have had discharge for a couple of months now, all of a sudden it has stopped for a couple of days, is this normal?

    This is normal so try not to worry.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I feel like I'm not being appreciated for what I do at home.Like this morning I cleaned up the house and tidied up my room but when my parents got home they didn't notice at all.In fact they thought quite the opposite,that I had been sitting around doing nothing.I don't want to have to tell them that I've been cleaning up their and my sister's mess but I do want to be appreciated every once in a while.What should I do???

    Why not have a chat to your parents about the way you feel, it could be that they say these things out of habit and once they take the time to look around they should notice you have been busy and I am sure will appreciable.

  • My period wasn't that heavy for the first four days of my cycle and then it started to get heavy on the 5th day, it is now the 7th day and it is still bright red and heavy! I'm really worried about this, when do you think it will go away? Is this normal? (P.S this is my 4th period and I never had sex) thanks for all you help Vicki!!x -blue blossom

    Hi Blue Blossom, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. If your period should remain as heavy for much longer, ask your mum or guardian to take you to visit your GP for peace of mind.

  • I am going on a holiday in 2 weeks and its all swimming in spain I have pubic hair in between my legs and it is growing onto my legs it isnt long enough to trim but its really dark im scared to go swimming infront of people xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxfrom claire btw im 11and have had it since I was 8

    Although this hair seems pretty obvious to you, it's doubtful anyone else will get close enough to see it or care if they did. Eleven is a little young to be considering shaving this area so please don't be tempted to do this, but if you continue to be anxious have a chat to your mum or the person how cares for you and see if they have a solution to your concerns.

  • How do you get a boy to like you back?

    Let this boy get to know you, tell him a little about your likes and dislikes. He will soon know if you have things in common and if he feels the same way about you as you do about him.

  • I kinda have a problem... is it wrong to go out with my ex's best friend? Me and my ex are just friends now and he doesn't fancy me or anything but I like his best friend.

    Why not have a chat with your friend and let him know out of courtesy that you like his friend. He may be cool about it, but it would be a nice gesture to tell him first rather than letting him find out from others.

  • Hii,
    On Thursday afternoon I started to have a mild ache in my left lower abdomen and it carried on throught Friday and Saturday morning I woke up with a really bad cold, headache and temperature and my stomach ache was still there. Today (Sunday) it's still the same. Sorry if you can't answer but I was wondering is the stomach ache related to my period cause are period pains on one side? Or is the stomach ache part of my cold? Thanks xx (btw I haven't started my period yet) ๐Ÿ‘ฝ๐Ÿ‘ฝ๐Ÿ‘ฝ๐Ÿ‘ฝ

    I believe these aches you are noticing are related to your cold as menstrual cramps generally only last a few mintues at a time. Have a chat to your parents or the person who cares for you and they may offer you some pain relief to help ease this discomfort until you are better.

  • Hiya I'm 29 under and 32 over what size am I? x

    34AA.

  • I always stain my pants when I'm on my period the blood always somehow manages to go on my pants and not the pad. Right now I am wearing two pads at the same time to cover more area but really it's just wasting them. What can I do?

    Why not try Lil-Lets Freshlock long towels in the pink wrappers, they should offer you complete protection from leakage if your period is heavy. You may also find my blog entitled; How to choose the right product for your flow, useful too.

  • I can't get rid of my period pains, I've tried painkillers and all that.. But, it never kicks in. So I'm lying on my bed screaming, but when it comes to finding my spot.. And relaxing myself, slouched against a wall.. It eases. But, what can I do in the meantime in order to stop it from hurting? I feel like crying, but I know that I'm not the only one who goes through it. Please help /: <3 xoxo

    P.S I'm 13 years old x

    If you find pain relief such as Ibuprofen does not work, ask your mum to pop you along to your GP who may be able to offer you another form of pain relief not readily available over the counter. Remember too that gentle exercise is very often all that is needed to ease period cramps...even though it may be the last thing you feel like doing.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 14 and have had my period for over 2 years. but there's been constant heavy discharge for about over a year now.Lately,it has been even heavier and i now have abdominal pain and it is extremely foul smelling,i think someone could possibly smell it beside me!there's a little bit of brown staining as well! I dont know what to do because it's now causing pain!i know this isn't normal!

    Any discomfort should be discussed with your GP. Discharge is very normal in between periods, but if you are noticing a foul odour you may have an infection and this should be checked out by a medical professional.

  • Under- 29", Bust- 31"
    What's my size?

    Your bra size is a 34AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx My friend talled me you can cach aids off the toilet Seat is this ture? im too scared to use the toilets at school incase i cach aids Thanks xxxxx :-D

    Your friend is very much mistaken.

  • Hi, I self-harmed and have done for over a year. My best friend knows and supports me but two of my other really close friends don't know and I don't know whether to tell them or not. I don't think that either of them would judge me but I just don't know. What do you think I should do?

    This really has to be your choice. More importantly I hope you are now getting support and help from a professional body and have discussed this condition with your parents or another trusted adult.

  • How can I ease the pain? ๐Ÿ˜ฅ

    Stomach cramps can be eased by taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or by having a soak in a relaxing, hot bath. If the pain is still too bad, you can ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Is it normal that the idea of masturbation makes me feel sick?
    ๐ŸŒ‘๐ŸŒ’๐ŸŒ“๐ŸŒ”๐ŸŒ•๐ŸŒ–๐ŸŒ—๐ŸŒ˜๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒ™๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒž๐ŸŒŽ๐ŸŒโญ๏ธโ˜€๏ธโ˜๏ธโšก๏ธโ˜”๏ธโ›…๏ธโ„๏ธโ›„๏ธ๐ŸŒ€๐ŸŒ๐ŸŒˆ๐ŸŒŠ๐ŸŒ ๐ŸŒŒ๐ŸŒ‹

    Masturbation isn't for everyone and some do feel uncomfortable about it but try to remember that during puberty, it is normal for teens to notice more feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • I never know when my periods are due and when they do come around eventually they are REALLY heavy. I have to wear lil-lets night time pads and I don't really feel comfortable with a tampon. My periods are so bad that I'm scared about going to school since I don't know when they start or finish. What should I do?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a blance for your regular period and this might happen for up to 2 years. As your periods are so heavy, ask your mum or guardian to take you to visit your GP for peace of mind and you might like to also consider using our Lil-Lets Freshlock adult range of towels in Normal and Long as they are more absorbent than the best selling products and come with a unique odour neutraliser.

  • hy vickey i have got my first periods at 18 but after that i have got very heavy discharge . please help me

    Discharge is often noticed in between periods and continue into a girls twenties and is nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicky, me and my mum were talking and she asked me if I needed a bra. I said no but I'm not sure.. when is the right time to start wearing a bra? My boobs are small-ish but maybe I should get a bra, for sport and stuff. Please help!

    You might like to consider starting with a trainer bra and then see how you get on.

  • Hi Vicki!
    There's this friend who likes a guy and the guy likes her back, and she's ALWAYS texting me about him... she never thinks of anything else. I know sometimes it's fun having a boy talk but with her it's ALWAYS about her and that guy! How can I tell her that she's getting me mad?
    Bye Vicki!

    Firstly, try gently switching the conversation to something else such as a new tune you have heard or an episode of your favourite TV show. If she continues to bring the subject back to her relationship then you may have to be a little more obvious and let her know that you wish you could discuss other topics than just her and this boy. If she is a true friend she will understand.

  • Hi Vicki, I wanted to ask if u use hookah pens can the chemicals inside make you miss your period

    There is no evidence to show this but I have to be honest here and say that I fail to see why anyone would feel the need to inhale these chemicals on a daily basis.

  • Hey vicki!
    Please tell me my bra size.
    27 inches under
    31 inches over
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    32AA. Thank you for your support.

  • I'm going to online school in a few weeks and I know it's the best choice for me:) I'm going to miss my best friends sooooo much though! They say they won't forget me but what if they do? I really wish we could all go to college/uni with each other but only my (boy) friend and my other friend want to do the same things I do career wise. I don't want to lose them because I love them so much. Help with how to keep in touch weekly/monthly

    Social networks and e-mails are a good way of keeping in touch with friends, you could also organise some weekend activities that you can all meet up and enjoy. Try to bear in mind that it's not the amount of time you spend with friends that matters, but rather the experiences you have when with them.

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    Hi Vicki, I am almost 14 an haven't started my periods (I don't think) I had lighish brown discharge for 3 days is this my periods???thank x

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicki I was just wondering if you like went to your GP with like a rash on your vagina or anything what would the doctor do would they look at your vagina ?๐Ÿ˜˜ thanks

    In order to make a diagnosis, the GP would probably have to see the rash but if you are too embarrassed with a male GP, ask if you can see a female.

  • Hey Vicki, I'm 14 and only started my period 6 months ago and don't know whether to start using tampons or not ??

    The choice is yours and when you feel ready to try them, you should check out the following link from the blog page: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons Try to remember that all it takes is a little practice to be enjoying the discreet protection that millions of women enjoy all over the world.

  • Hi Vicki I'm really like this boy in my class. I don't know if he likes me back. He sometimes smiles at me and laughs together with me,when there are jokes that are funny . I'm in 7th grade,and have known him since the 6th grade. Should I tell him how I feel in the 8th grade,since we'll be in the same class together? I m scared he will think its awkward. Should I send him a note,about how I feel? Please help ! By the way I'm 12

    I would imagine that if this boy chats to you and finds ways to be around you he likes you very much and if you are patient he will I am sure let you know. You can give him a clue that you feel the same way by smiling when you see him or chatting to him about things you know he is interested in.

  • Hi vicki, I'm 16. I'm going on holiday next week.. And I'm unsure about using tampons. I've used them before but they seem to hurt and are difficult to put in! I don't know weather this is normal? I don't want to leek in the pool or anything? What if I can't put them in on holiday?? Thanks for the help x๐Ÿ’—

    All it takes is a little practice and you will be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world. For more help and information on this, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/July/16/Tampons%20and%20the%20Holiday?author=Vicki

  • I want boys to notice me and my body. Why do I feel this way? Xoxo

    Sexual attraction and a desire to be noticed are very normal emotions for girls and boys entering puberty and it is a sign your body is preparing you for becoming an adult, so try not to worry, in time you will grow accustomed to these feelings and find you can handle them better.

  • I really,really want a second lobe piercing on my ear but my mum and stepdad won't let me get one I've already tried convincing them by writing a long essay on why I want it,how I'll look after it and that I'd pay for it myself I've been thinking about asking my dad to try and convince my mum but I doubt it'll work what to do?

