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If you’ve asked Vicki a question she will post the answer on this page (and the best thing is nobody will ever know it was you that asked!). You can search for your answer using the unique reference number you were given after you asked your question or enter a keyword or words from the question you asked. What's more, the most recently answered questions are shown below and you can also search for questions by clicking on one of the categories. You might even just want to have a look at the questions other girls have asked! 

 

Older answered questions

  • Are you meant to shave you know 'down there' because I feel uncomfortable asking my mum - if so what with and how often Thank You xxx

    Nobody says you have to shave your pubic hair and the choice is entirely yours.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and so there is no need for you to feel embarrassed about anything to do with puberty.  If you're worried about shaving, you might like to consider simply trimming your pubic hair back so it isn't visible.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I don't like tampons so are there any tampon-free ways to go swimming during THAT time of the month? Thanks!

    I am afraid there are no alternatives to using tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.

  • Recently Me and my brother have heard and witnessed are mum having sex with her new boyfriend we have never witnessed this before and it just feels so weird i can't look at her anymore i just think about it eurgh its disgusting i just cant stop thinking about it πŸ˜‘πŸ˜·πŸ‘Ž 12 gagsualsjcghxjs thanks

    Adults will be sexually active as this is one of the many ways they show their affection for each other. It is unfortunate that both you and your brother overheard this activity and I appreciate it may make you feel a little uncomfortable, but it is very normal and part of life, so try not to judge either your mum or her boyfriend too harshly.

  • HEY VICKI!! *O*
    This may sound strange but i used to like girls and boys but i used to watch girls kissing. But now I've kinda stopped and I'm not really into girls anymore I thought I was a lesbian since 11 but now Im not sure because Im 14 and don't really like girls anymore. I know its normal for some of teens to like both genders but i just feel really weird and I have never told my mum about this. Its not really a question I just wanted to tell someone about it sorry
    xx ROCKY

  • Hi vicki, I'm thirteen and I have small boobs. I have been hit in my boobs a few times so does this affect the growth of them or something as i want them to be bigger.

    Hannah x

    Hi Hannah, breasts very often get knocked from time to time and this will not have any impact on their development so please try not to worry.

  • Hi my nae is india im in year 6 and i have my period im still virgin but i want sex al the time i love a boy in my classand i think he likes me t i really want a baby im so worried about school and my period please help vicki love from India <3

    Hi India, it is very normal to have feelings of a sexual nature even though you are not old enough to act on them.  So for now consider being a good friend to this boy...because when you think about it the last part of the word 'boyfriend' is friend and is a very important part of any relationship.

  • Hiya I'm Hallie,
    I'm 15 and I have a boyfriend who I've been with for a month he's 19 and I love him soo much and he loves me tooπŸ’• anyway I've had sex with him like atleast twice a day and it's good sex, n it's deffo not rape !
    & I'm pregnant and scared to tell anyone :( help!

    Hallie, regardless of whether you consented to sexual intercourse or not, your boyfriend has committed a crime and by not using protection has showed his is irresponsible too. If you feel you are pregnant then please speak to your doctor or local Brook centre and consider the importance of sharing this news with both yours and this boy's parents.

  • I'm bisexual. This sounds silly but it's a bit of a mouthful to say so if I said I was gay, does gay mean lesbian if a girl says it? Or does it just mean a boy likes boys?

    Historically the word 'gay' used to mean someone was carefree, happy and bright. More recently this word is used to describe someone who is homosexual and attracted to someone of the same sex. Bisexuality is a different term, which describes someone who is attracted to any gender and they are not generally described as gay. But these are just words and there is no reason for anyone to label themselves as anything if they do not wish to.

  • I think I am too skinny and flat chested and I'm scared cos I eat loads of junk food and crisps for weeks and I'm still really skinny. Also, people at school have even taken the mickey that I don't have any boobs and I get really embarrassed cos I'm literally the only one with no boobs /:
    cupcake33

    Firstly, cupcake ignore any silly and immature comments from others and try not to let them upset you. We all develop at different times and I am sure you will start to develop a more womanly figure over the next few years. What does concern me is your diet and whatever your shape or weight you should avoid junk food or sugary and greasy treats. So consider increasing your intake of vegetables, fruit, protien and carbohydrates for a more healthier you.

  • Hiya Vicky!

    i'm 13 and for about the past year now i have noticed that in both my breasts i have a really big lump it takes up pretty much the whole of my breast and makes my breast feel hard. I can move the skin over it and i first noticed it about a year ago in one of my breasts and then later my other breast started to get this lump in it and start to get harder. my mum said it's normal. is it just my breasts developing further into adulthood as i am very tall for my age.
    Thanks

    These are your breast buds and part of breast development. They may feel a little strange at first but as your mum has said this is all very normal and part of puberty.

  • I have got white stuff and when it dries it goes brown. . What is it?

    Brown fluid in your underwear can be one of two things, either your period or the residue left after releasing waste food (poo) which has not been thoroughly removed. If the stain has an offensive odour it will almost certainly be the latter. But if you continue to notice these marks when you have not visited the toilet then this is your period.

  • What is the best thing to wear in sport
    A tampon or a pad
    Thanks

    It really is a personal choice but if you are going to be moving about a tampon may offer you more confidence from leaks and is invisible too.

  • I have one boob much bigger than the other one and it is really uncomfortable when I wear A bra because one side is too small and it's hurts but the other is to small
    What can I do to help this??
    Thank you

    Most girls notice one breast grows before the other, give it a little time and the second breast will catch up.


  • I go on this site a lot and I'm scared to say this to child line can you help me. mums always shouting and hurting me some times it looks like an accsedent but when I say she won't say sorry or she would just say I don't matter or I never did such a thing and will start to shout at me the other day I did something stuped and said she bulled me and she wouldn't talk to me for the whole day and the rest of the week just shouted

    Have a chat to your mum and let her know how upset her behaviour is making you feel and if this does not make things easier have a chat to another member of your family such as an aunt or grand parent who can talk to your mum on your behalf.

  • Vicki my mum hates me do you know why??πŸ˜ͺπŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯😩😫😒

    I am sure your mum does not hate you, but like most mums she may be struggling with the changes you are experiencing to both your body and mind and this can be a difficult time for mums too. It really is important for you both to keep talking to each other and have fun when you can, then when the bad times come and you clash a little, the happy memories you have had together will outweigh any little spats.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm going on holiday really soon and haven't started my period...I don't wear tampons but would like to start so I can enjoy going in the pool in case my period comes on holiday, can you suggest the tampon best for me and some tips on how to insert them?? 😳😳😳

    For anyone new to tampons I would always advise they try our Lil-lets teens non-applicator tampons, shorter and narrower than other brands and idea for first time users. Why not consider taking one of our Teens Starter packs on holiday with you, just in case your period arrives when away.

  • HI Vicki! I am 12 years old and I have blonde hair on my legs. I think it's really noticeable and I feel really self concious about it, but I'm scared to ask my mum to shave. What should I do? P.S I love your website, it's so helpful!

    Why not ask your mum how old she was when she first started shaving this will almost certainly move the conversation over to you and if you now feel ready and if she approves of you shaving at your age.

  • Hi Vicki I am 11 years old and I started my very first period yesterday is this a bad thing??? I also use lil-lets now. Thank you very much :):):):):):):)

    Hi,  a period can arrive between the ages of 8-18 so there is absolutely nothing wrong with your period now arriving and I am pleased you find Lil-Lets are ideal for this special time.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I'm 10 years old and have discharge. Recently, I spotted a brown dot with my discharge. My mum says it might be from when she washed my underwear, but I'm sure it only appeared yesterday.

    I'm really worried about it.What is it? I turn 11 next year.

    Thanks.

    This could be your period and is nothing to worry about. Why not see what happens over the next few days and if more fluid is noticed. You can then have a chat to your mum again.

  • Hi Vicki im 13 and whenever I see like sex on TV I get a tingerling sensation in my vigina and I seem turned on, so I hump and pillow and it feels really good, is it normal

    During puberty, sex hormones run riot causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature than they did before and viewing sexual material will naturally make you feel excited.  Masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings and is perfectly normal.

  • Hi Vicky
    I am 11 and I started getting under arm hair for a year now and started sweating, getting mood swings and crying for no reason, I have had cramps for ages and went to the hospital loads of times but they still don't have the result, I also started getting pubic hair, I have had yellow and clear discharge for about 1 or two years I also had quite a lot of blood on my wipe after the toilet around a year ago but mowing has happened every since,
    What should I do?
    Thanks for reading πŸ’žπŸ˜˜

    I'm hoping that the hospital gets to the root cause of your problem very soon.  The blood you noticed was in fact your period but in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so please try not to worry.

  • Hey Vicki! I haven't started yet and I'm almost 12, is that un normal? And I'm also afraid as I don't know how to tell my mum!!??!! And Vicki please tell me what does discharge mean?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there is no need to feel embarrassed talking to her about periods.  It is normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 and the best way of knowing when it might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.

  • Hey vicki
    I worry that I'm a lesbian sometimes and its constantly onn my mind for some reason, I'm 14 is this normal due to hormones?
    I think this because I look at other girls to compare myself and its making me paranoid but I still like boys help!
    Thanks xx

    Try not to worry or be in a rush to put a name to your sexuality just yet as puberty is a time when young girls and boys develop strong attraction to both sexes due to the massive increase in activity of sex hormones. 

  • I really like what you do, i think it is great, giving advice, create blogs etc. I was wondering how did you get into this job, as in what did you have to study etc. Sorry for the irrelevance this has to becoming a teen but i really like what you do and find it quite interesting.
    if i did want to have a job like you, working for say LilLets blogging etc, what advice would you give etc.
    Sorry if this is odd and weird for you to answer.

    I have worked for Lil-lets for a long time and have been answering queries from girls and women for many years, together with visiting schools to have a chat to teenagers. So when we decided to launch our Becoming a Teen site it seemed only natural that we would have a section whereby girls could ask questions. English and computer studies are always great subjects to take and if you want work in blogs website design may be useful too. I consider myself very fortunate to work for Lil-Lets they really do care about people and I love my job.

  • I'm 14 and already my breasts are really big (36D). I struggle to find t-shirts and dresses that look good and I often find myself making excuses about not being able to go swimming with my friends because its embarrassing. Will I keep developing at this rapid rate? Will I have bigger breasts for the rest of my life? Or, is there an age where all body fat drops off (I have heard this rumour) resulting in smaller breasts?

    Breasts often grow in spurts and it may be that you have almost reached your final size. Take the time to try on clothes in lots of stores that are made of a stretchy fabric such as t-shirt material these are often the most flatering to a fuller bust.

  • In the period section it said that u might find a little blood after wiping yourself... This happened to me around a year ago but nothing has happened ever since... What does this mean?

    This could have been a little bit of blood released from your anal passage and this can sometimes happen when you are constipated and is nothing to worry about.

  • This might sound silly but i'm really scared to have sex. A couple of girls in my year have had it and they have all said it was nice but i think it will hurt and i'm dreading it:(

    Being sexually active is not something you have to do and should only ever be undertaken with someone you care for deeply. And when this happens you will feel a lot more relaxed about being so intimate, until then try not to worry about it.

  • i'm fifteen nearly sixteen and i'm still an a cup! I feel so insecure about my boobs because all my friends are way more developed and i get really embarrassed if i wear a bikini. Also i'm scared incase my boyfriend thinks bad of me because i don't have big boobs:(

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and contrary to popular belief not all boys are attracted to them. Breasts also continue growing into your late teens and early twenties so you still have a lot more developing to do.

  • I'm 11 and when I squeeze my boobs I feel something hard in it what is that and is it normal

    This is a breast bud which is a small raised lump that sits behind the nipple and comprises of muscle, fat, tissue and milk glands.  Breast buds signal the start of breast development so try not to worry.

  • is it normal for a period to last more than 7 days???

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and it might be like this for up to 2 years.  However, if you find that your menstrual blood loss is persistently quite heavy and you begin to feel tired and lack energy, ask your mum or guardian to arrange a visit with your GP to get checked out.

  • hi vicki,
    i have one 'outtie' labis minora and the other is an innie. i am 12 years old. will both of them be outties or will the one that is out come back in? thx sierra

    Hi Sierra, try not to worry and allow your body some time to fully develop.  For more information, check out my blog on Getting to know your reproductive system inside and out.

  • Ok so I'm 11 and how do I tell what bra size I am all I wear right now is training bras and some padded plus I have a friend that is 12 and has like a size A or B I feel really uncoftable around her since her boobs r so much bigger what can I do to make mine bigger PLEASE HELP

    Try to remember that we're all different with breasts that develop at different rates to each other and it is good to know that it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Are you meant to shave off all your pubic hair + what do you mean by trim?

    The choice is yours as nobody says you have to shave it off, in fact many choose to leave it as it is or just trim the pubic hair back with scissors but please do take care when doing this.

  • My period is soooo heavy I use at least 10 pads a day
    And it's so annoying I keep having to go to the toilet

    As your period is so heavy ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels in Normal, Long and Night as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • Hi vicki!
    I'm really worried, I'm 13 and I've had this sort of pimple next to my clitoris it's really sore and is the size of a pea. I've try putting warm compresses on it to make it go away, but it's still there. It's been there for three days. What should I do?😣😣😣😨😨😨

    Try applying a little antiseptic on it and if you don't see an improvement after a couple of days, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get it checked out.

  • what is a wet dream

    A wet dream happens when a boy or man has a sexual dream.  His penis becomes stiff and releases semen.  This is also called a nocturnal emission.

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    🐷🐷🐷🐷🐷Do all animals have periods or get into season?🐷🐷🐷🐷🐷
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    Not in the same way as us.  Animals come into season which is called oestrus.

  • I'm 14 and I haven't got my period yet and all my friends have theirs. Should I be worried?

    It is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 so please try not to worry.

  • Please please please answer this! I went through a faze of self harming especially on my forearm, but I have bring myself to stop now, it has left dark scars and I regret it all so much, I was using bio oil and it helped but it has dissapeard and I can't find it anywhere, I originally got it from my sisters draws, so I don't no where to buy it from, could you please help in telling me where to buy it? And are there any other things I could use to fade my scars? Thank you so much if you reply!

    Firstly, well done for beating this condition. A great many products such as Bio-oil are widely available in most large supermarkets and chemists. And many stores now manufacture an own label moisturiser aimed at reducing both stretchmarks and scars and these would be equally suitable.

  • Hi Vicki, I was riding my bike today and I felt a little tingle down there. When I got home I changed because we were going to the beach, so when I took my knickers off I saw a small patch of blood! Was this my period or?
    Thx❀️😜

    This could have been your period or you may have accidently knocked this area causing a little bit of blood to be released. Why not wear a pad of liner for the next couple of days and see if anymore blood is lost.

  • I usually get discharge on a regular basis (every other day if not everyday) and for the past 2 weeks it just stopped. Does this mean im closer or further away from getting my period? Is this even normal or am i just worrying myself?

    Discharge often comes and goes from time to time and this is nothing to be anxious about, nor does it mean your period is due anytime soon.

  • Does it hurt when the blood comes out

    Most people never notice menstrual fluid leaving their body, for those that do some tummy discomfort is noticed or there is a feeling of something brushing against their skin. So please try not to worry and to help avoid period cramps keep active.

  • Is it normal for me to start my period at 10 and is it normal for my second period to come only 3 weeks after my first?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 and very often for the first couple of years you wil notice both short and long gaps between each one. Remember that the first day of your period is when you start counting to work out your monthly cycle.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm going on holiday with my friends next week and my period is due the day after we get there. It will be my third period and I haven't yet used a tampon(I'm 14). So I'm planning on using a tampon but what should I do before it starts as your not meant to use a tampon when your not on your period? What if it came early or unexpected whilst I'm in the pool and I wouldn't be wearing a tampon? Thanks!

    It is unlikely that your period will start when in the pool but if it did the amount of fluid lost would be minimal and you can easily pop a tampon in when you get out of the water and plan to laze around the pool. Please try not to worry, blood rarely gushes out so this is not a problem. Have a great holiday.

  • Hiya Vicki. I've had 2 periods and my 3rd is due when I'm on holiday and I'll be swimming a lot. Is it okay to use a tampon on my 3rd period as you said its best from the 5-6th period x

    If you feel ready to switch to tampons when in the water and on your period then there is no medical reason why you should not and in fact the first time lots of girls start using tampons is during the holiday season. Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens non applicator tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for first time users.

  • hi vicky!
    I REALLY NEED HELP!!!
    Listen
    I have a crush on this guy but he likes some other girl i dont know if he likes me but i cannot move on! i really like him!!!!

    If this boy is keen on another girl then it would be a good idea to have some distance between you both, which will allow you both some space. He may then realise how much he likes and misses your company and for your part, you may realise that you no longer feel the same way about him once you have spent time in the company of others.

  • Can you wear a tampon for REALLY HEAVY discharge??
    Thanx

    NO NEVER. Tampons are designed for menstrual use only. If you find that your pant liner does not protect you on heavier days you may want to switch to a pad.

  • Hi VickiπŸŽ€
    I just wanted to ask, when you're on your period is there anything you can't eat or drink?
    Thank you, Ellie, 13 years oldπŸ’–

    Hi Ellie, there is nothing you need to differently and you can eat and drink just as you would normally.

  • 3. I LOVE a boy called T and i know he hates me because he tolled me but i dont know how to get over the fact that he hates me???

    4. i have a big problem; I HAVE HAIRY LEGS but i am not allowed to to wax or shave them what do i do?????

    5. I am going to go to seconary school and i am scared about making friends and boys what do i do?
    thank you Mira

    Hi Mira, hate is quite a strong word and I am sure this is not the case but it would be good for you to understand that in life there will often be people we like but they do not feel the same way about us. It does not mean there is anything wrong with you, it simply means you are not suited, so accept this and find someone who deserves your affection. If you are not allowed to remove your leg hair then rub some sun lotion onto your legs and get out in the sun as this is great for naturally lightening body hair safely. Finally, you may find my blog entitled Back to School useful as it has some great tips for Secondary school starters. 

  • hey Vicky, i have a a couple of qustions i would like to ask you; so here i go.
    1. If a boy called R and he likes me, but i don't know if i like him but,people say he i an idiot so i am not sure what to do??
    2.i like a boy called R2 but i dont know if he likes me so i dont know what to do, but i dont want to be imbrased in front of my friends what do i do??

    You should always go with your initial feeling and if you now instinctively that you are not suited to R then consider just being good friends, but please don't be swayed by what others think about him, it really does have to be your choice. However, if R(2) is the one you really like, get to know him better and if he feels the same he will let you know in his own way.

  • Please answer ASAP!!

    I have measured my Brest and I am 13. It said I am a 44dd.. I have massive breasts and soooo fat..

    Are my breats big for my age?

    Petty.
    X

    There is no right or wrong size for breasts to be regardless of your age, the most important thing is to wear a bra that is comfortable and supports you, so have a chat to your mum and ask if you can go shopping for the bra that is right for you.

  • im supper worried to wear a tampon and i dont want anyone to know whats the best way to keep it a secret?

    Nobody says you have to wear a tampon and you should only consider doing this when and if you feel ready.  All it takes is a little practice and it is so important to be relaxed.  It's never been easier for young girls to try tampons than now by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use.  Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there is really no need for yout to keep it a scecret or feel embarrassed by it.

  • I'm really conscious about my weight. What is a healthy weight for a 13 year old girl who is 5ft2?

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to worry about their body image due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and as every 13 year old girl is different, it would be difficult for me to say what a healthy weight for you would be.  By sticking to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, trying to avoid food and drinks high in sugars or fats and being as active as you can, you will be able to maintain a healthy weight.

  • How can I speed up my period?

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl and there is nothing you can do to speed them up.

  • I'm 14 and my boobs are really small but I don't know if i should ask my mum to be fitted for a bra. What is the smallest bra size you can buy?

    Why not ask your mum if she will take you to your local department store to try on some different bras?  As you haven't noticed much breast development as yet, you might like to consider a training bra which are soft and enable you to get used to wearing one with more structure when the time arises.

  • I'm 14 and I am 15 in march. Is this late to not have started my period yet?

    Try not to worry as it's perfectly normal for girls to start their period anytime between the ages of 8-18.  The best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • hi vicki

    what if iI had started my periods at school in between a lesson what do I do?

    By wearing Lil-Lets teens liners you will prevent the possibility of leakage so try not to worry.

  • hi vicki

    I have a crush on this boy at my school whst should I do?

    During puberty it is normal for girls and boys to develop deep attraction to others caused by the increase in activity of sex hormones.  This is called a crush but the thing is that crushes often fade but there is nothing to stop you getting to know this boy as a friend to see if you really like him.  Check out my blog on Your first love for more help with this.

  • if you suddenly start your periods at school what do you do?

    The key to success is to be prepared by wearing pant liners and keeping some sanitary towels close to hand at all times.  You might like to consdier using the products from our Lil-Lets teens range as they are ideal for fisrt-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hiya Vicki,
    I am 13 years old and I weigh over 7stone and I am 5feet.. Am I over weight? Please reply asap!!!!!!
    Love Katie.
    I think I am!

    Hi Katie, you sound just perfect so please try not to worry.  The key to maintaining a healthy weight is to to stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetqables and by trying to stay as active as possible.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have been getting discharge for about 7 months now (i am 13) and i haven't started my period. But I just wondered what to do if my period starts when i am on holiday in the pool or in my bikini bottoms. I am just a bit worried if this may happen and i don't know what to do.
    Thank you x

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I guess that your period isn't too far away so when you go on holiday be prepared by using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Remember all it takes is a little practice.

  • Vicki,
    I am really scared and upset because I think my parents smoke something that is not tobacco! I am really worried but I cannot talk to anyone at all about it. What can I do?

    As you're concerned, talk to your parents and tell them how their smoking affects you.

  • I really hate bras. I really, really hate them. I don't want to wear them anymore. I can walk around the whole day without them but my mum complains that it looks weird. Well, it does, but I feel so suffocated and sometimes, my upper stomach/ribs start to hurt if I wear them for too long. I wear them at the last hook and it feels alright but they gradually devour my body as time passes by. I think this is unhealthy cause it feels so.

    I would suggest that you go bra shopping with your mum and try on some different styles and sizes until you find some that feel comfortable on you as bras are designed to offer support. 

  • Are yellow dry pTches it yoyr underwear diacharge

    It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • one of my breasts was plusing annd i could see it moving ... is this normal ? ( just turned 14 and havent started my period yet)

    This is almost certainly your chest cavity that you have noticed and this does move up and down as part of your normal breathing regime.

  • If you have hair on your vagina and white stuff is your period near?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • How should I tell my mum

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need to feel embarrassed talking to her about anything to do with periods and puberty.  You might like to start the conversation by asking if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range from the home page of this website.

  • is it bad for the development of my body if I eat unhealthy?

    Eating unhealthily is bad not only for your development but also for your future.  So please try your best to stick to a healthy balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables and try to avoid foods that are high in fat or sugar.  Try drinking water instead of sugary drinks too and by doing this and being as active as you can you will be well on your way to developing into a healthy young woman.

  • I have hair down there and in my armpits and I have started to get bo how do I get rid of it and how do I ask my mum for deodorant thanks

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about anything to do with puberty.  Pubic hair can simply be trimmed back and you can aks your mum if she will show you how to shave your underarm hair.

  • I have a really heavy flow while on my period and I always leak any tips to stop this from happening?

    Take a look at the sanitary protection you are using.  Lil-Lets Freshlock towels are more absorbent than the best-selling brand but don't forget to make regular changes every 3-4 hours.  If you use tampons, Lil-lets has an extensive range of absorbencies.  Check out my blog on Understanding absorbencies for more help with this.

  • Hi,
    I have had periods for over a year and a half now, nearly two years. They are really heavy and have never been regular. They always come randomly and there is no pattern. I have never had them for consecutive months, there is usually 2 or 3 months between each, sometimes more. I am really worried about this, what should i do? Also i am off on holiday soon and am worried it will come when i am there?

    Ps i started when i was 12 nearly 13 and am 15 soon
    Thanks

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  When you go on holiday, make sure that you are prepared by having sanitary towels, tampons if you wear them and pant liners.

  • Im 15 and i haven't got my period, my boobs have started growing more recently and I've been getting discharge for over a year is it strange i haven't started??

    As you've been releasing discharge for over a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • my pireodds are really heavy so i
    use tampons and i had these normal regular ones but had to change them after 2 hours so i got a super one but still had to change it after 4 as it began leaking. I find it so awkward talking to my mum about things, we have only had one small conversation. I get panicky and never ask or start a chat on this subject...
    Thanks so much vicki :-)

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about your period.  Please also check out my blog on Understanding tampon absorbencies for more help with this.

  • Hi Vicki
    My period is very heavy but only lasts for 5 days so I thought that probably evened it out but sometimes when I cough or sneeze I get quite big blood clots like the size of a 10p coin. Is this normal

    Thanks β€πŸ’™πŸ’šπŸ’›πŸ’œ

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Small clots present no need for alarm as they are simply a part of the lining of the uterine wall being released with menstrual fluid.

  • I am really self conscious of myself but I'm really skinny and I have a really low self esteem. I want to be more confident but I don't know how have you got any advice?? Thanks btw I love this website its helped me a lot xx

    Puberty can be such a difficult and demanding time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they develop low self-esteem and have a poor body image.  For ways to boost your self-confidence, you might like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as this will enable you to meet like-minded people.  You should also not be afraid of talking to your family and friends about how you're feeling as chances are, some of your friends will be feeling the same way too.  Try to be as active as possible, even if it means dancing in your bedroom to your favourite music or going for a walk as this will also help you to feel better.

  • hi
    I have had discharge for about 3/4 months, public hair for 5/6.How long do you think I have my first ever period?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so try not to worry.

  • i need your help. i self harm my upper arm is full of cuts. I'm goin through a lot. my dads not given much time to live, I'm always teased by family and friends about my skin colour and body, they tell me I'm useless and stuff and i with my friends, theres 7 of us, I'm always the one left out. I'm very insecure and lonely. lately I've been moodier, eating less, sleeping way more than usual and wanting to harm. I'm over a week clean and i want to keep that going but idk if i can. any advise?
    xoxo

  • xxx Do you know how you become a pianist for a singer because i know it may be unrealistic but i would like to look into it but i can't find any help on the internet

    Talk to your parents or guardians about finding reputable tutors to teach you or look for a choir to join in your community.  A passion for music is all you need, so believe in yourself and enjoy your experience.

  • Hi Vicki,
    At the moment my vaginal area is hurting and is a bit irritant. What should I do?
    Love from,
    Jade x

    Hi Jade, try to keep the area as clean and cool as possible with regular bathing and if there are any signs of infection such as creamy coloured discharge and it hurts when you urinate, you might have thrush which can be easily treated with cream from the Chemist.  This seems to be a common problem at the moment and I think the hot weather has a lot to do with it so make sure you wear cotton underwear and loose fitting clothing too.

  • I am 13, and I all ways feel my boobs and my friends. I squeeze their boobs too. I pinch there bums. I snog them to..
    Am I gay?

    I πŸ’š your breasts and tampons!

  • Hey Vicki, im 15 years of age and still havent started my period. Im scared i will never get it? Is it possible for a girl to never get her peiod? I have had discharge for about 3 years now. I have all the other signs of puberty(breasts,hair,etc) the last 3 days ive had no discharge but this brown coloured with dots of blood left in my underwear. Is this my period? I got no cramps or anything. Thanks:)

    The brown dots and blood discharge you noticed was your period so be sure to keep some sanitary towels close to hand and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I got my first period today and there wasn't much bleeding. Does this mean all my periods will be like this?

    Not necessarily as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and very often your period can vary from time to time, so please don't worry too much.

  • Do u give samples of the adult range

    Not at this time no.

  • im 14 in a few weeks and going into yr 10 after summer.I have being having dischage for nearly a year now and im worried if i have my first period at school it will go through my tights and evry one will see it

    As you've been releasing discharge for almost a year, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.  The best way of being prepared is to start wearing pant liners as they will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  By doing this and keeping some sanitary towels with you at all times, you will be ready so try not to worry.

  • I know that you can use a tampon whilst going swimming, but can you still use normal pads?


    please reply soon coz i'm going swimming in a few days!!


    xxx Tilly, 11

    You will only need to wear a tampon whilst swimming.  Once sanitary towels are immersed in water, they will swell and disintegrate causing huge embarrassment so please don't do this.

  • Dear Vicki,
    For about five months I was really uptight about what I was eating. I wasn't anorexic as I ate three good meals daily-it's just I only ate healthy stuff and only had a couple of unhealthy things that I got worried about eating. I'm over that now but as soon as I started eating normally again my periods stopped. I am still within 2 yrs of starting my periods and I'm worried they've stopped forever! Please help me!

    Periods can be irregular for the first couple of years and as you continue your journey through puberty, so please try not to worry I am sure this is just a coincidence.

  • Do most women wear a bra at night?

    It is a matter of personal choice as some women do while others don't.

  • Me and my boyfriend of 2 years have had unprotected sex and i got my period 2 days after the intercourse, but could i still be pregnant? Helphelphelp!!!!

    If you have started your period it would be highly unlikely that you are pregnant but if you have any concerns please speak to Brook who will be able to advise you further.

  • hi i sent a question like this the other day and didn't get to see the answer to it. i have been
    having vaginal pain and it happens quite a lot during the day and i have had it for the past 3-5 days and when i have it and then i do to pee it goes away.is this just a part of puberty?should i be worried?
    I am only 10 and have discharge and a breast bud.
    Thnx! From: Patience

    Hi Patience, it seems that you may be leaving too long a gap between visiting the toilet to pee and this is causing your bladder to put pressure on your groin area. Try visiting the toilet more regularly and see if this reduces the discomfort.

  • Hi vicki please can you give me my bra size
    I am 66cm under my breasts and 76cm over my breasts
    I am wearing a 32AA but that feels a bit small
    Thank you very much

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I started discharge when I turned ten, but it's always been yellow. Is anything wrong? I am still ten.

    It is normal for discharge to turn yellow as it dries out so please try not to worry.

  • Hi Viki,
    I haven't started my period yet and I have had discharge for 2-3 years now and recently it has become a lot heavier. Is this a bad thing? Will I start my period soon? Also, I need to wear a bra of I feel really vulnerable coz my boobs are quite big but, I find it really uncomfortable wearing them, i'm 12, do I have to wear one? Also could wearing one damage my breasts?
    Thanks,
    Lou Lou xx

    As you've been releasing discharge fo quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.  Wearing a bra will not damage your breasts so try not to worry.  When you go shopping, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I was wondering do all girls period pains feel the same? Or does everyone's feel different?

    We're all different, experiencing different levels of period pain and we all have different pain thresholds so it would be impossible to say.  Stomach cramps can always be managed so there is no need to fear them.

  • Part Two: so he gave me nd my 2 brothers the tv to watch nd web he'd put it down on the floorhe scratched it on the ladder slider so then wen. he hot back from gym he asked where is it so I said its in mind room so he went nd got it and if anything had happened to the tv then i will be responsible for it. so it had a scratch on it nd he came in nd told me I said what. a scratch nd den he was lyk aite u ain't gunna use. ma tv again so i started crying nd then this morning I wokeup with a headache

    Have a chat to your mum and let her know what happened and how upsetting this is making you feel. Believe it or not she will understand and a scratched telly is really not worth you being so upset.

  • Hi Vicky people at school say mean things to me about my small boobs im still an aa and have been for 2 years now is this normal and will my boobs ever grow

    How unkind of people to talk about your breast size. You may want to remind them how important it is to support each other during puberty and try not to worry, breasts often grow in spurts and can continue to develop into a girls late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi Vicky
    Part One:Yesterday I was watching TV (its my brothers) when he came back from Gym at 11 pm when the movie had finished he came into my room nd asked where is my TV nd then I said its in mum room (because my mum lyks to supervise us o make sure we don't do anything wrong or break his TV) and when he was putting the tv down im my room bexause I have a bunk bed (i share with my 8 year old brother by the way)

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi, Vicki. This isn't really a question, it's more of a problem. So I am 13 and all my friends have started their period except me. I feel left out. Two of my friends started at the same time and they kept talking about it. So they asked everyone in our group if they had started yet it was really awkward because I was the only one who hadn't. My sister started when she was 11. Can you give me some advice on how to deal with the situation please? Please leave the answer in the Friendships section.

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is only a matter of time before your period arrives too.  The best way of knowing when this might happen is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  It will happen so just try to be patient.

  • I'm 13 and i got my first period in April, I'm a gymnast and my periods are very heavy what do you suggest i do for gymnastics, because everytime i get my period i have missed gymnastics that week and i cant keep doing that im not very comfortable with my coach as its a new gym and i also feel worried that my boobs grow to big and will look silly in a leotard should i be nervous about this? I'm a 34 aa

    As you're a gymnast, you might find that using tampons will make you feel better protected as they are more discreet.  Try to remember that gymnasts from all over the world at all different levels of ability manage to do the sport they love whilst on their period so there is no reason for it to ever interfere with the things you like doing.  Try not to worry about the size of your breasts and concentrate on enjoying the sport you love.

  • should you use shaving cream when shaving down below?

    Shaving cream is good for this.

  • there's this boy in my class that i've liked and not liked. he was my last boyfriend and i ended it because he was saying stuff about me bu then he said he was messing. i tried to get us back together but he wouldn't. most of the time when i've liked him he wont like me and when we talk he mainly asks for advice and im worrried that he's put me into the friends zone and nothing will happen betweeen us but i really like him. :( x

    It does appear that this boy now considers you a friend, but if this is not something you are comfortable with then it may be an idea to put some distance between you both so he can see you as something else, romantic or otherwise.

  • hi vicki, this is kind of a weird question but i'm 13 and around this time girls start getting their first kiss. well, me and my friends haven't yet but im worried that i will be the last one to get my first kiss. also, i can tell that i need braces and i've been told that it's best to have my first kiss before braces as it can be awkward when you have braces. i don't know what to do as no one in my year likes me and i', worried that i'll never get it. any advice, thanks xx

    Try not to worry as a first kiss is something special and it's best to wait until you meet someone you're fond of as opposed to kissing someone just to be like everyone else, so try to be patient as it's something worth waiting for.

  • Hi viki I am going on holiday in 5 weeks I am 12 years old and 11 stone I don't feel comfortable even wearing shorts my mum has baught me loads of nice holiday clothes but I only feel comfortable wearing baggy jogging bottoms and hoodies,and I obviously can't wear that when it is about 30-40 degrease,I know this website is not about weight loss but I have tried everything and nothing works I was hoping to at least loose 1 stone
    Thanks kate

    You have 5 weeks to try and stick to a healthy diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables.  Try drinking water instead of sugary drinks and avoid foods high in fat or sugar.  By doing this and being as active as you can, you will be able to maintain a healthy weight and feel better about yourself.   Swimming is a great way to exercise whilst on holiday so give it a go and have a fabulous time.

  • Hi Vicki
    I thought i got my period for the first time today but later on, i got discharge but aren't you not supposed to get discharge when your on your period?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives and you do still release discharge after your peiod has started.

  • I have my period about once every 2-3 months, is this normal?x

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • PLEASE ANSWER: Dear Viki, I recently told a boy that I liked him and now he is really chatty but things seem justg a little awkward. His best friend asked me if I liked the boy and I said yes. And his best friend says that Bob (the boy) is waiting for me to ask him out! I am stuck and it is really confusing me! P.S. Bob isn't his real name

    As you like this boy, check out my blog on Your first love  for more help with this.

  • Hi its Terri again :)
    as you know ive had discharge for nearly 2 years now,and sometimes what it feels like a cramp that lasts for like ten seconds,sometimes i feel like crying for no reason and then feel really happy or moody.Im still flat-chested but my breasts have budded,but i have bot had ny first period yet .will it come this year or very soon ? I really need to know so that in prepared.
    thank you for answering my previous questions xxx
    from Terri ( this is urgent so answer asap)

    Puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's little wonder they feel moody at times so try to remember that none of this is your fault.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away so why not consider asking your mum or guardian for a Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack which is filled with a variety of products from our teens range which will enable you to sample them.  You will also find a Becoming a Teen booklet which is crammed full with useful information to help guide you through puberty.

  • Hey Vicki I'm 12 and have not yet started my period but I'm really moody and every now and again I get pain and cramps around my stomach and lower back, I also experience discharge. Is this a sign I'm about to start my period?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vicki, I just had my first period and I have a couple questions.
    1. Why does the blood never stop running?
    2. How can I make it feel less awkward to sit down?
    3. How often should I shower because the blood makes it feel like I peed myself and its cold and wet.

    First of all, congratulations on starting your period.  Try to remember that this is a perfectly natuaral occurrence for every girl and all it takes is a little time for you to get used to them.  Menstrual blood is released gradually over the course of your period which can be anything between 2-7 days.  You will find that the flow becomes heavier on days 2 and 3 and is lighter at the start and towards the end of your period.  If it feels awkward to sit down, I'm guessing that your choice of sanitary towel is quite thick so you might like to try our Lil-Lets teens Day towels which have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Puberty is a time when young girls sweat more and if they are menstruating as well, it is usually a good idea to bathe or shower at least once each day. 

  • Is it normal to have a period at 10?

    It is normal for girls to start their period as young as the age of 8.

  • Hey Viki

    Does everyone get discharge?

    The vast majority of girls release discharge yes.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I wanted to know around what age do nipples start to like poke out or be more noticeable?? I'm 38C/40C and my nipple aren't that noticeable

    Everyone is different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other so just try to be patient and wait for your breasts to fully develop.

  • hi vicky !! my boobs hurt due to stress , whenever i get stressed my boobs hurt , how ?? i mean what's happening to them ?? and do you anything that could help ?

    When breasts develop, it is normal for them to feel tender and sore and I don't think that being stressed has anything to do with it.

  • Hi Vicki, I`m 12 years old and I started my period a few months ago now. I seem to be fully developed apart from my boobs. They just won`t catch up with the rest of me and I`m only in an A-cup, and when I told my mum she said that is was weird because she said that when she was in this stage of puberty, her`s were much bigger than mine.
    It`s started to get really embarrassing so what should I do ???!!!
    Thanks xx

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it's only a matter of time before you notice breast development.  It is possible for them to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hey Vicki! So I recently told my bestfriend since 1st grade
    That I got my period (btw were both 11) and she completely changed the subject by acting all awkward. I know that she always gets uncomfortable when anyone talks about puberty. She then said that she had to go. It kinda hurt that she didn't wanna talk about it cause it meant something to me. I was kinda hoping she would ask 'When?!' But I get that it's uncomfortable for her. What should I do? Please answer Vicki! Thanks

    It is a shame that your friend is so embarrassed by periods and puberty and all you can do is tell her that if ever she wants to know anything, you will be more than happy to talk to her.

  • I vicky I measured my boobs and I got 77under my bust and 84 on the other one what bra size is that thanks nadiie πŸ’‹

    Your bra size is a 34AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki
    Soo baisicly I've had discharge for about 2 yrs and I've had very seperated belly pains as in I'll have them months or weeks apart and at one point I started to have a lot more than usual then I got to a more normal amount now I have less now I haven't noticed any red or browinsh dots in my kinkers but is the less amount of discharge a sign that my period is coming

    Thanx vicki

    The red/brown dots you noticed were most likely to have been your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Part twoπŸ‘—
    But I just want one of those fairy tale lifestyles where I stay at home and look after the kids and cook while my husband goes out to work. (I would even marry a guy I didn't like to have a life like that) I'm not against homosexuality and I know that you could get married and have kids with the opposite sex it's just I really want my life to be the perfect family.
    Am I bisexual?

    Puberty is a time when sex hormones run riot causing teens to feel deep attraction to both sexes but this doesn't mean you're bisexual.  So rather than putting a name to your sexuality, why not wait and see how you feel when you're a little older.

  • Part one πŸ‘—
    Dear Vicki I don't know why but I just think girls are so much hotter than guys. They dress nicer, look nicer and girls can relate to eachother but girls and boys can't. But I am really annoyed with myself because I always imagined myself having a big a white wedding and marring a guy and having kids. (I know you can adopt with a woman and get married to a woman)

    Response in Part 2.

  • Hi vicki!!
    I love lil-lets so much they are so useful!!!
    Anyway, ever since I started growing boobs, there has been this rim if hair around my nipple area and at first I thought it would just disappear or something. But two years later it's still here and I'm not sure if it's normal or not !!
    Thanks
    Jade

    Hi Jade this is very normal and often linked to fluctuating hormones a great many teenagers notice as they enter puberty. They generally disappear on their own after a few months, so please don't be tempted to shave, wax or pluck them.

  • Hi, Vicki,
    I had quite heavy discharge with a normal colour in the morning, then when i went to the loo at lunch my discharge had leaked bcoz it was so heavy and it was now a deep yellow so i put in another fresh pantyliner then when i went to the loo b4 bed it was like i pooped myself but in my pantyliner and quite heavy, when i wiped my front there was nothing there so i threw away my pantyliner and put in a pad. Was this my first period? MJO

    This could have been your first period and my advice would be to wear a pad for the next few days to capture any further fluid lost.

  • I'm 14 and I got measured today for a new bra, and my bra size is now 32GG, I was a 32FF before. I've never heard of a GG cup before.

    Please tell me, are my boobs really big, even for an adult woman? Please be honest with me, I know we are all different so I can accept if they are. I do like my boobs but also need to know what kind of bras are best for my boobs, and do I need to rub any cream into my boobs to keep them firm and stop them from drooping

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and both girls and women nowadays notice there is no one bra size for any particular age. I would consider wearing bras with wide straps and full cups for maximum comfort and support, but I am sure the assistant in the shop has already found the ideal bra for you.

  • Hi Vicky,
    This one is probably hard to answer, well anyway, I have a crush on my maths teacher, I'm 13 and he is 36, and I wanted to know, is this just my hormones?

    Try not to worry as this is definitely due to the increase in activity of your hormones.  Puberty is a time when teens develop strong attraction to their teachers, relations, friends, movie starts or sports stars and this is called a crush.  The thing is that crushes often fade in time.

  • I have a few questions on tampons...
    1. The first time you wear them will it hurt?
    2. Is there more than one place down there that you can put them in? If so where is the correct place?
    3. Can you go to the toilet with them in? If so how come?
    4. How do you know if you need to change it?
    Thank you

    All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.  The trick is to be as relaxed as possible before inserting the tampon at a slant towards the base of your spine.  There are three openings in between your legs.  The first is at the front and is called the urethra which is where we urinate from, the second is at the rear and is called the anus which is where we release waste matter from and the third opening is the vagina which is in the middle and is where we menstruate from and therefore insert a tampon.  You can go to the toilet by just moving the cord to the side out of the flow of urine.  Tampons can only be worn for up to 8 hours.

  • I am 13 years old and my mum started at this age but I want to be PROPERLY prepared so how do I know like the day before my first period ???

    There is very often no sign that your period is going to arrive and some girls notice its arrival when they visit the toilet and see blood in the underwear or on toilet tissue. So my advice would be to have some pads or liners in your bag and if you think your period may not be too far away consider wearing pads on a daily basis for protection.

  • Part 2. I've recently read that to get a boy your close with to like you is to make no contact with him for 30 days to get him to miss you. And I would do this but he likes someone else and I don't want him to forget about me and I don't want our friendship to be ruined, but on the other hand I've liked him for so Long and we have so much in common. All my friends say we suit. I don't want to sound mean but the person he likes, I feel, isn't the right one for him, I just need your advice if that's ok.

    I am not sure having no contact with a boy for 30 days will make them realise they like you romantically. But you could certainly reduce the amount of time you spend with him, which may allow him time to consider how much you mean to him. But why not simply let him know that you like hanging around with him and ask him if he wants to do some things together just the two of you. This should be enough of a nudge to let him know you like him romantically and not just as a friend.

  • Would you recommend applicator or non-applicator tampons for first time wearing tampons?

    Many find that using non-applicator tampons are easier for first-time use but the choice is yours.  You might like to consider asking your mum or guardian for their permission to request a free sample from the home page of this website as there are samples of both applicator and non-applicator inside and this will enable you to sample both.

  • Part 1, Hello Vicki, I've asked you questions about the boy I really like a couple of times now. So we've been talking everyday for about 3 weeks now and we talk at school and everything, we are really quite close because we both trust each other and stuff. I really really like him but I don't think he likes me back. think I've stayed friends with him too long because I haven't told him how I feel Ibut I don't want too because I don't want our friendship to be ruined.

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hey Vicki!
    My name is Zoe , I'm nearly 12 abd havent got my first period yet. So this morning I woke up and got a bad sting in my stomach it made me really need to go pee. So I did and when I did it really stung but its not a kidney infection l. Is this a sign the my period is coming? (I also have discharge) please answer!! :)

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  As for the stomach pain you experienced, please talk to your mum or guardian to see what they think.

  • Hiya- I have had this on my mind for quite a while now and I'm not too sure about it. Obviously as a female I'm going to start having sex soon but I'm not to sure what to do about pubic hair? Do I shave it off or trim (awkward) I don't want to scare a boy away . Thank you x

    If a boy cares for you then he will not mind one bit whether you have pubic hair or not, so please don't ever feel you need to change your body to be accepted by others, this is not the case.

  • Hi Vicki
    My discharge is quite heavy and wet. So I tried using a liner and it didn't stick properly and it kept moving around! What should I do??
    Thank you😊

    It may be an idea to try using a teens day pad on the days when your discharge is very heavy, these come with extra pieces of material called wings that secure the pad to your underwear so you can be sure it will stay in place.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm a bit scared to get my period because my sister has it and she is 18 and she often gets sick and she says it really hurts! Do period hurt? I have has discharge for about 4 months and I am not looking forward to my period! Also my sister and mum both got their period when they were fourteen does that mean I will also be 14?

    Not everyone gets their period at the same time as family members did, nor do they experience the same symptoms or issues that family members do either. So my advice would is to be prepared; have some pads or liners with you when out and about and see how you feel once your period arrives....you never know you could be like millions of other girls and find that your period has no impact on your life at all.

  • Hi Vicky,
    Does discharge happen every day 6-12 months before first period or is it one time in the month like a period? I can't seem to find out and my mum doesn't know!

    Not everyone experiences discharge and for those that do, they very often find that some days none is present at all. The amount, colour and texture of discharge is dictated by little chemicals in our bodies called hormones and their levels can vary from day to day.

  • Hi vicki, 3 days ago i noticed quite a big brown patch in my knickers, it also happened the day after but over night and today, it has started to stop and the brown patches are getting smaller, i told my mum and she said it was my period, i just wanted to see what you thought, please answer asap as im getting worried btw im 13 years old and my bra size is 32d ,thanks xx

    I agree with your mum this is your period and I am glad you have been able to chat to her about this new phase in your life.

  • Im 17 and i have no friends. Most girls my age are going to parties every weekends and going out every day with each other but i just sit at home on my own or go out with my mum. I lost all my friends at the end of year 11 and at college i didnt really make any friends. I just feel so lonely and feel like i will never have any friends:( help?

    It can be easy to get into a routine with your family and find you have lost contact with people from school or college, but I am sure if you got back in touch with college friends they would love to meet up and catch-up. You may also find joining some clubs a good place to meet new friends who often socialise afterwards; it really is now up to you to make a change and I am sure in no time at all you will find you have plenty of people and places to visit, but for this to happen you have to go out there and get yourself known, so be brave and make the first move to changing your life.

  • I'm now 11 and have been bra shopping and got one. During our growing up talk our teacher gave us a sample pack. I have run out off pantylinners and need more. could I please have a few please. Xxxxxx

    Why not drop your mum or the person who cares for you one of our e-cards and we will do the asking for you. I am sure once she recieves this message she will take you shopping for supplies.

  • I sweat so much. Not just a little bit but like it will actually run down my arm and i cant wear certain tops because i will get massive sweat patches. Even when its cold or ive just come out the shower i will get sweat dripping down my arm. Ive tried so many different types of deodorant and nothing works and i dont know what to do about it?

    Rather than use a deodorant consider an antiperspirant, this type of product prevents sweat from being produced. You may also find a product from the men's range of antiperspirants is more suitable as they are often stronger. You should also consider warm rather than hot showers and wearing light layers of clothing too.

  • My body hair grows so quickly! Like i will shave my armpits at night then the next night there back again. Is there anyway to stop them growing so fast?

    Once you shave any part of your body you will find you have to do this again and again and for some people this means carrying out this action two or three times a week. But don't worry if you notice a little bit of shadow the day after shaving this is fine and hair can grow for a few more days before it needs to be removed again.

  • I haven't started my periods but I would like to be safe and buy some pants liners but I am really scared to just go to tesco and buy some I am even to scared to use the self check out can you please help me I don't know what to do

    There really is no reason to be worried or anxious about purchasing sanitary protection and stores sell hundreds of liners, pads and tampons every day. But if you find self checkouts too impersonal, you may find visiting your local Lloyds or Savers a better option for purchasing goods.

  • I have discharge coming from my vagina, I am 11 and I haven't started my periods yet. It comes out white but it dries yellow in my underwear and it doesn't particularly smell nice. I haven't told my mum yet because I have been to embarrassed. How do I tell her and is it normal?

    Discharge is often creamy yellow in colour and I am sure your mum has already noticed this when she does the weekly laundry and will understand that this is part of your journey to becoming a young adult, so you really do not have to speak to her about this, if you do not yet feel ready.

  • Hey I havnt used tampons yet but I want to try is there anythink I can do to practise this and is there any ways I can stop it hurting. I also heard that tampons break ur hymen is this true xx thanks

    Firstly, the hymen does not break but rather stretches and this can happen naturally when you are active, when you have sexual intercourse or when inserting a tampon. However, if you relax and read the instructions inside every pack of tampons insertion should not be uncomfortable. If you prefer you may find that gently inserting a clean finger inside your vagina will help you explore this part of your body more in preparation for tampon use.

  • At what age do your boobs stop growing? I'm 17 and mine are still really small and i hope they will grow bigger!

    Breasts can continue to develop into your late teens or early twenties.

  • I'm 14 and have had my period for two years and it is a pain when I go on holiday as i can't go swimming, my mum told me I can't use tampons till I have sex, is this true and if so how do i explain i want to try them out?

    Many millions of virgins use tampons and enjoy the freedom them bring. You certainly do not have to wait until you have sex to use them.

  • Hi, I masturbate with the aplicator of tampons( always new ones, I don't use them more than once!) is this bad for me?

    Masturbation is not bad, but I would be concerned that the tip of the applicator may nip you so please be careful.

  • xxx Do celebrities use a mix of both pads and tampons when they're on their period too? <3

    Certainly when talking to the Lil-Lets Let's Talk celebrities this would appear to the case and a great many women and girls nowadays use a combination of both pads and tampons. And the great news is that Lil-Lets are the only brand that has both.

  • Im planning to try a tampon, but I wondered if it hurts on the first time time because it breaks your hymen?? Thanks

    Firstly, your hymen does not break but rather stretches and some people find theirs has already stretched when taking part in sporting activities. Just like anything new using a tampon can take a little practice, but if you read all of the information in the booklet inside the pack and relax there should be no discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki, last week I had noticed a patch of brown on my underwear.
    Was that my first period?
    X Ellen

    Hi Ellen, yes this was almost certainly your first period and I would urge you to speak to your mum about having products to use in the future.

  • Do you have a phone number so I can ask u a question without every one knowing my question. It is really private????? Please let me know because this question is really important and needs to be answered.... I swear as soon as I ask you I won't ever bother you again... Thank you I hope you will help me out. 😊😊

    There is a consumer care line number on every pack of Lil-lets products. But you can ask me anything on here in total confidentiality.

  • what age is it normal to start your periods?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 with an average of 13 being most common.

  • Hi, the other night I got a brown stain in my knickers and nothing since. I don't think it was poo so what was it? THNKS!!!

    It could have been your period so why not ensure you have some pads and liners with you from now on just in case.

  • Last year in the summer holidays I got my first bra it was 32a and I still fit into it and my breasts haven't grown since. They sort of feel like they've shrunk!! I feel like there is more space in my bra then when I first got it. Is this normal they haven't frown in a year?

    Breasts often grow in spurts and this is nothing to worry about. You may also find that your bra has stretched slighly over the year and it may be time to measure yourself again.

  • i fancy a boy shud i ask him out

    If you know him well and feel confident he likes you too, then I see no reason why not.

  • hello i just wanted to know how long u get period for

    A period usually lasts between 2-7 days.

  • Hi i dance at the royal ballet. I've got an extra bone in my foot the doctor says its called dancers feet, but when i asked my teacher she said its very rear and that only a few dancers have it and that it can make your feet stiffen up. do you think i should get it removed?

    This is something you should discuss with your mum or guardian.  Maybe you would like to book an appointment with your GP to see what they suggest too?

  • My period is two weeks late and I'm not pregnant ?

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Is it normal for the labia minora to be different lengths or stick out?

    Yes, so please try not to worry.  Check out my blog on Getting to know the reproductive system inside and out.

  • Hi vicky, I'm 12, how do you know if your a lesbian?

    Puberty is a time when young girls and boys can feel attracted to both sexes as sex hormones run riot so I think it is a little premature deciding your sexuality at such a young age, so why not wait to see how you feel when you're older.

  • H Vicki
    I'm worried. I started my period on the 8th last month and I had one on the 13 this month. I stopped on the 17 th and now I'm on again on the 27th. Omg I'm really scared. I don't have a proper flow or anything yet tho.... Please tell me it's ok and normal? I'm really scared

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • What does exfloiating mean as you've advised me to do it but o don't know what it means xx

    Exfoliating is when you rub the skin to remove dead skin cells for a smoother appearance. You can do this with some shower gel or cream and a sponge or purchase specific exfoliating skin care lotions that contain particles to remove this skin.

  • I have been on my period since April and will on it at a swimming party next month what should? Am I ready for a tampon?

    If you feel ready to use tampons then have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and let them know. You may even like to try our Lil-Lets teens tampons ideal for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • I'm ugly and every lad agrees with me and I never feel confident bu I know lads lime confidence. When I say there's ntn good about me my friends say I either have nice hips nails and earrings but they don't attract boys how Can I become pretty and make lads notice me thanks xx

    Be nice to yourself and you will be amazed how attractive you can be to others. It's that simple.

  • At my school there is this one boy I have had a crush on for the longest time. And he has liked me for a while too. But lately he has been hanging out with a new group of people who don't exactly like me. So he had been paying a lot of attention to me before this, but now it's like I'm nonexistent. I know he doesn't have a crush on any of these girls cause I had someone ask him. How can I figure out if he still likes me or not?

    If he is with a new  group of friends he may be trying to impress them, so why not wait a few weeks and see how things look then. By that time he may just find his new friends take up less of his time.

  • Hey vicki, so there is this boy an I just always wanna talk about him and yet I don't have any 'feelings' for him. I have all the signs of having a crush on him, but I just don't. I usually feel like my mind is subtely telling me I like him, but I don't feel like I do. I know this is random. And I know what it feels like to fancy a boy as I have done before. But this time I just want to talk to him and spend time with him, so do you think this is a crush and I just don't feel like I usually do?

    Could it be that you like this boy as a friend and admire him...it could really be that simple.

  • How do you say no to your guy best friend, without making it awkward or losing your friendship?😞

    You could simply say that you have seen so many good friendships fall apart when  romance starts to play a part that you don't want to take the risk of losing a good friend.