    You really have to respect your parents' wishes.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have decided that I am going to try to get more healthy, as I am almost 13 and need to look after myself. I plan to choose fruit over cookies at lunch, buy water instead of juice, join the cross country club and use my trampoline more. However I need some tips to stay motivated, can you help?
    Love Rachel x

    Hi Rachel, you can keep this motivation going by naturally feeling better about yourself. Serotonin (the body's natural happy hormone) is at its lowest level during puberty but by keeping active and eating well, you will naturally begin to feel better.

  • Hello, i was wondering if wired bras are better than non wired? Im a 32aa if that makes any difference. Thank you!

    The choice is yours. A wired bra is designed to give a little more structure and support than a non-wired bra.

  • Hi Vicki . I'm 11 and on my period really REALLY heavy I go through everything it lasts for about 2 weeks ,I have to sleep on a towel, I just wanna cry and I'm scared the people in my class will notice -Coz

    Hi Coz, try not to worry as heavy periods are quite common but please ask your mum or guardian to take you to visit your GP for peace of mind. You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets Freshlock adult range of towels in Normal, Long or Night as they are more absorbent than the best selling products and come with a unique odour neutraliser.

  • hi Vicki I am 13 and havnt started m period and sometimes I like to touch myself down there. t feels so nice and im getting very sexual feeelings when I see a ho boy. I really want to ave sex but I don't have I boyfriend and I know it would be illegal is this normal? how can make myself not masturbate? plaz help thanx xxxxxxxxxxxx

    Masturbation and noticing sexual feelings is very common during puberty and as your body prepares for adulthood. It can be a little scary to have these thoughts but as you continue to mature you will be able to control them and feel less anxious about the effect they have on you.

  • Heya Vicki I'm 28 inches under my bust and 32 inches over what size am I and is it normal for a 12 yr old

    32AA is perfectly normal for you.

  • Hi vicki. I'm 13 andmy friend is 15 and she thinks that she might be pregnant. Her mum and dad are divorced and she doesn't get on with either of them. She is too scared to go the doctors in case she is pregnant and I don't know what to do. Also she doesn't want to get her boyfriend in trouble so she didn't wwant to go to her gp in case they get in trouble.

    Thanks, Jazzie xxx

    Hi Jazzie, you should suggest that your friend seeks urgent medical attention to determine if she is in fact pregnant and make sure that she is in good health. Try to reassure her that she would be doing the right thing and she may find her local Brook Advisory centre will be a good place to start. They will be able to offer her support and advice on how to handle this situation.

  • Hi Vicki, how do you know the difference between discharge and soap collecting? How do I find out????

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina. It is normal for it to appear clear, creamy white or yellow when it dries out. As the vagina is self-cleaning, you shouldn't really be using soap directly in to your vagina as it can cause irritation.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm the one that's obsessed with my Physics teacher.
    How can I tell him how I feel or bring up the subject?
    Thanks

    Next time you are in class ask if you can have a chat afterwards and be honest with him, letting him know that your behaviour has been less than acceptable and you need his help to get over this crush.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 10 I have had some discharge and a little bit of blood every 4 weeks (like a period) but I don't know how to ask my mom for pads/tampons, how do I ask her and which would you recommend?
    From Miley

    Hi Miley, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first period, this should move the conversation over to you and you can then let her know you believe your period may have already arrived. She will then I am sure pick you up some product. If starting up this conversation is a little awkward for you then you could always send her one of our e-cards...and we'll do it for you.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have inverted nipples and they sometimes hurt, is this normal?
    From Cecilia

    Hi Cecilia, it is most likely your breasts in general that are causing you discomfort and as the nipple area is one of the last things you will notice developing I would not worry too much at this time.

  • Hey Vicki!
    I am 13 and a wear a 32aa bra. In my left breast i had a small 'breast bud' which appears to have gotten softer but in my right i have a huge breast bud seeing as people say they are a little bigger than pee size but anyway my right is the biggest side but i thought your breasts were growing when the breast bud soften? I am confused?
    Love T โคโคโคโคโคโคโคโค

    Hi T, the breast area can change in the way it feels, one day being soft and another firm. It really is nothing to worry about.

  • Which hole do you insert the tampon in

    In between your legs there are three openings, the first at the front is the urethra which is where we urinate from, the second is a the anus which is at the rear and is where we excrete waste matter from and the middle opeining is the vagina which is where we release menstrual fluid and therefore insert a tampon. For more help and information, check out the foloowing link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons

  • Can you masterbate on your period


    Just curious

    Thnx

    Yes.

  • This isn't a question but advice for girls on sats
    When I did my sats in year 6 but I was a level 3 in maths I wonted to be better so I've found away to make it higher not working harder but actually doing it quicker when you get stuck on a question just pretend you have a fuw seconds and do it quickly
    Ps I love this site I'm always on it my mum thinks I'm addicted !!:)

    Thanks for the great tip.

  • Hey Vicki! :)
    Well I have this friend and she had quite large breasts (like 34B) i don't think she likes having them but it annoys me how like she doesn't appreciate them seeing as i am 32AA i would be soooo happy to have her bra size, I get teased about me flat chest and it is horrible i feel really self conscious. I can't deal with it?
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    Breasts continue to grow into our late teens and early twenties so please be patient and see what the next few years bring. And remember that as much as you dislike your shape, your friend may find it hard to deal with her new shape too, so try to support eachother as much as you can.

  • Hi Vicki
    I had loads of discharge for a few days and now its stopped for almost a week now. I haven't started my period and I'm wondering is this is a sign?
    Katxx

    Hi Kat, try not to worry as it's normal to notice gaps in between releasing discharge.

  • I want to start using tampons but everytime i go to put it in it hirts and feel like it won't go in any further even thought most of the tampon is still visible. I have tried using an applicator and ones without applicators. What can i do to get the tampon in? Please help

    Relaxing is key to inserting a tampon and remember too that it needs to be inserted at an angle so it goes towards the base of your spine. Like anything tampons can take a little bit of practice to get them into the right position and you may find our Lil-lets teens mini non-applicator tampons ideal as they are shorter and narrower than other tampons on the market.

  • Hi Vicki : )
    My first period was in Feb but I haven't
    Had it since I've been feeling really
    Nauseous lately and have been going off
    Foods I usually love I'm only 13 is this normal
    Shanice : }

    Hi Shanice, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a blance for your regular period. Your nausea might be a sign that your body is preparing itself for your next period but if it doesn't happen, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • hey โ™ก
    I need to get over a boy. The short of it was he lead me on told me he loved me then asked out another girl. Now he seems to eiter ignore me one day and wont leave me alone the next. Its really annoying me but still after all this i cant help but remeber hiw happy i was when we were close. I really need to forget :( plz help xxx

    Give yourself some space between you and this boy, whilst he is always in the picture it will be difficult to move on. So if you can avoid being in the same places he frequents until you are well and truly over him.

  • Hii Vicki!
    Heres My Question.. I Have Really Tiny Boobs And All Of My Friends Are Now Wearing Bras... Is There Any Way To Help Your Boobs Grow Bigger?
    Thanks, Bel x

    Hi Bel, there really is no way to increase your breast size, your body will develop when it feels the time is right just for you and not before. It is a good idea to try not to compare your progress with others and if you can learn to love your shape whatever that may be.

  • Hello vicki I was wondering if there would be any free samples from lil-ets as I really like lil-ets and was just wondering if you could Han out some free samples because I really want to try some other lil-ets items and wa s wondering if you could help me with that thank you regards Melissa

    Hi Melissa, if you can ask for your mum's or guardian's permission, you will be able to request a free sample from the home page of this website. Just follow the link.

  • There is a guy -1- who lives on my street. We Are friends (I don't have a crush on him). He seemed nice but then he was walking was his friends and saw me and said some really rude things. Another guy -2- who is friends with 1. I like 2 a lot. But I was walking my dog passed 2's houses and 1 and his friends were at 2's house. They shouted something, and I don't know if it was at me. Should I ask 2 if they were shouting at me?

    Mushypea

    Hi Mushypea, I would ignore these comments, boys are very brave when in groups and the best thing you can do is pretend you did not hear them and carry on walking.

  • Hi vicki. I have really sore knees, and after about 6 months of complaining I finally went to the doctor. He says its 'growing pains' and gave me painkillers. I know it is not growing pains since I have had them before. But I finished the painkillers, now the pain is 10x worse. I live with my dad and he says I am lying about the pain, what can I do to stop the pain or get him to take me back to the doctor?


    MuffinLump

    Please ask your dad to take you back to your GP.

  • Is it okay to masturbate at 12 years old? Will it damage me? Will it cause problems in the future? Thanks

    During puberty, it's perfectly normal for teens to develop feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Hi Vicki, just wondered what my bra size was??
    I'm 28 under and just under 30 across the middle xxx
    Please can u give me a rough idea of what bra size I should wear??

    32AA.

  • why have the packagings on all of your products changed? i loved the drawstring bags as they were unique to lil lets, they were super cute and easy to access the pads inside, i also reuse them for other products, i love them so much!, why did they change to boring packaging like every other brand :( ?? love ellie (13) xx

    Hi Ellie, our teens range now comes both with and without ribbons depending on what store you shop in. Our adult freshlock range of towels is currently under packaging review and I will pass your comments on to the team with regard to reinstating the ribbons.

  • Hi vicki _______________________
    My boobs are way big and i am 11 year old i am turning 12 on may and i wanna make it smaller well i am gonna tell u the truth i am a little overweight soo i will do a diet so i there any kind of sport i should do for my boobs to get smaller
    Thank u hope u help .

    Breast size is generally genetic, so have a look at female family members on both sides of your family and this should give you a good idea of your final size. You may also find that being a little overweight can contribute to breast size and any form or energetic exercise will help reduce body fat from all over your body, including your breasts.

  • Hi vicki ______________________
    I have a group of spots on my right leg and when i scrach it dry skin are comming out and somtimes blood i am embaressed to wear shorts becyz it will show can u help me i dont wanna tell my mom

    You really should talk to your mum and ask her to book a visit to your GP to get some treatment for them. You might simply have a little eczema which can be easily treated so try not to worry.

  • Had padded 30a bra. Now have 32a wired bra the band is fine but the cups at the top are too big.

    Cherry Angel ๐Ÿ“

    Thanx Vicki

    Hi Cherry Angel, you might like to stick with the padded 30A bra until you've noticed a little more development.

  • help i literally have no boobs i havent started my period yet and i dont even have a bra size beacuse theyre too small what should i do?i have a party in two hours and im wearing a really nice dress but i have no boobs so it doesnt look right.I cant wear anything else beacuse i simply dont have anything else.Help!!