  • how can i ask my mom if i can wear liners.i have them for the just in case(first period) and btw i would ask for a sample but i'm not aloud.
    also i'm haveing lots of discharge.its been going o for 6 months.will i start soon

    A syou've been releasing discharge for 6 months already, I don't think your period is too far away so try not to feel embarrassed and explain to your mum that pant liners will help to keep your underwear fresh and clean and you will be protected frompossible leakage should your period arrive.  We currently have a Summer special offer which is a packet of Lil-Lets teens Day towels with some of our Lil-Lets teens Liners thrown in for free.

  • Hi vicki! Before i started my period my discharge was white, i first started my period a week and a bit ago and it ended 2 days ago, now my discharge is brown, is that normal? Or is it bad?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Part 2
    Hi vicki
    One incident that effected me the most was when i was walking to class this boy and his friends kicked a football at me purposly. it missed but they kept saying things like ni*** city and why do people hang around with pa**s like u?. this has effected me because i dont feel worthy of my friends (they're all white), and ive rejected a white boy who i really like because i didnt feel worthy.

    I'm so sorry you have had to endure such shocking racist behaviour in the past but I'm relieved that your school dealt with it effectively.  Try to remember that puberty is naturally a time when teens develop a poor self-image caused by the massive physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, so you're not alone in feeling this way.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest causing teens to be susceptible to stress too.  You have to believe that you are as good as anyone and are worthy of being friends with everyone.  If you like this boy, there is no harm in getting to know him as a friend too.  Try to remember that puberty doesn't last forever and you will soon come to terms with all the changes you are undergoing.  Please talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as this will help you and you will probably find that some of your friends feel the same way too.

  • Part 1
    Im mixed race. A year ago, for nearly a year, i kept being racially abused at school by different people at least once a week. The issue was sorted out, and i am now hardly ever racially abused. but i still feel ugly, and worthless. One incident that effected me the most was when i was walking to class this boy and his friends kicked a football at me purposly. it missed but they kept saying things like ni*** city and why do people hang around with pa**s like u?

    Response in Part 2.

  • whats an orgasm?

    This is a peak in the pleasure of sex and can be described as a tingling sensation or tightening around the genital area.

  • hey vicki i was just wondering if its ok to wax my vagina? my mum doesnt think shaving is good for you. Thanks

    Personally, I see no reason why this hair needs to be removed at all. But if you are keen to remove it then regardless of whether you wax, shave or use removal cream a little irritation or redness may be noticed.

  • How do I tell my mum?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about anything to do with puberty.  You could start the conversation by asking if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range from the home page of this website.

  • Hi vicki, my period comes very frequently (my cycle is 14 days) and i will probably have my period on my holiday in october. we will be doing lots of swimming so i want to use a tampon. ive been on my period for just over a year and ive tried inserting tampons before (4x) but i cant do it. i also watched the lil lets video on how to insert a tampon but it didnt help. what should i do?

    Try inserting a clean finger inside your vagina so you get used to how this feels and then when your next period arrives, consider purchasing our Lil-lets teens regular non-applicator tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for first time users. And you may find my blog on Tampons and the Summer Holidays useful. Finally, just like anything using tampons can take a little bit of practice, but you will get there in the end.

  • What's an abortion?
    Thanks. 😊

    An abortion is the medical term used to describe the ending a pregnancy so it does not result in the birth of a baby. Some people refer to is as 'termination of pregnancy'.

  • I went through my brother's search history (he's recently come out as gay) and saw that he had searched to the effect of 'how to self harm with a knife' and 'how to tell my parents I self harm' a lot. I confronted him and he said he was researching for a friend who self harms but I don't believe him. What do I do?

    I think you should talk to your brother and tell him how much you love, care and worry for him and think it would be best if he were to sit down with your parents and talk to them about his feelings.  Puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time for teens and as he might also be struggling with accepting his sexuality, he might be considering self-harming as his internet search revealed.  Your brother needs help and support so talk to him and your parents as soon as possible.  A visit to your GP will also provide him with the professional help he needs. 

  • hi vicki, I started my period around 4 months ago but I haven't got red blood even in the slightest. I went to the loo today and it looked almost black (with clots like I've had before). I know this is thought as 'old blood' but it's fresh and I was wondering if this is normal and when the red blood will actually come, thanks :)

    Please try not to worry as you're right in saying black/brown blood is simply old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.  Samll clots are also no cause for concern.  Try to allow some time for your period to develop as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regualr period.

  • HI Vicki am 11 my discharge came it dry`s up sometimes and turns yellow/brown. Its not dark when is comes out its white and sticky it dose not smell. My mom says it means my body is changing and my peirod will come soon.

    Your mum is right so try not to worry.  Discharge is usually a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and is also used as a sign that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  It is also normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • Hi I think about sex and I'm 13 and I want to know how to get 'pleasure' with out anyone knowing . Is this normal? X

    There is a massive increase in activity of sex hormones during puberty which causes teens to experience feelings of a sexual nature more than before.  Masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Ok hi Vicki,it's Phoebe,i am 12 im from mid wales,my mum knows ive started my period,i think it's my 5th or 6th time,but today i thought i had started my period,so I put a pad in,but it's afternoon now and i checked and i havent blead,just brown stuff help im to scaref to tell muk what the problem??!

    Hi Phoebe, try not to worry as brown blood is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.  If you released this mid-cycle, it would have been due to ovulation which is perfectly normal.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hi ive been having some problems with bras.When i got to get a bra all the kids ones dont fit me so my mum forces me to got to the adult bras is this normal ps i havent started my period yet.
    lilly brown

    Hi Lilly, try not to worry as there will be much more of a selection in the adult range of bras.  Just be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I am 13 and I have don't really have a figure but I do have small boobs and lads say that ill never get a boyfriend coz I ain't curvy and I'm worried that its true. Also I'm quite skinny and don't eat enough fruit an veg if i eat more fruit an veg will it make ny boobs grow more? Xx

    Try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and puberty is a time when teens undergo so many physical changes, it's little wonder they develop a poor body image.  Try to be patient and ignore the comments of immature boys as there is absolutely no truth in whart they are saying.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.  Look at ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport would be a good place to start.

  • The last times I got my period was 2 or 3 weeks a go. I am really scared.

    A menstrual cycle usually lasts between 21-34 days so try not to worry.  However, during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I'm in love with this guy. He is going to high school and I'm not. He's 2 years older. He had a fb though. I don't but I constantly go on the home screen and search him. And then I take pics of his profile pics and save them to my phone. Is that creepy?? An I fb stalking?? I would stop if I could talk to him but I can't have a fb. How do I convince my dad to let me have one. Thx

    It does seem very unfair to copy pictures from his profile and an invasion of privacy. If you know this boy and see him around say "Hi" next time you see him and consider just being friends for now and until you are older.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I started my period 3 months ago (April) and I might be going to Disney soon. My main concern is I might not be able to go in the water parks. I've been suggested tampons but I don't really feel ready to use them yet (I'm 11). Do you have any advice? PLEASE ANSWER!

    Thanks β™₯

    As there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Have a fabulous time at Disney.

  • Hello! I feel comfortable wearing towels or liners when I'm on my period however I like doing water sports in the summer but really don't like idea of tampons, I'm happy to not go in the water when I have my period but I don't really go near any water. I was just looking for some guidance. Thank you.

    As there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to think about trying our Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are absolutely ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Of course, the choice is yours and you should only do this when and if you feel ready to try them but  remember that millions of women and girls all over the world enjoy the discreet confidence that using tampons provides.

  • How do girls get horny???sorry

    During puberty, sex hormones increase in activity causing young girls and boys to experience feelings of a sexual nature more than they did before.

  • What would be the best way ti get rid of hairs on your body,??

    That would really depend on where these hairs are. Hair on the legs and under arms can be removed by using a variety of different products, such as hair removal cream, shaving, or waxing. Hair on the top lip can be waxed off. There is no need to remove pubic hair in my opinion but again some people shave or use hair removal creams in this area. Hair anywhere else on the body should be left and not touched.

  • I'm 14 and I am a bit concerned about my boobs. My size is really quite big and I feel really self conscious when I go shopping with my friends because while they're buying clothes in size 8 (with the occasional 10), I often have to opt for a 12 as a result of a large chest. I don't like having a big chest, is there anything I can do to change this like some magic exercise that would make me smaller?

    There is very little you can do to make your breasts smaller, however a good fitting bra will make them look nice under clothes and you can purchase a bra called a minimiser that is designed to make fuller breasts appear a little smaller than they actually are.

  • Hai Vicki,
    I am 11 years old .My breast started growing before 2 years and pubic hair started to grow before 2 years and i am getting white discharge for 7-10 months. For nearly a month i am noticing increased amount of white discharge. I also noticed that my hips are getting wider. Recently hair started growing at the armpit area. When will i get my first period?

    As you've already been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • what happens if you go to hairy?

    Try to remember that it's perfectly normal for us all to develop hair all over our bodies.  Pubic hair can be simply trimmed back or shaved if you prefer.

  • Hi Vicki, it's ConfusedKitten1. You previously answered the question where I said that I won't be able I go out with my crush even if he liked me because we won't be able to go on camps together. You said that was probably a rumour but I asked my mum (a scout leader) and she said that its true. So should I carry on hinting that I like my crush or not?
    Thanks for answering all my previous question, you have been very helpful

    Hi ConfusedKitten1, if you want to go on the camping trip then you may want to keep your feelings to yourself, personally I do not see why having a crush or dating someone should prevent someone from attending a camping trip.

  • Hey Vicki. will flying interfere with my period? Will it get heavier, lighter, bring it on ext. Thanks Vicki

    Try not to worry as flying should not affect your period flow so just be sure to wear enough sanitary protection to avoid leakage.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 16 and everytime I shave my down below area the day after I start having spots and breakouts down below and I moisturise all the time

    This irritation can be caused by a blunt razor or if you did not use enough shaving gel or foam when gliding the razor across the skin. It is very common and you may find it more suitable to let the hair grow back a little and then trim it back rather than shave it.

  • Hey Vicki,
    My names Sophie I'm 16 and I have a boyfriend, we have been together around 2months now and he wants me to meet his family, he has met most of mine but I have a problem with my nerves and anxiety and everytime I get the slightest bit nervous I throw up and no matter what I do it never seems to help .
    I'm scared that this is going to continue for ages and I'm starting to have a fear of being sick which does not help at all! Do you have any advice for this ?

    Hi Sophie, anxiety is causing this problem so you should ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to learn some coping and management techniques.

  • When I read something that's kinda sexual I think I get horny coz den there goes tingly bu I need a wee at the same time is that normal

    It is perfectly normal to experience feelings of a sexual nature as sex hormones increase in activity during puberty.  the muscles that support the vagina, anus and bladder are all connected which is why you feel the urge to urinate.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I don't like the idea of using a tampon but I know if I want to go swimming during my period, I'll need to wear one or else I won't be able to. Am I normal? Do you have any tampon-free ways of being able to go swimming during my period?
    Thanks for the help. :)
    PS: I haven't started my periods yet. I just want to know in advance. Thanks again! xox

    Unfortunately not.  Tampons are the only means of sanitary protection whilst swimming and it has never been easier to try than by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially to fit the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • How are girls horny coz I don't know and I don't want to be without knowing

    During puberty, sex hormones increase in activity causing young girls and boys to think about sex more than they ever did before.

  • I'm ginger an have blonde eyebrows and obviously you can't see them. I want to ask my mum if I can use an eyebrow pencil brim worried coz even though she wears makeup she thinks I'm too young for that stuff but I get skitted for my eyebrows and I don't want to tell her that I get skitted coz then she'll get people who I like in trouble, how do I ask her coz last time I backed out and I want eyebrows? Thanks x

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so talk to her and express your feelings as to why you would like to add a little eyebrow pencil colour to them.

  • Is it normal to have your period constant for the first couple of days then have a 12 hour gap and then it carry on. Then afterwards a day goes by and then there is dribbles left and it is on and off?

    Absolutely yes so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I started my first ever period in June I missed my second one and now I'm started getting this brown discharge what does it mean. I'm 12 and I have never had sexual intercourse what should I do?

    Try not to worry as brown discharge is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.  Brown discharge mid-cycle means that you are ovulating.

  • Hi vicki. I am 13 years old and have been having discharge for about 10 months. Lately it has been heavier, I have pubic hair and have been having stomach ache. Yesterday I also got a few brownish/redish spots in my knickers. Does this mean my period will start soon.

    The brown/red spots you noticed were most likely to be your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coning weeks and months.

  • I really want to try using a tampon but I'm really not sure what should I do ?

    You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and the most important thing to be is relaxed when first trying.

  • hi vicki, ive had discharge for about 10 months now, i have pubic hair, underarm hair, wider hips, boobs(small though) and ive become noticably taller. Also, ive been in weird moods recently- like shouting at my family over the weirdest reasons although they've done nothing wrong. Do you know when i'll start and what i should do in the meantime? How can i found out my size? What's a good starter pad? and how can i control my mood? Thanks B x

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away  You've noticed many other signs of puberty and a way of coping with your mood swings is to tell your family that your moods are not your fault, it is all because of your hormones.  Whenever you feel yourself becoming angry, try to distract your thinking on to something else.  Lil-Lets now offer a teens range which has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of teens so why not consider buying a Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack available in branches of Boots, Tesco, Superdrug and Asda to name a few.

  • I'm 72cm under
    74cm over
    And 76cm bust
    My mum got me all size 8 bras, and non of them fit. She thinks I'm really small yet she has never seen me, so I measured my self to see what bra size I am. Do u think I should ask for a bigger size?

    I have asked before and she said: u aren't big enough yet, u shouldn't even be wearing size 8. I like wearing a bra so u can't see them through my t-shirt, but all the ones I have don't fit. What should I do I don't know?


    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different sizes and styles of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.  The size 8's are obviously too small so you will have to ask your mum for some bigger ones.

  • Hi Vicki! I am 13 years old and I haven't shaved my legs yet. I am wondering if I should or not. Is there a specific age you should shave them? Thanks! P.S great website!

    The choice is yours but it might be a good idea to mention it to your mum or guardian first.  Thank you for your kind words of support.

  • Please answer this!! Why is my period turning black? Is this normal?

    It is normal for mentrual blood to appear very dark in colour at times but this is nothing to worry about as this is old blood and is considered a clearing out of the vagina.

  • What is the best way to get dry after a shower while you're on your period without getting blood everywhere?

    It might be a good idea to leave your sanitary towels or tampon at the end of the bath or pretty close to the shower so you can apply it as soon as you exit.  Having some toilet roll close to hand is often useful too.

  • PLZ AWNSER this is urgent today I am going swimming and this morning I saw some brownish redish stuff in my underwear is thisy period and should I wear a tampon for swimming. P.s I have had some of this brown/stuff before about 3 weeks ago. Pps I have a few pubic and armpit hair and small breasts. I have had some light yellow stuff before and I thought it was discharge I am 11. Thanks Vicki:-)

    Try not to worry as this is likely to be your period so if you feel ready to try using tampons, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  However, if you don't yet feel quite ready to try them, opt out of going swimming this time if your menstrual flow is quite significant.  As there really is no alternative to sanitary protection whilst swimming, they are your only option.

  • Hi Vicky!!!!! You answered my question before about when you thought I'd start my period and you said probably later this year or in early 2015!
    I now have a few questions though!
    I do A LOT of gymnastics and dance and I was wondering if breast development and growing can effect it much like if you grew you can't touch your toes any more and if it effected your period in any way?
    Also I'm going to Germany soon on an exchange and what should I do if I start then?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Try not to worry if your period arrives whilst on your German exchange, just make sure you're prepared by taking some sanitary towels with you and you might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners which will not only protect you from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.  Doing gymnastics will not have an impact on your breast development so try not to worry.

  • Hi vicki x when I see sex I get tingly feelings and start humpin my vagina and it feels really good is this normal

    During puberty, it is normal to experiecne feelings of a sexual nature caused by an increase in activity of sex hormones and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.

  • Hello, Vicki. I am 11 years old, I have started growing breasts and pubic hair when I was 9 and a half years old. When I turned 10 I started to get creamy, yellow-white discharge. I turned 11 in June, and now my discharge is clearer and heavier. I am a 32AA. I have had cramps for a week and my mum thinks it is my allergies. I have had a few mood swings and I am worrying my period will start soon.
    Thank you for the time.

    It is normal for girls to release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives so it is quite likely that your period isn't too far away.

  • There is this boy who I went out with for two months but My friend broke up with him for me because I felt like he didn't talk to me enough but actually I wanted to like get around it and work things out. But after my friend told him he said yes finally! This happened ages ago but I have had feelings for him since but I don't think he likes me, I try to talk to him but he just sort of ends the conversation. What should I do?

    If your instincts are telling you that this boy isn't interested in you, trust them and move and and forget about him.

  • Hi Vicki, I really want to start using tampons but I'm really scared about toxic shock syndrome? Is it likely that I'll get it? HELP! Thank you xx

    Please allow me to put your mind at rest.  Toxic Shock Syndrome probably affects about 40 people in the UK each year and it can affect men and women of any age.  You can get it from things like insect bites, burns, after having surgery or occasionally, when you are menstruating and using a tampon.  It can start like flu to begin withut you can also develop a sudden high temperature, sickness, diarrhoea, muscle aches, a sore throat, dizziness or fainting or developing a rash that looks like sunburn.  So, if you develop any of these symtoms and have been using a tampon, remove the tampon straight away and seek urgent medical attention.  It is always good to know the facts but please try to remember that TSS is extremely rare, affecting only a very small percentage of the population.

  • if you have just started an dit lasted for 5 days ow long will it be untill i start again

    Keep a record of the first day of your first period and then count on how many days it is until the first day of your next period as a way of finding out how long your menstrual cycle is.  Of course, in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can sometimes take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and this might last for up to 2 years.

  • Dear vicky
    I am now 11 and when I was 8 years old me and my best friend kissed it was a total mistake , but I cant stop thinking about it.i dont love girls but at that age we did not really understand.
    Please help x

    Try not to take the kiss too seriously as during puberty, hormones run riot causing young girls and boys to experience feelings of attraction to others.  The kiss was simply an instinctive thing to do and doesn't mean you're a lesbian so try not to worry.

  • I'm 18years old, 5'2 1/2, 8 and a half stones and a 34D, I want to loose weight I'm not fat but I am chubby like curvy in my thighs, will my boobs go smaller?

    Also one of my breasts is bigger then the other most prob 36D which size bra should I get 34D or 36D?...

    I wear strapless bras are they supposed to cover most of your breasts?...

    Thank-you so much have a great day

    As we enter puberty and become young women our bodies very often become curvy and more womanly and you are certainly no overweight. So please learn to love your womanly shape and don't worry about breasts it is very common for one to be fuller than the the other and you should always wear the size that fits the larger breast.

  • Part two: they have made new friends over their and It makes me annoyed because their friends think there really close to my cousins but my cousin actually wants to move back but her parents woukd miss her too much. I just wanna cry and visit them and their baby its make me feel really sad and no matter how much I try push it out of my mind i cant :( :( :(

    Please see my response in Part One and try not to be too upset or angry with friends your cousin has in her country of residence and instead focus on sharing fun and exciting news about your day with her when you can.

  • Part one :Hi Vicki, my cousins moved country 2 years ago, and we were really close and It made me so upset when they left, they just had a baby and they send me pics of him and hes so cute, It makes me just want to cry because I want to see them so much but it would cost my family alot of money to go visit. I just want to cry

    It can be hard when loved ones live so far away, but you can make things easier by skyping, e-mailing, telephoning or even writing a letter, which although it may seem a little old fashioned is always a joy to receive.

  • When can my period come! I've had discharge since November :(

    It is normal for girls to release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives so I would guess that yours isn't too far away.

  • Im sammie in 13 turning 14 in a month and im like 5'3ish qnd i weigh like 105 pounds πŸ˜‚ ive had discharge for like 2 1/2 years now and im really starting to get bummed out because im like the only girl in my school who hasnt hit puberty! Also my boobs dont match my body like that sounds weird but i have really curvy hips and you would expect me to have boobs but all i have is nipples πŸ˜• please help me

    Hi Sammie, you have already noticed many of the signs of puberty and as you have been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Quick question! Do you need to be a certain age to go into a shop and buy tampons???

    There is no age restriction on buying tampons.

  • Hi, um I'm scared to talk to my grandma about my period because its really awkward , but I'm going with my aunt to the beach on Tuesday and for at least 3-4 days I've been noticing clear discharge .. And in my lower part of my stomach I've been having cramps, I've never had my period, EVER!! And I don't want it when I go to the beach.. And I only have pads I got from I Heath class!! I really want to know will i get my period soon or on my vacation ,, please help Vicki !

    As you've only been releasing discharge for a short time, I don't think your period will be arriving soon as girls usually release discharge for between 6-12 months before their period arrives.  Lil-Lets teens Liners are great for protecting your underwear from the effects of discharge and keeping you fresh and clean down there so why not give them a go.  Enjoy your time at the beach.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I very soon go on holiday abroad and im due my period anytime soon, i will be swimming every day and im really scared i'll start my period when im there or just before.
    I have the tablet that delays your period that my doctor gave me but can i take that the day i start and will it be okay?
    I dont really want to wear tampons as ive never worn them before
    Thank you x

    If your doctor has prescribed the pill to delay your periods then I am almost sure he or she will have discussed when to start taking the tablets prescribed. If you have any concerns or queries you really should give the surgery a call and ask them to confirm when they wish you to start taking this form or oral medication.

  • Hiy Vicki,
    Sorry if any of these questions are inappropriate i am just curious.should my boyfriend be wearing a condom when we have sex or is there other options? Do you have to be over a certain age to buy tampons?? On te subject of sex is it suppose to hurt as I don't find it painful and sometimes I find it gets a bit boring, is this because my boyfriends penis isn't overly big?

    Condoms are just one form of contraception and for other options you may like to have a chat to your doctor or local family planning centre. For the reduction of sexually transmitted diseases then condoms are very important and you may find the Brook Advisory website a useful place to visit. In answer to your final questions, sex should not be painful if both partners take their time and listen to each other and if you feel on pleasure when being sexually active it may be time to stop and consider why you are taking part in this activity at all and possibly refrain from doing so for a while. Finally, there are no age restrictions for purchasing sanitary protection of any kind.

  • Sup Vicki. EMO GURL. The boy I like and I both had red and black hair and I just dyed the red part purple. My high school buddie said he did too!!! She was telling him about me on fb. And he said "she copied my hair again?? Jk we can be twinzies!! :3" like OMG I've been telling one of my BFFs that were twinzies!! Does he like me too!? Then he asked if I have a fb. I don't. How can I convince my dad to let me have one so I can talk to him?? Thx! :3 meow-EMO GURL

    It does sound as if this boy likes you and if you are 13 or over then I am sure your dad will be happy for you to open an account. If not then you could ask your friend to pass your e-mail or phone number to him.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My period isn't due for about another week or two. I always have discharge inbetween periods but today when I wiped I had like almost pink blood in my pants. It was sort of pinky/red and I'm not sure what it was as my periods usually start of dark brown. Was it my period just coming early or is there a possibility it's something else? I read that some women experience pinkish discharge but I'm not sure!
    Thank you! Emma, 14 x

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your mentrual cycle so try not to worry and the pink blood you noticed was likely to be your period so be sure to ask your mum  or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicki🌺
    I feel as if I'm losing my best friend she's not including me in things like last week she and another friend of mine went swimming and never invited me even though she said she texted me (which she didn't) and she's not been talking to me much what should I do I know this is a bit of a pathetic question but I just needed to ask someone

    From Sprinkleofglitter πŸ’–πŸ’–

    It is possible to outgrow our friends at times and as your friend's behaviour is upsetting you, talk to her and ask her where you stand.  I would also consider finding new friends so why not join a club for something you enjoy like dance, dram or a sport where you will meet like-minded people.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Keeping and Making Friends.

  • Hi Vicki...
    I was checking my breasts, because i do around every 2 weeks to look for anything weird (my sex ed teacher said its best to check regulaurly) and suddenly the holes in my nipples (which I can't usually see) are visibly open. They're really thin, like a pen line but they are really long?? Is it normal? I did actually ask my mum but she said it's just weird :(

    As you are worried and your mum thinks it's a little strange, ask her to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • I heard that you can sometimes get no cramps on your first period but as you get older you can then have cramps?
    Is this true? thankthankyou

    This is possible but there is nothing to fear as stomach cramps can usually be managed by taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle, having a soak in the bath or if the pain is too bad, by having a painkiller so please try not to worry.

  • I am twelve and haven't really started to show many signs of starting puberty. Will I ever start?

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • okay so this is gonna sound so weird but yeh, So I'm going to get measured for a bra soon coz me and my mum had the conversation but I'm really worried that I won't be big enough for a proper bra I'm 67 below and 73 above, what size would that be?
    Thanks x

    Your bra size is a 30AA and I don't think you will have any problem in finding bras in yor size so please try not to worry but be sure to try some on before you buy any.

  • Hi, I have had my period for over two years and it has become quite regular. I have had cramps for over 2 days and was expecting my period 5 days ago and now don't know when it is going to come. Any help?

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • Hi Viki
    when I'm on my period and i drink water it makes the pain 2x as bad why ?? is this normal

    thx

    I don't think that drinking water will affect your stomach cramps so talk to your mum or guardian to see what they think.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My body has been fully developed and i have had discharge for ages. I still haven't started my period yet. Will i start it soon

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki,
    URGENT...
    I am 12 years old and 57 kgs.
    I also feel wet all the time down there.
    My discharge is whitish.I haven't started my period yet.I feel really bad. I am really worried :(
    Please help me :(

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to your womb together with the normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they are ideal not only for protecting your underwear from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive

  • hi Vicki
    i wanted to ask you a question as i am kinda stuck in the middle of something.Its about a boy i like.. i don't really know this boy or what his name but every time i go with my mum and dad to pick up my sister in the car he is always waiting were we wait and gives me signs that he likes me too but i don't know how i can speak to him or talk to him if i don't know him i was wondering if you can give me some advise thanks
    your sincerely Megan x

    Hi Megan, there are simple ways of letting this boy know that you like him too;  a smile works wonders.  The next time you see him, why not go over and say 'hello'.  Check out my blog on First Love for more help with this.

  • i am on my period probably when im on holiday in august and i have tried tampons but i just cant seem to get it in any more than tow centermeters and we have a pool on holiday and if i try tampons again it will be on holiday which is a bit late also i wont be able to wear my swimming costume because you will be able to see my pad please help GJxx

    Hi GJ, all it takes is a little practice so please persevere.  It might be a good idea to wait until day 2 or 3 of your period when your flow is at its heaviest as this will make the tampon easier to insert.  Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons are ideal for first-time use as they have been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  Try to remember that women and girls all over the world enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides.  Have a great holiday.

  • Im 13 years old and I worry a lot about my weight.
    I am 5ft2, what's a healthy weight for someone this height?

    It would be impossible for me to say as all 13 year olds are made in different shapes and sizes.  Try not to worry about your weight as puberty is naturally a time when teens struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  To maintain a healthy weight, all you need to do is stick to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water and stay as active as possible.

  • Is unwanted physical contact an offence and is it illegal for someone to come onto someone and put their hand under their dress or skirt when the person doesn't want it? Even if the person is 16 or over?

    Yes it is.  If this has happened to you, please talk to someone in authority now.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 12 and I have used your bra sizing guide and found out that I'm a 30aa. Am I too young to get myself measured in a shop? Also do you have to show them your breasts with nothing covering them because that would be really embarrassing

    Professional bra fitters are very discreet and will be able to measure your bust while you still have your top on so please try not to worry.  Ask your mum or guardian to accompany you for support.

  • (plz answer)hey vivki im turining 15 in septemer and i think i am fullly grown because ive had my period nearely 2 years now im 5"5 i have been since like may 2013 maby grown 1 cm and i have had the same shoe size for over 2 years and i am the same bra size for a year ish now.we also got a talk in school and the lady said a girl slows down growing at 14 and you dont grow much after you start your period. so do you think i am fully grown

    Usually, girls stop developing by the age of 15 but there are always exceptions.

  • Hi Vicki!
    So i was on vacations i don't know how it's called in english a camp for children or something. Ones teacher of my group asked all of us if we liked any boys and who we liked. I was the only one who didn't want to tell who i liked because it's personal you know and then everybody hated me and said it wasn't fair. Later i apologized to one of the girls because she was a really good friend and told her who i liked. Now she told everybody! What should i do?

    I think it was mean of your friend to tell everybody who you liked but you should try to put it behind you and forget about it as everyone else will forget about it soon too.

  • Hey Vicki !!! How can I tell who is a real friend? I know this sounds horrible but I don't even know why I am friends with my 'bestfriends'. One of them stresses at you for no reason all the time. The other talks about you behind your back. And one would do anything to be better than you and thinks they're everything. It frustrates me so bad! I hate them but love them. There is only one friend who I know I can 100% trust . What should I do :( Isobel

    Hi Isobel, I think we would all like our friends to be just like us but that simply isn't the way things are so try not to be so judgemental and make allowances for your friends' differences.  If they do something to annoy or upset you, tell them and try to talk things through instead of keeping your feelings to yourself.  Try to remember that it wouldn't do if we were all the same and as humans we all have good and bad qualites and none of us are perfect.  Communication is the way forward I think.

  • my skin i starting to turn a different colour is that normal will it ware off

    The hot weather will tan all of us making our skin look darker than before and as I'm not really sure if this is what you're referring to, talk to your mum or guardian and ask what she thinks.

  • I feel fat. like around my stomach im fat and all my other friends have flat stomachs and we eat the same things. yea i know we all have different bodies and all but i saw this detox online with tea which is healthy enough is there an age when you can safely ( i dont wanna get anorexia) diet or detox? im 13 btw

    Puberty is naturally a time when teens struggle with their body image as there are so many physcial changes occurring all at once.  The best way of maintaining a healthy body weight is to stick to a diet that is filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, try to avoid fatty or sugary foods and drink water instead of sweet drinks.  By doing these things and being as active as possible, you will maintain a healthy body weight. 

  • Hi Vicki :-)
    I have had this light yellow stuff everyday is this discharge?
    Ps I have few pubic and armpit hair and small brestdsThanks

    This is discharge which is perfectly normal as it works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they are ideal for not only protecting your underwear from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hey, I have a few questions:
    How often should you wash your bra? I only have two and they wash really slowly so I need to find the most hygienic way to take care of them.
    I wear a 34aa but remeasured as a 32a, and I didn't really like my current bras, what should I look for in the new ones?
    Is the small triangle of fabric that connects the two cups in front supposed to touch your skin? Mine doesn't.

    Thanks!

    I think it's generally ok to wear a bra for a couple of days before they need a wash but in this hot weather and with the natural increase in perspiration during puberty, you might need to do it more frequently.  I think you should always try on different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • Hi vicki,
    I have been having discharge for a while and one day I noticed a bit of brown stuff in my pants and I don't know what it was.

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • which year are u ment to have first period?

    Everyone is different and it is possible for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hello
    Just to know its mine πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ’šπŸ’š
    Anyway im 12 and i was wondering is it ok to wear lipgloss and a bit of mascarra at my age ? I only use a little bit and dont wear it all the time

    This is not that urgent but do reply

    From Sparrow31

    I think you should talk to your parents or guardians to ask if they are ok with it.

  • My bestfriends friend didn't come on her period for 6 months so she started taking vitamins and it helped her come back on? Well that's what my bestfriend told me anyway, I'd it true about the vitamin thing or was it just a quincedunce? Please answer?
    πŸ‘™βš‘οΈ

    This I feel was a coincidence as periods are often irregular for the first few years with gaps of several months being noticed and there are no vitamins or indeed any other substances that can make your period arrive any quicker.

  • 67 under 73 over what size?

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • Hi vicki,
    I am developing breasts and at the moment i've got breast buds. I'm really self conscious about them and I quit swimming because of it. I still go swimming with friends but I feel really weird and awkward. I don't want anyone to know. I wear a bra at school which is size 32aa (i think) but i can't seem to find padded swimwear anywhere that suits my body type (as thin as a beanpole with curvy hips) and i'm really having trouble. What can I do?! Please help
    Thank you so much vick Xx
    Little Lamb

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to struggle with all the physical changes that are occurring all at once but you're not alone as your peers are going through the same natural process too so try not to feel self-conscious and be proud of your developing body.  It is such a shame that you've stopped swimming because of your breast development as this is a fabulous way of keeping fit.  Keep looking for a swimsuit that you feel confident in and please try to get back to it.

  • Why do guys in my class get so interessted in my when I'm on my period?

    I think boys are just curious about most things to do with females.

  • Hi Vicki!
    It's Dasha! Please answer this as fast as you can! So i have been having like really watery discharge like it has no colour but then it drys out and it's yellowish and i have been having it for 2 years now and a few months ago i got this small dot of discharge very thick and white and the same thing happend to me a day go. Is this normal? What is that? Why is it happening (the small dots of thick discharge)?
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    Hi Dasha, please try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out and also to release thick mucus at times.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners which are currently on promotion as a free gift in with our pack of Lil-Lets teens Day towels which would be good to keep ready for when your period arrives.

  • Hi vicky
    I get discharges a lot every since i was 12. I am 13 now. I can feel the coming out sometimes. And it comes out whute on my underwear and its goey (sorry if thats unpleasant) but its not watery. Also when it drys out on my underwear it turns into a faint light brown but only when it tries out. Ive been definatley having it for over 6 months. Also i used to see small red dots-(im sure) on a tissue two years ago, im definatley sure i havent started. Can you help me?
    Thanks.

    This all sounds normal so try not to worry as discharge is the body's way of keeping the vagina clean and free of infection.  It is very normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so you might have a while longer to wait.  It is also normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • If I'm staying over my friends house for a night whilst on my period how could I...
    1) tell her I have period cramps because I get really bad cramps
    2) if I leaked on the bed because I have a heavy period
    Also can you get headaches because of your period ? And is there any way you get get rid of mood swings / pms or just calm it down a bit not get rid of it?
    Thanks Clogsy πŸ’•

    Try not to worry as by simply being prepared, you will be able to prevent any problem you might have.  Please talk to your friend and remember that she might be starting her period soon too as periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there really is no need to feel embarrassed.  First of all, if your stomach cramps are bad and you have already tried doing some gentle exercise, ask for your mum's permission to take a painkiller with you to your friend's house.  As for the fear of leaking, try doubling up on your sanitary towels so you are better protected.  A painkiller will also help to get rid of any headache that might develop.  Mood swings can be helped by dancing to your favourite music, watching a funny film or by, most importantly of all, talking to your family and friends about how you're feeling because none of this is your fault.

  • Would you consider putting some of ur lil lets wipes in the starter kit??

    I will pass your suggestion on to the team.

  • I am comfortable in wearing towels when on my period but I am not sure whether using tampons would be better. I like swimming and water sports however don't like the idea of using a tampon. But when I am on my period I don't go anywhere near water! It would be nice if you could help me

    Try not to worry as using tampons has never been easier than with our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which are ideal for first-time having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.   As there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming, you might like to give them a go.

  • Hi Vicki, my question is Why do girls have all the pain/ bad stuff (eg period, reproduction)?

    Our bodies are designed for reproduction and periods are simply a part of this.  Stomach cramps are manageable and certainly not everyone experiences them. It is nice I think, to consider periods and puberty as your body's way of letting you know you are a young woman and as such in the future and if you want to, could have a baby.

  • Hey Vicki, so i was wondering if it was normal to have a brown coloured discharge stain and the the next day it was back to the normal yellow. Could that stain have been my period? And if so i do competetive swimming so if im not there then im sure people would notice and theyll know im on my period because i never get ill. Is there a way i can avoid people knowing im on my period? Ive not had a period before just to let you know.

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so ask your mum to buy some sanitary protection for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  As you do competitive swimming, you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use, having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  People will not be able to tell if you're on your period or not so please try not to worry.

  • My period is mostly regular but I am 4 days late and have been cramping for 2 days yet nothing has come. Is this normal and when do you think it will come?

    During the early stages of the mentrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry.  However, the stomach cramps you're experiencing might be a sign that your body is getting ready for your period but if this doesn't happen soon, please talk to your mum or guardian about it.

  • i do weekly swimming and i am going through puberty. i haven't had my first period yet and i am worried i will have it for the first time when i go swimming. help!!!!!
    Xxx

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there is really no need to worry.  The best way of knowing when yor period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi vicki
    Im so worried! I started my period last year and ive kinda got the hang of when it comes but two months ago i had sex with a boy. I used a comdom but my period hasnt been since then! Am i pregnant? Answer please!
    Thanks xxx

    Please contact your GP or the Brook Advisory Clinic on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk as a matter of urgency to determine if you are in fact pregnant.

  • Why do I always feel uncomfortable around other girls because I haven't got my boobs yet?

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girls' 20's so try not to worry.

  • I am 7kg under weight but really bony every were espiacially my collar bone I hate meat my school friends call me skinny I am happy about that but my other freinds call me fat because im taller than them

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to struggle with their body image as there are so many physical changes occurring and as you are a vegetarian, you should consider seeking dietary advice to make sure you are getting the right amount of protein and fats from other sources in your diet.  Please talk to your mum or guardian about this and ask if they will book an appointment with your GP to be referred to a dietician.

  • _______________________Hi,I'm 13 and I feel very self-conscious about my body because i look realy fat and i dont know how to stop eating oder then saying I'm full or i have a tummyache. I don't wear bras cause my mum sed i don't need them bt everyone else in my clas wears them. I've also started my periods.is it okay if you don't wear bras,what hapens if you do?whats the dif between bras and crop tops and what are pantyliner? Thanks.
    Please put this in the BODY section.

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to struggle with their body image as there are so many physical and emotional changes occuring all at once.  In order to maintain a healthy weight, you should try sticking to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water and try to avoid foods and drinks high in fat or sugar.  By doing these things and trying to stay as active as possible you will maintain a healthy weight.  Try talking to your mum and explain that as you are the only one who doesn't wear a bra in your class, you would like to try wearing a training bra which are soft and enable you to get used to wearing a more structured one in future.  Pant liners are thinner and smaller than sanitary towels and are ideal for protecting your underwear not only from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hi Vicki
    This is nothing to do with puberty ect.
    But I need some advice So I really want a dog 🐢 I've wanted one since I was 3 , I've reasearched for 4 years, I have lots of pets , my parents said yes 2 years ago and now they say no , they think that I'll be like other kids with a dog by letting them take car of it , but I'd never do that , I've never done that with my other pets , how can I prove to them I am responsible enough? Thanks panda🐼

    Hi Panda, as a fellow dog lover, I understand your longing for a dog but having one is a major committment and you ultimately have to respect your parents' wishes.  You sound like a responsible girl and so I can only suggest that you talk to yor parents some more and see what they say.  Good luck!

  • HI VICKY !! I was wondering what causes breast pain when you're mad or nervous ? PLEASE ANSWER ME THANK YOU !!

    I would imagine that this is not breast pain at all but your heart beating faster and your body becoming tense that makes you feel tight in the chest area when angry or nervous.

  • Hey, is it normal to get discharge a year after your first period?

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  You might be interested in trying our Lil-Lets teens Liners which are part of a Summer promotional pack of towels at the moment.

  • I'm scared to go through puberty because I'm think people will make fun of me for developing Punic hair and large breasts . What should I do???

    Puberty is a natural stage of development for all of us so why would anyone laugh at you?  Try to relax and allow yourself the time to get used to the physical and emotional changes you will undergo.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am getting a lot of spots on my body and not my face! I shower everyday and exfoliate my skin every other time I shower. I wax my legs but the spots came way before I started to wax. Can you tell me what's wrong with me and how I can get rid of them?
    Nina

    Hi Nina, spots are a normal part of puberty affecting up to 90% of your peers to some extent too so try to remember that you're not alone.  You might like to ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP who will be able to prescribe some medicated body wash for you which should help.

  • Hi Vicki thus is sparrow31 ive asked u a question before...um i was wondering what does a cramp feel like ? I have had like tummy ache now and then but it only lasts for a minute is this a cramp ? And why am i having them ?

    Stomach cramps are so common and are an indication that your body is preparing itself for when your period arrives.  However, to be sure that this is what it is, please talk to your mum or guardian.

  • Hey Vicki
    I have had 5 periods now but I never know when it is going to come because it is irregular and I don't get any cramps or nothing. Is there any way of knowing when it is about to come.

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • My discharge is starting to smell.Is that normal? And what should i do if not?

    It is normal for discharge to have a slight odour but using pant liners and Lil-Lets Freshen-Up wipes will help you to feel fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi vicki, this might be weird. So I was walking outside with my mum and then I saw two gay people kissing! It was soo..yough!
    I really didnt think gay or people really existed! I thought it was some kind of joke..? so it was really weird and it made me feel weird down there. I keep thinking about it, What should I do?
    sorry if inappropriate

    Falling in love is the most natural thing in the world and nowadays it is very common for people to show this affection in public, regardless of their sexuality. I appreciate this is something you have not witnessed before but try to remember that if you truly care for someone it does not matter what sex they are, showing affection is a beautiful thing and as you get older and experience more new things you will I am sure learn to accept we really are all different.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I hope this is not inappropriate but me and my boyfriend feel ready to move on and I am worried about my pubic hair what are my options?

    Pubic hair is perfectly natural for everyone so I don't understand why you would be worried about it.  You might like to simply trim it back if you are feeling a little self-conscious.  However, I will remind you of the Law of Consent which states that it is is illegal for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • Vicki, I have a question. Are womens boobs heavy. Im a bit scared if they are because I dont want to be carrying boobies around all day!
    Sorry if this is a bit weird and inapproapriate and riddicilous questionn but...yeh.. thanks. Im only 12.

    Try not to worry as you will get used to the size of your breasts as they develop.

  • What do you do when you think your about to start your period but really your not?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • This is really embarasing but:
    I am 16 and i am flat chested and its really embarasing because all boys like is boobs and i dont have none and i look like a 12 year olds and no bras fit me

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to develop up until a girls' 20's.  Try not to focus on the size of your breasts being the only way boys will like you as boys like girls regardless of their breasts size.

  • what happpend to girl durig puberty

    There are so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once during puberty.  Physical changes include: hips growing wider making a girl's body curvier, breasts become fuller and rounder, bones in the face, arms and legs, hands and feet, all become longer and the body naturally gains weight as you become taller.  Skin and hair become more oily, the body sweats more, pubic hair and underarm hair develops.  You will start to release a white discharge from your vagina which is a sign that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives. 

  • Hi Vicki,
    Recently I started my period and have been using pads since April (When I started) I've never used a tampon before but my Mum has showed me how for when I'm older. Is there a certain age you need to be to use tampons? Is there any recommended ones an 11 year old (Like me) can use?

    Thanks ~ Grace πŸ’œ

    There is no set age to when you can start using tampons but we usually recomend that you wait until you have had at least 5 or 6 to allow you the time to get used to your flow.  When you feel ready, you might like to try our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having beeen designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm worried about my period as nearly all my friends already started and I didn't yet and also I masturbate. Will masturbation make me not have a period? Is it good or bad?

    Masturbation will have no impact on the arrival or your period and it pays to understand that we are all different and a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18.

  • Hi vicki
    LULU HERE

    So i think my vagina is dry and itchy from my soap when i cleaned it,i didnt know i wasnt supposed to. Will it go away, its been here for bout a week or two URGENT ANSWER PLZ I NEED HELP

    If you have been experiencing discomfort in your vulva and vaginal area for a couple of weeks you must speak to your mum or the person who cares for you as you may have an infection that requires treatment.

  • So we are going to Spain today and my dad for once knew I am growing up and said have you started your periods yet? I said no and he said I got you some things jut in case it starts in Spain so I took them and saw tht they were only pads. I know we will be doing a lot of swimming so what do I do because I don't have any tampons

    Ask your dad if you can pick up a couple more items for your holiday and let him know that you use the other type of sanitary protection...he will understand what you mean.

  • I started my period in January this year but I have only had it about four times since then and they come at completely random times of the month. Why have I missed so many and how long will it be before they become more regular?

    Also, I always have dark red sticky little clumps in my period and I was wondering if that is normal.

    Thankyou, Angel

    Hi Angel, periods are often irregular for the first couple of years, with gaps of several months being very common. The dark clumps you are noticing are blood clots and nothing to be worried about, they form part of the lining of your uterus and again this is fairly common.

  • what is masterbating?

    Masturbating is when someone explores the way there body makes them feel by touching their genitals (the area between their legs).

  • what is the age you may start having your periods and when did you get yours?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18, mine arrived when I was 14 and I was the last of my friendship group of six girls to get her period.

  • what do you do when your first period starts and you're not prepared

    The answer is actually in your question and that is, to always be prepared by having some pads or liners with you whenever you are out and about. And you may find my blog entitled; Periods and School useful too.

  • In school im sceard to leek when im on my period how do i stop that from happening

    Using a good quality pad such as our teens or freshlock pads will offer you confidence and prevent any leakage.

  • What age should you start wearing bras??

    If your breast jiggle when you are being active or show through your clothes then it is time to consider being measured for your first bra. Why not read our Boobs and Bras section on the website.

  • Whats discharge?i feel dumb

    For all you need to know about Discharge read the section on our website under the puberty tab.

  • I'm really embarrassed Vicki!
    I have a crush, and I was changing for P.E. Girls and boys change in separate rooms, and the boys leave the lights on and girls leave the lights off. There are windows, so people could look through and see people get changed. Luckily, nobody does such a thing.
    So, I had my top off(and sadly I was closest to the window), and I wear a bra... And then my crush took a glimsp at the window and saw me.
    Now he won't stop staring at me at breaktime, and I don't know what to do...

    Why do you have to do anything, if this boy did see you it would only have been an outline and you were clothed. So my advice would be to continue chatting to him as if nothing ever happened.

  • Hey Vicki!
    Its Zoe here from Ireland.
    Well I'm turning 12 soon and I haven't got my first period yet.
    And earlier on this morning I got up and I got this sting in my stomach that I never got before. It then made me really need to go pee. And when I did it really really stung...But I know that it isn't a kidney infection because I went again and the sting was gone. Is this a sign that its Coming? Thanks!

    Hi Zoe, pain when urinating is not usually a sign that your period is coming and it could have been that you had a full bladder after being asleep all night that caused this sensation. If it happens again have a chat to your mum and ask her advice.

  • Hi vicki, I want to use tampons and I messaged by mum when she was shopping if she could get me some tampons but when she came home, she just handed me some pads and neither of us mentioned anything about the tampons. I don't think she wants me to use them but I'm 14 and feel I'm ready, I know it's silly but talking about periods is a bit of an awkward and touchy subject so we don't talk about it but I really want to use tampons :s
    Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Have another chat to your mum or ask if you can request a free sample from me to try, by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page. I am sure that once your mum sees our teens range of shorter and narrower tampons for first time users she will be happy to purchase some for you.

  • Hi Vicki, when I'm not on my period and I wear leggings I feel really wet and I know that's because of discharge but I really don't like it and I feel uncomfortable. However, I don't wear lining and when I'm on and I wear a pad while wearing leggings I feel self conscious so I'll feel the exact same with lining what should I do coz I like wearing leggings. Thanks xx

    Pant liners are very slim indeed and our teens pant liners are shorter and narrower than most other brands, and very discreet, so why not give these a try.

  • my period is so heavy that can not wear lil lets teen pads im not allowed to wear tampons yet so which pads do you recommend for extremely heavy flow thanks greatly appreciated

    I would recommend our Freshlock long pads in the pink pack for a very heavy flow.

  • Hi, I started my periods about 6 months ago and seem to be regular. They have been really heavy and I can't cope with them. So I keep crying. My mum is very helpful but I just wanted some tips on coping with heavy periods. Also when I am on, I keep going to the toilet, will this make my friends suspicios? By the way, I am 12. Thanx

    Heavy period can be annoying and you may find our range of Freshlock pads ideal for managing your flow. They come in normal, long and night and are more absorbent than the best selling pad, so why not give these a try.They will also reduce the amount of visits you make to the toilet so your friends do not become suspicious.

  • what is the difference between love and a crush? how do i know if i am kind of falling in love or whether it's just a crush that will go away? also, is it impossible to fall in love at the age of 13, if you know what i mean, like is it true that at that age its literally just hormones and it will go away after a bit? (i hope you understand the question because i know i didn't phrase it well)

    I believe it is possible to fall in love at any age, and the difference between a crush and being in love is very simple. Crushes fade away as you get older, whilst love stays constant and can only be enhanced the more you get to know the person in question.

  • hey i asked this before but i couldn't find an answer so i'll ask again: can you get any sort of infection like thrush or something from masturbating?

    I have answered this question and my response was that no, it would be highly unusual to contract any kind of infection from masturbating, unless of course your fingers were very unclean, which I am sure is not the case.

  • I'm 13 and I'm size 32e, is that normal?

    Hi, there really is no right or wrong size for breasts to be whatever your age, we really are all different you see when it comes to breasts.

  • i shaved my pubic hair down there and it feels really itchy
    what should i do
    please answer from chloe

    Hi Chloe, this is a very common problem when shaving in this area and my advice would be to let the hair grow back a little and this will stop the irritation and then in future simply trim the hair back.

  • DO ANSWER THIS ONE! Part 2-im so upset about the girl because i know her well,ive spoken to her loads and i smile at her at school and stuff, but i also feel so bad about pressuring my sister to tell me, i never thought it would be that serious, ive tried talking to my sister but she just won’t listen, i can’t explain how sad i am, what should i do?

    Wait a few days and then apologise again to your sister letting her know that you were unfair to push her into telling you this secret and also reassure her that this news will not be shared by you to any other person and especially not with your friends or the girl in question.

  • DO ANSWER THIS ONE! PART 1-I found out that my sisters best friend self harms, i wasn’t supposed to know but my sister mentioned someone had a secret or something and i begged and pressured her into telling me what it was, she eventually told me it was about the girl who self harmed, i was so shocked and upset, then my sister got really angry and walked out

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I have no fat on my pubic bone, it all seems to go to my stomach, can I eat anything that will distribute fat better?

    A layer of fat that sits under the pubic area is very normal and your body's way of protecting this area from harm. My advice would be to consider what you eat in general, ensuring you have equal portions of carbohydrates, vitamins and protien...think a Sunday dinner. By eating a good diet and exercising a couple of days a week, your body will find its ideal weight.

  • I'm 13 and my boobs are quite small. Sometimes my left boob hurts and when I breath it also hurts. Sometimes the same thing happens on my right but it doesn't hurt when I breath. What's going on cos I'm scared it's something to do with my organs and it's effecting my boobs help pls.
    Ginger xx

    Hi Ginger, breasts and the surrounding area can be a little tender, even sore from time to time and this is part of the growth process and nothing to be worried or anxious about.

  • I'm 13 I've started discharge and my period and my boobs have started to develop a little. In school I kinda get skitted coz I have small boobs and I hate it coz lads like curvy girls and I don't and I'm quite skinny and I don't have a bum either. Any advice on why my boobs are taking so long. 32aa or a btw xx

    Firstly, breasts continue to develop until your late teens or early twenties so you have plenty of time for development. Secondly and most importantly, not all boys like curvy girls, some like girls who have a great personality and are fun to be around, so please don't feel that big equals better.

  • I am getting discharge and I am really worried about my period coming. I am mostly scared about tampons, there's just something about them that makes me shiver. Any advice you can give?

    Firstly, don't worry about the arrival of your period, this is a very natural part of being a woman and for most of us it does not have any impact on our daily lives. As for tampons, lots of people are quite happy to continue using pads for all of their menstrua life, it really is a personal choice.

  • I'm 13 and I started discharge since yr 4 I didn't know what is was until last year and now I know there is things I can use to stop it from wrecking my knickers I want them but I don't want to ask my mum because I don't think neither she or my sister use them what should I do? X

    Why not ask your mum if you can request a free sample from me by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page, you will then have some to try and show your mum too.

  • Hi Vicki
    Can I use lil let teen tampons if I've had sex? I tried my mums ones and they don't go all the way in so I was thinking I need smaller? Would they be too small?

    They would be fine,  and you can use tampons whether you have been sexually active or not. Our teens range of tampons are just as absorbent as a standard regular or super tampon, just smaller for first time users.

  • I've never dated or fancied anyone but my little sister thinks I'm dating a boy in my class. We're both going to the same secondary school. I think some of my girl classmates heard because one asked if we were dating. I told her we weren't. We're only mates. Sure, as a friend, he's fun and kind but I'm not ready to date yet. I'm only 11 and he's 10 but is turning 11 soon. I know my friends are only curious and my sister's only teasing me but it's annoying me a bit. What can I do?
    Thanks xox

    It can be annoying especially when you are mature enough to understand girls and boys can be friends, without dating. My advice is to just roll your eyes when someone mentions this subject and let them know how boring this topic now is. They will soon get bored and find something else to talk about.

  • I get really weird stomach ache near the vagina when i am not on my period whats happening?

    This is almost certainly your reproductive organs maturing and this can continue into your late teens and even after your periods have arrived.

  • Hi Vicki, so I'm from the US but I'm a fan of yours, it makes me realize I'm not the only one that goes through this. Anyways, I'm 15 and have had discharge for awhile now, but I heard you can't start your period unless you are 100 pounds is this true because I only weigh 95 pounds. I know that the UK doesn't use pounds for weight but I was wondering if you could answer this for me. PLEASE PLEASE answer really soon!! I'm begging you because I'm kinda scared I'll never get my period! ~Gabby

    Hi Gabby, this is a myth and one that circulates from time to time. The truth is your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right, so be patient you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • I'm not losing any weight:'( I have been spending the past 4 weeks at the gym/swimming pool and I even went on a liquid diet for a few days, I always eat fruit and I'm still so fat!! I hate it and I always go home and cry because it makes me feel so ugly, what can I do? Please help:'(

    There is a difference between being fat and being the ideal weight for your age and height and if you are very active and eat a wide range of healthy foods then it could just be you are no at your perfect weight, so please don't think super thin is super cool...it really isn't!

  • Okay basically I'm going out with this boy T but this boy A was gonna ask me out but I said we will go out in the future but now I think I have more feelings for A then T because A kissed me and I don't know what to do because everyone thinks me and T are so cute and stuff please help
    Thank you so much
    April x

    Hi April, you have to follow your heart and if you really like A, then end your relationship with T, give it a few weeks and then consider dating A.

  • My friend has started her period and I haven't. We have this huge week coming up for us and she says that she needs to wear a tampon but they don't fit her. What should I tell her to do because we wear tights and she can't wear a pad and she will be on her period during this week.

    Just like anything new, using a tampon can take a little practice and a tampon should always be inserted in a slanting direction towards the base of the spine and pushed in as far as your finger will allow. Your friend may also find inserting a clean finger inside her vagina will help her understand what her vaginal passage feels like and may make inserting a tampon easier.

  • Hi Vicks I'm going into year eight now and all the other girls wear push up bras and bras with more padding and I want want to fit in but I don't know what to say to my mum, I don't really know if I should get one or not please help. Thanks x

    The idea of a push-up bra is to make your bust a little fuller and I do not feel this is appropriate for someone of your age. So rather than following the same format as your friends, consider how comfortable and supportive your bra is...that after all is what they are designed for.

  • Hi Vicki I'm going to high school after summer and I found out that for p.e. We have to wear shorts. I know a good liletts pad will do a great job but I'm wondering how to feel secure while jogging with shorts on my period

    Most pads nowadays have side sections called wings that will give the pad extra hold and security and for total discretion there are always tampons.