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and rather than put yourself under any pressure, just relax and try to be patient. You should also try not to put too much importance on having big breasts and be happy just the way you are.

  • Hi vix ๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›
    For about 4 months I had discharge and it was clear but now it has suddenly changed colour to a white creamy colour!? Is this normal?
    Is it right to suddenly change colour???
    Thx
    From Soph-melony

    Hi Soph-Melony, it is perfecly normal for discharge to change throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry. Check out the following link for more information on discharge: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Puberty/Discharge

  • Hey Vicki
    Well I want to speak to my best friend about "Girly stuff" but I don't even know how to start, how could I start?
    Thanx Xxx

    You could start by asking if she has noticed any changes, either emotionally or physically as puberty is a time for so much of this to occur. Try to remember that puberty is a natural process for everyone so there's no need for you to feel embarrassed.

  • hi vicki. Im 13 and a 32d. i struggle finding bras in this size and i like the m&s soft wire ones but they never have any in this size. is there anywhere else that sells teen bras in 32d?
    (prefrablly soft wire but any will do thanks!) thank you

    If you're not having much luck in the High Street, you might like to try looking online.

  • hi vicki, I have been coming home form school hoping that I would get my period. and so far all I've been seeing is strange marks in my pants! I think it might be discharge but I only get it 1-5 times a week. is this normal?
    I have 1 more question: is it normal to be jealous of a friend that has started her period?
    please answer this question.
    thank you xx

    Try not to worry as it is normal for discharge to change throughout your menstrual cycle and it's also normal to release it for between 6-12 months before you period arrives. Being jealous of your friend starting her period before you is also normal as many girls see this as the start of becoming a woman.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Everyone one thinks that I'm a complete crybaby because for the past few weeks i have been REALLY emotional. In PE, my breasts hurt and jiggle while running and i think I'm ready for a bra, but the only problem is my mum. It can get really awkward sometimes when i try to talk about this issue, but i just want to tell her that i need a bra in an indiscreet way. How do I do this?

    Puberty is a time when teens are being rewired and serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest which leaves teens feeling susceptible to stress. So, try dancing to your favourite music, watch a funny movie and most importantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling. As for your mum, you should really try to remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once so try not to feel embarrassed about talking to her. You can start the conversation by asking how old she was when she first started wearing a bra.

  • Dear Vicki
    I absolutely LOVE the Lil-Lets teen range. I've been using them for over a year now and they are perfect for me because I am small. Would you be able to bring out a light absorbency for the teens applicator tampons? as my periods have gone quite light and I now prefer tampons to pads during the day.
    Thank you so so so much and I still love the website!:)
    From TeenGirl456

    Thank you so much for your words of support and I will pass your suggestion on to the team.

  • Hi Vicki! I've had my period now for around 2 years, yet I am still really flat-chested. I'm quite insecure about this, and I was wondering if you ave any tips to make me feel more confident with my breast size? Thank youuuu!! Xxx :)

    Try to remember that we're all made in different shapes and sizes and whilst some of us have large breasts, others have small but what is most important of all is that you feel proud of them whatever their size. However, it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki,

    Lately I've noticed people who didn't really have a chest suddenly develop... I haven't noticed any growth for a year... Is this normal? Everyone is getting ahead of me. Are my breast gonna start to grow again soon?

    Breasts often grow in spurts with periods of no growth noticed from time to time. Breasts continue growing until your late teens or early twenties. Remember that we are all different and this is not a competition to see who has the biggest bust, so if you can, try not to compare your development to those around you.

  • Hi,
    I think I got my period I had blood in my pants
    But I'm not 100 present sure what a period is I have just
    Been reading over questions you answered! I was raised by my
    Dad and I'm home schooled.
    HELP! I'm scared
    Kitty Anne

    Hi Kitty Anne, try not to worry as periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl. Please ask your dad if he will buy some sanitary towels for you and ask if he will give you permission to request a sample pack from the home page of this website as there will be lots of different products from our teens range for you to sample and a Becoming a Teen booklet which is filled with useful information to guide you through puberty. Check out the following link for more information on Understanding Periods: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/Understanding-Periods

  • Hi Vicky,
    I have had discharge since July and I have
    Tiny boobs that aren't really noticeable I have pubic hair
    But no armpit hair! My mum won't let me have liners but my discharge
    Is quite heavy and annoying. Why can I do? Also when will I get
    Armpit hair?

    From Layla

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and as you've been releasing discharge since last July, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away. Try to be patient as I'm sure you will notice breast development and armpit hair growth soon.

  • Every time I have a big meal after I though up I have lost lods of weight and I just wondered if it was my hormones or something? Dose it happen to everyone? ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ๐Ÿ‘พ

    Any form of vomiting should be discussed as a matter of urgency to your parents or the person who cares for you. Continued vomiting can have a detrimental effect on your long term health and I am sure a chat to your doctor will identify why this is happening.

  • is it natural to put on weight when your becoming a teen?

    During puberty, the bodies of girls change shape with hips becoming wider and arms, legs, hands and feet become longer and bigger. Breasts become fuller and rounder too so this is why it's natural to gain weight.

  • Hi Vicki, I am really confused because my hips didn't used to be that big and now I am 14 they r a lot wider and a weird shape as they go out , in then out again. I. Feel really uncomfortable when wearing tight trousers as my hips look massive why is this? Also I am a 36a in bras and I feel awkward as everyone in my friendship group has bigger than me , I am also very short so I feel very uncomfortable :(

    During puberty a girls hips will widen as her body prepares her for the time in her life when she may want to carry a baby and this new womanly shape may take a little getting used to. Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes, all beautiful in my opinion and as they continue to develop until your late teens or even early twenties you have plenty of time for growth yet to come.

  • hi Vicki this is one of my fave things on the becoming a teen site but can you answer questions at home or do you have to go to work

    Thank you for your words of support and I do answer questions at home and at work, morning and evening.

  • I've had about 4-5 periods but no cramps!! Will I get cramps and if I do , do they hurt?? Ta xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx @#ยฃ%&*+

    You will have to wait and see as not everyone experiences stomach cramps with their periods.

  • So it's sort of the end if my period, I think it's getting lighter. But there was this watery pinkish stuff when I wiped. Apparently it's 'cervical mucus' which is leftover blood? Is this true

    From Gracie
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    (So I know it's my question)

    Hi Gracie, you're absolutely right so try not to worry.

  • hi. i would like to buy one of your starter packs.i'm nearly 11 with discharge.how can i ask my mom.she thinks in to young.i look young because in smaller than others.please reply .thanks xxxxxxxxxxxxx;)

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and try not to feel embarrassed about talking to her as she can help you through this special time in your life. Lil-Lets teens Starter Packs are available from branches of Tesco, Sainsburys and Boots and are packed full with products for you to sample from our teens range. You will also find a Becoming a Teen booklet which is filled with useful information to guide you through puberty.

  • Hello vicky I'm genevive. Today my mum said I was going to wax my arms plz tell me does it hurt? an

    Hi Genevive, it can be a little painful for a few seconds, but you soon get used to it.

  • I am in a swimming gala and i am on my period, quite heavy and i dont know if i can swim or not, i have never used a tampon before It is a really important gala and i really dont know what to do! Xxxx

    Tampons are worn by many millions of women every day and once you have got the knack of inserting one you too will find them convenient and great for swimming. Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons ideal for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands but still just as absorbent. You will find a leaflet inside each pack that will give you instructions on how to insert and remove a tampon. We also have two videos on our website too!

  • on your day and night pad packs how many are in there?

    The Lil-Lets teens day towels contain 14 day time towels and our night time towels contain 10.

  • Hey VIicki,
    I really like this boy, we laugh have fun and chat loads and my friends say we should get together. But i only see him once a week at scouts. I do have his email address. Please help.
    CHARLOTTE xxxxx

    Hi Charlotte, why not ask him if you can drop him an e-mail in between scouting days. I am sure he will say yes and look forward to getting to know you better.

  • Hi,I'm 10 nearly 11 this month,and my breasts just started growing last year.i have about 4 crop tops,and I'm not sure if I should ask my mum that I need a bra.and also I've got discharge,and I walk home every day and the discharge makes me feel hot an sticky.do I stArt wearing a pantiliner? I'm scared to ask my mum about the bra and discharge cos she might say ur too young or you don't need bras.. Please help from Worried.

    Try not to worry and remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once. You shouldn't feel embarrassed about talking to her as puberty is a natural process for everyone. Pant liners will be ideal for keeping you feeling fresh and clean down there and you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes too. Check out the following links for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki and http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/15/New%20Teens%20Wipes As for wearing a bra, why not ask your mum how old she was when she got her first bra.

  • Hey Vicki! So the last time my sister saw me was when I was 11. 13 in june and I used to be so flat chested and now I'm not. And she always says tuff on the phone or when messaging my mom or comments on my posts about it. It's embarrassing. But what size am I? I'm about 28 under the bust, and the full part is 29. I just want a estimate of what sizes I should try on. Thanks! -MSG

    32AA.

  • Hi. Ive had discharge for a long time now aroung2 years, is this normal and when do you think it will start (my period) Xx Xx@#ยฃ%&*-+()

    As you've been releasing dicharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey Vicki
    I was wondering how long sky you have breast buds before they become "REAL REAL" breasts???
    Thanks Xx!

    Everyone is different and develops at a different rate so it would be difficult to say. Just try to be patient and you will notice that your breasts will gradually become rounder and fuller as you progress through puberty.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well i don't have my periods but about a qauter of my class do (but that's ok) I'm excited about getting it but everyone says "no your lucky that you haven't started" but I just ignore those comments but anyway my question is can you feel when you have started like if you are sitting , standing ,lying down e.c.t????
    Thanx alot Xxxx!!

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it's perfectly normal for girls to start their periods anytime between the ages of 8-18. The best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. It is possible for many women and girls to feel when their period has arrived.

  • Hey Vicki.
    I'm 14 and my best friend is a guy, and I really like him, and we always hang out. but whenever I message him, he reads it and doesn't reply. But when we're alone together he always puts his head on my lap and his excuse is "you're comfy". He's kinda sending me mixed signals. Help please?
    Thanks for everything - Erin x

    Hi Erin, the fact is that boys think differently to girls and very often do not see the need to respond to a text message, so please don't judge your friend too harshly. What you may want to do however is to set some boundaries with this boy, if he is a friend then resting his head in your lap is a little too intimate in my opinion and you may want to move away or make an excuse as to why he should not behave this way. If it bothers him then I see no reason why you cannot let him know this is the action of people who date, it will be up to him then to make the next move.

  • Hey there Viki
    So I ordered a Lil-Lets sample when should it arrive do ya think??? ( I'm soo excited about it eeee)๐Ÿ˜‹๐Ÿ˜†
    Thank youXxx

    Once your order has been received and processed, your sample should be with you within a few days.

  • Hello Vicki, im 16 but havnt got any boobs yet ( i only have breast buds) and I had my first period 8 months ago but havn't had a period since. I have alot of vaginal discharge though and ive been having it for around 1 year but im not sure what to do,( how to keep fresh). And when my periods are going to start.

    Why not read our sections on Puberty and Periods they will tell you all you need to know about breast growth, discharge and periods. You should feel a lot more confident once you have read up on these subjects and realise we really are all different and there is nothing to be anxious about.

  • Hey Vicky so i just wanted to say.. There's this boy in my class which is so weird he tells on everyone for everything and its just so anoying me and my 2 friends are kind of.. Bosyy i should say but em hes an emo now and he told one of my friends that he cuts himself becouse of us 3 and i feel a bit weird ..if i really am the person that makes him cut himself i feel a bit bad and ive been thinking about it for 2 days now.. Pls answer Vicky :(

    Why not have a chat to this boy and let him know that you are sorry if you have upset him in the past and that your behaviour was not done out of malice and that you will stop now. This hopefully will make him feel better and he may be able to move on from this awful habit he has gotten himself into.

  • Hi vicki ! My close friend smells like sweat and abit fishy, she always has greasy hair and she never brushes her teeth but the odour is causing problems. Shes so nice but im struggling to be around her and others are pointing it out and she just cries but doesnt do anything about it, should i tell her and if so what can i say that wont upset her coz i dont want to fall out <3 xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

    Why not tell her about our website, we have lots of blogs on looking after yourself that she may find useful.

  • Hi Vicky! I am 14 and I keep finding wet, sticky white discharge in my pants even though I haven't started my period yet. Is it anything to be worried about?! From Olivia x

    Hi Olivia, this discharge is very normal and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. Why not read our section on Discharge under the Puberty tab for more on this subject.

  • Is this extremely weird or stupid? I want to get ill as in throwing up just to lose some weight! I don't know why, I'm not overweight or anything I just want to be really ill vomiting all the time to lose weight

    Let's look at the facts; vomiting does not make you slim. People incorrectly believe that if they vomit after eating, they will be instantly thin, however most people who suffer with Bulimia are of average weight or even a little over weight. Vomiting is very harmful to the body and can lead to dental problems, bad breath, sore throat, a change for the worse to your skin and hair, brittle fingernails to name but a few of the awful symptoms associated with this condition. So I hope you see that this is not the answer and it is far better to eat a healthy diet and exercise often.

  • Dear Vicki
    I have these two friends at school who are really unhappy and have started to self harm. I want to help them but I don't know how, I've told my mum but she says I should tell a teacher but I know if I do that my friends will hate me I'm so confused on the whole situation. I just want my old friends back.

    This is a matter for adults and if you feel your friends would be upset if a teacher new, why not forward this website to them. http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_children_young_people/whats_worrying_you/self-harm. It has a section for children and young people just like your friends.

  • PLEASE HELP!!
    I keep having like a stinging sensation in my ''hole'' sorry if inappropriate but I'm really worried and don't know what to do! I haven't started my period but have had discharge for about 11 months. Please help!!!!
    Ping-pong0906

    Hi Ping-pong0906, any discomfort to any part of your body should not be ignored so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will advise you further.

  • I got asked out buy this boy, he has asked me out three times already, don't like him. Plus I fancy this other boy. I have already been out with the boy I fancy, what are the chances he wil say yes?? Plz help I'm stuck and in love x

    Firstly, deal with the boy who keeps asking your out and let him know gently that you like him as a friend but nothing more. Yes he may be hurt but at least he will now where he stands and still have your friendship. Then if you have dated the other boy before and feel confident around him, why not ask if thinks you could give your relationship another go.

  • say if someone had sex in the shower, would a condom still work?

    I see no reason why not, condoms are designed to fit snuggly around the penis, in an effort to catch and retain semen.

  • Hi vicki,
    its mimatron, this boy i like , i think he was teasing me today, in french we have to answer the register with bonjour. I admit my voice said it at a bit of a high pick so he copied me, teasing me about it. Also, i dont go out in groups of friends, but i want to ask him for his pnumber or ask to keep in contact. Also another question, this other boy, said, can i ask you a question, but my cousin was with me so he didnt ask anything in the end.

    Hi Mimitron, why not get to know both of these boys better as friends before deciding if you want to date either of them. There really is no rush and whilst boys do like girls they often mature later and prefer to be friends.

  • Hey Vicki
    Ok there's this boy In year 6 I'm in year 6 to but where in separate classes I've just started my new school and I firstly noticed that he's cute we where doing a school play and he came over and ascend my out my friends laughed and she we'd him of I really like him but my friends can't take him seriously
    From kgirl

    Hi Kgirl, if you like this boy...let him know and try not to listen to your friends, after all it would not do for us all to like the same person and it really does have to be your choice.

  • Hi Viki I am 11 and I haven't started puberty yet and I am having discharge which is a bit smelly but no irritation so can you have an infection before you have started puberty.no day without it when I look at my pants in the toilet I see a bit dryed up an a wet bit somewhere else so what's happening? Thanks Jess :)

    Hi Jess, now discharge has started it is important to pay extra special attention to hygiene in this area. So make sure you wash every day and you may even find wearing our Lil-Lets teens pant liners and using our Lil-Lets teens freshen-up wipes are great for keeping your feeling fresh and clean during the day.

  • Hi Vicky,
    It's a bit weird to ask but I'm not sure if my teacher likes me (not in a romantic way).
    She's my form tutor and she always smiles at me when she sees me and calls me 'love' but in lessons she kind of ignores me
    I was just confused and if I was doing anything wrong
    Thanks for taking the time to read this :)

    I am sure your teacher likes all of her students and it is nice that she takes the time to say hello when out of class.

  • Hi Vicki, it's landofoo here I have a dull pain next to my left hip which is bugging me, I'm 11 bye I just wondered whether these could be period cramps as I haven't started yet thx xxxx

    Period cramps are often noticed in the lower abdomen and groin, so yes this could be your reproductive organs maturing in preparation for your first period.

  • Sorry if this is irelavent but I have some big exams coming up, do you have any tips on revising?

    Why not check out my blog entitled Top Tips to Beat Exam Stress http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2014/January/03/Top%20Tips%20to%20Beat%20Exam%20Stress?author=Vicki

  • Would the doctors be able to give you anything to help your periods become regular? Thanks x

    Not that I know of no. Irregular periods are the body's way of working out the right monthly cycle just for you and it is a very natural process and one that does not need the intervention of a doctor.

  • Hi vicki,
    i'd like to know if this boy likes me, he always make me laugh during lesson, tells me about his day, whenever we talk he always looks me in the eyes and he tells me about his sports he doesmor stories about when he has hurt himself eg when he crashed his bros bike.
    i really like him, and i want to ask him for his number. I wanted to today but i didnt get the chance, so i wont speak to him over the holidays. Thanks

    When you see him again, let him know you missed his chats and wonder if you can take his number so you can chat outside of school.

  • Hi Vicky
    I'm 19 and pregnant I've only just found out I had a one night stand and told my bf but what if baby is not his I'm really scared cos bf only had unprotected 3-4 times please help!!!!!!!!!!!
    Alesia 12345556678990288384747774656279463282872(just so I know)

    Hi Alesia, it would be a wise decision to speak to your boyfriend about your indiscretion rather than letting him believe the baby is 100% his. If he loves you, he will forgive and then decide what he wants to do going forward.

  • So on January 12th I started my "period" but it hasn't come back yet and I asked my mum about this but she just said it must of been a false start. What should I do? I'm going on holiday in July and i read that you should only wear tampons from your 7th or 8th period but I want to swim, from Amber๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ ๐Ÿ˜˜

    Hi Amber, periods can be irregular for the first couple of years with gaps of several months between each one. If you feel ready to try tampons there is no medical reason why you should not use them straight away, the advice given to wait until you have had five or six periods is so you can get used to your flow and cycle. But for being in the water you may find a Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampon ideal.

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    30AA

  • Hey Vicki!
    I just started my period 3 days ago and i have been getting brown string-like things coming out. This has happend once or twice before i got my period. And every time i clean myself its brown string-shaped things. Is this normal?
    Thanks xx

    Menstrual fluid can often be a little striny in texture and this is nothing to worry about.

  • URGENT Hi vicki, so around the beginning of march I had cramps and heavy discharge then on march 6th I found a brown stain in my underwear. Then my discharge got really light around the 13-29. It's April 4 and my discharge is realllly heavy. I was wondering if this was my period an I ill get it again. By the way I have pubic and underarm hair and have been moody lately and have had discharge for as long as I can remember.

    Your period may be with you soon, but as periods can be irregular for the first couple of years it would be very difficult for me to say for sure and you would be best advised to keep some towels or liners with you at all times from now on.

  • Hi Vicki, I've been loosing my appetite I eat one. Day then the next I don't like it!! Is there something wrong! Or am I experiencing this because I growing up! I'm not depressed or anything ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ™Š๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜ฑโœˆ๏ธ๐Ÿ˜ฉ

    Puberty can affect people's appetites in different ways, some feel hungrier than usual while others lose their appetite on the odd day. As long as you are not losing weight and manage to eat a healthy diet I would not worry too much.

  • hey

    how do you know if you need a bra or not?

    lily x

    Hi Lily, if you notice your breats jiggle a little bit when you are doing sports it may be time for a bra or crop top. Likewise if you can see the shape of your breasts through your outer clothing it may be time too.

  • hey Vicki
    I have a lot of tests coming up and I am very stressed I have a end of year science test and I have to revise year 7, 8 and 9 topics its in May but I am behind schedule already.
    my maths teacher is giving my class GCSE work and tests and I am stressing out a lot. I find the maths tests much easier compared to science
    I don't know what to revise more because the maths tests are extremely hard

    Why not read my blog on how to beat exam stress. Here is the link http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2014/January/03/Top%20Tips%20to%20Beat%20Exam%20Stress?author=Vicki

  • Hi vikki does the lil-lets have a Facebook page

    Our adult site has a Facebook page, however as many of the girls that visit our site are under the age of 13 and therefore not allowed a Facebook account we do not have a Becoming a Teen Facebook page that is live.