  • Hi vicki
    How do you get over a crush you have has for 4 years?

    Try to spend time being busy with friends and family and avoid being anywhere your crush is.

  • Hi vicki I'm 12 there's this girl she told me she loves me (she's 12) shes a tomboy and I think I like her back a lot because she acts and dresses like a boy but I'm attracted to boys not girls not even tomboy girls but there is something about her, the thing is when I'm older I want to have kids and a husband but the thing is in future cos we go to an all girls school it will be different and it would to be awkward and I don't really want to be liking girls, I think around my age I'm expermenting HollieπŸ’ž

    Hi Hollie, you are quite right here, during puberty feelings of attraction can be noticed for both boys and girls, it doesn't mean you have to make your mind up just yet and is really nothing you need to worry about.

  • I am 12 yrs old and I have had white discharge for about a 2 years now. 3 days ago I had brown discharge . Could this mean I am starting my periods?

    Yes this could be your periods as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm really obsessed with babies at 15. Is this normal? I love babies, and
    Everyone always comments on how good I am with them! I really want one, and i understand they are hard work. Is this normal? Love em. Xx

    As you enter puberty and become a young woman it is normal to consider babies and what it might be like for you to have a family one day. But they are hard work and it's important to have a fun filled life doing all the things you want to do, before a family tie you down to thinking of everything as a group.

  • Hi Vicki, I would like your tips for knowing when your 2nd period is going to come as you are not in your monthly cycle and you have only had your period once so you don't know what the signs are?

    This can be difficult as periods can be very irregular for the first couple of years with no tell tale signs they are going to arrive anytime soon. So my advice is to always have some pads with you and possibly consider wearing liners on a daily basis as protection from the unexpected.

  • Hi Vicki,
    2 years ago I started getting discharge, though till this day it is irregular. I am becoming a young woman in many ways, my breasts are developing, I have pubic hair, and my hips are expanding, which I am getting stretch marks from, should this worry me? After all these changes I have been expecting my period for a while now, but it has still not come. Will I have to wait much longer?
    Thanks, in advance.

    I doubt you will have much longer to wait before the arrival of your period and you may find my blog on Stretchmarks useful to read.

  • Hey, I have 2 questions that have just been hanging on my mind for a bit and i hope u could answer them.
    Is this whole "you shouldn't wear wired bras until fully developed" thing true? because all my bras have plastic underwire and the label says they are say to wear after 2 years of developing and it confused me a bit.
    One of my breasts is smaller than the other, its not noticeable with a bra on but without it is, is this normal?
    Thanks. :)

    There is no medical evidence to prove that underwired bras are harmful to breast development, but unless your breasts are very large and need support I see no need for an underwired bra. Finally, one breast often grows before the other and even when fully developed, no two breasts are ever the same.

  • Is it illegal for a 20 year old to date a 17 year old??

    No, not at all.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and I started my period last summer and last
    Month I went from a 32a to a 32c and recently they have been
    Hurting really bad, what's happening?
    Thanks

    This tenderness is very often noticed when breasts are having a bit of a growth spurt and it's nothing to worry about they will become less sore over the next few weeks.

  • What size am I
    71cm under
    79-80cm over (nipple)

    Chloisha x

    32AA is your size, but this is just a guide Chloisha and you may find trying on a few styles and sizes is useful before finding the most comfortable bra for you.

  • Hi viki
    My nipples and breast is quite up turned and you can see them threw my top.should I wear a bra.πŸ’˜

    If this worries you, then yes a bra or crop top would be a good way of preventing your breasts from showing through your outer clothes.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Thank you for answering my question. I asked about pain in my pelvic area. You said it could be my organs maturing. Do you think I can still be maturing ay 17?? its just because my breasts have grown within the past year and I even think I've got even more of a womanly body Now. so can girls my age experience pain in this region due to maturation? Thankk you so much, you are so helpful x

    Yes, the reproductive organs continue maturing into a girls late teens or even early twenties and even once periods have arrived.

  • Dear vicki
    i have not started my period
    so basically a couple of weeks ago i noticed a dot in my discharge and it was kind of blackish brownish red and then just not i had the same thing but i get nothing in-between part from some black dots in my discharge, is this pre period.
    Thank you
    Rosa
    P.S the dots are tiny like the sae of a pin prick.

    Rosa this could be your period or fluff from your undewear mixed in with your discharge. Why not see what the next few months bring before deciding.

  • Hi Vicki
    So about 3 years ago I went out with this boy for two years (I'm 11 now) and I really liked him. He broke up with me as we went up to middle school and now we are not in the same class any more, we are kind of good friends now but we don't see each other very often.
    I still really like him but I don't know if he likes me. I have known him for ages but all my friends say he is annoying.
    He is going out with one of my friends and I don't want to hurt her by going out with him. What shall I do??

    If this boy and you are no longer an item and he has a girlfriend, then it would be a good idea to move on and forget any romantic notions. There are plenty of other boys who are available that you can get to know and possibly date too.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm completely obsessed with my boobs. I can't stop cupping them with my hands and rubbing and playing with my nipples. I can't stop looking at them and touching them. Is this normal? I really don't think any girls do this or are this obsessed with their boobs as much as me.

    You would be surprised just how many girls like to explore the way their breasts feel and look during development so please try not to worry this is very normal.

  • Hi I'm lily and I'm 11 and I have little red spots all over my breasts and I don't know what it is. I've only had it for a day and I'm really scared! Please help!

    Hi Lily, this could be a sweat rash and is nothing to be worried about.

  • i know this may be inappropriate but please answer
    i orgasm every time i masturbate which 2-3 times a day some times even more is this normal
    please please answer
    from tiger

    This is excessive and I would find other things to occupy your time than masturbating.

  • I am 13 and weigh 117 pounds. I have breast development and also have hair 'down there' (awkward, lol). I have had discharge since September last year and once in about April it went brown for 3-4 days. Was this my period? If not when do you think I will start? I have never had cramps or anything like that so what do you think?? I am so confused, Amy😊 XxX
    (Iloveeatingmaltesers < so I know it's mineπŸ˜‚)

    Yes this was your period in April and menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. And remember too that periods can be irregular with gaps of several months between each one, so ensure from no on you always have some pads and liners with you when out and about.

  • Can you wear a tampon whilst having sexual intercorse?

    Absolutely not, the tampon would be pushed inside your vaginal passage and would be difficult to remove.

  • Hi Vicki! I've never asked questions like this online before, so forgive me for being a bit awkward! My period is really light, I don't even know if it is one, I have spoken to my mum and we just don't know. I wear liners as it stains and can sometimes show through my clothes. I'm 11, and many of my friends have their period, and I would just like the verification of whether or not this is my period. Thanks!

    Hi, menstrual fluid can be light brown or dark red and if this fluid sometimes stains your clothes then I would say this is your period and you should consider wearing our Lil-lets teens liners and pads from now on for protection.

  • I've just turned 20 and my breasts still look cone shaped-ish when I look down. Will they ever grow?

    This is not uncommon and they will become fuller over time.

  • Have you been to Northern Ireland? Do you recommend it as a place to live?

    I haven't I am afraid, although I hear its beautiful and would love to visit one day.

  • Would you say 13 is young to have a YouTube account?

    I believe their minimum age is 13 but you could always check their terms and conditions before you open an account.

  • How long has this site been active? And I would also like to do an advice blog? But not on a real website obviously, however I know you get blogs, is there a way you can use Blogger.com as an advice blog? But not like this one as that would be copying.

    The Becoming A Teen website was launched in September 2011. If you want to start your own blog then I see no reason why you cannot do so, but I have to warn you it is hard work and there are guidelines you must follow if you offer advice to others. Alternatively you can add your comments to our blogs; lots of girls do.

  • Hi viki I was wondering if someone becomes pregnant and they have sex a few monthes later could they become pregnant even though she already had a baby in her. And if so would they come out at the same time or different.

    From sharmi age11

    No once a lady has become pregnant another egg cannot be fertilised until her baby has been born.

  • I have a lot of arm hair and I know if I didn't shave my legs they would be very dark and hairy too at least my arm hair isn't as dark but its still light brown but I don't want to shave it...what should I do? I also get dark brown noticeable chest hair which I shave, I know it is noticeable because I took a picture and you could see it. Should I stop shaving there and wax it instead? there is too many hairs to pluck..weird I know!

    You should never touch the hair on your breasts, as this will most likely disappear in a few months anyway. As for underarm and leg hair this can be removed is you wish, but I would let the sun naturally lighten the hair on your arms, but make sure you always have sun cream on to protect them from the sun's harmful rays.

  • If I start lifting weights (not big ones) will my cup size go up?

    Most likely not.

  • Part 2: I know I'm 12 and you probably think it's too young to decide what I want to do but it's always something I've been interested in. I was wondering if you knew anything that may help me? My mum was thinking of getting me into an agency and I was wondering b if you knew any good ones or you have an opinion on it. I hope you don't think I'm a silly 12 year old that wants to be like a Victoria's Secret model because it's not like that. Thank you xx

    Modelling is a very hard career to get into, and the models work very hard and very, very long hours. I see no reason why you cannot join an agency, take a few pictures of yourself so they have an idea of how you look in the camera and see what happens from there.

  • Part 1: Hi Vicki. I know this might sound stupid but when I'm older I would really like to be a model. I know you might think it's stupid of me to want to because models might give 'the wrong impression' because their skinny and talk and beautiful but it's what I would like to do. I don't want to do it for the fame or because I want to look pretty. I'm very tall for my age (im 12 and 5'6) I'm slim and quite attractive (not boasting or anything g just saying).

    See my response in Part Two.

  • what are some clues that your periods are about to start?

    Discharge is a good clue and some people notice this for about 6-12 months before their period arrives.

  • Hiya vicki, so I have a sort of slit in my nipples (I'm 13) I'm around an A cup but I am moving toward a B cup. When it's cold or at other times.. They pop out, will they stay out as I grow more? Why is this happening and will I be able to breast feed?

    These little grooves in your nipples are very normal and form part of breast development. And nipples are also very sensitive to temperature and will very often stiffen and pop out when cold, only to become softer when they warm up.

  • Hi

    I'm nearly 14 and all my friends wear bras except me.
    I am 68cm under my breast and 71cm at the fullest part of the breast. Do I need a bra yet? If I do what size would I be?
    Many thanks x

    32AA.

  • Hey Vicki this may be tmi but yesterday I was masterbating and i had an orgasm but my right side really hurt and it felt like I pulled a muscle and know after it feels like I pulled a muscle what is it ?? I'm really worried xxx

    It could be as you have said, that you have pulled a muscle by straining. Don't worry it will disappear in a couple of days.

  • Hi Vicki. Recently, I have been feeling bad about my weight during puberty as I'm going through hormonal stages. Is this normal that I feel like I need to lose weight? Please help!

    It is normal to notice an increase in weight and a change to your shape. But this does not mean you need to diet, this is simply your new womanly shape developing.

  • Hi so i was wondering if you know when i will start my period. Im only just 12 and i have had discharge for about 8 months and for the last month it has been really heavy. My bra size is 32a and my boobs started developing about 1 and a half years ago. For the past month i have been getting belly ache. My nipples are also tender. Please answer my question because i really want to have an idea so i can be prepare. Thx 😘

    Your period may arrive sometime this year or early in 2015 if you have been noticing these signs of puberty for such a long time already.

  • Ive been having discharge for about 3 months now and its getting heavier now, how long till I start my period?

    Discharge can be noticed for between 6-12 months so you may find your period arrives later in the year or early in 2015.

  • I like this friend of friend's dress sense so I "kind of" imitated her style just a bit, not entirely. But I wasnt meaning anything by it and I think she got offended because she blocked me on Facebook and doesnt talk to me. I thought that was a little rude, I wasn't trying to hurt her feelings. Now I can't speak to her. What should I do? I tried making a new account but she refused to accept my friend request :(

    Give this girl some space, she may have been upset or surprised that you have imitated her to some degree. And for your part have a look through magazines and find some things you like and soon you will have your own sense of style.

  • I started my periods 6 months ago and seem to be around 4 between them but just now it was only 2 weeks in between. it has never happened before. is it normal?

    This is very normal and periods can have both short and long gaps between each one for the first couple of years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Sorry if this is creepy but Why do I often have random people messaging me on Facebook? Often transexual/transevestite or gay/bi people, when I am STRAIGHT. That isnt the weird but its WHY they message me and the things they say are weird and offensive. I always block the person and never even open the message but it just happens again few weeks later. Why me? I dont talk to them.

    I would imagine these people have seen you on another website and have linked to you. Why not close this Facebook account and start a new one, but this time add stronger controls and only give your permission for people you know to comment or visit you on the site.

  • Hy Vicki I saw someone posted asking if 3 people could date together this really bothered me, i don't think that is ok and I don't think it's a good idea, am I being mean? I am a really nice person but I know if my boyfriend and me dated someone else as well I just couldn't do it, it's cheating isn't it? I feel that it's wrong.

    We are all different and people will have different views on this. But as long as you stay true to your views and share them with your boyfriend then I see no reason for you to be too worried or anxious. It really is personal choice and my job is to advise and not judge anyone who visits this website.

  • Hi Vicky im 12 and i have been getting discharge for about 2 years but i havent started my period i really want to know when its coming. im an early starter because i started getting pubic hair when i was 9 please help me find out when it will come xx

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed you may find your period is now not far away at all....maybe even this year.

  • during my period, my vagina hurts a lot and i feel numb. ow can i help it?

    Relax and have a warm bath to help ease any discomfort.

  • I have a few armpit hairs is that too little a amount to shave

    Not if this is something that will make you feel more comfortable.

  • Hey, I have a few spot things on both my boobs and nipples and strech marks is this normal, they've been there a few months
    Thankyouuu

    Yes this is all very normal and nothing to worry about. Why not read our section on Boobs and Bras and my blog on Stretchmarks.

  • When I first ever use a tampon if it slightly hurts shall I give it a while to settle in or shall I try again?

    You can either push it in further or remove it and try again with a new one.

  • I'm planning to use tampons on holiday in the pool. I just have a few questions:
    1) as soon as I get out of the pool, even if its less time than the recommended 6-8 hours) shall I change my tampon? I heared that he pool chemicals might be absorbed by the tampon and could cause me an infection.
    2) is there any tips for inserting a tampon because I don't want to be unable to insert and me not going in the pool.
    3)if it slightly hurts when it's first in shall I give it a few minutes to ajust or try again?

    It would be a good idea to change your tampon when you get out of the pool but not because the chemicals in the pool will has soaked through to the tampon, but rather because it would be nice to feel clean and fresh after being so energtic. Every pack of tampons gives advice on insertion and removal and you may find our videos useful too. You may also like to consider placing a finger inside your vagina so you can get used to how this feels. If you feel any discomfort once the tampon is in, then you may not have inserted it high enough inside your vagina and you can either push it in farther or remove it and start again with a fresh one.

  • Help Vicki?
    What happened started on April 12th and ended April 18th(I'm not very sure!)
    I got brown stuff in my knickers for six days... night and day...
    I've had symptoms of puberty for 1.5-2.5 years... pubic hair, armpits and down there, breasts, I've grown two inches since the past year, heavy discharge.
    So in April, did I start my period without knowing?
    And it's been three months and nothing more except discharge ruining my knickers.
    Help?

    Yes this was your period and it is quite common for long gaps to be noticed between each one in the begining. So have a chat to your mum and share this news with her, so she can have some pads and liners ready for you, for the future.

  • Hi Vicki. Does everyone get discharge before their period? Or can you get your period without ever having any discharge?
    Thanks

    Some people never notice discharge and this is fine and very normal too.

  • So I'm going on holiday next week and I was supposed to get my period two weeks before we leave, meaning that I won't have to worry about my period on holiday. It's now exactly a week before we go away and I still have no period! I am willing to try tampons even though I have never used them before but I am scared that I won't be able to insert it an that I won't be able to go in the pool. I'm concerned that it might fall out in thr pool or the chlorine might give me a vaginal infection. Any advice?

    Hi, periods can be unpredictable for the first couple of years and my advice would be to take some pads and tampons with you when on holiday just in case your period arrives when away. Please don't worry about chlorine in the water this will not cause you any problems and if you follow the instructions in every pack of tampons you will find using them very easy.

  • hiya. i have been gettung discharge for a while and now it has gone like bright yellow like lemoney yellow what does this mean do i have and infection ???? PLEASE answer thank you kind regards.... x

    No you do not have an infection and discharge can vary from being clear and runny to creamy yellow and thick from day to day and this change is caused by the level of hormones in your body fluctuating and is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi vicki , I am 13 years old and I started my period last year and I have had a small flow and once a month up until last month I had my period twice last month and it was mediam flow but this month it was a really heavy flow and it lasted 7 days this month when usally it lasts about 3-4 days is there something wrong with me I'm really worryed :( xxx

    Please don't be worried, periods can often be irregular with heavy and light flows being noticed from period to period. Remember your body is still working out the right menstrual cycle just for you and this change to the amount of blood lost is all part of this process.

  • Hi Vicki!
    On average, how long does your period last for?
    Thanks xx

    Anything from 2-10 days.

  • What is the difference between your period, fertilisation and ovulating?
    Thanks, Verity x

    Your menstrual cycle is a monthly process in which you will ovulate (release an egg from your ovary), and if that egg is feritilised by a male's sperm you may become pregnant. But if you don't then within  this menstrual cycle you will have your period for anything from 2-10 days.

  • I'm a dancer. I've recently started gaining weight, i think its cause of my puberty. I'm worried about gaining too much so I've started working out more, but so far its not helping do you think its safe for me to diet?

    I would never recommend dieting and exercise and health eating will help you find your natural weight. Remember too that as you become a young woman your body will become curvier and more womanly and this is very natural.

  • My friend has had discharge for 2 years now and she still hasnt had her period?? Is that a bad thing because she is only 12 though??



    No this is very normal and lots of girls experience discharge for more than a year, so tell your friend not to worry.

  • How will i be able to get free samples of lil-lets products?

    Click on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page and drop me a line.

  • When I'm in school I get sweaty down that area but I get really worried because once I leaked and it went onto my trousers and I didn't tell anybody because at that time none of my friends knew I had started my period (they do now) I wear panty liners but when I get my period they don't absorb enough of the blood and have made me leak in several situations, how can I make myself feel more confident and not worry about this monthly ?

    Pant liners are not suitable for periods and you should consider wearing a pad such as our Lil-Lets teens or freshlock ranges. Pant liners are only suitable for discharge and keeping you feeling clean and fresh in between periods. So have a chat to your mum and ask her to pick you up some sanitary pads next time she goes shopping.

  • I made friends with a really nice girl, called E and she told me she had a crush on a boy called J. We were friends, and two months later he told me he liked E. Towards the end of the year, he told me he no longer had feelings for her. As I started going through puberty I noticed I was starting to get attracted to him. Is this because he no longer likes someone else, or is it a part of puberty?

    It could be that as you have started to get to know this boy you have grown to like him to. Why not wait and see what the future brings and if there is something more than friendship between you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Would discharge come before, during or after periods? I am very curious about this, also, are there any sign of discharge?

    Discharge can be noticed before and in between periods and until your late twenties for some people.

  • i am 11 years old.2 years before i started to develop breast.i am getting white discharge for past 6-8 months. i have bushy pubic hair and some hair started to grow in armpit area before 1-2 months . i have little hair over there now.white discharge is coming more as compared to before.why?when will i get my first period ?

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed your period may be with you sometime this year or early in 2015.

  • I want to try out some applicator tampons but I don't want to ask my mum to buy some. I've heard that you could try out some for free, is this true? If so how can I get them? Thanks Vicky! Skye xx

    Hi Skye, we do offer a free sample pack that contains one of each product from our teens range. Simply click on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page and drop me a line asking for one.

  • Heya Vicki!

    I have had all the signs of starting my period (cramps, mood swings, etc) for nearly 2 weeks. Do you think it is coming soon? I am anxious to start it because I am going on holiday that will involve swimming. I don't think I will be comfortable wearing a tampon because this is my first period.

    Thanks a million!
    May xxx

    P.s: Does spotting count as your first period? I haven't had any yet though...

    The signs of puberty can last for several years and you may find your period arrives this month, this year or even next year. So rather than being anxious, consider being prepared and have some pads or liners with you from now on and when you go on holiday.

  • Dear Vicky, I feel so angry with myself all the time because I hate what I look like. Many people say I'm beautiful but I can't except their compliments because I don't believe there true. I have no self confidence and it seems like my ex boyfriend compares me to other girls and then judges me. What is wrong with me? Am I just paranoid? Many thanks Lydia x

    Firstly, Lydia remind your boyfriend that he is with you now and not his exes and as such he should cease discussing them. Secondly, listen to your friends, it is quite normal to feel a little self-conscious during your teen years but I am sure you are as beautiful as everyone says. Finally, if your boyfriend continues to compare you to others....get a new boyfriend!

  • How do gjrls get horny???my head of year keeps torching me nd saying im pretty is this fine ?

    No this is not fine and I would have a chat to your parents and ask them to speak to both him and the head of the school.

  • Hey so every one has a crush on my head of year every time i see him my down below gets tingli is this normal ????

    It is normal to have a crush on a teacher and to find that as you enter puberty you notice new feelings of a sexual nature that were not there before, such as a tingling in between your legs. This is your body preparing you for adulthood and nothing to worry about.

  • what do you do if you have planned to go swimming nut you get your period? p.s. I've already started mine . thanks

    Then you could use a tampon and go swimming or if you are not yet ready for this move to internal sanitary protection it may be an idea to say you have a tummy bug or cold and make an excuse to sit this one out.

  • I have hair in my belly nd boobs is this normal

    Actually this is very normal and you will start to notice an increase in hair all over your body as you enter puberty. But don't worry in a few months it will disappear.

  • Hey vicky one boobs is bigger then the other im worried i dont wear bras nd im 14

    Why not read our section entitled Boobs and Bras, you will see that most people notice breast growth to one breast first and that even when fully developed no two breasts are ever the same size.

  • Dear Vicki ,
    I have a problem. You can see my breasts threw my top and it makes me feel very uncofortable. Although I am Told by my friends I do not Need a bra.What should I do πŸ’­πŸ’­πŸ’­
    Thank You Please answer
    A.S.A.Pxxx

    Even if your breasts are not yet large enough for a bra, if you feel it would make you feel more confident, I would definitely ask your mum to pop you along to your local store to purchase one.

  • Since I have started my period I have become more horrible towards my older sister and closer and more of a mummy's girl I don't know why and I think it might be to do with my hormones. Any advice or explanations? Thanks xx

    It could be your hormones and very often sisters clash as they enter puberty. Try to have equal measures of time with your sister when you do fun things, that way when you do clash you will have good memories to fall back on.

  • Hi Vicki, what could I measure my bra size with? I am familiar with the bra guide but I don't have anything to measure around my body.
    I don't want to have a professional fitting so have you got any advice?
    From ConfusedKitten1
    P.S: I love the site because it has been so helpful to me

    You could use string, if you do not have a tape measure, to find your measurements and then place the string next to a ruler to get your measurements.

  • Hi, I'm 13 years old and I started my period last year. For a while. Since year 6 I'd say I have had blackheads and they are only on my nose, chin, forehead and the part of my cheeks that are near the nose. I use a liquid type thing to get rid of them but it doesn't do anything to help and my mum says it's the best product for them and I don't know what to do about them. xx

    This area for spots you are noticing is called your T-Zone and you may find exfloiating a couple of times a week keeps your pores from becoming blocked too often.

  • Hi Vicki, I like this really sweet guy (H) but my best friend (G) is his sister. Do you think it would be a bad idea to date him? Also, we go to scouts and if we dated, we wouldn't be able to go on camps together. Should I tell him how I feel or should I leave it?
    From confusedkitten1

    Hi ConfusedKitten1, I have answerd this question this morning so have a look for my response in your original question to me.

  • One boob is bigger then the other is thus normal im really sceard plz answe

    It is very normal and you may find our section on Boobs and Bras very useful.

  • I am growing hair on my belly boobs every were loads is this normle i have shaved but my friends say not to plz answer um sceard it will get worser

    Hair does become more visible all over the body as you enter puberty and I would certainly not recommend removing hair from your breasts, tummy or arms. As you continue to get older you will notice this hair disappears naturally.

  • Part2: Should I just use the nair cream or shave without telling mum cos I think she will say that it doesn't matter as no one can really see the hair cos it's so light so don't shave/use nair or should I just ask her? Thx soooo much vickimπŸ’šπŸ’œπŸ’™πŸ’›

    I would ask her permission before removing leg hair, she may feel this is unecessary, but I am sure when you tell her how you feel she will reconsider.

  • Part 1 :I started my period bout 5 months ago and my mum 1st told me to get rid of the hair on my underarm by using nair removal cream now I just kinda use a razor. But I have extremely pale skin and hair therefore my leg hair is very very light blonde. It is very long and I am embarrassed about it as everyone in my year shaves! .........

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Why are my period pains so bad? I can't get comfy, I'm in agony, any advise on reducing them? Also can you leak through a tampon?

    Gentle exercise will help with period cramps as will a warm bath or hot water bottle. It is possible to leak when wearing a tampon and this generally means you should increase the absorbency to the next size and whilst your period is heavy.Why not read my blog entitled Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • There's a boy in my class who I have a crush on, but I don't know if he likes me. He's been high fiving me a lot, and I've caught him looking at me a lot recently in classes. But he texts other girls a lot, and we don't text, so I don't really know what to think. Do you think he likes me?

    He may like you, but it also sounds as if he likes other girls too. So continue to be friends and see how things go in the future.

  • What age do girls get periods? Can they get them at 10/11?

    Yes a period can start from between the ages of 8-18.

  • I keep dreaming about this boy, I' not sure what it means HELP

    Very often we dream about people or places that have been on our minds during the day or week and it really is nothing to worry about.

  • Hiya
    My question is. How can I control my flow from giong on to my pants and wich product is the best for heavy flow ? I ask this this happens and I am scared for my dad to notise when wearing casual clothes.

    Thank you
    XXX

    Why not consider our Lil-Lets Freshlock normal, long and night pads if you have a very heavy flow. They work for me every time.

  • Hi vicki
    when i am on my period and i go to the toilet to change my pad/tampon i have to take my bag with me and it is really awquard because most of the time we sit with boys and they ask me why i am taking my bag and i have no idea wat to say?! Pls help?
    xxx

    Why not get into the habit of always taking your bag with you to the toilet, that way it will not seem strange when you do it in future. And you can simply tell the boys you are freshening up and most women take their bag to the toilet with them.

  • I have blood in my pants and my mum doesn't think its my period yet but it might come soon, do you think it's my period?

    Blood in your underwear does sound very much like your first period so why not ensure that from now on you always have some pads or liners in your bag just in case your next period arrives.

  • How do I tell teachers that I'm on my period so I can't go swimming because in in year five and they might not believe me.it is really embarrasing to tell teachers because I'm the only one who has had their period in my whole school.

    Ask your mum or the person who cares for you to have a chat to either your teacher or the head and she can then explain the situation and why from time to time you may have to miss swimming.

  • I get like yellowish white marks in my underwear and I was wondering is this discharge?

    Yes this is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and healthy.

  • Hi Vicki, if one of your friends got talked abt behind her back, would you tell them what the other ppl said abt her

    I would stay out of this and instead urge the people who are doing the talking to stop and consider this girl's feelings.

  • Hi Vicki I have a dry spot that won't go away, I think it's cos I keep picking it.How can I make it go away ?

    Moisturise this area day and night and eventually the skin will become supple again and you will be less inclined to pick it.

  • I'm 14 and I haven't started my period and I have not had any discharge as far as I'm aware of.
    I feel like I want to start but is this weird?

    Lots of girls look forward to the arrival of their period and you may be one of the many girls that never notices discharge, so please try not to worry and be patient you have plenty of time for your period to arrive.

  • Hi i started my period nearly two months ago but i havent started again since. My mum knows that i havent started again too. But i have been having loads and loads of dishcharge. What should i do about my period?
    Thnx

    Periods are often irregular for the first couple of years, with gaps of several months in between each one being very common and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki

    I was just wondering, does ur weight make a dufference to the size of ur breasts, because on of my friends is overweight, and has larger breasts, whereas i am skinny and have very small ones. Thx
    πŸ’›πŸ’œπŸ’›πŸ’œπŸ’›πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„

    It can sometimes make a little  bit of a difference to breast size, but equally some very slim girls will notice fuller breasts, it really does depend on family members and their breast size for the majority of the time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Once you have your period, do your breasts grow? Or do they start to stop? I was just wondering as I've started mine a few months ago but my breasts are very small and i don't want to stop where I am now.
    Thanks

    Breasts continue to grow until your late teens or early twenties so you have plenty of time left for development.

  • what can be done about inverted nipples other than surgery?

    Hi Keely, inverted nipples; when the nipple sits inside the areola often come out on their own as your breast continues to develop. If this is not the case then you can buy shields or pumps that gently tease the nipple out and these are very effective.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 12 and I have discharge for 14 months. I have had all the stages for starting my period however I haven't had stomach cramps but I know not everyone gets these before starting. roughly how long will it be until my period.
    Thank you sooo much
    Keely
    X

    Hi Keely, discharge is a great sign that your period is not too far away and although I cannot give you an exact date, you may find its here sometime this year or early in 2015.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm 14 and I haven't started my period yet, even though I'm developed. I've been having discharge for about four years now. Today I looked in my underwear and saw that my discharge is a really dark brown. I've looked everywhere, but I can't find anything on it. I don't know if I'm starting my period or not because I haven't had any cramps all day. I first noticed the discharge at around noon today and it is now 3:00 a.m and the discharge is still the same color. Please help me out.

    This is almost certainly your period and not everyone experiences cramps either during or before their period arrives, so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they will ensure you have some products to protect your underwear.

  • Hi its lucy this is my question what is a yeast infection an is it dangerous thanks xxxx

    A yeast or vaginal infection is when the natural balance in your vagina becomes unsettled and it can feel a little swollen, red or sore and occasonally discharge can have an odour. But it is not dangerous and is easily cleared up with medication from either the doctor of your local pharmacy.

  • Im the oldest in my friendship group, and the only one who isn't developed. If I mention anything remotely linked to puberty my friends will laugh.
    Im only 14 and I know some people are late bloomers, but it makes me feel different, especially since everyone in my family has problems with their reproductive systems.
    Im also worried because my mum said if I don't start my periods or get signs soon she will take me for a smear test and I really don't feel comfortable with that.

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for your period to arrive and I would not worry to much. If in a few years it is not here a doctor will run a number of tests to identify why this is.

  • Hi its Katie my question is if u get a yeast infection is it dangerouse and ho can u get rid of it xxx

    Vaginal infections are not usually dangerous or serious and if treated quicky they generally clear up very easily.

  • HI Vicki!

    I have had my first period, but i havent had my second. It's already been two and a half months... Is that normal?

    Nici, 12

    Hi Nic, this is very normal and lots of girls notice long gaps between each period for the first couple of years and as their body works out the right monthly cycle just for them.

  • why can you not wear a pad in the swimming pool? im going on holiday in 3 days and i think im getting another period when im holiday can you help me please?

    Pads are not desgined to be imersed in water and if they were there is a great chance they would split and release their contents into the pool and I am sure you would not want that. So if you intend to be in the water for any length of time when on your period you may find a tampon a much better option.

  • During my period I get really dizzy when I stand up and it's hard when I'm in school. When I sit or lie down the dizziness goes away, but only until I try to get up. Is this related to my periods or not?
    I'm fourteen and iv had my period for two year and it's only happened during the past few months.
    :)

    This is far more likely to be linked to the warm weather we are enjoying, so ensure you eat 3 times a day, with healthy snacks in between if you need to and drink lots of water to stay hydrated.

  • URGENT!! 😨
    Please, please, PLEASE answer this question!
    I just started my period and I am home alone, blood is going everywhere and I cant find any tampons or pads!!!! My cramps hurt sooo much!!😫
    What do I do?!??

    πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•πŸŒ•

    Place some toilet tissue in your underwear and wait for your mum to come home, or if you have her number drop her a text letting her know your period is here and you cannot find any pads to use. She will then bring some home for you or let you know where she keeps her supply.

  • Hi,
    I want to use tampons but my mum won't let me. Can I use them without her knowing?

    I would not use a tampon without your mum's permission, but you could have another chat letting her know you feel ready to use them and she may like to buy our Lil-Lets teens tampons for you to try, they are designed for girls new to tampon use and are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • Well I have very hairy legs and my friends are already shaving and u have asked my my mom a few times if I can shave or removal cream and she says until I am 18 and I am 11 can I at least shave next year I think my mom is kinda crazy 14 is most and I don't know how to tel her that I am ready and confident and just about fine about doing it and I know that my mom has gone through this too and blah blah but I need advice ur the only one that helps thank u
    Francis🐈

    Hi Francis, have another chat to your mum next summer or even the summer after; she may have then had time to notice you are now a young woman and may reconsider, however I do feel 11 or 12 is a little young to be doing this.

  • Hi Vicki I have small pimples or bumps on my forehead and lots of discharge and medium size breast I think 36 XL in kids not in adults my friend said that wasn't possible so idk . And I have 11 yrs if age Lots of discharge pubic hair armpit hair belly back hair an all te hair u can think of and I am wondering if u know approximately wht month u might start my period if u don't know that fine thank u
    Francis 🐒🐈🐒🐈🐈🐒🐈🐧🐧🐷🐨🐹

    Hi Francis, I cannot give you an exact date or month, but with so many signs already noticed it may be a good idea to always have some pads or liners with you from now on in preparation.

  • Hi Vicki, i started using tampons on only my 2nd period. i was confident using them, my mum had tought me and i had seen many videos. Was this the right thing to do?

    Yes this is fine, if you feel ready to use tampons then there is no medical reason why you cannot, and tampons are so much cleaner and discreet than pads, especially in these hot summer months.

  • Hey vicki. I like this boy in my new school that I will be going into in September he is in my tutor he was bugging me on my induction day but my friend told him that I have a crush on him I dont know if he likes me back or if he is just trying to get the truth that I like him because I told him that I didn't have a crush on him but my bff goes to football with him so he tells him and another friend of mine also goes to football with him! Does he like me? !?!

    He may like you, why not wait and see what happens when you go back to school in September and for now just enjoy the summer months.

  • Why am I randomly attracted to cute boys on the street? Like If i'm out or something, and a boy my age is there, 60% of the time, i'm attracted to him and i usually see him glancing at me sometimes as well.
    Does your body give signs when you're attracted to someone? What kind of signs, if so?

    As you enter puberty your body will change in lots of ways and so will the way you feel about others. This new feeling of attraction for both you and those around you is very normal and all part of your journey to becoming a young adult.

  • I want to get more male friends, how do I go about it?
    Thanks Vicki

    In exactly the same way you make female friends; find out if you have things in common and chat to them.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I enjoy the company of boys and I relate well with them because i'm really tomboyish however i don't want to seem like i'm flirting with them. So what exactly is flirting and how do i not do it?
    Thanks Vicki

    Flirting can often be forced or can be quite natural. It is when you act or speak to someone in a sexual or romantic way, letting them know you like them and are attracted to them. Very often it can be your body language that changes when around them that people consider a way of flirting.

     

  • Hey Vicki
    My dad knows i'm quite sporty and tomboyish but i think he's still uncomfortable with me hanging out with boys.
    p.s I go to a girls school

    Just as you are noticing the changes from a girl to a young woman, your dad will be seeing these changes too and parents can often find it difficult to let their little girl or boy become an adult, so reassure him that these boys are only friends and that you like that he is concerned for your welfare.

  • hey Vicki
    How do i make a friend who is a boy? It's easy with girls but what do i do when it comes to boys? especially when i go to a girls school.

    Thanks Vicki

    If being friends is all you are looking for, then making friends should be no different to making friends with girls. Find out if you both like the same things so you have lots in common and therefore lots to talk about. Start by asking how his weekend was.

  • I have had discharge for a couple of years now
    and I haven't had my period yet is it normal I'm
    so confused about my body and why it's not
    giving me my period yet!?!? #yr6

    Periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time left for yours to arrive and don't worry about the discharge this can often be noticed for a couple of years before the arrival of your period.

  • Hey Vicki
    Some how I may have led this guy on but i like hanging out with boys so maybe he took it the wrong way or something but yeah. He asked me out and i said no. we aren't friends anymore but we still hangout because we're in a group of friends. Is there a way we can become friends again? he's a really cool guy

    Thanks Vicki

    Keep saying how great it is to be friends and not let all that romance stuff get in the way, this should help make things easier between you both.

  • I go to an all girls school but i have a few male friends and at some point, two of them have asked me out and i said no. After some time, one of them is becoming close to me again but the one who recently asked me out still hates me a little. How can we be friends again?

    Thanks Vicki

    Take things slowly, smile when you see this boy and say "Hi". I am sure in a few months he will feel ready to be friends again,

  • i have a large mons pubis and iam concerned what boys might think and what about when iam naked or where bikinis
    plz read this iam 13 by the way

    thanks

    As we become young women a layer of fat under the skin of the mons pubis is noticed, it's nothing to be worried about and boys will not think anything of it, so wear your most beautiful bikini and have a great summer.

  • One of my friends {male} told me that his friend, who i went to primary school with but in a year above him, has a crush on me and that these girls dislike me because they like him. The guy who has a crush on me lives on my street and the girls who 'dislike ' me also live on my street.
    I'm not really sure how I became a subject of disscussion since i go to a different school and I'm not sure if i believe my friend but what do i do if he really does have a crush on me?

    Thanks Vicki

    That depends on how you feel about him, if you like him then smile and say "Hi" next time your paths cross. As for these girls, don't listen too much to gossip I am sure they do not dislike you....after all they do not know you.

  • Hi Vicks,
    I used your size chart and I am exactly between a 28a and 28aa which one should I wear, I currently wearing a size 28a.

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    I would stick with the 28A, for now and don't forget to measure yourself regularly.

  • Hey Vicki
    I go to an all girls school but next door to my school is the mixed school. My sister's friend who goes to the mixed told her (my sister) that this guy had a crush on me. I went to primary school with him but he's a year older. Also, he lives right next door, like right in front of my house. He's really cute and i've seen him looking at me before. Im not sure if i believe he has a crush on me but what should i do?

    THanks Vicki

    I am sure that if this boy does like you he will let you know in his own way. If you think you may like him, then smile for a second next time you see him.

  • hey vivki, i am on my periods and i love swimming and i know its good to go swimming whiles on your period but what would i have to put in my swimming costume because surely the pads would get wet which means it might get less sticky? is there a certain type of pad for swimming, if so, where can i get them?? thanks, tasha xx

    Hi Tasha, a pad would not be suitable for swimming and you really should consider using tampons that are worn inside the body. Why not try our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons, designed for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands.

  • I think I'm really ugly and the whole school does too. I feel embarrassed whenever I want to talk about it and if I ask my mum she just tells me to stop being silly. I'm 13 and I'm not interested in makeup, is this normal? I just want to improve my looks without using makeup and I have been really worried about my looks lately, is this because I have started my period? And who can I talk to about it? Thanks, Bethany xxxxx

    Hi Bethany, lots of teens like you worry about their looks and this is all part of puberty. But you have to be nice to yourself and spend time focussing on how fabulous you are....and Bethany you are!!! So concentrate on exercising and eating a healthy diet as both of these can increase your happiness levels and look through some magazines until you find a style of hair and clothes that appeal to you and introduce these into your life for a confidence booster.

  • *please respond* Hello! This question may sound weird but... I am scared of child birth, main reason is because I got told it hurts very much and I wouldn't want a Cesarean because I don't want to be cut open....So what would you personally think would be my better option (it has to be doneπŸ˜”) thank you in advance!
    -Emily
    😨πŸ‘ͺπŸ’˜πŸ™€πŸ’©πŸ˜–πŸ˜‹πŸ˜‚πŸ˜°πŸ˜…πŸ˜©

    Hi Emily, with so many TV programmes showing childbirth on a regular basis it's no wonder people feel it will be painful and traumatic. But you have to understand that this is not generally the case and the noises people make are more like the grunts you hear from tennis players when they hit the ball and not because they are in pain.

  • Hey so I want to use tampons for the first time but I don't no which one to get or how to tell my mom I have already tried to insert tissue wrapped around my finger to see where to put the tampon in when I get it but I can't find the place to put it it please help im going swimming tomorrow !!!

    Please don't put tissue inside your vagina and consider simply inserting your finger if you feel the need to practice. Also only ever wear a tampon if you are on your period.

  • Hey Vicki
    I have a crush on this guy who is 3 years older than me. What should I do? I talked to him recently when i was trying to show him how to do something because he was absolutely clueless, and i found it cute.

    Thanks Vicki

    It is fine to have a crush on someone older than yourself, but if you are under the age of 16 this age gap is quite large and I would keep your attraction to just a crush and not try to push for anything else at this time.

  • Part Two.
    THis golf coach dude: Ended up talking and then carrying his bag for him/ with him and this rock climbing dude as well: I was one of the best climbers in my little group and we got on well and he was knida cute.
    I'm so sorry for the rant but yeah, Why? I'm a little bit shy but around them, i'm more open. I really think I relate to some guys more than girls but this has me confused. Help?

    Thanks Vicki
    sUgar4Smile

    These attractions are little crushes, and are most likely caused because you admire these people for what they do. Try not to over think this, crushes are natural and do not last forever.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I think i have a problem of being attracted or generally friendly to like older guys
    So basically, at school, Whenever they hire a male coach or bring a professional from outside, i am really friendly to them and I usually (not always) find them attractive.
    EG: my soccer coach, i'm he's favourite e.t.c, The other soccer coach: We got on well, talked most of the time,
    PART ONE.

    sUgar4Smile

    See my response in part two.

  • Hiya vicki,
    so basically i wanted to know how ' to go in' for a hug. I asked for my first hug because i needed some comfort so he did, then since it was end of school term i asked for another hug goodbye... it felt magical. So how can i go in for a hug without asking?

    Sometimes you just have to go in for a hug when the feeling takes you, for instance when you see him, or when you leave him. Or if he says something nice. The more you do it, the easier it will get, so be brave and get hugging!

  • Hi viki sorry if this is inappropriate but I get a tingly feeling in my vagina sometimes and I feel like I wanna hump something yesterday I rubbed my blanket on my vagina and it felt really nice
    Are there other ways to relive myself of the tingly feeling?
    Please answer ASAP! Thank you! ❀️

    These sexual feelings are very normal and form part of your journey to becoming an adult. Rubbing your vagina against something is called masturbation and again is normal, however it would not be appropriate for me to offer you advice on how to do this.

  • Hey Vicki
    This is irrelevant now but i was just wondering.
    So i primary school, on leavers day we were all sad/ happy and everything and this guy asked me to sign his arm. It wasn't weird or anything because i was pretty much clueless. No one else signed his arm or anything and my friends had been telling me that he had a crush on me. Did he?
    Thanks Vicki

    He could have had a crush on you yes, or simply like you as a friend. Why not see what happens over the summer months and if you bump into him again.

  • Hey Vicki x
    I'm the girlπŸ‘©who was worried bout high school🏫, thank you soo muchπŸ™!!
    But I have another Q😜 erm well I kinda wanna wear a LITTLE LIGHT make upπŸ’„πŸ’…BUT... I don't know how to ask my mumπŸ˜ͺπŸ™how do you think I should start and what to say??
    Thanxx soooo much Vicki!!!πŸ‘πŸ˜˜πŸ’•πŸ’‹πŸ’™πŸ’›πŸ’›β€

    Ask your mum if you could wear a little mascara and lip gloss now you are older, just in the home at first. I am sure she will be happy to let you and then as you get older and more confident you may like to include a few more pieces of make-up in your daily routine.

  • PART THREE
    I am sooooo soooorryy for the rant but i really needed to tell someone that. So idk what to do really. I really want to have him next year for science. I don't think i'll be that attracted to him but he seems nice tho.
    Thanks Vicki

    #Teenageproblems

    This is a crush and crushes are fine and generally disappear in a few months. So try not to overthink this situation and remember this teacher will have a duty of care for his pupils and will not be considering taking part in anything that could be considered inappropriate.

  • PART TWO.
    Once, it was last lesson and he was coming up the stairs and he was walking on the wrong side and wasnt paying attention (neither was I) and we practically almost fell. Recently, i had to go to one of his classes to ive him a message and because he was at the other side of the room he ran over to me and he's voice is so sexy...
    tHANKS Vicki
    #Teenageproblems

    See Part Three.

  • hey Vicki,
    I like this science teacher in my school. So basically i dont really know him and he doesn't teach me but he's friends with my science teacher... He is really cute tbh, he's new and he's really young and ahhhh
    I saw him staring at me a few times when he just came but i found out that it was probably because he taught my sister. My sister left school and we have ran into each other uncountable times in the hall way.
    PART ONE.
    #Teenageproblems

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm sorry if this is is inappropriate but you are the only person I could think of that could possibly help me!
    I have been going out with my boyfriend for a while now and recently when we have sex it doesn't feel as good anymore is it all my fault?
    Please help me I don't feel I can ask anyone else.

    It's no one's fault and you should speak to your boyfriend and let him know you would like to take the time to get to know what each of you like sexually. This generally means taking things slower and letting the other person know what feels nice and what doesn't.

  • hey Vicki,
    This boy asked me out but I said no and now he doesn't really like me anymore because i said no. However because he is my friends cosin and we have this large group of friends, yeah...
    So anyway, i started texting him and we were taking about movies and stuff...
    The main question is how can we become friends again because he's a really cool guy.
    thanks! And sorry for the long question

    Take things slowly and continue chatting to him about movies and stuff, in time your friendship will grow, but it will not be a quick thing, so be patient.

  • I'm thinking about using tampons for the first time, I am going in year 11 and still scared so I have two questions. What tampon would be best for first timers and is it weird I'm still scared at my age?

    It certainly is not unusual for anyone to be a little nervous about using tampons for the first time, no matter what their age, but with a little practice you will find that just like the many of millions of women who use tampons, just how comfortable and cleaner they are than pads. Why not consider using our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons, ideal for first time users as they are shorter and narrower than other brands, but still as absorbent.

  • Vicki I got my period today can you give me some tips to manage it please? My panties are all stained :(

    Share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and they wil purchase some sanitary pads to protect your underwear.  And don't worry about stains in your underwear, by running the panties under the cold tap before placing in the wash the stains will come right out.

  • Hi Vicki! I am 14 and I am 15 in January, my bra size is 34B and I still haven't started my period! Is this normal? I am on the thin side so would that stop my period?! Thank you!! Love Summer πŸ˜Šβ˜€οΈ

    Hi Summer, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have nothing to worry about and your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right just for you.

  • Hey Vicki
    I have a very active sex life and I was wondering if it is bad for you to have sex whilst on your period and if I did have sex would it be messy??

    There is no medical reason why you cannot be sexually active when on your period, just as long as both parties understand there may be some mess. And you should be aware that in some instances you can become pregnant during this time so contraception should still be used.

  • Hi Vicky,

    I've just turned 13 and I'm really self conscious about my body and shape. Boys talk about me behind my back saying that they would never go out with me because I'm too skinny and have no shape. My sister is a 34C, my Grandma is a 34D and my Mum is a 32B. I'm on the skinnier side compared to them though, so how do I know how big my breasts will turn out when fully grown?

    Just by looking at your family members you may be able to see what your final shape will be and don't let these silly and rather unkind remarks bother you, we all develop at different times to each other and if I am honest why would you want to date these boys...they seem pretty immature to me!

  • Hey vicki, I'm 14 but I keep getting these feelings when I'm in bed and sometimes during the day like I want to have sex. Sorry if this is inappropriate but my vagina kinda goes all twitchy like I want to have sex. Then when I masturbate it gets worse, it's like I can't control the urge! Is this normal??? I'm really worried!!!!!!!!!!
    Please answer ASAP!!!!

    It is very normal to have new feelings of a sexual nature as you enter your teen years and it is nothing to be anxious about. It's all part of your journey to becoming a young adult.

  • My mum started her period when she was 12 and her birthday is in august and mine is in June and now I'm 13 and I haven't had my period It's now july and still haven't had it should I have it in august ?? Thanks

    Not everyone starts their periods at the same time as family members so please try not to worry, your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and not before.

  • hi got really bat period pains and got no pain killers what should i do it really hurts awnswer asap please

    It may be the last thing on your mind, but gentle exercise will actually reduce this pain, as will a warm bath or hot water bottle.

  • @*@URGENT!@*@
    Hi Vicki, I have been going through puberty (and developing breasts) for more than three years and have still not started my menstrual cycle. I am going to be 14 in just a few weeks. I got breast buds when I was 9 or 10.
    I read (on SEVERAL websites) that I need to see a doctor/something is not right if you've been developing for 3 or more years and have not had your first period. Is there something wrong with me; do I need to go to the doctor's? If so, how do I tell my mom about this?

    I would not believe everything you read on websites. There is no need for you to visit your doctor and periods can arrive between the ages of 8-18 regardless of when breast development started, so please try no to worry.

  • Is it possible to put a tampon in the wrong place ( hole )...

    Not really no, your vaginal opening is the one you can easily reach and whilst in theory you could insert a tampon inside your anal passage this would be highly unlikely. Why not read my blog on The Reproductive System for more on this subject.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm really worried because I have been on my period for about 16 days it's not so much blood anymore but dark brown sticky stuff and small bits of blood what is going on and when will my period end?!?!?
    I don't know if this is related but I took some pills to delay my period 3 day after I stopped taking them this period started?!?!?

    The long lasting period will almost certainly be caused by taking the contraceptive pill to delay its arrival and is nothing to worry about, although I can imagine it is slightly annoying.  Try not to worry a regular pattern will resume over the next few months.

  • Hi Vicki, When I wear a tampon it hurts, can you tell me why and what I need to do. Thanks, Jaz

    Hi Jaz, this generally happens when you have not inserted the tampon far enough inside your vagina. So next time insert it a little farther and don't worry there is no way you can push it too far or that the tampon can get lost.

  • sorry if this is inappropriate but what does bisexual mean?
    thank you

    If you are bi-sexual you are someone who finds both males and females attractive in a romantic way.

  • Hi viki. Sorry if this is inappropriate but I really feel like I want to hump my pillow or something and I don't know why. Whenever I see humping or stuff like that on TV I get a tingly feeling in my vagina and really wanna hump things really bad. I want to masterbate but I feel guilty and stuff so I don't. Help me!!!

    Masturbation is a very natural and instinctive pastime and not something anyone should feel ashamed about.

  • Hi Vicki

    Us it normal for your 2nd period to last for one day but u know its ur period cuz it's red and brown?

    From:Birdy πŸ₯

    Hi Birdy, yes this is very normal and can happen like this for the first couple of years as your body works out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So I've been releasing discharge for a while now (not exactly sure how long) but it's now starting to get heavier, does this mean I am expecting my period soon? I'm going into year 10 and I think I'm the only one who hasn't started, it's quite embarrassing but my friends think I'm lucky x

    Discharge can vary in colour, texture and the amount produced from day to day and this is based on the levels of hormones in your body at any one time. I am sure you will not have much longer to wait now until your period arrives, so please don't be embarrasssed we are all different.

  • Dear Vicki, my doctor said I have breastal development and my mom was there and heard her but she has never said anything about it after that. I want to ask her for a bra with cups in them but I don't know how to ask her and me and her don't have the best mother-daughter relation ship so pls help me. Thx HRSLVR2002

    Why not ask her one day how old she was when she got her first bra and where she got it from, this should open up the conversation nicely to you and if you now feel ready.

  • Hi Vikki
    So last week I had cramps like really bad last Wednesday until saturday . do you this is my period coming soon

    This is most likely your reprodutive organs maturing in readiness for your period and journey to becoming an adult. A little gentle exercise will help ease this discomfort.

  • Hi vicki, I've recently been trying to use tampons as I will be doing a lot of swimming and sports this summer and want to know how to use them, but however much I try I can't do it and it really hurts every time if tried I've read about how to put them in and watched a cartoon tutorial but nothing works and it really hurts, is the something wrong with me, I really want and need to learn how to use them but it's so hard!! Thankyou vicki have a lovely summer xxx

    Hi, difficulty in inserting a tampon usually comes from being nervous. So try inserting a clean finger inside your vagina from time to time so you get used to the way your vagina feels, this should make using a tampon the next time your period arrives easier. And don't forget too that our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons are shorter and narrower than other brands, so ideal for girls new to using this type of sanitary protection. You may also find my blog entitledNot All Tampons are the Same useful too.

  • This is a question about relationships. So, my friend and I both met a guy not too long ago and we both like him. My friend and I both equally interact with him and he thinks I'm attractive but he likes my friend more. The problem is, he live hundreds of miles away and is 3 years older. What do I do?

    Well if this boy lives hundreds of miles away and is 3 years older than you, this is more of a crush than a relationship and it is fine for both of you to like the same person, especially as in this instance it is unlikely either of you will date or have a relationship with him. It would also be a good idea for you both to get out and about this summer and meet up with people who you can interact with on a daily basis.

  • Hi viki,
    I was just wondering how often you are supposed to change your underwear while on you period. This is because my best friend told me she had started her period. I also know as a fact she doesn't change her underwear everyday and she will sometimes wear the same pair for up to 5 days. I'm really worried about her health and if it's doing anything bad to her. Sorry if inappropriate
    Thank you,
    Twisted and confused

    Hi, it is ideal to change your underwear daily, but if your friend feels comfortable wearing the same pair of pants for this length of time and finds her pads or liners stop her underwear from being soiled then this really is her choice. It could also be that she has five pairs of identical underwear and actually changes daily...lots of people do this.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been having discharge for coming up 1 year and 6 months. Does this mean my period isn't far away? Sorry if inappropriate but the discharge is beginning to really irritate me. im almost 12 by the way if that helps at all
    Thanks in advance
    Little Lamb

    Hi Little Lamb, discharge is an excellent sign that your period is not too far away, so it would be a great idea to keep some pads or liners with you from now on. You should also be aware that some people continue to notice discharge in between their periods into their twenties.

  • Vicki, I asked you this question last time but you never answered so please answer. I've recently started my period but when I'm on it It always has dark brownish gooey stuff and its very stringy. Is this normal? pleasee answer! :)

    I have answered this question and my response was that menstrual fluid does not only contain blood, but also nutrients and bodily tissue, hence the gooey look and feel to it from time to time.

  • Why am I only 10 when I get a bra? Why am I so young?

    Puberty can arrive at different times for each of us and it may be that your journey to become an adult has already arrived and if this is the case you may now need a bra or crop top to support your breasts. Why not discuss this matter with your mum a little bit and see what is on offer in stores.

  • hi Vicki I'm four stone overweight and i get really embarrassed when I'm changing for p e what can i do

    Sit down with your mum or the person who cares for you and discuss your daily food intake and exercise regime. Believe it or not, but just walking for half an hour a day and reducing the amount of sweet or greasy foods in you diet can make a huge difference to your weight and overall health. Why not read my blog entitled Eat Your Way to A Healthier You and keeping fit in your teens.

  • 1) how can I give clues to my friend that my period has started
    2) is it normal that in a shop if I need to get pads or tampons of the shelf I feel embarrassed because I'm quite young
    3) how should I tell my teacher I have period cramps
    4) is it normal for a period to last for 8 days?