  • We hav a yr sox leaving prom and I am really looking forward to it..but I am also really scared! I am popular or pretty so I am worried I won't be asked and I will be the odd one out :( Hav any advice? Thnx.
    Also could u do a blog about stuff like this? (Being asked to discos/dances and stuff) thanks x

    The first thing to remember is that the School Prom is not just about going on a date with that special boy, itโ€™s also about having a fun time with your friends, some of whom may not be going to the same school as you in September. The Prom is an excellent place for friends to have fun and look back on all the great times they have shared over the years. Finally, I did write a blog on the school prom last year and will be running it again in 2014.

  • hi, I was out shopping and I felt wetness in the back of my pants so I went to the toilet and there was white patches in the back of my pants.
    is it normal to: get an all of a sudden get a wet feeling in the back of your pants them go to the toilet and notice white patches?
    I went to the toilet before I went shopping and there was nothing there so why as it came all of a sudden?
    please answer!!!! sorry for all the info but I want to find out if it's normal.

    This could be discharge and it very often appears from time to time during the day. It's nothing to worry about and for more on this subject why not check out our Discharge section under the Puberty tab.

  • I think i measured properly but what would be my bra size as i either get bras to big or too tight: 84 underbust and 98 bust? Thanks from Megan age 14 x

    Hi Megan, 38A would appear to be your size if your measurements are correct.

  • Hi Vicki next friday im going on holiday to cornwall with my friend, her mum, her mum's friend + son plus his friend. Well probs be in the pool all the time but im very conscious because ive got a few red spots on my back and chest. Im worried because when i wear a swimming costume and vest type tops they will show. How can i get rid of them in a week? Pls put in 'my body' thx. Xx

    Leave them alone would be my first tip and drink plenty of water. I am sure you and your friend's family will be having way too much fun to worry about appearances...have a great time.

  • Hello vicki! Its littlemiss talking! Also known as :)! Well I have reakky small boobs, but i have grown it for three years!!!!!!! Once I thaught that my boobs are never going to grow!!!!!!!! And then I will never get a boyfriend or husband! Well my body is also small!! But I know boys go for big boobs! I don't have big boobs! I just hate it! I really want big boobs! All that people on the magazines and stuff have big boobs and they will live happily ever after! Please help me!!!!!!

    Actually you are incorrect in this instance...not everyone prefers larger breasts. Please try not to be influenced by magazines, TV and movies, we really are all different and when you fall in love with someone it will be for who you are and not how you look.

  • Pu this in friend ships and boy. So I was talking to this boy on Facebook that I fansy (I talk to him in real life as well everyday) and I said that I noticed I had his phone num is it correct he said no but GAVE me his phone numer anyway. Do u think he likes me? Should I ask him out over a text message?

    Why not wait and see how things to over the next few weeks there really is no rush and by waiting you will get a better feel as to whether he likes you for yourself.

  • How do you now the difference between discharge and your period???

    ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’Please answer ASAP

    Discharge is generally clear or creamy yellow in colour. Menstrual fluid can be brown right the way through to dark red.

  • hi viki hope you are ok, i was just wondering how can i make myself become more confident?? everyone always tells me im too quiet and sometimes make fun of me which doesnt help :( i think i have social anxiety because i go bright red when i get picked to answer questions in class and when i talk to certain people... ive tried everything to be confident and loud but nothing works xx _-_-_-_-_-

    You don't have to be the most vocal person in the class to be confident. The world is made up of lots of different personalities and they all bring something to everyday life. So rather than listen to others consider being yourself and try not to worry, I still blush when I am in a meeting and have to stand up and present a project, so please donโ€™t think youโ€™re the only one! You may also find my blog entitled; Fitting In, useful too.

  • ______________________________________
    Hi viki i watch porn and masturbate once every 1-2 weeks, is that bad?? is it too much?? (i know porn isnt like a real loving relationship but it kinda helps me if you know what i mean...) btw im 13 & a half and a girl xx
    _______________________________________

    If you know that my opinion on pornography is not a positive one, then I am sure you already know that I advise people, especially those under the age of 18 to refrain from watching it. Masturbating occassionally is nothing to worry about, but if you can try to stop watching pornographic images.

  • how many times do you check the questions?
    what times do you check the questions?

    Questions are answered on a daily basis and it can be anytime of the day or evening. Remember that I receive hundreds of questions every day and my repsonse to yours may be in Older Questions Answered.

  • Hiya, I always seem to feel like being really angry or like crying loads and then I have those odd occasional days where I'm super happy. That happens so not often that my friends think I'm Really moody all the time. I sometimes think it's because I haven't seen my dad since January but then I think about my hormones and I don't know which it is. Now my friends say I'm a bully just cuz I get angry and upset quite easily. I don't know what to do!

    If your friends are starting to feel threatened by your moods then you really must do something about them. Have a chat to your mum or teacher and let them know how you are feeling. Also consider having a chat to your group of friends, letting them know you are struggling with your anger and may need some time alone when you feel an outburst coming on. Why not read our section entitled Emotions, under the Puberty tab.

  • Hey vicki,
    I got my period in febuary and it hasnt come back since Was it really my period????
    Thank you
    Fluffy unicorn 2001

    Hi Fluffy unicorn 2001, yes this would still have been your period and you will find that for the first couple of years they may be very irregular with gaps of several months being noted.

  • Hey, not to sound weird but I think I found the tampon hole but im not sure like it was quite deep but then I checked again and I couldn't get to it so idk what's going on like Ill have to wait till next period but is that the one

    If you could place a finger inside, then yes this is most likely your vaginal passage. When you next want to try using a tampon, remember to be relaxed as this will make insertion easier.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Some of my friends told me that I look anorexic & I'm worried that I might be. What shall I do???
    Love Jade xxx

    ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š

    Hi Jade, some people are naturally slim and if you eat healthily and regularly I am sure you have nothing to worry about and these comments are said without any real thought.

  • To the people worrying about SATS I'm now in year 10 and I have to say, there is no need to worry about them. I mean I stressed over them but honestly all they do is base you in sets at high school. And guarantee your expected targets and grades. Don't worry they'll be fine๐Ÿ’•

    Thanks for the feedback.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I REALLY like this boy but my best friend has a crush on him & I don't want 2 upset her. Wot should I do???

    Love Jade xxxx

    ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š

    Hi Jade, it would be a good idea to let your friend know that you like this boy too. She may be a little hurt or even jealous, but ultimately it will be the boy in question who decides who he dates and neither you or your friend can change that.

  • OKAY PLEASE HELP!!!!! you keep ignoring me:( but anyways I like a boy he likes me THEN a girl came into the situation and turned things. He likes her now not me...and it's really upsetting because I felt different than just a silly crush....damn help me like now!:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:( p.s I'm 17:p)
    -Zoe:*

    Hi Zoe, I have answered your question. Please look in Friendships and Boys and right at the bottom click on the Older Questions Answered section.

  • Hi vicki,So I told my friends who I like and one of my friends is his cousin, my two friends that arent related to him keep making fun of me and him when we sit together, he will go really red but then keep staring into my eyes, I domt wanna ask him out incase he doesn't like me that way! How can I tell if he likes me? How do I ask him out?


    sorry for all the questions, thanks xx

    If he is staring at you, then it would seem pretty clear he likes you. But be patient he may not yet be ready to date so continue being friends and see what happens over the summer months.

  • If women experience pleasure out of sexual intercourse, then why dony they experience pleasure out of inserting a tampon?

    Sexual arousal is not just about having something inserted inside your vagina. It's about having a connection with another person and feeling a very deep attraction to that person.

  • Hiya, I have had my period twice now and I think it started again today cuz I had really bad stomach pains and my back was aching loads on the last two days and now I went to the loo and saw that my blood was very wet but a very dark brown. However the last time I had my period it was red blood both times and it wasn't this dark either so I'm worried if it should be like this or not. Thanks xxโค๏ธ

    Menstrual fluid can vary in colour from period to period and day to day and can be dark red (almost black) to light brown, all of which is very normal.

  • I experience a lot of discomfort because i wear a white school shirt and i sweat quite a bit and i get very uncomfortable. What can i do?

    Why not consider purchasing an antiperspirant deodorant, the antiperspriant will stop you sweating and the deodorant will leave you feeling clean and fresh too. You should also ensure you shower, wash or bathe this area every day.

  • Does pubic hair always mean you started puberty?

    Pubic hair is a sign that you are on your way to becoming a young adult, which is the reason we go through puberty. But it is by no means the only sign you will notice and some people see very little hair growth in either the pubic or under arm areas...and this is fine too.

  • hi Vicki I have had discharge for 9 months so I should start soon anyway I want to use a pad with wings and since i'm yr 5 I have to change for p.e with the boys its real awkward just trying to hide your bra but if they see the wings they might think its some kind of diaper thing same with the girls we have not had the talk

    You can always tuck the wings under the pad before you place it in your underwear during PE and this should avoid any embarrassment. You may also want to check out my blog this week entitled Lil-lets in your School. You could even ask your teacher if your school has registered for the schools pack.

  • Even if i lightly touch my vaginal area around the hole, i experience some discomfort. When i next come on my period i was planning to try a tampon but how can i use a tampon when it feels strange to just TOUCH the area?

    Why not get used to how this area feels before trying a tampon. If you have a bath, then why not consider using your finger to feel around this area so you have a better idea of where a tampon would go.

  • Okay. Two things x. The first- Sometimes I see these balls of what looks like dry green bogeys stuck to my hair down 'there'. What is this? Secondly- I've had discharge for about 1 and a half years to two years, but these past about 3 days it has stopped completely. What does this mean?
    P.S I'm 11, have had all signs of puberty and your site is amazing :)

    Firstly, the green balls of fluid is dried discharge that has attached itself to the pubic hair and it's nothing to worry about. Nor is your discharge stopping completely from time to time.

  • Hey Vicki,
    You know the interviews with Beth Tweddle and Sam and Billie, I watched all of them and wondered if they are going to interview you? Even tho ur not a celebrity.

    Darcy-Mae xx ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ๐ŸŒบ

    Hi Darcy-Mae, I like to stay behind the scenes and most of my day is spent responding to all the girls who visit the Ask Vicki section of the website. The exciting news is that next week we start filming our new celebrities for our 2014 Let's Talk videos and I am sure you will enjoy these short clips too.

  • Hey Vicki, PLEASE ANSWER ASAP THANKS XX
    So I'm on my second period, and its been PROPER HEAVY. Like really. And so far I've had it for 7 days. My 1st period lasted 5 days. Im scared its going to last too long. And the blood is still really really heavy and not getting lighter. I'm scared please help

    Love Miette <3 ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

    Hi Miette, firstly, don't be scared, periods are very often heavy from time to time and even last a little longer than you would like too. This is because your body is still working out the right menstrual cycle for you and it really is nothing to worry about. Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets Freshlock towels; ideal for heavier periods.

  • 26 under 30 over

    Vicki BufferyYour bra size is a 30AA, but this is only a guide and when you go shopping you should try on several styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable for you.

  • DEAR VICKI,
    Hey Vicki! xxx
    i am 13 years old and i have had hair down there since i was 9 or 10. i really want to do something about it cause there is a lot of it but i'm way too scared to shave it all off and don't really like the idea of it. i want to do something about my bikini line because it is disgusting and also i want to do something about the length of the hair. what can i do to sort this problem out???
    :0 :0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0:0

    Why not consider trimming it back with some round ended scissors,this is far easier to do than shaving and ensure you don't have to worry about an angry rash being left behind.

  • I have giant. bRests , when I was in second grade I was a b cup , now I'm in sixth grade and im a dd cup their huge . Are they too big . My friends don't even have boobs they have little pecks then I'm there with ginormous breasts

    There is no right or wrong size for anyone's breasts to be regardless of their age. We really are all different you see.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm a 16 year old girl and I have a crush on a 19 year old boy. He says he has a crush on someone, hes also bi so that could be a girl or a boy. I think It's really unlikely that we'll get together, we talk alot as friends over the internet (I see him in real life every weekend though). Is the age gap weird? How can I get him to like me back?

    The age gap is quite large for someone of your age. Why not wait and see how your friendship develops and what the next few years bring.

  • Hi Vicki! Here's Cutie Pie! I'm of 12. Sorry for taking ur time. Plz put ths in "Your body" Plz answer - I have hair above my lips (moustache). I don't like it. What to do?

    During puberty it is common to notice more body hair, generally it disappears all on its own as hormone levels regulate. However if you are self-conscious consider asking your mum if you can have it waxed off professionally, but never be tempted to shave it, as this will only make it appear to be thicker when it grows back.

  • how do I know what to use a tampon or a towel and do tampons hurt ????

    It's entirely your choice whether you decide to use towels or tampons, or a combination of both. As for tampons, if you read the instructions held inside each pack, insert the tampon high into the vaginal passage they should be no discomfort at all.

  • Is clear discharge different from brown discharge?
    If so, how?

    Thank you

    Discharge is generally a sign that your period has arrived.

  • My bff came over and we got talking, we touched each other. We promised to forget it that night then that week she wouldn't talk to me all week but was bffs with everyone else! Now she being all buddy buddy with me and just said she didn't know what was wrong, now I know she didn't like I just find it weired! And idk how I feel anymore, I feel realt sad and depressed and I miss my dead sister, no one to talk too. But my period is due in 2 day, is that this?
    PLEASE REAPLY XXXXXXXXXC

    It would appear your friend was a little embarrassed about this episode and needed time to work out her feelings. Why not try to move on and continue with your friendship, these things happen and you do not need to over analyse them. Finally, moods can change just before your period and this could be the reason for your sadness. However, if at times you find the loss of your sister unbearable have a chat to your parents so they can help you manage these feelings

  • some boys found my emergency period pads in my bag and started making fun of me? what should i do??? i haven't started yet btw i just keep 2 in my bag just in case!

    Boys can be immature and there really is nothing you need to do, if they continue to tease you, tell them how babyish they are being and that periods are a fact of life.

  • heya vicki!
    Im really embarrased about my nipplesโ€ฆ there inverted and i hate them! they started coming out and then they popped back in a again! i went to the doctors and she said they would come out! i really want them to come out :( I'm really worried!is it normal?!?!!? am i the only one???
    PLEASE HELP ASAP !!!
    123456789123456789123456789 < so i know its mine

    Nipples are generally the last thing to develop on the breast and for most girls they do pop out naturally for those that don't there are lots of devices that will ease them out gently, so please try not to worry.

  • I'm really scared about my period

    Some girls area little apprehensive about periods, but trust me once yours has arrived you will wonder what all the fuss was about. In the meantime why not read all the great stuff on our website under the Understanding Periods tab. This should give you more confidence about the changes coming shortly.

  • Hi Vicki! I love ur site. Thanks alot fr this! But i just want to request u that plz increase the space in the writing or question bar... actually even if i write with 50-55 characters, it doesn't accept my question... and that irritates alot. So plz do thng.. Thanks! * Cutie Pie*

    Hi Cutie Pie, I will pass your comment on to the web designers.

  • Dear Vicki

    I am 11 and I am a 36DD. I love my boobs but the thing is I'm the only one at school and I'm ok with that but when we are getting changed for p.e in the changing room (all together) I have to face the other way because apparently it's discussing to wear a bra which really ticks me off

    For girls who have not yet started breast development the idea of a bra will seem quite alien to them. Try not to let their comments upset you, it is clear you are maturing and a bra is the best thing for you. In no time at all you will quickly notice others start wearing them too.

  • Hi! I just wanna say its nice to know I'm not the only one going through these problems, I feel normal. I don't feel like a weirdo. And I now know my friends may be going through this also! Thanks so much to the girls who ask questions and Vicki for answering! -mgโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    Thank you for your feedback.

  • Hi Vicki! Here's Cutie Pie! I'm of 12. This site is just awesome! It helped me alot! Plz tell my bra size if my measurements are- 26 inches over & 25 inches under. Thanks!

    30AA.

  • I started my period March 27th, and 2 days after it ended, I got this light brown/yellow foul smelling discharge. There is little to no itching at all. Is this normal?

    This is most likely the end of your menstrual cycle and this will stop over the next day or so.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I have been having discharges for a while lately and I was wondering how to identify if it is becoming thicker? I know if it is thick, you are getting close to your period. Does it depend on color? Because mine has been a brownish yellow.

    Discharge can change from day to day and generally once you have been menstruating for a while you will notice the colour is a creamy yellow and thicker, but this is usually once you have several periods.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I have been having a few discharges lately and I know what they mean. My birthday is coming up and my mom said she had her first period around the age of 13, I am going to be 13 I'm a few months. I also know that you can get your first period any the between 8-18, but do you think that I might havey first period when I am 13, because of my discharges and my mom? Thanks for all the great advice!!

    You could but I would not worry about this too much as long as you are prepared it really does not matter when your period arrives.

  • ok so im 13 and im 5'2 -ish and i weigh 137 pnds . i feel "chubby" but im fine with the top half of my stomach but the bottom half overlaps my feans jogging pants etc. and im self conciece about it a little. plus im not very active except in gym then i play volleyball but i dont move alot so can you suggest some excercises that wont make my mom think im working out i also like doing yoga as i am very flexible or limber ive been called both. oh i would like to lose 15 pnds ~KYgirl13

    Dancing and walking are great ways to tone your body and completly free too!

  • Hey viki im almost 16 an i have the worst periods ever. When i have them there heavy and clotty like. Inhaent had one in 6 months but today when i wiped i noticed blood so im thinking period but i went pee a couple hours later and theres no blood am i on my period or is there something wrong with me im not a virgin but ik im not pregnant..plz help
    -april

    Hi April, menstrual fluid is lost gradually over time so why not wait and see what the next few days bring, this may still be your period.

  • I'm 13 have I started my period? On Thursday there was brown stuff in underwear then the next day there was dark red blood with brown blood it has lasted for 5 days and I kept feeling stuff come out of me and in the end there was brown spots that gradually ended . It has happened before i n November then december then January then February then early march then later march now.
    Have I definitely started my period? ?? I had really bad stomach cramps

    Yes this is your period.

  • I really like this boy and I think he likes me back- a few of his close mates have also told me that he likes me. One of our friends told me that my crush thinks that relationships don't work at our age... What can I do to deal with this/change his mind/ find out for sure???

    If this is the way he feels then why not follow his lead and just be good friends, after all the last part of boyfriend and girlfriend is 'friend' and this is a pretty important part of any relationship.

  • Hey viki
    I shave my armpits but after there is still black stuble left over and I don't want anyone to see what do I do to get rid of it??

    Using more shaving gel or foam to soften the hair could offer you a closer shave, as will a superior razor with more than one blade.

  • Hey viki
    I really want to wear a older girl bikini but my mum won't let me even though I am "big enough" to wear one
    I'm 12 how do I convince her to let me wear one?

    At 12 your mum's opinion and guidance is very important and if she feels certain types of swimwear are inappropriate for your age then you should abide by her wishes. But that does not mean you cannot be individual and you can jazz up swimwear with hats, bangles, beach bags and head scarves for a more grown-up look.

  • Hi I'm 14, I have not started my first period, yet all my friends have. My mum was quite late with her first period also. I have inverted nipples which I am really unconfident about, will they pop out as I start my period?

    A first period can arrive from the age of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive. As for nipples these are generally the last thing to develop on the breast and pop out quite naturally for most people.

  • I like this guy but he doesn't like me.... I'm really upset and almost in tears I'm 14 and everyone calls me weak for being so upset but he means a lot and he just doesn't see how much!! What do I do please help- chloe๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

    I am sure this boy does know how much he means to you; however he is being honest when letting you know he does not feel the same. I appreciate itโ€™s a very hard thing to hear but you really must take his comments on board and move on. Yes there will be times when you feel weepy, but these will reduce as time goes by. Try to fill your time busying yourself with friends and family so you have less time to mull over things.

  • When will I know that my period has started, and should I listen to my friends when they say I'm on my period because Im moody but I'm just naturally moody?

    Friends can very often confuse teenage moods swings as a sign your are on your period, but this does not have to be the case. Fluctuaing hormones in your body can leave you feeling moody long before the arrival of your period.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Well two things really; I think I may have started to experience cramps but just so I know, where exactly are they and what do they feel like? Mine were like down one side at the bottom of my stomach, thanks.
    And is it wierd that when I laugh more discharge comes out? Sorry for the length, thanks so much xx
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    Menstrual cramps are often noticed in the lower abdomen, groin and top of the legs. As for discharge this may be the case as very often when we sneeze, laugh or even cough we contract the muscles found in the pelvis and a little discharge or even urine may be lost.

  • Hey vicki. I'm 10 and during sometime when I was 8 anytime I needed to pee, i would release blood and it hurt a bit. After some time it stopped and i haven't started my period or anything since then. What was that that I experienced? Please explain.

    This sounds very much like a urine infection and not your period. If this happens again in the future please speak to your mum or your guardian who will pop you along to our GP for a check-up.

  • Hi
    I'm 11 and i have no hair on my vagina but I have some way inside. I haven't started my period but I peed blood once. I have no hair on my arm pits but I have breasts that slide apart and im fat so im guessing those might be fat since I haven't yet developed in my body yet. I keep finding brown smears on my panties but my mum says it's just dirt from there.I got I start my period? Are my breasts just fat?