    Hi, 1. There really is no need to share this news with your friend unless you really feel the need to, and even then it may be better for it to fall into the conversation naturally, so be patient an opportunity will arise. 2. This is very normal and as you continue to purchase products you will become less self-conscious. 3. This depends on the relationship you have with your teacher, you could let her know at break you have some lower tummy pain, it would also be a good idea to go for a walk at break as this very often eases period pain discomfort. 4. Yes, a period can last anything from 2-10 days.

  • How would I tell my bestfriends mum I have period cramps? Should I ask my friend to tell her mum or should I go up to her and say I have a bad stomach or something? Me and my bestfriend are really close and kind of open about stuff like that as we feel more comfortable talking to each other about it other than our mums, my friend hasn't started her period yet tho, and I'm the only one out of my group of 6 friends so it's kind of awkward when it comes to that!

    I am not sure why you need to speak to your friend's mum about this, unless you are stopping over for the night or away with her on holiday. If this is the case, simply let her know you have lower tummy pain caused by your time of the month and she will understand what you mean.

  • Hi vik
    So I'm going into secondary after the six weeks and have just broken up with my bf after a long relationship, because I liked someone else. But a couple of days after I got together with the boy I liked ( I know he is VERY nice). I still want to be friends with the other boy but I feel bad for going out with the next boy so soon am I a bad person?
    Thanks---- grace 🐀🐦🐀🐦🐀🐦🐀🐦

    Hi Grace, if this boy is not for you, then you should not feel bad for breaking up with him. However, it may take a while before he can be friends, as I am sure he is very hurt. So take things slow, smile when you see him and say "Hi" to allow a friendship to develop naturally.

  • if you have never used a tampon before would you reccommend using an applicator or non applicator tampon?

    Personally I would recommend a non-applicator tampon as they are less fidly to use and there is no messy applicator to dispose of afterwards. Also our teens non-applicator tampon is shorter and narrower than other brands so ideal if you are new to tampon use.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have some suggestions for blog post and stuff
    Something like top ten apps for your iPod/iPhone
    And best things to do in the summer
    Also are there bigger packs of lil-let's night pads instead of 12 per pack?

    Thanks
    From:Lolliepeep 🍭🍭🍭

    Hi Lolliepeep, thank you for your ideas, we are currently working on 10 things to do in the summer holidays and  I will add 10 best apps to the list.  Our night pads only come in one pack size, but this should be more than enough for one period.

  • HI Vicki !! i was wondering what is the relationship between back and breast , cause whenever i massage or touch my left breast my back hurts really bad !! thank you xoxo

    The back does help to support the breast via the rib cage, but I really think you should speak to your parents about this back ache and I think I have mentioned this before.

  • Hi Vicki

    So I have 1 breast bud on my right and on my left there's nothing , I know it's normal for one to start before the other , but I am doing a swimming camp and the last time i did one earlier in July my breast bud showed through . I don't think there's any swimsuit with a minimum amount of padding there might be though , if I say it to my mum she'll say I don't need one , plz help. From:Lolliepeep 🍭🍭🍭

    Hi Lolliepeep, why not take a look on line at stores such as New Look or Primark, they very often have swimsuits with padding that can be removed if required.

  • Hey Vicki
    I would just like to know what the average bra size is for a 12 or 13 year old and I know people say it doesn't matter because everyone is different but can you please tell me because I know there not a right size but there is a average size.
    Many Thanks

    Actually there is not even an average size, you can very often find girls as young as 10 with breast sizes varying from an AA cup to a D cup and this is all down to what age we enter puberty and the breast size of family members.

  • Hi Vicki :) I love your blog and thanks for all the awsome advices :D Anyways i have a question for you and i hope you RESPOND ? My left breast hurts whenever i move my arm or i turn around and whenver i touch it my back hurts so bad !! i'm really worried !!! is that normal ? thank you

    Breasts are very often tender when developing and this is very normal, but I would speak to our parents about back pain as this may be caused by something else such as straining your muscles in this area.

  • I have had only periods and they have all come on the exact same day and around the same time and my period this month is 21 days late !
    Why is that ?

    Periods can often be irregular from time to time, even when they have been regular previously. It's nothing to worry about and simply your body's way of working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hey vicki all of the boys in my class are attracted to me and no one else so i dont have any friends who are girls because they all hate me because the boys dont pay attention to them. i feel really lonely because i dont like any of the boys either because they always try to touch me in those places and one tried to take my clothes off :(
    bella x

    Hi Bella, I am sure if you make an effort to get to know the girls in your class they will love to hang out with you. And as for these boys if you do not like their attention then tell them to go away and report any boy that touches you inappropriately or treis to force you into doing something against your will.

  • I'm entering puberty a little bit early, and there are a few things i want to find out.

    luckily, i have a very understanding mum a when it comes to periods and stuff i know i can always ask her thing even when I'm not sure. but there are still some things I'm still afraid to ask:

    first of all, I'm not sure what i should expect when my period DOES come. how will i know its coming? and also how can i learn to cope with it?

    many thanks, Amelia xxxx

    Why not read all the great stuff on our website about puberty and periods it will tell you all you need to know about this special time in your life.

  • A couple of days ago I trimmed my pubic hair and it was kind of sore but then it was fine.Now it has come back again and I can only sleep with a pantyliner on.The pain only comes at night eg: 1am
    Do you know what this is?

    This could be the time your reproductive organs decide to mature and this can often feel like lower tummy or groin pain. Ask your mum or dad to make you up a hot water bottle to help with this discomfort.

  • i am 13 i am a dd is that normal for a 13 yr old and is it normal to gain weight around the hip area and go in at the waist? whats the best thing to do for cramps and to stop mood swings?
    -thanks

    My what a lot of questions. Here are my answers.  Firstly there is no right or wrong size for breasts to be regardless of your age, so please don't worry about this. Yes it is very normal to notice your hips widen and you become more curvy during puberty. To prevent cramps, gentle exercise is key, or a hot water bottle or warm bath. Finally, you may not be able to stop mood swings but you can learn to manage them, so why not read our section on Emotions under the Puberty tab.

  • If u have your period and you don't have a pad what do you do???

    Ask a friend, teacher or another trusted female adult if they have one you can use. Or if this is not possible roll some toilet tissue and place inside your pants until you can get to a store or home and switch the tissue for a pad.

  • Hi, I noticed this large brown stain in my knickers yesterday and it smelt a little bit (sorry if inappropriate). So last night I wore a carefree thing I found in the bathroom just in case (I don't know what a carefree is) but in the morning there was nothing there and again today but still nothing! Is this my period or something else? Btw I had discharge for about 6 months. Should I keep wearing panty liners or other stuff and should I tell my mum?
    Please answer soon!

    This sounds like it may have been residue from waste food (poo) not wiped away thoroughly, especially as you say it had an unpleasant odour and no further staining has been noticed, so there should be no need to wear a liner or pad at this time.

  • Hi Vicki, I sweat loads and I know that I need an anti-perspirant. However, my mum says that I can only have deodorants that don't have any aluminium in it which i think all anti perspirants have. Is the aluminium bad? If so do u know any non-aluminium anti-perspirant deodorants? If not, is there another way to stop sweating as much?
    13yroldPandaxxxx

    There are a lot of untrue stories circulating regarding deodorants or antiperspirants containing Aluminium and the possible harm they can cause. But there is no medial or official evidence to prove this and antipersprirants have a very safe history of use. But if your mum feels strongly about this, you can purchase products that do not contain this ingredient.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm on my second period and cuz I'm on holiday I have to use tampons for when I'm swimming I put my first tampon in and it was fine I took it out after about 5 hours then tried to put another one i and just couldn't get it in xxx

    It could be that you were nervous or not relaxed, so try again in an hour or two.

  • Is it normal to be a small 14 year old with a size 30c bra, I am only 95lbs and I'm 5"2'?
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    There is no right or wrong size for your breasts to be, regardless of your age, height or weight so please try not to worry.

  • Can you go swimming during a period

    Yes and swimming is an excellent exercise. But you will have to wear a tampon as a pad is not suitable and would most likely split open, emptying its contents into the pool.

  • I am 72cm under my bust and 81cm over what sise am I?

    32AA.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am going to secondary school in 2 months and I met the gym teacher. ALL THE GIRLS HAVE TO WEAR SHORTS!!! I have always worn things to cover up my legs, even in the summer. How can I tell my mom I want to shave?
    Sonia

    Hi Sonia, have a chat to your mum and let her know that now you are going to be showing your legs in PE you would like to be confident and feel shaving may offer you this extra confidence.

  • Hey Vicki xox,

    All the girls at my school have started their period. They all started an 10 years old and I am 11 and nothing is happening. I feel a little left out. (Btw my mum started hers at 14 so will I get mine at 14?)
    Thanks,
    Heeral c:

    Hi, I think it is highly unlikely that all your friends have started their period, and even if they have, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8 - 18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive and it is important to remember that not everyone follows the same pattern as family members. So be prepared by having some pads or liners with you from now on and try not to compare your progess with that of those around you...we really are all different.

  • Hi Vicky my friends who had periods said that its really hard and awkward to use a tampon and loads of other things about them and why periods are really bad now im scared about getting it. Is that all true?

    This website is all about letting girls now how normal it is to enter puberty and have periods and they should not interfere with your life one little bit. The trick is to be nice to yourself and rest if you feel you need it, use quality sanitary products to protect your underwear and catch your menstrual flow and tell your mum if you feel a little unsure about anything. For most people and I have spoken to many; periods do not bother them one bit and they simply get on with their lives.

  • Im 11 and Im getting really bad cramps and dishcharge.Should I ear a pad or liner?

    Only wear a liner if you feel uncomfortable, otherwise there is no need to use anything as discharge very easily washes out of underwear.

  • VICKI!! i am so sad. I have been diagnosed with depression in school (annual checkup) and they put it. Theres a reply slip and I don't want my parents to see. I am also sad because my family has been teasing me about being flat. (mom, dad, brother, cousin, auntie, uncle, grandma, grandpa,EVERYONE.) no one in school does it except my family.

    I find it very difficult to understand how a school can diagnose depression, this is something only a medical professional can do. And with that in mind I would show this slip to your mum and ask her to speak to your school demanding an explanation as to how they reached this conclusion and why they felt the need to do so and share the information with yourself and not your parents first.

  • I'm 12 and about a 36dd I feel really self conscious and I. Worried my breasts will never stop growing is this size normal?

    Breasts stop growing in our late teens or early twenties and it may be that your body has decided to develop early and will slow down for a little while now, so try not to worry and take a look at family members to see what their breast size is, as this is something that generally runs in families.

  • Hi,
    So I've had my first period and my seconds hasn't come yet. I'm going on holiday with a few friends soon and it will involve swimming, I've never used a tampon before and I only have like 2. So should I use the tampons when I swim, will there be signs for when my period is about to come?
    Thanks.

    It may be a good idea to take a pack of pads and tampons with you on holiday just in case your period arrives when away, that way you will be prepared, so have a chat to your mum and ask if she will purchase some for your trip.`

  • Is there a way of reducing the heaviness of blood?

    Not really no, but with so many great products on the market it's now very easy to manage even the heaviest of flows and you may find Lil-Lets Freshlock towels and tampons an ideal product choice.

  • What is my bra size?
    63 below, bust 70

    30AA.

  • Hi I'm almost 13 and I'm a 34B. I'm also a dancer and usually dancers boobs aren't that big at this age. Usually dancers my age haven't even started developing! My moms breasts are pretty big and I just want mine to stop before they start to hurt! Please help!

    Breasts can often feel a little tender when they are developing and this generally stops in a short while, so please don't worry breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes; all beautiful in my opinion.

  • What sign will there be when I am about to get my first period?

    Discharge is a good sign, and some people notice breast development and pubic hair a year or so before also.

  • Hi
    I'm 12 and I am really worried about getting my period! My mum and both my sisters got there's when they were 14 and they said they think that's when I will get mine? But I am scared I could get it any day now because my boobs have developed and I have been getting discharge for the past year, I get stomach cramps a lot too! I am scared that I might get it at school and that I won't be prepared! Also all my friends have theirs and I feel left out!

    Not everyone starts their period at the same time as family members so this may not be the case for you. However it pays to be prepared and you may want to consider keeping some pads or liners with you when in school and our Lil-Lets teens starter pack is ideal for this purpose as it looks like a make-up bag. You may also find my blog entitled periods and school useful too.

  • Im 14 πŸ‘©πŸ‘©πŸ‘© Why am i always so tired , either my eyes are knocking together or the rest of my body just has no energy , since this is the summer holidays i can get so much more sleep some times 12-14 hours ! Is having more sleep making me more tired ??

    It is very normal for teens to feel extra tired during puberty, but that does not mean stopping in bed. Instead make sure you are eating a healthy diet with equal amounts of protein, carbohydrates and vitamins, to keep you alert and energy levels high. You may also find organising your week useful to, so chat to friends and family and discuss things you can do together, such as swimming, visiting your local park or other family members.

  • I feel somewhat awkward when talking o my family about certain things and I can't even tell them my plans for the future in case they disagree with me. I didn't get accepted to college but I know what I want to do As a backup and when I mentioned that In case I didn't get in that's what I would do, my mum didn't seem too keen. At least I know what I'm doing. But I don't know how to tell them I didn't get in.

    Why not pull together all the information you can about this alternative choice to show your mum you have thoroughly researched this topic, she will be far more likely to accept this once she sees how serious you are.

  • Hi Vicki, sorry if this is a bit complicated. Well, I have a crush on this boy who is my best friends brother. I don't know whether he likes me or not but we go to scouts which means that if we end up together, we can't go on camps together. I don't know whether its worth finding out if he likes me or not because I don't want either of us to miss camps. Should I just try and get over him?? Or should I carry on hinting that I like him?
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    I really do not see why you would both be kept from camp if you were dating and wonder if this is a little bit of a myth older children have started with no real truth behind it. If you like this boy then be good friends with him and have fun during the summer break, after all being close friends is very much like dating.

  • I train as a gymnast for 3 hours each Thursday. I haven't started my period yet and I am worried that I might start at gym. What should I do if I start whilst training? Also, can I still train on my period or will blood show through my leotard! Please help!

    It would be unlikely that your period arrived whilst training but if you are at all worried you may find wearing a pant liner will offer you confidence. Once your period has arrived it should not stop you from doing any of your daily activities and a pad or tampon will protect your leotard from stains and keep you protected.

  • Hello Vicky, My ex boyfriend was so kind to me but when we broke up he used to say horrible things about me to my mates (slagging me off)so I ignored him and now we are mates but I'm starting to like him again even though what happened in the past. He said to my best mate he doesn't want me back, what should I do?!

    Even though you are now friends it would pay to keep this friendship to a minimum so you do not start to develop feelings for him, especially as he has made it clear he is not keen to date again. So spend time with your group of friends away from him, to help you break the link between you both.

  • I've tried tampons before and I reed through the instructions to make sure I insert it correctly but I always seem to feel it inside me. Have I got something wrong with me?

    It may be that you have not inserted it high enough inside your vagina and so next time push it in a little farther and worry it's not possible to push it too far.

  • Hi Viki I've been masturbating since i was 8 yrs old (i'm now 11) and find it really hard to stop can u help

    and also how do i get my period faster

    sorry if inappropriate

    Firstly there is nothing you can do to make your period arrive any sooner than when your body feels the time is right. Secondly, try to keep busy as sometimes people masturbate out of boredom and you may even find keeping your bedroom door open stops this activity taking up all your time.

  • Hi Vicki,
    My so called 'friends' tease me about my breast being small and my other friend who is flat chested they say has bigger boobs than me when she hasn't even got any. I should wear a 34aa bra but my step mum buys me a 32aa it fits but my breast are too small so when ever I bend down you see empty gaps I know that they are developing but they never grow! aa bras are too big of a cup for my breast!
    Chocoholic🍫
    (Sorry for the paragraph but I don't like being teased)
    Thank you for the answer

    My advice is to stop worrying about what 'friends' say and if you are comfortable with your bra then nothing else but this matters. So next time they comment, impress on them the importance of being good friends to each other and being supportive, hopefully they will then realise how unkind they are being.

  • how do i ask out a guy to prom

    My advice is to keep it casual, ask him if he's going and then say so are you and maybe you will see him there.

  • Will it hurt the first time you use a tampon?

    Like anything new using a tampon can take some practice, but if you read the instruction leaflet then using a tampon should not be uncomfortable.

  • Hi Vicki
    My breasts are growing to the sides. I am wearing training bras (I'm 12) but they don't support me as well as they used to. When i push my breasts in they become large enough for me to wear a bra. Should I get a bra to help them grow straight, or will they grow straight anyway and I should wait until then to get a bra? Thanks!

    I absolutely love your website and all your products. the website has helped me so many times. I have my period and I've always used lil-lets teens it is amazing!

    Bras generally fall to the side for all of us and this is nothing to worry about and they will become fuller as you get older. As for wearing a bra this really is up to you.

  • hi so I just wondered, do u have nerves in the whole you are meant to put the tampon in? because I don't want it to hurt !! ?? can u feel it going in ??

    You do have nerves in this part of your body, but if you insert a tampon correctly by reading the instructions then it should not be uncomfortable at all.

  • hello
    okay recently I read this book which had a kissing scene in and it was quite heated and I started to get a tingly feeling down there and im a bit scared !! was I horny over a book ????
    thanks
    layla

    Hi Layla, you were yes, although the correct term is sexually aroused and this is nothing to worry about adn very normal.

  • I keep finding beige coloured discharge and lots of it too....what does this mean please help me 😞
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    Discharge can vary in colour from clear to cream yellow and both are very normal.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I've been receiving discharge since 5th grade, I'm about to start 7th. And it has become really heavy to where I have had to go to the bathroom to clean it up a lot.. I have noticed a lot of vaginal hair but none on my armpits.. My breasts have also been growing since 5th grade and they are bigger than a lot of the girls in my grade.. When do you think I will start? I'm just really hoping that it starts before school gets back in so I don't have to worry about leaking in class.!

    I doubt you will have much longer to wait, it may even be sometime this year.

  • Is it normal to have crushes on people for 3 years?! xo Ella ox

    Hi Ella, it is not so unusual to like someone for this length of time, so don't worry.

  • I have watched lots of video clips on this website about periods but I still don't understand how often it happens? I started my period yesterday and there is still more blood coming out today. I thought it only happened one day of the month? :(

    No a period can last anytime from 2-10 days, so you really have nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I am really scared because whenever i have go for a poo my bottom and I wipe there is blood on the paper. Is this cancer?I am really scared.
    Love From,
    Ashley xxx

    Hi Ashley, this sounds like constipation and it can be prevented by adding extra fibre into your diet. So have a chat to your parents and ask them to add some cereals, fruit and vegetables into your diet.

  • hi vicki,i've been having pains 'down there' it feels like an itchy stingy thingy and it hurts when i move around eventually it stops but is there a way to stop or prevent the pain? Or do you know what it is? I am only 10 and have discharge and all that so yeah bye! & thnx!

    You really must speak to your mum if this pain is so very uncomfortable and they will be able to identify what the problem is and put your mind at rest.

  • I had my first period I waited a month forj my second one it's been 2 months since then and I've still not had my second period does this mean that I've not started my period and also I still get discharges
    iushi xx

    Hi Iushi, periods often have gaps of several months between each one and this is nothing to worry about and very normal.

  • Am I a size 32A bra?

    I'm 72cm under
    74cm over
    77cm bust?......
    Please answer

    Yes or even a 32AA, so try on both of these sizes when you visit your local store to purchase a bra.

  • How long do you bleed for ?

    Your period can ofter last for between 2-10 days.

  • Hi vicki,
    I am 13 and i havent started yet. What does it means if you find little red dots after you wiped your vagina with tissue? I get white marks on my underwear and white goey substances in my vagina. Are those my discharges? Please reply soon. Thanks.

    White gooey substances are generally discharge and little drops of blood on tissue are generally a sign your period has arrived so have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • hi! so um a few days ago there was a two reddish colored spots but it only happened since that day and then the next day nothing. so then yesterday there was more red spots but again it only happened once that day. and today there was nothing at all, all day and I'm really confused was this my first period and how long do first periods last??? please help, thanks

    This really could be your period as menstrual fluid is often lost intermittently, so please have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Im 13 and I started my period last year in November. I haven't had a period for about 3 months now and im getting worried, I haven't been eating properly for a few months and I have lost so much weigh because of it and my mum thinks thats the reason but im not sure, could you give me any advice, thanks

    This could be the reason for your delayed period and you may find that your period comes back when you start to gain weight. But it could also be that your period is delayed naturally as periods are often irregular for the first couple of years.

  • Hey . Im 11 and im on my 2nd period . I thou!ght I had finished but when I wipe myself there is still a huge blood clot . Im going on holiday in 3 days And I want to travel without my period . Also There is blood on my pants but when I pee there is nothing . plz help

    Menstrual flow is very often intermittent with times when no blood will be noticed at all, but I am sure once your holdiay is here your period will have ended.

  • Okay! So i think I am away from my periods 1 week left I think! And since I have started my periods I get them 2 weeks early all the time! I have 1 weeks or 2 weeks left for my period to come. I am getting brown discharge for 3 days now! And I am not sure if I'm gonna start my period. I am 14 years old! Never had sexual intercourse! Just saying!

    Brown fluid is almost certainly your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour. As for periods they are often irregular with both short and long gaps between each one.

  • hello vicki..
    i am going through a horrible moodswing. i know my mum can notice the moodswing but she just winds me up even more! im in tears right now because i have no idea who to talk to or how to get through it without going insane!! any tips?
    thank you :)

    A good tip is to take yourself away from the situation to your room for instance or anther room and have some quiet time, not thinking about how others do not understand you, but rather doing something you enjoy, such as reading or dancing and then go back down and rejoin your family.

  • Hi Vicki! this may not be about some things talked about on here, but i really like giving people advice and helping them, is there some website or place where i can give anonymous people advice over chat? i do a lot of community service and think i can really help people I'm only 12 but i know a lot of things and have been told i am very good with advice, sorry to waste your time but i hope this question is answered, thank you! x

    You could start your own site, but please be aware there are certain regulations and guidelines you must adhere to before you advise others.

  • Hi vicki, i have a boyfriend, but my parents are really strict so we can't meet up out of school. So, at lunch (I'm 15 btw) we met up and started to kiss, but we went a little further (touching) and the head teacher caught us and we're both in afterschool detention for the week when we go back and i don't want them to find out why i'm staying back. I know I shouldn't have done this but it was just an impulse, in the moment decision, What is your advice?

    It really would be a good idea to let your parents know you are dating and invite this boy round for tea one night so they can get to know him. If you both then come clean and let them know you have been given detention for kissing they may be angry for a moment, but will feel a little less alarmed once they have got to know the boy.

  • When I told my friends in my class that use antiperspirant they all said it was relly bad for me.is this true and If so why.
    PS I am worried about this so please answer soon.
    From L BUG 🐞

    There is no evidence to show that using anti-perspirant is harmful to your health. So your friends are mistaken in this instance.

  • Can you have a period when your pregnant? Don't worry I'm not pregnant I'm only 14 I was just wondering

    In very rare circumstances yes this can happen.

  • dear vicki
    if you have a UTI could this affect when you start your period?

    No, not at all, your urine will have no impact on the arrival of your period.

  • Dear Vicki
    please help i am stressing out, so basically about a year ago i started noticing black spots on my discharge, they don't come all the time but the majority, so i looked it up online and i said that i could be a UTI!!!! what should i do i am sooooo.

    It is far more likely that this is your period or possibly even fluff from your underwear.

  • Hi vicki,
    I'm outgoing and I stand up for myself but I feel kind of left out because all of my friends have had boyfriends before and I haven't. I'm almost 13 and I'm older than all of my friends. I've read other blogs before and they have improved my confidence but I just feel so low about it!.

    Maybe it will make you feel better if I let you know that lots of girls now wait until they are in their late teens or early twenties before dating, so please don't feel you have compare your life with that of those around you, we really are all different and it's important to wait for Mr Right to come along than settle for just anyone.

  • Hi Vicky! Please answer I'm really worried!! I've been getting normal white discharge for over a year now, I'm 13, nearly 14 and have been growing boobs and pubic hair for abt 2 years. Exactly 3 days ago,I got lots of brown discharge in my knickers and lots of abdominal cramps for that day, but nothing for the next few days has happened since (just normal white discharge) do u know what has happened/what will happen next?? Thankyou!!πŸ’—πŸ’—xx

    This could be your first period, even though only a little bit of blood was noticed. So from now on ensure you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • I'm 11 and my mum got her period at 11 and she thinks mine is going to come soon I'm not that nervous bit I keep on randomly crying at home is this a sign that my period is coming and how long will it take to come

    Mood swings are a sign that you have entered puberty and this along with your period are just two of the signs you are becoming a young adult. Your period may however be a little while off so try not to worry and from now on why not consider keeping some of our pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki
    Where all the pubic hair is on my vagina it is horribly itchy and lately I have noticed little red spots.
    Is it an infection?? It is really irritating !!
    Please help!
    Thankyou love from Poppie xx

    Hi Poppie, this could be caused by the heat and it may be beneficial to wear loose and cotton fitting underwear and clothes.

  • Hi I really like this boy in my class but he doesn't love me and I really miss him coz of the six weeksand not sure what to do
    Thx
    Robyn

    Hi Robyn, if this boy does not like you yet, then why not be friends and see how things go when you get back into school. In the meantime spend time with your family and friends enjoying the summer break.

  • ey vik. ihave aproblem that idont get sexual feelings easily and if ihave, they dont last long

    Sexual arousal is different for everyone and please do not feel there is a specific amount of time that feelings of a sexual nature should be experienced for.

  • What's bigger AA or A
    Boobs and bras please
    πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“πŸ‘“
    Love geeky girl

    Hi Geeky girl, an A cup is larger than an AA cup.

  • Hi Vicki, I have occasionally had a sharp pain from around my naval/ovaries that can go down to my vagina. Sometimes just pain in my vagina. I'm 17. What do you think this could be? At first I was worried about ovarian you know what. Is it possible? I'm scared. its very occasional. even if I go to the doctors, do you know what It could be though? Or is it just ovulation pains?

    Any pain should be discussed with your doctor and it is best not to jump to conclusions it could simply be your reprodutive organs maturing.

  • This isn't a question but I would like to thank you and your team for setting up this company. It is very helpful and I apreeshiate (sorry I really can't spell, I'm slightly dislexic) the time you take to answer all the questions. The products and teen booklet are also very useful. So I great big thank you to you viki and the teamπŸ‘

    Thank you so much for the wonderful feedback, I will share with this with the team.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 12 and I started my period yesterday and my friends keep asking to come round for a pool party, I have had to say no for obvious reasons but I'm an to afraid to tell them as I am the first one in our group to start, I'm scared with us only being 12 they will freak. I was so shocked yesterday as I'm only going into the second year of high school, I'm quite small for my age but my boobs are getting bigger. I'm a 30a. I really want to tell them as I said I always would; should I tell them?

    Hi, if you do not yet feel ready to share this news with your friends, then don't feel pressured to do so. Simply say you had family plans you could not get out of, or that you felt unwell, they will understand I am sure and then when you feel ready you can share this news with them.

  • I have had my period for a year now but my period is always late and im going on holiday next week and I, going to go swimming but I've never used a tampon so I'm kind of scared to use one, are all periods not going to be on the right day? Can you get the insert of the tampon right first try? Thanks x

    Periods can often be irregular for the first couple of years and they will regulate in time. Also, if you relax and insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and insert high inside your vaginal passage then you should not be able to feel it at all.  Why not try inserting your finger from time to time before your holiday so you can become accustomed to how it feels.

  • Hi Vicki! I have had discharge for two years now and I'm a 30a, can I expect my period soon?

    With so many signs of puberty already noticed I doubt you will have much longer to wait. So ensure you are prepared and have some pads and liners with you when out and about from now on.

  • Hi PLEASE REPLY. I'm 12 years old and I started my period about 3 months ago. My first two were quite light and were regular but I have not had one since. Xxx

    Periods are often irregular for the first couple of years, with long or short gaps between each one, so please try not to worry this is very normal.

  • Hi Viki, thing have got really weird.

    My only friend is acting strange and i am starting to not like it, it's also the way he makes me feel, he makes me feel nerves and not like a friend. The other day i offered some sweets to my family and forgot to ask my dad and mom, he tapped me and gave me a look, not mean just like are you not going to ask?? I am starting to not want to talk to him or be with him, What do i do? What can i do?? Georgia X

    Hi Georgia, limit the amount of time you now spend with this boy and be firm when he oversteps the mark, it may be that he does not realise he is being unkind and by letting him know you are unhappy with his comments will hopefully help your friendship get back on track.

  • Hi VIcky
    Im quite nervous about telling my mum about when I get my first period ... I'm wondering how you felt when you wanted to tell your mum ... How should I tell my mum ... How should I put it into words ... Please reply
    Kind regaurds
    User

    Hi, try to remember that your mum was once a teenager too and will understand how you feel. But if you find the words hard to get out, you could always write her a note and leave it somewhere only she will find it, such as her make-up bag or bedside table. The note could ask if she would be kind enough to pick you up some pads or liners. Even better send her one of our e-cards so you have some products for when your period arrives and we'll do the asking for you.

  • Ummmmmmm, Hi Vicki. Umm I have noticed a big patch of red blood in my nickers today, and I know this is my period as it happened last month. Last month I had pain with my period, but today I didn't. Is this normal ???? Please reply Vicki πŸ‘

    Not everyone experiences menstrual cramps and for those that do, very often these can come and go from period to period, so please try not to worry, this is very normal.

  • Hi vicki, so I started high school about a year ago now, and My the girl who I thought was my best friend turned on me and has started bossing me around and being mean, I feel like no one likes me, I'm not wanted anymore:( I been wanting to move schools for quite some time now, but I don't have the courage to ask my mum:( please can you give me some advice ASAP
    Thanks

    It is very common for friendships to change as you enter your teen years and if you feel there is not recovery from your friends comments then rather than worry about changing schools consider making new friends. And you may find my blog on Keeping and Making Friends useful, along with our Friendships and Boys section on the website.

  • Hi Viki-
    Im 12 years old, i havent started my periods. I have been having whitish, yellowish discharge for a while (about 6 months or so and I have have hair under my arms for around 1 or 2 months and for the past two days when I go to the toliet there is tiniest red ditand when I mean tiny, I mean tiny! I didn't think its my period because it wasnt much at all.
    Please help
    Evie x

    Hi Evie, this could still be your period so why not see what happens over the next few months and have some pads and liners with you when out and about in preparation.

  • Hi I was just wondering the difference between a liner and a towel can you
    Help ??

    A liner is something that can be worn daily to keep you clean and fresh, or at the end of your period when your menstrual flow is very light, or if you are unsure as to when your period is going to arrive you can wear one for a day or two before it's due. A liner will not however, protect your underwear from your period and for this time of the month you need to wear a pad as this will have much more absorbent material inside to capture menstrual blood.

  • When it am I'm school I get a very bad stomach because of my period, I never know what to say to my teacher because I have just turned 11 and don't know what to say to him/her. Please tell me something that I can say that isn't very complicated thank you xx

    Why not ask your mum to write your teacher a note letting them know you are struggling with period pain and for your part, take the time to do some gentle exercise in the playground during break time as this is one of the best ways to ease period pain discomfort.

  • Hi Vicki I'm starting puberty and all the boys in my class have noticed they keep teasing me and comparing me to other girls. If I wear my favourite top you can see my boobs what shall I do????

    Ask your mum to pop you to your local department store to be measured for a bra and ignore these silly boys and they will soon stop teasing.

  • When you get spots or acne is that puberty starting? I was 7 or 8 when I started to have sports on my face and acne came but is still exactly the same I have tried a number of different creams and washes but they are still exactly the same but worse, I have started my period it's been a year and a half so I started about a month or two before my 11th birthday, does this mean puberty started when I was 7/8 or is acne a different thing ?! Thanks 🐘

    Acne can start when you enter puberty and if you have tried several washes and creams with no luck, ask your mum to pop you along to your doctor for a chat, he/she may be able to offer you prescriptive medicine to treat this condition.

  • Doyou have to be over 18 to use the pills?

    If you are referring to the contraceptive pill then no, you can have this prescribed by your GP if he/she feels there is a need for you to be taking it.

  • Hey Vicki :) its the girl who's going to Mexico again! Im due my period the majority of the time away. Will flying affect it - its about a 12 hour flight and How should i deal with periods on holiday? Thanks :)

    Your flight will have no effect on your period and consider using a tampon when in the water and then switching to pads when you are sight-seeing and being active in the evening.

  • Hi Vicki, i can't seem to put it in... it will not go far and its really painful!! Please help!!! :)

    Relax and insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine, and some girls find giving a little cough as they insert also helps the tampon go in further for comfort. Finally, why not try our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for first time users.

  • Vicki, I've recently gotten my period but whats weird is that I have these dark gooey stuff with it. Is it normal? pleasee answer!

    Yes this is very normal as menstrual fluid is not just blood but also nutrients and bodily tissue. So please try not to worry.

  • i wet the bed and im 11 im going to secondary and my mum said its nasty to wet the bed and be on your period even though i haven't started how can i stop wetting the bed?

    Ask your mum to pop you along to your doctor for a check-up and try to have your last drink an hour and a half before bedtime. You should also avoid fizzy drinks that can bloat the stomach. If this does not help then consider setting your alarm to go off at around 1am so you can enter your bladder and get back to sleep. Bed wetting does happen it does not make you a bad person and is just one of those things. Periods are a natural part of being a woman and I am sure your mum understands this too.

  • How can I stop arguing with my dad and become closer to him again?

    Dads often find it hard to adjust to a teenager in their lives and yes there will be arguments from time to time but if you also fill your time together having fun, going for a walk (if you have a dog) or watching a TV programme you both like together, your close bond will continue.

  • My friend self harms. I really want to help her but I don't know what to do! Please help! RANJEEDOE (so I know its me)

    Hi, you really must urge your friend to get some professional help to guide and support her through this problem and that starts by speaking to her parents or teacher letting them know that this is something she is struggling with, she wil not be judged and people will want to help. Both you and your friend could also visit the website : http://www.youngminds.org.uk/for_children_young_people/whats_worrying_you/self-harm...this has a section for children and young people just like your friend.

  • When ever I'm around boys I always think about going out with them and having sex and I'm only 12 Am I the only one Please help viki

    You are certainly not the only one and a great many teens and pre-teens find they have thoughts of a sexual nature and this is all part of your journey to becoming a young adult and nothing to be worried about.

  • Hi Vicki my boobs are a 32a and they really hurt at the minute. I don't know why. Also my nipples are cracked. When I touch my breast there is a lump under it. Help please!
    Rowan xxx

    Hi Rowan, this lump under your breast is your breast bud and part of your breast tissue, it can feel tender from time to time and is nothing to worry about. And for cracked nipples, which again are very common, rubbing in a little body oil or moisturiser will help heal these cracks.

  • Why are my breasts so tender and itchy? I asked my mom and she said they are probabley just dry. She also said she was not sure. P. s I know what puberty and periods are, I have been releasing discharge for 9 monthes.

    Hi, breasts are often tender and even a little sore as they develop due to the skin in this area being stretched as breast tissue grows. Rubbing in a little moisturiser at night may help, but generally it is best to just let this tenderness pass on its own and as your breasts grow fuller it will.

  • Hi viki I'm 14 in 7 weeks and today I went to the bathroom and saw a tiny small brown stain I mean it was really small and I don't know whether I have started my period or not please answer my question!!

    This could be your period, so for the next day or so, be sure to wear a liner or pad to collect any further fluid loss and have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • Hi vicki,
    I wear a b cup bra and whenever I sleep at my friends house she tells me that I don't need a b bra I need to wear a 34a bra but I got myself measured and they told me to get a 36b one size bigger than I thought I was and she said I looked like an idiot because I was trying to make my breasts look bigger what should I tell her because it's starting to make me feel self conscious

    Tell your friend to politely mind her own business. Make it clear that you have been measured professionally and that you feel comfortable in your bra and consider it a good fit. It really is that simple.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had a boyfriends(lets call him BOB) and we broke up, we are still friends but he fancies my best friend and she fancies him back. If they went out i would be really hurt as i wouldnt think that either of them could hurt me like that. Do you have any advice?
    My other problem is that my friend has all her curves as she is a 'early bloomer' and i havent got anything yet. I have taken your advice before of joining a club as i did but it just made me more self concious. Can u help me?

    If Bob and your friend like each other then as hard as it may be for you to see them together you should let her know that you are ok with them dating. For your part, try not to compare your development to that of your friend, we really are all different and will each have wonderful qualities about ourselves. So be nice to yourself and consider spending time having fun with friends and family over the summer break and give boys a miss for a while.

  • WHEN I PUT PADS ON THEY FFFL UNCOMFORTABLE WHY IS THAT?

    Just like anything new pads can take a bit of getting used to and you may find our Lil-Lets teens range of pads and liners are a more suitable product choice as they are shorter and narrower than other brands and designed for girls and teens.

  • Hi Vicki:) theres a boy in my class i really like. My friends think he likes me too. One of my best friends in my class is his cousin. Theres 2 girls and 8 boys in my class. I really like him what should i do??:D taahh<3

    Smile when you see him and ask him what he's been up to at the weekend. By getting to know this boy and show you are interested in his life, he will soon realise you like him and he may just feel the same way about you!

  • Hi Vicky! I'm 13 and have been having discharge for probably over a year now, I have had pubic hair for about 3 years, I have armpit hair and my boobs are still developing. My mum started her period when she was nearly 14 which I am fourteen in less than 2 months. 3 days ago, I found lots of brown discharge in my underwear, and had small cramps in the abdominal area , the next day however nothing has happened since, except normal white-yellow discharge. Do you know what has happened/will happen next??x

    This was most likely your first period, even though the amount of blood lost was very small, so share this news with your mum and ask that she purchases some pads and liners for you to keep in your drawer at home and bag when out and about.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have a boyfriend and he's perfect for me but my best friend has a crush on me and I dont know what to do cuz i have a boyfriend he loves me. please help me.

    Hi, if you love your boyfriend then make this clear to your best friend and they should then understand you are not interested in dating anyone else.

  • hi i'm nearly twelve and i have started my period, boobs are growing some off my friends started wear bras i told my mum that and she said i'm not big enough but i thing i am. what should i do ?

    Why not take your measurements and add them to our bra guide, you will then have an idea as to whether you need a bra or not and can share this news with your mum. Check out our Bra Guide for more on this subject.

  • What bra size am I ?
    Under breasts: 70cm
    Fullest part of breasts: 81cm
    Thanks xx

    32AA is your bra size, but this is just a guide and you should try on lots of different styles and sizes until you find the most comfortable for you.

  • what shaving balde should we use

    A fairly cheap disposable blade should be all you need to remove hair.

  • Have you personally met Zoella & Alexandra Burke?

    Yes, I am really lucky as I am always invited to the sets with our celebrities as an advisor, so I get to say Hi and often have lunch with all of them.

  • Part 11
    My mum is now recovering but will be in hospital for 5/6 weeks of the summer holliday. She will be severely unwell, as she is having a stem cell transplant. How do I stay strong?
    It is also really upsetting that about a month ago I got diagnosed with the same type of leukaemia.
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    Please speak to a member of your family about how you feel and how you can manage both your mum's and your illness. It could be an aunt or grand parent and you may even find the hospital treating your mum has a counselor you can have a chat to...and of course you can come and visit me anytime if you need to discuss anything.

  • Hi Vicki
    Part 1
    My mum was diagnosed with leukaemia last September (2013) and had to go to Newcastle twice every week. Sometimes she had to stay in for 2 weeks at a time and wasn't allowed visitors. (Newcastle is 2hours away from where I live) I started my period in March when I turned 11 and had no one to talk to so you felt like my mum.
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    My response is in Part Two.

  • I am nearly 16 years of age and still haven't started my period, I'm always getting distarge and always feeling itching I've use cream for thrush from the doctors and it doesn't seem to work. I'm worried about when I will start my period?

    The irritation may not be thrush but rather a sensitivity to the shower gel or cream you use to clean this area. So try unperfumed products to wash your vagina, wear loose fitting cotton clothes in this area too and see if this helps.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I really want to shave my legs but I know that my mum doesn't think I need to because I am blonde but most of my friends shave and they are really noticeable because that are so long and you especially see them when I am standing in light. How should I tell her and what should I do about this?
    Thanks xxπŸ’•

    Have a chat to your mum and explain that you feel a little self conscious when with your friends. She may change her mind especially as the warm weather is here, but ultimately it is her decision and you must respect her final word on this matter.

  • hiya vicki
    my friend takes the mick out of me for my boobs she says there to small when im a 30 c thats big for my body no offence but the only reason she has bigger boobs than me is because shes kind of fat also my other friend wears a bra when she has a flat chest and it really bothers me thx

    You may want to remind your friend about the importance of supporting each other during puberty and being kind. And try to remember that all breasts are beautiful and you should never pay too much attention to the size of the bra, this is after all just a number and meaningless.

  • My best friend told me she was pregnant last week.
    She is only 13 and she was really upset.
    She made me promise not to tell anyone, especially not her parents.
    She doesn't want to get an abortion but, she is too young to give birth and look after a baby.
    Please help!
    Jessica

    Hi Jessica, your friend needs to speak to an adult about this matter and if she cannot speak to her parents then an aunt or grandparent may be a good choice. Alternatively she can speak to Childine on O800 1111, or visit her local Brook Advisory Centre who will be able to offer her professional advice.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I started shaving my bikini area with shaving foam and a razor.
    Recently it has been really itchy and there are small bumps all of the area.
    How can I make the bumps go away?
    Thanks, Holly. X

    Hi Holly, time will heal these little lumps; which I have to say are quite common after shaving this area, so in future you may prefer to let it grow and simply trim the hair to keep it neat.

  • I think it looks quite good when you can see nipples through a shirt so I never wear a bra. It's just more comfortable and makes me feel a lot sexier. Is this bad? Im 18 x

    No this is not bad and lots of people prefer to go braless, it really is a matter of personal choice.

  • Can you still go to the toilet with a tampon in ?
    Thank you

    Yes of course, just simply move the cord to the side so it isn't in the flow of urine. 

  • is it ok to start puberty early?

    Girls can start puberty as young as the age of 8.

  • What bra sizzle am I?
    Im 71cm under/over
    And I'm 76cm bust
    Please answer ?....

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different sizes and styles of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • Hi. I am going into town today with my friend. I am going to get the starter pack and tampons. My Mum buys me and my sister this other make which I don't like as it does not have wings and it is massive. What can I say to my mum? I always hide the tampons and sanitary towels etc. Thanks.

    I am sure if you let your mum know that you need shorter and narrower products she will understand and be happy to purchase what you need. After all your comfort is the most important thing to both you and your mum. You may also be pleased to learn that our day pads in Boots come with a free pouch of teens wipes for you to try. Here is the link for more on this great offer. Lil-Lets Teens Day Pads.

  • So I got my period at the end of sixth grade but my friends are really nosy and they get into my pencil pouch and stuff in school and I don't want them to find my pads and tampons and they just won't stop getting into my stuff..where should I keep my female products?

    Why not consider purchasing our Lil-lets teens starter kit, it looks just like a make-up bag and contains all you need for when out and about. And finally, be firm with your friends and tell them to keep out of your bag in future.

  • So all I really have now is my 2 friends and they invited me to hang with them but I was always the third wheel and they are now hanging out without me. No one likes meπŸ˜•I don't think there's anything wrong with me...to be honest at this point, I really actually do feel bad for myself. I have started my period already but even when I'm not on my period I still feel bad.. Help?

    Groups of friends can hang out together so please don't feel because there are three of you one has to be the odd one out. Why not invite a few friends over for a sleepover and get friendships back on track. I am sure they have not left you out intentionally and would welcome you back into the friendship group.

  • 1st part I'm in 6th grade, and all my really good friends made new friends and they kinda just left me hanging and I always see them walking in my neighborhood in a group and they ignore me like I don't even exists anymore and my best friend that I loved and hung out all the time, I always ask if she wants to hangout but she ignores me. I do have a really good friend I've known since we were baby's but she never hangs out.

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Do you have in tips on shaving your vagina pubic hair cause I have curly long hair and it sneaks out of my swim suit and I really want to shave my vagina but last time I did it my vagina was sore and itchy.

    I am not a huge fan of shaving as I believe pubic hair to be natural and see no reason to remove it. But if you do feel the need to shave hair off in this area rather than trim it back, then ensure your razor is clean and that you use plenty of shaving gel or foam so the razor glides easily over the skin.

  • How do you tell your mum that you've got your first period? I'm only 10 years old and I'm worried about telling anyone.

    Please take the time to speak to someone or write them a note letting them know your period has arrived, they will help you manage this time and ensure you have products to protect your underwear.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm 13 and very uncomfortable with my breasts. I am very self conscience aabout them because they r so small. All of my friends make fun of me. I cant even fit an A cup It really bothers me so please any advice

    At 13 your breasts still have a lot of growing to do, so please don't worry about this and next time one of your friends makes an unkind remark...you may want to remind them how important supporting each other during puberty is for us girls and maybe they will feel a little bit ashamed by their behaviour.

  • hey vicki!! just wanna say ur site is a lifesaver. so I have a boyfriend but he is very busy a lot and it's annoying but anyway im always really wanting to make out w him and it's so weird and annoying and kinda scary. is this normal??

    It's very normal to want to be intimate with someone you are attracted to, but remember if you are under 16 there are limits as to what you should do and kissing and cuddling is about as far as you should be taking it. Finally, don't be too angry with your boyfriend for being busy this shows he has lots of interests in life and as such will be an interesting person to be around with lots of stories to tell.

  • Hey Vicki um I just started dicharge like a week ago and I use pads but my discharge is getting really heavy does that mean I'm close to my period

    Not necessarily. Discharge can often be heavy or light from day to day as the levels of hormones in your body fluctuates. This is very normal and nothing to worry about and Lil-lets teens pant liners will keep you feeling clean and fresh when the discharge is very heavy.

  • hi vicki
    i am 16 i have a crush i want to talk to him on whatsaap how do i start my conversation and i dont want to show him that i feel something for him plz help me

    Why not start by asking him what he's up to and what he has planned for summer break. Talking to him about him is always a great way to keep a conversation going.

  • Hi vicki
    What do you do when you like a guy but he does like you back?
    Or what if one of your close guy freinds like you and you might start liking them but you dont know if you like him in that way or not?

    If you like someone then let them know, by smiling or saying "Hi" and asking how their weekend was. Eventually both of you will soon get to know each other and be able to decide if you really are attracted to him romantically or not.

  • Hi Vicki, please help me.
    My parents divorced about 9 years ago. My dad lived in America ( where I'm originally from) and he recently came to visit. I like seeing him but it kinda made it worse because now I really miss him. He calls and email sometimes. Do you think If we spoke and emailed more it would help? Thank you so. Much Vicki, I'm so sad.
    K xx

    Hi K, keeping in touch is always great and you and your dad may find skyping is good for staying close to each other too. Remember that your dad wanst to hear all about your day and what you do, so fill him in on school, friends and what you do at the weekends to keep the conversation flowing.

  • What do i do if my period pains are really bad and paracetamol doesn't work?.

    Genlte exercise and ibuprofen, rather than paracetamol may help. If not then have a chat to your mum and ask if she can pop you along to your GP for a check-up.

  • Is it normal to feel a sudden erge to have sex?

    Its certainly normal to have feelings of a sexual nature as you enter puberty and these feelings may be very new for you and are nothing to be worried or anxious about; it's just your body preparing you for adulthood.

  • I have shaved my hooha and it is soon ichy wat to do cream won't work:px

    It really is now a case of letting the hair grow back and you will soon find this irritation stops. In future it may be better just to trim this hair back rather than shave it, which can often lead to a nasty rash as you have noticed.

  • I have two questions
    1) what are Breast buds ????
    2) and like 2 months ago (maybe a bit longer) one of my breasts grew quite a bit but my other one still hasn't what's happening and why haven't they grown more ?????

    Breast buds are little pieces of tissue that from the first part of breast growth and usually show as a little lump underneath your nipple area. It is also common, just like you have noticed for one breast to grow before the other, but don't worry the other one will catch up soon enough. Why not read more about this subject by clicking on Boobs and Bras in the Puberty section on our website.

  • My measurements are 66 under bust
    71bust I think I'm 28 a because 28aa feels too tight
    could you tell me what size I am please

    30AA appears to be your bra size now, so have a chat to your mum and when you visit the store be sure to try on lots of styles and sizes until you find the one most comfortable for you.

  • PART 2πŸ’• I don't know what to do because I really do fancy him a lot... Should I wait until next year (school year) because we have broken up for summer now and I don't ever really text him :/ please give me some advice!!! P.s I'm 14 and me and him are bothe single!!! Thanks!πŸ’•

    Please don't ever think someone is out of your league, this is simply not true and if you have this boy's number, text him and ask if he and a few of his friends would like to hang out during the summer break. If this is not something you are comfortable with, then when you go back to school next term, make an effort to smile and say "Hi" when you see him.

  • PART 1πŸ’•Hey Vicki,the last 2 years I really fancied this boy in my class, we were really close friends but this year we haven't been very close because he has started to hand around with more cooler/popular people, recently I realised I stilly fancy him A LOT and now he is out of my league and I don't have a chance.

    Please see my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Sorry, I'm going to appear so stupid here but I have read some other peoples questions and am now confused. Are the lil-let's wipes for your hands or bum?
    Please don't laugh
    Thanks x

    Hi, the Lil-Lets teens Freshen-up wipes are for use on and around your vaginal area and if you wish your anal area too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I use the teens towels, but after I use one when I take it off it is crumpled up and has often leaked onto my knickers. I have watched the video and I put them on right, so what should I do.
    Also, I never know how often to change my towel, I am never very heavy but am worried I leave them too long.
    Thankyou x

    A towel can be worn for up to 8 hours but most people change every 3-5 hours. Why not consider wearing our Lil-Lets Freshllock normal towels they are a little bit longer and may be more suitable.

  • I have had two periods and the second was quite heavy. I'm going on holiday next week and we will be swimming I'm worried that I can't go because of it but I really want to and practically no way I can't get out of it ! You said you can use a tampon unless you have had 6 periods !? What do I do !?

    If you feel comfortable then there is no reason why you cannot use a tampon, the six period rule is just a guideline. Have a chat to your mum about purchasing our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons; shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for girls new to tampon use.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm worried about asking this, but can you sweat through your vagina, because at school if I'm quite hot I leave a wet patch on the chair in a vagina-y shape. It's really embarrassing as you can imagine, as all the other chairs look fine. What do you think it is and what should I do?
    Thankyou x

    We can sweat from almost anywhere on our body and definitely from the vagina area, and especially in this hot weather. Wearing pant liners may help as plastic chairs can make the sweating worse. Or as some girls do, placing a jumper or coat on the chair may also help. Make sure you have some of our fabulous teens freshen-up wipes too as using these when you visit the toilet will leave you feeling clean and fresh for longer.

  • Hi Vicki :)
    This may be a wierd question, but I'm really tall and I tower over my friends. I'm only 12 and I'd just like to know when I will stop growing?!?!? Thanks <3

    Hi, it may be that your growth spurt into puberty has arrived sooner than your friends and it will slow down over the next few years as your friends catch-up.

  • Hello, I hope your okay. I'm finding it really hard to stop myself from smelling down there, I wear lillets pant liners and cotton underwear. I did use lillets wipes but ran out so will get more, also I'm finding that my bladder is leaking a little bit of fluid which increases the smell that is quite strong. I also use femfresh shower gel. And I'm not sure what else to do, any suggestions please. Thankyou Vicki.
    I really like this website and only use lillets products as they're the best. Jess xxx

    Hi Jess, I am glad you're wearing loose fitting cotton clothes  and pant liners. My advice would be to reduce the amount of time spent washing this area as it may be the small leakage of urine that is causing the odour and the vagina is pretty good at cleaning itself. In future get into the habit of visiting the toilet more regularly rather than waiting until you really need to go, as us women can very often leak a little bit of urine when the bladder is full, or when we laugh, cough or sneeze...it's just the way we are made and nothing to worry about.

  • I'm not sure if u anwser questions like this but...
    A few days ago my ex boyfriend dumped and he was quite harsh. We had a party today and he was flirting with this girl, dancing with her, giving her his sunglasses, playing footie with just her all the thins we used to do. But he kept looking back at me. I know him extremly well and would think he knows I'm upset about this thats why he is looking. But i don't no what to do cuz i miss what we had and its making it worse and so soon as well :'(
    annabel

    Hi Annabel, this boy is clearly trying to show you he has moved on and prove a point. Please don't let him see you are upset and concentrate on spending time with family and friends so you have little time to think about him. It won't be easy, but in a few months you will get stronger and miss him less.

  • Hi vicki :)
    I wanted help deciding whether or not a guy likes me ..... You see I was talking to him for a while and he seemed pretty nice an I no him well because he lives in my estate .... He said he liked me and that we should shift the next day ... So the next day came and we didnt then the day after that he started being mean to me for no reason and then day after that he poured fizzy lemon in my hair ... But then he started being nice again .... In really confused what should I do ... HELP! L.a.d

    Hi, it seems that this boy does like you but is afraid to show his feelings especially when around others. Give him some time to get used to the idea of others knowing you like each other. But don't let him pour lemonade over you, it's way too hot for that kind of ickiness.

  • I'm 13 and I normally get cramps for about 3 days before I start my period the 3 days are up and I thought it was starting but it looks more like it's ending instead of starting. I was going to ask my mum but I felt awkward. Thank you for any help or advice given

    We do not always experience menstrual cramps when our period is due or even when our period is here, so if you can try not to worry it may be that your cramps are simply caused by your reproductive organs maturing and this is very common.

  • Hi vicki I'm 11 and I just started discharge, it's a big step for me and I'm a little scared I just don't know how to tell my mum, oh yeah and should I start wearing liners? Xx

    You only need to wear liners if discharge leaves you feeling uncomfortable, otherwise it can easily be washed out of your underwear and I doubt you will have to say anything to your mum as she will have already noticed this fluid when she does the weekly laundry and will totally understand what it is. For more information on discharge why not read our section under thePuberty tab.

  • Hi Vicki, please reply because I need an answer!
    Last week I noticed a big brown patch of dry stuff on my knickers,
    I am certain that it is not discharge and I asked my mum and she said it was probably nothing!
    Could this be my first period?
    PLEASE ANSWER ASAP!
    Bye X.
    p.s you are really good on this site.

    This could be your first period or if you have visited the toilet and not wiped this area thoroughly it may also have been residue from waste food (poo).  Why not keep some liners or pads with you from now on just in case your period comes again in the future.

  • Im a bit concerned as im a 13 year old girl and all of my friends have started their period but i havent can you tell me why this is please?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive and nothing to be worried about. If you can try not to compare your progress with that of others.

  • so hey Vicki, so I recently started wearing bras ( im 11) I was fitted as a 30AA but I have been getting marks underneath my bust. I'm not sure if I have been fitted wrong. I wear the last whole. but I think I might need a 32AA but im not sure. is it normal to get marks?
    thanks :)

    Red marks could mean lots of different things and it could that since your purchase your size has changed so why not measure yourself again and see what bra size you are now.

  • dear Vicki
    thanks for answering all my previous questions. There's this guy who seemed really sweet and always smiled at me but whenever he's surrounded by his friends he always teases me. I don't know if he likes me or not. Plz help, rlly appreciate what you do

    Sometimes boys tease the girls they like to avoid being found out by their friends. Give this boy some time to be brave enough to show you and his friends how he truly feels and smile at him every now and then so he knows you like him too!