    Girls very often notice breast developement at your age and it is quite likely this is the start of breast development, especially if they feel a little tender from time to time. Why not start preparing for the day your period arrives by having some towels and liners in your bedroom drawer or school bag, this seems like a sensible idea to me.

  • 1 of my closed friends started her period not long ago and I'm pretty jealous of her is that normal?
    everyday when I get home from school I go to the toilet hoping that it's my turn.but it never is.
    I've been getting weird marks in my pants.pants. I've seen them and then had a shower and put on some white pants but then there is no mark.
    is hat normal or in other words am I normal???
    please answer as soon as possible

    You are very normal, firstly to want your period to arrive as this is a clear indication for some girls that they are young women. The fluid you notice is discharge and a great sign that your period is not too far away and just like menstrual fluid it leaves your vagina intermittently.

  • Hi vicki
    I had a surgery on my legs and now have braces ob them since Aug last year and I'm taking them off this month, my leg hairs are really long and im unable to shave them until then. I have hair on my vagina and also my armpits, I've released yellow discharge once and have really broad hips nd a flat tummy, anything changing. I started noticing pubic hair growth early last year.

    It seems you are well on the way to becoming a young woman and all of the signs you are noticing are very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • hello Vicki,
    i am 13 and have had hair down there since i was 9/10. there is a lot of it and i am too scared to shave it all but i want to do something about my bikini line and length of the pubic hair. what can i do? xx

    Why not consider trimming it back this is a far safer option than shaving...make sure you get permission from your mum or the person who cares for you first though.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm gettin worried now,I had my first period in Janurary and it hasn't come back! It's now April!! Is this normal?? When is it likely to come back again? Iread on a website that your first period is light, however the period I had I thought was really quite heavy, I'm worried becxause I only had 1, so I don't no what's heavy & light but my period seemed to me very heavy & leaked through the first night (thick pad!) if it got heavier i don't think I would b able to cope? Thannks, your a star ๐ŸŒŸ

    Periods are very often irregular with gaps of several months between them for the first couple of years. This happens because your body is still working out the right menstrual cycle just for you. It is a myth that periods are light when they first arrive and the truth is, that they can be either.

  • I'm really worried because I haven't had my period in about 3months. I have had dark brown spotting 1month ago and light brown a month before that I also had white discharge a couple of days ago. When does white discharge usually occur in the cycle??????i have my periods for 11months now and they have always been the same heaviness and for the same amount of time but very irregular. Why is this???? Thank u!!!!

    Periods can vary from month to month and it could be that this brown fluid you have noticed however light is still your period. As for dischare this continues to be noticed when you are not menstruating and can continue into your twenties.

  • I feel jelous that my best friend was first out of our group of friends to start her period and every day i go home hoping that ive started my period but i havent and im only 12 is it normal to feel like this? Is it normal to want your period to start? I just want to grow up.

    It is very normal to want your period to arrive, after all it's one of many signs that you are becoming a young adult. However, try not to jealous of your friend and instead learn some tips from her.

  • So me and my mom have different types of tampons but when I wore hers they made my inside really itchy and stuff. And it think they were too big for me anyways. My vagina is never itchy when I wear my usual kind. So then I told my mom it was itchy and she told me it was a yeast infection but then I told her that it was just when I wore her brand and she told me it was not possible and that I was making it up..... HELP!!!!!!

    It is possible to be sensitive to a particular product, this does not mean however there is anything wrong with your mums tampons, but rather they are not for you.

  • What is stone
    I see it said a lot

    A stone in this instance is a measure of someone's weight. 1 stone equals 14lbs or 6.35 kilograms.

  • Around the outside of my vagina it is all red! It does hurt when I touch there!! Is this ok ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ

    If this discomfort and redness continues you really should speak to your parents or the person who cares for you and seek treatment.

  • Hi Vicki xx :)
    I have loads of hair on my vagina and some times it hurts I don't know why and it's really weird. I also think my clitoirs is massive and it gets in the way when I'm like doing sport or stuff. I have small boobs and hair under armpits. Ps: when do you thing my period will start and please help about the stuff before. Cx thanks xxxโœŒ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘ŒโœŒ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘ŒโœŒ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘ŒโœŒ๏ธ๐Ÿ˜โœŒ๏ธ๐Ÿ‘ŒโœŒ

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I would imagine your period is not too far away so make sure you are prepared by having some towels or liners with you when out and about. As for your external reproductive organs these grow too during puberty and it's quite common to find they feel a little uncomfortable as this growth is new to you.

  • hi viki โ™ก

    This isn't a question about anything about life however i love ur website but i never no when to look for a anwser if my question was anwsered! I end up having to look through pages and pages! So if you have any rough idea as to when i should look then that would be great! Thanks

    I use the toolbar on the top of the page. Click on the Edit tab and 'find on this page'. Then type in a word from your question this should help you find my answer quickly. We are however looking at ways to make this easier for you all as we know it's an issue.

  • What's the oldest age u can be to start

    If your period has not arrived by the time you are 18 it may be a good idea to have a chat to your GP.

  • Hello Vicki.
    I'm on my sixth period, I want to know how many times you have the periods? And why do we have periods?
    ~ Emma

    Hi Emma, a woman can menstruate for up to 38 years of her life and most women stop menstruating in their early fifties. Why do we have periods, well this is the body's way of letting us know we are now able to conceive a child...even if this is not something we want from many years to come.

  • I'm nearly 15 and still haven't started my period? Why? PLEASEEEEE HELP IM
    SO SCARED! Everyone in my year has started

    I understand it can be difficult when you are the only one who has not yet started their period, but try to remember that it can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • I've had all the signs and vaginal discharge for at least 4 months but sill no period!when will I get it?!!!

    Discharge is very often noticed for up to 12 months before the arrival of your period so you have plenty to time to prepare for its arrival.

  • My friend had larger breasts than me. She is so much more prettier, she has a beautiful figure, all the boys find her fit. All the boys find me ugly. I get very upset sometimes because i feel like im not good enough. Why am i feeling like this and how do i stop it?

    During puberty it is very common to feel insecure about your appearance and to compare yourself to others. It really does pay to be nice to yourself and if you can, every morning spend a few minutes telling yourself how fabulous you are. Accentuate the things you like about yourself...and there will be lots I am sure. Be positive when you're around others and you will soon find this positivity spreads and others start seeing the real and fabulous you.

  • Hey I'm 13 and I had my period for a year now but I missed my period this month what does it mean

    Periods are very often irregular for up to 2 years, even if they have been regular previously, it's nothing you need to worry about and all part of your body working out the right cycle just for you.

  • Vicki, I'm kinda worried about my vagina! I don't know what it's supposed to look like but it doesn't look right?? There is a pink bit that hangs out and it's abit saggy too ?? It's not the flaps it's the bit between Im not really comfortable with someone seeing it though?? Please reply I'm only 14 but I am quite scared :/

    Let me reassure you that just as the rest of your body is growing so are the external parts of your reproductive organs (your vulva) and you will notice a change to the shape with certain parts growing in length, there really is nothing to be scared about and this is very natural.

  • I am very self conscious about my breasts. They are small for my age. What can i do about it?

    There really is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be regardless of your age, so please do not feel under any pressure to be a certain size or shape and please love the body you have.

  • Hi Vicki I asked about the stomach/rib pains. My mum contacted a nurse apparently and it's a touch of ibs according to the nurse. It aches so bad and I want a way to stop it! It's affecting my sleep and school! Please reply ๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš๐ŸŒš

    If your mum has taken you to see the nurse and she believes you have irritable bowel syndrome then I am sure your mum will now be considering taking you to your GP.

  • Hi vicki well my friend say that she got her period! She sais its yellow and sometimes white! Im not sure! But i think its pretty much red or brown! Is that her period? (Pls put under periods) thnx alot!!!!!!

    White or yellow fluid is generally discharge and not mentrual blood, which as you have noted is brown or red in colour.

  • Hi vicki I'm 10 and I'm in my period (nearly 11 in April) and Can you still grow when your in your periods and if you can how tall can you grow

    Your body still continues to grow into your late teens so please don't worry you have many more years of development to come.

  • How can i ask someone for their number without it being akward

    Why not ask a group of friends if they want to do something at the weekend and include this boy, it would them seem less intimate to ask for his number as you will need to keep him in the loop with regard to developments with your group activity.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I feel like I've experienced pms for the first time? I had some PMS symptoms for a week before my period and when it came they went away. I was just wondering if you can suddenly just start getting PMS? I've had my period since I was 13 and I'm 17 now.

    PMS can very often be experienced as you get older and is nothing to be worried about, it's all part of getting to know how your body works.

  • Hi vicki how do you prevent being angry and shout at your friends because I kept on doing that to my friends. That's why I don't think my friends like me anymore

    When you feel calmer have a quiet word with them and let them know you are struggling with your emotions and need some support. Also reassure them that you will try harder to control your moods swings, even if it means that you will take some alone time every now and then rather than lashing out in front of them. By supporting each other in no time you will feel a lot better and your friends will understand that you value their friendship.

  • This is for the person who is thinking about killing her self. I just wanted to let you know that I felt the same way as you a few months ago.what I did was I told my pearnts than get your mom to take you to the doctors he and tell him how you've been feeling should than advise you to a councillor. I know a councillor sound weirded or scary but it is better to talk to someone or it will get worse. Your not alone in this



    Thanks for sharing your experience, I do really appreciate you helping other visitors to the site.

  • Hi vicki!!
    I'm called Tallulah and I'm 17 and I'm really stuck about something. I am not sure if I'm a lesbian. Through my life i have been looking at my gender and fancying them but if i saw a boy my immediate reaction wouldn't be love at first sight. I'm confused. Please help!! Am I weird?
    - Tallulah xxx

    Hi Tallulah, it's very common for teenagers to feel confused about their sexuality, especially when hormones are fluctuating. Try not to put pressure on yourself and take your time to work out how you feel. There really is no rush and in time I think the answer will come quite naturally to you.

  • I know it is normal to be flatchested but all my friends have boobs, and i am younger than most, slim and shorter. Is this stopping me from devopling
    Also, am i starting to develop cos above my right nipple hurt yesterday but its gone away, and the colour of the nipple seems to be almost going on to the surrounding skin. They also look like the are popping out a bit
    thnx x

    It sounds very much like you are noticing breast growth and these little lumps are called your breast buds and the first sign of development.

  • !!!!!!! Please put this under periods....
    I have been getting discharge for a year and a bit, but its only became really noticeable in the last 6 months ish. Ive had blood mixed in with the discharge twice, i sometimes get stomach cramps and moodswings, but i am flatchested,(i think i am just starting to grow)
    Am i starting soon? also, im going away with school for a week abroad and am worried if i start there
    thnx

    If you have already noticed blood in your underwear then it could be your period has already arrived. Why not have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and let them know what you have noticed. They will be able to advise you further and ensure that for your trip you are prepared by having some towels packed in your suitcase.