  • Hi vicki, I'm 11 years old and recently I have noticed that I swear a lot! I don't get stressed I just sweat under my arms. Everyday I have huge sweat marks under my arms and it's horrible! I wear antipersperint everyday, I shower everyday, I wear clean clothes everyday, I drink quite a lot of water and I shave under my arms. What else Can I do? Thanks (:

    Hi why not try a different brand of anti-perspriant deodorant, there are very often stronger ones on shelves for people who are prone to sweat a little more and especially during the summer months. If you can also avoid tight fitting synthetic clothes that can make us sweat more and hold in the odour.

  • Hi. I have been on my period for about one year. I never told my mum I started, but she somehow new. I have been buying lil lets teens products and hiding them from my mum. I have used tampons but my mum does not know. Do I need to tell her? Well if I am on my period and I go swimming I try and hide my used pads in the bins outside so I can go swimming. my mum does not want me using tampons those. Help? thanks.

    It may be a good idea to have a chat to your mum and let her know that you have tried tampons and found them ideal for swimming but do not want to keep this from her. I am sure she will understand and be happy that you have been honest with her.

  • H vicki! I'm going to Mexico for 11 nights I August an I wnt to buy a few bikinis. What are the best styles for me? I'm a 34b and quite a curvy/chunky girl. I was thinking a padded one as they give better shape. What do you think? Thankies!! :D x

    When you go shopping, try on some different styles until you find some that suit you, flatter your body shape and feel comfortable.  Have a great time in Mexico.

  • Hi Vicki, so I have been getting millia spots (milk spots) I had 2 on my forehead but now im getting loads of small ones under my eyes! im really self-conscious with them and worried that they are going to spread. I feel like it has something to do with wearing makeup since I was 8, im eleven now.
    I haven't worn makeup recently but im still worried about them.

    These little spots under the skin are generally not caused by make-up but by a build-up of oil under the skin. They generally disappear on their own and in the meantime consider exfoliating this area a couple of times a week to keep oil to a minimum.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I am 12 years old and haven't started my period yet.I am 57 kg.Secondly I cry on little things and sometimes I really feel to have sex.I dont know why.I am really worried.
    BTW your website is awesome.xoxoxoxoxo
    Love Amy.

    Hi Amy, you are well and truly in the time to of your life called puberty and all of these things you are noticing are very normal and nothing to be worried about. Why not read our Puberty section and blogs for all you need to know about this special time.

  • hey Vicki, I have had discharge for 7-8 months now and im a 30a, do you think I should be starting my period soon? xx

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives so i would guess that you haven't too much longer to wait.

  • Hi Vicki
    I'm 16 and don't have a boyfriend but I keep experiencing sexual feelings , I really want to kiss and cuddle a boy I just want to be loved by someone , Is this normal ?

    It is very normal to have feelings of a sexual nature even if you are not dating, this is part of your journey to becoming an adult and is very normal.

  • Hey I have heard about a few people getting free samples and I was wondering if this is true and can we still get some and how can I get some???

    Yes, we do offer samples so why not ask your mum if you can request a sample from me and complete the Contact from at the bottom of the page.

  • hi vicki,
    is it normal for it to hurt a bit when u put in and take out tampons? I have been using tampons for a while and i thought the pain on insertion and taking out was normal but i thought i would check?
    thanks-millie

    Try to relax when inserting a tampon and insert in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and push it in as far as is comfortable,  as it should not be painful and if you feel any restriction when removing a tampon then it may mean you are removing it too soon. So consider keeping it in a little longer but never longer than 8 hours.

  • Hi Vicki, just to say I love your website it's really helpful ! ......I'm a tiny bit worried please can you give advice, for the past day or two I've had a really heavy feeling in my lower stomach and I don't know what it is, any ideas ?? Thankyou so much..... Love from Livy age 12 xoxoxo

    Hi and thanks for the great feedback. Livvy this could be a sign that your period is due soon, or simply that you are feeling a little sluggish during this lovely weather we are enjoying. If it continues then have a chat to your mum.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 13 and my period hasn't come for a month and a few weeks is there something wrong with me please respond xxx.

    Periods are often irregular for the first couple of years with gaps of several months being very normal.

  • Hi Vicki, for the past couple of days iv had really bad headaches all day. It doesnt go even if i take something for it, like a paracetamol or nurofen. At school today i started feeling sick to and i dont know what it is, i feel fine apart from that. Mum said it could just be because im getting close to starting my period? πŸŽ€

    These headaches could also be caused by the wonderful weather we are experiencing. Very often when its hot we fail to drink enough water and become dehydrated, which can lead to headaches. So consider upping your fluid intake on a hourly basis and see if this makes a difference.

  • What size am I 70cm under and 74 over xx

    32AA is your size, but remember this is a guide and you should try on lots of different styles and sizes until you find the most comfortable one.

  • Lately I hav been wearing these sort of crop tops instead of proper bras (because I broke one then lost a lot of the rest) is this going to make my boobs saggy (forever)?
    This might sound silly sorry- thanks x

    No not at all and I wear crop tops or soft bras from time to time, so please try not to worry.

  • I started my period two months ago now and I have been using towels because my mum doesn`t buy tampons. Since I`ve not had my period very long, I havn`t got into a pattern yet. The thing is, some of my friends have invited me to go swimming, and I really want to go, but I`m due to start my period around that time and I don`t want to embarrass myself, so I have two questions.Is it healthy to wear a tampon when you`re not on your period?
    Thanks x

    There is no need to wear a tampon or pad when not on your period and it would be unwise to do so.

  • Hi Vicki, i have just recently masturbated and i really didnt like it, it felt really uncumfortable it made me need a wee and felt like i had really bad stomach ache when i did it, it has also left me very sore, is this normal? thanks x

    Not everyone feels the need to masturbate, so please do not think this is something you have to do, this is simply not the case.

  • Hey,
    I am 12 and my boobs fit in a 34 a bra so they r the same size as my friends. But they have also started their period and have their pubic (as they have told me) but I haven't. I am a little worried, my mom told me her boobs were about as big as mine when she was 14!! So I think I am ahead of her.
    THX:)

    Breast size is different for all of us and has no impact on the arrival of your period. So if you can try not to compare your progress to that of others and see what the next year brings.

  • Hi Vicki

    I have stretch marks but I'm only 13. Do you know how I can get rid of them? I don't want to tell my mom, is there any home remedies to get rid of them? Please help

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    You may find my blog on Stretchmarks really useful as it discusses how to help fade these marks and hopefully will make you feel better about these marks.

  • Hello xx I'm going into year 8 and I've just started going out with this boy from my school but I can't seem to make my mind up on him. I've been out with him before and I dumped him the day after because it didn't feel right x what shall I do xxx thanks πŸŽ€

    It seems you have doubts about this boy, which is something you should not ignore and it may be time to have a chat to him and ask if you can take a step back and be friends for a while, so you can find out how you truly feel.

  • Dear Vicki, my mum says that my period may come soon but I still think that it'll come once I'm a bit older. How do I know if I'm ready?

    It really is a case of when your body feels the time is right and it may be that your mum can see some of the signs that your period is not too far away so why not listen to her advice and have some products with you when out and about.

  • can you get thrush or other infections and stuff from masturbating and what are all the ways you can get them?

    Unless your hands are very dirty it would be unlikely you would get an infection from masturbating. There are lots of reasons for vaginal infections, such as severe sweating in this area, wearing tight fitting clothes to name but two.

  • My pubic hair is like black when the hair on my head is very light browny ginger. How?!!x

    Pubic hair is rarely the same colour as the hair on your head and this is nothing to be worried about and very normal.

  • Should I wear a pad when I have discharge

    A pant liner would be better...pads are generally for your period and not discharge.

  • Hi Vicki, so I'm 15, almost 16 and I've had discharge a lot for about 3 months. Last month I had a ton and my underwear looked a little brownish, but nothing has happened since except more discharge, so was that my period? Thanks.

    It could have been your period or it may have been residue from waste food (poo), so why not wait and see what happens over the next few months and be prepared by having some pads and liners with you from now on.

  • Hi vicki! My bff made a new friend the other day and I'm really sad and I feel pushed out but I keep crying,but when I cry I have no tears i just go really red faced and make noises

    Have a chat to your friend and let her know you feel a little left out and ask that she can ensure all 3 of you can join in and have fun together.

  • I have a hairy back and I don't have a flat stomach so I feel like I can't wear these cropped tshirts that girls seem to wear.

    Not everyone suits crop tops so don't worry about this, you can still be fashionable with other styles of tops and shirts.

  • I started having discharge about a year ago but still haven't started my periods. Am I normal?

    Yes very normal and discharge is often noticed for longer than 12 months, so try not to worry your period will arrive when your body feels the time is right for you and not before.

  • hi vicki ,
    well my cousin waas home for a few days and we got hit on one day and and knows she gone back i miss her so much cauz i've no sister i want to ask her advice about stuff cauz we keep in touch by text and email i want to ask her advice about a guy i like how could i ask her?cauz she told me i could tell her anything so how could i bring it up
    p.s .im 12 and she is 17
    love mysterygirl

    Hi Mysterygirl, if your cousin has offered to be there for you then simply tell her that you have found someone you like does she have any advice for you. I am sure will have some great advice.

  • hi i`m 12.I keep getting these white things in my pants whats wrong.

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. It is also a great sign that your period is not too far away.

  • Hi vicki Summer's here!! It's very sunny and very hot here in Britain and I've noticed that my underwear feels a bit wet I'm not sure if it's discharge or just sweat, should i start wearing panty liners?

    This may be a good idea and lots of women including me, wear liners on a daily basis to keep them feeling clean and fresh during the summer months.

  • how do you know if you are going to get your periods ?

    Discharge is one sign, although not everyone experiences this. Some people also notice tummy cramps for a little while before. If you think you have entered puberty and your period may be arriving soon, then consider being prepared by having some pads or liners with you from now on.

  • Hi vicky,why shouldnt you shave your arms?

    Just like anywhere on your body if you shave the hair grows back quite blunt and is more visible which is why most people prefer not to shave in this area.

  • I was flat chested until November 2013 and then I got these lumps under where my nipples are. They are still there July 2014 apart from the right one got bigger and the left one is gone.
    Whats happening and is it normal???
    Thanks in advance xxx

    This is breast development and these little lumps are called breast buds. You can find out all about this and more by clicking on the Puberty tab and Boobs and Bras section.

  • You never seem to answer my questions and they are in no way inappropriate please answer!!!xxx

    If your question is appropriate I will answer it, but it may take a couple of days as I receive hundreds every single day and work as fast as I can to answer them. Keep a note of your unique reference number and check back from time to time to see if I have responded.

  • Hi Vicki
    Can you use tampons even if the period is the brown type (hope this makes sense). Because I know you can't use them when you are not on your period do when you get brown blood does it count as your period enough to use tampons?
    Thanks x

    If you are on your period you can use a tampon. You should however change the absorbency of your tampon based on how heavy or light your flow is and not the colour of your period blood. Check out my blog on Understanding Tampon Absorbencies for more on this subject.

  • Hey vicki,
    My nipples are puffy and soft. Is this nomal? I wear pretty soft bras and when i put it on my boob goes a weird shape and looks strange i need to cover up (in hot weather aswell). Any suggestions?

    Nipples are very often soft and puffy not only when the breast is developing but also when they are warm (nipples are very sensitive to temperature).  And their shape can change for a little while when in a bra, but please don't worry both of these things are very normal.

  • Plus whenever i ask she gets arkward and angry saying that it was my fault that i didn't say what i wanted well enough. :( and i am starting to get anxious about my boobs showing and that she is mean. I don't have any friends to ask.

    See my response in your original question to me.

  • I've been getting discharge for about 6 months and I haven't started my periods. a couple of days ago my vagina started to sting when I pee. Then for about a day it stopped and now it is really stinging. It isn't itchy though. Please help? Does this mean my period is starting?

    Irritation when urinating could mean you have a urine infection, which needs to be treated by a doctor so please share these symptoms with your mum or the person who cares for you so they can decide if you need an appointment.

  • Dear Vicki, I've recently started my period. But when I have it, it has these darkish gooey stuff with it. Is that normal?

    Menstrual fluid is made up of nutrients, blood and tissue from the lining of your uterus so can very often appear dark and gooey. This is nothing to worry about and very normal.

  • So my mum doesn't like going out to shops and buying clothes and stuff. So she orders all of my clothes online. We are short of money atm but i need a bra. She orders a bra online and it us the wrong size and uncomfortable. So she orders a different one and it's to big. Personally i think we should go to a bra fitters or go into a shop and try diffrent ones on because she is wasting her money plus time ticks by and i still have no good bra. Any ideas?

    Why not consider visiting bargain stores such as New Look or Primark, or even Tesco and Sainsbury's, all of these stores have reasonably priced underwear that I am sure you mum will purchase for you once you have tried them on and found your ideal size.


  • Hi vicki,
    I'm always moody and I always think too much, how can I prevent this?
    Btw I'm 13

    During puberty both mood swings and a change to the way we see the world around us can change and become very important. So when you notice a change to either, spend some time talking your feelings and thoughts through with a member of your family, such as a parent, aunt or grand parent. They will listen, and maybe even offer some advice on the subjects that worry you.

  • hi! please answer this!!!!!
    okay so I am almost 14 years old and I have had discharge for a while (maybe 2yrs) and well two days ago I noticed two spots in my underwear and they where a dull red color and the yesterday I noticed a light pink/white spot and I'm just wondering if this was my period ???? please help and answers
    thanks, bre

    Hi Bre, yes this was almost certainly your first period, even though only a small amount of menstrual fluid was lost. So please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I had my period when I was 11 is this a good thing to start early

    A period can arrive from the age of 8-18 and simply means your body is preparing you for womanhood, which can only be seen as a good thing I feel.

  • My periods dont last that long 3 or 4 days to stop is this bad?

    Periods can last anything from 2-10 days so you really do not have anything to worry about.

  • Why do period's hurt?

    Not everyone notices discomfort during or before their period. For those that do, this is generally caused by the muscles surrounding the uterus contracting as it releases menstrual fluid.

  • hi Vicki, when i use products like deodorant on my armpits they go red raw for a couple of days and it really hurts and also before this started to happen i had a lump under my arm pit i'm not sure what it was could put this it the body section please

    Elizabeth xx

    Hi Elizabeth, it would appear that the deodorant you are using does not suit your skin type. So consider using a brand suitable for sensitive skin. A roll-on deodorant may be a good idea.

  • Do lil lets have a range of pads and liners

    Yes we do and here is the link to our Lil-Lets range.

  • Hey Vicki:) so i got my first period on thursday and i still have it today, tuesday its been 6 days and im wondering should first period last that long?? Also my period was blood but now its like brown discharge. Is this the end of my period?? Thank you<3

    Hi and yes some girls do experience periods that last for several days and this is nothing to worry about. Also, menstrual fluid is often lighter in colour at the end of your period and on your last days.

  • hi Vicki, my breasts are rather triangular i'm 14 will they go round and why are they a triangular shape please could you answer this and put it in the boob section.

    Cozzy x

    Many girls notice this triangular shape to their breasts as the develop and they will become fuller as you get older so please try not to worry.

  • hi, I've just started my period & I've been having a lot of stomach pains & I don't know if there's anyway to calm them down? if you have any advice that would be great. Thank you !

    Gentle exercise is generally all that is needed to help with this discomfort, or alternatively a warm bath or hot water bottle may help.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I just turned 13 and I am a late developer. Very late.
    My breasts are growing, and I think they're not big but they're getting rounder, but they are absolutely invisible under my shirt. I really want a padded crop top to boost my self confidence but I asked my mum about 1 or 2 years ago and she said I didn't need it. I'm afraid shell say "why do you want it" but I want it because I'm 13 and have no boobs, and I feel EXTREMELY out of place. Help!!! xxxx

    Breasts come in a variety of sizes and shapes and I do hope you can learn to love your individual shape whatever that may be. Have another chat to your mum and ask if you can try on a few padded bras for extra comfort and you may find a size and style that offers you both support and confidence.

  • PLEASE HELP ME VICKI!!!!
    I love you site!
    I have been humping my pillows and stuff since I was like 5 or something. I'm now 13, I really want to stop! I always feel really guilty. I looked for advise on the Internet, but everyone says its a normal thing and don't worry about it, but I want to stop it! And it's not in the day time that I do it, it's always at night so I can't think of anything that would destract me. I need your help!
    xx ❀❀❀

    Why not consider reading a book when in your room or leaving the door open so you have less privacy.

  • How Can I Stop My Moods From Going All Over The Place?

    There is very little you can do to stop the changes to your moods as you enter your teen years and puberty, but you can change the way you act when moods are changing. For instance if you feel a little angry with people, count to 10 or walk away. If you feel sad, then don't be tempted to hide away in your room and let people know you need cheering up.

  • i can feel my tampon when i sit down and when i take them out it hurts for a while am i doing it right thanks casey

    Hi Casey, it seems you are not inserting your tampon high enough inside your vaginal passage. So in future insert in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and push the tampon in farther for the most comfortable fit. You may find our Lil-lets teens non-applicator tampons a good product to use as they are shorter and narrower than other brands and great for girls new to tampon use.

  • Hi vicki
    I'm 12 nearly 13 and in January I had my period but I have been of it now for 4months and I am getting really worried on why I haven't started please can you help
    Thank you

    Periods can often have gaps of several months between each one, this is nothing unusual and there is no need to worry.Your body is simply working out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki,
    So Bacicaly I have a crush on this boy. I have liked him for about 4 months but my friend has a massive crush on him and she told me. I was at a party last weekend with him and we talked a lot and hugged and stuff.
    And I really wanna go out with him but I don't want to be mean to my friend what should I do!!'n πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯πŸ’₯

    Be honest with your friend and let her know that you have grown close to this boy and like him too. Then it really is up to the boy in question as to who, if either of you he dates. But whatever you do, agree that you will not break friends over a boy...that would be silly!

  • Hi vicky, I just started my period and I am using a sanitary towel but it feels really weird and how I dispose of them?
    Please help me
    Xoxoxo
    ps I am 12

    It might take a little getting used to but you will in time.  As for disposing of them, just wrap the used towel in its wrapper and dispose of it in the bathroom bin or in with normal household rubbish.

  • i stared my periods heavy and have to wear night time pads all the time,which are really uncomfortable and i am scared to wear tampons. what should i do?

    Some girls do experience heavy periods and it may be that you could try tampons on your heavier days and when at home. Tampons are worn every day by millions of women who enjoy the freedom and protection they offer. Why not check out my blogs on Understanding Tampon Absorbencies and When is the right time.

  • Hi Vicki
    So today when I got up I found yellowy greeny stuff in my underwear was this discharge as I've already got discharge? Plz help
    From birdy πŸ₯

    Hi Birdy, it is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out so try not to worry.

  • i have tried tampons alot but i still cant get it in ive looked at loads of things on ur webcite but i still find it rly hard im a swimmer and i rly need to know how to use them

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to ensure everything is as it should be.

  • Hi Vicki , I have had my period for about six months now and think it's time for me to start using tampons , I am going swimming tomorrow so thought I better start using them today so I can get used to them , becUse obviously you can't swim with pads , but it says on the information leaflet that I should t be able to feel it , but I can - is this normal or am I doing it wrong ?
    Worried13yearold

    It is most likely that you have not inserted the tampon high enough inside your vagina and this is why you can feel it. So next time insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine and ensure you push it in far enough so as to be comfortable.

  • Hi, I've just found out that one of my best friends likes my crush today! And I'm mad and still sad really sad! I was wondering if someone could help me out,think of something positive, so I can still be happy and positive!! And before I found out like yesterday, he was like starring at me in class, and like he wanted to scan just my library book, just once. And I though he really liked me, but I'm not sure and I don't really wanna ask him. So please help because I'm so upset and need help!! Thanks😊

    Hi, it is always possible that more than one girl will like the same boy, but rather than be angry or sad, consider how best to find out if this boy feels the same way about you and spend time getting to know him. And whatever you do, please don't break friends with this girl over a boy, in my experience friendships last longer than first loves.

  • I am going into 6th grade and I have had discharge for a year now and I have started spotting. Do you think I bring some pads to school just incase?
    -Chloe

    Hi Chloe, I think keeping some pads and liners with you when out and about and once discharge has been noticed is an excellent idea. And you may find our Lil-Lets teens day towels are ideal to keep in your bag.

  • HEY VICKY PlZ HELP URGENT

    Sorry if innapropriote but i recently fingered myself and afterwards my vjj started to ITCH still there a week later ( could this be in my head,maybe not as bad because when i dont think about it its barely there) could this just be dryness...HEELLLLPPPP

    GEMMA

    Hi Gemma, this could just be a coincidence and this irritation is most likely being caused by the wonderful weather we are currently experiencing.

  • my mum started her you-know-what at 12 does it mean i might start roughly at that age?

    Not all girls start their periods at the same time as family members, but if you feel your period is not too far away, it may be a good idea to keep some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • Hi Vicki I'm Gracie and I'm 15 basically I started my period January 2014 and missed one in February I then had ones in March April and May and June and July I haven't had one yet it's nearly the end of July so what If I don't have a period for 3 months!? I haven't had sex I know for a fact:)

    Hi Gracie, periods can often be irregular with long gaps of several months between each one. It does not mean there is anything wrong but simply that your body is working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hey Vicki, I used to have very hairy legs at the age of 9 and now I am 10 and use veet (hair removal cream) but I want to start actually shaving bc it takes to long to do the veet and I have a very busy schedule. I use veet on my legs amd my armpits. My mom said whenever I am ready I can start shaving but I am scared to ask her?! How should I tell her that I want to actually shave? I do gymnastics so I always have to lift my arms and if I have hair its emberassing. More hair under one than the other?

    Why not ask your mum if she can pick you up a razor and shaving gel next time she does the weekly shop. This is a good way to remind her of your previous conversation. Remember though that shaving requires upkeep and you may find you have to shave your legs and underarms every 3-4 days.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I'm 12 and I haven't started my period but all my friends have. I don't really want to but I'm just a little worried.
    thx

    There really is nothing to be worried about, periods can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18, so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive.

  • Hey Vicki I'm jerzye and I was wondering I just started discharge like a week ago and it's been getting really heavy and I started wearing pads but seance it's been getting really heavy does that mean my periods gonna start soon luv ya

    Hi Jerzye, discharge can often be noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period; sometimes less than this, or sometimes longer. So it may be an idea to keep some liners or pads in your bag just in case.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm kinda worried because I have been discharging for a little bit over a year now and the discharge was clear at the beginning but now it's a creamy white color and haven't started my period... I'm 13 and I wear a 34 a cup bra and I was just wondering if this is normal...
    Thanks Vicki xx

    Discharge can often change in colour; sometimes creamy yellow and other times clear and runny. It is nothing to worry about and these changes are caused the levels of hormones in your body at any one time.

  • How do you measure your breasts to find out what your bra size is ?

  • Hi Vicki !

    I'm 13 and have very small breasts . My 12 year old friend wears a C cup which is much larger than mine. I'm very insecure about it and people always make fun of me . Idk if I'm even supposed to be wearing a bra let alone what size. Plus is it true that massaging your breasts help them grow ? Please help !

    Hi, firstly breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and develop at different times for each of us, so please ignore any silly comments about size from others. Massaging your breasts will not help increase their size, but it may help with any tenderness you experience as they continue to grow.

  • Hey vicki. This is just out of curiosity. Is it ok to marry someone 12-14 years older than you? Just wondering.

    If you are both legally old enough to marry and love each other then age is not of concern to the registry office or the church you wish to be married in.

  • Hey Vicki
    Well I'm (in the Uk) and going into High School (S1) and I'm really nervousπŸ˜₯!! I've always heard storiesπŸ“– like " you get bullied if you do this or do that or wear this or pick that" I'm really scared!!! I've for ma heart set in being a PS teacherπŸ‘© but I'm scared I won't make any friendsπŸ‘­πŸš« and all if ma PS buddies will just leave me!!!πŸ˜’πŸ™Got any tips❓ XπŸ™‹πŸ‘ŒπŸ˜‰
    Thanx alot Vicki you're AMAZING!!!!!!!

    Hi, lots of girls feel like this and I think you will find my blog entitled; Back to School useful.

  • Can you take vitamins for your period to be regular if they aren't

    Taking vitamins will have no effect on the regularity of your period and this will come with time and once your body has worked out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hello, I'm 13 Years Old And I Have A Boyfriend Who's 16. he doesn't Know I'm 13 Because I Lied About My Age. Is It Okay If I Have A Boyfriend As Old As Him? And If So How Will I Tell Him I'm 13? Please Answer Me, I Need Your Help So Badly. Thank You

    I think you should not only speak to this boy and come clean about your real age, but also share this news with your parents, who I am sure will have boundaries they wish you to keep if you decide to continue to date this boy.

  • Hi, I'm Izzy. I Started My Period Two Years Ago(I'm 13 Now) And I Have Been Wearing Bras Since 11. I Am Slightly Overweight, But I Feel Like I'm The Fattest Person Ever. I Cut Myself And I Suffer From Depression And Anxiety. My Question Is Will I Always Feel Like this?

    Hi Izzy, you really do need to share your thoughts and feelings with others, such as your parents, teachers or other trusted family members. They will work with you to reduce these feelings and help you break the habit of self-harming in the future. So don't be too disheartened, there is a lot of help out there, you just have to ask.

  • Hi my names Amy. I'm 13 years old and 160cm I'm talle than my sisters who are way older than me and also my relative always say I look like I'm way older how do I feel more confident?
    My undereyes are always dark however I eat healthy sleep and all the rest what could be the cause and how I could i prevent this?
    Thank you .

    Hi Amy, not all sisters look alike and it would be a great idea to embrace your height and dress to compliment this, so why not take a look in magazines for some fashion tips. As for dark undereyes, these can often be genetic and if other members of your family have them, then you too may naturally dark in this area. Usually a little concealer is all that is needed to lighten this area.

  • i started my period I'm 13 year old but me and my mum don't talk so i don't know who to talk to about it my friends haven't started so i cant talk to them and my school teachers don't like me. My blood so time brown so i scards of that please help me do i have to go to the dr.

    You do not have to visit your doctor when your periods arrive as they are a natural part of being a woman. But it would be wise to write a little note for your mum asking if she can pick you up some pads next time she is out shopping. You could leave this note in her make-up bag, or bedside table or undewear drawer, so only she will be able to find it.

  • I'm only 13 and there's this boy that's madly in love with me like crazyy in love, he touches my bum& boobs a lot and it makes me feel weird, he told me he wants to have sex... what should I do? he beats me up and I'm scared he will when I say no. pleasee help. xxx

    PLEASE speak to your parents or teacher about this boy and his behaviour which is totally inappropriate and should be stopped immediately. If he comes near you in the future move away or block his hand. Let him know you do not like his affection towards you and if he does not stop you will report his harassment to the authorities. This may seem a little over the top, but I think he needs to understand when to draw the line and consider other people's private space.

  • my period was to come Saturday and today is Monday and it hasn't come as yet
    what is happening ?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki my name is tee and I believe my period started in March this year and since then I haven't been seeing any blood on my liners. Am I normal ? 4 months of a missed period well I think it was a period. Because there was blood daily. And my boobs don't seem to be growing I'm a bit small but I'm scared they'll stay this size.

    Hi Tee, try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regualr period.  As for your breast development, just try to be patient as this can still happen up until your 20's.

  • Hi viki, I just wanted to know. When you get your period do you loose weight??? Xxxx

    Thank you β€πŸ’•β€

    Your period will not affect your weight and the best way of maintaining a healthy weight is by sticking to a healthy, balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables.

  • Hi there Vicki, please answer this question I have for you. My twin sister , Spencer, started her period a few months ago (about 3 or 4 months to be exact) I wondered if we would start around the same time but there's nothing happening with me? I'm kind of happy that it's not coming as quick as hers but I thought because we're twins we might of started at the same time? Should I tell my mum I'm worried? Thanks for reading this Vicki. Aria x

    Hi Aria, even though you're twins, you're still different so try not to worry as I'm sure it won't be too much longer before yours arrives too.  the best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  Please don't be afraid to talk to your mum about any concerns you might have, she is there to help and support you.

  • Will tampons hurt when I first use them because I'm a little scared to try one even though I really want to

    The key to success is to relax before inserting the tampon fully into the vagina so only the cord is showing.  You mgiht like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I was wondering, bc atm I'm really self conscious about this, whether there is any way to make your boobs look the same size. They're like a whole cup size different and it's so annoying... Any advice, and please don't just tell me to wait for them to grow out.
    NK (13)

    Hi NK, if you have a padded bra, you could either remove the padding from the cup that is bigger or if you prefer, add a little padding to the cup which is smaller in an unpadded bra.

  • Part 2. So I'm a really good kid as well. I help at Church, I have told her I will never drink, etc. She thinks its good but isn't proud. When I had my dance show this weekend she bought flowers so I hope she's proud of me....

    I'm sure your mum is very proud of you but she might just have a problem with letting you know so why not talk to her and express how you feel.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Part 1. I kinda feel like my mum's never proud of me. Its ever since I went to this school and was having a really hard time and grades went down. I know she understands this was a hard time but she doesn't',t seem to realize how hard on me it was. When I failed my exams we decided to home school again but she seemed annoyed at me, like I should have just 'got the grades' somehow and stayed there. I feel like such a failure even a year later.

    You really can't be blamed for any of this so try not to worry and concentrate now on doing the best you possibly can with your Home Schooling.  Continued response in Part 2.

  • Hi Vicky, i feel really uncomfortable with my thighs and when they are sweaty they rub together and it really hurts,because of that it has left scars and brown stretch marks along my thighs, due to this people often ask me if i have pooped myself and it makes me feel so stupid and isecure, what can i do? any tips, thanks x

    Stretch marks are so common during puberty when skin is stretched rapidly over a short period of time and you might find that dabbing a little talcum powder on your thighs will help the discomfort during the day when you are moving about.  However, after your bath or shower of an evening, you might like to try applying some moisturiser as this will help to keep the skin hydrated and minimise the effects.

  • What does it feel like? Does it feel like your wetting yourself?

    Menstrual blood is released from the vagina as opposed to the urethra when we urinate so it does feel different.

  • Hi I have a question, how can I ask my sister about her period? And how can my boobs grow slower

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so there is no need for you to feel embarrassed.  There is nothing you can do to make your breasts develop any slower as this is a natural process so try not to worry and let nature take its course.  It is only a matter of time before you notice your peers' breast development too.

  • This might be inappropriate but I really need to know and I can't tell anybody else but I watch porn only to master bate
    1.is it bad to masterbate cause I feel guilty and ashamed afterwards:(
    2.my period has been acting weird it always came either after or before the actual date it's suppose to come I'm 13

    You shouldn't feel guilty about masturbating as during puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to experience feelings of a sexual nature more than they did before and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these new feelings.  As for your period, during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I am 19 and haven't started my period yet.
    What should I do?? I am really worried :(

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Is t right to masturbate?becuase I always tend to do so a few days after my period

    During puberty, sex hormones run riot causing teens to experience feelings of a sexual nature and masturbation is a natural, instinctive way of exploring these feelings.

  • Hi Vicki, I have recently started my periods but i never spoke to my mum about puberty or the details of periods, she knows I have started but didnt mention anything about puberty, I also feel embarrassed when she mentions boys or when people kiss on tv, we are not open with eachother, is this normal? thanks x

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about anything to do with puberty.  You might like to ask her if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample from the home page of this website as a way of starting a conversation.  You will find a Becoming a Teen booklet inside the free sample which will help to guide you through puberty.

  • My best friend and I like the same guy- even though we both knew he already liked me.
    I have now become his Girlfriend and my best friend has became really jealous and is ignoring me even though she said it's fine when I first started to go out with him.
    I don't know what to do anymore.... :c

    Am I being a bad friend?

    If you both knew you liked this boy and were happy to be in competition with each other than it may be that she needs some time to get over the fact that he chose you over her. So please don't stop being friends, but if you can limit the amount of time she sees you with your boyfriend and make some one on one time with just her.

  • Hi Vicky, about 4 months ago when I was washing I found a small lump at the top of my vagina but inside, I still have it now and I am really worried, can you help? thanks

    I think the lump you are referring to is the clitoris but for more help with this, check out my blog link on Getting to know your reproductive system inside and out.

  • Hey Vicki
    I'm sorry if this is inappropriate but I really need to ask someone.
    My vagina is extremely itchy (I have pubic hair) and I get unbearable shooting pains inside my vagina. It really burns when I go to the toilet. Please help!!!
    Thanks you

    If you have irritation and pain when urinating you may have a urine infection and this needs to be treated immediately before it gets worse. So have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and she may either pop you along to your doctor or purchase an over the counter remedy from your local chemist.

  • Hey Vicki
    So my friend is really depressed. She just lives with her mum and they have had a big fall out. She feels like no one cares about he and that she has no friends. At school she wa purposely hurting herself. I am really worried and scared. Please help.
    Thanks a lot
    Raani
    Xxxx

    Hi Raani, your concern for your friend is lovely to hear and I really want to help you get her the help she needs.  You can suggest that she calls Childline on 0800 1111 as they offer confidential support or when you go back to school, talk to a trusted teacher or mentor about her.  As for now, continue to listen to her and simply be a friend.

  • hi im not self confident and my parents know this but keep calling me fat what shall i do?

    Puberty is a time for teens to lack confidence as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  It is very common for teens to carry a little more weight as their bodies develop through puberty and I'm sorry your parents are upsetting you.  The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a healthy diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water, avoid foods that are high in fat and sugar and try to be as active as possible.

  • Hello
    Im 12 and have been having discharge for 1-2 years now and my pants are always covered in discharge, i want some panty liners but i dont know how to approach my mum about this could you help me ? And when will my period arrive and how will i know its came ?

    Please answer ASAP
    sparrow31

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need to feel embarrassed talking to her about needing pant liners.  You can start the conversation by asking for her permission to request a free sample of our teens range from the home page of this website.  As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, i can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Sometimes when I'm really sad about something and I begin to feel hopeless and empty I get this wave of tingling in my arms, back or shoulder blades. Sometimes ins my arms it's like there are many fingers pressing down on my forearm and sometimes in my back it's like a pitter patter of fingers at differ points and sometimes it just like I've lost all sensation it it for a second .... What's happening to me πŸ˜°πŸ˜” xxxxx

    Please ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.

  • Does it hurt when you first put in a tampon

    The key to success is to relax and to fully insert the tampon into the vagina so only the cord is showing.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Waddup Vicki, I have no interest in this boy who has a huge crush on me, he stares at me too much, braggs to his friends how he likes me, plays with my hair and has asked me out too many times, I've told him I only think him as a friend and He said that's what they all say, he hurts my best friend all the time and it's getting really annoying , he is such a good friend at times but I hate it when he hurts my friends, I don't know what to do. Oasisfan x

    Hi, try ignoring this boy for a while so he understands that you are not appreciative of his behaviour. He may think he is being clever and by doing this you be making it clear you have boundaries and he is crossing them.

  • Hi Vicki my best friends parents are getting a divorce I have known them for a really long time and we love on the same road it's new information and I'm not really meant to now my friend doesn't know that I know either and I want to comfort her but that's not really possible I'm quite upset about it as well and I don't know what to do xx
    Thx Ellie

    Hi Ellie, wait for your friend to confide in you and ensure you are there for her if she becomes upset and needs to chat. But for now I would not divulge that you know about what is going on in her home.

  • I started my period on the 2nd of May, and I had a month gap between my first and second, is this normal. I'm 13 btw

    Try not to worry as this is absolutely normal.  During the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • hi um well I'm almost 14 and I have had discharge for a while (maybe 2yrs)but yesterday when I went to the bathroom I noticed a couple of reddish spots in my panties and I'm not sure if this was my period or not? please help I'm confused - bre

    This was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I have a few questions, sorry if a bit inappropriate. Can girls get wet dreams.If you start growing boobs at a young age does it mean they will be big when u r older? Also I have itchy armpits, I don't know y- I do use deodorant. Also yesterday I had a small brown stain in my nickers after masterbating, was this my period or poo(sorry). Haven't got anything since.

    Hi, I think I have already answered this question earlier in the week. Girls do not experience the same type of wet dreams that boys do. However it is possible that they dream of sexual things and notice a clear fluid has been produced by the vagina. Breast size is generally genetic and just because your breasts have grown early on in your teen or pre-teen years does not mena they will be fuller when you are an adult. If you have itchy under arms it could be that your deodorant does not suit your skintype and you may find switching to another brand a good idea. Finally, this brown stain could be your period and if it were 'poo' it would almost certainly have an unpleasant odour that a period would not.

  • How do I ask my dad for Sanitary towels?

    I'm sure your dad will already be aware that you will be starting your period so as you feel a little embarrassed, write him a note asking him if he would buy some sanitary towels for you the next time he goes shopping.

  • Hey Vicki! Please answer ASAP!!

    Sooo the last time I 'had my period' it wasn't Red Red Red it was dark brown and it was in the month of July and I didn't know what that was. Soo my mom took me to da doctor and I had a yeast infection. The doctor recommend 'floragen' then on Monday today in the morning it was still juIy so went to the bathroom and on my underwear I had dark brown 'discharge?' And I'm very worried cuz I dnt know what it I? Help me please!!!

    Try to remember that dark brown fluid is often menstrual fluid which can vary in colour from light brown to very dark red. However, if you experience pain or irritation this could be an infection.

  • Sorry if you have already answered a question like this as I forgot to write fine the reference number so I am not sure if you have answered.
    A couple of days ago there was a lot of brown discharge in my pants, does this count as a first period? Also do you think it is a good idea to wear pant liners everyday because I don't know when the next one will happen.
    Thank you. ☺️

    Yes, brown discharge can often present itself as a first period and wearing Lil-Lets teens Liners will not only protect your underwear from the effects of discharge but also from possible leakage should your period arrive.

  • Hey Vicki my period is due this week and I'm going on holiday in two weeks and I was wondering if you think I should take some pads and stuff with me?? Thanks E xx

    As periods can be irregular in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, I think it's a good idea to always be prepared.

  • hi Vicki
    Nicki here, if you have a infection in your vagina does this stop your period happining ?

    No a vaginal infection has no impact on your menstrual cycle.

  • I never get cramps before my period or when I have my period but I feel dizzy. Is this weird?

    This is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • if you dream about a boy that you like is it normal?

    Absolutely yes this is normal as during puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to feel attraction to others. 

  • under: 67cm
    over: 77cm

    Your bra size is a 30A but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • URGENT ! URGENT ! Part 2
    She told me how to apply it and I have read the leaflet but I'm not quite sure if it's safe to put everywhere that's itching (on the entrance and around my vagina). Please could you advise me on how to apply it and where I can put it. The cream is called Canesten Thrush Cream.
    Thanks, I really appreciate your advice. Xxxxx
    Please reply ASAP !

    Cannesten can be used on and around the entrance to the vagina and is very safe for use in this area. But remember to use sparingly.

  • Hii Vicki!
    I'm 13 and have had my period for 7 months, anyway my last period was six weeks ago, and I am usually quite regular with a period every 5/6 weeks. I'm worried that I've damaged something by masturbating...and that I'll never have another period :( what shall I do? And will I have another one?
    Issy xx

    Hi Issy, try not to worry as in the first two years of the menstrual cycle, it takes a while for your hormones to take control of the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  Masturbation will not affect your period.

  • Hi Vicki! So I'm ten and about to turn eleven. I'm going into the fifth grade. I often find my self getting worried about getting my period during school and in the pool, and I don't want to be worried all the time. Because I know I'm going to get it soon because I have all the side affects. I have even been getting discharge for almost 9 months. What should I do? ~ Thanks

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away and all you can do is try to be prepared as best you can by keeping some sanitary protection with you at all times.   Lil-Lets teens range has been designed especially to fit the smaller bodies of young girls and also includes Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which are ideal for first-time use when you feel ready.  As you swim, there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst doing this.

  • URGENT !!! URGENT !!! Part 1
    Hi Vicki, My pubic hair area is really itchy as well as my vagina area, it was red and swollen so my mum took me to the GP a few days after I told her coz it was the earliest appointment they had. The doctor looked at my pubic area and vagina but it had all settled down only for that day, it has come back now. She said she couldn't see anything and it all looked normal. I have had thrush before so she gave me some more of that cream.

    It could be thrush or it may be inflamation due to the wonderful weather we are experiencing and it may be an idea to consider wearing loose fitting clothes made of cotton to avoid sweating in this area.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I'm 13 and my bra size is 32AA. I try to tell myself that it's okay and that I should be more confident, but I find myself worrying that I will never have a "normal" size like my friends (A-C). How do I stop caring what other people say and what I think about my breast size?

    Your bra size is perfect for you so try loving who you are and ignore the comments of others.  Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.  Why not consider ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport would be a good place to start.

  • Hi Vicki I'm really scared because I started my period about 13 days ago and I thought that I had finished but when I go to the toilet there is sometimes still blood why am I still bleeding?
    Could it be because I took a pill to delay my period?

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period but taking the contraceptive pill can also affect it.

  • Do all girls get discharge, what age does it start at and what about if you don't get discharge?

    The majority of girls release discharge before their period arrives and everyone is different and develops at different rates to each other so it would be difficult to say what age.  Girls can start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.

  • If your vagina gets ichy is it an infection or something else?

    Itchy vaginas always seem to be more common during spells of hot weather but it can also be caused bythe growth of pubic hair.  So try wearing loose fitting clothing and cotton underwear to keep the area as cool as possible.

  • Hello viki
    Does a man have to remove his penis before ejaculating?
    Sorry if inappropriate

    No.

  • What is ejaculation?

    Ejaculation is when semen which carries the male's sperm leaves the male's body through the tip of the penis

  • Hi viki
    It's tab here
    I started my period a year ago but when I had it I didn't get up
    In the night to change my pad. My friends were talking the other day and said they were tired from getting up in the night to change it. I'm confused please help!

    Hi Tab, we're all different and whilst some of us will need to change our sanitary towels during the night, others won't have to as their menstrual flow decreases.

  • I get vaginal discharge for like 7-8 months now and i havent got my first period?I am 13

    Try not to worry as you can release discharge for up to 12 months before your period arrives.

  • I always used to be loud and outgoing before I started puberty, but then I got a bit quieter. It wasn`t really very noticeable until I started my periods, but my friends keep on telling me that I`m really shy now and they think that something`s wrong with me. My mum just tells me it`s hormones, but I can`t be sure. Could it be anything else?

    Your mum is right as puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time for young girls and boys as they struggle to come to terms with all the changes that are occurring all at once.  Serotonin levels (the body's happy hormone) are at their lowest, leaving teens susceptible to stress so look at ways of giving yourself a boost; dance until you sweat to your favourite music, watch some funny films and most importantly of all, talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling.

  • How do you masterbate apart from fingering yourself sorry if this is inappropriate πŸ’›πŸ’™πŸ’œπŸ’šβ€οΈπŸ’— just so I know xxx


    Thanks-- crystal

    Hi Crystal, masturbation is something that is felt instinctively and naturally and is definitely not something i can tell you how to do.

  • PLEASE ANSWER!!!!! - URGENT
    My friends invited me on holiday for a week to Cornwall on Friday. The only thing is I'm on my period that whole week. How should i go about it and i won't be able to swim or kayak as i use pads? helppppppp should i still go? Thanks from Eva :) x

    Hi Eva, of course you should still go but please consider using Lil-Lets teens Regular tampons as they are ideal for first-time use and there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming.  Alternatively, you will have to see how heavy your flow is and refrain from swimming if it is too heavy.  Have a fabulous time.

  • A couple of years back, I had pains and tenderness in my breast area. Shortly after, I developed breasts and the pain stopped... Until now. I can't lie on my front in bed and even touching them feels a little uncomfortable. What does this mean? Are my breasts going to grow again?

    It is perfectly normal for you to experience tender, sore breasts with development yes.

  • So today I went to the toilet in school and there was a big brown patch in my knickers I left it not knowing what it was and I came home and it was bigger I then put a mirror (down there) to see if it was coming from anywhere down there and it was coming out of my vg put it was very much brown and stringy . Help what is this ? !!!

    Try not to worry as brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I fancied this boy and so did he but then he found someone better but I didn't now I told him how I felt but he just rejected me and now I have found out who he likes I feel really sad

    If he could treat you so flippantly, you're better off without him so move on and forget him as I'm sure there are much nicer boys than him.  You deserve better.

  • Hi I'm 13 years old .i have never had sex.but this year I have been getting white discharges and my period keeps coming on the wrong day.but the real question is this app told it'll come on the 20th but it the 20 and all I get is cramps but no blood.im very worried and I don't know what to do

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I've been getting discharge for about 2-3 months now so should I be wearing something and also how far away do you my period is now ?

    It is normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners which will protect your underwear and keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 12 haven't had my period yet but lately (a couple of months)I've had discharge it's white is that normal?and my vagina is sorta itchy and sore what's wrong??

    It is perfectly normal to release discharge for between 6-12 months before your period arrives.  Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection. You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teen Liners which will keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.   It is normal for vaginas to itch with pubic hair growth and the hot weather we're experiencing at the moment doesn't help.

  • Hi Vicki xox,
    I am 13 years old and I have just measured myself and I am a 30aa but i havent go a bra yet and i am to scared to ask my mum to get me one even tho im flat chested. Any advice? What should i do?!?!? when I wear a t shirt with a training bra my boobs stick out and its soo embarrasing, all my friends have bigg boobs byt im still flat chested even tho im older than them!! I'm so confused about my body! help me Vicki Thanks.

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her.  You might like to start a conversation by asking how old she was when she first started wearing a bra.

  • Hey Vicks
    I was just wondering because I'm 12 years old and I've noticed my boobs are getting bigger I wear a non padded bra and it does give support although if I wanted to get a new bra how do I measure my size and also wot Size bra should a 12 year old be at ??
    Thank you xxx

    It would be impossible for me to say as every 12 year old is different.  You can either pop along to your nearest department store or get hold of a measuring tape and wrap it all the way around your front and back directly below your bust and then do the same again but only over your bust at the fullest point.  Record both of these measurements and come back to me and I will be able to do a bra size calculation for you.

  • I'm 13 and lately I'm feelin something towards both gender
    How do I know I'm actually bisexual
    Thx
    Pls answer
    🏣🏯β›ͺ️🏯β›ͺοΈπŸŒ‡β›ͺοΈπŸ”½β†”οΈπŸ”½β©β†—οΈβ†”οΈβ†—οΈβ†”οΈγŠ™οΈγŠ™οΈπŸš±βœ³οΈ

    Try not to worry as it is normal to feel attraction to both girls and boys during puberty as hormones run riot. This does not mean that you are bisexual at all, so try not to rush into making any decisions about your sexuality just yet.

  • 🌚🌚I like this boy he's had a gf before and like has made out with her and he's a year older(I'm 13) I want a bf, but not a bf that will act sexual towards me
    How do I know he will be a Keeper and not som sex crazed teen?

    How do tell a boy you like them?
    I'm also scared how he'll react, this guy is just perfect to me

    Pl help πŸŒΌπŸŒšπŸŒ‘πŸŒ–πŸŒ›πŸ“žπŸ“€πŸ“žπŸ’Ώ

    If this boy likes you then I would hope he likes you for your personality and not for simply sex. As you are under the age of 16, if you do date this boy, it would be wise to make it clear in the very begining that you are not keen to be sexually active. As for letting this boy know that you like him, usually a quick smile is all that is needed and an occasional "Hi", for someone to get the message.

  • How can u tell if a guy likes u ?

    Fallie πŸŒ°πŸŒ°πŸŒ°πŸŒ•

    Hi Fallie, for more help with this, check out my blog on First love.

  • Hey Vicki,Lovin this website by the way.
    I moved to a new school abroad a few months ago its a mixed boarding school.However before that i went to a girls only school.I just recently got my first boyfriend ,but before he became my boyfriend we weren't friends so i dont really no much about him and we hardly ever talk.I really like him but i dont know how to spark a conversation .Please Help Vicki!!!!

    Thank you for the support.  As you like this boy, you should try to get to know him by asking him what kind of music, books etc.. that he likes.  You can ask him about his family and friends or what television programmes he likes.

  • What is hymen?!

    The hymen is a thin piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina.

  • im 11 and i had a real bad cramp and there was blood in my discharge how do i tell my mum

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about your period.  You might like to start the conversation by asking how old she was when she started and take it from there.

  • 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
    Hey vikki, I've asked you questions before and they really helped and I have some for you now.
    Lately all I really went and craving is Mexican food and ice cream
    I'm due for a period but on a period I always crab Mexican food that it's normal but ice cream not so much and I never eat ever

    Why is my body suddenly craving ice cream, is something wrong or am I missing something in my diet🌹🌹🌹🌹

    Pls help

    Fallie🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

    It is totally normal to crave a certain type of food before your period so try not to worry.

  • During sex who cums? Boy or girl?

    Both.

  • My mate and ex had been going out for 3 weeks wen they made a group chat to tell us. It had only been 4 wks since me and my exe split up and my mate and her bf split up! I felt betrayed cause me and my mate are close and she didn't tell me. My ex is also being awful I me now and yet my mate doesn't stop him. Is my mate a real mate and how do I stop this betrayle?!?! HELP PLZ!!

    If you were no longer dating this boy then I am sure your friend felt it was ok to date him. Yes it would have been nice if she had discussed it with you first, but it really is not worth losing a friend over and I would try to be happy for her and if you can avoid being around your ex or saying unkind things about him in front of her or others.

  • Hi, I'm 13 and a half and think I need a bra but I'm not sure how to ask for one because my mum hasn't bought one yet. Before my 13th birthday my mum said we could go bra shopping but we still haven't gone. I don't know how to ask because I'm really shy so do you have any ways I could bring it up? Thnx

    You might like to start the conversation by asking how old your mum was when she first started wearing a bra.  You can suggest that you go bra shopping together and might like to start with a training bra to allow you the time to get used to wearing one.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had a few brown discharges but I still haven't got my period yet. How many do I need to get until I get my period? They happen slot by the way.
    Thank you x

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a period so try not to worry as it is simply old blood and a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Hey vicki!
    I'm 13 and I was wondering..
    I used to watch lesbian porn ALL the time. I am a girl.. But I have kind of stopped watching it now. Why do I like that kind of stuff?:( I'm scared my mum and dad find out :( am I a lesbian?:( please help:(

    Puberty is a time for teens to be more curious about sex generally so try not to worry about making any decisions about your sexuality just yet as it is perfectly normal.

  • Hey vicki,
    I feel I'm really overweight..
    I'm 13, 5'5 and I weigh nearly 11 stone:'( I hate it.
    I really want to lose weight because I know people talk about me and I'm really self conscious.
    Please help:(
    Shan x

    The best way of maintaining a healthy weight is to stick to a balanced diet filled with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables, drink lots of water and avoid foods and drinks that are high in fats or sugars.  By doing this and staying as active as you can, you will soon feel good about your body shape.  Try to remember that puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel self-conscious as there are so many physical and emotional changes are occurring all at once, so try dancing to your favourite music until you sweat and talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling.

  • Ok so.. Me and my boyfriend are 16 and yesterday I went to his house and in his room we had sex the bed rattled so then his dad came in and was just like "make sure you guys use a condom son" it was so weird because I thought his dad would. E really angry or something??

    It may be that your boyfriend's father has a modern approach to sexual relations and so long as you are both legally old enough and use protection this may be all he needs to reassure him that you are both sensible and consenting adults.

  • Hi, so all my friends have either started their periods or grown large boobs and I haven't started whatsoever and have no boobs at all, I'm 13 next week and start year 9 in September. I'm really scared to walk in school and see everyone develop and me stay as a kid..my summer holidays has just started and I don't know if I'll develop like them..I feel like baby to be honest
    Xxx

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.  Try not to put too much emphasis on the size of your breasts and look at ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy might be a good place to start.

  • Hi Vicki

    How should I ask my mum if I can start shaving my legs other han asking her how old she was when she started
    Thanks Xx

    You can try explaining to her that you think the time has come for you to start shaving your legs as the hair is visible.

  • Hi Vicki πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹
    I was just wondering is it normal to not feel the need for panty liners? I do not know weather my discharge is heavy average or small since I don't no the average but some days my whole underwear is covered and other days just a little is there.
    Also if its relevant I don't think I've had my period before (all signs said so but haven't had anymore blood for 4 months) I'm 12
    Thanks M.F πŸ’‹πŸ’‹πŸ’‹

    Hi, not everyone feels the need to wear pant liners to protect their underwear from discharge and if you are comfortable with this then I see no reason why should not continue as things are. When you period does arrive and I understand it may have already, you will often notice gaps of several months between each one. This is very normal and your body's way of working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I was just wondering what the best way to stop period cramps are because I generally stay off school if it is hurting. Also I was wondering if you think having a boyfriend between the age of 10-13 is bad, even though things are working out perfectly. If so, how do you stop people from trying to pressure you to kiss.
    Thanks xx

    Gentle exercise, a hot water bottle or a warm bath can help reduce period pain, but if the discomfort is too bad, ask your mum or the person who cares for you,  to take you to visit your GP as you shouldn't have to miss valuable time off school.  It is ok to have a boyfriend at a young age with the focus on being friends with nothing too intimate taking place. And you should never feel pressurised into doing anything you're not ready for so if you don't want to kiss him, don't and if other people keep pushing you to do this, ask your boyfriend to have a word with them letting them know their comments are inappropriate.

  • What is the best ways to stop period cramps?

    We recommend taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath to soothe any discomfort.  If the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • is it true you can swim without tampons because of the pressure of the water retains any bleeding?

    There is no truth in this as menstrual fluid will be released into the pool.

  • Hey viki,
    Ok so ya I am usually groosed out with sex bux now even when I here the word sex I feel like I want to do it. Or it tingles down thereβ™₯

    This is your body becoming sexually aware in preparation for adulthood and is very normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hi vicki,
    Well I am 13 and my best friend is now 14 and we were just wondering.. We kind of like to cuddle each other at sleepovers and feel each others breasts. Is this normal?! We are both girls and is this weird for us to enjoy doing this? We are NOT lesbians because we don't like girls we just find cuddling with each other fun?... We have known each other for 9 years and we have been cuddling etc for about a year now. Please help we are concerned.:(
    L and A xxx

    Hi girls, this is something that a lot of teenagers do as they start to experiment with their sexuality and is nothing for you to be worried or anxious about.

  • Do you know where I can get free period products?

    You can contact me with regard to free samples by clicking on the Contact tab at the bottom of the page.

  • Hi, sorry this is kind of an awkward question. But I'm 13 and I don't know when to start shaving ... Ya know... Down below. Please help me.

    The choice is yours and as you're a little uncertain, why not start by simply trimming your pubic hair right back so it isn't visible through your underwear. 

  • I'm 13 and I haven't got my period could something I could be doing to slow it down?

    It is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18 so try not to worry.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Vicki HELP!!
    I woke up and found like orange in my pyjamas. I don't know what it is but it won't go away and it's horrible! I haven't started my period and I'm 11 it smells like poo sorry if inappropriate. Plz answer ASAP!!

    Have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you, this could be a little bit of poo or alternatively if you have continued to notice marks during the day, it could be your first period.