  • I don't think I'm lesbian but I fancy one of my teachers (she's a woman)
    I don't know why and she's way older than me
    Please help

    It may not be that you are attracted to your teacher but rather that you admire her and this is very normal and will pass as you continue your journey through puberty.

  • Im on my second period. My friends say when they are on, their blood comes out alot more when they are in the shower. I am on my second period. Why hasnt it happened to me yet and when will it happen?

    Everyone is different and whilst some people experience a light flow, others will have a medium or heavy flow. Try to be patient as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi i have my period i want to use tampons but mum won't let me

    You have to respect your mum's wishes in this instance but she may have a change of heart in the future so why not ask again in a few months.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I'm 12 and i have not got my period yet. I've noticed discharge in my underwear for 9 months and my boobs are tender. I also have a lot of hair on my vagina. I think i am going to start my period. I'm scared and i won't want to tell anyone. I'm very active. i swim a lot and do gymnastics. When will i start it? Should i use a tampon? How do you get a free starter pack? I sometimes get pains in my vaginal area. Is that normal?
    Sorry for all the questions.
    Ellie

    As you've been releasing discharge for 9 months already, I would guess that your period isn't too far away. As periods are a natural occurrence that affects every girl, there really is no need for you to be afraid of them. For more information on understanding periods, check out the following link: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/Understanding-Periods As you are quite active and enjoy swimming, when you feel ready, you might like to try using our Lil-Lets teens mini non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/Info-and-Advice/How%20to%20use%20tampons If you can ask your mum or guardian for their permission, you will be able to request a free sample pack from the home page of this website and discomfort in your lower abdomen are usually signs that your body is preparing itself for when your period arrives so try not to worry.

  • Pleeaasseee interview Emma Watson :) please, please, pleeaaseee

    Thanks for your suggestion. I will forward it on to the team.

  • Hey, i know its stupid but its my first of year of having my period and i was due yesterday but it still hasnt come, i have a bad stomach but i have no spotting or discharge? im confused and worried... please get back to me

    Try not to worry too much as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi, im 13 and im awfully flat-chested. I started my period two months ago. All my friends have large breasts and mine are so small i hate it. I asked my mum for a push-up bra/bikini top and she doesnt allow it. I feel like she doenst understand. She says she thinks im too young to be thinking about my body in a sexuall way. I feel that as i am reaching puberty, i want to feel good about my body and have more confidence. What should i do?

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and all beautiful in my opinion. Feeling good about yourself comes from within and I can tell you that increasing your breast size will not necessarily make you any happier. For more confidence why not consider your current shape and what clothes suit you, then over the next few months start to purchase items that make you feel special and start forming your own sense of style.

  • 1)hi Vicki I get sudden sharp/itchy feelings in my vagina but I don't want to scratch coz get them in the school day allot what is this
    I've had clear discharge that turns yellow for 7 months and i can never feel it its the most tiny bit and never brown?!

    The itchiness might be being caused by the growth of pubic hair or by your discharge drying in to your pubic hair. You might like to consider using pant liners and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they will help to keep you fresh and clean down there. Check out the following link for more information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/07/Feeling%20Clean%20and%20Fresh%20down%20there?author=Vicki and http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2013/August/15/New%20Teens%20Wipes As for your discharge, it is perfectly normal for it to turn yellow when it dries out so try not to worry.

  • hi Vicki whenever I go to the toilet I always think about my period coming

    And i get pee in my vagina alot can it cause damage

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been relasing discharge for between 6-12 months. Urinating from the urethra is perfectly normal and it cannot cause any damage to the vagina.

  • Am I lez if I like girls not boys?pls answer!!I need the answer fast !!thanx Vicki from Danel

    Hi Danel, it is normal to develop a crush on people of the same sex as well as the opposite sex during puberty as hormones are running riot but this doesn't mean you are necessarily a lesbian. Try not to rush in to making a decision about your sexuality just yet and see what happens as you get older.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm going through a really hard time because I am obsessed about my Physics teacher.. It's gotten to a point where I know everything about him from his school timetable to his mobile number and address, I even went in front of his house twice. I'm crying myself to sleep every night and every time I see him I get the urge to either kiss or hug him. This cannot go on! Any advice?
    Thanks for your hard work, highly appreciated.

    Crushes are normal and part of your journey to become a young adult, however your actions are now a little excessive and it may be time to have a chat to your teacher letting him know how you feel and he will be able to help you move on from this phase in your life in a professional manner. I appreciate that this may sound like an extreme action, but by confronting your feelings you will be able to get the help you need.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm 12 and I'm worried about the changes in my body. For the past 5 I find this stuff in my knickers that looks like clear snot. I'm in a bra size 20a and my nipples look really weird. Will I start my period soon? I share a room with my younger sister and i know she will make fun of me. Should I hide my pads and tampons? We share a closet so What should i do?

    The 'stuff' you have noticed in your underwear is discharge which is perfectlynormal as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection. The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months. It's normal for you to think your nipples look unusual to you but it's important to allow the time for your breasts to fully develop, so try to be patient. You should try to take no notice of your younger sister as she will be going through signs of puberty herself pretty soon too and you might do as well to remind her of this. There really is no need to hide your sanitary protection from her as periods are a natural occurrence for every girl.

  • When will i start my period? I have hair on my public areas and my boobs are developing. I have been having vaginal discharge for the past 4 months quite a lot.

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.

  • hi viki this isn't really a q but i just wanted to say you have changed my life i wanted big boobs and before my holiday because i looked 10 in it, but then you said to me be happy with what i have got and i thought if i got bigger boobs i would not have the perfect body i did what.
    so i may look younger than i am, but i should be happy with me.

    so thank you, thank you, thank you!!

    This is wonderful to hear as puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel self-conscious at times but the key is to be patient as you develop in to your grown-up self.

  • Can muslim people do sex, and dose it hurt + how muslims bring babies

    All people can have sexual intercourse, irrespective of what religion they believe in. Some females do say they feel a little discomfort the first time they have sexual intercourse and finally, every woman gives birth to her baby either naturally, by passage through the vagina or by means of a medical procedure called a cesarean section.

  • What color should an 11 year old girl nippels be------------------

    Everyone is different but you generally find that nipples are lighter coloured with paler skin and darker with a darker skin tone.

  • Hi vicki . I touch my vagina down there by accedint i didnt mean to because i didnt now anything about sex and those stuff is it owkai cuz some white stuff r comming out answer me please-------------

    The 'white stuff' you refer to is discharge which is perfectly normal as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection. During puberty, sex hormones are working overtime which cause you to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and being curious about your body and wanting to touch your vagina is a normal, instinctive thing to do so try not to worry.

  • How do u know when your about to get your period

    Many females notice that after releasing discharge for between 6-12 months, it increases in amount and becomes thicker before their period arrives.

  • Do you have to wear towels or tampons all the time?

    Only while you're menstruating.

  • Hi Vicky I just startrd shaving my legs and i cut my legs accidently 6 times My legs also have little red rashes what is this thanks btw.

    Perfecting how to shave your legs without injury might take a little practice so persevere. The cuts and rashes you now have should be kept clean and you should apply a little antiseptic to minimise the risk of infection.

  • PART 2 its :) whos asking this question!
    But my body is small, mabe thats the reason for my small boobs! I have pubic hair, its thick and curly and it covers the entire place!! Ive had alot of groth spurts lately too! So when do you think it will come? Over how much months or days or weeks? (It shouldnt have to be the exsact time!) Ps im thirteen!!

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and as you have exceeded this time, I can only guess that yours isn't too far away.

  • hi vicky :) i have been having discharge for well over a year. 6 months ago i had my period and i havent had it since. i just had a tiny bit of blood in my underwear and then it was brown. does this mean im having my period?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period. Brown blood is old blood which is perfectly normal as it's simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • PART 1 (pls put under periods)
    Hi vicki I really want to know when my first period will start! Please tell me how much months or weeks or days it will take(it shouldn't have to be the exact time) but how long do you think? Well ive had ALL the symptoms except for underarm hair groth! Well ive had discharge for 2 years now and it has become very heavy!! My boobs have grown for three years now, but it is quite small! (Sorry I don't now how to spell, cause I'm Afrikaans!) Goes on at part 2!

    Your response is in Part 2.

  • Hi vicki! It is :) who is asking this question!
    Well yesterday I found a large brown stain in my undies and it smelled like vaginal discharge! (But it cant be poo because I didnt poo!) Well I talked to my mom, but she said it was nothing! Well the brown stain was only there one time! And when I checked again and wiped there were no brown stain! I am thirteen!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months..

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 11 and have got my SATS coming up. I am doing some horrible level 6 papers. In the middle of these tests I just get really stressed and start crying, they're so hard you wouldn't believe it. I feel like everyone else is doing better than me and now I am stressed so I wake up at like 5:00 am every morning. What can I do?
    Thanks and sorry it's so long!
    CF

    Hi CF, try not to worry and think to yourself that all you can ever do is your best. Please talk to your parents and teachers about how stressed you're feeling and try to allow yourself some time to relax and forget about your SATS. Check out the following link for more help and information: http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2014/January/03/Top%20Tips%20to%20Beat%20Exam%20Stress?author=Vicki

  • Part two-And also I have a friend who is 13 older than me though and she is flat chested no pubic or armpit hair at all and her body looks so young and I'm scared she will get her peroid before me. It will be so embarrassing. I've had my discharge for over 12 months and I have boobs and pubic hairs and armpit hair. But why haven't I started? My mom started when she was 13 does this mean I will start quickly? Sorry for all this info. But I'm just scared. ยฟ?ยฟ

    -HM

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it's perfectly normal for girls to start their periods up until the age of 18 but as you've been releasing discharge for about a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away. You can ask your friends about their experiences with periods so you will be prepared when yours arrives.

  • Part one-My friend just got her peroid yesterday, and she keeps talking about it and it's kind of making me mad because she is still 12 and I'm 13 and we are like exactly the same devolved and I still haven't got mine and like a ton of my friends have got it.
    -HM

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi viki, I'm kcupcake19 please help I'm 12 almost 13 and I pick my nose I used to eat the boogers but I learned to stop, can you please tell me how to stop picking my nose PLEASE๐Ÿ˜‹๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŽ€๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธ๐ŸŒธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

    I believe that cleaning your nose is a natural habit and you may find that using a tissue instead you will reduce the amount of time spent in this area.