  • Dear Vicki I was just wondering. If u answer questions that are not about puberty or things that have nothing to do with it? If not. Can you recommend. Me to a page that does? Thanks! Just so I know it's mine.$$$$$@@@@

    Ask Vicki is here principally to help young girls through puberty but I do often answer questions about other things too.  Please submit whatever it is you want to know and I will do my best to answer.

  • My friend lied to me about starting her period and she didn't tell her mum but now I think she has really started what shall she do

    Forgive her and forget about it.  You can tell her that it's ok to tell her mum about her period as she was a young girl going through puberty once.

  • Hi Vicki, this is my third period and I'm on my second day. But it is really really heavy. Like very.
    What can I do to lighten it or something, because I'm going through a pad an hour😳thanks x

    I'm afraid there is nothing you can do to lighten your period but be sure to wear sanitary towels that provide you with the best protection.  Lil-Lets Freshlock towels are more absorbent than the best-selling brand so you might like to give them a try.  Days 2 and 3 are usually the heaviest days of our periods but it should calm down towards the end.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a friend that is a ballet dancer. She is going to be in high school next school year and is awfully skinny with no puberty signs.She has a sister about my age that developed before me.I saw her performances and some look scary because her arms are so thin. I'm a little concerned with her and I'm wondering if I can help in any way?

    We are all made in different shapes and sizes but as you are so concerned for your friend, talk to her and ask if she is   eating well.  Puberty can be such a demanding and difficult time due to all the psychological and emotional changes that are occurring that it is quite common for teens to develop an irrational fear of gaining weight.  If this is the case with your friend, you should encourage her to seek help by talking to her parents and then visiting her GP.

  • Hi Vicki my friend has been acting weird she is usually always nice but now all she cares about is boys and the way she dresses I love that stuff two but not all the time I liked the old her better.......
    HELP

    Talk to your friend about how you think she has changed but please bear in mind the fact that during puberty, sex hormones increase in activity which makes young girls and boys feel attracted to others.

  • Is it weird that when I wear jeans or pants and sit for awhile I get really sweaty behind the legs and I feel like people can see the sweat through the pants. I asked my sister if this ever happened to her and she said no so is this normal or do I just have weird sweat glands?

    During this hot weather lots of us will feel a little sweaty all over our body and this is very normal and nothing for you to worry about.

  • I really have no clue what to do, I don't know if this is what is supposed to happen but I'm starting to feel less confident in myself everyday. It just annoys me when my mum will compare me to others saying that they are pretty, and I don't know if this is what is bring me down.
    Also me and my friends keep getting into small arguments and we have only just started doing this recently, so any advice?- Katie x

    Hi Katie, puberty is a time when teens struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so it's only natural that they lack self-confidence and develop a low self-image.  We all have things we don't like about ourselves but try to focus on the positives and look for things that you like.  You might also like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy like drama, dance or a sport as this will help to give your confidence a boost.  It is normal for you and your friends to have arguments and fall-out on occasion but as you're all going through puberty together, this is to be expected.  You should talk to each other and try to keep the peace as none of these feelings are your fault.

  • How do you tell your mom that you have discharge?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't really feel embarrassed about talking to her.  A good way of starting the conversation would be to ask if she would grant her permission to request a free sample of our teens range from us.  You can do this by following the link from the home page of this website.

  • I have a 69 cm under bust and a 75 bust. What's my bra size? Thank you!

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • Hi Vicki,

    A week ago I had a brown spot in my knickers but it only last a day. And today I had a little blood but it only started at night. I know it's my period but is this normal?

    Please answer,
    🌸🌸🌸

    This is your period but try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • 26inches under, and 30inches over, bra size?

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • Is it normal that hairs grow on ur nipples? O.o
    I have and I just hate it! Do u know any home remedies that can loosen up the hairs so that it will fall off? That do not include coconut oil and olive oil
    Plz asap!!

    It is perfectly normal for us to develop hair all over the body so try not to worry.

  • Hiii
    So I recently have been watching porn alot. I already know that porn is not how a healthy relationship is based, and that family and stuf is always more important, but i realy like watching it while masterbting. Is there anything else i need to know?

    You sound like a sensible girl in realising the dangers of watching pornography but your compulsion to do this is driven by the fact that your sex hormones are running riot.  Masturbation is something that is done naturally and instinctively.

  • hi Vicki. So im 17 and I've been going out with this guy for a while and we've been talking abut like doing dirty stuff, and part of me wants to and part of me is afraid and doesn't want to. Any advice? Thank you!!
    Jess x

    Hi Jess, if you and your boyfriend genuinely care for and respect each other, there is nothing wrong in expressing your affection to one another but you must be absolutely certain that this is what you want to do.

  • Hiya Vicki! I'm kinda confused.... I haven't been feeling 100% today, not stomach cramps, just generally unwell. I was struggling to sleep so I went to the bathroom and wiped (front only) and I had like, 2 streaks of red, I'm guessing blood. I'm 14 and I don't know if this is just from a cut or if it's my period or what and I'm MEGA panicked!
    Please help,
    thanks xx

    This was most likely to be your period so try not to worry, ask your mum to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens in the coming weeks and months.

  • Hey Vicki,
    Thanks a lot for answering my question :)

    You're very welcome.

  • Hey there !!!!!!!
    I have to get braces !!! Ahhhhh hehe. But u have to have ur mouth open for ages when they are being pit on ! How can I keep my mouth open for so long ! I need to swallow saliva if u no whot I mean ?? Please help xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx love ur website ! It really helped me tell my mum about my period stating ! <3 xxx ;) kat xxxxxxxx

    Hi Kat, try not to worry and have faith in your dentist as I'm sure they have done this procedure hundreds of times before and will be well aware that their patients will need to swallow or close their mouths for a minute for relief.  Before the treatment starts, express your fears and I'm sure it will be fine.  Thank you for your support.

  • Hey vicki so yesterday I woke up on my stomach and my boobs were hurting so I got up when to the washroom and found alot of blood so I told my mom and she saod it was my first period and later that day my back and stomach started hurting alot so I took midol and it took an hour and a half then today I tried putting a tampon in to go swimming and I put it in and when I took it out it was really uncomfortable it felt weird is that bad

    If this is your first period it may be a little early to try tampons, so why not try again when your second period arrives. And remember that like anything new using a tampon can take a little practice, but just as long as you insert the tampon high enough inside your vagina it should not feel weird at all.

  • Hi Vicki, a couple of days ago a noticed a lot of brown stuff in my underwear. It definatly wasn't poo and the next day (I was wearing a pad by this point) it was still happening with a little blood in it. Does this count as my first period and should I wear a pant liner every day just in case? Thanks x

    This was your first period so be sure to ask your mum to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I used to have a boy friend but then I got really ill and went blind from juvanile ideopathic atheritis he dumped me and I heard him and his friends shouting horrible names as they passed my house on the way to school I'm Sad what can I do to feel better?

    I'm so sorry to hear of your illness and really hope you're receiving treatment that makes you feel well.  As for this boy and his friends they appear to be immature and as such should be ignored. If their comments do not stop have a chat to your parents and ask them to have a word. We're into the Sumer holidays now, so try to arrange to do things with your friends and stay as busy as possible.

  • What do I do my nipples show through my swimming costume!!!!! I'm going to do a lot of swimming over the holidays... But my nipples show through and I will be to embarrassed to swim if I can't sort this out please help love may

    Try not to worry and look for a swimming costume that has slight padding to conceal your nipples. 

  • Every time I see South Park when people are humping, it makes me want to have sex, REALLY BADLY. What should I do? I also want to take it to the next step with my boyfriend but I don't think he feels the same way, I am so scared because one day I could just end up having sex, what should I do?? Ps I'm in year 6 and so Is my boyfriend.

    During puberty, sex hormones run riot causing young girls and boys to experience  feelings of a sexual nature more than before and seeing films or tv shows with sexual content will naturally cause excitement.  This is perfectly normal and there is no need for you to feel afraid of having sex as the Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16, so you know you shouldn't break the law.

  • Hey I started my period yesterday and im quite heavy. Is this normal?

    It is normal for days two and three to be heaviest during a period so try not to worry as it should ease off towards the end..

  • Dear Vicki what does bi mean??

    Bisexual means that you are attracted to both males and females.

  • My grandad has cancer how do i stay strong?

    The treatment of cancer is improving every day so you have every reason to be positive and strong for your grandad and family.  There is no need to act any differently around him and I'm sure he will appreciate you simply being yourself.

  • My best friends parents are getting a divorce, but she doesn't know that I know. I want to comfort her but obviously I can't and I know it might sound selfish but it's really hard for me as well because I've known the family really long and it's upsetting to see them apart, i really don't know what to do help me xxx


    Love Evie 😰😰😰😰😰😰😰😰πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯πŸ˜₯😱😱😱😱😨😨😨😨😨

    I understand that as you know your friend's family, you find this situation difficult too but just try to imagine how hard it is for your friend.  It is so sad when parents divorce, your friend is going to need you for comfort and support in the coming weeks and months, so try to be there for her whenever you can to listen and comfort.  Hopefully in time, she will get used to her mum and dad living separately and realise that she is still loved by them both just as much.

  • Ummmmm well I'm 13 and I've been having brown discharge( or that's Wat I think it is) for a few days now. And everyone says I'm about to start my period and I don't really know how to tell my mom. Help. and also my boobs won't grow its annoying cos if they would just grow a tiny bit then I'll look so much prettier but no. Any tips

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  As for your breasts, try to be patient and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.

  • hi. vicki
    at the end of yr 6 u ususally get a letter saying u will be learing about sex and stuff but we haven't got one and we finish school soon
    like tuesday or somthing
    so do u think we will learn or not
    anyway love this website thNks xxxx

    It may be that your school have decided to delay this chat for another year or when you attend Secondary School.

  • Heyy Vick
    I'm a 38D and 15 years old. Only my right side boob is a D and my left side boob is a C. It's becoming more noticeable. How do I change that or stop it from getting any worse..?

    Try not to worry as there is no such thing as two perfectly symmetrical breasts and it is so common that one breast develops quicker than the other.  Try to be patient because they will even up in time.

  • Hi Viki, for a few weeks now, I've had a buldge at the opening of my vagina. Please could you tell me what this may be? Thanks x

    As you enter puberty you will notice a change to both the size and shape of your vulva (the external part of your reproductive organs) and this is nothing to worry about. Why not read my blogs on the Reproductive System - Part One and Part Two for more on this subject.

  • For the past 2 months I've been drinking loads of water as I feel constantly thirsty and often find myself filling up my water bottle 3 times at school, but as you would expect I'm always needing a wee! I go at before I leave for school, at break and lunch then when I get home and I would go more at school if I were allowed out of lessons! But if I don't drink as much so I don't need to wee I get thirsty, should I be worried and what can I do? Thankyou.

    For peace of mind, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Hi I have been having a clear discharge lately but lately it is yellow, how long would you say it was until my periods x

    Try not to worry as it is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out.

  • Hiya, I've had my periods for about two years now and they've always been really heavy, but recently they've got really bad and there's always jelly clot things in the blood. When I get out of bed(when I'm on) it fela like it is all gushing and a few times the blood has leaked out the side and ran down my leg and foot and I have to quickly rush to the bathroom to clear it up, how can I stop this? Thankyou x

    Small clots in with your menstrual fluid are simply a part of the lining of the uterine wall and are nothing to worry about but as your period is quite heavy, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.  If your period remains heavy for a while and you notice that you are becoming tired and lethargic, ask your mum or guardian to book a visit to your GP for peace of mind.

  • Hi vicky I just has relationships education with my teacher and she gave all the girls a starter pack of lil lets but she didn't tell us what the signs are for starting ur period could u help??

    Why not read our section on Puberty and periods on the website. You will see lots of girls notice breast development a year or so before the arrival of their period, pubic and under arm hair too and finally discharge. But this is not true for all girls and just as many notice hardly any changes to the way they look and feel, which is why its a good idea to keep our starter pack with you when out and about, just in case your period arrives unexpectedly.

  • Does lillets have a YouTube channel
    From Abbey xx✌️✌️✌️

    Yes we do and I have to say it's fabulous with lots of great stuff. Here is the link.  Becoming a Teen.

  • Hi Vicki.. I'm 17 and have a boyfriend(2 years). We aren't sexually active but we do touch now and then when kissing gets a little too good.. I've been feeling like I'm ready to have sex but at the same time I don't really want to do it. He respects me nd told me that it's best to wait a few more years and I agree with this but sometimes I feel like I really want to do it. I'm confused about how I feel. Advice please? x

    Take your time and relax, your boyfriend is not putting you under any pressure which is commendable and when the time is right you will know and it will feel very natural. Please make sure however that you both have discussed contraception and understand its importance.

  • Hey Vicki, im 13 and I fit a 32B but my friends have said I have no boobs before is that true is a 32B flat chested please help xxx

    I think the term 'flat chested' is over used. The fact is that if your breasts are developing you have a bust and the phrase is meaningless. So don't worry about what friends say, we are all unique and a B cup seems like a very acceptable size to be.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a few Qs:
    I keep getting hot flushes, why?Also if your boobs start growing at an early age does it they will be quite big when you are older? Sorry if inappropriate but can girls get wet dreams? Finally I have hair down there, breasts but no armpit hair is this normal? P.S I am 11

    Thank you. You are a life saver!

    Hi, firstly, due to the hot weather, I think lots of us are experiencing hot flushes from time to time, so consider wearing loose fitting and lightweight clothes. Breast size is generally genetic regardless of what age they start developing so look at family members and you may be able to guess what your final size and shape will be. Girls do not get wet dreams, but they do sometimes notice a liquid is produced and released from the vagina when they think of romantic things. Finally, lots of people notice pubic hair but no - or very little under arm hair and this is nothing to worry about.

  • Hi Vicki. I'm from the US, so I don't use metric, but my measurements are 27 inches under bust and 29.5 inches bust. What size am I? All those websites give me different measurements. Thanks.

    32AA is your size, but remember that this is just a guide and may change slightly when you visit the store to try on different styles.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am 14 years old and I have been having discharge for nearly 3 years, it is a yellow white-ish colour and I haven't started my period yet. I would say I am quite skinny and skinnier than other girls in my school but eat a lot! All my friends have started. If I can't put on weight by eating how else am I meant to start my period?

    A period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so you have plenty of time for yours to arrive and there really is no need to consider gaining weight to speed this process up.

  • I had sex wt 14 and I was completely ready, I told my mum and she said at least I was ready, but sex didn't hurt me, why is this?
    And also I don't like the feeling of sex it makes me feel full and like I can't breathe down below, is this normal or am I going mental?x

    It is against the law for a man or boy to have sexual intercourse with a girl under the age of 16, so regardless of whether you felt ready or not, this boy has committed a crime. Furthermore, if you do not like the feeling of sex it would seem you are not ready to be intimate in this way and my advice is to stop all sexual intimacy until you feel ready, as I am sure is the same as your mum's advice.

  • My boobs show through my shirt but I am scared to ask my mum to get me bras because last time I ask she said I didn't need one and I was to young.

    ThanksπŸ˜ƒ

    Some time has passed and if you explain to your mum that you feel self-conscious because your breats are showing through your shirt, she might reconsider.  You could suggest that you start with a training bra as they are soft and help to get you used to wearing a bra.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 14 years old and I have lost my viginity is that bad?

    The Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16 so yes this is bad as not only has the law been broken, but you could possibly be pregnant too so please seek medical attention urgently.  You can contact the Brook Advisory Clinic on 0808 802 1234 or www.brook.org.uk

  • Hi Vicki I'm getting lots of spots on my nose they look horrible I'm applying my face scrub more and it's not workin my mum won't let me buy concealer what shall I do????? Thanx

    Spots are a total pain with 90% of your peers experiencing them to some extent too so remember that you're not alone.  Try eating sensibly, avoiding greasy and sugary foods and drink lots of water.  Try getting plenty of sleep and stick to a careful cleansing routine concentrating on the T. zone.  Using a facial scrub too often will cause damage to your skin, so ask your mum if she would consider buying you a medicated, gentle cleanser from your local chemist.

  • Plz answer my questions, I understand totally that you have family life, social life and work life and all but I really need your help.

    Kindest Regards,
    Tessa x

    Hi Tessa, please submit your questions and I will do my best to answer quickly.

  • Hi Vicki,
    This may seem inappropriate but today I had my finger up there and I heard and felt a click. Is this normal or should I be worried? It's never happened before.
    Thanks xx

    I am sure this is nothing to worry about and could have been a joint on your finger clicking.

  • Hi
    Im going to a grammar school but the only downer is that there's no boys, I've started my period and I'm in yr6 i feel like I want to be with boys every single minute, What shall I do xxx

    It is normal to feel an attraction to boys during puberty due to the increase in activity of hormones so try thinking of them as an unwelcome distraction and concentrate on your studies at your new school.  Of course, you could always join clubs outside of school which will enable you to meet boys too.

  • hey vicky LULU again...im afraid u may not answer....but i have had this itch b4 i shaved but i cant tell if it went away because it growin back but the inside there Is kinda shaved hair so i guess its stuck like that till It grows,if i dont think about the itch, its not really there..i dont have any other signs ..all normal..PPL SAY ITCH CAN BE CAUSED DUE TO HORMONE CHANGES,..IM GOIN THROUGH PUBERTY AND HAVE NOT STARTED..COULD THIS BE WHY IT ITCH(HORMONES)

    Vaginal itching can be due to a number of things but I do think that the hot weather plays a big part too.  Pubic hair growth and tight fitting underwear can also cause itchiness so try wearing loose fitting clothes and cotton underwear.  You might also try taking regular dips in a shallow bath to keep the area clean and cool.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 10 and I wear a BB bra but my friends say I need a AAA bra and that I've got nothing to hide but their wrong I've told my mum.

    I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!?

    If you feel comfortable in the bra you're wearing it doesn't matter what others think so try not to listen to them.

  • Hi Vicki
    I've had my first period but it hasn't come back for 6months is this normal?? I'm in yr6 and I was the 3rd girl to get period I told one of my closest friends then everyone started to suck up to me. I know most of them really don't like me but wat shall I do?????? Please answer xxxxxxx

    First of all, try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycyle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period and secondly, periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl so it won't be too long before your friends are starting their period too.

  • Hi, I have started my period today, when I went to the toliet I noticed a brown stain on my pants, and when I wiped there was a lot of blood on the toliet roll, later on I changed it when I got home then I changed it again it is a very heavy flow, is this normal and is it bad that I am changing it so frequently today even though it is my first period ?

    Try not to worry as it is perfectly normal for your first period to be like this so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • Hey Vicki.......URGENT!!!!!!!!!! HELP
    so i recently shaved ..u knw down there and i get why the outside itch ...but can this make the inside itch too....


    LULU

    I think the hot weather does nothing to help with vaginal itches so try to keep the area as clean as possible by taking quick dips in a shallow bath, wear loose fitting clothing and cotton underwear.  Once you commit to shaving, there will always be stubble/regrowth which causes an itch until you shave again.

  • Hi Vicki,
    On Monday July 14th my vagina was sore, itchy it felt really uncomfortable to sit down I had a discharge that was light pink then reddish down, it stopped about 3 days later and now its still itchy and itseems the lips are pilling before all this hhappened on Saturday July 12th I put fragrance lotion on it and kind of on the lips than sprayed perfume that night my boyfriend fingered me so I don't know what it coucould be

    I would never recommend spraying perfume or any other fragranced product near or on your vagina as this will almost certainly lead to the irritation and soreness you now feel. Your vagina is pretty good at cleaning itself naturally and a non-perfumed bath or shower product is all that is needed to keep this part of your body feeling clean and fresh.

  • Hi Vicki
    Yesterday I got a some brown in my discharge and today the same but a a few little bits I have been having discharge for I think around a year I and recently there has been a lot more is this start of my period because if so what should I do because I'm going on holiday in 1 week!
    Thanks Xx

    I think that this is your period because brown discharge can often present itself as this.  So be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.  As you are on your period at the moment, it's unlikely that you will be menstruating whilst on your holiday but you might like to consider taking some Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons with you just in case it arrives early and you want to swim.   Have a great time!

  • Hi vicky,is it normal for your period to be brown?

    Absolutely yes as brown blood is old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina.

  • Hi Vicki
    How old were your children when they started shaving there legs-:)

    My eldest was 13 my youngest was 14. They both did this without my permission, but like most mums I found out pretty quickly and we had a chat about it.

  • What age is it normal to start to develop feelings for boys because I have went through puberty strangely with getting pubic hair when I was 10 and growing boobs when I was 12 then I had discharge since I was about 12 and I started my period when I was almost 14 so these stages have all been separated out and I do like boys but I'm quite sure I started developing feelings when I was 8 would that be too young for that? I might be mistaken

    When puberty begins, sex hormones start work causing young girls and boys to develop attraction to others and this is perfectly normal so try not to worry.

  • hi vicki ,
    how are you????
    so my cuz was home for a few days and when she was home i felt like she was gonna find that this guy liked me and i kinda like him back.So then we were down town and we meet him and he kept smiling at me and when we got home she kept asking is he your bf?and know she texted me asking is he and i kinda wanna tell her i like him what should i do??
    (btw she is 18 and im 12)
    thanks smileygirl

    Hi Smileygirl, there is nothing wrong with liking this boy so just be honest with your cousin and tell her.

  • Hi Vicki
    How old should you been before you start shaving your legs all my friends shave there legs and I'm not doing it for that reason it's just the hair is quiet long and it's really embarrassing........ erm also how should I ask my parents

    Thanks Xx

    You should really talk to your mum about this so try not to feel embarrassed and remember that she was a young girl going through puberty once.

  • I was about to go in my shower and I looked at my breasts and at the nipple it looks as thought there is orange/yellow kind of puss then I looked in my bra and it's looks kinda yellow ! What's wrong with me I'm really worried I don't want to tell my mum!

    It is normal for breasts to produce fluid during puberty, generally caused by the increase in hormones or by wearing tight-fitting clothing so try not to worry.  Be sure to wash the area with warm soapy water to remove any dried fluid and avoid picking as this will make it sore.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't really feel embarrassed talking to her.

  • I'm hysterically crying jus typing this,I'm in yr 10 and hav 1 yr of secondary schl left wich will jus fly past, I hav friends that's I have grown so close 2 and jus the thought of bein wiv out them is depressing, I can't stand 2 think of it without crying, ppl say change is Gud, ppl move and u make new friends, I don't want new fends , I like my friends and don't no Wah 2 do?
    I wud like it if we went 2 the same college but that's unlikely!
    Hellllllpppp????

    Nobody is saying that you have to forget your friends so try not to worry and view the future as an exciting time to meet new friends at college, university and in the workplace.  As I see it, you can never have too many friends so please try not to worry.

  • Hi,
    At the mo I've been feeling quite down with myself. I've been feeling like i have no friends outside my friendship group at school and generally outside of school too. I have not gone to any other school than the one i'm going to now and so don't know how to make closer friends and how to become friends with guys seeming that my school is all girls!!! I need some advice!?, thanks xx

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel self-conscious due to all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and making new friends can be quite daunting.  You might like to consider joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as doing this will enable you to meet like-minded people and give your self-confidence a boost too.

  • HI Vicki!
    Recently i have been feeling awkward/ not feeling as close to my friends as i have been in the past. I have had some problems with some of the girls in my group before and i don't want to, like, move or leave the group as sort of before. What should i do to feel more confident around them?
    Ellie

    Hi Ellie, for more help with this check out my blog on Keeping and making friends.

  • This might be inappropriate but how do you masturbate?

    Masturbation is something that is felt naturally and instinctively and is definitely not something that I can tell you how to do.

  • What does discharge look like and smell like and is it normal for it to be a browny yellow colour thanx

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by glands found at the entrance to your womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It does have an odour but is nothing too offensive and can appear yellow when it dries out.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens pant liners to protect your underwear from the effects and Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes are also ideal for keeping you fresh and clean down there.

  • Hey Vicki, i like this boy and im pretty sure he likes me back because around what April i think he was telling everone that me and him where dating even though we weren't but know he says he likes one of my friends.
    Me and him are like really close friends but im not sure if he likes me back what do i do

    It could be that this boy's affections have moved elsewhere and it may be time to ask him how he truly feels about you following his comments in April. This is really the only way to find out.

  • How will I know when I'm going to get my first period? X

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releaisng discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I'v had periods over a year now. One time it lasted over 2 weeks, the next one was fine, now a week later its back! What could be wrong? Should i go to the doctor?

    Irregular periods are very common during the first couple of years with long and short gaps between each one being experienced. It really is not something you need to speak to your doctor about unless you feel unwell or tired. And it may be a good idea to always have some liners or pads to hand from now on, just in case your period arrives unexpectedly.

  • My friend gets really bad hormones when she is on her period. It's really hard to ignore it because she becomes horrible. Should I say something as it's all the time?

    Have a chat to your friend and let her know that you sympathise with her mood swings but that she also needs to consider how she can control and manage them better in the future or you fear it may impact on your friendship.

  • hi Vicki, I am ten and getting lots of discharge and got brown stuff
    is this my period
    please respond
    x

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • hi Vicky...
    I have got discharge and tried telling my mom. but she doesn't come from here so she doesn't know what it means.
    and what does yellow discharge and sometimes cramps mean when I haven't
    started my periods
    thx :)

    Discharge is very normal and yout body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection. There really is nothing you need do when you notice discharge and any stains in your underwear will wash out. Cramps are your body's way of preparing your for the arrival of your periods so why not ask your mum if you can have some pads or liners with you from now on, just in case your period arrives.

  • Hi Vicki
    I am really self conscious of the hair on my arms and leg and upper lip.
    I don't know how to ask my mum to get it off. Please help me!!!
    Deena

    Hi Deena, hair on your arms should never be removed. As for your legs you could ask your mum if you can shave this hair now the summer months are here. For the hair on your upper lip, well this can be waxed or lightened, but never shaved or cut.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 11 years old, I have cup 'N' boobs and my mum wont buy me a bra , I have discharge , my stomach hurts regularly and my mom doesn't listen to me and I'm starting secondary school in a few weeks and I'm scared. and i feel fat coz im 51.4 kg is that normal? please answer i really need your help

    Rather than worry about what the scales say consider whether your diet is healthy and if you get sufficient exercise, when both of these are right, your body will find its correct weight. Finally, why not have a chat to your mum and ask if you can add a bra to your school uniform list for Secondary School, especially as sports will be played on a regular basis.

  • How can you deal with going through puberty without being stressed about the way you look?

    It can be tricky and my advice is to firstly be nice to yourself, we all have good and bad days, but that does not mean we should let the bad days rule our lives. Take a good look at yourself and think about what you like about being you, it could be your eyes, your smile, your laugh. This will instantly make you feel better about yourself and more confident too.

  • hi Vicky ,my mom is being really unfair she wants to know my password for my tab but I really don't want to give it to her but she said if i don't tell it to her she won't let me have sleepovers and do fun stuff !!!! she is so unfair !

    I am sure you have nothing to hide and that your mum is just ensuring you are safe when online. So why not give her your password and then when she sees you are browsing quite innocent sites ask her to respect your privacy and not use your password in the future.

  • Hey Vicki, im a girl and my lower private part is bleeding and i haven't had my period yet. Is it because when im shaving that private part i shaved it to low. It gets so bad the blood will go on to my underwear. What do i do. Another it never really dries

    This is almost certainly your period and you should speak to your mum or the person who cares for you and share this news with them.

  • On my first period i used an applicator tampon on either my 2nd or 3rd day as this is what my mum recommended however you have written about starting with non applicators on your later periods? Was I ok to do what I did? I have used them ever since? Thanks 😘

    It really is a personal choice and if you prefer using applicator tampons then there is no reason why you should not continue to do so. And Lil-Lets has both applicator and non-applicator tampons in its range, so you have plenty of choice.

  • Hi I really need your help! My OCD is getting much worse. I've had gad and OCD since an early stage but, they're getting much worse. I cannot walk out of a room unless I tap the floor with each foot three times. I spend about a full hour a night checking in my bed for danger. I spent 20 mins stood in the rain the other day because I felt like it would make my family safe. help me please! I know it's stupid, but it's a medical condition and a bad one at that!

    If your OCD has been diagnosed by a medical professional then you would be wise to ask your parents to pop you back for another chat. However, remember that a great may people will, at times focus on repetitive behaviour and this very often stops naturally as they get older.

  • My vagina hair(pubic area) is always really itchy and I'm 14. I have tried leaving it alone and I have tried shaving it so what do I need to do, cus it always is itchy in public and I don't want it itch just incase someone sees
    Please help me with this problem
    Hollister123

    Shaving can very often cause irritation as can the heat and tight fitting garments in this area, along with perfumed products. So have a think about changing what you use to shower or bathe with down there, avoid being out in the sun too much or tight fitting clothes and let this hair grow back a little.

  • do lots of girls have hair all over their body?

    Everyone develops hair all over their bodies.

  • Where can I purchase lil teens booklet?
    Thnx

    If you would like to jump on to the home page of this website, follow the link to request a free sample and the Becoming a Teen booklet is inside with samples of our teens range of products.  Please remember to ask your parents or guardians for their permissin first though.

  • Do I have to exercise if I add on weight in puberty?
    Please answer as soon as possible!!!😰

    Lots  of girls notice a change to their shape as they become young women and there is no need to exercise to lose weight, BUT exercise should be undertaken on a daily basis to keep you fit and healthy, so have a think about how you want to incorporate exercise into your day.

  • Im on my period 3rd day and it seems to be so heavy heavier that my usual period. It dosent seem to be slowing down ive used 4 tampons and its only 110clock please help me is here something wrong with me? Laura x

    Hi Laura, periods can change their flow from time to time and it may be  a good idea to move up an absorbency for your heavier days. Why not read my blog; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies for more advice on this subject.

  • I have a really big crush on a boy and it's lasted all year Help!!!!!

    Why not get to know this boy better as a friend...and you never know he may feel exactly the same way about you!

  • hi vicki,
    my last year i accesintly inserted my hand into my vahina and i dont think so i washed it before i sticked and now every single day and hour white stuff comes out (sticky) and my vagina is so ichy and i wanna ask you if that means i am a virgin or not, i didnt tell my mother or anyone cause i am really really scared! no matter what i wont tell her.
    i am 12 years old help me is their any kind of medicine i'll buy❀️

    This white fluid you are noticing is called discharge and it was  most likely just a coincidence that you noticed this after placing your hand inside your vagina. You can find out all about discharge on our website. Finally, to lose your virginity sexual intercourse has to have taken place so please do not worry you are still a virgin.

  • I am really worried about getting my period. My mum has bought me everything I need , but I am still anxious . What should I do ?

    Why not read all the great stuff on our website, you will find all you need to know about periods and puberty here and I hope it will leave you feeling a little less anxious.

  • Hi,

    My name is Aviona and I am 10. I have had discharge for over 2 years, Its brown.
    But now its fading away. But you can still see it and has a strong scent to it and I can smell it and I wonder if other people can smell it

    Hi Aviona, have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you as brown fluid in your underwear is generally your period and not discharge at all.

  • Hi Vicki,
    What is a mood board?
    Love,
    L

    A mood board is simply that...a board that you can put up on your wall that is full of all the things you like. Whether that be your favourite colour, band, movie star. Pictures of your hobbies, friends, clothes you like etc. This is great for working out your own sense of style and personality.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I am not from the UK but I love this site. I am moving to college next year and I am sure that the bathroom in the accommodation doesn't have a window as I have visited a friend there previously. What tips would you give to help dampness and moulds? And make it brighter? I hate mould as I think it triggers sneezing for me.

    If there is no window in your bathroom there may be an extractor fan that ensures no mould grows or odours linger. If not you can buy some very cheap products that contain crystals, these crystals capture moisture and prevent mould and damp building up.

  • I had my period Monday-Thursday (4 days) and on Friday and Saturday there was nothing there so I thought it had finished for another month. But it is now Sunday and there is blood I don't know whether it will carry on next week because it's currently Sunday but why is this???? Thank you

    Try not to worry as during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi. I'd like to ask a question. I've started my period, and I'm fine with it at the moment and I use pads. I've always been using pads as I feel they're comfortable and easy to put on. I've thought about using a tampon but I'm not sure wether or not to suggest this to my mum seeing as she only buys pads. Another thing is that I'm scared if I do decide to wear a tampon it might hurt when I put it in. Does it hurt to put them in or do you not feel anything at all.

    Thanks-I.S

    All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women and girls all over the world.  It's never been easier to try than by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons which are ideal for fisrt-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • I am 14, and have not developed much yet. I am the only one in my friendship group who has not started their period, or developed much boobs. Whenever we are changing at school for PE, or trying something on in a shop, they always mention how flat chested I am, and tease me a little. I'm sure they don't mean to be mean, but it just upsets me. I don't know what to do, because I cant talk to them about it, and I don't really get along with my Mum that much.

    Try not to worry and remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other.  It is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's too so you still have plenty of time.  In the meantime, you might like to try wearing a bra that has a slight padding to make you feel less self-conscious.

  • Hey Vicki, so there's this boy in my year, we went to the same primary school and we went out a few times but now we're in the academy and he's had girlfriends, but recently we started talking again. I like him a bit but not sure if he likes me. If he was to ask me out I don't know what to say because I've had boyfriends in the past and my family members would tease me about it and now I think I'm a bit scared to have a boyfriend, what should I do?x

    It is only natural that family members will do a little bit of teasing but they mean no real malice by doing this and would soon get fed up if you and this boy continue to date. Why not chat to this boy when you go back to school after the Autumn break and see how you feel about him then.

  • Hi Vicki, how old would you say you should be before you shave your legs and how should I ask my parents
    Thankyou Xx

    This is something you should discuss with your parents.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so try not to feel too embarrassed.

  • I want to wear a bikini this summer and i have very dark pubic hair that's kind of long ish. How should i go about this? and what types of bikini enhance your breast shape/size - Im a 34b if that helps :) Thankyou x

    You might like to consider trimming your pubic hair back so it isn't visible through your underwear and as for your bikini, try some different styles on when you go shopping until you find one you feel comfortable and confident in.

  • Can you find lil-lets range of stuff in supermarkets such as asda or tesco or can you only find them on this website thanksxxxxx

    Our Lil-Lets teens range is widely available in branches of Tesco's, Sainsbury's, Boots, Superdrug and Savers but you can also find them in other supermarkets and chemists too.

  • Hi,
    I am on my period now and this time next month I am on holiday, where we will go swimming probably everyday! I hadn't tried out tampons because i worked out that i wouldn't be on my period on my holiday, but it came late this month..
    I tried a tampon yesterday and I wasn't scared, I just don't know how to do it. I'm going to use non-applicator tampons, are they the easiest to use? Could you give me some advice on how to use them and the easiest way to put them in please!
    Thanks x

    All it takes is a little practice and to be relaxed and it's never been easier to try than by using Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons so why not give them a go.

  • On your puberty guide, it says that going through puberty your weight can vhange. Well mine isn't, I've only put on a little bit of weight. I weigh around 40 ish kgs and my height is 160cm (I'm 13) , which means I'm underweight. However, I eat more than most my friends and more than my parents. My mum said I have high/fast metabolism. But when will that go away, I hate being skinny.

    Ask your mum if she will book an appointment with your GP with a view to being referred to a dietician or nutritionist to discuss your worries.

  • How do u know when your going to have your period.....is there any signs or anything????

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hi Vickie,
    I am very self conscious about my body, I am 12 years old and I have stretch marks on my hips and thighs and I am tall and I think a bit over weight, I get very anxious a lot and I am scared of wearing clothes that reveal a lot of my body (bikinis) most of my friends are smaller than me. I have spoken to my mum and she says that I am growing up and my body is changing, I get quite upset Bolger not being the same size and shape as everyone else, tips on how to be confident?
    Nicole x

    Puberty is naturally a time for young girls to feel self-conscious as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once and stretch marks are a common sign of these physical changes.  Your mum is right in saying that the way you're feeling is normal because you're growing up.  Ways of boosting your confidence might include joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as you will meet like-minded people too.

  • I been out with my friend but we broke up I don't want to say why but my friends keep pressuring me to go out with him beaus they think he is good looking x what should I do ???

    It should ultimately be your decision and your friends are wrong to pressurise you into doing something you don't want to just because this boy is considered good looking.  Be true to yourself.

  • I often experience the warning signs of periods but i haven't started yet do you know why this is

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Do you know if theres anywhere i can get free samples of lil lets teens before I buy them so I can test them
    Please reply ASAP so I can find out
    Cheers x :)

    If you pop onto the Home Page of this website, ask your mum or guardian if it's okay for you to receive a sample from us and then follow the link.  It's as simple as that.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I am 12 and I started growing my boobs, except when my mum wants me to wear a bra I feel weird and she says I should as you can see them when I don't wear one. I feel uncomfortable mainly because all my friends wear one and I feel I don't need one.Please answer me.

    You might like to consider wearing a training bra as it is soft and is designed to help you get used to wearing a bra.

  • HEY VICKI,

    my mum said that you know your period is coming when your breasts feel tender
    is this true?
    thanks, your website has been a great help!
    xoxox

    Many women and girls notice that their breasts become more tender before their period is due.

  • Part 3 My boobs have grown recently and I am a 32a and my boobs are really really sore
    About 4 months ago I started to get hair under my arms and I have shaved them
    I am now 13 and I still haven't had my period
    My granny told me that
    My mum started when she was 13
    My granny started when she was 15
    And mr great granny didn't start till she was 18!
    I am worried I font start until I'm 18
    Do you think that I will start soon
    Ps. Sorry it's so long and is like my life story πŸ˜‚

    You have noticed many of the signs of puberty and the red/brown discharge you noticed was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Um, hi Vicki...
    I haven't started my period but I get alot of discharge....
    I don't wanna wear liners or sanitary wipes or, talk to my mom about it so... what do you think i should do? I really need to know

    Pant liners and Freshen-Up wipes are ideal for helping you keep fresh and clean down there and there really is no alternative as discharge is perfectly natural, not only working to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection but also as a sign that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.

  • Part 2 I have recently become "over emotional" and am struggling to control it and I can't help but be really crappy and impatient with my 11 year old sister
    Yesterday when i changed my pants there was a couple of spots of browny redy stuff that had dried onto my pants about 2 centimeters away from my discharge ( Whitchurch honestly looked heavier than normal)

    Response in Part 3.

  • Dear VIcki,
    I've started my period, the other day a boy came up to me saying 'do u wanna build a tampon' so now I think one if my friends has told someone and I think he knows ever since he hasn't stopped making fun of me, like things about pads and tampons. What shall I do??

    Please try to ignore the comments of this immature boy.  He is only doing this for attention and doesn't understand that periods are a natural occurrence for every girl so by ignoring his behaviour, he should soon get bored and stop.

  • Part 1When I was about 11 I got my first pubic hairI am very worried about my period starting and my mum said its a little like peeing but you can't hold it in. I felt something that felt like her explanation of periods. So I went to the bathroom and their was this white, clear gooey stuff, I had heard about discharge and I touched I'd and it was really sticky
    This was about 5 or 6 months ago.. Then I started to get pains in my low left,low right sides .

    Response in Part 3.

  • Is my sister going to start puberty near the same age as me?

    We don't always follow our mums or sisters in being the same age starting puberty so you will simply have to wait and see.

  • hi Vicki, I am 13 on the 2nd sept and I am worried I still havnt started my period! everyone of my friends has started apart from me! my mum started when she was 17 will I start then? many thanks!

    Try not to worry as girls can start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.  The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Haya vicki! Why dont you make a video of your self or something like that? I would like that! Or youtube thingy?!
    thqnk you xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    I am sure you would much rather see celebrities than me and I am pretty busy answering all of your questions, so I am not sure when there would be time.

  • Hey vicki

    My boobs are really sore like to touch and I told my mum and my granny

    My granny said it might mean they're growing

    And my mum said oh!

    Any ideas as what it could be ? Xxx

    Listen to your Gran as she is right in saying that breasts feel sore and painful while they are developing.

  • Hey vicki! You know the vidios in your website, like the people in them, have you met them all? Sorry just curious
    curiousmonkeyxxxx

    Hi Curious Monkey, yes I am lucky enough to be allowed to attend all of our shoots with celebrities. It's great fun.

  • Hey Vicki! You know the refrence numbers, do you have to when typing it to the thing when searching for your question, does it have to be capital letters like does small letters work on it?
    thanks xxx

    Either will do.

  • Hi vicki! Im 13 and i started my period yesterday, i didnt have any cramps before i started so i had no idea it was coming. Today i have still not had any cramps, is this normal?

    This is absolutely normal so try not to worry as not everyone experiences stomach cramps with their period.

  • Hi vicky im 13 and i just started my period yesterday, now that i have started will my boobs grow a lot quicker than before?

    You will simply have to wait and see how your breasts develop.

  • okay so there is this boy at my school that I use to like and I had him on bbm and he would ping me everyday and I sit next to him in 2 lessons my friend told me that she heard him and his friend talking about me saying he likes me but I don't like him anymore and everyone in my year thinks I like him how can I get a fresh start in year 8?

    Be honest and open with this boy and tell him as nice a way as possible that you only like him as a friend. It may be that the natural summer gap will ensure he knows that you are no longer as keen as you were.

  • Hey vikki it's teya
    So my best friend stayed round my house but in the middle of the night
    she said can I lay on top of you and I did not hear what she was saying so I just said yes. Then she humped me !!!!

    We have never spoke about it since. we are still best friends. The weirdest thing was that I liked it !
    Thanks so much xx

    Puberty is a time for teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature due to an increase in activity of sex hormones so your friend was acting on an instinct but if you didn't feel comfortable with her dry humping you, you should have told her to stop.  Put it in the past and try to forget about it.

  • Hi, I've had my period for 6 months or so now but it still isn't set and comes at different times each month. Next month I'm going away on a holiday with a lot of swimming involved. I am scared that I might come on whilst in the pool. Can I wear a tampon as a precaution or is this not safe? Thank you xx

    It is normal for periods to be irregular in the early stages of the menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  As for wearing tampons, when the time arises, you might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use.  However, you should never insert a tampon unless you're menstruating as inserting a tampon dry can cause tiny tears to appear on the vagina wall which may lead to infection.

  • My school goes from age 3-18 and on the bus I sit with a girl who is year 6, but I am year 9. I have already gone through pretty much of all the changes that happens during puberty. I don't think she has gone through any, but i know she doesn't have the home environment that I had, where I could ask my mum everything. I want I be there for her when she does start to develop, and I want her know she can talk to me. Do you have any ideas about what to help her with and how to make it less awkward?

    Being a friend and letting her know that you are there to answer any concerns she might have would be a great comfort to her, so just tell her.  You could also suggest that she requests a free sample of teens products from the home page of this website as there is a Becoming a Teen booklet which is crammed full of information to help her through puberty.  However, she will need parental permission to do this.

  • Hi,
    I started my period in January this year, but still haven't told my mum, an don't want to actually talk to her because she makes a huge deal and makes everything awkward. Would it be an "acceptable" way to tell her to text her whilst she's away at work. If it is, what should I tell her?

    If you feel more comfortable telling her by text then absolutely, it should be fine.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and should be able to help you through this special time in your life.  You can start by asking how old she was when she started her period.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I asked you a question but you haven't answered it. I was wandering if you thought it was inappropriate but I really need an answer to my question
    X

    Please resubmit your question if you can't find your response.

  • Hi Viki,
    What should I do if a like a boy who has a girlfriend, I always try to get over him but he is so cute and naturally funny. Am sure I don't want to ruin his relationship. Btw he never determines me
    Thanks - Mia Mars

    Hi Mia, as this boy already has a girlfriend you should move on and try to forget about him.

  • I am 13 years old and my friends have had their period. My breast are not big but pointy and at the back their is a curve kinda lump. I get lots of pubic hair downwards but not on the face of the vagina and i have recently started to grow longer armpit hair too. I have started shaving too downwards. My breasts kinda jiggle while walking but i dont wear a bra. Will that slower the process? Also i hardly have curves and everyone calls me small coz i havent started yet. Please give me advice

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it's only a matter of time before you notice more development too.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have had the signs that I am going to start my period soon. I a concerned though because I do a lot of gymnastics and I am just scared that if I wear a pad it might fall out or something like that because I have experienced a liner fall out before and it was really embarrassing. I am really not ready to wear tampons when my period arrives. What should I do?

    Lil-Lets teens range has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls and you should find that they fit better.  When you feel ready to use tampons, we also offer a teens Regular non-applicator tampon which is absolutely ideal for first-time use.  Why not ask for your parent's permission to request a free sample of our teens range from the home page of this website?

  • Hey, i am 13 and i have had discharge for about a year and a half and still haven't started my period, how long do you think it will be until i start?

    As you've been releasing discharge fo quite a while, I guess your period isn't too far away.

  • Hey, i have had discharge for about a year and a half and i haven't started my period, how long do you predict it will be until i start?

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hi Vicky, I'm 13 and I'm not too sure if I'm about to start my period or not I want to ask my mum if you can buy me some lil-lets products but I'm a bit embarrassed to ask her I want to send the e-card too but my dad can then see it too but I just want my mum to know what shall I do!!!!!!! Thanks 😘

    Try to remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence in the life of every girl so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed by it.  Your mum was a young girl going through puberty once too so why not just talk to her as she will be able to help you through this special time in your life.

  • Hey Vicki
    PLEASE ANSWER!
    So a few of weeks ago I got my period and the only people I told was my three best friends. two of them had already started there period so they gave me pads to last the week however I think I'm away to get it again and my friends are on holiday what should I do? I live with my dad as me and my mum don't get on very well..
    PLEASE HELP AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!!

    I'm sure your dad will be aware of the fact that you could be starting your period but if you're too embarrassed to talk to him, why not write him a note and ask that he either picks up some sanitary towels for you in with the weekly shop or gives you the money to buy your own.  You might also like to ask him for his permission to request a free sample from the home page of this website.

  • PART TWO-LULU .....then this boy that liked me then started making fun of me nobody liked me after he started that but before i was being asked out by everyguy and they just seemed to hate me after that kid said that...i liked these two boys and one said to his friend he liked me but my friends asked him out for me and he said NO ....i was so depressed that week and i think it was because i am flat i hav so much more To tell...PLZ PLZ HELP I HATE MY LIFE(not seriously) PLZ ANSWER

    Try to ignore the immature comments of these silly boys and believe in yourself.  The size of your breasts doesn't matter.  Look in Part 1 for the rest of your response too.

  • PART ONE -LULU Hi i am going into school in about a month and i am very upset because last year i was expecting to have boobs but NO my buds started at the age of about 9 and i am now 13 i still am not a cup Size. My sisters had boobs at around 4th grade and they are dcups...i am he smallest Girl in my Family Could this be why i am slower...because they were bigger my age ....plus i am so self concious last year i was happy i was proud of My boobs

    Hi Lulu, there are two things here: one is that you must try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and the second is that you really shouldn't put so much emphasis on the size of your breasts being the only way you could possibly have a boyfriend.  Boys like girls regardless of their breast size so this isn't an issue.  You should try to focus on the positives in your life and look at ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport will work wonders in doing this and enable you to meet like-mided people.

  • So im 9 and i am getting puberty a but early. You know, i know more than i should about periods and puberty but i have a crush on this boy and i had a dream that we were making out on a bed but im only in year 4. :/ this is the only place i can go to discuss stuff like this!!

    Try not to worry as during puberty, it is normal for young girls and boys to feel a sexual attraction to others as sex hormones run riot but this is called a crush and crushes often fade. 

  • Vicki, I was using tampons today, and I conpletely filled the Tampax Pearl ligh tampon, string and everything after 4 hrs. like blood was dripping from the string...so my concern is, I never fill my playtex sport regular tampons, there is always plently left to fill, but all of a sudden...yesterday, i filled a playtex sport after 5 hrs. Why has my flow changed so drastically. ps. this is my 7th period...i got my first one is september of 2012 but they are so irregular.

    In the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry but you might like to consider using Lil-Lets applicator tampons which come in a whole range of sizes.  For more help with this, check out my blog on Understanding tampon absorbencies.

  • Hi there Vicki, I'm 13 years old and I started getting my period at the end of last year and it's starting to be every month around a particular date now but this month and last I noticed my period was quite heavy, there was quite a lot of blood, I know that people can have a "heavy" period but I've never really known how heavy that would be? I'm slightly worried and wondered if you could tell me if it's normal for it to be like this. Thanks, love Aria x

    Hi Aria, a heavy period sees blood loss of half a teacupful throughout its course whereas a normal period would see between 4-12 teaspoonfuls of menstrual blood.  If you find that your period is persistently heavy and is causing you to feel tired and washed-out, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP for peace of mind.  In the meantime, you might like to consider using Lil-Lets Freshlock towels as they are more absorbent than the best-selling brand.

  • How would i tell my mom i started if i am too embarrassed for anyone in my family since they make fun of me about everything I go through like pit hair And pubes so i just hate it help

    Your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so you shouldn't really feel embarrassed about anything to do with puberty.  When you do talk to her, explain that you would like to keep things between the two of you as you feel a little self-conscious.  You might also like to ask her for her permission to request a free sample of our teens products from the home page of this website.

  • How can we reduce greasiness from skin?

    Greasy skin during puberty is so common as sweat glands naturally produce more sweat.  You might like to consider buying a  gentle cleanser, preferably one that is water-based which you should use both morning and night to keep your face clean.  Se ehow you get on and if it doesn't help, ask your mum or guardian to ask a pharmacist for some recommendations.

  • I'm 13 and a 32b bra size. I have been getting discharge almost every day for at least 2 years, I have had pubic hairs and armpit hairs for ages too but I haven't started my period. I don't know why, when my friends talk about theirs I feel really left out and every time I have felt ill in the last year my mum thinks I will get my period. Will it come soon, is there something wrong and how do I deal with being embarrassed every time it is brought up at school or home???
    Ps. This site is really helpful

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I can only guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hello Vicki,
    I have some pubic hair, but only a tuft around the bottom of the opening to my vagina. I was wondering if you get some around your bum hole? Sorry if this is inappropriate but I'm really worried. Thanks.

    It is normal to develop hair there yes.

  • Hi vicki,
    I started my period and there was loadss of blood on my tissue when I wiped myself, so I put a pad on and went to bed. When I woke up there was nothing on the pad.
    Im 11 and I was ten when it happened, but since then I haven't had a period.

    Have started or not?

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi vikki, so I got caught kissing my bf at school. I'm 12 and I know I shouldn't have done it but it was my first kiss and it was ruined. The school rang home and my parents haven't mentioned it yet but I know they will. What should I do?? :( thanks vikki, I really love your site xoxoxoxoxo

    Thank you for your words of support.  When and if your parents bring the kissing incident up, just be honest with them and tell them what happened.

  • I'm 16 and a late developer as I've only had my period for a year. I would say my breasts are a A cup depending on the shop. But I feel they are just real small and I'm really self concious about it. I don't like wearing padded bras as it makes your boobs appear bigger, when it's obvious there not when I'm wearing a bikini/swim suit.Do you think they will ever get a bit bigger (just to boost self confidence) or is it too late by 16?

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.  Try not to focus too much on the size of your breasts and feel confident in the way you look.

  • Hi so ive had discharge for just over a year now and im 14 and i have no boobs or anything.will i start my period soon

    As you've been releasing discharge for quite a while, I would guess that your period isn't too far away.

  • Hiiii, basically i first noticed breast buds over 2 years ago at the age of 11however now there is still no increase in size even tho ive had these breast buds for 2 years and im now nearly 14. Will my breasts like ever grow? Thanks from alicia xxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Alicia, try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • I recently moved house and schools (I still go back there sometimes) and a boy at my old school who I was good friends with still talks to me, I want to tell him I like him, but I don't know how because it will turn things awkward and change our friendship- he will put things like "aw I miss you loads love ya 😏😘x" does that mean he likes me? Or does he mean it in a friend way I'm confused... Please help?! πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ’•

    I think you need to be direct and simply tell him that you like him but try not to be upset if he doesn't feel the same way.  You can still be good friends.

  • I'm 16 years old, and I've only had my period for a year and I've been using sanitary towels which I hate. I've tried loads of different tampons, and even your teen brand but all of them I find difficult to insert or they hurt while trying to applicate. Why can't i do it after so many attempts?
    Already have lubricant, relax etc.

    I would suggest that you book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out for peace of mind.

  • On your bra chart it doesn't have my size so what should I go for ??
    I am 70cm under bust and 75cm at fullest part ?? Please help !!

    Your bra size is a 32AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • I'm 13 and i have a massive crush on an 18 year old? is it illegal to date someone of that age or is it just illegal to have sex? x

    It would be unlawful for the 18 year old person to have any kind of sexual contact with someone under the age of 16 and that does not only include sexual intercourse.

  • Last summer i had a really bad summer holiday. I was constantly putting myself down and feeling bad about myself. I was certain i was going to have a much better summer this year but i know I'm not now :( . I have just been pushed out my friendship group, been dumped by my boyfriend and getting this empty sad self concious feeling back. I don't want
    To have another holiday like that but there is only two days of school left and I'm not that close to my new friends. What am i meant to do? :'(

    Try to stay positive as we all outgrow our friends at times.  There is every chance that when you return to school in September, it will all be forgotten and you will continue as before so try not to let it affect your Summer holidays and relax and have fun.  Puberty is naturally a time when teens experience massive self-doubt and my advice is to start by being nice to yourself, spend fun time with family.

  • Hi viki!
    I've been rather uncomfortable for the past few weeks, for example,I've been having stomach cramps frequently, and my discharge has become more frequent. My discharge also has an "off" smell, is this normal? My mum started her period when she was around 13 but I've only just turned 12, does this mean I'll start my period at 13?

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.  It is normal for discharge to have an odour but nothing too offensive.  You might like to consider using Lil-Lets teens Liners as they are great not only for helping you to keep fresh and clean down there but also as a sign that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives. 


  • (My 'friends' problem):
    2 weeks before we had a sleepover and she said she thinks she's fat ( she's 11 and 4 stone 1) !! She only ever eats half of a dinner everyday and I'm extremely worried about her!! No ones ever talked to her about it and I don't really want to!! My mum knows as well but I don't think my friends mum knows!! Me and my other friend also do a little self harm as well if you have any tips with that?

    Let's address your friend's problem first of all as you're right to be concerned about her attitude to eating and gaining weight and I wonder if there is a trusted teacher at school that you might like to talk to so she can get the help she needs.  You could also suggest that she calls Childline on 0800 1111 for some confidential help and support.  Puberty can be a most demandng and difficult time in a young person's life due to all the emotional and psychological changes that are occurring all at once, they can easily develop low self-esteem and develop an irrational fear of gaining weight.  Self-harming is an expression of intense negative feelings that aren't your fault so please talk to a trusted family member or call Mindline on 0300 1233393 to get the help you need.

  • I told you bout me and my. Best friend, I admitted feelings and he said bye?, turns out he does like me back, we talk to each other everyday through messaging and only see each other like once a week because we are not in same schools, he lives about 10minutes drive away from me and I don't know if he'd want to be my bf because it'll be hard? I don't know whether I should ask him, I want him to be comfortable but I really want to be able to call him mine... Help please we are stuck, thanks

    He seems a little unsure of his feelings as you do get on well together yet when you told him you like him he said 'bye'.  I would try to be direct in telling him how you feel and would like to be his girlfriend and then the decision is his but if he doesn't want to be your boyfriend, do try to remain friends.

  • Hello viki-
    I have had discharge for about 5-6 moths now and I have had a bit of stomach aches lately. I have started wearing a bra recently and wondered if that might be causing the stomach aches as when I take it off it doesn't hurt that much but a pain is still there. I was fitted by Someone in a shop so it's not tight, but the correct size, but I was wondering if I might be starting my period soon, my mom said she had hers at 13 and I've only just turned 12.

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months and I don't think wearing a bra would cause you to have a stomach ache so there is a chance that this might be due to your body getting ready for when your period arrives but please talk to your mum about this.

  • I have this long thing coming out of my vagina, I'm not sure what it is, it might be my clit I don't know how to say or explain it. If you know what I mean please could you help, I don't know whether it's normal or not?
    Thank you

    Why not read my blogs on the Reprodutive System for more on how your body looks in this area.

  • Hi Vicki! Im really worried as i havent started my periods yet and im worried that i have that disease that you never start your periods. I have a dietry issue and i only eat unhealthy things. Im 6 and a half stone too and have discharge nearly everyday. Im also a 30B bra size. Please answer im so scared! :(

    Discharge is a good sign that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives and this is usually between 6-12 months time.  As you're worried, talk to your mum or guardian and ask to visit your GP for peace of mind.

  • OMG!!!!!!!
    I'm in yr 6 n I have a boyf!! I hant started my period yet but I'm really scred bc I held hands wi my boyf last week n I think I'm pregnunt bc I'm gettin pains down below
    PLS ANSWER N HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!

    The only way you could possibly be pregnant is by having sexual intecourse with a male so please try not to worry as holding hands is perfectly fine.

  • I only live with my dad. How do I convince him to let me wear thongs? They seem way more comfy to me and look nice. Should I tell him that without panty lines dudes won't look at my butt? Idk. I just wanna wear thongs. Help. Thx

    Thongs are designed to be worn at certain times; for instance if your trousers are low cut or your clothes clingy and standard briefs would show. They are not designed to be a way of attracting boys. So why not wait until you are older and if you like a boy let him get to know you for who you are as a person and not how you look!

  • Hi Vicki
    I dont have my period yet but I seem to be constantly moody and emotional. I used to blame it on tiredness but now I'm not so sure. Please help!!
    Thanks a lot
    Mia
    XxxxxxX

    Hi Mia, it is perfectly normal to feel moody during puberty as hormones are running riot and serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress.  Try doing things that make you happy like dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films and most improtantly of all, talk to your family and friends about how you're feeling as chances are, some of your friends are feeling the same too so you can support each other.

  • Hi Vicki so today I was in the bathroom and wiped and there was some blood on the tissue and I told my mother and she said that she thinks its my period but um not sure (sorry if this is a bit gross)

    Try not to worry as it's not gross at all.  This was your period but during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I hurt down three its rrlly rd plz reply r before twenty eight of July
    Thanks puppy eyes

    Hi Puppy Eyes, it is possible for vaginas to itch when pubic hair grows and this hot weather doesn't help matters as the area can become sweaty and irritated so try keeping the area as clean and cool as possible with regular bathing and try wearing loose fitting clothing and cotton underwear.

  • I'm 16. I'm in love with a 10 year old boy. We have so much in common and he is very mature for his age. Ppl call me things like slut for liking him. But this is true love. I told him about it and he said that he loves me.would ppl judge if I dated him? And no I'm not talking about sex. If wait till he's 18. At least. Could I date him? Thank you, Vicki.

    Hi, as this boy is only 10 it is highly unlikely he would be emotionally, physically or mentally able to date or understand about relationships. And whilst I appreciate that you are fond of him, I think it would be best to either keep your distance from him until he is much older or make a pact to only be friends and nothing more.

  • I'm 13 i have no boobs and earlier this year when i was at school i notised some blood when i went to the loo so i told my mother but i didnt think i started so we called it a false alarm because it stopped that day ,Around 2 days ago when i woke up in the morning to go to the toilet i saw some brown blood in my pants but i left it because i didnt know what to do and since then theres been blood in my pants have i started my period or not? Because im not experiancing any cramps and if so what do i do?

    This is your period so be sure to ask your mum to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • πŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆπŸ™ˆ
    I'm 14 and 15 in about 2 months, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year and we hve only kissed (with tongues/snogging) how can I take it further without making it awkward?

    You and your boyfriend have been together for almost a year and should now be able to talk to each other openly and freely about things.  I will take this opportunity to remind you of the Law of Consent which states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • I have had brown discharge for 1-2years hair everywhere 2-3nboobs 4 and still no period!

    Brown blood is simply old blood and is simply a clearing out of the vagina so try not to worry, this is perfectly normal.  This is your period.

  • Hi Vicki
    After i was masturbating, it looked like there was brown discharge. Was this a coincidence so it was my first period, or was it bleeding. Btw im 10, 11 in a month
    πŸ’›πŸ’œπŸ’›πŸ’œπŸ’›

    As brown discharge can often present itself as a first period, be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months. 

  • Hi Vicki. Please answer ASAP😳
    I'm 14, my last period was in January 2014, since then iv had nothing. But tonight 19-07-14 at 7:30pm onwards iv had terrible lower stomach pains, sickness, and also, light pink discharge. Is it my period?
    PLEASE ANSWER ASAPπŸ™

    This is your period so try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regualr period.

  • Is it ok to shave pubic hair at 10 years old? I don't like how it feels or looks. Can I shave it? And will it be easier to masterbate without it?

    Rather than shave it at first, why not consider simply trimming it back.  Pubic hair has no effect on masturbation.

  • What does is a hymen supposed to look like? And where is it at? I can't find mine... Thanka

    The hymen is a thin piece of skin that only partially covers the entrance to the vagina.

  • Sup Vicki. EMO GIRL. Sorry for asking so many questions but someone asked about dying their hair. I started permanently dying mine at 10. Is that bad? Like I bleach, dye colors, etc. I also straighten it every day without heat protection. My hair is damaged but will it like fall out or anything??? Thx Vicki. You rock!!! ❀️❀️❀️ - :3 meow EMO GIRL

    Hi Emo Girl, it might be worth your while consulting a hairdresser who will be able to advise you on the condition of your hair.  Personally, I think that prolonged straightening and dyeing of your hair can cause damage and a hairdresser might be able to suggest some products to protect it.

  • How do you masterbate? Sorry if innapropriate. Thx

    Masturbation is something that is felt instinctively and naturally and is definitely not something I can tell you how to do.

  • My mum is a 36D, do you reckon my bra size will be around that when I'm older? I started my periods year earlier than her.

    We don't always follow our mums in being the same bra size or starting our period so you will simply have to wait and see.

  • Why am I crying over little things?(mum shouting at me for having a messy room)?

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel more upset than before due to the increase in activity of hormones and there are also so many physical and emotional changes occurring all at once, they can be excused for feeling more sensitive than usual. 

  • Hey Viki.
    I've been getting a brown-ish discharge in my underwear for the past few days. Im 12. after using the bathroom and wiping, this brown gooey clump came out in my toilet paper. Im weating pads. Is this my period ?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so just keep an eye on what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • What do I do if I like a boy

    Try talking to him to get to know im because even though you feel attracted to him, you don't know what his personality is like.

  • My discharge always becomes really heavy days before I'm on my period and it also becomes really watery, why is this?

    It is normal for discharge to vary in consistency throughout the menstrual cycle so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using pant liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.

  • Most girls say that before they come on their period they eat loads but I find that I get full really quickly and bloated and don't really want to eat anything at all. Is this normal because I don't no any other girls who feel the same way?

    This is not true for all girls, and some eat less a week or so before their period as they feel bloated and then resume a normal eating pattern when their period arrives. Others crave sweet things such as chocolate or cake. We really are all different you see and it pays to listen to your body and try to be as healthy as you possibly can.

  • A couple of days before my period my body feels really like tingly especially behind my knees and in 'intimate' areas and I feel really lethargic and lustful, is this feeling 'horny'?

    It could be considered 'horny', when someone has feelings of a sexual nature yes.

  • hi, i keep getting hot at random times for no reason y? Also y do some people go through a stage where thier boobs really hurt because mine don't.

  • if your vagina gets very itchy sometimes is it an infection or something else? Can u tell me the answer ASAP please thnks

    There could be a number of reasons why your vagina is itchy with the most common being due to pubic hair growth.  You would know if you had an infection as your vagina would be red and swollen and you would be releasing a discharge that ressembles cottage cheese, it would also be painful to pass urine. 

  • I'm only 14 but I find myself only sexually attracted to men around 40! Is this likely to last forever or is it just hormonal- don't worry, I know better than to act on any of those crushes though

    This is definitely due to the increase in activity of your sex hormones and you sound like a sensible girl in knowing that crushes are a passing thing that you shouldn't act on.

  • I have yellow stuff in my underwear is this discharge?
    Ps I dont have any hair and small breasts
    Thanks Vicki :-) :-)

    The 'yellow stuff' you have noticed is discharge which is perfectly normal as it not only works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection but also tells us that our bodies are getting ready for when our period arrives.  Try to remember that we are all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other too.

  • I'm 13 and I'm not sure what size I am, because all the sizes below 32a give me a really big side boob so they're all too small however 32a seems to be a bit too big, yet it STILL gives me a side boob. Also, sometimes there seems to be a tiny gap at the top between the bra and my boob (whovh upposedly means it's too big?) I'm so confused:(

    You might like to consider getting a professional bra fitting at a local department store as they will be able to suggest styles that will fitr you the best and offer the most support.

  • Hey Vicki! I've had a crush on this guy for 5 years!! We went on a date the other day and when we leaned in for a kiss this little kid ran by saying "ew cooties!!" And when the guy drove me home we didn't talk or anything! It was so awkward cause the kid ruined the moment! That could have been the best moment of my life. :'-( how do we continue without it being so awkward??

    What a shame that this boy ruined your special moment.  As you've been going out with your crush for 5 years and are still going out with each other, I'm sure the opportunity to have your first kiss will arise again.  Talk to your crush and try to make light of it.

  • My discharge was very light brown today and I'm wondering if this is my first period or not because it was so light. Please help!

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I got my actual period around two months ago (10 months before that I kept spotting in my discharge every 1-3 ish months), and when I got my first period I had it for 8 days, it was quite heavy, but now I haven't had it for two months. Why did I get spotting and no period before, spotting sometimes means your period is coming soon? Also, ever since I got my first proper period my discharge has got so thick, it looks like bogies, why? When will I get my second period?-Thankyou:)

    During the early stages of the menstrual cycyle, it can take up to 2 years for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • I've never kissed anyone before and I always dread that I'll do it wrong. And I think that tieing a cherry stem in a knot is a myth (even though I can do it) would If be weird If I asked my friend if we could practice doing? That even sounds weird. She has a boyfriend and she's bi. I'm bi but single. So she wouldn't be like cheating if she did this right? I just want practice and forget about the first kiss thing. Is that wrong or weird? What's your advice? Thx

    A first kiss is something that is felt instinctively and naturally and is best practiced with someone you feel attracted to.  So you might like to consider waiting until you are with that someone special.

  • Hi Vicki, Im 12 and haven't started my periods yet, is that normal, also im starting buying stuff for school and think I should get some emergency period supplys incase I get it but im too embarrassed to ask my mum, please tell how to ask her, it would be brilliant
    Thanks xx

    Try to remember that we're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other and it is perfectly normal for girls to start their period any time between the ages of 8-18.  You might like to ask your mum if she would buy a Lil-Lets teens Starter Pack for you as it is filled with samples of our products from our teens range and also has a Becoming a Teen booklet which is full of useful information to help guide you through puberty.  They are available in branches of Tesco's, Sainsbury's and Boots or from our online shop.  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her.

  • I have noticed some mucus aaround my vigena but its not transferrering on to my undies os it discharge

    Discharge is a clear mucus that is produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free of infection and is also a sign that our body is getting ready for when our period arrives.  Lil-Lets teens pant liners will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there as they can be changed as often as you like.

  • Hey Vicki, I have used tampons before and have been perfectly fine but I was kinda worried that if I swim in them they might leak slightly? Also I'm going on holiday in two weeks but my period is due this week, do you think I should take some stuff with me?? Thank you, form E xx

    There really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection while swimming so when you are on holiday, be sure to change before and after you swim to ensure you have the best protection and avoid any possible leakage.  Hope you have a great time.

  • I have started writing blogs about cats on Tumblr but I'm running out of ideas. I really enjoy it but I posted a link on Facebook and no one seemed interested. I asked for suggestions but no one cared. I have no followers..help?! :(

    If you love cats, then why not make up a set of stories about a fictitious cat and put him/her in some crazy situations. Or take him on some wonderful journeys across the world. You could even make her a teenage cat for a new twist.

  • Hi Vicky,
    So the other day me and my group of friends were chatting and one of them said something about a really good porn site. I typed it into google not really knowing what porn was. I watched a few videos finding them a bit boring but now I keep watching porn even though I find it boring. Is that normal?

    I think it is normal to be curious about sex during puberty but you should always use caution while watching pornography as it can give a distorted impression of what a loving, respectful sexual relationship should be like.  It is important to stay mindful of the things that mean the most to us in life, like family, friends and school.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm about to have my period in 3 days. I started getting pain on my lower back, I was wondering because I'm having my period or maybe i laid in a wrong position while sleeping.
    Thx,
    Sierra,12 :)

    Hi Sierra, the pain might be linked to your period but please talk to your mum or guardian to see what she thinks.

  • hi Vicky
    all the boys in my class like this girl because she has got gigantic breasts and I have but not massive. so is it true that boys like people with breasts

    I think that boys are naturally fascinated by females regardless of their breast size.

  • Does sperm come out every time a boy pee's

    No, sperm is only released when a boy or man ejaculates.

  • I Started Getting Breasts About 5 Months Ago , I Know Its Never 100% , But When Do You Reckon My Period Will Start?

    We're all different with bodies that develop at different rates to each other so tell your friend to be patient as her period will be along pretty soon.  The best way of knowing when her might arrive is when she has been releasing discharge     for between 6-12 months.

  • hi vicki how are u? it's sel here. i like this boy but he doesn't like me. How can we get closer?

  • hi vicki its sel again. im going into year 9 after the summer holidays and im nervous for my gcse and i was wondering if u have any advice/tips for getting the best marks possible and revising and keeping on top of my grades? xx

    Hi Sel, it's great to hear that you want to be organised and do well in your exams but try to enjoy the Summer holidays and check out my blog on Top Tips to beat exam stress for when you're back at school.  Try to remember that all you can ever do is your best.  Good luck!

  • 1) I have extremely thick and dark hair in between my boobie area and it's starting to make me feel embarrassed.
    2) a year ago I used a tampon without my mum knowing and I was fine I want to try again but I told my friend and she made me feel disgusting.
    3) I have barely any clothes to wear and my mum wont take me shopping or give me money for clothes because she says she needs the money for our house.

    Hi, here are my answers.

    1. Lots of girls notice extra hair in this area, it should however start to disappear or become finer as you continue your journey through puberty.

    2. Tampons are a very clean, discreet and comfortable method of sanitary protection and can reduce any odours. They are used by many millions of women every day so please try not to be too upset about your friends remarks. BUT ask your mum next time, rather than taking one of her tampons without permission.

    3. Why not start visiting charity shops, clothes are inexpensive and unique and a great way to find your own sense of style.

  • Can Tampons get stuck inside the tummy?

    It would be impossible to lose a tampon inside your tummy as the opening to the womb is smaller than the tip of a matchstick.  The tampon will stay in the vagina.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I have two questions for you today.
    1. What shaving cream should i use on my legs because i read up on it and im confused?
    2. What age do you usually see a gynocolagist for the first time?
    Many thanks.

    This really is a personal choice and with so many products on shelf I am sure you will find the ideal product for you. As for your second question, in the UK there is no need to visit a gynaecologist unless you are pregnant or experiencing problems in the vaginal area. This differs to other countries where girls are often encouraged in their teens to have regular check-ups.

  • A friend likes a boy but he doesnt like her back what should she do

    Unfortunately this happens in life and you cannot make someone feel an attraction for you if they do not and this does not mean there is anything wrong with you, it simply means you are not suited and there will be other boys who like your friend. So my advice is to move and consider just being friends with this boy.

  • Hi Vicki, I've had my period for about 2 and half years and it always followed a regular cycle - every 28 days - but lately its been coming after 14 - 21 days and is extremely heavy with severe cramps. I'm almost 16 and I was just wondering is this normal?

    As you've already been having periods for a while, ask your mum or guardian to book an appointment with your GP to get this checked out.

  • My breasts are sore what does that mean???

    It is normal to experience painful, sore breasts with development so try not to worry.  A soak in the bath will help to soothe them.

  • Is using a tampon sore?

    All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be able to enjoy the discreet protection that wearing tampons provides to millions of women all over the world.  The trick is to relax before inserting the tampon high enough into the vagina so only the cord is showing.

  • Under bust 64cm
    Ovr 75cm
    Am I normal? My bra size if I have 1 plz ?. I am 19 and a half. Should I take pills ...? I feel lyk a boy.people laugh at me

    Your bra size is a 30AA and you should try to remember that we are all made in different shapes and sizes and you should love your breasts regardless of their size. 

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 15 and very active in sports and such. I have a normal diet and am trying to loose some of the muscle on my body. It came pretty quickly and ended up on me having stretch marks all down my legs. Will the stretch marks every go away or are there any creams I could use to help them fade?

    Try not to worry as stretch marks are so common during puberty when skin is stretched rapidly over a short period of time.  Try applying some moisturiser as it will help to keep the skin hydrated and minimise the effects.  Check out my blog on Stretch Marks for more help and advice.

  • hey Vicki so Im 14 and I have periods and everything but I just don't know how to shave because I get spots and stuff I also don't know how short to cut it or anything also I have like this extra skin growing and it looks like a wart but I don't want to tell my mum

    Warts are common pretty much everywhere on your body, even on your pubic and vaginal area and there is no need to worry about this. As for hair removal, I see no reason to do this personally and it may be easier to trim this hair back in the summer months if you feel it necessary.

  • How do you know if the boy you like likes you?

    Boys can show their affection for someone in lots of different ways, they can tease you, hang around you all the time, go red when they see you. Or even pretend that they dislike you to distract others from the way they truly feel. One thing is for sure they will always be around and you will catch them looking over at you from time to time. Why not read my blog entitled; First Love for more on this subject.

  • I have been asked out by a boy at my secondary school and I do like him but I dont know what to say . And what do I do if he wants to kiss me?

    Why not read my blog entitled First Kiss and Top Dating Tips, I am sure you will find both of these really useful.

  • Hey Vicki, I was wondering what are boobs made of?? E xx

    Breasts are made up of milk glands, fat, tissue and muscle.

  • I think i'm really ugly and the whole year does too. My mum and i were talking about this girl in my class and my mum said shes beautiful and she will be stunning when she's older but obviously if i was she would say about me too but she didn't :( everybody in my year hates me. Help. I need your advice.

    Just because your mum did not compliment you, does not mean she feels you are unattractive and I am sure to her you are the most beautiful person in the world. It can however be hard on teenagers when they feel a little self-conscious about their appearance to hear others being complemented. Why not have a chat to your mum and let her know how this makes you feel and together you can find ways to improve your confidence levels.

  • Part 3- . When we went back to the classrooms, since it was the last day, everyone was hanging out,and R told all the girls in the class and they started bitching about me and starting arguments with me.I ended up shouting at one girl and saying 'well maybe you should shut your face' later i apoligised and she understood.Anywayit spoiled my last day of year 7 and its all im thinking about how should me and R make up at school. Also in the classroom i told her everything that happened

    When someone likes someone else romantically they very often speak to someone who is not their best friend about this matter and this can lead to divisions in friendships and things getting a little out of hand. It would be far better in future to just let these little chats continue and try not to get upset by them. Have a chat to your friend or text her letting her know that things got heated and you hope you can all spend time together in the summer and forget what happened on the last day of school.

  • Part 2- my friend K was getting upset cos her and A were really close and now they aren't because of A.By now everyone was getting emotional so i went up to A and R and I said 'All this week you have been dragging away A from K and she's getting upset because of all your private chats, so you need to choose your friends or the ugly troll boy.' R replied 'Well right now i want to choose the boy' in a horrible attitude. I walked off and to the boy and said 'You need too talk to R right now!'

    See my response in Part Three.

  • my period is very light and i dont even realise its there sometimes so i dont know ive started until i go to the bathroom but then i have bloody knickers. i usually only have my period for 1 sometimes 2 days and never get cramps, im 16 and started 4 years ago so im regular now. is this normal or is there something wrong? my friends say im so lucky not to get cramps

    Try not to worry as it is normal for your period to last only 2 days and not everyone has stomach cramps with their period.

  • Well this is going to be a bit of a long one so it will be in several parts.My friend,lets call her R,has had 2 boyfriends and has a crush on this guy and it is on the same person my other friend does, lets call her A.Anyway they kept having these private chats together and it drove me and my other friend,K crazy.Yesterday on the last day she claimed she was gonna ask him out and didn't and just kept having more private chats with A. End of part 1

    See my response in the last section.

  • Hi vicki I am so so so scared!! I am on my period and today I was doing my makeup in the mirror as I felt a big gush of blood come out my vagina,so I went to look at my pad and there was a massive pile of blood that looked like a slug!! What is this? I'm terrified please help!!!😩😩😯

    There is no need for alarm as small clots like this are simply a part of the lining of uterine wall being released with menstrual fluid.

  • I told a boy (my best friend actually) how I feel and all he said was "bye..." I think I ruined everything, I don't mind him not liking me back I just want him to be friends, what do I do? I thought he felt the same because when we were talking through Facebook before he said he wished he could kiss me and hug me and be my boyfriend, I thought he cared.. But now he does this I'm confused help? Thanks :(

    Why not give this boy a few days to digest what you have told him. Boys often take a little longer to mature than girls and he may need time to consider what he does next. For your part in a couple of days, go up to him and say "Hi" and act just like nothing has happened and your friendship should soon get back on track.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I'm 25 inches under bust
    and 27 at the fullest I'm 12
    What size am I and what kind
    of bra should I wear?:)

    Your bra size is a 30AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that feels comfortable on you.  For more help with this check out my blog on Finding the bra that's right for you.

  • Hi Vicki, lots of people in my year mostly have bigger cup sizes than B's or C's and I'm only a A and people in my year take the mick out of me for it. What should I do? πŸ˜”

    Try to ignore the silly comments and remember that we all develop at different rates to each other.  It is also useful to kow that breasts can continue to develop up until a girl's 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi Vicki, im 13 almost 14 and about this time last year I had my first period then I didn't get it for 3 months(September) and then didnt have it for about 9 months after(June)I have armpit hair, downbelow hair and size 34-36DD boobs and I am due for my period either the 5th or the 20th. Im so confused and its really making me angry when I dont get them! I really need some advice, thanks :)

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regualr period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I know this question isn't related to any of the topics but i can't find the answer and i'm afraid to ask anybody so... Is it dangerous or bad to drink caffeine free coffee if i'm 12 years old. I put lots of milk in it and a little cacao but is it bad? Will it affect my growing?

    Drinking coffee will not have any effect on your growth, but you may want to limit the amount you drink to one or two cups a day.

  • Hi! I'm 21 years old and I have NOT had my period and I am JUST losing discharge I have been to the doctor she said nothing can be done can you help? Love Maxine ( Max for short )

    Hi Maxine, if you're not happy with the outcome of your visit, go back again and ask to be referred to a consultant.

  • Hi
    Im sorry if this is a bit rude but,im 12 and still flatchested my boobs have budded but havent grown and all my friends are a a,b and c ! Please help me and js this normal ? And one more thing should i sleep with a croptop on ?

    Thnx xxx

    Try to remember that we all develop at different rates to each other and it is possible for breasts to continue to develop up until your 20's so you still have plenty of time.

  • Hi, my mum made me get measured for a bra at m&s. When i took of my vest it made me nervous but she said to stand a certain way so she wouldnt see but she kept making me turn around. Then when she was talking she said: "you have quite big nipples so this ones good" and she was talking about the shape of my boobs and then while I was standing there she was showing me how to put a bra on so we were standing face to face and she unhooked my bra so I was standing there topless. What do I do?

    This was a little insensitive of the assistant as most of them measure you over your vest or t-shirt. Try to forget this episode, it has passed and if you go to be fitted for a bra in future ask to be measured over your top or bra and to be given some privacy when you try on suitable options.

  • Hiya, yesterday in pe a girl tried to get this ball off of me but instead she pushed the ball into my thumb and it went all the way back, I almost. Cried the pain was so bad and I never cry over pain,so didn't tell Anyone or go to the nurse because I don't like people making a fuss, anyway it swelled big at the bottom like where the mussel is, I can move the top of my thumb but I can't write or grip things, also it hurts when I touch it, what do you think I have done to it? Any advise, sorry its so long xx

    Please talk to your mum or guardian and ask them to either arrange an appointment with your GP or to take you to a hospital Casualty unit to get this checked out.

  • Vicki I need your help!
    There's a spinning swing at this playground, where strong people push you really high, and I love it, so yesterday I went on it.
    Then some rough boy went on with me, and I told him to go away, but then one of the strong people had come to push us. The boy started pushing me and then he aimed for my right breast. He pushed down SO hard, I nearly cried.
    Now BOTH of my breasts have sort of shrunk, and it really hurts my feelings. Help?

    I am sure this boy has not shrunk your breasts although they can often be tender when touched. There should be no long lasting harm to this area and I am sure in a few days you will feel better.

  • Hiya Vicki! I'm going to Mexico for 10 days in August and my period is due the whole week I'm there. I'm not ready for tampons but do you have any tipa as I have very heavy periods and how will I deal with my periods on the 11 hour flight to Cancun and will they be affected by flying? Thanks Vicki!!xxxx

    I'm afraid there really is no alternative to tampons for sanitary protection whilst swimming and when you feel ready, you might like to try using our Lil-Lets teens Regular non-applicator tampons as they are ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  As the flight is quite long, just be sure that you wear towels with good absorbency and make regular changes.  Have a lovely time!

  • hi vicki
    i started my period today al lot of blood came out help
    !!!!!

    Try not to worry and remember that periods are a perfectly natural occurrence for every girl.  So congratulations!  Why not ask your mum or guardian to buy some of our Lil-Lets teens range which has been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.

  • Hey vicky this is quite awkward But recently i have had a light vaginal itch but then i itched it but now its all i can think about,im not " active " at all, i dont have any other signs all i have is my regular discharge that every girl gets i hav never had this ever before and.........some people said this happened to them when you "grow up" your hormones can cause this ... plz om scared help im crying...:,,,,,(

    The hot weather and tight fitting clothes is very often the reason behind vaginal irritation and scratching this area can only make matters worse. So if you can avoid scratching and if the irritation does not stop have a chat to your mum or the person who cares for you and they will pop you along to your GP for a check-up.

  • Vicki this is not a question but a comment for the girl who has a gap between her teeth. When I was yunger like under 10, I had a big gap my self and it did annoy me alot! But it started to close up when I was about 10, and now Im 12 and there really barely is a gap!!! I mean you couldnt even fit a needl through it now!
    So Im sure your gap will close up soon as well. :)
    sorry for making it so long xxxxxx

    Thanks for the feedback.

  • When they measure you for a bra size at shops do you keep your top on x

    If you feel more comfortable with your top on then that will be fine but remember to wear a thin t.shirt or vest top so your sizing is accurate.

  • Hey! Sorry if this is gross
    I'm 14 and have had my period for a while
    I use tampons for sport but when I take it out it's like a weird shape and it hurts to take it out!
    Also how can I ask mum for more talons because I'm nearly run out without it being weird

    You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Regular or Super tampons as they expand widthways.  For a demonstration of this, check out the following link. http://www.lil-lets.co.uk/becomingateen/blog/2014/May/30/Not%20all%20tampons%20are%20the%20same?author=Vicki  Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her about anything to do with puberty.

  • Last year I went on holiday and used some tablets that stopped your period so that I wasn't on whilst I was on holida. When I came ack I had extremely bad cramps and a very very heavy flow, I leaked through 4 pads and 3 pyjama shorts almost every night. I has to get changed in the night when I woke up and leaked. Are these tablets bad for you?

    This medication was most likely the contraceptive pill that can sometimes be offered to delay your period for a few days. Taking this type of medication will ultimately change the way your body works for a short period of time and very often when the period does arrive it is heavier and a little uncomfortable, but this generally does not last. It is however, I feel far easier to trust your sanitary protection to protect you whilst on your period and on holiday rather than taking tablets.

  • Hi,
    You probably won't remember me but I'm the girl who said about when I went to the toilet and there was no blood in my underwear but when I wiped there was a few spots of blood. This was before Christmas And nothing else has happend since but it wasn't a cut because it was stinging or sore or anything so what was it xx

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstruial cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.  It might be irregular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Any suggestions for getting rid of severe period cramps?

    You might like to try doing some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle or having a soak in the bath or if the pain is too bad, ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.  If they are persistently painful, ask them to book an appointment with your GP.

  • Is it ok to have sex if you haven't had your period yet?

    Yes it is possible to have sexual intercourse without having started your period but the Law of Consent states that it is against the law for a boy or man to have any kind of sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 16.

  • Sup Vicki.EMO GIRL.i don't mind calling myself that for this but at school all the kids call me an emo cutter etc.Once a boy told the teacher I'm emo and she agreed and the whole class laughed at me and the next day in the hall way she said hey emo girl. I looked at her and she laughed at me.it hurt my feeling.Why are ppl so mean to ppl who look different. And I know I can help how I dress but they are also mean to ppl cause of they're body and face where I live. :-(- EMO GIRL :3 meow

    People love to give others tags..sporty girl, preppy girl....etc.  Be strong in mind and ignore any comments you hear, you are an individual and that is something to be proud of.

  • Why are cartoons always so great? Like in Hortan hears a who. Jojo mcdodd is my dream guy except he's not real. Same with Marshall Lee in adventure time. But especially jojo. Hehe ☺️ Do guys really exist like that or will I always be a loner watching my cartoons? Hehe. Forever alone is not the answer I hope. Thx Vic.

    I think cartoon figures are a little bit of reality and fantasy and I always hope that somewhere there is someone who was the inspriration for these images and therefore looks a little like them.

  • I'm I'm love with this dude but he doesn't see me the same way. At least I don't think he does. He likes some blonde haired blue eyed girl. And I'm a brunette and brown eyed guy. I'm bi. And everytime I try to tell him how I feel I chicken out. Should I tell him, Mrs. Vicki? Thank you. You are very kind. And I hope you aren't disturbed that I'm a male on your website. But if you are I'm sorry. Thanks anyways though. :-)

    If this boy already has found someone he likes then it would seem inappropriate to show your feelings at this time. That does not mean however you cannot be good friends and get to know him as a person.

  • My BFF is a lesbian and I haven't told her yet but I'm bi. I really like her and she wanted to met up and with me and some other ppl the other night. I couldn't make it but I texted her and she sent me a pic of her making out with this girl I've haven't met before and I felt jealous but idk how to tell her. She said she's amazing and she's the luckiest girl ever. I wish she would notice me like that. Please help, Vicki. By the way, you rock. 😊😊😊 :3 meow I'm a kitty

    Why not take some time to consider if the feelings you have for this girl are real or caused by an increase in hormones caused by puberty. You have plenty of time to consider this and let your friend know how you truly feel.

  • Dear Vicki,
    I started my period almost a year ago and they're so irregular. Sometimes I get them twice a month and sometimes there's a 40-day gap. It annoys me that I have to wait to stain my knickers to find out if it has started. When will my periods become regular?

    They will become regular over time, but for now why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis to avoid staining.

  • Hey vicki if you have discharge does that mean your gunna start your period?

    Discharge is often noticed for between 6-12 months before the arrival of your period, sometimes even a little bit longer.

  • Hey Vicki,
    I am 12 years old and haven't got my period yet.Everyone says that there is some problem with you.Second thing is I am not having hairs in my armpits.Third thing is I love a boy and I dont know that whether he love me or not but I love him a lot.

    Hi, firstly, a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so there really is no problem and not everyone notices under arm hair, so again this is not a problem. Finally, a good way to see if a boy likes you is to smile at him and if he smiles back then he may like you too.

  • Hey vicki I started my period a month ago when do u think my second done will be thanks Zoey 😘

    Hi Zoey, this would be difficult for me to predict as very often periods can have gaps of several months between each one, whilst some girls will get their next period 21-34 days after their first one arrived. So it would be useful to keep some pads or liners with you from now on.

  • Is it a sin to masturbate? I'm catholic and I'm too afraid to ask. I know it's normal and everything but is it a sin for Catholics? I don't mind doing it

    Masturbation is a natural and instinctive way of exploring the way your body makes you feel and I am sure ther catholic church appreciates that there will be followers of this religion that take part in this activity.

  • Hi, I started my period in 2014 January and I'm only 11 and I don't really like talking about it to her plleaaassseeee help xx love from me x

    Remember that your mum was once a teenager and will want to make this time in your life as easy for you as possible, and having short chats to her from time to time will make this a lot easier and more comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki
    I have been developing for about 2 years 7 months and all of a sudden I'm getting pains in my right one but not in my left one. Some people say that it means your period is close. I've been having discharge for 6 months now if it helps

    One breast often grows before the other and can often feel tender with it does. Breast development is often noticed for a couple of years before the arrival of your period, so you may not have much longer to wait.

  • Is it weird to enjoy period pain? I get like a rush from it every time I get it, is this weird?:/

    Its unusual but we are all different so I would not worry too much about this.

  • I haven't started my period yet but I'm only 13, most of my friends have started but when I do start I don't know how to tell my mum could you give me some adivce?

    Why not write her a little note and put it somewhere only she will find it, such as her make-up bag or underwear drawer. Or before your period arrives you could ask her how old she was when she got her first period and she will most likely then ask if you think yours is due soon and will get you some products just in case.

  • making How do you ask your dad for pads while my mums on holiday...please help i have the last pack left ....

    Why not ask if you can go shopping for toiletries and if he will give you the basket so you can go and fill it with the things that girls need. Dads do understand about periods and I am sure he will get the message and let you purchase what you need with very little fuss.

  • Hey Vicki I'm sorry if this question is deemed slightly inappropriate but here goes...so I have a thing with this boy right and he said it's legal to have sex at 14 if you have a condom? He always talks about wanting to have sex with me and touch me down there and he touches my boobs and bum alot. Ps im 13 btw :----)

    Let me make one thing clear it is not lawful for you to have sexual intercourse in the UK if you are under the age of 16 and this boy is mistaken and you would do well to let him know. And please do not let him pressure you into doing something that you are not ready for or legally allowed to do.

  • I'm 14 and have just finished year 9, all of my friends have started their period and i haven't, should I be worried?

    Not at all, and a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18 so please don't worry.

  • Why is my vagina sometimes slimy x

    The vagina contains lots of glands that release fluids to help keep the vagina clean and lubricated. This can often make if seem slimy.

  • Hi Vicki, I have a lot going on at home, and I have taken a few tests and it says I have severe depression. I really can't talk to my Mum about it, because she has thought about suicide and I don't wanna make it worse. I really want to talk to my teacher but I don't know how to do it. Will he think I'm weird? Please help, thank you!

    Only a doctor can diagnose depression and I am not a huge fan of online tests. So please have a chat to your teacher and let her know how you feel, also letting her know why you feel you cannot share this news with your mum. Your teacher may then arrange for you to see the school counsellor who will help you understand and manage your feelings.

  • Hi vicky.
    I am 14 and have this crush on a guy who I really like. I don't know what to say or how to act. Please help xxxxxxx
    PS I am a huge fan of the website πŸ˜€πŸ˜ƒ

    A smile can go a long way to let someone know you like them. As can simply saying "Hi". So why not try these and see what happens.

  • Hi vicki, so I've just moved to america. I start school in August, which means I'm on my own for 6 weeks. I can't stand the thought of watching all my friends have a great summer, while I'm stuck her bored out of my skin. I won't join any classes because I'm shy and hate doing things like that. I'm just stuck here, bored, doing the same thing, watching my friends have a brilliant time over Facebook >< What do I do?:'(

    Firstly, I hope you realise what an exciting country America is and you really may not have too far to go to find friends as there will be lots in the area you live. My experience of Americans is that they love to meet new people so get out and about and smile when you see new people.

  • My granddaughter is 11 years old. Her nipples are sore and red and a tiny bit of bleeding when she is in our pool. It hurts enough that she has to get out. Could the chlorine be iratating her, or is it just her going through puberty? Thank you

    It is most likely puberty that is causing her nipples to crack, made worse by rubbing against her clothes and the chlorine in the pool. So it may be a good idea for her to stay out of the water for a few days and to rub a little non-fragranced moisturiser to the nipple to help the healing process.

  • I was looking on a selling website and came across an advert where someone was selling what seemed to be a dead cat why would someone do this? I reported it!The photo was horrible.

    There are some very sad and unkind people on the Internet and you did the right thing to report this.

  • Hi vicki
    I am going to a sleepover next week and all my friends do stuff like compare boobs and pubic hair. I feel uncomfortable about doing it but I don't want to not join in and be "lame" as they say.
    Thanks a lot
    Hana xxx

    Hi Hana, why not read my blogs on Sleepovers and take some of the ideas with you, by doing this you will all be so busy having fun, comparing puberty developments may not something you have time to do. Sleepover Part One and Part Two.

  • Hey viki,
    I get realy bad period pains sometimes at skool or when im out wlkin wat can i do to releve this pain thnx alot xx ;)

    A hot water bottle can sometimes help as can a warm bath and as silly as it may seem, gentle exercise is one of the best ways to help with this discomfort.

  • My boobs are tiny. Really tiny, I have a 34AA bra, and all my friends have at least a C. I'm 15, so this gets really embarrassing. In the changing rooms at school, I always feel the need to change as quickly as possible so no one will make fun of how small I am, and I've heard some of the other girls telling boys about how underdeveloped I am. I know everyone matures at different times, but I don't think I ever will get them, my mother is very petite like me, we actually have the same bra size of AA. Help?

    It really is a case of waiting to see what nature gives you and learning to love it. As for your friends well you may want to remind them about the importance of being good friends to each other and supporting one another during puberty.

  • I've missed my period for 4 months now. I'm still a virgin so I'm obviously not pregnant. Should I be worried?

    Not really as periods can often have long gaps between each one, especially for the first couple of years and as your body works out the right menstrual cycle just for you.

  • Hi vicki🎭🎭🎭 ive had my period for about 2 years now and i feel ready to use a tampon , i have tried the non applicator omes and i just cant get it to go in , it feels like its too dry or something , and i am using the lite flow ones ! What should i do , i really want to use them , as i think it would be better for sports and things x 🎭🎭🎭🎭

    Why not try using a tampon on the heavier days of your period and you may find our Lil-Lets non applicator tampons which are shorter and narrower than other brands a useful first time tampon. Remember also to insert in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine for the most comfortable fit.

  • Hi, im 12 and my discarge started when I was 8 and I haven't started my period yet. My pubic hair is itchy nowadays ..I have had the symptoms of periods .so should I be worried?

    No there is no need to worry a period can arrive anytime between the ages of 8-18, regardless of when discharge was first noticed.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I'm 17 years old and usually before my period, I give out discharge and then a day or 2 right before I get my period, the discharge stops. Is that a common sign that girls' are going to get their period or is discharge supposed to continue until the day of your period? That's usually the way I keep track of when I'm getting my period. Thanks. :)

    Discharge can come and go at any time during your menstrual cycle and if you find this way of identifying when your period is going to arrive for you works then I see no reason why you cannot continue using this method.

  • Hey vicki! I started getting discharge almost a year and three quaters ago now, how long so you think it will be till i start my period? i know your no expert but im not asking for like a set date just asking which month it might come.
    Thanks- Sophie!!!xxxxxxxxxx

    Hi Sophie, I doubt you will have much longer to wait now, maybe even this year. So ensure you always have some pads or liners with you when away from home, from now on.

  • Hi viki, do you have any advice on how to cope with anxiety when it thunders and lightnings? I suffer from.anxiety and panic attacks and the weather is making it worse to the point that I can't sleep at night.

    Rosie.

    Hi Rosie, try to remember that if you are indoors your are almost certainly safe and whilst thunder and lightening can be loud and scary it really is just part of nature setting things straight and nothing to be worried about.

  • Is is possible for your first period to only last only 1day? I was wearing a panty liner for discharge and I noticed brown on the liner once and iv had nothing since.

    This could have been your period or it may have been a little bit of residue from waste food (poo) not wiped away completely. So why not wait and see what happens over the next few months and if you notice this brown staining again.

  • Hi Vicky
    There is this boy that I really like and we went out for a couple of weeks but my friends are getting involved with it. Then he dumped me because of this but I really like him what should I do.?

    Have a chat to him and let him know that you miss him and if he is prepared to give you a second chance you will make sure your friends keep their distance. But whatever you do, don't stop being friends with these girls...friendship often lasts longer than boys ever do!

  • Hi Vicky well theres this boy that i fancied for two years and this year i told him i like him on facebook but he never answered even though he saw the message ive been ignoring him and all that and he started looking at me and stuff (in a nice way) but i was sure i didnt want to like him anymore .Last week one of my friends(not very close) told me she had a crush on him and i started getting reallly jealous without telling her of course.Idont know what to do somehow i just cant stop liking him,HELP.

    If this boy likes your friend there will be very little you can do to prevent them from dating. However, if he likes you then he may say no to your friend and continue smiling at you. It really is a case of waiting to see what this boy does.

  • Do you loose blood in periods because im only young 11 and in yr 6 and relly worried about loosing blood is it true
    Thank you vik

    Your menstrual fluid contains a little bit of blood, nutrients and bodily tissue and does not always look like the blood you lose when you cut yourself so please try not to worry, it does not mean there is anything wrong; your period is a very natural and healthy part of being a woman.

  • Hey Vicki, I'm 15 and basically today on the side of my right breast near my ribs I got this weird pain, like whenever I touch the area it feels like a bruise but there is no lump or anything and I was wondering if this is normal? I don't wanna tell my mum because I'm very self conscious and I think I have anxiety but I don't know! Ps I had my period last weekend so could my breast still be tender? Thanks xxx

    Breasts are very often tender during development and not just when you are on your period and this may be the reason you are experiencing pain, but if it does not disappear you really do need to share this news with your mum.

  • I'm 14 it's been about a year since I started my periods and my main worries r my spots and pimples. I'm confused about skin care routines and all that please can u help me clear my skin.

    Why not read my blog entitled; Being Skincare Savvy, this may help and remember too the importance of eating a healthy diet, drinking plenty of water and lots and lots of sleep.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I've been getting my period every two weeks. I started bleeding 3 months ago. Is there something wrong? My mum says if it keeps happening I have to go to the doctor and I'm really worried. Can you give me some advice?
    Thanks :)
    xxx

    Some girls do experience very short gaps between their periods and this is very normal. But if you start to feel tired then a trip to your GP may be a good idea.

  • Hi vicki, well this isnt any of these subjects but Im a bit worried and scared, this might be silly but I keep twiching every wear these days, and its FREAKING ME OUT!
    PLEASE HELP ME I dont know whats happening to me! Is it normal even???
    Thank you so much your the best, greatest, awsome, amaizing!

    I would not worry too much, it could be that now you are growing into an adult that your body is working over time and these little twitches may be caused by this. Taking some deep breaths and relaxing may help, reduce these little spasms in the future.

  • If you are having your first period and nobody knows and you cant trust the adult who is looking after you to keep it a secret. What shall you do?

    I am sorry you feel you cannot trust someone close to you and I wonder if there is an aunt or grandparent you can share this news with, they will then ensure you have some pads and liners from now on in preparation for the next period.

  • Hi Vicki
    I keep eating when I'm not hungry and I have really large portions and I eat and eat until I feel sick what shall I do?

    Try drinking a glass of water before each meal so you will feel fuller and when you do feel hungry in between meals go into your room and dance for 15 minutes, it sounds silly but it works.

  • Hi vicki

    I have dishcharge for 1-2 years now is that normal ? And one more thing should it be yellow ?

    From Terri xxx

    Hi Terri, some girls do notice discharge for a couple of years before the arrival of their period and discharge is very often creamy yellow and this is very normal.

  • Hey Vicki, um I was just wondering, how many times a day do you answer questions..?
    thanks for answering some of my questions, your the gratest!!!

    I answer questions at any time of day or night, weekdays and weekends.

  • Part 2. Hi um I always see all my friends have shaved their under arms... (just quick thing I couldnt fit in part 1)
    thanks vicki, your awsome!!!

    Have another chat to your mum and explain that now the summer months are here you would like her to reconsider her decision. I do have to agree with you about pubic hair and trimming would seem a far better option than shaving, but the final decision must be your mums.

  • hi im really neverous because its going to be a big change and I don't know how to tell my mum what will her reaction be

    Mums know and understand all about periods and puberty and I am sure she will want to help you manage this time in your life.

  • Hi Vicky,
    I went out with this boy and a few weeks ago we broke up,ever since then he's been saying things about me saying that he has had 'sexual intercourse' with me and has done other 'sexual' things with me,this means im getting called a 'slag' and a 'slut' and things.I've tried going to a teacher and it still has not stopped.It's gone on to the point where i don't want to even go to school anymore.Sorry it's not about periods&puberty.

    My first option for you is to confront this boy and challenge him on his comments making it clear you ended the relationship because you did not want to have any kind of intimacy with him. If he does not stop then you should go back to your teacher and ask him or her to escalate this matter.

  • Part1.Hey vicki, what age am I supposed to be to shave pubic hair? My mum said I should be 14, but Im 12. Mum says I have to shave down there and under arms, but I only want to shave my under arms..not really down there..but maybe trim it just a bit. I would like to shave my under arms NOW, because there in the way like in school in PE we wear t-shirts so when we like lift our arms for strech, it shows and Im embarrast if some one sees! What should I do, how can I ask mum to shave now. thanks

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki,
    this is SmileyFace (well my name is actually Mia) but recently my legs have gotten very hairy but my mum won't let me shave them, cuz aprantly u can't see them but when I put suncream on they came out darker. I have very low self esteem now and all my friends shave. I hate my body thanks to her.
    Please help! Mia (a great fan of u and lil-lets) xx

    Hi Mia, why not have a chat to your mum in  a couple of months and try not to worry now the summer is here the sun will naturally lighten this hair.

  • Part 2
    he says that what happens is between the 2 of us and i i know it would be. i feel horrible and he asks if i want a pic of his penis which i dont want. my best friend accidentally sent a picture of her naked chest to him and he sent back a picture of his penis. hes nice and really kind but i feel awful and my friend feels awful. i want to be friends but i feel bad and disturbed. please help us!!!

    Again you MUST stay clear of this boy and remind him that it is against the law for pictures of people under the age of 16 and in any kind of sexual pose to be sent. This should put a stop to his requests and it would be a good idea for you and your friend to make sure he knows you are both not prepared to be bullied or pressurised by him and if he continues you will speak to an adult.

  • Part 1
    hi vicki. so, a popular but nice boy from my year and i were talking for hours yeaterday and he kept saying things like he enjoyed it when i put my bum in his boy area (ive never done this intentionally) and that he likes my chest and bum.and he asks me for my bra size. he kept asking me for pictures topless or in a tight top and i refuse coz its awful. ive never felt so pressured! so in the end i sent him a picture of me in a tight dress that made my bum look huge and i felt awful and i still do.

    This boy is bullying you and I would advise you to ignore him in the future and stay away, he clearly is only interested in your appearance and not you as a person.

  • in your opinion, what age is ok to Dye your hair?

    Temporary dies are fine for the under 16's but for a more permanent look I think 16 and over is a good age. But this is just my opinion and your parents may feel differently.

  • My boyfriend and I have only been going out for a few days. But we have been really close friends for ages! It has suddenly became really awkward around him and I find my self avoiding him at school. What should I do so I feel more comfortable around him?

    Charlie X

    Hi Charlie, give yourself time to adjust to this new phase in your relationship and keep chatting when you can about what you both like to listen to, watch or hobbies. This topics are great ways to start off awkward conversations.

  • Hey vicki, umm does it do any harm if you stick your finger up your vagina? please i need to know...
    sorry if a bit inappropriate
    yanks

    No this should not do any harm, but make sure if you do that your fingers are clean and washed before and afterwards.

  • Hi. My mum said I have to be 14 to start to wear a bra, because she was 14. Im only 12! But I need to wear a bra NOW! My breasts are jiggling and juggling about when Im running, and the nipples show through! I dont know how to ask for one like right now. Im scared she will think I want a bra because Im impatient or I want to be all rown up or cuz all my friends wear a bra. What should I do?! thanks vicki. PLEASE ANSWER

    I am sure if you let her know how uncomfortable you are she will reconsider her decision to wait until you are 14. Why not ask if you can be measured next time you are in a Department store.

  • Sorry if this is a bit inappropriate..but Im just a bit curious...
    Why are boys so attracted to girls?
    thanks
    curiousmonkey

    Puberty is a time when boys and girls start their journey to become young adults and sexual attraction is just one part of this journey, so it is very natural for people to suddenly find they are attracted to others in a sexual way.

  • All of a sudden I have been getting a rash in my pubic area and I don't know what I should do. I tried putting regular lotion on it and it goes away and then it gets worse? What do you suggest?

    This could be either a sweat rash caused by the lovely weather we are experiencing or a vaginal infection. Either way have a chat to your mum and she may decide to purchase some over the counter treatment for you.

  • Hiya my bf hit me and forced me to do things I didn't want to do and I don't love him anymore he just scares me and I can't get away xx please help x

    You must speak to an adult about this matter with some urgency, they will ensure your safety and will make it clear to this boy that he needs to stay away from you and that his behaviour is not acceptable. And please don't worry no one will judge you or think you have done anything wrong.

  • How can I avoid arguing with my dad and become closer to him again?

    Find time to do things that you both enjoy, maybe watching a TV show together, walking the dog or helping out in the garden. Little things like this can make a huge difference.

  • Hey Vicky<3
    About a week ago I noticed light brown discharge, however I didn't think this was my period. Today I was masturbating it might sound disgusting but I was and afterwards I was bleeding. I put a pad on and I'm still bleeding now. Did I break my hymen or is this my first period? There was no pain after masturbating though. And the first time I had noticed the brown discharge I had not masturbated thanks. <3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3<3

    This is almost certainly your period and just a coincidence that it was released after masturbating.

  • Vicki, my friend and I have a question for you. How old do you think you should be before you have sexual intercourse?

    The law clearly states this should be 16 and over. I have to agree that this seems sensible because very often even though someone may be physically ready for sex, emotionally and mentally they rarely are.

  • HI VICKI

    about a week ago, i went to the bathroom and when i wiped there were teeny tiny dots of blood when i wiped.
    i told my mum and she said it could be my period.
    do you think it is or not??

    thanks xxxxxxx

    I agree with your mum this is most likely your first period.

  • hiya Vicki, im 14 and by bf is 15 and we had sex last weekend. all my friends talk about it all the time and ask me questions but they know something's up and don't want to tell them I have had sex they will think im a slut but the thing is I really love him but I feel really bad and guilty now xxx
    plez help xx

    I am sure you know that it is unlawful for a boy or man to have sexual intercourse with a girl under the age of 16 and even though you and your boyfriend care deeply for each other if he really does care for you he will wait until you are older and feel more comfortable with being sexually active.

  • I want to try tampons instead of towels because It will make things so much easier in my life, but I don't know how to ask my mum to get me tampons instead I'll feel a little embarrassed, do you know how I can?

    Why not ask if you can go shopping for toiletries and pop some in your basket, I am sure she will understand without you saying a word and you may find our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator range are ideal as they are designed for first time users.

  • Hi :)
    I'm having trouble with what cup size i need. B can be too big sometimes but A can be too small. Atm i have a soft nonwired bra/croptops that fits quite well but is getting small. Plus i would like more support and harder bra. My bust line is 39 inches but the problem is that i am fat and most of it is probably fat. So what size and type of bra should i use.

    Hi, why not visit your local department store and try on a few different sizes and styles, I am sure with a little bit of help from the assistant you will find the ideal one for you.

  • how does pregnancy treatment work please try to explain this in as much detail as posible

    There are numerous types of pregnancy treatments available and too many to be specific. If you have any concerns about this you should speak to your GP, who will offer you advice.

  • how do you know what discarge looks like xx

    Discharge can be creamy yellow or clear in your underwear.

  • Hi Vicki, it's so hot at the moment, and if I wear a bra I get hot and uncomfortable, but if I don't wear one you can see through my shirt. Any advice? Thanks x

    Why not consider a soft bra such as the 'genie'bra this may be a better option.

  • Hi Vicki
    So I used to self harm (don't worry I have stopped now and wish I never had) but I still have some scars on my thigh. I am a swimmer but haven't been lately because I don't want my mum or other people to see the scars. I can't just tell my mum or just be comfortable with it so do you know how I could get rid of these scars? What should I do?
    Thank you so much

    ************************

    Firstly, well done for beating this awful illness. Bio-oil rubbed in daily can help fade these marks, so why not give this a try.

  • Why do we get pain during periods

    Not everyone does, but for those that do it is generally caused by the muscles surrounding the uterus contracting to release menstrual fluid and a little gentle exercise should stop this from being too uncomfortable.

  • so i tried to ask my mum about periods as i am going away soon and i haven't started but i want to pack some things incase as i won't be with my parent (14) so the other day i said i was scared bout going on holiday, and she asked my so i said because there will be loads of swimming and i.. and then i couldn't say it so she just thought i was scared of somthing, how do i talk to her without getting nervous like that as i am gong away in a week and i really need some things just in case.
    thanks
    Rosa

    Hi Rosa, why not ask if you can go shopping for some toiletries for your holiday and casually walk down the feminine hygien aisle, you can then pop a few things in your basket and she will understand that you want to be prepared whilst away.

  • Part 2/2:
    I have recently starting to get quite worried about this is there anything I can do to perk them up my friends sleep with no bra but this scares me incase they sag anymore

    I have answered this question and my response was that wearing a bra in bed will have no impact on your breast shape and that for lots of girls this rather triangular shape is very normal and will change as you get older.

  • Part 1/2:
    I'm 14 and have been wearing a bra everyday for 3 years now and for the past 2 and a half I've wearing one 24/7 when I sleep except from when I do my ballet class because it has this built in part but not much support. I'm a 34B. I think my boobs are really saggy I mean they sit without a bra quite far down staring just under my armpit is this normal?

    My response is in the next section.

  • How come my friend is a completly flat chested and has started her period?!?! I havent started and I have much bigger boobs than her. Were both 12 (but she is a couple of months older tvan me) She doesent have mood swings at all
    Do you think shes lying because she jokes alot? Is this possible?
    But I think Im gonna start soon anyway (I have all the sings).. thanks. confusedmonkey. PLEASE ANSWER!

    Hi Confused Monkey, the arrival of your period is not governed by the size of your breasts and some girls get their periods before their breasts have started developing. We really are all different, so if you can try not to compare your progress with that of those around you.

  • Vicki.. I am 23 and I dont have boobs. They just wont develop.. :( I hatw the way I look like a boy... If I wear padded bras it gets to hot.. I just want my own to grow :'(

    If you have not experienced any breast growth then it would be a good idea to visit your GP for a check-up.

  • I'm 13 and delayed in puberty. You see, I really didn't get buds until I was nearly 12. I'm now 13 and have some 30aa bras, but most are too big, so I STILL have to wear a training bra. I have maybe 2 armpit hairs and only a couple pubic hairs. And of course, no period....not even discharge. I don't wanna rush things, but I'm behind all my peers, which is very embarrassing. I bet I'm the only girl in my class with no period and that wears a training bra. Help?

    We all enter puberty at a different time and you will certainly not be alone so please try not to compare your progress to that of others and see what the next few months bring.

  • Hi Vicki,

    I've had my period for around 3 years now and I am 16 and feel ready to use tampons, my mum is fine with me using them but I'm so scared of leaving them in for too long and getting tss. I have quite a heavy flow and I feel like I would change the tampon every time I go to to bathroom. Is it safe to use tampons when you have a heavy flow and what would you suggest I do??

    Thank you! X

    Tampons have a very safe history of use and my advice would be to start with a super tampon on your heavier days, and if you find you have to change this absorbency every couple of hours then you should try a super plus absorbency. As your period get lighter you can then move back down to a super and regular absorbency. Why not read my blog entitled; Understanding Tampon Absorbencies.

  • i kind of like this boy. i dont know what to do. im scared. please answer

    Why not get to know this boy as a friend first and you will soon be able to tell if he feels the same way about you...there really is no rush you see.

  • how do i know ive started?

    For most girls the first time they notice their period has arrived is when they visit the toilet or notice a little blood on the tissue when they wipe themselves.

  • Hi viki, just wanted to say this website rules, i always know your right and you are so lovely.

    I have shared this site with over 20 people too.

    Love you . Xx

    Hi and thank you for the lovely feedback. I hope you like our blogs too!

  • Hi viki, my breast buds has been hurting alot lately, my friend and my were playing a bit a foot ball after the world cup and the ball touch my boobs and they hurt so much, i carried on playing. then in my bed at nite i must have rolled over and i woke up straight away because i was leaning on my boobs. they hurt so much any tips or advice.

    And also i have started wearing a bra to sleep in, i find it support my boobs, is it bad to sleep in a bra?

    Breasts can often feel tender to the touch when developing and if wearing a bra at night makes you feel more comfortable then this is fine and nothing to be worried about.

  • I'm growing hair "down there" but I'm still flat chested??

    The signs of puberty can arrived in a different order for each of us and you really have nothing to worry about. Your breast can continue to develop until your late teens or early twenties.

  • Hi Vicki
    So here's the problem. I'm 13 and my year went on a four day school trip York and while we were there me and my friends hung out a lot with these 2 boys called charlie and billy. On the way back on the bus me and my friend talked to them non stop and really got along with them and I totally fell for charlie. it's been about 2 months now and I can't stop thinking about him. he complimented on how it was cool that I ran so fast on sports day and it made me feel so special. What should I do

    This is a holiday romance and as lovely as they are, it is very rare that they last. So why not think of this as a lovely experience that has now passed and move on, spending the summer break with friends and family.

  • what is puberty

    Puberty is the journey from being a child to an adult and you can find out more on this subject by clicking here - Puberty.

  • Hello Vicki,
    my name is Faye and I am 11 and I just came back from a holiday but on the plane back a ton of discharge came then at night well in the morning my pants were all wet but it is all clear is this really discharge and should I use panty liners?

    Hi Faye, if you are noticing a lot of discharge you may find wearing pant liners will leave you feeling clean, dry and fresh and lots of girls feel this way too. Why not consider our Lil-Lets teens pant liners.

  • Hi vicki☺️
    I love your site, but I have one problem this is really annoying too, after like a day or two I can never find the question I asked😭 I wish I could see all questions asked instead of only the recent questions😩
    Sorry this is more of a complaint but I do love your site😘

    Hi, you can find your question by using your unique reference number. We also have something called lazy loading so if you scroll down to the bottom of the questions answered page you will see more questions appear after a few seconds.

  • Don't u just think boys r SO weird????? x

    I think boys find different things interesting to us girls but no, I do not think they are weird. They just mature later than us usually.

  • Can u poop out red poop

    If you notice blood in your poo, then you may be constipated and should speak to your parents about adding extra fibre to your diet, such as fruit, vegetables and cereals.

  • What size do you recommend to get a bra at?

    If you find your breasts jiggle about when you are active or show through your outer garments, then it may be time to get your first bra.

  • Are yellow patches in your pants that are not wet discharge

    Yes most likely they are.

  • Dear vicki,my periods lasts up to 8days and my big sister goes only 3days,I am just wondering y mine take so long or does it differe from one person to another???

    Yes, our menstrual cycle is unique to each of us and a period can last for between 2-10 days.

  • Is it true that smocking can make your nipples fall off?

    Smoking will not have any effect on your nipples, however it is bad for your all over health in general.

  • 😎😎😎😎are you American or English 😎😎😎😎

    I am based in the UK but have lived in the USA for a while a few years back.

  • 😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😫😫😫😫😫😫😫😫
    Y r my boobs hairy!!! It's only short blond hair but I think it's just me that has it! Should I shave it ?

    This is fairly normal and as you enter puberty you will notice the hair all over your body becomes more obvious. Try not to worry as you get older this hair will become less noticeable.

  • Hi vicky my friend talks about this site all the time and I have been unemotional for a while....I never cry when I'm hurt or teased and when seeing other people in pain I just don't care but I want to care its like I have no emotions (btw I'm 11 almost 12)

    Just because you do not show your emotions does not mean you do not have them, this is not something you should let concern you, we are all different and feel concern and emotion on differing levels.

  • Hi Vicki

    So I had brown discharge about a week ago but I only had it for a day. Is this still considered my period? because today I had discharge but it had a little spot of blood in it.

    ThanksπŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€πŸŽ€

    Yes this will still most likely be your first period so ensure going forward you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • I got my period o the 8t of July. I'm 12. I have a heavy heavy flow. I have to change my pad every 30 minutes-1 hour. At school what if I leak! My parents work so can't come get me or give me a change of clothes! How will I handle it! I just need help with school. And I love swimming but my parents think I'm I young for tampons so I can't go. I hate periods. I literally pee blood not pee just blood! It's so heavy! Please just give me advice!!!!!

    If you are changing your pad this often, then you should switch brands to a more absorbent product. For instance our Lil-Lets Freshlock pads are very absorbent and super comfortable, great for longer wear periods such as school. After you have had several periods you may also like to try our teens range of tampons, designed for girls and first time users.

  • Help me! I'm 12 years old and I have a 30C / 28D bra size. I can't fid bras in that size! I only have one that fits and wear it everyday! And also at school when we swim we have to wear a normal swimming costume and my nipples show help me! Please!

    Why not visit your local department store to  be measured and they will be able to find some bras in your size I am sure.

  • I'm 13 years old and I've been getting discharge for only 3 months and today it was brown. Did I get my first period? Because I read that you have discharge at least 6 months before your first period.

    Discharge can vary in the length of time it is noticed before the arrival of your period and I am confident this could be your period so please share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • dear vicki
    today i felt my vagina and there was a hard nub/bump literally not too far in. it didnt hurt. i think its my hymen (bc it was like blocking my hole) but im not sure, what is it?

    This could have been your hymen or even your clitoris and you may find my blogs on the reproductive system useful. Here are the links. Part One & Part Two.

  • I hate my pimples so much . They are getting out of hand and I'm getting dark scars when the go away or when i pop them . My skin is sensitive and kind-of- lactose-intolerant . i really need the best product to use for my face but I've tried soo many . I drink about 2L of water in a day and i work out .

    Consider your diet and sleep pattern these can also contribute to healthy skin. Why not consider Simple's facial wash, used on a daily basis this can reduce the amount of break-outs.

  • Ok so last nite i heard my dad and my bro whos22 and he asked for tips on sex! He has a gf and they were talkin about condoms and that and at the end my dad says make sure shes sexually aroused what does this mean i cant ask mu dad b/c its embarrising and i cant ask my mum b/c she died of cancer last year xxxxπŸ’™β€οΈπŸ‘ hannah

    Hi Hannah, sexual arousal is when someone feels ready to have sex and their body is responsive to another person.

  • Hi Vicki

    I was using the toilet earlier on today, after I wiped I saw that there was blood on the toilet roll. I haven't bled since so I don't think it's my period but I'm scared and don't know what it is, I'm going on holidays tomorrow, will I be okay to swim etc. ? Thank you so much, sorry

    I imagine there will be no issues with you going on holiday, but take some pads or liners with you just in case.

  • hi Vicki
    I am 11 years old and I am afraid when I will stsrt my period what age do people normaly start?

    Periods can arrive any time between the ages of 8-18 and there really is nothing for you to  be worried about. Why not read all the great stuff on our website about puberty and periods, I am sure you will feel less anxious.

  • Hey Vicki,
    This might sound stupid but tonight I went to go to the toilet and when I wiped there was blood. I'm not sure if I wiped too hard or I've started my period (I am 14 years old). This has happened a few times after being to the toilet but its not heavy its just specks and it doesn't last for long, it doesn't even go on to my underwear. I'm really confused .I don't know the difference, help please x

    This is almost certainly your first period and even though there is not a lot of blood being released you should still wear a liner or pad and share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • I'm 15 and I have a right crush on this boy in my year,he's in my science lessons and he is so good looking!my friend who is a boy is really close to me and him and my friend knows I think the boy is really hot they are both in my English I talk to him abit but I don't much and he wouldn't stop or talk to me in a corridor I really wanna get to know him&get over him I think i like him,he's perfection and has such a sweet personality but is quite popular and I'm abit popular but I get shy so easily

    Smile when you see this boy and say "Hi". Ask him how his weekend was and in time he may just start to see you as more than just a classmate.

  • Would I go to a sexual Heath clinic for a Mole on my groin to be removed?Where can I get it removed? Should I ask my mom to take me to the doctors or shall I tie a peice of string round it because it is meant to make them fall off!please help Vicki!im 16 by the way it's just soooooo embarrassing only my mom has ever seen it and it is a big raised on aswell and it makes me feel I have a ugly body!PLEASE DONT say love your body and embrace it I need it gone!please help*****

    Moles are often considered a sign of beauty but if you feel you need it removed then your doctor would be the person to speak to about this matter.

     

  • Dear Vicki,

    I am 14 and I have been having a vaginal discharge for 3 years now. I haven't started my period yet so I'm getting slightly worried that the discharge hasn't stopped yet. Is there anything I can do to stop it because its getting increasingly embarrassing, cause sometimes I find that it does smell and sometimes the discharge soaks through my pants. This has been going on for a long time now, please help, thank you x

    Hi, discharge can often be noticed for a couple of years before the arrival of your period and the amount you notice can vary too. Why not consider wearing pant liners on a daily basis to keep you and your underwear fresh, dry and clean.

  • i went out with a boy a while ago and we broke up he went out with someone else and they broke up but i still like him what do i do?

    Why not wait a while and see what happens, remember that you tried to date once before and it did not work, so what makes you think a second attempt will fair any better.

  • Im 13 and i started getting breasts at 10 but they have stoped growing and havent grown for 6 mounths they are really small will they grow agian please help

    Breasts often grow in spurts and as they continue to grow into your late teens or early twenties you have plenty of time for growth to be noticed.

  • Hey
    So basically I was on holiday and I came on my period :( I had never used tampons before but i got some non applicator ones, it was quite hard finding my vagina but anyway...
    It just felt so strande to my body and then I felt a bit faint. My mum told me to take it out and I did with ease. Then on the way down to the pool, I fainted. Is this bad? Will I ever be able to use tampons? I'm 12 by the way x
    Thnaks <3

    I imagine you were nervous and next time your period arrives try again when at home and under less pressure. Just like anything new using tampons can take a little practice so try not to worry.

  • Where can I buy a good first bra? (My friend has one, hook and eye fastening, extra material resembling cups, adjustable straps, etc, so not quite a crop top or a bra)

    Why not try M&S they have a beautiful teens range.

  • Hi viki,
    I have quite alot of questions...
    1. Is it wired that when I go bra shopping with my friend I always ask her to pay for it because I get inbarest.
    2. I got a bra from material and the next day the straps broke would it be ok to use the see through ones that come with it or just use it strapless?
    3. I'm.really sad because my neighbours dog is being put down tomorrow and I'm really close to it, do you have any advise to take my mined off of it?

    Rosie x

    Hi Rosie, firstly it is fine to be feel a little awkward when purchasing bras and this will stop as you get older. If the straps of your new bra have broken I would take them back for a replacement or a refund, but for now the clear straps will be fine. Finally, it is always sad when a pet is nearing the end of its life, but if you can try to remember the happy times you spent with him and make his last few days pleasant.

  • Hi lately I've been feeling really down and depressed. I think it has something to do with my dad in the past that had effected me now. I'm not really close with my dad anymore I see him rarely I try to talk to my mum about my problems about the past but she thinks it's her fault
    I've told her many times it's not her fault. I'm just not sure anymore what's real about the past and what isn't as I was 5. I remember only somethings. I want to talk to someone about it but don't know who

    Why not ask your mum if you can spend some time with a counsellor discussing your feelings, this can be done via your doctor or school and I am sure will help both of you understand the past and how to move on to a happier future.

  • Hi Vicki!!
    I get vaginal discharge often. I've had it for at least 9 months now. I also have pubic hair. I have pads off my school nurse when we had the 'talk' and I'm not sure if I should use them. I'm only 11. Help!!

    You should only use pads when your period arrives and there is no need to wear anything to collect discharge, although if you feel uncomfortable you may want to ask your mum to pick you up a pack of our Lil-Lets teens pant liners.

  • Vicks,

    I am going on my first bra fitting soon, I'm eleven .
    I am not sure what exactly they are going to do... Are they going to ask me to remove my trainging bra (or crop top whatever it's called) I'm kind of anxious aswell, I'm getting fitted at debanhams so yeah please help :)

    Assistants usually measure you over your top or bra, so please don't worry they will ensure you feel comfortable and not embarrassed at all times.

  • Hi Vicki
    Today my friend accidentally hit me in my right hand breast and it really hurt and they are both every tender is this normal even when I lie on my stomachs in bed (which is the only way I can sleep ) it hurts and I have to put a pillow underneath . I have asked my very best friend if she experiences any of this and she says no
    Please help xx
    😰

    Breast can be tender as they develop which is why when they were knocked they felt sore. It can also take a while for you to find the right sleeping position to prevent discomfort in this area and like you I sleep on my tummy and have to put my arm across my chest for a good nights sleep.

  • Hi Vicki
    Is this a bra size?
    Under bust : 60cm
    Fullest part of bust:74cm

    Your bra size is 28B, but this is just a guide and you should try on several different styles and sizes until you find the one that is most comfortable.

  • Hi Vicki! So, my best friend had bad period pains the other day at school,and then she was sick and had to go home. Do you get sick normally with period pains? She hasn't been in school for 3 days now, should I be worried? I haven't started my period yet so I don't know what it's like. Thanks Vicki!

    Hi, some people find that menstrual cramps can leave them feeling a little unwell, but this is certainly not the case for everyone and I am sure once your friend grows accustomed to these cramps her feeling of sickness will pass.

  • I am 13 years old and have been having white discharge for about a year and a bit now. I have recently been getting brown discharge what is this I am very prepared. Lol . I am also a bit worried because all the giis in my class have boobs and have started their period and have also filled out (body wise) and yet I am still really skinny yet I eat like a pig and am still only a 28aa in bra size

    Please help I really don't no what to do why hasn't all this happened to me yet . X

    Brown discharge is almost definitely your period as menstrual fluid is often brown and not red in colour, so let your mum know about this news and she will ensure you have some pads or liners for the next few days and in the future.

  • Vicky why is there blood in my discharge I'm freaking out because I don't know if it's normal or not!!!

    This is almost certainly your first period and you should share this news with your mum or the person who cares for you and for the next couple of days it would be a good idea to wear a pad or liner.

  • does period hurt?

    Some people experience little tummy cramps the week before or during the first couple of days, but for most there is no discomfort and no pain when menstrual fluid leaves the body. In fact your period should not stop you from carrying on with your day as you would normally.

  • hello, im 14 and i've been hiding my boyfriend who i have been going out with for a month. this has not been the first time i have hidden something like this from my parents. my dad is too overprotective he wont even let me go 2 mins down the road to the supermarket on my own or with friends. my mum is not as bad but does not believe in having a boyfriend at my age and will not hear anything about the subject. please vicki WHAT DO I DO?! xxxxx

    Why not ask them if you can invite a friend round for tea one evening, so the can get to meet and know this boy; this will be far easier than letting them find out that you have been deceiving them for all this time and I am sure once they get to know him they will be happy for you to date.

  • hi vicky,
    i have had discharge for over 3 years and all the signs that a oiriod is about to come every 1-2 months it is getting annoying what does it mean ?????????????

    Some girls do experience discharge for longer than a year and can notice all the signs of a period arriving. You really do have to wait and let your body work out when is the right time for you.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm going into 6th grade and I haven't started my period but I have started spotting, do you think i should bring some pads to school with me just in case? -Chloe

    Hi Chloe, it is always a good idea to have some pads or liners in your school bag and you may just find that these occasional spots of blood are actually your period, as the menstrual flow can be very light for some people. Why not consider our Lil-Lets teens starter pack, which is so discreet it can easily sit in your bag.

  • What age is right to start using a tampon?

    There is no right or wrong age for a girl to start wearing tampons; some choose tampons immediately, whilst others wait until they have had five or six periods before trying them. It really is a personal choice and something you may want to discuss with your mum or the person who cares for you.

  • Hiya vicki

    I had my first period 2 months ago I'm about to go on holiday and really don't want it to happen again I'm not getting cramps or anything, is this normal ?

    Not everyone experiences period cramps or indeed any other signs that their period may be arriving anytime soon. So why not take some pads and liners with you when on holiday just in case.

  • Me and my BFF are bisexual. We like each other and we also like the same dude. He likes us too. So I'm wondering could 3 ppl date? Not a threesome or anything like that. Just dating. Could you do it or is it a bad idea? Thx.

    I guess they could but you would have to have guidelines before you date so everyone understands what to expect and jealousy does not become a problem.

  • Hi Vicki,
    I have a gap inbetween my two front top teeth and I really hate it! Do you know how I could get braces but without paying for cosmetic treatment? My teeth don't hurt but I just hate the way they look.
    Thanks :) x

    Have a chat to your dentist when you next have a check-up; very often childhood gaps close up as you get older, and as someone who had a childhood gap I can speak from experience on this matter. It closed up in my late teens.

  • Im only nine and have got white stuff in my pants

    This is discharge and your body's way of keeping your vagina clean and free from infection and is very normal.

  • Sup Vicki.this girl that used to be my BFF with,acts like we still are. She the one who a banded me for these mean girls.I tell her my feeling and she doesn't listen to me.Also so you know I'm 11. She's 12. And she goes around bragging about her 34aa.I wear a 34c and I don't go around bragging.She's mean,not attractive,not voluptuous, yet all the dudes like her! And hardly anyone likes me! What's up! :3 meow. EMO GIRL

    Hi Emo Girl, it may be that this girl really does like you and wants to be friends, so why not give her a chance and try not to compare your shape with hers we are all different and the most important thing is to love the shape you have.

  • Hi viki,
    So there is this boy in my class (who I am totally not interested in) who I think has a crush on me❗ if I miss place something he will offer to help me find it. If I lose a competition he will always say I should have won. Sometimes I will find him starring into my eyes❗ he is a boy with let's say behaviour problems as such so wouldn't usually do this❗do you think the same❓is there a way to tell❓❕
    Thanx
    J.W
    xxx

    Hi, he may simply just be nice and want to be friends, thinking you and he have a connection. So why not wait and see what happens over the next few months.

  • βœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈβœŒοΈπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ
    (So I know it's mine haha)
    I do dance and we have to wear leotards and I have like loads of fat in the middle of my boobs and armpits I wear a bra under my leotard but that doesn't help I try tuck it in but whenever I lift up my arms it just comes out again no one else in my dance classes gets it
    Please help it's really embarrassing 😒x

    It may be that your bra or leotard are a little small and you would benefit from a larger size of both. Why not have a chat to your mum and ask if you can try on a few sizes and styles.

  • 🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐭🐸🐸🐸🐸🐱
    In the average pack of sanitary towels how many are there

    It really does depend on the brand, but anything from 10-16 is average.

  • Part 2
    basically there were dares and one girl flashed her boobs and another 2 kissed and it was really fun, anyway we're having a sleepover and they've already said well be having a game of 'fun' truth or dare, I'm really excited but there's one problem I don't like how my boobs look kike idm flashing for a dare or taking off my bra but I just think my boobs are a bit odd as the nipple is big but the boob is smal
    Thanks xxxx πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

    Breasts come in a variety of shapes and sizes and this goes for nipples too and you should never be embarrassed about your particular shape or size, it is after all what makes you special.

  • Part 1
    Basically on the coach the other day I was with my friends we're 12 btw and were going in a skl trip and we were at the back of the coach so we started playing truth or dare, it started of normal and then started to get... Fun πŸ˜‰

    Hi, see my response in Part Two.

  • This isn't to do with periods but it's something I really struggle with.
    I'm 13, 5 foot 8 inches and I'm VERY overweight. I'm 16stone. I Do play sports , but they don't seem to be having an effect on my body. I need help fast because everybody takes the Mickey out of me and it was once so bad I turned to self harm and it's just gotten worse.

    I am sorry that these hurtful comments are making you so unhappy and you really must speak to your mum about the self harming and ask if you can sit down and review your diet, it may be that you are eating the wrong type of foods and with a little fixing, you will get the perfect mix of both exercise and diet.

  • Hi Vicki,

    What is the best way to stand/sit when trying to shave 'down there'?

    It should be what is most comfortable for you.  However, consider trimming this area instead of shaving.

  • I have started my period and have tried differend products but i cant find the right one what should i do?

    It can take a little practice and searching to find the right product that suits you and I hope the Lil-Lets range is the one you find works for you best.

  • I have recently starting to get quite worried about this is there anything I can do to perk them up my friends sleep with no bra but this scares me incase they sag anymore. Please help, thank you:)

    See my response in Part Three.

  • Part2: I have recently starting to get quite worried about this is there anything I can do to perk them up my friends sleep with no bra but this scares me incase they sag anymore. Please help, thank you:)

    During breast development you will find that breasts can often appear a little deflated sometimes even triangular in shape, and very often when you go without a bra they fall to the side, so please do not worry about this. Finally, and most importantly wearing a bra to bed will have no impact on your breast shape or size and if you prefer to wear one that is fine, but if you would rather not then that is fine also.

  • Part 1: I'm 14 and have been wearing a bra everyday for 3 years now and for the past 2 and a half I've wearing one 24/7 when I sleep except from when I do my ballet class because it has this built in part but not much support. I'm a 34B. I think my boobs are really saggy I mean they sit without a bra quite far down staring just under my armpit is this normal?

    My response is in Part Two.

  • Hi
    I've been having discharge for a couple o years now and I'm. 13 I've got pubic hair and my hips and thighs have changed shape. All my friends say that your period starts right after you notice discharge, like the next month, why hasn't mine started?

    Your friends are mistaken and very often discharge can be noticed for up to a year; sometimes longer before your period arrives. So please try not to worry your body is working just as it should.

  • What's a clitoris?

    For all you need to know about your reproductive system please read my blogs Part One and Two.

  • Hi Vicki sorry if this is inappropriate but sometimes my vagina itches but only recently (I'm 14) but my discharge is a normal colour. Could it be pubic hair just irritating it or something? I'm really worried I have a infection although everything. Seems fine apart from the itching sometimes my discharge is a bit smelly but that's all I really don't want to talk to my mum about it please answer ASAP!

    During this hot weather lots of girls and women notice their vaginal area can sweat a little and be itchy. So my advice would be to wash more frequently with an unperfumed toiletry and even consider using our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-up wipes for a quick fresh-up when out and about.

  • I feel a bit insecure about my weight. I am taller than most of my friends and sometimes I feel fat, my friends are all really thin and I'm bigger than them.
    Thank you for reading this
    Emily

    Hi Emily, the world is full of people of differing shapes and sizes...all beautiful in my opinion and my advice is to think like this too and once you do, I am sure you will start to worry less about how you compare to others and enjoy your life to the full.

  • hi viki
    i have been having discharge for a few months but i don't know if my mum knows shall i tell her?
    if so, could you give me some tips because i am really scared to tell her
    thanks
    xx

    I am sure your mum knows you are experiencing discharge as she will see the marks in your underwear when she does the weekly laundry and I am also sure she will understand that this is all part of becoming a young woman, so please try not to worry. If you do want to chat to her, you could always ask her when she first noticed discharge.

  • dera vicki iam haveing a problem of watching porn alot plzs help me how can i stop??????

    Try to spend more time in company of family and friends so you can avoid being alone, because very often masturbation can be done out of boredom.

  • What lil lets products would you recomend for first periods and later on....:)β™‘thanks:)xxx

    I would recommend our Lil-lets teens day and night pads for the first couple of periods and then if you wish you could consider trying tampons in a few months. And of course in between periods our pant liners are ideal for keeping you clean and fresh, along with our Lil-Lets Freshen-up wipes.

  • Hi Vicki.
    I had my first period in may and nothing ever since. Am I okay?
    From Janice

    Hi Janice, periods are often irregular with gaps of several months between each one being noticed, this is simply your body working out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • I have been having discharge for about a year when will my periods start?

    Discharge is often noticed for up to 12 months before the arrival of your period; sometimes even longer so ensure going forward you have some pads or liners with you when out and about.

  • how do you tell your mum about discharge

    It may be that your mum has already noticed discharge in your undewear when she does the weekly laundry and I am sure she will understand completely what it is and that this is a sign your period is not too far away.

  • Hey Vicki,

    Ive been on my period for almost a year now and i really want to start using tampons but i dont think that im ready yet as i have tried and i just cant get it in but im going on holiday in august and we are going just at the time that i usually start my period and i dont know what i will do when we are there as we have our own pool and i am usually in it all the time when we go on holiday what shall i do?? Please help me vicki

    From GJ xxx

    Why not consider trying our Lil-Lets teens non-applicator tampons, they are shorter and narrower than other brands and ideal for first time users. Next time your period arrives, relax....insert the tampon in a slanting direction towards the base of your spine for its more comfortable fit and if you feel it may help, try inserting your finger inside your vagina from to time to, so this because more natural for you to do.


  • I started my period in April 2013. It was was fine and the months of May. In June it never came but I thought it was normal as it was my 3rd time.In August it never came but from September to November everthing was okay, but in Decmeber it never came either! I missed February of this year and also April and I doubt im getting it this month.Should I be worried about this?

    Thanks vicki!

    This really is nothing to be worried about and this irregular pattern may continue for some time to come as your body works out the best monthly cycle just for you.

  • !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! URGENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PART TWO: I want to make an appointment but i cant cause me and my family r going Dubai tomorrow until late august.. I use Vagsil cream everyday since it started to soothe the pain down but after an hour or so it goes back to being painful ... My mum knows i told her two days ago... HELP !!!!!!!!!!!! PLEASE REPLY 18TH JULY BEFORE 8:30PM !!!! Xxxx

    It seems you may have a vaginal infection and you really must speak to your mum again, she may choose to purchase some over the counter treatments such as a pessary for you, or pop you along to your GP for a check-up and he may need to have a little look at his area, but don't worry it's really nothing to be worried about and will just be part of his day and a nurse or your mum will be present at all times.

  • Hi vicki. There is this girl who i know and she self harms she wrote HARM on her arm with her knife and has got cuts all over her I'm worried about her but when you ask her about it she gets really angry and shouts at me. What should I do x

    Urge this girl to chat to someone, if not a family member then Childline on 0800 1111. Self-harming is generally a sign that someone's life is very unhappy and there are so many people out there that can help your friend get through this time and come through the other end a happier person.

  • Hi vicky
    Is it normal to have a unregular period in the first few months you start it?

    Very normal and periods may continue to be irregular for the next few years as your body continues to work out the right monthly cycle just for you.

  • !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! URGENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!PART ONE: Hi Vicki, basically, last week or two weeks my vagina has been really really itchy swollen burning and covered in red spots. Also i think i have a rash around it and bumhole. I dont know what ita called but u know those 'mini' balls in centre of vagina, has dropped abit lower so its really painful when I sit down 😭😩 Will gps look in ur vagina ??!!

    My response is in Part Two.

  • I'm starting to feel awkward around most people and I never used to but I'm 17. It even happens with family some times.

    As we get older we very often find that people we felt comfortable around previously now feel a little strange. This is because you are now becoming an adult and having opinions and views of your own. So be confident and slowly start to speak about how you feel and what you think and in time friends and family will start to see you have become a beautiful young woman.

  • I've been wearing earbuds to sleep every night now for a year to cancel out noise is this safe? They are older ones so I cut off the cables so they wont tangle round my neck. I dont have music playing it's just to stop noise.

    Lots of people use ear plugs to help them sleep, but please be careful, they should be cleaned or replaced regularly to avoid ear infections and of course your parents should be aware that you sleep with them in.

  • I am going to a bouncy castle party tomoro and I have my period. I was wondering if it would be better to wear a tampon because we will be jumping about or will I be completely safe with just a pad? What do u reccommend

    A pad will be fine if this is something you are comfortable to wear.

  • Part two.
    Hi Vicki. I was the one that fancied the boy in year 8 and my friends know. I would tell him that I like him but his sister is my best friend. Should I tell him or would it make it too awkward for all of us?

    Please see my response in Part Two.

  • Hi Vicki! I'm in year 7 and I like this boy from my scouts who is in the same school but year 8. I told my friends from school, that don't know him, that I like him. Now they know what he looks like, he always points him out or nudges me in the corridor. I don't know if he likes me but he probably know that I like him. He once said that he likes this other girl but whenever he drops something, he looks at me. I don't know why. Does he like me? Should I tell him?

    Why not continue being friends and chatting to this boy for a little while longer. I am sure he will gradually see how much you like him and let you know how he feels.

  • Hiya viki,
    I have a problem. I like this boy and I think he likes me. but whenever I have asked a boy out first they always say girls shouldn't make the first move. I feel really bad because I know he's shy and finds it hard talking to girls but I want him to feel as if he doesn't need to be. I get on really well with him and some of my friends agree that he might have a crush on me but i'm really confused and need help on what to do and how to calm down! please help viki,
    Little_Lizzi_Lamb

    Hi Little Lizzie Lamb, boys often take longer to mature than girls and if you like this boy then give him time to get to know you as a friend....after all the last part of boyfriend is 'friend'.

  • I'm 16 and I started my period last month. It lasted from the 19th-28th and it was fairly heavy for the first 5/6 days. I'm really worried about August because I'm meant to be going camping from the 19th-21st but I don't want to go if I'll be on my period, what should I do?

    Periods can often be irregular with gaps of several months and your flow can change too. So why not see what happens and ensure you take supplies camping with you.

  • I'm an EMO boy and I was gay but I saw this EMO girl & now I'm bi cause of her.She's beautiful.I'm 14 and she's 11 which sucks.Ppl would judge but I love her.& this friend I have is her BFF but she won't tell me anything about her!!I won't see her for 2 years since I'm going to high school.i don't cares about her body or even her beauty really.She understands me.i know it.Even though I only talked to her once.We have a bunch in common.Help!i blush when I see her!Is there a chance she likes me?? :3 meow

    If there is a chance she likes you as much as you like her, then I see no reason why you cannot wait until she is old enough to date and  you are both mature. In the meantime concentrate on your education in High School.

  • hello viki ok so my question is, are infections around the vagina common and how are they caused?

    It is quite common for women to develop urine infections or thrush due to numerous reasons.  A good way of trying to avoid developing an infection of this nature is to keep your feminie hygiene to a high level with regular bathing and remember that when you've urinated, you always wipe from the front to the back.

  • Hi Vicki,
    Normally I am one of the people who are quite quiet and none of the popular guys will talk to me. But lately a lot of the popular guys have been talking to me, one of my friend said they were flirting with me and I asked why they would (bc I am short not the prettiest person alive) and she said bc I have bigger boobs than most girls, I didn't used to but I have now grown I am an 32 E. But do you think that is why they are talking to me I kinda wanna no why they are choosing to talk to me now xxx

    I think boys are attracted to girls regardless of the size of their breasts.  Please consider ways of boosting your self-confidence; joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport would be a good place to start.

  • Hi, I have had my period for nearly 2 years now and I am ready to move on to tampons but I do not know if I should use applicator ones or normal ones. I have heard that non applicator ones are best to start with but I am worried about them because they may be hard to get high and into the right position and applicator ones sound easier. What should I use?
    PS why do they say normal ones are the best.

    It's true that non-applicator tampons are probably the easiest to start with but the choice is yours.  Either way, Lil-Lets now offer a teens Regular tampon which is absolutely ideal for first-time use having been designed especially for the smaller bodies of young girls.  All it takes is a little practice and you will soon be enjoying the discreet protection enjoyed by millions of women and girls all over the world.

  • Sup Vicki,it's EMO GIRL.Thank you's for answering my question about the boy.I think my BFF won't tell me anything because she likes both of us.(She's bi).she said she cuts her ankles so no one sees.She sent a pic.Idk what to do.Her mom isn't understanding & my fam. doesn't like her much.She's 2 years older & in the same grade as me.(She got held back once & I skipped one)she said she going to dye her hair without permission and asked if I wanna help because mine's red & black.:3 EMO GIRL

    As your family isn't very keen on this girl, I think it would be best to keep your distance from her.

  • hi viki,

    how do you know when you have an infection?

    I assume that you're talking about a vaginal fungal infection (thrush) which is easily identified by the presence of a creamy thick discharge that ressembles cottage cheese, your vagina will be red, swollen and itch and it will be painful to urinate.  Thrush can be easily treated by creams you can buy over the counter at your local chemist.

  • Hey
    This may sound strange but I keep getting these small insects getting INSIDE my laptop and it's really annoying as I cannot get them out then they are crawling all over my laptop screen. There is already a couple of dead ones that have fallen to the bottom. How can I stop them getting in? My house is perfectly clean.

    You might like to try spraying some compressed air in between the keys on the key pad as this should help to get rid of the insects in a way that won't damage your laptop.  Another option would be to seal your laptop in an airtight bag with a cloth that has some insect repellent on it but some pesticides might cause some damage so please take care when doing this.

  • What's your opinion on studying at college in Northern Ireland ? Should I go for it and move away from home? I would like independence now. I am 19. I have a pretty good idea of what I want to study. Should I go for it?

    If this college is offering the courses you want to study, it sounds like a great opportunity for you and as you say, it will be a good chance for you to become more independent.

  • I'm 14 and last week I had a really bad cramp and a lot of discharge but this week there was no discharge and I had a really upset stomach. I haven't had my first period ever but I do have pubic hair

    These could all be signs that your body is getting ready for when your period arrives but the best way of knowing is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • Hey Vicki
    I read some books that have sex scenes and when those scenes come up and I read them I get this feeling down there and its all tingly and I have the urge to want to have sex so what should I do

    During puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to experience more feelings of a sexual nature and when reading material with sexual references, you are naturally going to feel excited.  This is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about.

  • Hey vicki what kind of questions are deemed inappropriate just wondering!x hannah

    Hi Hannah, this is usually down to my discretion, but as a general rule anything that I feel would cause offense to others or have abusive content within it.

  • Vicki,i woke up this morning and my stomach felt weird. Then i was changing my underwear and their was a brown/red stain. I went to the bathroom and wiped and their was browny colour discharge.im 11 have pubic hair and bra size 34a. Please answer quick! Im scared:(

    Please try not to worry as this was your period.  Be sure to ask your mum or guradian for some sanitary towels and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • I really like this boy. Hes so cute and smart. I want to tell my bestfriend that I love him but Im scared what she'll say. Also this boy is a year older than me and is no longer in my class will that affect anything?
    ( Im in 6th grade)

    Hi, if your instinct is to not trust your friend then I would leave off discussing this with her for a while until you are 100% sure she will be discrete. If there is just a year between you and this boy then I do not feel this is too large an age gap. But remember that the summer break is coming up and now is the time to have fun and relax with family and friends and not stress too much over boys.

  • I'm sorry if this is gross but I don't feel fresh down there I am discharging more than normal I asked my mom for sanitary whipes but she said no I have to feel gross all day what should I do?

    You might like to ask your mum if she will give you her permission to request a free sample from us.  Just go to the home page of this website and follow the link.

  • I am 78 under and 82 over what bra size am I?

    Your bra sizing is a 36AA but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping, be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bras until you find one that feels comfortable on you.

  • I'm 14 and havent started my period yet but yesterday i noticed brown discharge on my panties, is this normal or is my period starting?

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicky,πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹πŸ‘‹
    I was on my bike recently and I rode down some steps. It rely hurt my vagina and I think I may have done something to it as it really hurts... It felt as if it was burning at first...plz tell me what to do thx vicky x
    From soph

    Hi Soph, please talk to your mum or guardian to see if they think an appointment with your GP is necessary.

  • Hi Viki,
    my best friend has started to ignore me on text. I have no idea why.
    She is a really hard person to get along with. She has does weird things like:
    If I can't hear what she's saying, she'll start to ignore me! And also, at lunch she'll start to ignore me and says "I get really offended when you eat more than me!"
    Its all really upsetting me, as she is so controlling and she tries to be the boss of everyone. She is really selfish and I don't know what to do any more. Any advise?
    Thanks.

    It is possible for us to outgrow our friends sometimes and I think you really need to decide if you want to remain friends with this girl at all as she seems rather controlling and often makes you very upset.  You could tell her that your friendship with her is difficult and makes you feel upset too often so you don't want to be as close to her anymore.

  • Hi Viki,

    I was just wondering: is masturbation normal? My friends all so it's disgusting but I don't know.

    And also, I asked my mum whether I'm allowed to use tampons because I'm 13 and have had my period for two years now, but she said no. But I really want to use tampons! She gave me all the reasons why I shouldn't wear them and said I can only when I'm at uni and more responsible! What should do because I find pads really uncomfortable in sports?!

    Thanks!

    Why not have another chat to your mum letting her know how uncomfortable pads make you feel. You may also like to let her know that Lil-Lets have worked with one of the UK leading gynaecologists and manufactured a tampon designed for teens, which is both shorter and narrower. As for masturbation, it is a very natural and instinctive thing to do, but something that not many people will admit to, so don't be surprised if friends say it's disgusting, they generally do this because they are embarrassed to discuss it even though it may be something they do.

  • Dear vicki I am turning 13 it acually 5 mins. !!! I am about to start my period. I also am getting hairy legs and arms I'm also out growing my 34 * bra. I want to tell my mom about me needing new bras razors and pads but idk how! Help!?

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really is no need for you to feel embarrassed about anything to do with puberty as she will be able to help and support you through this special time in your life.  Why not start the conversation by asking if she will grant her permission for you to request a free sample of our teens range from the home page of this website?

  • Dr vicki iv been having terrible period pains. A few weeks ago it was so bad I was groaning. But I went to sleep. When I woke up I. Took a shower and noticed drips of redish brown stuff in my undies. The next day it was there again. It has now been 2 weeks and I haven't gotton any pains or blood in my undies. Was this my period and when should I be expecting it gain thx

    This was your period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Vicki. Me and this boy stopped talking and we were best friends. I'm trying to find myself because I dont know who I am anymore. I hardly have any friends and I feel like I need time to break from society. How do I take a break from society? I'm lost and at a low. How can I find myself?

    Puberty is naturally a time when teens feel massive self-doubt and losing your friendship with this boy has obviously affected you but you need to give your confidence a boost by getting involved with other like-minded people and joining a club for something you enjoy will enable you to do this.  As we're into the Summer holidays, you could look at your local library for events that are being held or you might like to consider doing some volunteer work to help others.  Keeping busy and active will help you feel better about yourself so why not give it a go.

  • Hello Vicki,

    I was wondering if it is true that if you wear a bra to bed it stuns your growth. I also have more( or larger ) amounts of armpit fat then my friends. (I'm 12) they are the same bra size as me but do not have this fat. What is it. Is it just extra tissue that I will have to deal with, is it breast tissue that will result in my breasts growing as I age and mature, or is it something else?

    Thank you!

    There is not proof that wearing a bra to bed is detrimental to breast growth or health and some people do notice a little bit of extra weight at the side of their chest and under their arms, it's nothing to worry about, although a good fitting bra will stop it being so obvious.

  • So i get this when am asleep only my boxers have this gooey clear stuff and i had my period like two or three weeks ago so idk what is it and i am only 16

    Discharge is a clear mucus produced by the glands found at the entrance to the womb together with normal secretions found naturally on the walls of the vagina.  It works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection and you might like to consider using pant liners to help keep you feeling fresh and clean down there as it is normal to release discharge throughout your menstrual cycle.

  • Hi Vicki, I'm 14 and whenever someone asks me out or something I start overthinking things. And this makes me ill, and I end up not sleeping of eating. Why? And how can I stop this?

    Puberty is naturally a time for teens to feel massive self-doubt as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so you might like to consider ways of boosting your self-confidence and joining a club for something you enjoy like dance, drama or a sport as this would be a good place to start.  You could also try doing some basic Yoga to help you relax.

  • Hey vicki :), ok so im 20 & my bf &.i were ready for sex, but the thinq is we took it all slow because it was painful for me, first of all i dont know where my hole is, i nvr used tampon before, like it seems as if i had no entrance or somethinq, after a while of tryinq, it barley went in but i couldnt it was all to painful, i then later checked my self & found a small hole but how would it get biqqer w/out destroying the hymen? Pls help!! I dont want it to be painful.

    For sexual intercourse to take place the hymen will be stretched naturally over time. So be patient no one says you have to get it right first time.

  • Do you have to wear a pantie liner and towel together or do you wear them separately

    A pant liner is a thin piece of absorbent material that is suitable for protecting your underwear from discharge or a very light period. A towel or pad are thicker more absorbent pieces of material that will collect your menstrual blood and there really is no need to wear the two together, as you can see they both perform very differently.

  • Hi Vicki I'm 17 and theirs this guy I really like we got to no each other for about 5 months we started dating and I think I falling hard for him and I don't love my parents died in a wreck and I shut of all emotions but I made love to him and I love him and I'm showing emotions and I don't think that a good thing because the pain of my parents death please help thanks Rachel

    Hi Rachel, I am sure your parents would be happy to know that you have found love and happy times with someone. So please don't feel guilty for being in love, it is a very natural part of being a human being and in no way impacts on the love and sadness of loss you feel for your parents.

  • I'm in love with an EMO boy. I'm also EMO. I'm 11. He's 14. I've only talked to him once but he always blushes when he sees me. My "BFF" is friends with him but won't tell me anything about him. He's going to high school and I won't see him for 2 years so i cry myself to sleep every night. I know It shouldn't consume so much of my life but I love him. He's the nicest person I've ever met and we have so much in common. Does he like me too? And what should I do so I won't be so sad? Please reply.- EMO GIRL

    Hi Emo Girl, it is so easy to feel deep attraction to someone during puberty as hormones run riot and your BFF is being rather mean for not telling you anything about him.  From what you've said, I do get the impression that he likes you too so try and do some detective work by asking around to find out who he is.

  • Dear Vicky,
    I am scared and I really need your help.
    - I'm thirteen and I wear a bra to school but I find it so uncomfortable I don't wear it on the weekends or after school. Is it bad? Will my breasts still grow normally if I don't wear it? PLZ help me I don't know what to do?

    You might like to consider trying a trainer bra as they are ideal for helping you get used to wearing a bra.

  • Im 12 and my period has came regular for a few months then all of a sudden it seemed to stop coming and its got me worried!

    Try not to worry as in the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period.

  • Hi Vicki, I recently just started discharge and I haven't really cared once it happens, I just throw my underwear in the wash and it's fine. I thought that it would just go away after a few days but it's been constant for like a month and I was wondering if it leads more to my period. I have all the symptoms and I have no clue when I will start because I asked my mom and my sister and they started, they said at age 11 and I am 13. What should I do?

    It is normal to release discharge throughout your menstural cycle and it works to keep our vaginas clean and free from infection, so try not to worry.  You might like to consider using our Lil-Lets teens Liners as they will help to keep you feeling fresh and clean down there.  We also make Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes which will also help you.

  • My discharge started out as a clear type color, then it turned into a dark yellow/light brown. Today it was clear colored. Should I be worried?

    It is normal for discharge to appear yellow when it dries out but brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so be sure to ask your mum or guardian to buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hi vicks
    When I'm not on my period I always get discharge WILL THIS STOP???
    It's so annoying because I do wear panty liners but it seems to go on my knickers aswell. I sometimes use lilets panty liners too. So there's always a panty liner or a pad on my knickers and this just irritates me >:(

    It is perfectly normal to relelase discharge throughout your menstrual cycle and you might like to consider trying our Lil-Lets teens Freshen-Up wipes as they are ideal for helping you feel fresh and clean down there.

  • hey viky
    im a boy but my girlfried uses this so i can use it 2
    my girlfried and me are in yr6 and i realy love her like sooo much and i want to take it to the next level before we leave skl for yr7. i want to tuch her boobies and she loves me back. she is awsome. i want to go 2 her house to touch her, how do i ask her. weve been going out for like 3-4 years and we r realy serous. pls answer thx

    If you are in Year 6 then I have to presume that you are 11 and as such you and your girlfriend are too young to be sexually intimate, so for now keep any contact to a 'friends only' basis and until you are legally old enough to be intimate in this way.

  • U never answer any off my questions xxπŸ˜₯πŸ˜³πŸ˜”πŸ˜±πŸ˜­

    I answer all questions unless they are inappropriate or would cause offence to other visitors.

  • Hey Vicki, I heard that two years after getting your first period you will have horrible cramps.......I don't have cramps yet and I started for a few months already. I'm really scared to have a third of my life ruined by horrible pain...... Is this true that everyone will get cramps?Is it possibly not to?

    There is no truth to this so please try not to worry.  However, if you do experience stomach cramps, they can be easily managed by taking some gentle exercise, using a hot water bottle  or by having a soak in the bath and if the pain is too bad, you can always ask your mum or guardian for a painkiller.

  • Hi vicki

    Do you have a app?

    Thanks

    lGR

    This is something the team are looking at so we will hopefully have some news for you very soon.

  • Hi vicki. Will my adult body look like my mothers? Like the curves and all that? Because she says that when she was my age she looked a lot like me

    Not necessarily but you will simply have to wait and see.

  • Dear Vicki
    HELP
    this evening as i was lying in bed i suddenly got a mild ace in my lower belly, it wasn't like really bad or anything but it was an ace, was this period pain?
    also if it was does this mean that my period will come soon?? i have had discharge for about 2 and a half years i have pubic hair and small boobs!
    what does this mean
    love
    rosa

    Hi Rosa, the stomach cramps you noticed were likely to be a sign that your body is getting ready for your period as you have already been releasing discharge for quite a while but keep an eye on them and if nothing happens please ask your mum or guardian what she thinks.

  • I've been getting black stuff in my pants and I'm not sure what it is. It could be my period but I've never seen black in my pants before???

    It is normal to release dark coloured discharge and this can often present itself as a first period if you haven't yet started or it can simply be a clearing out of the vagina if you have already started so try not to worry.

  • I'm 12 nearly 13 and friends lots of boys -i always Skype and sometimes meet up and my mum is being awk and saying gshe doesn't want me hanging around boys too much i tell her I'm just like good friends and she agrees but then i was sky ping this boy who's a really good friend but he is already going out with my bff and my mum was like you shouldn't be going out with boys until at least another 4 i like hanging out with them but i don't see the problem?

    You really should respect your mum's wishes and limit the amount of time you spend with boys.  To put her mind at ease, you might like to invite some of them round to your house to meet her so can see that you're just friends.

  • Hi Vicki
    Hi I'm Katie and I'm 12 do you wipe yourself front to back
    Or back to front and why ??
    Thanks !!

    Front to back minimises the risk of infection by speading germs from the anal area.

  • Hi vicki me and my cousin are developing breast.We were born in the same year and month and I am 14 days older than here. The thing that shocks me is that she has breast discharge before me. I am asking what stage of breast devolopment are you supposed to have breast discharge

    Not everyone experiences nipple leakage but it is very common as breasts produce fluid during puberty.  It can be caused by an increase in hormones or by wearing tight-fitting clothing.  Try to remember that we are all different and have bodies that develop at different rates to each other.

  • Hello! I'm 11 and my body shape is quite odd... my tummy is rather round but I haven't any fat in the other usual places, like my thighs, bottom etc. My mum says this is normal and will go, but I am curious to know why this is here. Also as I become older, I am getting more conscious of my shape so I hope it won't worry me in the future!😊

    Puberty can be a most difficult and demanding time for young girls and boys when they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once.  It is perfectly normal for the bodies of girls to become curvier with breasts becoming fuller and rounder and hips becoming wider and it is also very commom for young girls to develop a roundness to their tummy area too.  Try to be patient and allow some time for your body to fully develop. 

  • Hiya Vicki

    I just started my period and it's brown. But later it will just be blood. How long until it's just blood and not brown? Also I only had brown discharge for a day, is that normal?

    From,
    Morgan⚽️⚽️⚽️

    Brown discharge can often present itself as a first period so try not to worry and be sure to ask your mum or guardian if they will buy some sanitary towels for you and see what happens over the coming weeks and months.

  • Hello i am 14 and i have recently fell for a boy in my year, we talked alot this past week but we are talking les and less, i want his number so we can talk over summer but i dont know how to ask. I am also worried about how my friends would react if the found out as he is in the 'nerdy' group at school.

    It doesn't really matter what your friends think of this boy as long as you like him so try not to worry.  You just need to be brave and direct and ask him if you can have his number as you would like to get to know him a little better over the Summer.

  • I'm really sorry if this is inappropriate but I don't understand how gay people have sex?

    People are mistaken into believe that being sexually active invloves only penetration of the penis into a vagina.  But just like any other couple who are in love, they find a way to be close and have pleasure with their partners in a number of different ways.

  • Hi vicki I have a problem with my best friend afew months ago I told her I liked her and she got freaked out , we have sorted it out now but lately she's been flirting with me . At first I thought nothing of it then I noticed it when I went to hers for a sleep over with 4 other girls afew weeks ago because she insisted that I hang out with her and cuddled me when we went to sleep and she looked sad when I spoke to our other friend , I don't know whether she likes me or not . I don't know what to do xx

    Puberty is a time for teens to form deep attraction to others due to the increase in activity of hormones but this is called a crush and the thing is that crushes often fade in time. 

  • Hi Vicki
    I asked you a question about mood swings and having fall outs with my mum. How can I control my mood swings and hormones.
    Sophie

    Hi Sophie, I am so sorry you weren't able to locate your response.  Here goes again.. Mood swings in puberty are really quite common as teens struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once so you're not alone and they are not your fault.  In a quieter moment, sit down with your mum and explain your feelings, give her a hug and tell her you're sorry but it's not your fault.  If you should feel yourself becoming angry in future, try to distract your thinking and do something else.

  • hi Vicki
    im 14 yrs old and my period hasn't come back and it has benn months , I cant be pregnant since im a virgin but is this normal and is there any way to 'get it back'
    thanks, holly

    Hi Holly, during the early stages of the menstrual cycle, it can take a while for your hormones to control the changes in your body and to then reach a balance for your regular period so try not to worry as it can be ireegular like this for up to 2 years.

  • Every so often, today and yesterday I had a strange pain around my vagina area. Its a burning sensation that comes in short bursts- the main pain lasts for about 30-60 seconds but there is a dull pain that comes with it. I haven't told my mum yet though.
    I also have a lump on my bottom which is roughly a quarter of the size of your pinky. it has been there for about a week now. I haven't told my mum about this either.

    I am so worried about these questions. PLEASE answer them.

    Try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once and should be able to help you so please try not to feel embarrassed about talking to her.  You should mention your stomach pain and the lump on your bottom to her and she will know if you need to visit your GP to get them checked out or not.

  • Hi Vicki
    So every day when I am falling asleep my mind subcontiously runs through the boys I have spoken to that day and decides that on of them is the guy I like. Why is this?
    Love,
    L

    It is normal for young girls and boys to feel attracted to others during puberty as sex hormones increase in activity so try not to worry.

  • I'm 13 and quite moody, why?

    During puberty, hormones run riot causing teens to feel more moody than before and this is perfectly normal.  Serotonin levels (the body's natural happy hormone) are at their lowest leaving teens susceptible to stress so be sure to talk to your friends and family about how you're feeling and try dancing to your favourite music, watching some funny films or going for a nice walk to help better your mood.

  • My hips are leaving me behind! My hips are way too big compared with the rest of my body and I know I should love myself and my shape, but will the rest of me catch up? It's so arkward.

    Try to be patient and allow your body the time to finish developing.

  • Would you say 73 under and 90 over would be a 34b?
    Thanks I'm kind of confused! I think I've come up a cup size and I don't know how to tell my mum😳 she thinks I'm a 34a? How would I approach it?
    Thanks so much for all the help xx

    Yes I make that a 34B but as this is only a guide, when you go shopping be sure to try on some different styles and sizes of bra until you find one that fits you comfortably.

  • What is the name of your son and how old is he?

    To protect my son's privacy, I can't really divulge that information.

  • What are the names of the girls who do the videos with the celebrititys ?

    Their names were Demi, Serena, Chloe and Leyla.

  • Hi vicki, lately I have had discharge and really want to ask my mum for liners. But I don't know how! I can't send her a e card as my dad checks his email. I have a older sister but she is quote awkward to talk to. My mum is also awkward to talk to as she probably doesn't even know I know about discharge and periods. Please help. Also I don't want to sound strange but what is a bonor I think I might of spelt it wrong but what is it? Thanks elephantlover10 xoxo

    Hi elephantlover10, try to remember that your mum was a young girl going through puberty once so there really isn't any need for you to feel embarrassed talking to her.  You might like to start the conversation by asking if she will grant you her permission to request a free sample of products from the home page of this website.  A 'boner' is a slang term for an erection.

  • i asked you about the snapchat incident a few days ago, now the girl doesn't want to be friends anymore and I'm soso upset, what do I do??

    Give this a few days for this girl to feel less uspet about the incident then approach her and again let her know that you are sorry and hope your friendship can go back to how it was.

  • will i go through puberty the same age as my mom? thanks vicki xx

    Not necessarily as we all develop at different rates to each other.

  • What are breast buds?
    Are they nipples?
    thanks xxx

    Breast buds are small raised lumps that sit behind the nipple and comprise of tissue, fat, muscle and milk glands.  They signal the start of breast development.

  • How will you know when you are going to have your first period what signs will you get

    The best way of knowing when your period might arrive is when you've been releasing discharge for between 6-12 months.

  • I've alot of siblings, lately I feel smothered, u know the way sometimes you just need to be alone. So I go to my room and close the door to try and drown out the noise for a bit of peace and quiet, my parents have a problem with this, I'm not allowed to have my door shut tight
    I feel like I can't breathe and I'm easily irritated and mood swingy
    I try to relax, release my feelings playing piano, and I'm apparently on it all day long
    plz put in something else

    Puberty can be such a difficult time for teens as they struggle to come to terms with all the physical and emotional changes that are occurring all at once, it's no wonder they feel moody at times.  I would suggest that you sit down with your parents and tell them how irritated you feel at times and that you need some quiet time alone sometimes to relax.  If playing the piano allows you the time to do this, personally, I think this is a good thing fo you but you must find a balance and be able to spend time with your family too.

  • Hi Vicki!
    I'm 13 and I want to start working out to get fitter but I don't want to have to go to the gym or buy any equipment, what exercises could I do?
    Ps- We have some weights that I can use.